I was at my boyfriends house the other day and he was in the bathroom and I was looking at his phone. There was pics of his ex girlfriend in her underwear saved on it!! When I first asked he just kept saying "I dunno!" Then he told me the pictures were meant for his friend, Alex, but since the girl couldnt send them to Alex's phone, she sent them to my bf's and Alex was supposed to delete them when he was done with them. I think this is kind of a bullshi* story :( Then there were texts from this girl that likes him saying that he looked hot, and she would look so much better with him than I would. He sent one back that said she looked "hot as usual!" They are around each other because the girl is his sisters best friend. He said he just complimented her to make her feel good. I'm so depressed. I really dont know what to think. And now I called him like fifty times and hes not answering :(
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He may not be "cheating" yet, but he is entertaining the thought. Don't buy the BS story. He likes looking at her pic. You can do one of three things:\n\n1) Mope around and nag at him about it, which will drive him right to her\n\n2) Tell him to get bent and move on with your life. He's come back....they always come back. Eventually.\n\n3) Send him a sexier, nastier pic than any she has sent. (Doesn't have to be you, just a lookalike) Then tell him he has a choice, when he chooses you, see #2.
656424
In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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He's a good friend, and she is 'just' his girlfriend.  You are fully within your rights to take him for yourself.  Just convince him on a purely logical level, and then call her up and let her know that he's not with her anymore, or something like that.
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If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
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Sadly and embarrassingly enough - I know that situation and have been on the girl side. I loved my new bf and just could bear the fact that my ex is just not noticing and forgetting me. Stupid enough I have been to start calling him and even meeting with him saying that I want his friendship. But really I just wanted him to be mine again even though I didn't really need him!!!\n\nBe careful women are fools!! It might not be the same situation, but based on what you said and what I've had it really looks like it!
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This is a sticky one. \n\nFirst, let's look at him. The fact that he lied is very troubling, but I can see why he thought it was a good idea. While he was disrespecting your wishes, he was also trying to stick with his friend while sticking with you. No, it's not a smart move, and his point about your insecurity is invalid (lying is just not ok because relationships are about trust), but it sucks for a person to have to choose between a significant other and a friend. I think you guys can work through this however. \n\nWhy do you dislike this female friend of his? Do you suspect that he's cheating on you? Is she flirtatious or touchy-feely with him? Is she just an unlikeable person to you? Or are you merely jealous and insecure? \n\nLet's go with the last question for a bit. You've admitted that you are insecure. Plenty of girls are like that, sadly; I think it's mostly from social conditioning (but that's a whole other Answer!). You said that every time he talks to another girl, you ask him if he wants to be with them. It's exasperating for a guy to hear that. He's going to start feeling as if there's nothing he can do to convince you that he wants only you. It's also exhausting for you because you will needlessly worry about losing him. This will put a strain on the relationship, maybe even cause it to break. \n\nTo me, this is the more troubling problem. It's difficult, even impossible, to change others, so we have to change ourselves. Look into getting help for your insecurity; this will make you an overall healthier person, and spread into your relationship with this guy. A quick Google search for "overcoming insecurity" yields some nice articles: \n\nhttp://www.coping.org/growth/security.htm\nhttp://www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm\n\nYou may want to seek professional counseling as well. You'll feel a lot better overall if you can let go of the worrying over losing people, and start placing some trust in others. It will be a great relief (trust me on that). \n\nNow, let's go back to the female friend. They're probably "just friends," but if they way they interact suggests more, then you have a right to be a bit suspicious. Example: if they are too familiar and flirty with each other. \n\nThis is getting a bit long, so I'll just sum it up. You both need to work on yourselves and with each other to make this work. You should focus on overcoming your insecurity and learning to trust others. You should also respect his friendships, even if he's friends with someone you cannot tolerate. Likewise, he should be supportive of your self-improvement efforts, and stop lying to you so you *can* learn to trust him! It's very hard to trust someone when you catch them in a lie. He should also respect that you dislike his friend, and do things like not forcing you to be around her, not talking about something funny that she said or did, etc. If he won't work with you, then I doubt the relationship is worthwhile. \n\nLast of all, it's very important to remain calm and even-tempered. If you start crying or becoming too angry, he may reach for anything -- even a lie -- to make you stop and calm down.
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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I thought my ex-boyfriend was Bi because I googled search his e-mail address and found that he was on a site called hornygays.com!! Lmao.. the site is no longer up and he swears he is not Bi. I try to believe what he tells me though. Maybe a jealous pssied ex-girlfriend signed him up for it, who knows. If I were you I wouldn't believe anything until you see it with your own eyes!!!
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Are you kidding me? My lady would have my nuts for earrings if I tried to pull something like that. No other women comes before her. Ex-lovers...Nope, don't even bring the name up. Not if i want to sit and listen to her bitch at me for the entire night. If she even thought I was emailing and having open communication with an ex. It would be my a**.  You are his women and he should have at least a speck of decency and stop it all together. If he does not your relationship will break down for sure.
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Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
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okay he called someone else baby?okay i was seeing this guy we were on the phone this girl i guess she was in the background saying something to him i swear he said THANK YOU BABY,i could not believe it i aske him about it he said i call ever girl baby.i had the wearded feeling about it but i blew it off.guess what he was seeing other girld behind my back .please if he calls another girl baby or honey dump his butt
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You know the girl? is she your friend or no? Either way it may have been in bad taste but be warned if he left that girl as quick as he did for you-he would more likely drop you as quick as a bad habit for someone he may think is hotter than you. I think that's the best reason it's not a good thing.
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I am concerned over the fact that he doesn't want her to say anything to anyone.  To me, that screams out that he has another girlfriend.  Sounds like he is cheating on another girl...there is no other reason to keep their relationship secret.
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sounds like a fking AS_HOLE oh my god. what a terrible person. you have to feel bad for his girlfriend, too...my god, DITCH THE FKER and good job for not making a "move"
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The fact that he has shown you a picture and told you about her is not worthy of concern.  That's just him sharing himself with you.\n\nHowever, what is concerning is his statement and the comparisons.  He obviously is looking for someone to fill her void...\n\nI wouldn't tell you to just throw it away.  What I will suggest is talk to him, tell him it's concerning.  If things don't change and you still notice weird comments/comparisons, I would move on.
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I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
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I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?