I have had feelings lately that my husband is ready to leave.  We have talked about things and nothing seems to change.  He doesn't show affection and sex has stopped.  Am I soon to be single?
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Maybe he has erectile dysfunction and doesn't feel like he can talk to you about it.  Maybe it is a similar issue, why do Women always jump the gun, unless you want it to be over and in that case why would you ask us (Yahoo people).  If you are ready to move then don't try and find every little 'bad' thing about your man, just do it.
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Serious question here, and lots of things to consider.  Let's see if we can sort through all this.\n\nFirst of all, you say you've been together for seven months.  I wonder how old you and he are.  The red flag that jumped out at me is that you are both still living at home.  These days, I know that can mean anything from 19-29.  But if you don't have a steady job (preferably a career and a vocation), if you don't have your own transportation, and if you don't have financial independence, marrying is not a good idea.  He also needs to have a steady job, a vehicle and financial independence.  \n\nThat you are having second thoughts is a good thing.  He sounds like he still has a ways to grow up if he's still trying to leave home.  You sound like you have a way to go yet toward financial independence if you are living at home too.  When you say that you want to have little flings and talk to other guys, though, this tells me you are not ready for marriage because your heart is not truly in it.  You need to keep dating and work on your education, your job skills and your life management skills.  All these things are coming along, but don't sound quite developed enough yet.\n\nAlso, you should never have to pressure someone to marry.  A marriage proposal should come out of the blue with no pressure at all.  That someone feels the need to pressure someone else says that there is a power struggle going on, and that's a very unhealthy way to start married life.  \n\nThere is such a word as divorce, because there are many, many "starter marriages".  No matter your religion or personal beliefs, 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.  And divorce is a hard but positive thing ultimately, because there is no point living miserably.  Divorce is hard to go through, but people survive it, and go on to thrive afterward.  Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, things just don't work out like we plan.  People grow apart, want different things, change and life throws us curveballs to boot.  \n\nEnjoy your single life for a while longer yet.  You may want to keep seeing your boyfriend, or you may want to re-evaluate the relationship and see if you want to stay with him or move on.  Don't be afraid to move on.  Be more afraid of getting into a rut or becoming too fearful that you'll never find someone else.  Nonsense!  With six BILLION people in the world, no worries about finding someone to date and/or marry ultimately.\n\nGood luck with this.  Cheers, K
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hi.that's what a lot of married men say.if you love him,you should let him go.tell him you don't want to cause there marriage to brake up.you should say to him you don't want to see him anymore. stand back and see if he leaves his wife anyway.if he doesn't leave his wife,then you'll know he wasn't genuine about the things hes been saying.
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Oh course you have to wait. He's getting divorce and doens't matter how bad things were in his marriage, getting divorce is never easy. Let him feel free again. Let him enjoy himself. Give him time. I don't think he's ready for another relationship
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Are you a man? If the answer is yes, then kiss your house goodbye.\nAnd if you're worried about a divorce already, even before your married, I'd re-consider the whole marriage thing. Seems neither of you are ready for this sort of commitment...
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It does sound like you are on a way relationship headed to nowheresville.  I think you should leave.  If he came right out and told you he's not going to marry you why stay?  He's not your last chance for love, there are plenty of men out there, do sell yourself short.
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I think it is time to Chirp or get off the branch.  My wife and I had been dating for a while, I really loved her but did not ask her to get married.  She finally gave me a date by which to chirp or to get off the branch.  I chirped and it has been the best thing I ever did.  We have been married for many years and are more in love today then ever.  I would openly discuss your concerns with him and then let him know that you need commitment by say June 30.  If he doesn't make the commitment, move on to someone that truly loves you and someone that will make that commitment.  Too often, we stick with someone that we know is not right for us and then the years go by.  After it is too late, we realize that life is passing us by and we are in a relationship that is going nowhere.  I think people need to list the things that they want in a relationship/mate and then if after a few months they do stack up, they need to move on.  People really don't change much with time--if it doesnt feel right at first it probably wont get any better with time.   Good Luck!
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he's acting like that because you are going to be divorced soon and I bet he is married.... just from the way he is reacting, so move on dear - and give yourself time to heal completely before trying to get into another relationship. (you have to resolve all the issues that lead to your failed marriage - if you don't you'll drag that old baggage into another relationship.) If there was anything there you two would of met in person.... you talked for a long time without meeting and that should of told you something about him. (I've only met one man online who wasn't married and he was honest with me about his personal life and that's the man I'm married to! We talked for about 2 months and then we met in person - he helped me with coming to Canada to meet him.... and we "clicked" - and got married 3 months later! We have been married for 4 yrs. as of Sept.28th).... While I was single and chatting with men online for years --- they all turned out to be married or living with someone(with whom they had kids with).
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Well. there could be such much involved here. Like how has your marriage been going? I mean somewhere down the line something had to have happen.. It just doesn't stop. If you had a little more details I could help a little more. So I will do my best. First off, do you often spend time alone? That is important in a marriage where you two have time to go out on dates. Sometimes it takes you two to get out of your settings and do something different together. On the other hand how do you honestly feel about it. Are you making any efforts to be spontaneous with him? Is he just slowing drifting away. If that is the case maybe he could be hiding something that you don't know about. One thing for sure to do is pray to God to give you the answers you seek. There are just so many varibles that can play into all this...\n\nSorry that I could not be of more help..\n\nAmen and God bless...
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Question is, do u want to live with him like that?I think it`s pretty painful to hear that the partner says he has no feelings anymore. I`m sure you 2 have talked about it? It`s a pretty tuff question and i don`t think that anyone can give u an answer to that but ur boyfriend. Keep talking with him about it.... I hope everything works out for u
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Yes, I would say it is over or it will be soon.  He is already separating you from his family and friends.  The other things I look for is for a personality change.  Always in a bad mood for no good reason.  More secretive.  Finds reasons to avoid intimacy with you.  But why wait for all of the characteristics.  Why not break up with him first??  \n\nGood Luck.
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If you are not ready & you recognize that - than don't stress yourself.  Yes you are going to miss the comfort of what it's like to have someone to hold and hug and all that other stuff that couples do but for now just keep it simple and stay focused on yourself and what it is you need.\n\nIt took me 5 years to get over my ex.  I didn't close myself off from dating completely.  I still saw guys occasionally and even dated a few for a bit, but I just wasn't ready for a serious relationship as I was still too hurt & angry.  Believe it or not, I even stopped having sex for those 5 years.  Not to punish myself but I just learned that sex is something special between 2 people who love each other that I couldn't succumb to meaningless sex with someone I didn't love and respect.  I sure missed having someone to love especially when you are at home alone on a Friday or Saturday night and all your girlfriends are busy with their boyfriends/husbands.  Honestly, my house became quite immaculatly clean.\n\nI'm not saying you need to spend your life in solitude for the next couple of years, just give yourself a break for awhile.  Develop some other interests, hobbies or sports.  I had young children, so that prevented me from going out & enjoying myself.  But if you don't have any restrictions holding you back, maybe it is time for you to do some travelling?  Just think about it...other than a job or school, why not get out and do something you've always wanted to do?\n\nBest of luck and remember, you don't need a man to make you happy.  Once you become satisfied with yourself and your own happiness & you can honestly tell yourself that you don't need a man to bring you the happiness that you require, that's when you know you are ready to possibly start a relationship.  You find happiness on your own, not with someone else.  Someone else only adds to the happiness you have already found within yourself.
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Hi Ann! It doesn't sound like he's ready for the commitment that you want and deserve. You seem like you appreciate straight-forward answers and you seem to have the courage to ask him. It's better to know than to wonder, regret later and carry anger, when you could of had that time for yourself or with Mr. Right. Good luck....and you deserve better!
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Most people go through periods in their relationship in which they wonder if the "grass is greener" somewhere else.  If you feel like wanting to leave much of the time, then you need to figure out what you are missing in this relationship.  If it is just a passing thought, then your relationship is probably fine.\n\nSit down and think about what your life would be like if you left your man versus what it will be like if you stayed with him.  Which gives you more of a feeling of happiness?\n\nMaybe you're not ready to settle down and need time to explore other relationships.  If this is the case, you should end your current relationship as if you don't, you will most likely regret it later and may even come to resent your boyfriend.\n\nIf you do indeed decide to stay with your current man, then spicing up the relationship would be a great idea.  Talk over and role play sexual fantasies with him.  Watch erotic videos together. Go out on dates like you did when you first met.  Try some new activities together so you have more in common.\n\nGood luck and best wishes from ny
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It will go on for as long as you allow it.  He obviously has intimacy issues and since it's unlikely that he'll change, it's up to you to decide if you want to put up with it.  Tell him that if he leaves again not to bother coming back.
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No, he isn't.  I think it would be in your best interest to look into getting a divorce.  He has basically abandoned you for someone else.  You deserve better than a guy who walks out on you.
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If your having mixed feelings and your not officially a couple yes walk away if he not willing to have a relationship look life as to much to offer to not be complete if you stay will things change if so than give him more time. Do this set a goal, time limit in your head and go from there.*