Sorry to ask this again, but I have to add more details.  He has been doing heavy flirting for four months.  He used to call me 2 to 3 times a week, sometimes 5 minutes after we got out of class, that stopped, but his flirting, going looney when he is with me hasn't, yet he won't ask me out.  No he is not GAY, is not dating anyone else, and no, I won't ask this dude out.  I am crazy about him or I wouldn't be on Yahoo q/a.  We are not teenagers.  He has been divorced for one year and has not dated since.  What is the problem.
212983
Fear of rejection. We fear the aquardness of if you say no and what will the relationship be like if you say no. If you like him you should try giving him suttle hints.
531855
Hey, sometimes things just don't work out. I know you really like this guy; we've all been there, I promise. Maybe this flirting that's going back and forth will lead somewhere, maybe it won't, but don't beat yourself up for it. Try and get involved in something else you're passionate about- reading, or hanging with your girlfriends, or anything. Just don't do anything to break up him and his girlfriend, okay? That never leads anywhere good. Good luck!
540312
I would definatly talk to him about it. Or be the sly, sexy, one and write him a cute little note asking him out. I was in this situation, but he ended up asking me...but if he won't make the move, make it. Or suggest that someone else is going to ask you out, making him want to ask you first. If he still doesn't budge, he's bein a stupid guy.
150309
this has happend to me before as well. i stopped all contact with this person. i dont think you should have to put up with a guy who plays games. if someone trully likes you, they would have called. sounds like he is lying about tyring to reach you. let me just say i didnt regret once, letting that guy go. and my life has been less complicated since.
317703
does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
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Here's the deal.  He doesn't want to date you, but he doesn't want anyone else to date you either.  It's an ego thing.  He wants you to still be pining away for him.  Makes him feel studly.  Seeing you pine over some other guy shows you're over him and that doesn't stroke his ego.  I say, screw his ego, tell him to act like a decent friend or don't be a friend at all, and pursue the other guy (or any other guy who may come along).  Life's too short to be worry about what a guy who burned you is feeling.
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I think by flirting with you, means that he likes you, but maybe the only reason that he's dating this other chick is maybe because he just wanted a gf. You've probably been in those situations where someone has asked you out and you say yes because you think their cute and there may be someone you like, but your not sure if they like you back. I know I've been there. What I'm saying is that there is probably an unspoken "thing" going on between you two, and he said yes to this chick or asked her out, because neither one of you guys were making the first move. Make sense? And its possible he's trying to make you jealous to make you react and show him you like him. Like he KNOWS you like hi, but he wants you to SHOW him. good luck, and take whats yours! its not like the boys married, right? lol...
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You can't make a person do something if they don't want to do it.  Maybe he is ready for a casual relationship, and not something serious. The not calling thing is probably his way of saying, I want to take it slower.  I would just ease up on calling him, and just leave a casual message every now and then, and see what happens from there.  If he doesn't change in an appropriate amount of time, I would move on.
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nothing is wrong with that maybe it just hasn't popped up in his mind you know how guys are. when he comes over and you guys are flirting he then when he gets ready to leave ask him for his phone# or if he wants your phone#. if nothing happens email at blkcuttie2006@yahoo.com and tell me what happened so i can give you more advice.
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Sounds like he doesnt respect you if he will not listen to your concerns and tells you to leave! What a jerk. I am not against flirting in itself, but when it hurts your feelings then it should be discussed at the very least.
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Sure he likes ya.. (he is crazy about you!) It shows again and again in what you write above! YES you are perceptive about that 'guy code.' I think he's got to work some things out in his head .. this is hard to do BUT it will pay off.. Give it a couple more months. Don't push it! You know one important thing (and it's a biggie) that this guy has got 'good morals..' If he's being respectful of his friends (I think it's kool) think how great and respectful he will be of YOUR feellings?! Am I right? This guy sounds like a real keeper, hon. You are doing o.k. too by the way by playing it cool.. keep it 'casual.'  Play back his 'hey, what's up?' to him. (Real kool how he stayed w/ya and slept there, didn't touch ya.. that what ya wrote, right? he was awkward in the morning..) He sounds like he is not going to cheat on you. (He sounds like a real dear.) I say GO for it!!!!!!
73221
Whoa!  This guy seems to be in too deep way too fast.  If you want to stay with this guy, you need to have a conversation with him and tell him to slow down or you'll have to stop dating.  Explain that you aren't looking for a commitment so fast.\n\nIf this keeps up, let him down easy, and then don't accept any phone calls, visits, emails, etc. from this guy.  Eventually, he'll get the hint and go away.\n\nIf he doesn't go away, try to get a stalking protective order against him.
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Forget it.\n\n*sorry*\nThe reason I suggest this is that he asked you out 2 years ago and clearly didn't follow it up with a relationship, and when asked he didn't say "Oh I like someone, but I'm not telling", he said "No one".\n\nNote that saying that he has his eye on some chick would NOT be taken by his pals as soft in any way.  In fact, on the contrary, his admission that he likes no-one would run him the risk of being called gay, too choosy or too scared/timid.\n\nI noted that you have been quite happy for the 2 years -- in love with him and hoping he liked you -- this is classic Platonic love (unrequited).  It is the only real form of pure love there is.  It is a loveley thing to be cherished and you should be glad that it won't be ruined by having a relationship where the love is allowed to mature away from being in-love to loving or for it all to end without love at all.\n\nYou have been in a small social bubble for way too long now... your posting this question suggests to me that perhaps it is time that you spread your wings and searched further afield.  You sound like you are ready for a rewarding loving relationship.  Don't settle for second best!\n\nI recommend new hobbies, part time work, a night class, or something that will take you into a new social sphere where you will meet new people and guys will soon be asking you out.\n\nPS: You read the situation very well, and your question shows clarity of thought and a desire to clear the air and sort things out.  I am only posting an answer at all becaus of the other answers here! I think you know the real answer -- so don;t, please, be swayed by public opinion!
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Next time he's alone (again when he's alone) go up introduce yourself and ask if he's seeing anyone. If he's not ask him out.  Please don't try that pathetic flirt/hint crap that most women use. Most guys don't pick up on that subtle crapola!
557122
You really like this guy huh? That's sweet. I woud suggest that you think back on the time that you two spent together and evaluate whether or not you were able to pick up on any signals from this young lad. Did he flirt with you? Did he drop any hints that he may like you too? If not, I would suggest that you lay off him for a while, and then attempt to contact him (by phone, skip the txt messaging) and ask him if he wants to hang out. The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Perhaps the young lad is shy? If you do not let him know, then perhaps he will never know. Therefore, wait a week, and give him a call and ask him to hang out. If he agrees, do not jump his bones, just play it cool and use the time to really determine if he is throwing any hints or signals that he may like you.  Good luck and have fun.
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I would say that he is interested in you to some degree.  He doesn't sound too serious either.  Just enjoy the attention that you do get from him and leave it at that.  Just a flirting thing.  Sometimes it's fun just to flirt and not worry about relationships.
509605
Esha, I'm talking to you from the perspectives of a guy. I want to consider you a luck gurl for having a guy who wants to displays his affection for you in public. It's only a guy that has no skeleton in his cupboard that does this to a gurl. He really wants to show you that he's the same person to you whether in private or public. Also, he's just trying to pull your legs with those flirting stuff. He wants to know how jealous you could be, but I can bet you he doesn't mean any harm. The next time he does that, you either pretend you don't notice that or if you can, say something as if you're encouraging him in his flirting game. In the contrary, this will shock him and you'll be better for it - trust me. I wish you a happy and fulfilling relationship with your guy. Cheers!