THERE IS A PORPUSE FOR EVERYONE AND A PLAN TO FOLLOW. WHAT ARE YOU DOING ABOUT IT. ARE YOU JUST GOING TO DO NOTHING ABOUT IT AND LET YOUR LIVES BE!! HAVE YOU NOT ASK YOUR SELF WHY WAS I BORN? WHAT AM I DOING IN THIS TIME? SLEEPING? EATING? WORKING? YOU MAY SAY , I AM PROVIDING FOR MY FAMILY WITH...STUFF. BUT ARE YOU GIVING OUT OF YOUR TIME TO THEM TO SHARE AND LOVE THEM? ARE YOU DOING ANYTHING ELSE FOR SOME ONE ELSE OR YOU ARE JUST HELPING YOUR SELF TO HAVE MONEY AND HAVE POSSESIONS? IF YOU WERE TO PASS AWAY WAS IT WORTH IT TO DESREGAR EVERYONE ELSE IF YOU WONT BE REMEMBERED. PEOPLE DONT REMEMBER MONEY THEY REMEMBER RELATIONSHIPS, COMMUNION WITH OTHER. TIMES WHEN YOU SPENT TOGETHER. I AM NOT SAYING LEAVE EVERITHING, BUT  SACRIFICE TIME FOR THE ONES THAT LOVE YOU AND THE ONE'S YOU LOVE.............................................................. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO????????
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Talk softly\nWalk humbly\nEat sensibly\nBreath deeply\nSleep sufficiently\nDress smartly\nAct fearlessly\nWork patiently\nThink truthfully\nBeleive correctly\nBehave decently\nPlan practically\nEarn honestly\nSave regularly\nSpend intelligently\n\n\nThis is my current focus
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My heart really goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through with your daughter. It sounds like you have made a great start with the day to day stuff and i think this is the best thing to do -concentrate on each day and don't look too far ahead. Rely on your family and friends and don't stop talking about it, play with your baby and wait. The waiting is the hardest part, but if you take it slowly and don't set a time limit - don't say for example that by next week you will have stopped crying, or that by next month you will be over him and don't judge your own 'get over him' time by someone elses, everybody does things in their own way. But i promise you that if you keep doing what you're doing it will go away, it really will, you just have to wait. Wishing you all future happiness xxxx
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Because your time has not come yet. Just because everyone around you is having babies and may be married does not mean that you must be too.  Do not base your life on everyone elses nor try to copy what they do. Life your own live and do your own things, when the time is right the rest will all fall into place. There is a plan for each one of us, and when the time is right, that plan will take affect, for now live life loud and cheerfully...
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You have to choose if your obtaining your happiness at the expense of upsetting your family is worth it.  It is a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer.  Sooner or later you will have to stand up for what you want in your life and not everyone will agree with your choices.  It is just a question of if now is that time for you?
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Your family seem like they are trying, but seriously you should tell them this- that there support means a whole lot to you and you love and respect them and you just want the same and deserve the same like any human being does.\nIf it concerns you why dont you sit with them alone and bring the subject up and you can all have your say. \nI really hope it works out for you and everyone else concerned.
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I can somewhat say that I understand how you feel or where you are coming from.  But you know, we shouldn't be living only for the riches of this world. God is still looking over you, do not be fooled by the devil trying to make every problem seem like the end of your life as though you are all alone in the world and no one cares.  He thrives at that.  The Holy Spirit is there, right with you.  Please talk to Him right now and ask Him to make His presence felt.\n\nAt times, I've have to do some silly things just to see if God was still listening to my prayers.  Once I asked Him to send down a piece of plain white cloth from no where. Less than a minute later I saw a beautiful all white bird flying down to my bedroom window. That was so comforting, even though I was going through the toughest time in my life.  I just knew that God was with me and loves me.\nRemember this...\nHeb 11:13 All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance. And they admitted that they were aliens and strangers on earth.\n\nI'll make you another example.  My grandma prayed for over 35 years for my grandpa to be saved. Everyone thought she was crazy (including their children). But one morning, I saw him take all his expensive bottles of whiskey and pour them out on the drain. From then on, he never looked back.  He loved the Lord till his death.  \n\nJesus Loves You and I do too
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Yes..selfish.\nYou are feeling sorry for yourself and nothing seems to be going your way. \nGo to the funeral. One of your parents just lost their Mother. Think about what they are going through. You need to be supportive.\nYou said (95 years old) in parenthesis as though she should be dead by now ... and why should anybody be surprised or upset.\nYour parent LOVED their Mother ... maybe more so because she has always been there for so long...and they are really hurting right now.\nNothing will go your way with the attitude you have now... Things will look brighter soon.
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No this isn't the life I had imagined.  It is both better and worse, depending on when I was doing the imagining.  But I have a lot to be grateful for, if I look for it.  I married my best friend, we have a nice but modest home, and we are both employed.  We have friends and family who love us.  Although not in perfect health, we are mobile and not living in constant pain.  Our needs are taken care of and sometimes some of our wants.  There are folks who have more than and less than us---but as long as we are grateful for what we have things are good.  Very good.\n\nLife IS an adventure---regardless of where you are.  Really look around you to see all of the people you have the opportunity to make a difference in.  Even the little things that you say to a child or stranger may make a difference.  When I remember the simple things that people said to me that changed my life, I doubt that those people knew how much it would mean to me years later.  To love and be loved is the most productive anyone can be.  To give to others is the most rewarding thing you could do in life.\n\nAre you only concentrating on the positive things in your life that you want to grow or the negative things?
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I want to be equal to everyone. How much better the world would be if the ones that have the most would use it to bring the ones that have the least up to an equal lifestyle. When I read about how much athletes, musicians, and actors make it really says something about our society. I use to sell my art in high-end stores until one day upon visiting I realized that I myself could not afford my own art. Why shouldn't all people be able to enjoy nice things in life.There is nothing in my life more important than people. I own no material thing that I could not part with. I honestly find though that in being married with a family it comes down to a group decision on our financial charity. While I can not take material things with me when I leave this world I can take the love and respect of the people who's lives I have touched with unconditional love.
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Boy do I feel your pain or what!  Sounds similar to my wedding fiasco!\n\nI'm assuming that the two families are upset with the other?\n\nYour parents did welcome his family.  With a wonderful ceremony and party.  But being the gracious hosts your parents are, I'm sure they're not holding a grudge at not being properly thanked. I'm sure they've just chalked it up to others social inexperience.  And have moved on with their lives.\n\nHis family should have thanked your family.  Everyone should have thanked your family.  But the best thing to do would be to move past this.  If you still sense tension, I would say something like "Well, we're not going to get into 'who should have done what' at this late date.  We're just going to move past it.  As I'm sure my family has done."  If someone truly wants to know what the socially corrent thing to do is, I'm sure they will ask you in private and you can let them know without embarrassing them.\n\nGood luck!
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People say things because they honestly believe that they would or could do it all and expect the other to do the same, forever.   These people are selfish and self-centered and rarely think beyond their needs.\n What they don't realize is how much time and work it is to look after such a needy person and still carry on with their lives.   It's  an emotional rollercoaster and the person you are caring for now, is not the same person he was before and will never be again. \nIf only people would think it through and put themselves in the situation, only then will they truly understand and stop judging.\n To put their loved ones in home is not abadoning them or being selfish, it's love and true concern for his remaining life.  A home can provide the necessary care that he deserves and the love for the person he once was will never fade no matter where he is at.
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I only want all of my family together again.And i think i am getting my wish.I recently had brain tumor surgery, and i am 29.I am ok, but it made me realize alot of important stuff. It made me and my sister talk again after 2 1/2 years. Material comes and goes, its what matters in your heart. I do not have alot of money now, not working, and it seems weird to not buy alot, but every second that goes by i am now living for the better. Love those close to your heart, because you don't know when they could be gone, or yoursself. Peace and happiness is my wish.
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We are all on this earth for a very short time. You & I aren't speacial, we too will die. Make the most of this life while we are here, is the lesson we should get from this. Lets try to be thankful for this young mans life even though it was short. He died doing something he loved. In my book thats better then being layed up in a bed suffering for long time. I know it is hard, but after the, understandable, saddess life goes on and our time here is limited.
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Shoes, you know you are asking for something really impossible - to stay the way you were, always, through out your life, without any change. We all grow, I mean mentally, and along the way we lose a lot of people all at once, or at different stages of our life. It is so sad to remember how we were when all these people were actually present in our lives, and it is so difficult to imagine how it would be without them. I cannot. But then I have to come in terms with it, because death specially is the ultimate truth. You father, ofcourse meant a lot to you, and this is the phase where you are dealing with his loss. It is natural. For you to be funny and friendly will be a very abnormal thing to do. Take it as it comes. Cry if you want to, let things out of you, and start thinking '''now what ?''. You have to start again, this time your dad is not there, but I am sure your dad would not want you grieving all your life. Dont you think ? He would be really really upset to see you this way. Your girl left you ? What are the reasons ? Could it be that you are really going through a difficult phase in life, and perhaps she could not stand with you through this ? Whatever, she may have had her reasons, and then you cannot force anyone, can you ? You can still be funny and freindly, may be not the same as you were before, but by allowing time to heal you, getting yourself to keep going, do things that you are supposed to be doing, like work / study, be with people, do something new, go to a new place for a change, ...Chart out things in your life, in terms of career, your long term goals....keep your mind thinking ''what next'', instead of wallowing yourself in self pity....its absolutely normal for that dark cloud to exist in your mind, but you have to bring in the sunshine yourself, make efforts to, and this phase will pass too. This dark cloud will not stay forever in your mind, can you picture yourself like this when your 40 - 50 ?? I dont think so....so while time does the trick, start new today. Get up, and get going. You will meet someone who is really special, so dont waste time thinking of someone who left you at the lowest low of your life...\n\ngood luck\n\nP.S. Feeling greif is normal, and do not confuse it with the actual ''depression'' where you have to resort to medicines, and I am sure you would consult a professional, who will really decide if you do have depression
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YOu can work all kinds of ways that are productive for you and the community and there is nothing that you mention that isnt of great value and worth to your family and so you. I think perhaps you are just having a crisis. seek some help and talk to your husband and/or pastor about this.\n\nGood Luck and God Bless!!
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well i ain`t to sure about the way you put it and you sound really mad at the world right now but i don`t think we choose that road\n have you lost a love one are maybe thought about taking one you sound like you are lost between living and life why would you waste life worrying about death are other things close to that inless you are a victim are a killer. if you are a victim you learn to just have faith and beleave there are people there who do care and move on with your life cause there are to many wonderful things out in the world like breathing are watching the birds are spending time with someone you really love .and if u are a killer then you need to seek help soon before it takes you under
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Youre being selfish! Its better to give than receive you will get your blessings in return!! Dont be so mean its the holidays.!