Me and my boyfriend have had sex. My parents always told me that if I ever had sex b4 I was married that I would go to hell... That, that was a sin. But my boyfriend who isnt as religous as I am told me I wouldnt. that I only would go to hell if I had sex with someone i really didnt love or sold my body. Is this True???
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OK!! First things first!! God loves you - even though you had sex with your boyfriend. Secondly - it was wrong of your parents to tell you you would go to hell if you did - wrong!! That is just their way of trying to prevent you from having sex with you bf!! You should try reading some of the great promises God gives us in the bible - that will encourage you. Dont always just listen to your parents - check it out with the lord - prayer always works for me!!
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No, if a Muslim decides he/she never wants to get married they r not allowed to have sex outside marriage.. It is considered a sin. Also Christians in the Eastern cultures u r talking about do not have premarital sex, they consider it a sin. There r Muslims and Christians who do not commit to that but they know it is a sin anyway.
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Where does it say in the Bible that sex is only for procreation? It says sex outside of marriage(between a man and a woman) is wrong. And I don't think that bd/sm..D/s is wrong or they are devil worshipers. Again as long as it is with your wife or husband. I am truly sorry that you have dealt with Christians like you described. Please know that A) not all Christians are like that and B) the Christian faith does not teach to be Judgmental.  I know that there are a lot and I mean a lot of Christians that are judgmental. They are wrong! But, also know that we are not supposed to be judgmental but at the same time we are not supposed to be open to all things. We hate the sin not the person. For example: I do not hate people that are homosexual. I don't look down upon them like I am better than them or anything like that. I don't gay bash. Homosexuality is a sin just like any other sin. I have my sins to deal with that are no lesser than theirs.  However I am not going to accept homosexuality as a life style any more than I would accept murder, child abuse, alcoholism, or lying as a lifestyle.  They are all equally bad in the eyes of the Lord.  I do pray for those people as fervently as I pray for my own sins and ask God with help in my own sinful urges.\n\ntosmith
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Not to discredit anyone, but luv_2sing06 is so wrong. Nowhere in the 10 commandments does it state ANYTHING about premarital sex.The closes it comes is "Thou shall not commit adultery". In fact, if it is so wrong in the eyes of God, why did Jesus hang out with prostitutes, thieves, killers, and tax collectors? In fact there is a story (John 4:4-26)in which a woman is talking to Jesus and she tells him that she is not married, and he replies that she has been married 5 times and is living with a guy. BUT NOT ONCE does he say anything about it being wrong. Also in John 8:1-11, Jesus says "Let the one without sin cast the first stone."\nNo sin is greater than another.
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A true Christian would say that no one can judge you but God.  I think abstinence is fine if that's what you choose.  No one should have sex if they don't think it's right for them, whether its religious reasons or not.  But if sex is what you want and you find someone who feels the same about you, it is a beautiful thing.
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So, according to the other Christians' answers, it is ok for married people to enjoy sex, sex isn't only for procreation, but sex is created for two people who love each other, but sex ouside of gay marriage is wrong? If the only argument against homosexuality is "the Bible says so." The Bible says a lot of things, do you accept them all equally?  Paul also says women shouldn't wear their hair braided or wear jewelry, do you abide by that? If not, then does that mean you are judging some things as applicable and other things not? What is the basis of that?\nTHINK PEOPLE!
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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I believe you can love someone without having sex, because you love that person for THEM, not for any physical reasons.  You love each other on an emotional level.  \n\nPeople have sex without loving them all the time, look at all the one night stands that people have.\n\nI think that teenagers (I being one myself-19) are so desperate for sex because they feel that to please someone or make themselves acceptable in the eyes of their peers, they need to have sex.  They feel in some way gratified even though they don't realize that this gratification doesn't last long, and before they know it they are empty inside and looking for something else to appease them.  I think they are missing something in their lives and so they feel that sex can fill that hole and empty space.\n\nI am a Christian and have decided to save myself for my future husband to respect him, myself and most importantly God.  God says our bodies are a temple, so we should treat them as such.  I believe that love comes first and foremost, and then marriage, and then sex.  Sex can be a wonderful thing if two people deeply love each other and are committed to only each other.\n\nHope this helps! God bless! <3
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Everyone f*cks before marriage.  TRUE THAT!\n\nBut don't worry about the second biggest lie that we tell ourselves.\n\nWhy not?\n\nBecause there is no god.  Therefore there is no sin.\n\nSee-- the existence of a god is the first biggest lie we tell ourselves.\n\nGo get down and dirty!
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NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
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Another fine example of how Christianity and Christian parents can wreak havoc in their children and completely ruin their mental health. I am completely DIGUSTED by your mother.\n\nNo you will not go to hell, don't let your mother brainwash you like this. It's perfectly natural to have an erection, it's part of a healthy body well alive.
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It's up to you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.   I was married when I was 18 and now I am 20.  My husband and I decided not to have sex before we got married. I know that some people regret having sex before they are married becasue it causes problems in their future relationships. But this is what worked for us.  You would have to talk it over with your sigificant other to decide what will work for you.
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No,just like people who were raised with a different religion throughout their childhood doesn't go to hell.There is no hell.Everything that we are is the way God intended it to be;If it wasn't,it wouldn't be.Man made the concepts of good and bad,not God.In reality nothing is really good or bad,it's our thoughts that make them so.
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First, are you truly saved?  Have you accepted Jesus as your savior and applied His blood to cover your sins?\n\nSexually, He says fornication is a sin.  What you want to do..is sinful.\n\nRead your bible, speak to your pastor...that's better than a lot of answers you'll find here.
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It's not that we are against pre-marital sex, it's that we don't want OUR kids doing it before they are emotionally and physically capable of dealing with all the repercusions, such as unwanted pregnancy, STDs etc.  Most Americans do have sex prior to marriage, and have been since the sexual revolution in the '60s.  However, the Bible teaches that sex outside of marriage is a sin.  Sounds to me that your "religious people" are picking and choosing which part of the Bible to follow and which part to ignore.
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I'm a Christian, and the question sounds fine to me. Everyone hears about sex eventually, in various circumstances, and our thinking can undergo changes as we gain life experience. The way the question is phrased suggests that the person wants serious (i.e. non-pornographic) answers.
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Yes it is and we are all going to burn in hell get a life!\n\nYou should go to hell why?  because:\n\nYou kill animals to eat them, you're going to hell\nEver killed a fly? that's murder you're going to hell\nEver had sex outside marriage? that's a sin too, burn!\n\nIf you consider everything that is meant to be a sin then the question that you should ask is not "Am I going to hell?" but rather "Who IS going to heaven?"