my boyfriend for 3 years broke up with me.My problem is that my parents are expecting us to be married in the future, for they knew that we slept together last christmas, it was my period then that is why nothing happened...how can i forget him??
218381
the same way you must deal with everything else in life (for it only gets worse.. but the good news is you learn how to handle situations better and more of them without feeling like its the end of the world) and the answer is....\nstep outside look around and appreciate the little things... "what a beautiful day!"  "wow gorgeous flower" a kind word or deed from someone... focus on other things.. building friendships (that often die a bit during relationship) so hang out with your mates it makes dealing with things easier... focus more on school and work... the chinese say that each person has a number of houses... a money house a work house a relatioship house a family house etc... if you place all your energy into one when it ends your world falls apart because you haven't maintained solid foundations and time in your other houses.. so focus on these and whilst the pain may never go away.. it will become easier to bear and one day you will laugh about it and know what you learnt from it ...
267160
It's only been two weeks.  I know it's cliched, but give it time, devote yourself to other things and spend more time with your friends and family.  Eventually, you'll see that you made the right decision and remember why you broke up with him in the first place.  If, in three or four months, you still feel the same way, you need to re-examine the entire situation.  Hopefully, by them you'll have someone that either is or potentially is a better fit for you.
467025
Honey - you said it all already - you knew he wasnt right for you.  Sounds like you are just lonely now and your current relationship might not be the right one for you as a marriage.  Its too late now, and no matter how much you might want to - you cant go back in time and change things.  And truthfully, you probably really wouldnt want to.  Whatever made you break up with him, it would have gotten worse.  Chin up dear girl, plenty of fish in the sea :)
335069
I'm not sure if you really can. I had a bf 5 yrs ago and we loved each other very much but his parents made him move 6 states away from me. It hurt so bad and I still miss him to this day. He probably doesn't even remember who I am anymore but oh well. No I am like totally in love with one of my bestest friends in the world and he knows it but I guess he just doesn't feel the same way about me. He is leaving in July to join the army and I will probably cry my eyes out everynight until he returns in December because I'll miss him so much but he might not give me two thoughts when he is gone. I don't know but there is no real way to ever stop missing someone. I guess one day you'll just wake up and never think of them again.
239414
if this is about love and a guy, your parents are right.  you're only 17, you don't know much about love and the world.  i'm only a year older than you and i'm still working on trying to figure it out.  your parents are just trying to make sure you don't do anythign stupid, and though its true you need to make mistakes in order to learn from them, you don't want to make a mistake that you'll regret.
507882
Maybe his family likes you and he doesnt want them to know what he's been doing to you. thinking that if he acts the part then the negative attention from you will die down and he can get on with business as usual. What you need is to prove to yourself that he has cheated on you. then you have a choice breaking up before or after each has it's own merrits. do it before and I think it might make you look heartless unless you can show good evidence. wait and do it after to look like you are kind and caring but as long before christmas as possible so that you give yourself some time to get back on your feet so to speak before the next holiday. good luck
213933
just don't mind about him. he's just a waste of time to think about. tell your friend she's better off without him, believe me, i had the same type of boyfriend, i was so miserable before we broke up... I just then realized that I was better off without him. I'm happily single... :)
410888
get married first and then tell ur parents , atleast I did that because I didnt want any caos in my marriage, if u love him marry him otherwise u will remember him often
446373
With Christmas coming up.. make mention of a ring some how. Even by making small talk in bed before sleep, bring it up somehow. He deserves to know how you feel and what you want! And if he doesn't want that yet or what not.. understand! Don't be in a hurry.. live life, have fun, and if things are meant to me between you two, a ring and a kid or more will happen!! It just takes time. Trust me, live life and have fun while you can, before you know it you'll be changing stinky diapers!. Enjoy your freedom of going out when ever you can, and not have to worry about finding a baby sitter or telling your friends you have to stay home with the kid. Plus.. a wedding and a kid shortly after is EXPENSIVE. Save up your money. Because once you have a kid.. you have responsibilities for the rest of your life.. enjoy life while you have the chance girl!!!
484297
This sounds sooooooo familiar.  My parents did not like my boyfriend for a very long time, but the longer we were together, the more they realized how much we cared for each other.  Now we are engaged and my parents are ecstatic.  Just think to yourself....................who's in love with him, me or my parents? when your in love, you shouldn't care what other people think, but since its your parents, i know its hard.  Just follow your heart!!\n\nGood luck and God bless!
23233
The only reason that you might want him back is because either he was your first(popped cherry), or he was the guy that came after a traumatic relationship. Another reason is he is your babies daddy! Cheer up boo, there are a lot of men out there. You know you really shouldn't be having sex at 15 1/2 kid. I did not realize how young you were, talk to your parents for sure. Keep your mind off of boys and focus on school, remember that your concentration and focus on school will determine how much green you will make. You only get one chance to make things in high school. "A mind is a terrible thing to waste." UNCF.
298967
girl dont worry about that you will have a bf soon or that look i am 13 and almost say that i loved my bf and then today broke up with me and they just dont know what to do cause that dont know what to do unless he is really true and dont feel fat and dont try suicide and again casue you know where you will be going and you dont want to go there i use to be depressed myself and i didnt know what to do and i cryed ever day but come on baby girl dont feel that way and try your best to stop worrying about boys and i have a freind that has not had a bf and she is 13 and she is not worrying about it so you dont cause it is better things in world then boys jsut keep it toghter and girl eat come on you have to eat i love to eat and i dont like when i hear that people dont eat if you have any questions or what to talk just email me at can_yew_hear_me_now@yahoo.com and my name is teleeca well got to go good luck
597688
Time will heal all of this.  Maybe even have a talk with your dad, and apologize to him for this.  Eventually they'll start to trust you again, if you don't mess up again.  Just remember, the stuff you do to your parents, may happen to you with your own kids.  Also, parents aren't dumb.  History repeats itself...they know all the tricks, because they've either heard of it, or have done it themselves.  Not alot of teens realize that when they are caught in a lie, it actually hurts the parent's feelings too.  The best advice that I can tell you is that you should never act in any way that would either hurt your parent's feelings or embarrass them.  That way your trust will be built up, and they won't worry about you as much.  If your dad would tell you to be in at 10:00, then be in for 9:30.  It'll go a long way with him.  Your dad was only concerned about your welfare. cause there are too many pervs out.  You messed that up and now you're paying the price.  If something would have happened to you, it would have really hurt your dad.....think of it like that.  It's obvious to me that he loves you.  And since you're so young....how about some advice about sex?   Love can wait 5 years, lust can't wait 5 minutes.  If you have to "prove" your love by having sex, then the guy isn't worth it, and remember you don't have to prove anything.  Another thing...if you're still a virgin, girls at school may tease you about being a virgin.  That's ok.  Tell them this...."I can be like you anytime I want, but you can never again be like me".  I wish you the best of luck..and please be careful.  Have a good day....
226025
Get over him. Since you broke up with him you should try to stick to your decision. Don't feel like he is the last guy on Earth.
301344
You could try writing them a letter if they wont see you. In the long run though, it comes down to this... You're marrying HIM not his parents. If they want him in their lives they'll come around. He needs to make it clear that he loves you and wants to be with you, even if it means not seeing his family. My guess is they will come around after a few weeks. Hope this helps.
552172
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
86235
sorry to hear that.. but as they say, it takes one to forget one. :) people may seem to think they will never get over it, but it is possible to. do the things you love to do such as ur hobbies. and hey, God maybe is calling you. and telling u something.  your problems are nothing when you are in His presence. Pray. Lift up all ur burdens to Him. :) Hope this could help. :)