I've been having regular sex since I got married a year and a half ago.  it still hurts too much for me to think this is supposed to be so enjoyable.  what gives?  my doctor says nothings wrong... am i just still tight?  i was a virgin before my wedding btw.
201242
you might need to have more foreplay before the actual intercourse.  get your husband to play with you and spend more time turning you on so that your vagina losens up and gets more lubricated.  or you can just use some KY or some other lubricant and tell him to go slowly.
420991
I'm in the same boat as you and think you should keep away from fornication. Waiting until your wedding night really shows your new wife that you have waited your entire life to be with her. Sex has nothing to do with love; it is lust and really shouldn't be a factor outside of marriage because both participants know fine well after they have sex they have nothing moer they can give to one another. Outside of wedlock shows they are struggling to keep their relationship going. I know I may sound ignorant but thats the way I see things, it's the way I raised myself. Thinking of showing my devotion to my future (hopefully) wife rather than pleasing my own lust.
189483
God made sex a sacred thing meant to be only for married couples, plus I hear that it's better when you're married. No pressure or worries about babies or anything else you might not be ready for...
116588
See a gyno about. Also, has this probably always been there w/ your husband? Everyone's body is different and unique, and responds differently to certain stimulations. So, perhaps your husband just isn't doing it as your body needs. For myself, if climax is right there but not achieved, due to a change of rythm or whatever, it does start to become painful. I tried KY once, and it burned, so your not alone on that one. My advice, see the gyno and if you get a clean bill of health, then plan a romantic day with your husband in the bedroom. Rediscover each other's bodies. Offer suggestions and be open to suggestions. It'll be fun...and I'm sure he'll enjoy it too!
203927
I had the same problem for a long while.You need to see your doctor.My problem was that my hymen was still intact.That's the piece of skin that makes you a virgin.Mine was still intact after having two children!!It was a simple in office procedure to take care of it.
23951
If you did it in a new position and you went deeper than usual then yes, that is a very good possibility.  Is it near time for your period? You don't seem very experienced in sex.  How old are you?   WHY, OH WHY are you having unprotected sex?  Are you married?  You are just being plain stupid if you are not.\nI'm not being mean but I am trying to make a point to you.\nIf you are worried about anything at all please go to a doctor and get his opinion and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.\nThank goodness I have been married for many years and don't have to worry about all this.\nGood luck!  I hope everything is ok.
413260
In this day and age where sex is THROWN at young people it is very hard to stay pure. I did not have sex until I was married BUT I fornicated with 3 men before I met my husband and I hurt myself and I hurt God. According to Websters dictionary fornication is any sexual act outside of marriage (I don't just mean a affectionate hug or a quick kiss on the cheek). I think it is beautiful that you are a virgin and Satan is a liar and says sex and fornication are free Honey it came with a HEAVY price when I had to humble myself to my beloved husband when were were engaged and tell him that I have had experience even though I did not have actual sex, my husband chose to marry me anyway and I am humbled and grateful. The 10-15 minutes of pleasure are NOT worth the consequences of hurt and betrayal. I hope this helps and God bless you for posting.
224021
You are too young to be having sex. Please wait. It would be so much better when you are older and married. No worries then because you wouldn't have to worry about STD's or pregnancy. Please wait. If you must though size really doesn't matter to me. It all depends on how you treat your girl.
438532
Well I don't think what u're doing is a mistake. I myself am a virgin and I also intend to keep it that way until I am married. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everybody's views about that are different though cuz some people don't believe in the "sex before marriage" thing. Some say sex is simply sex. Well for me,when that time comes,I want it to be special and I want it to be with that person I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with,my husband to be. Hence the reason I'm waiting until I get married.. Anyway,it's your choice and if u choose to remain one, that's great so don't worry about it. I'm sure when u get married, u'll be glad that u did! Take care..
200782
Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
345613
Please just go to the doctor, you should never leave things like this for any amount of time, so please go to your doctor now. I am not even going to suggest what this might be as you safe you practice safe sex all the time, it just doesn't sound good to me, get it checked out.
533207
How often have you had sex before?  Somtimes I am sore for a day or two - depending on how long he lasted. Girl - honestly, be thankful for a man who may be too excited or rough.
555876
this happened to me for 2 years after i began having sex. My doctor said that it was no big deal, that my partner was just slighty um, "large" down there, and that my hymen was just not fully broken before him. It stopped and the pain i was having with it stopped too. no problems since, good luck!!
664163
My fiance' and I are getting married in dec. and we are both still virgins and proud of it. We have saved ourselves until our wedding night. We did this to be honoring of each other and to be honoring of God.
614428
Virgins on a wedding night are rare, indeed!  I was one.  Many people had some good advice for you, but there's something I don't agree with.  Just because your fiancé has had sex, doesn't make him an experienced lover.  The bottom line is that he's not yet had sex with YOU...therefore, he is inexperienced.  Every woman is different.  \n\nYour fear is most likely rooted in 1) the unknown...the "big mystery;" and 2) ignorance (I don't mean this in a bad or critical way.  I'll explain what I mean.)\n\nThe "unknown" will remain that way until you've joined with your husband.  But even after that first time, it will *still* be mysterious because you'll both have SO MUCH to learn about each other and about yourselves.  What you like, what you dislike, what really gets you going, what makes you giggle, etc.  Have fun learning all that stuff!  You're in this together.  Communicate with each other.  :)   \n\nIgnorance - Maybe you're scared in part because you have no idea what to expect.  Maybe you don't know your own body yet. This isn't something to be ashamed of; it's just a matter of fact.  The remedy for this is education.  You and your fiance should read about and discuss together what to expect.  How a man's body works, how a woman's body works, etc.  Talk with each other about your fears, expectations, desires.  And honey, do yourself a favor.  Examine your body.  Use a mirror if you have to, but get comfortable with yourself.  The more comfortable you are with yourself, and the more you understand about you and your husband, the more confident you'll be that first time around and the more fun you'll have exploring!  ; )  \n\nNow everybody told me I'd feel pain the first time.  I didn't.  Not a bit.  That was partly because I had umm...can I say this on here?  Well, I had an accident as a child that did away with "the veil that causes pain."  You know what I mean.  But sex can still be painful if you are not properly prepared...i.e. turned on.  This is where reading a book on the subject can help you.  Understanding precisely how your body functions internally and externally goes a long way to dispelling some of the mystery and fear.  And if you're properly "prepared," it's not going to hurt. \n\nSo, read together, talk together, talk to close trusted friends, and then finally relax and give each other the freedom to explore and learn.  Wishing you joy and much love.  : )
672474
yeah...i say talk to a doctor and see if there is anyway to "heal" it...and in the mean time, stop having rough sex, or any sex at all, you might be ruining your chances for kids at any time in the future
659029
Sex was "more and better" after marriage. But then, there came the kids. We obviously couldn't have sex as often when the kids were young. They required too much attention and at all hours of the night. Now, the children are older, and we have a little more time to ourselves. Both of us work, but we often actually schedule time for our lovemaking because we enjoy it so much. After all these years of marriage, we are still finding new ways to please each other, and different methods of enhancing the acts that we already enjoy. The sex is definitely better. Not as frequent, but better. I'd love to have sex with her everyday like before we were married or before we had kids. However, the anticipation adds to the excitement.