Scenario:  You & him (or her) experience this tantalizing sexual tension whenever you two are around each other.  You might be friends, have mutual friends, work together, etc.\n\nYou are ready to close the deal and make him (or her) your booty call buddy BUT you have to know 100% for sure that he (or she) is HIV negative AND don't have any STD's (or STD’s you prefer not have).\n\nHow do you approach him (or her) to take an HIV test and STD screening with you at the same clinic so both of you can be sure y'all are in the clear?\n\nWould you demand this from a one-night stand? (Of course it ruins the fun but eh).
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I dont know for sure if you could get the other person to do this but my best advice is to not do it at all if you need to be completely sure. If you must do it though you could be sure to use a condom, and birth control if you are on it. But hey if you think you gotta be totally sure just come out and ask it means that you care about your body and you have respect for yourself and your partner but I guess that it would not hurt to ask.
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Registered Nurse here; I must agree with you, however this is not the laws on sexually transmitted disease that governor our state.  Now keep in mind, HIV/AIDS, is a death sentence, however the law is on the side of the individual with the disease.  Trust is a wonderful thing, but in this day and age, I believe casual sex is not a healthy choice.  For many people do lie about there sexually history, especially if it involves an STD.  The only thing to make sure is you and your potential partner get tested prior to taking that step.  Hopefully if your both willing to get tested, it's not a one night stand and your relationship has potential.  If you don't heed this advice, make sure condoms are used.  Will not prevent STD's, but decreases your chances of contacting one.  Thanks for the opportunity to address this question.
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I see a lot of different answers, some a common theme.\n\nHIV is caught primarily through the blood of an infected person with the HIV virus going directly into the bloodstream of a person who is not infected. Therefore, oral sex.... minimal risk. I say minimal because the virus is destroyed if it goes into the stomach however if there are open cuts/sores/ulcers in the mouth and there is blood contact, there is a small chance. SMALL.\n\nRegarding the condom breaking - again there needs to be direct fluid transfer into the bloodstream. Depending on how rough the sex is, there could be abrasions/ raw areas in either the vagina or anal area that may act as a transmission area. \n\nAll the transmission rates are dependent on the person who has HIV though. If their viral load ( the amount of virus in their bloodstream) is low... then again, risk is SMALL. Note please that I do not use the words... NO RISK
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why have unprotected sex with someone you don't trust? you would need to prove you didn't have an infection before relations with that person, or it could be you put them at risk too
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Hmmm... if they actually have sex (physical) with strangers met on the internet, I would say get tested for every sexually transmitted disease and get the heck outta Dodge cowboy!
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Of course, there is no way to know if a new partner has a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Asking him is the most direct way to find out; however, he may not know himself, as he may not have noticed symptoms or even have them. \n\nAccording to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for HIV, STD, and TB Prevention, there have been a few cases of HIV transmission from performing oral sex on a person infected with HIV. According to the CDC, no one knows exactly what the degree of risk is, but it is believed to be less than that of unprotected anal or vaginal sex. Of course, the risk (at least statistically speaking) goes up if the recipient of oral sex has a known infection. \n\nRich Aranow, MD, staff physician at the Warmline, the National Clinicians' HIV Telephone Consultation Service, says general medical opinion holds that oral sex is considered an inefficient method of transmitting HIV. \n\nThe risk of oral transmission of HIV appears to be low for single acts of oral sex, according to Emory University researchers who have reviewed studies. "Experience with oral transmission alone as a cause is still too small to be able to come up with an estimate,'' says Richard Rothenberg, MD, one of the Emory researchers. \n\nNevertheless, any chance of being infected may be too high for some people. Furthermore, according to two reviews published in the February and April 1998 issues of the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections, oral sex can also be a route of transmission for other sexually transmitted diseases. \n\nTherefore, if you're in a monogamous (single-partner) relationship, have both tested HIV negative for a sufficiently long period for the virus to have shown up, and neither of you has been diagnosed with another STD, it's relatively safe to swallow semen. \n\nIf not, you have some personal decisions to make. You might decide to use condoms consistently and correctly every time you have vaginal and anal intercourse and not worry about using them during oral sex, because the risk of transmission is lower with oral sex. Or you might want to use condoms for oral sex as well. \n\nResearch by the CDC has shown the effectiveness of latex condoms in preventing the transmission of HIV and other STDs. Condoms greatly reduce the risk of both bacterial and viral transmission during any type of sex if your partner is infected. \n\nSTD
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craigs list. just be careful. There are a lot of freaks out there in general. A few things to keep in mind when looking for casual sex like that. ALWAYS PLAY SAFE. People will tell you they're HIV-. Even if they just got tested, that only tells you what was going on 3 months earlier, not since. Also, never give anyone personal contact information, without meeting up with them in a public place to check them out first. It's also a good idea to set up a safe call. That means telling someone that you trust, what you're up to, and agreeing to call them at a certain time to make sure everything is going ok. You can even set up a question for them to ask you, that only the two of you would know the right answer to. If you answer it wrong, they know that you need help. Casual sex is a choice, and can be great. But it is what it is. Care enough about yourself enough to be safe and careful. And oh yeah, HAVE A BLAST!
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i'm smart enough not to use condom if my partner & I are both: hiv tested neg, & tested free of any other yucky STDs & are married/exclusive to 1 another
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You never know who has AIDS or some other STD's, so the best thing to do is to use condoms. NEVER have unprotected sex!! Even if the person is young or looks healthy. Be careful!
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YES!!! I know a couple myself. Guys who do this are called "Down Low" guys. I would strongly urge you to warn your friends about  how rampant Aids and HiV are in this community. You guys may never know the full truth... but tell your friend to protect her heart and let him GO.
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Damn, my man. Like you said, kudos to her for being honest enough to say something, but at the end of the day you gotta get away! If she said she has AIDS, would you be like 'well she told me the truth, I respect her honesty, so I'm going to stay with her'? Hell no!! My Aunt and Uncle had Hep, it damaged thier liver and they eventually died from health complications. No good. \n\nBest wishes, I know thats gotta be a difficult decision to have.
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get tested immediately- know that you could have had it way before him. Symptoms aren't obvious and they don't always show.  I have heard that 80% of women carry the virus nowadays, so there is no  way to track it to one partner.  Protect yourself!
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if you do not have any open cuts or sores you cannot contract HIV from him just by getting blood on your finger. i know it's scary but you'll be ok, get tested though just for piece of mind. hope that helps :)
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hey, it not just the babies that you need to worry about, you have those diseases that can kill you. You tell him to wear a condom or leave you alone.\n\nIf you want to have unprotected sex then you have him go to the dr and get tested for every STD known to man. Then have him prove he hasn't been with anyone between the time he took the test and when you are ready to spread your legs.
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First things first, get tested for any and all STD's. Make sure that you use protected sex until you get those results! If you test positive for the same STD then the damage is done, get treatment and decide what to do. If you test negative for the STD you may want to rethink your relationship with this man but if you decide to stay with him make sure you use protection every time!
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Don't listed to Lita, you can't get HIV from touching someone!  If you used protection it is unlikely that you would get HIV.  I would get tested for everything just to be safe.  If it comes back negative, get tested again in 6 months because sometimes the virus takes time to show up.    Be careful and make sure that you use protection every time!
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Anal sex  still has the highest probability of transmitting aids and your chances are 100% if you  have this type of sex with an infected partner.  Vaginal sex would come in second and is also a one shot deal if your are engaging in the behavior unprotected with an infected partner.  Oral sex is not much better.  Just be careful who you choose to share your body with and don't be afraid to require they get tested for HIV and show you proof before you engage in any type of sexual act.  A partner who is put offf by that kind of request in this day and age is not a partner you should want to be with in the first place.