LOL... I just asked a question to see if i should try to work things out w/ my ex and not one person told me to so obviously I need to get the hell out of that situation... SO... what things can I do to avoid calling my ex... and not sit home and think about him all the time b/c I know if i don't keep my mind off of him I'm just going to sit at home and cry. What's the best way to get over him?
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you gotta get back to doing the things you love to do...get your own interests back. by doing that, you will be doing something you like to do and something that takes your mind off him....
131592
i think you are playing games with your own mind. honestly, not to sound sarcastic. but in my eyes you are really overanalyzing the whole situation. just breathe, stretch, shake and let it go. relax. if he calls, he calls, if not then oh well. act on your feelings. do what feels right to you-----not what you think he'll most likely respond to.
340647
find another guy! cut him off completely.. thats the best way to get over someone. and also finding other guys to keep your mind off him. but dont talk to him. or feelings will just come back. CUT HIM OFF!
362711
just stay away from him, he is an ex for a reason, just give him (and yourself) time to get over the relationship and move on.\nThere could be a hidden agenda but dont bother with it.
238851
I know how you feel,the urge of reaching out and dialing his number drives you insane..remember one thing the one you love will never make you cry...i am sure since your break up you must have cried your eyes out...so girl my adivice is to move on think that it was his loss..find some new acitivity for yourself where you would be able to meet new people..being around new people this time really helps in getting over someone....wish you all the best
553705
i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do.  don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.
70248
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this other guy, I think you need to let your ex go and forget about anything that might take you back to him. You are not being fair to either guy by running to the other when you have problems. Instead, get on yahoo answers to help solve your problems...lol! just kidding. But seriously, you need to move on with this new guy. You might feel things for your ex and that is natural because you have a past together...but it's just that, a past. Time to look to the future and move on. Good luck!
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well I know how u feel, coz I just got out of 3 years relationship, 6 months ago. He's still in my head, and I think about him sometimes. I tried to date but it doesn't work out, coz I'm not over my ex completely. Here's some suggestion, forget about your ex and move on. But if you can't then don't rush hooking up with some other guy coz it's not fair for ur new guy. Good luck sweetie!
620888
I'm not sure how long ago the two of you broke up, or what caused it, but the main thing you need is time. Allow yourself time to get over the break up, to get your life back on track without him. You cant just shrug your shoulders and turn around and forget about him, he has been half your life for more then 3 years. So don't lock yourself up in the house surrounded with his pictures mourning, but don't loose yourself in going out and partying each night either. take it easy. See friends, do fun things,a nd take time to be alone and cry if you need to. You feel whats best for you at the moment. And you know what? One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready to move on. Good luck!
51257
girl it is hard. i have been there. the only thing is to stay busy and try not to think about it. it takes time and it will ease with time. after almost 9 years i still think about my ex every once in awhile even tho i am with the man of my dreams now. you will do it. dont let him make you miserable. if so then he wins. go find something to do and focus on it. wish you the best.
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Knowing that you just hung up on him, wait until tomorrow or the next day, just to calm your nerves.  Find out if y'all can meet somewhere and discuss the problem.  But if chooses to remain stubborn, do others things to take your mind off of him.  It may take some time, but it can be accomplished.  I was in a situation similar to yours.  Don't waste your time thinking about someone who doesn't respect your wishes.
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Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
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I am also going through a break up right now. My BF of 4.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I was happy with him and he was happy with me, but he didn't know what he wanted out of life, blah, blah, blah. He still loves me and I still love him, so I have hope that we will get back together, but I'm not holding my breath.\n\nI too went through the depressed stage. I found that writing in a journal about how I felt helped alot. It let me get my feelings out without being overly emotional in front of other people. \n\nI am now in the angry stage, where I'm just so mad at him for doing this to me. \n\nI've heard that grief has many stages. My advice to you is to not make contact with him. If he calls don't answer and maybe wait a couple of hours to call him back. Make him think that you don't care.\n\nI wish you the best of luck.\n\n(((((HUGS)))))
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Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!
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If you have feelings for him, and talking to him is hard because you get emotional, then you should stop talking to him (unless you both want to start back into a relationship - but because you broke up already, I'm guessing that's not the case.)\n\nYou sound like you need to widen your circle of friends.  Get out there! Keep yourself busy! Volounteer, play sports, take up a hobby with some friends, go to bars and make friends, go bowling, whatever!  The more friends you have, the more stuff you'll have to do, and the less time you'll have to dwell on / contact your ex.
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When I got deployed I was lonely and called my x whom I broke up with cause she treated me bad. When I returned I realized I just needed a security blanket to get me through till I was in a familuar place again. Your his security blanket. He will be great till he gets back in his groove, then you'll be on the back burner again. Go for the other guy.