This guy I have been fooling around at work.Has an "Girl" friend. He tells me that they are just friends.But wait, this chicken head is always commenting on if they were together she would make him tremble.( HOE PLEASE, I THNK THAT ALOT) She always around him. Making those funky as remarks.I want to put my foot in her a*s*s,but I dont want to piss him off either.Every night we spend "time" together.Doing that thing we do best.But the other night she stood around here for THREE HOUR following him around like an puppy. So he had to go home to his other situation.Which we are both in. He called five minute after they left and told me he had told her to go home like an dozen time but she stayed.What should I do.Believe me I have nothing to be jealous about. Because know I have rock his world. My lips alone have got this man going crazy. But I just dont want her around.If the b*i*t*c*h was finer I would invite her in. But she loud rude and looks like an dude.HELP
217582
tell her to go away that he wants you
463096
Weeell, i've been there before. it upset me a lot because he didn't just "look", he gave "several glances" to "several girls" "several times" whenever we were out.no matter what anyone says, its awful.its also absolutely rude to you.i'll guess, not only were you jealous, you felt insulted.the thing i worried most about was, if the girl and other people noticed what he was doing,they'd ask themselves why and check me out, too.maybe even feel sorry for me.i didn't like that thought one bit.i'll tell you what, there are men who are real gentlemen who wouldn't do that.if you're he's girl, he should give you undivided attention, have eyes only for you when you're together.that's what he'd also want from you.no, its absolutely normal that you're upset.i think its just really rude what he's doing.you wouldn't want to be rude enought to check other guys out infront of him, would you?although he does deserve an equal dose of his own medicine.honey, if you're beginning to feel insecure all the time, its not always because there's something wrong with you, although you can help yourself and do something about it.but most likely there is something he's doing to cause it
314262
Yes, I agree with the fact that it's his responsiblity to tell her himself, that is was inappropriate, late at night, and disrespectful to you. He needs to confront her, tell her these things, and also, he should actually agree with how you feel about it, because it should just be you that's upset. He should feel discusted with her, as well. That chick needs her own damn boyfriend or husband, and needs to stop messing with yours!
549686
i mean no offence but your friend sounds like shes acting like a door mat - and her partner is treating her that way - and things wont change until she changes! she has to lay down some ground rules - something along the lines of - he has to phone her to let her know where he is if hes going to be late, he should be home most nights within a reasonable time after work- and others - she should know whats fair!\nat the min this doesnt sound like a relationship - it sounds like a convenience for her partner- he can do anything and get away with it - if he wont agree to some reasonable rules on when he should be home etc then there are two options - one leave him and find someone else(painful but only for a short while) or stay with him - lose your self respect and set yourself up for a lifetime of pain and dissapointment!\nI hope things work out for your friend!xxx
287208
It's hard to say why she's doing this.  She obviously has some problems, but so does the guy.  If he has been told about her, and refuses to believe it you should just wash your hands of both of them.  There's nothing you can do.
268112
Oh Jeeze...This is an obvious mis-communication in languages from man-speak to woman-speak.  You said,"What's wrong?" and he said "Nothing," but you already had it in your mind that there was something wrong, so you persisted.  YOU ARE NAGGING HIM.  Now he has something wrong - you.  Leave him alone, and let him have his space.  He'll call you later (it's been less than 1 day - you'll be fine).  Sorry to sound so rude, but I've had this too many times.  I would end up argueing because nothing is wrong, and I have to think of something to be wrong when she insists on an answer, when I'm really just tired/moody/blah.
229739
DRAMA CENTRAL! for starters you know your man the best, you need to be honest & ask yourself is he genuine!!?! I dont quite understand why they play around but if the word is she is not trusworthy then you deserve better friends! There was no reason why this could not be resolved at once why go around telling every1 except you. \nHIT the back????????plssssss! your man should not have done that PERIOD! ,dont matter if ur les friend got the wrong idea or not but the intentions were not in respect for you.\nIf i was you i think twice about what i need from this man & what role can he play in your life for the future.
104154
Im telling you I hate it when this happens!  SOME guys are just soooooo persistent!  I use to bartend and I had one guy who came in every single day just to see if I had kicked my hubby out yet!  He would call the bar and he's send me presents, and tip very very well.  Im really bad at hurting peoples feelings.  I HATE being mean!  cannot help it!  Finally I just had to tell him- ok- here we go- tell him u r lesbian!  lol  Ok maybe not!  lol  I would just tell him- sorry- Im not interested.  Then just kinda avoid him at all costs!!!!  I really do feel for u!  Good luck friend!
20957
Why can't you allow your boyfriend to have female friends?  Why are you so insecure?  I have female friends and I have been happily married for several years.  I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone so insecure that they would force me to choose my friends based solely on if they have a penis or not.  What's up with you?  Do you sleep with every guy you know?  If not, cut some slack.  On the other hand if you can't trust your boyfriend based on his behavior that is a different story.  Remember you don't have to trust everyone who enters his life, you just have to trust him.  Now here is a heads up for how guys think.  If my wife is even slightly jealous of a female, I love it.  It's just another way for her to say "I love you".  Of course she trusts me and I have never given her reason not to.  Stop nagging and start bragging.  Tell me I'm a saint and a king and I might believe you and act like one.  Tell me I'm a dog and a snake, and who knows?
373038
I wouldn't be his back up. That is what it sounds like. He keeps her incase you 2 dont work. I duno whats wrong with him. He sounds like a catch. Not. I feel bad for you. What an ass.
264261
You sound like a very loving person. It sounds like you have a wonderful friendship with your friend. And I think that the basis of friendship is honesty. \nI think you should consider telling the guy, when he calls, to be honest with his girl. Convince him to tell her how he feels. He sounds like he isn't as honest to his girl"friend" as you are. \nIf he isn't very cooperative at being honest and continues the discrete behavior, ask your friend in a round about way like:\n"Hey, there is something I think you should know but I am pretty sure it will upset you. Do you want me to tell you?"\n\nShe will say yes, and if so proceed slowly no need to get it all out right away, ease her into it with something like:\n"Ok, I'm not sure his intentions or if he has even told you about it... I hope he has but it feels like hes being discrete about it which is why I think you should know..." etc etc\n\nDon't forget to reassure her that you value your friendship and that you truly hoped the sexual playtime would help her relationship but that you don't want to feel that the encounter is part of some hidden agenda.\n\nAsk her how she wants you to handle future encounters with him, her, and them. She may want you in the relationship, she may want him out. The most important thing is being honest upfront to avoid any misunderstandings. \n\nSame thing with him, if you value his company treat him the same way, honestly. \nIf he is being pushy, ask him questions... this slows guys down and makes them thing more about the conversation and its potential for direction rather than the goal(i.e. "getting" the girl) and read his responses. \nDishonest people are easy to read because it feels dishonest.\nAnd don't forget that you can cross reference everything said by either of them with the significant other for even more insight into who's telling what to whom.\n\nIf your lucky everything will workout and they will love you for being a very big help, a very loving friend, and an honest person. \nIf not hopefully you can salvage 1 of the relationships be that theirs, you & hers, or you and his. \nDon't forget to be honest to yourself too, Ask yourself what scenerio you would like the most. Then tell them about it. Honesty has power unlimited when used properly.
526188
are you friends with her? if so, then maybe you could hang out one day, just you two, and tell her you enjoy her friendship and dont want to ruin that, but you feel like she is a wonderful person and deserves much more than the guy can give her. see how she reacts and then maybe you could let her know, that if she ever needs someone you will be there. but just so you know... if you are friends, this could ruin it. but the guy sounds like a dick so SOMEONE needs to say something.
136492
Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
93374
Keep being cautious!  You can still hang out with him and see how he handles being around other women.  If you notice he is a major flirt, know that his behavior is a reg flag of possible playeritus.  If your friends are saying those things about him, ask them how they know that he messes around with lots of other girls.  Maybe one of your friends has had a personal experience with the guy that justifies their warnings to you.   A good way to find out more about his behavior is to ask his (guy) friends about his dating history.  If he jumps from one girl to another as easy as frogs can jump from lily pad to lily pad, there's another red flag for you.  I'm glad he hasn't tried to pull the screwing trick on you--but always be ready that he could do that to you when you least expect it (particularly if alcohol or the likes are involved).  Well, good luck!
274857
SLAP HIM!!! us guys have no right to do that. Even if i think a chick looks nasty as hell i dont say it. That is rude. wheres he live ill teach him manners, and scare him to death. Someone should kick his ass. Sorry for the laungage.\nJake s
664408
dude i am a jeolous guy, just to let you know before i answer.  \ni would be fucking pissed that she is doing that you have every right to be jeolous, i would beat his ass, but talk to them BOTH first then beat his ass, works for me!
141991
Yes. It's time to wake up. She obviously is still hung up on this guy. Why else did you go to the club he was playing at? I'm ashamed to say "been there, done that", although I did not drag some poor guy along to watch! Leave her to yearn for the guy who treated her so badly and find a lady who is free to be with a nice guy like you.