Please donate $$ so she can stay!! We are on Long Island & it is very expensive to live here.  If she sells her house she will have to move off long island & away from me.  She is my best friend.  I am trying to raise $350,000 to put her mind at ease.  Help & dnate $$$$ now!!
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Sorry - my two jobs pay only in pounds and pence. I don't get paid in dollars so can't help
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dang!!! maybe ask your mother for some money!!
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There has to be more to the story than you are stating! Tell us more or you will not get good enough answers to help you. SHE had to sign legal documents and have them explained to her and in most states after a refinance you have 3 days to rescind!
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She can't legally hold your belongings, but it sounds like you owe her money even if nothing was in your name.  Pay up and be a grown up and then get your crap outta there.
199440
Well you seem to be going through alot! I am sorry! I will be praying for you and your friend! I wish I had all the answers -but I don't! Off course you want to help her- she is your friend- but it sounds like she needs help you can't give her! You need to decide do you want live with her! Can you deal with all the drama? Really search yourself- because she is going to need support and a lot of help! I wish you the best! You sound like a really good friend- when she will let you be her friend! A word -- never cheat! No matter what a person says to you! Just not a good plan! You take care- if you like to talk- http://360.yahoo.com/cloeenloe
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Tough one...BUT maybe you should try to get two smaller houses or even two apartments in good areas? That way you and your family would be in a good neighborhood but also you'd be able to help your mother.. because if you buy a house for your family only, no matter how good the neighborhood is you would always feel guilty for not helping your mom too... So, talk and figure out a way to help both of you! There has to be a solution. Maybe it would be smaller but in the end you would be happy.
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Mickey do what you can to protect your finances and let her go.  If she is going to leave because the house isn't perfect she isn't worth it
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wow-i can relate having moved in w/friends a month ago after leaving my husband. be honest and upfront. sit her down w/your facts written out in front of you.\n\nHave a time-line for you to leave if she cannot pay her share. If she's in over her head - offer to help her find subsidized housing/sell her place etc.\n\nIt's awful to lose good friends over money, honesty is the best policy before you and your other half resent her or worse. Good luck and Happy New Years, Pat
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Show her that you can be trusted by offering support and guidance, if she is able to co-sign I guess she cant be all that bad with money as she must have a decent credit rating.  Perhaps its more she has a carers instinct and wants to look after people.  Obviously she needs legal help to get out of the notes and perhaps some professional emotional help too.  Just remember to look after your own heart in all this, something we too often neglect.
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If htey gave you the house and you are paying the notes, do you have a ocntract with them?  Has it been transferred to your name?  These are things you need to check out.  Sounds like they still own the house, and if so I would take my 842.00 and go elsewhere to live or have to put up with controlling in-laws and a nosey sister-in-law.
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Find another room for the same price you are paying now.  I am sure something is available that suits you if you really look hard enough.  SHe is a weird freak!!!!!!
540242
Donate some of it to help Preston pay for a surgery that will cure his hand tremors. Give Meredith a quarter so she can call someone who cares about her endless "love" problems. Haha. And then I think you should take a nice trip; go somewhere and relax. Go to Hawaii or someplace like that. Invest half of the rest of the money and put the other half in a savings account. :)
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For now, all I think that you can do is RENT the HOUSE. At least rent it out for the mortgage payment. Call the Real Estate Agent,and tell him. See what your "contract" allows. There are some Real Estate Companies that offer to buy the house if they can't sell it in 3-months! At least we have that in Canada. Make sure that when things settle down, that you take legal action against your EX - in Civil Court. There are many Lawyers that will take your case, and not Charge you until the end result! Look into that. I am so sorry about what happened to your little girl. Are you getting some help for her? I hope so. I bet your kicking yourself, once again I tell young people, to go slow, in relationships, especially where there are children involved. One Never Knows. Possibly, you could speak to your bank and see about "bridge financing" - if you qualify, the Mortgage would be paid, through Bridge Financing, and when the House is sold, the Mortgage Company gets their money first. The Lawyer, who closed, all costs, and the leftovers (if there is any) go to you. That is about  as much as I know you could try. Good Luck, and God Keep you and your Children SAFE. Maybe I am the first, Merry Christmas, and a Happy and Prosperous New Year.
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YES they will. Their reasoning is that the money is there for her use if she wants. It doesn't matter where it came from. (at least that's how they think). Her best bet is to call them and make a payment arrangement. It will cost her $50.00 to get started but then they will accept small payments. (for the rest of time)
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Would she be receptive to a heart to heart talk?  Try sitting down with her and talking about her plans for the future.  Maybe she's afraid to move back out on her own.  Can she afford to now with her present job?  Ask if she would like your help looking for a new place.  Maybe you could ask her to pay some rent to you--and then come to the conclusion that if she's paying rent she may as well have her own place.  Good luck to you!
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Call Family Independent Living, It should be listed under Social Services or State Angencies or whatever this Administration is calling it. They can tell you if she qualifies for free counciling which i assume she would. Hang in there Grandma, she needs you more than ever now.
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You poor thing this must be really hurtng.  If I were you the next time a problem presents itself I would not offer to help no matter how hard it is don't bail her out and make a point of saying "Oh I'm sorry but I really cant help you out at the moment I'm a little strapped myself this month" and see how she reacts to you.  If she gracefully tells you not to worry that it isn't your problem and she dosen't treat you any differently after your refusal then you'll know it isn't the money she's after but if she becomes cold and distant when you don't hand out to her then I'd seriously consider getting out of there while you still have both some pride and a bank balance.  Good Luck.