I found out  my  husban puts  his family first not me.He reads the  Bible  but dont live it.His church  has not been  kind to me.And has made me  feel  un welcome.He and his sister  stick together and attack me.He  runs  up the  bills  anD  attacks me  for  them  says  i should get a second job.IF  i had the moneys  to leave i would but i have poured mt life savings in a house, what  would you do if you confronted  him over  this and nothing  has changed? Please if your not a christian do not answer.And I have prayed.
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The behavior of your husband and his family is very un-Christian-like behavior. They should be welcoming you with open arms. It sounds like you wonder why he even married you. Don't stop praying. As with any difficult situation, prayer and God can get you through. I don't know how I would have survived some of the heartbreaks I've faced in 52 years without prayer and God.\n\nIt sounds as if you feel ganged-up-on by his family and his church. Family is one thing, and bad enough for them to treat you poorly, but for his church to do the same is unconscionable.\n\nWhat I would do is to seek the advice of an attorney. Then you'll have the information you need in making the decision to stay or go. You have to balance your emotional and mental health with the money you've put into the house. Which is more important?\n\nI'm so sorry that you are so miserable in this marriage. I pray you'll continue to seek God's perfect will for you. That He will guide and comfort you. Bless you, my dear.
102924
very strange. it sounds like he hasnt come to terms with something in his life yet. pray for him and incourage him to check out different church groups.
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Don't listen to that dumb guy's comment up there... I'm a christian, too, and my mom is also.. She got a divorce from my stepdad and is now dating. People don't realize that in the new testament, God said His blood washes away your sins and you are forgiven.. You got married to a man that wasn't for you, then you became a christian and asked him for forgiveness I hope, so now you can correct the mistake you made by having a divorce from someone who is from your old life, know what I mean?? You shouldn't take abuse from your husband and it's time to begin your new life now. Talk to the guy you love and let him know this... Bless you and good luck..
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I too faced a similar situation where bad things happened at my "old church" and I ended up leaving it. At the time I was immiture in my walk and I ended up turning away from God for a period of time. That was the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. What I should have done was seek him more than ever before. \n\nAt that time I felt like I was going against God becasue I didn't agree with what was going on at the church. This couldn't have been farther from the truth. The truth is we live in a fallen world and people do make mistakes. Even those we look up to and count on are not perfect. They too can dissapoint us. What happened at your church was very wrong. If you want to stay that's fine, but if you feel lead to leave, that is perfectly fine too. As you pray about it God will speak to your heart. Don't be afraid to listen to him. The important thing to remember is that people are people and God is God. People make mistakes but that doesn't change who God is. He is still perfect. He still loves you like crazy. And He never changes. No matter what is going on around you or how you feel, God is still the same.\n\nRight now you are going through a time of testing in your walk with God. You're right if you want to leave your old church, and if you continue to trust God He will lead you to another, the right one where He wants you to be. However you don't know yet because before He does He's allowing you to go through this time of testing. Will you trust God still even though you don't have an answer yet?\n\nRemember God promises "I will never leave you or forsake you" ((Heb 13:5)\n\nRight now I'm reading a book called The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I highly recommend you check it out during this time in your life. It is changing my life. It's a popular book you can get at Wal-Mart or any bookstore Christian or otherwise.\n\nDay 14 is titled "When God Seems Distant." Here are a few quotes I highlighted as I read it. They might help you out.\n\n"God is real no matter how you feel."\n\n"The deepest level of worship is praising God in spite of pain, thanking God during a trial, trusting him when tempted, surrendering while suffering, and loving him when he seems distant."\n\n"But often this feeling of abandonment or estrangement has nothing to do with sin. It is a test of faith - one we all must face: Will you continue to love, trust, obey, and worship God, even when you have no sense of his presence or visible evidence of his work in your life?"\n\n"God ios always present, even when you are unaware of him, and his presence is too profound to measure by mere emotion. Yes, he wants you to sense his presence, but he's more concerned that you trust him than that you feel him. Faith, not feelings pleases God."\n\n"Tell God exactly how you feel. Pour out your heart to God. Unload every emotion that you're feeling...God can handle your doubt, anger, fear, grief, confusion, and questions."\n\n"Never dubt in the dark what God told you in the light."\n\n"Trust God to keep his promises. During times of spiritual dryness you must patiently rely on the promises of God, not your emotions, and realize that he is taking you to a deeper level of maturity...so don't be troubled by trouble. Circumstances cannot change the character of God."\n\n"When you feel abandoned by God yet continue to trust him in spite of your feelings, you worship him in the deepest way." \n\nHope this helps. Just never forget that God will never leave you and He will get you through this time. You will come out of it stronger in Him than ever.\n\nMany blessings!
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Love him and pray for him. But there are times you will have to leave him and move on and trust the lord to take care of him and place him in his hands.God is able to do all things.We can not depend on our self to get the job done.The Lord cares even more than we do. So I would just sort of speak, cast your care on the Lord. Or he will bring you down also. Love in Christ.
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My sister, all fall short of the golry of God, you, me and everyone else! King David new the Commandments yet still he let his fleshly desires send his friend to be killed so David could have his friends wife! And David was called by God "A man after God's own heart.". Jesus miracle on the cross has covered you from these things, and you are right to grieve and be sorry because God loves the penitent(or humble) person! You've done wrong yet so did all the Apostles at one time or another so take heart my sister, for God hasn't abandoned you! I will pray for you and hope that you will do the same for me, and God bless you and have faith!
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What were they thinking? You have a brother. How cool is that? What to do from here? I would ask your sisters why they didn't tell you. Don't be too quick to be pissed yet. There may be a reason. I can't think of any but give them a chance. Have they been good sisters in the past or have they always left you out? Take your time and get your ducks in a row. It would be great to find out he is a real nice guy that anyone would love to have as a brother. You don't have to hurry or rush to judgment. I sure hope things work out. Good Luck.
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well, I was a bible thumping christian for 23 years-old. Then one day I woke up and realized that all Christian's do is judge and say how everyone is going to hell if they don't believe in GOD.  Who gives them the right to say that.  I also realized that you can't force others to believe in what you  believe in.  I was always being asked by fellow church members on why I didn't have a visitor at church or why I wasn't persistent on sharing my faith with others.  I just got tired of it and left.  No one should tell you how your relationship  with god should be like, even if it's not to their standards.   I also realized that the money I thought I was giving to god wasn't going towards his work it was going into the pastors pocket, There were single mothers in our church who could barely feed there families and the pastor has five kids and a two story house and he is able to write off food and bills when it comes to taxes, cause the Church pays for it.  Yeah the CHURCH me and my money pay him so he can live like a king.  so F***religion.  I couldn't be happier with out it.
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This was a little hard to follow, though I think I understand what is going on. There is obviously some bitterness going on; otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to insult this person. Show them I Corinthians 13, where it gives the characteristics of Christian love. And Philippians 4, where it speaks of thinking on "whatever is true, pure, right..." You shouldn't have to say much, the Holy Spirit will. Much prayer for wisdom on your part is necessary. James 1:8 says if we ask for wisdom, God will give it to us. Lastly, don't accuse them. Just tell them kindly that you felt that it may not be loving of them to do these things. Hope it goes well!
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Pray, and ask Him to show Himself real to you and your heart.  That is ok to do, you know!  He loves you enough to show the truth, and will lead you to peace.  I have asked Him to prove Himself mighty for my family in many tough situations, and He has never left me one doubt that He is in control, and loves me and my family.  He is as real as me or you, and all you have to do is love Him, accept Jesus into your heart, and ask forgiveness.  Blessings!!
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I have no problem with non-believers here.  I am not insulted by your presence; in fact, this may be the perfect setting for you.  I pray that God would speak to you in some way that you would believe in Him.  True Christians do not condemn others, however, love them and avoid saying hurtful things. However, I will not refrain from expressing how I feel about my personal relationship with God and how He has carried me through many difficult times.
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I think it is horrible that people of any faith would post such nasty comments. I am a believer in God, but do not call myself a Christian. I have had bad experiences with them like yours. These people are not being very good Christians as they are going against a lot of what the bible teaches, ie tolerance and not judging others. You should ignore these people and keep asking questions. It is how we learn and understand.
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It is obvious that the seeds sown in your spirit by the catholic church are not as easy to get rid of as you supposed. I am amazed that for someone who does not believe in God,he takes a great proportion of your thought and your writings. I personally think you should change your stance to, God if you exist please reveal yourself to me or help me discover if you are real. Seekers of God always find him. I checked your questions over fifty percent are about God to spend that much time on someone you don't believe in is to have a pretty miserable life. Please do not take this as an attack if I hate someone I defintely want to stay away from them or the thought of them as much as possible. Wake up please leave God alone and truly move one with you life if it is possible to have one without God.
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Don't worry, about sin. God isn't one to get offended and throw you in to hell because it doesn't exist.  So just try to work on the communication thing. Sometimes family can be irritating, but you have an obligation to at least try to be nice to them.
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if house in both your names you can't do it.  sell the house pay of bills and move 0n with your life.  The father does not want us to be miserable.  have you sought his guidance?  anoint yourself with oil and go on a fast.  He will and does answer prayers.   GOB BLESS YOU
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Bless you!\nIt sounds like your in a tough situation, and all you can do is pray to God for guidance.I will pray for you too.\n\nIf he was a 'true beleiver' at one point, and if he did accept Christ back then, than he might be a little lost at the moment.I beleive that once you are saved, you are always saved.\n\n"And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand."\n(John 10:28)\n\nIt is true that we can become lost, and he may be lost. Pray for him to return to the Lord Jesus Christ. I can totally relate to you. I am in a relationship with a saved Christian, who I feel is 'falling' out of his strong relationship with Jesus. I pray for him. Thats all you can do. You have to keep in mind that God wants you to be happy, and I dont think God wants you to be chasing this guy forever, if it just means your going to be unhappy. You can pray forever, but ultimately, the decision is his. You can be a Christian, and not live a fruitful Christian life.\nIf he decides that he wants to live a sinful life again, it may be better that you are not part of it.\n\nTruthfully, it sounds like this guy isnt for you, at least at this point in your lives. It sounds like if he feels like you were 'ruening his life' that he's being selfish, and only thinks about himself and his far fetched dreams. Dreams are important, dont get me wrong, but blaming someone for 'ruening your life' over nothing, is immiture. People change, and sometimes you have to accept that. Open your heart to the Lord, pray, and listen to what God has to say. Read your bible. Sometimes, the answer, will reveal itself to you. \nThe Lord will speak to you in the way that you will best understand. Sometimes, it could be through a thought, a verse in the bible, even advice on the internet, a sign on a park bench, a hymn, a psalm, advice from a counceller or a pastor or a trusted friend. \n\nYou could also try listening to some Christian music, that will inspire you and fill you with the Holy Spirit. I recomend "Holy is the Lord" By  Chris Tomlin If you dont have it contact me, if you have MSN, I can send it to you.
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I feel your burden, this world has changed a lot in a short period of time. I am a believer in Christ, my faith is stronger as the world gets worse. You can feel the dark looming heaviness of things getting worse before getting better. I thank God for my faith. My husband is not a believer and I continue to pray for him. He is aware of the ads we see for upcoming movies, they are all so gory and evil. He is wondering as well as so many of us with what is going on in this world. I can only believe more people will receive salvation as time goes on. We live in such an obnoxious world that I don't think the rude people are laughing as hard as they used to. Just keep your eyes on Christ and everything will fall into place. God Bless to you and yours.