What do you do when you talk to a guy for about 2 months and then all of a sudden he stops calling. Then one day he gets in contact with you, and wants to be part of your life again. He says that he stopped calling because he was trying not to get attached because he always falls for someone to fast, but he couldn't get me off his mind and he missed me. Should I believe this?
214478
no but follow your heart
246226
you r absolutely right and smart to stick to your schedules. thats how you flush out the big phonies!! trsut me there you did not lose anything precious here. if he ever call again dont even bother having anymore conversation with this pervert. learn from these expereince and fell out guys like that in the future!! good going girl!!
241517
He certainly sounds interested, but not quite certain enough of what he wants (unless he is just looking to use you when it's convenient for him.)\n\nPerhaps he thought the visit that didn't work out was your way of politely trying to put him off?  If you think his intentions are honorable, you should just call him, so he knows that you are still thinking of him.  If that isn't enough to get him to invest more effort, then perhaps he's not worth the trouble.  Listen to your heart, but proceed cautiously.  Good luck!  :)
455104
I can't speak for that guy, but going from seeing you several times to stopping the calling and bailing on dates is a prime indicator that he has either gotten what he wanted out of the relationship and is done, or he is focusing his attentions towards someone else...\n\nMy recommendation would be to forget about him and move on.  I promise the next time he calls you will be to hook up for one night...\n\nSorry, but that's how most guys are...
284250
Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
196009
well it sounds to me like he may well have liked you seeing as he was calling you 2 and 3 times a week but when he seen you with this other guy he got jealous and stopped calling,id say that is it,i mean speaking from my own experience like this one that is what happened me but it turned out she liked me,what i would do is call him up,i mean just cause hes a guy doesnt mean he has to do all the running,or you could just simply ask him out,i mean lifes too short for regrets,right?? hope that helped abit!! \nGood luck
438692
If you have feelings for him then don't be a **** buddy.\n\nIf he is not contacting you then let it go.\n\nIf you want something more, let him know what you want and see if he will step up.  Of course if he is not calling you, he is giving you a pretty clear message that he is just not that into you.
406663
If he didn't leave you a number in which to contact him while away, sounds like he's up to no good....and the people he either works or socializes with have probably been covering him, so I think you will have to wait until he returns ....at which point, I'd set him down for some serious talking...good luck!
644145
would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
360804
I wouldn't worry about it, nor would I call again. You made the effort and hopefully in your message you explained how crazy the move was and told him who you were down to the very last detail. If he's interested he'll give you a call back. He could be very busy or debating on whether or not he should call you. I wouldn't call him back again for the simple fact that he might think you are stalking him so just give it some time, and if he never calls, then move on. Its not worth getting worried or upset about.
651129
Who knows what id going through his moind. One thing is for sure though. Hassling him will only push him further away if he is needing space. I know it's hard , but try not to call again. let him call you. Maybe he has just been busy. But if not, then when he wants to call you he will. If he doesn't call, then he isn't that keen and maybe wasn't worth the trouble in the first place.
432928
Seems like he's still a bit emotionally attached but not ready to jump back into a relationship. I'm not sure if this means he's in love with you still, or if he's just having trouble letting go, but either way he seems just as confused as you.\nIf I were you I'd confront him. See what his deal is, and hopefully you can work it out.
36558
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
624480
Seriously?  Quit calling him.  It's one of two situations.  Either he's super busy and will get back to you when he can or he's blowing you off.  Either way, calling him non-stop won't make the situation any better.
535699
He is getting his cake and eating it too.  He is able to get the companionship without the relationship and that is not fair!  You have to find a rebound guy.  I know this might not sound right but you need to have someone else spark your interest to get your mind off of him.  Or if he continues to contact you like he does after another month or so and he does not get another girlfriend there still might be a chance for you.  Just hang around and always be there when he calls but at some point you have to cut him off and see what his reaction is.  If he wonders as to why you are not as available anymore that may spark feelings that you are looking for or you might just have to go with the rebound guy.
472731
It depends....does he finally call and not mention it...or does he tell you why he hasn't called. I suppose some guys think this is fine and it is...if that's the way it has always been..but if this is something new I would worry..sounds like he's losing interest to me. If you don't say anything about it the days between calls will become more and the times he does it more often. If I were you I would find something else to do..turn the tables on him and let him wonder where you are. It will stop you from worrying about him , you could have some fun,. and maybe meet someone that will appreciate you...this guy sounds like he's trying to control the relationship and seeing just how far he can go........OH and also...guys do NOT always let you know when they want to break up with you...they try to piss you off til you break up with them ..they don't have the cahones...I have this on very good authority...a MAN...lol
78663
First and foremost, it is very important to not get our hopes up too fast; A few good dates do not necessarily constitute that he is the guy that you are indeed looking for.If he really were the kind of guy that you were looking for then he would definitely find the time to call you and talk to you. Do not get hung up on those type of guys because they may seem promising but in reality they are not. I would suggest you move on; regardless of what his reasons may be, fact of the matter is that he is not calling, so I think you deserve someone better, and for starters- someone more honest. Do not waste you time on those guys. Again, you deserve better.\n\nI hope it helped, Good Luck