These are usually relationships that have only been going on for 3 months or less.  And the days or nights that I'll usually ask of this are usually asked after spending 5 or 6 days/nights together in a row.  So after dating someone for only 3 months, there should be no reason to have to explain to a girl that you just want to hang out alone or with friends.
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Because the girl is insecure, my guess.  I can't really totally explain it more than that.  But she should realize that it's actually a sign of him getting more comfortable with her.  See he's realizing that his life has been out of balance becuase he's been persuing her, and is now trying to balance things out.  This is a subconsious attempt to make a workable relationship that will last. and she should realize that.\n-Duo
366387
It's been a few years since those days, but here's my advice:\n\nJust be upfront with her.  Tell her you would like to get to know her better and ask if she would like to have dinner with you on ____ night.  Tell her there are no strings attached and you just want to get to know her better.  Don't mention "date" or "girlfriend" or any of those words, just let her know that you want to talk to her more and find out who she really is.  She must have peeked your interest in those three weeks, so hopefully she'll be interested to know you too ;) good luck hun!
326594
I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
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Mine doesn't!  But I'm not arguing with you.  I had to have 8 serious relationships to meet this girl.  Going on 2.5 years.\n\nThere's lots of reasons, but it's still not okay.  Trust issues suck.  You're absolutely right that you're investing time, energy and love into her and you should deserve some trust.\n\nAnyone you date should be someone you respect and someone who respects you.  You should not make each other feel worse about yourselves.\n\nSit down, have a talk.  Make some decisions if you need to.\n\ngood luck!
528191
Your situation is one of the most interesting ones I have read so far. Sorry to tell you this, but it looks like it's mostly kinda your fault for not talking to her, I mean if you had talked to her just a little more than nothing during the 3 weeks, she might even be your girlfriend. Damnit dude, you missed a good chance right there.\nWell, nbot much you can do now, but for future refrence, when you ask out a girl to a homecoming-TALK TO HER!!!\n(you're a guy, like me you're supposed to talk to them)
659334
you already waited too long.  i don't think she meant 6 months.  plus, you don't have to ask her out.  just call her and say hi.  see if she wants to hang out sometime.  tell her how you feel.
575104
How long have you been dating first off? Is just starting 4 months? or is it more like 2 weeks because normally before I even kiss the girl I wait at least till the 3rd date, or 4th.
116622
Well it's best if you get to know someone before you decide to have a relatioship because he could be down right CRAZY! So get to know him and after say two months if he hasn't asked yet ask him for a relationship.
582188
You need time. A relationship is like a tree. When it dies you have to figure out what went wrong. Then you have to fill in the hole where the tree was, before you can plant another tree. In short, take some time to contemplate your old relationship. Where did it go right? Where did it go wrong? Only after you are whole again should you start  dating. Otherwise that girl you want to date is just a transitional relationship and that isn't fair to her.
645510
For most people, going out is a way to become acquainted. You meet, you share a meal or movie or other amusement, and see if there's compatibility to explore. Of course, there's gonna be some people who view going out as an invitation to the bedroom. It's always a good idea to just express what you expect and want from your date. When you get to your doorstep, tell your date you had a nice time and head inside if you don't want anything further to happen. If you'd like to go out again, that's a good time to say, "This was fun! Would you like to go out again next Monday?" If you want it to become more intimate, invite your date inside for a drink and conversation. After 2-3 dates, you can open the discussion about something more serious. When you both agree that you are BF/GF, then it's official, but that can't happen without conversation. Don't assume. Discuss your relationship.\n\nBest wishes,\n~Tia~
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That all depends if she or he only wants a friendship or are they looking for a steady relationship.  For example, my friend and I have been dating over 8 years and we are comfortable with that.  My friends are saying what are you waiting for. I tell them that I am not looking for a marriage.
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No don't ask him crap. Especially about that. If your already having sex with him all I can say is ''ARE YOU CRAZY?!'' Stop having sex if you are. If he still calls and wants to see you then theres a chance he likes you for more then sex. You've only been together 3 weeks. To a guy 3 weeks doesn't mean a thing. It's not like his in love with you. You need to control your feelings better and not let yourself get all tided up emotional. Guys just don't fall head over hills about a girl. They take their time. To them they have plenty of time before wanting to wear a ring or give one up.Don't wear your heart on your seleve. In other words don't let these guys know that you like them so easily and so quickly. Guys like girls better if they have their own set of friends and don't dump their firends to go out with them. They like girls that aren't high matainace. You know , where you think if they don't call like 6 times a day or something you start calling them wondering why you haven't heard from them. They are loyal to their guy friends and you should be to yours. If he doesn't call you for a month let it go. Go on like it was nothing.  Don't let dating confuse you. It's just a stepping stone to a whole new world for you. Just go with the flow and don't let things like him not calling you get to you. If he doesn't call then he doesn't call. If he go's out with his friends don't jump to conclusions that he was with another girl or flirting. Could be he was but that's none of your business and if you start getting upset over it then he''ll surely feel trapped and he'll never call you. I know it's hard to like someone and then have to watch him flirt or even see him out with someone else but until he tells you himself he wants you to be the only one for him then his going to do just what he wants no matter what you think or feel.
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I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
27254
Some people feel that they are getting too attached too quickly because they had just ended a relationship or they are afraid of a one way street commitment... in this case, I would just ask him what he thinks of the relationship.  Does he consider you guys friends or dating... sometimes you have to put the question on the table and cut out the bullcrap
354147
if u really likes her then give her some space and time. Just be her friend without  discussing about relationship yet.. Enjoy the time with her as a friend. Beside, both of u only know each other for 3 months.. She might be too scared to get hurt..\nGain more information from her friends coz girls tend to listen to her friends more than to her own feelings and the truth.
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Are you more concerned that SHE will think it's too fast and get scared or is it YOU that doesn't want her to think you're that into her just yet? If YOU are the one not ready to give her that impression, I wouldn't invite her to the concert. But, if you don't care then I don't think that a 3rd date is too soon to meet your friends. Besides, it's a concert with thousands of other people around, not a small dinner party where she might feel uncomfortable being the "new girl".
428610
a lot of people would say if you've been dating for 2 months you have a relationship, so maybe you need to define what in your mind a "relationship" is exactly.