my sister is not where i am and we where the best of friends i miss her so much but i can't forget about her i can't my parents don't listen to me i am all alone what should i do?
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WHERE IS SHE? IF SHES STILL LIVING TRY TALKING TO HER EVERYDAY AND VISITING 1'S EVERY TWO WEEKS IF POSSIBLE YOU CAN NEVER GET OVER YOUR SISTER NO MATTER WHAT
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Awwww, I feel so bad for you.  I think you send her a heartfelt email and tell her how you feel.  Although I'm pretty sure she knows this but tell her the same things you told us.  Tell her that you have no friends, you have no one to talk to, you confided in her and now she will not speak or respond to you, tell her you miss her and that she's like a big sister to you.  Tell her how much she has made a difference in your life.  I'm pretty sure this should get her attention.  Don't be rude to her, that's probably the reason why she's distanced herself from you in the first place.  My guess is that you've done it before.  Tell her that you are not giving up on her or the friendship and keep trying your best to reach her.  Be honest.  Tell her exactly how you feel.  Hopefully I was able to capture your feelings because it was obvious to me that you really care for her and really miss her.  And if that's the case, she needs to know.
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send them e-mail, letters or call them on the phone.  if they still ignoring you let them know how that makes you feel.  if that doesn't help then let them miss you , stop all contact with them.  maybe they will learn to appreciate you.\n\nin the mean time try to find a new hobby, volunteer at a hospital.  good luck, hope this help
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I think you miss your mom and one way of dealing with that is to talk to her.  Your sister cares about you, and believes that it can be dangerous trying to talk to or communicate with someone who is dead.  I agree that can be dangerous, but laying in bed and telling your mom you miss her and you love her is a way to mourn.  The danger would come if you go overboard in trying to communicate with your mom, but sharing your feelings is normal and safe.
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I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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kids are resilient.  they understand things sometimes a lot simpler than we can and just trust.  it's your decision and you should do whatever you feel most comfortable with. but keep her informed.  my dad's dad died when my dad was young, and he wasn't kept informed at all, and it hurt.  death is a part of life, and she should be exposed to that, but make sure you and other family members are there to help her understand and to just hold her when she cries.  i'm so sorry that you have to be in this situation.  it's so tough and heartwrenching to lose someone you love.  it sounds like you have family with you- hold on to them. this tragedy in your life will make you stronger (you'll see it eventually), so just make sure all of you hold on to each other.  don't be afraid to cry and break down sometimes.  your little sister will be alright.
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Shae, I am really sorry for your situation. I also read your profile and there is no reason that I can see for your sisters  attitude, and yes we do try to treat others how we would want to be treated. However we are not perfect, we make mistakes like everybody else.  I really feel that you need to let your sister know how you feel and how this is effecting you, and that you would like to have her in your life.  Sometimes writing a letter  is beneficial because it enables you to really reflect on your feelings  and express yourself more thoroughly.  Perhaps once everything is out on the table, then any differences can be resolved.
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'I know where you are coming from except my sister does not live with me.It sounds like she has some issues of her own.she could be using drugs and she really has no self esteen.All you can do is try to talk to her and be there for her when she needs you.I don't think you need to treat her in any special way. she will start to take advantage of you if you do.P.s. my sister use to 2 my best friend too.
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There's really nothing you, or your sister can do until your children turn 18.  I suggest you try to wait it out, and if all else fails, tell your sister how you feel.  Ask her to tell them where you are, so they know where to find you.  \n\nBe careful not to let them sneak out of the house they live in now though, to see you.  If you talk to them, urge them to ask their adoptive parents what they think.\n\nI'm very sorry this happend to you.  I couldn't possibly know what it was like to lose my children.  You're in my prayers.
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You may try talking to her and make her understand that you also have a life going on. And she has to learn that someday you might not be there for her and she has to learn to be more independent.
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I'm in a similar relationship with my sister.\nThe only thing you can do is love her from a distance.\nCall her with little things like, "You were on my mind" and ask her how she's doing.  AVOID anything that might start conflict.\n\nKeep the lines of communication open, but keep your business to yourself.  Helps me.\n\n=^)
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I cant even begin to imagine how you are feeling.  I know you want to follow her but would SHE want that?  I can bank that it is no.  You need to seek therapy.  You are very depressed right now.  While thats normal, you need the help to ensure you dont do anything stupid.  The pain you are going through is probably the worst you have ever felt in your life.  Take it one day at a time.  If that doesnt help, take it one minute at a time.  Talk to people.  Let them know how you are feeling just like you did here.  Never let yourself be alone right now.  But do greive her death.  Thats healthy.  You will be fine and every day it does get a little easier.  I have lost 3 kids and 3 sisters and my dad so I can relate a little.  Know that you have a friend here and you are not alone.
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Cherish, you have done all that you can do. The best thing you can now is to begin making new friends. I always tell younger people such as yourself to make as many friends in this life as possible, because you never know what around the corner. Hopefully she will wise up and be the friend to you that she was before. But don't  sit around waiting ok. Don't worry your heart will heal.
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Keep trying to communicate with your sister. everything happens for a reason whether you did or did not steal the money she should still remain in touch with  you.Remember GOD does not allow us to go through nothing that we are not capable of handling.
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People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
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Sounds all too familiar with me.  My grandmother, who basically raised me also and was also my friend and support system, passed away almost two years ago...and I still haven't let go.  I still find myself sitting and thinking and ending up in tears because I miss her so much.  It is very difficult, but you have to remind yourself that she is still with you everywhere you go, and no matter who you become.  She will always be with you because it was she who helped to shape you into who you are today...you'll never forget that.  How do you get over that?  You just deal with it day by day and it will get better.  You might also want to keep something near you that she'd given you, or something that reminds you of her...if you need to talk to her, hold it, and speak your mind.  I know it sounds stupid, but it works.  \n\nIf you do, however, feel that things are getting way out of hand, maybe you should consider therapy.  I probably should have!  :)  Just keep your head up and remember the good things...you'll be fine.  My condolences....
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i know how you feel. i have some problems with my family also... i was fourteen when my parents sent me out from china to belize. my mom had my little brother when i was ten, and i couldn't accept the fact right away, and she usually scold me for everything. \nat the point of time, since they are coming and visit you, you should just act normal, and once you have a chance you call up your sister to a place where you guys can speak alone, and you need to tell her how much you are sorry about the past, and your feeling towards your whole family, and that no one can change what had happened, not even god. you need to tell her that you love her and that you are sisters, no matter what you will always be her sister and that no one can change it. people live people dies, and that you are sorry that your dad died, but nobody would want that to happened. you were just simply in love with someone that the family didn't wanted to accept and tell her that life is short, if she will continuing mad at you, then you couldn't do nothing more better to let her forgive you. Just remember don't yell at her or cry...\n\nwell, good luck, is just a suggestion that i am giving...\n\ngood luck again.