I had a crush on this guy who goes to my school about a year ago, at some point in time he found out about it, however that’s not my problem and doesn’t really  bother me since I’m  more or less over him. My problem is that two of his female friends fund out about this crush and are now talking badly about me. I guess I have two questions, I don’t understand what their problem is with me I’ve never done anything to either of the girls, in fact  one of the girls was in  one of my classes  and we were some what friendly until late, I don’t know what I did wrong. My second question I how do I get them to stop talking about me?
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First off... If you don't know what you did wrong, you didn't do anything wrong. Their problem is simple immaturity, possibly due to their own (unadmitted) crushes on him? \n\nSecondly, there really isn't anything you can do to make them stop talking about you. You can minimize the damage by NOT talking badly about them, in return. If someone mentions to you something they say, just respond with "Yeah. I don't get why they are saying those things, but that is their problem." This keeps you from appearing defensive and/or vindictive.
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NO seems like your friends have poisoned his mind against you girls/boys have a tendency to do that mostly when they befriend someone else friends or boyfriend or husband or anything other then parents or siblings they try to poison or try to win over that person by putting down the friend or close person whose already there before them through him they befriended or got to know that person.It seems they have got their way so please try to forget him and move on.Its happened to me and i would make such efforts to put things into place but then i realised something very important.Would you want someone as your friend or closer who would listen to other people and change his or her mind about you?That cant be a true friend,close friend,lover,husband or anything else.ITS NOT YOUR LOSS ITS HIS LOSS HE LET SUCH A GREAT FRIEND LIKE YOU GO LISTENING TO OTHERS TALK.Take care and email me if you want to talk.
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I know this is a crap answer but it might be best to stay away from him.  He might have lots of questions about him self that he has not yet answered.  If that is so then you are just setting your self up for a big hurt.  Telling somebody who has a major crush to leave it alone is a fools errand.  But I am a fool and If you are correct in what you are saying, this might be best as the one you let get away.  And not to be crude, but spank bank material at best.\nB
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in no way are you obsessing over this girl NO WAY your just trying to treat her with respect and ther is no sahme in doing that!!! if you like her then you have the right to tell your friends to cut out the bad mouthing. its not obsessive ..its doing the right thing :)
485341
okay, there is this guy who likes me, but he makes fun of me calls me bad things, and tells his friends he likes me. I think he doesn't know how to tell you but, HE  HAS A CRUSH!!!
227679
How did you treat your girlfriends last year.  Trust me, if there is one thing we girls like to do, it's talk...  If you were a jerk, word has probably gotten around.  Did you move up to the high school?  You may be dealing with more  competition...older guys with cars.  I know it's frustrating, but you may just have to be friends with the girls for a while to build up your reputation.  If that doesn't work, there's always next year's incoming freshmen.  Good luck.
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maybe the guys at this school ain`t like the guys at your old school these guys don`t know you don`t give up just don`t jump out there and make a fool of your self just wait girl you will see he could be right around the corner just to shy to speak to you ,you know what i mean well i hope i could help you
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Ask yourself a question. Are you jealous of the crush she has on this guy?  Or is it that you are jealous of the relationship you have with her?  It's hard to share sometimes, isn't it?
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Crushes fade, perhaps you dont have a lover. Perhaps you are overwhelmed by your feelings for this guy, because he is being friendly. Maybe you are  lonely, i don't know. What i think is that if you tell him, he will tell his other mates and you may get hurt. Take care of yourself, whatever you decide. If you have to go to this college, and the fact that you are hesitant about telling him, may leave you very vulnerable if he is not accepting of the way you feel right now.
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Just deal with it as it comes, they won't all ask you out at the same time unless they are all in the same barbershop quartet though.  The annoying guy will be the easiest, just say you would never date someone who was mean to your friends.  The friend guy you have to be honest with, give him the only as a friend bit.  The two you have crushes on you should let them know that you like them but aren't sure what to do, ask to get to know them better.
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The problem I see here is that you, as well as me, are the kind of person who assumes too much and is always dreading to take risks because you wouldn't like other people (=not only guys) to dislike you or reject you.  If the game is ASSUMING then why don't you assume that he is as shy as you are and he just doesn't find the way to approach you.  Get rid of assumptions!  You won't go on him and tell him... 'Hey, I like you... no wait... I like you so much that I even think I love you..."  Nahhhhh!  If it is difficult for you to talk to guys they think of him as a girl (=don't laugh I mean it)  I also went to a gilrs school but it was for 3 years and besides I have a brother, anyway, IT DOES WORK!  Any time I wanted to tell something to a guy I thought 'ok he is the same of a girl because both are people'.\n\nThe obstacle here is the fact that you like him so pretend (=just pretend) that you don't like him and that you are going to go on ANYONE else... this way you won't be so nervous and it will be easier.\n\nOnce you talk then you can think on making your movements, you'll be more confident then... you might discover that he is shy too, or that he has the same feelings for you or that he just likes you as a friend (crossed fingers that not).  \n\nIn short,\n#1 Do not assume too much.\n#2 Take the risk.\n#3 Pretend that you don't like him and go on him.\n#4 Talk with him, know him, have fun.\n#5 What other people think is not yerr business.\n\n,-)
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The truth is Like: Not every Girl or Guy think alike. But the Most Common reasoning for a Guy Is the Behavior of a Girl. If a Girl gives that extra bit of attention to a guy, You could be pushing him to imagine things that are'nt really there.\n   I'm not saying to ignore. But don't pay too much attention either.\n   Being a Guy: I Can read a Girls Mind, i Just Speak to find out. Though I would never mention it or Show a difference. \n   See another way to Make that difference would be(That's if u talk to him) try doing the opposite to what he says. See his reaction to find out if he's really after you or he just playing around. Here i would like the Question How Sure are you that he's interested in you or just has a passing phase crush on you?\n   I would end by saying,"Think what's right in your situation, and do it" coz "All of us have sometime or the other gone through the phase and in my case i have always done it without help". Though me being a guy. hope u like the Answer as its my 1st on Yahoo Answers!\n\nQ:-How can I make it clear that I just want to be friends without seeming stuck up?\nA:-If i were to make a point clear i would just be a bit shrude and say,"Hey guys you all are so sweet i hope u guy/s will present at my wedding" !\n\nIf u get the answer above through and maybe add,"Hey you guys are so sweet,I bet my boy friend would be very happy to meet you guys". Point Through and everything's Clear !\n\nThis is my 1st editing to my 1st answer on Yahoo! Answers! lol
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When you purposely go out of your way to avoid somebody, that's when you run into them. Just be yourself, if he speaks to you, just speak back and leave it at that. Trust me, he's going to recognize you, so don't even think that he won't. If you know he's coming to your school, you know he knows, that you go there. Whatever you do, don't bad mouth him to anybody, it'll only cause a feud between you two, nobody wants or needs unnecessary drama. If people find out that you used to date or like him, just tell them he's a thing of the past and it's not necessary to discuss him.
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I don't understand if you're worried about the girl you like or your friend turning into one of the guys you don't get along with. in any case, they should be smart enough to decide for themselves if these guys are worth it or not... but if they're such bad influence you could warn them about it and just hope for the best!
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This stuff happens all of the time.  What you should do is plan things with other friends.  I know you guys are "best" friends, but hopefully you have some other friends.  I'm in a similar situation, but what I do is be as nice as I can be to that other girl and if she's not nice to me, then there's really no excuse and you can hate her justifiably.  Try to keep dates with Blaire that are only the two of you and just say that Krysta isn't very nice to you and you don't understand why because you've been trying to be her friend.  If you're in high school or younger, then it's a really hard situation and I'm sorry, I know it hurts.  You'll be ok though.
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You should talk to him about your crush on him -- some of the best relationships I know started out as crushes --- I have two school friends who have been with their girls since the first month of high school (I am 35). The worst he can say is no.
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It sounds like you need to worry more about school. Guys come and go forever but school is only once. The fact that at least one of them have blown you off says you need to crush on guys that are more your speed,  also you sound like you are way too young to even be worried about immature little boys. If they haven't already seen how great you are then they never will, I'd leave them alone before they start rumorsanyway. And yes guys do start more rumors than you think. Let a guy find you for a change. you can take this advice from somebody who's been there, of course I graduated in '00, but most things never do.\nGood luck hon! And remember guys are never worth worrying about.\n\n-Brandy