Before you lost it, how did you feel compared to after you lost it. How has it changed your life, thoughts and any other aspect?
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19 and I've only been with one man.  I think I feel less shy about sex now that I'm no longer a virgin.  I got pregnant a few months after I lost my virginity so my life has changed in that way.
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If I could change something about my life, it would be to do with my self-confidence.  I have never felt important or felt like I had anything special to offer other people.  I have had several bouts of depression in which case each one seems to be harder to get through than the one before.\n\nI am being married next month and the one thing that is really important to me at the wedding is that I feel beautiful when my pictures are being taken.  I know it sounds very superficial and I understand that.  I can count on both hands how many times I have been told that I was beautiful and actually felt it.  I want to be able to look back at the pictures and think that I am a beautiful woman, inside and out. \n\n I live in Eastern Canada and I do not believe that we have a shortage of resources here or anything like that.  In order for me to get stronger emotionally and mentally, I think I would have to be able to meet with a counselor and talk things out.  Because of the fact that I am 21 years old, I feel that it is a great time for me to gain the self-confidence that I have always longed for.  I want to get this resolved before I have children as I do not want them to go through life following my example of being the person who couldn't stand up for herself or give her opinion.  When my children look at me, I want them to see a strong and confident woman who they look up to.
253462
No, I don't long for her, but I sometimes think it was just a shame that it had to end. Now, I have someone I love who loves me back and I wish my ex happiness. I think it's good to move on and not dwell in the past and long for what is gone. So, I really didn't suffer a "lost opportunity at love" - I HAVE it now!
522751
I am sorry,  my grandmother has lost her will to live after my father died three years ago, I do not believe you will ever get over it, I think you may be able to one day accept your child died,  but you will always grieve and feel your loss, I am not sure the goal is too get over it, I was devastated when my father died and I know this cannot compare honestly if my children died, I would probably semi lose my mind at least temporarily. and I know I would become a humanitarian worker on the international scene for human rights watch or red cross, in the thick of things. and I would have a very nomadic lifestyle, however I still  feel the hole that was ripped open in my soul the day my father died, I do not believe it will ever go away, church made me feel worse. the funeral was horrible .I told the priest he was full of it ,and so was his religion ,which offered no comfort .and I informed him  that my father detested religion,I can relate to not wanting to hear the empty god comments. what surprisingly helped me , was a support group for grief victims ,people who had the same or similar experiences .I would have never  joined a group like this, but it was a service offered ,because I donated his organs.and amazingly just the pamphlets generated from the group touched me and helped ease my grief, I know it sounds like it will do no good, but It is truly worth a try, for you to get in touch with other parents who lost their children, I know I saw a persons 360 page on yahoo ,the mans child died and the support from the online community was amazing .I am not sure this will help you as much as a real group ,but not feeling alone in your anger is crucial to feeling better, it is most difficult to hold on to yourself or soul ,if you believe in that, when you are filled with misery ,it is so much harder to love yourself,life, or anything than it is to hate .and making that human connection with others that can truly understand you rather than dismissively wish you well or try to say something they think you want to hear, is the first step in regaining the feeling of control and a new perspective , I also encourage you to visit my 360 page and dont read it ,cause I am bad and while I try to remain positive, I do tend to gravitate to the darkside at times, but go to my friends list  find Skyes avatar click on it and visit skyes page, this beautiful woman is a well of positivity, and spiritual well being .and just reading her blogs make me feel better and I am sure they can touch your heart as well
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I WAS hit by a car once, when I was crossing a sidestreet on my bike.\n\nIt was a Dodge Ram 250 too, but I was miraculously saved, as the bumper only hit the handlebar and even though I went flying off the bike to the ground, I only received minor bumps and bruises and a short stay in the local hospital.\n\nEven more amazing (or at least for me), I went to work a few hours after that at the catering business I worked at.\n\nI actually have had 4 such experiences that I can remember, and maybe even more that I don't remember, but I agree with you that they have truly changed me, by making me much more cautious and appreciative of all the small things in life, and now I take almost nothing for granted.
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This is a personal question, looking for your personal answer/opinion.  Think about it for a minute.  How does it make you feel to hear about the bombing?  Do you feel upset, sad, guilty, angry?  Does it make you think about life any differently?  If so, how?  That's the kind of answer you need to provide for this question.
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Have done so but recovered from it. One really good help was my reading inspirational books, some which brought me a greater understanding of myself and of what was happening to me and why and some which completely changed me. Best one was "The Game of Life and How to Play It" by Florence Scovel Shinn. It's an older book but you can still get it. Many people have been helped by this wonderful book. When you change, all your \nrelationships with others will automatically change for the better.
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Right now, I feel pretty good about myself. I'm doing something wonderful and positive with my life and I've never been happier. It took me a long time to re-gain my self esteem, but now I'm stronger and happier than ever.
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Let me ask you this.  If you had a time machine and could change any event in your past, would that make you feel better about yourself today?  If it would then realize what it is about that event that is sabotaging you today.  If it is a past thing, often times we know intellectually that we are ok but our emotions are still tied to that past event.  Emotions stay the same no matter how old we get.  We cant stop the pain in life sometimes but we can increase the tools to deal with it.  When you dropped something as a young child you cried.  You can drop the same item now and it is ok, why?  You have information now that tells intellectually it is ok.  The emotions are the same but the tools to deal with that event are in place.  You have already experienced that event and it no longer shocks you.  So what is it about your life that is shocking you now?\n\nWhatever the issue is past, present, you need to see what is eating away at it.  It is ok to feel bad, it is the flipside of the coin to feeling happy.  The problem is if we become depressed about it, all life's issues become sensative and bigger problems than they are.\n\nYoung or old we all feel down at times.  Some just hide it better or keep themselves occupied to endure those moments.  Sometimes we feel like we are being taken somewhere and have no way to steer it.  The key is planning what you want to do.  Life is 90% how you react to it.  If you think you are successful and a good person, people will be convinced of it too.  Most reality comes from someone's perception.  They believed it and it became so.\n\nDepression is impression without expression.  Something gets you down, find a way to express it.\n\nIf you kind of hate yourself then you have not completely made full judgement on yourself yet.  If you hate yourself than you are having an expectation that you are not at yet.  Find out what that is and is it a valid expectation?\n\nGood luck to you!
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I just glanced at that site and it looked really scary like that program from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.  I went through a horrible breakup (5 years) and I was really lost.  When We first broke up I asked a friend who was dumped by his girlfriend of 5 years for advice and he said that it just sucks, its going to suck for a while and then one day I will wake up and it won't suck as much.  He was totally right.  \nOne thing that did happen to me was that I had a freak out and realized I needed to get rid of all those comprimizes in my personality that I made for my Ex.  I got out old clothes I wore before I dated him, read all my old favorite books, listened to the music and watched the movies that influenced me before I met him.  I became more myself and less the 1/2 "we" "us" person I was.  I do keep those memories though, you should want to as well, there are good ones and the bad ones remind you of what not to do.\nI suggest watching What the Bleep Do We Know.  It talks about negative thought patterns and the main character has just experienced a break up.  It shows how that trauma can take over your mind and body (kind of like what that web site says) but that you can reclaim your life and retrain yourself not to be so devastated.  \nLive through your sadness, it will make you stronger and your future relationships stronger.  Don't dwell in your sadness, that will take over your life.  Take time to grieve for your lost relationship, allow yourself to be sad and angry allow yourself to love and hate your ex.  That is what is supposed to happen.
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yes!\n\nfirstly, you must ask yourself if there's been a change in your life.. it maybe a very subtle and a very gradual shift.\nI've experienced that when my boyfriend became stress-laden due to school.. it affected him... but gradually it made me depressed too... and i felt like there's something lacking...\n\n\nor,\n\nhave you ALWAYS had this feeling since young...\n\n\n\nthe only way to fix it is to sit down and really be honest with yourself...\n\nis there anything you don't like in your life?\nhow long has it been since your started feeling that?\nhow do you feel about it?\nhow do you react to it?\nif you ignore it, what are the consequences?\n\n\nall the best!
638551
well I could tell you that after waiting 17 years and listening to everybody that had already did it, I thought it would be better than it was. But it was good beacuse it was with someone that I really loved and he also lossed his to me too.\nAt first it was kind of painful, and I thought that "Everyone must be kidding me this Shyt hurts not all like that BS that everyone said!" But it got better (the 2nd time) and it kept getting better ever since.
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Yes it does! \n\nIt did for me. After my cousin died (over 10 years ago) I found myself incredibly empathetic in situations that I used to shrug off - I still am. I still cry when I hear about someone else's pain form losing someone, even when other's can keep it together - because it just brings me back to the day that Seth died. It's ok to feel that way, it actually makes you a better person and good friend to those who are going through what you've already experienced. I'm sorry to hear about your sister.\n\nSometimes I have incredibly vivid dreams where Seth and I just hang out together - like we did when we were teenagers, just before he died. It's great because I wake up feeling like I've spent the day with him, but then I feel like I've lost him all over.\n\nIt may seem ridiculous to still be so affected after 10 years, but Seth was my best friend, I don't think I'll ever get over this. It does (as they say) get better though. Hang in there.
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Yes, I experience it, usually when I'm reminded through some event happening (its mostly a very vague reminder) but the memories rush back, and hit home as hard as it just happened the day before. I find myself whispering to myself, "No, no" or some other thing in a vain attempt to somehow make things right in the past. I try not to think about it, but it mostly ruins my mood for that very moment, and when I'm with company, they notice that I space out for a few seconds. In time though, things get better. For me it has, and the occurence of such flashbacks are getting lesser and lesser with time. Talking about it (with the right person) helps a lot. If you have supportive family and friends, thats always a blessing. I give credit to my girlfriend, who has helped me immensely through this.
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Sorry to hear about your losses.  \n\nI saw this one time. it was memorable for me to still remember it.\n\n"From his/her mother's arms to God"s"
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That's really good.  It's touching.\n\nMakes you think.\n\nSounds like you've went through a lot but allowed yourself to come to some great realizations and learn from it.\n\nHopefully your next loved one will respect and appreciate you more.
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It does sound very sad to me who ever might be in this situation. some people don't realise what they have until it's gone. \n\nMy advice would be to talk about it to him/her the worst they can say is no!