I have been datin this guy ive known since the 5th grade...Weve dated twice b4 but weve only been dating for a week now but everytime i tell him to hold on cause i got a beep while we are on the phone he gets an attitude or accuses me of talking to another guy...Which I do have guy friends but I feel like he dont trust me...What Should I do???? I am not gonna give up my guy friends just because he doesnt trust me...Am I in the Wrong For That????
204024
No you're not wrong. Trust is a big part of the relationship. He does not trust you because he is insecure with himself. I would not leave my male friends either. I bet he has female friends.
468262
it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
285073
It sounds like he has not done anything yet to make you have a reason to distrust him. I do believe that people can change they just have to want to and really make an effort to. I don't know the whole story, but from what you said it sounds like you have a good relationship so far. \n\nI think that all you can so is trust him. If he's right for you you'll know. (Sorry, that last line sounded a little corny.)
483460
OMG....you have the EXACT same problem as me!!!!!  I get told all that stuff 2.  Just talk 2 the guy..he might be shy or intimated by u!! That's what i did and now that dude is my boy friend!!!\n                                 GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
36802
I began writing a quick, "guys will be guys response," but then I saw your additional info.  The important question here is, why are you still with this guy?  It's unacceptable to behave that way in the situation you describe, and it shows a lack of respect for you and your relationship.
73221
Whoa!  This guy seems to be in too deep way too fast.  If you want to stay with this guy, you need to have a conversation with him and tell him to slow down or you'll have to stop dating.  Explain that you aren't looking for a commitment so fast.\n\nIf this keeps up, let him down easy, and then don't accept any phone calls, visits, emails, etc. from this guy.  Eventually, he'll get the hint and go away.\n\nIf he doesn't go away, try to get a stalking protective order against him.
618032
No ma'am!!!!!! before i give u the typical answer, i will give you the 'i;ve been through this before" answer. this man has no respect for you, the other girls or himself, b/c if he did he would never put u in this situation. You have your whole life ahead if you and this headache is not worth it. find someone who thinks u and only you is special enough to spend time with.
185629
ummmm....im a guy so its best that i say that if I was cheating (unfortunately i have), i would probly do just the opposite. Id call all the time to make you seem less suspicious, and id give you excuses as to why i had to go, like, "my mom wants me to help her cook, so i guess ill talk to you l8r", and in reality, some other chick is calling and i dont want to miss the call. But some guys make it obvious, so if you feel that he is, you shouldnt have to feel that way so its probly best that you move on anyways......... you should be able to trust the guy, cuz after all, thats what a relationship is based on....TRUST. hope i could be of assistance even though im like 17 lol.
376370
You need to take things slowly. Trust is sure a serious issue for everybody who's been betrayed before. But the thing is, you don't wanna be like that forever. You need to open up slowly. Then if you're dating somebody, you need to talk to him about your trust issues, maybe he can help you deal with them. But ultimately, you have to deal with it alone. You have to see things differently. It's a start, right? Instead of thinking that he's going to betray you or take advantage of you, look at it this way. He trusts you enough to let you see a side of him, isn't it only fair that you trust him too to let him see that side of you? I mean, am I making sense here? It's like doing yourself a favor. Stop thinking about the worst things that could happen. Start thinking of the good things that will happen. I'd say its a good first step. Life is all about taking risks after all.
309958
that first answer about usin you was a bunch of BS\nif it is true, dump him... but I hope for the better that it is not. I'm a guy with a lot of gfs too (cept I kinda wanna be single over summer, so I'm  not makin any moves) and I'm sure they are all jealouse when I hang out with one or the other. Its natural, just like I'm jealous when the one I've liked forever hangs out with other guys. If you talk to you bf a lot, then it should be no problem talking to him about this. If you don't talk to him, then you should either start talking to him or rething about whether or not this is the guy you want to be with. There are plenty of guys out there, and one will eventually be the right one for you. just hang in there, and if you lose this one, it'll be alright\n-- God Bless
172994
If he's convinced that you've been cheating on him and can't be persuaded otherwise, then he has trust issues. If he doesn't trust you, how strong is your relationship? \nAnd do you really know what he's thinking? You sound humiliated, and what you really need is a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. So many problems can be sorted by talking openly and honestly. If you love him, then you have to be able to come to him with your problems. If you're not comfortable and instead would rather ask random people online to help you with relationship issues, then what does this say about the strength of your relationship?
202070
this guy is being unfaithful and hes trying to cover his tracks but listen if he was not guilty then why does he get so defensive.ill tell you why because he has a guilty conscience and another reason is men hate to get caught! it makes them look like a bitch.so my advice to you is to check him and if he cant respect what you ask then hes hidin something so be careful and goodluck gurl!!!!!!-lisa
71802
i have that problem sometimes just remember he likes them but he loves you. Trust him and then if he gives you a reason to not trust him talk to him about it and if you cant learn to trust him then the best step is to just let go because it will always come back up. i know. but he hasnt done anything wrong so dont get mad. communication isnt a crime maybe you two need to spend more or less time together
445196
i thin kyou should move on. if he hasnt took the time to actually realize you havnt called him in three days and didnt  call you to ask about it then hes not worried about you. i think you should leave him alone. dont worry about him. hes an ass! and then that message he left you on myspace...that sucked a big one!!!!!
168081
Having explained how understanding you are, I'd say he may not actually be hiding it, he is just not throwing it in your face, might even call it avoiding disrespecting you unintentionally ...your no leash, don't ask ...don't tell trust needs to have a line drawn and if he respects the relationship as much as you, then make sure the phone calls don't become visits when your not around...
73746
This is his problem not yours.  My ex also threw a fit when he saw a missed call from a guy on my phone.  (What was he doing at my phone in the first place?)  \nWhy should you have to worry about his insecurities.  He either trusts you or he doesn't, and from the sounds of things.........he doesn't.  You've probably done nothing wrong, but some guys can't seem to accept that a girl will be faithful to them.  \nI also find that if a guy is insecure or convinced that you might cheat, it is only because he is (1) thinking about cheating, or (2) has cheated.
140593
You are so young so don't limit yourself to someone that isn't making you happy.  If you are truly thinking long term with this guy, it's important that you get some sort of sign from him that he's willing to stay committed to you ALL THE TIME.  Being 25, I can see why he still hangs on to his girls numbers, etc. which isn't a sign of anything to be honest but it seems fishy that he would not pick up the phone when you call.  You should be one of the more important things in his life and should always answer your calls.  It's the least that he can do.\n\nI think since you guys have been together 6 months, you guys should still be in the "cloud 9" phase and he should be all over you.  At least in my experience it lasts for about 8 months.  Only someone who doesnt' appreciate you or someone who doesn't dig the relationship anymore would do things he is doing now.\n\nI think you are doing what is right.  He obviously knows what he's doing is wrong.  He said so.  Knowing that, the question is, do you want to be with someone who knows he's screwing up with the relationship and still does it?  I don't know how frequently he does this to you but if he knows and still does it, either he's addicted to doing whatever it is he's doing or he doesnt' care for you enough to change.  Ask yourself whether you want a guy who won't change for you when he knows that what he does is wrong.