rather or not they should continue on or start a relationship with a married guy.Anyone else here think that is just absolutly wrong or what?? I don't think i can even read any more of them questions anymore...i mean does anyone take marriage serious anymore? I'm just lost ,cant understand someone even havin the balls to ask somthin like that.....well i had to vent...
215399
Because there are some really pathetic women out there with super low self esteem ,who believe all they deserve is to be someone's peice,and others just simply cannot get a single guy,and guys who cheat are deperate and not choosy soooo\n\nThe thing they never think about or remember is what goes around comes around.
54651
It sounds like maybe you're not being completely up front with them from the beginning about the 'being married' part. Maybe they're getting some kind of vibe from you that you're looking for someone to have an affair with. Are you going out of your way to get men friends? If so, why when you're married?
444247
Should they divorce and remarry their extramarital lovers?  I don't know.  It's not for me to judge another person's life or marriage.  I feel that the problem doesn't begin with the affair; the problem begins with whether or not they should've married one another or not.  It's a step "not to be taken lightly", and those aren't just pretty words that the preacher says at the wedding.  He really, really means just that.  Are they really ready for a lifetime of putting another person ahead of themselves?  I doubt it.  \n\nThe man and woman are both at fault...the other woman and her marriage are beside the point.  We're concerned mainly with this marriage between the husband and wife you speak of, right?  The woman, being Christian, shold be striving to find focus and balance in her own life, knowing herself and where she stands, knowing her own shortcomings, and bravely turning around to face her demons.  Unless you have a good foundation (one's self) anything you build outwardly will just crumble.  So she needs to take a long hard look in the mirror and see that she is not filling out her potential.\n\nThe man, regardless of his religious beliefs, still knows right from wrong.  His wife, haranguing nag though she may be, is still his wife and deserves his honesty and a measure of respect.  If for no other reason than to appease his own conscience that he has done all he can do.  She needs to be given the opportunity to change.  He needed to tell her that her behaviour is making him so unhappy and lonely that he wants to find another woman to take her place.  We all want and need the close companionship of another special person as we go through life.  It is unfair of her to deny this to him.  If she truly cannot offer that to him, it is her responsibility to let him go.  Same goes for her, if the husband had been maltreating her.\n\nPeople are imperfect.  If we base our marriages on the expectation that the other person will always behave honourably and kindly and selflessly, we're in for a shock.  Our spouses will screw up.  WE will screw up.  If you don't make allowances for the frailty of human nature, and prepare yourselves for the eventuality of needing to forgive them for their mistakes, you're stacking the deck against yourselves.
76394
Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
516590
i met my husband on there ... i met a lot of guys but dated about 5 (plus my husband) ... their were 3 that were okay ... one was just rude, the other 3 were well .. it was easy to understand why they were single ... my husband had the most straightforward down to earth ad ... and we clicked ... 4 years after we met we got married
154689
Yeah yeah everyone says married and very few of them were married when they first did it. Go with your heart and brain dear. Its different for every couple. The best time is when you are both comfortable with yourselves and each other on an adult level.
246433
i reached out and rested my hands on somthing while waiting for someone and this man i didnt know  grabed my hand inspected it and said "what no ring? why arnt you married yet?" like it is somesort of crime to be single. i told him as much but he just shook his head. the person he was there for called to him and went an had a meeting with them. if he isnt married i know why:>
260703
It amazes me too. What's more, is the women who ask advice about their married boyfriends...it is just so wrong.\nYou are not wrong at all.
440505
I am married and I think it is funny; don't marry this girl she has no sense of humor.  If I have learned anything by being married for 6 years, I must have a sense of humor.  Also my husband and I spent 150 dollars at James Avery on our rings.  We felt that we should concentrate on the marriage and not the materlistic things that are associated with it!
665975
i AM SO GLAD WE WAITED UNTIL MARRIAGE. We had no problems at all, it was all very wonderful. I wish everyone could have the joy on their wedding night we experienced. It was like the excitement of Christmas morning. I suggest the couple have good premarital counselling like we did. I also would add to the guys, BE SURE YOU ALWAYS MEET HER NEEDS FIRST.
357251
probably better off gay!! LOL \n\nGeez just found out I'm married with two kids!! WHo knew?\n\nKind of hard to fit that many people in a one bedroom apartment, wonder where they sleep at night? hmmmmmmm
535397
Most of my friends are married and if not then dating so I will not give you a % because the problems is that they a not bored like you and I but I am sitting here answering your question a they are having fun see the picture I am drawing here. The question is why are you not dating that sucks not to have someone in your life. Why am I telling you this and I am doing the same is because I broke up with my girl about a month ago and I was to be married like my friends are but I ma trying to clear out all of my feeling of her before I move on and I will say I am thinking of someone and did talk with her to let her know what is going on with me and so she will not think I am not interested with her. So you need to get off your but and find a girlfriend is is so much more healthier
64092
Where did you get the idea that sex is wrong?..There is no written rule there. The bible says "you can be married if you feel you need to be , but you don't have to be".. It actually says "pick one and stay with them" That is Gods own personal advise on that subject!..You don't have to be married, just monogamous. quit kicking your own arse and be in love for pete's sake!
194033
I see a lot of people who dont respect their own or other marriages, it's sad. I feel that if one finds that "special person" they will, no matter what, respect that other person. AS it is said, Love never fails.
296674
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.
315983
I think every relationship is going to be different.  I've connected with guys right away to where we've skipped the whole "dating" thing and moved on to the "pinned" stage. \n\nI've also been with guys through all the stages .. plus a divorce .. so I think you're pretty down with the steps of love.  There might not be a right way or a wrong way but with the media and family influence I think it's in our minds there's certain things we need to achieve before getting married.  It makes sense !  \n\nI have to watch myself when I start my relationships .. I tend to over plan them and then I find out they were losers to begin with .. haha J/K ..\n\nLove is Crazy ... People have so many different ways of showing it.  You just have to find that one person that loves you for you !
30094
I think that commitment has been mistaken with monogamy. I don't think that any man, gay or straight wants to be fully monogamous. We like to dip our stick, and variety. But there are people that will refrain or can contain those urges. I thin it's irrational. YOu can have a commitment and not be monogamous, and if you both agree to that, even better! (no nead for cheating)