i m doing engg. from pantnagar i m some afraid of crowd and very sensitive please help me to sort it out as my parents frends and relatives are woried for me from home i go with confidence but at pantnagar where the hostel is , i feel scary and some times even miss my lot of classes
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New places can be frightening, I understand.\n\nTry to do it little by little, and it won't seem so scary. \nGo out for just a few minutes and stand by the door of the hostel. Just look around and watch what is going on outside. The next day, walk around a little bit. The next day, walk a little bit more. Eventually, you will feel more confident.\n\nThere is no reason to be so frightened that you don't leave the hostel. Don't let your fears make you a prisoner. Think about this: lots of people live in Pantnagar every single day, and they are all just fine moving about the city and living their lives. You will be okay, too.\n\nMaybe you could see if you can go out with some of the other people from your hostel? If you were with others, maybe you would not feel so frightened.\n\nBe brave, I know you can. Everything will be okay. Good luck! :)
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Stay away from pastors & well meaning friends who tell you to get over it. They are true phobias, each with it own name. A good psychistrist can diagnoise & medicate these problems - it may need help from phychologist. Good luck. My spiders, people esp. crowds, & water are managable. Go Wolfpack- I'm back at games & sailed all weekend.
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Dear Madam,seems that you are a bengali lady. Do not worry about ragging. Have confidence in yourself. Do not try to be oversmart.Try to be friends with your seniors and always have a smile on your face.All the best ....
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your freshman year--especially the first day--is always kinda scary--just be yourself--its not that bad--really its not--i graduated from high school in 1990 and to be honest with you--my freshman year was my best and most fun time! Do you not have any friends at all that you go to school with now that will be making this transition with you? Anyway--just remember--you are not alone--it would be REALLY scary if you were the ONLY freshman in the WHOLE school! LoL! Hang in there--and before you know it--you will feel right at home!
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Parsi, you obviously never grew up.  What kind of talk is this?\n\nJade, honey, you have every right to be nervous.  I was in your situation, oh about 24 years ago (I'm 40 and doing fine!).\n\nYou're nervous because you take responsibility for your actions.  And I hate to tell you that this is just a part of growing up, you'll always have thoughts about the future.  I still do.  Because you are nervous you are showing me that you are maturing and becoming more of an adult.\n\nMake the best preparations (plan it out) and carry out your plans.  See if you can meet with a journalist and find out what kind of preparations you can make in high school?\n\nJust remember to be sure you've given it your best effort.  That's what helps me sleep at night.  I tried my best, I know I did, I didn't give up.  I'll do something else.  I will be OK.
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Ohhhhh, man.  That is so hard on you.  I have anxiety about that myself but I have learned to overcome it.  Just tell yourself there is nothing to fear (doesn't always work).  My phobia about it simply involves the fact that I feel I cannot breathe because there will be no oxygen.  That is untrue, but that is how I feel.  \nAvoid any closed rooms that do not have a window.  Movie theaters are very difficult.  I have a phobia about catching a cold when I am in a movie theater, so I usually don't go.    \n\nPlease go to a licensed psychologist who can help you overcome this problem.    Best wishes to you.  I am glad you don't have agoraphobia. My friend had that and the doctor put her on medication and made her go to places she was afraid of.  Now she can go anywhere.
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It sounds like "old memories" type of deal. Maybe subconsciously when you go back home, you are remembering it and you feel like you can't recover in front of these people, so the fear comes back. Does that make sense to you?
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I understand ur position... for any kid 10th is the first real big exams that they give.. so ur nervousness is quite justified, and remember a bit of nervousness is good for positive energy, but too much of it is not good.. u've already given ur papers so there is not much u can do now, just relax..its summer time go to some hill station for the weekend. and Have faith in God, U'll get good marks I know that... Does that make u happy!
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Dude i totally understand how u would be feeling becoz even i am going through this. i am gud in studies.. but i guess its the gossips that i don't like. anyway i would say try being nice and be urself.. try participating in the other activities.. Jst smile.. Because everything can be cured except loneliness and friends is something u make naturally but try to know more people.
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hi!\nif you have asked this question, it surely means that either u r a student there or is planing to take admission there. but u r scared to come to jharkhand. do not worry. its a nice cool place. nice and BIG campus!!! about 10 kms away from ranchi. u can take college bus when u need to go to town. its also safe here for 2 reasons. its away from maon town so no disturbance from outsiders. also, separate hostel for girls and boys. but ofcourse, if you want to go for a relationship with someone, no one can stop you! lol!! by te where r u from? do u know Dhoni! he is from ranchi. \nhere u will find good food, good professors, good standard of teaching and also good people to be friends with!\nin a word ---- its COOL!!!\nyou can surely contact me for further info at-\n\nmangeshome1982@yahoo.co.in
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I think that there are evil guys/gals everywhere you go, no matter if it's a nice or horrible place.  You just need to know where you can go, and which areas are dangerous, and what safety precautions you need to take.\n\nI have no idea about your second question, probably just because you're just beggining your body is not constant, I think that maybe talk to your mom.  I think you shouldn't worry about it.
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To err is human, move on with your life, content in the knowledge you have learnt from the experience. The pressure on people at school to fit in, succeed, and get great grades is horrific, and you buckled under the temptation. You're stronger now for the experience, as Nietsche said 'that which does not kill us, makes us stronger'.
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I have a fellow nursing student that just transfered from a small campus. She loved it because of the atmosphere. You feel like you're a part of the campus and culture because you get to know a greater percentage of the students. She got to know nearly all the FT professors at some point, constantly ran into students she knew, and felt at home there. The problem with the school we are at now...you can literally walk by thousands of people and not bump into a familiar place. It feels like a zoo and you don't fee like you are part of a campus community.
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Please do not go giving any of your personal details on here. It is dangerous and there are a lot of nasty people out there waiting for peeps like you. Don't wanna scare yer, just want to make you aware ok?
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u have to learn to relax..try first by talking to your family ,then relatives,then try to have a walk at the park..dropping a smile from time to time wont cost u an arm or leg..you wouldnt know when  afriendship will bloom..but if u are somehow afraid to go out..\nwhy not try to have strol around the neighbourhood with loved ones or someone who is intimite to you or someone u feel comfortable with....\n\nlet s start step by step...first relax yourself,then hang aound your family,then reltives and close friends,then go out n see the world!\n\nbut if u still cant let go of the anxiety somehow..its better u seek professional helps...such as psychiatrist..perhaps they have better suggestions\n\nbut i felt tht once you open your heart,i m sure people around you will accept your presence and there s nothing to be afraid of in getting to know ppl and making new friends..infact it is the best euphoric feeling you ll ever had by just hannging out with bunch of friends and sharing thoughts and jokes!so there you go!!No reasons for being nervous or anything at all,be yourself and stay comfortable and u wont sweat a bit!good luck!
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Lola,\nWe just moved as a family and had to start all over again with a new job, new frends and for my daughter, a new school.  I had to move when I was a kid too and I remember how frightened I was.\n\nNow, the first problem is that you say you are "weird".  If you say that about yourself, you obviously will have problems.  Start with believing in yourself.  You are not weird, you are special, unique, cool and interesting.  A lot of people can and will like you if you like yourself! \n\nAlso think about this.  When you move, people don't have preconceived notions about who you are.  You can be any personality that you want to me.  Moving is a chance to reinvent yourself and reinvent your friends.  Think about what you really want to be, what you want to stand for and what kind of friends you want to have.  It does keep you on your toes but it also helps you grow as a person.  \n\nI also found for myself when I moved as a kid, that you become a novelity in the school for the first few weeks as "the new kid".  A lot of people will approach you and want to be friends.  Just stay true to yourself and don't fall in with people that don't have good values and respect for themselves and others.  Look for people who you have some thngs in common with and kids that have good values and good families.\n\nYou'll do fine and in a few months you'll look back and think how happy you are that you made the move.  Good luck!
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It is scarry being a new student, but changes can be a good thing.  It is a chance for you to make new friends!  At first it might be hard, but as time goes by it will get easier.  I was at the same job for 15 years and decided that I needed to change jobs.  At first it felt really strange and I was a little scared, but now that some time has gone by  I feel really happy that I made the change.  I have new friends and new challenges.  It turned out be just what I really needed!   Good luck to you.