And I have asthma and alergies and I have a dog and shes using him as an exuse to go outside and smoke! Like this: "Ill take the dog outside to go to the bathroom." And what realy gets on my nerves is that she lies constantly to cover the fact that she smokes up! Please help me! What should I do???????
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SHE'S AN ADULT LEAVE HER ALONE,IF SHE WANTED YOU TO KNOW SHE'D TELL YOU
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First of all relax!! It just an elaborate dinner. I had the same problem with smokers since my wife has severe asthma. I simply make a designated smoking area outside and above all don't use ashtrays. I take and empty coffee can and put in the smoking area and chastise anybody who throws butts on the ground, regardless of who they are. And clean up is a snap, just put the plastic lid on it and throw away. I have been doing this for the last couple of years and my friends and family who smoke actually set up the smoking area for me. At one party when we had a heavy rain, I simply brought the deck umbrella to the from and attached the can to the pole. \n\nAbout your parents, ask them how would they feel if they were not invited and tell them in a calm voice that you have enough anxiety without the extra baggage/attitude. So relax, enjoy the day and the company and remember, if there are problems, attitudes and / or arguments, just smile and say out loud, "I never worry about the little things"!\n\nGood luck and have fun!
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My wife is a Dr.  Her brother is a Dr. (shrink), a lot of the conversations we have sometimes dwell on mental cases.  You are not alone hon!  Granted your problem is serious and you should be talking to your Dr. about this.  You probably need to try a different medicine first, unless you just started a new med?  The fact that you're bring this out into the public is an indication that you don't really want to die, but are crying for help.  You can voluntary admit yourself into an in house treatment program and leave at anytime.  It is called autonomy, which is your right to decide what is best for you, as long as you can make sound comprehensible decisions.  Once you become a threat to society in general, then you will be admitted against your will, not only to save you but to save others.  Get some rest, stay away from any drugs and alcohol, see your Dr. tomorrow and tell him/her what is on your mind.  It's OK and everything will be alright, give it time.  People love you!!  You're not scum, just a normal human being with a physical condition no different than a heart problem, lung problem, bone problem, you are not scum Cassie!\n\nRJ
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Communication before rash decisions is best. You must care about her. Tell her that you know that she is using and that this is hurting you as well as her. The lies and deception are causing a rift between you two. You have discussed this before and let her know where you stand. Let her know that you love her and want to be there for her. Tell her for this to work trust is paramount. Best wishes for a solution. Be true to yourself!
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Actually..there was a lady i knew that always asked that and would walk away when she asked so I knew she didnt really care..so one day when she asked and I responded with..\nWell my hemmmorhoids are flaring up, my dog just peed on my shoe and my husband is screwing the mailman..but other than that..I am great, how are you?\nShe never asked again!\nDo it..it works!   :-)
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Dude that is so messed up. Mellow out and smoke a j. You will totally relax. Tell those fascist pigs you arent taking this lying down.
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This is a hard one my dear.Since you do not smoke and you can't stand the smell you have no choice but to leave him.No really don't do that.Send him to the doctor to see if they can help him.Remember nicotine is a drug your body craves.So he will act out of sorts until his body rids itself of all the nicotine.Sometimes it can be several years depending on how long and how many he smoked each day.I hope this helped a little for you good luck and keep me posted okay.
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if you are sensitive to cat furs, dander, or the stuff they may have on the fur, and you are a diagnosed asthmatic, then your options are limited.  \n1.  were you prescribed inhaler medications?  if so take them as directed.  if not then see a doctor who can give you medication which help control asthma.\n2.  minor helps but useful could be:  a.  get an air filtration system for your room.  i say a room b/c they are not generally large enough to do anything more effectively.  b. get rid of the cat.  c. keep everything you have away from the cat and keep it clean.\n3. for you to implicate the cat you would have to have reasonable cause.  just coughing b/c you think its the cat doesn't really diagnose your condition.  thats not to say you are not allergic to cats, but have you never been around a cat in your lifetime?  what happened when you were around a cat? \n\nnow to answer in different way.  cats dont cause asthma.  people with ashtma may respond allergically in the prescence of a cat but they may respond allergically around a dog, or parrot, or any other furry creature.  coughing isn't always a sign of allergic reaction as much as it is a protective mechanism for keeping foriegn bodies out of the lung.  \n\nniether do you have to have a history of asthma in the family to be individually affected with asthma.  you more likely are having mild airway irritation due to ?? something in the air, maybe what the cat brought in.  not to mention dusts, pollen, and molds, and even cockaroach droppings, which have been implicated in asthma in ghettos.
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To be honest, you don't have any sort of lawsuit against anyone.\n\nIf you don't trust this person, then you should not use her to take care of your dog.\n\nIf you don't have anyone else who can take care of your dog, then you can get a lock for your medicine cabinet.\n\nYou can't just let it go, but you can't jump down anyones throat for doing what they thought you wanted done either.\n\nYou probably don't have the whole story.  If your dog was crying or raising hell, your neighbor probably felt like she was doing what she was supposed to do since you do entrust the care of the dog to her.  If the management knows this, thats probably why they let her in.\n\nWhat you need to do is speak to the person who let her in privately.   Don't come across like you are accusing them or blaming them for anything.  Explain that while you do allow this person access to your place to take care of your dog, you have certain things in your apartment that you secure first and that you don't want this person being let in without you knowing about it in advance.  Ask them nicely to not let her in again unless you have called them and told them it's ok.
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Fiction.  It's an old folk tale that says if you hold a chihuahua that you can transer your asthma symptoms to the dog.  I'm thinking that you could hold "fifi" all day long but it's probably not going to help.  In fact, the dog fur might actually make your symptoms worse.  It's another "ol' wive's tale" but it is interesting.  If you have asthma please consult your doctor and picking up a dictionary once in awhile wouldn't hurt either.  Good Luck.
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he is being completely unfair and trying to push you into having a cigarette so that he can feel better about himself, dont do it, be strong, u dont need to say anything, just dont have one. I'm not saying this just off the cuff, I smoke, I dont want to stop right now, but you and me both know the tricks ''if he has a cig first, then it's ok for me to have one too'' etc etc. If you want one, have one, if you don't, then don't. U know the first one will only make u feel dizzy and sick and then guilty and pissed at yourself, keep going you CAN do it xxxxxx
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I agree - that is so vile!! I smoke, but I can't stand that stale smoke reek so theres no smoking allowed in my house - also I got a kid there and it's just wrong to smoke round kids, so I go outside.
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First I would confront them about the lies and give them a chance to own up. Some people have a habit of lying because they have low self esteem. They don't mean any harm they just inadvertently cause it sometimes.\n  But if she is maliciously lying and/or trying to cover her a*s you should get rid of her. She could do more harm than good.
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My best advice for you is to make sure you dont keep telling her everything shes doing wrong, the first thing you want to do is tell her look you cant do this and everything along those lines, right now she needs to be able to have someone to talk to about why shes doing what shes doing, More then likely there is a root to the problem, shes not as far as she wanted to be at this point in her life, or something, see if she will open up to you about why she feels the need to go out and party like this, more then likely shes tring to "numb" out something, You dont want her to think that your not on her side anymore, and if you tell her everything shes doing wrong she might take it that your tring to rule her life and then she will shut you out, after you see what the root of the problem is you can talk to her about it, tell her that what shes doing is going to make her loose everything she has and your commited to her as a friend to help her out of this hole shes found herself in, and that you care about her health and you dont want to watch her slowly disinagrate her health and you want to help her get past this hard part in her life and get her to trust your recommendations on what you think she needs to do, then once she says she trusts you to guide her out of this problem, (keep in mind you have to get her to see she has a problem, spoon feed it to her so she sees it on her own she has a problem, like wow you used to be able to keep all this going with out a problem, it looks like your struggling, she will know why and see why) THen keep reminding her that you will do what ever she needs, that you will hold her hand in a local AA class, or you will go to a rehab place with her, what ever it takes :)
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this is a bit rude and i mean no offence if any is caused\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nwhat do you do if your girlfriend starts smoking\n\nslow down and use a lubricant
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Ok, couple questions here...HOW do they know how you drive?  WHY are you caring for their granddaughter?  HOW do they know what condition the apartment was in? WHOSE apartment was it?  WHY does your friend tell you what they say?  WHY do you care what these evil people think?  Sometimes where there is smoke there is fire...ARE u doing something to piss them off?  Do Not confront them.  This could lead to a physical altercation.  YOU cannot control other people.  Just get over them.  Tell your friend not to report any thing else they say to you.  Perhaps they are upset she is living with you and not them.  My ex's mom was like this.  I was never good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, good enuff mother, etc.  eventually i just figured it out.  It's her.  It's not me.  She's a hater and she was living rent free inside my head.  Every second I spent thinking about what she said or did that hurt me was a second I GAVE her that I could never get back...well, those seconds added up...it became YEARS...do not make this same mistake.  Good Luck
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Personally, it's not the toxins in second hand smoke that bother me, it's the terrible smell which clings to your clothes and your hair, and for me, triggers my asthma.\n\nIf I'm sitting waiting for a train, and someone comes and sits next to me and just lights up a cigarette, I find it incredibly rude. They show no consideration for other people. I CANNOT be in smokey atmospheres without it triggering an asthma attack......that's my main complaint against it, besides the horrible smell.