My boyfriend is a senior and he's flunking! He has no room to fail anymore.quarter grades came out and his GPA is 1.33. I really don't know what's wrong with him. he says he's trying. Sometimes he says that it's cuz I distract him from doing work but I'm a straight A student... I'm with him just as much as he's with me so what's the deal? How can I be getting such good grades(i take waaay harder, advanced classes) when he's doing so bad??? I don't understand. I don't know what to do anymore. People tell me just not to care and let him be and sometimes I think that I should just do that cuz if he wants to do that with his life then ok. But I really care about him, I want to help. Whenever I try to help him with his math or ask him he says it stresses him out and he does worse that I make him feel stupid but all I wanna go is try to help him but i dunno how. I've tried to help him out all year and nothing seems to be working. Please help!
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Maybe stop helping so much, just be supportive, and let him know you are available if he wants help or just to talk to. Maybe he is intimidated by the fact that you are so successful in school, while he struggles. Give him some space.He may not feel comfortable accepting help from you.\nAnyway, good luck!
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School is tough at times - no doubt!  It's good that you are stressed... it means you care!  Of course feeling stressed isn't much fun, though!  Sorry to hear you're having a tough time.\n\nFirst, because you care, you can pull through this!  I've been in your shoes before... I'm now on the other end of a college degree and lovin' it.  I wasn't a scholar by any means, but asked for help and ended up on the Dean's list my last five semesters.... believe me, if I can do it, so can you!    \n\nNot knowing you or how you approach things, it's hard to address specifics... rather than making assumptions, I'll cover a range of things in case any of them pertain to you... with that being said, whatever you're doing right now isn't working, so obviously you need to find a different way of studying, etc.  Here are some general tips... feel free to take 'em or leave 'em.\n\nAre you giving 100%?  If so, unfortunately our best isn't always good enough to get the results we want... but at the end of the day, when you look youtrself in the mirror... there's something about knowing you did your best.  If you continue to try your best, you will sort it out.  Of course if you're not trying 100%, then that's where you start... commit to do it!\n\nI would first start by going to your professors or teachers... go over past tests, papers, etc. and see where you didn't do well.  Ask for advice on how to study for his/her class... and find out if he/she knows of any study groups or other students from whom you could receive some additional help/tutoring.  If the class is small enough, they may be able to offer up other observations/suggestions as well.  Also, let them know how you feel and that you want to improve... they are human and all "signed on" to do this as a profession... they are there to help!\n\nThen... examine how you study... and where you study... find a place that is conduscive to studying... if you're near a TV or singing to a song on the radio... or near others where you are being distracted, it's time to find a new place to study.  Also, are you a morning person?  Know yourself... what time(s) of the day are you most alert, etc?  Try to study during those times... your mind associates certain places with certain activities... bedroom = sleep, kitchen = eating, etc.  I found going to the library and getting away form everyting was the best thing for me... and once I got into the routine, I noticed my grades improved... I knew once I stepped into the library, it was study time.  Establishing good sleep and other habits helps as well.  \n\nGo to class every day... skipping is a easy habit to get into - I've been there & it'll do ya in!  If ya don't skip, don't start!\n\nDo you cram for tests?  If so, it doesn't work... not usually anyway.  Procrastination will kick ya in the pants too... and can burn ya!  I had a coach that once said, "fail to prepare, prepare to fail."  Same holds true for school.  If in college, there should be some free academic assistance or tutoring centers that have staff that can address this stuff... same goes for proof reading papers before you hand then in... in in High school, there should be someone who can help you find these resources. Remember, no one makes it alone!  I'm assuming if you can ask for help on Yahoo, that you'd be willing to ask for help at school.  Smart people know when to ask for help!      \n\nRemember, balance is key!  Your future (in a career sense & lifestyle) depends on school... take care of business first... work hard when you have to, then play hard when ya can... finding the balance is key, because you do need both.\n\nSometimes easier said than done, but tell friends that you're struggling... let then know what you need or don't need from them... if friends undersatnd, that helps!\n\nStudy tip... take notes... first, make sure you're t
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I went back when I was 44, started a BA in philosophy from scratch and am now working on my master's degree.  It's far from impossible.  Tell your brother to fill out his financial aid application (FAFSA) and pick a school. Study skills return pretty quickly and out-of-practice adults often have better study skills than in-practice kids. (It's the maturity factor).  If your brother's worried about his SAT scores, he could always retake the exam.  My advice? During his first semester he should take only classes that he's sure he can do very well at.  That way he can be building his GPA while he's revamping his study skills.  \n\nReturning to school was the best thing I could've done.  I would encourage anyone to do it.\n\nNote--I don't want to be disrespectful, but I would advise against schools like the University of Phoenix.  Degrees from these places don't carry too much weight with grad schools or employers.  In every region of the US there is at least one state-funded university that is not at all prestigious but which offers respectable degree programs that will get you into grad studies or better jobs.  These are often called the "third tier" schools.  Their admission standards are usually very low, yet the educational standards are generally very good.  Try one of these.
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Sounds like he could be the one for you! He doesn't want to mess up high school with a sexual relationship, why do you? It's showing that he does Really care for you, if he wants both himself and you to be more mature BEFORE you enter into a mature relationship! Get your mind out of the gutter, and be glad that he feels that way about you.  If you are upset and want sex, no excuses, then perhaps he is the more mature one in this relationship.
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i know what you are going through because im also a straight A student but whenever i get a bad grade i have to tell my parents because then the guilt comes in not telling them.  it may be hard yo stand up to your dad but if you have the bad grades and you tell him your trying really hard to work them off that usually works.  Good luck!!!
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I'm really sorry to hear you are struggling. You seem to have hit a rough patch, but don't give up on yourself. You are making some great progress in your life: \n1) You are holding a job. Okay, so the job sucks, but it won't be forever. Keep an eye out for other opportunities.\n2)  You are working on  your education. Your grades may not be stellar right now, but you can change that, too. \n3) As a student, you have access to the school's resources, like Career Services, who can  help you find a better job, improve your skills, update your resume, and become excellent at interviewing. You can also speak to academic counselors that can guide you to tutoring help (often free) and emotional counseling support. \n4) You are trying, and if you speak to your landlord or creditors to make an arrangement, you may find a sympathetic ear. They probably won't write off your debt, but they may give you an extra week or so to collect the money. \n5) You are recovering. You've made many of the hard steps already. Don't give up. See your counselor and get more support. \n\nThese things show me that you are strong, you just need to trust in your ability to make it through this. And when you do, you will have proof of your resilience. You may need a good cry, but don't give in to saddness. Collect all your skills and go change your circumstance. \n\nBest wishes.
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Have you talked to your professors?  Are there any classes that  you could drop and still make your GPA?  If it is really that bad, then you are just going to have to sit down and discuss it with your parents.  You should probably also start looking for a job!  Good luck!
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Yeah yeah, Ok Lu - Good for you - but back to the subject - not you using this thread to glorify yourself and your problem solving abilities. :-&#92;\n\nBack to the subject.......\n\nI totally agree with you Phil C - It's like when I was at school and Encarta just came out. All the kids with computers used to just cut and paste HUGE chunks of it into thier homework. \n\nIt's the same as all this coursework B*llsh*t. Kids racking up a grade without even sitting an exam - It should be all down to the tests, not studying and putting together studies that equate to 60% of your final grade.\n\nLife is stressful and in the working world it all comes donw to the crunch - They should be educated to deal with pressure from a younger age - then we wouldn;t get so many flakey Grads in jobs that have no idea about thinking on thier feet.\n\nKids are lazy as hell - we are just helping that.\n\nLu - There is a trait called modesty I believe you should look into developing. But I guess you are only a kid so brag. brag, brag away my smug little one. :-|
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We moms think our kids grades reflect off of us. Meaning, if you used to get A's, and you aren't now, we must be doing something wrong. It's hard for us to figure out what WERE doing wrong!! We think were supposed to push you more, or do something!! Kinda understand?? We are always loving you guys, it's just that we want to be the best parent ever. But I guess were causing you guys stress too! I guess you need to tell us in a very sincere voice, so we don't feel like your not playing us...Cause you guys are good at that too!!! Sorry.......Make some kind of deal with your parents. If you get 1 A, and 4 B's than you get a new coat or something. The idea is to let them know your really trying.. Good luck!! PS Great GPA!! But all parents are different!!! Their parents MUST NOT HAVE TRUSTED THEM!!!
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wow seems (1)maybe either your bf could stay one semester for you and you both can transfer in the spring.   (2)try taking some courses at a community college, start applying for financial aid now, i'm from texas so i know most community colleges will have financial aid available during the summer if you sign up early enough.  or (3)stay a semester alone without him, it would just be for about 3-4 months, and then transfer in the spring.  i wish you luck, and remember why you are in college ok. don't make it all about your bf.  take care!
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Anyone can fail. It is time you learn how to fail and get a bad grade now rather than fail at your marriage or a close friendship later.\nHow should we handle failure, accept it and learn how to move on. We can fail, fall down and choke or we can fail, get up, whipe our selves off and deal with it.\n\nIt is best to tell your parents you need to talk to them one on one. Or maybe just one parent first. Explain to them why you got this grade and how it was too hard. Ask them how you can fix it. Tell them you feel bad that you have to tell them this bad news but it is stressful for you. Tell them you will try harder in this class. If was your fault and you will make it better.\nThey should understand as this is the adult thing to do. If they do not understand and get angry, please listen to them and tell them you are working on it. That is all you can do, try to do better.\n\nYou are not a failure. Anyone of us can mess up. It is the ones who act responsibly that try to fix it. Good Luck
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you should have no need of him dumping you.  I may only be 13 with  a grade point averadge of a 4.0 but you should think this.  If he really loves/likes you then he would like/love you for who you are and not how smart you are.  maybe one day you can ask him if he really loves you and put him to the test.
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school is important. you need an education to live a good life. your boyfriend obviously forgot how much work it is, or else he is just selfish. unless he is planning to take care of you for the rest of your life and pay for everything you need, he needs to understand you need to finish school to have a career. even if he says he would pay for you, you don't want to be dependent on anyone. just concentrate on your life and being successful, and if he can't understand, get rid of him because a selfish boyfriend makes for a selfish husband.
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look, life is about conquring obsticals.  i was a F### up myself in middle school, early high school.  all it really took was a little bit of effort and focus and now i am a medical student at the university of chicago.  if you focus on your goals, which should be obtainable such as remembering where you put things, finishing your tasks, paying attention in class, you'll be okay.  \n\nnew grades are always scary- you'll do fine.  it is very important that you PAY ATTENTION IN CLASS so that you dont have to study as much outside of class... and know the material when you study it.  you can be a doctor or a lawyer if you really want.  \n\nhonest to god- you can do whatever your heart desires, you just have to focus.  \n\nabout being raped... if you really are worried, seek help immediatly.  that should not effect your studies and if it does, something MUST be done.  someone will help you- you just have to talk to an authority about it.  \n\nits okay to think about boys.....  but try to think about bettering yourself.  make yourself a better person in life, be successful.   dont bother your brother too much, if he doesnt like you, just leave him alone and dont give him attitude or anything like that, just ignore him.  \n\ni hope i helped
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He's probably very tense when he has the actual exam. When I was younger I used to forget every information I had in mind when I saw the exam paper and then remember everything again when the exam is over, it gets worse with oral exams. He's too afraid of failing that this is the only thing he has on his mind. \nI suggest you show him you will still love him even if he fails.
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It depends on the class level. I find that a lot of students don't care about their grades and slack off until they get towards the end of the marking period and then start to freak out asking me if they're going to fail and what they can do now so that they don't fail. But, that's mostly in my lower-level classes. In my high-level classes, I have kids that freak out over a B and kids that won't accept anything less than an A. Yes, sometimes the pressure does come from the parents, but I've found that more often than not, the pressure comes from within the kid. They want to get into a good college, they want to get scholarships, they want to be valedictorian, and on and on. At the high school level (I teach 11th grade history), parents can no longer motivate the students. The students have to motivate themselves. Parents can punish, parents can yell, parents can stand over the kid while they do their homework, but overall, the kids have to be the ones who want the grades.
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Okay, don't cry.  That is why they are boys.  I am sure you are a beautiful girl.  I had the same issue when I was your age in school. The boys would always go for the really thick girls that looked like they flunked 3 grades.  I used to wonder "what is wrong with me".  I found out that it wasn't me at all.  Some of these girls were fast, meaning they were easy.  They put out and what boy isn't going to be interested in some fast girl that can't say no.  I know it is hard and it was for me too.  Try not to pay it any mind.  I have seen these same girls and boys now since they are adults and my have they changed, and not in a good way.  Don't get down on yourself.  You WILL have a boyfriend but don't get hung up on this.  Just relax and don't think about it so much. I am sure if you are as pretty as you say you are that some boy probably already secretly admires you.  Hang in there, it won't be long before someone sweeps you off your feet.