There's this girl that's IMing my boyfriend and she pretends to be my friend and knows a lot of stuff that only he and I know.  I haven't told any of my real friends those things so the only way she could have known is if she read our chat logs.  Oh yeah, of course, she's out to seduce him.  Now, she's also telling him lies such that I'm unfaithful to him and all that. I am sooo pissed because I have been a *very good girl*.  My bf is rather possessive and thinks there's smoke to the fire. (He copy pasted their chat logs for my benefit) I denied it but he won't believe me. What can I do to make him believe me? How can I find out who this unknown enemy is?  Is this just a ploy of his to test how trustworthy I am if he's not watching? Any input would be appreciated.  You don't have to answer all questions.
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I'm sorry this is happening to you, but as you said you have not been a good girl. Lying is never a good thing, but if you can live with it more power to you. Now first you have to challenge you man's manhood. You have to seem upset that he will believe made up B.S. tips from a chick he doesn't even know. Then, show how much it hurts that rumors make him question you loyalty to him. Don't over do it. Be suddle, but convincing. Also, consider the fact that he may know who this person is and they may have formed an alliance against you. YES, some females are dirty like that, anything to get your man. If this is true, there is a chance the battle is already lost. Also, you can use that you your advantage. Try to make him understand or believe that the chick will do or say anything to take him away. If is someone you told this information to, use that to your advantage by saying, "She heard all the wonderful things I said about you. Now, she wants you for herself." This boost his ego, and lets him know how happy he makes you and how much you appreciates him.\n\nI hope all goes well. Also...\n\nMoral of the story:\nDon't tell sluts all your personal business.
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myspace is great w/ stuff like this! do u no this person? if u do talk to them and tell them that they need to leave u alone!  also talk to ur bf some more... make sure he knows that u love him as much as u do and make sure he knows about this "threat".  if u dont know this guy then dont worry about it because how is he going to tell ur bf anyways??  my myspace account is www.myspace.com/jessicacharity so if u wanna check it out that would be cool.... lol just ignore him.. i wouldnt worry so much as long as ur bf knows that u love him and never cheated.\n\nJessi *muah* good luck tho
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I don't think you're overreacting at all. If he can easily lie about the small, stupid stuff, then it makes it that much easier for him to lie about big stuff like cheating. And if he's lying about going somewhere, then he probably didn't want you to know he was there and who he was with. I wouldn't trust him, which it doesn't sound like you do. Do you really want to be with someone you don't trust? Having to constantly worry that he's lying to you or cheating on you? Trust me it's not worth the effort. It'll just make you crazy! You deserve better!
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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it sounds like he has a girlfriend. It might not be the best thing to do, but I would "spy" on him and find out. If you see a girl, then its obvious! There is no reason for unnecessary hurt!!!
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ouch. sorry but it sound slike you have been lied to and played. that boy is having his cake and eating it too. he is screwing both of you over and probably making up different stories to tell both of you. you should find a way to call her and ask her. but i would definitely confront him, but he will probably tell you more lies. it sure sounds like he is with both of you, why else would he have made something up to tell her instead of just telling her it was over? and why does he spend time with her and go places with her and call her??? that is just crap!
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girl , wake up and smell the truth! he is hiding something from you , that is for sure! he either has another girlfriend or he has a secret life ;) but i think the girlfriend thing is more probable
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OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
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DEFINATELY having an affair...  This is classic...  Seriously, there would be no reason for this girl to lie to you about what your husband has told her, and I don't care who she is, she has already kissed your man, texts your man, calls your man...you need to tell your husband that you are packing up all of your stuff and moving out unless he comes clean with you immediately.  \n\nYou probably need to kick him to the curb...
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You sound like a very loving person. It sounds like you have a wonderful friendship with your friend. And I think that the basis of friendship is honesty. \nI think you should consider telling the guy, when he calls, to be honest with his girl. Convince him to tell her how he feels. He sounds like he isn't as honest to his girl"friend" as you are. \nIf he isn't very cooperative at being honest and continues the discrete behavior, ask your friend in a round about way like:\n"Hey, there is something I think you should know but I am pretty sure it will upset you. Do you want me to tell you?"\n\nShe will say yes, and if so proceed slowly no need to get it all out right away, ease her into it with something like:\n"Ok, I'm not sure his intentions or if he has even told you about it... I hope he has but it feels like hes being discrete about it which is why I think you should know..." etc etc\n\nDon't forget to reassure her that you value your friendship and that you truly hoped the sexual playtime would help her relationship but that you don't want to feel that the encounter is part of some hidden agenda.\n\nAsk her how she wants you to handle future encounters with him, her, and them. She may want you in the relationship, she may want him out. The most important thing is being honest upfront to avoid any misunderstandings. \n\nSame thing with him, if you value his company treat him the same way, honestly. \nIf he is being pushy, ask him questions... this slows guys down and makes them thing more about the conversation and its potential for direction rather than the goal(i.e. "getting" the girl) and read his responses. \nDishonest people are easy to read because it feels dishonest.\nAnd don't forget that you can cross reference everything said by either of them with the significant other for even more insight into who's telling what to whom.\n\nIf your lucky everything will workout and they will love you for being a very big help, a very loving friend, and an honest person. \nIf not hopefully you can salvage 1 of the relationships be that theirs, you & hers, or you and his. \nDon't forget to be honest to yourself too, Ask yourself what scenerio you would like the most. Then tell them about it. Honesty has power unlimited when used properly.
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They are both lying to you!  Wake up!  Neither of them say anything about the fact that they contact each other - that's one.  Number two is the fact that he got angry when you brought it up.  Number three is her b.s. response that it is all a scheme to make you jealous.  And what kind of friend does something like that? A scheme that they kept a secret?  How is that supposed to make you jealous if they don't tell you about it?  Please...wake up and smell the coffee.  You should get rid of both of them.
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hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
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good on you for telling her off.\nThey are probably continuing more discreetly.\nFace it, they both lied to you until you found them out.
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Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
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Leave things alone and let it work itself out. You haven't done anything so if you start trying to fix it then it's only going to make you look even more guilty. He'll learn in time that you never did any of the things she said and he'll have to be the one to find a way to make it up to you. Let him see that your a stronger person then what she is making you out to be. and he will respect you more for it. I would just let him know that your not guilty but your not going to start trying to prove it to him either, and that he'll have to work it out himself. If you start having to prove things to someone you will be having to prove things to them from now on. If his going to believe you then let nature take its course. As for her why are you even friends with her. Dump her and if you do date her ex so what, that's why his her ex.
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Would you want her to tell you if your boyfriend had cheated on you?  I know I would want to know.  Friend's look out for each other.  Just make sure it's not just a "rumor" first... if it is a fact then yes, tell her.
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Ask yourself if you can trust her. If you can't, regardless of if she is truly being honest or not, then how can you have a healthy relationship? It sounds like there have been issues with trust with her in the past, and games to make each other jealous. Is that the kind of relationship you want to have?
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Are you interested in your friends boyfriend? or Has he made a pass at you and you want her to know what a jerk he is? Because if you are wanting to tell her because you are planning on getting with him, I want you to know you have crossed the wrong line here. Girlfriends have a code, and no man, can destroy that between us!!!