I really like this girl who told me while we were both drunk that she is totally only into bad boy types, She likes to have fun, she is beautiful, and a little problematic because of being a lil rebellious to her mom. \n\nHow do I turn her around and make her notice that  there is a good guy (me) available for her who will take care of her and never hurt her?\n\nAlso, I think she really likes this guys who's a jerk, who has no ambition and a bad influence to her. But She really likes him coz he is exciting.
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1. She isn't problematic because she is rebellious.  She is rebellious because she is problematic.  She is problematic because she has issues that she isn't even aware of yet.  Chances are she has daddy issues, which is why she likes the "bad-boy" types.  They use and misstreat her just enough to trigger that *abandonment* issue and cause her to try to prove she is worthy of loving.\n\n2. You can't turn her around.  It took years of childhood problems for her to develop those issues.  She apparently likes the way she is operating.  When she decides she is tired of being used and misstreated, she will need years of counseling to fix those issues.  \n\n3.  The "no-ambition having jerk" is only exciting to girls who find the notion of being a single welfare-mother abandoned by their *baby's daddy* an exciting concept.\n\nRun... run far and fast... beauty can not erase the heavy baggage that goes along with the girl you are wanting.
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some of us girls like guys who are "bad boys", some like them rich and pretty, and so on and so on.I know I like guys who are kind and affectionate, but also will have a tough side(just not to me). So I am in the group of girls that like a mix of everything. Just find out about the girl and the past guys she has dated.Don't try to be like those guys, because odds are they broke up for a reason. Just find out why they aren't "together" anymore. If it was because he was to pushy and bossy, be sweet and let her make some of the decisions.
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If you like (love) her and she is with someone else than respect her for who she is with now and when she is available if you still feel that way she will notice you.\n\nIf this guy is as bad as you say she will see this sooner or later and it won't seem like you were trying to interfere if you don't get involved other than being there for her.\n\nAs for caring, you should care what happens if you really do love her.  Some lessons have to be learned for us to make better choices in life.
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I do that when I like a guy....I would recomend U to ask her out. Also be observant. Does she punch other guys the same way she does you? If the answer is no, tyhen she might be into you and this is the way she lets U know about that.
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The good news is that there are some very positive signs. So, basically, you are asking how do you bring this friendship up to the next level, right?\n\nAs a rule, girls will give a man three chances "to be a man." She's texting you, she was disappointed when you did not show at the pub (that was you first chance), and then you cooked her a meal and watched TV together (your second chance). The texting speaks for itself. She is not going to be texting a guy in whom she has no interest. As to being stood up at the pub, you have to understand how girls think. She most likely thinks you were with another girl. In a way, that's good. You want her to believe that you are a man in demand, that other girls want you.\n\nThe meal and TV the other night was a nice score for you, but you missed a chance to kick up the relationship a notch. You still have a nother chance. This is what I recommend. Tell her you have a new DVD (something that you know in advance she is interested in: music, comedy, whatever). Invite her over to watch the DVD. She probably say yes. DON'T COOK. She already knows you can cook. You want to focus your attention on HER, not on cooking. Got it? DON'T ORDER OUT. Again, the food is going to be a distraction. Nothing kills a mood more that having garlic and onion on your breath. I recommend simple mild cheese and crackers, possibly a little bit of cut fruit and vegetables. She'll like your good sense and healthy eating habits. Here is the kicker. DO have a good bottle of wine. Turn the lights down, and have some candles ready to be lit. Girls love it. It is slightly cliche, but the girls love it. Now remember, when she arrives, do keep the lights turned on. She might freak out when she arrives and she enters a dark apartment. I also strongly urge you to have fresh cut flowers in a vase on the table. \n\nLight the candles when you sit down to watch the DVD. Sit close to her, and put your are around her. If she likes you, she will not be repulsed. Play it by ear. She might respond by putting her hand on you leg, or touching your arm. When she does that, give her a light kiss on the cheek, neck, or lips. That will send shivers down her spine.\n\nWhen it comes time for her to leave (assuming that you decide not to go "all the way" although that is a distinct possibility), be sure to give her a strong hug, and a passionate kiss. Take two or three flowers from the vase, and give it to her. Make sure that you make arrangements for your next date. Remember, you are a man in high demand. Don't make a date for the next evening. Give her at least four or five days to stew, preferably a week. Also, don't call her or text her during that week. Trust me on this one. Remember... you are a man in high demand. (There is a reason why I am repeating this.) Girls have a strange ego. They only want a man that they believe other girls want.
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Oh my god, like so many things in my life im glad im not the only one in strange situations.  I dont really think this question has a viable answer that anyone can tell you. There is no black and white and this one, its all grey.  I believe that if you like her then you should stand by her, but dont wedge yourself between her and her Bf.  Show her your love and that you care for her, she will love you more for understanding than for telling her that she messed up.  and thats what i think that she more than likely did. You guys had issues, she was upset and thought it would be better on "the other side". Truth is no matter what one does things will always be bad untill they love themselves and who they are. She likes girls, she realizes that now.\n\nYoure going to have problems with the father of the child. (he has a penis). But because of the child he forever has to be a part of her life. Nothing you can do about that.\n\nJust take her in and accept her, help her through this time. If she plays with you then thats just life. We cannot predict exactly what she will think in the future.  If you really want to be with her, then just roll with it.\n\nsorry sweetheart, maybe im just babbling but i dont know what else to say. wish i could help.
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Just try to be yourself, and have confidence. I don't know any girl who doesn't like a man with confidence, but don't be cocky about it. Slip it in casually and don't make to much of a big deal about it. Something like "hey hows it goin? If you're free tonight did you want to (insert whatever you're asking her to)?" Whatever she says stay calm and say ok that's cool. And don't linger around for to long after, that makes things weird.. Good luck. =)
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I'd say "No" to something and stick to it.  That should trow her for a loop!  Be careful that you're not just going along with everything to keep her.  That will not keep her.  Girls want guys with balls, who will stick up for what they want and what they believe in...
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She is depressed and probably feeling insecure. I believe that she probably likes this guy because he makes her feel younger. However, you are right. The grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely, he will probably date her for "the candy" and once someone more attractive comes along, he'll most likely leave her. I hate to be so brutal. \nHere are some tips to boost her ego and hopefully help her realize that you are such a good guy:\n*pull her closer when talking to someone of the opposite sex, even if it's a relative.\n*surprise her with wine and bubble bath, possibly leading into a massage?\n*do fun activities with her, go out and have fun together.\n*tell her she is beautiful and give her affection in public(in moderation)\n*as crude as this sounds (I apologize if anyone is offended) but give her foreplay! \n\nIf all else fails and she still leaves you, if you truely love this woman, be there for her when she falls down. If she does this again, then she doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't let yourself get stepped on. \n I wish you the best of luck. \n*
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Not even. I think the mistake is guys mistake being 'bad' as the same thing as being aggresive. If you know what you want, and you make it clear you want her but won't compromise yourself to have her, she'll respect that. And if she respects you, she's more likely to develp feelings for you.
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I think "Christy" is tough, but right.\n\n"She already said she doesn't think about you in a romantic way and that's not likely to change." On that point, she is right IF you keep doing all those nice things for her.\n\nOf course, it's great that you do all those things, but you gotta think strategic, buddy!\n\nYou're giving away a lot, but you're not getting what you want (no, I don't mean THAT. I mean her commitment and her giving herself, her whole self.)\n\nShe's not taking a risk with you, and that could be a problem. What if she becomes attracted to another guy? Then you might feel bad about not taking a stand sooner.\n\nFor all sorts of reason (timing, emotional unreadiness, etc.) she might be in her right not to get involved romantically. But that doesn't change the fact that a guy has got to stand up for what he believes. If you believe you guys are good together, then express that conviction in no uncertain terms.\n\nGood luck!
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Tell Dave to take her some place really casual at first, don't freak her out. I don't know what the guys were like who hurt her before, and I personally know it's very hard to trust again. You seem like you know Dave really well though, remind Carrie of all his good qualities and that it's only dinner/a movie/etc. Maybe talk to Dave too and mention how you hope he treats her really well because she's had bad past experiences, and not to move too fast in any direction, just to let her lead. You could even arrange to call her mid-date to check up on her (I've had people do this, lame I know but sometimes you need an out if you're having a bad time, nice to know you at least have the option).
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This is a tough one, but not unusual. Many girls your daughter's age are attracted to the "bad" boy. She probably has no interest in a decent guy right now. One thing you need to be careful of is not to be so adamant in your distrust/dislike for this young man that it drives your daughter closer to him. You can't get her to stop liking him. In fact, girls your daughter's age often desire to find someone who "needs" them.... and if she senses that her bad boy needs someone to rally to his defense, she'll do it. I would calmly and clearly explain your concerns to your daughter. She's old enough where she has to make her own decisions, and her own mistakes. You just need to be there in case she makes a bad move with this guy. Good luck.
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I have a friend who has the same problem. There's not much we can do. She'll have to choose on her own to give nice guys a try. My friend Kim finally decided to pick the nice guy after years of abusive relationships (her father died and her brother took over. he was a pretty big a$$hole, so he was the kind of guy she would go for) Anyway, she saw the light side of life after a while and dated this great guy named Josh. He was pretty cook. Now she's looking for that sort of guy on purpose. Your friend apparently likes being treated like crap, so don't give her a shoulder to cry on when they hurt her. Just tell her that it's been her choice all along. Maybe she'll come around. BUT be sure to be her friend about everything else though. You don't want to lose her. Anyway, don't let it bother you so much. It'll start to affect your relationships if you do.
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It seems to me that this girl have an attitude problems or she don't know how to express herself. I'm a female myself and I get mad quick but as I gotten older I can control it more. But this gurl want you to kiss her butt, that's why she get mad when she hangs up in you and don't call her back Good FOR HER, because she needs to learn how to COMMUNICATE that's the key if something is bothering her. I think that it is good that y'all are friends. If you really like this gurl than tell her that whatever is bothering her just to talk to you about the situation. relationships are going to work overnight it takes time and trust.
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Ever heard the words..."nice guys finish last"...well its true, treat her like shit, ignore her and see how long it takes for her to come back. Girls like a little competition and some challenge in a relationship...trust me I have been there. If all else fails, kick her to the curb and find another girl that is worth your adoration. Good luck.
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From what you have said it seems to be great just take what she is saying as a precaution for you . It will happen soon enough just give it time and she will open up to you even more. You have gain her trust so everything is basically like clock work she is going to be yours now the thing is when it does happen how far are you going to go. Miss might  just  want a one night stand she might want something more serious so when it all happen you better be what you pro tray to be a nice guy  or it will just be another GOOD THING GONE BAD SO BECAREFUL HOPE I HAVE HELP GOOD LUCK