My husband's cousin is living with us, and he has a girlfriend (sleep buddy) that was coming over a few nights a week to see him.  Now she has been there for over a week and has made herself at home.  She is driving us nuts!!  How do we tell her to leave without causing a big fuss or causing hurt feelings between my husband and his cousin (they are like brothers).
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Tell her someone else is coming to town who is planning to stay with you.
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This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
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Are you at his house? Is he at your house? Are you two living together? By reading your question, I will say that you put too much weight on this matter.  My mother is like that.  She will stay up all night waiting to see when my father or me will come home if we said something wrong that day.  This is normal human behavior. However, I like to caution you that a relationship which consist of arguing and one person staying up all night until the other person coming home (so that they can talk) is no real relationship.  He is probably seeing someone I'm sorry.  A man is not a REAL man if he can't be precise.  Men tends to excused themselves to get some free time or some space.  Sweety, in the long run, you are going to be the one who loses at the end.  You will never feel any better in the morning, trust me.  There are many other nice guys out there.  However, please look at the situation carefully and see why are you two arguing.  You may be the problem.  All your worries at night will just push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.  If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriends and your family about this.  This is SERIOUS matter.  A sweetheart like you does not need to be staying up all night and worrying like that.  Instead you should be sleeping well and warm and waking up to beautiful flowers next to you, from him.  Do not do anything more to stress you..   Serpeanta@yahoo.com
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Girl, both of you need to get a place of your own. Don't you know that as long as you live with her you are never gonna be your "own woman" in her place. She is always gonna blame you and take his side. She needs to stay the heck outta your business.
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Seeing how you and your girlfriend spend the nights together at her place all of the time maybe its time that the two of you get a place together! Leaving the friend roomate to fend for herself!
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My girlfriend had a similar problem with her older sister, she was a brat that was spoiled by her mother.  She treats her younger brother and sisters like trash and comes home yelling and kicking when things don't go her way.  She would go to their room to eat and put dirty cloth on their bed, and would leave without cleaning after herself.\n\nMy girlfriend and her siblings finally decided to take action to stop this madness.  They changed all the locks on the doors and told her elder sister either she respect them like human being or don't come back.\n\nHer elder sister went mad and start kicking and screaming when she heard that. She end up being asked to leave and kick out of the house at 1am in the morning, going back to her own place.\n\nAfter that she started to respect my girlfriend and her younger siblings on the phone and in person, althought she hasn't made her presence in the house so far after that night.\n\nYour family need to come together and tell your brother that this is not the way to go; disrespect your family is never right doesn't matter who you are. Your family must take a stand.\n\nI understand most family don't want to be firm and stand their ground because they are afraid of losing their children.  But the fact is your family already lost your brother and the only way for him to respect and come back is to show him your determination to your ideal as a family.\n\nGive him time to think, tell him if he still wants his family, he just as to respect you and your parents like what a nomraly child would do.  You're not asking alot here.\n\nWhether he accept / understand is irrevleant, don't try to convince him right now (he's probably not gonna agree), just let him know what your family decided to do.\n\nYour brother is probably not gonna budge now because he has his own family, but somewhere down the line when things don't go good he'll remember his sister and his parents.  That's where he'll come back and that's when you and your family will have a chance of change him by accepting him back.\n\nIts going to take time and patience for him to come back, but you have to let him know where your family stand for him to come back at all.  Don't push him away, just tell him where your family stands and ask him to think about it.  \n\nIts time to take a stand for what you believe.
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I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
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Make a clean break, it won't work sharing the flat.\nOne will get jealous if the other one brings someone home (most obvious reason).\nIf they are under the same roof they will end up back in the same bed & then it will start up over again - then break up again & so on.\nMaybe she won't want to share the spare room.  Maybe she might want him to move out.\nBest thing he can do is sit down & talk it out with his partner
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Do you have to stay in this CHU with her?  If not I would definetly work on getting a new room mate.  You can't stop her from using you as an excuse because you cant be with her when she tells these lies, but let her know if it ever comes down to it you will NOT lie for her and if anyone asks you questions about you being responsible for her being late, let her know you will be telling the truth.  OR f*ck her up and teller she will get a lot more of that if she doesnt straighten up her act.
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Sometimes a person has to do what they have to do.  I get real tired of it, too.  In the end, does it really matter?  If you don't you KNOW you will get blamed.  Is it worth that?  How about an ultimatum?  It;s someone else's turn this year!  It has never worked for me especially with my husbands whack-o family.
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This is a trust issue.  Do you trust her?  What makes you so upset that she talks to your cousin?  And he is your cousin.  If you cant trust your girlfriend, you should at least trust your cousin.  Leave this alone, if something does ever go wrong, let her go and be thankful that you found out about her while she was still your girlfriend, and not your wife.
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Well, definitely don't say anything to them in front of the heavy girl, that will just embarass her more.  I think I'd call both of them individually at home (or go see them) and say something like, "What you all are doing is really mean to _______ and it probably hurts her feelings.  It's going to stop and if you can't stop it, then you need to find another team to play for."  I'd definitely speak to them individually so they don't start acting stupid in that "group mentality" sort of thing.
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Go to their homes and/or invite them when he's not there.  You really need to discuss the issue with him if it's that important (yeah i know, easier said than done).  Maybe marriage counseling, if this marriage is worth it.  If not...
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Tell her , that you want to learn the hard way if she thinks he is so terrible! That she should leave you , and if you bump your head , you know not to do it again in another situation!
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As far as your "good friend" DO NOT LET YOUR MAN GO TO HER HOUSE WITH OUT YOU.  That is your friend not his, I can see if it was his friend.  There have been to many instances when matters like that turn into infidelity.  Be careful with this one.  If I was you I wouldn't allow it, and if he puts up a fight, then he is sleeping with her or if he continues to go without you knowing, he is cheating.  After all she is your friend and he should have female friends of his own.  Another thing, is everything going good between you two?  If there is some fighting and bad vibes I wouldn't allow him to go run to her.  Me and my man had a dicussion the other day about this subject. Something happened between him and his best friends girl, before us.  She came on to him when he was visiting with out his friend.  He left when she tried and he told his friend about it.  His friend did not believe him of course, she called her man before he did.  They use to hang out together and go out so it thought it was okay to go over to her house and wait for his friend to get there.  So you see where this is going you just don't let things like this happen, and you don't put yourself in that kind of predictement.  Not to say that everybody is like that but you don't want to take that chance with your man and your friend.  What we both agreed on is when you are in a relationship and you make friends with with your partners best friend who happens to be the opposite sex neither one of you should be hanging out with that person without your mate around it is not cool, it's some what tachy, and disrespectful, even when you are married.  I mean you have to have a very legit reason to go to your man's male friend house alone, and the same goes for him.  We leave that for the for married people who have established strong trust in each other and their friends.  Couples who have been married for years and their friends play a big part in their life.  Other than that, giiirrrl you better stop that s*** quick!  But sorry to say love, it already sounds like your man is doing your friend so start preparing to kick both of there a***** and dump his loser a**.  Move on and take my advice don't allow your man to see your girlfriends without you.  Just keep your girlfriends at a distance until you find out what kind of man you are dealing with, PERIOD!  Good luck and much love.  If you need to chat later feel free to contact me.
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if marrying your best friend counts then yes I have done this...... and no matter who you move in with, you and the other person will change..... getting a place of your own is a challenge and demanding.... you either make it or you don't...... and there is compromise from both parties....... getting used to each others habits....... likes and dislikes...... living with anyone takes compassion, forgiveness, and lots of humor...... one suggestion tho........ sit down with your cousin and do the *what if* game...... ya know, make up situations and ask each other how you would each react........ like bringing some one home ? or a pet ? or if you ate each others last twinkie ? then I would also make a few ground rules and set boundaries as to what can and can NOT go on in the apartment...... take my word for it, you will run into situations that will anger one or both of you....... to avoid hurt feelings and arguments I suggest strongly a sit down and talk about everything you can think of day........ God bless
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Well since my home is my castle.....\nShe needs to be put in her place immediately.  Thats YOUR home, and you have every right to set her straight.  Doesnt matter how long they've been together.  One does NOT enter anyone's home without knocking.  That's simply rude and disrespectful.\nAs for calling her Aunt, I'd suggest (to her) they may do so when she becomes their aunt (via marriage)\nAs for moving in with mom....That's a matter for mom and her son!  Now if you feel that's all too harsh.  Then I'd have a family confab, and bring it all out, with all present.  That way e/one gets to speak their peace openly, and it does not become a 'he said, she said' kinda thing.\nTake charge of your home, and I wish you the very best!