my boyfriend got mad at my because i wasnt paying any attention to him on his birthday (even though i was) i was kissing him telling him how much i love and and holding his hand and once dinner came out he was all quite so i was too but i still held his hand  after dinner he was all pissed off then he opened all his gifts and he still was all mad and look sad so i kissed him on his cheak and shai dwell you have me ...all of me forever and always. after like 10 mins he left out for the car his mom wasd like go and talk to him so i tryed and he said nothing to me i feel bad the next day he called and i was like tell me why you didnt want anything to do with me he said that i wasnt paying any attention to him i was like whatever i tryed to do my best for you on your birthday and you just get pissed at me what do you want me to do .. do you want me to prove to you that i really love you    so i did and he broke down and cryed for like 30mins or more
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no its not a bad thing to make him cry that means hes human and is not a hard core asshole. maybe it was that you were quiet and your usually not that shocked him or it was that you told him that he has you forever and always men are so hard to read i have been married for 9 years and i can honestly say he says that i am ignoring him but i not his thing is he thinks i am pissed off all the time and i'm not i have 3 kids so when they go to bed i am done talking. i think your ok and just be open and honest with him and you guys should be fine
214831
I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
77117
Well, if he has to work he has to work. You can't get upset at him for that. If you feel he is just neglecting you I wouldn't invest anymore of my time into the relationship. He may care for you but honestly doesn't have enough time. You sound like a clingy woman so it would probably be in your best interest to find someone who can devote more time to you.
441953
ive felt that excat same way! my boyfriend is an isolater, and wants to deal with his problems on his own. it really makes me mad because i want to help him, i want him to just talk and get it out, but you cant make anyone do anything that they dont want to. im the kind of person that wants to talk about problems, you know, get them off my chest, but because he isnt like that, he doesnt undersand my need to deal with things that way. he feels that nobody understans what he is feeling and by telling me, i will only worry and not be able to fix them anyway. he loves me more than anything, but since he doesnt deal with things my way, he doesnt really know how. it doesnt mean he doesnt care about me, it just means he doesnt handel things the same as me! i hope things get better hunny!
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You are too scare of your boyfriend. Always remember, where there's love there's only love....there's no room for prevarication or fear. Tell him the truth. If he loves you, he won't get mad.\n\n"Where there's love, there's only love"
321732
uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
422936
Well, I get bored reading your case, but I'm also having a very bad emotional day, I just want to get out from my apartment and find a girl that really loves me, because my girlfriend doen't appreciate me. \nWell, try to have a nice day, I just want to tell somebody what I was feeling at this moments. See you
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Same exact thing happened to me! i have this neibor and every night we would sneek out to see eachother and i'd be like, ok were just hanging out, nothing big. and then id see those eyes and BANG i kissed him AGAIN. my boyfriend got pissed. hes like, if you love ME then you wont be sneeking out to see him! so this is what i did: i didnt want to hurt my neibors feelings, but i really really wanted to keep my boyfriend, so i just looked at the situation for a long time and tried to get my prioritys straight. thats all you have to do. look at the situation, see how you feel about him, and how your friends feel about him, and how your mom feels about him, and see which feelings are more important to you. if you care more about your friends feelings, then just stop. use your friends like a motivator to not do it. if your feelings are more important, go for it ; )
652256
I believe this "boyfriend" is a looser and you should dump him.  He sounds quite selfish and immature.
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He has made it very clear that your feelings arent very important to him, and I dont think he loves you as much as you love him, or as much as you deserve to be loved!\nYou sound like a wonderful girl, and there are plenty of good guys who would treat you right and appreciate all that you do. Hold out for just that!\nYour boyfriend might be sorry, but he needs a lesson in life. You cant treat people badly and expect them to put up with it!
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He might be pulling the whole "distant and mean" routine in order to get you to initiate the break-up.  If your boyfriend is particularly lazy, I would bet that this is the case.\n\nThat being said, there is a good likelihood that he is simply at a junction in his life where he is having to divert some of his attention from you and put it on other things.  This happens from time to time and it is something you will have to come to deal with if you ever hope to forge a meaningful and long-lasting relationship with someone.
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Hopefully the feeling is mutually (meaning your boyfriend loves you). If so, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. If your boyfriend is a mature individual he will not listen to outside sources. If he feels that something may be true than he should come directly to you...go directly to the source. Just remember people are petty. People will do anything and everything to get what they want...especially if they are involved with someone else...you always want what you can't have.
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don't feel bad... it's ok.  if he really wanted to work it out, he would've tried. don't blame urself..... he said himself he wasn't trying at all.  it's possible that u answered him later than he was expecting, but love is fickle.. timing is really important.. and love can quickly turn sour when u don't cultivate it.\n\njust try concentrating on school, studies, exercise, friends, family and everything else. make everything Positive, Healthy, and Happy in ur life, so u have a lot to offer to any guy...and u will know when someone is taking care of u the "right" way, not ignoring u... u know?  :)  ur not even saying u wouldn't take him back, ur  just saying that he wasn't giving u any attention. that's a valid reason to be upset, and he needs to listen. if he doesn't do his part to make u feel Secure, then it's partly his fault too!\n\ntake some time out and ignore... be nice, but don't beg him or cry or anything.. life is too short to worry about "shoulda woulda coulda".... if he wants to, he will respond. good luck
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with me and my boyfriend it would be me either kissing his neck or gettin mad at him...he says when im mad he wants me more and u knoe wat even though my boyfriend loves my body hes not here for that he is here for me he cares more about my feelings.&.my health rather than my top and bottom
169495
You have a perfectly valid reason for being upset. If he loves you he should respect your feelings. He basically lied to you. You can do better.
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whatever it was he said to upset her, if she really cares for him she probably just needs a while to calm down and eventually she will talk. but most women know how to hold a grudge for a long time. but i don't think there is much that u can do at this point. or maybe, since you guys are in to writing letters, he could write her a letter apologizing for whatever he said and telling her how he feels lost without her. or maybe he can try the more bold approach and go talk to her face to face. it dosen't hurt to try, if he wants her then he should go and get her. good luck.
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it's easy girl, since m a man, so i can understand most men's mind.\nwell, just try to observe his action. does he care about things relates to your not? if he loves you, he'd care even it's just a petty things. \n\nIf he loves you, he will remember all what you said. what u want, what u like, when your birthday is, ...\n\nalso you can try to blurt out something, for instance, say this MY birthday is  on XX/xx/XXXX. and a few days later try remind about it again, and wait to see his reaction. if he confirm the right birthday, m pretty sure he loves you\n:p. since i used to be like this.