I understand women want to be treated with respect by men, and to feel safe wherever, (and I wholey agree). However, would you rather have a modern man, ( that treats women like sex toys, despises marriage, experts the woman to pay her own way in life, and dreads fatherhood) or an old fashioned man, (that considers women precious, respects the responsibility of being a husband and father, and is proud of his, so called "archaic", duties as a man) ?
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Old fashioned - definitely, and I hope I instilled those values in my son.  Hopefully the "old fashioned" man will become the new fad in a few more years the way everything seems to come around.
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because feminism says doing what men do is better than doing what women do.\n\nthis sexism must stop. the tasks of the female role, such as raising the kids and being a homemaker, are just as honourable, useful and downright important as financially supporting the family.\n\ni agree that Western women, at the moment, have less power than men because the church and our society's institutions are so patriarchal. this is because of the church, which, as detailed in the da vinci code, has targeted women - trying to banish the sacred feminine and the goddess from legitimate spiritual experience. the best thing therefore, is to return the sacred feminine and the goddess to society, and particularly women. then they will feel equally powerful, just like men feel powerful having the god and masculinity celebrated as being good in society. \n\nonce this has been done, perhaps western women will feel more willing to engage in their normal roles, instead of trying to do what men do - which are the only respected ones. i can actually think of no more important a task really, these days, than raising fine children though. i think having both parents work and sending the kids off to daycare is not the best way to go about this. the best way is to have either the mother or the father stay home. i think the mother would be the best, as mothers are better generally at raising the kids and caring for the home and maintaining social networks. men are better at going out and doing dangerous and stressful work, or boring, grinding routine work (however you want to put it both are valid) to make sure there is 'bread on the table' (well, the resources to get it/make it at least... the mother puts the bread on the table literally lol, although my dad did make a fantastic loaf of bread... i'm by no means a fundamentalist when it comes to gender roles, as some other answerers make you out to be.)\n\ni really encourage your honesty about the way you were brought up to look at what men and women are supposed to do. all too often we are afraid to raise this point. there is an identical question about men. however, no masculist movement has gone and made men feel valuable only if they do what women do. the prevailing belief in society is, still, unfortunately, that it is shameful for a man to appear like a woman (physically and by doing what women do, like nursing/homemaking).\n\nfor inspiration about this, look at http://www.glennsacks.com he is a major men's activist in america. he is a househusband. i know, it's not what he's supposed to do as a man, but, as some other answerers have said, it's what he and his wife have worked out is best, and best for her (not to mention the kids.) \n\nbasically though, i admire you for having the guts to ask this most fundamental of questions - 'Why isn't the world like it is supposed to be?'\n\nWell done for not being guilty at being disappointed that the world isn't as you expected it to be, based on how you were brought up, and asking a question about it.
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You're right, women are expected to remain chaste, virginal, and quiet. We are told that being sexual or anything but a lady is bad. We still live in a patriarchal society men have the upper hand. Men still get paid more than women, Men still have better health care, there is no birth control for men.
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a true gentleman will still be a true gentleman then. \n\nJust single moms who work the same job and do as well or better then men want the same pay, that is all!!! It is the single moms that are raising most of the kids. If the men are true gentlemen they would do what is right. I do realize some do, but many do not!!!\n\nMen have the upper hand some now. I see that changing soon.
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your question is very interesting and  personally I like woman for her simplicity. and for her maturity. Most of men do not like a complicate woman.
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Okay, I know Im a gal, but I must say this.....I LOVE the fact that my husband speaks his mind. We have had arguments of opinion, but I would HATE him if he just agreed with me to please me. I want a MAN not a wimp. I fell in love with my man for being who he is, not want he thinks I want. We have a very strong relationship because even when we disagree at least we are comfortable enough to be who we are without fear. Love that about us!
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Good Question!\n\nWell…Over the course of my thirty-nine years of living, I’ve noticed this time and time again. And the thing that I find interesting about this is, most women that I’ve known over the years say that they want a good man, yet, they choose the opposite. It basically ties into the example of the male in their lives as they grew up. Most of the ladies, didn’t have a true example of a man or father figure that displayed how a woman was suppose to be treated, therefore, when it came time for them to choose their mate they had a tendency to choose the wrong one. Have you ever noticed how a certain lady can continue to choose the same type of man (abusive, etc.)? Well, if you would sit down and have a conversation with her then you will find out why she does so. Somewhere within herself she feels that she deserves it and she’s not worthy to receive love, which is not true at all. My sister was one of them, but now she’s learned how to love herself and the man that’s in her life knows how to treat a lady.\n\nBe blessed.
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a long time ago society was matriarchal.  women were respected, and everything was passed down from mother to daughter.\n\nthen men realized that they were physically stronger, and things started to change.  religion went from being goddess based to being patriarchal.\n\nwomen were no longer respected but despised.  everything that was wrong with society was blamed on women.  from the garden of eden to inciting lust.\n\nit has taken centuries for us to regain some of what was lost.  \nall the things that you mentioned are man's way of keeping control.  we don't drive them to anything.  it's their own fear that makes them do the things that they do.\n\nfor the record i don't think that all men are like that.  my husband is a wonderful man, and we have been together for thirty years.
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He should have just said "thank you" and let it go.  It isn't a big deal.  \n\nAs far as I know, modern etiquette would have it ok for a woman to hold the door for a man.  The way I see it, its a nice way to let men know they are equally valued/cared for.  Why should they have a life of nobody ever doing anything nice for them just because they're men.\n\nMaybe at a formal event it would be nicer to stay with traditional etiquette, but if people are just walking into the drug store I don't see why formal etiquette needs to be followed.
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Not always, respecting elders is an old tradition that won't last very long. Compare it to the tradition of women being not equal to men. They wanted better rights and they got them. Maybe young people will eventually get their rights too.
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Personally I think it's a two way street. Both men and women stereotype the opposite sex. I think most of the women/girls that you see posting these questions are using the site to vent since they know there is going to be at least one women/girl out there who agrees that their husband/boyfriend is a jerk. In doing this they are only emphasizing the stereotype given to them by men that women are whiny, nagging, money grabbing, bitches, that hate sex. \n\nI don't really think there are any rules as you suggest but that there are common courtesies expected of both genders. Men and women both have expectations of how they feel they should be treated or respected and it is up to individuals to know what if any that there partner expects from them. \n\nAs far as rules all women have it again depends on the maturity level of the women. Most are common courtesy although the more immature women tend to have expectations that are not reasonable but this comes from not having the experience in dealing with relationships yet.
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You had a real loser, and I want to assure you, not all men are that way. There are some, just like there are some bad women, but the vast majority of guys I know, respect their women very highly. I raised two boys myself, and I taught them from an early age that ladies are special, and must be treated with dignity and respect.... treat them the way you want to be treated. For a guy to treat you the way he did, he is a disgrace to the male gender. I apologize to you, on his behalf. I am sorry Mam!
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I admire men who have good control over their impulses and demonstrate good charactert their strength is an attractive and admirable thing.  I think very little of women who have to resort to offering sexual favors to get what they want. Being smart, clever and respected is far more effective. (unless you are bribing your husband to take you to the ballet..that is an altogether different matter and great fun.)
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You are right, we all hold our own beliefs upon different things and different ideas. Men expect women to be feminist and take care of the housework and cleaning and food. While women expect men to do haevy duty things like fixing the garage and changing oil in the car.
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Everyone deserves to be happy even men ! I think both need to give in order to recieve respect . Respect is not a one way thing it's something we all should do ! We all need to earn repsect not just men !\n\nAngel
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It is unfair to call all men pigs. There are men who treat women like royal ladies. It is probably the way you let them treat you. If you are too liberal, chances are men will treat you as if you can take anything and everything and forget about it. Why dont you take a time out and cultivate some friendships and then maintain a respectable distance. Remember, you dignity is your own responsibility. Do not entrust it to men who have pleasant words and soft and tender touches.
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I guess it may seem that way to women too. I personally feel woman have to work harder then men. Americna society expects us to have succesful careers, raise our children, take care of the husband, and the overall well being of the household. men are simply breadwinners. So what exactly do u mean??