About a month ago I found that I wasn't the same lonely, depressed, miserable, unconfident worm I used to be. It really surprised me. I used to let life push me around, now I jab back at it with a stick and laugh. Much has changed in four years. Much more must be learned.\n\nAre you still learning?
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I am always learning, my personality really has not changed much, I am not as scary as I used to be, but I still can find humor whenever I need it.
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HI AGAIN!..(i answered your other question..sorry it was really really long\n\nMs. Butturfly...how old are you? \n\nif u don't want medicine..go out more..have fun..talk online..to strangers like me who can help you..(NOT by meeting up somewhere) lol just u kno..talk and hopefully make u laugh..and tell u fun things to do like get some friends and go to school...don't FEEL despressed anymore..once u understand the fact that your depressed..change ur self..its like saying "once you know what your doing wrong, do it right" u understand?\ni hope this helps..\nfeel free to email me stranger person..lol i just want this world happy
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My biggest hurdle in life has been learning patience and self-control.\n\nI struggle with it, but I am doing far better than just a couple of years ago.\n\n.
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I've felt the same way as you and been in the same position, but trust me, stay true to yourself, don't hurt yourself, don't let the shallow ***** grind you down and one day, everything will get better for you. Good luck. If you ever need someone to talk to, or just need help in a time of extreme depression, don't hesitate to find me.
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Young lady, it does NOT get easier with age.  I have a few years on you and I don't know that either.  I don't know much about myself anymore.  I just seem to go thru life living day to day.  Good luck finding yourself.
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Trust me... it happens!\n\n I just recently turned 16 (Mar.10) and I've been going through this whole change. I feel like I'm sitting on bridge and watching the world pass me by. After all the weird years in life I finally found my Hero - who saved me. My life is numb - I'm not interested in anything anymore. I don't care what someone says. I don't hate but I don't love. The only thing that makes me cry is the fact that I don't know if I'll ever meet my Hero again. He's a Paramedic - the proudest man I've ever known. \n\nHowever if this is serious and you would like to talk but can't seem to trust anyone. I'd advise you to talk to your school counsellor. I know... I used to freak out by the name of them. But when my teacher set an appointment I was actually looking forward to it. It's amazing what a 30 minute talk can do - at the end of it I had a few problems cleared out. Well, the problems didn't clear away but they became clear of how I am supposed to handle them. \n\nHaving said that, Good Luck!
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i know EXACTLY what your talking about. for every year i was in middle school and jr high (like 4 years) i lived in a different town and once 2 towns in like 1 school year. my dad got married and kept seperating and getting back together with my step mom and every time he did we moved. it was so hard, but the one thing i gained from it was i learned that now i cand handle any change like that that comes my way because i have already gotten through it. i just moved again to go to college this year, and it was easier because i have learned how to put myself out there and meet new people. plus i have all these experiences with different people and places that other people my age dont have. if it makes you feel any better i shed my share of tears too, and im not a cryer. it is normal to feel that way. good luck. email me if you need anything.
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I am chronically ill.  Lately I found that my doctor has been mal-treating me for the last four years.  I am a peaceful person, but this has had me furious.  I have thought how much fun it would be to break him in half.  So, in this case it is good that I've not gotten out much.
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lol \n:-)\nlast year.\nhmm..i was so cluless. first time experiencing so many new things. Felt like i was being forced to grow up, by experincing so many things adults think we can't handle.  hmm i see you are a sophmore just like me! :-)\nhave a great day!
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Great!  You decided to fix it.  Good for you!!  I worked on submarines for five years, and saw the same people.  I had a difficult time adjusting and being fun once I got out.  Here are some of the things that I did.  I joined a gym and made my self-work out daily (put my self in a public setting).  On weekends I would make it appoint to go out at least two places where I knew that people would be and sit and watch them (food courts at the mall are perfect).  I joined a church in the area.  What helped the most was that I turned off my computer and stopped communicating Internet until I had resolved this issue.  This forced me to meet people; I did not have that computer barrier between those that I was communicating with.  Good luck
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Put everything in perspective...what's the worst that could happen as a result of everything you mentioned above?\n\nCan you find some other interests?  Meet new people?\n\nThings will turn around soon, nothing remains constant.
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Since I just went through a midlife crisis. I'd say my life is half over or half empty. I'm not at good at anything I once was. Only my typing has improved. My eyes are failing. My legs hurt. I'm missing some of my hair. You get the picture. But I'm still an optimist at heart. =)\n.
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Well I just kept boosting myself up.  I use to feel the same way.  Then I learned you only have one life and if you spend the whole time being sorry for yourself you miss out on tons of awesome experiences.
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I am sure that they will "be funny" again.  Your personality sticks...the depression might alter it a little but they will spring back to normal.  Support them, be there for them.  If this person you are talking about is you, confide in a friend.  It's okay to cry and be depressed for a while.  It might be almost embarrassing to let that vulnerable side show since you/they were always the "funny and happy" one.  Trust me, you will seem even more real and likable when people see your human and have bad days...even if these days last for awhile.  Also, no one is too good to seek professional advice.  I'm not saying run out there and get put on medication, but you might need an extra boost to get back and going..whether it's just medical advice or whatever.  Good Luck.
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Oh, I felt so terrible when I turned twenty - I wasn't a teenager any more, and felt things couldn't get any worse.\nIt was a major loss, I thought, of hope. I hadn't a clue how life operated! How could I? (Imagine asking a baby what they think of a discussion forum that gives you actual options?!) \n\nI thought I was supposed to be starring in the movie of my life by then, and if not, I was probably too ugly and stupid to be allowed to live. At twenty years of age, I was pretty amazed that people didn't throw rotten fruit at me in the street! I grew up thinking that now I was twenty, I had to wear navy nylon clothes, crisp white blouses, horrible shoes, and be a predictable adult. Or else be famous and be allowed to make my own rules - too late for that <g>. \n \nBut thirty was no problem, I liked my life and new career a lot better by then! I'd gained more than I'd lost, had made  good friends whom I still have. I'd outgrown the users and the naggers, and had the confidence to let them go gently, in a friendly way. And I was way too busy to be bullied by dominant people, or wonder or worry what was expected of me. I realised that if you are happy and busy, you don't feel the burning need to conform or go around telling everyone what you expect of them.\n \nThis annoyed my mother so much that she actually told me that I had disappointed her - that she still expected me to marry a glamorous and famous person! \n\n(Oh, if only she had spelt this out to me when I still thought she knew best and wanted the best for me! Pity about her ; )\n\nOne of my neighbours is eighty-two. She has so many interesting things going on, and has outlived anyone who annoyed her - she really enjoys life! I managed to catch her in last week, and asked her what it was like to be eighty-two. She laughed for a full minute and said "Well, when you consider the alternative!" Yes, there is life after thirty! \n\nMy aunt loved music, worked full-time, and took care of her mother all her life, and then went deaf. She just took early retirement and started dating! He made her admit that she couldn't hear well, she bought a hearing aid and they travel a lot to opera weekends. \n\nHey, there's hope for us all! : )
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I know how you feel. I've been there and its really a bad way to feel. If you want you can e-mail me. eula_hill7@yahoo.com I would be happy to be your friend.
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At 46 your life is only beginning! Are you currently taking any antidepressants? If not you may want to consider this. I'm 46, have been for a couple of months and i'm still figuring out what my life is all about. Life is an adventure! Every day you can discover something new, learn something new, do something different. As humans we are constantly changing, learning and growing! Imbrace your life and thank the Lord  for the divine intervention that has allowed you to remain here. Pray and ask God to show you why you were spared. He must have a purpose for you, seek it and go out and accomplish the goal that God has set for you. Never give up.