ok...i naturally have more guy friends than i do girl friends...but thats all they are. but u know theres always people that talk, sayin sh** like im a slut and all of that, and it really bothers me...and i dont really know how to deal with it...so if u've been in this situation, whats the best way to deal with it?
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Why bother with what other's say... u r happy n comfortable with guys right? so do I... so, ignore what other might think or say, just get on with your own lifestyle... and trust me, they wish they could do the same thing but THEY CAN'T. hahaha...pity on them.
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basically, all you have to do is talk to them as if they were one of your girlfriends, but a little lighter. just go up to a guy of your choice and introduce yourself and start talking and see how that goes. i really can't explain it any better than that. i have a lot of guy fiends; in fact most of them are guys! just be yourself around them, just not flirty too much. your just tryin to get a guy friend.
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The ones who dont say shit to you dont even worry. You have to keep your friends circle tight. You shouldnt trust a person as far as you can throw em. Just ask yourself are these the friends whos going to be there when shit hits the fan? Ive lost alot of friends but at the same time you also make new ones. Ive lost friends too. But its something not to stress over. Dont forget about having friends because your always going to need that person your going to need to talk to. I can count my best friends on my hand. The rest are just people i say hi too. But dont beat your self up over it.
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ladies....for far too long...we wait on men to tell u our self worth..as my friend here...my girl..please dnt degrade yourself...dont get me wrong I have no problem with the tiny or tight clothes..no one could dress skimpier than I....its how u carry yourself that separates you from the rest..now first of all...if your friend does that...she doesnt have your back..females need to start looking out for each other rather than back biting/stabbing. You have to make sure that whatever you do in this life..you do it for you..let the choice of clothes be cause you love the way u look and you love celebrating yourself...dont wait on a man to tell you what you are worth....always be able to live with your decisions...because they were made by you for you...in your best interest.....because let me tell you..no one will care for your heart...better than you..and only you...so...if your friend wants to go that way...keep her ...at a safe distance...because god knows when next she will try that shit..and keep the guy just as far...always remember though..its not the outside party that must carry the majority of the blame...especially if you knew one before the other...If the one closest to you is the one doing the betrayal..make sure that they are the ones who suffer the consequences ..because the outside party is not obligated to you in any way...they are not obliged to care what destruction they cause..as opposed to the one who is your supposed friend or better/other half...
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Don't ever let anyone tell you who you should be friends with. If you are more comfortable being friends with girls, then be friends with girls. Whether you are homosexual or heterosexual, it shouldn't matter. There are many different men and women who feel more comfortable being friends with the opposite sex. \n\nIf you are heterosexual, the other guys are probably jealous because you have so many female followers. They either see it as you can date them easier, or that you are keeping the girls from dating them. Either way, it is not worth your time nor your efforts to deal with someone who is going to put you down because of your friends. \n\nIf you are trying to figure out your sexuality, then you should try talking to some homosexual peers, or a counselor. Sometimes just finding out if your feelings are shared by others can help. \n\nGood luck, and if you would like to talk more about this, please don't hesitate to e-mail me...I'm always here to help!
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I think gossip and rumors are the worse thing in the world, and they do hurt no matter how much you were taught when you were little "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me."  All I have to say is if these people are your friends, they aren't very good friends and you should just find new people to socialize with. But the best thing to do is try and ignore it, If someone confronts you about it just tell them they must of heard it wrong and you would apprieciate it if they no longer talked about it.  Good luck.
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OK, here the deal, i just did the same exact thing, only, it was like four months ago so i already resolved my problem. don't tell them that they are boring or any of that stuff. but, you do have to confront them. the most important thing when confronting them is to stay calm. just tell them that you have a different personality and that you feel more at peace with the other group. they should take that at face value. if they are still upset try the approach of getting back with that group and be yourself. it is obvious they cant stand a person who is not a clone of themselves (the thing with the hair) so, if you are original, they will not want you around. be loud, be happy, talk about boys and crushes, they will go NUTS! then, you will be free to go to the group that fits with you. either of these should work, but try the first one first. the second one is gunna be harder for you to pull of. i promise one of these will work. tell me how this all works out OK? my email is dangoman_1@yahoo.com. if you don't write, its cool, but i still want to know how you resolve this problem.
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I had a friend a long time ago who got jealous of me and said some really mean things behind my back...... and also to me, ON THE COMPUTER. She said things that only described herself.... a s l u t , etc. She was the one who flirted with guys and slept with everyone. I just thought it was amusing when she told me that. In person, she acted like she never said any of those things and acted like we were friends. I'd ignore her.\n\nJust because you know someone for several years doesn't mean they're your friend. I learned that the hard way. Oh well.\n\nShe was easily replaceable LOL.
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well, as you get older, you'll find more guys that are mature. Unlike this jerk. You'll find someone better. Guys just love to flirt. same with girls. just try not to get emotionally attached everytime you spend a lot of time with guys.
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yea hun i understand your pain.. im a cheerleader to0 but im also number 8 in my class and am very successfull in other sports.  Im not a bitch to you unless your a bitch to me and if your nice to me i'll be nice to you.  Im also not a slut, i dont date from guy to guy, and am a virgin. I dont think it's fair when people say stuff like that but just dust it of, tell them to grow up, and stop carring what others think about you b/c once your out of highschool, you'll probably never see 99% of thoes people again.
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Sometimes chemistry gets the best of us and morals go flying out of the window. Friends normally are for life while Boyfriends/Girlfriends normally last only a couple of weeks.\n\nAs to how to deal with it. Get a better guy which will have eyes only for you and no one else.\n\nNobody is perfect but if it where to happen again I would seriously recommend that you re-evaluate your friendship.
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Your situation is just like mine ..thats why i always think that those who are descent or qite get the most criticizm ..today was a really bad day and it bothered me really badly when i heard hat girl talking crap loudly about me ..i just carry on and go to talk to those who are good or nice because theres got to be somebody who's nice even so if they are two faced noobody is perfect jake...always try to have a good time and dont care about such situations coz you will be finding yourself loosing alot of time thinking about those who buggs you off ...just be you and dont get too much offended by people and those who dont like it ..Screw Them !!!\n\n\n\nhope i helped
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It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
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I have a friend like that.  And it gets very annoying!!  Her main thing is with guys though, she always has to be center of attention.  Whenever I would be talking about something to do with me, she would always butt in and start talking about herself.  Finally one time she butted in and I stopped her and said,"Can I finish my story that I wanted to tell you and then I will listen to yours!"  I was just honest with her about always interrupting me with her stories, and when it came to guys she was always being too pushy for me to get with someone. (She's married so it was like she would do the flirting for me-and that is NOT GOOD!)\nShe is better now but she still has her moments.  I have known her for about 10 years now so we are pretty honest with each other, and we know we will always be there when the other has a problem.  So I say just be honest with her, a little at a time, and remember there are probably things about you that annoy her also and if she mentions any just take it as constructive criticism.  No one is perfect and who better to tell you about your faults than your best friend, that way you can work on being a better person together.\n\nRemember be gentle and honest!
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Giggles,giggles, giggles!!!!\nWhat's up?\nAre you still trying to figure out what to do about dude?\nLook let's just look at it this way, okay If he dissed you once because of a female (that was there before you, might I add)\nWhat's to stop him from trying to do it again?\nNow you know I do not lie to you right?\nLet me tell you the low-down on guys, If you let a guy get away with something once they will do it again, just because they can and they know you will put up with it.\nNow If you KNOW FOR A FACT that you & him will not get into some serious type relationship and it's cool that HE knows that you are not avaiable to him  and the same goes for you as well then I would say go for the "THE HOMIE" thing, just do not get confused on the terms of what "HOMIE" means.\nAre we talking about "Homie-Lover-Friend"\nIf so It will get very complaicated before the summer ends, and you know what I am talking about right?\nPlease Giggles just remember he do have a girlfriend, and like I told you before do not be surpised if there may be more than one girlfriend okay?\nAnd always think like this:     "How would I feel if MY boyfriend was seeing a chick on the side"\nLet me know how it turns out okay?
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Your being a player, and you know this. You should attempt to grow up, and leave the girls alone until you do. People who act like you are, make all men and guys look bad.
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Relax, a lot of us have been in the same situation.  I was never one to have many friends and because I was one of the smallest in my class a lot of people often tried to pick on me.  I learned that the best thing to do is simply not care about what other people think or say.  I learned to accept who I was and the fact that a lot of people are just mean or idiots.  In the end I had a few good friends and people left me alone because they found out they didn't matter to me and the things they said and did didn't bother me.  If they know what they do affects you then they keep doing it just because they get a reaction out of you.