when divorcing my exhusband we agreed that he would keep the house to give to our children. Many years have passed he is selling the house to buy a new one.\n\nHe now claims he won't turn it over to kids because he nedds a house too.
198973
a verbal agreement can be considered a contract...you can "silently" accept something by your actions.  Since your husband stayed in the house for years, it could be seen as his acceptance of the agreement.  You should talk to an attorney who deals with contracts and agreements rather than a divorce attorney, the former would know more...it can't hurt to ask, usually lawyers give a free first consultation.
319633
Well, we got engaged, then married, and then bought a house.  \n\nYou need to discuss this with him.  He might be of the opinion that he's getting all the "benefits" of marriage without the committment, so why get married?  Ask him what's stopping him from marriage.  You have a right to know these things.
419386
You can ask a judge to have him buy you out.  If it is a land contract you will have to make sure the person you are buying the home from is in agreement with this because he can easily take back the property.  You can also ask a judge to have your ex sign a quick claim deed which will hand the property over to you and his name will be completely off the property in order for you to sell the property.  A judge may tell you that you have to give your ex half if you do sell the property depending on what your divorce decree says.
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No definitley stay with this guy! He's obviously a great catch and all those other people are just jealous cuz you got him and they didnt. Also dont worry about a pre-nup I'm certain he's trustworthy!\n\nThe fact that I am a divorce attorney and a Democrat has in no way biased my answer.
2163
This is entirely situational.  Is the environment abusive?  Will she be able to provide for the children?  Will she likely lose custody?  Are her children's well being more important to her than her personal romantic fulfillment?  These and probably a lot of other questions would be important when deciding something like this.
90754
I am a mother and wife, and an ex-wife. I "left" my children's' biological father because he was abusive and a closet drug abuser. The "value" of my family was and still is everything to me. Just because I put my children's' lives and best interests in front of my own personal feelings doesn't mean that family has no value to me.....it means that I did what I had to do to make a better life for my family. And my ex. had every opportunity to see his children but thought and still thinks that there are things in life more important....how sad for him. Maybe you should look into your legal options in your state as far as visitation with your child goes....and I wish you well with that because every child deserves to have two parents that love and care for them. As far as the "women" that left you because of petty little things....well maybe you should re-evaluate your decisions on whom you date.
324602
well, hindsight is 20/20, u should have waited for the divorce.  Sounds like he wants to retain the respect of his children and not tell them until after the divorce that he is living with you, so stop sweating the small stuff...BUT, if after the divorce, it's still the same....kick his a$$ out!!  good luck!
14704
He just may be cheating, from experience, if he walked out and seems to only want to be apart of the house hold when he WANTS something, Be STRONG and move on. Make him stand by his own words, if he said he no longer feels the same for any of you than he is the one with the malfunction. Do Not Punish Yourself or the Children for a man that does not deserve his family. Iam learning to take this advice myself. My children and I (well I put our children through this) for twenty years, lost anyway.\nWe are divorced, but my heart tells me other wise, stupid, foolish me. Iam closer to his family than he is, they treat me like their daughter. Even his parents and brothers try to encourage me to date, they have even tried to set me up on some.\nMy ex thinks he can do anything he wants and that is ok, but I'm suppose to not have a life, not have friends (especially males), not go out and be social.\nThe battle still goes on, I wish I could be stronger\non the dating game for myself. I would ask your husband lots of questions, tell him you want the Truth, keep track of the dates, times he calls, comes over, money given, any help he gives or not gives with the kids. Follow him some time to watch what he does, I have learned a lot from my own investigations. If he loved you and his children, he would not have left at all. Please don't be foolish like I have been. I would like to hear from you, I think we could help each other, we all could use support when it comes to this stuff. I wish you the best. Take Care
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men like him say that because they need to be in control.   if your kids are older then they usually get to make the decision of which parent they want to stay with.  Just explain this to the judge, they usually side with women.  i know from my own experience with my own controlling ex-husband.  he said he was going to take my daughter from me and now he barely even sees her.  Just stay strong in front of him and say "okay you have the right to try but we'll see what the judge says in court."  Women usually get custody of the children as long as they don't have a drug problem.  It doesn't really matter if you don't have a job.  they will make him pay child support and you tell the judge your still looking for one.  Nobody gets their kids taken away for not having a job.  You can get temporary assistance until you get back on your feet again.  hope this was helpful. don't give in to his little tactics.  all men use the same lines.  just act like it doesn't bother you.  All the judges I've seen were able to see right through my ex.  he got absolutely nowhere.
675183
i wouldn't stay married for the kids thats for sure. it doesn't do the kids any good, you are teaching your kids (by example) what love and marriage and relationships are all about and if you don't want better for them then stay, if you do want better for them lead by example. if the parents can keep the focus on the kids they can be children of divorce and not suffer horrible consequences. they do ok if grown ups act like grown ups and don't get caught up in childish games. being committed to the welfare of the children is totally  different than being committed to a marriage.\n\ndon't forget that they see you and your husband from a childs perspective, they have no idea what an adult relationship is about. i learned this when after divorcing my husband and i were both in other relationships, the kids loved each of our partners very much, but one day my son said he wanted us to live together again, me (thinking like a grown up) said i thought you loved val and jimmy (the bf and gf) they said we do they can come too! it was simply about having access to both of us and had nothing to do with us being a couple. duh, i probably should have figured that out sooner but i didn't.  in fact they don't even realize that you have a relationship with each other aside from them, its just not in their experience yet so they have no idea of its existence, depending on their ages of course. older kids can have it explained and i assure you that they want their mom and dad to be happy people.
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You're allowing him to take advantage of your marriage by enabling him to continue his selfishness. I could suggest a lot of things but the question will be are they realistic in your situation.\n\nOne suggestion would be to take up your own hobbies and interests with your children. Go out, go away like he does and enjoy yourself with them. Don't worry as much about cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping except for yourself and your children. Give him a taste of his own medicine so to speak. Of course, if he's controlling all the money then this might make it difficult but you could always get a part time job and keep your money for you and the kids.\n\nAnother suggestion is that if all the above is just not possible and he absolutely refuses to change then take the kids and leave, file for legal separation and child support. Make him aware that divorce isn't what you want but if your marriage is going to continue on only his terms then that's not the kind of marriage you want to continue. Sometimes a dose of reality can make a big difference in peoples attitudes and perception of a problem.\n\nBest Wishes !
667473
This could be flipped the other way as well.  Say she wants to keep it and he doesn't. All of the sudden, he doesn't feel responsible for the child because SHE made the decision to keep it.  The whole debate is unfair, but there's nothing we really can do about it.  Utimately, the person carrying the child gets the decision.  I don't think the man could get too upset about her decision, unless he agreed to take full responsibility for the child.
660574
My ex-wife does the same,but she quit once I moved out of state. But she still uses the kids against me. My parents did the same to each other,that's why I don't do it to my kids. I guess what I am trying to say is you cant control what they do only what you do. Good Luck
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If the house was paid for with community funds, she has a case.  (A case, not a sure victory.) There are lots of possible reasons (for instance, it may be that in using community funds, it is a breach of the contract, so the house is community property -- or it may be that the agreement would be found unconscionable, esp. if she had no legal advice prior to agreeing), and lots of facts that cannot be determined from your question.  But she should consult a lawyer.
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This is a sticky situation. First, I'm going to assume that your husband was on the original note and mortgage with his prior wife, therefore, he is obligated to make those payments when she does not, regardless of the divorce decree. It's crummy, I know. Sure, she can be held in contempt, but that really doesn't help you and your hubby out. My suggestion is this: Call the mortgage company that holds the note. Or rather, have your husband called. As he is on the note, he has a right to access any of the information. Have him explain the situation to the mortgage broker and find out what help they can offer him. Next, find an attorney that will sit down with you and find out what they suggest you do legally with the ex-wife. \n\nI can relate, as my divorce attorney suggested that all I needed to do was sign a quit claim deed to "remove" myself from the property. Luckily, working in the industry, I did know better, but it really bothers me that this is so common. Please keep us posted, I'll keep you and your hubby in my thoughts in the hopes that this works out for you.
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hey there white rabbit,  I am studying to become a lawyer and I know this answer.  It really depends on who's name is on the mortgage/deed for the house, if both of yours is on the deed/mortgage then 50% of the house will always be yours.  If it is just your significant other's name on the house, if you leave that house under a legal separation and not divorce after 90 days the marital domain will be terminated and you will lose your rights to it.  I SUGGEST THAT YOU GET A LAWYER RIGHT NOW!!  i bet your spouse is trying to sneak one by you. You do not need to tell your spouse you are talking to a lawyer but get advice now, it'd cost like $100 to talk to a lawyer for an hour and many specialize in this sort of thing.  GET A LAWYER NOW!  It may be better off getting a divorce by the way...
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if he gives a quit claim deed and she accepts, then she owns the house. The brother has to sue the husband for damages from him relinquishing his rights to the property to the wife.\n\nHere's a question for you: Is this a community property state and did the husband sign a contract with his brother without his wife's signature? ;)\n\nRegards