I live in a two bedroom with my sister and her boyfriend. We get along great but i pay half the rent and they basicly own the whole place aside from my room. Am I getting ripped?
202301
First of all, i would say she is your sister first and only then your flatmate! If she and her boyfriend are earning more than you or if you are in a tight economic situation because of this issue, I would suggest that you discuss this with your sis explaining it to her.Otherwise, i would say let it be....she is your sister, she would NEVER imagine ripping her brother!!well, as for the part of the whole house being occupied by them, it is easy to sort that out!Do what you would do in your house as it is yours too.
318864
You do not really know anyone until you live with them. You are trying to mesh two lifestyles. Sometimes it is just too different to work out. I think it is  GOOD IDEA TO LIVE TOGETHER.
647483
I live in California and I got my first apartment when I was 19.  I had a really good paying job so I didn't really struggle.  By law they have to pay 2 utilities.  Usually it's water and trash. What I thought was kind of weird was that there was a time when my rent was late, and I had to pay a 60 dollar late fee and write a statement as to why my rent was late.  I thought that was a bit much.  Also, If I had someone over for more than 3 days, I had to get permission from the landlord and stuff. It's pretty easy if you are tight with your money for the first couple of months so you can see exactly how much your utilities are
199648
Trust your boyfriend, is there anything wrong for you not to trust him? If he has his own bath and room and knows he has a girlfriend then she should respect that. Just make sure the girl roommate understands he's taken. Your just going to have to trust your man and spend time at the house in the begining so you can put her check.
425369
Oh sweetie im so srry for ur situation.....but if u re-read ur question out loud...ull find the answers already there....do u really think u deserve to have someone that is only with u when u can provide an outlet for tham but when the chips are down for u, he pleads the 5th? And the mortgage excuse he gave u is dumb....because that $$$ can go into a place w/u....besides the brother shouldve never gotten a home he wasnt going to be able to pay for on his own..... what did he think, that the brother wasnt ever going to eventually move out and get on with his life????? or did ur boyfriend assure him that no matter what woman ever comes along, he'll never leave?\n  It really a tough situation for u, lookin for a new place and dealing with this too, but deep down in ur soul, u know what to do, u just have to want and be brave enough to do it.\ngood luck
457120
You're right, unless it's in writing there's not much more you can do.  And if there is something else, it'll probably end up costing you more tyring to do something about it, than what you've already paid!  Needless to say, it wont be worth it!   So you can either continue feeling bad and mad about it or move forward and learn from it!    And remembering next time.... "the only way you can get screwed, is if you let them"    I would just put my focus and energy on the future.  Are they worth getting you down?    \n\nBy the way, did you guy give a rent deposit when you first moved in? Well, If you did, it might be worth trying to get it back.  By making sure the apartment is spotless and painted!  The cleaner the unit, the less the take out for the clean up!
607354
This is quite normal.  It is growing up  and I guess you are around 12-14 yrs?\n\nTwo issues\n\nOne is explaining you need your own space and privacy.  Your folks will not know you have reached this stage in your life unless you tell them.\n\nSecond is practical.  If you have your own room,  well explain you need a lock on the door..............and if that happens respect the space/trust you are given.\n\nIf you do not have your own room,  then discuss futher options.\n\nFinally,  that is what brothers and sisters are for......to drive you up the wall!  But you love them really,,,,,,,,,,,,,,!
82398
If your living with the guy then it is a little bit tasteless on his part to bring home these things.\nI dont think your being jealous, I think your being a normal woman that feels that way when their man is checking that crap out.
50593
If htey gave you the house and you are paying the notes, do you have a ocntract with them?  Has it been transferred to your name?  These are things you need to check out.  Sounds like they still own the house, and if so I would take my 842.00 and go elsewhere to live or have to put up with controlling in-laws and a nosey sister-in-law.
34562
If you're really frustrated living there, I would look into a different living situation, if financially possible.  Maybe live with friends/roommates if money's an issue. (That seems to be the main reason most ppl live with family.)\n\nBut while you're still there, work on communication with them.  Suggest a time when you guys can talk, and tell them about your concerns.  Using the "I" language helps reduce defensive behavior.  So, instead of saying "You never listen to me", try saying "I feel I'm not being listened to".  The first version can come out sounding accusatory, whether you mean it or not.  They'll hear the second version as you communicating your feelings.  \n\nGood luck!
38371
I am going through the same dilemma with my fiance's cousin. You should not have to pay more because technically even though the rooms are the same size you don't actually have equal amount of space because you are sharing a room with 2 other people and she has a room to herself. Tell her to stop trtying to get over and pay the $100. If she doesn't like it then tell her to get her own place. You have a faamily to support and she's just supporting herself. Don't let her pull that crap on you.
309559
No, he is not.  A roommate does not share his paycheck with you, only household expenses.
386582
Jealousy is an ugly tool.\nHe is getting some, your not.\nHe hates her and is “still taking advantage of her?”\nYou to should be ashamed of yourselves!!!\nYou want her to move?  \nThen buy out her portion to the lease.\nYes that’s right, if she pays you $300 a month and she has 10 months to go, then you both pay her $3000 so she can establish herself in a new place without being used like a whore!
372525
Just talk to them and be nice about it.  I am a slob and know it is kind of hard to just change all at once.  I had a roommate in college just leave me a nasty note one day and that ruined our friendship.  The following year I had a neat freak again for a roommate and she would just tell me "could you please pick that up today or your turn to do the dishes".  All I needed was a little reminder once in a while and that works.  You did move in with them however it is your place as well and they need to respect that.  Just say something even in a joking manner they will get it.  Good luck and don't just do it for them they will never learn.
36050
that will depend on your landlord i pay rent but since i have been out of a job the landlord lets me pay half my rent at a time
497738
You're both lucky... he has someone who cares enough to WANT to make thigs equal, and you have someone who wants you to have everything you need.  Work from there.  A number of guys here have G R E A T responses - so listen to them, too.  Trust me, your guy knows he's paying for everything, but he DOES NOT care... he's happy to make you happy and to make your life easier.  He knows you're a "broke college kid", and is willing to help you out... he probably feels he "ows" it to you in some odd way.  The fact that you feel this way is actually a good thing...it means you're not just there to take his money....something that you'll even out once you graduate and start working.  As for the "authority" figure problem, you should ask him if you can "take charge" in the love department now and then...role play, etc.  It's fun, and can give more spice and equality to your partnership.  Also, "take charge" when you two decide to go somewhere or do something by being the one to either suggest it, or the actual place or thing to do.\n\nBest wishes...
614755
I would definitely talk to her about it.  If that didn't help, talk to your roommate.  This apartment belongs to you and your roommate, not his GF.  If his GF pays part of the rent, then I guess I'd just try to wake up a little earlier.