we 3 are in the mid thirty - forty.\ni dont mind my wify having a nice secured boyfriend who is loyal and faithful to her and thr is a fine and comfortablity between all....although we have kids 10 & 4\ni get a gitty at times - and perhaps think that her solidairty might shift or maybe she can comtemplate \nother options of living with this guy - at times \n- but then i love my wife - and i dont really like to curb her little fancies for a nice and warm boyfrind with \nwhom she can go out for shopping, dates, night time dinners, parties and little bit of romance .....and yeah have \nperiodic sex (one to one) or a nice threesome where i love to watch her going for the blue skies and i too \nhit so high myself its like.....ohhhhh....\nalthough this is going around a while over a year and half now, and we have had several sessions on \n1 to 1 and 2 + 1 things - whr.... i find good way to vent out a latent fantasy in me to watch my wify \nhaving a nice, exzuberant love making session, pls
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Well sounds like you need to decide for certain which is more important....your sexual fantasies or your relationship with your wife.It can't be healthy to  have 3 in a relationship where there should only be 2. And you should talk to your wife about this too. Maybe it's time to get rid of the 3rd party. Also it would make me feel strange and not so loved to know that my man wants me to be with another man. Either way sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation. and sets your priorities in order.
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Apparently there is something right with your relationship since you have been together for so many years. Being an outsider looking in, here's what I would suggest. First of all, I just finished reading a fabulous book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. This married woman and a crew of men and women surveyed men of all races, ages and religious backgrounds. What she found out is that men just need sex. It's their way of needing affection from their partners. There is no shame in your needing or wanting sex. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Sex was not the main focus of her book by the way. Most men see sex as a need. Most women see sex as a way to show affection. So.. apparently your wive is missing the whole romantic aspect of your relationship as a whole. She needs affection in another form other than physical affection. Try going back to your dating years. What did you do for her, other than go at it like two rabbits that made her fall in love with you? Random love notes? Cards? Flowers? Time alone? What about a weekend getaway for two? Your wife needs to know that you love and respect her outside the bedroom. Reassure her, verbally that you want, need and love her. Talking about how wonderful she in infront of her friends is also a great way to prove how much you care for her. Remember that romance and love is more than just healthy sex.
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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You still love your X.  You love your husband, and if you're still young, you WILL feel strong attraction to possibly one or more others in your future.  \nThis happens to ALL of us, as a mechanism for survival of the species.  It is BUILT IN to us to love more than once.\n\nLove never dies.  But something went wrong between you and your X, and the relationship ended.  That one thing will never change between you, and will always be remembered.\n\nYou invested in this marriage because it seemed good.  You worked to make it good.  Are you working to KEEP it good?\nI am willing to bet either you or your husband have become lazy in going through the effort to be "attractive", and that just kills romance.\nThen we think we are not loved anymore.  In a marriage, that is very much BS.  Of course you are still loved.  Love does not die.  But it can be overshadowed by the demon PRIDE.\nGet rid of pride.  Do things to make yourself enticing and attracting.  And you can make the LOVE even better than ever before between you and your husband.\n\nI've been in a relationship that nearly died, and salvaged it with just a little effort on my part.  Wanted to leave, and figured, what the heck, I've got nothing to lose, let me play the game all the way out...so I did the bit of work needed to bring back the sparks. \n\nIt seems stupid at first, and remember PRIDE is a demonic factor.  But if you treat it like a game, you can have some fun with it, and get a very surprising outcome.\nIs he looking at another woman?  That is NOT an issue betweent he TWO OF YOU.   Sweetie, you have the advantage.  He's yours most all the time, right?\nHave a blast, entice and attract him, and you'll start to see him acting goofy again.  He won't even know what's happening, just that he feels good around you again.  It's just like dating.  They come back because you make them feel good more than any other girl.  Use those same keys to his heart again...who knows him better than you?\nDo the make-up, perfume, (try a mixture of the spice cinnamon+baby powder), and FLIRT with your husband!!!  Bend over.  Touch his shoulder.  Touch him lightly in the middle of the night, you'll even here his breathing change.\nWatch how he begins to spark at you once again.\nManipulate time alone with him.  Don't make an announcement on any of this...just work it girl.\n\nYou ARE married, and you do love your husband, and you always will.  Let the ex go, and quit turning outside for solutions to your marriage. Give him all the attention and effort you're presently giving the X.   \nTurn your efforts INTO the marriage and get busy being all girly again.  Oh yeah, and another really important thing.\nBecome your husbands best friend.  Let him know you really are his best friend, and that you like spending time with him.  Compliment him a little (not too much).\n\nALL marriages go through dry spells, especially when no one is trying to keep it interesting.  Don't make the mistake of saying, well HE'S not making the effort!  That is a load of BS and you know it.  Not many men even know how to make the effort unless they have an erection.  If you want him to jump through hoops, then you'll have to make sure he gets and erection first!  ha ha ha ha\n\nBe the Girl all we women can be if we want to.\nI wish you love
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This is a situation that takes lots of time and consideration. I know what you mean I'm in the same boat. I'm 23 with 2 kids and I love my husband dearly, but there is one old boyfriend who makes my heart skip a beat but I know that we weren't meant for each other or things would have happened differently. You love your husband, if you didn't you would've left him by now. The only thing that's different now is the new guy. My advice to you is not to tear up a family of 3 years just because the grass looks greener on the other side, because it never is! Women are hopeless romantics and we would do almost anything to be swept off our feet and ride off into the sunset with prince charming on his white horse. But if you were to leave this man of 3 years what would be different with the new one? Three years from now will be the same story. You have to learn how to make things in your current relationship stay fresh and vibrant. You have to keep the flame burning. When a fire starts to die you just add more wood. Not wait till it burns out and then start a new one. Trust me, if both of you work at it and you keep open and honest communication between you and your spouse you will have a relationship that is almost unheard of now a days!
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When we got married we agreed that this 50/50 BS wouldn't get it. We decided to have a 90/10 relationship. Both of us trying for 90% give and 10% take. My favorite thing is when I'm on the receiving end. Sometimes my least favorite is my end of the 90% part but I give anyway. It works quite well.The true test will come next year when we retire and will be together almost all of the time.
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I am 32, husband is 31.\n\nI don't think the age difference is that drastic, having dated a 38 yr old at 19. \n\nI think a lot of older guys like younger women.  Why??? (boy am I going to catch flack for this, ready....?)\n\nBECAUSE THEY'RE NICE.  Women your age (37) have been married & divorced, probably a couple of times by now.  They are overall jaded and in survival mode.  They have kids, probably (which is not that big of a deal but has a lot to do with their priorities in finding another partner, which is as it should be.)  I am not saying all women are like this, but I bet more than a few are, and I bet you dated them too, right?\n\nAt 22, most women are still open to being hurt, and just don't have as much baggage.  I married first at that age & had my daughter- was divorced a couple of years later and was a little bitter & wary.  2 wacko heartbreaking guys later, and I just decided to let go & see.  Enter fabulous now husband.  It's all OK. \n\nI think if you love her, she loves you, and you treat each other with respect and want the same things...\n\nGO FOR IT HONEY!  \n\nAge isn't much when it comes to love.
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That lady in there watching TV. We have been married 32 years so far. We are very lucky to have met at just the right time and place. But I believe there is no "right" woman just as there is no "right" man. I think you both just have to work at it.
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I try to bring her small gifts at least once a week. Something like flowers, a piece of jewelry, chocolate, this week was a gift certificate to the spa. I like to leave her cards or love notes in her purse, make up bag, pockets, or car. I call or text her throughout the day to let her know I'm thinking of her. I love giving her oil massages. I tell her daily that I love her and that's she gorgeous. I like to plan dates, but I don't tell her what we're doing. I'll give her a time to be ready by, and we leave from there. She has yet to be disappointed with my date nights. I like taking her hand and have her dance with me in our living room. I enjoy lighting the candles and playing soft music while I just hold her. I like cooking her her and sometimes bring her breakfast in bed. I try to show her everyday that I love her. I'd be nothing without my wife.\nShe tells me often that her favorite things are when I go into the room and cover her up, then I kiss her forehead and play with her hair while she sleeps. She loves that.
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I think people should have completely open relationships with their partners - I do, there is nothing I would not do around my fiance. I do know some women that will not do certain "personal" things around their husbands and they have been married 15 - 20 years. Personal being like go to the bathroom or something of that nature.
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Wow,,, that does sound pretty disgusting the way you worded it.  It often appears that the mother in law and daughter always seem to have competition going on.  I am not really sure why and it getting rather old.  You and this quy have been together 20 plus years and there is still tension between the 2 women he so obviously adores.  Being a woman you know how to add fuel to the fire or put out the flames...Try taking the higher road and leave it be.  I have another tool you could use as well... It is called PRAYER... the most powerful tool out here.  God sees all that is going on and He knows how you feel about it.  He also knows how your husband feels as well.  Can you imagine how excited he will be to see his 2 favorite girls interacting without foolishness.  Pray about it and leave it be...
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yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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Unless it's only a few years, I would advise against it.  For one thing, men and women age differently.  Back in the days when the typical marriage was an older man and a younger woman, this came out even.  She was entering menopause about the time he was getting old enough not to care.  But for a woman with a younger husband, menopause can mean a very bad time indeed.  He may just be hitting his stride, and not ready to slow down in any way, when she becomes less and less interested in (and physically comfortable with) sexual activity.  She may not have time to have children and raise them right once he gets his feet under him economically.  Or to put it another way, she may be under pressure to have her children while she still can, and he's not ready yet.\n\nOf course, how much you love each other still has to be the main consideration.  But love, however intense, can fade when you look at your wife in comparison to women your own age or younger, and say, "She's getting old!"  Also, once you are mistaken for her son a few times, you may feel the bloom is off the rose.\n\nI am speaking from experience here.  My last husband was 11 years younger than me, and we both decided it was a bad idea.  However, we remained the best of friends even after we divorced.
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my husband & i have try to have fun in everthing that we do. we watch movie together, we chat through YM even if we are together in the bedroom, eating, bathing, whatever! as long as we are both in the mood, then everything is fun!   = )
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Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
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I wish my hubby had a higher libido...after having five kids and being married for several years our love life has gotten boring and his sex drive has gone down. We are always paying attention to the kids and dealing with other things to even begin thinking about intimacy. \n\nI would love it if I actually had to worry about tuning myself up to meet his needs! It would make me feel more desirable...