Ok, I know that a lot of times sex is just sex...and some people use others for sex....but what i'm refering to is when you are in a romantic relationship, and the guy wants to be physical with you a lot.  \n\nSometimes girls like to show affection through cuddling and talking.  Guys seem to express themselves differently, sooo...\n\n...is sex how a guy shows how he's feeling about you, or does he just think you're a sex machine???
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If you very in love and very emotionally connected, then i am 99% confident that the sex is emotional/loving for him.  If you are not very in love and not very emotionally connected, then I am 99% confident that it is purely physical to him.\n\nFor in-between those two, it's really going to depend on your relationship and the guy, and how the girl looks.  Is she very cute (if so, it's love), if she is not cute but very sexy, then it's likely sex.  \n\nFor the most part, though, unless you fit into one of the extremes on up above, it's very likely BOTH!\n\n----------------------\nand i agree with the guy above me, but i want to add to that - guys that are shy tend to be VERY emotionally connected in sex, and guys that are very outgoing tend to be the opposite (not always on the outgoing guys).
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some people show love in different ways. alot of men and women dont express it the way others would like. and there is a difference in love and "being in love". ask this person if they are "in love" with you. just because they dont seem sincere doesnt mean they arent. like i stated before some people just dont know how to show feelings or they do it in different ways we dont understand. if you have serious doubts about how this person feels then ask.
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I hope you're still reading answers.  This is more common than you probably think.  Dr. Phil did an entire episode on this and has an entire section on his website.  After reading many psychology and relationship books and going to 4 years of therapy plus couples counseling with some very renound doctors in Los Angeles, I realized how many people have issues with intimacy.  Sex is intimacy.  Many men result to porn because there is a disassociation with having to get really intimate.  They can just get to the point.  In most societies, men aren't taught how to become intimate (vulnerable).  It's viewed as a weakness.  Only in relationships through a strong women's leadership does a man learn a lot of those behaviors.  I don't think your problem is physical as much as it is emotional and mental.  The categories we fall into as far as priorites are the following: for men it's Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual.  For women it's Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual.  you can see that we are clearly programmed different.  The key is trying to find a good balance.  Trying to get in touch with each other's vulnerabilities.  I totally disagree with the comment of look at it with him.  That only distances you more.  Not an option.  You have to gently lead him and teach him (without him realizing he's being taught) how to get into the mental and emotional part of intimacy (sex).  You can do this several ways:  when you're NOT in bed, ask him "what was the worst thing an old girlfriend did to you?"  this gives you insight into his fears or insecurities and then acknowledge that that couldn't have been easy for him.  Second: what do you like most about sex?  Really important to pick up clues here.  He will either describe very physical things OR things like "I like to see you naked, I like to touch, I like this, that".  This says that he is in touch with the mental-good!  And learn to play on those likes.  Also, do not feel ashamed to say "listen, I have to say that it bothers me when you look at porn because I feel inadaquate as a women, I feel like I'm not good enough, I feel threatened that I can't measure up and I'd really like you to stop".  The Harville Hendrix book (NY Times best seller and on Oprah all the time) is a fabulous book.  changed my life, Oprah's and many others!!!
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I think that it all depends on the girl. i know of many who think about sex more than the average guy. maybe every girl does, but they just don't all admit it.  i think their want to have sex with a guy depends on the guy though, if they're attracted to him a lot or a little or not even at all.  personally, i think about sex all of the time, but i'm not sure if i'm the same as the average girl.  also, girls can just relieve that by doing something with any guy (since most won't turn us down), whereas a guy has to find a girl that actually want to.  which i believe is why guys masterbate more.
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This guy doesnt sound like hes being considerate of you in ANY way at all. He is using you. A guy who cares for a girl shows consideration. A guy can say anything to a girl but what do his actions tell you? Those speak louder than words. He is making everything about him and nothing about you. Is that what you really want?
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Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
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He is using you. You tell him how you feel yet he doesnt reply but he will reply with sex. What is that telling you. He is using you and taking advantage of your "love". And you in return are thinking that he might love you or fall in love with you if you give him sex. Dont sell yourself short honey. MOVE ON QUICKLY before you end up pregnant and alone. You will be alone because he only wants you for sex and when it gets too complicated he is gone.
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DUH,  he wants what all guys want, he tryin to get that @@@@@$$$, gurl.\nHe might not necessarily want sex, but stuff does not mean playing a game of tiddlywinks and drinking tea, I'll tell you THAT!\n\nslyguy_hzleyes@yahoo.com
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Somebody recently remarked to me that these days young people treat sex as if it were a sport rather than as if it were part of a very special relationship.  If you were someone who were able to treat sex as a sport then it would probably fine to throw in your bet and fine that your boyfriend talks about going your own ways later on.\n\nYou obviously cannot treat it as a sport because now you have the question about whether you're just handy entertainment for him while he's in school or whether there's more.  That's exactly why people of generations previous to yours often thought people should hold off on sex until they were sure the relationship was a really solid, special, and meaningful one.  The problem is whether its teenage boys or college aged young men sex is a major thing for them, and they want to get it with whoever they can get it with.\nAs you've noticed, once sex becomes the focus of a relationship not only can it make you wonder if there's more to the relationship, but it can also stop the progress of a relationship's moving into a more solid and meaningful stage.  Most of the time after a few months of sex all the time a young woman is going to start to be wondering about whether there's more to the relationship than that.\n\nIf you're ok with treating sex as a sport then the bet is fine.  People bet in sports all the time.  If you're feeling unsettled at this point because now he's talking about going separate ways after graduation then maybe instead of masking your feelings with a bet you could simply tell him what's going on with your feelings.\n\nI don't think you should stop making out, but I think you should talk to him about how you're feeling.  Tell him you're starting to feel that you're kind of uncomfortable with how fast things have gone in the sex department (or how much of a priority it has become).  You could tell him that you want to dial it back.  He'll either understand (and if he really cares enough about you and respects you he will) or he won't (in which case it could hurt the relationship you have, but do you want to hang onto a relationship that is about nothing but sex?).\n\nYou may want to tell him you don't want to go to his place - plain and simple.  He has to understand that too.  If you want to dial it back on the sex thing that, of course, makes sense.\n\nIt is very possible he cares about you in his own way, but if he's talking about separate ways he isn't thinking about the long haul with you.  I hate to say this, but in addition to his like you as a person there's the chance he is particularly appreciative of the sexual relationship you offer.\n\nThere are times when even married people may decide to hold off on sex for one reason or another, so it isn't as if nobody could ever possibly decide to hold off on sex.  \n\nThe point is you should just be honest about what you want to do and why.   If you can't do that it clearly means you don't have the right degree of emotional intimacy in the relationship.  For all the talk that is "out there" these days about how women and men are "the same" when it comes to sex, the reality is that while women, of course, have their own sex drive they are NOT the same as guys when it comes to sex - they always end up wondering if sex is the only thing to the relationship.\n\nI don't think you should turn your relationship and communications into a whole "do you love me" type of back and forth.  Just explain that you're feeling a little uncomfortable with the amount of sex and simply state you'd like to slow things down a little.  Even if you slowed things down to where there was romantic-type sex once in a while it may make you feel a little better than what you have going on right now.\n\nThe important thing is that you are both on the same emotional page.  Your boyfriend may think this is all fine with yo
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I don't agree with the whole theory, you shouldn't generalize the fact: I do enjoy penetration as much as the oral caresses, my man gives me and sleeping together. I think it really depends on how you developed your sexuality.\nOn the other hand, I agree on the fact that some girls think that there is a "normal" type of sexuality, they should have to be eligible for relationships! And then, they don't enjoy sex as much because it's not really their desire expressing itself!
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it doesn't work but if you try it be sure to watch out for your feelings, in situations like that the female normally gets hurt then want to blame the male which isn't right cuz he's just giving you what you want....sex and we all know sex is nothing but sex to most men, its the women who get all caught up with emotions so sex him and don't think about calling him or cuddling not even kissing him let it be strictly about sex if you do it
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Me being a guy, can still give you a good answer. Well, everyone's different and they have different answers and opinions too. Well, like most of the shy people he could be shy to ask for it or tell you about it. If you are not go ahead and tell him that you love him. And as the other person in this question said that he might just want sex. Well, all the guys are not the same. Try him out and if he wants to go for sex, don't give it to him and then even your doubts would be clear and you would know what kindda personality does he possess. Its all about you. Either go for it and enjoy your life or keep thinking about it and stay bored. The decision is yours to make. And if you do this you might just see a world a different way. If you like it, please choose it as the best answer. As it takes up time to answer a question. Thank You.
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dont be naive! he wanted to tease you or play with you. a guy will show interest if he is persistent, not when he feels like it. trust me. i did couple.i just telling the guy side of story. worst case scenario, you lose him. so what! theres a lot of guys out there that are sincere. think about it.
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YEAH CUZ TO A GUY SEX IS SEX AND THEY LIKE IT NO MATTER WHAT BUT TO A GUY IN LOVE SEX IS WAY MORE PASSIONATE AND HE SHOULD VALUE THAT A LITTLE MORE AND YOU REALLY NEED NOT WORRY
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we don't all think about sex just some of the perverted guys.   look at me right now i am trying to pass all my classes so why would I always think about a thing like sex. girls just think that is all guys think about some guys talk about it because they think it makes them cooler to other guys.im a guy and this is the truth about me.
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Damn girl , you ask some tough questions.\nWeather it counts or not , here is my view on this one.\nYou don't like sex? hmmmmmmm.\nHave you tried making love instead?\nThe art of making love consists of two people in love , coming together in a sexual act.\nNot liking sex can only suggest that you do not have any feelings for the other person participating within the "sex".\nFor most men , a relationship revolves around sex , if he don't get it , you don't get him.\nThat may sound harsh , but unfortunately , it's the truth.\nIf you are with a man that you truly love , i'm sure the results will be different.\nNow , I can't be serious all the time , so i'm going to end this answer with a joke. (please don't take offence at it , it's just a joke.)\n"those who think sex is a pain in the arse , are usually getting it in the wrong hole."
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oh sweetie- guys are not gals. Sweet gestures outside of sex are really meaningless to them. \n\nIt sounds like you need to make a change.\nA little less talk and a lot more action on his part.\nBest wishes