I broke up with my fiance about 5 days ago ..over the past five days he called me everyday but I didn't pick up my phone..I suspect he's cheating cuz over the past 3 months he completely change he talk to me rude,he's at the barber everyday thursday,he's out more often,doesn't answer his phone etc...So many signs I can just hear in his voice  he doesn't really care for me like he used to .....So he called me late lastnight I decide to pick my phone up...He was like are you leaving me I didn't answer I heard alot of noise ..So I was like where are you?....he told me he's in his car listening to music at 11.30pm...I do not beleive that..I called him a few mins ago...he said he's busy but he just want me to know he will not beg me to be with him and if I want to leave it's okay...it's not the first time he told me this...\nHe lives in New York..I live in Canada..We've been together 6 years...I am so scared....I think he's cheating...What do you think?\nhe never acted like this.
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If you think he's cheating drop him, as for him saying he will not beg you...if he really loves you, he will miss you and he will beg you to come back.  Most of all, don't answer for awhile, let him wonder what you're up too!!!
332485
Yes, you had no right calling him.  Just because it was a guy that she was talking to doesn't mean she was cheating on you.  I can relate to this because I broke a 5 year relationship because of something like this.  My ex was accusing me to cheating on him with someone that was over 300 miles away because I talked to this person everyday.  I asked him to leave over 3 months ago it was hard to break it off with him but I couldn't live with him always looking through my stuff.  Now he says that he shouldn't have gotten into my stuff and acted like he did...but he did it himself over nothing. SUCKS THAT MEN ONLY THINK THEIR GIRLS CAN ONLY HAVE OTHER GIRLS TO VENT AND TALK TO!!!!
542934
i broke up with my bf in october, and it is still so hard for me not to pick up that phone and tell him to come home... he moved everything out and i havent felt like i am at home in my apartment since... its hard for everybody... you just have to let it go for awhile, why don't you call up some friends and go out... you will see, he will be back before you know it.
666295
Maybe you should call him and talk it out.  I doubt he wants to break up with you. Why would he do an idiotic thing like that??
483586
I wouldn't call him.  It sounds like he's changed his mind.  Move on.  If he does call, ask for an explanation.
575860
How long have you been with this guy?\nI would not tell you to just kick him to the curve because I do not know what kind of relationship the two of you have but, it will always be some sh!t with females especially when a "Baby Momma" is in the picture, most likely he didn't give her your number, she might have stolen it out of his phone, now your question to him should go something like:\nWould you explain to me how did your baby momma get my number, If she did take it out of your phone what was it you were doing and where were you doing it at in order for her to steal it.\nSomething of that nature.
316747
Don't worry about what you did so much.  He flaked on you when he bailed on the road trip.  His phone had to be working, so He was blowing you off.  He hasn't been returning your calls until he finds out you slept with someone.  Being a guy and see this happen many times, I am almost certain that he has another girl on the side.  If a guy is into you, he can't wait for you to call.  he tries to figure out excuses to call you.  When his phone rings and he knows its you, he will immediately answer.  If he misses the call, he will call you back just as soon as possible.  It doesn't sound like your man does this, so you don't owe him anything.  If anything, he still owes you.  I wouldn't worry if he trusts you, you shouldn't be trusting him.  He isn't acting like a boyfriend, he is acting like he uses you for sex and when he ain't getting it elsewhere, he comes calling on you.  This all smells fishy to me.
222851
Maybe he did not get the email.  Maybe the Internet Dog ate it.  Don't leave things up to technology.  Call him and ask him straight out what he thinks about your relationship.
285424
It's all about trust.  He told you nothing is going on, so believe him.  It really doesn't sound like he is cheating, or else why would he tell you who he was on the phone with in the first place?  You can be sure he loves you by his actions.  Taking on a baby that isn't his own?  Wanting to name your child??  That sounds like love to me!  He may have loved this girl at one point but he has moved on.  He has learned to love you more than he loved her.  Everything is okay.  Explain to him that you got plain old jealous and reacted wrong.  And then go take him out for ice cream ;)
429866
Of course he is going to deny it. He seems very immature and apparently has issues. Tell him that you will get the police involved if necessary and have your phone number changed. That's bizzare, since he's the one that broke up with you. Steer clear of him. Something just don't sound right.
104423
My advice is don't pick up the phone when it's him calling.  He wants you back because he's lonely and he hasn't found anyone else yet.  It's hard to be lonely, I'm sure you felt like you wanted to get back with him when you first broke up, but if you are really over him and don't want to endure more weeks of fighting, just don't pick up the phone, so you can let go and so can he.
66544
This guy sounds like he's really confused and a bit immature.  I think you really need to answer that phone and tell him how much you were hurt by what he did to you.  Talk it over . . . you might be surprised to find that he's been just as torn up about this as you have been!
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Has he always been this way or has it just been recently?  Has anything happened between the two of you, as far as cheating, that would make him feel like he had to be so inquisitive?\n\nI just don't see how you can be together without trust; that is the number one thing in a relationship.  This situation will not get better if you just ignore it.  Do you really want to have to worry the rest of your life about what he is going to say when you come home an hour late or if some other male calls you, no matter who it is!  \n\nIf it were me, I would get it out in the open with him and really discuss how you are feeling.  Maybe even suggest you two going to a counselor.  You should be able to tell from his responses if he is willing to work on things and change to better your relationship.\n\nGood luck!
340517
They there bubby! I gave you an answer last month regarding your BF who is in jail and demanding you send him money... I thought by now you would have left him because it sounds like he's having an extra marital affair in there, or he's paying for his drug habit... Quit sending him money now... E-mail me personally and lets talk...Been there and done that scene many times with my significant other and eventually caught him cheating on me so I left him after our 14 year relationship... He kept bothering me and wouldn't find a job and expected me to support him and finance his drug habit, so I went home clear across the State of Alaska, and you now how big our state is... Since then, I've got my life back, a new job and making more money and saving and planning on going on a vacation to meet this guy I met on the internet and hopefully take him home and start my life over again..... I occassionaly miss him and think about him but life goes on.... So I weigh the pros and cons of our past relationship and stop thinking about him and pat myself in the back for taking my life back towards the positive side and don't plan on returning to him... I used to go to the library to use a computer to check my e-mail, but since then I have been able to buy my own computer and alot of other things that I couldn't buy when I was with him..... I look forward to hearing from you Tracer and think positive and things will work out for you.... Otherwise do you have IM/chat so we can talk without having to wait for each others reply? So let's chat and come up with some alternatives to ease your pain.... I have yahoo messenger...
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Either someone (a friend of his) is just being messy because they knew that it was you on the phone, or he is lying. It's time to do a little investigating. Don't mention it to him or talk too much about it. Find out on your own in what ever way you can. The truth will come out. If you talk to him too much about it he will go to more lengths to hide things from you. Let him think that everything is OK and he will be careless and make a mistake that will expose his self. IF he is cheating.
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Well I dont quite know what to think either?\n\nJudging by the question, you seem to have troubles with the boyfriend? I am probably wrong here because you question is a little hard to understand. However, I shall answer it like this anyway.\n\n\nFirstly, you should NEVER jumped to conclusions that he's cheating \nbecause you dont get to talk to him, etc.\n\nHowever, I would get a little suspisious of something in your position. I think you need to re-consider his intentions? What exactly does he want in your relasionship?\n\nAt the end of the day, your question isnt really detailed enough to come up with some useful answers (if any lol). I mean, how long have the two of you been dating?\n\nIf you havent been dating long enough.... then dont take this guy seriously. I wouldnt take a girl seriously if she acts the way your guy does. Oh well.... what do I know?\n\nGoing by your question, he doesnt take you seriously and the best way to solve this issue is by talking to him. I hope it all goes well for you, but be prepared to leave him if he contiues the same ways. I would certainly prepare myself for this, etc.\n\nGood luck!!
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Appreciate that he is returning your calls and has let you know that they're HIS issues, not yours.\n\nYou've only been hanging out a month.  Depending on what he has going on, that's really not enough time to develop trust.  It happens over time, and this relationship is in it's beginning stages.  It may not be an exclusive relationship, though it sounds like it's heading that way.\n\nDon't put any more pressure on him.  He knows you're there, he knows you're concerned.  That's enough.  If you continue to call him, then you need to ask yourself "Am I really concerned about him, or am I feeling insecure because I'm not part of what's going on?"  He's having some challenges right now, and I think he's handling this appropriately.  If you're really concerned about him, then keep it about him.  Be available to him if / when he needs you.  \n\nWhat's going on with him has nothing to do with you.  Keep this situation in its proper perspective; otherwise, you will lose him before you've gotten things off the ground.