I've just seen a post by Amberlou baby n a similar post by a guy after a woman. It just made me think - why?\n\nDon't get me wrong, we all have urges and what not, but I don't think I've ever sat round thinking "oh I need a woman in my life".\n\nI get up, go to work, go for a pint with my mates, jam with my band (when I'm in one) n if I meet someone I like n things go well we get it on. If things progress fine, if not never mind. But why do people long for someone else in their lives?
199820
Some people are not satisfied with casual sexual encounters and relationships.\n\nI'm a single parent with three kids, and want and need emotional support and intellectual stimulation from a mature adult female, not what I can get from my mates over a pint at the local.\n\nDifferent strokes for different folks.
283024
you remind me of myself so patient,considerate and understanding for the man, but putting yourself last.hmmm you say you want this to work.i think youre fed up and feel like going but youre afraid theres nothing out there for you.let me clue you in ,go and check out a few clubs with a good girlfriend of yours and see just how many people are looking for love.any man would be lucky to have a committed lady like yourself.maybe its time for an ultimatum?up to you though,mean what you say and say what you mean.GOOD LUCK SISTA
294582
Its hormones and you're lucky you can recognize it as an urge and not a need.  The time will eventually be right for now and this is certainly not your time as you have other goals and they are practical and will certainly make life better for you, your mate and your future children.  Your hormones are pushing you to act faster let's that instead of letting that throw you off course you continue to make these decisions on an intellectual level.
543160
Sounds like your sizing yourself up to other people...what they have....what they do...where they go...what they wear...who their dating...etc. My neighbor is a coal miner and has 2 nice vehicles, another friend of mine owns his own place and wouldn't have to work any more...etc, but if I'm concern with what they do or have then I'm forgeting the most important person....and thats me. Sure I would like to have those things, but I don't and thats alright. Then on the other hand I hear people say they wish they seen what I did in life...so it's a cycle I guess. I know that I need to do things that makes me happy and heck with the others. As for you staking someone...what is it benefiting you or the person your stalking? If it isn't benefiting you then your just wasting your life cause that person is going to continue to do what they do.
151372
I check out men everyday. I'm always out and about and I see a lot of men on a daily basis. I don't stare or ogle at them but I definitely check them out. As for fantasies, I have fantasies often too. I don't think women do it less, I just think we're more discreet with it than a lot of men are.
302634
Wanting, and needing to cheat? Shows that there are, in some cases a different set of circumstances that trigger such desires to be accomplish, as much for man as for woman's? Honesty and dedication are the basic needs that in such scenario are obviously missing. I don't really know what, and why there are such impulses so indescribably real, though I believed overall cheating is a sign of immaturity as well of insecurity from the two, as well than the third sided triangle? been involved in the act of cheating. Though I know that depend of the circumstances and especial cases of each individuals involved the results are most all the time, disastrous. As well than a very bad and sad experiences, if there are Children's involved.---Thou lol..., I will subjects to all to avoid it-----, especially went this become a sex-basic act of betrayal.
160711
Honestly, I can tell you I go looking for it and I never can find it because I do want a relationship and commitment.  I personally Choose not to just sleep with the next hottie walking down the street, I want dinner and possibly breakfast... A phone call and a second encounter. I am not saying that it has to be set in stone, but if the man would put forth a little more effort in the follow up game, I would be a little more eager to explore more men.  The feeling you get when a 1 nighter is over is awful, Even if he would just call for coffee and say hey, I ad a really great time with you, but I am not where you are.... or some bullshit line I would rather get that than being ignored completely.  As far as cheating is concerned... HELL NO... I am a strong believer in do unto others as you would have them do unto you.... last time i checked i didn't want my man sleeping with anyone else... If I want variety, which I often do I have toys... and my man enjoys changing it up a bit for me!!!
216548
I guess what we really want out of a potential g/f or wife is a bit of a challenge. If you're too aggressive those signs say you're giving it away too easy to be virtuous. Light flirting with a little withdrawal let's us know you're interested but discerning. Now the easy part, not wanting what we can have is a popular misconception. Keep us wanting. Take care of yourself. Maintain some drive. Stay healthy and trim if that's the way we found you. Nothing makes us refocus our desire for you like you being desired, especially by other men. But if you let it go, we can't fool ourselves into being attracted. It just won't happen. Oh, and have self-esteem, please.
313316
WOw! Good question, this really gets into the heart of human relations.\nOK, its a self esteem issue, no-one who likes us so obviously and easily is good enough for us. Yet when you look back in future years you probably think they were indeed good enough and an opportunity lost.\nThere is also an element of social climbing involved where we want people who are "too good" for us or not really in our league or social circle. We believe we have to strive to better ourselves.\nI'm so glad i'm married and past all that!! But excellent question, respect.
30094
I think that commitment has been mistaken with monogamy. I don't think that any man, gay or straight wants to be fully monogamous. We like to dip our stick, and variety. But there are people that will refrain or can contain those urges. I thin it's irrational. YOu can have a commitment and not be monogamous, and if you both agree to that, even better! (no nead for cheating)
239887
All women I know fantasize about other men. We just don't like to talk about it to our husbands and boyfriends. I can't believe women who say they haven't.  We are not blind. We know a goodlooking man when we see one. Even if we don't think about him but just a few moments that is still fantasizing.
357663
No it is not just women.  I think about my wife 24/7.  I even dream about her.  She is on my mind no matter what I do.  She is a stay at home mom.  She does work part time, but for the most part she doesn't work.  Well not true, she works very hard at home taking care of our 3 children and the house.  We are so blessed that she doesn't have to work.  I think about everything she does, day in and day out.  She is my world and I tell every day.  I will even send her text messages during a meeting.  That is how much she stays on my mind.
550990
Hey, Conan, here's a newsflash:  you're normal!  Right, some men aren't quite as driven as you and some are even more driven.  But they're normal, too.  As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, ain't no sweat.  And as long as it does not bother your GF...Look, there is no absolute regarding what endorphins do or do not do for you.  There is a range of acceptable responses and yours do fall within that range.  By the way, if she gets you that hot 'n bothered, would ya mind posting her pic so's us other guys can see what we're missing?
415319
Why would anyone choose a difficult life?  Especially when it would be so easy according to straight people to "choose to be straight."  If so, I have a question for them.  Why don't they CHOOSE TO BE GAY?  See all those emotions running through you straights right now?  That's how we feel.  We feel "how can we change, if we could, wouldn't we?  Same as straights who are asked to think gay."  They find it incomprehensible to think about men, as I do about women.  Its just not normal for me, sorry, does that sound like a choice or something I'm stuck with?  I cannot remember feeling anything other way from the age of 5 on up.  The men were always attractive the women were always the nice ones.  So, while it may be a choice for some, it was not for me.  The very idea that I could have CHOSE this life is laughable.
168263
Thats a great question.  I'd like to know what the hell is wrong with men these days.  Seems that they just have no balls to start something with someone they like.  Its a great ego boost when they know we like them but when it comes to actually taking it a step further they back off.  Most men want a trophy girl to show off to their mates but woman with substance go in the to-hard-basket.  Maybe men out there could add some insight into our single woman problem with men.
299417
You have ben seeing the wrong men,allot of us are tired of all the meaningless nights and want to spend a life with a woman they can love and trust,not just sleep with.\n   as for the beauty well that is something that we all see differently as individuals, but if someone really wants to be in love the last place I can think of to look for it would be with a celebrity. How many famous people can you think of have had happy relationships or even a happy life?
323559
Sounds to me like part of you wants male companionship but deep down inside you want a lesbian relationship.  Can you not find a balance and have male friends and female lovers?  I have had kind of the same experience when I was younger and had to find a healthy balance.  Sometimes we just want to be with males because it is what is "expected" of us.  Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings and be honest with yourself to find the answers!