My mom just got operated on and she has gone through so much. I feel so bad. Why do people have to go through so much pain in this lifetime?
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only GOD knew's that answer
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yeh not much u can really say to her loosing a baby is really hard, just be there for her and comfort her pretty much. maybe after the surgery when she's better take her out to a day spa or something to relax and have fun.
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Oh wow - that is so sad.  I am really sorry that you have gone through SOOOO much in this recent past.  I am sure it must feel like your world has just about crushed in around you.  :(  \n\nI can really see now why you wish you could just have it all be over with.  What you are feeling is completely normal.  I wish there was a quick fix for the way you were - but there really isn't.  :(   \n\nOne thing that you may or may not be into doing is this -  exercise... I know that you may not want to at this time - but it really is good for you - it elevates the endorphins which in turn helps to elevate your mood.  So while it won't make everything better - it can help you to cope with it a bit better than you might be right now.  \n\nI will keep you in my prayers tonight and pray for that "hole" in your heart to be healed and filled with the Love of God.  I had that "hole" at one point in my life... It is lonely and sad - it makes you feel like you just have no reason to exist... "what is the point of it all" I would ask my self all the time.  But I have survived that time.  Life has improved and I have seen the blessings of the Lord in my life. If I had died or never existed I would have never known what I know now -  I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason - both good and bad things.  We Learn from the bad in order to be able to help others to the other side... to be a shoulder to cry on - or to gain wisdom through it.  \n\nKeep truckin' along - you will get to a better place - it may take a long time - but you will get there.  Keep your eyes on the blue sky and try to look at positive things in life.  I know they may seem like few and far between, but they are there... take the moment to look at the beautiful pink or yellow blossom as it blooms into the new spring of this year.  Take the time to look at the white fluff clouds as they float around the blue sky and a lady bug lands on the leaf - or a butterfly flutters by.  Take joy in these small things... small improvements will help you.  \n\nWhen you have negative feelings try your hardest to push them out and possibly pray at that time if you have a relationship with God.  Ask for help and peace in this difficult time.  \n\nyou will be happy one day Hiedi23\n♥
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When my Grandpa died the day after my 14th birthday, I wanted to die. I spent my birthday in hospital watching him. He was in a coma, and was for 4 days before passing away. It's the most horrific pain i've experienced in my life. It's now been 7.5years and although the pain has subsided, i still find that sometimes I'll just sit and cry because I miss him so much. I was his favourite of 16 grandchildren, and he was my favourite person in the world, and now i'll never know if he really knew how much he meant to me. The pain will change, but it will never go away. I am SO sorry for your loss, and I completely understand what you're going through. My thoughts are with you.
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Hello there; it seems like your going through a hard time. I had surgury on my eye in grade four because i got a 1cm peice of bull rush behind the globe of my eye and i was in the hospital for 2 weeks, being in the hospital is scary and the food sucks! but to tell you the truth when your in the surgury room they put you under and you dont feel anything i remeber the doctor asking me "are you sleepy yet?" and i said "nope i'm not tired this stuff sucks ha-ha" and then i woke up in another room with my dad cring beside me. =( \n     \ni usually dont sleep at night either but i just think of good things like Christmas or easter or i watch tv or a movie or listen to soft music or take a sleeping pill(those work pretty well) \n\nWith your pet probloms i owned a cute white and carmel color hampster named Tiptoe i loved him to death and one day i came home and he was well yah(u can guess) and i cried for hours and hours. I still miss him and i and i had a fuzzy cute white cat named bittens and i loved her to death and just thinking about her makes me wanna cry but now all i think of is that they are happy and they are always with me where ever i go =] \n\nif you have dandruff use head & shoulders shampoo. i do :D heehee\n\nbut anyways dont be scared of surgury its not that bad and dont be depressed cuz you only live once and just ALWAYS think on the positive side of things =]\n\nI really hope i helped you\n\nbyebye
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I've been considering it alot too and I have family members that have gone through it. They all had like a week or so of down time where it seemed like it hurt pretty bad but all of them say it was worth it in the end. My grandma just had hers redone becuase she had the older implants that ended up leaking but the newest ones are only salt water so they won't hurt you nad it's ok to have kids and still nurse with them becuase now they can fit them behind the muscle which has no effect on nursing so do what you want. I say if your doing it for you then nothing else matters!
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t you are feeling is due to the surgery. when lap surgery is done, not only is the skin cut but a membrane on the inside is also cut. this membrane is not stitched so the incision does not close easily. sometimes it takes as much as 2 years for this to heal. sometimes there will be a knot form at the incision, this is a gut pushing through the hole of the membrane. you can gently push this back with your fingers. you will feel this problem more when you bend over. be patient and it will heal eventually.\n\nmy wife has gone through the same surgery, May 2004, and she is still having the same problems that you are having. just so you know the doctors will tell you that every thing is fine. feel free to contact me about any information that I might be able to help you with. I am an herbalist and I might be able to find something in the herbs that can help you. contact: widowmaker54@yahoo.com\ngood luck and best wishes to you.
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i cried for my aunt recently.\nher husband past away last year and she is going through a very rough time in her life-she is a second mom to me and it causes me great pain to see her hurting.
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I was once in her position and the most helpful thing was the love and support of everyone around me. She needs professional help and will not be able to get through this hard time without it! Make sure she is seeing a doctor about this problem and make sure you are there for her 100%! She needs to know how many people truly love and care for her right now! Assure her that she is going through nothing unusual and that she can make it through. If either of you are religious, I recommend saying prayers together and regularly attending church. Faith can help you through so much! If neither of you ar religious, just stick to the professional help and make sure she has a support group (friends and family) throughout her recovery! Good luck!
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take it easy to begin with,and try to realize that pain has a way of coming at you. you can handle it if you go one thought at a time. don't be all over the board with your emotional system,it makes it worse. believe me when i tell you you are not alone in this world,God sends us people who care , be patient and at least glad your alive  it may take time to sort it out but be GOOD to yourself,your worth it.
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Contact the AMerican Cancer Society. They can offer help to you and your mom. They can send you information, find doctors, explain chemo or medication questions, and they can help find someone you can talk to about your feelings.\n\nI will keep you and your mom  in my prayers!!
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Kayla, \nSometimes things can get pretty low in life and we don't always know why. I have been there and my heart goes out to you now. It seems as though there are those that suffer more than others at times and I know it doesn't seem fair.\n\nThink about the future even though it is hard. Tell yourself that it is going to get better and take one little thing out of your day that may have made you slightly smile and think of it often.\nTalk to your Mom, I do to mine. She is with you, just in a different way. \nSchool is a hard place to find friends, especially girls. They can be very petty! Find them elsewhere. In a good place. Like maybe a support group or something.\nMost of all, say your prayers! He is listening even though at times it doesn't seem like it. Things will fall into place. I promise you that!
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It hurts like crazy, but it ends.  Your pain ends when the procedure is over.  The pain for the other person has lasted longer and probably is not over.  I hope that helps.
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HI Jenna,\nGrowing up isn't easy and I am glad to see that you have come up with a lot of positive choices in this. It is normal to be feeling the way that you do and we all say things that we dind't mean when we are hurt. The good thing is .......we can always do our best to fix them. \nTalk to your mom again. Tell her you are sorry for what you said. She loves you Jenna. You are her little girl and will always be that. She wants you to be happy. \nTell her that you would like to be in the delivery room to and ask her why you can't be. Part of it is that she knows that delivery is not easy. She will need an adult there to help her, someone who has been through it and will encourage her with adult words. She might not want you to have to see her when she is uncomfortable and in pain. She would also be worried about you too. \nAsk her if you can go in before and just about before it is time for the baby to be born. Tell her that you really want to be a part of your sister's whole life and you want to be able to see her as soon as she is born.\nJenna, she is your mom. she loves you and she will be so glad that you go to her and tell her your feelings.\nI can tell you are a great girl. I am sure your mom is very proud of all of your accomplishments.\nCongrats on being a big sister...........you will be a great one!
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you have had it hard and i feel bad for you because it is something that no matter how hard you try it seems to get sadder ans sadder  but the thing that helps the most is time it may seem like it is impossible but time will heal look up to god just think about that they are in a better place NOW no more pain no more trouble and no more sickness they are in the best place they can be and maybe some day you can be with them times may be hard just hold on it will get better
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss.  As a cancer patient myself I personally feel that you handled the situation very well and that your mother understood the depth of your love for her.  I'm happiest when my family is doing normal things and not concentrating on cancer.  Big hugs to you.
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It could be a number of things. I do know that the patients that were post op from that surgery that I had had a lot of pains in their chest and back. Please make sure he is bringing the pains to his oncologist attention! and that it hasn't spread through his body... I am sorry that he is sick and I wish you all the best