i find myself staring frequently at a girl in school... and her friends noticed it...perhaps she herself noticed too.\n\ni really like her alot .. especially her smile which is quite similar to a small child and it give you a feel which i do not know how to describe.\nbut somehow i feel that...she is becoming colder towards me.. \ni have thought of telling her but at the thought of being just 16 and the first time like this and o'levels are coming.. i did not tell.. but it bothers me quite alot and i feel 'heavy'... i am afraid this will affect my studies...... \n\ncan anyone tell me what to do?   i am lost T.T
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Just go tell her you like her because she obviously knows already by your staring.  Tell her you want to go out with her to a movie or something and start trying to hang out with her more if she is into you, everything will go smoothly if not then get over her n move on to your next crush.
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Well, I'm not a guy, but let me try to help U:\nU're an educated guy, U're so smart, but maybe she has seen in this other guy something she likes the most and maybe it's something U don't have, I don't blame her for that, but I do blame her for telling lies and trying to justify herself in that way.\nThere's another thing: If U're that kind of smart and polite, show to her that U can respect her decision, don't approach to her anymore, she's the one who has to make the balance, let her be happy, if she wants to be with this other guy, U'll have to focus on someone else, besides, sometimes we just judge for appearances, and maybe that's happening to U.\nNever judge a book for its cover!\n\nSee... as U added some new facts, let me tell U, about your image, don't care about it, I mean, the time will make the difference, let it to the time, and U'll see that she's the only one who is going to be judge by your classmates and friends, maybe they cannot realize what kind of girl she is, but, I'm pretty sure, if U're right, time will give that satisfaction to U.
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haha. I agree with Soulful_kris. Girls do like older guys. But we're not here to shake your confidence. In fact, that's your most powerful asset. Be confident. Girls hate guys that can't look them in the eye.Try really hard not to stutter and keep it casual. Ask her to lunch or if she wants to talk. Tell her how beautiful she is and that she lights up your day. Don't tell her stuff like, she's your world and you love her and whatnot. That's just too much for a first impression. Good luck.
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hey, my names john, im 16, i used to be exactly like you, until last year i had never even held a girls hand i was so shy, but some things have helped me get over it, send me an email at sox5d@yahoo.com and ill help you out, right now you are being offered one of the greatest gifts i've ever received, you'll be with so many more girls, reply if you're interested...\n(this isnt just about girls but about being the best possible person you can be)
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Yeah dude, dont sweat it. take a deep breath. and listen to this. one, what were you acting like when she saw you and met you, because THAT is the guy she likes. DONT CHANGE!! Second, there are little things that girls like, physicall touch (HUG HER, but make sure its apropriate, dont be..umm...feeling.) Also your eyes, women LOVE eyes, and they ALLWAYS notice WHERE they go, so dude.....DONT GO THERE.....you know what im talkin about.....lastly, small gifts, and words of encoragment. chocolate as a small gift is awsome, i allways come up witht the exuse "i dont like chocolate, want myn." soo that about covers it, just be yourself, and try to understand what they LIKE at the same time.
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it is obvious that she liked you!  So when she found out that you were taken it made her nervous.  She must have thought that you guys had a attraction toward each other especially if you talked for 4 to 5 hours a night.  So when she found out that you didn't feel the same way toward her it made her embarrassed.  She will get over it i think.  Just give her some time.  When you do talk to her, just act as if nothing is wrong or different hopefully this will give her the message that she shouldn't be embarrassed because you thought nothing of it.  I would not ask her why she stoped talking to you though because this will only discourage her to not talk to you since it will make her more embarrassed.
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Hey is it very tough to find out .. . well I find it very hard .. I can understand your problem .. I have also gone through it .. find out any specific method .. let me advise you .. it is very clear that you are finding it hard to ask her directly .. do one thing ask another girl who is close to her .. or of she does not know then make one girl to ask for you ( she will just ask casually without reveling your name ) well I do thing that is a good ans .. well one question from my side .. how you come to know the a girl loves ( or at least likes you ) ? believe me girls are also humans and has feeling like us .. how to know it .. she will give you hints .. but ..how to catch it. ?
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ok first of all the girl , NICE OF HER HAVE SHY FEELINGS ...\n\nbut not so much ... and at ur case at school bcs of ur poor english ... dont worry about thats much bcs many dont worry about thats ...\n\nif not in ur school ...u must know thats after littel while u will know how to speak it very good ...\n\njust dont thinking much thats ...if u had mistaks in speaking it ...thats will make u silly to others ...bcs all ppl every day they learning somthing new ...\n\njust remembere thats well \n\ngood luck for u
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I feel like I've changed a lot.  My opinions of things have changed through the gaining of knowledge and otherwise. Things like philosophy, language, spelling, math, and other assorted pieces of information have really come in handy.  MY opinion of what girls should look has changed.  I really like high school girls now...18 of course, they must be of legal age.  But personality wise I've learned to cope with all kinds.  Good Stuff
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Have you tryed explaining your feeling to her???....if yall have been hanging out that much she should be able to open up to you mabi there is a bigger issue that she is tryin to get past...try to confide in her and comfort and make sure she knows that you like her
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Wow. When I think about that happening to me I almost start crying. This is a terrible tradgedy and I think you should avoid the subject. You'll never know how she'll react. When she comes in the class room try not to be extra nice to her or anything. She'll catch on sooner or later. Just act normal around her. That's what I think would be the best thing for her.
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Am I understanding this right--you are a student, and love a nun at your school?  \n\nI think, somewhere along the line, you have become confused.  You might admire the nun, maybe you even want to be like the nun, but please don't tell me it's more than that.\n\nI don't know how old you are, but think that you really need to talk to a trusted adult (not the nun), about what you are going through.  As I said, you may be confusing your feelings for what they are not.\n\nGeez, my friends who went to Catholic schools told me stories about the old battle ax nuns that threw them against the blackboard--stuff like that.  \n\nPlease talk to someone who can help you sort out your feelings.
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Hi, I'm 26 years old and currently in my freshman year of college. I definitely know how you feel; all throughout school I was not a very outgoing person. I usually kept to myself, at the same time I  tried to impress my peers. Now I realize how immature it was to act that way. You should never look down on yourself in any kind of way. It is important for everyone to feel they belong, and you seem to doubt yourself. The thing is, other people are just like you, they will not approach anyone and end up never making any friends. Be bold and walk up to the other guy like you and talk to them. They are just wanting someone to break the ice. My advice usually ends up being religious, but I do not feel like I should preach to you. One thing I will tell you is, turn to the Lord and he will never leave you. He will always be there giving you comfort, and the the great feeling that you belong. I never feel alone because I'm not. Just realize that people all throughout life will try to hurt you to make themselves feel better. You control your own life....make the best of it....live life to the fullest. Talking to an older person is great because they are wise and can give you some of the best suggestions. Hope this helps
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simply ask her how she feels about you.  from what you have said, it seems like she may have feelings for you.  but then again she might not. she might just like you as a really good person and that is her way of showing she thinks you are nice and cool and worth her time.  you could be looking into it more than what it is because you like her.  but then again, you guys are in high school and are very young and don't know what you quite want yet.  you still have some time to grow.  you still have time to find out what love is before you go mindlessly using the word.  so take your time and see how things span out but most importantly, ask her how she feels about you rather than guessing.
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Joe, I looked at your page. You have asked 81 questions about this girl Most of them are the same question over and over.\nYou are a shy, skinny, self-conscious inexperienced nerd with a huge crush and an obsession. You have feelings, but don't know how to express them. You have recieved hundreds of replies, and you never once pick a "best answer". Do you even read your replies, or are you just scanning quickly hoping to see a reply that says "Hey Joe, it's me Maria Lopez! I love you too!"\nGet some counseling, you have a problem, get some self confidence before you put any "secret" poems or love letters in ANY girl's locker, or desk. You are NOT ready for a relationship, even if she does like you, you'd soon scare her off with your insecurities and obsession. You might have a good heart, and a sensitive soul, but you are also scary. Is this the only girl that's ever borrowed your pen and been nice to you?  Sad.
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Your friend may be asexual.... It isnt a choice if she is. Do you totally control who you are attracted too? If so, I want you to go to school and become sexually aroused and fall into love with the most unattractive boy in school. (If you are a girl if not do the opposite) Hey its a choice, you should be able to do it. The main problem I see with this question is not your friend however your non acceptance of her. There is nothing "wrong" with her at all. Her behavior is not the norm however the norm does not necessarily mean it is the only right way. Accept your friend for who she is right now.... if you truely are her friend. Also, by the way, dont rush to judge. I know you feel grown up now, however, you are not. 16 is very young and one of these days you will look back and understand that. Your friend has plenty of time to fall in love and have crushes.... My guess is that she will go through that process but only in her time... not yours. By pressuring her, you may cause her to have trouble in finding that right person. A person has to love their self before truely loving someone else. Be a friend and accept her from where she is at. She isnt hurting anyone or breaking any laws. I'm sorry if I came across as blunt however your question, how you wrote it bothered me. I hope you question how you see her and give her a chance to find herself without judgement.\n\nBy the way, I'm a therapist and every expert in the world would laugh at you for even trying to research this about your friend at her age. She is still developing and growing. A human brain doesnt totally develop until around 25 years old. Maybe that part of her brain hasnt grown yet.\n\nBy the way, I understand you are probably doing this because you care, but seriously you are out of bounds and barking up the wrong tree... as the sayings go.\n\n\nBy the way, about your added comment... Does things that are right about your friend usually annoy you since you are back tracking and saying you dont think anything is wrong with her. Dont get me wrong, I'm not going to argue with you. My main goal is for you to look at yourself and become more aware of what you have said. I think you are doing that. No hard feelings..... Good luck with your friend and I hope you have a very long lasting relationship\n\nCounselorDan
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here`s the thing. you probably are a young person or fairly young. there is no reason not to talk to her. i was like you and felt nervous around girls i liked and not around other girls. i have found out as i get older that you should go talk to any girl that intersts you. the only thing they can say is that they are not interested and then you move on to the next one. its not the end of the world and knowing they are not interested is better than not knowing forever... good luck i hope this helped...