my husband gets a ride to work with a guy that is gay. we didn't have a car so he needed a ride. now we have a car he says that he likes to ride to work with the guy even though he can drive our car to work. why does he do this. do him and the guy like each other. what is going on?
204607
no he just likes the friendship. some one he can talk to.
473851
Honey sit down before reading this...oh you are!\n\nYour husband is GAY! Flaming....SUGARY...Sorry to break it to you...
313224
do you really know for sure that he is really straight?  I used to put on a big show and act like I was not and I have found that people are more open about things than you think.  I was in love with this guy that I work with and I flirted with him in a way that no one would really expect and then finally he called me up and told me that he was really gay and wanted to know what my thoughts were on it.  That was 2 years ago and we are together and very happy today and we started out as co-workers and friends.  Denial makes you do crazy things!  You might also just joke around with him and see how he takes it (you can do this drunk and then that way he thinks it is the liquor talking).  Have a serious conversation about ths "friend of yours that you know that has the same situation as you do and get his opinion"  Good luck!!!
338460
If this is a new relationship with him then maybe it's because it's exciting for her. Have you tried to schedual some time with your friend? Ask her to spend sometime with you too.
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Hey I like you! ^_^ ..lol..seriously though, good for you it's really nice to know that there are men like you out there. \n\nMy husband WAS selfish-I am at the point where I am just like "Come on work with me here" it takes it's toll on a person when your lover thinks of himself before he does you all the time. And you keep telling yourself he'll come around, you only have Faith to keep you from drowning really...It hurts to be treated second all the time. \n\nNow he's changing and I can finally breathe a lil more....I think I will have to get use to being TRULY happy in this relationship of ours and believing that things are different between us... it takes two right? =) \n\nHey thanks for giving me a chance to share my thoughts slash vent....keep shinning and never give up! Best wishes to you and yours!
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I agree that certain things are done male or female in some relationships, but it falls to order in what the two people decide.  In our relationship, in everyday life, to all appearances my partner looks more the female, stays at home, babysits an infant, does alot (but not all) the housework  and does all the cooking.  I play the more male role has a very male job (drive semi) does the lawn work,(again not all) the gardening, pays the bills.  However, in the bedroom our roles are switched and it's my turn to be the sensitive one.  And we do this, 99% of the time for 25 years now.  We're frequently told this relationship is quite unique in the lesbian circles, but it works for us.  So it goes to prove, whatever feels good, I guess.
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The thing is, whatever your sexuality, your sex life has no place in your professional life. The topic just shouldn't come up all that often. If someone asks and doesn't like your answer, though, that's their problem. But there's no reason to slam people with your sexuality at work.
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why is it when we buy a car we test drive it first? why is it when we buy fruit that we eat, we pick it up and sqeeze it to make sure it is good? we do this to make sure it is good right? so why cant we test drvie our relationships and sqeeze our future spouses? i think it should be ok t obe with this person fully before you get marreid, what if you marry a pervert, that wants sex all the time, or what if he like to watch porn all the time.or what if you married a guy who deosnt sleep at night and loves to be on the computer all the time,make sure you married what you want and not what you have to deal with. thats what i did.
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I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
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Just like your husband, I work in another city. My wife does that too. In the matter of fact, I would ask her occassionally if she did it. It brings no harm and it's healthy. Better that than having her with another man releasing her sexual urge on another.
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This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
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Can you afford to lose this job? Funny thing about some men in authority, they enjoy the effect they have on subordinates, especially pretty ones they know are attracted. If its real enough for him to risk inapropriate behaviour, he should make a move outside of work hours/envioronment, otherwise the only respect you'll earn is to keep your eyes on your work.
64853
Don't go there, That is grounds for a sexual harrassment case waiting to happen.  If you let on that you like him, or if you reported it to others, either one of you could be fired.  Find another job before you even think about telling him you like him.
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I work in a trucking company and seen many men who's marriages have fallen apart. Why? Because these guys have no 9-5 life. They live by trucking, their experiences are in trucking. Thsi is what they relate to. \n\nWhat can you do? Try to help them have a life outside trucking, friends you can get together with, other people with similiar interests, outside trucking.\n\nAnd try to accept that sometimes they want to talk about their trucking, at least he is trying to share his experiences with you. If possible, go on trips with him and see the world through his eyes.\nDevelop some common interests.\n\nCiao
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Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
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There was an article on that in one of the Nascar Illustrated one time.  I can't recall when.  Not sure if you can search their archives.  One interesting point I remember out of the article is they like husband and wife team driver because they don't want to go home as much.  Good luck on your search.
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Hey, we all have persnickety moments.She was bitching about the job and you made a joke.It was funny! I would have bust a gut laughing if one of my gay friends had said that to me.She was still in her "bitching frame of mind and it caught her off guard is my guess!\nI always asked my buddies at work," what do dykes and mechanics have in common? We both use Snap-On tools! LOL! I was a mechanic before I retired.The Looks I'd get! That was funnier than the joke!\nYou sound like a nice guy to have as a friend!