i keep on finding that my husband on alot of dating sites . he swears it is not him and he don't even know how it got there. but they all have one of his favorite password and go to his e-mail adress. plus he hardly even french kiss me anymore let alone touch me. we have a 5month old son. plus i find these web sites on our computer. need advice please help
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he is cheating on you but may be even he is not willing  to accept it somewhere in his heart.\nhe might have felt rejected by you and is now using these ways you take  revenge of that rejection.\none thing is certain that he do not want to loose you and thats why on being cought he is trying to cover it up.\nhave passions but be careful, \nmake it clear to him that you are not going to tolerate it anyfurther. get rid of computer or make sure that you r there when he is working on it... \ntackle the situation in a balanced way, \nlisten to him and show him that you care ...\nprovide him security and ask for the same in return\nbe with him  as your child needs both of you...\nmay you get your lost love again...\nmay god bless both of you.\nforgat it as a bad dream. forever...
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I don't have a problem finding love over the internet. After all, I met my husband on the net.\n\nWhat I have a problem with is people who actively go looking on the internet. It's like putting your name in the personals in the newspaper. A sign of desperation. And last I looked desperation isn't a good thing.\n\nThe internet is also dangerous because people don't think when they meet someone on the net. They rush into it talking about how they met only a month ago and have talked for only a week over the phone and want to get married to this person. For some reason, if it's over the net, they don't want to wait until they actually get to know someone.\n\nMy husband and I have known each other for almost 9 years. We knew each other for over three years as friends over the net. Then we spent 5 and a half years "dating" going back and forth between our countries and talking on the phone for hours and hours every night for YEARS. \n\nWe've been married since June.\n\nMost people aren't willing to take the time it takes. It's not like meeting someone face to face. It's alot more dangerous and you don't have the ability to look at each other so you can rely on your own personal perception. \n\nPeople also aren't willing to wait until they're over that "honeymoon" phase of the relationship and work at the communication part. It's why most internet relationships fail. They can't handle the distance and work on the communication.\n\nEven my family, the people who were so sceptical in the beginning and advising me against getting involved with my husband. Even they have admitted that this is probably the healthiest relationship they've ever seen due to the level of communication he and I have. We can even finish each others sentences and yet we will find each other absolutely fascinating. Even after all this time.\n\nIf people would learn to be patient and take it slowly, I wouldn't say anything. But most people seem convinced they want to marry this person after speak to them for only a month or so over the internet. It's ridiculous.
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You can also use the Yahoo search box at the top of this page that says "Search the Web".\n\nOne thing to note, if no one else in the world has linked to your husband's web site, it may not be found in any search engine such as Yahoo or Google.\n\nThere is one other answer to this question:\n\ne-mail him, messenge him, or call him to ask him what the URL (address) is.
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Is getting rid of the computer an option? Also, do you think that the computer is the ONLY place he flirts? Most likely not I'd say. You deserve better. Maybe try a trial separation - do you have family that you can live with? Make him realize what he has in you.
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Most of the answers here are absolutely ridiculous. What is with the he deserves his privacy bull. There are no secrets in marriage! Why would he act like that? It's rude, mean, and obnoxious! I go into my husbands wallet and I have never been yelled at. He goes into my purse. This man is not a stranger. Woman should not be afraid of their husbands reaction to something so trivial. He may or may not being hiding something in there. I'm not going to just assume he is. What is his relationship with your son? Does he like him or not like him. Maybe this had nothing to do with you at all. Maybe he just has something against your son which isn't good either. And for the person who said it is time for this 20 year old to get a job. Shut up! Another obnoxious person acting as if you know these people and their situation. Even working people need to borrow a few bucks here and there. How do you know he didn't just forget his wallet at home or that he wasn't getting his paycheck the next day?! Talk to your husband and first find out why he reacted that way. You won't know what to do about it until you know why it happened. Also, make sure he knows not to disrespect you in front of your son like that. He would not appreciate it if it had been the other way around. Take care of yourself and always remember you deserve respect so demand it!
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it is funny how dangerous a computer can be. I would tell your wife what happened because it sounds like you or someone who used the computer (maybe the kids) went to a site or did a search that allowed that message to get through. \n\ndont ever reply back because it wont stop. \n\ntry getting a block on the computer, it might help.
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If you having feelings that your fiance is spying on you.  This means that if he is does not trust you.  If he is unable to trust you before you are married to this guy, what are you going to do when you are married.   (Does not sound very good).\n\nhttp://www.ewido.net This company was out of Germany and has since been purchased by AVG. Now the name is AVG antispyware. Still the same program with excellent technolgoy. When you download the program it will come with all functions an if you don't purchase in thirty days they will just remove the background scanner and the auto updates. You will update on a manual basis. Scans all 195,000 objects in my system.\n\nhttp://www.emsisoft.com This company is out of Austria. Almost the same as the new AVG. A2Squared free version download. They will ask you for you email address so they can send you a key that is good for life. You will get any new free version with the same key. Plus has rootkit protection and rogue dialer protection. (I have ADSL, but use for the added protection).\n\n(Both of the above program will find keyloggers.. A2Squared is the best for finding keyloggers installed in your pc.\n \nFor "zero day attacks", Attacks that hit before any security company has knowledge of the attack. I use a free software that is is excellent state of the art technology to identify any program that the behaivor is strange, like trying to download hidden files, etc. etc. Will get a pop up with indepth details, so you can decide for yourself if you want to allow or deny. Plus will block all malware and tell you if there are any hidden programs running in your system. http://www.cyberhawk.com\n\nClinical Psychiatrist, France
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If you met him on the internet, it does NOT mean he is just after sex, I met my husband on the internet.  As for trusting, whatever happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt.  That's what's wrong with this world today, everyone thinks everyone else is out to get them.
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there are TONS of stories of people meeting on the net, its been going on for longer than many realise. a friend of mine just celebrated her 5th wedding anniversary with the man she met on the internet. they also have two kids, she is a teacher, he is a chiropractor. dont sound like crazy people to me lol. i also know another woman who has been married the same amount of time and her husband moved from overseas to be with her, they have a daughter turning 4 next month. \n\nto me, its not really that different than how many relationships do or dont work out in 'real life'. if i count how many bfs i have had since i was 15, its over 30! so that means i have had 30 failed relationships so far and only one of them was met on the internet (but it still lasted 4 years and we had a daughter). out of the couples i know so far that met on the net and got married, not one of them is divorced. NOT ONE. yeah there is still time i suppose but other couples i know that met in person first have been married and divorced already, over half of them if i sit and count. so whats that say about the odds?
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But of course on line friendship survives!! You just gotta keep it alive. If you keep in touch, then the friendship stays alive. If you stop communicating, then the friendship dies. I know this from a few times of experience. Dude, I am not kidding when I say this, either, you are the longest I have kept in touch with solely over the computer. A little over 2 months already!! My longest before this was only for about 2 weeks. They stopped communication for some reason. Guess things got tiresome and they were starting to do other things for themselves.... You can stick to someone off the internet just like you do in real life. I have heard from several that some people they know personally actually married each other because they got along so well on the internet. Just like the dating sites. You find someone that you get along with over the computer. And then they meet each other after talking over the computer for quite some time.
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I totally agree with nintecnoentertainmentsystem's answer.\n\nIt all has to do with trust. Obviously you dont trust your husband for one reason or another. If he wanted to ensure you that he is not hiding anything then you would be willing to give you his password.\n\nIm not saying you should check his voicemail every second, but you should have access to it, if you feel the need to 'check' on him.\n\nWhen a partner is not open in sharing and being open, the possiblity of hiding something is very high.\n\nI have been through something similar and I was right no to trust my partner.\n\nTrust your instincts, they were given to you for a reason.\n\nBest of Luck!
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install a keylogger /spy  on his computer, on that does not show up in taskmanger, one that sned te dat remotely is also good ( so you can retrieve from email from another computer ),\n\nspying on husband is not illegal ( in the context of marriage, a spouse cannot expect privacy from another )\n\nhttp://www.waresight.com/\n\nhttp://www.keylogger.net/
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I met my husband on kiss.com ... and he turned out a total arse....he has a 18 year old daughter whom I knew nothing about until we got married....so be careful...
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Does he wish to go out with you?  If yes, that is one less thing you have to consider.\n\nAge is DEFINATELY just a number, though if you are not of legal age in your country and he is, please stop all contact with him or stay only friends because he could get in trouble for being with a minor.  \n\nAnother thing is... Please use caution with being online.  I honestly cannot stess enough the stories I have heard of people who have pretended to be someone they are not, people who try to take advantage of others in illegal or hurtful ways, and all of this stuff. If you take your relationship into offline life make sure that you do the following:  tell your friends about this person (including his name, where he is from and all of that) make sure that if you do meet you do so in a public place with other people around and take a friend with you, if you are in a position to do a background check on him do so, and the rest of the necessary things to keep you safe.  I am NOT saying all people online are predators, some are very nice people and I met my future husband in a Yahoo! Chatroom but I also used very reasonable precautions when going forward with meeting with him and such.\n\nIf you both like eachother and are both of legal age, go for it; a wonderful, trusting relationship is a rare find and sometimes you have to take it where you can get it.  Just try not to pay attention to what people say about finding someone off the internet.  Though, if you feel there is something wrong in your relationship at anytime, look into it... don't dismiss anything.
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Hi Dakota:\nSo sorry to hear all your pain.....but the good part of this is I hear lots, and lots of love going on here.  Wow.  Glad to hear it...and keep it up.  \n\nDon't worry.  Keep busy with some other passion, other then him, and all will be fine.   I discovered all sorts of interesting passions when I was alone.....I actually started to really find me and my daughter, and we had lots of fun, and when my love came back, well he was really happy to see the 'new' me.  I had matured and become 'more' attractive to him because I had another passion.  and our daughter learned from seeing me function and find myself more steady!  She is now much older, but she is very independent now as a result.\n\nIt is hard, and I know you can do it, because lots of us out there did what you are doing.   So, dive out on the internet and look up some of your passions--be it painting, walking, hiking, drawing, find something fast.  and your honey will appreciate you all that much more.\n\nTrust me on this one,\n\nluv Ava
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There re lots of programs that can take every password in your pc,you get all the passwords in your pc using them but its not easy to find them,\nThey save all the things you write by keyboard including your passwords that how they work\n Its easy to make a program like that ,but it shouldnt be easy for a teacher :D\nWhile you are trying to find one of them,be careful about the viruses and trojens,dont try google to find i advise you to use e-mule to download one of them\nand finally do not contact a hacker team  for this,because that means your e-mail will be hacked too :D\nI think its better way to talk to your husband about how much you love him and even you are worry if he is having affair
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You must be extremely careful. Use your common sense and watch out for the creeps. I met my husband online 6 years ago and we've been married for 5 years and have a little girl!