I M Pregnant...and my bff/boyfriend is the dad and when i told him(i am 6 months)the other day he was soooo happy even though he is 15 and so m I. he asked me to marry him and live at this house that will legally be his(not his parents0 when he is 18. what should I do?
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FIRST OF ALL I JUST READ ALL THE RESPONSES AND ABORTION IS NOT A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL. SO TO ALL THE PEOPLE THAT SAID ABORTION HOW COULD YOU. MAYBE YOUR PARENTS SHOULD HAVE HAD AN ABORTION WITH YOU!!!!!ABORTION IS MURDER NO MATTER HOW FAR ALONG YOU ARE. GIRL SHOW EVERY PRICK THAT JUST CUZ YOU ARE 15 YOU CAN STILL GRADUATE AND GO TO WORK AND RAISE A BABY. IT WILL BE HARD TO BUT YOU CAN DO IT. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG BUT MAKE SURE THE BABY IS NUMBER ONE AND NOT YOUR PARTY LIFE IF YOU HAVE ONE. ENJOY HAVING KIDS WHILE YOU CAN..CUZ SOMEDAY THAT MIGHT BE TAKEN FROM YOU.......
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um no your way to young for him right now wait til your 18. if anything happens to you now with him then hes responsible for it. And then think would you parents be ok with it to if you went out with him. I don't think they would be pleased to hear that.
675794
Well, do you love him? You have had a child together so you have to think of the kid too.. But do not stay for only that reason.\n\nI do not think the age is the problem, I think maybe you feel like you might have gotten with him for a father figure, I am going to guess and say that I bet someone told you that..\n\nIf you love him hun, marry and have a wonderful life.. If you are not sure, then do not marry him...And if you do not love him, then you really should move on and find someone you love and who loves and adores you.. We all deserve that!
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Marriage should not be the result of a child. It should only reflect both your love between you 2. If you dont feel up to marriage or you have discussed and you beleive it wont work, then dont go ahead with it.\n\nKeeping the child is also the correct thing to do. If you have not told your boyfriend about it, then please do as that will sort out a lot of things before anything bad happens. Nothing "Should" come "First". It happened and you have to look ahead not backwards.\n\nTo sum up, if you trully beleive that you 2 are so much in love and have talked it over, then go ahead to marry. If not, then discussing ways to raise the child is the right thing to do. Living together (even if not married) is also another option. Just as long as the child has both a mother and a father.\n\nHope this helped you;)
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So, does this mean you do not attend school on a regular bases like you should.  You are not working towards being a responsible adult.  Your a 14 year old loser and you want him to hang around and believe you two are meant for each other.  What a beautiful future you two could have together.  Yes, what would you tell him.  That you'll get a job an Mc Donald's and live happily ever after. What kind of parents do you have that you are going out with an 18 year old loser who isn't bright enough to realize you just a stupid kid.  You're really NOT old enough to know who you are meant to be with.  Pay attention to growing up little girl.  You are a baby.  He is not much of a man or he would be dating grown women.  You're just headed for trouble.  A welfare check.
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Sounds like a no. You have been having sex with him, probably living with him - he has no need to get married; you are giving him all that he wants and he is totally comfortable. Talk to him again, and get married before the baby comes!
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Need more information.  Depending on who you are or what your relationship is to the person.  If your not a parent, it also has a lot to do with the opinion of the child.  Being that they are 15, they are older and can give the judge his or her opinion as to which person or parent they want to live with.
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Why are u protecting him for you were a minor he is adult why would any parnet let a child at 15  move in with this  dude, don't think now any can be done if all the truth came out Good Luck
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First of all, your age matters. I didn't see your age, but assuming that you are of age, 19 +, you just have to set the record straight.\nI married my sweetheart when I was 20, and we have had our problems, but we have never once regretted what we did. We love each other, and now our parents accept it.\nOf course, when we first got together, our parents were the same. We ended up having a huge fallout, and we both told our parents that with or without their blessings, we were going to have our own successes and failures, and we would like their support, but that is all. If we fail, be there, if we succeed, please congratulate us. Most of all be happy, if you can't we don't need you running our lives, as when we were younger. Thank them for their love and concern, but they must allow you, as they did, fail or succeed on your own.\nAll is well now, we all get along well, it just takes time for the relationship, on all levels, to mature. Of course, proving that you are capable to take care of yourself also requires you standing on your own, and not going running to Mommy and Daddy for a handout. It's a two edged sword, but it's worth it. Growing up sucks, but we all have to do it, physically. Some of us mentally grow up, others never do, you just have to figure out which one you are going to do, you can't have it both ways!\nGood luck!
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He thinks of u as his, like ur his property, u have to make up ur mind do u what him back or do u what to move on with your life. I'd say girl ur much better than just being a baby momma. I don't know you but ur God's creations so he has plans for you. He has no right to tell you what u can or cannot do, just like u can't tell him what to do. I say he wants you and he wants his freedom, that's nice and all but it's not ur problem. I say do what makes you feel happy, and whatever you do, do it for you and your baby and he'll be eating out of your hand. When you feel happy and confident it shows and men love confident women. BE INDEPENDENT
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For an eighteen year old being in a permanent relationship is a scary thing especially when there is the added pressure of having to be a dad.  It would make me feel vulnerable too.  He's got some growing up to do before he's ready for that level of committment.  That doesn't mean that he won't mature and be with you.  He should be if he's your baby's dad, but don't rush into the committment just because you have a child together.  In the long run that could be worse for the child.  Both of you are going to change a lot in the coming years and that dynamic aspect of your personality will leave anyone feeling vulnerable.  It sounds like he might be on the right track though.  He's got himself in college and he's willing to express his feelings concerning his vulnerability which is really hard for a guy to do.  Give him some time.  Give yourself some time.  It sounds like you might have winner in a few years.
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Why are you living with your boyfriend?How old are you?No baby she might not get over it sometimes when we are young our parent's can see things that we can't see.It's not until later on in life we see or understand why that comment was made.You and your boyfriend are very young and she probably don't want to see you struggle that's all.Mom knows how hard it's going to be that's all.Who is working you or your boyfriend work?How are you guys going to support the baby?By your ages I would hope that both of ya'll are still in school.I'm not on mom side because it's going to be your decision when it's all said and done.You take care of yourself,and know it's not going to be easy.You have a lot of sleepless night's ahead of you.I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.Take care.
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I'm so happy for the two of you! Congratulations and I hope everything will work out for the best :)\n\nBefore you'll get into anything more serious and take it even further, may I you to do one thing? PLEASE wait until you turn 18 years old (in 3 years). I know it's a lot to ask, but to be on the safe side and for him not to get into jail on the charges of raping you. I know, both of you are all ready to start your lives together. You can use these 3 years to plan out where you'll live, work, how you'll take care of your kids, whether or not you'll need anyone else support at any time. As well as both of you can plan your wedding together, too :) Planning it step by step makes it that much perfect when the time comes and in the long run.
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you have asked this question three times. i know you kind of want a yes, you should. but listen to us. think first. talk to her about it. there can be complications. can you live with her? would your parents be happy? could you guys marry, and still have money to live on? think first.
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well, if you are 18+ you have the full right to leave him..and he cant stop you. All you have to do i one day go out look for an apartment or somthing than say to him "dad, i am an adult now, and i have the right to move out..so i moving" say it in a nice way, and if he says no u cant   he cant stop you?  if ur 18+ its officially your life! good luck\nHope I Helped
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It seems to me that he is far from ready for the responsibility of partner hood and parenthood. His respect level for you seems very low in light of his degradation of you and not support. He may be insecure and refocusing this toward you, however his immaturity is stopping him from seeing that he is making you feel insecure also and more to the point, he is destroying your self esteem and worth and ruining what should be the most amazing experience of your life. I know this isn't what you will be wanting to hear, but I honestly cant see this getting any better in the near future. Perhaps you could talk to his parents and solicit, for want of a better word, their advice and support.Not to mention that of your on. No-one can tell you whether to stay or leave, in the end you will do what you will do and I realise you love him. But you must always remember to love yourself and make that precious baby you are carrying your first priority. I feel sad for you. No-one should be having that kind of stress at this or any really, stage of your pregnancy. But if he is like this now maybe you need to ask how much worse it's going to be or get when baby gets here and whether you want to wait to find out. I hope you find a solution that enables you to be happy and content.Good Luck.
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I feel like a pro on this type of situation. I'ts been a while for me. My daughter is 16 and I've been with my husband since she was 2yrs old. Keep your x in his place and your current in the right place. As long as you know who your with and who is the most important one to your future toether as a family. You will make the right choice. Uless your not sure who is in the right place in your life. Don't rush in to fast think, hearts are involved.