I have been married 3 years he does not want to send me divorce papers. What can i do, i harly have money and can't aford it can anyone help please.
209886
All you need to do is petition the court (also called "suing for divorce").  Unless he has a valid reason to continue to delay it, the judge can compell him to sign it.
151550
file for divorce and have it get served to him. the courts might make you perticipate in marriage counselling if you don't have good cause
351465
Hello, I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now.  You must still be very young since you've been married almost 3 years.  No matter how far down the wrong road you go, it is never too far to turn around!  Remember that.  What you should do, take good care of yourself.  If you are so miserable, you are crying yourself to sleep half the time, and your husband is mean and hateful, and lacks responsibility for your son, you are going to have to pull yourself together so you can get out of this situation.  \n\nNow you are married so you can't just walk away.  You have a child with this man and you are legally bound to him through marriage.  You could try some marriage counseling, or if your husband refuses, go to counseling alone- for yourself.  The counseling will help you learn how to mend your marriage or help you with the courage you will need to file for divorce and give you the emotional support you need while you make these changes in your life.\n\nForget about your ex! Right now you need to focus on yourself, your situation, and what YOU are going to do about it.  After you get that figured out, don't forget, you have a very young child of your own that you must put before any other relationship.  Your baby is counting on you for that, and he deserves your full efforts.\n\nGood luck and best wishes.  \n\nS
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Unfortunately, if it wasn't written in the divorce decree, I don't think you'll be able to get anything from it. Remember, he is your ex, which means you have no ties to his pension. I know about this because of my divorce. Everything, including my pension, that was of value was put into my divorce documents. It also stated that from this point forward, everything was separate. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
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As long as u have visitation, he can't do anything, but be mad. I don't like divorce, but when it happens I feel as though if the parents are doing all they can for the sake of their child(ren, then it works out. Your husband should realize this. Working two jobs is rough, I should know I did it for two years and trying to find time to spend with your kids is as well. I commend you for your efforts, but be careful don't give him a reason to take your rights away. I've seen it because of this and it hurts the kids not the adults in the long run. If u need too go back to the courts and see if you and your husband can come to an agreement to kind of lower your payments to him for the kids so that you can spend more time with them. Explain that because of the child support you have to work 2 jobs and this is putting not only a strain on you, but your relationship with your kids. I would think this would be a sympathic plea and someone would hear you. It's just a thought. I pray things work out for you it sounds like u are going to need it.
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Why, so you can stay married to someone that wants a divorce?  Strange, strange, strange world we live in.  You should file and set the hearings and if she doesn't show up, you get everything.
94525
Check with the state court where you lived in Florida.  If there was any paperwork filed someone at the court should be able to get a docket number for you and from there you can get a copy of the papers.  But since you have never received anything I would have to say that you are still married...just seperated.
338903
just seperate, isnt a big deal, why file any paperwork, if you think you  are going to work it out,  most times it isnt worth it, just get a divorce
445778
You only need him to sign if it's a divorce by consent.  If he won't agree, then you have to sue him, take it to court and let the judge sign the divorce papers and property settlement orders.
413069
This is a sticky situation. First, I'm going to assume that your husband was on the original note and mortgage with his prior wife, therefore, he is obligated to make those payments when she does not, regardless of the divorce decree. It's crummy, I know. Sure, she can be held in contempt, but that really doesn't help you and your hubby out. My suggestion is this: Call the mortgage company that holds the note. Or rather, have your husband called. As he is on the note, he has a right to access any of the information. Have him explain the situation to the mortgage broker and find out what help they can offer him. Next, find an attorney that will sit down with you and find out what they suggest you do legally with the ex-wife. \n\nI can relate, as my divorce attorney suggested that all I needed to do was sign a quit claim deed to "remove" myself from the property. Luckily, working in the industry, I did know better, but it really bothers me that this is so common. Please keep us posted, I'll keep you and your hubby in my thoughts in the hopes that this works out for you.
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nooooooooooo he has no rights to ask you that and then he is remarried?? tell him to mind his business at home and send your child support payment on time.. that is what.\nthe only thing he needs to know is where to send the money i hope you slapped his ass with child support and i hope he has supervised visitations with the kids if he was abusive...you better talk that over with your lawyer.and do not let him intimidate you you have to be strong and direct with him,good luck honey.
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I have been married for just over 9 years, together for 11 and have 4 children. We faced similar trials recently, we lost our house almost the car and were behind on a lot of bills. Divorce was never an issue, it will not solve any of those problems and if you agree on everything than you agree on that also. Sometimes you just have to lose everything to see what is really important... your family and their well being. You can always rent, get extent ions on the bills if you ask for help. It has been just about 2 years since everything seemed to go wrong for us, financially, but we are stronger and more aware of our money, emotions and the important stuff that always seemed to get lost before. It does get better. Keep your head up and stick it out.
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I really hate to break this to you but its not good.  He sounds very controlling.  My recommendation is that you both go through pre-marital counceling or split up.  If he is doing this, this early on, he is sending you very strong clues as to what he will be like once the papers are signed.  Please, postpone the wedding if its set or stop the engagement.  He has to want to change.  You cant make him do so.  At the same token, you dont deserve to be belittled at all by ANY person.  That is called verbal and emotional abuse.  And, when there is abuse of any kind this early on, it tends to escalate later.  You are not his property.  He can not tell you what to do.  I know this will be so hard for you because its obvious that you still love him but you have to believe me on this one.  I was married to 2 men that did very similar things to what you just discribed.  It dam near ruined me.  \n\nPack your stuff if you are living together and leave.  Tell him you will return once he has gotten counceling and not before that.  Dont take his appologies because abusers will appologize, be good for a SHORT time, then do it all over again and each time will be worse.  I speak from experience.  And I pray for your sanity right now.  I really hope you do the right thing.  This time, listen to your head and not your heart.
578704
I think you already know.  You are not happy in this marriage, your husband doesn't care about your feelings at all.   You don't see any way to get him to change and you don't want to live this way.  I don't like to recommend divorce but if all you say is true than I think that would be the best thing if you want a happy future for yourself.
100384
first you need to find out if it is legal to run an add in a paper letting the person know youre divorcing him. cuz in some states you can get in touch with someone and they will run an add in the paper and your spouse will have a certain amount of time to answer,if he does not answer, your granted the divorce, so ask the court house or talk to a lawyer. good luck
47245
You need to get divorce before he's released if possible , so you can at least find him . If he decides to not be found , simply because he doesn't want to sign for papers. This could be a long divorcing . As any questions of law , States vary in how to , yes a lawyer is available in all states , some people can't afford the cost ( esp. with child (ren) , bills unpaid in both names ....) There is a self divorce in some states ,if he'll be in jail for awhile .As it's cheaper ,but takes Longer .In the state I am in my ex husband ( living across state , not in my home sense 1 and half years ) Yet , still not finally divorced , Ran Bilss up to thousands of dollars ! The phone company turned my service off and took me to court . Yes , I had to pay his bill to have service ! I was lucky ,our divorce went though afew months later . Divorces doesn't put on gloves on before the fight.*Some divorces
404170
How do you prove that?  Sometimes after marriage and things do not work out many accusations are thrown about...... Could be possible that the person they married used the "paper thing" to control and manipulate that person....Who would want to stay in a marriage like that?  Of course the opposite spouse would always say..... You married me for your papers.