every thing i mean she was virjen and you are the first who do that you both kissed each other first time i mean you started every thing together and after that she left you then you met another girl after 4 years and u sure that she loves u so much and u are sure from that and you feel that you love her too,\nthen u say i'll marry her she is my partner for my life. so you will have the same feelings with her like the other one who left u???????
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huh that question is confusing...but i seems like you guys really love each other and should stay together.
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Sweeite, it's alright.  What you feel is totally natural.  I have been with my guy for three years and I am the maid of honor for a woman who has been dating her guy for five months.  I have a complex about it, and she loves to rub it in.  \n\nSomething I have realized, though, through all this is that marriage, while being the ultimate committment is not required to have a totally fulfilling realtionship.  While I may not even be engaged, I know that we are meant to be and have a bond that my friend cannot even contemplate with her new beau.  \n\nNot being egnaged only means that you are mature enough to know that the marriages that last longer are the ones who wait two to five years.  You will not stumble into anything weird wwhen you get married.  You know everything about him.  Believe me, some of these new brides will find at least one thing that will surpirse them about their mate.  Getting married in the honeymoon phase of a realtiohsip, while looks good on paper, is not really the best way.  once that is over, what do you have left?  Only knowledge and understanding of the other will be the true test of time, and that can only come with time.  \n\nDon't sweat it.  You are the smarter one.  Know it, breathe it, live it!  You are one up on them, not the other way around!
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Well maybe you loved her and you didn't even noticed it before,and now you are truly feeling for it,but there is only one thing you can do,go talk to her about because we never know,what if she loved you but never said anything?Maybe she gave up on you and found somebody else...Good luck
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hey, leave it out guys he wrote "in love" he's distinguishing between saying he loves her and being "in love". so u say she's great and u must be feeling the butterflies in your tummy and everything.. i know that feeling, i'm still feeling it after six months and loving every minute of it..and i'm glad i took the risk...i wanted to bail at the start because i had been burned badly in the past and was afraid of the really strong feelings i was feeling..afraid of being hurt again\nbut there's no fun without the risk...and there's never a guarantee\n\ntake the chance, enjoy your time with her, if she's as great as u say she is then she won't treat u as a doormat and take advantage of u, love is a two way street... she'll be thrilled to have found a partner who's not afraid to show his feelings!\n\nand it'll work out...\n\nand if it doesn't be glad of the time u had together, of the feelings u felt.. i never thought that i'd be able to open up and let someone in.. but i could and i did and it was the best thing i ever did..\n\ncut the girl some slack, sounds like she's worth it...enjoy the time and good luck :)
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It's natural to feel jealous, but as I read the description of your situation-I see you only became jealous when you saw the pic of her kissing someone else. I wouldn't jump to any conclusion that you still feel strongly for her because if that was the case it wouldn't just now be happening. \n\nThe fact that your young-and you are not as experienced; let me just tell you that all through out your life you are always going to feel some sort of feeling whenever you see and ex getting close to someone else. My advice take some time and really think-are you just feeling like this because of the picture or have you always wanted to be back with her.
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You should believe in what ever it is you belive in.  If you believe in eternal love, then so be it.  If you find a girl who is afraid to commit, leave her.  You should also know that although one love for the rest of your life is probably not going to happen.  You should remain faithful if you have a partner, don't get me wrong.  It's just chances are you will experience love with more than one woman.  If things don't work out though, your beliefs are not a license to stalk.
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There is a possiblity that the fact you don't feel the same way with new girls is simply because the first girl was just that--your first girl.  I dated four girls in my life, and didn't find the right one until a couple years ago.  At first, all the girls I dated gave me the same feeling, but it went away, and that was ultimately why the first three relationships didn't work out.  Every time we broke up, I was worried that I wouldn't find a girl like them again, because they were all very wonderful people.  I would go a few months before I found someone else that made me feel the way they did.  But it may take a few tries, like in my case, where it took four tries to find the right girl.  The reason you may feel different about your first girl is just because she was the first one you knew, so that is what you are used to.  The best thing I can say is wait it out, until you find the person that you realize you could spend a lot of time (i.e. a lifetime) with.  It just takes time and a lot of different people until you find the one.  Hope this helps somewhat!
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Hi.  I might be wrong, but I think most of the love/hate stuff is only in your head, you know.  I mean, it's not like you two have had an actual relationship in all those years, right?  So, I'm not saying you haven't really felt love and hate, only the person you've felt them for no longer exists.  You both grew apart a long time ago - if you were to meet again, you probably wouldn't even know each other anymore, you'd have to get to know her all over again to sort out your feelings.  And you might realize then that she's probably been that way (that would only be new to you) for a while and you couldn't possibly feel love or hate or both for her.\nOkay, I'm rambling.\nWhat to do?  Now that's a good question.  Honestly, I don't know.  I don't know how you get over your history.  But is this something that bothers you all the time?  Or are you just wondering how she's felt since then?
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i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
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First of all, the second girl (the one who the guy marries) should not worry about what happened previously, she's got him  NOW.  That is all that matters.  As long the guy treats her like gold, she should not worry about the past.  The past is the past.  The girl should look toward the future with her new husband!
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Yes it's very possible. However, it's going to take time. \nYou're obviously not over this girl. I really believe that for as long as you're holding on to this girl, you won't be ready for a new love. \nI'm assuming she's your first love? It's going to be hard because naturally we compare everything and everyone to that one person. She was perfect in every way, right? and you want your next to be just like her; totally understandable. But honestly, we can't expect to find that same person again. I think that you may need a little more time to get over her; and I'm sorry to say, but you do need to let her go. It's hard to let ourselves open up to new options and personalities when we're still so engrossed on one option. \nAnd, I'm sorry, I'm not one to tell you how to move on and let go. It took me almost 3 years before i could completely let go of my first. But it will happen, i think the best thing you can do now is find out what you can learn from that relationship and try to figure out how, because of this relationship, you've become a better person. Then use those factors to find what you really need.
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i think that god has someone spl. for you. and when you will meet her you will not regret. do give your first kiss to the best one. who will be committed for you and you only. like indians.\neither they are crazy but still they have very pious love.
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this happened to me.  i stuck by his side and he realized that i was the person he needed in his life.  if you make him happy, he will want you in his life.. when my boyfriend and i broke up the first time, he told me... the next girlfriend i have will be the girl i'm going to marry.  we kept talking, stayed close, hung out, talked everyday.. we're back together and plan on getting married.  if its true and its meant to be it will.  you  have to show him that you're there for him and you're not there to cause stress or be a burden.  hope this helped!
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u should stick with her if it is her culture RESPECT it u may never know she might be THE ONE and only one who u may ever LOVE as the sayn goes FOR BETTER OR FOR WORST love's COMPLICATED deal with it or look at it this way when she gets her masters she's out of their and u can be together in PEACE AND QUITE.she CAN'T LIVE WITH THEM AND CAN'T WITHOUT THEM..................
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WOW... you are a PIG!!!!!!!  I think that when you started thinking of doing something with this other girl you should have broken it off with you girlfriend..\n\nSome advice from you..  I was in a relaitonship for 6 years.. we were highschool sweethearts... he cheated on me and then told me that he jsut wasn't sure what he  wanted.. he hadn't experienced anything other than me so that is why it happened.. he said he loved me but didn't know if he was in love with me so he wanted some time apart to think... well that time apart turned into a few months and then you know what happened.. the jerk realized what he had and came back but it was too late.  \n\nso sometimes when you are in a relationship for so long you tend to overlook a lot things, you tend to take things for granted.. you tend to think do I really want this what if there is something else out there.. and then you follow your doubts and find out everything you wanted you had but its too late... don't let it be too late for you.. figure out what you want.. and you need to talk to your girl you can't hide that! Also I hope you used protection if not you also need to tell your girl and you both should get checked there are a lot of diseases out there!\n\nHope this helped.. \nanything else just email me!
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Yes, there are kind of person like that. They probably have some other interesting things to do in and maybe all their life, and neglect their partners (although they don't mean it).\n\nIf you marry him, you'll find really a roomate than a lover, believe me. There will be the moments you want to cry, wishing you were the other gal you see her with b/f or husband and they are so affectionate to each other ... If you watch around, you'll see even a male and a female animal in couple are affectionate with each other ...\n\nI even wonder what has been keeping you 9 years in that relationship ... Haven't you ever felt lonely in your heart ?
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:) hmm, a tough question, this one. I can't really say that she is supposed to leave her boyfriend because of you, or, that it is wrong for her to do so when she does love you and have no more feelings for her boyfriend.\n\nHowever, you have only known her for a little while. Don't you think you might just be expecting overly by speculating that she might consider ending her current relationship with her boyfriend?\n\nI only suggested that you should tell her how you felt about her as I know she will respect your determination/courage to let her know. Frankly, I didn't expect that your feeling towards her was strong enough to the point of contemplating whether or not she wants to be with you in the end.\n\nI don't really approve of this but who am I to judge since this is between you and her. No one can guarantee the outcome of both of your future. There's also a possibility after the both of you declare as couples, once you are apart, this sort of thing might happen again and she would leave you for another guy. First of all, imagine you're in the boyfriend's shoe; how would you feel if your girl left you for a guy whom she'd met only few months back?\n\nOn the other hand, it is her choice really, if she does sincerely loves you and her feelings towards her boyfriend is a thing of the past. I believe she is matured enough to think for her own good.\n\nBy the way, don't pressure her to choose between her boyfriend and you. It won't seem fair to anyone.\n\nI hope it helps.