Im 26 and been out for about 5 years now. I have found alot of other gay men being stuck up and being gay because it is a fad. Also I came out to make an statement not to be the life of the party. I am not materlistic like most of the gay men I know maybe being gay is not what it is craked up to be. Let me knwo what it means to you.... thanks
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Someone who like the same sex that they are. That's it. Television (like Will & Grace, which I hate) make it the end all, be all of what makes a person. It's not.  You happen to like your own sex.  Big deal. That shouldn't define your whole existance, like I know people that it does.
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I didn't know I was gay but knew that I was different when I was as young as 6 years old.I just seemed to develop differently then the boys around me.While I did like some sports and some "boy" stuff, I also liked hanging around with the girls and doing girl stuff.As I got older I knew that I was definitely different because I had strong attractions to men and none to women.I think I was around 13 when I realized that the reason I was so different was because I was gay.But even then I thought it was something I could "fix" and even tried to "fix" it.By the time I was 16 and still could not "fix" my sexuality, I accepted who I was.Even though it meant a life of hardships and family disappointments, I came to accept who I was.It is to bad so many of my family members, including my own mother, could not accept who I was and went as far as disowning me and never having anything to do with me.
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Gay people are human beings the same as the rest of us and we should not try to play God by judging what they do or who their with. A lot of great people have turned out to be gay, but that did not stop me from liking their acting or music. I have had some friends who turned out to be gay, but I did not stop being friends with them for that. If we were all the same in this world, then I think it would be a very boring place to be. If people would look beyond those types of things, then they would probably enjoy life a lot more. My motto is as long as they are not out trying to hurt someone else, then leave them alone and let them live their lives as they choose to!!!
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I say to each their own.I don't think that they're nasty and there's nothing wrong with being gay.People at a young age are discovering their sexuality and some are straight while others are gay.I have had gay friends before and I treated them equally as I did with my straight friends.As long as they don't go into detail about their sex life,that's fine.Some people prefer their own sex instead of the opposite.
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I don't think anyone wants to be gay. I really don't think that a person would want to be rediculed and shunned by society and alienated by their family and friends. I honestly think that that's just the way that they...just like ppl are heterosexual. People can't help who they are attracted to. And I think that society should be more accepting of gay ppl...after all they are ppl too. I support the gays and I am with them in their struggles. I think that I may be attracted to girls as well. And what the hell is wrong with that.
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It is unfortunate that the majority of people in this country are still so scared of the possibility of gays living equal among them. Why else place such a ridiculous ban? Some will say that children raised by gay parents will have it a lot harder. I disagree. I am amazed at how open and honest the youth in todays schools are. The only ones I know of that are homophobic have learned the behavior and language from their parents. If the youth of today can accept each other, why can't the adults? Fear. My partner and I just placed a question on here about how to adopt. the answers ranged form "Yuck" to 'How dare we drag a child into our fantasy?" These answers just mirror the fear and ignorance of the majority of Americans. Gays are accepted as long as we are funny, and the life of the party, but as soon as we stop acting like the characters on a sit-com we become a threat. The ban doesn't surprise me. the real question here is what to do about? How do accepting, open minded, loving people fight against such fear?
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D! How come the guys get to choose from decent women but us women get the bottom of the barrel to choose from? Just Kidding. I'm sure these are all really nice guys. I just thought that this would be the perfect time to come out of the closet and let the world know I would rather be GAY!\nLove & Light\nSharon
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That sounds like a problem with the other people, not you or your friend. \n\nI'm sure he isn't the only gay guy there. Perhaps the only one brave enough to come out, knowing that uninformed people will look at him weird. Share his bravery; be yourself, hang out with who you want. If people want to hold that against you, that should teach you something valuable about those people. And the next time someone else wants to be themself and come out, or be friends with your friend because he's a good guy, they'll be that much more likely to do it.
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Largely just because that's the word's connotation today.\n"Gay" is associated with a negative image of "sissy" guys in weird outfits who do "gay" things like sing sappy songs and act obnoxious.  At the same time, many students are aware that this is not how all gay people really are.  A lot of kids today might have a gay friend or know gay people, thus seeing they are "real" people.\nHowever, even gay people use the word "gay" to describe stuff sometimes, because it is part of the lexicon and because sometimes they will be the first to admit that something is lame and stereotypically sissy or obnoxious or whatever the connotation is (sorry, can't think of better examples).\n\nWhat I'm trying to say is, right now it's part of the culture.  But I think you're right in that it will change.\nEven now, teens of all orientations are starting to speak out against prejudice and creative positive change in the way their peers treat people who might be a little "different", this being increased due to the counter-cultural "individualist" movements and attitudes prevalent today and increased social awareness about these kinds of things.
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You can be gay and still be masculine, just the same as someone can be straight and be feminine. There is nothing wrong with being gay. It sounds like you might be, and at the very least you could be bisexual.
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I think everyone is a little bit gay... and everyone's curious, even if they don't admit it.  I say do what you want to do.  No regrets.  As long as you don't hurt anyone else in the process, go get yours.
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My son came out to me when he was 17.....I had known he was gay long before that though, probably even before he did.  Your parents will love you regardless.  Even my parents, who used to say things like "All gays should be shot", have now changed their views radically and say "to each their own".  Don't be afraid, parents just want you to be happy, no matter what.
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When you're gay (like half the people who commented on this probably arent, so they dont get it) you don't choose it.  Theres a point where you realize you are different... and its usually kinda scary.  So yeah, its natural.  If not then why do most upper forms of mammalian life do it?  Hmm?  \n\nHello?  You idiots out there with no idea what its really like to be gay?  Tell me something,.. do you think we would CHOOSE to be something that gets us beaten up, politically isolated and denied some of our basic human rights?  Get real... telling us gay is not natural and we should get with the opposite sex is like telling you to hook up with someone of your own sex.
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C. It's not a hetero thing. I know some pretty mouthy, opinionated gay men too. Some people just want to interject their own opinion on others. Like I am doing here. LOL\n\nThe significant difference is that I don't expect you to agree with me.
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People say "that's gay" as a negative comment because to be gay is bad.    Being gay used to mean happy, which was a good thing.  But when it came to mean attracted to someone of the same gender, it had a completely negative connotation.\n\nPeople are not being honest when they claim it has nothing to do with gay people.  \n\nAnd people act like it's something new, when it's not.  People did it in the 'seventies.  Referring to something gay meant it was stupid or undesirable or something negative.\n\nPeople use that expression, and claim they have nothing against gay people and will claim they have so many gay friends and blah blah blah.  Well, I've never met a single gay person who liked that practice, though some will go so far as to say that if you know  the person doesn't mean it as an insult, it's not so bad.\n\nBut then again, the very first thing that comes out when the insults start to fly between heterosexual men is the word f-aggot.  Or they'll call the other guy a cocksucker.  Or just overall ridicule the guy by implying he's gay. regardless of whether it's true or not.   And if you call them on it, guess what a lot of them will say?  The same old b.s - they've got loads of gay friends and they don't have a thing against gay people. \n\nGay is bad.  That's how people think.  Or a majority of them, despite their protests to the contrary.  It's not being overly-sensitive to point it out, either.  It's being honest.
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Well, for most people it's mostly the propaganda that the media has been shoving down our throats recently. They have instilled the fear of Gay people in ourselves. Most people think of Gay people in a sexual concept, while it's not. Gay can mean happy, colorful, etcetera. I mean, why would they say "Don we now our gay apparel, Falala, lalala, la la la" if they thought Gay was all bad? A sin? I wouldn't think of it exactly as a sin, but most heterosexual people don't like the whole "doing it with another of your sex" thing. They think of Gays being all M.J. and "I'm gonna hump you" kind of thing.  If you watch Food Network, there is a show starring two Gay men in a cooking show. Has Food Network canceled it yet? I'm not sure, but I'm pretty sure they haven't. So what if two guys or girls like each other to get married or be in an affair? It's really none of our business, just the couple in qusetion's. If they have sex together, good for them! They're happy. Whoop-de-doo. It's not our business, but theirs. I don't think that God hates Gay people. He regards them as a way of life. Everyone truly is afraid of the way some people express their gayness.\n\n\nHope this helps!\nP.S. You spelled unnatural wrong.\n-crad010
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I'm an older girl.....34....but am VERY curious about how teens deal with being gay/lesbian. I didn't come out until 2 yrs ago and didn't have to go through all the hard stuff as a kid/teen. How do you handle the dating scene? I can't imagine it. I'd have been scared to death to ask someone out for fear they'd 1) reject me and then 2) cause me no end of hell in school for it. Would love to know your thoughts on this! Send me a message if you'd like to share!     :- )