Everyone warned me that I would cut deeper and deeper, and I thought I wouldn't, but then yesterday I did cut deeper than I had before.  It still wasn't a very deep cut but it scared me that what everyone said would happen was starting to come true.  Now I'm trying really hard not to cut myself, but I can't concentrate on anything, and I can't get my homework done because I keep thinking things that I can normally get rid of by cutting.  Does anyone have any suggestions?
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You need to talk to your parents, school nurse, counselor, about getting help.  You need to find a counselor and a doctor to help with these feelings.  You also need to remove all the blades away from you, to help you stop.\n\nThis is a serious problem, that happens to a lot of people.  I hope you take care of this quickly.
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alot of people are afraid of girls or boys that do this and there is alot of reason people do and the are afraid of what you might do. my daughter was doing this to fit in with friends that was doing it. she would not cut enough to make herself bleed but enough to leave marks and she had alot of things go on to her over it with seeking help and bein watch by everyone around because we all was afraid of her hurting herself and dieing. its hard to deal with things like that because of they might be to afraid of you killing yourself and don't want to deal with it. you really have to look at it as a big part of your life that is going to hurt you and help you. just make sure you let your next boyfriend now. and as far as your ex boyfriend goes he was not good for you anyway. because if he was he would stick with you no matter what. gl hun
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as a cutter myself i have to tell you it is wrong, but i can't tell you to stop cuz i still cut.\n\ni read something the other day by another person that we as cutters have external scars, but think of alcoholics, they have internal scars on their livers, is that much different?  i chose a blade instead of a bottle, is that much different?\n\nam i "phycho" cuz i hurt myself?  i hurt no one else?  i commit no murders, no hit and runs either by accident, sorry, it's true, yes?\n\ni plan my cuts, i don't cut deep, i don't cut near veins, i do what i need to do to release internal pain and build up, i get what i need and that's that.  and if it hurts for someone to see a scar, well though sh*t.\n\nmeds and therapy just don't cut it for me, they don't do the job 100% after all these years.  and i've self-injured since i was a child in one way or another.  just that now i dominantly cut.  if i get a bruise i may make it worse, even though i did not initially self-inflict it.\n\nanother thing i do, but love it, is the pain of getting a tattoo, but that's expensive and also looked down on sometimes in society.  i'm labelled no matter what i do.  and when i get a tattoo and it does not hurt, i get upset, disappointed.\n\nso i say, let me do what i want to do, i'm not dumb, i've gone to doctors if it has needed medical attention.
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You my dear need some serious help in counceling. How old are you? I started cutting at 13. It got way worse. Depressionn, not fitting in with my peers, parents expectations, grades and performence. I was 16 my first suicide attempt. Then again at 22, and did self mutilation to a degree of hospitalization that I hid from my family at 28. I got counceling, and am better now at 31. Depression is an ugly monster. Hiding it under long sleeves won't save you. Please get some help. If your parents wouldn't understand...try talking to a school councelor, or a priest. Even an older relative, aunt, cousin, sibling? You need to talk through your issues honey, or they will get worse till they consume everything about you.
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Well, for starters, Im not sure that cutting is a sin. The whole "your body is a temple" thing refers to what you put in your body and mind, like things you hear and see which are sinful, and so on. Just my interpretation, Im no expert. As for the act of cutting, I understand this disorder, a friend of mine in high school had it. It is a very dangerous disorder and if they  seriously have this disorder and arent doing it for attention you should offer to help them find a way to seek out help from a professional. You might be able to talk to your school counselor, or another trusted adult. Please seek out help, left untreated this disorder can lead to suicide.
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"Cutting," what you are doing, is very common (perhaps too common) among teenage girls.  It is seen as a cry for help.  Perhaps you should so your mom and explain this to her.  If you don't feel comfortable with that way, talk to a guidance couselor at school or another adult that you trust.  But please, please talk to someone!  Good luck.
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if the counseling is not working, find a new counselor, psychiatrist, etc.  some people go through quite a few before finding one that works well for them.\nmy own history is rather full of self cutting and as for myself i just sort of outgrew it as the desire became less and  less over the years...but it wasn't like i outgrew it in a year, it was more like ten.  and some of it gets hard as to what to count or not.  i always greatly enjoyed skateboarding and always skated better when i was depressed and thinking of cutting myself, so i guess it was a f*** it if i get hurt thing going on there.  i also went through numerous piercings before i realized i was doing it since it was more socially acceptable to have a hoop than a self created scar.\nas for understanding it...its not really something you probably can, people either seem to understand it (cause they have been there) or not.  it was almost like self medicating for me, like a reset switch that would refocus me and i would feel better for awhile after wards.  it definitely wasn't a healthy habit and i came close several times to killing myself which is scary now to look back on but at the time wasn't bothering me all that much.  most cutters i have known though, there "habit" hasn't really gotten worse, meaning that, a cut was a cut and there wasn't a drive to make bigger or more cut/s intentionally next time.\n...it felt very "real," i felt "alive" again after doing it, and able to focus more, it was like i could snap myself out of being depressed by cutting myself.  being yelled at about it didn't help at all, if anything it made me feel worse.  though i was fine if i felt like someone was talking to me, trying to understand why i did it and not being overly judgmental about me for it.  so i would recommend very neutral conversations about it with her for awhile.\nwriting really helped me alot to work things out, though it never stopped me from cutting myself...but a writing hobby can't hurt any.  you might want to try to determine if she is taking "trial" runs at a real suicide attempt, though really try to be very neutral and diplomatic about this.\nits also something that doesn't really seem to ever go away 100%, i am rather fond of my scars, though i know many people who are ashamed of theirs, and i still think about it ever so often but for some reason just don't do it.  i guess i should add i was always most prone to cutting myself if i realized i was going into a depression, or when i was coming out of one, so maybe that might help you determine when she is most at risk, though i'm sure it varies for different people.  anyway...i don't mind talking about really, so feel free to email or message me if you want.  hope this helps some.
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Yes, I cut myself to release stress, frustration, and other things I can't deal with any other way.  Whatever people say, it works.  But it also has some unfortunate consequences.  For example, I'm working in New York this summer, where it's currently close to 90˚F (or it was during the day anyway), so the whole wearing long sleeves every day thing isn't so much fun.  And I'll be in real trouble when I'm in Mexico later this summer and want to be able to go swimming with my family, who don't know I cut (and aren't going to).  There's also the potential for infection and the likelyhood of scars.  That, and bandaids are really f***ing expensive.  But probably the biggest problem is that it's addictive.  When I first started cutting, I could have stopped any time I wanted to (or at least, I felt like I could).  Three years later, I've tried to stop and failed.  I can sometimes even go a couple months without cutting.  So the bottom line is don't start, and if you already have, get out while you can.\n\nInstead of hurting yourself, try taking whatever it is you'd use to hurt yourself (especially if you cut yourself), and apply it to cardboard instead.  If your particular form of self-harm involves bleeding, try drawing on your skin in red pen or marker.  I've also heard that snapping a rubber band against your wrist can help, but I found I just wanted it to hurt worse and I just made me want to cut more.\n\nYou're right that you need someone to help you.  You should talk to a doctor (personally, I've thought about going to the campus health center several times, but have yet to work up the nerve to actually do it), or if you're in your teens, a parent, teacher or other trusted adult, or if you're older, a close friend.  I know it's hard to ask for help (believe me, I've spend three years not being able to make myself do it), and if you want someone to talk to in the mean time you're welcome to email me at emilyrose1986@yahoo.com.
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If you don't cut, please stop berating those who do or offering your two cents.  You have *no* idea.  People don't cut just to feel.  That might be one reason for one person but not the whole reason for everyone.  I have Bipolar Disorder.  I started cutting when I was 12 and continued to do so for about 15 years on and off.  When I went through a mixed episode, I just *had* to cut.  The intense emotions and anxiety were too much to handle and I had no other outlet at the time.  So, I took a razer blade and cut my arms and my legs.  It was so bad that I carried the stupid thing around with me through high school.\n\nI still get the urge when I'm really stressed out.  I do anything else I can possibly think of.  I read a book, I watch a movie, I go for a walk.  The thing I've found that works best is cleaning.  Yes, cleaning.  It's a brainless activity that helps you get energy out in a non-destructive manner.  I clean until I'm tired or until I feel better.  Just find *anything* else to do.\n\nIf you're still underage, talk to your parents.  If you can't do that, talk to you school counselor.  Anyone who can get you help.  It's not a matter of how deep is too deep.  It's a matter of finding someone to help yourself.\n\nPlease email me if you'd like.  I do understand.
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Sweety, you might have to get a letter from a psychiatrist stating that you are mentally competent to handle your duties. I don't know what was involved in the self mutilation thing but if it was done out of fear or anxiety or a mental breakdown, you'll have to get a clean bill of health. I don't know if it will work but it's worth a try. Good luck, Honey. If you send me the details in email, I might be able to find something out for you. My brother's in the psych field. rilti8@sbcglobal.net
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Are you nervous?? I used to do that whenever I was anxious or nervous about something. I would catch myself doing it and eventually I stopped. You just have to make a conscious effort not to do it.
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Understand why you hurt yourself.  THere is a lot of pain that you have.  The cutting makes you calm and/or you enjoy the rush.  In any event, you have to find a healthy way to express the inner pain and quiet the mind.  \n\nThere are many paths to that.  THere is mediation.  Playing a video game.  Talking to a good friend. Excersise.  Remember that you are now responsible for this baby.  Don't give him/her the pain you suffered in life.  Eventually, it will affect the baby.  Do you want that?\n\nYour best bet would be to talk to a professional psychologist that specializes in behaviorism.  Tell them you cut yourself.  They will give you alternatives to the pain.  No need to hurt yourself in another way by be addicted.\n\nAlso, remember that eventually your kid will find out about your issue when they are older.  Do you want that?  You know kids like imiatation.  If you can't do it for yourself, do it for the baby.  \n\nAgain, seek professional advice.  This is serious\n\nIM me at onlineguyinsac or email me at onlineguyinsac@yahoo.com  I know a few things about psychology, my major.  I can help somewhat
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STOP SELF HARM IMMEDIATELY!!!  It is an addictive habit that is very difficult to break.  You use this as a coping mechinism and eventually become dependant on it to relieve stress and unpleasent feelings that you can't mentally deal with.  The more you do it the deeper the cuts get and the more offten you cut.  I cannot stress enough--STOP WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!\nAs for the depressin feelings, see a Dr asap, it won't go away by itself, it will only get worse.  You can be depressed for no apparent reason.  depression is a disease caused by not enough happy-feel good chemicals (usually seratonin) in your brain.  The dr can give you meds that will help balance you and you can live a normal life again.  You may also consider counseling to help you learn to combat the depressing feelings.  Don't let your symptoms go too long without being treated.  especially since you are harming yourself.\n\npeace&hope
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again hun?! i cant believe u broke that promise again. u know there isnt a way we hav figured out to make it heal faster. this neosporn im reading doesnt work, we confirmed that one right? =]] and all this stop cutting u can hurt urself, well no duh, isnt that the point? to hurt so u actually feel sumthing? just make sure to keep it clean and i guess u could put neospron o if u want. since its on ur ribs and covered most of the time try and let it breathe wen no one is around so it will get the air, and sum sun would b good but i kno u dont go in the sun. so let it breathe and keep it clean. oh and just about that cutting kit idea i acutally finished mine. but the glass isnt very sharp. oh well its just for palms.  but urs, hide it so u can stop for a while, i'll hide it for u if u want. u need to stop for a while. just a while at least.
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i cut to and im also 13. i'm getting help though and you can do the same. i promise.\nif you want to stop you need to go find help. speak to a counsellor, therapist, teacher, friend, parent...anyone. you've taken the first right step.....deciding to stop. \nyou can also find some sites on the web which help if you prefer. to find them simply google: stopping self-harm.\nbelieve me stopping takes a lot of dedication and self-determination. it's not going to be easy but i know you can do it.\nemail me if you need to talk. \nyou CAN get through this.\ngood luck xx\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nBUBBLES....READ PLZ!\n\n\n\n\n\n\np.s. BUBBLES!!! i tried to reply to your email but it doesnt work. it says the emails not confirmed or something. what do you want me to do. do you have msn or something??? email me your answer plz!!
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Being a cutter is a hard thing. I have been there,and I just recently found out that my girlfriend was a cutter. I use to cut all the time,for any reason I could find. Once a cutter,always a cutter. I still fight urges to this very day,and knowing that my girl was a cutter..really makes me worry even more now. If you are serious about this girl,then you need to make sure to watch what you say about her cutting. Little things can set her off. Just always be there when she has her moments,and when she does cut,don't sit there and lecture her..sit there and love her,and show her how much you care. Having someone be there for me is what made me want to stop,knowing that someone was always there when I needed to talk.
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You should not start cutting yourself again.  So stop.  There are people around who love and care about you.  You not only hurt yourself when you cut but you also hurt them.  \nSuicide is not an option.  Think about all the fun times you would miss out on.  \nIF I had done it when I thought about it then not only would I have killed myself but I would have unknowingly killed my unborn child as well.   Thank God I changed my mind that day.  I found out the next day I was pregnant.  I would have missed out on something special if I had done it.  Yes there have been bad days all the way around BUT the good days greatly out weigh the bad ones.  My daughter is now 21 years old and one of the greatest joys in my life.  See what I would have missed out on if I had decided that day to carry out my plan.\nYou may not see it right this moment but things do and will get better.    \nKeep trying to get a hold of your friend.  Hopefully he is fine.  IF he has committed suicide then it is not your fault.  He made his choices.  \nYou just need to remember people care about you and tomorrow is always another day.  Some thing good can be right around the corner so to speak.  \nPeace.\n\nI am so sorry you are getting negative comments.  I hope you don't take mine that way.  My comments are not indented to be that way.  I just want you to see there are reasons to not hurt yourself any way shape or form.   Again Peace