My son would be informed about the gay lifestyle and its hightly dangerous qualities.   What has happened in the Catholic church and their homosexual priests.  Why they are considered abnormal. If the gay's personal life is kept where it belongs I would allow him to give the guy a chance.
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see,firstly, it would help your son to decide for himself what is good or bad for him. also, since in the process, he will have you in confidence, he may share the experiences with you and subsequently,you may be able to guide him much better then.
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If I would have to make a assumption I would say he is borderline gay. He's still in the closet and not sure if he wants to come out and make the full transition into the gay world. His brain is probably still racking on the norm of being straight but likes to keep his homosexual desires hushed. Its very common for this type of gayness to occur. My dad's brother my uncle still dose this and he is in his 40's. He even has lesbian friends he poses of as his wife or girlfriend whatever the case may call. Well hey if things don't work out I'm avavlible.
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Now this is just my opinion!  for many years catholic priests have sexually assaulted young boys and it was covered up by the catholic communities?Only in recent years have there been  charges filed against these priests.They can no longer "just transfer" them to a new parish!Because some of those boys and their families were brave enough to contact a police department instead of the church!I have often wondered,why aren't the priests allowed to marry? because they are trying to be God like,because Christ wasn't married? now in answer to your question,I think they'd probably get rid of the woman and child to protect the pope's reputation and credibility!
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I would rather see a child raised by a happy and healthy gay couple than go through foster homes or live with abusive parents.  If the child is raised in a healthy environment he/she can be happy regardless of the sexual orientation of the parents.  I believe that as a society our views will continue to shift in favor of gay adoption.  We have always been a country that moves forward and grants rights and privileges to our citizens.  We do not historically pass laws or regulations to take rights away from people and when we have (18th amendment - prohibition of alcohol) we usually find out quickly it was a big mistake (21st amendment - repealed the 18th amendment)!
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I believe people speak out strongly of their own fears, he was pushing the fact that he was anti-gay to hide the fact that he was gay...it's just that simple. I'm not a practising Christian...just my opinion about the matter.
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a big thank you thank you, this is what i have been trying to get through to ppl. Its an mental illness that affects people from all walks of life. Not just a catholic priest. Only reason they pick on the catholics about this is because the church doesn't allow the priest to get married. so there  is where they come up with this bs. My point is if  that is the case. then whats  the excuse of all the others that do this  and are married?
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I don't know, no one has come forward and announced he or she was gay. They would be welcomed in our church, but the church would hope the individual would change their lifestyle, since it is against the bible.
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Homosexuals raising kids is not how God planed it. Also in reference to someone elses answer that sexuality is a gift from God... NORMAL sexuality is a gift form God. BUT God does not give sodomy as a gift to no one. God hates sodomy. He loves the ppl that fall into the devils trap of homosexuality, but he hates the sin.  THAT being said. I think that children need a Father (Male father) and Mother (Female Mother).  I don't much care about the statistics, but a child raised with homosexuals will have no morals, in a homosexual home, what are morals?? I think that if a child gows up thinking that its a normal way of life.. chances are thats the way they will choose as well.
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Report him for what ???\n\nI may have personal beleifs, but having sexual desires and sexual experiences with same sex is not illegal.\n\nHe can wear dresses and date Little Richard and it has no effect on his job.\n** ok maybe dating LIttle Richard might, that may be too much even for the gays.
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Hasn't the current Pope already said that celibate gay men can't be priests?  Sounds like he's got the first victims picked out already....
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This is a firestorm of a question, and I'm sure to get washed out in the chatter, but I do need to raise a point. It is all too common to have a gay person sick in the hospital, unable to make decisions for him/herself, and the partner, who might have been with him or her for many years, is not allowed to make the decisions. Instead, an estranged family member makes the calls, who might harbor hate for them (a homophobe?) or might have come to terms with that, but is now wracked with guilt and will not let go (thus keeping the person alive beyond their wishes at great cost, probably to the partner who cannot make choices). I see allowing gay marriage as the more morally defensible position.
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Christians would do anything if they thought God demanded it.  The link in the source shows how someone would be willing to kill his own child if God told him to.\n\nI'm sure gay sex is mild in comparison.\n\nNow would *I* do it if God told me?  First, I'd have to believe it is indeed God.  For someone as powerful as God, I'd be pretty certain.  We're not talking about some charlatan preacher but God himself.  And I wouldn't deny God if he does exist.\n\nEven if the being that told me to have gay sex wasn't God, he's obviously more powerful than me if he could pull off masquerading as God.  So I'd pretty much have no choice.
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We can't answer that for you.  Your primary concern should be your daughter, so concentrate on that.  You were a witness to the event, you need to make a judgement call.  The fact that you are having doubts about his character (wondering if he's a pedophile) make me think there must be more to this story.  If you seriously think this is possible, maybe you need to end the relationship. And if you choose not to, don't you dare leave your daughter alone with him!
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I think your counselor is being fair. He/She has an open mind. It cannot be denied that homosexuality does exist in today's society. The counselor is just encouraging you to have an open mind on these issues. He/She is not necessarily encouraging you to delve into homosexuality, or into adultery. Nor is the counselor condemning these as well. By keeping this balance, the counselor is just implying that these issues are indeed present, and that people should not judge anyone at all. For we were never given the right to judge others. That right belongs to a higher power.
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Hi, this is a very complex situation, and you have explained it very well.  Your friend who is 15 and gay, has a non-sexual relationship with a 21-year-old gay man.  Your concern is for your friend because he has a "crush" on this man, but the man is "not interested' (sexually?) in your friend.  So to begin with all the "against the law" answers are wrong. Unless a physical relation is part of the equation even our puritanically demented society has not passed a law forbidding friendship between people of different ages.  If it did organizations like Big Brothers and Sisters would have to stop their excellent work.  Through out our lives, it helps to have a "mentor."  Someone who is a bit more experienced than ourselves who can help us through some of the "passages" of life.  This cannot always be a parent, no matter how much we may love our parents, because a parent has different concerns (our safety) and often sees us a "child." To have a slightly older friend, who has gone through some life experience and can share and encourage is important.  Having said this, your concern is is for your friend, in terms of his feelings (crush) and the 21-year-old for his "life" and reputation.  I think your concern shows you to be a caring individual and true and good friend.  Hopefully we are always ready to listen to the people like you in our lives.  Have you calmly expressed your concerns to your friend in a way as clear as your question here?  If you have, and he still wishes to pursue this relationship then there is not much you can do.  I think the best "advice" you could give to your friend is to point out the Issues involved: 1) The 21-year-old is (according to you) uninterested, uninitiated (a virgin) and would suffer the "legal" consequences of any physical relationship - so is your friend ready to "accept' these "boundaries" to the relationship? 2) Can your friend pursue a friendship without a physical relationship (his crush?) Can he control his own feelings?\nOnce you have helped your friend clarify the situation and his responsibilities, then you can only support him in whatever decision he arrives at.  \nI would only add that a non-sexual "mentoring" relationship, while important for everyone, is especially important for gay and lesbian youth.  Most people have "models" of what they want and need to become in their parents, teachers, social heros, etc. But gay people grown-up largely without any models, without anyone who can say, "I did this, you can too."  So even though your friend sounds like a confident young gay man, with a loving family and wonderful supportive friends such as yourself, he may still need an "older" model that he can talk to about things and try to follow - always given the non-sexual, non-exploitive nature of the relationship.  Good luck.
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YES! YES! NO!\n\nI don't understand this witch hunt that seems to be going on against gays.  And that's what it is... they get one right taken away after another... after the 'ban of marriage' succeeded, now, people are going after their right to adopt children.  What's next?!  Their right to breathe our air?!\n\nThis is a huge hot spot with me. I'm not gay, but I believe in EVERYONEs rights.  They aren't criminals, they have a different life style, and they should not be punished for that.  I mean, they can't help the way they feel... that's just the way you are born.  And WHAT HARM is it doing anyone if they get married, or adopt children?  It's actually doing the adopted child a favor, they'll have a loving family.  A lot of times gay couples will adopt children that other (straight) couples won't adopt because they're too old, or have behavioral problems or what not.  Are we going to punish this child by making them NOT have a home until they are old enough to go off on our own, JUST so we can punish someone for being gay?\n\nAnd as far as I know, the children that they have would NOT be confused.  They'd be well adjusted, and learn to be more TOLERANT towards others who are different.\n\nI could go on for a while about this, but I won't.  I'm afraid to see what all the other answers will be though... sigh.\n\n(but I just submitted and looked at other responses and was so far pleasantly surprised.  Thanks guys!)
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I have a friend who is gay.He grew up being my brothers' friend.We were always together,people thought we were a couple.This went on for years.Then one night he tried to commit suicide.Thank God he called someone to help him.He said he thought it would be best if he killed himself because he was afraid we would not accept him anymore.Boy was he wrong!We did not not shun him.He was & is still part of the family.We don't treat him any different now.We never will.I know that a lot of people say homosexuality is a sin.But it isn't my place or anyone else's to judge you or any other gay person.I know my friend is alot happier now that he is not secretive about his sexual prefferences.I have called my friend but he has not returned any of my calls,but i know he is fine because his mother has told me.Whatever his reason for not calling me,is his choice.Maybe i was just in his life for a season.Who knows?I still consider him my friend.I know he is Happy with his partner,so i am not worried about his well being.I would never turn my friends away,no matter what.Well unless they did harm to my family.That is a different thing.Anyway,this is just who i am.Be Blessed! Monica