Why is it people think that you can't have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship without sex being a part of it? I don't want to know if you love me for the sex, and I don't want to marry for sex or money or anything superficial that will just end in divorce. What do you think?
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Well it's not a modern world issue for one - it's a human nature issue.  I have had a girlfriend w/o sex and been in love, etc.  It's a matter of being open and honest about what you want with that person.  I actually wish more women were open to have friendships w/o worrying about getting in to the relationship thing. However, I'd love to have a good relationship, including sex, with someone because that's a need I have also.  Don't have the expectation that guys however go w/o sex and necessarily like it.  Most guys do but it's not to take advantage.  We have icomprehensible drives.  They are incredibly strong and overwhelming.\n\nI don't want to get married for the wrong reasons either - I think most people are on the same page with you. \n\nThe modern world gives you more options than ever because you can define the relationships you want with the guys you know and they're all more open to suggestions, instead of just date - marry  - or not - period.  Just go for more intelligent types of guys.
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Judging from this board, I'd say it's because 12 year olds seem to think they need a sexual relationship.  If you start before you are mentally mature, how can the act of sex have any real meaning?  It's just something to do for most of them it seems.
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Sex and life - too complicated. I am now running out of answers.  Can we ever stand on judgement? Many of us have cheated, in our minds at least, some carry it through  a bit more. You know what, let it be. Que sara sara, it is not your conscience, it is hers.  Things happen and life is so weird
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you cannot place your  sex life above your friendship. because your friendship is far valuable than sex will ever be./ in other words you can live without sex but you cannot live without friendship!!\n     imagine being a loner with no friends!! can you do that easy?\ni doubt that!!\n  think about it!!!!!!
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Everyone questions their relationship from time to time. The ones who act on it are unfaithful, those who do not act on it, end up being frustrated and lonely. Where do you turn???? It is one of life's problems that we must deal with everyday. It is very normal to second, third, or even multiple guess important decisions. As far as for what I have experienced, there is not enough paper in the world to hold that story. Good luck and I hope you make the right choice for you.
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I believe you can love someone without having sex, because you love that person for THEM, not for any physical reasons.  You love each other on an emotional level.  \n\nPeople have sex without loving them all the time, look at all the one night stands that people have.\n\nI think that teenagers (I being one myself-19) are so desperate for sex because they feel that to please someone or make themselves acceptable in the eyes of their peers, they need to have sex.  They feel in some way gratified even though they don't realize that this gratification doesn't last long, and before they know it they are empty inside and looking for something else to appease them.  I think they are missing something in their lives and so they feel that sex can fill that hole and empty space.\n\nI am a Christian and have decided to save myself for my future husband to respect him, myself and most importantly God.  God says our bodies are a temple, so we should treat them as such.  I believe that love comes first and foremost, and then marriage, and then sex.  Sex can be a wonderful thing if two people deeply love each other and are committed to only each other.\n\nHope this helps! God bless! <3
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I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
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love and sex are 2 different but so related things. Love is that feeling which drives you to care for a person you don't know much (usually of the opposite sex), while sex is the tool used for expressing it. Although some people can buy sex, I can say that they miss a lot of it. It's like as if you're expressing something that is not there. Thats why 'those' people keep buying sex every now and then. For they are not satisfied... Simply because love is not there...
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sex is a very important part of a marriage. Without sex many marriages will end. Accidents or medical problems that causes the problem of not being able to preform will affect many in different ways. So I guess it will depend on how strong your love is.
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peer pressure. it seems that teen girls without boyfriends have problems so they try to have at least one. having sex is a way to take up the challenge that they can do what their other friends did, or that having sex is like becoming matured or 'successful'. both kind of thinking are wrong. you should only have boyfriends who fit your needs and you should never have sex until you are married. never play with sex.
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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We know that Sex alone can´t make a married couple stay together. So in that way, a married couple with out sex has low chances of surviving. That does not mean it is doom. \nThe real question would be, Why are they not having sex anymore? Age? sickness? as long as there is love I think a marriage can survive. on the other hand if the reasons are: lack of love, lack of interest, it is not the lack of sex that will finish the marriage but the reasons that led to it.\n\nhope is useful to you.
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Apparently there is something right with your relationship since you have been together for so many years. Being an outsider looking in, here's what I would suggest. First of all, I just finished reading a fabulous book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. This married woman and a crew of men and women surveyed men of all races, ages and religious backgrounds. What she found out is that men just need sex. It's their way of needing affection from their partners. There is no shame in your needing or wanting sex. It's a perfectly healthy part of a relationship. Sex was not the main focus of her book by the way. Most men see sex as a need. Most women see sex as a way to show affection. So.. apparently your wive is missing the whole romantic aspect of your relationship as a whole. She needs affection in another form other than physical affection. Try going back to your dating years. What did you do for her, other than go at it like two rabbits that made her fall in love with you? Random love notes? Cards? Flowers? Time alone? What about a weekend getaway for two? Your wife needs to know that you love and respect her outside the bedroom. Reassure her, verbally that you want, need and love her. Talking about how wonderful she in infront of her friends is also a great way to prove how much you care for her. Remember that romance and love is more than just healthy sex.
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A healthy sexual relationship is a must in a relationship, it is what brings 2 people together that no other way does, it also relieves stress for both parties, and can also just be great fun, there are different ways that sex impact a partnership.  Sometimes the intense, I need only you in my life, the sharing.  And watch this, sometimes when things get 'testy' between 2, a lot of the time it's because they have neglected that part of the relationship, that's the stress breaker, and it opens doors to talk.  And the just plain fun?  That's when both parties are not looking for a soul matching moment, the 'core of them' it's when one of you just sneaks up on the other, just to enjoy!  Without sex / love making a relationship starts to build walls, feelings are hurt, doubts start to creep in, and not only men cheat!  It's healthy, very important, and really great ;)  As for not falling in love until after??  Well that's not always true.  My hubby and I knew each other for sometime, enjoyed each others company, and loved spending time together.  We had a sexual relationship for a few months before the L word came out, and it was great, and a moment I'll never forget, and one my hubby still asks remember when??  So I guess that could go either way, but don't mistake great sex and good times for 'falling in love' there are too many other things that play into a good relationship.
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I think it's great you two have such a close and trusting relationship. It's definitely not for every couple, but you are obviously not the only ones out there. Make sure both partners are comfortable and listen to one another.... Have at it, be careful of std's and such....Wow such trust you guys have.
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I believe people have a natural need to be with someone who loves them.  I think people take it way to far though and that is how they get into bad relationships.  They are just so desperate not to be alone that they will take the first person who comes along.  \n\nSo I think people like to have someone they love, but they don't need it as much as they think.
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A steady relationship, if its a happy one, consists of many more things other than sex.  Nowadays we tend to focus a lot on sexual matters and to measure and judge people around us by this.  A happy relationship will have whatever is necessary to make it work, love, understanding, companionship, and ... ah yes, Sex!