when we r over at my house, and whe just sit tehre, i always aksk if she wantss something, or if i can get her anything, she just says no and sits ther an looks disappointed, i would be glad if i could do anything for her, who can help me ?
206205
don't aggravate her by asking what's wrong a thousand times trust me on this my bf was going through the same thing with me, just hug her and tell her you love her often not just when you are about to leave her or get off the phone, tell her often and during your everyday conversation let her know out the blue that if theres ever anything she wants to talk about , you're there no matter what time it is or how petty or small she may think it is, you're always listening, there maybe times where she don't want you to say ANYTHING but just for you to be there to listen so let her know you're there tell her everyday so when the time come and she want to talk she already know that you're willing to listen
161929
I stand with Lucid one on this one... \n\nKIDNAP HER FAVOURITE THING AND HOLD IT FOR RANSOM...\n\nAnd maybe after you get your repairs paid for she might remember not to get on the wrong side of you again!!!\n\n:-D
341509
I hate to say it but I have been where she is. I know what she is doing. She is escaping. Video games are the only things she can control right now. She is just as frustrated as you are.Perhaps she didn't sign up to be your house lady or your laundry mat. Maybe she had hopes of being someone or something other than that and unfortunately your complaints are only making things worse. You need to help her recognize her situation and discover what it is she really needs and wants. Part of that may mean she needs some time away from her current situation, time away from the games. You can't impose this time away you can only suggest it. This type of behaviour is definately a sign of unhappiness and a sign she needs to do some changing but I fear, like me, she will have to fall hard to know this. It took some serious life changes to teach me and I hope for her it won't be this way. The best you can do is be as loving and supportive and non-judgemental as possible.
428048
Sounds to me like they are trying to act better than they really are.  Have you told them how they are acting? (sometimes people really don't know)  If you've tried talking to them and they won't listen you may just have to play their little game with them.  Stop babysitting for them and stop letting them in the house until they pull their heads out of their butts and grow up.
447536
Next time you see her at the mall ask her if she would like to go have a burger and soda. If that is not the right thing for you and her then make it whatever is. When you ask her if you can help her with something and she says yes then just show up and start helping her. Better yet just show up and start helping her without asking first. After the project is done tell her - lets go get something to eat. Don't ask her if she wants to just assume that she will if she is so shy, that way it will be easier for her to accept.♠
505712
It's hard to like a parent like that. Sure you love them because they're the person that brought you into this world but your mom sounds self absorbed and miserable. Not much you can do about that and definitely don't take it personally. SHE has the problem.Shes too wrapped up in her own self to take notice of you and the sad thing is that that kind of behavior is HER loss.Keep the phonecalls short put a timer on in your kitchen when you know you're going to talk to her.Feel free to interupt her  and start talking about your own life whether you think she's interested in it or not.You weren't put on the earth only to service her needs. If she sounds lonely make brief suggestions for her to join some groups or other practical solutions to her problems.If she starts up with the same old stuff again the next time that you talk to her interupt her and tell her that she already told you about that and you want to know when she's going to do something about it.It might sound mean but it's really not.Not allowing her to go on and on is being kind to yourself and it forces her to  get the fact that you're not willing to listen to her if shes not willing to try to make the effort to solve her own problems.Good luck...
167621
She is dumping her issues on you because you love her, which means you are probably a good listening ear for her. \nI am that way too, I am very sympathetic, but I learned that I need to be somewhat of a hard nose sometimes or at least pretend to be. \n\nI worked with a guy that always complained and was never happy. I was very nice to him and I offered solutions and this and that and none of it worked. Finally I had to say"Look, everytime I talk to you, I have a solution or suggestion for you,but you never think it's a good idea," and I basically asked that if he doesn't want my advice to stop complaining to me, it worked, but he started complaining to other people about what I said to him. LOL!!!!\n\nI know what you mean. The guy I worked with was the exact same way. It also sounds like maybe she should get some counseling, I am serious about that.
59536
Shes probally sad or u're not giving her enough attention. So in return she won't do anything with u. And/or shes going through a change with her body or something wrong with her.
307984
Tell her to get a hold of herself and respect you and what you want or need. You don't have to let her stay there. You are doing it because you are a good hearted person. If she can't respect you then, tell her that she will have to find somewhere else to stay.
309017
Dude, you're either in the mood or you're not. Sounds like she has a sh*tload of stuff going on in her life right now. Don't take it personal when she says no. It doesn't sound like it's you.  The poor woman is worn out. Try to help her out a little more.  Good example: you had the day off, why wait until she gets home for her to cook dinner?  Have it ready when she gets home. It's the little things.\nSeducing a woman is an all day every day process. You can't take her to bed after a day like that and expect her to be "in the mood."\nSounds like you two need some adult time, anyway. Try to plan some time for just the two of you.\n\nGood luck!
236234
You have to tell her that you're starting to get concerned that you're becoming less important in her life.  You need to let her know that you need more from her than requests for money when you're home.\n\nIf she reacts negatively, then cut your financial losses and leave.  You're worth more than a source of cash.
428380
Well, your problem is a bit confusing...but it doesn't seem like you were doing anything wrong, so just tell the principal about it, and the problem should be resolved. (Sit there tomorrow too, and keep sitting there. She can't reserve tables for anyone, as far as I know.)
430678
Nothing to do with greed !!!  You are offended because she is taking you up on your initial offer to wear your clothes - "whenever" !!!  Now; you would be wise to say to her, " I've noticed that you are not taking care of MY clothes that I allowed you, back then, to wear".  "Since you don't take care of them, you can no longer wear them !"   You may even, be a little generous, and give her a few items you have grown bored with, to break the tension with .  Feeling "greedy" is a negative feeling on your part.  You are really feeling responsible - a rare commodity in this world.  Good luck to you.
346941
You really need to map it out ....throw a few choices at her then if she doesn't respond in time OH WELL....You have a life and you need to build your own traditions with your own family to, if she can't see that then I know it sounds bad but to bad. We go through this with our families to....so you are not alone. I do not agree with disrespecting her but I also do not agree with her selfishness! Go see both and do what works for you and your hubby! Happy Turkey Day!\n\nAwwww...and tell your hubby this was her coice not his fault and not to be upset!
307794
At this point in time you have done all you can, or at least all you've had time to do.  You can try, but don't alienate her.  When/if it goes wrong she will need you. You may be disappointed but you're a good mom and that's your job.  Teach her what you can, some people are hard learners. But *if* it goes wrong, she *will* need you.  So don't put her in the position of not wanting to come to you when she needs help because she doesn't want an "I told you so."
194607
Nobody should come into your home and disrespect you like that. This was none of her concern. She owes you an apology. You owe her nothing. Don't let no one push you around. She's got the problem.     \n               \n                                        Respect
47027
It sounds Like. But always remember, there are alway time when everybody goes thru a bad sitiation.\nMay be she is goin thru a hard time. may be she is havin prob. with her home or school. \nIt's always better to wait, be patient may be she is right. dont just give up.