keep in mind that We have only been married 2 years come july and dont have much money
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SURPRISE PARTY\n\nI threw one for my hubby's 30th, it was a blast!
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You're really not that low as you might think! Your problems can be fixed with better mobility. I thought you were going to say something about losing a limb, or becoming paralyzed or something! Getting a divorce and never seeing your kids.  Getting 3rd degree burns all over and recovering.  I think the military is a perfectly acceptable option for getting your life together.  We recently took in a young man who due to a variety of mishaps, had lost his drivers license, and then was kicked out of his mom's place by her new boyfriend.  He was sleeping in the park when my daughter (his h.s. friend) found out. He is in boot camp for the Navy as I write this.  He gets a stipend while he's in there, room and board and food, and he also will receive a $20,000 cash bonus in addition to the $8,000 he will have for school each year.  When he returns next month, my husband and I are going to help him find a small apt, and help him to find a decent running but cheap car.  (He's a Reserve)  So you've really got to choose your options better, or it sounds like you'll be stuck at mom's!
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Been there done that...whats up with the 23rd year...Its alot of years, you'll never forget the past, my marriage was great the first 20 years, but I could see the dis-interest building as the months after pasted by...and she too felt she was no longer in love with me, however I later found out her interests were directed toward another...suggestions..Seek marriage council advice, put forth a 100% effort to resolve such conflict, and if it doesn't turn out happily ever after, if there ever was an ideal time to be single , its with a good job, no mortgage and your child a grown adult...very simular to my situation...its was 2 yrs separated and 3 years since divorce and those conditions were blessings in disguise.
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sounds that youre in a hurry..\nIf you love him that much then sure you can wait.\nmaybe you two can discuss your own question\nso you can settle it.You dont need to have a big amount of money its how you both love each other.
222520
Content marriage for 15yrs. We both do all we can to please the other on a daily basis. Income has less than nothing to do with it if you and your partner are non-materialistic.
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My husband was in a firefighter academy when we married. I had just finished my degree and was looking for work teaching preschool. We were planning to wait until he graduated and found work and that way we would have saved up some money. Our schedules were so crazy though, that we really missed time together. Ultimately, we decided that having a big fancy wedding and a nice expensive honeymoon was not what it was all about. We just wanted to be married. We had a beautiful small wedding with just close friends and family. Today is our 9 year anniversary and we are so happy. (Except that I am waiting for him to get out of traffic and get home!) Sometimes you have to weigh what is most important to you. We did not live together before we married either, and the best moment of every day was coming home to be together. Good luck to you!
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get financially stable first..then try to think afer marriage
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Don't worry...this is very common. The best thing that you guys can do is to get together and come to agreements about your finances and stick to a budget...that way, if/when either one of you buy something outside the budget...you get called out. Also, it is best to sit down and just have a heart to heart on all of the frustrations that you are both going through...the worst thing that you can do is to sweep it under the rug and let it build up! Also, make a pact to only talk about things in a calm manner and do it all in one session instead of doing it everyday(a peaceful home is a happy one). Also, remember that you are adjusting to each other and that you are both going to find things that annoy you about the other person...but, also look at the positive things and especially the positive things that you have noticed since you have been married!
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It's a little late for this year, but a strategy I've found to be effective is by doing my shopping a little at a time, beginning, if you must, in January.\n \nHowever, this solution still doesn't deal with the underlying problem.  It sounds as if you and your husband have very different attitudes toward money--a situation that's not all that uncommon.  I know this from firsthand experience because it exists in my own home (though it's not nearly to the extreme you describe)--my situation for years was one of having to watch every penny and make choices between a cup of coffee and putting gas in my old jalopy, while my other half was used to thinking that money was something that, if he ran out, he could always get from his father.  Over the years he's learned to rein in his spending, but he never will be the penny pincher that I am (by the same token, I've become a little less prone to making a dime do the work of a dollar).  \n\nYou refer to your spouse as the "major breadwinner"--does he have the attitude of "it's MY money, I work for it, and I should get to spend it as I like?"  If so, I think that, as a couple, you would benefit from talking with a neutral third party--a clergyperson or a counselor--who can help you.  \n\nNow, for this year, a lot depends on the ages of your children.  If they're still fairly small, dollar stores will provide some gifts that will brighten the holiday for them.  You might also use this as an opportunity to teach your children about giving by donating some of their outgrown clothing and toys to a charity or a drive for such things in your area.  Stimulate their creativity, too, by making decorations with them.\n\nHope this gives some ideas, but until you and your other half deal with the problem of his spening habits, it's just going to be the same old thing year after year.
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when you got married, your family became your spouse and any subsequent children.  Time to grow up and prove to yourself and everyone else that you are mature enough to go it alone.  \n\nsince, like you mentioned, the entire cost is going to be out of pocket, is it REALLY worth it?  let the grandparents come to you if they want to see thei rgrandkids so badly.
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There are alot of "heartfelt" gift u can give that don't cost alot of money, and women like gift that thought was put into. One gift that is very inexpensive is a scapbook of the life the two of u have shared. Gather pictures of u and her since the beginning of your relationship and put them in a nice scrapbook and write little sayings beside each one on how u feel about her and your relationship, I guarantee she will love it. Keep in mind that with women it's not what the gift "is" but what the gift "says" that means something to us. Good luck :-)
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I married for money and I can tell you that is not the way to go.  I was a single parent working to pay bills and have time for my child.  I married and became a full time Mom which I love.  But my husband is very controlling over the finances.  I have "things" and I love my children but I have no relationship with my husband.  I am just another one of his "children".  If I could do it all over I would marry for love, friendship, companionship, and someone I enjoyed being around.  Money is great to have, I love that I am not in debt and have the finaces to buy what I want but I am lonely and find life is not much fun.  I stay for the children but when they are grown I am out of this marriage!
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wow if you can afford it, try paying a pilot in a small jet plane to write it in the sky for you.  Or have it advertised on a flashing billboard. If money is a problem, a simple gesture of how much you adore him by saying so, and ask him to spend the rest of his life with you as your husband.
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That can be tough.  I believe when you are married property should be joint but that seems to be a problem in your situation.  I think you need to sit down and ask him how he feels about it.  Whether you're paying rent or paying on bills depends on your accounts. You just don't want to pay a lot for a home you have no ownership over if something does happen someday. See if you can come to an agreement after a few years or have something declared in a prenup that helps cover you. We all plan for forever but unfortunately it doesn't always happen.  Good luck in your marriage!! Have a great wedding!
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If you have access to the  money..spend it on what you need.  The court is going to give you alimony and child support as well.  He is angry and making an already tense situation worse.  June is very near so you will be free soon.
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You need to sit down and discuss your financial situation. Tell him there are some things you are just not comfortable with. Make a proposal to him on how you would like to do things such as each of you being responsible for certain bills or one of you taking care of the bills but the other reimburses at the end of the month. There are many different ways married people manange their finances. My 1st husband and I just always put all of our money together. My boyfriend (we live together) and I don't but we share responsibillity for everything (rent, groceries, utilities,ect.) I pay alot of these because I have more time to take care of paying bills but at the end of the month I let him know what his share was and he gives it to me. There is no right or wrong way but you have to talk about it and come up with a plan and budget that works for both of you. Their are a lot of divorces over money so do it early on before resentments start to build. Maybe he just doesn't realize how much money you are putting out. Show him on paper what you pay in a month. When my boyfriend was between jobs, I paid everything for a while and he insisted he would pay me back. When he did start working and he had me figure out how much money I had paid out he couldn't believe how it had added up. He did pay me back completely but was shocked at the amount. I hope you find something that works for you. Good Luck!
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Don't do it! He won't learn anything. You have only been married 2 months, it isn't your debt so let him handle his own.