Why do they treat me with suspicion, because of their own bad choices?
217847
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
551824
I don't know why, but it seems that there are many people who simply enjoy hurting others.  I suspect it stems from them feeling powerless and insecure, so they get a small charge to their own egos when they can make someone else feel bad. \n\n There are, also, others who simply take advantage of people - they see goodness and kindness as a kind of weakness they can exploit for their own means.\n\nDon't let this turn YOU bitter, though.  Remember to tell yourself that those people, in the end, will suffer for it when they find they lack solid, real and loving friendships in their lives.
590077
As an adult who was recently a child, I can sympathize with parents thinking that they understand what's going on in their child's head (my mother still thinks that), and with parents making decisions that don't seem right, and sometimes aren't. Parents are people and make mistakes, however, you should stop to consider that you'd be much worse off without them. They might make decisions that cause you to miss out on things, and they might make you do things that you don't like, but they are older and wiser, and can make more informed decisions. This does not mean that they will always be right, and if you think they are wrong, you shouldn't be afraid to discuss it with them. However, screaming or throwing a fit would only show that you aren't mature enough to make very many decisions for yourself. You should have a say in what you want to do, and I'm almost positive that, if you think about it, you do. Also, if you gracefully accept some things your parents say that you don't agree with, they're more likely to let you make more decisions, or at least more heavily weigh your opinion.
608218
I think they are monitored haphazardly.  Sometimes if you are reported, I understand they just pull it rather than reviewing it, but I don't know for sure.\n\nIf you were pulled for that reason, you must have made a compelling argument....
118833
If they are themselves, they fear that you won't like them. They are insecure.
69180
the more they dont like your decisions..  the more you prove them wrong... go girl!
181551
It is because they are too full of themselves that they judge others. I have also noted at times that they fear those who are different in appearance and thinking. I judge people by how they treat others and not how they look.
426462
Well they work so well for the people that let it. For instance if there's someone in your family or that you know that CAN NOT say no, they use guilt trips as their best weapon.  Good for you for not letting them get to you, they are a terrible thing. It's blackmail. ! :)
643818
I wouldn't want anyone else to bear the burden of my own sins.  They are caused by my actions and therefore they can only be my own responsibility, to learn from and try to put right.\n\n\nI can understand why some people would want to pass the responsibility onto another though.  They either cannot handle the responsibility because of their own immaturity or are too self-absorbed to want to take the responsibility, in my honest opinion.
374674
You did right,\nthe reason these people treat others like a**holes is because they don't get a taste of their own medicine, they think others are too scared. good on you, it proves that.....REVENGE IS A DISH, BEST SERVED COLD!!
309800
choice it sounds like you exploited your own weakness for them to only take advantage of your disposition
575766
I understand your dilemma, because I used to be this way myself. I would find myself talking about things in my life that should have been private to almost anyone, and occasionally, I still do.  I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, so basically, this is just coming from my experience and opinions.  I think the reason that you tell others about your problems is that either 1. you don't trust yourself to solve them or 2. you don't want to take the responsibility of solving them yourself, in case you don't make the right decision.  You look to others' opinions and suggestions, even though you probably already know how you should handle the situation.\nIf you do this because of the 1st reason I mentioned, you don't trust yourself to solve your problems on your own, it is most likely due to a lack of self-esteem.  You don't value your own opinion enough to believe that you are capable of managing your own life. In this case, you need to learn to believe in yourself. Counseling/therapy, support groups, or even a self-help book may be somethings to try, maybe even all of them. But, if self-esteem is the case, I'm sure that this is not the only are of your life being affected.\nIf it is the 2nd reason, you don't want to take the responsibility of solving your problems yourself, in case you don't make the right decision, you have to acknowledge that this is what you are doing, and consciously make an effort to make these decisions and take the responsibility.  It is easier to blame someone else if something goes wrong, "It's not my fault, I was just following their advice".  The only problem with that is that it IS still your fault anyway.....you are the one who made the decision to take THAT advice!  At least if you make the decisions yourself, you will have some things to rely on that are better than other people's opinions, like your gut feeling, your thoughts and experiences, and your conscience to help you make the decisions that YOU believe are right.......and at least you'll have that to fall back on.
475356
ignore them.  you made certain choices in your life, as we all do, and as a result people perceive you in a certain way.  now you're living your life in a different way, and those that are open-minded (read:  worth your time) will shift their perceptions accordingly.  those who are clinging to your past mistakes will eventually be cycled out as you meet and form relationships with people that respect you enough to pay attention to who you are and what you're doing NOW.  \n\nyou can't control what other people think of things you've done in the past, and you can't control how fast they let go of it.  efforts to 'change their minds' will only bring more attention to the past by making it the focus of your actions in the future.  what you CAN control is who you surround yourself with.  choose carefully.
583987
Hihihi... you have paranoia now, right?\nWatch out cause THEY will create your psychological profile from your questions and anwers and chase you down... get you buy up all their stuff!\n\n:-))\n\nHehe, nice theory, anyway! Congrats.\nYou actually have a point, man... I will watch over my answers and questions from now on! Oh-oh-oh!
537589
Because they want to rule with fear. They appel to the weakness in people who are scared of making their own decisions and therefore prefer to follow orders. But I guess this is only one of many reasons. I myself don't follow any dogmatic religion, but like to find out more about them.
454755
They are telling you what they think you want to hear. Don't fall for it. You are not helpless! God bless
317840
See my friend....it is all because how they brought up.....may be you might have got very good atmosphere since birth...but always think about a problems from other point of view....that is called real judgement.....so let us pray for them with god.....