From what iv'e noticed, some women tend to lean to the more badass,jerk, hardcase kind of guys. Why is this? In this day in age, i belive that men that are TOO nice tend to be taken advantage of by many women and have their poor little hearts broken many times over. And vice-versa. What is it that makes a hansome Hardass so appealing to some womens eyes over the Hansome sweatheart? your thoughts? ( This also applies to ladies that are being disrespected by some jerk off yet they continue to be with that person)
198942
Well....not everyone learns their lesson.  I'd rather be with a handsome sweet honest guy.  Sometimes girls dont learn that "bad boys" are toxic and they just keep going after them cause they want to "help" them.  Though...It is far better to be with one who is nice and appreciates you.\n\nI also dont understand the opposite, nice guys with girls who are drama queens and treat them like dirt and tear their heart out and rip it to shreads so that they can hardly believe that there are good girls out there.
369734
One of my best friends believes that all pretty women are haughty, because whenever he asked a hot girl out, he was either turned down, or  dumped when he was out of money. Because  he was betrayed so many times, he often took offence, and even resorted to bad language. Ever since, he has had a bad attitude towards pretty women. He even refused to have a blind date with a sexy girl whom I recommended very highly. He thinks that all of the sexy girls are only interested in  money, and they only want to go out with a handsome guy or a rich man. For that reason, he has a negative attitude, and he doesn't want to go out with sexy girls any more. In addition, he regards all  pretty women with great suspicion. I have had a lot of arguments with him about that, but I think most of the sexy women are both pretty and smart. No one should  be judged purely by their appearance. I have seen many  women who are both kind and pretty. Not all pretty women are bad.
526224
Honestly we are attracted to bad boys. I think that they make us feel a sense of security, however false. Although most women who are with a "bad boy" say that their guy is "different" with them, they are probably lying. Believe me it is easy to keep up appearances if you really love someone. Also if they keep up with the charade long enough they will convince themselves that what their man is doing is okay, and its not.
18300
Girl trust me I do the same thing, and ask myself the same question. I finally came to realize that I don't think we do it on porpose, sometimes it just happens that way. Maybe we are afraid of being happy, or maybe we grew up in a really strict family, and we are good girls, and opposites really do attract. It's kindof like we realize that we will never be bad girls, so jerky, bad boys are what attracts us. Sometimes for me it's fun to get my heart broken so that I can be sad. You will realize though girl that in the end it's not worth it. I regret turning down good guys for jerks, cuz in the end I always lose. And a lot of times the good guys are nerdy, because since they have no looks they have to treat girl good. Maybe we are just to picky. But trust me there are good looking guys that will treat you good. Just don't give up.
142494
After talking to men, I realized that they want to be sexually involved as soon as possible, but they do NOT respect you if you give in too fast. My husband said that If I would have slept with him on the first date he would not have married me, and a friend's boyfriend said that men do not respect easy women, but they do take advantage of their easyness. It seems all too unfair, since they are falling over themselves to get into your pants, that if you give them what they want they do not like you as a person! I for one, am not easy and have only had one partner. I hope that more women learn that being easy just gets them std's.
137360
Of course the saying goes to each cat their own rat. Not everyone loves the bad boys and most nice guys eventually do win in one form or another. The most interesting thing ive heard as to why this occurs is that its some kind of evolutionary kick in type of thing. When looking for someone to mate with, pass on you genes, stop the biological clocks ticking, whatever you want to call it, women (conciously or not) look for a dominant, assertive, more evolutionarily "fit" man. These type of guys are typically the ones you describe, though they arent all abusive and unfaithful as much as they are assertive and aggressive. If you believe women decide what role a man is going to play very shortly after they meet them, then it stands to reason that a more assertive approach = more response from women, as a boring or too nice approach takes a little longer to cultivate.
610920
I find that the reason (not many women either know or own up to this) is that we want to "fix" them. We enjoy the fun because the loud ones are funny and confident but we also see a challange. In the long term we think that we need to fix/change them to be "good" men.  A good man that is already "okay" makes no challange. For a lot of girls the more screwed up the more attractive they are....for some.
278323
Because I would rather love a man with "meaty man breasts and pasty skin" than a buff jerk off who cheats on me and is as dumb as a rock!! LOL  For us mature women, personality and security are the things we look for.
578488
thats one of the most relative questions ive seen yet. thank you. i understand. girls wear clothing that could easily qualify for soft core porn andif a guy looks she gets pissed. and it causes problems for us guys who are in relationships because our girlfriends get pissed if we even glance.  let me tell you, the pain it causes on my testicles, is just unbearable at times. its crazy the way they are. they don't dress decently. they dress like their from the most popular corner of camden. i feel ya man. your not alone...im behind you. j/k
324509
Girls always want the bad guys...Until they really get a bad guy! I just got out of a relationship and I can assure you I am no longer interested in any guys who are remotely close to bad guys. Be patient...You will find your true love (and she will never leave u for a bad guy)...My only advice is maybe evaluate how you act..are you clingy? do you need to much attention? too too nice? trying to control by being too nice? i found my bf would be like "just quit working i will pay any bills you have"...girls like their independence....well...WOMEN do anyway.
339434
A lot of woman say this all the time, yet they end up with wrong kind of men all the time.  I don't think it's a coincidence.  \n\nBasically here's the deal, and I'm basing this on what I have learned from my 25 years on earth.  The nice decent guy is not noticed.  Yeah, nice guys finish last a lot of times.  It sucks but it's the truth and the truth hurts. \n\nAlot of woman see the nice guy out of the corner of their eye, he's going about his business, working his 9 to 5, trying to be a productive member of society, but he tends to blend in so he doesn't get noticed, so again and again women like you fall for the a-holes.  It's a vicious cycle.  Good luck, though.
272618
It is true that some guys are intimidated by women that are more successful, or more intelligent than they are, because they are into the whole "macho" thing, and think the man is supposed to be the "breadwinner", and smarter, more successful, and all that. I find intelligent, successful women very attractive myself, but I don't have a problem with my masculinity either. I am a man, in deed, and action, and don't try to prove it to anyone. If I had that kind of woman in my life, I would encourage her to be the best, most successful woman ever. Together , we would make a great team!
669227
Maybe it's because girls like that find really caring guys and take advantage of them, or treat them like they're not worth anything, so then those guys clam up and are afraid to trust anyone anymore, then the rest of us really caring girls, if we want any companionship at all, are forced to associate ourselves with those "jerks."\nIt's a vicious cycle.
41411
Women are going to hate this answer, but it's a fact.\n\nThere's nothing wrong with you. Most American women are attracted to jerks and @ssholes. My best guess as to why is probably because it's a challenge. Nice guys usually lose out to jerks because they're not a challenge to women.\n\nI attracted way more women with insults than with roses. That's a fact...
90157
Not all women are like that.  I think it is a poor stereotype.  Yes, women have gotten men into all kinds of trouble, but it has worked both ways too.  Men often let themselves be drawn into trouble due to immaturity, ego or infatuation.  The responsibility is shared...maybe more on the man's side since he is ultimately responsible for his own life and decisions.
253959
bc these tramps get the attention they seek from men. so why not keep on doing that if it gets you what you want. of course there are normal classy women out there. im one of them. i just cant find ne men like that!
126735
You nailed it right on the head. The women you are referring to want their handsome boy toy to play around with, and they get used and abused for years and years, then towards mid life, they decided that they want someone decent and loving. I reiterate what you just said, why should the good guy not have to settle for damaged goods, which they are,and with certainty, they will have psychological at the very least.It is quite refreshing to see someone like you call it like it is.