My girlfriend (ex) keeps calling my house, 2am,3am,4am,5am, just to say OH HEY DEAN I DIDNT KNOW YOU WERE ASLEEP CALL ME BACK, when i do, SHES NEVER THERE, if i change my #, she know where i live, shell prob. come to MY HOUSE 2am,3am,4am,5am, sometimes i feel like smacking her, but i never would, wat am i supposed to do --shes mental, she kille dmy dog that i had for 3 years--thats another story, i aint even tryin to get into..... HELP ANYBODY
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Dude, two words:  restraining order
246226
you r absolutely right and smart to stick to your schedules. thats how you flush out the big phonies!! trsut me there you did not lose anything precious here. if he ever call again dont even bother having anymore conversation with this pervert. learn from these expereince and fell out guys like that in the future!! good going girl!!
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My advice, forget about her. If you phone her up and get all angry it will just boost her ego(she will know you are still thinking about her). Ignore her, if you see her in public even if she speaks to you look right through her.\nIf you phone her up you look like a wimp. Seriously.\nAnd if anyone says how do you feel, you say,"honestly you know she did me a favour I was looking for any excuse to dump her.\nThe best revenge would be her to feel that you could care less.\nTrust me buddy, I know its hard but your silence will pay off.\nBlow off some steam some other way and forget the pig.\n\n\nI was cheated on once. I kept my mouth shut from the moment I told her I knew what was going on. Did not say one word. \nPhoned a mover, gave her a check for rent and left.\nHer relationship with new guy lasted about a month, now she lives in a trailer with a guy and his two pitbulls.\n\nyeah keep your mouth shut, move on.\n\n\nre: heidi. give it a rest. gods plan. yeah either god or bono eh?
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It seems she may be using emotional blackmail to get you to stay, the best thing to do is walk out the door and make her responsible for her actions. If she has close family members that you can confide in then I'd advise you to tell them you are planning to leave and let them be aware of her threats. This is to anybody that is in a relationship that is over regardless of the cause........Get out before you end up making yourself crazy and miserable.
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I went through a similar situation and I made my BF talk to her about her pushiness. She no long calls at 6 am so thats good! You should not complain to much about his family though as they are and will always be in his life. You should be calm and explain to him your feelings! Good luck.
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You've already answered your question.  It's in your "question"/statement.  He made your life a living hell for four years... why should you even consider letting him do that to you again.  This guy obviously needs serious mental help and you're not qualified to help.  Change your phone number so he can't text you anymore and get on with your life.  You should feel no guilt.  You tried for way too long to help this loser and he used you.  Forget about this bum and find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
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Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
615773
well, that is a problem I can very well relate to.. I have this boyfriend who is as over possessive as you.. he would even go to the extent of knowing what clothes I wear on a daily basis.. who I talk to at work.. and crazy things like that..he more than once threatened to kill me with his bare hands just because I sometimes failed to answer his calls, he loves me I know and I love him as much, but really.. this is a problem we have between us.. well, am lucky he's so far away and could not get his hands on me, otherwise, am sure I'd be dead by now.. hi hi hi
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hi sorry about your girlfriend if she realy is cheating confront her tell her you know about the other boyfriend ! tell her how she hurt you and then say you think it would be best if we split. if she calls you after this don't pick up it . if she comes to your house don't answer the door . she is unfaithful  even if she says she will break up with him i know its hard to hear but she is most likely lieing to you she does not love you if she did she would not have cheated you deserve better . i'm very sorry about what she did to you . if you are good guy you will find some one who loves you and would never cheat on you ! Hope every thing works out ! God Bless!
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I love this question!!!\n\nOkay, well, are you asking what I would do? or for advice what to do?\n\nI have personal experience with this question as this has actually happened to me.\n\nYears ago, I was dating a girl that had an infant daughter.  She lived with her mother in an upscale neighborhood that shared it's borders with some "bad" areas.  The two of them were extremely beautiful and very petite.  The topic of being home alone and having the doors locked at all times, came up often.  Looking out the front door gave you a false sense of security as the surrounding homes were very nice and well kept.  Friendly neighbors, etc...\n\nIt was summer and I would have been at work, but it's hard to landscape in the rain.  I had called home to tell her that I was on my way.  She told me that she had put the baby down for a nap and that she would be "ready" for me when I got home.\n\nWhen I walked in the front door, quietly as not to disturb the baby, I heard struggling and the baby crying!\n\nNow, at that time, I had been a bouncer for 4 years, a bodyguard for two and a martial artist for 7.  Fear, well, didn't have any of that.  I guess you could say the only thing I feared at that moment was that I was too late.  I made my way up the stairs as fast and silently as possible.\n\nThe baby's room was the first I would encounter so I made sure to evaluate her first.  Peeking in to see that she was only crying for typical baby reasons, I made my way to the next doorway.\n\nI was lucky, that the baby's cries concealed my movements.  For our misfortune was that there were TWO men in the house.  One in her room and the other seemed to be looking for things to steal and began yelling at the other to leave the "b!tch" alone and grab some shiite.\n\nThis is were lots of training helps.  You really need to keep your cool if you're going to get involved.  I knew there wasn't enough time to wait for the police.  The police in Pontiac, MI SUCK anyway.   So, my actions were the only chance she and the baby had.\n\nThe cover of sound was my only ally.  With both mommy and baby screaming, the guy attacking her would never know I took out his friend, if I did it quickly and quietly.\n\nI don't want to sound like a bad Steven Segall movie, so I'll spare you the details of my techniques.\n\nWith ROBBER GUY #1 down, I only had to deal with the guy on top of mommy.  Now, some people have asked me before why didn't I go to her first?  Well, if I went to her first, guy #1 would have come in to help his friend.  Now, I can take on two guys, but why if I don't have too?  Besides, she was doing a pretty good job fighting.\n\nWhen I entered the room, I didn't have any time to think.  She had just broken free of his grasp and luanched for the door.  Bad timing as we collided with each other and sent her back a step.\nI grabbed her and threw her behind me, as I did this, he too grabbed for her and his nasty crack  pipe nails dug deep gouges on her shoulders.  The scars from which, she still has to this day.\n\nI took a couple steps back and when I heard the baby's room door shut and lock, I yelled out, CALL 911, my phone is on the floor.  I had thought far enough ahead to leave my phone in the baby's room.  Knowing, that once free, mommy would go straight to her.\n\nIt seemed like an eternity, we stood there in a stalemate.  I was quite a bit bigger than he was, but I could see the crazy drug induced haze in his eyes.  The desperation that comes from need, fear and confusion.  He yelled at me and I cursed him...\nI think what happened next may have changed my life more than any other event in my life.\n\nI heard the sound of a cartridge being chambered into a semi-automatic handgun.\n\nHis friend was back on his feet and standing behind me with a pistol pointed directly at me.\n\nYou pretty much only have one option here.  PRAY\nwell, pray and shiite your pants.\n\nHowever,
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Oh Jeeze...This is an obvious mis-communication in languages from man-speak to woman-speak.  You said,"What's wrong?" and he said "Nothing," but you already had it in your mind that there was something wrong, so you persisted.  YOU ARE NAGGING HIM.  Now he has something wrong - you.  Leave him alone, and let him have his space.  He'll call you later (it's been less than 1 day - you'll be fine).  Sorry to sound so rude, but I've had this too many times.  I would end up argueing because nothing is wrong, and I have to think of something to be wrong when she insists on an answer, when I'm really just tired/moody/blah.
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I think you hurt her. The thing about this situation, is you messed with a girl who cared for you and now that you showed her your bad temper, it made her realize that she doesnt need that in her life. Men dont understand that half the reason why women leave them is because they have said something that offends their girlfriends. Girls have mixed emotions that get hurt easily. It seems like you hurt her feelings. Just keep calling, she may or may not answer. But next time you need to listen to her side of the situation first, unstead of jumping to conclusions and yelling at her before you even know why she didnt call back. Good Luck
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I Have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 years, we argue all the time. if this happen to us i would be pissed like you. if you guys do not live together i would not call him, let him call you. he is the one who needs to say sorry for leaving you. but if you live together then you should go home and do not talk to him for a little bit and then sit down and talk about what happen. i would not forgive him, it was wrong for him to leave you. but if you want it to last you have to tell him how you feel.
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mmm thats sounds bad... but r u sure that yr gf left you? if yes than thats not good...just  try to relex.. it will be ok
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I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
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Well, I get bored reading your case, but I'm also having a very bad emotional day, I just want to get out from my apartment and find a girl that really loves me, because my girlfriend doen't appreciate me. \nWell, try to have a nice day, I just want to tell somebody what I was feeling at this moments. See you
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Thing is talk with her . . . not to chat . . but the next time she called . . . asked her . . . \n\nYou broke up with me . . . telling me that you want to be left alone . . . and not to bug you . . . yet you call me periodically on the way home.  What the f*** is going on?  Until you are able to tell me the truth . . . don't call me again.\n\nDon't worry she will call . . . because you called her out.  But now she will have to explain herself.\n\nDo not give in to her . . . and tell her how it felt when she did all what she did to you.  Odds are she will probably respect you more . . . because you stood up for yourself . . . instead of acting like a p***y . . . you have been.\n\nIn my opinion, take control of the situation . . . and don't let her boss you around . . .