I have a coworker who constantly tells me exactly how to do projects and what to check and double check for.  It doesn't matter if I tell her that I know what I'm doing or that I already know what to do and what to expect from the project.  It makes me feel like she is belitting me, like she feels she is better than me and wants to definately make sure I know that she is.  How do I get to a point where I just ignore her and do my work?  Thanks for any advice.
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It happens all through life.  Finding your way to best deal with it is essential because it will happen over and over again.
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It sounds like it's always one person on a job that does that. I bet she been on that job a long time? She wants you to know she rules the breakroom. She is showing off. I wouldn't even go in there. I would stay at my desk or go to my car for break. I would reverse it, you said she ignores you, I would ignore her. She is doing this act on purpose, she sounds a little intimidating too. Ignore her, speak and that's it, if she speaks back fine if not fine. But IGNORE HER. Beat her at her own game, she will be wondering then what she did wrong?
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Are you giving him tasks with DEFINITE due dates?  Or just, we need this done.\n\nMany companies make the mistake of piling on work, but never setting realistic project end dates or "rating" the jobs their workers need to get done.\n\nWhen giving him a task, set due dates.  Tell him you must see a rough draft/outline in 1 week (or whatever).  When that is done, tell him that he must have "x" done by another date.  \n\nIt sounds to me like he needs some guidance to prioritize his days.  Maybe sitting down with him and expressing your concerns and asking him to write down all his daily/weekly/monthly responsibilites.  Then sit down with him and help him prioritize.\n\nI had a boss who was a "great thinker" at any one time I could be working on 20 different "projects" on top of my daily duties.  I quickly learned to keep a list of projects, and my regular duties handy, so that when he popped in asking about the info for some far-flung project I could pull out my list and ask him where my priorities should be.  It always worked to let him see just exactly what I was working on.\n\nNow, when I give my staff projects, I prioritize for them.  Telling them exactly what needs to be done first and when it needs to be done.   So, if they do not reach the due date, and have no good reason, I know I need to have a "come to jesus" talk with them about their future in my company.\n\nGood luck, he may just be a skirter.
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What she is saying is a mirror of her own behaviour projected onto you without any thought about the damage she is doing.  \n\nThis person needs to be treated with the same disregard that she shows you, if she does it again just remind your self that you do not have to defend or justify who you are to this girl.  This is typically girl bullying behaviour and as such you need to tackle it as you would with any other bully.  \nShe is defiantly jealous and scared that you might be better than her, so in a way its a compliment that she takes the time to nit pick your personality, almost bordering on an obsession perhaps that needs pointing out to her.  \nDon't let her take away your confidence you are the nicest person you know and you should not take her opinion on board after all she just passed judgement on a wonderful person who might one day be her boss....
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i think she was syaing "how do you put up with stupid questions" from people who call you not knowing what they are doing.\n\nwouldnt let it bother you, in my line of work, get abuse from people evryday, just dont let it get to me.\n\ngood luck and keep up the good work.
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Not knowing her personally but having known many people who fit that description, I'm going to guess that she is just like that, and it's not anything against you personally.\n\nYou are just trying to train her to do a job and not counsel her and fix her personality flaws, so you just have to work with what you have.  Don't take her flack personally, and keep good humor about it.\n\nAs you're working on the training, authoritatively praise her as she starts to understand.  "Great, you're getting it," "Good job, keep it up," "You've got that down; let's try to work on this," or whatever.  This establishes your relationship as the mentor and makes it harder for her to take the upper hand and nitpick you (to your face, anyway).  She will try, but you can brush it off humorously so she understands that she will not be gaining anything by acting that way.  It also provides a good example for her to emulate.
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better than you i see!  just kidding. Just answer politely. If youve been good...say good...or fine. Or if youve been sick, say you had a bug for a few days but feel great now. And about this person who causes you problems...i have 3 people who cause a lot of problems..not just with me..but with the whole family and then some. Only one i see on a regular basis now. And when they start into their stuff...i try to always stay nice, unless they get nasty, rude or mean. Then i am firm. And that makes her quit. I dont stoop to her level, because that would make me look as bad as her, i go above her and just let her know that how she acts is not tolerated by me. And she ends up looking like a fool, and i get satisfaction knowing she made herself look bad in the process and trying to get to me.\n\nYou've probably heard the saying "kill em with kindness"?  It really does work.
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I just recollected that I read a query on this in career journel- then I found and now reproducing it for you :\n\nHow to Deal With A Micromanaging Boss \n  \n \nBy Deb Koen  \n\nQuestion: I'm a communications director with a major nonprofit group, and after a career change two years ago, this is a job I really enjoy. My commitment level is at an all-time high, but I have a problem. My boss is an extremely controlling person who micromanages every detail of the business (even though she's given me lots of autonomy). I truly respect, admire and like her, and although she's demanding, she's generally fair. She's got an open door and an open mind, and while I've been able to approach her about a variety of work-related issues, this one is much trickier. How can I approach her to discuss this professionally, without implying that she's both stifling and annoying?\n-- Angela, New York\n\n\n\nAngela: Most micromanagers, especially those who seem to be good bosses otherwise, tend to be perfectionists who simply need to be sure that you're doing your job at the same performance level that they expect for their own work. The best way to keep your boss from meddling is to keep her really well informed. If you both have e-mail, try creating an update that you send at the beginning or end of each day outlining where you are on various projects, and the results as you have them. This puts you back in control of the information and your projects, yet helps your boss feel comfortable that you're on top of your job and don't need constant oversight. Before you start these updates, meet with your boss to explain in a positive way why you think this approach will help your productivity and effectiveness, and ask for her input (perhaps there's an aspect of your job that your boss values more than you do). These updates will create a little extra work for you, but that's usually a fair trade-off for keeping your boss out of your hair.
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I know it's a cliche thing to say, but you should never let someone else control how you feel.. Take pride in the fact that you are a better employee and harder worker than she.  Rather than feeling anger towards her, try and feel some compassion for her.  Something in her life has got to be pretty miserable for her to go to her place of employment and try to drag everyone down with her.  As they say, misery loves company... Changing your view of her from one of hatred and disdain to one of compassion and empathy, should soften your heart considerably and help you to concentrate on being the best you can be. \nI know it sounds really corny, and I never used to be one to practice this kind of empathy, but it really works.  It does take effort and mindfullness, but it works..
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Not at work.  If comments like this are made at work, you have a harrassment situation.  That causes a hostile environment for the women.\n\nThe way you handle this is to politely ask the person to stop making comments like this.  Make sure you write down the time, date, the words you said, and hopefully have a witness.  Do it at least twice.\n\nIf it continues, complain to your supervisor that you are in a hostile environment.  They are required by law to do something about it.
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True, it is not fair and we hate working with people who are so full of BS, especially when we come to work every day, because we want to do the "right thing'.\n\nHowever...........I was told something many years ago by a manager, that I will never forget and will share with you right now..........\n\nYou worry about you and not what every one else is doing or not doing for that matter. Make sure you come to work when you are supposed to and do the best job that YOU possibly can do. \n\nWhat your co-worker is doing is not going unoticed and what you are doing is not going unoticed. Let's see how long your co-worker will be employed versus you.
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I'd stick around a little while and feel it out.  I'm in a similar situation where I would much rather be doing another aspect of my job (which I'm good at doing and like much more), but there's not many people who are good at another aspect so I get stuck on it continually.  The management knows that I'm not happy there, so they're trying to find someone else (since they know I'll probably leave if they don't).\n\nIf it seems like with the next project he's getting dibs over you, then maybe it's time to approach your employer and ask why.  Who knows, they might training him because they have a bigger and better project for you in the works.
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It sounds like you have a micro manager who want her hands on everything that goes on in the office....\n\nA pleasant way is to call a meeting with her and explain to her that you have the experience and professionalism to deal with clients and it undermines your abilitity and confidence when she interupts....Not that she isn't helpful and infact you learned a great deal from her doing it but you would appreciate it if she gives you the chance to grow...\n\nThen, if she doesn't stop and interupts your conversation with a client just say out loud, not too loud but loud enough so that others would hear "Excuse me would you stop micromanaging and allow me to do my job?!
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People say, turn your strong points around, and say "I work too hard at certain things, I keep at my task until I have to be told that I'm finished, some of my former co-workers have criticised me for demanding excellence from then when we are teamed together." \n\n(But don't say these things if they aren't true.)
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I'm assuming you are referring to personal info, not work related info. I've worked many jobs and the only thing I can tell you is that there is an "a**hole" at every company, no matter how much you like your job. As someone else said, just communicate with her regarding work related issues. You don't have to be best friends with the people that you work with, but sometimes you have to try to work with them as much as you hate them as a person. If you really can't stand it, find another job. Writing her a letter along with the rest of your coworkers is just going to cause more trouble. When I was younger, I used to let people like that bother me to the point that I would "tattle" on them. But in the end, I'm the one that suffered. Just do your job and only tell your personal business to people that you do not work with.
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I am in that situation everyday. I have to work with someone that absolutely annoys me and is so difficult to work with. Because I am a mature individual and I want to display professionalism, I have to put my grievances aside in order to get the job at hand done.
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she sounds like she is hoping to catch someone doing something wrong.\nShe sounds creepy.\nJust ignore it and mention it to her supervisor if you can do it casually. Just laugh and say it's funny that Ms. so and so is always watching you whatever you do, like you are just mentionign it, not really accusing her of anything.\nbut otherwise just try to ignore it.