Being in the military isnt like most other jobs. You dont have to live and breathe those jobs day in and day out. And for wives who didnt chose this job and chose to support their husband in their choices, yes, they should get some respect. They aren't inferior because they are the one that make or break their spouses. The play a significant role in the sanity of those men. So, don't you dear speak to or about a military wife as if she is insignificant.
215461
The Unseen Veteran\n \nTo understand military life, or what it feels like to be the proud wife of a soldier, you need to experience it.\nOne day he was here and now he is gone...He isn't beside me in bed...His scent slowly fades, as dose the memory of his face...I can barely remember the familiar sounds of him at home. I long for comfort when I have a nightmare. I want him to hold me. I wait for those comforting letters or phone calls that come after three months of silence.\nNow, I look upon single parents in awe...and learn to do what they do, until my husband comes home. I don't need a man to put a crib together, to take care of the car or to take out the trash. I have learned to be empathetic. I have become self-sufficient.\nAnd even though these are wonderful things, I would give up everything that I have learned to bring him home right now.\nwhen I think that I cannot go on, I rely on my routine so that I can support my husband while he defends our freedom. And I know that I am not the only one.\nI am an unseen veteran. S are all the other military spouses out there. We have different battlefields. Our maps have pins in the countries of worry, heartache and loneliness. Our battles will end when our husbands come home and are in our arms again. Until that day, I say thank you to all the invisible soldiers who are there for each other, who are there for me. We lend a strong shoulder when needed and we keep up the brave front at home. The war could not be won without us.\n\nSomeone in my FRG sent this to me 2 days after our husbands where deployed. Sent me to crying all over again.
69523
For one people do not understand our military.  It is not that our soldiers choose to kill they choose to defend our freedom (yes theirs ignaorant a** too) by whichever means possible. I will always be grateful for any one person who chooses to put other peoples freedom and lives in front of their own. If we didnt have our soldiers people would not be allowed to speak freely about thier views. So personally I think we should all give thanks to anyone who wears a military uniform and wears it proudly.
73217
The same question works the other way, too. But the bottom line... selfishness, that's all it is. The spouse wants what he/she can't have because the other is deployed or whatever. So they are so overwhelmed by selfishness, that they go and get what they want, and to heck with the marriage vows. At least that's my position on the matter.
592997
Women should be treated with respect in all cases. We have some immature men in the military who think it is OK to sexually abuse women - be they POWs or fellow soldiers. They have no dignity. They drink until they are drunk and then feel no shame. They are losers. We need mature men not boys in the military. We need military discipline. Yes we need to keep men and women separate to protect women. \n\nReal men do not abuse women.
226033
I heard once that the toughest job in the military is military spouse.  I agree.  They aren't on the payroll, but the military spouses go through a great deal while their loved ones are in combat.
79789
My wife is deployed. It' a little different for a husband most of the support groups in my area say they are for wifes. It's lonely not to maention we have 2 small girls so It's also scary knowing that I am all they have for now. I just write or E-mail daily and count the weeks till Oct. when she gets home.
347052
Being a military wife, yes, it's hard when my husband is deployed for long periods but I have gotten used to it.  I have my own job, activities and friends to bide my time with while he is away.  I knew what I was getting into when we got married and I'm sticking with it.
540905
In my opinion, it is the highest form of disrespect a man can show his wife! It also opens the door to him partaking in these kind of activities with other females. I don't see how any man can claim to love his spouse when he is willing to share her in bed with other men! Does that make any sense to you?!  He sounds like an unprincipled man to me.
123456
I am currently in the middle of hiring 5 new employees and I also live in an area with 3 bases so I can relate to your question. I think your military back ground is a plus and a minus for you. First and foremost military personal tend to have a higher sense of loyalty to their jobs and better discipline. I also find integrity of military to be a lot higher so I love having them as employees. On the down side I am concerned with call ups and deployments. There is an extreme shortage of manpower here in my area and I must have people that will be there.They can not be easily replaced. I need to be my employees #1 priority, behind family of course.
217198
Just because they do. A wife should be the main woman in any man's life.  If you are a mature adult male you should not need mommy to tie your shoes, do it your damn self!  A mother always wants to feel needed. I'll tell you what I am learning NOT to do with my boys' wives when they get married. Put your wife's concerns at the top of the list and you will keep yourself out of the DOG HOUSE guaranteed!!!
325266
Absolutely the man must uphold his part!What your so called Christian friends are saying is only partially correct.You should submit to a husband who is respecting you and your marriage.I do not agree that you need to submit to someone who is either abusive,cruel or telling you to do the wrong things,or whom does not equally love and respect you!
327657
He is risking his life for you and millions of other people. How can you not be turned on by that? If you couldn't handle the military life, then maybe you shouldn't have married one. I despise people who cheat on their husbands/wives while they are risking their lives for your freedom.
193936
Yes I agree with you.  Women should be treated as equals.  It's an old stigma thing that men maintained over women throughout history.  I personally do think some women, in fact many women, are better qualified and smarter in various areas than men.  I am pootie whipped and always give in to my girlfriend though so I may not be the best person to be answering this.\n\nMaybe your guy is just stubborn and maybe he's on the rag.
223407
Since your in the military,it doesnt suprise me that your male counterparts dont respect you.In the military as well as paramilitary occupations(such as police work,firefighters)it's the same thing,if you dont have a p**** and t******** hanging from your legs,you wont get any respect,dont look for it ever! Dont mean to sound so negative,but i was in the military and in law enforcement,and as a female you will never get any respect from any male because of their wicked male ego!
490654
It takes a lot of guts and independence to be the wife of a Seabee.  It has been said that the hardest job in the seabee's is the wife's.  I should know, because my wife was a seabee wife.  She raised 3 children practically by herself.  She took the role of Mother, Father, housekeeper, tutor, Dr. Mom, banker, handyman, etc...  At my retirement she was awarded a Certificate of Appreciation signed by Bill Clinton himself.  It takes guts to be a military wife.
255249
I am a military wife and proud of my soldier.  He is deployed now.  Yeah we have lost people but those soldiers we have families who wish they were still with us.   you may not care about those who have fallen but i sure as hell do.  you need to remember what country you are in  before you go bashing those who is fighting for your freedom.
513886
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?