I told her mom and dad what is was doing and now she say mean things all the time to my daughter and has other to do it to..I done told teacher, priniple..nothing is being done , least I havent seen no change..10 year old doing this..My daughter was sitting there waiting for class and she came up and sit down in front of her and said dont even talk to me or I will slap your face...she has other kids to say my daughter done something to her, but if she did why dont she tell..get it...and a teacher aid the other day said she was watching her and she was talking about my daughter she told her she need to stop..Me and other mother sit in the car and the is on the paly ground and we seen this same girl pull other hair, and push someone out of swing, and was pointing her fingers at the other and teeling them what to do...I feel like knocking the crap out of her my self...They after the no mbully act but dont do anything about it..I just cant wait until my daughter get out of school this year
202195
I have to be honest, if you see this girl pull her aside and tell her if she lands another finger or if you see her talking to your daughter you will take matters into your own hands. If she tells anybody else you threatened her.deny it..your the adult, then most likely the parents will start looking into it. I am serious! It works.
156580
don't let her bother you. what grade are you in? eventually everybody matures, and for those that don't, the rest of the kids will realize what a bitc* she is. Just ignore her completely, fly under her radar, but don't do anything that will make her feel like she's controlling you. \n\nJust take it with a grain of salt. Eventually she'll get her commuppins, and you'll be all the better for it. \n\nThis is probably the answer you don't want to hear because it's not easy to do, but the harder things are the more they're worth doing. Good luck.
67664
Concerning the teacher talk to her and tell her how her blatant disregard and disrespect for your plans bother you. Try to discuss with her how you two can come to a middle ground and an agreement about what to do with the children and activities for them. Concerning you dad you REALLY need to consult your family physician QUICKLY!!!
300911
Who's the child?  Be the bigger person and move on.  You will only make the problem worse.  If you really can't handle her bossiness, talk to your teacher or couselor.  Good Luck!
123265
i have been there and done that! first children will test you to see what they can get away with, do not let her do this! spend special time with only her, just have a daddy -daughter day, then tell her that mommy needs that kind of special time too, tell her there are things mom and dad talk about that she would not understand and that she is not to behave like this.when talking try and include her as much as you can, but you need to let her see you will not except this, she should grow out of it soon, but she  needs to know mom is not her equal, and that you love them diffrently, GOOD LUCK
505234
There are a lot of possibilities going on here. I will try to speak from my experience and from what I gather from the words that you are sharing.\n \nTry to see what is going on in her life. Possible problems include:\n1. She is acutely aware that she wasn't like some people that she may admire. Maybe she wants to fit in.\n2. Perhaps she is suffering from depression or some kind of mood disorder common for girls of her age. Often teenagers or some kids will lose interest in school when other emotional issues take over. \n3. Try to see what other symptoms are going on. Is it possible that she has gotten involved with some bad kids or influences.\n4. She may need guidance that you are not able to provide at the moment. Try her other parent....or try a counselor. Perhaps you need to ask her what is going on.\n5. You may have to ask for professional help. Since I can't tell much about the daughter or the "situation"...but any sudden change in behavior indicates that there is a problem that must be addressed. It may get worse.\n6. Don't wait. My parents did nothing when I changed in highschool. They may have cared, but they did nothing...as often parents do. That was the wrong choice. Yelling or accusing...pushing...forcing is not the way either. I suggest reestablishing trust in the relationship. She has a reason that she isn't sharing what is going on. She is afraid of what you will say or do.\n7. Be smart. She is a kid in body or at heart. Do the adult thing and help her problem solve. I am sure that she wants things to be different. If not, she will one day and you need to appeal to that urge. \n8. Don't forget to ask for kind assistance from those that are close to her. And for goodness sake...don't let her escape unless of course, it is your home situation that is the problem....if you don't have a peaceful home...she may not want to be there for that reason.
420438
talk to your counselor or school administrator.  If the teacher is aware that others are aware of an interpersonal dynamic, shell be less likely to put it on display.  Id take the additional step, if necessary, of calling a meeting with the parent and the principal.  The comment she made in front of the class certainly puts her in a tenuous position.  Id take another student in to verify she made the comment and then put her on the spot by having her explain it.
462046
if you have to ask, then maybe you shouldn't be parenting at all. dude, thats just not right. she probably is all fired up about going to daddy's job and you wanna take her to a whore house? come on! i totally respect your position and wish i had your job but use your head, will ya? it is no place for any juvenile. Period! call in sick and fake another job for the night so your daughter will stop wondering what you do at work. be creative. did you tell her you work at a brothel? if you did, just explain it to her. PLUS, if you DO take her and she reports it to her fellow students (which she will) or teachers, you could risk having her taken away from you. keep her outa there.
52048
i don't know how old you two girls are but if you think she is being abused she needs help and may be to scared to get it. if you are still in school tell your guidance councler about. they can get it check into by the right people.
615885
This happen to me in jr. high.  I told my mom,  she said, " the teacher must of really wanted you to go, maybe there was something you could of learned that now you missed out on. "  Don't worry about the teachers threat.  I did and had a knot in my stomach,  my teacher just wanted the best for me, and thought the old way of do it else would work.  The only misery I have is wondering what I missed out on learning, even if it was a lesson or two.  Every lesson is something to grow on.  So Just ignore your teachers bad method.  Nothing will happen.
551610
I would talk to both of my parents about the things this woman is saying.  It really sounds as if she is trying to get rid of you as a student by saying all these terrible things to you.  I'm not sure why your parents are willing to subject you to these ugly comments about them.  And I sure wouldn't pay someone who says those things to my child!  I hate to say it, but if you have to, you may have to tell your parents you would rather quit playing violin than have to deal with this woman.  I wish you luck.  You don't deserve to be treated like this!
340090
Why would you want to set an example of lying to the school staff before your daughter? I'm sure there are more important things you should worry about than teaching her to lie! How about like a good education.......
170136
you may want to respect her wishes and let her handle it. i know it has to be hard for a parent to do-- but consider your daughter's perspective. ( i was the kid who got eggs tossed at her, so i know how cruel kids can be...) 14 year olds....think they sprouted from the ground. any parental involvement is generally discouraged by them, and it really may cause her more embarassment. this is an age where kids want to show that they can hold their own.\n\nthe best thing you can do is let her handle it, but be reassuring that it's not her "fault"-- a lot of girls feel that if there were something that they could change about themselves, thigns would be better. let her know that some boys are jerks. chances are, she is not the only one he did something like that to, and he probably has a reputation for being a jerk. \n\nif your daughter is willing to let it go, let it be. however, if this is a part of a pattern of how she's been treated at school... you may want to consider options to intervene.
303766
Someone lied to you. You are doing an EXCELLENT job. I have 3 children, ages 12, 9, &4. not one time have they said that. I am teaching my Children How to Love andn not even think about using those types of word. Your Child may not never say that to you. I hope she don't. If she do say it, then something is wrong. No you are not a bad Parent.Keep up the good work.
385196
It appears you have been very professional in dealing with this - good on you!  Do you belong to a professional organization of teachers?  They should be able to provide more support.\n\nInterpersonal relationship advice.....why does she have any power over your students?  You've done very well in modelling appropriate behaviour - good on you!  Is there another teacher who could give your students peer partners?  That would give another opportunity for appropriate modelling.  Ask her students about their motivation:  What do they get from being mean to the girls?  Until you understand the underlying fears of the people involved, you won't be able to determine their motivation.  Sometimes we just have to work with jerks - realize her limitations and work around them.
77562
Tell your parents about the incident and also other incidents.  Explain to them that you do not like her attitude towards you and also mention that she put her hands on you.  With your parents talking to the principal and MAYBE a lawsuit, you should get rid of her real quick.  But you must remember that the key to all this is to have your parents on your side.  If not they will dismiss you without a thought.  Shouting back will only increase the animosity she has towards you and she can always claim that you are rude and do not listen.  Good grades also helps
529784
I went threw this a couple of years ago with my own daughter she was "cutting" herself too!  I was in shock but, kept my "mom" composure.  I wish should could have come to me before she did this.  But, we had to deal with it!  I found our threw getting her counceling its was from stress.  She did not know how to let the stress go.  I was so afraid for her, not disappointed.  We talked out a lot of things and we cried.  She happened to have a good friend over when I found out and it helped that her friend was there to help me understand.  Maybe you can go with your friend to give her suport in telling her Mom.  Mom might understand better if you were with her.  Keep encouraging her to tell her Mom.  My daughter had a teacher that noticed her wrists and kept all of it confidential.  The teacher was of great guidence to me also.  You are a good friend, and stand by her.  Hope this helps.  I am a Mom who has made myself understand the meaning behind the "cutting".  Good Luck