how to know whether my wife is virgin or not?
200434
Many people believe that bleeding after intercourse is a sign of virginity because it proves that the hymen  - a thin, fleshy membrane that partially covers the vaginal opening  - "broke." But not all women bleed the first time they have sex. Not only can hymen tissue simply stretch during penetration, rather than tear and bleed, but it is also very common for the hymen to rip before a woman ever has sex. Physical exercise, like riding a bike or doing gymnastics, injury to the genital area, or inserting a tampon, finger or sex toy into the vagina can all cause the hymen to split. Sometimes there will be discomfort and blood when the hymen tears, or there may be no blood or pain at all. In fact, you may not even know when your hymen breaks. \n\nOn the other hand, post-sex bleeding can occur for a variety of reasons besides a broken hymen, such as different types of infections, polyps of the cervix or abnormal cervical cells, and a tear in the vagina from vigorous sex without enough lubrication. \n\nSo, while a man might assume that a woman who bleeds after sex is a virgin, the only way for him to know for sure is if she tells him.
95300
Pull down her pants and look.  If you get your ass kicked, there is a 50% chance she is a virgin.
336931
first, are you married to this girl? I suppose NOT.\nhave sex with your wife? experiment and love with your wife. you sound young, so I am gonna say that you are too busy thinking about sex. buddy, there are other alternatives to have fun with this girl u like. but sex, NO. give this specialness to the woman who you will ask to marry you and once married to you. and give this girl the chance to share this specialness with the man of her life. answer one thing? wouldnt you want your wife to be a virgin to you? wouldnt you want to think that she has never been with anyone and that you have no chance of her comparing you? give each other respect. in your future, you will appreciate it better. be a man, that every woman desires; a man that has control of himself.
318773
Yes they can do that....you want the truth....stop having sex until you are married....then she won't have to be checked for something she has no business doing right now.  The two of you need to build a strong relationship (without sex) if that can last.....hey, you may have a good future together.  But, for now, yes...there are ways to know if a person is sexually active.
619173
No, the guy wouldn't know that you were not a virgin, although (as someone who has had several experiences with virgins and nonvirgins, it is pretty obvious who is and who isn't. A lot of girls bleed their first time, but not all. A lot of girls it hurts the first time, but not all. The hymen could be broken and she could still be a virgin.\n\nI've never seen the Wedding Crashers.\n\nA lot of guys like virgins just for the thrill of it. Uncharted territory, so to speak. A lot of them like it because then the girl doesn't have anyone to compare them to, so if they are horrible at sex or have a small penis or whatever, the girl wouldn't know any different. A lot of guys are strict Christians and believe that people shouldn't have sex before marriage.\n\nAnd then you have a lot of guys who don't care whether you've had sex before or not. In fact, a lot of them would prefer that you had so that you would be better skilled to pleasure them and also more willing to try different things, etc..\n\nVirgins are totally overrated. The sex I've had the first time with those virgins was the worst I've ever had.
64425
come on, weren't her and joseph married?\nyou cannot be legally married without consumating the marriage?  \ni don't think she was a virgin either\nnice question
104852
well, just learn from her..if she knows you are a virgin, she will handle u very well.  BE very attentive and just dance with the music! Experience women sometimes are challenge with virgin men....
603279
Ok, if you are not planning on doing this for 10 years, why are you asking now and how old are you.  And as for you both being virgins, I will say this, just go slow and make sure that she is enjoying it as well, and try not to leave her hanging because no matter what, you will be quick.
152261
The average depth of a woman is between 3-4 inches.  Therefore, you can gauge how far you will go depending on your size.  But remember that tissue is extremely elastic and some women can handle larger men while other's can't.  Also, if she is a virgin, you will most likely encounter resistance at her "cherry" and if you keep going will tear her.  A hymen will be present in most virgins, but not all.  It can be broken by fingers or tampons and some girls never have one.  Her age will also be a factor.  The younger she is, the smaller she will be (relatively).  But you appear to be quite young in asking this question and I would hesitate to encourage you in this matter.  Life is more than just sex.  After all, you have two hands.  Don't get hung up on the matter.  When it is supposed to happen, everything will work just fine.  My advice, wait a little while until you are as emotionally and socially capable of handling this situation as your are physically.  It might be good now, but it will be out of this world great with the right person at the right time.
483923
How do you even know this? Did she actually tell you? That was kind of stupid. Curiousity such as this is normal, but it can cause a disproportionate amount of damage if shared with the significant other. My guess is that perhaps your wife hasn't had that many sexual partners? I can't really imagine caring much about finding the first guy I'd ever had sex with, I mean it was a long time ago not just chronologically, but emotionally as well. However, I do chat with my more recent "flames" occasionally (a couple of times a year); I don't report to my husband about it, and it doesn't interfere with our relationship or my current life in any way, shape or form.\n\nIf you don't feel comfortable with her "searching", you could certainly voice your concerns. My guess is that it's just innocent curiousity - but you know your wife, so you should have a gut feeling whether or not it's crossing into obsession.
140976
My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. She was also my first kiss. I was 19, she was 20. We are both popular socially, and considered to be attractive and physically fit. I had only one GF before her and I was her first BF. It's great and wonderful and we wouldn't want to have it any other way. It a lifestyle choice. We are much happier the any of the ppl we know that have chosen other lifestyles. I highly respect you for your self-control. Just don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate that quality in you.\n\nP.s. Please read my question if you have time
662505
if a mans' penis goes inside of a girls' vagina, then you are not a virgin anymore. penetration of the penis makes a girl no longer a virgin. no, the sperm release is not the deciding factor of being a virgin.
508919
OK i'm not going to push my values on you. But it's really up to you. When you get married and start having sex with your wife, do you want her to lean over in the morning and say "Oh baby, you're on my top 20 lovers list!"or would you rather know that you are the only one she has ever been with and ever really will be with?Also, if you have sex now while you're young and you think that the person you are with will love forever, guess again. If she can't wait for you, chances are, she's done it to other guys just like you. And if you have sex, it usually means you care very deeply for the person you are with. However, if you marry someone who has had sex before, that means that they have "deeply" loved others before you and left them. Which strengthens your chances of her leaving you. It's just all around beetter to wait until you're married, because that way, it's like your spouse is the only person you ever really loved enough to surrender yourself to, and it will give you a longer lasting relationship. And you will have a much happier marriage and life.\n\nMatthew, I know that there are going to be many mixed answers here, but just listen to me on this one. You can always lose your virginity, but you can never get it back once you've lost it. If you feel like an outcast because you aren't an anybody's man, you shouldn't. You should feel dignified that you are too good to settle for someone who only cares about your body; but that you are waiting for someone who cares about who will not be able to have sex when he's old. They will love for your entire life, and not just until they've had their share of orgasms.
443924
I suggest the woman demands the man who claims he's a virgin and has no STDs to get tested before actually getting married.   If the man refuses, then you have your liar.  I think that it should work both ways for both sexes (if the man wants their fiancee to get tested, she should not refused either if she is honest about her virginity or lacking STDs).  I think that's best solution for guaranteeing safety and honesty
266008
there is nothing wrong with you still being a virgin, may god bless you.  sex is an act of true love that should be shared with someone that you are committed to for life. U can tell when that someone comes along when there is no pressure concerning sex during your relationship.  your correct there is no concrete proof that sex is safe and no you are not missing out on anything.
110781
NO! virgin is someone whose never had sex. and sex is something that happens between (at least) 2 people.\n\nbut it might tear your hymen, if that's what you're worried about
651061
Hey hey, easy on this guy, his spelling doesn't look like a 14 yr old kid, but it looks like English is a 2nd language to him. In some countries (I'm in USA), a 29 yr old male virgin isn't a rare thing at all. In some societies, it's quite common.\n\nThere is no pain for the male. If a female is healthy, there is pain when breaking virginity, but it doesn't last long, only during the penetration, and the pain usually goes away soon after that. I mean in minutes, usually not hours, and definitely not for days. Don't worry, she will enjoy her honeymoon without having to walk around in pain. If she does, she needs a doctor, because prolonged pain from intercourse indicates she may have some kind of illness in her female parts.\n\nDeflowering on the wedding night is a normal, natural, beautiful thing. It's a holy thing, why the concern for it? If you both really don't want to do that on the 1st night, you don't have to. But a healthy, happy marriage includes a beautiful sex life. She will not be any less honorable once she breaks her virginity with you, because you will be her <husband>. It's what God has designed. He designed sex for pleasure too.\n\nAs for birth control, if you two want to have children, then don't use it. If you want to wait, then look into the various forms of birth control. If you both don't want to use a condom, then she can see a doctor to get birth control pills. If she doesn't smoke, then it's okay for her to start taking them before the wedding. I'm not saying for you to have sex before the wedding, but for her to start taking them before the wedding.\n\nI hope this helps.