I'm finding my gay side of me and just wondering what is all the arguing over being gay?
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Religion, religion, religion. The word 'GAY' is and always will be a word that gets them ranting. Sad but true.
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I am not gay...but I have gay friends...\nWhat may lead a person to believeing they may be gay...hmmm...maybe when they catch theirself looking at others of the same sex, and thinking they are very attractive. Or just feeling attracted to one of the same sex...I guess if you were gay, sooner or later you would know it...and it would come to you naturally?
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This stuff is supposed to be secret... who keeps leaking out information to all those wanna-be people. At first we had a nice little club thing going on,...and ...if we keep giving out these tiny secrets,...before long everyone will want to be LGBT.\n\nI'm thinking about quitting....
573195
the question is... are you gay? becoz if you are, you're up to it. and if you're not, then you're straight. it's either you go that way or this way
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from what you had said it's look that you like to be gay and simple. \nI will tell you what I believed.....you are what you has been born on so if you born a man be a man and if you born a woman be a woman, second inside you is telling you that what you are doing is wrong and it's drive you to the right way. be simple and Jonie the air force. there is nothing nice to be a gay. & fiend a nice girl and do what ever you like to do.\nI know gay people will HAIR me....
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There's no need to declare yourself anything right now.  In a year or two, you will know if you are or not gay.  \n\nYour attraction may just be envy of guys who have matured physically ahead of you, or perhaps what you want to be  That doesn't make you gay, it makes you human.  \n\nRead up on it if it still nags at you.  Ask more questions.  Talk to someone you TRUST.
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I would say if you have feelings for members of the same sex and you want to act on them, or you do act on them then you might be gay. And if you're not at all interested in being with someone of the opposite sex, but only someone of your same sex. It's also possible you could just be confused.
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It has certainly been eventful!  I hope you found something in my/our responses to make you consider your position and outlook on the GLBT community, in general.\n\nI daresay we'll "cross swords" again\n\nMy day is nearly over - enjoy yours.
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It's bullshxt. I totally agree. Who are straight people to say what gays can and cannot do? Are we not people? This country is TOO fxcked up.
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I don't get mad at myself about being gay.  I get mad at those who tell me how to feel.  I get mad at those who think they know whats best for me.\n\nDo you get mad at yourself for questioning whats in other men's hearts.  You should.  You should apologize for that arrogance.
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First take a deep breath. Now repeat after me..."Just because I'm not a jackass about homosexuals does not make me gay". I belive you are putting way to much pressure on yourself. You could have issues with women from your childhood or something or you could just not have met the right woman. As to your question  I don't put people in boxes, you don't have to be gay, bi, or straight. I'd say more but this is an open disscusion, so if you want to talk just e-mail me.\nPS Ignore the gay bashing that will probaly be in some of the answers.
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Intolerance is born from fear of the unknown or what is different. We have been making great strides in recent years by educating people about what it means to be gay. The fact that there are gay characters on TV and in very popular movies is a sign that the world is becoming more tolerant. We, as gays, have a responsiblity to educate those around us that being homophobic is not acceptable in this day and age. I like to ask people who are being intolerant of the LGTB community to please replace "gay" or "lesbian" or "transgender" with "black" or "Jewish". If they can still make the statement and not feel embarrassed, then it is probably an OK thing to say. \n\nI don't know your situation or anything about you, but we in the LGBT community and our friends need all the help we can get in fighting this ongoing prejudice. It would be wonderful if you could come out and help us in striking down all the hate in our society. That being said, I would never advise you to do something that is not right for you or would put your safety in danger. \n\nIf you would like someone to talk to about how to come out, or about being gay in general, I would be happy to get a mail from you. A closet can sometimes be a very lonely place to be. \n\nTake care and keep asking the important questions!
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It's natural to be gay/bi, but that's not an answer I can give you.  A clue, though, is if you really desire making love with the same sex.  Sexual desires are one thing, but true homosexuality is a love thing.  If you love females in that way, you may be gay.  You may be predominantly gay with a slight turn toward the heterosexual (hence, your sexual but not loving attraction to boys).  In the end, however, it is your decision.  I can only offer advice.
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Sure, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. Hid my true gay self for years, pretended to be straight in a small southern town. If you wanna chat, email me at jtb1999@hotmail.com and we can find a way to do it on MSN or YAHOO. Peace and good luck.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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Being gay, like life in general, isn't all daisys and sunny days. Usually, that's because there's a very big misconception that every gay (men at least) is tea-tottling, mincing, lisping, works at a hairdresser's, is a waiter, or is great at making floral arrangements. Let's dispel that myth with my VERY honest answer:\n\n\nThis probably will sound a little smarmy, but I really view my personal homosexuality just like the dictionary says. Although, it doesn't define me as a person, which is much more important.\n\nI live my life each day as I think most guys do. Wake up, jerk off, take a shower, get dressed, grab some coffee, head to work, work work work, brown paper bag lunch, come home, jerk off, order pizza, jerk off, watch TV or a movie, then go to sleep wearing my skivvies, and only one sock on. On the weekends I loathe my job, work on the car if it needs it, play rugby (if there's a match), mow the lawn, and do chores around the house.\n\nPersonally, I'm not a bars-and-parades kinda guy. I'm just me. Don't get me wrong, I've gone out to the bars, and have attended at least one parade in my life, but it's not my whole life.\n\nI don't see myself as different from any man, except for the act of sex itself. That, unless you're in my inner-circle, is really no ones business. So why should they worry about it when they really don't want to know about it, right? RIGHT? Hmmm...\n\nSo, what does being homosexual mean to me? It means I'm me. I'm myself. It means I'm not living up to anyone's standards but my own. It means that sex is the only difference between me and anyone else.\n\nI really don't get what all the fuss is about. I've got lots of str8 friends, who don't even care. I've met total strangers that have been cool with it. Regardless, I'm not worried about it. If I have to, I've even knocked down a str8 dude or two in my time... No worries here.\n\nGuess that's just me... you know... being homosexual...\n\n\nP.S. No need to send out prayers, particularly those who preach and pray to hear themselves talk. \n\nNONE of you are in ANY position to question the Will and Work of God!!! Who do you think you are?! \n\nOnly mankind would assign such high value of himself! Your sin is PRIDE!\n\nBLASPHEMERS! LIARS! FALSE PROPHETS!!\n\n\n.
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I'm here, and I'm proudly GAY.