I am in love with a female. She was living with me then she had to move with her mother in New York because of probation. Without her in Florida with me I moved to Georgia. I planned on marrying her when we lived together. Now our reltionship is on hold but we still talk as if we never broke up and she is with a guy who she says she is just with for money and I am with a girl who I really don't care about. Everytime we get on the phone I melt just hearing her voice. She expresses that she feels the same. She even says that she still wants to marry me. What do I do? Should I trust her or should I consider the relationship we have as nothing? Could I trust her if we moved together again?
218108
You have the audacity to say "what's wrong with females?"  Your problem is you have two heads, and you're thinking with the wrong one.  Do you want a miserable life, full of drama?  Then by all means, go after her.
504538
well you could talk to your family and explain that you really love her. if they still don't like her and if you are dead sure that she loves you and that she can break her engagement without any problem, then i guess you should stay with her. because it is YOU who will love her and  not your family. and if you can persuade them that you will be happy with her then they should be tolerant and accept the situation. i could also tell you to face your family and fight for your love like they do in movies but this is unrealistic. i have faced a more or less similar situation some years back. i was in love with a boy. he is hindou and i am christian and my parents disliked him. i love my parents very much and i didn't want to hurt them and see them sad. so i broke up. but this was my choice. today i'm still alive and waiting for the perfect guy if ever he exist at all. i dn't know if i have regrets. what i mean is that the choice is yours and no one else's!
200319
Not seeing the whole picture is a problem. Did you have any type of a commitment before she went on that vacation? And why was she alone on vacation? Living together? Dating regularly and exclusively? If you never told her you were seriously interested in a long term romantic relationship because your one of those people who never reveals your true feelings, then what do you expect. You need to tell her how you feel. Don't propose -it is time to take a major step backwards. Show her the ring, so she will know how serious you WERE. DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER! Return it! Let her know if she is interested then you need a commitment and you must do the same. If she would rather stay "friends" then you must realize that is all you will ever be and get over her.
417430
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
161028
I met a girl on line.  Now she's my wife and we have a son.  But before this happened I visited her in her county for a number of weeks over some months.  It was only after this time that I felt happy enough to ask her to marry me.\n\nSo I suggest if you can go visit her.  Also is this your first real love?
330622
I think you need to give more details on your situation because I don't know what you are asking. What do you mean by you are "seperated"? \n\nDid you two once go out as boyfriend and girlfriend and was living much closer to each, but now live far apart but now the relationship is long term?\n\nAnd what do you mean you have problems talking to her on the phone? Describe what the problem is.....\n\nMore details please...
118540
Sorry to say but you are shallow and might be incapable of true love, at least not at this time and certainly not with this girl.  If you truly loved her, she would be the most beautiful woman in the world to you.  So you obviously do not. Don't marry her as you would be taking away her chance at true happiness with someone who will treat her like the goddess that she is.  You give us real men a bad name!
590368
You could be in love with her, but moving to be with her when she doesn't want a relationship is a double risk:  it's a big risk even when it's what you both want, but just saying, "okay... I'm coming... hope maybe you'll fall in love with me someday..."  Well, in my opinion that's both risky and foolhardy.  You can't force somebody to love you.
175453
I married a guy from another state while I was going to college there. We decided it tio be best to move back to my state due to the opportunities and family activities. However it is a small issue because he gets resentful sometimes when he isn't there for his mom and it is an extra expense to travel back and forth occasionally. If it can be avoided, marry a local or choose a neutral spot together...but we can't help who we fall for.
190988
Sound very confusing. Her telling you to stalk her sounds like she wants attention. I would give her some space, also it sounds like she acts to young to be married. If you don't want to find anyone else, stay single for a couple of months and play it by ear. I would usually say move on with your life, but if you really love her then she`s worth it !
644956
Who cares if she loves you or not! Her actions scream, her words are quiet. Don't be a fool...you deserve far better than this, and if it is like this at this point, do you really think it will go anywhere but DOWNHILL ? Wise up, send her packing (I am not a hearless person and usually pick the opposite side), for this one is divorced for a very good reason...and you are finding the reason. You do NOT need to have a significant other, you will be fine on your own, and ... guess what! It won't be long before you find (0r are found) another who will appreciate all you do, all you are, and all you will be. This one will never be that person. Good luck to you both.
81352
if she doesn't seem happy don't marry her. she should be happy without the gifts. you should be the one who makes her happy. you do many wonderful things, and it sounds like she isn't as in love as you. get out now before you really get hurt. (it will already hurt) and by the way, what is your phone number, you sound wonderful.
140518
She's trying to manipulate you.  Don't fall for it.  I don't know when people will learn that manipulation in a relationship is never a good idea.  \n\nYou need to explain to her your reasons for living elsewhere.  If she's in such a desperate bid to get you to come live with her, eventually you will feel trapped and resentful of her.  \n\nTell her that although you love/care about her, and don't want anything to happen to her, at this time it just isn't feasible for you to move back to the same town.  Explain that you are willing to see her whenever you can and that no matter what distance you are from her, she is still important to you.  \n\nYou must also let her know that you are doing whats best for you and if she cares for you like she claims, she will not hurt herself.
154196
I think your reaction is completely normal.\nBut if it's been 4 years that you are together and you love so much, then it means that you know each other quite well.\nSincerely, I don't think distance is a reason to cheat on you or not.\nIf she didn't do it so far there's no reason for her to do it in the future.\n\nYou are scared and you have a lot of apprehensions because all this situation is going to be very new for both you.\n\nBut as my granny used to say "the first step is difficult but then you get used to any situation" (sorry if that sounds weird, my granny used to say it in French, but anyway, that's the idea), so my point is: I think that according to what you said your love is strong enough and you will make it with the distance.\n\nYou have to use all means available to you to stay as close as possible (emails+msn+texts+calls+letters) and you'll see that it's going to be fine.\n\nI'm currently living a long distance relationship, and it's been one year.Of course it's not the best thing in the world, and to be honest when some guys wanted to be go out with me it would have been very easy to cheat on my BF because he wouldn't even have known it.\nBut I didn't do it because I love him and also because it's too easy to fall into this cowardice.\n\nWhen you make so many sacrifices you're not willing to ruin everything so easily.\nSo I don't think that your girl will cheat on you.\n\nAnother good thing that you're not considering so far, is that you're going to learn a lot, far from her and so will she, so you should both decide to make the best of this time apart and be happy while missing each other, and I promise that everytime you'll see again it's going to be great.\nWhen you spend time apart it makes you take some distance also intellectually, and that's not so bad.When you see her again you'll be both very happy, and maybe also more turned on!\n\nYou'll feel a lot more in love and it's quite positive.\n\nTo make a long distance relationship last, it's important to keep positive.You have to decide to be happy.\nBut breaking up with her is stupid because you love her and it would make you both suffer.You're not in a catch 22, it's your own decision to be happy and you've got all the keys in hand.\nJust think about all these single people who are looking for their soulmate, if you've found your, don't let her go!\n\nBe happy and take it easy! x
513234
Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
624055
hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
572393
Don't let her put you under so much pressure, she knows how you think about marriage. Does she really love you??? If she would, she wouldn't do anything like this to you.\nI'm in a relationship for about four years, very happy! The first thing he made clear to me, when we got together, that he will never get married. And he was very determent.I didn't have a problem with that, married or not married, the aim is that we love each other. But 1 1/2 years ago he suddenly asked me to marry him!!!!! Course i said YES.\n\nI really wish you all the best with your gf and i hope that she really really loves you and tries to understand your point.