Why do women go after the jerks, even after they screwed up? Why are nice guys left behind?
207714
Don't listen to the person above. Nice guys arent always left behind. It just takes more time to get ahead but once you get ahead you stay ahead. For starters don't ever change who you are just let some qualities fall and others high light them more. Let say if you always hold the door for someone then one day don't. I can guarantee that you will respect yourself everytime you hold it after that. Just by making the smallest gestures you can change someone's life so don't think its going un noticed its just foggy right now. My website is below
217847
it's a subconscious reaction to being treated poorly. I'm guilty of it too, however men and women do this. I dated a guy that REFUSED to trust me because he'd had an ex cheat on him. Every time I was out later than expected or didn't answer the phone, he'd throw a fit. Women do the exact same thing. When past experiences were out of your control, you do a complete 180 and try to control everything. If you are dating someone who will not trust you no matter what, it can also be a sign that they're not trustworthy. You have to go with gut instinct about things like that. If it doesn't feel right, and you're more upset than not around the person, you may want to get out of the situation. Of course I would suggest having a real conversation about it a few times before throwing her to the curb.
137360
Of course the saying goes to each cat their own rat. Not everyone loves the bad boys and most nice guys eventually do win in one form or another. The most interesting thing ive heard as to why this occurs is that its some kind of evolutionary kick in type of thing. When looking for someone to mate with, pass on you genes, stop the biological clocks ticking, whatever you want to call it, women (conciously or not) look for a dominant, assertive, more evolutionarily "fit" man. These type of guys are typically the ones you describe, though they arent all abusive and unfaithful as much as they are assertive and aggressive. If you believe women decide what role a man is going to play very shortly after they meet them, then it stands to reason that a more assertive approach = more response from women, as a boring or too nice approach takes a little longer to cultivate.
521808
Women are completely messed up in the head.  They only want things that they can't have.  By sending stuff to them and being nice they realize that they can have you and that makes them feel like their nothing special.  You must first show them that your'e special and get their attention by doing something funny, unique, or impressive all while acting disinterested.  Then pay them some attention and then only start being nice to them after they agree to go out with you.  Even then do not be overbearing just kinda act like theyre ok and then theyll be dying for attention and then in turn begin to develop an affection toward you.
534412
guys can be jerks ... and some never grow up. some are just superficial and never outgrow it. there are a few of us good guys out there... but there are becoming fewer and fewer of us by the day.. because parents these days don't teach their kids to respect women the way we were. I mean kids running around calling women ho's and such..and hitting them. not good shows absolutely no respect for women.
288366
its just what some women do. not all are like that.\nmaybe the guy is toooo nice and she starts to take advantage, as she knows she probably can.
203030
take it from me, they play that, bc they have to make sure the guy is up for anything. in other words, they want to make sure that YOU are SURE you want to be with them before they devote all their time and energy into a relationship with you. duh! guys hurt gals in so many sick and twisted and horrible ways, if you dont know. everyone is different, i know, but that's why they shy away, to make sure that's what YOU really want, so they dont jump in and scare YOU away like sum guys. its an emotion thing.!!!
465629
Because genetically women GENERALLY are looking fora good provider - - so years and years of training has caused men to attempt to prove they can be a good provider, and to do this they brag on the possessions they have acquired.\n\nWhat you might consider is peeling the onion.  Rather than dismissing a man simply because he took the wrong route to get your attention attempt to redirect his focus.  Don't be so callous as to dismiss him but ask him questions about things that interest you.  \n\nI promise being understanding and nice and kind doesn't hurt at all.  You might find it to be useful, unless you plan to live the rest of your life alone and angry.
196326
ummm yeah girl, dont get caught in that falling for losers while the nice guy watches and picks up the pieces trap. You should kick your ex's behind. You dont disrespect a woman by putting your hands on her OR calling her out of her name. If he has to physically hurt a woman, it shows he is a punk anyways and not a real man. Maybe his mistake in falling for you is that you didnt have a penis, which is what he is really looking for.
126735
You nailed it right on the head. The women you are referring to want their handsome boy toy to play around with, and they get used and abused for years and years, then towards mid life, they decided that they want someone decent and loving. I reiterate what you just said, why should the good guy not have to settle for damaged goods, which they are,and with certainty, they will have psychological at the very least.It is quite refreshing to see someone like you call it like it is.
283758
because they will have more power in the relationship. Also girls think that nice guy are weak and can't stand up for themselves and there girls.
329980
If a guy is being abused, it's because he's letting her do it - same as for women.  You have the option to not hang around.\n\nThe reason they say that is because young women tend to go for the "bad boy" - a guy that will be bad to everyone but THEM, so they can say they "won" by changing him - but older women know that is all a fantasy and a lie.  There is no such thing as a bad boy who can be changed by a woman to good.  When a woman learns this, they go to the nice guys who have waited patiently for the women to grow up and figure this out.
669227
Maybe it's because girls like that find really caring guys and take advantage of them, or treat them like they're not worth anything, so then those guys clam up and are afraid to trust anyone anymore, then the rest of us really caring girls, if we want any companionship at all, are forced to associate ourselves with those "jerks."\nIt's a vicious cycle.
288861
I cant answer this question because Im trying to understand that also.To many times women will stay with the guy that doesnt treat them right or make them feel cared for etc. and they dont want to find that guy that is waiting to be given a chance to treat someone with everything thier heart can put out.They would rather sit at home and complain than do anything about it,just so you know,that wonderful charming guy is trying to find you but cant because you are still in a relationship..... best wishes
193182
I think the problem is that there are so many easy girls that men do not appreciate true ladies.  Then, Men complain when the easy girls take advantage of them.  Duh, What did they think was going to happen? Additionally, with the easy girls they do not have to put any effort into it.  Men need to be reminded that to acquire anything of great value requires an effort on their part.
158972
if there jerks at first, then there not gonna change. Get a good guy, a sweet one you just called friend.
208693
BECAUSE,if your like me,you,re too nice for half the girls around you.Cool girls always pick the bad guys and then later cry and complain about what jerks they are!!if you,re like me,just act like you,re happy being single and alone and they,ll begin to notice you.the secret is.... its ok for women to complain about being single,but its unattractive when us men do it,I know from experience