Weve been dating for over 2 years and it still bothers me a little bit when i see her talking to another guy. I get this little gut feeling of about 5% jealousy but when i start talking to her it goes away. I dont know to call it jealousy or not. idk what it is
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you're okay...it's human nature
250021
Jealousy (in my opinion) is a sign of self insecurities. I would be concerned if it shows signs of becoming violent or controlling.\n\nIf you love her you will work her through this and find why she feels she has this jealousy otherwise, I'd suggest advising help and getting out of the situation.\n\nBased on what you said it almost sounds like bi-polar or multiple personalities being triggered by emotional stress. (Wild guess not meant to diagnose just give you an idea of what you could look up to see descriptions of)
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This is tough.  Part of it is that you sound insecure.  You say he won't cheat but you don't seem to believe it.  Trust is hard sometimes.\n\nAll of us guys look at other girls (sorry it's true, we just don't act on it).  I wouldn't look at another girl when I'm with my girlfriend because I wouldn't want her to feel bad.  \n\nHe may like the attention of other girls because it makes him feel attractive. But he's not making you feel secure, making you feel like the only one so there is a problem.\n\nMost people do get jealous.  Try to have more trust him and believe that in yourself more that he wants to be with you.\nAs long as nothing is going on he should be allow to have girl's who are friends same as you are allowed to have guys who are friends.  Now if one tried to kiss him...than snap all means ;-)
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You don't want your friend to fornicate with your ex, that's understandable, but you're no longer with him so they're gonna do whatever they want. It bothers you because either you're jealous, concerned because you don't want him messing with her heart (if he's the reason you guys broke up), annoyed that she's going for him even though she's well within her rights, or you still got feelings for him. Or maybe you're into your friend? Whatever, get over it, he's not your problem anymore, right?
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Sometimes a guy would like all your attention. My girlfriend has free will to do as she pleases as long as she remember just how much I love and care about her. The only thing I ask is that she would stay faithful and not play games with me no matter how far away she maybe from me. I understand you because sometimes it is like she dose not include me in her life and hangs out with old friends from school. The last time I called her she had an old guy friend over to her house with no other friends there besides him. I have to admit I was upset with her cause she seems to fall for the sweetness of every guy but crays and asks me to trust her.  The only advice I could offer you is to be careful with your heart. Even if those other girls are your friends they might turn around betray you or he might leave you for another. It sounds to me like he dose not value your relationship all that much.
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Simply, curiousity with a little bit of wonder, maybe even jealousy.  Jealousy is questionable.  However, you don't understand why he was with her and really you don't need to or have to.  You might want to know why they broke up.  You may have deep down fears of them coming back around to each other since you don't understand why they were even together to begin with.  What you should remember is that he is with you and not her now.  If he isn't doing anything to see her, be around her, or have any sort of contact with her you really have nothing to be worried about.  If he is, then have concerns.  If he talks about her etc.  Put it out of your head if those things aren't happening and just enjoy that he is with you.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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Well, remind your friend all that you've shared. The past will always outweigh the present. The green eyed monster only emerges when one is worried or a little insecure. Be flattered that they care enough to worry, but flatter them back with reassurances that you are going no where other than to a place where you can grow closer to them. \n\nWe tend to think of jealousy as a bad thing. It is more of an indicator. Stop and step back and see what it is telling you. Give her what you she needs........and ask her to give you what you need. Awareness. That's what it's all about. :)
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Hello:\n\nFirst off, I know exactly how you are feeling. My ex-boyfriend and I spent more time fighting than we did simply being happy with each other. It just got to be so frusterating. Ultimately I just decided that something wasn't working because we were arguing about the same few things. \n\nWe decided to sit down and have a serious talk about it. One of our main problems was that he was an incredibly jealous person, and I usually am not. He would get upset if he saw me talking to one of my guy friends. I have never ever been unfaithful to anyone and just could never do that to someone, and yet he always assumed that I was messing around behind his back. \n\nAnd then he would get frusterated that I was such a trusting person, and that I would never confront him for talking to another girl. So he started pushing the limits a little bit in order to make me jealous, and boy did it work. It just seemed that we were spending so much time hurting each other. And we agreed that the relationship wasn't working out. \n\nNow we are both in relationships, and we remain friends. And both of our relationships are much more successful than we ever were together. Some relationships just aren't meant to be. It was through that experience that I realized it isn't enough to simply love someone, there is more to making a relationship work. \n\nI would suggest having a serious talk with your girlfriend. Figure out which things you are fighting about most often, and I'm sure you will find a common thread. Then you need to decide if it's worth it to make an effort to fix the relationship, or if it's time to move on. \n\nI wish you the best of luck, and I hope this helps!
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Be sensible. She's your girlfriend, not your possession. Do you have a reason not to trust her? Can you talk to her about it? If not, and it bothers you, you shouldn't be with her. Does she have good reason you'll beat a male friend for looking at her? If so, maybe she isn't the one with the problem!\n\nPossessiveness makes an intelligent gal want to cheat. Girls like showing off their bodies- it's what we do. If you have a faithful loving relationship with this girl, then talk to her about your insecurity! There's a good chance it is founded in nothing. If you do not have a good relationship then what are you staying in it for?\n\nThe issue here sounds like a lot more than her going swimming with her friends! Ask yourself what it really is, and then deal with it.
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I understand you love her to death but everytime you talk to someone of the opposite sex she is going to keep doing this. You have few options here you can put her in her place and just let her knwo your not going to stop communicating with the opposite sex just because she is insecure, you could never talk to the opposite sex again but that will make you miserable, or you could tell her how much her insecurities bother you and how unreasonable she is being but it sounds like everytime you talk to a female she turns into a big big bitch. Is that what you really want to deal with, ask yourself.
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I am in the same boat right now! So, I know how you feel.  I just am there when she needs to talk.  I do not offer ANY negative input about MY feelings about the guy, just listen to how she feels and try to give her answers that are somewhat neutral.  Good luck!
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Yes you got upset over nothing. She must be pretty and if you are gonna date her then you have to accept that other men will be looking at her when you two are together. As long as the guy doesn't say anything disrespectful then don't worry about it.
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Well its normal it happens many time maybe to everyone....\nits coz when u 2 r together u know tht now this person is urs n u dont worry of loosin him n try to tell him his faults or start findin sumthins which r not agreeable to u. n u then start thinkin do i seriously love this guy??? Thts da only thing tht is happenin with u n when u see him with other female friends u feel jealous its obvious coz its ur guy u love him a lot u will feel paranoid n possesive abt him... but dont worry just think y do u love this guy think abt his positive aspects tht made u think y do u love him n u`ll forget all his silly faults.... if u really love him u`ll try not to think tht u dont love him becoz i think u shud not break over this relationship just becoz u think he has sum silly faults.... \nCommon u love this guy u cant break up just bcoz of mere misunderstandin.....
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nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!
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How long have you been with her? And why don't you ask her, you should, if it's been a while, she may not be feeling the same way about you and doesn't know what to say or, she is insecure about the relationship. Let her know your feelings on this, communication is the key!
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well of course its going to bother your new current girlfriend because we first wouldn't enjoy the fact that you still converse with your exgirlfriend.  whether if she gave you a small gift or a bit gift, it still bothers us the fact that you accepted it without thinking it'll hurt us.  think about it, her macho exbf giving her flowers on a random day, how would you like that?  ever thought about being in her position for once?