We have been going out for 2 yrs and been living together, he seems secretive and wont tell me what he is thinking or doing
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Hi!,\nIt sounds like you would like your boyfriend to be more open and to communicate his thoughts more. If he does not open up and communicate what he is thinking, feeling or doing you would be left to think many things.\nMy first thought would be, has he always been of this particular nature, that is not open, or not very communicative? If so love him as he his.\nMy second thought is, you would like to have a partner that is open and communicative. Perhaps that is how you are (open and communicative), and you have that recipricating need. It would not be healthy heart trying to guess what another person is thinking. We are so often incorrect to try and guess what a person is thinking. What is, is, can be a simple thought. A person who thinks less could be more at peace, at least not so stressed. Try it. Try and be more like him, since you wish perhaps him to be more like yourself. Good Luck
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If you have to ask then he's not worth your time. But if YOU think that he is, then ask. Ask, ask, and ask, he wants to tell you but is afraid and eventually will. He's been feeling guilty about it or else he wouldn't be with you anymore.
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It sounds to me that he is just using you for your money, i dont know his past but you should ask him why he nevers sees you at night. If the answer does not seem genuine or if he takes ages to respond, he is using you and you should get rid of him.
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May be try to be more open with him? Offer to share information and anticipate his questions by providing the answers outright.  If this doesn't work, then consider that fact that he may be jealous and paranoid and that whatever you do (or don't do) won't matter because it will be his version of events that he will see. Next step, I guess, would be to find out for yourself if you can have a long term relationship with your man knowing that he doesn't trust you.  \n\nGood luck!
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A couple things I can say on this coming from "experience".  The only time anyone would be suspicious of you is if they themselves were doing something they shouldn't be.  Most importantly and very concerning is this... \nI'm not sure how long you have been together or what your relationship is like, but there are distinct signs of future abusive behaviors here.  Your best option is to discuss this with him and express your concerns.  If he's not willing to tell you or worse it explodes into an argument, cut your losses (no matter how hard it may be) and leave.  Reality should tell you if you can't talk, there's no future.  No one deserves to be treated like that and you should have more respect for yourself to know there is someone out there that will treat you the way you should be.\nGood luck to you...
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I would be careful with this guy. He sounds weird like he has a big secret or something. Is there a big age difference between you to? He should be telling you what to do, you are not married. Even if you were, everyone deserves some personal space. He should not be hitting you, he defiantly has a problem. Trust me it won't get better. I mean do you want to live in his secretive life forever?
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For goodness sakes! Is he ashamed of being with you or does he not want people to think you are an item? He sounds like a guy I used to like in high school and in the first year of college. We only went to church together. And when we went out, it was after dark. He didn't want it to get back to his dad that we were seen together. \nYou might want to ask him why. But if his behavior does not improve, just leave him and his issues alone.
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Your expecting a bit much to think he would tell you everything he feels.  Try just working on trust and talking in general and not try to reach for something that you will never get with anyone.
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Sounds to me like hes embarassed about his feelings towards you. He probably wants to keep what you two have in private, which isn't such a bad thing..believe me. It's alot easier to have a real relationship without everyone's prying eyes all in your buisiness.
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he's being honest with you, now you know he doesn't keep anything from you, that's a very comforting feeling . i know it sucks that he used to go to strip clubs in the past but he doesn't anymore. in relationships one of the best things is honesty and he's giving that to you...=o)
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Obviously this guy has issues with commitment. I think he is using you until something better and more appealing comes along. Its like you are his last resort when there isn't someone else. I would move out, stop returning his calls and distance yourself from him. There is nothing but heartache ahead if you allow yourself to become too emotionally involved. Keep him away and keep your heart to yourself if you have to be around him.
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you can tell if he is cheating on you, if he is acting strange when you ask him questions, if he isnt spending as much time with you as  he use too spend. only you can tell if she has changed since you started your relationship. if you are questioning his honesty now, then maybe he is cheating on you.
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Well, there are a lot of things which could be driving him to avoid certain subjects.  Perhaps he is holding back a bit to avoid being totally vulnerable.  If he's been hurt before by allowing himself to be totally vulnerable to someone you could be paying the unfortunate price.  While I understand you don't want to run him off you also need to be able to figure out whether your relationship has a strong foundation upon which to build something more than conversations about sex, food and currente events.  If he's not willing to meet you half way then perhaps you both need to re-evaluate what you each want, need and expect from the relationship.  If those lists are not consistent or, at the very least, complimentary, you may have to re-examine whether you want to stay in the relationship.\n\nOf course it's very easy to write all of this not being there but in the long run it's a conversation you're eventually going to have to have with him.  Try to find out what other subjects are open for discussion and go there first....try to help him open up by sharing a little something you might be holding back.  Start it by saying "you know, I may not have told you about this but...."  Perhaps by sharing and showing a bit of your vulnerablility he'll do the same.  Just be careful to pick something which won't bare your soul completely and leave you hung out to get hurt in the end.\n\nAll the best "ma'am"   ;)
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i think you know the answer, he really isnt into you. im not sure that everything he is telling you is the truth. i would move on with my life and let him live in his fantasy world.
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He sounds like he is just insecure.  If he can't trust you there cannot be a relationship.
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have you spoken to him about it , maybe he dosen't even realize whats going on with the both of you
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I don't think you can hide something without conciously knowing you hid it. I suppose you could forget something, but then it probably wouldn't be 'in your eyes' as he put it. If you truly aren't hiding anything, but he thinks you are, then the problem isn't you, it's him. He's got a trust issue that you two need to talk out. Whether it becomes a huge issue or not is up to you two. As for why someone would hide something...sometimes it's because they hope something will just go away, or they're really afraid it would end the relationship. But again, if there is nothing you are hiding, then you need to sit him down, remind him of how you feel about him, and assure him that you are hiding nothing. If he can't accept that, then it's going to put a strain on the relationship. Ask him why he thinks it past the look in your eyes, and if there's anything he's unsure about, worried about or experienced in the past that would make him think it. If you love him, and he loves you, then you'll work through it. Just go in knowing there's nothing hidden, and positive that you'll smooth over a minor wrinkle.