i told him and we was talking on the e for a long time.we went to the movies.a double date but then she just told him to ask her out.but he flirts with every one so he thought it was a joke and he did.she said yes but hes not the person to hurt anyone so he wouldnt break up w/ her.i realllllllyyyyy like this guy but i CANT do any thing about it cause shes my b.f.
215350
Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
23967
Ouch. It might have been how you said it. If you were gushing to her about how cute he is, then maybe she got defensive. Maybe since he's a new boyfriend she is  just protective because she doesn't want to lose him. Maybe by your "beating heart" she got scared. Give her some time to cool off, and then let her know that you have no intention of taking her guy, you just wanted to let her know that you think he is a great match for her and wanted to let her know that he is a good looking guy, and you meant no hostility in it. It might take her a bit, but she'll come around.
506492
I don't know that there's much you can DO except be disappointed and tell him that you are. What did he say he had to do instead(if anything?) Does he make a habit of this or was this your first date? Did he seem to like being with you during the 2 hours or did he seem to be in a hurry to be elsewhere? These are questions you have to ask yourself or him. Personally, if somebody makes a promise to me it's a BIG black mark against them if they don't keep it without  a good excuse!
515510
Good Lord woman!  Before I finished reading this, I already knew you shouldn't get into this relationship in that capacity, just be friends and let it be, perhaps later in the future w/o pushing things, maybe things will change, maybe.  If he was interested, he would've let you know already.  Obviously, in his subtle way, he is not interested, get a clue!  You say he still dates other girls, well, that should be enough to tell you he's still not ready or willing to commit to a relationship.  By all means, don't force a relationship!  Relationships should be easy, mutual and wonderfully exciting.
614361
i think that guy is just playing with you. don't take him seriously he lost his chance so well it all depends on you really do u still like ur actual bf or ur willing tobreak up him to go with the other guy. dunno this is complicated.
119769
You have to make the decision as to end it with him or talk to your friend about it.  That's what friends are and sometimes its not good stuff.  See what her response is but I think its great that you at least had the decency to ask before acting. Now, about your flirting.  If it is just in fun there is nothing wrong with it unless you are out with someone else.  That shows no respect for him or you for that matter.  I had mostly guy friends too when I was young and still do, so what, friends are friends and I don't give them up for anyone.
283972
I think this is a good strategy...distance yourself from him for a while and when he asks you for advice just tell him "I don't know what to tell you." Start dressing a little more feminine if you usually are more of one of the guys around him. It sounds like you are in high school, and those relationships really don't last very long, so odds are he and his g/f will break up. When you hear that, give him a week or two to get over it, then start being around him more again, this time re-establishing your relationship as more than friends, like flirting obviously. See if he flirts back. Ask him if he wants to go to the movies one weekend...just the two of you. If he still doesn't seem to get the picture, say "Hey, could you ever see us dating?" in a casual way. If he blows the question off I'd assume he's not interested, but you didn't embarrass yourself to the point where you can't be friends anymore. If he is interested he might say "yeah" and then jackpot!
365878
You obviously waited too long and another girl took the opportunity and swept him off his feet. Its ok though, you're just gonna have to act faster and not be hesitant next time. I know this from experience and I know how it feels when you like somebody and they like you but then someone else comes along. Plus, he may still have feelings for you and if his current relationship doesn't work out, you know what to do.......
207206
I think I'd move on or call him.  I hate these little dating games.  I flirted with a guy for over 2 months it was mutual, and I expressed my attraction and he never responded.  No call, no nothing.  So, if they don't call, screw them, and if they call 8 months later, screw them then, too!
629788
It sounds to me as if he is quite shy. she should try to initiate another date and wait for his reaction. We live in the 21st century after all.
540312
I would definatly talk to him about it. Or be the sly, sexy, one and write him a cute little note asking him out. I was in this situation, but he ended up asking me...but if he won't make the move, make it. Or suggest that someone else is going to ask you out, making him want to ask you first. If he still doesn't budge, he's bein a stupid guy.
631640
My rule of thumb, is never to date anyone that works with you, unless they are in a different dept., or you don't see them during your everday.  Because if it doesn't workout it can backfire.  I think the time frame for being in the friend category is anything past 3 flirting sessions.  Then I would wonder does this guys have b.alls enough to ask me out?  I guess not, then I would move on and just be friendly with you.  I hope it works out for you, step it up a notch.  Don't worry if she says no, there are many other girls.
315199
She might have gone out with the guy once or twice or maybe they are just not really serious at this point.  There might be room for you if you are persistant.  Ask her what exactly she means.  Ask her if she is into this guy or if they are just hanging out until something else comes along or what.  Then you will know where to go from there.
310065
It sounds to me like your like your male friend isn't telling you the whole story.  Courts don't just issue restraining orders for the fun of it.  I suspect he was doing a lot more than just asking this girl out.
319333
I know what you mean. It's fun to flirt and joke around, even when you're not serious. He might not even be serious either. I'm friends with a lot of guys that act all flirty and say a lot of suggestive things, but we both know that they don't mean it.\n\nAnd no one's saying you have to do whatever it is he's saying.  You can just be a flirt, and if he asks you out, just say yes or no, but if you say yes, simply say, "Alright, I'll go out with you, but keep your hands to yourself for a while, ok?"
160470
Seems like your hasn,t the same feelings for you , or he would have asked you out.Don't lose your friend over a love that never is going to happen.as i bet she didn't even know.
664746
Giggles,giggles, giggles!!!!\nWhat's up?\nAre you still trying to figure out what to do about dude?\nLook let's just look at it this way, okay If he dissed you once because of a female (that was there before you, might I add)\nWhat's to stop him from trying to do it again?\nNow you know I do not lie to you right?\nLet me tell you the low-down on guys, If you let a guy get away with something once they will do it again, just because they can and they know you will put up with it.\nNow If you KNOW FOR A FACT that you & him will not get into some serious type relationship and it's cool that HE knows that you are not avaiable to him  and the same goes for you as well then I would say go for the "THE HOMIE" thing, just do not get confused on the terms of what "HOMIE" means.\nAre we talking about "Homie-Lover-Friend"\nIf so It will get very complaicated before the summer ends, and you know what I am talking about right?\nPlease Giggles just remember he do have a girlfriend, and like I told you before do not be surpised if there may be more than one girlfriend okay?\nAnd always think like this:     "How would I feel if MY boyfriend was seeing a chick on the side"\nLet me know how it turns out okay?