Yes.. To those who answered the last question I had, it's the crybaby that sat at home.. Well, i just found out that he was cheating on me the whole time! How do I deal with that?? How do I get back at him?
218023
I was cheated on before and it hurted like hell. I tried mostly everything to get back at him but the most sucessfull thing i did was to make myself into something that he would regret cheating. I made myself very popular with alot of guys. I glamoured myself to the point where I looked like a video chic. I felt good about myself i had alot of guys behind my tail. and it was only a matter of time till he would try to come back in my life but guess what guys like him dont deserve second chances. and he regrets leaving me because now he knows what he missed out on. Point is try to make him realize what he had was the best thing that ever happened to him. And make yourself feel good at the same time. It works trust me. I worked my butt off to buy the best clothes to have the hottest whip. and it all payed off. And now he wit a busted chic stuck now cuz he got a kid. Living that messed up life wishin that he would have stood wit me.
362741
oh my gosh...no he's the immature one. you did the right thing...some ppl can be so retarded,,,lol\n\n\nand...that other girl? the one who I thot was being racist...she has been reporting all my questions and getting points taken away for everything I say. do you have any idea what I can do??? please help...i tried to say to her what I said to you but she's obviously not listening...
608285
You were suspicious to begin with, hence you "checked" his email.  Now your suspicions are confirmed.  I would call a marsvenus coach to find out a) what to do and b) how can you regain your trust in this or any man.  You cannot have a healthy relationship where there is no trust.  Time for you to address all your past relationships and childhood wounds to determine why you were suspicious in the first place--was it his behaviour or your problem that drove you to check the email?
338246
Try appoloigizing, and asking what you did that made him so mad at you. Were you having a bad day and something you said sounded cruel? Was HE having a bad day? Still, nothing works better than a heartfelt appoligy.
440897
Uh hello, he is married.  Find your own guy to mess with.  The only thing you did is believe some lying cheating dirtbag.
42513
Okay, I know this is a bit much to read, but...I had a guy that cheated on me 5 times.  No, I didn't know about it until AFTER we broke up.  I didn't know what to do.  I ALMOST(really, REALLY considered) having sex with his sister's ex...which that was an on-again-off-again thing...but I didn't.  Then I thought about being friends with him again...that didn't work out 'cause he messed with my little brother and I thought about kicking some major butt but, again...didn't.  The reason why is really insane:  I still loved him at that point.  Don't ask me why because I don't know now.  Maybe I thought he'd come back crying(but he was the one that dumped me).  Karma hit him where it hurt quicker than I thought.\nApparently, one of the girls he cheated on me with got pregnant by him and wouldn't you know it...nine months later he was landed with the responsibility of fatherhood.  A few months after that, another girl got pregnant.  HA!  This was too good.  Anyways, after getting over the breakup(in a record time of a few weeks), I found this current guy that I've been with for 9 months and a few weeks.  KARMA ROCKS!  So, if you took Karma into your hands, that's great...even the threefold law works since he cheated once and you hit him 3 times as hard.  Buuuut....I think that if you went that far you might just be a little on the evil side(but who am I to judge, babe?).  Maybe you should post a pic of your cheater on the site I have listed...after all, there's too much girl power I can't resist.
224385
Listen Up:\n\nSeriously, you are clinically depressed.  You fit the exact diagnosis of clinical depression.  Don't listen to people who say "just get over it!" or whatever, they dont understand your pain.  You can choose to get professional help, or not...that is up to you...but, if you choose not to, you need to read up on it and help yourself.  Your heart has been broken in a way that no one can understand, and one can just not get over it without some sort of education (meaning professional or self help) and time.  \n\nYou don't mention it on your post, but I would bet anything that you blame yourself for her cheating, even though you did anything and everything for her.  Also, I bet that she told you "reasons" why it was your fault that she did it.  Even more ridiculous is the fact that other people will somehow suggest that you must have been the reason that she cheated.  THAT IS FALSE!!!!  People cheat because they are selfish and only care about themselves.  Then, they blame others to avoid the guilt and responsibility for their miserable actions. \n\nThis will be hard, but you have to ACCEPT that her cheating was not your fault.  Once you can release this belief, with education, you can begin to come around.\n\nYou will never come around, unless you "accept" the truth and "educate" yourself.\n\nIf you wanna know more, contact me.
508405
OK, lets look at your question...  "while I was housesitting this week I accidentally ran across undeniable evidence that he has a boyfriend".\n\nNo, you did not "accidentally" run across "evidence", you were being nosy. To justify you being nosy you then turn around and say "he's been LYING to me over and over for months and months". If you feel so hurt and angry, how do you think he will feel when he finds out about what you have done while housesitting? Yes, you should confront him...  about you being judgmental and not being the true friend that you have pretended to be to him.
36803
Sweetie, unfortunately what he did was very messed up. All that you can do is try your best to move on... I know that it's hard as h*ll, but you have give yourself some stength and courage to keep on moving. Girl I don't have a clue as to what caused him to do that. If anything try to write him a letter about how you feel and let him know that he really hurt you. Tell him that he was wrong for what he did, and that you deserved at least an explanation. Show him that although you are hurting, you are not going to allow him to bring you down. Don't worry b/c What goes around, comes around... EVERYTIME!!... That's why my name is KARMA baby!!!!! Good Luck MaMa!! You are gonna be just fine. Just use that strength that you were born with!!!!!!!!!!
267197
Then he is ONE of the HYPOCRITE CLUB members.\n\nAll this while he WAS lying to you. Sweet promises from your boyfriend.\n\nNow, he is gone. But please don't label ALL BOYS are like that, okay? There are a lot of boys out there who is SINCERE (like me :) ) in Love and all. \n\nIt wasn't your fault sweet heart. I'm so sorry :-( But cheer up, okay? We are here, to help you.\n\nYour situation is hard. I'm sorry to say that I don't think he is SINCERE relationship with you. One day, I believe God will PUNISH him. Don't worry sister, he will SUFFER.
136366
Well, I know you are feeling bad because the man lied to you and cheated you. But don't feel bad for such a low-life. He doesn't even deserve that and you don't deserve to be sad for this actions. So, just get over it. If you confront him, just tell him that you know that he has cheated on you, has lied to you and tell him that you never want to see him again. Don't feel bad for his actions. Move on.
187698
OMG that is awful!\n\nKeep it brief. He was being dishonest, cheating, and not communicating... so no reason why YOU should show him your vulnerability. \n\nTell him that due to your recent discoveries, you're speechless that he would disrespect you to such an awful degree... and obviously, as consequence, want to cut all contact with him. \n\nWish him good luck with his pathetic little life, hang up on him before he has a chance to answer or give any useless explanations, and go treat yourself!
174464
hey this happened to me....i dumped him as fast as i could say listen i cant be played like that....then he hung up on me and we havent realli talked since....you juss have to realize there will be someone else....get over the fact that you love him it doesnt matter....he cheated on YOU....dont let him get away with it especially twice...and before you do anything make sure you are positive he cheated on you and dont go by what friends say go by what you see with your own eyes....be strong cuz it does take a lot and it hurts so0o much when you find out something like that you just have to do what you think is best for yourself dont let urslef get hurt......YOUR supposed to be happy not just him....
664883
I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
151068
I know how you feel. My ex-wife was cheating on me with one of my best friends. We also got divorced, and it was really rough for me for the first year or so. Every part of my life changed, all the routines changed, had to get used to being alone. There is no easy fix when your betrayed by someone you love and trust. Seems like everything you believed in was a lie. It helped me to lean on my family for support. It was hard at first because I felt ashamed, but believe me, you don't want to go it alone. Turn to your friends and family for help. Keep your mind busy, take a night class or something. It helps. Why did he do it? She told him what he wanted to hear. Maybe he thought he wouldn't get caught. Don't get caught up in the why and how, it will only make it worse. Don't get down on yourself, or blame yourself. He chose to do what he did, knowing that he was married. You didn't force him to do it, and you couldn't have done anything differently to prevent him from doing it. You are still a worthwhile human being, and you still have your life ahead of you. As time goes by, it will get easier. You might even realize one day, that your life is better now than it was then. Keep your head up, and good luck.
252113
i was so unbelievably upset. i thought: how could they do this to me? i thought that they were my best friends. i talked to them and asked them why they did it. they gave a very stupid reason but i forgave them since i can't hold a grudge. a couple years later they backstabbed me again, they didn't even realize what they did wrong. those @ssholes!
22321
This is an experience that I dealt with with my "ex-husband". When I caught it, I challenged him on it. He came up with so many explanations that I finally gave him an ultimatum. I told him that he needed to chose between the internet and me. He was also looking at adult porn. He said he would quit, but one day, I checked history, and found that he lied to me. Not only that, but while I was online, I didn't realize that his instant messenger hadn't been closed, and an IM window popped up from a girl who said "hey sexy"! When I looked at the messenger, I realized it was his, and not mine. I told her who I was and she said "What are you doing on his computer?" I told her that it was my computer, and that he was sleeping in my bed. I asked her if she wanted me to wake him up. Well, she was fuming at that point, and started saying things like "Oh, we're just friends, and also that they had never met, she was only playing around". Well, needless to say, I showed him the door real quick. I live in Ohio, she lives in Indiana. When he left, guess where he went immediately??? LOL! Indiana, of course, and he married her 6 months later. Funny thing is, they are divorced now, and since then, he has been engaged to 3 other women, 2 of which dumped him for the same reasons, and he is planning on his 3rd wedding with his new fiance this year. I've always been told that "leopards never change their spots". That's some good advise that I got from my mother. She is very right!!! \n\nMy advise is....don't get caught up in the whirlwind of the lies. They only get bigger and better as time goes on. If he's doing it now and says he'll stop, he'll do it behind your back! Cut your losses and find someone who truely cares about you and your feelings!!!