my bff and my dad's girlfriend's duaghter don't like each other and my dad's gf's duaghter said bad things about my bff so my bff does not want me playing with her but my dad and his gf go out on dates and me and her kids have 1 baby-sitter and we go on trips together what do i do to keep my friendship?
200809
First explain to your bff that its going to be hard for you not to hang out with her since you guys go on trips and stuff like that then you need to ask your dads gfs daughter why she said that stuff about your bff maybe your bff did something to offend her try to get them to make up and if that doesn't work then your bff is just going to have to accept that you cant really get away from you dads gfs daughter
284695
tuff.... well unless you can go on about a 2 wk vacation to relax not sure what you can do besides slowly distance yourself from both friends... slowly but surely take urself out of the circle... she must think your special if she wants to hang out with you all the time... if you hurt this friend you might just loose your best friend.. so either choose to accept them both, or distance urself from both... sounds like your only options to me... or you could i guess change jobs !!!!! God bless
212022
nothing. be a good friend and respect what they have between each other. don't try to be with someone that is already with someone else. there are a lot of people out there, why fight over someone especially if your friend is dating him?
650598
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
195514
I've kind of had a similar problem (although vice versa cause I'm a girl) in the past..First you need to to figure out your feelings for each girl, and decide who you want to be with. If you choose your girlfriend, you need to be honest with your friend, and tell her that she had her chance, and now you have a girlfriend, and she needs to respect that. And she doesn't have to like her, but for the sake of friendship she needs to tolerate her.. And then tell your girlfriend, that YOU chose her, you chose to be w/ her.. and she needs to respect your friendship with someone else, and its not fair of her to tell you who your friends can and cannot be.. \nIF, however you choose the friend, you have to be honest with your girlfriend, and tell her that you need to explore whatever the connection to your friend is.. and that you're sorry..\nThe thing is, even though there is a connection with your friend, It sounds as though she likes the chase, because she could had you at one time and she chose not to.. and NOW that you're taken she wants you.. just because there's a connection, doesn't mean she isn't playing a game, even if she doesn't know shes playing a game.. she is..
268316
If your girlfriend cannot accept or get along with your daughter, then you need to look really hard at your relationship and consider if she's really the right woman for you.  Do not marry her until this situation is resolved!!  Your daughter should always come first ... she is your flesh and blood!  Yes, your daughter should be respectful to your girlfriend, but your girlfriend should also be respectful of your daughter.  Your girlfriend is an adult and should take the first step to forming a friendship with your daughter.  If she cannot/will not do this it will only create friction and more problems in your future.  Don't marry her until she can form a friendship.  Obviously you are already stressed that this hasn't happened.  It's not good to continue a relationship if it's already stressed by marrying, which will cause more stress.  Sounds like possibly the girlfriend has some jealousy toward your daughter and this may be the reason she isn't forming a relationship.  Work it out now before you go any further, or you'll be making a big mistake.
39866
You don't have to deal with him at all.  Just because his dad is a friend of your family doesn't mean that you have to hang out with the kid.  And if your parents ask why you don't like him, tell them.
522486
You guys need to grow up, if he is going out with her then don't bother them.  But you can still be friends with her.
334769
what did you do to make her dad so mad?  if you didnt do anything wrong, i think you should just kinda lay off for a while,(but dont ignore her, be there for her, but dont bug her) and if she really is your bff she will come back to you.
219070
First of all, your gf has to realize you can't make someone stay in a relationship the other person doesn't want to be in or love you if they don't. And if your feelings aren't there for her, there aren't there.  If you would like to save your relationship with your gf, then you probably need to cut all ties with your friend because your relationship with your friend will only get more serious.  I hope this helps!  Best regards.
156871
Don't date either of them if you want to remain friends with them.  If you don't care, pick one and STICK WITH IT.  Don't play them against each other.  It's not a good idea!
386015
Just tell him that you may be best-friends w/ his sister, but you wouldn't mind being his friend too!  The more you hang out and get to know each other, the faster things may develop.  Whenever you and your girlfriend go out, ask him to come too.  If she can't go somewhere, ask if he will go with you instead- \n\nTell him you "So wanted to see this movie tonight, and I don't really want to go with X because she talks too much, but your sister can't go either- Hey! What if you went with me?!?..."\nIf he asks if he can bring his girlfriend then you'll know you're SOL!
216135
Not to make light of the situation, but tell them to grow up because you are too mature for all this drama.  Ask them why you can't have two best friends?
453950
Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
468540
Talk to her about it. If she is going to do everything in her power to hurt you, you don't need her. Tell her she needs to act like a friend for you to be a friend. She is just using you to her advantage to get what she wants.. My best friend did that for awhile but i told her that if she kept using me like that......she will have to find a new bff. She straightened up fast cuz she realized that she'd lose me for good.
86754
No, I disagree.  What you didn't tell us is why he doesn't like her.  Maybe he has a very good reason.  Maybe your friend is doing/saying things behind your back.  Putting them together would be volitile to say the least and used as a last resort.  Blackmailing them into getting along would not be advised.  Though that might help on the surface, it would fester.  Does your BFF like him?  Maybe she likes him too much?  Just wondering....
433354
First of all, your friend has the freedom to date anybody he wants without anybody's permission.  Dont get involved in his relationship.  Unless he talks to you about it and asks your advise.  You dont want to loose a good friendship over something like this.  This is what my bestfriend tells all his boyfriends, "You may not like my friends and I'm not trading my friends for you, they were my friends before I knew you and they will be with me should something happen to our relationship."  For now just go with the flow.  And be happy for him, cause that's all that matters is that he's happy!  Keep being the good friend you are.  Think positive!  Should he freak out if he doesn't already know then worry about it then.  Good luck! :o)