Why is it I can be so fallen for some guy....until i realize that he likes me too??? The only guys I like are the guys that dont like me! (or the ones that treat me like shit) how much sense does this make?
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Your answerers thus far have the right idea.  As a young guy, I went through something very similar.  I would pursue the girl actively, using any means at my disposal.  Then when she started acting interested, I sensed in myself a "loss of respect" for her.\n\nStupid and self destructive.\n\nFirst of all, you have to ask yourself, what do I want out of a relationship?  What makes me feel self-respect?  What kind of pleasures, aside from the physical, make me feel good when I'm with a guy?  Do I laugh?  Do we talk about meaningful stuff?  Does he care about me?\n\nIf you're anything like I was, making another person fall for you is one way of validating your appeal.  Okay, so that person fell for me...one more notch on the gun.  But I still don't feel that good.  Let me try the next guy.\n\nWhat you're doing may, in fact, be a way to help yourself feel attractive and appealing.  But you never quite get the feeling right.  And some guys treat you like ****, which only serves to reinforce your bad feelings about yourself.\n\nPeople have been saying it for a long time:  to love another, you must first love yourself.  That means, really feeling independently self-fulfilled.  Knowing that you're special and that you don't need someone else to make you feel that way.  \n\nSome people...maybe you...lose touch with that feeling of being worth something, and you continue to "play the field" seeking that which you'll never find, the love that you'll want to hold on to.\n\nAnd if you don't think you're really special, and know that it's true, and screw anybody who doesn't think so, then maybe you need to talk to a counselor.  Doesn't have to be a shrink; could be someone you trust, someone in church, but make it someone who has no stake in the outcome, someone who can be objective.\n\n~Dialectic_Dilettante
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Hi. I am Renee. I have some advice for you. Ask your friend or your best friend to ask this special guy's best friend or friend if he likes you. If your friend "reports" that his friend doesn't know, then ask him yourself. I had that happen to me once. I asked him . And guess what? He became my boyfriend 2 days later. Hope you follow my advice!!
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you know what, I would like to know the same exact thing! I'm becoming closer to a guy who just wants to be friends by just being a "friend" to him. eventually, boys will fall in love with u, if you are real w/ them as friends.
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My advice to you is do what you want to do but before you do make sure he likes you or your so called friends would make fun of you just because you like a guy I hope this makes senses if not then here I 'll clear it up. Go a head and tell them you like him and if they make fun of you oh well you can always make more friends and there could be girls out there that like him to. Tell me how it goes
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that's absurd! it doesn't necessarily follow that just because the girl likes the guy, the guy doesn't like you anymore. that's just her way of getting you away from the guy. so that she can get the guy all for herself. for all you know, the guy may even like you more than that other girl. so cheer up! be confident! act as if the girl doesn't exist! she'll just ruin your life. hehe. :)
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If he doesn't like you, nothing you can do will change his mind. \nWHY! would you waste your time when there are hundreds of other guys out there who would jump through fire to be with you? I know you think you love this guy, but what is really attracting you? the fact that he doesn't want you?
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Love it blind, YES, definatly, when I fell in love, I fell in love with a screen! (internet friend), and he's not as good looking as I expected my partener will be, but my feelings for him are CRAZY and overwhelming, he's irresistable...!\nBut I dunno what happens to men when they fall in love, cause I am a girl, but all I can tell you is that they become like KIDS!
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some people really only want what they cant have. i bet that u have alot of other good, quality guys that really like u ,but 4 some reason ur just not that attracted 2 them that way. he probly has some feelings 4 u but he knows that no matter what he does ur always gonna b there. so start thinking the same way. u should probly stay away from him as much as u can bear. try 2 ween ur self the best u can. but make sure that u really do have fun, though. if its really meant 2 be itll happen. but dont put ur fun and groth as a person on hold 4 a maybe.
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always go to those who like u...if u goto the guy who U THINK likes u.....might just use u and go on to the next one......either case asking dosent harm....i would go for the person that i am sure about....
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Well, sometimes I believe it has nothing to do if the person you like the person a lot or not. In my experience, I've kissed guys and I didn't feel like Oh-my-God attracted to them, but they are very good kissers. It has to do a lot with chemistry, depending the day of the month, if you've been without a boyfriend for a long time, it depends in a lot of things. Good luck.
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You know that there is an unwritten rule between friends, if your friend likes someone and they like YOU, you need to stay away. Great friends are hard to come by but guys are a dime a dozen!! Besides you mentioned that he was short so obviously it's a problem with you and why would you risk a friendship for someone your not really attracted to anyway?
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??? I guess it's something about your personality.  Damn, if I could meet another person that would make me fall in love... xoxo\nHmmm... we're on the same boat but on opposite ends.  I'm a guy that has problems falling in love or even talking to the person everyday.  Why?!?  I like my space, right?  I like my own time.  Maybe I'm not ready because I haven't found anyone worthy of my absolute (EVERYDAY) once a day phone call thing that everyone does.  Therefore, for that reason it is difficult for anyone to see anything going serious with me.  It doesn't bother me.\n\nI'm just saying we're oddly on the same boat but at two different ends.
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That depends on how much you're prepared to give up for someone who likes you. Why is your crush not your boyfriend, there must be some reason? 'Like' seems pretty weak to me.
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I have a guy friend that takes me to movies and comes with me to church. We do a lot of things together but that doesn't mean he likes me. Many friends do things together but it doesn't necessarily mean they like you more than friends. Then again, me and my guy friend ended up going out so who knows, wait it out.
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You know, men like you that go "unnoticed" are what I consider to be one in a million. Not because you feel completely ignored by women, but because you guys are generally the ones that every woman would die for, if she weren't so distracted by "bling-bling", Cartier wristwear, and big dikks. Excuse the bluntess...But honestly, I have a friend like you. He went through the same thing; no attention in and out of school, every gf he's had dumped him for no reason....then he fell in love with me. Awkward as it was, I thought I just wanted to be friends. I saw the nicest guy in him, but he was like you feel you are: nothing out of the ordinary. But that's what made him extraordinary. Once I saw that by being his friend, I fell in love. We are now together...End of story: don't give up. At least this way, you know that the person you end up with is for real and will last. Have faith, my diamond in the rough...
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i know how you feel b/c i can never stay with the same person for a long time. the guys talk about what ever and dont care about me or what i think. if your were a nice guy who did care, i probably could get attached
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Don't do anything! If he is interested to pursue you, HE would find a way. If he is trying to "taste the waters", then putting yourself out there may not help (not in the way you want anyway). From what I learned of cute guys, they want to make sure they have got the heart of all the girl around them .. so they'd have a place to fall back on when the girl they really want ditches them for a guy she really wants and or when they are lonely on saturday evenings and nobody on the phone book seems interested to hang out with them. So.. try to take "liking him" easy. Don't obsess with it. That would only make the problem worse and make you awkward around your friend. And ofcourse he'd soon realize what was amiss and either run for his life, try to take advantage of it or take you and your friendship for granted (which you do not want). So I repeat, if he's really interested, let him make the first move. That way you'd still have your "feminine" pride fulfilled (of having been pursued FIRST). OR you'd get over it and save a nice, cute friend that makes you laugh (which certainly would make you quite interesting to other guys/boys).