My ex girlfriend and I had a very bad break up because of some issues I rather not go into. We decided to become friends and I've always considered her a best friend. Lately she's not online nor answers my calls,she has caller ID and she if don't know that I called I'm sure someone has told her I do, which she never returns them either. We both have problems at home and with everyday things like eveyone else does. She claims I know more about her than what anyone else does. I know for a fact she knows everything about me or what I've been through. I've told her time and time again she's a great person and a great friend. In fact the only friend I have, of course I talk to other people but don't consider them anymore than an aquantances. She hasn't been on at least 2 days now and hasn't returned any of my calls, I'm worried I lost a best friend:(If you knew your friend would worry about you if not hearing from you would you contact them either by phone or some other means?
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You might need to consider the possibility that she has met someone else. It's very comfortable having an ex as a friend when you are single - especially if they care about you the way you clearly care about this girl. But when you meet someone new and they are giving you that special attention you find you don't need the friend as much. Plus, it can be a bit awkward explaining things if you know this person still has feelings for you. Maybe send her an email just saying that if she doesn't feel like talking that it's ok but could she just let you know if she is ok. But you might have to accept that friend or no friend, you will not always be that special someone for her. Maybe its time to find a special someone for yourself and move on.
4965
If you only met her once, are you sure she is your girl friend?  Maybe she hasn't called you because she found a new guy.  Sorry.
89138
I totally understand what you have been through.  I think she could still be your friend but the question is NOT NOW. You have to move on no matter how hard it is.  You have to re-establish yourself with someone else, and be a whole again...before you can be friend with your ex.  It is very selfish of her to keep 2 men around.  Be strong and let her know that it is for the best. If she still cares about you, this is the least she can do for you.
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Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
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I dated my best friend... She and I had become best friends after a short while and would talk constantly for close to 5 years. then, one day, we started dating... 5 years for her to gain all of my trust, less than an hour to lose all of it.\n\nI lost her, but we still chat a little.. we're actually in talks now about meeting again face to face to go out and photograph some things. \n\nWhile it hurts that I lost her, it hurts even more that I lost the only person I ever truly trusted. I wouldn't want her back in a dating sense, just to have my friend back would actually put a smile back on my face that's been missing for about 1 & 1/2 years now.
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Like it or not, your friend was the one who ditched you--her boyfriend didn't "take her away" from you.\n\nMy best friend (and roommate) did this to me over a year ago.  I confronted her about it, and she stopped...but there was tension between her boyfriend and me for the remainder of her relationship with him.\n\nI still have trust issues with her and am waiting for the day she finds someone new and drops me all over again.
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LOL.....man......I wish I had caller ID a few times too. I had this exact same thing happen to me! You described it well too. I thought I'd split a gut when you said that about the caller ID....ROFL.\n\nWell meaning person, sweet, intelligent....but MAN, just could not understand plain, well-stated english.\n\nOk.....I don't know which way you want to go....\n\n....but I tried and tried...and tried and tried and tried and tried....and did I mention that I tried?...to be polite, respectful, caring.\n\nTo carefully lay barriers (even tho I wanted to hide in a tank), talked with her, communicated in person, on the phone. And it's not like we were strong buds or anything it was just a low-level friendship, but she was treating me like a nuclear-powered soul mate. It was very inappropriate.\n\nI'd speak to her....kindly, clearly, but the message did not sink in. I asked her about what her feelings were, and she squarely, flatly said friendship. I asked her several times...just to be sure, and she emphatically said friendship. \n\nI tried my best to be this woman's friend, but it was never enough. She demanded more and more of my time and attention. It got worse and worse, and I communicated more and more firmly with her. I was starting to look for tickets to the next Shuttle launch so I could get away.\n\nI eventually had to warn her that she was quickly going to lose a friend if she didn't cut it out.....and she didn't....and I had to finally be rude to her. :(\n\nIt's a shame, but I wanted to make sure I did everything I could on my end, to give her every possible chance to keep the friendship. Severing a frendship is a pretty major thing, and I felt bad but things were getting pretty trippy.\n\nDunno what you can glean outta all this, but I wish you luck!     :D
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Women can have X's as best friends without loving them or being attracted to them. I still keep in contact with all of mine. I care about them still but we broke up for a reason..you know? It means that she is a nice person as oppossed to a psycho who had a restraining order placed against her. You should feel lucky that you are with her and that he is her ex. Just make sure she knows you care for her and feel lucky to be with her..thats all you should worry about.
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Can you call someone who is your best friend if she hurts you? You can forgive herr but it doesn't mean you need to keep contact with her until you miss her so much and she is worthy to give her one more chance. Everything is depeneded on you and your feeling about her. But I can tell you that nothing wrong if you don't contact at all. It's your freedom to choose who are your friends and who are not.
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I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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She's trying to be nice and stay friends, although it is the wrong thing to do.  It's obvious that she broke up with you because she already had someone she was interested in, and wanted to go for it.  It's possible she is trying to have her cake and eat it too.  I would personally tell her it's over, and to leave it at that.  OVER.  No more calls.  Just tell her to leave you alone.  She is being selfish and not thinking of you.
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I know what is going on here, I had the same thing happen to me to, she broke up with me and then one day she called me and kept calling me. She probably made a mistake by breaking it off, and now that she realizes that, she wants to try to reconcile that and see if there is possibly another chance that you two might get back together. Don't be surprised if she says, "I miss you" the next time you two talk if she hasn't already said it. Hopefully all will work out for you, take care.
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This is what she is affraid of. You are her best friend and she can't even talk to you because you haven't talked to her in almost a week. You just proved her point for her.My husband is my best friend. And back when he was just my best friend he told me that he thought we should try going out. We aready were going everywere together anyway. I turned him down also for the same reason I was afraid I would lose my best friend. Do you know what changed my mind. He looked at me and said o.k. can't blame me for trying. Now come out side and help me do the tune up on my car. By doing that by letting me see that he wasn't going to start acting wierd towards me. By just continuing to be himself around me. I realized that their wasn't anything to be scared of because my best friend would be there in this relationship with me.
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mmmmmm...\n\nWell i thought about this one, when my ex and i broke up, we only dated for a couple of months but we were like best friends. We ended in a stupid way, we just stopped talking well he was ingnoring me and i to him and so forth.\n\nBut if he ever rang me back after so long like in your case, yeah i would catch up with him. I would make sure i looked my best and meet him somewhere, to show how much i have grown and how much i look better. If i were you honey i'd meet him and dress real hot. Don't talk about what went wrong, if he was ignoring you well its his loss. And rub it in his face and show him how much he's missed.\n\nThats what i did once, i met with another of my ex's who said similar things along that line, and he saw me, and after our interlude, he rang me back and asked me out again after 3yrs. what do you think i did??? I just said, sorry i just wana be friends, even though i thought we had something going on, but i realised, he ignored me and played around. I was over it and so i met him just for a coffee, and he was wishin he had never let go of me!!\n\nSO basically, if i were you, i would be friends, sometimes if you and your ex were good friends, its good to keep it that way, cos you both know alot about eachother from the past. But dont forget the reason you broke up, remember why it ended and dont fall for the i still love you crap, cos if they did, honey they would of never left the picture. And even if they left for a bit, it doesent take 1 1/2yrs to realise and come back. \n\nI would talk about all the good things that i have done( rub it in their faces) all the ppl i've met, and so forth. You know the best revenge on ex's is success. You dont have to hate eachtoher, you can be good friends, but it will kill him for ever letting you go and not contacting you all this time.\n\nmake sure you look super hot!!!! But leave it as friends. By the way my ex and i are still good friends. I know in his eyes he wants me, but thats the beauty of break ups, you have control of the situation, and you can think things through and move on, whilst still being good friends or not
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Depends on the situation...where you fighting?  I've accidentally called my ex-bf by my dog's name during a fight.  If it was in bed...i've known people who have done that, and i think the reason for that is because they're just not in the right frame of mind during that time.  Whatever the reason, obviously she wasn't thinking straight.  I don't think it means she wants her ex back.  I don't think she apologized because she was embarrassed/upset and didn't want to make a big deal about it.  If i were you, i'd let it go this time.
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Well, what I do when my friends do this to me, I let them know it. My ULTIMATE best friend in the world has done this to me, many times. Basically, all I do is tell her that I'm kind of upset how we seem like we are drifting apart, then I comfort her by saying that if something is bugging her she can tell me. You have to be the one  to do something, she won't realize that she is hurting you. I wish you the best of luck.
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Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.