When he goes to work I am miserable. Im getting a job this summer ,and that should help. Weve been together for over 5 years and I still go crazy when he's not around. I call him all the time wondering when he'll be home(he has his own business).How can I make my life easier and stop driving him insane?, I mean the guy does have to work and all even if he would rather be with me all day!
207901
Try to get another thing to forger about him. Some hobby or something, love is one thing, but work is another. Do something in the house and you will see that you will be able to forget about him going to work and when he return you'll be overjoyed.
149130
i totally agree with the fact that u should be appreciated..BUT being away from him isnt solving anything. trust me GO BACK and figure it out. time off doesnt work. the guy gets bored and moves on.. trust me. work with him
22155
Is it an option for him to get a different job? If so, does he want to, or does he like what he's doing?\n\nIf he's happy with his job, it's not fair to ask him to change it. Instead, find ways to make the most of your time together. Meanwhile, find something to keep yourself busy while he's at work. Get a job yourself, get a hobby, or be a volunteer somewhere.\n\nDr. Barb Nefer, http://www.bnlifeskills.com
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That's just what we're like.\n\nDeal with it\n\nor leave him.\n\nSounds like you like him, so don't be so harsh, just becasue you aren't available all the time to go out doesn't mean he should have to stay home because you are. Especially if you don't live with him, what is the point of making him stay home??\n\nDon't be too controlling or you may find he might get sick of it and leave you?\n\nWho knows... Something for you to consider...
354384
Give him the time with his friends. Sometimes I need time away and just want to go out with my girls. But he should answer his phone when you call. Or at least check in with you.
468258
If I was You!!!! I couldnt deal w/ it. But I guess you already made a decision and U will let him stay until he finds a place to go. But the point here is, how long  it is gonna take for him to find the place? if you R paying for rent and bills is he helping U out??? if he is not I think it will take longer for him to go. Plus if you guys are in good conditions now (as friends) why ruin it??? tell him to move to one of his friend's house because if U guys R not 2gether anymore and U are looking @ him @ your house everyday, doing the same things as a couple but w/out "rights" that is not helping U @ all. I can tell just by your writing that U still care for him a lot, but if it is over, IT IS OVER,  as he is moving out of your life he has to move out of your house. For his b-day you can buy him something (if you havent done it yet) but something simple for U not to feel bad about, but no cake, no party, no special dinner 'cause you dont have to. \n\nGood luck and dont think about him anymore, just think about U and how it will affect you to have him in your house longer, he will soon start dating and U will find that horrible. \n\nHE HAS TO GO NOW!!!!
619998
Why can't he come and pick you up on his way home.\nOr You go to his house and wait till he gets off work so y'all can spend some time together!\n\nNot to mention there is no excuse. When my boyfriend forgets to call me when he says he will he a least calls me at night when he gets in bed and says! I forgot to call you, but I'm calling you now to tell you good-night sweet pea!\n\nHe can do better than that!\nAnd if you feel like telling him to stop telling you he's gonna call you, next time he says that say "YEAH SURE, WHAT EVER, I WON'T HOLD MY BREATH!"\n\nYour to young to be some guy walking mat already!
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Well the simple fact that the two of you are working  two jobs each is a big part of the problem. Why are you? He's tired, your tired and it becomes something else to be done sometimes, instead of being a fun part of your relationship.\n\nIf it's possible try to cut back some of your hours, so that you guys can have some quality time with each other. Or at least a day off together. That will hopefully lead to sex. \n\nTry to sit down and talk to him about how you feel he might not really realize how much your sex life has gone down.\n\nI'm still going through this madness with my boyfriend only the roles are reversed. \n\nDrop me an email if you neeed someone to talk to.
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Well, I wouldn't jump the gun here. My husband really doesn't have a set time to come home (since he works on the road some) however there are times when he leaves the shop and isn't home until two hours later (we live ten minutes from his job) he is a gabber mouth, he can talk to anyone forever. (My middle daughter gets this from him because she is often corrected at school for talking) Tell your husband that you miss him an awful lot, and if he could cut down on hanging out with friends after work maybe twice or three times a week. You still want him to have some "relax" time but you want to emph that you want to be with him, too.
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It sounds to me that you could be smothering him.  Give him some rope.  Meanwhile, you need some hobbies and girl friends to spend your time with.  That way, you can come back home and be lovey because both would have had other things to add to the relationship and conversations.  Do some things you may be interested in doing.  He should not be your only interest.  Please do not smother him.  Your happiness does not warrant itself based on his being around you all the time.  Thank GOD for the work week so that I can see other people without explaining where I've been all the time.  By you just being one tracked, you are digging yourself deeper in a depressive state of mind by making him your ONLY happiness.\n\nI hope that you can open your eyes to understand this.  I sincerely hope that I was the lightbulb to your saga.  Happiness begins with your self and definitely no one else should be able to control your emotions that they can't feel.
555508
The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
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Just try to keep your problems to yourself until you two get more serious. Life has a way of working itself out and this guy might be the person that can get you out of the funk your life is in right now.  Don't ruin it by being moody around him. Let your worries go and try to be fun and outgoing and you will see that you won't focus on your problems as much when you keep yourself busy with other things. You might want to go to your Dr. and see if he can recommend a RX. I take Xanax every day and it helps.
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Pay attention to him when he's around.You say he's traveling because of work,so he's working to help support you right?Well when he's home,put friends on hold and some things you want to do,put on hold until he goes out of town again.That will give you plenty of ME time when he's gone. Make him feel like you want him around,ask about his plans for that day.Maybe he wants to spend time with you,maybe alone,you never know until you ask,but he most likely wants time with you since he's not around much. I'm sure he missed you. he might want to visit some of his friends or relatives while he's home too,just ask what his plans might be for the day. If he visits his friends then you can maybe visit yours or do something on your own. You can work things out with a traveling partner,it just takes some adjustment.You have spent alot of time alone and have got into suiting yourself alot.It does take time to readjust to someone else being around. Just try to communicate as much as possible.Even your eating habits might have changed since he's been gone so you have to figure,what time is lunch and will we be eating together?Just be available as much as you can so you both can decide on your days activities together.
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This is how every serial killer movie starts off isn't it?  I would limit your contact as much as possible till he has his shit together. Try setting a schedule I will call you at X time on X day, and let him know that you are an independent person, and while you will support him he does not own you nor does he control your life. Set Limits! if he flies off the handle hang up on him and don't pick up until you're sure it's not him. Don't be afraid to cut him out of your life completly if you feel the stress is too much.
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My boyfriend is the same way, it's work work work and when he's home he's always fixing something outside. He never wants to go to anywhere that's fun. I make him set aside a day out of the month where we spend together. We write things down and put them in a hat, some things would be like going fishing, movies, dinner, a day at the zoo, anything fun that we can think of. We put them in the hat and pick one and that's what we do.
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Good Question.  It's one that I have has to struggle with for a few years now.  Just add a kid to the picture too, that's rough. \n\n Well, you should always remain supportive and try not to be negative or seem like you are putting down his dedication to his job.  Make him love the time that you two do spend together and maybe he'll find more time to enjoy you.  The most important thing to do is to be patient and understanding.
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You need to totally "go dark" on him.  Don't try to contact him, don't be overly friendly, just polite and businesslike.  When he sees that you are fine without him and can take care of yourself, maybe he'll grow up a little.  Back off, give him some room to breathe, and go about your OWN business, get a hobby, hang out with friends, take your baby to a swim class at the Y or something, but always be too busy to get together for a couple of weeks and see what happens.   It worked for me.\n\nADDED:\nMy motto was "I'm going to get a life"  that way, if he decided that he was done, at least I would be off to a good start.