i hav a friend well i shud say ex friend that doesnt treat me or my best friend right like we always get in fights,she always always talks about herself n nevr listens to what we got 2 say,she always gets drunk and drinks her parents alcohol n then we hav 2 grab her arm on each side just so she will walk straight being that she embarrases us by screaming n yellin cause she drunk,she never hangs out with other people she just  like obsessed with me n my friend,so me n my bff had a sleepovr n we were gunna call her n tell her that we still want 2 be friends jus not as close n we wer gonna giv reasons y n so i was really nice on the phone n i told her that we dont like the way that she talks about r other friends n so she jus hung up on me for no reason at all.we were on spring break when we called so were back at school n she actin like nuthin evr happened.we tried ignorin her before this but she jus told a teachr n we got in trouble.so i dont no wat 2 say to her! HELP!!!
209405
it sounds as though you really care about her as a person, and her behavior hurts not only herself but you too, but  your best bet would be to stay clear of her.  Holding her up when she drinks to hide the fact she is drunk, (because she is embarrassed) clearly shows she knows what she is doing is wrong, yet continues with this behavior. Don't be an enabler to her co-dependent nature. Some people have to fall flat on their face before they admit that they need help. Also hanging with a person like that will give you the reputation of being an drinker also. you said you have tried to talk to her and she won't listen, so chances are if you tried again to talk to her you would get the same response. If she comes to you and asks you why you are steering clear of her simply tell her that she offended you and she clearly needs help and that you care about her as a friend and because of that you are not going to enable her to continue with that type of behavior. If she seeks help and her behavior changes you will consider hanging with her again, but you can not and will not allow her to drag you down to her level. It will be difficult, but in the long run it will help you both.
120933
That is rough. I have been there myself. If she continues to push herself on you even after you have told her no then she doesn't respect you or your feelings. She is being self centered. You make it very clear to her how it makes you feel.Tell her that if she keeps it up you will no longer be friends and you will be forced into pressing charges against her with the police for harassment.Your best bet after that is to avoid her best you can.Keep busy with other things.
347961
Tell her that you won't let her do that to you anymore.  If she values your friendship, then you need to let her know that you will not allow her to continued to do this.  People will always walk all over you until they know that they can't.  YOu have to stick up for yourself.  Don't talk to her for a week or so.  Then call her up and say.....next time, it will be over.  Don't treat me like that anymore.
111918
Hmmm... Really sounds strange huh? Well, I'm a Man but I think I can answer your question... Maybe you're right about what you suspect for the reason she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but you really have to talk to her because there can be many reasons for this situation, maybe you can ask her if someone was backstabbing you and telling things about you against your friend... Right? Losing a friend like yours is very depressing because both of you have been to lot of ups and downs... For now, try to take time for her to think it over, same to you as well, think of the things that possibly you've done that hurted her feelings too... Because if she was your friend for 12 years already, jealousy is not a big factor and she should be proud of you as her bestfriend... Maybe jealousy to other friends of yours is a reason... Try to talk to her ok? But at the right time... Goodluck to your friendship and I'm sure you will get her back...
504399
dont go anywhere near her! I realise thats a hard thing to do at school, but usually people sit and hang around in certain places everyday, so go the opposite direction. If she does it again fight back! I am so against violence but if she is gonna beat up your friends for being your friend and talking to her and your parents wont help, then fight back.
453688
who cares about hurting her feelings tell her. she needs to learn to back off especially if u r her friend!! what kind of friend is that? dump the loser friend adn dont hold anything back.
490532
If she was a true friend no matter what she shouldn't be treating you this way.just because you make new friends doesn't mean you have to get rid of the old ones.try and talk to her find out what is her problem.if she doesnt change then you need to find a new friend someone who is sincere and trust worthy and who will always be by your side,good luck.
571110
I would guess that she was jealous that you got the attention and not her. The are a lot of reasons she could be jealous. I would express to her that this hurts your feelings. You treat people how to treat you and if you put up with her behavior she will continue to do it. If she is truly your friend, she should understand and make attempts to stop the behavior.
196722
Sounds like you have a friend who is jealous of your other friends. She might be one of those kind that they can have more than one friend but there Friends can only hang with them and no one else while their around.Tell her to cut it out or you wont hang out with her.
184503
Tell your boyfriend about her behavior, and then explain to your friend her behavior is unacceptable. Seeing as she's probably not going to relent for some time, I'm afriad you'll either have to ditch your boyfriend or your bestfriend. I'd suggest your boyfriend because your BFF is always there while boys come and go.\nBut if your BFF does this all the time with every boyfriend, she's majorly jealous and it's best to ditch her right now.\nJ'adore and good luck!\nConnie\nP.S. She also may be jealous of your boyfriend status, or she make like you boyfriend. Sit down and talk with her about it.
301724
She's looking for attention even if it's negative attention.  If she's your EX and YOU want to keep it that way--for whatever reason, then continue ignoring her and eventually she'll get the clue.  I think she's trying to either get you mad by talking to your friends, or get your attention just to keep you hooked.  Either way, it's not very mature, but there again, you and her are still in school--the both of you have alot of growing up to do, before you become mature.
362348
Sounds like you are willing to listen to her and be a good friend, but she isn't being nice to you at all. You don't need someone like that! I'm sure that there are lots of other people that would appreciate your friendship and treat you a lot better! Don't even bother with this girl if she's going to act like that cause she'll just pull you down.
318244
I have the same problem she thinks that I ignore her around my other firends and then she does the same thing. When I confront her about it, it always ends up to be a fight or she responds with " Your a slut" and I am not. If i were you i would confront her about it or ignore her untill she sees what good of a friend you are to her.
186123
Yeah...these things happen a lot between friends...\nOne real friends shouldn't be jealous of one another because their college is better.\nTwo friends shouldn't ditch eachother like that... Three:Friends shouldn't forget eachother!\nAbout going to play pool...it's ok 2 reject it. I know that the last thing we want to happen between friends is fighting...I actually was in a fight with my bestfriend, but she said she didn't want to be my friend anymore but i was really sad....At first she started ignoring me a little bit..then a lot...so i decided to ask her what's wrong...then she told me\nthe reasons..i thought those reasons were not even worth to lose a friend. But it was her opinion so i had to go with the flow..her parents adored me very much and loved me like a daughter and when they found out we weren't friends anymore they were so sad....so we didn't talk to eachother 4 about 2 weeks or so...those were the 2 longest week of my life...then one day she couldn't take it anymore and she felt\n so guilty...she decided to say sorry and asked if i wanted to be friends again...i accepted her apology and it was great 2 be friends again...But unfortunaely she moved to Georgia now and i miss her very much...we still stay in contact, but not much...\nJust talk 2 them and tell them about the times they ditched u and ask them How they would feel if someone did that 2 them....I wish the best for u and ur friends!!
35189
All you can do is keep it real. Let her know that you love her to death, which is pretty obvious b/c you been sticking around anyway. Just let her know that true friends dont just sit around and argue and fight over everything and that you are getting sick and tired of it. Let her know that you want to be her friend but if yall are gonna keep fighting for no reason then there's no point of you two holding on to something that is no longer there! Everyone enjoys a good friend not someone that is going to bicker with them every chance they get. Good Luck!! I hope that you guys can work this out. Frienship should be priceless!!!
578968
i think if she is actind different or like bad u should go up to her and ask her what's her problem and if she treats u mean or bad leave her alone and stay away. get u another bff. someone that will not change in like a bad way
92532
Sounds like she is trying to be you.  She definitely isn't worth being your friend, but I don't know about picking a physical fight---just seems like a bad idea, especially if she could press charges.