She was with him the longest out of all relationships she has been with, which was 10 months. She was with him her sophomore year and is currently a senior. We started going out in November 2005 and are still to this day going out. We both love each other alot. She told me the reason I can't win with her is because of her ex. She says she still and always will have feelings for him. Whenever Hoobastank - The Reason comes on the radio she either turns it off asap or listens to it and cries. I don't have any idea whatsoever, she means the world to me, and I will do anything for her. I just don't know what to do right now.
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Listen exes no matter what always have a piece of someones heart no matter how bad relationships have gone there is always that one memory that keeps it coming back. If you will give this girl the world then give her your support, guys again have trouble showing emotion so we really dont understand, but the fact of the matter is shes with you, she stays with you, and that should be good enough for you. Shes not running to him and she has been open and honest with you, now you need to take whatever she gives you and work with it, support is the most important thing, start at step one and work your way up, I know its hard but swallow a little pride and do it.
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Wow, tough problem. I think what I'd do is have a heart to heart with the girlfriend. Maybe she really does want him to be happy with you and maybe it's him that's holding out hope for a renewed relationship with her. If that's the case, she'll need to back off, but you need to find out if that's really the way it is or not first. Good luck. I feel for you.
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He has an insecurity complex. He's hoping if he focuses all his attention on her that she will never leave him. Most of the time this behavior 'smothers' the other person & it backfires on them. It has nothing to do with you personally. It is his own insecurity. Just let it run it's course & when he comes to you bummed after she dumps him, tell him how it made you feel & how it needy he looked to all his friends. He'll agree, but prob continue the pattern the rest of his life. Sorry
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I think you need to make the decision in this situation.  She isn't going to decide... obviously.  Tell her that as long as she's seeing her ex, that you're going to be seeing other people too... and do it! She's going to run all over you if you don't do anything about it.  If you show that you're not afraid to move on, maybe she'll rethink the situation and dump her ex for good.  Good luck!
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My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
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people can love their friends too!\n\ni think the timing is just not right, but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you- just that it isn't the right time for you two to be together..\n\nand dating her best friend's ex without her sincere approval is against the girl code, so more than likely she's waiting on that.. maybe her friend (your ex) isn't over it yet so she's still sensitive...\nwhen her friend has moved on completely, she'll bring the subject up to her and see what's what - if you two are still into each other that is...\nbe patient!
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I dont understand what u are up to or thinking, I mean the girl is in a relationship already, what do u expect her to say? Are u gonna suggest to her that she should dump her bf 4 u? Why don't u go hunt else where? U say, u ve known her for 2 years! Why didn't u talk to her about it within that period. U should realize it that - when u like some thing, it doesn't automatically become yours, atleast that is how the world works. If I were u at that age, I would concentrate on school rather than chasing people's gfs.
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Dear need an advice, it sounds like your friend is still in love with him and he may not have feelings for her anymore but the memory remains and so I think you should sit down with your friend and have a heart to heart talk about how she really feels about him and most of the time people won't admit to the present girlfriend or boyfriend that they have feelings because they are afraid you'll make them go away which they know would be the best choice if the shoes were on the other foot they wouldn't want you there and when you know for sure that this is how she really feels then you do need to ask her to remove herself from such a personal level and if your boyfriend has a problem with this then maybe he still has feelings too and if thats the case then you should remove yourself from them. Friends should never date friends ex's just because of this same problem. I know that this will be a hard descision to make but ultimatly it's the best for all that are concerned. I hope that I have been some help to you and good luck. sassiebutterfly..
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
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she is still in love with her ex...she can lie as much as she wants but she still does. it is possible that she loves your brother too... but if she is still wearing the ring she still loves her ex...just because the guy cheated on her, doesn't mean all the feelings she had for him left. make sure your brother is totally 100% sure he wants to be with someone who is still in love with someone else. i don't think that chick is ready to move on even though she has. maybe you should sit her down and have a lil 'talk' with her...good luck..:)
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
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Sounds like she's a little jealous.  It didn't work out between him and her so she doesn't want him to work out with anyone else.  I think it's more of a hurt ego actually.  The question is why is she so concerned about your feelings that she has to tell you about all his downfalls?  Do the best you can to just ignore it.  It doesn't sound like you two are any type of friends and she's not physically there to make it harder to deal with so when you check your emails and you see her name, just click on that little X and you're done with it.
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You said she was in a bad relationship prior to yours. He may have been the  jealous aggressive type and she may not be used to someone who's mature and not insecure. Unfortunately for you, she may be insecure and she may think that the only way for good things to happen is if bad things happen first. Maybe she just needs time to adjust to a good loving relationship. Explain to her how you show your love in a positive way maybe she's a little blind to it because of her rough past. If you love her enough, guide her through it and be patient. It'll pay off.
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It might be that she really cares about you,\nbut chances are that she is on the rebound...\nand since you have been "caring" for her for a long time she might use that to have 'someone' in her life until she and x gets back or until something new comes along...\n\nI had a boyfriend for two years, we broke up and in a matter of days i started dateing on of my best guy friends... it didnt last very long coz i realized i was just using him to get over my x
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wow...that's an age difference.  none the less, sounds like she may be afraid of commitment.  But from the sounds of it, you guys never truly split up.  She calls you all the time, you guys do things, that doesn't sound like a normal broke up couple.  Normally they're at each other's throats or just totally avoiding each other.  From the sounds of it, you guys are going to be just fine. Good Luck and hang in there...it'll get better
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I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.