I am 22 and so is he, he is a shy guy in bed, but really great, I am into really erotic sex, and want him to watch porn with me and maybe have a 3some with another chic... is it a bad idea ? Do you think I will scare him off>?
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I doubt the porn idea will scare him off.  As far as a threesome goes it probably won't either, but it depends.  If it were me and my girl wanted a threesome the relationship would be over.  \n\nI've known a couple people who have experimented in group sex.  All of the relationships ended in the guy sleeping around, because he thought it was ok.  Good luck.
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Whats wrong with a little bit of porn? You shouldn't be threatened by it at all! Its a natural thing all guys- and to be honest with you a lot of girls- do. Why not be supportive of it instead. Be more 'hey baby' instead of 'eww porno's'. He's going to masturbate, and look at porn. Its a guy thing, let him do it- maybe even get involved. You know, 'lend' a hand?!
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what does this have to do with me?\n\nyour title sucks!\n\n\nif your adventurous enough to be with a girl i guess you might be maturenough to be with a guy, however if your questioning it and second guessing at all.\nyou prob shouldn't have sex.\n\nnow heres an idea... this i what i would suggest to someone older but i have to just accept the fact that young ppl have goin crazy and f**king all the itme....\n\nget a guy or two and a girl and let him/them watch you with the other chich, and they are allowed to service themselves but they can't touch you unless you touch them first.....\nthat way they get pleasure and so do you and you ccan decide in the moment if your ready for it.\n\ni dunno thats what I would do anyway...and really what guy wouldn't want to watch two chicks goin at it?\nplus theres the off chance he could get tag teamed....
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Here is a girls honest opinion.There is nothing wrong w/ porn .However some porn has no condom or controseptive involved,my worry for a man finding out his girlfriend did porn would be this...How many people will you be sleeping with by staying with her?What diseases would you be sharing every time you show her your love?So I think you should stick to watching it not sleeping with it.
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You can talk about with him if you want, but you will get a better response if you don't "confront" him, but just have a nice friendly chat about his favourite films and TV shows.\n\nIt certainly sounds like he has an attraction to them, which doesn't sound that weird to me - lots of guys do, and they're only 9 or 10 years younger than him, after all.\n\nMy bf and I sometimes watch "family" movies together, because often they just have better plot lines and dialogue than the rubbish they fob off on adults, but in your husband's case, I think it does sound primarily sexual, although also extremely harmless.\n\nWhy not watch a few DVDs together, let him talk about what he likes and why, and let it lead to something er ... intimate between you?\n\nAt least he's not getting into some nasty disgusting porn to get him in the mood, so be thankful.
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There are two kinds of males who use the internet.  Those who hide their porn well and those who do not.  Guys look at porn, it is nothing against you or any other woman.  It does not mean that he doesn't think you are attractive or that he would rather be with someone else.  I'm not saying it's a pleasant thing to discover, but you gotta admit, it's better than him cheating on you.\nYou can allow yourself to get all frustrated or you can try to fix it.  Often, things become routine and not as interesting.  Men like variety.  That is why some men cheat.  But it is totally unnecessary and unacceptable.  You can provide your man with all the variety he needs.  Perhaps a little new lingerie would be a good idea.  I would recommend a DVD on Kama Sutra Tao,  The Sensual Art of Making Love.  It is a very good dvd you can watch together.  It is done in good taste and not crude.  It will relight his and your fires and you won't leave the house for days.   ;-)
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Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
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Once again, I know you're not going to want to hear this...but I say NO.  There is a reason your parents don't love him - he's too old for you.  Age does not become as much of a factor when you're older (read:  above 18), but right now, it's just plain illegal.  Some states have an age of consent (usually 16 or 17) but if your parents want to, they can press charges against him if it goes beyond anything friendly.  \n\nNow, I also know this won't get me a best answer, but that matters not and I will tell you anyway - I've been in a similar situation.  I was 14 and very much "in love" (I doubt that you really do love him, after all, how long have you known this older, very nice, very HOT! guy?) with a 19 year old.  When my father found out about him, he pressed charges to the full extent of the law.  To make a long story short, my sailor boyfriend (he was in the Navy) ended up paying a huge fine, got Dishonorably discharged and did some jail time.  I don't know if he had to register on a sex offender list as this was 11 years ago.  That makes me 25 (almost 26) now.\n\nI have to ask you, what on earth would a 22 (almost 23) year old want with a 16 year old?  You say he's very nice - I hate to tell you, but it's probably an act.  The only reason an older guy would be interested in a teenager (yes, you still are a teen, even if you are blossoming into a woman...you're still a minor) would be to get into her pants.  The other reason is that you might still be a virgin (I hope so - don't go rushing into that) and well, a lot of guys like that.  I doubt there's a lot that you have in common, due to the age gap.  \n\nIf he really does care for you, he will wait until you're 18.  You won't even be able to drink until he's 27 or 28!  Is he gonna want to wait that long before you can enjoy a night on the town?  Believe it or not, I know a guy who was arrested for having a drink at home with his wife, who was at the time 20...she was still underage.  \n\nHow did you meet this guy?  It is kind of bizarre for there to be such an age difference...is he a family friend?  A friend's older brother?  Please don't tell me you have met him online.  Teens and twentysomethings travel in different social circles.  There might be another reason your parents don't like him (aside from the obvious) that you don't know about.  How do you know he's never been in serious trouble?  Have you done a background check on this guy?  He might have spent a night in jail for whatever reason, have outstanding debts etc that he is hiding from you.  \n\nYou shouldn't go behind your parents' backs - you will lose their respect and obviously you have no respect for them either.  Perhaps have him come over and have a discussion between the 6 of you (make his parents come also) over dinner.  Perhaps you two can stay in contact (as FRIENDS only) for a couple of years, then explore a relationship.  Keep in mind then, he's gonna be almost 25...What do HIS parents think about it?  Granted, he's an adult (whereas you are not, even though you might think you are) and his parents really don't have a say in what he does, but it would be good to get their opinion also.  They'll probably say the same thing everyone else is.  \n\nAlso, if your parents decide that you can date him by going with what STRANGERS online decide, then they have some serious thinking to do about their choices.  No matter who says yes (age is just a number I've seen posted a few times here), it is still ILLEGAL and I can't believe they would actually consider it.\n\nI'm sorry that I wasn't a help to you, but you should know how it really is.  Any adult (especially judges) will look at this and say it's a classic example of "guy wanting to get into a young girl's pants" and then lock him away.  Wait the 2 years.  Hell, you might even hate him when you start to
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Porn is addictive, and is very hard to break free of.  If you're worried about it now, don't let yourself be fooled by the idea that he'll stop soon.  If he's that into it, it'll take more than you fussing at him to make him stop.  The good news is that it does not necessarily mean that he does not find you attractive.  Guys have a way of separating fact from fiction in this way.  This is not a good thing, but it's probably the allure of the women in the pictures (ie, the fact that they're 'willing and ready to  go) more than the fact that they are thin or have huge, uh, body parts.  He needs an ultimatum.  Them or you.
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Yes you should. Wait a few years and be very careful. Help him mature as well by doing non-sexual adult things.
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Age is a definate problem....only because of how much you (18 yo) are going to change in the next 5  years.  Your ideas, your morals, we really do change alot from the time we're 18 to 25 and then our ideas start to settle.  This is just from personal experience.  \n\nAnd truthfully....it's only going to be about the sex for him...the idea that he can attract and 18 yo..wow it's an ego boost.
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well, first of all (and I'm not a sexist) he is a guy. Guys like talking about their sexual relationships ( even non existent one). If he is commited to making the information public there is pretty much nothing you could do. Except either turn it into a joke (it might work), or denying it (it rarely works), ot else you could make it sound that it's not a big deal ( which really depends on your age - if you are less than 25 you wouldn't probably want to do this).\n\nI hope my advice is useful and everything works out for you! Best of luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years.....we were each others firsts and everything....I still LOVE being intimate with him....We spice things up by like getting into Kama Sutra or a video....we actually went into a porn store yesterday together it was fun....Definitely encourage her to play with herself....i never knew until i found out for myself...i dunno how comfortable she is about this subject, but she can email me if she'd like help
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I would ask him, I mean you watched things with him to turn him on. I  dont think he will be upset!! Its best you tell him instead of doing it behind his back!!!
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no no no...no big no!!!they are men!!!and they are born with it.....!!so if you dont want him to be horny all the time ...then consider him to control himself..!!\nor you could always do sumthin to distract him...!!!
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Often men will turn to pornography to meet their emotional or phsyical needs.  They may feel that they cannot be rejected by porn, that they can be young again, that they can fantasize about being sexy.  Men may fantasize about both giving and receiving pleasure through porn (giving pleasure? you ask, well, the actresses are acting like they love what they're doing and men may fantasize about providing that pleasure).\nHowever, adiction to pornography does exist and can be a major issue.\nThe questions are:\n1)Is he addicted?\n2)Is he turning to porn to meet significant unmet needs?\n3)Is it merely a recreation that he enjoys and you do not?\n\nIf the answer is three then you should find a comprimise with him that you can both accept.  If he loved exploring caves and that terrified you, you'd probably work something out. . .\n\nIf it is one or two then you should be evaluating your marriage.  Counseling, practicing non-judgemental communication, and returning emotional and physical love to marriage are always good places to start.
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ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!\n\nJeez... this is happening earlier these years...\n\nI don't think you should let him, I mean- come on, you're not even a teeenager yet. Don't rush into certain things. Put boundaries. If you're not comfortable, or if you're uneasy with what he's doing, one word sweetie- NO!\n\nJust say NO! \n\nAnd if you let him keep touching you... chances are you might even end up having sex, and you're way TOO young to experience sex or end up getting pregnant or something.\n\nBe careful.