my boyfriend and I are having issues about rumors from our own friends and for some type of reason we both feel like we believe our friends more but yet we believe each other we've been together for 2 years. What do I do?
209340
What you are describing comes down to a trust issue between you and your partner. If you two have been in a relationship for 2 years, there should be no question that you trust each other more than any of your friends.\n\nWhen your friends say one thing, and you say another, your partner should believe you. You both can't be right. \n\nYou need to move to repair or strengthen the trust in your relationship. That start with you and your partner sitting down and having an honest, no holes barred conversation that covers all of these rumors. You need to get everything out into the open.\n\nThe next step is to confront your friends and tell them to stop spreading rumors about you / your partner. If they were true friends, they wouldn't do this, but it is apparent that they prefer to rumor and watch your reaction. If this gets too out of control, you will need to decide which is more important - your partner & relationship, or your friends.\n\nRemember - a fair weather friend is no friend at all.
513534
Ask some friends if they think he is cheating on you.  Confront your boyfriend and see how he responds.  Of course, you don't want to tell him who told you.  Check out his body language and try to gauge his sincerity if he says he didn't.  If someone's telling you what you really want to hear, it's hard to tell if they're being honest or lying, so watch carefully and pay attention to what your instincts tell you.  This friend of his might have been telling you the truth, but he might have been lying to you in hopes that you'll break it off with his friend and he'll have a chance with you himself.
84114
I'm not sure you can trust them, or your fiance, but I'm not saying you can't either.  Without spending time together this whole situation is a big question mark.  There are certain things that you can only learn about people and a relationship when you are actually together.  I recommend that you slow your boyfriend down a little.  Have him come and spend a couple weeks with you and you go and spend a couple of weeks with him.  Even that short amount of time with each other and each others family can help answer a lot of questions.
601637
If you are in a trusting relationship with your boyfriend, then you need to tell him what his best friend is up to....if your bf doesn't believe you, then you need to end your relationship.
606070
Approaching your boyfriend about the situation what the right thing to do.  But before accusing someone of something we have to not be accusing before we know the situation first.  People in the world today are very devious and envious of people and what they have.  They try to cause problems by the little games they play knowing if they push the right button they will get the response they want.  If you believe what he is telling you then we have to have faith and trust in each other.  If you have doubts about what he is telling you, time will tell.  Remember what you do in the dark will come to light.  If he is telling the truth and you and him are still together then that other individual who tried to break you up did not succeed.  If you break up without knowing if it is true or not you obviously are not willing to believe or feel you trust him enough.
167008
You need to get a grip on yourself. This kind of behavior is what drives people away. Trust is key in a relationship. If you do not trust him and he has given you no reason to doubt him, then you need to let it go.
67315
hey man, are you dating my girlfriend?  I cant believe there is anyone I can relate so well with - \n\nI guess all I can say is to just trust her until something really messed up is proven to you- give her the benefit of the doubt man!  Does she tell you she loves you? I know they can lie about that too, but at least they are saying it.  If she turns out to be a liar, dont do what I did once in my past- dont even attempt to make her feel guilty, because chances are she wont anyways.
162556
You are in a tough position.  And although I do not want to be the one to say this to you (you have probably heard it from someone already), if your relationship is at the point where he will believe something that a friend tells him over what someone he is in a close sexual relationship with, you know where you stand.  Once there is a shadow over the trust bond a couple shares, it is very hard to get past that.
276251
Would you want her to tell you if your boyfriend had cheated on you?  I know I would want to know.  Friend's look out for each other.  Just make sure it's not just a "rumor" first... if it is a fact then yes, tell her.
112533
First off, to say anything, I feel that if a man respects you at all he wouldn't discuss your business to anybody at all. It should be like this, what goes on between the two of you should stay between the two of you. the worst thing to do is to get other people involved in your business because they will totally bloe the whole issue out of proportion. Telling everybody your business is how rumors get started also. I feel like if he can tell your bestfriend things that he should be telling you then that means that he doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to tell you how he feel and undoubtly she is some kind of comfort toy to your boyfriend, he feels more comfrtable with her than he does with you and that is not cool. \nYou need to check into their relationship a little more to see how deep it gets, because they may have something going on behind your back but don't jump to conclusions because I may be wrong and I may be right. I think that you should go to him and tell him how you feel as a person. Let him know that you don't like when he tells your friend your business. Tell him that if he needs to talk about a situation or problem between the two of you, then he should come to you because your friend can't solve any problems that you two are having. If he doesn't respect that then he doesn't respect you.
163674
okay wat u need to do is you need to ask him who was sayin the stuff. THen go beat the hell out of the ppl that told him the rumors that u didnt say. then tell him how you feel. Thats wat i did with tyler we have been together for 1 year and 1/2.
538587
OMG! well then talk to ur boyfriend adn confirm if it's true. then, tell him to fix everything. as for ur friends, ruining a friendship over a guy is so low.,as for u, yes u r caught in the middle because u have responsiblity on both parties, they are both ur friends and it invovles ur boyfriend so what u can do is be the pacifier, pacify the rift if ur friendship really matters to u adn if ur friends are still acting that way, talk to them and ur bf. say what u want and mean what u say., all that stuff.,
612821
you have to be upfront and honest with him and the sooner the better.  if he is a true "good friend" he will not get upset with you telling him the truth and asking him to tell everyone he lied about you being the girlfriend.  maybe you are leading him on and dont even know it.  ask him what would give him the impression that you wanted to be more than friends and apolgize for that. make sure he understands that you don't want to ruin the friendship but you dont want him spreading rumors either....
216083
there are many people out there wholl do just the thing done to your boyfriend.no reasons,just for fun.explain to your boyfriend.then let him decide if he loves u trusts u he will believe if not he didnt love you.i believe anyone can brianwash anyone but if they know me well,trust me,know what type of person i am they wouldnt believe it so i also know when this happens if the other person was really a true friend or not.so this is the time youll find out if your bf loves you or not.i know it frustrates when something like this happens but we can do nothing just wait and ull know if he loves u or not
376901
that all lie who ever told you this dont know wat they are talking about i go out with my best friend she  and i was friend from a longtime but then we go out for a least 3 year we broke up but we still good friend so nothing to worry about a guy and girl can be friend Hope this Help\nHave a wonderful day
284102
He's proven to you that he is not trustworthy.  I imagine that if he had been honest with you and told you that he REALLY wanted to attend his school's ball and so was going to take a friend so he could go - you may not have LIKED it - but would have accepted it.  Instead he lied.   \n\nDating is when both parties usually are presenting their very best side / aspect of themselves.  Take warning from this.  You may decide to give him another chance but let him know that if he lies to you again you will end the relationship.  Then DO IT - no matter how much it hurts if he does lie to you again.  Being with someone who does not respect you enough to be honest with you is worse than being alone.
532416
i think you should just ask your friends about it first i mean ait`s not your boyfriend`s fault. tell them how you feel, and ask them what would they do if it`s happening to them. i mean they won`t get it until they`re in someone else`s shoes. if they`re your friend then they would respect you and your boyfriend and lay off him. good luck ! =]