this is serious, i have two friends who smoke pot and do other drugs. How do i get them to stop w/out them getting mad at me 4 telling on them?\n                                   \n                             -rly worried
204025
Sorry hon, but this is a case that you can't do much with. THey are messing with stuff that will get them in trouble and messup their entire lives. You may just have to decide that you need new friends, before they bring you down too.\n\nI had a friend in hs like that, SHe was always messing with older guys and trying to get me too. I finally had to tell her that I couldn't hang out with her if she wsa doing those things. It really hurt, because she choose the drugs and the boys over our friendship, but I am glad I did it. \n\nShe has like four kids with four guys and is always high on meth. I am glad that my life isn't like that. But I am really sad when I see her like that.\n\nBottom line, you have to do what is best for you, your pot-head friends will drag you down.
317319
If she knew about your recreational experiences before you two got together and didn't object then or later, she shouldn't be bitching about it now for no apparent reason. Especially if you are intelligent, productive and responsible. Don't you find her objections hippicritical especially since she was a toker herself? It shouldn't matter if she had quit, as it was her choice to do so.
500928
yes they should of been told to shut up. the point is drugs are illegal anyway and they shouldnt of been using. they home office actually did them a bloody favour by making em go cold turkey! they should be paying the home office rehab fees!
192809
I would tell my friend what this girl did to me and see what she says. But I have been in that situation before. My friend liked this girl who smoked and was really bad. I just ignored it though.
353912
I think you have every right to be mad, and very, very suspicious. And you had every right to voice your concern, because you just wanted to know what was going on, and if your best friend and your husband really care about you, this wouldn't be such a big issue: They shouldn't be mad about telling you the truth. I honestly feel that their anger is because they are hiding something. Keep in mind, pot does impair your judgement, no matter how many people try to tell you it doesn't. I would suggest talking to your husband one on one, let him know how you feel about the situation, and maybe suggest marital counseling. I hope everything works out for you, and remember that you are in the right about this! Good luck!
109155
Just do it.  Man up, pal and your friend will at least have to talk to you.  If things get worse, then you know you tried to resolve the issue.
93394
gang bangers?\n\nIf you report to the police, then that should keep them away for some time and some distance. But the only thing you do as your part, is to talk to your children about drugs and how it will affect their family, friends and themselves in future.
78957
Take the high road each and every time.  If you succumb to these rumors, you will have lost already.  If you come across someone who's acting weird or evasive probably because of these rumors, ask them straight out and persuade them to talk about it ("perhaps you've heard something about me?...) in a non-confrontational manner.  Tell them that you would be more than happy to clear it up and would entertain their queries which you would appreciate because it's something that you could respond to having been said to your face. If you know who started the rumors, you can do this same tactic also.  This usually makes them apologetic because they can't take full frontal frankness.
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The funny thing is you cant help some1 who does'nt want it? Weed is mentally habitual, not addicting, the only way you can help him is tell him it is hendering his personal life and family it will hurt your family and freinds! Not to mention it ruins your chances of passing a drug test to get a nice career and making babies is less of a chance. Tetra Hydra Cannibinal / Canbius Setiva makes you sterile!
567314
Am I reading this right? A pot head is waging war on a meth head?! I never thought this sort of reasoning would make it farther than the 'idea' having moment during a toking. You got more tar in your head than you do brains. And yes, Meth addicts DO need jail time. Every one of them made a clear and concious decision to pick up that hot rail, needle or pipe to smoke crystal when they started and the time it took to become 'uncontrolably' addicted, so they accepted the risks. Besides, MOST users sell, they keep cutting some out every time it exchanges hands, so lock 'em up!! And I can't belive someone is trying to defend the 'poor' addicts. What and idiot you are Cripple play!!!
606300
The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. If you need to leave to be in a safe and legal environment then you need to leave. If your friend has to suffer through enough consequences of their using they will eventually see their problem. However, if you coddle them and try to protect them from the pain they are causing for you and themselves they will keep using longer. It has to hurt enough to be willing to motivate the change. Pain is the best motivator unfortunately.  The most lovingt thing you can do for them is allow them to hit a bottom and pray they don't hurt themselves on the way down. Let them know you love them and you want to help when they are ready. Then when they are ready. hook them up with a local rehab and 12 step program. I have included the website for NA (narcotics anonymous). They can help you find a rehab in your area and local meetings to check out. Good luck!
497692
you can only try so much before you gotta say to yourself this is her problem(s).  it is hard to see a friend get involved with that kind of shtuff.  it's hard to watch a friend open herself up to even greater potential problems especially under the influence of pot or booze.  gotta pay for it somehow.  it does affect the way you make decisions.  and guys dont really think straight when there is a drunk/high chick passed out somewhere.  try to get her straight before some bad shIt can happen.
636045
Why didn't you walk away the first time he got angry? Why even hang out when he is stoned? Violence solves nothing. He hits you, you hit him back. he comes after you again, you hate each other  and involve other people. It always gets out of control. Be the mature one about this and let it drop.If you don't want to be friends with him anymore then don't. That doesn't mean you have to hate him. Remember all the good times. Why let one bad moment rob you of all the future fun you could have. Make sure you don't hang with him when he is high and let him know that you don't want to be a part of it. My son has gone through the same thing. His best friend didn't hit him but they don't hang out because all his friend does it get high now. My son has made new friends that share in his interest. This happens, people grow apart sometimes.\nLove & Light\nSharon
211595
put them on the spot and ask them why they feel you are ignorant. maybe there is something you are missing. then again maybe by their answer they will show that they are the ones missing something! either way if their behavior continues find new friends. have enough respect for yourself to not allow others to treat you that way!
241668
Sorry, there's no way to do it without hurting their feelings.  Plus, you don't like them enough to continue the friendship, so why are you worried about their feelings?  I mean, I know that sounds harsh, but it's true, isn't it?  This person must have done or said something you don't like or that you found offensive.  Bottom line:  If that person has hurt your feelings in the past, why spare theirs?  Good luck.
590185
How about telling a "older friend" like a calm parent or teacher. Sound like the usual thing an adult would say but she does need help. She IS an alcoholic! Sleeping with a guy and not remembering it is called a black out. That is an alcoholic thing! Talk to her, be prepared for all the excuses. You will eventually lose her as a friend. lying is not far behind what she is doing. She won't remember what she has done so she will laugh it off or say "I did not do that" Someone older has got to help you for your friends sake! DO NOT let her suck you into her world of drinking. Sometimes drugs are not far behind. Be strong and tell someone, she needs HELP!
25468
Be honest with her. Tell her that you don't believe drugs and smoking are the answer. Tell her you are concerned for her, and make it clear that you are ON HER SIDE.