How do i try and give advice to my gf about sex without hurting her feelings.
212792
Send her to a practicals tutor. I can offer my services - gratis and without any obligation on either side.
54004
The more comfortable your woman is w/ you the more apt she will be to try new things.  I used to be very modest in the bedroom until I met my boyfriend. Women tend to be modest b/c they are afraid of what men will think.  Chances are...you girlfriend does want to try new things.  But it is your job to make her feel at ease. Also talk about it.  How will your woman ever know if you dont tell her what you want.  We are not mind readers :)
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The first thing you must know when you want to open your relationship up to new experiences is that you must discuss everything with you girlfriend first. If you try something with out talking to her you could not only physically hurt her (accidentally of course) but she may get angry that you did not care enough to ask her opinion. There are some good websites that talk about new options and how to correctly present the issue and then how to carry them out. You and your girlfriend should research it together and then choose a few things that intrigue you both. Good Luck and happy hunting.
372929
yes tell her how you feel , try and move closer to her if she can not move closer to you.\nand i would ask why she is on the sex chat site , are you on it with her?
179929
I'll tell you how because I do it all the time - and it works on men and women.  Pick a subject or issue that she harps on regularly.  Every time she brings the issue up simply ask for an example.  Be very concise and direct.  Be blunt about it.  If she can't give any examples, well...  If she can, try to have an intelligent response ready.  Again, be concise, be direct, be blunt, and BE CALM.  Don't get rattled and don't raise your voice.  I anticipate interesting feedback from the women out there but to be sure women AREN'T always right.  The point is to discuss issues intelligently, not emotionally.  Hope this helps and good luck.
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1 - judge ppl by facts (what they do) not by stories (what they say)\n\n2 - don't rush sex with your bfriend, sex gets better the more is desired \n(not sure how to pack this line though, don't have a dghtr to experiment how she would look like hearing that line :-)\n\n3 - math is sexy. hook up with math geeks, they know how to handle curves :-)
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Movies do without question decieve one into thinking that good relationships are plentiful and easy to get.  They are possible--but never easy.  As for sex--it can not only be fun, it can be the thing that makes your relationship stronger.  Sounds like the two of you were just young, inexperienced kids.  Nothing wrong with that, but only having sex once every 4-6 months isn't going to grow bonds.  Those few that told you to go to a novelty shop and buy sex toys are insane!!  That will only freak her out and make her think that nasty, naughty or "sex for the sake of sex" is all you want.  She needs to FEEL and KNOW that she can trust you.  Now, I'm sure intellectually she does, and would say so were you to ask her.  But to subconsciously FEEL it is another thing.  That comes from a bond that grows from knowing someone as well as, or better than yourself, and having no insecurities about their motives, desires, dreams, etc.  It takes effort and patience, and is sometimes not easy.  But then, the best things in life never are.  (And THAT I learned from a movie--The Weather Man.)\n\nTake time to simply appreciate her beauty, spend hours careessing her, doting on her, telling her your thoughts and all WITHOUT any implication of eventually having coitus in that session.  Let her know by action that she is your, well, goddess, if you will.  Find those little freckles of hers divine, discover the little baby hairs on the back of her neck and treasure them--especially the way they look in the morning light.  Get dreamy and romantic, it NEVER hurts--it's actually quite fun and will only make her swoon.  Swooning is always good.  Think of new ways to flirt with her, to make her blush, to make her feel and know she is ULTIMATELY the most special thing to you.  Then slowly she will reciprocate.  Once she feels truly safe and loved and utterly admired for just being her, she will bloom like a flower.  But NEVER abuse this, never ignore this, never take this--her for granted.  If you take the time to appreciate all the little delights she has to offer with out the forboding of scary sex, then she will love you more and want to give more.  You will truly know what it's all about.  It's possible, but it takes effort and perserverance.  Much luck, and best wishes.
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If she doesn't enjoy sex maybe it is time to find out why.  Find out what she likes and dislikes and don't make the assumption that this is personally directed towards you.  It could be an issue that she believes only affects her and it doesn't.  Whatever the cause it is best to find out as many answers to your questions with her honestly and openly.  If there is no way to resolve your sex life then you will know whether or not you want to move on.
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tell her your ready but i want to do the basics first and after your down and your ready tell her i think its time to try if your not good its OK that always happens don't worry about cant find it or is it OK for you just do it girls like guys for beaning them tell her straight out that you want it but need to learn
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Okay, she doesn't love you.  If she did she'd be able to say it.  She'd also be willing to leave her primary relationship.  You appear to be merely a plaything on the side.  She probably is getting a major ego boost out of you being her puppy-dog.  If you're willing to be second-best then by all means continue the sex part of the relationship but don't expect her to tell you she loves you anytime soon.
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Let her make all the moves, or ask her if she would like a back rub and just give her that.  And see if she does anything after you stop.  Talk to her.  Tell her no pressure you can wait.  Show her your a man and not a boy also reassure her that there is more than just sex that makes a relationship.
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You work your way up to it. Sex begins in the kitchen. Serve her breakfast. Prepare her bath water to take her out on a date.  Buy her a pair of shoes. Always compliment before she asks.  Use the words, "I'd like to talk to you." Women love to talk.  After winding down from all the outside stuff youve done with her.....begin massaging her......caress her slowly.....then let her know....softly....how much you want her.
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Don't flat out ask for sex and treat her like a sex object.  Girls hate that.  Sex should never be mentioned at all if you really like the girl.  Unless of course she brings it up.\n\nm
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Something has got to give or it will be your relationship.  Surprise her on her day off and take the kids to the parents house.  Communication and a good heart to heart is in order and the double surprise is that it creates intimacy.  And women need that for great sex. \n\nGood luck. (oh, and see what you can do to negotiate some of these issues before they strain you both too far)
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Gosh NO!  How desperate are you?\n\nYes she can get bored & tired of it.  If she says no, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or she's scared of losing you if she sets boundaries, or she's just really immature/insecure.\n\nDoes she never pursue you?  HOW BORING!  Do you not want your girl to show initiative/attraction to you?  Do you only ever want her for sex? Does it not bother you that she doesn't get a chance to show that she wants you because you keep hogging all the attraction communication?  If I were her, I would put you on ice for a month (refuse privileges) until you could see me as a person, not just a humping machine (unless of course I just dumped you right away), and so I could have a chance at the flirting fun too.  \n\nAre you 18?  If not, you should be able to control yourself for at least 48 hours, gee.  \n\n"Please please can I have sex?"  "Oh sure."\nThat's what it sounds like you do twice a day from your question.  D E S P E R A T E men don't keep their women long.\n\nNow, having said all that, you have not given sufficient information to answer your question without assuming the worst possible scenario.  So considering your "every chance" might be once a week if you don't see her much, you might then just want to make sure you communicate that you value her as a person, and if she knows how important sex is to you, she will indicate it through inviting you inside, or    initiating a kiss, or whatever, you should NOT have to beg or ask continually.  Just kiss her, treat her like you want her to feel like the amazing woman she is, and if she is open for more, you will feel it in her body language and you can move in.  Stop asking like a begging dog.
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Talk about sex in your email and what you want to do to one another . Just be true to her and don't let your hormones ruin your relationship .\n\nAngel
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girls are very proctective of their feelings because they are unsure on how you would respond.but all girls are not like that. most girls will tell you stright foward how they feel, but in your situation your girlfriend is probably afraid that if she tells you the truth that it could hurt your relationship. im sure if you give her time and make her feel comfortable about the situation she will come around and eventually tell you whatever it is.