She has been in several colleges and wants to go to work in Spain to get enough money to pay her studies overseas, the classes she has passed, she has cheated in all of them (don't know how she hasn't been caught). Besides that, she wants to go to the city where her boyfriend is living, in her actual college, she flunked all her classes this period because she went to his boyfriends house and her parents don't know what to do? HOW CAN I HELP HER?
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It sounds like she's not passionate enough about anything (except maybe her b/f) to stick to it right now.  That's not at all unusual for someone in her 20's.  It might be good idea fro her to take some time off to explore the world and mature a little bit.  If she really wants to finish, she will.  If she doesn't, it's not worth trying to force her.  Also perhaps she has some ADHD or personality problems that are making it harder for focus and cope with school?  She should see a counselor.
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What behavioral interventions and work prompts are her teachers doing with her at school? Ask if you can sit in and observe so you can do the same thing for academic work at home.\n\nShe will calm down greatly when she has similar expectations and prompts across environments. Your behavior responses are probably different from her teachers, and this confuses her because homework is schoolwork is something that should happen just-that-way-that-it-always-happens.....
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here is my advice, advice from a friend who has been put thru a similar situation. my bf almost went to Michigan or TX State University and all i could do is break up and cry behind closed doors. look, in his eyes you have to be strong and if you love him you should be able to trust him and in your heart think that nothing bad will happen! if you keep on wondering what happens wherever he is and who he is with and if he is cheating on you you come out as really insecure and push him away after a while! you should be happy for him and for what what he is doing not sad! be a good gf and spend lots of time with him before time runs out, surprise him with a nice dinner or a picnic or something simple yet where you two spend quality time together!  here is what my mom told me and for me it came true because my bf went to the same university as me, but her words of wisdom are: if he loves you he will come back to you ! and yes i think he is coming back! it will be hard and difficult on both of you and him too but he will not show it,trust me! you have to go through this and let him go and grow and you grow as a person too and in the end he will come back to you! do not think  of the negative outcome but rather of the positive, be happy that he is happy  or for him, spend time with him, trust him, do not question him and remember that the Bible says that "....love never fails" in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8!
189984
Relax.  Your grades are not as important in college as you think.  Experience is going to get you where you need to go.  And as far as your girlfriend moving away, it happens.  I have personally gone though it.  But if you want it to work out, you have to work at it.  Stay in constant communication.  And if it is meant to happen, it will.  RELAX!  It wil be painful, but if it does last, and you see her again, it will mean all the more to you and her.
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From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
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Comfort your friend and tell her NOT TO DO ANYTHING! As in completely nothing... Tell her not to call her boyfriend, not to go to the guy's place, not to talk with his friends, anything that has to do with the guy. Play cool and she should act as if he's not a big loss. DON'T EVER MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL. You're all good and he's not the center of her universe. She was born without him anyway plus he is just an OBSTACLE. She'll get over him. Just always be there for your friend. Oh how I hate cheaters! Plus I believe in carma... I say good luck to that di*khead
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obviously depending if shes a minor or not, could she not get in contact with socail services? if shes 16 or over she has the option to just leave without her parents permission, she can not be left on the streets, with the right help she could be housed in a bedsit. x She is old enough to just walk out! and so are you! if both or one of you work can you not both find some where small for you to live together? come on the pair of you are at your ages classed as young adults, she doesnt have to stay at home with her parents, im getting the feeling your not from the uk are you? or america? other wise im sure youd have both done your own thing by now.
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Sounds like the situation is too deep to simply resolve before going away to college.  I suggest that you tread lightly around her until you leave (so not to aggravate the situation more) and when you're at college, do your best and make good grades.  I'm a parent and knowing that my kids are doing well in college is a great gift.  Although you two may not be getting along on day-to-day issues, I am sure she will be very proud if you do well in college.  This could be the ice breaker you need to start improving your relationship.
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Okay, as far as school goes, go to the admin office and fill out a withdrawl form and have instructors sign, this way you are "withdrawling" instead of dropping out and you will not be put on academic probation...hopefully it's not to late to do this.  As far as your girl, apparently she thinks your world should revolve around her.  Does she not realize the struggle that's going on at home?  Set down with her and show her why you're working so hard and long.  Don't apologize to her for trying to keep the wolves away, maybe she needs to be put in your situation and see how she would handle things.  Ask her if she's giong to school any more, and if not ask her if she's planning to take on more hours (if she's not working full-time) to help with the bills and to take some pressure off of you.
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Prove that you put her through school and that she's refusing to work.  And prove her allegations wrong.  Sometimes it seems the system only works for lying women who want nothing more than to be bums.  I feel for you, truly.
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Definitely, thank her for her rapid response and all her hard work. You could comment on how people such as herself make it easier to decide such a difficult decision such as where to go to college. You could say that her thoughtfulness has assured you that you have made the right decision. Administration either makes or breaks a college, trust me I have three degrees. A little flatter can move mountains and having a friend in administration can get you your degree faster. Especially, if you are having problems getting classes they usually have connections.
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ask her out\nif you think about it enough to post it on here ask her\nif its meant to be it will work\nmy bf asked me out right before hs graduation, now he's at college 7 hours away and we have the greatest realationship ever\ni never thought i could do long distance stuff but its working great\nif you don't ask her and don't take the risk, could you live with the guilt? the anger? and the wondering what if we did dates? \nwhats a little risk when u got nothing to loose and so much to gain\nask her
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OK, I am hesitant to enter this frey, however; since I contacted you and now have a better handle on the situation, I figure in for a penny, in for a pound.\n   Your brother-in-law and sister are already paying out the big bucks for parochial school as it is. It seems that you have a good relationship with the girl and though you have a better than average education yourself, you are still between jobs. Why don't you talk to the girls parents and see if they would be willing to pay you to home school the girl through 5th snd 6th grades?\n   Since you tell me that she is doing well in her studies all you have to do is keep her love of learning alive and encourage that. If you can do that and reenforce the work ethic in her for the next two years you will have given her something no school I am aware of public or private will give her.\n   I hear so much about building a child's self image and I see nothing wrong with that as long it is done properly.\n   Removing competition and telling kids that they are not failures simply because they did not attempt to meet a challange I concider this not a mistake but an out and out lie.\n   Let the girl acomplish things that she is justifyably proud of and if she does well let her know she succeeded \nbecause of her own efforts.\n   The drawing is not something I would be overly concerned about. As you said the books were her's, her parents had paid for them so she was not defacing school property, the clothes are old clothes that are basically play clothes so what is the problem? The girl has an artistic leaning and it is probably not addressed at her school.\n   When the girl is ready for the 7th grade there may be a place where she can be accepted and if she qualifies could go until graduation on a full scholarship if her artistic talents show enough potential and her parents are willing to comit her to an artistic apprenticeship. If then aplicant is accepted everything will be paid for from her transportation to the school, her uniforms, tuition, books, materials, room and board, plus full coverage dental, medical and vision care insurance. That plus four yearly trips home. If the student completes the program she will likely be offered a position with the sponsor's studio but even if she is not the successful completion of the program releaves, the family of any financial obligation. Failure to complete for reasons other than catastrophic illness, injury or death of the trainee, will result in the family of said trainee being obligated to re emburse all money expended on the trainee's behalf including the fare home. The former facility was beyond repair andthey are currently in the process of locating a new site the hope to be ready to start accepting students by 2009. They will be accepting only 24 applicants per year. If interested contact me and I will put you in touch with somebody who can provide more detail.
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As long as you're  begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to......  IF nothing else works out for her.  From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway.  Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young.  (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.)  Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy....  But, know what?  You're young, too.  Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of  your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus.  You know, something that you're really interested in.  You' ll probably  find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building  your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.)  You might just find out that  you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.)  I know this is very, very difficult advise to take.  You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be.  For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.  There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet.  It's sad if you choose to cling to the past  at such a young age.  And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't  so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her!  Think about it - and, best of luck to you.\n\nPEACE
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U should talk to her with her parent(s) about a solution 2 her problems.Tell her 2 at lease get her high school diiploma its very important have . These days thats not even enough 2 get some jobs.Do what U can 2 stop her from making a huge mistake. GOOD LUCK !
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You can't move forward if you don't face your past.  Be brave enough to follow your dream, go to the university you want, and disregard your ex-girlfiend.  It's your life after all...don't let someone else control it, even if indirectly.
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Why would you want to date someone that already has shown a tendency to cheat?\n\nWhat if her boyfriend is some who can beat the **** out of you (and maybe even her)?\n\nMore trouble than it's worth...\n\nThat's just dumb.