This guy that I love only calls me at night and only wants to see me at night and he doesn't talk to me that much. I'm always texting him during the day first to see how his day is going. He says that he loves me. We aren't allowed to see eachother much or communicate with eachother because of our parents. They found out about a event that took place (sexual). Is he using me for a good time?
207114
My first impression is yes. However, it is not cool to jump to conclusions. You might want to confront him about it and ask him why he limits his times with you. During the talk you could tell him that you expect more. Tell him what you expect and if he is not willing to meet your expectation you might want to consider moving on. You deserve someone who cares about you for who you are and not for the good time you can show them. There is so much more to you than sex, and if a guy can't see that and acknowledge it, later for him.
476614
listen to your gut.  if it's telling you that things are "shady"-- then it probably is.  a guy, should always make you feel special and that you matter.  if you feel as though this guy is playing games, then he is.  i'm sure he's a nice guy, and i'm sure you really like him, but at the end of the day, it's your heart that counts.  \n\nhowever, if you want to keep him, then you need to replay the playa.  basically, you need to come off like you're not interested...that's the only way to keep him on lock down.  you have to regain the power in the relationship, that means, not texting him, not calling him, not doing anything.  once, he realizes that you're not trying, he'll try.  that's the true test.
314761
Sometimes the idea of loving a person is better than the reality of them.  I am not saying that this is anything against you, but perhaps he was more in love with the idea of you.  If he no longer has these feeings for you, and refuses to talk, then I'd say it's time to move on.  I hope he isn't a creep determined to pass STDs along to every girl he can.  If it's been four days, and he hasn't talked to you, then he lacks the respect to end things the right way.  It's being a coward.  As for why you are doing this to yourself?  Can't sleep?  Well, you were duped.  No shame in that, it's not your fault.  It can take a long time to get over a love.  Hang in there. Try your best to get some sleep.  When you are sleep deprived, you can not think correctly.
151247
You wouldnt be the only one that acts differently online or on the phone to what they do in reality. Its a way of life. Some people find it easier to be more outgoing and adventurous when theres no one to confront them face to face. If your feelings are that strong for this guy then be open with him. He should love you  because your kind caring trusting honest and genuine not because he thought you were sexually adventurous. If its true love then he'll understand and something will come of it
59163
For goodness sakes! Is he ashamed of being with you or does he not want people to think you are an item? He sounds like a guy I used to like in high school and in the first year of college. We only went to church together. And when we went out, it was after dark. He didn't want it to get back to his dad that we were seen together. \nYou might want to ask him why. But if his behavior does not improve, just leave him and his issues alone.
429374
Sounds like a young love problem.  Long distance relationships are always tough.  If he is away doing things with his family and other friends it would be very not to call.  This does not at all mean he does not like, or even not love you.  He just needs his own time, and sometimes talking on the phone for hours every day can be too much of a strain on his life.  As you get older you will see that just because you dont talk to someone for a few days doesn't mean that the love is gone.  You have to have security in your relationship and trust him. You are also young and need to live your own lives first.  GOOD LUCK!
415597
He knows that NOT returning calls can drive a girl crazy and make her more interested in him.\n\nHe might just be keeping you as a 'backup', 'booty call' girl.  If that's fine with you, then go ahead.  If you want more from the relationship, you'll have to evaluate whether he's really into you, as a person, or just for the sex.
210947
what's the question here.  You guy wants to be your friend and your lover.  Sounds like he truly cares for you, and he is having you meet his family.  He just might not be ready to fully commit himself to the relationship since he just got out of one.  Just be patient.
86155
Sounds like you guys may not be though. Either way,if you only see each other once in three months,it doesn't sound like much of a relationship. Try to call it off.\nIf he doesn't call you then he doesn't care about you,period. Do yourself a favor and move on.\nPlenty more guys out there... \nYou can IM me for some if you want...
373079
It may mean that he's insecure about you loving him, he may think that he's not ready for you to love him.\nOr, it may mean that he's just going to use you and he doesn't want you to get attached to him.\n\nI would talk to him about it, hopefully he'll understand, and communication is a great thing.
613615
ok what this sounds like to me is that this guy is a real selfish jerk! When you really like someone you are never too busy for them. Think about it this way, he cant be so busy that he cant take at least 10 minutes out of his day to give you a call and say hi or 1 minute to send you a textmsg. Busy is a lousy excuse.I mean when you really like someone im sure you're never "too busy" to think about them. If he thinks about you so much he wont wait a week to call you. Stop trying to figure him out you're only gonna be wasting your time. You deserve so much better than a jerk who is supposedly "too" busy!
593276
Yes, you are wasting your time.  I know that hurts to read but when a guy is drunk he says more often than not what he really feels.  Plus I don't hear you saying he apologized the next day or anything.  You deserve to be with a guy who will love you and wants to be with you and that isn't going to happen till you end this relationship and move on with your life.
112190
If he make excises for being late all the time, if he calls and cancel on you. He starts hang out with his friends more often than before without asking you if u want to come along. he doesn't want to get intimate with you. these are the signs that I'd look for.. stay strong and take cares!
2978
It is not a matter of hurting his feelings or not.  You should learn to express yours.  If you feel that he is using you just for sex and not trying to build a lasting relationship, tell him that.  It sounds like you might be ready for some kind of relationship, but you find that he is not.  Perhaps this will help you in the future.  Sex should be more than just a good feeling.  It is also something which strengthens the bond of a relationship.
593309
You are being used sweetie!  He is not ready for a serious relationship, and he is making sure he has you to fall back on all the time.  He is immature and selfish!  He is a cheater and cheaters very rarely stop cheating.  Get out of this  lost relationship.  He doesn't love you, he loves himself!  Toss the trash in the garbage where it belongs.  Don't waste another minute of your life with him.  There are many guys out there who will treat you with love and respect.  Your self-esteem should be rock bottom by now and this jerk is going to keep knocking you down and hurting you inside.  Get on with your life and I know there is someone out there who will love you for the beautiful, loving person you are.  Good luck!
383640
The person above is right, he is just using you.  Besides if he talks to you like that when he wants you back, how is he going to treat you once he has you.
655167
Depends... if you were really good friends before, then he probably doesn't want to lose that aspect of the relationship. I have a good friend like this (we were best friends all through high school, then we "dated" a little in college, but when she didin't want to "get intimate" any more, we were able to maintain the friendship).\n\nIf you weren't great friends before, or never met until you started dating, or if it was maybe a short-lived relationship...then he is just keeping you on the line for a future hookup. It's a lot easier (for both of you) to hook up when you're needy because you've been together before. Plus maybe you were a great lay. \n\nThe only other option is he's still madly in love with you. He wants to keep in touch so that one day he can try to ge tback in your life, and maybe create a bigger flame. If you think it's option 2 or 3, and you're not interested...quit being his friend now it'll just hurt him later if you're not gonna be there for what he's expecting.