What are the chances that a marriage will end in divorce? What are the effects of divorce on children and how can parents protect them during and after a divorce?
208240
The effects on children can be bad IF parents act stupid. Remember, they are getting the idea that this is a "normal" relationship. Both parents must NEVER speak negatively about the other parent, no matter how much they can't stand the other one.  The children love both parents and do not want to hear it.  They will not be brainwashed into not liking one parent better.  I've seen it backfire where the child begins resenting the negative parent because they are saying bad things about the other parent.  The children must know they are loved by both parents, and the divorce has nothing to do with them.  Even if you think they know it, reinforce it as much as possible.  Hopefully, the parents will put on a positive, united front for the kids' sake.  Never discuss child support issues in front of the children.  It is not their business and not their responsibility. It can be okay when both parents work together for the best outcome for the kids (i.e. putting the kids before themselves!!).
82733
if you divorce, you are killing your two kids. remember that marriage was first instituted by God the Almighty and you are trying to break that institution? remeber also that only marital infidelity is the only reason allowed for divorce ( not man made law). you are only multiplying social problems
598851
The effect on the kids depends on how they are? Marriage without love is not good at all.  But most of the time couples just stay in that marriage w/out love it's because they're afraid that it will make things complicated for them if they split up especially financially.  A person should have the courage to say "Listen I love our kids so much and I will still be there for them but I cannot take this anymore and I wanna move on with my life and we'll just talk about how we're gonna make this easy for our kids sake."  Or else if you continue to stay with this person, you will continue disrespecting this person and continue hurting the feelings of your kids.  It's not gonna be healthy for them to live a life in the same roof with these couples that just gives them a bad sample of what a good loving family should be.  This marriage is not gonna last forever for sure, most of them wait till the kids are grown up.
474358
If there is no court records or even a date that you know of, a divorce may not have happened. You might want to do a background check on the person that you are concerned about. In a background check you can find out if a divorce to place. If it did not then whatever state they are currently in you can file for a divorce from the spouse. You might want to talk to a lawyer because if the marriage was extremely short you might even be able to get it annulled. Or you can push it through for abandonment. Either way a lawyer (in any state) can explain the options that are the best for you. Good luck!
122191
make sure you've done everything you could do to save your marriage.  Your kids need you and the hardest part of this divorce, if you go though with it, are going to be the effects it has on your kids.  It's understandable that things simply just didn't work out with you and your wife but just remember you two are not the only ones going through a divorce, you're children are going through it as well.  Make sure that you're there for them as much as possible and be the best dad that you can be for them through all of this.  Good luck with everything
429815
get a lawyer, sadly its the answer to most questions. there are experts in family law and they will know the answers. pick up a phone book and find a divorce lawyer would be a good place to start they would know where to start or who to talk to if you cant find anyone else
154750
Life happens, divorce happens.\n\nI don't know what will happen in your situation, but I don't think I will make so much difference. I think it will matter if he has a job, no criminal record, etc.\n\nI want to think you both got married because you love each other, so maybe you can still go with him to the interview and explain why you got divorced.
256314
Separation isn't really the end. It doesn't mean a divorce is headed your way. Separation is actually what saved my marriage. The time away from each other is what we needed, and made us realize that we didn't want the divorce. We're happier now than we were before. Separation is a time to see if a divorce would be right for you. If it isn't, talk it out with your husband, see where he stands on it all, and take it from there. One thing married couples need to understand is that no all marriages are perfect, you'll have your ups and downs but when it comes down to it, you still love each other. My husband and I have the most dysfunctional marriage I've ever seen, but it just works for us, and we really are happy.
551920
Yours is a serious question, so I will write to you a serious analysis:\n\nFirstly, all children blame themselves for the breakup in the beginning.... they always figure that their parents would have stayed together if they had just been a better kid -- taken the garbage out sooner when asked, cleaned up their room better, kept their homework up..etc....  you get the idea.  It is truly hard for any kid to get over this guilt, and during this time, they are usually depressed.  This can last for several months.  Reassurance from the parents (persistantly) will usually get the child off of this idea, but it never entirely goes away during their childhood.   However somewhere along this process, they decide that maybe one or the other was to blame, and that apparently is where your son is.  Whether he is in the first part,(self-blame) the second part,(parental blame) or straddling the line, always a kid will either go into depression or aggression or both... this is just the way kids handle stress.  \n\nAnd what can you do?\nProbably you are doing nothing wrong -- I am gathering that you do not "bad mouth" your ex (or soon to be ex) in front of him, and I am assuming that she does not either.  This is good.  However, then he has to decide who is at fault, because in the eyes of a child, someone or something is always at fault.... so he has chosen her. (If she has had an affair, and he knows it, or you have, and he knows it, then he assigns blame according to who did what to alienate one against the other and into a relationship outside the marriage..... kids are a lot smarter than adults give them credit for.)\n\nIn your place, you and she should ask him if he would like to talk with someone besides the two of you about his feelings.   Let him know that his feelings are certainly normal,  but he might feel more comfort in discussing them with someone neither of you know but that things happen to marriages.  That you wish him to know that, and that neither of you are at fault.... ($-hit happens, but you'll probably be able to get a better word for it for him.)\n\nHe also needs to understand that life does not come with any guarantees, except that you and she guarantee to love him forever.... and THIS guarantee is indeed forever.  Marriages, don't always come with a guarantee, but people go into them with the best hopes that they can give at the time.  \n\nSo, I'd encourage you to share this stuff with him, share with him you only want him to be happy, and that sometimes talking with someone else will help him sort out his feelings..... he also needs to know that aggressions toward other kids at school is NEVER acceptable no matter what he feels, no matter at whom he is angry\n\nHelpful?  Write me if you need more..
112975
Depends on a lot of things.  I would really need to know more about your situation.  Are your parents getting a divorce?  How much do you know about the details of why?  Do you have brothers or sisters?  If you need someone to help you think this through, I'll be happy to point out some things to consider.\n\nWhat I will say for now is that it is unfair for your parents to put you in this situation.  This is something that the family should discuss, where a solution that best meets everyone's needs is agreed upon.    \n\nIn most cases, just like in nature, a mother is never going to be able to part with their child and it would break her heart.
258928
How can there be a husband if the couple isn't married?\n\nThey use a "best interest of the child" standard upon a divorce. My guess is they'd use something similar provided that the couple wasn't married and the man proved paternity.
190312
it is not too late. marriage is something that you are supposed to stick with through thick and thin. a divorce will affect you child in many ways unnoticeable to both you and your husband. my advice is to talk to him and put the divorce on hold, and both of you should take a step to seeing a marital counselor and work it out for the better of your child. that is what is most important.
113765
Most lawyers give free consultation.  I'd check with a divorce attorney to find out.  Each state might vary with its legal limit.  Check out site below too.  Checked out this site and it gives everything you need to know.  You most certainly can put a time limit on it.
529335
you probably need to contact a legal service in your area or post your question in the teaching section.\nthis is the homeschool section and we pretty much have job security seeing as how most of us are married to the principal!!!\n:)
102415
People make mistakes, they marry the wrong people or for the wrong reasons.  Some people are fickle and fall out of love easily.  Others love the feeling of "falling in love" but when the honeymoon is over, it' over.  Others develop problems farther down the line.  As many divorces as there are, there are reasons for the divorce.\n\nPersonally, I don't want to restrict myself to a number, because as soon as I do, I'd break it.  I'd like to not ever want to marry again.
42133
I had a classmate who was told on the telephone that her parents were divorcing. I have never seen anybody who looked as pained as she did. Their teen years are times when people have to deal with the very issues that divorce raises. They have self esteem issues.\n\nIf their parents' marriage was a mistake, are they themselves-a product of that marriage a mistake?. If their parents stop loving each other, will they stop loving their child? The parents didn't love the child enough to stay together for his/her sake. These teen years are the times when a child is supposed to question the values they have grown up with, decide whether they have been taught correctly and formulate their own code of behavior. What are they to do when the parents themselves are not faithful to ethics what they have taught the child?\n\nThese are years when the child is supposed to separate from the parents emotionally and become his/her own person. In rebelling against the parental authority, have they themselves caused a problem in the home that brought about the divorce? Is it the child's fault? Do they dare continue the process of separating from the parent? Or can they dare to continue to depend on either parent at all and would it be safer to cut all ties emotionally and not feel anything. Which parent are they to be loyal to? Which parent are they to remain emotionally attached to? Who is at fault? Why did this happen? Can they do anything to get the parents back together again? If the child indulges in self destructive behavior, will someone pay attention to him/her or are the parents interested only in themselves or in new lovers or new families?
60303
marriage creates a new family, divorce destroys it.\n\nin old days marriage used to mean that one or both of the newlywebs moved out of their parent's home and started a new life. divorce can be very traumatic for kids.