like being with the person just hanign out having fun \nbut no sex. he respects u and will habe sex until u guys get married , what u wait for that person untill u get married to him
208575
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
134287
Definitely say no. If he is a good guy (coming from a guy) he will respect u. If he gets angry or breaks up just remember its his problem not yours. Don't every feel guilty if u don't feel u want to have sex with someone; it's u'r body it's u'r choice. Remember always use protection.
251592
WElcome to marriage.\n\n"The longer your married, the longer you go without sex."\n\nNothing it's fine, so long as you still feel attracted to your man. If not, then you need to do some soul searching are you still in love or just to lazy to move on
317192
That depends entirely on how your relationship with him. Whats sort of committment are you talkin about. If i were in your place i would go on and achieve what i wanted to, if they guy loves me he would wait.
117803
get married? do you mean a steady boyfriend, maybe when you get one you like make it apparent you want to be exclusive then just treat him the way he wants to be treated (in accordance with your morals of course) and it should be all good.
297157
What you're doing is correct...  Marriage before sex.  It has been 4 years with this man...  If you are ready for marriage, I would sit down with him and ask him what and where this relationship is going..  \n\nIf both of you love each other, I don't see what you are waiting for....\n\nGod Bless!
336094
Sex alone does not make the marriage! Some people are different about it, he must feel secure with you, don't worry about it, if you love each other feel good! If you want to make love with him ask and be patient.
508919
OK i'm not going to push my values on you. But it's really up to you. When you get married and start having sex with your wife, do you want her to lean over in the morning and say "Oh baby, you're on my top 20 lovers list!"or would you rather know that you are the only one she has ever been with and ever really will be with?Also, if you have sex now while you're young and you think that the person you are with will love forever, guess again. If she can't wait for you, chances are, she's done it to other guys just like you. And if you have sex, it usually means you care very deeply for the person you are with. However, if you marry someone who has had sex before, that means that they have "deeply" loved others before you and left them. Which strengthens your chances of her leaving you. It's just all around beetter to wait until you're married, because that way, it's like your spouse is the only person you ever really loved enough to surrender yourself to, and it will give you a longer lasting relationship. And you will have a much happier marriage and life.\n\nMatthew, I know that there are going to be many mixed answers here, but just listen to me on this one. You can always lose your virginity, but you can never get it back once you've lost it. If you feel like an outcast because you aren't an anybody's man, you shouldn't. You should feel dignified that you are too good to settle for someone who only cares about your body; but that you are waiting for someone who cares about who will not be able to have sex when he's old. They will love for your entire life, and not just until they've had their share of orgasms.
535945
You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.
138078
I respect you immensely for not wanting to.  Sex is a very serious thing and it ties two people together permanently.  (Have you ever noticed couples around you who need to break up because they're miserable: the reason they won't is because they're having sex) It is a very serious decision. Treat it as such.
244483
well, are you married? b/c you shouldn't have sex until you're married. also you sound doubtful. and if you don't know if you're ready to have sex, you're not.
436519
I agree with you. You get married because you love that person for that person, not because you love what they can do to you in the sack.\n\nPeople say sex is an expression of love, but I think lack of sex is a greater expression. If your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you enough to say "I don't need sex. I can wait." That's someone worth being with. It they're ready to hit the sack right away... well... maybe they don't completely love you for you.\n\nThat's why I'm a virgin and will remain so until marriage. If a guy says he can't wait that long, then he's not worth my time.\n\nSo, getting back on track now... Is viriginity important to guys? I guess it depends on the man. To me, (female), virginity is very important. I don't care if they have experience or not and I'd rather they didn't. I want to be the only person they've ever been with and I'd hope that my future spouse will feel the same way. =D
211401
I would get to know him better before messing with him. But messing do mean sex? I would definetly hold off. Unlsess you don't want something serious then heck go for it.
619695
YES IT'S OK TO REMAIN A VIRGIN.   YES YOU SHOULD REMAIN A VIRGIN.  SAVE YOURSELF FOR THE MAN YOU LOVE AND GIVE YOUR ALL TO HIM ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT.  THAT'S THE WAY GOD INTENDED IT. \nIF HE REALLY LOVES YOU, HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND AND BE WILLING TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE.  (YES...IT'S HARD TO WAIT)    BUT IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU....HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND WON'T DEMAND ANYTHING OF YOU.\n\nBESIDES....SOME GUYS LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS ...........\n"WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE?"     NOT SAYING YOU'RE A COW...JUST USING AN EXAMPLE..."WHY WAIT TO MARRY A GIRL WHEN I CAN GET SEX FROM HER WITHOUT THE RING?"\n\n"MAKING LOVE"  AND "HAVING SEX"  ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.\n\nMAKING LOVE IS GIVING YOURSELF AND ALL YOUR LOVE TO THE PERSON YOU LOVE AND ARE MARRIED TO.\n\nHAVING SEX IS JUST THAT !!!!   HAVING SEX WITH A PARTNER.\n\nIS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?   \n\nYOU LOVE HIM, HE'S DEMANDING SEX. DON'T DO IT JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID YOU'LL LOSE HIM IF YOU DON'T.  IF HE DROPS YOU BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE SEX ........HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. NOT REALLY... IN LOVE WITH YOU...BECAUSE IF HE IS..........HE'LL RESPECT YOU AND WAIT.\n\nHOPE THIS HELPS...\nDON'T DO ANYTHING YOU'RE NOT READY FOR.\n\nGOOD LUCK!
601829
of course you can! my best friend and I hung out for 6 months, what made him my best friend he never asked for sex .And we always had the best time together ! we end up getting married ..stayed married for 17 yrs..\n\n\nBasilche, good to know there are still good guy out there !
551782
You not only want him to respect you, but you need to respect yourself. Don't do anything until you are ready. And don't think that just because you fool around that you have to have sex. Take it slow, and think about how you feel about him and how he feels about you. Also think about how you would feel if he didn't want to see you anymore. Think about it carefully and don't let yourself get caught up on how "cute" he is and such.
650582
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.