ive been on dates where i've slept with the guy the first night. i didnt feel pressured to, i wanted to, but is that still concidered "easy"? i dont want to get labeled a slut, i just enjoy sex. what can i do?
209307
You may get labeled but who cares, it is doing what you want that makes you who you are. \nMy opinion, if I have sex to early in a relationship, I find it hard to find other things in the relationship.  It takes away my want to get to know the person better.
507678
Ya know it really depends on the type of "relationship" you guys have, some cases yes and some no, it depends on how you express yourself, if you guys have had sex then no i wouldn't think it was about that because duh, you've already done it, but if u havejn't had sex and u've kinda brought it up a few times then it's possible she might think that, just lay it down like it is, tell her u just want to spend time with her and get to know her better on a more personal level, and tell her no it's not that u want to get in her pants and that u guys could even sleep in separate beds (if it's that big of a deal) but either way, i'd go, good luck with tht and just remember, it's all in the way you give hte proposition!
550885
Ok.. from what Im getting is your meeteing girls then telling them how much u like and appreciate them.. ok dependin on how u show/say this ,and how this sounds to me.. you sound like u are wanting a commitment, and there is a theory that only men are afraid of commitment ...thats not true.. some women are too.. dont come out and say "hey i want to get married!" ( not that u say that but u might as well)  just be normal, get to know her. and if sex isnt in ur 1st date agenda, then theres no reason to "convince" her its not.  just be ur self without all the "persuading" of how u "appreciate" women. cause also when a man goes on about how much he "appreciates" women.. well thats just hey im a lying ass and just want in ur pants. somethings can be taken  differently
289809
It is exactly what it sounds like!  It is someone that you know you can sleep with in the heat of sexual frustration.  No stirngs attached, no hard feelings.  It is literally just someone to keep you warm at night and that is it!  Just dont start having feelings for this person it will never work!
57748
Depends on the guy and the situation.  I have some friends who think a girl that puts out on the first date is not worth going out with agian, and I have friends who have had sex on the first date that are or were involved for a long time with that one person.  There is no right answer here, like I said it depends on the guy and the situation..Hope this is of some help...
324643
1st off..don't rush relationships...when it feels right it is right! Second, IF YOU KNOW that your not a slut, then who cares what all the other people think. If they aren't your true friends then try to ignore them, you shouldn't care what they think of you, have some confidence if you've dated 15 guys in the last 5 months, then you obviously have something going for you otherwise guys wouldn't date you! Thirdly,just enjoy your life, who cares about proving them wrong!!!
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Its not that he doesnt want to, he probably just doesnt want to rush into anything, and he doesnt want to make it seem like thats all he is after. Otherwise then you will think that its all about the sex, and obiously its not or you would have been sleeping with him 3 weeks prior to dating, or seeing the guy.
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First of all I would say the most important thing is to be yourself around any girls that you fancy. As soon as you start trying to be someone you're not you will probably lose your chance of bagging the girl you're after.\nThe second thing to mention is that there is a very big difference between a one night stand and a relationship although a one night stand may lead on to something later on.\nIt sounds like you are after a one night stand. I would say you should go about things in this kind of order.\n\n1.You've gotta set yourself up to win from the start. Make sure you are looking good and the chances are this will make you feel good. Make sure there is somewhere you can go to make sweet love ie. your house, car, hedge, bus shelter.\n2. Find a way of starting conversation with the girl you like the look of. Just stay relaxed, play it cool and make her feel like she's special. Try to appear genuinely interested in what she does (even if you're not).\n3. If you've been chatting/ flirting for a while and you feel comfortable with the situation the likelihood is that she will feel comfortable too. By this time you'll probably be recieving signs as to whether she fancies you or not.\n4. Start getting closer to her, put your hand briefly on her arm, side etc. If she doesnt back away try leaving your hand there a bit longer each time. If she gets close to you as you get close to here look into her eyes and you'll know whether or not to go for the smooch!\n5. If a girl will kiss you then she obviously atleast finds you attractive and maybe will consider sleeping with you. Im assuming you have plied her with alcohol since you met her- if not start now. Champagne's a good one. Its not essential for her to be drunk but it often helps.\n6. If you are flirting loads with each other/ feeling each other up then even if she doesnt sleep with you, you can be very pleased with yourself.\n7. At this point if she hasn't dragged you out of the bar or wherever you happen to be you may have to initiate the move to somewhere more private. Some girls like subtlety and some like blokes who are upfront. Sometimes it is good to say "do you want to come back to my place?" wink wink or "do you fancy coming back to my place for a coffee?" or "can i walk you home?"\n\nLast thing to say is that most girls want sex just as much as guys do!\n\nSomeone else can go into the details- my fingers are tired! Hope that's of some help.
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If a girl thinks all you want from her is sex, you're going to get the "let's be friends" line from most you meet.  (Sluts don't count.)  The strongest relationships start as friendships.  My advice to you would be to slow down, don't try to get your nookie on the first date, and spend some time getting to know the wonderful world of the feminine mystique.
147086
if you have done something which was having sex with different guys in just one-night-stand...so you must be a flirt... if you have never done such things...so you are not flirt...better to be a good and ideal woman...
355157
I've been there, and I've found that waiting for at least date 3 to have sex seems to work a lot better than hooking up on date 1!! I've never had a serious relationship develop out of a one-night stand. I'm not saying this will be the case with you, but maybe it's time to move on and save yourself the confusion. Clean slate and all.
538510
Don't make things all about the sex!!  Have a date and DONT sleep together.  You need to generate things to talk about --- likes dislikes, etc.. that have nothing to do with intimacy.
646030
If it is the first time for both of you to have sex, may I suggest taking things slow.  Especially if it is her first.  Alot of my friends didn't care much for sex at first because their first partner's were too rough and not the most considerate.   And I think any lady out there would also suggest taking things slow.  It's not a race.  Enjoy yourself and for god's sake use a condom.  Communication is good too, make sure you are both cool with whats going on.  \n\nMy first time I remember it feeling like my head was a blur and I was a bit dizzy, but It was a good feeling.
449512
I would, for a number of reasons. First of all, the fact they haven't had sex shows that they have a lot of self respect, which is extremely sexy in a guy. It's also nice to know that if you sleep with him, you'll be his first, and not just another girl in what could be a long list of them. Thirdly, if a guy who has kept his virginity decides he wants to sleep with you, then he obviously has a high opinion of you, which is really nice to know too. Fourth, they won't forget you because everyone remembers their first. Finally, you make the experience amazing for them, and cause none of you are sure what to expect, it creates suspense - pure turn on.\n\nXXX
55345
Nothing wrong with dating. How else do you find out what your options are? As stated, you are not a s1ut unless you are having sex with everyone you date. I do not reccomend this practice. Too many STD's out there. If you are having sex, please use a condom.
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I was a virgin until I was 25. Then that situation was happily remedied.\n\nI think that life is a lot more than just sex. Obviously, sex is something we all desire. And, we do deserve at some point to experience that joy. It can seem like it will never happen when you go so long before you finally "get some", but for some of us, things just have to fall into place first. \n\nMy suggestion isn't the same as those freaks that just say "let it happen naturally"... I had to realize that I was getting older and it wasn't happening for a reason. It wasn't them - it was me. And, the best thing is, the only thing I can change is ME.\n\nYou can change yourself. Some things you can't change, but some things you can. Make an effort to have more FRIENDS of the female gender. Be a genuine friend. Don't guilt them over not having sex with you, don't pressure them to date you. You can start out just by being nice to random ones you meet (work, college, etc). Be positive around them. Even if inside you are still bitter - only let the positive out. Eventually someone will appreciate your effort, even if she sees through it. Effort earns a lot of points. Things will fall into place.
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No, why would you feel guilty? No one got hurt, right? You both enjoyed it?\n\nThe only thing you might want to think about is if you are really interested in having a serious relationship with this guy, you might want to slow down a bit.\n\nMost guys don't take "easy" women that seriously.\n\nBut you shouldn't feel guilty at all.