he was my bestfriend.he used to hang out with matured + brainy guys. Then he started to befriend jocks, and his attitude to me changed. He start to insult me. i tried to talk to him but he wont listen. it hurts especially when i realized i had a BIG crush on him. and now, sometimes i hate him for being a jerk, sometimes i remember him 24 a day. tried to forget him but he just pop up, everyday!
201927
It sucks having your friend change before your very eyes (when its not for the better).  If you want to voice your feelings about your crush or your feelings toward his new lifestyle, write him a letter.  You won't forget him because you have many memories.  Just live your life and if he doesn't respond to you.... Well, his loss.  Just remember that you had many other good memories and remember him that way not as a jerk....
379343
I would forget about him. Who wants to be around someone who is so critical and mean. I think that shows the true side to him. Sorry to be harsh: A CREEP! I liked someone, and he was good looking. And he would treat me awful. And I would feel bad all the time. I am glad HE'S OUT OF MY LIFE. What if you married that guy in the future. We marry who we date. I hope you let him go.
665055
YES.  My best friend of about 6 years once dated a girl I couldn't STAND.  (Being female myself, I thought my best friend deserved someone better than her.)  They eventually broke up, and all he could talk about for the next year and a half was how much she hurt him.  I was so tempted to tell him that I never liked her anyway, but I didn't, because I knew if I did, it would cause a rift in our friendship.  It's been awhile since they broke up, and he hasn't had anyone serious since, but I still feel better knowing that I've never said anything hurtful.
99518
My best friend screwed me in the worst way ever. He tried to have me arrested on false charges.\n\nI just walked away from him, I know the worst thing I can do to him is not to tell him what he did, and why it is wrong, he will be an as-hle for the rest of his life and he will screw himself.\n\nI haven't seen him since then, I will not see him in the future. He was a friend until he demonstrated his kind.
407886
It was so hard for me to allow a male to get close to me, my father to give me fatherly hugs, my brothers to give me brotherly nudges.  And then when it came to relationships with guys, I always shut down.  I had a lot of anger for the guy that raped me.  He was a friend of the family, my parent's best friend's son.  I had to pray and give my anger and fear to God.  I couldn't take it anymore.  I felt like I was suffocating!  I hated myself and I hated him more.  After finding someone who understood and did not force ANYTHING and allowed me to set the pace.  It sounds like you may have a guy like I met.  Take your time.  It's ok to take it slow.  It looks like your new friend has the patience to wait for you.  I agree with Kyle above...you take control until you feel comfortable.  Each time won't always be perfect, but eventually it will get better.  Also, in the mean time, counseling always helps!!
519073
Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
642363
From what you said it seem to me what went on with buddies of mine when we were young and stupid. I have had buddies that could not stand their girls. And when the sex got boring it was time to bail. If they heard rumor from the girl's posse that she was thinking of dumping him, or that she had dumped him and he was not told yet. they would do a 360 turn and be the most charming you ever seen. To get her liking them again or take them back. Then they DUMPED HER. So, the official story is that SHE did not dump me, I dumped her. I think that is what he did. She came back, he had the power. And he used it. He was never really into her so much as to be the one to turn on and off the tap. She lost. She better just move on.
353484
ok. so. i'm 14, and i've been in that situation. just forget about him. if he's acting like a jerk, then he's not worth your time. don't make it look like your chasing this guy around. he'll think you're pathetic and just want to mess with you. forget about him. but hey, that's my opinion. oh...and. 13. remember. it's not as if he's actually changed your life in a major way or anything...right? so, yeah. i suggest you ignore him since he only talks about his girlfriend with you, and hang out with your own friends more. i guess it's safe to befriend him again when you're completely over him, but if he still acts like a jerk [even as a friend], then i suggest you just stay away.
535122
well, forget him. it's annoying you, i know. but we don't know what's the problem with him. we never met him anything. you better avoid him and let's see what happens. if you didn't do anything for him to hate you,  then let go. cheer up. don't think about him too much.
221300
just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)
57785
I had this crazy crush on a particular girl (who stayed next to my building and was my junior is school) longtime ago but had to give it up as my best friend was also having a crush on her and he wanted me to help him propose to her.\n\nThe number of crazy thing i did to get her attention where horrible:\n> Once to grab her attention in school, i asked a friend of mine to push me so that i can fall on her as start of a conversation. But my bad luck, i fell on my head mistress. (Guess the rest you ppl can imagine)\n> She used to go for dance class in the evening by bus and i used to make it a point to see she go and come every single day\n> Once one school bully tried to trouble her and i jumped to help her like a superman and ended up getting a black eye. And for the rest of my school year, he and his full gang was wait for a chance to get me.\n\nMust say that i have a long list of crazy things. But the best part is that i cannot believe now that i was such an idiot to do all those crazy things.
6298
Think about grade school. That's how the boys act when they like a girl. I don't know why they do it, but it happens a lot. My first love was 19 and I was 18. I actually couldn't stand him and avoided him every time I'd see him. Eventually, I accepted when he asked me to go to my senior prom. Something clicked like magic, and it was like I was in heaven! We would be together today, but unfortunately, he has passed on. I still think about him all the time, laughing at the insults and meanness, and smiling at all the wonderful times we had together.
99701
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH YOU ARE A STALKER ! You soo remind me of all of my younger friands . Get over him. He is NOT cute. And the chances you are going to hook up with him is one out of like ... a zillion...no INFINITY ! Just find a normal dude instead of someone you'll never meet .Be realistic .
577897
I had the same problem with one of my guy friends. He asked me out and I said no and then he wouldnt leave me alone. I just asked out my crush and he said yes so my guy friend left me alone....Hope that I helped
118246
I felt the same way about my bf, we would argue constantly about things that he would do, and I got fed up one day and I dumped him, then six hours later I took him back, because I realized, I was so sad and I realized that I would argue any day with him, then not have him in my life at all. I love him very much.
533250
I spend i year w/ a guy and we mustve broke up and got back together at least 10 times. i was young and stupid. there was no future and i was blind to that. i just liked the guy and funny thing was about 2 wks before we 1st started dating i hated him, couldnt stand him. funny thing how that all works out. now i dont see him a whole lot, we're just diff ppl. but hes a good guy, makes poor choices in girls tho. guess i just gave him too much and didnt take away enough.
51102
Blessings.\n\nLove, I sympathize with -- and fear for -- you.\n\nI, too, went through that very same thing (eXcept it was an Army recruiter) when I was in high school. He wasn't married, but he flirted with me often, and he even called my house a couple of times. I daydreamed of him in class, and whenever I saw him, there was this overwhelming sensation (read: butterflies in my tummy) that made me giggly. And yes, when he didn't flirt with me (in front of his fellow officers) and chose to flirt with other girls, it did hurt. I was depressed for a while.\n\nSadly, believe it or not, it took me a long time to realize that he and I were never meant to be anything other than close friends. I was a twelfth (12th) grader (17-years-old), and he was in his mid-30s. That's not to say that age was the biggest factor in deciding to just be friends with him... simply, it's to say that I wasn't mature enough (or ready) to handle a committed relationship such as that at that particular time. Also, I became tired (bored, rather) of feeling angry and/or depressed because of him not acknowledging me around others and because of his flirting. If he was really interested in me, he would've made that known. He never did, and so, I found myself not thinking of him as much as I had. Eventually, whenever I saw him, I just said, "Hello," and walked away.\n\nLater, after his inquiry as to why I was giving him the "cold shoulder", I found out that it was only in fun that he flirted with me. I was under the impression that he actually cared for me in a way that friends normally wouldn't, yet he was under the impression that we were both just "playing". He apologized for leading me on, I accepted his apology, and I have not spoken with him since. Sometimes, it's just miscommunication. I didn't appreciate it, but I got over it. Nonetheless, I *do* sympathize with you. Perhaps there is a way you can communicate what you're thinking before it gets to the point where you're left devastated?\n\nWhile we are sharing a similar eXperience, it is also quite different -- the biggest factor in yours being that he is married and probably has a family. You cannot follow your instincts, your 'gut', or your heart in this situation because it doesn't just involve you and this state trooper. This also involves his wife -- the woman he vowed to love, honor, and respect until death separated them. You must take her feelings and thoughts into consideration. Does his wife even know that he flirts with you? And again, just to make sure you aren't under the assumption that he is joking and not being serious, perhaps you should tell him how you feel. Besides, he can only say one of two things... Yes, I feel the same way about you that you feel about me *OR* No, I don't feel the same way about you that you feel about me. It never hurts to ask... y'kno, for clarification...\n\nAll of that being said, I must admit that I am a bit fearful for you. If this man *is* being serious, I would wonder if he's on the border (and we just don't kno it yet) of being a pedophile. You are only 16... Not even of legal age to do much of anything. I would seriously reconsider what it is you are doing with your life. Do you honestly want to be in a "relationship" with him? I shudder at the prospects. God bless!\n\nHope that helped!