my bf and i have been going through rough times lately bc i get mad when he goes out. i don't get mad at the actual fact that he's out, i get upset bc he totally ignores me. i feel as if i don't exist anymore when he's with his friends. he doesn't call me, answer his phone, etc. we decided that maybe we shouldn't be together bc we couldn't come to a conclusion that we could stick with. however, i've been seeing him everyday the past couple of weeks. it's as if we're back together. he still tells me he loves me and i love him. sigh but.. he's been out. gone for the past 2 days. haven't really heard from him so i texted "srry for thinking things would change" and he just replied, "omg don't start this again". i just feel like shit. can someone help me? :(
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you didn't give your age but sounds like you are pretty young.\nsounds like he may care for you but you may be smothering him a bit.  Although it may be hard, give him some space, if you can't trust him, you don't need him anyway.
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If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
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Damn, I wish I had his problems, I am a man and I am going through the exact same thing. It's hard when you want to be with a person and you feel they do not want you. I have tried going on trips just the two of you. If nothing else works ask flat out what is up? This was a good month for me, I got it more than once a week, I still had to beg a few times but at least I got it. I know for a fact it is going to be different this month, I will be begging more but I love her.
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Don't worry about the cause, just get out of the situation. If you're just dating and you fight, then it probably wont get better as the relationship continues. Sorry, but at this point in your lives, he's not the one for you.
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uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
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He may say that he doesn't love you anymore -- but it's probably because he's hurting, too. I'm sure he still cares about you -- he just doesn't want a relationship anymore. And that's hard. But.. even though it may not seem like it now.. you WILL get over him, and you WILL find someone better than you could ever imagine! It just takes time. In the meantime, do something for YOU.. go shopping or hang out with friends. It always helps.:)
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From my own experience, breaking up with someone to "teach them a lesson" usually ends up with you getting hurt. Maybe he's missing you inm his own way, my boyfriend always says that just because he doesn't show his emotions on the outside doesn't mean that he's not hurting on the inside. Maybe he's trying to clean himself up on his own first, it sounds like he needed to gain so independence from you and be a better person without you before he can be friends/ be woth you again. I mean ask yourself, would you wan thim back in the state you left him in? Just give him some time and space and try and enjoy your own
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Dear Am I Being Unreasonable:\n  I know how you are feeling unfortanely I have been in that same situation but I was on the other side. I had a best friend whom I had forever when I started dating this guy.Well the boy friend didnt like that fact that we "hung out" so much. He "just knew" that we were doing something. Well it turns out he was right we were and actually ended up getting married after a long drawn out process. The point Im trying to make is if your boyfriend is keeping things from you and lying then you dont need him. You deserve better. It sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. A realtionship is built on trust (or suppose to be). I haop that I have helped. I have enclose my email and yahoo messenger if you want to hit back at me !!
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I totally understand what you are going through .. it is not easy to lose someone you love .. especially that he is the one who gave up on your relationship .. \n\nSweetie, I want to tell you that you need time, your feelings are hitting bottom low right now and you need time to recover and heal yourself .. his rejection must have hurt you bad and your heart is bleeding right now but even though you don't believe it YOU ARE STRONG .. your quest for help proves that you are stronger than you think.\n\nMy advise to you, take your time to refresh yourself, do things and activities that you like, it is also helpful if you have a best friend (preferrably a SHE) to spend time with and just have fun,\n\nI will be praying for you
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I hate to break it to you, but it sounds like he did....I know the feeling. It sucks. My best advice is to cut him out of your life, find a new hottie, and make sure he KNOWS what he's missing out on. :-) Good luck.
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Move on because your "current" is really not a good bf because he is not there for you.  Women always overanalyze these kinds of things when it is soooo simple.  When a guy wants to be with you, he's there and you never have to feel the way you are feeling.
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i broke up with my bf in october, and it is still so hard for me not to pick up that phone and tell him to come home... he moved everything out and i havent felt like i am at home in my apartment since... its hard for everybody... you just have to let it go for awhile, why don't you call up some friends and go out... you will see, he will be back before you know it.
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Atrabel, I was once in your shoes. When i broke up with my ex which was about 4 years back, i really felt lonely. It took me 2 years to get over her. Guessed I really loved her back then. Loneliness comes because you don't get to do the usual routines with your bf anymore i.e talking on the phone, shopping, etc. In this situation, one might feel depressed and lonesome. But hey, I was lucky I have good friends to support me. You don't have to do those things with your bf, you can share it with your friends and family instead. It might feel weird for the meanwhile, but trust me, u'll get over it in no time. Time will heal the wound, and if u need love... families and friends will do. They give tremendous sense of security. In the mean time, don't just sit there doing nth. Go out and meet new people, make new friends! There are so many things that you can enjoy doing urself as well. I've been single ever since, and i'm still happy. Time will tell when I'm ready for a steady relationship :) all the best sweetie!
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reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
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Your right to be concerned.  It sounds like this guy is all talk and no action.  If he really loved you and wanted to be with you then he would.  Right now it sounds like this is just a game for him with you being his back up.
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He sounds immature.  Ask yourself if you  are better off with him or without him.  Sounds to me like without would be the way to go.\n\nI just ended a 7 year relationship - so don't feel alone in this.  I feel sad at times but am getting my life back together without his head games and am feeling at peace\n\nGood luck
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First, did he tell you he went? If so and youre still upset, then you might wanna explore WHY this bothers you so much. He came home to you, right? If it's something he enjoys, why not let him go? Either way, have a talk with him and let him know your feelings.\n\nIf he didnt tell you he was going (or went - sometimes this stuff happens on a whim), then I feel you on feeling disrespected since it would appear he was doing something shady.\n\nAt any rate, Id have a talk with him...non-accusatory, respectful, etc...dont get him defensive because youll get nowhere...\n\nGood luck :-)