I love this guy and I keep thinking about him. I can't get over him even though he's hurt me so many times yet I still love him. What should I do?
210355
Start listing all the crappy things he has done to you in the past.Take that list and hang in on your bathroom mirror and every morning for the next two weeks go over that list... if you remember anything new , add to it. Then ask yourself these questions...Is he really a lovable person? Is he even worth your time? Is he worth the time you have wasted on him already? Or is he just a total jerk? Would you ever want a daughter of yours to date him? If that doesn't get him outta your head then I don't know what will. Aren't you worthy of better?
100419
Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
468411
Ya get over him. You just gotta realize that in the grand scheme of things he is insignificant. He may have hurt you but people hurt eachother all the time. You yourself have probably hurt someone at some point. Everything that happens does so for a reason. You learned a hard lesson on what not to look for in a man and hopefully you picked up on that lesson and it will make the rest of your life easier. Life is what you make it and you can choose to live in the past or to take each lesson you learn along the way and create a wonderful future.
355729
That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!
90969
you're lingering over old feelings and sometimes that's natural, especially if you felt really strongly for this person.  your best bet though is to move on and try to find some interests that will help you take your mind off of him.  wish you luck.
23848
i know that it hurt and it way take time to get over him. it hurt because you put your feeling inside this relationship an you thought that yall was going to be together. you will be ok. so smile.
139378
Listen to your heart. Give him a chance & give you a chance also. If you keep being afraid as now, you could never be in love again. But does he really love you?
233553
NO!! i think that you should just move on...if he's done it once he'll do it again and again!! i know that's its gonna be hard to move on but any guy that makes you cry and worry more than laugh and be happy isn't worth your time no matter how much you love him..it'll hurt at first but once you let go you'll be relieved!!
80474
I think you should probably try to move on.  Spending so much time caring for someone who doesn't feel the same way is heartbreaking, I know from experience.  So date other people, make more friends, whatever it takes to get your mind off him.  If God truly wants the two of you to be together, he'll wake up and see how wonderful you are.  If not, there's someone else out there for you! You seem young, so you have a lot of years to find that special someone.  In the meantime, don't waste time with someone who doesn't deserve your attention.\n\nGood luck!  :)
62576
Never go for someone who is still holding on to an ex. Now, don't get me wrong...there are times when I still think about my ex's, but it doesn't mean I'm still in love with them, but we did share something that's undeniable. I gave them a piece of my heart, and you can't really take that back. So, if he's still in love, you need to give him time to find closure, but if he just thinks about her once in a blue moon, it's okay to go for it, help him get his mind off of her.
64336
If you can't get over it then don't. It's just the same as if you are physically attracted to him but have problems with his personality, it won't last and soon you will loose more and more interest in him.
525016
When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
586942
It takes time to get over someone that you have loved and trusted so deeply. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but it is true. The last thing that you need to do right now is to jump into another relationship. Take your time and let love happen to you again in its own time. In the mean time try to occupy your time with other things and don't dwell on missing him so much. I know its easier said than done but trust me in time it will get better.
142177
if you fought so much, ask yourself, do you truly love him? is he right for you? if the answer is yes, you should probably follow your heart and try to win him back, but if the answer is no, the just forget him, and move on, since each experiences in life only make you a stronger person
160122
The best advice to give to you is just keep seeing him then you will eventually tire of him and you will stop having feelings for him coz if you stop seeing him now it will just torment you..the same thing happened to me and I got the courage to walk away once I couldnt take anymore.
226748
when you really like someone such thoughts dont come in your head. They are away, on vacantion, you head is bisy with Him and next meeting with him. \nHeart beating is nothing, it is only time result. If you want check just come at home and try to spend around 1 week without him and try dont think about him. date with someone other or just meet with friends, and then you'll see, what he really means for you.
72165
If you haven't met this guy yet, you could just be in love with the fantasy of him. It's okay to let him know that you think about him. I would try to get a idea of what his feelings are for you first.