I have ridden bycicles before but it has been a little while now (8 years ago) My husband of 3 years has this idea of riding bikes together for excersice and fun.I know it's fun,but I am so worried about what other people might think and I feel a little awkward even thinking about it. I got hang ups big time. How do I get over the hang ups, and how do I force myself to accept this new hobby of my husbands that he wants me to enjoy? I'm 28 years old, I feel old!
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What would people think?  Beleive me, people aren't spending their time worried about your exercise habits, and even if they were, what difference does that make to you?  I think it's grand that your hubby wants to spend more quality time with you.  Don't be self-conscious, have a good time!
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I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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Oh you too hah sista girl.   I agree with Malfean,....deep within (and if you are honest with yourself), you would like to know what it would be like to experience a sexual encounter with this individual you're fantasizing about. Been there and came damb close; however, I've realized that.... this was all I pictured him for (sex and a little intimatcy....hugging - kissing)....there was nothing else....no visions of hangging with friends together, walking in the park, dinner and the movies, sitting up together on the sofa having good dilogue about whatever, bringing the paycheck home to you (hello..).... it was just sex, good sex, more sex and sex....I tried picturing doing other things with him and the imaganation didn't go that far....why???.....well, your soul mate (and that's your husband) have and will probably always supply you with those little things that truely matters. The things mentioned above (hangging together..etc.) will go farther than a good quick fix in the sack. I know it's just fantacy...but sometimes you have to see it for what it truely is...you'll realize it means nothing...so let it go.\n \nNow sometimes our spouses becomes less attractive to us over the years depending on how much they have let themselves go in appearance or how lazy and boring they may have become,...so we fantasize about someone who is just the opposite of your spouse; however, I've learned that if I'm to be in this thing 'til death do us part', I benefit more by talking to him (my spouse) about what we can do to make daily interaction with each other more exciting.... therefore, bring that excitement to the bedroom later on.....\n\nGirrrrllll...look at me giving advise about something I need to work on myself....but non the less, I know it's what I need to do to keep thoughts of other men out of my head when I'm with my husband. (Oooh, I did say other MEN hah....ummm...I mean that man...)..SMILE!!!!.... It's working though.\n\nSo good so far. It may get tough at times, but keep your interaction with each other positive and exciting...laugh a lot...it helps.
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Your wondering what would the road not travel have been like? There is nothing wrong with you or your marriage. Please don't feel guilty. However may I suggest you think of ways to spice up things in your marriage. Thinking up of these things might bring back some of the specialness feeling. It will definiatley leave less time to think of the x boyfriend.
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Get over it, deal with the pain, and move on! I was married to a woman for 25 years, and one day when I came home from work, she had moved out and moved in with another man, just like that. It hurt  like crazy, but I dealt with the pain, and moved on. Never been happier in my entire life!!!
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Since you had a traumatic experience with riding bikes when you earlier tried it----Ride with a pro experienced rider with your OWN bike---better if its equipped with basics ( good brakes, platform pedals, use sneakers for quick dabs,a well fit helmet)----its best to ride where there is zero distractions ( pedestrians, joggers, baby kids on strollers)----make sure you learn with caution and when you accomplish your mission---RIDE THE WIND!
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I used to practically beg my ex-husband for it... then, after I asked for a divorce, he told me that he was watching movies every night after I went to bed.  (I had no clue & felt so dumb!)  He said that it was because when he was with me it didn't last long (it didn't, maybe 15-20 seconds).  When he, um, took matters into his own hands, he could prolong matters and it felt better.  Then he asked for my help.  It opened the door of communication, I helped with "exercises", but we still divorced.  I was emotionally over him and just drained.  I felt like he lied to me for too many years and he was being selfish.  Don't wait.  Get help now, before it's too late....  What a waste!  We both enjoyed sex - it could have been so much better.
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Not sure if im late here but here it goes.\n\nIt's ok to be confused because youre in the learning stages there are many things to experience like what the guy above me said.\n\nI've had 3 long term relationships at your age, and now 10 years later, when I see my ex's we laugh about all those crazy fights we had.\n\nJust take a deep breath and look out into the horizon, 10 years from now you'll just realize how funny this all was.\n\nOh course you love him, I loved all my ex's too and I;ve talked about marriage to all of them funny thing is, time makes breaking up less cloudy.\n\nAnd yes you are hanging onto him because of the memories and all the experiences you shared. But remember people don't grow when things are stagnant.\n\nYou're here for a reason, and its either to get validation for breaking up with him. Or understanding why you feel the way you do, so why do you feel the way you do??? \n\nI guess I missed your last post, but Im gonna assume its because youre not happy. Listen to the guy above me and go out there and live life!!!
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As long as he really does love you and is just looking out for your health then I would say that his request isn't unreasonable.  He sounds like he just wants you to be healthier for your own good.  The best thing I can suggest is to do something that is fun for you.  You can be far more successful and get a lot more out of doing something that you find enjoyable.  Like maybe take a dancing class, or join a team sport or take a self defense class (Karate, Aikido, etc.) or even just going out walking or hiking........ya know.......something that is both fun for you to do and athletic.  If you find going to the gym and doing reps and sets of weights boring then you're not really going to do it for very long.  But, doing some sort of excercise that you love to do will get you in much better shape and you'll be able to stick with it alot easier.
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I've totally been there. It sounds weird to people that haven't, but it takes some getting used to. Don't think he's weak, or trying to trick you...just appreciate & enjoy it. What did I do? Well I married him!
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I know exactly how you feel!  I've avoided relationships for a long time because I was afraid of getting hurt.  I've been with my current guy for a little less than a year now and it's been the most anxiety-filled year that I've had in a long time.  There were many times when I almost felt like running away because the fear was overwhelming.  But the thing that makes me stay is the realization that in order to get the things I want most in life (not just in relationships) takes an amount of risk.  If we play it safe all the time, we'll never get hurt, but life would be bland.
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Hi, \n\nIt probably sounds a lot worse than it is, I am guessing you are nearing your 40s or around that age? (sorry!!)\n\nI would think your husband is going through the male menopause where he is questioning his life and if he is really satisfied, these "women" obviously make him feel young again.\n\nIf I were you I would show him he has a loving wife who will be there for him whereas the girls are just a figment of his imagination, \n\nThanks, \nAnd best of luck!!
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you're not crazy, but i encourage you to talk to your husband about your feelings. once this is out in the open, it can be taken care of. tell your hubby you feel badly about the way you feel, and you're coming to him for his help. also, avoid the other guy as much as possible.
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Sounds like you're hanging with people you're not happy with.  Why not explore different venues.  Different places, different people.\n\nExplore other things of interest to you.  What do you enjoy doing?  Gym? Skiing?  Blading? Cycling? Dirt biking? Computers? Reading?  What do you like to do?  When you make a list of things that interest you, check out community centres, clubs, etc., and join up.  There are more people out there who are more like yourself. :-)\n\nSurely, there are more types of people than those who just want your body. :p  Good luck on that!
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As a guy, I know that I want to be the one to give my wife what she wants. I don't want to be nagged, or reminded of how I messed up and didn't give her what she needed. (not to say you are doing this, but some women do) I think you need to back off. Let him miss you a little. Start doing things you enjoy with friends, or by yourself. Let him want to join your club. Or do something hot and freaky, and keep him coming back for more. Either way this should open things up.
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The question you need to answer is WHY are you having a big problem reaching a clim** with your wife?  Have you talked with her about what's going on with you?  How do you think SHE feels?  Put ROMANCE into your marriage ... ask her if she'll dress up especially for you and see if that makes a difference.  It may also help you to seek professional help, but with your feeling "old" at 57 (which ISN'T!) I think you and your wife have just gotten into a rut.  Good luck!
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Nah you're never too old. Although it is easier to learn new things as a kid. I'm sorry but I've never ridden one...well I take that back, I tried standing on one once and fell flat on my butt...in front of my friends! Good luck though, enjoy!