my girlfriend wants to have a relationship where we go see other people but we don't have sex with them, I really dont get it how that's gonna work, does anyone have any idea of what this relationships are and where they end?
215549
go ..have your relationship like she wants...just dont tell her you did all those girls you "dated"
192535
If you both agree on that arrangement, yes it is ok.  When and if either one of you find someone else then just be friends only (no sex).  Good luck usually in cases like this one or the other catches feelings.
671036
i think it depends on age and what you want from a relationship.has this person got no interest in sex or is that just sex with you.by you asking this question you have doubts about being with this person, if nothings going  to change and you want it to, maybe you should think about splitting with this person and remaining good friends with them.\nas for me, coz im not the norm and if i really loved them,i would stay with them.
632589
I dont think that you want to have sex with someone that SIMPLY wants to have sex with you.  Plus you dont want to be insulted and called fat.  You want what it is that you want, including someone that cares about you and wants to further something with you.  You can get sex anywhere.
134490
That is the worst idea I have ever heard.  Why would she want him to have sex with other people? Sounds like she has some issues and that is not a healthy lifestyle for you to be getting into. Since you are asking, I would say deep down you probably have your own reservations about it and know the answer already.
391874
It means that he wants to have his cake and eat it too. If you two are supposed to be in a monogamous relationship, then you need to confront him about it immediately. He is clearly going outside your relationship and looking to date other women.  I'm sorry you found out the way you did, but that happened to me too. Drop him as fast as you can and don't look back if you want a 1x1 relationship. If you want to see other people too, then insist he be honest with you and just keep it casual with him. Good luck!
618974
Every girl you'll ever meet has a past. How can you get around that? If you didnt know this about your GF and BF before, how is that possible? And that leads to other questions you have to answer to - (for yourself, thanks)\n1. how does it really, (really) matter to you that they - if they did - had sex earlier in life?\n2. whom is the most important for you of the two? whom do you want to have a future relationship to?\n\nIf you care for her - you stay with her and keep the friendship with your friend.
146003
Holy crap, that makes no sense...\n\nBTW, if she is sleepin with someone else, she is hardly your "girlfriend", sounds more like the town whore....
117133
The sex fades long after the friendship dies.\nThat's why it's very important to have a good relationship with your other.\nMy girlfriend is my best friend.
273600
Simply, she doesnt want to be committed.  She wants to be "friends with benefits".  Something she doesnt feel tied down to.  Why that is, is up to her, really.  Was her last relationship that bad, maybe?  Does she want to not be exclusive to one person?  An honest conversation would do wonders.
325489
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years.....we were each others firsts and everything....I still LOVE being intimate with him....We spice things up by like getting into Kama Sutra or a video....we actually went into a porn store yesterday together it was fun....Definitely encourage her to play with herself....i never knew until i found out for myself...i dunno how comfortable she is about this subject, but she can email me if she'd like help
465929
" and I have a boyfriend that tonight told his friend to basically have sex with me...."\n\n???WTF?? There is a word for people like that- dang girl- get your head out of whatever dark place it is in and get rid of both of them..neither one of them respect you..why don't you respect yourself
173844
Your friend is an idiot.\n\nI won't date any woman who refuses to have sex with me. I also won't date a married woman.  Either one of these disqualifies the woman as dating material for me.\n\nLet's deal with married part first. I'll never understand why people start something with someone who is in a committed relationship.  That means the one in the relationship is cheating, and it's only a matter of time before you're in a commited relationship with this cheater, only now the cheater is cheating on *you*.  And the fact that the cheater cheats on his current spouse, even with no sexual contact, tells me that their religion can't be used to explain their behavior, because they only want to apply the rules of their religion when it suits them.\n\nNow lets talk about the "sexless monogamy" part of this. The reason why people "date" is because they are sexually attracted to each other.  If this doesn't lead to actual sexual contact and activity pretty quickly then what was the point?  Remember, this woman has already lost the right to claim that her holding out has something to do with her marriage vows or her religion, because she is in fact seeing other people.\n\nIf you are just friends, then why the pretense of dating?  If this "seeing each other" includes romance, and him paying for her in a lot of ways, but no sex, then she's just exploiting him.\n\nYour friend is a clueless dumbass, and I think you are 100% right to think she is just leading him on.
642827
She's on the other side of the world!. What are the possibilities of you and her seeing each other?. I may be wrong for saying this,but I think you should find someone closer to home. I don't think she wants to hang on to the relationship,she wants to keep you from seeing someone else,and who's to say she is'nt involved in another relationship right now?. I would 'nt wait 6 months to see a so-called boyfriend,and he's not going to wait for me!. Both of you should move on. Pick cherries in your own back yard.
145106
i think the relationship defines itself, people get in to trouble with words, after all they are just words.  what the relationship is will be defined by actual events and actions, regardless of the words.  how many people do you know who hear 'i love you' and are treated like something far less than a loved one? if you feel the need to have it defined in words just say where is this going? if it freaks him out and he leaves it wasn't going anywhere but the bedroom anyway. good luck
464162
I know exactly what this is about.  I had sex with one of my coworkers and see him everyday.  I do not think of sex when I see him, we had a bad break up and the sight of him actually makes me sick.  If your girlfriend wanted him still she would be with him.  You cannot judge her by her past.  The problem is you not her, if you dont trust her you cant be with her.  If you cannot get over this you can't be together.  Have a little more self esteem, you should look at it as if he was all that she wouldn't be with you.  good luck
320219
Probably not.  Maybe they see the way you and your girlfriend get along (fighting all the time, verbal abuse, or maybe you have a one sided relationship).  Maybe they see how your girlfriend treats you, like you do everything for her and she has you wrapped around your finger, so they feel like she's using you.  If they were jealous then I would think that you spend a lot more time with your girlfriend and not with your friends and your relationship with your girlfriend is something they want because they see perfection.  Is this relationship something where the two of you feel inseparable and love spending time with one another?  Then maybe they could be just a little jealous, but for some reason, I feel that this may not be the case if you are asking.  They probably know more of what you don't see or notice. Others usually can observe and pick up on the wrong things when you yourself, cannot.  Usually that is the way it goes.  It's called being "Naive" to the relationship.