We have been together for four years now, and i don't know how much longer that i can feel like I'm with the wrong guy. I do love him very much I'm just not "in love" with him.
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The two of you need weekends away. I don't know your financial status but I would suggest getting out of town. You don't have to go far and it doesn't have to be expensive. Just include new sights and sounds and feelings and pleasures. You could even do that in your own home if you can't afford to get far away.\nDon't go to Vegas or other places that have too many distractions. This is time for you two to be together and talk and re-light that candle of passion and love
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You are not married. Don't feel as tied down as you currently do. I think you guys need a timeout. Stay away from each other for any time between 2 weeks to a month. See how you feel about him then. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts. But state clearly to him that you guys will not see other people during this time period. It's only a timeout. You just need some time to get your thoughts together. Also, you guys have been together for 2 years. I think you will find a way to work out this issue. Best of luck.
100106
you had the answer in the question itself "he makes me feel comfortable and warm and loved. " ther is always a conflict between the mind and the heart. your heart makes you belive you are in love and you need him. but ur mind thinks differently. in your case it is the hight level of interdependence you two hav created made you feel that way. \nwell. i gues it is time for you to move on, give other men a chance. and always strognly belive. "someone some where is made for you" pray that God showws you direction towards the right one. best o!!!
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im on your situation and the thing that i could share and say is you still love him...are u realy thinking bout the bad situation or the times youve been with each other....u know 7 months is too long for recovery but i think you havent really forget him yet...
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Talk it over and be frank about how you're feeling. I do hope you don't talk like you spell. It could be disatrous!!!\n7 months is too short to get so hooked on a guy! God made plenty to go around girl.. get a grip and move on if you are feeling unstable but dont let it hamper all of your other relationships.
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You should tell him the truth, that you are not ready for this long term relationship, and that you think he would be happier with someone else. It is just too much for you at this point and you should tell him that, and how he can't pressure you in to anything you don't want to do. Tell him you care about him deeply but that you dont feel the same way as him. He might say that if you cared for him that you wouldn't do this, but it is because you care and you want him to be happy. Stand your ground and don't give in to guilt.
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Hi, \nThe last thing I would do would be to encourage you, only to see you get hurt. \n\nIf you have feelings that he still cares about you, then check it out further. You might want to try writing him a letter and let him know how you feel. You will be taking a chance, but if things work out, it will be worth it. \n\nAlso, revisit the reasons the two of you are not together now. We tend to forget the bad and only remember the good, so if you feel it is worth a try in your heart, then by all means, go for it. \n\nThere is a possibility he may feel the same way about you. \n\nGood luck, and I hope things work out for you. \n\nDarryl S.
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its normal to feel dat..i once like dat..bt i get over\nit..cz no use of thinking bout it..it wont change anything..4me..the moment he let me go..i decided to let him get out of my heart too..its hurt..takes years to 4get cz he's my 1st bf..dat time i was15,nw went im 19 he came back to me asking 4 patch..bt its to late..i get over him already..bt we still be gd fren till nw..  BT..if u  choose NOT to 4gt bout him its ok..cz im still in love wif my ex..he is my 2nd ex,althought its been 2yrs..i still love him n thinks bout him alot..althought we cant be 2gether our frenship is still gd...\nalthought we doesnt talk or meet often..i know deep in his heart he still love me..evn if he didnt say..n i still love him like the way U DID..\nits ok to love although he cant see..as long as it doesnt affect ur daily living..n take care of ur health
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don't feel guilty just because your dating someone doesn't mean you can't like other people your probably like 18 years old trust me the guy your with now isn't going to be the guy your with in 5 years, so look around you may end up finding the guy you're truly meant to be with
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Yes, but you are aware of a different communication going on.  The one from him to you. Plus, this relationship is different from your others, so it's going to feel different.  The chemistry is there, you just have to learn to understand this new form of communication.  It's different with everyone.  Good luck!!!
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oh no, I love my guy and we have had it rough over the last eight months, we work it out. our love is stronger than any fight, but you have to really really know you love him and he love you for it to work.
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it sounds like you still love him have you tried talking to him about any of this. i think you should confess your love for him
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Ah...this is an age-old question. Not an easy answer on this either. Does he feel the same way about you? Would you be willing to give up all that you have to be with him, knowing you can't go back if things fall apart? I know I'm not answering your question but giving you more questions. This is something you have to follow in your heart.
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ive been with my partner for 21 years now and i still wonder about the one that got away and what he is upto now and who he is with,i dont think you ever get over certain men.he will always have that place in your heart and thats o.k
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this is how I felt for a while but i have a girlfriend now ( I'm bisexual) It's like you don't know if you are in love or not. I would just do what you think is best for you if that helps any
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hi,first of all u knew from the start that what you did was wrong.i think you love him and i think u see something that u did'nt see in other man but u need to accept the truth that he will not be your's forever.he already belong to someone else and i think what should u do is to hang-out with your friends and meet people and try to forget him and someday the right guy will come along and you will be surprise.have faith and respect to yourself.u deserve to be happy! and there are millions of guy in this world so don't waste your beauty and time to him.goodluck
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Not wanting to start over is never a reason to stay in a relationship. 30 years old is still young. You didn't say what kind of troubles you had. Did he cheat? Was he abusive? Think of it this way: Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with this one man? Forget about feeling comfortable in the relationship because you have been together 4 years. Aside from all of that, you need to ask yourself if you can truly see yourself being happy with this guy for the rest of your life. If the answer is no, then maybe you need to take some time away from the relationship. Or maybe you are just going through a bored phase now that things are back to normal and there is no drama anymore. Just think deep within your heart and you should be able to find the answer. Good Luck!