how can i tell if i'm gay or not
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sticking d ildos in your a s shole
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Is this a case of striving for the "easier" option?  From your question it seems like you recognise that you ARE gay but would wish for the "simplicity" of a "normal" life. Fantasy can be all consuming, but that doesn't make it REAL. \n\nI would certainly advocate your seeking counsel - to get at the root of your depression and loss of libido.  I wouldn't go so far as to tell you to look to becoming "straight", however.  Should that be the outcome of your treatment, so be it. \n\nYou are what you are: gay, straight or somewhere in between.  Once you both know and accept yourself (and your sexual orientation), you'll be able to move forward with your life, enjoying the journey into old age.  Moreover, you'll look back at this dreadful time and draw so many positives from it - Pride in having survived, emotional resilience and the tools to not only look at life but LOVE IT & LIVE IT!\n\nMy very best wishes to you, in finding your answers.
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You don't know and may not.\nIf you are interested in someone romantically and just want to know if he is available, ask him if there is any chance of you becoming romantically involved.\nThis sidesteps the gay issue and cuts to the core of your need to know.
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tell them you're gay.
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You say there's nothing wrong with being gay. Tell your brother that and then tell him that you think he might be gay because of what he said to your friend. There's nothing like being up front with people for getting an honest answer. You'll just have to trust him to be honest back.\n\nFirst person I came out to was my brother. He had no idea I was gay but everybody knew he was okay with gay people so I trusted him. He didn't betray my trust and he was way cooler about the whole thing than I could have hoped. Good luck with your bro :-)
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There is no way to know if a girl is gay or not. All woman look and dress their own way. We all sorta look alike in our own ways.\nGirls may think your a nice person and friendly. Theres nothing wrong with that. If they are trying to pick you up .\nIn a nice way you need to let them know your really not in to that kind of thing. They will understand.
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im a gay 16 year old goth and no one can tell that im gay. i have a normal deep voice i usualy go out and vandilize destroy  property and get drunk every weekend my parents allow it. listen to heavy and black metal. do things that can get me seriously injured and because of my dangerous way of life i guess people dont suspect me of being gay. so theres realy no certain way that you can tell.
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first of all if you are sexually aroused by both male and females then you are bi, but if you are only sexually arroused by somebody of the same sex you are then you are gay.\n\nI would suggest going to a gay bar and going onto a date with sombody, not for sex, but to see if you feel more comfortable in a gay relationship first.
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In my opinion do what makes you happy.If your gay your gay if your bi your bi your sexuality has nothing to do with who you are as a human being,people will either understand or they won't but at least you'll know who your true friends are.If your family can't except you as you are then do they trully love you????
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Drs Master and Johnson in their study of human sexuality found that most people are a mix of gay and hetero.\n\nGo explore yourself, and love what you find, and you will be OK.
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There really isn't any way to know for sure..  \nMost of the time we kinda have an idea if someone is gay but there are some individuals that are very good at hiding their "tendencies".    You should try to become their friend, strike up a conversation about a book, movie, the weekend coming up, etc, etc--  Try to get to know them as a person.   There are many people out there, specially in H.S. that just because they don't like a person, rumors/lies are made up!! I'm pretty sure u have heard some rumors about yourself that you know are just lies!!!  So don't believe everything u hear.
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At times,  especially when you are younger, you don't have control over an erection. If you don't have feelings for men then I doubt you are gay. Although you may have been embarassed at the time, it doesn't mean anything. You may have been excited or had a rush of adrenaline from a game or practice. When I was 15, I would be sitting in Math class doing algebra and things would "pop up" for no  reason.  It's normal.
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It's natural to be gay/bi, but that's not an answer I can give you.  A clue, though, is if you really desire making love with the same sex.  Sexual desires are one thing, but true homosexuality is a love thing.  If you love females in that way, you may be gay.  You may be predominantly gay with a slight turn toward the heterosexual (hence, your sexual but not loving attraction to boys).  In the end, however, it is your decision.  I can only offer advice.
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sweetie, \n\n think long and hard about it, and look at it like this: Do you like chicks? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? ok now think bout this: Do you like Boys? Can you see yourself with one? Would it make you happy? \n\nnow honestly which idea do you like better? \n\nthere are lots of support groups out there for bisexual, homosexuals and hetrosexuals, that deticate they're time from trained volunteers and peeps that have been there that would be gald to talk to you and help you figure out and be there to support you no matter what decsion you've made, always remember you have to do what your heart tells you, and always be happy and do what will make you happy, then your not failing yourself and you must remember that others are not you and they can't make the desicion for you and they shouldn't influence you, this is something you have to do on your own for yourself. \n\nso be straight, be bi, be gay, just remember most importantly be happy and be you its better in the
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Being a caring person doesn't mean you are gay. You are gay if you want to have sex with other guys. If you want to have sex with other guys but also want to have sex with girls you are bi.
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i think you ARE gay.  I can tell by the frivolous nature of the answers and questions you post.  You may even be a flaming homosexual.  More power to ya'.\n\nLoL\n\nSsssssssssuper!!\n\nPeace Out
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If you flat out ask him, it could be awkward for both of you. Maybe you should be a little bit stronger in your hints and say something along the lines that, even though you are straight, you wouldn't mind having a gay friend and ask him if he has ever known anyone who is gay. Most gay people have the feeling that it is killing them inside before they come out, so even if he doesn't open up to you right away remain a close friend. If he is gay, your friendship will mean a lot to him.