i have been thinking why this mormon woman cant marry outside her religion why not she told me she couldent marry outside of it is there something that she cant or wont tell me as why she cant i love here very much can anyone tell me why that she cant when i ask her she starts to cry i didnt say nothing to make her cry i just asked her why she couldnt marry out of the mormon church she never said nothing but she could not why is that what is wrong many others marry in other religions she wont say why not now i am confused why she cant now i need advise on this please good advise thank you all ?
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if you truley love this woman and she loves you ,you have put this woman in a very hard spot with her family, church as well her faith in the mormon  church , as i know the church would rather her marry in there church not out of it why if you join and decide to leave it they will find a way to interseed into your marrage why you would no longer be a member of it the lds church and if her family are mormons she is torn between you as well her family,s way in the church what i understand many would incourage her to divorce you and find a active member to marry her after she was divorced from you if there are children involved that would make it even harder on her as well the children the church would rather have both parents in church the mormon church i mean to let them be in one thing growing up mormon as well doing there missionary work that is expeceted by the church as well by there mormon parents as well i really dont know what to say on this matter except one thing you are not married yet and out of the blue something is already going wrong i truly feel sory for her as well as you if she was raised in the church and you leave you in time an count on being divorced ,this is one time i am at a lose for an answer on this matter others have posted truth on it this i know to be fact by opion she is the one that is in between love, as well family, as well her religion, may god bless you both ,?
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yeah...only the orthodox monks cannot be married....and for the person that answered before me: how can u say something like that that?
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I think I might have an answer to part of your question, if I may. Of course, I can only speak from my own experience, but here goes. Maybe the reason we don't post questions about our relationships with our spouses, friends, family & other such issues is that we get our help from the Lord. We have His big book of answers, that helps guide us along our way. We also have each other, being connected by the same Spirit. We pray, asking God for guidance. We go to our Pastor's, asking for deeper answers from parts of the Scriptures that we're not acquainted quite so well with. You see, some issues need to be given into God's hands. You've seen some of the dating & relationship posts here...would you trust your relationship issue with most of the people that post on those sites? It's not intriguing when you think about it. But, one of the reasons I come to this site is to use my years of various experiences to help people. I don't always use Scripture, because it's not always required, especially when someone wants to know how to get wine stains out of their carpeting. Or how to get their two year old to talk. Things like that are practical, everyday experiences. Being that I've been married for over 28 years, raised two kids to adulthood, and have a mess of other experiences, I can help people...and I do. And yes, I am a "devout" Christian. I treat everyone with respect and answer every question carefully, even the ones that are nasty or just plain goofy. It's part of my nature to treat everyone as I would hope they treat me. For the most part, if you give respect, you get it back. This forum is a wonderful, yet scary thing. Through this site, I'm getting a different view of the world than the evening news ever could give me. There are just so many hurting young people out there, and I want to reach out to them. It's more than just the "mom" in me, it's the Lord Who is in me. Everything that gets to me has to go through Him first. I hope this helped answer your intrigues. <*)))><
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about polygamy and polyandry:\n\nAmong the numerous misconceptions about Islam, is that it is the only religion that permits polygamy, and that Muslims are the only people who might practice it. On the contrary, polygamy was never prohibited in Judaism and Christianity, until a few centuries ago. Besides the fact that most of the prophets mentioned in the Old Testament were polygamous - both Jews and Christians practiced polygamy throughout a long period of their history. However, when examining the teachings of both faiths, neither Christianity nor Judaism provided clear guidelines and regulations in regards to this practice. \n\nIn contrast with Judaism and Christianity, Islam dealt with polygamy more clearly. It provides legal requirements that restrain it, to a certain extent and this amounted to the discouragement of practicing polygamy. \n\nFirst of all, you should know that the general norm in Islam is monogamy and not polygamy. Also, the position of Islam towards polygamy is that it is neither mandatory nor encouraged, but merely permitted. More importantly, the permission to practice polygamy is associated with compassion towards widows and orphans, and is not associated with mere sexual satisfaction. Allah says:\n\nIf ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice. \nSurah 4 Verse 3\n\nIt is evident that the association of "polygamy" with Islam is not only unfair or biased but based on a serious misunderstanding. Polygamy was practiced, often without limitations nor regulations , in almost all cultures. It was sanctioned by various religions, and practiced, both before Islam, and for many centuries thereafter. The Mormons presently practice it - though secretly. Christian missionaries, in Africa and other areas, where polygamy is a social necessity, also allow it. \n\nIt is both, honest and accurate, to say that it was Islam that regulated this practice, limited it, made it more humane and instituted equal rights and status for all wives. What the Qur’anic decrees amount to, taken together, is a discouragement of polygamy, unless necessity for it exists.’ \n\nNow, we come to the main part of your question; which is why in Islam polygamy is permissible, whereas polyandry (a woman marrying more than one man) is prohibited. I believe that the answer has many dimensions, which are related to the physical nature of woman and her position in the society. \n\nYet, above all reasons, comes the fact that polygamy fits within the framework of the purpose of shari`a (Islamic law), whereas polyandry goes directly against its objectives. The purpose of revealing shari`a was to serve the interests of people (masalih al-`ibad). \n\nAccording to scholars of Islam, these interests are preserving:\nBelief (deen) \n\nLife (an-nafs) \n\nIntellect and reason(al-`aql) \n\nWealth (al-maal) \n\nFamily and lineage (an-nasl) \nAll the rules, regulations, and laws in the Islamic legal system are dedicated to preserve these five major interests. They are known as the five ultimate objectives (al-kuliyaat al-khams). \n\nHence, the rules and regulations related to marriage and polygamy were drawn to preserve an-nasl (family and lineage). The wisdom of preserving an-nasl is to assure the recognition of the right lineage of people and their children, by which the social kinship and social network is kept sound and stable. \n\nSince lineage through the fathers is hard to demonstrate compared to mothers, it would be saved and preserved through polygamy. On the other hand, it would be impossible through polyandry. In the case of polygamy, the father of a child is always known and therefore the lineage is easily determined. As for the case of polyandry, the father is not necessar
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Your in a tough situation, because your GF has got loyalties tied between two things at the moment. You and her religion ( and we both know those two subjects don't go well hand in hand). I am guessing your GF would be questioning allot at the moment, there is nothing that you can say to ease her mind really because its such a delicate situation which involves you. I would just tell her that you understand that she is going through a bit at the moment, and understands if she needs space, but tell her you do love her and you will stand by her what ever her decision. Just make sure that your there for her emotionally and physically because she will be having a hard time at the moment. Religion is very important to some People its only up to her if she can choose love over her religion. I hope she does : ) \nThe best of luck to the both of you
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What is Abduladu interest in this woman?\nI notice most of his post are pro-Mormon.\n\nTell me Abduladu are you Mormon?\nHave you been on a mission trip?\nDo you know this lady?\nAre you or do you know Matthew Vanderpool?\n\nWhat she did was wrong but the brand of compassion you and other Mormons are showing her, doesn’t speak well of your church either.\n\nYou must admit it is a questionable practice to send young boys un accompanied by a female into homes of unsuspecting stay at home moms\n\n2 Tim 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,\n3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,\n4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;\n5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.\n6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,\n7Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.\n\nProblems like this arise all the time as a result of that practice. You might do better to reconsider the practice than to condemn this lady. One can hardly help but imagine what Jesus would do. My suggestion is that only the Mormon who is without sin throw the first stone.\n\nAs for you joann_46er, you would do better to forget this boy, repent of what you have done, pray the forgiveness of your husband and kids even if he doesn’t take you back. If you confess your sins and ask him, God will forgive you. This will hurt for a long time but you will get over it. Be responsible and take the results of your acts as deserved outcomes. Be humble and contrite. Who knows your husband with Gods grace and power and time might be forgiving. Many who have read your post are praying for your forgiveness’, your reunification with your family if that is Gods will and His grace in your life. More importantly you should join us in praying for the best possible outcome for your children and husband.\n\n2 Tim 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,\n3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,\n4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;\n5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.\n6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,\n7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
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My wife's parents are not LDS, and they felt really bad that they could not attend the wedding of their oldest daughter.  Talk with your bishop before hand to see what he has to say about it.  If you go with it, then I would try and have everything look as close to a real wedding as possible without the actual typical cerimony.  Have someone talk about your marriage giving advise, etc.  In place of the typical marraige ceremony, create a "promise" ceremony where after you make promises to respect and love each other in a variety of ways.  Then after you agree, you can exchange rings then being wished with a happy life together.
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I am mormon, and most of my relatives on my mothers side are catholic. We get along great, and share quite a bit in common. As with any church, the LDS (mormon) church suggests that you marry within your own faith. It just seems to make things a lot easier for both people involved. \n\nSo does the Mormon church forbid it? No, but the Church encourages its members to marry within the Church. This is sound advice in general, for the more a married couple have in common, the more likely their marriage will be successful. When a couple disagrees on basic core values and beliefs, it can lead to additional stress, conflicts, and disappointment. The issue of how kids are raised can be especially problematic. Naturally, the Church hopes they will be raised LDS. We believe that the Lord wants children to be raised with the truth of the Gospel. \nSome of the greatest blessings of the Gospel are available to married couples who both live the Gospel and are willing to receive sacred covenants made in temples. Temple marriage, for example, offers the potential to be married throughout eternity and to enjoy the blessings of family life in the presence of God. Thus, we hope that all our young people will choose to be married in the temple to a spouse who is committed to Christ and is willing to live life according to the Gospel.
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Well, i think that when there are different faiths involved both spouses have to be open minded and they have to communicate with each other about their different religions/ faith. I am not married but i am in a relationship where we both have different religions. We talk about it and we try to know or to learn about the different religion. Mostly because of curiosity but also b/c we have to set boundaries. So if you talk to them and make sure they know how you feel then it'll be alright, but also as long you each of you do not try to impose their religion on each other. Just be open minded and talk about it.
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You have to now figure out if this is good for you.  She apparently doesn't know what she wants.  Either she's fearful of the life that could include being with the same person until death, or she can't handle being faithful.  She's hurting you, but does she realize it?  Have you ever just sat down with her to figure out what the deal is?  I'm sorry to say that I think a divorce would be the best thing.  She obviously has some issues, and no one can get through to her.
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She seems selfish to me. Tell her if she loves you for who you're really are she should not pend your marriage on that condition. I would have understood if she were from a different religion or something and having worries about your kids' religion but that's not even the case.\nAsk her how she'd feel if you make a similar demand! She is probably used to getting what she wants by putting pressure on people, but she should not treat you that way.
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as a Mormon i have heard many things over the years and just let people know that i believe that they are wrong, and that they believe i am wrong.  i respect that everyone has their own opinions and i have mine.  people will also make fun of and challenge what is different from their beliefs.  one big thing that we get a lot is that we have more than one wife.  which is not true.  at one point in time we did, but even during that time only 2-5% were apart of polygamy.  another thing i hear a lot is that we re not Christians.  my response is yes we are.  i believe in Christ as my savior and brother to help me get through this life.  i use his teachings in the bible to guide me in what i say act and do.  if this is not a christian than i do not know what is.  getting into Joseph smith is sometimes hard to get  into with those who do not believe, but i just say i believe that he restored Christ church on earth and that he did see god and his son Jesus Christ.  people will either leave you alone or talk bad more.  hope that this helps.
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SHARON, I am the daughter of a man in the masons. Of course he had to make it sound so great-one of my brothers joined. they've been in a long time. I almost married a man who was beginning to go through all the Junk!!  I am a born again Christian, and believe me, God layed Freemasonry HEAVILY upon my heart. He even gave me a bunch of questions to ask anyone going into[or in ]the Masons. It was soooo hard having this stuff on my heart- I prayed to Jesus to choose someone else to bear the burden. I never married that man but Married a believer. I am so happy he is not into that.
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I had Elder Bednar come to my stake confeerence last sunday and he explained so much to me.  I know how you feel about this but if someone starts telling you that Mormons belive this and that just say "Dude, I am a Mormon. I know what I believe, I don't need you telling me what I believe."  The world is becoming more and more wicked.  Thats not to say that there aren't good people its that we are becoming outnumbered.\nYou just need to ignore what other people say. Don't let that that get in your way.  You need to have a testimony and no one can take that away.\n\nIt drives me crazy when people put our church down.  We DO NOT DO THAT TO THEM.  Just think is there any Anti-Catholic literature?  The adversary is trying hardest to make your faith waver.  Keep your faith strong.\n\nNo way Joseph Smith could have written The Book of Mormon He translated it.  Prophets of old times wrote it just like the Bible.\nIf any one tries to sway you with Anti-Mormon Literature its them who have not studied about the truth of our religion.\n\nI recently heard that another religion told a mother that because her baby wasn't baptized it was damned to hell and she'd never see it again.  That is horrible, Why would anyone continue in a faith that told you that? Can you imagine what that must be like for her? I'm not a mother but still.
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I remember a dinner I had with a super hot girl (1st & last date) and she told me how all Mormons were polygimasts and abducted children to increase their numbers.  I attempted to calmly explain how ridiculous this was and I urged her to reach out to some Mormons to learn the truth, or at least read a little about them.  I don't think it worked, but I tried...
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it dont in the bible no where you have a woman who just posted that one of your lds missionaries raped her her user name is josnn_46er . i think you lds or mormons ought to really take this not as lightley rape is very much against the law  and as well makes all lds look very bad as well . as for profets that is in . lds doctorine ?  history of there church that is . ?
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She should be in subjection if and I say if you are being a God fearing husband to her,you are supposed to love her as yourself, you know.If you are doing what the Lord commands you to do you should let her know that she is hindering prayers and that you can't be blessed with disobedience.Read the 3rd chapter of 1 Peter to her. I really hope you are sincere with this question because if you are one of these people just asking to slander the children of God or mock God, then God have mercy on you.