coz she says it turns her on but I dont want to, but I love her???? and dont want to loose her.
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Oh for cyring out loud, it's a pair of underwear.  Just put them on.. lol  Just don't let her take any photos.  Ya gotta try something new every now and then.  If you try it and it makes you feel positively foolish, let her know this and that you don't want to do it again.  If she doesn't respect that, then you've got bigger problems than a pair of Victoria's Secret's finest skivvies.
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i think if she love u she is not care..
588609
I AGREE WITH EVERY OTHER ANSWER, MAYBE YOU BETTER NOT APPROPACH THE SEX AS A SPORT ...\n\nMAYBE YOU BETTER UNDERSTAND THAT IF YOU ARE "WELL ENDOWED"\nyYOU MIGHT BE PROUD, AND NEED TO ACHIEVE YOUR OWN SATISFACTION,,  BUT FRANKLY WHEN ANY OF MY LOVERS WERE VERY]\nLARGE, IT WOULD BE  UNPLEASANT,, AND NOT EASY TO TAKE, AS YOU MAKE THEM  VERY SORE INSIDE, AND THE "THRILL I S GONE"\n\nWHETHER SHE FAINTED, OR SLEPT, GET THE HINT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH\nDONT USE HER LIKE A "CORPSE"  if she STOPPED, AND SAID NOTHING THAN THAT IS PRETTYY OBVIOUS SHE WAS TIRED, AND PROBABLY SORE,\nAND SHE IS NOT A PIN CUSHION,,\n\nHARD AND ROUGH SEX IS FINE IF BOTH PARTIES ARE UP TO IT, BUT IF ONE IS NOT ABLE TO KEEP THAT PACE, YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A REST,\n\nYOU WERE PROBABLY BORN WITH TEN FINGERS,  OR JUST LET IT GO AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE CLOSENESS, AND THE PERSON LYING THERE] TRYING TO PLEASE YOU,,THAT WILLL TURN HER ON AGAIN\nIF YOU LET HER REST, CATCH UP TO YOUR ENERGY LEVEL,,\nHOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF SHE WAS AT A FAST PACE SHOVING SOMETHING INSIDE YOU....OUCH
119595
She wants control and someone to adore her.  Most likely, she has a history of dating men that have not respected her or just used her for sex.  She may want to hold on to her youth...is likely not mature.  Oh, there is always the chance you are a really mature male!  In bed, either she wants to teach you things and feel good about it, or she jsut wants you to adore her and be hooked on her sexual nature.
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i love it, i mean as long as it's not all the time, but it turns me on
666553
it is only pleasurable if my lover likes it too.  if done right it is enjoyable for both. i love feeling her going wild, no matter what we are doing, is fun to have her peaking from so many different things, this is only one little part of lovemaking.
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If she truly loves you-she won't.  You stated that you love her alot and as long as she feels that and you have been honest with her who cares.  Life is too short and when you find someone you love-let go of judgement and hold on tight to love.  People that are secure and confident might actually find your past adventure a turn on.
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I would just try it during sex and see what her reaction is.  I don't see why she wouldn't like it. As long as your not hurting her and it's not a bunch of times she should be ok and if she see's it turns you on, then I wouldn't see why she should have a problem with it!  But I would wait til a night when you are both really into it and getting a little kinky.  OR you could try ahead of time while playing around while dressed and say something to her about "what if I spank you? woudl that turn you on?" and kinda do it to her while dressed and see what she says!  Good luck!  I hope you get the good sex you want!!!
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There is nothing wrong by being turned on my her.  You should tell her how you feel and how she feels about having sex before marraige.  Just don't make sex the only thing going on in your relationship with her.  If it is based around that then it probably wont work out.  My boyfriend and I were the same way.  We wanted eachother so bad but we waited for about a month.  We are still together and I know that we are inlove.  We might even get married.  Good luck.  I wish there were more guys like you who didn't just look at girls as sex objects and actually cared about thier feelings.  Bravo to you.  I bet she's a real lucky girl.
604483
Maybe she just honestly doesnt like the feel of your fingers in her. Relax and please her any other way she will allow you to.
411318
You never know. Maybe she wants to spice things up, and in her mind thats the extreme. Try to spice things up in other ways, if you dont want to do a MFM, them she might find that she has a different fantasy.
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If she doesn't enjoy sex maybe it is time to find out why.  Find out what she likes and dislikes and don't make the assumption that this is personally directed towards you.  It could be an issue that she believes only affects her and it doesn't.  Whatever the cause it is best to find out as many answers to your questions with her honestly and openly.  If there is no way to resolve your sex life then you will know whether or not you want to move on.
550099
i like to envoke her every desire\ni love to do as i'm told\nnot to hard now baby it'll hurt\ni like tender passionate love that if elevated could turn into a sexual rampage
611637
Although I understand your situation, it is very hard for a women to think that she can not turn on her mate.  Even if she knows the fault is not her own.  My suggestion go buy the toys and make sure that you have a lot of foreplay.  Good luck to you
557317
Sounds like its fun for you and her friend but that she is only doing it to please you.\nAsk her if that is the issue because if she is doing it to please you and it goes against her feelings towards herself you are playing a very dangerous game with her.
362004
I totally agree... \n\nWith that in mind, if she is a DOG there is NO WAY that i'm going THERE.. so i have 2 be attracted 2 her in the first instance otherwise i'd NEVER find out that she is "down-2-earth".\n\nhowever, i would prefer to have both...\na smart fun down-2-earth BABE who is a slut in the bedroom...oooh yeah!!\n\nMajor signs...\nPay attention, its not that hard...\nWhen we say 2 u that we want 2 c u again,\n we truly do want 2 c u... preferably between the sheets...\nnah, just half joking.\nWe want 2 be with u & hang out...\nwe will LISTEN 2 u \nwe'll sms or call u and \nwe will WAIT, if we think u r worth it .\n\nAlot depends on age & maturity...\nbelieve it or not, NOT all of us guys think the same.\n\ni hope this helps...\nlisten 2 ur heart u'll know if he is true 2 u
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she puts down some very good hints, she may also tend to spend quality time with you because, u are the one that she really wants to make love with but wants u to make the move.  so keep your eyes open for the glow in her smile the softness in her voice and the swelling of her breast.