I need all the advice i can get how i can spice up my sex life with my fiance. He is the only guy i have ever been with. I don't want him to get bored with me. The only thing i will absoult not do is a 3some and he knows that. but i want to suprise him for our honeymoon so help please
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Here's a suggestion: For the honeymoon, go out and buy something sexy, something he'd never think you'd wear( get the shoes, stockings, etc)> Go to the bathroom at the hotel your staying at for the honeymoon and tell him to sit and wait! Get into the outfit, do your makeup and hair, then call out to him to maybe light a few candles and turn on some music(I suggest a cd with a pre-practiced song) and then come out dancing for him, tease him...Men love that stuuf, talk about spicy!!\n\nWorked for me!!
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I've totally been there. It sounds weird to people that haven't, but it takes some getting used to. Don't think he's weak, or trying to trick you...just appreciate & enjoy it. What did I do? Well I married him!
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Sounds like a typical relationship to me. The "honeymoon" stage never lasts forever, yet most women unrealistically expect or hope it to.\n\nWait untill you're married!\n\nSeriously, this is normal, and in one way you should take heart that he feels comfortable enough around you, and secure enough in your relationship, that he doesn't feel the need to flatter you anymore.\n\nJust drop a few hints now and then, let him know that you still enjoy a bit of romance, and suggest cosy picnics for two, movie dates, and romantic nights in by the fire, just to give him a few clues. It will also definitely help keep those romantic fires burning!!!!\n\nMost men need a bit of reminding now and then, yours sounds no different.\n\nGood luck.
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First off, thanks for anwsering my question, i think you could simply handle this one. Just repeat yourself alot! I mean alot. Tell him you love him and how sexy he is all the time, and maybe put one or two guys down for his benefit. I've been in your fiance's position once or twice, and all i needed was to hear it and as far as im concerned they never cheated.
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Buy some videos on techniques, like giving a better bj.  Preview it and see what you think, but the idea is actually to watch it with him to practice.  He will love the idea that you want to try and the visual stimulation more than your technique improvement I bet!  There are some good videos out there on numerous exciting topics for couples.
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If he doesn't want you to do it and you love him enough to sacrifice a 3some for him, then don't do it. If this guy is just a guy, then dump him and have your fun. He might be willing to come around later on. You never know.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years.....we were each others firsts and everything....I still LOVE being intimate with him....We spice things up by like getting into Kama Sutra or a video....we actually went into a porn store yesterday together it was fun....Definitely encourage her to play with herself....i never knew until i found out for myself...i dunno how comfortable she is about this subject, but she can email me if she'd like help
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You know I just asked the very same question earlier. I'm with a guy and we have only been dating for two months but have already talked about marriage and what we want out of life. I'm almost certain that soon he is going to pop the question and I wanted everyone's opinion. The only thing I can say to you is that I think you should go with your heart. You can take all the advice you want but at the end of the day you need to do what is best for you. You are 30 years old so I think you are old enough and mature enough to know if you are ready for marriage or not. The only thing I could possibly ask though is if you are living together? I definitely say you should live together first so you can get used to each other's annoying habits. I have been living with my boyfriend for 1 month and I'm starting to finally get used to the fact that he HAS to have 3 showers a day,  has to have the dishes washed as soon as they are used, and has to let gas ten times a day. lol.  Good luck!!!! Oh and if you would like to talk more feel free to contact me. :-) I'd love to trade stories and advice with someone.
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Sweetie, without knowing what you two have tried in the past, it is difficult for anyone to know what to suggest. Since I, myself am a bi-woman who has been in a relationship with the same woman for about 6 months now, let me suggest what we do. Sometimes we will go to a sexy underwear store and check each other out with different new things on until we are so hot for each other that we have to leave. Maybe go to an adult store and get some kinky ideas there. Into s&m? Spanking? Bondage? Maybe get a new toy or two. Definately get some fantasy magazines. Sometimes we "park" in a secluded place and make-out like teenagers. Have you ever gone skinny-dipping together? How about camping? It is so refreshing to "get back to nature". Find some sleepingbags that zip together. Be creative, hon. Even on a tight budget you could go to the grocery and pick up a few cans of whipped cream, chocolate syrup, and some cherries, Then make a girl sundae out of each other before eating each other up. YUMMY. Have fun and enjoy.
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Yes it is possible so long as you both take your time and enjoy it. Make it romantic. Get in the mood. Do lots of foreplay. It is possible that your fiance has the hymen intact. It's a thin layer in the vagina. This will break if it has not already done so and you may see some blood during the very first time. But do not be alarmed. It is normal. If you are wondering how to make your partner orgasm, then let her take control. She will know where to move to get most stimulation and hit the spot. Girl on top is the best position for this.\nThis should be an enjoyable time for you both, please don't stress over it. Practice makes perfect!! Congrats!
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I'm so happy for you two!  Great job on waiting.  \n\nI know you two have waited for the sex but I'm not sure if you guys have done the all the things that lead up to that point.  There is a lot of fun to be had with foreplay.  Also, keep in mind that he will have an O within minutes of you guys starting your festivities.  Hopefully, he can go the distance and be able to get it back a few more times.  If not, there is no rush!  Having good sex takes patience and willingness to learn and experiment.  Don't forget to talk to each other about what you like and it wouldn't hurt to read some sex tips books together.  (Not a suggestion on how to pass the night but just in general.)\n\nI don't know if you guys are in a hotel or what but I would make sure that some chilly water and a snack with substance is on hand for later.  Also, a friend told me that she wished she had a pretty robe to wear when she came out of the restroom in her lingerie.  Since it was the first time for him to see her in that kind of dress she felt a little awkward crossing the room in such attire.  \n\nIt sounds to me like you already have it covered.  You guys waited so it will be unusually special, the strawberries are tasty and cider is very good (both flavors).  Just the fact that you are planning and being thoughtful covers your side of being romantic.  Make sure that he doesn't rush because the more anxious and rushed you are the less pleasurable it will be for you.  Have fun!
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You've already gotten a lot of good (and bad) responses.\n\nThe key to any relationship is communication. And I think this is obviously where you think you have some problems. I assume you guys are comfortable talking about everything else. \n\nFor one, you need to talk to him. Pour your heart out and let him know where you stand. After 5 years, things do get stagnent. He may think your sex life with each other is fine where it is. You need to share with him your desire to spice it up.\n\nSometimes what holds a guy back is stress. If you have an opportunity, get a babysitter for the night/weekend, cook him a romantic dinner, turn off the phones, play some relaxing music, and talk the night away. Give him a back massage. Let him know he is loved and that he's appreciated. Ask him what he would like in your sexual relationship from you, to spice things up. \n\nBring up some options: Role Play. Having sex in a different part of the house (having sex in the same bed for 5 years can get old). Getting dressed up. Watch a porno together. Have sex with the window shades open. Turn up some music. Turn off the TV. Candles. Clean sheets. Go dancing. Go on vacation. Go to a Bed & Breakfast. Go to the beach. \n\nI've also seen a statistic once out of Europe that found that men find their partners more attractive when the household chores have been done. This maybe more related to stress.\n\nThere is sooo much you can do to help spice up a sexual relationship, that I think you should make the first move.\n\nAlso, don't make him feel bad for any fantasies he has. He's a guy. Sometimes you can even play into his fantasy. If he wants to have a 3rd party, but you don't, then by all means do not. But you can pretend:\nOne night, while you guys are about to have sex. Undress him completly. Tie his hands to the bed post and blindfold him. Once you've done that, tell him that you have a surprise for him. Tell him you've invited a female friend over to join the two of you, but she doesn't want him to known who it is, so he must keep the blindfold on. Pay a neighboorhood kid a dollar to ring your doorbell. When it rings, cover him up in a sheet, and tell him to keep the blindfold on.\nThen you get changed into a lingerie, put on some different perfume, put on makeup, change your hairstyle, etc. Go to the bedroom and tell him you're letting your friend in and that you just want to watch. When touching him, change your style. Have fun. Remember, the brain is the largest sex organ.\n\nOnce you've gone through some sort of process to spice things for him, tell him your fantasies you'd like for him to help fulfill.\n\nBest of luck to you. If nothing else, just remember to "talk".
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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That depends on the marriage itself, if it lacks excitement, & your an open minded person, take him to him to an Adult-Store first to get his blood pumping, then dinner etc. after dinner take him to a gentlemens club, then home.  I'm sure this will be a surprise for him, & will benefit both of you...
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Spend a week on a deserted island with my husband...no cell phones...no pagers...no children (I love my kids), but we never have alone time and we absolutely adore each other. We have been married 10 years and we have never had a honeymoon. He is a railroader and gone alot, I think he is one of the most sexy men alive and I would love to spend that time with only him!
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Rubbing is wonderful but let me tell you how to move it along give him a back rub then have him flip on to his back and rub his pecks and lightly kiss his neck while you are doing that lie on top of him and gently rub your genitals against his until you both orgasm. This is one of the hottest experiences and it is extremely intimate. I am sure that once he experiences this with you he will want to do more.
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This is just what turns him on.  He wants you to talk to him about this stuff to turn him on.  Some guys just talk about fantasies, but they don't actually do them.  If you too are married then you should consider that sacred and just fantasize.