We're dating. I want more kids. She's confused if she should take a risk on me or some other guy that already has kids like she does. What's the deal?
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I think that if it were me... You would be the better choice... less numbers in the equation. your kids and hers wouldnt have to get along since you dont have any. the only thing i can think of is that she might not want to have anymore children and you do. Just talk to her and tell her you want to be a stable father and husband. IF your not to that point tell her what you feel about everything and i mean everything write down questions and answer them and talk to her about them to see how much you have in common.
643995
You mean they DON'T want to accept you if you have children?  Personally I've found a pro and con to both.  I love children so if a guy I'm dating has kids, great..the more the merrier; his children and my children can hang out together, like a family.  BUT, sometimes when a guy has children, there is the "baby's mama drama" that comes along.  You get the situation where she hasn't totally given the guy up and she uses the children as a leveraging tool that causes stress in his life which ultimately causes stress in mine.  Or, I found that some guys play favoritism with their children vs. mine.  I do NOT play that!  I treat all kids the same, mine, yours, the neighbors (my house is constantly full of kids of all ranges and they all call me "Mom").  I truly believe ALL children are special and deserve to be loved equally.  So, those would be the main reason why I wouldn't like to date a guy with kids even though I have them.  But if he doesn't have either of those issues, then it's all good!
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She's not being honest with you.  If she really thought you two had something SO special that would lead to you "being together for a long time" why would she want to waste another minute with anyone else?  \n\nThink about it:  If you met the woman of your dreams who blew your mind away, would you really ask them to just "hold on a second" while you continued to mess around with others?  HELL NO.  You'd want the rest of your lives together to begin right now.\n\nI know this sucks to hear because you guys obviously have something special.  But something inside is telling her there's someone better out there and she wants to continue searching to see if she can find it.  If she doesn't, she'll come back to you.  Now you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be her fall back plan?  Because the minute she does meet that #1 out there, you'll be left broken hearted.\n\nSorry to break this news.  Cut loose.  No contact.  Get her out of your system.  When you meet someone else who you can fall in love with, you might be able to try being friends again...
413846
Think she only wants you back because she knows your a respectable guy and you will help her raise her baby.  Sorry guy I would say no!
139897
Sorry to say but most likely shes seeing someone else. Sounds to me like shes just calling you up when she has nothing better to do. I don't mean to be so blunt but I don't know how to sugar coat that one. She probably wants you to stick around because shes unsure of the guy shes seeing and wants you on the back burner in case things don't go well with him she has you to fall back on. Sounds to me like your a pretty good guy. At least loyal. You should just ask her about it. If she can't give you a straight answer then the hell with her. Just move on. Good luck and I hope I'm totally wrong and you get your girl.
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I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.
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Women, eh? She likes you. Enjoys your company. Is obviously jealous of your other girlfriends. Doesn't want to add the physical. No, I don't really understand either. \n\nDoes she have other boyfriends? Perhaps she's afraid of spoiling what you have.... Or perhaps she's immature; enjoys the power of knowing that you fancy her, keeping you dangling?\n\nIt's not fair to you for her to say 'No' to you-know-what, but go into a strop if you go out with someone else.\nThe 'other woman' thing was good, gave her something to think about - she was definately jealous, or hurt. \n\nMy advice is to back off. Maybe you're smothering her. Give her a bit of time & space; let her come to you. It might take a bit of time. But I believe that the best partnerships are based on friendship that develops into love. It sounds as though all the elements are there in your relationship, but she needs a bit of time. I hope so. All the best!\n\nI had a very good friend once. I didn't fancy him, didn't want to take it further. Then, one night, when it was time for him to go home, I realised that I didn't want him to go...  It was as much as a surprise to me as to him!\n\nP.S. Don't wait for her forever.
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That depends on what you're comfortable with. I would never date someone who had a kid myself. Also what kind of woman is she? Some women take advantage of guys and try to get them to support children that aren't even theirs. I'm not saying she's like that, but some of them are, especially if they're feeling overwhelmed. Also keep in mind if you get married and you go through the teen years with them they'll go through the oh so painful "you're not my daddy" phase. Just think carefully about what you're getting into.
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She's playing games with ya. You may be her back up plan or her reserve...don't take that kind of crap. I've been there it's not a good place to be in and she'll just keep stringing you along. \n\nMove on start dating other people, and try and forget her
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You are ingaged to 2 women?  I would say who would you rather spend the rest of your life with?  The ex would be good since you have kids together but there was a reason your divorced now. You fiance would be the right wat to go if she doesnt love all those guys who say they love her.  Follow your heart.
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yeah asking her to do something is a good idea. if she hesitates, back off, but if not then maybe you'll have the chance to discuss if she is staying with her man or what. beaware, though. would you really want to date someone who will stay with a man if they are currently looking for a new fish? sounds like a bad idea to me, she also may be one of those needy ppl that can't be alone and will have whoever they can have, as long as they have someone. \n\ngood luck.
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You could ask her straight out what she is looking for.  If you're not willing to spend some quality time at home with her to get to know her, you may want to move on.  You know what it's like to have children so I'm sure you understand how difficult it must be for her to raise two children on her own and why she is busy and can't get out much.  Her children will always come first or, atleast they should.  Perhaps you should rearrange some things in your life if you truly would like to get to know this woman.
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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My thoughts he's not committed to you. He sees your children as your responsibility and not his.\nI dated a girl with children before and ended up being able to give her a break by taking her son to ice cream, or the park to launch rockets. It made her heart soar to see that we could have a good time and give her a break from it all.\nIf he's not willing to buy into the idea of loving you through your children, he's not going to be able to committ further.
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What ur daugther says seems logical.The reason behind her asking this may be her insecurity once u enter into another relationship.And as far as the person who has given u the proposal may not want to jeopardise this relationship with u for this reason . As the old saying goes the greater the distance more the love.But also make it a point to discuss this issue with his youngest son in order to avoid trouble on a later date . GoodLuck.
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Be very careful my friend, you could be setting yourself up to be hurt. You may have feelings for this other person, but you need to remember that you "do" have two children to think about. It is belief of many that the truth will set you free, but in this case, it may end in the suffering of the most innocent of all, the kids. Please, consider holding off with this second relationship long enough to realize what you want. I know you want your children in your life, dont jeopardize that for anything. Have a nice day!
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Perhaps the first initial thought of having a relationship with you didn't appeal to her because she had never given it much thought before.  But now that you've brought the idea to her attention, she's given it more thought and maybe she's decided that you're a great guy and she'd like to give it a chance.  Sounds to me like she's definately interested.