I think i am in love with my best friends. We have been friends ever since kindergarton and before that. I would do anything for her. But the thing is, she has a boyfriend. But i know he cheats on her. I have seen him doing it, trying to get me to 'get in the game'. I really don't want see her heart get broken. What should i do?
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I would take either one road or the other. tell her about bf or tell her about you loving her and wanting to be with her. beware that once you spill the beans either way there may be some changes in your relationship and you may become an ex-friend altogether, hopfully only for a while. however if spring both surprises on her it will make you look like a jelous fool and she won't believe about bf, so you might want to have some cold hard proof to back things up. good luck whatever happens. :)
403418
Your best friend cuz she sounds like a jerk. \n\nBut think about it, becuz if you dump her, then if your boyfriend dumps you, your left with nothing.
238607
Alright.  First things first... You dont love him.  You have a crush on him.  Second, she is dating him, leave it alone right now.  Even friends dating ex's of their friends causes HUGE issues, I would leave it alone, if you start to like him more and more, You have to decide if it is worth losing a friend over.  \n\nTo be honest there are TONS of fish in the sea...  I personally would leave it alone and enjoy the friendship.  \n\nI once had a Huge crush on my friend but he had a girlfriend, I left it alone and he is now married and has a baby... do I ever wonder what could have happened... No... because I found my soul mate, and we are better off.\n\nGood Luck.\nJ
201969
i have been dating one of my bestfriends ex-boyfriend, and weve been together for 3 years, we also plan on getting married. You cant help the person you fall in love with, and who are you to stop something that could be one of the best things that could happen for your best freind? if she really is your best friend then treat her as such dont let something like that bring your friendship down. let them try and see if it wroks out for them, if it does just be glad she found something a lot of people dont get the chance to, and if it doesnt work dont give an i told you so, compfort her as you would if you didnt know the guy. Keep smiling and find you someone who you can have fun with a be real with.
455253
i think you should talk to your friend. tell her that you like her a lot but you dont like the filrting that is going on. tell her that you dont want to lose her as a friend but if this "flirting" continues then you wil leave her. and my advice is that leave your boyfriend alone with her. if he is eally in love with you, he wont proceed, but if he fools with her, then think that you have nothing to lose. you never had him.
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I have a similar problem the only difference is I think of my best friend as a brother and he told me he was in love with me. You need to sit down and make some rules first to be in love with your best friend could be the best thing that ever happened to you. I understand you being scared that if your relationship moves forward and it doesn't work out you may lose your best friend, but make a pact that no matter what happens you will always be friends and talk things out before you do anything, always be there for each other and you may have found the love of your life.
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That's just a line you do not cross.  You should never, ever mess with your friends bf.  What comes around, goes around.  If you backstab your friends, who won't you backstab.  It's called respect.  Go ahead, get with him.  He seems like such a classy guy. You know, he cheats on your best friend with you.  I see why you are so attracted to him.  NOT!!! My sister's bf felt on my butt and I went straight and told my sister.  If you love someone, you wouldn't ever cross that line. I think he's the scum of the earth. Get with him, so he can do the same to you.  Who would want a man who has a gf?  Get your own.  Do you have low self esteem?  It really seems like it.  I am sorry but two things I teach my kids are morals and values.
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Girl ive been there before. Its sucks. I know exactly how you must be feeling. This friend of yours is not a true friend. She knows you like this guy and if they get together seeing them together could hurt.\nIf you dump her, you'll look bad - like you let a guy come between you, but keeping her - you'll find yourselve questioning her loyalty to you often.\nBrave it out to keep your rep intact, but watch your back while she's still your friend because friends like her - definately dont remain friends.\n\nSorry about it. Look on the bright side though - another guy will come along one day and who knows? You might like him better than this guy and he might kiss the ground you walk on!! :))\n\nJust think positive always.\n\nGOODLUCK.
214708
I think that deep down that you truly love each other and want to be with each other.. just give it a shot.. your best friends already.. so go for it!
286095
I currently have this problem... and know exactly how you feel. My best friend is in love with me and has been for about 10-11 years now. I tell him I don't see him that way and that I love him but not in those ways. But that doesn't stop him from trying... and he is moving down to my area with all the hopes that we would be together...
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You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
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Be her as her friend, although it may hurt you and will make your feelings more deeper she needs someone who can lean on when they're having problems, until the time comes that she will realize that you are the one who can give her comfort and love that she could never have with her bf right now.But be patient, if you really love her, us girls do not give up easily with our relationships especially if we really love that person although we always get hurt.Show to her that your love could be more wonderful than what his bf is giving her right now,like always be there for her and helping her in every problems in her life.You said that she likes you then it is a good sign that you could win her heart.But if you want to subdue your feelings then you should stay away from her.But are you sure you want that?If you cant do that then just be her friend or a bestfriend for you to help her.Then wait for the time when she will make a decision of letting go of the person who just make her cry everyday.Dont worry love will bring both of you together if both of you are really meant for each other.Hope I helped you thats all.
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these things have a way of working out. trust me. Its possible to still be best friends with everyone and still be attracted to one of them. Your other friend is just going to have to accept that PEOPLE fall in love with each other especially if they r close. That means if she is your really your friend u r going to have to tell her what's happening she deserves it. maybe you're going to have to make some "rules" for all this to happen. just remember theres nothing wrong with love
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Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
433354
First of all, your friend has the freedom to date anybody he wants without anybody's permission.  Dont get involved in his relationship.  Unless he talks to you about it and asks your advise.  You dont want to loose a good friendship over something like this.  This is what my bestfriend tells all his boyfriends, "You may not like my friends and I'm not trading my friends for you, they were my friends before I knew you and they will be with me should something happen to our relationship."  For now just go with the flow.  And be happy for him, cause that's all that matters is that he's happy!  Keep being the good friend you are.  Think positive!  Should he freak out if he doesn't already know then worry about it then.  Good luck! :o)
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I haven't been in EXACTLY the same situation, but I'll give you the benefit of my advice, anyway! \n\nFirst, don't do anything until he breaks up with his current girlfriend. That might mean you have to wait a bit, but it's the right thing to do- and besides, you'll put the guy in a bit of a tight situation if you say anything now! (And his girlfriend won't exactly love you for it...) So, wait til they break up. I know it's tough, but wait! \n\nAnd THEN, go for it! Don't worry about it ruining your friendship, because it sounds like you two really are best friends, and a friendship that strong, isn't going to be hurt by something like this. Tell him how you feel. \n\nThe best relationships are between people who start out as best friends- I know, from personal experience!\n\nGood luck!
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The first thing you do is ask yourself if your "best friend" is really they type you want to be romantically involved with. I bring that up because he was obviously cheating on his girlfriend by making out with you. This means that he has a disposition to cheating. Do you really want to pursue a relationship with someone you know cheats? You'll always wonder in the back of your mind if he's cheating on you knowing that he cheated on this other girl.\n\nStart getting involved with volunteer activities that allow you to have more interactions with other people. This will keep you busy and possibly help you find a real gem that takes being in a relationship serious.\n\nRemember... once a cheater, always a cheater.