She is 15 yrs old..im 17..anyways she her friends are trying to get her to go out with another guy cause they dont trust me..because right now i live in another state. So she's having to hold them off and the guys that are hitting on her. She found out her best friend is also against me. (These people have never even met me yet) (my girlfriend has). She is having trouble dealing with her grandparents whom she lives with. They called her fat to her face...shes only 140 lbs. She's having difficulty cause she also feels she isn't herself. Like she is acting like a completely different person all together. I only know her current persona. She just doesnt seem to like who she is and I can't help her with all this stuff from such a large distance. I talk to her everynight and am doin my best to keep her sanity intact. Any advice?
216343
best thing to do from such a distance is to listen to her, and reassure her. After all, you like her, right?  Remind her why.  Being 15, she's going through a heck of a lot.  You can't change how her family are toward her, but you can help her see what's great about her.  Just be there for her.  Make her laugh.
668992
well ... there is nothing u can do ... she is convinced that she loves this guy ... and nothing can ever change her mind ... cause if she realize how much he's hurting her ... she wud have left him looooooooooooooong back ... the best thing for u do is support her ... be there for her ... and when she's having a fight ... or if she feels like cutting herself ... take her out ... go shopping ... do anything to get her mind off of things ...
40162
There is not much you can do here. It's good that she has high self-esteem to wear something that a lot of women under 150 lbs. would not even date to wear. But, it's not good that she doesn't recognize that it is not becoming. I had a friend like that who insisted on wearing mini skirts that rode up in the back, showing her almost 300 lb. backside, but there was nothing I could do. To tell her, even tackfully, would hurt her feelings. So, I left it up to someone else, preferably a relative of her's to tell you. \nThe best thing is to just let her go on as she is. Maybe she will take it more seriously when someone other than a friend or relative tells her how she looks. Sometimes, a neutral comment is what it takes.
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she needs to ease off the haterade becuase she's hating on you for what ever reason.  Some you doing that she wish she can do or have.  And if this guys are really your boyfriends they would respect you for you and not sleep with a hoe.. YES a hater hoe.. You need to shake them all off because they are nothing to you if they are doing this.  Don't try to be friends with her either because that's not going to work for her to leave you alone.  You trying having 3 best friends sleep with your boyfriends.  I just throw the trash out with them all and start over.  Its hard but you have to because if not your going to be hurt.  Don't play her at her on game becuase god knows what she might have for sleeping around. your better then that and she knows it and that's why she's hating.. one thing you don't want to do is show her that your all booty hurt over this again because that's what she wants and your showning her that she won. Good luck!!!
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
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Well done, I know how hard that was to do, because I've been there in my youth! \n\nNow wait her out and stay as calm as before, continue to be your usual self. \n\nIf you're lucky, this could be a life learning experience for her. If it isn't, don't beat yourself up over her problems, they're her's, not yours. \n\nWhenever others need to control our lives, criticise everything about us, it's usually because they are frightened, or troubled in their own life, or frightened of being left behind. \n\nShe needs you in her life, every bit as much as you need her, she just needs to accept that you are an adult, and learn to treat you with respect. \n\nYou've shaken her, now wait her out. \n\nYou've proven your maturity in the way you handled this situation, it's down to her to follow suit.
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Sounds like your girlfriend isn't really in a "fun" mood right now, friend. Honestly, just be there for her. There is nothing you can say or do to help her get over such serious traumas, so always be ready to lend an ear or a hand. I promise this is help you guys get closer, and by the time she's ready to move on with her life, you'll have a better relationship than you would have without any og this.
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oh my ******* gosh GIRL.....your so called bestfriend.  Damn, she wasnt ya bestfriend from the word go. girlfriend(bestfriend) sister, cousin, aunty, mother (sorry examples) they all have their limits, going anywhere near a friend(s) or family member is just way un'co!!!!  DONT even think or say its you why that shet with them happened, especially with alcohol. Girl it takes two, either your so called g'friend could had prevented that shet, and your so called b'friend could had done the same....they both new what they we're doing. Girl im sorry what im saying aint damn great but i believe in true bestfriends, morals.....them two clowns dont. You stay strong, you are the better person, dont ever feel guilty aite...dont feel bad..look after number1...thats YOU!!!  your boy will comer knocking when you least expect it aite...stay strong & be proud...
340423
well...first of all...dont listen to her friends, they will be the first to sabotage a relationship...and if you two have been together a week or better and shes already having problems, then let her make the first move...tell her that you are there for her, and if shes got family troubles the last thing shes gonna be worried about is a boyfriend. be there for her as her friend and work out the relationship part later.
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I went back and looked at the questions and answers.  You were very careful not to reveal anything about her, except for the problem.  I think that she is taking her stress out on you.  She doesn't realize what a good friend you are being to her.  She does need help, and much more help than you can give her.  Can she go to her parents?  I want to say thank you to you, you are showing what a true friend is.
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hmmm, delicate situation! tell her you love her (just lie!), but you can no longer bear to be with her because she makes you nauseated. if she does not understand, then she is a screwed up bitch. \nscarface is good, but to ensure she really hits the curb, tell her she is getting fat.
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Sounds like she's a little jealous.  It didn't work out between him and her so she doesn't want him to work out with anyone else.  I think it's more of a hurt ego actually.  The question is why is she so concerned about your feelings that she has to tell you about all his downfalls?  Do the best you can to just ignore it.  It doesn't sound like you two are any type of friends and she's not physically there to make it harder to deal with so when you check your emails and you see her name, just click on that little X and you're done with it.
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My best friend started seeing her boyfriend in August, lost her virginity to him within a week of them seeing one another. (She'd already moved out, and lived on her own.) Within two weeks he moved in, and they've been living together ever since. I emailed her the other day, because I wanted someone to talk to, and she never replied. I don't have her new cell phone number, because she never gave it to me after she got on his plan...and the only time I hear from her is if there is a problem in her life, and very seldom then. I haven't heard her voice since new years. \n\nSpeaking from experience, you should sit her down and tell her what she is doing. Ask her whether or not she wants to abandon her family for a guy. Ask her if she wants to get pregnant and become a mother before she has the opporunity to do anything else. Tell her that you feel that she is really ruining her life, and you think she needs to slow down. The best way is to tell her flat out how you feel with no regards to her feelings, and don't sugar-coat it. She obviously isn't concerned with anyone but herself and her boyfriend. Also, you better do it fast. If she doesn't want to slow down, then ditch her and move on. Her failure and lack of concern for other people shouldn't ever bring you down. If she comes around, then be thankful, if she doesn't then you'll have to move on and just say that you tried.
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is this boyfriend by chance jealous of your friendship with her ? it is possible he may have made something up so he could have her to himself...\nI would let her know that best friends are there even when boyfriends come and go, tell her you care about her and how important it is to trust each other.\nLet her also know you have no interest in hanging out with her boyfriend and u would be even more happy to just meet her in town at the mall or coffee shop.\nI too have recently suffered the same fate with my best friend too.\nFortunately we have made it through stronger than ever she has been dealing with a very possessive boyfriend that she is getting ready to leave now.\ngood luck..
490996
It sounds like you are going to be having a hard time, because she is becoming distant from you, and not respecting the "no plans on Friday" agreement you have. Before things get worse you need to sit down and ask her what is going on, especially since she is going out with other girls. (It's only a problem if you are gay, your avatar is a girl so I assume you are too.) If you're a guy it's not a problem for her to be hanging out with girls. But it sounds like she is not respecting you, that is usually a sign of a break up in the near future. I would talk to her if I were you.
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Your g/f is very immature. I know you said to answer yes or no. But you need to know something...If she is this immature and selfish (which is what it is) then that means she will "growup" in time. When she does its very likely she will also "out grow" you. I don't mean this as putting you down. I mean it as a warning to you. You have accepted this behavior in her. When she changes she may very well decide that she doesn't want a guy who would put up with this. DON'T put up with it. Its rude. And she needs to know you can't treat people this way.\nGood LUck To YOU!
100760
Before we say that it is statutory rape, we would first have to know if you are intimate (sexually) with your girlfriend. If you are, then it could be statutory rape depending on the state or country you live in. If not, then that is not an issue. I can see her parent's concern. She is legally considered an adult and you are still considered a child. I am sure they are having a hard time understanding why their adult daughter is dating a child. Since your girlfriend is 18, maybe the best solution to the problem would be for her to move out and find a place of her own. If she insists on living off her parents, then she will have to follow their rules.  You should be involved with girls your own age and enjoying being young. I really can't see what an 18 year old girl sees in a 15 year old boy. She needs to be dating people her own age or a little older and beginning her life as an adult, instead of dating a 15 year old child and planning what dress to wear to your proms. I don't mean to minimize your feelings, but at the age of 15 I doubt seriously if this is true love. It sounds to me as if your girlfriend is immature and is not able to deal with men her own age. I know you don't want to hear this, but it is probably for the best that her parents are putting a stop to this relationship. Move on! Find a nice girl around your own age and enjoy your youth. Take care and good luck! =-)