He I am 43 and he is 74. He is a nice guy.....but...\nAny wise answers/ideas would be appreciated!\n&#92;Thanks
216155
you say he is 74 but assuming good health he should last at least till september
64616
Not really, but understand that this will not be a permanent relationship.  An older guy should introduce you better things than a guy your age.  Nice restaurants, plays, concerts.  In exhange you are keeping him young.
54784
by the tone of your question, he is taking too long for you, so with the age difference he probably won't try to approach you.  If you are sure you want him..... then just tell him....you only live once!
547947
u should keep Ur personal life away from Ur professional life. don't mix them up & as u said that he is 42 and married then u should not think that way.\nhe is secured in his life & if u have a relation with him in future with his consent even then ur relation as well as ur future will always be insecured.\nthe right way is to forget him & wait for the right person to approach u.
232410
It sounds to me like he was kind of hinting for a date.  After the washing my hair line he was probably too intimidated to ask you out directly so he was feeling you out to see what kind of reaction he would get.  As far as your age difference goes, I can't say what is or is not appropriate.  I have know some 19 year old men who were more honest, level headed, and mature than some 30 year old men I know.  People grow and mature at different rates and what matters isn't that your ages be compatible, but that your maturity levels be compatible.
457175
hey,\n\ni'm not entirely sure because i don't know the whole story,  were the two of you showing affection to each other ( kissing,cuddling, that sort of stuff?), if so than maybe yes it was the whole age gap thing, because in reality he is old enough to be you father, but all power to you for dating an older guy, i hope i can still get a girl as young as you when i am that old.\n\nbut i must also err on the side of caution, just think when he is 60/70 you will still be in your prime and also pretty much at the back end of your body clocks prime time. then people will either be thinking he is your father for real or think you are his carer, if he gets ill.\n\nsorry if i sound as though i'm against but i like to try and look at things both ways ( pros and cons)\n\nhope this helps
438912
I think that u should be a good friend and let her see it her self. Sometimes no matter wat u say a person just wont get it. Hey my best friend is 21 and her boyfriend is 32 and she just don't get it.
435765
he gave you a very HONEST answer.. at his age your asking alot from someone out of the gate of life... he is still trying to find his way kind of thing....\n\nnothing wrong with you... nothing wrong with him... just two dif. point of views, beliefs etc... if he had a crystal ball and looked into the future and could see that all is well, he would marry you.. but we don't have that.... it is called faith, stupidity of better fortune, will, belief in the couple... I don't know... but it sounds like he is missing a good opportunity to share his new beginning with someone that will be pulling the rope from the same end as his..\n\nHe needs to understand that whether he makes a decision or not life will continue too move on, married or not, people will live, people will die, he may starve to death married or single... could it be a totall failure.... sure could... could it be a smile on his face when he is 90 years old and in his death bed... yea.... \n\nOne of the most amazing thing that occurs in this world is when two become one and step off into the black hole together... as there is no certantie in anything... that you or him will be alive by the time you read this, nor that your love will last, nor that it will fail... the only failure will be is to let what could be... not....\n\nHe won't become relaxed about any of marriage etc... till about 3 years into it when he realizes... it's not that bad... kind of fun as long as your expectations are in line with reality.\n\nIt amazes me when I see young couples... I ask myself was I ever really that young, that stupid?  And I think... I wish I would have been dumber and just lived... even if I starved in the process.\n\nThe greatest joys happen when we have the least.  That is a rough interpritation of a Chineese proverb...\n\ngood luck, go slow and understand where he is coming from... but you know which course you have too take when it is time... give him a little time... but don't miss life... it's a hell of a ride rich or poor.
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I can't believe all the bullkaka I am reading here.\n\nSo a man can be 20 yrs older but not a woman?  Get serious people and start realizing that life is not always about your young tight a$$.  There is much more out there than most of you will ever experience, especially with an attitude like I see from some of you.  LOL
560659
Well...I suppose it's relative to how mature he is.  \n\nWomen mature faster than men so I'm not sure it's wise to date a younger man. \n\nIf you were 40's I would say there's not a huge gap, but early 20's people are still figuring out life and who they are. \n\nI don't think there's anything 'wrong' with it as long as he's legal. I just don't think it's wise...(I make these remarks based on the facts as I'm given them).\n\nIf you must, date him years and years before you ever marry.
151038
Like Got Nothing To Do With How Old U Maybe... The Only Thing That U Have to Be Concerned Now is to Get to Know Him Better And In A Way He Will Know U Better Too..\n\nHey if it dun turn out well.. Its No Harm Right.. U Still Made A Fren..
372966
I gave him mine, and sent all my friends and family ... hope it helps ... he's only at 34 now....will see if I can recruit more!\n\nHeh!
178082
i would marry an older man, but im only 24, and the thought of marrying someone who is 50 is a little weird. that might be a little too old. although the EXPERIENCE is intriguing....
134062
Age is a definate problem....only because of how much you (18 yo) are going to change in the next 5  years.  Your ideas, your morals, we really do change alot from the time we're 18 to 25 and then our ideas start to settle.  This is just from personal experience.  \n\nAnd truthfully....it's only going to be about the sex for him...the idea that he can attract and 18 yo..wow it's an ego boost.
171162
Look past the age for a minute.  I mean, I know some 30 year olds that act like they're 50 and I know some 50 year olds that act like they're 30.  Age is irrelevant to some extent. Let me emphasize "some extent".  Although the mind may think younger, the body will eventually answer the question "What's my age again?".   Ok, re-track back to my first statement. *waits while you read it again*.  Now, it is very nice to be complimented.  (if I may, your nose looks quite lovely today!) and it is nice that someone has taken an interest in you.  But, the real question is, would YOU date him?  The mere fact that you are contemplating it leads me to believe you may have some interest.  But, is this interest only because he has showed you some attention?  Perhaps you should casually spend some time with him and see if he is someone you would date.  I don't know the man.  I mean, if you want, I can shoot down to....."where?" and scope out the situation.  You know, stare him up and down and ask him what his intentions are......shake him up a little.
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THAT'S PURE B.S. AND IS NOT NORMAL, MAYBE HE'S SEEING SOMEONE ELSE OR IS NOT SATISFIED WITH YOU.\nNO OFFENCE... I WON'T GIVE MY AGE BUT I'M AS ACTIVE AND LIVELY AS EVER.. FOR A MAN WHO'S 28 GOING ON 29,\nHE SHOULD BE RAMBONING IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN!!!\nMAYBE HE NEEDS CIALIS, OR IS HE SEEING ALICE ON THE SIDE?????
350193
Hi, I remember when I was your age I thought that a guy 1 year younger was a 'lot younger'. If he's a good person, { and especially if he's cute!}, defiantly go out with him.        ps. some advice for your future, 20 or even more years from now, when you meet a guy 20 years younger than you,  STILL GO FOR IT!!!        pss. Also remember this rule, "once a mistake, twice a habit", when any man shows signs of disrespect, or hurts you in any way, BOUNCE!!! Before you get to attached to him. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache!