My hubby and I argu all the time about lil things, but we fight like other coupls do, and the thing is he kicks me out and he leaves too. but we dont talk for like 5 days and then he calls me and wants me back. (beggs me)
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hi Jennifer, i think this man loves u but he has a problem with u so whenever u get closer to him he feels like doing something to u. just find the right time and talk things over. but please do it in a respectful manner. and also about the divorce do not think about that yet cos you have children with this man so if u go ahead with it, it will affect your children. but if things gets out of hand u better live before he harms u.
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YOU"RE IGNORANT.!! WHAT DOES HIS FAMILIES RELIGION HAVE TO DO WITH ANY OF THIS.?? OR WHAT RACE(S) YOUR HUSBAND IS.?? WHO CARES ABOUT THAT, EXCEPT A RACIST?? \n  AS FOR THE ABUSE, HE'S WRONG FOR IT, BUT YOU ADMITTED CALLING HIS CO-WORKERS HOUSE AND BEGGING HIM BACK, AND COME OFF THE SELF-PITTY TRIP, "HE MADE ME BEG HIM BACK". IF YOU DID IT, YOU WANTED HIM BACK. HE DIDN'T MAKE YOU CALL HIM, BECAUSE YOU SAID, " HE DIDN'T CALL ME FOR 2 DAYS". \n  SO YOU NOW DESERVE WHAT EVER HE DOES TO YOU. YOU COULD'VE LEFT HIM ALONE OR WENT HOME TO YOUR PARENTS, BUT YOU CHOOSE NOT TO.  \n  AS FOR HIM CALLING YOU A ***** , WE DON'T KNOW YOU MIGHT BE.\n\n YOU BEGGED HIM BACK AND MADE YOUR CHOICE, SO STOP WHINNING ABOUT IT NOW. IF YOU DIDN'T WANT IT, YOU'D HAVE LEFT HIM ALONE.
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oh my GOD!!!!!  i am so apalled at some of the responses here..... you know what?  maybe he will ditch you for a more open minded person if you gave him the ultimatum, but at least he won't be making YOU feel like crap anymore.\ni completely agree with you, and if my husband was being this disrespectful i would do the exact same thing.
278210
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.
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He sounds like a total loser. Sure you're in love with him and don't want to leave....oddly enough that is what a lot of abused wives say before they get beaten to death.\n\nOh well I guess that is natural selection at work, knock yourself out!
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My guy when we chat online stops chatting to me after 9 pm sharp and its the same when we go out he takes me back home by 6.30 pm which is my curfew.My guy is gang boss yet he makes sure of these things when i reach home he calls or emails to make sure i have reached and if i dont answer all hell breaks loose he calls my parents,my family,my friends lol that shows how much he loves me and trust me i never want to stop chatting or leave so soon but he makes sure to send me since he knows until we are married i need to be taken care that way.hes a real gentleman!yes he should have called give him another chance next time he does it dump him.
314579
my wife told me she wasnt happy once.  and then started talking to some other guy.  when i threatened to leave she stopped talking to him.  instead of waiting on him to leave, why dont you pack up and go?
300357
Honey, I know what you're saying. My ex does the same to me. One day, he's the best thing you could ask for, the next he's unbearably mean. On a good day, I accept that we've had a good day. On the bad, I hope the next will be better. Don't call him for a few days and see the change in his attitude. He's gonna treat you like dirt as long as he knows you're waiting for him.
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On the rare occasions when we do argue my husband is usually the one who says sorry first. Depending on the reason for the argument it can take a couple of hours to cool down.
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Married couples fight. It happens. One thing you need to do is never go to bed angry at each other. I don't know why you had a fight and I don't want to know. You guys have to find a way to have a civil conversation without losing your tempers. I love my wife and I respect her as woman as well. I am nothing without her. I wish you luck
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I know what you mean.  My husband is a soldier in the Army.  We spend a lot of time apart with him in very dangerous situations. It would be really easy to get down, or be negative.  I just keep in mind that my husband is a great and brave man fighting for those too weak to fight for themselves.  What keeps me going is the pride I feel for him, and the wonderful moments come everyday when you treasure each other the way we do.\n\nGet Blessed!
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Not good.  First, he is taking you for granted.  He sees no consequences for his actions and treats you like the dog that gets kicked for no good reason.  He may have frustrations, but has failed to learn or remember who really cares for him above all others.  This is a sign of emotional immaturity.  He needs a wake up call and needs to grow up.  How would he feel if the shoe where on the other foot?  He probably wouldn't stand for it, so why should you?  Don't.  The next time he pulls this crap, I suggest you react in a calm, yet defiant manner by explaining that you care for him, while he seems to have forgotten what a healthy supportive relationship is.  If he wants someone to take out his anger on, then he's got the wrong woman.  End of story, so no more of this behavior against me...no hard feelings.
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Sounds like you both are trying to work through this. Unfortunately sometimes arguments do occur, the only thing is when the dusts settles what then? I believe that by him not telling you right away that this or that was not exactly what he expected seems he is trying to be tolerant. Where he is trying maybe not to impose on you all the time what he think or how he thinks things should be. But if he bottles it up and then waits to explode letting you have it all at once, you are right he really should tell you then and there. Not bottle it up and make him resent or get so angry.  He has to realize you fess up to things you tell him "Oh I had no idea I was coming across that way" so he has to know you are not intentionally doing things to  irritate him. Keep talking, keep telling him to tell you.  Tell him "Hey let post this or that and have people who don't know you and don't know me, tell us what they think is going on. People who have nothing to gain"  People who do this just because we've all been there and think Hey maybe someone else can benefit from past mistakes.   Good Luck to you and him I really hope it works out for you two.
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Walk away.\n\nHe does this because he gets a reaction. If he no longer gets the level of reaction from you that he wants, he will leave.
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My husband and I have been married for a year and have been together for 5 years.  The first year was fine...2 months after we started dating I moved to Texas with my parents...9 months later I moved back to where he was and we moved in together I'd say about 6 months later is when it started.  He would get really angry because I was complaining too much about his job or that he wouldn't do the dishes when I asked and he would throw chairs...at the time we had those little plastic picnic chairs...and clothes at me or near me.  He would yell and scream at me and get right up in my face.  I don't remember him ever laying a hand on me during that time though.  About a year or two later we ended up breaking up mostly because we needed to be our own people for a while considering I was 17 when we moved in together and he was 20.  We were apart for about 2 months then we got back together and I moved in with him and his roommate at the time.  About a month or so later we got our own place and soon after that is when the major abuse started.  I never chalked it up as abuse though until I was watching some show and realized that my boyfriend was abusing me.  When he would get really mad at me he would grab my neck and pin me to the wall or throw me to the couch or the bed or where ever we were.  He has only slapped me twice and I've gotten a few bruises on my neck.  After I realized it was abuse I started to fight back and when he would grab my neck I would kick at him and push him away...I only did that a couple times because it made him even more angry.  We did end up getting married about 6 months after we got back together.  A lot of the abuse happened soon after we got married.  I only remember actually losing my breath and struggling to breath once...and that was a couple of months ago when we were in a car and arguing about he wanted to change his oil in front of an auto parts store but there was a guy outside that when my husband was in the store kept walking past the car looking at me in a weird way so when my husband came back to the car I told him I wanted to leave and told him the reason and so he got all upset and acted like a total baby and so on the way home I told him that him being my husband should want to protect me and want me to feel safe and whatever and I guess I said something wrong and he reached over and grabbed my neck and didn't let go right away like he normally did.  We got home soon after that and I went in and started to pack my things to leave and he came in and threw me on the bed and told me I wasn't leaving so I decided to leave my things and just leave and he just kept stopping me grabbing my wrists and he pushed me and I fell over a foot rest and hit my head.  I don't remember why I didn't leave.  but since then we have gone to a counselor I think two times...but now he works so much that we argue on the phone.  He never did this when he was drinking...we don't drink very much.  I don't know how he could do this to me either...he always said it was because I knew what made him mad but I still did it.  I have changed because of this...I don't say as much anymore and I pick and choose my words...I can't say I am afraid of him though.  I still say what I want when I'm really angry.  I know hes more afraid of my step dad than I am afraid of him though.  It use to happen at least once a week to twice a month.  We don't have kids...we have animals...whenever he kicks the dog I kick him...so see I'm not that afraid of him...I am for a couple weeks after the events happen though but normally I'm not.  He is intimidating though because hes a foot and a half taller than me.
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I think l know exactly where you are coming from. My husband and l did separate. I guess it was both of our faults for one reason or another, but our main problem l think was lack of communication. We are back together again now and try to discuss everything. Sometimes it is really hard to tell your partner how you really feel, but as we can not read each others minds we must all learn to talk about our problems or they just  get all blown out of proportion and before you know it we have huge problems.There is no point begging him for anything, but please try and get him to sit down and atleast listen to what you have to say. Pour your heart out to him if you have to, make sure you get everything off your chest and atleast then you can honestly say  you gave it your all. If he still chooses to leave atleast you know in your heart  that you did your very best to work things out. No-one can expect you to do more than that. Hope everything works out well for you. Good Luck.
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He keeps being persistant because you give in to easily. He keeps screwing up because he knows you will take him back eventually. Pull your head out of your behind and stand up for yourself! Tell him to F$&# off for good! You can do much better than him and you know it!