Surprisingly my best friend all these years has been a guy ive grown up with. We are as close as two real good buddies can be and have been sharing a lot of our feelings of late. However, i never looked at him as my boyfriend and had gone out on different guys time and again. He too all this while kept dating different girls, some pretty and some not so. At the end of it all we used to tell each other as to how it all turned out.\nHowever of late i have started to realise that he is falling for me and getting a little attracted towards me.\nHe is trying his best to keep it subtle and thinks that i am not aware of it but being a girl i realised it way back.\nActually there was an incident that we were both party to ...that triggered it all off. We had gone pubbing and since i was a little intoxicated , i accidently kissed him without realising it. Later when i came to know of it, i apologised profuely and he too rubbished it away but after that incident i think our lives have changed.
216793
Make him understand that you do not love him. Try to avoid him all the time. He will not be around you to be insulted. You have to break up your relationship with your best friend if you are not ready to take him as your life partner. Because things will never be the same again. But I would like to suggest you to take him as he wants. he will be able to make you happy as he is your best friend.
318548
i was in the same situation u are a few yrs ago. i went ahead and told her. and to my surprise she agreed. we dated, we fell in love, we are getting engaged in december.\n\nu need to lose ur fear and tell him exactly how u feel. if hes really ur best friend, he will understand. and its possible he has feelings for you too. good luck. TELL HIM!!!
206993
Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
396433
I actually ended a long friendship with my former best friend a few years ago because our personalities clashed.  He was constantly flirting and kissing girls even though he had a girl who was working her tail off making ends meet for the two of them.  One clear example was when I visited him from out of town with my then girlfriend, he took us to a bar and spent the entire time flirting with one of his co-workers.  He just left us sitting on a windowsill.  \n\nWe've reconciled, but part of me still remembers what he did to not only us, but to his girl. I've lost some trust with him.
83397
I was in love with my best friend and I told him. He didn't feel the same way as I did but that didn't hurt our relationship either, it actually brung us closer and our bond grew because of it. It's a huge risk to tell her but if you really feel strong enough, I say go for it. Who knows, your best friend could always become the best girlfriend you ever had and if nothing else at least she will understand how much you care about her.
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AHAAAAAAAAAAAAAN to be very honest with people are making sense in their own way but if you think you dont love your best friend then you dont but since you said your confussed now that tells me right away you do since you know from six years and your always talking about him to this guy who you suppose to be dating so if i would be you i wont let get to my head but yes i would think about it a little plus just wait time will tell everyone and everything so good luck.
437392
`Is the guy single?  Is he dating your friend?  If he is, would you want your best friend to stab you in the back?  If he is single then perhaps it may he may be fair game?  In any case, I would choose friendship over love.  Plenty of people out there in this world to date.
364169
I guess he did realise that it would not be right to do something that both of you would regret later. I think he likes you more then he lets on and would like to get to know you better before taking things to another level. There is no problem to see and meet each other as both of you know that nothing happened and it has not affected your friendship.
406578
Girl are you serious? For one, if he really cared for you, he would not have started dating someone that you call your best friend. If she was your friend, she would not have started dating someone that you were with and still have feelings for. If I were you, I would take the advice he gave you (which is telling you that he does not want you for a relationship, just something to fall back on) and date other people and just leave him the hell alone and her too. Do not put yourself in the position to be hurt, take control of your feelings, have pride and some respect for yourself. What makes you think a real man would want someone who is going to be their dummy, and wait for them to finish messing around with some other girl? He is making a fool of you, and it is time you get a back bone and swallow that so called love you have for him.\n\nI really do not think what you have is love any ways, I think you are just infatuated with him and its gotten stronger because now he has become a challenge since you can not have him when you want him. Girl it is so many other fine ass men out here and who could be better that what he is, that will love every step you take. Do not wait around for someone to approve you loving them and them loving you. He is not sorry for hurting you, he is just plan sorry!
245959
you really have to ask her what's the deal with what happened.but since i assume that she's your bestfriend,then i say that don't let a guy come between friendship.no matter how much you love him.and IF she wants him for herself and she lets this guy come between the two of you, then later down the road you won't be the one feeling guilty about a guy possibly ruining a beautiful friendship.
433354
First of all, your friend has the freedom to date anybody he wants without anybody's permission.  Dont get involved in his relationship.  Unless he talks to you about it and asks your advise.  You dont want to loose a good friendship over something like this.  This is what my bestfriend tells all his boyfriends, "You may not like my friends and I'm not trading my friends for you, they were my friends before I knew you and they will be with me should something happen to our relationship."  For now just go with the flow.  And be happy for him, cause that's all that matters is that he's happy!  Keep being the good friend you are.  Think positive!  Should he freak out if he doesn't already know then worry about it then.  Good luck! :o)
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My bestfriend was a guy and we started out like you but I was the one in your position.. my friends didnt want me to date him b/c they wanted him. Then one day things clicked and we've been together for two years. I say Screw your friends listen to you.
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Girl, go with the flow.  He probably is freaked out about it and wandering if he should or shouldn't.  When you have been friends and I mean best friends for so long it is a big step to cross that boundary because most of the time once you go all the way you never can get the same friendship back.  Give him time and it will work out if it is meant to be.  Some things just are not made to rush>  Good luck.
667839
Do you have a crush on this best guy friend that's kind of like your brother, even in the slightest? If not then I suggest you relax about it a little. You might want to let them know if they start going out that you love them both, and wish them the best but the second they start having issues you don't want to get involved. Maybe you should also go in to a little more depth with this with your best friend too so she understands. I understand your discomfort with this because when people break up they both seem like jerks and you probably won't want to hear it.
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I went through the same thing this past summer. The result: we're still friends, and I want him more than ever. I wish I had gone out with him when I had the chance. \nI was afraid of ruining our friendship because hes never had a girlfriend for very long. You should let him know. there shouldnt be a secret like that between you.
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I think he told you didn't he, from what I surmise from your text is there is lots of signals in your mind that say he is in to you, which may not be the case. don't use your friend to do the work that really scares you, you bring a 3rd party in to negotiate a relationship, you are asking for trouble, it's OK to use one to break the ice so to speak, like hey my friend likes you kinda thing. but for him to tell his feelings to your friend, not a good idea.
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It depends on you... what you would want to happen? \n\nThere are 2 options:\n\n1. If you really want to be have a love relationship with your best friend and he/she is still single then of course the best way is to let him/her knows about your feeling. But mind you, he/she might get scared by your sudden confession. Remember to give him/her some time to think about it and comes out with a good conclusion for both of you.\n\n2. But if he/she already have a partner in life, then I suggest that you shd keep the feelings to yourself in order not to hurt your relationship with your best friend.\n\nSo, good luck!