I am going on a first date, I am in my 20s, should I feel obligated to tell my parents about it?
200424
It would depend on your relationship with your parents.\n\nDon't tell them if you don't want to, if your reasoning for telling them is because they expect it regardless of your wishes. If you feel compelled because you have an open relationship and share things like that then maybe you should tell them.
109221
If you want to go out with him tell him yes, if you don't than just tell him no.  It is really that easy, unless you are too young to date, or your parents wouldn't approve.
526090
you my dear are going through the process of growing up. after being a child you have suddenly found the world outside is big and everyone has problems of one sort or another, if your parents won't believe how you are feeling have you another relative you can confide in?as for your first kiss I was 17 when I had mine, and we were married 2 years later which lasted for 35 yrs. till he passed away. you are a very worthwhile person in this world, you seem a very kind and caring person, good luck.
438111
You have to tell him just what you told us.... you really never dated and want to experience it. Tell him that as wonderful as he is, you know that if he is Mr. Right, he will let you go on some dates (tell him not sleeping with) and if it is meant to be, he has nothing to worry about. \n\nHonesty really is best and saying it this way shouldn't hurt if he cares that you are sure.
15646
You know your parents better than I; can they handle the news? Will they toss you out of the house?\n\nGet some support for yourself first. PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a good place to start and they have some coming out resources. See if there's a gay youth support group near you, where you can get some additional support and understanding for what you're going through. Maybe there's a Gay/Straight Alliance at your school or another nearby that can lend additional support.\n\nYou'll want to go into the conversation knowing it probably won't be pretty. They will probably throw every dirty and disgusting gay stereotype at you, and you will have to remain secure in the knowledge that stereotypes are often created out of fear and revulsion rather than truth, and that you aren't any of those things. Most of all, be secure in the knowledge that you're a good person, no matter what they may say.\n\nI came out at 16 and it took my parents a couple years to adjust to the idea. Then it just became another part of me. They ask about boyfriends and how things're going, inviting anyone I'm dating over for dinner. Its a non-issue now.
12263
I can definitely relate to you, and let me tell you, unless you are happy with the decisions they are making for you then you need to tell them immediately. You are the one that is going to live your life for the rest of your life. Not your parents. I am sure they are doing it out of love and concern for your future, but if it something you cannot stand, you are gonna end up being depressed and resentful. Good Luck!
581999
hmmm well it might not be if since you are asking the question. Have you tried to sit down with mom or dad and tell them this or can you ? Cause you should feel comfortable to where you can at least tell one of them if both, then one of them will surely tell the other anyways. Wouldn't you rather tell them than not and have something more worse to happen like pregnancy . Hope that's not happened yet you are young still and there's a whole lota life for you yet before experiencing anything more than a kind kiss, which for you could've meant more for you than him.Here's something to ask yourself was kissing to tell you thanks for helping him do something and the kiss went from the cheek to the lips ?!!  Was it more intense than that ? If you can say yes  to that question and or others you should ask yourself about this boy like , how well do you really know him for him be kissing you and where was his thinking.? Was he just trying to be friendly to you and you thought it to be more or what? I wouldn't want my daughter kissing someone that much older but it does happen . It doesn't mean that it should continue happening though . I just believe it some things to think about and I SURE HOPE YOU DO AND OR WILL AND WILL ALSO CONSIDER TALKING WITH YOUR PARENTS AS WELL AT LEAST TO DO FOR YOURSELF IF NO ONE ELSE.
195562
I don't know how old you are. You didn't say, but, you need to talk to your dad and if he doesn't want you to "date", then you need to do as he says, but, you talk about church. Talk to your dad about being able to do things as a church group(functions)with the boy you like. Or going for burgers with other friends included. See what he says
304287
a year and a half? Your parents can't be that upset, you both are mature young adults (I hope) and you shouldn't hide the fact that you care about someone.\n\nGood Luck
475370
i went thru the same thing hun and now i am happy with my internet man...just bring him around and dont tell them immediately where you met. say nothing of the internet guy anymore and arrainge for a date..or movie and let your parents briefly meet him , get him to call and such...and if you met on a website . say we met at myspace..or so on..its a club..and that is all, your not lying just not expling great detail...
579938
you should have waited for the right time.. but what has been done has been done...i just hope u never regreted it... and if u think it will help you to open that up to your parents,why not...just be ready for a 1 month ground...kiddin!
29057
I wouldn't feel such urgency to get wrapped up in the world of dating.\n\nI'm sure most of the other girls your age feel the same pressure.  There's a good chance they're not doing much at all and just talking it up because they feel pressure to do what the rest of the group is doing.\n\nThis will probably make little sense to you now, but I'm going to say it anyway.  You shouldn't go out with a guy because you 'need' to.  You should go out with him because you 'want' to.
38484
if you want your mother to trust you (vital for dates in the future) you have to show her that you WILL NOT lie to her. Tell her you got the funds from your dad. mom might be afraid you are stealing. then promise not to lie again. it is hard but if you keep this from her, it will get bigger and harder to tell the truth. nothing beats honesty - especially with your parents.
236771
well how old are u, if your over sixteen i would try to talk with your parents about letting you date.  i just want to say there really isnt a rush it will all be there when your out on your own.  enjoy being young honey because before to long you will now that the real world can be a rough place.
497357
your parents are trying to protect you. A lot of parents are the same on that one. Next week I will be 26 & I have never dated in my life. I have always wondered when I weill meet the right girl. I am also a virgin. I say you should wait until you finish school & graduated college & get a good job then when you are in your 20's get a boyfriend. As I remember some years ago when I was like 18 or 19 my uncle asked me if I had a girlfriend, yet & I said no. He said good, you are too young. So take my advice. Don't start dating until you know for suure you'll spend the rest of your life with the guy. I now know why I have never dated in my life. People ask me why, but I hide the real answer & tell them another.
188324
I think that im the right person to talk to you.\nI have always belived in complete abstenance, you know, no kissing,and defenatly no sex.\nMy 1st date was when I was 25, i actually waited that long, i met this great gentleman at church, i knew he was the man for me. he actually invited me to go out at this nice restaurant, and i accepted the invitation.\nthis s my fist date, im 25 and not really know what exacly im doing in this restaurant with this guy, He stars telling me about his life, we really had a great time that night, the next day he calls me at work and he sais that he really wants to see me again, i agree to go out again, he told me that he knew that i was the woman he has been waiting for, He actually ask me if He could kiss me, I told him that i had didnt know how to kiss. He got so quiet, he touched my face, then he kissed my forehead, then my nose then my chik, i could not breathe i felt like i was inside a cloud, and then he kissed me, there was i giving my fist kiss, and when i kiss him i always remember how sweet and delicate he was to me. I married him, and we are happily married our anniversary its comming up 3 years already, and we are praying for a baby. there is so much happiness, when you save your self for the right person, the key is not to worrie about it, God will send you the right person, just like he did to me.
172629
Yes, sweetie, you have to.  And you should tell your parents.\n\nIt's understandable to want someone's undivided attention, but it needs to be appropriate attention.  His attention is not what's best for you right now, even if it seems really good and you feel like you really love him.\n\nI know parents can seem lame at your age, but it's their job to look out for the things you don't know to look for yet.  Not because you're not smart, but because you just haven't lived long enough to have learned those lessons yet.  It's their job to keep you safe.  Help them do that as best you can.\n\nIf you just can't tell your parents, tell an adult you trust, like a teacher.