me and my guy broke up after 1 year\ni cant sleep and cant stop crying hes all i think about and at the end of the day when i talk to him he acts like he doesnt give a damn about me and hes pushing himself away\n\nwhat do i do?
206087
It will just take time.  Take it a day at a time.  If someone else asks you out and you think he is nice, accept.  You need to move on and that is done by getting back into the dating scene.  It won't be easy at first but each day will get better.
510074
I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain.  Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.\n\nYou can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:\n\n1.  You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.\n\n2.  He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly.  Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.\n\n3.  Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him.  You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you.  Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.\n\n4.  You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective:  You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him.  You can let go, and it's annoying to him.  What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone?  What if the situation were reversed?\n\nNo, it isn't easy.  Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time.  You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself.  It's not going to bring him back to you.\n\nTake care...
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
372848
He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
560992
dear you shouldn't broken up with him as soon as u did,you should have spent time talking about your problems related other girls,if he didn't care,then you had to let him go.\nif he didn't care about you so thinking about him is just valueless !\nwait and see what he does.if he turns back,you must think deeply related to starting your new relationship.if not don't waist your time,because may his way of behavior harms your proud and personality,the only important person in your life is YOU!
321732
uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
429866
Of course he is going to deny it. He seems very immature and apparently has issues. Tell him that you will get the police involved if necessary and have your phone number changed. That's bizzare, since he's the one that broke up with you. Steer clear of him. Something just don't sound right.
2993
hun its not guys.. im going through the same thing with the person i love... it all comes down to thoughts.. thinking is the worse thing in the world... becuz the devil is involved with your thoughts.. (your mind is the devils playground) so he probably missed her.. and wants to change and thinks theres something there.. just like my situation.. the guy came back.. after a year and she thought there was something there.. remember THOUGHT... when people dont follow there emotions.. thts when confusion comes in.. and confusion is everything bad... so i hope this helps you a little bit and if not im me... Epik_Liphe and i can talk to u a bit... but dont believe its 'guys', its just 'him in tht situation' it may not be he dont love you... its tht hes confused... it may not be plain to see.. and he may not say that.. but if its real love.. hes confused... take it easy hun.. try not to get upset..
550031
who gives a shit if he dosnt like you anymore, get over it, you cant get him back, so get off your sad sorry for yourself ass and do something w/ your life...find someone else, there are plenty more guys out there, stop worrying about this one, its not worth it.
130420
This is my advice to you. I was in the same position that you were in. I dated for a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me b/c he was afraid of commitment or whatever. But my advice to you is this 1) show him that you are the stronger one by not being needy,calling him all the time or really bring up the relationship 2) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF by taking care of yourself it prove to him that you are okay and will help him realize what he is missing 3)surround yourself with family and friends a good support system is the key to the whole situation.
71789
ok i didn't even finish reading your story just bc it reminded me of what happen to me...sorry girl i feel your pain, but what goes around comes around.\nthe guy that dumped me realized the mistake he made 8months earlier and now he wants to try things again...yeah right!\ngirl you can do better even if you have to wait!!! trust me!!!
285765
You are still with him because you dont believe in yourself. If he isnt feeling you by now, he never will, leave him and find someone that appreciates you.\nOr better yet talk to him about how you feel, if he cant open up and tell you where his head is at, let him go
597927
im in a situation just like you ilove my guy to death but i feel isolated but ive been going out with him for 3 years. ive stayed with him by making him want me. i just did simple things like call him and tell him i just wanted to say hi and hear your voice so net i gotta go talk to you later and then i realize (on my ID) that he called me like 3 or 4 times he never leaves a full messge its either hey baby or hi and thats how he keeps me wanting him!\n       good luck!!!!
330305
His feelings are hurt.  He probably still likes you and realizes he made a mistake breaking up with you.  Give him some time.
397938
seriously i think that both of u are really messed up and confused at the moment. give each other some time to calm down and think properly. wait for him to initiatiate, but if he doesnt then u need to learn to let go. it is much easier to let things go than to hang on regardless the mental and emotional pain.
647267
I dont understand if he didnt really want to be with you why would he have stayed with you for a year after you cheated. Just jot down on some paper everything you want to say to him, anything that you might forget. Some times a break up is temporary but sometimes they just tell you that to let you down easy. Thats what my ex did to me (neither of us cheated he just said we should have some time apart and we havent gotten back together yet and that was a year ago)You need to figure out why you cheated on him, it was obviously for some reason. Good Luck
74168
It may be hard for him.  Don't get too upset, after a year's relationship that is probaby a very uncomfortable situation for him.  He is right to tell you not to spoil your life because of him.  Maybe he also felt you were still hanging on for some reason or another and thought the best thing for you, personally, was for him to not be around.  Sounds like he is a nice guy and things just didn't work out.  I would move on.