My girlfriend and I broke up last week. We're still friends; the best of friends, actually. However, she's going away for a bit and I don't know when we'll see each other again. She's still my best friend, and I still love her as much as I always have. Is it possible we will ever be a couple again? Or is distant friends all we can ever be?
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everything is possible..but this kind of situation depends if both of you are really meant to be..if you, then you will always find the way to each other's heart..me and ex broke up, right now we are friends but i don't know yet if we'll be together in the future..time will only tell..
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Bad place to go ESPECIALLY so soon after he broke up with her. One - she's your best friends ex. There is a reason he broke up with her and you probably don't want to subject yourself to the same just for a little sex.\n\nAlso think about if you did start dating her - do you really think your friend is going to want her hanging out with the both of you or with you guys as a couple? \n\nI understand he's not so broken up about it, but they are still an ex-couple -\n\nMy vote is don't do it.\n\nMiss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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Ya, if her feelings for you are ever going to change from friendship to relationship, it's probably not gonna happen when she knows that your waiting for her. I've had friends in the past that have professed their love for me after we had been friends for awhile, pretty much, once your in the friend place it's really hard to come out of. I'm not saying it's impossible but her knowing how you feel probably isn't helping, she knows you'll be there untill she's ready. My advice...move on, still be her friend but date someone else. If there ever is a chance of her feelings toward you changing, it'll happen when she thinks she's lost you. Everyone loves a challenge ;) Good Luck!
310777
I found my true love, my soul mate, my best friend. We met years ago. We were friends for a looong time, and just one day it clicked. We've been together ever since.
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It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
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The sex fades long after the friendship dies.\nThat's why it's very important to have a good relationship with your other.\nMy girlfriend is my best friend.
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Her desire to continue being your friend may be her way of keeping her options open.  Be honest with her.  Tell her you're still in love with her and you aren't able to be JUST a friend to her because it hurts too much!  Break it off, forever, and begin dating immedialy.  You know the story....If you love something set it free, if it comes back... you did alright...
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I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
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For me its cold turkey all the way.  If we didn't work out we didn't work out.  Why do we have to be friends ? We didn't meet to become friends.  Do we really want to stay friends and then double date with our new partners ? Will our new partners be ok with our ex being our friend ? Nothing good comes of it.
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I hear ya hunny. The same thing happened to me nearly 4 years ago. When we broke up I took him off my aim list and didn't talk to him for about a year because it was just too hard. He also started seeing someone about a month after we broke up and he is still with her. It does get easier but it is a very very slow process. You just gotta build up talking in general before you can start talking as best friends again. It was just last year that we could start talking like buds again. If he was your first love you may never get over him but eventually you will have to put that behind you if you want your friendship back.\n\nJust try and give it some time, Best Wishes!
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I actually ended a long friendship with my former best friend a few years ago because our personalities clashed.  He was constantly flirting and kissing girls even though he had a girl who was working her tail off making ends meet for the two of them.  One clear example was when I visited him from out of town with my then girlfriend, he took us to a bar and spent the entire time flirting with one of his co-workers.  He just left us sitting on a windowsill.  \n\nWe've reconciled, but part of me still remembers what he did to not only us, but to his girl. I've lost some trust with him.
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Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason.  Distance is hard on any kind of relationship.  Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again.  Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on.  If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on.  There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you.
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yes it is but only if you or that person can have a friendship based purely on a platonic level. In other words you both have to either be over your romantic feelings for each other or you both have to be able to deal with them without them ever getting in the way of your friendship. Truthfully though some people cannot be just friends after the fact because they are all or nothing people...all the way together or not...there is no middle ground with people like this...and if you r your ex is like this friendship will never work because things like jealousy will interfere.
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I heard of a couple who wrote letters to each other. Never met. But when they did (after 6 months of writing), they met and a few days later, got married. They have been together for over 20 years. So cute.\n\nI've also heard of another couple. One was a nursing student and the other went into the Air Force. They were apart for a couple years... but they waited for each other and visited every now and then. After all of that, they got married. They were together for over 60 years. Aww.\n\nAnd another one. He was friends with a girl for a long time. They met through mutual friends. He always loved her... since before they even met. He saw a picture of her and instantly fell. She only loved him as a friend. Eventually, she realized her feelings for him. They have been together for 9 months now. This is my boyfriend and I.\n\n\nInspiring, isn't it? : }
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if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
632404
Well he left me on my birthday (14 Feb). came back to me the same day, then left me again about a week later for a younger girl. Then came back to me cuz she couldn't do it right. and then left me again. but that's ok I'm over him now, so we are just friends and nothing else will happen. ( o and i knew the girl, i was friends with her sister and we use to chill together).
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I think time and space are important right after a break up....at least a few months.  Trying to be friends right away typically makes it seems like dating again almost, or at least in my situations.  Then when one person starts dating someone else or decides it's not a good idea, it's like a 2nd break up all over again.  It sucks because if one person wants to be friends and the other does not, post break up, that's that.  You have to accept that the person may not want you to be in his/her life for a while...as much as it sucks, you must not be selfish and just move on