If you are the type that wants to have a threesome, would you still be persistant about it if you wife was very uncomfortable with the idea? Would you let it go or let it effect your relationship because she wont do it? I need some input here, thanks!
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I wouldn't ask my wife to have a threesome, and even if I did, I would drop it if she disagreed. I wouldn't want to jeopardize my relationship over something that would likely jeopardize it if it actually happened. That's just me =&#92;
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Hello Myca. I couldn't help but pick out your question, for obvious reasons of course. Let me go straight into it. The quick answer is NO! (Not with a friend first!) YES! If you think the relationship can handle it with someone that ya'll can meet and get to know for that purpose. OK?? If you would like to know why then read the following.......\n First of all I commend you for stating that you don't desire a man in this, (I'll comment on that later). Second, you’re lucky to have a man that hasn't shoved the thought of this down your throat since you both met (even better since this incident). Anyway, "Is it a good idea..?" you ask. Well in this case it's one of those grey areas we all see every now and then. From experience and dealing in "The Lifestyle", as they say, I recommend that you and your husband start with an unknown. The reason for this is simply because should you both decide to go through with this if it turns awkward or it just wasn't good or it was!! See that way you hurt no one and you both get to figure if it's something ya'll would like to consider doing again. Now let me say this, please understand that men and women are totally built different mentally and emotionally. I'm not trying to drag this out or be your counselor but these are thing people should take into consideration before doing things that may destroy something that's perfect already. So make sure that you both have a very, very open discussion about the possibilities of (Jealousy, How you both feel before and after the act, Jealousy!, Can one of you stop if other is uncomfortable?, JEALOUSY!! and disease). I'll take it that you both are very wise and know your partner and your friend. So if you trust and KNOW them well enough to not warrant any foreseeable problems, then HEY! ENJOY!! But remember, the beginning is always Bliss, but look further down the road!!
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Firstly, why did you get married and you're bi? i mean you're not sure of sex you like more, i find that's its wrong more wrong than being homosexual just because its unfair to your wife and to "your best friend" choose one or none. Does your wife know you're bi-sexual? You need to be honest with yourself-as to what u like,if you don't know or can't choose then you need to be honest with your wife now before its too late... I've seen thing like this destroy families and i affects the children. Make your decision before it's too late.
88663
At times a good conversation about hopes and dreams is in order. What do both parties want out of the relationship. Are both parties happy? A younger child can bring added pressures and it affected me also for awhile. I found myself doing many of the same things for a few months. I was in a total culture shock and didn't know how to handle the situation. I am now still there for my wife and its lasted 5 good years and counting. I am now myself again and love the family life. I guess at times it takes som getting used to and others it doesnt work out for people. The situation needs to be addresses because it is unhealthy for both parties. You have needs and so does he. You all need to work things out or split apart and find happiness.
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This is something you should speak to your husband about. My wife had a similar problem. She married me at 18 and I was her first. She expressed her desire to be with another man for the experience, and assured me that in no way was she interested in leaving me for another. Since I love her with all my heart, I wanted to do anything possible for her. Through our discussions we have decided that we will pursue that in the future if the situation arises. I am working through some issues over it, but as I said, I love her and will do anything for her. If she needs to fulfill this, then I will allow it to happen. We may bring another guy into the mix with us or it might happen with her and him alone, we haven't decided that yet, but we will discuss everything and both of us must be comfortable with the situation in order to proceed. Communication is the key. I'm quite sure that your husband has some fantasies of his own that he hasn't shared with you yet. This could possibly be an opportunity for you both to discover new things in your relationship. Have a conversation with your husband. If your husband loves you as much as I love my wife then he will at least ponder the thought. Good luck.
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I think it's great you two have such a close and trusting relationship. It's definitely not for every couple, but you are obviously not the only ones out there. Make sure both partners are comfortable and listen to one another.... Have at it, be careful of std's and such....Wow such trust you guys have.
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I admire the honest mature questioning. Do men get tired of the same woman? Genetically...deep down where the desire to procreate comes from I'm sure. But that's why we have a developed brain. We can move beyond the animalistic impulses and focus our attentions on the woman we love. If I, as a man, want something new in my sex life, why would I NOT express and share it with the one woman with whom I am comfortable and love the most? Some of us can think this way. Others.....not so much. Judge us not by others, but by our own actions.
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I've heard of it before...but never knew the actual term of it. It's not for me though. I'm stingy, I suppose. I don't like to share. I'd be too jealous and hurt if my husband brought another woman into our marriage...as I'm sure he would be if I did. I think it sort of...degrades?...the sanctuary of a relationship...along w/ having an open marriage or relationship. It takes something away from the sacredness...not just religion wise, but also morally. But, to each is their own, as the saying goes. So long as the people involved are content w/ it, then why not? Whatever makes a person happy, I suppose, so long as it doesn't hurt others.
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No it's not bad for you not wanting to. One question to him is: "I will have another woman in the bed with us, as long as I can have another man in the bed with us first".  Usually, they will stop and ponder for a moment.   I am a female, I have done that, two times.  I first want to know, how old are you two.  If he is in the range of 18-25, He probably won't be as sensitive to you not wanting to.  What it comes down to is respect, if you want to do it, then fine, if you don't then, no.  In my experiences, it does ruin some aspects of that relationship, the trust, the "what if" questions are on your mind.  If he cannot understand why you don't want to, then he is not worthy of having you.  Also, that is the most common male fantasy.  I think he may want bragging rights.  Good luck, and don't be forced into it. and if you decide to go through with it, try to relax and have fun, but, depending on how long you two have been together, it can be detrimental to your relationship.
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I have never in my life had intercourse with another woman besides my wife. I have never groped, petted, made-out with, or anything else of a sexual nature with another woman since we got married more than 16 years ago. I don't really want to either, and I don't even believe in our culture's monogamy-only dogma.
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I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
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Thats cool that you two are talking about it.\n\nFirst, before you get into picking the lucky person you will ask to share your bed you two must be positive you are ok with this.  You also may need to talk about limits.  For instance, my wife does not care what another woman does to me but I am not allowed to let my mouth go near the special area on the girl with us.\n\nThe choice between another man or woman is up to you two.  Is your husband ok with another guy?  If yes, thats great.  The next question he would have to answer is does he want to do anything with the other guy.  If it is another woman same questions go to you.  Only you two can answer these types of questions.\n\nI have been in both types of bedroom play.  With two guys is myself and my best bud and his girlfriend.  A bit of alchol helped get this going but he and I did not touch.  We tried to always keep his girlfriend in between us.  (OK, slightly homophobic but I can admit it and deal with it.) I have also been with some very adventerous women and sometimes they would play with each other and other times act like my buddy and I and attempt to keep an invisible wall between themselves.\n\nWhatever you two decide, enjoy and good luck.
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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What's wrong with coming out and asking for it?\n\nAnd no, that's not entirely a rhetorical question.  I ask because for years, I used to think that if my wife REALLY loved me, she'd just KNOW when I wanted sex.  (Which, let's face it, is pretty easy to figure out -- if I'm breathing, I want sex. :-)  A lot of this is because when we were first married, we were at each other all the time.  (In our past relationships, we had both been the one who wanted it "too much," so it was such a joy to find each other and explore our own upper limits instead of hearing from our partners, "Jeez, we did it yesterday, how many times a week do you WANT it?")  When the frequency dropped after we had children (it's more difficult to throw your partner to the livingroom floor and have wild, loud sex at 3 PM on a Saturday afternoon if your kids have friends over playing Nintendo), this bothered me for a while.  I thought it meant she didn't love me as much, I thought it was Something I Did, I thought it was -- you get the picture.  \n\nThings have really improved in the past couple of years, since I learned the simple act of saying "You know, I'd really like some kind of sexual activity tonight.  What are you up for?"\n\nSo the answer is, go ahead and ask her!  \n\nAs another Wicked Sex Tip: In my experience, one's chances of getting lucky increase exponentially after a really good backrub.  Find out where she's always sore, learn what relaxes her, and be generous.  Besides, if nothing else, you're running your hands over the naked body of the woman you love, and that's on my top three list of favorite activities in and of itself.
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I kinda agree with you there .. getting an escort is expensive and slightly less graceful ... I suggest finding somebody over the Internet using a personal ad on a website like adultfriendfinder.com etc. \nBut I was wondering have you and your hot boyfriend ever tried MMF sex ... I mean I have experienced threesomes with my spouse both FFM and MMF type ... my conclusion is that MMF threesome is somehow more fun for all specially my spouse, she enjoys it as much as I do .... as for the other M , he is my friend , very trust worthy, clean, attractive looking and great in bed...  since we all know each other very well ... no embarrassments, no money involved, secret is well kept and everybody gets fulfilled (literally).\nIn the FFM scenario I found my spouse being left slightly unsatisfied ... as if there was too much responsibility on my shoulder to satisfy the two.. none was bisexual ... so i guess I see it as slightly hyped ...\nBut if you find threesome with another chick irresistible then go ahead ... talk to a female friend of yours she might wanna join the two of you .. that is the safest, steadiest and cheapest method of fulfilling your threesome fantasy regularly ... have fun!!!
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I'm bisexual and I've been in an open relationship with my girlfriend for about two years now.  We haven't had any threesomes or groups, she had another lover for a short period of time and I've had a string of one night stands.  I would love to do threesomes, but she is a very shy person due to some traumatic childhood events, and we just haven't met the right person yet. \n\nMy last relationship was also open, for three years, and we had a LOT of threesomes, in fact, that was our arrangement, we didn't do anything without each other.  That relationship ended mutually because I lived two hours away and the distance was too hard.\n\nI also have some family friends who have been in a plural marriage for about 25-30 years.  The two women are bisexual but the man is not.  The three of them raised two wonderful kids together and very happy.
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I like it, but my wife doesn't.  It is just one of those things that some people like and some don't.  The good news is that it isn't one of those things that you should make or break your relationship over.