One of my best friend who i have known for 8 years is all of a sudden changing and don't want me around any more and i want to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to talk to me what should i do??
199634
i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.
495695
I would tell her that you find that you do not have time or energy anymore to babysit for her. You must be up front with her and tell her that you have had enough of her "oh woe is me" routine as it has begun to stress you out. As we learn more about people we find that they are just not who we want as friends and we move on. Time for you to move on away from her drama. Good luck to you... I suggest you unplug your phone after you tell her for abit.
490532
If she was a true friend no matter what she shouldn't be treating you this way.just because you make new friends doesn't mean you have to get rid of the old ones.try and talk to her find out what is her problem.if she doesnt change then you need to find a new friend someone who is sincere and trust worthy and who will always be by your side,good luck.
648883
Take it easy. Things are changing.\nIf you really treasure your friendship.You don't have to talk to her seriously. Just treat her sincerely.
546579
Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
300943
It sounds like you need to find new friends. It is a sad fact that as you get older people change. You are smart enough to see that what she is doing is not right and that is a great start. Ignore what she says and be the bigger person and act like it does not bother you. Stop trying to be her friend as there are plenty of other great people out there that would love to be your friend! If she asks why you two are not friends anymore, just tell her that you don't need to be around people like her. Don't sweat it kiddo! You will make some great friends! Good luck!
146527
Well, what I do when my friends do this to me, I let them know it. My ULTIMATE best friend in the world has done this to me, many times. Basically, all I do is tell her that I'm kind of upset how we seem like we are drifting apart, then I comfort her by saying that if something is bugging her she can tell me. You have to be the one  to do something, she won't realize that she is hurting you. I wish you the best of luck.
76911
Maybe you should ask yourself what it is actually that makes you want to be friends with them AT THIS STAGE in life. Are you friends because you have always been or because they enrich your life?\n\nIt is no shame not to want to spend your time on doing things with them that really don't interest you anymore. You would be fooling yourself, not them if you continue.\n\nI know, it is hard. You don't want to break up friendships that you have had for a long time already. Just realize that youcan try to talk to them, tell them how you feel about it - since you have nothing to loose anyway, as it seems - but it remains their life, their choice and their time. Don't expect some major change just because you ask them to...\n\nGood luck!
632430
People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
10298
You must be very careful if you choose to keep this type of friendship. I had a friend like this and because of her need for attention she did things like always try to cause confusion even between my sister and I.  She even lied about having cancer one time for attention! She is a middle age woman I finally decided that for my piece of mind she was not a asset to me but a liability and I ended the friendship.
614950
I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
150149
did she change in a bad way? if she were really a good friend, she shouldnt change how she feels about your friendship just because someone else comes along. you should try to address her that she seems different than usual, and maybe she'll tell you why the sudden change occurred.
165240
If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
206281
Make sure you tell her you deserve an explanation for her distance. This is important. You have the right to know why she no longer wishes to be a part of your life. Just pull her to the side nicely or if you can catch her alone even better and just be like, "Hey, I've noticed you've been distant lately, is there anything wrong...did I do something to upset you?" Then if she doesn't wanna talk or explain herself, tell her "I deserve an explanation and I'll only try this once if your gonna give me the cold shoulder. I care about you enough to address the situation, but if you don't wanna be my friend anymore, at least have the decency to inform me like a woman". After this. just do what's in your heart. Go your separate ways and look into other options in friends. Someone is out there in the same boat as you and you'll find a new BFF soon. Good Luck!
648625
well think bout y u dont wanna be friends with her anymore. if ur sure u gotta good reason y not tell her that then? or just tell her straightforward that u 2 just cant be friends anymore and get it over it.
221058
If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.
136581
I'd email her and give her some time to answer - if indeed she would like to. Be sincere in your request for a reason why she is no longer paying attention to you.\nI think the situation is between you and her, not with her friends - try not to involve them.