He and his wife both work and they really don't have money problems. The problem is that his wife is not very loving to him. It is almost like they are just in an arrangement and , she only can find what is wrong with everything that he does instead of finding the good in him. What should I tell him, how can I encourage him.
212723
Sounds like your friend still loves his wife. He needs to sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart talk about how her treatment is hurting him. You know ... Honey, I love and I want you to know how I feel when you .... I want our marriage to work. But I can't go on being treated like a doormat. What can we do to make things better? ...\n\nIf that doesn't get through to her I would encourage them to get marriage counseling. If she refuses to go, he should go anyway. It will help him to deal with the pain she's causing him and perhaps give him some insight into why she's behaving this way.\n\nI pray your friend's wife will be open to a loving and honest conversation with him. Barring that, that she'll be willing to go to counseling. Bless you for being such a good friend.
157903
And he hasn't left his wife? well it doesn't  look like he feels the same even if he says he does he is just saying that b/c his heart is still with her, there are billions of men out there, why one that is married. You should end it, have more respect for yourself that you are implying that you have, you are portaying yourself to be a homewrecker.
547530
It doesn't sound like a marriage made in heaven.  If your intuition is telling you something is wrong, then I would have to agree with you on that.  With skimpy facts here, I'd say that there is a rocky road ahead for that couple.
264501
You are so selfish. It's all about money to you. It would be such a convenience to you if could just move in with him, no regard for how he or your kids feel. Maybe he knows this and that is why he is not moving the relationship forward. You need to give the poor guy a break and move away, learn how to deal with life on your own, and then try to get into a healthy relationship...
549559
What is needed is that you tell him to stop blowing the money or go sleep in his car that he bought the speakers. Let him know that you two are to be more responsible for the money that God has bless you with. Next pray for him and ask God to help you stay calm until he changes because we can't change a person they have to want to change themselves. We can pray for them and allow them room to change. God bless you.
408654
I have read a little further about what is going on in your life . Do you remember the love you and your husband had for each-other before you became married and their wasn't as much drama and stress as you have right now ? Both of you need to sit down and talk to each other and remind eachother how much the other means to you. The bills will always be their . Trust me I know . The one you love more than life itself may not be though , and the sad thing is you or he will be loosing the other's love over " Money " . You will both make it if you both stand beside eachother .\n Good luck !
571011
I work in a trucking company and seen many men who's marriages have fallen apart. Why? Because these guys have no 9-5 life. They live by trucking, their experiences are in trucking. Thsi is what they relate to. \n\nWhat can you do? Try to help them have a life outside trucking, friends you can get together with, other people with similiar interests, outside trucking.\n\nAnd try to accept that sometimes they want to talk about their trucking, at least he is trying to share his experiences with you. If possible, go on trips with him and see the world through his eyes.\nDevelop some common interests.\n\nCiao
227347
Currently, you should concentrate on taking care of your children and keeping yourself healthy and your thinking rational.  If your husband has capital for business, talk to him and find out what he is doing to make money because you will need to know what resources he is working with whether you stay married to him or not.  Right now, you do not need to become entangled with another man, especially one you do not love.  The needs or your children and yourself should come first. You must take charge of your own life and stop depending on men to carry you. You do not need confusion.
20065
There's gotta be more to this story.  Anyway, he has to be the one to quell this situation.  He needs to be up front with his wife.  Any kind of sneakery and she'll have the right to blow a gasket.  He needs to let her feel like she's the one putting boundaries on your and his relationship, whatever that may be.  (Women are funny that way)
260661
Holy crap you sound EXACTLY like me. Keep doing what you're doing. Sorry to all the wives out there, but you have no obligation to anyone except yourself. He's the married one, so he has to take responsibility for his actions if she finds out. Enjoy yourself. Life's short.
368175
I have a hard time understanding this kind of thing...men not helping around the house. BEFORE my husband and I were married, I told him I wanted us to be EQUAL partners. That meant, we'd both work, we'd both do housework, and we'd both pay the bills and raise the kids TOGETHER. I didn't want him to HELP. I wanted him to SHARE the responsibilities. He agreed, so I married him. Yes, I do a bit more housework, but he does a bit more working outside the house, and we do share the childcare. You need to sit down and TALK to him.  It goes like this: "I want us to start sharing more of the work. I am getting exhausted doing all the housework myself. If you don't want to do your 50%, then YOU need to hire me a cleaning service. It's your choice."
298029
I think you need to find another job.  He took advantage of you, and he is a user.  You need to move on and not think about him anymore.  He isn't available to you no matter what he says about him and his wife.  He hasn't left her and he isn't going to, that's what people like that do.
331068
Selling what?!? Anyhow he's working and not having fun. Respect the fact that he's earning money. Would you rather date someone who needs to borrow money? Just accept it but make sure there is a couple times a week that is just for the 2 of you. Tell him how you feel and you'd appreciate if he set aside uninterupted times for you. Good luck
343513
Ugh...what a mess. Look, no one is perfect and there are a ton of people on here who will tell you what a bad person you are because of this scenario. First and foremost, please remember no one has the right to judge you. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone hurts people...nobody is above this. Please don't listen to all the horrible words posted here. It doesn't make you a "bad" person...but you are troubled and confused and this situation is only going to lead to so much hurt and pain for so many people, especially the kids. I hate to say this, but most likely he will stay with his wife. I know you love him and can't imagine a life without him, but you have to right now. You're both obviously in marriages that aren't working. This is where you need to focus your efforts right now. If you're so in love with him wouldn't you want him fully devoted to you? I thought so. And if he truly loves you, then he'll want to be with YOU and only you. For your own health, well-being and safety, stay away from this right now. If there's any hope for the two of you, it will be later on when all the issues have been dealt with and all the pain has healed. I wish you all the best.
101470
Well, there are a couple of reasons I can think of. First, maybe he doesn't feel his wife is treating him well (emotionally or sexually) and what better way to improve the way she treats him that to invoke that monster of jealousy...that usually makes women go overboard with sex and niceties in order to keep her man from straying. The second reason may be that he simply wants to be honest with her...doesn't want her to find out from someone else.
211482
HAving a spouse who is more successful threatens their masculinity. A lot of men feel that they  should be the provider and if the wife is earning more this can make them feel like they're a failure.  Sounds like your husband may be feeling resentful of your income and success and is trying to sabotage that - you need to have a long honest talk with him, maybe draw up a budget and set some ground rules on spending.
234635
Just the thought of money changes people. You should have a conversation with your husband and be truthful about how you feel. Make him accountable so that when you are around they feel uncomfortable about doing that in front of you. As far as cheating be patient time will tell just watch what he does not just what he says and make sure they are both in line. As far as his brother either he stops its or you may have to say something about it in front of both of them. Give him a chance to fix it first