i'm an Asain girl.i dated with a with white boy for 6 months.he's younger than me 1 year.i do love this guy  alot.but he dumped me last month.the reason he gave me is he was not in love with me.i had done nothing wrong and he didnt have any girls else.he said i was too good,too sweet,too nice for him.he had never met anygirl likes me.but his heart was empty.something was missing.what should i do to get him back.i told him that i could be his friend.i try to call and e-mail him but seem likes he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.when we were dating.i did alot for him.everyone in his family really love me.i'm so confused.should i get him back or just let him go?
201051
dear,\nmove on he is not into you! There is someone out there for you i promise. And you can do better that him anyways by what it sounds like. Good luck I f you need any more help contact me esmerelda_sanchez@yahoo.com.
565385
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
493687
Don't put up with it.  If he really liked you, he wouldn't want you to feel like you do right now, and he wouldn't be dumping you.  I realize you like this guy, and this isn't the advice you wanted, but it's true.  If you let him act like this, and then you two get back together, he'll just break your heart.
75391
If he doesn't want you then you should start dating other people.  Your goal shouldn't be to make him like you, make your goal to be more attractive to guys in general if this is what you want.
76517
Sorry, but no he doesn't love you. You are nothing more than a "safe zone" to run back to when his search for something better leads him to another rejection. Save yourself alot of heartache & misery - remove him entirely from your life! Let him know you deserve better, because you are worth it. You must respect yourself before anyone else will.
221300
just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)
519073
Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
545733
You can still keep dating and not necessarily wait for him completely. Who knows when he will be ready to date again and be fully healed. With you there waiting on him he may feel pressured to get with you because he doesn't want to lose you and in turn jump into something he may not be ready for. Healing takes time and no one really knows how long that is...not even him. Just be a good friend to him now and be there for him when he needs you. If you really like him and want to be with him just be patient. Good Luck!
509099
You let him be free,And the best way is to let him go,He is the one missing out on someone special,He is such a loser,i pity him.He lost someone who truely loves and cares about him,True love which is mightier than power,You lost someone who's a jerk.Cheer up girl.You deserve someone better who can give you all that love.
162331
Did he give you a reason for the break-up?  I'm thinking that he doesn't want to rush into another relationship right now because he is still nursing a broken heart and doesn't want it broken again.  Give him so time.  The good news is that he still keeps in touch with you. Let him know that you're still interested and let him call the shots unless it looks like he's calling all the wrong plays.  In that case, put your foot down and tell him that you want him back but you agree to take it slow.  Let him know that you love him and don't want to hurt him.
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As I've learned on a question of my own, you cannot expect a real answer 'cause we don't know how you guys even broke up. We don't know who dumped who and how are things between you two now.\n\nThe truth is probably this, assuming that I have a real insight of the situation from your question: You are still a princess to him and he still finds you beautiful. But you are not HIS princess anymore. He surely does care.\n\nThe fact remains - he is trying to destroy your self confidence so you don't find somebody else. It is a cruel tactic, but the man still cares and he's out of ideas. Talk with him.
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It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
247430
He may still like you deep inside, so he's afraid that he may fall for you again? Why broke up with who, and what was the reason for it? Were you friends before you started dating? It's always a good thing to make a promise with your significant other that when/if you two brake up, that you will be friends like you were beforehand. Talk to him and ask him; see what he says. I know, its EXTREMELY hard to get guys to open up, that being part of the reason. But it never hurts to try.
80932
give him a chance to breathe and think on your relationship. if you want him in your life you have to be mature enough to let him decide if he wants to be with you; if you're bringing drama to the relationship and he broke up with you because of it, at this point you have to let him decide if he REALLY wants to be with you. I was in a relationship like yours and he decided to come back to me. I always have to be careful of his feelings due to our past but if your gut wants to be with you let him. if he doesn't let him go, it'll only help the both of you in the long run...
409056
I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...
504986
I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
18393
Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.