Are most Gays really that flamboyant?  I'm confused b/c a lot of gays try to be girls, but I've run into some who were just regular dudes. Oh, and how does it happen in the first place??
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I think that gay men that are really flamboyant and "act gay" tend to get media attention more often.  But there are "normal" gay guys out there, but normal people don't get on television as much, even if they're gay.\n\nScience hasn't really figured out for certain what causes people to become gay.  Some of it is psychology, and some is physical or genetic (you're born with it!).\n\nIt's looking more and more like a combination of both.
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I've seen several questions like this one lately...They completely blow the theory many gays spout out that homosexuality is not a choice!  According to most gays, you're either born gay or not...no in between.
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Some gay men can be very melodramatic!  I worked with one and although I did not care that he was gay, he was the biggest back stabbing, gossipy person I had ever met.  However, my gay friend is nothing like the guy I worked with.  He is loving, smart and funny.  I have yet to meet a lesbian I didn't like.  They tend to be less stressed about things like looks and relationships unlike heterosexual females.
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I don't believe ANYONE would actually CHOOSE to be- I mean, it's kind of like choosing between driving a car uphill and walking on your hands, in the snow, with no gloves on,  backwards, while making a homemade apple pie. Not much of a choice here, is there? \nI apologize if that was a little over the top, but I get really frustrated by lack of understanding when it comes to matters of sexual orientation. A lot of answers you'll get will be "choice", but I assure you that NONE of THOSE answers will EVER come from someone WHO IS REALLY GAY. Why the heck would we, as heterosexuals, know better than someone who IS ACTUALLY HOMOSEXUAL??\n(again, I'm sorry if I sound nasty- as the saying goes, "One of my best friends is gay."- and he is.)
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Okay...\n\n(1)  The "girlish" or feminine side in every male psyche is probably unrelated to his sexual identity as a gay, straight, or bi man.  Certainly the sets of traits that get characterized as "feminine" (whatever that means) are present in different degrees in every man, just as the sets of traits that get characterized as "masculine" are present in different degrees in every woman.  Maybe the whole girlish and boyish thing is a ruse, anyway, to keep us all acting as our authority figures instruct.  \n\n(2)  That said, to the extent your question is about being "100% straight," you may be confusing sexual fluidity (that the categories aren't as fixed and intractable as we are conditioned to believe) with actually taking on a bisexual identity.  Certainly a lot more people are bi than are comfortable admitting it.\n\n(3)  Being bi, however, is not universal.  The fluidity of sexuality is fairly universal.  But actually being a bisexual man is a particular sexual identity, not a secret reality beneath the surface of straight or gay identity.  Bi men are their own thing, their own culture, their own life-way.  Sexual fluidity is a different phenonenon--living culturally as a straight man, and primarily relating sexually to women, but with a capacity for some homoerotic desire or experience--this happens all the time, and would happen much more were the social consequences of being branded gay so negative in a homophobic society.\n\nSome of us, though, really are bi.  That means we are not hiding ourselves inside someone else's identity.  We live openly as bi men all the time, even when sexually monogamous to one partner (whether male or female).
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It is unfortunate that the majority of people in this country are still so scared of the possibility of gays living equal among them. Why else place such a ridiculous ban? Some will say that children raised by gay parents will have it a lot harder. I disagree. I am amazed at how open and honest the youth in todays schools are. The only ones I know of that are homophobic have learned the behavior and language from their parents. If the youth of today can accept each other, why can't the adults? Fear. My partner and I just placed a question on here about how to adopt. the answers ranged form "Yuck" to 'How dare we drag a child into our fantasy?" These answers just mirror the fear and ignorance of the majority of Americans. Gays are accepted as long as we are funny, and the life of the party, but as soon as we stop acting like the characters on a sit-com we become a threat. The ban doesn't surprise me. the real question here is what to do about? How do accepting, open minded, loving people fight against such fear?
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H-I-B Brilliant man! These simple questions for simpletons, may be too much for them to absorb all at once. It's real hard to decide if it was once, or maybe twice. That is what BI-LESBIANS say about not being a Lesbian. I was BI curious, or maybe SEMI-BI-LESBIAN. So how many HOMOSEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS concluded that you are a HOMOSEXUAL? My example of NEO_CONSERVATIVE dialog, HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!! The crying "RIGHT" can't stand up for themselves, and now have to "CRY" to the left for support. BOOO-FUUUUKIN_HOO. My man here is completely right about the semis-ism, so stand up and take your knocks, it's your turn in the barrel. Vote out the TYRANTS in NOVEMBER, free America!
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Dear vBoy,\n   Many people who are primarily attracted to members of their own sex have gone through a period of confusion during which they tried to form a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  Perhaps they felt a need to live up to the expectations of others, family, society at large, etc.  But if the attraction is almost exclusively toward the same sex, these people eventually may decide to identify themselves as gays or lesbians.  Sexuality is quite fluid and diverse, however, as Kinsey explained.  For example, in Italy it is quite common to meet handsome young men who have relationships with older men, primarily for financial benefit, but later the young men get jobs and marry and have a family.  Are these men gay?  Straight?  The question is irrelevant.  Sexuality is essentially behaviour.  Even those who have early on identified themselves as gay may at some time have relations with the opposite sex.  It might be situational, or it might be out of pure physical and emotional attraction.  If you desire to know more about such matters, there are many groups who can supply information.  PFlag is a good start.  Look up a local chapter of Parents and Friends of lesbians and gays (PFLag).  I hope my answer has helped.
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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Yes, I can see you might be gay. Assuming it outright, might not be prudent here. I can appreciate as well how you feel about the guys with muscles popping, straining etc for top position. After all, fake or not, the idea of beating another down through, strength, skill and endurance can be seen as "HOT, HOT, HOT".!!
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They can insult each other's manhood in the same way straight men do. Just as there are plenty of effeminate straight men there are a lot of masculine gay men. Insulting one's manhood is even more prevalent in the gay community since your sexual orientation has already knocked you down a point on that. So they make it up by being even better than the other boys. It is an insult for a gay man to be compared to a woman just as it would be for a straight man.
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It's the same in the straight world. Some guys are waaay more butch and other guys are kind of run of the mill average and some straight guys are sensitive.\n\nSame thing with girls, you have girly girls and you have some girls that are kinda tomboyish in style of clothes and attitude but yet not butch. Different strokes for different folks. Just the way the world is.
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Just to make this LOUD AND CLEAR being gay is NOT by choice...I'm gay and i definitely didn't CHOOSE to be this way...and  why even compare str8 and gay relationships? its all the same . You love and you're  being loved ,you're  heart feels right with that person...that's all that matters.
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Simply because, with all what society says about freedom and tolerance, it is not easy being openly gay, let alone being an openly gay sportsman. Sports are seen as the epitome of masculinity. And gays are never seen as masculine. \n\nAlso, sportsmen seek reaching the status of being sports' icons and idols for fans. How many a straight man, or woman, would want to idolize, or have any of their offsprings idolize, a gay man?
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Finding someone the same sex as you attractive does not make you gay unless you feed on it. A girl can say another girl is beautiful and not thought of as gay but society for some god forsaken reason, shuns gay men. A man can't state the same without being called gay. It's bullshit really. No if you fantasize, want, or crave for another man it is quit probable that you are indeed gay but being a virgin makes it really hard to determine. Some people have had the same feeling and thoughts about their sexuality only to have acted on them and found out that they were wrong completely. In my case, (Lesbian) I thought I was for having thought of other women but it wasn't until I actually had the experience with another women was when I knew for sure that I am gay.
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i think that it depends on the guy in question. I know alot of gay guys and some of them are very respectful, they understand that guys are straight and they are just normal with them. However some other guys I know take great pleasure in winding straight guys up and making them feel uncomfortbale. Although I am very comfortable with gay guys and gals I do find it very intimidating when they are in your face flaunting their sexuality. \n\nI guess the people in question should really know who they are and change their behaviour! x
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I have many friends that are either/or.  They are still good people but have a difference on their sexual outlook.  If they are your friends that is all they have to be nothing more.  I had a male friend who I did not know was gay and when he told me after 5 years of friendship I was only upset because he didn't tell me.  I told him I still loved him the same and we were best friends for many more years after that.  Some people are very mean when it comes to that.