I am a nice guy and I respect females a lot. However I've noticed that females like bad boys. So far being a nice guy only give me street sisters I dont want. Do I have to act like a jerk in front of a girl so she can like me?
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I have this same problem, I'm 22 and just coming out of it. The trick is to find the right mix of Gentlman and Confidence. Too often the nice guy lets the girl take charge of a situation, capitulating to her wish because she is a girl. This is not what they want. They want a Man who will be a Man and who will take them along for the ride. The Gentleman must fill this role while at the same time respecting his woman. When you get those two aspects of manhood down your luck with girls will change.  You'll find a girl who is worth your time.
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BECAUSE,if your like me,you,re too nice for half the girls around you.Cool girls always pick the bad guys and then later cry and complain about what jerks they are!!if you,re like me,just act like you,re happy being single and alone and they,ll begin to notice you.the secret is.... its ok for women to complain about being single,but its unattractive when us men do it,I know from experience
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Why . . . you ask why . . . . look at all the make-over shows . . . "What not to wear" "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy" "Extreme Make-Over"\n\nYou girl love these type of guys . . . hoping that you can convert them to nice guys . . . but these bad boys get you hot and ready.  These guys will use you and treat you like garbage . . . and you love it.  Meanwhile, thinking to yourselves . . . he will change for me.  Let me tell you this sister . . . unless he is a complete p**** . . . he won't and when he does . . . you will dump his a** because he is no longer the jerk you fell in love with.\n\nThis is a game with women . . . to try to reform these bad boys . . . and in most cases . . . they end up in abusive relationship . . . or knocked up and alone.  Then they tell the nice guy all about the a**holes they dated . . . and ignore the nice guy still and hook up with another bad boy - because of the challenge.
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I think guys are overly nice (or 'smarmy') to girls they fancy.  But they can be just normally nice to girls they just see as other human beings, if they are a nice person, and in a good mood (!)
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because girls think that they can change a bad boy into a good boy. Bullshit. It never works. GO FOR THE NICE GUYS!!!
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I was very interested in your question and the answers you recieved. I have been with "bad boys", you could say i have a lil bit of an addiction...lol It's not that i am stupid or because i ws abused as a child. It's not that i am still so immature that i do not see the pitfalls of being w' one. This said, I will tell you that Brad is right! Women want men who are confident, strong and well....act like MEN! It's in our nature as women. How many guys do you know that think it would be soooo cool if only their girlfriend acted more like one of the guys? It is great in theory..she would love sports and all the same stuff you do right? Then think about it....... do you REALLY want a girl who acts like a guy? It's not that we want the bad boy all the time (although some of us genuinely do like that...diff. reasons and i'm sure you know a few) It's that we want the guy who takes his place in the relationship as the GUY..so that we can feel like a woman. It's not that you have to BE the bad guy, you just have to pick up the traits that we are attracted to in them! Be a man, be confident, upfront, and yea...I've told a few other guys this, don't take too much of our crap because we will lose respect for you and start seeing you as a wuss! Do you know how many times i have seen girls w' nice guys and they are soo bored and not attracted to him anymore..they start checking out the bad boys... they don't understand why..i mean their guy falls all over himself for them. Our backwards screwed up society is partially to blame but all these lil girls need to stop brow beating all of our men into p***y whooped lil sissy boys and then turning around and whining that he just doesn't do it for them anymore! Romance is not dead! It's that we as women, and i know i am going to get so hated for this..lol, have put you men in a position of not knowing just how to be men anymore..... you can be both... you can be well mannered, polite, considerate, very caring and also assertive, confident and strong! Then....just stand back and hold on to your socks! Because the woman you get then will be a real woman..who recognized in you what it really takes for a good balanced realtionship! Not one of these crazy lil girls running around crying that they want this and that and basically the equivalant of being with another chick..and then dumping you when they realize that for some reason they just don't understand..you just don't do rock their world..lol \n  Just be you...be some of what she wants and needs, the same as you would want from her, and be a man. Good Luck!
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For one YOUR A GOOD GUY. Ima girl and I dont always want a good guy.  I dont want him giving me everything I want. I want to feel like "I" have to work for it not them.  I promise thats exactly what they are lookng for. If they cant find it in you they end up finding it in someone who does do it. You know what that's telling you..?  They arent your soulmate. When you find a girl and you treat them how they want and yall r perfect for each other then she wont do you wrong.  But stop being so lovey lovey and stuff. Be aggressive!!
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some of us girls like guys who are "bad boys", some like them rich and pretty, and so on and so on.I know I like guys who are kind and affectionate, but also will have a tough side(just not to me). So I am in the group of girls that like a mix of everything. Just find out about the girl and the past guys she has dated.Don't try to be like those guys, because odds are they broke up for a reason. Just find out why they aren't "together" anymore. If it was because he was to pushy and bossy, be sweet and let her make some of the decisions.
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I consider myself a nice, respectful guy with a good body, and it's difficult to find girls who are the same way.  A lot of girls think that its superficial for a guy to be interested in girls who take good care of themselves, but it's not.  If someone has an active lifestyle and eats reasonably, their body will show it.
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This is tuff.  Believe it or not, guys like different things in girls.  Some guys like girls that are like sticks, some like girls with some meat on there bones.  Some guys like small boobs, some guys like big boobs.  The most important thing for you to ALWAYS remember it you need to like yourself.  If you don't like yourself it is hard for others to like you.  Any guy, and I do mean any, should like you for you.  Not because you have big boobs and are a stick.  They are not really worthy of you if they don't accept you for whom you are.  As far as that goes, you need to accept you for whom you are.  Don't worry, you are young.  In time you will find the right guy.  Don't place a large enfasist on trying to be with a guy now.  Hard to accept but you should worry about doing well in school.  This way when you are older, you will be smarter and make allot of money and then the guys will flock around because you are not poor.  Good luck.
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I just wanted to let you know that my sister is exactly that type of person.  I think it is actually a personality characteristic just like any other.  She is somewhat in denial of it unlike your acceptance.  She must make more money than her man and he must do as she likes or she lets them go.  It's her way or no way.  Some guys like it and stay around and others abhor it and do the exact opposite--leave as fast as their feet or car will take them.  So if that is what you like then there are plenty of women out there.  My sisters friends are exactly the same way so keep looking, you will find exactly what you want/need if you are patient
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Personally, I like a guy to come up to me first, I guess maybe that's because I'm a little shy myself. They say good guys finish last and I guess as the saying is also for girls that is why I am still single myself, but in reality although women may seem attracted to bad boys so to speak I think that all they really want at the end of the day is a nice good guy. Perhaps consider being more forward, I know it feels hard but women will respect you for that. If you're good looking and are really a nice guy then you don't need to worry about a thing, she'll come along soon enough.\nHey, if I had met you myself already I probably would have taken the need for you to ask that question straight out of your mind ;o)\nGood luck, relax and try to have fun out there. x
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yea man.  i can help you out.  pretend you dont care.  if you want a girl just pretend you dont like her, and she'll come crawling back.  never failed.  girls dont you dare get pissed at me either.  you know its true!
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great question and the trouble is you're trying to understand it from a guy's standpoint so you have no chance.  it's definitely down to what the girls here have been saying that they just feel uncomfortable with it and there is also a sense of predictability in treating a woman too nice. I'm single but cool with it as I know the key to all of this is being who you really are and not trying so hard to impress.  concentrate more on what makes you happy in life and the right girl will be attracted to that. don't try and make others happy as you'll lose sight of yourself
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Too much stereotyping here. Women don't ALWAYS go for the jerks. I sure as heck don't. if he is a jerk I will point him the other direction and make him leave. \n\nThere are men out there that are wolves in sheep's clothing(my ex for example) he treated me like a queen before we got married After we got married he became abusive. \n\nGuys are not going to be jerks when you first meet them. They are cunning. A lot of them start acting up once they know the girl is hooked to them. the girl is so involved with being "in love" with the guy that she cannot see that he is being a jerk and treating her badly. Of course the girl is going to blame herself sometimes because the guy has her convinced its her fault or it can also be low self esteem issues that cause this or the girl is so relieved she has a guy she just doesn't care and she is afraid that there is nobody out there better. \n\nThere are nice guys out there, they are very hard to come by and to say start dating nice guys is easier said than done. BELIEVE ME. You have to work very hard at it \n\nI know some ladies that are quite vicious as well and really it has been found that the women are worse than the men.
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This mean to be gentlemen and kindness with them... If I had someone on my side... I will do anything.. even it seems false.. the girls are more stronger than us... guys have the body and the girls that mind... A girls is the most beatiful thing that is created in the world.... Life is like this...
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I don'tknow for everyone,but what i like in a girl is her personnality.If she is capable of being herself and isn't afraid to show what kind of person she is,i think that the girl that does that is someone you can actually call a nice and great person to be with.So be yourself and all the guys are gonna come up to you.