You are love him/her but suddenly you were separationed..you didn't understand nothing !\nAnd..What will you do ?
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Sure, go ahead and call. ONCE. Just say something like, "listen, I really don't know why you're not talking to me, but it matters enough to me to find out. So, here I am, calling. If you are willing to talk about it, know that I would like to. If you're not, then I won't bug you."\n\nAnd, you have to leave it be at that. Otherwise, you'll be making BOTH of yourselves buggy...\n\nIt may be just the opening he's looking for, because it's possible that HE is afraid to call YOU. Maybe not. But you won't know if you don't try. Just ONCE though...
147640
You were hurt, and you pushed him away. That can happen to anyone in your situation, but I agree that you should tell him how you feel. Don't drag it out. You should know where you stand and let him know where he stand with you. If it doesn't work out, you will have closer and the ability to love someone else. That may not necessarily be what you want to hear, but YES sweetie you can love again.
33989
Okay first breath...It hurts but you will grow so much more then you will ever know once you move pass this...Where were you on Saturday...My heart was so broke...I was told today to hang my head high and walk with pride and no matter what always know that you are better then that and you will hurt for a while and then you will see day light...Its not a matter of loveing to much or not enough its a matter of selfishness on the other persons part...Or just know that life moves and breaking up is part of that move and it hurst yes but time will heal all...Good luck
120744
WOW!!  I can so relate and can feel and understand the confusion and not knowing how to walk away from what you truly love, and believed was everything you had been looking for...  I wish I could tell you what the "right" thing to do is, but I would be a hypicite.  I know from the outside looking in that the self respecting and having love for yourself firstmost, would be to cut your losses and see him for the person he really is and not the person you're in love w/ that you THOUGHT he was.  To even consider waiting around for a man to deciede if he rather have you or an x is INSANE!!!  I know this in my mind, yet I have allowed myself to give up all my self respect and dignity for 6 months waiting for my so called "fiance" to decied between me & his x wife of 20 years.  In the past 6 months he has went back and forth 5xs! I also describe my guy exactly how you did yours, but I was wrong that isnt who he is.  I allowed to waiy and let him struggle w/ his indiscion tuntil I had no self respect left for myself & became willing to settle for him any way I could.  That's not what love and foorever is supposed to feel like.  Don't allow yourself to dig yourself into that hole because its a hard 1 to climb out of.  If he is'nt 1000% sure that u r the only one he will ever want, he is'nt worthy of you!  Don't sell yourself short.The loneliest place in the world is laying next to somone who doesnt love you any more, & 1 sided love is hell you deserve heavenly bliss- settle for nothing less.  My man walked out w/o a word and back 2 her 2 days ago, we finally spoke on the phone today and as much as I love who i thought he was I finally decieded i cant stand who he is.  Doesnt stop the hurt or build back my self esteeme i got alot of work to do to get over it...But this time I really believe he does want her mor than me , but why the hell would i ever let a man make that kind of descion i should have given him no more choice in at the 1rst slightest sign of comparing or weighing me against somone else.  Live and learn.  I*t is the hardest most painful 1 i have had to go thru, and hearring your ? i had 2 respond and share my understanding and expierence in hopes you won't allow yours to go on as long or as deep as I did.  Good luck, and ultimatly only u know what's right for u and only u have 2 live w/ the decision.  If i could leave u w/ 1 bit of wisdom it would be the man has to live up to your dreams, dont never settle for less than u have always wanted and deserve.  mr right is out there for us but we gotta get our mr wrongs out of the way!!!
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
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Hun, its a hard road to go down, But he and ONLY he can find the answers he is searching for, but if he is confused now  its best for you to leave and give him time to think things through, then if he finds himself then maybe you two can work on getting  back together, but you can be there for him Emotionally, but since he is fighting a hard battle with him self, he can only bring you down with him, tell him you have to go and tell him you love him but you cant live like this , when he is ready, and has found what he is looking for ,to call you if he is really in love with you and wants you in his life.
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You have a right to be confused- and so does he. First off- how long has he been separated? If it hasn't been long, you may want to back off a bit, just in case things don't work according to plan. Think about it: they did get married for a reason- who's to say they won't reconcile?\nSecondly, since you can't really control who you fall in love with, if he represents this much of a threat to your security, you probably ought not stay involved with him.\nBut, I do hope it works out for you- everything for a reason!
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WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
613462
quite difficult question hmmm.. yeah,, what shud i give him?\ngive him nothing.. wait until he came back home and give him your love..
228715
I am in a similar relationship, but I know she's the one, the circumstances are just tough for us.. being so far away. Test your love.. while he's away, take space and see how you really feel without him. At first no matter what, it will be so hard.. but it will get better. Then.. the test comes.. after not having him in your life much, have a long talk and see how it feels. I lost her because I doubted someone so great could love me.. but after she gave up on me.. I realized how much she really does love me.. and slowly I am gaining back her trust, and she has all of mine.
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Why did he disappear? he disappeared when you got into trouble? meaning he doesn't accept his responsibility with you...yes you may love him..but he doesn't even know how to be there for you...in my opinion, go out and have fun, there are other guys more willing to accept their responsibility whn they are with a person. Let go, he's totally not worth it...
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i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
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Not sure I get the question but I was with my ex girlfriend for 3 years and I thought I was in love with her then one day I sat back and thought "I don't actually like her, let alone love her". The revelation kicked me in the ass and after that I couldn't bare to be in the relationship with her anymore. She is a wonderful human being and very beautiful as well but I just felt nothing! I completely devistated her but even now, 6 months after she has gone, I still feel nothing for her! Odd!
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Well maybe you loved her and you didn't even noticed it before,and now you are truly feeling for it,but there is only one thing you can do,go talk to her about because we never know,what if she loved you but never said anything?Maybe she gave up on you and found somebody else...Good luck
639065
How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
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Maybe now - he appreciates you more that you are not together. He misses you dearly. If I were you - follow your heart!