i ve fallen in love two times and got my heart broken and now i dont want to fall in love cause i dont want my heart broken again cause it hurts so bad ( TEAR ) and tha feeling that i have right now it dont feel to good i think about tha old times and it makes me want to cry TELLN ME WHY IS THIS HAPPENIN TO ME
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Don't give up...cause once you find it the joy and pleasure of being in love is far stronger than the pain you feel right now.  Just take a break and try again.\n\nGood Luck and God speed.
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I'm not sure if what you said is related to what is happening to me because i sometimes fell like that my heart hurts really bad and it seems like an arrow went in... but i don't want to go to a doctor eighter because I'm kinda scared but i heard that when you get older something happens so i would go to the Doctor.
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I dont think there s anything wrong with that. you maybe feel from now and then that u need someone with u but what ur doin is good in a way for you so that u dont get hurt again.. Just wait for that perfect guy, dunno maybe the guy ull settle down with. Just think in a way that u wont get hurt. dont care abt wut ppl say, the important thing is that u know that u dont mean anythin bad by doin this to guys. Just take it easy.
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b/c u were once content/comfortable with ur situation and u don't like change.  but that's part of life, if u don't take that chance then u will never know the outcome.  plus ur heartbroken and it scares u b/c u don't want to go through it again, and u're thinking 2 urself is this going to happen again?! U said u've never been single, there's a first time for everything.  word of advice --- quit looking for someone (enjoy time to urself/w/friends), let that someone find u. cause sometimes if ur not looking 4 love its looking for u. and don't be so negative @ moving on. good luck
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It is totally normal to be feeling like this. They say when you break up with someone that you love it congers up the same emotions as it does when someone dies. You are in mourning for your lost relationship but don't confuse this with love. It takes time for your mind and your heart to come to terms with these situations but it will pass. Talk to you friends about everything you are feeling, even the stupid things, you may feel silly at the time but once you have got all you feelings out you will feel a load has been lifted of your mind. Every time the thought of your ex comes into your mind, change it and put your boyfriend in his place. Don't keep thinking back on things you and your ex used to do, go out and try new things with your boyfriend, these new memories will move the other memories out of your mind and you will feel yourself letting go of the past and moving on to happier times. Trust me, this has happened to me before, i nearly let my new relationship break down because of it but i got past it and am happier than i have ever been. Don't be afraid to let go, you will always have the time with your ex to look back on in the future but don't let it destroy you chance of happiness.
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i'm 14 and i have got 2 till now... i broke the first's one's heart (who now i'm in love with) and the second broke my heart.. don't try to do anything.. the tight one will come right to you... :) good luck
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I personally think when you fall OUT of love, you were never really IN LOVE.  There are men I thought I loved and in a year it wore off and I couldn't get away fast enough.  These, I think, are infatuations.  Every time you date someone it seems better than the last one.  It is just new and sometimes we mistake those feelings for love.  When you are truly in love, you don't fall out.  You may not be with that person for whatever reason, but you will always love them with all your heart.  It took me half my life to find the man I married and love.  Now I know what it feels like.  I hope you find true love in your lifetime, it's fantastic.
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Love doesn't have a switch, although it would be great if it did. We were born with the ability to love and boy do we ever.\nLife is just one longggggg lesson and for everything a purpose.\nWhen we love someone, we give of ourselves freely, leaving ourselves open to joy, passion, fear and even heartache.\nWhoever said love makes us stronger is probably right.\nIf having your heart broken didn't hurt, then you would probably never even be able to feel love.\nI would rather have my heart broken then to never have a chance at love.\nTime is your only friend when it comes to heartache, and as far as wanting them back, well, I'd have to say, ask yourself why they broke your heart in the first place and is it worth it to put yourself in that position again?\nGood luck to you!!!
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maybe some things have happened it your past that make u feel u are not worthy of being happy and giving a guy a chance, you probably havent met the guy that you want to fully be with...it's a click that you feel almost immediately...keep being honest & kind....the right guy will come along and you DO deserve him......
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Here's the thing. When you fall in love with someone, there is no getting rid of them or forgetting them.  They will always be there in your head.  Now yes you do get over the fact that it hurts eventually, but you never forget them.  Love is that special thing that when you share it with someone it essentially is always there.  \n\nNow i know that everyone will tell you things like: relax, just get over it, take a bath, read a book, or go to God.  More or less you just have to figure it out on your own regardless of what people will say here.  Because dealing with heartache, its a natural part of life, its the bad side effect of love. But if i was to offer my best advice, i would say that you should chalk it up to experience.  Count it as a learning experience, so every time you start to think about him just think about what you learned from the situation, how it will make you a stronger person, and how it will help you in the future.  Love is a big part of everyone's life, and it shouldn't be forgotten, even when its bad.  Best of luck in your hard times...
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The pain of rejection is temporary. You feel it now because the wound is fresh. But wounds always get better with time. However bad it has been losing this guy for you, you will surely get over it. Because, pain is always temporary.\nWhereas, the joy of true love, when you do find it, is permanent. It is an eternal paradise. You have already had a glimpse of it. Just imagine how wonderful it would be if such a joy lasted forever. So dont think the pain is not worth bearing. It is. Not just once or twice but as many times it takes. Never lose faith in true love. Just because one person struck hollow, doesnt mean every other guy will. The only way to be happy is to believe that there is good and happiness and it is attainable.\nThere is no way you can protect yourself from this sort of pain. It is a part of life. But so is the happiness. Someday it will be yours. All you have to do is hang in there, especially during the delicates moments like the ones you're going through now. Dont lose hope.. the world is a beautiful garden with many wonderful flowers.\nYou'll find your rose. Time is all it takes.
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It is two out of the three.  We all, well almost all, want to have someone to love.  And it is a feeling we have that we have no control over.  How many times have you looked back after a breakup and heartache and you are miserable and want the person back and say to yourself, "I wish I could just stop loving them".  Unfortunately, we can't choose what our hearts want, otherwise we would choose to not want them, and there would be no such thing as being heart broken.
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i can understand what you mean as there was something similar that happened between me & my boyfriend but cuz of different reasons...but it was my boyfriend who was in your position & i was on the receiving end...its very tough when someone you love says that they can no longer be with you for whatever reasons...just because we love each other so much, we try to understand & do what the other wants even when thats not something we really want...our mind accepts the situations & tries to adjust but our heart just doesnt wants to let go...you imagine all the things that can go wrong & also how tough your life would be without that person...this feeling of insecurity & depression is terrible...you also began to question that whether that person really loves you, cuz if yes than how can that person take such a harsh & insensitive decision...all this is just a matter of your emotions & you imagine everything thats positive or negatve...when this happens you try to take yourself away from that person & try to act tough cuz you dont want that other person to know that after saying that you understand, you have so many questions going on in your mind...this happened with me & though i really love my boyfriend i was still hurt tremendously by his decision to break up even when i agreed & understood his reasons...i think your boyfriend also is really hurt by whatever happened...its good that you plan to go back to him...i would suggest that you talk to him & try to get out all the pain he is carrying in his heart cuz of what happened...you'll have to shower unconditional love to make him feel secure with you again...treat him nicely, spend time with him & appreciate his presence in your life...just let him know that you belong only to him & there's no one who can love & understand you the way he does...i am sure you'll be able to do that cuz you truely love him...Goodluck!!
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i recently went through something similar to this myself. i know you probally feel horribly depressed right now, and thats because you're heartbroken. i can tell you that eventually the pain does go away...take some time to grieve and then try to forget about him. someone once gave me a piece of advise that really helped me:\n\nbeing heart broken is like being in the dark.... and everytime you think your getting close to the light switch you just stub your toes. and you have to start all over again. but there is a light switch there. it might take a little bit to find it. but one day you will get there......... it might take awhile to get over this guy... but always remember... through all those stubed toes there is a lightswitch
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I have the same problem its happened about 4 times to me. But i think that its meant to happen. i know its hard right now...and i know everyone says it will get better and i truly think it will. But you just have to remember there are a lot of good people with good hearts out there. And one of them is absolutly meant just for you. I hope that you find that someone soon.
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the trouble is with love songs you feel you have  to listen to them to purge the soul, when you are with someone they seem to express all that you feel. And then when you are not with that person any more they make you realize all that you miss and maybe....just maybe through listening to them you can reclaim some of that lost love......i don't know why it hurts so much when you hear them though
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It is not like you hate love. It is just the fact that you are so realistic in whom you are and what you are all about, you may have not found anyone that you find that shares your taste in anything. But one day, just when you feel like you will never find someone-there she goes. Right in front of you. And you will start to feel something you have never felt before. Really. You do not hate love and there is nothing wrong with you. You just do not fall in love that easily.