I'm Brazilian and always felt that this must be a terrible situation.\n\nI won't ask additional questions here,as I use too.Tell me about your pain,please,as much as you feel comfortable writing here.\n\nKnow that my heart and my toughts are with you and your family and friends.:)\n\nThank you very much for sharing your life with me!:)
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Moon love, you know how difficult this is to answer, and I would invite others to know, but I have made my 360 only available to friends.\nYes my loved one made his choice when the war was already underway. But his family and friends know the heart that drives this man (who was once a boy in my arms), and we believe in him and his fellows. We do not believe in this administration, and how they have handled this effort that has cost the lives and limbs of so many.\nBut take me out of the equation for a minute, after all I haven't seen day one of combat. Let me share from someone who has:\n\n"As a First Lieutenant and Infantry Platoon Leader for the U.S. Army National Guard charged with leading thirty-eight men in Iraq, Paul Rieckhoff followed in the footsteps of his father and grandfather. After Rieckhoff volunteered to take part in the invasion of Iraq, he and his soldiers spent almost a year in one of the most dangerous and volatile areas of Baghdad, where they struggled to maintain order, protect Iraqi civilians, track down insurgents, and defend themselves against sniper and roadside bomb attacks. \n\nBut it was clear to Rieckhoff almost from the get-go that America's mission in Iraq was deeply flawed - and that his platoon was overchallenged and underequipped. If there was a plan to stabilize Baghdad after the invasion, no one had let them in on it. And with so many obstacles to overcome, they faced enemies that included thousands of armed, angry, and unemployed men who had been unleashed into the streets when the U.S. government disbanded the Iraqi army."\n\nThat is just a sampling of the book released just recently by the former platoon leader. He has served, and he wants the American public to KNOW the troops need more than just their love and support. The troops need a plan, they need someone to understand what it is like on the front lines, and they need the forces behind this war to come up with a reasonable and timely exit strategy.\n\nFrom my heart, yes we are in this horrible mess under false pretenses, and I know Dubya, Dick and Rummy all brought us in to pay for their luxuries in life, to extract vengence on their behalf, to stock their coifers... it just goes on. Yes we can't just pack up camp and go home, things might very well be worse than how it was before we came over.\n\nDubya, let me tell it to ya straight. Ya ain't never gonna win a place in this heart, you have lied and cheated us too many times, but the least you could do for the history of this country, is drop everything and I mean everything, and gather every brilliant mind and former general into a think tank to break this stalemate and get us the H E !_ !_ outta Iraq, before you cost one more life or limb. And you had better do everything in your power, combined with the people of both Houses to repay the American people who've lost family and friends. You owe us way more than that, but I guess I could call it even.\n\nOh and one more thing, should a hair be harmed on my boy, hear me loud and clear...\nThe UNIVERSE has witnessed no fury, like this Nearly Demonic Momma Grizzly!\n(Cindy S. will seem like a long lost college drinking buddy, comparativly!)\n\nNo one's husband/wife, mother/father, sister/brother, uncle/aunt, and most especially son/daughter should pay with any hurt upon their being FOR YOUR MISDEEDS.
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i was sad and glad at the same time cause of the memory it brought back. we lived in 2 places, i bug my mom to cook me something for my 18th birthday, so she need to see me in the city and leave my dad with my 2 younger brothers in the farm. she arrive safe in the city carrying my request noodles and sweet rice.\n\nthat night, my dad and brothers encountered the worst nightmare of their lives. some thieves are stealing our cows, they spray bullets through the whole house and almost kill my dad, he was bleeding though and my brothers run like hell.  \n\nif i didn't bug my mom to cook me those special foods, she probably dead by now. she is still alive thank god and just gotten married for the second time on monday.
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Very true. Society is slowly breaking down in every way possible. It's really upsetting. The future is bleak. I'm young and I fear for myself- my family to be- my husband to be.
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I know how you feel. I've been there and its really a bad way to feel. If you want you can e-mail me. eula_hill7@yahoo.com I would be happy to be your friend.
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I feel sorry for you.   It is a difficult situation and I think only a doctor would be able to help you on this.  God is supposed to be there for us but sometimes I wonder whether he is.  It seems to me that God makes many mistakes and is not as infallible as we are supposed to think.  I feel your hurt and your rejection.  It is not your fault.  Now that you have done this just go ahead and be yourself.  Damn the people that mock you and turn round and say to them  "There but for the Grace of God go I" !!  There are many unfeeling people in this world and kids are the worst of all.
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Oh,Honey do I know how u feel!I am going through the same thing as I write.In fact I go to court this Thursday.Let me tell ya,it's very,very hard to deal with.Whether u did something wrong or not doesn't make it any easier.I'd like to tell u about my situation and how I deal with it,but this site does not allow enough space.If you want to talk more about it e-mail me @ kalasmom3@yahoo.com Or IM me @ either yahoo messenger or AIM.I'd love to try to help.Maybe we can help each other.Also,since I have almost 18 months in one child's being gone and 7 years in the other maybe I can offer some advice on how to fight to get them back.oh,my screen name on AIM is turntheclkbac.
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Dear One, Your pain must be almost unbearable at times.I am so sorry for your losses.God does not promise a life with out pain here on earth, he does promise his grace and his mercy, and peace.He does promise that someday all this will be made known to us, which for some as yourself is so hard to understand as you go through this. He has never stopped loving you, he has never left you, he has never stopped loving your wife...he was with her holding her hand as he took her home. Life is hard, painfull and confusing, please hold on to God he is Loving so so much,  he is waiting for you so he can take your pain. Call on him...... you are in my prayers...
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Being white...I understand your frustration. Being from South-Africa...it is worse here believe me!!!!! BUT, thinks won't change that easily. Yes maybe you were not part of those days were they really suffered...but they did. For you it's in the past. For them it's still stories of family members that were treated brutally. Yes and maybe they always take advantage of this situation...but it is their advantage to take...because what white people did to them was beyond inhuman, and because of our foolishness, we will suffer a loooooong time
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dear lost soul,\nfirst let me tell you i am sorry for what you are going through for i know exactly how you feel for i have not only had that done to me once but twice. once by a guy that i was engaged to and had with for over 3 years. i had moved from another state to be with him and left all my family behind so when we broke up i was stuck in a state where i knew  no one and had 3 children of my own on top of that. so it was hard. the second man i was with was for almost a year and i first found him cheating online with other woman and thought well he never did take it to that other level and gave him another chance but only to my dimay i got smart and put spyware on my computer and found out a year into the relationship that not only was he lying to me and telling me he was working and not...he was actually doing drug runs for an old buddy of his who i forbid him to be around and i found out he was not talking to woman anymore online but had started talking to men and was actually meeting the men. i was devastated. i finally had enough and called my mother and father and they came and got me and the kids . yeah i need help in the begining being a single mom and being on disability but i made it through it. i went through the dating things online and i came through alot of jerks but i vowed this time i was not going out with anyone that would not accept me for who i was and my children always came first no matter what. for 6 months i struggled paying bills and wondering if i would have food on the table and when the lord seen me at my lowest and down on my knees that is when he picked me up and carried me to my angel. that is the man whom i am engaged to today. see i never told you the first part of my story. over 16 years ago i was married once and over 13 years ago i watched in horror as my husband took a 357 magnum to his head and kill himself.  never until now have i ever found love like that and the love i have now is stronger than i ever had with him. even though you hurt now it is only a trial and it is something that god is putting you through to only make you stronger. i have learned that all my 36 years. i was 17 when married and 21 when widowed and raising 2 baby boys. then 5 years later i dealt with a man who abused me so bad he beat while i was pregnant with my 11 year old daughter now. i am a stronger woman than i would have been . good things happen to those that wait .....that is a good motto to live by.  i hope things go well for you and may god bless you
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It is very hard to sad to deal with. Do you have family near by? That helped me. Do you work? Praying really helped alot! Do you have IM? does he have it too? I know on the AKO you get install the IM and that saves some heatache. \nI remeber when my hubby was there. I was 4 months preggers when he left. That was very diffcult. But you have got to keep your self busy.  I know it sounds mean but you really have to. Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers as I do for every miltary spouse and their spouses!
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I don't know what your troubles were but they sound pretty bad.  We support you and your great positive attitude.  I lost alot of loved ones in my family including my nephew when he was just 15.   I know what you are saying and thank God every day that I and my children are alive to share another day together.  God bless you!
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May all work out for you in the end. You and your daughter are in my thoughts.\n\n<As of Feb 7, 2006>\nLife's a tough thing. It takes only a few seconds for disaster to cave in all around you, but to dig your way out takes what seems like an eternity. Anyways, I'm glad to hear that the worst is over, and that both of you are getting well. Please continue these updates on the comments as your situation develops; I want to stay in the know on this.\n\n<As of Feb 8, 2006>\nLook's like you've gotten yourselves out of a tough bind! I'm glad to hear that things are looking up after a grueling ordeal. When someone that you love is hurt, it's tough on the mind, body, and heart, and it gets even worse if you happen to feel it, too. You and your daughter have shown great courage and strength throughout this, and I'm glad that all of us here have been able to help you out in your time of need in one way or another. Try not to overexert yourselves if you're not feeling as well as you were prior to this accident, and I hope that what remains of the road to recovery comes with plenty of shortcuts! ^_^
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You and she are in my prayers.  I had a really awesome best friend who went into a diabetic coma in her sleep (she was type I DM) a few years ago and never came to.  I know the feelings you are experiencing and only God can comfort those who suffer because He truly knows their hearts and what is going on.  I pray you are able to find comfort =)
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I know its hard, we all have issues, my husband is in Iraq I worry daily, since he left my income has dropped dramatically, I'm scrapping food together to feed the kids, bills are all due and its 92 degrees outside and my air conditioner broke down, but I just think, "Thank God, for my home, my friends, family, my beautiful healthy kids"etc. The moral to this is there are people so far worse off than you just pick up the phone and call someone you care about and talk to them. P.S 1/2 hour ago my Mom called upset, her neighbors baby just died, Please honey count your blessings and make a plan to solve your problems and do it!!
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It broke my heart to read your question.  I feel for you!  People can be really cruel sometimes. It's called ignorance!  Hopefully someday, our society will change.  In the meantime, keep your chin up.  It's not easy to be suffering.  The fact that you are going out, and dealing with it is a great victory.  Celebrate yourself!  You deserve it.  Hugs!!!!!
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my son went through the same thing 3years in a row one was brother and sister .what the kids did was talk about what happened and really was there for each other.theres not much else you can do .just be there for those who need a little more help getting through it.im so sorry
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I'm in the same situation you are in my friend and l know how you feel.. You said you needed to find peace and l don't believe it could be described any better than that.. Peace in a bad situation is hard to find, your heart hurting is never easy to relieve.. I try not to think so negatively and look for the light at the end of the tunnel constantly.. I'm not overwhelmed with friends or family so it's hard to stay preoccupied while suffering but if you have one good friend to talk to it will help to get this off your chest.. Time is the ultimate healer and in time you will feel better.. But never stoop below your standards, and keep your head held high.. The sun will still rise, happiness for you is just around the corner.. Good luck..