why is it ok to say to a skinny person skinny when they dont like it. But they say it's harrassment when we call a fat person fat when they dont like it?
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I think it's similar to "race discrimination" it's only the whites that do it.\n\nhttp://thebaldchemist.blogspot.com/
613974
Not all men have the same opinions about that.All people are different and therefore some of them will like skinny and some fat ... Being skinny or fat is not the most important thing in a relationship.Love is blind , it doesn't see the size!
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I think that the reason people ask other people if they are annorexic is because they are jealous.  Another reason is that people don't think that it would hurt the person's feelings if they asked, even though it would.  People know that people that are overweight are normally not happy with their body, but people naturally guess that when people are really skinny, they are happy with their body and wouldn't care if other people asked.  I know a friend who is in the exact same position as you, and it makes me feel bad when people ask her that.\n\ngood luck :)
115333
First of all, I'd show that it's OK to be normal or even slightly heavier. Whatever happened to "normal" not being good enough? Some people anymore are so thin, THAT doesn't look healthy either. I mean like anorexically thin
578371
you sound bitter and upset at fat people. Why? PEople are people. Dont get mad at them, if you dont like them, dont be aorund them. And its the same reason when you might tell a friend that BC makes your mustache grow, or you ate some beans, and thats why you have gas. People do things when they dont want to be looked at like a bacterium in a petrie dish. Its not that big of a deal. Peronsally, I say- I wouldnt be fat if I didnt love food. I'm a size 14 AND PROUD OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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i think you just need to keep saying so. Some people are just naturally lean. Or maybe you dont have as much of an appetite as others. \nI guess it doesn't matter whether you are skinny or fat they will always find a way to judge you. You just need to tell them where to shove it. Certainly your family should love you for what you are as a person. You are beautiful.
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It sounds like they want a response from you or maybe they want to make you feel bad about your weight. \nYou should try to talk to them about this and let them know how you feel. If they don't try to change, I'd work on finding some new friends. Friends should never upset you and hurt your feelings on purpose!
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I don't know why people are so weight obsessed. If you get to know someone really well it won't matter any more. \n\nFor the record, I'm a size 0 blond and the guys aren't all over me. Instead idiots decide to say how anorexic I am (which I'm not). That makes me mad.\n\nPeople just care too much about appearances, and it hurts. No matter if you're skinny or overweight, people are still going to be slightly judge mental of you because of that. All in all, people can be idiots. :)
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I understand what you are saying too.  I mean who is it who decides that "skinny" is beautiful.  Some of those stars look absolutely pathetic.  I mean, don't they ever see what they look like, with their stick arms and legs?  It is a very sad reflection on our society when we place that much value on how people look and not on how people treat one another instead.\n\nBelow is a site with info on a country where girls are actually force-fed to get fat so they will be seen as more desirable.  Not that I agree with that, but it just shows that not all the world agrees with "skinny".
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Let me tell you what I did when I was rejected by a female for basically being fat. I asked her out on a date of sort. She laughed and pretty much called me fat in front of a few people. I stood there kinda heartbroke. But then looked back at her and said ' I might be fat, But your ugly and I can diet". Needless to say, I saved my pride. \nThe moral of the story is that no one is perfect. And don't worry about what others think. Or put yourself down like I did.
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People say "no offense" before they something  offensive because they have not matured enough to figure out another way to criticize.  They hope that by saying that, you will overlook that fact that what they said was offensive.  Instead of saying "that shirt makes you look fat" their criticism would be more acceptable if they said something like "you know, that shirt doesn't accentuate your figure as well as it could.  Maybe another style would suit you better."
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Wow!  When compassion was  handed out, you sure didn't get any!\n\nPeople with a weight problem will get upset because:\n1. they know about their weight and aren't happy\n2. they don't want to be overweight but maybe due to health issues can't control it\n3. the older you get, the harder it is to lose weight...especially if you are female\n4. the comment is rude, obnoxious and cruel\n\nNever judge someone until you have walked in their shoes.  You  might be a thin thing now but just wait...your day will come and then see how you feel when someone is callous enough to call you fat.
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Do you eat around them. That should prove you're not anorexic. I was very skinny when I was in school (but no one had ever heard of anorexia then). But I still got picked on: stringbean, shoelace, etc. Ask them if they know the true meaning of anorexia. Sounds to me like they're just jealous because you're smaller than they are. People who pick on others are usually low on self-esteem or jealous. If you let them know it bothers you, they will continue to "pick" on you. If they realize it doesn't bother you, they'll find someone else to pick on.
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i agree with you. ridicule is embarassing to say the least and very immature.  i prefer that all people extend themselves openly and honestly without causing harm. (verbal or physical)  it's a  very sad world when others feel the need to express anger or hostility. just because someone is different either physically or mentally doesn't change who they are as living, feeling, breathing human-beings. take care out there.
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When people say rude or unpleasant things to another person without any provocation it is because they are lacking something in their personality.  They are weak and/or jealous.  Just ignore them completely.  Some of us very much enjoy answering your questions!  Take care... :)
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I think it's great that your turned on by bigger people.  To much emphasis is put on being skinny. I grew up thinking that if I weighted 125 pounds that I was chubby.  It's not weird.  It's okay to be turned on by it except when the fetish starts controlling you and makes a significant impact on you and others.  But I don't think this happens very much.
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Those who are not fat, can't know what it is like to be fat! Therefore they don't understand that fat people are NOT lazy, ok a few are, but the majority are not.\n Someone does not wake up one morning and say, \n"I want to be fat! I think that it would be cool to be ridiculed and called lazy and ugly! I would like to have joint pain and back pain every day! Get short of breath just by walking up a flight of stairs! Can't enjoy nature by taking a hike with my friends, that just sounds soo cool!" \nSome people it is easy to loose weight, some people it is hard, and some people can't! We are all built different.\nIt is easy to judge when you don't understand, and have not experienced it for yourself. Just work on it and you will stop if you want to!\n\n\nloj