One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell if you don't love him back. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love?\n\nDoes that mean we can only have sex with God?
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Don't forget that all homosexuals are devil-worshiping demons who shall be condemned to the bowels of hell. The whole concept of organized religion is so RIDICULOUS, that you just gotta laugh.
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Hello, \n\nGod is very loving, why would God who is loving and forgiving send us to burn in hell? That goes against everything God stands for, doesn't it? But when we sin he wants to forgive us, in fact 2 Peter 3:8, 9 says, "However, let this one fact not be escaping YOUR notice, beloved ones, that one day is with Jehovah as a thousand years and a thousand years as one day. Jehovah is not slow respecting his promise, as some people consider slowness, but he is patient with YOU because he does not desire any to be destroyed but desires all to attain to repentance." (I welcome you all to look this up in your own personal copy of the Bible) \n\nSo you see, not only does He want us to repent, He is also patent with us. How loving! Don't you think? It goes with His personality in fact we have the scripture at 1 John 4:16 that say "God is Love" which is very straight forward. So again, this would go against God’s personality. But back to your original question on Hell, do you know that after you die you are conscious of NOTHING of at all. Ecclesiastes 9:5 tells us that "For the living know that they shall die; but the dead know not any thing, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten." So if all bad people were going to be burning in hell, this would go against what the Bible says, and we know God can not lie. Titus 1:2 says "In hope of eternal life, which God, that cannot lie, promised before the world began." Then we have the scripture in 2 Timothy 3:16 that says all scriptures is inspired by God.\n\n\nPsalms 146:4 "His spirit goes out, he goes back to his ground; in that day his thought do perish." So again, here we see that our thoughts are gone. If we were going to burn in hell, don't you think it would make sense that we would be aware of it. \n\n\nEzekiel 18:4 "The soul that is sinning it itself will die." Notice that it doesn't say that it will burn in hell, just that it will die. And as we learned above in Ecclesiastes 9:5 the dead are aware of NOTHING. \n\n\nHell is nothing more than the common grave of mankind. Webster’s Dictionary says that the English word "hell" is equal to the Hebrew word Sheol and the Greek word Hades. In German Bibles Hoelle is the word used instead of "hell"; in Portuguese the word used is inferno, in Spanish infierno, and in French Enfer. The English translators of the Authorized Version, or King James Version, translated Sheol 31 times as "hell," 31 times as "grave," and 3 times as "pit." The Catholic Douay Version translated Sheol 64 times as "hell." In the Christian Greek Scriptures (commonly called the "New Testament"), the King James Version translated Hades as "hell" each of the 10 times it occurs.—Matthew 11:23; 16:18; Luke 10:15; 16:23; Acts 2:27, 31; Revelation 1:18; 6:8; 20:13, 14.\n\n\nThe question is: What kind of place is Sheol, or Hades? The fact that the King James Version translates the one Hebrew word Sheol three different ways shows that hell, grave and pit mean one and the same thing. And if hell means the common grave of mankind, it could not at the same time mean a place of fiery torture. Well, then, do Sheol and Hades mean the grave, or do they mean a place of torture?\n\nBefore answering this question, let us make clear that the Hebrew word Sheol and the Greek word Hades mean the same thing. This is shown by looking at Psalm 16:10 in the Hebrew Scriptures and Acts 2:31 in the Christian Greek Scriptures. Notice that in quoting from Psalm 16:10 where Sheol occurs, Acts 2:31 uses Hades. Notice, too, that Jesus Christ was in Hades, or hell. Are we to believe that God tormented Christ in a fiery hell? Of course not! Jesus was simply in his grave.\n\nWhen Jacob was mourning for his beloved son Joseph, who he thought had been killed, he said: "I shall go down mourning to my son into Sheo
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I was just having this conversation with God yesterday with the same question?  I didn't know it was for you.\nThere is only one reasonyou are feeling this way.  Everything, believe it or not, was created for a purpose-- even you. \n          " For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not harm you.  To give you a hope and future."  Jeremiah 29:11\n Sex was for made for the coming together of a man and a woman but not outside of the marriage guidelines.  Sex is a beautiful thing and even more beautiful when it is with someone who loves you despite your bad breath, messy hair.  It is even more beautiful when that person is someone God has especially chosen for you and has strengths that you do not have and sees that a relationship with God is first priority and being everything that God has created him for as being part of that (loving husband, good provider, great father).  This person does exist.  Now that i know the truth of the matter in those people who might seem like they are happy are not happy they just have not been told by someone how special they are and that they are loved and accepted no matter their flaws.  So they go with what everyone else or so they think, does.  Sweetie,  you are special and there is no reason for you to sell yourself cheap.  You have been bought for a high price already and no one can pay as much as He can for your life.  I wasn't a virgin when I got married,  but everyday I wish that i could have waited.  God didn't set up laws to punish us, but to protect us( needless hurt, pain,  wasted time, disease and baby mama/daddy drama).  There is no such thing as separating love and sex unless you have a heard heart or no heart at all.  Don't try to fit into the world's standards-follow God's and he'll send you your true mate.     \nJesus loves you.( now smile)
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So you are saying only those married in the church should have sex? In other words, anyone married in another religions ceremony will not go to your heaven and be accepted by your God?\n\nI am floored by this narrow thought process. I wouldn't believe in a God that would be so closed minded about the joys our bodies bring us. Why do you think we enjoy s e x? Your God made these bodies according to you right? Then why did he make them so responsive to the act? \n\nI give up....according to you...I am going to your hell. That said, thank the Goddess I don't believe in your hell.\n\nGood Luck.
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You're christian morals went out the door w/f*ck the sex.Not everyone is the way you've explained in great detail.Putting your card on the table is a good thing if you don't do it as soon as you meet someone.There is nothing wrong with thatMen are not weaker that way.I prefer my man to be that way.And Im with you on the sex.Too dangerous.You must be lookin in the wrong place.
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First, are you truly saved?  Have you accepted Jesus as your savior and applied His blood to cover your sins?\n\nSexually, He says fornication is a sin.  What you want to do..is sinful.\n\nRead your bible, speak to your pastor...that's better than a lot of answers you'll find here.
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sex is not the opposite of heaven, humans are sexual creatures, in the bonds of marriage sex is a beautiful thing, and it is necessary for procreation.  \n\nso, find a mate, and enjoy it!!!
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aha! the preacher's in town. sir, with due respect it is no one's prerogative to classify sin or non-sin like this. how about sex without consent with your 'legal' partner of the opposite sex (if you strictly follow the 'natural order')? is that all right to do so? and to mention the countries you are talking about, i think people there are as much randy as anywhere else in the world. maybe a little more repressed too. but all that is changing with the societies opening up to the idea of discussion on sex and sexual health of a society. the last thing we want is a pseudo pundit trying to make matters worse for those who feel there is no release.
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To have sexual relations with one of the same sex is against what the Bible teaches.None of us like it when we read and find just how much of our lives offend God.But if you really wish to seek God seek as you are not as you think you should be.We all are perfected only in Christ let him decide whether it keeps you from him.He said he did not come for the righteous for they do not need him,only those that are injured or ill need a doctor.
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People have sexual desire outside of love because it is part of our fallen human nature. Desiring a person of the opposite sex is natural and God created men to like women and vice versa. God also created an institution in which sexual pleasure can be experienced without it being a sin and that is where marriage comes in. It's in a marriage that love can truly be expressed in sex. So please don't confuse the two sex does not equal love. If you love someone and if they love you. Then they and you should be willing to wait and then make a lifelong commitment where sex can be enjoyed as God intended in marriage.\n\nYes you can find true love in Jesus. You can also find healing in Him and restoration and forgiveness. And when you have experienced that with Him He will free you to experience love in the human plain.
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Where does it say in the Bible that sex is only for procreation? It says sex outside of marriage(between a man and a woman) is wrong. And I don't think that bd/sm..D/s is wrong or they are devil worshipers. Again as long as it is with your wife or husband. I am truly sorry that you have dealt with Christians like you described. Please know that A) not all Christians are like that and B) the Christian faith does not teach to be Judgmental.  I know that there are a lot and I mean a lot of Christians that are judgmental. They are wrong! But, also know that we are not supposed to be judgmental but at the same time we are not supposed to be open to all things. We hate the sin not the person. For example: I do not hate people that are homosexual. I don't look down upon them like I am better than them or anything like that. I don't gay bash. Homosexuality is a sin just like any other sin. I have my sins to deal with that are no lesser than theirs.  However I am not going to accept homosexuality as a life style any more than I would accept murder, child abuse, alcoholism, or lying as a lifestyle.  They are all equally bad in the eyes of the Lord.  I do pray for those people as fervently as I pray for my own sins and ask God with help in my own sinful urges.\n\ntosmith
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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This sounds like some freaky cult not to be insulting but wow. You aren't going to go to hell for dating. You aren't going to go to hell for considering someone for marriage if they are not fully converted (what the heck are you converting into?) As long as you do not have pre-marital sex then you have no worries of going to hell. And even then our lord is a very forgiving lord and he will never stop loving you no matter what you do.
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How can we all be positive? I thought u wanted thoughtful replies, that would make u ponder the answers u recieved. Isn't that the point of this site? Oh well. Here's my reply. Yes, we are all God's creation, and sex by our parents is how God wanted us to enter the world. We are not a creation of sexual fulfillment, if we were, everytime they had unprotected sex, they'd get pregnant. Besides, not everyone who gets pregnant got sexually fulfilled during the act of conception. Does life have meaning? Yes,I think so, otherwise, we wouldn't be here. I believe everyone has a purpose decreed by God, and once u've satisfied the Lord's purpose on Earth, it's ur time to go on to Heaven.
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Thank you. I'm with YOU. Even among people who love and try to please GOD, they still struggle with it. It is because of our sin nature. We don't REALLY believe that "the wages of sin is death." I take this literally to mean "sin is death." SOMETHING dies. The world makes it seem okay.  We know it is wrong.  Its the age old world vs. WORD scenario Teen Queen.  It's sad. I was a "secondary" virgin before I got married. I was a Mom at age 21 and did not let God be first in my life. I claimed to love Him more than anything but I didn't.  When I realized what the Word of God said about it all and how it really does apply to ME as an individual, I tried to get things in order.  Many don't realize their own blindness and are more offended by you telling them right from wrong than by sin.  Well, I'm sure I'll get lots of thumbs down because I mentioned God and sin and all that, but oh well.  Only God can judge me and I love ANSWERS no matter what!! \nPeace
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I am a Christian and my husband and I enjoy doing whatever we can to please each other, oral included. God intended for that stuff to be fun and exciting within the boundries of marriage so why not indulge? It's funny how people think Christians are prudes! So not true! Now we don't watch porns or anything stupid like that. We get our jollies from the joy of each other's company. Just the way God intended!
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Some previous posters were saying that we send ourselves to hell.  That is insane.  If god creates the system and then offers us a choice - either worship him or go to hell, it's not a "loving" choice.  That's similar to an evil person offering the choice:  1. worship me and I'll give you drugs that will make you feel great or 2. I'll torture you.  \n\nWhat loving god would want to torture anything?!?  Why create a hell in the first place?  Why have everlasting torture for a short period of disobedience?  \n\nYou don't have to beat children for hours because they are disrespectful.  You can do time-out and explain why it was wrong.  You hug your children and try to not them suffer when they get sick.  The xian god does the opposite according to the bible.