Keeping my bf of 2 years around makes my life some what easier. But we realy dont feel like were in love with each other anymore but niether one of us want to end it for whatever are reasons are, but now i realy want someone else and i dont know what to do or how to go about it. How can i say a want someone else and just leave it at that?
209020
since you have been a couple for two years I think you owe him the courtesy of telling him that you want to part company.  I don't think you need to be cruel and say you found someone else all ready, if it is not necessary.  The relationship is stale and nothing is more demeaning to both parties, than just keeping someone around because they are comfortable, and better than no date, or cowardice of the stating former.  Not only should you want more for yourself, you should respect him enough to want more for him.
151577
Get pissed off and fuck his brains out, then do not call or talk to him for a while.  If he knows whats good for him, which is only you, he will stay with you and drop the other one.
627186
Why is the grass always greener on the other side. It isn't really, but sometimes we think it is.\nWe often want something that we don't need, or can even use.\nBut as we get older and wiser, hopefully, we can learn to evaluate what we want better, and make better decisions.\nSo just weigh why you really want this or that guy, make a list if you have to. Sometimes by writing it down, over a period of time, we see a pattern emerging.\nYou have started thinking of your problem already, and can see you are doing something self destructive. So now you are on the right course and questioning yourself.
370337
I am actually having this same problem myself. I love him and I want to be with him, but at the same time I wonder sometimes if he really feels the same way. We basically have 1 of 2 choices..... we can stay and try and talk to them and see if it can work out . or we can just let it go and find someone else. \n\nI choose to stay for a little while longer and try to work on the relationship as long as he is willing to work WITH me to make this work.\nI'm sure you will figure out what is right for you. I wish you luck.
601806
You can't, really, if they don't want to be with you. I'm going through the same thing too, and the best thing is to just say how you feel. I did, and things are okay, I guess, but we haven't talked since them but i see him tonite. But yea, don't make up cheesy bullsh*t, just tell 'em flat out how it is. Good luck!
629641
Do what's best for yourself.  People will come and go all your life, but you'll always have you.  If you think the relationship is stronger with the one who is leaving, that's who you should stay with.
327915
you let him go. there is nothing you can do to force someone to be with you. and even if you could, would you really want to? realize that you two are just not made for each other and move on.
210550
I am not happy with anyone other than you. I have learned this over the past couple months, and in some ways, I dont want to leave him because it will hurt, but I do want to be with my family. All 3 of us. I realized that.. you loved me thru and thru, just like you said. I am willing to make it work... I just hope you still are. I know that in relationships, there are good times, and there are bad times. We need to be able to work thru the bad times together... We need better communication.. and all in all, We need eachother.
164158
well i think that the one u are with has priority, not only that but if you leave him for someone else 4 what ever reason, it may not say much about ur layalty to people and its something that may bite you in the butt later on. if this person u talk about is back in ur life that means he is not sure of what he wants, what garanties u he wont leave u for someone else. be firm in ur descision and dont betray no one in order to aquire what u need, it doesnt say much about u. over all the things you save save ur heart its special dont brake ur promise to ur current boyfriend. if you waited i think he could wait too n if he waits, n ur relationship with ur current boyfriend doesnt work out n you brake it up justifiably than go for it. but dont brake up out of inpulse u might make the mistake of ur life. remember its never good to live off of memories they will always hurt you weather good or bad. k take care
295359
its such a bad thing to move on and get into another relationship=said who? dont listen to that idea, if you please all, you please none. follow your heart and mind, it has always the right answer then believe what you have decided and choose to be happy :)
654197
if there is really doubt in you, i think you should stop and tell him that it's better for both of you to be just friends.. because what if you and him became a couple, (but before you became a couple you had that feeling that you want to leave him) i think between your relationship as bf-gf, you're gonna feel that again.. and that will lead to a break-up, which will also ruin your friendship.. so it's better if you stay friends..\n\nor you can also observe your feelings.. you just have to wait (maybe months.. even years) but there's nothing wrong in waiting for years.. because if you are really sure of your feelings that you really love him, then the waiting is worth it..\n\nit's really hard to make a decision.. but it's harder if you will break someone's heart because of a wrong decision.. it just takes time..
337192
It's not up to someone else to decide--it's your call.  Make the decision, yes I'm over you or no, I still want to give it a shot but stick with whichever it is.  And remember, if it was that great you'd still be together.
503685
even though we say that he is no good for us..we still continue to miss and love that person..and that is the right way to heal..admit that you do or did love that person..next just reassure yourself that you WILL be fine..if you need to cry.. cry..let it out...I wish I could tell you move on..but the truth is that the sh*t hurts like hell..you heart is hurting..part of you feel like you cant go on...\nit took me 2 years to get over a guy that i feel in love with..I remember those sleepless nights..all to well..I loved that guy soo much and it hurt me to know that he could sleep with me and act like he wanted me ..but thats all he wanted was to sleep with me...and to be honest from time to time I still think about him....but today i am glad that we are not together...he is who he is and he likes what he likes...I have moved on but honestly if I see him today..i know that apart of me will melt..sometimes in life we have that one guy that just does this sh*t to us....treat us like sh*t..uses us only for sex..cheats.. lie..and all in all we still fall in love with them and they make us weak in the knees....he is one that we surrender to..\ngive it time...just accept all the emotions you are going through.\npray...good luck
163420
Seems to me the best way to address the situation is to be forthright and talk to him about your concerns.  If your decision is to move on to find someone more accessible to you, then say that.  There is no real way to break up with someone that won't result in hurt feelings.  But to be true to yourself and the most fair to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel and what you want.  Personally, I would recommend doing it face to face, even though it may be uncomfortable.  You may want to continue seeing one another after talking about it, but if it does end, be able to step away knowing that in the long run it may be the best thing for your both.
84379
Well because when it comes to the fact that one of you is leaving for good then reality has set in and that terrifies you two b/c you love one another and don't want to end things. You 2 may need to really sit down and talk, I mean really communicate about your feelings, everything that is frusterating both of you or if that does not work, seek counseling.
527201
Okay; I'm gonna put this plain and simple.\n\nBreak up with your boyfriend, but not to go out with the other guy. Don't go out with either one of them. If you're having thoughts or feelings of attraction for someone other than your companion, you're not ready for a committed relationship. Sure; it's fine to go on dates with both of them occasionally, but don't steady-date either of them for now. Wait until your feelings remain constant for one individual; then if you think it's the right time, see if you can progress that relationship further. That's my opinion. Hope it helped.
454777
It sounds like you answered your own question with the "I love my boyfriend very much and don't want me mess things up with him."  Think about whether you really like this other guy or are only lusting after him.  Also if it is just for convenience will it last?  Think about what you would be giving up with your current boyfriend and if you will gain anything other than less distance with the other guy.  Do what your heart tells you is best.  Hope you make the right choice.