I've been friends with this guy for years and then all of a sudden, he askes me to prom, pretty innocent right? I thought so too and then we were IMing eachother and I asked him if he died tomorrow what he would say if he could only talk to one person and he said that he would tell me that he loved me. I'm just not sure if I'm ready for that kind of commitment, not to mention long distance but he's a good guy and I'm not sure that I want to pass up this oprotunity.
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If you're really not sure of what you feel for him, then just try to entertain him about his feelings for you... Never tell a person you love him/her if you're not sure because it really hurts in their part when you don't show it to them... Try to think first before making any moves and be sure of everything if you're talking about true commitment... You can also try telling him about your feelings that at this moment, you're still not sure what you feel, if he's matured enough, he will understand you, and if he really loves you, he will wait for your decision without lessening his feelings for you... Also use the situation right now to test if what he feels for you is true...
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
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I was the same when I met my partner. He was very loving and thoughtful and I was shy and embarassed. We are still together after 13 years! You may just be a slightly less expressive person. Don't sweat it. Just go with the flow and take it easy and enjoy the compliments. Just because he compliments you doesn't mean you have to do same. He will know if you like him anyway. Sounds like the friendship bit is about him not wanting to rush you. He obviously knows how he feels about you but can see that you need time. It sounds like an opt out clause for you. He sounds like a really lovely guy. Just relax and enjoy your time together. He will let you go at your own pace.
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Well I guy is never going to be able to tell unless you tell him straight up - we are simple that way - i am kinda surprised that he hasnt come up to you first - I wouldnt be surprised if he is asking the same question on yahoo answers right now - dont worry about what he will say though, remember he is your friend - he is not going to turn into some mean ogre - worst case scenario which also happens to be the least likely is that he will give you a "I am flattered" line, but more likely than not, he will want to give it a try no matter what ....
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Id think, it just depends on who the guy is and what hes got on his mind. My experience is, being a guy, he may want you to just get to know him for real, and he do the same with you. However, sound like to me, really, he just wants to be friends and thats it. Most guys will do this when he wants to get to you, in a sexual way, then hes gone, its a conquest thing with some guys. I guess it all depends on him, and what hes really after. Id just ask him and find out what hes got on his mind. Good luck.
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Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
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You dont have to bother about stuff like that at this stage.And that is not supposed to get you worried atall.Why not spend ur leisure time with other friends other than trying to figure him out.whenever you see him just say hi,if there's anything serious you've done he'll let you know in time but in the meantime don't look down on youself cause of him.Cheers.
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I guess he did realise that it would not be right to do something that both of you would regret later. I think he likes you more then he lets on and would like to get to know you better before taking things to another level. There is no problem to see and meet each other as both of you know that nothing happened and it has not affected your friendship.
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be front about it, and get the ball rolling. if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet. of course, in your situation, mold it so that the envelopes follow her daily schedule. she CANT say no to that...
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Hi, this is Cat...After 1 1/2 years did you not know how he felt about you? If he's clammed up, obviously he wasn't ready to hear how you felt about him. Usually a guy will be responsive how he feels way before a year has passed, he might not say so, however his actions will speak louder than words. I suggest you give him space real fast, leave him alone for a couple of weeks to a month to think and to chill out. He's probably afraid of commitment or he does not feel the same about you. Do not approach him again regarding this issue, he may bolt like a wild horse and never come back. Instead just be a friend to him for now, if it's not too late. Lesson well learnt, you know what to do next time.
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Friends love each other all the time.  I have a male friend (for 8years). Almost everytime we talk on the phone we "I love You".  I don't think you will scare him off, but I'm worried that if you say it, you might not get the same response, and that might hurt your feelings.  Don't let it though, if that's what happens.  People feel things at different times, so don't take it personally. \nExpress yourself to him.  It's better to have tried, and know, then not to try and never know.
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Hi! That happened to me before, my male bestfriend was falling in love with me, everyone in our group knows about it and advising me that it would be better to have a boyfriend from the bestfriend level as it always works. But I kind of aloof everytime I know he might ask me a question, or something as I only want to remain friends. Because what I believe before, if we became boyfriends/girlfriends and split up, we might never be friends again, and I like having him as my best friend. I was a teenager back then. Now i'm 30 and he's now married. And I'm still single.\n\nLet her know how you feel when she's no longer in a relationship. Or if you can't wait that long, let her know now, who knows. She might be open minded about it and let you know how she feels for you.\n\nCheers!\n\nMitch
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This is what I think (and it's just an opinion)\n\nHe suddenly realizes that he has no date for the prom. You have been emailing each other, so he figures he will ask you out. \n\nThis is what you should do:\n\nFind someone else to go to the prom with. If he really likes you, he will make it known during or after the prom is over. \n\nWhy should you do this:\n\nFor one, you need to teach him that you will not always be there for his last choice. Second, he needs to know that he made a not so good decision for dumping you (and the prom will do just that, when he see's you dancing with someone else.) And three, this will test the both of you and make one or both of you realize that you have feelings for one another.\n\nGood Luck!
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i think good for you.. he obviously cares and I think  that is wonderful. keep up the friendship and when the timing is right.. you 'll know if there is more to it.
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You will never know the answer till you ask the question - TO THE PERSON YOU WANT THE ANSWER FROM.\nHaving not asked him how he feels, you are just assuming he loves you. \nWhat are your feelings in this matter? Towards him and otherwise? Do you love him? If so, have you told him that you do?\nYou say you've tried waiting for him; is this something he is just supposed to figure out on his own.\nIf you care about him and have remained silent yourself about the fact, why should he even be expected to come to you.\nThe best policy always is communication. Never to assume you know the thoughts and/or feelings of any person other than yourself.\nBy not approaching him with your questions, you have in a way, set him up to fail from the start.\nTalk to him. You may be surprised. What if he thinks the same way you are thinking and is waiting for you to say something? Well, then you will have both lost.
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I will never say that you dont love him. He might truly mean the world to you. But you have to look out for your best interest. You are 13 years old and have a lot of great experiences and 'firsts' ahead of you--homecomings, proms, driving, more dates, making captain of a school team-- i wouldn't limit yourself to one guy who is past all these life changing events. I also dont think that it is healthy that he is in jail already. He might bring you down with him one day.  My only suggestion is to be his friend.  That way you can still care about him as much as you want, but you also have the ability to go out and do what you want. There are going to be so many guys in your life throughout high school.  I am sure that you are ready to handle an adult relationship, but I would have as much fun until you absolutely have too. I was tied up with one long relationship after another. And now I am 23 looking back and wishing that I had given myself the chance to go off and have fun.  So, be his friend, and if later on in life, you are still in love with him, then make the commitment to each other.
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Sounds like you guys have a great friendship going on.  Just keep up the good friendship and if you want to take it to the next level and you don't know if he does or not, then you are going to have to find out.  When you think the time is right, talk with him and ask him if he could ever see you two together?  Make sure after you ask that you get a serious answer.  After that you will know if the time is right for a relationship and if he is ready or not.  He may like you but not be ready, so it's your call when and if you want to pursue it further.