i dated a  girl  and she had a child for me but i am afriad the girl i date now might  not want the idea
200408
Tough! You had the child, you have responsibilities! If you new girlfriend isn't interested in your children then she isn't worth bothering about.  What happens in the future if you two were to settle, marry, have kids? Drop it in the conversation casually - yeah, this is my second kid? Stop the lies before they get too bad. If you are lying to your girlfriend by not telling her the truth about yourself, she can't love you for yourself, just a fake image you created.
597133
Children usually have problems with who their parents date.  They almost always hold hope for reconciliation between their parents.  Any "soul mate" will understand and accept this fact.  If she is the real deal, she will be considerate of the child's feelings and eventually win grudging acceptance if not more.\n\nA child is a lifelong committment and there is no choice about it until the child is an adult.
440691
kay i have a little girl myself and i am very paranoid also but what i have found out is the guy i was so paranoid about was the guy i wish i could have spent the rest of my life with i thought he was a player to so i ended it and now i regret it so if i was you i would belive him and trust him
99582
Is there a reason why the girl's family does not want you to be with her?  If it is because you are both very young and the familly does not want two kids to be involved, well, there is not much that you can do!  You can still go out with each other, email each other...but it will be tough.  If both of you are adults, you should be able to make your own decisions.
336757
That's really sick..Forget about her outer beauty. What her ugly mind? What about her sick twisted mind? No normal person in their right mind would have sex with an animal. Bringing another person in and is bad BUT sex with an animal that's Gross...\n\nIf you're afraid of losing her...Suppose you continue to date her and she end up pregnant. Can you imagine what she would try doing with your child. You may leave one day come home unexpected and catch her abusing the child with some pervert or some animal. \n\nThis is definitely a sign of some serious issues. Why ignore them and continue to be with a twisted mind freak. If you really care for this girl. I'll suggest you sit down talk to her and let her know she needs counseling. Perhaps, there are some childhood issues she haven't address, and don't know what to do with those feelings.\n\nBut if anyone; especially some sick-o threatening to leave you because you don't molest some animal is crazy and you are crazier for taking the crap! \n\nGet the hell out of that sick, twisted, circus of relationship you call love. It isn't love it's SICK!
86795
Although you need to do what is right for your child you should be with (girl B)  If you stay with the baby's mom you will most likely end up in divorce or resent her for not being the one you love.  If you are only with her for the baby it is also not good for the baby.  Learn from your mistakes though and make sure you children do not suffer.
489225
IF YOUR SERIOUS ABOUT THE GIRL YOU ARE WITH NOW THAN DONT TRY TO BE A PLAYER YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE WHAT YOU HAVE IF ITS GOOD FOR SOMEONE YOUR NOT SURE ABOUT.
159924
I don't believe there's anything wrong with it.  Additionally, if you and your partnner are going to be together long-term, the exwife will just have to realize that it's unrealistic to expect for you to not be in the children's lives.
327912
look she broke up with you, obviously she's going to try to get you to see what you're missing. i think she didn't appreciate you much, you're a sweet person and i think any parent would be happy to have a boyfriend like yourself in their daughter's life, i don't her parents disapproved maybe she wanted someone else, you deserve someone you will shower with love and in turn receive the same or even more and trust me she's out there, so you could try and find that girl who will care for you, or go on mourning your ex-girl's loss
156743
No, as this is not fair on the other one and you wouldn,t want them to do this to you.Get over the so called one that you love and find someone who is better,because if they are not with you then there is someone better then them.
182041
If the answer is not already clear then you are not meant to be with either of them. This is, of course, assuming that it is not just a game for you. If you are looking for eternal love, you haven't found it in either one of these girls. Once again, in such a case the choice would be more than obvious. If it is being played as a game, wait until it cannot be; It will be the first time that you truely feel alive.
269810
I rather have the girl.
116707
This situation is only cumbersome if they know each other. Otherwise just date both of them for a while. Just don't give them false hopes until you decide. You may even get to have wild sex with both girls (not at the same time) and choose the best one. They would do the same.\n\nOn the other hand, if they know each other you may propably only have one go at it (nobody wants to be a "second choice") at least for a little while (say 3-6 months?). Just choose the hottest and proceed to have wild sex with her... (having simple criteria cures confusion and simplifies choice)
171097
go with the definite safe one, the friend.  this isn't a date, it's for a special cause, you can definitely have fun with the first girl but you may be too nervous to enjoy yourself with the second.  It's about the children not your date...just have fun and enjoy your friendship.
12623
Go for it. Your ex should not have any say over who you date. That's why it's called "ex."
81777
OUCH. \nWow that sucks. Yeah if she is dating someone else already then she should have had enough time to put some things together for your child to have. I would go about it gently so as not to pi** her off, where then your child may not get anything, but I would really try to maybe talk to her and say, you know, *insert child's name here* really misses their dad and it would really mean a lot to them if they could have some things to hold on to to remember them with. That's a tough one, sorry I don't have any brilliant advice.
225297
Well, if both of you don't want to be in other relationships then its ok.  It's good that you both are looking out in the best interest of the children, but it will be harder for both of you to move on if you live together.