What if your partner thinks that money and success is worth more effort than making you #1?  Says that "love" doesn't pay the bills.....am I wrong to still believe that a relationship based on love is never a trade-off for getting ahead in the world?  Can't we have both?
212469
In terms of stability, one of the most important things in any partnership is an underlying friendship. That is especially true in marriage. There is nothing that creates more stability in a marriage than for the partners to be best friends and to fully respect one another as such. Being lovers in addition is simply a bonus. =p
73543
I think that whether the couple wins a ton of money or loses it all it could potential ruin the relationship.  Too much money and they could start to argue about what to do with the money or they could potentially split.  Losing it all they could end up arguing about why you made such a bad deal.  Then again, they could live happily ever after.  One never knows.
443391
I think that if he's a doctor and makes more money than you that it's fine if he always pays.  I mean, don't suggest the most expensive restaurant and always order steak, but I think it's realistic in a serious relationship when someone makes more money than the other for one person to always pay.  Anyways, now he knows that you at least notice that he pays since you offered to.  My boyfriend always pays!
307425
money should not be an object to base a relationship on! If 2 people care about each Trust, honesty and respect are important factors not cash....
99706
Your right but there are some exceptions.  There are things often that you know you can't work through or differences that exist that aren't even things that involve working through.  You can try everything possible to make a relationship work but at some point no matter how much you love someone you have to be honest about if it is really a relationship that can work.
45639
friendship! even before I fall in love with someone, I'm always good friends with them first. And it doesn't matter how much money or material possessions one might have. How will they be happy if they have no one to share it with or keep it all to themselves?
571657
I find myself worrying how financially capable he is to take care of stuff.  I dont want him to give me money or anything, I got my own, but I want to know his worth so I know if the "WE" thing will work.  I dont expect him to pay for everything, Im gainfully employed so I will carry my own weight.  I want him to be responsible, take care of his kids (if he has any) and his family - that shows me he has responsibility to the things he holds dear.  I want him to be content with my love for him, and love me back - maybe not the way I love him coz I can get crazy!  But I want to know and feel that that love is there.  I like spontaneous and explosive sex, and to have him "addicted" to me would be a bonus!  When all this is in place, I could just lie in his arms and feel so safe, secure and complete...
222520
Content marriage for 15yrs. We both do all we can to please the other on a daily basis. Income has less than nothing to do with it if you and your partner are non-materialistic.
487111
I agree with you. People tend to believe that the things that drive them crazy about the other will change or try and make them change once they're in a relationship.  Once they realize it doesn't get any better they move on feeling defeated. If they would have listened to their mind instead of their heart it would have told them the outcome and saved them a lot of pain.
351644
you can not put a worth or price tag on love!!! If you love this man it would not matter if you lived together in a cardboard box as long as you two are together! Your family is only looking out for your best interest so don't get upset with them over it.A parent only wants the best for their child and they already have Been through the struggles of life and most likely don't want you to have to do the same! It does make it easier when someone is are already established in love but your heart just cant see if they have money or not nor does it care! I can however from experience say that its as easy to marry for love as it is for money money does not make the world go around but I'm telling ya it sure does help!Unfortunately we live is a society where unless you make a certain figure you just cant hardly make ends meet!You say things are looking up It doesn't matter if he lives with his parents and he doesn't have a car does he have potential or is he just one of these guys that plans on mooching off of mom and dad forever I mean is he in school ,is he at a job where he has the potential of moving up in the company or is he one who sits at home all day eating potato chips and playing video games!!You have to look with your eyes as well as your heart!If this is what you know you want in life then by all means go for it but realize what you are getting into and if he can not support the two of you just plzz think b4 you bring someone (a child) into it as well! What we choose for ourselves is our business but once you bring in a child the choice and decisions you make in life are not for just you so you have to make them all for them!!!I do hope that Love will conquer all and that you get to go with your heart in the end ,just plz do yourself a favor and make a a list of things that are good and bad about him and be honest if you don't write it honestly your only hurting yourself but write down everything his goals his chances of reaching them where you see him in a few years and think to yourself in 10 years is this what I want for myself? You don't have to break up with him because hes not financially stable but plz do yourself this favor and not marry him until he can take care of you and your future family!! the best of luck to you!!
344942
To love is also to know that you may not be the best for each other.  If you both can't let go of your egos then there is no chance for the relationship no matter how much you love each other.  I would suggest you become your own best friend before you take on another relationship.
267608
It's not a good sign.  You should have a heart to heart and put everything on the table.  If this is not the right relationship, it's time to move on before you invest any more time and energy into it.
332480
if a girl is dating you for your car, you're better off without her.  when i'm interested in someone, i don't ask for his bank account info or to see his car.  I'm interested in HIM, not what he has.  Material possessions come and go...maybe one day you'll be really rich, and the next you'll be poor.  You want someone who likes YOU...that's what the whole "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health" stuff means when people take wedding vows...
550401
your relationship sounds like true love. some people never find that. yes they get married and live together but thats nothing if like you said, your not honest and trusting. it does seem simple. but somethings are worth fighting for.
542058
Tell me about it, feel like giving up every relationship always ends up wrong.  eg: my last relationship was going great untill he got a new job which required him to move back to america...so that ended like all the others....is there any hope out there?
599793
If you don't worry about little things like that, then it won't matter. The important thing here is not WHO PAYS, it is the chemistry created through the get-together. It's just money- don't listen to these people...MONEY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR FEELINGS AND YOU CAN'T BUY ATTRACTION. Thanks!
47797
its quite tough given the circumstances but ask yourself if you're willing enough to sacrifice either the relationship or your future.Although i'd have to agree with the guy above me that if the person truly loves you, he doesnt have to hinder your chance for a better future. You dont have to gauge your feelings toward the person nor that you have to turn your back from opportunities just to make the relationship work.talk about the situation with your guy and ask him how we feels about it and vice versa. talking might help settle this issue although at your end, its still better that you decide mainly for yourself.