I am a volunteer coordinator at an after school program. I was wondering how other nonprofits address potential issues regarding dating between unpaid volunteers and supervisory staff. If you have experience with such dating policies, I would be interested in your suggestions. Thank you.
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Typically "no dating" policies arise in small companies which try to micro-manage their employees.  In the case of unpaid employees or volunteers, there should never be a written or spoken policy concerning dating.  That should be left up to the individual.\n\nRomance among workers can sometimes be a good thing.  Volunteers even sign up hoping to meet someone with common interests to date.  Sure, it can cause some personal conflicts.  But companies should stay out of people's personal business and let them work it out for themselves.  If someone doesn't want to date people they work with then that person can say that it is their own policy not to date someone at work and others should respect that.
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I have quite a few bad date stories.  But the one that takes the cake was the first guy I dated after my divorce 3 years ago.  I decided to be proactive and try the online dating format.  I corresponded with this guy for about a week and he asked me out.  I had not seen a photo (bad move on my part) but agreed to dinner. When I called him to confirm our date I got this really odd voice mail message that made reference to some obscure bible passage.  Now, please understand that I'm not what you would call religious.  My profile clearly referenced my musical tastes and what you would call "new age" interests  While I thought the voicemail thing a bit odd, I tried to maintain a positive attitude so we set up a time for us to go out.  The next night he picked me up at a friend's house and showed up in a mini-van.  Immediately, my reaction was "omg, this is not good".  I walked out to meet him at his vehicle and the inside looked like he lived in it...fast food remnants, sporting goods, etc.I knew this was no love connection but I tried to be a good sport and at least make it through dinner.  We went to a local restaurant where he started to spout off his very fundamentalist religious rhetoric.  He told me that "the government" has already developed "mobile execution stations", I think he meant that these are like the emissons testing vehicles but more sinister.  Basically he said that the end of the world is coming and people who refuse to have a bar code/mark of the beast would be executed.  He leaned into me and serious as a heart attack says "so, what are you going to do on judgement day?  Are you going to take the mark of the beast?" Needless to say "mark of the beast" is looking more appealing by the moment.  At this point, I'm thinking that this date can't get worse...but low and behold it got much worse.  There was a large group of people adjacent to us at this restaurant and were obviously celebrating a child's birthday.  There were helium balloons all over their table.  My date summons the waitress with whom he had been relentlessly flirting with and says "can I ask you a favor"?  Immediately I put two and two together and started praying "god please don't let him do what I think he is about to do"!  You guessed it...he procured a balloon and managed to suck helium and do his best Alvin and the Chipmunks impression.  I started inhaling my dinner in the hopes of getting out of there ASAP.  He managed to get the attention of the entire restaurant and then asked me out again for the next night.  I told him my to take me home and politely declined further dates.  After this fiasco I realized that dating takes a lot or work and a lot of humor.  I started giving my dates silly little nicknames.  This guy was affectionately called "Jesus Boy" by me and my friends.  This was one of many frogs I had to kiss.  Some of the others were "college professor guy whose kitchen looked like a nuclear waste dump",  "Yoga instructor that looked like Yoda" and "transvestite dude" (you figure that one out)! and countless other potential suitors.  I'm happy to say that I finally did manage to find a great guy and we both like to laugh about my very laughable dating exploits!
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I think I might have an answer to part of your question, if I may. Of course, I can only speak from my own experience, but here goes. Maybe the reason we don't post questions about our relationships with our spouses, friends, family & other such issues is that we get our help from the Lord. We have His big book of answers, that helps guide us along our way. We also have each other, being connected by the same Spirit. We pray, asking God for guidance. We go to our Pastor's, asking for deeper answers from parts of the Scriptures that we're not acquainted quite so well with. You see, some issues need to be given into God's hands. You've seen some of the dating & relationship posts here...would you trust your relationship issue with most of the people that post on those sites? It's not intriguing when you think about it. But, one of the reasons I come to this site is to use my years of various experiences to help people. I don't always use Scripture, because it's not always required, especially when someone wants to know how to get wine stains out of their carpeting. Or how to get their two year old to talk. Things like that are practical, everyday experiences. Being that I've been married for over 28 years, raised two kids to adulthood, and have a mess of other experiences, I can help people...and I do. And yes, I am a "devout" Christian. I treat everyone with respect and answer every question carefully, even the ones that are nasty or just plain goofy. It's part of my nature to treat everyone as I would hope they treat me. For the most part, if you give respect, you get it back. This forum is a wonderful, yet scary thing. Through this site, I'm getting a different view of the world than the evening news ever could give me. There are just so many hurting young people out there, and I want to reach out to them. It's more than just the "mom" in me, it's the Lord Who is in me. Everything that gets to me has to go through Him first. I hope this helped answer your intrigues. <*)))><
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Dear Joe,\n\nThank you so much for taking your time with me yesterday to discuss the assistant manager position that your store has open.  It was very nice to better understand the nature of the position, as well as the working environment at Sporting Goods.\n\nAfter our discussion, I am even more convinced that I am exactly the person you need to fill this vacancy.  \n\nI look forward to hearing from you again soon.\n\nSincerely,\n\nJane
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Definitely my thoughts exactly. In fact, I wrote to Yahoo Answers to separate the kids from the adults but didn't get a response.  No offense to the kids, but their questions make me gag...."I got a date...what should I do?", etc. It would really improve the game!
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You can try coffee shops in the area.  Many of them have bulletin boards that will let you post notices on them.  You might also want to contact churches; they might be willing to plug your program during the annoucements.\nIf you need volunteers, you can also contact the high school in the area.  Often, high schoolers need a certain number of community service hours to graduate, and many also want to be involved in volunteer programs to look good for colleges (and some are motivated by purely altruistic motives).
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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Try puting up posters at your campus or school, explaining what the organisations all about. Try community centers and religous institutions too. Im your stil having trouble, try teaming up with a similar existing organisation that already has a volunteer pool.
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There are plenty of volunteer organizations that ramp up their efforts around Christmas.  Helping out with one of the soup kitchens in the area, I've heard, is a rewarding experience.\n\nAnd I hope that whoever gave you a thumbs down did so by mistake.  Non-religious people tend to be very charitable.  You're in good company.\n\nGood luck to you.
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Where are you based out of? I am interested in helping by volunteerining my time but I must know where you are located.\nIf you click on my picture you will be able to send me an email and we can go from there.
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you know if i tell you someone it wont help you much but i have an idea ......why dont you go into the park with a coffe and a magazine(nad maybe if you have bring a dog) many older women like to go there on a sunday morning....and maybe you come into a talk with one and there you can meet each other personly.....if you want to have a date just like that go to go onto one of these sites but i would think it would be better the idea with the park........\n\nPerfectMatch.com\nwww.PerfectMatch.com      Share your Life with Your Soul Mate. Start with Our Free Profile.\nDating\n\nwww.Lavalife.ca      Join Lavalife Free Today and Chat with Single Men and Women!
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ok look at it this way\n\nyou stand on a chair, and have someone  stand on the ground next to you, now try to pull them up with you onto the chair?\nhow did that work?\nok now have them try to have them pull you down next to them.\nyou fell of the chair didn't you?\n\nthat's how it is when you "missionary date"\nit's is easier for the person you are dating to pull you down, then  for you to pull them up to christ.\nand then they might even try to become a christian just to please you, then it wouldn't a true conversion.\n\nI hope that helped you!\nGod bless!
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It sounds like such a wonderful idea, that i gave your question to Randall Pickett, season 4 Donald Trump's Apprentice.\nHe was most gracious to come on our site, (Yahoo! Brainiacs Summer Promotion in NYC) and answer your question. He advised that you need to have two boards. One, a working board, in which you need people of different strengths. One for legal, one for site maintenance, One for office, with organizational skills, and one for Human resource management., And one, such as yourself with the vision.\nThe board for legal purposes can be recruited through United Way, in your neighborhood. If you aren't getting help through United Way, you need to keep trying, and asking for administration. supervisors. They have many volunteers that will sit on boards, and know what they are doing.
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In the UK you will be checked out if you want to work with children, whether paid or voluntary.  \n\nOne of my relations has just been through the check up for criminal records because she has been asked to help with the Scout's Association.  She has no criminal record or cautions but still has to go through that process.\n\nHope that helps
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This year I will have two International Exchange students in my home, one from Germany and the other from Norway.  I believe things like this help us all learn about each other and our cultures.  I have been looking online for places to volunteer (after the 2 are here) overseas and was very pleased to find many places (I thought you could only go Peace Corps if you know what I mean) that you can volunteer overseas for the price of paying your own transportation to and from and having your own spending money.  People will let you stay in their homes while you are volunteering from Nepal to Brazil to India.  All kinds of places.  Some are even "vacation" volunteering, do while on your vacation.  Gosh, just thinking about it sounds like so much fun and I can't wait to pick a place!!! :)  \n\nTwo great sites I have bookmarked for future reference.  I do have to say that as someone who can't afford to go flying places I did think this was an excellent way to learn about another country/people and be on vacation.  A win-win situation.
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my boyfriend is in job corp and it's FREE!! but you have to go to the job corp closes to you if you go one out of town you will have to stay and my boyfriend didn't like staying at job corp to SLEEP!!! I think it's a great opportunity for the people.  My boyfriend is there and he is studying to become a clericle at any office HE WANTS!!!!!!
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Scott has some good advice there. However, even in an adult group, you still have to follow Yahoo's terms of service, so be sure to read the link to the ToS carefully (included at bottom of every page).