i go out with my friends every blue moon,but i have a boyfriend thats 10 years older than me and he don't like it.he hardly ever wants to go anywhere.i go to some family members house just me and my kids and stayed over there till 12.30 a.m he got real upset because the kids where out to late and treaten to move out.what should i do?
200566
for crying out loud\nget rid of him\nto many guys would want you\ngo have fun'\nlife is way to short and it goes by way to fast for this type of stuff\nget rid of him now
579407
If he is your ex-fiancee, why is he still your bf? Doesn't the word EX imply that there was something that is no longer there?\nThere is a difference between you saying 'he leaves you alone on the weekends' and 'go out .. every once and awhile'.\nSorry, but these are two complete different things.\nAt the end, I'd say, nothing wrong if you would like to go out occasionally, but you have to realize that Ex means it's over.\nAnd he at 21 surely wants to enjoy his life and gather more experience before committing himself again.\nSo what about you also moving on and getting a new life? Does this sound like a feasible option for you?
118716
Are you at his house? Is he at your house? Are you two living together? By reading your question, I will say that you put too much weight on this matter.  My mother is like that.  She will stay up all night waiting to see when my father or me will come home if we said something wrong that day.  This is normal human behavior. However, I like to caution you that a relationship which consist of arguing and one person staying up all night until the other person coming home (so that they can talk) is no real relationship.  He is probably seeing someone I'm sorry.  A man is not a REAL man if he can't be precise.  Men tends to excused themselves to get some free time or some space.  Sweety, in the long run, you are going to be the one who loses at the end.  You will never feel any better in the morning, trust me.  There are many other nice guys out there.  However, please look at the situation carefully and see why are you two arguing.  You may be the problem.  All your worries at night will just push him away instead of bringing him closer to you.  If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriends and your family about this.  This is SERIOUS matter.  A sweetheart like you does not need to be staying up all night and worrying like that.  Instead you should be sleeping well and warm and waking up to beautiful flowers next to you, from him.  Do not do anything more to stress you..   Serpeanta@yahoo.com
612195
when i was 21 i was going out with a girl who was 16. we had a great relationship for almost 2 years and if i had a chance to do it all again i would. the only problem was that as she got older and matured we drifted apart but that can happen with any relationship no matter what age you are. give it a try but don't let him use his age and experience to get you to do anything you don't want to. good luck, hope all goes well
25925
How old are your friends?  Being 13, your parents feel that you are much too young to be going out. If you really want to and as long as your friends are girls, maybe you could ask one of your parents to come along to chaperone.  Or maybe have one of their parents come along.  If they agree to do this, maybe after a while they may be willing to let you go alone with your friends. But remember, you must never break your trust with your parents. They are just concerned about your welfare.  Just so you know, I am a 49 year old parent and grandparent and I was just as concerned about my kids when they were growing up. Should you choose this advice, copy this and show it to your parents.  I'm sure they would agree if you had an adult parent going along with you and your friends as a chaperone.  They don't want to see you get in trouble which is very easy as a kid.  Good luck
613277
You still have your family-your kids. Talk to this guy. Find out where you and kids stand in his life . In a relationship,there are times when couple or say one of them wants to be on his own .\nMaybe he just needs some time off . Give it to him . You also do something which you like and mutually you two can take care of kids . Have a code of conduct to be maintained in the house, at least in front of kids . Review the situation after short intervals.\nIf it doesn't work & you are unhappy ,maybe then you have no other choice but to split.
189996
Sounds like time to go solo.  Don't get in too deep with this other guy, and try not to make your boyfriend feel like crap, but you should probably get your own place.  \nYou'll have to tell your man, and it won't be fun or easy.  Just stick to trying to figure your own self out as an excuse.  It's not him, it's not anybody else, it's just you.  You're however-many-years-young, and you're having a mental transition.  You do love him, and you still want to see him, but you need to live alone - in your own place with your own surroundings.  It's a very different situation than just booting him out for an evening of alone-girl time.\nIf you can get that through his head, it should be smooth sailing from there.
133505
it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
92487
Your not being bossy, you are growing up and taking responsibility for your life.  I know it is probably hard for him to accept that he needs to grow up also but if he really loves you and his son then he needs to.  It simply is not ok to continue that life style when there are so many more important things in his life now.  He needs to understand that just because you are both growing older and you want to be more responsible isn't the end of all the fun in your lives.  It is just that the definition of fun needs to change.  It needs to be more family oriented.  Instead of going out partying till all hours of the night, you have friends over for a barbecue, you take a family trip, etc...
126495
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
550715
I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
116156
why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
620224
Man, I know what you mean. Sometimes family can be so annoying cauz you didn't pick them :(\nI think you should try to move out as soon as possible if you're unhappy. And I don't believe it's fair for her to not allow your friend to come over. I mean yeah, it's her house, but she could be much nicer about it. Just because it's her house I don't think that gives her the right to control who your friends are.
272263
No, don't go out with him.  Stay single for a while, and decide what you want, or at least, WHY you always break up with someone you care for.\n\nGood luck!
314508
Your boyfriends loves you very much.\n\nIf he didn't he wouldn't put up with the way you behave, especially not at the age of 20. There are millions of young girls out there that he could have but he chose YOU. He loves YOU and he only wants to be with YOU.\n\nHe can't show you that every minute of every day because that simply isn't normal. You would probably get fed up with it if he did, you would feel smothered.\n\nYou need to sit and imagine what life would be like without him. How much you would miss him and how much you don't want that. You have to appreciate him and concentrate on the good points of your relationship.\n\nWhen you feel the rage start building, count to ten or walk away. He is much more likely to come after you than if you scream, cry and act crazy. When you do that you are actually making yourself unattractive to him and let's face it, if someone was screaming in your face and acting crazy, you would want to get away from them wouldn't you?\n\nYou are definitely NOT crazy, don't worry. You are very young and your feelings for this boy are obviously very strong. Love can make us do crazy things! Just calm down, take your time and let him have some space sometimes.\n\nYou should also have time away from him to spend with your own friends. If you never leave his side to go do something different how are you ever going to have anything to talk about? You could be telling him funny stories about things you did with your friends and making him laugh and love you even more. It will make you more interesting - it's very easy at your ages to get bored with a relationship. You have to keep it going but make it fun. \n\nHowever, hurting yourself is serious stuff and is usually the product of low self-esteem. Don't be afraid of the doctor - he/she can actually help you. They certainly wouldn't think you are crazy or lock you away. There are thousands of young people with similar issues. One day you will look back and think 'I can't believe that was me'. Unfortunately, it's all part of growing up.\n\nYou have taken the first very big and VERY important step. You are talking about it. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Your feelings are what makes you the person you are, never be afraid to express them (calmly). Please talk to your doctor - you will be surprised how kind and helpful they will be.\n\nTake care x
597412
You must feel very let down right now.\n\nYou have chosen your boyfriend over your family and he has chosen living alone over living with you.\n\nYou can determine how much he cared by how helpful he was in your predicament. Even if he thought it was too soon to live together, Did he\n1) offer to house you FOC temporarily whilst you find somewhere\n2) offer to drive you to / come with you looking at potential places\n3) offer financial assistance for a deposit, furniture etc\nor\ndo the bare minimum, i.e. ring a few places.\n\nYou were right to return home. Living alone would most likely have been miserable and expensive. Fill your life now with things you enjoy and make some plans for the future. Start saving so that when you feel ready to leave you are financially in a position to do so.\n\nYour boyfriend did not chose you. If he really loves you he will come back, if not, well you've not lost very much have you
549297
you should congratulate yourself on your decision, and realize that it was the RIGHT one.  If he is so immature as to treat you poorly just because you didn't go out with him, then it's obvious that he would have been a bad choice for you.  He needs to grow up.