There is this ugly girl I work with and she keeps talking to me as if were friends or something. I only talk to her if I have to but other than that I don't want to talk to her. The problem is we work at the same station and since I love my station I don't want to move and the boss just transferred over to mine because she is good at what she does there. Usually I like to talk to everyone, I'm a guy who is friends with everyone but I don't want to be friends with an ugly girl. She has never had a boyfriend either, I know this because her friend works at our station as well and they were talking about it. She's depressed about guys being mean to her all the time.\nShe should just get over herself, she deserves it for being ugly. I think she likes me too because she looks at me a lot and touches me. I just got out of a long term relationship though so I don't want to date anyone any way.\nHow do I get rid of this ugly girl? She's 19 (kind pathetic she's never had a bf) and I'm 21.
216294
wow, your quite a jerk\n\njust remember, there was probably a girl you liked that was upset everytime you tried to talk to her becuase she didnt like something about you.\n\nbe nice to the girl.  ugly or not...girls have friends.  and friends talk.\n\noh, and by the way.  her beautiful friend may stop by one day and ask about you.  do you want her to say that your a jerk or that your such a nice guy...let me introduce you
358775
You are in a difficult situation and your reaction is totally understandable. If you have tried talking to her and feel this hasn't improved, there is not much you can do. Usually people react like that (especially people higher up then you) when they feel threatened. This would highly seem the case as she seems to get along better with people who are not as academically qualified as you are.\n\nThe way I see it, you have three options:\n1) you continue on and talk to her again to try an understand why she is like that\n2) talk to her supervisor about your concerns and see if they can do anything to help\n3) look for another job either in another department or in a completely different company.\n\nHope it all works out for you in the end you should work to live not live for work!
368847
There is at least one of these in every company. If the girl is a co-worker (meaning she is at the same level as you and has no supervisory authority over you) tell her in a direct, yet professional manner how you feel and that you will not tolerate her bullying tactics. If the girl is in a higher position than you but is not your direct supervisor, first get absolute clarification from your direct supervisor as to whether this girl has any supervisory responsibilities over you and if she doesnt then tell her in a direct, yet professional manner how you feel and that you will not tolerate her bullying tactics. If the girl has any supervisory responsibility over you and your boss is unwilling to step in and support you and you feel that you cannot continue with these bullying tactics then you should start to look for another job.\n\nIn the meantime focus on doing your job to the best of your abilities and try to ignore her if at all possible.
362348
Sounds like you are willing to listen to her and be a good friend, but she isn't being nice to you at all. You don't need someone like that! I'm sure that there are lots of other people that would appreciate your friendship and treat you a lot better! Don't even bother with this girl if she's going to act like that cause she'll just pull you down.
436547
Girls know what they want and she thinks she is being kind by giving you excuses.  Before you get hurt any further get yourself away from her.  Don't even talk with her.  There are plenty of other girls out there that will want what you have to offer.  If this girl has to make up excuses - it is over!  I have been down that road many times.  It's hard to tell someone that you have had relations with that it is over.  Most caring people don't like to hurt others so see it for what it is - over.  I am so sorry for your situation but unfortunately the truth hurts.  I also have been on your side of the situation.  You are looking for any gleam of hope for this relationship to work but unfortunately its only one sided.  It hurts.  The sooner you walk away the better off you will be.  Ten months, while it is a long time, it would be worse if longer.   The "perfect guy for her" is more than likely her way of saying she honors your friendship.  When women are in relationships and opt to get out they want their cake and eat it too.  It's ok for her to move on but she doesn't want anybody else to have you.  Hope this helps and good luck to you.
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She sounds like a real jerk\n\nAre you SURE you even want to bother with her?\n\nHere's a suggestion - find another girl to talk to. Either one of two things will probably happen - maybe that second girl will actually like you, or the first girl will get jealous that you're not paying attention to her, and she'll start being nice to you.\n\nIf your lucky, BOTH girls will be into you - and you can have your pick!!!
286599
You must realize that some people are two-faced, back-stabbing losers that are so miserable with their own life that they try to make yours miserable.&#92;\n\nAlso, this guy may smile in your face and be nice to you to get you to talk to him and trust him so that you will confide certain things in him.  Then, when the timing is right he can tell your boss things that you've said or even twist things that you've said around in order to make you look bad and him look good.  Often people do this in order to get a co-worker fired or demoted in order to take over their position.  Surely you've heard of keep your friends close and your enemies closer!  If this is the case with your co-worker, then do not tell him any of your business and talk to your boss about the problem.  If possible, turn the tables on him and screw him out of his position or there's the other alternative....whip his azz when you're off work so bad that he won't ever want to mess with you again.
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If she has a boyfriend already then you just need to back off.  How would you feel if a co-worker was trying to get with your girl?  As for the work relationship, keep in mind that even a friendship would affect the work relationship, so a romantic relationship will affect it more deeply.  Move on and try someone else.
490215
Well- you have honestly already messed things up for you and her to have any kind of serious relationship.  You have shown her how selfish you are by not listening to her when she was trying to vent to you about an ex.  The next thing you messed up with is not telling her that you liked her.  Do you really think she was happy about hearing that you really didn't like anyone?  You had the perfect oppurtunity to get on her "good" side and say "yeah- I really like you!"  So far you have shown her that you don't care about her feelings and that you lie.  Do ya think she might realize you are using her as a sex object instead of a person with feelings???  Good luck!
320530
This is just my opinion but I don't think a true friend would be mean to me just to impress another girl. And I think you are focusing too much on the fact that he was with another girl and not so much on the way you were treated.  You deserve respect and I think you need to surround yourself with people who will treat you right and will be true friends. Good luck hun!
412801
=sounds to me like she has a serious attitude problem or has a lot on her plate going on right now.  You could drive her crazy with your kindness while having a good laugh inside and perhaps the two of you will end up being friends at some point.  Invite her out for a couple of beers after work, just as friends and you may be surprised at what you learn. and find out she is really a nice person after all.  Bottom line here is that you need to adjust your attitude toward her as well if you are to continue working with her.  Good luck.
616960
I'm so confused.  You "know" a female who has ugly legs.  She's not you friend---just an acquaintance?  \n\nI have a question for you:  What if you worked around a person who had only one leg?  Would that also cause you distress?\n\nWhat if you worked around a person who was blind or deaf?  Would that cause you distress?\n\nI'm sorry not everyone in the world is beautiful enough to ease your day.  Heaven knows, the universe absolutely must revolve around you!!!\n\nMaybe God is putting that person in your path so you can learn compassion, understanding, and maybe help you mature a bit out of this superficial, selfish, and unkind phase you're going through.\n\nI hope so.......because the lady's legs you think are so ugly, are not have as distressing as your attitude towards her.
196761
Hey she has to understand that some people have their own oppion. But you should still have made sure that when you said it you need to be really nice about it. Some girls are more sensitive then others. i think you should chill a little and then just go up to her and say you didn't mean anyoffence. you didn't actually mean to hurt her. and that it does look ok. Even if you don't like it. It does involve some lying but at least someone does not hate you. I bet if you try that she will not be mad at you anymore. But whatever you do just try to realax!
450053
You need to be very careful of how you handle this. If you approach her, she could take it as sexual harassment. Either way it goes, this will effect your job.  I would suggest finding another job before bringing this up to her. I understand that this may not be as easy as it sounds, but you should understand that once you do bring this up, things at work will change. What if she feels the way that you do, but someone later breaks it off? Will you still be able to work with her? Will she want to work with you? You also need to think about what will happen if she doesn't respond well to you. She may not take it as far as the sexual harassment that I mentioned earlier, but it could make her uncomfortable enough to not want to work with you anymore. You are probably safer fantasizing about her for now.
267586
Run like crazy.  This chick sounds nutty.  She's obviously posessive and has no reason to be.  It can only get worse.  Get away while you can.  If she will not do as you ask her to at work, have her fired, it is not her job to censor your calls.
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What she is saying is a mirror of her own behaviour projected onto you without any thought about the damage she is doing.  \n\nThis person needs to be treated with the same disregard that she shows you, if she does it again just remind your self that you do not have to defend or justify who you are to this girl.  This is typically girl bullying behaviour and as such you need to tackle it as you would with any other bully.  \nShe is defiantly jealous and scared that you might be better than her, so in a way its a compliment that she takes the time to nit pick your personality, almost bordering on an obsession perhaps that needs pointing out to her.  \nDon't let her take away your confidence you are the nicest person you know and you should not take her opinion on board after all she just passed judgement on a wonderful person who might one day be her boss....
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It's a sticky situation when you're trying to be careful with some one else's feelings and trying to get rid of them too. Tell her in a nice way that you're not her type and she's not your type. If that doesn't work, you can be a little more harsh, but don't step out of line and start name calling. If she keeps it up, the best thing to do is ignore her. It's the easiest way to get some one gone without hurting them as badly as a confrontation might. Eventually, they get the hint that it's time to move on.