when we were 2gether he made friends with all my friends and their brothers so now that we broke up he always hanging around or talking to the ppl i chill with... it really annoys me.. he just moved to miami and hardly knows anyone but why does he have to pick my friends? we were friends for a long time before but we only went out for like a month cause he was too annoying. i cant even hear his name. he's a good man but i dont want him to hang around my group anymore. what do i do?
203062
Not much u can do, that is part of the danger of dating friends from your group of friends, like sleeping with a co-worker, things go bad, u are stuck with them.  One suggestion though is finding another guy will, if he has/had any feelings for u at all, make him want to not be around as much when he knows u both will be there.
7076
This is tough because of what you said...you're still in love with him (how long were you guys dating?).  You need to find ways to distance yourself from him, and to do other activities which will take your mind off him.  Hang out with other friends, go take a class on something, do something fun and exciting.  If he calls you as much as you may want to talk to him you need to not answer the phone...in time you'll feel comfortable being separate and may have a chance at being friends then, but if he's playing games with you you need to avoid the situation as much as possible.
535924
I totally agree with you.  You should be able to have a friend whether they are your ex or not.  I am still friends with my high school boyfriend and I am 30 years old.  He has to understand that it is possible to be friends with an ex and be strictly friendship.  Talk with him and tell him you feel that he does not trust you.  Since he is having a problem with you going to see your friends and family it sounds like he is insecure all the way around.  Hopefully a heart to heart will reassure him.  Good Luck!
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
202466
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
111240
It sounds like he still likes you.  If you guiys are still on speaking terms I think you should talk to him and ask him about all the shit hes been spreading.  If he's just mean, you might have to get your bf to avoid him and his friends or if the situation gets really desperate tell someone who has more control over him(your ex)
99679
I think that the answer could be a couple of different things.\nHe could just be the type of person who does not care for another.  He is only interested in what he can get out of the situation and not concerned about the feelings of someone else.\nAnother thing could be that he was running his mouth a little too much after your breakup.  He could have been talking to his friends and got caught up in macho talk.  Things like that do happen.\nThe last thing that I could consider is that he is upset at breaking up and needs to justify it.  He needs to cut you down to make himself feel better.  By doing so he can better deal with the fact that you are no longer together, even if he is the one who broke it off.  The best people for him to talk to would be his friends.\nI can only make these assumptions from the information provided, but if I had to take a guess I think it may have been number one.  He doesn't care.  My justification for that would be the number of girlfriends he has had in the past.\nI hope that all works out for you.
157175
Sounds like he just wants you to be a groupie of his. If you don't want to, then stick to your guns! Give him the cold shoulder, if you have to. You don't need him.
127850
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
312342
i dont really know that one but i have the same problem with my boyfriend he is always with his friends and never with me but then during like spring break and summer vacation he will always be hanging all over me so maybe you should just talk to him about it and he may start to hang out with you more. i am fine with my relationship with my boyfriend thoguh because we are always on the phone together. maybe you should talk to him on the phone more and that may help. i hope i helped!
274401
This just shows you that your ex-boyfriend and even his friends really do care.  It is obvious that they are watching out for you and don't want to see you hurt.\n\nAre you partying more now that you did when you were with him?  Often, people see the breakup as a release and that it can allow them more time to themselves.  Other people (like you, it seems) take it as an opportunity to "live it up".  Just make sure taht you know WHY you are compelled to party so much.  It's probably not good for you physically AND emotionally.\n\nHope it all works out, good luck!
286174
I was only with my guy for a year!! After we broke up i started hanging out with alot of my friends and guys!! This might sound bad but maybe you should look for a distraction!!!\nIt helped me
72086
It sounds like your friends have a new leader.  Take your adopted child and find some new friends.  You can explain to your old friends that you won't be hanging around with them any more because of this guy and then move on.  If any of your old friends are able to see the truth, then they will follow you.  Some of them will follow later.  You need to look out for yourself though and move on.\n\nI stress that you need to find new friends because that new guy might start doing more things that could get him busted.  And when he goes down, everyone that is around him will be busted too.  You and your friends will be guilty by association.  Pick you friends very carefully.
353484
ok. so. i'm 14, and i've been in that situation. just forget about him. if he's acting like a jerk, then he's not worth your time. don't make it look like your chasing this guy around. he'll think you're pathetic and just want to mess with you. forget about him. but hey, that's my opinion. oh...and. 13. remember. it's not as if he's actually changed your life in a major way or anything...right? so, yeah. i suggest you ignore him since he only talks about his girlfriend with you, and hang out with your own friends more. i guess it's safe to befriend him again when you're completely over him, but if he still acts like a jerk [even as a friend], then i suggest you just stay away.
399742
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
462333
He's only doing it because he's angry about the break up and being an immature little boy. I would say ignore it, but if it gets to a point where you can't take it anymore, here's what I would do: think of something really embarrassing that would make him feel like total crap, and wait until you have all of his friends (and a lot of people around in public), then just blast him with it. He'll be so embarassed that he'll run away like a little dog with his tail in between his legs and he will definitely stop.
524775
Whenever anyone gets into a relationship they tend to have tunnel vision for awhile, they tend to devote much of their time to the other persons wants over even their own. So themselves and other friends basically get left out of the picture for awhile.  Your friendship will probably come back but unfortunately not until your friend realizes that he needs more than one person to make his life complete. Sorry it is a hard time to loose a good friend, and if he has become a WORSE person than before, then maybe just drop a call and say hey dude, I am happy for you and all, but you are totally different, call me when you get a chance to hang out I miss that in a DUDE way =) Good Luck............