i have a boyfriend who i like a lot, but just recentally i've fallen in love with my best friend.  who is also my boyfriend's best friend.  and i found out that he likes me too.  but i still like my boyfriend.  so i don't konw what to do.  help.
201844
This is a tough one......Ok you said you like your boyfriend but have fallen in love with his/your best friend. If it is love and I mean real love then you should not have to question what you should do. You just need to talk to your best friend one on one and see if it is really what you think it is.
19944
Before you rush into a decision, let time pass. He will realize his feelings for you, whether or not it is the one you wanted him to feel. An idea from a magazine stated that you ought to spend time with him for a good amount and then suddenly stop. He will realize how much you have meant to him and he would want to spend time with you.\n\nIf he is a friend, then more power to you both if you do end up in a relationship. Friends, especially best friends, know each others' weak points and strong points. Therefore, they can fully support one another.
91604
I've gone out with 5 guys all together and the fifth is my soul mate.  With the other four, I rushed into the relationship because I felt no one cared about me.  I didn't want to be left out so when they showed any interest I was hooked.  When I met my current boyfriend, I decided I would take things slow and be very cautious.  We've been together for two years.  We've been through A LOT of trying times and are still as much in love as the day we met.
461821
you two have been developed a mutual understanding which more likely you both feels the feeling of a couple or bf&gf. becuase you've been start as a very good friend and probably a best friend but you didn't realise that you have developed a relationship already through mutual understanding. but you both will feel awkward of your real feelings as you still thought that you are just friend and nothing else but behind there's already a special feeling that been developed. There's a possibility as well that one of you scared to feel this special feeling otherwise your relation as a friend will be broken, but i'm pretty sure there's a LOVE hanging in the air already between the 2 of you. sometimes denying of the real feeling make things confused and weird..wish you luck!
292207
i think it would be better if u confess to the other guy that u are in a relationship. it is quite possible to fall for other people while u are in a relationship. its natural so dont worry ok? just take your time to know this guy.. it might just be a crush since u say that u love ur boyfriend. may be after sometime u will realize this new guy is just not ur kind. tell him the truth about u being into a relaionship. dont lie. it could harm ur relationship with ur boyfriend in future. and about telling your boyfriend..i think u should just tell him u have made a new friend nothing else.. tht is it.... dont worry. hope it was of some help.
300217
If you and your boyfriend we're truely happy you wouldn't be checking out other guys, there has to be some underlying relationship problems if you have fallen for another guy. Its only fair that you are honest with both guys, and more importantly yourself. You need to do what's best for you, if your unhappy with your boyfriend you need to get out of the relationship. Even if your feeling for the other guy pass (and that's highly unlikely that you will suddenly not like him anymore) there will be other guys after that. Reevaluate your current beau.
201346
I love my best friend as well. We agreed if something goes wrong that we would not let hard feeling get the best of our friendship. You can find a boyfriend easy but to find a friend is hard. So keep it real ,and nothing bad will come of it.
228861
possible the best friend liked you and didnt tell and now hes not wanting anything to do with you and maybe even he dont like the b/f because he knows who he is and what he is like behind closed doors... lots of different possiblities but dont close the door with your best friend... loves come and go but best friends (if they are) are VERY hard to come by!!!
54178
You shouldn`t do that to the boyfriend because most likely he`ll be all hurt and that will be bad blood between the friends.\n\nBut that`s only if you don`t truly love his bestfriend.  If you do, then maybe you should go for who you love, given that you know for a fact that he loves you too.
157540
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
203520
definately tell your boyfriend how you feel. tell him that you would like to hang out with the friend and the kids and be included in the activities. Tell him your concerns. \n\nHe might just say that maybe he does have feelings for him, but it's not like anything would happen because the other guy is straight. of course this still hurts alot, if not worse.\n\nMaybe you could find a friend of your own. If your attention is all the sudden on someone else other than your boyfriend, it might get his attention, plus you will be happier because you won't be thinking about it the whole time. Your friend wouldn't have to be another guy, it could be a girlfriend. I definately suggest not to make it more than just friends though, because that would most likely be out of spite and just hurt you and your boyfriend way more. \n\ntell your boyfriend how you feel, see what he does. just play it cool. make some new friends. best of luck hun!!
158432
Figure out what you want for real. Do you have the habit of moving from one guy to the next? If so, stop and take a few breaths before you get involved next time.\n\nAs for the guys, stay away from his best friend. You never should date a boyfriend's best friend unless the old relationship is long dead. And even then, it can be a sensitive topic.
42408
If both are your friends whom you can talk freely too tell them how you feel like who you like and get to know that person after saying who you like.Sometimes men can be different from what they are as friends after becoming boyfriends.If you tell who you like among your two friends then get to know the one you like since its a crush after you get to know the one you like you really dont like him as a boyfriend crush doesnt develop into love then be thankful you realised it before it turned into marriage or something serious where you could be seriously hurt right?\nIf your friend is really your friend between the two guys and if you say who you like among two no matter what he will be happy for you he should be and he wont leave you if hes a true real friend who loves you.He might not be that friendly as before but he will be there for you always.So maybe after getting to know them after you tell your feelings maybe you realise who you truly love since being a friend and boyfriend theres a difference.get to know them and then decide but first tell them how you feel so they wont be in the dark about it.best of luck.
260331
dude the guy never liked you.... why you stressing?\n\nmove on.. obsessions like that are unhealthy.. find someone who's as crazy about you as you are about them. You can't get mad if the guy liked your best friend, he's entitled to like whoever he choses. \nif he was your boyfriend and liked your friend secretly then u'd have a problem but so far no problem.. get over it
343476
I was in a similar situation with the guy that I'm with now, only we didn't go to the same school.  We were best of friends for a year and stuff then he started going out with my best friend.  They broke up and it was really hard on my best friend so I told her that I would never go out with him.  Yes, as foolish as it may seem, I had an amazing amount of feelings for him.  But I played along and said, "Haha, yes, we're like brother and sister."\n\nWell, long story short, we got past that [so I thought] and we started going out.  Then, he just randomly comes along one day and says "It's akward because we used to be like brother and sister." etc.  So, that ended, we were still friends and now we're "together" again, I suppose, though not exclusive.\n\nSee, boys are undecisive and it may take some time for them to realize their true feelings for you.  I think you are blessed to have such a good friend but, hon, you can't MAKE him like you.  Just be who you are, and that's what he loves you for, is being you.  Just give it time and maybe someday, he will like you in the way you like him.  If you really like him, you shouldn't tell him, so you don't make it akward between you two.  But, if the time comes along when you just can't take it and you NEED to tell him, do so.  But in the right way.  Just cherish what you have with him, because it's better than nothing.
651853
Hey girl- My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 9 months. We go to the same college so we are together 9 months out of the year. during the summer, though, I am in another state and he stays there. I really think that the only reason we as girls would think that we have feelings for someone else is that we get the attention from this guy- the attention we usually get from our boyfriend when we are together. Don't let your mind and emotions take over. Stay true to your man- your love, if you believe that it is strong enough, will stand through even the hardest times... God bless!!
144561
I'm a guy but I think my rule of thumb in a relationship works for both sexes. You date.. then you break up.. and when you break up, there is a good reason why the break up happened, and now you need to move on to someone else.  Life is just way too short and precious to be lingering over what could/should/would happen...  If your best friend made you break up with your boyfriend.. is she really your best friend? Most guys have an unspoken code of conduct when it comes to friends' girlfriends/wives (unlike movies or TV shows) Move on....find you a new and better man.. and make your ex and your best friend realize what they lost when you walk in with your new beau!