well I am 20 yrs old and I've moved to a new place a few months ago. I used to have many female friends at the place where I used to live previously, but never had a girlfriend. There are a lot of girls quite close to me who proudly say that I am their best friend, or very close friend and stuff. But I think I need a girlfriend depirately.. coz I find myself very lonely in life. I dont even have any friend really over here. I can be very humourous and friendly, & i'm a pretty decent guy. which means I am really good to girls.. but I'm not kinda able to form a romantic atmosphere when with a girl. what shud i do about it ?
209216
you need some time to adjust..things will change..give it time.
648259
Yep, you sound like you'd be a really nice guy to get to know. I'm probably too old for you, or live too far away, & I think I've given up on relationships anyhow. But you sound as if you have an awful lot to offer the right woman. I hope you find her & I wish you every happiness & every success!!!
101733
maybe you shouldn't try to figure out how to GET a beautiful girl and learn how to be a girls friend and seeing where that goes.  And... if you need someone to make yourself feel good, you are never going to be able to be happy.  You can't use others to fill yourself up when you are empty inside.  Only you can fill yourself.
366488
First of all, why do you DESPERATELY need a girlfriend?!  Work on your social skills.  You do not have to be loud and obnoxious to get attention.  Not all girls like those kinds of guys.  Get involved in something that interests you that also interests girls, so you can meet some that are more like yourself.
130895
Mad props to you!!!!  You're more mature than most girls your age.  Teenage girls are notoriously insecure and petty, so many of them feel they need a boyfriend.  Pathetic, really.  You can have fun (sometimes more fun) without a boyfriend!  So they way you feel isn't a big deal.  And I've met a lot of girls who didn't really date until they were in their 20's.  A lot of them wanted to focus on their school work and their friendships in high school.  So hey, if you're happy without a boyfriend, you're better off than most girls your age.  You're happy with yourself.  Celebrate it and be proud of it.  And some day, a guy will love you for that.
574139
I think it depends on where you are looking and how!!  My friend asked the same question but was only looking in bars and just really wanted a girlfriend so he didn't have the highest standards.  Many times it's when you aren't looking and you are happy with where you are that someone comes along.  I met my boyfriend through a mutual friend.  Meet up with people who enjoy the same things with you.  \nTrust me... there are great honest girls out there.. you just have to look hard for us! :)  Good Luck :)
308764
Hi! That could go either way; be careful. One way, you are good looking and easy and these girls feel comfortable approaching you and getting close to you, then you can take your pick and have a relationship. The other way, not so nice, you are not hot, or sexy, just kind of cute and a girl's best friend - you could end up not having a girlfriend in a long time. Be cool, take a bit of distance, you want to become hot property, not just a shoulder to cry on.
232364
It is always increasingly difficult to find a new relationship the older we get.\nIf you are well-liked as a friend then that is a bonus as many people can't even get friendship.\nHave you considered asking a close woman friend why she thinks you are having trouble? sometimes just seeing yourself from the womans point of view can be a great help.\n\nAre you coming across as desperate? maybe they think you don't care who you with and will settle for anyone that can be off-putting.\nI think you need to build up your feelings of self worth and self respect also cos to describe yourself as unattractive shows you don't think much of yourself.\n\nYou need to make the most of these friendships and get advice from any of the women you trust and realise that just like in job interviews you have to sell yourself to potential new friendships no-one wants to feel they are "better than nothing"
79674
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
671493
I assume you are pretty young.\n\nFirst, don't worry about being shy with girls.  Stay friends with the one you mention but don't feel that has to be a romantic relationship.  That friendship should help you overcome your shyness, and--if her status changes later on--you might be in a good position to build a more romantic relationship.\n\nDon't worry about the one that blew you off.\n\nMany girls are shy with guys.  There isn't that much to either guys or girls to be shy about.  Friendship can always work.  Don't ask for more unless you're sure.
228726
Well... as a guy myself, I personally don't think that there's any great secret to getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. If shyness is a really bad problem for you then... just sit with some guys and join in their conversation a bit (btw go with your friends though). Seriously the guys probably won't mind.
655247
I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
648541
If you find out how to get past the "friend barrier", let me know.  I hear a lot of women say they want to be friends with a guy & then date him, but I also know several girls who say I'm a great friend & have no romantic interest in me whatsoever.  Usually, I try the honest approach & tell a girl I'm interested in more from here, but have only had limited success at best with that idea.  Still, at least if you're honest & tell her your feelings, you won't be wondering years from now what would have happened if you had the guts to tell her.  Best of luck, & I hope everything works out for the best.
281249
You need to gain confidence in yourself, for one. Learn to be alone, and not lonely. If you can appreciate yourself as company, others will as well. Go places where you will meet people with similar interests, and you'll meet women who will be interested in you.
649371
Oh, you can't be at the age where you think you are going to be alone all your life!  If you are, indeed, one of those rare men who actually LIKE women as people and not as sexual beings, then you are soooooooooooooooooo far ahead of the other guys around.  Yes, sometimes it is harder for you because you will have so many females around as friends - but you will also have far better relationships (both friends AND lovers.)  I tell ya, the men like you I have known can be counted on one hand, but I am still friends will all of them.  And they have very happy marriages.\n\nNow then, that being said, you simply need to apply yourself a little differently when you want a friendship to convert to a love affair.  And the only way to really do that is be courting/wooing the female.  Since you are already the kind of guy that females will trust and to whom females will gravitate, you need to top that off with the courting behavior: a single flower (not a rose - try a Gardinia in a brandy snifter or a Stargzer in a vase or a bunch a Daffodis tied in a ribbon), a picnic with special food (not just sandwiches, but also chocolate dipped strawberries, etc.), ... you are going to get as many (or more rejections) as the other guys (probably more because you will have so many more opportunities) but you will find women who will respond.  For that matter, you could even try courting a girl and becoming her friend at the same time (so there is no confusion).\n\nAnd - let me make the PERFECTLY clear - you are not  "strange"  ....this is a wonderful character virtue you have - very valuable and very special.  Tough, perhaps at time - but great.
262784
this is going to do you some good. i was in the same situation about a year ago i always leaned on my gf and it was a good experince i had to learn to depend on myself cause your signifiacnt other might not always be there. and you need to be happy with yourself and depend on yourself. and be independent and do things for yourself.  then you will truely be happy and find the right guy for you. not one you need to be happy. you should be happy if you have a guy or not
648444
It is very important for a girl to have a male friend who is just a friend. Girls are rarely good in friendship. They tell your secrets to everyone, they may forgive about friendship etc. That is why guy friends are so treasured. I had such a friend and although I understood 100% that he is interested in me more than a friend I made myself believe that we are just friends. He could even stay for a night in my house, sleep on a couch in my room etc. But then he had a promotion to a different country and proposed to me (and we didn't even kiss). Of course I denied ;(.