when I ask my husband to do something I need to ask for it many times,what should I do to make him do it from the first time I ask?
203942
You can't make him. He doesn't work for you. Change your attitude and maybe he would gladly do it for you.
465744
I've never been able to get my husband to do it more than 6 times in a day...I'd sure love to see if he can do more though. I'll have to make sure he eats his Wheaties
307766
make up your mind about your marriage first. then do what you have to do,
605717
Just put it to him plain and simple (but try not to place the blame back on him - he clearly can't handle it).  Say something like: "This is such an unusual request, I'm sure I would have remembered if you had asked me."  Then just move on.  Ask him what he wants you to do and when he needs to get it done.  Try to be gracious.  Unfortunately, it sounds like your boss is a jerk.  We've all been there...
624019
When HE starts using the we's, our's, or asks what you want alot.\nWe ate at....\nWhat do you want to do....\nOur car....\nOur house...\nThis is what we did this weekend.\n\nAlso, when you don't have to ask yourself when its serious
314168
You have answered your own question...Its your public humiliation.  He knows what to expect from you in public as well as at home.  You need to be consistant no matter where you are.  Why are you calling him "a million times"?\n\n You may have to leave your cart in the store a few times while you go to the car to talk to him.  You may even have to go home without your groceries if he doesn't act approprately but it will be worth it in the long run.\n\nMy daughter had the same problem with her son at that age.  I can remember him being loud and saying no at a very busy restaurant on a Friday night.  She was too mortified to move  when everyone got quiet and turned to look at us.\n \nI picked him up and took him outside.  I firmly told him that if he would behave that we could go back in to have dinner with everyone else but if he acted up again that he would get a spanking and have to sit in the car with me until everyone was finished eating.  OR if he didn't want to go back in (didn't think that he could behave long enough for us to fininsh eating) then he could get a spanking and go to the car right then.\n\nHe chose to go back into the restaurant and finish dinner after he repeated to me what was going to happen if he didn't behave.  We had a wonderful dinner.
620121
How about just approaching him and mentioning to him an event or activity you would like to go to and ask him if he would take you there?  For instance, ask him to take you out for ice cream, to a fireworks show (just the two of you), to eat, or something else you would both like to do.\n\nFrom there see where things lead.  If you feel you both had a good time then ask him if he would like to take you out again.  He will catch on.
190177
Tell your husband that next time he goes to the doctor you'd like to go too. Tell him that you want to ask the doctor if an adjustment in his medications would help. If not, what does the doctor suggest you do. Good luck.
593247
simple! ask your husband help for cleaning the house..
109121
Talk it out, dude. That's the only way to get things right. But hey, be careful in doing so. It might be too much to ask but believe me, you'll need ounces of patience and tons of prudent speech as this maybe a sensitive ish. He probably needs to shower more often so he wouldn't have to do that again. Good luck! =)
270920
just go with the flow...just tell him you want to take things slowly and just do what you want and what feels right..the first time is never going to be perfect..just go into with a sense of humor and try not to be too nervous
143396
Discuss the problem with your husband, then together you just ask him to leave.\nIf he gives excuses and refuses to leave, pack up everything that's his and put it out front and don't let him back in. I'm sure he'll find someone else to mooch off of.
402171
I have had this problem before... I think that you are on the right track with confronting him about the problem... Since he is willing to work on it, maybe you should give him a little friendly reminder about that willingness when he starts to talk a little too much.
343916
Since your husband seems to like living his life by a schedule, ask him to start scheduling time for YOU! ... Like maybe a 'household business meeting' once a week, a 'social hour' a few times a few times a week, AND ... don't leave out scheduling romance.\n\nWhen married people expect communication, caring, and romance to "just happen" or "be spontaneous" ... that is a recipe for NO communication, caring, or romance. These things happen when you plan for them and make them happen. \n\nDoes a great dinner appear on the table spontaneously? Of course not, you have to plan the menu, plan the shopping. Just give him a day-planner or calendar and ask him to go over his schedule with you. Point out (nicely, without nagging) that he isn't scheduling any time for his marital responsibilities.
504478
If you want to do this now, how do you know you wont ever cheat on him again?  What do you think your soon to be husband would say if you asked him this question????  You might be surprised by the answer....
103192
Everyone needs balance in their life... between work and leisure time, and between chores/responsibilites and fun stuff. So I don't think that you're asking too much to do something that you want to do yourself, once in a while.\n\nPerhaps your wife is feeling a little overwhelmed with homelife, keeping the house and kids in order? So she feels that any 'fun' activity is a waste of chores time?? I know that I can feel that way sometimes.\n\nBut, if you explain to her that you need this outlet, where you can relax and have a bit of fun, I'm sure that she'd understand. Explain to her that it'll keep you happy and relaxed - you'll be a better husband and father for it. Perhaps she feels that once a week is too much? How about suggesting once a fortnight?
166872
As a guy, I know that I want to be the one to give my wife what she wants. I don't want to be nagged, or reminded of how I messed up and didn't give her what she needed. (not to say you are doing this, but some women do) I think you need to back off. Let him miss you a little. Start doing things you enjoy with friends, or by yourself. Let him want to join your club. Or do something hot and freaky, and keep him coming back for more. Either way this should open things up.