I just gave my virginity to my new boyfriend. We have been seeing each other for about three weeks and we have sex like 3 times a week. Is this too much? Not enough?
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The fast answer- when you are raw, red, and painful, it's too much. The experienced answer- depends on age. When you have raging hormones like peaking teenage or 20s boys, it seems you can never get enough. Women peak in their 30s. Married couples without gray hair, 2-3 times a week. Now the serious answer- what ever suits the two of you with no pushing the other. New boyfriend? WEAR PROTECTION, THAT MEANS A LATEX CONDOM EVERY TIME!!! Remember...whenever you have sex with someone, you are having sex with everyone else that person has ever had sex with. Loving boyfriends aren't always totally honest. Who wants to ruin a good thing. Strong hormones can make boys do stupid things, I KNOW! All it takes is one mistake to ruin your life forever, and that's a long time. Please be careful.
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I was 19.  She was 17.  Yeah, I realized the age at the time.  We were friends before.  I won’t get into that here.  We got together.  We messed around a lot - mostly making out, petting and a lot of oral.  She kept expressing how much she wanted to do it.  I just didn’t know if it was the right time.  Primarily it was because we never had any contraception around. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted it badly.  I didn’t even care if it was going to be my first time.  I wasn’t nervous.  I just wanted to be safe for both of us.  She had only one other partner, a long-term boyfriend that she broke it off with.  She kept asking me to “go for it” in all our other encounters.  This time, in the heat of it, when she asked me to make love to her, I whispered, “Go for it.”  Then she stripped herself then me.  We still didn’t have ANY form of contraception.  But the time was right.  Go figure. After we both climaxed, she was so satisfied but puzzled.  We went for a while.  She kept asking me … and this was a question that she kept asking me during our entire relationship … was I really a virgin.  I said yes.  That was the truth.  She said she’s had a virgin.  Her friends have had virgins.  And none worked it like I did.  I told her I wouldn’t know. I just went with what I felt and what felt good for the both of us.  I don’t know what the big deal was but shortly thereafter; she harbored this idea that I had a mistress on the side that I “practiced” with. (Her long-term boyfriend did.) Needless to say we went several rounds that day … and night … and following morning.  But, alas, the whole relationship was just that – based on sex.  No emotional connection at all.  It ended.\n\nSo I guess my point is that your first time is a big deal, but the euphoria and importance of it will fade and just become a memory.  Don’t make it more than it is, just a right of passage for any human being, the emotional creatures we are.\n\nGood luck
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There's nothing wrong. But it all depends on both of your age. If you are 20+ and planning to live together, then I think Sex increases your level of intimacy and you will become more closer than before.\n\nBut if you are still in school, then probably you both are doing the right thing and leave sex as something you will explore when you are "there"...\n\nHaving sex, for the sake of "i have done it too" is toooo childish.. \n\nAs someone said above, both of ya sit n have a talk about it.. Im sure u guys will work it out.\n\n.:Fishie:.
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im in college, my bf and i have sex 8 or 9 times a week, we do not live in the same towns so sometimes we only see each other on weekends, but we make up for lost time.
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If you feel right about having sex with him then go ahead. But it would be best to wait a while. If he keeps asking you constantly then dont do it. I've been use also for sex. I thought he really liked me but he didnt. He ended dumping me in a few days. Just take your time on sex. Dont rush it. Enjoy both of your company.
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Hey, as long as you guys are communicating openly and honestly about it, and you are both comfortable with the situation, then go for it.  Nothing wrong with it at all.  Just make sure that you both talk over everything and that you still both trust and respect each other when it is done.  Set up boundaries and rules before hand and let him know a head of time what is on and off limits so there are no awkward situations.  If this is your first time, map out the way the night is going to go with the third person from start to finish.  Who is going to do what, touch what, where at, what position and so on so that nothing is in the way and no one is left out.  Tell him what you want out of this and have him tell you what he wants out of this. Maybe even talking about what you are planning on doing will lead to some hot discussions and lead to a great night of sex before you ever even invite someone into the bedroom!   Good luck with this!   Love, Angela
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You're still young! There isn't anything wrong with going three weeks without a boyfriend. Just enjoy this time with your friends, and I am sure a guy will come along eventually.
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Negative\n\nDont loose your virginity, if he said he can wait then perfect! Dont ruin the relationship because your horny. Hell you can masterbate to solve that problem. \n\nYou only have your virginity once, so cherish it and who know maybe in a couple of years you two will break it off and you will be thankful for not going through it. Hell maybe years to come you two will get married, then you should loose your virginity.\n\n-James
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Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!
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Ask yourself...do you love her as much as you think you do? cos if you do, you wouldn't bother to find out whether she's still a virgin. Does her virginity really matters that much to you?
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Do you mean sex?  I think it's silly to put a number on how often you want it.  I think it shoud be a mutual thing.  There are people with really high sex drives, and people with really low sex drives.  If two people with conflicting levels get together, there will likely be problems in the relationship (although I think they can be worked out if both people make an effort).  I don't think there is a standard to live up to.  Both people need to decide what is right for their relationship.  Of course non-sexual contact should also be considered.  If you truly connect with someone intellectually and emotionally, you might feel that you are better able to compromise with the physical part.
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I think it's great you two have such a close and trusting relationship. It's definitely not for every couple, but you are obviously not the only ones out there. Make sure both partners are comfortable and listen to one another.... Have at it, be careful of std's and such....Wow such trust you guys have.
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well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
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Please, please, please wait. It is so important. My husband was a virgin when we married and I wasn't. I wanted to have my virginity back so badly when we married but it was too late. Our honeymoon was great but it was bittersweet because I had to deal with the regret of him not being my first. It could have been the best experience of my life. And everything else counts too. I wish I wouldn't have even held hands, kissed, or anything like that until I married. It would have been so special. Please save it for marriage.
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My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. She was also my first kiss. I was 19, she was 20. We are both popular socially, and considered to be attractive and physically fit. I had only one GF before her and I was her first BF. It's great and wonderful and we wouldn't want to have it any other way. It a lifestyle choice. We are much happier the any of the ppl we know that have chosen other lifestyles. I highly respect you for your self-control. Just don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate that quality in you.\n\nP.s. Please read my question if you have time
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I've been there, and I've found that waiting for at least date 3 to have sex seems to work a lot better than hooking up on date 1!! I've never had a serious relationship develop out of a one-night stand. I'm not saying this will be the case with you, but maybe it's time to move on and save yourself the confusion. Clean slate and all.
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sex, for me, is a very sacred thing.it's only done when u both love each other.actually, there were many times that i & my boyfriend were together.i'm a female & as myself, when i'm with my boyfriend, i just feel like being with him.i don't care where we go or what we do.i don't even care if we don't have money to spend when we're together.what matters to me most is the time we're together, coz this soon will become memories bet.us, & it's healthy.even if he's been my boyfriend for about 3 yrs.,i don't invite him to make love.i just wait for him to say it 1st.when he does, then we do it..maybe u talk to ur gf about this issue.tell her that making love is with someone u love is normal.but make her understand that it's not always like that.it's not even the most basis of love.i mean it's a matter of showing love in other ways like showing u care for the person u love.tell her that the what makes a relationship bet.two people stronger are the memories u are together, & i don't mean having sex all the time.it's more than that.i know u know what i mean.sex is only for physical aspect, but the showing of the person that u care for him a lot is something most valuable & priceless.it's something not all can offer, especially when it's true.