My mom was really depressed once, my dad has always been a d^ck with her and she couldn't take it anymore. I was barely sixteen at that time. I remember holding her with all my heart and I promised her that I would ease her pain. I began working 2 shifts at whataburger at the same time I was a freshmen in high school. I've working since I was eleven years old with my dad in ranches which of course he paid me $20 per mile. I paid my own brand new mustang, my cell phone, my clothes and I helped my mom with her bills. I got to the point were I worked too much, I had no fun what so ever, my mom exceeded to much from me...I began experimenting with drugs like weed and coke. I don't do those things anymore. I graduated a year late, I never stoped working. I'm a full-time student in college and I don't regret anything from my past, well just a little! I know that my mom depends on me..because I'm her armored angel. Sometimes she cries again but i always make sure she's in my arms.
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Awww thats sweet its for all the times your mom took care of you as a baby growing up your just showing you love her and care and hate to see her upset its a good thing your doing and your really helping get through being depressed and angry think of it as a good thing because from what i'm reading you would be a heavens angel for any parent that goes through the same thing and has no one to do the same for them
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Hi there,\nI'm probably putting my neck on the block here but; I understand totally how you feel. I was brought up in similar circumstances. Except it wasn't prostitution & alcohol it was prostitution & drugs. \n\nThis is the only way I finally came to deal with all the stuff that went on in my life too.\n\nUp until I was about 35 I sat as the proverbial judge over my Mother, I then realised that I either get to know the Woman she is NOW & get to like her for that or forget all about her. There was no way on this earth that I was ever going to warm to the Woman she was as I grew up. \n\nYou clearly still care as you're saying you hate her, that's anger & you have a right to feel that. If she's not Woman enough to allow you to air all your feelings to her (even though she'll hate every minute of it) then I think it's a non-starter. It's important that you try to talk to her about your upbringing because it's not going to go away. I'm not saying by talking to her is going to make things better over night, but! as time goes on & perhaps you can see a way of maybe understanding what made her tick then things can slowly over time build up.\n\nYou may decide after all that having a relationship with your Mother isn't viable but you won't be able to make that decision without first attempting to see if things can be worked through. It's a difficult place for you to be right now & I don't envy you one bit (sorry)\n\nI would often look at my Children & wonder how my Mother could be so uncaring & selfish, as I could never do the things to my Children that my Mother did to me (allowing me to see & hear things that no Child from the age of 4 should ever be witness to) \nStrangely enough I didn't really think about the way my Mother had behaved until I became a Mother myself.\nBut! I've learned that I am not my Mother & I don't think the same way as my Mother.\n\nIt's not you that caused all this resentment & anger that you have going on inside of yourself. But! Unfortunately it is only you that can find the way of somehow dealing with it.\n\nI couldn't talk to my Mother about my past as she would get very defensive & her cut throat answer was to call me a spiteful cow who was only on this earth to make her feel guilty.  Obviously my Mother could deal with the past even less than I could. \n\nIf your Mother is agreeable to you airing the past then try to be careful that you do it with respect otherwise it can turn into a "who's the biggest bi.tch" competition & nothing positive will be achieved. This is where a councillor could come in useful. It may be better that someone else (NOT a family member or friend) is in the room & you could talk to them instead while your Mother listened. That way it's not too confrontational. If you go & see your G.P. they will be able to set up an appointment for you to see someone. Unfortunately the NHS (assuming you're in UK) is over worked so an appointment could be a long time coming. You could get a private councillor, they don't always cost a lot of money & there are some around that will charge according to your earnings. Having said that; you say your Mother has saved her earnings, well! You can always see if she's prepared to foot the bill that any counselling would incur. That would go a long way in showing you just how far she's prepared to go in order to make things better between you both.\n\nI think on a positive note; that things have a good chance of perhaps working out for both you & your Mother, because she has been the one to offer the olive branch (so to speak) I think that takes a lot of guts & for that alone plus to finally put all these ghosts in your life to rest, you should reach out in return. Don’t listen to others advice about “forgiving” your Mother, this will happen when you can finally (one way or the other) move on with your life. It’s not something that can be
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Yikes! First of all, even though what she did is very wrong we have all don't things in our lives that we are not proud of.  Now knowing your financial situation I will not condemn your mother. Secondly, this is a very serious situation and I am not sure what will happen.  In most cases the boss would not ever consider keeping the employee.  However, the fact that she is family is a very good thing for her. This may really work to her benefit.  You should just relax and don't worry about things that are beyond your control.  Say a little prayer to God and just be there for your mom.  Everything will work out! Good luck and God bless!
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I had I mild case when I was in grade school. I graduated from college w/ a degree in psychology w/a miner in graphic art . I'm not in either. but I tried! & yes your mom is covering too much
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i am young.... 21. but i have lived so much more than most my age. when i was 11 i started to smoke cigarettes and weed. i was skipping school, fighting teachers, sent to alternative schools (for bad/stupid kids), and in anger management... by the time i was 15, i was losing my virginity to a 20 yr. old. and by 16, i was done. all grown up. now at 15, i wasnt as bad or mean, but still rebelious... and i can not blame my parents, just like you shouldn't blame yourself. others on here may try to tell you that its you, your a bad parent, or all that other bullshit, and all i can say to that is you can take as grain a salt... \n\nWhy was i acting the way i did?... well, my mom had cancer and was wasting away, i had just moved in with her from my fathers who was an alcoholic, and we switched schools, and my mother was switching relationships... that part my parents had a little something to do with, but they were not bad parents, its all just part of life. I was the one who chose not to visit my dad much, and to live with my mom. my mom would always ask the general questions of who, what, where, when and how... but i still would do as i pleased... taking the phones/computers away would kill that alot of times though (hint). as far as smoking... i had an older brother who did and got them that way... or through kids at school. i thought it was cool, even though i had all the speeches... the best way to prevent kids from it is for them to see first hand what it can do... how annoying it is... (like take $5 from them everyday and see how they like it...they can relate to that)... and the weed... well thats something from my brother too... other kids will tell you its cool, fun, and no one will know... well, go online, look up a few underage placements... call them, ask them for brochures... give those to your son... let him see first hand that these places exist for a reason, that kids to get caught, addicted or not, and they will get sent away... even across the state from home... like my own brother had to unfortunately experiance at the age of only 14. and it was over nothing great... just a little bit of weed. and again at the age of 15 for 9 months, for having resin in a bowl that he got busted with at school. and it wasnt his. as for doing things that are bad or mean such as fighting, and swearing, and skipping school... well, that all stops in time, when they realize that school will effect their life. i screwed up so bad for so long, that by the time i was in 11th grade, i couldnt graduate with out having another 2 years tacked on... and i was a straight A student then... so i had to drop out. it took about a year for me to complete my GED training (had to re learn all my math) and then when i took the test, i was off the charts and cried tears of joy  when my diploma came in the mail. counseling never helped me though... i felt that if i was put in counseling, then i was just not understood... and that pissed me off even more. afterwards, i was always worse. you need to let your son know that you are not just a parent... that you are someone they can tell ANYTHING too, and not get  in trouble, but be there for them, and understand them, and give them advise to help... or just discuss it with out them having to worry. it helps if you share a few stories of your own childhood, tell them  a few things that did bad when you were young... get on their level. and laugh at it. and then talk to them as an adult... like they are just as old as you are... do it alone... in the car, or something... even say a swear word or too.. lol.. i know it sounds funny, but trust me!!!! it will let him know that parents are not people who trap them, but just people like them who live life... and have grown up... like they feel they are. just let them know that there is a time and place to act or talk with you like that... (alone). eventually they will gain new respect for you, and learn that they dont need to prove anything.\n\ni know its a rea
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Whats Up! I am strongly a believer of what goes around comes around. Don't worry about it because when people treat you the wrong way it will come back to them in the strangest ways. I am a witness to that, not saying I am a bad person but I have a lot of animosity towards my daughters father because of how he treated me in the past, and because he is never around for his daughter ,so this makes me not want to talk to him at all. So I told a little lie and told him my phone was cut off and it wasn't off. He called his self being nice for the first time ever and brought me the money to pay for the phone. So I thought I had extra money in my pocket, but I had to take my daughter to the doctor and my brother had to take me. My brother got a parking ticket for the same amount of money that my daughters father had gave me for the phone. So I have to give the money that I thought I was going to have in my pocket to my brother. See the point I am tring to make is it doesn't pay to be evil,nasty,liers to anybody because it will come back to you. So don't wish anything bad on her, just do not worry about it she'll get whats coming to her.
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Wow ~ you have a lot going on.  First, why do you think that the court would drug test you?  If it is a hearing on about your dad failing to pay, isn't your mother trying to help find support for you? Second, if your mom hasn't been receiving money from your dad~where are you getting money to use drugs?  Shouldn't you be more considerate of your mother who is trying to provide for you?  Third, aren't you being quite selfish~doing drugs and worrying about yourself?  How old are you?   Why can't you see what your mother is trying to do to help you and your doing drugs?  That is so outrageous and selfish that I cannot even being to tell you how disappointing that whole situation is due to your lack of respect for your own mother.  You should definitely worry about someone other than yourself.\n\nOh, they can drug test you if they have cause such as you using the child support money to use drugs.  Not to mention, you could be placed in a juvenile faculty if they think that your mother is not taking care of ~ since you are selfishly ruining your own life by using drugs ~\n\nI am sorry I am so harsh with you~I am sure that you love your parents very much.  It makes me very upset to see a child throwing away so much to use something that can destroy their entire life and the lives of the people who love them back~hugs and kisses.
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First of all, you seem very intelligent and well-written for 19 year old.  Good for you.\n\nSecondly, your mom sounds like she's a bit on the self-absorbed side (not at all unique these days) and she sees every problem you have as a failure on her part to raise you properly.  She takes everything wrong with you as a personal slap in the face.\n\nMy two cents: See if you can get into therapy with your mom.  You need to build a team with your parents and together beat this.  Depression really sucks.  I know.  Sometimes you have to care about others more than yourself to dig your way out of it.
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omg do i know what you mean i am in the same boat with my mother i ask the Dr this question he told me the ones they are closest to they try to push us away so when they pass its not so hard on them he also told me that its like a survival mode she is doing it and not aware hope this helps e-mail me maybe we can be each others strength and sounding board hey remember you are doing a good job ask older sister to come over and sit while you get out if like my brother fat chance will happen take her out for rides i wear moms butt out driving makes her so tired and less fussy call and see if you are available for elder-care in your area its like a day care that go by income if you have children you are eligible for state help if not try elder day care cause you don't want her to pass and you have no way of supporting yourself cause you will be grieving plus trying to find a job and make ends meet happened to my best friend she lost everything me i am a cna which is a nurses aide and i work wk- ends only and have my oldest son come over while i work you have to plan for the future i know that sounds mean and i am sorry god i love you so much and don't know you and i feel your pain good luck
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Yes my best friend...Its along story but she was consumed  with it.Sent them thousands of dollars she had borrowed from everyone,a lil here and there.She finally had to be committed into a crazy house.She would be mad at everyone who would try to talk her out of it.Her son and his wife both quit their jobs.She went and bought a brand new 2006 Camry,her son went and bought a brand new ford150 and they had to repoe them.It really got her to have a nerveous break down
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i know EXACTLY what your talking about. for every year i was in middle school and jr high (like 4 years) i lived in a different town and once 2 towns in like 1 school year. my dad got married and kept seperating and getting back together with my step mom and every time he did we moved. it was so hard, but the one thing i gained from it was i learned that now i cand handle any change like that that comes my way because i have already gotten through it. i just moved again to go to college this year, and it was easier because i have learned how to put myself out there and meet new people. plus i have all these experiences with different people and places that other people my age dont have. if it makes you feel any better i shed my share of tears too, and im not a cryer. it is normal to feel that way. good luck. email me if you need anything.
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it was very painful.  I watched my brother go from 200 something pounds to less than 100 pounds before he died.  He was diagnosed with renal cancer, cancer of the kidneys.  He went from Sloan-Kettering Hospital in Manhattan to Calvary Hospital in the Bronx.  My mother went much more often than I did.  I'll never forget the first time I saw him in Calvary Hospital, his face his body so skinny, even now just writing about it, almost brings tears to my eyes.  I miss him so much.  Everyday, I wish that I could talk to him, hug him and just tell him how much I love him.  I miss him so much, his name was max.
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My Mom she has always been there to be protective, supportive, compassionate, loving and kind.  Even though I have an ongoing phone relationship with My Dad now, He was very abusive while I was growing up.  He refused to come to My High School Graduation, Wedding, doesn't know My Children,  and last but NOT least didn't attend His own Son's Funeral.  Guess I should have just said Mom.
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She is a perfect girl going through stages in life a tough way. Thank God she is being caught and hopefully it will eventually make her come to her senses and change her pitifull lifestyle. We all learn through mistakes and for sure she will learn thru hers too. Many of us have done this and are now responsible citizens & its only when you have been through it that you really get shaped in life. I for one started drinking (heavily) at 18, had a baby when i was 14, had a number of abortions. Was in and out of home as a teenager, cohabited several times as a teenager and did other more worse things and learnt alot from all these mistakes.  Went back to school, and now a chartered marketeer, doing well, raising my son wonderfully and a devout christian. What am saying is your daughter will get through all this, just be there for her no matter what she does. My Mom loved me though I was what others regarded a rotten girl. She loved me and kept telling me I could do it I wasnt all that bad, and I made it. So hang in there and keep encouraging her. She will change. Above all else pray for her, God wont fail you.
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I wonder how old is this child? if it were me and moms not doing so well I would try talking to the child and explain moms situation. The child may feel like shes losing her mom and doesn't understand how to cope. When I was a tennager I threatened my mom and she has someone come over from the juvenile court to "TALK" to me.... That scared the S!@# out of me and I didn't behave that way anymore.  as far as KY law you could always have someone you know that the child doesn't and have them lie to her and scare her.. At 13 My son thought he could get away with anything and I had a friend (who's in the military) come over in uniform with some phoney brouchers about military school... All BS I made them on my computer.... well it worked my son hasn't acted nasty in a long time that was over a year ago...Right or wrong you need to find a way that works for you because in the end your the adult and they can't forget that...
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I have not lost a parent. I have lost a brother. We were approx. 12 months apart in age. He died drinking and driving when I was 20 and he was 19. I was devastated, but never cried about it. He and I had talked about death but not our own. There isn't a day goes by I don't think about him. I am sad, on the inside, but not depressed. I can talk about him with great pride and conviction without crying a drop. And about the loss..... is there anyway to describe the feeling of emptiness and loss? No, but we can not dwell on what we can not change. I do know that my life would be completely different if he were here. I moved 1000 miles from home, just to get away from the sadness, it didn't help. But it did change the whole direction of my life. I will not say that it is a mental illness to have feeling like this, but it is very difficult to express the way you truly feel. I try not to talk about it but feel better when I do. His birthday was last week 10/25. Mine is today.
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I had to visualize my mom sitting on a beautiful cloud with all our other relatives \nPROUDLY watching me AS I RECEIVED MY DIPLOMA!!!\n\nAlthough I missed her terribly, I knew her plans for my life were of the highest intent, and she wanted me to be happy over all else!\n\nI would not have even been here to live had she not sacrificed over and over and over again as a mother--and I caused her enough growing-pains-grief to invite her to this\nJOYOUS occasion!\n\nCongratulations, and remember, SHE is still with you.\nLike e.e. cummings wrote--\n\n"i carry your heart, i carry it in my heart"\n\nGod bless you and keeep you in all the days to come.