I feel like the girl i am seeing really likes me, but wont let me into her world. We have a GREAT time everytime we are together. When i start to talk to her about relationship stuff seh gets really quiet and changes the subject. She has a hard time expressing herself verbally.\n\nI know she has had rough relationships in her past. She tells me that she used to be able to communicate with no problem before and now she is so scared to let anyone in. Basically, she is scared to trust any new guy. Everyone's scared to a certain extent, but when you really like someone you let your gaurd down and take the plunge, right? Without risk there is no benefit! I've tried talking to her about it, so please dont say: "talk to her about it".
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Easy.....stop talking to her about relationships--focus on having a good time, being with her, experiencing life together, treating each other to outings like movies, dinners, clubs, mall shopping.  Saying nothing sometimes, speaks volumes--meaning--if you respect her enough to not mention the subject--she will regard you in higher esteem, because of the fact you RESPECTED her and DID NOT PUSH the subject--get it?\n\nBe yourself, be her friend, don't worry about relationships--start off with a friendship, build a trust, work on being loyal and respecting friend, soon enough she'll understand that YOU really do care, she'll let her guard down, and perhaps a relationship will form after the trusting friendship has been established.\n\nGood Luck and Prosper...*!*...
343796
i think you should stop calling her. I realize it will be difficult as sounds as though you really care for her but she is playing with your feelings. Sounds like she is out for her and not ready to be in a relationship. A friend of mine just went through something similar. Each time he got hurt more and more.  Guess I would tell her how you feel about what she is doing then if it continues its time to find someone new or accept the fact that is how she is.
444216
Are you the  guy? If so, she talks to you because she needs that to fill a void! Actually meeting the person you chat or talk with is a huge step...she's probably scared!
79674
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
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im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
108806
stop talking about love, and relationship, it sounds like she likes you, but she has been hurt, and does not wanna get hurt again, she asked for time, give her the time that she needs, and besides that just ask her out on a date, dont push her to something she is not ready to do.
220555
tell her how you truly feel. you've got a 50/50 chance to get what you want. at worst she says she doesn't feel the same and you remain friends. at best she says she does feel the same and wants to be with you too. life is about taking risks. if you aren't honest with yourself and with her you'll never really know what can be. good luck!
367410
Have you tryed explaining your feeling to her???....if yall have been hanging out that much she should be able to open up to you mabi there is a bigger issue that she is tryin to get past...try to confide in her and comfort and make sure she knows that you like her
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Possibly, she may be afraid that she can't make it on her own so she stays..it sucks being alone! Much easier to run from one guy to the next but not always the wisest step to take. She will need time to get over her relationsip with her boyfriend and come to terms with any issues she may have had there. \n\nLet time do what it will, just be there for her. Keep flirting if it's all innocent, don't let it go too far. If she was not mean't to be with this guy, time will tell. If she was meant to be with you time will tell that also..\n\nIt could all just be innocent flirting on her part..maybe that is just the kind of person she is. If she lets it go too far and she has a boyfriend, would you want to date a girl like that anyway?
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paul i am sorry to say this but this doesn't really sound like much of a problem. I think you should stop worrying about whether she likes you and do something about it. Take control of your life. By now if she hasn't given you any signals, then don't bother, it ain't going to happen anytime soon. You got to come out straight and face her. Its now or never. Be a man!
1508
She really likes you but she is confused, she is not sure if its going to work out or not. she is really scared of getting hurt once again. Just repect her and give her time and space to think.
301280
It is ok to be nervous..It actually is real refreshing to see that a guy is real nervous coming to me. This shows that the girl is not just another peice of A** to him and that he really likes her. It shows that he must like her because if he gets soooo nervous just to talk with her, then he doesn't do this often. If the guys acts real easy and like hes a pro at this.....stay away ladies. Hes only interested in one thing. So hes not acting nervous cause he is already predicting a real good time with you and isn't planning on dating you . So go ahead be nervous it is OK. But if you want to be less nervous. Just let your words come out naturally.. If your nervous....tell her. She'll understand. She's most likely just as nervous as you are. If she seems irritated or compelled by your actions when your just being honest....don't go for it. She is too shallow and not worth your time. She may SEEM perfect. But shes not...ok.
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How long have you been with her? And why don't you ask her, you should, if it's been a while, she may not be feeling the same way about you and doesn't know what to say or, she is insecure about the relationship. Let her know your feelings on this, communication is the key!
447913
Two words for you. Be YOURSELF. I totally understand how you feel when you say you're frantic because you're trying to keep someone interested, and I had the same problem. But, I've learned that when you feel something, or you want to say something, just do it...Once you break that barrier, it's smooth sailing. People are comfortable when they can just be themselves and when they can see that the other person is also being themself. Getting to know someone is more fulfilling when you "Just do it". A good way to strike up an interesting conversation is by asking her about herself. When you ask questions and she answers them, you can spot out things you both have in common. This is when the conversation gets more interesting and easy going. People need feedback from the 2nd party in order to keep productive conversation. Smothering your significant other would only make her want to go outside for fresh air. In other words, she'd eventually get tired of being smothered and if she doesn't tell you so, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She'll become distant and eventually, everything heads downhill. Tell her how you feel, and try not to overwhelm her physically with the smothering. She'll appreciate the fact that you can openly discuss your feelings with her because most guys are kinda personal about their emotions. Be open-minded.
231525
My boyfriend told me something just a little while ago. Before we were going out, he didn't know that I liked him, he said i was sending him mixed messeges! I definatly didn't think I was...I liked him so much! But I liked him so much that I would get nervous when I was around him, because I didn't want to give him the wrong Idea, that is what it sounds like is going on. It sounds like the girl likes you, shes just shy. Don't be shy too!! Go for it!
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Girls are big players in love!  I should know, I'm a girl!  But she could just be confused with her feelings and doesn't know what to do so she's testing the waters!  It sounds like she really likes you though because as you say you talk for hours and friends who only care for each other do that!  It sounds like you should be together and give it a go!  It doesn't hurt to try right?  Imagine what it would be like not to see or talk to each other - it's hell!
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I think you should just call her, because you sound confused and you just confused me by reading all that....lol. But seriously, if you like her find out for sure, because she may be feeling the same way about you (confused). Sometimes people don't give off clear signs on wether they like a person or not...maybe their shy...maybe their scared..or maybe they don't like you.....you never know. Just keep on untill you get a clear YES or NO!!! But in this case if you do get a No..then don't feel stupid or anything, because you already know your a good person and she would probably end up the one missing out!!! Also don't listen when the people on here tell you to start "playing games" that is soooo immature and a waste of time..do what's in your heart. So find out!!! that way you can make your next move.....either you will start a wonderful relationship or you will move the HELL ON!!!!!! (so you can quit wondering) \nGood Luck and Be Blessed!!!!