i need information on this for research. i broke up with my girlfriend and found out after thawt she is pregnant but in the time we were apart 1 month she was seeing a guy that beat her up all the time. now that we are back together i want to know if there will be any problems with her or the baby
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It's possible, but not likely.  Was your girlfriend hospitalized?  Did she press charges?  Her ob/gyn should be your main source of answers for this question.
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from what i understand, the guy got somebody pregnant a month after leaving his girl to join the army. if he can't control himself while he's away, then the relationship might just as well go down the drain.
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Well......It seems like you are scared to try it again with her because she hurt you really bad and it is hard to forgive and forget. Your heart is still broken. It sounds like you don't trust her and you know a relationship WILL NOT work if you can't trust one another. You will always be wondering if she doesn't come home on time or not call you etc. what is she doing? Is she out with someone else? ......\nIf you want a relationship with her then you will have to forgive her and trust her again. ALSO....there's a little deal with a new baby. The baby is not yours.....so are you willing to deal with someone else child? The baby is so innocent and deserves to be loved and cared for no matter who this girl is with. The Baby should never feel like it has caused problems or anything like that. Are you willing to care for this child and love this child if you two are together as your own?\nBig Questions...I know you are the one asking for help, but I want you to think about the whole picture and not just about the girl, because now there one more added to the girl for life!
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I am in that situation right now. I had a one night stand and got pregnant, which I was told I could never have children. The guy and I got together but we weren't in love. We made our bed so we are lieing in it. It isn't our son's fault that we didn't use protection. Besides I am happy I had my son. We feel that even though we are not happy, in order for our son to be whole with a happy life, that we are sacrificing our happiness. Divorce is really hard on the children and being raised by a single parent is sometimes difficult. All my son's friends are being raised by a single parent. Most of them come to our home to eat dinner and get dessert which they don't get at home. They hang out at our house cos their parents are out on the weekends trying to find another mate. One has gone down the wrong road, the other misses home cooked meals, the other one misses his dad doing father-son things even though there is visitation. If there isn't any abuse involved, I would say stay until they are out of high school.
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I can tell you why alot of guys not all but alot think with there Di*k and not there brain. But dont worry because he got what he deserved he got that girl pregnant and now he is stuck with child support and alot of headachs kids are really expensive. Just be glad you didnt get stuck pregnant and with a huge responsibility you can live your life do things the right way get married and live happy. Dont worry there are good guys out there and you will find him let this loser go on with his messed up life and goodluck to you.
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you can get a divorce any time you want to. it doesn't matter if you are pregnant or not. by the time the papers go through, and the divorce is final, the baby will already be here. during separation, the parents choose the visitation.
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just know if you two are having problems a baby will NOT keep him with you. please make sure you're ready for a child with or without him. in my case we agreed to have a child together then 3 months into the pregnancy his ex is back into his life. I gave birth to  beautiful baby boy 2 months ago and his father is living with his ex now. if you cannot handle a child without him do NOT trick him into getting pregnant!
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well, i was going through the same kind of things you are. i was with my ex for 5 years, and now, of course we are apart. i am also pregnant with his child. i think all relationships have doubts. i did all 5 years, but i knew i wanted to be with him, yet we all wonder, well myabe there is someone else out there. maybe there is! i guess it all depends on what kind of doubts you are having. but yes, having doubts is typically normal!! you need to have a one on one conversation with yourself to find out if this woman is truly who you want to be with! its all in your hands!!
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This happened many years ago and it took me a loooonnnng time to get over it. I was 19 and it involved a guy who was my first love, first sexual encounter, and best friend ect. You name it we were it.  Well we had been dating for a little over a year and on my birthday two of my really good friends took me out to dinner and a movie.  I remember it was raining really hard outside when we were going to the movies so we were all under one umbrella running into the theatre.  When we got inside I went into the restroom to dry off and I noticed a girl in the restroom who looked familiar who was pregnant.  I didn't think to much of her but kinda kept staring at her.  Anyways, I went out of the restroom to meet my friends and they were staring at me with this really worried expression.  I ask them what was wrong and at first they didn't tell me but then my friend pointed across the lobby at this couple.  There was my boyfriend with this VERY pregnant girl (the one from the restroom) and they were holding hands and kissing. I was stunned.  I went up to him and just stared. I didn't make a scene and he had the NERVE to act like he didn't know me.  I walked away and cried through the whole movie.  Worst of all we were seeing "My best friends wedding" so it was a complete disaster.  We never spoke after that and that was it.
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Being a guy myself like cartes above me I would beat the crap out of the guy but I don't know what he's thinking you should never hurt your child no matter what they are doing. I would call the cops on the guy before she turns 18 and it's out of your hands but if you don't she will learn I'm a guy and I know how guys are. He's into drugs, alcohol, and he's divorced I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheating on your daughter eventually she'll find out and realize how stupid she was but that can be after he gets her into drugs, alcohol, and pregnant I would call the cops or get some one to kick his butt I live in new hampshire and I also have a place in los angeles if you want my help kicking his a**
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I was 20 and my low life ex left me with 2 baby girls.  It was very hard, now they are 13 and 14.  It is ever harder! But i have a great husband that helps me with everything.  Please learn from my mistake and wrap your life around your child.  Don't became wrapped up in looking for Mr.Right.  I was so focused on finding a father for them that I went from relationship to relationship and now they have a lot of bad feelings because I put them through it too.  Also, go to college.  There are MANY places that will help a single mother. They will even pay for your childcare while you go to school Take advantage them.  You just can't raise a child anymore on $5.00 or 6.00/hr.  That way you wont have to depend on anyone else. When have a degree and a good job then the right person will come along and you will be so secure that you wont have to depend on him.  I commend you on leaving your abuse relationship.  Remember God loves you and you deserve to be treated with respect and love.  If a man hits you one time, it is one time too many. You did the right thing!! Your going to be ok.  You will be a strong, independent mother and you baby will love you for that.  Just remember it's all up to you now, that baby's future is in your hands : ) Take care and good luck!
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That's the way love goes. But he is a man and a man is going to do man things. Although it was disrespectful as fuck. And u should have beat his ass. Not the girl. She probably didn't even know he had a baby mama or girl. Id say he learned his lesson. But wait for him to come back. Maybe he doesn't want to be with you anymore. And if u ask for him back maybe u'll get your feelings hurt. I wouldn't try. I would start lookin for a new man. u'll get over him. occupy your time to keep your mind off of him.
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I had a broken heart. Just recently when I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me, when I told him about it we started fussing, and when he was fussing he said some bad things about me, that I probably would never know if we did not fuss. But he has really moved on. And it really tears me up because I still think about him and I also don't want him to have a baby by her. That would tear me up even more. But I understand100% were you are coming from. If you would like to talk more about this just email me at star200252@yahoo.com I would be happy to talk to you more.
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Nah, get out of this situation.  You have your unborn child to think about now and you don't need all this stress during your pregnancy.  He has learned that he plays up you end it then you take him back, so he'll go on like this.  You and your child deserve so much more.\n\nGet support from friends and family for the upcoming event and afterwards so you are not tempted to go back with him as someone to lean on....'cos trust me you'll only have him for 5 mins. to lean on and he'll be back doing what he always does and leaving you in a mess again.\n\nThis is a new start now for you and your child.....enjoy it!\n\nBest wishes.
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To bad for you....you going to have some mayor problems if you are pregnant...but if you are don't go getting no abortion...you opened your legs now you gotta take the consequence. First you let go of guy #1...tell him its over....and guy #2 who you think you pregnant from..you don't gotta lie to him about anything...if you are pregnant..he needs to take care of you and your baby...He's not Innocent either..he had part of it... to bad for his girlfriend.. Not saying yah gotta get married and all that but at least let him be part of it...
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Well, I have this friend that had 4 kids and lost custody cause she was a crack head & also had 50lbs too much crack, anyway she might be a good choice and she would split and leave u the kid. I would have to say there would be no gaurantee on what the babies health would be though. But thats the chance you take , along with the mixture of your DNA ! She is a nice Religious girl , just a little ate up and out there ( Somewhere, Just don't know where). Oh by the way , watch those blond jokes u leave ladies cause u look like a natural platinum blond now !
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I am going to assume that your hormones (because of your pregnancy) are contributing to your mental state.  It is hard to be alone when you are pregnant.  But you need to remember the reasons you walked out.  Being abused during your pregnancy is much worse that being alone.  It's not uncommon for a woman to still have residual feelings for someone who has abused her because our hearts don't always listen to our brains.  But believe me, you are SO much better off and your child is too.  Find things to occupy your time.  I don't know if you are working, but start a new hobby like working on a scrapbook for your baby or anything that you like to do.  Before you know it, you will be a new mother and you won't have the time or energy to worry about someone who treated you so badly.  Just remember, you deserve better.