My boyfriend of one year is seeing me less and less though he wants to maintain a bond. He emails me daily but only wishes to see me an average six days in five weeks. Though I don’t wish to live with him or have his baby, I would like to see him more often. He finds this intrusive but I can’t help missing him. Does he love me – or not?
214651
according to me, he loves u to.. but both of u shud sit together and resolve ur problems. ask him y he wants to live alone. and if he is undergoing some pain, tell him that u r always there for him.. this will strengten ur bond.
338830
I think that if you to broke up, it is a good idea to see why.. I went threw this before. You should avoid all contact with him for a few weeks no matter how hard it will be. Then in two weeks if you feel the same way then talk to him about it. Usually when he is writing or texting to you it is his way of checking on you. of Course he does not want to see you with anyone else or being happy without him. It is normal to MISS someone you spent alot of time with but take a few weeks for your self. You will be happy you did.
461655
I've been with my guy for 4 years.  We started dating in college and so saw each other almost every day.  We did speak every day.  When we became more serious we would stay at one person's room at night so we could say goodnight and goodmorning and be together.  However, I now live far away from him and so we at least try to say hi every day but we only see each other once every couple months.
147183
i don't think you relationship is that intense if he hasn't, but i'm guessing "blindly", more of a "black and white", low passion standard thing. and if he doesn't feel it that's strange, i think. i mean, i think you "should" be in love with someone you've been seeing that long. but, you are in collage and this may just be an extended fling so keep that in mind. but i am strange so i don't know
239586
If you love him, then support him in his journey, but keep in touch for the day when you can see each other again. Love isn't strengthened by denying people the opportunity to grow.
656710
almost 3 years ago i met a wonderful man.  He and i met online by accident and started chatting.  after almost a year of that, we finally met and it was so wonderful!  We were in love for the next year and half.  we are still good friends and visit each other as often as possible (long distance relationship) I love him with all my heart and he loves me too, just the distance plays a huge sad role in our lives.  No real chance of us being together as a couple on an everyday basis.  he cant leave his hometown in canada due to his job and other things and i cant leave mine because i have small children and my job here. so other than that detail, we would still be together as a couple.
348093
I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
488976
Yes he can. Not talking to him everyday is good for yourrelationship. When he does call you , you get that feeling in your body that you just can't stand. You are so excited when he does call. It is a wonderful feeling. Trust me. I didn't get to talk to my husband for six months but we recieved letters and I look forward to each one. When I did get to see him it was a wonderful feeling.
199672
It might be just personal nature. I, for instant, do not call frequently, yet that has nothing to do with how much I love them. . .Another possibilty could be that you gave him the feeling he is not that welcomed, so he fall back a bit. . .Know your man then you will easily find the appropriate answer. . .
235935
i don't think he is serious about the relationship and like you said, you may just be there for convenience. if you have been together for 2 months and he is making you feel insecure and physically sick, then i can't think for the life of me why you would stay?\n\nmaking plans and doing things together are the normal thing couples do. you making plans to spend time and him not acknowledging or remembering is a sure indication that he isn't too keen on you. I'm sorry if that sounds cruel or hurtful, but it is an honest opinion from a guy.\n\nhim going off on the weekends and being you put off the phone is a sure indication that it's time to call it quits.  leave before your pain becomes unbearable. have faith in yourself and find someone who deserves your love!!\n\nany guy can talk sweet but if he doesn't follow words with action, then i thinking he is whispering sweet nothings into your ear. stop listening to him and move on, girl! life is too short to waste love on a person that doesn't give back.
302411
If you live 3 states away, daily communication is unreasonable under the best of circumstances. This is probably wearing him down emotionally. I know that I get completely overwhelmed at times, especially by relationship issues, and just shut down. It doesn't mean I don't care; it just means I'm overwhelmed.
292410
Give him time. Do you know his work schedule and what it is like. He may have checked the email and just not had time to respond to it. Maybe he is gathering his thoughts of what he may want to say to you. Sometimes it is harder for men to express their feelings because they don't want to seem like a pushover, or move to fast. I would wait and give him another day or so. I know that it can be hard when you are filled with anticipation. In the end, follow your heart for you are the only one who knows what makes you truly happy.......Best of luck to you
97716
How far is the distance?  It doesn't mean that he IS seeing someone, just means he is either busy, trying to let you down easily or maybe he is seeing someone.  If you aren't together, then he may feel it's ok even if you don't.  Are you seeing other people?  I would suggest telling him how you feel and see where things go from there.  Long distance is hard and unless you are both committed, it won't work.  You need a lot of trust for a long distance relationship.
548381
I think it's more a bit of nostagia, for his past and much younger days. Now he has a wife and baby, and perhaps is feeling a bit overwhelmed and trapped. \nHe can still be madly in love with you and happy with his lot, but a small part, misses his youth and freedom.\nI've got in touch with old friends from my youth and had fun catching up with our lives. But eventually, the letters become rarer and shorter, and often just fade away.\nso don't put too much store in what he is doing, although, I think he should have told you about her. But if you can easily get into his mail, he must know that. If he hasn't made his mail private and locked, then he isn't trying to hide it that much.\nSo just lay back, keep an eye on the letters, make sure, they aren't crossing that line, of just catching up.
405639
I think if you are honest you are looking for reassurance from him that he loves you and it's worth the effort. I'd call it a day, then ket him make the first move. If he rings you in a week begging for you, which he WILL if you leave him be, then think again!!
641957
I know what u mean....my BF lives in Houston.....where I am in College Station....TX.....it is almost 2 hrs away....BUT....we talk on the phone EVERYDAY......send emails everyday.....& he just drove up here today....out of the blue to see me.....of course we only got to spend 4 hrs with each other...it was amazing.....I have had long distance relationships before.....but this one kind of grows.....every time we see each other....we grow "fonder"....they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....I really like my BF too.....it is hard for us because of the distance...as well as our work schedules....but we make it happen......what I like about him....HE comes to me, more then I go to him.......Just be patient.....like one other person said....let him figure out a way to come to u.....if it was meant to be....something will work out.....GOOD LUCK!...
576808
girl if you love or at least care about him there are plenty ways you can see him or her again, i was with this guy for a month and a half, and he unexpectanly moved back home because of this family and we made sure we saw each other at least once a month if not more. i just all depends on how each of u feel and if its meant to be it just is\nDONT GIVE  UP HOPE