Is it bad that your significant other has found somone to chat to on answers and they contiue to chat and he asks peronal questions? And has his own pet name for her? My heart is breaking and they dont even know.Or should I not be worried?
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Do not worry. He will sooner or later get over it. Be patient  and dont get annoyed. Your passive attitude will be noticed with guilt.
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thanx for the Advice, i always new there are "Evil" people out there, but we all have to be careful with who we really interact with them. if you get sespicous about something you must attack him/her with honesty. thanx again
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Absolutely. It's one thing to ask some legitimate advice, ask about something that bugs you, etc. What kills me is the "Why doesn't he like me?" "How do I make him love me?" "He says he loves me, but he burns me with a hot iron everyday. Does he really love me?" I feel like there's really only 10 questions ever asked on this site. I find funny stuff...sometimes.
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Are you kidding me? My lady would have my nuts for earrings if I tried to pull something like that. No other women comes before her. Ex-lovers...Nope, don't even bring the name up. Not if i want to sit and listen to her bitch at me for the entire night. If she even thought I was emailing and having open communication with an ex. It would be my a**.  You are his women and he should have at least a speck of decency and stop it all together. If he does not your relationship will break down for sure.
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Yes, I'm sorry but that is a form of cheating. I have people on here that I have talked to for a long time      (3 yrs +) and have never said nothing like that nor have they said anything to me like that either. I am on my comp a lot of hours a day but I don't that kind of stuff. She would probably go crazy if someone took the comp away from her.
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It sounds a little bit dangerous. If you would be comfortable letting your partner know about it, it is probably ok. If you feel like you have to hide it, it is wrong. The fact that you posted this question also raises doubts about the wisdom of continuing the e-mails.
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Hmmm.....she was to be helping me? I would simply ask her how the 'research' is going? I would definitely be more upset with her than with the boyfriend. He's 20. She's 34 and family! I honestly would just be done with them both. I wouldn't throw a fit.......I wouldn't confront them. I would just know that I was so glad to find out what both are capable of. And then have nothing to do with either no matter how much either of them begged.
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Usually someone who is cheating assumes the other person is also.  So that may very well be where that question came in.. You really should talk to her.  Don't let this go or it could end up blowing up in your face... Good luck!
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The SO cheating is worse. A leopard does not change his spots and I would think long and hard about your impending wedding. That is a complete betrayal.\n\nAs for your online friend, I think he/she is just disgusted by the whole situation and is worried about you getting hurt. As for them not seeing the "good" thinks your SO does--who cares? If my husband cheated on me and then bought me a convertible, does that make it OK? Sounds like your friend would like to help and is frustrated he/she is not getting through to you.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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Michelle, talk to him honestly about it!!!  Ask him if he thinks theres a kink or two in you'll relationship, if there is talk it out!!!  Also ask him about that myspace post b/c if he is talking about you he needs to tell you before he goes on myspace and everyone adn their mama knows about your business before you...tell him kindly not to do that naymore and really really sit down and have a talk with him!!!
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Come on guy!!!!...  Sounds to me like your mad and you have no idea what your talking about and you want to get some support for people you don't even know on this site.\n\nWhat has she told you...? If this is really true and not just in your head, why are you still there?  And don't tell me it's because you love her.  Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap and she just thinks of you as just a backup ****.  \n\nIf this is for real, leave.  Even if it isn't real, leave.  Your head is so screwed up you couldn't think straight abut her anyway.  Just leave.
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I think it is possible to have friends of opposite sex, but what concernes me about your story is that he  is not open with you about this friendship. He should have no problem with you being present during his conversations with her. Another thing is after you get married, friends fade away a little and your spouse becomes a focus of your life, so it is unnatural to spend that much time even with your closest friend. If you have concerns about her, tell him about it, and if I was in this situation, I would insist that he only talks to her when I am around at least for a while so you could see for yourself that there is nothing more to the story. If she is just a friend as he claims she is, he won't have a problem with you being around while he is talking to her. But make sure you keep track of all the conversations you are aware of and see if those are the only ones that appear on the phone bill, but do it without him knowing that you are keeping track for two reasons: you won't come across as insecure and controlling and if he is doing something wrong it will be easier to catch him. I hope I'm making sense. Try not to accuse him of anything right away, just tell him that his relationship with that woman makes you unconfortable and you want to work out a situation that will work for both of you.
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I feel it is wrong to keep your husband out of the loop.  I am truly in love with my husband, and anything I do includes him, and vice versa.  We do not keep secrets from each other and we can talk about anything.  We both have chat friends.  We talk to each other about them and about our conversations.  It's one thing to have secrets one shares with a friend; it's something completely different to have a secret friend.  Keeping that type of secret can lead to problems even if that was not the initial intent.  If he found out about the chat friend through means other than hearing it from you, it could be a problem.  The partner who has been left out of the loop feels he/she cannot trust the other, and the partner with the secret can easily be led astray.  The intrigue can be exciting and too much to ignore.  If you are experiencing guilt, then you may have other intentions in mind, even if you haven't acted on them...yet.  And so might your chat buddy.  Your husband should be included in your friendship with the person you are chatting with, or at least made aware of the friend.  If you cannot tell him about your chat friend, and/or if he could not accept it, perhaps you should take a real good look at your relationship.  I feel you are putting your relationship with your husband second, and this can only create problems.  I believe honesty and fidelity are the most important elements of a successful, marital relationship.
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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I have the same problem, ive been hurt by friends and family and i STILL think up conspiracy theories. Talking with him will help some, but the change has to be WITHIN you, the only thing he can do is make his life a little more open for you. I try to be as open and honest with my GF as possible, that way she can trust me more, also i tell her where ive been and she even knows my E mail password. She knows who is on my buddy list and who ive called. I do all of this so that there WONT be trust issues in our relationship. BUT she could still be paranoid, so she has to just admit to herself, that if im cheating on her, then it DOESENT MATTER, she will just break up with me and move on, or if i truly repent then fix the problem and continue the relationship. But you HAVE to let it go, go out on a limb and put yourself out there. once you say it doesent matter, and you have "let that person go" then that takes away any walls that were in your relationship before.
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I don't see why asking her what she's doing over the phone should make her think you don't trust her unless she is hiding something. I think nothing of being asked that q. It's just normal conversation. Maybe it's your approach?? Or maybe it's not you at all!! Good luck, sweetie!