my husband is in affair some other girl.i have to children .i went to temple and i have done blackmagic
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According to the principle of magic, everything you do to other, for good or bad, returns to you thrice. You have to do another act of magic in the reverse direction. Pray for the sake of someone you wouldn't normally pray for, ask forgiveness in the temple for what you have done, and wait for the good things to come. Remember, they wouldn't come as fast, as your penalty for black magic. Just believe that the reward will come back to you, in a good way, and try to patiently wait until it happens. The only thing you are allowed to do, to accelerate its coming, is to imagine that it already happened, and how it made you feel. Good Luck!
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If he has cheated on you multiple times, he is not truly sorry. He might be sorry that you found out, but he knows what he was doing, when he went and embraced another woman.\n\nYou, and your children, deserve more respect than that.\n\nDon't settle.
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Hello.  I understand that you are in a world of hurt but I'm not sure what the question is.  It doesn't matter who you wife had an affair with ... if you can't forgive her it's not not going to work out. \n\nTell her you want to forgive her, you want to be a family again but you need some help.  \n\nCounseling, both religious and secular, is available to help you reconcilliate if that's what both of you want to do.  If you guys believe in God the religious kind might the the answer.
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Hey man I know where you are coming from. My wife just told me that cheated on me with another man about 2 months ago. I went nutts, but not too bad. Luckily she told me at our preachers house. After she told me I did not know what to do. Because in the bible it states that that is the only reason for divorce. I sat down and talked with her and the preacher. We agreed that we would stay together. I wanted to leave her but then I didn't. I love her so much, and not only because we have kids. I am still having a hard time getting over it. Like I said it has already been 2 months since she told me and I still can not sleep nor trust her. There are still times when I want to leave but I can't because I love her too much. Also you don't want to go out and do the same thing she did. It won't do any good, except have a burden on your shoulders. Just hang in there man. Pray about it and see what God wants you to do. God Bless!
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No its not wrong! I was with my husband 10 yrs and had 2 lovely kids,we got married then within 18 mth of the marrage he slept with 2 others and moved out! He said he felt diffrent since we married and to tell you the truth so did I! we are working through stuff but we both agree that we wished we had left things the way we were! If you's are happy why take a chance and spoil things? Good luck to the both of you!!
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I didn't cheat but my ex-husband did. I guess that tells you how it ended. When we went to my parents house to spend weekends he was sneaking out with my younger sister after I fell asleep. My sister confided in my brother and my brother confided in me in return. So my loss was my jerk of a husband(no big loss) and the love of my sister(big loss). We do talk (now) but we will never be best friends as sisters should be. I did forgive her but I will never trust her again but she did open my eyes to what was going on behind my back not only with her but with several other girls where we lived I came to find out later.
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u know i have read in the books many cases of yours..and the result is they return to thier wife or thier life was destroyed because God punished them..u have to let the younger girl go let her be free and find love with a man that is not commmitted..and u must be faithful to ur wife give all ur love to ur family...cheating has nothing to do with ur life,infact it was the start of ur downfall.u know my father did that to my mom it hurts me so bad espscially my mom...i cried all day and i realy hated my father..all the love the respect for my dad is gone...but now am trying to accept him again as my dad because he returned to us asking for our forgiveness...so please dont do it ur making ur family to suffer...and u too..
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Lady, I recon this guy has done this before and it's "been your fault" everytime?\n\nCatch a wake up, even if it was the first time he did it, he'd probably do it again.\n\nIf you did tell your partner you cheated on him, whether you did or didn't, it sounds like you like causing trouble and maybe you should sort yourself out before trying to get your kids back.\n\nKids do need their parents but they don't need troublesome parents, sort yourself out and then get your kids back.
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I know how you feel. I have / is going through something similar to your experience. I married young, I wasn't a very religious person neither was my husband at that time. As months went by he started to get more religious and more involved with our church and he started dictating the way I should dress and the way I should act. Forcing me to do many things in the name of religion that I hated.. subsequently, because of this I started slacking of on my religious duties.. I know it is wrong but he made me hate the religion and everything that has to do with it. Religion stops at the bedroom door.. God did not dictate what you can and what you cant do with your wife/husband . It's bringing pleasure to the person you love and in doing so you are being a good person. Trying a different position or trying something new is not sacrilegious. The problem is.. you have wonderful sex with your lover, but that is scars .. and you are left in the meanwhile with an unwilling partner and many temptations.. I say don't get tempted to have another affair.. you will only complicate your life with the lies, hiding and sneaking. And believe me it will only make you despise your husband more and you feel more frustrated with the relationship. Try to talk to hubby again.. explain to him the severity of the lack of passion. If that doesn't work my advice is, consider your options.. are you willing to scarifies the marriage and your position in the society to fulfill your sexual desires or can you find means of self satisfaction..an uncomplicated affair ? You might be a better person because you won't feel as guilty as you do right now and have some peace with your self and with God... Best of Luck...
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oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
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Sure it counts as an affair but let me ask you this, are you a Yo-Yo? I mean she sends you away for 5 months and then all of a sudden has some Epiphany or a string and you come rolling back up it and she wants you back and then you are suppose to kick people out of your life and go back with her? Does she have your testicles in a jar and is holding them for ransom or did you get caught cheating on her in the beginning and that's what caused all this I want a divorce crap? Something tells me you are not giving us the whole story here Bud!!
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He sounds like he never grew up.  I have a son-in-law who is the same exact way.  In fact I'm wondering if you are my daughter who is writing this.  Whether or not he's cheating with another girl or not he's cheating your children and you out of a family life together.
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Dude...your wife wants out.  Let some black guys have some fun with her.  she sounds like she's been cheatin' on you for awhile anyway.
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Your marriage sounds like my first one!!  I was with him for 17 years, and he cheated 3 times that he would admit to, and there were several other times that I was suspicious.  \n    You have to decide if you can afford to be on your own.  If you think you can make it on your own, you might move out.  It's a messy thing to go through but it doesn't have to affect the kids negatively if you handle it right.  \n    My first husband left me and the three boys but we've done a lot better since that time.  He's good to the boys but he was dragging me down.  I'm better off without him.  I still can't trust him (to be here on time, to pay the child support, etc.), and  he's remarried and he's someone else's problem now.  \n   You said you don't think  you have the energy to work on this.  I don't think I did either.   The end came as a relief for me.  I stopped loving him, but you say you still do love your husband.  But you're right, you can't have a shell of a marriage just for show.  You deserve more.  You deserve to be happy.  Maybe being on your own will make you happy.  Good luck to you.
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first off, thats not polygamy. And unless everything is on the table its not polyamory. What you are doing is cheating unless you have permission from your wife. If you don't have her blessing? You're an idiot playing with dynomite
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Yes it is...WAKE UP....obviously everything is not right in your marriage if you are having sex with someone else. Don't fool yourself by saying you are taking good care of your family. STOP your cheating now and talk to your wife about whatever is bothering you. If you truly love your wife you will fix things now.
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Good job with going to counseling and sticking it out, I think alot of times marriages end so quickly because people get hurt then they decide "I'm done".  What can I say mistakes happen and unfortunately infidelity happens, forgive your husband and forgive him and forgive him (the bible says to) then talk with him and let him know how you are feeling, being married myself my husband once told me that I could talk with him not at him to get him to understand me, so try this.  I know you have been through alot but I also know you must love him to have been with him currently and to have accepted the baby as your step daughter.  No one is perfect, so work at your marriage and if this counseling isn't working try reading your bible a little more, and communicating with eachother. (know one knows you two better then you two)