Like \n\n1.Why should the Bride parents pay for the wedding?\n\n2.Why should the Bride wear White or has to be a Virgin?\n\n3.Why can't the Groom see the Bride  b 4 the wedding?\n\nDo u know of nay that u never understood or agree with
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Tradition is a connection, respect and acknowlodgment of where you came from or your past.  \n\nie if you like and respect your past/heritage then do it!  If you don't care at all, even in regards to family then don't.
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Well, if you cannot afford it, tell her you are deeply honored by her asking this of you, but unfortunately you do not have the ability to participate. It isn't THAT expensive to be part of a wedding. You need $100-200 (unless she goes crazy with the cost) for the bridesmaid dress, and maybe airfare (since I don't know where your friend or you are). You are looking at less than $1000, and if you have 10 months until the wedding, save $100 a month and you are there.
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Hi Pookie,\nI think that it's less a question of colour and more a question of style: have you discussed with your friend what kind of outfit she would like to get married in? What style would suit her most? What would make her feel comfortable and gorgeous? You might even consider going for a makeover together and ask advice about the colours that flatter her. \n\nI have a friend of 48 whose first marriage was very unhappy and ended in divorce after five years - then, when she was 42, she met the love of her life - and yes, she married in white: loose trousers, a wonderful long coat with tiny buttons, and an outrageous hat with tiny veil attached - and I've never seen her look more lovely and radiant!
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here is a website on etiquette for starters\n\nhttp://ourmarriage.com/html/wedding_etiquette.html
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This is an outdated custom from before the time of instant communication.  It used to take a long time to travel to wedding and you might not have time to speak to the families and voice your objection before the actual wedding.
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I think all the dresses are beautiful and I think that a veil can be worn with all 3.  However, you have to keep into consideration the fanciness of the veil.  If the dress is detailed, keep the veil simple.  If there is a lot going on in the front, or with thick straps, maybe consider just attaching a veil to the back of your updo but not have it come over your face.  All in all, it's up to you, I am sort of traditional so I will have a veil no matter what, because I think that it goes with every wedding dress.  Congrats and hope you have a wonderful wedding.
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I just got Married on the 21st and some of my friends wore white pant suites...that didn't bother me really.  But when my 2 month married sister-in-law showed up in the same white dress, that she wore to her reception, it infuriated me...I must say be kind to the bride an let her be the only one in white!
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Marriage should be seen as the unification of two family along with the boy and the girl. After marriage Bridegroom gets good treatment in brides family. Bridegroom will be committed for the child's future. U can't do any thing in this world.\n\n If u mistake this world for paradise u have to face the anger of God in this world and doom's day.
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Please tell them what you wrote.  They should want this day to be the most wonderful day for you.  Yes most parents want a say in it and because they pay for it they expect it. But who planned their wedding???  Our parents planned ours and I regret it still many years later.  Tell them this is our day, we value your opinion and will compromise as best we can but we want it to be special for us.  Tell them you will pay for or whatever it takes.  If there are parts that you can agree on let them pay for that.
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I am 21, when I got married my mother and my fiance's parents split the cost. Neither could afford the whole thing on their own. I got married at a chapel that offered in house photography (which is the most expensive and the most important thing about the day in my opinion). It hurt that I couldn't have the the huge wedding because there simply wasn't the money. My advice would be to definitely do what you can afford and only that. But do what you can afford. No less. No matter how frivolous you may think it is, you should offer to do all you can for the most important day of your daughter's life. That being said, there is no need to do ridiculously lavish things like fireworks at the wedding, or a 10 layer cake. Pick your battles here. The dress is going to be expensive, when she finds one she loves, let her have it no matter what the cost but make sure she knows the budget. If the budget is $10,000 and she wants a $5,000 dress she needs to know how much that leaves her. My fiance and I made our own invitations with a computer kit we bought. It was $25 at walmart and they turned out beautiful. \nHer fiance doesn't need to be pressuring you. If he wants more than you can afford tell him point blank he will have to get it somewhere else. Money can be an uncomfortable subject but you have to be upfront about how much you can afford. Ask what kind of wedding your daughter has in mind, a simple beachfront wedding, a huge cathedral wedding,etc. That can also help you figure out how much you will need to spend. Before you plan a budget, discuss the things that are most important and the things that could be simplified (invitations, the ceremony site,etc). Look around at different locations and offer help where it is asked for and make sure your daughter knows you are willing to help her in any way needed. The grooms family is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner so if he wants to impress friends tell them they can go all out then. The wedding traditionally falls on the brides parents but nowadays its up to whoever can pay. Bring both families together to discuss payment. And only pay what you can.\n\nAs to the other suggestions here: the brides family typically pays for the wedding. That includes flowers and liquor. So don't be petty about those things. You don't need liquor at the reception as that can drive costs through the roof. If you want liqour there have a cash bar instead of an open bar, or not at all. Depending on where you have the wedding,they may not allow liquor to be served.\n\nAs for an elopement, please don't encourage this. Your family will hate that they weren't included in the wedding amd couldn't see their neice/cousin/grandchild get married. As will you. Don't you think you will wish that you got to see them get married? Don't encourage that.\n\nYou didnt say whether or not your daughter has a career or not, so if she does and can afford to pay for the wedding I agree she should help out but as a gift to the married couple,it would be nice if you were to help out. But sometimes it takes a little longer to get a career together, so if she doesnt have one you should definitely help. But if she does have one and you choose to help, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Even if she was 40 and you were paying, there is nothing wrong with that.
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It should be available to the same people you allow to marry (or baptize, or whatever religious ceremonies you provide in that line) in the church.  The best deal I saw when setting up my sister's wedding was the space provided, tea and coffee provided.  Guests supply the food.  No alcohol, rude pictures or items, appropriate music, etc..  Keep it inline with your church's beliefs.  If your god would frown on it; don't allow it.  If your god would smile on it; go for it!
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Have a small bridal party, one or two bridesmaids/groomsmen and ask them to pay for their own clothing for the day(or No bridesmaids/groomsmen).  \nHave the ceremony at the church where you are a member...if you have a church.  They often give lower prices and provide a lot of ammenities.  For example my chuch only cost $200 and they had a wedding/reception coordinator, did all the clean up after wards, served at the reception, provided plates/serving ware/utensils/cups and mixed the punch for the reception.  \nUse fake/silk flowers.\nHave a cake/punch reception instead of serving a meal. \nHave a sheet cake instead of a tiered cake, or have a small tiered cake for the wedding party/parents and a sheet cake to feed all the other people. \nLimit the guest list to Family/extended family. \nMake your invitations or buy them at Staples, Wal-Mart, etc.\nHave a basic ceremony, no unity candle(s).\nKnow what you want, don't let the sales people talk you into bigger/better/more expensive.  \n\nREMEMBER: The wedding day is about you and your soon to be husbands love for each other, not the decorations.
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Actually, in Islam, both the girl and boy involved in getting married must agree to the marriage before it is carried out. In that, they have a choice in who they want to marry.\n\nHowever, since dating is not allowed, and nor are premarital relations, people may wonder how do Muslims marry? It's actually very simple and an almost guaranteed success plan - the parents are the best people to help find the perfect suitors for their children. If they feel that they have found someone who's a good match, the two parties involved are allowed to get to know each other and talk and discuss whatever issues or concerns they may have in the presence of the girl's guardian, of course.\n\nAfter that, they can take as long as they want for either party to decide whether or not they are content with the family, the boy/girl, etc. and then a final decision can be made.\n\nBut just to reanswer your question - the boy DOES have a choice. In fact, men in Islam don't NEED their parents permission to marry if they find someone suitable, however due to the great respect we are encouraged to show our parents, it is best to go through them and have their blessing too. I hope that helped! :)
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Here's what I know:\n\nThe bride wears:\nSomething Old\nSomething New\nSomething Borrowed\nSomething Blue\n\nThe bride wears a penny in her shoe for good luck.\n\nThe special dances are bride and groom, father daughter, and mother son is optional\n\nThe groomsmen are actually a part of the wedding to protect the bride from potential sutors. The bridesmaid used to dress like brides to act as decoys if the bride is to be kidnapped.\n\nDuring the ceremony, the bride stands on the grooms left side so his sword hand is ready.\n\nThe bride carries flowers to mask her odor (if she hadn't showered -- think 1500s)\n\nSpeeches at a wedding are from the best man, maid of honor and the father of the bride.\n\nWhen guests clink their glasses with silverware the bride and groom have to stop and kiss.\nHope these help -- I know they're random!
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If the parents of the bride are paying than she feels like she needs to be involved with everything.  But if not, she shouldn't have any say so in the matter.  She shouldn't of acted the way she did if it was her "baby's" day.  She should of behaved herself and let everyone enjoyed themselves without her crying and whining.
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Doesn't the bible say Judge Not Other's Lest Thee Be Judged?\n\nI think people need to start focusing on the purpose of a wedding and not what the bride is wearing or what kind of party she is throwing.
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the bride does it and is usually escorted by someone (maid of honor)...i don't think the mom and bride should do this together since the bride has already been "given away" (although it's a nice thing to do)...the bride and groom going together is very nice and symbolic, but i think this part of the ceremony is meant for the future wife and mother to take a moment and pray to the Virgin Mary for guidance, etc.