I am dating a guy (not intimate yet)and, being the honest person I am, I told him I owned a "lil' vibrating friend", he got a lil weird and keeps asking me about it. He said he doesn't really masturbate and would rather wait for me, it seems like he's trying to making me feel guilty...????
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I am not intimidated by toys, actually, it's refreshing to speak with a woman who can be open about her sexuality.  On that same note, I think it's very important to communicate with your partner- non-communication leads people to fill in the blanks, and that's where jealousy, paranoia, and anger creep in.\n\nDon't feel guilty, but don't think him odd for his insecurity.  Talk to him about it.
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he's a professional who trained at making ladies feel comfortable. Sounds like a bit of an unhealthy infatuation. Maybe your next boyfriend should be made aware of your needs, to be treated with dignity and respect.
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He sounds like a young guy who hasn't acquired the knowledge and experience to know or even care what a woman needs from the love making experience.\n\nCommunicate your needs to him. If he doesn't start taking them into consideration soon, kick him to the curb and go get one of those battery operated boyfriends.
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You should stop acting like a sex slave. If you are not in the mood...Don't do it! Are you a partner or property?
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Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!
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you should, most definately break it off with that jerk, don't mind me to call him that. you're not suppose to let guys to degrade your self-worth nor to let them take advantage of you. go find someone who is willing to appreciate you and fulfill your needs, not just using you for his own sexual pleasure.
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No, there's nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of women out there who cannot have vaginal orgasms, only clitoral ones. So when you guys are doing it, tell him to come closer to you (if missionary) and the rubbing will get you off. If you're in some other position, stimulate your clitoris yourself. On the other hand, maybe you're just not in the mood of having sex when they do. Ask yourself, do you get completely aroused? Is he hurting you? Is he too big for you? Who knows? maybe it's something more simple than you think ;o)
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in my experience most guys will jump at the chance to have a "no-strings attached" relationship. I would just tell him that you are not looking for anything permanent you are just looking for a little fun right now that lasts til its over. this way you both know up front not to get your feelings involved. that its just sex.
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I would say he has a control issue....meaning he wishes to control you. I would be careful in your relationship with him cause sounds to me he is on the first step.......witch is getting you away from the people you care about and the ones who care about you.....be careful and good luck
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Well young lady first of all if you are really concerned about him using you...just say no and see where the relationship goes from there. If he is just using you for sex...then you are enabling him by allowing him to do so.  I mean is the experience pleasurable to you, or do you feel like after the deed is done he's less attentive and affectionate. In your heart I think you already know the answer to this question you presented.  Cut the sex out of the relationship and then you'll see his true colors.
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You don't mention what the arguments are about.  It sounds like he's trying to control you.  You're getting all tied into knots trying to figure out how to please him.  What is he doing to please you?  He gets things all wrong on purpose dear.  He is making you unsure of yourself, and he's with holding his affection from you.  I don't think I'm wrong about this.  Dump this jerk while you still have some self esteem left.
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I think it's great that he wants you to do that and it's not "weird" at all.  To me it seems that he is still really attracted to ya!  I mean, it's not like he asked to start borrowing your underwear!!  I mean, just say what comes naturally.  Be sexy!  I am sure you know what to say deep down...practice saying it alone before you leave it on his phone.  And the one answer was cool...start with text messages :)   Good luck, and don't feel silly...he wants ya, girl!
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Victoria  You are describing almost all guys that want you to put out for them, sweet as can be and prepared to wait  until they realize that you are serious and that you are waiting for a band on your finger a license in your album and a husband in your bed before you cross that threshold  of adult sexual relations .\nQuite frankly I say cut him loose and see  what comes , If he loves you as he says then he will wait and respect your decision . but to me it sounds like he wants your body and that is that . jerk yes  but only a human jerk .
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Of course you shouldnt do it...its disrespectful. think of it this way, if he was doing it would you be upset.  if he really doesnt mind, which i doubt, than rock on....your probably really young and you dont owe anybopdy more than your willing to give at your age.  as you get older and get into more serious relationships realize that this is not normally acceptable.
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You're not cheating, you're just outsourcing your orgasms. That's not horrible, it's just practical. If he wants you to be faithful, he should keep up with your needs.
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I dont think its wierd at all...Im actually in that position in my life right now.....Ive been through some of the worst relationships ever and at this point in my life i am very happy bieng single, but still want the physical active part from a guy....that may be why most of my friends are guys....I still like the cuddling and the hugging and the other stuff, but dont want anything serious......I dont think its wrong at all....you do whats best for you and if you feel you dont want to be in a committed relationship, no one should make you feel bad for that.
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He sounds like a control freak. Move on! Good luck to you!