I moved to a new town for a job. There was a girl there that cleary liked me. I have no interest at all. Didnt even know her name.  But because she new people i did we talked a little at work.  And began flirting. One night after work a hug turned into a kiss.  She told me she had a boyfriend but that he cheats on her and she is not happy and ending it.  So i began sleeping with her thinking(my mistake) thinking that her other relationship was over.  And giving her time to deal with it.  She tells me her boyfriend is joining the military and will be goin. I say then you and i will be together. She says, I dont know about that.  Then the boyfriend does not join the military. In fact they are moving away together.  Im pissed off and angry.  But she wants to speek to me everyday at work as if were still cool.  Am I wrong for not wanting to even look in her direction.  Let alone have a fake conversation with her. If she just wanted sex from me. Why was she treating it like a growning frien
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Women can play games just like men do.  You always hear the women complain and tell stories of their husbands and boyfriends sneaky affairs but men don't have this happen as often to them.  But sounds to me like she was just playing a game and in her eyes winning.  No it is not wrong for you to not want to converse with her and you should not feel that you have to.  Simply say, After what happened between us I have been left with questions in my mind and have chosen that the best thing for me to do is not talk to you, so if you would please don't talk to me anymore it makes me feel uncomfortable as I just don't trust you.  Harsh, but can be done.
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I think it si a sign of insecurity for someone to lead another on.They are feeding their own ego.I agree with you and think a person should back off if they have no interest in the person they are flirting with-especially when they know that the person has feelings.There ARE people with more cahrachter than this.I hope that you find one,and I believe you will-Otherwise,are you sure the person in question does not really like you back,and.how do you know?
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I've had a few platonic female friends.  I've given some hugs and some backrubs.  I've never kissed them.  Your girlfriend crossed the line.  Why would she tell you that "his little thingy got hard"?!?  Definitely past the line.\n\nIt sounds like she is playing games and is at the least trying to make you feel jealous.  At the worst, she is shopping for another boyfriend and just wants to keep you on the line.\n\nIt's hard to convey all the intricacies of a relationship on these little questions.  But from the little you've revealed, I would dump her and cut off all contact.  Until she grows up, she is not worthy to date seriously.
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Big deal she has a boyfreind. So what....... that don't make her a cheater. Maybe he's doing her wrong...I would ask her out again, only this time I'd ask her how she feels about you. She is not married your not being a homewrecker. There are reasons people don't get married... Im sure she's well aware of that. I think she is interested!!!! Good Luck.
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Possibly, she may be afraid that she can't make it on her own so she stays..it sucks being alone! Much easier to run from one guy to the next but not always the wisest step to take. She will need time to get over her relationsip with her boyfriend and come to terms with any issues she may have had there. \n\nLet time do what it will, just be there for her. Keep flirting if it's all innocent, don't let it go too far. If she was not mean't to be with this guy, time will tell. If she was meant to be with you time will tell that also..\n\nIt could all just be innocent flirting on her part..maybe that is just the kind of person she is. If she lets it go too far and she has a boyfriend, would you want to date a girl like that anyway?
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you did the right thing. dont feel bad honestly. if you kept dating her then youw ould have made things a whole lot worse because later on, she might have fallen in love with you. leave things the way it is. tell her to call you once she is okay enough to accept things with how they are and you just want to be friends. that you will always be there for her even though you arent with her.
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the best course of action here is to not make a move on her. be respectful of her and her boyfriend. if she ends up breaking up with boyfriend, give her some time, and then try.\n\nsometimes girls flirt with guys, even when they are in a relationship and don't want to break up with their boyfriend. some girls are like that! she may think you're fun to hang out with, but she may just be that type of person.\n\nyou're better off looking for another girl. for one thing, why do you want to be with a girl that flirts with other guys when she still has a boyfriend. if she's doing it now, she will do it if you get together with her.\n\ndon't worry, you'll find another girl, guaranteed. or she'll find you.
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very reasonable, the flirting and inuendo that comes with a lot of girl "FRIENDS" is totally inappropriate now, you should have made your choice, you can only keep the ones who are JUST friends, you know the ones, they are the ones who the both of you can hang with and act the same way when she is there!!!
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That's completely dumb on her part.  Maybe you should have told her, but the fact of the matter is you didn't act out on it.  You actually told the friend that you didn't like her like that.  Hopefully your girlfriend will come to her senses.  Guys get hit on all the time, you can't freak when some other girl hits on your man.  It's bound to happen, if she can't trust you because of that then she has issues.  That's small stuff, believe me.
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well if in the five months that this has been going on it seems that you havent spent to much time with her and all of a sudden she wants to move in and has a boyfriend. RED FLAG, if you like chaos then go ahead.
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If this second guy was only after her but they never got together, whats the big deal. She obviously didnt like him then or they would have gotten together so i cant see anything stopping you from bein with him or tryin it on with him. Your not goin to hurt her...You didnt say if she's with this guy you fancied first but if she is, you've def nothing to worry bout!
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You sound like a very loving person. It sounds like you have a wonderful friendship with your friend. And I think that the basis of friendship is honesty. \nI think you should consider telling the guy, when he calls, to be honest with his girl. Convince him to tell her how he feels. He sounds like he isn't as honest to his girl"friend" as you are. \nIf he isn't very cooperative at being honest and continues the discrete behavior, ask your friend in a round about way like:\n"Hey, there is something I think you should know but I am pretty sure it will upset you. Do you want me to tell you?"\n\nShe will say yes, and if so proceed slowly no need to get it all out right away, ease her into it with something like:\n"Ok, I'm not sure his intentions or if he has even told you about it... I hope he has but it feels like hes being discrete about it which is why I think you should know..." etc etc\n\nDon't forget to reassure her that you value your friendship and that you truly hoped the sexual playtime would help her relationship but that you don't want to feel that the encounter is part of some hidden agenda.\n\nAsk her how she wants you to handle future encounters with him, her, and them. She may want you in the relationship, she may want him out. The most important thing is being honest upfront to avoid any misunderstandings. \n\nSame thing with him, if you value his company treat him the same way, honestly. \nIf he is being pushy, ask him questions... this slows guys down and makes them thing more about the conversation and its potential for direction rather than the goal(i.e. "getting" the girl) and read his responses. \nDishonest people are easy to read because it feels dishonest.\nAnd don't forget that you can cross reference everything said by either of them with the significant other for even more insight into who's telling what to whom.\n\nIf your lucky everything will workout and they will love you for being a very big help, a very loving friend, and an honest person. \nIf not hopefully you can salvage 1 of the relationships be that theirs, you & hers, or you and his. \nDon't forget to be honest to yourself too, Ask yourself what scenerio you would like the most. Then tell them about it. Honesty has power unlimited when used properly.
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Woah she's lucky to have had a boyfriend like you. Dedicated and things like that. Well she's one of those girls who listen to their elderlies without questioning authority. She's probably very sad about having to dump you. Get the picture? She's trying to forget about you, but it's a very painful process. I've done this once. Of course she has feelings for you. She's just saying it.
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She needs to decide if she's gonna cheat on her love because someone else is cute. She also needs to decide if she's gonna continue to go out with men she doesn't really have feelings for. Since it's not the first time, it sounds like she isn't really in love.
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She seems like she has some issues. I mean, for one thing she said clearly that she did not want to come over. Then she was like see you later, she was ready to get off the phone with you quick and definitely didn't want to talk any longer. She seems like she is sending you mixed signals, and if she doesn't like you, then she should just tell you. I mean, don't throw hints, just be like she wants to be friends. Then as for being shy, she could have just said that she didn't feel comfortable coming back to your place. You would have understood that I am sure. Basically, you should just see where it goes this time, if she tries to be intimate, like showing you affection, just come out and ask her what is up. Don't be rude, but be like, Do you like me? Do you see me as a boyfriend or just a friend. You need to know, because she can't be like I want you one second and then don't want to be around you next. She needs to be honest. I hope that whatever happens you don't get played, so if you can see it isn't going to get better, leave her alone.
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Im'a guy... and had something similar once... It's possible this is the same situation... Well I had this gurl who always flirted with me... but i knew there would probably be a day my girl would come in or a friend come in and see her flirting with me... So i decided to act like i hated her flirting with me so if my girl ever came in and saw it she wouldn't flip out... But secretly I wanted to get down and dirty with this girl... and was kinda keeping her close incase me and my girl broke up.   so maybe he likes her ...
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Girls know what they want and she thinks she is being kind by giving you excuses.  Before you get hurt any further get yourself away from her.  Don't even talk with her.  There are plenty of other girls out there that will want what you have to offer.  If this girl has to make up excuses - it is over!  I have been down that road many times.  It's hard to tell someone that you have had relations with that it is over.  Most caring people don't like to hurt others so see it for what it is - over.  I am so sorry for your situation but unfortunately the truth hurts.  I also have been on your side of the situation.  You are looking for any gleam of hope for this relationship to work but unfortunately its only one sided.  It hurts.  The sooner you walk away the better off you will be.  Ten months, while it is a long time, it would be worse if longer.   The "perfect guy for her" is more than likely her way of saying she honors your friendship.  When women are in relationships and opt to get out they want their cake and eat it too.  It's ok for her to move on but she doesn't want anybody else to have you.  Hope this helps and good luck to you.