I am a sexy independent skinny woman.  He tells me how beautiful I am but satisfies himself secretly and hardly will have sex with me.  What am I doing wrong?
208909
There's nothing wrong with you.He says he's attracted to you and you do have sex,just not that often.If it bothers you I'd ask him whats going on.Tell him his behavior makes no sense to you, it makes you feel insecure and you need to know why he does this.I'm sure the two of you can work it out..good luck!
316514
Your subconcious views him as confident and capable.  Hes also making you laugh which is a great way to attract any women.  On top of that your subconcious is telling you this guy isn't needy and your not going to have to take care of him, rather hes capable of taking care of you.\n\nBest of luck....
288908
Move on. Sure you're hurt, but there is a man out there that would LOVE to find a good, independent woman(myself for example). Some men, if they're not secure in their manhood, tend to shy away from a secure, independent woman. Not me, I'm secure in my manhood. I love a woman that can think for herself, and take care of herself. I think they're sexy.....but then, I know who I am,and what I want, unlike a lot of the men out there!
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That would be considered acrime, since you are still aminor. If that is all he can think about, then it's all he wants. Go find him a (very loose woman) as a break-up gift.\nAlso, you seem scared. It looks to me like you are being threatened by his good looks. Don't be. Will you really be happy when all he wants is sex and you need spmething more?\nHe'll have left you with what he wanted, and you won't have your virginity. It's clear what you need to do.
303316
If you are comfortable in how you look.... That is all that matters.  Pardon me for saying this, but this guy sounds like a jerk.  How come you are staying with him if you feel that he does not find you attractive?  Perhaps you should move on to somebody that will love you for "you" and not need to turn to porn for sexual gratification.  \nHave you ever just confronted him and ask if he finds you appealing in a sexual way?  I still think it is time for you to start looking for a better relationship.\n\nI can't believe you offered to let him take pictures of you, and he declined..... Most guys would jump at the chance to take some hot pics.  \n\nIf he is making you feel stupid or ugly, you really don't need that in your life!  A good partner in a relationship should make you feel happy, and he should not be afraid to show you exactly how much you mean to him.... At least that is my opinion...  If you want to "vent" more about this situation, you can always email me.. I am a good listener.\n\nI wish you luck!  I hope things improve for you!  don't let this guy get you down!
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Don't fall for the crap he's dishing out.  Unless BOTH parties want that "FWB" BS, then keep steppin'.  Him telling you that "you're cute" is not any kind of commitment.  Haven't you learned by now that men will say anything to get into your pants???? (Men, am I right?)\n\nWhat you describe would be an imbalanced relationship, where he gets everything he wants and you get nothing that you want except his company.  Even then, the control is in his hands.  Sweetheart, no doubt, you deserve so much more than that!\n\nGirlfriend, I'm giving you the advice I'd give my own sister or that I'd want somebody to give me:  Keep walking and eventually you will meet the ideal person for you.  In an ideal situation, both parties are thrilled to be with each other.  Both parties feel lucky.  And both parties derive benefit from the relationship.  Until you have that, don't settle for one drop less than what you deserve!!!!!\n\nC'mon, now.  Like rkrell and summersun both told you in your other incarnations of this question, "Don't do it."  Plus, please don't keep asking the question until you get the answer you want to hear.  Listen to the sound advice you're getting from the majority of those who answer you.  Okay?
517844
Your last few words sum it up well,...when you say, "he never calls me."\n\nSounds like he is using you sweetie. I am sure you have a lot to offer someone. Move on to someone who appreciates you and wants to spend time with you, doing more than having sex.
613174
You're obviously one of those chicks that think all dudes just like sex and nothing else. Have you tried talking to him about this, or did you immediately label him gay and come to Yahoo? The problem might be as simple as he's expecting more than to get laid.
97119
First of all, your self esteem shouldn't be achieved or sustained by male attention. You should know that you are attractive and sexy simply by being you. If you don't feel that way, then you need to find out some good ways to achieve that feeling. Maybe working out, or going to the salon and getting some pampering or simply buying an outfit you really like. \n  But if you feel like your husband has taken you for granted and you need some compliments to make you feel appreciated, then you should find a way to communicate that to him. I know when I feel that way with my husband, I tend to get sarcastic and call myself the house-troll/slave. But usually, I"ll ask for what I need from him. Because I know that I don't fall all over him the way I used to either and its easy to get caught up in life and forget that other's need to be appreciated and wanted.\n   Your husband loves you and may not be as sensitive to your needs for compliments. But I'm sure there are many ways he shows how much he cares for you that perhaps are more substantial?  And if not, don't be afraid to ask for what you need. But going to another person(online or not) to get warm words to make you feel good is not going to help your marriage....\nI've also found a good BJ never hurt in the obtaining compliment/adoration department >>:)
100319
First you need to examine why you are with him... and reevaluate who you are as a person... and build up your self-esteem... I know it is hard to leave but you should consider it in fact you need to leave him now as your Reading this... He like making you unhappy because he is unhappy... sounds like your beautiful and very pretty and he's not.  He has no control over you so he wants to make you feel bad about yourself... and what other way to do that... by looking at ugly girl to make you jealous... and to call you names so that you feel self conscious about your... so you can start feeling bad about yourself... That is a form of control that a man wants from a woman especially when he is not that hot... or when he has low self esteem him self... I hope you the best and I hope you get out of this relationship... "I did".... and I feel great... very happy now... I know exactly what your talking about and how you feel... I just left... and my life fell into place... if you leave him your life will to...  But you remember he will try to come back... but you must be strong and just leave... Remember this if he LOVE you he wouldn't say or do anything to hurt you... he would only want to make you feel and look Good all the time... Not only during sex... good luck girl...
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I am sure you are very pretty. This guy may genuinely like you. That is quite possible. Perhaps it is not only your looks but your inner beauty is also beckoning to him. I have seen women that I thought didn't look that great and as I got to know them they were transformed. Their inner beauty shined through. \n\nAlso honey don't let you low opinion of yourself sabotage your life.
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it sounds like he has low self esteem. You should point out his good attributes as often as possible.
314307
Now does he say "Wow she's pretty!" or does he say "DAMN!!! lokk at that girls butt" If he says the former, well than maybe you should lighten up a lil' bit.  He compliments you too, and obviously thinks your something special.  If he didn't he wouldn't want to be exclusive with YOU.  If he's fun to be with and he's nice to you than your insecurity is not justified.  Take the time to enjoy yourself and focus on the good things, instead of the tiny bad stuff.  If you find it still bothers you open the lines of communication and let him know
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you are sprung.  you wrote, " but i know he's not right for me. he lies alot. but i cant help it."  so he's hot?  so he's 'the ladies man? sure.  what the f ever.  i've seen this 1000 times.  i've been there 100 times.  and you have to get the f over this man.  he's a bad boy for life and you'll be another trophey on his shelf.  just another story to tell at the bar before he picks up his next one.  if you are smart enough to connect to the internet, you are smart enough to get over this man.   if you do him/it once, you'll no longer be his object to be desired.  you'll be his object conquered..  stay a mystery.  it's so much more fun to smile at him and make him wonder, than to blush and make him proud.
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There is hope out there.  I think I am sexy, guys tell me all the time. BUt I am not stuck on myself.  I am not high class.  But i do like to look good.  I might go every once in awhile to go and get my nails done. or go get me an outfit but its not an everyday thing.
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From my expericence, I have learned that trying to show a man all of my great qualitites in order to make him appreciate me and want a more serious relationship has NEVER worked.  It only made me seem desperate.  Desperation has never made any person want to be with another person.  Even though you may feel that you can't let go of the person, it would be better to do so.  He has made it beyond clear to you that he isn't interested in having anything more than a sexual relationship with you.  In other words, you're good enough to have sex with but NOT good enough to have a meaningful relationship with.  That is horrible for your self esteem and self worth.  You deserve better and more.  Just because he asks about your activities doesn't mean that he cares about you.  He tells you flat out that he doesn't.  It may be difficult but you should consider stopping the sexual relationship with him.  He doesn't love you or care about you.  If he did, he'd want to have more than sex with you.  I hope that you realize that you deserve more than a quickie when he's bored.
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You should try to change your outlook. You are the one that is sleeping with him. You are the one that lets him be with you. You can not let anyone use you. It is all up to you. If he get's bent over you not answering the phone...He needs to check himself. You need to decide what you want and then go for it. IF it is just the sex you want then talk about any of the others u want to. If it is more, if you want more of a relationship with him, you need to let him know and be honest. Most guys are so insecure they can't handle the comparison of themselves to anyone else. IF you want him, let him know that and that he is it and no ones else counts. You have to talk to him.