I really do wanna lose weight... I imagine myself thin and all the clothes I would wear. Something stops me though and I end up binging. Is it that I'm not ready yet for change or could it be a serious mental issue?
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Slow and steady DOES win this race!!!  I lost 10-15kg about 6yrs ago and went from a 16 to a 8/10 (Aussie sizes)  I'm now a 12 and am still very happy!\n\nYou sound like you are more than ready to begin this change - you certainly have the desire to do it!  Starting is by far the hardest part of the weight loss process.  Once you get healthy habits going, it's surprisingly easy to maintain them.  You need to find a way to give yourself that inital push or get someone to help you do it.\n\nI suggest you set a date to start your new healthy lifestyle - say to yourself "I am going to change my life and I am going to begin today.  I will not look back because this is something I am doing to better myself."  \n\n\nConsider consulting a nutritionist - they'll be able to help you understand why you binge eat and create healthy eating habits as well as eating plans.  I suggest you also consult your regular GP and find out the state of your health - blood pressure etc.  You don't want to push yourself too far too fast because that will most likely make you lose your motivation.\n\nYou have to accept that you are going to have to be selfish to a degree, because you will not be able to achieve your goal unless you take time out for yourself.  Ask your family and friends to support you by encouraging you and being conscious of their own habits when they're around you.  The more supportive, and healthy influences you surround yourself with, the more chance you have of succeeding.\n\nIf you're not used to exercising, you'd be best to start with gentle exercises, because the going from 0 to 100 will make you hurt and the more you hurt, the less you want to exercise and as a result, you lose your motivation.\n\nDon't expect things to happen overnight, and don't bother with fad diets that promise a quick fix - your body registers dieting as "starvation" and hangs onto your body fat.  \n\nKeep things interesting for yourself.  If you find yourself growing bored with your chosen exercise regime, try taking it up a notch, or else try something new.  If you join a gym, try to find one that gives free consultations with trainers every so often.  If not, make sure you join one that has plenty of staff around who can help you use the machinery and advise you on how things work, and what weights and speeds you should be using etc.  If you're nervous about embarrassing yourself, don't be!  Look around at different gyms, there are a heap of ones that aren't filled with people pumping iron and are quieter and less imposing for beginners.  If your finances can run to it, try to organise a session with one of the gym's personal trainers once a month or so -  that way you can get a proper, personalised evaluation and find out if you should be changing your exercise routine.\n\nIf you can't run to a gym membership, the try walking - set yourself a goal to reach, I used to go to video store at the top of the main road.  It only took me ten minutes to walk there, but I slowly increased that to include the streets surrounding it.\n\nWhen you go out, try to get a particular friend to keep an eye on you and help keep you from straying.  However, don't forget to treat yourself every so often.  I find that if I deny myself a treat for too long, I end up binging, which destroys all the good work I've done!  \n\nAlso, try not to eat before you go to sleep - I believe 2hrs is the minimum recommended gap.  And don't forget the mental component to losing weight - the mind plays a big part. Don't eat in front of the TV or computer - it distracts your mind from the process of eating.  Eat slowly - it helps your body feel fuller - 15-20min is the recommended minimum.  And try to prepare your own meals, your sense of smell plays a big part in your enjoyment of food - it's a preliminary stage to eating, so it prepares your mind and unconsciously begins to help you feel mentally fu
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no. go look in a mirror and even if its hard, try to think about it realistically.  look at yourself as a whole instead of focusing in on different parts here and there.  you are not fat, you are thin. \ni have a feeling that you dont eat very healthily and my advice is too eat regularly, even if its not a lot. even if its less than you should, eat regularly.
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It sounds like you might have some sort of emotional problem and that food is your escape. Try going to counseling. \nIf this is not the case, them maybe you need a hobby since all you do is think about food. You definitely need to change your mentality about working out. \nYou try Weight Watchers you might enjoy that programs since you are allowed to eat what you want and your not deprived. \n\nGood Luck & Stay Strong.
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yes please.  I am struggling with my weight.  Will you pray that God will help me to be strong and resist temptation?  I know this sounds trivial, but it is very important to me.  I have struggled with this all my life.
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Not really. By all means, don't go on a binge diet or some newfangled weight loss regimine! Walking every day will help you. I envy you, btw!
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If you really want to lose weight, you’re going to have a hard battle ahead of you. It’s going to be as hard mentally as physically. You first have to start with your eating habits. This could be a problem, though. Most overweight adults developed their terrible eating habits because of their parents. You have to be able to realize the things you are eating aren’t healthy. It’s also going to be hard because people might not want you to change, especially if they themselves are overweight. There are various reason for this. They may be jealous or may feel they are getting left behind while you’re achieving something. If you’re lucky, you’ll have a real supportive family or friends. Research sites like www.Bodybuilding.com for articles on how to eat healthy and exercise. You could even join the message forum and ask people for help there. They’ll definitely help you, and you could also read other people’s experiences on losing weight.
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Dont put yourself down. Its definateley not you its them! I would go out  with you! ( sorry im taken )... If YOU would feel more comfortable in loosing all the weight , do it, but dont do it just for all the other people.\n\n\nLove Hannah xxx\n\nNo we dont like fat people and we love guys that can cook.
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Congrats on making it this far.  I really don't see why you should need to lose that much more weight.  I'm the same height as you and 135 falls within my ideal weight range (something like 125 to 140 is ideal, if I remember correctly). So, at most you probably should only lose 10 more lbs, you don't want to be too skinny. Your body has probably just reached a plateau where the weight is going to come off more slowly now.  I'd suggest just going on a maintenance plan for now, then starting a diet again in a month or two.  This will allow your metabolism to regulate, then when you start dieting again the weight may come off easier.  Also, work on thinking of yourself as a beautiful person instead of nit picking about a little bit of chub here and there.  From your description, I'm sure you look great and just don't realize it.
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Keep in mind the following when losing weight:\n\nDiets and changing your eating to healthy food choices can work but because we know so little about ourselves and our relationship with food, it makes it difficult to win the battle. A lot of us have problems with dieting because we have a problem called "emotional eating" we eat to comfort ourselves during difficult, stressful, sad, etc times in our lives.\n\nYou may experience all those emotions during dieting as we continuously get on the scale hoping to see a big difference in numbers after dieting only for a day or two. Also what is stressful when dieting is that we try to lose a large number of weight in such a short period of time which in most cases is unreasonable. \n\nThis all brings about stress, discomfort and sadness. When we feel this way, we turn to our best friend for help and support which for many of us is food. The diet is now broken and we feel that we can't stick to diets. We then try fad diet after fad diet hoping to lose the original 20 pounds and now we may have as much as 30 pounds to lose because we continue to put on weight as we continue to break these fad diets by binging before starting our next diet. \n\nPlease learn about your relationship with food before your next diet so that you may achieve your goals. To help a little, keep in mind the following:\n\nYou already know how to lose weight. You know that if you eat less and exercise more eventually you’ll see the pounds come off. What’s getting in your way? Why do you usually regain the weight you lost? The answer to all these questions is the same “Emotional Eating.” Simply defined, emotional eating means you eat to satisfy emotional hunger; it means you use food for comfort or as a way to cope with life; and it means you eat for reasons other than what your body needs. Whenever you reach for a boredom-breaking snack despite your commitment, or whenever you eat to quell anxiety, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you binge after a fight, or double up on portions because your day turned sour, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you feel that sharp craving for your favorite food, that’s emotional eating. When we eat during these times while on a diet, we believe the diet doesn’t work or that we lack self control and then look for the quickest way to lose weight (fasting/diet pills, ect) after eating all we can since we already messed the diet day up. Read the information below but remember that emotional eating plays a big part in why we don’t continue dieting and why we regain lost weight and why we binge today and start a new diet tomorrow. Best of Luck.\n\nP.S. After learning about my relationship with food, I was able to drop my weight from 263 pounds down to 151 pounds which is a 112 pound weight lost.
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I am seriously not going to sit here and tell you how to run your life but it is dangerous.  If being anorexic really makes you proud and happy then by all means, I am not the person to tell you any differently.  As far as finding a website to help you in your quest for self-destruction.  No I do not know of any.  I am sorry I cannot be more help in that department.  However what I can tell you is that my sister suffered from anorexia for a very long time.  She went through spells where she wouldnt eat and then she went through spells where she "purged."  She was extremely unhealthy looking and she was just unhappy all around.  I think that there's always a reason why people are anorexic and it's not always due to the fact that they think they are fat!  It's truly an obsessive thing.  There is a plethera of medications out now to help treat Obsessive disorders.  Maybe you should try one of those so you don't end up getting disgustingly skinny.  I wish you the best of luck in whichever route you choose!  If you ever need someone to talk to...I will listen!
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What kinda of question is that.... Losing weight isnt some thing that just happens....  You have to exercise and eat healthy...  and dont expect to slim down in days... you know it took time for you to put weight on and it will take time to take it off...
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well, you do have some sort of eating issue. if just about all you think about is food & your weight then you do have a problem. i would then suggest reaching out for help before it goes much further. or you can make a change yourself by recognizing the problem and upping your intake of super healthy things like vegetables and fruit. learning more about nutrition and the good fruits and vegetables do for your body could really help you.\n\nif you think its a problem then it is a problem in one way or another.\n\nby the way, i am sure you have heard, when you don't eat enough like how you are doing, your body starts to store whatever you do eat as fat because it saves it as backup energy to burn later. it also slows down your metabolism and is worse than just eating more & healthier. i would highly suggest educating yourself about propper nutrition & learning how to give your body what it needs. if you eat super healthy foods & exercise regularly, your body will be so much happer! you can perhaps help your mom with cooking & learn how to make healthier choices for your entire family.
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I used to be anorexic, Im miss it to, but my parents put me in a rehab for 6 months. That sucked. Everyone says I look heathier now and that im still thin. I think we convince ourselves that thin is never thin enough and that we are fat. Its all about convincing your mind. I miss it but will never go back. I was sick, and still fight it. Stay strong! Heidi
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Have you seen a doctor?  If you are making a lot of effort with no to little progress you might (emphasis on that word "might") have a physical condition that prevents you from losing weight.  I have thyroid issues that affect my weight.  there are many medical conditions that affect weight issues.
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Keep in mind the following when wanting to lose weight:\n\nDiets and changing your eating to healthy food choices  can work but because we know so little about ourselves and our relationship with food, it makes it difficult to win the battle. A lot of us have problems with dieting because we have a problem called "emotional eating" we eat to comfort ourselves during difficult, stressful, sad, etc times in our lives.\n\nYou may experience all those emotions during dieting as we continuously get on the scale hoping to see a big difference in numbers after dieting only for a day or two. Also what is stressful when dieting is that we try to lose a large number of weight in such a short period of time which in most cases is unreasonable. \n\nThis all brings about stress, discomfort and sadness. When we feel this way, we turn to our best friend for help and support which for many of us is food. The diet is now broken and we feel that we can't stick to diets. We then try fad diet after fad diet hoping to lose the original 20 pounds and now we may have as much as 30 pounds to lose because we continue to put on weight as we continue to break these fad diets by binging before starting our next diet. \n\nPlease learn about your relationship with food before your next diet so that you may achieve your goals. To help a little, keep in mind the following:\n\nYou already know how to lose weight. You know that if you eat less and exercise more eventually you’ll see the pounds come off. What’s getting in your way? Why do you usually regain the weight you lost? The answer to all these questions is the same “Emotional Eating.” Simply defined, emotional eating means you eat to satisfy emotional hunger; it means you use food for comfort or as a way to cope with life; and it means you eat for reasons other than what your body needs. Whenever you reach for a boredom-breaking snack despite your commitment, or whenever you eat to quell anxiety, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you binge after a fight, or double up on portions because your day turned sour, that’s emotional eating. Whenever you feel that sharp craving for your favorite food, that’s emotional eating. When we eat during these times while on a diet, we believe the diet doesn’t work or that we lack self control and then look for the quickest way to lose weight (fasting/diet pills, ect) after eating all we can since we already messed the diet day up. Read the information below but remember that emotional eating plays a big part in why we don’t continue dieting and why we regain lost weight and why we binge today and start a new diet tomorrow. Best of Luck.\n\nP.S. After learning about my relationship with food, I was able to drop my weight from 263 pounds down to 151 pounds which is a 112 pound weight lost.
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You don't mention your height or current weight, but my guess is you may not be eating enough for your body.  You could be going into starvation mode where your body will hold on to every single calorie, every single ounce.  I would suggest you shake it up a bit.  Try eating a bit more one day, exercising less another or skipping the exercise altogether for a day.  Change the types of foods you eat.  See if that helps you.  You could also talk to your doctor who'd be able to let you know more specifically why you're not losing.
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You know, losing weight is difficult.  There are a lot of answers such as don't eat so much and exercise more.  Those are valid ways to lose weight.  The question is why are you over weight.  What I mean is, are you addicted to food?  Do you eat when you are upset?  Do you watch a lot of TV?  \n\nI suggest getting into an organized sport.  This way, you're a little more locked in to exercising.  People are depending upon you.  Try volleyball, soccer, or even karate.  If you get in to karate, make sure you spar.  You wouldn't believe the amount of calories you'd burn.\n\nYou also should see a dietician.  I say that because you are only 13.  You don't want to deprive yourself of essential nutrients that will hinder your growth.\n\nGood luck with this journey.  It is a long and difficult one.