I just recently was in a awseome relationship. The most pure love I have ever experienced. She left me (see other posts for details there)and I fear I will never be able to let someone that close again and do not want to go through the hurt again. Is it wrong to stay single, and keep others at bay from now on?
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Of course it's not wrong!  Focus on yourself for awhile until you think you're ready to undertake soomething that serious again.
577032
I seriously doubt it. We chose to be with someone because we want to BE WITH THEM. What do you do , late at night, when you're all alone? No one to hold when the night is cold. Unless you're married, don't even try to be together. The temptation to be with someone in the flesh will beat out chatting on the phone. Wish him luck and if you're still available when he gets back, then maybe you can try to start something. Good Luck!
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Hey,\n\nits not the end of the world. you have to take it as a learning point and move on. its going to hurt, i can honestly say it will definitely hurt a lot, but you have to look at the bigger picture, its not the end of the world and now that you're single there's more that you will be able to achieve\n\nyou can fulfill your dreams and live life single for awhile, party like a rockstar, and eventually you will end up meeting the right person one day, it could even be the person that broke up with you but at this moment in time maybe you two are not meant to be together but might be together in the future\n\ni'm going thru a similar situation but i realize that i need to move on and do something with my life its not worth to cry everyday, and the quicker you realize that, probably the faster you'll meet someone else.\n\ni hope this helps
299780
well if u don't want to leave anyone then continue with this relation as long it lasts.\n\nhave fun!!
37766
I think dating someone new is ok as long as you realize that you are still getting over the other person. It is important to not use the person to help your hurt feelings go away. Let the other person know you are fresh out of a relationship and not ready to take it farther,
569218
i can totally relate. i am the only single girl in a group of 10 girlfriends-they're all in long-term relationships and getting married. i haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years, and in the past i've had my share of no-so-great men. but i'm happier alone than unhappy. we just have to realize that we are still young-we still have lots ahead of us and we will find that 4% of good men in this world to be good company with:)\n\nps i look at half of the relationships my girlfriends have and i'd rather cut off my foot than be in some of their positions, anyway. some are stuck with emotionally abusive/selfish men, selfish lovers, drinkers, or just herpes and scared to move onto another relationship because of fear of rejection (woo hoo! yeah, i'm sure your man isn't cheating, the disease just showed up!)... you name it.\n\ni'm sorry about your divorce and about how one man found it appropriate to break it off with you in a pretty cowardly way. i think time for you will wear things off a bit.. hang in there! you know you will end up with someone who is GOOD for you\n\ngod bless
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Thats a tough one to handle.I have been devorced 6 years now.After my ex did her thing I tried to date off and on for awhile but something kept me from getting serious with someone.I noticed that everytime I found a person I liked and wanted to get to know better this nagging feeling would get in the way.\nI thought about this for sometime and realized that it was me and trust was the issue.A couple of the ladies I dated told me that I had put up a wall and they couldn't find a way to get around it.Lately I haven't had as hard of a time trusting someone but its still there.I'm not sure if it will ever go away completely.
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Life is not a fairy tale. Just because you love someone doesnt meant you should stay with them. If one is not happy in a relationship it needs to end before it gets worse. My heart broke to break up with my ex girlfriend but it just WASN'T going to work out. Love is NOT enough. \n\nLove from the soul? Yes.
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life goes on and we all get hurt... let ur guard down because you cant  live your life affraid to love someone because you got hurt before.   dont close the doors to new and wonderful people! it would be the biggist mistake you ever make. ..life is a risk...live it!
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I believe that it is very unnatural to only be with one person. It is human nature to want to spread our seed. However, if you have decided to commit yourself to one person you must be true to them and only them. If you don't think it would be possible for you participate in a monogamous relationship, maybe you need to find another person that shares your same ideas and values on relationships.
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We set our own limitations enough, so why let an abusive ass hole bring you down more.  Move on sweetie, you can be strong.  Your self-esteem is low, and that's the only reason you feel that you love him; you might love him, yes, but question is, are you in love with him?  I doubt that very much considering what he has put you through. \n\nThe sky is the limit, for everyone.  Remember that.  Let go of the past.  Dwelling on it only sets limitations for the future.  You have three beautiful daughters, three reflections of you; how wonderful is that?  Find yourself, for their sake, and ultimately for your own.  You can do it.  Pray to God to give you strength, he won't let you walk through this alley alone. God Bless.
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You should believe in what ever it is you belive in.  If you believe in eternal love, then so be it.  If you find a girl who is afraid to commit, leave her.  You should also know that although one love for the rest of your life is probably not going to happen.  You should remain faithful if you have a partner, don't get me wrong.  It's just chances are you will experience love with more than one woman.  If things don't work out though, your beliefs are not a license to stalk.
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You have to give yourself permission to trust another person.  There could be something in your past that makes you a little nervous about getting hurt.  It's the chance we take when we fall in love, but it's a gamble and we aren't promised anything, I mean when in life are we promised anything so why should love be different.\n\nChoose your mate wisely, make sure he's committed and respectful, make your intentions clear and as does he.  Don't jump in too quick and don't be too judgmental.\n\nWith joy sometimes comes sorrow but don't deprive yourself of the wonderful feeling of being in love.  What's the expression 'It's better to have love and lost than not love at all".
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ive been where you are right now and if you want me to be honest you need to get out of there. dont get me wrong i loved the guy i was with too and i know you feel that if you just up and leave your the bad guy but your not! im only 20 years old and i now suffer alopecia as a result of my relationship. i wouldnt wish that on anyone else. sometimes its ok to love yourself more than the one your with. you only get one shot at life, dont waste it somewhere that your not happy.
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It's normal.. we all go through the same thing.. (I mean unless we had a flamin' bad break up that is!) Does the current bf know about this? ..and deal w/it? He sounds like a kool dude if so. It'd be hard, but could ya like change where ya R hangin' out, so ya 2 don't meet up? I kow it's rough if ya got the same friends, right? If ya have a bad breakup ONE of the good things about it is you got a TON of bad info. to use mentally to get over the bad dudes. I mean if he beat ya up, dissed ya, you gotta make that memory a WHOLE lot better.. (helps ya get over the hurt.) How long it been since ya broke up? It'll get better, I promise! If it's too new a hurt, I think it's kool ya got wit another guy already too.. later-     melancholia
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Good for you if you were loyal. It is better to find out this things early in a relationship that late on. Now you can move on to a real partner.\n\nThe way you feel is the way you feel. There is nothing wrong or right in it.
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I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.