Okay so my parents decided that after giving 3 kids their license before me.. that they wouldn't give any more of us kids our license.. because they   didn't use them for the right things.. or so they say.. So now I'm not allowed to get my license until my 18.. I think that my parents are wrong.. and that they are making me pay for my brothers & sisters consequences..and i also think that I should be given a chance to get my license.. because i didn't do anything wrong to not get it .. do any of you guys agree??
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No, it's not really fair...but sounds like their trying to learn from your sibling's mistakes...\nI know with my trac record, my parent's would of had more than enough reason not to let my sister, but they didn't stop her...just hoping, she learned enough from me, and is more responsible. \nMaybe if you show your parent's that your more responsible, than your older sibling's were at your age, and can get them to understand that, they'll re-think it?\nI know insurance is outrageous...maybe they also aren't able to handle the extra charge it would be right now for you to get your license? Maybe you could get a job and pay for that yourself, to help out on the expense, and also, show them you are responsible enough to handle it.\nDo a trial period...and BE..responsible enough ;)\nIt is dangerous for 16 year old's to be on the road I think, I don't think alot of 16 year old's, are responsible enough to be on the roads' yet...I know I wasn't, and am old enough and responsible enough, to admit it~ ;)
125579
I'm sorry but your mom sux.She is obviously defensive.If you are of age you can become a citizen on your own.
655862
Hi young lady.  You're bound to get a ton of responses to your question, both from parents and from other teens who consider you either very lucky, or very unlucky.  I suspect that something happened this evening that upset you and probably prompted your to ask the question - perhaps they turned down a request or simply said something at a moment when you really weren't feeling happy with the state of your life.  Regardless, being a successful father myself (my son is now married and working on his master's degree to be a teacher), I can tell you something you probably don't like to think about; that is that raising a child . . . I'm sorry . . . a young man or woman, in today's world is a VERY scary and challenging thing to do.  Particularly in the case of young women, if you follow the newspapers or TV news at all, you'd see that the prevalence of sex crimes in our country is at an all-time high.  The Internet itself is being used as a tool by predators who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible or naive young people who are too ready to trust, and not ready enough to protect themselves.  Your parents sound like they love you very much . . . enough to want to protect you from the very nasty and ugly side of humanity, for as long as they are able.  When you believe they are simply being mean or too strict, they are actually struggling with the choices they must make as you grow older, regarding how much freedom you should be allowed to have, as opposed to how much risk and danger could be waiting for them to allow you too much freedom, or perhaps more than you are fully equipped to handle.  Parents have a terribly difficult job, and very often they have to be the "bad guys" as far as their children are concerned, in order to ensure that their children remain safe and secure until they are old enough, and hopefully well enough prepared, to step out into this very brutal world on your own.  I don't want to put you to sleep here with a long message (I might have already done so:-), but I believe you will find in the long run, that in order to earn more trust and more freedom from your parents, you're going to have to demonstrate to them how responsible and how trustworthy you can be.  And if you attempt to mislead them, or you abuse a trust that they give to you, you shouldn't be surprised or angry at them if they back off and require you to earn their trust all over again.  As a retired military person, I can tell you most assuredly - freedom is everyone's right, but it is a right that we all have to earn, not once, but every day of our lives, but doing what is right (not just what is the easiest), and by setting a high standard of honesty and integrity for ourselves that no one can put a hole in.  I suspect that when you have become the kind of upstanding person your parents want you to be, you will discover that they will endow you with increasing levels of trust, and freedom, so long as you continue to prove that what they are doing is the right thing, not just for you, but for your entire family.  I apologize for writing so much, but I saw in your note some feelings of disappointment and frustration with your folks.  Try not to only consider their actions from your point of view.  To really understand what is happening in yours and their lives, broaden your point of view and try to consider what they're feelings are, and what they're reasons are for the decisions that they make on your behalf.  Don't be in too big a hurry to be out on your own - it's a far scarier and more dangerous world than you can possibly imagine, and your time in it will come all too soon.  Good luck with your question, and with sifting through all of the many wide-ranging opinions you're likely to see.  Use your brain, and not your emotions to determine who's advice is the most honest and the most intelligent, and don't just choose those answers that suppor
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Sorry, you're a minor. (I'm only 14) And as such you can't legally own anything. Now, as a parent as a custodian you could get some of that stuff, but in the end they would always have the final word on everything. (You don't really legal exist, your parents represent you) But even with a custodian you couldn't get the patents or copyrights you need under your own name. You could (if you had the money) hire a lawyer to represent you as an adult, but your parent would have to consent. As for bank accounts, you may be able to open a joint account with one of your parents. (I did) Personally, I'd wait a bit, maybe until you sixteen or so to get really serious. Talk to your parents about it (I know, that wouldn't be like you want, but that's life as a minor) I hope you do really well in all your future endevors.
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Which parent has custody?  These visitation rights sound horrible.  Also $250 for child support for 2 kids is a drop in the bucket.  What's up with that?  I hope this isn't something the court set up and if it is they need to go back to court and get it straightened out.  Are they just selfish?  Surely they (the parents) see what they're doing to these kids?
152009
Whats Up! I am strongly a believer of what goes around comes around. Don't worry about it because when people treat you the wrong way it will come back to them in the strangest ways. I am a witness to that, not saying I am a bad person but I have a lot of animosity towards my daughters father because of how he treated me in the past, and because he is never around for his daughter ,so this makes me not want to talk to him at all. So I told a little lie and told him my phone was cut off and it wasn't off. He called his self being nice for the first time ever and brought me the money to pay for the phone. So I thought I had extra money in my pocket, but I had to take my daughter to the doctor and my brother had to take me. My brother got a parking ticket for the same amount of money that my daughters father had gave me for the phone. So I have to give the money that I thought I was going to have in my pocket to my brother. See the point I am tring to make is it doesn't pay to be evil,nasty,liers to anybody because it will come back to you. So don't wish anything bad on her, just do not worry about it she'll get whats coming to her.
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How old are your friends?  Being 13, your parents feel that you are much too young to be going out. If you really want to and as long as your friends are girls, maybe you could ask one of your parents to come along to chaperone.  Or maybe have one of their parents come along.  If they agree to do this, maybe after a while they may be willing to let you go alone with your friends. But remember, you must never break your trust with your parents. They are just concerned about your welfare.  Just so you know, I am a 49 year old parent and grandparent and I was just as concerned about my kids when they were growing up. Should you choose this advice, copy this and show it to your parents.  I'm sure they would agree if you had an adult parent going along with you and your friends as a chaperone.  They don't want to see you get in trouble which is very easy as a kid.  Good luck
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Why not just be an adult and ask the other set of parents?  Let's try to stop putting children in the middle of our quarrels.  It sounds like there is a bit of a feud going on here, so keep it off of school property.
60689
I'm totally for teen driving restrictions..it gives you time to learn in a more restrictive way without so many distractions before you "go it alone", I am however not at all supportive of raising the driving age...I want my son home the first few years he's driving (when people are likelier to have accidents) so that by the time he's 'going it alone' he's got a few supervised years experience under his belt...plus, as your parents- we love you & want you safe :)
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I wish that they had to wait until they were eighteen in America. Some people much older then that should not have a drivers license.\n\nBest Wishes\nNamastae!
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No I do not think u r really wrong.  Your ex sounds like an idiot and you did great by making him an ex!  But u do not stop being a parent when they turn 18.  My son will be going to college and soon and he says the same thing- Im an adult now- I can things for myself but in the next breathe he wants me to cook him dinner!  lol.  Being 18 isnt the end of parenting.  I would say it depends on what he wants the money for!  If its for a $200 pair of shoes- hell no!  If its for food--- or a dental bill- maybe possibly they r still our kids even when they turn 18 and r lippy little     s h i t s  u sound like a great mom!
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that's the nice thing about being over 18 - YOU get to make those decisions, not your parents. if you're truly feeling concerned about your well-being (as in you're afraid you might get hurt), you need to contact the authorities or tell someone....that's scary. good luck to you!
87084
Have patience with your parents I am a parent myself and cell phones are a big responsibility there is more than just the initial cost of ownership to think of And ask yourself another question do I have a B-day coming up and if you do maybe you could Show how responsible you can be by allowing your parents some time to evaluate their decision on the matter And I would recommend that if A phone is purchased that it be a Phone without any contractual obligation Like a Go Phone Or Trac Phone and if your parents want the ability to limit who you are able to contact for some reason There are available options Like the Firefly In which the unit is preprgrammed by the adult And I didn't mean to preach to you I think phones are an important communication tool and if you are ever in a bad situation it would be nice to have one
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I didn't do it by choicer,but by force. My parents were ridiculously overprotctive. I was not allowed to have friends,go anywhere,do anything,etc...So when they found out I had a secret boyfriend at age 16-17 I got taken out of school and was homeschooled. I never finished the homeschool so I had t oget my ged. Then they never gave me money for colledge or a car. I was 22 when i got my first drivers liscence and and car,and now Im 28 and its hard to get credit because i have no credit history because all the money I've ever made was from a no education drop outs type of job,and went all to bills,and not enough to pay for a credit card. So pelase dont drop out if you even have a choice in the matter. I wouldn't have if I had a choice.
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Sounds a lot like my parents. I have shown in every way that I am a good girl, I get good grades, I fulfill my family responsibility, I stay out of trouble, and etc. And yet, they still are strict. Of course, this is unfair b/c I believe with my record, trust should be easily given. I talked to them about what I wanted (a boyfriend) and why I deserve it WHILE presenting the reasons why they should, how good of a person I am, and how happy it will make me if they let me, and how sad and upset I will be if they didn't. If they still say no to whatever they are strict with, ask them why. Ask for an explanation, why they do not trsut you, or why they shouldn't let you experience something that may be valuable to your life. \nWe're in America, we need a little more freedom.\n\nGood luck
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It is illegal for a reason. Please please do yourself a favour and don't do it. I can almost guarantee you will regret it when you get older. Are you saying your mother will let you do it? Why would she do that?
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Friend - That depends on your age and state laws, but yes, its not unlikely they can legally enforce it if you are under 18.  And just a suggestion...I would go along with it no matter what the situation was cause they are the ones in control at the time and place.  GBU