My girlfriend and I want to get married so she knows.  On saturday we went to see rings and she fell in love with one in particular.  Ok, can i get her the ring she liked, and she thinks im going to propose to her in august.  I would like to propose to her on my birthday.  Should i do that or should i go another route.  We made plans already as well to when we would be married, and that date in next year in July.  Please let me know how i can surprise her and find a way to ask her father for her hand.  Thank you . Last but not least she has a 4yr old son so how can i tide that with asking her father for the blessings?
199560
dont make the mistake\nmarriage causes more divorce
659040
You can push... but pushing for "the ring you want" might push him away.  Not only are you pressuring him for marriage, but you're also pressuring him for an expensive ring.  Unless he sh*ts money, thats a huge issue.  I understand people might grow up with a dream wedding or dream ring or even dream of by what age they would get married (ie: a life plan... married by 22, kids by 24...etc) ...but if you really truly love this man and feel he is for you... than you should understand sometimes, those visions we had before have to be adjusted/sacraficed a little bit to fit with HIS visions.  There are two people in this relationship.  What if he didn't imagine getting married by his age? And you'll find out in the end the $20,000 Tiffany's ring or getting married by age 24 or having a boy first, than a girl... doesn't really matter.  It won't make the marriage perfect/last which is what matters most right?  And if getting "the ring you want" is simply THAT important, understand you might have to wait for him to put some money together, but express your feelings so that you aren't disappointed and will hold it against him.  Men are not psychic believe it or not :-)
89987
It sounds reasonable that you would want to give your rings to your daughter when she is old enough, but there is no reason that you should have to keep wearing the rings. I know that if I was with someone who was still wearing their wedding band from a previous marriage, it would give me the idea that they were still in love with their ex, and that would not make me very happy. Although that's probably not your motivation for wearing them, you have to admit that it would look a little strange to your boyfriend. I think the best thing you could do would be to put the ring up in a safe place somewhere until your daughter is old enough to wear it. Honestly, I am a little confused as to why you would want your daughter to have it if it wasn't from her father, but I am not completely familiar witht the situation, so I will leave that alone. Just do what you think is best. If you are willing to take the ring off your finger and put it up somewhere, I am sure your bf would be fine with that as long as he didn't have to look atit everyday on his sweetheart's finger. If not, and he insists that you actually sell it, maybe he's not the guy for you anyway. Good luck and God Bless.
20558
There's no one right way.  You obviously know her better than anyone here.  Girls seem to like a surprise though, so try to be casual/normal that day, so she doesn't suspect something is going on.  Take her somewhere that's meaningful to her, or to you both.  It doesn't have to be anywhere fancy, just somewhere special to You guys.  Just have fun together.  When you are ready, find a quiet moment, make direct eye contact, and tell her how you feel about her... whatever it is that you love about her that makes you want to propose in the first place.  There's no wrong things to say if it all comes from the heart.  Then ask her :)    \nBest wishes!
319326
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
334681
I was engaged to my husband for four years.  We have now been happily married for almost 10.  We took our time, because there were children involved and we didn't want to put them through divorce again.  However... we were sure we wanted to be together and married from the moment he gave me the ring.  Maybe you should give the ring back and tell him to propose again when he is sure!  If you love him and hold out hope, you two could keep dating.  This would just make it very clear to him that he needs to "poop or get off the pot".  Give him a little time, some men tend to need a little kick in the butt.  GOOD LUCK!
48024
First off, I'd like to say that angel_baby0824's idea is super romantic :)  Now, I decided to get my boyfriend a ring this year (one for him, one for me kind of thing).  You can get them with any message on them at http://www.personalizationmall.com  But, they also have TONS of other great ideas.  They even have a Romantic Gifts section.  Good luck :)
627258
You should drop hints if you don't feel comfortable.  It's June so I'm sure they have diamond ring commercials on tv, and in circulars, and if you go to the mall together you  could "casually" draw his attention to the "shinies" that you most admire.  But it's a diamond and diamond's are a girls best friend so I'm sure you will love that bling as much as you love him!
497463
i would suggest something with a nice princess cut diamond in the middle with baguettes somehow incorporated into the ring, then the band just depends on what she likes whether she like yellow gold, white gold, platnium, etc. it would be nice to take her out to a nice dinner or something and make it happen very spontaneously, when she's least expecting it. as far as what to say, you shouldn't need help. if you really love her with all your heart what will say what you feel and it will come out naturally and it will be beautiful. good luck and congratulations!!
617558
If you're in the beginning phases of planning a wedding (which it sounds like you are), your best bet would be to talk to your fiance so that you can determine what you both want in your ceremony and reception.  Start broad: come up with what time of year you want to get married (winter, summer, etc.), what kind of place you'd like to get married (church, beach, etc.), and how big you'd like it to be.\n\nOnce you've narrowed down your options, go to a planning website like www.theknot.com, www.wedalert.com/, or www.brides.com.  They'll give you options on ideas, and you should be able to use their interactive planning calendars too.\n\nUse the given dates to plan dress shopping, invitation sending, and everything else.  They may even have a budget calculator to make it even easier!\n\nBest of luck to you...\n~mm~
18776
I don't think so. I would never ever have done it in a million years. If he doesn't propose it is because he doesn't want it. If you want to get married discuss the topic,shop for rings,and discuss it some more,but in the end please leave this one to the guys ladies. I know we live in a world where women are more independent and go after exactly what they want but really I would hope that the guy you are with has enough intiative to tell the women he loves that he wants to marry her. Don't you think that in the back of your mind you would always wonder if he really wanted it and if he ever would have proposed had you not?Good luck!
341647
OK, I love this question!! My answer is NO NO NO! You absolutely do NOT have to have an engagment ring. I too am in my early 20s and my fiance (already call my husband) and I have been living together for the past two years and he just proposed about 7 months ago but he did not have a ring and it was the most amazing moment of my life. I completely understood his financial situation so it was never an issue, I knew a ring would come later so I never worried about it. I'm a big fan of ebay and I would just browse at second hand rings until I found the perfect one for $200 but I had it appraised at $1400. My fiance bought it for me one month ago and I can't stop looking at my finger. Is it an ice skating rink? Of course not but it's the ring MY fiance put on MY finger and that's good enough for me. It sounds like you and your fiance are just as ginuine so I'm sure you really don't care what he puts on your finger as long as it's from the heart. Just keep in mind that all this crap you see on television and magazines...that's not real! Every engagement is not going to be on top of the Eiffel Tower and your wedding may not be in the Grand Ballroom at the Waldorf Astoria but it's your wedding and that is what makes it PERFECT! FYI: My fiance has an engagement ring too and both of our rings cost less than $300 combined (from eBay) and everyone "thinks" we bought our rings new! So now people know, you and my mom (and all of Yahoo Answers) Congratulations sweetie to you and your fiance!!
658276
Having a ring on your finger doesn't mean anything if he doesn't want to marry you than you can keep that ring on your finger for the next decade! You just said that your too young to marry than why should you worry yourself for having a ring? All that matter is that he is loving you and your relationship is healthy!! Why do you want to leave a guy whom you call great and loving!! Do not put this 4 yrs of relationship down the drain do not make that mistake than you may regret it later!!! Give him time he probably wants to make himself secure enough financially and career wise before to ask your hand in marriage!! And if its really bothering you than you should sit down with him and have a nice talk get it out of your system you will feel much better!!
76834
With the information you have provided, I'm really not sure you should propose.  You certainly shouldn't propose until she gets over this love of someone else...that is just begging for trouble and, if she gets the chance to get together with him in a month, a year, 5 years, will you then have an unfaithful wife?  It seems that she relies on you as a friend and that she loves you that way.  It may be that she will take you as a replacement for the one she really loves and I don't think you want or need that!  I know it is tough, heart breaking and demoralizing, but you need to look after yourself and what is best for you!  Don't settle for being second best.  You want someone who is devoted to you and loves you unconditionally.  Good luck making these tough decisions...they are probably the toughest ones you will ever make and will be life changing.
198837
Don't rush him into it.  Give him time.  I'm sure he'll propose soon since you said that you all have discussed marraige.
330461
So, you're questions a couple of weeks ago said you didn't know who to choose, a girl who was messing you around, or a boy who you used to be friends with. Now you are talking about marraige? Are you sure? Hoping it's just a bracelet as a present, and you'll think a lot more before making any decisions that affect your future :)
319151
Well I had the same thing happen to me, When I got my promise ring it was big and I caught everything on it, I had to turn the ring around to put on gloves or even get stuff out of my pockets. So I told him that I was frustrated with this problem and asked that when he pick out a ring for me.(not pushing) that I would really like one that was smaller and not as big. And when I got my ring it was bigger then I wanted but he did listen to what I wanted and he pick out one that was low and fit more into the band so I don't catch everything on it. \n\nI guess in his mind you show everyone your ring, So the more it is worth the more he loves you.(his ego) \n\nSo I would talk to him about a few thing that you would like to see, but don't take away his change to pick out the perfect ring he has imagined buying for you. There is the excitement about the ring for both you and him, you getting the ring and him being the one that picked out the ring you love so much.