my bestfriend has all the sudden stopped hanging out with me. i'm kind of new to the town and she was one of my 1ts friends. i've been expanding my circle of friends and i thinks thats why but i'm not sure. should i say something?
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Make sure you tell her you deserve an explanation for her distance. This is important. You have the right to know why she no longer wishes to be a part of your life. Just pull her to the side nicely or if you can catch her alone even better and just be like, "Hey, I've noticed you've been distant lately, is there anything wrong...did I do something to upset you?" Then if she doesn't wanna talk or explain herself, tell her "I deserve an explanation and I'll only try this once if your gonna give me the cold shoulder. I care about you enough to address the situation, but if you don't wanna be my friend anymore, at least have the decency to inform me like a woman". After this. just do what's in your heart. Go your separate ways and look into other options in friends. Someone is out there in the same boat as you and you'll find a new BFF soon. Good Luck!
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the only suggestion I can think of is to ride it out.....wait until something happens. Either your friend AM is making the whole thing up cause she's jealous or something, or TM's shy....anything could be true. Anyways, just wait for something to happen, and then go from there, instead of getting worked up about it.
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Cherish, you have done all that you can do. The best thing you can now is to begin making new friends. I always tell younger people such as yourself to make as many friends in this life as possible, because you never know what around the corner. Hopefully she will wise up and be the friend to you that she was before. But don't  sit around waiting ok. Don't worry your heart will heal.
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I understand what your going thru. My best friend is doing the same thing to me. I called her in November to ask her if she wanted to go out for her b-day and she hasn't called me since. I did find out that she is getting married(through a mutual friend) I have no idea what's going on w/her either. Like an earlier answer said, I'm sure she is probably dealing with something in her life right now that she doesn't feel so great about. Maybe she feels too bad to talk to you about it? Maybe she thinks you'll judge her. I would just do what I did. I called my best friend a couple of weeks back and left her a message on her cell. I told her that I didn't know what was going on but I still loved her and cared about her very much. We've been friends for 13 years and I have never judged her for anything she has done in the past and she can come to me with anything. After you've done that, all you can do as back off and give her some space. If she's truly the friend that you think she is(and like I think my best friend is) she'll come around. Just let her know that you are worried about her and want to make sure she's ok. If she continues to be this way, maybe you're better off without her. That's what I've decided.
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wow you have a problem.  You are going to lose somebody.  If  you talk to your best freind,  Your sister is in big trouble and I'm sure you will be held responsible.  After all, she's not responsible enough to control her own life, its very likely she'll blame you.  If you say nothing and your Best friend finds out you knew,  you lost the Best friend.  I'd say you have to talk to the Best friend and let her know whats up.  She deserves to know so she doesn't make a decision that she will have to live with.
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There had to be a reason that your friend ditched you. Try talking to your friend and see whats up!
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Janinie, \n\nMy opinion is that you should just say every since you started hanging out with those chicks you turned int a jerk. So i just want to be friends and not best friends cause i don't want to get dumped on the side of the road again. So we can still hang out if you want but that is your choice. Thank you. That is what I would say. And you can Email me back if you want.\n\nKennetha\n\n\nP.S. My email adress is kennethacutie@yahoo.com
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ha, she wouldn't be my best friend anymore! yeah, just tell her your mad. if she's your bff, she'll know better than to keep it up. she should pick u over the guy, and if she doesn't, shes no friend. good luck!
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Hmmm... Really sounds strange huh? Well, I'm a Man but I think I can answer your question... Maybe you're right about what you suspect for the reason she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but you really have to talk to her because there can be many reasons for this situation, maybe you can ask her if someone was backstabbing you and telling things about you against your friend... Right? Losing a friend like yours is very depressing because both of you have been to lot of ups and downs... For now, try to take time for her to think it over, same to you as well, think of the things that possibly you've done that hurted her feelings too... Because if she was your friend for 12 years already, jealousy is not a big factor and she should be proud of you as her bestfriend... Maybe jealousy to other friends of yours is a reason... Try to talk to her ok? But at the right time... Goodluck to your friendship and I'm sure you will get her back...
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Hey, I'm sorry about this incident, but everything happens for a reason, and maybe this is it: reappreciating everything that you are and all that you have, giving you a different perspective of life.  I don't think its too much of you to ask your friend to be with you. But all that depends on what level and to what extent. For example she may not be comfortable with intimacy, since you are supposed to be 'friends' for now, cause I think she may think that you'd be using the accident as an excuse to have your way or gain sympathy and all that. You need to state clearly your terms for needing her, and let her know what you need her for. And if you need her for keeps and all that, then maybe you could ask her that too, but not too soon after this accident.  Take your time and see if she'd still keep coming and things may kick off from there. Glad to know you're alive and well... dudes in my town haven't been so lucky with accidents this year...
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im so sorry for u..i see how confussing this must be for you..<i could barely understand this it was so conf..> but i think u need to start from the begginning..why did she think u were ditching her...and tell her "i have a new bff and so do u, u should have thought about ur decsion before u got a new bff" so untill then..lets just stay bf..ok.."\n\nhope this helps..i hope things work out for u..\n\n: )
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Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
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Your EX-bestfriend's EX-boyfriend?  um... you should ask him out on a date, and then go for it with him.  Because... well if she isn't your bestfriend anymore you owe her... nothing, and even if she still was your friend, as long as you didn't sleep with him to break them up... (which i am sure you didn't do) then you still owe her.... nothing.  How long have they been broken up? if it has been say over 6 months (which it sounds like it has if you have listed to his other girl problems) then I would say you have satisfied ALL of the waiting before moving in criteria.  Life is short sweetie, take a chance, and good luck.
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oh dear.. this has happend to me too. The best thing to do is try your hardest (though challeging) to move ahead with your life. Time to look for new friends! Be confident, and calm. In a month or so, call up your old friend again, maybe by then she will have missed you, and ask to be friends again. If not, well, there are plenty more fish in the pond. It is the cold, hard truth!
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I would consider her no longer your friend.  Especially if she is running away from you.  I think she may be jealous of you and your boyfriend. If she can't talk to you and tell you what is going on than I think you need to leave her be and find a new friend.
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I stopped talking to my best friend for the first 18 years of my life becaue her emotional problems were getting so bad I coulnd't deal with it anymore. She wasn't fun anymore. Yet I miss her sometimes terribly.\nI moved out of town and we stopped talking. When I went back to my hometown 20 years later and drove past her house there she was going inside and I just kept driving. We considered ourselves sisters.\nSometimes you just have to make the break.\nYou need to tell her you need some time to yourself.\nAnd not feel guilty.\nTell her you can't keep driving her around and if she won't get her license you can't help her anymore. You will be doing her a big favor. \nTell her she needs to be independent from you. Tell her your tired and worn out and can't help her any more. It won't stop until you tell her.\nEither that or just move to another town.
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You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.