If you are divorced, why did you get a divorce?  Was the divorce itself bitter or civil?  Are you still friends with your ex?
213005
Abuse. The sad thing is I probably would have stayed in that relationship a lot longer. But, then it happened! I had my son. The day I had him I knew I would never allow him to be exposed to that kind of a life. I remember thinking to myself, "My husband may be good enough for me but, he will never be good enough for my son because he doesn't care to change." Thankfully, now I know he wasn't good enough for either of us. I left the day that I got out of the hospital and never returned. My son and I lived happily ever after.
469774
yup..\nmy ex and I had shared custody. two weeks with each parent. we lived in the same city. no child support.
316973
Sounds to me like Mark is dragging is feet, afterall, you has his cake and is eating it too.  You divorced for one reason or another.  What makes you think that it will work this time.  The past will hinder any happiness that you two may have together.  You should think real hard on this issue and decide if you can go thru with it or not.  If you can't, leave before it's too late.
80350
I have a friend like that and we've been together for about 12 years, on and off. We have been through 4 babies hers and one of mine my marriage and divorce and we still talk to each other. WE have an understanding, we love each other enough to know when we have had enough of each others advice. Be smart and be a friend but be smarter and know when to walk away. If the friendship is true you'll be together a long time.
53265
I married my best guy friend and we were married for 8 years.  We had EVERYTHING in common.  Same taste in movies, t.v. shows, food, friends.  Only one problem, no sex.  We never had the chemistry that you can only have with true love.  We were always just best friends.  He never treated me poorly and we got along great and everyone thought we were the perfect couple.\nWe finally parted ways and are still very good friends.  I am re-married and he is engaged and both realize what we had was never really a marriage.  We got married for the wrong reasons.  I mean it's great to be with someone you get along with, but if there's no spark it's not going to work.  You will both be unhappy and always wanting more.  I am with a guy now who I enjoy being around and that challenges me.  We don't have the same interests, hobbies and friends but I am happier than I ever was in my first marriage because I am truly in love with him.  Sure I love my ex husband and always will but it's more like brotherly love than anything.  Hope this helps!!
119042
Yes because he did not represent you or did your paperwork for your divorce.  If her current husband is a judge, that would be a different story.
170863
That I loved my ex.  I was young and got pregnant....I didn't love him, but I was scared and allowed myself to be pushed into *gulp*......\n\n.....marriage...by my mom and my ex himself.  If I had have been honest in the first place, we all would have been happier in the end, because (obviously) we got a divorce after a year of marriage.\nThe marriage ended in anger, which we've thankfully moved past, but I always kick myself when I remember what I did. He deserved better than that, and so did I.\nAt least we got a wonderful daughter out of it. The thing about lies is that they only get worse as time goes on. No matter how well you've convinced yourself....
572035
If you choose to get together, keep it absolutely secret!!  Yes, don't even tell your best friends...  Friends take sides in a divorce.  Ex wives and husbands have been known to involve family too, with the dirt of your relationship before a final divorce.  Which in officially, is defined as an affair.  Use the time to get to know each other and bond.  It would be sad for you to risk a friendship for a relationship that no one will accept.
423207
OMG!!!  I can't believe that someone else on earth has had to go through this!!  Last year I found out my husband was having an affair for 9 months with a neighbor of ours.  I was friends with this woman before she moved into our neighborhood, so when she moved in, we quickly became best of friends.  I was very angry, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again.  I had to talk to him because when I filed for divorce, he wanted to talk a settlement in custody of our daughter.  I refused.  I told him that as long as he wanted to be with her, then he wasn't taking my child around HER.  After about 3 months of not living with our family, he decided that he didn't want to be single or with HER for that matter.  I made him jump through a million hoops to come back home (such as switching cell numbers with me, getting a better job, going to counseling, going to AA, plus many more).  Also I made it a condition that if I EVER even THINK that he is talking to her again, then it is OVER FOR GOOD.
203965
Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
525475
Like I said in your previous q's, it is pretty stupid.  If you were going to get a divorce anyway then why didn't you get a divorce first before going back into the dating scene?  The reason I said to divorce first is to avoid the very complication you are in now, which, as you stated, your wife wants to get back with you.  \n\nAlso, keep in mind that you are not being fair to the person you're seeing.  You are dragging her into your drama.   If you want to date other people you should start with a clean slate.  Divorce first.
411461
yes, me...have two sons, both grown, both great guys and am very close to both of them (both straight, but it is not their fault, they were born that way). Ex wife and I are still very good friends to this day. She is happily remarried long ago, I am happy. Win-win situation after the turmoil settled down. Good luck
451840
IF YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR OPINIONS YOU MUST HAVE RESERVATIONS.  I WAS IN A 2 MO. RELATIONSHIP AND WE MOVED IN TOGETHER, IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE, BUT WE WERE READY.  WE ARE BOTH DIVORCED WITH NO CHILDREN.  I HAD MOVED FROM NY AND HE LIVED ON MY BLOCK, WE BEFRIENDED EACH OTHER AND CLICKED, FRIENDS FIRST SEEMS TO WORK.  YES, I KNEW IT WAS SO FAST, BUT I CONSIDERED HOW I CARE ABOUT HIM AND FIGURED THAT WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY ARISES GO FOR IT, THAT IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.  IF IT DOES NOT WORK, I KNOW THAT I MADE AN ATTEMPT.  I FIGURED LIFE IS SHORT, IF I DONT DO IT, I WOULD ALWAYS WONDER WHAT IF.  GOOD LUCK!
469205
why did you get divorced in the first palce? I think you know the anser in your heart of what you want to do, especially if you had to ask online. She does not sound worth it, let her go and find someone that will make you very happy
169411
Have you talked to him about reconciliation through some type of therapy through your church. I have been divorced, and would have preferred reconciliation, but never even talked about it to my ex-wife. She pursued the divorce at first, and I never fought at all, what a mistake. He might have lost that loving feeling, but that is part of life. It will return, given time. and it will be better than before.
85779
This is a common problem that people should really just get over.  Shouldn't you be happy for your friend or even your ex.  Seems real immature to hold a grudge like that.  I say, if you really like the friend, blow off your ex or tell him to suck it up and deal.
642982
I am now divorced to my hubby of 3 1/2 years. (We were together 7 years total). He was cheating on me with my cousin. We have been divorced for over a year now, and at least once a day I think of him. A song on the radio will remind me of him, I will pass a chopper and want to call him to tell him about it (we were bikers), or even something funny will happen and I think, "OMG, my ex would get a kick out of this".\n\nSince the divorce I moved out on my own . I am single because I am still not healed from the hurt he and my cousin caused (they are getting married next month supposedly).  He was my first love, and my best friend. He understood me like no one else- I would not even have to say a word and he would know my thoughts- I miss that. It intriques me that he knew me so well and I have yet to find someone like that- He made me laugh, he was spontaneous and made life exciting. I was pretty anal about things and he took that tendency right out of me.\n\nIf I had the chance I would let him say he missed me- I would let him say he made the mistake (hear say thru friends he has said this to them) and then, I would have some closure and I would know he made the mistakes, not me-