I think deep down inside she hates me, Its her only son and she feels like I am not good enough for him, weve been dating for a year now, we live together, and we have a beautiful relationship, except that his family (mom) doesn't like me. I've never done anything to this woman, except trying to get her acceptance. I don't know what to do anymore. She's the first mom that has never liked me. Please help
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Don't do anything. For whatever reasonit is she just doesn't like you and if she really doesn't have a valid reason, such as you doing something to her or her son, she just won't.  Any little thing you do OR don't do she will take it as something negative and will always have something to complain about.  Always be courteous to her and love her son dearly.  Never change trying to make her happy because you will make yourself unhappy.  Hey if her son loves you is because he likes YOU, not what his mother might want you to be.  Try to live away from her as comfortably as your boyfriend will budge to and when you guys visit just be yourself.  One of two things will happen , she'll eventually warm up to you or hate you even more. Either way don't lose your sense of self.
179869
do u know if she had a relationship before u? cause since she treats u well when ur face 2 face with her, im thinkin that she must be one of the conservative moms who doesnt want her daughter 2 have a boyfri at all. if this's the case u dont have much 2 do but u can talk to ur girl 2 have a chat with her mom 2 convince her that she has the right 2 meet her boyfri. the only other situation i can think of is that she could have heard some bad thing about u. wish u luck bro
246518
I know you love your fiance, but it's obvious his mother doesn't love you.  You're gonna have problems.  I'd tell you to beat her with an aluminum bat, but that wouldn't get you anywhere.  Tell your fiance exactly what you're telling us.  Don't try to avoid conflict, cuz it already exists, and will only get worse.  Have your fiance bring this up with his mother, and try to iron things out.  Is there a reason his mother chooses the other girl over you?  Does his mom even know the real you?  Who you are?  How much you love her son?  That bitch!
277548
I have been married for 5 years now, and my Mother-in-Law has never liked me. While there is no X in this situation I do understand how you feel. At first I tried so hard to be sweet and nice and be the best Daughter-in-law I could be, She only treated me worse and worse until I finally stood up to her and told her she didnt have to like me, but she needed to respect me. She hasnt changed at all and I doubt she ever will. In her eyes I will never be good enough for her son. My advice is for you to be the best person you can be, love her anyway inspite of her snubbing ways. You be the bigger person. You don't need her approval, Your husband's approval is all that counts! He chose you, He loves you, who cares what she thinks. Good luck. Keep your head up & Be Blessed.
211414
It seems to me that she is very jealous of your family and is afraid that too much attention might be showered upon your brother and the new baby. This is very sad for everybody. I'm sure that if she wasn't like she is that your family would welcome her as a part of the group. Maybe she grew up as insecure and in a not so loving family atmosphere and this contributes to her behavior. You might try talking to her and see if she will open up. Maybe that you or your family could offer to go to their house and sit with the baby while they have a nice dinner out. This could be an icebreaker. Good luck to you and your family.
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He has a baby by another before he met you. Her and the baby move away. Now she back in your boyfriends life in a big way. I see how he is close to his child more fathers should be that way. Nothing is wrong with him spending time with his baby. On the another hand the babys mother should not use the child to take your man away from you right now. She is wrong for and her payback will come soon trust me on that. You cant use a child to keep a man from moving on with a new woman. She is the stuid one for that. All out the she just up and wants him back no damn reason. Has she come at you with something. Ask me he really needs to choose not between you and his child but you and his baby's mom. Baby mom is acting like a real bitch. If he really cares about you then he can be with you and his baby without his baby's mom popping up with all her got damn fucking drama. I got a point to what I saying and I know you can find it too. Now more that I can do for you now. From here on out step up and say what you feel to the both of them. Never give up without a fight. It will not be simple but you will make a way to go. Its a rock and a hard place for not only him but now for you as well.
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i was terrified when i met my boyfriends mom. but it didn't go all that badly. just don't cling to him or let him be all over you right in front of his mom. be nice and polite to her, make sure she know's that you really like her son, and don't do anything stupid. but honestly, be yourself too. don't be too nervous, and good luck!!
463380
Yikes! that sounds like a lot to deal with.. but if your gf loves you she'll help her family understand.. Just continue your relationship as you have in the past. As long as youre not abusing your gf her family will have no real reason to dislike you. If the love is there and strong enough you two will get through this.. just dont get mad at your gf for her mother.. she didnt get to choose her parents... Its too bad her mom doesnt see that you two love eachother! \n\nPS.. Kudos to you for surviving a long distance relationship. if you can survive that you can survive a mother
608082
The same thing here. My man's mother more than awful. She's one of those "christains" that quotes the bible and tell you that you're going to hell, but she does every evil thing there is to do. She stole from him, forged his income tax return, lied and manipulate every situation and she told me that if I was to concieve a child, she didn't want no parts of it. I'm writing a book about my experiences with her drama. I ignored her. I stopped playing nice with her after she attack him when he was in the ER. I told her exactly what I thought of her and I ignore her. Eventually, he cut her loose. It was his decision. It's been a year now since we last heard from her. Life has been great and less stressful without her.
495563
Unfortunately we can't control family....not the ones we are born into and certainly not the ones we marry into and with that said as long as you are making every effort to have a peaceful existance the rest is on her.  Mothers love their sons and do some strange things in the name of that love.  Despite her reasons if you and that boy are happy forget about her.  I am curious to know how he responds to her disrespecting you and your child?
527408
Will you dump her already? Move on..she doesn't care about you and lol you think by saying no to her she's going to listen? You're not her father so let her live her life, if you control her, she's going to hate you if she ends up regreting. She knows there is are better things to see and do then to go home to be with you, it hurts but find another girlfriend...don't waste your years waiting!
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well hon I'd say mom is just a bit leery of her little boy dating someone. Most moms are not gonna be overly excited about the prospects of their baby dating seriously.  Try a couple of different things, find out what she is really interested in and try to conversate with her about these things, show an interest in her and not just her son and maybe she will take to you on that point. And finally dress conservatively, if she gets the wrong impression of you by the way you dress then she's not likely to accept you at all.  You could also try talking to her about it, see what her comfort levels are, my MIL is really quiet by nature so it's not me necessarily it's just she isn't comfy talking period.
439416
This is tough, not knowing all the details, but if you really love this girl for all the right reasons, then it will work out! I am a mother of 3 girls, and I have put them through this same situation, but only for a good reason, the guy was generally a jerk, I am not saying you are, that was just my situation. Just be up front with her mom, and honest, and don't hunker down to her, let her know how you feel in a honest kind way, be a man about it. Have respect for her and her mom. Do something special for her mom, give her flowers or invite her to dinner with you and this girl. It will take time but patience will win out. Maybe her mom is over protective, maybe she had a bad experience at that age, and thinks it is happening to her daughter. Just go easy and don't take everything so personal, just be who you are inside that is all you can do, you don't have to prove anything to anyone if you are real with yourself and others. Just live and let live. Good Luck to you.
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My mother in law didnt like me either. She said it wouldnt last a year. Well its been 32 years and we no longer speak to her because she pulled some rel nasty stunts on our children. I say stay with him and ditch the mother in law too.
333036
Wow, what a tough one...\nI feel sorry for you. He has obviously been a victim of manipulation. She has stooped really low here. She realized that tactic would work on him, and she is playing it for all it is worth. He needs to stand up to her, and tell her that kind of logic isn't going to work anymore, if he really feels that way. He can reassure his daughter that just beacuse Mom, and Dad don't get along, it doesn't mean that the love they feel towards her, individually, has waned. She screwed up. Not him. If he wants to fix things between the two of them, there is nothing you can do, though. He needs to figure out what he wants. Unfortunately, you are in the wings right now. The best thing you can do, is be patient. He is confused, and needs time to get his mind straight. If he truely loves you, and you him, he should see that, and come back to you. Be supportive for him. He needs it....
65690
Start by not making an assumption about your boyfriends mom.  She may just simply not be the type to get close to anyone that isn't yet family.  She is also going to be naturally worried that you might eventually hurt her little boy.  Just relax and be yourself, over time you will prove to her that you are worthy of her boys heart.  In the mean time try to talk to her and find out her interests.  If you show an interest in her as a person and not just his mom it will help.  Sometimes it just takes a comment about how you hope that some day you can get to know her better to get her to open up.
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You should just be a good girlfriend and do not let her get in the way of your happiness. Remember to always respect her and that she loves your boyfriend so she will back off sooner or later. Do not try to compete with her, let her look bad and your boyfriend will cling more to you because of her negativity, then she will realize that she is pushing are son away from her and closer to you. Then she will back off for sure.