I have this friend who is so much better than me. Im always in second place it seems. If someone likes her and asks her out, and she says no, they will run to me! Im so sick of being second....what should i do?
218363
Are they running to you as a friend wanting advice on how to date your friend...or are you getting what's like to be called "sloppy seconds"? Either which way, the situation your in does stink...tell your friend whats wrong - that guys that like her and coming up to you after they ask her out...she should straighten them out for you if she's a friend. IF not, a good kick in the "whahoos" will definately push all romatic ideas with you out of a guys head. Just an idea.
147829
Well I am kinda jealous of my friend becuz she's prettier and the guys like her more. i'm different and ppl don't really like that and it hurts my feelings cuz she can get guys' phone numbers and i can't because i'm afriad that i'll get rejected.
431430
No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
85616
I had the same problem. my friend of 6 years kept getting really jealous over my friend of just 2 months. Every time she came close my friend would jump in and pull me away. Not only that she was very close knit. I mean when ever she introduced me to someone she would say "MY BEST FRIEND". It got a little annoying when she wanted me to do the same. It got really bad when she started to make fun of my other friend. That's when I told her, hey listen, you have been my best friend so all these years. And if you think that she is going to steal me away from you, then you must not trust me enough, do you really think i am going to drop you after so many years together? I told her that if i wanted to stop being her friend I would have stopped, but I'm still here. I think you should just tell it to her straight, and if she doesn't believe you, that's her fault.
588221
I've been in this situation.  (Actually I had two friends like this one guy, and used me to get to him since I knew him well.  He wasn't interested in either of them.)  Just be honest with your friend.  Don't give her/him false hope.
314020
yes, find someone who will give you all their time and attention and quit taking leftovers from the other chick. you deserve better.
305291
nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!
182779
thats a tough one. see when someone is that needy they do not see that they actually are chasing away the people they want to befriend. any kind of nice will leave the opening for more ,well are you free next week? i would just say you think she's really nice but you don't really have much in common and your time is limited.
390421
If she turns you down, the worst thing to do is push her. Be friends, be nice, but don't bloat her head with compliments, be real.\n\nIf the two of you are friends, maybe that friendship will bloom into something beautiful (like a relationship or a great friendship). If not, sorry, dissapointment happens. \n\nPlease, please, please do not constantly tell her how great she is. If you do you are belittling yourself...if she is not intrested in dating, be her friend.
596731
I would ask her to stay friends, and if you like(more then a friend) to this friend, go out w/ them. Don't let someone that doesn't really like you mess up a possible relationship that would be better than the one that you are about to get in. trust me, messed up my friendship caused the same thing happened to me!
433311
She could just be jealous. \n Anytime you run into her, ask about her friend.  Leave no doubt in her mind that you want the other girl. \n But be nice, people are influenced a lot by their friends. You do not want to piss her off and have her bad mouthing you to her friend that you ARE interested in.\n Impress them both with your manners and style,but only put the moves on the girl you like.
275758
think positive think what happens if she says yes. i just asked a girl out today with the same question you hade ( see my asked questions the 1 at the top) just start with petty talk and work up. if she says no just think "hey this one didnt like me mabe the next one will"
155778
I don't think anybody else can really help you with this, brotha. It's all based on the decision you make. My advice is if you're digging her, go for her. If you want to be a jerk, go for everybody else. It's not that I'm calling you a jerk, but how do you think she would feel about the whole thing?
296956
Why not suggest that the three of you...maybe invite some other friends...get together and do something.  Does this have to be a tug of war between you for who is going to be this girl's first choice?
507535
Just deal with it as it comes, they won't all ask you out at the same time unless they are all in the same barbershop quartet though.  The annoying guy will be the easiest, just say you would never date someone who was mean to your friends.  The friend guy you have to be honest with, give him the only as a friend bit.  The two you have crushes on you should let them know that you like them but aren't sure what to do, ask to get to know them better.
183222
Here is one of those times it is best to use a diversion tactic.  Since you are close friends with her tell her your interested in another girl.  Hopefully she will realize that telling you she wants to go out with you is a bad idea since your interested in someone else.
475035
just ask her out!! the worst thing she can say is no. and if she says no then just ask someone else out. oh and if she already knows you like her.... ask her out. before she moves on!! =]