dont beat it around the bush please..i work out of town and when i get home my girl weants nothing to do with me,she sleeps fully clothed including her bra i have talked to her reapetedly about this matter,but nothing changes,she goes to bed early when i am away and stays up late when i am here.i spend my time alone in a hotel when on the road.i am faith ful and do nothiing but desire her during my time away...she says she feels the same way but when i am here she seems to want nothing to do with me concerning a sexual nature..i pay rent away from home and send money home every week as well as i said we discuss this all the time even right now..she says nothing and has no response at all .that is why i am asking this question here
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It sounds to me like she has "already left". She may be having an affair while you are gone which may be why she doesn't want to have sex with you or sleep with you the way she used to. You are supporting her, that's all. Respect yourself and leave or ask her to leave if it's your place and you are paying the bills. The relationship sounds like it is already over.
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I am not a man, but couldn't resist answering this one.  He doesn't want you to be out all night long, he is thinking if you are out all night long then you are spending the night with another man.  He says he is glad you don't care anymore, but his actions speak louder than words.  Keep on acting like you don't care and see how fast he wants to come back home.
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well.. if you like the stress, drama, and heartache of this relationship, open your door to her. but if you want any chance of stability, don't answer her calls anymore. This is not a mature or stable relationship. All i can say is.. the sex must be good!!
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do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
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Your exploiting them like they are a f***ing freak show. Your second to last sentence states that very clearly. Your girlfriend has very right to be pissed if they are sleeping with her and she doesn't want them to. They don't have beds? Give me a break they are small not helpless. Why do you feel the need to do this? Is it a need or a want? It seems like your just fulfilling your owns wants and not caring about her at all.That would make you the dirty w****. Oh, and an a** for making her have to put up with them for three extra months, without asking her first. Do you always talk about your friends like they are a novelty; like a bad-ass posse, or say it's "great" when we go to the bar. And what does sponsor mean? Are you providing food/ housing to them? Is your gf living with you too? Will this be effecting her lifestyle? If so, she has every right to kick you and your little friends to the curb. Unless your gonna let her sponsor a "gaggle" of her kind of people when the time may arise, and not say a word about it.
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You're being used. She's leading you on. \n\nThe whole purpose of dating and romance becoming bf/gf is so that people who find each other sexually attractive can get together.  If actual sexual contact doesn't follow pretty quickly, what were the two of you doing going on dates and being romantic?  All that dating and romance is not what people who are "just friends" do.\n\nThe payoff for her is that she gets to feel cared about in a romantic way, and probably you are being a gentleman and paying for her share of a lot of stuff.  The payoff for you is ...frustration and a depleted bank balance.\n\nDo you want to be in a relationship with a woman who says "I love you because you won't have sex with me (even though I can tell you really want to.)"\n\nEither she's leading you on, or she has a lot of self-esteem issues.  Neither scenario makes for a good relationship.\n\nA long time ago I heard a man explain to his friends "I don't pay for what I don't sleep with."  At the time I thought it was callous.  But I think it's an appropriate response with women like the one you have, who want you to pay for them, buy them gifts, be their boyfriend in public, sleep at your house evey night . . . but don't want to have sex with you.  Adults are sexual beings with sexual needs.  Once you are an adult, that's what boyfriends and girlfriends and committed relationships are for.  If she's not getting that, then it's time for you to move on.
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Probably nothing more than what appears is going on.  She's having a very rough time at work and needs your support, not you whining about not getting sex.  Comfort her, and when her work finally slacks off, she will be much more appreciative of your patience than your impatience.
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l think it might have something to do with your job, for instance, do you do ANYTHING that puts your life in jepardy? You should talk to her about it. It'll make her feel more secure to know you care.
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This sounds like a situation your girl needs to work out herself.  And I do mean by herself, she needs to really masterbte (I spelled it wrong so it wouldn't get bleaped out).  Maybe she could drink a little, (just to relax, like 2 beers or a glass of wine) and by herself in a dark room at night just before she will go to sleep, she should really get intouch with what all her stuff is like down there.  Any time a child is restricted from exploring their genitals they tend to disconnect with how good it feels to be touched there.  So your girl needs to re-explore her parts.  Most women are not sexually arroused by the first touch...it's dry, fingers are a little rough, and it takes TIME to find the right softness/ pressure that is neccsary.  Sometimes masterbting is a work out, you have to build up.  Also, at the top center where all the folds kinda come together is the clit.  All the penis like feelings of orgasm that she can get will come from there.  Like a penis head it wants smooth wet, but not to slippery, friction.  Also like the penis it gets hard.  Above the clit running vercically (up and down) there is a blood vessel like tube, also like the part that makes a penis erect, which can fill with blood raising itself and the clit making them "hard".  No orgasm will be accomplished without this happening to some degree.  However, unlike men women dont get "hard" at just the thought of sex.  A women has to feel comfortable, relaxed, free with her body, all body parts of a woman can be building up to getting her "hard".  If your girl can lay alone and think maybe about if her hands were your hands.  Tell her before then how much you love her body and rub her whole body gently and tell her she has soft yummy skin and kiss it, etc.  Then she could be more free with where she touches cause the night before or whatever you touch her all over and were clearly thinking loving thoughts and so she can go back to that and use her own hands to do the next thing that feels good.  I really beleive that she can do it.  But remember you have to change it up what feels good to get hard wont do the trick to get off.  You know you cant just wiggle a litlle and go, you got to work it up and end with a grand finale.  P.S. never forget the nipples!
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She obviously feels a little awkward about being "touchy-feely" with you.  Maybe she thinks you will view it as a sexual overture, when she really does not want to have sex.  Maybe she thinks it is too forward for a woman to be touchy feely. Whatever the reason, why dopn't you try to TELL her what you would like in this situation.
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It's best for you to be a little honest and ask for what you want...you might be ok with it now...but if it keeps up you might get a bit resentful about it. And if you don't tell her, she might not even know! She might think that you are fine the way things are cause you're not saying anything...most important thing I've learned about relationships...gotta ask for what you want...your partner is not a mind reader!
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sorry to say this, but your wife sounds trife! any woman who wont recognize a man thats willing to take care of you and you cant even make sure he comes home to a clean house? she sounds verrrry comfortable. like she knows she "got you". she probably talks shit about you to her girlfriends. do you go away alot? talk to her, if that doesnt work, tell her to kick rocks!! you dont sound happy with her, you should always be happy.
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Let her go, move on and be glad you didn't waste a lot of time on this...she she doesn't sound as if she knows what she really wants....did she want to be intimate, or was she doing it out of appreciation for giving her a place to stay?...being that she's the one who brought that up, where did that idea spring from?!\nAs a girl, sneaking out of bed in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch means she's upset and wants you to notice and feel sorry for her and follow her to offer comfort...it's part of the game.\nLet her go and find someone who will communicate openly and honestly and not play games.
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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I think that your communication is weak. She might be massageing her ego, or being curious, These are things that do come up when things appear to get old. Your reaction is what set her off. You care a lot about her. This is very hard but you must try and let this go, be strong and confident in yourself, that is attractive. She must be looking for some juice, look at yourself, and find out way, then dont cry. Dont be a whiner demander of all, and need s everthing as if mother was home. You have to accept that she loves life and all tha goes with it. We areHungry for love, You must try and live with some pain to build are heart for future desire. Be a cool bad ass man that has love coming his way. Dont just demand it. live it, be it.
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Lucky you. Does she want something more than a handyman service? Likely.\n\nNext time, try making a comment about how she makes it hard to concentrate on your work when all you can think about is her attractive, naked figure. Wonder out loud about perhaps trying working around her house naked to see if you could be as comfortable with it as she is. Tell her that you've had to find looser pants to come over and work for her due to the restriction that you don't find when working for anyone else, and that you found it helpful to switch from briefs to boxers, or nothing, to relieve the pressure.\n\nShe'll either make it obvious that she'd like you to do some work on her, or that she was happier when you could ignore her nudity and just do the work.\n\nDoes she always stay close by when you're working, or does she just cruise by now and again? If she's always around, I'd say you may as well bring the lube next time... scratch that, she probably has her own. If she just peeks in from time to time, she's probably just getting off on being a tease.\n\nIn any case... good luck.
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Sounds like she's cheating on you.  Cheating isn't based solely on sex.  Just ask her what's going on with what you found out online.  Ask her if she likes this guy and if she wants to be with him, because you want her to be happy.  Not holding hands, not wanting to have sex, not wanting to be close...are all signs that she's not into you anymore.  You definately need to confront her about how she feels about you and your relationship.\n\nJ