my coworker who's been there like a month longer than me got a new flat screeen monitor.  i started crying becfause i think its bs that i didn't get one.  now my boss wants to have a "talk" with me.  what hsould i be worried about if anything
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I'm not sure there is a right or wrong here. The company may have only budgeted for 1 new monitor (for now). I think if anything, your boss may want to talk to your about crying. Sometimes our emotions can get the best of us, but in a work enviorment, we need to be descrete. Crying can be viewed as unprofessional.
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Get one of those voice activated recorders and when he confronts you, make sure it's on.  Then take the recording to your boss - if she/he doesn't do anything about it, you may be out of luck.  Worse comes to worse see an attorney- this could sexual  harassment and that's illegal!
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The important part is learning from the mistake.\n\nIf your supervisor knows that it was you, then he has already made his choice as to how he wanted to deal with the incident. My guess is that many people you work with have made similar mistakes... otherwise he would not have spoken to the entire group. He wants everybody to learn. If it was just you, then he probably would have spoken to you personally.\n\nAsking if the customer named names really has no learning value in it for you. All you'll get is a yes, or a no.\n\nThe most important thing in a work place (and life!) is to learn from the times we mess up. Don't be hard on yourself. If you need help to improve, ask for guidance.\n\nBest Wishes... and don't beat yourself up... it's a waste of energy... hope things get better for you! ~ Andrea
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Be very proud of yourself that you are an admitted thief....what a nice thing to tell us about your character. And you are certainly trustworthy, aren't you. Do you really think the boss isn't going to notice the inventory missing? Sorry, but time to grow up. Perhaps the boss thought you were all cleaning up, serving customers, ya know, the stuff you were being paid to do???? But with your work ethics, what a stupid thing to think. Sure wish I knew where you work (I use the term VERY loosely)...you wouldn't be there long. Grow up fast. You will all be fired very soon. I certainly hope you do not need this job as a reference.
53992
Oh my gosh, did you work at the same place I did?  Your story sounded exactly like the situation I had.  Management and supervisory positions had changed at my work and from then on, the nightmare began.  The witch who rose to power was a narcissitic, egotistical backstabber who made it so unbearable for everyone. She continuously found it amusing to berate, belittle and degrade each and every employee in the company by telling us that we were underworked and so grossly over-paid (we all made more $$$$ than her). Someone who is in the psychology field said that this supervisor's had low self-esteem issues (she weighs close to 300 lbs.)and it is satisfying to her to put others down in order to feel better about herself.  She can't control her weight so she tried to control others.  Unfortunately, confronting this supervisor only compounded to the problem, as she could not take constructive criticism from ANY employee...and talking to the owner of the company proved to be useless, as he always avoided any type of problem or confrontation issue.  Since I did not have an advocate or anyone I could really turn to, the stress of going to work every day was taking it's toll on my health.  For peace of mind and sanity, I gave them my two weeks notice but did not burn my bridges upon my resignation. It is a good idea to have something lined up to go to, especially if you need the income and medical benefits.  You really don't want to be at the mercy of your current employer when it comes to recommendations or verifications.  Good luck.....
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I would have been very flattered! You arent going to get anywhere in life without taking risks. However since i am not her I might have been embarrased or upset since I was at work. But you'll never know now will you?
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I understand how frustating that could be but don't get yourself all worked up over it.  Keep doing what you are supposed to do.  Don't worry about your co-worker.  I'm pretty sure that your employer will catch up to him or her eventually.
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That was funny.\n\nRead this one\n\n"There is always one" : Call centre conversations\n\nThere's always one. This has got to be one of the funniest things in a long time. I think this guy should have been promoted, not fired. Thisis a true story from the Word Perfect Helpline, which was transcribed from a recording monitoring the customer care department. Needless to say the Help Desk employee was fired; however, he/she is currently suing the Word Perfect organization for "Termination without Cause".\n\nActual dialogue of a former WordPerfect Customer Support employee.\n(Now I know why they record these conversations!):\n\nOperator: "Ridge Hall, computer assistance; May I help you?"\nCaller: "Yes, well, I'm having trouble with WordPerfect."\nOperator: "What sort of trouble??"\nCaller: "Well, I was just typing along, and all of a sudden the words went away."\nOperator: "Went away?"\nCaller: "They disappeared."\nOperator: "Hmm. So what does your screen look like now?"\nCaller: "Nothing."\nOperator: "Nothing??"\nCaller: "It's blank; it won't accept anything when I type."\nOperator: "Are you still in WordPerfect, or did you get out??"\nCaller: "How do I tell?"\nOperator: "Can you see the C: prompt on the screen??"\nCaller: "What's a sea-prompt?"\nOperator: "Never mind, can you move your cursor around the screen?"\nCaller: "There isn't any cursor: I told you, it won't accept anything I type."\nOperator: "Does your monitor have a power indicator??"\nCaller: "What's a monitor?"\nOperator: "It's the thing with the screen on it that looks like a TV.\nDoes it have a little light that tells you when it's on??"\n\nCaller: "I don't know."\nOperator: "Well, then look on the back of the monitor and find where the power cord goes into it. Can you see that??"\nCaller: "Yes, I think so."\nOperator: "Great. Follow the cord to the plug, and tell me if it's plugged into the wall. Caller: "Yes, it is."\nOperator: "When you were behind the monitor, did you notice that there were two cables plugged into the back of it, not just one??"\n\nCaller: "No."\nOperator: "Well, there are. I need you to look back there again and find the other cable."\nCaller: "Okay, here it is."\nOperator: "Follow it for me, and tell me if it's plugged securely into the back of your computer."\nCaller: "I can't reach."\nOperator: "Uh huh. Well, can you see if it is??"\nCaller: "No."\nOperator: "Even if you maybe put your knee on something and lean way over??"\nCaller: "Oh, it's not because I don't have the right angle - it's because it's dark."\nOperator: "Dark??"\nCaller: "Yes - the office light is off, and the only light I have is coming in from the window."\n\nOperator: "Well, turn on the office light then."\nCaller: "I can't."\nOperator: "No? Why not??"\nCaller: "Because there's a power failure."\nOperator: "A power...................................... A power failure?\nAha, Okay, we've got it licked now. Do you still have the boxes and manuals and packing stuff your computer came in??"\nCaller: "Well, yes, I keep them in the closet."\nOperator: "Good. Go get them, and unplug your system and pack it up just like it was when you got it. Then take it back to the store you bought it from."\nCaller: "Really? Is it that bad?"\nOperator: "Yes, I'm afraid it is."\nCaller: "Well, all right then, I suppose. What do I tell them??"\nOperator: "Tell them you're too f*%king stupid to own a computer".\n\nBYE - Imtiyaz
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I agree with the previous advice of discussing a possible misunderstanding with him.  Tell him you didn't understand that he wanted you to do this, but now that you do, ask him what you can do to help resolve the situation now.  Once this particular problem is handled, then ask him what you can do to make communication clearer between the two of you; as part of that discussion you can diplomatically point out to him that, perhaps, putting expectations in writing in the future might be helpful to you both.  If these things don't work and he insists on making it an issue at review time, or holding it against you during salary administration, then (and only then) get HR involved.
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Your employer might have blocked it, unless he says it's okay to use it at work.\n\nHope that helps.
333200
I try to put myself in the other's shoes in regard to if I had to hear this news, who would I prefer to hear it from?\n\nThe answer is clear.  I would much rather get it from my office mate than be embarassed in front of my boss as a new employee.  I would also respect the person for being straight with me and not whimping out by telling the boss.  After all how hard is it to figure out where the complaint might have come from?  After talking to the boss, the guy is libel to come back and ask, "Do you think I smell?"  Then what do you say?\n\nTell him politely as possible over lunch one day.  He will be grateful to you.
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Are these issues about other employees that you don't know or from office gossip?  I would learn to do my job and feel the place first before voicing opinions.  They may start seeing you as a trouble maker and avoid you later.  Try to use your past experience in ways to benefit your current position to perform and excel your duties, then they will see you in a different way to listen more from your performance. Remember action speaks louder than words.
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If the email truly was as bad as you indicate, then I don't think that your boss actually thinks that you are sensitive, despite what he said. He probably feels a bit of responsibility for not dealing with the situation earlier, and now feels compelled to justify his lack of action. He may feel that by labeling you as "sensitive", then he is off the hook for not taking corrective action earlier, because he "didn't think it would bother you". I have a feeling he is trying to say "Wow, I failed to realize that this was a situation worthy of my intervention, and I'm sorry that my lack of action caused you suffer." The first part came out as "The guy is an a**" and the second part came out as "I didn't know you were so sensitive". This boss is just a poor communicator and is looking to defend himself. I wouldn't worry about looking like a "composed professional" in his eyes, as he is not acting like a true leader anyway.
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It's obvious that this man is no longer your "friend". \n\nThere's not a whole lot that you can do in this situation. You cannot control what he says/thinks/feels. You can control, however, your own feelings and reactions. \n\nMany people react this way because they feel that you're a threat (perhaps you got a raise and he didn't, or you received  an employee of the month and he didnt). Maybe you've done something in the work area that has hurt him in some way. \n\nRegardless of what the situation is, you can't control his action, ever. Don't deal with it. Ignore him if that is possible. You can also speak to your boss about the situation and ask that either he be removed, that you work different shifts, or that you work in different areas. \n\nRemember that the more you react, it's likely, that he will continue to be immature and will continue to spread rumors. Also remember that the more you react, the more your co-workers will begin to believe him, or will begin to dislike you because of rash behavior. React calmly and let your boss, "friend", and co-workers know that you are the more mature and that none of this is true or your fault.\n\nI hope this helped, best of wishes.
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It's because you feel like you're abandoning your boss. It sounds like you're very loyal to the man and you don't want to leave him hanging minus one employee. But in the long run, I think, you made the right choice for yourself, and that's nothing to feel guilty about.
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Nope, if you are dissatisfied about your job, he prolly knows already.  It's one way to break it to him.  Also, you have to remember that he might not care, or he might have noticed. he might have been thinking of something else.
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THIS IS EITHER A LOUSY WAY TO PROMOTE YOUR COMPANY OR A EQUALLY BAD WAY TO ASK A QUESTION.\n     ARE YOU ASKING WHERE YOU CAN FIND THINGS TO BLING YOUR DESK AT WORK? OR WHERE TO FIND GIFTS TO SUCK UP TO THE BOSS? NOBODY RESPECTS A KISS ASS BROWN NOSE SO I HOPE YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO HARD TO GIVE MANAGMENT A GIFT THAT WILL REMAIN ON HIS/HER DESK AS A CONSTANT REMINDER OF YOU THAT COULD BACKFIRE BIGTIME GO SIT IN THE BATHROOM TIRED AND DIRTY TRYING TO HIDE TILL FIVE THIRTY