he said he wanted to get settle on base first just got there monday how long should i wait for him to get settle? i want to get a job and apartment first instead of waiting on him to do it. he is a drill sargent.
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I would give him two months, this gives you time to make some phone calls and connections and will give both of you plenty of time to decide if this is truly what you want.
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You must go to the base that they are on. Most Commanders don't like it when this happens either. You will get what you want right away. Ask for a supervisor when you get there and you will have no problem. There are company's that do this for a living if you do not want to do this.
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To join the military is a big adjustment period.  Let alone with a child already.  First you have to realize that there isn't one job in the Army where you can say 100% that you will not deploy.  Now deploying means anywhere from Kosovo to Iraq.  I have two children of my own.  I didn't have any when I joined.  Due to training, Temporary Duty in places where I'm not stationed, and Deployments I have missed both child births, both first steps, and both first words.  Is it hard?  Of course.  Is it worth it?  I believe it is.  Now also realize I'm an Active Duty soldier.  When I deploy it involves a lot of training before hand which means weeks away from home and long hours before I'm gone for a year.  For NG and Reservists deploying means "mobing" at an Army base for up to 6 months followed by a year long deployment.  As far as the push ups and the climbing goes. Ask your boyfriends father to teach you the correct push up form and start working on it before hand.  The minimum you have to reach by the end of training is 40 pushups, I believe, for the age group you're in.  Basic Training is hard but not impossible.  When things get hard just remember that you aren't the first female to go through it and you won't be the last.  I'm also an Army Brat.  My dad served two tours in Vietnam as well as Panama, Somalia, Bosnia, and the first gulf war.  I'm extremely proud of him and he helps me in my current carrier when I have leadership challenges.  Your boyfriends dad may or may not tell you what you want to hear.  He has a tough job though and I couldn't really blame him.  However my recruiter worked for my dad at one point so I got straight answers.  Ask him and when he tells you see how it makes you feel.  This is a decision you have to make for yourself.  You are responsible for raising your child and if this is the best way you can then go for it.  Is it better for a child to have a homeless family who's there all the time or a taken care of home who's parents are gone for periods at a time?  Granted that there are in betweens but I hope this kinda puts things in perspective.
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A lot of training but generally shorter deployments. Not home a lot but higher job satisfaction. If you can't handle that, tell him now, instead of telling him by phone when he's in a combat zone.
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Have his beach det admin office send you a copy of his deployment orders. This may be a bit difficult if you don't have a power of attorney from him though.
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Sounds like he isn't quite as ready as he thought.  Give him time and don't rush things.
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I assume that he's there for basic training.  I went to basic at Ft. Sill OK about 3 years ago now and I can tell you this.  SEND MANY MANY MANY LETTERS!!!!  My mom sent me at least a card or a note or something every single day.  I'm sure some other people that read this will make their comments about that, but I will tell you what, it is very very motivating and comforting to know that your family is thinking about you and cares for you.  Mail call was probably my favorite part of the day every single day.  You should hear from him soon.  maybe not by phone for awhile, but more than likely at least a letter with his address.  As I recall we didn't get phone privliges until about our 2nd or 3rd week.  He will also spend a few days at a reception battalion before he acctually starts basic.  he might get a few minutes to talk while there.  his phone calls will more than likely be very very short as there is normally very few phones for many many people to use.  God Bless your family and your son!  I hope this helps at least a little.  If you have any other quesions, feel free to e-mail me!
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if he's in boot camp he's at mcrd witch is in san diego. he'll be there for 3 month training. he will not go to pendelton until his third phase of boot camp. ooops maybe the second for the rifle range. after that it will be humping{hiking} up and down the hills of pendelton and going to live fire rangers where they are trained on weapons. i myself went to Parris Island for training but i was stationed in pendelton and used to watch the recruits train. if he is through with boot camp and is at pendelton for school it all depends on what school he is there for. if it is infantry training he'll be doing a lot of running and weapons training...
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There should still be people staffing the base where his unit was stationed. Call the base and see if they can give you an APO address or if they can hook you up with the base postal facility.
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Depends on the housing  and waiting list.  Technically, you only qualify for a 2 BR unit, but if there are no 2 BR units where you get stationed, you will be bumped up to a 3 BR automatically IF there is room.  Some bases do not have much available for Junior enlisted, while others have mostly JE housing.  How long you would have to wait on housing also depends on your control date( date you left your last duty station or school) , what you are entitled too, and the availability of units.  Wait lists can be as little as one day to as long as 2 years.  Quality and type/style will also vary from base to base, from apartment styles to townhouses to free standing homes.  some will be brand new or newly refurbished, and others will be rat holes.  \n\nHousing is unfurnished, although there are lending closets availble for use until your HHG arrive( usually up to 30 days).  \n\nif the housing is PPV and has gone to the utilities billing, you will be given allowance of part of your BAH that will go towards utilities.  a ceiling will be established, based ont he average usage of electricity heat and water for the area and size unit.  if you stay below that ceiling, you will pay nothing out of pocket and may indeed qualify for a refund.  If you go over that ceiling, you will pay the difference.  Cable, phone and  internet all come out of your pocket.  If the PPV housing has not yet gone to billing, utilities are included, but your entire BAH will  come right back out.  \n\nIf the unit is NOT PPV, you only pay cable, phone and internet, all utlities are included, and you  forefeit BAH entirely.
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I dont think he should have to repay it.  I lost my twin brother in Iraq in July.  I didnt know you could get out of military because of it though.  I thought you could only do it in peace time?  I know this is supposed to be an answer and not a question but if you know more could you email me.  Im not in Iraq but I am serving in Korea.  I dont know if I want out but sometimes I feel like I should but would like to know how if I decide to.
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Well I went through the same things so I can tell you EXACTLY what she have to expect to happen. He is already in the army and at his duty station, which mean that she is NOT in his orders. They can get married but they are NOT going to move her or the kids (if any) because they weren't married BEFORE he got the orders. So as far as the military is concerned, the marriage mean NOTHING. After he comes back home for good or get orders to be stationed somewhere else then its a process (About 2-3weeks) (maybe shorter or longer) to get in the DoD system) he have to go through to get his wife and the kids (if any) in the system so that they can be included in his orders next time. My husband is in the Marines and he got orders to Japan. We got married after he received his orders so i had to wait until his two year were up (which will be next month) before me and our child were included in his orders. So from next month on out me and our daughter will be able to travel with him where-ever he goes....if I can answer any more questions just let me know, cause I KNOW 1st hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As far as housing goes once he is stationed at another base or whateva they an get on base housing (if available) if not he can get BHA (Basic Housing Allowance)...which will pay for them to live in civilian housing off-base. So they can get married and YES it can work out even though there is a HIGH divorce rate for the military..it all depends on them if they willing to make it work...(Its hard at times though but they just have to be strong)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm sorry, but he's not.  My hubby is on cycle break, thank goodness.  However, I'm checking on this for you as we speak and I'll do an edit when I have your answer.\n\nEDIT:  I'm so happy to help in any way that I can.  Military life comes full circle for many of us.  We were the "young'uns", now, we're the "old folks".  Never be afraid to ask questions.  Military life is a life like none other and we ALL need support.\n\nI really am glad you asked a question and specifically pointed me out.  However, my info is pretty limited as of right now.  Ft. Sill is closed due to our weather conditions.  Hubby won't be able to check much until he goes back in.  Anyways, this is what we have:  19 January should stand as graduation date.  That would be 9 weeks BCT and 2 weeks exodus.  We do fill up fast here and I'm glad you worked it all out ahead of time.  Hubby is going to try to check on exact dates of exodus.  Is your son coming home??  What a great present I'm sure that would be for you.  I'm glad his letters are upbeat.  That's a good sign.  Most of the Drill's here are cool.  We love all of them in our unit.  They really want these guys to succeed.  The phone number to the unit I think your son is in is (580) 442-1304.  I'm sure you already have his number, but this is what I deducted from the info you've given.  Your best bet is to call them....they do need to answer your questions.  I know they don't like to be bothered by family members, but you have a lagit question and they can answer it.  Since hubby is in a different unit, it's hard to get exact info other than knowing everything is on schedule for what's posted and that's the same he has.\n\nGood luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful.  If I do find anything else out, I'll be sure to post it on here.  Be sure to yell "HI" to me while you're in town!!  I can't even begin to tell you what an awesome experience graduation will be.  Enjoy!!\n\nEDIT2:  I wrote your e-mail addy down.  How did you find me??  I haven't answered any other questions of yours and you seem to know me so well.  Anyways, glad I can help and if I find anything else, you'll know about it.
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Hi there, as a former AF type of 8 years I think I can answer this pretty easily. We'll take the questions in order.\n\nBasic training length? With travelling, waiting for the class to arrive or the like, you can expect the time of going to the MEPS station and completing AF Basic to be approximately 2 months long.\n\nWill you be able to spend time with him after that? That all depends on you, him, and the training school he gets arranged to go to after Basic. You can go and see him graduate from Basic, and spend the day with him, but that would be about it for being in Texas. Typically, to assure a smooth transition, new airmen get travel orders directly from Basic to their tech school. This tech school can be another 2 months long if it's small, or as long as mine, of a year and change for cryptolinguist studies. You can figure on an average of 3-6 months for tech school though.\n\nSpending time apart? It happens. I was in the military for 8 years, and of that I spent about 3 and a half years of that overseas. Typically, unless you're deployed to a war zone like the Middle East is right now, an overseas deployment is no more than 1 year long in duration. Either way, the biggest thing that both you and he need to realize here is this... once he signs on the dotted line his life is leased out to Unka Sam.. he goes where they say, when they say it, and for how long they want him to be there. Maybe half that time it will be for stuff that you're not allowed to go, or that if you chose to go the finances for it would be strictly on the two of you. Speaking as someone that faced that, trust me, unless one of you has some excessive funds stored up already, trailing after him is a very tiring and expensive endeavor. I'm not saying it can't be done, it's just difficult for young people to accomplish according to the AF's rules.\n\nWould it be easier to be married before-hand? Yes and no. You would have legal right to be with him in locations that allow family members to be with their spouse. However as an E1-E2 airman, he would be at the bottom of the list for getting on-base housing. You can get a housing allowance to live off base, but depending on what state you're in, it rarely will cover what you need. When I lived off base in California I had to come up with about 55% of my housing costs out of my own pocket, which hurt the finances, a lot. So, if you truly wanted to be there with him and have legal right to get covered in the housing clause and such, getting married before-hand can allow for such. However...I don't know any personal background here.. but time has proven in the past that giving time for him to accustom himself to AF life first is best if you want him to get all that he can out of the career choice. You can't be with him during Basic. You can't be with him during tech school. Usually leave is granted after the tech school and he reports to his first duty station, and if the hunger and desire to be wed is even stronger then than it is now... that has been the best time for friends I have known to actually get married. So many that did the deed before they went into Basic came out from the schools... different... and so much time apart.. it was awkward.. and ended badly. Like I said though. I don't know your circumstances... but if it was me.. I'd wait.. it's the smarter route to go in today's tumultous times.\n\nWould he have to live on base? As a young airman? yes. He could only live off-base with special permission, or if there was NO available dorms on the base that he'll be stationed at. As a single airman, it takes 2+ years before you have enough time to get the permission. As a married couple you are placed on a shorter list if no on-base housing is available.. but still... it takes time. My friend in NJ had his wife living 35 minutes away in a crummy apartment for nearly 3 years before they could get the permission for him to be allowed to
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Tell him that EVERYONE there all has to learn the same stuff. Some will pick things up quickly, some more slowly. He can look up almost anything on the internet like how to make a bunk, fold his socks, drilling and marching commands......but remember, he will have PLENTY of time to learn all that when he gets there. They will not expect anyone to know anything when they get there. They kind of pride themselves in the so-called secrets of boot camp. If he can just pick up a few things here and there before he goes, he will be WAYYYYY ahead of the bunch.l The most important thing is that he needs to start getting into shape now, or else he will be in hell the first few weeks. Every little bit helps
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i would advise you to get an appointment with your command sgt-major in your batallion.true he's a lifer but he is also pretty sharp.He did not become a SGT/Major for being stupid.He could guide you in the right direction.Also get in touch with your Pio\n[public information officer]Go to the internet and contact the associatuion of realators from whatever state oyur from.Contact also the directorof education on your base command.Ask questions a lot of questions.Don't  think your being dumb no matter what they sound like ask anyway.You'd be amazed how many people want to help you all you need to do is simply ask.Real-estate is risky but life is risky.Your in a place today where its "Extremely"dangerous.But you have managed to stay alive.You've kept you ass to the ground and your gear in check.You have "Suvvior"Marine.If you can stay alive under these conditions the rest of life is a "Picnic"But there are "Sharks"in civilian life as well as in a combat"Z*O*N*E* you have tools out here that will protect you as there are ways to protect you in the "Marines"out here your weapons are your instincts friends and connections.but you can make it hell you made basic training you made combat just as your Sgt./Major  and your di's taught\nyou how to march be aharp and alert.Out here there are weapons that are needed as well.people out here will lie and cheat you make no mistake about that\nMarine.Its sad but true.If all fails you have the military to fall back upon.Consider if you do 20 in the marines you have a good pension your  just in your 30', 18+20 is 37 do what you want but you can't do much better.a full pension before your 40\nhow many civiliAn firms can offer you that.Get the best deal before you make a decision.Walk carefully marine there is a different "Mine"-Field out here.Take advantage of all your exposed too.The key is education.That is what opens up the "M*A*G*I*C*\ndoor.If Real-Estate is you thing "GO-FOR-IT-MARINE\nGo all the way get locked into a firm that pays the highest commission rate one that takes care of their people and rewards then for their "Efforts"\nA company that has a philosphy of hurrah for ma and screw you don't touch then with a 10 foot pole.Avoid them them like you'd avoid a "SNIPER"\nStay close to your "Dad" he is no dummy.He worked hard all his life.For Who? your mother his women and his sons and daughters.He loves you and if necessary would die for you your his Pride "Marine"\nhe misses you and his wife cry's for your welfare.I have 2 girls and just recently a grand-daughter.\nThey work.Thje one is in retail and is a manager of a chain.The other is in civil service.A good girl.\nI did not raise any whores.They are my pride.shelly my oldest will be a president of a chain one day.Kitty is content being a mother wife,taking care of her husband.Well hell Marine i got to get out of here.Take care of yourself be good to your mother&Dad make then "Proud" Marine.may the good lord take a liking to you and watch over you.\nMost Respectfully,\nMichael Obrien\nscreamingeagles3@yahoo.com\nJanuary 08,2006\nMessage Sent>4:22 Est<
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If you know what unit he is in call the base that he is located at. If you do not know if he is reserve you can find out what state his unit is located and call the militaryt bases in that state!