I heard that some women go for the bad boy kind an that they dont want to even think of giving a avg guy like me a chance. In case u dont know what describes a avg guy its one that dont drink or do drugs an likes to hangout an talk an stuff an doesnt like gettin in trouble or doin bad things that would hurt him or the ppl around him unlike the bad boy type ive heard they dont care about that an i guess thats why women want to bewith them.
198873
where were you when I was younger
593875
I have the same problem with women... i cant seem to find one that doesnt go for stupid druggies.... i would to find a girl who is intelligent, confident, assertive, caring, and not shallow..... maybe we are sharing sumting in common? =) im guessing this is common but other ladies on answers have told me to hold out for the best and thas what im doing.... u shud do the same.... sont cheat ureslef, set the standards high!
224852
Good Question!\n\nWell…Over the course of my thirty-nine years of living, I’ve noticed this time and time again. And the thing that I find interesting about this is, most women that I’ve known over the years say that they want a good man, yet, they choose the opposite. It basically ties into the example of the male in their lives as they grew up. Most of the ladies, didn’t have a true example of a man or father figure that displayed how a woman was suppose to be treated, therefore, when it came time for them to choose their mate they had a tendency to choose the wrong one. Have you ever noticed how a certain lady can continue to choose the same type of man (abusive, etc.)? Well, if you would sit down and have a conversation with her then you will find out why she does so. Somewhere within herself she feels that she deserves it and she’s not worthy to receive love, which is not true at all. My sister was one of them, but now she’s learned how to love herself and the man that’s in her life knows how to treat a lady.\n\nBe blessed.
403590
Its kind of out of the locker room with men.  Alot of people think its a competition to get as many girls as they can.  Get alittle deeper on the topic and what it is, is ALOT of men dont want to commit.  They "bounce" because they want to keep living in the past so to speak.  They also tend to use women as confidence boosts for themselves.  When their feeling alittle down about themselves they will go out and flirt with women who they think are desperate, or just women in general.  But remember not all men are like this.\n\nIve tried to answer this for along time and this is the best I can do.  I see it from a males side aswell, why do so many women accept this aswell? (but not as many as men)\n\nBut personally I would prefer quality over quantity.  Kind of hard to make love to someone you just met that night.  Sex without love just dosnt rank all to high with me.  And anyone who says it does, really hasnt done much with their lives :(
674100
because bad boys are excititing but more than that is has everytthing to do with how the women grew up and their famly dynamics, stable etc can be boring to a woman who has only know chaos growing up and they crave that stimulation as it is familiar.It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their innerworld.There are healthy women out there, just look for red flags and trust your intution.
562999
yeah i think so because it just sort of seems that women are more understanding towards people being themselves. i dont think ive ever met a guy that doesnt have a problem with a gay man. of course most guys do like lesbians tho but thats mostly cuz they are pervs lol, j/k. i think it just creeps guys out because they cant see themselves doing things with another man, women on the other hand will get drunk and kiss a chick and not care a bit.
198942
Well....not everyone learns their lesson.  I'd rather be with a handsome sweet honest guy.  Sometimes girls dont learn that "bad boys" are toxic and they just keep going after them cause they want to "help" them.  Though...It is far better to be with one who is nice and appreciates you.\n\nI also dont understand the opposite, nice guys with girls who are drama queens and treat them like dirt and tear their heart out and rip it to shreads so that they can hardly believe that there are good girls out there.
292278
How unfortunate that women think that way, yes.  But I don't abide by that whatsoever.  I wanted a good guy from the very beginning.  The only thing that made me go for teh bad boy instead was the lame reasoning, "you're too good for me".  Of course, the same generalization can be said for men too.  "All they want are women that put out". \nBottom line, I think good guys are wonderful; and I'm sure many women would agree with me.  So they're not flashy like corvettes, and are more like honda Civics.  ^^ Get a beautiful honda, you'll be so glad you did.
277866
It is hard in the world to find a good woman and if you have one hang on to her. Women can be foolish at times and have their bad days but so what we do also. That young stuff doesn't really want you. What they want is the quest of seeing if they can get you.............
460193
Yes, a bad man, not a boy, don't need a boy........why would you be too much to handle? I blast music till the clocks fall off the wall, my man says, turn it down!!\nYou know as long as you know that everything has a place, and your NOT being controlling, and mean, and driving drunk, and stuff,I like a guy who doesn't mind being vulnerable......That's a real man.\nI do know that women need security..........emotionally, if you can be a bad boy, but at the same time, let her know you'll always be there for her, and that you'll keep her safe, (while having fun) then she'll stay. Like for instance if a guy was mean to her, and she wanted you to protect her by scaring him, but if you actually beat him up and went to jail that night, then where is her security? she needs a ride home right? We need men, to keep us safe( because we are women) I am kind of innocent, and a guy who drives fast with me in the car makes me think, WOW, this is crazy, he is so fun, and wild,,,,,,but there is a fine line between driving fast, and then road rage, and slamming into a guy, and breaking our necks in the process, that's no fun,,,, see the difference????
596711
Girls tend to go for bad boy types that excite them the first time around. Women tend to go for men who are more attentive to them and show caring and compassion, as well as being a man. This is not to say ALL girls go for the block head the first time around, as their are some women who are more stimulated by an intelligent, articulate, decently groomed man. But they are a rare commodity compared to Barbie types looking for the Ken Doll.\n\nAnd it could be said that we, as men, tend to go after girls that have a certain look as well. And not unlike girls, we don't much care if she is a conversationalist if she is smokin hot.\n\nGood luck, maybe you'll catch that 1 in 10000 hot intellectual girl soon.
288861
I cant answer this question because Im trying to understand that also.To many times women will stay with the guy that doesnt treat them right or make them feel cared for etc. and they dont want to find that guy that is waiting to be given a chance to treat someone with everything thier heart can put out.They would rather sit at home and complain than do anything about it,just so you know,that wonderful charming guy is trying to find you but cant because you are still in a relationship..... best wishes
159760
For some guys all it takes are large breasts, but those guys are worthles.\n\nIf you are looking for a good guy, they appreciate intelligenc, a sense of humor, a girl that is spotaaneous and adventurous.  Also it's nice when the woman takes charge.  Some women like the man to make all the decisions, but some men, like myself, hope that the woman will take the initiative once in a while.
203030
take it from me, they play that, bc they have to make sure the guy is up for anything. in other words, they want to make sure that YOU are SURE you want to be with them before they devote all their time and energy into a relationship with you. duh! guys hurt gals in so many sick and twisted and horrible ways, if you dont know. everyone is different, i know, but that's why they shy away, to make sure that's what YOU really want, so they dont jump in and scare YOU away like sum guys. its an emotion thing.!!!
309012
Most guys will be nice to a babe because in the back of their mind they will think they have a chance to get into her Victoria's. Their niceness comes from the desire to have sex with her. The ore the desire, the nicer they are. Because they figure down the line she may like them, then go from like to almost love(at least great enough for a booty call.
151403
Too much stereotyping here. Women don't ALWAYS go for the jerks. I sure as heck don't. if he is a jerk I will point him the other direction and make him leave. \n\nThere are men out there that are wolves in sheep's clothing(my ex for example) he treated me like a queen before we got married After we got married he became abusive. \n\nGuys are not going to be jerks when you first meet them. They are cunning. A lot of them start acting up once they know the girl is hooked to them. the girl is so involved with being "in love" with the guy that she cannot see that he is being a jerk and treating her badly. Of course the girl is going to blame herself sometimes because the guy has her convinced its her fault or it can also be low self esteem issues that cause this or the girl is so relieved she has a guy she just doesn't care and she is afraid that there is nobody out there better. \n\nThere are nice guys out there, they are very hard to come by and to say start dating nice guys is easier said than done. BELIEVE ME. You have to work very hard at it \n\nI know some ladies that are quite vicious as well and really it has been found that the women are worse than the men.
668374
It's a biological drive. Not all men act like that, some women do. Some people will be deceitful for no reason at all. People are complicated.