Ok so heres my situation: My guy friend was talking to me on the internet today and he invited himslef over. I guess he really wants to come over or something because he keeps talking about it! i said that i will have to ask my parents first. i havent asked them yet because im trying to think of an exscuse i can tell him. and i reeeallly dont want to hang out with him! what can i tell him? (please be realistic)
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tell him you don't want to hang out with him.  \n\nOr lie to him and make up some bull-shite excuse.  This is what every woman does.  So, do you take the road less traveled, or you yourself fall victim to the trap.
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i went thru the same thing hun and now i am happy with my internet man...just bring him around and dont tell them immediately where you met. say nothing of the internet guy anymore and arrainge for a date..or movie and let your parents briefly meet him , get him to call and such...and if you met on a website . say we met at myspace..or so on..its a club..and that is all, your not lying just not expling great detail...
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My friend is in the same situation as you are except she has college as an excuse.  In her case she is positive that the guy is what he says he is and she chose her college based on where he lives.  Keep in mind they've talked for at least 3 years online and by phone.  I'm still uneasy about letting her go there alone to see him for the first time up close and in the flesh.  You might want to consider holding off ur visit until u truly know who he is.  If u are insistent about going, then maybe you could ask a close friend to go with u as a precaution.  As for your mom, I would describe him as sort of a pen pal.
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Wow!  I'd sit him down and really talk things out with him.  Discuss the possibility of a romantic relationship and a friendship.  But really, build it all back up and do it without other friends interferring.  Just talk it out.  He's probably confused too.  Good luck and I hope everything works out well.
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Help!!!!!!!!!!!! I need help to decode your message! \n\nBut if you're writing in this strange way to hide from your friend, then well what sort of a friend is she?! A good friend will not pass threats to steal a guy you like! This guy likes you too??? Do you'll just hang-out as friends, or have you ever gone out with him? If he likes you both then ask him to make a choice!\nPlease choose better friends in the future!
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well maybe he's not ready to admit it.coming out is a huge deal and takes a LOT of courage-and the last thing he needs is confrontation.if you're a good friend of his-let alone his best friend-try to give him room to breathe, think and summon the courage to come out.in the meantime, if your little sisters are using the same computer and you're afraid they could stumble on the sites, just erase the history on the computer so they won't be able to revisit the same sites. good luck to you both
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Michelle, talk to him honestly about it!!!  Ask him if he thinks theres a kink or two in you'll relationship, if there is talk it out!!!  Also ask him about that myspace post b/c if he is talking about you he needs to tell you before he goes on myspace and everyone adn their mama knows about your business before you...tell him kindly not to do that naymore and really really sit down and have a talk with him!!!
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Do you two spend any time alone? Like studying or just hanging out? DOn't just ask him just because all of your friends have a boyfriend. If he is your best friend, then you should have no problem asking him if he has a girlfrir=end. If he ask you why are you asking? Just tell him that you are curious that's all. Leave it at that no matter what his answer is. If it is a no then wait a few days or weeks and if you are comfortable then ask him the big question. Try this:"I was wondering, I know we are best friends and I am glad that we are. But how do you feel if we take it a step further? But I also don't want our friendship to mess up if you say no or we break up. I feel really comfortable around you and I like you alot. What do you think" After this just pt=ray he says yes. Also talk to your parents first and ask them what you think. Because they are your parents and they will be driving you two around if you hook up. Because if you don't have the ok it will mess up your relationship big time with him or anyone else. Good luck.
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I'm going to assume you're american, tell him that in America a relationship between a 14 year old and a 20 year old is ILLEGAL, you're not even ALLOWED to marry until you're 18 (16 with your parents consent) and that if he doesn't leave you alone you will tell the authorities and have him arrested (you really can't tell the authorities and have him arrested as long as what he's doing is strictly over the internet but maybe he's dumb enough to believe it anyway). Honestly the first thing to do if you are truly scared of him is tell your parents, they won't be as nearly mad as you think they will, plus if he does start pestering you you can have them get involved (by the way if he gave you his phone number keep it, give it to your parents, in case he starts harassing you outside of the internet you can hand if over to the police). Your parents are really the best bet because they can help you and they will try to do everything they can to protect you. If he emails you again, make sure you show your parents every correspondence he sends you, although they might suggest that you DO ignore him. He's probably excited by the fact that you fear him, so the more you show him you're scared of him the more he likes it, so the best thing to do is to ignore him, block his emails and don't respond to his letters. As long as he doesn't have your full name, or your hometown,  or your address, or phone number or the name of your school there's NO way to track you down, so don't worry about him, I'm sure he's just some perv on the other end and probably harmless to you. By the way regardless of whether he has threatened you or talked about sex you still have every right to be afraid, so don't let your fear embarass you. There truly are some scary people in this world!
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Mel, \nI went over both of your questions and am wondering if you left out some important details that we may be able to work off of?  It is rather odd for someone who is a best friend to up and leave you alone and to try to avoid you for no reason.  Could he have become enamorate of you and is trying to avoid you as he doesn't want to ruin the friendship and doesn't know how to address this situation with you?  Just a thought as it is the only reason for this from a male best friend.
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He's gonna wanna do what he wants to do anyway. There is nothing you can do but give him advice, but only if he ask for it. Cuz if you sound like you're nagging, you're gonna sound like his mom. But it's good that you are a good friend to put him in his place. So my advice would be: If he comes to you telling you what "his plans" are, just be like, "Can I say something?" And tell him how you feel about the situation. And see how he takes it.
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tell him the exact thing u just said.."i think of u as more of a cousin,sorry but can we still be friends like we were before?" u would not be hurting his feelings,but sometimes guys get wierd about that stuff and dont even want to talk to you anymore,but im sure if you have known scott that long it will be ok!
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That shouldnt be embarassing but if it is then make up a different excuse. Tell him you like him but you dont want a boyfriend right now or be honest and tell him you would but you cant because your parents dont approve. Whatever your more compfortable with, good luck!!
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Confront the guy straight away. I think you have a stalker. Maybe not. But some guys can be too obsessive at times. The question is do you like the guy also? If not, tell it to him right away so he will stop bothering you. But if he does not stop, (even though it's old school) tell your parents or any adults you can trust. Good luck on that.
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Talk to him...I played a joke on my fiance last night. He was kind of being a jerk and so one of our guy friends came to my house and tooka pair of my pants and my cellphone (he lives next door) and when my fiance called our friend said,\n\n"hey marissa left her pants here with her cell...can you come get it!?"\nwe were just playing and he knew nothing would happen betwen me an dour friend but he got SOOO Mad!\n\n\nTalk to him. get him calm enough to explain what was going through your head when you did whatever it was. Whether it was a joke or not. \ngood luck and keep me informed.\n\nrylanandmarissa@yahoo.com
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Tell them.  Sooner or later they're going to find out.  When that happens they may assume you were up to no good. Why?  Because you didn't tell them.  If you want any chance at seeing and talking to him then tell them first.  Besides, don't you want your parents to trust you? You trust your parents?  It's a two way street!!
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Don't. Just be yourself. Explain if he brings it up. We are all the center of our own universes, but he'd be pretty un-observant if he doesn't notice the way you are with your friends.