i love my boyfriend,i wanna have a baby with him ,im 29 what should i do???
213759
29 is still young enough to have a baby if you want one with your boyfriend. you say you have a lot of responsibility and not knowing what that is, only you know if you can handle a baby and everything else you have to do.
377536
It would have helped if you would have stated your age and his....but any older younger relationship in the teen years is bad news....sorry.  \n\nThey are your parents they have your best interest at heart.  They don't want you pregnant (surely not in the best interest of you or the baby), the don't want you pressured for sex by an older guy (who has more than likely been sexually active and more than likely wants sex from you), they don't want you getting std's.\n\nYou may not be silly, you may not be naive, but dating an older guy is never a good idea.  If he is out of high school, you just aren't in the same place in life.  If you are in 9th grade and he is in 12th....he is probably just after sex. \n\nTwo people have to be in the same place in life for a relationship to work.  My hubby is older than me, but we were older when we met and married, both done with college, both in good jobs, both living life on our own....we were in the same place.  \n\nSorry you had to change your plans, but you live in their house, it is their rules.
181121
He wants a baby. You don't feel ready. Ask him for a wedding first. Kids need two parents, and they need the legal protection of having their parents be married. And BOTH parents should be ready. Having a baby is a LOT of work. It isn't all baby powder and bassinettes. They cry at night, they get sick, they need a lot of attention, they need potty training, they need schooling, they need good role models, etc. Your kids are there forever. If he can handle all that responsibility, then go for it. But get married first. If he can't commit to you first,then he's not going to commit to a kid.
437261
he probably wants to give you a baby so that you won't be lonely and that way you won't be nagging him. ive heard guys say that before, but the best thing you can do is pray and ask god for guidance cuz you can't always lean on humans for understanding god will give you the answer good luck hun.
489604
He will only be a baby for a short  time. Show him as much love and affection as you can. Babies need that. You are the mother and that's what mothers are supposed to do.\nTell your boyfriend you will not hurt the baby in any way by being loving. Please don't listen to him, he don't know what he's talking about.
181438
your not too old to have a child, but when you do get pregnant you will have to be monitored more than say a 25yr old. If your planning to get pregnant tell your doc and ask about the risks, if any.\nGood luck
257408
So you are 7 years younger than your man--big deal!  As long as you are both over the legal age to marry--go for it!\nMake sure this is what you both want before taking that next step though--from experience it's a doozy!  If either of you feels like you must get married just because you have children together--DON'T GET MARRIED!!!  That will just make your relationship end badly for you, him and the children!  My parents are 9 years apart in age--married for 33 years now; my grandparents were 15 years apart and married for 17 years (my grandfather died & my grandmother never remarried).  I married a man who was only 1 year older than me--ended badly (we married because we had a child) and I remarried because I was in love with a man who is 5 years older--been together now for 13 years!
337159
omg u should tell ur bf to snap out of it & take responsibilty 4 his child! tell him he cannot just decide to "take a break" one day when u 2 have a baby to think about. have a talk with him & tell him this. whatver the reason is, he needs to put that aside & think about being a father. i think maybe u should tell him that hes either in it from the start or not at all. BUT, bcareful bcuz he might decide to not be in it at all! just have a talk with him & try 2 work things out. tell him that u 2 need to work out ur problems for the sake of ur baby. a child needs both parents in their life & like u said, u really want ur bf to be a part of u and ur baby's lives. so just pls have a talk with him bcuz u are young & should not have to deal with this on ur own. he is afterall the father. well good luck 2 u & take care!
126495
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
572790
great, I'm 29 but u need to wait till i divorce my hubby
75414
Please don't do it tonight!!  If you are hear asking, then the two of you are not ready for that step in your relationship yet.  I know my first time I made my boyfriend wait 9 months (I figured if he could wait that long, he MAY be willing to wait that long for a child if anything happened).  Though that was 15 years ago, I am now a single mom and everyday is a challenge.  I couldn't not imagine being 15 and a single mom.  Please take your time, talk with him, make sure you are really ready!  Sometimes you are more ready to say "NO" then you are to handle the consequences.  Good Luck and if things do happen, please use protection (don't rely on him to use it, you both should!)!!!
50402
Im 29yrs old and speaking as someone older i have this advice for you. Leave age out of it. Your older than legal age so it is not of concern. How do YOU feel about him? Really. if you love him, see where it leads. make sure he treats you right!! I had a friend who was 19 at the time and married a guy 29. they just had there first child - still very much in love. it depends on the situation. one step at a time. see where it leads and make sure he treats you right.
78359
Well assuming you have a child I would say lay off dating and try and take care of that baby.\n\nYou are too young to have a kid in the first place but now that you do you are too old to be dealing with silly teenage crap.\n\nYou need to grow up and be a mom instead of worrying about some silly boy feeding you a giant load of crap.\n\nHe just wants to get in your pants...that is all teenage boys want from girls and it sounds like you don't need the complications.
551662
Don't get married if you're not ready!  You don't have to be married to raise a child.\n\nAlso, I think you should seriously sit down and talk to your boyfriend about going home.  You're young, you're having your first child, and you need to be around your family.\n\nI really hope everything works out for you.
341710
Wake up honey.  If he wanted to be with you, he would have NEVER gotten his soon to be baby mama pregnant....he would have NEVER cheated on you.\n\nLooks to me like you're willing to settle for left overs and sloppy seconds.  You think you have problems now, just wait until that baby is born.\n\nDon't you think you deserve better?  Girl, kick him to the curb and move on with your life.  You don't need a looser like him in your corner.  Better to loose 2 years than 10 or 15 years in a bad relationship that's never going to go anywhere.  \n\nHe's made his decision.  He got another woman pregnant and is spending more time with her.  Now it's your turn to make a decision.  Cut him loose and move on girl!!
240059
do it without him and you may become a single mother.  talk a little more and you can decide if he's even the right one.  he has to be perfect for your baby.
222820
Go with your heart. If you're not happy the sooner you split the better. My girlfriend, who is now pregnant with my baby, left her husband for me. They had two kids together. It's never too late to take a chance. We are deeply in love. However, leave him to be self-sufficient. Don't leave him to be with this guy who "doesn't love you enough to be with you"! That's just stupid. If he really loves you he would want to be with you. Otherwise he probably likes you and likes the sex, but doesn't really love you.