Do you do that at all to strangers? Do you bring them home the first night you met? if not, how many meetings before you do?
199847
F#CK THEM ON THE BAR THEREFORE YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TAKE THEM ANYWHERE.
640949
If you can, have a party. Invite the people you know and like to bring friends. If you have people over on a fairly regular basis they will start to bring more friends over. Plus you can use your duties as host to get over some of your shyness...asking if people want another drink, etc. is a good excuse to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know very well. \n\nIf you don't have enough space to have people over you might consider picking a bar or restaurant that you like and try going once a week for a while. Eventually you will become recognizable and you might be able to strike it up with some of the bartenders/waiters or other regulars. If it's a bar the alcohol is a great social lubricant and helps everyone overcome shyness. Just don't over do it. If your into sports that is always a topic strangers can talk about.
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I met my wife 3 years ago.  As I looked at her for the first time I thought to myself "If I don't ask her out I will regret it for the rest of my life."  So, I walked up, introduced myself and started having a normal conversation.  Then after about an hour I said that I had an important meeting that I was going to be late for (it didn't exist, but made me look impressive :) but could I have her number because I would love to take her to a party my friend was throwing that weekend.  Well, my friend wasn't throwing a party so I made him throw one.  I spent $300 on alcohol and called everyone we knew.  It was on hell of a rager.  So, the moral is lie your ass off, but only for someone you could see yourself with the rest of your life.  And don't make the lies so big that it will piss her off when she finds out.  My wife loves the party story and that I was willing to do all that just to get her to see me again.
221046
sure but meet in a public place and have your own transportation in case the person is not what you expected and you want to leave, and so no one gets hurt where there are alot of people around, but keep it simple the first time dont get in  car and car pool together till you have met a couple of times at least and feel comfortable, be carefulll please.
650348
call them or have a party and invite them then you will be able to see them again
219027
Tell someone where you will be going and with whom. \nThe first meeting ALWAYS takes place in a public place.\nIt's just like going out on a blind date.... enjoy!\n\nIf your going out on a date DON'T take someone with you.  Two's company three's a crowd!
544087
No i have not, but the real question is have they met me. I feel that they are no more important than i am.
162645
i don't add people i don't know.  at all.  you don't know me i don't add you.  it is pathetic how some people add a billizion people and say they know them all.  i laugh and look down at my guy friends that have 265 friends and don't even talk to half of them.  i have 144 friends.  i have hung out with all of them.  they are a mix of old friends, school friends, family, outdoor school friends, and a couple of outdoor school sixth graders.\n\ni use to do weekly deleting sprees.. but haven't in a while.
556672
I know exactly what you are talking about.  How inconsiderate can some people be? They are really putting you in an akward place by just showing up but I think you should tell them your house is full and give them the name of the sleziest hotel in town for them to spend the night and maybe next time they will be the first to RSVP.
78074
House Parties aren't such a great idea, as they can get over crowded with people you don't know, things can be stolen/broken, fights can break out. \n\nWhat I always do works out fantastic! I invite a select few of my friends (usually 8-12 people) to come around for dinner/drinks. We usually end up sitting outside having a BBQ or ordering Pizza and playing drinking games. \n\nIt's people you know and trust so not too much can go wrong and it still makes for a great night. \n\nIf your bored on other nights and can no longer stand your own company, invite a few friends to come around and watch DVDs or something.
630138
just say wanna have lunch/dinner!! dnt go to your house first time do, always meet ppl in busy places!! have fun & enjoy!!
10837
Go to the restaurant ahead of time and make sure to get the best table, tip if you have too. Doesn't hurt to get know someone there. That way if you have any table settings or special candles, you can serve it up before hand and surprise the girls. Then, After the dance, since you have already secured a room at a motel and stocked it with booze, you'll be all set to toss a few back, WITHOUT getting crocked, just get a nice warm glow for you and a drink, maybe two for the girl and set to chill. Ahh, memories.
247269
That depends, if you are underage, I would start with something like e-mail address or instant messaging service.  You can always block him out if he is a jerk.  Even as an adult, I've done that sometimes with guys that seem nice but I don't know all THAT well.\n\nAlso, introduce him to someone you know.  People who have bad intentions generally get creeped out if your friends and family know they exist.  I know I seem like I'm a little paranoid but I've studied criminal justice and I've met females (adults, teens, and preteens) victimized by guys who "seemed nice".  \n\nAnother suggestion is to say something like "my friends and I are going to the movies (or whatever) on a Friday at 7.  You can meet us there and we can hang out."  There is always safety in numbers and it is a less obvious way of bringing him around people you know.\n\nThis is not to say that you shouldn't make some sort of contact with him, there are a lot of truly nice guys out there.  However, do not give him too much personal information too soon.    Take precautions.
530883
If you are concerned then why not go out with him when he arrives so you will be in a public place - make out that it was a meeting point as opposed to the location for the evening.  It's best to get to know people better before inviting them over - you have to be careful these days.  He may be fine but it's wise to be cautious.
248905
It depends a lot on the people.  I have 2 friends who live very far away.  The first got married, had a kid, & has changed a lot since moving.  So, naturally, our friendship has changed & we aren't as close, even though we have nothing against each other & would still be there for each other in a crunch.\nAs for the other one, he & I are actually closer since he moved away.  We stay in touch, talking at least once a week, & plan to take a cross country road trip next year.  He & I are both unmarried, have no kids, & are career-oriented, so our continued similarities probably help maintain our friendship.\nHe has noticed this as well, because he isn't as close to some people he used to be really close to in the past.  As some of his friends have gotten married & had kids, they don't seem to have time for him anymore, & have less in common.  With their focus on their families, they have less to talk about with guys who are still hanging out & chasing girls on the weekends.
39790
Heck no! If a man is bold enough to ask you to meet him, he needs to be just as forthright about who he is. Meeting a total stranger is already very risky business. My advice is that if you decide to meet, tell him it needs to be only after he agrees to certain groundrules. Rule #1 Meet in daytime Rule #2 Do not meet alone #3 Do not go to him (i.e. to a nother city or state) let him come to where you are. You need to be aware of your surroundings. #4 If his intent is genuine he wont have a problem with you having his last name. He will already recognize that having as much information as possible is a security and safety issue and out of consideration of that AS WELL AS respect, he will honor your requests as not to compromise your trust and to give  you peace of mind.
270948
You say you attend 12 Step meetings,and you approached a married member of your fellowship?!? One suggestion;TALK TO YOUR SPONSOR!(I'm pretty certain you know or have heard the rest)