I mean, so many marriages seem to be ending in divorce, and other couples decide not to marry at all.  Do people take their vows seriously any more?  Is there any point to marriage these days?\n\nI am married with 2 kids, by the way, and happy.  I know my reasons, I would like to hear others' thoughts.
204085
I'm married, and I take the vows I made to my hubby completely serious, along with my marriage. We may not have a whole lot, but it's my own little world, and I wouldn't change it for anything. I honestly couldn't imagine my life without him in it...it just doesn't seem right. My reasons for marriage was because I knew I wanted him for the rest of my life. Of course, we didn't HAVE to get married, but I see it as a way of showing the ultimate act of love towards another. What other way is there besides devoting your life with them to share in every single aspect? \nAs far as why divorce happens more in today's times, I think people just take it as an easy way out. Marriages are not easy to maintain, and when tuff situations arise, divorce provides an easy access to just start over. It's sad that marriages are not taken seriously, and that people are starting to just see it as a signed piece of paper, rather than all that it resembles. Of course, there are always exceptions. Some divorces occur for good reasons, like abuse or constant adultery. \nReally good question. Best of luck to you in life!
197112
I hate to look at things this way, but I'm a factual person. The stats show that ppl who live together before getting married are more likely to get divorced. I waited until I was married to have sex. This brings a real sense of security to our relationship. I could go on about the other benefits, but I'm tired.
175346
is marriage about love? hello, guess what. marriage is not about love. its about commitment. love's just part of it. why dont you know that? cause you havent stayed married long enough to realize it.
279967
Probably true, because people don't take the time to get to know each other before either getting married or hopping into the sack.  Most importantly however, is that they are not committed to each other and to the marriage.  A little bit of trouble comes & they say, "hey, it's not worth it, I'm moving on" instead of working out the problems.
580451
People should live their lives in a manner that they are comfortable with.  If someone chooses not to be married, that's fine.  Better to be alone than wish you were!
362481
I honestly believe that the reason there are so many divorces is because people get married when they are in the "honeymoon phase" of their relationship, have a fairtale wedding, and then expect a fairytale wedding.\nPeople need to realize that true love is when you love a person completely, including their faults.  \nI think people expect their partner to change or something to happen once they get married, or many times they don't even know their partner's irritating habbits.\nI think it is important to realize no matter how much you love someone and how great your relationship is, when you live with someone you see everything about them, and it isn't always what a person expects.\n\nA relationship obviously changes throughout the years a couple is together.  People change and mature and things that were important to us as children get put on the back burner.\nDoes that mean a relationship is better or worse?   No.
194076
Divorce has become an easy way out of situations. I think people just don't want to take the time to work out what is wrong with their marriages. It'd just be much easier to start over. Kind of sad, huh? Of course, there are divorces that occur for very good reasons (abuse, constant adultery, ect...)\nI'm married (first time), and plan to be with my hubby until the day I die. That was the commitment and vow I made. Any problems we may have will be worked out come "Hell or high water." Divorce is not in my marriage vocabulary.
99153
Maybe it's because they've never been taught about the consequences.. i mean, so far all i've heard is how we shouldn't stop two people who loved each other from marrying, even if they're the same gender. Or, the relationship is ethically wrong. A majority of people aren't taught about the dangers of it. I don't support this kind of marriage also.. because i was brought up knowing that it ruins the marriage institution (between a man and a woman) and etc. Maybe what you said could come true, but it will take years before others  to open their eyes and see what has happened.
174000
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////
115578
I totally agree. I think it's gotten worse in the last several years. The feeling seems to be "It's my day" and that the wedding is all about the bride and making sure the bride gets whatever she wants. There's no concern about what marriage really means.
92259
I know what you mean...i don't understand what happens to people..they say there vows for better or worse till death do us part then they get bored or things go down hill and they just think throwing it all away and cheating is the answer...Im lucky my parents have  been married for 30 years and still act like love  birds...ive been married for seven and they've been great so far but people need to learn when they start getting bored or looking around they need to talk to there spouse and come up with ways to keep it interesting.....people need to read the bible more and bring jesus into there life..
296674
Not weird at all.  Many people think marriage is an outdated concept, especially with the divorce rate being so high.  We aren't natuarally monogamous creatures...you can live with someone for the rest of your life without being married.
95988
people cheat and get divorce because most of them think marriage (relationship) is and always will be a fairly tale... and its not... its a lot of hard work and effort... problems will always be there and instead of just quitting everything try to work them out... the other thing is that in today's world the morality is very low... marriage or a serious relationship is a commitment, a big commitment... you dont just back out on something or someone because you thought it would be different or easier... we need morality people and to set out principles straight... just my point of view... :)...
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It seems that the world is probably against you this day in age with quicky weddings and quicky divorces. Alot of the young couples I know get married really quick without thinking everything through. Call it the "want to be a bride" syndrome. Once you live together and share your lives together...things change. But if you really love each other,have talked everything through, and understand what hard work marriagetakes...you may be happy together forever. Good luck!
642511
Marriage?  You mean the living together with your baby daddy's exes b/f g/f daddy's mommy's baby's daddy's daddy?  That thing?  Oh that thing they use to do years ago when they exchanged vows because they meant it and would do anything to preserve and protect it, and stood in front of an alter with only family and close friends and not the neighbor?  Oh yeah, huh....what ever happened to that?
174002
I believe.\n\nIt's the people who say that Marriage is sacred that are destroying it. All love is beautiful and Marriage is a social contract that two people deeply in love make. If you want to make holy pacts as well that's fine. I think people expect too much out of marriage, it doesn't fix problems and if you are not willing to adapt then you will likely have a troubled marriage. Compatibility is also a problem.\n\nI completely believe in all love. I think that same-sex marriage should be legalized, because to deny them that is like saying marriage isn't about love at all.\n\nHypocrisy breeds Chaos. When you try to limit who can participate in something like marriage or what kind of marriage another person should have, you begin to destroy what it should be about.\n\nWhen we accept marriage as a social contract between two people in love, and stop putting rules and control on it. Then people will stop getting married for the purpose of being married and there will be less problems with it.\n\nAs for cheating, I cannot understand why anyone would cheat in a relationship. I could never dream of doing that to someone I love. Though it might just be that you don't truly love the other person, you just enjoy the feeling of going through the motions of having a relationship.
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considering the high divorce rate you've already mentioned, there's also the infidelity, the abuse, the children born out of wedlock and the blase' attitude some people have towards marriage (i.e., Britney Spears' drunken 55 hour Vegas marriage, and now, big surprise!, she's getting divorced from K-Fed), how could us getting married do any more damage than straight people have already done? \nMissouri, where I live, was, shamefully the 1st state to amend the state constitution to ban gay marriage...even though there were already laws on the books to prevent it.  Thankfully, I do live in one of the large cities, St. Louis, where I have at least been able to register for domestic partnership with my partner.  We've also had a commitment ceremony.