I am hurt as my son means the world to me.  My BF and son get along okay, but I guess he is concerned about privacy.  I want my BF to care about my son, almost as much as I do.  Now, I am confused and angry with my BF.  Am I over-reacting?
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no when he found out that you had a son he was supposed to accept everything about what might happen with him that is something that a lot of people don't realize , when you get serious with someone you atre telling them that you accept all of thier flaws and anything else that may arise in the relationship.
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If you feel that by his "silence", he is uninterested in what you have to say about your child, then you should let him know how you feel, irregardless of whether it seems "a little silly".  Forget about figuring out "the puzzle of the male brain" - figure out what your own feelings mean to you and act upon them.
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If he treats you badly , he doesn't have any respect for you and with no respect there can never be a solid relationship between two people.  You should however maintain a "friendship" for the sake of your son but if I were you I would  focus on something other than being with him. I understand that you still love him and break ups are sometimes hard to get over but if he has already moved on than that should tell you that the amount of love and respect he has for you is very little if not non existent. You need to set your standards higher in your next relationship because you deserve someone that will love and honor you and when you do find the man that treats you like a queen you will think back to him and realize that he wasn't worth the love that you felt for him. Remain civil with him for your son's sake and never , ever show him that you are weak.
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I would bet that something else is bothering him, and you triggered an emotion.  It doesn't mean that there is any deep seated issue, and it doesn't mean there isn't.  In situations like that, I ignore the instance and bring it up later in a neutral and non condemning manner.  Then I see how the individual reacts once removed from the situation emotionally.
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You mother is just being mother to you...trying to prevent your pain and suffering.  However, so long as your husband was not abusive toward you, then reconciliation is possible and certainly in the best interests of your son.  Stay calm with mom and let her know this.
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Wow  ...that was a quick break up.....YOu should stop covering for him.....Let his relationship with his son be between those 2.  Don't ever say anything negative about your ex around your  son...dont lie to him...if he asks questions that you cant answer honestly w/out berating...just say I dont know the answer to that son...(like..why doesn't my dad call meor come see me??)...always be there for your son....Try not to let your son know when you are pissed @ ex....his emotions will follow yours....if u r upset, he will be upset,,,but he will feel like he is betraying dad at same time........You are in a tough situation....be wise......No,,,,it is not right for the father to be completely out of touch...But you cant control that, nor should you try....All you can control is how you respond to life's situations.....If emergency....do the best you can without ex.....What if he was dead..what would you do???......In life your son will see and make up his own mind about father and his actions......If you always get in the middle and try to control situation....you will be blamed for outcome.....Just be there , love, support and do what is right for your child......One day...he will see who the self centered ass is.........
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Hey! I understand how you must be feeling. It is better to talk to him openly with out pushing him at all. While talking to him make sure that you are giving him enough space to answer your questions. Dont ask him any close ended questions. Ask him only open end questions. I feel he must be very busy with his bussiness since it is new, he needs to pay more attension to his bussiness to grow. Generally boys are very less in talking and showing feelings. it doesnt mean that they are not sensitive. So dont jump in to conclusion and be open to him and dont try to control him or try not to doubt him too. give him time. I wish you good luck. God be with you.
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I think your mother didn`t try to hurt you. If you are maniac depressant, people around you should know it to better understand you. If your boy friend really loves you, it won`t chase him away.
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this is where people tell you that god works in mysterious ways. I wouldn't say that because it would piss me off if i were in your place. I'm sorry about your son. I don't know what to tell you about god, but I hope your son gets better.
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I'm about your boyfriend's age, and I lost my mother last year.  If my experience has any relevance here, I felt somewhat sad on Mother's Day.  But more than that, I felt *strange*.  I would always call my mother, send her a card or gift, and so forth, and of course I couldn't do that.  I felt left out of all the Mother's Day talk.  After all these years, I was an outsider.\n\nOne thing you don't mention is whether your boyfriend has any chlldren of his own.  If he does, and if they make a fuss over him because he is their dad, that should help quite a bit.\n\nYou are a kind and supportive girlfriend to be thinking of your boyfriend's dad this weekend.  I think he is lucky to have you.
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...wish to share, am a returner favourer kinda person.\n\n1.26 11:51p est Stupendous Man, silly of me to confuse you with that little guy Calvin, guess I thought he looked a little like you.\nFor me it would depend what those differences were. If we're talking about weaknesses in character, then have to say I have seen that used as a weapon, friend on friend, sibling on sibling, and of course spouse on spouse. \nI had a realization once that I turned into a caution motto, "There is no one in this world who loves you so much as to not say a negative thing about you behind your back." (yes, very familiar with feeling betrayed, but let's leave that) And I guess a similar expression would be, "There isn't likely to be anyone in this world who loves you enough, never to hold your weaknesses against you." Whether that weakness is being too emotional or not emotional enough, or having to much to say or not being able to verbalize worth a poo, ya know the contrast between one personality and it's opposite.\n\nI guess what I am getting to, is that it's possible to love someone and know they have this difference about them, and SOMETHING ELSE gets in between you, and in the course of having it out one spouse retaliates with pointed references to this "difference". IT ISN'T because they were always really bothered by it and just never brought it up before, it's more that they were running out of arguments about the actual issue at hand, and needed some grounds to prove their "right"geousness in the fallout.\nFeeling misunderstood on both sides is where the real problem is. It's not necessarily a communication breakdown, it could be the gradually ending of sympathy, feeling unequal in a relationship, feeling undervalued. Then it's "who cares if you're sensitive about this difference, I want to right no matter the cost, I want to be heard whatever might fly from my lips"\nIt's sad and unnecessary, but it comes from people's focus on theirselves. If more people tried to see it from the opposing perspective this world would be a much more peacful place.
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No, I don't think you're over protective.  Going by your previous question, you and your ex need to sit down and talk about this.  It seems he lacks on the discipline, but he's free to raise your son however he wants when your son is with him.  However, your ex needs to tell your son that while he is with you, he needs to respect your rules.  He's only 11 and since he's been in trouble before, he really can benefit from rules.  Good luck!
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You not only did the right thing for your son, but you did it for yourself also. Dont worry, just be strong. I've been thru the break up make up over and over for 4 years, and have finally left for good about a month ago. I also have a child with this person... but I know I have to just worry about me and my daughter now. The worst thing to do is to give in when you are emotional like this and find yourself back in the same situation... possibly with one more child. So stay strong and take care of you, and stick close to family and friends for support if you are fortunate enough. Good Luck mama
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some people have some really dumb answers.....sorry about that. I hate to say this but you already know what you are going to do. I only hope you have the support around you that you need. You as the mother of your childern have them to consider first and formost. If you love this guy but it is going to harm the childern, get out. don't look back. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and bite the hard one and make it on your own, (getting help from friends and famley is still making it on your own terms) If bf is going to change he can do it someplace else and demostrate his sincearity with out draging you down with him along with all his other baggage. Make a plan, sit down and do some real sole searching and make a long term plan for yourself and your childern. Once you have a goal it is easy to make some good move towards that goal and away from the emotional roller coster you have been on. Look at yourself and see the honest value you are. then look at your bf and hold this measure to the picture. Every relaytionship is built of certain durable materials. the first of these is truthfulness.If you cannot look into his eyes and speak out always the truthful thought and feeling with the simplicity of a little child, there can be no real love between you. Trust is the first requisite for making a friend: Faithfulness is the first requisite for keeping a friend. and trust and faithfulness cannot endure without truthfulness. Love can exisit with out friedship but friendship cannot exist with out respect. Look, look deep within and you shall find your answers.....
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No, Don't get offended. Sometimes a son always see the person that is with their father as someone who is trying 2 replace their mom. But, at the same time, he does what to show his dad that he loves him. That said, does not mean he don't like u. He just loves his father more, & the wife is gonna go with whatever works for her husband.
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When I was 16, my boyfrind was 20 ...and my parents said the same thing...but I stayed with him...they still disagree, but now im 19 (and living with him)and hes going on 23...its not as bad as parents think. As long as you are with someone you care about and he doesnt hold you back at anything, then i would say you are fine. I have been through the same thing. And am still going through it. Parents will be parents i have come to find out. Just go with your heart feelings and dont let anyone take that away from you-ever....if u neeed to talk you can im me or email..either way. i'd love to pass on some advice...
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The best thing is to be honest with your son.  He's probably going to be very upset but just continue to be supportive of him.  It sounds like you are doing all the right things (not bashing Dad, have him in counseling, etc.) and you are a good mom.  Just be honest and there for him.  He will make it through.