...who live in ghettos talk bad about it but always praise it when they are "keeping it real"? Be honest. I'm not racist, only looking for some enlightenment. I lived in a Philly ghetto for 12 years where I was the minority being a caucasian and had all Af. Am. friends without acting like many of them did, i.e. "ghetto" or committing crimes.
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M Keeping it real is simply being honest and telling people whats on your mind or what you think about certain situations. It's sort of like that saying "You want the truth, but can you handle the truth? Keeping it real will not always be something that someone wants to hear. \nSince you have lived in the ghettos, you understand what the lifestyle is like for some...not all. \nKeeping it real in the hood would be following the norms and customs of that neighborhood.
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i like the show it was pretty good...however when the white man made to look black told the black family he hadnt experienced any differences at the car dealership as he had as a white man, the black family was like he just isnt getting the whole experience he doesnt know what to look for because he isnt black...i thought that was stupid...could it be that just a lot of what any race thinks is racism towards them is just some kind of make believe feeling we create just to have drama...i watched the show and the guy didnt look like he was being treated any differently to me...i like the show and will continue following it just to see if maybe im wrong.
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Not all Black women are loud and date gangsters. I've been around white women, Asian women, and Latinas who are loud. You sound very self hating remember you came from a beautiful Black woman.
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Nervy of them, I'd say...I live in Leimert Park (I'm 50 and white) and find it pretty racist for them to assume (and you KNOW what they were thinking) that because it was a white MAN with a black WOMAN that something suspect, and perhaps commercial, might be afoot.  I doubt the same approach would have been taken with a same race-couple, or even a black MAN with a white WOMAN.  But what can you do in this ignorant world?
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I'll admit I am a little racist I have no problem admitting it, if its true than its true why deny it?  I agree its not so much the race that bothers me its the stereotpyes of those races that bother me, the one who walk around proud that they have horrid speaking skills, are uneducated, and live off welfare.  Or think they are cool because they can walk around while holding on to their balls or trying to keep their pants from falling all the way to the ground.
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1)Yes, we still live in a racist country.  I am a 46 year old Black woman who has experienced quite a bit of racism bcos of the color of my skin (caramel) without any knowledge of who I really am.  I have traveled quite a bit within the states as well as other countries & honestly cannot see much of a difference.  Point in case...I've even traveled to Africa & have been faced with questions like "what are you?".  I think that I offended the one asking the question bcos I said "I'm an American".  They responded "do you mean African-American?" to which I responded "sure if thats how you would like to phrase it".  2) Yes my parents had a hard time but they "dealt with it" by being active in the civil rights movement.  My great-grandmother would never let me work in the fields when I visited saying " no way, your Mom & Grandmama would have a fit & besides those days are over for your generation".  She was right, however there are others here who seem to forget that.  With regards to "us guys" still living in this country...this is our country & we'll fight for the right to live here....in peace.
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I watched a special on the life of Richard Pryor last night (Because I love him!)\n\nbut I noticed how all of the comedians kept saying things about white people that aren't true...  They generalized and made public assumptions that we are all; rich, white, socially oblivious, nerds, geeks, and hold down and abuse blacks, that we own everything, control everything and keep every good thing from them intentionally...  \n\nI am white...and I have never once in my life done any of the above.  \n\nNot all of us are rich, not all of us are even pure white, not all of us are socially oblivious and not all of us are any one thing really...\n\nSo my point is stating this here is;  \n\n"Look what you get when the pot calls the kettle black."  \n\na bunch of people being ignorant and feeling that they are somehow justified in doing the very same thing that they hate in return,  to feel better about the fact that a narrow minded margin of white people first did it to them... YEARS AGO!\n\nYou can't expect people to forget and move on from a tragedy if you keep constantly reminding them of it...\n\nLet's move on now... If they can let go that is and start to live above the influence of the past?  I honestly believe that it is manipulative and incendiary...\n\nI for one... will not forget how an innocent white man just happened to wander into down town LA during a riot and was almost beaten to death by 6 men with a brick for NOTHING!  He was on his way to WORK!  \n\nThat... is what comes of people not allowing the past to be the past and let it go!  RIOTS and hatred for those who are innocent... but guilty because they are the same color...
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I am learning not to be racist but still love the thought of being a black woman. It is hard. Although my mother believe in loving everyone. I was brought up to believe that white people were devils. could not be trusted, and looking for any and all reason to hold a black person back from thier goals. This ideas was passed along through my father. I have a teenage child, and I do not want his to grow up with these views. I am a racist, slowly being reformed to a proud black woman. Keep your fingers crossed. I have just got to the point that I would allow a white person to touch me. Do not pounce on me, I am really making efforts to change, but change does not come easy.
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I am a white female from new jersey. There they aren't known.  But I moved to texas and there are so many racists here.  They make me sick!!!  They call themselves christian but do not live like it.  If you are going to hate do it on a personal level.  Not because of a sterio type or their color.  Plus you know what they say, You have to have love something once to hate it.
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Where do you live now?  I mean, I have lived in several places on the east coast, and the south, as well as visited several cities between the east coast and going out as far as Texas, and I have not noticed it to be true.\n\nI personally never grew up noticing or noting differences in lighter skinned and darker skinned Black people.  I guess because, as a child, my mother never pointed it out to me. I think that when you are young, if someone points it out to you, then you grow up being more cognizant of it.  (And I grew up in the SOUTH).\n\nMaybe, for those lighter-skinned Black people that you feel act that way, they feel they have something to prove.  Black people's self-image, regardless of their complexion, cause them to act in whatever way they feel they have to prove they are "Black enough" or "acceptable enough" in diverse setting (meaning when they are not just among other Black people).\n\nWe, meaning Black people, just need to be ourselves, which is really dictated by what part of the country we grew up, and not try to please or appease someone else.\n\n(just my opinion)\n\nLM
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Where are you getting you information to be sure that this is true? Unless you interviewed and surveyed each and every Black man, White man,  and women of all races on that subject and got those answers that you are posting,  you are just generalizing what you see around you not actual fact. I live in New York and see quite the opposite of what you have seen. I have seen people all of different races going out with and married to Black men. I have a friend who name is Arthur that is married to a Japanese woman and a friend who passed recently, that was married to a Chinese woman and they have a son together. As far as Black men and Hispanic/ Latin women, I have seen plenty of my Black male friends married or  engaged to Latinas that  they have children with. I am wondering what area do you live at because where I live, it is really diverse and that is my truth.
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I have asked the same question a few times already but I get no reasonable answer for it. It is just like saying that all white people are racist... its not all of them, but most of them... wouldn't it be a good example if they are going by majority? Watch me get thumbs down for this answer. Like I have said before, they can't take the HEAT and refuse to recieve exactly what they give. IMO.
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it is just a reflection of the communities that hip hop came from.  Most of these guys are from the streets.  And what do is always said? you can take so and so out of the ghetto, but you can never take the ghetto out of so and so.  it is ruff out there.  Police brutality.  Gang violence. drug deals gone bad.
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That's a wonderful question. My cousin acts foolish when she sees a hott black guy with a white girl. The girl can be asian, latin, or whatever and if she's not black then Tameka is like "nah that girl is white." She doesn't even stop to think that I'm a bit offended b/c I'm half white. But back to answering your question. She has explained to me that all the good black guys are with white girls and she's left with the drug dealers, ex cons, scrubs w/ baby momma drama, and broke down living with they mom guys b/c the rest of the black guys were either gay or in jail. That's her take. I see her point, but I got a man so I ain't trippin off nobody else's happiness. If you happy do what you want. The problem is these angry black women are looking in the wrong place for black men and they're looking for the wrong traits. Don't worry bout the size of the wallet, think character. Leave the ghetto and look for a man with education, go to the library, even better go to college.
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The amount of friggen judgemental people on this question and answer thing.."Oh, If your not a Christian?"...or "Oh ,Why are gay people?"... or "Oh, Why are black people?" ....My question is how are we ever going to get past all this stupid judgment of people and start embracing each other's differences? I LOVE that my children live in a word of diversety. I am just so sick of people that think that there is only ONE way to believe, be, or act!!! Thanks for the space to let me vent!!!!
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Any one who thinks whites don't get discriminated against is VERY VERY ignorant! Any white person who has grown up as a minority in there area has felt discrimination as bad as any one else. The truth is that discrimination happens to all races. Just because we (yes, I'm white) are the (slowly declining) majority, minorities think that it's just a free ride or something. I get really tired of hearing all the sob stories about how "your ancestors" did this to "my ancestors". I personally haven't lynched, enslaved, stolen land from, or denied anyone, and if discrimination is going to get any better, all races need to focus on ways to better future instead of holding on to the grudges of a bunch of dead guys. The past is the past....I intend on moving forward!
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i am white and i am proud...f what they think...they say worse about us all the time...they are more racist than we are...how many times have you seen a bunch of white kids jump on 1 black kid? (none unless your 84)\nbut how many times have you seen blacks/mexicans jump one white kid? (to many to count)