I'm sorry i ran out of room.My son is adhd and bi-polar he stopped taking his meds.. I'm not real sure what happened.He asked to stay the night at his girlfriends house my husband and I said no.He then beat the crap out of my husband and the cops came and took him away.My son was drug tested and failed of course we half expected he would.This is not the first time he has done this.Except this was the worst.I love my son very much he is the only boy of 4 children and that in itself is very tough at times.He hates me now but in time I hope he understands how much I love him
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urrhh thats kinna scary..\n\num..i think you should send him to one of those boot camps for like the kind for the kids who dont listen to their parents..yea i think you should totally do that\n\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!\n\nAsoo<3
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Oh,Honey do I know how u feel!I am going through the same thing as I write.In fact I go to court this Thursday.Let me tell ya,it's very,very hard to deal with.Whether u did something wrong or not doesn't make it any easier.I'd like to tell u about my situation and how I deal with it,but this site does not allow enough space.If you want to talk more about it e-mail me @ kalasmom3@yahoo.com Or IM me @ either yahoo messenger or AIM.I'd love to try to help.Maybe we can help each other.Also,since I have almost 18 months in one child's being gone and 7 years in the other maybe I can offer some advice on how to fight to get them back.oh,my screen name on AIM is turntheclkbac.
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Been there and done that...not fun!  I feel for you but you have to be strong enough to GET OUT!  I had family and friends to help me out behind his back.  I planned carefully because he was smart and inquisitive, very controlling.  Get mad and smart too!  Figure out his work schedule and get it all done in a short amount of time.  Get a restraining order against him before you go so that you are somewhat protected when you leave.  Go somewhere safe where someone is with you all the time and has speed dial.  Get a plan B so that if this is not an option you have somewhere else to go.  Don't make him mad.  Above all don't let him see you are nervous.  Keep him calm and level headed until you pull it off.  Don't change your routine or compromise yourself.  Be sure to delete all "help" calls off the phone and alert the police of what you are about to do and the day and time.  You can also have the police escort you out once they know the situation if you need to do it that way.  My prayers go out with you!
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YOu need to document everything that happens, keep a jounal.  I have an ex husband that is a drug addict and my kids aren't safe with him, our boys are 4 year old twins, which I have custody, but I am now fighting him in court to keep him from them unless supervised which is looking good.  All the documention that I have is helping me greatly, plus I have a wonderful lawyer that believes in me.  You need documentation and people to back you up other then family and friends.  Be patient, gather your ammo against him, find a GOOD lawyer, make sure you get a different judge, make sure you are in a stable home, with a good job, show that you can raise your kids, also maybe take your kids to a phsycoligist and then have them write you a letter of what they think.  That always has weight in a situation like this, it is helping me out.  Good luck!!!  I hope for the best for you and your kids!!
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I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
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You really need to send him to a good psychiatrist. This is something that is really dangerous. If he gets too crazy, he might turn out like one of those kids who kills people at school or their parents.
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Surely your son is classed as an adult at the age of 20 and is therefore responsible for his own actions. Personally I would refuse to take the blame for what he did and let him deal with the consequences (to a certain degree)! I also think you should seek advice from someone who specialises in drug law and/or reformed drug user groups as they have first hand experience with the stuff!!!
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This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
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You said this just started and for no apparent reason. Maybe it is just that you have no clue to the reasoning behind it. I am not saying he is justified in treating you like crap or doing things in front of the children that he shouldn't but there has to be a reason for it. Have you tried asking him what is going on. Maybe something has happened and for what ever reason he can't or doesn't know how to share this with you so in turn his actions is a result of what ever is really bothering him. You have made it clear you won't put up with this so stress this to him again that if he can't share with you what is going on you can't try to help him with it but that he isn't going to take it out on you either. He needs to make the choice as to what to do and then you can choose what to do based on how he feels. I really feel for you hun as something happened to my ex husband and he thought he would become physical with me until I told him he would die before he hit me again and of course the final results was I left. I couldn't fix something that I had no clue as to what was going on and I was not going to be hit on or abused in any other way either. I hope he comes around before you leave him but do what is best for you and the children hun!!.
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I used to babysit for this couple who had six children. Four of the children were adopted, the sister decided to get rid of them one night and called DCF to take them away. The sister/couple adopted them. Anyways, the younger boy was born addicted to cocain. His mother was an avid user and the night she decided to get rid of her kids was because she needed a sitter to go out! That was 10 years ago. The boy who was born cocain addicted has been in and out of the psychiatric hospital 4 times now and is currently in there again waiting for an accute place to open up, 6 to 9 month minium. He suffers from PTSD, ADD and uncontrollable behavior. He can be the sweetest child in the world and then he snaps! He is on meds and has been since 2. He has taken adderal, lexipro, lithium, so many I forget. He has had trouble in school and at home. He recently took a knife to the school football game with intentions of stabbing his older brother. He is violent towards his siblins and his aunt. He has hurt and attacked all of them in some way. He is quite intelligent but has problems with his thought process. He is 10 years old! His psychologist does not think that he can survive in a normal setting. When he was little, I would have to sit behind him and hold his arms and legs tight because he would slam his head and body against walls and floors. As for the other kids/his siblins. Three out of the four have needed psychiartric help and were on meds too. They were not born cocain addicted as far as we know BUT they grew up with it in the home, grew up areound constant violence, seeing dad beat mom up and put her in the hospital. The oldest boy of the four had to grow up quick as did his sister. They took on the parenting role immedietly. Grew up too quick! The oldest has been in jail twice now and was also hospitalized for depression, cutting and drugs. He has been abusive towards his siblins and lies all the time. He is now 18! I ahve to tell you, this is probably not what you needed but the fact is that an addicted parent most definetly has addicted children in one way or another. Nothing good comes from drugs. I still have contact with this family, mainly the kids and it breaks my heart what they have and still are going through. Good luck with your paper! Oh and btw, every program like, dcf, i-caps and therapists have been in the home and still are. It never ends!
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Addiction is sticky subject.  I went through my own addictions for years, and have a friend who is going through it now. It is tough. My friend is now in an "in-patient" program. That is her way of coping with it. I had to pull myself out of my addictions. Luckily I was able to do so. It was tough, but it does get better. I have been clean for over 3 1/2 years now, and have been leading a happy, healthy life. Confrontation is scary and difficult, but for the most part intervention is sometimes the only way to go. Your son needs to know that you care for him, and that it is not an issue of your feelings being hurt. It needs to be more of a concern for his health, and wellbeing than anything. However, he needs to make the first step and accept the fact that there is a problem and also accept help. It's a long healing process, but it is possible. Best of luck to you!
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Your husband needs help.  He is a child predator, and his behavior will pass on to your son.  It is your duty as a parent to protect your child...at any sane cost.
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I feel your pain, and share your view in general on medications. I have a daughter, now 8 years old who has ADHD. They told me when she was six that she needed to be medicated and I absolutely refused to consider it. I thought that medication was being used way too often and I was not about to put her on it. Well, things continued to get worse for her, me our family as we tried to control her behaviors without meds. She started losing her friends, doing poorly in school, and her brothers started to resent her for the behaviors she would act out and ruin our family outings. I finally agreed about 6 months ago  to try her on the lowest dose possible to try to make things a little better. Now, I regret not doing it sooner. She is by no means perfectly behaved or on task, but she is now able to do her school work with minimum redirecting, sustain friendships, and has control over her behaviors. This medication has not altered her pesonality or put her in to a dazed state like I thought it would. It really has just helped her to be able to live a more normal life. She still has her times when she doesn't want to listen, do homework and pouts or cries, but it is now within reasonable limits. I agree that medication should not just be handed out like candy, but sometimes the child really does need it. With proper monitoring and dosage your son should be fine. The only side effect my daughter has had is a little weight loss, but even that tapered off after the first 2 months. She is a much happier child now, and it is a much more peaceful house. I wish you luck with your son, and in making this decision, as I know it is a hard one to make. I fought it for 1 1/2 years. Good Luck.
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I'll go out on a limb and presume that your son is already medicated.  He needs therapy NOW.  If you have health insurance, contact them to find out who they contract with to  handle mental health needs.  Then contact that organization and get your son scheduled with a child psychologist who specializes in Bi-polar kids and you'll need a psychiatrist as well to prescribe for him.  If he is currently medicated, he may need a change in dosage or even in medication.  In the meantime, if it's at all possible, designate one room in your home as the "safe" room.  Remove all objects that could injure or be picked up and thrown.  Your son obviously cannot have his way all the time.  So when this happens, get him into the "safe" room and use yourself as a human straight jacket -- come from behind him, get him down onto the carpet and grab his wrists and cross his arms with your own.  Use your legs to immobilize his, if you are able.  If there is a father in the house, this will be easier for him to do.  Keep your son immobilized.  He will scream, he will yell, he may even curse.  Ignore all this.  Keep up a steady stream of soothing words in a low voice.  Continue doing this and he will eventually refocus and be able to calm himself.  This is tiring for parents but it works.  Good luck.\n\nOkay, I'm seeing that your 7-yr-old also has a behavior problem, which prompts me to ask has your 11-yr-old actually been screened for and diagnosed with Bi-polar or did you decide this?  And there is no father in the house.  However, your kids, both of them, and you need family therapy ASAP.   I now believe this is a parenting and behavioral problem rather than a psychological/medical one.  It may be a result of the divorce.
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Abuse. The sad thing is I probably would have stayed in that relationship a lot longer. But, then it happened! I had my son. The day I had him I knew I would never allow him to be exposed to that kind of a life. I remember thinking to myself, "My husband may be good enough for me but, he will never be good enough for my son because he doesn't care to change." Thankfully, now I know he wasn't good enough for either of us. I left the day that I got out of the hospital and never returned. My son and I lived happily ever after.
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get your son back call the police firstly. Secondly, your husband needs a clip over the ears how selfish he is to put you under so much pressure. Can't he see he is killing you. Go to counselling and get him to AA. \n\nStand up for your rights and do what you know is best. If he refuses kick him out!
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I hate to this, but you need to get back on your meds. I know it sucks, I know you might have some unpleasant side effects, but the hassles involved with the meds are better than the hassles stemming from the illness. I had a  roomate that had some of the same symptoms. His meds made him shake. So he would get off his meds and would deteriorate radiply. Your still young, I want you to remember this, with your condition, you are susceptible to alcoholism and drug addiction. I don't want you to find out the hard way and dig yourself a huge hole that will be hard to get out of. Please talk to someone close to you that can help. I'm changing my profile to allow you to email me for 48 hours if I can help further. i wish you the best.