my Bf and i know eachother since the last two years and now it seems that our --- life is goin all rusty! please help me to rejuvenate it!!!!!!!!!!
207438
buy some sexy lingerie that would be hot
566323
Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship.  You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways.  Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future.  I think this may be what has happened here.  If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.
119108
It's time to move on with your life. Leave the moron because once the respect for each other has dissipated the relationship is history. Sorry.
392877
try to create the spark you guys had when you first met each other...hope this helps
671683
You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
672377
First, I think it's great that you care enough to ask and not just take the relationship for granted.\n\nNow, how to keep it alive.  Think back to the early days you were together.  Anything stand out from there that you don't do as much?  Whether it be an exciting date, time chatting, finding out new things about one another ... might try some of the old things.\n\nNext, is there anything you all have talked about wanting to do together?  DO IT.  I never really thought much about this, but it the past couple of weeks I have seen people make lists of 100 things they want to do in life, and on the "ellen" show one day, she took care of about 10 of the items.\n\nIt gives a sense of accomplishment to cross these things off and a sense of adventure in trying to create the list and then in planning to do them.\n\nIn fact, what am I doing sitting here at this keyboard, when I should be making out my own list!?! ;-{ )\n\nTake care and good luck!
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Before you give up, maybe change up the routine in which you do things. Many people get so used to someone, and doing the same thing that they dont even notice the other person anymore. So try something new. If you have a specific night you go out, make it a different one. Go somewhere you have Never been before. Do you surprise eachother anymore? Try that. Have you gone anywhere on a trip recently? or just overnight to somewhere? Anything to change what you are used to. If after all that is said and done. Then you should have a talk about where the relationship is going, and see what you should do.
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I suggest you get a new hobbie or perhaps go out to the gym. You don't always want to be "available" to him. Occasionally I tell my bf that I'm busy. I've even had instances where I had other people vying for my time. So much that my bf got upset and said I was putting hi off for my friends. \n\nEven when my bf and I are together, I have something to do. We've been together for a bit and even when I spend nights at his house, I don't spend 24&#92;7 all on him. Maybe I'll read a book, or do some stuff online, maybe get some homework done or even talk on the phone. \n\nIts important in relationships to have together time and apart time.\n\nNow if he really IS neglecting you, TELL HIM. Straight out and without the tears. He'll ignore you, guys hate seeing girls cry especially when they dont understand why.  BE SPECIFIC. Say what he does and how often that upsets you. Then listen. Maybe he's bored of doing the same old thing with you. Spice it then, go snow boarding, christmas decorating, even BOWLING, just something NEW. Something so that when he thinks of you, he thinks spontaneous, not dull.
186620
Forget him. He obviously forgot what it's like being your boyfriend. Do something your good at. Focus on things that you want to do.
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Sometimes people just become complacent with their relationship and get stuck in a bit of a rut.  In order for a relationship to stay active and alive there has to be lots of open and honest communication firstly.  Also continue to do the things that you used to enjoy doing when you first met.  Although maybe not as much as at first but it is like a nice security blanket trying to recapture some of the good old days at times.  In addition don't forget to tell your partner how much they are loved and that you value them as often as possible.
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hmmm.......... i have been giving suggestion in this regard to a lot of people and i guess they liked it also...\nthe problem here is there is a monotonous life schedule which is going on..... you have a routine life and people do get bored out of their routine life.....\none thing i would suggest is stop bitching about each other.... this is the worst thing to do in a relationship.... ater all this, you two are together for 5 years means that there is something which is still there which is binding you two.... it can love, it can be lust......\ndo these to spice up your life.....\n1. give him a surprise party..... without any occasion\n2. always be a pleasant surprise for him.... keep him guessing what will be your next move... that will interest him...\n3. Perform a striptease in front of him... totally unexpected...\n4. for once, dont bitch back..... arguments leads to arguments......\neven though he does, you have to keep your calm, and try to love him, even though he might be busy bitching..... put your arm around him and kiss him on his lips.... the words come out.....\n5. don't hear whatever he says, when he is bitching.......\n6. give your love to him...... it can bind/heal/patch almost any kind of relationship.... it can cure the bitterness between you two......\ntake care and good luck girl
52964
spend time on your self it sounds like you lost your self in this relationship. spend time with your friends and family fall in love with your self then you will heal
585958
Certain things may change.  see how he introduces you to people.  Sometimes you may need to talk about it actually ask him where u guys stand.  Me and my ex bf were friends for 3 years and after a while we started seeming more like a couple.  I spent time with his family, he took me to meet all of his friends, he started paying more attention to me.  Eventually i just said since we seem like a couple we should become one and he agreed.  But dont rush things.  Thats what i did and we are now over.  You have to wait til it feels right.
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Tough situation. I'm afraid I don't have this wonderful recipe that will cure you instantly. \n\nBut there is something you should do, even if it is tough. Make sure you always look good, only wear clothes you like, smell nice (and I mean nice, so no cheap stuff and not too much of it !), maybe have a new haircut. That way, you will be both new as well as the same old you. If he sees you he has to have a good look at you because of the change and he may see what he misses. Even if he doesn't it helps you to boost your confidence and makes it easier to move on (yea, I know, this isn't what you want to hear, sorry !!). \n\nI have been through a few bad situations, it has always helped me to make very sure I was looking fresh and positive. Show the world what you are made of !
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I have been there...not exactly in the same circumstances but at 19 My relationship finished and i know the pain you are going through, i really do..it hurts so so much and you feel that there is nothing left for you...i am now ten years older and since my split up with that boyfriend, when i was 19, i have done so much with my life..much more than i would ever have done if i had stayed with him...i have more friends now...have had lots more boyfriend...have had an excellent time... going on girly holidays...travelling...meeting new people...i sometimes wish i could go back in time and tell my 19 year old self how wonderful my life was going to be...I can't do that but i can guarentee that your life will get better and better... you will get to know yourself better, you'll do different things, you'll get excited when you have a crush on some one new...believe me, it will happen i never thought it would when we first split up but i then went on to fancying someone different nearly every month...it was great fun. I am all settled down living with a boyfriend now, all grown up..but i look back on that time and smile..it was great...it will be hard for you but look to the future...don't let him string you along... get yourself dressed and go out with some friends...be with people you like. Life is great, you can make it great with out him. Hope this helps xxx
965
Patience and remember when you were that old how much the attention of someone older meant to you. Go do something you both enjoy and make your own space for when you just can't stand the little blaggard anymore.
672206
You should come to the realization that there is nothing boring about a great relationship.  If you continue always looking around for something better, you will regret it later after much heartbreak.  I suggest that you stay with your BF and tell your ex to stop calling.  Sadly, based on what you have written here I do not have a good feeling about your future unless you find a way to change your goals and philosophy.