Well me and my ex broke up about a month ago he called me on the phone and said he thought we should be friends i didn't understand it but i just went on. We didn't have much contact but we did have some emailing! Well recently he sent me a message saying that he got to thinkin and he realizes it was stupid to break up with me that he still likes me.Then he asks if i would go to prom which is just around the corner. I don't want to be used just as his date to the(senior)prom then he might leave he says i should call him and let him know. Is he just using me as his prom date so he ditch me after it or does he truly miss me and want me back? I truly still like him but i don't want to give him that much satisfaction of knowing what should i do?
208874
This is what I think (and it's just an opinion)\n\nHe suddenly realizes that he has no date for the prom. You have been emailing each other, so he figures he will ask you out. \n\nThis is what you should do:\n\nFind someone else to go to the prom with. If he really likes you, he will make it known during or after the prom is over. \n\nWhy should you do this:\n\nFor one, you need to teach him that you will not always be there for his last choice. Second, he needs to know that he made a not so good decision for dumping you (and the prom will do just that, when he see's you dancing with someone else.) And three, this will test the both of you and make one or both of you realize that you have feelings for one another.\n\nGood Luck!
413090
He does like you and it is probably "comfortable" to be affectionate with you.  Does that mean he is wanting you back-who knows, he might not even know for sure.maybe  he was testing the waters to see how you would respond.  Don't confess all yet (I love you so much), give it some time and see if you get any more feelings or if he continues spending this kind of time with you.  You'll know soon if you two need to talk or if its going no where.  Remember, the was a reason you broke up.  Don't jump in heart over head.  Only you can tell yourself what to do.  Good luck
245085
Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
476871
the slight possibility and the only now and again says something....he may want to get back with her, so just leave him to it...don't mean to sound bad when i say this but i think it's time to just move on...he has stated that he wants to be just mates with you...so respect him for being honest...you'll find someone else, but waiting around for him is a waste of time...he still has it for his ex
199120
Why do you care . . . you already broken up . . . and he is looking for someone new.\n\nIf the guys made a wager on who can date this one girl . . . then this is a gag date . . . nothing serious.  Odds are they don't give a damn about her . . . so blow it off . . . and who cares.  It is not like you are dating him still.
597861
Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
174684
you are not defined by this guy.  You are just as special today as you were before he came along.  Do you really want him to call you and apologize?  If you let him get back with you then you are saying that you are not important enough to stand up for yourself.  Plus, there will be a new guy very soon, maybe the man of your dreams, do you want to be crying for this loser when the next one comes along?  \nYou are special, and he doesnt deserve to hurt you again.
487382
Wow--that's a long time to date someone!!  I'll bet you are really hurting.  He's probably curious about what's on the 'other side of the fence' at this point.  There's nothing you can do about it if he wants to be with another girl.  You don't have to like it--but you do have to accept it and take responsibility for your own life.  He doesn't want to talk with you though and you have to respect his wishes about that.  It's going to be difficult to get past such a significant relationship.  I suggest (although this may sound weird & I'm not suggesting you want anything bad to happen to him) that you pretend he's dead and grief accordingly.  You don't have the option of talking with him to work things out.  If he misses your absence, he'll get in touch at some future date.  The fact is he has changed his mind, which is his perogative, and you need to get on with the rest of your life.  Good Luck
513509
sounds like he regrets breaking up with you, kinda like you don't know what you have 'till it's gone.  it's your choice if you decide to take him back.  if you really care for him and feel he is being honest then go for it.
258623
Well, it seems that your ex has some feelings left over for you.  Either that or he's not completely over you.  It's his way of caring...misdirected as it seems, but he definitely cares.  He knows you well enough, and hopefully, you know him well enough, that his heart is in the right place.  He's looking out for you whether you like it or not.  Approach your ex with an open mind and heart, and simply talk to him about it.  Let him vent out his feelings about the whole thing and ask him questions as to why.  I'm sure he'll say the same thing as I did, only a longer version of it.  He just cares about you!  He has a funny way of showing it, I know, but that's the truth.  Plain and yet so simple.
262335
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
668739
Sounds like he likes you. So go for it. Maybe he had feelings for you which is why he had broke up with his girlfriend. He wants you and now he wants to see how you feel about him. Let him know by flirting back, hang out more, talk more and see how things work out.
299791
When you call him you are pestering him. Let him have his space or he'll never want you back. And why bug out about it, there is a reason why he dumped you and I personally think you need to move on. I guarantee if you start dating he'll want you back. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, and enjoy life. Try writing a letter to him instead of calling this will help your need to be in contact with him. good luck
589241
Leave him behind, if he had another girl on his arm the very next day after you asked him out, then he is definitely not serious about a relationship, he probably said yes to keep all his bases covered, just go to the bar have a few drinks, maybe play some pool, sit back and unwind you'll most likely meet someone that serious about a relationship in no time at all. And if that's not your goal then grab a rebound guy" been one my self a few times" and show him off to your ex and see what his reaction is. well that's all the advice i can give with out breaking a million more of the guy codes, but hey good luck with what ever you chose.
91655
He doesn't hate you! It is common in most guys to not call a girl after a breakup especially if it hurt them. Most likely he hasn't spoken to you because he doesn't want you to know that he misses you etc. He thinks there is a mistake on your path because he is ashamed of what he did or didn't do. It is just a way to remove some of his guilt.If you haven't tried calling him i think you should; but don't mention anything about your relationship. Talk to him as anyother friend would.Try not to focus on you.Ask questions to make him do most of the talking.
97947
If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
318132
I've been in your shoes and I've been in the opposite side of your shoes. Clearly, like previously stated, this man does not know what he wants. Do you really think it's possible for a man to break up with you and change all those feelings of romance into friendship in just three days?!? He's just lonely and trying to fill the void (platoniclly, sexually, who knows), and he's probably unaware that your heart is at stake. If you want to be "friends" with someone after you've dated them, break up for real, cut contact, go about your life normally again, see other people, wait AT LEAST 3 months (maybe more), then see how you feel. A few years ago I had a gf and we went back and forth with the break-up/friend thing, and looking back it was such a waste of time. We ended up breaking up for good and we don't talk anymore. Now life is good. I have found another great girl and I don't need to be friends with my ex. After two years we've never done the break-up back and forth thing.\n\nGo after the one you love, don't waste your time and energy trying to decide if this confused guy is for you - he's obviously not. Your heart, future, family, etc. is too valuable.