she alway help me out whenever i am in problem,but she still sleep with another man and i still love her she said she dont love me she cant marry me bcos she is tree years older than me i am in love with her  and i love to marry her(i dont use to love no girl but now i dont no what is going on i cant sleep,eat all i do is drinking)please tell me what do
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IM STILL TRYING TO FIND OUT
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WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
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thats awsome!  ofcourse its important, but if she really loves ya, she will stay with you.  explain to her that your not like the other guys who can't control themselves, and you have a brain that controls your body, not the other way around.  I have respect for you.
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Sweetheart, you are young and in love; I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, but just be her friend, you are both too young to have this kind of stress in your lives. Be her friend, and be a good friend, things have a really weird way of working themselves out, so don't worry, if you love her you will cherish any relationship you have with her. \n\nP.S. You sound like a guy that any girl would be lucky to have, but I have to tell you; this probably wont be the last time you feel this way. I wish you good luck and good love
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obviously there are a LOT of issues there. u r already unhappy and ther is no legal commitment yet, imagine how it will change when the "I DO" is said.   and u talking to us will not solve the problem.\n\nu are too depended on her. no one should be sucked into the life of another person. u r to compliment not complete each other. u need a balance and other perspectives in life. she may not like others that u like, but if she loves u ( which i doubt or mayb she ahs commitment issues or issues expressing feelings to significant others) she will like them because of u.  \n\nto be honest, sounds like she is just using u, and guess what, ur letting her.  abuse is abuse
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Move on brother, she has found someone else, oh ya, do not attempt to get an explanation out of her because it will never come and you will only end up humiliating yourself.\n\nTime to be a man and suck it up, besides, look at your ages, did you really think it was going to last forever, ha. You will get you heart broken plenty more times in the coming years so learn from this and move on. Peace.
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She does not love you.\nYou deserve better.  Stop drinking and find a hoby you are interested in.  Look for someone that shares your interests outside of the bedroom.
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Hey man, relax.\nFirst thing you can do is to trust her words: She said she wants to marry you. Then accept it.\n\nDon't worry too much. There is still time to talk about her attitude (accusing, do things that make you mad). Both of you should agree to change your attitudes to a level that is acceptable and comfortable with both of you. Otherwise, your relationship will always be on the rocks.\n\nTry to meet in the middle. and try to compromise for the good of you both.\n\nTrue love understands and cares. It is gentle, not rude, it does not boast, it keeps no record of wrongs.\n\nAll the best.
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I am somewhat in this same situation.  I was a drinker when I met my bf and he has since asked me to quit (or only drink when he is around).  He knows I tend to be more "open" or social when I'm under the influence of alcohol and that scares him, and he has every reason to be (i am a heavy drinker and have been known to black out).  I guess it depends on how much she is drinking and how often.  Do you see yourself EVER being able to accept it.  I'm sure you have tried talking to her about this already, hence the fighting.  Please, next time, express your fellings calmly, genuinely, and with love.  If she is 100% defending her actions without even so much as considering your feeling on this, it may be a lost cause.  (From experience, the more defensive she is, the more difficult the situation, there may be more to what she is doing).  If she loves you, she will at least consider what you have to say. \n\nAlso, you may want to re-evaluate your marriage.  I'm no counsler, but I've known from my own relationships that sometimes the spark burns out.  She may just be seeking the "new" that she misses from when you 2 met.  Is rediscovering those "new" feelings with her an option?
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How old are you? your question irk me! Please answer this, Are you the best for her? If you can't even convinced your heart, how would you be a good man for this woman? she needs more than your "doubts". It's not just your marriage you're talking about, it's her's too, and tell you what, she might have that very same doubt about you! imagine why the so-called strange words (as you said)! Grow up!
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I am so sorry to hear that. I do not know why she did what she did but I would think you better start looking after yourself. You matter a lot, always remember that. Move on with life... we only live once so make most of it. There must be someone out there waiting to be loved by you and will love you till the last breathe... well, I believe in marriage and love and there's always hope!
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AK,\n  This is ALOT like the situation I was in before, ONLY reversed------------------- I can't speak for "your girl", but from a gal's point of view, I'm seeing from all you described, SHE is confused and she got caught up in you, probably feels guilty, and is in a tough spot about what to do with her marriage..............................\n  She is going through alot emotionally and I'm sure she does love you.  It's a confusing time for her with alot of emotions going on.\n  Don't drop her, 'cause we all need someone in our lives who care and if you disappear, she would be lost, I can tell you that!\n  I'd say it would be good to get out there and date, but stay in touch with this girl too.\n\nWhat you "should do" is all up to you.  You said she is the girl of your dreams, THEN, stand by her--------------LOVE is PATIENT.\n  That;s it right there, how much she means to you!\n\nNext, I'm wondering maybe "your girl" doesn't exactly know where she stands with you.  Does she know you love her?  Have you offered her a future with you?  Maybe she needs some reassurance so that maybe she can have that strength to leave her husband, if she knows she "fits in" your life!\n\nDivorce isn't easy as you already know, and maybe for "your girl" she is having a hard time with the idea of fully "letting go" of her marriage for whatever reasons, SO I wouldn't take her hesitation personal cuz she is dealing and going through alot all at once!\n\nTalk to her, be there for her, just be her friend right now, and you might be ok with that if the both of you are secure in your love for each other, see?   Please don't turn your back on her.  That's all I wanted to say.\n\nGood luck to you both and with your support she will get through her problems, you will see!
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I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
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I feel it was wrong for her not to tell you and now you feel trapped and lied to but the thing of the matter is ---which boils right down to you can you forgive her for lieing to you and if you are willing to continue to love her because if not then these problems will always exist in your relationship or marriage and I am a strong believer that you should not get married under false pretenses but if she has not shown any other signs of cheating or anything like that then you should give her the opportunity to prove herself to you and if you still want to wait to get married you dont have to rush into this you should want you marriage to be happy and joyous and loving=== dont get married because your families want you to get married because you love her yeah people make mistakes and I was also cheated on so I had to weigh my options of what would be best for me and  my children and I assume that you dont have any children so take your time and you talk to her about it a little more try to put yourself in her shoes try to understand what made her do it and why get a sense of understanding first and then you can make a rational decision on whether to leave or not \n\nhope things work out for you
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Sounds like you are being used.  Love can be blinding.  You need to let her go, she is not the only woman in the world.  But if you keep treating her as "Ms. Universe" she will keep treating you the same way.  You said she is obsessed with another guy.  Let her go because you are obsessed with her.  Maybe if the other guy hurts her, then she will rebound to you, but any man with pride would leave hear alone under any circumstances.  But if you love her and you can't live without her, tell her and if she decides she wants the other guy, let her go!!!
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You need to use this time for reflection, love does not disappear that easy! Communication is the key, maybe she is afraid, the best thing you can do is show her that you support her and care. Take it slow and both of you need to rememer the things that brought you together in the first place. If after all this she still does not want to marry, LET GO...
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oh man i feel sorry for you. i think she is stressed out about something. do you pay attention to her? take her out, just the two of you, somewhere romantic. do more things together. talk to eachother at night before falling asleep. dont let this go on forever. if you dont talk to her then she will think everything is okay and will continue.\noh gosh. i feel horrible. when i get stressed out and really tired at night, i become really mean. and its not that its directed towards my husband. i just cant deal with doing stuff when im tired. i get really angree about anything. i wish i can stop. im working on it. i told my husband that he needs to tell me to stop when it gets out of control.\ni think its hormone too. your wife might be doing this becus of her lady hormones.\nthe best thing to do is sit down and talk to her about this situation. dont let her continue like this. be supportive of her and tell her you will help her. if she gets upset becus you want to help her, that is just normal rejection. continue to be supportive.