I never bother checking bank accounts. My husband took advantage of it. HE IS DOING A LOT OF SECRET THINGS...
206493
Maybe your just too nosy and a b*^ch.
667379
I have been married 23 years. In the last six my husband has spent a lot time being unemployed, ran off a few times, then wants to come back. But each time he ran off I did better without him. For example two years ago when he left, we were living in a small rural community. I decided since he was gone, to move to a larger city. After I did, I worked two jobs. He lived with us (my kids and I) for awhile, sitting around painting pictures and making promises to get a job. In February, we got a large tax refund. While I was at work, he took off with $1500 he never earned! I decided after that to stop trusting him and take care of myself. I enrolled in a vocational school, a decision I've never regretted. He still wants me back, but doesn't want to live in this city. My kids totally hate him. I think I can do much better without him, even though I may be alone for the rest of my life. (I'm done with relationships)
600003
you should call your bank that issues your checks immediately if you haven't already done so... They will close your account and you won't be held responsible for those checks.
184445
I am going to disagree with most of your posters.  Is it wrong for you to like affairs....absolutely not.  You can't control the emotion, excitement, or feeling of the secretively in the whole idea of an affair.  Yet, while you asked if it was okay to like them the answer it is NO?  It is important to know that it is wrong to act on them morally.  Just like I may love robbing banks and the excitement of it but it doesn't mean that I should run out and do it.  Maybe you should find ways to suppress the excitement in sleeping around.  While bank robbery is illegal it can seldom be seen as illegal to have an affair too.  I wish you the best in your struggle with this.
136665
If you don't trust him, you need to ask yourself if you should be in this relationship.  My husband has lazy moments too but it would never cross my mind for a second that he'd cheat on me.
314188
No, there is no reason the husband's name should be on the check...only the person whom the money is left to will have their name on the check.
316274
from experience i would say he is probably hiding something. when i was hiding something from my hubby i didn't care where he went, and actually he didn't leave house enough. or may be if y'all go to church then maybe he has grown up and realized GOD SAYS HE NEEDS TO TRUST YOU. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!
593668
I don't care for Wells Fargo Bank or at least the branch in my town.    When I was younger my mom would ask me to take her deposits into  the bank and on several occassions they would act like I was trying to take money.  Even after my mom had filed paperwork that ok'd me to drop the deposits off.  I remembered telling them hey Im trying to give you money not take it away.   So when I got older to have an account I went to another bank.   Wells Fargo  made me feel like I was trying to pull one over on them.
316845
I've been online banking for years and haven't had any problems. I am careful with my password, I watch my account for unusual activity and it is a great way to stay on top of my finances on a moments notice.\n\nThe banks go to a lot of effort to protect the information and I might be naive, but so far they have been pretty trustworthy.\n\nAll banks to publish their privacy and security information online so you can read these policies if they would assist with your comfort level.
238577
I think you have a legitimate complaint. How did they get you banking information to begin with?  I think if you authorize them to take money out of your account they should have your voice recorded giving them permission to take out the $600.00, on whatever date it is they took it out on. Get your information from the bank and call them back and turn the tables on them and ask them who gave them authorization to take the money out on this date, and that you want proof of it. You will be coming in for the proof and taking it to your attorney to review. If you are able to pick it up don't tell them you are going to your attorney until they hand over the proof. Also, ask them to highlight where you gave them permission to take this  extra $600.00. If you ask for the proof and they can't come up with it they will have to put it back in your account immediately. Make sure you tell them so. If they won't put the money back into your account and they give you a paper that is showing proof that you didn't authorize you will have to get an attorney. I hope not but they can't get away with doing things like this. Also, threaten to call the local newspaper and tell them what they did. See how they like that. You could also call the police and ask them if you have any recourse with this company. Usually going on the news scares the daylights out of them because it hurts their business.
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That can add up to a lot in one month. If he is hiding or even lying about anything he is wrong. There should be no secrets between you and him. If he does this about gambling just think if there is anything else he is hiding or isn't telling you. You need to nip this in the bud as soon as possible. If you all can afford for him to do that then let him do it. If you can't afford for him to do that then let him know he needs to stop. That money could be used elsewhere especially if you all have children. Communication is best here. Good Luck!
104489
After just being married, I'm sure that your mindset is that EVERYTHING should be together.  Seperate accounts is what he is used to at the moment.  This is all new for the both of you.  Give him a little time.  As time goes on, I am willing to bet the accounts will merge.  This is what happened to me.  I'm speaking from experience.  Don't push too much right now.  Lay low on this and see where it goes.
376710
Hey, that's the same story that happend between my sister, her boy-friend, and our step-father.  Are you my sister?  Ok, just incase you're not or are...if your boy-friend has stolen before in the past, it's likely that he stole from your house.  He could be lieing to you about him not taking the money.  Then again money can be easily misplaced/lost.  Depending where your family had the money.  If it was in a safe/drawer/box and it's not there anymore, or they didn't touch it,  then yes someone stole it.  But if they had it in their pocket or on a table or something, then it's probably somewhere in the street or house.  If your boy-friend did it, you have to leave him, just like that.  He's not trustworthy.  Trust is one of the keys that keeps a relationship healthy.  You deserve better.
491757
Tell him to call the mental health office - or the hotline and they will give him information regarding FREE counseling services.  The thing with medical assistance is they can only check the accounts that you give them- if he has the money in a separate account from his checking, he can probably get away without them knowing about it.  People of multiple accounts in many banks for that reason-- rich have them in off shore accounts.  Best of luck to your friend, you seem like a really good friend to be doing this for him  And there are family crisis centers that can give counseling to the whole family and by the way, he doesn't have a job so he should go to social services in his town and see what else they can do to help him get back on his feet--- again, he should not disclose that one bank account- and if it IS linked to his primary checking that he uses and they would ask for the records for, he should withdraw the monies from that bank and put it elsewhere and explain the withdrawal as a repayment of a loan to YOU.
146795
I've never even heard of that....  My husband's self-employed and I do virtually nothing, does that count?
646333
I don't know why your bank closed your accounts. I don't believe there is anything you can do without spending your own moeny except for contacting the bank that the check came from daily and see if the money is available. Depends on the size of the check, you may want to just write if off.
161560
First before you sell anything cut those credit cards up and stop using them now. That is how so many people get into debit in the first place, if you don't have the money to pay for it than you really don't need it right?? Second you are thinking of these rings and stuff as objects, which they are but do they not hold memories of the times that you and your husband spent together, the reason that the ring was given. It maybe just jewelry, but look past and see what they really mean. Try before that to get help with your debit, call and see if you can consolidate your bills, they now have debit councilors to help people like yourself, but remember get rid of those cards and that will start you on the right road. Good Luck and please don't do it behind your husbands back that could hurt more than your credit, it could hurt your marriage. Talk to him if that is the way that you think that you need to go.