My friends boyfriend druged me with rohypnol and raped me. I did go to the police and I have been tested. It was him. He is out on bail. Im on antriretrovirals, andideppressents and dont go to varsity because I get verbally abused by his friends. I have just come out of a meeting with him, his parents, and my parents. They are willing to pay $7000 (R50 000)for damages. They also hinted the police docet could dissappear and then my charge would be thrown out of court. His parents said he is a young man with a great future and why should he be given a criminal record and go to jail for a stupid mistake, and he has apologiesed. A stupid mistake? He's practically destroyed my life in minutes!!! If I did take the money then Im some prositute? What do you think?
215487
Stupid mistake?\nI think his parents should go to jail too , fucking bastards\n\nA legal proccess will take much more time, it will take much more sweat and emotional distress but its your responsobility to yourself and to society to put a criminal behind bars\n\nIf he is free he can do it again, to your neighboor or sister or friend.\nApologized for raping you?  ohh yeah sorry about that,my bad\n\nIf you let him go its not only dangerous for society its dangerous for you , if you know of a man that hurt you on purpose and you dont hurt him back , your dooming yourself into a position of a woman who is inferior to men and will fear men for the rest of her life, you need to get your honor back, get your pride back , get your life back\nif you treat yourself like a nobody thats what you will be\n\nHow can you even think of not going through with this?\nYou said he raped you , maybe your using the wrong word\nmaybe he just fuc*ed you?\n\nYoung man with great future my ass , he is a godamn criminal  and he is dangerous. bright future? wtf? he is going to do it again ,and  next time he might even kill her\n\nAnd yeah , if you take the money , thats just what YOU are worth $7000, i think your worth more , \nyour worth around...well....atleast 5 years in prison.
654803
Get a lawyer or public defender - regardless what it costs. It depends on the crime - but generally - if he is in jail now - he either committed another crime - or they put him in there for jumping AR probabation - a violation of his terms. The fact you stated "he ran" means he had to report to a PO - and didn't - and knew he was committing another crime - as did you. A good lawyer could possibly have the extradition waived, in lieu o fjail time or probation in NM  - though that is not a guarantee. \nAnd when you get a lawyer - make sure you tell him everything - unlike here.
412598
They are as serious if not more serious than being charged with a DUI.\nTell your friend to try to fight it and get the charges dropped to a lesser misdemeanor.\nThis charge will haunt him on his personal record forever.
645370
I agree with you totally. I was raped when I was 15 by a 15 yr old he went to ydc he originaly got 7 yrs. The whole time he was in jail he wrote to me telling me that when he got out he would kill me and any one I was with and if I had kids he'd kill them to. Cause I was his and know one else's. He was sick in the head and it was obviouse that jail did'nt bother him. It is now 11years later and he is in a mental hospital indefainatly. It was not the prison system that made him relise what he'd done was wrong. But my partner at the time and his friends my partner did something knowing he would go to jail for it and that there was a 99% chance he would be put in the same place as this lad and he was. He put him in the hospital 6 times. The lad was in and out of jail a lot after that i don't know what for but every time he was there would be someone in there who new me and what he'd done and every time he was beat up. Until eventually he cracked up. So you see they never learn jail is just a free  holiday to most. So yes the death penalty should be brought back or send them to labs to be experimented on instead of poor defenceless animals.
610628
That is exactly what this is. (post traumatic stress disorder)First off, if you know your attacker then turn the bastard in. He has no right to do that and not pay for it. Second, seek a peer group. There are others who have had similar experiences. Good luck with all of this
111419
Well something like that happend to a friend of mine years ago, but she was 14 and he was 19. Beings she was a minor the parents were informed on what happend.\nSomething like that really shouldn't be hid from her parents. And this boy needs to be took down or else there could be another young girl raped or worse. \nShe shouldn't be embarrassed or ashamed on what happend, it's not her fault if she said no. \nI was raped by someone, but I was an adult and as a result I had a child from it. If I could I would put the person who did it to me in prison but I was drugged by a date-rape type of drug and pretty much don't remember much of it and since they can't find the person - DNA does no good.\nSomething like that is too dangerous to let go if not for her sake than for someone elses. Of course it will be stressful but I think she will feel better after knowing he didn't get away with it.
171174
I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you but....\n\nCall the cops, let them give you a rape kit, and  (especially if they are conviced you were raped) PRESS CHARGES.\n\nWho cares if this was a friend, or a friend of a friend! PEOPLE LIKE THIS ARE NOT FRIENDS AND NEED TO BE STOPPED!!!
371818
You sound frustrated. I don't blame you. These things can take a long time if the police can't find\nenough evidence to get a conviction. Avoid this guy \nand make sure the parents in your neighborhood are\nawaare of this guy. If you find any evidence you think will help the police then tell them. Finally,\nbreak all ties with this guy. Just don't let him\ncome to your house anymore. He is innocent until\nproven guilty but that doesn't mean you have to let\nhim back into your life.
205416
Since you are on the internet, it is probably someone you know. But the person in jail knows, and you should also know, that the police have a complete disrespect for the law, and break more laws than any criminal ever thought of; and they do it every day. They get away with this because they know how the system works, what they can get away with, and they all stick together.\n\nSo you should also know that this case is going to be almost impossible to win. You will be lucking if you can find a lawyer who will even take the case, because they too are part of the system, and they too stick together. Nobody wants to be alienated or become an outcast or outsider. \n\nThey're all dirty, they all break the law, so who would be willing to prosecute one of their own and risk prosecution themselves for one or many of their own misdeeds?\n\nSorry, but I would say you are SOL. I just got off of a 10-yr bit, and I've been studying the law every day of that time, and I've seen some pretty trumped up charges, and some obvious framework, but the judge loses the evidence, or a key witness disappears, or they just wear you down with delays and filings and court costs and wrong filings and starting all over again, and you'd be surprised how they can procrastinate legally, but if you miss a court date or filing date, it's over. \n\nYou can't even imagine how the system is stacked against you. You just think you have a good idea. I'm trying to get you to see reality. You can waste all you mney and resources and time and effort -- your entire life -- and you don't even have a 1% chance of winning anything. \n\nI'm very sorry, but don't waste everything on a fight you cannot win.
37324
As long as you still have the marks, make a police report! This man (for lack of a better word) is trying to control you, and sounds like he has succeeded up to this point! Don't be afraid of him, because you can be protected!! You don't have to put up with abuse from anyone! If he's into crack and has another woman, you should just hold your head high, and walk away from a bad situation. It'll only get worse if you let it! When you make your police report, you can also request a restraining order. In my town, you'd be directed to contact Victims Assistance, and they will have the restraining order for you as quickly as tomorrow! Don't let him get away with anything! He needs to be locked up! Good luck to you! :)
181340
ok heres my answer.  and i would also request that you actually read the whole thing before moving on to the next.  first of all i think you are an insensitive prick.  you think we should just kill every person that doesnt meet your high standards.  that is inhumane, actually that is insane.  especially for any felony.  did you know that you can recieve a  felony for speeding?  so you should be executed for being in a big ass hurry to get to work.  peeps make mistakes.  sounds like you did too.  x is fun but illeagal and dangerous.  what if you got pulled over before popping and the cops found it?  that is a felony.  bang your dead.  i have a felony and i take offense to your statement.  i realize i made a mistake and i took immediate actions to correct my mistakes from reoccuring in the future.  i got busted with an oz and a half of mexican dirt weed.  class four felony.  i was also into meth and x and acid and shrooms and pretty much all the drugs i could ingest.  i saw my life going down hill and the cops helped me realize it.  so i went to treatment and havent touched the stuff in two years.  I WAS GIVEN A CHANCE TO REHABILLATATE AND LEARNED MY LESSON.  the correctional and judicial systems purpose is to help people in general, wheather they are criminals or honest citizens.  they help a lot of people by giving them another chance but watching them closely.  i understand where you are comming from however.  i have friends in prison who have commited offenses time after time and dont learn.  but do i want them dead? no.  they deserve the same as you and i.  i do believe that certain offenses do deserve death.  killers have no remorse, otherwise they wouldnt have commited the act.
465973
Honey, you should stay away from this person.  He has already been in and out of jail.  He is a repeat offender and that should mean something to you.  You have your own problems, getting with him will only give you MORE problems.  There are plenty of guys out there who do not have troubled pasts or futures for that matter, get one of those.  The fact that "he always ends up saying my life is too messed up to be with anyone right now", is a brush off and you know it.  He's not interested.  Stop chasing him only because you can't have him and stay away from the bad boys.  I know they seem dangerous and exciting and they are but; BAD BOYS = BAD RELATIONSHIP = BAD LIFE.  Set the bar higher and have some respect for yourself.
260340
This falls under the category of "Live & Learn".  If there is physical evidence that shows he hit you (hospital, etc), I doubt he will get off easy.  If you refuse to testify against him, your chances of getting future help are not worth much & you just could be in worse shape than if you told the truth about him.  If the Officer saw the evidence, then that is as good as a photo.  I think his work may be in violation of labor standards for their statements regarding his job security.  He is innocent until proven guilty & he may have a good case against his employers, no matter what happens with your case.  You could have your Public Defender talk to the DA about how this is affecting your family & they just might reduce the charges or ammend them to read differently, in order that he can retain his job & insurance.  Once the DA gets something, it is difficult to get them to let go, like a Pitbull, they hold on!  Talk to your Public Defender. Stress the Ins. issue so that they will see that the children MAY end up costing the county money if you have to go on Public aid or welfare to get medical services for them.  You may have to do this if he loses his job anyway, so be prepared for the worst!
237421
First of all my dear friend, you are too young for this man. I hope to God you have not had sex with this man for this is truly a case of statutory rape. Second, you have way too much life to live to be dragged into the middle of this drama...and believe me, the drama has only just begun. You will never have any peace with this man and his ex (especially since you have indicated that he already talked about going back, then you say, he wants nothing to do with her only for the baby -doesn't sound like a firm foundation to me) You need to run, run, run as far away from this situation as you can - you don't want to be the next one with child.
217762
Unfortunately the courts in this country favor the accused when it comes to justice. A personal thought, you may want to keep a journal on hand so that you can keep all incidents, such as his remarks towards killing himself, on file. Just have the date/time, explanation of incident. This may help should you need to go through a major trial or anything of that nature.\nI'd keep pulling strings, piss some people off, get a lawyer working along side of you. If the lower courts refuse to do anything, I'd take it to higher courts.
489424
If this was not his first offense, I would assume he has a probation/parole officer.  If so, have him contact his PO and turn himself in.  If it was a first time offense, call the DA and have him 'turn himself in'--he will probably be arrested on the warrant, but could be out on bail in a few hours.  Taking the first step by voluntarily surrendering will be much better for him in the eyes of a judge than being stopped for a minor traffic violation and arrested on the warrant because he got 'caught'.  Added plus is that if he is guilty--turning himself in may influence the judge's decision at sentencing.
138824
OK, I have problems with this on several levels. For starters, who is stupid enough to sell a car to an underage kid who has no license or insurance? There may be liability on their part should the victim decide to press charges against them as well. As far as your "friend"...first, find a different friend because this one sounds like a thug and is bad news. Secondly, although it may depend on the state where you live, at 17 1/2 she could very likely be charged as an adult, especially considering the fact that she is a repeat offender due to the DUI (and I'll bet money she has a record for other things as well). There are other chargeable offenses here as well...no license, no insurance, unregistered car, and a minimum of assault and battery if the attempted murder charge doesn't stick, though it should- if your account of what happened is true. I would say I wish her luck, but frankly I don't. If what you say is accurate she should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.