One girl is in a class of mine, she is really attractive, smart, and really laid back.  The other, more of a drinkin buddy, but still smart laid back and very attractive.  I could easily see myself going out with either of them, but I have this BIG problem of being really shy about stuff like this!! Any help out here?
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call MTV and ask to be made!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hmmm.  You sound very lucky to have found two guys who are nice and respectful to you that you can be comfortalbe and be yourself and close with both of them.  Not unusual or selfish at all.  I don't know where that came from.  You're too young to settle down, so enjoy the attention, luv.  No one says you have to "pick" or settle down so quick.  You can't measure love, just hang out with no pressure.
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cute accent even in the writing.....well find a nicer looking girl that isnt sleeping with everyone.....you'll forget the other girl because if she is just going around in the circle do you really want your friends making fun of you....or you could just use her and sleep with her thats what american boys do alot of girls go around in the same group of friends....its quite funny thats why thank god i am out of that game...(i shouldn't say alot but alot of the ones that i know) It will eliminate the curiousity
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i used to ask myself the same question about some chick....but yeah as much as you would like to think you're dating you're not dating unless you call it a date....but it seems you're close enough to the girl...so start making some moves man, i'm sure she wont mind...you know little things and stuff, try to make it offical and just talk to her about...i know my other friend was worried he might ruin it friendship by asking his best friend out...but i believe you got nothing to lose and all to gain
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Just be a real friend to both of them. They both like each other. If you make a move for her, you could lose both of them. There may be another chance later on if this is meant to be.
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Well after working with many individuals like yourself I think I have the best answer for you. Yes you can have "crushes" for two "guys." Everything depends on which guy is greater. You say yourself that they are both great.. however what qualities and what personalities make them great. Start by writing out a Venn Diagram and fill in the circle for similarities and then differences. The harder one to fill in will be the one that is less greater than the first. After you do that..write another post and I'll be happy to respond.. God bless and good luck!
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How old are ya ??? ok, I hope you are at least 16... but, if ya like them both, you need to step back and really think about each of them... who they are, what they are, what they stand for, are they good guys, etc.. list the good and bad of each on paper... I know it sounds calculating, and maybe it is, but you do not want hurt feelings by going from one to the other do ya ?? anyway, look at the list and with all honesty pick the one that brings out the best in you and that fits the* inside your head* want list of a good b/f... I hope this helps a little... God bless
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Sounds like you have a good heart and an open mind. My advice is to just let it go. A person like you will have no trouble making more friends, and maybe these two will grow up a little and it'll work out. Don't worry about it in the meantime. Just look on the bright side, you know you're a good friend no matter what.
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Nick, I'm not going to say "ditch" this "perfect" girl but I'm going to give you something to think about.\nWhat happens if you spend all your time on this girl when you never know that there's another more deserving girl looking from behind the scenes.  And, what happens if you waste all this time on her when suddenly you two go out and you find out that she's not so "perfect" at all?  Follow the advice of others, go into the dating game for once.  Probably this "busy" "senorita" will feel jealous and at the end will feel bad that she has been spending too much time on the books and all that most of the "great guys" will be taken?  \nMaybe, just maybe, you could wait.  You two are both young there's still time after high school to pursue love.  Right now, this girl is probably worried about her future and that's why you should wait for her.  You too should be busy with the "important" stuff because hey!  I'm sure all of us people who graduated from high school are probably thinking why didn't we do our homework instead of partying and stuff?
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The fact that your attentions are on someone else makes me question the relationship with the first guy. But decide who you like better and make a definate choice. It may end up being the wrong choice, but you will learn from it and hopefully be more wise the next time.
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no swearing oh fxxx! Just kidding...seriously if this girl feels the same way about you she will choose you over this other person.If not there's plenty more girls to choose from!Just be yourself and you will find out soon enough
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+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
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Go for the girl you like... if you start dating her friend then you'll NEVER get to date her if it doesn't work out with her friend.  If you go out with the friend, you'll just regret it because you'll see the girl you like all the time but won't get to be with her.  Don't play her friend unless you think you can grow to really like her, because it'll end up being a waste of time for both of you.\n\nIf I told a guy I was "kinda dating," it'd be because I wanted the other guy to stay interested.  It's almost like a "wait for me until I get out of this."  She probably doesn't want to come off as rude and just dump the guy for you, so stay persistent.  You like *her*, not her (your other) friend so much.  She's the target... So aim and fire.
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cool! that means they r both...tough n sensitive. gurlz like guyz who can be both..depending on time n situation ofcourse!:0)
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chances are, one of them is not "the one". they're just girls that you know and have a chance with. why don't you go out on dates with all of them, individually of course. no one says that you have to pick just one. especially now because you're not really dating any of them. why would you want to tie yourself down? as long as you are open and honest with everyone, I say date them all.
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neither. clearly you don't have Strong enough feelings for either girl, so move on to another girl who has everything you want, don't settle for mediocrity, even at you age. if you develop good habits like this now you will save yourself a world of trouble when you get older when it really counts.
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maybe if you arent the shy type tell the girl that got made fun of that it wasnt you who made fun of her and that you told her that you told the other guy to shutup. trust me a girl likes the feeling that she is being protected like that. and for the other girl that you like like. i think you should tell her your real feelings for her.hope it helps