Ok, so I'm with this guy for a really long time but we broke up and forgave him afterwards for being such a jerk. He swears true love to me and says he worships me but a day after he says he can't deal with this relationship. What should I think?
206299
Well The same thing happened 2 me and well I had 2 find out from my best friend that he was cheating on me. Its better to not know why then for when u do because it only causes more heartache. I should know. Plus IF he broke up with you  then he doesnt really love you. He probally cheated on you and likes that girl better. Guys are jerks... Go to your real friends Chicks before Dicks sweety :) \nTake care
69158
If after a year of wandering blindly through purgatory and your not sure of the status of this relationship then the answer is NO. Your not his girlfriend and he certainly isn't your boyfriend. \n\nMen say what they mean, but in your case it's what he hasn't said.  Has he asked you to be his girlfriend or in a committed relationship? How does he introduced you to his friends and family? Does he even take you around them?\n\nWhy are you waiting for him to make his intentions clear? Ask him. Are you afraid he won't want to hang out with you anymore? Don't you want to be more than just a fuck buddy.? Isn't that why your asking this question? I think you know the answer to your own question and I think that you are so desperate to have the attention of a man that you are willing to settle for this form of dating purgatory and don't want to admit to yourself that your not his girlfriend and that he doesn't want that type of relationship with YOU, because if he did he would have made it clear to you.\n\nDump this loser and move on. You deserve to be with someone who will truly love you and who will tell you every day and every one he knows that he loves you. \n\nGet out of purgatory and find an angel that will fly you to heaven.
59724
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
613305
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
538623
That is a hard situation. I guess it really depends on what he did and how bad it hurt you and made you lose trust in him. If he loves you and cares for you then he will have to work to get your trust back. There really is no time limit on these things, the trust will slowly come back if he proves himself to be trustworthy. It might help to talk to him about it.
339378
it's good you know that these thhings are now too much to take. DOn't tolerate each thng that he does. If you think you're being violated at this, yu shouldn't give much time for him. You'd rather have a breakup if he can't get better after explanations. After all, he is proving how immature he is with all that he does...
399036
I would sit and have a long conversation with him and try to get out what was bothering him. Evidently something is or he wouldn't be acting like this. Either he wants to be with u or he's making up excuses to leave u. I would find the truth and get to the bottom if it. No use in wasting your time on someone who's a jerk.
472020
I don't think he knew. He sounds like a real jerk. I know it is MUCH easier said than done, but you need to just let that boy go. If you have been with someone that long whether they are a jerk or not it's going to be tough to let them go. Cry about it, but don't beg him to come back. As long as you are with him he will continue to treat you like dirt and you can continue to be un happy. If you let him go you may be un happy for a while, but imagine if you were with him forever you'd be unhappy for that long. No girl deserves to be lied to and cheated on\n\nYeah, some guys may have played with you like that wit ht the text message if they knew it was you, but breaking up with you after sounds a little fishy to me. Plus, he's cheated on you and treated you like sh*t before.  What makes you thin he isn't like that now. Good Luck!
553183
I think he just wouldn't feel right and he isn't completely sure of...both of you... because obviously it didn't work out the first time.My advice is give him some more time.Make him believe,and I mean really believe,you guys can work out!I would feel bad if you guys didn't get back together because you didn't prove to him anything.
606056
i say he loves and respects you and is trying to learn from his mistakes - before he leaped too quickly and it ended badly. I usually tell guys to wait until she is ready but I have to switch this time and say hey wait until he is ready. relationships are hard enough all by themselves without added pressure. sounds like a keeper to me. Be happy
522434
Wow how old are you?\n\nThis guys a sleaze for taking advantage of you, he spent all the time with you? He just doesn't have to charm anyone else when your already there, thats all.\nThe oldest trick in the book , he wants a long term relationship?\n\nHoney, he's using you, ok, and you fell for it, im sorry.
203714
I would let him go. He seems as though even if he were to ask you to be his girl, he wouldn't be faithful. Guys like that have wandering eyes and face trouble in commitment. I would move on.
117146
Sounds like you hooked up with the wrong guy.  A loving relationship is 50/50.  Not 90/10.  You need to find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
72192
Only HE can decide if he wants to get back together.  You cant MAKE him.  And if you do, it could be worse.  He needs to make the decision of WANTING to be with you.  If he is unable to forgive you for whatever you did. DO NOT force the issue.  Try very hard to move on.
48326
Hmm.  Maybe he had one of them other girls waiting in the shadows in case this didn't work out...  Although. to me,  it doesn't seem right to not give this dude the benefit of the doubt, he 'does' sort of owe you some kind of explanation, even if it is something as simple as being afraid to leave his current place, having a wife already, being gay, or not liking your choice of kitchen tiles.  \n\nIf he is still making attempts to communicate with you, I'd advise you to at least listen to whatever it is that he has to say, and just take it with a grain of salt.  You don't have to get mad, and you don't have to cry - but you DO deserve to know why he's jerking you around.  Maybe he was selling you a dream, and maybe he was serious about spending forever with you.  You'll never know, if you don't give him a chance to explain himself - even if what he has to say isn't what you'd like to hear right now.  \n\nOnce you know why he acted so rashly, you can form your own opinions and know for yourself who is at fault and who isn't, although in matters of love, is it really necessary to play "The Blame Game?"  I think I would just work through the hurt of this painful lesson and use this experience as a learning tool for the next time you get into a serious relationship with someone.  \n\nI hope everything works out for you.
313639
i'll start with a question. did you like this guy? if you did you should atleast talk to him ask him what's up and why he is acting like such a jerk. if you didn't like him than simply don't let it get to you. guys can be stupid at times, well most of the time. sometimes it doesn't seem like they think before they do stuff and they dont consider the outcomes. he is probably trying to make you jealous but not in the right way because it's most likely making you see the dumba#@ side of him. so basically either talk to him or let him go!
267551
Time heals all wounds - From what you are describing you both are hurt - he said it was over so you went dancing - then he said you weren't supposed to because he wasn't serious when he ended it - what, are you a mind reader - if some guy tells me it's over - well, then it's over - and I'm going dancing - so my advise is tell him he hurt you with the it's over thing and you went dancing thinking you were a free woman - if that wasn't the case then you are sorry but if he loves you he needs to be more careful when choosing his words - and if you love him - maybe stay home and cry it out the first night and save dancing for the next just in case he changes his mind again!  Good Luck