A girl I was deeply in love with (still am) left me 2 years ago, and it absolutely destroyed me.  I haven't seen her since.  I just saw a new picture of her today, and she looked beautiful.  But just looking at her crushed me.  It numbed my entire body with sadness.  How can I move on and be happy? This is an honest question and im looking for honest advice.  Please help!!
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Getting over it can be the toughest thing you'll ever have to do but trust me it will happen for you. In my experience getting as far away and having absolutely no contact with the person worked for me. Also try to get out and meet new girls, not necesarily to date but to hang out with, a companion. Sometimes a little positive girl attention is what will work to help you see how imporatant and special you are on your own. Keep smiling and dont change for anyone. In my opinion its her loss:)
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Yes--it's perfectly normal to still miss the person who dumped you and/or the relationship.  Just b/c you miss him doesn't mean that you can't control your behavior or that you have to act on your feelings.  In time, you'll meet other guys, have new experiences, and will enjoy yourself again.  It's impt. to be kind to yourself during this period and take whatever steps are necessary to heal.  I realize it must be tough dealing with the feelings you have, but you will be okay.  It's a real test of your strength and I think you'll be proud of how you dealt with your feelings.  Good Luck
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How sad .......you lost the very first love you ever had because of someone you trusted ......... someone you had been kind and loyal to. You not only lost your first love, you lost a friend : two deaths.\nI think that it will be hard to resolve your feelings because there is no way to resolve the issue. You can't change the past.. Your relationship was interrupted. In order to heal from this tragic wound, you need to approach it the same way you would a death. You need to go through the stages of grief. There are some good methods outlines at : http://www.elderhope.com/e_class/new_grief/grief_2_2.html\nI am so sorry for your losses. \nI carried the unresolved loss for over thirty years, and then I called my childhood boyfriend (I found his phone number on the internet). I told him what had happened and we talked about it. We talked about our lives and families and things in general. About two weeks after our conversation, I woke up one morning and realized I was no longer thinking about him. I realized how happy I was that we never married. I was thankful my life had taken a different direction.\nI still feel pain about my friend who betrayed me. Her actions caused me to distrust people throughout my life. I wish I had had someone to help me go through the grieving process when I was young. Good luck. There is a different, better ending to your story. One day you will be happy about it because, if your boyfriend had been a purer person, he would not have abandoned you because of gossip.
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Losing someone you love is always hard.  You may not feel like it right now because the sorrow is so overwhelming, but try to think of the good times and the love and joy he brought to you.  Remember that he is still in your heart.  He will always be a part of you and that will never go away.  He is never truly gone as long as you remember him and love him.\nIt's okay to hurt and it's okay to cry.....healing takes time.
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Take your time...sometimes missing someone can be therapeutic as well as painful.  You don't say what happened between you two so I can't really elaborate.  However, when my ex and I broke up, it took me quite some time to get over him.  I can assure you that no matter how hard it may seem right now, all of the feelings that you are experiencing will eventually pass.  Also, kudos to you for not jumping into another relationship.  Until we completely heal from a breakup the only thing we can bring into another relationship is pain.......
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Avoid the stupid comments some people are putting up 4 you to read. It will take time to get over someone you adored but you can't stay sitting around thinking about it go out somewhere  and have a great time.Move on you'll know when you find love again.Hope I could Help
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Oh, i am very sorry. Sometimes, to maintain a realationship is very difficult especially when u are abroad. You can try to participate in your favourite hobby or concentrate on your studies. U can try to start a new relationship as u will have a partner to support you. Always look for those who love and care for you and sometimes telling to another person will help too. Or you can try to have a gathering with some good friends and dun ever think it is because of ur look that she dumped you. Built up your self-confidence and estemn. I hope you live life to your fullest.
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Just take things one day at a time, and remember that if you were meant to be with him, you will be eventually.  Take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship; give yourself an hour or two on days that you feel you need it, to turn on sad music, look at old pictures, and cry.  Then drop it, and do something for yourself.  I've had times when I thought the world was ending because of the end of a relationship.  I didn't know how I'd make it.  Eventually after going through this a few times, I realized that I can recover from anything.  So can you.
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Think well, live long, try to start your life again and don't be afraid of starting.  There is always a new way and a new start.  The past is gone, the present is here and the future... you never now.  So live each day as it is the last one of your life.  Live 100% and laugh until you cry. Good luck and God Bless!
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
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just take a deep breath and exhale and try to calm yourself down...wipe the tears from your eyes and try to keep pleasant thoughts...you can be happy if you let yourself...I don't know about your emotional state of mind but try not to let life get you down hon...there's too much to live for...good luck and good life...
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Aw sweetie you sound so sad! I know it probably feels like the end of the world at the moment, but it does get easier I promise. It's never easy to get over someone that you really cared about, but you will be happy again, with someone who feels the same way. It seems that this guy cared enough about you to tell you that it wasn't working, rather than lying about his feelings. \nIt happens the other way round too, and you may find yourself going out with someone in the future who likes you more than you like them!\nIt happens because you are learning about yourself and growing as a person all the time. It takes a while to figure out who we are and what we want from a partner and from life. \nAppreciate that we learn something from each person who passes through our life, good or bad. See that he just wasn't right for you and that means you are available for someone who is!
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it'll take time to get over someone. let time heal your wounds and go out and have fun with your friends. that always helps. if you have pics of her hanging on your wall,....take em down. put it in a box and just move on. you'll find a much better love as you move on and you may think back on this one day and think "what was i thinkning?".
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That hurts. Really bad. I have been there and loved someone but they left to be with someone else.It sucked but got to move on but if you ever need anyone to talk to email me at yogisindianbrave@yahoo.com
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Sorry to hear about your loss Victorio. \n\nYou have to give yourself time to heal. You can't expect anyone else to compare to your ex. 13 years is a long time. The friendship and comfort level that you build up over that time is enormous. Any new person you meet is going to seem so distant, you're not going to feel that same bond. Give yourself time. Maybe don't date for a while, or if you do, just don't have any expectations. Just talk, get to know the person. Maybe you'll like each other & keep dating. Maybe you won't. Just go into it with an open mind.\n\nIt's very hard to let someone go. Especially someone who was in your life for so long.\n\nIt will get better. If she was the right one for you, it wouldn't have ended. That means the right person is still out there. So give her a chance to find you. Don't close your heart to someone new.\n\nTake care.\nGood luck.
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getting over someone takes time.  All you can really do is surround yourself with friends, positive energy and anything that comforts you.\nGood luck! and be strong and true to yourself.
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The best way to get over someone is to LET IT OUT! Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Cry it out if have to,shout it out if you want to. Most people may tell you to divert your attention, but that will only be running away from what you feel. You can't cry over a guy all your life. You will love again. It happens all the time. And there will be someday when you will think back and just laugh at it, or if not laugh then just smile at it. For now, just accept your feelings of hurt/hatred and chill, its okay.