i have the whole bad girl look. i have the dark circles under my eyes i have messy hair. and every body thinks im a party girl. since every body thinks that i started saying i was. then everybody wanted to hang out with me. the point is i am the total opposite of that. i go to bed early. do my chores. if i hang out wiht ne body its my grandma. she gets me. i dont really lik or trust people. but is that wrong
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NO ITS NOT WRONG I DONT BLAME YOU BUT YOU MIGHT WANT TO LET THE PEOPLE THAT HANG OUT WITH YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARENT THE PERSON THEY THINK YOU ARE AND MAYBE YOU COULD FIND NEW PEOPLE TO HANG OUT WITH THAT ARE MORE LIKE YOU.
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your a bad girl huh ?
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Ok however you see yourself that is exactly what everyone else will see. You think that you are a dork then you are a dork it's up to you how you want people to see you. If you need to make some changes don't be afraid of self improvement it is only to better yourself you don't have to change your morals or standard think how you want to be recieved by people then and take a look at your best qualities about yourself and use them listen to or read a lot of self help books because their are people just like you had the same problems and now they are either popular or they are movie stars you name it people change what they feel they don't like about themselves usually they start with negativity stop being hard on yourself and give your own self a chance! Start beleiving in yourself and start with a positive mind don't hang out with people that don't except you and always have something negative to say about you or treat you not so nice the real friends will come eventually
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Wait....your mom chooses your friends for you?  That is just a wee bit controlling don't you think?\n\nNow, about your question.  There is nothing wrong with the way you feel.  Explore it a bit and see if that is what you really want.  Contact a local support group.  When you know who you are, don't be ashamed to tell your family.  If they love you, they will accept who you are.  There might be some feathers flying, but things will settle.
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people should respect u for ur character.. not ur looks.. and its a very bad idea
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first, you need to stop being so hard on your self. hon, no one is perfect. your friends/relitives only tease you because they dont know how insecure you are. just tell them that you dont like it . and if your friends dont stop, well they arn't really good friends, are they? as for scars, evryone has scars, its what makes us different.and if you need to talk, e-mail me kool2bkatt@yahoo.com as for hair, hell, my hair is so limp it makes my face look a foot long.
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it sounds like you have self esteem issues brought on by puberty and the idiots who seem to have so many unkind things to say to you. just because people tell you that you're unattractive doesn't mean it's true or that you have to believe it. they do it to everyone because they are insecure about themselves and if they chime in and pick on someone when she's feeling down they think they look cool. I've never seen you, but I'm sure you're not ugly. the only real ugly people are the ones who are ugly deep in their souls-- not the ones who aren't curvy or aren't thin or don't look like supermodels. also, don't call yourself dumb. if you give in and start calling yourself the names other people call you, you are just letting them win and you'll never get anywhere in life.
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sounds like you should try to be yourself and not all those things listed....
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you werent out of line. it's ok to stick up for people if they cant do it for themeselves or need help doing it.\n\npeople like the skank you described prey on weaker people to make themselves feel bigger, and make themselves feel in control.\n\nmy guess is that she has a pretty crappy life, and doesnt have much control over the things that happen to her (family life, socioeconomic status etc) so she picks on people weaker than herself to give herself one aspect of her life she has a say over.\n\nthat doesnt make it any less wrong.  i hate people like that
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Your situation is just like mine ..thats why i always think that those who are descent or qite get the most criticizm ..today was a really bad day and it bothered me really badly when i heard hat girl talking crap loudly about me ..i just carry on and go to talk to those who are good or nice because theres got to be somebody who's nice even so if they are two faced noobody is perfect jake...always try to have a good time and dont care about such situations coz you will be finding yourself loosing alot of time thinking about those who buggs you off ...just be you and dont get too much offended by people and those who dont like it ..Screw Them !!!\n\n\n\nhope i helped
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
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i am very ugly, my face is very weird looking. i do a lot of weird things but i suppose i feel the weirdest is when i put on pantyhose and self torture myself by burning myself with cigaretes and matches and cut myself with a razor blade or write bad things about myself on my body with a marker. Often i have a ritual where i cover my myself in dog excrement and roll around in it pretending that someone is making me do it. I do this in my basement on newspaper so the cleanup after is easy. i know all this makes me very weird which makes me understand more why i do it.
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Very much so. I cannot be around alot of people. I get very nervous and feel out of place. I think It's because I feel that people should think and act like me so naturaly I feel out of place. Im much more happy being alone or with family or one close friend I have. I also go shopping for whatever I need early in the morning just so Im not around alot of people and I do not like going out to eat at all so youre not alone and I dont think their is anything wrong with being like this, It's just the way we are. If thats what makes us happy then It's ok.
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Judging by the questions you've asked in the past,you seem to be very self-centered. In other words,you appear to be a "Snob". Although I'm sure you've taken that as a compliment,most females (like yourself),tend to think you are better than others,simply because of your looks. It has to be nothing more,because (sorry),but you've proven not to have any brains. You wearing dresses,has nothing to do with not having female friends. (News Flash!) Girls wear dresses all the time!. It is all about a person's attitude. You should treat people,the way you want them to treat you. Stop asking people if you are pretty or not. Stop asking questions,that have to do with your appearance. Try asking someone how they fell today. Try helping someone with a school project,or asking your mom,to teach you how to cook. If you do something nice for someone,then maybe you will have female friends. (Note) Did you ever stop to think,that another reason you basically have male friends,is because of how you've presented yourself to them?
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no fake people are no fun! be yourself there is such a thing as too much therapy! lol I got the same thing until I got to highchool I am part Asian and part Irish so my eyes are a little different anyway I got sent home on several occasions because "I was giving dirty looks" when I wasn't!!!!
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let me put it to you this way, all girls are b*tches. I am a girl and i have done some pretty ruthless things. i really have no explaination for why i did them except that i wanted to look cool. And i am talking about while i was in high school, i have long since reformed my way.
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sounds like jealousy to me.  people who are jealous of you can cause you a lot of trouble because they will say things about you that aren't true, try to turn friends against you, ruin your reputation, etc....\nthe best thing you can probably do, is ignore this person for the time being, and don't tell her any of your business.\nhopefully, in time, she will do some growing up and see how silly this is making her look.\nBest Wishes