We were together for 7yrs and i left over something stupid and turned him away alot and now i cant stand to live without him please help
206415
There isn't anything you can do I am afraid.  If he says he found the love of this life, he won't be coming back.  At least until their first argument.  Be careful, you might end up in a love triangle.
277877
Get rid of him.  If he won't let you be your own person he's not worth it.  Also if he doesn't trust you then you have to ask yourself if you can trust him.  Believe me you can do better!
99136
You should talk to him and see if things can be worked out.  From what you said, you did what you needed to at the time and it was probably best for both of you.  He even sounds like he handled it the way a guy who loves you should have.  What you have to realize though is that you are now starting over again so don't compare anything between the two of you to what it was before.  Things will be different and you both will have to adjust.
532727
Remember, people are ALWAYS communicating with you, even if it is non-verbal.  Right now he's saying that the pain of confrontation and admitting his bad behavior is more painful than trying to repair your relationship.  You have offered to try to repair it through your attempts to contact him.  Now it's time to let it go.  Big talker, right?  I didn't say it was going to be easy, or pain-free, it just has to be done for your own sake.  And believe me, you don't want to feel like you don't give a damn, that would be denying your feelings, your trust in your relationship, and your broken heart.  I'm going to tell you to do something that is going to sound dorky, but I really want you to try it (what do you have to lose?)  Write him a letter.  Say everything you want to say about how you feel, how hurt you are, how angry you are, call him names.  End the letter by saying goodbye and saying how much you will miss the relationship you had.  You will never send this letter.  After you've written it, read it once, then rip it up and throw it away.  I promise you this will help.  You will still hurt, but please do this and you will feel better.  You need closure, and since he's not giving it to you, give it to yourself.  Let me know how it goes.
295178
mmm thats sounds bad... but r u sure that yr gf left you? if yes than thats not good...just  try to relex.. it will be ok
197384
Yes, come on! It's been 7 months! You said so yourself!\nInstead of thinking about a useless crap, why not hang out with your friends or something? Go to a bar, shop, party etc!\nYou'll see, you will forget him in no time and maybe find another one.
128307
Just realize that you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. And even if you did decide to take him back you'd have to decide if you wanted his infidelity to taint your relationship pretty much forever. Once trust has been lost in that way its really tough to get it back. And even then you are aware of exactly what he is capable of. Once a cheater always a cheater and don't think that isn't true.\n\nWhat you have to realize about people who cheat is they are always looking for the greener side of the grass and at any moment they may decide they have found it again. You deserve to be secure in your relationship and not constantly worried by this possibility.\n\nMy advice is to think of what you deserve to be happy. Don't be mean and spiteful, instead just do what he has done and worry about your own happiness. 7 years may be a long time, but the rest of your life is longer. You will know what is right for you. I decided to walk away and every day I thank god I did, because I am so much happier for it.
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Convince yourself that you deserve better and I'm sure you do.  Look at it as his loss, not yours and move on.  You can love someone dearly and still be smart enough to know that you can't actually be with them because it's simply not good for you.  I have an ex from 15 years ago that I'll always adore, but we can't be in the same room without trying to claw each other's eyeballs out.  We've broke up 12 years ago and we have remained friends..on the phone. lol
102322
well...just cut him out of your life...\nrecall your friends and start hangin out again specially if you haven't seen em for a while because you were too busy dealing with the jerk you're trying to ditch then.\nor better still...try your family...they might've missed you just the same.\nor be with yourself and try to see what you REALLY want and get it!\nDo some changes if you want, like, get a new hair do or update your wardrobe...just keep yourself busy and you'll eventually forget anything happened.\nGood Luck and Enjoy!\n\nohh...by the way...getting over him doesn't necessarily mean you need someone new...just yourself is enough and everyone else around you to share new moments with wont hurt.
492053
sounds very similar to my problems of the past.  If he is that controlling then my guess is he can manipulate you some too.  so confronting him head on might not be the best way to go.  What you need is space.  time to think about what you want and where you want your life to go.  I know its hard but i think you might just have to sneak away like i did.  distance has a way of putting your own thoughts into perspective.  if you can go to your family or any close friend and DO NOT SEE OR TALK TO HIM.   I know this sounds like oh its easy for her to say that, but trust me, I had to do the same thing and with 2 kids along for the ride.  my family was 500 miles away but i left my ex and came home.  alot has happened between then and now, but i am so glad i left when i did.  i am now 34 yrs old and he almost took the best years of my life.  dont ever let anyone do that to you.  you are a remarkable creature, unique and no one should be made to feel abused even emotionally.  I put up with it for 12 years.  everyone of us has inner strength and you will find yours and find the right path for your life.  good luck.
425132
Don't go back to him , no that was not dumb of you !\n Dumb would be to go with some one that wants to know where you are every minute of the day that wants to control your life \nit seems cute at first but gets old real fast and people like that can get abusive later on .\n  Take your time ,good luck .
151588
He decision is based on emotion, and he is probably still hurting from what happended. He must of forgiven you as he is considering to move in with you, but because he has forgave you, it does not mean he has forgotten! You need to rebuild the trust, and i do not think you can force him. Talk to him and see where he is coming from, he probably needs reassurance and comfort. Remember actions speak louder than words and he might be thinking when in doubt, leave it out. Do not give up if he is worth fighting for...
202456
LEAVE HIM -- you owe it to yourself to find a happier life.  Don't think that you are too old or that you have invested too much time in this relationship.  Don't let him talk down to you or intimidate you into not leaving.  He's the coward and he's trying to take his insecurity out on you.  The transition period won't be easy, but once you are away from him, you will look back and be glad that you ended it.  Better things are in store for you.  Good luck.
181497
Unfortunately you will probably have to just let the stuff go and just walk away from him since he is treating you badly. Material things can be replaced. The time wasted trying to retrieve those items can't.
372848
He didnt seem to treat you very well hun, you obviously had problems within the relationship, did you try telling him how you felt or did you just split up with him without discussing how he made you feel?\nIf you want him back then you need to talk to him but this time make sure that you tell him how you feel, take control a little.\nIf he only wants you back on the same terms as you had before then it's obvious that he is just using you hun.\nTry talking , but it does sound like he was using you a little.\nDont let him rule when you do things, be brave , ask for what you want when you want it, if he says no then cut your losses and find someone who truely appreciates you.\nGood luck, hope all works out ok for you.
361146
yea u were wrong but u were provoked. i can't believe i'm sayin this but he's wrong. news flash toots, your guy is either cheatin on u or no longer interested in u and this was a convenient way for him to get rid of u. it's one of those 2 things, i guarantee it. good luck. be happy it's only 7 months invested b4 u found out what an @ss he is.
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hotti, i was in the same situation.  I loved him and he cheated so i broke up w/ him.  It was hard to get over and i thought that i would never get over him, but i did.  \n\nFirst, get rid of anythign and everythign that reminds you of him.  EX:  Pics, notes, letters...ect\n\nNext, now that you have your mind off of him, keep ot off and try new things.  Make sure to be having fun.  Go to a club and hang out with friends.  Party.  Then do more fun stuff like somethign you never did b4.  If you have nvr been surfing, try that.  Or try any of these:\n~skydiving\n~bunjee jumping\n~eat a lot of ice cream\n~introduce urself to a new type of music\n~go to a concert and 'Rock out!!'\n~get a journal and in a red pen write "I hate _________"  (fill his name in)  and fill the whole jorrnal.  If that dont work, use a more appropriate word, like a*s*s* , jerk, loser, or anythign else.  Be creative.\n~hang out with a million other people you dont know\n~have a night on the town with your mom or best friend.\n\nHere are some really fun things that you could do to get him mad:\n~order magazines in his name and send them to his house.  Make sure thay are girly or childish magazines\n~sneak into his house and draw all over his face with red marker\n~hang all of his underwear outside with a sign that says "A*S*S* crack undies.  Free.  Never been used.  lol (do you get it)\n~Just have fun.\n\nI hope i helped.  Dont cry over a jerk.  You will definately find a better guy who loves every part of you no matter what.