I have been separated for a couple of months and I really love my husband and want him back. About a month ago he told some of his friends that he wanted to get back with me. Well a couple of days later we got into an agrument and he told me that that was why we could not be together. He already has a girlfriend and is moving in with her. He told his friend that he was tired of the fighting and arguing as am i.We have not had that 2 chance to work things out. He also told his friend that he was moving in with her and starting laughing after that. Is he serious about her or just confused about what he wants. She told him not to talk to me anymore which i do not care. But we have a daughter and she said that she did not care oif he spends time with our daughter becasuse it means more time for her and her kids. It made me mad and he believes her over me.I have never lied to him.I di not talk to him but is it really over or do i give him his space. Will he ever see pass this girl. Please H
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you have to try and communicate with  him and tell him how you feel without getting into an argumentlet with him be wrongedif it helps, it is not that important to be right is it, after all this is the man you love,and marriage is about giving in to each othera nd if you give in  few times I'm sure he will too,any marriage can work if the couple is willing to work at it!if you really love him then try to work it out with him but try to stay calm and refuse to argue even if you have to be wrong!tell him how you feel try to talk to him calmly and hopefully it isn't too late. I hope it all works out for you the other thought I would have is pray to God for help he will help if you ask himin the name of Jesus, because God as the originator of marriage hates a divorcinga, nd if your aim is to save your marriage what better aley can you have than God himself?anyway wishing you the best success, and may God be with you
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This happened to my husband and I also.  Exactly, almost word for word.  Look.  She wants to know where you are and what you are doing because she loves you sooo much... more than anything in the world...  she can't bear to be without you and so when you are not around her the devil starts making her insecure and making her think there could be things going on.  AND that doesn't neccissarily mean cheating.  He could be telling her that she's not good enough for you, or that you could do better, or that you want out, or that you can't stand being with her.  So many different possibilities.  As far as her thinking that you are mad at her all of the time.  The SAME thing happened at the SAME time with us when we first got married.  I was always crying and always scared that he was mad at me for something...  Even though he wasn't.  He started getting really freaked out and the same thing happened to him.  He lost his sex drive because of it.  Which on my end made it worse because I thought that he didn't love me anymore because woman use sex with her husband that she loves with all of her heart as a way to feel close to him and for her to get the feelings of love from him.  The threats are normal!  No matter what ANYBODY says... they are all normal... Divorce, this, that... NORMAL!!  I don't think that you should divorce her.  We had a lot of struggles with the same thing .. EXACT same thing.  and we have been married HAPPILY married for 2 years now.  DON'T DIVORCE HER!  Especially if you love her.  As far as counceling goes... I didn't want to go either.  It's just a hit to my pride to know that I have to get counceling from somebody else about something that is supposed to be mine to control and make all better.  If you or her wants to talk to me or my hubby email us... it's hurleybabeprincess20@yahoo.com... seriously... \n\nDon't listen to these other idiots.... I would love to talk with her... \nNO marriage is perfect.  And you always have to take time and extra effort to make things work.  Make sure that you go to church regularly... and make sure that the church that you go to is a good church.  You can ask your wife if you can talk to the pastor on your own time about it personally... you will know by what the pastor tells you... if he is called to the ministry.  There will NEVER be a divorce option if he is.  The Bible is specific on the reasons for divorce.  You don't have any of them.  \n\n\nYOU KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD READ... THE POWER OF A PRAYING HUSBAND AND GET YOUR WIFE THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE... BOTH BY STORMIE OMARTIAN\n\n\nbtw... where are you 2 located?
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hi.that's what a lot of married men say.if you love him,you should let him go.tell him you don't want to cause there marriage to brake up.you should say to him you don't want to see him anymore. stand back and see if he leaves his wife anyway.if he doesn't leave his wife,then you'll know he wasn't genuine about the things hes been saying.
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Well, I wouldn't jump the gun here. My husband really doesn't have a set time to come home (since he works on the road some) however there are times when he leaves the shop and isn't home until two hours later (we live ten minutes from his job) he is a gabber mouth, he can talk to anyone forever. (My middle daughter gets this from him because she is often corrected at school for talking) Tell your husband that you miss him an awful lot, and if he could cut down on hanging out with friends after work maybe twice or three times a week. You still want him to have some "relax" time but you want to emph that you want to be with him, too.
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Wow, talk about mixed emotions. It sounds like this man doesn't know whether he's coming or going. He wants you and then he doesn't. He's just all over the place with his feelings. You see, a lot of men and women carry over issues from past relationships. If he has children I assume he's been married before. What do you know about his last relationship? Has he been single for long? I notice you say you became seperated just last July. Are you looking to become serious with this new guy? You have to ask yourself what it is you want out of this relationship and then determine whether you two are on the same page. A word of advice though, don't push him into something he's not ready for. It will backfire and send him running the other direction. Also, give yourself some time to be single for a while and don't rule out dating others either. Maintain your independence. It's very attractive to men. A man wants a women who is independent and who doesn't define herself through him. Don't make it too easy  for him to see you at the drop of a hat every time he wants to. However, always treat him with respect and honor and praise him when he's nice. I wish you luck!
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She is calling you because she still loves you and she is talking about the divorce papers because she wants to see if you still love her. In her heart she probably wants you to show her that you don't want to have a divorce, so she is using the divorce papers as a test to see if you will react to it and tell her you still love her and you want to work things out. She is telling you that she is out with her friends because she wants to see if there is any sign of jealousy in you to show her that you still love her. Even if you tell her that you still love her, she might act as if she still wants a divorce to test you even further. She is hurt and she really needs your love, but she is testing it to see how deep your love really runs because she doesn't want to get hurt again. If you don't give up and you pass all her little tests (which she is doing because deep inside she needs love, but doesn't know how else to ask you for it), then you might be ready to go for counselling and fix your relationship. An apology and really meaning it from your heart might help to soften her heart. She might kick against your apology at first, but give it time and it will sink in and disolve the hurt in her heart.
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why is he so far behind in child support? it seems to me like he doesn't really care about you or your daughter...\n\nif he really wants to be in ur daughter's life, he has to prove that he is serious about it...otherwise, i don't think u should move.
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Unfortunately you are going to be the ultimate judge of that. Is it different this time? Are his actions following his words? How do you feel about his being back? How does he treat your daughter?\nYou might be setting yourself up for the big fall, which means he will do it again. You must think of what is best for you and your daughter. GOOD LUCK
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He married you. That is a pretty strong commitment. If he thought there was any hope of getting back with his ex he wouldn't have taken that step with you.
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Its a couple ways to look at this situation - 1st - is your husband seeing or sleeping with someone else?  b/c if he's not, then u fucking or seeing someone else is gonna cause him to do one of 3 things:  he's gonna do it b/c u are or he's gonna come running back b/c he doesn't want to lose u or he's gonna kick every ass in sight b/c he' hurt and pissed and possibly feels disrespected.  - 2nd - Are u doing this b/c u just need some release or do u feel u can potentially make a new life with this person u want to date.  \n  There is no time limit on how long u should wait when you are separated but be aware that there could be some consequences, I'd say if you are sure that your marriage is over then go for it, even if its not,  the bottomline is he's not there with you, seeing to your needs but neither are you for him. \n     This is tricky, b/c you dating could be a good thing for your marriage or it could mean the end.  I think you, still love and respect your husband and marriage b/c if you didn't this wouldn't be a hard decision for you.  He's not there so he shouldn't get upset with you for dating but that doesn't mean that he won't.
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either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.
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Believe it or not, this just happened to me last night.  My boyfriend was married for 11 years and they split up 9 months ago.  We have been going out for the last two months.  Last night, after about two beers, he looked me right in the eyes and said "I love you so much Ch*&^%)(*%$#."  I couldn't believe it.  He kept telling me he was so sorry and I know he felt terrible, but It is eating at me today too.  I know it was an accident and he didn't mean it, so I have decided to just force myself to stop thinking about it.  I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want to go back to her.  He is very loving and attentive in so many ways, so my advice to both of us is to stop being so sensitive and admit that our boyfriends are human.  They make mistakes, I wouldn't want him to crucify me if I were in his shoes.\n\nGood Luck.
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There really no such thing as little white lies, a lie is a lie no matter what way you look at it. He is becoming good at lying. You thinking its a little white lie, is helping cover up his actions. The people he is hanging out with could be other women, since he lies about it anyway. If you are loosing your trust in him from his lies, than how can you trust the marriage. Let him know that you love him and let him know that he needs to come clean with you or your going to separate, not divorce. But, being separated from him may make him realize what he has at home. It will also improve your feelings for him. Right now its confusing, please don't keep making excuses for him. Cause those lies will become an everyday thing for him.
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As far as your "good friend" DO NOT LET YOUR MAN GO TO HER HOUSE WITH OUT YOU.  That is your friend not his, I can see if it was his friend.  There have been to many instances when matters like that turn into infidelity.  Be careful with this one.  If I was you I wouldn't allow it, and if he puts up a fight, then he is sleeping with her or if he continues to go without you knowing, he is cheating.  After all she is your friend and he should have female friends of his own.  Another thing, is everything going good between you two?  If there is some fighting and bad vibes I wouldn't allow him to go run to her.  Me and my man had a dicussion the other day about this subject. Something happened between him and his best friends girl, before us.  She came on to him when he was visiting with out his friend.  He left when she tried and he told his friend about it.  His friend did not believe him of course, she called her man before he did.  They use to hang out together and go out so it thought it was okay to go over to her house and wait for his friend to get there.  So you see where this is going you just don't let things like this happen, and you don't put yourself in that kind of predictement.  Not to say that everybody is like that but you don't want to take that chance with your man and your friend.  What we both agreed on is when you are in a relationship and you make friends with with your partners best friend who happens to be the opposite sex neither one of you should be hanging out with that person without your mate around it is not cool, it's some what tachy, and disrespectful, even when you are married.  I mean you have to have a very legit reason to go to your man's male friend house alone, and the same goes for him.  We leave that for the for married people who have established strong trust in each other and their friends.  Couples who have been married for years and their friends play a big part in their life.  Other than that, giiirrrl you better stop that s*** quick!  But sorry to say love, it already sounds like your man is doing your friend so start preparing to kick both of there a***** and dump his loser a**.  Move on and take my advice don't allow your man to see your girlfriends without you.  Just keep your girlfriends at a distance until you find out what kind of man you are dealing with, PERIOD!  Good luck and much love.  If you need to chat later feel free to contact me.
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well i think you need to put this to an end now because he is a married man i realize that their marriage is probably on the rocks but if he truly cares for you he will divorce his wife first and if you have respect for yourself you will not let this happen it will just end up in heartace and a mess for everyone in the long run.hun you dont want to get involved in there relationship well you already are and he lyed to you and said he wasnt married what a dog and what about that little girl she seems very confused if she is calling you mommie it isnt fair to the little girl and the wife even though she might be a bitch but he obviously isnt any better he is a lyer so just be careful and do the right thing
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i was in this very situation for the last two month, The man left me for another woman and while he was gone he was calling me the whole time and asking me if he could come home. He just went with the other girl for the sex. We had been in a relationship for nine years and have two children together. He eventually left the other girl and is now back with me and we are married now for the last week. Don't get involved with a man who is on the rebound it wont work. I told the other girl he was still seeing me but she didn't believe me.
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I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace