I have strong feeling for this girl and the more I talk to her the more hurt I get because she doesn't feel the same way about me. I loose sleep thinking about her and it is driving me crazy. She calls me all the time and even tells me of guys she hooks up with. If there is a problem, I am the one she calls. It is like I am a big borther. As much as I would hate it, I am thinking about telling her that I can no longer speak to her anymore because of the pain this situation is causing me. \nAm wrong for this? Am I being a bad friend? Is it possible for me to just put my feelings aside and continue this close friendship?
212726
Instead of thinking about how bad you feel, because she don't like you the sameway, you should think about how happy you make her when you are there for her and how much she may need you to be there for her. Believe me I is good to have someone to talk to when you have alot on your mind. Just try that and then if that doesn't help let her know how you feel and see where it goes from there.
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
339070
u know its funny...this has happened with me and my extremely close friend just recently...we always flirt and it feels like something more than just a regular friendship and i want that...but she is confused and doesnt want to lose me.  i still have feelings for her and we talk a lot and are very close.  i am still trying to be myself yet i am trying to develop a different and closer relationship.  i say you just keep trying to do what you want and just see how it turns out.  whos to say another guy wont come around if this doesnt work out. good luck
72120
First i think it was sweet of you to ask her to a sleep over and second I think it was very rude of her if she sked someone else without inviting you also. Maybe you should consult her on her actions. and tell her that your feeling were hurt and see what she says to you . Then you can find out if you think you want her for a true friend. Honey there are alot of other friends out there have your own sleep over with out her and see how she would react to that. .God Bless you.
526188
are you friends with her? if so, then maybe you could hang out one day, just you two, and tell her you enjoy her friendship and dont want to ruin that, but you feel like she is a wonderful person and deserves much more than the guy can give her. see how she reacts and then maybe you could let her know, that if she ever needs someone you will be there. but just so you know... if you are friends, this could ruin it. but the guy sounds like a dick so SOMEONE needs to say something.
170289
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
204490
Dude if it hurts you to talk to her than I would avoid her. I went through a similar situation years ago. When you're with someone for a while and you develop strong feelings, it's hard to just get rid of those feelings. So if talking to her brings back any of those feelings you should avoid her.\n\nThere are plenty of other women out there man. Get out, do things you enjoy doing and soon those feelings will disappear. Hang in there bro. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
237941
Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
460794
you did the right thing. dont feel bad honestly. if you kept dating her then youw ould have made things a whole lot worse because later on, she might have fallen in love with you. leave things the way it is. tell her to call you once she is okay enough to accept things with how they are and you just want to be friends. that you will always be there for her even though you arent with her.
437704
I think it would be better to be open and honest with her.  If you get too involved and are still having these feelings, you will no doubt, break her heart.  It might turn out that you make better friends.
120933
That is rough. I have been there myself. If she continues to push herself on you even after you have told her no then she doesn't respect you or your feelings. She is being self centered. You make it very clear to her how it makes you feel.Tell her that if she keeps it up you will no longer be friends and you will be forced into pressing charges against her with the police for harassment.Your best bet after that is to avoid her best you can.Keep busy with other things.
213974
This is like most relationships. Its give and take...Your friend wont be a real friend if she cant deal with your feelings and opinions. You may be wrong, so what, you have the feelings correct or not. If you talk things out you will find a common ground.
56522
Honestly, do you really believe that she is your friend? If I were you, I would tell her how inconsiderate she is for actually dating someone she *KNEW* I had the hots for. I could see if she *didn't* kno, but she *DID*! That's so foul and disrespectful, and truly, I would re-evaluate this friendship with her. She doesn't sound like much of a friend if you ask me! If you allow your "friends" to continue to disregard your feelings, you're going to have a hard life ahead. Friends *DON'T* do things such as that. Guard your heart, hon. God bless you!\n\nHope that helped!
470457
It sounds like she just needs some time after her past relationship.  I owuld suggest that you remain her friend through this time and be as close to her as possible.  Maybe if she sees how good of a friend that you are, things will slowly change.  Don't push her to be your girl though.  It will only push her farther away.  Good Luck.
589264
greetings...\n\nif you tell her your feelings she might feel ashamed to talk to you again thus destroying your friendship.  heres what your going to do, treat the way you want to treat her and the way she want to be treated, sooner or later she will get the idea.  always prioritize her happiness.......
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Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
437126
She obviously already dissed you.  What you already know is enough to come to that conclusion.  From now on, do not regard her as close of a friend as you had thought or hoped.  Try talking and hanging with some other people, than just this group.  Also, look around for some other young hotties to set your eyes and energy on.  Give this friendship some space.  If it is a truly a good friendship it will still be there.  But, don't ask.  Let it be.  Do your own thing for a little bit.  I would not ask her anything because she knows your feelings for him.  If she needs to share with you something in regards with them then that is her job to come to you. She needs to be responsible for getting that out on the table with you.  Just be like whatever. If she cares about you and is close as you say, she will know to say something to you.