my boyfriend is in maryland usa and im in surrey british columbia canada and he always makes up excuses why he cant call me but he says he loves me should we stay together or break up we are worlds apart
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If you truly love him, you wouldn't mind the distance. The catch is, does he truly love you back? If you think he does, then it is well worth it.
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If he ask you again when you move back to where you used to live, just tell him that you are not ready to move the relationship into a sexual one. If he loves you, he will understand
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tell him the truth...and you have every reason to be concerned...you have been down the path of hurt, and do not want to go there again....as for your reasoning, i understand perfectly. i can not, and wil not, relocate out of my city because all my loved ones are here and i like it here......it's hard when you like someone from a different place....so  go with your heart...but be headed by YOUR HEAD!!!....and what will make you truly happy. good luck
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I was in a long distance relationship for more than two years - we lived an hour apart - & at first we talked all day too & were together whenever we could be - but the last 9 months or so he stopped callin - it tapered off to once a day, then only once a week & we didn't spend so much time together - well, he ended the relationship a month ago with no explanation, just an e-mail. \nSo it sounds like even tho ya'll love each other, you are starting to drift as we did - it happens & it's hard to keep it from going south unless one of you can change to spend more time together. I was the only one making the effort there, too, for a long time - I drove to see him, never the other way around. I don't know - you may have to let this one go & move along. It bites, I know. Good luck.
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Long distance relationships are a challenge....but if both want the relationship...then it can work...until you both come together in the same city eventually! \n\nAre you having second thoughts about him as a person, or is it just the distance factor? Analyze the reason behind why you want to break up. If it is just the distance, then u can overcome it, by talking to him, and mutually deciding to also focus on other areas of your life. See if he also feels that you both need to focus on your pursuits? The only way you will know is when you talk to him openly. Love also involves discipline. So, see what he has to say about this? Does he seem contented? Does he have similar worries? Talk to him. Are there plans of moving closer anytime soon? \n\nIf you have really thought this through, and want to end it, then you should break it gently, lovingly, calmly, and give him some explanations. \n\nMy advise right now is to talk to him about the "issues" before talking about "ending things". Who knows, maybe you can resolve those issues together, and don't need to break up.\n\nGoodluck!
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Do both of you want this relationship to work?  Sit down and have a long chat, the "lockout" incident is just the tip of the iceberg!  Your problems are more than that, perhaps the two of you do not really have trust on each other.  You better think carefully if you still want to be together since TRUST is a foundation of any relationship!
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my boyfriend\nthe question is why do you not call regularly\nbecause his not calling hurts me\nwhy? because he is my boyfriend and is suppose to call
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u need to tell ya b/f whats going on as far as her calling your phone. tell him how u truely feel about it. and have him tell her  to stop trying to pull you guys apart if he really loves you
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Use his U.S address. If you guys are married and when he comes for a visit from work he resides at your common residence I would use that address because that is where you both reside even when he is away.
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i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
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Well apparently distance is an issue and I have to agree it's not easy. But if he feels he can't handle it dont force him just let him go and if he really loves you then guess what he'll be callin you back. If he doesn't well then you didnt need all that stress. I know he says he sorry but i'm sure it's not totally so cause otherwise he wouldnt have even brought it up to begin with. It's his way of lettin you know he cant take it. So give it to him you be the one to say ok this is what you want then go for it. I'm not waitin, And do not let him know how hurt you are. Then you can go home cry ur eyes out in ice cream and a pillow. good luck
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Wow, that is a big decision.  Colorado for the most part is a wonderful place but I think it is important to do what is best for you regardless of the location.  My biggest concern about this boy is that here he is asking you to come and be with him but he isn't even willing to go back to your state to see you.  To me that is selfish and shows that he really isn't in love with you.  My biggest fear is that you would get out to Colorado and then he would dump you and you would be stuck out there away from family and friends on your own.  Even if things worked out between the two of you, wouldn't you want to go home sometimes and visit family and friends?  Would he be willing to go with you like a real boyfriend or would you be stuck doing that on your own with him complaining about your going?  It just doesn't seem like a very good choice.  If you decide to move to Colorado, do it for you and not for him.
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The obivous answer is the one you are refusing to do.."Ignore the Calls!"  I am not sure why you guys can't be together..(You were very careful to omit this from your little story)  You say he is not married..Then I am guessing he is with someone else..Tell him to give you a call when they are through out of respect for his current relationship.  You would want someone to do the same for you if you were with him..Wouldn't you?
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long distance relationships are always tough, and especally tough if you don't trust the person your trying to have one with, cut your losses and get out while the getting is good, be kind about it though and just blame it on the distance, that way if he moves back over here you could pick up where you left off.
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If you live 3 states away, daily communication is unreasonable under the best of circumstances. This is probably wearing him down emotionally. I know that I get completely overwhelmed at times, especially by relationship issues, and just shut down. It doesn't mean I don't care; it just means I'm overwhelmed.
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Chalk it up as a life experience, and move on. Long distant relationships seldom work, especially, it would seem to me, ones between two different countries. It is possible, I suppose, but brothers and sisters seldom hold hands in America, that would be more of a European thing. Really, you two live so far apart, how is it going to work out anyway?
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I have a fiancee' in another country, and can relate to what you and your boyfriend are going through. \n\nIt is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship at such a long distance. My fiancee' and I have dedicated our hearts and our lives to each other. We both are doing everything we can to bring each other physically back together again.  It has required incredible commitment from both of us to go through all that we have so far.\n\nYour relationship, unfortunately, has doubt and commitment issues fro what you have described. Such issues are tough enough to deal with when you are face-to-face let alone being thousands of miles apart. Assuming that one of you lives in America, dealing with the immigration and visa issues is going to be a task and huge commitment in itself. ANY doubt of commitment is going to show through when you two deal with these issues.\n\nIn my opinion, you need to bluntly find out if your boyfriend is actually willing to commit his life to you, and a good test is for him to work on getting a fiancee' visa for you to visit him or vice versa. If he is serious about getting married, then he will need to do this sooner or later. If he is not willing to commit at least to that, then there is no need to continue the relationship. \n\nGood luck to you!