I used to hang out with these girls, but lately I've been keeping my distance because I just want to keep it professional now.  I've realized that getting too close with coworkers can get into lots of trouble.  I explained to them one day that I'm focusing on my work more now but that doesn't mean I dislike anyone.  These girls gossip all day long and hardly do there work.  I don't want to be like that however I feel like they talk about me all the time of i know that because I used to hang with them.  They wisper and closed the door in one room. Oh and my boss likes them more because they make her feel goood.
204264
This is a complicating situation because when you first start a new job, you basically have to talk with people like that in order to get accepted. Over time, though, it gets old and like you said, you have to work. \n\nI would talk with them at lunch, stick my head in on them at breaks and after work. Just so they know that you are not acting snobby and still want to be their friends.\n\nBe sure and make a comment like " I have so much work to do because so and so has me doing all sorts of stuff." That way, you are 1. Gossiping 2. letting them know why you haven't been around lately 3. making pre-excuses for the next day when you really don't have time to stick your head in and say hello. 4. Taking the attention off of you an putting it on someone else.\n\nYou should discuss this with your boss and let her know that you want to give 100% to your job but if she needs you for anything, just to let you know. She will be amazed at how dedicated you are and make her open her eyes to the others that talk too much and get little done.\n\nGood Luck!
252026
leave that to the crew leader, mind your own business and worry about your work, if your doing ur work the way ur suppose to, then let her be, its not up to you to get her fired, let them deal with it themselves.\nhow would u feel if someone was to try to get u fired, u would probably tell them to mind their business.
434191
take anything anyone says here with a grain of salt. we're not in the same situation so we can only speculate based on the info you've given us, and even then this is your decision and you will have to live with the consequences. That being said, you are operating from hearsay, so I think before you act perhaps you should talk to these girls and ask about these rumours you are hearing which may not even be true. Once you've talked to them you can gauge their attitude towards you and based on what they have to say I think the decision might become clearer. Keep in mind friends come and go, and real friends would not tread lightly on your emotions and would try to do good by you.
124805
I absolutely hate it when that happens. I always try not to get involved, but if I have to, I end up bitching someone out. Just don't get involved, and make it clear to your co-workers that you are not involved. Make sure they understand that they are both your friends and you will not take sides, no exceptions. I am usually very firm when it comes to these issues, because you're right, it IS high-schoolish. I have very little patience for this kind of thing, and all my friends know this.
330177
Well hun....\nseems like u got it al under control....UR HAPPY that's what's important .....u like the ppl u work with and u like going into work so y change it!\nThe graass isn't always greeen on the other side!
567243
in the future i would keep all info like this to myself.  I know it would be hard and ,you need to get things like that off your chest,but people cant resist a good gossip .  think to yourself have you NEVER told someone something you have promised someone else you who keep quite. or have  you caught yourself saying " don't say any thing but........ " i wouldn't be too angry at your friend as I'm sure we've all been guilty at one time or another.  I just hope you can nip this one in the bud before rumours start flying . good luck with your friend and hopefully your new job !!!!!
415900
I am in that situation everyday. I have to work with someone that absolutely annoys me and is so difficult to work with. Because I am a mature individual and I want to display professionalism, I have to put my grievances aside in order to get the job at hand done.
620525
This happens alot especially in smaller businesses where you have family members or people who have worked for the company for a long time. Plant a small tape recorder somewhere near the place where people have a tendency to gather and talk. Break room, smokers area, lunch room.You might be able to head off some of the roomers before they get to your Boss. Try to make them look foolish. You cannot play this for your Boss but it could come in handy if things got to a point of he said she said. These 2 people do not like you because the boss obviously likes your work and they feel threatened. Whether the threat is real or not. In private explain to your Boss the situation at hand and without pointing the finger at the 2 girls who have it in for you. Just tell him that you are not like that and he will have to form his own opinion about you. You like working here but you will seek another position elsewhere if he feels that theses accusations are true. Ask him if he has had this happen with other employees? Sometimes they don't see a pattern until you bring it up? Had the same problem with the New Head Chef where I work. She was out to get me fired because I was too meticulous in my work. She would tell people what she made and then blame me in front of the boss for telling people what she made(I am the Payrolll clerk/Bookkeeper) I stuck to my guns and stayed on top of her all the time. I finally saw a problem with things missing and people fighting with each other all the time. I went to my Boss and left him a note saying think about when your problems here all started? I left it at that. He started watching her more closely and found out she was stealing stuff from the freezer on a daily basis. He fired her and apologized to me and we have a very good trust relationship going now. It was not easy and I had to bite my tongue many many times. Be careful if you use the tape you may hear things you did not really want to hear. Stick to your guns and keep your cool. If they think they are starting to wear you down they will keep on doing it. If they think it isn't working they will give up.
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Assert yourself ..call them on it..when they decide to start talking ..tell them.. so why couldnt you say that while they were there..I would say i know yall do the same to me when i leave but you all need to grow up...ppl like that are so phoney that they will like you just because you said something..funny thing is i always rub ppl the wrong way when i start a new job..but once i establish they better keep it light around me,, they respect that.  try it.
449766
I am the boss.  I did get a tie one year from some of the women that had worked for me, I have not seen anything since then.  Most of my employees whine and cry and complain about the workplace.  Even when I had bought them doughnuts they complained about what kind I got.  I made them ham and bean soup and they complained about the type of soup.  Some people can be so ungratful.
356758
this is why office love is a bad idea.  But stop letting her bully you around.  go to these other so called friends and ask them what is going on.  Hearsay is a nasty habit, and you dont really want to partake in that and you dont want friends who do. I ould also confront the girl saying that you dont need to be friends, but to stop trying to sabotage other realtionships.  if it still presists, then maybe you can transfer out?
289519
Congradulations! I think that you have closed the door on a strenuous and an apparently health threatening situation. Over worked and under appreciated i was once too, useless until needed i always told myself even tho i also ran the whole office.\nDon't open that door back up girl, keep it closed for yourself!
604555
Behave yourselvs at work and carry on with work as usual.  Romance out of the premises.  I did that and kept a secret for 2 years, people just thought we were friends.
49297
I think she's trying to be bold.She wants you but you are too shy to tell her what you feel.Anyway,my thought is that u shouldn't tell her about any girl anymore if u really like her.Women will always be jealous.They are created like that.Even men are also jealous but its more pronounced in women.This "co-worker" of yours is showing you that she likes you and she does not want any girl in your mind except her.So,if u wanna play along,best of luck!But do not step on her toes anymore.....
395630
Well, Im sorry to hear you are going through all this drama. However, i suspect a hint of jealousy among the other teachers. Since you are there for the kids then you should try to push this out of your mind because in any situation if you try to make yourself appear better to others you usually will always appear desperate for attention or worse. So take pride in your work, know that eventually things will pan out for you because you deserve it. Who knows, maybe fate has something planned for you through all this.
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I have found that it is usually best not to mix work life with personal life.  Sure, sometimes people get lucky and become friends through their jobs, and nothing bad happens.  But often the person you become "friends" with will try to take advantage of the situation, or worse, one day may get promoted and become your boss, creating an awkward situation.  Co-workers especially in an office) tend to be back-stabbers who will stop at nothing to get ahead.  They just might "accidentally" tell the boss about a mistake you made and corrected.  Or put you in a position you do not feel comfortable being in (lying to cover for them).  Or steal the promotion/raise that you were supposed to get.
668631
It has been my experience that avoiding those kind of people causes them to find ways of attacking you personally. Staying to yourself usually isn't enough in that situation. Either several people will have to go to the boss (or HR) or find a way for the trouble-maker to have duties outside the office. Eventually, the boss should recognize that drama only happens when she is around. Be forewarned, though, most bosses probably won't care and will just dismiss it all as petty cat fighting.