I just asked if lying was empowering or destructive and the responces were a resounding 'destructive'. So then why do we do it if its so destructive.
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Fear.....the only reason
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any one that says they dont do it is a liar whether they are in a relationship or not(unless of course its physically impossible for them!!)so i wouldnt worry mate people have needs they need to cater 4 if it makes you happy why stop.
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BECAUSE WE'RE SUPPOSED TO BE BETTER THAN THAT.  AND IF WE DO IT, IT JUST GIVES THEM MORE OF AN EXCUSE TO TORTURE.  AND YOU WILL SAY ANYTHING, ANY LIE, UNDER TORTURE JUST TO GET IT TO STOP.  SO IT DOESN'T WORK ANYWAY.  Get it?
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how the hell do you ruin so many lives? do you even care that you ruined possibly 12 lives? Maybe 8 of them intentionally too. Is this a hobby of yours? if so, then you are very good at it and my hats off to you. Seriously though, I gotta say I'm interested as to how you can do it, then just post a question admitting it, and then expect answers from people saying that they ruined a good number of lives.
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Because I like to help people, usually. Now it's because I got a top answer and came to the site and thought I'll answer a few before lunch. I feel crap, maybe it'll take my mind off it. This is the last one. I'm having lunch because my answers are getting more sarcastic with every question I read. I'm on about 3,000 and some people are on 30,000 points. I spent hours helping someone with problems because I answered a question on mental health a few days ago. I suppose that is rewarding, to know some one in this world is suffering less and feels someone cares. We live in a world full of greed, violence, evil and perversion. Maybe, helping each other through this medium gives people some hope, some faith and it seems a good idea.
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i guess it's because most people don't dig your way of\nthinking. and if i were you, i'd just ignore them.\nso what if they call you a liar? you know in your heart\nthat you're not. and this is the net, come on! this may be\nthe real world but you have a choice not to make it your\nworld. don't indulge too much. and they're right, CHILL!
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There might be a psychological reason for that.  Dig  and try to think about the situations you have faced, which might be the under lying cause for this.  If you remember any of the unpleasant sitiuation which you have experienced, please try to take it out from your mind( imagening,  throwing away the unpleasant thoughts, hurt feelings from your mind) . You find a lot of relief from that and feel much better.
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Good to know I am not the only gullible, trusting, honest person out here.  I wouldn't want to change to be more like them as I sleep better at night knowing I did not try to screw someone out of their self worth.  Also, it will catch up with them in the end, as they will want happiness, but it will not come.  Being like WE are also makes me strong in my convictions, which people like THEM are not.  We can stand for what we want, love, believe in, hate, etc.  They live a lie all the time, they are what everyone wants them to be.  It would suck to be that way to me, as being myself makes me so much more independent.
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If hiding the truth does not physically or emotionally hurt a person than it is sort of alright to disguise the truth. Outright lying is never a good solution. It always creates more pain than it prevents.\n\nThe only reason to hide the truth is to reduce pain. The best way to handle that is to disguise the truth. That way you have not so much lied, as made the truth sound a bit more gentle.\n\nTake care,\nTroy
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That's a very astute quotation. It says that by keeping someone with a lie, you will hurt them more than if you were to lose them by setting them free with the truth.
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I try and live my life in such a way that I can say that.  Don't a lot of people? As a parent I try and ask myself those kinds of questions frequently to make sure I am teaching what I want to teach to my child.  Over the years I have found it's better for my own mental health to give up the things I had to lie about.  My husband does say I am fearless - it's just that I don't see the point in using up my energy being scared.
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Everyone lies sometimes but some people lie a lot. I don't usually lie to people but I will omit telling someone something if I think it is none of their business. I think lying is learned behavior which starts in childhood and the more a child does it then it becomes part of their character when they are adult, especially if there is no incentive to be honest. It would take a lot of work for an adult who lies to become honest. It is easier to tell when a child is lying but not so easy to tell when an adult is lying unless you know them well. Since lying is subjective, I think some adults think they are telling the truth when in fact they are lying.
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we all have it in our souls to become control freaks, some however feel the need to dish it out more than others. sad but true. know stop asking these questions. oh sorry it just slipped out see what i mean.
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Well Eric, it could be any or all of the reasons you've mentioned! The main reason I personally think they say that is, to soften the blow! Guys usually use this line to stop the girls from weeping up a storm - they're left wondering a long time! Girls use it sometimes because nothing works on the old ego better!
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You should analyse why you are lying. Is it related with cowardliness to say true? No skills to talk openly? Shyness? Internal complexes? Some bad culture overtaken? Maybe some people ask things you should not share with them really? Only if you are not able to manage yourself you should seek psychiatrist help.
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Some people on this site need to let things go and "get over" themselves. I have been reported unfairly too. It is a shame that people cant seem to handle the truth about things and them reporting your Friend, me and anybody gives them a sense of control, they can delete your questions, however they cannot erase real life and so what if its chatty I have seen things on this site that would make a longshoreman blush and nothing is said.\nLike I stated before some  people REALLY need to get over themselves.
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Sometimes telling lies becomes a habit like smoking. You find that you don't want or need to lie, but do - you just can't help yourself.