she hasnt spoken to me in 9months, we were engaged and living together, i tried to say i was sorry and give me another chance, but she said she moved on and i should too, all after 2 whole weeks went by, now shes with the guy she told me before that she liked, she even commented once that if we didn't work out, she would ask him out!  is she already in love again so quickly. i expect her to contact me to say she is getting married soon..i wish i could have her back, it's killing me..
209921
If you Love her then you will let her go.
272134
Sounds like he is having a really hard time letting go. It probably wasn't a good idea to get back into the dating scene as fast as he did. If he's kept all of her old letters, pictures, and gifts, then he really needs to take the time and figure out what he wants to do. It's very likely that he still has feelings for her especially since they were engaged. Have a talk with him and tell him how you feel about the situation. Then, tell him how you feel. Good luck to you!
407682
she wants you back cuz ;the other guy is not meeting her needs!!!  she is lonely thats why she is with him, she is hoping you will call so the two of you will reconcile.
121492
Look this is the deal.. I understand you all have been best friends from some time and you just broke up. But she is getting married and there is really no reason you should interfere with this girl and her fiance... But I can tell you this if she is getting married to this guy and still attempting to keep ties with you. Well then it is obvious that she still cares for you. So knowing that you need to make sure that your not the reason that there marragies breaks up or does not last. And I belive you still have feelings for her as well so if your love is real then it can withstand what has been done. But this girl seems to mean to be unstable if she is planning to get married and then wanting to keep ties with you still. I mean she knows if she does this that she can have you and this guy. And then what she gets married and then later to you. I am sure this girl is sweet and kind but you need to protect your own heart...
602176
Believe it or not, this just happened to me last night.  My boyfriend was married for 11 years and they split up 9 months ago.  We have been going out for the last two months.  Last night, after about two beers, he looked me right in the eyes and said "I love you so much Ch*&^%)(*%$#."  I couldn't believe it.  He kept telling me he was so sorry and I know he felt terrible, but It is eating at me today too.  I know it was an accident and he didn't mean it, so I have decided to just force myself to stop thinking about it.  I know he loves me and I know he doesn't want to go back to her.  He is very loving and attentive in so many ways, so my advice to both of us is to stop being so sensitive and admit that our boyfriends are human.  They make mistakes, I wouldn't want him to crucify me if I were in his shoes.\n\nGood Luck.
308025
I think she has answered your question about her coming back, sounds like she is gently trying to tell you its over.  Have you tried marriage counselling??? You also might want to ask yourself what you did to make her want to leave, did you appreciate her?  Its so hard to advise you when all the details are not known.
56151
It sounds like you missed your chance.  If she is with someone else, just leave her alone.  If you still like her and she's no longer dating another guy, then talk to her.
388712
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
298829
She may have been scared, as well.  She obviously knows she can't do without you now, as she's come crawling back to you.  Personally, it means she's ready to commit now, as she's realized what a good thing she had with you, and that she doesn't like life without you.  \nIt sounds like she was scared before, it is a big step sometimes for people if they get engaged, etc.  I  don't know the actual circumstances, but this is what it seems to me.\nI hope this helps a bit..
139897
Sorry to say but most likely shes seeing someone else. Sounds to me like shes just calling you up when she has nothing better to do. I don't mean to be so blunt but I don't know how to sugar coat that one. She probably wants you to stick around because shes unsure of the guy shes seeing and wants you on the back burner in case things don't go well with him she has you to fall back on. Sounds to me like your a pretty good guy. At least loyal. You should just ask her about it. If she can't give you a straight answer then the hell with her. Just move on. Good luck and I hope I'm totally wrong and you get your girl.
432763
Hate to break it to you but you are an "after thought" to her....She came over cause she was "bored."  You are too special to be a replacement for whatever she has lost.  She lost you before, heck she walked away. You need to do the same.  I know from life that girls like that DON'T want guys that are always there.  They just use them.  Sorry for the tough answer but I am answering as if I was talking to my son, which I have done and he is now 23.
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She's not being honest with you.  If she really thought you two had something SO special that would lead to you "being together for a long time" why would she want to waste another minute with anyone else?  \n\nThink about it:  If you met the woman of your dreams who blew your mind away, would you really ask them to just "hold on a second" while you continued to mess around with others?  HELL NO.  You'd want the rest of your lives together to begin right now.\n\nI know this sucks to hear because you guys obviously have something special.  But something inside is telling her there's someone better out there and she wants to continue searching to see if she can find it.  If she doesn't, she'll come back to you.  Now you have to ask yourself, do you really want to be her fall back plan?  Because the minute she does meet that #1 out there, you'll be left broken hearted.\n\nSorry to break this news.  Cut loose.  No contact.  Get her out of your system.  When you meet someone else who you can fall in love with, you might be able to try being friends again...
590922
I feel sorry for you. I think that she still loves and cares for you, but she has been emotionally drained from the marriage.\n\nWhen a woman is fed up she is fed up. Especially when she in truly in love and her partner is not returning the emotions. She can only keep trying for so long before she has to stop and think about if it is really worth it.\n\nI don't want to say but here it is" You should have treated her like a queen when you had her". It may be to little to late, but try and remain on good terms with her. She may just give you another chance. Just remember, if she does come back, don't fall into the routine of neglecting her feelings. If she leaves again, she may never come back.\n\nGood Luck!
155516
MAY BE SHE WANTS TO GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE IF SHE DEPENDS ON YOU SO MUCH - JUST TELL HER THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPENED AND COULD WE PATCH UP - A RETURNED LOVE IS MOSTLY BIGGER THAN THE FIRST LOVE AS IT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING AND A SENSE OF LOSS
470825
Oh goodness, well the first thing I have to say about the situation is that she definitely has someone else...women don't leave unless they have something else to go to!  And as long as she has someone else, someone who in her mind is "treating" her better, there is nothing you can do to get her back.  And if she asked you not to call, then that is a decision you have to respect.  Your calling her is not going to help and it will just push her away farther.   Sorry to say, but this is a situation that only she can (in time) decide that she wants to be back with you.  Give it some time (and give her some space) eventually this other guy will screw up and she will contemplate coming back to you.  If she doesn't come back, then it is for the best.  You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as much!
666429
OK, "marry her if you truly love her"??  What the fuck is that?  That's not an answer?  The girl obviously doesn't want to be with him anymore, so how is he supposed to marry someone who isn't with him anymore?  Jees, some people's kids, I swear!\n\nMy advice is to throw in the towel.  If you read one of my questions, it's not the same...but it's the same concept!  You are in love with her and she has given up on your love, correct?  I.E.-the coming and getting of all of her things brings the closure to the relationship-she has given up on the relationship.  I know it will be super hard...I've been there...it was even harder coz my kids were involved.  There will be a lot of decisions in your life that you WON'T want to make...but you realize that you have to!  Like this one...she's not coming back.  It's possible...in the future, when she realizes how stupid she was being...but as of right now and probably the next few months at least...she's moved on...you should try to, as well.  If you need to talk to someone about this, contact me!  I will try to help you through this...I've been through TWO extremely hard break-ups.  good luck!
229030
been there but it ended really fast(and never truly started), more of a mutual thing...anyways, talk to her about it, maybe give her some space for a little bit, not too long but  alwasys be close by when she does finally get over it, but it could be an excuse for something else. be careful witchever way you chose to go with this