He said he's embarrassed to talk to me about it, but says that he still wants me.  He has visited websites to try to help him but what can I do to help get our sex life back?
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Try getting some adult movies,mags, clothes. Surprise him one day when he isnt expecting it with some skimpy lingerie. Just keep it spiced up or changing the routine. I \nalways love my wife to surprise me with things like that.
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He might just have some respect for you and not want to rush into anything.  He might actually be romancing you, taking things slow, getting to know you, letting you get to know him, and developing an actual relationship before taking things to the next level.  You can't take sex back.  Sex changes things... you can't help it... it just does.  You could always ask him if there's any particular reason why he hasn't tried to go all the way in the bedroom and see what he says.  Also, since STD's are on the average 1 in every 5 people he could be a carrier and struggling with a way to tell you before enganging you in sex.  The best thing I can tell you to do is to just ask.  Wondering and guessing will drive you bonkers!
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Sometimes the idea of loving a person is better than the reality of them.  I am not saying that this is anything against you, but perhaps he was more in love with the idea of you.  If he no longer has these feeings for you, and refuses to talk, then I'd say it's time to move on.  I hope he isn't a creep determined to pass STDs along to every girl he can.  If it's been four days, and he hasn't talked to you, then he lacks the respect to end things the right way.  It's being a coward.  As for why you are doing this to yourself?  Can't sleep?  Well, you were duped.  No shame in that, it's not your fault.  It can take a long time to get over a love.  Hang in there. Try your best to get some sleep.  When you are sleep deprived, you can not think correctly.
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He was just in the moment....if you really didnt like it tell him now, after the fact...if you ever talk to me like that again you better enjoy it because it will be the LAST time.  If it didnt bother you, get into it to...talking dirty and nasty in the bedroom is fun!
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I have to agree with max, not only that, I bet things weren't reallygoing "too fast" for him,  he probably had a girl the whole time and she has just dumped him so he is crawling back to you for some attention and what max said.....sex.\n\nDon't let him off easy, make him work for it and prove to you that he is sincere
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My first impression is yes. However, it is not cool to jump to conclusions. You might want to confront him about it and ask him why he limits his times with you. During the talk you could tell him that you expect more. Tell him what you expect and if he is not willing to meet your expectation you might want to consider moving on. You deserve someone who cares about you for who you are and not for the good time you can show them. There is so much more to you than sex, and if a guy can't see that and acknowledge it, later for him.
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Your boyfriend is using the situation to manipulate you into doing his sexual fantasy.  He has got this idea into his head as to what he wants you to do, and now he is looking for any excuse to get you to do it.  He probably wasn't even that mad about the phone call, he just saw an opportunity to get his way.\n\nFrankly, the guy sounds like a loser.  He is trying to completely control you and force you to do things you don't want to do using emotional blackmail.  Move on.
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Yes it is totally possible but it will take a long time.\n\nAnyone who has been through such a terrible ordeal will feel like they can never trust anyone ever again, beleive me, I know!!\n\nThere is nothing you can really say or do that will make a person trust you, but actions certainly speak louder than words. Allow him time to get his feelings together. Show him how much you care by doing little things like breakfast in bed, or buy him his favourite magazine..............It sounds silly I know but if you really listen to someone and hear what they say, then these small gestures can mean a great deal..........It shows you have been listening and it gives them something they aren't used to.\n\nAs far as the bedroom is concerned, give him lots of pleasure. Make him feel like he is the most important person in the world to you by 'giving' plenty.\nWhen it comes to him 'giving to you' I would Place his hands where I want them to be on myself and I would tell him how good it feels. If he is doing something wrong, I would never ever tell him. I would encourage him to do it a little differently. Maybe watch some soft porn together and when I see something I would like him to do, tell him!!\n\nLike I say, there is no right answer. Time is the greatest healer and if the right person is found they will begin to regain their confidence back.
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He's just trying to convince you to have sex with him.  The truth is there are a lot of people out there who date and don't have sex.  Next he'll probably tell you,"well I guess your still a baby since you don't want to have sex. I'll go find someone else" LET HIM!! It's just another ploy to try and get you to have sex with him.  People who love each other don't try to force their partner into doing something they don't want to. Besides this guy is already a loser, do you want to be the next girl he got pregnant and doesn't have a realtionship with?
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So tell me one thing? Why is this your problem? He's your ex for a reason. Whether he got bored with you, or you got bored with him being bored all the time, this is still his problem. Let him handle it. Unless you want to jazz up his sex life by showing him all the new things you've learned since he left you (or you left him), I would just change the subject and move on to other things.
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He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
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You really screwed up. Guys are really sensitive about sex, so when you criticize their performance they feel like you're attacking their manhood. Sure, he may have overreacted but it was only because you made him feel like a lesser man! Buy him a present, show up at his house/apt/whatev and apologize. Tell him that you were tired/ill and in a bad mood. Take complete responsibility for the argument (even if you don't think you should) and tell him that he means the world to you and you don't want to lose him just because you were in a bad mood. Tell him that you'll never do it again and that he is amazing in bed. In fact, tell him he is a sex god and you are not worthy of his amazing oral. Make him feel like a man again. So go! Ask him to take you back!! GOOD LUCK!!
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Back off him for a bit for starters, he's probably exhausted! No men like being badgered into more sex, the pressure sucks and doesnt make it very enjoyable. FInd out when he likes doing it, try different things, get that spark back, just try asking him what he wants/likes!
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Why are you embarrassed about it?  Is there something to be ashamed about?  So what if you had sexual relations...it's when he starts lying about the details of that sexual relationship then you have a problem.  But women can be pretty good at nipping men in the butt if they chose to reveal details.  Let him know that if he wants to remain civil friends that he should grow up, or else you might just have to let all of your female friends within the common circle of friends know just how pathetic a lover he really is.  He knows that you are bothered by your past sexual relationship and is trying to tease you.  He wants a reaction from you.  Just don't give him one.
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He sounds like a young guy who hasn't acquired the knowledge and experience to know or even care what a woman needs from the love making experience.\n\nCommunicate your needs to him. If he doesn't start taking them into consideration soon, kick him to the curb and go get one of those battery operated boyfriends.
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When did it stop? Did it stop by itself or was it because you found out?\n\nSince you two have been through a lot together, I think you should give him a second chance but make him earn your trust back. Sure he cheated but those 6 years and all the stuff you two have been through most likely trumps one meaningless "afternoon delight."\n\n\n[edit: apparently, your e-mail or whatever is not confirmed or something]\nI think you just need to have a little faith. \n\nYour partner told you that he felt like you were ignoring him, so he probably only participated in the sex site because he wanted attention. But after he got that attention, he realized that it wasn't the kind of attention he wanted, he wanted your attention. I truly believe that he's over that and won't do it again because he stopped himself before things went further and admitted it to you. Those are two very big steps.\n\nI'm sure it hurts that he put those actions on photos but that was just an embarrassing, low point in his life that he's over. I think you two should raise your communication levels with each other so things like this don't happen again. Tell him to inform you if he feels that you're ignoring him or if he feels anything is wrong with your relationship.\n\nThough I partially believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, I don't think that it applies. Those 4 months can't compare to the 6 years you two have spent together.
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Strongly tell him that it's out of the question.  If he persists, stop hanging around him.  You might need to get adults involved soon.  You don't want to ever give him the opportunity to hurt you.\n\nYou're TOO YOUNG to be having sex.  Find a trusted adult to talk with.