we have been chat friends for about 3 years and now for reasons not know my friend has ended up with me. How to get back that friend?
214096
Apologize even if you don't know what you did.
262335
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
19360
you need to talk to her about it and tell her that waht she did was very wrong and was not something a real friend would do! You need to tell her that you dont think you can trust her as much as you could before and tell her that you guys can still be friends but only if you want to and tell her that friends are suppose to keep secrets between just the 2 of you! Dont be mean about it to her but tell her that you got so hurt that she did that to you!\n      Good Luck and i hope everything works out!
524775
Whenever anyone gets into a relationship they tend to have tunnel vision for awhile, they tend to devote much of their time to the other persons wants over even their own. So themselves and other friends basically get left out of the picture for awhile.  Your friendship will probably come back but unfortunately not until your friend realizes that he needs more than one person to make his life complete. Sorry it is a hard time to loose a good friend, and if he has become a WORSE person than before, then maybe just drop a call and say hey dude, I am happy for you and all, but you are totally different, call me when you get a chance to hang out I miss that in a DUDE way =) Good Luck............
311645
it doesnt matter who started or who ended it...you two were fighting that's the main point...talk to him...that's the only way to be friends again...if you don't want to be friends with him...ignore him...if you still want to be friends...again...talk to him...it doesn't hurt to talk and speak yoiu feelings...
91276
She is changing, it has nothing to do with you. I know it hurts for her to just move on without giving you any reason for leaving... now is the time to concentrate on your needs and finding things to enjoy on your own! You'll meet new people and make lots of friends!\nLet her make her back to you, if she contacts you, be polite but not TOO friendly! If she thinks she doesn't have to put any effort into the friendship- she won't. She needs to work for your time as much as you have worked for hers. Right now she's putting that energy into other people, and they probably are enjoying her efforts. \nLet this time be of good use to you, it may be lonely at times, but you have us here at Answers, and there's a big world out there to explore.\nBe brave dear, and let her go for the moment.\n\nBest wishes! - J
567675
i'm so sorry to hear tht buddy, but i think you know u'r answer..its better to move on...if he was really intrested to maintain the friendship..he would have answerd to you or call u back how much busy he was at tht time....so its pretty clear tht he has changed...as they say..money changes pple...maybe one day he may realise tht he lost a good friend...so buddy...keep moving on.
505977
Brush you're self off and get back up... You don't need so called best friends who all of a sudden stop being you're friend there not worth you're time or you're friendship..so move on and find another friend who is worthy of a true friend like yourself...Keep smiling!!!!\n\n    Hey don't Listen to Zink she came in here and gave everyone thumbs down on helping you out about you're best friend now what kind of friend would she be? Not one i would want BACK STABBERS stay away from them!!!
189901
IM NOT FIRNEDS ANYMORE WITH MY USED TO BE BEST FRIEND\nIT BECAME TOO MUCH WE GREW APART
384888
first of all figure out if he is even worth your time and energy,, make sure you really like him... also you haven't even started off right... you lost a friend for this guy and you don't even know if he likes you... what would be the right thing to do is apologize with your friend and try to get back together and even if your friend says anything about yeah u better cause its all your fault or he's mine deal.. shruggle it off because its not worth another fight... also if your friend stopped being your friend because you guys like the same guy then maybe you should think about if your friend was really ever your friend... but if you really like this guy then i say go for it... but dont do anything you will regret
202466
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
582340
If she is really your friend she would communicate with you.  You better rethink as to what a friend really is.  A real friend would have said hey they said this about you can you clear this up please?  You  face her and tell her this that at true friend dosen't abandon and ask where you stand.  If she cannot give you a clear answer she is no friend of yours.
381931
She's just feeling uncomfortable,same as you. It will take awhile for you two to get back to the friendship you had-so take it slow and just let her know that you value her friendship,and will always be there for her.
579259
It's time to recognize when a friendship has ended...\n\nIf she has some problem with you, but refuses to discuss it, or to even talk to you, you need to forget about her... \n\nAnd don't worry about it too much.. friends growing apart like that is part of life... it's always a bit puzzling when it happens for the first time, but trust me, it won't be the last either...\n\nChances are, a couple of years from now, you'll look back and wonder what made you friends in the first place...and by that time, you'll have plenty of other friends..\n\nLife is too short to go through it worrying about why one particular person doesn't want to be friends with you (anymore).
167367
Well, I don't know how long you have actually known him because you didn't say, but I would say to just keep your guard up.  It sounds like he may be pretty fickle, where you seem to know what you want.\n\nI would enjoy hanging out with him but try really hard to not allow it to get too serious with him.  \n\nEspecially if he said something "about not caring for you about three years ago".  I would be very careful and keep my eyes open for someone else.\n\nGood Luck
397669
i know how you feel. my friend did the same thing and unfortunately she has changed alot and we are not close like we used to be. but that doesnt mean that it has to be that way for you too( hopefully it wont! )\n\nat first my friend was confused i would try to help her out as much as i could and now i guess shes made up her mind (she has a gf now) and i just let her do her own thing. \n\nits sad becuase we hardly talk like we used to.  oh well what can you do
126961
just ask him. if you are really that great of friends there should be nothing that you can't talk to him about. especially if it has to do with your friendship. just tell him that you have been noticing that he is distant and not acting like he use to toward you. is it something you did? something you said? maybe has has something going on in his life right now that has nothing to do with you. whatever it is, you just need to ask him. he won't take it as you have feeling for him, he'll take it as you are a concerned friend.