He knows about this problem. He takes viagra on occasions. But he's only 29 yrs old!!!!! I really think that it may emotional. It really makes me feel like it's my fault somehow!! Help me!!!
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He needs to see his doctor.  This is treatable and it has nothing to do with you so don't get a guilt complex over it.  There are several possible physiological problems that an examination will reveal the true cause.  He might have a thyroid problem which is the cause and be easily treated.  Seeing his doctor is the best answer for the problem.
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I know where you are coming from. I'm only 22, but I'm on Zoloft, and I tell you, I'm a completely different person when I cut back on them.\nI think this is something you need to seriously discuss with your doctor, at the very least. Cutting back on medication is not something to be done carelessly.\nI think if she truly loves you, she will be very understanding. Perhaps your doctor can provide access to a drug to counteract the ED. Mine did (22 and on Viagra...yeah...).\n\nGood luck, mate!
531099
I'm sure you've gotten plenty of help on this one but has any one suggested that he get a physical, maybe he is suffering from depression, or blood pressure problems, or sugar problems, I know with me if my sugar goes up I can be easily irritated and become angry in a flash, my blood pressure will also shoot up at that time, I'm not trying to defend him , only looking at it openly!
594568
Please, don't blame yourself. I assure you, it is almost impossible it is your fault. I known many, many woman who though it was their fault, until they found a caring, loving guy. Talk to him. Does he knows this?  He should do everything he can to make you happy.
529293
Weeeeeeelllll, if YOU think/feel it to be a problem, then go seek counseling.\n\nmb
122894
i thinnk he should go see a doctor.. find out whats the cause of his impotence.. the dr. will tell you what to do, maybe its more mental than physical... oooor... yiou could always try viagra
536838
THAT'S PURE B.S. AND IS NOT NORMAL, MAYBE HE'S SEEING SOMEONE ELSE OR IS NOT SATISFIED WITH YOU.\nNO OFFENCE... I WON'T GIVE MY AGE BUT I'M AS ACTIVE AND LIVELY AS EVER.. FOR A MAN WHO'S 28 GOING ON 29,\nHE SHOULD BE RAMBONING IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN!!!\nMAYBE HE NEEDS CIALIS, OR IS HE SEEING ALICE ON THE SIDE?????
153223
It's very normal, it's not performance anxiety either. Men are visual, women are more emotional. Try putting the condom on for him. I can tell you I've had the same problem as him. It's the time it takes, it's the loss of feeling on the skin. It's hard to explain but it happens. I want to preach safe sex, however, wearing a condom sucks. Try this, you put the condom in your mouth, put your mouth over his penis, your putting it on him while going down on him. It's Little kinky, he'll like it trust me.
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Sometimes your family doctor will give you something for him.  Not necissarily viagra, but they can give YOU something to take home for him if he is too shy to go himself.
103243
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
334499
Well us guys have 2 heads - one that houses the brain, and the other that's on the end of the penis.  And rarely do they both work at the same time.  Maybe your friend will have reflected on things today and regret some of his actions, especially since he did not want you to do the same.  But people are always looking for something (was it just sex, or more?) so I think you have to try to understand that when the opportunity comes along you may also regret passing it up.\n\nSorry your feeling bummed out though.
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Believe it or not, a lot of people loose interest in sex after marriage. For the first few months thier interest may increase, or they could just stay normal. But once the "honeymoon" is over, a lot of people just loose interest. Also, it could be that he is depressed. You might want to look into that. Or, if he has been put on any antidepressants lately. Most doctors fail to inform patients that a side effect of SSRIs is a decrease in sexual desire.
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I have the same problem...my bf is like that...he thinks it's a serious thing, I think it's because he feels like if I do that then he isn't satisfying me himself, so it's kind of letting himself down. That's all that I can come up with.
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It sounds like he is suffering from strong feelings of inadaquacy. This ex wife has beat the self confidence out of him. He is not sure that you really want him. That is why he consistantly gives up then starts back up after you call. He can't see beyond where he is. He doesn't complain because he is, first of all, not a whiner. Second of all, he feels as if he has little enough to entice you so complaining would only make you feel less interested in continuing the relationship.\n\nI believe very strongly in situations of this gravity, writing him a short letter is the best thing you can do. Something he can look at when he starts feeling alone in this great big world. \n\nI'm not talking about a "how are you today" letter. He needs a letter about you. He knows how he feels. He needs desperately to know how you feel. To know that you understand. To know that you tingle inside when the phone rings, thinking it might be him. That you want to wrap yourself around his voice when he speaks and ward off any thing that could challenge him until he is able to regain the strength to do it himself.\n\nWe men, in general, feel it is our responsibility to always be strong. To be the "protector of the weaker sex" Well, it is time to turn that around because tonight, the man is the weaker sex. And as for you, well, you will be providing the strength. It's only fair. After all, you do get butterflies thinking about him, don't you? And, I'm sure you have wanted to hold him in your arms until his pain, which he can almost hide from you, went away. \n\nIt will take a lot for you to be the hero here. If it didn't scare you, there would be no need for you to be brave. You are the only person in the world that can pull him out of this. In his mind, anyway. Don't let him down... don't let yourself down.
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Trust me, this is so normal and I actually feel like this all the time.  I love giving my BF oral sex. Just the thought of tasting him right now makes me quiver.  I also think that it has a lot to do with me making him feel as good as I do.  To know that he's 6 years older than me and I've given him the best oral sex in his life makes me overwhelmed.  I actually thought that I was the only one who felt like this, Thanks girl you made me feel a lot better
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OK,  since he is not yet an UNMARRIED man and has held on the "separation" status for this time.  You must assume he is not fully over his past.  If he is, then he is not ready to commit to you, or he would have done it.\n\nMen are, above all, opportunists when it comes to sex.  The only thing that keeps us from the biological imperative of being as "friendly" as possible with as many as possible is the fear of being caught.\n\nIf he has just upped things, I see two possible answers:\n1) He got a sample of Viagra or equivalent from his doc--and he wants to impress you .\n2) He has some insecurity brewing and it's his way of making himself feel better (which sucks if he doesn't get off)\n\nYou are sharp to pick up on the fact that we can actually want sex wiht you MORE if we are having it with somone else too.......I don't know why this is, but it is.
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Me and my fiance have the same problem. It's not you honey. Medication does that to a lot of men especially pain medication. Maybe you could try sitting down with him and explain to him how you feel. I know it's weird to talk about, but it's a part of being in an open and honest relationship.