For example, even when I`m walking in the park, I`m asking my self `Hey friend, why you don`t practicing guitar?` or `Why you are just walking? Why didn`t you take your camera to shoot something?`. I realy can`t feel comfort on my leisure activities.
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If you don't know how to relax and enjoy your down time, then perhaps that's an indication that you need more practice at relaxing.  Maybe you've been so busy, you have forgotten how to do nothing?  Try to schedule less busy time and more free time.  I'm sure there are also some mind tricks that you can  do to stop focusing on what you "should" be doing.  A good  psychologist or therapist would be able to help you with that.
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Occasionally I'm like the rubber duck on the surface of the water. Effortlessly content and buoyant, but also hopelessly separated from the body of water by the surface tensions that make up another person's life. I can't bring the water to be as happy as I am, and the only way to be truly empathetic is to punch a hole in myself, sink myself to the bottom.
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Adil makes a good point - but for me it goes beyond the adrenaline rush, it's a matter of a deep connection to the natural world.\n\nI can't get the same connection on a quick one-hour hike that I do when I am immersed in nature for a week or longer.\n\nFor all our technology and creature comforts - we are still a part of nature.  Apparently that feeling resonates strongly in you.  I wish more people felt like you do.
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Well. What do you like about yourself? That's step one. We're all unique (and, if you're into it, thank God for that!). So you have some special something that no one else has quite as much of.  I act and play music.  My son rocks at math, my daughter does art. So what do you feel like maybe you do best (not 'better than' someone else, but better than anything else you do)?\n\nFind that thing. Concentrate on that, you'll need to for other things in life, anyway. Now the trick is: feel good about that, but don't get snotty about it! Balance!\n\nNow, then, you are primed and ready. You have or know or do something quite unique. Keep it a secret for now. \n\nStep 2: When you are feeling shy, think of something related to your secret. Something to do with where you are at, at that moment. Example: I play music. I'm in a mall. A cute girl is near. The horrid muzak is playing.  I take a step near her and say, "Man, I wish they'd play some Green Day!".\n\nIce breaker!\n\nNow go with the flow, do not get too excited: you're just talking to another human.  Listen mostly.  If they say something you know for sure, add to it. \n\nContinue my example: The girl freaks me by saying "Nah, I love Classic Rock. How about some Zeppelin?"\n\nWooo Hooooo! I know about classic rock. We talk back and forth. I find out she lives 2 blocks from me and we agree to see each other around some time.\n\nAcquantance, not friend, but a great start!\n\nIf I didn't know classic rock, I wouldn't diss it. So if you don't know about something they say, the rule is ASK a question.\n\nMy example: "I don't think I've heard of Zeppelin. What are some of the songs they played?\n\n\netc.. etc.. hope that helps some!
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*sighs*  Sad but true.  I'm nestled above the earth, sitting quietly, doing my own thing and, when asked, I usually answer through the "black hole".  \n\nmy words nothing more than a miasma of thoughts.....\n\n*perks up a bit*  Now, I suggest you go outside, look up and smile.  I've got a lot to say today.....
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I know where you are coming from. I am in the same boat. What you can do here is be AWARE of yourself and just start behaving as you would normally around your family. If you catch yourself not being relaxed with friends, make an attempt to breathe and relax. If you catch yourself hesitating to say something, just say it! If you catch yourself hesitating to hum a tune, hum it! Little by little you will feel more comfortable. Comfort also comes with some trust. Are these new friendships? Is there something about your friend that makes you feel uncomfortable? Some people just have a knack of making us feel comfortable, whereas others could clam us up. But at the end of it all, it depends on you, on how you wanna project yourself. Keep making conscious attempts around friends until it becomes second nature to you. One things that helps me is to not WORRY and flow with the moment. Imagine you are by yourself, or your family, and behave that way. Or get so engrossed in whatever you are doing, that you don't have to think about what others are thinking. When someone is saying something, don't worry about what you will say next. Just listen to the person, understand the person, and let your reaction come out naturally.\n\nTake away any kinda fear. \nTake baby steps initially, to feel safe. \nYour friends will be delighted to have a carefree you with them. Little by little, with practice, you will get better. Just keep getting exposed to more people....and everytime you have company, make it an assignment for you to work on, and get better at. \n\nAll the best! :)
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As we get older, our interests change, our needs change.  Let's face it,...it's easy to find ourselves in a bit of a rut from time to time, too.  Whatever you MIGHT be going through inside RIGHT NOW is, perhaps, causing you to merely "shift" attention to yourself, moving you into the direction that brings you,...to YOU.  Your friends are STILL your friends.  If keeping a daily journal, taking note of your feelings at any given moment through the course of the day, or even when you get home from work would help,...through writing, you may eventually "pull out" what nags you, and why.  Or, you "began to feel uncomfortable today" when,...well, you get the picture.  Sometimes, being by ourselves can afford us THE OPPORTUNITY to reflect, meditate, "discover" OURSELVES and who we are.  I suppose too, it could be our own way of becoming "refreshed", readying ourselves to be part of the world again.  Avoid "total" isolation, though, okay?  Perhaps when you visit with your friends, try setting your "mental timer" for 30 minutes.  When you "hear" it "ding", excuse yourself and go on about your way for the day, or the evening.  By making your visits possibly shorter, it may very well lessen the chance for that strange sort of dread and anxiety to make it's "appearance".  As time goes on, you can increase the minutes on your "timer".  Give yourself the time YOU need.  Go a little easier on yourself.  Get enough sleep and eat healthy.  Try a brisk walk around your neighborhood on a sunny day or at a park you haven't gotten around to going to yet.  Talk to someone you are close to or seek counseling if you really find what you're feeling persists.  You WILL be fine.  Take care.
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Sometimes we feel like deviating from our original self
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This is weird! trying something new makes you feel more alive.. being stuck w the same thing will make you BORED!!!! this was an incident, it won't happen again, trust me.
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I'm actually having that same problem. In my case, yeah, I made a mistake, but I fessed up to it, was honest about it, and tried to apologize for it. I still feel like the other person is trying to make me feel guilty, and I refuse to be around people who are always negative all the time. I thought that I liked people like that, and maybe I did once, but now it just brings me down. I want to feel better, not feel how alone I am, and how much the world sucks. That's my story.
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Aha, I sense some "feelings" stuff here... ;-)\n\nYou now feel like you don't used to be, or simply because you're wanting more because you're starting to feel something...\n\nBe open and just be OPEN my friend. It will answer all your questions and FREE you from all anxieties.
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I have a very very mild form, it used to be worse.  I did feel like a burden to my husband when it was bad, now it's a lot better and it's to the point where I can force myself to leave the house when I don't really feel like it.  I am not in any kind of treatment anymore, but when I was, my therapist recommended starting very very slowly, thinking of the things that made me nervous at first, and then trying something that would make me only a tiny bit nervous, and working my way up from there.
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Challenge yourself with new things and couple them with the familiar. Meditatation is good, try it in the woods next time or by a waterfall. Also, think, study and live! Always new experiences.
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wow! totally. i actually just posted a question because i feel depressed and i just moved to a really cold city that has long winters. part of it for me is a need for sunlight and being outdoors- less sunlight in winter and its harder to be outside so much. i am a social butterfly- but in this weather i get really hermit-like and want to be left alone. i know how you feel.
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Very much so. I cannot be around alot of people. I get very nervous and feel out of place. I think It's because I feel that people should think and act like me so naturaly I feel out of place. Im much more happy being alone or with family or one close friend I have. I also go shopping for whatever I need early in the morning just so Im not around alot of people and I do not like going out to eat at all so youre not alone and I dont think their is anything wrong with being like this, It's just the way we are. If thats what makes us happy then It's ok.
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This might sound really stupid, but I used to and still do a little feel the way you do. When I was seeking help about it, I was told to write my little disappointments or things I regretted on some paper, wad up the paper, and throw it away. It's like I needed that visual to realize that the past is the past, there isn't anything I can do about it except maybe learn from it and do better next time around. What good it is doing you just sitting around nursing these things ya know? Make up for it however you can.
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calm contented in myself but feeling slightly anxious because i have to take the dog for a walk soon and i dont really feel like doing it