What should you do do when everyone is ganging up against you and making up horrible rumors about you. And telling guys you want to go out with them?
214960
I know you SHOULD NOT behead them. (someone threatened that to  my friend once. i knew it was a joke, though) You should go up to whoever started the rumor and ask them to kindly stop it. Go to a counselor or psych (whichever applies) and discuss it with them. If it is happening at school or work, they usually have rules about rumors with strict punishment for repeat offenders. Are you sure whoever it was that "started it" meant harm? I was once accused of starting a rumor when I meant no harm at all in the first place by my statement. It was the worst decision that I ever made. I lost one of my best friends and still feel bad about it.
41116
All u can do is tell them that ur not doing anything at all. The only person u really have to be accoutable to is urself(and God,if ur religious). I know it's hard to ignore all the gossip and rumors, but that is where fresh air comes into play. It's always good to clear ur head. IF it's possible, let ur parents know where u go when ur not at home(if it won't get u in trouble). When u are out of the house, and on ur own(especially if u get hitched), that kind of gossip will stop(I assume).\n\nMy own relatives think I'm a skank(In my culture, dating isn't allowed), and my parents believe a lot of what they hear. The only advice I get from people is to go on with my life and deal with it. People who gossip are bored, and they want exitement and drama in their own lives, so ur the scapegoat. Others are miserable in their own lives and want company. I know it's hard, but try to be happy no matter what, and one day, God will see ur pain and deliver u from it. Good Luck!
646345
Don't go after anyone. Let them come to you. There's no reason why you shouldn't go on out with other people now since you weren't in a serious relationship.At least go out and have fun.
145297
Well I think that you shouldn't believe other people if that girl wants you all 2 not be together she is going to do whatever it takes so just give him a chance and ignore what people say if you really like him you wouldn't believe other people and you would believe him OK and all because you hear thing that doesn't mean their true.
361213
he starts the rumors because he wants u. other people start rumors because they want to be u or mad because there not u............... keep it real.....
141216
look, honey, it sounds to me like you need to start standing up for yourself. if someone started yelling at me when I was innocent, I would politely tell them to back off. my guess is, people use you because they know they can. they know you'll give them money and never make them pay it back. \nso start getting a backbone dear, or it will be this way your whole life. when you know someone is trying to use you, learn to say no. and don't worry about losing them as a friend. with friends like that you don't need enemies. \ndon't let people get away with walking all over you, and don't let people talk to you any kind of way. you can stand up for yourself without being a jerk, and that's what you should practice. if you don't like something, say so.\nand when people call you names, consider the source. so the skanky girl called you a name, so what? she's the one with the problem.\nwhen you stand up for yourself and respect yourself, people will start seeing you differently. again, don't bend over backwards just to make a friend; that's not what real friends are. take care of yourself first and foremost.\nand remember, if you don't control this now, it WILL go on forever. your bosses, your lovelife, your neighbors, everyone will find ways to abuse you. \nI know it's hard to find that kind of confidence. but you must, or you will not survive. tell yourself every day that you are smart and you are a good person. love yourself. I know that sounds cheesy, but it is the truth. start looking for little ways every day that you can assert yourself, and once you get started, it will get easier.
603803
You should tell everyone what really happened. your real friends and family will believe you. But let the friend off the hook too. i mean, he is your freind, right?
70152
Some guy feel the need to act like that in front of other people. Ask him if he could try to include you more next time your around other people. If there's another date request a private one, were he won't have anyone else to act up for.
283558
Well if you are in a social scene and a guy wants your phone number, a good rule of thumb to use is to tell them to give you their number instead. Tell them that you are busy tonight, but give me your number and I'll give you a call. This way noone is left with hurt feelings, and the dude will leave you alone.\n\nAs far as the situation the other day, I hate to say it, but since the guy wasn't getting the hint, you should have freaked out on him HARD. I would suggest sarcasm or just plain cruelty: "what the f**k is the matter with you? can't you take no for an answer or are you as stupid as you look?" Be sure to speak loudly if you do try this tactic, as he will be humiliated in front of his friends and is likely to quickly leave before he looks worse in front of them.\n\nYou may also want to consider getting some mace or pepper spray to carry when you are alone. Frankly, if some dude decides he's gonna accoust you, you better have something on hand to defend yourself with!
255124
Have you ever heard of faking flattery?  I had a similiar situation, and I simply hung around the guy, tried to ignore the girl as much as possible, but whenever I had to talk to her, I used some fake flattery on her, so that it looked like, to the guy, that I was really nice and innocent.  Even if the girl thinks its a bunch of crap, what do you care about what she thinks anyway?  Just think about the guy here, and everything else should fall into place.  This girl cant keep you away from him, and if you stay away from him, thats like letting her win.\nGood luck!
637221
You got to be more confident in yourself and quit listening to the haters. If someone called you a chicken would you sprout feathers and start laying eggs? Of course not. I'm sure that not everybody believes these rumors about you. Find some true friends and forget about those other losers.
365439
You don't have to speak every thought you have. You need some social skills thats all. You are coming on too strong. Guys like to do the chasing. Back off and let them.
342498
They won't listen to you honestly.... sorry to say. SO wait it out, take their remarks and comments, and when they're through thinking your a perve, they'll come around.
334516
Say argggggghh and run around screaming, tell them you saw whatever they would all be scared of and they'll probably go away :P
604063
If there are rumors about you going around the workplace, the best thing to do is ignore them.  Make yourself above reproach when at work and then no one will believe rumors about you even if they are started.\n\nThose who get caught up in the rumor mill by happily spreading whatever they hear eventually will get a bad name for themselves and not be liked
255886
Ask someone who is rough and tough to approach him to tell him not to make this sort of remarks in future. Let that guy tell him you are no longer his and tell him to stay out of your life. In the meantime, get closer to your new boyfriend for as long as it is neccessary. Use whatever means to avoid him.
370889
the only suggestion I can think of is to ride it out.....wait until something happens. Either your friend AM is making the whole thing up cause she's jealous or something, or TM's shy....anything could be true. Anyways, just wait for something to happen, and then go from there, instead of getting worked up about it.