I only see her once a week at an ice skating rink , that she goes to every sunday, I havnt ever had a conversation with her, but I went up to her and told her my name and asked if shed like to meet there and skate sometime, she said no, but was really nice about it. I think she might not be allowed to go out yet, but I want to become her friend at least, but Im a little shy, not to mention its hard to approach her, she is always around 2or3 friends, and listens to her ipod when she skates, about every once in a while she goes around 1nce or 2wice alone but thats it. I really want to become her friend and go out with her sometime and get to know her.
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just make sure you smile everytime you see her dude. little steps lead to the top of the mountain. \nbest to wait till she's on her own before you talk to her, as girls in packs are bad news...think lionesses, they are hunters. \nMake her laugh, you know any good trick on your skates? just don't try to hard or force your company on her and what'll happen will happen.  if it doesn't work out, theres plenty more where she came from, don't beat yourself up over it.  just try even harder with the next honey to come along!
314197
Very mature decision... Offer to be a friend, listen to her when she wants someone to talk to, slip back into the shadows when she doesn't.  Just let her know that you're willing to be a friend until she's ready for more.  She'll respect and appreciate it.  Good luck.
272995
Very sad.  You seem to have made some progress with her, though.  How old is she?  What does she like to do?  You could start by taking her out to dinner.  Then you could chat and get to know her again.  Build on that, and then maybe there are some afternoon or evening events you could do with her, or with her and her friend(s) if necessary.  Movies or something.  Keep it light.  This is going to take a while, but as she gets older, maybe 18 or 20, she might be mature enough to start seeing things from your perspective and want to take the initiative more to be with you.
210664
Sounds to me like she's not a true friend, if she can't be honest and tell you why she is acting differently. \n\nEven if you have said or done something to upset her, how are you supposed to know if she wont talk about it? You're perfectly entitled to join a gym if you want to, if she doesnt share your interests it shouldnt affect a friendship.\n\nYou deserve better. Seems to me her own issues are losing her a good friend.
342188
Why doesn't she know if she wants to be your friend anymore?\n\nWhy aren't you comfortable making friends with people older or younger than you?  You seem to be have too many rules for making friends.\n\nBe less critical, smile at people at work or school, start a conversation with someone that you don't know and you'll make friends.
511786
I think that if you could try and meet her before the wedding. As if you just meet her for the first time at the wedding you won't get the chance to really talk to her. At least you could ice the ice with her by asking her how her wedding plans are going
376976
Well first like you said to she wants to start out slowly. You should first become like friends. When you think you got to know her very well then talk to her into taking the next step of dating. If she doesn't then still be friends. I have heard of this saying "be patient and the fruit will fall into your hand" Well if you're really patient and kind to her then maybe she'll want to take the next step. hope my advice worked bye.
290332
Have you ever wondered why she chose you to be her friend? Go beyond her odor, appearance, attitude and circumstances and what do you see? There's always a reason why people enter our lives. We can choose to deposit positive or negative input into them. So what do you choose?\n\nBe blessed and go beyond her outer shell.
289813
Go ahead and have the self confidence that someone wants to be your friend.  You won't be annoying if you see her a couple times a week for an hour or whatever.
419962
Ok.....do you have a mutual friend who lives there?  If so  arrange to go for a walk or out somewhere and have the friend invite her to come along.  If this isn't feasible, then just keep doing what you are, but ask her opinion on something.  A question that would require more than a yes or no answer, such as did you see that new restraunt that just opened and did you go there yet...stuff like that.  Borrow someones dog and take it for a walk.  There's an icebreaker right there.  When she stops fussing over the dog, invite her to go for a walk.  Tell  her you are watching it for a friend.  My guess is that she is picking up on what you feel for her and it's making her nervous. A woman's instincts, remember?
119774
You don't have to be friends with her, but it's uncool to talk about someone behind their back, even if you do say it to her face. The coolest thing to do would be to either leave her alone, completely, or be extra cool and befriend her. Maybe you can help her not to be a loser.
101328
This new friend seems like she's a lot more in tune with you than your old friend.  It's OK.  In my lifetime, I have gone through many best friends... only because as you grow up, your needs change and so does the company you keep.  If this new girl seems like someone you want  to spend more time with, do it!  Don't get rid of your old friend, and for goodness sakes, don't have a huge fight with her or anything, just try to ease out of the time you spend with her...  Make new friend, but keep the old... as is said.  You can have a great friendship with both, it just may be different as time goes by.  This new girl, probably won't be you best friend forever either... but for now, if she's what you need in a friend, then be her friend and don't feel bad.  Good Luck!
220271
If you want to get to know her better I think that it would be ok to ask for her number.  But if you want to respect her boyfriend then don't. I'm just wondering how to you know she's not having problems with her man.  But some people understand when their mate has a friend.  So maybe you could be a buddy to her.  Maybe even tell her you like her but you know she has a man.  Just tell her if she should ever need a nice man then you'll be there, and until then you'd just love to get to know her more as a friend.  Because I'm telling you you'll get closer to her as a friend especially being that you already like her.  I hope it works out for you.
216009
It's a tough one.  But, from a female perspective...don't change your attitude towards her.  Most guys would start acting like a jerk towards her because they're hurt and can't handle the uncomfortable situation that they are now in as her friend.  I think you should just blow it off, don't make a big deal about it.  Act like she was the girl of yesterday, and a friend of today.  She could have been telling the truth or just making up an excuse because she's just not interested or ready for a relationship at the time.  If you show her that our friendship comes first she just may "see the light" and come around.  Or maybe not, and if so, don't sweat it so much-at least you'll still have the friendship, and hope for something more as long as you want a chance.
594648
Someone who won't look you in the eye is not someone you want to be close with, unless the person is just shy.  NOT THE CASE HERE.  The way I see it (and I have a few years under my belt) is this: if she doesn't want to be your friend, that is okay.  You will learn that you don't always have to be friends with everyone, and that people do sometimes change.  We wouldn't be human if we didn't change.  Its part of growing and maturing (or not maturing).  Either way, you don't necessarily have to make an enemy of her.  I have people that I was close with in high school that I don't even recognize anymore...you know, the people that you swear will always be BFF.  It seems an insurmountable issue now, but in a few years, will it really be that big a deal?  You will always have your friends, and then the people you just know.  There will be people you will see on a daily basis who are super fun to know, and there will be the sourpusses.  The only person who's decisions and friendships you will ever be able to control are your own.  the sooner you understand this, the easier it will be to deal with the not-so-nice people in your life.
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I think you should be friendly to her. Moving in for the kill would 1. freak her out and 2. make her less open with you. \n\nBecome her friend (as I can see you have already done) and slowly spend more and more time with her. Invite her out in group events with increasingly less people. You say she is shy so these two gradually increasing and decreasing things put together will be noticed by her and she will be able to ease herself into becoming more comfortable. \n\nIf you two have similar interests, talk about them or go do them. Be positive about 90% of the time so she sees you are nice and kind (perfect to be good friends/more with).\n\nAgain, don't tell her straight out - that could end up bad for you. Be subtle and gradual (as above). And good luck!
593606
Yes because you have to respect her for who she is. I did that for a friend who had diabetes and she was also shy. I still respect my friends for who their are. That is Friendship.