i dont want to ask the only two friends i have as i have used them before and the one got annoyed in being called all the time. plus i do not talk to them that much anymore. i spend all my time with my husband and my kids.
209434
Do you belong to a church, a stay at home mom's group? Did you ever have a job? Even if you haven't worked there in 10 yrs, you can still use them as a reference. Did you ever take care of anyone's kids? Use those parents as references. \n\nReferences can always be "available upon request". Also, if you just graduated from college or got a certification, you can use your instructor.
307107
Well, it is normal to have friends and not want to see them hurt or upset, but maybe you should also make some other friends also.  SOunds like you should get out and do other things with larger groups of people too.
198419
That does seem very high volume (20 missed calls), but it depends on what its for. If these are just friends being needy then ignoring them will probably drive them away pretty quick and solve the problem. \n\nThere's no moral obligation to pick up your phone but if they are valid questions which are your responsiblity to handle then yes it is rude to not ever call them back.\n\nSince you say they're friends and family, then no, absolutely not. Change your message to say, if you're not in the emergency room or on the side of the road don't expect a call back unless you make it worth my while. Maybe if you can keep it light and have a sense of humor about it you can put them off without offending anybody.
322962
Please read my exact same situation with my daughter and her little "clique" excluding this one girl who used to be her best friend.  I let her (the left out girl) type some questions on Answers Wednesday night.  I didn't look at the replies, though.  I let the girl stay with me and talk about it.  She's a little heavy and shy, and to top it off the kid's dad has cancer.  So, check on her stuff under my name.  Hope it helps.
560264
I have a friend like that and it is truly draining.  What I do when we talk on the phone is "unhunh" automatically while doing something else with an occassional "really!".  When I need to talk , I tell her to "shut up it's about me today, we'll get to you later".   This has been going on for years and it seems to work for me.
74093
Ya this is real problem, my friends and sibs don't have enough time for me after their marr, worst is after kids, my sis is always behind them and wants to be this nice homemaker! Even if she finds time to talk she always brings up her family issues!/// Well on the other hand my sis's hubby is a nice guy..but we have very few family gatherings..may be thats how things work after marr///
431322
I am the youngest of three sisters.  Our ages are 36, 42, and 45.  I could not have better friends than them.  We are extremely close and turn to each other for almost anything.  We take weekend girl trips together and call each other for advice.  Two of us live within 20 miles of one another the other lives across the country.  But that doesn't seem to matter.  We always make time for each other.  It wasn't always that way however.  I was the annoying younger sister and the two older sisters rivaled one another.  It wasn't until we were all older adults that we became close.
172973
accept that your friends think your mum has a cool job.  Maybe they are asking lots of questions because it is like a dream job to them.  If you have friends and you feel like you have to control what the topic of conversation is then what kind of little friend are you deary?
586228
I HAD a friend that was straight up annoying. She irritated the hell out of me...I even told her that I had no idea why we were friends because we had nothing in common. We fell off for other reasons, but we were friends for like 10 years.\nShe annoyed me most of that time.
606732
been through the same situation what i did was spoke with  the littles girl mother and very nicely i told her that i felt bad that they werent getting along they started off good and now they dont talk and they argue and she spoke with her daughter and i spoke to mine and we resolved the issue we told them both that they are going to be neighbors for a very long time i wasnt moving and they should just try to be friends and get along and it's ok to have little disagreements but it's more fun when everyone get along and no one should try to be a leader and tell the other girls not to be friends because that should be their choice. and i stayed out of it when my daughter would come complaining to me of what the other one said i would tell her i dont want to hear it i wasnt going to argue with the little girl and i wanst going to go and get all loud and stupid with the parents cause kids will be kids and if they couldnt resolve it then they should just ignore one another. but thanks god they are now friends and it all will pass dont worry to much about it try to ignore it when they come to complain to you and just come up with a plan with the other mom it'll work out just fine .
512067
they are not your best Friends so............\ndon't speak to them
651960
Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
346734
Take yourself out of the middle of this equation. Casually tell her that you didn't get around to asking them if they wanted to hang out and suggest that she call them and ask them herself. Let them have to explain themselves.
222383
It is very rude. That is one of my biggest pet peeves - People talking to other people while I'm on the phone with them. My Fiance does that all the time and it drives me up the wall!!!
459771
Leave it as it is, she wasnt really your friend if she stops talking to you like that.  Who cares what her family thinks, but don't tell her husband it's not really your place to tell him something like that. Plus she might do something really messed up to you if you tell him.
394567
I agree...because what if they call later down the road to verify again your work habits or ethics, it's not gonna look good if your friend is like 'huh?'.  Ask him if you can substitute a different type of reference.  But honesty is usually the best policy.
637101
i dont have alot of friends myself... im sick of the ones i do have... people are so selfish now-a-days. they only care about them and what they want... im about to give up on some friends right now,,,,,  because im so sick of it!  im hella good people... i wish i had a friend like me.