i really need answer on expences i also have his nephew whom i have custody of he is articulate and 18 years old . open to suggestions .i don't have any children myself .
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I am a single mother also trying to save money, the best thing I have been able to do for myself it make out a very tight budget and instead of getting starbucks 4 times a week i get it once and buy a nicer coffee or instead of paying to get my nails done my girls friend and i have drinks and do it for each other. $10 here and there each week adds up.
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Run and never look back.I have three kids with this guy and he does nothing for my kids and he's in the same town, what do you think a guy would do living in another country? unless you are financially stable enough and your prepared to raise this baby by yourself then don't do it.
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In the grand scheme of things a year is not a long time, and it seems like your family will benefit monetraily in a good way from the experience. As for your child, children are very resillient at that age, but if it were me I would make audio tapes to send home at least once a month. Reaffirming that Daddy is ok and loves you very much. Hope this helps.
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I think it would be great if we got some of these deadbeat parents to pay up!! I don't know anyone who is getting rich off child support. My support for my oldest is $200. a month. I haven't seen very much support..In the last 10 years I have received $377. SAD...isn't it. I think if he wasn't able to get a drivers license that would make a difference in the amount of child support I would see!!
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Hi chrismarie1511,\nDo you have joint custody? You need to contact a lawyer. Look in the phone book for a lawyer who gives a free consultation in person or over the phone if you cant afford one. Good Luck: Blueladybug
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You are not required to pay support for children that are not your own or your legal responsibility.  You may want to consult a CPA or do file separately (depending on how much he actually owes in child support arrears).  You also, on another note, will want to advise him to begin making payments because he could be liable for a garnishment of his wages up to 25%.  Could your household survive on 25% less in earnings from him?  Best of luck with a difficult situation.
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this is quite a bit of money!!! i would first ask a financial advisor..............then i would keep it quiet, not even my children would know. if they need money were alaways here to help them.I would deffinately make out a will!!! ldp
579131
I have joint custody of my son also.  My Ex is primary and I'm secondary.  In the settlement, I get my son every weekend.  I should have also put in there that I get him during my vacations.  This would have made it so that he spend over 105 nights a year with me.  If I had done that, then child support would have been cut and I would also get to claim him in my taxes.  The funny thing is that my son does go with me on vacations but it isn't in the papers so I'd have to refile the child support and who knows what would happen then.  So I figure it's better just to leave it alone.
540483
6 kids in 8 years??  And he can't get off his butt to support his family??\n\nYou'd probably do better on your own.
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Are you an only child?  \nSooooooooo you're gonna be 17 this year.  That means you only need to make it til nx year.  That also means you're gonna be very busy stashing any $$$ that you acquire.  After all, you're gonna need every penny for your independence NEXT YEAR when you turn 18!!!\nNow does that sound scarey or what?  Sooooooo then that's your goal.  You won't have any time to think about your controlling parents.  You're gonna be toooooooo busy trying to figure out how you're gonna pull this off next year!!!\nWho knows, you may even change your mind by then!  :)
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WOW sounds like a real jerk, didn't even want to pay child support. I hope you got your increase.\nAnyways that is unsafe for your young children to travel alone. I would no, tell him your feelings on this and hold to it. \nWho are these people taking them to the long trip to the airport? Can you trust them? If you don't know them, then no. What about on a plane unsupervised, heck no, they are too young.
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a fat chunk from ur paycheck is what you will be paying.they should contact u withiin a month of processing her petition.  agree with the former response of u made now u gotta pay for them, i have never received a dime of child support, never asked.....but he never sees or talks to his kid either!! what would u prefer?
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ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
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I believe that in most states you can.  If there is an official child support order in place and he has not paid it, then after you turn 18 and you are a legal adult, you should be able to.  I like other people's answer about checking with your local officials.
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yeah leave it - let him see them if he wants its up to him.  When they grow up the main thing is you never stopped them seeing their Dad and they'll know it was him thats wasn't bothered.  get some money out of him though he should be paying child maintenence.
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as long as you provided over half of his support and he didnt make to much money than you can claim him. the not over 18 unless a full time student than it is up to 24 years of age rule  (the quy above me was talking about) is only applied to the earned income credit. a dependent can be eny age its just that the child credits go by age. i do taxes.
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My ex pulled stuff too. Your ex will probably get away with it. Just concentrate on the custody. People like your ex will find a way of getting out of paying and you don't want someone like him raising your child.