h feel shy in formal meetings and officials
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No matter who you are, someone will be wealthier, smarter, or more beautiful in some way or another.  You may meet a millionaire with no family, a CEO who is brilliant with managing companies but can't change a flat tire, or an actress who is hiding a hideous scar beneath her shirt.  No one is perfect, so how can you expect yourself to be.  If you are having a formal meeting with someone, they clearly believe you have something to offer that they do not.  Some people are assholes, but you will find that for the most part, most people from all walks of life are generally nice people and wouldn't mind getting to know you just as much as you would like to get to know them better.  I hope this helped.
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being shy and passive...I think things would be totally different for me if I wasn't so shy. I'm starting to grow out of the passive thing.
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calm down! it will be ok. i hate presenting too and i get really nervous and get the sweaty palms and everything. but i usually concentrate on what i have to say and hoping that i dont screw it up.hope i helped!
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It sound like you have a fear of public speaking, even in small groups.  It is very common and nothing to be worried about.  If you would like to work on it, force yourself to start up conversations with strangers you come into contact with.  If you want to get real bold and see real improvement, check into taking a public speaking class or acting class.  Even if you feel like your embarressed all the time in those classes, they will give you the practice you need to overcome your fear.  Most public speakers will tell you that they have a little fear all the time even if they seem totally confident on the outside.
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Yep...sounds like you got a little social anxiety.  Have you ever thought about talking to a professional?  Sometimes it is a little easier said then done when it comes to being social.  You aren't by yourself, it is fairly common, but can be treated with counseling or medication.\nReally though, if you just bite the bullet and smile and even just try to change your body language a bit, that might help.  Good luck.
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Go to some of the parties.  Join clubs.  Get professional help if you need it.  Do whatever it takes to get over your crippling shyness and be a little more social.  Volunteering is a nice way to meet people and it also improves your personality and confidence.
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Maybe you have to work on your self. \nWhat i mean is, if you are not sure on how you look that would make you shy when you have to go to a party, or a club. So you can start by looking at fashion magazines to find the clothes you like and combine, and try combining your clothes and using more accesories, try all of that at home, see your self in the mirror, till you find the way you feel better.\nIf you are shy cause dont know what to talk about, you can read a little more, watch movies, read and see tv news so you know always subject that are IN.\nIf you are not satisfied at work or at school, maybe you need to improve it, find out some other issues you want to learn and take some courses. \nFinally, if you dont really have any of those problems, maybe you dont have to worry to much to live a low profile life, while you are satisfied, it must be enougth to have a plenty life.
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GUESS WHAT....I used to be like that. Until I got to high school & we had to make speaches in frount of the class, well thats was very scarey. But this was part of our assesment in some of our subjects. When that day came that we had to make the speaches I said I didnt want to do it but the teacher made me, when I was up there I was extreamly nervous & forgot what I was going to say. I know exactly how you feel. I suppose you just have to come out of your shell & be more confident.
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I think shy people tend to only talk when they are spoken to first.  They avoid eye contact, and probably look uncomfortable if they are in a situation where they don't know many people.  I'm extremely shy (around people I don't know), and I've been told that I come off "mean" and act like I'm "better than everyone else" when really, I just can't get the courage up to talk to anyone!
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I don't think you have a mental problem. Maybe you're just thinking of something else or you feel awkward talking to someone. I lose my words when I try too hard to communicate with something. Just don't think about it.
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Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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What an excellent and honestly fowarded question of which I maybe able to offer some advice. Your social anxiety places you in a difficult position...since during most interviews we ALL feel like we are being GRILLED by the world. Your situation is even more interesting due to the fact that you are feeling that way all the time...correct? So take or leave the following advice.\n1. The anxiety you are feeling is common to us all and it is inherent that we ALL are nervous during interviews.\n2. You will have overcome and defeated your stress when you believe in yourself enough to foster the courage to even go to the appointment.ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE GOING ON THIS INTERVIEW.\n3. The key to interviewing is that you take control of the interview. I went to a workshop on interviewing once and this really works.  You are competent...and you are qualified....and thats your only job inside that interview...BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND MAKE THEM WANT TO HIRE YOU.No worries ...no stress...theres nothing to lose...unless you don't go. I think from just reading your question....YOU WILL GET THIS JOB!!! I will pray for you...
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Im sometimes embarrassed if anything cuz they come off pushy, I've experienced it myself from them : /
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I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
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Take a critical look at what makes you clam up. Is it speaking in front of other people? If so, try some public speaking clubs like Toastmasters. Is it that you think people are judging you and you're embarassed? Think about the things that you feel most induce your public panic attacks and deal with those issues. Without more information on why you get like that, I can only generalize, because there can be a lot of reasons for your public embarassment.
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FEAR OF SPEAKING IN PUBLIC.  This was really bad - I was even afraid of interviews (that's only one person), so I guess I was afraid of strangers, especially a whole bunch of them in an audience.  Yes, I conquered it. How?  I tried just trying to relax, think of the audience as just some people similar to me (didn't work for me.)  I was a basket case, couldn't even SIT in class and take my turn reading something out loud. Tried a tranquilizer too.  You can't fool your defense mechanism, and after a couple of years I discovered that what I was afraid of was being nervous and obvious, like shaking head, hands, weak legs, hard to talk, so that made me nervous and therefore afraid.  I went to a seminar designed to bully you into ridding your fear.  Long story short, I joined a Toastmasters' Club, shook with nervousness the first time the Table Topics leader called on me to give an opinion on the day's topic, I was so embarrassed.  But I went to all the meetings, did my speaking assignments, and overall it worked great, took about a year to gain the confidence I needed.  Won some speech contests beyond the club setting, held office in the club, and even became president.  My phobia stemmed from childhood feelings of inadequacey, inferiority, being afraid whether my mother approved of what I did.  Well, we're adults now, and have to just go forward.  Yes, I'm sure I'm not still bugged by it, because I've had plenty of experience in not being afraid. But I know what you mean.  In the beginning even after successes, I'd always think, "What if I'm afraid again?"  I would think of my successes, no matter how big or small.  Then I decided, "Well, if I do, I'll just speak anyway, the nervousness will go away and not be noticeable."  I also learned that when extremely nervous, we try to hold ourselves stiff so as not to shake, especially the head and neck.  We don't breathe enough, and that makes it worse.  Long winded, aren't I?  Just wanted to help.
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Start your speech out with something that makes you feel more comfortable.  If you can tell a joke, or if it's appropriate to sing a song, or just tell everybody that you're nervous, that can help you relax some.  \n\nThe more you do it, the better you get at it.  But sometimes the nervous anticipation is just what you need to do an excellent job.