i still love him..just i break up with him because i am already tired of living with guilt.I wanted to love with a man who can love me freely.But, the question is..i felt i cant love again another..i tried assessing my suitors around, but gosh, i cant really give myself a chance to give them a chance to be loved..WHAT DO YOU THINK, AM I NOT ANYMORE CAPABLE TO LOVE AGAIN?.I WANT TO FORGET MY MARRIED BF WHICH WILL ONLY HAPPEN IF I WOULD BE FALL IN LOVE AGAIN.BUT HOW, PLS HELP ME WHAT TO DO MY FRIENDS OUT THERE..I WILL GO CRAZY. I KNOW I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY..
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How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
112219
do you love him? can you live without him? would you die from a broken heart if he left? Can you love again? Can you trust him? Trust is very important in a loving relationship and if it is not there I don't think you can ever really be happy because you will always wonder..is he cheating? would you be happy without him? If your answer is no, then you should stay with him..you need to do what makes you happy..you only have one life to live. I believe that if a man really done all that cheating he really does not love nor respect you.\nWorry about the other man later, right now you need to think about how you feel about the one you are with. Ask yourself those questions. Good luck!
76113
the person who i loved with all my heart cheated on me after 2 years of relationship. it crushed me but i couldn't imagine my life without him and i tried to make things work. there were many promises from him, explanations, excuses, anything you can just think about. so i tried. all i got was another 3 years of misery, tears and broken heart. he did cheat again... and again... and again... so i just wasted years from my life and it ended in a break up anyway. it took me long time even after that to get over him but now i'm married and am the happiest woman on earth. i beg you girl, DON'T BELIEVE A CHEATER!!!!
280364
well if you weren't in love with him. then why did you go out with him? why did you sleep with him? when you sleep with a guy before marriage they tend to leave.. i know this all too well. and if he cheated on you . then maybe he doesn't deserve you. you were in love with another guy while you were dating another guy that you didn't love .. did you go out with him because he was a charity case or to make the other guy jealous ? in the beginning?
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I know I'm still in love with my ex - he ended our 2 year relationship very suddenly with an e-mail & I am finished with\ndating, men, relationships, love. He was the last man I ever plan to be involved with - I've had enough.  Good luck with your situation!
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There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
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I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
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Honey - you said it all already - you knew he wasnt right for you.  Sounds like you are just lonely now and your current relationship might not be the right one for you as a marriage.  Its too late now, and no matter how much you might want to - you cant go back in time and change things.  And truthfully, you probably really wouldnt want to.  Whatever made you break up with him, it would have gotten worse.  Chin up dear girl, plenty of fish in the sea :)
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Girl, please move one. Run, run to the hills. the truth of the matter is you can never change a man. Sometimes I think deep down inside we know the answer, its just we dont want to hear it and its been clouded by our emotions. You love him, so let him go. If he really loves you he will come back a reformed man. Give yourself more time and space. It seems loving this man is bringing you more pain that joy,and love aint supposed to be that way!
340572
It's hard for you to let go because you still love him. Give it time, you will get over it eventually.\nI just told someone else this... You can't Make anyone love you or MAKE anyone love you more.\n\nGood luck.
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I have mixed feelings about this one. I fell out of love with my husband years ago. I stayed because he was all I knew and we have 2 kids. My mistake was that i didn't confront him when i began to notice I didn't love him any more. Instead, i  told myself it'll get better. But it got worse.\n\nIn my experience, once it's gone, it's gone. I am now divorced and am OK with it. You are right about there is something in a woman's eyes. My husband said the same thing to me.\n\nI'm sorry I couldn't give you something more positive to stand on.
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OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!! (except I dated the guy for 2 years)..... I guess we never get over them.... thats what it means to love someone..... and we will only get over them when we find someone better.... but i dont think anyone forgets thier first love..... (I still cant atleast)
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i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
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You said that *you* want to work things out with your husband and that *you* realized that you still love him and he still loves you. What about the husband? Does he feel the same? That isn't clear.\n\nWhether or not you like breaking up with people, if you are going to date, it's something you must be prepared to do. Naturally things with the boyfriend went great, and of course he's in love with you - you're both on the rebound. That makes you more sensitive and considerate in a relationship. You don't have years of history with him yet, with the little unintentional hurts that can poison a wonderful relationship. \n\nIt's imperative that you break up with the boyfriend immediately if you don't plan to see it through with him. Children are involved. Be honest. You've only been with him 4-5 months, and it sounds like it started immediately after your husband left. Simply explain that while you like him, and things have been great, you started your relationship too soon, while you were still reeling from your husband leaving. Tell him that the time that has gone by made you realize you want to give it another chance with the husband. Be gentle but firm. If it helps, write out exactly what you want to say in a letter, and keep it handy. Then keep it in your pocket. When you tell him, if it becomes too... emotional... give him the letter and excuse yourself.
190003
Sounds like trouble. Find away to fall in love again with the one you are married to.Its worth the effort, isn't it?
591864
Nope. I married someone that loves me and cares for me so deeply. I did love him once, but he killed my love....now that I am married I realized that I hate myself for not following my heart. Its not fair to try to make someone happy and living a fake life that you may not feel. Trust me. I can't get out of it, and each day gets harder and harder.
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Hi, I hope this helps.  I think that you should not try to forget him, but to change your perspective on how you view how things were with you and him. Look back on the times of love and joy you did share and realise that those moments were good, but new happier moments will come with someone who you feel you can open up with and trust and love totally. Let go of any guilt or anger you feel about not opening up, if indeed you do carry any.  Moving on emotionally is the best thing that you can do and I wish you well.  But do not forget him, just say a silent "thank you" now and then for all the lessons learnt and wish him well.  You are a much more beautiful and stronger person for this experience.