I am a junior in high school and this girl and I have been friends since we were little. Earlier this year she started to talk to me more and more as the year went on. So I decided to ask her to go to lunch with me, and she wanted to put it off until later and would apologize the next day for not being able to go with. So i decided to ask her if she wanted to the movie that night and she said she was "busy" and would apologize later for not going with. At a school dance i asked if she wanted to just be "friends or anything else" and she agreed. Now after that she wont even initiate the conversation anymore, I have to now. I was wondering what the problem is because she is not as social to me anymore.
210965
Maybe youre up her butt. Try not to be up her butt. If someone is always trying to bug me with stuff I certainly would avoid conversation too. Maybe youre creepy in your approach. I dunno, why dont you ask her?\n\nEdit: ass is a swear? lol
516458
It seems like you are very young, and if this girl doesn't want to talk to you, then it's her loss. There's this saying that I held true to when I was growing up, and that's "chick's before dicks" The girl you like must've listened to her friends advice because that's how girls are (sorry). There's not much you can do about it. If you want to try again though, I would call her and ask her what's up. That way a friend isn't around, and you can try to explain that you weren't thinking of "that" but that you just really like her. Good luck.
657805
She could have been mad at you but didn't want to tell you (yeah, I know it just makes things difficult but I know I've done it before) if she just doesn't want to hang out. If she just stopped talking to you all together, her religion may prohibit contact like hugging with the opposite sex. She also could have mentioned that her mom didn't want you hanging out but you missed it. I'll be honest. I usually expect people to get what I said the first time so she may have just given up.
342188
Why doesn't she know if she wants to be your friend anymore?\n\nWhy aren't you comfortable making friends with people older or younger than you?  You seem to be have too many rules for making friends.\n\nBe less critical, smile at people at work or school, start a conversation with someone that you don't know and you'll make friends.
237824
Life's hard enough without having our 'friends' treat us like that. Tell her it was nice knowing her but you feel your friendship has fizzled out & you need your own space & so on. Don't go playing her at her own game & calling her names, try to part on friendly terms cos she sounds like the sort to hold a grudge & may go out for revenge if you end it by telling her where to go.
170960
Disconnect from her. She isn't healthy to be around. Some people are like a fungus and grow from the damp rank odors of drama and hurt feelings.\n\nPlease don't make yourself a victim of stupidity and high school drama. Tell her you have things to do and that you might consider being her friend again, but you need time to think.\n\nLet her know that you mean business. If she messes up again, there will BE NO TALKING. Forgiveness can go as far as you want it to - reconstruction of a relationship: Well, that is a whole 'nother story.
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
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It could be that she just doesn't know how to react to you. She may be afraid that if she's nice to you, you might take it as an invitation. Let her know that you wont try to "convert" her. \n Or it's also possible she likes you and is afraid to show how she really feels. You should just say "Look, what's your trip?" If she trys to give you attitude just tell her "I just want to talk and find out why you seem so afraid to communicate with me. I'm not hitting on you. I just want to know what's up with you lately."\nIt could also be peer pressure. She may like you but doesn't want to be thought of as your "girlfriend" by the rest of the school. If that's the case she just needs to grow up. She's not worth the effort until she does.\nGood luck babe. Talk to her if she'll talk. If not leave her be and move on.
570210
She was gone and you found a new group to socialize with. I am sure everyone at school was like "wuz up with her skippin' school"? right? So maybe you judged her as well but now things are too weird between ya'll because of your new friends. Ya'll need to talk you can work this out if you truely miss her. Call her up and just start chatting. Before you now it things will work themselves out and ya'll will be hangin' out again.
596731
I would ask her to stay friends, and if you like(more then a friend) to this friend, go out w/ them. Don't let someone that doesn't really like you mess up a possible relationship that would be better than the one that you are about to get in. trust me, messed up my friendship caused the same thing happened to me!
511034
You wrote -- "she know me and know i like her. because i have completed my 10th from her school. so she ignores me."\n\nWell, sorry, but if she is ignoring you because you completed your 10th, then you should probably move on.  Find someone new.
160695
Sounds to me like she was not a real friend in the first place. Otherwise I don't see how she can just leave you out in the cold like that...  I'd just find new and BETTER friends to spend time with and forget about her.
313389
Girls are weird when it comes to friendships.  Usually when they say **** about each other is because the first one that started saying **** about the other, was in some way jealous of the other.  Then when the other one started saying **** about the first one, it was because she was hurt by being talked badly about.  I don't know if that is what is going on in that situation or not, but most likely.  I don't know that there is really anything that you can do, other than not get in the middle or take sides.  If one of them say **** about the other to you, just tell her that they are both your friends and you do not want to get in the middle or be put in a situation to where you feel like they are wanting you to choose between the two of them.  I hope that everything works out well for you.  Best of luck!
379696
It can be two things...\n1- Maybe she is just not into you or 2 - She might not be ready for a relationship especially if she is concentrating in school?  You know her better.  One thing is for sure if she does not like you that way dont push yourself on her because you will loose the friendship.
599868
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
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I think you have every reason to be upset with her. Just the fact that she snuck off and went on a date, she knew she would be hurting you, a friend tries to help another friend, keep them from being hurt.. doesnt sound like a friend to me. If she really cared she would have talked to you about it first.
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If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.