In the past I've always been up front about what I've.As usasul after I tell them, they come up with a lie to get out of the relationship or just don't call anymore.If I don't tell them about what I have I could go to jail for it. So naturally I tell them, besides the fact( I personally feel they have a right to know and have that choice).I mean I didn't ask for what I have, but it shouldn't be held against me either. I've had boyfriends in the past, but they turned out to be users or cheaters. I do have two kids and they are a blessing from God. No, they don't have it. But to be rejected for being honest is not fair and it hurts alot. Now I'm getting to the point to where I might as well just go to work and go home to stay. Or tell the men that comes in my life that I'm gay. Just to keep from getting hurt. Yes, I've tried talking to someone like me, but of course his ex comes back in his life.
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To be fair to the other person, I would tell them as soon as possible so that you are not left wondering what might happen if you start to develop something and it becomes more and more difficult to tell the other person the more involved you get.\n\nEVERYONE deserves to be loved for who they are, and the fact you have a disease doesn't change that. You are a person, not a label - there are people out there who will love you for your personality and who you are, above and beyond the illness. You may well be surprised how compassionate and open-minded people can be.\n\nAnd to add to what Kuraig put up earlier - yes, ok, some people might consider someone who falls in love with a person with a serious disease as being "not in their right mind".\n\nI would consider the person who can see past someones physical health as being the one who deserves your love and affection. Don't give up.
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TELL THEM!!!\nit screws up your whole relationship if you don't.
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nO, of course no, you should only tell me. ( I promise I will not tell anyone else)\n\nSeriously, they do this because they are idiots. There are some people who get married for money to sell the USA citizenship and this is their brilliant plan to Catch them.\nI guess they do not realize that  people who are trying to do this for illegal reason would not think to lie. maybe they interview each person separately and see if they name the same times. HMMMM?\nso you have to get your stories straight if you are going to cheat and lie.\nWhat if you are sincere but just cannot rememeber when you banged your old lady or accidentally give a date that was with your mistress. OOPS\nI guess you have to keep notes or put notches on the bedpost.\nsome guys may brag and say ten times when it was only one. Oops.\nwhat a silly world we live in!
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Has your man always been up front and honest with you?  What reason would he have for lying to you and keeping you hanging on?  How often do you talk?  My cousin is going through a similar problem (though not married) and I asked her what she would do to move on if he was lying - though with this particular guy it would be a shock.  She replied that she would go out with her friends and socializing soooooo. . . going out with friends and meeting new people is not cheating.  If you meet some other guy you like more in the process then it was meant to be.  \nIf this girl knew about you why would SHE still be with him?  Sounds like she may be trying to start problems so she can have a shot.  Then again, why is he friendly with this "crazy liar"?  You should know his nature well enough to answer these questions yourself, but I understand it never hurts to get a second opinion.  \nBest of luck with everything.
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No - tell the truth about yourself. There is no shame in your situation. Everyone has their own story and if they are happy with who they are, or are striving to better themselves for whatever reason, then that is their truth. Lying will only make you feel worse about who you are, not better.
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Its happened to before, and ive done it before. When I did it it was a time in my life when I hadnt accepted my homosexuality, and considered my self Bi but to my freinds i was straigh, Did it to protect my identity. After i came out, and guys try that shiznit, it was easy to see through. Or they are cheating and if you saw them out elswhere and called them by the wrong name they gave you they can play that off as youve got the wrong person kind of thing.
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If they dont ask, dont tell.  If they do ask, be honest.\n\nBest of luck!
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lying is bad... it makes your conscience go away after awhile... I'm lying about an affair!! that is like a double no-no I know but it somehow just ...well..happened... ok that's a lie... it happened because I wanted it to as well as the other person. i did at one time feel guilty and bad about it now ( 9 months into it) i don't at all!!! it's ok to lie to a little kid...when they will not understand the truth...no honey your hermit crab is just a sleep.....oops! other than that I do not lie /.........................i have no reason to
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it is because if you are taken then they don't have to make a commitment. some will also tell you the things they feel you want to hear to see if you will leave your fiance or husband. if you are engaged or married then you shouldn't be talking to other guys in any way that they should think of anything as a challenge. i am married to a very loving man that will do anything in his power for me. he has been there for me at times when my own family wasn't, but i started talking to a guy just as friends and was really comfortable around him. then he started telling me all the things i wanted to hear, and next thing i knew he was telling me he loved me. i ended up leaving my husband and my home to be with this guy. then i realized i made a huge mistake. i am very Lucky to have a husband that forgave me and took me back. be careful out there because men are dogs. most of them are only after one thing anyway.
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how come you are allowed to ask questions about this in general relationships but when i try to ask about girls (even in gay) my question gets pulled\n\nthats a bit whack, really
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It is always better to tell the truth.  Lying in any situation is unsound, and usually betrays a lack of courage - the courage to say "I don't want to answer that", or "Well, yes, you are a bit fat, but I love you anyway and if you want to change it why don't we work on it together?" or something like that.  Lying, ultimately, can only ever hurt you, and the person or people you lie to.
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As with my boyfriend and I ...we like to keep the past in the past. There's no use in bringing up something that might make your partner mad/upset unless they ask about it or it is a serious issue that would concern them needing to know. For example: STD's, crimes...so forth.
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Sounds like your friends have trust issues w/ you. You will have to allow them to gain their trust towards you again. Talk to your friends explain to them you made a mistake before and want to be trusted. Tell them your going to give them some time to rethink about not telling you anything, b/c it does make you feel left out. Tell them they can trust you just give you a chance to redeem yourself. Good Luck.
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If it were me I would tell them to mind their own business...in fact I have told them that before. Just be you. If they ask then tell them and do it with out shame or guilt. If you are bi then be the best bi you can be.
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D! How come the guys get to choose from decent women but us women get the bottom of the barrel to choose from? Just Kidding. I'm sure these are all really nice guys. I just thought that this would be the perfect time to come out of the closet and let the world know I would rather be GAY!\nLove & Light\nSharon
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i, personally don't think someone's past reflects who they are now.  i wasn't the nicest person in my day, but am now.  if someone were to ASK i would tell, as i'm an honest person, but i don't offer the information outright.
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You don't. Everyone lies. Some peolpe lie to protect the ones they love others lie to protect hemselves. And then there are the ones who lie for no reason at all. These are the worst type of liars. Unneccesary lyin gis uncalled for and you should talk to him about this. Honestly though I don't think it is something that will change so you should look fo ra more honest relationship.