i am seriously fighting with my life here, i am in an abusive relationship tried the shelters homeless shelters, domestic violence shelters he cuts me ties me up beats me i bleed alot i have bruises all over my body i have been with him for 3 years and cant take it no more i have no family grew up in foster care i have no where to go, can someone help me PLEASE?...BECFORE I JUST COMMIT SUICIDE
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yes, you will be okay.\n\nBUT it's time to make some serious changes in your life... no more of the same old stuff you've been doing.  MAKE it work.\n\n- a domestic violence hotline is the best place to work through all your specific options.  800-799-7233 (National), or go to http://www.feminist.org/911/crisis.html to find something local for you.\n\n- get away from this guy for good.  two days from now you should have a restraining/protection order against this guy which keeps him at least 500 feet away.  once that's in place, if he finds you immediately take out your cell phone and dial 911, scream if you need to.  don't tell him any of this, just do it.  just think to yourself "i've had enough, that's it, i'm done with him forever, and i don't need any explanations or apologies".  no exceptions.\n\n- it sounds like you need to work on some stuff inside yourself also... and that's a good thing.  nobody's perfect, and don't worry too much about right or wrong... but it sounds like it would be good for you to get a new lifestyle that "works" better for you.  don't just escape, ESCAPE!\n\n- if you need something drastic to change your life, maybe the peace corps or something very involved and out of the country would give you a chance to figure out what you want out of life.\n\nyou have a right to be happy - don't let some miserable prick take that away from you.\n\nyour "i found myself" post in your 360 page is the right way of thinking.  stick to it.  don't take the pom back
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i understand where you are coming from i have experienced this and it got to the point of becoming suicidal i reached out for help whether i felt i needed it or not and now looking back on things i regretted doing it because it tears a relationships apart and you are scared for life. if anything seek help and help yourself through counseling and partial hospitalization because you are not alone and there are people to help professionally and if you feel uncomfortable with help seek a minister in a church they can also help but counseling is the best way because the are more open to receive your thoughts emotions and can help you with medications and can do tests to help. they also understand your hurt frustrations anger and no one has to know it is kept between you and them and in the long run reaching out in this manner you may find a friend and a support to help you through and gain back your respect and love that you may feel that is gone
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Please call a hotline right now. There are mental health hot lines. There are suicide hot lines. There are abuse hotlines.  Open your telephone book right now and look in the front. There are listings there for help and you need to call one of the numbers now. I don't know where you live but I know in Florida that if you have a mental problem and you cannot afford the medications, then some of the mental clinics and hospitals will give you the medications at little or no cost. My daughter has had mental problems all her life and the times when I could not afford her medications or blood tests, they provided them to me for as little as $3.00 per month. \n\nIf you were in a residential treatment facility, then whay aren't you on medicaide?  You could be on S.S.I disability and that would automatically get you the medicade. \n\nBut the important thing is to call and get help now.  In Florida there is a baker act law, it just means that if the courts or doctors or a family memb er ar friend, thinks that you are a danger to yourself or anyone else, then you are put in a facility until they can evaluate you and get you back on your medications. My daughter has been baker acted 9 times and only once by me and my husband. \n\nIf you can't find a mental health place tonight that will help you, then you should find out which hospital in your area has a psych unit and go to their emergancy room tonight. You are asking for help and here it is. Now GO.
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LIfe is not fair. Adults don't get to do EVERYTHING (as you put it) that they want to do, why should you? They are the ones that gave birth to you, raised you, clothed you, fed you, gave you money to buy things with, and this is their thanks? You can always file for emancipation, but you have to prove that you are able to live independently and support yourself, which it doesn't sound like you could do. You could alway tell the Child protective services that they abuse you, then you could live in foster care, where they make you eat your own puke (my aunt's adopted son did at one foster home he lived in before his adoption), and they get money to make you do it. Stop sniveling and be thankful that you have TWO parents that love you enough to care where you're at, whether you're hungry, whether your clothes are clean, blah blah. Many kids are LUCKY to have even one parent these days, and are tripley blessed if that ONE cares about them.
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first off you are not a **** up. Maybe try to get away for a while and clear your head. If i was your friend i would be honored to be the god parent of your lil boy. Talk to someone a friend, counselor or social worker. Maybe try to talk to your foster mom and the other people who are hurting you and tell them how you feel. If things still don't get better you need to move. you and your child deserve a better life. I know things seem hard now but they will get better so keep your head up. you little boy need you in his life, I'm sure you are a great mom. I hope i was of help.
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Get help.  Call a local hospital and ask for an 800# hotline or a counselor.  \nPeople love you.
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Find the nearest womens shelter.  Go there and do not look back.  It is not an easy road, but it is life.   yellow pages.  Call a distress center.  Get out while you can.
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Recommend you see a professional marital counselor first, and a divorce lawyer, and "get your ducks in a row".\n\nI would recommend you do that as soon as you possibly can because your situation at home is not something a woman should be involved in.\n\nAs a nuetral third party observer I assume I'm one of many who have told you leave your abusive husband.\n\nI'm not familiar with the psychology of what you are going through and I understand from the few articles I have read you might be undergoing some sort of dependence or whatever. There are halfway houses or whatever, there are enough mechanisms society has put in place for these types of situations.
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I'm sorry that you are having such a bad time. You deserve better. You would be wise to visit a therapist to see why you are still with this fool. You should also visit an attorney to explore your options. In all likelihood you will be better off without him. Oh and as for God he's always listening. Just pray.
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The things that have happened to you are terrible and of course it is abuse.  You really need a trusted adult to help you.  The fact that you were able to post on here means that you are ready to get the help you need.  I'm a licensed psychiatric social worker and I came from a really crappy upbringing too.  My dad was physically abusive and my mom was pretty depressed and didn't stop him.  I managed to get past the abuse and lead a productive life but even today, I remember the abuse and have to deal with the feelings surrounding it.  You are too young and your life is too precious to be lost in the cycle of child abuse.  The sooner you get help the more likely you are to move on successfully with your life.  You don't need your parents permission to seek counseling.  School counselors are an option.  I recognize that trusting adults right now is probably difficult and I'm sure you still love your parents to some extent.  What you need to understand is that if your parents are abusing or neglecting you, they are sick too and need help.  Right now you need to realize that you are worth saving and not all adults are bad.  Your life can and WILL get better.  I don't know where you live and what resources are available there but I would be happy to help you in anyway I can.  Please feel free to email me if you need more help or someone to talk to.  My email is jazzy_59602@yahoo.com.  Please stay safe and reach out to someone.
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This has got to be a horrible time for you, not to be able to go and be with the ones you love in this horrible time of need.  I have no words of wisdom to give you that will ease your pain, nor help you either.  Use the phone regularly to call home, use the computer t seek counsel, and pray that this to shall pass.  Pretty lame, huh?
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Where are you?  I would take you in.\nMove to a new foster family and know that this will be a strong foundation for your fabulous adult life.
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Hi, I answered your other question you posted about your boyfriend.  I was glad that I was able to help you out a little bit.  I was troubled to see you spoke of killing yourself if something should happen to him.  First, Try to get that thought out of your head!  Suicide is never the answer for anything.  You cant just give up like that.  Now is the time you need to be strong, for your boyfriend, and more importantly yourself.  If you need to chat with somebody, You can always email me jam961@yahoo.com  Things may appear rough for you right now.... But they can get better.  Instead of worrying about the "what if's" of life, you should focus on what is going on right now.  Enjoy being with your boyfriend now.  Build some memories to last a lifetime, and try to be happy.  If you really love this guy, you should be happy that he has been....and still is a very important part of your life.  Once he has a place in your heart, even if God forbid, he does take a turn for the worst, he will always be right there with you... In your memories, and deep down in your heart.  But don't even think about that now, just enjoy being there for each other.
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I want you to remember something okay?  suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  no matter what the situation, it is not worth ending your life over.  and alcohol is only going to make things worse because it's a depressant.  so it's going to make you more depressed.  please leave it alone.  and please don't cut.  I know you feel like it helps, but in the long run it only hurts you.  you are worth so much more than you think you are.  and you matter.  sweetheart, God loves you, and He will give you the strength you need to get through whatever problems that you may face in your life.  and He will get you through this difficult time in your life now.  you say that you have no where to turn, and you can't get your medication.  the thing that you need to do right now is to go to the emergency room at the nearest hospital and tell someone that you need help and why you need it.  you won't be turned away in your condition.  they will get you the help that you need getting your medications and everything.  they will also appoint you a social worker who will help you and give you support.  your social worker can also help you by checking into places for you to live, getting your medications for you, and getting you into support groups where you can discuss your issues with others who are going through what you are going through.\nplease go to the hospital now, and ask for help.  just don't worry about anything, it will all be taken care of.  you just concentrate on getting better.\nand remember what I said, God loves you, and He has a purpose for your life even though you may not be able to see it right now.  you are loved.  and I will keep you in my prayers.
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By all means, please don't kill yourself. Life is what you make it. I know this world can be a cruel place, but you can find solace in God. It sounds like you are a good person with a good heart. Don't despair. Pray for your life to be filled with happiness and love. I will pray for you and keep reminding yourself that your life will only get better. I have been a victim of all those things that you have mentioned, but it only made me stronger as a person. Go out more, spend time with your favorite family members, learn a new hobby, go for the job you always wanted,and find a place of worship where you can confess your heartaches to. Also, keep telling yourself that you are lovable, loving, and you are loved. It helped me and I hope it helps you. Feel better.
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My heart goes out to you and your family. I've been married to the same wonderful man for thirty-one years. Twice prior to my knowing him he tried to kill himself. Since we have been together he has made 4 more attempts on his life. I don't know where you are from but most places have mental health assocations. They can help you to understand medications, patiants rights. For my husband I am his health care rep. when he can't speak-up for himself I have the legal right to do this . I got him to give me power of attorney so I can deal with his disabilty money and all the red tape that goes along with it. Your Mom's illness if she does have Bi-polar suicide is attempts can be a part of her illness. It is a long hard road and you need to seek help yourself so you can stay healthy enough to be an assistance in getting her the help she needs. There are support groups for families going thru what we both are. When my husband gets what I call imbalanced with his medicine it takes me giving him his meds. because he gets confused about days and times to take them. As we both turn 50 this year it seems like second nature to us to deal with his illness. His last attempt to take his life was last November. He was missing for 2days before he was found in a coma in our truck at a reststop we use to stop at a lot. It was very sad, I still am seeing a counslor myself to deal with learning who I am outside of his illness. Be careful not to become so involed you stop living like I have at times
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You need some support.  I don't know which state you are in, but you can call your DES deprtment or Family Services people in your area.  They can help you, and there are things they can do for free.  If you don't get help you will just continue to be miserable.  If someone tells you no, ask if they can direct you to someone who can help out.  There are people and places, but you are going to have to find them.