My 4 year old daughter came home from daycare the other day and told me that 3 of her schoolmates said I was fat, ugly, etc.  Now, I could stand to lose a few pounds, but I never really condisered myself "fat" per se.  And, though I'm no supermodel, I didn't really think I fell into the "Ugly" category either.  Are these just the ramblings of children, or should I consult my local weight-loss center and plastic surgeon!?!?
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Kids can be cruel, they could be jealous of your daughter and are trying to hurt her by using you.\n\nDon't concern yourself with what little brats say, they know no better.\n\nDo what makes you feel better.  Remember there is only one "you" be the best you possible.\n\nDave
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Tell her she's not fat, make sure she knows that you think she looks good, healthy, pretty, that you don't like it when girls are too skinnny and unhealthy looking.  If you suspect a serious problem, anorexia or bulemia, please seek professional help with her.  Good luck!
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YOU ARE NOT OVERWEIGHT!!!!\n\nWhen I was your age, I was -- like you -- overly self-conscious about my weight -- always comparing myself to my skinnier friends.  I was so afraid of getting too fat, and thinking that I was fat, that I worried about things that now I wish I hadn't.  (I'm 43 now... and when I see pictures of myself at 13, I can't believe that I ever thought I was fat!!\n\nAt 13, your body is changing from a young girl's body into a woman's body.  In order to do this, you have to gain a little weight.   You will more than likely get a little taller -- and you will also develop more and more into a woman.  Whatever you do -- don't stop eating and go all anorexic in order to be thin.  It is dangerous and stupid!\n\nAppreciate your curves -- because, as I have learned as the years have gone by, the guys appreciate them, too! \n\nMy daughter -- who is 21 -- has always had a great attitude toward her weight.  She doesn't weigh herself -- ever.  She just relies on her clothing to tell her whether or not she needs to eat a little less and work out a little more.  She is healthy and happy!
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I lived with anorexia for years. Every time I looked in the mirror all I saw was what I hated about myself. I saw fat and ugly. Part of my therapy was to look in the mirror naked everyday and say ten nice things about myself out loud, so that I was louder than the inner critic. I now look in the mirror naked everyday just for fun. I thought about listing my ten best features, but I was afraid somebody might be offended. It is a naked run down of my body after all. ;-)
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I feel that you don't need to loose any weight. I'm have a one year old girl and i weight around that amount. You are beautiful in your own way and you should feel beautiful.
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They are probably just scared of you losing weight. Your obviously already a very pretty girl and they might just be jealous and worried. I would DEFINITELY cheer my friend on....heck I'd probably work out with her and we'd lost it together!! YOU GO GIRL!! YOUR AWESOME!!
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Let me tell you what I did when I was rejected by a female for basically being fat. I asked her out on a date of sort. She laughed and pretty much called me fat in front of a few people. I stood there kinda heartbroke. But then looked back at her and said ' I might be fat, But your ugly and I can diet". Needless to say, I saved my pride. \nThe moral of the story is that no one is perfect. And don't worry about what others think. Or put yourself down like I did.
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Why tell her that in the first place. If you know you can't just say the good part without leaving the bad one out, then don't say anything at all. I have seen girls do terrible things to themselves just because someone told them they were either ugly, or too fat, or too thin, or too busty, the best thing is to just leave that part out. Trust me
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I remember thinking that i was fat when I was a teenager because of what a PE teacher told me. I was actually quite slender, too slender at that. I remember the school nurse's assistant thinking that I was starving myself because I was so thin and A friend of mine kept telling me I needed to eat more. I was eating just fine, but  I did not want to eat anymore than what I had too because the PE teacher told me that I was fat. \n\nThe best thing you can do is just let your friend know that she looks fine. Encourage her to eat normal and let her know as long as she stays active, she will be fine. \n\nBe careful, because sometimes girls that age will cut themselves down just to hear people say "oh You are not fat, you are SO SKINNY" or You are not ugly YOU ARE SO PRETTY"\n\nJust make sure it's not one of those cases.
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no she's not overweight. tell her that's her correct weight, so don't stress about it in-less she wants to be anorexic. my little sister has the same weight, and she's 12.
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That sounds perfect to me.  I have a very athletic build.  I am solid (hard as a rock) muscle in my legs etc and I have some fat on my booty and a little softness to my stomach.  I am 5'4" and I weigh 140.  People ask me if I am anorexic.  Honest, true story.  It all depends on how you are built and I learned long ago that numbers don't really matter.  I am 140lbs but I am a size 4.  Do not listen to people who tell you about charts because there are many things charts do not take into consideration.  Muscle weighs so much more than fat and if your build is athletic and your body is dense you will weigh more than the chart says you should.  Charts tell me I need to lose weight.  If I lost weight I would look very, very unhealthy.  You sound like you are in the same boat.  You sound perfect to me!!!
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NOOO you are not overweight.  I think everyone feels like they are fat sometime or another and seeing all of the thin celebrities and models does not make it any easier.  You are still very young and your body will continue to be going through changes.  Just try to stay active.  When I was about that age is really when I started watching a lot of TV and just sitting around.  You are not overweight, but if it makes you feel better, try cutting out sweets and eating more fruits and veggies.  I am sure you are a gorgeous girl and if the doctor says you are fine than you are.  You are beautiful I am sure!!!
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it is all mental. likely your image of what is "fat" and "skinny" is skewed by magazines and tv and other media. it has made you think that "normal" is the new "fat" and "skinny as a flag pole" is the new "normal".\n\nand not to say you have it or insult you, but you may want to talk to a counsoler or some kind of professional. from psychology classes, i've learned that anorexic people literally see themselves as fat, even when they are beyond thin. they did a study where they used a special lense that makes people look fatter and used a normal lense that makes people look normal. when shown the two pictures, anorexic people always chose the one that made them look fat. so...maybe it is time to talk to someone before something serious happens.
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No honey. Sometimes i say that ... and it is just .. to ask. It doesn't make someone idiot. I'm not idiot, i can asure you that. Actually sometimes i say, does this make me look more fat ?, and in fact i'm  "not fat". It is just an expression, at least to me. Well, honestly i have no obsession about my weight.
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Well you are enjoying that, and thats good. People will always have their ideal standard of what they think physical beauty is, and as women we tend to aspire to that a lot of the time. I don't think its always because someone else thinks its pretty. I think its because deep down inside, we do too. I would say lose it if you feel comfortable in doing so, and if it will make you feel better about yourself. I know I am trying to lose for that very reason, because I know I will feel better about myself once I do. I'm glad you're having fun, and I know that you will be very proud of your accomplishments by the end of the summer.
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Dare anyone answer you! LOL When I saw your question it took me back to Jr. High..and I will not say how long ago that was. There was this georgous girl in 8th grade. She walked like she was a princess and her face was like an angel. ( no I am not a guy, go with me here) Everyone was speechless around her because her beauty was unreal. I can see her face like it was yesterday. Well, as this beauties personality came to bloom in front of us over time she became very ugly. She had a cold heart, was completely self-centered, had a foul mouth and very unpleasant to be around. Sure she had boyfriends but they were for very short terms and they never went back. I felt sad for her, it was as if her beauty was.... deceiving.... her. In conlusion, I will say that, as for myself I do not think I am ugly, I FEEL beautiful at times, but my body will become very wrinkled and probably arthritic someday with those age spots too, the only beauty worth noting comes from inside. I know it sounds cliche or idealistic but I think it is so true. The personality, character, and SOUL is what makes someone beautiful.
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Eighth grade is tough! This is a time when both boys and girls are trying to establish who they are as people and self-esteem can be knocked down by a single comment. \n\nYou sound like you are a happy person. This alone is a precious gift that probably most of the "divas" at your school don't feel regardless of their outward appearance. Don't lose that quality because you'll find later that most "normal" people want to be around happy people more than outwardly "pretty" people. I personally think it is a shame that beauty tends to be defined by magazines, advertisements, and Hollywood. Most of what we see isn't even real. (Did you know a very popular "sexy" lingerie company digitally alters their models so that their bodies look different? Most have been made thinner, given a tan, skin imperfections airbrushed out, and even their legs lengthened! I saw this on a documentary once on how women tend to judge themselves compared to unreal ideals. Plus, actresses and models have makeup artists that know how to make them look different for the camera.)\n\nUnfortunately we can't make people like us. We can, however, work on liking ourselves. The guy you like may be asking himself how he can get to know you, but is wrestling with fears of being rejected. Let him know that you are "safe" to talk to. Smile and say "Hello" when you see him. If you know something that really interests him and he is knowledgable about (sports, computers, math for example) ask him a question about it. Most of all, be real to yourself. Don't pretend to like or be something/someone that you aren't in order to attract someone else. Don't worry about being "thin and pretty"..focus on living a healthy lifestyle and being genuine to who you are.