This girl is confusing me because she acts like she is trying to sit next to me a lot. She likes to talk to me alone and bring up subjects like my dreams and whether I plan on getting married. We have been friends for a while, but I don't understand it.\n\nShe stated in the conversation that she could not understand why people are so desperate to get married. She asked if I planned on getting married out of college. I also talked about how I almost dated a girl in January, but I did not. I also told her that my current best woman friend and I talk about a lot. She asked whether the girl was desperate to get married. She also planted herself on my bed when I showed her my room for the first time. What the heck is she trying to tell me? Is she trying to get me to like her? Or is she trying to become better friends than our current good friendship? Please help!!! I see her tomorrow!
211406
Sounds like she is interested in you but wanted to see how much your future plans mesh with hers.  Why don't you just ask her out, if you are interested.  Sounds like that is what she is hoping for.
108989
She's BRAGGING. But I think she has some interest in you or else she would not tell everyone about it. So why not talk to her about it. Confront her and see what she says. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, right?\nGood Luck.
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How old is the girl...perhaps she feels she is not ready for more...\n\nI sugguest that if you are both of legal age then you sit her down and talk to her, lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in relationship breakdowns...maybe she is just waiting for you to make the move...perhaps she thinks your not ready yet...or maybe she believes no sex before marriage...\n\nit could be a wide range of things...talk to her....
160250
Wow, this sounds familiar.  I have a guy friend like that who's a five hour plane ride away from me.  She's probably thinking the same thing you are.  She trusts you and likes you and wants more from the relationship, but she's afraid of ruining what she already has with you.  Which as she's told you, is very special to her.  If you really think it's a good idea and you guys can work it out to be together, talk to her about it.  She probably wants to be with you too but doesn't want to pressure you.  If not, always be a good friend to her and maybe there will come a time and place where everything will just click.  Good luck!  I hope it works out!
417499
Hey, I am Jennifer. I was reading over ur qustion, It seems that she is a play by play...I dont know but if i was u i wouldent date her anymore or see her. For me to say I think u sound like  nice guy and u need better. For what i am trying to say is that she tells u to trust her, how could u ever trust anyone that spends the night with anotheir man..thats not right, if u ask me....If she really cared for u she would be with u and not anotheir man. It sounds like she is sorta a good person and all but i think u so need better then her, she is nothing. I'm sry i hope i dont upset you. But what ever happens good luck. But if u would like to talk just im me it is kikikinky321.. bye for now
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Your screen name suits you perfectly.  If you just want to get laid, go for it.  I have seen this situation plenty of time to know that she doesn't love you.  She likes having you there to cry on.  She needs some love and affection, and you happen to be there.  If it wasn't you it would just be someone else.  What do you think would happen if your friend found out you guys hooked up, and then he decided to get back with her?  What would she do?  She would probably dump you in a second and get back with your friend.  If you think this would happen, then realize that she is only  using you.  Therefore, if she is using you for comfort, it is fair to use her for sex, but don't get your heart all involved.  Just do it and have fun.  She isn't really a girl you want to date seriously if this is how she normally acts.  Keep her around until you find a good one.
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Be her friend. Sounds like she needs one. Stop asking her for her hand in marriage. I am not trying to sound mean. But it sounds like she has had a few bad experiences with men. Just be there for her and be a good freind. Let her know that you are there for her. Don't push her into anything that will just push her further away from you.
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I THINK THIS YOUNG LADY IS PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU\nI UNDERSTAND THAT BOTH 0F YOU HAVE THINGS GOING\nON IN YOUR LIFE.BUT TI SOUND LIKE SHE NOT REALLY\nTHE ONE FOR YOU. ALSO THE FACT THAT SHE 24 ,MAY\nHAVE SOMETHIING TO DO  WITH WHAT GOING ON WITH\nHER. ALSO SHE MAY HAVE SOMEONE ELSE IN THE PICTURE\nAS WELL.
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She could have been mad at you but didn't want to tell you (yeah, I know it just makes things difficult but I know I've done it before) if she just doesn't want to hang out. If she just stopped talking to you all together, her religion may prohibit contact like hugging with the opposite sex. She also could have mentioned that her mom didn't want you hanging out but you missed it. I'll be honest. I usually expect people to get what I said the first time so she may have just given up.
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Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.
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It is always tempting to believe all that you read in a nother person's letters. But to be honest with you, and I am a woman of experience, so I know, many girls enjoy the power of toying with a man's emotions.\nYou wrote:\nAnd adviced me that all american girls are like this \nThis is not true, through there are many. This girl may indeed be very shy but I sincerely doubt it. She asks you to come to America to meet with her because she knows you can't afford the money, or time away from your studies. It is a safe request she can make to "prove" she cares about you and makes you look as if you don't care for her as much as she cares for you.\nIf she really cares for you, she would be trying to help find enough money to help pay for your flight over and back. Has she offered? \nYou wrote:\nAnd also she says that she never had a boy friend in her life because she was afraid to confront a boy Face to Face  Could this really Happen ins a country like America?\n Yes, sadly we as a culture, grant status and love to the more attractive people. Those with less than perfect looks are often left to lonliness. She may be afraid of rejection. \n  Why not test her? Tell her you may have found a way to get the money. Ask her to set a date for your arrival. If she's overjoyed, she's sincere but if she makes a lot of excuses and refuses to set a firm date, then she's playing with you. You can explain later that you were unable to raise the money.\n\nIt is my advice that you find a girl closer to home. Long distance romances are painful and almost never work out.
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maybe she has some issues in her past relationships. if she's comfortable enough around you she will tell you, just be patient. Sometimes its not good to assume, it should come from her.
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I think she is testing you to see what you will do. Sometimes girls play hard to get and thats sometimes their way of doing it. Ask her again. Tell her you can't stop thinking about her and that you really like her and you would like to your friendship to a new level like dating.
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If she said that she don't want to get involved with anyone for a while, then that's somewhat a good thing. She NEVER told you YES (NOR) did she tell you (NO)! That mean's there's still hope in the future. Maybe she is trying to she if your a patient guy, one who would be true to her, and willing to wait and prove it! Go out together (as friends) and get her to like and admire you more. Good Luck.
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Girls are big players in love!  I should know, I'm a girl!  But she could just be confused with her feelings and doesn't know what to do so she's testing the waters!  It sounds like she really likes you though because as you say you talk for hours and friends who only care for each other do that!  It sounds like you should be together and give it a go!  It doesn't hurt to try right?  Imagine what it would be like not to see or talk to each other - it's hell!
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Give it one more try Ali...it sounds like she is stringing you along or setting you up as a back up plan.  If she responds the same, then just agree, "good idea, lets just be friends" smile and walk away.
590444
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.