I want a bf but the guys that i like are taken or they are mor popular than myself and i feel that they are better than me but i know that they aren't.... what to do???????
205507
Listen to me and I will say this with no doubt in my mind, there is always going to be people that are better than you, thats just life. The thing that makes you better than them though is accepting the fact there is no number one beautiful girl, or gorgeous guy, it is whatever you make it. One of your problems is exactly that when you start realizing your fighting a battle none of us can ever win and I mean nobody, you will calm down with that a little bit, your perfect in your own way, everyone is. \n\n As far as a boyfriend you will definetley find one but dont just settle with the first guy that asks you, you have the right to look around. The best thing to do is to force small talk, even if your not popular who cares! Those are highschool BS stereotypes and I know you say its different when your there, but I have been there. Talk to people be sociable, but most importantly dont change anything about you. As a matter of fact the chances are there is a certain someone that may like you and you just dont know it yet. Keep your head up. It will come.
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Set your goals in a more appropriate order.  Guys are fun.  Focus on having guy friends first and try hard to not put any expectations beyond that.  You'll find that guys love to have girls to pal around with.  As this works for you, you'll learn to lighten up and not put so much emphasis (and your self esteem) on having a guy like you.  You'll have guys like you - certainly as a friend at first.
144192
Don't worry yourself about it.  Your turn will come and the "pretty" girls will fade out.  As long as you have confidence in yourself, you should just be happy with that and not so focused on having a bf.
588281
HI May be you are trying to hard.and being funny all the time they may think you are just one of the boys. and if you are a dare devil. it may put them off. try being more like a girl than a tomboy.and don't be in to much of a rush to get a bf. i bet if you just in-joy yourself with your girlfriends that special  boy will come along.best wishes sammylee,
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It's probably that the guys you hang out with consider you "one of the lads" You've been freinds with them so you're more like a sister to them than girlfriend material. \n\nYou should get to know some guys that you're not already friends with and be flirty and maybe a little bit girly too. Some guy will ask you on a date I'm sure.
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try looking at the positive then negative traits of the guys, chances r you know non of them well enough when they fail to impress you initially. & if that doesn't help then look elsewhere, get involved in new activity to make new friends. Lower your expectation a little to give more space to possible chances.
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maybe some things have happened it your past that make u feel u are not worthy of being happy and giving a guy a chance, you probably havent met the guy that you want to fully be with...it's a click that you feel almost immediately...keep being honest & kind....the right guy will come along and you DO deserve him......
556158
Well if you want a date i suggest you one thing. Go and look for some other guy and go for a date with him. Let the guys in your group get jealous of you and realise that you're a gal and you've your feelings too. If they realise its well and good, if not at least you're with some other guy. Even if you're not dating anyother guy just pretend it for a while to them and be excited. Praise this imaginary guy b4 them. Create jealosy. Show some attitude. Be hard to get. Trust me you'll date anyone soon.
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You can feel alone even when you are with someone. More than likely you are more mature than the guys you have been running into and have more of an intellect. When the right guy comes along he will notice you. Besides you may find if you go out with some of these guys you mentioned, that they are very shallow and have no real personality. You don't really want to have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. I would not let not having a boyfriend bother you. In fact, I would use the time you spend by yourself to allow you to become more independent. This may sound corny, but if you can be a friend to yourself and be happy being by yourself when the right guy comes along, he will see your self-confidence and that you know who you are on the inside, and your relationship with that special guy will last for a lifetime. When you run into that special guy on your journey through life, trust me, you will sparkle.
80615
Just be yourself!! That works for me. If you've already tried that, go on to another guy. If they can't like you for who you are you don't need them, girlfriend!!
26096
If you KNOW that you don't need to be with these guys, then when you meet them you need to not let it go any farther.  I know it is hard when you are attracted to them, but in the long run it is better to not put yourself through the same thing over and over again.  I know it is hard being single for a long time, I'm in the same boat, but in the end it is better than getting your heart broken over and over again by guys that you know are going to do it.  Just hang out with your single friends, enjoy being 18 and having fun, and the right person will come along eventually (going out with nothing but couples will end up making you feel worse and like a huge third wheel, trust me on that one).  Good luck, let me know how things go, and email me if you have any more problems, greeneyeddevl@yahoo.com.
475691
Go out with the one you like best.  The rest doesn't matter.  Popularity, as I have said before, is overrated.  Follow your heart and it will lead you on the right path.
245932
This is a reality "WAKE UP CALL" : You do not need a man to validate whom you are, because if you do, then you really do not know whom you are at all. This is a trying and difficult situation, to feel lonely, but this too shall pass. First thing is to be selective about the guy you are interested in, don't just go for the hard body with the great face and bad boy attitude{ these guys are good in the sack and little else}, try to find a guy you have a bit in common with, this will make you happier in the long run. The kindest thing you can for yourself is to not be so desperate, it is like blood in the water, you do not want to cause a feeding frenzy among the sharks and you my dear are the bait.
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Be honest with him. Let him know that you appreciate and are flattered by him wanting to be your bf however, I like you only as a friend and nothing more.  We could be friends if you would like??  This way the damage is minimal and you let him know that you appreciate his offer.
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I think that these boys were not your friend to begin with and just wanted to leer over your body(you must be gorgeous). You don't need them! Hold your head high and go and find some good friends who like you the way you are. You deserve better than people who judge with looks.Pretty soon you ll get your confidence back and will show those boys up. YOU GO GIRL!!!
510919
nice....sweet...intelligent...and good looking?  sounds good to me..dont worry about wont be long before the guys come flocking......btw you do seem kinda full of yourself though....might want to work on it.....the whole "i have a LOT of friends" thing made you seem a little too into being popular....
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no u might just be more picky then her and waiting for the right guy. there is no reason to just accept who ever because u feel like u are lacking a boyfriend. wait for the right guy he will come along.