My boyfriend and I keep breaking up for no good reason. I think he just gets scared or something. This last time He said he thought we needed to break up but when I asked him why he said he didn't know. Then he said we should take a month apart and not see eachother or talk and try to figure things out I said ok. After two days he says he doesn't think it's necessary to not talk or see each other, but I think he misses me but if I don't make him go through with the month apart we might be in this same pattern forever. What should I do?
200163
Get rid of him.  He'll never know what he wants.  As long as you let him mess you around like this, he'll continue doing it.
329457
Honey you are in a dysfunctional relationship and it is time to fish or cut bait. This is not love and you and he will only suffer if you stay together. Most people are so afraid to be alone that they will stay in a bad relationship until it ruins both of your lives. Make clean break and spend at least 6 months and get to know yourself again. My question for you is when was it you decided you weren't worth of better treatment. If he doesn't worship the ground you walk on then it's see ya, wouldn't want to be ya..........
463959
wow...that's an age difference.  none the less, sounds like she may be afraid of commitment.  But from the sounds of it, you guys never truly split up.  She calls you all the time, you guys do things, that doesn't sound like a normal broke up couple.  Normally they're at each other's throats or just totally avoiding each other.  From the sounds of it, you guys are going to be just fine. Good Luck and hang in there...it'll get better
107905
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
129061
Try calling him and asking him what's up with the two of you. If he continues to ignore you, just break up with him and move on. He can't be so busy that he can't even talk to you for a month.\n\nIf he really loved you, he'd make some time for you.
313963
Yes, you need to give him some distance . Maybe you need some time to think about your relationship with him. You don't want to be stuck in a relationship that is never going to go anywhere. IF you give him space,and if he really loves you than he will try to make things better the second time around.
162564
You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
183978
if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
357985
No relationship can survive if there is no communication. So now you have his attention and he knows how you feel and you know how he feels, this isn't such a bad thing. Swallow your pride and keep the communication going. In the future telling your boyfriend what you need out of the relationship is not being over emotional but should not require breaking up to get his attention. Relationships are a give and take sittuation and that is the only way they'll work. Give it another chance but make sure to have a heart to heart conversation once in a while before you get to the breaking up point.
638113
I would see where things lead. And if it end up that you two break up for awhile it will be okay. I am going through a break-up right now. My ex did it because he needed time to himself to figure himself out, that sort of thing. He still loves me.\n\nMove on with your life. Moving on doesn't mean that you don't still love him or that you might not get back together one day, it just means that you're moving on. You can't waste your life waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want.\n\nI wish you the best and remember if you're supposed to be with him you will be.
156514
If he's worth it, do it. My boyfriend lives 3 hours away from me and we're only able to see eachother once a month (maybe twice). If I didn't like him as much as I do, it wouldn't be worth it. I won't lie, it's hard. But I feel like our relationship is strong enough to get through the times we can't see each other. It also depends on how old you are. If you're too young to be able to drive yourselves to see each other, it's probably not the best idea since it'll make it harder. But if you really like this guy and you think it's worth having someone 3 hours away, rather than 3 minutes, do it. Sometimes long distance relationships help you to get to know each other better. When you're not together, you can only talk to each other. You don't have the physical stuff (even if that stuff is fun) to distract you. You have this opportunity to get to know each other very well.
356160
Dear, i think it will be good for you to stay apart for a while. Until you are ready to see him as a real friend. Because, if he was telling the others that he is not going out with you, even before telling you, i think that is very rude, and it shows that he is not interested in going out with you as a gf. Buttt the good news is that there are more fish in the sea, move on, i guarantee that u will forget him after a few months. Why would you like to stay with a person who doesnt love u anymore? Is it worth? Is that what you deserve? NO.\nGod bless u dear!
618220
you should just tell him that you need some time to think about the way things are going. take a break from the relationship. maybe after you leave him for a lil bit,  you'll start missing him, and that may get your ex out for good. and if you say there's no chance with you and your ex, then it's better for you to look for a way to just forget about him, that's only gonna hold you back.
86155
Sounds like you guys may not be though. Either way,if you only see each other once in three months,it doesn't sound like much of a relationship. Try to call it off.\nIf he doesn't call you then he doesn't care about you,period. Do yourself a favor and move on.\nPlenty more guys out there... \nYou can IM me for some if you want...
223639
I Have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 years, we argue all the time. if this happen to us i would be pissed like you. if you guys do not live together i would not call him, let him call you. he is the one who needs to say sorry for leaving you. but if you live together then you should go home and do not talk to him for a little bit and then sit down and talk about what happen. i would not forgive him, it was wrong for him to leave you. but if you want it to last you have to tell him how you feel.
387238
Give him some time you have hurt him and his pride right now won't let him talk to you. He's hurt and mad and needs a little time to deal with it. That's what goes on sometimes in break ups so give him some space. You're both better off if things weren't right in the relationship and you weren't happy just takes some time to heal before you might be able to be friends. Best of luck.
291147
im sorry\nthe same thing happened to me w/my x. He would move out anywhere from couple days - month. \nwell eventually i had enough we are not together. \nleaving for while wil not solve any problems at all either.\nwell good  luck to you i hope things work out for you!!!