i have dated enough guys to know(i know u cant no for sure), his really sweet, the kissing is ok!but how do i no he just doesnt want sex,i really would love to be with him... marriege????we have been seeing each other for 2,3 months, belive me i want to do him
202352
My advice to you is to ask him, think of it this way, you don't want to marry him later and find out that he just wants sex later.
615854
This guy sounds like a jerk and yes he will use you and then dump you. If he does not love you enough to respect your wishes you need to get rid of him. I'm very proud to see someone who waits til they are married to have sex. You Go Girl!! I know it must be hard because you love him but you will find someone who respects you and your values. Don't let this man pressure you into something you don't want to do.
174302
well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
124870
He might just have some respect for you and not want to rush into anything.  He might actually be romancing you, taking things slow, getting to know you, letting you get to know him, and developing an actual relationship before taking things to the next level.  You can't take sex back.  Sex changes things... you can't help it... it just does.  You could always ask him if there's any particular reason why he hasn't tried to go all the way in the bedroom and see what he says.  Also, since STD's are on the average 1 in every 5 people he could be a carrier and struggling with a way to tell you before enganging you in sex.  The best thing I can tell you to do is to just ask.  Wondering and guessing will drive you bonkers!
175212
I'd love for a guy to say this to me.  All the guys I have dated recently all want to get married, most of them aren't bother who to either!!!  When all I'd like is someone for a bit of sex a couple of times a week
39963
Tell him if he wants to have a relationship with you that he needs to respect the decison you made not to sleep with him right away...if he runs off or doesn't wanna date you then he doesn't care about you and just wants one thing and you can find someone better who cares about you and not whats in your pants..good luck
418057
Ask him why hes with you and if he can go witout sex with you for a little bit soemtimes when your together and concentrate on doing things together and spending quality time together and making things better.  If he doesn't think he can go without sex then he might just want you for sex and move on.
598317
If he is truly respecting you then God bless him !\nIf he is not ready to tell you if something is wrong then he is afraid of losing you .or not sure that he just loves you and not someone else also .\nOr maybe he feels 3 months is not long enough to know some one be for having sex , again God bless him . Just because you have had sex be for doesn't  mean you have sex with the next one sooner .or at all, till marriage .\nHope this helps you , be patient ,it will all be clear in time .\nLove not Lust
147831
wait until you are married. i know it sounds square but it saves u from a lot of pain. I wish i did. At least then u know that he is 100% commited to u and not using u. This might seem to hard but trust me life gets a lot harder if u dont. Do u want an std, a baby(i had one at 20 and when ur on ur own it doesnt matter how old u r its hard), a bad reputation or a broken heart? Hope u make the right choice sweetie. God Bless
96483
It's been 5mos. and you must have forgotten why you broke up with him in the first place.  I think if you read your question over especially the part about him wanting to hang out and have SEX, you could really determine yourself whether he, after 5mos., really loves and misses you or ain't having that much luck elsewhere.  Sex will make the feelings you still have for him arise but then what after that?
471744
You are entitled to withhold sex whenever you want.  I think, however that Love is not demonstrated just in sex.  Does he do other things that make you feel like he loves you, does he care about your well-being?  about your interest? does he treat you with respect and affection?  If he loves you he would not want to hurt you and confuse you.  If it was me, I would stop having sex, and would start simply dating.  I just want to say that you want a guy who is certain that he wants you and wants to work on the entire relationship not just sex.
612652
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
456241
u have to tell him how you feel. If you want to be more to him than a piece of azz then you need to let him know that you have feelings for him and you want to knw if you and him can try to make something more out of this relationship.. Right now you are Convenient to him. Because he can have sex with you whenever he wants and flirts around and date other chicks at his own free will and know that you will still be there to give him some whenever he wants it. \n\nYou have to let him know that you have feelings for him and that you think that he is a great guy and you want more from him and you want to give him more. If he says that he does not want a relationship right now or some other bull shi* excuse men come up with then you tell him okay. You remain his friend but if he ever asks for sex you let him know that you an him are friends and that you dont have sex with your friends.
392834
What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
178420
Only you know if you are really ready, and the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that you aren't. Sex can be wondeful, but if you have to guess if he is going to stick around, makes me think that perhaps you are not ready for the emotional consequences that could result in this encounter. If he really wants to be with you he will wait. If he doesn't then you know your answer.
620474
Just chill on the sex. It will happen. If he wants to respect you and not sleep with you, then just wait and when it happens, it will be great. Guys do grow up and get to an age that they don't want to talk about it all the time. But it does concern me that he is getting oral sex from you but not giving maybe? that means to me that he is playing a game.
449564
i would ask him what he really wants because i can already tell your not just in it for the sex. if he doesn't want to be with you i'd stop the sex because your just gonna keep getting more attatched good luck :)