An American in his 30s, living in Japan with his Turkish wife.
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Do you have earned income?  Are you filing your tax return in the states?  If so, you might still qualify to open and contribute to traditional IRA or ROTH IRA.  If you're self-employed, you might be qualified to open a SEP IRA where the maximum contribution limit is 42,000 or 100% of income.\n\nDefinitely do save/invest in addition to IRA limit for a secure retirement.
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Living in the US and being a US citizen either by birth or naturalized.
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Hi dak.  If marriage is out of question for now, then I would still suggest the student visa (F-1).  This is especially relevant if you guys are planning to attend college in US.  From experience, it shouldn’t be that hard to obtain a F-1 for Japanese citizens.  \n\nFirst, figure out which college you/him want to attend, then research their policy on international students.  Most colleges welcome international students (out-of-state tuition).  So if your boyfriend has relatively decent grades, speaks decent English (to pass TOEFL exam), and can get decent SAT scores (optional if you/him want to attend community colleges), all he has to do is apply for the college and as them to issue an I-20 (it’s like an “invitation” or “authorization” to attend that particular school).  Once the school sends and he receives the I-20, take it to the US Embassy/Consulate in Japan to apply for an F-1 visa.  The visa should be valid for several years.  \n\nJust remember that your boyfriend will need to show that he has some financial support (i.e. enough money for him to pay tuition and live in US).  Also, he has to establish that he has ties in Japan and intends to return upon completion of education.   Do not mention anything about having an U.S. citizen girlfriend, because immigration intent is ground for denying visa.  (This is not lying, because you have no plans to marry him yet.)  \n\nGood luck and “kanbade”!!
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I think he should stay in Australia or take his family back to the United States with him.  Living in separate countries is not a good idea.  Money isn't everything.  As a matter of fact, money is nothing compared to a happy, healthy family.
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They split a few years back and, if I'm not mistaken, she returned to Bahrain. He was discharged from the Marine Corps and is still living in Cali.
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It's a country off the Asian coast.
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he went to japan and his now married to sable...
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He stands in Turkey by the sound of it...and i bet he,s having a good old time while he,s there too.....Marmaris by any chance.?
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He is also a fiancee.
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Well I'm American and my husband is Greek - he was born here but his family is a bit crazy.  They yell about everything, they go through months of not talking and then suddenly they're lovely dovey.  My family is very normal, very quiet and we just get along.  His family is also huge and every gathering is a big affair.  I find them all very overwhelming!!  We've been married a year and together for 3 - but my husband himself is great!  :)
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LMAO . I saw it.  Many of them live a dual life .. . Hate America, but Want to Live Here. Makes about as much sense as the rest of their views.
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marry a rich old dude
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My dad was stationed at Schofield and I loved living there. There are many issues you will need to consider. First off the cost of living is pretty high. Everything costs more and I mean EVERYTHING. There are lots of jobs but you are going to get crackin' right now on finding employers that will work. There are a several civilian companies that do lots of work with the military and hire many people such as yourself. If you check out monster, hotjobs, etc you should see some open jobs at Hickham and Pearl Harbor. That would be a good place to start. Since your wife is from Hawaii she can prepare you for the culture shock.
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I guess you are in a classic Kabuashi maru(a no win senario) I am taking that your working over seas in a domestic capacity, being conservative, and having the portential to have this mar the family and hometown you are from an Asian nation or from an Asian culture. If so, I am sure you were quite aware of the risk even if you take way all religious elements out of it. \n\nYou say you love you husband, but by your actions you are not IN LOVE with your husband. that love has moved elsewhere. This situation is basically like having them both on a burning bridge and you can only save one. Who are you going to save? who was the 1st to come to your mind that you would want to try to save 1st? that man is the man you really love. The man who is your lover, did he know you were married? Did he make the 1st move towards being lovers or you? If he made the 1st move, he was letting you know he didn't care or respect your husband or your marriage. He was thinking of him. And if he made the 1st move and you accepted you did the same to your husband. You had dishonored him and disrespected him by living a lie with him where he thought he was the only one of your life. Seeing that you are not fearful or seem anxious to go back you your birth country if it means being stuck there, I take it your children there are not small or grown adults. Is the reason you want to be able to get back to the work country is because of the children there, or him? \n\nThe mistake has been made. they say hind sight is always 20/20. You can not unring the bell just control how loud and long the ring will be. If your desire is to be in the work country with the man you are in love with as oppose to just loving then say nothing and hope that you can return. Or better yet, just tell everyone what has happend and that you can not come for fear you will be seperated from your new family. Eventually the carcase always washes up on the shore. If you are back home and an emergency happens with one of the new kids that need your attention immediatly how would THAT look? Each lie takes 10 more to support it. After a time there is too much weight and it all comes crashing down. If you have any respect for your husband tell him. Why have him waiting for you if you no longer want to be with him? And if you are not planning to live back at home with your husband why care what family would say or the town? You have clearly shown that you want to be with him more than any bad thinking on the part of others.
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I had to smile when I read your story.  I have been chatting online for some years now and I have met a lot of turkish men from my experience, they start out very nice and always end up with sex as their main conversation.  In one program I use, I read a lot of profiles and in the profiles, there are a lot of women who pleaded for turkish or any other people from the arab countries not to contact them or show them pictures of their private part.  I went to turkey last year and I saw that there are a lot more men that women there.  At night, when you look at the people hanging out at the parks (all night), they are all men sitting around smoking cigarettes one after the other and it seems they don't have a wife or family to go home to.  I found, however, that the ones who are more open with sexual conversations are from the larger cities like Istanbul, Ankara, Ismir and such.  The others who are in the more religious areas like Trabzon, Rize, etc. are not like that.  Personally, I think because they know that America is more open minded with sex, they feel that is all we want to talk about.  They see all the videos there with half dressed girls and all.  They look at a lot of American music videos.  Well, you can tell him you really like the person he is, but you would prefer not to have sexual conversations.  Also, when he tells you that he loves you, it is not love, it is only that he want to let you think that so he can come to America.  I say this because I see it happened over and over again.  I am not saying every person there would do that, but the majority would.  If he is really a sweet person as you said, he will respect you and drop the subject, but if not, then you need to let him go his way if it bothers you that much.
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First of all if he did not divorce her before he married you...yours is not a legal marriage. The USA recognizes marriages in another country. Secondly, he entered into an illegal marriage with you for citizenship.\nThis poor man just seems to have trouble finding his niche in life. Tell him to stand up if he wants to be your husband or go to see Immigration and see to it that he gets to go home to India. Don't worry there are many men who want a nice woman.
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My friend's wife is from Colombia.  They met while they were studying at an American university, and when he returned to Japan, she followed him.  They eventually got married, but she had a real difficult time for the first year or so because she spoke no Japanese.  Now, after having been in Japan for ten years, she says she loves it here and never want to move to another country, including her home country.  I think Lations and Japanese share some of the same values, like importance of family, so it might be easy to assimiliate in that regards.