I am a very good person,i am a straight A student,i do all my chores but i have been through alot in my life.I have parents that r divorced a father who never calls ,and his wife always fights with him ,i didn't make cheerleading and was 1 point behind the other girl.My mother says it is to make me a stronger person,because the big man upstairs knows how gifted i am and want me to grow up to be whatever i want an dto be able to reach my high standards because i expect alot from myself.My b/f and i also broke up and he won't be my friend.
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God doesn't put you through these trials, honey.  God loves you much more than you could ever imagine.  God has given each of us free will, the will to choose what to do, say, etcetera.  He gave it to us out of His love for us, and He will never take that away.  However, because we each have free will, we make decisions to do and say things that hurt others.  Your boyfriend breaking up with you and not wanting your friendship is his decision, not God's.  God doesn't like to see His children hurt and in pain.  But because of free will, we do get hurt.  Suffering is caused by others, not by God.  Like I said, He loves you much more than that.  He cares about who you are, what you want to be, how you feel.  I come from a harsh background myself: my father was a raging drunk and an alcoholic who physically and verbally abused me when I was growing up.  My friends laughed at me when I tried to tell them; they didn't think my dad was capable of such things.  My parents divorced when I was seven, and my mom lived half an hour away.  I rarely saw her.  I felt I had nowhere to turn, noone to turn to for comfort.  So, at sixteen, I took seventeen prescription pills in an attempt to kill myself.  I felt I could no longer live with the tears and the bruises and a shattered heart.  Luckily, my mother found me and I spent three days in the hospital.  During those days, I came to know God in a very real way.  He showed me that He loves me, and cares about me.  I couldn't describe how wonderful that felt.  All my life I felt unloved and unwanted, yet all along, the God of the universe loved me beyond my comprehension, and wants to know me.  He allowed my suffering to happen, but it wasn't because He wanted me to suffer and hurt.  It was because my suffering was at the hands of my father, who chose to drink, chose to hurt me.  God loves you beyond your wildest dreams, honey.  He would never intentionally put you through anything that would cause you to hurt.  It happens because of other people, not because of God.  I hope this helps; I know it's kind of long.
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I have a lifelong challenge for you, and if you succeed at it, you will be much more likely to have a happy life:  learn to love yourself the way you are, and focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses.  Other people will value you as much as you value yourself.  Your height (whatever it winds up being) is part of what you are, so it is something that you must learn to accept, and even to love, just as someone else will someday.
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i am my own hero....i have been through hell with my exhusband and made it through...because of that experience i know i can always count on myself, i never lie to myself, i will always watch out for myself, i can always depend on ME....i will never let myself down...i don't have to question these things like one might do in all their other relationships in their lives...i do have wonderful people in my life but believing and trusting in thyself is so important....
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I have that same problem he knows where I am and when I will be back he nextel's me constantly while I am trying to do my homework for college I can hardly do anything, my mother always said that if a man or woman acts like this it is because they are doing something they shouldn't be doing. I think about this all the time, because I constantly do everyghing in my life around his every whim and I am completly exhaused I have requested for us to go to counseling but he always says there's nothing wrong. It's a choice you have to make for yourself, is it really worth all of this drama to stay with someone you love?\nor do you walk away?
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I know exactly how you feel. It used to bother me a lot when I was a child. My older sister was a straight A student and my younger brother was a great athlete. I was the bratty middle child who had no self confidence and not a lot of friends. As I grew older though, I realized that I was stronger than my siblings because of my MCS. I was more independent, could spend time by myself and be happy, and it took a lot of hard work to find a career that I really loved. When I hit my stride, I made better grades than my sister, without trying as hard as she did, and I found my own athletic talent as a cross country runner. You have to look for the things that make you special. They do exist. It may take you longer to find them, but you will love them all the more for it. Think of it this way. If you hadn't gone through all of the things that you have, you wouldn't be the person you are today. This means a lot and you are special. I hope this helps you because as you grow older, it won't matter a bit about your being a middle child. You will probably be the link that keeps you and your siblings close to each other.
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I stayed with my dad until he died.  He wanted me to be safe and to take care of me and me of him.  So it worked out fine.  I was not ready to be independent and that was best for me to do in my situation.  I know other people may have looked down on me but that is their problem.  Just because I was not married or independent did not mean that I was stupid or crazy.  They did not and do not know me to judge me.  I did what I wanted and what was best for me.  Then I realized that as my dad got older and in worse health, that he needed me because he would have been all alone and could not be alone as his illness progressed.  One day he told me that he wanted me to stay and not to marry until he died.  That did make me feel good and useful and have a little more dignity when others would say things to me.  But all in all, I would not have changed a thing.  So you do what is best for you.  Your family is the most important thing, if they are good to you, so treasure them.  You will be out and on your own one day when you marry or find a boyfriend or go to college or move for other reasons.  So, do what is best for you. I think that you are lucky.  :)
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yes i do think that i come from a good family, because even though we have our bad days we accept who eacjother has become and is. i was raised in believing that even if i was the queen of the world or on top of the world, if i dont respect or treat others well, then i am not at all the best in the world. even if we live in a horrible world if i dont sell out my family members, or my friends, and i am the best i can be, then everything will work out. but you cant always get what you want but sometimes you can. helping others, and being kind and loving and not trying to hurt anyone intentionally, then i am the best. and i think that a good family is something that accepts everyone and pretty much everythng above. there is more stuff that i can write, but its more like a show or explain in person kind of thing.
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holy crap...you're lucky girl...don't let that one get away. he does those things because he wants to. i doubt he expects anything in return. his parents obviously raised him to be a gentleman which is wonderful! i wish my husband was like that.
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I don't think its all about you being a strong person. With love comes sacrifices and apparently your husband is not sacrificing for you if all he wants to do is work. He has to be willing to work on things from his standpoint also.
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hey man, i know what it can be like to have a mom and dad that aren't around for you to set examples for you in life. When i think about when i used to live with my mom and dad the only thing i think of is "what doesent kill you, makes you stronger" but ofcource everyone situation is different. my advice would be to talk to one of your close family members if you have one, if not, a school counselor and go from there. good luck in life man and keep kicking ass in school... its the key to success!
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You did not tell your age.  Why expect your parents to support you?   If you are an adult, and you chose to break up with your husband, stand up as an adult and deal with it.\n\nYes, it is stressful.  Life is stressful.  It's hard.  I know because I've been there and was left with no income and two small children to support. I worked hard, cried sometimes, and raised them alone. You can survive this if I did!  :o)\n\nChin up and all that!  Hang in there!  It will get better.\n\nSit down with a piece of paper and figure out what you want to do with your life.  Set some goals and write out what you need to do to achieve those goals.  Focus on reaching them.  \n\nYou can go to college on government grants for example.  Look into it.  See what local colleges are available and what you might want to study.\n\nLook in to technical schools.\n\nDo something with your life.  That is your choice.  Not your ex's and not your parents.\n\nBest Wishes,\nSue
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It sounds like more of a dependency....  I suggest you break up with each other because it's really not going anywhere.  If she knows you lack faith in her "abilities" and still continues to see you, she's definitely got some issues.  A woman with self esteem wouldn't let her man doubt her like.  She would expect him to support her and be proud of her.  It does sound like she needs to get a boost of something.  Perhaps it really is in her, but she is limiting herself.  Perhaps she will blossom if she is "on her own" for a while.  Finally, I offer this, any woman who can't live without a man, definitely has some problems.  I'd run if I were you, she's very insecure and needs to grow up a bit.  \n\nYou are too young to be stuck in a relationship like this, it is possible to care about her, and even love her, but not be in love with her.
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Don't worry! I've been through the same thing. Show that you can play. It'll pay off! If your better than them, why should they care?
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You are trying to make a man out of him and I believe that is all you are going to do :trying. Stay long enough in this relationship and he will have a momma to cry over the shoulders while you will inherit a grown boy to raise in order to become a man. I said it before and again : It does sound like an attack, it is a constructive criticism.
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i could not imagine what you are going through. i personally have never experience or been in that situation.i think you do not love yourself or feel worthy for someone to love you.that is very important no matter what family drama or life changes you have to go through you must always remember to love yourself.
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there is hope i am a 27 year single mom who until a year and a half ago was  raising two boys by myself .then i met and fell for a guy who is the best thing to happen to me and my boys.in the last year and half he has treated my boys better then their own father.sometimes these guys are harder to find then most but don't give up. and never let anyone say your children are baggage they are bonuses to any relationship.some guys are just not mature enough to realize it.
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Be strong.  It's not always your fault.  Don't be so hard on yourself.  You are a loving, generous person, and you have alot to offer.  You are involved with people with whom you are intersted in and, care deeply about and love.  You have thoughts, feelings and desires.  Look deeply within yourself for your answers.  Nothing is easy, and someimes there are no reasons, except that you tried and gave your all, and that what counts.  Don't ever give up but don't ever give-in either.