I want to have sex but, I don't feel like it.
214211
I don't know if this is a serious question, but I'll answer it seriously. \n\nFirst of all, I'm a little confused: You say you "want to have sex" but that you don't feel like it? Which is it? Is it that you feel you should want to have sex? \n\nYou don't mention your age. If you're older, menopause or childbirth could be the cause. Many women experience a loss of libido as they get older or after they have children. \n\nOther causes: \n\nDepression: When you're depressed, your sex drive usually decreases. Get treatment for the depression (therapy, medication) and your sex drive should get back to normal. But if you're feeling bad, it's normal not to feel particularly...frisky. \n\nAlso, if you're just feeling down on your appearance, this can depress your libido. Try exercising, just go for a brisk walk or run, or even dance around the room-- this should get your endorphins going, improve your mood, and get your heart rate up. Get dressed up to go out, take good care of yourself. The sexier you feel, the more interest you'll have in sex. \n\nAll in all, if this is a short-term problem, then just relax, take the pressure off of yourself. \n\n(Oh, and if you're a teenager, you don't want to have sex because you're not ready to have it. So don't.)
615157
As long as it is what you want and it is not being forced on you or causing you to have self esteem issues, go for it. Maybe because you are so independent in your life you like to be able to take a break and let someone else take control in the bedroom. Some people have a hard time handing over the control.
226798
feeling like having sex is a disease that can be cured with out a man. once you satisfy the so called thirst then the feeling would not arise soon. \n\nthe best method is masturbation . try it, and nowadays the gadgets are available in plenty.\n\nit needs no company, a little privacy and would satisfy you. \n\nor try avoiding the ffeling all together by working your heads off. \n\ni am speaking for the cause of a normal woman and not a nymph.
521026
Ok, this may shock you as I have different feelings about sex than you do but hear me out. Sex is not that big a deal. It is a natural thing that occurs everywhere all the time. Losing your virginity is NOT that big a deal either, it shows you the beginning to a world of natural instincts, however it has consequences so be careful from now on. Get it out the way (not from a young age mind you, I was 17 when I lost mine and that is a common age even though sometimes I feel the kids of today are starting to blossom earlier - I am going on now...). Nothing came from having unprotected sex did it? No babies on the way? No STD's or diseases? No? Then realise that you had a good time with no consquences of a physical nature and move on, not point dwelling on the past - you can't change it. Just learn from it. Don't be afraid to try new things either, its fun and you're not the first ever to try it ok.\n\nLife is not always that bad, not always great but not that bad either. Partying is always fun, but going to the extreme and partying all the time is bad for your health. I suggest you join a group or get a job (good luck with the interview by the way) and meet new people that way. Charity work is always rewarding and you meet new people too. As for your roomate, there are ways to live with people even if you don't like them. I work with guys I can't stand and as I am in the Army, its hard to get away from them, I learn to deal with it. It strengthens my character to be the bigger man and act like the mature adult I am rather than stoop to their lows. Just remember that there are others out there less fortunate than yourself and pick up your head. \n\nOn the God thing..... I am agnostic. If he exists, which in your case you believe he does, you must seek him, not the other way around. He won't come and say hey, pick your chin up and be better for it. You have to do it yourself, and thank Him for the realisation that the only thing you can do to help someone is to show them how to help themselves. \n\nSo remember, sex is great, join a social group, find a charity to work for or a paying job (school first though), live life with your head held high and proud, and look after yourself in a hard world. Good luck.
380496
Yes it is but you can talk to your doctor and the can help you with it if you want help. i am like you too i had a c section and i am not really that interested in sex too. Yourse is probably bc of the c section and the dramatic pregnancy. which is expected nothing wrong. But there is things to help you if you want help but totally up too you.\ngood luck too.
322868
sex is a sense of feeling. don't bother too much about it.
92347
It feels wonderful and it can bring you closer to someone if you are comfortable with them and you decide for yourself that you want to do it, however it can make you feel wretched if you are pressured to do it before you are ready or if you are with someone that you don't really care about.
142195
My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.
252846
Sex is so much more than the act itself.  You don't feel anything because you are just having sex to have sex...maybe because that is what you think you are supposed to do.  Sex becomes amazing when you are with someone you love who loves you back totally and wants to know what your desires and turn ons are and then together you can make sex good...great...fulfilling!!! This usually occurs in a marriage relationship where each person WANTS the other person to be completely satisfied.
196676
I would say that if you have sex right or shortly after meeting a man that it gives you a sex vibe and men begin to look at you in that way. \n\nThey begin to see you as an easy lay and not girlfriend material. Sort of like the Dentist....you go to the dentist and you experience pain, soon enough you're going to dread going to the dentist because you correlate pain with the dentist.  \n\nWhich could be why you're sensing something from him that made you come ask this question on yahoo.\n\nMy suggestion would be, if he's not feeling you (as anything more than a sex companion) let it go and start over with another man, sex free until you two have established a relationship.
334006
Why is that bad? It's natural that you would feel that way. If you want to hook up, go for it. Just make sure the guy understands you will be moving soon. Be honest about your feelings. Go and lean on someone, girl! We all need that from time to time.
168010
If you have these feelings after sex, it means you have emotional problems that need to be treated by a professional. Sex is a beautiful act that should be performed between people that love each other, and would never leave you "sick and empty." I hope you seek help because this reaction is not normal.
197308
If you feel you're not ready, don't let the feelings of 'loss' cloud the way you actually feel. If you're being pressured to have sex when you're not ready for it, and he's leaving you because he disrespects your choice, he's not ready for someone like you! It might hurt now...but if having sex with you is the ONLY reason he wants to be with you, sorry, dear girl, but there's probably someone out there who will treat you with at least the same respect that you have for yourself.
570816
I can, but I don't want to right now.\n\nCome back later, and maybe I'll feel like it.
632589
I dont think that you want to have sex with someone that SIMPLY wants to have sex with you.  Plus you dont want to be insulted and called fat.  You want what it is that you want, including someone that cares about you and wants to further something with you.  You can get sex anywhere.
383296
If your asking than your not ready.  Don't do anything.  Trust me, there is time enough later when your more comfortable with the idea and the responsibility that sex brings.
192519
my boyfriend tried to do it once, and i felt like i'm going to poo or something. yet there's this good feeling but i still don't like it that much.. really makes me feel sooooo uncomfortable