what do you do when you want to have sex and your boyfriend wants to have sex but wants to still wait till marriage?
206295
I completely understand your dilemma. I'm in it myself. The situation gets more complicated though when you ask "what is sex?" "Do we not want to do the things that resemble sex?" "Is it actual intercourse we're avoiding?" You need to know where the line needs to be drawn.\n\nI'm curious... how old are you two? If you're in your teens, I would say just hold off on everything. Most likely (not to be negative, but just realistic) you're not going to make it until marriage, and in the future, I guarantee that you will regret the decisions that you will make in this relationship if you are that young. However, if you're in your 20s and you two are seriously considering marriage, I would go back to the previous question - "Where do you want to draw the line?" Ask your bf that. Remember though, once small barriers are broken, in time bigger ones will fall. If you two are really trying to avoid sex, you need to avoid the steps that lead to it. It doesn't sound as fun, but waiting is also fun too - honestly - you just have to make it fun when it doesn't seem that way. It's an impressive thing to do.\n\nIn addition to all that, I also think it is extremely important to respect your bf's opinion. I think as a good girlfriend that should be the first concern of yours.\n\nGood luck!
168790
you got me confused,but I think I know what you mean. U wanna do it, but you have regrets (conscience). I personally think your too young, so wait on it. U mentioned you both respect each other and that makes the relationship reasonable. Why don't you both wait. Sex will always be there and in high school you can't turn the clock backwards to make things right.
671030
Girl, whats the problem? You said you wanted to wait until your marriage, then wait. Why the fuss about feeling sad for your boyfriend, most guys don't want you to wait for your marriage day, or is he just saying that to still get in your pants, so he can get you to think that he's the "perfect" boyfriend in the world, you know boys pull those kinds of tricks. Be that special person and wait, and its gonna be worth while, when you do get married, it is a blessing to be a virgin.
602408
Well if you guys keep having the same discussion and aren't resolving anything or are not willing to resolve anything than maybe it is time to part ways. Especially if they are things that are important to each of you and you are not willing to compromise. But if you can't grow from this than maybe you have reached the end of your relationship. \n\nBut if you want the relationship you two need to compromise. You are going to have intiatie sex more often or be willing to have sex. If you don't want to have sex think about why? Is it not pleasureable? Are you bored with it? If you are bored think of ways to spice it up. He'll have to compromise by trying to let you in on his thoughts. He needs to understand why he can't share or why he can't trust you with his thoughts? \n\nIf you are both truly willing to make your relationship work and compromise you can get over it. But if either or you don't want to than you need to end it.\n\nMy boyfriend of over two years had this issue about six months ago. It took of month of me growing up a bit and him to work out whatever issues he had and we are still together stronger than ever.
652994
It's better to wait until you are married and there are several reasons.  Besides the obvious: 1) protected from STDs (can't get them unless you're sexually active - although bear in mind if you engage in oral or anal you still may get one). 2) can't get pregnant without sex or IVF.\n\nThe reason I am choosing to wait is not just because of my moral convictions, but also because I only want to share this part of me with one person.  I don't see the need to let everyone in on my goods.  \n\nI see marriage as a lifetime commitment... a relationship is SOOO much more than just sex.  You'll spend most of your time running errands.  Marry the one you can't live without - your best friend.\n\nAnd remember when you say your vows... you essentially are saying, "I do you, you do me, and we don't do anybody else" (quote from Lakita Garth).\n\n'Cause really that's all you need... \n\nBesides, God's math... \n\nYou have two ears and one mouth - you should listen twice as much as you talk.\n\nMale, you have one member.\nAnd if you're female - you have one hole.\nYou do the math.
407788
The next time that he brings it up just tell him point blank you are not ready yet, and if he would just relax a little about it maybe you will feel more comfortable getting married in the future. Just be sure to let him know that you do not want to loose what the 2 of you have now.
218100
I think your fiance has a lot of issues that you guys need to work out before you get married. But hold out on him and he will initiate sex soon enough, trust me, you can hold out longer than him.
207652
If you want a baby, it is time to find someone who wants marriage and a family.  It is obvious that he only wants sex...he has no intention of committing.  Move on and find someone who loves you enough to want to marry you and have a family.
629981
He might want you to, and maybe even expect you to, but you are not obligated.  If you want to do it, then that's fine.\nBut if you wait to have sex until you are in a committed relationship, then it will be much easier.  You and your husband could talk about these things and know exactly what each other expects.  And you will probably want to do it if you love him and that's what he enjoys.
359009
Keep him waiting until he marries you!
574390
I think it is a matter of personal preference. When you  are in love it is hard to wait until marriage. I do think though that when you marry virginity is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse.
501098
well he is ready. sounds liek what my bf and i were liek not too long ago. (weve been sating for 2 years) always talked abotu having sex. i told him how i wasnt comfortable wih the idea yet and wasnt sure (we were both virgins) so i just told him that. he didnt bother me abotu to as much as he used to before. i knew he respected my decision. i eneded up waiting over 1 and a half years intot he realthionship till i felt liek i was comfortable wiht it and everything. you shoudl just tell him that you dont know if your ready yet and if he relaly loves you he will respect your decision and stick it out till you feel more ready. there are better ways to please a guy that just sex. you can always make him dinner or something =) good luck. just dont rush into things if you dont feel ready. i dont konw how old you are. but advise waiting till you are in a serious relationship to loose it or have sex.
620638
have you talked to him about your desire to be married one day?  he may be afraid of committment.  if a man can have sex with you, live with you, be fed by you, etc., then he's getting all the goods for nothing.  why marry when you can get it all without the committment?  don't know if that's your situation, but likely he's not thinking about it because he's getting all the benefits of being married without actually having to go all the way.\n\nby the way, if he's not interested that probably will not change anytime soon.  it may be time to move on if you truly want to be with someone who wants to marry you.  never force it.  that will come back to bite you in the butt sooner or later.
640562
depending on your beliefs. if you are very religious then waiting until after marriage would follow the belief system and keep you from being a sinner.  If that isnt a big deal if your life than it is whatever you and your partner decide.  be mature and responsible about it and have fun.
608424
Marriage is a serious issue. If you have question marks, then don't wait.\n\nIf it is the only way to be together, then it is your only option if yoy want to save your relationship.....Just make sure it is what you want.\n\nGood luck!! And congratulations.
580462
sex before marriage with anyone is considered to be a sin & possibly you don't want to be a sinner.if you are getting married than don't why you wait for sometime.the wait is really going to be worth it....\nGOOD LUCK!!!
589724
u shouldnt have sex until u r married anyways and u need to wait until ur comfortable with it