i feel so bad now because i cant get a date because i think all guys are the same and the only thing they want is sex.
211789
Not all guys want sex, I know that from experience. And I think you can get a date, but you are not allowing it to happen. Just relax about it. Go on dates, but don't commit yourself to a steady relationship unless you are positive that the guy isn't like your ex. And some men end up being right, some don't. Alot of times you gotta feel the hurt, before you can find happiness.
165255
Girl that's mostly all men and if u let them have sex with u they will leave that's just in case that's all their looking for but a lot of guys that's all they want and since u didn't give it up like he wanted u to he left cuz he didn't want to sit around and wait so it was GOOD that u didn't cuz right now u would be crying ur eyes out thinking "why did he leave"
362924
probably gotten to know you and not that its your fault but they don't see anything happening htere no feelings the same as how we feel sometimes you need a couple of dates to be sure and then bam you know this isn't going anywhere so why continue on .\n\nmaybe no chemistry , maybe yoru not a match in some ways there looking for . you just know it you feel it.
82557
There's likely nothing at all wrong with you. In fact, you sound very young...just the way you type. I wouldn't worry abotu finding a boyfriend. It'll happen. I haven't dated in a while and for right now that's the best thing for me. Take your time, examine your options, flirt, etc. Just have fun being young and NOT feeling the weight of a relationship. Above all, don't start going out with a guy you're not positive about just because you feel lonely or incomplete. That's not being true to yourself.
289588
I know.\nWhy?\nThey feel bad about themselves and make themselves feel better by going to someone nice.\nThey are just embarressed of themselves.\nThey know that they cant get someone so they go to a guy they can get and then they end up hurting you.
370118
I'm in the same boat as you... just use this time to re-center yourself.  Go out and just sit and have a beer by yourself.  Just sit and think.  A similar soul might approach you and share in your misery for a while.  Eventually, it will pass.  If you want a shortcut (which I'm not recommending); playing on a girl in a weak situation will make you feel powerful if a little guilty.  I am NOT advocating date rape of ANY SORT!  However, alot of guys are too nice for their own good and don't realize that a 24 year old woman is completely in control of her situation.  Smooth talking and being a player does not necessarily mean you are taking advantage of someone.  Girls like sex just as much as guys, and almost every girl worth her salt has some douchebag at home that they are on the rocks with.  In other words, go hook up with someone hot, by any means necessary short of physical force or breaking up a marriage.  It will boost your confidence in the short run, but don't forget the "re-centering your self" part.  It's the only way you will find true happiness.
245932
This is a reality "WAKE UP CALL" : You do not need a man to validate whom you are, because if you do, then you really do not know whom you are at all. This is a trying and difficult situation, to feel lonely, but this too shall pass. First thing is to be selective about the guy you are interested in, don't just go for the hard body with the great face and bad boy attitude{ these guys are good in the sack and little else}, try to find a guy you have a bit in common with, this will make you happier in the long run. The kindest thing you can for yourself is to not be so desperate, it is like blood in the water, you do not want to cause a feeding frenzy among the sharks and you my dear are the bait.
203118
I agree your situation is totally common, I am a freshman in a community college and it is common to feel like you are alone. Professional help is not a bad choice, I think. But I also think that you need to adjust your focus. School is very important and girls can always wait. I went through this recently, I was totally focused on the guys, I thought that I needed a guy to feel good about myself, but it isn't true. You can't expect anyone to accept who you are until you do!! You are a great person and you have many great qualities, but you can't show anyone that until you believe it yourself:) Think positive the sun will show again tomorrow and you get another chance at your life:)
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think what you would do.. you know guys and gales aren't that different... would you just come out and say to a guy that you really liked them.. im guessing no as you fear rejection, just the same with guys. \n\nThe only difference is that if a girl just want sex all they need to do is lower their standards and you are sure to find a guy that wants some...\n\nIf you are good looking then the guys will constantly think that you are out of their league...even though you are giving all the right signals.. and the fact that you are a virgin is something to be held until you find someone that you feel is right.. not something to give away to get someone... your first time is something that can effect how you think about sex so you want someone who... er lets say will be gentle as it is not like the movies... you need someone who cares enough to help you warm-up for the main event.\n\nI have been the guy side of what you described.. and found out that some girls that i thought were way out of my league (as i dont think im that hot) did actually like me and would have said yes if i had asked... as the guy side of it i just didnt want to stick my neck out to be shot down by a good looking girl and possibly lose a friend (good looking friends are a bonus as they make you feel good)... i know that sounds wrong and sexiest but you must admit if you;as a girl, have a good looking guy with you, you feel good.\n\ni think i can garentee that if you are good looking girl, you may have to be the one to stick your neck out... as i think the only guys that may actually have enough confidence to ask you will be people who do it alot, if you know what i mean... not someone you could stick with for a while... but you can judge that when they are standing in front of you.\n\nyou dont say how old you are but dont push it..... remeber just like i would find a "nice" girl at a club neither will find a guy... they dont really hang out there.. things like house parties are the best.. you generally know the people, you can be relaxed, you dont have to shout, can get TALKING with a guy and if it goes well you can stand a little closer, you can tell the signals from there.. do they back away or stay close...after a little getting closer you can use the old trick of quiet talking.. this means that you both have to lean in cheek to cheek etc... just dont make the mistake of giving IT away.. stay safe not drunk... \n\ngood luck!!!\nps:if you drink dont over doit and dont leave it unattended..... sorry i dont mean to sound like your dad..
106387
Been tru some crap myself.... people use you and just treat you like a sweet wrapper.... Dont bother going out with those girls anymore, they sound mean and sorry if its harsh but you need to get to know yourself. Know thyself and you will then know that you are better and worth more than a million of those girls..\nSpend time reading or journal writing or spirituality. Spend quality time with you, focus on a hobby... anything. By the way I am 25 and not some old granny trying to give you wholesome advice.\nI have been in this situ b4 so when I started telling my so called friends that I couldent go out or do that favor (for watever made up reason.. my dog is sick, I have an appointment, my car brokedown, ) I began to realise the reason I felt so bad about myself was because they manipulated me to feel just that in their own twisted way.\nAfter some time of spending time with you or people who only judge you by your standards you will see that you are worth so much more and have lovely qualities and attributes that are highlighted by those who love you. Thos girls bring out the worst in you. Dont give them that chance any more. It will take some time and you will get frustrated by lonliness but come on , dont suffer these fools gladly... Best of Luck xxxx
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Hon, what you have to do is search 'em out, and take matters into your own hands. BUT---once they have agreed to go on a date with you...remember to revert back to "you're the one who wants ME" role. At least until you get the results you're looking for.  Hope I was a little help to ya....good luck!:)
156070
I am not being rude or judging you, but maybe you should talk to a councilor. I am sorry to here of your lose, but remember you are not the one that passed on, you are a live and you shouldn't feel guilty about moving on. It will feel like that you are comparing, but if you hang in there you will find the things that you like about the new guy in your life. Hang in there and don't give up. Good luck.
221300
just start working on building back your friendships with those he wouldnt let you contact. concentrate on moving on. i know what its like to date someone who didnt treat you right and kind of left you humuliated that you ever let them get away with those things. as hard as it is, try not to dwell on it, keep doing the things that make you happy and most importantly when you feel ready to date again remember that not all guys are going to treat you like that. it would be so much easier if we could just go back and erase things like that  but since we cant all we can do is rebuild it all and get past it. hang in there :)
435469
You defenetly have the same problem as me... Just keep trying new girls that what im doin
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i sick and sexually unsatisfied person
672172
Maybe you ARE to good for them; I know, it doesn't make you feel any better... I've had guys say that too. I remember in my one of my Psych classes that guys fall for a girl right away and then there feelings tend to decline, whereas a it takes a girl a while to fall for guy but it usually steadily increases. Maybe that has something to do with it. I also think if guys want a sexual relationship and don't get what they want, they try to find someone else so they can.
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I am in the same boat as you, and I have the exact same feelings. I think that we have this problem because people around us are dating, and we're not so we feel left out. Just try to have fun with your friends, like I do. You'll stop wondering about your romantic future. Who knows...maybe you'll see him that night. Just make sure that isn't the only goals to your plan.