My partner likes me to play with his anus. He tells me he is not gay. He dosen't look gay to me in any way. All I see is a real MAN. Does this mean that he can be gay???
200979
No, of course it doesn't make him gay (as the first two answers cover)...\n\nBut what's a "Real MAN" anyway? And how does someone "look gay"? Aren't gay men real men?
502826
You look stylish, sexy. You are a young, healthy and attractive man.\n\nI am a gay man and I sometimes can't tell who is gay and who isn't.\n\nYou are very good looking. That does not make you gay.
357228
Yes, most people question their sexuality at one time or another. I myself have tried experimenting with guys a few times. I came to the conclusion that it is not for me, no harm, no foul. Don't come off as though you "love" her, jumping in with feelings like that will result in pain if it ends. Just get to know her for now. you'll find out if oyur gay or not eventually.
401993
You might be gay or bi, but it's hard to tell based on what you have said here. I don't think it means you're gay just because it's easier for you to get off when you're watching guys. It depends on more than just that. You need to grow up a little more before you can decide, I think.  Give yourself time to figure it all out, and don't worry about labeling yourself right now.
395062
You can have turmoil in any relationship, and it is not based on the person's sex but on their personality. As far as acting straight, I am often called straight acting but I am not, I am only acting as myself; this is just a label. In society, it is more difficult to be gay, but if you are attracted to the same sex it is not a switch that can be turned off. I believe that bisexuality is a valid sexuality; some people like vanilla milkshakes, some people like chocolate milkshakes, and some people like all milkshakes, but many who like both usually have a preference for one over the other. He is confused because he feels he has to make the choice to be labeled as straight or be labeled as gay and face discrimination; and to add to this is the stresses that the previous relationships involved.\nThe only thing to tell him is to think of it like this, gay is only a word that means a man attracted to another man. This attraction, however, is a very important part of who one is. You say he is attracted to men, but only say he misses the things that women do. If he is not truly attracted to women also, he is gay. He needs to accept himself for who he is and concentrate instead on finding someone that he can love who will love him back without any turmoil.
312924
Everybody's different, I don't personally know of any women who like it, only my gay male friends. I think that the anus should have a sign that says "Exit Only".  If you have a vagina you don't need to use an anus for intercourse.\n\nDoes your boyfriend have gay tendencies? Or is he just overly influenced by media suggesting that he put it there?\n\nI have heard stories of people ending up not being able to control their bowels because of muscle damage.\n\nIf you decide to try it make sure to have sexual lubricant on hand to reduce the pain.  KY jelly or generic brands work, and can be used for vaginal sex.  Don't use other types of lotions as they really aren't good for sexual activity.\n\nMost important, if you do do it, use a condom.  Diseases can easily be spread by anal intercourse.  Never go from anus to vagina as bacteria can be introduced that cause yeast and other diseases.
541526
I doubt that this means you are gay. However, it was theorized that people change their sexual preferences throughout their lives, based on a number of things - that on a scale of 0-10, no one is a 0, and no one is a 10. Everyone is attracted to different things, and maybe this is a side worth exploring.
61247
NEVER just stick your finger in a guys a hole just at a random moment.  And if you do stick a finger in it, LUBE IT A LOT.  Now if you reach behind and could stic a fist in, then that's another matter entirely.  Even if he liked it does not definitively mean he is gay.  Sexuality is learned, and so is butt hole play.
407621
If you like being with men, you aren't a lesbian.  People fantasize about all kinds of things during sex that might not necessarily turn them on outside of sex.  I'm a lesbian but I like to watch straight porn.  I think it really boils down to when you are having sex who are you having sex with.  If you're curious, try it out.  You could be disgusted by the thought because you are actually straight (I know I'm disgusted thinking about sex w/ guys in a normal situation - no offense guys!) but it also could be society's pressure on you to be "normal" or your desire to be normal in which case you could be bi.  But if you enjoy being in relationships with a guy and you enjoy sleeping with guys then you are probably straight or bi, definitely not a lesbian.  Sexuality is fluid and on a long continuum.  I think it makes it confusing to dichotomize it.  In my opinion it sounds like you're straight with kinky fantasies... that's all.
247329
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
525935
Anal sex can be very stimulating.  I've often enjoyed reading gay erotica just for that... In reality, however, most men are bigger than a dildo and if he's not careful and you're not properly lubricated, it can be painful.  I did it once and found it painful.  But I'd never inserted anything there before and he was rather well endowed.  If you've practiced "solo", it should go a lot easier and should be very pleasurable.  Have him stimulate the clitoris, or do it yourself, while he's in there.  I've enjoyed manual stimulation of the anus, so I'd probably try it again sometime.\n\nps.\nThere usually isn't any fecal matter in the rectum until you have to poop, so that shouldn't be an issue... and yes, I too do enjoy a good poop.  There's something rather erotic about it.
320776
i am attracted to both male and female bodies. it doesnt make you gay though. everyone has problems with their sexuality. it all depends on how you control it. some gay men think that since they like the way a man looks or is sexually attracted to them they should go gay. but if a very attractive woman came and did some thing i cant say to him then he would go right back to being straight. plus their is no problem with being attracted to your own body and the female assests. it just shows that you appreciate women and what we all have.
75754
I appreciate and admire the beauty of both the male and female bodies and though I have had intimate encounters with both genders, in all honesty, I do prefer men over women. Does this in turn make me bisexual or a man who is denying his true sexual orientation? Personally, I feel our need to categorize and pigeon-hole ourselves and each other is unnecessary and a complete waste of time. Just think of Bisexuality was a way of loving the best of both worlds.
51691
Men who like a.n.a.l sex are no different from women who like it. It doesn't mean they are GAY! Some guys won't let you try it for fear of being called gay. (This is so stupid) Actually, a.n.a.l penetration is the only way for a man's prostate to be stimulated during sex. This in turn will give him an orgasm that will blow his freakin' mind, even if he doesn't think so when you mention it to him. An open minded guy is SOOOOOO much fun in bed!! If you're going to stick a finger in, be sure to use LOTS OF LUBE, not spit cause it dries up too quickly. Don't be in a hurry, it takes a while for him to relax so that you don't hurt him and just the feel of your fingertip on his a.n.u.s will be exciting. When you get it in, just be very gentle and stroke real slow. After a while, he'll be begging for you to do it. Hahahaha.......
250489
No, it's not a bad thing sweetie.  I'm the same way.  If I see a cute girl, and she's in the locker room getting dressed or undressed I think about sex, but I'm not gay, and I like to be with men too.  You shouldn't be confused.  I stopped being confused a long time ago.  It's a visual thing, you're not gay, it's just a visual turn on..just like me.
562909
Yes, I can see you might be gay. Assuming it outright, might not be prudent here. I can appreciate as well how you feel about the guys with muscles popping, straining etc for top position. After all, fake or not, the idea of beating another down through, strength, skill and endurance can be seen as "HOT, HOT, HOT".!!
548522
If a man is feminine it does not necessarily make him gay. It is dangerous and inappropriate to label people without knowing the facts. Whether he is gay or straight is his business, and not that of everyone else. The fact  that he has never dated doesn't make him gay. It sounds like everyone else needs to mind their own business and quit making assumptions about things which do not concern them. \n\nIn regards to your friends assumptions, I suspect they know little about sexuality and what brings it about. This is a question that has been plaguing scientists for a very long time. As yet there is no answer, therefore whether it is a choice or not is irrelevant. My best advice is to let him come out in his own time, that is if he is gay.