I have been with my partner for 6 years and still no signs of marriage and children he cant even tell me he loves me am I crazy to be with him I love him to pieces why cant he feel the same
215897
If you love him, then you should be with him. Confront him with this. He might have just gotten used to the relationship. If he just nods you off, he is not serious about the relationship.
32094
It is going to be hard since the two of you are now apart.  Sounds like you are a little unsure about the stability of your relationship.  If you want things to slow down, tell him. Marriage is something that you take slowly to ensure the success of it. You don't want three years from now to end up in divorce... or cheating. take a deep breath and talk to him about the situation.  Maybe you will realize that the two of you are ready, or perhaps the two of you will make the mature decision to take things slowly!  6 months is not very long to be getting engaged!
73472
No I don't think your crazy your just feeling incomplete and love is such a strong word so if it is love that you are feeling and your not just taking those words for granted then I am sorry its gonna be hard to forget them love is a long lasting word but time will go by and trust me time does heal the pain but will never make you forget them your just gonna find someone else you love second best and except what has been givin to you.
305648
It sounds like you need to talk to your man. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him where do I stand in this relationship? Then come right out and say Do you still love me?
149579
Yeah... I know how this feels. If you think you truley love him then you should be care full and tell him in a time that you feel is right. And don't judge him by his past. I mean his kids could be great and just because he can't get over his ex dosen't mean that he still dosen't love you back. Good luck ^_^
206751
i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
207550
My dear.. The first thing to do is talk to him about how you feel when you are both relaxed and the problem is behind. Don't confront him immediately after what happened. You have to also assess how much you love him and how much he loves you. If you think the love is still there, then give it a chance and talk about what you like and what he likes and come to a compromize. However, if you feel that the love part is missing, then don't waste both of your times and put an end, it will only increase your agony. Unless, there are kids involved, this means a whole new strategy that you should consider them. If no kids, and no love, then separation is the best.
333295
I heard from a guy once that after 6 years if he didn't ask you to marry him he most likely never will.  Either because he does not believe in marriage or he just doesn't see it with you.  So if that is really what you want and you are over 26 yrs old you can either give him an ultimatum but you need to stick to it or just keep being his 'girlfriend'.  But if you stay with him make sure it's not because he just doesn't see it with you because he will leave when he finds the one he sees it with.  So make sure you take care of yourself 1st.
450922
it always feels empty and weird after a major break up. if you keep breaking up and its not even a year yet, you are clearly not suited. you need to break up and be strong, dont turn back. all heart breaks hurt but better now than down the track when you are married with kids. it sounds like it is first love for both of you. you have plenty more time to find a life long partner. someone that doesnt say sorry as much!
466180
How old are you guys? Maybe he's having a midlife crisis. 13 years is a long time. Don't throw in the towel if you feel there is still love in the relationship. One person can save the relationship even if the other person doesn't think it's what he wants. \n\nYou have to have faith in your relationship and find out what the issue is for him and show that you are willing to work on them. Go to counseling (see if your workplace offers anything employee assistance). Go to church more, get in tune with who you are and what you want. \n\nThe meds are a good start. But he won't see the changes for awhile so let them kick in and make a commitment to stay on them of they help you.\n\nI went through a similar situation and hubby and I restored our relationship. It can be done. He kept asking if we'd make it and I told him that people survived far more difficult obstacles.\n\nif you think it may be a midlife crisis try these sites..\nwww.midlifeclub.com\nwww.ojar.com
541142
I sincerely hope you aren't confusing toughness for indifference.  I was married to someone who didn't express his feelings.  We did stay together for six years, but knowing how I felt and how similar it is to what you are going through, I hope you aren't in store for a world of hurt.\n\nPlease talk to him openly and let him know your concerns.  You should definitely do this sooner than later - when it would hurt even more if it isn't what you want to hear.  \n\nI wish you all the best and hope everything works out for you.  Just remember that sometimes when we look back it's the unanswered prayers that we are grateful for...
132758
From what you are saying, it sounds like you may be all ready for a relationship, but he is not.\n\nThough, honestly, if you already have children with the guy and yet he is still not "ready" for a commitment - then you probably need to get rid of him. He is not for you. If he does not have the maturity to take responsibility in his life to care for his lady and his kids by at least becoming a legal husband and parent, then there is most likely some serious issue he needs to get over.\n\nI would recommend seeing a counseling psychologist, believe it or not. They really can help in these kinds of situations and will be able to offer some excellent, customised-for-you-and-him advice. That is probably the best route, if you cannot get anything out of him by sitting down and talking, seriously, directly with him. He needs to understand that not only do you want to be married, that you also feel that it is right to get married.\n\nSaying it's "too expensive" is a total cop-out, no questions about it. If two people really wished to (and, hey, when I marry I plan to do something along these lines), they could have a tiny wedding, and cut to the chase right away. "You want to get married? Yeah? Okay then. You're married." Not difficult at all.\n\nAnyway, you need to talk to him about this, and if that does not get you anywhere, try speaking with a personal counselor. I loathe to sound cold, but you may be with a guy who just does not deserve your time and patience.
170203
It's possible to really love someone who is completely incompatable with you.  It sounds like you both need and want different things.  If you were married, I'd advise you to seek counseling together.  But you're not.  And it doesn't sound like you should get married.  \n\nIf you can be good friends and support each other, that's great.  But don't postpone the inevitable.  No matter how much you love each other, you have kids and he doesn't want kids.  Choose your kids and just be pals.
189565
If you still love him,tell him the true. Do not make the same mistake I made. I'm been married for seven years, but I still feeling something for my ex-boyfriend. I know isn't love,but maybe butterflies in my stomach. That is strange or not?
415187
I feel for you.  He may truly love you, but he has abondonment issues.  Can you blame him?  I feel for the guy and I don't even know him!  If you REALLY love him, you will do everything you can for him, yourself and the children.  This would most definitely mean counseling, more for him and the kids, but you would also benefit from it.  Don't stay w/him because you feel responsibility for the kids and him; you'll live to regret it.  If he really loves YOU then he will go to counseling to make this relationship a trusting, loving, and equal relationship.  I pray for you both, and hope you can find an excellent counselor.  \n\nOR, you could write to Dr. Phil.  I think he has a good rep for helping out troubled couples.\n\nBest of Luck to You(s)!
210278
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
608662
You are not married. Don't feel as tied down as you currently do. I think you guys need a timeout. Stay away from each other for any time between 2 weeks to a month. See how you feel about him then. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts. But state clearly to him that you guys will not see other people during this time period. It's only a timeout. You just need some time to get your thoughts together. Also, you guys have been together for 2 years. I think you will find a way to work out this issue. Best of luck.