Last week I met this guy through a dating service on the internet. Our first contact was through instant message and we talked for about an hour.Then later on that night we ended up talking for the next 6 hours until the next morning.The convo was basically open book(We asked each other about any and everything). The truth be known we had a real good time. Then a few days later he called me and we talked for an other  \n6 hours. Mind you all of this talking started off at his house and lead into his job.So what I'm asking is? How you go \nabout this relationship and what ending would you expect to come from this? Just something we got lucky with or do you think a committed long-trem relationship will develope.Or would you want a relationship to develope.Is it a good start.
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I've had the same experience....with a woman....we met and it just wasn't the same.  I believe there is no reason it cant be though.  Meet the guy in a safe place and see if you still have the magic in person.  Dont worry or get uptight.  good luck
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Contemporary male wisdom is to "keep her wanting more". Hopefully, he is just trying to get you more interested in him by keeping his distance. Is it working?\n\nIf it is much longer than a week, I would probably try to contact him. If you get no response, you should probably move on.
211083
My last long term relationship was with a woman 10 years older than me. The reason? I wastired of dating girls and I wanted to date a WOMAN! I was looking for someone emotionally mature/secure that knew what she wanted and wasn't into playing games. It's very alluring when you can find that eclectic mixture of someone that's fun and responsible, has enough experience in life to realise that every good relationship is give and take.  I wasn't looking to add notches to my gun belt or pages in a journal, I was very much looking for love and quite honestly it was the closest ever I'd come in so far as matching my hopes to my expectations. I can't speak for the masses out there but, there are a few of us guys that are sentimental enough to hold out hope for love, I hear rumors that it still exists (wink)....
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Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
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I think it's more than a friendship relationship at this point. I would say he's defidently more than interested, but committed. I think since you have so much in commen, he probebly thinks along the same lines as you regarding dating and getting married. You should have a serious conversation about your futures with him. Hear what he's thinking, then be honest, and tell him your consernes, and hopes for the relationship becoming more. Good luck! It sounds like you've found a great guy!
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Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. I don't think there is a specific length of time you should wait because I don't believe you should wait at all. It sounds like you need to just live your life and not count on this fellow being "the one." Like my Ma used to say-"there are a lot of fish in the sea". If it is meant to work out things will progress but why not get to know someone who lives close. There is a lot to say for building a relationship based on spending time together doing things not just talking or e-mailing each other. LOL
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I met this guy at some chats last year. We realized that we were really serious about each other.He proposed that he find a really good job in my country (we're one oceans apart), just so that he can be closer to me.He's not here in my country YET but yeh, he got a GREAT job already and he's arriving at the airport THIS SUNDAY!!!!! I'm very optimistic about our relationship face-to-face.. It's definitely going to be better than chats.. at least we can touch now ;) Just take note of this. If he's serious about you, ask if he can go to YOUR place. You'll know how much he's serious then. \nAnd it also depends on how serious YOU are about him. Think about it yeh? Good luck!
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Single is good for awhile. My guy friend reminded me of the concept of "dating". You are going back out into the social scene and just meeting new people. Forming a friendship is the most healthy way to building a romantic relationship. Your giving yourself and your friend, time to really honestly, get to know each other inside and out. Jumping in is never healthy. If your jumping in for the wrong reasons (lonliness, a "need" for a mate), then you will soon find your relationship ending in a firey crash and burn. Practice patience with your new friend. It's ok to be attracted to him/her but keep a level head and don't let your emotions rule your decisions. I am experiencing this very phenomena about building a friendship first. Together, we are keeping level heads, (even though he is just so dang hot), and it is much more fulfilling and healthy, than any relationship I've had before. The communication is great, we understand and accept where we stand with each other, and we're keeping the door open for the possibility of a wonderful, romantic, relationship to develop. I admit, it's not easy. I am still learning the whole patience thing myself. But this is so good, and healthy. I wish you luck, and hope that you will not jump in to something out of desparation. Be positive, be patient, and ask God to help. God Bless you friend.
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I've been in your situation.  I met this guy over the net, we exchanged pics, #'s and the such.  I called him first and we started talking.  I was a little scared to meet him, but once I did, we dated for over two years.  Funny how that happened....\n\n-daydreaming of the old days-\n\nAnyway you can't really start to like that person until you get to know a lot more about them.  Call them, talk first, then decide how you feel...or maybe you'd want to meet them...but now-a-days...it's a shot in the dark...people will lie about who they are...my case was one of the good ones...\n\nBest of luck to ya' buddy!\n\n:)
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With time, I think there is a good possibility that the two of you will get back together. To find somebody that you enjoy being around, and that you find interesting , is RARE! He obviously enjoyed it as much as you did, so why wouldn't he be back? It's soon for him I know, but just give him time. It's okay to call and see how he is, just don't push(hard to do I know). If the two of you connected, and I believe you did,  just be patient. He'll be back!
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Does it really matter?  At this point, does it really matter if he wants to call you back or not?  Sounds like you two aren't exactly 'meant to be'.  Or.. I dunno'.  I could be wrong.  Maybe you're perfect for one another.  (Btw, that wasn't supposed to be an insult.  Well.. for the most part it wasn't..)  \nTo answer your question though:  Don't hold your breath.
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Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
408170
Oh, man.  Has this not happened to anyone???  Mine was so bad I announced a vow of celebacy to one and all and eradicated the words 'date', 'love', 'marriage', and several others from my vocabulary and spent two or so years studying every religious text and book on philosophy ever written and getting black belts in several martial arts.\n\nThen one day I met somebody who'd been just as verbal about relationships and became good friends.  And whammo!  There it  was - like a 2x4 right between the eyes, simultaneously after a few months.  We then spent 24 hours completely denying it and going on about not ruining our friendship.  After 24 hours, we were going, "Um, weren't we NOT going to do this?"  Eight and a half years later, and we're still together and greatly bemused by it all.\n\nSince then I've met quite a few people who'd given up on love, and a similar thing happened.  It's almost like screaming up at the Gods of Irony, "YUP, never gonna date again, ever, EVER!!!\n\nI think you really have to mean it though.  So, focus on some other goal in life, make a point of making sure you're friends with somebody first before dating them, because I've since discovered that every lasting relationship I know of started off with a firm foundation of friendship, and one day when you least expect it or even want it, you'll get the 2x4 to the head.
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But of course on line friendship survives!! You just gotta keep it alive. If you keep in touch, then the friendship stays alive. If you stop communicating, then the friendship dies. I know this from a few times of experience. Dude, I am not kidding when I say this, either, you are the longest I have kept in touch with solely over the computer. A little over 2 months already!! My longest before this was only for about 2 weeks. They stopped communication for some reason. Guess things got tiresome and they were starting to do other things for themselves.... You can stick to someone off the internet just like you do in real life. I have heard from several that some people they know personally actually married each other because they got along so well on the internet. Just like the dating sites. You find someone that you get along with over the computer. And then they meet each other after talking over the computer for quite some time.
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It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?