should it be different then a man proposing? if they shouldnt, why not? i'm asking this to guys mainly but welcome answers from strong females too... not 16 year olds who have no respect for their own sex.
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i believe that you can do anything. it might be a Little awkward to see you on bended knee, but everyone does there own thing right. are you saying this because you want your man to propose to you? if this is the case and he hasn't done it yet Probably means he isn't ready or he thinks your not ready yet, or something else is going on. also depends on how long you have been together. i know its a custom in my family to live with your significant other for 4 full seasons at least before you propose to him/her. this might be the same for him as well. all you can really do is lightly bring up the subject to him and see where it goes.
109054
Don't get married becouse you want to have sex. But don't have sex reluctantly becouse your bf won't marry you, you'll just be hurt and angry. I don't think he'll propose, you're both too young. May be time to call it a day?
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Any man that respects their girlfriend or even women in general would not do that. This guy is acting like he has to prove something.. he thinks this is cool and thinks of her as soley a sexual object - not a person. He is not appreciating the other things she has to offer - he is just obsessed with this one and feels some sick need to talk about it. If he does it again in front of you, I would interrupt him and tell him it is inappropriate to talk about her in front of her or at all and that sex with someone is and should stay private. \n\nWhen I started to read this, I thought this was a 12 or 13 year old question - seriously, from the way you described the situation. That does not say much for their maturity and it sounds like neither of them should even be in a relationship when they are still that immature at 28. I would let this guy know it is totally inappropriate - maybe he doesn't get it or something. My bf would never do that - ever and no, I have not really seen anything like that. \n\n:o)
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I sure hope you're only thinking it, not actually planning or doing it.  \n\nEverything is wrong with statutory rape.\n\nThe law does not prohibit you from having a teenage lover, it's just that it has to be platonic until she/he turns adult.  This is because people (state legislatures) have decided that young girls/boys at the peak of adolescence are legally incapable of making rational decisions when it comes to sex.  There is also a public health concern in that teenagers usually do not think about STD or pregnancy when they have sex.  \n\nSome states have made exceptions that exclude "mutual" statutory rapes - they do not prosecute underage people having consensual sex.  However, the law still (and especially) applies when the age disparity is more significant.  This is because younger minds are more easily impressed and coerced.  They are very vulnerable against those predators, and sometimes the statutory rape law is the only thing keeping them safe.  (I would personally have a loaded shotgun pointed at the my daughter’s boyfriend as an additional deterrent.)  \n\nThe basis of your objection stems from past (or foreign) societal norms where people tend to marry early.  However, that norm simply no longer exists.  People rarely marry in their teens.  And when they have sex, they do not think marriage is necessarily involved.  In this context, it’s usually the young girls who have to bear the consequences of sex – single parenthood, unwanted pregnancy.  The father may or may not have the means to pay child support.  The law also aims to eliminate this social burden.  \n\nRational minds certainly can differ on this issue.  But I think most would agree that delaying sex in teenagers would be a good thing – for themselves and society as a whole.  The important thing is that when the law has spoken, compliance is not optional.  It’s not harsh if you think about it – if you love someone enough, you would wait.  If someone doesn’t love you enough to wait, he ain’t worth it.  If a  “cool off” waiting period seems like a good idea when buying a gun, it’s also a good idea when you’re potentially making a life-changing decision.
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no there is nothing wrong with that ....  not sure how old u are.... but do not be pressured into something u do not want ...and be proud!!!!
370919
depends on what level of dating you want. It could be totally ok unless you cross the sexual realm and then it could come into a question of legality he could be charged with satutory rape because of his age and yours, I dated nothing but older guys in highschool but never crossed the line into sex, alot of guys around that age are scared to anyway simply because of the possibilities of charges. and some just simply stayed away from the younger girls because of it.
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I am man. I got married at 17. Im 21 now. Still married.\nIn my honest, truely honest opinion:\nMen will say anything to ensure they keep a girl. Truth be told, men are insecure in ways we can never express.\nAlso, this is a personal opinion, but men who go for younger girls, usually have no good intentions.
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What is so important about getting attached to a guy? Don't worry so much about it and you'll soon see that a guy will have his eyes for you and want you.  How old are you? I'm asking because young guys don't necessarily want to get attached to a girl at a young age and would rather wait until they're older.  Im not sure of your age though, so no point in discussing that subject...
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I completely understand your dilemma. I'm in it myself. The situation gets more complicated though when you ask "what is sex?" "Do we not want to do the things that resemble sex?" "Is it actual intercourse we're avoiding?" You need to know where the line needs to be drawn.\n\nI'm curious... how old are you two? If you're in your teens, I would say just hold off on everything. Most likely (not to be negative, but just realistic) you're not going to make it until marriage, and in the future, I guarantee that you will regret the decisions that you will make in this relationship if you are that young. However, if you're in your 20s and you two are seriously considering marriage, I would go back to the previous question - "Where do you want to draw the line?" Ask your bf that. Remember though, once small barriers are broken, in time bigger ones will fall. If you two are really trying to avoid sex, you need to avoid the steps that lead to it. It doesn't sound as fun, but waiting is also fun too - honestly - you just have to make it fun when it doesn't seem that way. It's an impressive thing to do.\n\nIn addition to all that, I also think it is extremely important to respect your bf's opinion. I think as a good girlfriend that should be the first concern of yours.\n\nGood luck!
391093
Girl my thoughts are 100% the same with yours. Down with casual sex! People need to grow up and be a man. Having no self control or being a coward by giving into pressure does NOT make someone a man but more like an animal or a child.
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All the girls I ever have dated were older than me. Nothing wrong with that, as long as he is old enough to day anybody. Now if you are like older than 18, and he is like 16, then don't be doing the nasty with him till he is 18 too!!!!
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It is fine. I am 24 and my husband is 35. we are very diffrent in age and it is great for us. Also not to say that it should be done or that it is legal and it has to do with the how mature the girl is. I feel it is fine to have relations with someone under the age of 18. many girls have sex befor the age of 18 but it should strongly weigh on her matuity. I think waiting untill the two people know that they are going to be married in the future is best or even waiting untill they are makes it even better. I know sounds a little harsh, but imagine this the people have just been married and how much more the two will want it and feel the romace of it all if they wait. Everyone has their own feelings about that though. If the two of them date for a couple years it is perfectly legal for the two of them to get married in most states befor the age of 18 and in some states can even do it now, but may still need a parents consent to do so. tell your friend and I am sure he will have even more fun making out how much he loves her to her and if marriage is something he really wants with her in the future making those plans with her too.
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Sure.  At 21, you're not ready for marriage or children, particularly, children.  Stay single, hon.  You ain't yet wife material.  That will come later.  It isn't an insult, it's just fact...... 21 is too young today, to get married....  Who you want at 21 isn't going to be the same guy you will want 5 years from now......
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No, I think it should be allowed. I mean, god gave us both what we have and if an individual wishes to show, then why the hell not!\n\nThe only reservation I would have is that most males are not psychologically mature enough, and would probably not be fully in control. After a while though, everyone would get used to it and it would become a normal thing. It is, in many parts of the world already!
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Not trying to be sarcastic but, trying to impress a guy who's really hot with a gun doesn't sound like a 29 yo but more like a teenager. Would think at 29 you would have developed an adult viewpoint. I would think that it would be a bad idea if this "hot" guy has that much influence what will he want you to do with this gun to impress him even more. It's easy to start down a path like that but dealing with the consequences can sometimes be difficult to cope with.
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WOW! If you're doing it for the right reasons it is! And both of you are in agreement and God has revealed to you both that you're meant for each other, and are going to get married. I'd say most girls wouldn't find it attractive. But I do. In fact I'm doing the same thing. I'm waiting for marriage, and I think its great! Go you! What self-control!\nKeep at it hun, you gonna make your bride feel like a queen on her wedding day knowing you waited all your life for her!!
20177
If you don't want to, then don't. you have as much say in it as he does. There is no "magic age" when you should have sex.