If you don't spend time together because of work schedule and your boyfriend wants to concentrate on more of the physical side then the quality time. Becaise we don't have much time.  Does this mean he is basing our relationship on sex?
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Not necessarily sex but if both are working then also the stable environment that is being created is also part of what is keeping things together.  although having quality sex certainly helps keep some security in it all.\nOtherwise it's just two roomates who share bills and that's just not as much fun as far as i'm concerned.
577379
The more time you spend away from each other, the more time spent together is meaningful. Give him space so that no one gets attached. Sometimes the healthiest part of relationships is the quality of the individuals' personal life.
8939
Don't look elsewhere, this is actually pretty normal.    Try talking to him and telling him that you'd like to be more intimate.  DOn't make things into a chore, like "eat, drive to movies, blah, sex"... Usually, I find that a good makeout session will be enough to rev up your latent sex drives!
359772
I am sorry to tell you, but i think he is simply trying to 'dump' you as unharmful as possible.  I went through this with my girlfriend, and i started spending less time with her to break the attachment.  Chances are he is changing his mind because he likes anything physical, like hugging, kissing, holding hands, ect...
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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Well if you two are using the toys TOGETHER, then he is at least paying attention to you sexually.  Does he do other things besides just penitration, like oral, fondling, kissing, etc?  If he works you up and then uses toys instead of his self on you, he may have some sort of Erectile Disfuction.  Its pretty common, and from how you phrased your question, it sounds like he is trying to keep you satisfied using everything but himself.  Have you talked to him about this, or asked him why he wont make love to you when you ask him to?  Most men if they are playing with toys on thier women, it is just to spice up the sex life they have, not replace it.  Is he getting off or masturbating when he is doing this?  Then you may have some sort of obsesive fettish on your hands and you will have to sit down with him and tell him that even though these games are fun, they can be monotinous and you would like to change it up a bit with some actual sex. Throw in a fantasy of yours that you would like to try out to get him interested in fulling for you.  Whether its something like sex in the park or movie theater, (outside or public sex can be thrilling), or web cam, poloroid or videod sex, or even a threesome.  Or maybe just let him know that even though this is fun, sometimes you just need a plain romantic skin on skin night for the two of you.  If this is the only problem...then he should understand if he loves you.  Just remember honest, open minded communication is key to working out any problems where sex is involved.  Sex can be such a touchy and delicate subject, and if handled correctly and openly then sex can be great for both people in a relationship.   Good luck with this!  Love, Angela
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A a guy, I can tell you all men at first think they just want to have sex with you. But if you allow enough time to pass before this occurs, you and he will know if there can be more to the relationship than that. I would give it several months at least to be more sure he enjoys seeing and knowning more about you, and not just want sex, before you allow things to get physical. In otherwords, time will tell in ways your heart at first can not.
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I am glad that you are asking this question, cause it means you are moving in a positive direction. Of course there is more to it then sex, relationship between two people is about mutual trust, accepting  each other with all of our flaws and faults, loving each other even when you don't feel like it.
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well one of 3 things could be the source of the problem 1. he doesnt actually care about sex all that much and is just happy being with you 2. feels insecure in bed 3. just might not beable to keep up with or sex drive. just let it lay things will change plus only 4 months in a relationship dont let sex rule the relationship cuz then it will fall apart
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A guy thinks..."SCORE!!!".  The fact that he called you back and is still dating you doesn't really mean that much.  You could just be easy for him to hit.  Test it.  Tell him how you feel about the situation and tell him you want to take a break from sex for a while (a couple of months at least), and restart your relationship on a non-physical basis.  If he really likes you for who you are there will be no problem and he will respect your need.  If not he'll hit the bricks and you'll be better off and you will have learned a lesson for next time.
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to me, physical stuff needs to wait until you love the person...in love with them (maybe even after marriage)  Having sex too quickly just...'ruins' everything.  It wouldnt be special anymore if you slept with every boyfriend/girlfriend you had.\nI expect my boyfriend (we live together) to leave me notes/texts/etc when he goes out with friends so I know hes ok and where hes at if an emergency.  I want to be called/spoken to everyday.\nWe talk about EVERYTHING.  Sex, Sports, Engineering, Fourwheeling/ATVS, hunting, building shelves/bird houses, etc.  The list is on going.\nWhen you're with someone, you should be able to talk about anything with them.\n\nGood luck in your relationship.  You'll do well.  Do what feels right.
495205
I think that its good to have time away from your partner... it gives you time to miss and appreciate him. But its not wrong to want more time with him and to ask for more affection.
405421
It sounds like both yours and his priorities are noncommittal. Seeing each other when convenient should be enough for now. If this was love you would not have to ask this question.
480397
I hate to say it but if he really wanted to make it work he would. You've gone out of your way to find time to see him, if he felt the same way you do then he find a way to spend time with you. Not seeing you enough is probably an excuse, he's not strong enough to tell you how he feels and he's probably thinks he's sparing your feelings by blaming the situation instead of telling you how he feels. Give him time and he may come around, but don't wait for him. You should start moving on.
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It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
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i think you wanting more with him then he wants. you both on different pages. i dont feel he is interested in you though he may have given you those type of signals on the weekend you spent together. try talking to him and telling him how you feel, if he doesnt feel the same then move on and dont waste your time with him.
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hell no you can have to much sex. but i am a veru sexual person and whenever i see my bf we have sex cause we only see each other on the weekend