I have two cousins and I keep writing but no letters has came to me yet I miss them and wonder when will they come home? We were like three peas in a pot, it seems very lonely without them. All i have is pictures and I get mad when I don't hear from them thinking the worst but you never really know. We had a family reunion in september of 2005 and they wasn't able to attend i love and miss them..when is this gonna be over?
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My husband is currently in Iraq on his 2nd tour..He calls when he can I understand he's busy over there..you just have to have faith and be positive..I find myself angry at him when he says he'll call but then does'nt I tell myself "when he calls again he's gonna get it" LOL but when he finally does I'm just so thankful he called and is ok therefor i totally forget about him not calling and I'm not upset with him anymore.Your cousins are fine,I'll be praying for them and for their safe return as I do for all of the service members deployed across the globe especially the ones in Iraq and Afghanistan.Try to stay busy being around family members help...and try not to be glued to the news stations as I find myself doing more then I should...lol..the motto is "No news is good news"\n                                     101st Airborne Division\n                                        Fort Campbell,KY\n                                           "RAKKASANS"
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I count my blessings! It's wonderful to make that kind of connection with people. My family does this often. We have a lot of non-family family members - I've always thought of it as a kind of adoption. It's really a great way to liven up any family gathering - it's nice to have all the family get together for Thanksgiving, but bringing newly 'adopted' family friends always spices things up. :)\n\nWhen I was your age, I had a couple families. My best friend's family was great - it was like having twice as many people care about me. At that age, it really helped me. 13's a rough age to be...so much is going on... I'm 25 now, and I still go visit my 'other' families. \n\nPeople used to say that it takes a village to raise a child. While you're not exactly a child, it's the same idea. The more people who care about you, the better. Don't worry too much - this is really a good thing.
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If your friends are abandoning you for her, they aren't really your friends.  I know this doesn't help your situation, or make you feel any better, but it's true.  If they are willing to listen to someone else and make judgements about you, they aren't worth knowing.\n\nStick with your cousins and ride it out.  They may come crawling back, who knows?  Just keep your dignity throughout, and never lower yourself to their level.  Know you are better than any of them.  It'll blow over soon enough, as long as you make out that you really couldn't care less.
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You do have a void in your life. You miss the parents you wish you had. My father passed away more than twenty years go when i was a little girl and i still am having a hard time with it. I don't remember conversations and never got to know him. I miss what i could of had. There is no real getting over it. It's more of accepting the way things are. I know i can't bring him back and it sucks. One thing i read recently i wish i could remember where. The article was about making a patch work quilt in your mind with the people in your life that have the qualities that you would want in a mother or father. Say you have a friend who is really good at listening, that can be a piece of what a mom is to you. Someone else in your life who encourages you is another part of what a mom is to you and slowly you piece together a mother. Instead of getting all of a mom in one person many people end up fill the void that is empty. It will never be the same as the real thing but that is where acceptance is a huge part of learning to cope. You will always miss them and wonder what life would be like with them. I wish i had a better answer for you. Sincerely,if during my journey in finding acceptance with my fathers death i learn something better i will let you know.
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Our family is very close .. we have a huge family here .. lots of cousins, aunts, uncles - granny's grandpas - you name it we've got it !\n\nMy daughter has 2 great great grandparents .. \n\nIt's so much fun growing up with a big family.  You never get bored, you always have some one to talk to .. and a place to stay if you're in trouble !\n\nWe're all so close me, both brothers & 3 other cousins have the same tattoos to show our family pride ... haha ... !
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Dang that must be crazy for you. I found out I had 2 siblings from another mother & another sibling even younger from ANOTHER mother and one sister was the same age as my other sister I grew up with. And it's just akk weird. So where was your sister all this time if you dont mind me asking? And I finally saw my real dad but he could care less about me.
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Its still really close...  Give it time, its a hard thing to deal with.  For now just take one day at a time as they come, and don't get overwhelmed.  Make sure you take care of yourself, and also be sure not to bottle up your emotions, 'cause that will only make things harder.  It probably sound cliche by now, but I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope things work out for you.
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I just want to say that I'm glad you are doing this for some serviceman somewhere. I'm in the RAF and joined up shortly after I finished school. It was my first time away from my family for more than two weeks and felt very homesick for ages. My friends and family sent me letters while I was at basic training and they really kept me going. I agree that you shouldn't mention the school project thing, but take an interest in the guy/girl you are writing to and tell them some interesting things that you are up to. It'll make their day, believe me! Good luck for the future and I hope you get to write to someone you'll become good friends with!!  :-D
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The fact that you wanted to be closer to family tells me that, "no, you were not running".  It's ok to desire a change and be with family, and I gather that you felt this way, because of the problems you had been having with Jon.  I am sorry that you dosn't seem to care.  I am wondering if he says this but dosn't mean it.  Only time will tell. If he truly misses you, I feel as though he WILL contact you.\nI don't believe you were running.   If it does burden you, why not wait a few more weeks and then sit down and write him a letter.\nExplain that you desired to be near family.  Don't use "blaming words like "You didn't seem to care, etc".  Express your pain with "I" words.  eg, "I felt as though you no longer cared for me,\nor I felt as though I needed to do this in my life".\nHopefully, time will tell if he really does care.\nIf this relationship was not meant to be, then only time will heal your broken heart.  Maybe it will be a blessed time to be with your folks and a chance to meet someone new.\nBest of Luck!
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i know exactely how that feels like!!!\n...still haven't been able to find my grandpa, and to tell the truth--don't think he's still alive..\n\nif u want to talk to someone, leave me ur mail/ mess adress and i'll get back to u.  what do u say?..
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i usually stop after 3rd cousin, and call anyone else 'distant' cousins, odds are we dont know and didn't grow up with or around them anyhow.  check with someone that does family tree/ancestry and they could explain what you want to know i would imagine
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I kind of know how you feel.. when I was a kid, my mom remarried and her husband had two other children... I was never acknowledged by my stepfathers parents, on any occasion. And even after he died, my stepfathers brother had written the survival and named his two kids and my mom as survivors and didnt even mention me. oh well i guess i didnt exist.
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Aww...  I had this same problem.  Around the same ages as you and your cousins (only they were my niece and nephew).  Honestly, the best way to get them to stop bugging you, is to ignore them (I know you've heard it before).  But, it works.  Once they see that they're not getting through to you..  they'll back off.  Sooner, or later they'll leave you alone.  If this doesn't work, try saying something to their parents.  I'd say to both the kids and their mom and dad that you need time alone (which all 11 year old girls do), and that you're willing to play and hang out with them.  Just when you want to.  Good luck!
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waaaaaaaaaa tell me about it. i miss them so much. it just wont be the same if they're not up to their usual shinanigans together.
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ouch. you poor thing....that sux. well, just think of the good times, and stay in contact with them. maybe you could go see them sumtimes, or they could visit you. send pictures to each other, write, email, call...whatever keeps you connected and cheers you up.
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It sounds like your brother may not want to be found or he has been kidnapped,and the people holding him are allowing him to write to you.\n\nAs far as finding him,I would pray! and then pray some more!\nDont ever give up!God Bless you and your mom! God bless your brother too!
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I was 9 when I lost my mom. Not an important event goes by without me thinking of her and missing her. Im 28 and sometimes I get mad at HER for not being here for things like her grandchildren or to give me advice. It DOES get easier. I say this because the pain only goes on for so long then you adjust to it. Pain will be there it just won't be as horrible as it seemed in the beginning. I just hope to see her someday when its my time. It sucks more than anything in the world to lose a parent. My advice is n to see a counsler or better yet find others who have lost parents and share stories and tears if need be. Your on a good start here finding others. Maybe there is a loss support group in your area. I didn't like the counslers when I was younger due to the fact we had no connection. They didn't lose their mom but wanted to talk to me about my loss. Good-luck and keep your head up. Remember God doesn't give us more then we can handle (sometimes it feels like it)