my fiance and i have been together for 4 years and have a 3 month old baby.  He just recently has been saved and thinks we should wait till we get married in august to have sex.  What would you do?
202483
That's fine, lots of couples wait until they are married to have sex even though they have had sex with each other before.  It just makes the honeymoon better because both of you will be extremely horny, so you will enjoy it more.  He's a good guy; just wait.  I promise you, it will be worth it!
566181
hmmm, I would wait to get married. Doesn't mean you still can't date this guy. beside I'll bet anything your parents would never let you get married at this age. You are really young still, so whats the rush? If your still together in like 5 or 6 years, props to you and I wish you the best.\n\nIf it helps you any, I met my fiance when I was 14, and I knew in a year that we had a great relationship. BUT, I'm 18 now, and we're only just engaged after nearly 4 years together (July 27th <3). I'm in no hurry to marry, becuase the piece of paper doesn't change how we feel. And I want a nice wedding, and I still have a lot of saving to do! ~.^ good luck!
342572
Honestly, I had 2 kids and I waited about 2 weeeks after my second cause my husband wanted to rush it (you know men).  But If it hurts, let him know and wait another few days or a week and try again.  They say not to use your vagina for 4 weeks though, but what happens when you are not ready then?  Do it when you think you are comfortable.  At least wait 2 weeks though!!
184412
Don't go back with him. if you did want a baby then you should get married first. but he'll just do it again and i'm sure that he slept with this girl for more reasons then u think
496353
Honey, he ain't gonna walk down the aisle.  You were not very wise to get into this, having babies together, knowing that he wasn't completely committed.  You are right to want it, but you should have seen the warning signs a long time ago.
319326
Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
196719
Yes four months is too early. Marriage is a huge commitment and you can't possibly know enough about each other after only four months to know whether or not you're ready to spend the rest of your lives together.  Having said that if he really loves you he will understand that your custom won't permit you to live together until you are married and he will wait.  Don't rush into this as I'd imagine that if your custom dosen't allow you to live together then there'd certainly be a huge problem if you wound up divorced in a years time, so slow down, enjoy your relationship as it is and let nature take its course.
400091
My husband and I got engaged early and We both should probably of waited a lil longer.. We don't regret it now... \n\nBut we both do look back and think we needed to grow and learn a lil more about life and being together as girlfriend and boyfriend.\n\nI'd say wait it out if you both feel like you should be together forever then it's worth the wait.\n\nAnything is possible and you should weight it all out... Should I rush or should I take my time?\n\nAsk yourself that because in the end your heart knows what's best not your inner-voice.\n\nJust take it one day at a time and see what happens!\n\nGood Luck!
187377
I had my first sex 4 1/2 years ago, with the one who is my husband now. I was 17 years old and I think it was the right time. Don't do it too early. And try to find the right person for it. This isn't easy, but one should try. I am, personally, happy that I had my first sex with the one who is now my husband. I am really happy whith that. On the other hand, there are many people telling you should have several partners before getting married. This is what you have to find out yourself. Anyway, take your time. Don't force yourself to anything.
127499
Well just tell him, explain it the way you did here. Since you two are already intimate, no guarantee that he will wait around the three months. In the future wait longer before you become intimate with someone, instead of changing your mind after wards, and cutting them off. That is going to send some pretty mixed signals. Hope it works out for you, if he does stick around he's a keeper ;)
640490
Its fine... you have a thing for helping people. It's a good thing. I just would wait atleast about an hour or so next few times after making love to your husband.
169360
Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
416673
Way overdue. Have sex with him the next time you see him.\n\nDon't listen to the Bible-thumpers telling you to save it until marriage. God gave you a hoo-hoo and the ability to orgasm for a reason!
107892
If you have to question having sex with him, then you shouldn't have sex with him.  If you want a meaningful relationship with him, it would be in your best interest to wait.
224021
You are too young to be having sex. Please wait. It would be so much better when you are older and married. No worries then because you wouldn't have to worry about STD's or pregnancy. Please wait. If you must though size really doesn't matter to me. It all depends on how you treat your girl.
350766
Yes, you deffinately should save it for marriage! I don't know how religious you are, but I want you to know that I'm not a religious nut. But, God does say that we should save ourselves for marriage. B/c [and this isn't just for religious people] our bodies are meant for ONLY our husband or wife. If you have sex before marriage, then when you get married, you're body isn't completely hers. And, visa versa. I don't know if that made sense to you. Now, I'm a 16 year old girl, and a lot of times I want to do something w/ the opposite sex, but I don't b/c when I get married, I want to be completely his. I don't want to have used myself already... I would feel that I was letting him down. Let me know if that helped okay? Good luck. lol.
75414
Please don't do it tonight!!  If you are hear asking, then the two of you are not ready for that step in your relationship yet.  I know my first time I made my boyfriend wait 9 months (I figured if he could wait that long, he MAY be willing to wait that long for a child if anything happened).  Though that was 15 years ago, I am now a single mom and everyday is a challenge.  I couldn't not imagine being 15 and a single mom.  Please take your time, talk with him, make sure you are really ready!  Sometimes you are more ready to say "NO" then you are to handle the consequences.  Good Luck and if things do happen, please use protection (don't rely on him to use it, you both should!)!!!