I am a junior in high school and this girl and I have been friends since we were little. Earlier this year she started to talk to me more and more as the year went on. So I decided to ask her to go to lunch with me, and she wanted to put it off until later and would apologize the next day for not being able to go with. So i decided to ask her if she wanted to the movie that night and she said she was "busy" and would apologize later for not going with. At a school dance i asked if she wanted to just be "friends" and she agreed. Now after that she wont even initiate the conversation anymore, I have to now. I was wondering what the problem is because she is not as social to me anymore. And i still have feelings for her.
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i'm a junior in highschool experiencing almost the samething. i need help to.
271065
MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
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I think that she wants a long-term relationship. She can't make her mind about you cause she isn't sure if you're wanting or ready for a serious relationship. She's pretty sure that if things aren't going well between you two that it's going to be hard to be friends again. Talk to her. Ask her what she wants, what she feels about you....
213974
This is like most relationships. Its give and take...Your friend wont be a real friend if she cant deal with your feelings and opinions. You may be wrong, so what, you have the feelings correct or not. If you talk things out you will find a common ground.
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Come on, it sounds like you don't really want to be her best friend.  You have romantic interests in her, right?\n\nLet me get some thing straight here.  Unless that girl is a very special person, you are either a romantic interest, or you are just a friend.  I hope you know how to choose.\n\nBut here is the answer: guys that end up being friends with girls are non-threatening, trust-worthy, a good listener, sensitive, and generally all the good stuff that girls want, but are not looking for in a romantic interest.  Express your concerns for her, and be attentive when she has something to say.  Making friends with girls isn't that hard, but most guys will never have that, because they are only interested in girls for other reasons.  Figure that out, and you are there.
55573
i would talk to her about the situation and see why she has changed.  you can't ignore it, especially if you guys were the bestest of friends.  i mean i would want to know if my friend didn't want to hang out with me anymore, i think i would deserve some sort of explanation.
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Sounds like you are willing to listen to her and be a good friend, but she isn't being nice to you at all. You don't need someone like that! I'm sure that there are lots of other people that would appreciate your friendship and treat you a lot better! Don't even bother with this girl if she's going to act like that cause she'll just pull you down.
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If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.
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she is jealous of your friendship with him especially the fact that you have been since kindergarten \na lot of people are like that\nshe is afraid of losing you \nprobably the only one person she hangs out with \nis you so ask her to try a different approach when all of you guys are together\ncause the one she has now is just causing friction \nask her to try being nice and talk about something that interests her and him\nboth\nif she is a real friend she will at least try to approach him with a different attitude
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Girls are weird when it comes to friendships.  Usually when they say **** about each other is because the first one that started saying **** about the other, was in some way jealous of the other.  Then when the other one started saying **** about the first one, it was because she was hurt by being talked badly about.  I don't know if that is what is going on in that situation or not, but most likely.  I don't know that there is really anything that you can do, other than not get in the middle or take sides.  If one of them say **** about the other to you, just tell her that they are both your friends and you do not want to get in the middle or be put in a situation to where you feel like they are wanting you to choose between the two of them.  I hope that everything works out well for you.  Best of luck!
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hey, i'm in the sixth grade too!!  I went through this last year.  It sounds like Justice really wants to be YOUR friend (she likes attention)  Tell her you do not apreciate the way she's acting and you would like her to stop or else you will not hang around her anymore.  If she doesn't stop do exactly that!  (The way this works is Justice will be lonely, trust me even if she does say really bad things to you if you have to stop hanging out with her she will most likely come runnning back to you oneday!  When this happens you must set promises in your friendship, like to be your friend she'll have to not talk about your other friends or anyone else.)  If she never does come back you really don't need a friend who talks about others and makes you feel uncomfortable.)  Good luck!!!
368179
Some guys get into this mode that they "forget" their friends for a while when they meet a girl they really like. He may grow out of it. However I think you should talk to him and tell him you still want to be friends, and if possible talk to her alone and see if she really "hates" you, or is possibly jealous of your history with her boyfriend. If she isn't, have her suggest to your friend that they and you and your boyfriend go out together some time.
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It could be that she just doesn't know how to react to you. She may be afraid that if she's nice to you, you might take it as an invitation. Let her know that you wont try to "convert" her. \n Or it's also possible she likes you and is afraid to show how she really feels. You should just say "Look, what's your trip?" If she trys to give you attitude just tell her "I just want to talk and find out why you seem so afraid to communicate with me. I'm not hitting on you. I just want to know what's up with you lately."\nIt could also be peer pressure. She may like you but doesn't want to be thought of as your "girlfriend" by the rest of the school. If that's the case she just needs to grow up. She's not worth the effort until she does.\nGood luck babe. Talk to her if she'll talk. If not leave her be and move on.
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i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.
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Girls (and guys for that matter) do not always take subtle hints very well.  Although it is easier said then done you need to tell her how you feel.  If you are tired of lying to her by making bullshit excuses then I feel that you might still have a chance as a good person.  You need to be honest (not to be confused with hurtful) and tell her that you do not want to hang out with her every weekend, and tell her why.  You are friends and only that, you should more then likely apologize if you have done anything unintentionally to lead her on.  Life isn't always easy or fair.  If you want to continue to hang out with her let her know that.  But don't be unclear in your intentions.  Best of luck to you.
216009
It's a tough one.  But, from a female perspective...don't change your attitude towards her.  Most guys would start acting like a jerk towards her because they're hurt and can't handle the uncomfortable situation that they are now in as her friend.  I think you should just blow it off, don't make a big deal about it.  Act like she was the girl of yesterday, and a friend of today.  She could have been telling the truth or just making up an excuse because she's just not interested or ready for a relationship at the time.  If you show her that our friendship comes first she just may "see the light" and come around.  Or maybe not, and if so, don't sweat it so much-at least you'll still have the friendship, and hope for something more as long as you want a chance.
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umm...this girl is not your friend. a friend is someone you can feel comfortable being around..someone you can trust. and obviously, this girl can't handle the fact that you like her. i think it was immature of her to say yes when you asked her out just because she "felt sorry for you," but to each their own. i don't think you need this girl as a friend or anything else.