It's English class and he constantly has us watch sports and read and watch stuff about the civil war and other wars. I'm the only girl in the class and get treated like crap. What should I do? \n\nClass will be over in 3 months. He treats me like crap. My opinion doesn't matter. The boys get special privileges that I don't. He told me once that I'm just a girl and don't know any better and to sit down and let the 'big' boys take care of things. I'm sorry but I won’t sit around and take that crap.\nAnd yes I CAN pick my teachers. I was with a really nice teacher. Until the "no child left behind act" came into play at our school. So we had to switch our classes around. Because the teachers have to teach more than one subject now. I don't know about your school, but at mine if a teacher is that horrible to you, you can switch classes.\n\nI've already talked with the teacher. There is no reasoning with him.\n\nWell, since I'm the only girl, he doesn't won't to make all the guys read a poem, so he thinks it's just better to watch sports then do any thing productive in an English class. We have to do thing BIG essay too. And he said we are going to have to do it our senior year! And we already have to do a senior essay too. If we don't do it this year, we fail.\n\nI'M NOT UPSET ABOUT BEING THE ONLY GIRL IN THE CLASS!! It's just that, I'm being treated like I have NO rights and that my place is to keep my mouth shut.\n\nI've been the only girl in a class before and wasn't treated so badly.
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Go up the command chain. First talk to some of the other students and make sure they'll back you up. Ask them in an e-mail or a note if they remember the phrase "just a girl..." and see if they'd be willing to sign a statement to the effect.\n\nTalk to your parents (if they're good parents) and have them take you to the principle. Explain that you've been a victim of sexual harassment and you will let the school board know, but will give the principle some time to resolve the matter themselves. Demand positive and swift resolution of the problem, but be polite about it.\n\nSure you have them by the "balls" as it were, but there's no need to hack off everyone who can help you by threatening them. If the principle doesn't give you a satisfactory answer, don't challenge them, just go higher (school board, sexual harassment support organizations, etc.).\n\nAlso look for online resources to get additional information such as the link I've provided.
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You don't say what the teacher was saying that you took to be "bad", but, that's not really the point here, anyway. The point is - why did you get kicked out of class? A teacher doesn't kick a student out of class for HAVING an opinion, even a dissenting one. A student is removed from class because of the WAY they expressed that opinion. I would venture a guess that the teacher's comments angered you (maybe rightfully so), and you spoke out in a manner considered to be inappropriate and/or disrespectful - and you were told to leave the classroom.\n\nIf, after hearing the teacher's comments, you raised your hand, and gave your opposing opinion in a clear, concise, non-yelling, intelligent manner, it's highly unlikely that you would have been told to leave. If, however, you interrupted the teacher, yelled or otherwise raised your voice, and ranted & raved, it is understandable that the teacher felt that your outburst was disruptive to the class, and this is why you were told to leave.\n\nYes, there is a right to free speech - but that doesn't mean that we can yell "FIRE!" in a crowded theater just for the hell of it. In exercising our right to free speech, we still need to be aware of our surroundings. You may have had some very valid points and arguments against the teacher's comments, but they were lost because of the manner in which you attempted to present them.\n\nIf you feel that the teacher's comments were predjudicial, bigoted, or sexist, then you have every right to file a complaint with your school's administration and/or the school board. However, unless the teacher was directing these comments specifically to you, as an individual, then it is unlikely they will find that the teacher is guilty of bonafide discrimination. He'll probably be given a light warning to tone it down in the future, keep his opinions to himself,  and stick to the curriculum.\n\nSo far as you are concerned, use this incident as an opportunity to hone your debating skills. They will serve you well in the future.\nEveryone HAS a voice, but, it's those who know how to USE that voice effectively that will go far in their lives.
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Being one who was really really picked on for all of elementary, junior high and high school I know all about this kind of crap! Number one, remember this. Nobody call tell you anything unless you let them. You ARE good at the trumpet! You already know that! Secondly, EVERYONE is beautiful. YOU have to decide that's true and not listen to anyone else. \n     Now about Jamie, this boy is hurting. Hurt people hurt other people. When you have a toothache you aren't all nice and sweet. No, you are hurting! So you act like it. Well, emotional pain is the same. Jamie is hurting in some way. \n     I am not suggesting that you try to find out why, I'm just giving you a reason for why he says these things to you. He's probably picking on you especially because 1.) he likes you, 2.) he's jealous of you because you're happy and he's not, 3.) he doesn't know how to be your friend any better than this. \n     My suggestion to deal with this boy is to be confident about who you are and to ignore him. If he keeps it up then fight back! I don't mean argue, but find out why he is hurting and call him on it.  That FOR SURE will stop him.
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You need to talk to the teacher or a counselor in your school... I know that your friend might get mad at you but you need to do the right thing for his sake...Help him out by getting him some help... Missy
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Walk away, unless you feel the female students are in danger.  N thrive on sucking people into their web, and it is no surprise this person is in a position to receive admiration from those who are not his equal.  The trick of the N is to make you feel like you should care, either through them being a victim or being great.  Don't fall for it.  Ultimately, when you are no longer of use in their world of garnering the emotional attention they can't get openly, they will tell you what is wrong with you, and why they can't communicate with you any longer.  It's a long road of anguish.  Why bother?  If you believe he is really a danger to his female students, there are ways to bring this to someone's attention, but make sure you have proof, and not just vague guesses.
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It's possible she told him things that weren't true, just to 'get back' at you.  Try talking to him, one on one, ask him if there is something you can do to improve your game (I know and you know you're good, but it's a way of confronting without being confrontational).  If he still acts the same way, doesn't give you a chance, then he may just be a jerk, who cares more about his personal feelings than his team.  It's a tough lesson to learn, but there are tons of those people out there, whether in sports, or teachers, or bosses.  Good luck.
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I agree with your mother.  If your teacher is out to get you there is very little that you can do about it.  Go to the principal and say that you have a personality clash with the teacher and would prefer to be moved to another class.  There are laws that prohibit him from discussing this request with the teacher so from a technical standpoint you should be able to push the request through without the teacher ever knowing how or why it was done.  Then the only issue you will face is whether you are put into a class that has a teacher that is influenced by the first teacher.\n\nTeachers can find flaws when there are not any.  I should know.  I'm a teacher!\n\nYou could also try talking to her about her grading system and see if she can justify the grades.  If not then you definitely have a motive for placement in a different class.
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I understand your frustration.  I have taught high school for 8 years and it is very discouraging at times to see the situations that exist in the classroom.  First of all, there is a mandate that Special Education students be mainstreamed into the general classroom population.  I have had a class of 34 students with 9 Spec. Ed. students (this is becoming more and more typical).  There are supposed to be teacher's aides to help in classes like that, but school budgets are spent so unwisely, at times, that there is no money for a teacher's aide for every teacher with a significant amount of Spec. Ed. students (who either have a learning disability, a behavioral disability, or an emotional disability).  This leaves the teacher and the students at a disadvantage.  Teachers now use more time on class management than on class instruction.  And, it's not just because of Spec. Ed. students.  For some reason many students like to "dumb down" on their own as to not be ridiculed by their peers for being too smart, a nerd, or a "lame".  School administration look at teachers with disdain and often let go of teachers with too high of a failure rate, so many teachers, when presented with a class or classes that do not produce on the expected level then create a curriculum that they feel the students have a chance to pass, even if it does not prepare a student to be on level.  Our educational system is in deep need of reforms that work, not just reforms that look good on paper but have no substance or effectiveness in the classroom or to the students.  I try to prepare students for high school and beyond, whether they are college bound, interested in vocational training, or ready to work once they graduate.  Teaching is a many tiered profession (teacher, counselor, mentor) if children are to be educated properly.  I worry about the same things you do, but I also know that the big decisions about education often do not rest upon  teachers' shoulders, but on an administration that is often too long out of the classroom to remember or know the things that work and the things that do not.  I only hope that it gets better before it continues getting worse.
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ignore him. typical stupid middle/high school drama. let the guys grow up a bit and things will start to make more sense.
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It's not fun, I know how you feel.\nYou just have to learn to not care.\nIt's tough...and I know it's a lot easier to say then do.\nSo what if they find out? If they treat you any differently, then they aren't good friends and don't deserve to have you as a friend.\nAnd if you are worried about people like, making fun of you or something, then just know that the only reason they are making fun of you is to raise thier own self-esteem, and that you are better then that.\nTry and take pride in being irregular, then again, I'm not sure exactly why you're irregular, but ya.\nIf it still bothers you, talk to the teachers about it, and ask them if maybe there is some way you could be called on the normal roll call.\n\n\nI hope that I helped. ^_^
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This teacher is not behaving the way she should. She is being seductive and she could get into alot of trouble. You need to stay away from her because she is not following the rules. Please talk to your parents or a counselor about this. She is going to get some kid into a real mess -- worse than you can imagine.
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Wonder why you were just as dumb for being his girlfriend.  And if he gets good grades, he isn't all that dumb....maybe it's not him, but you.  If you were so smart, you wouldn't have numerous grammatical errors....\n\nOh and by the way, he must really love school if he's there when he's supposed to be suspended....\n\nReally, you both seem pretty dumb in my opinion....like my response or not....you're dumb enough to post it...I just wanted my two points.  Thanks dummy!
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lil bro, you need to talk to your parents and teachers about this.\nabuse is abuse, and it's their job to deal with it, and help you.\ndon't listen to those that say to reply with violence. I don't think they read your question very well.\none answerer was right on that some kids (grown-ups too) try to make others feel bad to avoid dealing with how they feel about themselves.  keep that in mind. I know it sounds easy for me to say it, but try to not let it bother you. try to feel sorry for them instead of yourself,  obviously they're the ones with the problem.\ntalk to your parents, talk to your teacher.\nJake,  I really hope this helps. don't get bummed out.\nyou can write me if you need to . take care. peace
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You'll regret it.  Challenging his ego in class is much worse than him challenging yours. Talk to him after class or in office hours, and if it gets worse, go over his head to complain.
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Concerning the teacher talk to her and tell her how her blatant disregard and disrespect for your plans bother you. Try to discuss with her how you two can come to a middle ground and an agreement about what to do with the children and activities for them. Concerning you dad you REALLY need to consult your family physician QUICKLY!!!
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First sit him down and talk to him and see what happenned at school.  The call said he was kicked out of class.  If its all true you do need to take his computer and video games away for awhile.  Let him know he needs to respect teachers whether he agrees with what they say or not.  Be firm with him.  All 15 year olds go thru a mouthy stage- I have one I KNOW!  good luck to u!  GROUND HIM GOOD!  let him know this is not acceptable
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Academics...a different breed of human.  You're speaking a completely different language when you're talking with them.\n  \nI had similar experiences with middle school teachers and my kids.  Their children were the spawn of God, perfect in every way.  The fact that "Dad" is principle of the school system is even more reason for them to feel invincible.  You have your battle cut out for you.\n\nIf there is a contact at the school that you are most comfortable with, I would try to discuss this with them.  I do think that "kids will be kids" but obviously you aren't dealing with a normal kid, but the "golden child" of Mr. Principal.  None the less, you deserve equal consideration and should try to work out the best solution for the kids well-being at school.  \n\nAs I see it,  the boy was clearly wrong for viewing your daughter's report card and then talking about it (let alone lying), and they were both at fault for name-calling.  If this doesn't get amicably resolved soon, they could both be given suspensions.  \n\nChances are, the "friendship" is history, at least for a while, and the goal is to try to salvage your, and their, dignity.  Sometimes this requires eating some humble pie, and allowing the "lunatic" mom a little extra self-righteousness.  I see it as a losing battle to try to tell her that her son has done anything wrong.  Though she won't see it now, she will probably find out eventually anyway. \n \nSorry to ramble so.  I wish you the best of luck.  You will need it.