my hoseband started his relationship with his boss-some maried lady with 2 children and a nice man.I heard him saing that at the begining was just atraction and all the things that i wrote in the other question.What i whant to ask is the same, he loves her or what?
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Was that Freudian-"hose"band? WHY/HOW would anyone but your husband know if he loved his boss?
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Sounds like your a great guy! Keep on making her smile and doing nice things for her! Also it is very nice to involve her kids also if they arent your own! I have alot of respect for men that are caring and loving towards their woman and their kids if theres kids involved! Keep on loving her as you are!
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Ive always said love is an action word ..because when people love you they show it, with what they do, you wouldnt be wondering at all. You can sit down, and ask where do things stand btwn us?...How do you feel about me...If hes not callin you...returning calls ...dissapointing you constantly..you know..hes not..someone in love is consistent, in their positive behaviors..observe them and then have a "talk"..I wish you the best!!
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I dont know how I can top the laster person to post an answer, it was pretty good and she was right on her game. \n But I do want to add a few things that I know for a fact. Firstly that you will never fully forget this guy and that is a good thing. I have been married for nine years now and the woman I was with before I met my wife is still in my thoughts. No I dont want to be with her, but I do want to remember the pain she caused me. It has made me stronger and more gentle all at once. I now see the mistakes I made with her and I make sure that I dont make the same ones with my wife. As far as him hooking up with some ugly gal, get use to that. When guys loose something good even if it was their own reasons for leaving, they have a tendancy of grabing the next closses thing at hand. She just happened to be the unlucky girl, she will soon be dumped and tossed aside. That I can promise. Been there done that. \n As far as you not feeling like you are a good looking ladie. Well I would have to say listen to the crowed on this one. Do you think every one around you would lie. Dont get to proud however as pride does come before distruction. But do be glad that you are who you are and never ever let the sad things in life throw you off your game. Be glad of them and use them to your advantidge. Tuffin up and thank God that you still have plenty of time to meet someone new.
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Since he is married, I think you better off stay away from the situation. It isn't do any good for you and him and his family neither. Believe, you don't want to get involve as a mistress. For him, may be that's not the first time since his wife is so controlling and he wants something special or new, for you, may be straightly a winner kind of feel since you win someones husband. But That will be a nightmare. And since his wife is so controlling, you will never know what she will be doing to you and him. Hope your story will not be another CNN top story. Take care! Think before you act. If you can, find another job! If not, get a boyfriend or pretend you are taken. You don't need to tell him anything, so it won't hurt your subordinative relationship with him.
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Once she crossed the line from employee to girlfriend the employee employer relationship ended.  It was her choice to help him with the divorce, kids, business and if not monetary agreement was made in this regard he doesn't owe her a thing.  It sounds to me like he used her.  She is feeling used and now wants to get back at him.  All she can do is learn from it and move on with her life.  Pretty much the consequences for allowing herself to be taken advantage of.  Sounds like he played her pretty good.....  But she should have realized what kind of man he was by the way he treated the mother of his children.
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Here's our story...tell me what you think.\n\nWe originally met in 9th Grade, he was the new boy in school.  We became fast friends and soon became more than that.  We were inseperable, many crazy adventures and all that fun young love stuff.  We broke up just before the school year ended because of our friends...you know the only people you listen to when you are 15 years old.\n\nWe stayed friends over the years, going for coffe every month or so to catch up.  I had the travel bug so after high school I moved around a bit, when I was gone he met someone else and married her.  On one of my stops home I found out he had married this girl (who I knew & knew she was not a good person), I told him my concerns & in my heart I knew that if he said me wanted he back I'd go.  He didn't so I was off on my journeys again.\n\nWell when I was 31 I moved back to my home town.  As luck would have it we met up one night, he was still married to the girl but he had been living in his basement for the last 6 years and had little or nothing to do with his wife.  He was miserable. \n\nWe spent that night catching up, when it was time to go home he grabbed my hand and said he let me go once & he was never going to do that again.  He moved out the next day and we are now married and have a beautiful 3 year old little boy.  \n\nSo no, I don't worry about him leaving me for someone else.  I think it all depends on the situation, and the rest of the story.  People look for love outside of their relationships because there is usually something wrong within their current relationship.  Others are just really shallow and want a "trophy wife"...those relationships never work out.
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First did he say why he was quitting before he had another job? You sure he didn't get fired and he is covering with this story. Calm down a bit I know it is hard to do but take some deep breaths and see what your options are right now. Will he have a easy time finding another or maybe he has one lined up. If not and he has done this many times in the times in the past than you will need to do what is best for you and the baby...K
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I've dated a boss of mine.  Heck, even the girl who worked my job before me -- she quit because she married my new boss!  Go for it.  Just remember -- work is work, relationship is relationship.  And wait until he ends it current one before you move in on the prize.\n\nI actually work with my fiance -- he's not my boss, but we met here and have been together for 2.5 years.  Studies show that us overworked Americans are turning more and more to workplace relationships and employers are becoming okay with it.
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You asked for serious advice so here goes, usually when individuals act the way your boss does, they are very insecure people. Now here goes the hard part, if you like your job well enough to stay there and hold your position, then you have to pray for him, I hope you like to pray because I have found that it is the only way to get ahead in life is by prayer, not getting upset or mad at the man, but just let it roll off, and know who you are in God's eyes, you are God's child and He loves you and He will promote you, these are all very trying learning experiences for all of us at one time or another but the ones who hang in there and do their job to the best of their ability, will prosper, how do I know this?o.k. It happened to me several times, and even though it was tuff to pray for someone I personally had no feelings for, I thought well , the Word teaches us to pray for our enemies, and right now this person was my enemy, so I prayed that they would be promoted clear out of my life,,LOL and guess what I was the one that got promoted to a great new position, and with great people that I had a blast with, I mean God is awesome, He knows exactly what you need, sorry to be so long winded, but just want you to know that things can change, and you are not the victim, he is. Keep on girl and you'll some out ahead!!!!!WhEEEEEE!
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It would be best that you express to him how you feel about hiim- not only to see if he feels the same way but to get the feeling off your chest. However since this is in the workplace, you should be cautious about how you approach this romance. If you two start dating, don't make it too public among your coworkers. I would leave the relationship alone period if you have a good position at your job and you see yourself getting promoted in the near future- just to be safe.
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Firstly, you shouldn't have involved with a married woman..  2ndly, she is your secretary and you should have draw the line between superior and subordinates.\n\nNow, you are being pleasure by serving from your sec who is also playing with fire.  Have you ever thought if your wife is also acting such scam to other guy who turns to be her lover or superior, do you feel good on it or you would wack the shamless couple?\n\nYou are someone I believe is reputated background and you had a lovely family (no doubt you may lack of love & caring from your wife), however, you shouldn't marry her if you do not love your wife at all.  Think it over how your wife go through thick and think wtih you before you become successful.. I don't know who you are but you are mature enough to reflect whether you did wrong or not.
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Maybe he is afraid of making his wife jealous.  I had some trouble with my wife when I hired my assistant.  She is pretty and I hired her because she is very intelligent and goal oriented.  All the things my wife needs to work on.  Could be your boss wants to ease her into getting used to you.
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i think you did the right thing- but i feel you may be letting people take advantage of you- should he be mad?  whats that about? why worry about that? he should be reported to the manager, when EVERYONE works together as a team things get done alot faster and they are alot more happier and people would really enjoy and love going to their jobs.  really life is to short, people now days need to love each other just as they would want to be loved and treated.
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Well, he left you five weeks ago and he is married now. Its none of your business what his wife thinks, or whether or not they are going to be happy together. Sorry, just being honest.\n-NmD!
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I really like my boss alot! He's a good guy and realizes the hard work we all do....but geeze!.....The man is a "know it all" which is very irriating when you know he has no clue what he is talking about but displays that "know it all attitude". On day we were talking about giving birth....and there he was all up in the conversation like he has given birth before or something and telling us how it should be done! LOL!
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Don't listen to your friends.  Enjoy the secret love affair, life's too short not to...though it doesn't sound so secret if your friends know.  Since you work in different departments it's no big deal.  If you worked in the same office on the same floor then it might be a big deal.  If you really care for this woman and she cares for you then shut out the negative remarks that others make about it.  It's no ones business but your own.  You have to remember, YOU ARE BOTH ADULTS....repeat....BOTH ADULTS.  Hopefully everything will work out.  If it doesn't then you have to remember you are both adults and will handle it in a professional manner.  You're not little children (Hello.)  \n\nYour friends are jealous....YES, they are...and PETTY also.  Shame on them!  They should be happy for you.  It's really sad they had to come down on you like that.  \n\nAlso, I know of lots of couples that met through work and fell madly in love, got married and are still married to this day.  It's wonderful.  Please don't listen to your so called friends....who I wouldn't call friends at all.  Also, you should not have made it any of their business in the first place.  And shame on you for that part!\n\nOne additional note:  Since you are already having the affair this is a senseless question to ask at this stage.  You should have asked it before you started the affair.  What difference will it make now.  Therefore, you might as well enjoy it.