He used to put is arms around her alot he has told me he is attracted to her.  Now I find a secret yahoo question asking people?   "I am in love with my girlfreinds sister.  I think about her all the time even during sex?"  Please find this question and respond how you would feel. (he even spelled friend wrong.  I don't know what to do.  I feel sick.  I wrote him and told him to move.  we are goin gto counselign will this fix it.
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hey i am the a s s here. I am trying my best to deal with it. I thought it would go away but it has not. I have noone to help me with this and I am at a loss. maybe the best idea is just death. I cannot live like this anymore. i cannot beleive I am this man. I realize this woman is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I appreciate her so much. I was just looking for some ideas on how to make it stop.
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I wouldn't ask anybody if he likes you, but him himself!  I mean can't nobody tell you the truth, but him.  I think you should really talk to him and let him know how you feel if he is mature enough to talk to.  If not, why be with him??? What is it about this person that makes you really all into him that you can't find from somebody else that treats you better and doesn't get mad at you over petty stuff, you don't have to give him sex everytime you see him, and you can talk to during the day?  Are you the only one he is talking too and having sex with?  Don't put yourself out there if you know what I mean.  But seriously, what guy do you know isn't going to get mad at you if he finds out that you are talking to somebody... lets not be dumb about it.  A male will get mad because he thinks you are giving another male the attention that he wants.  Dude may like you or should I say the way you look, but that is it... like maybe it would be better off if ya'll were just friends... would it hurt???  How long were you all friends before you started dating or more importantly having sex with him???  Think about your feelings.  If you aren't happy or feeling like you are unsure about things, that is a sign that you should move on.  I bet if you stop having sex with him he will start treating you like crap and why is it that he can't call you during the day?  These are the types of things that I used to have to ask myself when I would find myself in those types of situations.  I am young and I just like sharing the type of advice that I learned from all three of my brothers and both of my sisters.  So trust me, I have seen the game played and all.   What do you think you should do???
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Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
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Stop listening to your sister and start trusting your own judgement.  If your man is true to you, you'll know it by his own actions.  If you have too many opportunities to be unsure of what he says, that gut feeling is probably right, and if you get to that point, you don't need proof, you just move on.  Someone who makes you wonder repeatedly, isn't giving you what a relationship is supposed to be about. If you have no reason to doubt him, you'll feel that too.  Stay in touch with your sister, but if she's an instigator and frequently negative, tell her you don't want to hear that stuff and if she continues with it, hang up.  You only get one family.  Don't shut your sister out but just don't buy into gossip or games, and learn to trust in your own judgement.  It's usually the best guide.
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hi dear!!!\nu know what???\nwe're in the same situation,,,,\nhe's like a girl,, pickle minded,,,\nhe said he loves me then in few week,, he'll say that he still love his x,,\ndamn!!! freaks me out\nyou know what,,, i still trust him everytime hetells me that he loves me,,, though i cant feel it much for he lives in england and im here in philippines... well,, dear,, in your case,,, if you really love her,, dont give up,,, talk to her again,,, let her know how much you love her and how you feel,,, be brave,,, speak out,,\ntalk!!! if ahe cried,, there's still love,,, dont give up,,, you might regret not doing anything to have her in your life!!!\n\nhope you could have the right lady whom yoou deserve to have!!!!\nsomeone you love and could love you too!!!\ntake care!!!\nGod bless!!!\n\n\nl_e_a_h_02@yahoo.com
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I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
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All I can say is that you and your sister both know better and need to nip this in the budd. She is your sister! There is a big difference between a "sister" and a "lover." What yall two have been doing is called incest/lust. If she was to get pregnant yals child would be deformed, not to mention the heartache that your family has to endure when they find out. If yall don't end this matter now, yall will never be able to fully recover yalls brother-sister relationship as it should be. I would suggest sleeping in separate rooms from now on.  Also, ask yourself this question, if you died today. do you think you would go to heaven or hell for all eternity. This is something for you to seriously think about. The Bible states that all liars, sexual immoral, adulters, etc place is in the lake of fire. Please repent yall before its too late.
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2 questions...\n\n1. How hot are you? Cause if you're cute, I guarantee he's at least thought about sleeping with you.\n2. Is he going to marry this girl? Is she really right for him? Let's face it, every relationship you have, up until the last one, is just practice.\n\nYou will definitely ruin the friendship...the final question is, if you tell him...will you become lovers or just uncomfortable acquaintances??
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Sounds like he is gay and afraid to come out of the closet, sounds like he is using your sister as a mask, per say, to hide his true sexual orientation. Most non-gay men want sex all the time with women. Most are not virgins at 25. If he was not gay, he would not be "flattered" that gay men are looking at him like that. He would most likely be "disgusted" at it. He could be bi also that is always a possibility.
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I'm guessing you mean she finds him attractive, but only physically. If this is the case you have nothing to worry about because she told you. If she lusted for him in secret then it would cause you worry. Since she told you about it then it's not any different than you commenting on a pretty lady when the two of you are watching a movie. there are lots of attractive people out there man and women. That's why we have models. It doesn't mean she wants to be with them emotionally. Sounds like she is reserving that for you. Just be proud that your the one shes with and wants to be with.
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Honey...sorry to say this but this wonderfull boyfriend of yours does not respect u or the realationship that he has with u..just by reading what u wrote i can tell that this kind of behavior from him breaks your heart...u shouldn't put up with this at all...if he is staring at her in front of u..god only knows what he does behind your back..it doesn't matter what any of us post here to say to u...But if i was u i would move on...get your things when he is not around and get out of this relationship...think about it this way...if i was your sister and i told u what u are telling us...what would u say?...see what i mean?...there are some wonderful guys out there that u havn't even met yet that are dying to meet u
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he s a JerK.. and you are a S|_UT! you are both sick!! did you read the stupid silly question you typed here??\n "im plotting to meet some one and have a real affair with them not some fling im talking maybe fall in love with the other person"\n "now i just have to get out and find that other person"\nYou are SCUM!\nok..excuse.. im going to puke and will be back in a minute\np.s: poor kid
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I actually know what you mean.  At one of my gf's parties i was having fun just talking to this guy and my gf saw that and gave me this look like what the hell are you doing.  She is my first gf too and I haven't really been with anyone else, so I can understand what you must be feeling or fearing might happen.  My gf made it real clear that she was a little disturbed by what she was seeing and after that I realized how much it bothered her and now I am more aware of what I can and can't do.  With us it is kind of a little game though. She has done the same thing to me.  She will look at other girls and make comments just to see my reaction.  It is kinda funny that she is worried about me however, because she happens to be bi while I find myself more straight up gay.  I should really be more afraid of her time alone with a guy she finds attractive.  Perhaps what your gf is going through is similar.  Maybe she knows it bothers you or maybe she is just not sure how much it bothers you. I would definetely talk to her.  Communication is always the best way to treat little problems like these.  Be honest yet compassionate and not too firm with her.  It just seems that the trust between the two of you needs to be strengthened.  Number one thing.  Be brutally honest!  It tends to work out more than not.
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You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
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The other day i met a guy i graduated from high school w  had not seen him in yrs    he was always a good looking boy and now a very handsome man! he came up to me and gave me a hug and i responded w how are u  long time no see!  as we chatted he informed me he just quit the navy to be closer to home....well as we chatted and caught up for yrs of life in no more than what was really 2 minutes at the most of conversation,  and heavy set women w short hair and glasses approached us  w a look of death on her face  now no one else was in room except my self and my lt. commander b/f (i was not alone either)  she continued to walk up to this once brave and driven man and accuse him of wanting to fuc_ me!  Now i am not from this kind of group of women  so of course it made me mad to be accused of such ridiculous accusations, and i WAS w a guy who knew we had obviously not seen each other since graduation from the first conversation!   so what do u think this Navy man's reaction was?   Nope, he bowed down like a puss_  the name i do not use often  but he earned it    i told him   what happened to the man i once knew  would never had tolerated his gal treating strangers, or ole chums in such a fashion...  i was put in a very awkward position,,,,my man told him to adjust his wife,,,(on order)  and he then followed orders to shut her up.... when it came down to    he cowboyed up found his tongue and wrote my man an e-mail and said he for the first time found the peace.... he left her! eheheheh   Why did such a guy change from a man to a puss_?   Why did she have such control   she was not pretty  overweight  and loud    he was still same man other than panty whipped!   he could certainly find a good women  so why did she act so possessive? why did he let her??? ive been seeing this all too often now  and as a women i am not pleased w the idea that jealousy rules a relationship   jealousy is a form of hatred for an enemy,  and love is not an enemy!  \n     good luck!