Just currious\ndo you like to follow someone else's led or do you take charge!not just in bed but in general.\n\nAnother member said only real men should be in charge of a relationship. so I'm curious how the rest of you feel about this.
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Did you mean dominant? DOrmant is bordering on necrophilia!\n\nNo, I believe that there is no relationship happening without reciprocity - i.e. you take turns in taking the iniative. As a feminist, I try to assert myself (both sexually and nonsexually) without going to the point of aggressively dominating him.\n\nthat's the ideal anyway! like any human being I need the other person to take the lead too... everybody wants to be wanted!
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Most definately. As a woman who has slept with many men, I can count on 1 hand the amount of men who can control themselves. I can also only count on 1 hand the amount of men who really know how to please a woman. This is a very sad state of affairs men. You need to practise and have sex from the woman's perspective. Very disappointing.
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yes personally i like oepn and direct guys because you always know where you stand.  It means that they know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.  Now there is a very thin line between open/direct and Arrogant/hurtful...so as long as the guy isn't out to one up somebody....open and direct is the way to go...less games
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You're christian morals went out the door w/f*ck the sex.Not everyone is the way you've explained in great detail.Putting your card on the table is a good thing if you don't do it as soon as you meet someone.There is nothing wrong with thatMen are not weaker that way.I prefer my man to be that way.And Im with you on the sex.Too dangerous.You must be lookin in the wrong place.
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I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
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Ok - I hate to play it off as a "guy" thing but it seems to be as such. We just don't realize when we're doing it. It's not a sexual thing - we just tend to have a hold of "ping and pong" without realizing it.My wife points out all the time that I am doing it - she says I hold them more than she does. I hereby apologize for the entire male population for our actions - ( but actually we'll still do it unknowingly ) - - - just from an honest guy standpoint
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OK so you can't put all men in a box or women but there is a common thread most men would take sexy and or elegant over a slut any day i think your right !\n\nand i have  a question for you did you post this just to see how many people you could piss off ? ♠
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Sometimes, men actually want women to make the first move.  take me for example: i have never really had a whole lot of relationships, but when i got together with my fiance, i made all of the moves, except the first kiss.  I was quite often uncomfortable making the first moves because i was unsure of how she would react.  On the night of our first kiss, i really liked how sweet and sincere the kiss ended up being.  And i know that i would not have made my move that night, because i was far too nervous.  She could see this, and decided to take initiative.  I personally liked it.  It also shows me that the woman knows what she wants, versus "needs" the guy to make decisions all the time.  By the way, it sounds like if he doesn't really look at you, he might be a little nervous around you, and is unsure of how you'd react if he asked you. Go for it!!  I think that most men don't mind if a woman takes initiative, unless that man is insecure about himself and needs to feel "macho" or something by being the decision maker.
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In what context?  And just where are you from?\n\nHow do "so many" men act like women.  And just how many men do you know anyway?\n\nIs this a good thing?  A bad thing?  A good thing for women, but bad for men?  A good thing for men, etc.....\n\nI am very feminine in most ways, but I act like a stereotypical guy in others - for instance, I leave dirty clothes scattered around.  My husband is macho, but loves roses like I do and is awesomely romantic.\n\n\nThe thing is, we are people first, and male or female second (or third, fourth....).  When you say that "Only women should act like this" or "Men should never act like that" you are placing artificial boundaries on people's behavior, and that can only be detrimental to our world.  Only by allowing all of us to employ what works the best for us regardless of archaic sex roles will our society even have a chance at fulfilling our potential.
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I love sex. Expecially when a man knows what he is doing. I have a busy schedule, so I try to rape my husband atleast twice a week. I gotta show him that I am boss in the bed. (SMILE)
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Excellent question. And to all the doubting ladies in the answers above, this husband gets his wife surprise flowers. Splits the chores at least 50-50 (ha - she doesn't do any yardwork, but I do about a fourth of the laundry, more than half the cooking, and at least half the cleaning). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is (and she *is*!) Spend time talking to her (when our 3 kids aren't in the way!) and basically everything everyone says I should be doing. We've talked about our sexual desires and it's quite clear that my sexual satisfaction is last on her list of priorities. What she considers good sex is merely adequate "duty" sex to me. I won't complain too much, but it seems like I'm "owed" more than 10 minutes of sex once a week... Not contemplating an affair, but can totally understand where this guy's question is coming from.
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Time to try to understand how men think - and, boy, is it different than women.  Not better; not worse - just different.  We women like the PDA stuff ("public displays of affection") and we like to be courted and we like to be lovey-dovey in public.  Most of that is genetic - by such displays, we mark out territory and property -("Yep, see?  He's mine.")  It also comes from our nesting instincts - all lovey-dovey and then we nest at home.  Men, on the other hand, mark their territory by killing the challangers from the outside.  So snuggles and loving stuff put on display doesn't exactly match their genetic make up.  It is, for the most part, a learned behavior on their part.  And they learn it because (a) they want you and (b) it works.  It doesn't mean that - because they have to learn it - they don't love you, they learn it because they want you and they keep it up now and then because they love you.  But, really, overall - mean like to keep their relationships with women on the quiet side - secure, protected, and private.  They have no need to demostrate it outside of the bonds of the two of you.  So he is probably sporadic in how demonstrative he is.  And I mean, really, do you WANT him hanging all over you and professing his love when you are trying to just move and be a couple ?  I don't think so.  That's sooooo Romeo and Juliet and so unsustainiable in real life.  Now if he is night and day between the private couple and the public couple, you might want to have a discussion about that.  I mean, if he treats you like some unimportant stranger when you are around his friends and family but like is lover in private, THAT'S no good.  But if you two can find a nice medium between your desire to have him lovey-dovey in public and his desire to be reserved in public, that's the way to go.  You know, having his arm around your shoulder when you are next to him, but not needing him to whisper in your ear that you are the most ravishing creature in the world - that would be a nice balance.  Having him touch you on the shoulder when he leaves the room - an acknowledgment - but not having to announce he is leaving and that he will love you while he is gone --- that is a nice balance, don't you think ?  Balance - that's the key.
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Ew...I think he's just a big cheese. Who really says things like that without underlying meanings? He's probably just trying to get laid. And I agree with the lady who posted first, I am kind of offended that that is how he described the work we do. My marriage is more like a  partnership where we share all of the responsibilities whether it be child-rearing, house-cleaning, or working. I don't like being described as someone whp has the dinner on the table by five o'clock and has the kids bathed so my husband doesn't have to do a thing to help. That's just ridiculous.
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Are you partly doing this because your partner is impotent and you need to get laid? I don't mean to sound rude with that question, I'm just wondering why you mentioned that as part of your reasoning for doing so. Well, how does your partner feel about the whole situation? There are risks with this job of course. When you're out there for any man with money to have there way with you, you're more than likely to run into men who are low lives, with no respect towards women, and may be violent toward you. Not saying all men who pay for services are necessarily low lives, but there will be those in the group. Be sure to ALWAYS use protection, and remember there are some things that can't be stopped with protection, most likely something caught while kissing... Well, there are many risks when dealing with such a lifestyle, but if that's the life you want to live, then I beleive you should have the right to take risks. But remember, you do have a daughter, and I hope your husband is ok with it later on, after the fact. It's easy to be ok with something, until it actually happens. I asked about your husbands impotence because I know there are escort services out there that don't require giving it up... But I'm thinking that's what you want to do.
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i'm too dominant to play one all the time, but i love being a slave for the night.  last time my husband tried to find my limits (he didn't believe me that i don't have any!)  he did tell me that i was a good little girl after we were all done!  so mostly i was tied and had to use my mouth... a lot.  i was blind folded for a little while.  we were outside in the front yard the whole time (we live in the country) so that made it even more exciting.  i brought my bag-o-fun so we had plenty of toys involved as well.\n\non the flip side, i don't get to be master like i want to be.  that would consist of sex at least, and i do mean at least, twice a day.  i have an extremely high libido that kids did not even damper.  so if it was my way, it would be all day!
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I'm not a guy, but I can guarantee you - he prefers YOU doing the chase!  There are just some men who are laid back and the 'turn on' to them is the female chase. There is nothing wrong with that, but based on the information you provided, it seems he is most comfortable with YOU taking this lead. You are not 'hearing him"...you say he ADMITS he is shy about taking the lead. Listen to him. He 'ain't gonna change that much'. You guys really need to talk about this openly and honestly.
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Ok..then let me return to you this question:what do you call a man who sleeps with a lot of women?Why is it ok for men to do this,but women should stick to one man?That is so hypocrite!