but she knew him for 4 yers i've known him for 3 i had a crush on him the day we met and that was that but for the past year shes decided she likes him too.and were both really good friends with this guy and i know for a fact that he likes me and just wants to be friends with her?what should i do?
204027
Both need to back off, for the sake of your friendship.
437879
Go for it. She definitely likes you. You have a lot in common. WHAT CAN GET BETTER!???\n\nYou guys are perfect for each other. Good luck :P
320844
OK, this is for if you are sure he likes you: go out with some friends somewhere and start flirting with another guy. If you feel like you could actually pursue this guy and have something with him, then you don't really like your friend. But, if you are only thinking of your friend when you are with the other guy, then you really do like him. I'd say if this has been going on so long, you DO like him, but are afraid of ruining what you already have. I say go for it, cuz it's better than looking back later when it's too late and wondering what you could have had. Hope this helps!
309972
Why is it her fault that he used to like her?\n\nIt would be one thing if she was still trying to be with him. But you didn't say that. All you said was that he used to  like her. Is there no one that you used to like but don't anymore?\nGo have a good time and do not let things he did in his past hold you back.\n\nIf you really do trust him you will not have a problem.
489962
In my experience I have learned you should just get over him.  One of my best friends (that was a girl) liked me and it got really awkward for a long time.  But if you think you have a shot and it is worth the risk go for it.
449470
Let him go, obviously, he wanted your friend and he realized that you were still the girl for him.  What makes you think, that he wont do this again.  He finds another girl that he is attracted to and says   f-you...i want her now.\n\nGirl, go find a good  man becuz he doesnt even deserve you.
179356
If you like this girl for more than her looks, then you might know some of the things she is interested in?  If not, take the leap! I am a 20 year old female, I don't know everthing about relationships but one thing I do know is that if you don't take that first step, you may never know what could have been.  If things don't work out and she isn't interested in you like you would hope, then things weren't meant to be.  When I was a sophomore in high school I dated a freshman guy who approached ME.  I knew then as much as I know now that he had a pair of you know what and I credit him for approaching me (I understand it isn't easy!!) And break the habit of talking through the friend to get to the girl, the sooner the better because you're wasting your time!! I hope I was some help : )
501736
when your friend starts liking someone its always tough because they want to try and spend so much time with that person to see where the feelings there will go and unfortunately, that means spending less time with you and probably his other friends too. its just a natural thing that happens. the best thing you can do now is be supportive, so at least he knows that when things dont work out  with that girl, youll still be there for him
658399
Well if this girl is your friend then she should know that you like him. I guess what I would do if you like him is call him up and plan something just so you know that he knows you like him. Then when you go out with your "Friend" and him she will be shocked maybe because he really won't be paying attention to the flirting that he will recieve from her and pay more attention to you!!!!!!!1 I would personally drop the so called friend if she goes after the same guy!!!!!!!!
635844
I think you should just be a friend for now and be there for him and it maybe hard because you like him.but as friends you guys will get to know each other and just maybe you will become more then friends..maybe not what you want to hear.
185192
i would get to know him! become his friend look in his eyes when you talk and smile whenever he walks in the room! that gives him a huge hint!\n\ndont break them up because that is just wrong. but once you become his friend be around him alot call him be his buddy then when you know him well enough pull him to the side and tell him how you feel. im sure you will get a good responce\n\nLove ~*Chloe*~
360308
if you're friend liked him before you then you need to back off. That's so wrong if she truly likes him. If she's cool with it then talk to him a bunch and flirt with him..n there ya go
604735
Better not ask him out together since both your friend and you like the same guy. I got a friend in the same situation. Later he got together with one of the gals and the 3 of them are like really awkward! Think of your friendship!
403598
Wow. A question that actuially fits my situation. Ok, im going to tell you what happened then im going to tell you what you should do. I really liked this girl. I've known her for four years and liked her for two of them. She liked me, then she didn't, she liked me then  she didn't, etc. She basicially led me on some times. I tried to ask her out and she said somthing like "I like you too, just not like you like me, bla bla bla no". It sucked. I was crushed. I tried to forget about her twice and it just ended up me looking like an ass and getting farther away from my goal. I would do anything for this girl, if she was sad id do whatever i could to cheer her up. if she was mad id listen and talk to her about it. if she was feeling down i told her exactly how i felt about her. Then she went out with this guy. Of course I was pissed off. I got in so many verbal fights with him because, by that time, the whole school knew I liked her by the way word gets around. I really don't know why nothing happened, everything was there, she thought I was hot I thought she was beautiful, We got along really well, liked the same music, everything fit. I'd give anything for a second chance at that first time I asked her out. Nothing will happen. I now know that. as much as i dont want to accept that, its true. and i need to.\n\nBut anyways, my story doesn't help you, but it gives you a realization of what can happen.\n\nYou have two options.\n1. Tell him you don't like him like that and expect him to be sad.\n2. If theres any attraction on your part, you can go out with him, if it works out great if it doesn't, oh well. because i bet hed do anything for that one chance.\n\nthe choice is up to you though. of course im going to lean towards the second option but the right choice is probably the first one. good luck.
240666
I suggest you make sure they are not bf/gf.  You stated she likes?  and then stated her bf.  If she just liked him, then you did nothing wrong. As that is past tense.  If it is her bf, then you did something wrong.  So enjoy life and I bet yourfriend is going to last longer than the guy you kissed...
278507
no she is not your friend and she might try to talk to you after and she might try to be nice and everything but you need to keep in mind the next time that you both like the same guy be careful if she starts saying things.
95325
well first of all you guys are all friends right.. think about how you would feel if one of your best friends dated your crush, sure you wouldnt say anything because they are your friends but inside you'd be hurt.. do you want her to feel like that? she needs to ask him how he feels, and get it all out in the open. if not someone's going to get hurt and it's never going to get resolved!!