I have this guy friend that likes me alot, we have been friends for about 3 months now. I also have a boyfriend who I have been seeing for 15 months. My boyfriend and I fight alot lately, and my friend can see that. My friend says that my boyfriend doesnt deserve me and if I continue seeing him (my bf), then he wont talk to me or even look at me anymore. I dont know what to do. I dont really think that is fair of him. What do you think?
200497
What your friend is doing is black mailing you, just to try to hook up with you. But if you let your guard down and go out with your friend it won't be based on true love, it will be based on dishonesty and you won't be very happy. I say forget about your friend because if he is willing to try to blackmail you into being his lover then he is not a true friend.
416106
While we like to believe the our friends have the best intentions when telling us something that someone else said about us or our relationship, they don't always get it right.  It sounds like this is the case.  He said, "not at the moment" - he didn't rule it out forever, just not right now.  You have to ask yourself if this person is worth waiting for, if the relationship is worth working for.  Something I have discovered is that when people break up there is usually a reason, and unless that reason is resolved completely, it is only a matter of time, if they get back together, that they break up again.\n\nBottom line here - if you believe him, does it really matter what anyone else says or thinks?
247443
Helll Yeah girl, I went through that before and look if he is a true friend then he would not put a fu** before a friend. You will still be there when their relationship goes bad and it will cuz she sounds like a biatch! Beat that ho down!
643713
So in other words,  he decided to go along with this girl when she wanted to see how you would react to her having her hands on your boyfriend?  He decided to go along,  knowing that you were going to see and that it would not set well with you?  Do you not believe that you deserve better than someone who would stoop to that level "just to see a reaction"?  Him going along with it shows how little he thinks of you.  If it were me,  I would call it quits and seek someone who has some common sense.
93994
You dont give us alot of information here, do you really like him, what does your friend think of him?.  For this infomation, id say just let him go, because if he cheats on you now, he will probly cheat on you later. Good luck
193898
I think that this desicion is not up to its totally up to your friend. Thats her bf, not yours. She have to see him every day. She might see something into him that you and others dont see. Other ppl sometimes dont get this. let her make this chhoice.
158449
From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
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It sounds to me that either he really just doesn't give a fig about your relationship, or he really does but he doesn't want to show that he's bothered by what your friend said to him.\n\nSometimes guys SAY that they don't care just because they don't want to talk about a potentially tough subject for them. At the same time, he's being insensitive to your feelings.\n\nMy advice: Firstly, do YOU even want to go out with him, or do you just have a boyfriend so that you can say that you have one? Do you actually LIKE this guy or not? If you have feelings for him, and want to try and salvage this relationship, corner him and tell him, "Look, everytime I try and talk about stuff, you just shut me out. That really bothers me. It makes me think that you don't care about me. I don't want to break up with you, but unless you actually show me that you care about me and want to be my boyfriend, I'm going to have to break this up. I need a boyfriend that actually wants to be with me and will treat me nicely."\n\nThere, end of story.
453950
Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
321536
About time, you asked what he thinks of you. It seems that you have slipped into that friendship realm, not the boyfriend one.\nUnless some change is made, that's all it will ever be.\nSpeak up, and ask him outright.
251817
i think you should talk heart-to-heart with your friend why she has started disliking your boyfriend when she earlier liked him. MAY BE she herself had feelings about him and this is the way she is expressing them after you have got together with him. this is perfectly normal and anyone would react that way. i think you should jus leave things like that. i am sure she'll get over these feelings on her own. just give it time.
402557
You should stop beating the crap out of yourself for one...  You have a good friendship.  Good friendships are generally screwed up by dating.  Just roll with it.  Be glad you still have a good friend and go find yourself a boyfriend.  Maybe do a double date or something!  Don't try to fix something that isn't broken.  You can still keep him as a friend and date other folks.  Sounds like a plan to me.  You'll be fine as long as you give yourself a break and stop looking for reasons why you did something wrong.  You did nothing wrong, he did nothing wrong, you're still friends, just roll with it before you mess up a good thing.
157540
alright hun obviously there is something going on within your present relationship that has you wanting this other man. But even if there is a man's best friend is a subject YOU BETTER BE PREPARED TO TACKLE IF YOU PERSUE. Because like the saying goes, girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but a best friend last forever. They've known each other longer than you and trust me from experience they will turn on you. I lost a good man at that time because i persued his best friend. Hun, unless you can deal with the consequences, back off and let him come to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't then you have your answer and accept it. But if u feel u need to know go for it, but be prepared for what comes down the road
519813
A lot of us have been in a situation similar to this..dont interfere in your friends relationship..they are happy you just have to accept it..you need a boyfriend of your own and then you will be ok.
21892
Tell your friend out of respect.  They deserve to know that their boyfriend likes someone else.  Unfortunately for you, unless your friend doesn't like her boyfriend you probably won't be friends very long if you date her ex.  Decide whether the boy or friend is more important to you because this will be a situation where you only get to keep one.
247975
sorry 2 hear tht... yeah i saw ur other questions about ths guy b4. actually i also experienced ths kinda situation b4. at first, i was really good friend with ths grl & passed 2 funfull yrs until i found out tht i love her. and i had hint tht she loved me too. but other things came up i couldn't give her a chance 2 express herself. but whn i expressed myself, she rejected saying tht she never felt like ths towards me, which's a lie. also all on a sudden she hooked up with some1 else to take myself off her mind & replace me with him. the most shocking part is, being heartbroken i still tried to be her friend but slowly she made a distance between us & destroyed our beautiful friendship.\n\nmy point is, affection towards a friend happens all the time. but there r some issues involved regarding friendship, other ppl around u etc. as a friend, u were suppose 2 knw tht he already has a gf. but u didn't, which is not usual. so mayb he doesn't hav any gf & story of having a gf is the most reasonable way to dump u with hurting u less. and don't bother if he doesn't like u or not. if he didn't like u, u wouldn't be yur friend. but it can be true tht he's not feeling attracted 2 u as he told u. tht doesn't mean tht u r not attractive or he doesn't like u. there can be a lot of different reasons involved regarding friendship or something else.\n\nfrom my opinion, look into yur heart. if u think tht u really want him & u knw tht he has actually feelings for u thn stick 2gether & mayb someday things'll work out. but the downside is u donno if thts gonna happen. so there's a chance to get heartbroken again frm the same person for the same reason. on the other hand, continue being friend & move on, find another guy who understands u & doesn't hurt u like ths. but whtever happens, yur friendship wth ths guy will not gonna be same frm now on.\n\nhope ths works. feeling sorry 4 u!
316254
well that is simple DUMP THAT FOOL he isnt the right guy for you, if he is fooling around with your friends then you should dump that jerk move on and get some one who treat's you right! and if you stay with him your just hurting your self so move on 'cause you ant getting any younger so the best thing to to do is to get some one else who treat's you like your a queen also thats the oldest excuse in the book "i must have been trunk" or somthing like that it doesnt even matter because a real friend and boyfriend would never do that to you so my advice is dump those two losers get some new friends get a new boyfriend and call it a day!!!!!!