Short story-\nSecond date after a few good conversations. We had a great date, wonderful conversation and we clicked like crazy. He set up a third date with me after I had slept with him. The next day, he cancelled it. I asked him if he felt differently and to just tell me, I like directness. He told me no, he wanted to go out again many more times and that he felt the same as he did before. But, he did break that date and it's been two days since that conversation and I haven't gotten any calls or emails from him since. Yeah, I know, two days isn't long, but I hated that he broke our date and then didn't set up anything else. Just 'I'll call.' We're not kids either. I would hope this kind of thing wouldn't happen at this age. Oh well.. Am I obsessing over something stupid, or have I been blown off?
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Sounds to me like he wants the steak dinner without having to pay the tab. (Looks as though he got it too) Don't look for him to be making reservations at this restaurant when there are NO LINES elsewhere.
257773
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
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Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!
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You might have missed an opportunity.  It sounds like you asked him on a specific date, which was bad timing for him.  You should've mentioned that you could get with him another time when he wasn't busy.  Try asking him again.
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cancel cancel cancel! There is a reason you didn't want to date him in the first place! I once dated a guy, because I  didn't know how to say no, before the second date I had a bad feeling and really didn't want to go out with him anymore, well towards the end of that second date, he was really forceful, wanting me to have sex with him, luckily some people came upon us, but listen to your gut instinct. Nature provided that for us to HELP US!
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The date didn`t seem bad at all...and i don`t think the freeway thing scared her off so bad that she doesn`t wanna meet u anymore. She just came out of a relationship maybe she wants to wait a little be4 she gets serious again. U said u told her everything...did u also tell her that u are understanding if she doesn`t want to rush into a new relationship? About the b day...how about u send her a nice b day card with a coupon for a nice dinner?Or...u go over there give her some flowers and the card with the dinner coupon in there..?If she says yes to dinner u guys have some time to talk  and u can let her know that u never wanted to put pressure on her. U know her since 3 yrs..and u still didn`t give up i think thats awesome and i wish u the best of luck !
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you called him and didnt leave a message,now that is not good. leave a message. then he really wont have no excuse. if he dont get back to you, forget him. i know its hard when you like someone, but i know you would be saying the same thing to me if i had your prob. leave a message saying how great the other nite was and how you are looking forward to his cal. gud luck. x
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I've met a lot of people on a dating website.  Some guys are just on it to find some girl that they can have sex with.  Some guys are on there to find mr/mrs right.  I have met both types.  I met my current boyfriend off of a dating website, and I can see me being with him for the long haul.  We talked a fair amount online, then we started chatting on MSN, and then we talked ont he phone.  It sounds a little funny but our first date, wasn't that much of a normal date (movie/coffee), I needed a lift to our mall, cause my vehicle was busted and needed to get fixed and he offered me the ride.  We have almost been together ever since and talk every day.  You just have to be careful, and don't let the bad ones ruin it for you.
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It sounded to me that he just wanted you to be a friend only, at least at this stage. Try to cool yourself the passion from him and don't push him or yourself to be too emotionaly involved with him. If he really cares about you more than a friend, he would keep dating you no matter how many dates you're going to have (unless both of you enter in a serious relationship). You'll get a better picture of how well compatiable of both of you and realize more about his feelings toward you if you "step back" and "observe". It'll be better for both of you.
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Oh, man.  Has this not happened to anyone???  Mine was so bad I announced a vow of celebacy to one and all and eradicated the words 'date', 'love', 'marriage', and several others from my vocabulary and spent two or so years studying every religious text and book on philosophy ever written and getting black belts in several martial arts.\n\nThen one day I met somebody who'd been just as verbal about relationships and became good friends.  And whammo!  There it  was - like a 2x4 right between the eyes, simultaneously after a few months.  We then spent 24 hours completely denying it and going on about not ruining our friendship.  After 24 hours, we were going, "Um, weren't we NOT going to do this?"  Eight and a half years later, and we're still together and greatly bemused by it all.\n\nSince then I've met quite a few people who'd given up on love, and a similar thing happened.  It's almost like screaming up at the Gods of Irony, "YUP, never gonna date again, ever, EVER!!!\n\nI think you really have to mean it though.  So, focus on some other goal in life, make a point of making sure you're friends with somebody first before dating them, because I've since discovered that every lasting relationship I know of started off with a firm foundation of friendship, and one day when you least expect it or even want it, you'll get the 2x4 to the head.
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he is going to play hard to get, guys mostly like to chase, they dont actually want to catch you.....try calling off the date and see if he starts up again?
45494
He said he wants more of a chase.. Do that. make him chase you.. You are actually doing too much! Back off a bit..when you didn't call for two days that worried/challenged him.... thats exactly what he wants! Don't smother him and when you do talk to him, tell him you want him and no other..you don't want him to really believe that you have given up. But you do need to give him a challege. Be confident in yourself and act like the kind of girl any man would die to be with. When he tries to make a date to be with you, tell him you need to check your schedule first...don't be so easy to get!!
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If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
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At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
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I think you ought to finish the date. He can't help it if he doesn't measure up to all your expectations. And you don't have to go out with him again,  but don't be too cruel when he telephones.
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1) Drove 18 hours to see him (online relationship), and didn't meet in the right location. We ended up meeting, but man was he a jerk!\n\n2) Met the guy at an ice cream store, and he came to take me out. He ended up being a drug abuser and alcoholic, and I was so happy to  get out of his truck!\n\n3) With my husband, our first date was great. He drove 2 hours to see me, and we went to a Chili's in the area. We came back to my dorm and made brownies, danced a little bit (I am a classic ballroom dancer), and then kissed in my dorm. Great times!
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There is something a little disturbing about a portion of what you wrote, this part below:\n"We have tried to date previously but I found out he was messing with someone else. I don't know whether he's being honest, or lying and I'm falling for it. We both want this to work"\nIf you tried to date previously but you found out he was messing with someone else, how did you find out?  Did he confess to you, or did someone tell you.  Basically what I'm getting at is this, people show us who they are and what they are all about early on.  We choose to either ignore that or think it will get better because we are attracted to certain things about them.  The truth is when someone really has an interest and wants to explore the possibilities of a relationship, they do just that.  I understand a person being skeptical and the fear of  getting hurt,  but life is about taking chances.  Wen a person shows hesitation in furthering the friendship, there is usually a reason, one that I think goes deeper than that.