Not only fighting but also picking on you all the time, whenever you go out you have to beg her to take care of herself, like putting some make up, earrings, clean clothes, fix her hair and things like that, or to be more active, instead of be seated watching TV all day, do you think that she will change…
216651
well if that's what shes doing it means one of two things she just plain lazy and was just putting on a  show to get with you int he first place, or she just feels comfortable enough around you to be like that you know?
201058
Why would you treat her differently? Just be there for her when she needs you.
482892
When she asks for something, don't give it to her.  You may want to help her, but she's not going to want to take care of herself until she knows that she absolutely has to.  Right now she depends on you and social security because she knows you'll always help so she doesn't have to do anything herself.  Stop, and maybe she will learn some responsibilty.
571224
Maybe she sees to much of herself in you. Maybe she doesn't want you to turn out like her. That is why she is so hard on you. She probably doesn't even realize it.
247124
He sounds like a spoiled brat with reality issues. She needs to drop him ... NOW! \n\nAnd yes, it's possible to affect someone's mental health by that sort of behavior, especially if they have rather delicate mental stability.
12230
Yes, I do believe if you want something you must fight for it. Nothing good ever comes for free. I am not a big girl, I am on the other end of the spectrum. I am thin & when I try to have a conversation with, be nice to, strike up a frienship with an overweight female they are mean to me, make snide remarks, complain about my weight, treat me like dirt. So, I make no effort to be nice anymore! I say F#$k you! It's not my fault your bigger than me! Get the hell over it!!!
469585
Its nice to have a concerned friend but if she perceives your concern as bullying you will acheive nothing.  Losing weight is a very personal decision and she will not do it until she is ready to...;
338855
Too much time spent trying to look good in the press... shows signs of a guilt complex.... so, probably!\n(be careful guys n' gals... she may try to get all of us for our comments!) ;)
344457
Yep.  Sometimes they just go through stages.  Maybe puberty?  But, she'll get past it and be back to normal before you know it.
153770
I think that if she's not willing to give you 100% of herself in any form, then she's not worth your time.  That's a hard thing to admit to yourself sometimes, but you deserve someone who's willing to give you all of themselves and make sacrifices.
119838
I think to a degree this is true\n\nFor example, if a women has bad BO you may conclude that she doesn't consider hygiene much of an issue, and therefore may not keep it tidy down below.\nAlso, the well presented side of it - if she's put a lot of effort into what you can see (outfit, haircut, etc) then she probably puts a lot of effort into what you can't see (underwear, bikini-line)
252971
I think she may still be self-conscious even though she's lost weight.  She had been a thick girl for awhile, and even though she's lost weight, her self image may still be a little low. Or, it could be just that she likes doing something different. Who knows...
625675
she probably REALLY doesnt get everything she wants, but it probably does SEEM that way to you... if she drives you crazy, it might be because she is trying so hard  to be like you... you are her role model.....\n\nthe big thing to remember is that you are almost twice her age... she still needs alot of attention from you, mom and dad and family, whereas you probably seek most of the attention you need from friends and from family too....\nusually when you feel like a younger sibling is spoiled or bratty you really feel like they get all the attention and your left to your own devices...so to speak...\nthink about it...... and think about this too..... ask yourself, what can I do  to make things better? even though you might wanna knock her socks off sometimes, when you see her being bratty ask yourself why is she doing this...what does she need? who does she need it from.... chances are she is looking for attention, wanting to be noticed, admired, wanting feedback telling her that she is ok....  just like her big sister..  :)  \nthen ask yourself, what can i do to help her get what she needs?\nis she is just being bratty to spite you, then you need to ask yourself why does she want to do that.. what have you said, or done to make her feel like she has to do that....  \nif you cant see where you had anything to do with her behavior, then its time to go talk to mom.....\ntell mom your thoughts and observations, and see if mom sees what you see... then mom will probably handle the situation, or tell you what you arent seeing....\njust remember first and foremost.... bratty kids are usually just showing out because they need attention that they dont feel like they are getting.... and being only 9 she doesnt know how to say what she needs..... which only adds to her frustration.... \ntry it and see what happens..
495979
Sounds like she needs psychological help.
475649
Just explain that sometimes you would like to do it a bit gentler. Do it her way sometimes and your way other times.
222096
think this is a psychological issue with her wanting both attention, and feeling self loathing for her condition of having to rely on another person...\nperhaps, she knows u are nice, and may want to drive you away to make her self loathing complete...i have a suggestion; try to do something really nice, then talk to her about i dunno, nice things, things that make her feel godd, until you break and strip her entire facade of being evil, until she cries her eyes out. tell her u will be there for her, etc. then once u 'break' her, or strip her facades, maybe you can see the tru pic, or she'll end up loving u till kingdom come...\nsomething like that...
266258
Of course, but do I think he's going to try and get her in the gym with him and trim her down some, of course.  He's into physical shape and conditioning, he's going to want her to take care of herself also