i am gay and i know that no one knows it not even my parents but thats not my problem. its telling the people i slightly know it, i am a semi loner and have had no relationships in... ever, so i need desperate help! how can i tell if they are too, how do i ask them   siriusblack1963, 17
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if it dosent scare you and if it feels right i say go for it
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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listen, sometimes the best friend is the one who is your complete opposite. they might know exactly what you feel like even though they haven't had your experiences. just keep your eyes open everywhere, and don't ignore them because they're not christian, or because they weren't gay once.
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Do what you feel right for you. If you're sure this guy likes you back then you can fight it together. Does his parents know he's gay? If they do it'd be even better they can talk with you parents and let them understand.\n Just remember one thing: GOD DOESN'T HATE GAYS, no matter what anybody tells you just remember that sentence and you'll be just fine.\n\n I know exactly how you feel, I'm gay too and my parents doesn't know either and I'm really scared of telling them but I know I have to someday.\n\n If you're 100% you're gay then you have to tell them, you owe it to them, they need to know and then they'll decide. If you're still living with them then don't tell them until you move out so they won't kick you out.\n\n Hope everything works out good for you.\n  Keep in touch (Click on my name and then click "Contact Michael" if you would like to send me an email)\n         Chao                                  Peace
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Perhaps your mom is trying to find a place because she wants you to know that she understands.  \n\nI hate to say this, but I did the same when my son came out this summer.  I think I was the last person that knew he was gay.  I am sure it's denial that I've been in; nonetheless, I felt somehow that I needed to show him that I care and understand...and accept him no matter what.  How does one show that when presented with new lifestyle?  I told him that I could attend groups that support gays and was advising him to hang out with other gays so no one picks fun of him.  It may sound ridiculous but its just a mother making sure her child is "safe."  We may accept and understand but we know others do not and we just want to protect ours.\n\nSo you could really sit down with your mother and explain to her that you pretty much know what you want to do but let her know you appreciate her attempts to help you.  You can reassure her that you are not depressed, that you are also not bipolar.  \n\nSometimes when a parent doesn't understand (or accept readily), we think something else is the cause.  Just be frank with her so that she understands that you know what you want in life and that this is it...that she doesn't have to feel she needs to "orchestrate."   My son is 26.  He had to tell me because I didn't think I was doing that.  It's hard not to "mother" so much.  :)
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I have told friends personal info over the years.  Nothing like "I was rapped as a small boy" type things.  More along the lines of "wow your mom is banging dude!"  They took it pretty well, and after a few days the swelling on my face went down, so everyone was happy :)  Hope that helped you.  But if you are looking into something like "I'm gay" just go ahead and tell them.  What's the worst that can happen?  He won't like you anymore?  Well, if he is a homophobic and you are gay, well them he wasn't a good friend anyway and you are better off without him.  Have I helped yet?  I hope so.
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Introduce him as your slave.  That should pull the wool over their eyes.\n\nSeriously, why hide who you are?  Are you ashamed of being gay?  [If you still live at home, you get a "bye" about telling your parents until you can support yourself.]\n\nGood luck!
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you're either extremely ugly or they think you're gay.\n\nno i'm joking - its a natural enough question to ask to get to know someone - what job they do and whether they're married or single, and where they live, its just a common question people ask all the time to get to know you.
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Ask them ... we dnt know ur friends....\nbut if u want friends ... im here!!!
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im a gay 16 year old goth and no one can tell that im gay. i have a normal deep voice i usualy go out and vandilize destroy  property and get drunk every weekend my parents allow it. listen to heavy and black metal. do things that can get me seriously injured and because of my dangerous way of life i guess people dont suspect me of being gay. so theres realy no certain way that you can tell.
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I personally think that if your not the type of person to sneak round then you shouldn't have a problem. Just point out that you have always been honest with them and that you don't want that to change but you think that you seriously need some for freedom. Take it slow, suggest being a loud out for parties or something or to just hang out with friends don't jump immediantly to dating but you might want to mention it. I got one of my friends to do this about a couple months ago and now she has a boyfriend and she goes out all the time, with her parents knowing too.
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I am on the way over to pick you up. Just give me your address so I wont drive around all night lost. LOL  As far as being gay why do you need or want to know? Are you gay? Looking for a date? And your family is not very considerate if you cant get up and they wont help
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HOnestly, there isn't one.  Sorry to be crass about it, but there is no magic bean here.  If you look around this section of Yahoo Answers, you'll find all sorts of people who want to know how they can fuction as gay people without anyone knowing they are gay, and the answer is you can't.  At the very least, you'll have to let the person you are interested in know you are interested, which is going to give up the secret real quick.\n\nThere are some things you can do with sampling however.  Spot tests are good -- bring up some gay topic like doesn't it suck that gay people can't get married or you don't see what the big deal about gayness.  If the person agrees with you and seems ok with it, then you can cautiously proceed.  If he violently disagrees with you, then back the hell off.
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It is really hard to tell friends that you are gay especially if the are narrow minded. Maybe you could just drop hints. Try defending gay people when they make fun of them. But, if you do tell them, be ready for rejection. And move on. You can still find other friends that will welcome who you are and will be comfortable about your preference.
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That really is a hard one to answer, a part of me would tell you to tell your parents yet there is a chance that things there could go sour. If I were you I would do my research i.e. stories out of the bible ( The good simaritain, the prodgical son... to name a couple. the prodgical son talks about unconditional love.)\nRemember being gay isnt against any belief its the sexual acts that arent liked in the church before marriage that goes for those who identify as straight as well,\nBut if you decide to hide it they will find out in the long run. Maybe drop hints here and there.
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Things are cut and dry.  You are gay, and he is straight.  He probably is just comfortable around you and enjoys your company.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be anything other than friends with you.  If he asks why yer still single, he just probably thinks yer a good guy and deserves to be with another good guy, but no necessarily him.  Keep being his friend, but dont think or hope for more.  If he really is gay, and decides to come out, Im sure you'll be the first to know, but until then... Just realize that he is STRAIGHT.
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no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.