The article is titled something like "Could you have loved so much?" It's about an American woman who loves her husband beyond ordinary love. He goes to Japan. Doesn't hear from him for a long time. But she keeps waiting. Then after some years, he writes to say he's married a Japanese woman. Though devastated she keeps in touch with her husband. Then husband dies. The American woman helps her husband's Japanese wife to immigrate to America and helps her to settle there.
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I woke my wife up one morning with a shrug on her shoulder as we both lay  in bed.  She asked me if I was going to speak to her that morning.  She was referring to my ability to shut down from angst and misery, both what I consider a byproduct of poor choices, and my inability to admit It wasn't for me.  She was right.  Snide, but right.  It was a long time since we spoke.  You'd think we had been asleep for years.\nBut I did answer her.  \nI said, yes I am, I'm leaving. \nI said, I'm miserable can't you tell.  Do I even remotely resemble the man you first met?  You deserve to be wanted, not just a compromise.  \nThat was Eight years ago and we are very close friends.  Oh, she is still a bitch, just somebody elses.  I am happy.  She is too.\n\nI hope this answer just changed a life.  Peace.
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Dianne\n\nMy answer was one of the answers you have complained about, and looking at it from your side of the fence, you are quite right.\n\nThe answer was borne out of the British, slightly comic perception of an ageing Englishman, probably a widower, who is desperate to have "relations" with young attractive women.  So he logs on to an internet dating site offering marriage to eastern ladies, corresponds with the lady briefly, then pays for her to come to the UK, marries her and then never sees her again because she is out of her possibly low quality life in the Philipines or Thailand or wherever and is a full UK citizen.  This is known as getting a "Mail Order Bride".\n\nFor upsetting you, I apologise.\n\nAnd you look very pretty.
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I see you are having considerable difficulty getting help with this novel.  I haven't read the novel, but possibly some links that discuss cultural assimilation involving various groups, including  Americans of Asian background, may be useful to you.  \n\nThese links should get you started on your assignment.  I hope this helps.
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An incredible story was during WWII and the 442nd regiment from Hawaii.  They were Japanese Americans who were sent in to France to liberate a bunch of cornered American soldiers.  It was a sucicide mission, but since they were of Japanese descent, no one cared.  (Remember we were fighting the Japanese).  The story is incredible.  Here's a good place to start.  http://www.scu.edu/SCU/Programs/Diversity/442nd.html
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story from the little box:-\n\nIt's meaningful....\n\nOnce upon a time, there was a teacher and his student lying down under a big tree near a big grass area. Then, suddenly, the student asked the teacher,\n\nStudent : Teacher, I'm confused, how can we find our soul-mate? Could you please help me?\n\nTeacher : (Silent for few second, than he answered)\n\nWell, it's a pretty hard and easy question.\n\nStudent : (Thinking hard) Huh???\n\nTeacher : Look on that way, there are a lot of grass there, why don't you walk there but please never walk backward, just walk straight ahead. On your way, try to find a beautiful grass and pick it up then give it to me. But just one.\n\nStudent : Well, ok then... wait for me... (walked straight ahead to the grass field).\n\nA few minutes later...\n\nStudent : I'm back.\n\nTeacher : Em, well I don't see any beautiful grass on your hand.\n\nStudent : On my journey, I found few beautiful grass, but I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up. But I didn't realize that I'm at the end of the field, and I hadn't picked up any. Because you told me not to go back, so I didn't go back.\n\nTeacher : That's what happened in real life.\n\nWhat is the message of this story?\n\n* Grass - is people around you\n* Beautiful Grass - is people that attract you\n* Grass Field - is time\n* In looking for your soulmate, please don't always\ncompare and hope that there will be a better one. By\ndoing that, you'll waste your lifetime, cause remember\n\n"Time Never Goes Back".\n\nIt applies the same in finding your ideal life partner, your suitable career or business, therefore the morale is LOVE & grab hold of the opportunity that you have now, don't waste time!
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That sentence is incomplete, which makes me hard to translate. The best I can do would be "The way Americans scold seems  ________________________ to Japanese." \nI can't judge what comes in the blank since the sentence you provided is incomplete, but it should be something like "the way americans scold(at children? am not sure) seems too harsh to Japanese (if you scold like that way, ....continues...) "
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Hi there...let me tell you my story...we met with my hubby on internet 4 yrs ago. We fell in love with each other the first time we spoke to each other, without even seeing a picture! We knew each other only through Yahoo Messenger (thanks Yahoo!:)) and we made that big STEP.I decided to get documents (I am from Europe) and come over.Nobody in my family knew,but my mother.Imagine meeting at Philly airport, among all these strangers....that kiss was the best kiss in my life...but going home after a wonderful week...was heartbreaking. I thought I would die...we realized we could not be without each other....and we are still deeply in love....He is the best what happened to me, however, I am realizing, how fortunate I was, someone up there was really watching out for me....so....If I may, I am strongly suggesting, meet in the USA. If he really cares, he will get the visas, be careful...AIDS, money, credit cards etc...sometimes it is better to keep that relationship as is...friendship...your heart must know....but don't forget the brain...who knows, there might me a reall Mr. Wonderfull waiting for you around the corner and you don't even know about it....internet love seems to be so romantic and exciting, but yet, so dangerous and risky....please think twice...you might not be as lucky as I was....
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Sounds like this Japanese man plays the field, conning innocent women like you.  If he loved his previous girlfriend and allowed his parents to interfere in his marriage choice, then HE IS NOT A MAN.  Drop this guy!  He's a loser, also there won't be any conflict between your coworker. You both can drink a beer a say what a momma's boy he is.
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I just want to post a small correction.  The first poster was almost correct but the Japanese translation wasn't human enough.  The "live" it translated is used with living in a location, not living a life.\n\nThe correct translation would be: 後悔なしに生きる (koukai nashini ikiru).\n\nAnyway, I'm sorry to hear about your uncle and I wish you and your family the best.
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Waiting For The Sunrise, Simply put love is like the warmth of the sun,As far as making the story line better, the communication should be via the Internet and the public library, notes can be hidden in books, also have them separated by class, as her family has money, his does not.Passion should be expressed by a sense of longing, the attraction between the two should insight a sense of longing in your readers.Pick up a copy of Writing for Dummies. Then you will understand what I am trying to tell you
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QUESTION: Wasn’t it irresponsible for the Buddha to walk out on his wife and child?\n\nANSWER: It couldn’t have been an easy thing for the Buddha to leave his family. He must have worried and hesitated for a long time before finally leaving. But he had a choice, dedicating himself to his family or dedicating himself to the whole world. In the end, his great compassion made him give himself to the whole world. And the whole world still benefits from his sacrifice. This was not irresponsible. It was perhaps the most significant sacrifice ever made.\n\n-------------\n\ni also heard that it is her wife who ask Siddharta to give birth for her so she can remember him, she agree with Siddharta's search for truth.\nlater, i heard that his wife and his son and many family members also follows him.. (but you might want to validate it)
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Yep, that's me ;) It's the best decision I made, marrying my sweetheart who's from the States. I come from a country that's very rich in tradition, and I'm chinese. Since we've been involved, he learnt a lot about my culture and the traditions that we have. Although we still have disagreements in our relationship sometimes, but it's the one thing that brings us closer too. Life will never be boring for us, that's for sure.
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I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOUR STORY. \nWHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?? WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY "WE OVERSEA VIETNAMESE DO NOT THINK WIFE HAVE TO CONTROL HUSBAND."???
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#1 = Unrealistic expectations.\n\nWorks like this. I think this person SHOULD _______ (fill in the blank) but they don't - what's the matter with them??? Meanwhile the other person is thinking the same unrealistic thing about YOU. \n\nWhat is real is what exists, not what we would like it to be, or what we thought it was. I don't mean to sound hard, but the clearer about this anyone is the more it will help. \nThis leads right into ....\n\n#2 = Confusing infatuation with love ( love involves acceptance; infatuation does not).\n\nInfatuation involves an imagined, perfected image of someone which only ever existed in the mind, nowhere else. Love involves a "real" person and relating to them, understanding and accepting  their imperfections and not trying to "fix" them like some broken peice of machinery.\n\n#3 = Cultural B.S.\n\nRelationships are something people do. Like everything else we do, they involve suffering, only somewhat more so than most things. In the US there is a widespread view that happiness is to be found within relationships.  This view is just plain nonsense.\n\nI am not anti-relationship, but relationships work best when people have realistic expectations (and as few of those as possible), practice acceptance & kindness (yeah, good old kindness goes a long way) and instead of looking for one's own happiness from the relationship, instead, look for a friend from the relationship & happiness will come from whatever spiritual practice you have.\n\nGreat question!\n\n;-)
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I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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Different cultures have different beliefs.  Maybe Mom's problem is that she wants her son to marry a Native American, but if he loves her screw the Mom.  It's her son's life.