I am confused coz sometimes people say that i need to learn to love myself before loving others...and i heard people saying you should love others more than yourself...CONFUSED
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The Bible also says to "Love they neighbor as thyself."  Therefore, if you don't love yourself then you can't love others, truly.\n\nAs for how much, I think the adage "it is better to give than to receive" is very true.  If you are feeling down, try doing something good for another person and see how much better you feel about yourself.
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YOU gotta be happy FIRST.  People tend to take advantage of others if they know they can.  I'm kinda the same as you...always wanting to keep people happy, but I've also learned that my happiness counts too.  If you want to do somthing for someone, do, if you don't....then don't!  You have to put yourself first, and then, and only then, will you find true happiness.
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that was really sad.....you need to look at your own question the answer is inside of you. You are strong and beautiful and can do anything you want to......you just need to find it in yourself.....you don't need a man/women to validate yourself. You were stong before them and you will be strong after them. I know this sounds corney but it is true. You must truly love yourself before someone can truly and completely love you....
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Don't worry,you're normal...you just don't want other people to feel uncomfortable with you around..you want to make them feel happy..you always think about others instead of yourself.That's good but you HAVE to learn to love yourself too.Don't let people take you for granted.Hope this answer helps..
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You can learn to love yourself and be content with what you have, then you won't have the tendancy to envy someone else.  If you can't do that and you are suffering with the effects of envy in your life, maybe you should go somewhere or do something that helps you to realize how lucky you are.  You know help out at a shelter for the homeless or help someone that is less fortunate then you.  Maybe when you see how bad other people have it you will realize your own life is not so bad after all.
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Some people get a lot of joy and peasure in helping others, and it's real admirable, and i gotta love them for it.\n\nBut i am selfish. I am happy doing what I wanna do, i don't wanna follow some moron's vision of happiness, i wanna be me all the time. I dont give two hoots what anyone thinks or wants if it doesnt fall in my view. I can compromise, but i don't often, why should i make myself unhappy?
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I think U just need more self esteem and confidence in yourself, and learn( and I mean learn) how to love yourself and realize that U R a special person! also, learn patience!\nI think U communicate very well judging from your writing.
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first the world and after myself! if you don't give love how will others give love back? love is not selfish,love doesn't demand. you'll never lose a part of yourself if you learn how to love. love is everything. and at the end you will learn to love yourself by learning to love others! :)
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I  feel that having love and loving is very  important in life and everyone should experience love but that doesn't necessarily mean the love has to come from someone of the opposite sex. Some people are satisfied with just having their family and friends to love and get love from but others may feel its mandatory for them to have someone from the opposite sex. Everyone is different therefore, what makes one person happy may not come close to pleasing someone else.Either way is fine as long as you are loved and you show love!
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When you commit yourself your person, you are saying you love them just the way they are.  You should support and encourage your partner in any attempt they make at personal growth, but the worst statement anyone has ever made is "I can change him/her" or "Oh he's/she's never had someone that loved them like me, they'll change" \nIf you don't love them as they are then move on.
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l felt the same way for many years. but l have learned to love myself. l realize l'm not so insecure that l should need friends who are just no good for me.
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If he truly would of cared about you, then he would of understood, that is a brave and completely honest thing to say to him and for that I applaud you. Just focus on you and learn to love yourself and then find someone who is worthy of you and your love. that person will be in your life when you are truly ready, take your time. til then explore life within yourself. good luck
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i had the same problem,and it wasn't good hey. maybe someone you trusted hurt you in someway(just an example) and now you find it hard to open up to others and let them in. well you have to learn to accept the fact that you are an amazing person who deserves friendship and love. you deserve good people around you,you deserve the pleasure of being yourself around others and forming relationships with people you care for, because you are your own person,you owe it to yourself to form relationships with people you feel for.
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life lessons and experience, my dear...you will know if it's right...and you'll know if it's not..that simple..let your mind guide, go with your heart..always be on top of your feelings and you should gain inner knowledge on how others fit in your life.
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Love yourself - all parts of yourself\nYou love your partner despite the flaws, so why are you harder on yourself?\nYou are an amazing person - we all are\n\nOnce you can believe that you'll find you beome far easier to love :-)\n\nGood luck - namaste
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I am not, and I will never be, because I shall always be striving hard to be genuinely that person. . . If I could reach that (theoritically), then why should I continue to live? . . .\n\nOnly those who love me truly percieve me as "perfect", it is their love, not my qualities. . .
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Sometimes when people think they 'really love' someone whose actions hurt them (his breaking up with her, his distance and his silence) they are actually desperate to love and be loved, but the person they are focusing on is not "the one".  Instead, the one being hurt doesn't feel like they can survive alone, and they don't trust that they will find the true "one" in time to not die of a broken heart.  It's hard to make the decision to be alone when you feel this way, but it's the only way to open the door to true love, and it extends your misery until the day you decide to take the leap and risk being sad for a while.