I've only dance three or four times in my life and I didn't liked it. I have four sisters and all love to dance. When we used to go out to clubs I always felt out of place. I kind of hated my wedding because I had to dance.
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I do not like to dance either.  I just do not find it fun at all.  \n\nWhat I hate the most is when (usually at a wedding or something like that) people feel the need to grab my arm, twist it, and pull me from my seat and drag me to the dance area, even though they see that I am not laughing, not even smiling when I am saying "NO!" over and over.  Then they call me "rude" when I walk back to my seat after they finally let go of my arm.
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Mother/Son dance can be done with the Father/Daughter or seperate.  I have seen it both ways and not at all.  At our wedding we did it seperate and my husband let his mother choose her song, he wanted it to reflect her and not him.  \n\nSome choices...\n\nI Hope You Dance\nThe Rose\nInto The Mystic\nAny Kenny G (since there are no words)\n\nAfter the dances many people try to play music for all generations and liking.  Most bride/grooms dont get much time to dance and are to busy mingling and other duties to even pay attention to the music.  We played a variety from all musical era's to accomidate our guests since they were there for us and we were there hosts we wanted to accomidate them so they would be comfortable to dance and have as much fun as we were.
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I had a best friend from college.  He was the DJ in my first wedding.  I was a bridesmaid in his first wedding. He was at the hospital the day my twins were born. 15 years later, after we were both divorced, he finally kissed me.  I asked him what took so long and he said he was afraid because he didn't know how I felt abou him!  After 5 years of dating,we got married in Las Vegas and we willhave our 2nd anniversary 8/31/2006! I am so lucky to be married to my best friend. GO FOR IT!
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I actually experienced this myself.  When my hubby & I wanted to go away to get married (inviting close family of course), everyone was cool with it but my mother and his father said he wouldn't pay to go.  After a few months of stress, I GAVE IN and had a bigger wedding here that everyone convienced me I would never forgive myself for not having....IT ENDED UP BEING THE MOST STRESSFUL EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE!  Everyone had some sort of problem with something we were doing/not doing & we were paying for it!  I about snapped.  The first thing my hubby told me on the plane to our honeymoon was "You were RIGHT, we should have gone away!" We ended up not talking to anyone for about a month after we got back.  I mean we would say hi and all, but we weren't going out of our way to call...sort of a cooling off period! Do yourself a favor....follow what YOUR heart says.  Its amazing how such a wonderful event brings out the worst in everyone.  People can be so selfish!  GL to you and Best Wishes!  My vote is for an elopement! ;-)
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hey chill out i dance with ivan, i know him personally, and hes a really talented dancer, hes not a dime a dozen... hes a really versatile dancer... of which is hard to find... u need not talk down about another style of dancing, you need to respect it... and if u dance then u should know u need to respect every style of dancing.. cuz i do everything from modern to tap to breakin , salsa, and ballroom, etc... i love it all...and respect it all..you cant say that its not as respectable to do a certain type...i just  think ur upset cuz u think hes cute and u do ballroom.. now i wouldnt know just i dont watch the show consistantly but give these people their props for coming this far.. and just chill ... everyones talented...so chill its just a show.. plus id like to see a ballroom dancer such as yourself to the "dime a dozen" hiphop
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Ok.. well I'm a weirdo .. I never thought I would get married. I wasnt one of those little girls that sat and planned their wedding in their heads down to the last detail. In fact in highschool I always told my friends and parents that I would be the little old lady on the hill with 50 bijillion cats.\nsoooo I guess my point is I never felt I needed to be married in the first place.
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Maybe you are that ONE person that makes him feel differently.  Or he just didnt want to dance wrong for you SO BADLY that it made him stiff.  It happens, and I bet if you dance with him again and he is more comfortable with you, it will get better.  He probably just wanted to impress you and make sure he didnt scare you off be being too forward with you.\n\n=D
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My wedding was perfect to me because it was so stress free, we got married in Jamaica on vacation, everybody knew it was not like we eloped or so. but we just got our paper work together send it of and the rest was being taken care of by the hotel (thank you 'sandals' montego bay) the decorations, flowers, dinner, cake, drinks....we got married on the beach, lot of flowers.  it would have been a nightmare for me to plan a big party and try to do right by everybody and spent a whole lot of money on them. because my wedding was about my husband and me...and not a bunch of relatives. when we came back we had a small casual reception/BBQ. that was the perfect wedding for me
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My husband and I renewed our vows at our church, as we were originally married at the court house 5 yrs before and we too could not dance. Unfortunately that seems to be the norm for that.  All we could do was fellowship basically. You can always dance when you get home :-) Congrats on your upcoming nuptials
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I am 74 and started a new career last year. They asked me how long I will be staying there and I said "at least till I am 80". I am charming. Don't know about the sexy but life is what you make it. I never feel my age and I work very hard at least 10 hours a day and I do go dancing with my grandson now and then. I had more fun in my life than my children. I feel bad about that. I went to dances with my mother when I was young and I had a blast. I did not know back then that you HAD to have THINGS. That made a big difference.
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i don't understand, you explained it very well with the dance thing. but how can you NOT know how??? as for tip um: go with the flow!!!! if it feels good ride it! although id appreciate if you added additional details, what do the women who don't know what they're doing do? how is it different?
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A friend of mine had had several bridesmaids in her wedding party that we not old enough to drink.  So instead of the bar scene, they went to a nice dinner and then saw a show.  It's not as exciting as the bar scene, but no one was left out.  Good luck!
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As long as your excited about being married you have nothing to worry about. Try focusing on your wedding as a party instead of a "wedding." Think of it as a great time that you get to spend with friends and family, dancing, eating and having fun. That way, the actual "wedding" won't seem as tedious to you.
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I just got Married on the 21st and some of my friends wore white pant suites...that didn't bother me really.  But when my 2 month married sister-in-law showed up in the same white dress, that she wore to her reception, it infuriated me...I must say be kind to the bride an let her be the only one in white!
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i heard it and "oh i dont think i like it" im from ny and you probally wont see that many people dance like that. (unless that song comes on)i gotta give the south credit though, they come out with some creative little dances.
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I agree, and smiled and looked fabulous doing it! I LOVE GINGER. When I open a dance school, I will name it in her sake!!!! People who aren't dancers dont realize how difficult it is to 1.) follow a partner 2.) dance backwards and 3.) do it in heels with out breaking your ankle or neck
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i am naked a lot of the time, part of being a dancer is that we are not shy.\n\ni am naked now and find that i feel uncomfortable in clothes\n\nbut outside i am never nude not in this country anyway