I like this girl for more than one year already, I been doing all sort of nice things to her. I tried every trick in the book.  Im pretty sure i have been both tactful and honest to her.  No matter what i do she just shows no emotionaly feeling toward me.  She jus tell me that it not going to be possible between us and she dont want to hurt me?  I think that is because she just got out of a bad relationship, but iono how to approach her now. So help me out
205922
u must assure tht u're there 4 her & beside her always.tell her tht its hard to 4get her past love but still u'll b waiting 4 her to get over 2 love you. Be frank with her & express tht u love her. Be romantic instead of being flirty.
530090
just tell her how you feel, it never hurts to be honest  and in the end you will know how she feels. sure the whole thing could blow up in your face and then again it may not
314713
Nothing you can do but get a grip and move on.  Your wasting time on being all emotional over someone  who has zero interest in you.  Find the strength you need in KNOWING she is not interested; which is her prerogitive, and possibly HER lost.  Move on sweety.
550123
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
262458
You did the right thing because if you hadn't been blunt with her she would still harbour hopes that you would change your mind and she would become obsessed.  At least this way she has to accept it and will eventually move on. She might be hurt initially but it's best for her in the long run. I don't think the softer aproach would have worked with this girl.x
107168
First of all you cant make anyone love you, it has to come natural, and if you havent even talked to her yet , i would say , you really need to make a move, show her you like her try talking to her and see where it goes from there.
10132
Well just tell her how you feel from deep inside your heart. It may be hard at first but have faith in yourself and you can do it. Your feelings are never wrong!
346760
I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
204848
I'm sorry, but guys do the same... I know... I share your feeling... what's up with that? \nI think she doesn't want to hurt your feelings but is to shy to tell you... but hell... I have no clue... sorry. \n\nMaybe you should ask what's up? Or just forget her... but that doesn't sound like a very attractiv solution, does it? :)\nGood luck with that!
550716
I think you should go for it. We all know what happens when someone doesn't express their feelings for someone. Later on, the subject will come up and you will realize what you missed. More than likely, she will have the same feelings, if not similar.  Sit her down and lay it out, don't beat around the bush. She will think you're not sure, and if she does have feelings for you, then she would probably start feeling doubtful about them. Good Luck!
160741
"I'm not sure how to say this to you...but I get the feeling that you're interested in a relationship with me and I'm not ready for that right now.  I just thought I should say something before I give the wrong impression."  Or something like that.  \n\nHere's the truth:  you're already in a relationship with her.  The issue is defining it. What kind of relationship do you want:  friends? lovers?  occasional coffee / movie buddies?  nothing to do with her at all?  Figure out what you want and see if she's willing to be that with you.  If so, have fun. If not, move on.  I wish you Peace.
579429
Ride it out and wait your turn. Right now, she can't see who has her best interest. It's all about her not being able to let go. If you really like her and are not just trying to hit that stuff be there for her as a friend. She will come around.
406429
Well for starters every girl loves attention so even if you ask her out and she says no, she wont mind knowing you care :)\n\nI think the whole 'I still like my other boyfriend' is just a front so she doesnt have to feel akward around you and can be herself.\n\nWhen your out with her next, go for the hand, if she likes you, you will see major sparks if not then she will just let go of yours and say something funny or nice to let go of your hand. \n\nBut I think the best and longer lasting relationships are the ones that started out as friends, So good luck mate :)
339070
u know its funny...this has happened with me and my extremely close friend just recently...we always flirt and it feels like something more than just a regular friendship and i want that...but she is confused and doesnt want to lose me.  i still have feelings for her and we talk a lot and are very close.  i am still trying to be myself yet i am trying to develop a different and closer relationship.  i say you just keep trying to do what you want and just see how it turns out.  whos to say another guy wont come around if this doesnt work out. good luck
417499
Hey, I am Jennifer. I was reading over ur qustion, It seems that she is a play by play...I dont know but if i was u i wouldent date her anymore or see her. For me to say I think u sound like  nice guy and u need better. For what i am trying to say is that she tells u to trust her, how could u ever trust anyone that spends the night with anotheir man..thats not right, if u ask me....If she really cared for u she would be with u and not anotheir man. It sounds like she is sorta a good person and all but i think u so need better then her, she is nothing. I'm sry i hope i dont upset you. But what ever happens good luck. But if u would like to talk just im me it is kikikinky321.. bye for now
378668
I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
675254
Are you sure she feels that way?\n\n   Tell her how you feel, how much the friendship means to you. \n\n   Maybe I'm missing something, this seems too easy. No offense, but don't females just love to talk, especially about feelings?