Im 6 months pregnant and married. My mom stays on the computer 24/7  We live in louisiana she has been to almost 4 different states cause she is so man crazy (all in just a year by the way) anyways she knows me and my brothers lost respect for her she talks about sex with my little brother thats 11. She is telling people she is moving to south carolina in a week They say but what about your daughter she needs you because she is pregnant and you little son what about him.  she tells people i said i dont need her know more because im married and i have my own life but i didnt say that she is just saying that cause she wants to go away and she wants people to be ok with it but they are not going to be ok because they are scared for her what should i do she promised me she would be here when the baby comes and thru out my pregnancy but she hasnt even called to tell me she is going away yet. she says she needs her own life and her kids are raised but what about the 11 year old heisnt raised
198863
First of all; you're married. You need to be united with your husband, not your mom. Secondly, you need to learn to detach from your mom and her situations,and the 11 yr. old, if you don't think your mom is a capable mom, you could take him and be that capable mom yourself. Your mom has issues. Personally, it sounds like she likes to sleep around. The quality of your life has to be there for you, and your husband, and the new family you are raising.
314864
Our sister-in-laws must be related! Last summer we found out that mine was pregnant! It was the longest nine months on earth- everything revolved around her- She immediately quit her job at a retail store (at 3 weeks preg) where she was a cashier. She couldn't do any work around the house (lucky for her she and her boyfriend are living at her mom's house) When it was time to decorate the nursery, She didn't lift a finger she let her mother do it all (and pay for it all) of course she married her boyfriend (had honeymoon at motel 10 miles from home) (Did I mention he lives there too and doesn't work?) (Doesn't even cut grass)\nThe whole 9 months She was treated like a princess and was so bitchy to everyone!! Now that the baby is here she lets my mother in law do everything, She is rude to everybody and has no plans to get a job. Plus when the baby was 5 weeks old her and her husband left in his moms camper for a week! And said she would have stayed 2 weeks if she didn't have to pick up her wic and food stamps.\nHope this doesn't make you vomit. \n:)
667611
you have to prove that she is an unstable mother. but even if you dont get custody you still have the right to visit your son as much as you want to, no matter how far he is from you. And if she doesnt let you visit your son then report the bitch, if your son is old enough to make his decision then go back to court and the judge can hear both the woman side your side and your son decision  But Good luck to you and your son!!!!!!!!!!!!!
608082
The same thing here. My man's mother more than awful. She's one of those "christains" that quotes the bible and tell you that you're going to hell, but she does every evil thing there is to do. She stole from him, forged his income tax return, lied and manipulate every situation and she told me that if I was to concieve a child, she didn't want no parts of it. I'm writing a book about my experiences with her drama. I ignored her. I stopped playing nice with her after she attack him when he was in the ER. I told her exactly what I thought of her and I ignore her. Eventually, he cut her loose. It was his decision. It's been a year now since we last heard from her. Life has been great and less stressful without her.
344774
Perhaps she should have been more honest with you about the first husband.  BUT, remember, she may still have pain and heartache about it.  Did he pass away, was circumstances so that they couldn't stay together, did something really bad happene to him or did he do something.  The hurt and pain could still be so unbearable that she can't discuss it.  don't be so cruel and judgemental.  She's your mom.
664841
Sounds like you have a pretty good idea of how she is. Unfortunately our mothers don't always act how "they're supposed to". Good luck hon.
635397
wow... i guess try to tell her you have things under control. but it sounds like there is more to it if she is that worried about it. so either she knows every minute of your day or you are going to have more contact with the detectives. hard to tell you what you should do. sounds like  you have a major issue in your life going and then a complication to add to it. but good luck... i guess always remember... your day is always just seconds away from getting worse... so be happy with what you have. at least your mom loves you.... like i said... it could always be worse
320373
Although I believe a child's place is with his mother, this woman doesn't deserve to have children. If I were you I would try to get full custody of the child. It is clear she will always use your son as a financial benefit for her not your son.Your son is a blessing for you, to bad for her if she can't see it. Get rid of that scumbag and devote yourself to give your child all the love that is obvious your wife can't give him.
102241
She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
312448
It is time to let go. Four years has given you your answer. She'll never change even if she claims she will. She sounds paranoid to me in fact, endangering her young son. You're trying to do the right thing but it is time to realise that the right thing to do now is to divorce her, get custody of your son, move on and find another woman worthy of your trust, respect and love. Don't stick around and let her scar you even more for that's just too convenient for her to do. It is not something you want your young son to think - that his dad cannot stand up for what he thinks is right and let a woman (even if it is his mom) put him down over and over again & cheat on him. I am sorry if what I said have offended you. I know you are doing this out of love but she does not deserve it and your son deserves a better mom. She lost her right to be his mother when she did what she did. Sorry. And Good Luck to You!
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This could just be a situation blown all out of proportion.  This is not the first child to come and her expectations could be running very high.\nShe does need to settle down, perhaps if the mother told her that if she cannot act more mature about this that she will not be able to come or come but have the trip shortened.
537006
You sound like my 13 and 20 year olds.\n\nMoms are a wierd bunch, eh?  I mean, we are always after you to clean up your room, wear longer skirts, less make up, talk less on the phone, do more around the house, yadda yadda yadda.\n\nBut as a mom, no one ever thanks me for making their lunch, cleaning out his rat cage, washing the underwear that you got your period in, driving you to whatever while I wonder if grandma's tumour is shrinking, and worrying if you'll be smart enough to not take a ride from that hot guy who's been drinking at the party that you snuck out to (and told me you were sleeping over at Jen's).\n\nEach of us has our issues, mainly with each of us adapting to our respective roles.\n\nYour mom loves you VERY much - don't you ever forget it.  She is probably feeling like Sh** right now and each of you is as stubborn as the other.\n\nGo to her, and tell her thank you for dinner tonight, smile, look at her for at least three seconds and then ... well see what happens!\n\nHugs,\n"the worst mother in the world", but making progress!
182873
You seriously need to make some serious changes. You have to create boundaries. It sounds like the requests you have made are falling on deaf hears. It seems to me you are trying to make everyone happy except yourself. Tell them if you are going to live in my house these are the rules if they don't like them they can leave. When your mom came back you could of asked her why are you here? When she said why do i have to tell them to pay the electric bill, it was because she is the one who invited them to stay. The things you are going to have to do will be uncomfortable. Your family will not like the new assertive you. Your mom is dependent on you and you are her co dependent. When she threatened you by saying she was going to leave and you said fine go ahead she was testing you. She did leave but she came back and you let her stay. So now what you say and what she says and your actions don't match. It's like when a parent tells his child no but then lets them have what they want. You have to back up what you say with actions and stick to them. You have fallen into the role of parent. You are not the parent you are the child but now your mom is acting like the child and now you are her parent. I think she should help you more. Do you want your brothers there? You did nothing wrong what i think you possibly feel is guilt because it is your mother and you feel obligated but your not obligated. No one should be taken advantage of.
664734
I'm sorry to say this, but it's probably in your best interest to isolate her from the life you are trying to have with your wife.  She is being disrespectful to you and your wife now, and nothing is going to change her mind.  You also need to consider what she might say to your children if she does stay in the picture.  She obviously speaks her mind, so she may tell them that she never wanted you to have them, or that they are a burden..ect.  You can hope she'll change her mind when the baby comes, but I doubt it'll happen.  I would start keeping her at a distance now.\n\nI had my first baby at 25 (married for 3 years) My mom was 47.  She never once said anything about being too young, in fact she was on cloud nine to be a grandma!  You are in a loving stable relatinship with a woman you obviously love and care for...why wouldn't you want to have a family?  I say put her in her place, and good luck.
448605
You are a good mom and my heart goes out to you, that's horrible.  Well, you have to pray for starters, ask God to take care of this for you.  And LISTEN.  That's the best thing you can do for those kids is let them vent, let them have a comforting place in your home......sounds like you provide that already so good on you.  That woman needs some serious couselling.  I'm afraid she won't change unless she decides to OR unless everyone involved can clear their head, be ready and strong, and STAND UP TO HER TOGETHER.  She's picking on her daughter because she can, that's what bullys do.  It will be hard but if you all stand together and tell her her ways are unacceptable, she may get worse for a while or she may not speak to anyone for a while, but she will be forced to think long and hard about it.  From there, the choice is hers.  She does not have the right to cause this much grief to all of you and she needs to decide to stop, or spend the rest of her life without you all.  Your son and daughter in law are blessed to have you, good luck.
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It's YOUR life! You have the POWER to control it! Your mom, though she's the one who raised, does not have the right to tell you what to do! Don't be blinded by that! Stand Up for what you believe in, not for what others think! If your mom is really in doubt, try having a lie test to your husband and let your mom see the results!
505712
It's hard to like a parent like that. Sure you love them because they're the person that brought you into this world but your mom sounds self absorbed and miserable. Not much you can do about that and definitely don't take it personally. SHE has the problem.Shes too wrapped up in her own self to take notice of you and the sad thing is that that kind of behavior is HER loss.Keep the phonecalls short put a timer on in your kitchen when you know you're going to talk to her.Feel free to interupt her  and start talking about your own life whether you think she's interested in it or not.You weren't put on the earth only to service her needs. If she sounds lonely make brief suggestions for her to join some groups or other practical solutions to her problems.If she starts up with the same old stuff again the next time that you talk to her interupt her and tell her that she already told you about that and you want to know when she's going to do something about it.It might sound mean but it's really not.Not allowing her to go on and on is being kind to yourself and it forces her to  get the fact that you're not willing to listen to her if shes not willing to try to make the effort to solve her own problems.Good luck...