I like my in laws better than my own family. We get along so well its like I'm the family member instead of my husband is this wrong,weird or just different. Family gatherings are alot more fun and we also plan ahead like if we are just one big happy family and I feel no guilt what so ever.
201008
There is nothing wrong with that. You have every right to feel comfortable with your in-laws. If you feel better with them than you do with your own family, its okay too. You are human and you donot have to feel guilty for prefering your inlaws to your own family. Liking your inlaws may even go along way to strenghtening your own marriage.
662314
Well right or wrong on what you become and what you do with your life, family should be there not matter what! I'm going threw it right now. I met and married a wonderfull man, and family is distant from me cause they didnt agree with it. In time if they still dont like what you become, then tell them that your you and you will be what you want and they can be by your side or not, that if they choose not to be then its not stoping you from becomming what YOU want. I didnt let my parents bring me down cause i married a guy they didnt know. And im not giving up my husband for them. They can take me and him as whole or keep living there lifes without seeing there grandkids or future grandkids. But I know in time they will come around, as a matter of fact they have a little. Just be who YOU want to be dont let anyone bring you down or tell you do what they want. Be yourself and prove to them you can do what you want on your own. Good luck!
457667
Family is very important and no one wants to move away from their family.  However, sometimes circumstances change.  Then we feel like we have to "make a decision", when there really isn't one to make.\n\nYou, your husband and your children are your "family".  This shouldn't be a "choice" between your family or his.  If you and your husband "love" each other and want to be a "family", there is no choice to make.  You owe it to yourselves and your children to do whatever you need to do to make your family work.\n\nSometimes we have to put the needs of our family above our own personal needs and desires.  That's what being a spouse and a parent means.  \n\nOf course your parents are going to be "hurt", they are your parents!  They can always visit, so can you.  The same is true of your "friends".  The wonderful thing about "friends" is you can never have too many and you can always make "more"!\n\nSome people never get a second chance, you owe it to your children to give yourself one.  Children need both their parents.  If you don't go, you will always wonder if you could have done more, and by then, it may be "too late".\n\nBest of luck.
405286
yes i do think that i come from a good family, because even though we have our bad days we accept who eacjother has become and is. i was raised in believing that even if i was the queen of the world or on top of the world, if i dont respect or treat others well, then i am not at all the best in the world. even if we live in a horrible world if i dont sell out my family members, or my friends, and i am the best i can be, then everything will work out. but you cant always get what you want but sometimes you can. helping others, and being kind and loving and not trying to hurt anyone intentionally, then i am the best. and i think that a good family is something that accepts everyone and pretty much everythng above. there is more stuff that i can write, but its more like a show or explain in person kind of thing.
425314
I don't think she is trying to offend you, you could even take it as a compliment because she feels so at home with you and her sibling. I don't know what kind of person she is, so I don't have the right words, try talking to your significant other about how to handle it since she is his/her family. If it really bothers you, I would definitely resolve it quickly before you get too heated or something happens.
432554
I think its a different love as someone else said. The love for your kids is totally different than the love you have for you spouse...or at least it should be.
282376
No, I love my own family and would just like to have a very close relationship with these people that you love very much.  I think it would be great to have two sets of people (parent figures) that you love and respect so much.  It could be nothing but great!
377888
Remember this is your battle with the inlaws not your sister in law's.  Do not make her choose sides.  Be happy for her that she has a better relationship with them than you do because I'm sure you wouldn't wish what you are going through on another.  Maturity is called for here.  Stick to your guns for yourself, don't expect other's to choose sides.  She sounds like she's attempting to be neutral.  If you don't like hearing about what's going on with them, simply ask her not to go into detail about them or what they do or don't do.  Keep your friendship.  That's more important than allowing the in laws to drive a wedge between you two...and likely, that's what's happening.
634823
I am friendly with all different type of people - no difference which ethnic group they belong to, but for marriage I think people should try sticking to their own race - it's easier for you and your kids.
630870
My mother in law feels sorry for my husband. He thinks that I don't do anything at all..and that I should have a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. \nThe truth is..she was Missing In Action for most of my husband's life..having to work all of the time at menial jobs. He has very few memories of her being there at all.\nSoo...I have learned to avoid her, and shrug off her unsubstantiated criticisms.
419290
My sister in law didn't show up after saying she would come.  My brother walked in the door without her.  She didn't come because I didn't invite her son from her first marriage his wife and their child (6  years old) and his wife's son from a first marriage (16 years old) and her daughter from that first marriage (18) and that girls boyfriend that she is shacked up with.  I was already cooking for 9 people and my husband is not with me this Thanksgiving because he is overseas.  (He is the big cook in the family)  I didn't feel I could cook for more than 9 people and still keep my sanity.  That was the drama this year.
309590
last I checked cousin-in-law isn't really family. usually the term in-law is reserved for the mothers and fathers of the bride and groom. so either you're taking this in-law thing too far or you made out with your husband's cousin. which is wrong because you're married.
286054
Ask your wife what she thinks when your In-laws "let down" on you.  This should open a conversation that will allow you to tell her how you feel as well.  She should understands why you are not at the same financial level as her older siblings.  Work together making your financial goals.  Check the progress often together.  She can set her parents straight if that's needed.  No one likes to be put down and should they keep up this behavior, I would make the contacts with them as minimal as possible.  (The natural consequences for people who are jerks...no one wants to be around them.)   Hope this helps!
493499
We are all guilty of this to some extent, aren't we?  On one hand, it is proof of how comfortable we are around our family members.  On the other, why is it so hard to offer them the same respect when they are so much more valuable to us than a stranger is?  We all should work on that, I think.......
361941
I have a pretty open family, so no, I have not suffered any kind of prejudice.  No, I did not regreat living with my hubby before we got married, in fact, I'm glad I did.  It's as close to marriage as you can get.  You just have a legal obligation to them after you marry, so it is somewhat different.  I would suggest to my son that he lives with the girl he wants to marry before doing so.  You learn so much being around someone 24/7.  Even if you hang out at the other's house everyday... It's different
441767
yes very happy through both good and bad times, there is no one i would rather come home to or spend time with. we have been married for eight years and it just gets better everyday. the primary reason is that she understands/forgives my hobbies and interests and i understand hers. give and take and flexability on both sides make it much easier. the first year was just getting used to each others habits, and the more rigid (i will not/your fault/my way) additudes just scew it up. and forgive and forget. no grudges.
172487
I also think it's disrepectful.  There are some things you don't share with your spouse. I don't think it has anything to do with being uncomfortable or comfortable around your spouse.