This girl has been flirty with me the last three times I have seen her. We have gone from being non-touchy to very touchy. She touches my leg and leans against me and such. She asked me whether I had her home number on my cellphone, and then told me when I said no that I should not call her after I kidded that I would. Why would she ask this? And how would she feel if I said that response? Also, if I tell her much of a difference she has made in my life and how much of a great friend she is it to people including myself, how would she feel about this? I am so unsure what to think right now...
214099
Ooh. That really sounds like she likes you. :)\n\nYou should call her. If you say GREAT FRIEND, it may be a let down if she DOES like you. Friend without boy / girl infront of it kind of says that you aren't interested in her in that way.\n\nYou can, however, say that she's made an impact in your life and you're glad to have met her. Something like that. :D Good luck!
412032
Ouch this is quite mind-boggling.  Ok, on one hand give her credit for being honest that she had feelings for a male friend but then this would lead to you feeling your on shaky grounds and of course distrust would stem up. Now the problem with trust is that we all know, without trust there is no relationship.  You say it took months to rebuild your trust in her.  And then once again she drops a bomb on you by saying 'off-handedly' she got a text from 'brad'. I'm wondering if your girlfriend is considerate about your feelings? It sounds a tad selfish to me.  If I had feelings for someone else I wouldn't go telling my partner I would actually just sit there and tell myself to get over it, that what it really is, is just lust and temptation. Because the more I think about the 'other' guy the more trouble I would cause for myself and my partner.  It's like a test.  To see how strong you are to resist temptation.  Well this kind of test was for your girlfriend and she didn't have to go blahblahblah on you about having feelings for 'brad' without dealing with it first.  The minute it came out of her mouth it caused a reaction to you and how you felt.  Now she was texting him over a 'girlfriend'?! and she called him to see what he was 'up to?!'.  My bad but why should she be so concerned about his girlfriend? If there was feelings still there for 'Brad' she would be comparing herself to this 'girlfriend' and also she seeking attention to 'brad' to boost her esteem and attention?  Maybe you have given her too much love? Maybe she is taking you for granted because she knows you will always love her? If you cannot fully trust her, it is really up to you what you want to do.  It is your choice how you would want to feel.  Nothing will change unless you make the effort of changing it. And remember you must of felt something because it caused you to check her cell phone history, what does that tell you?  Good luck, I hope you find the answer to your problem.
40532
She feels a little uncomfortable now, she thought you felt like she did (just hangin' buddies). She's trying to keep the friendship but not make you feel she's interested in a relationship. It's probably hard now for both of you to act like nothing ever happened. \n Someone must have really hurt her bad before for her to be afraid of a serious relationship. And it may be something she doesn't want to talk about yet, to anyone. Just call her and say, "Hey, Buddy, What cha' doing. Wanta hang out LIKE OLD TIMES??" (And just let the past be past about what you told her. Don't mention it.)  \n If you can't do this, just tell her you have to serious of feelings for her to just be friends and you think 'hanging out' would be too uncomfortable for both of you. If she does have serious feelings for you, she'll tell you. If not just let her go her way. \nGood Luck.
463782
Yes, you should definitely call her. It's not completely over unless she states so. Probably she's holding onto the same ego that you are by not calling her.
592676
Give her a call. She's prbably wondering what happened to you. I can tell you from a girl's perspective that when a guy is given a girl's phone number and he doesn't call either not at all or for awhile, the girl is going to think something is wrong. So you give her a call, see if she is still interested in seeing you, if the answer is yes, then ask her out and be honest with her. If and when she asks you why it took so long for you to call her, you tell her you had some business to take care of and things are just now slowing down. That way you're neither lying nor is it giving her too much information than what you want her to know. As far as her reaction, she may be upset a little that it's been 3 weeks since you've had her number, but on the other hand she'll be glad that you finally called if she wants to pursue something with you. Hope this helps you.
333780
Your screen name suits you perfectly.  If you just want to get laid, go for it.  I have seen this situation plenty of time to know that she doesn't love you.  She likes having you there to cry on.  She needs some love and affection, and you happen to be there.  If it wasn't you it would just be someone else.  What do you think would happen if your friend found out you guys hooked up, and then he decided to get back with her?  What would she do?  She would probably dump you in a second and get back with your friend.  If you think this would happen, then realize that she is only  using you.  Therefore, if she is using you for comfort, it is fair to use her for sex, but don't get your heart all involved.  Just do it and have fun.  She isn't really a girl you want to date seriously if this is how she normally acts.  Keep her around until you find a good one.
400652
Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.
394324
She is messing with you head.  She knows and has known that you like her, she loves the attention and doesn't really give a darn about your feelings.  Sorry to say the harsh truth.
402245
Sounds like she was interested, and waiting for you to make a move. When you didn't she decided to change tactic and see if she gets a reaction out of you with her current behaviour.\n\nTell her how you feel and if she doesn't feel that way, it's not like you lost anything.
110116
YOU ARE IN A TOUGH SITUATION; HOWEVER, WOULDN'T YOU WANT TO KNOW.  YOU NEVER KNOW HOW THE SISTER MIGHT REACT SHE COULD EITHER BE MAD THAT YOU JUST BROKE THE NEWS TO HER, BUT LATER WHEN SHE DOES A LITTLE EXPLORING THE FACTS ON HER OWN I WOULD IMAGINE SHE WILL THINK YOU.  I HAVE A FRIEND OF MINE THAT NEVER TOLD HER OTHER FRIEND THAT HER BOYFRIEND TRIED TO COME OVER FOR A BOOTY CALL.  MY FRIEND TURNED THE GUY DOWN AND CHOSE TO KEEP THIS INFO TO HERSELF. A FEW MONTHS LATER SOMEONE ELSE TOLD THE OTHER FRIEND AND THE TWO USE TO BE FRIENDS HAVE NEVER TALKED SINCE, IF SHE REALLY MEANS ANYTHING TO YOU, YOU WOULD BE BETRAYING HER IF YOU JUST LET THIS GUY TREAT HER LIKE THAT. WE ALL NEED PEOPLE TO WATCH OUT FOR US AND IF MY RELATIONSHIP WAS IN JEOPRODY WITH A FRIEND FOR TELLING ME THE TRUTH I WOULD COME TO MY SENSES EVENTUALLY.
517592
I think it's a little weird that she was pissed when you needed to leave the next morning.  It's almost insecure.  When she cut you off on the phone it does sound like a game.  I bet she is waiting to see if you call her, not IM.  If you really like her, get over the issue of calling her place and give her a buzz. Otherwise sooner or later I'm sure she'll call you. Be careful....it seems too soon for her to be so over the top about you not staying longer.
368313
If you bhave already asked someone...and she is looking forward to it you should take your friend from home.  Explain the situation to your girlfriend, Im sure if you are open and honest about it she will understand.
174294
She is flirting with you. Seems she may be afraid to take it a step further because if it doesn't work out she will lose a friend. Try just being friends a little longer, be patient.
120756
you had me thinking for a minute how would a girl know if i still like her. 1)do i still tease her 2) do I return her phone calls....if the answer is yes then i still like her or have at least not decided that I don't like her. But I agree with the first guy just ask..he would appreciate that and it shows that you're not trying to play some game to figure him out you got too the point and asked what you wanted answered.
675254
Are you sure she feels that way?\n\n   Tell her how you feel, how much the friendship means to you. \n\n   Maybe I'm missing something, this seems too easy. No offense, but don't females just love to talk, especially about feelings?
516562
She definitely didn't mean what she said. Very bad you didn't get the message. Next time she said something like that, you do something sexy to her like hugging or kissing her deeply with some foundling and so forth - trust me, you'll be surprised to see another "her" in love action (lol).
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Hm...where'd you mess up with her? I'm not sure I understand what exactly happened. Maybe you came on too strong and she's not ready to have a relationship with anyone just yet. How old are you 2? It's something to consider. It sounded like she wanted to be your friend but you pushed it and pushed it and now she wants to stay away from you. Dunno. That's my guess, though.