Would you Date a Military Guy or is it just too much with all this going to war for a year at a time. How would you show a guy that just got back a good time? I’m over in Iraq and just wondering what you would do.
214933
There is NOTHING  in the world sexier and hotter than a man in uniform!  I love the military cut as well!  The feel of it when I run my fingers thru it is like AWESOME!  I admire everything you are doing over there and support you all 100%!  You are so brave- all of you!  We are all proud of you and stand behind you all the way!!!!  COME HOME SAFELY!
324943
Possibly .. I mean, here we have a solider who is going into a battle front and he may/may not be wounded, shot down, captured, all of the above, I personally want to thank him for defending our freedom's but as you can see this might have a "unfortunate" outcome. It is nice that you found someone that admires you and you him, just keep in mind of the possibilities that await you and all of the other families that have loved ones in Iraq right now. I don't want to tell you this is wrong or try to "throw salt" on the game in any way. BY ALL MEANS keep in touch with him he will need the correspondence, and if you "solider boy" make it back home, take some time to thank him properly.
670246
I'm a former Military wife and daughter. My brother is in the army, my brother in laws are both in the Marine corps, my husband was a marine and my father just got out in March. Choosing the road of a military man, is a long rough and proud road. Many, who do not serve (as myself) will not understand the brotherhood and pride that each marine feels. But don't get me wrong, there are jerks in the Marine Corps too. Usually they are the young and foolhearted ones, with great intentions but poor follow through.  Being a military wife, is a lonely job that takes a lot of great friends and patience. But it's not a job I would've traded for anything. Tell your friend I said thanks and OOHRAH DEVIL DOG!
580614
I'm sorry things didn't end well for you, but you mustn't make assumptions on what happened. Not all of us are heartless like that. I know I'm not. I was in love, actually am in love, with this guy who had left for the Army. Well I waited for him and never did I stray my eyes elsewhere. When he came back, I knew he might get deployed for a year or more at any time, but never one did I ever think of just forgetting about him. I would've waited for him as long as necessary. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for us, but it wasn't because of that, there were other issues. My point is, don't despair, just because one relationship went sour. I'm sure someday you'll find that girl who will wait for you as long as necessary because she truly loves you. :)
648419
Not only am I a Marine wife but I as in the Navy and I'm a Navy brat.  My parents both spent over 20 years in the Navy.  You do move a bit (usually every 3 years) and yea it's hard having you hubby gone.  I honestly thing the strongest people in the world (mentally and physically) are single parents and military spouses.  My husband left for Iraq right after our first child was born.  I was far away from family and didn't have many friends.  Not only did my son and I survive, we thrived!  I learned alot about myself while he was gone and our marriage is stronger for having gone through that.  \nI was born in Italy and lived in Peurto Rico for three years, how many people can say that?  I think it's wonderful!  \nYou're more than welcomed to e-mail if you would like to talk more on the subject.
120456
my husband is an ex marine, granted we did not date while he was a marine, that was years ago, but our marriage works and he is still a marine at heart!  A relationship with anyone in the military is always going to be hard because of deployment, it depends on the inner person, on wether the relationship will work.  You have to be strong enough to deal with separation, and strong enough to have faith that the one you love is faithful.  Good luck, mrswayne4
460081
Wow, a good question, with only my esteem and somewhat shame to uphold.\n\nHere goes.\n\nI loved "that guy" once.  And though I would have given him anything under the sun, including honesty, manogomy and love....in my deep caring for him I also had to give him space.  I had to honor his present situation(as hard as that was) and told him I didn't intend on being "the other woman" only to one realize I WAS.  I respected what ever he wanted and only wanted him to be happy.\n\nI then stopped talking to him, and put on my Captain Avoido outfit and a woderful thing happened.  He figured his life out, honestly with out any obstacles and called me about a year later and asked for a date.   Go figure.  It was ONLY then that he could hold me with esteem that he once carried for his previous love.\n\nThere should be no pressure............if she really cares.
593956
My question is this.....WOULD THE WHOLE SQUAd  BANG A HANDSOME OLD BALD DUDE LIKE me ?.......that wasnt ALL CAPS, now was it ?.....lol, so am I rude or perv or just stupid, huh? <><><><> ask a stupid Q and get a stupid A !!!!
633515
Thank you. I didn't know that. As the wife of a serving British Army Officer I often get the impression that the opposite is the case. Some of the bizarrely Gung-ho statements don't help. I mean what on Earth does 'Ladies and gentlemen, we got him' say to a watching World? or, a recently aired interview with an American Soldier serving in Iraq who referred to 'zapping' Iraqis. We joined you in making a terrible mistake. I have been deprived of my husband for a year in the last three whilst he served on two Operational Tours, and a 27 year old friend mourns her husband. There were, and are, no WMD and all we can do now is to try to help clear up the terrible mess we made and hope that our UN Allies, the French & the Germans will forgive us. I don't suppose the people of Iraq ever will. You are right. It's not your fault. It's your Government's fault and my Government's fault and the only way we can truly protest (although as a Senior Army Officer's wife, I have marched against this war) is at the polling booth.
209873
I am currently a military spouse and if I could do it all over again I would have told my husband to just get a job in his major and not the Army.  The Army takes care of us, they have some great benefits probably the best in the world.  But none of that is worth risking your life for.  I'm not anti-Army, I'm just living the life supporting my husband.  We have a 3 year old, and he just came back from a deployment in Dec and possibly will be leaving again within a month.  Imagine a 3-year old asking for his daddy everyday while he is fighting in a senseless "war".  If you can't, it's pure hell.  I don't recommend military life to anyone unless you are single and times are REALLY hard for you financially.  There are alot of sacrifices you have to make in a military environment.  I have some research for you, go and find out the divorce rate for military servicemen, its beyond the means of high.  I think I just told you the reason why!!
240600
My husband is a 13B.  He doesn't get to shoot much anymore these days, but enjoys being a red leg through and through.  I love being an artillery spouse.  When he was deployed to Iraq I got a tattoo of a heart with cross cannon in the front and his name. It totally blew him away. All of his buddies in his unit thought that was the coolest thing. Can you get more red leg than that? When we go to our St Barbara's balls, we can't wait for the Artillery Punch, that is always the absolute best part of the evening.
187878
from what i understand, the guy got somebody pregnant a month after leaving his girl to join the army. if he can't control himself while he's away, then the relationship might just as well go down the drain.
347052
Being a military wife, yes, it's hard when my husband is deployed for long periods but I have gotten used to it.  I have my own job, activities and friends to bide my time with while he is away.  I knew what I was getting into when we got married and I'm sticking with it.
640916
Hi Kerry \n\nI've been in Iraq myself and spent half the year there and i know first hand what it feels like and what goes on in your mind when you are over there.\n\nYour desired man works in security in Iraq where he is faced with  real danger,im sure you av seen from the news and everthing else,the rest isn't for me to say.I met someone when i came back on leave and it was the best thing ever to happen to me but in my head i had this feeling what will happen to her in case  i dont make it back or if something happened to me will everything still be be same with us.I survived all that and my days were hard to get by.\n\nIn your case im sure this guy is thinking along the same lines and probably feels that he should not make you wait in case he never makes it back or if something happens to him will it still be the same between you guys,more like a state of mind to get you through that time,but im sure deep down he hopes you will wait for him and as long as you have the will power to wait for that long and expect anything to happen afterwards, i think you will have given yourself the best chance with him and who knows were it will take you.
40725
I am not a soldier...anymore.  I was active duty army for 2 1/2 years and also did a tour in Iraq.  I am now a soldier's wife.  My husband just left a week ago.  I know what you are going through.  You need to understand though that when he says he doesn't want you to worry...that's the truth.  I told my husband before he left that I don't want to know if he gets fired upon, has to shoot anyone, etc.  I would rather just stay in a lovely state called denial. LOL  When I was in Iraq I made that mistake of telling my mom when I was shot upon...I never told her about another incident.  I didn't want her to worry. (Keep in mind...is was there in the beginning)  Give him some time...hopefully he will start having some stories that he cares to share soon.  I am am yahoo messenger quite a bit...my email address is in my profile.  Keep your head up...good luck!
114718
I love you guys ! you are generally respected. my son was a Lance Cpl in the Marines and did three tours in Iraq. he came back the last time with PTSD. he sought help but not the way he should have.and they didn't do anything to help him. he began drinking then a while later began to use drugs. he was reduced to a private and dishonorably discharged. the way our government and the military is handling the guys who have served our country is what is disturbing to me.I don't agree with the mission but you guys have a job to do and I respect what you are doing and why you are doing it. I don't respect the governments position.  my son was a wonderful happy young man before he went to Iraq. God Bless You and Keep you safe ! You Keep your head held high, what you are doing is an honorable thing. and you should be Proud, we are proud of you !
620480
it's nice to hear the air force is treating you well ... I was a army wife and it was not" 90210 "like you explained ...{thanks for the dumpy comment }, My husband was a GRUNT in Bosnia and in Afghanistan ... It was sheer hell for me and our 2 boys .. Im thankful for Ft. knox they did all they could do to make it as easy as they could for us during my husbands deployment... No matter what branch all these men and women are HEROS ! I was not aware that there were people who did'nt support our troops ... I just thought it was Bush they did'nt support ! being a "army" wife is very hard!!{ there is no fun and games at war} maybe I should have had my husband Join the airforce so we could not appear to be so dumpy!!! My husband is a hell of a man and Im very proud of what he has done for our country.. HOOAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!