I feel that since im being cheated on and I found out---the other party has the right to know and should know also, my wife has always (apparently) had a thing for married men---except of  course the one shes married to----Divorce has already been filed by me
217662
Oh you are toooooo kind!\n\nI would not stop at just telling their spouse....*smile*. \n\nget a photograph of the fornicators together and mass produce it...slip it into the bulletin at church...not as much fun embarrassing a man as it would be for a woman i wouldn't think..but yeah..i would be irrational!\n\nyes..i would definitely tell the other spouse...she is at risk for a disease from a cheating spouse. and so are you...who says that this is the first affair either of them have had?\n\nget yourself checked for std's.
647812
Well, if I had a husband and I suspected him cheating I would first come out and ask him! Heck with pretending to be someone else. It's pretty much how well you know him also, a woman will always have to trust her instincts if you suspect him being a cheat then look for clues, if he keeps cheating it won't be long before he gets caught, no matter what a cheating spouse sooner or later WILL get caught. That's why I'm divorced now, but I was the one that cheated and yep! I got caught.
53800
Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
115631
The fact that you see your fault in your current marital problems indicates that you are NOT crazy.\nI do think, however, that you should maybe see someone about your jealousy issues PRONTO.\nIn what I've seen here, it doesn't sound like you don't trust her, just that you're making your own self crazy, and making her a little crazy too.\nYou need to fix what you can, and fix it fast.  \nWhat you CAN fix:  You, anything that has to do with YOU, what it is that YOU do, what YOU think, what YOU feel, etc.\nWhat you can NOT fix:  What someone else does, what someone else thinks, what someone else wants, what someone else feels, etc. (someone else = your wife)\nIf you're smart, you will get off it & keep your mouth shut, before you do have a hand in driving her into someone else's arms, be it this guy or anyone else.  FYI, you stated yourself that their relationship is more professional, and again I say...you've not indicated in the slightest that you do not trust your wife.\nGet your head on right, and stop pressing the issue before it's too late.\nAnd to answer your initial question:  They're only friends.
271570
For your information, when two ppl are married, nothing should be hidden from the other mate. It is supposed to be an open book relationship. So if the wife finds something the husband has done, she has every right to look, snoop, or whatever, he can on her too. You must have never married or you would know that. The two shall become one.....so each mate has every right to see, know what the other one has done or is doing, that doesn't make one a snooping b_____. so get a life and grow up. You're still in your baby stage of life. Haven't you got anything better to do that bash women and call names....? take a long look at your life and where it's headed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
240869
You owe your wife the truth.  She has a right to know what kind of man she is married to. The longer you wait to own up to all of this with her, the more hurt and angry she is going to be. Try to be a man in all of this, tell her the truth and let her move on with her life. Your feelings are not the only ones at stake here.
343516
Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
105085
I've been there.I've been married three times.Why?Because I cheated on my husband(s)and felt guilty!Tell your wife and let her decide what you should do.She will probably divorce you then you can do what you want.If you cheat again you will start that vicious cycle all over. Don't cheat!
103440
That is too close to cheating.  Think about how your wife will feel.  How would you feel is out of the clear blue, her ex called her and wanted to know how she is doing.  Would that be okay with you?  What if he  had lingering feelings for her?  Use common sense.
395393
Sounds like my divorce decree...
659317
First of all your not the scum he is. If he is cheating on her with you then he will cheat on you with someone else. Since your relationship with him has been sexual I would tell the girlfriend. She has a right to know what she has been exposed to. I am not saying that you have anything but the guy may be seeing several other women and not just you. It is also very common to be angry at the other woman and not yourself or the guy. If you look at this logically then you would see who you should be angry at. For the last two years this guy has been leading you and his girlfriend and God knows who else on. When you found out about the girlfriend you probably thought that he would dump her and stay with you. It doesn't always work that way. If you dont tell her and leave the guy you are always going to be second guessing what he is up to. You are always going to be comparing yourself to his girlfriend and you will never be happy. Telling his girlfriend would only be fair to her. You have known about her and have seen what this guy is like. Maybe his girlfriend needs an eye opener. And the guy deserves to be alone.
236449
No. He's basically hiding things from you. You feel like he should be able to tell you anything. But because he's keeping things from you, its like he doing something behind your back, like cheating. You may be feeling a little insecure but its only because he's making you feel that way.
557194
i think that you have every right to be suspicious and i think that he is most likely cheating again. i would say to divorce him. and dont' feel bad about it. the bible states the reason for divorce being adultery. so you're in the right. *hug* God bless you, hon and email or IM me if you want to talk some more.
309996
Well one of the last fights I had with my spouse just before I filed for divorce was about sex.  I felt she should have it with me and she felt she should have it with everyone else but me.
71107
depends on how i feel about my 1st wife after leaving her and remmarring another person and divorcing that other person.
1978
I did a similiar thing (except he wasn't married) and now my husband is divorcing me. It's probably a sign your marriage is lacking and whatever benefits you are receiving from the other guy (companionship, attention, etc) is making for this. Talk to your husband, be honest about how you feel and try counseling. Good luck.
229215
Sounds like you have some trust issues in general. Maybe you were betrayed by someone you trusted and now you're on guard. It takes time to build trust and to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Once you do, you'll be able to tell that person anything.