I want to be with a woman but my husband is totally against it, what do I do, just let it go?
211659
Flip the situation and ask yourself how you would feel if he told you he wanted to be with another man.
354723
He sounds like a glutton for punishment! I doubt he will listen to anything you have to say, but for your own sanity get it off your chest and let him know what a ridiculous decision this is and that his wife needs therapy, if she refuses to get it and he refuses to make her get it, then there is nothing anyone can do about it.
501105
For an arranged marriage, it's understandable how there can be some conflict arising from the circumstances but...Refuse! You have to stop for a second and think about your husband's desires.  It is important for you to show respect towards yourself and not do just anything he tells you to.  Express to him your discomfort, and if he as loving as he seems to be, he will get your point.  He also should take down that site and respect your privacy, especially since he never asked for your consent. \n\nIf he isn't willing to do that...then get a divorce if possible and move on.
28120
In all honesty, just be blunt about it.  There is now reason why he shouldn't want to be with you.  I can relate to an extent because my wife wants it all the time all day and we have only been married for just over a year.  But I have been away from home the entire time and when I came home she made it sound like that is all she wanted out of me over the phone.  don't get me wrong I wanted it just as much, but just feeling like thats all she wanted made me feel less of myself.  \nI don't think you are in such a situation, but I still feel the best way is to come and say in.
362676
I agree with your husband and just move on
252663
if you feel you need to let your partner have this option then do so as long as the door swings back your way as well....but in doing this you do find that unless you are in a very strong and trusting relationship it just won't work\nYour going about it wrong...what if someone says no to him.......  what then lower than before.s Sex isn't the answer. Allowing others to come into ones life will always create added problems. This i do know..having you tell him he is all that he is should be the best starting point. Then you move on with him .  i think you might be heading in the wrong direction. My sisters husband did the same thing and it took 5 years of a long hard road to get back on track but she walked with him every step of the way... Things are as good as they use to be . Good luck re think things.
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Thats exactly how me and my husbands relationship started!  Thats so crazy and I always thought that I was the only one.  \nAnyways, you can simply ask him what does he like about you and if its not strictly sexual, he should be able to tell you with no problem.\nIt also sounds like he's scared of commitment, and you can be patient if you feel he's worth the wait, but dont allow yourself to be hurt in the process.
237731
although you seem to be going through a lot of pain, and i do feel for you, the problem  is still the same...you want two wives! can't do that man, sorry. there is no way that you can fully love two people the same. you have to let one of them go. you might not think it's fair to you, but that's selfish. have you ever thought about what the women want? stop being selfish and let one of them move on and find someone who is willing to be with only them.
314130
Jealousy, baby.  Just because she decided she didn't want him, doesn't mean that she wanted anybody else to have him.  Maybe she wanted him to chase her, and she's mad because he didn't.  Who knows?  It sounds like your husband completely supports you, so just let the little stuff that you can, go, and if it is a really major issue, discuss it with him and find out what he thinks/wants to do.
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As a guy, I know that I want to be the one to give my wife what she wants. I don't want to be nagged, or reminded of how I messed up and didn't give her what she needed. (not to say you are doing this, but some women do) I think you need to back off. Let him miss you a little. Start doing things you enjoy with friends, or by yourself. Let him want to join your club. Or do something hot and freaky, and keep him coming back for more. Either way this should open things up.
513886
I would keep doing it.  You obviously have no respect for your wife, so why let her get in the way of your sleezy relationship?
411747
Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
597672
My first question is , if you felt you could Never trust him 100% why did you marry this man? Was it convenience? Get out, tell him its over your moving on blah blah blah.. I know its not that easy, trust me I know.. You know the old saying "been there, done that". Right now he's abusing your relationship, playing on your emotions, he knows how to get at you. Don't allow him, stand your ground. Your not happy there is no reason to continue this with him. Ask your friends for help or family.If that's not possible look into your local women's help shelter, there is help out there to get out of situations like this. If your unhappy there is NO reason to stay Hun.
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I actually just told my husband to leave me alone the other day,but he asked me what was wrong and I said,'hormones...just leave me alone'. He did though and I felt better after having some time to myself. I think your husband needs to realize that no one is happy all of the time. We all need time to ourselves and it is good for you and good for the marriage to be able to take this time. As for having a big blow-out about it...I would've walked away. I don't take that crap anymore. It isn't worth it to me to talk til I'm blue in the face,trying to explain 'why'. I shouldn't have to. An argument doesn't really get you anywhere. I tend to wait until things have settled down and then have a conversation about it and find out what he is feeling then. I gave up a long time ago on trying to justify myself to him. We actually have a better marriage this way. Good luck to you.
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Sounds like your man is just a Neanderthal - if he is not willing to at least listen to your hopes and ideas then he is not worth the time and emotion that you are putting into the relationship. \n\nIf you can not leave him you are going to put yourself through a life time off submissive behaviour that will eat at your personality until you really don't have one, just a bad reflection of your partners egotistical ideas of what a wife should be. \n\nYou have to force him to listen and if he still refuse leave him - if he loves you at all this will cause him to come to a realisation that he does have to listen to you. if he is still not prepared to listen to you, then he does not love you but wants to posses you like he would a car, house ect and you are better of without him.
151656
He's committed to another woman.  It would be unkind and unprofessional to put the moves on him.  Don't poop where you eat.  Find a nice single guy, and life will be much, much easier for you.
211533
Why did you marry him then?\n\nMarriage is more than a way to have guaranteed sex; there is an emotional committment there as well.\n\nIf there is no hope that you will change your mind, then you are both living a lie. he loves you, but it will never be honestly reciprocated. Your mind is elsewhere.\n\nInitially, get counciling to help with these feelings.\n\nYou need to be honest with him, which starts by being honest with yourself.