This man is well educated, doesn't have a drinking or drug problem and did not cheat on the other person. He just didn't try to kiss or make love at all without alot of prompting. He even said that he felt pressured to do it.
211971
Believe it or not, a lot of people loose interest in sex after marriage. For the first few months thier interest may increase, or they could just stay normal. But once the "honeymoon" is over, a lot of people just loose interest. Also, it could be that he is depressed. You might want to look into that. Or, if he has been put on any antidepressants lately. Most doctors fail to inform patients that a side effect of SSRIs is a decrease in sexual desire.
302634
Wanting, and needing to cheat? Shows that there are, in some cases a different set of circumstances that trigger such desires to be accomplish, as much for man as for woman's? Honesty and dedication are the basic needs that in such scenario are obviously missing. I don't really know what, and why there are such impulses so indescribably real, though I believed overall cheating is a sign of immaturity as well of insecurity from the two, as well than the third sided triangle? been involved in the act of cheating. Though I know that depend of the circumstances and especial cases of each individuals involved the results are most all the time, disastrous. As well than a very bad and sad experiences, if there are Children's involved.---Thou lol..., I will subjects to all to avoid it-----, especially went this become a sex-basic act of betrayal.
450882
he just is saying he has a strong feeling of having sex with you. and yes he did not mention love in it or like so rule that out. lust is just wanting to have sex without affection of any sort. lol
374075
Sounds like he has intimacy issues. Most guys would jump at the chance to have real sex with a real woman. Obviously, this guy is in love with his fantasy life, the idea of exploring his needs through detached means.
259417
He had an "emotional" connection with this person, so...by definition, he already cheated, hence a "real affair".  Sometimes it is worse than when it is just for physical gratification, with no emotion attached.  Don't know if he would have a physical relationship with someone other than his wife...some men prefer to not go beyond the cyber thing, as that is what their turn on is, so it's just a matter of who and how he is, and how sound the marriage is.
131798
He was  not mature enough for marriage and now you have to cut your losses and make a better decision with the next guy. There are always signs when a man is not mature enough for marriage and you just didn't pick up on them until it was to late. Once he got married he felt trapped and like he had not fully lived his life. Eventually he will be ready mentally and emotionally to settle down but by then you might already have someone else. Marriage is a big step and he took it tooooo lightly.
370302
you may have pushed him away, but maybe not.  some guys just want sex and don't know how to tell the female that's all they want.   Too immature in my opinion.
570510
I AM THE DECIDER does not give an informed opinion, how would a virgin (at least with a female) know anything about this!\n\nHe thinks he has a girl friend, but actually since she is repulsed by him, she is not giving it up, so he is used to being in a sexless relationship!
52568
Something is telling you not to trust this man. Why are you hesitating? Trust your gut feeling. There is nothing wrong with telling him no. You will find someone who you trust. Besides sex should be without love.
459141
i think what you are trying to get at or say is that guys wont move on from their girlfriend whom they can get regular sex from until they find someone else or some other means of getting regular sex. this guy sounds like a tool. end it now, save yourself from the heart arche and from being used.
505857
My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
423972
He could possibly be gay or really insecure with himself.  Maybe he did not have a lot of previous experience and did not want to make an ass of himself?  He could be gay.  He could be using the drugs to escape reality a bit.  It's like a temporary bandaid.
60920
I think that people that save sex are to be highly respected.  I myself am waiting until marriage.  Sex, when thrown around too much, becomes stagnant, and it takes more and more to please the person, just like a drug.  Studies have proven that those people that have only had one or two partners in their lives, no matter how active they are together, are much less likely to get bored with each other.  He takes sleeping with someone seriously, and we all should.  We're talking about an act that God made so that two people in love, who are intimate on every other level, ie mind, personality, spiritually, can now consumate and become fully one in each other.  Its so beautiful when done as its supposed to be.  Sex just for sex ends up being shallow.
396199
sounds like it was just bad timing... and the fact of how and where you guys met. Most of the time when someone knows and agrees to just a sexual thing then they seperate their emotions. When they get their emotions involved it causes great confusion. And sometimes if you are not at a point in your life where you can "sort" out your emotions then you tend to try to dismiss them and move on with your life. Sadly enough I do not think there is anything you can do except be more careful where you choose to meet the next guy, perhaps somewhere a little more reputable. Good luck :)
390218
I think he has settled down a lot in his old age. but I think he and holly definately have an "open relationship" and he certainly could (and, aw, hell... more than likely has or does) hook up with any girl he ever wanted and it wouldn't land him in any trouble. to the people at the playboy masion, sex is like something you do for fun...when you are bored. kinda like playing cards or eating chocolate. just something fun that doesn't carry any resposibilities or commitments.
280745
I rather have someone who is faitful and isn't going to bring me a disease then someone who is going to sleep w/ anything that walks talks and gets on all fours. Even if it's not sleeping flirting to me is the somewhat of the same however I can see past the flirting as long as NO actions where taken. To me infidelity is a sign of weakness. There's nothing wrong w/ a good, strong Christian man. Maybe she's insecure w/ herself and doesn't feel she deserves better. Like a respectful man that's going to treat her right.
79089
Hey, he's not married! Flirting isn't like adultery... as long as you don't know the girlfriend then all's fair!