my boyfriend is in a gang and i kind of want to get in to he says he will put me in but he really don't want to what should i do
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You can't be serious.\n\nOne does not aspire to be in a gang.\n\nGo back to school.
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Why would you want to go with him? The guy walks all over you. Are you a doormat? You sound like one.\nHe doesnt listen to you.\nHe gets away with everything.\nHe never sides with you.\nHe leaves you out and goes to dinner with another girl.\nWhat is in this relationship for you? He has it made while you get nothing.\nYou need some assertiveness training and to dump this loser and find yourself a man who will cherish you.
392133
Run, any boy who says he has his girlfriend on lock down, is not a boy you want. He would try the same thing with you. Don't tell his girlfriend, if he really has her on lock down she won't believe you anyway.
89365
bring this stright to him it is either you that he will spend his time with or his friends. if he choose his friends leave him because that shows that he only has a little for you in him and alot with his friends. but if really cares he will be with you and only hang with friends when you are not around. but if the problem continues just break up because he not going to care about you only his homeboys. \nalso you have to power to be on our own and be what you want to be you dont need anyone who to be or what to do espacally a guy who would not listin to you.\nif any more \nemail me \nzero0saiyan@yhaoo.com
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babe you are on the right track - you only deserve the best trust me mr right is out there for you and he cant wait to meet you so just tell this guy its just not working out the way you want it to be and that you wanna see other people cos you want something serious - plus he treats you like shit you said so he really doesnt deserve an explanation if you wanna hurt him just say that you want some fun in the sack hehehe but trust me the man of your dreams is comming and he will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated goodluck
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let them think what they want - and you should do the same - be your own person and do what ever the hell you want to do. if the guy you do end up going out with is a good-guy he should stick up for you and defend your honour (excuse the clich'es). basicly you need to not care what others think, feel, or do. you are in it for yourself so you are the only person you should be worrying about.
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well, the sad truth is that you can't tell your boyfriend who to be friends with.  I understand that you don't like his friend, and that maybe you don't even like who your boyfriend becomes when he is with his friend.  But you can't change him.  You can tell him your concerns and hope that he cares enough for you to stop hanging around with his friend when he is going to strip clubs, but other than that, there really isn't anything that you can do.  Look sweetie, you will learn that you really can't worry about whether or not your man is going to cheat.  If he is, then he is, and if he isn't then you don't need to worry.  but you worrying isn't going to do anything other than make you sick, ya know?  So, just find a way to be happy and comfortable in your relationship.  Be faithful to him and hope that he is doing the same thing.  Trust in your relationship.  This will save you a lot of anguish and pain in the long run.\n\nGood luck!
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well dont be an idiot about it. you obviously know what he's trying to do...so dont let him..tell him what the deal is, and that hes not going to use you to compete with your bf
200962
Okay Miss B,\n\nWoman to woman, I am going to be straight with you. The guy that is in prison is going to have an extremely difficult time with employment and other things that require a criminal and credit check. Are you willing to carry him through that? You will more than likely be his sole provider until he is able to find a job. If the guy you are with now really loves you and is making an effort to treat you well and commit to you, why ruin a good thing to wait on someone who is going to be totally dependent on you? I know it is a tough situation to weigh, but you have to also think about your role in both their lives. Are you going to be willing to sacrifice things for the guy that is in prison? Are you willing to get rid of what seems like a nice guy, to wait for someone who is going to have multiple issues?
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Ok, let me see if I have this.  This dude has said flat out he doesn't want a relationship with you.  And he is with somebody else.  But he will still bone you?  What don't you get?  The guy wants you as his side salad, girl, nothing more.  Why do you want someone who is going to cheat in a relationship anyway?  You have self esteem issues if you are thinking of changing your appearance for this guy.  Wake up and get a real man and not this loser.  If you do have one more night with him, make sure you bring chunky peanut butter and a dog.  Dim the lights.  Put the peanut butter on his balls and tell him it's whipped cream.  Then let your dog take a bite out of crime, girl.
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You should have a nice long talk with him and give him an ultimatum. If he loves you, he'd do the right think and not do things that are illegal or get him in trouble.  Who do you think will be visiting him when he's in prison? Not his so called friends. YOU.  Nip this is the bud now babe. You want your man honest, healthy and living life to its fullest on the right side of the law. Good luck hun. Do the right thing.
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I think you need to leave your boyfriend, get an education, and make something out of yourself.\nWhy are you dating a criminal?  Don't you have any more respect for yourself than that?
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When you return, and if he ever hints again at the possibility of being violent, get away from him as fast as you can. Then get a restraining order. He clearly has a violent streak. And if he can punch his sister in the mouth, then I would take him seriously if he says he'd kill you if you break up.\n\nDon't put your life in danger. No matter how much he says he loves you, he WILL hurt you eventually.
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ok yeyyy, if theres something that happens alot to me, thats getting dumped lol, but at 2 1/2 moths your still in the safe zone of saying you just don't like himt hat way, but honestly if he puts his friends first he probably won't be to heart broken, al you have to do when you break up with a guy is be honest say whats wrong, and then say and because of this, i don't think we should go out anymore, give the problem, then break up, then walk away, he might be stuned for a few min, but then he be glad you where honest..... because honesty is valued, if you leave for a guy admit it, we find out later and it only hurts more, i mentioned that to state honesty to break up with a guy will be the only way to do it, tell him why, and thats the easyest way
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maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
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If you relly like him tell him so and say that you do but you dont want a relationship with someone who is risking death and personality destruction. Tell him that you will tell his parents with his agreement if he wants to get off drugs and that that would be a truly heroic fight tell him if oyu woudl make a committment to seeing him through it or if you will be there when he is clear. Mostly as others have said look after yourself but dont manipulate him as that woudl be disempowering and he is in enough of a state as it is.#
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if ur going out with him i would dump him if ur not tuff luck girl he might not be into u