I have always been a patient person and have waited all of my life for everything. Presently I have an issue that is causing me to lose the value of patience. I need to hold on to this virtue as this is the most important thing for me. Waiting has just been horriffic and has caused me to not stop and consider circumstances in all situations or the cost of my inconsiderate actions. I am asking for the wisdom of those who know how to wait patiently and consider all results of negative actions due to not understanding the full value of the present reasons for this waiting time.
211113
My perception is that you are confusing patience with indecision when you say "...have waited all of my life for everything."\n\nPatience isn't waiting; it's tolerance.  "Patience is the ability to keep control over the impulse that rises suddenly when something disagreeable happens."\n\nIf you say, "waiting has just been horrific," for someone to react to you or your requests, I think you know the answer but are not willing to accept it.
478699
Could be any, all, or none. Question is why did you do that? Did you wait until the last minute? Is someone other then yourself exerting the pressure that makes you do that? Let's hope you are able to plan better next time and be kinder to yourself.
38798
Lets just say that you have overcome half of the problem -at least you realize that you are always late.\n\nNow there are two ways to do this:\n\n1. There has to be one or two thing that you are always on time for, there has to be something that you value in your life. Perhaps lets just take a look at what do you do that delays you, other than what needs to be done. If you can isolate those interests, may be then try to see if there is any career and growth possiblities in those activities? I assure you if you are able to find what you love doing and if it is rewarding too, you will never be late or feel bad about yourself.\n\n2. You need to have a disciplinarian in your life, get an instructor, get someone who matters to you and try to improve these habits. Furthermore, you have to either yourself or with the help of friend -start to exercise, this way your body will remain agile and your mind will be fresh to keep you going.\n\nThese will ultimately lead you decide your motivational factors -it is just not possible that you do not feel motivated at all. The problem will be resolved when you have your motivations and your targets in place.\n\nAs a human being we all have a mechanism of self satisfaction and achievement. We need to feel good about something and you need to see whether this feeling is when you are late or when you are in time.
20005
If you are keeping score its not a relationship worth having. You do what you can with what you have to work with. In some areas my significant other is much needier than I am. In other areas I am much needier than she is. We don't hold back, but give what we have to give and accept what we are offered believing that if there was more to give it would have been given and that what has been given in love should be accepted. I hope that's not confusing.
388284
How sweet to apologize. Yes it is true that none of us know when the end time will come. It could come tomorrow or ten years from now. What-ever date it may be, one needs to be ready, but that doesn't mean that one needs to stop living life and not prepare for the future. You said it best.....it is up to God.  God Bless and take care!!
108112
I say take a deep breath, If you are doing you best, you have loved, you have what you want,  are restless at night, lost something dear, all you can do is pray.  Remember that life it not a perfect picture. It take work and dedication to succeed, to get what you need, to love and feel it is not a waste, to finally get that well deserved rest and to know that when something is gone replacing it is never the thing to do, something better might be in stored for you.
606056
i say he loves and respects you and is trying to learn from his mistakes - before he leaped too quickly and it ended badly. I usually tell guys to wait until she is ready but I have to switch this time and say hey wait until he is ready. relationships are hard enough all by themselves without added pressure. sounds like a keeper to me. Be happy
563556
Maybe it's the fact that I'm a little older.  But I feel that when a man has doubts about his feelings for me, then it's best that I leave him alone with his feelings.  I refuse to let a man keep me dangling and waiting.  Is it worth the wait, possibly?  But I can't wait forever and so I continue moving on with my life.  If he comes around then great, if not then I know it's not meant to be.
218746
My heart really goes out to you, I can't imagine what you are going through with your daughter. It sounds like you have made a great start with the day to day stuff and i think this is the best thing to do -concentrate on each day and don't look too far ahead. Rely on your family and friends and don't stop talking about it, play with your baby and wait. The waiting is the hardest part, but if you take it slowly and don't set a time limit - don't say for example that by next week you will have stopped crying, or that by next month you will be over him and don't judge your own 'get over him' time by someone elses, everybody does things in their own way. But i promise you that if you keep doing what you're doing it will go away, it really will, you just have to wait. Wishing you all future happiness xxxx
400091
My husband and I got engaged early and We both should probably of waited a lil longer.. We don't regret it now... \n\nBut we both do look back and think we needed to grow and learn a lil more about life and being together as girlfriend and boyfriend.\n\nI'd say wait it out if you both feel like you should be together forever then it's worth the wait.\n\nAnything is possible and you should weight it all out... Should I rush or should I take my time?\n\nAsk yourself that because in the end your heart knows what's best not your inner-voice.\n\nJust take it one day at a time and see what happens!\n\nGood Luck!
588452
I was always taught that "you get what you give", "you reap what you sew", etc. I believe in "Karma" and that truth and good should and will always win. So I have spent my life giving as much as I can to the ones I love and those around me, and sewing as many good deeds and thoughts that I can. For the times when I have made mistakes and hurt others: I  always try to make amends. Basically trying my best to be a good, honest and thoughtful person.Despite this for the second part of the deal:      I'M STILL WAITING!!!
653505
It is not cruel as long as you are keeping everything on the table.  If you are not ready then you shouldn't do anything until you are ready.  But if you are teasing him and letting him think that something is going to happen despite what you are saying, then that is not so nice.  Since you are not ready for more, if I were in his shoes, I would want to know up front how far we are going to go then I can respect the boundaries and decide if I want that.  As a side note - I am a little old fashioned and believe that it is best to wait until marriage for sex but I know that position is very outdated for the vast majority of people.
607604
relax, take it slow, respect each other's nervousness, be gentle, and just enjoy each other without worrying about the act, it will happen when you allow yourselves to realize that what you waited for was well worth the wait.  It was for us and we are still married 34 years later.  Oh, I brought a deck of cards along, and we played a bit at one point to break the tension.  It actually helped, and it was a very satisfying night.
96302
I have survived alot in my life. Too many personal tradgedies that i overcame got me to be a motivator and Life Coach today. To make a difference to thos are just living and not experiencing life. It is one thing to live, yet another  to experience life. I am a survivor and proud of it. I have to be, God is not ready for me just yet. I need to help too many with my life.
77191
ok, here goes. Once you have been in a sutation. You have sloved the problem. Next time one like that,of that,nature arises you will have the knowlede of the last and a new one from the if you will "in your face". This is how we move foward. best of luck to you.
111717
Oh my God!  I am a tremendously intuitive and spontaneous person.  I have switched not only jobs, but also careers several times based on intuition.  So far, so good!  Following my heart has led to great success.  Some time ago I learned that you should do what you love and the money will follow.  Even if the money doesn't follow you still get to do something you love, so that ain't half bad.  As far as my personal life goes, well I'm married and I think anyone who is married has to admit that intuition played a large role in the decision to take the big step.  Again - So far, so good!  Of course my intuition and my inclination to follow it has also created some problems from time to time.  I have on rare occasions placed too much trust in the wrong individual, but it hasn't bothered me that much.  After all once I figure it out I don't make the same mistake again but they have to live with themselves forever.
523275
When your ready dont rush anything it will happen if it is going to happen. I went throught that stage too. just give it time