This guy really likes me ,but he is not very likeable to me. He moved here right before X-Mas. At first it was humorous, then he became pervertish, I got tired of him messing with me so when he asked me out for the tenth time I said yes.\nWe went out for 3 days and then I broke up w/ him. Now he\nis bothering me more than ever! He so call claims he is moveing.
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TELL HIM IF HE WONT STOP CALLING AND HARRASSING YOU HE WILL  LOSE HISFRIENDSHIP WITH YOU. AND IN THE EVENT YOU LIKE HIM SOMEDAY HE'LL LOSE THAT CHANCE. OR BEAT HIM SENSELESS LIKE THE LITTLE PIECE F CRAP DESERVES
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I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
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Sounds like he has some issues to resolve before he can give you the attention you deserve.  I'd give him a framed picture of you - the two of you if you have one - and write your phone number on the back with a note that says, "Call me when you're ready to give US a try," then sign it all cutesie.  After that, I'd say talk to him on the phone, hang out if you want, but remind yourself (daily, if you have to!) that he is really not ready for you, and don't get hung up on him.  And don't buy him Christmas presents - a card will suffice until he's ready to be yours.  Oh, and one more thing:  don't ignore other guys while you're waiting for him to come around!  You may miss an awesome opportunity.
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Guys like anyone they think likes them, and fits their image... Guys don' t like clingy/ needy stuff, in general.... my suggestion... forget about it until he makes a serious move.  Smile be yourself, laugh but overdoing it will wreck any level of relationship you want to attain.
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He REJECTED you. Well honey, that's his lose NOT yours. Move on as I know you can get a better guy. Hell, there is probably a line of guys waiting outside your door right now. Look, go see.
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You should just respect his decision instead of thinking that this is just a challenge for you.  Some people really do just want to be left alone!  It may be he that he came out of a bad relationship & is trying to get over it, or he may not be at all interested in you & is just trying to be polite.  If you harass him about it, he'll just get annoyed.  Leave it alone.
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Whoa!  This guy seems to be in too deep way too fast.  If you want to stay with this guy, you need to have a conversation with him and tell him to slow down or you'll have to stop dating.  Explain that you aren't looking for a commitment so fast.\n\nIf this keeps up, let him down easy, and then don't accept any phone calls, visits, emails, etc. from this guy.  Eventually, he'll get the hint and go away.\n\nIf he doesn't go away, try to get a stalking protective order against him.
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Why are girls always so optimistic over being able to change a guy? I'm not against taking chances in love or anything, but usually it just doesn't work. There is a reason why someone behaves the way they do.\n\nIf you feel that he's mean to the others for a valid reason (e.g. if the other people are annoying him etc), then it might still be reasonable for you two to get together. However, if he's just mean for the sake of being mean, then I would advise against it. Most likely he'll end up treating you like the others in the future, because to him, that's the norm.
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'he got caught up in some bullshit and ended up having sex with one of my friends................just read that back and see if it makes any sense!!!!!!\n\nNOBODY gets 'caught'up in something that makes them commit the ultimate no-no.  WIse up - people do things because they want to and they think that they can get away with it.  The reason he has called you again out of the blue is a slight mystery but trust me if he had realised what a mistake he'd made and wanted to get you back he would have done that 24 hours after the event.  He's just bored and is seeing how far he can go with you.  This whole episode is probably to hype his ego that he could get you back again no matter how badly he has behaved.\n\nDo yourself a favour and show him the door with a very large size 9 up his backside as he leaves.\n\nEveryone is worth more than this.  You have to toughen up and not let people rule your future.  If they bring you love and happiness let them in - if not get rid of them....for good!!!!!\n\nHard but true.\n\nGood Luck!!
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It's not nice to say retarded, hun.\n\nAnyhoo, if he dumped you just because his friends asked him to, is he worth it?
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Perhaps he doesn't like you the way you like him and he's avoiding you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Lay low from him, if he comes around then maybe he was just planning on how to ask you out, or how to tell you that he likes you, maybe he's shy. I hope he likes you!
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Heh.\n\nHe prolly doesn't know how to act. Maybe he does want to be with you but feels uncomfortable. Sounds like there's prolly still some bad blood that has to do with the breakup from before.
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i think he likes you but wasn't ready to make a big commitment after his last break up. so that's why he said he just wants to be friends! and next time the subject comes up on IM just say you do like him. i hope everything goes well!
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It's the nice comfy sweatshirt thing.  You see, in moving 1/2 way across the country, he had to give up his home, the folks he casually said Hi to everyday, his favorite pizza joint, etc.  He's lonely at his new place and has decided he wants friends.  Instead of letting them develop, he wanted some already instant made.  Well, there you are.  He already knew you, etc.  \n\nI had this happen to me.  Yes, he's interested.  Yes, you can have a relationship.  However, with everything being new to him now (but him learning it later on) that there will come a time when he doesn't need so much attention ... and he may develop into the guy you knew when he was in town.\n\nI wish I could say "Go for it."  My problem with trying it out is that he really does need to stand alone for a little bit, so you aren't the sudden substitute for his lack of companionship.  It gets pretty draining and depressing being both a person's newfound companion but also his blame when he feels he needs other friends.  You don't need that.\n\nGood luck!
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would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
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I would forget about him. Who wants to be around someone who is so critical and mean. I think that shows the true side to him. Sorry to be harsh: A CREEP! I liked someone, and he was good looking. And he would treat me awful. And I would feel bad all the time. I am glad HE'S OUT OF MY LIFE. What if you married that guy in the future. We marry who we date. I hope you let him go.
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Don't put up with it.  If he really liked you, he wouldn't want you to feel like you do right now, and he wouldn't be dumping you.  I realize you like this guy, and this isn't the advice you wanted, but it's true.  If you let him act like this, and then you two get back together, he'll just break your heart.