I have really low sex drive and it makes life suck! Its getting to the point were my fiance is really thinking of walking away...
199274
Really you should just ride him like a pony. or better yet a shetland pony. What ever you do should do it fast.\nGOOD LUCK
285659
The relationship you have is like an addiction. The longer you wait, the more it is going to hurt coming off of it. Bite you lip and end it. Sex can not be the primary focus. Find a way to focus your energies and time toward something a little more beneficial and find a man that wants more from you then just hitting the bed. Don’t you deserve better?
591934
i dont....i just want sex
301108
First off, follow your instinct about not having sex with him!  ESPECIALLY under these circumstances, it's almost assured to make things difficult.\n\nThe real issue is:  How real do you think this relationship is?  And, how far would you go to take it to the next level?  If it is ever to be, one of you will eventually have to relocate.  If that's a possibility, proceed (but still don't get sexual!)  If neither of you are willing to relocate, then you are only torturing yourself for no reason.
626506
It's time for some counseling!  If he won't go, you go!  You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.  \n\nHe may be in a personal slump himself.  If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition.  Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.\n\nIt may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should.  Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.\n\nWhat I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you.  And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.\n\nI feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation.  Don't just let it go on!  Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.\n\nBest of luck to you!!
153164
Your hormones are raging. Think about it this way. When your older and no longer care about sex that much anymore, are you going to be with someone who loves you and that you love. You want someone who will be your friend when that time comes. For love, you have to make sacrifices. You can't have everything or you might end up with nothing.
377764
Maybe it's tiring him out by wanting it that much. Different people have different sex drive levels. Stop doing it so much? Or try asking him why.\n\nAnd yes, it is normal. :)
491868
It's possible that it's his attitude that's depressing what sex drive you do have to zero. All that pressure ... it's a BIG turnoff. About your age, I had lived with a guy who was really demanding for like seven years and I was virtually frigid by then. Broke up with the guy (we weren't married), turned thirty and whoopee I'm a sex maniac.... don't lose hope.\n\nI recommend you study your own psyche with respect to your sexuality and the relationship. How do you feel when he pressures you, and why exactly? Books, counseling. Do you remember ever feeling somewhat excited, when you first got together? Don't you enjoy erotica or masturbation? If you don't, you're either kidding yourself to avoid confronting the issues in your marriage relationship, or you might as well learn to fake it.\n\nOf course, I could be totally wrong ... please forgive me if you know that to be so. Just basing this on my own experience.
222405
don't mess with mother nature! it's perfectly natural to have a sex drive and it is BY NO MEANS natural to impede this drive because of some silly social construct. \nyour problem is exactly the same as all those Victorian women had, only that they had it worse since they were being told that they weren't supposed to have a sex drive at all. until Freud came along, that is. and he wouldn't have had a clientele if it hadn't been for women with problems like yours. \nso, let's face it: either give in to your drive or go mad within this next year. \nif you already know your husband-to-be - why not have a word with him about your problem? \nif you've made this promise to someone who is not yourself - rethink the promise. the only person you are responsible to about your sexuality is YOU! \nThis is the 21st century, for f***'s sake!
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Clinical depression nearly always results in a diminished sex drive, plus apathy and a general slowing down of everything.  I know it must be hugely frustrating having your sex drives at opposite ends of the spectrum at the moment. But I truly think it would be wise to let the sex take a back seat until he's on his feet again. That way he'll be free of any feelings of pressure or of sexual failings in his part.  His muted sex drive is not because he no longer finds you attractive, but is a result of chemical changes in the brain caused by his depression.  By giving him all your love, support and patience, his depression will eventually lift and his sex drive will be restored.  Good luck and best wishes.
227724
You need to sit him down and have a talk w/ him find out if he doesn't feel there's enough romance there to have sex. Some men have to have romance just like some women do to have sex. You could ask him about going to see a sex therapist.  Sometimes men just lose their sex drive slightly b/c they already have you and sex just isn't as important b/c when your married other things take the place of sex for some. I wish you all the best of luck. If this doesn't work talk to him about seeing a doctor about whether he's experiening problems w/ his sex drive. If not see about a sex therapist. Good Luck!
142036
only thing to do is talk to her about it. have an open and honest conversation. Maybe somethin is goin on that you dont know about. Little things like stress is enough to put a damper on a sex drive.
641420
There's nothing  wrong with being sexual and expecting it in your marriage.  It is a necessary part of a marriage.  But you shouldn't consider cheating or leaving.  Of course since you don't' feel satisfied, you may turn your head at other women, but please.....cheating isn't the answer.  You vowed better or worse.....for now this is the"worse" and can be fixed if you get to the root of the problem.  For a woman, there's probably a reason for low sex   drive, probably something in the relationship.  Together, you both need to get to the bottom of the problem.  Medication may not be the answer for your wife.  Be patient and help her.  Find therapy, it does help.  Don't make her feel like there's something wrong with her, cause it's normal.....and if she feels bad it'll make the problem worse.  Make her feel like you'll stick with her through this until things get better......that's what a marriage is.  It's hard, but if you run every time there's a problem, you'll never hold a relationship together.  Do NOT cheat.  think of the future.....do you want your family to say one day, "yeah, he left cause he wasn't getting enough sex".  You deserve a good sexual relationship, but it's BOTH your problems, not just your wife's.
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Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
103287
all men get horny in the morning, it doesn't mean they have to have sex...it's a few minutes feeling that they can ignore.... come on, he can save it for the evening to be with you ! please don't settle for that, this thing is addictive and it's already showing :"almost every day"... and the stress part is pathetic, aren't you under stress too ?! does that make you watch porn every day??? This is how you should talk to him and be firm, try to find a compromise at least, or believe me, you're heading right into a marriage disaster ! Good Luck
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It seems like you want sex more when you can't get it.  It sounds like he is using that as an excuse.  I have never heard of a man getting bored with sex.  Talk to him and if you can live without the sex stay with him, if not kick him to the curb.
142221
It is all related to hormones and being tired from caring for the baby.  Don't worry, the sex drive will return.  If you are real concerned about it, talk to your doctor.