its been a long time already we didnt make love, coz he is workhalic man, and i feel so bad about it coz i know i cannot change him becouse of his choise, but im his wife and i really miss him so much.
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You need to set aside time that is just for the both of you. It may not be easy because he works, but you need to take control of the situation. \n\nTry and arrange a weekend away. It could even be at a hotel down the road, but the change of environment will do you both a lot of good. Arrange to go out for a meal, both of you dress up. Have the idea that it's a date in your head to make it more exciting.
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You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
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Hey I like you! ^_^ ..lol..seriously though, good for you it's really nice to know that there are men like you out there. \n\nMy husband WAS selfish-I am at the point where I am just like "Come on work with me here" it takes it's toll on a person when your lover thinks of himself before he does you all the time. And you keep telling yourself he'll come around, you only have Faith to keep you from drowning really...It hurts to be treated second all the time. \n\nNow he's changing and I can finally breathe a lil more....I think I will have to get use to being TRULY happy in this relationship of ours and believing that things are different between us... it takes two right? =) \n\nHey thanks for giving me a chance to share my thoughts slash vent....keep shinning and never give up! Best wishes to you and yours!
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you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
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He may have lost attraction to you... sad to say. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.... you're having his kids for crying out loud!!! Personally, I would love my wife even more during that period, however, a lot of men arent like that. It probably has something to do with the weight you have gained from both pregnancies. You need to talk to him about your feelings and your concerns. Maybe marriage counseling would help... if you are both opened minded to that. You are going through a hard time now, physically, emotionally and all. I wish he was more supportive of you. Basically, dont take his selfishness and ignorance personal. You are doing a very important job right now and looks are secondary. Just my thought on the subject....\n\nCounselorDan
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Yeah that is hard. I'm very sorry that you haven't gotten over him yet and moved on with your life.\nAt least you realize that he doesn't want you anymore. I know it even hurts to read it and I'm sorry I'm not trying to be mean. You need to recognize how short life is and that you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with a person that will feel the same way you feel about them. Do you know what you are worth? Well then, move on with your life you are not promised tomorrow right? the sooner you realize this you will have peace in your mind body and soul. Cause i know how it is to crave for a man that you can't have I've been there. \nGood Luck  to you Hun.
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I am sorry to hear that,not much u can do,except love him,and hopfuly,he'll love u back.
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Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
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Honestly, I'm not a marriage counselor or even close to it.  To me though, it sounds like maybe you and your husband aren't as connected on an emotional level if you ask me (which you did, haha).  Maybe the reason you feel this way for someone else is because you've lost those feelings for your husband.  I know it's hard, after marriage and two kids, but it's important to stay physically, emotionally, and mentally involved with each other.  Just try things like going on dates with your husband.  Try to reconnect with him and remember all of the reasons why you married him.  Maybe your husband has a great personality, wit, and a beautiful mind also.  Maybe you just need to remind yourself of it.
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I lost my 1st husband 10 yrs ago. I just dated and dated. I am very independent, but felt like you. I still felt lonley.\nTry personal ads where some men are in same area.\nWorked for me, been married for almost 2 yrs now. This man is really my knight in armor. Good luck to you..there are some good men left.
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I think you might just be missing him, or that youre still attached to him.  I couldnt really call it love, but it all depends on how you define love.......
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Dont! It is not your fault. You husband has always liked Men and because he was such a coward. He was afraid of what people would think of him. Do not beat yourself up about. Im sure you love him. Just pray that he gets delivered from what ever it is he's going through and move on.
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If u don't know what to do with a penis then I feel sorry for your husband.
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get over it, he's human.  try being a wonderful loving wife, and less of a nagging, please be more perfect for me wife.  your already married, accept him for who he is right now, and you will be surprised how fast he changes.  if you want to change something someone is doing, change yourself first.  they will have to change to fit into the new equation.  what if you did something he did not like, do you really want to brow beat each other your whole marriage, or do you want to enjoy him.. what if he died tomorrow, you really think he will be on his death bed thinkin of women he looked at, or his loving wife and child?
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Ive been in love like that and all you can do is keep telling him how you feel. For me, I feel like i cant breathe when hes not around. But its a good feeling not a bad one. Let him know he is the only man for you. That you can never ever feel like this for anyone else. Let him know that your heart beats for him, that you wake up everyday thinking of ways to make him happy, that you love him unconditionally. That you are his forever. If all else fails, tattoo his name on your butt! LOL
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i don't know if u married him or not but i think u must find one suitable for u , i am single and i Love my life i am not die if i am not have a woman but i don't go love and  married woman older than me by 18 years i think i will be her son yes he can gave u many thing but after little time u will know the fact u need to be with one can understand u u say u not in love with him anymore then what u feel now just emotion because i think u r single and alone if u need anther help contact with me have a nice time and good luck
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I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.