I am 13 and my sister is going to 15 soon. She cusses at me, and has a major bad attitude. Why is this?
209894
I am now 19 and I have a little sister who is 13 as well and when i was younger i also picked at my little sister i guess it was because she was smaller than i was but don't think for a second it was because I didn't care about her it was just that when i was 15 there where a whole lot of things changing in my life at the time and I needed someone to take it out on and she was the only one there smaller than myself. Trust me once she gets a little older it will all pass.
635022
It's unusual, but it does happen. She is probably hitting puberty much earlier than other girls. It will make her feel self conscious and may create problems with the way other girls see her and relate to her. She also faces the problem of looking older than her age, causing people to expect her to behave more maturely. You can best help her by realizing that however she looks, she has the mind and emotions of a 3rd grade girl. Intervene if she seems to be the subject of teasing and help her find ways to connect to her peers. We had one little girl in this situation in the school I work at and it actually made a big difference for her when we switched over to having uniforms. That helped the other girls see her as being more similar to them. In a couple years, more of the girls will be shooting up, and by 7th grade, the odd ones out will be the girls who haven't hit puberty yet.
71677
You are around her most of the time. Maybe she's getting too used to you. She'll grow out of it. If your parents spoil her and you have to train her right is it any wonder she feels that way? You are made to look like the bad one.
580640
Ohhh drama.  Well I know how "unfair" it can feel when you're the oldest - I have a younger brother and sister. They can get away with ANYTHING!!!  I had strict dating, curfew, driving (no getting into a car w/ a guy until I was 17), etc. rules.  It can still be obnoxious when I watch them do whatever they please w/o consquence - here's a great analogy:\nI'm the oldest, so I had to start breaking through all the ice b/w me and "freedom," my sister, the middle child, had to trudge through the pieces and push it out of the way...then there's my brother, the baby and the boy of the family - all he has to do is float along and do whatever his heart desires.  It's such bulls**t.  But, alas, that is life.\n\nThe 17 year old you're talking about has a point - yes, it s**ks that she wasn't allowed to date at 14...I wasn't either.  But now, my brother who is 13 gets to go out with girls to the movies (that would NEVER have been allowed in my case - and I was less of a jerk and got better grades, too).  \n\nSo, while the 17 year old is right that it's unfair, she should bring it up with her parents and not take it out on her sister.  She really needs to get over herself and stop being dramatic.  My younger sister really ticks me off sometimes - but this 14 year old doens't sound like she is evil or dating someone to maliciously spite her sister.  The 14 year old can just learn how to cope w/o her sister's advice and support b/c the 17 year old will continue having tempertantraums.
576566
That's just sick.  No matter how respectful and nice this guy may seem he's really a total creep.  I'm 24 and there's no way in hell I would hang out with a 13 year old unless I was related to them.  It's obvious he's going to mess up your sister so badly.  Tell your parents about what this guy is doing.  Your sister may hate you for telling on her, but when she's older and more mature she'll be very thankful.  This guy can screw her over for the rest of her life, or cause her years of therapy.
152318
Sometimes it's forced on by parents. All of my friends are 16-17 and, depending on how they're parents treat them, they act either younger or older. For example, I have a friend whose mother died when she was little and this girl knows how to take care of herself since she's been taking care of her dad for a few years. Another friend, though, is a little spoiled brat because she asks for everything and gets it plus more. Or it could be the bad media that shows the blondes in the tight skirts that little kids are exposed to and that's how they think they should act. Well, probably a little bit of both factors and more.
82030
I am guessing that you are a 7th grade teacher.  And, I would further venture that you are fairly new in your profession.  Thirteen year old girls are quite prone to their emotions, things can seem rather drastic to them.  Is there a chance that what she is telling you is true? Definitely.  Not all abused/neglected kids are unkempt and come from families would fit a particular stereotype.  That is HER reality right now.  Next time you see her, it could be different.  Re read what you wrote in the further details:  "I do not know how to deal with this situation...."  Stay within your scope.  Do what you do best, teach.  Hand the emotional issues off to the people who are trained in these issues.  \n\nRefer her to a Guidance Counselor AND continue to listen.  Discuss any new information she gives you with her Counselor.  I think it may be wise for YOU to ask the Guidance Counselor how you might stay more objective when these sort of things are brought to your attention.
109038
It is perfectly normal for the older sister to not get along with her younger sister.  I feel your pain.  My sis and I never got a long growing up.  But, now we are the best of friends and would do anything for each other.  Remember, they are younger and you know better.  So, ease up on them.., give them a chance to grow as well.  Be there for them and one day they will thank you for it.
192708
14 year olds are kind of in that stage where they arent teenagers yet but they arent kids anymore. sometimes its about finding a balance. maybe dolls and toys are her favorite thing right now but try to give her something else to rave about. makeup or nail polish or girly stuff or something that you and her both like to do that you can do together. make sense??? it'll serve as a "distraction" kinda. but right now i also think that you just need to let her be...she will grow out of them sooner or late. at least she has an older sister that's there for her and is willing to go to great lengths for her. :) good luck
473458
There may be nothing you can do.\nAre you sure there is nothing traumatic that happened in her childhood that you don't know about?  I can see alot of myself in your sister, and alot of my problems come from being raped at a young age - something I kept to myself for many, many years.\nAll you really can do is be there for your sister, support her and let her know that if she wants to talk, you will listen.\nI hope things work out for you both.
132500
It's hard in a situation like that.  I coach fifteen year old girls and I had a similar incident and I wasn't sure how to go about helping her.  It took me awhile to try and get her help because I wanted to make sure and have the best action plan.
207122
Kids can be cruel, they could be jealous of your daughter and are trying to hurt her by using you.\n\nDon't concern yourself with what little brats say, they know no better.\n\nDo what makes you feel better.  Remember there is only one "you" be the best you possible.\n\nDave
510805
sounds like she either has very low self esteem, or she is being rebellious for some reason.\n\nnot really easy to convince her that she is ruining her life. she'll have to figure it out on her own. sometimes we need to make mistakes in order to learn from mistakes.
64794
I have the same problem with a sister who also phisicly hurts me. You could get revenge or try to ignore her (good luck with that) I really wish I knew.
108736
Regardless of who does more, be mature about this and don't tell everyone or tease her about it.  I'm sure she is already humiliated and you don't need to permanently damage your relationship with your sister over it.
49687
The secret to getting along with anyone is to accept them exactly as they are.  When your sister is rude to you that is just her being herself and you don't have to react and compound the problem.  Change the subject if you can.  Unfortunately, people won't always accept you exactly as you are, but will like you a whole lot more if you are never rude.  Good luck.  Thank your parents for grounding you because you have "learned your lesson"; and that has great shock value too <G>.
239889
If you were 8 and he was 2 when you got along and he's 9 now,  that would make you 15?  You're a teenager he's a child.  Case closed.  I am 28 with a 15 year old sister who seems like a martian to me now.  When she was younger we were very close.  Now she is a different person,  as she is trying to "find herself".  YOU are a different person than you were then,  just as he is,  however I am sure that it's not all his fault.  You are asking a group of people who don't know you and don't know who you are to tell you if you hate someone?  How can we tell you your feelings if you don't know yourself?  Furthermore,  hatred is a horrid thing.  It consumes.  I speak from experience.  In addition,  honey your spelling and use of language is horrible.  It's difficult to read posted questions when they barely resemble english.