No offense to straights, gays, lesbians or any other group. I just want to know if such sexual orientation is a matter of free will, or is it something out of anyone's hands?
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Homosexuality is quite obviously no more a choice than heterosexuality is.  \n\nIf Homosexuality is a choice – then when did you choose not to be gay?  When did you look at the options, and choose to be heterosexual?\n\nCould you choose to be homosexual?  Then why do you think that other people can, and do?
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I think gay never asks to be a gay. I think in their nature and unconscious mind and soul they have the tendency to get attracted to same gender. or maybe some decided to be so.. so be it... why not? What's the biggest problem? Nothing fails about it. It is not the end of the world being gay. You could be completely functional as a gay in our society. Who says gay are less than pig? \n\nIt's only about sexual orientations I guess. Not devastatingly a serious problem if u found your brother or father is gay. \nWe are all born with the right of freedom to be free as who we really are. This might sounds so corny cuz we all realize that religions, society, establishment often being there to quite us from what's real and not real in life.\nSo in our society now I presume homosexuality definitely should be accepted unconditionally whatsoever.
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Its a hormonal imbalance.But I would neither condemn nor accept it.I also see it as a case of two different colors.BLACK & WHITE.I you come into this world as white,let those with black be.And vice versa.Its a personal thing,if you have such imbalance and you feel you are ok by it,so be it.But if you dont,never press it on someone.We all are created differently and in diversity we shall grow.I personally am not a gay(but not against it)but I love watching Lesbians smooching themselves.Its like watching any game SOCCER,GOLF ETC.You only get a temporary relief while the players make their money.Ten years ago people still practiced it but not as pronounced as today.Afterall in history,homosexuality has been an age-long practice.But it doesnt mean its accepted publicly yet.THIS MY PERSONAL VIEW.
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the line between homosexuality and heterosexuality is not a point a to b thing. its a continuum, and yes, id oes  change over time.\nSome people really are not attracted to the same sex, even with all the booze in the world. But I would say that as a species we are curious, so it is in our nature to experiment.\nI live in a same sex union and i was previously married to a man, before i came to terms with my orientation. I was in denial. Like many are who will likely blast you for asking this question ;)
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No.  I believe some people are born with gay tendencies, but they still have a choice whether to act on them on not.  Being gay shouldn't be classified with theives and murderers though.  They aren't harming other people.  One can have their own beliefs without using harsh words or bashing.  It is against God to be gay but we are all under construction and have to find out the hard way on everything on this earth.  God said "Judge not, lest you be judged".  A gay person may be living in sin and won't admit it but they still have feelings and the right to be treated with respect just like everyone else.  How else will they open their ears to the truth?
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I believe it is a choice.  Here is my reasoning.  Right here on the Answers site I have asked both of these questions: "Straight women, do you ever fantasize about sex with girls?" and "Straight men, do you ever fantasize about sex with men"  For the first question I literally got about 40 answers saying yes (and one no), but the secon question all answers were no, exept for answers from guys stating that they were gay, but were SURE that straight men MUST think about guys.\n\nSo... 99% of straight women will openly admit fantasies about women, but no straight men will admit fantasies about men.  This of course leads me to believe that ALL THE STRAIGHT MEN ARE LYING, and ALL straight people THINK about sex with the same sex, that then leaves ALL PEOPLE with the choice of who they WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH.\n\nThank you for listening!
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Well, yes... Um... I am gay so...\n\nI don't believe I was born anything, hell, I don't believe any of us are born straight or gay. When you are first born you aren't attracted to men or women, something happens along the way that may cause attraction to either sex. It is not a person's choice to be gay or straight, something during your life may have caused you to go either way.\n\nI myself had sexual encounters with both men and women, from an early age. So, in that I discovered that being attracted to a guy wasn't all bad. I mean, there was nothing wrong with it because a man is a person. Just as much as a woman, a man could physically and emotionally effect me in such a way that attracted me to them. As time moved on, girls started to bore me... For some reason or other. I've never had a boyfriend or anything but I've had many girlfriends, in which I never felt that drive to have sex with them. So... my... relationships didn't last.\n\nSo... well... I believe it is neither.\n\nYou aren't born gay and it isn't a choice. Something just happens along the way, not something bad really... Some people are just more open to different ideas, these people who are open risk becoming gay or considered "odd" ... They can't help but move against the norm, for they are not normal. And there is nothing wrong with that in the least.
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i am attracted to both male and female bodies. it doesnt make you gay though. everyone has problems with their sexuality. it all depends on how you control it. some gay men think that since they like the way a man looks or is sexually attracted to them they should go gay. but if a very attractive woman came and did some thing i cant say to him then he would go right back to being straight. plus their is no problem with being attracted to your own body and the female assests. it just shows that you appreciate women and what we all have.
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None at all is your answer.  As a hetero male, I can say with all sincerity that only homophobes and individuals insecure with their OWN sexuality object to equal rights for gays.  Love is love.....end of story.
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God gives us human desires but we are told to keep them in check.  We may have a desire to have multiple partners but we are warned against that.  We may have a desire to get high all the time, but we are warned against that as well.  We may have a desire to be attracted to the same sex.  But we are warned agaisnt acting on those desires.  \n\nSo it doesnt really matter to me whether they were born that way are not, they should not act on those desires.  They may not be able to help how they feel but they can control how they act.
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Perhaps it's just an easy out for people who don't quite know what to do with homosexuality as a concept or as a practice.  There is a small part of the queer movement who believes that sexuality (important to note that not JUST homosexuality) is a choice which, I suppose, I could support more than just saying that homosexuality is choice.\n\nAnyway, other than that faction within the queer group, it is mainly heterosexual people who I hear that say that to be homosexual is a choice.  I would think it is simple for a person in a heterosexuals position to say that simply because the logic would be, "Well, I choose to be straight because I'm not attracted to (whatever)."  That is just an interesting statement (which I know I am generalizing, but I have certainly heard that one more than a few times) simply because it is defining sexuality based on what it's NOT.  \n\nAnother interesting thing is that it's always homosexuality that is the choice, but NEVER just plain old sexuality in whatever form it comes.  \n\nBuuuut beyond that ............ I have no clue why people think that sexuality is a choice.  You like what you like.  I like apples a lot, but I'm not such a fan of oranges (but I do like clementines).  I like women a lot, but I'm not such a fan of men (but I do like some).  That sums it up for me - it's not a matter of choice or really preference, but just what I like.
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Well, if you feel that way, then you're a bigot. I'm gay, and I can advocate for the fact that it IS natural, because I'm gay, and I WOULD know, unlike you. The issue with homophobia, is that straight people try to make stupid assumptions (It's a choice, it's not natural) when in reality, they have no CLUE because they're not gay themselves. We were born this way, we're PEOPLE like everyone else, and we too, do get offended. So please, save your bible-thumping bigotry for someone who cares. I would also like to point out that for every homophobic person answering this question is a gay/lesbian teenager commiting suicide right now because of the CRAP and TORTURE you put them through. Those of you calling yourselves adults/christians should be ASHAMED. GOOD DAY.
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Why would anyone choose a difficult life?  Especially when it would be so easy according to straight people to "choose to be straight."  If so, I have a question for them.  Why don't they CHOOSE TO BE GAY?  See all those emotions running through you straights right now?  That's how we feel.  We feel "how can we change, if we could, wouldn't we?  Same as straights who are asked to think gay."  They find it incomprehensible to think about men, as I do about women.  Its just not normal for me, sorry, does that sound like a choice or something I'm stuck with?  I cannot remember feeling anything other way from the age of 5 on up.  The men were always attractive the women were always the nice ones.  So, while it may be a choice for some, it was not for me.  The very idea that I could have CHOSE this life is laughable.
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Personally, whatever a person decide is his/her sexual preference, that is their business. I don't impose my  preferences about anything  on them, and I expect them to respect my preferences. Live and let live.
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This is a very valid question but one which is better addressed to the LGBT community than to those who for whatever reason can not or will not ever understand.\n\nHomosexuality is indeed inborn but it is not a disorder. A question to ask yourself is why nature has created the phenomenon of homosexuality in the first place and why does she seem to like it enough to allow it to continue from generation to generation. Nature seem to want to keep the ratio of gays to straights in humans at a relatively constant 1 to 10, this despite the undeniable reality that many gays and lesbians do not breed. The fount of the gay world is and always has been the straight world. And homosexuality most definitely occurs in many animals.\n\nAnyone who believes in evolution I think would agree that only traits that serve a purpose and benefit the species persist for any length of time. Harmful mutations are not preserved by nature. The individuals that are born with truly dangerous genetic makeups usually die before adulthood and do not contribute to the gene pool of the species. \n\nFrom this perspective it would seem that homosexuality must benefit the species in some as yet undefined way. Nature not only permits but actually promotes homosexuality. Why? Perhaps it is partly because homosexuals contribute so much to various fields of human endeavor (arts, sciences, literature, music, even athletics) that they help propel the human race forward exponentially in its cultural development. Worth considering anyway, wouldn't you say?\n\nBut to address the main question here:\nFace it, there will always be people who try to validate their own choices by questioning you for making different choices. Some you can talk to, some it's best to just ignore because try as you may you will not rescue them from their mental blocks nor squeeze from their mental prisons an ounce of true humanity.
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As a straight female, I have no shame in admitting I think two men kissing is absolutely sexy.  So sexy.  I love it.  I love gay porn.  Man on man is my bag.  Entirely.\n\nBut I understand that it isn't everyone's.  If homosexual acts gross you out, you shouldn't be forced to watch them and I don't think it makes you a bigot.  There are heterosexual acts that gross me the hell out and it certainly doesn't make me a heterosexual bigot.  I also feel queasy watching lesbians, but I have no prejudices against them.\n\nThat's the difference between just not being comfortable with watching gay sex scenes and being a bigot:  If you vote to restrict homosexual rights and discriminate against them, you're a bigot whether you can stomach watching homosexuals loving on each other or not.  You're not a bigot, just a guy who knows what he does and doesn't like.  No worries.
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Well, I think  God can guide you on your way to become "straight" but, if that is the way you feel and you think that nothing in the world can change your mind then you've got to come out of the closet. Hope I helped.