2 of my best best friends are cutters and no matter how much I tell them to stop they won't. What should I do? I have already talked to them about it and they say that it just helps them feel better. I have told counslers about it and they are no help. What can I do?
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You have to make sure that they know you are there for them and you need to let them know that it's not an ok thing to do. Convince them that they need to stop and get help. You have to be there for them and support them in everything. Anything else? e-mail me at mowel3point@yahoo.com!
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I know every singly one of these answers is going to tell you to get help, and I know that is the one thing you don't want to hear, but it's what you need to do. If you feel like you can take it straight to your parents then do, but if not take it to a school counselor. Trust me, they've heard this before and it won't be anything new to them; they will know what to do to help you get through this. They want to help you get through this, ok? But you know what the good news is, it just sounds like a case of bad depression! Nothing more! And depression is treatable. I understand that you may feel like you have to cut, and while I don't like it I agree that it is a better option than suicide SO make sure you use clean blades, etc. and keep the cut clean until it heals. No one is going to be able to help you tell anyone else about this so you are going to have to do it on your own. It doesn't even have to be a parent or counselor. It could be anyone you trust. Prefereably an adult, but you could tell a kid and ask them to take it to an adult if that was easier. Any way you do this you are going to be ending up dealing with adults. There is no way around that, but if you tell them yourself at least you get to pick an adult you trust and that you feel comfortable around. Things can get better if you'll let them, but it's probably going to take some work. I wish you sooooo much luck and send tons of love. Know that you're not alone, there are other people with the same problems who have gotten through this.
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Brush you're self off and get back up... You don't need so called best friends who all of a sudden stop being you're friend there not worth you're time or you're friendship..so move on and find another friend who is worthy of a true friend like yourself...Keep smiling!!!!\n\n    Hey don't Listen to Zink she came in here and gave everyone thumbs down on helping you out about you're best friend now what kind of friend would she be? Not one i would want BACK STABBERS stay away from them!!!
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http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html\n\nCheck this link out.\n\nCalling someone who cuts "emo" or "stupid" doesn't help the situation. Self Cutting is a very serious and real mental illness and not a joke or matter of intelligence. You aren't a LOSER if you are self cutting, you simply need some help and counseling. You need to discover or talk about WHY you are cutting so you can learn ways to avoid the emotions that make you do this to yourself.  When you see someone talking about doing something to themselves, try to be a little more understanding. People with this and other conditions, often cannot help themselves.\n\nExample: There is a woman who has a PHD and is highly intelligent, but also as Asperbers syndrome (high function autism). If she is not watched carefully, she will eat glass. She can't help it. She can't stop it. It is something in her brain that makes her do what she does. Treatment helps with control, but people with these ailments cannot be held at fault for their conditions.\n\nThink of this, what ever has made this young woman cut herself, would you like to go through it? For all you know she survived a traumatic event that would have killed you outright. You just don't know.\n\nI hope that the link helps with the asker of this question and those of you reading it.
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you need to get help. you can't stop if you don't want to stop. cutting is very unhealthy. seriously, the only way you can stop is to want to and to get help so you don't have to do it on your own. there are support groups.
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I've had friends like that too. And you can only do so much. Sometimes, they need to learn on their own, as much as it may hurt you to see them get hurt, but at least you know that you have trie to advise them well. However, let them know that you are there and that you are willing to listen. Perhaps, you can find a place where they help teens with problems and get help together.
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You have to sit down with your friend and have a long serious talk with her and tell her how much your nervous for her because of what she is doing and how she can get hurt from all her negative actions.You shouldn't try to make her feel guilty by saying you'll start cutting again because that won't help and it won't persuade her because  she'll just say she has the right to get high as much as you do cutting.Let her know that if she doesn't get rid of her habbits that you don't feel comfortable with her having she could lose you as a friend.Don't get mad at her or yell be calm and be the best possible friend that you can and motivate her into becoming something better and hopefully she will reconsider.If she doesn't listen to you,you must tell an adult you trust and they can take it from there.
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My best advice for you is to make sure you dont keep telling her everything shes doing wrong, the first thing you want to do is tell her look you cant do this and everything along those lines, right now she needs to be able to have someone to talk to about why shes doing what shes doing, More then likely there is a root to the problem, shes not as far as she wanted to be at this point in her life, or something, see if she will open up to you about why she feels the need to go out and party like this, more then likely shes tring to "numb" out something, You dont want her to think that your not on her side anymore, and if you tell her everything shes doing wrong she might take it that your tring to rule her life and then she will shut you out, after you see what the root of the problem is you can talk to her about it, tell her that what shes doing is going to make her loose everything she has and your commited to her as a friend to help her out of this hole shes found herself in, and that you care about her health and you dont want to watch her slowly disinagrate her health and you want to help her get past this hard part in her life and get her to trust your recommendations on what you think she needs to do, then once she says she trusts you to guide her out of this problem, (keep in mind you have to get her to see she has a problem, spoon feed it to her so she sees it on her own she has a problem, like wow you used to be able to keep all this going with out a problem, it looks like your struggling, she will know why and see why) THen keep reminding her that you will do what ever she needs, that you will hold her hand in a local AA class, or you will go to a rehab place with her, what ever it takes :)
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She's NOT thinking--that's the problem.  People who cut themselves have serious psychological issues and need professional help.\n\nGo right now and tell her parents.  Tell them that she's doing it and that she told you she does it on purpose.  Then tell YOUR parents.  \n\nI know she's your friend and you want to help her but this problem is bigger than you are and bigger than your friendship.  Best Wishes and Good Luck.
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i am exactly like you are.  I'm always.. stuck and getting picked on.  But i just ignore them.  I stick with my friend.  dont' worry about them.  there obviously immature and just ignore them and they will stop.  I know that its hard and that sometimes  you want to go up and smack them.  but it will make things worse if you do it to by talking about htem behind there back.  just remember how much that it hurt you.  and now you don't want to hurt htem.  they will EVENTUALLY grow up.  and if they don't.. well then thats there problem.  just be how you want to be.  its okay to cry. i've cried at school a million times.  all because of DRAMA.. it sucks but you'll make it through.  good luck.. best of wishes<33
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Self mutilating is another issue. I'm sure you had to see a Dr. to determine that you are Bi-polar. PLEASE,PLEASE go and talk to the Dr. I had and I mean literally HAD a friend who was Bi-polar, and was also a cutter, and she did such a good job, that she is no longer here in this life. The only way to help yourself is to face it and get the help you need. Praying for you...
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i was also into self mutilation and i used to cut myslef too.  i also have my reasons to why i did it. best way i think is to talk to someone you are close to. you are too young for this type of thing.
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i have been in the same  situation as he is going to be in. I slit my wrists for the longest time! (i dont now)  The only thing you can do is to talk it through, face-to-face is best!! You MUST let him know that it isn't his fault. Let him know openly that he has been the best--- (blank)______. That you still want to remain friends and that you will always be there for him when he needs it! Let him feel there is still a chance you guys might patch things up eventually. Tell him you aren't closing the door on you guys getting back together. Make sure he doesn't blame himself for not doing something or doing too much of something!\nMUCH LUCK ND LOVE
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I agree with you, I also know how you feel. I used to be a cutter because of my depression but i have found better ways of dealing with the pain and sorrow. Write poetry or listen to music, try to go hang out with your friends and have a good time with them. Just keep moving on and remember that its his loss and your a strong woman/girl/lady ( i don't know how only you are so yeah.) I hope this helped.
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LET HER GET IT ALL OUT,CRY,THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER ANYWAY, TRY BE ATTENTIVE AND OFFER HER SUPPORT! SHE IS OBVIOUSLY HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS PROBLEM, AND YOU MUST FEEL QUIT PROUD THAT SHE'S TURNED TO YOU 4 ADVICE.SHE TRUSTS YOU, AND THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR!!!!
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Make sure your friend knows you care about her, and your response was out of fear for her.  Talk to her, and be there for her.  Encourage her to talk to a counselor, to get some help.  Cutting is usually a sign of some deeper issue.
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Listen to him. Cutting is a sign of severe depression. He needs psychiatric care NOW. Listening is the best thing you can do for him, besides getting him the therapy he needs.