We are leaving in the same apartment. I have asked her out two times for a drink. We have talked openly. But the next day, she seems very cold to me.I want to see her everyday.I can't stop my mind thinking of her. What should I do?
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There's nothing wrong with having a crush on someone who's younger than you. Something's wrong if you'll insist on your feelings when you know that she is committed to someone. \n\nI suggest you forget about your feelings for her and look for someone who is unattached and also willing to love you.
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Don't make it complicated and obsess about it. She hasn't mentioned the boyfriend (if he still exists) because she's interested in you. Ask her if she's available. Her yes or no ought to answer the question. If she says she's "sort of" seeing someone, you can figure out if you want to "sort of" see her along with another guy or not.  Have fun, take a chance. Life's too short.
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Tell her to kiss you patuty and find someone new.  Why put yourself through that again?  If she was running hot and cold before what makes you think she is any different now?
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Exactly what you just did. Find a nice way to say it. Like maybe I am interested in someone else. And do not elaborate on it.You walk with your dignity as well as her keeping hers. Good luck. Post script. Question for you. What are you looking for on here? Be honest not only with yourself but to your friends online.
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well, i guess you answered your own question...what did you do in the beginning?  you called her and tried to get to know her over the phone.  so why don't you just pick up where you left off and give her a call and see how her day went ( around 9pm) and then tell her good night?  see if you call her too early in the day...she might be busy and if you call too late, she'll be in bed.  that's why i always call around 9pm.  when you're comfortable again ask her out.  \n\nyour other mistake was that you aksed her out on a specific day.  don't do that!!!  tell her, "we should hang out sometime" and if she says yes, then say, "when are you free" or "when is good for you."  see, girls make plans ahead of time, even if it's just to set aside a day to clean and do laundry.  so, always leave the asking out question open ended without commiting to a day or time that she might be busy and then you feel rejected.
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Brickjacks, listen to yourself. You sound as if you're hoping for the impossible; holding onto dear life just because you are not sure how does she feels about you, whether or not she wants to be with you and if she's just toying around with your feelings. Have you already asked her what she thinks of you? Have you told her how you feel about her?\n\nI really can't tell you what she's trying to do or how you should handle this situation and neither can anyone out there who answers your question because quite frankly, we don't know her. She might be a social butterfly or maybe she's a saint after all.\n\nMy opinion, you should have already confronted her by now. The more you stall your feelings for her the more confused you'll get from her reactions and advances.\n\nTake this opportunity to get to know her better. Since you're going out with her, you'll get to see what she's like. Don't stress yourself with impossible questions (i.e. Does she wants to see what kind of person I am before she decides to dump her boyfriend and be with me?)\n\nYou're not some "thing" that could be analyzed and be taken for granted. You're not some low grade ketchup/sauce that needs to be compared with another to determine which of the two taste good. You're a human, you have feelings and you know yourself better.\n\nShow her who you really are TODAY/NOW and if she shows the slightest indication of her being the malicious girl everyone (well, almost everyone) in Y! Answers been telling you, leave her. Just be her friend. She's not worth your aggravation.
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It would depend on lots of things as to whether 2 move in or not (who is she to you, whats the age difference if any,have you bothered to look for any true signs that she is interested in you?)even so- regardless of all that you should NOT - NO WAY just go ahead and do it anyway- if your feelings do turn out to not be reciprocated she may well give you a damn good slap!  I know i would if someone i didn't like just came along and planted one on me; respect her personal space and portray yourself as the gent you are!  Also if you will have to continue to see her it could get most awkward!  Do you even know if she has a boyfriend? Do you even know that she is straight - not from her smile thats 4 sure!  Also you just never know what issues a person has from their past - close, unexpected physical contact from some one could be quite disturbing for them.  I'm not saying any of these things are so; but how much have you REALLY truely thought it all through?  Or have you just thought you did!?(when really you were just playing your romanticised version through in your head?)  I honestly don't mean to be a wet blanket - but i would advise picking a discreet moment where you can have a quiet talk with her; explaining how you feel and finding out if she SAYS she feels the same-if she does you could always break the inevitably awkward silence with a kiss couldn't you?! but i certainly wouldn't reccommend stealing a kiss!And what's this "make ravishing love to her without saying a word" all about - don't you watch tv or keep abreast (forgive the pun!) of current affairs? ALL blokes are strongly advised to get a loud and clear, VERBAL "yes" to a straight, direct question - it's called consent!  Sex without consent/rape/illegal - there are many terms for it none of them being too good for either of you! PS Women should be able to SMILE @ random people (men or women) without running the risk of being jumped on! A smile alone means SQUAT!
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Ask her can you have a quick word alone. Tell her that you are a bit nervous but if you dont tell her whats on your mind, you may regret it forever. (she will apriciate you for having the bottle to do and say this).  Tell her that you realy like her and it would be great if she will go out with you OR if she will be your girl (but dont go over the top). It would be nice to get a positve response, but be prepared for a negative one. DO NOT worry about a negative response as this may stop you taking action. And besides you will get over it in a few hours. Make a decision, do it, or dont do it. ASAP.
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ask her to hang out be yourself it could mean she likes someone else but then again it could mean that because you didnt ask her to hang again or ask her out she thinks you dont like her so start with asking her to dinner and a movie or coffee talk to her ask her to hang again if she says no well then sorry hun but if she say yes your good too go you know what to do from there!!
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hey man just wait until her cocktails kick in...then you'll know her intentions. just hang out with her, if she wants you...she'll let you know, for sure man.
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I think that you should ask her what is wrong first to see if she will open up to you.Then if she doesn't then ask her if you can take her out sometime to get her mind off of whatever is bothering her. But DON'T avoid and ignore her. You never know she might be feeling the same feelings towards you!
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give her time. If you liek her flirt with her a little bit...\n\nbut her not sitting next to you when watching tv. could just be shyness, or should just might be thinking "friends"...and not want to hint stuff, that isnt true.\n\nif you cant feel her out...\nthen just work up the balls to talk to her about it. \n\neither ask her out. and if she says no, then smile, and say, okay, still friends then? and just get over it.\n\nbut if she says yes, then she probably liked you all along. \n\nat least, you are just eachothers good company :)\n\ngoodluck with everything!
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Dude, by now you should have a good idea as to how she looks at you.  I would just go up to her and say: Hi, how is it going?  Kind of chilly today, isn't it?  Do you like soup?  If she says yes, then you ask \nher to go have a cup of soup with at the local restaurant.  If she doesn't like soup, the you ask her what does she like to eat during this time of the year.  When she answers you ask her out by saying that you know this little place that serves a good whatever it may be that she said.  Ta-daaa.  If she is not interested, then move on.   There are plenty of fish in the sea.\nGo get her, tiger.  Growl...\nMr. M on "this girl."
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She sounds lovely! Respect her for being cautious. \nAsk her if she would like to go for a wander around a few coffee shops the weekend, to 'sample a few eateries'! Maybe even try a little duck al orange or a chicken in the basket along the way!! She may be shy, but only spending lots more time with her will allow you see the 'inner person' and her true personality may bloom! \n\nShe may well be more of an animal! Grrrrrr! than you think!\n\n........good luck
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I think you should start by saying, "Hi, how are you? My name is ______ and I've seen you here many times." Then just try talking to her from there. Try to ask her out to a movie or something about a week or two into it. DO NOT TELL HER about the marriage thing because that's just freaky.\n\nIf she doesn't come around anymore then forget her, you'll find someone else.
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Wait to see what her reaction is. See how she acts around you the next couple of days. Don't come on too strong. Play it cool.
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Two weeks isn't even enough time to be a friend, at least not enough time to demonstrate your reliability and loyalty as a true friend unless you're living in a combat zone. I know the frustration of the friend zone...it's like some Nether-region where miscalculating guys disappear into a vacuum like loose change in couch cushions. I know this, and I agree with you, it's no place to be. But in this case, you intentionally started out as friends, so odd as it may seem, maybe you should continue along this course. Face it, if you abruptly change the dynamics now, your friendship will appear insincere or orchestrated; I'm sure she won't appreciate that ( it's worse than a lame pickup line in a bar). Here's where you have to be honest with yourself: Do you think she's someone you might want to be in love with, or is she someone you'd just really like to sleep with? If you decide that she's the former, then she's going to be worth the investment in time and energy being her friend requires. From that vantage point your position is really quite strong because you'll have an attentive audience in her (which we all know is half the battle).Then every so often, mention something sincerely personal about her that you find attractive, but don't dwell on the point ( let it be one of those things she thinks about at the end of the day when she's by herself). Important: don't get eager and start overdoing it!! Everyone likes to be appreciated, but no one likes sappy praise.\n   Of course if you decide that she's the latter (just someone you'd like to sleep with), then don't waste her time or yours. There's far easier ways to get laid, and if you tried to make those same type of gestures she'd quickly see through them.\n   You have a lot to think about, but it is easier to do when you know you're in control of at least some of the variables. All you need to do first is decide who she is to you. Between one heart and two heads, who's in charge? (Please don't force me to explain that!) Good luck.