im 11 years old and my best friend (whos a guy) isnt completely over his ex. ive given him time and i know he likes me..what should i tell him so he will want to go out w/ me...ive flirted and IM HIS BEST FRIEND!!!!
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I know how u feel.Im 11 2.   \n    Okay, before you decided to do anything, ask yourself this question:\n\nIs he worth all the trouble?\nDo you want to keep your friend or just get the guy?\n\nI really don't think you should go for the guy. There are many others guys. "Yeah..duh I know that." you're probably thinking. So get a guy who shows interest in you and a guy who would be great for you. Also remember, you're only in 6th grade. I know a lot of people already at this age are dating and all that junk. Don't be pressured to rush things though. The truth is you shouldn't be dating till atleast 15. I know, it seems like forever from now. When the time comes though, it's sooooooooo worth it.\n\n\nHope that helps, and good luck!!
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Who are you kidding?? do you have any idea what a jerk this guy is????????? First off, he's gonna ditch you for your best friend and when he feels like he's done with her, he comes back to you??? Seriously, why would you ever wanna date someone who once dated your best bud unless if she's ok with it, but still I don't think that's right. Besides, he's playing with both of you and you will be played twice if you don't see what he's doing. Please don't tell him you love him because obviously he doesn't love you and he will hurt you. You can't trust a loser like him, and I hope you're smart enough to make the right decision. There are so many nice guys out there, find one that is serious and ONLY interested in you.
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I just tell him how I feel and then ask him if maybe he'd like to go out and do something sometime.  Lifes to short to be beating around the bush..take a chance, whats the worst that could happen? He may say no, or laugh, and then you can just move on and never wonder "what if I just asked him out", he may say sure sounds great, you could have a wonderful romance or make a new best friend... You cant lose, just be yourself.
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Why should you ruin your friendship with him? He's not blind, he probably knows about you liking him. If he continues to hang w/u why worry? You don't state your age, but if you are old enough why not ask him on a picnic or to go swimming w/you or to the zoo or someplace "safe". That's the way you might develop a deeper friendship w/him and maybe more. Those things are non threatening.
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Your best friend.\n\nShe is a loser.  She knew everything about him and your interest in him and went out with him anyway.\n\nBe more careful about your choice of best friends.  Find one that will not steal the guy that you like.
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Celebrate your friendship.  In time you will find someone that makes your heart pitter-patter, but for now celebrate the fact that there is someone out there you can trust, because that is what is most important in this life.  You need to take him out and tell him that you are "Celebrating Being Friends!!" and really mean it.  He'll think you're kind of strange, but just make sure you go out with a third person that understands what is going on......she doesn't have to be a mutual friend, but at least a friend of yours.  When you're young friendships can last a lifetime, but relationships only a week or just a month.  Go with the flow and remember, perhaps you may not be right for him now, but when he sees you take this like a mature person and then grow from it a little bit.........hmmm, maybe a little later girly girl.  Good luck and relax......Jack
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woooooow your just about 4 or 5 years younger then me and you still seem a little young, girly you are a little too young, but anyway you need to ask yourself whats more important, your BESTFRIEND or some boy thats going to end up breaking your heart anyway...i dont want to make it seem horrible but who's to say the same thing he's doing to your friend he won't do to you?  how do you know if he's going to be promising your best friend a 'relationship' when you and him are together (3 years from now). just know that boyz come and go but friends last for ever. so ask yourself is he really worth it?
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Tell him \n"I'm sorry I am not interested in dating you, but i would like to go out with you sometime just as friends."\nIf he doesn't want to be friends after that, then you know that he was only befriending you because he liked you.  That is not what makes a good friend.\n\nOUCH "LALA" that is the opposite of what she wants to do.  B**CHY much!?
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My advise is to stay with him. You felt good around him right? You had fun and had nice conversations, right? Take time and think to yourself, "do I like this guy more than a friend or not?" If not, be honest and tell him, don't avoid him. Stop being such an immature little girl, we ain't seven-years old anymore. Men don't have cooties.
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It was really hard for me too. Once, I started to tell him, and i found he already knew but he didn't like me like that. He said we should be friends until he could sort out his feelings. That was two years ago. His name was domingo. I think he forgot to think it over but we are good friends now and he likes me and my best friend more than any of the other girls. He says they are annoying, and we talk about mature stuff he is interested in. He still hangs out with boys more than us, but hey, what can you expect from a 12 year old? My friend has no romantic interest in him, so in a few years, when we are both 16, i think i might ask him out. Oh yeah, your problem..... well, you get my point right? even if you can't work up the nerve now, it will be easier later. in your case, however, sooner might be bettter than later. i'm sorry if i am confusing you, love is very confusing.
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Ask your friend if she would mind if you dated him.  If she says it's okay with her, then you're in the clear.\n\nI had the same thing happen when I was in high school.  My best friend liked a boy.  Then I went away for the summer.  When I came back, she didn't like him, but I did.  She was TOTALLY cool with me dating him.  \n\nIf she didn't want me to date him, I wouldn't have.  She is more important to me than any guy could be.\n\nThat was so long ago!  That boy and I dated for a long time, but eventually broke up.  She and I are still best friends and we're now 30!!!
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Go out for the first time with a group of friends.  If he wants to be with only you, he'll let you know by sticking close to you.  If not, there will be no embarrassment!
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He's flattered that you like him. It boosts his self-esteem. Sounds to me like he's got a lower confindence level than you realize. He probably cares alot about what the popular kids in school think about him? You may not realize, but he really does care.\nSounds to me like he likes you but is afraid of what the other kids will think if he goes out with you. He's just too young to realize right now. But, hey, he wants to be your friend. Be his friend!\nThat's how the greatest, longest-lasting relationships start out. Don't fawn over him, just chill w/ him. Be buds! They love that.
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I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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well guys at that age are a bit more self conscious, so you should definitly let him know he has a chance. You dont neccessarily have to come out and spill your guts... just a little flirting until your sure hes got the hint. If that doesnt work, just tell him how you feel. The worst that could happen is he says no and you move on.
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This is a very tough situation, so please handle it with care.  First thing is, does he have a girlfriend, or something that he is currently seeing?  If he does, please do not make a move because it could jeopardize your friendship completely.  Second, you say you haven't spent a lot of time together until a few months ago, why is that, if you have known him for years?  I think if you are seeing more of him recently, you should just try subtle hints and see how he reacts... ie touching his arms more, flirting a little.  If the subtle hints do not work, you can just try being honest with him.  If he is your best guy friend, he will appreciate your honesty, and will respect you for it.
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most guys would prefer to have their best friend for life.\nand falling in love is the best way for that.\ntry suggesting it casually. and i hope he has not told u already abt his engagements. if yes also u still have a chance. after all. hes ur best friend. and he knows it. and guys dont usually let go their best friends.\nand dont be too late.\nBest of luck.