This young man and I have had feelings for each other for months, and we flirt like crazy whenever we see each other at church, but at the same time I think he's immature, annoying and a giant pain in the rear. He thinks I'm demanding, emotional and high maintenance. There's chemistry to be sure, but we drive each other nuts. And we both swear up and down that the other would be the last person on earth we'd ever want to date. Can we soften up and actually make something happen? How? What do I do? HELP?!?
202929
Haha, I too myself have had similiar relationships. First of all, you guys enjoy making each other mad because both of you have a lot of feelings for each other. It's not that you guys mean to harm one another, it's just another method of "flirting". The both of you can try talking things out and see if you two can get serious. If you really want to get into a relationship & he cares how you feel, then you guys may "soften up". If he doesn't want to, then just continue the way you both are, as long as it does not bring harm.
90375
find someone else to fall in love with. if someone is truly intrested in another person for what ever reasons, then it will evolve naturally, not by playing games. moods are something we all suffer, perhaps he`s scared of of what people might think or say, maybey he`s not mature enough for you, and finds it hard to be himself around you, maybey your too much pressure for him, try keeping away from him, and see what happens,,,, do you really think this is the one, you will marry and have children with,,,,pehaps not, let him go,,,find yourself another person, one to care for , and be cared by,,, not one whos on off,,,,,,\ndont mirror him, be yourself, someone will notice you for being you,,,not for being the same....\n\n I hope this helps.
366127
Try these ideas in this order: \n\nTell him you don't feel the same way.\nTell him your going out with someone else.\nChange Phone numbers.\nIf he still sees you/annoys you whatever \ntell him you will file a stalking charge.\nWhoop his arse with some army skills.
357803
Sadly, there really isn't alot that you can do. If he has made up his mind, all that you can do is tell him how you feel, and let him know what it is that YOU want. After that, it is really out of your hands, because you won't be able to force your wants onto him. That will only serve to push him even further away. Nobody said that love was easy, or that it would make everything work out the way you want it to. The best rule to go by is " What is meant to be, and what isn't can not be forced." If you two are meant to be together, then you can pretty well figure that so long as you make your own wants known, then you will be together. If you aren't, nothing you say or do is going to help. Let him know what your heart is telling you, and then it's up to him. Good luck!!
460679
okay well this guy is head over heels for you. i think he is trying so hard because he thinks you feel this way about him deep down and your afraid to get out your feelings. what you can do is be sensitive with him. tell him that your more than flattered and surprised that he proposed to you, but we can only stay simple friends right now. im not ready top get married right now and believe it or not i have dreams and goals i want to make come true. and i know you do too. and dont tell me that the only dream you have is to be my husband. i know you have things to accomplish in life. so thats why. we can still be really good friends b ut thats all we are going to be. if you liked me this much you would accept it and move on."if after that he still doesnt understand then maybe you shouldnt talk to him anymore. try avoiding him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. if he does understand then thats one less thing to worry about in life.
470036
Male ego honey, i see what you are searching 4 you need that attention dont you? oh after a year trust me when i tell you honey "HE IS HURTING", its obvious to me you want him, so go get him if he doesnt come running in the next day or 2... oh he loves you ,he just has to play this role honey & you love him two so please stop playing the emotional games!!!! GO GET YA' MAN!!!! STOP PUSHING HIM AWAY, IT WILL BE EASIER TO JUST ASK FOR EXACTLY WHAT IT IS YOU WANT FROM HIM & NOT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH & GOOD LUCK
166064
Ok I had this exact same relationship with my first boyfriend. First and foremost: Remain abstinet until you are certain you are ready. Do not let him affect that decision. Second: You have to lay it down straight. Make sure he does like you. Right now without you dating there is nothing you can do about his flirting but it is possible he is trying to make you jealous to see if you care. Show him you care but don't come off as jealous. Ask him out on a date, get the realtionship going then if he continues to flirt let him know how you feel about it.
601806
You can't, really, if they don't want to be with you. I'm going through the same thing too, and the best thing is to just say how you feel. I did, and things are okay, I guess, but we haven't talked since them but i see him tonite. But yea, don't make up cheesy bullsh*t, just tell 'em flat out how it is. Good luck!
336249
You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
579865
Sometimes showing the love of God can be the hardest thing and you probably should have gone to God first with this problem so He can direct you in the best way of approaching this guy. When this happened to me a while ago, the Spirit directed me to speak to the guy, letting him know how much I did appreciate his interest in me but I really did not feel comfortable with the way he thought my being nice was "flirty". He then saw things from my viewpoint and we are friendly now, though not real friends.  But pray about this first, it helps.
411795
god forgive me for stereotyping but I only have limited info for going on! from what you say, there is only one adult in the relationship and it's not him!!!\nok, he sounds like a typical man, wanting to have his cake and eat it too - basically he feels it's a bit wrong to be with you, but he wants you to make it ok.\nso he's being cautious and flaky so that most of the hard work comes from you and you end up saying all the stuff people usually don't want to be the first to say (ie tell me how you feel/why are you sending out mixed signals - making you look needy)- don't fall into that trap. as much as you want some clarity, pull back and let him do the hard work. it is obvious he likes you despite the age diff (dirty old man - just kidding) so he will try to engineer the opportunity to kiss you again- at which point, i think you should play a bit hard to get so he has to SAY those things he is obviously avoiding saying  in case it all goes tits up, i presume. \nanyway, only my opinion, so let me know if i was totally wrong - and good luck!!!
370803
Yeah, that'll happen to some people in high school.\n\nIt seems to me like you need a boyfriend yourself to make you let go of this guy and live your own life.\n\nYou are thinking the grass is greener on the other side with this guy, and it may not be that way at all, since if you actually were dating him, he might actually be a jerk or a self-centered snob etc.\n\nI know this advice will sound weird at 1st, but try living as if this guy was obsessed with you, and you don't even notice him.\n\nSometimes just thinking the opposite of something that bothers you will make you live that way.
661056
It's cool if you still wanna chat and make each other laugh...just be friends and leave it at that. He doesn't know what he wants and he's not ready to make any kind of commitment at this time. Don't try to force it if it's not there. Either wait a while till he's ready or move on.
479523
Call him and invite him over.  If he refuses or is cold toward you then you have to move on...\n\nThe fact that he is moody is already a red flag.  Do you really want to deal with an emotional roller-coaster ride with him?
152257
seems like you've asked this question out of an emotional outburst. I'd suggest you put this off for a while and just do something that you just love doing, may be playing with kids or some fave hobby, may be even a work out & a good long sleep.\nBy the end of it you are surely gonna find some relief. Then with calm repose, you better take the first step. Nd not wait for him to approach you, never fl below yourself to take the first step. Go for it, call him up, talk it with him patiently. Plan a face-face meeting. Just c it will work magic, wen you both can hug each other & go that extra step to cry out on each other's shoulders.\nThere's your relief.\nA suggestion:Better not give an open invitation asking someone to love you.
434476
The best thing to do is not rush anything.  That is what freaks guys out the most. You can paint paintings but do that kind of thing in moderation.  Don't smother or be clingy.  Resist the temptation to go all goo goo gaa gaa over him right off the bat.  It isn't wrong to feel that way about someone just keep some of it under wraps for right now. If it lasts there will be plenty of time for that later.  Just take a deep breath and relax. If you get some big bubbly surge of lovey dovey feelings just bite a pillow or write it in a journal.  Don't call him and go "I looooove you much I don't know what to do!"  Don't go to the extreme of pretending you don't like him either. It works for some guys but to others it is a turn off. Good luck.
165833
hmm this is a hard one just because i no wat is like to be pulled along.listen babe i realize that you love him but honestly if he makes you feel this way then y date him. in my personal opinion the whole point of dating is to be with someone and enjoy being with them. if they are being way too much such is your case then stop dating its that simple. i realize that it will be hard and it is much easier jus to stay with him. but often times the hard way and th right way are the same thing. so i think its time for you to stand up be a woman and take charge and dump him. but that is th opion of one high school senior. id get advice from other s b4 making a final decision.