My girlfriend is always complaining about money because she pays all the bills and I don't have a job...  But then she DEMANDS sex every single day....shouldn't I get a pass on the bills? After all, I do all the work in bed and it's hard being treated like a "piece of meat".
199959
You're getting loads of sex for no dollars! What more advice do you need, meat-boy? :D
573823
This is something I have been asking myself for a long time. \n\nEverything you said and more is absolutely correct. The thing that bothers me the most is: men know this. And not only do men know this, they for some crazy reason get upset when the subject comes up. \n\nI mean if you know that women are considered less in this society and you know that women make less for the same jobs and you know that women still don't have equal rights, then why in the hell do you get upset when asked about it? As though, someone were trying to take something from you or something. I just don't get that at all.\n\nHere is an example that my sister experienced a few years ago: she went through a divorce. My mother's house was in her name and my mother sold the house so my sister had to file the paperwork. My sister's exhusband had to sign off on the paperwork even though his name was nowhere on the deed or financing, etc... He blackmailed 5 grand out of her over that for something he never paid a penny on. \n\nNow get this... we were told that in my state, NC, ONLY the MAN has that right. If he had been the one selling a house where her name was not on the deed etc... then he would not have had to get her to sign off on it.\n\nIn today's times, the women work all day too just like the man but then we come home, cook dinner, make sure the kid's homework is done, do the dishes, straighten up the house, bath the kids, etc... While the husband is usually either sitting on the couch watching sitcoms, playing on the computer, or maybe out tinkering with his car in the garage.\n\nAnd men STILL get upset when you bring this stuff up. I personally think the male brain is what is wrong with this world. They truly feel they are 'entitled' to be treated better than women just because they are men... \n\nThe world would be a much better place if we got rid of all the male leaders of this planet. We wouldn't have all this 'cock' fighting over stupid crap.\n\nFunny how when you start talking about 'equality' ppl start calling you a socialist. Also, there have been many many studies of the hostility a woman has to go through in professional male dominated areas. IE, my sister is a mechanical engineer and you would be amazed at the crap she has to tolerate.
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The man in the relationship wants to feel like the bread winner. Well thats what society tells all men... because they are petrayed as the hard workers who can keep the roof of the women and children's head. they are the stronger human being... As for wives... we are sensitive, we keep things nice and clean and the children bathed and fed... for one week tell your man to take off work for vacation... let him stay home and take care of children and clean house. you go so where for 8 hours or 10 hours aday... even if you don't have a job... and then come home.... I garuntee you the first day will be ok for the man... then the second day it will get harder.. then by the third day... the kitchen will be a dissaster, the kids haven't had their morning bath, they have food stains on the floor or carpet. they still have their pajamas on.... I'm telling you this because I have been there... now I work everyday for 10 hours a day and so does my husband... now when I pick up my children from the sitters house.. my husband has beet me home... dinner is cooked the house is clean... becaused I got fed up... and I told him about his self... my point is all men are on a ego trip.... they think women are supposed to do certain things... and men are just supposed to work.. watch the game &  have some drinks maybe go to the club and see strippers, eat, shower, go to the bathroom, have sex and go to sleep and do it all again the next day... Now when I pulled his daily routine, you better believe he had a lot of anger and things to say.... and I said to him why is it ok for you to do that and I can't... you know what his awnser was because you have to stay respectful to me and your children... I was like hold up. so you sayin you don't respect me and the kids... he didn't have nothin to say. I put him in his place... now he doesn't think a woman should stay home all the time. He wants me to keep working because he understands what ever I do, if I work or if I stay home... I still love him and have mad respect for him... he's learning
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Hell no!  LOL!  I know, I know... some women are into that, but it ain't me.  Dating is an interview for marriage imo, and if he can't support me on a little thing like that... why would I expect him to be financially stable on anything else?  Now, later on in the relationship... after you've been together say, at least 6 months... then I could see helping a dude out if he needs it.  I've given my man $20 here and there for gas when he was having a rough time.  But in general, he knows how I feel about those things.  Luckily for me though, he feels the same way... has pride about providing for "his woman" or whatever.  heh.\n\nP.S. Why are you asking this?  Is it out of your own concern, or is it because he *refuses* to pay more than 50%?  Cause I think that makes a big difference in how it should be addressed...
650210
Let's see...I work full-time and I still have no money.  I have no money in my savings...  So there is no way I could survive without my job, unless someone wanted to pay my bills for me.  Any offers?  :)
337519
it's a risk versus reward situation.  paying for sex is nothing new and selling your services, whether doing laundry or screwing really makes lttle difference.  Like any job you need to take precautions to protect yourself from unwanted pregancy, STD's, getting busted for prostitution, etc.  Bottom line: it's your body and your choice on what's the best way to use it to make a living. There's lots of ways people prostitute themselves for money. At least with sex, you have more leverage when it comes to negotiating the price.  best of luck
108880
You just need to work on it. Every time you feel like complaining, think of one complaint she might have at that time. I am very attentive to my fiance's needs and he is not so attentive to mine all the time - I just work harder to be more attentive to his needs in hopes he will be more attentive to mine sometimes.
601367
Everybody pays for sex; it can't be avoided. Even married guys pay by having to listen to the endless drivel about clothes, periods, feelings etc...
121892
Sure, everyone has sex.  It's a great idea to be paid for it.  I'd have sex with my boyfriend more often if he paid me.
122756
if the things coming out of her mouth before you date her turn you off, chances are the stuff she says WHILE you're dating her will turn you off even more.  I mean, as far as what she said, it kind of makes sense cuz no girl wants to date a scrub who can't take care of himself.  If she said she would never date a guy who wasn't RICH, that's gold digging.  But whether they come out and say it or not, most girls won't date a guy who's broke because who wants a part of that?  If you marry someone who's broke, chances are you'll be broke too.  I'm a guy and I'd be rela reluctant to date  agirl who couldn't hold a job down.  I probably just wouldn't do it.  But by insisting on a guy being a provider doesn't mean she's a gold-digger who would date an "ugly fool" just for the money.  And so what if he's ugly?  Isn't dating someone for looks just as bad as dating someone for money?  Would you date her if she was busted?  Life's a b****, man.
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you better get all you can!!! because we earned it.\n\nsometimes in our lives it comes a time we have to work on our selves it is kind of a wake up call, everything happens for a reason. Work on yor self get a start to build a career, go to school start a business, or get a city job it is time to get more money or to find a feild that is more promising. You can no longer  be comfortable and accept that kind of abusive.\n\nI was always told never mess with matters of the heart it can get dangerous, I know you are tired, start making a way for yourself where you would need no one to survive. \n\nhe knows how much you make and he feel your not going anywhere BECAUSE you accepted what he is doing, no saying you like but by staying there over and over make he feel he can treat you the way he do. he feel you need him to survive. I would show him a thing or two IT IS TIME TO CHANGE!!! \n\nknow what you are worth.\n\nfind a room mating situation untill you get a higher paying job.I know it is not easy to room mate but it help out and look at it as a temporary situation.
56070
i think you should pay for her sometimes. i mean its nice to have you boyfriend pay for you when you go out. but i dont think you need to pay for her all the time. tell her straight up that you dont have the money to pay for her all the time and that sometime she needs to pay for her own crap.
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There are many reasons why a girl might not feel comfortable with you spending money on her:\n\n- She may not wish to feel beholden to you, or that she owes you something.\n\n- She may not want to feel like a prostitute.\n\n- She may have been raised with a mindset which is against accepting charity from others.\n\n- She may feel that it is demeaning to her as a woman to allow a man to pay for things for her.\n\n- She may just not know you well enough yet, and be unsure about where she wants things to go with you, and feel that you spending money on her is too fast, or too much at this point.\n\n- She may just be pretending to protest, because that's what she thinks she's supposed to do, but in actuality she appreciates and enjoys it.\n\n\nIf she really seems to have an issue with it, try doing more thoughtful things which don't cost much money.
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honestly!\n\nwhy are you bothering?\n\nYou'll end up the person who will be supporting his habit 'cause he needs to borrow $20 (and he promises to pay you back, and he never does!)\n\nHe'll sweet talk you, he's probably got a way with words... but you'll be wasting your time! What do you expect to get out of this relationship?\n\n...And to top this off, be weary he'll eventually be stealing from you too! (This will definitely happen if he's out of work, can't hold a job down!)
665831
Are you kidding me? You have a dude who is working his butt off to save for a house, and a RING, i'm sure, and your future, and your complaining he is working to much? Do you have any idea how much a decent house costs, and down payments, and the list is endless about how expensive it is to start a new life? Right now is the time to work your butt off while you are still young and able to do so! There are so many girls in your position that would love a guy to be doing all that for her. You are lucky and need to stop complaining. I bet when he puts a fat rock on your hand you won't be complaining then. Then  you will move on to how much you can spend on your wedding and you will be wondering where the money is going to come from. If you keep nagging him, I can gaurantee he will drop you and find someone who WILL support him in his work. \nIt's not a test, he is who he is. If you can't take it, then break it off and let him be with someone who will support him and be happy with him, and secure. \nSounds like you need a man that works 8-5 Monday thru friday and lives to wait for you!
440971
I am old fashion...He pays for the date, always.  I refuse to accept his role in the relationship.  I think the problem with most men is that we as working, independent women feel the need to display our equality.  I don't.  I am equal but you will open my door.  I am equal, but you will pay for the date.  I am equal but if you see me carrying heavy bags or see something in my house that needs repair, you will offer your services.  And in return, I cook my butt off, never say no and make each intimate moment an adventure.  Also, leave that tired clown alone, he's not a real man and will never make you happy.
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Talk to her about it and ask her what her ambitions are.  It's not wrong to try to get your girlfriend motivated, it is wrong though to insist on it or force the issue.  I'm sure you don't do that.  If you have a problem with her messy apartment, then why don't you volunteer to help her clean it?  Or, just start cleaning it yourself if she doesn't mind.  If a woman had a problem with my messy apartment, I'd tell her to clean it if she had a problem with it.  So, there's nothing wrong with expecting you to if you don't like it that much.  I'm not saying you have to clean it or that she does.  I'm just saying you can either deal with her messy apartment or you can consider helping her out.  Have a talk with her too and see if she has any dreams that she might have given up on.  If she bothers you that much, than break up with her and find someone else.