I have a friend that was seeing this guy for about 5 months who seemed to be God-sent. He went as far as to tell her mom that he would not be the average Joe Blow and hurt her daughter's feelings. He went out of town and came back with a brand new bag! Seriouslly, he didn't even call her to wish her a Happy Easter. Unfortunately, on Easter she was in a near fatal car accident but from the Grace of God she avoided it. Disturbed about her near fatal accident and upset about his less than frequent calling, she called and left him a voice message expressing her grief. Still no response.  She even texted him and he replied, "Stop texting I'm in training." She called again and still no response. It has been 2 wks since their last conversation. Granted she was upset but was it enough to make this man stop corresponding with her?  Fellas, what's the deal for real?
201719
The guy is probably no longer interested, but is too embarrassed to admit that in front of your friend.  I think, however, that he owes her an explanation -- just so there's some closure to this.
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You know many things had happened to me through text msgs.....I've been called a bitch.....and an asshole dared to tell me "I've seen better".......and after that he keeps staring at me, and stalking me......so you see....text messages are very bad....\n\nWell, sometimes people do it through email, text messages, because they don't have the guts to tell you in person....Once I was dumped through the phone, that sucked as well.....Some guys are cowards, well I guess some girls do that too sometimes! Some people use that method because they think that you're probably going to throw things at them or make a scene in public or something like that....That's why is safer for some people to just do it through a text message! Or some people just do it because they're jerks! Sorry about tellin you about my "experiences," I didn't have better examples! Don't worry, a person that does something like this is not worth it...They're not even worth talking about!
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I have no sympathy for them...I have been on so many domestic violence calls that i wonder why people stay myself...I kept hearing "but i love him, he really does care"  BS the only thing he cares about is whipping your assets...By staying and forgiving them it basically tell them its OK to beat me, I'll get over it and forgive you...Someone hit me, they better have their funeral plans in order....
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Hello Chuck, Do not respond to her text message at all. And what she basically means is that she did not know what i good thing was when she had it (being you). She did not appreciate you or the things you did for her. She left you for someone else. This other person she appreciated and did things for this person and she got handled the same way she handled you (what comes around goes around) ,,,,,,,he did not appreciate her and left her for to be with his Ex-girlfriend. And that is why she was telling you that Karma was a b-*ch. Just move on with your life,,,see other ladies that will appreciate you and not take you for granted. Find someone that will love and adore you the way you love and adore them. Take care and good luck sweetheart.
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This is a really difficult situation for your friend, she may not be ready to deal with her sons birthday.  I have no idea what she must be going through losing a child. But I do know that when my father past away I wanted to be alone on his birthday.  You may want to talk to her first and see how she feels about getting together for dinner or just a girls night in before you plan anything in honor of her son.
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Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.
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Maybe she gave the guy a ride out of the goodness of her heart.  If you explained to her that it really bothers you and she ignores your request to stop it she is either being stubborn (he's not going to tell ME what to do) or she does not value your feelings on the matter.  When SHE said "let's take some time off" she could have been just trying to get back at you for making the suggestion in the first place.  At the very worst you've got yourself one of those girls who enjoys stirring things up to make the relationship a little more edgy and thrilling like it is in the very beginning when you're in the "does he/she like me or not stage????".  Have you ever seen the movie "Play Misty for Me?"  Extreme case.  They like to pull back to "show you what you might lose", then they panic and try to reel you back in very fast so you won't really try to get away.  Your idea af a break is a REAL GOOD one.  But set an actual time like a week or 10 days and agree NO CONTACT.  Tell her that you will not only NOT answer her calls and texts you will not even listen to or read them.  Assure her that you will not use this time to cruise for other girls.  That's not the idea.  The idea is to see how much you miss THIS one.  No cheating!  Good luck.
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ACTIONS speak so much louder than words. Is he genuinely making an attempt? Has he called and talked to the kids? Has he come to see the kids? Has he paid any child support or asked if there is anything he can do for them? Does he make sure they have what they need? I can understand trying to find yourself and make you way through the music world, but not at the expense of abandoning your children for 4-5 years. If he is genuinely sorry and wants to be a part of you and the kids' life I would give him another chance. BUT I would lay down some ground rules, like you always have to have a number to get ahold of him and have some idea of where he is going to be, no skipping town without a forwarding number or address! And what would he have done if one of the kids had gotten very ill or been in a horrible accident and died? Ask him that. He needs to prioritize his life. If he can't do that, I would cut him loose.
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You need to ask yourself what is it that doesn't please me? What is it in my life that is pulling me down so much? Is this guy what I really want or is he just filling in till I find something better? Then you need to quit blaming your X's death on yourself. He made that choice, he didn't half to but he did it. If I was you I would get into a church group or a social group and talk to someone that is specialized in this and maybe talking to them can help you understand things better.
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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Sorry:-))) But i am kind of amused...You know, the first thing that men have to learn about women is to give them their space. Hey...if your parting words weren't bitter, there is no cause for alarm. I am sure she'll call..giv her some time. You said she had a boyfriend..well, maybe she is busy..there could be a thousand things you dont know...So dont miss her too much. Try and concentrate on ur GF. I am sure she be in touch shortly.
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well i guess for this time i can't talk to him/her for a moment (after he/she cool down). maybe around a week or 2 weeks.. if he/she had a very bad temperament you should wait around a month.. anyway, i've ever misunderstood a friend.. the main story is about the same as yours. and my friend (she) got a really bad temperament, i do anything to make her happy.. so she didnt answer my call, didnt reply my sms, also didnt reply my message on friendster, i send a letter to her house.. and she never reply any single letter. and our friendship end there.. ToT i've never gonna make any mistake again. i will treat my friends nicely
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A lot of people in this situation (just broken up with boyfriend/girlfriend), don't want to hear what they know they should do.  They want to hear go back to him, tell him you love him, he will come back to you, just wait for him, etc.  \n\nBe there for your friend, and if she continues to call you stupid, then tell her that not only has she lost her boyfriend, but she will be losing a good friend if she continues calling you stupid for your advice.
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OK what is up with this heart attack stuff..My husband and now your mom. \nShe will be in my prayers. Keep us posted about her updates. Take your laptop and keep in touch.\nI had a very hard time and still am dealing with it all. I come here to escape it all..I took my lap top in one day in his room and the Doctor asked me  have you heard of that Yahoo Q&A and I said yes and I showed him this one and he said there is this one babe from and he stopped and said no way...And I said yes..Funny small world................So you wanted new.........\n\nI  have  official made the commitment to take my road trip. I just emailed my family and told them that I was going and if they were not going to support me on this one OWell things happen..\nIt just hit me I need to do this regardless of life and what is going on. LOL for me
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I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
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One of my friend lost her mother few months back.She is just eighteen years old.I worried at the beggining about how to console her because she liked her mother very much that she was almost in a very disturbed state when that incident happened.\nBut when she returned after few days she was completely normal.I was unable to restain myself and i asked her.she said a little story.The story is a man lost his only son and he was crying and crying and a sage noticed his sad state and he asked abt his sorrows and he explained to him\nThe sage said that he will solve his problem and will give rebirth to his son if he brought enough sand from the house where no death occured.He was unable to find such a home and finally he understood the life's fact that nothing is permanent in this world.After she finished telling me this\nI was really proud of my friend and if she can controll her sorrows then why cant u?Happiness lies in ur hands.
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Your friends experience is not unusual. My advice is email the guy back and tell him that she doesn't want to be alone with him and if he really wants to apologize he will understand why. To meet the guy face-to-face is potentially a very powerful healing tool but should only be done if she feels completely safe. The boy may be doing his own therapy in which case he will be expecting to meet her need for safety, and will ask for reassurance of confidentiality-which, if he is genuinely remorseful is a resonable request. No-one would want to be branded a child molester on the strength of a youthful folly. It might also be good to remember that a teenager who fiddles with a child has probably had their own abuse experience and there is every likelihood that he was 'acting out' something that happened to him. If he tries to talk her out of bringing someone to the meeting-which should be in a public place-then his intentions are less than apologetic and she should call the police.