I know all the Retarted stuff saying 14 or older please help me here she can get a job she wants so much I'm telling her to do work and I'll pay her but she does it half but! So i don't pay her But she does everything else for people perfact! What Should SHE DO PLEASEE HELPP ME
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Don't you think that as a mother, your first priority is not to allow her to push you into getting her a job, but to concentrate on her studies?\nAt this age, if she concentrates too much on jobs instead of studies, she's not going to make a better life for you and herself in the future.\n\nMaybe you can try out giving her simple part-time jobs, like with the neighbours, something that can earn her a bit of pocket money, instil responsibility in her, and have flexible timings so that she can concentrate on her education.\nLike dog-walking, or lawn-mowing, gardening, etc.\n\n\nJenova\n(d.yuffie@gmail.com)
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obviously depending if shes a minor or not, could she not get in contact with socail services? if shes 16 or over she has the option to just leave without her parents permission, she can not be left on the streets, with the right help she could be housed in a bedsit. x She is old enough to just walk out! and so are you! if both or one of you work can you not both find some where small for you to live together? come on the pair of you are at your ages classed as young adults, she doesnt have to stay at home with her parents, im getting the feeling your not from the uk are you? or america? other wise im sure youd have both done your own thing by now.
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She is entirely too young to be doing this.  Is she sickly?  My mom is going to be 60 this fall and she works 2 jobs and is a totally vital healthy woman.  I just turned 40 and we both work at the same Mental Retardation Facility as RNs.  I have the utmost respect for her skills as an RN and she is as sharp as a tack.\n\nPerhaps she needs to get a boot in the bottom to get her to see that she is not living, but merely existing.  \n\nIf she complains about the food, say "You have a kitchen in your apartment, go find something to eat if this doesn't suit you.  Otherwise, please be quiet about it."
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How about supporting her? She may realize that she is in over her head. But to keep working at it without the pay may mean that she really believes in what she is doing. You can help her by not being negative and putting her down for her ambitions. She may be helping someone who really needs it. You don't have to agree with her but leave her the right to do it. Money is obviously not she is aiming for. Sit down with her and calmly discuss with her your concerns. Make some concessions and make her feel that she is still worthy of your love. When you argue, hold each others hands. You did it when you first cared for each other. Bring that back to the marriage. Women need to respected for their contributions. She has enough people against her in the world. You need to be her safe place.
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Well she should definately go to citizen advice bureau, she'll get good advice from them.\nIf she isn't entitled to the extra she should take it from the childs allowance, clothes allowance etc. She should tell him they have to last longer as she can't afford to buy now because HE has got himself excluded and costing her extra money. She must teach him to take responsibility for his own actions. If he wants to re-gain this clothes allowance, or pocket money or whatever she takes, then he has to get a job to pay her.\nHe is old enough to work, my eldest wanted extra money as I struggle. She got a job to buy herself what I couldn't afford and it was the encouragement for three of my others too. They love their independance and the thought of earning for themselves too. They also appreciate things more now because THEY HAD TO WORK FOR IT!!!!!\nHe has to learn to grow up, she is the perfect teacher to give him that push!\nGive her my wishes, and God Bless YOU for being a thoughtful friend to seek advice.
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Tell her to get a grant..\n\nLots of paper work but it there for the taking if people pursue it and what it bad enough.\n\nPLUS : Its time for her to learn responsibility's of being on her on. Part-time job will do.\n\nKids get bad but as they mature they forgive because they realize that Parents do know best.\n\nI had a girl friend her son was 27 never worked and ever time you said work it was back to college life time student. Well that didnot work out but you our married so its different try to find away to hold on. ( Great woman to and she even worked for State Farm Insurance but between us both his bills where to much. )\n\nI hope for you all to have the best in life it can give for you to work through this.
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hi, i really empathise with u....this person is an almighty BITCH!!!  \npeople who act like this are usually insecure and covering up for their ignorance....she's older ? and loves to put on a show of competence, but in reality, she probably knows less than you!...i've been there too.  but i was able to sack the bitch!  in your position, i would be talking to your manager about this matter and i truly think u have the upper hand....stay cool and good luck!
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You can't go giving huge  salaries to people.  This woman seems like she would undermine all you have accomplished.  Find someone else, there are many out there.
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just let her know you worried because that's how people get in to debt and that you'd rather she didn't have one. say if you ever need help don't get into debt ask me for help. that's what my dad yous to to say to me.\ngood luck. I'm not a parent but i am adult (21).
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She might be 18 but she has the mentality of a 4 year old. Forget about it, you don't owe her any explanations and she's not worth putting confusion in your life.
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no, she shouldn't stop if she doesn't want to. i'm sure she is aware of the consiquences and problems involved, and by doing those things, she agrees to all the crap that comes with it. ppl who do that stuff (especially underage, which i assume she is) understand that they could get hurt, get in trouble, and loose friends. stick with her though, and try to help her see that not doing that stuff is fun to. she might figure it all out eventually. if you need any more advice, email me, blobtastic2000@yahoo.com, because i have done all that stuff, and i have friends that do, and ones that don't. i'm 15. good luck. i hope she stops for her own good
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unfortunately nothing... you are never guaranteed a job no mater what your age... and the min wage laws are different for every state but what I have heard is that if you are under 16 there is a different wage because you can not do the full job of someone over 16.
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Some people are missing the point here--this little girl is eleven years old. She doesn't owe her mother rent or grocery money because she is a child--the money was in the bank--the only one who could get it out was the mother. This child earned this money all by herself---and her mother blew it on booze and junk !\n\n\n\nAs a grandmother with seven grandchildren, I can tell you exactly what to do.\n\nCall your grandparents and tell them what she did and that she won't pay you back.\n\n\nYour mother better be glad she isn't my daughter--I would probably still take a switch to her.\n\n\nand while you're at it---tell you dad what she did. \n\nGRRRRRRRRRRRRR.....that makes me mad!!!\n\n\n\n*well you sound like a good and responsible little girl. Your mother is darn lucky to have you. You certainly do alot of work.
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Maybe you could sit with her and ask her how she is feeling, if there are any probelms she wishes to discuss. Maybe there is something or someone bothering her. \n\nThe fact she bursts into tears when you ask her to buck her ideas up shows to me something is wrong. Set her some goals, and ask if there is anything you can do to help her. There may be things she doesn't understand but is too afraid to ask. \n\nGive her a sense of purpose. Give her a specific job, make her feel useful and wanted. Maybe then she will take pride in her work and repsect you more. \n\nGood luck.
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A sports car. JK. Go pick her some flower, write a poem, sing her a song, make a homemade card, give her a homemade coupon book that has coupons for like on free hug/kiss, clean the house for a day, cook, and so on. She would like this better I think. Your in the 10th grade meaning your 15 or 16 years old so why can't you work.
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When she asks for something, don't give it to her.  You may want to help her, but she's not going to want to take care of herself until she knows that she absolutely has to.  Right now she depends on you and social security because she knows you'll always help so she doesn't have to do anything herself.  Stop, and maybe she will learn some responsibilty.
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Maybe if she checks with her local Job Center, they might have some tips for how she can get all she needs to get a job. They have connections that we could look for and never find. Also, she can call her local Social Services and see if they have anyone that handles these kinds of situations. Having a birth certificate is a good start, because she won't be able to even enter a tech school without one. It's unfortunate that she waited for six years before doing something constructive towards her future. I'm sure she's found that she can't get anywhere without an ID or birth certificate. By now, she could have been done with schooling, and working at a decent job. That's really the best thing someone with a record can do with their lives...going back to school. It often shows a future employer that they've done something constructive with their life as soon as they were released, and gives them a better chance at success. Hope all works out for her. <*)))><