Every time we go someplace,  he manages to find an obese woman to talk to or to help, and he usually goes thru the check-out line that has the fattest cashier.  He also only goes to the obese women's porn sights.  Incidentally, I'm about sixty pounds overweight.
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Lots of men like women with some padding.  Compromise...don't gain and only lose enough to be in the healthy range...not to have an anorexic appearance.  Be happy that he isn't that type of man to leave you because you aren't the slender thing he married...men have been known to do that.  Count your blessings!
513615
First off how good of shape is your boy friend? Because I can tell you from experience that I recently gained and lost 20 lbs. I was just on a fast food things and drinking lots of beer, and I started to notice that my penis was not performing well anymore. It would get hard and then it would just go limp with out me being able to control it. Well fast forward a month and a half later I have lost the 20 pounds my abs are looking great and now that more blood gets pushed down there via my stomach muscles, I stay hard all the way through. \n\nTell him to start working out his stomach\nkegal exercises are must.\nThis will help his problem.
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First off DO NOT MAKE YOUR KIDS TAKE CARE OF HIM.It isn't their responsibility.It is his to take care of them not the other way around.Next, It didn't do any good to cut down on smoking to lower his blood pressure and then turn around and gain weight.Excessive weight hurts your blood pressure more than anything.He is much more likely to die due to obesity and high b.p. than the smoking.But, really it sounds like he is trading one addiction for another.My be try counseling? Just try to do what you can before he get any larger and gets sicker.My husband never wanted to say anything to  me about my weight because he didn't want to hurt my feeling. I wish he had.I let myself get to 216 pounds.And I ended up with high b.p. I didn't see a problem with my weight or eating habits I am a big girl always have been. And I figured I don't drink,smoke,use drugs.So I am safe from having too many problems I have no addictions like everyone else I know and surely food isn't an addiction it is necessary.I told myself that right up until it almost killed me.Last year at 33 years old I suffered a stroke. And my only plausible risk factor the doctor could find was my obesity.Do what you can to stop him now or lose him later.It won't be easy for him but he must recognize his eating has an addiction.It is important for his survival.
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That's what it seems like to me - jealousy!  It's ok to be happy with your wieght even if you're overweight, but to judge others for their successes is just wrong.  Whether they are doing it for the right reasons (it's not healthy being overweight) or for other reasons (just for looks), it's none of her business and not her place to judge!
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im in the same position right now. my partner is at least 100lbs overweight and im disgusted with him on many levels. not just the physical part, but his whole attitude. plus sex is unpleasant because i have back problems. i exercise, watch what i eat and am very conscious about my health. he his completely opposite. unfortunately, i cant go anywhere because im completing college and am financially dependant on him with my two children. its tough to be in this situation, i dont even sleep in the same bed with him because theres no room. we should hook them up together.
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Be honest with him. If he is a little over weight, encourage him to lose some without sounding insulting. For example, rather than saying "Well, you could lose a few pounds." say "if your not happy with your body, try to establish a healthier lifestyle." Be supportive rather than letting him wallow in self pitty. And if he does lose weight nothing is more encouraging than commenting on how much better he looks.
490150
I'm assuming a REALLY fat guy?? lol...I dunno  ;)
160280
he needs  to get checked out...if he's overweight that could be part of it, could also be stress or something out...get him to go see a doctor
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I once dated a very obese man, and wondered this myself.  In the end, I realized that he did not want to change.  There was nothing I could do for him, he had to want to do it himself.  We ended up breaking up, because he refused to do anything to change his unhealthy habits and that is not how I wished to live my life.  Hopefully, your boyfriend really wants to change his lifestyle not just to please you, but for his own health and well being.  In the end, if he doesn't really want to do it for himself, then nothing you do will help him.\n\nThat being said, there are some things you can do.  Number one, of course, is to be very supportive of him.  He will have bad days now and then, and you both have to work through it.\n\nThe best place to start is to look at his current routine and pick a few small changes at a time so the change is not too drastic.  This is not a temporary diet, but a lifestyle he should be able to really live with in the long run.\n\nDoes he eat breakfast?  Studies have shown that people who eat breakfast are able to lose weight and keep it off.  I recommend a low calorie/high fiber/high protein/low sugar cereal with skim milk.  I like cinnamon shredded wheat or quaker oatmeal squares.  Also include some fruit, like a banana.\n\nFor lunch, he currently eats a sandwich and chips?  Does he bring it or buy it from a place like Togos or Subway?  Either way, can he switch to wheat bread instead of white?  Switching to low fat mayo or using mustard instead will save a lot of calories.  Also, skip the cheese.  Turkey is a good lean source of protein, but lean ham or roast beef isn't all that bad.  Just stay away from meatballs or balogna or other fatty deli meats.  Also, put more veggies on it, like lettuce, tomato, and other things.  Instead of chips, could he have an apple or something like that?  At least choose a lower fat variety of chips, such as sunchips or those Baked potato chips.\n\nIf he is starved when he gets home, then I'd say he needs to have a snack in the afternoon.  Ideally, something with protein.  Maybe he could bring a protein bar to work?  There are a bunch of good ones out there by South Beach Diet, SlimFast, and Special K has a new protein bar as well.\n\nFor dinner, try fixing some grilled chicken, veggies, and brown rice or something similar.  It needs to contain lean protein, some kind of veggies (ask him which are his favorites so he'll actually eat them), and a complex carbohydrate with lots of fiber.  Also, drinking water instead of soda will make a HUGE difference.\n\nAs for the walking, I would say that's an excellent start.  It's something you can do together and get into the habit of daily exercise.  If he has injuries, it might not be a good idea to push him too much too soon.  Maybe try to increase the speed or duration of the walks a little every week.  You might try signing up to walk a 5K race in the spring, so he has a goal in mind to work towards.  Consult a doctor before you do anything too strenuous though.
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I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
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I, for one, have never once worried about my weight - or needing to diet, to keep it in 'shape' !\n...It is the MEN and the MEDIA who are all out to brainwash us that 'skinny is sexy' and 'beanpoles are beautiful' ! How else could they market all those fancy 'diet' foods and beverages, plus 'instant reduction' cosmetic surgical techniques like liposuction - and rake in billions in profits ?\nIt is still very much a marketing MAN's world, baby : And it is going to be a real struggle, for us women to unite and stand-up against these stupes to announce : 'We are HAPPY being healthy, and well built. It is these MEN who need be slim and bony' !
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Why get Richard Simmons to motivate him to lose weight?  Do it yourself.\n\nI always say, that if I get that fat, I would hope that my friends and family said something to me.  Hold an intervention.  Gather his friends and family, and have everyone tell him that he's morbidly obese, and he needs to lay off the cupcakes in order to survive.  Be brutally honest with him, until you break him to the point of tears, because then you know that you've gotten through to him.\n\nAnd on a side note, if he can't go outdoors, how does he get his food?  If someone buys his food and takes it to his house, slash their tires, because all they're doing is making him fatter.  If he orders delivery food, call all the delivery places in the area and tell them not to deliver to him, citing a medical excuse.
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unfortunately, even in our society where obese people are becoming the norm and are no longer the minority, there are still people who gawk and stare and make stupid comments like Andrew.  As an overweight female, I know exactly what you are going through, and it took me a long time to get to the point where I eat what I want in front of whoever happens to be in the vicinity.  but I still get the looks and even if I DON'T get the looks I am still self-conscious that I am being watched by someone I can't see and therefore am being judged. so I make a conscious effort to watch the way I am eating in public and spend the rest of my meal worrying about what complete strangers think about my dinner etiquette.  But think about it this way, no matter what, people are going to stare.  \nif you are thin, they stare wondering how you stay so thin. (i do it too)\nif you are overweight, they stare wondering about that person's health, physical and mental. (Unless you are like me and they stare because they wonder how it is that I am sooo freakin' gorgeous.  As i am sure the case is with you.)\nif you are black, you get stared at.\ndepending on the area, if you are white, you get stared.\n\nbasically no matter what, you will be stared at.  what you have to decide is are you going to be what you think THEY want you to be?  or are you going to eat your cheeseburger and say "F*** you"?
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I don't really have that much experience in that area, but here's the best advice I can give you:\n\nIn my opinion, a guy that specifies "slim," "fit,"and any other body type is usually not looking for his "significant other." Usually it's because he's looking for some canoodling and "action" or what have you. \n\nYou are looking for love, right? \n\nI think that it may seem that all the guys are looking for one thing, but that's not the right way of looking at it. You can tell a lot about a person when you read their personal ad. If a guy puts up that he's looking for some "slim" or "fit" woman, I doubt he's that great a match for you anyways. In fact, it sounds rather superficial to me when a guy sepcifies what appearance a woman should have.\n\nYou are wonderful in your own way, as is every woman. \nYou deserve someone who can see that. Not all personal ads specify appearance, and so you just need to have a little faith in those which don't specify it. \n\nThe only thing that I can really tell you is this:\n\nDon't give up. He's out there, and you'll find him eventually. Sure, there are those interesting and bizarre moments of misses, but that just brings you that much closer to your significant other that you deserve. \n\nDon't ever give up or let anyone tell you otherwise. \nYou deserve someone who appreciates and loves YOU. \n\nAnd just to finish this whole tangent off, I think that too many people fail to realize that when you're looking for that "slim" or "fit" person, it can all change in a few years. All appearances change with time. What never changes is who you are, and that's what you should be looing for. A person. NOT a body type. \n\n=] Good luck to you!
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Basically, your man needs to do an inventory of himself.\n\nHe abuses drugs and alcohol FOR A REASON.\n\nHe abuses pornography FOR A REASON.\n\nYou can't find love in a fifth of Bicardi.\n\nYou can't find love smoking hay in the barn all day either.\n\nYou can't find love even when you observe porn stars seemingly defy the laws of physics in the bedroom either.\n\nHe is looking for love in all of the wrong places . . . and until he SEES and UNDERSTANDS that, you are fighting an uphill battle.\n\nCOMMUNICATION.\nCOMMITMENT.\nCHARACTER.\nCHRIST.\n\n(the Four Legs to this TABLE known as marriage).\n\nYou need to make sure your husband ain't cut off any of THESE LEGS.\n\nYou NEED a sturdy table, you don't need a wobbly stool!\n\nYou have been warned.
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Yes it is. . . for starters.  There may be underlying causes.  The bottom line is guys don't like fat girls.  They are very visual.  Most girls wouldn't like a 250 lb boy.  Start walking and stop eating chips and drinking soda...you'll be amazed at the change.
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The message is not a negative one!  The guy was actually complimenting her!  When a guy says you have a fat Pu$$y, it's a very good thing!  Guys tell me that all the time!  It means that her private part, her outter lips (labia) is a bigger size than usual.  that's why he said that!  He's not calling her fat or anything!  It's a very good thing!  I like it when guys think it's fat!  The average size of a Pu$$y is just average, but when you have a nice fat juicy one...you should feel special! :-)  She should take that as a compliment, not an insult!