My friend loves his wife more than anything in life, provides her with anything she needs. I knew for sure that she is cheating him with other guy and I can't tell him that coz I know he wouldn't believe me and will hate me. what sould I do coz I can't sleep well since I knew that?
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If he's really your best friend.. level with him, tell him what you heard and saw, and tell him out of respect for him you thought that he should have the information to draw from.. \n\nThen let him take that info and do whatever he wants with it.. don't try to convince him... let him convince himself. \n\nThe thing is, he will either find the truth or decide to convince himself that the information was wrong...either way support his thinking.. and be relieved when he finds out that it isn't true...even if you KNOW better, he will eventually see the truth and know that you gave him a heads up long before he was able to believe it for himself.
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You should speak to your significant other to see what they believe is too much.  Some people have different views of what is cheating and what is not. If nothing else just ask yourself "Would I be ashamed or afraid to tell my other half what I am about to do?" Trust your gut instinct.
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Perhaps you could confront them by letting them know that your husband is aware of what was said, and that you feel betrayed because it had been a private conversation between close friends. Let them know that you feel hurt as well, because it has as you have said, made a very tense situation even worse. \n\nIn some ways it is to be expected that these friends of yours would tell their husbands, that is their life partner. What is terribly wrong is for the husbands to turn around and not only repeat your private words and cause more problems for you, but these husbands also ratted on their own wives by telling. Goes to show you that these husbands did not even think about how their actions would afftect you or the bad position they put their ownnn  wives in. Now these women of course will have to face you with what they have done. All around not a good situation. \n\nI would be very hurt by their actions but as well, I do not think they told their husbands to be mean or to do it as gossip but to share in what you are going through and perhaps as women do... run it by someone else in order to get another's opinion.  Perhaps you could keep this in mind as you confront them. They do owe you a big apology..... as well as their husbands.  Good luck... I hope everything turns out ok for you.
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everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
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I would seriously question if she is indeed your FRIEND at all.\n\nFriends do not advise us to do things that would be hurtful to ourselves or to our families.\n\nAs to would it be adultery YES it would being with someone other than your Husband is cheating.\n\nYou need to take a closer look at this so called friend.
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I hear you. We have just been discussing this, but its crazy cause you dont want to be the bearer of bad news, but then again what kind of friend would just allow their friend to be hurt (no matter how). You say this guy is your friend, well, your a man, lift your chest up and confront him. If he doesn't come clean to his wife, you could always give him the ultimatum  that if he doesn't you will.  It will hurt her, yes it will whoever tells her, but truth hurts sometimes...\n\nIt is also very true that other people's love life, you most stay, way out of. So, I cant tell you what to decide...\nbest wishes
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You don't have a FRIENDSHIP to lose with him!?! He's a cheating ******* and using you too! He's MARRIED!!!! He doesn't just have a girlfriend, he has a WIFE! Someone that went to a church with him in front of all their family and REAL friends and said vows on loving each other and being faithful. He doesn't LOVE you! \n\nHow would you feel when you get married to the man of your dreams, and you think that it'll be forever. . . and you find out he's screwing some other girl and telling her he loves her. I bet you wouldn't like that other girl very much either. Well, that other girl is YOU!\n\nMy advice is to punch him in the face and tell him to kiss your ***.
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Really, cut your ties with this man, he's not a future for you. You continue to see this man and you will continue to get lied to and cheated on too. He doesn't know how to be honest or faithful. To love someone like that isn't really love. Your feelings for this man hon, isn't what you really think it is. I don't know you, but I see that your taking who ever says nice things to you. Shoot, I could feed you with all kinds of nice words, but doesn't mean I really mean it. I wouldn't even give a another second to this man. Let him and her work through their own problems. Take your loss now and bail out sweetie. It's not worth it. Staying on with this guy or telling his wife, what will you gain from it. The satisfaction of telling her. No, wrong! Maybe for a while but later down the road. hhhmmmm Trust in your self and move on. Good luck to you.
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It's understandable that you are afraid to tell your friend because she can get mad at you for accusing her bf of cheating but you still need to tell her. Don't say it in a factual way like you for a fact that he is cheating on her but say it like you think but you aren't sure. That way, she will probably be a little more aware and pay attention to what he does.
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Get out.\nFriends or family you can go to?\nI know.\nYou don't know whether to laugh or cry.\nThanks for the response to my cheating \nwife question.\nThat is over and done -\nshe's someone else's problem.\nPsychological problems on your husband's part?\nCertainly sounds like it.\nGood luck!\nRemember - You've got friends you didn't know you had!
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Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
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If it were me (which it's not) I would keep my mouth shut.  But you just have to think about what you would do if you were in her shoes.  Would you want someone to tell you or what?  Women generally have a "gut feeling" when their man has been cheating, so it's possible that she already knows and just doesn't want to admit it to herself.  Talking to him is definantly a good idea.  But why would he cheat and then ask her to move with him.  Maybe you can plant a guilt trip on him and he'll tell her.  But I think it's his place to spill the beans!  Good Luck!
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You can't make anyone do anything and you should leave him he is married how will you live with yourself? And it he is cheating with you on his wife how can you ever trust he will never cheat on you with his wife I am sure they still make love because he loves her and just has you on the side because you are easy and a play toy for him! Dang why can't you girls leave the married guys alone! Stop f*cking the husbands and fines a sigle guy!
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Well Jess, I can really relate to your problem.  I was also in a 5 1/2 year relationship with a guy who was also in law enforcement.  He cheated on me with 22 women while we were together.  He, too, lied about EVERYTHING.  He had a lot of friends in law enforcement who were married, and they were all cheating on their wives.  I don't know what it is about that profession, but all of the ones I have known have become unfaithful to their partners.  And as for this other guy you are seeing... okay, maybe you didn't sleep with him YET, but the simple fact remains that he has a wife at home and if he is calling all of the time and telling you how much you mean to him, then he might as well be cheating!!  And you never know, law enforcement personnel are some of the most biggest manipulators in the world... he may be telling you that he doesn't want to cheat so that when it does finally happen, you won't feel so bad about it!  I understand how this man makes you feel, but your emotions are getting in the way because you are going through such a hard time with your husband.  You have to make a rational decision about this.  I think the best thing you can do is to leave your husband... he is no good for you and never will be.  Also leave the other guy alone because he will be doing the same thing before long!  I hope I have helped you and if you need someone to talk to more about your situation, please don't hesitate to contact me at nisey513@yahoo.com... Good luck!
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I agree those are what most people think, and the main one is Why? I think it comes down to, did I do something wrong, why did he/she do it? If your friends or family know about it and don't tell you I feel that's a huge betrayal. They either don't want to get involved but I think it's wrong for them not to, because then you look like a bigger fool when everyone around you knows but you. Both sexes need to be honest if they're cheating because it catches up  with them in the long run anyways. JMO
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Please tell!  Losing a husband can hurt.  Losing a husband and a friend is worse.  What if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her?  Try it this way, start off with a deep conversation about love and marriage then ask her if she saw your partner cheating would she tell you.  Then ask her if she would want you to tell if her husband is cheating on her.  Go from there.  Don't let this man waste her life if he's not interested.
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Darling,\nYou've done your bit and you are a real friend for that. There's nothing else you can do but beeing there for him when he'll realize she's been cheating.\nI wish I had friends like you!