what do u all think of "friends with Benefits"? is it a good thing or bad thing?
201243
i think that if it is ur thing than go for it..only you have to live with urself and the choices you make..i personally enjoy it..
586614
It's okay as long as you don't bring up feelings and emotions. This is when I freaked out when she started saying she loved me and asking me how did I feel. When you're friends with benefits you don't expect anything, you don't want to hear none of that moo-shy woo-shy stuff!
480555
I'm not sure what kind of "benefits" you mean.I don't choose my friends based on any material or monetary "benefits" because that is not friendship to me.Friendship implies having things in common and having trust and being able to relate in some way.My friends are usually older then me and I don't place "caps" on how old they are.I tend to get along with the older crowds because they are more laid back and don't have the youth hangups that people my age and younger often have such as needing to party and go to bars and worry about impressive clothing and good looks.\n\nSo, I am not sure what you mean by an age cap or friends with benefits.Having friends to me is beneficial in the sense having people in my life that I can relate to and care about and who relate with me and care about me.Age never enters my consideration.I would be friends with younger people or people my age group but have yet to meet any that I had any common interests and ability to relate yet with any to the point of being friends.\n\nI hope I answered your question.I guess maybe I don't understand why anyone would want friends with any benefits other then the ones I mentioned or why age would matter when having friends usually is for the reasons I mentioned.
475157
Grow up and look for a "real relationship." The mature thing is to find a life partner who values you and who you, in turn, value. You should have compatible morals and life goals. That "friends with benefits" thing is just for hoes and people too shallow or immature to have REAL relationships.
130184
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
550351
"No strings attached" doesn't mean "I couldn't care less about you" and the operative word in "friends with benefits *should* be "Friends" and not "benefits".\n\nI honestly can not tell what is on his mind, but here are some possibilities:\nIt could be he likes you and enjoyed himself and wants the pleasure to linger on for a while. Putting it another way, lets say that a guy is really into some sports, e.g. basketball, and him and a friend go for a game of hoops in the afternoon. He might like to meet that guy for happy hour just to talk about the game.\n\nOr maybe he cares for you as a friend and knowing that most women are more sensitive and worried about being a "ho" (as you put it), he is giving you a call to make it less "ho-ish" for you.\n\nMaybe he is having blossoming feelings for you, which might or not grow into something. Maybe he is even in love.\n\nNow for some negative possibilities:\nMaybe he is a love junkie and has a need for falling in love.\n\nOr (and this is the worst scenario) maybe the sex is not enough and he gets off on making women fall in love. This is how it might work for him. The game of sex&seduction is a game which is won when you overpower and controll the opponent: YOU. This can be achieved by seducing a virgin or a commited woman or by getting her to do something she might not be inclined to, like anal sex. In an extreme, it could come to rape. The thrill come from the feeling of power. In the relation you described, you are not being submissive at all and he might feel that making you falling in love would be a way to "submit you".\n\nOnce again, I have no idea of what is going on in his mind and these are only ideas. I hope they helped.
134452
I hate the friends with benefits shit!!
146240
No not at all, I went through this same thing a couple of years ago a male frined and I both came outta long, serious relationships about the same time and were feeling quite down and bruised by the whole thing and ended up being together alot of the time talking about it and of course one thing led to another and we eventually slept together and it just became a habit (I know that sounds awful!!) but neither of us could face another relationship at that time and we aren't into one night stands so we'd just hook up have the best laugh and then enjoy great sex before saying goodbye in the morning with no pressure it was ideal, it went on for about two yeras until we both just met people we wanted to be with and then it fizzled out but we're still the best of friends now (purely platonic!!) so it worked out fine.  The only thing I'd watch out for is that you both understand the situation if one person has feelings that the other dosen't have then it will cause problems and you shouldn't do it but if you both know it's just sex cos you have needs then go for it.  Good Luck!!
21650
I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. Friends with benefits are ok as long as you agree to stick with the terms. You know he doesn't feel the same way you do, so stop hooking up and step back for a while. Besides, he's hooking up with other girls and that puts you more at risk of catching something (even if you use a condom). Use your head instead of your heart on this one. Don't hook up anymore.
277316
I see nothing wrong with that. I think my best friend and I have something...but we don't act on it, but if we were to i think it might be one of the best relationships ever...cause we were friends first..and I believe that you should be friends first and continue to be friends when you have a relationship with someone.
220686
No that is not it at all...\n\nIt's great to find someone who is willing to let you have your friends as well as date!!!!
135318
Well first of all...I have been teh victim of the same thing. So your not a bad friend for doing so. You just agree and see what your friend see's in him. But i wouldnt take the relationship anywhere other than friendship. Imean do you relaly want to loose a good friendship and hurt someones feelings over a relationship that may or may not work. Yea risky. If it were meant to be...he'll always be there.
192535
If you both agree on that arrangement, yes it is ok.  When and if either one of you find someone else then just be friends only (no sex).  Good luck usually in cases like this one or the other catches feelings.
272607
I don't understand your question, you have to word it better,\nbut I think what you are trying to say is "what if a friend asked you to have sex with them?, what would you do?"\nI'd say go for it as long as you like them no strings attached, then what the hell, you have to have some fun right?
495832
yes and think it can be a great extension to the friendship as long as good boundaries are set before hand, this can work out really good and has for me a couple times over... do you hear these close minded people...( It can be a very good thing if both people are mature enough to handle it.)
119692
Why not??Who else has grown to know your likes and dislikes, pros and cons, ideals and hobbies, interests and virtually everything about you?? Is that not what you need in a relationship?To me, good friends are perfect matches in relationships.Generally speaking..
287961
I have to agree with Y Stroke 28. I think its a blast to be single, going out with girlfriends, partying, and just having a really good time. However, I think it does get a little old, and eventually you want that person to come home to, or like y stroke 28 said, just having that companionship of knowing someone really cares about you. I on one hand would like to get married, and eventually have children someday, so I really do not want to stay single for too long. I love to be single, but it does get old to me. But I don't think being single is a bad thing...I just like to know that I have someone to care about and share things with...and cuddling!\nGood Question!