Can anyone give some ideas if I sit next to a bad person in school?\n\nPlease answer in details, thank you!
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What do you mean by bad??? Just a person who doesn't pay attention, or is he or she doing particular bad things? That might make a difference. If it is just a person who is loud and disruptive, try your best to focus on the teacher or privately ask your teacher for a new seat. If you mean bad like he or she is using drugs in the middle of class, talk to your teacher immediately and maybe your school cop.
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I think your instinct is totally on. Let sleeping dogs lie. Now, how do we stop the propaganda that happened years ago? You have to prove to these people and show them the real you. Your peers must be part elephant, for them to remember and hang on to, 2 year old gossip! Are you sure that someone isn't keeping the gossip alive by some chance? That may be your problem. Any how, talk is cheap. Action speak louder than words. When you go to school Monday, you raise your head high, brush your pearly whites and smile. Make eye contact and start saying hi. If the chance presents itself, do favors or small tasks that could help them out. Waiting this long to try to correct a problem has put you in a bad position. But not a permanent position. Following this simple guide line, you will be alright. As far as your friend, the next time something like this happens, talk to her right away. It sounds like to me, she could be jealous of you, and want you to be her friend alone. But you can change that too. Just include her in with the things you and your new friends will be doing. Now its all left up to you, to take charge and end this once and for all. You go Girrrl.........!
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It appears you have been very professional in dealing with this - good on you!  Do you belong to a professional organization of teachers?  They should be able to provide more support.\n\nInterpersonal relationship advice.....why does she have any power over your students?  You've done very well in modelling appropriate behaviour - good on you!  Is there another teacher who could give your students peer partners?  That would give another opportunity for appropriate modelling.  Ask her students about their motivation:  What do they get from being mean to the girls?  Until you understand the underlying fears of the people involved, you won't be able to determine their motivation.  Sometimes we just have to work with jerks - realize her limitations and work around them.
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If anyone knows about having problems in high school it's abazzabba. I mean this dude posts questions begging for help because a "bully at school" is throwing food in his face. Not sure if you'd want to listen to someone who asks questions like that then turns around and tells you to punch somebody in the "teeth". That would be like taking advice from a NUN who gives suggestions on sexual positions.
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Is it a participatory class or are you expected to sit quietly and pay attention to the teacher?  Certainly not greeting the other students could be considered rude but aside from that I guess it's just a matter of personal preference.
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I really do sympathize with you.  I teach sophomore English to very low level, at-risk students.  My kids are straight out of that old TV show, "Welcome Back Kotter," however, the attitudes and ambivilence are often laced with a home-grown coating of physical abuse, drugs, alcohol, etc. etc.  I have a student right now who was exactly like those you are describing. He'd been in jail, alternative school, ISS, you name it, and simply didn't seem to care. He often said, "I'm going to fail anyway, so what's the point?"  He'd dig his heels in and sit in his desk staring into space and refusing to even attempt the most trivial task.  It frustrated me to no end, but rather than let it aggravate me further, I told myself that I was going to make a conscious effort to say something nice to this child, or to acknowledge him in a special way every single day even if I had to draw down the sun, moon, and stars to find something positive to say.  First I just said things like, "Hey Fernando, that's a pretty fine shirt you got on," or "Did you get a haircut?  It looks good."   Next thing I knew he was picking up a pencil and writing a few words, answering 1 or 2 questions on a worksheet.  So I kept at it, and he started doing another 2 or 3 questions and guess what?  Today, Fernando completed 3 entire pages of a 6 page packet featuring VERBS! :-)\nHe hides behind my door every morning as the kids are filing in and I say "Gee, I think there's a big bug in this hallway---I think I heard it behind my door--I better get some RAID!"  For the past week and a half or so he's actually been coming into class smiling.   \nI don't know if this helps you or not---I know that all of our students are unique, but even when they're in high-school--15, 16 years old, I've found that there are those that so badly crave our attention much like that of a little kid.\nHang in there---persistence and patience are blessings bigger than we could ever know!  (hug)
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I was in the 6th grade sitting in class when All off the sudden I got this very strange warm but wet feeling. Of course at the time I didn't know what was happening, but I knew something wasn't right. I asked my teacher numerous times if I could be excused to go to the rest room and her reply was no because we were in the middle of testing. Well, I began to  become agitated because I kept getting this feeling. My teacher became angry with me and told me that I had detention after school along with my crush who was sitting right next to me. She ordered us to write "I will not disrupt the class" 600 times and when we were done to bring it to her desk; then after-wards we could be excused. I finished my work before my crush did. (he was so cute) I got up and looked in my seat and sat back down because I was shocked by what I saw. My teacher got up from her desk and asked if I were done and I said no which I was. She came over to check and said "yes you are, and now you may go home". I must have sat there about 20 minutes before I got up. She forced me to leave and my crush laughed out loud while I ran out of the class room straight to the nurses office who had gone home for the day. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
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bring this up at your next parents meeting,the chances are hell have a friend at school who he needs separaing from in class,it worked with my son,they were distracting each other so now they can mess around but only at playtime!good luck!
54645
You should report this person and make sure they're expelled...make a stand and show that you're not afraid...but try not to get into a fight if you can help it
150030
yes it is a bad idea but what would be the solution ? have you tried getting involve in the school and to offer reasonable solutions ? if nothing works and you are concerned enough then wait to take your child to school just in-time for class or have someone else do it for you. you could also try another school. lol.
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thanx for the Advice, i always new there are "Evil" people out there, but we all have to be careful with who we really interact with them. if you get sespicous about something you must attack him/her with honesty. thanx again
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Gosh, she's just one teacher out of many you will have.  And you'll likely never have to see her again after you finish the class.  You don't have to like or be liked by everyone, so get over it, you are already spending too much time worrying about something that can only cause trouble.  Your teacher is a real person, you know, maybe she doesn't llike you either.  Maybe if you treat her better, she'll treat you better, too.
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Just ignore him and keep hanging with your friends.  If he keeps it up then maybe you should go talk to the principal, even though it's his dad, he still has a responsibilty for other students in the school!
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I've dealt with a lot of mean teachers and I know they can't get fired for that. My Freshman science teacher was mean to only Freshman. Now, whenever she sees me, she's always extremely nice. Some teachers are just mean because they don't like their jobs. Nonetheless, if your teacher wasn't teaching properly or was beating the kids, that would be a good ticket out of there. But just "being mean" could be a  matter of perspective and I don't think there's anything you can do.
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There's actually a funny saying that all my teachers have hung up in their classrooms. It says "Everyday I give special attention to one person... today is not your day..... tomorrow doesn't look good either." You don't have to say that, but I thought that is pretty funny... but in all seriousness you should approach them and be like "Listen... you all are very close to me, but there isn't enough me to go around." Then if two of your friends get into a fight you simply say... "i'm sorry... but I am NOT taking sides." Sometimes... unfortunately... you have to take a stand with your friends like that. Good luck!!!
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First and foremost, I must say that I applaud you for standing up for someone who you feel is being wronged. So what if she's " kinda big?" If God wanted everyone to be alike, then he would have made us that way. I also want to tell you that I had some hard times attending high school myself because no matter what you do, people are going to be just people. I was known as the "goody two-shoes" girl, but at least I wasn't bullying anybody, and I was able to get good grades. Grades that have put me where I am today. If you do as some people on here has suggested, and be a "goody-two shoes", then people will hate you for being good, and if you're stuck up and snobbish, then they will hate you for that also. Just be YOURSELF!! As long as when you get up in the morning and can still face yourself in the mirror, then you know that you are doing something right. And, I hate to say it, but this is just a growing process that we all must go through at some point in our lives. It sucks, I know, but in the end, at least you'll feel better for going through it, and being the victor!!
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Definitely do tell people about it! My daughter was bullied at school, and hated life until she was moved. Talk to the school, BUT if they do nothing, then go right to the state teaching board (not 100% sure how things work in the US) but if the school does nothing, go right over their heads. My daughter had proof that this other student had stolen her wallet, yet the school didn't want to know about it, or the many other ocassions.