i'm 24 and don't know anything about sex. should i know everything about by this age? if i didn't will it be a problem for me after i get married?
215101
No, you have time to learn. Besides, if you knew it all now, what fun would there be for the future?
218255
You probably got married at a young age and didn't explore your sexuality enough..\nI do not believe in devorce,so I can unfortunately not give you any advice..\n\nYou need to spice things up with your marriage..\nJust talk to her..
208575
NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
23017
It's up to you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.   I was married when I was 18 and now I am 20.  My husband and I decided not to have sex before we got married. I know that some people regret having sex before they are married becasue it causes problems in their future relationships. But this is what worked for us.  You would have to talk it over with your sigificant other to decide what will work for you.
6599
sex comes with a responsibility, in case the worse happens. You need to be ready and fully matured for that. You don't have to burden society. To check this, I guess an age limit was set, and any activity below that age was made illigal.
165408
There is nothing wrong. You are 20. \n\nCompatibility? Now it will look good but when you get older you will be 25 and she will be 30, When you are at 35 she will be in 40. So marrage will be a issue as you will be in the phase of exploring and she will be in the phase of settling and will you be able to form a family. \n\nMan of the house has loooot of responsibility and very rarely womens would like to take the role and if your woman is willing to take the role then there wont be a problem, if not then there is a big problem. A guy gets settle mostly at the age of 35-40 and a woman will have to waite patiently for it and will a 40-45 year old woman be able to be patient? i dont think so as she would like to take some rest.\n\nSex would be fun to start with. But is it just sex alone enough?\n\nI have seen young fathers ending up without knowing what to do as they are young have kids. Divorce- allimony at the age of 30 does it sound good?
263951
i'm 23, we are still so young, and i think if you don't know for sure, then it's a definite no. i'm finally discovering things about myself and absolutely know that i can't marry right now because that scares me too. \n\nwhen you are ready, getting married and being tied down to a family shouldn't make you sick to your stomach; it should make you excited and happy. so it's not right for now. listen to your gut.\n\ngod bless
324172
i rather die a virgin then give it up just to be giving it up.. i was 27 when i got married and and lost my virginity.. and i dont regret one bit of it.. and dont worry you will be the right person and you will have your chance to loose it on your wedding night..
100034
No its not!!! Because the bottom line that once you marry the sex life becomes less and less. It may not be right away that this happens but its true it does happen. When you are thinking of marriage you should make sure that this person is the one who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is about uniting as ONE!Its my opinion that communication would be the most important thing in a marriage up under have Jesus at the roots of the marriage! Sex does play a role in a marriage because  two people who are married feel the most connected when they are making love as the should but its not the most important thing. Marriage includes making decisions together, compassion, understanding, just letting the other one know that you are there for them no matter what, friendship.  So have fun with your SEX but remember marriage is more that just SEX if you marry for this reason then you are going to end up unhappy and wanting out! Truth of the matter, things change so will the sex life.Good Luck to you!
189483
God made sex a sacred thing meant to be only for married couples, plus I hear that it's better when you're married. No pressure or worries about babies or anything else you might not be ready for...
179088
Hopefully no one over 18. I feel sorry for those people. Sex is worth experiencing before marriage.
187377
I had my first sex 4 1/2 years ago, with the one who is my husband now. I was 17 years old and I think it was the right time. Don't do it too early. And try to find the right person for it. This isn't easy, but one should try. I am, personally, happy that I had my first sex with the one who is now my husband. I am really happy whith that. On the other hand, there are many people telling you should have several partners before getting married. This is what you have to find out yourself. Anyway, take your time. Don't force yourself to anything.
296597
okay, time for big brother to take over here.\nkid, im 21, and i know where you are coming from with all these questions about girls, sex, and puberty. but take my advice, being young is something that should be enjoyed, not ruined by obsessing over sex. i mean, im still a virgin and i still have no regrets at all(don't get me wrong, i still fall in love and go on dates). in my case, I'm now happily in love with a beautiful red headed fiance, but I'm still waiting for our wedding night. so if i can wait while in this much love, I'm sure you can wait until you are truly in love. because true love doesn't care if you hit puberty, live next door, or whether you masturbate.
107591
24, recently married.  I feel that you should be over 20, also have some direction in life before you drag someone else into it.  But if it is true love you will know with out any doubts.
571366
I understand. I don’t know what I’d do if I wasn’t married, but let me share some of the things I have learned in almost 20 years:\n\n1) Courtship is important. And long courtships are best. In our fast-paced world, especially as young adults, we are always rushing around. The best way to divorce-proof a marriage begins before you ever meet your mate-to-be, during the dating process. Serial dating, especially when it involves premarital sex, is a course in how to get divorced. We end up hooking up and then when things go sour we run away. Don’t get involved with someone who isn’t a friend. And date at least 2 – 3 years before getting married. That way you can get over the initial 18 month crush where everything about the other person is fascinating and the whole infatuated view of “The way you eat is so cute – it sounds like bells ringing,” to “If you clang your fork off of your teeth again I’m gojng to shove it through the back of your throat.” Not kidding – real conversation between my wife & I in the first year. I’m glad to say she never jammed the fork through my throat and I learned to use my lips as a cushion between my fork & teeth. \n\n2) Keep Christ at the center of your marriage. It seems obvious, but it is essential. Every time you notice that ring on your finger, pray for your spouse. It doesn't have to be long or even audible. Just a quick mental thanks to God for your mate, or a quick thought of, "God be with her/him." \n\n3) Love is NOT give and take. There is no take in love. Read 1 Cor. 13 (the love chapter). Love is giving. I give to my wife. She gives to me. If both are giving no one needs to take. Develop this mindset and remember that this is what marriage is meant for. Eph 5 takes a lot of heat for telling wives to submit to their husbands. But it also tells husbands to submit to their wives. Give + give = love. Give + take = selfishness = unhappy = divorce.\n\n4) Never use derogatory names for each other, even in fun. Husbands, if you call your wife "old lady" that is what you will see in her over time. I call my wife "my bride", especially when I am upset with her. That way I remember that wedding day, all those dreams, etc.\n\n5) When kids are involved it is easy to place them in front of your spouse. While time with kids is important & shouldn't be neglected, those kids will grow up & move out one day. Your mate will still be there and you'll need something else to talk about besides the kids. Make a habit of dating. Guys, even ask your wife out on a date. Arrange the babysitter. Often couples in church can provide a wonderful service for each other by trading Fridays (or whatever day is appropriate).\n\n6) Get to know and socialize with an older Christian couple or two who have a happy long-term marriage. Learn from how to treat each other from them. Remember that we all face similar adaptation issues when we are first married & they have worked those issues out. Talk with them about what they had to work out in either early married years and how they resolved things. This can be one of the biggest benefits you ever have, especially if you come from a divorced family or a family with strained relations.\n\n7) It may seem obvious but pray together. Have individual quite times, but have a shared quite time as well, at least once a week. And no matter how much you think it will hurt or bother your mate, talk. Holding it in doesn't make it go away - it only makes it fester until you explode all over each other. Talk and if agreement needs intervention, see your pastor or a Christian counselor.\n\nMarriage is very frightening - especially for those of us who came out of dysfunctional families. But the single biggest cause of dysfunction in my experience (and in my family) was selfishness. Give to each other & to the Lord, and you too can have a happy marriage. God bless you & best wishes!
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I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.
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Depends on how much you really like her.  If you do then I would maybe try holding off for awhile ( it's just sex - you can take care of it most of the time on your own if you had to )  If you aren't willing to give up sex for awhile then move on and find yourself another 40 year old that looks 25 .. or even better find yourself a real 25 year old .. they're in their Prime !