I PERSONALLY BELIVE THAT TWO PEOPLE should meet each other and hang out alot b4 they say online they are in love and wanna get married ...because online there is no physical attraction what happens when your feramones say no but your head say yes... because also online...many people are only living their alter ego to entertain themselves whilst sitting there .... feeling unimportant.. and lonely... i guess...
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totally agrees with you.  The world is full of ppl we can connect with without acutally "knowing" them.  Like if they eat with thier mouth closed, do they put the toilet seat down, turn off the shower thing on the tub when they get out, etc etc etc.  I think you can develop feelings if you talk to someone for a long time, yes, but I think it is far from love.  In order to love someone you have to see all the negative and positive at least to make a judgment based on fact and not just what they might type to you.
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I think it´s very difficult, because you need to know the other person, and I think is very important the physical contact.\nI have tried this type of relationships because I´m a lonely girl too and this is a way to forget a little about this fact...even thoguh, I need to put my feet on firm floor; is not healthy enough to fullfill the emptyness. Think about it before doing it. The net is dangerous and can play with your feeling so hard....Be careful. I wish you luck no matter what you decide.
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Oh sure it's very possible it's depends on the person u want to share the relationship wit some are eat and run person and some ppl really mean it but those eat and run ppl has tanished the image of others. So ppl will be thinking that they are Birds of a feather. And sometimes it will depends on how best u are in expression. But online relationship is possible, cuz one of my frnds is in a deep relationship wit someone out of our country and they are now living 2gether as Husband and Wife.
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I know this may sound strange. I am divorced and felt the same way as you are. I joined an online chat group. Yes i know it sounds strange. But I can honestly say I met one of my best friend by doing this. Yes there are those strange folks on-line but not all of them. Do it with caution and you can chat with some folks. When of if you decide to meet do it always in a public place....coffeehouse......Ihop or what ever. Never go to their place for the first meeting. Just do it wisely and you can meet some nice folks.
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I was in a similar situation....  met somebody online...  and we had the same feelings for each other.. except, both of us are married.  In both our cases, however, our situation with our spouses was/is somewhat different than yours.  Our spouses weren't abusive or negative, for both of us, it was just something that started as an online friendship that progressed into an online love.. but I must stress, NOT a love affair.  \nHaving said all this, we need to look at your situation.  Though similar, the difference is that he is not married (as far as you know) and you don't seem to be interested in leaving your husband.  So, first I have to ask.. if you feel you do love this online man..  and your husband is abusive.. whether physically or emotionally does not matter... then.. why not consider leaving your husband for this other man?  It's just a thought and something you would need to think long and hard about.  It's also something that you would have to be sure was right for both of you.\nMeeting somebody online is an easy thing to do.  Meeting somebody physically is not.  Have you swapped pics?  If you have, are you both physically interested in each other as well as emotionally interested?  Some people say that looks don't matter when you're in love...  maybe.. but human nature says otherwise.\nIf you really like this guy and you feel that is a connection there with him.. between both of you...  and with both of you... then it's something you really need to consider carefully.  \nAsk yourself some questions:\nDo you still love your husband?\nDoes he treat you well enough to continue being your spouse?\nDoes he treat you well enough for you to say you love him?\nIf you still do love him, do you love him enough to live with him, possibly for the rest of your life, regardless of the way he treats you?\nDo you deserve to be treated the way he treats  you?\nWill this 'new' man treat you any differently?  How do you know?\nDo you know enough about this 'new' man to know whether a relationship outside of the internet would be a safe one?\nAre there kids involved?\nThere are many more questions you should consider apart from these and I'm sure other people will put their 2 cents worth in as well.\nMy own feeling...  if it were me... and my spouse was abusive.. I'd consider what we had... and what we have now.  I'd look at the big picture.. does my spouse still want to be with me?  What am I giving up? What am I gaining?\nHow will my family feel about it?  Can I talk to my family about it?\nWeigh the pro's and con's... get some advice from somebody close to you.  In your heart, you will know what the choice is and what's best.  It's not an easy choice but nobody said life is easy!\nGood luck!
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different parts of the country i can say yes, world i dont know. i met my husband online and we have been married for over 2 years now. i found there was no bullsh*t when we talked online it was just us no friends or family getting in the way so we got to know eachother very well. hope that helps :-)
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I think you should meet him, but not even entertain the thought of marriage yet.  All you really know is what he has chosen to tell you via his internet persona.  Who knows what really lurks underneath.
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I do not.\n\nInteracting with "people" on the web is strangely compelling to most of us. We are usually at work or in a room, basically alone, at home or a cafe. We look at a screen and type.....read a response.....and perceive a relationship developing. It may be a banking relationship or an instructional relationship, a buying /selling/ questioning/ answering relationship. We may have cyber-friends and/or cyber-enemies. Our perception is one of a group (or couple) engagement of ideas and dialog.\n\nWeb-sites are commonly filled with declarative statements, rhetorical questions and "sticky" links and crude Q&A response threads. When you plug yourself into a more "human" question and answer session with a "live" human individual you begin to feel like the screen and keyboard in front of you "comes alive".....almost like a telephone call. With the advent of one and two-way video feeds the web has finally created the "ambiance"  of a real meeting of two or more people. You may still be alone in a room but your mind begins to "lean" towards believeng you are sharing a "moment" with another person.\n\nAs mentioned.....buying a car or doing your banking  or getting/giving advice to a client or a friend is made easier and more convenient by using this technology. However, it will never replace intimacy. And many types of relationships require a truly intimate experience.....not only a sexual relationship.....but a truly healing relationship requires intimacy. Compassion requires intimacy. Reassurance requires intimacy. Real friendship requires intimacy. The web will never be able to replace holding someone's hand in a time of need or a time of reassurance or a time of congratulations.\n\nBut we short-cut that true intimacy and many times settle for something APPROXIMATING intimacy with our love-life. We all have FLIRTED on the internet at some time. It's fun and basically harmless. I love to try to answer questins and imponderables while bettering my typing skills and self-editing abilities. We all do something that is fun while using the web to be our buddy/tutor/ soapbox/journal or scrapbook.\n\nSex..........as we have allowed ourselves to view/experience it.....has become a daily cat-and-mouse game for many pepole. Some of us have forgotten what makes sex so wonderful and ALIVE so we become so jaded and "mechanical" that we surrender the most intimate part of ourselves to be corrupted by a typed word and/or a pretty picture.\n\nThe Defence Department created the internet.......the sex industry and the people who pay into it have FUNDED 90% of its growth and develpopement costs!!!!!\n\nLet's enjoy the fruits of what pornography has built (this cyber-infrastructure).... but let's also resist becoming a slave/zombie to it. The REAL people in your life are an arm's length away. \n\nTOUCH THEM.
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Alot of times people who seek out friends online are shy in real life or use the Internet as an avenue to meet people. You know used to bars, work, and church were the places to meet girls or guys, but with sexual harassment being an issue in the work place and church attendance down, the Internet is fast becoming a place where others can meet people. And like the previous person said, after they meet you online they usually want to meet in real life...because face it, online communications get a bit boring and lonely. In your case, I'd be upfront and tell them that you are only interested in online friendships not meeting in real life. If they can't handle it, then dump them before you start becoming good friends.
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I have been with someone I met online for 4 years now. We didn't meet on a Personals site we met on Napster we just happened to like the same music. Meeting someone online I think is easier bc you get to know the person first before you see them. So you get an impression of their personality before you see what they look like. Like they say first impressions are what matter most.
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Yes sure, it is possible to fall in love with someone online.  And it would be easier to hv one than in real life, while you just exchange words and thoughts with him/her without any physical attraction.  If both of you are true enough, it could be ended up with a beautiful relationship...
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I have. I met my fiance online years ago. We were friends first for a few years, now we're planning our wedding. He lives in Georgia and I'm in Canada. Its a long distance relationship, but we make it work. I'll be moving down there pretty soon. Not all relationships online work as great as our has. To make a long story short, online relationships can and do work out for people and I've known quite a few people who have had online relationships and are now married and have a great life together. Its not for everyone though.
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Maybe after talking the woman just doesnt feel a "connection" and doesnt know how to break it off without hurting feelings or losing someone they enjoy chatting with onlilne.  Hang in there.. I met my 2nd husband online and we have a great relationship with a 2 1/2 yr old now!!! Regardless if you meet her online or standing in line at the grocery store someones out there!!
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That's how I met my husband and a few friends.\n\nThere's no shame in meeting people over the internet if you're careful. It DOES open many, many doors!
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I dont know the number, but I met my husband on yahoo.  5 years ago this september.  I knew I would marry him before I ever met him in person. (in a public place)  I was really scared at first, talked to him for a month before I would go meet him, but we have never been apart since that day.  We never fight, (very small disagreements) he was everything I was looking for and more.  Thing is, when its on line all you get to know is the PERSON.  We were lucky that physical attraction was there too.  I have never been happier.  We have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter, and WILL live happily ever after.  Give it a chance, you never know.  Dont regret not meeting him and trying it, what if he's the man of your dreams and you let him get away!   Take it from someone who was miserable!!!!!!  and I mean miserable!  When I met my husband the entire meaning of life changed for me....I love him so much that I would shrivel up and die without him....\nOh, and all my friends and family thought I was crazy!  Now they love him!  give it a try.
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People with this amount of difference between them just should not be together in my opinion if you truly feel resentful, lonley, and unloved isnt it time to call it a day and find someone more suited to you. sorry if this seems a little harsh. good luk honey
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I loved this question..gives me a chance to tell my story, lol.  YES! it's very possible!  I'm not saying that ppl don't lie online, and turn out to be someone entirely different when a person meets them, but not everyone is that way.  Here's my story....\n\nI met my husband over a year and a half ago online.  LOL, yes, you read right, my husband!  We just got married March 23.  From the moment we started talking, it was just..."right".  We fell in love almost instantaneously.  We are truly soulmates.\n\nAnyway, I'm all for following your heart.  I can't count how many times friends would tell me to "wait and see" when we met.  But not having met yet didn't matter to us.  I flew to where he lived, he picked me up from the airport, and within an hour we were married.  One look into each other's eyes and everything we had felt for a year and a half had been solidly confirmed.\n\nWhatever you do, follow your heart, follow your instincts.  I did and all of my dreams came true.  I found and married my soulmate...ONLINE!