i visited my boyfriend in louisiana but he didn't show uo.previously he told me he was coming to see me,4 or 5 times he never showed.there are always excuses as to why he didnt come.he says that he loves me,and wants to be with me for the rest of his life,but why hasnt he visited me yet,anyway we've been together for 8 months i have never ignored his calls until yesterday and i'm considering ignoring his calls for the rest of the week.what is the BEST advice you can give me in this situation?
216845
talk to him and tell him to be frank with u. why he is doing such and not keeping his promises.tell him u dont want to live like this and just give u a valid explanation..tell him not to make a promise if he cant fulfill coz u expect too much and u get too disappointed
284250
Sitting around, wondering & doing nothing won't get either of you back together. If you think it's worthwhile to try again, make the first move & see what happens. I'm not saying go all out and tell him outright. That's just me & I'd much prefer the guy to take the lead to let me know where he's headed. Just call and say Hi or leave some kind of messsage that let him know. See what he does next. Be prepared for the worst though as he may have moved on. At least you won't spend your life wondering.
62788
His just proably very busy and his thinking about you. Maybe his thinking about what to do with you next. Relax you dont want to scare this guy away. I've been there and done that. Its not cool becuase you hurt yourself for what you did. Just go with it and get to know him first. Don't jump to the marriage part. you guys just met.  I really think that there's things he needs to do and haven't had time to call you.  GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT!!!!  unless you go out one day and caught him with someone else then just look at it like you don't care but don't let him see you be hurt. " Those who wait will be reward!!"
224514
Sounds like a fairly new relationship, take it slow. If he isn't calling, maybe he has good reasons. Tell him your bothered by this, try to come to a resolution between the 2 of you. A good relationship needs amazing communication. No hiding things. If this doesn't work, start shopping for a new relationship. Always another bigger better fish.
97716
How far is the distance?  It doesn't mean that he IS seeing someone, just means he is either busy, trying to let you down easily or maybe he is seeing someone.  If you aren't together, then he may feel it's ok even if you don't.  Are you seeing other people?  I would suggest telling him how you feel and see where things go from there.  Long distance is hard and unless you are both committed, it won't work.  You need a lot of trust for a long distance relationship.
431134
she does not call you because she knows that you are going to call. I was that exact same way with my boyfriend i called him constantly and always wanted to talk and he never called me and didnt seem interested in talking well one day i finally stopped calling and what do you know guess who starts ALWAYS calling me and wanting to talk to me?!? Your rihgt!! He did!!! Give it a try i am almost positive it will work it may take a couple days to a week though! Good luck!
482380
It sounds like he's making every effort he can to see you. Some guys just aren't real open about being affectionate in public...that shouldn't stop you from seeing him. He's calling 2 or3 times a week & flying in to see you...sounds like he's really interested. Give him a chance!
652171
asked him why he hasnt left his gf yet if he truly loves you. He might be just using you or just making you a "in case" person.. If he cant give you a definite answer, you should just tell him that you cannot wait for him anymore and that you are moving on..
483586
I wouldn't call him.  It sounds like he's changed his mind.  Move on.  If he does call, ask for an explanation.
140568
well, when you called him did he answer the phone? if not, well I'd say to not call him again...atleast not yet....wait to see if he calls you. because something may have come up and he hasn't been able to call you back or anything. but if you see that a week or 2 has gone by and he hasn't called, call him and if he still doesn't answer you, then I say "kick him to the curb"... since you two were only getting to know each other and not dating or being boyfriend/girlfriend, then there's nothing binding you two. so I'd say go out and don't worry too much about him not calling you.. but like I said..give him a week or two and then call him.  hope i helped out in some way..\n\ngood luck!
36558
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
65418
Unless there's a legitimate reason for him not calling you back, "he's just not that into you". You make it sound like his behavior is consistent so if you're making the relationship a priority and he isn't, it may be time to move on. Make yourself less available. I would spend more time with friends and ignore his calls. That way you're out there meeting new guys and he'll either come around or you'll find one that returns phone calls.
29234
It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
437713
If you have issues with trust, why are you dating someone in another state? I dated my husband long distance for almost 4 years and never had to follow any kind of rules such as these...if he had said we needed rules about calling or texting, I would have known I didn't need him because he didn't trust me. I think you totally did the right thing...now this guy can find someone that will trust him and not put him under her thumb.
430653
Ask him to stop calling you. You guys need to move on and memories of each other are bringing both of you down. Just say, _______ please don't call me anymore, I'm ready to move on. IT sounds like your the girl when there's no one lese and you never want to be that. Don't sit in an unhealthy long distance relationship when you know things aren't goin to work out. Be the bigger person and stop the calls. If they don't stop, change your number because you need to move on and so does he.
130582
Hopefully he will call but, I would give it about a week and then call him back and see whats up. He may be working or caught up in something at the moment. I think most worry about relationships when they are long distance because of the unknown.
59640
Well it's not official over until one or the other says so. my advice would be to try to save your relationship while you can. It also seems to me that you guys are playing that "since I'm too busy to call you game. I don't have time to call you either". Don't play that game give him a call if you feel he's too busy. Try letting him know how you are feeling right now. Don't let it just pass by like that you need to let him know because he's not a mind reader and neither are you so talk to the guy and find out what's really going on.