There are times when i get a sinals from him and then there are times when i do get signals.  So when i build up my confidence to talk to him because i get a signal, i get shot down when i don't get one later.  Why is it that women know when a women likes a guy and a guy knows when a guy likes a gurl.  I wish i knew something from him then i would talk to him.  He already knows that i like him because my friend told him.  I did mention that i am shy.  Very Shy.  I guess i am affraid of rejection.  Please i need some help.  What should i do.
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he heard you liked him.So he sent you signals to see if it was true.So your now labeled as "this chick that likes me".just act like you lost interest and when he resends the signals to see if you still like him then ask him what hes doing.Like dude whats up you sendin me signals you want to get with me or what?then if he says yes or no its not a rejection just a question about  what HES doing
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Hey......Ok, listen, my advice would be "talk to him," tell him that you really like him, and you were wondering if he would like to hang out once in a while....If he says "sorry I have a girlfriend" or something like that...Don't feel bad, at least you'll know that you tried!\n\nTrust me there isn't anything worse than not doing anything and after going in your head over and over "I wonder what would of happened if I had talked to him"...and things like that! Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there, sometimes you might get hurt but it's the only way you'll know! If he says no or something, just don't feel rejected, it's not gonna be your loss, but his....ok? Life is about taking risks, if nobody took any risks then life would be boring....and trust me it's the only way to learn! That happens to me all the time, I always end up wondering what would of happened, don't make my mistakes, and go for it! Good Luck!
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I am so in your situation. For a while I thought it was because I was scared of rejection or that I felt all traditional, but I really have a lot at stake. I have a son. I like a guy and haven't really decided what is best. I usually get a vote of 50/50 on this topic. I think for me, it might be best to wait. I want to see if the guy is interested, comfortable and confident enough to have the balls to make the first move. Remember, woman sacrifice more in the long run, and should never settle for second best!
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It's funny how women can always tell EVERYTHING about a guy whom they don't really know that well when he's not interested in her, but he's interested in her friend. \n\nIf you are the one who likes the guy, all of a sudden, " I don't know if he'll like me back or I don't know if he wants to go out or I don't know if blah blah blah. " \n\nWhat makes you think you know how the situation between them is going to turn out. \n\nMy advice, stay out of it. If she comes to you, do your best to be supportive, but let the girl live her own life and give dude a chance.
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You are just nervous. It is natural to feel some doubt after all what if you get rejected. What you need to remember is that men find assertive, positive, and direct women to be irresistable. Long story short just Say It already.
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Unfortunately, many decisions are made by one's first impression and often they are based on looks.  If a woman will not talk to a guy because she thinks he's "too good", it's because she lacks confidence in herself.  She is self conscious about her own looks and therefore chooses not to take a chance of being shunned by him.  Rejection is the worst possible hurt...especially for those of us who lack confidence in ourselves and take it to heart.  Believe me, if this same guy approached the woman instead, this lady would be on cloud 9!  But she won't take the initiative to put herself out there because the risk is too great and the consequences could be devastating.\n\nIt's a double standard, isn't it?  Guys are supposed to accept rejection without question and not be hurt by it.  Grown men don't cry and all they want to do by talking to us is to get into our pants.  God forbid they might actually want to have a conversation and get to know us...maybe forge even a friendship.  It just doesn't happen that way.  Besides, we're better than that!  We won't give them the chance.  Women can be quite cruel.
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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This is a very very common problem that I personally have seen and even dealt with. Conveniently from the other side of your problem (I am a male.) So hopefully I will have a fresh view for you. \nGuys generally are put under the impression that it is their job to "Ask a girl out" if you will. If I was the guy that you had a crush on, then I would prefer that you would tell me, or make it painfully obvious, but do not press the subject anymore. If I like you back then odds are I will start showing it in my actions. If you see him starting to act less comfortable around you or anything, then there is a chance that it is because he is shy and uncomfortable around girls (usually only happens in younger guys, high school or below) or if he is an older man and starts to act like this, he is probably trying to avoid any confrontation in fear that it would make situations between the two of you worse. I am not sure if this helps you, but I hope it does.
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Wow... that was a flat out rejection and you need to view it as such. Seriously, women love to read into things, but men are pretty straight forward. He was rejecting you. He does not like you more than a friend. You need to deal with that. If you want to know why, you can ask him and he'll tell you probably since guys are straight forward and honest most of the time. \n\nI once asked a guy why he rejected me... we were friends and I tried to make it more and he said, "we're just friends, nothing more". He told me honestly why he didn't like me more than a friend and I respected that. We are still good friends. It hurt at first, but I appreciated the honesty and it allowed me to move on without sore feelings and feeling like I had to keep trying to make him like me. \n\nMove on... it's the best thing for you.
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I hear ya. They all say they don't but they do. I was talking to a female friend because I've been having trouble in the dating department and she told me the same thing. Don't rush things but make sure you show her you're interested when I asked her how I was supposed to do that she only told me to shut up. \n\nI think if you find someone who that kind of crap doesn't matter when the both of you can just be into each other and not worry about whether you're calling to soon or if you should wait that's when you've got something. \n\nGenerally women want what they think they can't have... that's why if you act slightly disinterested they are more intrigued then if you just come out and say the stuff that's on your mind. \n\nGirls aren't the only ones who do it guys do it to. It sucks but that's just  the way it is.
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Been there done that, I hope you told the moron to take a hike, First you have to think about the other person you have gone with in the past they may be expecting you to go with them again and waiting for your call, however the way you approach men is the same way you approach your girl Friends always smile and say hi never hold a grudge, it takes time you work on it, little bits of conversation become long conversations, compliments are  a mans down fall though, but don't batter him them though men like being noticed as well as women so if he's making a change in his appearance or if he has done something that has attracted your attention let him know but you must always shot from the hip always be honest timing is everything, and you should have many men as Friends when men see that, and then you start to show interest in one particular guy he'll feel honored that you choose him but most importantly  and these two are the most important treat everyone equal the jock is no better than the nerd bill gates was a nerd,johnny dep is off the wall and more often than not the jock ends up working the 40 work weeks struggling to make ends meet and don't go buy looks  or how cool a person is that would make you self centered I've gotten many black eyes defending people who get picked on, and I still cheer loud for the under dog as I will be cheering for you on your homecoming date, be true to yourself , never ever give a person a second chance to hurt you if your a good person to them and a good Friend then they only get one shot. So seek out the man you would like to take and ask him rejection sucks but we all deal with it, and if you do get rejected be sure to say hi and smile next time you see them, trust me it works, may not get you to the home coming but it just may get you a date with them later,that's how you build a circle of Friends, so I wish you the best time at your home coming and that it all works out well for you.  P.S. how would you feel if you were the second or third lady to be asked by  a man remeber that when asking the man make sure that they are not aware of other men you have asked. best wishes,
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well i guess it can depend on how old you 2 are....in the younger years, people would write letters to each other, "do you like me?" Y or N...haha...but when they grow older, you could approach me on the cell or on a messenger, such as Aim or Yahoo.  Or if you are feeling really brave, actually go up to the person and ask them how things are going...that question usually sparks up a conversation...but if you have never really talked to this guy before, i can see where you are coming from.  I tend to have this problem with girls...honestly, practice in the mirror and pretty much what you see in movies and stuff when girls are nervous about this certain guy, they talk to themselves in the mirror to role-play the conversation they may have later on...if that doesn't work, then i suggest you just throw some flirtatious movements his way...if he's interested, he'll reply or just walk over to you...you will have to decide on which is the best way to approach this "man of your dreams" but when you do, you'll thank yourself for being brave that one time...good luck!!
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well miss wildcherry, you should maybe take the initiative if you know he is too shy to approach you. you don't have much to lose or gamble with cause you already know how he feels. there is nothing wrong with females making the first move and you don't want to wait for him to get the confidence to ask first.\n\ngo for it. the success rate will be high.
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try and do things that will get you near her, join a club, hang out with the same people, join a sport. you must find a reason to talk to her. being a lady i know that women cannot read minds. often i will find out a guy has liked me AFTER the fact and after its too late (like when i'm with someone or no longer live near them). many of the times I also have liked these men. ask a mutual friend about what she likes so that you will have something to talk about. just say something to her!!
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He is a guy, guys suck at picking up subtle signs. If you want to show him you like him you will have to do something that will communicate that on a level a guy can relate too. Ask him out to see a movie with you, then choose a romantic date movie, be flirty, not slutty and if he has any feelings for you and fails to demonstrate them after you do that move on sister, he is not ready yet.
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The truth is almost 9 times out of 10 a guy will sooner or later develop feelings for his "close" female friend.  It happens all the time even if the girl never finds out because he hides it because:\n1.he doesn't want to get rejected\nOR\n2.he doesn't want to mess up the friendship\nOR\n3.its weird to him to even like his friend\n\nOther than that chances are one way or another the guy will spill the beans.  if the response is awkward he will probably pretend it was a joke or that he didn't say anything.\n\nHe probably really likes you and for probably one of the above reasons never has said anything but wants to.  If you like him like that too, give him a hint of your feelings and it will reassure him.  He will probably be able to make the move if he feels its a "safe" one.
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If a guy really likes you, he will do everything in his power to let you know that.  If he doesn't have the confidence to make a move on you then I guess he will miss out on a good thing and a real man will step in.  Men will make the move if they are interested no matter how shy they are.