There have been a few questions about saving virginity for the wedding night with the right guy. As I am a woman who did this by choice [no religious pressure] and so did my husband, how did we both know we were sexually compatible?  \n\nFact: We DID know we were. The chemistry was high, high, high, and still is.\nBoth of us really treasure what we saved for that night. \n\nHow many of you believe that you did know prior to sexual activity that you were sexually compatible, as opposed to others who found their Wedding night to be a disaster.\n\nI am very interested in hearing the "other" side of the "virginity" story.
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since i was raped i got no reason to say i am still a virgin.  i have had sex for the longest of time.  but for the past year that has changed and waiting for that special person.  cause for some odd reason i am very single.  hope she understands where i am coming from once we meet.
613162
Now this is a christian retreat right? So you want to make some treats for the couples, let me see if they are going for a retreat I would think it is to learn more about each other and to find their self. I guess the sex treats might be okay but I am not sure all the couples might be okay with this. Have you spoken to all of them about this?
81852
stay strong.   If he really loves you and just doesn't want another notch on his belt, he will honor your desire to keep your virginity until marriage.   What you can do to help is go out with other couples; do really active things together and change the subject.  You did not say how old you were nor how old he is.   But your desire to save your virginity until you are with the man you marry is really mature.   Is he ready for a life time committment for you?  If he is, get married and have sex forty times a day (ha, ha)  If he is not, then his pressing you for sex all the time shows he is more into getting something for himself than into caring what you are about. Kinda selfish, no?
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Your virginity is a wonder gift to give a husband. He knows you truly are committed to him and this is only for him. (guys love that) He will never have to wonder if you are comparing his performance to someone else.\n\nAnother good reason: Most relationships grow in intimacy and communication until the sex starts. Then everything stops or at best grows slowly. If you want to be married to your best friend for life, wait for sex until you marry him.\n\nThere are religious reasons as well, I'm sure others will cover that angle and you probably already know what they are going to say. So all I will say about that is you already know the answer, follow your convictions.
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The issue isn't if your husband is cool with it.  Are you?  I would guess not, or you wouldn't mask your emotions under a cloud of alcohol.  Or is the husband thing your excuse for being drunk?  I don't know, only you can.  Having great drunken sex is a plus in any relationship, but I don't think I would stay with someone just for the O factor, but hey, I don't have it that way! Personally, I stayed in a bad marriage way too long.  I would either find a way to make you happy in the current relationship or find a way to live without your husband.
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I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.
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I had sex for the first time when i was 17..well of course everyone has their first time so do i...first time of course very excited & fun but after that i feel guilty for myself...i asked myself why i want to do this & what i gain from there....\nSex before marriage of course people call it sin,isnt it!.....\nBut overall i tell myself "its a normal thing for human being to make stupid mistake"...i guess.....actually its depends on how you think about it & how you gonna deal with your decision.............but i hope you'll not regrets it ...and to play safe..i think you should use protection so that you can avoid the 9 months matter....mightbe you just want to experience it but not for commitment yet.....;-)
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I'm in the same boat as you and think you should keep away from fornication. Waiting until your wedding night really shows your new wife that you have waited your entire life to be with her. Sex has nothing to do with love; it is lust and really shouldn't be a factor outside of marriage because both participants know fine well after they have sex they have nothing moer they can give to one another. Outside of wedlock shows they are struggling to keep their relationship going. I know I may sound ignorant but thats the way I see things, it's the way I raised myself. Thinking of showing my devotion to my future (hopefully) wife rather than pleasing my own lust.
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I had sex for the first time when I was 17 and had multiple partners throughout the years.  I am now married and I regret not sharing this special intimate moment with him first.  I admire couples who had waited til marriage.  But when you're young, you don't always think of those things.
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I think that people that save sex are to be highly respected.  I myself am waiting until marriage.  Sex, when thrown around too much, becomes stagnant, and it takes more and more to please the person, just like a drug.  Studies have proven that those people that have only had one or two partners in their lives, no matter how active they are together, are much less likely to get bored with each other.  He takes sleeping with someone seriously, and we all should.  We're talking about an act that God made so that two people in love, who are intimate on every other level, ie mind, personality, spiritually, can now consumate and become fully one in each other.  Its so beautiful when done as its supposed to be.  Sex just for sex ends up being shallow.
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I belive that love before marriage is essential to enable a life long loving marriage. Apologies if I wrong, but are you actually asking about sex before marriage?\n\nThis is a totally different question - and the answer must be, as far as I can see, that it is totally up to the two people that are in the relationship.\n\nYou are correct that nowadays many youngsters (and, of course, some 'oldies') have casual sex - this is their own choice and as long as they protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases who are we to judge?\n\nUltimately, we all have our own cultural and personal morals and standards to live up to and as long as we are comfortable with our individual choices and do not cause intentional pain or suffering to others we should do as we see fit. \n\nLove and sex do not have to be entwined, but in my experience the latter without the former is never as satifying to the body or soul.\n\nGood luck in the choices youu make..
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i rather die a virgin then give it up just to be giving it up.. i was 27 when i got married and and lost my virginity.. and i dont regret one bit of it.. and dont worry you will be the right person and you will have your chance to loose it on your wedding night..
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I think I might have an answer to part of your question, if I may. Of course, I can only speak from my own experience, but here goes. Maybe the reason we don't post questions about our relationships with our spouses, friends, family & other such issues is that we get our help from the Lord. We have His big book of answers, that helps guide us along our way. We also have each other, being connected by the same Spirit. We pray, asking God for guidance. We go to our Pastor's, asking for deeper answers from parts of the Scriptures that we're not acquainted quite so well with. You see, some issues need to be given into God's hands. You've seen some of the dating & relationship posts here...would you trust your relationship issue with most of the people that post on those sites? It's not intriguing when you think about it. But, one of the reasons I come to this site is to use my years of various experiences to help people. I don't always use Scripture, because it's not always required, especially when someone wants to know how to get wine stains out of their carpeting. Or how to get their two year old to talk. Things like that are practical, everyday experiences. Being that I've been married for over 28 years, raised two kids to adulthood, and have a mess of other experiences, I can help people...and I do. And yes, I am a "devout" Christian. I treat everyone with respect and answer every question carefully, even the ones that are nasty or just plain goofy. It's part of my nature to treat everyone as I would hope they treat me. For the most part, if you give respect, you get it back. This forum is a wonderful, yet scary thing. Through this site, I'm getting a different view of the world than the evening news ever could give me. There are just so many hurting young people out there, and I want to reach out to them. It's more than just the "mom" in me, it's the Lord Who is in me. Everything that gets to me has to go through Him first. I hope this helped answer your intrigues. <*)))><
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Where did you get the idea that sex is wrong?..There is no written rule there. The bible says "you can be married if you feel you need to be , but you don't have to be".. It actually says "pick one and stay with them" That is Gods own personal advise on that subject!..You don't have to be married, just monogamous. quit kicking your own arse and be in love for pete's sake!
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hi shy...me again...sandy venus"\nim not a preacher but in the eyes of god if you have sex before your married it is a sin..besides why would you want to? if your as pritty as you say, you will just have to watch out becuse most all guys will try to do something with you "if you know what i mean"? and if it happens,and you wanted to be married 1 day you know the first thing your new b/f will ask you,"are you a vergin" so just try to tell your heart that your willing to wait...thats all i can offer i hope it helps?
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Yes, it is still worth it.  Do you want to go through life without one special person to share your ups and downs?  Sure, you could one-night it until your member falls off but is that what you really want--a life of sex without love or commitment?  If you do find that special someone wouldn't you want to take the plunge and commit to marriage?
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I haven't waited, but if I met a guy, and he wanted to wait until we got married, I wouldn't have a problem with that.  Sometimes I wish I had waited, virginity can be seen as a special gift to the right guy.