actually i love somebody but she loves anybody else. i havn't proposed har but i cant live without her. so what i shoul do. whether i should help her to achieve her love so that like me she doesnt get deprived of her love or i should get rid of her. i should ignore her. i am confused .
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well I think you should never force someone to love you. If she loves someone else that's fine although it hurts very much. Let her go her way and you don't have to help her ! i guess she is not a small girl :)\n\nfind some one else man. time heals. you will be happy
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No. move on you may find someone you really love and that really loves you!! Someone may be waiting for you to move on.
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apparently she loves you!  not many people are left in this world that are willing to put aside their own emotions to spare anothers.  let her help you or just let her be there.  anymore love is hard to find, you have found someone who apparently will stick behind you through thick and thin don't let that go, you may regret it down the road.  she is on your side shes not against you, lean on her don't push her away
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LET HER GO..WISH HER WELL...IF YOU LOVE HER THEN YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT HER HAPPINESS..YOU CANT MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU..
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It's possible, but you're making yourself sound like a cheater. If you love someone else while you're already in a relationship then that's bad. It's better to be in love with two people when you're not with one of them already. If you love someone else while in a relatonship then it means that you want the other person who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend. \n\nTry asking yourself what you can get from this person 'on the side' that you're not getting from your significant other. If the reasons outweigh the reson to stay with the person you're currently with, then maybe it's time to end the relationship, hm?
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You could be in love with her, but moving to be with her when she doesn't want a relationship is a double risk:  it's a big risk even when it's what you both want, but just saying, "okay... I'm coming... hope maybe you'll fall in love with me someday..."  Well, in my opinion that's both risky and foolhardy.  You can't force somebody to love you.
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It is not for you to decide what steps to take in this situation. But you can help by asking her what she really wants...(as in- Ask her " Is THis what you want?" )  It is her life anyway! she's the pilot of her life-her destiny. \ni know that you're concerened about her welfare but i think at her age she can decide for herself. i hope everything turns out for the best. you'll never know what love can do to people, If they are really in-love.
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Well I just wonder what you mean by doing something wrong. Don't, for example, hurt her in any way. \nIf she doesn't love you, let her go. You can't force someone to love you.
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I dont believe that you can fall in and out of love with someone, I feel that if you are really inlove with someone, your never going to want to leave them. your not going to love them today, and not tomorrow. so I say dont say anything to her, move on. Its not fair to put her though it over, and over again.
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No its not love. He is not mature enough to be in love with anyone but his-self. But you wont be able to convince her of it. It sounds like she has a very low self esteem and is willing to be treated this way for love. Nothing you can say is going to change her mind just be a good friend and be their for her if she finally wises up and realizes he's using her and he ain't worth the price she pays for his toys.
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you know the answer, turn them both down. one doesnt love you, you don't love the other, find someone who loves you and that you love
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Hard call. The human mind and heart are so complex and not completely understood that anything is possible at this point. Do you have different levels and intensities of love? Yes. Is it possible that while loving one person you discover someone else who has different attributes and things about them that attract you? Yes. Does it mean you love your other love any less? No. So anything possible. What he needs to do is choose. It's human to have feelings all over for different people. (we have that capacity, intelligence and coimplexity of emotions) But our society dictates that you must be faithful to one and only one. So....he has to pick.
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know what? let her be.. look for someone who can accept your love. coz you're going to be miserable if would still be after her and you know that there id no chance for being the two of you together. Accept the fact that she does not want you. Set her free and when she comes back, she's yours! She would probably realize your worth once you're out of her life.. Try to give distance.. and if you see any changes on her, be then you would know what action to take or what move to make.
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I think you should truly figure out if she is what you want because no ones heart is a game.  I know you have been through it with her but you have allot of time and a family invested with her.  I also don't think its fare to play with any ones feelings.  I have also been in many relationships but never felt they way I feel when I'm with one person.  I believe true love only comes around once and I will never feel that way again.
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Dear Friend,  A woman is going to love you, ONLY if she feels it in her heart. You can impress her and make her have good feelings and thoughts about you, but you can't make another person love you. They have to feel that all on their own.
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I know its very hard for you to forget that girl, because i m also passing through the same situation, maybe she likes someone else, just leave your girlfriend because after all its their life and let them do whatever they wanna do with their life, we cant stop or hold someone and love doesnt comes or stay that way so all i can advice you is "enjoy life, never trust any girl and never ever love any girl sincerely more than yourself"\n\njust try it and see it works...
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Go for the one you want.  Sometimes you have to hurt in this life, there's no way around it.  Or, make the true move of love and give them both away at her expense and be an independent girl.  They say we should make everybody happy, but it seems more logical to start with ourselves, doesn't it?  If you can't be happy by making your own friends happy, perhaps you should get new friends.