my mom was unstable when i was little and is only getting worst i needed to know about the laws and what my chanses are and what to do
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why did you leave them with her if she was like that to start with. you can have her checked . you have to get a mental higene warrent for this but there is one thing either way it goes you might have to tell the courts why you left them to start with and in realaty loose the children as well my opion ?
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sorry lady its a lost cause, the mother is not strong enuff to do the job, you need to get the dad to step in and do some discipline, but chances are it is to late.\n get use to the fact that he may be spending a lot of time in jail in the future, and pray to God that he watches over this person.\n\np.s. my personal belief is to keep government out of this, once thay get a hold of something thay do not let go. you do not want the government running your life.\n\ngo to a local church and talk to a youth minister, NOW
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I used to act just like her from age 9-16 I used to disappear with friends all hours of the night and come home with no answers.  But then again I had a cop for a dad..I was always in trouble and I think after the scare my mom and dad did to me i learned alot..My folks pretty much told me to get into the car and took me down to the MORGUE of all places and asked me if I wanted to end up like that...then after that I tried to committ suicide cause i thought they ment they didn't want me around and ended up in a psych ward and then put on house arrest for two and a half years...But the morgue was thier last step and it scared the only livin crap outta me.  I understand not havin the money for help  i lived the same way...But...now I see the way people are raising thier kids letting them get away with everything ..what happened to old fashion discipline..one take the Phone away two ground them don't let them leave the house ...3...Tell her she isn't going anywhere unless you know where she is going and what she will be doing...4 Everyone should have respect for their elders that includes the parents,teachers, etc...and if this don't work...talk to the police department in your town..see how she likes to be locked up...thats one thing my mom and dad did that i didn't like but..got used to it...in this situation your parents need to show her who is boss...even if it means  taking out a belt and whipping her butt with it...I hope this helps you out...
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You need to get joint counseling with your mom. DO IT SOON!
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OOps sorry let me edit this..\n\nMost important question is - are they LEGALLY your gaurdian?  It sounds like this might be your sister.. or maybe a young aunt.\n\nWhat state are you in?  How old are you?  It depends on how your caregiver will react.  I did the same thing when I was 17 and my parents freaked and were able to take me back.  I spent a few days in Juvi.. but other than that nothing terrible will happen.  If you are 17, I suggest talking to your parents about this and seeing if they would let you.  Does your friends family want you to move there?  Have them talk to your caregiver.  If you are any younger, either wait or have the family talk to your caregiver..  I totally understand where you are coming from, sometimes your home can just be toxic, especially if your parents are going through a divorce, or some issues of their own.. I've been moved out for 2 years now, and even when I come to visit, it just sucks my soul dry.. Some people and places are just so bad for you.  Talk to them .. really.  OR just go ahead and do it, but know this - they will be able to find you - and they will force you to come back - BUT after that happens, they will be open for dialog with you - you will be able to tell them how damaging their home is to you - and they will be able to take you seriously.. This is what happened to me- They never listened until after I ran away.. Then they let me finish my high school degree online and let me move out when I needed to.\n\nTo help you any further, I would need to know your age and your state.\n\nAnd like the other person mentioned, if you are working and making some of your own money, you might be able to get emancipated. \n\nChoices Other Than Emancipation\n\nEmancipation is only one of several alternatives available to you if you feel you cannot live with your caregiver.  You may want to consider other options such as:\n\nfamily counseling or mediation service between you and your parents; \nliving with another responsible adult (aunt, uncle, grandparent, or family friend); \nseeking assistance from public and private agencies; \nan informal agreement with your caregiver allowing you to live outside your home. \n\n\nMy final advice to you is this - family counseling - if nothing else works - this will.  The other person there can help you communicate effectively with your caregiver - and don't assume they will only be on your caregivers side either.  Present your case to them, and unless you have no reason for wanting to move out, they will support you and help you work out a solution with your family..\n\nGood luck, ok?  Feel free to personally email me if you need any personal or legal advice..  Bj_Osterhout@yahoo.com
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Your best bet is to talk it over with your parents and your sister to see if you can come to an agreement.  Legally, you can get a lawyer and pursue the status of an emancipated minor, but that takes money and time.  Odds are at 17 you haven't got the money, and by the time it was over you'd be 18 and free anyway.  \n\nNow, if there is actual abuse going on, get in touch with a local child abuse advocacy group or file a complaint with local law enforcement.
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I feel sorry for you. I hope you have a good job and provide for yourself with your own money, because that is what the court will look at. Would you have a place to stay for the next couple of years? If I were you, and this is very important for you to consider. You could call Children Services and talk to someone there. They will want to know all the info that you have shared here and all the info that you have not shared here. You have to tell the truth. Most likely the police will get involved and your parents may go to jail, depending on what they find when they come to your house. Children Services will take you and any siblings out of the house and put you in foster care. You may like the home you go to and you might not. If it is as bad as you say, don't hesitate to call them. If you need more advice you need to go to your school counsellor and they will get things rolling for you. I wish you the best of luck.
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You should not rely on your mother and your mother should not rely on you, it seems like both of you need help.  You have made the first step you have asked for help, but now you need to ask the right person, go see your doctor, he/she will be able to put you in touch with the right person, good luck
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just tell your mom that you need to talk to her. tell her in a mature way that you're going through certain changes and i'm sure she will listen to you and everything will be fine
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Talk to them. Let them know you are distressed and need some guidance. Try and be calm about it and state clearly what you would like to see happen. \n\nMaybe before you talk to them, sit down and write out all your thoughts on a big list. Write down everything you think even if it's negative or wrong. Just get it out of your head and in black and white. Write your feelings about your parents as people, about how you are treated, about what rules you like and don't like and any other thoughts and feelings regarding your parents. \n\nNow take at least an hour and go do something else. Come back and look at your list and put check marks by the thoughts that are really important to you. On another piece of paper, write the important issues and give and example of that. Take that with you when you talk to your parents. They'll help if you ask them for it. \n\nMost parents are doing the best they know how. Try and remember that when you talk to them.
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If you are in a situation where you are dealing with protective services you may need to make changes in your behavior as a parent.  I recommend reading any literature on early childhood development and seek counseling from a professional psychologist.  That being said you need to be careful as they may take your child away.  You should seek legal council if you are facing charges, as soon as possible.
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You are right you do not need this but you do need a place to be until may 25, so You can either antagonize you grandmother, or just smile and tell her she is exactly right no matter what she says. remember she raised your mom or dad, so you already know her qualifications as a parent. I would avoid her as much as physically possible, hang out at the library, do as much studying as possible out of home the less you are ther the smaller target you will be, what is the worst that she can do throw you out, I am sure the state will find a foster home for a few months for you, Please try and hang in there as you say you have gone threw so much already this little bit more will be over soon. You are living proof that what doesn't kill you,  does make you stronger. and You have my admiration for one best of luck
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Your mom is looking out for you. You should not be allowed to do what ever you want. Do you see the news at all these days.  There are a Lot of things going on, even with people  you trust and you think they would never do some of the terrible things that they do. No one else will care for you and love you as much as your parents. You may not see it now, but when you get older you will appreciate that you had parents who looked out for your best interest. You are at the age were most children don't like much of what the parents say or do. With that said I do not think it is right for you mother to call you stupid. Try to talk to your mom about the name calling. Tell her how it makes you feel.
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I would contact your local domestic abuse organization/women's shelter to help you make a plan to leave. The safety of yourself and your kids is absolutely important. They can help you gather materials you will need before you leave (like records, identification, etc.)\n\nThey will also have advice on getting legal help as well. They can connect you to where you can protect yourself and your kids. They can help you prepare a restraining order and help you with the legal hoops. \n\nMental abuse is a bad influence on your children, it teaches them that it is okay to treat people like that and they can repeat that pattern when they become adults.
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I bet you have seen alot of neglect and abuse.Unfortunately the weak,confused,helpless are usually the one's who get this treatment.You have the unique opportunity to make anonymous complaints to the department of social services.Keep you eyes open and be an advocate for this vulnerable population.You never have to give your name and they have to make an inspection when a complaint is received.Go to your state social services web site.Also keep you a log with with dates,names,times this is very effective.Good Luck you will be doing a great service
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Hi it must be awful for you but sometimes grown ups act in really silly ways. Try as hard as you can to keep out of it, do you have a aunt or cousin you can talk to? Once everything has calmed down quietly explain to your mom how much this is all upsetting you. If you are really suffering or feel that you are in physical danger ask a teacher at school to help you.  and don't worry...it will probably make you a stronger person.
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You are the child. Ok you say that you have anger problems and it is very good you are aware of that. It sounds like though that you try to take steps to control it. You didn't yell at your mom until she had been cussing you out for a while. You went to your room, you didn't go off on your sister. throwing a pancake at her is not that big a deal. Throwing a plate or a knife or something would be different. \n\nIt sounds like you were being much more of an adult than your mother was. Good for you! At 16 it is not that easy to figure out how you are supposed to act especially when the person who is supposed to be teaching you treats you like that. \n\nAs your mother she has a responsbility to care for you NOT HIT OR YELL AT YOU. Please please please don't listen to these other people who are telling you that it was ok for her to hit you or scream at you like that. \n\nThe number for the missiouri hotline is 1-800-392-3738 they are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I would encourage you to make a report. I'm not totally sure of MO laws but if you do here that doesn't necessiarly mean you would be removed from the home or anything but it might mean they could get help for your family. Because you don't deserve to be treated like that. And if your mom feels overwhelmed or stressed out she would have the chance to feel better too. If you just want to know some resources or ask some questions you can call them to. And if you want to make a report you don't have to leave your name if you don't want to. MO does take Anonymous calls.