A girl I like works in this place with another girl I used to talk to, which suddenly turned mean a while ago. I'm affraid she may talk crap about me to persuade the one i like not to give me a chance before I make my move. I never did anything to her, she just turned hot by working out and became mean and egocentric. What should i do?
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Try and get to know the girl you like and give her a chance to get to know you for herself. Not every one listens only to what other people say, if she has a mind of her own ( which is what you want) she will judge you for her self. Also sometimes if we hear bad things about someone and we then get to know them and they are the complete opposite of what we expected ( because of what we heard about them) then it can make us like the person more because we are so pleased they haven't turned out to be awful. \nThe nasty girl will probably come across to the girl you like as a bit of a gossip- we pick up on these things- just a little niggle that tells us something isn't right.\ngood luck- and if the bitchy girl does gossip to her then you should ask her why she is doing it. ( don't let her realise you like this other girl- hey perhaps bitchy girl fancies you and worked  out to get hot for you and is now mad cos you don't notice her!) hmmmmm???
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Wow. A question that actuially fits my situation. Ok, im going to tell you what happened then im going to tell you what you should do. I really liked this girl. I've known her for four years and liked her for two of them. She liked me, then she didn't, she liked me then  she didn't, etc. She basicially led me on some times. I tried to ask her out and she said somthing like "I like you too, just not like you like me, bla bla bla no". It sucked. I was crushed. I tried to forget about her twice and it just ended up me looking like an ass and getting farther away from my goal. I would do anything for this girl, if she was sad id do whatever i could to cheer her up. if she was mad id listen and talk to her about it. if she was feeling down i told her exactly how i felt about her. Then she went out with this guy. Of course I was pissed off. I got in so many verbal fights with him because, by that time, the whole school knew I liked her by the way word gets around. I really don't know why nothing happened, everything was there, she thought I was hot I thought she was beautiful, We got along really well, liked the same music, everything fit. I'd give anything for a second chance at that first time I asked her out. Nothing will happen. I now know that. as much as i dont want to accept that, its true. and i need to.\n\nBut anyways, my story doesn't help you, but it gives you a realization of what can happen.\n\nYou have two options.\n1. Tell him you don't like him like that and expect him to be sad.\n2. If theres any attraction on your part, you can go out with him, if it works out great if it doesn't, oh well. because i bet hed do anything for that one chance.\n\nthe choice is up to you though. of course im going to lean towards the second option but the right choice is probably the first one. good luck.
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She is messing with you head.  She knows and has known that you like her, she loves the attention and doesn't really give a darn about your feelings.  Sorry to say the harsh truth.
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Hey Tox, well when you see this guy again when you're out (I'm sure you will because he's got a new job in a bar plus the town we live in is pretty small) just chat away to him and be abit flirty with him and I know you can get very flirty when you've had a few! Hehe! You can chat to him about the main thing you have in common with him right now- work place! \n\nI know you're not a nasty girl who goes around messing with guys feelings, in fact you're completely the opposite! I don't blame you for running a mile when his exgirlfriend came on the scene (I would've done the same thing) cos she was a bit psycho! So now she's gone and you two are already chatting to each other as mates, when you're at work, which will just make it easier for you to approach him when you see him out. \n\nDon't get all worked up thinking:\n"Oh my God does he like me or am I going to be making a fool out of myself" \nbecause you are very attractive and I'm sure he can see that because frankly if he can't then he needs his eyes testing! Go for it mate! However don't ditch me when you've got a new boyfriend! Hehe!
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no she is not your friend and she might try to talk to you after and she might try to be nice and everything but you need to keep in mind the next time that you both like the same guy be careful if she starts saying things.
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wow I'm just surprise , that you think your self so little. why are you in a competing with your friend, why do you feel like you have be , better than her . you not going to like this but i dint think the girl is the problem , i think the problem is you , not feeling confident in your self to know that you have a great personality, an even if the girl is around you still stand out no matter what trick she tries. so  you need to work on yourself , an dint worrier about what the other girl is doing, because she doing what she likes , now what are you going to do. be yourself an know who you are, an if you friends take her an disc you it just mean there not your true Friend
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I would say that was no friend to start out with. This person wants to be popular and will do whatever it takes. I would confront her and tell her your true feelings then go from there.
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Sounds like they are both playing you.  She is NOT a friend if she could do this to you.  Even if she doesn't have a lot going for her, it's just an unwritten rule that you don't go after people that you know your friend likes!
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I know you don't want to hear it but you can't make someone feel the same way you do about them. But you can always try the old trick of getting another girl to make her jealous just be sure to tell the other girl what your doing not leading her on
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Honey, this girl will get you into trouble, it sounds like this girl wants you for her own!! my advice steer clear!  I have had a similar situation with a Friend of mine, she had a girl that hung around her like a bad smell, and she hated me, she treated my Friend like a minion and called her one!  I must admit she was a bitch 2!!  I think you might just need to sit this girl down and talk to her, perhaps she doesn't realize that her behavior is just a little OTT. The jealousy thing tho, this is harder to resume, but you have to ask yourself, why does she do that?? could she be insecure?  my feeling on this one from reading your little statement is that she is making you unhappy and that is wrong, why should she ruin your life, you are spending time thinking about her and your other Friend, there are times when being a little selfish, taking a step back and saying- 'whoa' this is not about 'me'...is good, do something for you, personally if she is as nagging and annoying as she sounds, you need to click your fingers to the left, click your fingers to the right and click your fingers to the left, (practice this now) its cool!!! and say to this girl- I don't need this drama' and walk away, because when push comes to shove all that matters is you! xxx
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Girls are weird when it comes to friendships.  Usually when they say **** about each other is because the first one that started saying **** about the other, was in some way jealous of the other.  Then when the other one started saying **** about the first one, it was because she was hurt by being talked badly about.  I don't know if that is what is going on in that situation or not, but most likely.  I don't know that there is really anything that you can do, other than not get in the middle or take sides.  If one of them say **** about the other to you, just tell her that they are both your friends and you do not want to get in the middle or be put in a situation to where you feel like they are wanting you to choose between the two of them.  I hope that everything works out well for you.  Best of luck!
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dude. she's there.  it was a stupid move on your part but the longer you keep it up the more damaging it's going to be in the long run.  Suppose she decides to try and hook you up with one of her gay friends?\n\nCome clean, admit you didn't want her to feel threatened but you realized you weren't being very honest.\n\nYou don't have to tell her EVERYTHING.  (Leave the "I thought you were hot so I acted gay so you'd move in and I could bang you" part out. :-)  Just confess you were acting and decided enough was enough.  You thought she was cool.  Wanted to get to know her and figured if you tried to make yourself appear as harmless as possible that she wouldn't feel weird moving in with a guy.\n\nBecause you felt kind of weird with her moving in but you're trying to be an evolved man. :-)
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She could just be jealous. \n Anytime you run into her, ask about her friend.  Leave no doubt in her mind that you want the other girl. \n But be nice, people are influenced a lot by their friends. You do not want to piss her off and have her bad mouthing you to her friend that you ARE interested in.\n Impress them both with your manners and style,but only put the moves on the girl you like.
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Think twice before you start something with someone you work with. If she is not interested in you, you will feel uncomfortable around her in the future. How will that affect you at work?
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yes, because if you let it fester it will only make things worse.  Just be careful how you approach her, try not to be confrontational.  if that doesn't work, go to your real manager.\n\ngood luck.
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Yes, I would say that you are. I believe the only reason she talked to you was to transition and to fill a void that her BF left and then when her former BF changed it was a reason to give him another chance. I understand you think she likes you, she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Leave them alone and if she gets hurt again you will know when to make your move.
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...it sounds like another grrrl has made a very big impression with you?....hmmmmmm,...me thinks you may want to have a long conversation with "her",...just to explore each others true feelings for one another...if the two of you truely care for each other?, then you can decide if you want to take "it" to the next level...\n\n...whatever you decide, be honest with yourself, and her...best of luck,...*kiss*