i have noticed that just before you tell your friend a gossip story you feel more cool, are more powerfull, i cant quite get the feeling right.\n please help..
208791
There is a pleasure associated with knowing something that others don't. Sort of makes one feel superior. It is a terribly hard habit to break,  but once you do, you will feel better. (I keep trying).
285781
It sounds as if she is jealous of you and putting you down in front of others (esp. men) makes her feel better about her self. Talk to her about how this makes you feel, if this doesn't work trying giving her a taste of her own medicine..maybe then she will see for herself how it feels. It it still becomes a problem, find a new friend. Good luck.
550232
I have a friend like that, what a bore! hahaha\nUsually people that are like that are incredibly insecure about themselves so they employ different methods to make themselves feel better.\nFor example: acting better than you all the time can make you start to feel like crap about yourself. It's a cumulative effect, so just ignore it and know you're the better person.\nAnd they control who you talk to because they don't want you to realize how sad and lame they are, so they control the possiblility of you making new friends and leave them.\nSo, keep your head up, ignore her, and make all the friends you want to.
661783
This really hits me close to home because I have gotten on peoples nerves by pretending to be something I am not to be well liked well received as well as to get attention.\n\nI have "put up a front" because I have been hurt or I wanted to impress someone or be accepted and popular.\n\nTake your friend aside speaking the truth in love and ask him/her why they are acting differently? Encourage them to be themselves, there is nothing more refreshing or more genuine than a person who chooses to be themselves and be comfortable with who they are as a person.\n\nPeople have taken the time to speak with me privately and because of that I am learning just to be the person God made me any more or less would be a step out of His plan.\n\nI don't know who old you and your friend are but as a teenager young people want to be secure and feel special and accepted by their peers and sometimes people will try to the ends of the earth to impress people, but the bottom line and I am learning this in my mid 30s id not everyone in life is going to like you and you are not going to be well received by God.\n\nEncourage your friends to work with what they have and use the resources that God gives them. There is an old saying bloom where you are planted. Be encouraged
370889
the only suggestion I can think of is to ride it out.....wait until something happens. Either your friend AM is making the whole thing up cause she's jealous or something, or TM's shy....anything could be true. Anyways, just wait for something to happen, and then go from there, instead of getting worked up about it.
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When you have been friends with someone for a long time you learn to adjust to their changes in life as well as they do yours!\nEveryone changes, that's just the way it is! Just because her personality is changing and she has found other people that she can be friends with does not mean that you are not her friend! It sounds to me like you  loved being in the spotlight, and now that your not anymore, you are jealous!\nIf you are a good friend of hers you would be happy for her, not jealous!!!!
663119
It's an awesome feeling to be aware of what is happening to you isn't it.. Try applying this to your everyday life..\nGod is Great.
410016
ive been caught in this before. i got a whole childhood story on it and the more the girl went on, the worse i felt. but apparently this friend of yours must have been pretty traumatized (i cant spell lol) by what happened to her and still kinda haunts her. i can understand both of u, as u not knowing her past like that, and since u were friends u felt like u thought u could joke about anything. i guess some things are really still hurting deep inside. but she didnt NEED to blow up on u, cuz u didnt know. i get the feeling shes guna come to her senses eventually. try and see it from her side, being a constantly teased child and then getting it all over again, kinda like re-opening the wound.\n\nbest of luck with your bud.
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Yea it can be stressful when different groups of friends start to mingle and you feel like you are the common thread in the middle...\nMy suggestion is that you go and have a good time and dont for one second feel like you are baby sitting anyone... be nice to all your different friends but dont feel like you are responsible for anyones good time(except for you own)\nIt is actually better if the friend brings a companion it takes the pressure off of you, so you dont feel obligated to stay by her side or anything.\nSo dont worry go and have a good time... if anyone feels wierd it is not yoru problem!
417997
hey mate you answered you own question ,you feel relaxed and outgoing when you know some one,thats a good thing and if people see that then they will have to earn your friendship by getting to know you,as for boring you think to much ,be happy with yourself
380826
I also find it perfect. If you really think it sounds random, just add a line about something you experienced with you friend in the past, that makes your friendship unique. But don't add too much, keep it simple or you might spoil it.
155635
Not a saying, but I have heard that spreading gossip is like taking a bag of dust and ripping it open and throwing it all over your house.  Stopping that gossip is like cleaning up the dust by hand.
314767
When someone feels the need to put someone else down they are insecure, no matter how beautiful you say she is.  She has insecurites that by putting you down she is making herself feel better.  Why consider her the one you can confide in if you are going to be called names.  See it is contagious, now you ar all self-concious....when really that would be why she did it in the first place.
607249
i have almost exactly the same problem. what i'm trying to do is to be more talkative and loud around my friends so that i get comfortable with it, then i hope i'll be more talkative in general, even with people who arent my really good friends.
60337
I think you should fess up.  Someone else should not take the heat for something you did.  It's admirable that your friend took the heat for you, but you will feel better about yourself for telling the truth and your teacher will respect you for having the courage to tell the truth.
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I guess I know what happen. And it is rather simple to solve\n\nPeople are afraid of romurs and conscious about gossip that is spreading around them. What I can see, is that he likes you still... in some way. It just that this destructive gossip spread from your 'friends', made him feel extremely uncomfortable to be with you. And he just being protective, either to you or to himself.\n\nEither you silent that gossip or those people stop talking about it, he may resume that friendship with you as long as this issue is not in the spot light. Sometime, people you know would spoil everything that is good, and you need to develop something to counter the presures or urges from them.\n\nYou may openly discuss it with him and work out a some statics together, that may help.\n\nGood Luck
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watch the signs.. "suddenly" your friend become too close or avoiding you, something really noticeable and not normal... you can see/feel the signs... just be good, do not be paranoid.. just be yourself... make many good friends... there are many good people around you, more than bad ones..