last nite i went to a probate show and afterwards me and my friend were sitting outside after the  party outside and we wre talking or what not and all of a sudden here he go i wanna poke u thats french for i wanna have sex with u i was turned on omg i could have had sex with him in the car but i didnt let him know it i mean we are friends we just got back in touch and i dont wanna rush into sex like that and i mean itz great cause we are both on the same level we are not looking for a relationship but i feel like if i have sex with him i will be easy but then i dont think i will because ive only been with 3 people so that doesnt make me a hoe but its something inside of me makes me feel bad but i realllllllllllllllllllllly wanna do it yall? help me?
205273
You've been friends 4 awhile,on the same level,obviously you both want it,sex is good for stress...you're are stressing way too much.\nlets face it...you don't wanna hear the answer"no don't do it"...you won't listen if I say it...\nWhy waste your time in here when you can be over there...\ngo relieve some stress now...but do come back...we'll be waiting for details...
36944
You seem to me to be a confused young lady. You want the guy b/c you feel threatened by other girls that they may makke the first move and take him from you. Young men say alot of things in front of peers to act macho that they wouldn't try alone.He may say to his buddies, "I would really like to see her naked", but in reality he would be scared or embarrassed. Given your age, I would advise you to hold off on offering anyone sex just yet. Especially since it seems like it is a game to you to try to win the boy over from another girl. You don't "HAVE TO" have sex because "EVERYONE" is doing it. Most young adults who say they are really aren't. Please save yourself for someone who truly, deeply cares and respects you b/c once you lose it, it is gone.
353186
Ouch!!  Sounds to me like he's just a selfish guy who doesn't care who he hurts on his way to getting what he wants.  You should feel good though that at least your friend didnt go out with him, valueing your friendship first.  You don't need friends like him anyways.  Good luck!
509152
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
677060
My fella and l aren't officially "a couple" any more, but only for the past few weeks, we're still having sex though.\nlt doesn't feel like a bad thing cos we only split cos of my weird family, we still see one another(well have sex) but it doesn't feel bad cos we both want it and we know we would still be together any way if not for my family.
157453
thats fine i guess...I met someone over the internet as well and we slept together after seeing eachother twice! I was a bit messede up after that, but things are going ok...we are not together though, but things are slowly moving to the next level...Dnt feel bad about being attractive to someone...as long as you used protection tten i dnt see what the big deal is...I asked a similar question not too long ago. And see...you guys are still together... And dnt take what Khalidnm2003 said to heart...When guys do it it's great...But as soon as a woman enjoys her sexual self we are referred to as $luts! You dnt need people bring you down...Plus you are a grown woman so why the heck not...Power to you sister!!!
90126
girl this has just happened to me and you shouldn't feel guilty. i felt guilty but i really should have. Why don't you try talking to them or telling your friend thats here if he really likes you he will wait until you're sure. and the long distance relationship i was in i cheated on him and i felt so guilty i told him about it and we broke up. Maybe you should ask him to take a brake and set up a date you will become bf/gf on that specific date. That will show you if you know what you have or not. Maybe this will help and maybe it won't but this is what i would do if i relieved this.
426419
Yes, you did the best thing.  You were honest with him about what you wanted in your relationship with him, and I won't give you the unprotected sex speech, and he didn't want to commit to you because he was already seeing someone else (and still having unprotected sex with you), which is why all of your apology attempts didn't matter.  I'm unsure why you were apologizing since you didn't do anything wrong but ask for a monogomous relationship.  You're better off without him and the fact that you wished him well just shows that you're taking the high road.  I highly doubt that this current relationship will last very long, but if nothing else, please protect yourself in the future!
665958
I think its really his call on what to do, you're the one in the wrong.  I would be very suspicious about a guy that wants to have a threesome with another guy, in particular a good friend.  Maybe he was using you to get at your guy.
165801
Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
77834
it's your life, and you should feel fine doing whatever you feel like doing. it's noones buisiness what you do in your sex life. good luck!
624023
Girl, walk away from him and don't look back. You will be all right, no matter how bad it hurts right now. All there is between you is great sex, and I know from experience how we women can let that affect our emotions. You deserve better, and it will feel great when you get it. Just stay away from him, no matter what!!!!!!
370832
I would feel flattered but not necessarily comfortable about it.  If you want to be flirty about it tell him he can try it and see how far he gets, although if he is the wrong kind of guy it could be trouble.  I guess you should let him know you are open to it but are a little uncomfortable about it.
552100
Well, this seems to be a tricky situation. I have been in a similar, yet not so intimate situation, with another friend. Now let me tell you what I did to solve the situation. This answer may give you an idea as to what your next step should be. \nI didn't feel the same way because I thought it was forced. I love my friend in lots of ways but when it feels forced then it is hard to get past the idea that we are not friends. At that time I felt uncomfortable. He likes me still. But I told him that we could just be friends. Now we are still friends and we're glad for it. Sometimes the timing may not be right or she feels it is forced. At this moment cherish the fact that you guys are friends. When the time feels right she will automatically open up to you. At that time, it will not feel forced and you will not have lost a good friend. Remember people feel uncomfortable and forced in many different ways.\nSee, differences between individuals are evident in any relationship, but it is how one handles those differences within the relationship that matters. Are you willing to lose a good friend over your desire for it to be more than that? Decision is up to you.
394833
Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
334006
Why is that bad? It's natural that you would feel that way. If you want to hook up, go for it. Just make sure the guy understands you will be moving soon. Be honest about your feelings. Go and lean on someone, girl! We all need that from time to time.
273761
If he's not your boyfriend and you wouldn't feel comfortable going any further than you already have - TELL HIM, before you agree to go out again.  If you're honest with him from the outset, then at least he'll know where he stands with you and can make his own decision whether to pursue you as a sexual partner, to just remain friends or whether to fall away from your life.  You, too, will be able to feel confident that he understands what you (don't) want from your relationship with him.  \n\nHe might not like you (if he feels you led him to think he might get something back or considers you to be selfish) but he'll respect you for being honest.  From this base you could both agree a new direction for your relationship.\n\nKeeping quiet and getting anxious about what he might want of you, should you ever meet again, IS selfish and self-destructive. Selfish because you are not allowing him to know what you are thinking and to give his contribution in how your relationship proceeds.  Self-destructive because you are getting worried (stressed?) by excluding the one person with who you could resolve that anxiety.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is: no matter what kind of relationship you want to have with this guy, it'll be no kind of relationship if you don't communicate.\n\nBest wishes going forward