I have met this wonderful lady through eHarmony.  We have only communicated these past 2-1/2 months, but is seems like we have known each other much longer.  We are both Christians and we are observing a Christian relationship, but the temptations are still there.  I was married for 20 years to whom I thought was my soulmate.  My life was turned upside down more than a year ago and I decided to move on with my life.  We talk every night and my love for her grows each day.  We are in somewhat a long distance relationship, but the drive does not bother me.  I have never felt this way for a woman so soon and believe I want her in my life forever.  Can there be true love at first site?  Am I in a dream world with this person I have fallen in love with?  There are children involved on both sides.  I am interested in others opinions as to whether someone else has had the same experience.  Thank you, in advance for you answers.
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I am married to a man that I met online.  I thought that I loved him while we were only communicating online.  But once we actually met in person and starting dating things were very different...in a good way.  And I then when I ACTUALLY fell in love with him, I realized that what I felt for him before wasn't love at all...but more of an infatuation.  \n\nI think it's very easy to get feelings for another person via the internet.  But I do honestly believe it is VERY different in person.\nI don't think you can love someone until you know them completely, and you just can't do "at first sight" or over the internet.
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Being married to my dear husband gives me such a sense of fulfillment and belonging. We have been married almost 20 years and are more in love than ever. It means we can rely on each other no matter what. We have been through some seriously difficult times but have always been there for each other. I don't know what I would do without him. I tell him he is my knight in shining armor. We have our disagreements, but they are much fewer in number now. We complete each other. Our marriage is a blessing from God!
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I met my spouse on line - dating service.\nWe met about 2 months later, I felt this was the person for me from the first glance as we met at a local restaurant.\nWe were married 6 months later.\nWe've been together (married) now for 4 years.\nWe have our good and bad times, but we are still very much in love and are continuing to plan our futures together.\n\nHope this helps.
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I dont know the number, but I met my husband on yahoo.  5 years ago this september.  I knew I would marry him before I ever met him in person. (in a public place)  I was really scared at first, talked to him for a month before I would go meet him, but we have never been apart since that day.  We never fight, (very small disagreements) he was everything I was looking for and more.  Thing is, when its on line all you get to know is the PERSON.  We were lucky that physical attraction was there too.  I have never been happier.  We have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter, and WILL live happily ever after.  Give it a chance, you never know.  Dont regret not meeting him and trying it, what if he's the man of your dreams and you let him get away!   Take it from someone who was miserable!!!!!!  and I mean miserable!  When I met my husband the entire meaning of life changed for me....I love him so much that I would shrivel up and die without him....\nOh, and all my friends and family thought I was crazy!  Now they love him!  give it a try.
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There's gonna be an element of obsession in real love. You know it's the real thing when you find yourself putting the other first consistently. You pretty much lose interest in activities that don't include them. You'll be telling your buds "That sounds great. Let me give (  ) a call and I'll get back to you!"\n   Obsession is different. You won't have the same changes. You'll still be wondering all the time, where are they, who are they with, what are they doing? But you won't find your lifestyle changing (unconsciously) to become the one in that picture.\n    Trust is another matter altogether. There must be respect, integrity and empathy first. Knowledge grows from communication. With both having the history you describe this is going to take a lot of work and time. Relationships are a lot like gardens. They require constant attention and effort, need nourishment, light and water(communication).\n\nIn the end you will simply need faith. In yourself, in your other and in the Maker of all. You will find the two of you cleaving together in adversity and in joy. Neither of you will have any higher priority than the other's well being. Yes, even to the point of laying down your lives to protect each other. By the way, prayers are answered every day.\n\nThe greatest gift we can bestow is our time.
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your situation mirrors mine!  when i met my now husband i was 23 and a party girl from hell.  we dated for a while then i moved in with him.  during the whole dating episode, it occurred to me that my partying lifestyle is not one to support a strong marriage.  so after a few small fights, we broke up and i took that time to cleanup, ween myself off the party atmosphere and make the decision of a life of bliss or all the alcohol and sex i wanted and end up being miserable and addicted.  seems like an easy decision, bu it wasn't.  luckily, with the assistance of prayer, i chose to be with the man i love and have fun but doing the things we both truly love to do.  i don't regret a moment.  we love each other to death.  two nights ago we just celebrated out 1st anniversary and he left me a note on the fridge saying that he fell in love with me all over again the other night!  i can only pray that you and the girl you are going to marry are as happy as we are.  \ngood luck!
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I first met my wife on the internet. And she is from another country too!\nI didn't really know if I loved her till I met her in real life (after about 3 months of chatting on the net and some phonecalls). I still didn't think we had a future together, but she really wanted to go on, and I was willing to. And.. here we are now :)\n\nMy advice is to try to get to know him more, find out his concepts and values, and pray about it. If you feel peaceful, try meeting him. Be careful, but not paranoid.\n\nGood luck :)
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Be pure luck and the grace of God, I think I have found my TRUE love after 2 marriges and a string of broken relationships.\nWe are both happier than either of us have ever been and she says she feels the same as I do.
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Well my lady and i are into our 10 month and we met when i saw her across the mall.I have never walked up and introduced myself like that before,but i had this urge that couldn't stop.\nWe are soul mates,and are happier with every day that passes.I am glad that you have found love,and as you can tell from your own experience that it is possible.
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ABSOLUTELY!!\nMy husband and I have just celebrated our 27th anniversary married and 28th together. The love we have today is much more than what we had on our wedding day. Our relationship is stronger and deeper than ever because of the 28 years we have been through together. You always hear the saying "through all the ups and downs", well it is so true. There were so many times during the first 5 years that I could have said "see ya". But I didn't. We had our first after we'd been married two years, he lost his job shortly after she was born and jobs were real hard to find so we had no money. We had to rely on family and other means to survive. But we did. I had faith in him and I had my Faith in God that we would get through. \nThere were many other financial hardships through the years that should have torn us apart and would have torn other couples apart, but we refused to let that happened becaused we loved each other and had faith in our marriage. We worked together. There was one time around our 17th year that we separated for awhile but I am too bullheaded to let him throw all that time away. So with some fight and work we saw what we needed to do and what we had done. We took each other for granted.\nOur marriage today is stronger, more passionate and devoted than ever. We have a greater understanding of what each other needs--time for each other and for ourselves. Be there for each other but know when to step back and stand beside each other for each other against all others no matter what.\nHe is my heart and soul. He is in law enforcement and I send him out every night with a kiss, a hug and I love you. The rest is in God's hand. I know there is always a chance that he may not come home or he may get seriously hurt. I take that chance because I love him that much. I can honestly tell you this much. If for some reason I would lose him to his job or by nature, he will be it for me. There will be no other in my life. That is how deep he is in my life.\nSo yes, there is long-lasting relationships and deep abiding love. It takes two to make them and lots of hard work every day. But the rewards are worth every minute of the life you will have together.\nI hope this helps
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I met a lady on line and finally met her. She was about 10 years older than me and we both knew we didn't want to get serious, just have fun. We had a great secret and private relationship for about 4 years before she started to have physical problems.\n\nThose are 4 years, though that I will never forget. Unlike women my age, this lady really appreciated me and made me feel good. I went out of my way to appreciate her too. Sometimes I wish I could find somebody to take her place, but at least I can dream about her.\n\nTX Guy
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For us, it has been work.  Lots and lots and lots of hard work.\n\nWhen we got married, I had an idea of what a wife should do, be like, etc. And, I expected her to be this person and our marriage to be a certain way.  So, after working at it for a year (and fighting constantly), I slowly realized that she is who she is and my expectations were wrong.  (She had to realize the same things about me.)  This is when we learned we have to work at communicating with each other and with ourselves. (You will have to learn who you truly are as well as who your mate truly is.)\n\nWe have been together almost 12 years now; she is my soul mate and we are very happy.  But, the communication and understanding that are needed are work.\n\nEvery few months, life will throw a new set of challenges at us and we will have to work at communicating well, understanding things 100% from the other persons point of view, not having emotional reactions to things without asking "Did you mean that way I heard it?" Then, once we have communicated and are in synch with each other, we can tackle the challenges of life together.  \n\nMarriage is not 50/50.  It is 100%/100%, and often you have to give your 100% first.  But, being able to become someones soul mate and their true love is an amazing blessing.  Just keep in mind that sometimes you have to give your 100% first and that is work.\n\nBeing truly in love when you get married is a great place to start growing your life long love together.    But, you have to work to grow life long love.  \n\nPlus, please remember to "actively love".  Don't just love someone and feel that is enough.  You have to pay attention to this person you are marrying, and learn what stresses them out, makes them happy, what they are great at, how best to be supportive,  and which of the family roles that mentally and emotionally hate but that you could do (I do the dishes, because she would rather be beat with a stick than wash another person's dishes.).  In other words, you have to learn who this person really is and how you can help make their life happier.  Ask yourself, "What can I DO, to make my mates life easier, happier, better, etc."  "Active love", which is paying attention to your mate and then doing things you can to improve their life, is also part of true love.\n\nForgive the long answer.  This is just the things we have learned in our 12 years together.  Every relationship is unique.  \n\nGood luck and best wishes to you both.
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I think you are a romantic. I hope that my soulmate exisits but I find that hard to believe. Please keep your wonderful outlook on life and love
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I have always gone with my heart, im divorced and have been for 5 years now.  I recently met a man on yahoo and I never expected it to become so serious.  He wont let me get out of the car without him openning the door.  He takes off my coat and puts it on, he goes clothes shopping with me and helps me choose what I look good in and enjoys it.  He is a true gentlemen and very old fashioned in which I am too.  Yes, I feeel in Love with him and he cant beleive he found the woman of his dreams he has been looking for all his life and that is me.  Now he is a little confused, he cares for me is very patient with me and ive been sick with a bulgeing protrudeing torn degenerated disc and right wrist drop a nerve condtion in my right hand and arm in which it will take 8 weeks till I get the feeling back to use it.  I am now on disability from work.  He lives 1 1/2 hour from me and we spend every weekend he picks me up and we go to his place.  He says hes falling in love with me and I myself feel it but patience is a virtue I will wait for this man because I know he is the one I want in my fututre.  You have to go with your heart make decisions on your own even though you might be unsure I trust my heart you have to learn to trust yours.  I have been in your situation I understand you completely and would love to be your friend and help you through this I am giving you my screen name on yahoo laura_kerner011261 and you may im me if im on or leave me a message my e-mail is littlee8@comcast.net.  I dont know if your suppose to give this info out but I think by talking to you I may be able to help you get though these obsticles in your life.  I want to be your friend I am a 45 yr old female who has lost both her parents to cancer and am loseing my 48 yr old sister to cancer and have been sick alot in my life, but god is testing me maybe to make me a stronger person, I Love myself for who I am, you have to love yourself before you can love others please get in touch with me I know I can hel youiu through this if youiu want to I am a very honest down to earth person and see a physciatrist for panic disorder since i developed it when my child was born 17 years ago .I myself again want to be your friend again im me on yahoo and you will find out your not alone YOU HAVE A FRIEND and that friend is me and I want to be there for you and help you try and find answers to your questions.  I do have voice chat with a mic its easier for me sice i am paralyzed right now in my right hand from the nerve going up my arm.  Again I ask you please to e-mail me with your screeen name from yahoo and e-mail address you can add me and ill add you to discuss this I WANT TO HELP YOU< YOU HAVE A FRIEND and I want to be there for you, you seem like a very special person and i know i am a strong women I know I can help you get through this.  Thank you for reading this  Laura
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I think you should truly figure out if she is what you want because no ones heart is a game.  I know you have been through it with her but you have allot of time and a family invested with her.  I also don't think its fare to play with any ones feelings.  I have also been in many relationships but never felt they way I feel when I'm with one person.  I believe true love only comes around once and I will never feel that way again.
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Honestly, I am touched by your story. It is the power of love!\nI am fourteen now and I am also experiencing love now. I really love and care for her and believe that I would do everything for her. However, she told me that she didn't have that special feeling towards me. Maybe she has not realised how much I care for her. What I hope now is for her to wake up someday and receive me in her heart.\n\nSo, yes, follow your heart, if you really love her and she also feels the same, then you deserve that.
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Well, as a wife and mother of 5 children and married for 23 yrs...I can honestly say love is unconditional and is sometimes a rollercoaster...if you are not already married, you still have a choice...but do know this friend..."what once was, can be again"...sometimes you have to return to your first love..the things you did...what you said...how you treated each other...now, if those "things" you refer to are harrassing, violence, and such...a sit down talk in a "neutral" spot is the answer there. Be honest if this must be done...be specific..& don't leave it "open ended"...like "we'll see"...I need space for now...needs to be clean cut...best of everything!