..when you are now in a new relationship with someone nice???
201685
NO! If my bf would think about his ex I would have to break up with him. When your in a relationship you have to give you love and care and respect to that other person. Otherwise you might as well break up with her and get back with your ex. That is if you care about this new girl and you don't want to hurt her.
39245
Yes, you should take some time, even if you don't think you need it, to reevaluate yourself, your feelings about the world and relationships.  If anything, just to make sure you will be okay, and not have a bad after effect later than expected.  You know, to make sure you still know you.  Relationships change people, even if they don't see it, so it is best to just relax, take a break, and make sure you are totally comfortable to go back into dating before you try again.  If you are not sure, just wait, it is likely you are feeling some subconcious doubt, and that will hurt your chances of a good experience.  You will want to give a new partner what they deserve, and you have to be confident and sure to really give it your all.
478978
just talk to your recent boyfriend.. in a nice way.. then go out with a new guy!!
663762
Hi, I met my husband at my place of employment. I only thought of him as a nice person, possibly a friend. He came in one day and asked me to go to a band job with him(he is a drummer). I said I wanted to go and he was a perfect gentleman in every way. When I got home he said goodnight and patted my hand. I really knew he was a good guy and I would date him many times after that. After two years of dating we had a beautiful wedding. I still love him so much I could not tell you.
628326
I know that feeling (the terribal feeling not very well)\nTry to be nice, if you are not feeling what he is... Just be honest, your friendship will change of course but he knows it will, he took the risk by saying he loves you...\nDo not be rude he is just been honest, but you do not share the feeling so be clear state it correctly... \nRelation will change so be prepare you will never look at him as it was before, but you can be mature enough to go over this bad feeling you have and time will put you back together again and you will someday laugh about, if you both are real friends OK... sooner or latter you will accept him as he is.
359819
....let the relationship grow and get to know each other for awhile.. dont rush it ...just have fun
66862
Well I just recently got married two months ago and I think that it's absence that makes the heart grow fonder. Before I couldn't wait to see her and I would get all excited when I prepare to meet her. Now that I see her everyday I think I've grown more accustomed to her as she did to me. This is when people start treating each other less "special" I believe the trick is to try and maintain that feeling.
70275
he seems like a nice guy.. talk to him about how you feel!!
337330
I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
245924
you wil have your ups and downs in a relationship...thats just the way you get more attached and get to know more about ur partner!
258885
Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
638785
Don't feel guilty.  Get up and have a fantastic time with this new guy.  You aren't mourning, sweetie, you just broke up with someone!  Enjoy yourself and do what makes you happy!  Never feel guilty for doing something that makes you feel good!
160924
I think it's a very natural transition...you'll start having conversations about what she is looking for in a relationship, what you are looking for and if you both meet each others' standards for that.  If you do, then the next questions will be if she is interested in having a one on one relationship with you or interested in taking things to the next level.
206974
I think our feelings change as we get to know the other person better. More often than not people are alot more open with who they are after the relationship has progressed. So in the beginning they could be a little more reserved and laid back but as the relationship progresses they begin to be more open and outgoing. And so we get to know them for who they really are, as they become more comfortable within themselves and the relationship. Sometimes, this change isnt always for the better but other times it makes you love them a whole lot more. Change is one of lifes necessities. We all go through it.
325972
hi congratulations on youre new found love ,and yes youre right things do change in relationships like every thing does,thats when you do something that the other person never expects the little things like going for a walk together making time for each other to keep a relationship going it does take a bit of work and effort but it should never be one sided,it has to be both ways,leave a small note in each others pocket something as small as that can mean the world to the other person it doesnt have to cost a penny ,dont get me wrong presents are lovely but the free ones are just as important to good luck and i hope you are both really happy take care of each other x
131782
One never knows when that someone special will pop into their life.  Don't despair or give up.  It happens, and often when and where you least expect it.  And it may not be obvious to you that the person you just met is going to be an integral part of your life for the rest of your life.  You may just think, "He (She) is nice and interesting.  I should get to know them better."  Let it happen.  (The mighty oak tree grows from a tiny acorn, but it doesn't happen overnight!)  \n\n"Soulmate", as its name implies, is a very deep matter.  It takes time to reach that level.  We have to get through various layers of life and experiences with the other person to reach the soul.  But once there, what a wonderful place.
669831
hmm, I just met someone at my practicum a few weeks ago and the same thing happened. we were polite, but maybe a little over the top and i think there was something extra going on. we shook hands, looked eachother directly in the eyes and chatted for a few minutes and when i had to go back to a different building, we were like "it was nice to meet you, (then he said my name)" and he wished me luck in my practicum blah blah blah. who knows though. if i'm not some kind of psycho i think we were pretty attracted to eachother\n\nso if you feel that way, i think you probably are right. so see how things go.. i'd chat her up a bit and eventually ask her out for tea or something.