Okay, I have a fella, whom which i live with, and it's okay, and he loves me alot, we've had our ups and downs, we even split up for 6 months. Which is when i met someone else, we had a hot fling, i really liked him, but he liked me more and wanted to hook up for good, he's 7 years younger than me so i backed out thinking it wouldn't work, but a few weeks ago i bumped into him and have seen him about and now i can't get him out of my head, i have told him this but he's ignoring me! I don't know how i feel now about my existing fella cos i can't get the other one out of my head, i know i sound really pathetic and that i shouldn't moan, but this is the rest of my life i'm talking about! Could it be i'm attracted to the younger guy cos it was a hot fling, i don't know but it feels like there is more between us! HELP if you can?!?!
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I think it could be that you have this guy in your head now because he is ignoring you.  You know the saying, you want what you can't have?  Well, when he wanted you you weren't interested...and now you "think" you may be.  \nBut...if you're really thinking about this fling guy a lot then I doubt you're truly in love with your steady.  Deep down it's probably not meant to be.  You know, real love and all that comes with it...when you're in deep, no one else can touch that.  Anyway, do the pro's and con's thing about the guy you're with and if it's more con's than pro's give him up...and talk to this younger guy if you can, about how you feel if you really think your feelings are deeper than just wanting what you can't have.  I have to say also that he sounds a tad bit immature...ignoring you after you've had a fling.  But that's just my opinion....good luck.
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I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
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LOL neparis2001.. that wasn't nice.. true.. but not nice.\n\nI would say that you have started to 'draw a line in the sand' of what you will and will not do for a person, and you are finding your balance.\n\nThat you are able to not run and find out why he hasn't actually met up with you shows that you are maturing with what you find acceptable in how you want to be treated.\n\nIf you have feelings for him, at least you're honest, but how do you feel now that he blew you off?  I think you're worthy of someone that can return your values in a relationship.. if he can't, look for a new place for your feelings so they don't end up hurt.\n\nKeep your chin up and always respect yourself first!!..so you don't have to worry about regaining respect.
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Forgive yourself for an error in judgment and focus on what would be in your best interest at this point.  The guy satisfied his sexual curiousity and can't let go of a minor offense (i.e., hanging up on him).  A guy like this will only hold you back.....walk away now and you'll be proud of yourself for putting your own needs first.  You will gain strength as time moves on.  It's just a matter of developing the resolve to stick to your guns; as you meet new people and start to date new guys, this memory will fade.  Trust your own instincts and move on.  Good Luck
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I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
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Okay, honey. If he really loves you, he'd choose you over the other guy. If being with him, and knowing he has someone else makes you feel that way, then he is not worth it. If it is meant to be, then it will, but BOTH of you have to want it to be. He has made it obvious that you are not priority one in his world. You seem like a lovely boy, I'm sure you can find someone just as loving and devoted as you are! Take my advice as a fruit-fly who has seen many gay relationships fall out. He. is not. worth it. Leave him, and if he wants you as badly as he says, he'll come running back and make you his only. Otherwise, you're better off without him.
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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I think you need to get over this dude and fast\nForget his number ( its a figur of speach cause if you trully loved him samthings you just cant forget ).....Stay away from the friends that will ask you about him....Just go cold Tercky if you know what i mean.......Its hard to do and even harded to maintain nut keep telling yourself its for the best\n\nThe fact that you not showing intrest in him anymore will creat a feeling of curiosity on his part.....If the dosnt chace you he wasnt worth it if he does you in\nRemember the man thats worth your tears wont man you cry
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Please what were you doing with him in the first place if you love someone else. that doesn't seem very mature or fair to the other guy. stop playing games with peoples hearts and grow up.stress??? caused by guilt or maybe wanting something that belongs to another!
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i know exactly how you feel... well, at least i think i do.. i am in love with my best guy friend whom i have known for almost 11 years... we are reallyc lose and a week ago, he confessed that he believed that we were meant to be.. blahblah.. and then we kissed.. and it's been a week and i have a feeling that he's avoiding me.. he's always busy and within the last week, he called me ONCE... that's it. and it was for a brief conversatio. i don't know what is going on... its really hard to do anything.. because i know that we were friends first.. and i dont want to risk it..\n\nmy advice to you... confront him before you assume anything and talk with him... talk it through... conversation is the best option you have... dont do like what i did and talk it out. it will save YOUR HEART from a lot of pain....
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My advise is to stay with him. You felt good around him right? You had fun and had nice conversations, right? Take time and think to yourself, "do I like this guy more than a friend or not?" If not, be honest and tell him, don't avoid him. Stop being such an immature little girl, we ain't seven-years old anymore. Men don't have cooties.
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Aubrey My dear,\nSo sorry that you feel like this but you know you are just going to have to move on and let him live his life.  There are so many more guys around, I am sure.  You will find the one for you when the time is right.  This will pass with time...do things for you that make you feel good to help you change your thoughts away from him.    Best wishes my dear  =]
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I would emotionally distance yourself from him.  You can remain friends, but I would start looking elsewhere.\n\nIt may be that if you hook up with someone else, he'll realize he might lose you, and that might give him the kick in the butt he needs.  Or he could get jealous and retaliate.  If he has no reaction, it may just mean he's not that into you.\n\nEither way, prepare to move on.  I'm not saying you should find someone to make him jealous; that's just self-defeating.
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Talk it over and be frank about how you're feeling. I do hope you don't talk like you spell. It could be disatrous!!!\n7 months is too short to get so hooked on a guy! God made plenty to go around girl.. get a grip and move on if you are feeling unstable but dont let it hamper all of your other relationships.
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oh that sucks! Thats a toughie! well obv the other guy is physco..and dint you ever give him a chance..ever..6 yrs is a long time..and i think in the END he will forget about it..but for now hes prolly gonna punish you..yeah its not fair...but what would you do..im sure he is checking his messages every minute..6 yrs means love..Yeah your gonna be sad..Umm where did this take place? school? id take that as sexual harrasment...yeah you better make it that way..well goodluck with your love..and if he doesnt llove you again..he is just lookin for a way out..and any guy would be lucky to have you espesially after being this honest and asking for help..goodluck!
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Send him packing, you said your self he's not ready for a relationship, this is the biggest excuse guys have to keep you hanging around, and not get serious, then when they meet someone else they make you look stupid, by saying " Hey , I told you I didn't want anything serious" so like it your fault you got attached. Go back to the other guy if you think you still have feeling for him, its obviously not true love with this guy if you miss another too.
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Nothing abnormal about that.  Men may not want to admit it but traditionally we are slower to move on.  If your really loved her, you may always think about her but over time it will be less often and someone will fill the void.  For now don't worry about it and work on finding someone else, just don't be in such a hurry that you hook up with someone you realy don't care about or who doesn't care about you.