Been with this guy for 11 months \nVery commited to one another
205079
You didn't mention if this was your first sexual relationship with a guy. I would have to say let nature take it's course. If the two of you have spent a lot of time together; cuddle time, petting time, even sleeping together with out having sex and your comfortable together; I would say if you feel your ready just make sure you take the proper preventative measures to protect the two of you from any form of STD or unwanted pregnancies and well go for it. *smile*\n If this is your first time; I would suggest if this is something you both want, work your way up to full intercourse. Explore one another's bodies, take a shower together ( that's always fun!! ), foreplay, foreplay, foreplay *laugh* Above all else, once it's time and it is your first time, RELAX and let your body take your mind into ultimate enjoyment. Granted no matter what unless you have really done heavy foreplay and are totally relaxed your going to feel some pain but just as fast as you have it, it's gone.\n\nSo either way as others say, use the proper protection, set the mood, and if both of you are ready, have fun!!
177559
Sounds like he may be trying to make e/one happy but himself.  Maybe he really wanted to go.  After 12 years, I would think you both would be open, honest, and trusting with each other.
440322
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!
411727
couples have arguments all the time.  Especially after a year of seeing each other.  Don't worry and call him.  Let him know you still care for him and want to work out whatever it is that you disagreed on in the first place.  That is, if that is what you want.  If not move on and find another guy.
555906
You just got out of a 4 year relationship and you are ready to jump into a new one after two weeks? You contradict yourself you said you told him you knew he was dating others ..he denies it but tells you that he needs to compare if it was worth it to leave one for the other? Anyway it's ok that he is dating others considering you aren't in a committed relationship, you are just dating. Guess what you can date others too! Don't make someone your priority when you are only their option. I, quite frankly, think it's a lil soon to be jumping into a new relationship so quick but that's your decision to make. Keep dating the guy but don't make yourself completely available to him, create a challenge. Also date other people and let him know about it. After all the two of you aren't exclusive, unless he makes it that way. Just take it slow and do what a psychologist does best, analyze.
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I moved in with a guy after 7 months before.. I think it ruined our relationship.  I will never live with a man until I am married now.  It seems crazy to commit to someone that much when you haven't decided if you like them enough to spend everyday (rest of life) with.  Esentially that is what you are doing.. spending the rest of your life together... so it is putting way to much into the relationship. \n\nI would suggest moving out and still dating.  You can take a baby step backwards.. He might think it is a good idea too.  It might save your realationship.\n\nGood Luck :-)
147183
i don't think you relationship is that intense if he hasn't, but i'm guessing "blindly", more of a "black and white", low passion standard thing. and if he doesn't feel it that's strange, i think. i mean, i think you "should" be in love with someone you've been seeing that long. but, you are in collage and this may just be an extended fling so keep that in mind. but i am strange so i don't know
244682
Seven months and stil dont know how much love is there?  I think he is just keeping you busy????     Keep Looking!
267489
If there is no communication it will not last.  YOu only been with him for 8 months  I would move on.  That would be the easy way out but no one likes the easy way.  Most likely you will go on for few more month or until the point you say enough is enough.
54629
i think he's gotta commitment problem. if u go w/ him, he shows signs of being a potential cheater. go 4 someone else! u can do better.
121463
Girl there are so many questions and ifs and buts to this relationship that it amazes me you two are still together.  Regardless, this relationship just doesn't sound good and you really deserve to be in one that is better than this.  Let it go and move on with your life so you can be really happy.
43349
If the two of you have decided to have an "open relationship", it's not a problem, and you can "chase guys" if you want to, too. However, if what you are looking for is a committed relationship, then no, it's not all right, and why are you still with him?
45126
Unfortunately, you can never know for sure if a relationship will last. You don't even seem to be sure that YOU want to be with him for the rest of your life. If you were, you wouldn't be asking this question. But in reality, it takes a lot longer than three months to get to know someone, so I say just try to get to know him a little better and ask yourself if he's someone you want to devote your life to. With your commitment, it can become reality.
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it is completely your call but i would go with your gut about him cheating, it sounds like he has plenty of opportunity and you wont find out... sometimes it takes more than love for a relationship to survive. you need to choose who's happiness is more important ultimately his or YOURS!!! i hope it all works out for you.
596370
well i think it depends on where yo uthink the relationship is going.  are you guys going to get married at some point?  this could be a good barometer to see if yo uare compatable.
230762
reltionship is frankly determined by how two people get to know each other.ifboth of you have determined to marry and are genuiely commited to the cause of living the rest of your lives together,i think both of you should be open to each other.but care should be excercise to avoid sensitive  issues of sex , flirting to damage relationship youve built for 9months to just go . my advice is since  youve acknowledge the past and fell remorse about it,keep such influences out of ur life,pray to god for forgiveness ,free your spirit by this cofession in prayer.again to tell your boy friend may not be helpful except he is of a good understanding person .try as much as possible to build relationship devoid of any cheat .if both of latter married u will see the fruit of your commitment to each other.
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If he cares about you then nothing will seem that strong.  Usually though if guys want to make a commitment, they will be the one to tell you.  Your happiness is on the line.  If he is ready to commit, then he will. If he isn't ready then he won't and then you can make your decision as what to do, whether to move on or stick it out.