I have a friend in England we were toghother for 2 years,he says me i love you ! But he is a boy i really love him but not as two gay,Iam not gay at all. But i don't know he is or not,but he always says me i hate girls i ike boys.What should i do ? Stop my relation with him?? PLZ help me!
203608
well, tell him how you really feel and tell him your sorry but your not gay.. just be honost in a nice way and tell the truth .. if he truley is your friend or likes you then hell undestand but if not then he's not your friend..
6075
well search your heart and find out if you love him or you want to get down with him.  its very goood to clear things out of you or you will hate your self if you don't express your self or you will blow up. but if you love him then this is a way to tell him:\n"i really like you and you have been such an inspiration to me.i don't know if you feel the same way and i hope what i am about to say dosen't ruin our friendship because i like being your friend. i don't know how to put this i find you very attractive and i think i begining to fall in love with you." what about that. sorry i could not help much
646575
I think maybe you're bi, because maybe you like girls, but you have these feelings for your friend but no other guy.  Maybe not.  Maybe it's all just a big infatuation.  Who really knows?  But it sounds like you are either gay or bi.  Of course, you seem to be very close to your friend so maybe you've grown from friendship to being with him so often and sharing so much that you wanted more.
274069
Um... I had the same problem. Don't hurt your friend. He may be cute, but there are plenty of cute boys. I know from experience that your friendship is better. If they break up wait a little while, and then hang out with him. Maybe you'll quit liking him. If not, stay away, about 50 YARDS AWAY AT ALL TIMES FROM HIM!!!! LISTEN TO MY ADVICE. I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT.
487014
I have female friends who are in a similar situation to you. Unfortunately they just shy away from me, which is irritating for me but they aren't willing to compromise anything about it.\n\nThe choices that you have right now is to either shy away from him or put up with it. If you put up with it, you may decide to think of him being 'gay' as a way of reminding yourself he's inaccessible.
676980
I'm not a guy but I am going to give you advice that might help.  I would say if that happened the person who is already openly gay, needs to be tender and take things slow.  They also need to let their friend know that they are understanding and accepting of the fact that if they want to stop things at any point they will respect them for that decision, I would think just in that case as you would if it was a male/female relationship, act on your feelings and if you aren't feeling it then back away just like you would any other relationship.  Good Luck!\n\nP.S.  As for what some people said about oh he must be BI or how can someone straight be attracted to a gay guy?  Well for that one, the same goes for women.  I was with men most of my life and then I met this girl (one girl) I started a relationship with her, was with her for almost 2 years, and we broke up now I have a boyfriend.  I wouldn't call myself a lesbian or bi, I tried something it didn't work out, so I went back to what I truely like.  As a lot of people say, noone is really BI, they are just confused~
568828
I don't think you have a boy friend , He is your friend and likes you as s fiend but is not sexually attracted to you . You are simply not his type . There is no need to end the friendship just accept the fact that he is not in love with you and move on to find someone who finds you sexually attractive . You can't always have everything you want in life . There is no no need to get rid of a good friend . A friend who loves you will be around to support you and hang out with you when the boy friends are gone . Keep your friend and look for a boy friend .
279235
He doesnt sound like much of a friend, if he's judging you on your "gayness"\n\nThats a load of BS!\n\nBe who you are, and enjoy it.
617937
hi dear!!!\nu know what???\nwe're in the same situation,,,,\nhe's like a girl,, pickle minded,,,\nhe said he loves me then in few week,, he'll say that he still love his x,,\ndamn!!! freaks me out\nyou know what,,, i still trust him everytime hetells me that he loves me,,, though i cant feel it much for he lives in england and im here in philippines... well,, dear,, in your case,,, if you really love her,, dont give up,,, talk to her again,,, let her know how much you love her and how you feel,,, be brave,,, speak out,,\ntalk!!! if ahe cried,, there's still love,,, dont give up,,, you might regret not doing anything to have her in your life!!!\n\nhope you could have the right lady whom yoou deserve to have!!!!\nsomeone you love and could love you too!!!\ntake care!!!\nGod bless!!!\n\n\nl_e_a_h_02@yahoo.com
474111
I'm going thru this right now, the guy is straight; we always talked at work to pass time, but now that I quit my job, he's the only one that calls me to small talk and to make him a cd. He knows Im gay and I know he's straight, but my feelings for him is there, and I dont dare to do anything cuz I will lose him as a friend. He tells jokes at me that Im like his big brother/sister. I showed him a different side of gay people, that not every homosexual is a flamoyantly Fag and respects me, so I remind myself that he's a good friend that asks for my help if he needs it, its rare to turn a straight guy to a gay guy. Since I know he would never read this forum I would like to say, "I love you very much Robert, I'll be there for you." How can I ignore feelings?
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Sounds like he's a loser.. I would seriously think about getting rid of him. \n\ntalk to him and tell him that it hurts you to see him talking to other girls.. if he's not willing to talk to you about it and how he feels about you with other boys.. then well he obviously dosn't love you as much as you love him. and why waiste your time and life with someone who doesn't love you, eh?
598884
Well if he knows he;s a boy then he's not confused about his gender. As for his sexual orientation, you should probably let him find that out for himself. As long as he is confused or unhappy about it himself he will probably not be able to talk to you about it. I would let him know though, subtly as least, that you love him no matter what and that he has to be and do what makes him happy. Other people's opinions should not matter.
544911
You should try everything once.  You might like it.  And you're friend lost his self respect because he's obviously not comfortable with his sexuality.  Get over it, it won't make you gay.
223234
It sounds like he is really confused right now. He may need space to think things out. Alot homosexual people struggle with their feelings. It is natural for him to feel torn between his feeling and longing for a sense of normality in his life. Alot of gay males try the straght thing thinking that they can have a natural family and be accepted by society but then realise later that they are trying to change themselves. He may be going through one of those times right now. If you have seen him on the gay dating sites that is a bit different. Are you sure that those profiles are not old? some people continue to check old dating accounts just to see who responded. Ask him about them. If he gets defensive, then you may have a clue. Just give him some time to sort things out and if what you guys have is worth saving he will realize it. for now be his friend and help him find hisself. And dont listent to any negativity on here...we dont choose who we love
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Best Option : Change the Boy Friend. Love someone else.\n\n People like to blame it on egos,...but if it's already so troblesome save yourself the trouble., Change your boy friend,..cos maybe he'll change you. \n\n Shit Happens All The Time
469673
no you are not gay. there will always be times like this when you will be confused  by friendship over attraction. just let it go.
634232
You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..