For the guys - did you ever have a serious relationship with a guy at any one time? \n\nOr if you're a girl - did you ever have a serious relationship with a girl?\n\nNext question: did it work out well? Were there any obstacles? Fights?
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Yes to your first q,\n\nLike any relationship there were obstacles and fights... we are after all still human.
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I'm a girl. I have a few wonderful guy friends. I wouldn't know what to do without them in my life. They are my support system. They are much more sincere than some girls I know.
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
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Sleeper_grrl has the right attitude.  If you want a good relationship, then you should be able to talk with the guy.  If you can't talk to a man about what he feels, then he is not someone you want a long term relationship with.
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OK. as a guy, who has done that, i was tempted to do that time and time again. but my girl keeps me in check(m not pu**y whipped). she is more than i can handle. which is good. she is not forgiving, but she knows how to punish me. i mean, she loves me, and she knows that i love her. it has been three years now, and i havent even looked at another girl (matter of speaking). she trusts me, and boy, that is all i need.
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Excellent question!!! Guys--fess up now! :)\n\nI know that any guy I am friends with and I am attracted to, I have thought of "what if we ever had a romantic relationship??"  I mean if there is a friendship attraction plus a romantic attraction..that would seem like a compatible relationship.
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Yes it's possible. I'm friends with a guy since we were in elementary. We hang out, but we don't get all close. we're just friends. and we've been like that for 4-5 years. We talk and stuff, but we're not interested in dating anybody yet. And he has a lot of friends that are girls, but no flirting, just friends. ;)
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Sometimes when people are in relationships, they forget that they're supposed to maintain the relationship, like dating, talking and hanging out. Strange since those are the things which got us into the relationship to start with.\n\nMany years ago, a friend and I decided to date, knowing the difficulties we had had with previous relationships, we decided to create a relationship contract so that we would know what was expected, and know the penalties if we didn't live up to those expectations. It was one of the most enjoyable relationships I've ever had. She's still one of my closest friends.\n\nHere's a link to a copy of the contract\n\nhttp://jdoggiedogg.livejournal.com/4093.html
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i totally agree....i have this guy friend...that when i first met him...started flirting with me...we got a little closer....made out a couple times and i really like him...then he goes and says that he doesnt want a relationship and that he is just cuddly with his friends....it kind of pissed me off...especially because i liked him....we are still good friends tho.
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Are you being serious??\n\nYes, when u find a decent guy
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I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
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My best friend did, but even further, the guy is overseas. They met thru a message board and got to know each other over several months, the 'vibe' kept growing and they finally met a year ago last spring. They are together almost 2 years now, we all thought it was nuts at first but they seem to be a really well matched couple. He's considering moving out here sometime in the next year :)
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In my experience, it has a been a really good thing. It was good because we were both honest, and up front about it. We established that our friendship was the most important thing, and that we didn't want to ruin it. (Of course, there was an exception) but for the most part, even if one of us started feeling a "crush" or something, we talked it through. The one thing that I have to be CLEAR on is that we BOTH were honest. That we could be close to each other, and there were limits, and you had to stay within those limits. I don't know if I am just weird, but I have had some very special friends, and it worked. Most have moved on, but if we saw each other again, (in face I called one just the other day and we had a fantastic conversation) I know we are still friends, and they know I am still their friend as well. I KNOW there are times when men use that as a line, and I KNOW there are women who say they can do that, but they think I can change the guys mind. The reason I know this is because my guy friends told me that women did this, so I don't know if I'm just bizarre, but in my own personal life, I've had some FANTASTIC friendships, and they were friends with benefits.\nI forgot to tell you that when it worked this way with me, 98% of the time, we were friends First!! =o)\nBTW I thought I invented that term LOL
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Personally speaking, I think the best relationship you can be proud of is between a guy and gurl who were friends. What's friendship, if I may ask? It's getting acquainted with someone for a period of time to the extent that you think, speak, behave or act almost in the same way. I want you to check around and compare relationships built on friendship and those built on infatuation. The outcome is very obvious. Cheers.
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I got the perfect answer for you. I've been that guy who is best friends with his ex, my girlfriend was so worried. I ended up dumping her, and a week later I asked my best friend (my ex-girlfriend) back out. Of course she said yes. I would have done it ten times out of ten. I'm giving you fair warning, I think that something might happen.
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if we have someone in our lives already...why do we do that?  find other guys on-line even if its only to talk...does our relationship lack communication...emotional support?