O.k so we have been together for almost 2 years now my boyfriend and I, However he cheated and got a girl pregnant.\nHe said it was a mistake and a one time thing. I called the girl who comfortably told me everything. Ive decided to move on but how do i get over hom when he still come around begging me not to go.I hate him so much but cant seem to stop wanting him, my mind is telling me to do whats best for me and get rid of this guy.but my body and heart is reacting a different way
210840
Stay away from this guy. He wasn't concerned about you or your feelings when he was doing the other girl and may have even transmitted something from her to you in the process.  You shouldn't give a damn about him anymore. \nThere are plenty of guys out there. Just be patient and do everything you can to avoid your ex and his significant other and there soon to be lust baby. Try and stay busy with other friends. They will help you through all this and introduce you to someone that is worthy of your time and love.\nGood Luck
319
Let him go.  If it's meant to be, he'll realize what an idiot he is and come back.  In the meantime, why should you sacrifice what you really want (a relationship) for someone else?  You deserve to be happy.  \n\nWhy are we women always so ready to sacrifice the possibility of loving, committed relationships with other people, just to stay with someone who is 'not sure' about us?  It's silly.  Go out and get what you want.
178531
The best way to get over a guy is probably by hanging out with your other friends.  Staying busy and have few friendly dates with other guys ( no strings attached ).  If you are pregnant well, that can be a different story.  Think about it. If this guy is going to do you wrong while kind of dating and lying to you. Do you think he will be good for you or to your child?  Think of it this way.If he can lie to you and possibly even cheat on you then you really don't need him.  You deserve someone better. Life is too short to be stumped over someone who doesn't love you the way you love him.
360289
Aww honey its okay!! Feeling like this is perfectly normal but cheating twice?? I would say take him back if this was his first offense but honestly I dont even know the guy and know that he will cheat again..I'm sure you still care about him and have feelings for him but if he cared for you the way you care for him then he wouldn't have done the things that he did!! You can do better and he will be feeling ALOT worse than you when you move on and know that life can go on without him...I've learned the hard way and always forgave but now I have a baby and what started off with a little cheating to ALOT he didn't stop and would try to lie after a night of romance and come home to his daughter and me..Leave before it becomes something more..A promise just cant be believed anymore..Good luck hun and hang in there..Time heals everything :)
550638
Do you still love him?  If you do then I would say try again.  BUT, you need to have a serious conversation with him before you put yourself out there again.  Explain to him that you never cheated and you were offended when he just blindly believed a rumor instead of even asking your side.  This is your life and your decision, do you think he is worth your time?  Is he going to just believe anything anyone says about you?  He needs to realize that the 2 of you are the only ones in your relationship...  Hope everything works out good for you.
672706
Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there.  Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run.  As for you,  I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with.  I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you.  Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you.  Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him.  If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you.  For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that.  Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you.  Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt".  If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one.  OR the next one will cheat on you too.  So take your pick, karma's a b**ch.  And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around.  Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend).  You only have yourself to blame.
65271
I'm not married, but I totally understand where you are coming from. In my past relationships, the guy will have done me wrong and I agree to stay in the relationship. The problem is, you can't stop thinking about the things that went wrong and a new question or concern always pops up. I realized that if you are going to stay with the guy, then there is no point in continually bringing up the past. Eventually, he is going to realize that you are not going to stop worrying about it and either walk away from the relationship or he is going to deem your concerns unimportant.\nThe guys I dated knew that I would get upset and argue, but that I wasn't going anywhere. What you should do is take a good look at yourself and figure out if his wrongs are something you truly can forgive. You don't have to forget, but if you seriously make the decision to forgive, then you can't continue to bring it up. \nIf you realize that you can't let it go, then you have to move on...for yourself. Obviously, you really care about this man, but if you can't let it go, then neither one of you are ever truly going to be happy. It's not easy, but it's also not impossible.
571427
listen to your heart.\nmy now fiance cheated and got her prgnant and we are getting married and i know how twisted that sounds without going into detail but i di a lot of soul searching so to speak and i just couldnt give up on us. yes you have every right to be angry and you will forgive him in time if you so choose to but take it slow and figure out what it is you want. sounds to me like you really love him and dont want to give up but i don't want to go into  to much detail about my life but i do know what you are going through and you can e-mail me at crazybearnluv69@aol.com if you want and i can better explain.
430653
Ask him to stop calling you. You guys need to move on and memories of each other are bringing both of you down. Just say, _______ please don't call me anymore, I'm ready to move on. IT sounds like your the girl when there's no one lese and you never want to be that. Don't sit in an unhealthy long distance relationship when you know things aren't goin to work out. Be the bigger person and stop the calls. If they don't stop, change your number because you need to move on and so does he.
186250
girl guaranteed he be out cattin just let him go and believe me from first hand experience it is very hard when you love them but in the long run it is better to cut the losses now.  You can do better without him anyway\nI know cuz I was with  one like that for 3 years and we have a daughter together and the boy was cheating lying drinking, druggin, etc... finally (don't wait like I did) I got tired of tricking myself and letting him control me into thinking nothing was going on and left.  Go with your instincts--that is your inner self talking saying kick him to the curb
656874
I think the first thing you need to do is get rid of this man.  If that is the kind of life he wants to live, let him live it without you.  I know it's easy for me to sit here and say that, but do you really deserve a man who is going out and getting someone else pregnant?  I understand your concern for the innocent baby, but if there really is a problem in the home contact DCFS and let them deal with it.   Do yourself a favor and put some serious thought into just why you are fighting so hard to stay with this man.  You deserve better, no woman deserves to be treated like this.
367119
Move on...find someone who truely appreciates you like you deserve to be.You should not try to get him back because obviously he has not been able to see the great, lovable , caring girl inside...so let him go and find someone who can find her and take care of her.There is nothing greater in life than being truly appreciated.you deserve better.I am sure there is someone just round the corner or right under your nose that you did not notice when you are so hung up on the ex.Let go and let the real thing find you.Bless you,sweety
561625
Sweetheart.. you will never "get over" that one that you love... The only thing you can do is try to learn from your mistakes and move on.\n\nAs much as you loved him.. you must face the fact that he did not love you the same way............  if he did he wouldn't have been cheating on you.   You did the right thing by leaving, now be strong, hold your head up high and don't let someone hurt you again.   Right now you are like....... "what the fukk is going on"\n\nTake time to heal.. take time to remember.. take time to prepare...  never to go through this again..\n\nKisses and Hugs.... BE strong!
89731
You know what everyone deserves a second chance. In the first place why did you do that if you really love your boyfriend. Please don't make decisions because of your kid make them because of you. I would advice you to go for Counselling with Jeff before the hearing. If you love him as much as he loves you he will forgive you in time because all he needs is time to heal.
128037
Forget about her!!! I've had the same situation with this guy, until I finally said to myself, Hey! What am I doing here? He doesn't deserve me and I'm not going to wait forever! I shoudn't be running after him he should be running after me! And if he's gonna want me back, it's too late for that! And guess what? He wantd me back. And I didn't. That's what you should do. Have some dignity MAN!
321132
Well, it's only been 2 months. Unfortunately you can't just wake up out of your nightmare and wish it to be over.  For starts he can quit coming over and telling you that he had sex w/ other people and basically rubbing that in your face. He can also quit telling you he loves you. You obviously broke up for some refined reason (unknown).  If he loved you then he wouldn't be sleeping w/ someone else now would he? I think that you two should stay apart for awhile. There's nothing wrong w/ remaining friends, however, if your trying to move and maintain a healtly lifestyle then he needs to quit.  Simply speak to him and tell him that it's best if he quits coming around for awhile b/c your having a tough time dealing w/ this situation. That you don't feel it's right him coming over and telling you he loves you then hearing that he slept w/ someone else. If you loved me then you wouldn't be sleeping w/ other people. I think it's fine if we remain friends, but I need time. I wouldn't recommend burning or doing anything to the pictures. (memories of good times) the wedding dress yea, you could probably sell it. The ring ahh, well, if you have a daughter or have one in the furture you could always give it to her to wear. (or just pawn it) I wish you the ever most luck. As for strength from God to overcome such a hurtful relationship and for the strength and wisdom to know that "slicing body parts off is wrong" (see made you smile) Good Luck! Here if you need a friend.
238910
Girlfriend, your like me caught up in the rapture of uncertainty. We want to leave but afraid deep down inside to make that move. Our insecurities allow us to not be more clear in our train of thoughts and we make sudden decisions without thinking them through. You are scared to let go but at some point you have to realize it is what it is, he is a cheater and he's possessive and somewhat controlling. You left and that was the first  step, now move on.\nMEN ARE LIKE A BUS ONE COMES EVERY 5 MINUTES YOU CAN RIDE THE BUS TO THE END OR DO AS YOU HAVE DONE GET OFF AND CATCH THE NEXT ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!