I'm always sad or indifferent but RARELY happy no matter what happens. I'm a good looking guy who can exchange stares with chicks, and I have a job that I hate with quite good pay and I'm married to a wonderful person and we love each others so much and I have some good friends, but still I'm rarely happy. I even sometimes think of suicide but then I remember my wife and my parents and how this will affect them and feel it's so selfish of me, then I thought of making it appear like an accident like try sky-diving but don't open the parachute or overeat or research non-tracebale poisons, but then I change my mind cause it's too selfish. I really can't enjoy life and see it pointless. Could I have a deficit in "happiness genes"? Or the chemicals in my brain aren't functioning well? Or what else could be the reason? I just want to be a normal, happy person.\nPlease don't give me answers saying seek religion, that's a different things and I've tried anyway.
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You say you have a good job with good pay. But do you like what you do? Maybe that's the problem. Maybe you're not satisfied in your job. I think a therapist would help you find out what's keeping you from being happy. If you have a good job that pays well, you can afford to go see one. I think that's the first thing you should do. Sometimes we are not happy because of something in our lives but can't even admit it to ourselves. A therapist could help you.
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When you were a single parent and then lost your father, well, there went a huge part of your support system, didn't it? It's not surprising then that you would have a strong emotional reaction and hence feel very anxious and insecure. Hence the indecisiveness also.\n\nThat's all perfectly understandable, sweetie! \n\nSo my first suggestion is to accept that fact and by doing so, accept yourself. Don't beat yourself up about something normal. Spend some time meditating on this so it sinks in. And use affirmations as already suggested to reinforce it.\n\nThe second goal should be to get off the meds. These are brain altering chemicals as you're well aware. I think it's criminal that doctors prescribe them so readily without also laying out a plan to treat the cause. How can we return to a normal functioning state when we're messing with our brain chemistry in an unnatural way. \n\nThere are natural ways to elevate mood and reduce anxiety. The really good news is that they'll also help you achieve your weight loss goal! Isn't that great? Say, "heck ya!"  :)\n\nHere's what I would do:\n\n1. Make sure you get 8 hours of sleep per night. This means a dark room, quiet, NO TV and with a good sleep system for support and temperature control (but NOT via electric blankets).\n\n2. Drink enough water for your bodyweight every day. 8 glasses a day is a pretty good guideline.\n\n3. Breathe! Deep breathing is healthy and relaxing. If you have access to a forested area or a stream or waterfall, that's an excellent environment naturally loaded with negative ions in the air which have been proven to improve mood (by affecting serotonin... much like Prozac but totally natural and with no bad effects!). You can get air systems that produce negative ions but there's only one that I know of that doesn't produce harmful ozone as a by-product so buyer beware, k?\n\n4. Pray. God is the almighty Father! Go to church weekly at least and read daily from your Bible. Get to know the New Testament, especially the gospels and the Sermon on the Mount. There's great wisdom there. It's God's love letter to You.\n\n5. Exercise! Take a brisk walk everyday with a friend, your hubby, your kids. Get a dog if you need to (just make sure it's a low maintenance dog, not like a dalmation). This is great for reducing stress, improving mood, and increasing your self-esteem.\n\n6. A warm pet, especially if you're a cat or dog lover, can add joy to the house with their antics. I prefer cats because they're low maintenance, clean, and there's something very satisfying about petting a purring kitty.\n\n7. Eat right. Our diet has a huge effect on our energy levels which affects our mood. Get rid of sodas, sweets and white bread. Instead, focus on fresh fruit and vegetables. Avoid processed foods and go for the real stuff. Your body and brain don't function well if you're lacking vital nutrients. Investing in a GOOD whole foods-based supplement can be very helpful.\n\n8. Go after that job again or find some other activity to do outside the house. The change of scenery will do wonders for your outlook and keep you out of a rut. Do something you find rewarding like volunteering for a worthy organization.\n\n9. Realize that we are our own worst critics. The people around us are too busy with their own lives an worries to spend much time thinking about us. We'd do well to remember that. So give yourself a break. :)\n\nAll of this positive activity will help pull you out of your rut. You'll meet nice people, your clothes will start to feel looser, and you'll start to feel better about yourself.\n\nPrint this out and read it often. Maybe use it as your Bible bookmark so you see it at least once a day. :)\n\nAnd if you want any specific suggestions for supplements or the air system or how to get good sleep, you're welcome to contact me via e-mail.\n\nAll the best and God
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First I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss of a family member.  Yes, you sound like you are depressed to me.  If you researched the symptoms, you would see yourself.  I've been depressed many times myself, and I can tell you it is no fun.  You get no pleasure out of doing anything, and all you want to do is sleep.  What you got to do is get up and do something for yourself, but before you do that, I want you to think REAL HARD about what I'm going to say.  No one controls your life but you.  What has happend, is in the past, and you live for tomorrow, not yesterday.  Everything that has happened is all water under the bridge, you can't do anything about it, and you need to stop dwelling on the past.  There is no one that can do a single thing about your situation except you.  You can either lay there, and drown in self pitty, or you can get up, and move on with your life.  No its not easy, but remember YOU are in charge of your life, and if you don't point it in a positive direction, then who will?  Sure you have a reason to be depressed, but how many days will you let the sun rise and set on another day without fun in your life?  You may have to make yourself get up and do something, but this you have to do, or loose your mind.  You may have a lot to be depressed about, but you have more to not be depressed about.  A person thats depressed cannot concentrate on school work, and you probably aren't getting anywhere.  You KNOW what the problems are, and you KNOW what you have to do to make them go away.  Get up, and get it done.  Put some fun back into your life.  Keep yourself busy to occupy your mind, and if you have to; please seek medical advice from someone, a doctor, a pastor, or just a friend that you can talk to, but do this before you end up at the bottom of a pit that you can't crawl out of.  Get off your @ss and do it, and do it now!  Don't tell yourself that you will do this tomorrow, because you know good and well that won't happen.  I hope this helps you some way.  Good Luck!!!
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Registered Nurse here; Hun you hit the nail on the head, you have the symptoms of depression.  Depression is a real illness, like cancer, diabetes, cardiac problems etc.  It doesn't have anything to do with wealth or fame.  Doesn't matter how many friends you have.  Regardless of how great your life may appear, depression occurs from within.  Since you wrote you often think of suicide, this is a Red Flag, you need some mental health help.  Something is wrong, your depressed.  Now you can turn this around, but probably not by yourself.  Well probably require a good psychiatrist, therapy, and possibly a medication regimen.  It is not your fault you feel this way, or have these thoughts, it's actually a chemical imbalance in the brain, that for whatever reason became a little unbalanced.  The great news is we have the tools and medication today to regain the balance.  But you have to do your part and this begins with making an appointment either with your personal care physician, or a mental health clinic, or psychiatrist/psychologist.  Thanks for allowing me to address this sensitive question.  Know your not alone, and you will get better.
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So, here's the thing.  I don't know you, and an answer here will probably not help solve your problems.  I'll give you my answer to your question, but then you have to go and find someone to talk to about all of this.\n\nWhat it sounds like you're asking is "WTF did I do to deserve all of these gifts, when so many people around me suffer?"\n\nI believe (and this is my answer...you need to find your own), that we were all created by God to live with God and with each other.  One of the miraculous things about God is that He created us, and instead of micromanaging our lives however he wanted to, He gave us free will.  He placed a little piece of himself within each of us, and that part of us longs to be with Him.\n\nThe short answer to your question is that you didn't do anything to deserve such a great life.  And you did everything.  From the time you were born, God wanted only the best for you, just as He wants only the best for me, and for every other person on this planet.  He gave each of us the opportunity to make our own decisions.  \n\nYou talk a lot about your own attitude, and that is something that you can change.  You can choose to be happy and excited about the new opportunities that await you in your new location.  You can also be sad about the friends and things that you are leaving.\n\nI can't answer why bad things happen to good people...I'm still trying to figure that one out myself.\n\nSeeing as you posted this in the Religion and Spirituality forum, I think that you're seeking something outside yourself, something bigger.  I would encourage you to find a church in your area and to have a conversation with the ministers there...I think that it might help you.
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let me tell you something hun.  i went for most of my life thinking like you do and it got me nowhere.  you will never find happiness until you learn to love yourself.  be happy with who and what you are.  find what you are good at and do it, forget about not being good enough for anyone else.
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Even I would not be happy, and I don't even know you.\n\nI am dealing with a suicide of a very close loved one. You want to know what that does to me? Nightmares. Horrible guilt - even though, intellectually, I know it's not my fault - guilt is something almost all people feel when someone in their lives kills themselves. Depression. Tears. Anger. \n\nThat's all that killing yourself would do for the people in your life. Suicide is a selfish action. I suggest that you examine your motives for it a lot more closely, because it's really more about how you feel than how they feel. And please get help.
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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I was just having this conversation with God yesterday with the same question?  I didn't know it was for you.\nThere is only one reasonyou are feeling this way.  Everything, believe it or not, was created for a purpose-- even you. \n          " For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not harm you.  To give you a hope and future."  Jeremiah 29:11\n Sex was for made for the coming together of a man and a woman but not outside of the marriage guidelines.  Sex is a beautiful thing and even more beautiful when it is with someone who loves you despite your bad breath, messy hair.  It is even more beautiful when that person is someone God has especially chosen for you and has strengths that you do not have and sees that a relationship with God is first priority and being everything that God has created him for as being part of that (loving husband, good provider, great father).  This person does exist.  Now that i know the truth of the matter in those people who might seem like they are happy are not happy they just have not been told by someone how special they are and that they are loved and accepted no matter their flaws.  So they go with what everyone else or so they think, does.  Sweetie,  you are special and there is no reason for you to sell yourself cheap.  You have been bought for a high price already and no one can pay as much as He can for your life.  I wasn't a virgin when I got married,  but everyday I wish that i could have waited.  God didn't set up laws to punish us, but to protect us( needless hurt, pain,  wasted time, disease and baby mama/daddy drama).  There is no such thing as separating love and sex unless you have a heard heart or no heart at all.  Don't try to fit into the world's standards-follow God's and he'll send you your true mate.     \nJesus loves you.( now smile)
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Isn't this one of life's biggest questions?  Ultimately it is through your day to day choices as to whether you have a good life or not.  For example, if you make bad or questionable choices at work and end up getting fired, well, that's your fault.  You, however, have no control over other people's ability to make choices for themselves.  Sometimes unfortunately, other peoples stupid mistakes affect us and then we have to deal with them.  If you're in a good relationship, then you chose well.  If your future looks bright, keep it that way by always looking at the bright things.  If you're "ultra-depressed" something tells me that you are not a "cup is half full" person.  Try being optimistic for a change.  When something goes bad, try to find the good things in your life.  I'm married and when things get financially tough for my husband and me we try to look at what we do have instead of the things we don't have: we are healthy, we have food on the table, we have each other, etc.  I know it sounds so lame, but let me tell you, I am a much happier person when I count my blessings instead of being the victim.\n\nI have a friend who has crap thrown her way ALL the time.  I've never seen someone have to deal with as much as she does and most of it is stuff that is completely out of her hands (she has multiple schlerosis, can't EVER have kids, husbands job is crap, etc.).  But she is the most upbeat person I have ever met.  She never complains when it would totally be in right to do so.  She always worries about other people's simpler problems.  She's pretty amazing.  I wish I could have the same outlook and understanding that she apparently has on life.  Maybe try it.\n\nWell, good luck with your life!
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I do not believe it is Always possible to stay Positive and happy. But I do believe that if you try to do at least one thing a day that makes you feel good about you that will help. Whenever an event happens that makes you sad you should try to do or find something to make that situation a wee bit better.Try to figure something about that situation that will make you feel a tiny bit better(if there isn't anything try to think about something you may be able to that in itself will help ? HUGS
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LIFE IS A RISK, A JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES STARTS WITH A STEP.\nTHE BEST WAY TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF IS WHEN YOU ARE TRUELY FULLFILLED, NO MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF HAPPINESS,,,,,,.\nRIGHT KNOW YOU ARE FEELING LOW, BUT GUESS WHAT, DIG OUT YOUR SELF ESTEEM FROM WHERE EVER YOU BURIED IT AND MOVE ON. YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE, DON;T ALLOW NO MAN BRING YOU DOWN. NOBODY IS ABOVE EDUCATION, OR BETTER STILL LEAERN A TRADE! YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY GIRLFRIEND.
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Artificial Seet: it doesnt work like that. you could have an amazingly perfect life, and stil lbe depressed. depression is usually related to a chemical impabalance.\n\nto answer the question, no, it's not wrong. there's nothing wrong with you wanting them to be happier then you. essentially, it's nice. now, to want it only vuz they can lift u up, tht's kinda selfish, but it's reasonable and rational. we all want a good support system. so you're totally fine in feeling that way.
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Always remember, happiness is a state of the mind...\nwhen we are happy our mind is the one that gives us this feeling of happiness not the heart...-lil bro\n\nIts because of the Hypothalamus in the brain which controls our emotions. I wish I could take it out(or at least the part of it  which controls the emotions which I dunno where)...if only it werent that important...(it controls our whole body!) then we can live without emotions. Now that would be fun.   -me ü
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Hey Olivia,\n  Yes, you do sound depressed (understandable), no you are not happy and no you are not living a normal life.  But the key words in your question were "I hate life but I think it's worth living because every day is different".  That means to me you are a very smart, emotionally balanced and mature young women that is gonna be "okay".  Just remember what is going on is not your fault or responsibility and that as long as you believe every day is different, you have the ability to overcome this and many more obstacles in your life!  You're gonna be okay kid!
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No this isn't the life I had imagined.  It is both better and worse, depending on when I was doing the imagining.  But I have a lot to be grateful for, if I look for it.  I married my best friend, we have a nice but modest home, and we are both employed.  We have friends and family who love us.  Although not in perfect health, we are mobile and not living in constant pain.  Our needs are taken care of and sometimes some of our wants.  There are folks who have more than and less than us---but as long as we are grateful for what we have things are good.  Very good.\n\nLife IS an adventure---regardless of where you are.  Really look around you to see all of the people you have the opportunity to make a difference in.  Even the little things that you say to a child or stranger may make a difference.  When I remember the simple things that people said to me that changed my life, I doubt that those people knew how much it would mean to me years later.  To love and be loved is the most productive anyone can be.  To give to others is the most rewarding thing you could do in life.\n\nAre you only concentrating on the positive things in your life that you want to grow or the negative things?
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hey, hello :)\nseems like you know you have some issues to overcome, i say you are almost there!\ndon't be miserable. everyone goes through this kind of emotions @ least once in our lifetime.\ni know this feeling too. sometimes, you feel so empty, miserable & unworthy. and every time,when you try to take 1 step forward, you end up taking 2 steps backward.\ntry to start a routine of exercizing, mix with positive people & read joke books.\ndon't ever indulge in self-pity & regrets. the darkest hours are just before dawn. life is a grindstone; and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him depends on what stuff he's made of.\nif you really look around you, everyone has problems too. what makes them happy is that they try to overcome their problems one @ a time.