I have been talking to this guy for about 2 months. His now ex just left him for her ex. The guy was in love w/ her and I guess was really tore up when she left even though they were only together a few months. I really like him, but he told me he just wants to be friends now. What is his deal and what can I do?
205302
It's always painful to be rejected by a guy, especially one you've been interested in for awhile.  However, unless he is just very broken up over his girlfriend and that's why he's uninterested in dating, he's probably just not interested.  He sees you as a friend, but nothing more than that.  \nAs for his deal, I don't know.  He probably really liked her and it's upsetting when someone you really like doesn't like you back.  As for what you can do, simply be his friend or move on.  Don't expect him to change his mind and stick around waiting for him.  He probably won't.  Simply find someone else you like and start talking to him.  I bet that you meet someone else just as great in a short amount of time and THIS time he won't have a girlfriend.
501582
She's the ex,no matter what she says or wants he's with you now and that says it all,if you trust him this shouldn't be a problem. Don't let this break you up, you have made the effort to be friends with her too by asking to meet her so if I were you I would just let it drop. Good luck x
30896
it might be hard for the friend to let go and then seeing his ex getting on with her life when he hasnt moved on hurts him .\nanswer stop seeing him and date the girl
323002
He is obviously not matured enough to continue this friendshi. Don't hold on to him. Just let go that baby. If you are interested in another guy don't keep yourself busy with thoughts about the old one.
281172
it sounds to me as if he is using you. He is keeping you on a string in case things don't work out with his ex. If there is nothing going on between them, than he wouldn't have a problem letting her know that he is in love with you. I think you need to move on and find someone who will treat you the way that you deserve. You don't deserve to be used. Good Luck\n\nk.m.
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..
218807
If you do not want to get back with your ex then you should not be involved with him and his present partner as just a "FRIEND".\nThat may be the root of the problems that they are having that send him running to you for "ADVISE".\nHe feels comfortable with you because the two of you have history and he maybe testing the Waters to find out if you are willing to forgo a friendship and try a relationship once again.\nThe best thing you can do is steer clear of constant contact with them as a couple.
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
99262
Its time to leave him alone when you realize that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn't have a regard for you and your feelings. being a man, I can tell, he's just playing on you and your emotions.\n\nHe is now your EX - means that he is part of your past. Better move on and I am sure you will find someone who will give you decency and respect. if you'd like to be friends with him, not at this time. Once both of you are "settled", may be that's the time for you to consider being his friend (that is if you will still have time and energy to think even about it).
526369
duhhhhh he's keepin you around just in case. things might not be going as well as he wished with shit new girl. so he's gettin back with you as "friends".\n\non the other hand, he might be genuinely interested in a friendship.\n\npersonally, i think he's just tryin to keep those lines of communication open. maybe its time for you to move on and find a boyfriend so it doesn't matter what he wants.
37281
He doesn't like you, he wants you, there's a difference. He may have realized he lost a good thing, but that's the key; he lost it. You have a new guy now and he sounds like he's not to bad a guy. Your ex on the other-hand approached you and tried to get you to dump your guy! If he cared at all for what you felt he'd have left you alone.
334912
ok. ummm... maybe he just wants to be friends with you cuz hes not ready for a relationship or it could be that he thinks you guys would be better of as friends.
357277
You need to decide who's more important--your friend or his ex. I realize that you're friends with both of them, but I'm assuming you've known your guy friend longer. \n\nIn that case, he's more important, I'd say. Tell him what's going on with this girl. Forget about her feelings; clearly she has no regard for anyone else's feelings, so why should give a sh*t about her's?
78207
Be there for him. Not in a relationship sense, but as a friend. Let things take their course with that relationship. Let him get over her. and then see what's in the cards for you two. You want to make sure that when you two start something, that both of you are not bringing baggage into this new promising relationship. Let me know how it turns out.
331763
whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
124062
guy sounds like he just wants to move on.  she will get over him eventually, eveyone gets over a boyfriend/girlfriend eventually.
188039
If he's admitted he still has feelings for his ex then if i were you i would leave him alone, he's using you to help him get over the brake down of his marriage!! you deserve better than that tell him how you feel and that what he's doing is wrong, people need time to get over stuff like that! walk away before you get really hurt! :)