Ive been friends with this girl for some time now.  She had a boy friend, but she and I were really good friends.  Ive been startin to feel for her.  She told me that there would be no chance with us gettin together.  Ive done so much for her.  I feel like crap now.  Why does it feel like I lost a girl that Ive been dating for months?
217868
You fail to accept that she is NOT the one for you, and she keeps being nice to you, giving you fulse hope. You have to figure out what you want in a women, then find reasons why it isnt in her, this will help you move on and see that this women is not for you, if she was then you would have her. Stop feeding in to each other, she dont want you, but she will always be nice to you, and you have to accept it.
599868
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
381931
She's just feeling uncomfortable,same as you. It will take awhile for you two to get back to the friendship you had-so take it slow and just let her know that you value her friendship,and will always be there for her.
509152
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
479826
well, i honestly am going through the same sitch right now..i think it more of being jealous that your friend doesn't have time for you anymore & is more likely to be with the guy she is dating..
218598
casual dating is the WORST!  my best friend was in that position b 4.  It basically means that she will have a date with you on the nights she cant get someone else.  sorry to be the bare of bad news, but thats really how it is.  if she wont be serious with you now, the feelings wont grow and their isn't a future.  she will stick w/ you for some action on the lonely nights.
324708
Dang! from the stuff you wrote it sounds like you were a good boyfriend and even better a good friend... She's just an ingrate, you just have to move on and I promise you, you'll find someone who would consider herself to be lucky to be with you. Good luck wish you well and don't change you did nothing wrong.
215357
Your X-friend is just that. She is not your friend. Stop playing her game with her and move on. You can rest assured that someday she will be sorry she lost a real friend and she will know why.
20112
Well if you have to find out from someone else how she feels about you, it was never there.\n\nShe's a friend, move on
546579
Your old friend is probably feeling betrayed by you.  She thought that she was doing a good thing by being nice to the 'new girl' and in turn has lost her best friend.  \n\nyou probably need to make it known that she still means as much to you as before and that you dont want another person to come between you.  Good luck and let me know what happens
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sorry 2 hear tht... yeah i saw ur other questions about ths guy b4. actually i also experienced ths kinda situation b4. at first, i was really good friend with ths grl & passed 2 funfull yrs until i found out tht i love her. and i had hint tht she loved me too. but other things came up i couldn't give her a chance 2 express herself. but whn i expressed myself, she rejected saying tht she never felt like ths towards me, which's a lie. also all on a sudden she hooked up with some1 else to take myself off her mind & replace me with him. the most shocking part is, being heartbroken i still tried to be her friend but slowly she made a distance between us & destroyed our beautiful friendship.\n\nmy point is, affection towards a friend happens all the time. but there r some issues involved regarding friendship, other ppl around u etc. as a friend, u were suppose 2 knw tht he already has a gf. but u didn't, which is not usual. so mayb he doesn't hav any gf & story of having a gf is the most reasonable way to dump u with hurting u less. and don't bother if he doesn't like u or not. if he didn't like u, u wouldn't be yur friend. but it can be true tht he's not feeling attracted 2 u as he told u. tht doesn't mean tht u r not attractive or he doesn't like u. there can be a lot of different reasons involved regarding friendship or something else.\n\nfrom my opinion, look into yur heart. if u think tht u really want him & u knw tht he has actually feelings for u thn stick 2gether & mayb someday things'll work out. but the downside is u donno if thts gonna happen. so there's a chance to get heartbroken again frm the same person for the same reason. on the other hand, continue being friend & move on, find another guy who understands u & doesn't hurt u like ths. but whtever happens, yur friendship wth ths guy will not gonna be same frm now on.\n\nhope ths works. feeling sorry 4 u!
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You might need to consider the possibility that she has met someone else. It's very comfortable having an ex as a friend when you are single - especially if they care about you the way you clearly care about this girl. But when you meet someone new and they are giving you that special attention you find you don't need the friend as much. Plus, it can be a bit awkward explaining things if you know this person still has feelings for you. Maybe send her an email just saying that if she doesn't feel like talking that it's ok but could she just let you know if she is ok. But you might have to accept that friend or no friend, you will not always be that special someone for her. Maybe its time to find a special someone for yourself and move on.
15358
You have to follow your heart.  if you don't have feeling for the person you're with, it's time to move on.  It's near impossible to not hurt who your with now, but in the long run you're going to feel better for it.  Plus, it'll spare the person your with of even more grief in the future.
552100
Well, this seems to be a tricky situation. I have been in a similar, yet not so intimate situation, with another friend. Now let me tell you what I did to solve the situation. This answer may give you an idea as to what your next step should be. \nI didn't feel the same way because I thought it was forced. I love my friend in lots of ways but when it feels forced then it is hard to get past the idea that we are not friends. At that time I felt uncomfortable. He likes me still. But I told him that we could just be friends. Now we are still friends and we're glad for it. Sometimes the timing may not be right or she feels it is forced. At this moment cherish the fact that you guys are friends. When the time feels right she will automatically open up to you. At that time, it will not feel forced and you will not have lost a good friend. Remember people feel uncomfortable and forced in many different ways.\nSee, differences between individuals are evident in any relationship, but it is how one handles those differences within the relationship that matters. Are you willing to lose a good friend over your desire for it to be more than that? Decision is up to you.
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I guess u can't. bcuz, the little things that girls/guys do means something to the other person alot. Would u forgive  him,if he did that w/ur friend? hey, cheer up, if he comes back, i hope you learned ur lesson and if not, move on. Cuz you can't let this bug you for the rest of ur life. plus, ur just gonna feel depress all the time. Hope everything works out! :)
499556
people who had been in a bad relationship may feel this way. give her time and just be her friend for now...
305291
nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!