I'm only in my mid teens and I'm still a virgin but I have difficulty expressing myself and how I feel. When I think about it, my life could be considered close to perfect. Though this is not how I see it. To put it simply, I'm a typical teenage girl with many different insecurities.
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That was a very good description of many teenagers, well said! \n\nMood swings are normal when your body is changing, when you are faced with peer pressure and thoughts of sex, and you aren't sure if you're fitting in to where you want to be, or even if you're not sure who you want to be.\n\nClose to perfect life? Thats a very liberal compliment to your family and surroundings, and if you aren't finding happiness at this moment then I would have to say you worry too much and hold yourself accountable so much that you may be getting the blues from being overwhelmed by it all. \n\nInsecurities, every teen has them, whether it dealing with their appearance in acne issues, thinking it's time to start dating, but not knowing who the nice people are that would treat you with respect, worrying about your grades in school and maybe even already being pressed to think about college.  This is all very normal too, but do try to relax a bit, enjoy the simple pleasures more, criticise yourself less, and roll with everything that comes your way, knowing that every teen has experienced some times of confusion and uncertainties, and if you need to speak to your school councelor about worries that are making you very sad, their doors are always open.
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lol, agree!!  I'm 15, and I dont have a bf yet, and everyone thinks there's something wrong with me!  I dress the way I want, act the way I want, and dont really "fit in" anywhere.  Good luck, dont feel like your alone, cause I know EXACTLY what you're going through.
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Just think of hating yourself as a waste of your life. Work on liking yourself more and gather some confidence up. Everyone can find someone they enjoy being with, or multiple partners. You're only 20. I know people that didn't lose their virginity until much older. Your life doesn't have to be perfect fresh out of your teenage years. When you like yourself more (I know it's hard) then gradually people will take notice. It mostly depends upon how you carry yourself. Also, try approaching more women, if you don't talk to anyone, you won't get noticed as much.
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We all loose our virginity eventually.  Whether its a good thing or not, really only depends on you.  If you felt it was right at the time then why bother with anyone else.     The only person to judge you , is you and no one else.   Now that you have lost your virginity,  just be careful.   And it does get better.   I just hope the guy likes you too and isn't just using you.   Take care.
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It's normal and healthy to be a virgin at the age of 11. Kids on school buses always tease younger kids, and this is apparently the best they can do - obviously there's nothing else about you that they can tease you with.\n\nAnd yes it's normal to start thinking about sex at your age and to have sexual thoughts and feelings. It doesn't mean you act on those feelings. \n\nWhat if someone asks you for sex? You say NO, I am only 11! \n\nHolding hands or getting a kiss on the cheek should be a big deal at your age. There is no way that you can be ready for sex at 11.
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I think it also includes purity of your thoughts, your conduct, your speech and your attitudes.  It's not just about being a virgin.  You can be a virgin and still have a very impure inside.
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you obviously have self-esteem issues. i don't know your age, but this is normal for a teen. if you're older, you may want to consider therapy to get over your issue, unless there's a reason you subconsciously want to avoid women (fear of intimacy, think you're not good enough, overweight, etc...) I recognize the city you are in (near pv mall), nice to talk to a phoenician!
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My virgintiy was important to me.  Me and my fiance gave our virginity to each other and we considered it to be the most precious and beautiful thing that we could give each other.  It is very special to us that we lost our virginity to each other.  I hav found myself and (i know some of my friends feel the same), that when you lose your virginity to someone, it is as if a bond almost a blood bond has been formed between you both.  and no matter what else you do, it will always be with you.\n\nVirginity should be equally important to men, i believe it is to many men but they are loathed to admit it because of the way they have been socialised.\n\nIf I loved someone and they were not a virgin i would marry them if they loved me but I would much prefer the situation I currently have.  I am lucky to be marrying the man who i lost my virginity to and who lost his virginity to me.
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Yes I was.  I was a virgin until I was 22.  I don't regret waiting at all.  But I wait because I wasnt ready to have sex with anyone that I had met prior to that point.
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Im glad to hear that there r  some more smart girls in the  world than i thought!!! i live in europe and rare who loose virginity being 16 or earlier there. I know in US there is different.  Congradulations!!!  Dont be affraid...U know when i lost mine? Last  year, being 21. And im very glad about that. Cause  i found that guy who i want to be with all my life...  And  i am so proud i could had that  moment with him only.  im not sorry   i have been waiting till this moment so long. I remember the minute, wheh i told him i am still a virgin. He was. liek "wow...  im proud.."  trust me, he adores me now, cause  nowadays it is so  hard to find virgin girls..  We r going to get marriage in the future...  And i am so happy :))))))\n\nSo dont   be affraid..If u feel  this is a man u wanna be with,  of course tell him, he is going to be first. I odnt see anything u should be shame of... What going on with the world today...   Why we r trying to get adults so fast..  There r so many pure things, which we r forced to be shame of...\n\nI am with you!!!!\n\nSo wish u luck  on sharing that special moment with a guy u love and wnat to be with.   U will always rememebr that moemnt :))))))))\n\nps. sorry, if my english is not as perfect as i wish it to be :))))))))))
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Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
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Slow down, I mean you don't want to be desparate like that and just go out and do it. I know that for now it seems like you are just "whatever I want it" but in the long run you'll regret losing your virginity like that and will wish it was different. So just wait until its special and you will see that it was completly worth it to wait.
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No. I'm not a virgin. I lost my virginity at 15. It was not a good experience. I was with someone I loved, someone I'm still with to this day (over a year later). But I wasn't ready. In truth, I didn't really know what was happening until it was too late. Don't get me wrong, I knew what sex was. I just didn't know we were going to have it. Lol. I felt pressured. He was 18 and extremely experienced. And when I say extremely, I mean he'd been with 33 girls before me. I also didn't like the WAY it happened. There were no candles, no soft music. Just a movie playing. And it was rushed and tense because my grandparents were in the other room. So if you're thinking about having sex for the first time, loving the person's not the only thing you have to worry about. Make sure you're completely comfortable with the idea. Make sure you're alone and you use protection. (Which I didn't.) Plan ahead of time. And make it special. Remember, you only get one first time.
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yes, grow up.  I would guess you are around 14-17.  This is not uncommon to get this feeling.  I've been there, you will be there again.  The girl you meet that makes you feel good to be you and doesn't give you reason to worry, is the girl you want.  Don't settle for less.  There are a lot of unstable girls out there.  But remember, your young, girls at this age are just growing up too.  Don't be too hard on them.
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A lot are not virgins.  But I recommend staying one!  I am 25 been there done that.  All you will get is used and a bad rep.
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Well, I definitely don't think it's uncommon for guys to choose the "wrong" girl. Guys tend to think about the wrong thing when it comes to virginity, which is what they're doing instead of who they're doing it with. To me, it doesn't matter how old you are when you lose it, because it's not a contest. It's all about feeling comfortable with the person you're with and wanting it to be with them. I say to hell with today's standards because there are kids in elementary school these days having sex and getting pregnant - it's ridiculous! But somehow our society would rather have that than being embarrassed by a plethora of 25 year-old virgins.\n\nI never was phased by my peers when it came to my choices. I lost mine at a fairly "normal" age, which was 15, and it also needs to be kept in mind that I am much more mature in my thinking than others that age because of how I grew up with a bunch of brothers who were pretty promiscuous. I knew I wasn't going to do it unless I REALLY felt it was right, and that's exactly what happened. I am glad that I did it, because it helped me learn even more (but in a good way since it was my own content choice). And, I haven't had any other partners since him.\n\nI say, don't have any shame if you lost it at 20 - I actually praise you for that because most guys would have broke down just to be a part of the crowd well before that. But if you wish it was with another girl, just take it as future advice for yourself. You can't change what happened before but you know how to feel about it now, so I think that's what's important. I'd rather be like that than someone who does it with 10 wrong girls.
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Hi there,\nI know that the pressure of being a virgin is extremely hard for one to handle, especially in the Western societies that we live in; but virginity is worth striking for.  \nI'm in my 20s and the group of friends that I have is also in their 20s and we are all virgins.  I think the most important thing that one needs to keep in mind is that virginity is for ONESELF, not for anyone else (or sometimes you might wanna save it for you future husband).  Once you are determined about it, it would be less difficult when you think of whether to have sex or not.  \nMy friends and I choose not to have sex before marriage b/c we see SEX as LOVE, and we respect our body as well as our partners'.  When you love someone unconditionally, you don't just want to own the physical body, do you??  Moreoever, when one has premarital sex, the wedding is not something that precious and special anymore, don't you think???  What is it special about the wedding night if you've already know everything about the other person???\nI also have friends who had sex in their teen years and most of them regreted later on.  Most of them lived for the moment and after that, they are the ones who "loose".  Plus, when we are in our teenage years, we don't really know what love is!!!  Believe me, when you find the one who really loves and cares for you, he wouldn't might if you want to save sex for marriage.  (My bf and I both compromise on that, and we're pretty happy).  Hope you find this a helpful!!  Good luck!