I am 17 and will be turning 18 in 4 months and i am going to be getting married to the man the ripped my heart out over a year ago. But he says he's changed and I'm not sure but i love him ...but my big question is i wont see him for another 2 months and haven't seen him in over a year. and alot of ppl have been trying to get to go have alot of fun before i tye myself down...and having alot of fun includes sex and parties. if you all were in my spot right now would keep tight til you man made it home  in a couple months or would you live these last couple months like they are your last? i'm confused so please help
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Young lady, marriage is a VERY serious step to take.  If this man 'ripped your heart out' in the past, what makes you think he won't do it again after marriage?\n\nI'd BREAK THE ENGAGEMENT off!!...Then go out and parteeeeee to forget all about him!!
213038
Sweetie I moved in with my fiance before i ever graduated. We have been together for about 2 years and we are so happy together! It's hard to be in a relationship. Times get tough, but you have to pull through together. You need to be ready for the hard times, but i don't think age has anything to do with it. I mean, come on, married two years, and i'm only 18!!!
310959
r u over 21? r u mentally prepared to deal with inconsiderate onlookers.  u r prepared for the family members who r against this/ his and yours.    is he  worth your attention and r u worth his?   do you have atleast a few things in common..  are his and your intentions the same..   or similar.   if all the above is cool then go for it.
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hmmm, I would wait to get married. Doesn't mean you still can't date this guy. beside I'll bet anything your parents would never let you get married at this age. You are really young still, so whats the rush? If your still together in like 5 or 6 years, props to you and I wish you the best.\n\nIf it helps you any, I met my fiance when I was 14, and I knew in a year that we had a great relationship. BUT, I'm 18 now, and we're only just engaged after nearly 4 years together (July 27th <3). I'm in no hurry to marry, becuase the piece of paper doesn't change how we feel. And I want a nice wedding, and I still have a lot of saving to do! ~.^ good luck!
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Love is an action as much as a feeling. Show your WHOLE family how you feel and you can't go wrong.\n  My daughter got married March 3rd. We are very close and it has been a challenge. She & her husband invited mom & Dad to help them get their new place how THEY want it inside & out! We are having a great time getting to know her new husband even better and feeling useful too. We also have them over for cook outs and to help us rearrange our home. \n  This isn't easy for any of us and learning to give eachother space can be just as important as keeping eachother close. I'm relearning much about my husband as we finally get alone time we haven't had for years!!! Just remember your loved and this is your chance to pass on to your husband all the love and caring your parents taught you. Love is always the answer!
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Serious question here, and lots of things to consider.  Let's see if we can sort through all this.\n\nFirst of all, you say you've been together for seven months.  I wonder how old you and he are.  The red flag that jumped out at me is that you are both still living at home.  These days, I know that can mean anything from 19-29.  But if you don't have a steady job (preferably a career and a vocation), if you don't have your own transportation, and if you don't have financial independence, marrying is not a good idea.  He also needs to have a steady job, a vehicle and financial independence.  \n\nThat you are having second thoughts is a good thing.  He sounds like he still has a ways to grow up if he's still trying to leave home.  You sound like you have a way to go yet toward financial independence if you are living at home too.  When you say that you want to have little flings and talk to other guys, though, this tells me you are not ready for marriage because your heart is not truly in it.  You need to keep dating and work on your education, your job skills and your life management skills.  All these things are coming along, but don't sound quite developed enough yet.\n\nAlso, you should never have to pressure someone to marry.  A marriage proposal should come out of the blue with no pressure at all.  That someone feels the need to pressure someone else says that there is a power struggle going on, and that's a very unhealthy way to start married life.  \n\nThere is such a word as divorce, because there are many, many "starter marriages".  No matter your religion or personal beliefs, 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.  And divorce is a hard but positive thing ultimately, because there is no point living miserably.  Divorce is hard to go through, but people survive it, and go on to thrive afterward.  Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, things just don't work out like we plan.  People grow apart, want different things, change and life throws us curveballs to boot.  \n\nEnjoy your single life for a while longer yet.  You may want to keep seeing your boyfriend, or you may want to re-evaluate the relationship and see if you want to stay with him or move on.  Don't be afraid to move on.  Be more afraid of getting into a rut or becoming too fearful that you'll never find someone else.  Nonsense!  With six BILLION people in the world, no worries about finding someone to date and/or marry ultimately.\n\nGood luck with this.  Cheers, K
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Im 29yrs old and speaking as someone older i have this advice for you. Leave age out of it. Your older than legal age so it is not of concern. How do YOU feel about him? Really. if you love him, see where it leads. make sure he treats you right!! I had a friend who was 19 at the time and married a guy 29. they just had there first child - still very much in love. it depends on the situation. one step at a time. see where it leads and make sure he treats you right.
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When my husband and I started out on our relationship over 17 years ago we did not have a lot of things. We rented an apartment and several houses along the way, have had several vehicles that turned out to not be very reliable, and even had to stay with my parents a few times. We are still together and stronger then ever.We now have a house of our own { for 3 years now} and a reliable truck to get him back and forth to work.  So do I think that a relationship can last? Yes, definitely. As long as you truly love one another and really want it to work then nothing can stand in your way. I hope that I have answered your question and good luck. By the way, I was only 16 when I got married and we have been married for 17 years and together for 2 years before that. We made it and so can you!
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Young and Vibrant, only last so long. Do your thing, that keeps you alive. There's nothing wrong with going out dancing with family and friends. When two people get together, it shouldn't be where you dictate to one another. The age difference maybe, one of your issues. He has been there done that, 23 it's your stage to go through. LOVE does not trainee you, it sustains you,  when no one else will.  All we can do is truly LIVE for ourselves. Share Great Times with the ones who really LOVE You being You!
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Honey, I got married when I was 18!! I graduated in May and got married in October, so it's not wrong!! Everyone is probably just jealous because you have a man and they don't!! Don't pay them any attention!! It's not their business if you're engaged or not!! Congrats...good luck and I hope you have a wonderful wedding!!
324275
I can relate to him.  Most say men reach there peak at 18, but I feel like I am still in it.  You have to ask yourself how you feel about it.  Is it something that you can handle?  If you are going to get married, this question will need an answer first.
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My high school sweetheart and I got married about 4 months ago. I gradutaed in 2001, so we waited so we could make sure that we did what we wanted in life and also make sure that we truly wanted to be together and spend a life together. People change when they get out of high school, and especially if they are going to college. I would wait until the college years are over, because you never know what the future holds, and if you both make it during these years and nothing tears you apart, then go for it, the wait is worth the anticipation. Good Luck, and I hope you the best.
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It depands on the couple's level of maturity.  If he pops the question, tell him that you would prefer a long engagement.  This will give you both a chance to grow with each other and find out it it is right.  I wouldn't get married just yet...  heck, you are only 18, you can wait a year or two...
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I THINK HE LOVES YOU BUT MAYBE Y'ALL SHOULD JUST POSTPONE THE WEDDING UNTIL MAYBE YOU'LL CAN GET BOTH FAMILY'S TO GET ALONG. MY OPINION THE SHOULD NOT PUT THEIR NOSE IN WHERE IT DON'T BELONG. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF ON OF YOU WAS BEING ABUSIVE TO OTHER. IF YA LL REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YA LL NEED TO SIT FAMILIES DOWN AND TELL THE THAT Y'ALL ARE GETTING MARRIED ON////// DATE. AND THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT CAUSE Y'ALL LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YALLS LIFE TOGETHER. MAKE SURE YOU REALLY EXPRESS HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO Y'ALL FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY TO BE THERE FOR YAWLS BIG DAY...I DO PRAY FOR Y'ALL, Y'ALL SHOULD PRAY TOGETHER ON THIS SITUATION God DOES ANSWER PRAYERS, IF YOU REALLY OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. GOOD LUCK AND god bless you !!!!!
202105
I'm not like miss conservative, but I don't see the harm in waiting a little bit longer to see where you two are in another month.. but it really is a personal decision.. and since you are asking here, I am guessing yuo aren't ready and he is?  Be careful, only do what YOU are willing to do without pressure from anyone.  That's very important for your self-respect.  ok?  Best of luck to you!
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sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
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You should treat everyone with respect. \n\nYou may not be ready for marriage yet, but he may be.  Have you considered whether he might be the right husband for you?\n\nIf you decide he is, don't let him get away.