I have a guy friend who I'm really close to and naturally, some warm and fuzzy feelings have developed from my side! We talk every night for hours, he sends me text messages late at night, we go out and party together and we spend a lot of time together. We flirt all the time and there are a lot of sexual innuendos in our conversations. 1st Question: Does he like me back? 2nd Question: What should I do - he has a long distance relationship, sees his GF twice a year, and he's not sure whether he should be with her. Can I make a move and how?
212484
Well, the flirting is a good start on your part, and a good sign on his. Try and move the conversation around to his girlfriend to see is he has moved on. If not, put your arm around him or on him etc SYMPATHETICALLY. If he likes this, you can do it more often. Ask pertinant questions. Some males are wimps and like the women to be in control. If he has already done stuff like this though, its time to let him take the driving seat. Remember though, go with your heart, but you may have a better relationship if you are just friends.
339070
u know its funny...this has happened with me and my extremely close friend just recently...we always flirt and it feels like something more than just a regular friendship and i want that...but she is confused and doesnt want to lose me.  i still have feelings for her and we talk a lot and are very close.  i am still trying to be myself yet i am trying to develop a different and closer relationship.  i say you just keep trying to do what you want and just see how it turns out.  whos to say another guy wont come around if this doesnt work out. good luck
622380
how does he act when you are together? Does he treat you like a friend or a g/f?  is he romantic with you? Ask him.
155110
From reading your description, it's sooo obvious that he likes you. I mean, why else would he hold your hand or rub your leg while at the movies. And hang out with you? If he doesn't like you, why would he wanna spend 5 hours talking on the phone to you? So YES, HE LIKES YOU. Now, if you like him back, just tell him that you like him and i'm sure he'll say that he'll like you back. :)
375038
I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL MAYBE HE FEELS THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU AND HE'S AFRAID TO TELL YOU AND IF YOU TELL HIM AND HE LIKES YOU BACK MAYBE YOU AND HIM CAN WORK SOMETHING OUT TO SEE EACH OTHER MORE. ( BUT REMEMBER A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP CAN BE GOOD BECAUSE IF YOU SEE HIM ONLY A LITTLE EVERY KISS IS LIKE THE FIRST...... SPECIAL)
644145
would you believ the same thing has just happend to me. bout 4 months ago i ran into this guy i went to school with and we started chatting and i got his number. later in the week i got a msg from him and we were talking about school and how we were friends and how i used to really like him. he then replied that he liked me and wish he had relised what he had missed out on in school and he should have hooked up with me.\nwe continued to msg each other and after a week he said that he still had feelings for me. the only problem with the whole situation is i met another guy and now im engaged, i got so confused on what to do but he still says now that he really likes me and i should leave the other guy. of course im not.\nAnyway the point to all this is yes there is a chance for you both as long as neither of you are in a relationship. a way to find out is by saying that you used to like him and find out where you stand with him. invite him out for dinner or a movie or something and try and spend time with him. you will soon know if he likes you or not.\nGood luck and hope this helps
371584
just tell him that you really liked him and that you would want to keep in touch with him.  is he coming back?  just wait and keep in touch with him.  as time goes by your hearts will began to grow fonder of one another and if it is meant to be it will happen.  as for now if you just want to get some lovin, I would say don't do that because it will ruin everything even the friendship.  just call him once a week or bi-weekly when he leaves and make sure the conversations are good.  Also every now and then just say that you met this guy and you went to a movie or something to make him a little jealous but when you do this make sure he knows that you two are just friends but don't over do the friend part.  you know what to do.  or that's an idea take him to a dinner and a movie for a going away gift and just when he thinks he's going to get some be strong and leave!!!!
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well first of all you should find out how he feels about you!!!!! I think you should flirt with him and if he flirts back with you he's at least a little interested... then take it form there if he does it back start talking to him about what you guys have in common or talk about what you like to do if he shares the same interests try saying maybe you guys could do it together but if he doesn't then just flat out ask him to do go out to a party or something.... life's to short to waste on worrying about what he's gonna think ... i hope i helped\nSarah
293943
No, don't start something that can't last. If you think it can last after you move then give it a try. I think the guy needs to tell your friend that he has feelings for you. If your relationship will ruin your friendship with your friend then don't do it.
171905
He was defiantly flirting.  Odds are that he has always liked you as more than a friend and though this was a good chance to give it a shot and see what might happen.  Chances are though that if something had happened he wouldn't have left his girl friend.
39899
Dear Penny,\nBefore asking any questions, or even analysing the myriad of eye movements, hand gestures and pupil dilating which probably indicate commitment, think what YOU want from this relationship. \n\nThe previous respondent talked about friends with benefits, but in this instance I have the feeling it applies to you also. \n\nSo: how do you feel about him? Honestly? Do YOU want to commit? If the answer is yes, be brave, be honest, and let him know you're ready to take this relationship to the next level.\n\nGood luck!
85848
I would let him know how I feel.Just because he is moving doesn't mean there can't be a relationship. If your to shy to talk to him drop him a line and let him know that way. Who knows maybe he feels the same way about you.
80162
Let me tell you this. its all up to you. It's either he likes you back or he doesn't. I've been in your exact situation before. I'm female and I developed feelings for my best friend who's also a girl. one day, we were just chatting about normal stuff and i basically blurted out to her that i had feelings for her. she told me that what she felt for me was totally platonic and she didn't think of me any other way. Honestly, it killed me for a while. However, today, the relationship that the two of us have is even closer than the one we had before i told her. We didn't have any sort of awkwardness between the two of us. The only shitty thing is that I still feel for her and although I make it seem like I don't feel for her anymore, inside, I just wanna kiss her everytime she opens her mouth to speak. But I have to say that I was really lucky cuz its really rare that two people can overlook the fact that one person feels more for the other than usual. The funniest thing is that til today, my confession is still discussed between the two of us. Recently, I just asked her if it was the right thing to tell her about it in the first place. And, according to her, my confession saved our friendship. Cuz she had already suspected, but she was in denial about it, seeing that i was her best friend and all. But if i had not told her anything, she'd feel weird and eventually take a step back from the friendship.\n\nSo, whatever you do, just follow what your heart tells you to do. You could jokingly bring it up as a suggestion if you don't want to take the direct approach. See how he reacts, and if it's positive, just let it slip. Say that, you didn't really expect it to happen but it just did and you felt that you needed to let him know.\n\nGood luck though.
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Yes, please know what your intentions are before you do this though. If he is a friend, then you do not want to ruin the relationship. Are you only interested in a one time fling and still be friends? Do you want a meaningful relationship with commitment? Figure this out first and then go in with a open mind and hear out your suitor. Do be afraid to find that he wants to only be friends. Friends have more fun and are more intimate when there atracted to one another but know it will never go beyond that point...
172232
I'm sure he likes you "in that way" but he's probably just as freaked out and confused about it as you.  Sooner or later one of you will hurt the other, either by asking the other to "cross the line" or by dating someone else.  I think you could avoid that by trying to be VERY mature and sit down alone and talk about how the 2 of you feel about each other which is probably in the middle between "just friends" and wanting to jump into bed with each other.  You freindship will not be the same after this talk but it might be a better alternative than waiting until this timebomb is set off by hormones rather than diffused by the 2 of you taking an honest look at how much you really care about each other, your special friendship, and I'm sure that niether of you wants to hurt the other emotionally.
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Bsically, this guy is completley abusing your feelings for him. He wants a no strings attached relationship because this means he can do whatever he wants, whenever he wants and he does not have to make any real effort with you or show you any commitment. He just wants a bit of fun. Now if you're ok with this, theres nothing worng with it but as you have taken time to come on here and ask this question, I'm guessing your feelings for this guy are pretty strong and that you wouldn't be ok with that kind of situation. If you really like him, this will end in tears. You must respect yourself and realise that you deserve much more than his.
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have you ever thought that maybe he just wants to be friends? maybe friends with benefits?  i know you can't truly stop feelings for someone, so don't ttry to.  tell him that you really like him, but you just want to know on what level he likes you.\ngood luck