I came home to a note telling me she had gone back to Canada that she was was done playing house oh and by the way Bob I never really did love you. and now she wants to come home but not until I go to her and we tlk about this ? over two months now ? what do you think ???? ***HELP***
218032
Do you love her? If yes, go talk to her at least, maybe she was in a bad space. If no, dump her a**.
564888
Why did you stop walking with her home?  Get over the nervous phase.  Silly, I am sure she has gotten the clue that you like her.  But how are you going to keep the fire so to speak going if you don't continue to walk her home.  Suggest a movie the next time you are walking with her, or out to grab a buger and fries :)  Baby steps and your there.  Gotta crawl before you walk and walk before you run :)  Good luck to you
463029
I think there is a chance that she hates you for leaving the country. I think she enjoyed the fact that you were around her, lending a hand when she needed it and when you left, she missed that helping hand and your company. That could be her reason for saying that she hates you.\n\nYou should call her to see how she is doing and talk about stuff. Dont talk to her about what you heard from your friends...dont even bring it up. If she doesnt want to talk to you, then what I said in my previous paragraph is wrong and what the others said in their answers is correct. (the "she is just an inconsiderate B*tch stuff)
102790
Dear Chery:\n\nI am sad that we have not spoken in such a long time.  I miss your company and your wit. \n\nI was hurt when you lied to me, and I may have over-reacted.  Whatever hard feeling we have, I wish we could put behind us because I value yur friendhsip too much to lose it.\n\nPleae let me know if you can overlook our differences and get back to being the friends we once were.\n\nIf you cannot forgive me, then at least stop sending me e-mails, because it just makes me hurt more.  \n\nAnd if that doesn't work, write to her and tell her she sucks. And the only reason you wanted to make up is that you wanted to put her in your will, but too late now.
314171
Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.
100482
Let her go.  She will come back.  I went through this with my daughter for the same reason yours want to leave.  It didn't take her long to figure out it wasn't so bad at home afterall.  I didn't rant and rave just let her go.  She found out for herself just what kind of dad she has and I didn't have to say a thing.  Kept our relationship on an even keel.
128912
Sometimes we go through these things before we find out why we left to begain with and than we want them back. So one more chance dont hurt if you still care. Go buy her a present and you two enjoy a special brithday together and if someone knocks on the door dont answer it. This will be both of your time alone.\n\nI came back and seen what else you typed she didnot show up then but if she is wanting to make up, try one more time you have nothing to lose. This time maybe different i sure hope so you seem to care alot and thats hard to get from someone is the love you have for her. From me to you i hope you find away for you both.
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She seems like she has some issues. I mean, for one thing she said clearly that she did not want to come over. Then she was like see you later, she was ready to get off the phone with you quick and definitely didn't want to talk any longer. She seems like she is sending you mixed signals, and if she doesn't like you, then she should just tell you. I mean, don't throw hints, just be like she wants to be friends. Then as for being shy, she could have just said that she didn't feel comfortable coming back to your place. You would have understood that I am sure. Basically, you should just see where it goes this time, if she tries to be intimate, like showing you affection, just come out and ask her what is up. Don't be rude, but be like, Do you like me? Do you see me as a boyfriend or just a friend. You need to know, because she can't be like I want you one second and then don't want to be around you next. She needs to be honest. I hope that whatever happens you don't get played, so if you can see it isn't going to get better, leave her alone.
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My question is . . . why do you care . . . you dump him for a reason.  Why do you care is she goes through the trash and take him home.\n\nI would be upset . . . I would just feel sorry for her . . . because she doesn't know what a jerk he is.
94347
First know why she came bacjk and why she left you... If it seems that its for your own good and know that she's got better things for you now... then see if she's true to what she is saying... why not... since she's the reason why your here...
513234
Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
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if she loved you she wouldnt be leaving you so often for someone else. i think she probably is after your money if she keeps coming back. i dont feel she will commit to you the way you would like her too and i dont think she is in love with you as well. i know you have invested a lot of time and your heart into this relationship but i would move on. tell her its over and see what her reaction is.
594283
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
388712
Now what exactly is she unhappy with?  My guess is she's not giving you the full story.  Did she suddenly decide that a married life and the responsibilities that go with it, is not what she wanted in the first place?  Was she upset with you because you were gone and she was feeling lonely?  Is there another man in the picture?  If you are even going to try to save your marriage, you need to do a heart to heart talk with her and find out what she wants out of the marriage.  If she wants out, then I guess she has made her choice.  Not much you can do about it then.
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she's f*cked up! why would she do that that is stupid.......i hope eveything turns out ok but that's really if YOU want to take it that slow, it's really your decision i'm just here to help you decide....e-mial me and i see if i can give you anymore tips if you guys get back together\nby the way i think you should get back together but on that certain day she has you guys talk or what ever say your busy that night or just don't pick up foor her and then call her another night and see if she gets mad. or if she sets a certain night to go out then say your busy that night and try to reschedule. if she gets mad i suggest dumping her cuz that really is f*cked up.\ni'll try to help you in the long run\n\n~matcher and love expert
170453
I understand what your going thru. My best friend is doing the same thing to me. I called her in November to ask her if she wanted to go out for her b-day and she hasn't called me since. I did find out that she is getting married(through a mutual friend) I have no idea what's going on w/her either. Like an earlier answer said, I'm sure she is probably dealing with something in her life right now that she doesn't feel so great about. Maybe she feels too bad to talk to you about it? Maybe she thinks you'll judge her. I would just do what I did. I called my best friend a couple of weeks back and left her a message on her cell. I told her that I didn't know what was going on but I still loved her and cared about her very much. We've been friends for 13 years and I have never judged her for anything she has done in the past and she can come to me with anything. After you've done that, all you can do as back off and give her some space. If she's truly the friend that you think she is(and like I think my best friend is) she'll come around. Just let her know that you are worried about her and want to make sure she's ok. If she continues to be this way, maybe you're better off without her. That's what I've decided.
299005
YOU sound nice. She sounds kinda mean (sorry) but it seems to me like she's using you.. and that you keep buying her presents and she justs takes them without doing anything for you... i can't see what YOU'RE getting from this relationship, but i don't really understand whY you want her back...