I have known my guy friend since we met in middle school - dated some in middle school and dated some in our freshman year of high school. Haven't seen or been in touch within two years - until just a month ago. We seemed to hit it off right away again when he came back into town from whatever he was doing on leave, and we decided to give each other a second chance (I was the one to break up in the first place, and now that I think about it from back then, I don't know why). Half the time he seems interested in me, and half the time he doesn't - all the while when I am interested in him. Because of his job in the Army National Guard (a desk person) and my time in college during the day, we hardly see each other, and we have some free time on the weekend - a couple hours with each other; sometimes. But, it is getting hard to keep his interest in me - can you help?
202766
It sounds as if you are a bit confused, Look at yourself, what this individual likes in you, what about you attracts him.when you find out then you can be the person he loves don't be pushy, give him space make suggestions, never dictate. Ask for his input in things you both do together. Be a lady not a woman, The times you both spend together should not necessary be quantity but quality, find out what turns him on be caring and loving but don't be too frivolous. Give him things to always think positive of you, Be honest in all you do and say
158449
From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
655167
Depends... if you were really good friends before, then he probably doesn't want to lose that aspect of the relationship. I have a good friend like this (we were best friends all through high school, then we "dated" a little in college, but when she didin't want to "get intimate" any more, we were able to maintain the friendship).\n\nIf you weren't great friends before, or never met until you started dating, or if it was maybe a short-lived relationship...then he is just keeping you on the line for a future hookup. It's a lot easier (for both of you) to hook up when you're needy because you've been together before. Plus maybe you were a great lay. \n\nThe only other option is he's still madly in love with you. He wants to keep in touch so that one day he can try to ge tback in your life, and maybe create a bigger flame. If you think it's option 2 or 3, and you're not interested...quit being his friend now it'll just hurt him later if you're not gonna be there for what he's expecting.
655066
Well the fact that you have been talking to this guy every night straight for a week is an indication he is interested.  Now, slow your roll!  If you just ended a bad relationship, try not to get caught up in worrying about where this guys head is at.  You mentioned that you didn't want to rush things but then again you are wanting signs that will tell you if he likes you so you won't be wasting your time.  How are you wasting your time if you aren't trying to rush things?   If anything, you should be looking at him as someone to talk to and if you both share a common interest, enjoy those things.  Down the road, see where things go,if nothing comes of it relationship wise, you might have made a good male friend.  It's possible.
61291
I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.
160250
Wow, this sounds familiar.  I have a guy friend like that who's a five hour plane ride away from me.  She's probably thinking the same thing you are.  She trusts you and likes you and wants more from the relationship, but she's afraid of ruining what she already has with you.  Which as she's told you, is very special to her.  If you really think it's a good idea and you guys can work it out to be together, talk to her about it.  She probably wants to be with you too but doesn't want to pressure you.  If not, always be a good friend to her and maybe there will come a time and place where everything will just click.  Good luck!  I hope it works out!
262335
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
426647
I've been in his shoes. The best thing to do is to let him down gently and don't let him think that there's any chance. That sounds difficult, I'm sure it is. \nTry this: "I really just like you as a friend and I don't see us as anything more. I'm sorry." \nIf he asks if there's ever a chance, tell him probably not. \nHe's in a really vulnerable position right now, but he'll appreciate being let down right away rather than dealing with someone who's afraid to hurt anyone's feelings. \nDon't feel guilty...that's just the way it is.\nChances are he'll be hurt and your friendship won't be the same ever again...but that's why they call it taking a risk.\nDon't use the "you're younger" excuse, in my opinion, I would just use the "it's not you, it's me" thing. And he won't like that, he'll probably eventually not want to talk to you for awhile, but that's the way it goes. \nI'm just being honest.\nP.S.- The "jeopardizing the friendship" thing is generally looked at by guys as weak and a cover to the real reason you won't date him....my advice is to not use it.
191121
Maybe you can bring it up somehow, like remember when...? and then let him know you are interested again, if he is.  Sometimes it's hard to return to that relationship, as he may have gotten used to you as a friend.  I remember a guy I dated broke up with me because I wasn't serious enough and then he wanted me back later, but I had lost interest.  Be prepared for something like that, but open the door anyway.  You don't really have anything to lose but a little pride.  Good luck!
648444
It is very important for a girl to have a male friend who is just a friend. Girls are rarely good in friendship. They tell your secrets to everyone, they may forgive about friendship etc. That is why guy friends are so treasured. I had such a friend and although I understood 100% that he is interested in me more than a friend I made myself believe that we are just friends. He could even stay for a night in my house, sleep on a couch in my room etc. But then he had a promotion to a different country and proposed to me (and we didn't even kiss). Of course I denied ;(.
33547
a guy with who i'm studying/working.. but i'm not sure if he would like the same thing.. can you maybe give me an advice :)
661056
It's cool if you still wanna chat and make each other laugh...just be friends and leave it at that. He doesn't know what he wants and he's not ready to make any kind of commitment at this time. Don't try to force it if it's not there. Either wait a while till he's ready or move on.
397370
Its kind of like losing the best friend you never had. I don't like dating, so i kind of know where your coming from. I get very nervous when im around any guy taht i like. But just because he moved away, doesn't mean you let him go. The next time you see him, you might want to have one of your friends get his number, email, myspace. anything that could be away for you to keep in touch with him. Friends is always a good step to being something more. So try this out and see if it works.
307513
It certainly sounds like he is interested in more than just friendship. \n\nIf you would like to ask him out, I'd say go for it.\n\nGood luck!
437954
i think he likes you but wasn't ready to make a big commitment after his last break up. so that's why he said he just wants to be friends! and next time the subject comes up on IM just say you do like him. i hope everything goes well!
306378
Just remember that you are fine and doing what you need to do at this time. Their reaction is about them. Any man that would speak to you in that way was never a friend. Some guys play the friend role while waiting for the opening to move into the next stage. All you need to do is make sure you are very clear about what you need and then they have all the facts to make an intelligent choice whether they wish to put time into the relationship or not. Don't try to push a friendship with a guy that you know wants more. Let him go and then he will decide on his own if he wants to be just friends or if he needs to move on. Just make sure you are doing what is best for you and then everything else will fall into place.\nLove & Light
100698
I can't really tell you yes he is into you, because I don't know how he acted around you, and I don't know him. What I can tell you is that if it seemed like he really had a great time and you both had fun, then maybe there is hope. I suppose if he called you to let you know he was home safe, that's a plus, because if he didn't care at all, he wouldn't of called at all. Now, about him waiting to call you, maybe he was nervous, busy, like the other person commented, maybe didn't want to seem desperate. Just give it time, and if nothing becomes of it, let it go, there are a ton of men out there waiting to meet ya! ;)