omq! im so scared for one of my friends. She CUTS herself. i know this bcuz wen were at a bday party we were tellin our deepest darkest secrets and she told me that she cut herself. i swore to god that i would never tell no one and i guess i just did but i am really scared for her you know what i mean?! i dont know if i should tell my mom or just let it go and try to tell her to stop!! i am in a really bad situwaytion! please help me she is 1 of my best friends and i dont want her to get hurt but i dont want her to hate me for telling :&#92;
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first of all, i know people are going to answer MUCH differently than me, but I've been through this (more than once) with friends.\na BEST or REALLY GOOD friend, would keep the secret.  thats right.  dont blab.  if it bothers you, you need to talk to her.  ask her if you can help.  most people just do it for attention, others truly NEED the pain to stop thinking of what bothers them every day.  Some people think that theyre 'rebelling'\nAnd yes, she will hate you for telling.  Even if she does want attention, she'll still hate you.  kiss the friendship byebye. \nConfront her.  tell her it bugs you.  it scares you.  just tell her how you feel.  say that you knew that it would be better to talk to her about it than someone else.  they'll like to hear that.  it shows that they can trust you.  believe it or not, they smiled (inside) even if just for a split second.  \nDont get mad.  Don't say 'If you dont stop, i cant/wont be your friend!'  this, is also a good way to throw away a friendship.  \nDont push it.  If they say they dont want to talk about it.  Dont ask anymore.  drop it.  completely.  BUT...make sure to say that THEY can talk to YOU whenever they feel the need.  this shows trust.\n\nI hope i've helped.  But truly, don't tell.  Even if it doesnt ruin a friendship, it makes it very very awkward.  You wont be 'best' friends anymore.\n\nSORRY IF I WAS TOO BLUNT! :)
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alot of people are afraid of girls or boys that do this and there is alot of reason people do and the are afraid of what you might do. my daughter was doing this to fit in with friends that was doing it. she would not cut enough to make herself bleed but enough to leave marks and she had alot of things go on to her over it with seeking help and bein watch by everyone around because we all was afraid of her hurting herself and dieing. its hard to deal with things like that because of they might be to afraid of you killing yourself and don't want to deal with it. you really have to look at it as a big part of your life that is going to hurt you and help you. just make sure you let your next boyfriend now. and as far as your ex boyfriend goes he was not good for you anyway. because if he was he would stick with you no matter what. gl hun
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If you seriously think this might happen - you need to contact the local authorities.  They won't take this situation lightly.\n\nIf she's possibly going to harm herself or others, they will investigate.\n\nWhere's her family - you should also contact them but don't wait for them to call the police.\n\nYOU need to do this NOW.
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ok i know exactly how you must feel. I have done this exact same thing. I used to cut and eventually felt so bad i told my friends and they saved my life basically. but then i went through a rough time during my senior year in high school and started doing my own pericings. I did two of them. And omg did they get infected! tell your friend that if she wants her ears peirced to get it done profesionally. this could be a new way of her hurting herself. i mean 3 is kinda excessive. just sit her down and express your concern hopefully she will listen. besides the infections that come with at home pirecings are awful and can be dangerous. *also if she is pericing cartalige she could over do it and make it break. i did this and now the top part of my left ear droops its embarassing as hell*
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Trey\nYou totally need to tell your mom.\nThere is no way on the right or wrong way of telling your mom the problems you are dealing with in life.  \n\nOur parents are here to help, protect and love us.  I am a mom and I would want my girls to come to me for anything and everything.  \n\nEspecially if it has to do with drugs, eating disorders and self abuse.  There are reasons you are doing it and you can not handle all of these issues on your own.  You just cant.\n\nYou need to be flat out honest and tell you mom what is going on with you.  I believe you wouldnt be asking Yahoo Answers if you didnt want the help...right?\n\nGo to mom and say, "Mom...I love you and I need to talk to you about some things that have been going on in my life.  I need your help right now.  So please, what I am going to tell you, you might get mad at first, but I need your love and support right now."  And than tell her.  Tell her you experimented with pot and you are dealing with cutting and anorexic issues.\n\nYour life is to precious not to talk to someone.  If you really dont belive you can talk to your mom go to your school counsler or another responsable adult who you can trust to help you find the help you need.\n\nI also realize how bad you dont want to tell your mom.  But I really belive you need and should tell her what is going on.\n\nI would totally respect my girls and feel so apprecitive if they came to tell me they were pregnant, getting high or anything in life that they are trying to deal with on thier own.\n\nEven though you are 13 you still have alot of mental growing up to.  And I know at 13 you feel like you should be treated like an adult.  But there are many things in life 13 year olds just cant do yet because they arent mentally ready for it.\n\nGo to your mom,  and talk to her.  Tell her your exact feelings and be honest with her.  SHe will totally respect you for it and love you!
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Sweetie, you need to talk to someone who can help you.  Tell your parents, school counselor, doctor, teacher, or any other adult you trust what's going on.  You don't have to tell them that you're cutting if you don't want to, just that you're depressed.  I know it might seem like there's nothing anyone can do, but it's not true.  There are medications that can help with the depression, and talk therapy can help as well.  A psychologist can help you learn healthier ways to deal with things instead of cutting, and help you figure out what's going on around food.  They can also help you figure out what's at the root of your problems, so you can start to work on fixing whatever is really wrong instead of hurting yourself.\n\nI used to cut myself too (and I'm using the past tense very losely here), so I do understand what it's like.  If you want to talk, you're welcome to email me at emilyrose1986@yahoo.com.
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You should do it because if not she might be abused and even killed. Then would you hate yourself? She might be very thankful that you told her about it before it gets to serious. Tell her soon
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have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
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i was also into self mutilation and i used to cut myslef too.  i also have my reasons to why i did it. best way i think is to talk to someone you are close to. you are too young for this type of thing.
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i totally sympathise with you and know how you feel...at the age of 14 i was diagnosed with aneroxia, depression and i sef-harmed (i still have some scars now...3 years later)- i was in denial about all these things but then one day i cracked and realised i needed help....i sat down with my parents and explained EVERYTHING....about what i was doing to my body....how i was feeling inside....and how i came close to taking a overdose.....i was referred to a psychiatrist and was admitted in to a psychiatric hospital for 6 months...im not trying to scare you and tell you thats where your going to end up because mine weren't just about the self-harming but what i will say is that you need to sit down with your parents..tell them not to speak because there is something you need to get of your chest and just get them to listen.....as for you saying that your mum was angry when she saw your cuts...it isnt an anger for example....if you damaged someones property....but an anger that is brought on by being worried, scared, feel like they cant help e.t.c...and probably why you never went to them for help...once your parents get an idea (i wont so understand because no one can ever understand unless they are going through it or has been through it) of what your feeling then get them to take the right steps forward to getting you psychiatric help and counselling....but DONT keep this to yourself.....im not saying its a 2 minute job to fix because even after i came out of hospital after being in there for 6 months i carried on self-harming but i still got to see a cousellor and psychiatrist twice a week.....now 3 years later i no longer self-harm but carry the scars with me.....i wish you much luck
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I know every singly one of these answers is going to tell you to get help, and I know that is the one thing you don't want to hear, but it's what you need to do. If you feel like you can take it straight to your parents then do, but if not take it to a school counselor. Trust me, they've heard this before and it won't be anything new to them; they will know what to do to help you get through this. They want to help you get through this, ok? But you know what the good news is, it just sounds like a case of bad depression! Nothing more! And depression is treatable. I understand that you may feel like you have to cut, and while I don't like it I agree that it is a better option than suicide SO make sure you use clean blades, etc. and keep the cut clean until it heals. No one is going to be able to help you tell anyone else about this so you are going to have to do it on your own. It doesn't even have to be a parent or counselor. It could be anyone you trust. Prefereably an adult, but you could tell a kid and ask them to take it to an adult if that was easier. Any way you do this you are going to be ending up dealing with adults. There is no way around that, but if you tell them yourself at least you get to pick an adult you trust and that you feel comfortable around. Things can get better if you'll let them, but it's probably going to take some work. I wish you sooooo much luck and send tons of love. Know that you're not alone, there are other people with the same problems who have gotten through this.
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My son start cutting himself 5 years ago.  The best thing that I did was to educate myself about why he was doing it.  I went into chat rooms for cutters, read blogs by cutters, did anything I could to interact with others who cut.  \n\nShe is not trying to kill herself.  If you can get her to talk about it, great.  Until then, try to find out why people cut from cutters themselves.
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If you're really that worried, hiei4212, ring 911. Tell them it's a possible (preventable) suicide or self-injury. I can't believe people haven't said this already. Gee! Call now!
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My relationship with my sister! \n\nFor the past 4 years my sister has been "self-destructing". My parents and I have exhausted all efforts financially and more importantly, mentally. You can only do so much for someone that you love, and if they don't want to help themselves and don't see your efforts and love in trying to help them, then what do you do?! So now we are trying the "tough love" tactic and I am sad and scared she don't realize all that we have done and are trying to do for her. She is pissed off at us! I just hope we are doing the right thing!\n\nWow! this was a personal question! But you know what? I feel somewhat at ease answering this question. Thanks! :)
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She needs HELP so , how can you assist her BE HONEST with her about what you feel she is doing to herself , then guide her to some professional or talk about why she is mutilating herself, maybe abusing going on from within family ???
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Self harm is very common, people do it in all sorts of ways.\n\nIf I was your friend I would want you to tell me about it, so that I had peace of mind that you were safe.  Are you safe?\n\nSelf harm can be done in a safe way, if you cut yourself make sure that what you use is sterile, and is not going to cut you too deeply.  I would much prefer that you didn't cut yourself, and that you spoke to a counsellor.  \n\nI know that this is your way of coping with things, but trust me, hurting yourself is not going to help you in the long run.  All it will do is cause you more problems, more upset and more loneliness.\nTalk about it, get help.\n\nDon't worry about what your friends will say or if they think your weird, because its done now anyway.  This is about you.  Sort yourself out and don't worry about your friends reaction, that should make no difference to how you change your habit.
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hi.. my name is brittany.. i like to help people.. so maybe i can help you! people cutting comes from many reasons. it may be caused from family issuses. boyfriend trouble, friends, or maybe because you like attention. dont take that last one as if i was aiming that one at you because im not. all i am saying is people do it for many reasons. bottom line, everyone does it for a reason. so, the first thing i say you should do is figure out why you do it. after that, you do have to realize that this is going to be hard. there is not really a reason to go to the doctor or tell everyone. it is your choice to tell your close friends or family. cutting is like an addiction to some people. although you are anyone else shouldnt do it, they still do. but just think with me a minute here. why be one of those people? why not just stand out from all the other cutters in the world and make a difference. after you overcome this task, you will be able to achieve things you never could before because you never had the confidence. when you get the feeling that you have to cut, do something else. it really depends on what kind of person you are to relive stress. it if makes you feel better by not telling anyone anything, just try to go for a walk, or step outside. if that doesnt work, then write. either poetry, stories, or just in a journal. just because you may not be successful the first time, dont give up. if there is no one else in this world that does not believe in you, i do. so when you feel like you have ruined everything or just feeling terrible, just think of me. another way you can stop cutting is to tell someone about it. although it isnt neccessary, you can go to a doctor and he will help you. one of my good friends called me a few years ago and told me she cut. in about 1 month, with the help of me and her close friends, she stopped. so dont think that you are alone or that no one cares for you because i do. i have aol or you can email me. if you would like to talk more to me or if you have anymore questions, please,  email me. i hope i answered your question.