I am going out with this guy and he is really quiet. When I alone with him he really opens up. But I am a really outgoing person. Is there somthing we could that would makes us both confortable?? We have been friends a bit and spend a lot of time together.
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He will probably always be shy. Then again there's always drugs and alcohol...
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I've had the same exact problem! We are related. No we aren't just the question is sort of related to my life. I had a cool popular boyfriend before he was cool and I was shy. We didn't quite make a good couple but whatever... Maybe you should write a note to him and give it to him without his friends seeing it.
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From what you described, I'm 99.9% positive that he has feelings for you. His problem is that he can't make a decision for himself. He's sending you quite a few signals. He's waiting for you to make the first move before breaking it off with his current girlfriend. He's insecure. He doesn't want to be alone. Question is, do you have feelings for him? Do you want to be with a guy that insecure? Remember, the relationship will change once everything is out in the open. Which is more important to you? The friendship or the relationship?
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Maybe it is a good thing, like you said, he's shy, so someone might have had to tell him that you liked him to start a relationship with him if that's what you want.  Just go about things normally, don't worry about it, if he cares he'll come to you and talk about it, otherwise, just keep looking great-so if that guy doesn't work out, at least others you know will be checking you out! GOOD LUCK!!! muck luv! ~carly
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Next time he's alone (again when he's alone) go up introduce yourself and ask if he's seeing anyone. If he's not ask him out.  Please don't try that pathetic flirt/hint crap that most women use. Most guys don't pick up on that subtle crapola!
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sure!  go for it... if he is as shy as you, the two of you will never talk!
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I think shy guys are easier to keep personally. You can get them to open up to you and they get more attatched to you! Plus they are shy right??? no other girls come into the picture wooo!!! so its up to you! if you want someone who you could get attatched too and a long term relationship I would go with the shy guy..... the other not so shy at all guy could end up being a player or get to cocky if he is outspoken. Thats my my personal opinion good luck!
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I think he just want a nice uncomplicated weekend with you. He likes it to be personal, only he and you. If I were him, I wouldn't want others to know too, especially a big mouth. Not because it's a secret date or I'm scared/ ashamed with it. More because I don't want anybody that got nothing to do with it talk about it. \nSo.. don't think too much about it and have a great weekend. If you're getting more serious in your relationship later, then he'll be more comfortable letting people know (letting people talk about you).
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he still wants to be able to talk to, but it looks like hes a different person. when hes in a big crowd your not the kinda person that he wants to be, its like 2 best friends in different crowds. one goes skater, one goes prep. they still like each other but they turn into two different people. what i would do is just come out and say it. rejection can be hard, but at least you'll know the truth if he says yes. all goes well and y'all give it a chance. if he says no than ask to be friends and leave it at that.
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It depends really on your, resources and how old you are. Like if you can't drive yet, if there is a school trip or something, hang out and sit close. Or if you want like a more datish situation I'd start with just going out with some friends. (Or hint, hint an older sibling, if you have one.) Like a group or double date. You might want to pick somewhere were you're comfortable and can talk first, instead of jumping into the movie scene, where there would be major pressure and little emotional connection. \n  As for how I acted towards them, hmm... can't I just not answer? lol. *blush* At first I would so destroy the conversation, I got massively nervous, but some how I would manage to find something to say. Oh well, he was shy too so we would end up laughing at eachother. But then you get used to eachother, so even though they still give you butterflies to where you lose all ability to think, you aren't as worried about how you act, and are more normal towards them. \n  What I did was started to call him several nights a week to get to know him, and figure eachother out. Yall I know it's so much easier to say than do. But after awhile you get use to it, he'll call you, and you won't be able to go to sleep without talking to eachother first. Eventually, you'll know if you're right for eachother and your going out just kind of happens, you just need to confirm it with eachother. It worked for me, and we've been going out for over a year or two.
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So, u have things in common, Why not try to let him see the "softer" side of you, say,, off the track.  Try to run into him in a social setting. so he can see what your all about
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I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
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Not always bad. It doesnt have to mean that you are boring or uninteresting. Maybe he just feels at ease and relaxed about your warm demeanor. It is definitely a compliment and could lead to something more involved, depending on his level of appreciation and yes, maturity.
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It doesn't matter actually, it boils down to you. Which one of them is accepting you for who you are, and really sincere in love & freindship with you.\nWhether he is outgoing or shy still if he/she cares for you whole heartedly, (go for it girl).
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Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
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If you recently met this guy you have to be a liitle patient and not just enter a relationship with him. Do you personally know why he travels so frequently? You ahve to be careful when its comes to this type of situation. All I can say is to be a little patient and do not rush into anything.
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If he is always like that there is a reason. He is to shy to let anyone know how he feels That sucks. One way would be to call him when his homies are not around. Tell him you like him and want more. I know it puts yourself out on a limb but you do not want to play with your feeling either.   See what happens next ime he and you are together with or without the hommies you should get some kind of reaction that will allow you to move on or get it on with this man.  Good Luck