Damn last week was like hell. After we got to school my crush avoided me and we eventuall stopped talking online. i think on Thursday he waved at me at the bus stop but then ignored me all together in the hall. now i know why he is actin so strange...\n\nmy friend who is a girl (not the 1st girl friend i mentioned) said that they (he and her) were talking about Gay Lesbian issues when he said that he was talking to this dude online who is gay. some how she brought me up becuz i told her what happened (but she doesnt know i'm bi). she told him i'm not like that but he kept on going.\n\nnow i dont know who else he's told and i'm nervous. i finally told my girl-friend that i like him and life seems a lil easier. now she is gonna talk to him for me.\n\nmy question is how to tell him how i feel with out making an ass out of myself? lol i know alotta of you will say just tell him but its not that easy. 1st off i dont know if he's gay/bi or not. plus i dont want to be like are you gay? thanx!
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Wow, you are making this like 10,000 times more complicated then it needs to be.\n\nIf you like the boy (and it seems like he would have to be completely blind to not know this already) just suck it up and ask him out.  Clearly and consisely say that you find him physically and emotionally attractive and you would like to go out with him and see how it goes.  It helps to have a plan, like "I want us to go to a particular movie on Friday" or a particular resturant or rent a particular movie.  \n\nAnd after that it is let go and let God as they say.  Maybe he'll jump at the chance, maybe he'll never speak to you again.  Live and learn.  But it beats sitting around Yahoo Answers overanalyzing weather or not he waved to you in the hall.  That is just a big melodramatic waste of everyones time.\n\nCut down on the drama little dude and just ask the guy out.
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Awwww, this is soooo cute (sorry, got carried away there).\n\nYeah, have to agree with another answerer. Get him alone, it doesn't work if his friends are there, then he has to act all tuff and cool. Get him alone, and tell him in a quiet way that you really, really like him, a lot. Ask him how he feels about you. Things have a tendency to work out fine after that.\n\nThe best of luck to you :-)
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omg of course he likes you! If he didnt y would he even be im'ing u so much. Hes probably found out that u guys hav so much in common with each other. Y not try to plan on hanging out with him or something. If u dont get too atleast when u start school again try to talking to him more and stuf not just on the pc. But if u like this try to keep chatting wit him so he'll get to know u more. And believe me your lucky cuz most gurls cant even talk to there crushes!
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What see did was not cool... Lesbian, gay, guy or girl.  Let's say it was a guy and he was a friend... do you thing that it would be nice of him to pull it out and ask you to join him?  There's a sensitivty to these things and a way to approach them.  Be honest about the way it made you feel and ask her to stop. You don't need to worry about what to do because you've done nothing wrong. Just bew authentic to yourself and to her.
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hey mama I am in the exact same position and my guy friend has mentioned he hates when girls make the first move so I am petrified to tell him, I feel like I have to wait for him to come to me. But he is probably thinking the same as you. Whenever drink, stuff happens and I usually spend every day with him and we do everything together. Work out together, party together, occasionally sleep together the whole 9. Whenever we need anything, we're the first ones each other calls. If you figure this out- lemme know!\nLauramr015@yahoo.com
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I would be a little worried, but don't over-react. Ask him and this girl *separately* about how they know each other, and compare their stories. If they don't match up, then confront him about it, calmly, making sure that he knows you aren't upset, just a little concerned.
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Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
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Maybe he is being REALLY nice.LOL! I wouldn't say anything unless he like says something gayish. like want to go out or wut eva. Then definitely say something, but if he just said that one thing, then i wouldn't worry about it. but that is my opinion. If you feel like it is really bugging you, then say some thing. Good Luck
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It sounds like he is really confused right now. He may need space to think things out. Alot homosexual people struggle with their feelings. It is natural for him to feel torn between his feeling and longing for a sense of normality in his life. Alot of gay males try the straght thing thinking that they can have a natural family and be accepted by society but then realise later that they are trying to change themselves. He may be going through one of those times right now. If you have seen him on the gay dating sites that is a bit different. Are you sure that those profiles are not old? some people continue to check old dating accounts just to see who responded. Ask him about them. If he gets defensive, then you may have a clue. Just give him some time to sort things out and if what you guys have is worth saving he will realize it. for now be his friend and help him find hisself. And dont listent to any negativity on here...we dont choose who we love
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I think that you should talk to him about it. He may be feeling awkward because you told him how you felt and he's not ready to make the transition from "friends" to "more than friends." Talk to him and see where his head is at, try to make him feel comfortable so that he won't blow you off. Things like this are never easy, but you'll never until you ask. Good luck....
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He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
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hey...this is almost similar to my situation! only i see him evry day at school (university) we're good friends and email...contact him thru phonebook or something...track him down!
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i no how you feel im going through this to.you should stand up to and tell him how you feel.shoot with my crush im man shy.But if you really love or like him you'll stand up to him and tell him how you feel.Im your friend so i give you the\nbest wishes.
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i know it hurts to get rejected but take a shot at it he may be going thru the same thing. he may like you and be afraid to say something. I am a guy and i have been afraid to talk to a couple of girls and i finally got up the courage to say something to one of them now that they have a boy friend and i  found out that at the time that i like them they like me but its to late i missed my chance don't miss yours
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i got in a fight with another girl (at school, no1 was watching) that liked my crush. My crush came over and asked us why we were fighting. I said its about some guy and she practicly yelled "that guy is u and u like me beta rite?" well he was a little taken aback and said he'd think about it well after school he said he liked me better because i don't yell and i'm pretty and kind and all this other kind comments and now we've been going out for 2 years and like each other very much.\n\nremember to be yourself, i no i no thats what every1 says but if you pretend to be some1 else then he might think your acting weird and when he finds out what your really like he will ask you why you lied and bla bla bla. I wish you luck. :)
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friends over guys! let your friend know how you feel first and if she tells you its okay and you feel its okay then try to find a way to let this guy know!
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Smart girl, you have handled that poking incident very well. It was a harmless prank that some boys play to amuse themselves as well as others.\n\nHe is sort of feeling sore being ditched by others. And who doesn’t? I think he still has a liking for you; didn’t he betray himself by blushing (turn red as you put it)?\n\nPlus the fact that you now have a new boyfriend, it is indeed complicated for him. I sure hope that your friends don’t tease him too much, have mercy. Haha.