do you snoop in your husband/wife/girlfriend or boyfriend's stuff?have you ever found anything that shocked you?
205078
I agree with Dr. Dottie, it's not cool. I never do it.
220085
Who says spying has anything to do with trust or mistrust? And relationship? Please! That is the dreaded R word! Mean have trouble enough with the C word -- Cccc...oh, heck! commitment. Talk about relationship and you can get the biggest guy in the room to run away.\n\nOK, spying. Trust but verify is a good rule. I think that an occasional checking up is a healthy thing. You cannot ask someone to trust you. You do that and people start checking their wallets. Don't believe me? Try it! Go up to someone and say "Trust me!" Right!\n\nOK, so what can you ask for (especially if there is a lack of trust issue?) Accountability. It does not have to be really secret, nor does it have to be very open either. But it does help trust if you occasionally check to see that the person is telling you the truth.\n\nYou may say I am cold-hearted in this, but I have been left by a woman who swore in front of God in a Catholic church (and her Austrian Catholic mother) never to break the marriage vow. She took off with another guy. \n\nSo, yes, trust but check, too.
635888
I snoop in everything incase the person "forgot" to inform me.\n\nAnd if I found something I would say something because I need to know.
332391
I once grabbed my then boyfriend's father's butt and started kissing the back of his neck.  As i looked over his shoulder..i saw my boyfriend outside looking at us with a puzzled expression. I thought he was my boyfriend!  His whole family thought it was very funny.  I did not!!
278556
well looks like you have found your husbands true colours...  you know what to do!!He's scared you will find out more i think.. he using the money thing as a blackmail to stop you from digging deeper!!
355801
I've just found out through the devious resorcefulness of my best friend that my boyfriend is cheating on me and it worries the hell out of me how to handle it. :-(
184941
I've experienced a slightly different situation, I'm very good friends with the husband not so much the wife but I found out that she was cheating on him.  When I told him he totally denied it, refused to accept that it was true and doesn't believe me.  Then he got mad at me for pushing the issue so I guess it depends on the person how they'll react when you tell but I would.
370797
Is so complicated to see how he can even respect your privacy.\nThis is joke of relationship not even like to be.
498593
I have often wondered the same thing. I open my blinds in the morning and close them at night. I like to see out but not for others to see in. And yes, I am curious about what's inside their home. I look. \nDid you also know that you can tell alot about a person by what's inside their medicine cabinet? I look in everyone's medicine cabinet when I use their restroom for the first time.
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Why yes, we actually have, courtesy of my creep stepson ("I didn't steal it, honest!" yeah right. \nThey were very nice about it, they handed me the search warrant, explained and pointed to the appropriate signatures and started looking. They did not "toss" the house---I asked them and they said "that's only for people giving us a hard time!" and they honored my request NOT to search my bedroom (I wouldnt have been able to sleep in there again, and it was always secured against the punk anyway)...\nAnyway, don't be a jerk to them and they'll be nice. Maybe. \n\nPS, that was the last night my stepson spent in my home again.
455723
Have you been cheatin?\nDo you trust him?\nWhy not?
422039
Trust is hard, Im going through that same situation myself. But Ive come to realize that always checking up on them teaches them how to be more deceiving.  If they are doing something it will come to light regardless of you checking up on him. Searching for things is a very bad habit. You should only search when the suspicion is there, if there are no signs of infidelity let it go, you might find something innocent and that will just fuel the suspicion and drive you crazy. If they are going to cheat they are going to cheat there is nothing you can do about it, when it comes to light then deal with it, dont wait for it to happen.
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OMG the exact same thing is happeneing to me! Plus, my boyfriend won't tell me what he wants, and I know hes getting me something nice. =/ I might get him a cool CD player or a portable DVD player... i dont know, the seem a bit expensve... whatever. If i think of something i will let you know.. =) lol
313915
I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
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I confess that I too snoop around my husbands things because I think hes messing around on me. I also confess that I hate my fathers mother(my grandmother) and I have never let her see my youngest daughter, because every time i go there she tells me what a horrible mother my mother was. yet my mother raise me alone for 13 years with no help from my father. every time i went there i wanted to scream at her.
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I have been married for 21 years.  First you have to be honest and communicate with your spouse.  If you had been, he may not have been spying on you.  Talk to your husband about it.  If he is uncomfortable with you two off somewhere, you should respect his feelings.  Only communicate with your friend if your husband is aware of conversations, meetings, etc.  My husband knows the male friends I may talk to or he can read the emails we send each other.  I also know of his female friends.  If it is innocent, then keep it in the open.  Would you really be o.k. if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was off with a "girl" friend?  Alone?
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Pictures in my wallet? Cell Phone??\n\n\n............\n\n\nYou must have me confused with someone who has money......