I met this guy who is passionate, caring and always happy. We have been going out for a couple of weeks now and we had sex together but ever since we find ourselves more attached to each other and dont want to stay away, I have other friends that i have had sex with them but i feel i want to be with him and what we tell each other is that we hate each other but are so much attached and cant stop seeing each other, he doesnt have money like my ex but am happy with him.He has not told me he loves yet. Tell me what is wrong with us and why do we do this?
211962
Be careful. You probably are attracted by his lust. You may find him different from everyone else because of his passionate sex. But good sex is not all. You must learn how he really his. Know his behavior at certain situations, how he confronts responsibilities. Passionate sex is great, but passionate sex on a responsible, respectful and honest man is much better!!\n\nTake your time and get to know his true self when not having sex!!
488573
Really all you can do is go on your gut instinct.  I am good friends with my ex-fiancee.  We have been through a lot and even since we have broken up he has been there for me.  I am not interested in dating him, so I would imagine if this guy wants to marry you he really doesn't have feelings for his ex.  Plus you met him AFTER he decided he wan't interested.  A little jealousy is normal but I would not worry.
130184
No it is not wrong to feel that way.  Sometimes it is better to do the whole friends with benefits type of thing.  One of my ex's and I did the friends with benefits bit and when we moved on to other relationships we were able to keep the friendship.  It is nice having a guy to talk to about anything, that you know will understand b/c he is your best friend.  I think it is more important to have a best friend than a boyfriend.  It sounds like this guy is your best friend and sometimes when you move from friends to lovers you lose the friend.  So doing the friend thing would be safer but if your feelings are really strong then go for it and if it does not work out hopefully you can still be friends.
227401
Sounds like rebound sex to me honey!  So my answer is LUST!  And there is nothing wrong with that!  Just go with the flow,,,maybe it will turn into more,,,maybe it won't!
28408
Sorry.  I think you might be using the word Love here just a little too loosely.  Is the only difference between these guys is you are having sex with one and not the other?  Or that you have a sexual attraction toward one and not the other?\nYou would not be asking this question if you have had many very close relationships with members of the opposite sex.  If that was the case, then you would have already dealt with a situation like this before.\nIt should make no difference to either of these guys how much time you spend with the other, Unless you have told one or both that they have an exclusive relationship with you.  It is not wrong for you to spend most of your time with a male whom you have a close friendship, but are not dating or do not have any romantic attachment.
580025
For once on here I am going to be serious. Internet stories of jobs are hardly believable, but I am more than qualified to answer this question. I was in a chat for Psychological Disorders, when the messenger went kerplunk now I am here trying to get help on what is wrong, just having some fun with most of these, but I will be serious on this one.\n\nFirst thing, was there jealousy in the relationship that you and him had? If he was a jealous type, he is probably insecure and did this to see if you still cared for him.\n\nSecond thing, depends on how long you were together. I still have feelings for women I dated 5 years ago. Surely doesn't mean that I want them.  \n\nThird thing, Since I know nothing about you, age, length of relationship, etc... I would recommend a full split between the two of you, no friends, phone or IM buddies, you know the old saying about letting something go, if it's meant to be then he will come back.\n\nFourth thing, busting out my Oprah stick, "You are letting him have his cake and eat it too, of course he is going to be nice to you"\n\nLast thing, back to serious, when you break up with someone, never hold on, it could cause you to miss something or someone special that you didn't notice because you are still holding onto the past. Two things I have learned in life, life isn't stopping for you, so don't stop for someone else and there is a reason they are an ex. Hope this helps.
517171
He's probably over you, but was feeling horny in the moment.  It doesn't sound like he has any intention of being with you in a serious way.  He'd probably settle for a booty call relationship, but you sound like you have more class than that, so I'd move on if I were you.
86056
If you are looking for a realationship thats all about sex. I would stay in the relationship , if you are wanting something serious i would talk to him about whats going on and how you are becoming confused what is important to him. Whether its you or partying with friends. I also think that he is sending you signs he only wants sex, because he sees you late at night and , dosent spend much time with you when he has a chance. I think you deserve better than that anyone does, i would confront him if you care about him, but if you dont i would let him go. Good luck
625772
Okay you are in a BAD SITUATION and you need to set boundries.\n\nFirst of all, this guy does not believe you are friends with benefits, he believes you will eventually become more than that and is waiting for it to happen. If you go to vegas without him and hook up with some random guy he will be crushed because he wants more from the relationship.\n\nYou need to break up with him immediatly if you don't want to be involved with him. "Friends with benefits" is both retarded and volitie and one or both of the participants will wind up hurt in the long run because all it does is put off the inevitable break up. You need to break up with him and be firm in not getting back together. \n\nI can tell you, without a doubt he wants this relationship to be more and you need to break it off with him if you don't. Do not just go to vegas without him and hook up with another guy because it is totally wrong. You must tell him the truth even if it hurts him now because it will hurt much more later.\n\nBe an adult.
502809
My mate has just been dumped by her boyfriend of 6 years - cos he said he needs time to himself. Imagine how she feels - you were only with this guy 8 weeks.\n\nJust think people need to put their problems into perspective a little bit. I know you must be feeling cr*p right now -but its not like you dedicated half your life to this guy. And if he wants you to change your opinion on something as big as sex then really he's not the one for you anyway.\n\nps - most men are weird. \n\npps - i was very prudish when it come to sex - but my mind has been opened ...... opened in the very best possible way
672706
Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there.  Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run.  As for you,  I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with.  I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you.  Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you.  Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him.  If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you.  For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that.  Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you.  Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt".  If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one.  OR the next one will cheat on you too.  So take your pick, karma's a b**ch.  And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around.  Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend).  You only have yourself to blame.
671835
That makes sense to me. Spend some time with him. See what it is or isn't turning into. If he really really likes you, it wouldn't be JUST for sex. Make sure thats the case. Its natural for BOTH man and women to want sex. Also, I think why lose respect for people for wanting good healthy sex. Either way. Your caution makes a lot of sense to me considering that it sounds like maybe you dated some jerks. Maybe too many.
664387
whats wrong with this picture? 1st of all, what is a "sex friend" relationship?? 2nd of all, you know he has "random sex" with a "few girls"and thats cool with u?...whats up with that?  3rd,  I wouldn't get my hopes up too much just because you spent a little QT around his parents. that doesn't mean as much to him as it means to you. 4th you are falling right into his game to keep you sprung! this dude is saying and doing all the right things to keep you around. lets see: free sex, no commitment (marriage), willing to accept me seeing other women, and pretty, what man wouldn't take you up on that offer?    \n\nto answer your question yes he has feelings for you.\nits impossible to have sex with someone over an extended period of time and not develop feelings for that person.\n\nsex is very powerful, it was designed to take place between husband and wife to make the marriage bond stronger. you are actually becoming one with that person when you are having sex. why do you think it hurts so much when you break up with someone after you have had sex with them?  it's not natural to try to have sex without getting emotionally attached...\n\ndoes he have feelings yes, now is he looking at you as a potential mate/wife? no, a man will let a freak be a freak but when he gets serious about a relationship he will look for a woman that has standards and some respect for herself.
459141
i think what you are trying to get at or say is that guys wont move on from their girlfriend whom they can get regular sex from until they find someone else or some other means of getting regular sex. this guy sounds like a tool. end it now, save yourself from the heart arche and from being used.
132228
From my expericence, I have learned that trying to show a man all of my great qualitites in order to make him appreciate me and want a more serious relationship has NEVER worked.  It only made me seem desperate.  Desperation has never made any person want to be with another person.  Even though you may feel that you can't let go of the person, it would be better to do so.  He has made it beyond clear to you that he isn't interested in having anything more than a sexual relationship with you.  In other words, you're good enough to have sex with but NOT good enough to have a meaningful relationship with.  That is horrible for your self esteem and self worth.  You deserve better and more.  Just because he asks about your activities doesn't mean that he cares about you.  He tells you flat out that he doesn't.  It may be difficult but you should consider stopping the sexual relationship with him.  He doesn't love you or care about you.  If he did, he'd want to have more than sex with you.  I hope that you realize that you deserve more than a quickie when he's bored.
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"No strings attached" doesn't mean "I couldn't care less about you" and the operative word in "friends with benefits *should* be "Friends" and not "benefits".\n\nI honestly can not tell what is on his mind, but here are some possibilities:\nIt could be he likes you and enjoyed himself and wants the pleasure to linger on for a while. Putting it another way, lets say that a guy is really into some sports, e.g. basketball, and him and a friend go for a game of hoops in the afternoon. He might like to meet that guy for happy hour just to talk about the game.\n\nOr maybe he cares for you as a friend and knowing that most women are more sensitive and worried about being a "ho" (as you put it), he is giving you a call to make it less "ho-ish" for you.\n\nMaybe he is having blossoming feelings for you, which might or not grow into something. Maybe he is even in love.\n\nNow for some negative possibilities:\nMaybe he is a love junkie and has a need for falling in love.\n\nOr (and this is the worst scenario) maybe the sex is not enough and he gets off on making women fall in love. This is how it might work for him. The game of sex&seduction is a game which is won when you overpower and controll the opponent: YOU. This can be achieved by seducing a virgin or a commited woman or by getting her to do something she might not be inclined to, like anal sex. In an extreme, it could come to rape. The thrill come from the feeling of power. In the relation you described, you are not being submissive at all and he might feel that making you falling in love would be a way to "submit you".\n\nOnce again, I have no idea of what is going on in his mind and these are only ideas. I hope they helped.
22487
He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.