Can someone please give me a valid reason that has nothing to do with emotions or feelings why not to get a prenuptial agreement? Looking for a legal reason why not to get one.
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Absolutely not.  In this day and age, you NEVER know what will happen in the future.  Contrary to popular belief, it's not setting the relationship up for failure.  It's for your safety as well as hers.
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Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
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Boy are you inviting grief asking that in this forum...  However, my heartfelt answer is: Where-ever you find love, why not be allowed to make that committment?\n\nI don't see how the government letting you marry the person you love in any way threatens me and my marriage and my family - I would still choose a heterosexual relationship whether or not gay marriage is legal - so my family life does not need defending from your legal status.  I truly believe that you would not chose this lifestyle if you had a choice.  \n\nGood luck to you.
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if u didn't want to get married before u got preg. then u shouldn't bc u r preg.  i don't think it's fair to the child to have to live with married parents that can't get along and r only together bc of the child.  i didn't marry my son's father bc i got preg. and he's happy with the way things r.  he has a new step dad and his stepdad is better then his real dad.
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Actually, marriage is a contract, that's why you have to sign the marriage papers. If you're not comfortable entering a contract with your boyfriend, you shouldn't be marrying him. Consider though, that both parties have to sign, so before you do, make sure you agree to everything that's in it, and make sure there are terms that work in your favor.\n\n\nI am not an attorney. This is not legal advice.
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I'm a family law attorney, so this is an easy one for me.  How about a pre-nuptial agreement that protects your interests.  Also, some pre-marital financial planning with investments that would protect you would be reasonable.\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you have other questions.
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Marriage and divorce solely for the sake of money is wrong.  But divorce can sometimes be a good thing.  What about people in abusive relationships?  Or what if a person's spouse cheats on them?  If money is all you're worried about, then, as stated already, get a pre-nup.  Actually, I think pre-nups are great tools, not just to make sure that if you are divorced your finances are protected, but also to ensure ahead of time what the conditions would have to be for your ex-spouse to be allowed to sue you (like, if you cheated on her, then she would be entitled to part of your fortune as a settlement).  That kind of thing.  Anyway, the reason finances become such a big issue during divorce is that a couple's assets are considered "community" property- in other words, they legally share everything unless specifically stated otherwise in an agreement before-hand.  The laws vary from state to state on this.  This dates from a time when women were completely dependent on their husbands for money, and might even have been considered chattle.  So it's a bit old-fashioned.  But part of the main idea of marriage is giving all of yourself and sharing completely with your spouse, so it is still considered a very valid practice.  Anyway....
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Marriage is a business, and the license makes it legal.  It is there to protect women's interests as far as property is concerned, and for raising children.  It is a protection.  if you don't plan on staying with someone, or having children, or making property community, there is no need for it.  People shouldn't enter into it lightly, and I think it would help the divorce rate if the benefits of marriage were eliminated.  People couldn't marry for money, or insurance, etc...
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It really depends on the situation at hand. Are you and the soon to be ex getting along? If so, perhaps you can work on all the paperwork together. If you can keep lawyers out of it, you save money and a lot of other crap that goes along with it b/c some lawyers really encourage playing games that just stir the proverbial pot.
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Because people confuse marriage with weddings.  People spend so much time planning the perfect wedding and forget about whats going to come after the flowers have died and the cakes been eaten.  They don't realise the commitment they're actually making and when this sets in after they become so unhappy that it inevitably leads to divorce.  Some of the most happily married couples I know went off and got married alone in little ceremonies with no trimmings and they're still together like glue because they knew it was a marriage they were having and not a wedding.
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When I was first started dating my spouse I was still married too. To me it really wasnt a big deal to still be married, and it didnt bother me much. It bothered him so he took initiative and pushed me to do it. I really didnt have the money for it and I wouldve rather spent my money else where. I just felt like it wasnt a big deal and that it really didnt matter it was last on my list of things to do. But it bothered my significant other so he pretty much did all the work, he paid for the classes and he paid for half the divorce. \n\nWhats his perspective on it? To me it wasnt that important. Maybe it isnt to him either. So if you want it to happen make it happen I mean obviously you cant sign the papers but set an appointment for him to see the attorney and let him know that you will pay for half the costs. Dont give him a reason to say no. Also let him know that this really bothers you it has been awhile and I am sure he thinks that maybe it doesnt bother as much as it really does.\n\nWith my spouse it wasnt until he shared how he felt, this was something that he needed to be done so that we could move on in our relationship. So that he wouldnt have been scared to allow himself to fall for me. Althouth I had been seperated for quite some time but it wasnt until he told me how he felt that I really took inititive in trying to make it happen, it was just hard financially and that was all it was it wasnt because I didnt want to let go or anything like that.  You should just tell him how you feel and I am sure that he will try to follow through with things.
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Actually it's a legal way of saying that if something happens to you or her the spouse can make decisions in the other absence. Marriage is total commitment to the other. Marriage is wanting to spend the rest of your life with that one person and when the kids are born you don't have the confusion of them having a different last name ther are the growing old together benifits there is a lot of things that's good about it but maybe youfeel you are ok the way it is b/c you are afraid of commitment.
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Pre-nups are really just for marriage (hence the name).  If you would like to solidify your financial arrangments, have an attorney draw up a Property Status Agreement which clearly defines whose property is whose and what property is community.  It acts that same as a pre-nup, except that you aren't getting married.  \nYou will probably be advised to have seperate counsel from your boyfriend since you or him could be relinquishing property rights now or in the future.  Be sure to have an estate planning attorney draw up the PSA because if you're worried about being out on the street, you want to make sure the document will hold up in court.\nAlso, if Georgia is not a community property state, then you don't have to worry about any of this.\nGood luck!
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your marriage should not be valid. check with loal courthouse in NY.Worse case scenario, you would have to file an annulment due to the first marriage. it should'nt be too hard to escape!
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What's funny is that every answer seems to find a way to dwell on the negative aspect of marriage. In all actuality, there is no true "negative". Marriage is just like life, like everyday life. It has it's ups and downs just like everything else. Thing is U have somebody to share it with and they share it with U. I've been married to my wife for almost 12 years now. We were together for 13 years b4 that and we're 40 and 39. We have our share of problems and have had them, but we always try to help pick each other up, along with our 3 kids. It's not easy at times, but if your truly "in love", and I do mean TRULY!, then it will all work out. Hell, my wife and I have sex like we're 18 again, just more experienced! Don't knock marriage. It's just a word that been portrayed negatively. It's just a piece of paper that says that the two of you have made a binding agreement to be together. The word, the piece of paper mean absolutely nothing. It's what's in your hearts that matters. "Love, so many people use your name in vain..."
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You have a classical attraction. Your therapist should know how to deal with the issue.\n\nIf you don't let your therapist know - you are being dishonest with them - what is the point of therapy.\n\nBe honest, but be accepting of the answer you get.\n\nAt best, they'll be flattered, and tell you there's no future in a relationship. At worst, they'll take on a relationship - and then, you are at the total pity of your therapist......\n\nBe open - and get a pre-nupt before  you go too far.
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I'm never going to marry again.  It is better to stay with someone because you want to than to stay because divorce is expensive, or there are children, or you don't want to go through the whole ordeal or some other reason.