my friend has been getting on my nerves a lot lately. i really dont want to be associated with her anymore but she always comes to me when she's in need. i can get rid of her. she's so negative and embarrassing to be around...
203840
i have a friend doing the exact same thing. dump her. but only if she's a bit(h. if she's nice, don't. but if you deside to (and you totally can) don't put the blame on anyone. Just say you don't like how the friendship has gone, and your really not comftordable with the situation. so you think it best if you don't hang out anymore. tell her that, and tell her your leaving the friendship with overall good feelings, and that you like her, but that you really just need to end it, and leave it at that. she doesn't need any other reasons, Don't put the blame on her, or you, otherwise she will be mean about it.
475977
it doesnt sound like #3 is a very good friend i would not want a friend like that #3 sounds like a back stabber and two faced people like that do nothing but cause trouble stop hanging with #3 and save your self before things get worse
124738
Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!
254815
She is jealous and insecure.  You seem to be having success that is eluding her.  So she strikes back by being mean and trying to diminish your accomplishments.\n\nIf you want to give her another chance but not be hurt any more, you will have to tell her that her current behavior is unacceptable.  You don't need friends like that.\n\nBut if you've decided that she is not the kind of friend that you don't want to have, you will have to be honest with her and tell her that you don't need friends who are constantly critical and mean.  You owe her the truth for the sake of your past friendship.\n\nWhatever you decide is really up to you.  But if you just want to know why she did all this, it's jealousy and insecurity on her part.
570759
Dude trust me and give her time and just stay in touch with her and start at the friendship level again and see where it will go if you presist on calling her or showing up where she is you will just piss her off more and push her away
373034
INSTEAD OF TELLING HER TO LEAVE YOU ALNE, WHY DONT YOU TRY TO BECOME HER FRIEND? SHE MIGHT NEED ONE. JUST LIKE YOU NEEED SOME ONE TO GIVE YOU THIS ADVICE.
189176
i kind of dont know what you're saying. But, i am going to guess you and this friend have problems. I would talk to her, and tell her you love being her friend, and that it hurt when she insulted you. She'll be your friend
170289
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
509777
I had the same problem so I just ended our friendship you shouldn't have to live with someone whos mean and always trys to put you down just to make them feel better about them selves
113421
Maybe you should try to find a different friend, you can change or help somebody who doesn't want help.
257059
You most definitely did the right thing. After she gets help and cleans up she will eventually realize that you were looking out for her. I have been in a similar situation only I was in the position that your friend is in. I was furious at the friend that ratted me out and I reacted the same way. After I cleaned up my act and got counseling, I realized my life would have been ruined if it weren't for the one person that truly cared enough to tell someone so I could get help. Give her time and space and when she calls (and she will) just offer your friendship again and give her all of the love and support you can. Good luck!
61770
Why do you call her a "Friend"? I think you need to redefine that term or loose her as a "friend"..you have another friend you say who she annoys too..so you two have each other..leave her presence and dont pay any more effort to someone who will drain you..stand tall..people only treat you how you let them..
417173
She's what you call a "fair-weather friend". She's only around when it suits HER but not vice-versa.  I've had a few like that and the best thing is to cut them loose.  You are right not to talk to her anymore.  Some people are so immature they cannot see how their actions drive others away.  Don't call her bcz it will put the ball in her court and she will end up not calling YOU just to get back at you.\nIf you end up answering the phone when she calls just explain calmly and simply that you didn't appreciate how she blew you off AND lied to you during the crisis, when you really needed her, and obviously her priorities had been somewhere else.  You feel your friendship came to an end a long time ago.  Tell her you wish her luck and to take care of herself, that you're sure she will understand.  End with a firm 'goodbye'.  Keep your tone neutral and even. Don't be sarcastic or profane.  Remember, you're not going to lower yourself to her level.  Hope this helps.  It worked for me.
48873
you should of asked her why she was being a b**** and you did not like what she had said and if she has been doing this for a long time now then she deserved it i have been there some times you need to get rid of the jerks in your life and find better friends she is not the only one that has bad days you are human and have feeling to
92532
Sounds like she is trying to be you.  She definitely isn't worth being your friend, but I don't know about picking a physical fight---just seems like a bad idea, especially if she could press charges.
13196
Man, I know how that can feel...been there done that!!!  I found that I wasen't voicing my needs enough in some cases and in the others it was a matter of getting rid of the trash friendships that were merely sucking me dry emotionally and/or finacially.  Do yourself a favor and get rid of people who make you miserable and are just takers. Thinning them out and telling the people whom you choose to keep around what your needs are can be a very empowering experience.  Trust me, a few very close friends is worth more than a ton of supposed friends any day.  Hope this helps.
339688
is she really your friend? because if she is, then she would not have left you there alone by yourself. she could have introduced you to everybody and made sure that you had a great time.  i also think that she is not your friend cuz she does not enjoy your company. the fact that she embarrassed you to her guests and asked you to leave is not in any way a gesture of friendship. so, why do you have to be bothered if this friendship goes down the drain. in fact, it has been in the drain already.  you will be better off without her because she does not care for you and don't waste your time on such a person. it is you who is a real friend becoz no matter what she did, you still want to save this friendship. look around for someone who deserves your kind of friendship and i am sure that when you do find that someone, she will be a lucky person to have you.