How did you meet them and why do you consider them so.do you tell them all your secrets?\nshare your story.
203994
I met a friend and I consider her as my bestfriend, during my hi-school days..She was my classmate only for 1 year, then we parted ways as my family moved to our province and her family too, our place seems like A-Z, on the first few months we had communications then it fades away..after 22 years, I was happily married w/ 2 kids and working abroad and 1 day I was terrribly surprised when I received an email from her..and she said that she never gave up on looking for me though I did..We were very happy then..her family still remembers me and my family as well..I'd like to see her very soon when I got my vacation, we've got so  many things to talk about..I love her, she is my very best friend.
422124
be open and honest.  Let yourself be, who you are.  That person will find you.
313193
its definately scary out there sometimes and people have to be careful but ive met a lot of 'toads' in person too who lied and cheated and had gfs all over the place and led them all on. so its not just online and its been going on for ages and ages, it might just be easier now. \n\nthere are steps everyone should take in trying to make sure the person they are talking to is for real. seeing them on cam for one, so you know who you are talking to is really like the photos you have seen, being able to talk to them or call them whenever you want (might show they arent really married or living with someone), etc etc. \n\ni think the internet can be a good tool for getting to know more people. ive lived in my town for 17 years and i personally dont believe that i would just magically walk into 'the right guy' after all these years. instead i walked into one that lives 4000 miles away haha. if it wasnt for the internet we would not have been able to continue our relationship so closely. i think its a great tool for meeting friends, etc, but you definately have to be sensible and careful - just like meeting anyone in person!
161028
I met a girl on line.  Now she's my wife and we have a son.  But before this happened I visited her in her county for a number of weeks over some months.  It was only after this time that I felt happy enough to ask her to marry me.\n\nSo I suggest if you can go visit her.  Also is this your first real love?
91604
I've gone out with 5 guys all together and the fifth is my soul mate.  With the other four, I rushed into the relationship because I felt no one cared about me.  I didn't want to be left out so when they showed any interest I was hooked.  When I met my current boyfriend, I decided I would take things slow and be very cautious.  We've been together for two years.  We've been through A LOT of trying times and are still as much in love as the day we met.
332113
Oh my goodness....I have one.\n\nIt was right after I got out of a very long, very terrible relationship, yet it was before I met my husband.  I was sitting at my house with my roommate and one of those commercials came on TV for the telephone dating service.  TeleMates or something like that.  Well, I had been drinking just a bit so I decided to call it for fun.\n\nWell, I instantly was on the line with this guy who was a little older than me, who sounded really nice.  He described himself as being extremely nice looking with gorgeous blue eyes, etc. etc.  I was like "YES!!! Let's meet up for a date."\n\nSo a couple of days later, this guy was coming to pick me up.  I got ready for HOURS! (I hadn't been single in years, so I was so nervous about this "blind date")  My roommate was there, and a few of our friends were there to meet this guy.\n\nWell, we hear a car pulling into the driveway and my roommate runs to the window and is peeking out.  She turns around and starts laughing and she's like "He totally lied to you.  You are not going to like this."  I kept smiling, thinking that she was joking.  No, as it turns out, she was just being nice.\n\nThis guy looked NOTHING like he had described.  He had on huge thick glasses, he was like 4 inches shorter than me and about 30 pounds more than what he described.  He also had told me he was a great dresser, and lets just say this was a lie too!  The only thing he had in common with what he told me was that he had blue eyes!  That was it!\nSo this guy comes in and he's holding a rose, and I instantly feel like a b!tch for being so judgemental.  I thought, maybe he is a really nice guy, so I decided not to fake sickness as I had originally planned and take a chance on him. If anything, he could just be a friend that I hung out with.\nSo we go on our date.  He asks me where I want to go eat.  I tell him I'm not picky, I'm content with McDonalds double cheeseburgers.  So he decides to take me to a nice Mexican restaurant downtown.  We go in, and we're sitting there talking and sure enough, he is a nice guy.  So then he offers to buy me a drink.  I tell him I like margaritas.  He orders me the biggest margarita they have, one that costs over 10 bucks and comes in a cup that looks like a bowl!  So I drink the margarita.  He buys another one.  I drink it.  We finish eating and then we leave. \nSo he stops at a store, asks me do I smoke, I say yes.  He goes in, buys me several packs of cigarettes and a lighter.  And a case of beer.  I'm like WTF, but okay.....\nSo he gets a call on his cell phone and asks would I like to stop by his house, that his brother is having a "party" there.  I say sure, and figure if this is a trick, I have my pepper spray in my purse!\nSo we go to his house and it is only his brother there!  There is no party.  Apparently, I am the party.  So we sit around and drink some beers, have some conversation.  Then my cell phone rings and it is my former best friend (who is a guy) I talk only for a minute before telling him maybe we can hang out later, then hang up.  The guy I'm on a date with gives me this weird look and he's like "Was that a guy?" As I explain to him that it was my best friend, who I dated when I was 15, but since then, he's engaged and has two kids, he just looks pissed.  He grabs my purse up from bside me, shoves it into my hands and tells me he's taking me home.\nAs we're driving down the road, I start to tell him I had a fun time with him, and this dude just starts freaking out on me.  I remember he told me "You're nothing but a player.  You're one of those girls, you just play good guys like me.  Do you get off on playing people and doing them wrong?"  Of course, I'm like What the hell are you talking about?  So this guy proceeds to just b!tch me out:  I take you out and treat you right and you just screw me over.  That'
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I dated my best friend... She and I had become best friends after a short while and would talk constantly for close to 5 years. then, one day, we started dating... 5 years for her to gain all of my trust, less than an hour to lose all of it.\n\nI lost her, but we still chat a little.. we're actually in talks now about meeting again face to face to go out and photograph some things. \n\nWhile it hurts that I lost her, it hurts even more that I lost the only person I ever truly trusted. I wouldn't want her back in a dating sense, just to have my friend back would actually put a smile back on my face that's been missing for about 1 & 1/2 years now.
289235
I would never speak to that person again because they had betrayed me. Never tell your secrets to anyone as most people cannot help themselves they will always tell another they cannot resist. There is always someone with malicious intent on the sidelines.
351625
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.  Met my fiance on line almost 3 years ago.  Neither of us were looking for any type of relationship but we soon discovered that we had much in common and that we were very compatible.  If we had met say 20 years ago things obviously would have been different but the time was right and I am grateful each and every day for finding this woman to share my life with.  Trust your gut instincts and they will not lead you astray.
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i met my husband when i was 12yrs old we were at a pow-wow, i knew his older brother and sister but i never met him. we even went to the same church the whole time and didn't know it. wat a small world?! now were married and expecting our first child.
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I have had 6 people in my hurt me very badly.  Because of their combined hurt and pain I find it very hard to trust anyone.  I aIso find it hard to believe that there are any good people in the world. I don't trust my child with anyone and I have taught her that the world is a big place filled with people that are looking to get one over on you.  I am a perfectionist wanting only the extremly best for my daughter.  I am also wayyyy over protective, but I am working on it.  I am also kinda a loner because I can't let people get close to me and know my true feelings about anything.  I also teach my daughter (and I know that I shouldn't) not to get close to people because once you do, they will leave you.\n\nMy father- went to prison when I was 7 years old.  Next time I saw him I was 22 years old, and he was in a coffin.  No I haven't gotten over it, still affects me some days.\n\n\n\nmy ex husband- walked out on daughter.  reminded me of what my father did to me, not over it 100%.  probably never will be.\n\nmy husband (married almost 5 years)- had an affair.  Nope, not over it yet.  I am not expecting me to be over it any time soon due to the fact that he willing did this and willing wanted to tear out family apart.  I filed for divorce, but he is trying to make things right.\n\nmy then best friend- for having an affair with my husband.  Lying to my face and then laughing about it behind my back (yeah I overheard a converstation about her laughing about having sex with my husband and how clueless and dumb I am about it).  I am still angry with her in sooo many ways, but you know it was her loss.  I am a great friend to the few people I do hodl close to my heart as friends.\n\nthe man that molested and raped me for years- This has affected me sexually, mentally, and physically.  I have gotten over the fact that it happened to me and my mother did nothing to stop it or protect me from him.  I know that he has an illness that makes him attracted to children, and that is his problem.  I tell anyone I know that might come in contact with him to be warned. \n\nmy mother- mentally and physically abusive to all 4 children.  I have only gotten over this one because I know that she lacked the skills or knowledge to provide anything better.
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Yes I think you should meet them so there not just a face you picture in your mind. As far as what to say to them that can't be rehearsed and there is no right question or wrong question. I have niece and nephew out there that are twins in there 20's and have been looking for them for a long time and I'd give just about anything to see them,meet them.The questions would just come naturally once you meet I think.Good luck and go for it!!!!!!!!
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Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
91845
If someone tells you secrets that other people tell them, then think twice about telling that person your secrets. I've learned that they can't keep a secret.
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If you put what others had said before me, and consider that I is okay to not be sure, but to date and see what happens, and not pull back, then you have it half licked. \nIn my case, I had parents who did not fight and argue, and stayed together, and I think really loved each other, but pretty much did their own thing. \nWhat has put me off from relationships, and what I am just getting over, is all my friends who had parents who divorced. Worse, friends with horrible step parents, the kind the beat with belts and all kinds of crap. I am holding out for the love of a lifetime, and want to raise my own kids, if I have any.\nSo, I see your ideas as really rational and normal given your background. As one person has said, the best way to do it is to not judge the situation or a future mate before even meeting her. \nIt can be done, I am just learning myself. So can you. And, when you meet the right one, you can tell her these things, and she will not be offput, as long as you tell her you really want to get to know her before committment. \nI have been interested in the same person now for a couple years. This time it may work. She hangs in with me, and I with her. No we don't live together, but are slowly learing to trust. \nSo, hang in there, and let things happen slowly. Just because you kiss, or even shag doesn't mean that you are about to be in a trap, as long as you are careful. \nBe good to yourself, and realize that sometimes it is the unknown that makes life exciting!
551348
why should we? Do we all know them personally? Most only know them from the tabloids. They might be genuinely sad creatures, who knows?
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I met my spouse on line - dating service.\nWe met about 2 months later, I felt this was the person for me from the first glance as we met at a local restaurant.\nWe were married 6 months later.\nWe've been together (married) now for 4 years.\nWe have our good and bad times, but we are still very much in love and are continuing to plan our futures together.\n\nHope this helps.