I use to use drugs for 2 years everyday 2 times a day, I use to also use to be an alcoholic too!  My parents never knew this, but i want to tell them cause I have soo much guilt should I tell them!  Also I have lately been wanting to go out and find some stuff to smoke!  Should I check into a rehab place or just beat this on my own?  (I am not amy, but my husband checks my e mail and dont want him to see this and she let me use her name and stuff!)
201521
You should tell everyone you can that will keep you from going back unless you dont want to stay off the drugs. If you dont think you can stay off then go to rehab. I know this first hand. Also may want to tell everyone in ur life the stupid things you do when you are doing them, any further questions please email me.
133850
Just do what you have to do.  No one has to know your business but you and God and whoever else is assisting you.  If your friends were true to you, they would have been rehab themselves.  You owe no explanation, just do it.  GOOD LUCK. I am proud of you already, that is a first step.
628245
Wow ~ you have a lot going on.  First, why do you think that the court would drug test you?  If it is a hearing on about your dad failing to pay, isn't your mother trying to help find support for you? Second, if your mom hasn't been receiving money from your dad~where are you getting money to use drugs?  Shouldn't you be more considerate of your mother who is trying to provide for you?  Third, aren't you being quite selfish~doing drugs and worrying about yourself?  How old are you?   Why can't you see what your mother is trying to do to help you and your doing drugs?  That is so outrageous and selfish that I cannot even being to tell you how disappointing that whole situation is due to your lack of respect for your own mother.  You should definitely worry about someone other than yourself.\n\nOh, they can drug test you if they have cause such as you using the child support money to use drugs.  Not to mention, you could be placed in a juvenile faculty if they think that your mother is not taking care of ~ since you are selfishly ruining your own life by using drugs ~\n\nI am sorry I am so harsh with you~I am sure that you love your parents very much.  It makes me very upset to see a child throwing away so much to use something that can destroy their entire life and the lives of the people who love them back~hugs and kisses.
118762
You shouldnt be smoking that at that age, hiding it from your parents.. As a parent I would rather my child tell me about it.... \n\nRespect your parents and dont bring it in the house.\n\nWhat are the places you have thought of? Cause they will find it. And when they find it they are going to be so upset and mad, you'll lose all tys with friends and be grounded forever.... Not a fun thing... \n\nIm sorry I can answer the question...
648737
I assume you mean drugs?  Best thing to do is be honest and face the consequences.  Your mom probably will not "kick" you out of the house but she might insist you go to drug rehab.  Your mom loves you unconditionally but she will be very hurt, angry and disappointed.  I am sure she wanted better for you and expected better of you.  You let her down.  Expect her reaction and give her time to cool down.  She will then help you.\n\nIt is time to take responsibility for your actions, come clean and stay off drugs.  Good luck!
422331
If you're 18 then you can do what you want to do.  You just need to decide which is more important.  Why doesn't your dad want you to do this?  I would be very proud if my child came to me and said they wanted to do something like that.  If you think it's a calling then it probably is.  I hope you are able to do what you feel is right and that your dad comes around.  Maybe if you tried again to sit down with him and explain to him why it's important to you.  Maybe if you speak with adult tones and mannerisms he'll get it.  I don't know your father so I don't know.  I think he should be proud that you want to do this and that you're not involved with drugs or gangs or any of the other things young adults are faced with every day.  He could have a lot worse things to be facing than you wanting to serve God.  Maybe you could find a way to tell him that kindly.  Act like an adult [or continue to really, it sounds like your very mature] and maybe, hopefully, he'll treat you like one.  Good luck to you!  If you were my child I would be incredibly proud of you.  I could only wish my children would tell me something like that.  You want to do the right thing, I hope you do it!
241896
There's no easy answer for this one, unfortunately.  Since you are an adult, it may be in your best interest to remove yourself from the situation, i.e. move out.  \n\nAs for your parent, most drug abusers need to hit bottom before they're willing to get help; telling them what they're doing is wrong usually doesn't help.  You could try an intervention, but I would definitely get a professional involved.  Is there a pastor or a doctor that knows both of you?
166258
Addictions are hard no matter what the addiction is. So, my advice is to slowly stop taking them. Reduce the dosage one day at a time, and eventually you won't even need them any more. I also think it's helpful to have a support system in tack. Let someone around you know you have this problem so they can help you.
336873
I had a friend that was addicted. He's over it now, but I could never convince him that he needed help, he had to convince himself. I'm afraid there's little that you, alone, can do. Depending on his age, perhaps you could talk with his parents, or maybe a counselor of some sort...? When he realizes that he has a very serious problem he's going to need to know that you'll be there for him! You might have to be strong while he is weak! I wish you (and him) the best!
672311
Hello honey! Reading this makes me sad. I am 28 years old and I am a recovering pill addict. I totally feel you and what you are going through. I know it's so hard! First of all, you've admitted you have a problem. Believe it or not, that's a huge step. It's step one on the 12 steps of recovery. So you're already there! You have to change your "PPT's" [People, Places, Things]. You cannot expect to stay clean if you are always around it. This has never worked. I have been clean for 2 years now and I never thought I could be this happy without a substance in my body. Finally, I have peace and happiness in my life and am no longer running that freakin "rat race" to hell. I used to be full of depression and misery and sucidial thoughts! Please don't stop trying. What saved me was Narcotics Anonymous and God. If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. So you've got to do something different. Go to the link below to find a meeting in your area. You need to reach out for help. This disease of addiction is like cancer, it will eventually kill you if you don't get help. People die everyday from overdosing. It's like you're playing russian roulette with your life. God wants you to be happy. You can do this!! I have faith in you! People get clean everyday and you can too. Go here...\n\nhttp://www.na.org/\n\nGod bless you my friend and my prayers are with you every step of the way!
377419
You are probably self medicating. Maybe you are trying to cope with some kind of internal problem. I know how it feels to not want to go to a professional and get probed with all these ideas that don't help. Try spending time with family away from the bottle. Try to focus on all the good stuff that you do when you are sober and not doing drugs. My father is a drug user and my brother was an alcoholic. I gave my brother support, told him how I felt about his drinking. I told him that I needed him to stop because it hurt me to see him sick in bed, vomiting. I hated having to nurse him. I thought my brother was going to die and I told him that he scared me when he drank and would come home almost passing out and me having to keep him up. I almost lost my brother a few times. He was depressed but I told him how much I loved him. Maybe you need someone to really tell you how it makes them feel to see you drinking or doing drugs. I told my dad that I hated him doing drugs, so he hid the drugs. He is still doing drugs and I told him I wouldn't talk to him or see him until he became clean. Professional help doesn't always do the trick. You need family and a support system. This is the only true way to kick the habbit and feel better. Try little steps. I know not from my own experience but from the experience of my loved ones. They tried professional help and got nowhere. You got to be willing to change before you can change.
429981
3 years is a long time to hide a potentially deadly disorder like the one that you have.your body can only take so much and will finally stop.you never know when your condition is going to take a turn for the worse and you dont want it to come to that.sometimes you have to move past pride and do what is right.and whats right in this situation is to let someone know you need help.God bless you and I will offer my assistance any way i can .If you need some to talk to e-mail me at lorenahayes@bellsouth.net.
272647
Admitting to your parents that you have a problem even again will not "make then mad" your parents love you.  They helped you the other 2 times you needed help and they will help you again.  You should talk to them and tell them whats going on.  You should even express your fear to them that you get scared to ask for help.  See what they say.  And yes sweetheart you need to get long term help, you should never hurt yourself.  Having a problem like this is not your fault, it is a mental illness that you have no control over.  So if you need help ask for it, don't be ashamed or afraid.
239363
My first answer is for you to tell someone you feel comfortable telling.  You may only be 13, but you can very well have an addiction that can last a lifetime.  I too, had alcohol addiction at 13.  I stopped drinking at 16 when I married and had my first child.  I wish that I would have asked my parents for help to stop.  Only you can make the decision to quit or to continue.  I tried to quit many times.  My friends didn't even know how much I drank. I am a Christian and I will be praying for you. I hope that is OK. My final answer is there is nothing wrong with you that is not wrong with many of us.  Always love yourself.
181722
My dad and I had a similar situation.  I moved in with him at 15 and we partied all the time.  But when I got older, I couldn't take the aftermath of a good bender. I didn't want to be like that drunk old man that didn't have a license, and broke his leg riding home from a bar on a bicycle.  I had a hard time breaking away, he was my dad and we'd be through hell together.  But I had to realize that he had at least started most of the trouble in the beginning.  And that I didn't want him to use me to validate his addictions.  Like saying "that's how we bond".  Usually I just resented him more after we partied.  I haven't seen my dad in 5 years.  I miss him, and I love him, but he's lost everything.  They have to want to quit like we did.  Sometimes, like once a year, I call him.  Make sure he's still alive and doing ok.  But from my experience, they only get worse.  Last time I called my dad had lost the house, his job, living with 4 other people in a house that should be condemned.  He's 51 and having seizures when he goes sober for hours.  I love him soooo much, but I can't bring that beer to him, roll his j, drive him around or keep his dealers off his butt anymore.  Just pray alot, think about the good times and move far enough away that she can't find you until you're independent enough to say no to her.
389837
I am 19 and also cut. I wish so much that  ihad gotten help years ago when it first began now it feels like its to late. Dont be ashamed of it you really need to tell your parents. its hard to do and honestly quiting will take all you have and its something you cant do alone. so get help please before its to late.
364826
Tell your parents...and tell them now!!