My best friend has a date. Now she wants to bring her best friend along and asked him to bring someone for her as a date as well. So I have a blind date. I need some tipps on how to proceed. What should I do? What topic should I avoid? What if I don't like her? I also should mention that I am a shy person. Any help would be really great.
207010
Think of the experience as going out with friends nothing more. Ask her questions about herself? Avoid talking about sex . If you don't like her you never have to see her again. Go out and have the best time you can. Good luck.
269754
yeah thats probably a good idea, it will eliminate sum of the nervousness, and tell her to bring a friend too, it can be like a group thing. you will all be less nervous and it will seem like less of a date situation...definitely acceptable! have fun!
137895
Maybe its your girldfirend that just wants your money.  But I would hate to think my best friend would stab me in the back and date a guy i cared about.  Does this tell you anything about the girl you are thinking of asking out? If that is the way she treats her best friend is she really gonna be that good to you?  Either way if you current girlfriend is that bad to you - you need to let her go and tell her why.  If things happen between you and the other girl after that -  then all is fair.  Good luck to you
75290
Since your best friend is good friends with him, maybe you could find ways to be around him more.  Be yourself, but make sure that you direct some comments his way!  If you two become closer friends, it will start to become more evident if you have things in common, and will be easier to transition into dating.  I hope it works out for the best!\nP.S.  I got tired of always waiting for guys to make the first move, so I started speaking out a little more, which was hard, because I'm a little shy.  But I had to make sure that they at least knew I was alive. In most cases, they did have an interest as well, which is good because it saved me the pain of rejection. Just don't throw yourself at him or act like someone you're not.
83147
Perhaps if you have the same interests, you don't use the term dare.  Ask her if the two of you can go....sometime.  If she says yes, set up the date.\n\nGood Luck!
319165
tell me Jonat, did you ever see that movie, "Must Love Dogs"? She didn't create the profiles herself, her sister or best friend did. But she played along, and met a few men. She did eventually come to like the one she saw the most. Rent it, it might give you an idea.  wanted a simpler idea? How about braggin about her, to every guy you meet, who has a brother or even who has a friend, who wants a girl friend?  Where exactly do you live? And how old are you and your best friend? I might know a guy, she might like. Just maybe.
600260
"Wat did I do wrong?" How about messing around with your best friend's boyfriend?  "How do I get better?"  Show some loyalty to your friend.  You seem very desperate and cheap, and you'll only attract the worst type of guy.
107217
Ask about common movies you may have seen... if you find there is not one you've both seen, ask if he would like to go to one you both might like. The best way to connect with someone is to share a common experience, so try something like a picnic, or go to a museum, or try the Zoo. This way you'll have something common to talk about not only during the "date" but also afterwards... and it gives you a venue to learn more about each other. This is why I think movies are fine for some dates, but you want a place to go where you can talk and get to know each other (can't during a movie), and learn each other's likes and dislikes. Good luck!
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At THE VERY LEAST please go over and say hello.  Talk to her first as if you were looking for your best friend, not a girlfriend and maybe it will help you to be less nervous.  Ask what her favorite drink is and then buy it for her.  You can also ask if she's by herself or with her friends.  Just try some questions you would ask anyone that you were trying to get to know. Just try not to wait until the end of the night to go over because by then she may be talking to someone else.  GOOD LUCK!
134374
I know your heart is in the right place, but I doubt if she is ready for a blind date at this point.  You need to give her time to grieve for what she lost and to rebuild her life before she will be ready to start looking for a new relationship.  Just be her sister and her friend and let her know how much she means to you and that her ex was a major fool to treat her like that.
92362
Have I got an answer for you!!!!  I went thru the exact thing- I kept telling him no no no no NO NO NO NO!  Day after day!!!!  It is just taboo to date your best friends brother!  Finally I said yes just to shut him up!  And we have been married for 22 years now.  Love can be right under your nose and u do not even know it!  Always take a chance on love!  Its well worth it when u win!
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Rule #1: You don't plan a BLIND DATE for the whole day. Just a dinner, or a movie, or some drinks, or just a coffee.\n\nRule #2: You plan ahead. Ask somebody to call after half hour or an hour. If things are OK then you tell them is fine. On the other hand if things are not OK then you fake a family emergency or something like that. But be careful how you plan your excuse because your date may be willing to stay with you during the family emergency (may be a gentleman).\n\nRule #3: Don't do what you don't want people to do to you. UNLESS HE IS A COMPLETE JERK or abusive or something like that. If you committed to the BLIND DATE then you should stick to it. Just try to make the best of it, and show some respect for that person even if you don't like him. He is a person as well and don't deserve to be treated like that just because there are things you don't like from him. It takes two to tango and you are not the only person that matters.
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Don't play games.  I'm not sure if he will be jealous or not.  But it's pretty likely he'll think your a little slutty for dating his best friend.  I'm not sure that's the outcome your looking for.  Don't you know you NEVER date best friends?  Best friends usually talk about girls to each other......that leads me to believe either the guy you like isn't interested, or they plan to pass you back and forth, sharing you with each other......not such a good situation.
301993
I think honesty is the key. If you like him you should talk to your friend first. If you don't tell him that you don't really care for him, but you know someone that does. Lead him on, maybe he'll get interested in your friend!! Set up a blind date for the two, hopefully it will go well!
32816
It doesn't seem to be polite for me to ask you a question, but one does wonder why you (a) would want to go out with someone who doesn't speak; (b) would have your friend act as a go-between (when you should take responsibility for your own relationships); and, (c) would expect for a person you don't know to behave in a way that suits you.\n\nMaybe you should just leave the guy alone. If he doesn't answer, that's his business. Besides, it may just be possible that he's ignoring your friend because he thinks this whole approach is not to his liking - that he's being objectified. He may be uncomfortable - and he may not be interested in playing this game.
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is this boyfriend by chance jealous of your friendship with her ? it is possible he may have made something up so he could have her to himself...\nI would let her know that best friends are there even when boyfriends come and go, tell her you care about her and how important it is to trust each other.\nLet her also know you have no interest in hanging out with her boyfriend and u would be even more happy to just meet her in town at the mall or coffee shop.\nI too have recently suffered the same fate with my best friend too.\nFortunately we have made it through stronger than ever she has been dealing with a very possessive boyfriend that she is getting ready to leave now.\ngood luck..
76586
If this is a first date... no, it will not lead to other dates.  Only your wit and humor will lead to 2nd dates.  What you have planned is a way for her to get free stuff.  Have her meet you for lunch, show up a few minutes late and let her order her own.  Why spend your hard earned dough especially if she earns her own.  All that says is "I am willing to pay you for your time"!!!  Lay on the cocky/funny... bust on her 1970s shoes/bag, if she can't take a joke... forget her.