We dated for 5 years.  Finally, we broke up 3 months ago, she saying I wasnt there for her when she cried.  I've changed and grown up. How can I get her to give me another chance.
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Well you haven't said if she knows you have changed or not, nor did you say if you asked her for another chance. If she doesn't know you want another chance I would suggest you ask her. If and when you do ask her and she says no then I would suggest you read a book called, "How to mend a broken heart, letting go and moving on" by Aleta Koman. You can't really make anyone do anything they don't want to do, if she does turn you down it's going to be hard but you've got to go on with your life and such. That book will help you wonders and help you understand things a lot more clearer. I've been through the same thing with my ex but not because I wasn't there for her but for another reason. I asked her to give me another chance numerous times and she turned me down. So the next thing I did was look up some books on the internet for this type of thing and came across that book.
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Actually, I think the amount of time that passed is NOT important, however, did you change? Did she change? Why did you split up 7 years ago? Consider these answers before leaping again, and make sure you both know what you are expecting from the other.
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Just tell her you guys broke up- you both realized you weren't ready for the commitment and leave it at that- tell her your personal life isn't something you like to discuss and next time, BE HONEST.
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I'm sorry about your breakup, I know things like this can be hard and no matter what people say, we always want things to come out the way we hope it does. \n\nBut it seems like, almost a year is going by, and no progress.  Do you realize that if you keep trying to get back with someone who doesn't want you, you may miss the one intended for you?  It seems like it's really over between the two of you, and maybe it's time to move on and spend some time recovering from your breakup.  Then get back into the dating field and see what happens.  \n\nI hope you find who you are looking for, because it isn't this other girl.  \n\nGood Luck!\n:)
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You could always get the jump on her by breaking up with her. Or you could talk with her and ask her why, there might be a way to fix things (99 percent chance there isnt).
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She has moved on with her life.  It is time for you to do the same.  She is clearly not interested in a relationship or trying to patch things up.
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Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
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Dude... it as easy as reading your letter... The relationship is over and she just wants to drag it out to see if she can find someone else and compare awhile (and it sounds like she already has).Anytime someone moves on like this the relationship is never the same anyway. It will alway be unequal and ultimately a drama field to play in... with her holding all the chips.Tell her what SHE WANTS TO HEAR AND MOVE ON...because this is what she seems like she is doing to you rite now.  Remember you have been in a 5 yr relationship and probably need a break anyway.Is this a pattern with her? Does she alway dangle carrots and rattle bones?It sounds like the old shell game, which one is she under ,wonder wonder...wonder. You are young and will find someone else because you sound like a good, descent person. So good luck and be strong...\nyou will find someone else..dont wait three months before you start looking...go on.. do it because you can always swear you didnt..listen get your chips too because you got to get them.. your gonna need as much momentum as you can  to get back into the swing of dating... the wiz
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I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
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I was in a similar boat and went back. \nHowever, before we got back together I grew and changed.\nI'm more independent and overall a stronger person.\nIf you can get back together and be equals that's fine, but the catch is that being equals also means that she has to make up for what she did.  I would ask her directly, "You hurt our relationship, so what are you going to do to fix it?"\n\nIf she talks, but doesn't answer the question then don't go back.  If she actually list out what she is willing to do and she starts doing it then I'd give it a try.
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yeah i believe everyone deserves a second chance. she wasn't ready 4 the relation ship and u kept pushing her so that she felt pressured. and what happens to people when they feel pressured? they back off and start feeling all offensive. so do what you think is best\n\nsigned by: the coolest person u will ever meet
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she misses you....i dont think she really wanted to break up with you...its that or she still cares for you..not exactly loves you but she still hopes the best for u...maybe you should talk to her sometime and just see how shes doing..maybe start going out again ..
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Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
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Sounds to me like shes moved on and you are just a past time for when she is bored. I think if I were you I would move on and forget her. I dont think I would be looking for suggestions to get her back, theres a saying that says something about set it free and if it comes back its love if it doesnt than it wasnt meant to be, something like that lol so if she didnt come back than shes not going to. You deserve someone who will love you no strings or plans attached, so your only cheating yourself and her if you try to get her back and she doesnt want to be back it wont work out again it will only be worse.
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I've been in your shoes and you have stated in your question exactly what the problem is. "I gave up everything for her all my friends and everything" The problem is just that. You gave up everything. Now you have nothing left, not even yourself. You invested everything in her and she took it and ran. The best I can tell you is that it's gong to take some time. This might sound crazy to you right now but it will make sense later trust me. First forget her!! This is the hardest part. Constantly remind yourself that you deserve better.  2nd forget dating others for awhile. The last thing you need it to jump in a relationship with someone when your still hurting over the first one. Your pain clouds your judgment and you may get into something you wish you hadn't. 3rd and most important, try to get back the things you gave up. Find your old friends and make some new ones as well. Start doing things that you enjoy. Find yourself again. It takes time man but we have all gotten through it and you can too.
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First, you need to make sure that she is not under the impression that there is any chance you guys could get back together. Remember you broke up for a reason and if it was a stupid one than maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Another thing you need to be careful of is that fact that she may be very unstable if after 2 yrs she is still crying over your separation. By now she should of moved on at least a little bit. I'm not saying that she should be with someone and madly in love. I am saying that she should of by now, come to the realization that there is nothing more there. Another problem may be if she hasn't seen you move on, this may fuel the flame sort of speak. If she sees the fact that you are single and not looking she may think that you are just waiting for the right time to get back together with her. Hopefully this helps......
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sorry that things didn't work out.. I am 27 and had a relationship i soooo wanted but it didn't happen for me.. but now i have an even better relationship.\ni believe no real relatioship should be complicated.. i try to stick with the "if someone wants to be with you then they will" It sounds a bit like she is keeping you emotionally hanging on by talking to you each day and that's very unfair, i think you should take some time to distance yourself from her and ask her not to contact you every day, she doesn't need to know ya business, she gave up that right when she split from you she probably only wants to know it to stop you from moving on.. but you really should, once she sees you doing that then she will either realise how crazy she is being and jump at the chance to be with you for real or she will move on also.. either way you will know how she really thinks and feels and move on to better times with or without her.. good luck