old good friend?\nor new good friend?\nold good friend is my roommate, and he drives me back/to school whenever we go home\nnew good friend has been great and supportive for like the past 6 months.\n\ndecisions decisions..
201688
neither \ntake someone you dont really give shit about so you won't feel guilty about having to choose between 2 ppl you care alot about
121163
It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
141568
You can't listen to your friend. She may be trying to help, but you have to tell her no. It is your decision...it is your CHOICE. Do what you want. \n\n   To me, your choice sounds very correct. It sounds like you are taking your responsibility. Good job. Go for what you want, not what other want or think.
160412
nope and I'd further let him know that you value your time and are willing to include him in your plans but only if he shows up.  I'd make it clear and rock solid that if he does it again, the friendship is terminated out of a lack of respect for you on his part.  You don't have to be a doormat for this so-called friend.  The reason you may be the only friend he's got is because he chased off the other people who wanted to be his friend.  So.....you may be a friend to HIM but I don't see any parts of his being a friend to YOU.  Get ready to ditch this sadsack and meet nicer people.
155154
It's a week since you asked.  Maybe it all worked out in the meantime.  \n\nIt sounds like he's not very good to you when he's around his friend.   \nMaybe you could ask him why?  He might not have realized.  \n\nHope it works out for you.
29838
I had the same problem with a guy that moved in with me. I wanted him to pay some rent to me, along with half utilities and groceries. It seemed only fair since with my school and work schedule he was there more than I was. He always complained and still does afterwards about how he paid part of my mortgage, but seriously, had he lived anywhere else he would have had to pay rent too. We ended up breaking up about a year later for various reasons, but the one thing I was definitely happy I did was to make him pay his way. Honestly, you should really look at it as a roommate situation and not a girlfriend situation. Would you let one of your friends live with you for free? Or even a complete stranger, which happens many times if you're looking for a roommate in a new city? Although I know my boyfriend at the time was a little resentful that I asked him to pay some rent to me, I'm glad I did. So yeah, I would talk to her and work out a reasonable payment she could make to you for rent, then still charge her for utilities. A good way to do it is to sit down and determine what kind of an income she will have and talk about a reasonable number that she will be able to afford without hating you later. As for her parents, they need to stay out of it. If they want their little girl to live somewhere for free, tell them to open up their basement to her. Shes a big girl, in or out of college, and it is about time they let her do her thing. And since it is your condo, they have absolutely no say in how much you charge her or for that matter any thing about your finances. Anyway, I hope you work it out. Good luck!
522180
That was hurtful that he did not respond to you when you needed his comfort!  He sounds egocentric and such people drain energy from others.  Decide whether the energy drain is worth it to maintain your "friendship."  How important is it to you to be "needed"?
80002
The same thing I told another friend.\n\n\nif he's nice to you\nif he treats you right\nif both of your like to hang out togeather.\n\nif your answer is yes, then i think you should go for it.
202466
option 3. he wasn't much of a friend before, and now that you have relationship baggage and nothing strong platonically to bind you from before, there is no friendship to revive here. too much complication and effort on your part. let him go and make different friends, see different guys, be free!!
655982
The verse is great.  It sounds like you have a really good friend there.  God bless you in your relatiionship, and in your life!
516907
When we graduated, we didn't see each other every day.  We moved a part, heck, she even lives in another country now.  Yes, we've faded.  But she is still my best friend, and when we do see each other, which is 1 time a year, it's all back to what it use to be.  If you have a strong and wonderful friendship, nothing will break it, even distance.  So in a way, we are stronger, but just geographically farther.
8474
wow-i can relate having moved in w/friends a month ago after leaving my husband. be honest and upfront. sit her down w/your facts written out in front of you.\n\nHave a time-line for you to leave if she cannot pay her share. If she's in over her head - offer to help her find subsidized housing/sell her place etc.\n\nIt's awful to lose good friends over money, honesty is the best policy before you and your other half resent her or worse. Good luck and Happy New Years, Pat
203994
I met a friend and I consider her as my bestfriend, during my hi-school days..She was my classmate only for 1 year, then we parted ways as my family moved to our province and her family too, our place seems like A-Z, on the first few months we had communications then it fades away..after 22 years, I was happily married w/ 2 kids and working abroad and 1 day I was terrribly surprised when I received an email from her..and she said that she never gave up on looking for me though I did..We were very happy then..her family still remembers me and my family as well..I'd like to see her very soon when I got my vacation, we've got so  many things to talk about..I love her, she is my very best friend.
23654
If someone is not your best friend anymore that means that either you or he/she or both have changed (assuming there is not a discussion that has made your relationship to grow apart).So if now you have different interests, or have that sharing time with other friends is more amusing, then try to feed those friendships. If you really feel like you still want this friend to be a very close friend, talk it out and see why youa re becoming distant from one the other. Sometimes friends dont keep in touch for a while, but usually they come back when they realize they feel comfortable around.
651390
They don't sound like very good friends.  Your free to do what you want with our without them.  But also,  If you start doing stuff exclusively without them all the time they could think that you don't want to be friends anymore and be angry.  I lost a friend once because I wanted to spend time with my family and didn't stop by her house when I was in town.  But I figure we must not have been that good of friends if she would ditch me over something like that.
417117
I know exactly what you are going through! I was always worried either of them were going to pull the question "Me or Him" or "Me or Her". Luckily I talked to my bff and she and I agreed on walking to school together and my bf and I walk home together, while she and our other friends walk home in an opposite shorter way home. If you end up doing something similar make sure it's even for both your bf and bff... my bf had basketball practice after school on Wednesdays so that also gave me and my bff more time together, while from 4:30-7:00 pm on Sunday nights I would go to church with my bf... so it was even and no relationship was broken... and my bff and bf didn't have to spend any time together!!
670994
If you are good friends, why would you jepordize that. If you think it won't change things between you then your kidding yourself. If you cross that line, you can't ever go back. You must decide if things go bad after it happens, are you willing to do that and lose a friend just to find out what it would be like?