My boyfriend is being brainwashed. what the person said to him was not true. I didnt hear was was said. I know that my boyfriend really cares for me. but, how do you cure him being brainwashed so my name can be cleared?
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there are many people out there wholl do just the thing done to your boyfriend.no reasons,just for fun.explain to your boyfriend.then let him decide if he loves u trusts u he will believe if not he didnt love you.i believe anyone can brianwash anyone but if they know me well,trust me,know what type of person i am they wouldnt believe it so i also know when this happens if the other person was really a true friend or not.so this is the time youll find out if your bf loves you or not.i know it frustrates when something like this happens but we can do nothing just wait and ull know if he loves u or not
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well, that is a problem I can very well relate to.. I have this boyfriend who is as over possessive as you.. he would even go to the extent of knowing what clothes I wear on a daily basis.. who I talk to at work.. and crazy things like that..he more than once threatened to kill me with his bare hands just because I sometimes failed to answer his calls, he loves me I know and I love him as much, but really.. this is a problem we have between us.. well, am lucky he's so far away and could not get his hands on me, otherwise, am sure I'd be dead by now.. hi hi hi
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Then he is ONE of the HYPOCRITE CLUB members.\n\nAll this while he WAS lying to you. Sweet promises from your boyfriend.\n\nNow, he is gone. But please don't label ALL BOYS are like that, okay? There are a lot of boys out there who is SINCERE (like me :) ) in Love and all. \n\nIt wasn't your fault sweet heart. I'm so sorry :-( But cheer up, okay? We are here, to help you.\n\nYour situation is hard. I'm sorry to say that I don't think he is SINCERE relationship with you. One day, I believe God will PUNISH him. Don't worry sister, he will SUFFER.
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First off, give him a breather, get off his case.  then in a couple days (and don't sulk) tell him he is the love of your life and so you have a good long term relationship there are some things you both need to discuss together, not A question and answer , a discussion, start with saying that you have some concerns, don't be acussatory. No one listens well when they are being accused of something.  Waituntil he seems comfortable to discuss the things you are worried about.  If he is the love of your life/soulmate, it is worth putting some extraordinary effort on your part, then to let your relationship unravel over fear
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If you feel you need to have him investigated and can't trust what he tells you......\n\nfind a new boyfriend.\n\nCut your losses and move on.
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Dear Mary,  You are funny girl.\n\nEvidently you haven't heard.\n\nGod issued an upgrade on all the things you mentioned.\n\nHe knew the new age was coming before any human knew, so He sent His son to address the new issues and get rid of some of those troubling ones. \nHe made it clear the Jews (Israelites ) were a proud and stiff-necked people (they still are) so He had to ride herd on them in a major way. But after they beat the crap out of His son and killed Him, He decided to take the message to the Gentiles. That's the whole rest of the world in case you don't know who that refers to.\n\nSo give the big guy a break will you. He is willing to put up with human nonsense and make changes when necessary. \nHe disapproves of your sexy dressing because He would feel bad if some perv grabbed you and messed you up. He doesn't want that to happen to you because whether you know it or not, He cares what happens to you.\n\nBTW, some of the atheist pervs are hoping you will post some sexy pics at your 360.
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i think you should just ask your friends about it first i mean ait`s not your boyfriend`s fault. tell them how you feel, and ask them what would they do if it`s happening to them. i mean they won`t get it until they`re in someone else`s shoes. if they`re your friend then they would respect you and your boyfriend and lay off him. good luck ! =]
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This is a good question.\nI would say I believed in you until I went to AA and all those allegedly spiritual people back stabbed me.\nI would ask him Why did you put the serial killer and the man who is suspected of killing his ex-wife into my life if you were just going to abandon me and not help me figure out what to do when they targeted me to be their next victim.?  Why is AA so messed up if it is a spiritual program? I just sponsored a woman.  I did not know her ex had such a dirty secret to hide.\n\nI would also ask why he allows all the people (preachers) to distort his words and why does he not clarify things to prevent wars over how to get to him?\nI really don't understand why you haven't come back to clear things up and are you a sociopath to let confusion and bickering over you words to get so out of hand.\nand lastly....   Why did you refuse to help when I asked for guidance?    Why do you let good people get suckered by swindlers?\nand   Where did you come from?  Who made you?
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Girl, no one deserves that kind of abuse!  \nHe definitely doesn't think he can get better, some guys like to put their g.f. down b/c it makes them think that they can't get any better and then he hopes you won't leave him b/c of it.  B/c if he thinks you're a s.l.u.t, then hopefully you'll think that every guy thinks you're a s.l.u.t. for what you're doing. Or something like that.\nBeing a Christian myself, you have to be careful on who you date, try dating another Christian.  Relationships are already hard enough, if you at least have the same morals it will make it that much easier.\nYou deserve better!
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Now stop J Man, you're not looking at life from a "logical" view. Obviously those crazy Christians (like me) have got you brainwashed! The God we love and adore, why, we need to give all that up, because some dude on Yahoo showed me the error of my ways.
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She did something she knew was deceptive and against your will. She\n\nthen misled you and was deceptive about it once you caught on. She\n\nflat-out lied about her actions and tried to make out as if it were\n\nyou who was in the wrong and had a lack of understanding (a\n\ngenerational thing that you aren’t able to comprehend).\n\n\n\nShe says Jeff is “easy to talk to” and that he’s “a great listener” –\n\nmajor red flag\n\n\n\nYou made your value of honesty perfectly clear and yet she\n\nintentionally betrayed that in spite of your openness of how much it\n\nmeant to your relationship.\n\n\n\nI find your statement here perplexing:\n\n\n\n“I personally think it’s a bit weird for a guy to be calling a girl\n\nwho has a boyfriend every day, but I also don’t’ want to treat my gf\n\nlike a child.”\n\n\n\nI don’t. \n\n\n\nYour “girlfriend” is acting childish but you don’t want to treat her\n\nlike a child. She has given you every reason to question her integrity\n\nyet you insist on being more permissive. You wonder how a guy (which\n\nshe admittedly feels so comfortable being with and confiding in) would\n\ncall on a girl who has a “boyfriend”. Dude, in my opinion, HE is her\n\nboyfriend too. Is it really that unclear? My guess is that YOU are\n\nprobably NOT her “boyfriend” in HIS mind, but YOU are merely an\n\nobstacle (she never mentions you and he never asks about you) . It\n\nwould seem, on it’s face at least, that she may feel the same way (why\n\nwould she be honest about this too when she found it so easy to lie\n\nabout everything else). The fact remains that she encourage, or at\n\nleast welcomes, his advances which she KNOWS FOR A FACT are totally\n\nagainst your will and undisputedly outside the parameters of trust\n\nthat the two of you have agreed upon for your relationship (in view of\n\nher previous lies about Jeff).\n\n\n\n“she says ‘she thinks about him all the time, and misses him. She’s\n\ndepressed that she can’t see him.”\n\n\n\nI’m not trying to belittle you or suggestion that you are less than\n\nintelligent because I know how love clouds the mind. But, c’mon big\n\nfella; you need to wake up because as hard as this is to swallow, in\n\nmy opinion you’re being had.\n\n\n\n“She says that maybe I don’t trust her, and she can’t spend the rest\n\nof her life with someone who can’t trust her, and she knows I feel the\n\nsame way.”\n\n\n\nShe KNOWS you don’t trust her and she KNOWS you don’t want to be with\n\nsomeone you can’t trust. It kinda makes one wonder if she’s not trying\n\nto help you dump her by continuing to give you reason after reason to\n\nnot trust her, doesn’t it? See what I mean? I don’t think she “feels\n\nbad” because she doesn’t “want to make you upset”, she feels bad\n\nbecause she KNOWS it makes you upset and she KNOWS that isn’t right –\n\nbut she still does it, doesn’t she?\n\n\n\nI find it odd that you think it “might” be ok that she doesn’t tel you\n\nall these little details about her relationship with this guy but that\n\nshe obviously tells him all the little details of her relationship\n\nwith YOU (if you’re not aware, intimate talk is what “easy to talk to”\n\nand “a good listener” often represent). You’re not seeing the two of\n\nthem discuss YOU because he probably already knows more than he cares\n\nto know already.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I let her keep meeting him as long as she’s honest with me about\n\nmeeting him?\n\nYou may not have a choice anymore.\n\n\n\n>>>Should I be worried? \n\nYou bet.\n\n\n\n>>>Do I tell her that she can’t be his friend and my boyfriend at the same time? \n\nYes, you can, but you risk losing her if you do. \n\n\n\n\n\n>>>Can I honestly, in good faith, tell her who she can and can’t be friends with? \n\nYou know what – you can (sort of). In a mature relationship everyone\n\nknows what the rules are. You
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He is a liar and a cheat. It happened to me, 'cept that my bf went to a movie theater and hosed somebody off. I got mad, but unfortunately, i was also forgiving. And now, I am paranoid that he might still be doing it.
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You don't "get" a non-believer to become a believer - that implies you want control of his mind, lending credence to the idea of brainwashing. Instead, you calmly present your opinions (*IF* asked for them), and you have the courtesy and respect for the "non-believer" that you'd wish him to have of you, and allow him to make up his *own* mind *without* any undue outside pressure to "see the truth."
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no it isn't right. you hold your head up high and walk proudly.ignorance has been around for a long time.I'm thankful for being a Christian,because i know that i would get stupid right back at them.We both know that's not the way,so try your best to ignore them and let some adults know whats happening.Please let me know how this ugly problem gets resolved.I truly care!
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That is a tough question to answer. My last boyfriend, Raul, took me to the cleaners. What a cheap date that was. I was so steamed! I will never date an Evangelical minister ever again. He did not even pay me for the chrstal meth I delivered to him.  Is this a serious question? Who could put something over you, other than a faux mink stole. How many faux minks does it take to make one? I am still trying to e-mail you. I can receive, but not send.
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Rumors are strong things that spread like wildfire.  The only way I would give this credit is if each of these people say they heard the words directly from your bf's mouth.  If they haven't then stop listening.  If they have then dump him.
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tell him what you heard and ask him if it's true. dont accuse him though or he'll just get defensive.  tell him you don't agree with what he's doing and why.  if he's as nice as he sounds, i think he'll make the sacrifice for you.  my boyfriend (19) used to drink but now he doesn't cuz i talked to him about it. best of luck!