I always suffer of lusty thoughts inside of my mind.
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I haven't figured it out yet... and I'm not really working on it either, seems as though life has molded me into thinking dirty thoughts more than I thought I would.\n\nBut in times when no dirty thoughts are happening these are the situations: Word Hard, be stressed about your job, think about your current money situation and how you can accomplish and afford your holiday you need, think about you parents... (that one ought to scare the hell out of you), family etc... those are the times that dirty thoughts never come to mind
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I think you are obsessing about this girl.  It's not uncommon, we all did that...I know I did, boy after boy after boy when I was young!  The reason you can't sleep is you can't find an outlet for your feelings.  The only way to get rid of your restlessness and obsession is to let your feelings out or to act on them.  You know I bet if you were to talk to an adult about this...to a school counsellor, someone you trust to hold your confidence in this matter, they could help you.  Someone who knows you both could actually even pull you together, at least close enough so that you would TALK to this poor girl who is likely clueless to your feelings towards her.  \n\nWhat do you mean it's "a crush on her personality".  That sounds like you really admire her and have a great deal of respect for her, that she has qualities that you either like in a girl or would want for yourself.  Sometimes we obsess with people because we want to be like them.\n\nYou should try to get involved with her somehow, in conversation, in class, in a sport or event.  If all else fails you could write her a letter and tell her your feelings.\n\nJust say, hey, I have to get this off my chest because I can't stop thinking about you and I am very shy, but I think you are terrific.  I don't want you to panic.  I'm not going to stalk you, but I just had to let you know that you are the epitome of a woman and you just had to let her know....something like that where you are not saying I LOVE YOU!!! or making her feel scared or threatened or self-conscious. \n\nYou know even if you write these letters and never give them to her, you will do yourself a favour.  But you can't go on the way you are obviously...so one way or another the story has to end...or begin...the point is something will change when you make a move forward, maybe for the good, maybe for the bad, but at least you won't be "stuck"...which is the worst thing in the world...I know I've been there and sooner or later you gotta take the risk.\n\nYou sound like a really nice boy.  My daughter is goign through this phase in high school and I think girls like it when guys just be themselves and make a move and do anything...like this boy threw leaves in her hair today and she's telling me about it and yesterday he told her she looked goth with her hair the way she styled it...it's little baby steps that get you there...say nice things to girls...they like that...just be yourself as you would with any of your other friends and you're already friends with her brother...so let her see what a great guy you are when you're with him.  You're already IN there...get over that shyness boy! :~)
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It is very common to have these feelings of insecurity about yourself. Almost everyone thinks like this at some point in their lives.\n\nThe only solution is to try and think positively all the time, anytime you start to feel bad about something just tell yourself to stop... and remind yourself that you are a good person, you look great and you can do anything you put your mind too.\n\nAfter a while you won't have to keep reminding yourself, you will just know that you are ok. Think positive and believe in yourself!!\n\nGood Luck, you can change they way you think and act if you really want to, being positive is the key.
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it souns like a very deep depression and i would definately seek help asap. it must be driving you crazy. i know, i have felt the same way. i have manic-depression and am still dealing with myself in thwe mirror
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I try not to - think about them that is
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You need to deal with your demons, your past is making it impossible for you to enjoy your present. Sounds like you need therapy.
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SOMETIMES.\n\nTHERE ARE TIMES WHEN I WONDER IF THE WHOLE WORLD WOULD BE EMINSCELY HAPPY IF I WERE TO NEVER HAVE A THOUGHT OF MY OWN, AND THAT THEY COULD JUST PULL MY STRINGS WHENEVERY THAT WANTED.  \n\nIT SUCK WHEN PEOPLE TREAT YOU LIKE YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS DON'T COUNT.
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Yes it's sinful, it's called lusting, and yes it's completely human. And because we're human, we're going to sin. I would suggest praying for this guy the next time you start to fantasize. Instead of thinking of him in lusty situations, lift him up in love. And of course you're still going to have desires. But you know what? Jesus did too. And he made it through unscathed. So my advice - just focus on Jesus. And pray for your future spouse. Pray for God to take the desires away. Talk to him about it - because he knows - he's been there. :)
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You need to focus on who you really are. You are not dumb.\nNeither are you crazy. What you have is lust. Lust will mess you up. It will have you looking like moron. And you\nknow that's not what you want. You can do better than that.\nYou are young, sweet, beautiful and kind. don't fall for the\nokee-dokee. Some guys these days are after one thing. What \nyou have in your pants. They don't care how you feel or what\nyou think. Trust me. I know what I'm talking about. Been\nthere, done that.
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Mrs. C., homosexuality, pornography, and "dirty" thoughts about people (anybody) are all sins. we all deal with sins and we're all tempted with them. you're specific sturggle, although black marked by society, isn't any worse or much different than anyone elses and you have to deal with it the same way.\nfirstly, I strongly suggest talking to a church paster or elder whom you trust. \n\nthere are a few verses that really help out in times like these. I've really learned to use them a lot:\nthe first one is 1 Corinthians 10:13 (I'm not going to quote them because it'd be too long) just take not the last part of that doesn't say he'll take the temptation away. but give you strength to deal with it, which you may have to endure the rest of your life. \nthe second reference is Ephesians 4:22-24 which gives you a (adimatably ambiguous) step by step way of dealing with sin. the key in it is training your mind. *you have to take control of your thoughts and MAKE them be submissive to God*\n\nwe all have our struggles and trials and vices. they're hard, but thanks to God, we don't have to be victims to them anymore. we have the strength and help that God provides. this doesn't mean it'll be easy and this doesn't mean that they'll leave us alone, but it does mean theres hope for us to stay away from all out sin. \n\nI'll be praying for you. I do hope you see a paster or someone that can help you, and please, stay away from the porn, if nothing else, it'll definately limit the sourse of temptation.
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If you don't already know this, you may have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. OCD. \nI use to struggle with these invasive thoughts, too. Some I will not even mention, cuz to a reader who does not understand OCD, they would be horrified. \nThe psychologist who helped me showed me how to live with these thoughts. First of all, you cannot fight them to leave. You must simply give them a can of pop, and let them be there. Let them remain, and carry on with your day. Pushing them away will only intensify them. Just the same as having a sore neck or back. You cannot make it better, you have to let it remain, and carry on with your day. \nYou are not alone, and I am sorry that you are struggling. If you have not seen a therapist yet, I advise you to find one whose field is in OCD. They have studied this more than the average psychologist, and if you get one who knows about OCD, they can help you and change your life.\nI have empathy for you. I hear you and I hope things get better.
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You have to do what you are feeling inside.  Otherwise you are going to have these feelings all of your life and regret it every day when you don't know for sure.  As far as incest, I think you must be referring to sexual thoughts about your father.  This seems to be common and I also used to dream about it.  My guess is because that is the first man you are close to and know everything about; I think it is something you grow out of.
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Every day,.I do a mental evaluation of myself.
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Hey lilacmom1956, I know what you mean the same thing happens to me. I think maybe it's because we have too much on our mind.\n:)
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That's great! I feel the same about married men.  Although i haven't been able to do it, I fantasize about it all the time.
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it actually sounds like OCD, my family is full of it, my obsessions are about demonic posession and when I was having a lot of trouble with it I would be incapacitated to the point where I would whisper "jesus, jesus, jesus" for hours-- my brother constantly thinks about nuclear war and dying in a nuclear holocaust and my mother is that way with cholesterol (needless to say going home is lots of fun! There are 10 children in my family, 4 with OCD, 3 Bipolar and 1 autistic, 2 normal) It's not the wierd sort of "Monk" OCD, and not everyone washes obsesivly or anything but sometimes it's just that sort of constant automatic thought
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go to a psychologist. you are probably supressing some sort of feelings that are reavealing themselves subconciously when you are sleeping.