ok i know i'm prolly confusing people and maybe this will help with my other questions. I'm a female for 1. and i'm 17y/o i'm in the arnmy national guard. So maybe now i might get my answer i've tryed killing myself b4 about 2 years ago and now my depression is coming back and i want out of the National guards. Is it possible to get a discharge for that?
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Okay. You didn't like my answer before, so maybe you'll like this one better. YES. you can get a discharge for that. Want me to add to your depression? If you attempted suicide 2 years ago, then you lied on your application for admission to the Army. That lie alone is grounds for a BCD. Also, if you have documented evidence of a depression of that nature, then they will definately put you out. Just go to your C.O. and put it all on the line. Then, you can figure out how to live the rest of your life as a failure. If you can learn how to turn failure into a cure for depression, you should be rich in no time. Most failures are depressed about something. You signed a contract, and oligated yourself. You only have to do a weekend a month and what? a week or 2 a year? That's just too much pressure on you, eh? If that is too much pressure, how are you going to deal with the REAL issues in life? I'm telling you, you can't run from depression. It isn't the Army that is depressing you. And whatever IS depressing you, WILL go wherever you go, until you GROW UP and learn to deal with your depression. There are a LOT of good psychologists in the Army. You need to see one of them. The people on Yahoo are not the answer. Learning to be an adult, taking responsibility for yourself, owning up to your obligations, and TREATMENT, are your answer. Your platoon Sgt. can set you up with whoever it is you need to see, regardless of the avenue you decide to go. He can get you treatment. He can get you out. If it were me, you'd be on the first thing smokin'. If you are as depressed as you say, and too immature to seek credible, legitimate medical help, then I wouldn't have you in my unit. I'd bet my life on your Plt.Sgt. feeling the same exact way.\nPaul Welch G.Sgt U.S.M.C.\n\nPS For Big Super, and others that think I'm being an ahole for this post, please read my other posts on her other questions. I've TRIED to give her the best advice I can based on 20+ years of dealing with young people just like her. HELL, I once WAS a young person, begging to go home because I was only 17 and depressed. I'm thankful to God someone talked to me the way I'm trying to talk to her. It changed/saved my life. All I can do now is pray for her.
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how old are you?  if you are under 18 tell a trusted adult.  if you are older call a suicide hotline, they have trained professionals that can give you advice.
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Talk to a trusted adult or counselor. If you have to, call 911 and tell them you need some help fast. Please do get into rehab and also some one on one therapy to try to find better ways to deal with your problems rather than cutting yourself. Also, the front of your local yellow pages should have several mental health resources that could provide you with the help you need. This is a serious problem and I don't believe the only other answer you got was a smart-mouthed insensitive answer.
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I definetely understand your situation. I did something like that one time, and a friend called the cops on me! And true, I don't like people to know how screwed up my life is. But you know what? Things have gotten better, and I look back on those times and wonder how I survived. I'm just saying that this will pass, and one day you will feel SO together. Just hang in there.
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Contact the recruiter for the Guard in your state.  It is up to the state to determine if they will accept you for service with the Guard.
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People here have given you a lot of good advice.  I just wanted ot add that you are not an "idiot" because you are reacting to things that happened to you (and are still happening to you).  Also, you don't owe anyone an explanation of what is "wrong" with you - unless it's someone who you trust and you want to talk about it.  The problem is that a lot of people who have been victimized end up talking about it either not at all or talking about it to the wrong people.  The key is to get the RIGHT help.\n\nI'm sure that you have heard of PTSD or "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder."  Your experiences in your family and at the nursing home could have caused this and having your "nerves on edge" and feeling scared are symptoms of this problem.  If your therapist doesn't know what to do, get a therapist who specializes in PTSD.  I am a social worker and used to be totally against medication, but in a situation like yours, I think you could see pretty quick improvement with a combination of good therapy and short-term use of medication (just to stabilize your mood so you can work on the issues). \n\nI know from my own experience and from just being around a lot of nurses, social workers, etc. that people who have grown up with trauma and drama seek that out.  HOWEVER, if I was your therapist, I would not advise you to be working in the environment you are in right now.  I admire you for wanting to help others, but you have to help yourself first.  \n\nI don't know how your medical/mental health system works, but is it possible to take "Stress-Related Disability" or just "Medical Disability" from work?  That way, you can still have some income coming and, since you were attacked at work, your workplace should be financially responsible to help you "get better" and to hold your job for you if you still want it at some point.  I could go on and on.  \n\nI just hope you can feel how much people care by all the people here who have written to you and I hope you can try to get some small belief that life can be better - that's all it takes is that tiny bit of hope to hang in there.  Please take care of yourself...
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If you are under 18, you can probably get free help at the local hospital.  Why not call your parents and ask them for help, or call the local mental health number and see what they can do for you.
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Registered Nurse here; Your problem is far to complex to address here on Yahoo.  I strongly encourage you to make appointment with mental health professional.  You need major counseling, guidance, support and possibly a medication regimen.  This is a from of self-mutilation.  It is serious, and if you do not get the approiate help, things will only increase in seriousness.  Please make an appointment with a mental health professional, or your private physician, he or she will be able to get you stated in the approiate treatment.  You need not feel you have to mutate and scar your on body.  Something is seriously wrong and you need help.  \nI appreciate the opportunity to address such a sensitive question, and I pray you seek help.
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You do need help, and you obviously want it, otherwise you wouldn't be here. Contact the 1 800 784-2433 hotline and they will help you. You also need to talk to your parents and get them to realize how you feel. Tell the kids your parents changed their mind and you are happily staying. You are going to die someday, but now you are too young and have to much to live for. Suicide is horrible for anyone around, you will be putting your family through great agony should you choose to go through with it and you will waste something very valuable that was a gift to you: your life.
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Oh Kirk - you need to get out of there as soon as you can.  You deserve better.  There is help and support out there. No one has the right to treat you like that.  Are there any agencies you could contact ? And please contact your mom or another close relative or someone you feel you can trust.  I guess you much feel totally alone and scared and adults have not exactly been a source of trust for you.  Believe me you need to get out.  I wish I could help  I truly do.  I am in Scotland.  I am not surprised that you feel so bad about your life.  IT IS NOT your fault please believe that.  Contact someone and get yourself to safety.
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Get busy girlfriend!!!  I am talking get involved in anything. Turn your negative energy to positive.  Suicide is not the answer.  You were put here for a reason.  Without you, your task cannot be completed and that could involve affecting a lot of people you have not even met yet.  Counseling should be an option if you are really serious about wanting help.  I have lost family to suicide and its so painful for the ones you leave behind.  I can't help my brother who left this world in 2001, but if I had a second chance this is what I would tell him.  "I know it seems you were dealt a bad hand in life.  But "we" can get threw this, together.  Let me help you, you are not alone.  I know you think leaving this world is the answer and the people around you would be better off.  That is so far from how it is.  You have a very important role here and you can't leave yet.  We love you and care about you more than we tell you and for that we are wrong.  Leaving is only permitting the ones you love to cop out when things get bad with them.  Please don't leave that message for your family or friends.  Lean on me and never, ever give up."
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Some jobs continue to pay their deployed reservists and some do not.  All they are obligated to do is to hold your position, the pay is completely up to them.  If you do deploy there are several ways to seek relief.  First, the Soldiers and Sailors relief act may be able to help you avoid losing your posessions.  In the Air Force we have an agency called Airmen and Family Readiness Center (formerly Family Support Center).  Your branch of service has a similar agency to help military members and their families in times of need...seek them out.  There are laws in place to help protect our defenders of freedom from this type of action.  My suggestion would be to contact your First Sergeant and give him/her the chance to work this for you.  I am a First Sergeant myself and I can tell you we have resources to help.  I don't want to promise things won't work out for you, but I would be confident that I could help if one of my members brought this forward, even if the answer is that you do not deply (which may be the case).
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Talk to your chaplain. Your conversations with him are confidential. He will probably recommend that you speak to a doctor, becuase it really does sound like you are severely depressed. It's not something to be embarassed about. It is a medical condition, and it can be treated.\n\nMy husband just got out of the Marines a few months ago. We went through a lot of deployments and it was really hard on both of us. I was severely depressed and it only made things worse for both of us. I got on medication, and it has helped TREMENDOUSLY. \n\nTake Care
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this is a pretty serious question you are asking and there are alot of details missing so let me start with this and see if it helps you.  I also grew up in domestic violence, my step father to be specific and back then (early 80's and up until my junior year of school '86) they didn't have much in the way of resources for help, but.... fortunately for you today they do.  I don't know where you are from so it is hard to put up a link for you but I will try. \n \nthis one is a national hotline so it doesn't matter where you are you can call and certainly if you are in immediate danger call 911, if they have stuff on file for the individual who's doing it (the abuse), it makes it faster and easier for them to protect you or the individual going through it.  \n\nNO ONE SHOULD BE HURTING ANYONE EVER!!!!!!!\n\nHere is the link:\n\nhttp://www.ndvh.org/\n\nI hope this helps you and remember none of this is your fault unless you are doing the abusing.\n\nSeek help for you and the others involved in the situation, you may be scared but.... is it worse to continue in the abuse or do something to protect you and your loved ones.  Be strong!!!!\n\nYou are not alone, there are so many people out there going through this.    GET HELP FAST!!!!\n\nI did.  I was 17.  I talked with a state trooper who got an agency involved and I was able to leave home.  I was popular at school, I was a varsity cheerleader, I had a ton of friends and yet I gave it all up to go to a new home, new school and make new friends, all in my Senior year of high school!!\n\nI looked at it this way.... after graduation it's a whole new life start anyway.... so what's one year earlier.\n\nI'm so thankful I helped myself when the people I depended on most couldn't protect me.\n\nGood luck sweetie, let me know if I can be of any more assistance.
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Sweety, you might have to get a letter from a psychiatrist stating that you are mentally competent to handle your duties. I don't know what was involved in the self mutilation thing but if it was done out of fear or anxiety or a mental breakdown, you'll have to get a clean bill of health. I don't know if it will work but it's worth a try. Good luck, Honey. If you send me the details in email, I might be able to find something out for you. My brother's in the psych field. rilti8@sbcglobal.net
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well  i havent thought of that, because me thinking "im a girl, guys would have that problem.. not me.."  but also i dont understand a draft at all.  i had my ex explain it to me, but i dont get it.  does that mean that i might have to go even tho i havent done anything like sign up for anything for the army?   i am sorry i can not help you as much here as i have been able to with your other questions.\n\n16
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What looks like a mountain of trouble and heartache today, may be just a little bump in the road tomorrow. You must see a Doctor. Do what the doctor tells you. Depression is real, it is dangerous...it is treatable. Believe me, I suffer from it myself. You have to want to survive, believe in the goodness of yourself. Your family loves you. They may not understand you...but then, no one is ever completely understood by their loved ones! Do you understand them?  We are all unique in our own special ways!\nSee, you have come to this site for help...that is a wonderful thing,,,you are reaching out for help...I am so proud of you! Now, go a step further, go to someone else, get a doctor. Tell someone who can get you to real help. You are in a survival mode...be your own best friend! Suicide is not the answer...get help right now...