The movies are to intimate for a first date, dinner is to cliche. What if the guy takes you for tea or coffee and if it goes good from there you can move on to dinner, movie or icecream.
204623
If it is a true date I find dinner is always the good one simply because you can sit and talk and that tells a lot but also covers your butt because you are in public you don't have to worry about any silly moves
205313
of course it's ok. but make sure he knows it's just a friendly dinner. you don't want to be back here asking how to tell a guy you just want to be friends... good luck!!!
645510
For most people, going out is a way to become acquainted. You meet, you share a meal or movie or other amusement, and see if there's compatibility to explore. Of course, there's gonna be some people who view going out as an invitation to the bedroom. It's always a good idea to just express what you expect and want from your date. When you get to your doorstep, tell your date you had a nice time and head inside if you don't want anything further to happen. If you'd like to go out again, that's a good time to say, "This was fun! Would you like to go out again next Monday?" If you want it to become more intimate, invite your date inside for a drink and conversation. After 2-3 dates, you can open the discussion about something more serious. When you both agree that you are BF/GF, then it's official, but that can't happen without conversation. Don't assume. Discuss your relationship.\n\nBest wishes,\n~Tia~
615729
depends where he takes you lol. I know i probably wouldn't take my first date to the Cheesecake Factory but a local diner and movie or something would be nice.\n\nIt is also nice to try something active. It give you something to do if you and the other person are shy and don't talk alot. It could reduce awkward moments.
101163
for me, it depends more on where we go on the date, not how many dates. [example: if a guy takes me to the movies and dinner or something simple, I'd be comfortable pretty quick. But if he tries taking me to his place or out to a bar, he's gone.]
317134
Yes guys take girls to movies and do other things as if there dating.  I had a female friend that I did almost as much as her boyfriend did and to this day were still best friends.  It is when you take it to another level do you call it something different but even if he talks to you everynight and comes over every morning and you haven't done anything except what normal friends do then that is the level it is.  If you want something different with him maybe you should ask him how he feels about moving forward in your relationship, BUT is your friendship worth a relationship that could fail, it is a hard choice but I would choose friendship over a false love any day.
672734
At your age a movie is the best thing you can really do.  Either that or if you both share a common interest (an arcade, a tv show, cooking) you can do that together.  But a movie is a good first date for younger people because it gives you a chance to be with eachother, but you have something to distract you from all the strange silences.  If there is an icecream place close by, maybe you guys can walk there and get some ice cream after that.\n\nBut because this is your first date in general, I really sugguest seeing a movie either in a theatre or at one of your houses because neither of you are going to know what to do or say, but you just want to be together.  If you have something to do and pay attention to it takes a lot of pressure off of the both of you.\n\nAnother little side note.  If you both love sports or running, set up some days that you can take a little run for 20 mins or so.  Not only is it healthy for you, but exercise causes your body to release certian chemicals that make you feel better, and it has been proven that people who are first starting a relationship have a better chance of surviving if they work out together.  Maybe you two can go swimming or something if you both like it.  The studies that have done this also say that if your first date is athletic, there is a huge chance of getting a second, and it lasts longer.
295968
The first time I asked a guy out we went rollerblading in the park and then went out for a casual dinner. Keep it light and don't try to be all  romantic. Just see how you feel being alone with him the first time. If you keep your date filled with activities you will never run out of stuff to talk about and you won't have those awkward moments people get on first dates when they are all dressed up at some snooty restaurant. Have fun!
107217
Ask about common movies you may have seen... if you find there is not one you've both seen, ask if he would like to go to one you both might like. The best way to connect with someone is to share a common experience, so try something like a picnic, or go to a museum, or try the Zoo. This way you'll have something common to talk about not only during the "date" but also afterwards... and it gives you a venue to learn more about each other. This is why I think movies are fine for some dates, but you want a place to go where you can talk and get to know each other (can't during a movie), and learn each other's likes and dislikes. Good luck!
337330
I'm having the same problem myself. The way I decided to solve my problem, was to be great friends, but casual daters. If you value your relationship (as friends and lovers) talk about it...over chinese food or pizza or something. Really talk about if you think the relationship will last more than a month and what would really change once you 'officially' started dating. would there really be a difference in how you act around each other other than physically (i.e. hand-holding, kissing, etc.)?
102570
If you want a long-term relationship, I strongly recommend not going to bed on the first date. This sends a big message to guys that you do this with all guys you date, and many guys don't want to get serious with a girl who has been around the block with everyone. If the date goes well, give him a long kiss goodnight. He'll get the message and come back for more. Then take it from there.
620747
Take her to a scary movie and when it gets to a scary part let her cuddle up to you, and put your arm around her, it's good for a first date because it shows her your protective and trustworthy, and she will love that. Also if you go out to dinner, you need to let her choose, and you pay for it. It shows that you care. Hope it helps you...
238380
If you have thought this out this far then you know that you just can't be put into a situation where it could happen.  Have dinner catch a movie stay somewhere public.  Cuz you know full well that if you spend time alone you will regret it.  and if you are serious about this guy it will only make him want you more.
607674
just make it casual at first be like hey wanna go get something to eat and majority of guys cannot resist food just be short and to the point and nothing too fancy the first time make it like a applebees or something
430736
Say sure and order tea!  Asking some one out for coffee is not a literate "we have to drink coffee", it is an offer for further conversation.
345255
my bf loves it when i cook him dinner and rent a movie i know he likes. something romantic doesn't have to be really extravagant. anything you do he will probably like. good luck!
152049
The next time you go out on a date dont wear panties, in the middle of dinner lean over and tell him your going commando, trust me, you'll br lucky to finish your meal.\nor\ngo buy a sexy piece of lingerie and a wig, yes i said a wig, and greet him when he gets home in it, that should be interesting.