My older cousin chris is letting me use this to ask my question.  She gave me some killer advice but I want to know what someone else thinks.  I am 13 yrs old and there is an older guy that I think is super hot.  Is it wrong for me to like him and how old is creepy or grotey?????
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Ok look there is nothin wrong wit liking an older person. I have many times and i am only now 14 years old. But howeva let me tell u there is a limit even though someone only being 6 years older than u wont b so bad when u become 20 cuz they will only b 26. Think about dat and let it saturate. But anywayz the limit 4 u would probably b about mayb 18 years old. If the person is older than that b really really really careful and cautious. There are many dangerous ppl in da world these days. I don't think anybody would like if u end up dead or somethin. Even i wouldnt and i dont even kno u!!!!. Howeva it is cool to like older ppl these days. Many younger ppl do enjoy liking older ppl anywayz becuz one they hav more experiences in life than some1 ur age, and two they are usually way way way more mature than someone around ur age. LOL. So i hope dat was good enough advise for ya. But remember...... B REALLY REaLLY REALLY CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it.I have younger men interested in me and I just go with the flow. Age doesn't matter as long as you are both adults.
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WHO DO YOU LIKE MORE, YOUR BOYFRIEND OR THIS NEW GUY?? MAYBE IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO EXPERIENCE SOMETHING WITH SOMEONE NEW OR SOMEONE ELSE. IT HAPPENS! AND THAT DOESN'T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. TRUST YOUR HEART, BELIEVE IN YOUR MIND. SIXTH GRADER LIKING A NINTH GRADER!!!! NOT SO SHOCKING!! IF YOU LIKE HIM JUST BECAUSE HE IS OLDER, THEN THAT MIGHT NOT BE THE BEST REASON. DO YOU WHAT YOU FEEL??
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It depends what kind of guy he is, really. I wouldn't worry so much about it. My cousin, she is 26, and her boyfriend is 36, and he is one of the nicest people i've ever met.
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Hi, this is a very complex situation, and you have explained it very well.  Your friend who is 15 and gay, has a non-sexual relationship with a 21-year-old gay man.  Your concern is for your friend because he has a "crush" on this man, but the man is "not interested' (sexually?) in your friend.  So to begin with all the "against the law" answers are wrong. Unless a physical relation is part of the equation even our puritanically demented society has not passed a law forbidding friendship between people of different ages.  If it did organizations like Big Brothers and Sisters would have to stop their excellent work.  Through out our lives, it helps to have a "mentor."  Someone who is a bit more experienced than ourselves who can help us through some of the "passages" of life.  This cannot always be a parent, no matter how much we may love our parents, because a parent has different concerns (our safety) and often sees us a "child." To have a slightly older friend, who has gone through some life experience and can share and encourage is important.  Having said this, your concern is is for your friend, in terms of his feelings (crush) and the 21-year-old for his "life" and reputation.  I think your concern shows you to be a caring individual and true and good friend.  Hopefully we are always ready to listen to the people like you in our lives.  Have you calmly expressed your concerns to your friend in a way as clear as your question here?  If you have, and he still wishes to pursue this relationship then there is not much you can do.  I think the best "advice" you could give to your friend is to point out the Issues involved: 1) The 21-year-old is (according to you) uninterested, uninitiated (a virgin) and would suffer the "legal" consequences of any physical relationship - so is your friend ready to "accept' these "boundaries" to the relationship? 2) Can your friend pursue a friendship without a physical relationship (his crush?) Can he control his own feelings?\nOnce you have helped your friend clarify the situation and his responsibilities, then you can only support him in whatever decision he arrives at.  \nI would only add that a non-sexual "mentoring" relationship, while important for everyone, is especially important for gay and lesbian youth.  Most people have "models" of what they want and need to become in their parents, teachers, social heros, etc. But gay people grown-up largely without any models, without anyone who can say, "I did this, you can too."  So even though your friend sounds like a confident young gay man, with a loving family and wonderful supportive friends such as yourself, he may still need an "older" model that he can talk to about things and try to follow - always given the non-sexual, non-exploitive nature of the relationship.  Good luck.
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Yah, sure. But for all u know, I wanna be more than friends, and I'm a perv. Why do u have ur age posted? I'd caution against that. I'm not a perv, just warning u. There are a lot more dangers out there in the world now than there were when I was a teen. I know I sound old, but I'm not that old, but I am old enough to be ur mother, so I hope u do atleast chew on this advice for about thirty seconds B4 discarding it. God Bless.
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Not trying to be sarcastic but, trying to impress a guy who's really hot with a gun doesn't sound like a 29 yo but more like a teenager. Would think at 29 you would have developed an adult viewpoint. I would think that it would be a bad idea if this "hot" guy has that much influence what will he want you to do with this gun to impress him even more. It's easy to start down a path like that but dealing with the consequences can sometimes be difficult to cope with.
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You should report the previous answer as abuse. It's clearly advertising for another website. \n\nAs for having meat on your bones, any mature guy likes a girl with a little bit of an ass.  However, if you're overweight in an unhealthy manner, that's unattractive.  You're 13, and guys your age don't know WHAT they want.  They're all still trying to figure everything out.  Half of them probably aren't sure of their sexual orientation yet.  At your age, pretty much all guys are incredibly awkward in every way possible.  They need some time to grow up.\n\nI know I'm not in the age group you're meaning to ask, but I'm a 20 year old guy who's been through that age, and remembers exactly what it was like.
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I would reccomend it if your mature for your age. Older men are interesting and don't usually play the games that guys in their 20's do. I'm 33 and I won't date anyone under 40.
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You don't mention your age, or his. Age is really just a number, the level of maturity is what matters. As long as you have stuff in common, get along, and like each other  - that's what's important. Also, don't let him influence you to do anything that you wouldn't do on your own - he may be sexually active, and you may not be ready.
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i dont think it is wrong.\nbut how old is he?\nin any case, go out with him... have fun!!'
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Hi, I remember when I was your age I thought that a guy 1 year younger was a 'lot younger'. If he's a good person, { and especially if he's cute!}, defiantly go out with him.        ps. some advice for your future, 20 or even more years from now, when you meet a guy 20 years younger than you,  STILL GO FOR IT!!!        pss. Also remember this rule, "once a mistake, twice a habit", when any man shows signs of disrespect, or hurts you in any way, BOUNCE!!! Before you get to attached to him. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache!
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look, its not evil, but the truth is if you started something, on his side it would be purely sexual. simply put, your agaes arent that far apart, but al lot happens between 17 and 22, a lot more than between 80 and 86. thats just the way of the world.  it might be fun for a while, no denying that, but it wont work out, and youll end up hurt. hes not moving because he knows that, and good for him.  or because you live somewhere that 17 is underage,a and hes waiting for next year. i know this can drive you nuts, and his attention is flattering, but move on, find some one a little closer to your age.  it stinks.  sorry.
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i think that if you've never met him then you really dont know. i mean he could be 50 for all you know. just be careful and make sure that you know what you're getting yourself into. all guys can be sweet over the internet but in person they can be a totally different person. good luck!
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Make your own decision concerning this matter. You shouldn't let others dictate to you what kinda guy to go for. If you're 70 like you say, then you oughta know by now what you want in a man. It's up to you and no one else. Thanks.
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I believe that both parties need to be of age or at least close to it. As long as they are happy, I don't see where we have the right to tell them they are wrong. My BF has a cousin in her 30s and her husband is 83! They are happy. She is his life...literally, she is what keeps him young!\n\nNo age is not an issue it is a number!
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well... im 12 too and i like a guy whos 14. do you like him? I mean the 15 yearold guy? Cause if you do, Im not going to say he's to old for you. If someone told me that my crush was to old for me, ill be real sad. so anyway... He might like you. but if he does, why would he say that he likes another girl his age? I mean, If i liked someone, which i do, I'd sort want him to know i like him. you know what i mean? sooooo... No one can be so sure... He could sort of like you but he cant admit it to himself cause you're younger than him so he tells you that he likes someone else...... oh, and dont listen to the others above who say you're to young to like boys, you are so not too young. I liked boys since I was like 10... and we're the same age now......12 years old i mean