hi, all, i am really sorry to yell here, but i have to say shit! sorry, i am not really a rude girl, but i am just quite angry with myself. my bf has broken up with me, and definitely, he has made up his mind, he will date another woman soon, as he told me so. he teased my family staff, and he did look down upon me, he said if we meet in the future then we should avoid each other! what is the hell! everyone knows that he has made up his mind! but why!!!! why i would still think of him sometimes, why coould i be so! i want to begin my new life, i want to improve, i want to be better! and i do sometimes or rather always remember this, but, god, when the time comes, my pain was here in my heart, i became so blue, so down! i doubt that i still love him. i dont really like this feeling, but what can i do? why i still want to email him? though i havent done so, but why the memory keeps on coming in my mind? why? i can delete the material stuff, but how about memory? howcome can love be hate?
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over time you will find someone else and he will be in the past
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Bummer!  That is a shitty one!  \n\nOK so, it does actually happen.  Kinda like a slip of the tongue.  I did the same thing to my b/f once.  It really was NOT intentional!  Just kinda happened.  It feels terrible to be on the receiving end I know, but as long as you have made your feelings known to him, and he doesn't do it again - no harm, no foul.  However, if he does it again  -  find a new boyfriend because this means he has NOT got over his X, and it was NOT a slip of the tongue.  Give him the benefit of the doubt THIS time!\n\nMaybe you should also think about mentioning to your b/f that you are uncomfortable with the fact that he still sees his X (if he does) and that this is the reason you may have over-reacted (I am not saying you did - it's just a bit of reverse psychology that will make him feel better about himself)  to his blunder.  As long as you are open and honest about how you feel, he can't turn around at a later date and say he wasn't aware of your feelings.
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I know what you mean that happens....i think your not really over him yet even though you think to your self that you are....i use to think like you, but i know inside that i still like him alot and i can't stand it when some other girls is all over him...don't know why you are feeling that way but that how i felt...\n\nif i where you i'll tell him my feelings and maybe you and him can continue your relationship that you left off....if you want to talk more personal then IM or email me ok
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The other day i met a guy i graduated from high school w  had not seen him in yrs    he was always a good looking boy and now a very handsome man! he came up to me and gave me a hug and i responded w how are u  long time no see!  as we chatted he informed me he just quit the navy to be closer to home....well as we chatted and caught up for yrs of life in no more than what was really 2 minutes at the most of conversation,  and heavy set women w short hair and glasses approached us  w a look of death on her face  now no one else was in room except my self and my lt. commander b/f (i was not alone either)  she continued to walk up to this once brave and driven man and accuse him of wanting to fuc_ me!  Now i am not from this kind of group of women  so of course it made me mad to be accused of such ridiculous accusations, and i WAS w a guy who knew we had obviously not seen each other since graduation from the first conversation!   so what do u think this Navy man's reaction was?   Nope, he bowed down like a puss_  the name i do not use often  but he earned it    i told him   what happened to the man i once knew  would never had tolerated his gal treating strangers, or ole chums in such a fashion...  i was put in a very awkward position,,,,my man told him to adjust his wife,,,(on order)  and he then followed orders to shut her up.... when it came down to    he cowboyed up found his tongue and wrote my man an e-mail and said he for the first time found the peace.... he left her! eheheheh   Why did such a guy change from a man to a puss_?   Why did she have such control   she was not pretty  overweight  and loud    he was still same man other than panty whipped!   he could certainly find a good women  so why did she act so possessive? why did he let her??? ive been seeing this all too often now  and as a women i am not pleased w the idea that jealousy rules a relationship   jealousy is a form of hatred for an enemy,  and love is not an enemy!  \n     good luck!
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I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
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that's really horrible and I'm so sorry for your hurting. It will take you a while to get ovr this so just be patient with yourself. cry it out and then cry some more. tell everyone how you feel and get it out. then start making your self feel good. do things you know will make you feel good. do all the things you wished you'd done but couldn't because you were with him. get really fit and healthy. eat well and exercise. have beauty treatments and look fantastic...best revenge really and it will make your confidence go up again. go and visit friends..get away for a while if you can afford it. I'm sending you a big hug to get you started and really wishing you much good from the universe..you deserve it XX M
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i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed
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Well, Ms. Badass.. You're not a badass after all.\n\nYou haven't told us the reason for the breakup other that "I was really hurt".. What does that mean?  Did he meet another girl that is better looking, more intellegent than you?? Of course not!! No one is better than you.. Remember, you're a badass!\n\nIf he really cares for you and if he hurt you in anyway.  Then it is up to him to apologize to you and try to win your heart back, if he has any type of decency in his bone.  If not, I say... Good riddance..  Pick yourself up and get someone better.  Don't get into the habit of yoyoing back to someone who has hurt you in some way (unless it is just a simple misunderstanding).  \n\nIt is natural to want him back since you miss that companionship and everything that comes with it. But you will have to understand within yourself if you really want him (he, who has hurt you) back or move on to greater things!
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You don't want to hear this but be honest to yourself and your currant BF you need space and are not fully over the past BF nor are you fully commited to this relationship.\nHow can you be when your thoughts and feeling are somewhere else.\nGL\nThere is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness. \nFriedrich Nietzsche
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I'm not sure if I'll be a big help in this, but here's what I know...\n\nMy Husband told me that Hate works 24/7 and it can never leave a person's heart and soul, to Forgive, Forget and Move on is a lot harder to do than anything else. He told me, "If you'll stay hatefull and unforgiving you won't be the same person anymore, because as simple as hating someone or something takes everything out of you making you harshes and meaner to the world around you. When someone spends a long time hating, they might loose the grip with the reality and what's important to them... and in the end they might never be able to come back to the way they used to be: sweet, kind, and forgiving" ... I knew what he meant when he told me that, I just personally had a hard time to doing that since I had my own private reasons for the hate, revenge and being mean. I thought I had every good God-given reason to stay that way without even thinking of consequences. In my thinking, I thought, "Why on this God-green-Earth I should even consider to forgive a guy (of all people!) who raped me when I was little?! Why can't anyone see what I mean?" In truth, my Husband was the only and the first person to open-up my eyes to everything. He was able to understand and see everything the way it was needed to assist me in recovery through this whole mess. He helped me and guided me to the firmer ground knowing fully well that it'll take probably a long time for me to come back to "normal" or at least to the way I wish I was...\n\nYou know, one day was an eye-oppener for me... In the evening, before going to bed, when I was washing my face, I took a glimpse in the mirror... I thought I'll scream... I didn't expect to see the face that was looking back at me. I knew it was me, but I just couldn't recognise myself... no anymore, at least. I've spent so many months and years hating someone I didn't quite remember and for what they've done that every possible negative emotion that I could possibly have... I could see it as plain as daylight written on my face. I looked cold, harsh, mean and completely uncaring towards anything or anyone. It was something I didn't expect and I hope will never see. I never thought that all the negative emotions will change me so drastically and deteriorate the way I looked on the outside... He didn't see anything on my face even though I was afraid to ask. I thought I'd give him a heart attack not only with that question but also acting like a scared cat... That night, being in my Husband's arms it felt so safe (just like always), but for some reason it dawned on me that maybe I didn't deserve him in any way because of the what was going on and how everything turned out to be. Remembering and knowing in my heart that he loved me, that he'll always be here no matter what and he'll never judge, criticise, ignore or leave me in any way, shape, or form... It has made all the difference in the world to me. That same night I just thought to myself, "Whoever you are I forgive you with all of my heart and soul for what you have done, and I sencirely hope you'll never do something like this ever again to anyone else." I meant every word... I don't know why but I felt so light, as if a big weight and burden was lifted off of my shoulders. That night was one of the most peaceful and restfull nights I've had in a long time. My heart didn't feel like it had to work over-time just to calm me down and my whole being started to heal. It took me about 2 months to start and heal if not completely, but at least be on the way to recovery. I know, there wll still be moments when I'll remember the past as if it only happened yesterday. It'll be just that a memory of that day and nothing more. Forgiving him actually took out the sting from the event and was like a healling herb that my heart and soul needed so ba
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Babydoll, I think you haven't really thought this through too well. This  piece of buttwipe did you a favor & you want him to hurt you more?? If you ever think about relocating to The Sun City, you come on over & "Holla" at me & I'll be showing you what it feels like to have someone care about you, your feelings & not be such an arsehole to continuously rub your nose in mistakes of your past (believe me, I should know about mistakes from my past!)
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your making me cry! i hope you will be able to get through your situation. of course its hard to deal with and dont let others try to tell you to get over it. its good your expressing your feelings outwards. i hope you share what you wrote with others close to you. it might help a little more.
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Wow. Simliar to what I'm going through but except with cheating with the brother. I'm 20 and I noticed that since me and my ex bf had a age gap of nearly 12 years it was hard for us to work out our problems. He loves you and he doesn't want to lose you. Maybe your husband and his brother should talk this matter over. There might be rage but it's better then losing someone that you may never see again due to unforeseen future ahead of one. Before me and my ex ended our relationship I told him about how hurt I was that he treated me like "shit". He took the time to understand what he was doing to hurt me. You can try talking it over with him. If matters aren't resolve, I think it would be wise to end the relationship and move on. It's wrong for you to have to put up with his "shit". I'm truly sorry that you are going through this but we do learn from our mistakes. Good luck.
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Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
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I'm going through the same thing. So you're not alone. It's awful....But you're extremely fortunate. My guy friend never came back!!!! He's been gone for a while now...(a month maybe?) and slowly, very slowly, I'm coming back to reality. So I guess all you need is some time. \nI believe that your heart is made up of people. So when someone leaves, the people are ripped out of your heart, leaving a huge gap. A painful gap. And the only way to heal it is to replace it with new people. So try to find someone new to fill in that empty space in your heart. I haven't, that's for sure. It's hard to find someone as special as those guys. \nWhenever memories of those guys come back, just shut it out. Replace those memories with bad ones. Try to forget them.\nOk, I know that's an awful thing to do, but at least it'll help you concentrate for another hour. \nI hope this helps, sister. Good luck. I wish you the best.\n\nP.S. Thanks for your Q. I finally found someone I can relate to.\n\nOooohh! Here's something to cheer you up:\nIn a world of cheerios, be a fruit loop.\nHaha, sorry, I'm really random. But this quote has helped me. It might do the same for you!
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omg, i'm so sorry for you. it made me cry just to think about. at first i thought you were talking about telling your BF that you love him before he dumps you, but then the word 'murdered' just sort of jumped out at me. i've never had anything like that happen to me before, but i can guess how you must feel. i wanted to tell my bf that i love him, but i was scared, and now its too late, and he broke up with me...\n\nI'm really sorry. I hope he rots in jail. Sorry.
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So you've been going out with that cute guy in the year above for almost a month! his name is scribbled on all of your text books, you know his phone number off by heart, you carry a photo of him in your purse,but, alas it didn't last ..you feel very emotional and confused- you're angry at him but still fancy him to bits! you wanna cry but you wanna scream too. every single song on the radio reminds you of him!\nnow STOP! lets think about this- \ndo you really want to spend your life stuck in your bedroom, listening to love songs and crying for him?\nNO! you need some serious me-time, instead of wasting your time on him!\nso slap on a face mask, get out your dairy milk and put on some loud rock music that you can bounce around to and help take out your anger!\nyou're better off without him! why concentrate on a shark when there are loads of little nemos out there who would be a much better replacement! get out, make some friends and enjoy yourself! revise your flirting skills and you're knock em dead!