Is the sex is the last thing what a boy or girl wants?\n....\ni hope that if you want to pass a time with your boy or a girl friend then you can go for outing have some chat or pass some time except sex .....
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YES U CAN DO DAT.. BUH KIDS NOW A DAYS THERE MIND IS ONLY SET ON SEX... THERE'S OTHER THINGS THY CAN DO BUH MOST OF THEM CHOOSE SEX OVER ANYTHING ELSE!!! \n\n**LIL MISS VIXION**
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The sex fades long after the friendship dies.\nThat's why it's very important to have a good relationship with your other.\nMy girlfriend is my best friend.
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Almost always pretty early into it (I'm in my thirties).  I would consider it unusual not to have sex if we slept together, but still ok - actually quite nice.  The girls I remember the best (and in the best way) always waited.  It is really awesome to be with a good girl and to just be able to hold her without going farther.  Just be sure to keep the kissing to a minimum so things don't get out of hand.  Sitting under a blanket together can be romantic, but romantic isn't defined by just one thing - it is a combination of things that make a situation romantic.
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Somebody recently remarked to me that these days young people treat sex as if it were a sport rather than as if it were part of a very special relationship.  If you were someone who were able to treat sex as a sport then it would probably fine to throw in your bet and fine that your boyfriend talks about going your own ways later on.\n\nYou obviously cannot treat it as a sport because now you have the question about whether you're just handy entertainment for him while he's in school or whether there's more.  That's exactly why people of generations previous to yours often thought people should hold off on sex until they were sure the relationship was a really solid, special, and meaningful one.  The problem is whether its teenage boys or college aged young men sex is a major thing for them, and they want to get it with whoever they can get it with.\nAs you've noticed, once sex becomes the focus of a relationship not only can it make you wonder if there's more to the relationship, but it can also stop the progress of a relationship's moving into a more solid and meaningful stage.  Most of the time after a few months of sex all the time a young woman is going to start to be wondering about whether there's more to the relationship than that.\n\nIf you're ok with treating sex as a sport then the bet is fine.  People bet in sports all the time.  If you're feeling unsettled at this point because now he's talking about going separate ways after graduation then maybe instead of masking your feelings with a bet you could simply tell him what's going on with your feelings.\n\nI don't think you should stop making out, but I think you should talk to him about how you're feeling.  Tell him you're starting to feel that you're kind of uncomfortable with how fast things have gone in the sex department (or how much of a priority it has become).  You could tell him that you want to dial it back.  He'll either understand (and if he really cares enough about you and respects you he will) or he won't (in which case it could hurt the relationship you have, but do you want to hang onto a relationship that is about nothing but sex?).\n\nYou may want to tell him you don't want to go to his place - plain and simple.  He has to understand that too.  If you want to dial it back on the sex thing that, of course, makes sense.\n\nIt is very possible he cares about you in his own way, but if he's talking about separate ways he isn't thinking about the long haul with you.  I hate to say this, but in addition to his like you as a person there's the chance he is particularly appreciative of the sexual relationship you offer.\n\nThere are times when even married people may decide to hold off on sex for one reason or another, so it isn't as if nobody could ever possibly decide to hold off on sex.  \n\nThe point is you should just be honest about what you want to do and why.   If you can't do that it clearly means you don't have the right degree of emotional intimacy in the relationship.  For all the talk that is "out there" these days about how women and men are "the same" when it comes to sex, the reality is that while women, of course, have their own sex drive they are NOT the same as guys when it comes to sex - they always end up wondering if sex is the only thing to the relationship.\n\nI don't think you should turn your relationship and communications into a whole "do you love me" type of back and forth.  Just explain that you're feeling a little uncomfortable with the amount of sex and simply state you'd like to slow things down a little.  Even if you slowed things down to where there was romantic-type sex once in a while it may make you feel a little better than what you have going on right now.\n\nThe important thing is that you are both on the same emotional page.  Your boyfriend may think this is all fine with yo
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It is because both sides are bored and perverted. What is sex to begin with? Depends how you define it as well, you can't physically have sex with the other person if you are in totally different places. Having someone talk in that certain manner to them brings sexual pleasure to possibly do other things. Its all about the pleasure not the purpose...if that makes any sense ha.
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There is no easy way to discuss it with him.  But you will have to sit down and talk to him.  There is a difference between sex and love.  Unfortunately some men either don't know the difference or some know but don't care.  You are right, it should be a two way street.  However, some days it is not. There are days when you don't want to or he doesn't want to but either of you go ahead anyway because you care for that person. Those days, you shouldn’t feel like you are lowering yourself either.  Some days you want to have sex. I personally feel that most days it should be about love.  What I am sensing from you is that it is more sex than love.  If he respects you then he will understand and be willing to wait until you are ready.  \n     This is the part that is going the trickiest because you want to talk to him before he tries to get you into bed.  You don't want to give him the impression that you don't want to be with him anymore yet you still want him!  It is hard to get some guys to understand, but if he cares about your feelings he will.  \nIf he is still unwilling to cooperate or is not willing to understand, then he made need to be cut off in the bed room for a while.  I have had friends who had to take time apart before they understood.  I can't say that will be for everybody, but at least a separation from the bedroom.  If he keeps forcing his way into your bed and you tell him NO, then that is rape and that can be more serious.  Hopefully, it won't get that far.
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Remain a couple, get married and have sex every night. That is if you're adults.  I don't know how long ago 4th grade was for you. But either way, remain friends, at all costs and do whatever at all costs, and under all circumstances!
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" and I have a boyfriend that tonight told his friend to basically have sex with me...."\n\n???WTF?? There is a word for people like that- dang girl- get your head out of whatever dark place it is in and get rid of both of them..neither one of them respect you..why don't you respect yourself
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If a girl thinks all you want from her is sex, you're going to get the "let's be friends" line from most you meet.  (Sluts don't count.)  The strongest relationships start as friendships.  My advice to you would be to slow down, don't try to get your nookie on the first date, and spend some time getting to know the wonderful world of the feminine mystique.
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Why do kids have sex? I think it's because they have too much time on their hands. I think they should stay in school, and maybe lay off the X-box. Learning to spell would be another improvement, but that's just me.
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hmm 2 questions at once ok. Well 1st off the sex ? it's a big deal when made a big deal. It when wanted brings to ppl together in a special way. There's bonding there. If you dont want to do it then dont. 2nd ? you asked no do not go along with that relationship you dont seem to care about him so why worry about it. Let it go just let him know that you 2 aren't together in any sort of way.
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tia: There are lots of guys out here that would "do you" at a "drop of a hat".  But why would you want to be used just for sex?  After you do the act ... then, what?  You have to be with the guy who had you.  How do you know he will then, stay with you ?  Chances are, he will tell all his friends about what you did with him, ( he will add more to the story than actually went on), and the guys he told will all start coming around to use you.  Sex toys will prove to work against you because later on, you will find that no guy can perform like a sex toy with batteries.  This will leave you feeling down and unfulfilled.  Focus on the quality of the guy you want ... ask yourself, " do I want just sex or a guy who really loves me?"
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It not as healthy as it may be normal...girls tend to remain close during the earlier teen years for some to continue into later teen years can be understandable, but for those who haven't explored or are uncertain about their sexuality may hang on a little tighter even to the point where one or the other or even both experiment together sexually...some may continue such behavior and others realize that wasn't for them and date boys/men only from then on...you seem to be at a cross road...if you feel its getting to much...set your boundaries and act accordingly...good question.
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if you are not mature enough to talk about having sex with your parents and/or others then you shouldnt be doing it. If you have to hide it then its obviously wrong, so dont do it. If it were right to do then you wouldnt have to hide it.
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although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
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Be his friend....I mean whats so bad about that..if he tries to have sex with you then he wants more..but friends are ok...as long as it stays friends...if u want space then maybe thats for the best but let him know.
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wow! about the same exact thing you did i did with my boy. we went out for like 8 months without having sex things were bad so i had sex with him thinking it would make it better. it did at first. he talks to other girls but i cant talk to other guys without him getting pissed.. everyone just tells me itll take time...and really thats all you can do. try to keep yourself busy and you wont think about it so much and put away pictures and things that remind you of him.