my problem is i become good friends with guys ,that i like and end up being a sister or a best friend no more to them  ! i dont know what to do !!
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These things happen to most of us, but if you like some one, you should really tell him/her about your feelings, don't wait for them to make the first step. Once you make the first step, all is easy.
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Don't worry about it. Keep active in what interests you. Volunteer if you can. You will find someone who likes you for who you are. Besides, freindship is a valuable treasure.
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There are things you cant tell your sister no matter how close you are! Sometimes it is easier to tell friends. I have many gay guy best friends.
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Been there, done that.  Sooner or later it seems, we all have to face the fact that our close friends can be just as nasty and uncaring as our worst enemies -- when it comes to their lovers or potential spouses.  Some of this is to be expected -- their priorities have changed and are moving on with their lives.  Other times though, these suddenly "hooked-up" friends seem to act as though we never existed and may even completely cut us out of their lives.\n\nLet your friend make her own mistakes.  She'll see the error of her ways and will probably be coming back to you.  In the meantime, move on yourself and begin to develop other friendships.  I know (from experience) that some of these platonic friendships can become so close that the friends are more like siblings than friends -- it's hard to move on but it is something we have to do to survive.  If she happens to pull this nonsense on you again with another guy, you will know better the next time and will also have a new set of friends to fall back on. \n\nIt might be a good idea to rely on your family for socializing and emotional support right now too.\n\nGood luck, dear.  I am thinking about your situation.  I've been there and know what you are going through.
198680
Don't be so friendly toward all the guys.  Do more romantic things instead of friend things
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
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you know what, I would like to know the same exact thing! I'm becoming closer to a guy who just wants to be friends by just being a "friend" to him. eventually, boys will fall in love with u, if you are real w/ them as friends.
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hello, This is just a feeling of appreciation you are experiencing, of course it is normal. You feel good being around them because they bring out the best in you.You are seeing in them the very thing you admire in yourself and that makes you fel good. This is the type of man you want to attract into you life someday, This is not a crush, it is appreciation you are feeling for seeing the best in another.Rejoice in that your sisters have attracted into their live these men that you admire. There is no better feeling than to appreciate another. THIS IS A NORMAL FEELING, just know that this is all it is, nothing more. May you have a wonderful fulfilling life
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My advice to you is to always be yourself - no matter the circumstances. Never you try to be someone else. You may not know this - but some guys are just there appreciating you as you are - a cool headed nice gurl. Maintain whatever virtues you're endowed with. Great advice I think that is. Cheers!
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just slowy open up to the ppl. u love. ur close friends or friends that when ur alone w/them u guys hang out how is ur action to them do the same to others. dont be shy just think it wont help if u r shy right. be urself and open up to everyone not just the guy u like
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find some new friends that you get along very well.if you have older friend ( not old but people that you know for longer time) keep hanging out with them.it happened to me too and I found better friends and one day the other girls called and said they were sorry and they said that they envied me for having better and more friends,and they said they missed me.i stick with the better girls of course:)
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TALK TO SMART GUYS.... this way both benefits from each other, you learn and they get to be seen with you [assuming you are good looking and that is the reason guys are nice to you]\n\nnote: this only works if you are smart.
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that sounds good i have alot of male friends and thats pritty much all i hang out with so i know how u feel i hope you find some good friends. wish i could be one.
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I went through this same dilemma. I came out during my sophmore year of highschool. And there was the most drop dead gorgeous guy there. His name was Gary. Let me tell you. Anyways, I wanted to be with him very badly, but did not know how he felt. So I befriended him. We started hanging out, and stuff like that. Well two years went by and still nothing. Well in December of our senior year a bunch of us were out at a  party. His girlfriend was there and everything. (He had this girl for 3 years now) Well I went outside for a smoke, and he followed me outside and complimented me on my new glasses. Ok no big deal. Well we sat there and talked, smoked a few cigs and went back in. My best friend and I decided to get into the hottub. We had been sitting there for about a half hour or so when Gary came in. My best friend got out and went to go get a beer. I mentioned that my shoulder was buggin me from a fall I had taken earlier that week. So he reaches over and starts to rub it. Then we kissed, and ended up ditching the party and ****ed all night long lol. The next day he dumped his girl and him and I have been in a relationship ever since. So even the most straight acting guys may be gay. You just never know!
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Go out with friends and just have fun.  Don't approach the situation "looking" to meet a guy.  If you are just being yourself with friends, the guys will approach.
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Don't ever let anyone tell you who you should be friends with. If you are more comfortable being friends with girls, then be friends with girls. Whether you are homosexual or heterosexual, it shouldn't matter. There are many different men and women who feel more comfortable being friends with the opposite sex. \n\nIf you are heterosexual, the other guys are probably jealous because you have so many female followers. They either see it as you can date them easier, or that you are keeping the girls from dating them. Either way, it is not worth your time nor your efforts to deal with someone who is going to put you down because of your friends. \n\nIf you are trying to figure out your sexuality, then you should try talking to some homosexual peers, or a counselor. Sometimes just finding out if your feelings are shared by others can help. \n\nGood luck, and if you would like to talk more about this, please don't hesitate to e-mail me...I'm always here to help!
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Being friends w/ someone you really cared about is very hard for guys , I dunno about females. Im talking loved, im not talking a one night stand fling... If these guys are people that were really special at one time , you just have to understand where they are coming from and they need to respect you as well w/ your choices.. Now if they were flings.. lol then you have a real problem