I went to an interview today for a job that I am more than qualified for. I haven't worked in a year due to the cost of childcare...I have 3 children. I applied for the job because I knew that I could do it and it was close to home. I would have been making $2 less an hour than I made at my last job. The interview was perfect but they called this afternoon and said they would keep my resume, they were impressed with me, and that they offered the job to someone else. My feeling is they were obviously not that impressed. Is it normal to feel this depressed about not getting it?
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Gee, sounds like my job searching life history.  I, however, do not have children.  But I was laid off in 2004 from my job as a Probation Officer.  (who would have thought they needed less P.O.s) I have been trying to get hired by the State of Georgia and Alabama as a Probation Officer ever since.  I have interviewed for at least 10 different positions, and so far it has been the same response.  "We were very impressed with you, however, we chose another candidate.  Please continue to apply."  If they were so impressed, then why am I still working for peanuts at my current 'fill-in' job that pays $9,000 less per year than I was making?  Who knows.  One office has a female Chief, she refuses to hire women.  She hired a man that was a car washer and a tax preparer, over me, a qualified (both by College degree and 3.5 years experience) probation officer.  I have been so sick of the whole interview scene and depressed to boot.  But, I haven't given up.  I keep praying, and I know that God will lead me where I need to be.\n\nMy advise. Keep your head up and stay motivated and positive.  Eventually, an employer will see what a benefit you would be to his/her company, and you will get the job you deserve.\n\nGood luck!!
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I've been in this situation many times. I think what gets me through is knowing that these times pass and I do get through them. I force myself to just accept that this is the way I'll feel sometimes and then I usually feel less anxious about being depressed. Regarding your job situation, maybe just focus on sending a few applications to places you are really interested in and then, let it go - don't drive yourself crazy wondering if you are going to get a call for an interview. Start on some more applications and refocus again. Eventually a door will open, often when you least expect it. Also, take some community classes in something you are really interested in, like art, music, etc. You never know what that can do for you. Re: your marriage - well, sometimes things improve when you feel better about yourself, sometimes you need to look at marriage counseling and sometimes you need to move on. \nHope this helps and best of luck to you!
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well no i don't think that you will get the job but you  said when you woke up for your interview the guy was still talking so he probably didn't see sleeping. so your in luck! and if you do have another interview next week try to get enough sleep the night before. well GOOD LUCK!!!!
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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I'm one of those people who have a nack for interviews and landing jobs.\n\nThe best advice i can give you is, if you are felling confatable with the intervierwer you will do well.\n\nSo the first thing i try to do (depending on the type of interview) is strike up a social conversation first, this will allow you to feel less threatened and conduct a better interview.\n\nIf this is not possible (formal interview) then just try relax and be your self, make sure you do resurch about the job you are going after and tell them what they want to hear befor they ask it.\n\nJust remeber there only a person and its not the end of the world if you dont get the job.  Also if you dont get it, it provides you with the experience to have better luck next time:)
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Don't go to the interview. I mean, do you really want a job with someone like her? You sound like you could get a better job elsewhere.
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Nope, just carry on and do your job the best you can. They will probably think not much of it if your outlook is bright and professional from now on in. If they do mention it, you can decide how you want to answer then, for example. "Im sorry I was simply having a rough day.  Im fine thanks for your concern", blah blah.  Otherwise, I think it will probably blow over.  If you feel stressed in future, excuse yourself to ladies room and take a minute to compose yourself.  Good luck, you'll be fine.
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Forget it dude.  When you work for someone else you will always have negative thoughts!  When you are an assistant manager you need negative thoughts to keep you from going to the next level with your manager, which usually would be to beat the crap out of them in a back room that is out of camera range.  I think you just need another job that is better suited to your personalty type.  Maybe a position with less pressure involved?  You aren't alone in having these types of feelings because many of us are working "out of our comfort zones" these days.  Maybe a hobby would ease your tension.  Start thinking outside the box!
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You definitely do not want to burn any bridges. Diplomacy is the key, regardless of how you feel about the job. Do not allow your emotions to surface (at home of course you can break a few plates). Keep searching for a job after regular business hours and do not leave any option unexplored. When the right opportunity knocks, follow the company policies, and most importanly follow up with most influential people at your old company from time to time. Never complain or raise issues since you never know when they will come to haunt you. Best of luck
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I think it depends on what type of manager.  I'm in middle management and feel like I'm basically a glorified babysitter.  I have to make sure my staff is doing their jobs, getting results in a timely manner.  I have to reprimand them when they do wrong and give them kudos when they do good.
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Yep.  Happens all the time.  If I found a job that I liked and was satisfied with what it paid, who cares if the family is getting hired?  They aren't smart enough to do what i do anyway.  ;-)\n\nLook at it this way...if they hire you, and you are not family, then you must be pretty special, eh?
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no you are not jealous.. may be ur feelin left out because u were the best in the lot n now the others have much more than you(tats wat u think). such things which make u feel insecured try not to think much abt it.. n think about ur future and wat is the next step in ur professional life.\ntry meetin new people in who are in ur field. n avoid ur job discussions wid ur old frnds.
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A job search is very stressful, and it can be hard to resist getting very down on yourself and your future.  And, you are right, it doesn't help you land a job to feel defeated before you start.\n\nBut, almost everyone has been in your shoes (or will be at least once in their career), feeling the way you feel.  They survived, and so will you!\n\nJoin a job search support group.  People exchange leads and ideas, and there is usually a leader who is also a job coach.  Most of the time, the cost to attend is minimal.  Often you'll find one in a local church (usually belonging to the church is not a requirement).\n\nThere are "real" ones where people meet in person, locally, and there are "online" ones you connect to via the Internet.\n\nFor the real support group, in the U.S., you would contact your local state Employment Office - http://www.job-hunt.org/state_unemployment_offices.shtml   I'm not sure what you do in the UK, but I'm sure that the government provides some sort of job search assistance and support there, too, probably better than in the US.\n \nFor online support groups, check out http://groups.yahoo.com \n \nJoin a group, and you'll feel much better, even just knowing you're not the only one who is discouraged.\n\nGood luck!
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Just keep trying. Sometimes is just a numbers game. You can do everything right and they still don't pick you. Also, they could have chosen the other person even before you interviewed. I ran into this alot last time I was looking for work. Hang in there. Good luck!
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I have done this once. I made it short, simple, and to the point. \nI told my employer at the time, " I absolutely love working for you, but it's time for me to move on." I explained that I had an amazing opportunity working in the field in which I had only dreamed.  Not only did it pay for more; it was better for me, and my family.  He was truly saddened by the news.  I finished out my last days with no problem at all.  I even trained my replacement.  I made sure she knew exactly what to do, and even wrote down every thing step by step for her.  \nIt was bitter sweet.  But I knew that I could always come back If I ever need a job.
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No job is worth you feeling like crap and rattled every minute of the day.  Believe me, I worked in a group home for a year and a half and finally quit whe I was starting to get anxiety attacks from it!  Some jobs are just not for everyone.  See about a transfer to a different branch maybe?  Even a small paycut is worth being able to go to work without dread everyday.
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Its very unfair, these things just make you feel lost and frustrated.Your boss is a rat!so is that alien.\n A boss should keepall his employers happy and treatthem equally.He sholud have helpedyou there.You did the right thing ,I wouldnt have been able to tolarate such a man.\nMan,you did good for a person who didnt care about you, you should be PROUD! hold your head up high .\nDont feel sad,it WAS the only way out. Had you stayed you would have regretted it.Tell your boss on the face