people with ideas. people who are interesting. those who judge content of character because they have character themselves. people who stand for something and  promote positive growth in their surroundings. \n\nthe superficial people in s.f. are judgemental and usually have ulterior motives. they waste time thinking up schemes to defame others instead of bringing a healthy quality of life to the environment they are in. i constantly run into people like i've mentioned and they project a scowling demeanor of self importance. \n\nin new york, the pace of the people sometimes carries over as rude, but new yorkers have a  hurried pace. san franciscans, who i am coming in contact with, are down right rude and inconsiderate. this carries over as people who exagerate their importance. even in los angeles, people are more open and friendly. why are san franciscans so sullen and introverted?\n\ni really want to meet quality esteemed people who are open to heterosexual miscegenation. any resources?
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The people you describe can be found in any city and not are exclusive only to San Francisco.  It sounds like you are pretty judgmental yourself....smile....take it easy and enjoy people with all their quirks and strange behaviours.  You might find some great friends if you give them a chance.\nGood luck, I hope you find what you are looking for.
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the thing is to not go for the loud outgoing people, they usually like to think they're great and enjoying bragging about it. the best type of people hang back and if you don't look you won't find them. the nice guys are just out there waiting to be found, get talking to everyone you can find and you will soon discover one!
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New yorker's aren't a-holes, we're just very direct and very fast, and tend to get annoyed when others don't keep up. not alot of time for social niceties in the city that never sleeps. We're polite, just NY polite, i.e., a nod of the head as a greeting, taking the hand of a little kid who is scared to cross from the platform to the train, holding a cab for somebody who wants it after you just got out. All done wordlessly with no eye contact and maybe a muttered "thanks". We don't have time to gush, recieve gushing appreciation, or even engage in small talk, but it is nonetheless, our version of politeness.
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It is very broad......\n\nThere is not one singular criteria.\n\nIt is based on peer groups. Have you seen the film "mean girls"......those are popular girls for some but would not be for others if you want to take it on a basic level.\n\nIt has all to do with cliques, likes and dislikes. One person will be popular with some and not to others.\n\nI don't know how old you are but I remember at school , there were always the "popular girls and boys"..looks, the trend-setters (for better of worse), those who were always cracking jokes...\n\nSometimes upon growing older, the same applies......but some people will be more popular than others because of their inner niceness, ability to get on with others, compassion etc. Artificiality will always exist but people mature on the whole.\n\nIt depends on many factors : your environment, your culture, the values you were told to be "good" and worthwile.\n\nMy brain is kind of tired tonight....it is an interesting question but..
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I live in NYC and I believe it works here is because people have learned to respect each others cultures.  The entire area is so culturally diverse there is no "majority" any more so we all co-exist.  There are occasional minor flareups but they don't last long.  NY'ers consider the subway the great equalizer.  No matter how rich or how poor, we all ride the subway.  On the subway the person next to you could be a doctor on his way to an emergency or a recent immigrant on his way to his minimum wage job.  On the subway everyone is equal and we carry that thought up to the street.
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I went to GW, and yes many people there are very well off.  However, since it is in the middle of a major city, if you apply yourself you can meet just about any type of person.
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I think it's a combination of both.  Sometimes people are quick to get involved with someone who is goodlooking, but soon find out that they are a creep.  But I do think that the people who have a great personality are usually attractive to the people who are attracted to them.  Goodlooking to one person may be ugly to another person.  Example- In my opinion, my sister is attracted to the ugliest guys I've ever seen. But she thinks that they are FINE!
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NO! The people in Miami are very diverse and most of them are not very nice. I live in Georgia and my last job involved mostly customers from Miami and they were the nastiest people I have ever dealt with. They range from "ego maniac" Latin men to elder, retired, and extremely rich. People are very self-absorbed in Miami much like California. Lots of Botox and bikinis and fake boobs! You have just as many job opportunities here in Georgia (Atlanta) as you do in Miami. I cannot imagine a Georgia Peach like you or I integrating into Miami, which is not really the "South" as we are accustomed
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NYC is an ok place (perhaps not "ghastly"). Like anything however, it takes time to readjust and get to know people. For example, I moved from NY state out West. Nothing is worng, it just took time to develop relationships at work and at school with different kinds of people. Try taking a class (yoga or something  else you are interested in)...it is a good way to meet people with your interests. Good luck.
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It's a funny thing, but you are absolutely correect in this. I was born and raised in New Hampshire and moved to Arizona when I was 22. Growing up in NH we had a lot of tourists go through our town, to the point where I had a T shirt, on the back of which was printed, "I live here, I am not a tourist, and I DONT answer questions". When my ex and I got here to Arizona, we were moving our stuff into an apartment, on a Wednesday I believe, middle of the day, hot as anything, and I had no less than 10 people ask me if I wanted some help moving the stuff inside. I was flabbergasted, I had NEVER heard of such a thing before! I though seriously they were trying to rob me! I refused their help, none too politely- I was in total culture shock (LOL). I finally realized they were sincerely wanting to help and came to the conclusion it's just too durn hot here to be a jerk.\n\nNow I've been here for many, many years and I've noticed even people here are getting more irritated and obnoxious. But I also noticed on a recent NH visit the people THERE seem to be getting ore friendly!\n\nSo now I conclude, it's MY attitude that's changed, not theirs. People tend to respond in whatever way you approach them. If you're angry, they'll respond angrily. If you're charming, that's typically what you get in return.
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=my mother always told me this as a kid.  I didn't realize it until I went into business for myself and got burnt more than once.  Also married a Jew, divorced him and still years later he is out to crucify me.  That is not to say they are all that way and cheap.  People are either decent or not no matter what race, creed, or color.  The above is based on my personal experience.
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The same thing happens to me, and I don't really understand either.  It might be their conceitedness, but it really depends on the person.  It takes a while to find a good person, so keep at it.  Think of it as a way to filter out the bad friends and colleagues; going for the best instead.  If they don't talk to you, maybe they're having a bad day, or even going through the same thing as you.
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I think that, as with basically every other major urban center with a large amount of immigration and close quarters, people in San Francisco, being surrouded by so many different kinds of people, tend to be more accepting of change and more accepting of various practices. Further, the stereotype of San Francisco being liberal led to its fulfillment, as liberal-minded people decided to move there, knowing they would be among people who agree with them.
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For me, someone is a snob when he/she clearly knows that I am there but refuses to acknowledge my presence.  It's a bit different from people who are just shy.  There are shy people who also don't feel comfortable around people they don't know but they at least smile or say a quick hello.  The snobs exude an air of superiority -- like, "Sure, I know you're there.  But who cares?  I won't even bother to smile or talk to you."
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if you are down to earth you are open minded.  you are not uptight and you pass with the time.  down to earth people are the ones that make friends easily and can pretty much talk about anything.  that would be my definition.
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I believe they are insecure and probably don't have social skills that are appropriate to gains friends/ loyalty / trust, so they talk about illness and pain to gain attention, and think that's the way to get it. I once just confronted a co-worker with something like this " I know you have things wrong in your life, but it drives people away to hear so much negativity." Feelings were a little hurt, but it did help. Mostly you deal with it by ignoring it, change the subject to something cheerful.
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Hey, you are correct!  That person may just around the corner or a friend of a friend.  Most of all "BE YOURSELF and THINK POSITIVE".  No one wants to be around a complainer or a fake!