I'm not too sure about what the inmates to or whatever, it's so embarrising to ask him. I don't know if he's even done anything or if someones done something to him but i'm scared that i'll get something! what should I do??
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You are smart. Make sure he is tested for Hepatitis, not just HIV. I would request HSV and VDRL serologies also. These would rule out syphillis and herpes. Repeat these in 3 and 6 months after as well and use condoms.\n\nConsider his willingness to do the testing and allay your fears as a sign that he is committed to the relationship and respects you.
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i am  very  sorry  to  hera   this      i know   how  sad  jail  is      i ve  seen  quite  a bit   of  heart breaking   story   / however  ther  is  hope    you  need  to   contact  the  judge    state  attoreny and  a lawyer    i   dont  know his   offence    . however   ther  iss  a  chance that  he  can  be   on  house   arrrest    , if this  happen   its  is  SO VERY IMPORANT  THAT  HE  COMPLISE  100 PERCENT  I   DO   KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE ON  HOUSE ARREST   ITS IS TAKEN VERY SERIOUSLY  IF YOU GET THIS   DONT  LET  HIM  MESS UP  BECAUSE THINGS COULD GET WORSE
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Will he be on parol?? Id get in touch with his paroll officer or you can also call the prision directly, and let them know whats going on, \n\nAsk for the prision social  worker , they will be able to let you know where he will be.
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I'm on the fence.  I think there's something he's hiding, but I think there's more to the story than we're seeing.  I really thought he might be innocent right up until he couldn't remember whether he'd "stuck his tongue in his daughter's mouth".  Ok....HELLO!  That's not something you have to think about, but then again, I'm not sure that it's not just nervousness on his end and he's freaking.  Can't wait until Monday, I hope they get answers!
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Bless you! Those letters mean everything to an inmate! Just wanted to add that there is a wonderful support and information group at http://prisontalk.com\nI've got a "someone special" locked up, too, and this group has helped me a great deal.
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You need to tell him that if he shows up again, you will call the cops.  If you are serious about this, you need to tell him this, and if it does happen you need to do it...PERIOD!!! \n\nYou gotta make it very clear to him that you dont want him.  CALL THE COPS, becuz this is borderline, STALKER!!!  if you are definitely serious about this, then you need to let him know you are going to do this and if he shows up again, let him know to wait right there on the doorstep becuz you are now....CALLING THE COPS.  I bet you he wont come back again and if he does, get the restraining order.  Ever time he comes back, he will be put right in the jail cell and having dudes calling him honey bun and sugar stick *winking* if u know what i mean...
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Ask them? I am unsure if pics of inmates are allowed to be taken or released to the public. Try asking the facility where he is at.
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If he made any kind of threat you need to print the email out and take it to the police.  It sounds like he hurt you before, tell the police that too.  Make sure to tell them that you fear for your life.  They can't do much at first since you probably didn't report being hit in the past, but you can start doing something now.  \n\nThis guy sounds like a control freak that can't stand you being with someone else and I feel for you.  I had a boyfriend like that and he stalked me for months until the police got involved.   He didn't want to go to jail and finally found another poor girl to abuse.  \n\nTake the threat very seriously, tell your family and friends about him and give them a copy of the email and keep a copy of it with you as well to show the police if you have to call them.  Make sure that you are never alone anywhere (even a quick trip to the store), that you always have your cell phone (charged) and that anyone with you knows to keep an eye out for him. If he shows up anywhere you are, call the police- every single time. If he is stalking you and making threats the police need to see a reported pattern of behaviour before they can do anything.  He might be waiting for when he thinks you are vulnerable, so keep all your doors and windows locked and maybe buy a dog.  Find the number of your nearest abuse shelter and get some counseling to learn how to deal with someone like him and so you can learn how to stand up for yourself so you don't end up with someone like him again.  Maybe you could find a self defense class to take at a community center or a college near you.\n\nThings like this can easily escalate and he may try to harm you, your family or your boyfriend.  They all need to know to stay away from him, that he is dangerous and is making threats.  No one will be mad at you, they care about you and want you to be safe.  And he wants you to be embaressed or to blame yourself so he can get away with hurting you and get control of you again.  Don't let him!!  \n\nDon't be afraid because deep down all guys that treat girls like that are cowards.  If he thinks you are going to make it hard for him he will (unfortunately) go find someone that will be easier to control.  I hope you will be okay and safe and that you find a guy that will treat you the way you deserve- with respect, gentleness and love.  God bless!
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move on...do u need to be with a jailbird?  u want better for ur life, correct?  he can't give u anything from jail.
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Hon, you would be f*rting in the wind to think you can get a probation officer to drop warrants for revocation of parole in any state.  \n\nHe will serve time in Texas.  He will be released but never even leave the jail premises because the other state's warrants will be served him on the spot.  The State of Texas & the other state would already have made arrangements for an officer(s) to escort him to the other state where he will serve time for probation revocation.\n\nYou should seriously reconsider your relationship with this guy.  Could he be using you to try to get him out of the mess he has made?  It's easy for people in prison to whisper sweet nothings to a girl if they think it would be to their advantage.  Please don't jeopardize your future.
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this prove that he recovering  and you have nothing to worry about\n\nSometime the state make the crime more serious then it look. Maybe it might be a best idea for YOU to go ACTUALLY MEET him, Like I have. They are working HARD to re entering the socity and this list is making it hell for them.\ndidn't someone say "don't judge until you walk in their shoes"\nYou might want to bring another neigbor\nask your neigbor\n1) how long ago was it (if it more then 5 years ago then it is very unlikely he would offend again)\n2) ask him what is he doing to protect himself from happening it again. There are method he can do such as not allowing any children in his house, bring a friend of his to store etc\n3) The last thing Sex offender want is to go back to jail.\n4) maybe he have a wife maybe you can to her if that helps\n5) you will find it easier to deal with if you go talk to him\nremember the goverment has that list out there for you to use not to haress them
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I am afraid that the legal system does not do well with excuses eve seamingly legitimate ones. An obligation is an obligation in the eyes of the law. All too often released inmates will put on a front to those who would be the most simpathetic and come to their defense when the long arm of the law reaches for them. If he truely cared for his family as you say then he would have made the time to do what he was supposed to do for their sake. I have no doubt that there are those who do reform their lives after prison/jail but htey are few and far between. Don't be taken in by a false front, there will be less disapointment when the truth is finally revealed. If your first reachtion to this is "Oh, he wouldn't do that," then it is already too late. \n\nDon't get me wrong, I'm not saying that he isn't a good person, but the patern is there in your own question. Sometime good people lose their way and can't seem to find it again. The best of luck.
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No you are not one sided you have a voice of concern he needs to be told about what he is doing and to be made to understand the consequences behind his actions or else. That simple!\n\nIt sounds like to me that mom's is giving out excuses for his behavior and she too needs a reality check to or else she will be in for a lot of heartache herself.\n\nMy best advice to you is if mom's don't want to handle the problem then you step in and let him know what the score is!\nBut he needs to be told and told soon before he goes to prison for a long time or wind up dead somewhere.\n\nBut somebody has to step up to the plate on this and help him because he sounds like he is in some real problems, and he doesn't know it yet.\n\nYou be that person to do what has to be done, just to save her and him from pain.\n\nGood luck:)
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If you are lucky maybe you will get a guy fresh out of prison.  \n\nGood luck with that!
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The "he's a liar" chick above me is an idiot. SHE'S not too judgemental, huh? Hehe. Of course everyone in jail is the DEVIL! (I'm being sarcastic). \n\nJail makes you think about things that you would normally take for granted: ie; your freedom, your hobbies, the people you love, and so on. I have a feeling he's never wanted to admit he loves you, because that usually overcomplicates things to an unnecessary extent. But now that he's incarcerated, he's had time to understand what life is like without you, and time to reflect on how important your relationship really is. As a result, he's finally come to the conclusion that he does love you, and he wants you to know it in case you two should ever be permanentley separated for some god-forsaken reason. I've been in his shoes before.\n\nOh yeah, and the guy who said "look to see if his pupils expand" is also on his own planet. Where the hell did THAT come from? Look, if his pupils expand, he's on acid. If they don't, he's not. And that's that.
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If it's love, you'll wind up waiting no matter what anyone says and you might be right....Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for,(though the lying about stupid stuff gives me pause) but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.\nIf I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees.
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Do they have his undivided attention? Is he going to get out and do what it takes never to go back?....Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.\nIf I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees