I was with this guy for about 2 years and in these two years he has been arrested 2 times . It hurts when he goes to jail , and I don't want to be hurt any more should I give him another chance or leave him alone?
217825
if it was a one off i would say stick it out if u really love each other but it seems to b a on going thing him going to jail u need to get on with ur life in a steady relationship with someone thats always going to b around for u not in and out of jail
41804
When I first found out I was getting out of jail I felt like I could never be the same person again but when your in jail you have alot of time to think just give him a chance and if doesn't work than tell him or try to talk to him and if that doesn't work than get rid of him.
287699
Find out when he is getting out.  He should have a court date set to be sentenced or they could give him a bail amount.  It could take up to a week to find this out.  Alot of guys in jail have girlfriends but most of them arent even worth it.  If you love him you can go and visit.  Just contact the jail.
169606
I THINK THAT IF YOU TOLD HIM YOU WOULD STAND BY HIM YOU SHOULD KEEP YOUR WORD-BE LOYAL & FAITHFUL-AS FAR AS HIS PAST TRACK HISTORY-YOU WERE WITH HIM THEM...STICK WITH HIM NOW-I DONT KNOW THE KIND OF HISTORY HE HAS OR THE ADDITIONS U CANT HANDLE BUT-AGAIN IF U WERE DOWN FOR HIM BEFORE HE GOT LOCKED UP AND IT WAS EASY CUZ HE WAS @ & ALL OF A SUDDEN HE'S GONE FOR HOWEVERLONG DONT LET THAT TIME DISCOURAGE U BECAUSE U FEEL ALONE.
333709
Girl, if you care that much, give him another chance and another, and aother and another. While you're at it, help him over come the drinking problem, some how. I think he realizes what went wrong, and want to try again. I think he cares about you, and that if he suspected you of anything, he's likely forgiven you- or ready to forgive you. I agree with you, that it would be wrong at this point, to cut the string.
65135
Ok first off lets put things in perspective. Your ex is getting out of PRISON. That sentance alone should tell you who you should stay with, however, sometimes good people do bad things. So with that said, lets take another look. You are afraid that your ex will come back and take you away from this new guy that you really care about right? Well youve got to remember that this is your EX and hes called that for a reason. Whats your reason for calling him your ex and try to imagine being with him or with the new guy. If you truly feel you are happier with the new guy, then stay with him and tell the ex to leave you alone. If that doesnt work theres always restraining orders......
50984
You've gotta make a stand on this one. If you're really up to it - rally the others who got molested years before. Then make a fight on this. That guy deserves the worst. Jail just doesn't justify...
638627
U don't...there's nothing possible that would happen there but trouble...if u really like him, you'd leave him alone, cuz he could go to jail for messin' with u!
589258
23 years is a long time to love some one. hes all she knows. i wouldnt be mad at her but keep a watchful eye and the first time he hits her you need to remind her that if she stays around him its gonna keep happing and its no ones fault but her own. then i would call the police and but his tail in jail
542248
He has got to take it like a man and just let her beat on him for a while. If not, then its off to jail he goes. Here is a tip for the next time, DON'T TOUCH HER!!
197075
why is he going to jail?? is it some kind of drug thing or violence.. It all depends on you and do you want to wait for him. how long is he going way for? \nmy friend waited 17 months had a jail house wedding and they werent even together a year when he got out and now they are divorced \njust ask you self if its worth you time
144818
Actually, I am... My husband has been an inmate twice since we've met and has just recently been released about a week and a half ago. We have been going through a messy divorce since the 23 of June, last year(our six month wedding anniversary).\n\nThere also was a man that I had known and spent half my life in love with and he was released last summer and is now in Colorado doing great; he didn't waste anytime getting back on his feet.\n\nThey both, by far, are repeat offenders not once, not twice, not even thrice. They both have spent the majority of there lives going in and out of jail and extremely close to prison. The difference between them is that my husband wants to do right and has the faith and ability to do so as well as a lot of potential for success in many areas of his life, but he lacks the understanding of HOW to live differently and the common sense of wise decision making. He isn't doing any of the bad things that he did to get him locked up to begin with, but he is still putting himself in situations that could eventually land him back where he began, claiming that his walk with god is so strong that he can handle the situation, when his family and I all know that his strength will eventually weaken due to where he is choosing to stay. BUT the other guy I spoke of had a safe place to stay and a secure job with in weeks and went as far as a move from California to Colorado to get away from his previous influences and is doing great right now; he even got custody of his 6 year old daughter back.\n\nThese two people are very similar and very different which goes to show that you shou7ldn't judge people by their mistakes; it is our mistakes that make us human. BUT we can be judged by the efforts we take to make things right once given the knowledge, ability, and the freedom to do so.\n\nThe best advice I could give is to go online tro the court website of the county he is convicted in, type his name into the search, and it will pull up his entire criminal history and all other related cases he may have; it's all public record. Also, try and find out what kind of home life he had growing up, because that will play a big role in his decision making process and will give you a better idea of his non-jail personality. I say non-jail personality, because once you're locked up you tend to form what's called a prison mentality which means that you learn to anipulate people into beleiving that what you say is genuine and that they really have rehabilitated and deserve another chance, yet once released they go right back to there old ways. So find out as much as you can about who he used to be and carefully compare him to the person you know him to be now. Ask him what plans he has for when he is released. Most inmates that are serious about the desire to rehabilitate will have already constructed a plan as to where they will stay, how they will get around, where they will work, just general goals and ways of meeting those goals.\n\nFind out when he is supposed to be released and continue writing to him or calling him which ever you prefer and see how he unfolds as a person once released rather than getting involved right away.\n\nIt's not easy, but sometimes you have to see where your heart leads you, just make sure your smarts have brought along a safety net just incase.
476980
i would confront them  right on the spot. and then i would break up with them.if they could be that unfaithful , then thank god you found out in time. you deserve better than that. i wouldnt hit or anything because jail isnt worth it.i would be hurt but i would be glad that i never married the creep.its better to find out than to have them making you a puppet on a string.
261792
Well, they should press charges.  Sexual contact between you two is ILLEGAL to a evry high degree.  Either lose the dude and hurt for a week or stay with him and watch him go to prison.
351456
Hell no!!!!! Leave him alone!\n\nIt will be tough for a while at first, but you will get over him maybe. If he placed the relationship on suspension, then cease all communications with him.
212391
Hi\n\n    I know this is not what you may want to hear, first of all you said your boyfriend is locked up. He should be happy that you are even sticking by his side while being locked up because as far as I can see what can he do for you while he is locked up. On the other hand if you really love him and want to stick by him totally understandable that is a choice only you can make. I would I advice you to just talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel when he accuse you of things that are not true. If he understands then great if not I would say this realationship is maybe not for you if trust can not be found. I hope I helped!
460197
You need to tell him that if he shows up again, you will call the cops.  If you are serious about this, you need to tell him this, and if it does happen you need to do it...PERIOD!!! \n\nYou gotta make it very clear to him that you dont want him.  CALL THE COPS, becuz this is borderline, STALKER!!!  if you are definitely serious about this, then you need to let him know you are going to do this and if he shows up again, let him know to wait right there on the doorstep becuz you are now....CALLING THE COPS.  I bet you he wont come back again and if he does, get the restraining order.  Ever time he comes back, he will be put right in the jail cell and having dudes calling him honey bun and sugar stick *winking* if u know what i mean...