I am casually dating two guys and I have come to an intersection in the relationships where I need to choose between them as they now each want to be exclusive with me. \n\nOne of them lives 20 mins away, he and I have AMAZING physical, verbal and sexual chemistry, hes sweet, hot as heck and we have a good deal in common, especially my absolutely most favorite hobby. \n\nThe second guy is devoted, intelligent, VERY, VERY successful, sincere, sweet and attractive but is moving out of state next month and I would only be able to see him  maybe every other week if one of us flies out to see eachother. I'm petrified of a long-distance relationship although I have sucessfully carried one on before when I was younger. \n\nBoth guys are great and I am leaning towards guy #1 but I feel so pressured to make a decision quickly and I want to make the right one. Any suggestions?
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i say u take da 1st guy becuz money isnt always evathin n wen u want ur guy 2 b by u u have him rite next 2 u but ur 2nd 1 is gonna b far 4rm u.....so i say da 1st 1...
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I think the kicker is that you are also moving in with 2 guys. So..really..you can't play the "I'm hurt and worried" card with him over this. It makes no sense to even try.  \n\nWhy can't the 2 of you just move in together someplace?
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Hmmm.  You sound very lucky to have found two guys who are nice and respectful to you that you can be comfortalbe and be yourself and close with both of them.  Not unusual or selfish at all.  I don't know where that came from.  You're too young to settle down, so enjoy the attention, luv.  No one says you have to "pick" or settle down so quick.  You can't measure love, just hang out with no pressure.
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just go with your heart. Im sure which ever one you chose will be the best for you. I personally think you should go out with the guy that you talk to more. The other guy youve dumped before so youve had reasons to not like him.
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Why don't you consider how deep feelings you have for him?  If you feel very strongly about him that you are even willing to wait for him for some time till you can be with him, then I suggest being patient.  After all, you can talk to him on the phone, chat with him in email and instant messenger.  Though, long-distance relationships are known for their hardship, the end result is very rewarding for both of you.\n\nHowever if you don't seem to feel deeply, and/or you're not willing to wait for him, then I suggest talking to him about break up or something so that it's clear to him about where you two stand in the relationship so that you don't feel like you're cheating on him when you try to date other guys.\n\nHope this helped. ^_^
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If you think dating a guy after one week of being broke up then think of this, I broke up with my BF and I went back out with him that same day. Talk about pathetic! Then we broke up again and are going back out right now. So I think your relationship is going better than mine is, and by next week I`ll have probable broke up with him again. So do what you think is best for the future relationship you might have with this guy.
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Well, it depends on why you're saving it. I recently saved it for 7 months because I really like a guy that lives out of town. I've had a crush on this guy forever. He came here a few times and for various reasons it just didn't happen. The last time he visited, we did it and it was lovely. I don't regret it at all. Are you waiting because you're not attracted to anyone in particular? Are you looking for something special? I think you should do whatever feels right inside. Definitely go with your gut. If you meet someone and you think you wouldn't beat yourself up after giving it up to them, then do it. If there is someone special that you have your eye on, I say wait. The passion that will be unleashed in that one night will be worth it for you both. Best of luck...
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Oh that is so awesome that he is going to be an aggie! Be proud that you've found such a great guy!!! It will definitley be hard to be in a long distance relationship, especially since you are both in college. But I think you guys are both smart, so I have faith that you can do it! Gig 'em Aggies!!!
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dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
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The grass is always greener...  IMO, stick with your current boyfriend and forget about the first one. Or, stay single. Perhaps you aren't ready for a commitment with either yet if you are having difficulties deciding between them.  Goodluck with whatever you decide to do. :-)
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Since you have so many doubts, you also know in your heart that its not time to get serious. Since he is so sweet, he will not try to rush you into something you aren't ready for either. I suggest you just keep the relationship on a slow pace and really get to know each other before worrying about a real commitment from either of you.
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it sounds like you guys have a basis for a great relationship. It sounds like you guys genuinely enjoy each others company, so you know what I thinK? I think that yeah, follow your heart. Its obvious you are digging this guy and he is probably digging you so go for it!
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Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
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It seems that you have already made u pyour mind here. The second man seems to be better for you seeing how he can interact with you in a way that is so unique and special. and im certain that there is something else that keeps you two close. on the other hand this man might be only in it for the sex and will not commit, as such types are know to do.
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You say he's "far away." How long have you been dating? How often do you see each other? How committed were/are you? (Are you "serious"?)\n\nIn the early parts of a relationship, insecurity is normal. And when someone goes far away for the first time, it's also normal.\n\nBut after awhile, if the relationship is good, the trust factor kicks in and he believes in you -- that, no matter who you talk to or spend time with, you're still committed to HIM.\n\nMaybe if you are going out nightly with guys (as friends) while he's away, that might make him nervous, but if you're just talking about guys you know online, or schoolmates / coworkers, or people you spend time with simply to be with someone (since your bf is far away, and why on earth should you just be alone all the time?), he should be able to deal.\n\nIf he can't, and you can't maintain the relationship, maybe you should call it off at least temporarily -- until he gets back home on a more permanent basis.\n\nThere's no rush here. If you two are really that good for each other, you'll both go back to each other after seeing that others don't match up. And if you don't... well, better to break it off now.
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Let me get this straight...you have been seeing a guy for 2 weeks...but he wants to go out with someone else, who he knows it won't work with, so that when it's over he can go out with you.....He starts seeing the other girl, then, the next day can't keep his hands off of you...... What should you do?....Get some self respect and tell him to sling his hook.....you would  be setting the tone for your whole relationship with him if you accept this situation......walk now ...it will save you a lot of heartache in the end
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U just like those guys to hang out with. I would date either one of them. Because once ya'll start dating,things are going to change, rather you like it or not and you might not want that to happen. But if you want to date one you have to sleep on it for a long time. Jusst think of whats going to happen. or see which one is more important. Maybe you shouldnt date him.