ive been with this man for about two months im 20 years old soon to be 21 i have a 18 month old daughter also...he is gonna be 22 4 days before me,but besides all that i was wondering am i jumping to soon in thoughts of wanting to get engaged with him....the thing is i never felt such a coneection such as i have with him....hes so wonderful with my little girl,and supports me in everything I do, and has helped me alot with my daughter since hes been around....am i jumping to soon??? please help?
206799
Two months is definitely a little quick, but I believe that it is possible for you to know that this may be the right guy.  Give it a few more months and then talk about becoming engaged and maybe living together.
483864
Blimey! What a rational girl you seem!\n\nThat all your friends think you should have got engaged is madness!! You did the right thing!\n\nYou have your whole life in front of you.... You're happy with this guy so why make a committment that, currently, is not something you want? \n\nChances are, if he had proposed, you would have said yes (coz you love him!) but then started to feel trapped/ resentful for having it planned so early....\n\nIts likely it WILL still be spontaneous. Eventually there will be a time when its not scary/ feels right and he'll be able to tell and it'll just happen!\n\nGood luck and well done for being SO sensible!!\n\n(i knew about 3 couples that got engaged at 21 with the intention of a long long engagement and it never lasted.... best wait til it IS right!)
181193
You have to be patient. He probably just has cold feet, 18 is YOUNG. If you keep pushing you well chase him away for good. You want him to be sure don't you? Or do want to push him and then after a couple of kids you break up. BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT  BE PATIENT!!!!   Being with someone til death do you part is scarey and he just wants to be sure, he well be back.
52607
How does he feel? That is perhaps the most important question here. Since you are pregnant, your baby coming from a broken home is going to be determined by your relationship with this boy. If he is agreeable to it, why not make a commitment to raise your child together by getting married? Normally 18 is a bit young to be getting married because people change a lot from 18 to their mid-twenties and since for most of us that is the age that we get our first taste of freedom, this could spell disaster when we realize that our husband/wife has a right to be involved in our life to a great extent. This can feel like a lack of freedom. Also, having a baby can make people feel trapped, especially males. It will be hard but if you two are in love and he's a good guy, know that statistically you would be doing the best thing for your baby if you were married. \nTry to give to your partner instead of only giving as much as your partner does. Tell him about that resolve. Giving can be very contagous but so can being hurtful. A loving word can stop anger dead in its tracks in a marriage. It takes two to fight but only takes one to defuse a bomb. Try to make your first instinct to defuse the situation. Take care of all 3 of you, and I hope our e-opinions help you.
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I'm 20 and my fiance is 21.. weird... same ages.. we've been together for 3 years and engaged 1.. we will have been engaged for 2 and together 4 when we get married next September. I don't think age is an issue.. you have to do whats right for you when you're ready, you can't put a time frame on love  :) if you and your boyfriend want to be engaged 20 years and have a 10 year honeymoon, by all means.. do it ... do whatever makes you happy.. life is too short to worry about what other people think =)  good luck
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I would just take it slow.  He still has time to grow and learn about life.  Maybe he really would like to do that with you.  Some guys are more ready than others. Just take it slow so u dont get crushed.   The age thing is not a huge deal.  Really you are not that much older than he is.  He could be serious.  Just realize that he is not established yet.  If you are and are comfortable with that, then go for it!!!!
133757
that is fine. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 36. This August will be our 2 year aniversary. YAY. We love each other very much. He is a wonderful man. So if u think it will work and u both like each go for it. Age is nuthin but a number.
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Definitly... DON'T RUSH THINGS... even though you are 30 ... get to know him more.... It will be a higher chance of a happier life. 4 months is WAY TO SHORT to plan a life with someone... :)\n\n-- I guess it all depends on how you raise your children, as to how they will view you. \n\nEveryone worries about being a good mother, but make sure you take some time to think about it. Make sure you decide together weather or not to have kids. \n\nThe worse thing to do is do something (a life altering thing at that) knowing you only wanted to please someone else. \n\nMake sure you are happy FIRST! Don't let another person decide for you. \n\n:) good luck
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First off   Congratulations on the arrival of your gorgeous baby girl. Same day as my daughter but 28 years later. Now to your question, l don't believe that it would all be just over a few minor bills. I feel there is definately more to it. Have you tried really talking to him without getting angry and telling him exactly how you feel ? I would try that if you haven't already. Perhaps he is feeling a little left out with the new bubs and all. The fact that he is not affectionate at all is a real worry though. I really hope for your sake that he is not cheating on you, it seems to me that he could well be. Hope you can work this out but if not atleast you have your beautiful daughter to keep you occupied. Good luck with everything.
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Are you ready to be married and be alone?  This isn't about money or status, it is about two people that can handle staying commited and true no matter what and at your age that is a lot to bite off.\nI bit it at 18 and found at 30 that I really felt I had missed out on lots of fun.\nIf your love is real it will weather the time in the airforce and still be strong when he returns.  I suggest waiting so that you both still have the freedom without regret to experience the rest of maturing.
122156
Sweetie, you're only 16.. way too young to be thinking about being so serious about a relationship. From what you said I can feel a strong sense of immaturity espeecially from you. I respect your feelings and all but I do have to tell you that you can't simply change the world because you love him. Life is more complicated than you think my dear. Accept the fact that it is not you who can make that change easier. It is only HIM who can make it easier or harder because that's his life.\n\nWhy not reverse the situation? Why not try to understand the transition that he is going through and allow him to grow-up by himself. If you are really meant for each other, you will have all the chances. When you're both old enough and more mature to handle things, you can still end up being together.\n\nFor now, I say let things be and allow both you and him to grow-up.
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i am with my current partner of 6 years, he was 16 i was 17.  last September we married!! the love you feel can only grow, at that age i knew i loved him and as each year passed i knew a different kind of love, a stronger more passionate kind.\nyou know whats in your heart!\ngood luck
554934
Dont rush into anything especially at such a young age there are so many people out there that do it and you know what it doesnt work out. You havent really experienced the world. How do you know what makes you truely happy? Your too young to know these things. Just take things slow and you should wait until after your 21 to get married so many things happen then in your mind that will open up your eyes to so many different things. Please please get on birth control or something make sure you are done living life and experimenting before having children.\n\nBe strong and hold your ground your far too young to be considering something like this just let him know that this is how you feel and that you both still have some growing up to do as it is. HOLD YOUR GROUND and dont let him pressure you into anything. I can tell you right now its a huge mistake.
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Honey, as long as this guy is nice to you, understands about the difficulties such age differences mean, and is basically a good guy then date him, have fun, but don't let him press you to do things you don't want to. I married a man older then myself and have been very happy. It takes longer for men to mature then women so really he is basically your age right about now. So the real question is do you want to date some one who is the same age as you? lol
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I think it is time to Chirp or get off the branch.  My wife and I had been dating for a while, I really loved her but did not ask her to get married.  She finally gave me a date by which to chirp or to get off the branch.  I chirped and it has been the best thing I ever did.  We have been married for many years and are more in love today then ever.  I would openly discuss your concerns with him and then let him know that you need commitment by say June 30.  If he doesn't make the commitment, move on to someone that truly loves you and someone that will make that commitment.  Too often, we stick with someone that we know is not right for us and then the years go by.  After it is too late, we realize that life is passing us by and we are in a relationship that is going nowhere.  I think people need to list the things that they want in a relationship/mate and then if after a few months they do stack up, they need to move on.  People really don't change much with time--if it doesnt feel right at first it probably wont get any better with time.   Good Luck!
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Well, you didn't tell us how old you are so we have no idea if you're ready to settle down. Not that age would be an indicator that's set in stone but it usually gives context for your life experiences. Just go with the flow so that you see where you really stand on this issue.  If you're not ready to be seriously committed first, don't force it or you'll just end up hurting the both of you.
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20 is still young. Give it time before making such a serious commitment to someone. Some day you don't want to be in divorce court by acting so fast. If it is love it will with stand time...Nicky