i use to date this guy about two months ago and then we broke up. we stayed pretty good friends and you know there is always the usual flirting. a few weeks ago he started asking me to go with him to the movies and stuff. so i would go but when i would go with him he would usually start off the night being a jerk and then by the end we would kiss or what not. and then last friday i went to his house and we got pretty lovey i guess and then the next morning he called me and im like so whats up with us? adn hes like what do you mean? and im like what are we? and hes like what do you want from me, and i said the truth, and he said that he didnt want a gf at this time, but that that didnt mean that he never wants to go out with me again. so i asked him why he was leading me on and he said that wasnt his intention... so what should i think hes trying to do?
206015
Ok sweetie, obviously he is protecting himself from being hurt again by being in a relationship with you but not.  This may be a fine distinction and completely without merit.  And it is, I would say just give him some time if you like him, but I would expect that he should treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve.  I would not settle for anything less if I were you. And if he can't trust me there is sombody out there who will love you for who you are, and will treat you the way you deserve.  Good luck sweetie and I hope this helps.
298421
It means that your relationship is over.  Run hard and fast from this jackass!  He isn't worth your time.  If he says that, he has someone in mind that he wants to sleep with, or has already done so.  I know it is tough, but forget him and move on with your life.  He is obviously a selfish and immature boy who has no idea what love or commitment are.  I know your feelings are involved, but you will have them hurt more if you hang around him.  Good luck!
650236
...Men are strange beings.. but yeah that does suck.. I'd be askin some questions that is for sure.  I wouldn't beg him back or anything.. because who wants to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them.. But tell him.. you deserve an answer.. and then let him be on his way.  If he broke up with you that way.. he doesn't seem like he was a very good catch anyway.  Hope things go well :-)  .. and not every guy is like that.. I promise, you'll find a good one.
317703
does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
470422
Either he wants to continue having sex with you or he wants to be in a relationship but either way  his timing was a little off. See if he treats you like a girlfriend (phone calls during the day/night, coming over to see you,dinners etc) good luck
668739
Sounds like he likes you. So go for it. Maybe he had feelings for you which is why he had broke up with his girlfriend. He wants you and now he wants to see how you feel about him. Let him know by flirting back, hang out more, talk more and see how things work out.
36111
Look at it this way: if he wanted to "go out with you" he would have said yes when you asked him.  Try to ignore him from now on and see what his reaction is.\ngood luck sugar
530592
his friends were probably just messing around.  i know my friends sometimes call my house and say weird stuff but if you are unsure its best to just go and ask him instead of letting it getr in the way of a relationship.
131413
I think it'll be ok to let him know of how you feel about him. It all depends what kind of a person he really is. You might wanna be cautious about getting out all your feelings. He is either in shock because of the break up or he's in relief. Sometimes when guys break up, they dont wanna go into another relationship too fast (it doesn mean they dont like to date!). \n\nThe fact that he wanted to stay at your house tells me he is attracted to you and wanted to get closer or simply was hoping to have sex. So, let him come closer but dont let him find out you like him too much or his EGO might rise up dramatically (just had a broke up and already a girl's asking him out.... so he might think "oh im so awesome, I'm sure I can find more offers..") \n\nSo act cool but make it apparent to him that you're open to finding out more about him. and meanwhile ask him why he doesnt go back to his girlfriend and solve their problems, see if he starts to think or he has already made his mind on that issue.\n\nGood Luck !!
258876
move on...\n\nIf he doesn't want to go out with you... there must be a reason.\n\nIf it's his baggage... that's HIS issue.\n\nYou asked...
378075
have you talked to this guy about taking it to the next step? Maybe it's time for you to both sit down and discuss where you both want to see where this relationship will lead you to. If what he's offering at the end of the line is not want you want, then its time for you to re-consider the relationship.
363099
What happens when you don't suggest hanging out? Believe me, if a guy wants to be with a girl, nothing is going to get in his way: not war, flood, poverty and certainly not pride. Back off a bit and give him space. If he doesn't call you - find someone new who will.
331753
It sounded to me that he just wanted you to be a friend only, at least at this stage. Try to cool yourself the passion from him and don't push him or yourself to be too emotionaly involved with him. If he really cares about you more than a friend, he would keep dating you no matter how many dates you're going to have (unless both of you enter in a serious relationship). You'll get a better picture of how well compatiable of both of you and realize more about his feelings toward you if you "step back" and "observe". It'll be better for both of you.
368174
Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
392834
What help do you want?  To know if he's interested in you?  I'll assume that's it.\nWell, it sounds promising.\nBut think, does he want to have a relationship with you or just have sex with you?  Is the chasing ever going to amount to anything?\nHave you talked to him and at any point told him you're not ready to date or you're not interested in a relationship?  If so, that could be why nothing has happened for him to show real interest in dating you.\nIt's a good sign that's he's not accepting free sex from anyone else, yes.\nThink hard, if you told him you were ready for another relationship, would he cringe or look hopeful?  Not sure, try telling him something along these lines, without directly involving him in the question.  See how he reacts and gage by that.  Or, just have a conversation about it.  \nI had a similar situation, except when I made a move back, he totally stopped wanting me.  Until I hadn't seen him for a year and had finally given up and started dating someone else who I love.  Then he saw me and couldn't stop trying to hold my hand and telling me how he made a mistake.\nSometimes guys who chase do it because they don't know what they want and, when they're confronted with it, they don't know what to do with it and turn into jerks.  They might come around later but you don't want a guy like that, trust me.
97947
If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
23943
A good guy would not treat you in this way, plain & simple. If he does this kind of thing all of the time he is just playing with your feelings for his own gratification. All I can tell you is that I have been in the same situation once or twice & it never worked out.\n\nI don't know how to say this other than plainly so, please, forgive me if I am too blunt: Is he really a "good guy" or is he a "good-looking guy" that you think you need to date? I mean, honestly, if he's a good person he wouldn't be doing these things & he'd certainly be giving you a reason every time.\n\nNow, if you are set on being with this guy (don't understand why) there are a few things that you can do to try to turn the situation around. This will also help you to determine just how much he is really interested in you. First, don't go dropping your plans just because he calls. If he can't call you in advance to set something up then he can just sit at home. Second, when this sort of thing happens & he says something when you tell him no you won't drop your plans, inform him that you expect to be treated with a little respect & that means that he will make plans with you in advance & keep them. Tell him that you might be more inclined to drop other plans if he didn't always back out of things at the last minute. In other words, make him aware of what you expect & don't keep letting him walk all over you. His reactions to these things will show you how interested in you he really is &, if you determine that he is just playing you, go find someone else who will appreciate you...\n\nHope this helps!