I don't like my body! Im not fat or skinny but i don't want my boy friend 2c me naked if we do go 2bed 2gether! How do i work around that?
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ok, u should probably get comfortable with ur body. u cant normally change it so ur stuck with it. ur bf should like u 4 u, not 4 ur body.
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Sorry, I'm not a lady, but I am a gay man.  Even if I weren't, I think my answer is still universal.  You need to be honest with him first of all.  Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable.  But let him know that it's not anything you'd like to end the relationship over (because trust me, you don't).  It's just that it's something you're not used to and you wanted him to know the truth of the matter because you like to keep the air as clear as possible.  You do like that, right?  \n\nThe fact of the matter is, the human mind can get used to any sight, smell or sound as long as it's not physically damaging your body.  Your mind sees to it that you're uncomfortable around deformities because your mind has a presculpted idea of what a body should look like.  When someone's body does not add up to this idea, your mind will initially not trust it.\n\nIf you get along great, then you need to make your mind get used to this deformity.  Ask him not to hide it so much when you're around, that way you can get used to it.  He will appreciate the effort, and the honesty.
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Guys are funny about breast size.  Some guys drool for large breasts while others are like me, and like a good butt. (not that big breasts are bad, they are certainly good too).\n\nInsecurity is a tough thing.  Some people use this to put the other person under their thumb in a relationship.   If you care about your b/f and you are certain he cares about you, all you can do is trust him.  If you truly don't like his attitude and you think he's overstaring at other girls and maybe using the boob job as leverage, maybe you need to set him straight.\n\nDo you look at other guys?  We all look, it's whether or not we touch/talk etc. that damages a relationship.   If you've always wanted a boob job, why do you keep asking him about it, or telling him about it?\n\nGet comfortable with yourself.  Get confident.  Love yourself as you are.    Think of the boobs as an "extra".  They will never really be "you" anyway.     Good luck!
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you know your body better than anyone.  Teach him how to please you and then you won't have to be upset afterwards..They can be taught how do you think they know as much as they do before they get to you.
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OK, here it is. First of all, ALL men, yes ALL, have fantasies and they all want to have a spicy intimate relationship with the one person they have to chose to be intimate with. Now, all you have to do is gain some confidence in yourself and have some fun turn this issue around to where it's no longer an issue. Yes, I know it's easier said then done. Listen to me, tell yourself how great you are, how lucky any man would be to be with you. You have to carry that attitude around because if you can't feel good and comfortable with yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? Think about it. When you feel confident, you welcome other people to get closer, and when you feel fear, you build an invisible shield that even you can't get through eventually. Stop what you have been doing, because as you can see, it isn't working for you, and put a smile on your face and get what you want! I really believe that your lack of confidence has created this problem. Didn't your boyfriend fall in love with you for the way you look? Well, you are still you, love yourself the way he does...for you. If you lose yourself, he'll lose who you are too, and that makes for a very unhappy relationship.
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So basically your a smurf( 3 apples tall) and slightly pudgy. Sorry but it does work the same way for men as women, if hes not sexually attracted to you your not getting any. Will losing weight change that? Probally not. No matter what you do men rrely change their minds unless its for sex, but I feel you want more than that. Realize that your probally going to get hurt over this so prepare and dont your hopes up too high.
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My Sweetie Pai!!\n\nDo not let anybody change you not for ANY reason, if u are happy with your body then stay that way,\n\n you know what!! GOD knew what he was doing when he created different people with different shape so that we can pick and choose, if he is looking for a thin girl he must go and find himself one.\n\nJust remember that in life we will always meet people who will try to change us just because we love them and we must learn to take a stand on those people cause they will end up destroying us and we end-up with a low confidence and probably low self esteem.\n\ni cannot tell u what to do BUT i can suggest that talk to your boyfriend and try to stand up to him and explain that u are unable to meet his expectations due to the fact that u are very much happy with the way u look and u are not ready for a new change!!\n\ni hope this little advice will be of help to u.\nMay God help u to make the right decision.
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Your question doesn't have anything to do with this category (Diet & Fitness) but...\n\nAsk him. It's no big deal!  So it's a little embarrassing...you'll get over it.  And you won't have to lie awake at night, wondering.  :)
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Oh my goodness, don't you worry your head for one more moment about your stretch marks, good men, who are not shallow don't care about stuff like that.  I've never had trouble getting a man and my stomach and waist look horrible what with the stretch marks and old C-section scars.  Its not a biggie, if it is...dump him, why waste your time on someone who can't except you for the way you are.  Learn to love yourself, when you stand in front of the mirror stop looking at whats not right and start looking at what IS right.  How you view yourself is EXACTLY how other people will treat you.  We teach people how to treat us by the crap we take over and over again.  Don't settle.
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ladies....for far too long...we wait on men to tell u our self worth..as my friend here...my girl..please dnt degrade yourself...dont get me wrong I have no problem with the tiny or tight clothes..no one could dress skimpier than I....its how u carry yourself that separates you from the rest..now first of all...if your friend does that...she doesnt have your back..females need to start looking out for each other rather than back biting/stabbing. You have to make sure that whatever you do in this life..you do it for you..let the choice of clothes be cause you love the way u look and you love celebrating yourself...dont wait on a man to tell you what you are worth....always be able to live with your decisions...because they were made by you for you...in your best interest.....because let me tell you..no one will care for your heart...better than you..and only you...so...if your friend wants to go that way...keep her ...at a safe distance...because god knows when next she will try that shit..and keep the guy just as far...always remember though..its not the outside party that must carry the majority of the blame...especially if you knew one before the other...If the one closest to you is the one doing the betrayal..make sure that they are the ones who suffer the consequences ..because the outside party is not obligated to you in any way...they are not obliged to care what destruction they cause..as opposed to the one who is your supposed friend or better/other half...
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Listen, from a girl who was in the smae position, skinny is bad! trust me on this! Your friends have probably starved themselves for there seriuosly unnatural figure.\nyou say you try even more than they do. mmmmm..... hoe do you know that they dont try at home behind your back?\n\ntell me would you prefer this daily diet:\n\nbreakfast: cereal.\n\nlunch: a nice butty, nice amount of butter. Packet of crisps.\n\nsnack:  Biscuits\n\ntea: nice lasangne.\n\n                           or.\nBreakfast: Yougart drink\n\nLunch:  drie slad\n\nsnacK: cardboard cereal bar.\n\ntea:  salad>?\n\n\nmmmmm.......\n\nDont copy your friends. You are different. You are perfect! And one thing that is for certain, your probably not even over weight, you just have a more natural figure than your other EAT HEALTHY BORES of m8s.\n\nok i cant help but state the fact that you may want to be careful of what you eat, but dont change the way you are, thats what make you you and thats the best thing there could be. yeah?\n\nGO FOR IT! follow what your stomach says and not you eyes. TRust me, youll be just fine
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you are 14 years old!!!!!!  you're body is changing each and every day!!!!  you are growing mentally, emotionally, and physically!  you're body is still growing into itself!  don't ever put yourself down and believe that you have to fit into the size 2 our society deems perfect!  if you feel uncomfortable with the way you look then you should talk to you parents, your doctor, or someone else who can help you make healthy decisions and maybe even start doing specific exercises...but do it for yourself, not for everyone else! Good luck!!!
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OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
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First don't worry about what others think.  If you try and define yourself in anothers terms then you never will be happy.  Some people might think you are heavy but I don't I think that's a great combination of height and weight.  You though should be happy with who you are first then find someone that is just as happy with you as you are.  If you aren't happy and barring doing anything unsafe then work toward making what changes you think you need.  The reason you never will be happy if you try and define yourself in anothers eyes or terms is that once you conform to their idea of perfect then they will always find something else wrong.  Also you are attempting to conform to what you THINK they are thinking or what you perceive they are thinking which is usually always wrong.  I think you look, sound, great .. I bet you are and hopefully you'll feel that way also.
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Oh my!  How totally and completely hurtful and disrespectful!   I know words can be thrown around in the heat of an argument (even though they shouldn't), but this was just said to hurt you for hurting's sake.\n\nDo you want to stay with a man who would say hurtful things about your body?  Or do you want a man who would stand beside you and adore ALL of you...even if you had lost a breast to cancer?  What kind of man would he be then?\n\nThink twice about this one.  How can you ever feel confident knowing he thinks you are inadequate?
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don't worry about weight\ngo with how you feel\nif you feel a bit chunky then exercise and slim down and firm up\n:)
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Before you can address the issue with your boyfriend, you need to address your issues with your body image.  Instead of picking yourself apart, build yourself up.  If you feel you're "chubby", try losing weight if that will make you feel better about your body image.  If you feel you're "plain looking", try a little makeup or a new hair color to see what works for you.  \n\nIt's a cliche, but true beauty really does come from within.  If you don't love yourself, how can anyone love you?  Guys get bored with girls who trash themselves.  It's like saying to them everyday, "Why are you with an ugly girl with me when you could be with someone prettier?".  Basically, you're second-guessing his high opinion of you.  It's may be a matter of time before he starts to agree with your poor body image and moves elsewhere.  \n\nJust because you value meaningful things like art over binge drinking and freak dancing doesn't make you less of a person, or unattractive.  Intellectual pursuits are much sexier to the right kind of guy.\n\nAs for the jealousy thing, you either trust your boyfriend or you don't.  If you think he's actually going to make a move on these other girls, maybe you should reconsider dating him.  If he is geuinely uninterested in these other girls and your insecurities are driving this persistant jealousy, try and find your own sex appeal and work on building yourself up!\n\nDon't waste another minute hating yourself.  Life is too short, and one day you'll realize you had nothing to hate about yourself to begin with.