I am 16 and I have never been on a date. I am not ugly. I am a little chubby and I am smart, but not a know it all. I try to talk to guys, but I am not all over them like other girls. I am a little shy, but I don't lay down in the corner. I play sports and I am physically fit. I can date, but I have never been asked out. Why? I am to shy to ask a guy myself. Any help on how to get myself a date.
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Guys are probally just as nervous as you are! \n\nSometimes certain girls can be shy, but also, as weird as it may sound, guys can be pretty shy too!\n\nI have a lot of guys friends, and they are pretty shy when I metion girls, dating, ect.\n\nDon't worry girl! You're doing just fine, and your Orlando Bloom will come really soon! :)
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Well you probably have one of a couple problems.\n\n1) sampling problems.  Where are you trying to find dates?  Are you going places where openly gay people congregate?  Because you're not just going to have the perfect gay guy drop out of the sky.\n\n2) are you openly gay?  I mean really openly gay.  Because once it is common knowledge that you are gay, then most women will stop hitting on you.  \n\n3) are you a loser?  That sounds harsh, but I'm serious.  It is so critically important, in my opinion, for a guy to come to the point where he is happy with himself and his life and is secure and confident in who he is BEFORE he tries to get into a relationship. If he enters a relationship without being confident and secure, then he is only going to dump his problems, his insecurities, and his self pity on the person he tries to end up with. I believe that it is self-pity, lack of self-esteem and lack of self-respect that people find unattractive and hence make some people unable to get dates
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maybe you're just too shy and you don't flirt...\n\ni know that's why no guy has ever asked me.
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little girl you shouldn't post a question like that you are too young to think about dating. Besides, all kinds of people (predators) are on this site. Enjoy being a kid & worry about dating later.
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I am 14 and I would be honored to ask an almost 16 year-old girl on a date.  I hope you find the right guy and have a lot of good times. :)
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Hi emma you seem a nice girl and should not be in this situation \nanyway i am an a guy of 26 and have only one girlfriend ever\nIt is depressing when every one has somebody and you don't,\nI have tried to ask a girl out who i really like working in the shop they just say no and laugh so it does not work, but you want to ask a boy out just do, if they laugh they laugh but it is there lose. \ngood luck
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from a 17 year old girls p.o.v. :  i find shy guys to be hot! but at the same time i find shy guys to be a turnoff because its hard to talk to them. my advice would be, tho i kno it seems hard for u but just try ur best to be more outgoing, dont hold back. when u see a girl u like, go up to her and casually say hi! i love it when a guy makes the first move! ive tried really hard to flirt with shy guys but its always so frusturating cuz they come off unintrested.
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Hi sweetie.  Good for you for recognizing this stuff about yourself at such a young age.  The most important advice you can keep is - remember to be kind to yourself.\n\nYou're not a whore, and your not a geek.  Instead of chucking guys and focusing totally on school, why not just cut back and be really selective about which guys to date?  Say no to the jerks, say yes to one you normally wouldn't, and say "good job" to yourself for every good thing you do.\n\nBut remember to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everybody makes them. Many worse than yours. \n\nI'm not a religious freak - I just strongly believe in self-redemption.  The alternative is too destructive.\n\nSmile - your best friend is you!
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If you are too shy to verbally ask her out then maybe you are too shy to be dating. Wait until you mature a bit then try again. How can a date work with just letter writing?▲
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first you are not alone in this. i know plenty of people whos never had a date in high school, it doesnt matter really because everyone's situation is different.\n\nlook, would you date someone because there is a mutual connection between you two or would you rather date 'just because' you've never had a boyfriend? do you want a relationship because you are in love or because you are desperate to PROVE you can get a boyfriend? \n\nANYONE CAN GET A DATE IF THEY WANTED TO!!! im sure you are really sweet and nice, and you want to see how it feels to be in a relationship. but dont just surrender to peer pressure, its not worth it. wait until LOVE finds you, you are still young, have your first date SPECIAL and REAL then you can go show off and make everyone else jealoused! \n\nnow calm down, theres no need to go 'omg' its perfectly natural. if you really want a boyfriend despite what ive said so far, then be more sociable and join some clubs and activities outside of school. that way you'll meet new people and increase your likelihood of getting a date :)\n\ngood luck and listen to your heart!
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The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
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your parents are trying to protect you. A lot of parents are the same on that one. Next week I will be 26 & I have never dated in my life. I have always wondered when I weill meet the right girl. I am also a virgin. I say you should wait until you finish school & graduated college & get a good job then when you are in your 20's get a boyfriend. As I remember some years ago when I was like 18 or 19 my uncle asked me if I had a girlfriend, yet & I said no. He said good, you are too young. So take my advice. Don't start dating until you know for suure you'll spend the rest of your life with the guy. I now know why I have never dated in my life. People ask me why, but I hide the real answer & tell them another.
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what do you not do? are you shy? do you get nervous around girls? are you looking in the right place?\n\nit can be so many things. first off, just chill. not every person is looking for a significant other. think about that too. you could be asking a person who had a bad experience with an ex, they are too busy to be dating other people, or something else.\n\nyou can't always find them and we all go through a sort of slump. try doing this. use your looks to your advantage. be cocky in a funny way.\nex:\nthem- wow! you are ruggedly handsome!\nu- nice try. too many people have tried to use that line on me and it doesn't work.\n\nto hit my main point, learn how to project your self-confidence to other people. that will help you on your quest to get dates. personality counts more than looks. you have looks to reinforce an attractive personality. good luck with finding a date.
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WELL THEY MIGHT NOT BE THE RIGHT WOMEN FOR YOU TO ASK FOR A DATE. I THINK YOU'RE  A NICE GUY, PROBABLY YOU ARE TOO NICE FOR THEM...DON'T WORRY JUST BE YOURSELF AND YOU COULD GET ATTENTION FROM A SPECIAL ONE!!!
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lots of boys are cute-its a fact of life.\ndont try to get a guy to like you be yourself and he should like you for that. and you guys should have a good time together and everything which would make you want to date and take it to a more serious level of kissing and much more.\nwait till you are 16 to date, seriously ik its hard but its dumb when ur parents have to drive u places for dates. just hang out in guy girl groups.
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It sounds like you are a really sweet, sensitive girl -- in other words beautiful.   And yes, beauty is everything.  Alright, so you are pleasant to look at.  I know from experience that is a plus when attracting the opposite sex.  There is nothing wrong with being shy, either.  There is a lot out there to be afraid of, it is good to listen to your instincts they will protect you.\n\nJust do me a favor, be a little picky with the guys you will date (you can afford to be).  Don't go for rich, as they will treat you like another possession.  Don't go for beautiful, as you will always be another conquest.  Don't go for arrogant, in a decade all of your peers who did that will either be single moms or bitter women.  Go for the guys who want to get to know you and for whom the physical is a nice bonus.
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!