For once can we say something nice, we overlook the beauty and talent in black women. They have already heard too demanding and bossy, which is a stereotype. If you have anything nice to say, please respond.
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I actually just read an article written by a black woman about how she was tired of men assuming she was just some big-lipped, big-butt sex object.  Whenever guys payed her compliments (especially white males) it usually had something to do with how they were "into her chocolate love" or "wanted a black girl to boss them around in bed" or something else racist and degrading.  She wished people could just tell her something nice without pointing out that she was black.  How about we just compliment people for who they are and forget their skin-color-stereostypes?  There are millions of nice things that can be said of all women, and each woman is different -- they are all beatifully and wonderfully made; they are individuals.
345915
I prefer to be called Black, not African American. No, I'm not from Africa but of course my ancestors are. But given the fact that many African Americans from Africa have treated me like sh*t like any other racist idiot, I'd rather not be called that. I have heard from many of them that we (Blacks) are not pure Africans and that we are a disgrace to their people. The ones I've encountered looks at us and treat us like dogs. I'm cool on them. Don't want to ever be associated with them. Don't get me wrong, not all of them are like that. But the majority I've encountered are.
422664
He was real wrong to say those nasty things, but i do not see how money would help anything. what really gets me is that i hear black people say that word and not one person even gasp, yet a white guy says it and they cant believe they have heard that word. Racism knows no color. to the lady who gave an answer addressed to me. I by no means meant to offend anyone. i really did not know there was a diff. i do appreciate you explaining that to me.
504562
Why is everyone asking this question??? My man is Black and I'm his Kryptonite. He thinks white women look nasty, just like some white men think black women look nasty. I don't feel less of a person just because a black man likes a white woman. I get hit on by both white men and women, and other races too. It's their preference, so why should we care?\n\nAnd in case that "additional detail" was towards me allybama...\nI'm a black woman. No I didn't choose the dark brown complexion for my avatar because I am not dark brown. I'm more of a caramel or honey complexion. Black people come in different shades of brown in case you didn't know.
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I have just read your link and up to a point I do agree with you. \n\nIt isn't just about the black community though it is. I think it is just fashion in general. There are so many people wanting to look the part but you should never judge a person by the way they dress!\n\nAs for the posting above, we have to be careful what we say because people do get offended.  I get constantly offended when I read people telling me how wonderful God is, or I will go to hell if I don't believe etc, but they never seem to stop that do they!!\nI think all this political correctness has taken away our freedom of speech. It makes me laugh though that if you are black and you call a 'brother' the N word that is acceptable, but if I was to call someone by that name I would get told off and called racist. It is either right or wrong. There should not be rules for one culture and not for another. That is another form of segregation... them and us!!\n\nThere are nice ways and nasty ways of asking a question or placing a statement but there is always someone you will offend. There are many questions I would love to ask about the black culture and the asian cultures etc. all are totally innocent but I am scared to ask incase people don't like the way I have asked it and I get called a racist.\n\nThe whole world has gone crazy and it does annoy me!
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You are one of the few who are outspoken about this history which is awful for sure. But I think a lot of black and white women aren't knowledgeable or aware of it, so then what would cause the perceived hatred between them? Personally I haven't seen it, but I live in a small northern town. My guess would be that now that black people are finally getting educations and rising above the circumstances set against them from their history here in US that there seems to be a desire in black men to hunt out white women which can understandably aggravate black women who want to preserve something about their culture apart from the ecclectic mix of cultures that we enjoy here in the US.
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I don't see the big deal.  If white women are dating all the black men, why can't black women date white men, Mexicans, etc?  Plus I feel like a lot of the black women who are upset by seeing a white woman with a black man have issues with themselves.  Seriously, there are pleny of black men.  If you can't find one re-evaluate yourself.
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It's not just black girls, it's girls of all races. But I do understand the messages through some rap videos...but you have to understand, this is purely commercial, what's worse is that the girls are buying it, through the cost of their self-esteem and worth.  It's just not in music videos, it's in the daily media too.
206834
That's a really nice comment/question. I appreciate it. \n\n\nAnd, quitcallingm... ----- not all women are like that.
248101
I like to take a few things from all races.... as far as fashion goes. I am white and I was born with a big ol booty, thick hair and big lips.....so guess its not just a black thang anymore. I really don't understand the conflict between black and white.....I live in the south and its always a heated debate. We live in this world together and I think that we just need to open our eyes and realize that. Learn from one another
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I'm a white male that is currently in a long term relationship with a beautiful black female...I've dated both white and black and just prefer a black woman...Just some of the black woman I've seen or dated were naturally beautiful...they dont need to spend 3 hours globbing makeup on to look good. Also in my experiance a black woman knows how to treat there man better than white women. That brings up another point..I have NO idea why black men flock to white women..For all you WHITE guys take advantage of that..its the best feeling in the world to have someone that cares about you and treats you like a king..JUST MY 2 Cents ;)
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Responding to THEY LIVE, it's not funny and you're just as ignorant as the people who use the word!!! Black people especially shouldn't use the word that degrades them. I don't know why they use it. they're just as ignorant as the people who made it. we need to come together as a black community and get it together!!
7951
there are a lot of groups and solo artists out there doing great rap music....talib kweli,mos def,common...great lyrics with a message.The booty,bitches,kill ya'll music is fine every now and then.Mostly I listen to it coz of the beats & bass;-)As a woman I don't care...coz I'm not a hoochie mama so why should I feel they talk about me?? Go to the club and you'll know WHO they're talkin bout!!
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I am Asian and i believe that black women are alot better then their white counterparts.  White women have this superiority complex about them.  They think they are better then everyone.  Black women are more down to earth and are really sweet.  White women are on the bottom of my list to date.  This is my honest opinion.
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H-E-Double Hockey Sticks NO!!!! OMG...she has no vocal talent whatsoever. I was listening to my yahoo radio station and had to suffer from her voice for the entire song...I had used up all my skips for the hour. \n\nIn addition to her unability to sing...I don't see why she's so attractive. Now, excuse me, I am black and maybe I don't understand beauty in terms of other cultures, but  I look at her, and almost everything about her is ugly. Her face is.....lacking. \n\nLol, I'm not tryin to hate...I'm just sayin. She lacks in a few areas. And produly boasted it in this song.
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I think there are real black girls in videos, they're just not in front.  Girls with mixed ethnic heritages are just more exotic looking, which is probably a big selling point.  You can't really argue that, as far as I'm concerned.  \n\nLook at people like Alicia Keyes, Vanessa Williams, Mya, Sade, et. al., they're all multi-racial, and exotic looking in their own ways.  They are some of the most beautiful black women I've ever seen.  Not to say that there aren't pretty "regular" black girls too, I only hang out with "dimes," so I know they exist.  I just think they've got different ideas about how they wanna make their place in the world.
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blonde by choice here, kinda tall, lil above average, yet most people find me intelligent and treat me with respect.  it's not just the hair, it's also the image we reflect to the world.  if we say "like" a lot, if we say "y'know," if we crack gum or twirl our hair in our fingers and dress like a bimbo, then we're treated as stupid and easy.  if a woman is attractive and blonde, and has a good bod, yet respects herself, she commands respect from her peers.  if she invites that type of treatment, then shame on her if she doesn't like it.  it's all in the presentation babe.  hope this helped!!