i have an a shot to move back home should i take it? it's what i wanted for a long time and i want to so bad!!!! but i don't want to hurt him and leave him. Or should i stay with him at school? i need help with that?
200507
You need to do what will make you happy. If you want to go "home"... then do it. If you don't you'll be wondering what could be different every morning when you get up, and probably many times throughout the day. Don't break your own heart. Follow it.
156985
i think you should stay with your family until you are off to college - that way you can get away from them, and they will still have your back. blood is thicker than water, and your boyfriend is still just water. two more years baby, hang in there.
243922
that is such bullshit womanish reasons to do something just because the guy should follow you cmon. if you have a teachers degree you have a headstart cause you can start you new carrer. second if you truly love this guy and all your kids are grown then do what your heart tells you. i say move to maine get a job in a good school that pays good then contact him and let him know whats going on and give him a choice he can stay where he is living miserably or he can come start a new life with you.
578254
Just let him know about how u feel about him moving away...if he decides to stay, great; but if not, don't "force" him to stay 'cause you might come off as being selfish\n\nGood Luck :)
467205
Ok, this is going to sound absolutely weird. I am very confused.\nAbout 4 years ago , I was a school cleaner, married with an abusive husband. A new male teacher came to the school where I was working and we started a very close friendship. In 2004 I left my husband after many fights , I could not take anymore. This male teacher help me through me hard times and we became even closer. We started sleeping together which resulted in me falling pregnant (I lost a girl at 27 weeks of my pregnancy, she lived for 5 hours) Anyway, up until 2 weeks ago , we were still sleeping with each other. But all this time he says he loves me but just wants to be friends. Due to financial problems I have moved into his house. I have my own room and he says he no longer wants to sleep together. I love him very much, but like you I am confused.\nNow I will get to the point, it is obvious that you like this man, just ask him what he wants out of you, meaning a friendship or a relationship. I do not want to see you get hurt sweetie.
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My goodnes,it sounds like he working himself to death there.But sometimes that's what you have to do to help your family.I gather that his father isn't around?It's hard sometimes for guys in this situation.I'm sure he loves you and I'm sure he also loves his family.I could imagine that it's hard for you being away from him and I totally understand that(husbands in the Army),but you also have to make sure that you finish your schooling and take care of yourself too.Is he getting any other help with the finances?That sure is a big job taking care of four people and sounds like the pay is not that good,but then again what job does pay good these days for us regular folks?You should be supportive though even though I know it's hard for you.Is there any way that you can transfer to a school where he is at?Or is that not possible?If he is having issues from going to Iraq,maybe he should try to get some counseling,if he would ever find the time.There are just too many soldiers that come back from there that don't seek any kind of help and then one day it just sneaks up on them and that is a whole other story.I hope for your sake and his that he will exercise those options.And no,love shouldn't be that hard but as stupid as it sounds it will make your love stronger between each other.Good Luck to ya and I hope it all works out.
51622
YES, and stay your course.Work hard to finish school and don't let that piece of s%#t make you feel guilty for anything you have done. Don't let someone like him drag you down. Its gonna be rough for a while, but you definitely don't need anybody to make things harder. Hang in there, it will be worth it.
50670
I know how you feel, I broke up with my boyfriend out of fear of him hurting me also. I don't go to school anymore but my life has went to hell because he cheated on me and I can't trust him anymore. But I miss him and I wish I hadn't ended it. But I know it's for the best. We just need time. Time heals all wounds they say. If you think you can't live without him and you know he'll take you back then go for it. I can't concentrate either and my house is messier than ever but I know with time the sun will shine again and I will be happy for my decision. And if I have faith, maybe God will send the right one my way.
233646
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
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Do you enjoy your relationship with this guy? Stay with him, whats the point of breaking up now if you want to get back together when he returns.  You love him stay with him.  Being away from each other in terms of distance may teach you and him some life lessons, that may be crucial to the future.
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here is my advice, advice from a friend who has been put thru a similar situation. my bf almost went to Michigan or TX State University and all i could do is break up and cry behind closed doors. look, in his eyes you have to be strong and if you love him you should be able to trust him and in your heart think that nothing bad will happen! if you keep on wondering what happens wherever he is and who he is with and if he is cheating on you you come out as really insecure and push him away after a while! you should be happy for him and for what what he is doing not sad! be a good gf and spend lots of time with him before time runs out, surprise him with a nice dinner or a picnic or something simple yet where you two spend quality time together!  here is what my mom told me and for me it came true because my bf went to the same university as me, but her words of wisdom are: if he loves you he will come back to you ! and yes i think he is coming back! it will be hard and difficult on both of you and him too but he will not show it,trust me! you have to go through this and let him go and grow and you grow as a person too and in the end he will come back to you! do not think  of the negative outcome but rather of the positive, be happy that he is happy  or for him, spend time with him, trust him, do not question him and remember that the Bible says that "....love never fails" in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8!
622546
You know what? This may hurt, but screw your parents. I've lived an awful life, and I could tell you my life story, but it would go on and on. I'll give you the short version. I have been tossed back and forth between my parents all my life. (they were never married, and never intended to be, I was just a big "accident.") I would go not seeing my mom for 7 years and then not seeing my dad for 4. It's really messed up. I moved in with my mom 4 years ago after not seeing her for the 7 years. I thought that her and I could heal things with time, plus my dad is a really awful person and I wanted to get away from him. Things were ok for a while, and then about a year ago I cam home from school and she was gone. Just gone. I found out that she had moved to another STATE to be with some guy she met on the internet. So now, I have no parents.  I'm going to be honest with you--it IS a hard road, and sometimes you are going to feel like you will never make it to see tomorrow. You just have to have faith in yourself. And guess what? I'm 18 now and I have my own place with the guy of my dreams, and for the first time in my life, I am TRUELY happy. So I wish you luck...reach for the stars and never give in on your dreams. If your parents really love you, then maybe someday in the future they will see past their mistakes...
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why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
642759
maybe you are getting the things done your way. remeber two people being together is respect. Are you respecting him on the things he do. I mean maybe after school a group of friend is going to play basketball and you just want to do somethings else? I mean in a group event. of course your boyfriend wants to stay and hang out, but if you are like, "I want to leave, it is boring" which it is, but he still want to stay. you can't blame him. if you don't want to play go home first, have him walk you home or something than have him come back.
269763
Your doing the right thing by going home. If he gets mad, too bad! if he really loves you, he would want what was best for you....Until he gets his shyt together and move you into a place you can call home, I wouldn't worry about it!
455215
Tell them you broke up with him... then ACTUALLY BREAK UP with this loser.  What kind of a moron do you have to be to be KICKED out of school?   C'mon, you really feel that bad about yourself that you need a loser to make you feel better?
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Then tell him, distance relationships can and do work, in the end, this world doesnt force you or anyone to stay were they are.\n\nTalk to him ask him how he feels, its certainly not too late at all. If he does feel the same way then arrange to go visit him, perhaps take turns in visiting each other to see what will happen in the long run.\n\nIn the long term there is always a possibility of you moving out to him or him back to you or the both of you to someplace completely different.\n\nMost importantly of all, it is not too late and dont kick yourself for missing an opportunity.\n\nBest wishes, and kind regards.