The initial butterflies have worn off, and you get into a routine of daily life . is it still love or is it habit and friendship?
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The responsibilities can take its toll on the relationship ,as more when a baby comes along .Doesn't mean your not in love , just don't forget break that routine sometimes and be new to each other . Someone you love is also your  best friend , lover and sometimes someone you just can't stand (once in a while ) But you know they are the only one for you .You can have that boring time , that romantic time , friendship time ,that great sexual WOW  time .Butterflies can become bees JUST don't allow them to become CROWS ( ya know ?)
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Friends are sometimes very convenient....other times not....obviously you need to understand that you must move forward in your life...not backward...I have had plenty of experience in this area....ran into someone I had not seen in ten years.....it was a disaster....people you have not seen for years have a snapshot of you from that time....you have moved on....it is sometimes not possible to make up the difference in the time span
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do you mean physically? well after spending countless hours in each others presence its only natural that you become like each other
225296
Its harder to go from lovers to friends because of the intimacy. You now KNOW that person and their body, whereas the opposite, you just know their personality and dream of their body.LOL
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Sometimes we keep getting the same old tired results because we keep the same old tired cycle going. First, I think you need to go and find yourself and let yourself heal before you enter into another relationship. Many times we enter into a new relationship carrying all of the baggage and wounds from our past because we didn't allow ourselves a chance to heal. Emotional wounds cut deep and really do take time to heal up and callouse over. Maybe God is trying to get your attention and let you know that you need to take this time for you. Take this alone time and get better acquainted with yourself, find out the things in life that make you happy and that you enjoy. Maybe you should start living life outside of your box, move out of the things you know in order to bring some new positive experiences to your life. Maybe take a class on something that is completely opposite of the things you do, meet people that aren't normally a part of your social equation, go and get a new look, go volunteer and remember how good it is to help someone else and remember that someone always has it worse than you, keep a journal of the good things that happen to you on a daily basis, and learn to enjoy you. When you become comfortable with yourself and in your own skin and realize that a relationship with a man doesn't define you, you will enter your future relationships differently. Know that your are a woman and the power you possess in the world just by being born a woman. We are all beautiful, wonderful, fantastic, extraordinary, strong beings that deserve happiness and being a secret lover and a doormat is not the way to achieve that happiness. With your next relationship try to find more about that person by not being intimate in hopes of finding love. Sex does not make a man love you and we as women must learn this. Try going about things differently than you ever have and learn that our lives can be filled with love from other places than just the love of a man. I pray that your life overflows with happiness, friendship, and love. Hope this helps.
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It all starts with physical but with committment to the relationship, it goes to genuine love with utmost caring for each other. Any relationship needs time to mature. Romance fades away and gets replaced with platonic love
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this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
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You either think about them quite a bit during the day, you already have a relationship with them...\n\nor you barely know them but would like to "get to know them better."\n\nBasically.
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You stay and work on it until it happens,which it doesn't sound like it will.OR you move on to better yourself with someone who wants the same things in life that you do.
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You are so lucky to have each other at this time. I believe you are a gift to each other. I had friends in a similar position as you are in now. They both decided to take everything one day at a time and enjoy every thing including their love each and every day. They went through, thick and thin together in increasing love, for 3 years longer than doctors had predicted. The surviving friend, years later, has told me several times how they would have suffered a much greater loss if they had not been dedicated to each other in love for as long as possible.
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at least once a day...unless it is understood that you are busy and maybe cant check in....this is where true love and TRUST settle in.
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Mine has lasted for over ten years now.  We're good friends.  We're there for each other.  It is a strange thing when you think about it.  We've never had any desire to take our "friendship" any further than where it is now.  It's working for both us.  I guess it's like any other relationship -- each one is unique in how it works.
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You never really mend it ... you just move on and dare to be vulnerable with someone new. I could list seven names of people I feel have a piece of my heart, but number eight, my partner, has access to the overwhelming majority of it.
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All i can say is that the people we hang around with is the person we will become. Its a new friend or a boyfriend that maybe the broblem. Your focus isnt there when they are present. It might not be what you want to here but its the truth.
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It's when you really have gotten a chance to get to know each other. When you know that you just have to have him/her in your life. Someone you just can't live without. Someone you don't want to leave at night, you want him/her there all night. Someone that you think of the future with. Someone who makes you think of them every single minute of the day. Someone who gives your butterflys when he calls you cute little names, kisses your sweet soft lips, puts his arm around your waist. When he/her she calls and you get a big smile on your face. Then you know your in love! You will know if you are truely in love, trust me. I thought I was so many times. But no i look back and see what I have right now is truely love and I can't live my life without my man!
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I would say that is normal. Often great romances and happy married couples grow from long friendships.  I hope the  feelings of more than friendship are reciprocal and you both have a happy life.
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It is a every day process,really you get over that person with time and begin around good friends and family that keep you motivated and active. Keep your head !!!!