i am extremly shy guy.never been with girls.where the hell to find them and what to talk with them?how to start talk?since i had been brought up conservatively (just like a monk nothing less).pls i want serious replies.dont make fun.
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My husband was extremely shy. We were friends for 15 years before we ever started dating. Then we dated for 5 years and now have been married almost 2 years. \nMy suggestion is to treat it like friends. If you are so shy then you can take baby steps and learn how to make friends first.......who knows? maybe one of these new friends could turn into something more. \nJoin a quiet social group. Just being around people with the same interest will get you talking.....
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Well... as a guy myself, I personally don't think that there's any great secret to getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. If shyness is a really bad problem for you then... just sit with some guys and join in their conversation a bit (btw go with your friends though). Seriously the guys probably won't mind.
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Ask yourself is the possibility of getting this girl worth the effort of overcoming your insecurities and shyness? Is holding her, seeing her smile, laugh, waking up to see her face in the morning worth putting for effort to change?  You're the only one that can actually do that, though here is a little advice that may help you in talking to her:\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nAs for the no being able to relate to others because you don't drink of dance... You're not the only one, a lot of people don't enjoy the bar and club scenes, you'll find others that feel the same way. If the people you want to hang out with do goto these places you can go with them everyonce in a while. You really don't need experience to be with friends at most of them.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful tod
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You're not a shy guy, but you're not outgoing, either. Okay. I see where you are coming from. You're a "stuck in the middle" kind of guy. Normally, you are probably not nervous, and when a gal starts talking to you, you do not always get sweaty and start ststststuttering. But, you lack the confidence and machismo to just go right up to her and say, "Wow, you're the only good-looking girl that I have seen all day. I'm So-and-So. Mind if I get your number?" and hand over a pen and paper.\n\nYou DO have the right idea, though. It is a clever strategy and worthwhile goal to try to get the women to come up to you, rather than vice versa. But...unless they are practically drooling over you for some reason, like your disarmingly good looks and manly charm, that is not realistically going to happen - am I right?\n\nDepending on the location and situation, there are many different ways to start up the Attraction Game. Building attraction is definitely the most important part of getting anywhere with any woman. You cannot just stroll up to them and say, "Hey, you are like, so totally hot, and I like, like you, you know?" Unless, of course, you can pull it off in a particularly humourous way and get her laughing.\n\nThat's what you need to aim for. Laughter. Do not come across as being outright goofy - just playful. Even the more serious-minded women out there will appreciate a fine sense of humour.\n\nNext time that you see a lovely girl standing around, and you want to talk to her...look at her for a while. People, as you have probably noticed, tend to have a "sixth sense" that just lets them know when they're being watched. She'll probably at least glance over at you. Don't drop your gaze in a panic, though. Instead, smile cheerfully, and - slowly - move your gaze away from her. Don't stop smiling, either. Then glance back at her quickly, and look away again.\n\nWhat's the point of that little exercise? It builds attraction. A lot of our communication as humans is completely nonverbal - it's body language. By looking at her but not freaking out when she looks back, but rather slowly looking away, you're effectively saying: "I'm not a creep, because I am not staring at you. But I AM admiring you."\n\nShe'll probably smile back, or at least her eyes will shine with some degree of recognition. There's your chance. Look at her again - about the same way, just focus on her eyes (always, always, always look into a woman's eyes when greeting or talking with her!) - and stroll right on up to her. Sure - this takes courage. And sure, you are probably worried about being rejected. But don't be. Repeat this mantra through your head: There's no reward without risk.\n\nYou might even become so smooth at this whole thing that she ends up coming over to YOU, wanting to know what is going on. I love it when this happens; it shows me that the lady has some confidence and fire in herself. :)\n\nOnce you get there, say something spontaneous. This could be amusing and playfully-arrogant, like what I mentioned in the beginning of this post. Or, it could be simple and direct: "Hi there. My name is So-and-So. You are?" It sounds crazy, but this is honestly all you have to do. It's that easy. What you have to watch out for here is turning into a wimp - blurting out words randomly without thought, or thinking TOO hard about what to say and therefore saying nothing at all - but remember. You are already there. You've already initiated the conversation, simple as that might have been. Now all that you need to do is keep it up!\n\nAnd just go on from there. Keep a few things in mind if you ask for her number and go on a date:\n\n1. BE CHARMING, but do not become a "girlie-man." *laughs* I mean, don't let her walk all over you or get you sweating and stuttering. Be confident.\n\n2. BE FUNNY, but be mature, t
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why?....if your a true man then confront that shyness in you.girls are nice to hang with,you have that self-confidence naturally..what you have to do is try to make some girl friend,just friends..talk with them..and here's how to get a girl's attention...offer some help,maybe a friendly favor that most girls ask from boys...be a gentleman and you must have yourself a sense of humor...ok?
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You should take the risk and talk to them face to face just like talking to them on the internet. believe me it is experience and trying.. be nice, be smart, funny and strong...shy is not so good most of the time, because you won't be able to know what you should say quick...the only thing to change such behavior is go and talk, and start as friends. and be the center, don't be the corner.  \nI tried that before and I succeeded honestly.  and I can go out with any I interested in..but I'm not interested in many now. just some.. and believe me, if you see some don't want, then just don't try... take it from easiest to easier to difficult.
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Do you go to church?  A lot of churches have clubs that you can join for free.  Or how about joining Big Brothers/Big Sisters?  Again, free and you get a rewarding experience out of it.  I am shy too but there are always ways to meet wholesome people like us out there.  You just gotta look.  Good luck
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hey, my names john, im 16, i used to be exactly like you, until last year i had never even held a girls hand i was so shy, but some things have helped me get over it, send me an email at sox5d@yahoo.com and ill help you out, right now you are being offered one of the greatest gifts i've ever received, you'll be with so many more girls, reply if you're interested...\n(this isnt just about girls but about being the best possible person you can be)
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We expect to be approached just like anyone. Just walk up and say "hi". Introduce yourself and start talking about anything. Sports, weather, who you are out with tonight, music- whatever. Either the conversation ball will start rolling or it won't. If you approach a girl with stupid lines, or an agenda, any girl who is worth talking to will see right through it.
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It's really hard to be shy, I know.  The best thing you can do is be yourself, always.  The next thing is eye contact and smile.  Eventually you will work up enough nerve to say "Hi".  You'd be surprised, a lot of guys really like shy girls!
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get out of the gaming my boy, your'e don't know what ur missing. go out more, get good self improvement books like dating, confidence/relationships with girls. books like"the dating wizard ebook" "intimate connections "by david burns "light her fire" etc-BE THE MAN.\nlisten to news and current happenings as well- they are good conversation starters.get off your gaming butt and see what's out there. girls are interested in you... not games.\nany more avice let me know, and i can help..OK??
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As they say practice makes perfect. Just try casually talking to different girls and see what happens. You could also try joining a club or something that alot of girls are in so you can be more socialized and to face you fear of shyness.
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Just be casual. order something and try to have a light sense of humor while trying to make conversation. go easy at first..keep going in to order stuff and keep making conversation. girls like shy and sense of humor but be shy about it..u know..look cute..she will get the hint eventually..after u feel comfotable ask to have lunch or a cup of coffee w/ you....hey, let me know if it works..just remember don't be caulky like "i'm all that" girls hate that but don't be to shy either..be cute,sexy shy..
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haha yes, there's another guy out there like me! Yeah, he shows that he's interested. The thing with shy types are that a lot of the time, they won't start the conversation as readily, so you'll have to start it, but once they get more comfortable with you, it will get easier :)
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well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
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In regards to the last answer. There are guys here that are looking for the same. In some ways this is the only way they can get the courage to talk to others. I can reconmend eharmony.com is a good way to go. Surely you can find an interest there. Not all people are bad. But you can tell by the ones who's talking more than they should. ;-)
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Those random guys might been your best bet. why? maybe there shy and wouldn't say anything .If you broke the ice they both might be flattered. try breaking the ice.