I met someone that wasn't good for me on so many levels.  I finally got control of myself and my emotions and asked him not to call me anymore.  Why do I regret this and miss him?  I knew he wasn't boyfriend material and that it would never grow into what I really need.  Even still, I can't help but miss him.  Am I crazy?
213914
no, cute gal you are not crazy it is HUMAN NATURE, matters of the heart!!!\n\nI am so happy you acted responsible with this situation it could of costed you time and emotional scars and we all know that is very hard to clear up or face yourself when you are emotionally a reck. \n\nbut what you have did is very important to all mankind you listen and stayed true to yourself, you know what you want and this tells me  you are on the path to getting it!!! \n\nnever accept less, you deserve the world you have to know and acknowledge that first, then others will give to you!!!\nthey can't handle you in any way unless you allow it.\n\nyou will get over this person and be on to the next. \nstay in control!!!
45880
This is a toughie for me.  In retrospect, I felt in my gut whenever a guy wasn't the best one for me--but I often stayed because I doubted my own instincts.  Things generally end or fade away because the universe no longer sees a need for us have them in our lives; we have learned our lesson and it is time to move on.  The pain of a breakup is FAR less damaging than the choice to stay and suffer holding on long after you should have let go.
591693
I met my boyfriend through a friend. Our friend wanted me to go play cards and stuff with him and maybe a little more. Then like I went home and the next day he called me and said you remember the guy that had to leave early? And I responded yeah...why and he told me that he wanted me to go to the movie with him the next Friday. I agreed and we hit it off decent. Went out the next day (Saturday) again and it just kind of happened. I wasn't really looking for anyone at the time but just hoping to get with the guy that hooked us up. It all turned out well though a little of 6 months later we are still happier than ever!
524191
You deserve someone better,of course you miss him,that's normal.Humans have feelings,you will get over it soon.Keep yourself busy so wont think of it,whenever you are free do something like spend more time with your children.Almost forget ask him for maintenance fee.
140253
I think you should just walk away hun, I know it hurts but I was in a similair situation and he ended up finding someone to date and left me hanging on, and i held onto him for too long and it hurt even worse, at least this way you can get back to your life and finding that one for you, and come back with some of your heart. I just hate to see you hang on liek this and then if he leaves you for someonelse have you left brokenhearted and left to pick up the pieces.
580614
I'm sorry things didn't end well for you, but you mustn't make assumptions on what happened. Not all of us are heartless like that. I know I'm not. I was in love, actually am in love, with this guy who had left for the Army. Well I waited for him and never did I stray my eyes elsewhere. When he came back, I knew he might get deployed for a year or more at any time, but never one did I ever think of just forgetting about him. I would've waited for him as long as necessary. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for us, but it wasn't because of that, there were other issues. My point is, don't despair, just because one relationship went sour. I'm sure someday you'll find that girl who will wait for you as long as necessary because she truly loves you. :)
412451
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
253462
No, I don't long for her, but I sometimes think it was just a shame that it had to end. Now, I have someone I love who loves me back and I wish my ex happiness. I think it's good to move on and not dwell in the past and long for what is gone. So, I really didn't suffer a "lost opportunity at love" - I HAVE it now!
324340
Take your time...sometimes missing someone can be therapeutic as well as painful.  You don't say what happened between you two so I can't really elaborate.  However, when my ex and I broke up, it took me quite some time to get over him.  I can assure you that no matter how hard it may seem right now, all of the feelings that you are experiencing will eventually pass.  Also, kudos to you for not jumping into another relationship.  Until we completely heal from a breakup the only thing we can bring into another relationship is pain.......
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
356035
He aint worth your while sweetie. Play it cool, but dont give him a chance to do that to you again. Theres no need to feel bitter about it, so move on with your life. Dont let it runi your chances of meeting another person. If you're heartbroken keep yourself busy with other acivities. Good Luck!
226045
With time, I think there is a good possibility that the two of you will get back together. To find somebody that you enjoy being around, and that you find interesting , is RARE! He obviously enjoyed it as much as you did, so why wouldn't he be back? It's soon for him I know, but just give him time. It's okay to call and see how he is, just don't push(hard to do I know). If the two of you connected, and I believe you did,  just be patient. He'll be back!
319374
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
103271
You missed your chance with him and now you are out of luck.  He has moved on and made his choice so let him go and find a single guy to chase after.  If he is doing it to just make you jealous then don't play his games because you deserve to be treated better.
250542
yes, i do think about him, but i would never leave a perfectly good relationship for one that could be. I have actually been looking for my ex but i would only want to talk to him as a friend now. I am happily married, it would just make me happy to know that my first love is also happy with his life. I would even try to pick up a friendship with him, just as long as it doesnt come in the way of my relationship with my husband
350903
I agree.  It's not HIM you miss per se.  It's the attention and the routine.  The familiarity of being with someone that knows you and what you like.\n\nThe longer you go without him, the easier it will be.  You need to make this about you now.  Becoming stronger and more independent.  Prove to yourself that you can do it.  Not to him or anyone else.\n\nBusy yourself with whatever you need to do to keep your mind off of him.  Don't jump back into the dating scene.  You need time to clear your head and put things back into perspective.  Find out who you are now that you're single, and what you want out of your next relationship.  Anything too soon will be a rebound relationship and even if it's with the right person, it'll be the wrong time and it won't work out.\n\nGood Luck!
231933
Why are you dating him? To raise your self esteem?\n\nPeople can't lower or raise your self esteem only you can!\n\nIf you can't love you then no on will!\n\nStop being overexcessive about nothing. Think of better things, so what if he doesn't call? Are you going to just stay there and be depressed, when he probalbly just forgot?\n\nIt doesn't mean anything unless you want it to be!