so many women today seems so eager and despirate to get married and forget that that marriage is not a community school or a play ground but a holy institution of two heart in the custusdy of the lord who brings ythem as one to live  and share till is call, but today many has close their eyes to see this fact and hold on to the emotion that drwon them  with burning eagaerness to do all it take to  me married even when not centain of the future of the marriage but is will jump in just because they want to  bear mrs waw sister i am just wondering are we not to seek God first and all other thing shall be added . help me somebody.
206819
Th reason must women are eager to get marries is because they are afraid of ending up alone.
175730
If youre asking why so many men seem to be afraid of marriage? I think it's because in this day and age, we are all brought up to believe that we should get perfection, and that we shouldn't settle for just anybody and should wait and wait until the absolute perfect person comes along, so we end reasonable relatioships and re-start new ones again and again, continually searching for the right person.
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I guess this isn't a question for me. I'm for it. They just want to be a family like anyone else. And it's unconstitutional that they don't have equal rights. Marriage is not a religious institution. It is practiced all over the world in all religions. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GOD. It is about 2 people coming together, making the promise to love each other solely, and starting a family together. More over it does not effect anyone outside of their marriage. What is it hurting? I don't know, you tell me.
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Doesn't the bible say Judge Not Other's Lest Thee Be Judged?\n\nI think people need to start focusing on the purpose of a wedding and not what the bride is wearing or what kind of party she is throwing.
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Any man that would feel that way about a Christian woman certainly doesn't understand the things or God. \n\nPray and ask the Lord, first of all, if it is His will for you to be married. and secondly, ask Him to send you the man that He wants you to be with. God knows what is best for you. \n\nRead I Cor. 7\nalot of this is talking about marriage but some of it pertains to those that are not married.
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A lot of people do walk in to marriage for the wrong reasons.  A lot of people are more in love with the idea of being married as opposed to the actual person they are marrying however when two people both understand the commitment and hard work that goes in to being married they go on to live great full filling lives. As long as people realize that a marriage is made up of a lot more than the honeymoon it can be very fantastic.  I can't think of anything more rewarding than knowing you have a life partner who will be there for you no matter what and who also shares the same goals for the future.  So to answer your question.  Yes it is that fantastic if people walk in to it with their eyes on the big picture and not the immediate gratification of a "marriage".
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Most of us just go with the flow... unfortunately we are surrounded by so many influences and we make an easy target of marketing and shallow ideas.    Nowadays our expectations involve cool wardrobes and hot sport cars better than developing the skills needed to grow old with dignity, one can easily ditch our nice, smart and faithful couple for the 1st opportunity for meaningless sex!!!\nIts a matter of attitude, and having a good marriage is worth it, but takes effort..
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it is happening more then it use to. I think it is lack of morals and standards one lives their life by! I did not have sex before marriage but, then I respect my morals and standards and most of all myself!
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Met my husband when I commenced voluntary work in a Christian organisation .....wondered why God had called me there but it soon became very obvious why He'd called me...so I could meet my gorgeous man :)\ndon't forget the Bible says, "Seek first the kingdom of God and then all of these things will be given to you".  Jesus was talking about giving all the blessings God has for you.......seek God, not a woman & then see what God does with that.  God bless you as you seek Him.\nI'm praying that God will provide a Godly wife for you......
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You can ABSOLUTELY serve the Lord and never be married. It is not for all persons to be married. Paul actually said it was better for man not to be married (so I'll just assume woman too). I think God can really do "more" in some ways with the unmarried folk...just think about it. You aren't responsible for anyone else's life. If God decides to send you cross country, you don't have to figure out how it will disrupt the rest of your family (hubby and children). You should read Marriable (can't remember the authors). It talks all about how God can really use the single and how it is important to fully serve God before you get married. Several of the "relationship" and marriage books in the Christian section actually touch on this subject.\n\nMy only precaution is try not to be bitter. You say you've been hurt, and you don't want to be hurt again. If God ever puts it on your heart that you should get married, you need to listen. We cannot let our fears dictate our futures.
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I think that if more women would actullay submit themselves to their own husbands as the Bible says, that there would not be so many divorces today. \nThe problem is most women view the word "submit" as becoming one's slave.  That is not the case at all. I myself  love being submissive to my husband, because that is how i get my blessings by being obedient to the word of the Lord.
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Unfortunately it would seem to me that for the Bibles conception of marriage and how we must behave both parties would need to be of the same mind. In this sick worlf I imagine that more often than not one or the other would take advantage of the other if only one believed the above philosophy. \n\nI have never married. But when I do, I will follow God commandements. I will also make sure my chosen mate lives a life that is pleasing to the Father so we are of a same mind on such issues as these. \n\nIt is sad, but I work in the domestic violence feild and I ahve seen many women taken advantage of and even their pastors use these Bible verses to keep them with their abusers...and sometimes they end up dead. That is not what God intended.
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No I think it is an archaic tradition of backward People desiring to remain so. I believe marriage is something that should be decided between to people that have enough love to get them through. Marriage is tough enough in the busy world we are in today. A man & a women need to be like minded for this decision.\nIt takes a very high level of commitment, and trust to give it ago.
548671
no i wont marry you! but yes i most certainly believe in it!  the fact that people dont think they need to marry has led to the breakdown of the family and the problems we see now are the results of selfish people who have kids and then think they are under no obligation to stay around! i can say this cus i have done the same in the past myself. if we would have been marryd and committed to each other we would have work on our relationship instead of parting!
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America has a high rate due to selfishness.  If the other person doesn't do it for you, hit the road, Jack.  Marriage takes commitment, work, and the sacrifice of your wills for the benefit of the other.  In essence, IMHO, if you are not willing to die for your wife, then you are not ready for marriage.  I love my wife so much I would be willing to die in her place.
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Its all about the manipulation of the people. If they could have it their way, women would have no choice on who they married, they would meet the man they were arranged to marry on the day of the ceremony and they would be deprived of learning and freedom. Luckily, those that believe in love and the emancipation of women have fought at great cost to bring us where we are today.\n\nThe hate goes on, they oppose all forms of true love, homosexual relationships spawn no children, thus the only driving factor is love, not maternal or instinctive reasons.\n\nThe Medieval Christians believed that to love anyone besides god and jesus was a sin...some of them have yet to move on from this anti-love stance. Muslims too, keep women down with systems of discrimination and force them into marriages.\n\nI as do many thinkers, believe that love is a power that cannot be silenced, it is ever sustaining, reborn into the hands of the next generation. It is within us, it is what makes us human.\n\nA christian, during a debate i was a witness to, said that they believed that 9/11 was a good thing, because fear brings people closer to god. I think that any faith that relies on fear and intimidation is the incarnate of evil.\n\nHypocrisy breeds Chaos.
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I agree, the people of this world have forgotten that God wants us to LOVE one another. No matter what religion or race. We all came from the same place. Our world is really a mess. I guess all we can do is Pray for things to get better. GOD BLESS YOU, for caring..