I'm a 28years woman who is confuse of making sure, which one is God's choice (of soulmate) for me? I've been praying for A (a pastor) and really quite sure that he's the one (cause i've got many verses and confirmation during prayers), but then i found out he pursue 2 women at the same time. Then B began to pursue me. After a while, it seems that A is "afraid" and began showering me with gifts again. What should i do? In the deep of my heart, i still love A, but it hurts me to know he pursue 2 women. I can imagine A as a leader in my marriage and future while B is still growing in his faith. On the other hand, B seemed more sincere in loving me. You can read the details on http://www.ericandleslie.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4532&sid=5d6282c0c446d2c8b5bc30e16e129d43
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Put all material aside. \nWhich is the most Godly man available?\nWhich man has the key to your heart?\nWhich man deserves to be with you for the rest of your life.\nWhich man is in the foreground of these Questions?
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I believe that God puts people in your life for a reason, and that there are times when there is a connection that can go deeper than that of a sibling relationship. I have had several freinds like that, who will call me and say, I sensed something is wrong, i've been praying for you, or, for me, I will keep 'seeing' them, in my minds eye, or hearing their voice, so I will call to check on them. It's an awesome thing! Be thankful you have the sensitivity to percieve what is going on, because I think most people get so busy they brush it off.
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Girl, if you're a Christian, you know the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked (in marriage).  And the reason a Christian dates is for the sole purpose of getting married.  He sounds manic.  He needs medication.  You should pray for him, but like the other woman said, get away from him.  You won't be deserting him.  He'll live.  And perhaps his aunt and uncle do have it good, but it's not about what we have here on earth.  It's about what we get after death, and the saved individual gets eternal life in heaven with Christ.  Tell your boyfriend to stick his foot in a burning fire, and then ask him if he wants to spend eternity with his whole body in there.  Yes, it does seem like nonbelievers are just as blessed as Christians.  But just think about what comes after you die.  Remember, you're a stranger here.  You don't belong here.  You're just passing through.
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I believe that it is a God given yearning to love and to be loved. Nothing is as beautiful as meeting the one mate that is meant for you. God wants us all to be happy in love with the right mate. I also believe that is what you are looking for. You desire to be happy in love with the right mate. God asks us to first seek after Him. Let Him guild you to the right mate that He has for you. When you are with the right mate God's Love and happiness will always follow.
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First of all, as a fellow brother in Christ, I want to commend you on your commitment to save sex for marriage. Too often we see people today giving into the pleasure of a few minutes, only to suffer a lifetime of pain and hurt in the future.\n\nI don't normally answer questions on here, but the situation you are in is too similar to mine for me to ignore.\n\nI have been a Christian all my life, and constantly seek to glorify Him by living and dedicating my life to Him. I also believe that sex is the ultimate expression of physical love, and is the most special gift anyone can present to the person that they want to dedicate the rest of their life to. If someone commits premarital sex, they are giving that gift away, and tarnishing any future romantic relationships they may have.\n\nNow, obviously, I am a virgin; and am extremely proud of this fact. I cannot wait to let my future wife know that I've saved myself for her. Instead of channeling my energy and resources to fulfill sexual needs, I instead look to strengthen my character and serve others.\n\nBut I've recently fallen for this girl.... She's a born again Christian, who was saved this past summer. However, her previous life was filled with sin, as she drank and had sex with guys before me, enough guys to number on 2 hands.\nI was so devastated when I found out. I was literally torn because I only had one romantic relationship before this point, and had only gone as far as a kiss.\nNeedless to say, I was more than a little hurt. In fact, I don't believe anything or anyone else hurt me as much as she did when she told me that.\nI was ready to just end things at that point.\n\nBut then I remembered. If God, who is the only one who is perfect and holy, can forgive us for all our sins without judgment, who are we to judge others and use their past against them. If she really came to God after her mistakes of the past, and surrendered herself to his forgiveness and mercy, then she is literally, emotionally, and spiritually a new person.\nGod calls us to forgive one another, and if a perfect God can forgive our sins, both past and current, without question (as long as we are sincere!) and love us with the greatest love of all; shouldn't we as Christians (who are also guilty of sin) replicate that love toward one another?\n\nI'm not saying it's easy. My heart aches and burns daily from the suffering that her past brings to me. But I trust that God will allow us to overcome this obstacle, and allow our relationship to prosper. As the first guy she even kissed after God came into her life, I know that she's changed.\nI'm going to continue to trust in God that He will allow me to get over her past; because who she is now is someone who makes me happy and has allowed me to experience love.\n\nIf you really love your girlfriend, pray about it. She's a new person now, she has Jesus in her.\nPlease keep Jesus Christ in the center of your life and of your current relationship. That's the only way that your relationship will be able to reach it's true potential.\n\nBe blessed.\n\nIn Him....
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Thank you for the additional information. I suggest you talk to him. Pray about it and listen to your heart. When you turn 35 I don't want you to be thinking about what if.
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how long have you known this woman . marry outside of her religion well i am not the kind to stand in the way of love my frien but have you known her for a while or what well that your right i guess let me be the first to say i hope you and this woman will be happy together in my opion it is you as well marry a woman in her religion she cant marry out of her religion i guess well hope all is fine with you in about.2. years from now god bless in my opion i really hope you know what you are doing well anyway i wish you the best you i figure will need it i am not a person to stand in the way of love but that was quick wish you and the woman the best again ?
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I do believe each person has that soulmate out there.  First loves are not necessarily your soulmates but if he is, you will know.  Your presence among each other tells the connection of your souls in love and happiness. That is the main thing to remember, be happy.  Rather, he is or not, you love each other and that deserves something. It's great to be friends and love, at least you know each other.  Good luck.
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Being a Christian and being in tune with God's will for my life  is what helped me know.  My parents used to pray for God to send me the right man.  He did.  We've been married 20 years and very happy!  Start praying for God to help you find true love, but be patient...it could take years.  Don't give up!
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I am not sure about this one... Talk to your pastor of the church you attend and find out from them ... Pray about it as well and see how God leads you.
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A person can be deeply in love with more than one other person.  If this were not so, first children would have it all and later-born siblings would be up that famous but stinky creek without a boat or paddle.\n\nI phrased it that way to try and help relieve some of your anxiety.  Yes, one can be deeply in love with two guys.  It will be a real challenge, but you will probably have to choose one over the other.  The worst thing you could do would be to allow either of them to think that he is your number one.  They should know of the importance of the other in your life and that you're still trying to choose.  They should each also know that your choice may not, in the end, be either of them!  You may find another with whom you are much more "in tune", and decide that he's the one you want to spend all your time with.  \n\nWhat to do?  Be honest with both gentlemen, and take your time.  Don't rush into a one-to-one relationship before you're really prepared for that.  Marry in haste, repent at liesure is still, after a thousand years, a very meaningful phrase.  Wait until one of 'em proves he's worthy of a special woman like you!
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I will pray for you. One thing that is helpful is when I begin praying, I just spend some time quietly trying to prepare myself for an encounter with God. Just open your mind and your heart. Prayer can be a wonderful thing. The holy spirit is the one who intercedes for us. Pray that the holy spirit would convict you of sins that haven't been made known to you and pray that the spirit would guide you as you pray. My other advice is to really get into the word and study it. The more you learn about Him, the more rewarding your prayer time is because you get to know the One you are praying to and talking to. I also love to worship before I pray. Just sing a song you know and really think about what it's saying. God wants to speak with you and He will...just pray. There is no one way to do it. It's a unique relationship you have with your Creator. Just praise Him for who He is and let him know you love Him. He knows what is in your heart. I'm praying for you. God bless.
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Allways listen to your heart and gut but just because you love the one does he love you too! If so he would make time for you no matter what! But Me I dont thingit is posable to love 2 men at the same time You can love many people at the same time  but Not LOVE them! So really follow your heart but if your gut is telling you hey something is not right check in to it find out what is wrong! But If you really Loved either of them you wouldn't be so confussed you would know! Who do you think of all the time when you wake up? when you go to bed? Which one is always on your mind if some one was at your door right now who would you want it to be! Who's eyes do you look into and see a future with him! There are a number of questions you need to ask your self! And go with your HEART!
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Hey if you and your new boyfriend are in love with each other, that's great. God is love. You are sharing what God has created "for you". Keep it respectful, remember to talk to God about this situation, everything will be great if you follow God's will. God bless both of you. If you trust in God save yourself for marriage, and happy you will be.
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actually.\nits VERY RECOMMENDED and probably a MUST to have both male and female of a married couple being God-fearing Christians.\n\nbecause, in that way, both would have more of God's grace and fervour.\nand that they can pull each other to be even more on fire with God. \nand it would be very hard for either side to backslide.\nmany advantages of having a both christian couple\n\nif any Christian girl says that, but looks more into the looks , money, stature, then God wouldnt really look upon the couple with favour.\n\nand that girl isnt really a 'on fire' type of Christian.\nnot that i'm saying i am.. but after all, its not for US to judge , but for God to judge.\n\nand yes im a girl, and i havent even gotten  my first boyfriend yet, but if i ever have a non-christian bf, it wont last, cos i wont let it last.\nwith my little faith, i believe that God will be pleased if even i break up a stead relationship with a nonchristian guy :D
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You should definitely dodge the Christian you have gotten close to. He's already laying a guilt trip on you, what's next?\n\nFollow your desires as you see them and date the non-Christian if he seems like a decent guy.\n\n((((( r u randy? )))))\n.
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Anyone who refuses to allow themselves to love someone because of their spiritual beliefs has some major issues.  DO you really think God would tell you that a person from a different church didn't deserve to be loved?  I've been on the "dumnped" end of that situation more than once, and I can tell you that it hurts pretty bad.  As long as you're honest with the person you love and respect their right to have their own beliefs, it shouldn't matter what those beliefs are.