Why it is everyone is so banshing on age and sex??  I mean teen these days drink and do drugs, party and have sex so how is it that anyone can come in here and say if u have underage sex with someone  u need to be mentally teasted thats its so wrong or gross.  But yet teens can go out and drink and do drugs and its fine, im realy sick of this age bashing.  Yes if u are touched and your a minor then tell someone if ur both minors who cares and if ur a minor and adult touches you whats that mean.  I  know girls that are like 16 and 17 and have bf like 18 19 and are having sex so is that so wrong.  As long as you both conscent to it whats the big deal?
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Can we really talk about consent sex between  16 year-old girl and 40 year-old man? Psychologically speaking both are not in the same level of communication. Besides, there is unbalance of power. the problem is no that teens are having sex among themselves. The problem is when grown-up enter into the game. Would you like to see your 15 year-old daughter in relationship with a 50 year-old man?
540819
Oh god. It won't stop till you girls turn 25-30.\n\nMaturity!
68908
I personally think it's a good thing that people are asking questions. Reguardless of age. You dont know who is asking these questions. Not many families talk to their children about sex. Kids go out there and try and learn from the tv or whatever. Its people that aren't educated about sex that are out there spreading diseases. The more knowledge someone has on a topic the better off they are. Knowledge is power folks. Whatever questions you have, if I have something to offer I will give my best and honest answer I can. I think that's the reason for a site of this nature.
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It's not illegal for teens to have sex, as long as it's with someone of similar age. Even if there were a law, it would be impossible to enforce. The 'sale' of pornography to minors is a crime, possession by a minor is not (unlike cigarettes & alcohol).
618383
Because of all the peer pressure out there nowadays. Even the most head strong kids can give into this. More and more teens are having sex at younger ages, and most parents figure that if they are strict when it comes to dating, then this is less likely to happen to their child. But this can totally backfire, because some teens can become rebellous and go out and have sex just to make thier parents mad.
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Well, there is a lot of opinion about this issue. Within the US there are varying standards, and in other countries even bigger differences of opinion. Something illegal in the US might well be legal in England or Holland.\n\nI'd agree with you that there should be some changes, and some standardization of the law. One of the better approaches is to tie statutory rape to the age gap, rather than the age - so a 14 and a 16 year old would be OK, but a 14 and an 18 year old would not. Even then, the maturity of the couple should be taken into account.\n\nUnfortunately, the majority of the US is still highly puritanical, and consider the entire subject of sex unclean. They have more hang ups about sex than any European nation. Americans have convinced themselves that the showing of a nipple on national TV is far more offensive than outright violence being shown. Breast feeding is considered so dirty that mothers have to hide in 'lactation stations' to perform this perfectly natural function. And archaic rules that allow men to walk topless on a beach prevent women from doing the same thing.\n\nWe are as a nation, prudish and sexually frustrated, leading to intolerance in our society. Hopefully that will change with time. You can start that change - petition politicians, talk about it at school or in your church groups, and consider getting involved in one of the main political parties. Young people are the ones who can over time make a difference in this country.
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It's normal and healthy to be a virgin at the age of 11. Kids on school buses always tease younger kids, and this is apparently the best they can do - obviously there's nothing else about you that they can tease you with.\n\nAnd yes it's normal to start thinking about sex at your age and to have sexual thoughts and feelings. It doesn't mean you act on those feelings. \n\nWhat if someone asks you for sex? You say NO, I am only 11! \n\nHolding hands or getting a kiss on the cheek should be a big deal at your age. There is no way that you can be ready for sex at 11.
177918
For people under 18 it means "going out"... Any age over that means sex.
241661
They can be married, lonely or curious. No one will admit to it but I am sure alot of people do it. Maybe start a conversation off innocently and then it just turn into it. If its a teenager or someone in their 20s I would have to agree with you these people can't get laid and are losers.
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The same reason people promote abstinence-only sex ed and refuse to allow for distribution of condoms to minors--they are deluded into thinking that if we don't talk to our children about sex, they won't have sex.  Clearly, that's not working--we need to equip our children to be able to protect themselves.
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Actually it is the other way round. It is because of the social (or whatever you want to call it) 'revolution' in the US, that you ask this question at all. \n\nThe fact is that most people don't know how to 'use' this "greatest experience". It is in fact great, but from my own experience I can say, that the first time (I was 14) meant pretty much nothing and, until I got into a real relationship at 18 (I don't think the exact age is significant) it still wasn't, what it can be. \n\nAt the same time, to tell who is ready when is impossible. It really shouldn't be controlled by law, but since Americas population is quite crooked THIS IS FOR YOUR PROTECTION. If it wasn't illegal, how could you put in jail the filthy bastards, that take advantage of young girls. In the old times, this was not a question, in a good community, the family and friends, would just beat the guy to death.\n\n+ Of course most people at young age are careless. I know of many girls, who ruined their lives at very young age, because of a night with a guy. I would like to see statistics on how many of these guys stick with the girl and help raising the child. The results of this are terrible, I know from my own experience, that it is almost impossible for a young mother to raise a child alone properly.\nI just want to mention the sexual diseases, that are also a great threat.
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I haven't been on the dating scene in over 11 years and back then it was 3 months. Today it's an anything goes kind of world. People who aren't even dating are hooking up etc. It seems like trends(for lack of a better word) go in cycles. The 60's, 70's people were pretty promiscuous, then came the awareness of AIDS and people started to be more cautious in the 80's and 90's and now we are back to promiscuity. I am so hoping that when my daughter is a teen that we will be back to a waiting to have sex trend. And what is really scary is what people consider to be "sex". Most don't count o_ral sex as "sex" because there is no penetration.It's still sex! Now I am by no means a prude, but I do believe you should know the person you are sharing your body with. If you don't know them how can you trust them. \nWow, this is really long-winded. Sorry!
467189
Probably because this issue is a political hot potato.  Even if many people agree that age of consent laws should be changed or other legislative reform introduced, no one dares speak up on the issue for fear of being branded a pedophile or child molester.  We should be able to have a rational debate about important issues like this, but, especially in the United States, it is too much of a political and emotionally charged issue.  Other countries have more sensible laws on the books, but I doubt that the United States will ever adopt them because of the Christian Fundamentalist and Conservative elements in American society.
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alot of people are offended about it because they think it is something that belongs in the bedroom and in the dark... i personnally don't mind talking about it , infact we had a nice group conversation last night about sex. although i don't mind talking about it, i wouldn't go out and tell every stranger i met things i would or wouldn't do either-- i have to be friends with the person i am talking to.
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Well if you want to be noticed then that's a whole nuther subject and you can email me about that. but for the  kissing....I wouldn't rush anything.  And you shouldn't be pessured by anything or anyone. Because if you're not kissing someone YOU like and someone YOU want to then beleive me it doesn't help at all and it's not all that great.  I'm 15 and have way too much experience than I should. But I'm using it now to help.
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Two reasons:\n\n1) They were young once, and so they remember how either they were or their friends were at that age.\n\n2) They love you, and are concerned. Statistics today show young people having sex at increasingly younger ages. \n\nDon't look at it as being annoying. You may be too young to understand right now, but love can drive parents to be overly protective. Be happy you have parents who are so concerned about your well-being.
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I think you're mother is right. What do kids at 13 and 16 know about love let alone sex? Let yourself grow up and then worry about bf's and gf's!