I was sexual abused as a child, rape among other things. Now, 5 years later I have told someone at my school. They have to alert Children's services. Now I have to have a virginity test. I was just wondering how the doctors can determine if I was raped, especially if it was about 5 years ago.
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There might be scarring if you were a really young child when you were raped. Laceration of the upper vagina may have occurred. In order to see this, they might use laparoscopy. That's like sticking a slim telescope with a flashlight up there to see if any scarring occurred.\n\nHowever, they might not discover anything if there were no severe injuries. \n\nBTW, I hope whoever does the virginity test realizes some girls are born without a hymen. I'm sure they'll know what they're doing though.
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That info only needs to be revealed to your sexual \npartner(s) and your doctor. Other than that, keep it to yourself (please!)
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Was a thirty four year old man raped by another man?  If he was not willing, then yes it was rape.\n\nDid a thirty four year old man rape someone?  Then if they were not willing, it was rape.\n\nIf a thirty four year old man had sex with a minor (could be 18, 17, or 16, depending on what state youre in) then its statutory rape.
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If a doctor told you, then yeah, probably.\nIf some kid at school told you, then no.
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Go to  a hospital right away.  They have 'rape kits' there to help collect evidence to arrest your attacker.  They can also call the police for you.  \n\nAlway always remember it was not your fault and it was a horrible act commited against you that in no way lowers your worth.  After seeing the doctor and giving yourself time to recover physically perhaps see a therapist to help talk out your feelings.  Sometimes its easier to talk to someone you don't know.  Also remember you are not alone.  There are many of us out there who have been raped and are trying to stand tall.  Support groups can help you get throught this too.  After awhile, try telling yourself that while what happened to you was horrible, it was a small portion of your life and that to let it follow you around forever is giving your attacker control over your life long after that small moment is past.  Thats why therapy and support groups can be important.  The rape will make you different as we are all summations of what happens to us in life, but don't let it control you forever.  \n\n*HUGS*
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only when ive been date-raped.\n\nAlso, please dont wait long to award best answer points to me. I don't like to wait.
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It is called, have you had sex.\nIf the answer is yes, then no you aren't.\nIf the answer is no, then yes you are.\n\nEdit:  No, there is not a test like that.  You maybe thinking about the doctor checking your hymen, but that may be broken in other ways (horseback riding, althletic activites, etc), even if you haven't had sex.
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A lot of children do repress what happened to them when they were sexually abused, so it's possible you could have blocked some memories .. generally they stay blocked until you're old enough/safe enough to let them out.\n\nBut you could have torn your hymen before you first had intercourse, so maybe that's why you didn't bleed. Not everyone bleeds buckets (in fact I don't think anyone does!). The hymen can get torn from masturbation or molestation or exercise or tampons or a doctor's examination. \n\nI won't tell you to go get therapy but would just like to say that if you have problems with relationships, addictions, self esteem, depression, etc. there's a good chance that they're linked to what was done to you when you were a child. I'm a survivor myself and do a lot of work and reading on the subject.  If you do want to know more about it, maybe some self-help, please check out my links below. It's all free, and anonymous.
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Really need a little more information. If looking is all he is doing, then that alone is not sexual abuse. Drinking at the age of 15 is a problem and can also be taken care of in the manner I am fixing to give you. But first lets go back to sexual abuse. If he is in fact sexually abuseing you, you may do one of two things. First tell your parents if you think they will help. Second, if they decide to help then all of you go to the agency I will give in a moment. If your parents don't help then you alone go to the agency or call, and explain your situation more fully and gave will give you the answer you need. The agency's name  is called DYS, Its real name is Department of youth services, listed in the phone book under state agencys. Should be one located right in the County where you live. Good luck and don't play around with this.
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If she goes to the hospital, they will take samples and be able to tell if she was raped.   I assume they'd also do blood work to test for any drugs in her system?   If she suspects, this happened, she should contact someone immediately.
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That sounds very traumatic. I would've used my kids as witnesses but that's just me, in that case nothing is wrng or right it's your life.\n\nAnyways, in my opinion I would find a guy that is caring enough to understand your feelings. Because no guy can ever understand what it feels like to be raped. They either understand or they don't. And your particular rape situation is terrible. Having that seen in front of a 2 and 4 year old. That is terrible. Just be happy you survived.. and maybe if you can, try to find a more caring boyfriend.
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Often times children mimic what they know. You've established he was abused... so unless someone helped him as a child (counseling) this person now probably has a distorted view of sex, boundaries, etc. This child may one day pay by doing something to someone who not only will speak up, but PRESS CHARGES!
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I know many kids who get pregnant and they have unprotected sex because their parents are too scared to talk about that touchy subject with their child.\n\nMost schools teach about the science of sexual intercourse. How its done, how STDs and HIV are transmitted, and they teach about the cycles of pregnancy.\n\nIt is the parents' "job" to teach their young ones about teenage pregnancy and about the emotional effects of sex. If your kids do not know about what sex is, then how will they know if what they are doing is right or wrong? Schools will not teach our kids about the emotions that come with sex. \n\n"What happens if my partner leaves me after sex and after I get pregnant?"\n\n"What happens if I get pregnant, what are my options? What if my parents will kill me?"\n\n"Does sex hurt? What are the reprecussions of having unprotected sex?"\n\n"If my partner wants to have sex, does that mean I should just do it?"\n\nThese are questions that only a parent can answer. Schools do not have the authority or the "legal rights" to answer them since they can only teach students the science of it.
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No - no one can tell these things based on how someone walks. No, your parents won't necessarily find out. You need to find a trusted person to talk with about sex - what you don't know CAN and WILL hurt you. If you don't have a trusted adult in your life to talk this through with then find a trusted health professional, guidance counselor, even a teacher should know what the best local resources are for you to get more information. Sex is a wonderful thing - AFTER you inform and prepare yourself and decide that you are ready.
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Depends on your definition.  Can you break your hymen? yes. But many other things can as well (e.g. bike riding, tree climbing, falling) as the hymen is just a very thin layer of skin. so many girls already have broken their hymen before they have sex.  \n\nSo really, no...you are still a virgin (and honestly, no guy will be able to tell short of a doctor)
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Most docs will ask your mother to wait in the waiting room (especially with you being 17). If they don't, ask the nurse to tell the doctor to ask her to step out.  Say you need to go to the bathroom or something and then tell her. He is NOT allowed to tell your mother you had sex. He may just tell her that the exam went fine and he found no problems.  Anything you tell him is confidential. However, he will write his findings in the chart..if your mother wants a copy of the chart, she can freely get it since you are a minor. However, they use medical terms and unless your mother knows terminology, she may not understand it.\n\nI know your mother loves you and wants to know what's going on with you. Talk to her...You think she doesn't want to but from a parent's perspective  she does
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Early sexual abuse can be devastating to a child's self-esteem and destroy any notions that love making can be something of enjoyment.  They often think it's their own fault (just like kids think it's their fault if their parents divorce)....basically it will mess them up and they need to have counseling to regain, as much as possible, what was taken from them.\n\nI'm sure it doesn't help at all for these children to hear about how evil sex is and that they are going to hell for having sex before marriage...it wasn't their fault that it happened, but kids don't really get how to make that distinction.  So maybe they'll just give up and figure it doesn't matter to continue acting like a doormat since what already is done is done.  Yet again, that's why they need counseling...to deal with the event(s) and what society says.\n\nAs for abortion:  I don't think any female (either woman or child) should have to carry the product of a rape.  But, I doubt someone would abort later in life simply because they were abused as a child.  Although, living with such abuse does raise the chances that the person who grew up being sexually abused may do the same to their child....not all or most will do that and counseling does a lot to prevent it from happening.