Last night my fiancee was watching something on TV that he is really into (normally he is not like that with a TV show).  Well anyways his ex girlfrind call they have a son together and it does not bother me when she calls.  He started to talk to her then he hit may cigarette which caused the cherry to fall off and start to burn a whole in the sofa.  I started to complain a little because he did nothing to  help put it out.  He then rushed her off the phone stating I was freaking out, no explanation of what happened.  As if I was freake out she called.  We ended up in a huge fight, he had to watch his tv show in the other room because he would not apologize, he said I was overeacting.
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Let me get this straight - he damages some furniture, something that could catch on fire, and he thinks you're the one who's freaking out? Gimme a break.\n\nWithhold sex until he apologizes. Then keep withholding it until he apologized for making you withhold it.\n\nYou're right, he's wrong.
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In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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Smoking.... i was sitting on the bench at a bus stop and a guy sat down beside me and lit a cigarrette without any regard for me. He didn't care that he was blowing smoke in my face the second that he lit the damn thing. i got up and walked to the side, out of the way of the smoke. i felt like he was totally inconsiderate. i was going to say something but sometimes i don't really know what to say. then, two days later another guy did the same thing. finally i asked him if he could go somewhere else and smoke because the smoke was getting in my face. he did but i irks me when people are considerate while smoking a cancerstick.  if i wanted smoke in my face, then i would smoke. he is welcome to kill himself, but please don't kill me in the process....
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just explain to him that u had a little too much to drink, and in ur point of view they were being quite rude to your husband!! apologize for overreacting and try to let it go.  \n\nat this point it doesn't really matter who's "fault" it is, because u both acted as u did at that time, under the influence of alcohol and a party atmosphere.  sometimes people get upset when someone kinda "ruins" the mood... =T.  try to loosen up a bit.. u could've complained to ur hubby (oh i can't believe those people, so rude!!) u didnt' have to cause a scene... u know? but u were defending him, so it's not like u intended to do anything wrong.  it's over and done, try to let it go, and promise to try to stay "Positive" and deal with things together instead of giving strangers a piece of ur mind for no important reason. good l uck
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I am sorry girl but it was disrespectful.  I dont blame him for getting mad...you made him look like an ass infront of his whole family.  Now they think that you are a bad person and if you love him you will have to prove yourself to him.  If not find another man.
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Dr. Phil addressed this on one of his shows.  He said that it can be an addiction and that it is not fair to the woman!!!  Each time it happens it is like a betrayal and it tells the woman that you are not what I desire.  Plus it hurts like hell!  I had problems with this personally and I almost lost the man I am about to marry.  We argued over this for over 2 years while dating and engaged.  Finally, he got some good advice from his Dad and told me that he would give it up if it bothers me that much.  It's hard to trust again after this happens but it is worth it if you love him.
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been there .done that.your ex has a major problem in that he truly thinks he's all that and he WANTS girls fighting over him.it makes his pin head bigger sothe next time he comes on to you you grab him by the throat and tell him that you are NOT going to play his game.if he wants to be with you he's gonna have to ditch your friend and prove to you he's done so before you'll have anything to do with him.THEN GO TELL YOUR FRIEND what's been going on so she can keep an eye on him.let her know that you're not trying to start problems but she needs to be made aware and tell her you think he's doing it just to have you two fighting over him.She probably will get mad at you they always do.But here's what I did when my ex started playing that game.His girlfriend kept calling and threatening me so i finally got tired of it and told her he was chasing me and if she did'nt believe that i could and would prove it to her.the next time he came by my place banging on the door begging to talk to me,i called her,made sure she answered and told her to listen an then i let him in.we had a nice chat with him telling me how he did'nt want to be with her,how stupid she was and evan how bad she was in bed.he told me how no-one could make him feel like i did and he missed me and loved me and would do absolutely ANYTHING to prove it.So i picked up the phone and told him to tell her it was over and he balked.when i told him to take the phone it was for him he literally turned white.she heard every word he'd said and he knew it.after another month of her chasing him everywhere begging for his attention we did get back together for a short time before someone else turned his head and he tried playing the same game.i sent him on his way with my blessing and told him i was better off without him.i refused to play.his new woman stole his paychecks and spent all his money on drugs and alcohol that HER other boyfriends helped her consume.when he tried to force her to work on being with just him she cut up all his clothes,destroyed his furniture and trashed their apartment and he had to pay the damages,and when he came crawling to me for comfort i laughed at him.it took a long time but there was a happy ending for us we've been together the last 10 yrs and i can't get the man to so much as go out for a beer without me.It's called TOUGH LOVE honey.If you're gonna be with an asshole you have to learn to be a bigger and better asshole than he is.DO NOT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO STOOP TO HIS LEVEL.no matter what!!!!!don't get mad in front of another woman he's with ever.act like it don't bother you they're hanging all over one another.if a comment is made to you by either of them ignore it or tell the offender that they deserve each other because theiy'reboth beneath you and go on your merry way.it'll make them both nuts!try if you can to never be anywhere they are by yourself because you'll need witnesses when he tries to pull you into a dark corner to talk.and i promise you that he will but you just have to tell him firmly that you have no time to talk to a man who has a woman waiting for him and he'd best be getting back to her side.hopefully,you'll find yourself a great guy who'll make you want to forget this one while you're playing "who gives a s***.Always keep your dignity.that's one of the few things that NO-ONE can take unless you give it.if you get mad in front of him or her he'll think you want to be his door-mat.good luck.
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You are not overreacting.  You're being quite understanding.  She's out of line and he should respect your feelings more.  If the tables were turned, I doubt he'd have this cool reaction.  You'll know when to leave, when you're tired of being tired.
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Hey sista! It happened to me and it was quite bad with no sound of music or anything, i felt like the whole world had heard it! I was quite conscious about it for a while and then i gave it a thought....\nDon't we all fart every now and then? so what if it happened at the wrong time for me? if the guy loves being with me, he should reason all this out for himself rather than me giving him some covering explanation.\n\nWe never talked about it but continued with our relationship, after about a year the same thing happened to him and we just laughed like crazy about it.\n\nDon't worry, be yourself. Things will improve on their own. \nDon't try too hard, coz that way it will look more awkward.
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Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
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That is crap. If he need to hide it something is SOOOOO wrong. My boyfriend would "magically" need to go get a soda or need to get gas out of no where. I'm talking 10 o'clock at night, or 1st thing in the morning. The funniest was when he would "need a newspaper" but he doesn't read the newspaper. It would take him an hour to do what should take 20 min. we live in a apartment and the dumpster is about 8-10 yards form the back door.When he took the garbage out he felt the need to put it in the truck and drive it around the complex where the dumpster sits in a parking lot. Took him a good 15 min. So a lot of times she(his ex wife) would call him as soon as he walked back in as to say she forgot something. Sometimes I would here him say, OH, I JUST CALLED TO CHECK ON THE KIDS, so I know he had tried to call. I would ask him about it and why he felt the need to leave to call for that and he would say it just happened that way. B/S. Every time he was there and she called, he magically could get no reception on his cell phone. Even if he had just talked to someone else 5 min before with no problem. I got nosey and checked his phone once, and it turned out he was calling her and she was calling him several times a day, for 15 and 20 min conversations(or longer) at a time. When I confronted him, (not only was he pissed) but he claimed he was only "checking on the kids". In that case he was checking on them while they were in school and sleeping etc. By the way, his kids were 11 and 14. Long story short, he is a raving idiot who wants to be with her but can't so he keeps me for comfort. And yes, he slept with her on a regular basis. HE TOLD ME THE SAME THING, THAT HE WANTS ME NOT HER. And he left me to get back with her and came crawling back a week later. But the same crap kept happening so i kicked him out and he tried to get back with her again, but it did not work. PLEASE dont be stuipd like me. i have wasted almost 2 years with this crap. Learn from my mistakes.
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I do not think that you are overreacting. Please do not allow him to smoke marijuana around you or your baby. This is a decision that your boyfriend has to make on his own. He knows your stand on this issue. The ball is in your court. You need to decide if you want to have this man in you and your child's life. Pray about it. I wish you well.
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He probably didn't want the akwardness of the situation....plus if he is your EX why would you stop to talk to him while you have your boyfriend with you, and he has his FIANCEE with him?  Its understandable if you guys still keep in touch but there is no need to cause drama with someone he is willing to Marry and possibly start a family with.  My advice would be to forget about him and move on, Im sure thats what your boyfriend and your Ex's Fiancee would like as well!  And if you see him again just smile and keep walking!
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When he was too drunk to pick me up at the airport after I'd been gone a week and had to call my daughter, who was at work, to go get me.\n\nI'd gone to visit my parents in part to take a week and think about the relationship and his drinking and whether this was a relationship that could be fixed.  He wasn't aware that this was the reason for the trip, he just figured I wanted to see my parents. I'd decided I was going to talk to him candidly about his drinking, which had gone from a couple nights a week, going out and having fun when we first started dating, to getting falling down, slobbering drunk in the bar with his friends every single night a mere year and a half later.  When he couldn't stay sober enough to come get me, though, I decided not to even bother having the conversation.  I just said "you've become a predictable disappointment and I don't ever want to see you again" (I had my daughter on standby because I was afraid I wouldn't be able to count on him to be there, but I hadn't told him that). That was the last time I ever saw him.  That was in October.  He has now met someone new and moved halfway across the country to be with her.  I guess if you're a drunk, it's a good idea to have someone in your life who can look after you.
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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You're not overreacting.  it was a misunderstand, but maybe not such a simple one.  Could this girl have feelings for you fiancee?  Could she be starting something out of nothing?  I can't answer that. \n\nYou three all need to talk.  It may be uncomfortable for her, but I think you should be there.  Now, if your guy says he wants to talk to her alone, then let him, just be there when he's talking to ther ON THE PHONE.  You don't want him getting into a weird situation without anyone else there.  \n\nTry not to embarrass the girl.  It sounds like she's been through a lot (I'm guessing she's young) and doesn't know what "boundaries" are and how to conduct herself around men.
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have you ever heard the saying, "when enough is enough"? or how about the saying, "your issues feed off the energy that you give to the people causing the problem"....I also experienced the same thing. When i found out that my ex husband was going to marry the woman that he cheated on me with, it nearly drove me crazy. Then one day I woke up and said - I DONT CARE ANYMORE - he was not that important and i refused to give him my energy or waste time thinking about how crazy things had gotten.  On a good note - 3 years after they married, he called to apologize, saying he realized that he made a mistake and I was the best thing that ever happened to his life.  God will get your husband in the end!