I have a boyfriend that I live with whom I have to ask to sleep with me. I find this odd because he doesnt come on to me at all. I am a beautiful woman. I keep my body clean,but i have to ask him sex. In the streets I always get men trying to get at me, but none of that matters. I only have eyes for him. Its awful that I receive attention from outsiders, and come home to be ignored by him. I even get more attention from the ladies than him. He never tells me I'm beautiful or that he misses me. I understand, well with me atleast he isnt a man of many words. But I dont need any words..just show me some action. \nI am faithful to him, but how long will this last. I need more sex from him. He always has an excuse why he cant do it. And its not that im bad in bed, honestly i had ni66a's beggin for the Kat. Complimenting it while they were in it (typical) but anyways, I told him to leave me if he wasnt in it to win it. so its not like i have a gun to his head.theres more fish out there.
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Talk to him...find out if its you or something you do that turns him off...and i'm not saying this to be mean or anything but its obvious that something is wrong...have you ever considered the fact that he might be gay??? or maybe hes cheating on you...either way you need to leave and find you someone else that is more into you...every women needs attention...especially in the bed...who dont wanna be told your beautiful or how much someone was think of you and missed you...baby girl your missing out...hes not giving you what you need as a women....you need to get up and leave...and go get you some...anyway it turns out...i wish u the best...Good luck
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Relax, it is just who he is.  Growing up we all experience life differently and develop different ideas regarding how to treat people.  Your current boyfriend sounds like he has grown up with the idea that men shouldn't be aggressive and force sex on women.  I can relate to him in that to a large degree I feel the same way.  We see and hear so much about men forcing women into having sex that some of us tend to go over board the opposite direction.  He feels like he is doing the right thing by waiting for you to initiate things rather than forcing it on you.  The best thing you can do is to talk to him and let him know it is ok for him to initiate things some times.  Realize though this will be hard for him to do so be patient and be glad you have a guy that respects you and doesn't feel like your required to have sex with him when ever he wants it.
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Sex is very important in mine and my husbands relationship . I will be honest and say for two weeks we have not had sex or talked much about anything and we always had talked before . After my husband went to  work today I emailed him and asked him what was going on . He says he's been tired and under a lot of stress at work and has a lot of stress because his brother lost his kids . I have been so sad the past week just because I didn't feel loved or wanted . After he talked to me about what was going on I felt a lot better but sex helps people feel more loved and wanted . To me sex and talking is a big part of a relationship .\n\nAngel
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WOW. You really have to think... is this guys "small problem" something you want to live with? To me it sounds like you already know the answer. Sex has its part in a relationship and no matter how big of a part you want it do be, (no pun intended) it is still there. If you are not satisfied then keep him as a playmate (maybe he can perform good in "other" ways), but keep your options open. If your not happy, your not happy. So don't BS your self.
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you have every right to be concerned, i would be too. the choices you make with regards to what your against are your right to make.  it seems like your man is friends with a rotten bunch of guys but ultimately he is a man and if he stoops to their level then he is just as bad as they are. i really feel for you because i can really relate to your situation. i am sure you really love him and are not ready quite yet to give up on things. you need to deal with him over the sex issue and get to the bottom of that because thats where alot of your insecurities come from. when it comes to his friends i will tell you from experience that the more you express how much you dislike them the more he will want to be friends with them simply because he is a man and doesnt want to be controlled by you. you're going to need to bite your tongue on the friend issue and play it smart. you are going to have to act as though the issues with his friends is not there and if he is going to have some fun with then why shouldnt you go out with your girlfriends and have a great time without him. act confident and secure despite how you really feel and that will grab his attention. let him wonder whats going on with you and why you seem so happy. fake it til you make it whether its with or without him. the odds are in your favor if play it cool and if after a while things dont improve and you're still unhappy you need to move on.  time will only tell where your relationship is headed but do not compromise your morals and values so he can live his life and have a good woman like yourself. just keep your eyes and ears open for anything out of the ordinary but try not to let it consume you because that alone can ruin what may be left of your relationship.
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maybe the problem is that you live together..i mean you see each other all the time...theres no more anticapation of wondering when you'll see each other.  the other thing could be that he knows the things that you do that arent soo "ladylike" just be a lil more girly in the next little while...bend over and show him what he's missing.. and wait for him to throw to the bed!! hahaah
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I'm not a bloke, but my friend is gay and he has the same problem. He believes that men are more programmed to sleep around. Also there's the biological reason that men have an inate urge to spread their seed to increase diversity of popluation, whether gay or straight, they're still male so the urge remains. I think in a striaght relationship the man has learned to be more sensitive becasue females in general bring out a more protective urge in men. \n\nI hope that you manage to sort out the issues in your relationship; if it were me, and I was "taking a break" I personally would not jump into bed with random people, but I would not blame my partner for doing so if he desired to. As long as he is faithful when we are together, that is all I care about.\n\nGood luck!
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Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
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it sounds like he has excitement when in the bedroom but it's a good thing for you. Just tell him how you like it. but he is the only one who actually knows if he had sex before you or not. I would think that he's been waiting for you and now he has you so he can't help himselve and goes faster and longer. i wish you the best of luck. i think it would be best to get a guys point of view because they would now.
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Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
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maybe...\n\nmaybe these "incredible" guys are just ordinary average guys... (i know, we can seem incredible, and actually ARE in our own ways)\n\nmaybe... you make it too easy for a guy to say everything you want to hear... because he knows you like it... and you're taking it as a sign he's really into you... but when the infatuation wears off a little...\n\ni'm guessing (how do i come up with this stuff?) that you try hard to make a guy feel special... consistently... AAAAAGHHHHHH!  consistency and predictability is boring!  boring is bad!\n\nokay, so here's a few off the wall suggestions...\n\n- if you're going to make a guy feel special, don't be predictable about it (same goes for guys > girls).\n\n- if your boyfriend sleeps with some other girl... kick him to the curb and say it was nice knowin' ya.\n\n- if you figure out that people consistently tell you what you want to hear... then it's probably a "no-brainer" that you're "setting it up" somehow... just put yourself in the shoes of the other person and you can figure out how, and make adjustments so it doesn't happen any more.  : )
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He has a strong sex drive. Skipping work once in a while to have sex sounds like fun to me though. He's probably not going to change how often he wants sex - why do girls always think they can change their boyfriend? You may need someone who's slightly less needy. That sounds a little excessive to me - he could be using that to control you. He is also not considerate of you in trying to manipulate you into doing more. The getting mad part is a huge problem - you shouldn't put up with that.
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This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
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I think its because they think they already have you. They dont feel that they have to work to get you excited.  But if it bothers you that much i think you should talk to your man and let him know that you dont just wanna jump in to F**k-ing.  Let him know you exactly what you would like him to do.
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have you tried asking him why he doesn't show and or feel physical attraction towards you. Tell him you get the feeling that he's not attracted to you. That women are very physical and have to be shown affection (well, most anyways) that for you it's expression of feelings that you two have for eachother. That you don't necessary have to sex (he may not be ready for sex), but you would like a little more cuddling a little more kissing and a little more affection. If this doesn't work you might want to ask him if something has been bothering him or what's on his mind. It could also be possible he's seeing someone else...I SAID POSSIBLE. THEN AGAIN HE MIGHT JUST BE NERVOUS AND SHY. Just talk w/ him and you will be amazed at what you can discover.
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Maybe he has erectile dysfunction and doesn't feel like he can talk to you about it.  Maybe it is a similar issue, why do Women always jump the gun, unless you want it to be over and in that case why would you ask us (Yahoo people).  If you are ready to move then don't try and find every little 'bad' thing about your man, just do it.
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I'm not a guy, but I can guarantee you - he prefers YOU doing the chase!  There are just some men who are laid back and the 'turn on' to them is the female chase. There is nothing wrong with that, but based on the information you provided, it seems he is most comfortable with YOU taking this lead. You are not 'hearing him"...you say he ADMITS he is shy about taking the lead. Listen to him. He 'ain't gonna change that much'. You guys really need to talk about this openly and honestly.