its happened to me twice, and every time the guy i liked decided to get married to some one else and im left looking like this loser... why does this have to happen to me..?? and now i just feel like im never going to find anyone..
212387
of course you will! You just have to give it some time and stop dating all the wrong guys. Your probably nice and cute so don't give up yet!
575674
Is there a legitimate reason for you to feel this way?  Has anything happened in your relationship recently to cause these feelings, ie: abuse?  1 of 2 things can be going on here, either A. your subconscious/gut/intuition is telling you that you're about to make a MAJOR mistake in marrying this guy or B. you're major league stressed out over the wedding.  B becomes more probable the bigger your wedding is.  With 3 more weeks to go, the stress will continue to accumulate.  So I'd be more inclined to say this is nerves.  Try to keep your stress level lower, and remember to do something for yourself that isn't wedding related every day.\n\nTalk to someone you trust about your feelings, hopefully that would be your financee.  But if it's not, then really think hard about marrying him.  It's much better and easier all around to end an engagement than a marriage.  Your husband should be your best friend, there should be nothing you cannot share with him.
147495
maybe it's because you've been hurt in your past relationship. if that's the case, it happens to everyone. just know that there are lots of great girls out there and you should try to move on and be open to new experiences instead of worrying that it's gonna end up like your past relationship. i'm sure you won't be lonely for too long:)
223416
Yes...I know exactly what you are talking about. It is pretty sad, but I have dated and actually married(my ex) someone I could not stand. Even on the day of my wedding, everyone was so happy and I was miserable because I was marrying a short, ugly loser who I wanted to choke....Thank God I finally left him..whew
609303
k im not a guy...but this has happened to me too...with 2 guys...and it drove me crazy as well....and i hada choose who was right for me...who loved me back as much as i loved him....and i ended up with the right choice..so now im happy
150540
I've been in that position...many times.You can't dwell on your situation too long because when a guy comes a long who really likes you ,you may miss him.You don't want to miss him do you??????Even if nobody likes you for a while its just a phase.please believe me.I have a wonderful bf who when I met him I was liking another guy.
606667
Gurl, I feel that.......i married an ugly guy but i love him. Still kinda regret it cuz of other people's reactions sometimes i wish he would get plastic surgery i guess i didnt see how ugly he was before marriage..........but they say love is blind. but let me tell you there are not that many handsome ones out there so good luck and follow your heart
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but why are you getting married?  Getting married should mean you've found the one person you don't want to wake up another day without.  It sounds like your heart isn't sure.  When you've found the right one to marry, he'll fulfill all your wants and needs. It sounds like you may not have found that 'one'.  I'm not saying your fiance isn't a great man, but if he doesn't have your whole heart, and mind, and all your passion, it seems hurtful to marry him.  I wish you the best, and pray that you'll put a lot of thought into your marriage since your action will affect a lot of people.
426834
Theres always someone out there for everyone. Dont feel down. You'll find that person soon.
60185
same thing happend to me,but with an ex-boyfriend i still had feelings for.it sucks.just forget about him hes nothing but a player,you deserve so much more,and youll find a way better guy then him
88630
The only person that can help you out of this situation is you. You have a mind set that everyone is leaving you behind and is going on with there own lives getting married gettin wraped up in there jobs. You should find what makes you happy and try not concentrating on what the people around you are doing. Be your own person.. and try to find the little things that make you happy. It also sounds like you might be a litte depressed... talk to some one if you can to help you release what your feeling inside.
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believe it or not alot of people feel that way. i fortunatly have a good husband who i love dearly and some of my friends are wondering why it happened to me and not them. i tell them the same thing i am gonna tell you. good things come to those who wait. and as far as people thinking such an ugly thing forget about it. you know in your heart what you mean and that you are happy for them. dont fret about it. and one day your going to be posting a question on here that your getting married and asking ideas for a honeymoon!!! so good luck keep your head up and dont worry what others think about you. i have that problem all the time!!!
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I'm going through the same thing. So you're not alone. It's awful....But you're extremely fortunate. My guy friend never came back!!!! He's been gone for a while now...(a month maybe?) and slowly, very slowly, I'm coming back to reality. So I guess all you need is some time. \nI believe that your heart is made up of people. So when someone leaves, the people are ripped out of your heart, leaving a huge gap. A painful gap. And the only way to heal it is to replace it with new people. So try to find someone new to fill in that empty space in your heart. I haven't, that's for sure. It's hard to find someone as special as those guys. \nWhenever memories of those guys come back, just shut it out. Replace those memories with bad ones. Try to forget them.\nOk, I know that's an awful thing to do, but at least it'll help you concentrate for another hour. \nI hope this helps, sister. Good luck. I wish you the best.\n\nP.S. Thanks for your Q. I finally found someone I can relate to.\n\nOooohh! Here's something to cheer you up:\nIn a world of cheerios, be a fruit loop.\nHaha, sorry, I'm really random. But this quote has helped me. It might do the same for you!
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I think all threw your life even when u get married and or have a BF u will always be attracted to other people we are only human, but for the sake of your husband who prob. loves u a lot id deff just be friends with this guy because u don't want to brake someones heart or mess up his marriage
162372
Your not crazy by a long shot. You seem that you may be scared of a commitment and that is why you seem to like guys who you will never know or have to make a decision to be with. Try finding out why you feel this way? Maybe a guy has done you wrong and it makes you leery of meeting someone who you might fall in love with>>>>>>>>
13068
what u need to do is stop searching so desperetly. if u set ur mind on finding somebody then no matter who u end up with, u wont have a good relationship because the only reason u are with that someone is so that u wont be alone. u gotto have more fun with urself and be happy to be with urself and then the perfect someone will come along... thats what happened to me.
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it's fate stepping in to stop you from making a big mistake. \neverything happens for a reason and even if he seems great now, obviously he wasn't. and it's fate's way of making sure you end up with the right guy. \n\ndon't fret it babe. there's a man out there for you