we began just dating, then settled on friends, then friends with benefits as she got over her ex. i knew the deal, but she's perfect for me and the more time we spend together the more i like her. i'm falling in love with her and i'm a rebound!
214758
Just tell her how you feel and maybe you guys can work something out!
563238
It is always okay to be firends with the one that u love, because eventually she will come back around and see that she does care for you.  U will be more than friends eventually u just have to give her time to find herself.\n\n\nGOD bless you.
226470
yep, Married him,,,,we were friends for like 4 yrs we ve been married for 1 yr 4 months and to be honest it is the best thing I could have ever done, it is working just so great we don´t need to pretend anything we know each other like the palms of our hands we still can talk like good friends listen to each other ,,The secret of it i guess is to keep on being best friends many ppl forget their spouse should also be a friend to them and limit their relationships ...he knows my past I know his and we don´t use it against each other instead we use it to understand the fears that may still be a part of us..=)....Nope we didn´t really feel atracted at first I was *engaged* , he had a gf...time went by I had another bf...broke up ...and then I began noticing I had fallen for him I asked him about his feelings and I was lucky he felt the same way for me..
361875
If you guys didnt really have anything in common and you were super happy with her, then you did the right thing. You should never settle for someone, or continue being with someone in fear of hurting their feelings. Its a hard thing to do, I know, because I am the same way, but you have to think, do I really want to spend the rest of my life being moderately happy instead of really happy? And its better to do it now then wait til later when you cant take it anymore and youre much older than you are now and starting over is that much harder.
109441
I think its awesome. I know for a fact that I've missed out on many great opportunities simply because I did not think the girl was interested in me. Or even worse, I was too worried about being rejected. My wife of 10 years persued me. I never even knew she felt like that about me. Just think, if she never made "the move" we would probably not be so happy together right now. I say go for it. It was perfectly fine back then and its more acceptable now.
529577
so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...
542933
your not a rebound guy just because she likes u know and dont worry go out with her and have fun u have nothing to worry bout
168833
I had that experience before - but I broke up with that bf for a very weighty reason, so, even if he continued his pursuit supposedly "in the name of friendship," I didn't give in.  It took out the complications.  Don't sweat it.  :)
279320
WOW.  I feel that same way right about a girl.  I never told her though.  Now I regret that and am trying to contact her.  I think about her constantly.  She meant so much to me and I wish she would know that.  She is smart, nice, caring, and so beautiful.  She is my dream girl in reality.  Seriously.  We didn't talk that much (I'm kinda shy) but when we did, they were unforgettable.  I can tell you exactly what she said each conversation.  I like her so much.  I've had girlfriends, but she is totally different.  I really want to go out with her.  I gotta find her.  Well that's my story.  Hope you like it.
641712
my ex girlfriend and i did it with some of our platonic girl friends.  it was really hot!!
182250
As soon as you are ready.  I started dating the same month that my Ex moved out.  I never regreted it and I found a wonderful man.  Go for it.
208581
I think that girls start out wanting friends with benefits and then eventually develop feelings for the guy. I don't think it is intentional.
242599
In my experience, it has a been a really good thing. It was good because we were both honest, and up front about it. We established that our friendship was the most important thing, and that we didn't want to ruin it. (Of course, there was an exception) but for the most part, even if one of us started feeling a "crush" or something, we talked it through. The one thing that I have to be CLEAR on is that we BOTH were honest. That we could be close to each other, and there were limits, and you had to stay within those limits. I don't know if I am just weird, but I have had some very special friends, and it worked. Most have moved on, but if we saw each other again, (in face I called one just the other day and we had a fantastic conversation) I know we are still friends, and they know I am still their friend as well. I KNOW there are times when men use that as a line, and I KNOW there are women who say they can do that, but they think I can change the guys mind. The reason I know this is because my guy friends told me that women did this, so I don't know if I'm just bizarre, but in my own personal life, I've had some FANTASTIC friendships, and they were friends with benefits.\nI forgot to tell you that when it worked this way with me, 98% of the time, we were friends First!! =o)\nBTW I thought I invented that term LOL
186324
One night stand.  Your a rebound, not in love
74131
No, You're too good for her actually. She probably flirted with both of you at the same time, but waited for her preferred option. She just lost you!
661382
wow!.. that was beautiful.. Such a romantic!.. (takes my breath away..) boy, I hope it all happens for ya.. You sound like the coolest to be in a relationship with. It's risky business tho. The higher up you get (and I know.. I'm the romantic type too) the longer the fall sometimes. I tend to overromanticize things (and I know.. maybe we all do at times.. ?) and get hurt easy as hell.. Happens every time.. Some day I'll find MY Mr. Right.. I sort of envy old people.. the ones that have been married 50 years, but still must have some kind of connection, eh? What happened to the ex g.f. then you were with when you high-fived and fell head over heels for this honey? Well, my tendency here is to tell you to hold onto your dream.. you've high standards, but.. perhaps w/luck (yes, there is luck out there) you'll meet her again.. Or.. perhaps another one twice the woman? who knows? (all the world luvs a lover.)
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i think if you can handle it right. you have to start off by trying to find a girl and immediately telling her that you just want to be friends with benefits and not even friends really is the best choice in my opinion...try to stay away and impersonal with this person however--just meet up and do stuff but nothing else that could strenthen the bond...but in my opinion, if the girl does become attached to you and you blow her off since you don´t have time and she tells everyone...then you´re pretty much screwed with a lot of girls dating you once you do have time since fwbs aren´t looked that highly on...and also, what makes "love" best in my opinion is loving the person emotionally too which i believe is hard to do unless it is one sided or the two become girlfriend/boyfriend...\nbest of luck\n:)