My 75 year old father has perfected some software that he is using to create 3D seismic data, a brand new field.  he's making super great $$ doing this.  I have only one brother, and my dad does not want him to benefit from any of his income whatsoever (completly estranged from one antoher); he has 2 grandkids (1 is my son).  How can I politely ask that he do a will to make sure that his wishes are met?  Also my mother is 70 & without a will; can anyone give me advice as to how to approach them without ME sounding greedy???  I would welcome any advice you can give me !!
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You can purchase will documents, I imagine it would have to be notarized at least once written, I don't know the legalitites here. \nIf they feel so strongly the brother doesn't have anything ..ask them to please state this as to not cause ill feelings between you and your brother after they have passed, if they are not in fact already this way. However there would be enough for his "other grandchild" to have something left as well. You stated before this is big money so thier is plenty. Just make sure you open an savings acct for the other child and have co-ownership to the acct. (If you open It I would think you could do this.)The same thing goes for your mom, I'd ask that she have written to whom goes what after her passing so you don't have to worry about it after her passing and while she is in good and sound mind. Anyone of us could get in an auto accident and pass tomorrow.  Its a good thing for everyone to have and update when need be.
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this is quite a bit of money!!! i would first ask a financial advisor..............then i would keep it quiet, not even my children would know. if they need money were alaways here to help them.I would deffinately make out a will!!! ldp
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Two options - you can get a will kit from OfficeMax or other office supply store, or you can get the book/CD from Nolo Press (see link below).\n\nFor most people, nothing else is necessary.\n\nIf you simply write up  your wishes in clear hand-writing (not typed) this will also do. It doesn't even have to be witnessed or notarized. This is called a holographic will.\n\nUse percentages to share out the estate, rather than amounts. That takes care of how values change over time - like "15% of my estate to Ralph".\n\nYou do not need to leave anything to the executor. If you name a company, then they can deduct their fees from the estate before distributing the money.\n\nDon't over think it - you can't say 'rent out this property for two years'; those types of provisions can easily be overturned in the Probate Court. Keep it simple - percentages for primary beneficiaries, specific bequests of heirlooms (my mother's wedding ring to Sarah) and small amounts specified to minor beneficiaries ($500 to my dear friend George).\n\nThat should cover it! If you are using a will kit, or the Nolo Software/book, make note of the requirements for filing, witnesses and notarization - these change from state to state.
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Im sorry to hear about that too.  Im about to lose everything too.  My dad doesn't have much money, or his drivers license, or anyone to watch my lil brothers.  My mom just left for another man, and she pays most of the bills in the house.  So i guess im about to experience what you've been experiencing. But anyways, homegurlz right.  Dr.Phil or Oprah aint going to help you any.  They are way to buissy with their television and stuff.  But never give up hope gurl. So here is the number to Dr. Phil if you want to know, (323.461.PHIL ).  You have to leave your name and your number and a message.  Sorry about your dad too.  I hope he really gets to see his Grandchildren.  If you live around your aunts, uncles, cousins or anybody, ask them to take you and your boys to your dads house.  They might be willing to help out, you never know.
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Tell him that if he really wanted to "just get to know" them it is inappropriate to discuss his financial and living situations. Tell him if his intentions are good to meet in neutral area like having lunch with her in a public place where they can ask each other questions etc.\n\nMaybe his intentions are good, but like you I would be sceptical. It sounds to me he is too much like his father.
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Definitely start with the Willmaker programs like from Quicken.  They allow you to take time and think about what you want to do, and give helpful advice along the way.  After that, you can still go to a lawyer if you want, but won't have to spend as much time (read $$$) getting the final product - you will have done a lot of legwork beforehand, and will be able to ask more intelligent questions.
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Sounds like you want your mom to have the house if you die or get divorced, and leave your husband with nothing. You can't.\n\nThis is not how a marriage works, usually the husband get the stuff if the wife dies and vice versa. If you want to get around this then your mom should own the house. Not really something you can do since presumably you and your husband are paying for it. If you die and he is still paying how can you say the house should be hers?\n\nIt is quite natural to have a concern for a parent if something happens. Consider instead using a will or living trust to leave her with some money, not all of both of your money, just some. Say you and your husband have $20,000 in a 401k plan, leave up to "your half" of it to her or up to $10,000. Don't be surprised if this upsets him, I know it would me if my wife wanted to give all, or even half of "our" money to her mom. But then she can trust me to give her mom any if she needs it where maybe you can't.\n\nIf you don't have a retirement account of any sort then start two one for your husband and one for you. Put an equal amount into each and when you open the account put your moms name as the benificiary of "yours" and let him have a say in who is the beneficiarry in "his". \n\nMost likely you will outlive your mom so the money will truly be for your retirement. If something does happen then she will have a little money to help her out. That is probably the best you can do.
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First do not take out any type of loan or mortgage against your dad's ranch, especially to start a business. The chances are too great for both of you to lose everything. Next, your dad is a little too old to try and start a business from scratch. Your dad is at the age that if something goes wrong with his health then you may need that money to help him.\n\nSecond, you being 20, you have your whole life ahead of you. It's great to think about starting a business on your own but it takes hard work, a lot of money, and many more hours devoted to getting the business going then just 8 hours a day.\n\nNow, here is a suggestion. As for the 30 grand, let it sit for a while and look into investing it "safely". Check out the website I listed below. Order his books and read the material. There are other options such as investing into "tax lien certificates". \n\nType that into your search engine and read the info on how to invest.\n\nI would rather see you invest a little bit of money into educating yourself then to take a risk like starting a business with the possibility of losing everything. \n\nAt the website below, read what Robert is telling you about risk and control. Then decide. Make sure that both you and your dad agree on the course of action that you both want to take.\n\nBy the way, I am 55 years old, I had my own contracting business for over 20 years and am now a "silent" partner in that same business. Which means I am still the ceo and receive an annual income from the business. I have met Robert and his wife Kim from one of their seminars. His information is solid.\n\nYou being 20, here's a secret for you. You and your Dad have 30 grand. Take about 10 grand and try to make that money work for you. Your goal is to double that amount in a short period of time and then reinvest. If you lose then all you lost was the 10 grand.\n\nHope this helps - best of luck
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I dont know what your  other doing for this matter.\nIf property was earned by ur father then you are also legal heir.\nIf  its a encestor property then also ur legal heir.\nChek ur fathers will if there is any.\nUr grandma also is legal heir.\nI will suggest that u all shuld sit and stay  discuss and try to stay together and united.\nthis will give lot of support to all of you.\nAT your age it is difficult to take decission take help of your mother or any other well wisher.
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i think that's something that is between them. if your father feels he should, then let him. If he's worried about not seeing the money, have him get something in writing so if he doesn't get paid back, he can take the grandfather to court.
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I work with many estate planning attorneys in my job and I have found one thing to be true over the years...Estate Planning is WAY too important of a process to be trying to save a few bucks taking care of things on the internet on your own.  My recommendation to you would be to talk to family and friends to have them refer an attorney that they have had good experiences with.  I think you will find that to be your best bet.
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I send my deepest regrets to you and your family.You need to sit both fathers down and let them know that wither they approve or like one another they are part of this family and need to pull together for the sake of the child so that he can finish his grieving period over his mother.It seems as though the real father would have the claim over him,but your real father also needs to recognize that the love and bond between him and the step father,therefore he needs to set up a visitation time for them.If all else fails,maybe your little brother would be better in your hands if you are at the adult age limit to take him on.Good luck to you all and best of wishes!
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It is very hard. I am on that road too. Father is in the same boat. You have 2 basic choices, you take guardianship and to heck with their wishes and make the decisions for them. Not the nicest way to go. Or you find out who deals with the seniors in their area and you have them set up things that make life more manageable, if not perfect for them. Hire helpers, volunteer drivers and visitor. Can you get nursing aid to visit for medical checks and medication management? It a long and winding road at best, but  really all they want is as much independence and dignity as they can  muster at their ages. Here we have a commission on aging that will help you review your options, they can asses your parents and see what the underlying reasons are for missed medication (lack of money, forgetfulness, too cheap to buy it, difficulty taking it) When the send out a worker list here i know that background checks have been made and references are checked, it is still a hard match to get personalities to mesh. In reality I make the drive myself several times a week, do shopping, get meds, do heavy cleaning, fix televisions ( remotes baffle him he keeps locking the features out). Life would be far easier if he would move into a assisted living or agree to live here, but alas he has rights to stay where he is and be independent as long as he is mentally fit and not a lear danger to himself and others. You have to realize a large portion of their life was in that house, it marks their history, accomplishments and memories. You may just have to dig in and make it as safe as you can for them. Talk to  a senior center, social worker, aging speialist and know what options are there and what rights they have and what benefit they get from not moving. Its complex, do a lot of asking and research. And talk to them plainly about how much stress and worry you have about them, but listen to them too. Good luck.
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He's in control, and wants to exercise it. I don't see anything unreasonable in your or your mother's concern over this matter; in fact, I'm surprised that you did not have a pre-nup worked out before you married your husband if you knew you would at some point be inheriting a large sum of money. Unfortunately, you can't *make* him sign anything, so how you proceed from here is up to you.
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I would suggest that you go into the house and get any papers that you might need.  You are not entering illegally as you have a key and your uncle doesn't want his son to deal with it.  You will have to let the solicitor know.  I've been in a similar position and in the end i decided i loved my grandad more than my aunt  so i was going to do what he wanted and not worry about upsetting my aunt and going against her and my mothers wishes. I am happy that I did.
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There's a lesson to be learn from here. To avoid your future family going through the same mess, get a will. Sorry to hear your mom pass away, but if she had a will, your family wouldn't be so frustrated on who should get what.\n\nIn life insurance, all the name beneficiaries on the policy are paid equal amounts. So there's really nothing to fight about on this topic.
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I'm not in Australia but all property laws work the same, or  people could not buy and sell inherit etc.  Go to the court records for the jurisdiction where your father died.  Bring as much information as you have.  date of death, date of birth etc.  Remember that things that are in joint title like homes real estate and farms pass outside of probate because of joint tenancy.  There is a time limit to file and probate a will check and see what yours is?  Probate has to be opened within that time period so that is all you have to check for a will that was probated.  Any will not probated within that period has no force if not recorded and approved by a court during the time of probate.  No sense lookin for it then.