Yeh, ok what happened: 2 "best mates" didnt like the fact me and my b/f were together and throughout the whole relationship told him things about me which wernt true - like I cheated etc {which I didnt}. I am seriously in love with him and want him back but he says he cant trust me as it's my word against theirs. He's not known me too long but trusts me, only maybe trusts the friends more than me.... He will not get back with me and says we'll never be together. I feel so bad as I have lost someone I truely love over a couple of petty jelous people. I can't stop thinking about him. He says it's not the lack of trust, but all these things are "messing" his head up... He just wont listen to me anymore. I need serious help as I cant live without him </3 {Heartbroken.} PLEASE HELP
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Why would you want someone back who would believe rumors about you? He obviously doesn't "Love" you if he would believe his friends over you. You learned a very valuable lesson from this experience.  Even if you did manage to get back together, the same thing is going to happen the next time his friends or someone else spreads rumors about you. You need to realize that you deserve better than this and move on with your life. There is someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and who will trust you. A good relationship is based on honesty and trust. Without them the relationship will fail. He doesn't trust you, so there is no way this relationship will work. Move on and live your life well. He is the one that loses. The best revenge is to live well. He will soon see what he has lost. Good Luck!!\n\nA.H.
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i have been in the same  situation as he is going to be in. I slit my wrists for the longest time! (i dont now)  The only thing you can do is to talk it through, face-to-face is best!! You MUST let him know that it isn't his fault. Let him know openly that he has been the best--- (blank)______. That you still want to remain friends and that you will always be there for him when he needs it! Let him feel there is still a chance you guys might patch things up eventually. Tell him you aren't closing the door on you guys getting back together. Make sure he doesn't blame himself for not doing something or doing too much of something!\nMUCH LUCK ND LOVE
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Sweetheart. I know how much this hurts. He chose what was most important to him and that was his friends and not you. If he loves you, Then YOU would have been his choice instead of his friends. I am pretty sure you wouldn't have minded hanging out with all those friends, but the girl that intrudes was in the middle. You deserve SO much better than that! If I were you...I would try to get over this guy. \nI am sure you told him how you feel already, but if you haven't, do that. You are going to have to have closure. \nMove on by showing him what he is going to miss out on by his choice. Always look your best! If you have any good looking guy friends that are single...Spend some time in the public eye with them. \nDon't go out with anyone else until you are ready, but do move on. \nHe sounds like a jerk and doesn't deserve you! It's true that a man will chose his girl over and above all else when he's in love. He didn't do that and he didn't deserve the chance to start with!
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Wow!\nBig problem on this one.\n-------------------------------------------\nWell,it seems like your ex boyfriend is truly sorry.Seems like he still cares about you.I think he is waiting for you to ask him back out,because he is afraid you are losing your love for him.\nThis decision is entirely up to you.You need to face facts.\nHe is in love with you.He is very sorry.He cares about you.\nYou two need each other.If you're going to let some dumb a** chick get in the way of you two,you're dumb.\nGet him back.\n(If that's what you feel you need to do.)\n\n\n-Nick
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You are not alone! If any one has gamble in love, then, at one time or another they too, were in this situation.  A few weeks ago I seen a segment on TV about a woman who actually makes her living helping others that have broke up from their mates. This is how devastating a breakup can be.  The first thing she did was make sure the person did not become a couch or bed potato.  She said you have to get back into the world as soon as possible.  I realize that you are more concerned about the daily thing, and seeing him all the time.  Just, get up every morning, always fix yourself up and dress 'hot'.  Lean on your friends when you have to see him or be in the same class with him. Everyone has that one friend that makes you laugh alot, you need her now more than ever. Continue your life as close to normal as possible. Scope out someone else that you might be interested in dating and start conversations with him. You may not be ready, but get ready. Your X will see that your life has not stopped because he walked out. And by moving forward and keeping a good appearance and attitude, he will definitely take notice. I don't if you want him back or not, but moving on to another relation ship always makes the other one feel rejected and if someone else wants you, so does Mr X. You got the power..now, GO GIRL!!!
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That is a hard situation. I guess it really depends on what he did and how bad it hurt you and made you lose trust in him. If he loves you and cares for you then he will have to work to get your trust back. There really is no time limit on these things, the trust will slowly come back if he proves himself to be trustworthy. It might help to talk to him about it.
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while breaking up with him wasn't the best thing to do, most of us whould have done the exact same thing.  Have a talk with him. Ask him if he's intrested in giving you a secind shot and explain why you broke up in the first place.  If he isn't all you wanted-he's out of your system and you might cry a little.  the decision is yours but i know what it's like to like someone that much.  give it a shot. who knows- maybe he was dumping them because they wern't like you.  Only he and his friends know. Carpe Diem. Seize the day and take a chance-sorry if this is corny. I'm watching a walk to remember
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
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wow.. im not the emotional sort, but i heard you crying while you wrote this! i feel for you, we all been there, you gotta CHANGE your out look and overview! it's over, he's cheated it wont get better, it cant, it will be tough, but you will get by it, find out your old girlfriends get back in touch with them, and start again.  company will help you through, and help you meet other people, dont give up look forward to the change ok?....ok?
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I can understand how you feel ....You will always love him but  he did you wrong....because if he really loved you then he would have never cheated on you in the first place...He says that he loves you because he probably realized what he lost.....never the less he cheated on you...and i am pretty sure you trusted him with your whole heart and he broke it by being with another woman.....that is his fault not yours...You  just need to be honest with him and tell him its over, and that if he ever really did love you , that he needs to leave you alone cuz you need time to heal....So in the meantime just be strong and do something that makes you happy and not think about him.....even though i know its hard to do....
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Aww!  I'm sorry to hear about this...Sounds to me that he's trying to hurt your feelings and make you jealous.  I would try avoiding him and moving on.  I know it's hard for you to hear this, but don't let him manipulate your love life.  Move on.  He'll get what's coming to him...and it won't be nice, but remember you aren't the one who needs to worry about that.  Good luck!
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Sounds like he's playing games with you. I wouldn't be so quick to take him back and see what he does then. I think he knows that you will take him back and that is why he is doing this. Guys will do what you let them.  Put a stop to it and let him wait it out, or just let him go. You don't need your emotions messed with like that.
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sweetheart, it hurts alot. i've been there. you are right in not being able to trust him. it's not always the case that there always a cheater, but it's almost foolproof. if he's done it before, why won't he do it again when he finds someone else that's more attractive to him? all you can do is wait out the pain. it hurts and it sucks, but try and move on. go out, have fun, meet new guys. you don't have to get married or anything, just go out and have fun. i hope this helps you sweetie, at least a little. if you'd like to talk to someone that's been there, you can email me. poetic_disturbulance@yahoo.com
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Hun, I'm so sorry. I think you have to let go. I know you don't want to hear this. But he has to make his own mistakes. Stay strong......keep your dignity. If he comes back.....you will feel that you did the right thing and he will need to prove himself again. Just be strong and don't stop being you.
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Man...that sucks.  My ex and I broke up after I discovered cheating...and then I was a sucker and feel for the "I am so sorry" speech.  Needless to say the next 6 months were absolute hell.  \nI was never able to forgive the cheating in the first place and made myself completely crazy.  If you are checking her email now, sounds like you may be in the same position I was.  Man, you gotta move on. Confront her if you need. SO WHAT that you have been checking her email!  What is she going to do?  Get mad?  She is the one who broke the trust to begin with.\nTime to bail my friend.  Good luck to you.
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wow i'm sort of in that situation now. not quite as far tho. well, didn't you two split for a reason? i think you should consider those reasons again and see how it might be different if you were to get back together again. another thing, he "bumped" into you. he didn't call you. could it be that he's trying to find an exit to his current unhappy relationship and he knows it's easy to get back with someone familiar? i would think hard before even allowing him back into your love life. to be on the safe side, it never hurts just to be friends. and don't ever seem too available. if he really wants you back, make him work for it! good luck.
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I know exactly what you're going through.  There's no advice that anyone can give you to get you through this, which makes it so much harder.  And I think you're doing the right thing by acting happy and like you're fine.  You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve.  That's only for your closest of friends to know - and that's what they're there for.  You need to continue your life without him as hard as that is.  \n\nIf you know there's 0 chance of getting him back, just realize that that's the reality.  You're probably beating yourself up trying to figure out how to win him back, but reality hits hard and you just need to accept it.  You have to be happy for him if he's happy and just know that you did what you could and you can't do anymore.  \n\nSomeone once told me that guys always realize what they've done wrong when they're older and wiser, but they'll never admit to it.  Just continue with your life the way you are and cry when you need to.  If you live day to day with a sad face, it' s not going to help your situation any more.  It's not going to bring him back, not going to make you happier, not going to change anything.  \n\nTime is the only healer.  I think about my ex all the time.  He won't return any of my calls or talk to me.  So I just leave him messages telling him I'm thinking of him and if he needs anything I'll be there.  But I still don't hear from him.  So slowly, I'm letting go.  I know it's already been 4 months.  But I've known people that it's taken them a year or more to get over someone.  \n\nMaybe it just wasn't in the stars for the both of you to be together.  Take what you've learned in the relationship and only remember the good things.  I'm sure he's a wonderful guy, but that doesn't mean you'll find someone more wonderful who will make that committment to you and stick with it.  Don't rush into another relationship because you know you're still not over him.  Be honest with yourself.  That's fine if you think about him all the time - you really love him.  \n\nBut if you really love someone, let it go.  If it comes back to you it's meant to be.  And in this case, since he's moved on, it just wasn't meant to be.  I'm sorry.  I definitely know break-ups are not easy, but don't forget to continue respecting yourself.  You're not alone...