This girl and I have been good friends for a while. We have had an impact on each other's lives. Lately, though she has acted more interested in me particularly than before. She has started to try to get me alone to talk. We talk about each other's dreams and a lot about marriage and dating and such. She has seemingly become more open. She also has started to punch my arm, lean against me, and sit and stand next to me quite a bit. We have a very flirtatious friendship lately, and I cannot understand what the heck is going on. Until lately, I have seen her as a friend, but as she has become more flirtatious thoughts have come into my head of possibly liking her. Is this normal? Did she plant these? And if so, why now??? Thanks for the help in advance!
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I think she likes u. Its kool if u like her too thats what happened to me. The guy flirted with me and now i like him. U can confront her if u want and if u dont like her then tell her so but dont just walk up to her and say that.\nEase it into one of ur conversations. GOOD LUCK!!!
230457
Is it possible she likes your friend and isn't looking at you? If not, maybe she didn't really want to break up. Some girls will shout that in a fight just because they like being chased and maybe you didn't try hard enough to resolve things with her before splitting?
435973
I think she doesn't know what she wants. I think she's playing mind games with you. I would try being her friend and take it from there.
310609
Perhaps the first initial thought of having a relationship with you didn't appeal to her because she had never given it much thought before.  But now that you've brought the idea to her attention, she's given it more thought and maybe she's decided that you're a great guy and she'd like to give it a chance.  Sounds to me like she's definately interested.
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I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
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ok, can i just start off by saying "awwwwww!!" well, obviously it sounds like you have quite a thing for this girl. according to what you have written, it seems as though she kind of likes you also. her talking about you with her friends is usually a good sign, especially when you add it to the "she looks at me, i look at her, and she looks away" thing. the only thing that i would be slightly hesitant about is the age difference. although, all of my friends(minus 2) are in or have been in relationships with younger guys (about 1 yr younger), so there is a definite possibility that it could work out. i'm no "love" expert myself, i am just hoping that you get some encouragement to pursue this. i hope that everything works out. you deserve it :)
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She seems just as confused about you as you are about her. It seems as if she's almost trying to push you out of her life. Give her a taste of her own medicine; don't contact her as often as usual, and give the cold shoulder when she tries to joke around. If she really likes you, she'll keep trying to get to you. If she doesn't, nothing will change, and you'll find that your life without her is much easier.
446160
Well, it could mean one of two things.  One she likes him herself and doesn't want to you so she can pursue something with him later.  Or two, she knows him in one way or another and knows it won't work.  Either way, she is not being a very good friend towards you right now  and if you want to talk to him then you should just do it.  You don't need her approval to talk to somebody else.
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Hi there.\n\nAsking questions isn't any sin. It shows plainly that you really would like to get to know her better. Since I'm already aware of your situation with this particular girl, I think, by now, you should have sincerely told her about your feelings towards her.\n\nYou don't have to worry about what she might think about you. I can guess that if she really likes you, she will most definitely enlighten you with the fact that she HAS feelings for you too. If, by chance, our speculation about her having feelings for you were a myth, then the worst thing that she would do is reject you politely.\n\nHere's the thing; don't go up to her and straight away ask, "Do you have feelings for me?" or any of that sort of query. This might tick her off as you would sound really pathetic. I felt the same way when a guy misjudged my friendly gestures as interest towards him when he demanded to know point blank whether or not I have the hots for him. I mannerly told him that I regarded him only as a friend and explained the fact that my gestures had only friendly intentions. He and I are friends till now.\n\nIn a way, I think you could dig up your courage deep within to tell her how you feel. And like I said before, she will tell you if she feels the same way or vice versa. Whatever the response she might give you, make sure everlasting friendship remains in your bond with her.\n\nBefore I leave you to ponder about the things I have shared, I'd like you to remember that friendship often ends with love, but love ending in friendship, with certainty, rarely happens.\n\nI hope this helps.
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I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
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She feels a little uncomfortable now, she thought you felt like she did (just hangin' buddies). She's trying to keep the friendship but not make you feel she's interested in a relationship. It's probably hard now for both of you to act like nothing ever happened. \n Someone must have really hurt her bad before for her to be afraid of a serious relationship. And it may be something she doesn't want to talk about yet, to anyone. Just call her and say, "Hey, Buddy, What cha' doing. Wanta hang out LIKE OLD TIMES??" (And just let the past be past about what you told her. Don't mention it.)  \n If you can't do this, just tell her you have to serious of feelings for her to just be friends and you think 'hanging out' would be too uncomfortable for both of you. If she does have serious feelings for you, she'll tell you. If not just let her go her way. \nGood Luck.
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well, the best thing for you to do is give her space. yes you might like her a lot, but when she says she wants to be friends right now, she means she wants to be friends right now. let her get to know you better. dont ask her out again..at lease not for a while. if you ask her out again, it will just cause her to say no! you'll know if she is interested in you because she will show signs of flirting. when she starts to flirt with you periodically, then ask her out on a date and maybe things will go farther! hope this helps!
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If she's not acting exactly warm and fuzzy towards you when she's with her friends, then that almost definitely means she feels pressure from them. Maybe they don't like -your- friends/reputation, myabe they feel you aren't good enough for her or maybe they're just plain jealous.\n\nThe fact that she's touchy-feely when alone with you means she probly does dig you... but the fact that she doesn't 'own' you in front of her friends is troubling.\n\nYou need to ask her point-blank how she feels about you, if she's serious. If she says she is, but then goes on with this mixed-messages crap, I say lose her and lose her quick.\n\nHowever... there is a difference between a couple of close girl friends venting to eachother in a serious round of private girl talk, and the queen witch grilling you in front of a live audience. It sounds like it's safe to say she's crossed that line, though.
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I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
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yeah if she stops doing whatever shes doing to talk to you. She doesnt talk to u whenever lotsa ppl are around becoz of her insecurity!Seems that u like her too...get her the point across to her and see her flinging her arms around you when all your pals are around!!!
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Well, you can try and talk to her and even ask why she's acting that way toward you. Maybe you two can work it out. But if she continues what she's doin than don't bother pining and move on. True friends wouldn't be like that.
437126
She obviously already dissed you.  What you already know is enough to come to that conclusion.  From now on, do not regard her as close of a friend as you had thought or hoped.  Try talking and hanging with some other people, than just this group.  Also, look around for some other young hotties to set your eyes and energy on.  Give this friendship some space.  If it is a truly a good friendship it will still be there.  But, don't ask.  Let it be.  Do your own thing for a little bit.  I would not ask her anything because she knows your feelings for him.  If she needs to share with you something in regards with them then that is her job to come to you. She needs to be responsible for getting that out on the table with you.  Just be like whatever. If she cares about you and is close as you say, she will know to say something to you.