but you did most of the talking? i had alot of questions and he answered really shortly and listened really good but for some reason i feel like he didnt really understand what i was saying that he just agreed so we wouldnt fight. i didnt want to fight i just wanted to know feelings and things. i know he disagreed but wouldnt say it. would it bother you?
202727
He just wants to be short and sweet with the answers... its good that he's a great listener, most guys don't even have the patience to stay still for minutes... if u really want to know what on his mind, well just ask him... gdluck...
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The strangeness you feel is a little guilt for the fight and feeling like you made him cry.  But you both talked and apologized to each other.  It's all good, Dad's have big hearts, and they're tough to break.  I think it's great he cried, he obviously felt what you're going through.  If a Dad can't be a shoulder to lean on who can be?  Be yourself, give him a hug and tell him you appreciate that he listened.  The talks with him will get easier from now on.  You broke some ice.  You both cleared some air and that's good it may open things up further between the two of you.
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I would bet that something else is bothering him, and you triggered an emotion.  It doesn't mean that there is any deep seated issue, and it doesn't mean there isn't.  In situations like that, I ignore the instance and bring it up later in a neutral and non condemning manner.  Then I see how the individual reacts once removed from the situation emotionally.
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I don't know. I wasn't there. I didn't hear what they said.\nIf I were you, I would make sure of what they are saying before asking these kind of questions.  Too many guesses, somethings, and " I didn't know what it meant."  But that is only me.\nIt is a bad idea asking something that not even you are sure of what was said. It can be many things, we don't know which ones.\nBut if you feel so bad about this guy, just find another
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Are you CRAZY???? This guy just said all the right things, just what you wanted to hear. You Made out with him so quick don't you think he is working you so he can go further? If you don't listen to me I guaranty that when he gets what he wants he is soooo out of there and you well be left alone...
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wow!!! what a drama!!! baby girl, when he open up to his true emotion, he expects for you say the same and pour out your feeling also. but in this case, you didn't act the way he expected you to. so, this had scarred him. here is the deal, he wants you talk to him in the comforting to his shattered heart. this will take time to rekindle the flame. let him have some space, but be there for him.
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Usually the "lets talk" idea is..not a lets talk its a lets see other people kinda thing...Maybe I'm wrong but thats what it sounds like to me...I wouldn't be worried about it too much though....If he wants to be like that then u probably deserve better! Good luck
361000
It sounds like he wants to tell you but is a little afraid to. I think its kinda nice that you can both still talk together. If he thought you were trying to control him then he wouldnt tell you at all.
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Maybe he thought it was a dumb question! Maybe he's just tired of you for whatever reason and that was the last straw.  Since we only know one side of the story, how are we supposed to advise you?\n\nMy advice; move on.
62996
I think he is afraid of the reaction other people would have if he told you that. Some people really do talk when they hear about relationships. Summing it all up; can it be fear?
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Well, after about 4 years of therapy and couples therapy with some amazing, top therapists in Los Angeles, I'm happy to say that I've learned incredible tools on communicating and I was amazed at how hard it is and how many people don't know how to do it.  We really should be teaching this in schools.  Anyhow- most people vent and don;t really listen.  When one has an issue, you take it up in a three part communication: what, why and what you want.  So 1) start by saying something positive that relates to the issue, 2) bring up your feelings (which does NOT imply that you are correct or that the other has to agree) and 3) what you want from the outcome.  Example-let's say you get jealous or she gets jealous alot: "honey, listen, I know you're an attractive girl and guys are gonna check you out and i don't blame them but, i feel threatened or jealous when they do cause it just  i feel insecure.  I want you to try and be considerate of my feelings and try to  be cool talking to guys in bars".  The key issues to communication is first of all, NO ONE MAKES you feel anything, people are going to feel what they're going to feel so you can't accuse someone of making you feel a certain way.  This is huge so make sure you understand that.  It's the number one common mistake.  Second is when you or she speaks your feelings, the other just needs to acknowlege and be empathetic.  It does not mean you have to agree with what they're saying but you need to understand "I understand what you're saying and I can appreciate the way you feel" is not saying"I agree with you and i accept blame".  Thirdly, be specific and consistent and most of all. be clear on your boundaries.  Many fights start because boundaries aren't clear and when they're crossed, people get pissed.  Boundaries are things like "don't kiss other dudes, don't flirt, don't bad mouth me, whatever.    if you want more specifics, feel free to write specific issues.  :))  plus, be prepared, it takes a lot of practice.  I meant email me.  I am happy to share my knowledge. God knows I spent a fortune for it!!!!  But it is life changing.  And the best part is that it gives you such great control over your own life.  It's very empowering to communicate effectively.
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i could have sworn this was a question that i asked, i am in the same situation where i am afraid to talk to my man. he interrupts me when something i say does not agree with him, everything is his way or no way--and i do the same thing you do, i just don't say anything until i just cant take it anymore.  we have been together for 13 years, just recently i explained to him that if he could not work with me to at least try to make this work, i wasnt going to do it alone, the best thing to do is go our seperate ways, he couldnt understand the place i was in emotionally and everything i said was being looked at through a microscope and i had to have a solid point--some things you just have to say/ i love him dearly, but i just cant deal with him--its hard--but i feel as though "this to will pass" and i will soon find someone who loves me for me
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ok, yes! ive had the exact thing exept i was asleep. but it wasn't wierd or anything, he was like talking to me and everything, it was very cool, but i know that probably sounds wierd, it wasn't though. so i guess that is a lot different than with you put still...
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Yes, it made me feel so bad.  But I ended up talking to him about our situation, I didn't want him to think I was a bad person.  He was mad at first then he cooled down, and he was fine with it.
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I think people are bound to say things which they don't really mean down deep inside esp when an arguement is going on.My thought is he did apologize and sometimes that's about all one can do.I have heard actions speak louder than words. As long as the person treats another with respect then I wouldn't hold one arguement over thier head forever.
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Hmmmmmmm, In your story it did sound as if he was still intrested. well being that you haven't heard from him he is either not intrested or something has happened to him.\nI really wish guys could be honest it would make life much easier, but if it'll make you feel better just keep in mind what goes around comes around.
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I would feel ignored and rejected.  But maybe he just didn't see the message.  Or maybe the question was so clingy that he has to just pretend that he never saw it.  Seriously, don't ask guys questions like that, it just sounds desperate.