I have expressed my feelings in different occasions, she knows that I have feelings for her. I have known her for 6 months. she talks a lot about other guy friends and there personalities. every time I ask her "if she would ever go out with me"? she responds " I don’t know"? I have always been there for her in good and bad times. What should I do?? should I keep fighting for her love or call it a quit???
201514
I am sure she values your friendship.  I had one guy hang around for about 10 years as a friend, he heard about all my boyfriend stories, etc. Then one day, it happened, we got together and it was great until he used some bad judgement several times and it ended after an on again, off again 6 months. Since then, 5 years have passed, he still hopes we'll get back together, but it is harder to get along with him since that 6 months. He's angry and expects more. I liked it better when we were just friends, but his hope kept him around.  \n\nHis problem is that he had always set his expectations for a female partner too high.  He only wanted a hottie and was very judgementmental about a regular girl. If only he found a regular girl with a good heart, he would have been married by now and had the 2.2 kids.  She might be too hot for you, but having a hot friend isnt so bad.
400189
My man, either she doesn't have faith in her ability to be in a relationship, she's holding out for something else, or she doesn't know what the heck she wants.  \n\n1) She likes you as a friend, you have fun together, she doesn't want to risk that by having a relationship with you because she thinks it would end in disaster and you would not be friends any longer...\n\n2) ...or he wants to keep  you around in case she doesn't get the guy she really wants, she can use you as a backup....\n\n3) ...or she's a ditzy-brained bird who can't figure out what the heck she wants.\n\nAny way this is playing out, the girl has some stuff to work out and you'd do well not to hang your heart on her, so move on, find someone else and don't let yourself get hurt!
346760
I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
258376
Apparently, you never loved her.  You were into the chase for her.  You have hurt her badly.  As a person, you will need to grow from this and explain to her about your feelings.  She will feel betrayed by you.  She probably knew that you were not serious, but your persistance made her second guess herself and accept you as a boyfriend.  Know you have thrown this in her face.  Very sad.
675254
Are you sure she feels that way?\n\n   Tell her how you feel, how much the friendship means to you. \n\n   Maybe I'm missing something, this seems too easy. No offense, but don't females just love to talk, especially about feelings?
276910
she doesnt sound like a honest person, i think you better move on before you really get hurt...sometimes loving someone means letting go.....
85777
Oh, it is frustrating. I am so sorry. :( Well, if she feels that way about you and you are having a difficult time convincing her that you are not a player, as hard as it is, perhaps it is time to think about moving on. If she does not trust you now, why do you want to try to get involved with her \nHOw long have you known her? Have you told her how you feel about her? If you have and she still doesn't trust you, well....you just may have to end up biting the bullet and explaining to her that since she cannot trust you then it is time for you to move on. \n\nSorry to hear that. \nBELIEVE ME YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT TRUST YOU. \n\nI had a boyfriend that was like that and he would follow me around everywhere and he was always questioning me as to who i was talking to and how I knew such and such a guy. \n\nOh Yeah, I forgot about that little remark that you made. Ummmmmmm..cool it, :D that may be part of the reason why she thinks you are a player. \n\nGood luck to you.
478777
Good for you honoring your friendship to her, but sometimes we need to be honost with our friends and just tell them the truth, I mean what is going to happen if she keeps wanting to all go out are you gonna try and keep coming up with excuses in order to avoid the situation, OR are you going to tell her the truth (which may hurt her a bit) and let her know the situation. She will get over it and as a true friend she cannot hold you going out with one of the guys that is if she is a friend. Good Luck
645262
I think you should truly figure out if she is what you want because no ones heart is a game.  I know you have been through it with her but you have allot of time and a family invested with her.  I also don't think its fare to play with any ones feelings.  I have also been in many relationships but never felt they way I feel when I'm with one person.  I believe true love only comes around once and I will never feel that way again.
493755
2years is when this stuff happens all the time. you either go to the next level or move on so as not to lead anyone on for longer than need be.  Sounds like she may be thinking similar thoughts to you. First have a long hard think about what you really want and then talk to her and talk to her some more and some more communication is very important whether you guys go on  or even if you leave it for a while......... communicate!! Good Luck and what ever the outcome remember no regrets!!
499388
Dear :\nShe is not a psyco nor is she a c***k tease!Nor is she playing you!\nFrom my point of view it seems that this girl really loves you and wants you forever in her life!Because of the fact that she never had a relationship before she is scared that if She goes to the next level with you then she might lose you and your friendship!\nIt is so hard for girls to find a best friend in the guy they love and most often when a girl spends most of her time with a boy she considers her friend she grows to love him very strongly!\nShe doesnot advice and like hearing about other girls because she loves you and she doesnot want anyone to take you away from her!\nYou will want to know then why does she not get into a relationship with you, and why she apologises and says there can be no relationship!\nThis girl loves you soo much that she is afraid that you will turn her away or just get fedup of her!Maybe she knows your history with other girls and she is afraid to end up like them!\nSit down with her and confess your love and tell her that you will always be her best friend and lover if she wishes it!\nMake it clear that if ahe does not want you then if another girl comes along you will have no choice as you cannot remain single for ever-but do this gently!\nJust make her known that your outings and fun will not stop if the two of you become lovers!\nYou see, most times when a woman enters a relationship the fun she had before with the guy is gone!Thats what she is afraid of!Just reassure her that lovers doesnot mean the elimination of fun!\nGoodluck and dodnot hurt her for it seems that you will never find a girl that loves you as mush as her!\nLove SANAM
536667
I Think she is thinking as more than a friend. And she thinks that you are only one who can understand her feelings and can give some kind of support to her. Plz let it continue the same.\nAnd i think you have to wait for the right moment to express your love.\n\nALL THE BEST!!!!!!
413505
i can see why im confused to.it sounds like she saying dont worry we will f*ck if anything. just try not to get attached till you  figure her out just dont waste to much of your time.it sounds like a game.she probably has another on the side and wants to see who can offer her more. in that case the good guy always loses.
245828
if she loved you she wouldnt be leaving you so often for someone else. i think she probably is after your money if she keeps coming back. i dont feel she will commit to you the way you would like her too and i dont think she is in love with you as well. i know you have invested a lot of time and your heart into this relationship but i would move on. tell her its over and see what her reaction is.
367410
Have you tryed explaining your feeling to her???....if yall have been hanging out that much she should be able to open up to you mabi there is a bigger issue that she is tryin to get past...try to confide in her and comfort and make sure she knows that you like her
339743
Well it sounds to me as if you two are already going out, and if you really love her you should let her know how you feel, it was that way with my gf and i got the same advice, so far we are going steady and i coldn't be happy, so give it a shot, ask her out, i mean come on you dont want to be sitting there looking back and wondering what could have been do you?
645457
if the two of u have been together long then it is still hard for her to face her true feelings.but she definitely needs u more than ever it's just hard for the words to come out . u should start slow and as friends u can relate to her because there is history but I'm sure she would be happy that u r there as a friend not pressuring her about anything just there to lend a shoulder. \n\nWell i hope this advice was helpful!