but that person is going to get married in few weeks and she wanted to have sex with me only and no one else and she is elder to me and she is 24 and i am 18 is it fine to have sex with a elder person or is it not and i am intrested in having sex with my cousin and any advice from u
202243
if we will be basing it according to your age, it will be fine , however, you have the same blood as hers coz your in the  same family. besides, she's getting married in a few weeks so.. maybe she should wait til that time comes. and, if she wants you as her partner, tell her just to imagine u.
277370
I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.
593181
It really depends on where you are in the states on whether it's illegal or not.  I know Washington, where my parents live, the age of consent is 16; however, the person must not be more than three years older than them until they are 18.  That goes for sex, or a relationship.  Here in Aust., the age of consent is 16 years, no matter how old the other person is, but I'd recommend you look in depth into the matter.  I also know, that in Washington; if you have parental consent from the younger party (Ie, the girl, in this case), and the younger party is older than sixteen, and it's done legally, it's alright; I had a friend (16), who married a 23 year old guy.  Not a match made in heaven, they didn't last too long, but the relationship had problems from the start, they were never very close.\n  I understand how you feel, though.  I met my husband (online), when I was 16.  Of course, I didn't know he was going to be my husband then, but we just clicked from the get-go.  Over two years of talking literally daily, sometimes for hours on end, our relationship strengthened to the point we knew what we wanted, got engaged when I was still 17, nearing 18.  A month after 18; I came here to him in Australia (we hadn't met before face-to face prior to that, but you see how I know about that connection you can have with someone).  And I never have gone back.  He's just turned 35, I'm just about to turn 20; we just had our one-year wedding anniversary this past Valentine's day.\n  My parents, when they found out his age, of course had their reservations.  As well as the fact that he was half way across the world from the USA.  But in the end, they supported me in what I wanted to do with my life, because as soon as I turned 18, I could have done anything I wanted anyhow, and they wanted me to go on good terms.  \n  Coming here to my husband, ignoring what quite a few had to say about the age difference, ect., was the best thing I could have ever done with my life.  So don't give up.  If you feel there's a connection there; it's worth the wait. Don't get me wrong, make your intentions clear; but don't go anything beyond what you have now, kiss her, whatever, yes, but I think for her parents' sake, so theyre more comfortable with you two, wait to go anything beyond that.  Because it really does make all the difference in the world to have a good rlationship with your inlaws, especially if you want to make things work in the long run.  You two (the girl and yourself), should talk what you do feel over with each other, and decide what you want to do, what your plans are.  And then go to her parents, together.  Again, make it clear, what you feel for each other, what you want together; but point out that for their sake, you're willing to wait to take the relationship any further, for their sake.  It'll mean a great deal to both her parents, and her.\nAlso; because you are older, let her make the decisions on how fast the relationship goes from there.  It makes her feel more secure, and comfortable with it, and the fact you're making the effort for her, and her parents, will improve the situation immensely.\n  You aren't a sexual predator.  If the girl was 15, that'd be wrong.  But at 17, though a girl hasn't experieinced as much as you have at 25; she knows what she wants, what she needs in life.  There's nothing wrong, morally with it; so don't bash yourself over it.  Just wait for her.  Or if you don't want to, make damn sure what the laws are before you proceed.  It will do neither of you any good for you to get in trouble for it; she will feel so guilty, feel it's her fault, so make sure.  \nGood luck.  And don't give up on her if you feel that connection with her.  It's not something you're going to find easily in life, and if you feel shes the one you have that connection with, don't let her slip away.
616096
Yeah. Just don't go there. Even if she says she is ready to have a sexual relationship she may not be and there are tons of feeling that she or you aren't ready for, sex is never just sex. Find someone your own age.
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I wouldnt worry about it if I where you althought it might make you furious let her think what she wants it's that type of gossip that might fill her less than fulfilling days so in fact your doing the old lady a favour by giving her something to do, Just as long as you and your hubby are straight in understanding the situation then every thing is cool cause at the end of the day he is your real family,under your roof in your bed is what matters the most of what is though of you.
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HI, \nIf the niece is 18 there is really nothing u can do about it, because unfortunately it is not illegal to have sex with family members unless they are a minor (under 18) . If the niece is under age then you can call your local police department and they will tell u what to do from there. Usually Child welfare will get involved. If this is the case please don't keep it quiet this kid can be rescued from a really bad situation!!!!   Good Luck!!
650367
Be responsible. Think clearly. You should study the consequences surrounding sex. I know you're a minor, but that doesn't stop kids from doing the deed, so if you feel that you must -- which is not advised, do your research man. Make sure you aren't passing anything along to her, or that you aren't going to get her pregnant and put both of your lives on hold. Make sure that you know what can happen as a result of doing anything beyond kissing and hugging. It leads to sex, which is what I'm thinking you might want to experience. Trust me, it can wait. You will not die and of course you may be picked on by the fellas who have done so, but some of them will even be lying about it. Your girlfriend won't be ready, I can tell already, she is still getting around the stage of getting to know you, you've been dating for a month. That's why there are different types of diseases out there because people don't fully know the people they're dealing with, shoot, there are 30 year olds that don't even know their spouses. But in any case, I wish you luck and hope that you will consider waiting to experiment sexually, because if not you may deeply regret it later on in life, and also by waiting you won't freak your girlfriend out either.
647459
I don't know if the age of consent there is 17 or 18, but there would be issues with sex if she's under that, regardless of engagment (which is meaningless legally). So far as marriage, yes with parental consent it is legal & no real issue.
309590
last I checked cousin-in-law isn't really family. usually the term in-law is reserved for the mothers and fathers of the bride and groom. so either you're taking this in-law thing too far or you made out with your husband's cousin. which is wrong because you're married.
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I think it is not ok. I know that some cultures encourage that, however I think it should be up to the individuals to decide who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. For example in some cultures a 12 year old girl may have an arrange marriage with a 70 year old man, so that the family can make some sort of profit. In this case that is rather sick.
23864
ARE YOU SERIOUS?! YOUR COUSIN?! that is sick,might i add- illegal in most states! have you ever seen an inbred person? now why would you try to make a relationship with a relative work out. could you cause the pain, need i mention the embarrasment, to your families... this could tear the family apart as well as tear the two of you apart. i think it is a bad ideal but of course i am not the one in love with my cousin... dude i don't know what to tell you, it seems to me you think incest is the best... so put your cousin to the test. think about the day you will meet your maker!
4977
not a problem. married a woman that is 7 years older than me. and have a couple buddies that married older woman
521946
FIRST PRE-MARITAL SEX IS IMMORAL !!!\n\nGET MARRIED FIRST !!!\n\nTHEN BE GENTLE WITH HER !!!
603894
cant u ask once only?\nanyways,its just physical,u'll get over when u get some one else,its normal,we really get attracted towards elders of opp sex,it teen age buddy,the most mysterious one.feel her as your aunt,as a mother,u might be suffering from mother fixation and thinking its love!take your time,dont do anything stupid,if by chance she reciprocates,do it,but always remember,THE TWO FAMILIES SHALL NEVER FORGIVE U THEN!
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Sex is sinful and unlawful when made with someone had sex with another person not the spouse.  Under the law, sex must only be made after marriage and outside of it is already unauthorized.  Thus, sex of a woman with someone not his husband is adultery and for the husband it is concubinage.  Sex with someone under 18 years old is seduction.  Forcing someone to have sex is rape.  Sex is only proper if not against the law of man and God.
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Give them a chance and if it doesnt work out then oh well im only 15 and a sophmore in high school and i am dating a 17 yr old senior and i swear we are giong to get married.  Everything is perfect between us so give them a chance who knows you might be suprized.  And no it is not wrong to do sexual stuff with them as long as they are accepting it
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If possible try to remain a friend to him and his daughter.  But if you or he has an attraction for the other than leave it alone.  He is old enough to be your grandfather and as such you would have nothing in common socially, emotionally or any other way.  I'm certain that his daughter would not forgive you and your family would be very upset if you started a relationship with him.  Fact is you'd be a young widow and if you did ever have any children of your own he would never be able to do anything with the kid as it grew up and needed it's father to take it to games, theater or whatever.  Pass on this one and try and find someone much closer to your own age.