I need numbers and facts on women who abuse thier husbands. i need facts on how common it is for women to abuse thier husbands and children.
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MenWeb - Men's Issues. Child sexual abuse by women - summary  \nThe Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers. Summary of UK TV programme - Panorama - BBC1 - 10 pm Monday 6th October 1997. The sexual abuse of children by women was once thought to be so rare it could be ignored. ... Battered Husbands. One reason that domestic violence against men keeps happening is that men don't speak out. And when ...www.menweb.org/panosumm.htm - MenWeb - Men's Issues. Child sexual abuse by women - summary  \nThe Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers. Summary of UK TV programme - Panorama - BBC1 - 10 pm Monday 6th October 1997. The sexual abuse of children by women was once thought to be so rare it could be ignored. ... Battered Husbands. One reason that domestic violence against men keeps happening is that men don't speak out. And when ...www.menweb.org/panosumm
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Most all communities of any size at all, have a Battered Womans Shelter, or Shelter Home, or Transistional House. The term used is Domestic Violence. You don't have to be married to your abuser. Call the police one more time, they should know where the closest one is, and don't wait. If they cannot help you, go to this website and search for the nearest shelter.  http://www.ndvh.org/\nBe a good friend and don't let her go back or forgive.
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I agree with you 100%! I am so sorry for what you are going through but I am heartbroken that she is using the kids like that. She not only ruined her marriage but she is destrying her children. If this is any consolation to you, your children will end up hating her for what she is doing and one day they will turn on her for that. I am sure that doesn't make you feel better because you don't sound vendictive at all, and I am sure you don't want your children to hate her. But in all honesty, that will happen. I have seen it happen quite a lot. \nTry a mediator.Document everything! Tape phone calls if you have to cover yourself. Communicate with her in writing, so everything is documented. Reassure your children of your love and do not resort to her ways. Give your children and extra hug when you see them and find a good attorney to help maitain your visits with your children. Be the better person out of this because you are right, the law does seem to side with the mother more often, so you, unfortunately will have to work even harder.\nI am a female, married with a wonderful son and I have made mention to this abuse by women over and over. There are some women who live through hell and back and deserve to fight tooth and nail for what they deserve and then you get these type of women who abuse the system because they feel they can.\n(I don't know the whole story and I am only going by what you said, truly there are two sides of every story.)\nGood luck to you and your new marriage. And keep in mind, she is jealous, that even though she cheated on you, you moved on and are happy now. She thought you would fall apart. That's why she is acting that way. \nBe there for your children, they should be the main concern.
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It may be related to your relationship with your husband and how your husband values your role in the family. Boys learn how to treat women based on how the men they look up to treat them.\n\nhttp://www.marriagebuilders.com/\nhttp://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/articles/gentle-child-discipline.htm
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I  think  you  already know what you  have to do.     In  the  first place  how  do you know -besides  what she has told you -  that  her husband was abusive?      One  way or other, it is  absolutely clear to anybody with half a brain  the woman is using you ...   and  using  her  own  children as a   weapon  against you  if you  try to  stand up for yourself.    Well,   the ONLY  thing  possible  for you to do..  unless you want  to   stand there meekly  and let her destroy what should be the peace and  tranquility  of your and your husband's  lives -  is  take a  stand  and Tell  this selfish, self-centered, self-serving piece of  garbage  whom you so unfortunately  have as a daughter,  that  you have already done all -  and in fact  more -  than you have  the means to do..   She is;pulling one of the oldest  games in the book  with those who feel obliged to fall over backwards for her  because of blood relationship   .....emotional blackmail.... and you have  allowed yourselves to  fall for it hook, line, and sinker.    Enough  already.    You  can't   "save the world"  and   those are  HER children,  so you  cannot  be held  responsible for  them  either.      You  have  already allowed this outrageous situation  to go on  waaaaay  too long,  and the  very behaviour that you have  described,  defines her   exactly for what  she  really is....  a  mean,  selfish, ungrateful,  freeloading opportunist  who needs  to be made to  hit the road  before  she  succeeds in  ruining   your  and your husband's  lives,  and  your health.
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The Department of Health and Human Services released a survey estimating that child abuse and neglect in the United States nearly doubled during the seven years between 1986 and 1993. \n\nThe report estimated the number of abused and neglected children increased from 1.4 million in 1986, to over 2.8 million in 1993. The number of children who were seriously injured quadrupled from about 143,000 to nearly 570,000.\n\nOf course, this is an old study, and it is talking merely about numbers of reported victims.  Reports sometimes vary simply because trends may veer away from reporting when constant attention is not focused on the problem.\n\nNumbers alone cannot reflect the gravity of this problem.  Given this rate of increase the number possible today looks astronomical.  Remember that one child is a crisis of intolerable proportion.  Nobody should be truly at peace when anybody is hurting -- especially children.
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Well, it would be nice if you told us what these things are, because without knowing what he's saying, how would anybody know if they are considered a crime or a threat?\n\nAlso need to know what state you're in, since laws differ from state to state.\n\nChances are, at least here in California, cruel and demeaning things would not qualify as domestic abuse.  But again, it's impossible for anyone to tell you specifically without knowing what's being said and where you are.\n\nEDIT 4.27.06\n\nYou still didn't say what state you're in.  Based on the additional information you posted tonight, if you were in California, poking you in the chest with his fingers would be a crime, and possibly telling you he was going to throw you out a window would be a crime.\n\nThe thing is, whether these things are crimes or not is not really the issue.  The issue is that your husband is abusing you in one or more forms.  You've also added tonight that you have children, so you're not the only victim here.  He may not touch the children, but he (and you, I'm sorry to say) are exposing the children to domestic abuse...I won't go into all the studies that have been done on children who are exposed to the kinds of stuff you're talking about but trust me, it will screw a kid up.  For that reason, California Child Protective agencies have started removing children from homes where domestic abuse is taking place, even if the children are not directly victims.\n\nI've seen a lot of domestic violence cases...more than would fill a lifetime.  And the things they all have in common is that they start out small, get gradually bigger, and eventually will end up in your death if something does not change.  I'm guessing he does these things, then apologizes, then things are fine for a while, then it happens again?  And when it happens again, it's maybe just a little bit worse...he calls you worse names, pushes you just a little more, etc?  Domestic violence has a really predictable cycle and I just described it for you.   \n\nGet out.  Do not wait, do not assume he will get better, do not think you can't make it (of course, he obviously wants you to think that, because then you won't leave and he will continue to have a victim), do not expose yourself and your children to this man any longer than it takes to pack.  I guarantee there is a domestic violence organization somewhere near you that will be more than willing to help you...800-799-SAFE is a start.\n\nI *promise* you...if something does not make him change, he will not.  People don't change without some reason, and you staying there is not going to be the reason.
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What is violence? Everywhere we look, violence is present; in the streets, back alleys, schoolS, and even at home. Violence is something that could happen to maleS, femaleS, OR children; any one. Violence could be a terrorist attack or A crime. Violence refers to acts of aggression and abuse which cause or intend to cause criminal injury or harm to person(s). Some of the authors in this book do TALK ABOUT everyday violence. Authors such as Jan Goodwin talk about trafficking in women and girls, where as Helen Zia talks about racism and hate crimes, how women and men are the victemS of violence.  Then Cynthia Enloe talks about the war in Iraq and Stephen Ducat talks about the masculinity in the current era of U.S. initiated war.\nThe first essay by Jan Goodwin is about Trafficking In Women and Girls. Reading about this was really shocking. I had heard about prostitution going on in countries like Thailand, India, and Pakistan but TO SEE IT at this extent was an eye opener. They have sex tours from US to Thailand just to go there and have sex, IT is THE most shocking part OF this essay. I had see on dateline about this issue and it's just horrifying. These girls are eight years old and have to do this for living. They showed how these girls are treated. If they don’t meet the demands of their customers they are beaten and TORTURED UNTIL they listen to the customers. In some caseS they ARE ALSO KILLED. Goodwin tells us in her essay how a 22-year old Maricris Siosin, a graduate in modern dance was beaten and stabbed to death. She was forced to participate in a pornoGRAPHY FILM in which the women is actually killed.THIS Is one of the theories Goodwin tells us. Jan tells us that in Thailand you can buy a virgin girl for $200 (US DOLLARS? BE SPECIFIC) and have sex with her. According to human rights activists working in Thailand, a large percentage of the prostitutes there are under 15, and girls as young as eight are sold into the industry. That is just wrong what thESE people are doing with these young girls. Prostitution is illegal ANYWHERE in THE United States and also in countries like THE Philippines, Thailand, Germany, Sweden etc…. THE Tourism industry in Thailand generates about $3 billion annually. ImageS of A "sexual paradise" has made prostitution one of the most valuable economic subsectors in Thailand. Another major destination for sex traffickers is India, I will definitely say that’s true because I have seen on TV and read about it in newspaper when I useD to live in India. The main reason I would say this is still happening there is because so many people in India are not educated, they are poor, most of THE girls are sold because thEIR family needs money, and they don’t have the government to protect them. THESE activities ARE still happening in rural partS of India, mostly where people don’t have A good education. I would say this essay has opened my eyes about how trafficking AND prostitution ARE MAJOR ISSUES AND THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EDUCATED ABOUT THIS SUBJECT SO THEY CAN HELP THE FIGHT AGAINST THESE MODERN FORMS OF SLVERY.
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I am so sorry to hear so. No one deserves to be abused no matter what. That is totally unacceptable!!! \nIt depends alot on the mans upbringing, they were raised to see their mothers abused and he was taught it was OK. And there are other types of men who think if a women is being loyal and submissive to their husbands that they are weak and have no self-worth. Let me tell you this, if you let a man abuse you once, he will keep doing it again and again, it's human nature.\nYou deserve to be with someone who will appreciate what and who you are. Someone to give you the respect you deserve and the love you dream of. Don't you EVER let anyone abuse you in anyway. You need to take are of yourself and love yourself.\nI wish you the best and I really do wish you find someone who deserves you and take care....
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This may not be universal truth. However, history shows that women have been the biggest enemies of women! whether socially, financially or otherwise. So you can imagine that if one gender does not respect itself, what could be the consequences. I think women very well understand this yet....?!
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We had a friend who divorced his wife because she would hit him as hard as she could. He was a big guy and never hit her back. she had issues from her first marriage with a husband who beat her, and a father who hit her mother. my friend was very gentle, but enough was enough. He never reported it, he just divorced her and let her keep the house. \nWe had another friend who had back surgery and his ex-wife would hit him where the surgery had been done whenever he wouldn't do what she wanted him to do. She was just nasty. He divorced her, but did not report it. \nBoth men remarried women who did not hit them.
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Because feminists have stereotyped men as abusers . . . when VAWA (a woman's organization) did a report several years ago . . . which shows that women abuse men more . . . plus they abuse their children more than men.  Of course the number men who abuse women went up . . . so did the other numbers . . . but that is what they focused on when speaking to congress . . . that is why men don't get a fair shake . . .
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Get out while you can. Find a home for battered women. \n\nOnly hit once doesn't usually happen, it's called the first time. Get out. Don't expose yourself or your child to this. \n\nThis isn't love. This is sick and twisted. And you deserve better. \n\nI'll keep you and your child in my thoughts.
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That is a hard question to answer. I think it depends on your home life and surroundings. I'm pretty sure that it would be a that the numbers are pretty close between the men and the women. However, a woman is more likely to report her abuser, than a man would! I have seen alot of men get "smacked" around by their wives/girlfriends, more than I see men doing the "smacking"... you decide
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Domestic Homicides\n\nOn average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. \nWomen are much more likely than men to be killed by an intimate partner. In 2000, intimate partner homicides accounted for 33.5 percent of the murders of women and less than four percent of the murders of men.\nPregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause , and evidence exists that a significant proportion of all female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners. \nResearch suggests that injury related deaths, including homicide and suicide, account for approximately one-third of all maternal mortality cases, while medical reasons make up the rest. But, homicide is the leading cause of death overall for pregnant women, followed by cancer, acute and chronic respiratory conditions, motor vehicle collisions and drug overdose, peripartum and postpartum cardiomyopthy, and suicide.\n\nEstimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend per year1 to three million women who are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend per year
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hey, check this out. It is pretty descriptive, so it just may answer your question:\n\nhttp://www.womensgroup.org/1WORLDCU.html
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He may not be abusing you physically but he is mentally.\n\nYou say you are about to be a mom for the first time what happens if you have a daughter? Are you gonna let her grow up thinking that men are always right and you should always listen to them no matter what. Even if they are wrong and what they are saying hurts you?????????\n\nOr vise versa if you have a son. Do you want him to grow up thinking that it is okay to treat women this way???\n\nBecause if things continue as they are now you would be teaching either sex that you have the wrong information. Children learn from there parents and they will see how your husband treats you and it will get in beded in there heads. Your daughter will take on the roll that you have when she grows up and marries. And your son will take on your husband roll and assume that this is how to be a man.\n\nHe may not be hitting you now but he may later on in your marriage. Do you want your child to see or hear this?\n\nMy advice to you is turn to friends and family and get out now before it gets any worse.\n\nAnd once out suggest counseling for his problem. Tell him that you love him and want to be with him but you can't live with his controling manner any longer and the only way you are coming back home is if he gets help with it. Because you don't want your child growing up seeing this behavior.\n\nIf you won't leave then tell him that you want him to go to counseling for his problem and make sure that you make it clear that is the only way you are staying in that marriage.\n\nYou have a child to think about now. You need to think about that child and what you are willing to expose them to as far as his behavior.\n\nI hope that you can get the help that you need. And I hope that your marriage works out if that is what you want.\n\nCongrad's on the new baby. That child will bring so much to your life. And you will find out just how deeply you can love. And then you may realize that putting up with your husbands behavior is wrong and that you and that child deserve better.