he never plans dates and after telling him he doesn't follow through. he has friends over allllll the time and never seems to need alone time with me like i do.
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Sweetheart, you are getting a lot of advice.  Filter it carefully - including mine.\n\nIt's obvious that you care about your husband a great deal. What happened?  When did he start to mentally check out on him?  Are you two still interested in the same things?  \n\nThis happens a lot when husbands hit depressions and just don't know how to deal with.  Or there is unresolved conflict that is brewing underneath the surface.\n\nRemember that there is always a root.  You need wise counsel now.  Does he still love crawling in the sack, mounting you and rolling off going to sleep?  Because if he does, you need to have "the talk" with him after you screw him to the Third Heaven.  \n\nCommunication is the lifeblood of the relationship.  If you fear that you will be too emotional when you talk to him, write him a letter not accusing him (e.g. You should do something and you don't), but using the "I" language (e.g. I love it when you hold me or when we go for walks. Can we go this afternoon, etc.) \nattach it to a G-string with your best perfume and put it with his lunch or coat pocket...\n\nI don't know how long you've been married.  You also need to arm yourself with knowledge.  The book "His Needs, Her Needs" is an excellent start.  E-mail me if you would like a list of other resources.
444628
maybe he is just not interested in you. you cant make someone like you or show interest. i would just move on and find someone else to concentrate on and who has time for me.
539655
Well, it's the holiday, and he probably got busy. Dont play the guessing game with yourself. But on the other hand this could be an official Red Flag, if he's like this as a friend, chances are he sucks at being a boyfriend, because if he knows you have feelings for him and he's being kind of careless, you know, not as sensitive as he should be, you will probably be better off as friends. Dont' set yourself up.
84159
i say you should tell him if his not willing to be in a relationship then he needs to keep his hands to his self. trust me only negative things turn out from those type of situations. once he says he just wants to be friends but is still all touchy feely he thinks he has you right were he wants you and then sooner or later watch he'll be in a relationship. but more than likely it wont be with you.
112190
If he make excises for being late all the time, if he calls and cancel on you. He starts hang out with his friends more often than before without asking you if u want to come along. he doesn't want to get intimate with you. these are the signs that I'd look for.. stay strong and take cares!
507019
Since it seems he has made it crystal clear he doesn't wish to be more than friends, you should move on and start dating others.  If he is upset my you dating, he will ask you out and you can be more than friends.  If he doesn't seem to care one way or another, you need to forget about it.
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I think turning down the invitation to go out was a clue, don't even bother to call him, let it go.    I also think you shouldn't jump to conclusions, noone knows for sure if it's an ethnicity thing, maybe he has a girlfriend or wife in hiding somewhere, if he does not then maybe he just does not like you in that way or he isn't into interracial dating.  To each his own and he is entitled to date or not date who he wants but don't appear desperate, he isn't the only man in the world, I am sure you'll find someone else to like quite soon.
649735
cuz he is an idiot\nor... he has loads of plans for the summer and doesnt want to get caught up in a relationship\nor... in a case like mine, fears commitment and doesnt want a girl friend at the moment
518151
He most likely decided to go out over the weekend and meet other girls, and probably did. What's going on is he's rude and he's just not into you.
187507
It could be that he just doesn't want to spend every waking moment with you. You're dating, not conjoined twins.
195888
I'd date him at least once... Sometimes people seem boring, but they are only shy, and they losen up with some time. If he did bore me out of my mind though, I  would not go on a 3rd date with him.
320349
He wants his cake and eat it too.  If he did not ask you to marry him and you all were obviously in some sort of relationship/friendship(so you thought) and he did the mentioned above, that says alot about his character.  He's a loser, want-to-be playa, cheat, liar, etc.  Why would you want that friendship again? Friends like that, who needs enemies.
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Don't worry too much about it, maybe he went out with you and decided he didn't like you as much as he thought he did.  Men (and women) are like this all the time and instead of being honest and telling what it is...they do things like this.  He's trying to "let you down easy" and not confront the situation.  My advice is to get involved with other things (friends, family, etc) and keep it moving.  You can't get someone to be interested in you if they aren't.
595351
I know what you mean. It's like when he get's together with his friends they turn onn a switch that makes him totally different. Trust me I had the same problem. I talked to him and asked why he acts so different around his frinds. You should ask him why he acts like that and talk to him about how you feel.\n\nTrust me it will work 9 out of 10 times if he really cares for you.
212899
You know, if he shows no interest in what you're saying, then he's not ever going to.  And therefore, he's not interested in you.  Maybe in the physical aspect he is, but nothing more..
322680
If he's telling people he doesnt have a girlfriend and ignoring you he doesnt care about you.  And when you let him treat you like that he will never respect you again.  Nobody likes anyone they can walk all over.  You must have self respect and demand to be treated in a certain way.  Why would you waste your time with someone who ignores you ????????????????????????
384676
You guys might be headed down different paths is all. As we mature we sometimes out grow some friends. Try talking to him telling thats not really your thing and if continues to push back away for awhile and let him have the space he needs to dicover where hes headed