Just wondering - what is the definition of being a bi? Is it being straight and gay at the same time or what? Just curious.
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What is my life like?  Pretty boring honestly.  \n\nThere is some oppressive sh*t that you have to deal with, and it sucks that it comes from both sides.  When I told me ex boyfriend I was bi, he called me a whore and we don't speak anymore (we were very friendly after the break up and shared a lot of mutual friends so this was a big loss).  He came from a VERY fundie family, so this was a hugh shock to him.  My parents assumed I would never have children.  People whom I expressly told I was bi would call me a lesbian, joke that I was a lesbian, or tell others that I was a lesbian.  A little good natured ribbing is fine, but at some point you have to wonder if that isn't some repressive biphoibic thing rearing its head right there.  Men I don't know are the WORST.  They will not hesitate to harass me and my girlfriend on the street for wearing a pride pin or holding hands, and if they see us dancing or kissing at a straight bar, forget about it.  They will be all over us, propositioning us for sex, groping, grabbing, and when you blow them off, they get angry and rude.  That really is the worst part for me.\n\nFrom gay folks the reaction is mixed.  Older gay people really don't "get" it, but they're usually not rude about it to my face.  They grew up in a binary world where gay was gay and straight was straight and ne'er the two shall meet, so I can forgive them as long as they're not mean about it.  One of the interesting things about being bi is that everyone tells you about their little bi moments -- including gay people.  Two of the most popular most active most effeminate gay guys on campus made it a point to tell me that they actually think they're more bi, they just don't want to be open about it because they would loose face.  Around campus, gay folks are almost uniformly polite to my face, but we're a small batch and word gets around, so I know some of them (lesbians in particular) have been saying that I was just a straight girl who was curious and trendy... that ended when I got a serious girlfriend (2 years).  Again, some people make comments about how my girlfriend and I are lesbians or call us a lesbian couple or talk about a lesbian marriage -- even though neither of us is a lesbian.  It's kinda weird, sometimes there is just not another good word or phrase that fits, sometimes it feels like this passive agressiveness because they don't believe that you're bi anymore since you're with a girl.  \n\nOtherwise, I live a painfully normal life.  I go to school, I have a cat, an apartment, friends.  I go out, I stay in.  I visit my family.  I shower and eat and breathe and all that jazz.  Other then a few isolated occurances and relationships and patterns, being bi doesn't affect 90% of my life.
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the question is... are you gay? becoz if you are, you're up to it. and if you're not, then you're straight. it's either you go that way or this way
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Yes, but it depends. Bi-sexual is not a just a physical attraction, but it could also mean the emotional desire between two genders or same genders. As long as you didn't mention tri-sexual... (Male, Female, and XXXXX) I won't type any further...
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What is bisexuality?\n\nBisexuality means sexual or romantic attraction or behavior directed towards some members of more than one sex.\n\nWhat is "a bisexual"?\n\nA strict definition of a bisexual would be someone who has romantic and/or sexual relations with other people of more than one sex (though not necessarily at the same time)\n\n\n*I would say that you are bisexuality!
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Doesshe have to be bi? I'm bi-sexual, but I'm taken... Anyway she sounds like she meant a lot. Just keep looking for em', she out there.\nsexkitten01
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Well, as a guy who is in a marriage, and also does guys on the side, I can tell you that for myself, I got married too young, and yes, I do love my wife, but it is a different kind of love.  I can be honest and tell you that I much prefer sex with men.  Do I call myself bi?  Of course!  I mean, I have sex with both men and women.  I call myself bi--leaning gay.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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... you're a girl? (my inference from your name). Well, girls TEND to be more open-minded than guys, so it's good that you're at least not going, "Gross! I don't want to be this way!" like some b*tch in denial. lol Sorry, I've just met so many of them on this site... anyway, it COULD be that you're bicurious or bisexual. I personally believe that EVERYONE is bisexual, but whatever... I myself am omnisexual, so there! Why not like both sexes? There's nothing wrong with being bi. *shrugs* It just means more for you to choose from.
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It is probably referring to bisexual. Bi-guy, Bi-girl, Bi-couple.
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Hello.  I am bi-curious.  I have never been with a woman but I have wanted to try it out for awhile now.  I am not with anyone at the moment, really, and I could always use a friend to chat with.  Hope to chat with you real soon ;)
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Okay...\n\n(1)  The "girlish" or feminine side in every male psyche is probably unrelated to his sexual identity as a gay, straight, or bi man.  Certainly the sets of traits that get characterized as "feminine" (whatever that means) are present in different degrees in every man, just as the sets of traits that get characterized as "masculine" are present in different degrees in every woman.  Maybe the whole girlish and boyish thing is a ruse, anyway, to keep us all acting as our authority figures instruct.  \n\n(2)  That said, to the extent your question is about being "100% straight," you may be confusing sexual fluidity (that the categories aren't as fixed and intractable as we are conditioned to believe) with actually taking on a bisexual identity.  Certainly a lot more people are bi than are comfortable admitting it.\n\n(3)  Being bi, however, is not universal.  The fluidity of sexuality is fairly universal.  But actually being a bisexual man is a particular sexual identity, not a secret reality beneath the surface of straight or gay identity.  Bi men are their own thing, their own culture, their own life-way.  Sexual fluidity is a different phenonenon--living culturally as a straight man, and primarily relating sexually to women, but with a capacity for some homoerotic desire or experience--this happens all the time, and would happen much more were the social consequences of being branded gay so negative in a homophobic society.\n\nSome of us, though, really are bi.  That means we are not hiding ourselves inside someone else's identity.  We live openly as bi men all the time, even when sexually monogamous to one partner (whether male or female).
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why do people assume that calling somebody 'gay' is a bad thing?\n\nit's the same as calling somebody 'straight'. i never saw anybody get offended by that...\n\nmore importantly: why would YOU pressure somebody to come out of the closet? In this ignorant world coming out of the closet is a hard thing to do, unfortunately. I have a number of gay friends who had to go through the hard period right before coming out, and had to live with the condemnment of people after they came out.\n\ni'm not easily offended by questions, but this one is just way out of line.
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I am bi. I am also willing to talk with you. There are LOTS of resources  http://www.biresource.org/ is one you might wanna check out.\n\nA great book is Bi Any Other Name.\n\nI wish you all the best. :)
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Lmao, this is great, Nikki, but i would have to choooose.........A, but do i have to be compleatly gay, or can i be Bi? Because if I can be Bi, then I would pick C
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Kinsey's studies showed that there are very few people who are 100% straight or 100% gay. I've been out of the closet since I was 18 (I'm 37 now). I've never been with a man, but I do occassionally have fantasies about them...and I do find them attractive. However I still identify myself as a lesbian...though I occassionally will question it myself. It's hard when there are social pressures that you have to be one or the other, but (as Kinsey's studies showed) you really don't have to be and perhaps aren't by nature. It's possible that you may be bisexual. And, really, does it matter? There is no rule that says you should or shouldn't be with a man if you're curious.It's ok to be gay, straight, or bi...just  be yourself...and be truly honest with yourself. Don't pressure yourself either way.
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First, do you think most people know that you are bi or gay?\nOf course not. So, the guys that you believe are straight, could very well be bi or gay. Keep your chin up!!!
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If you are attracted to both sexes then date both sexes.  You don't need to define yourself by saying you are full blown gay or you are bisexual.  Enjoy yourself and when you are ready to settle down for good you'll know which sex you want to do it with.  Let it come naturally to you and don't stress.  Hey, you have the both of best worlds so enjoy it.