if a girl is kinda controlling(what i eat, wear, and how i act). she's really sweat and everything but she's kinda stuck onto her parents. should i stay with her or leave her?keep in mind we been going out for 3 years.
211221
Well. this is the thing.  the reason she is controlling IS because of her parents.  I would suggest talking to her about it...and being serious about the break up option with her.  \n\nJust because you've been with her for 3 yrs.....doesn't mean a thing, except maybe you've hung on too long. \n\nBe honest with her and straighforward....it's gonna hurt you to say it, believe it or not.  But you have to follow thru.  If she has no intentions on trying to change, or she blows you off....then you need to break it off.  \n\nAnd if you do break it off....it's been my experience girls like her will find any way possible to make you feel guilty, or confuse you into thinking it's your fault.  So make sure if you go that route, you are not mean,. Be caring, but stand very strong.  Break it off clean, and with no blood.  No long drawn out speeches.  And tell her in her face, not on an email or on the phone...and in a semi public place....not your house or hers.  \n\nIf she wants to be friends, then make sure you define those lines right then and there.  No BS.  One HUGE note - Have your stuff together, because ladies usually know when they are fixing to be broken up with, and she definitely will know what you're trying to do.  When she knows the end is near, she will try just about anything.  Be ready for it, even if it requires a little time to get your thoughts together.  I cannot emphasize this enough......\n\nIf she claims to want to change...give her a very short waiting period.....and watch her closely for a couple weeks to make sure there is no laziness or dropoff in her attempt to change.  And don't do anything she might use as ammunition later down the line.  If you've been a good guy, continue to be that guy.\n\nIf she doesn't change....then go back to what I said about the break-up.\n\nThere are lots of young ladies who might want a guy like you.  So it wouldn't be the end of the world.  Either way, make sure you do the right thing for you.  The worst thing in the world in this situation is to hang on too long.
202599
If you honestly feel as if the relationship is something you can't handle, then you should get out. Just be sure that if you do decide to leave her, make sure she understands why you are leaving. You're leaving not neccessarily because of her kids, but because you aren't ready to be a father figure and you'd like to travel. Make certain she understands this and be sure to use "I" statements so as to not put her on the defensive side of things.
667974
He doesn't really love her if he likes someone else. He has to be respectful of her parents if he really cares. Her parents are doing the right thing and protecting her from major harm. What's wrong with being a concerned parent? When you are a parent, you will understand. I think it will all work out when he goes away to school. The relationship will fizzle and just as well. Except for a few exceptions, young relationships will not last. Stop worrying.
594283
Is she depending on your money? If not, you had no business telling her to get a job. If she was, then you should tell her you can't afford to support her anymore. Just stop giving her the cash. Do you mean you're living together and she wants to move out? Sounds like a good idea. You can still keep your relationship, and once things get smoother you can try again. Sounds like a good way to figure out if she loves you, or your money. Or do you mean she wants to move to another city? She could be bluffing so you beg her to stay. She just wants to feel wanted, instead of like a burden. Just have a business like conversation. Tell her if she get's a job, even a parttime one, you'll continue to help supporting her, but you will keep a tab, and she has to sign a letter of agreement that she will pay you back. That's fair. That way you can be there for her when she needs you, without being taken advantage of. Attitude very rarely changes. So if you can't live with her attitude, move on.
668623
This is a classic abusive relationship.  You have got to get away from this person before things get worse.  I know you love her, but you cannot allow someone to treat you that way.  Look at it this way, if the situation was reversed, and you treated her that way, would you expect her to stay with you?
482705
You're right. This is not something a girl with a boyfriend would want to do. If she's serious about staying with you in the long run, she should find a way to take you along or just stay home with you. Partying in Vegas at some guys' house is something that sounds really really fun... for a single girl. And if she's around her single friends, they might pressure her into behaving they way they do, and she might make a decision that she wouldn't otherwise make when she's at home. It seems as if the main problem here is that when you told her you didn't like the idea of her going, she started "giving you attitude" instead of being sensitive of your feelings. If that's the way you feel, even if she thinks you have nothing to worry about, she needs to respect that and not go on that vacation. You have every right to put your foot down! If she cares enough, she'll make the right decision!
7753
speak up, the mother of the child still wants that control she thinks it is her kid and shell do want she wants. there will be lots of problems but always smile to the mom and but you must put your foot down and not let her control you and him. yes they have a child together and that is it. trust me i deal with it all the time. it is not the childs fault though. but you do need to speak up not bossy just say we want the things to stay here for when she is here. and dont invite her over. your going to have to let her go from your lives and let her have her own with the child her and your boyfriend are over and it sounds like she is just trying to hold on to something?...  good luck
58443
Just keep being there for her.  He is obviously controlling and sounds like he may be abusive.  She should seek some type of counselling to find out why she would stay with someone who controls everything she does.  In the meantime, she needs friends like you who are understanding and are there for her.  Keep seeing her and trying to get her to seek help.  You're a good friend.
238085
It means that she still loves you. Just cause her parents disapprove of you and her, doesn't mean that her feelings are gone. I think you should talk to her.
44623
Her parents should be strict. You should mind your own business. :)
70707
sounds like to me she is just confused. she is used to being the dominate person in the relationship and as u know men are "the dominate ones" most of the time.  yeh she prolly does get a little shakey when ure around, i would be too if i had never been with a man before!!
321417
obviously depending if shes a minor or not, could she not get in contact with socail services? if shes 16 or over she has the option to just leave without her parents permission, she can not be left on the streets, with the right help she could be housed in a bedsit. x She is old enough to just walk out! and so are you! if both or one of you work can you not both find some where small for you to live together? come on the pair of you are at your ages classed as young adults, she doesnt have to stay at home with her parents, im getting the feeling your not from the uk are you? or america? other wise im sure youd have both done your own thing by now.
307984
Tell her to get a hold of herself and respect you and what you want or need. You don't have to let her stay there. You are doing it because you are a good hearted person. If she can't respect you then, tell her that she will have to find somewhere else to stay.
222541
It's good that you seem like a good man if you are showing all the signs that you love and care for her. However, your girl seems to have had enough of you for whatever reason. I think she may feel overwhelmed by the living arrangement you guys have chosen and she finally figured out that she needs her space. Maybe living together put a strain on the relationship and she feels smothered. You can't make her stay if she so desperately wants to go.
94772
She's quite obviously not the one for you hun. She's not treating you right at all. Its not good to argue and say those things to you, you don't deserve it. Leave her be. If she'd rather have a criminal as her baby's daddy then let her. find someone who will treat you nice. Dont waste your time with this girl anymore.
320041
Well, chances are that she will get custody of your daughter.  If you believe what Dr. Phis says, children would rather be from a broken home than live in one.  You never made a commitment to the girl, which I believe is wrong anyway, but I don't think using one another just for sex is a reason to stay in a relationship.  It has to be built on more than that.  Nobody can tell you what you should do, nor should they, but I think that you need to find love and commit yourself to a woman for life.  Good luck.
467670
She doesn't really know you well enough to feel comfortable with you. That is why she like says one word to you and walks away. You should make her feel comfortable with you and then maybe she will stay with you. Awkwardness is one thing i really do hate and runaway from because i feel really insecure(crying and hurting inside of me). After that event i would really go to bed and sleep/rest because i felt really sick.