Actually,it is very painfull for the first wife to see her husband not content with her yet i wonder why islam permits this practice to an extent to i dont know how many wives.\nThere is no difference btwn the first wife and the rest.
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This goes back to the earlier times when islam was introduced. Before islam People did not respect females and rape and adultry was at its peak. The ratio of men to women was really high and females were either killed at birth or were seen as signs of disrespect for families.\n\nSo following are the reasons that come to my mind for this decision.\n\n- So females would feel secure and no one would hurt them as they would come under the protection of a man. (we are talking about old times and not about 21st century - but its still true that females feel more secure if they have a man to protect them and to love them)\n\n- So men would not cheat on their wives (It is still proven that men/women cheat on their partners with others because they cannot control their sexual urges).\n\n- This would help reduce sexually transmitted diseases as then males would not be going for prostitutions or having extra maritual affairs.\n\nBut the most important thing to note here is that getting married to 4 females is not mandatory, its not obligatory that a muslim has to marry 4 females. \n\nAnother important clause that comes in having more than 1 wives is that you have to be equal to all your wives and make sure that everyone gets equal treatment and respect. I think this is the most important clause coz its very difficult to be equal to all. \n\nThe worst is that people dont understand that these laws are made for their own benefits and they have to fullfill the requirements before taking the steps. They have to understand that its not a previlage, its a responsibility and it has to be taken seriously. Wrong projections and implementation from ignorant indiviuals is what creates problems.\n\nI personally think one is more than enough for me :) .... like i said ... its not mandatory, its just a choice :)
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hey,since when the husband of prophet Muhammad's daughter want marry another wife!what i just know,Muhammad tell to Ali and her Friend!"she is a piece of me and whatever hurts her will also hurt me".
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women cant do nothing back as muslin can have more than one wife, being the case there is no infidelity...\nthe husband in this case gets away with it, how dam convenient.
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Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled. No one outside of a marriage has the right to regulate/dictate what husband and wife do together in their marriage bed. And besides we who have a relationship with God know he is well able to let us know if a thing is wrong. Aside from that what a husband and wife do is not open for public debate. It is sacred....... and beautiful
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It's interesting how Muslims deny or lack knowledge  about their own faith!!! if you trust the translations of any Quran, then you must accept for a fact that God has given permission to the husband as the last "option" to hit his wife!!! \nNow,  because I am a woman  and Muslim who like to use logic, I refused to accept that, because I know for a fact, God does not use force to get things done! In Islam Divorce is an acceptable option given by God. I found a verse in the same chapter that uses the same root word (zha-ra-ba), translated as hit, as a totally different meaning, Moving out! so the last option would be a divorce not hitting your wife!!!! there are many verses that has been mis-translated in the Quran and Muslims are stupid and ignorant to realize that! another example is chopping off the hands of a thief, taken literally and it has been practiced for years!!! Muslims are in big trouble facing their creator!
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I dont think its has to doing anything with marriage. She probably was  not being pleased in more ways than one. Believe it or not women also get frustrated if their significant other can’t not please them in bed or even getting any at all. If the boyfriend is not showing any interested or giving any attention  its easy for a women to look for comfort   in another man. Don’t feel to bad for the boyfriend it might have just driving his girl to friends arms.
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I wish I could not respond to this one, but I'm not going to be able to keep my mouth closed.\n\nIf your information is correct and Muhammed had a 9 year old wife, then that simply illistrates how society has changed over time.  While we see this as wrong now, people's life spans were not as long in the past and marrying when a woman was capable of having children was not uncommon.\n\nYou can wipe your ass with the quran if you want, as much as you could wipe it with the bible or the book of mormon, just be prepared for someone to want to kick your ass for it.\n\nAnd finally, Muslim women are just as attractive as any other culture's women.\n\nJeeze, what, exacly, is wrong with you?  You can't honestly expect anybody to believe that their are people this misguided out there.
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That's why Muslim allows a maximum of 4 wives, only after getting approval by other wife before marrying. And only if he can afford to, otherwise, its a no go. And most Muslim country allows the girl to be a minimum of 17 years old.\n\nYou guys just think Muslims are corrupted. Look at yourselves.
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Unfortunately a lot of Muslims don't practice everything that is in the Holy Quran. If we did, then there would be a much stronger ummah and a lot less bickering.
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1) because number of women is more than men ... \n\n2) i dont know to what extent your knowledge in Islam .. but there is a big sin in Islam (al g'heba) and it means when a muslim talks badly about another muslim behind his/her back(without knowing) ... and this what most women actually do when they sit together in a group .. they do it more than men ...
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Brother ! Muslims can have second wife without the permission of first wife if this clause is not mentioned in marital agreement (Nikah Nama). If the wife puts this clause in Nikah Nama that husband cant marry the second without her permission then taking permission is compulsory .. \nFor example most of the Muslims dont know that a woman can also give divorce (talaq) in Islam (as men) if she mentions it in Nikah Nama ...\ni would agree to an answer above that one cant do justice with 4 wives ..thats what Quran says ...\n"marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then marry one (only)"\n[AlQuran 4:3]
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She was 6 when they got married and 9 when she moved in to his house consumated the marraige.\nI dont think she had any children though.\nSad but true\nWe can only hope that there was some Unseeable purpose or wisdom behind it.\nShe did go on to become the greatest female scholar in the history of Islam thereafter and recorded/narrated nearly a quarter of the Holy Quraan.\n\nI strongly disagree with the argument that the social norms should dictate morality. just because something is acceptable at the time does not make it right. If rape were to become socialy acceptable as it has become in many poor African countries like the one i live in does this mean that women should accept it and allow that kind of abuse to continue?\n\nThe best argument is that of the Prophets (SAW) intentions were pure and that the maraige was not sexually motivated. Arguments about social norms and acceptability in the time context are not in my opinion valid.
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No, She has no reason to feel that way. Actually, it's a good way to drive her husband into another woman's arms. Marriage's never last when theres jealousy and control in the relationship. Trust is one of the most important elements in marriage.
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One of the condition that Quran allows more than wife is that you treat them equally. These verse were originally revealed regarding orphans, when there were many in the society and polygamy was required to have these girls to get a married life.\n"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one" Quran 4: 3. \n\nBut Quran also states in another place that it is very difficult to treat equally\n"You are never able to be fair and just as between wives, even if it is your ardent desire: " Quran 4:129. \n\nSo there is an indirect reference to have only one wife but in rare circumstances more than one can be married. Sometimes when male population in a society is less than females, polygamy may be required to have all the women lead a family life.\n\nEdit:\nShe can of course persuade her husband if she do not like him having another wife or state a condition on marriage that he should not take another wife. I am from a muslim family, it is very rare for men to have more than one wife. Actually I don't know anyone in my family who have married more than one.
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It was originally intended for ALL women to wear hijabs.  Not because they are being controlled.  It is to keep other men from gauking at you.  Sex is what turned the world wrong.  If more women would just simply say "No" to pre-marrital sex, we wouldn't be objectified.  We don't have to give our bodies to men just because they tell us they love us.  Women should be able to say, "That's good you love me, now prove it!" Not all men are like that.  But since the beginning of time, men have figured to tell a women what she wants to hear to get what he wants from her, than he bounces.  Sound familiar ladies?
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I think they are allowed to have 4 wives..as the answerer's above stated.  But I think the real question should have been how do 4 wives get along with each other?  Is there one more respected..and what of the children?
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why does it teach in Islam that a man can beat his wife\n\nTabari IX:113 “Allah permits you to shut them in separate rooms and to beat them, but not severely. If they abstain, they have the right to food and clothing. Treat women well for they are like domestic animals and they possess nothing themselves. Allah has made the enjoyment of their bodies lawful in his Qur’an.” \n\nWhy does it say in Islam that women are stupid\n\nTabari I:280 “Allah said, ‘It is My obligation to make Eve bleed once every month as she made this tree bleed. I must also make Eve stupid, although I created her intelligent.’ Because Allah afflicted Eve, all of the women of this world menstruate and are stupid.” \n\nBukhari:V3B48N826 “The Prophet said, ‘Isn’t the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?’ The women said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is because of the deficiency of a woman’s mind.’” \n\nIshaq:584 “Tell the men with you who have wives: never trust a woman.” \n\nWhy does it say in islam that most people in hell are women\n\nBukhari:V1B22N28 “The Prophet said: ‘I was shown the Hell Fire and the majority of its dwellers were women who are disbelievers or ungrateful.’ When asked what they were ungrateful for, the Prophet answered, ‘All the favors done for them by their husbands.’” \n\nIshaq:185 “In hell I saw women hanging by their breasts. They had fathered bastards.” \n\nWhy does it say in islam that women should die by starvation\n\nQur’an 4:15 “If any of your women are guilty of lewdness, take the evidence of four witnesses from amongst you against them; if they testify, confine them to houses until death [by starvation] claims them.”\n\nWhy does it say in islam that you can force a woman \n\nQur’an 24:34 “Force not your slave-girls to whoredom (prostitution) if they desire chastity, that you may seek enjoyment of this life. [And here’s the freedom-to-pimp card:] But if anyone forces them, then after such compulsion, Allah is oft-forgiving.”