We live in a quiet neighborhood, is this appropriate or disruptive? It has woken me on several occations, and I am unsure if it's enough to say something to them. I don't want to start anything with them to offend, we have only lived here under 1 yr.
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Hopefully he's not cutting his grass on the same day he's using the snowblower on the driveway.  If so, I wouldn't worry.  Pretty soon, he's either going to need a new lawnmower or a new snowblower!
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I cannot say where exactly freedom of speech ends and harassment begins. However, I do know that my freedom ends exactly where someone else's begins. \nMaybe your neighbors are not aware of this very sensitive and tenuous border. Therefore, I would suggest that you try to have a nice polite I was abou to say "diplomatic"!) conversation with them to let them know that you are not comfortable with (or that you are even offended by)their verbal abuse. In case this does not work and they persist, there will always be the police to talk to!
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None that I know of--- that was a problem -- I notice when I worked for the County as a dispatcher.\n\nPerhaps you should contact your precinct commissioner and have him bring this issue to the next meeting. Maybe they can create a loud music/noise ordinance that sets some guidelines for residences located within so many feet of each other.\n\n*Better yet, attend the next commissioners meeting and formally go on record with your request.
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I am totally respectful.  If I am in a place where they expect people to be quiet, I'll be quiet.  Not just the at the library, at church too.  I just hate when people are rude and loud and don't care about interrupting others.  I also hate the parents who go to church and let their children behave like if they were in a party.  You need to teach your children respect too.
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It probably will offend her.  I would suggest saying something like.....Wow, If I didn't know any better I would think I was in my own home.  We are gonna have to go shopping together so we quit buying the same things.
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No manners at all. They should atleast have waited til you guys left to make those comments. My guess is they were purposely trying to get a reaction. Some people are so stupid they don't think before they speak. Maybe one day they will run into the wrong person someone not as kind as your family.
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Take stuff on here "with a grain of salt" as we say where I live ... some people will be rude and others will get upset when they are rude ... it is just Q and A from total strangers ... not exactly of earth shaking importance in the overall scheme of things ... don't let it get to you ...
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Frankly, you'd be much better off knocking on those 11 doors. It would earn you the respect you desire so badly. A letter is a poor excuse when you live in the same building.\n\nBut if you insist, I would be very blunt and forward in your letter. Something like, "I would like to apologize if I offended anyone by playing loud music the other night. It was totally unacceptable behavior and I will not do so again."\n\nAnything more is fluff.
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Tell her just like you told us.....  I like to leave the light on because.....  We do have some expectations of privacy....  It's always best to be honest and straightforward.  Do not tap dance around the issues.  Just be pleasant and respectful and hopefully she will understand.
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People who live in apartment buildings need to be courteous to their neighbors.  That means no loud noise after 9:00 at night.  \n\nPeople have to get up early to go to work and need quiet in the evenings.
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Goodness....first thing: leave the cops out of this.  This might be a very technical criminal matter, but believe me when I tell you the cops are likely going to have little sympathy for you in this case and will much rather be fighting some other kind of crime.\n\nSecond thing: you and your neighbor disagree on the chimes.  You can tell your neighbor all day long that you don't like them and your neighbor can tell you all day that that she does.  That's not going to be very productive.  Get used to the idea right now of having someone else mediate this (and we'll get to that in a minute).  That means whatever the mediator decides is what you will have to live with, whether it's in your favor or not.  \n\nHaving said that, there was a suggestion here to record the chimes.  I don't see the point in video recording it, myself, but an audio recording would be a really good idea.  You and your family go out to your deck/yard/patio/whatever where the chimes are bothering you.  Put a decent tape recorder out there with you, and press record.  Have a conversation on the phone or in person with someone else, just to demonstrate how loud the chimes are in comparison with your normal daily life.  Do not do *anything* to exaggerate the sounds from the chimes, just record the chimes and your normal life.  Let me repeat this because you will get in trouble, otherwise: do NOT do anything to exaggerate the sound of the chimes.\n\nThen, march yourself down to the local courthouse and apply for a temporary restraining order.  Part of that process will be having your neighbor served with notice to come to court for the hearing on the order.  That might take care of the problem right there; if she knows you're serious about this and are willing to take her to court, she may decide she doesn't need the chimes where they are and will move them.\n\nIf she does not, show up to court on the day you're supposed to be there with your recording and a way to play it.  Be prepared to explain to the judge why he/she should make it illegal for your neighbor to have wind chimes...something millions of people have all over the world.  You're not going to be able to just push play on the recorder and tell the judge that's all you have to say.  I would venture to say that you're going to have to make a pretty convincing argument...wind chimes are ordinarily pretty innocuous things, and a judge might find it really hard to think you need the protection of the court from them.\n\nFinally, let the judge do what he/she gets paid to do, and LIVE WITH IT.  The judge might order your neighbor to take down the chimes, and you will have made your next door neighbor into your next door enemy.  The judge might tell you you're being unreasonable, and not order your neighbor to do anything.   You will still have made your next door neighbor into your next door enemy and win or lose, you will have to live with it.\n\nYou didn't for an easy or a cheap answer, and mine is neither one.  If you're successful you will almost certainly be damaging your reputation in the community (or confirming what some folks might already think).  \n\nThat's my answer.\n\nThis is my advice:\n\nNo matter how annoying they are, learn to deal with it.  You might win the battle here, but you *will* lose the war.  \n\nI wish you the best of luck...yours is not the only type of situation like this I've seen, and they are almost always ugly.
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Oh my, you seem to be a very nice person, almost to the point of dysfunctional.  A bit of assertiveness would help you out quite a bit b/c I bet it's not just an annoying neighbor you have a hard time saying no too.\n\nFirst, it's necessary for you to learn to meet your own needs.  "NO" is a big part of this concept.  You do not have to be rude or lie but you will have to practice.\n\nMary, while I'd love to visit, I am bogged down today, so we'll save this for another time.  Thanks  for understanding.  \n\nMary, I hear your frustrations, but let's keep this conversation on a pleasant note, shall we?  \n\nMary, at times I do enjoy our visits, but I must insist that you call first to check if I'm busy with the children.  You'll do that for me won't you?\n\nSo give it some practice and good luck.\n\nPeace.
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Did you just fly in from stupid town?  Why do you think they got so pissy!  I mean think about it.. If some one was banging on your house over and over again, or you for that matter, don't you think you would get pissy to?  I woudln't advise doing that anymore, it might get you killed one day.
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file noise complaints on them with the police. cause there is a noise curfew!
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for f**ks sake where do you people come from....you obviously live in a darkend room and think this gives you the right to talk out off your a**e to get a reaction...\n\ni hope you got what you wanted......fud
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Wow, where do you live?  Hehe.  Um, I don't know what you can tell your kids other than you really think they should find alternatives to hanging out in dark, secluded areas.  You should know that if they are old enough to go out and do things like that, that if you forbid them to do something, if they have a rebellious nature, they may do what they want - against your wishes and better judgement.  \n\nMaybe instead of trying to preach to them you could provide them with an alternative like your driveway, or backyard to hang out in and do whatever it is that they're doing in these spooky places.  It's never too late to teach your kids about entertaining people in the home.  That's something we don't do enough of in our culture anymore, as far as I'm concerned.  (That isn't to say bad things couldn't happen in the home either, but at least then they would be in a more controlled environment, and you [if you were there] could see who was coming and going...)\n\nOther than that, I don't know what else to tell you other than maybe to give them a curfew which doesn't permit these types of activities.  \n\nGood luck.
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Yes, if i were you i would just leave the issue alone.  As long as you know what happened, dont worry what the rest of the town says.  That is life in a small town for you.  Everyone yaps but no one knows the truth.  Sometimes in order to be the bigger man its best to stay silent.   :)