I've been seeing this girl (Melissa) now for 2 years and our relationship has gotten quite serious. Also, I've been dating this other girl (Miriam) for sometime. Just last week, I had sexual intercourse with this girl (Jade), and Jade is married and it was just a one night stand. The day after I had Melissa's sister in a motel room. Tonight, I have a double date with Jade and Miriam, and they're cool with each other. I'm afraid to hurt Melissa and afraid to tell her that the relations that I had with her sister. What should I do? How should I handle this?
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Forget about what is being said. People will do anything for easy points. I say, keep doing what you doing and being a playa isn't easy. We players, have reputations to protect from those who want to be like us. Just play it and set it up smoothly. Besides, that's what women are good for. Once they all find out, just play it off like a rumor being spread and move onto the next. DON'T TRIP!!! TRUST ME, HOMIE!!!
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That's quite a situation you have going there...\n\nSeems like from the way this Question is phrased that you let go of that shock, and the ethical, cultural, and social thinking the moment you decided to have sex with her..(you shouldn't have let your penis guide you) \n\nYou shouldn't have had sex with your sister-in-law, but she didn't FORCE you to, you chose to. BAD CHOICE..but still it was your choice, your choice to keep the sister-in-laws behavior away from your wife, your choice to follow up with your sister-in-laws feelings for you, and your choice to sleep with her...(You have to be aware that you ARE at fault here)\n\nMisinforming your wife about what?..Unless you just phrased this whole question funny and you DIDN'T have sex with your sister-in-law..  then how can she be misinforming your wife?\n\nIf I was your wife? I would want to hear that you were drugged and incapacitated to make your own descisions in order for this to happen and NOT be your fault, otherwise I would probably be incredibly hurt, and unforgiving at first, and I wouldn't trust you anymore that for certain.. so if I wanted to save the marriage, I would go to counceling with you and try to work it out...but I definately would never let you have any alone time with my sister again!!!!!\n\nAND MOST IMPORTANT.. Tell your wife Before her sister does... Something this bad in your marriage should be told by you...
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thats fine i guess...I met someone over the internet as well and we slept together after seeing eachother twice! I was a bit messede up after that, but things are going ok...we are not together though, but things are slowly moving to the next level...Dnt feel bad about being attractive to someone...as long as you used protection tten i dnt see what the big deal is...I asked a similar question not too long ago. And see...you guys are still together... And dnt take what Khalidnm2003 said to heart...When guys do it it's great...But as soon as a woman enjoys her sexual self we are referred to as $luts! You dnt need people bring you down...Plus you are a grown woman so why the heck not...Power to you sister!!!
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If this second guy was only after her but they never got together, whats the big deal. She obviously didnt like him then or they would have gotten together so i cant see anything stopping you from bein with him or tryin it on with him. Your not goin to hurt her...You didnt say if she's with this guy you fancied first but if she is, you've def nothing to worry bout!
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I've been there, and I've found that waiting for at least date 3 to have sex seems to work a lot better than hooking up on date 1!! I've never had a serious relationship develop out of a one-night stand. I'm not saying this will be the case with you, but maybe it's time to move on and save yourself the confusion. Clean slate and all.
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Sounds like there are two people that you can no longer trust at all. Your ex wife and your slutty brother. All the people for them to have sex with and the come up with each other. \n\nWhat to do? Go on Springer and get them some beads. That's a hot skank mess. Leave her alone and be careful around your brother with future women.
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First of all its your mistake that you are loving 2 girls and spoiling 2 girls at a time. Loving 2 girls is fine, but 1st girl wants to marry you or not, if she is going to marry you, its your mistake again you got engaged with 2nd girl. Those girls knows each other.?.\n\nForget about love, get marry with 2nd girl and enjoy with 1st one if she comes to you some time later, but make sure that no conflict happens.\n\nMail me on mkkittu@yahoo.com
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A number of inputs are available to choose from, in fact much has been said so far.\n\nI would like to add that encounters like this entail a very high emotional baggage and usually get twisted in attachments that none of the parties foresee. The point here is whether you or the incumbant will be able to live with the additional baggage or you foresee a possibility of a problem developing. In either cases it will leave an indelible impact on the lives of all involved.\n\nOther than that, what the hell go for it, at least if you do not end up liking the arrangement you could move on and there will be no holds barred for you to commit later.
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Did you ever think she may be telling the truth? Give her the benefit of the doubt. The question I have is why is it ok for men to sleep with someone on the first date and get no rep for it, but for women it is different?????? Besides she might be a really great person and you will loose out on the relationship, remember you were there with her!
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Bad place to go ESPECIALLY so soon after he broke up with her. One - she's your best friends ex. There is a reason he broke up with her and you probably don't want to subject yourself to the same just for a little sex.\n\nAlso think about if you did start dating her - do you really think your friend is going to want her hanging out with the both of you or with you guys as a couple? \n\nI understand he's not so broken up about it, but they are still an ex-couple -\n\nMy vote is don't do it.\n\nMiss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
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yeah dude thats totally wrong. u will get in trouble if either of them knows the truth than u r a goner man. so try to stop the attraction towards ur girlfriend's sister.
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you deserve everything you get.  You should have never slept with her.  Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.....
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First of all, why would you marry someone you weren't in love with?  It seems like you "settled" by marrying the other sister.  SHAME ON YOU!  From my perspective, you made your bed, now lie in it.
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It sounds like your guilt wants you to tell, but telling will only hurt her and make you feel better.  If it was a one night stand, let it go, otherwise someone's got to break it to her, preferably you.
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It appears you do not have a problem getting in her pants after another man has already been there . ooh now that should really make you feel like a man.Sloppy seconds.So what makes you any better than her you up tight jerk.Oh boo hoo someone else has touched her now I feel awful. That is until you really got to touch her yourself .You were not so dissatisfied with her while she was playing with Mr Happy down there were you??? Get over your self for You are now used goods your self and are worse than her because you have a problem with her doing exactly what you yourself did to her. Grow up loser.Harsh words for a preacher yet if you are going to judge her for what you are doing pay back is hard to swallow sometimes.
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I don't think a threesome is too good for a young relationship if it is one. If it's a strong relationship then do what makes you happy. I'm don't think you'll be happy afterwards though with another man having his way with your girl niether will she be happy with you banging another girl. So if you love her I would suggest you don't.
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dear partygirl,\nyour boned. there isnt much you can do, by involving both parties in sex you have created paranoia. there realyl is no remedy to this.think about it like this... Q: do you ever wonder if the two see each other without you knowing?  A: you should. i tried this thing that you did and it ended up killing the entire relationship, for both.\nso here is what you should do... in my humble oppinion... figure out what is more important, him or her? then my best advice to you is to cut the relationship off. with one of them only if you want to continue with one... i resolved my own situation with that anwser. now you got to think Q: do they have a right to be justified in jealousy? A: of course they do.  i would be very jealous if i knew that the person i was in a relationship went to someone else with theyre problems. a relationship is best left monogamous... or discreetly otherwise i.e a commited relationship whilst just bringing in outside parties.... like someone you met at a bar or a freind of a freind. nobody close to you. it causes conflict. so basicly figure out who is most important to you, and ditch the other or even better ditch both and find a new guy.