Hi everyone, \n\n        After having my questions answered. (SEE LINK!!!!) \n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqQ3.lFzp7M2LpeDiuIgtnzsy6IX?qid=1006030801394\n\nI completely ignore my office crush.   Its painful and difficult but I'm getting though it... Trying to move on!\n\nWhat should I do?? \n\nP.S. They're relocating to San Francisco and I live in New York.
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Your doing the right thing.  Your crush is in a relationship and ultimately is not going to be around any more.  For your sake and hers, you need to continue to just ignore her and your feelings for her.  Focus on your own life and relationships.  Ultimately time will make things easier.  Right now your just wasting your life away making it harder on yourself and your relationships by letting this be anything more than a crush.
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Judi?! Is that you? Hey, its me!! I didnt know you were on here at work too!! \n\nSorry if Im a little stand-offish, I have a confession. I really really like you alot!! Come talk to me right now so I can tell you how I feel. Im at my desk.... waiting...
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Okay, you've got some good advice here and some useless advice.  I'll offer mine in addition and see what happens.\n\nI'm confused: a woman has been stalking you, but a man was taking pics of the inside of your apartment...??\n\nBut you're asking for advice:\n\nMove.  Seriously.  If you really believe that your life is in danger, move.  Now.  People take the position that "I'm not being pushed out of here by these crazy people" and then live months or years, constantly looking over their shoulders.  I guess you can if you want, but if moving solves the problem, do it.  I know that's not a good answer for a lot of people...but if we are talking about your life, what's more important?\n\nSounds like your last contact with the police was on the 8th, right?  Don't wait for them to call you and let you know what's going on...call them, and ask what's going on.  Have there been any arrests?  What's the status of the investigation?  Can they offer you a temporary or emergency protective order?  Who is the officer or detective handling the case?  When can you speak with them?  What do they recommend you do, based on their investigation?  Where can you go to seek some legal advice or representation?  \n\nI don't know that I'd be so quick to get to the media as some have suggested.  I would certainly make every effort to work within the police department and seek your results through them, rather than possibly embarrass them or yourself in the media.  \n\nIt's late and I'm beat....but I'd be happy to help you sort some more of this out if you'd like.  You can email me at my user name at yahoo.com.  Really need to know what state you're in, though.
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Hey, I know the feeling. I know this guy name Kipp and this chick named Cassi who is one of my BFFz and she is always caught up in a love triangle and doesn't know what to do. I say meet this guy and be yourself. Think positive and hold life with a tight grip and loosen up occasionally. I would go up to the movies and be normal and just sit next to him and talk and crack jokes and stuff, but play it cool, don't look like a loser and trip over your own two feet like I did on a date. Good Luck, and I hope it goes well! Oh, and stay away from guys named Zach! By the way, My cat's name is Sherry Ann!! How ironic?!?!
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What a drag.....Sounds like maybe you should take you resume somewhere else.  Some people have to downgrade everyone else just to make themselves feel better, superior, or whatever reason.  It's obvious he's got issues.  You're only going to be able to put up with him for so long before you'll probably snap.  Start looking for other employment because I doubt very much if he'll ever change.  Unless you feel like stepping up and being the one to change him.  Confront him with the problem.....maybe he needs to hear how he treats people....\nI sure hope whatever you do things work out of you...\nGooday! ! !
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
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Sure love exists, just sometimes not both ways. You must admit office romances are pretty shaky to begin with. Also I think if you reread your query, you must admit, you sound a bit obsessed. You proposed before knowing about her family? This can be scary to a woman. Probably even more uncomfortable since she works with you. In the same light recognize your own goals and how they differ from hers. Do you really think it would work? Don't give up your dreams of film making, etc. Get on with your life. She is 22 and life still isn't all that serious sometimes. She still has alot going on and may not be ready.
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Maybe you should take your mind off boys and relationships for the moment.\n\nHave you given thoughts to your own career? Set your own priorities right.\n\nLet me share what someone told me when I parted with my first love (so many years ago)\n\n"If you love something, let it go.\nIf it comes back, then it is yours to keep.\nIf it did not come back, it was never yours in the first place"\n\nThink about it. Good luck. :)
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First of all, wow, what a lot of venom in these answers! I was in a very similar situation in Asia actually. Just control yourself. Take a deep breath and move on. The feelings will pass. Sounds like you don't want to fire her but want to remove the temptation  - if she is coming on to you, you'd better nip it in the bud now - don't let her get her hooks into you or you are dead ! I can't imagine the other posters have never been tempted by another - at least you are honest about it. I'd somehow make it clear to the interpreter that you have no interest in a relationship with her (regardless of your present urges) and see what happens. She'll likely move on.\nGood luck - don't do anything stupid - stay focused - you'll be OK
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I had two workplace romances a long time ago.  Neither of them caused a problem when we broke up.  How long have you worked with him?  Do you sense even a hint of a vindictive streak?  If so, keep away.  If not, tread carefully and take it slowly.
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I dealt with the same situation a few years ago.\n\nWhen you deal with your co-workers, keep your relationships friendly but professional. When you leave your cubical/office for a stretch of time, lock your files and set your computer on password only. Do not contribute to the gossip mill, but keep your ears open at all times. Document EVERYTHING! This is where e-mail comes in handy. I had a verbal conversation with someone about a project in which this person agreed to help complete. I followed up with an e-mail describing our conversation and asking if they agreed to take over the part of the project that we discussed. They agreed. Three months later, this co-worker dropped the ball and conveniently pointed the finger at me. Guess who had the e-mails to cover her @ss? This co-worker was looking for a way to make me look bad. I covered myself because I knew that it would come back to bite me.\n\nSo, do these things and you should be fine. However, if you constantly have to look over your shoulder you might want to find a better environment to spend your 9 to 5.
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It's sad, but you didn't kill her.  So go for it.  Make the office your own.  rearrange it so it is all bout you and not your predecessor.  Have fun, you deserve it.
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Are you hotter than them? Maybe it's jealousy. Do you actually do a better job than them other than the few mistakes you made? Maybe they are intimidated. Its sounds like they are immature. I'm not sure why this job is so valuable to both of you but maybe you could consider transferring to another department? Maybe contact your human resources or equal opportunity section, if you have one, to see if they have any advice. If not then maybe mediation is the only option. Tell your boss and the other two that its not a healthy work environment and you think production in the office would improve drastically if something were to change...maybe more solo projects or moving cubicles to allow a little more privacy. It can be hard confronting superiors but what it sounds like is they are threatened that you might outshine them, my best advice is to keep doing your best, eventually you will get recognized and hopefully their bad attitudes will get recognized too (in a not so good sort of way)... GOOD LUCK!!
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Wow, I am in a situation similar to yours as well.  My next-door neighbor and I grew up together, and I found out that he had a crush on me since we first met each other, which was about 7 years ago.  I was in a long-term relationship with my ex, but me and the neighbor remained friends throughout the whole time.  We didn't start getting closer until the summer of last year, when we started hanging out more and more, and I finally saw a different side to him, a kind, considerate, more gentler side.  We became fast friends and I started developing feelings for him.  We eventually talked about it and we aren't together now (mainly because he's in the military and is about to go to Iraq---he didn't want a relationship while he was over there), we have been talking and thinking about the future, because the feelings are definitely mutual there.  To make this long story short, you should tell your neighbor how you feel about him.  Who knows, he could have the same exact feelings.  Take things slow and gradual, and something could eventually escalate from that.  I'm very happy right now, even just as best friends, and even though it's hard for us to really hide our feelings for each other, I definitely know those feelings are still there.  Wish you nothing but the best!!!
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I am not being rude or judging you, but maybe you should talk to a councilor. I am sorry to here of your lose, but remember you are not the one that passed on, you are a live and you shouldn't feel guilty about moving on. It will feel like that you are comparing, but if you hang in there you will find the things that you like about the new guy in your life. Hang in there and don't give up. Good luck.
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m_k4376 says...dont mess with the boss's man...unless  you are not worried about losing the job. First question to ask yourself is what is your relationship with your boss..if your boss is a friend, then be a friend and stay away. If not, and you dont care about the job then see where it goes. the boss may be using him to get to you for a little action, if your into that kind of thing. if your not into that kind of thing then wait till they break up then pursue him. but then, if you dont care about the job or your boss, go for it and the next time he hits on you... reach back and grab his package.  let me know how it works out...@ yahoo
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Questions you need to ask yourself -\n\n1) How long have I dated this guy?\n2) Do I want to move?\n\nReally your not married only dating.  Do you think that you love this guy and will be with him forever. Not to be too negative but what if you move and break up in a month?  Is your relationship strong that this won't happen?\n\nPersonally, I think you need to stick with your career for now.  Let him go for a few months and see how his company is going.  If your relationship is strong, you can survive a few months.  NC isn't that far from VA.