This guy at school , SY , just broke up with his girlfriend , I and him are friends so I thought I sms with him to cheer him up , and he ask me if I want to be his girlfriend or not , and I said yes , cause he's sooo cute and hot and we're friend , I don't want to hurt his feeling since he just broke up with his girlfriend . So is my decision correct ? Am I considered a third person ? Or some kind ?
211518
I'm sorry to say this but I dont think it was really that wise of you...He's still probably hurting from his previous relationship...and is just looking for a "rebound girl" or something like that...\n\nThink about it coz even if he might really like you, your not sure if her really is ready for a new relationship...
65432
if you and this 3rd guy love each other (mutual feelings), then you should go for it! concerning these other people, no guy in his right mind would be happy with someone who wasn't into the relationship - and i doubt you would either! trust your feelings and go with the guy you truly love.\n;)
19650
wait until you know how you feel. there is a difference between dating and having a boyfriend. it is totally okay to casually date more than one person at a time as long as they understand you're not exclusive. if you decide that you have very strong feelings for one person, stop dating the others and go exclusive with that person. don't pick one guy and stick with him unless you're sure about it, because that's not fair to him. if your emotions are going back and forth, that probably won't change even if you become his girlfriend, and you could ruin a good friendship. right now i'm rebuilding a friendship for that very reason, and it's slow and sometimes pretty awkward.
188096
Nope you're not a bad person.  I had a similiar thing happen, my ex calls me all the time too, we cannot be more than just social friends and I honestly don't feel pain or sympathy when he breaks up or fights with his new girlfriend.  I listen and say I'm sorry for him but I don't feel alot of sympathy.   When people hurt you like that by breaking up, you learn and grow and we've grown past our feelings for them and moved on.
98701
No, I don't talk to any of my ex's.. but one thing I would do is ask the ex what his intention to get in touch with oyou after so long is.  He is probably unhappy in his relationship and wants to bring you into his life for some reason.. If he was single, I would think his intentions were okay.. but since he IS in ANOTHER relationship, he needs to break up with his current GF and then pursuit hsi ex's.  Word of advice for you-- tell your current significant other!  He should know from you then ever finding out by accident.  Good luck with this sticky situation!!!
672464
What do you mean break up ,,it sounds like you haven't been his girlfriend for some time now, and why in the hell are you worried about what your friends say or think,, they don't run your life or pay your bills,, be independent, tell him and all of them to kiss your a** ,,and go out and find some real friends !!!
144618
Well, if he is aware that he has developed feelings for you, then he should first break up with his girlfriend and then get together with you. Because so far what you described is more like a fling or a crush. You can do very little now, you have done what you were supposed to: show her your feelings, which by the way IS NOT WRONG. You should honestly talk about it with him.
68390
i think you should wait a while because you say she JUST got dumped. It doesn't seem right if she got dumped one second and is dating another guy the next (unless she dos that all the time). As for the figuring out part i think you should ask her directly but play it cool and try to do it when she is alone because you might embarass yourself if it is in front of a lot of other people.
243932
Do you like him? As it seems you do and you guys hang out. do you want to be friends or more? Think, if you are more than friends and you break up. Will it affect your relationship? which do you value most? think about it.
342106
Since he has admitted to you that he has slept over at his ex-girlfriend's house, and since he has not changed his yahoo profile (not even after you have reminded him)... I think you should wait till he changes the profile, and wait to see if he mentions not sleeping over at his ex-girlfriend's house anymore, before agreeing to be his new girlfriend.\n\n Also... if you feel it is best to wait till you meet him, before agreeing to be his girlfriend, then you should definitly continue to insist that it is the only way you will do it.\n\nYou and your wishes/needs are important... so, if he does not agree to do it the way you need him to do it, then it would mean that he is going to do what he wants to do, and that you do not matter to him enough, that he would fiulfill your important needs.\n\nIn successful, caring/loving relationships... the needs/wishes of a partner DO matter (ARE important)... because each partner is VERY important to the other partner.\n\nWhat it all comes down to is>>> if he really wants you to be his girlfriend... he obviously needs to first be your boy-"friend"...friends certainly do care about one another's needs/wishes.\n\nI think you are already dealing with the situation in a wise way... don't let him push you into making the decision of being his girlfriend, till YOU are ready to do it.\n\nIf you give in to him about it before you are ready, then he may expect you to give him his way about other things that are against your wishes... just remember>>> YOU MATTER.
560661
I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
445151
she sounds like she is just telling the truth.  It is just fine I mean she broke up with him so she could hook you and him up.  I mean it is not like he broke up with her and then asked you out and your friend was heart broken.
604086
Your boyfriend is breakin up with you.  I've done it like that b4 myself.  dont need to come out and say it, just let it drift apart n by the time the girl asks whats goin on, i'm already with someone else.
376185
luk,i thing she also cares for u,but she is not able to express her feelings to u,,it will take some time for her to express,,and as far as that 3rd person is concerned,if u really feel that he is not a good one for that girl,then go and frankly speak to her as a friend that he is not the right one for u,,MY QUESTION IS THAT ??WHY ARE U LETTING YOUR LOVE GO LIKE THIS,
439385
Well, you kind of confirmed his suspicion that you wouldn't take it well with your sarcastic email, didn't you?  Perhaps they found out that they both really wanted to go to the same place, it was cheaper to go together and since 1.you'd been split up for over 6 months and 2. he wasn't your best friend anyway, there really was nothing morally wrong in what they were doing.  You could look at it as a compliment that they thought enough of your feelings not to want to hurt you and that's why they didn't tell you.  Yes, it would have been a courtesy to let you know, but really, you don't have any right to interfere in the lives of two people you don't have close relationships with.
95886
Put yourself in this situation. Would you get jealous? Yeah, and besides getting jealous you would probably be ticked off that since they got a girlfriend I'm nothing now not even a friend. If she meant the world to her then why could you drop her so easily??? Maybe you should care more about other peoples feeling instead of just your own. Good Luck:) Sorry, if this offends anybody.
69982
if it needs to be defined, the person isn't ready for a relationship.  as previously stated, it's the same thing.  now, you can introduce someone you just started dating as a friend.  however, when you throw the "boyfriend/girlfriend" title on there, you two are now a couple, which means you are exclusively dating.