I see kids at my school that look so sad and lonley. I just want to make someone smile without making a fool of myself.
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I'm 48 years old, and in life I've learned that if there is something you wish to do for someone else just do it.  Never mind what others will think.  The important thing is how you feel about your actions.  If you know someone who looks lonely and you feel compelled to brighten their day go ahead and do it.  Just be careful not to make them think you have greater interest in them because when you are lonely you look for love in all the wrong places.\n\nTrust me, you will grow up and learn these lessons on your own.  Never be quick to mislead someone, neither you nor they will like it.\n\nI just broke off a pen pal in Russia because she is telling me how much she loves me.  I've told her over and over we can't be more than pen pals (friends) but something was being lost in the translation.  Now I feel bad because I've caused her pain of heart.  It's too easy to hurt someone without even trying.  So stay cool about who you are and how you interact with other people.  Those who judge you are themselves uncertain about who they are.\n\nGo ahead, say hi to someone you think needs it.
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Maybe they are jealous of you. U R probably super cute, and to make themselves feel like they have control over you, they make you feel unworthy. Just move on, it's High School, and everyone fits in somewhere.
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start with easy things,start talking to people in your class,your face and mimics are alson important.looking puzzled in a funny way or laughing to their jokes would work.and having a special joke really works,something that only you two would understand and laugh at.
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Just ignore them. There's not a lot you can do about people like them. You could always insult them back, but you know that would be wrong. You could stay in a group of girlfriends (or guyfriends) that would help protect you. You could notify the schoolboard, but the likelyhood of them doing anything about it is very low. Oh! A really cool idea is to do something special to your jeans, or at least to one pair. You could draw on them, or tie them up specially (like capris) or you could just make up something! Maybe wear a cool belt and always make sure that you look and smell nice. You don't have to be "cool" per say, but if you have a nice, sleek style then you won't have to worry about them. This is great because it costs nothing! Other things you can do are: 1. wear inexpensive jewlery (just not something cheap looking) 2. Do something with you hair every day. It doesn't have to be fancy, just fun. A messy bun, curly, straight, pulled up in a pony tail, pig tails, crimped etc. Well, that's about all I can think of right now! Also, don't worry about what other people think of you. The main reason I listed all of those things above that you can do to yourself, was for your benefit, not theirs. If you feel good about how you look, then it doesn't matter how everybody else looks at you. \n\nP.S. I only have 3 pairs of jeans too! :D
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Just laugh it off. These are ur friends and as friends its healthy to laugh at eack other. when they make a joke about it tomorow just laugh along. If u continue to be the but of jokes all the time perhaps there is a problem. But to me it sounds like good banter, that all people have at school, hell those me and my mates ripped it out of each other. No one will think any less of you, it was a mistake anyone could have made, and if you handle it well (ie by laughing it off) you will seem cool, for being able to laugh at urself.
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Some people commit suicide because they aren't accepted in their society [like if they're gay or "ugly"], or thats what most of them think. Some people at my school cut themselves cause they think its cool o.o i thikn the best way to deal with pain and sadness is to talk to someone
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I am so sorry. Going through High school with out your friends is hard. I would start by joining clubs - Year book, Cheer, Art...what ever your school has to offer. You will meet new kids that way. Sometimes friends just go away and it has nothing to do with you. I have a feeling you out grew them and they moved on, you can to. I know this doesn't make you feel better, but once you start being busy your depression will go away and you will start feeling better and make new friends.
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Sorry to hear you're sad.  You seem really mature too. Don't worry - summer is a fun time.  I hope you meet a lot of nice people while on break and even nicer people when you return to school.\n\nNow get up off your butt and go have a great time!
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When my class is getting a little crazy. I don't try to stop everyone, I randomly pick one or two kids that are misbehaving and punish them. This tactic normally scares the crap out of my students and they've gotten better at noticing when I get that crazy look in my eye.
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Be mature, but also be fun. When you see she's sad, go ask her whats wrong. Always try to help her out. When she's being silly, be silly with her, when she's being serious, be serious with her. Make your moods follow hers so she see's you can be whatever u want her to be. Spend some time with her, and when you get to know her, treat her lyk you'd treat any other friend.
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You're a teenager and these feelings are normal.  I've found that being yourself and letting go of trying to be perfect can help.  Then you start to see the things that really matter to you, and you find friends that genuinely make you happy.  But the first step is going to see someone about it, someone who you can talk to and vent.  Try a school councilor or therapist.
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Those kind of 'friends' you don't need.  Drop the loser!  Some use a so called friendship to get close enough to hurt you and make themselves look better.  Those people have low self esteem and bolster it by hurting others and making them look bad.  It is the same as bullies.  They cover up their insecurities in different but similarly hurtful ways.  Eventually, people will get to know these losers for what they are.  Try not to let it get to you, it just feeds the fire for them.  Tell people who listen to these persons to consider the source, to consider what kind of person he/she is and what they like to do to people.  Tell them that if they want the truth, to ask you...otherwise, they are just as bad as the rumor mongers.  Sorry for your mess, I hope this helps a bit.
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you have to have a beautiful smile so and a smile make wonders because every smile has a charm behind it.be yourself and dont show the others u r tensed or scared cause it shows on th face.\n\nu go girl!!!
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hey, this is problee gonna sound weird, but reading ur description sounds exactly like the way that I am. I am also a fourteen year old girl and i do many of the same things that you do. And although I'm not a textbook or a surefire answer giver, i'm gonna try to help you. ok, here we go!\n\n*when u are sad and depressed and want to be in ur room, instead of crying and hiding call someone!!! or IM or whatever, tell them how u feel or make plans to do something! that way u can concentrate on something other than misery. i did the same things u did, the beginning of 2006 i didn't talk to anyone, i was classified as a "goth" in school just because i dress like one and i would bum around and not smile and laugh, even if i knew i wanted to, i also found myself eating just because i was bored, which wasn't good.\n\n*when u make up things in ur mind about how ur life should be lke how u should look or having the perfect boyfriend or house or a lot of money, stop and realize that so, yea maybe what u do have seems like shit. but look around u! do u have friends that are worse off? think not about what u dont have, but what u do! try every day to look in the mirror and find ONE thing about yourself that u like, give yourself just one compliment, every day, it really helps! i used to wake up every morning and say to the mirror "goodmorning stupid. i hate u and arent u glad that u are one day closer to dying today?" i used to do that. EVERY DAY. i told myself i was stupid and ugly. and thats exactly what i became. im a straight A student most of the time and i was failing my classes and i looked like hell, to tell the truth. but giving compliments and talking to friends and going places so u dont have time to think about everything depressing really does help.\n\n*when u sit and dream in public places, try to WAKE UP!!! lol. when i find myself doing exactly that. i look around at people i dont know. i think about what it would be like to be a man in a wheelchair or a woman that has to wear a wig because of cancer, or a child on a leash! and it makes me realize yea so i dont like myself, but look at THESE PEOPLE! these people that have it so much worse than i do - and they just keep living their lives! and believe it or not, thats what U need to do!!!\n\n*when poetry doesn't help, maybe try just drawing things, or even ripping a notebook apart that helps me! haha, yes, i write poetry too and sometimes it helps, it gives me a sort of satisfaction, but when it doesnt, it really helps to talk, even just to yourself! an no, you arent crazy if u do that, as long as you aren't answering yourself haha. \n\ni know what its like to feel like u are only here to take up space and that everything will be better and no one will care when u are finally gone. i know how that feels. and yea it sucks, but its not true! u can make just as much of a difference living the life u do now, as the one u imagine, just open up and talk to somene and try to start doing more when u feel like isolating yourself or eating for no reason because, if u are this much like me, i can already tell that u are an awesome person!!! and thats the truth!!! really it is!!! i'm glad u posted your question and i'm even more glad i saw it and have the chance to try to help...i dont know if i helped much, after all, im only 14 like you, not  a professional or anything. but then again, maybe i can help MORE than a pro could, cause ive actually BEEN there\n\nso, i really hope i helped u and if u just overlook this cause u are angry and dont like what i said, its fine, really, i wont think any less of u as a wonderful person, but just do remember this, please, if someone cares enough to try to help u, U ARE NOT WORTHLESS!!! and u do MUCH more than just take up space! remember that! \n\nwell, maybe if i ever have a question, u can help me with mine sometime? talk to u later maybe!\n-Rachel J. age:14, Pennsylvania, USA, e-mail: melancholi
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Try to give them a chance, but I understand about not connecting, I am not great friends with anyone at school, I like other people
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its definetly not okay for people to treat you like that. I've been in the same boat. Start crying while you're sitting by yourself one day, and you'll have instant friends. Not just because they feel sorry for you, but because they'll see the error of their ways.
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OK, I am going to speak plain with you. You have come here for some emotional support, perhaps some consolation and for others to jump on the bandwagon of your selfpity and pity and feel sorry for you. I am not going to insult you or be mean to you, however, I am not going to lie to you either or encourage you to feel powerless by acting the victem. \n\nListen, if you want to grow self esteem, self respect, the first thing you need to do is take your personal power back by stopping this victem stuff, stopping this feeling sorry for yourself. You are as deserving as the next person of happiness and good treatment. I don't care what your race is, what language you speak natively, or what type or how bad your accent is, what your weight is, how tall you are, the shape of your eyes, or nose, or butt either. You are a hunam with rights the same as anyone else. \n\nWith that said, I want you to listen very carefully here. WE TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT US!!! If you allow yourself to feel like a victem, then you will be a victem. Do victems have personal power? Do victems have self esteem? Do victems have self respect? No to all of the above. However, nobody can make you a victem except YOU. You are choosing to view these events as a victem, rather than stand up for yourself and demand proper treatment. \n\nWhy did you not go to the principles office and report these incidents? Why are you allowing these people to treat you poorly? There are things you can do to stop this sort of treatment and you are the only one who can do it. Nobody is going to do anything to gain you proper treatment, nobody is going to step in and say, "hey, you need to treat this young girl right!". As sad as I am to say that, it is the truth. The reason nobody will do this is because you have isolated yourself, have not made friends, have not nurtured your life here in this country. You have allowed yourself to be trampled on and become downtrodden and that is not attractive to others. Nobody wants to be friends with victems, or with those who allow themselves to be treated poorly. That is a sad fact of life. People want to be friends with the popular kids, with those with self esteem and self respect. People always love the winners, not the losers. It is a sad fact of life, especially for the younger crowd. \n\nListen, kids are the cruelest animals on the face of the earth. They know when another kid is weak and vulnerable and they, like wolves, go for the soft underbelly of those who are weaker and rip and tear them apart. As you have not stood up for yourself, have not placed bounderies around yourself which tell others what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate, they see a person easy to taunt and take things out on. Kids are under a great deal of pressure and they will find those weaker than themselves to degrade and beat up on in order to release the presure they are feeling. Sad fact of life for a kid. Even adults will act like this sometimes. \n\nYou need to start gaining self esteem by setting bounderies on how you will tolerate treatment. You need to take back your power by going to the proper authorities and reporting those who abuse you. You need to report anyone who lays a hand on you, who so much as touches a single hair on your head. \n\nStart holding your head up when you walk around. Stop looking at the ground, and allow yourself to look others straight in the eyes. This is America and in America we look others in the eyes, not keep our eyes on the ground. You need to learn how to fake it tell you make it. In other words, if you pretend you are happy, if you pretend you are not miserable, find stuff to do, and look happy and look content with life, soon you will discover you actually are. \n\nI use to hate having to push a shopping cart home from the store. I felt embarressed due to it seeming to signel to others my poor status. I was ashamed and always looked at the ground so not to see the contempt I imagined in the ey