My best friend for over 10 years recently had some additions to his family when his dad remarried.  Besides havin a really cool new mom he has 2 new sisters.  He's really bonding with the older one who is our age, 25, but he doesnt get along with the younger one who is 15.  His family is like my 2nd family and we've been like brothers for over 10 years. His younger sister and I have really bonded because I'm family so shes like a younger sister to me.  Recently she got involved in varsity sports so her mom asked me to help train her.  This led to us spending alot of time together to work on her goals.  My friend is really upset not that Im helping her so he says but that I've kind of befriended her and I respect her as a sibling eventhough she's 15 and I'm 25.  Obviously Im not looking to get involved with her romantically, shes like a little sister to me and he knows that. So why is he so pissed at me for helping her.  Our friendship is no longer the same. He avoids my calls etc
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He's probably getting suspicious of you thinking you're wanting to get involved romantically with her.   You might want to only hang out with her around other people.
219148
His parents sound pretty immature and pointlessly mean, if they weren't kidding around. It also sounds like he's picking up on their behavior and imitating it. But his parents' behavior is not as important as his, since he is the one who is your friend. You can confront him about it, if you choose, or you can decide whether his friendship is still valuable to you. Everyone has little things that will annoy us, whether it's friends or family, and you just have to decide whether hanging out with them is worth putting up with them. If his only bad trait is that he occasionally teases your brothers, you might just simply want to ask him to stop.
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First explain to your bff that its going to be hard for you not to hang out with her since you guys go on trips and stuff like that then you need to ask your dads gfs daughter why she said that stuff about your bff maybe your bff did something to offend her try to get them to make up and if that doesn't work then your bff is just going to have to accept that you cant really get away from you dads gfs daughter
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My bestfriend and I have known each other since 7th grade, however, we wern't really friends till 11th.  We have had our rough patches, but no matter what is going on we would always be there for one an other.  Recently I needed to borrow a faily large amount of money for a settlement on an old debt.  She let me have the money (my family would not do this for me), since I have paid her back.  I think that people may have bad expirances with so called friends because one trys to take advantage of the other.  We would never do this to each other, it is far more importaint to me that she is always a part of my life.  She has been my bestfriend for 10 years and I don't plan on that ever changing.
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Sounds like this is a one-sided friendship. Is your friend jealous of your other friends? Maybe he/she is insecure or envious of you because you have other friends. There must be something you like about this person since you have remained friends for over 10 years. Has he/she always been this way? Or is it something that is recent?  If it is more recent your friend may have a valid point. We all go through changes and unfortunately we cannot always go in the same direction as our friends. We can only hope that our friends can take a back seat while we are growing. And if the friendship is meant to be it will be there when we return to earth. If your friend has always been like this, I would say it is time to reevaluate your friendship with her. Sounds like she is not the kind of friend you want to keep.\n\nI have 3 friends that I have known for over 35 years and there were times that we didn't speak or see each other, but we are still the best of friends today.
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No, I disagree.  What you didn't tell us is why he doesn't like her.  Maybe he has a very good reason.  Maybe your friend is doing/saying things behind your back.  Putting them together would be volitile to say the least and used as a last resort.  Blackmailing them into getting along would not be advised.  Though that might help on the surface, it would fester.  Does your BFF like him?  Maybe she likes him too much?  Just wondering....
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maybe have a get together with all the friends.. maybe all of you could , at same time, try one more time to explain to her just how you all feel about it... then back off and leave her alone.. she is an adult, and as such should be treated with respect.. it is her choice, her life and she has final say as to how to live it... be supportive no matter what she decides to do.. a true friend, speaks up, and then backs off and then supports..... God bless
216135
Not to make light of the situation, but tell them to grow up because you are too mature for all this drama.  Ask them why you can't have two best friends?
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It is perfectly normal for the older sister to not get along with her younger sister.  I feel your pain.  My sis and I never got a long growing up.  But, now we are the best of friends and would do anything for each other.  Remember, they are younger and you know better.  So, ease up on them.., give them a chance to grow as well.  Be there for them and one day they will thank you for it.
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People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
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Remember this is a five year old we are talking about.  One who is probably very jealous about this "intruder" who is coming between her and her daddy.  She may have a fear that her parent's break-up is her fault or that her father will not want to be with her like he and her mother don't want to be together.  There are a lot of things going on here.  It also sounds like there's a bit of jealousy on your part too, either for the child or for the mother for having given your husband a child. It's hard to be a step-parent especially when a child is young; but don't try to be her mother it sounds like this five year old needs a friend. maybe if you approach her from that direction, you can make her understand that you aren't a threat to her and you can get to know her better at thew same time.
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I have the very same situation.  You dont fix something that they dont wish to be fixed.  All you can do is love them both.  Accept the situation.  Believe me, it doesnt go away.  We 3 sisters are all seniors, and it remains as such.\nThey do not talk to each other.  I speak with both, but closer to one than the other.  The one, who is the first born, is the one who chooses as you describe. I am the youngest.  Just thought I'd toss these two items in to see if it correlates to your birth order as well.
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How should I feel ? Sounds like a loaded question.\nCannot tell you how to feel.Whatever you are feeling areexactly how you are feeling.\nThe question should be : How should I handle it?\n1. Your friend is 30 yrs. old\n2. She was already staying with you.\n3. Had too much to drink\n4. Homeless------ No excuse\n5. friends for 21 years\n\nNow lets look at your Dad\n\n1. Your Dad--Your role model\n2. Knows your friend was already staying with you ?\n3. Knows she was drinking\n4. Knows that your friend could have been you---- same age.\n5. Knows that she is your friend for 21 years\n\n\n FACTS\nYour friend knew what she was doing\nShe knew that she already had somewhere staying---- with you.\n3. She probably had , had a crush on your Dad\n4. Excuse that there were 2 beds in room eventhough it was the truth--Excuse\n\nFacts about you\n\n1. you trusted your friend\n2. you trusted your Dad\n3. You did not expect your friend to do that.\n4. You did not expect your Dad to MAKE that STUPID  decision \n5. Now you are feeling torn up inside\n6. Eventhough they are both saying the same thing , A part of you is not sure if you do believe them.\n\n\nWhat you could do\n\n1. Tell your friend exactly how you are feeling--- if she values your friendship any at all, she should understand and apologise to you.\n2. If after 21 years she does not value the friendship, she will get up in your face, thinking it is no big deal.\n3. Talk to your Dad. First with respect. Tell him how you are feeling about the situation that took place.\n4. Tell him your friend was already staying with you , if he did not know that.\n5.Tell him you mean him no disrespect because he is a grown man , but you believe he made a dumb, stupid, whatever you feel like type of mistake.\n\n6.Finish it from there.\n\n\n7.REMINDER: \nTHey both made stupid mistakes.\nIt is up to you after this is over to FORGIVE and get on with your life.\nAt least you were honest with your feelingson this\n\nPraying for you.
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I think it is commendable that you care that your sister acts like she hates you.  That shows you care about her, and I don't know you guys, of course, but I truly believe that if you just hang on and stay out of her way as much as you can, she will come around.  It might take a few years, but my daughter acted like she hated me from the time she turned thirteen until seventeen and she suddenly matured and she is thirty one now and we are the best of friends!!  Try not to take it too personally, that age is just so hard for some adolescents, too much self-doubt and pressure to fit in that family sometimes take the fallout.  Good luck!
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Going through this right now with one of my best friends and the dumbest part is we are in our 30's (way too old for this crap) anyway, I have decided to let it be for now, but I assure you while I won't be a complete jerk to her I have no desire to be as close as we were, because obviously she doesn't value our friendship the way that I do or this would not have happened.
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If you truly value your friendship with her let her go. She is changing and she needs to grow. Unfortunately it may not be in the same direction you are going right now. This happens to a lot of friendships as we get older and mature. She needs to do this for herself right now. Eventually she may come back to being her old self and realize what a wonderful friend she has in you. I went through this myself and for about 5 years was out of touch with 2 of my best friends from school. We are now better friends than we were back in school. Don't take any of this personally, it isn't about you, it is about your friend needing to go in a different direction right now. This is also your time to find other friends too. Don't do or say anything that could jeopardize the friendship you had with her. You both need some space and hopefully in time you will be able to get back what you had before, and it will be even better.
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i think your friend is being really immature. if she don't want to listen to what the new friend has to say then forget her and ask her if the shoe was on the other foot how would she expected to be treated.