I was badly hurt when all of a sudden my bf changed and avoided me without a word. He just told me to stop calling him. He left me guessing on what fault had I committed.  I didn't show him my emotions & I stopped calling him.  After several months I gave him a gift just for my peace of mind.
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My guess would be it wasn't something you did it was something or some one he wanted to do and couldn't as long as he had a commitment to you. The gift was a nice gesture and if it made you feel better, then it was twice the gift you thought it was. Mend and move on girl. There's one out there for you.
36558
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
361249
Either call him directly or snailmail him a letter of detail expressing your concern for the direction your relationship seemed to be taking.\n\nHe may have had other issues to deal with and could not open up about them at that time - therefore presenting distance that you may have misinterpeted towards you.....\ndo not push, if he can share his feelings he will.\n\nExpress to him how much you have missed him and that you are sorry for hurting him also.\n\nIf he does not wish to continue dating at least try and establish some form of friendship - mutually.\n\nBest wishes!
667321
The truth will set you free. when you finally get in contact with him you make sure you tell him everything, Like how you didnt appreciate when he wasnt callin you and checking on you or nothing. Its alright to hear his side of the story but you give him a piece of your mind, and make him feel shity. you spending your time waiting on him to call, and he out doing other stuff. let'em know girl
532727
Remember, people are ALWAYS communicating with you, even if it is non-verbal.  Right now he's saying that the pain of confrontation and admitting his bad behavior is more painful than trying to repair your relationship.  You have offered to try to repair it through your attempts to contact him.  Now it's time to let it go.  Big talker, right?  I didn't say it was going to be easy, or pain-free, it just has to be done for your own sake.  And believe me, you don't want to feel like you don't give a damn, that would be denying your feelings, your trust in your relationship, and your broken heart.  I'm going to tell you to do something that is going to sound dorky, but I really want you to try it (what do you have to lose?)  Write him a letter.  Say everything you want to say about how you feel, how hurt you are, how angry you are, call him names.  End the letter by saying goodbye and saying how much you will miss the relationship you had.  You will never send this letter.  After you've written it, read it once, then rip it up and throw it away.  I promise you this will help.  You will still hurt, but please do this and you will feel better.  You need closure, and since he's not giving it to you, give it to yourself.  Let me know how it goes.
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maybe, don't really know, he was hurt and you added to the hurt, but at least you wrote a letter of apology and an explanation, it all depends on if he reads it or not, he might be hurt and mad to the point that he just doesn't read it, if he doesn't reply in a timely manner then call him and keep calling him until he answers
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
278393
well...recently...I ended up cheating on my last boyfriend because he disappeared for two weeks then came back and ignored me for a week and I didn't know what was going on so when an old friend of mine put the moves on me about 50 times within one sitting...saying "no" got to be to hard. I should have just left, but I was so upset...I don't know what I was thinking.
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I had the same problem with my present boyfriend.  Instead of trying to constantly get through to him (which can annoy the person after a while), just let him know that you are there for him and that he has no reason to keep his guard up.  This should only be told to him once, and whatever happens after that is up to him.  Though it may take a while for him to accept it and open up, it may work.
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I have to agree with groovy.  Maybe his constant asking needed to be addressed.  Just apologize for the way you addressed it and talk it through.  Have a small gift from the heart that will answer that question from now on so that it never has to be said and your relationship can continue to move on.
76713
well..personally, i would have been a little offended if you had called me up and told me you couldnt go all the sudden...mainly because it seems like the way you told him wasnt exactly sorry, or anything...i think you should have been sweet and called him up and just explained what happend and ask if you could go on the date maybe later, or another day, and be really sweet about it...on the other hand, i think he overreacted and he should have at least called you and told you it was over...i think its okay for you to call him..you both should talk through this and either make up and get back together, or make up and go your sepreate ways...and for in the future, always talk about whats going on, and be sweet about it..guys have a tendency to be stupid and think that if you cant do something you dont want to be with them..i kind of went through this with my gf a bit, and now we talk through everything and even though we disagree on stuff and sometimes get upset with each other, we can always work through it and make each other happy :) good luck!
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Well I am currently dating a Libra and he is still unsure after 3 years if he wants to move this relationship to the next level.  I ask him and he freaks out that I am pressuring him.  We really don't have conflicts.  Just basic relationship woes everyone goes through.  I knew he liked me when he started calling me on a daily basis.  He doesn't like talking on the phone and doesn't answer it unless it's me calling.
451831
Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
349334
no. your bf should of had the decency to keep you away from him without being asked to do so. im sure hes the type that thinks hes helping his friend or being loyal. but if it was my gf id of fucked my friend off a long time ago.
493529
that happened to me once i liked a guy(lets call him x) and i secretly told a friend of mine that i thought x was cute. four months down the line i get a text from x asking how i was and asked me to go out on a date. we met for that date had a really gud time and he told me that he liked me the first time he saw me. we kept intouch for another 2 weeks and after that i have never heard from him again.i felt really bad coz i never knew what  turned him off. at times i wonder how it would have been if he kept in touch. i am glad it happened like that because i would never have met my bf whom i love very much and he makes me happy.
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i would talk to him and explain your feelings. My husband and I used to play fight and when things gor out of hand I think he thought I was able to handle the come back, because I was willing to play. Men often forget how strong they are. Once I explained to my husband he was hurting me everything changed.
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i think that me and my boyfriend may be breaking up today. i'm really nervous and not sure what to do.  don't call him, just let it all go. that'll be the easiest thing to do.