my parents are good people, but i hate them for the lack of disiplene they gave me, as a result ive had to learn things the hard way all my life.  im 23 and i cant forgive them, i hate them every time i see them i get angry.
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u just said they are good people!! did u ever think why they didn't give u the "right" descipline? it could be bcz of ignorance only
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I learnt that no matter what u do in life or what u do for others u will always have haters.you will always have fake and foony friends. I also learnt that your family is the most perciuos gift you will have in life. And when my sister dead when i was the age of 9, that things happen for a reason.
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I learned when I was 3.  I lost my father to a drunk driving accident, he was the drunk driver.  It was something that I really never recovered from, my mother did the best she could to raise me and my sister, but I still never had a father figure.  It has also made it difficult on me now as a father myself.
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Probably because there are so many ignorant parents and they had ignorant parents.  I'm guessing this applied to you and you come from a long line of ignoramuses.  Do something productive with your time, go pound sand with your Butt buddy the very ignorant N-man.
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I don't know what I want to do but I will have hateness in my heart with everyones who was killed my parents.
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First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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parents back then were that type of persons with their families, and they just were raised themselves that way and is not your mother's fault, but her, mother, and then her mother of her mother...and so on....nonetheless, you can make the change with your family and with you followed generations to come.....in your case, I can see that you have these hateful feelings about your mom, and brothers....Remember that things happens for one reason, you don't know why it happened the way it happened, but thank God, you are ok, even though you feel these feelings.....Try to forget if you can, try to do well to others and always, talk to others, the way you were treated like that others wont do what your mom did to you, and let this experience be of good use to others and forget all bad feelings and live a healthy life you and your family, God bless you and if you could Get a bible study..Good luck.
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Oh sweetheart, I know how you feel.  I was in the same situation about 20 years ago.  It is horrible.  The thing that helped me the most was a quotation I discovered by accident.  "Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy".  If the man who reared you has been a father(daddy) in every way, then you are twice blessed.  Know that the decision to not tell you was based on your parents belief that it was the best for you. They loved you and wanted you to feel secure and safe.  \n\nThe anger will go away when you forgive them.  It is an act of will and obedience.  Bring your flesh under control.  Cry out to God in your hurt and let your heavenly father comfort you.\n\nRemember, all things work together for good for them that serve the lord.
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i hate my real father as well. and im 34. he didnt raise me and i tried to have a relationship with him and i hate everything about him. not because he wasnt there, but because hes a huge arrogant jerk who thinks hes superior. unfortunately, we cant pick our parents. oh, sorry about your mom. i dont know your age, but you wont have to be with him forever. try not to let him bring you down because it sounds like hes miserable and trying to bring you down with him. just do your thing and so whatever to him. i know being around certain people can drain you and zap your energy and ambition-but you have a future ahead of you, as for him, im sure hes middle-aged and hates some of the choices hes made. try to keep your head up.
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Well I don't blame you for the way you feel. Let me tell you something, my parents are separated, they have been some time now. So I am living with my mom and only my mom, things have changed with my family, I have grown up more and have more responsibility and what I think of my mom has changed.\n\nI didn't like my father either, so i decided to live with my mom, and now my life is OK...
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I wouldn't say there's something wrong with you. It sounds like your anger had more to do with something a lot deeper than going shopping with your parents.\n\nDo your parents make you feel left out or do you have other anger issues with your parents? If so, it could help a lot if you start speaking up to them in a respectful way and letting them know how you're feeling. Sometimes it can be really hard for people to ask for things that they want but with practice it becomes easier. \n\nIf the reason you got angry was because they didn't ask you, well you have to remember that people aren't mind readers. Sometimes we all fall into the trap of expecting other people to do something for us or ask something of us. But the fact is that people often just don't know; even people that we're very close to.\n\nTry to figure out what it is you were really angry about and then see if there's a pattern to your anger. If you often react to anger in an extreme way, like hitting things, then you may want to talk to someone about it and find ways to deal with your anger in a more healthy and constructive way.\n\nBe good to yourself and take care
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well both my parents are deceased but one of my brothers still tries to treat me like the "baby", and i'm 40yrs old.  feel blessed that u still  have ur parents no matter how the treat u.........they r still with u...........u r blessed
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Gee, my mom is 80 or so, and I have similar problems. The only thing that has helped me is reading the Crankshaft Cartoon in the newspaper. Seeing that the problem is not unique to my circumstance has enabled me to find some humor in it. \n\nI think perhaps we can learnhow to be patient and not become hateful or angry by having to deal with these situations. I purpose in my heart not to expect my mom to do what I consider logical, or best for her, and condition myself to drop down into the "peace that passes understanding" whenever she refuses to keep track of her holdings. Sometimes it doesn't work, but I am worse off when I allow myself to get upset. \n\nI have started to clean up my own affairs so that I don't do this to my own son as I age. Why, just a few weeks ago, I actually gave away 4 books! (lol) It seems really difficult to fight the process of becoming my mom.
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I'm 20 and when I left for college I met so many different people and realized that my parents were very strict.  I'm an only child and I think thats the reason.  I soon realized living on my own that for most of my life I'd been scared of my partents.  Don't get me wrong I love them and I did  have a great life, however I was living for them and not for me.  Their big mistake was not letting me know they loved me for who I am and not who they wanted me to be.  When I was finally out on my own I had a really hard time but I finally learned to relly on myself and it's been great.  \n\nI never really confonted my parents about this.  I figure there really is no point thats how they were my whole life and me telling them they screwed up isn't going to help our lives.  I'm happy with my life now and I wont let them control me anymore.
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For the teenager who's parents are immigrants,... LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE AND TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT, you don't know what kind of life they lived and all that has to do with what makes them who they are now.  So don't try to change them into anything else. Just try to understand they did the best they could with what they had and with what knowledge they recieved. It may not be perfect but if they love you then just accept them for what they did for you.  For one thing in order to raise you, you don't know what kind of sacrifices, let me rephrase that, SACRIFICES they made and still make for you.  They could do what a lot of  people like to do and just think of themselves and get what they want but they probably didn't and gave what they could to make you who you are.  So once again, just love them and screw the american culture it's all selfish and self serving nowadays anyway.
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It is a terrible thing being abused by a parent.  You can deal with it andthough you think you have toughed it out, you still should get some professional help.\nYou just need to remember, that none of it for any reason was your fault.  You need to know that the abuser had issues and unfortunetly didnot deal with them except for lashingout at you.  Maybe as a child growing up, this parent was brought up in an abusive home.  Only she and possibly you will ever really know that but the deal is to forgive that abuser, and forgive yourself for there was nothing you did wrong and nothing you could have done to prevent it.  I am so happy you are out of that situation and would really like you to join a support group, or seek professional thereapy with a specialist because many times the cycle of abuse passes from one generation to the next, and many times, we don't realize this until it's too late.  These people help get inside of your head and really get to the core, and that does go a long way to being able to cope with it and not pass it on into your generation.\n  confronting the abuser is usually done at a certain point of the therapy and I would suggest not doing it until then.  It is very probable that you still have contact with this person and this person may still have an abusive nature, such as that which will come out more as verbal, emotional abuse as you are older now.\n  Please get someone to help you deal with it...they are trained and although you say you have pretty much dealt with it, you really haven't and you need to.............\n  Good luck and I am so sorry for what your parent did to you.  You were helpless and felt so unloved and so wrong all of the time, and believe me, this is not lawful and it is certainly not fair.  Good luck and stay tough.............
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Be open and honest it is better to talk with them and for them to know what's going on.  Parents may be disappointed YES, but that doesn't mean that they are going to stop loving you.  It's like I'm trying to teach my kids, I may not always like everything you tell me, in fact somethings I might even get upset over, but that has NO impact on just how much I LOVE YOU!  It's hard to believe but most times when we get upset over something it's because we've been there and done that, we know the mistakes you are making and how painful the pitfalls can be, and we hope to prevent you from making some of the same ones. But you also have to grow and learn and even though we would like to lock you up and never let you out you have to learn to make wise choices and that doesn't happen with out screwing up occasionaly.  We also like to think that our little girls are never going to grow up. It's tough for us to see you making grown up choices. Honestly though, parents know more than their kids think, and sometimes it's easier to turn a blind eye.  It's killer to think of your kids doing those things, one day you will understand.  I have eaten my words of "I'll never be like you when I'm a mom" "I'll be understanding"  Yeah right, as a teen you can't  fully understand parents because that's God's gift to us. We on the other hand have the experence and knowledge of our youth, and the smarts from learning from our screw-ups.  and you can learn alot from sitting down and just talking about this with your parents.  It can also bring you closer.  Parents like it when their kids do take the time to confide and trust in them.  Just tell them that you want to sit down and talk. Decide on a time, make an invitation and give it to them, saying the date and time.  Then plan out how you want to tell them. You could always write a poem and stick it in the poem.  Or you could write it in your journal and leave it out in a open place for them to read.  Of coarse I'm sure they already know where you keep it and could already be informed and are just waiting for you to come out with it.  Just remember that know matter how upset they may seem at first, they really do LOVE YOU!!!! I guarantee it. \nAnytime you want to talk feel free.........Your parents are not the enemy!  Learn to trust in their love for you. In closing I really hope that this isn't my daughters friend Becca, I might just have to whop you myself when you get back. So much for the pleasantries sounded nice though lol...........but really it is true. Just alittle humor there, who knows maybe my daughter put you up to the question. OH that would be really bad!!!!! OK, don't let my thoughts get the better of me.  It's tough being a parent, and really we don't get paid nearly enough. Take care and stick with the game of softball and those bases, it's much safer.