WHAT SHOULD IDO ABOUT IT? ITW ASNT VERY NICE, WE WERE JUST TALKING BAOUT MOVIES AND I SAID THIS MOVIE WAS STUPID . . BUT I HAVNT SEE IT.  ..BLAH BLHA BLAH . ..AND THEN HE SAID I WAS JUDGEMENTAL AND I SAID NO IM NOT AND HE SAID U ALSO ALWAYS HAVE TO HAVE YOUR WAY ... AND  I SAID HOW AND HE SAID GTG BYE AND SIGNED OFF I GOT KINDOF HURT BY HIM SAYING THIS! HOW SHOULD I REACT? SHOULDI JUST PRETENED IT NEVER HAPPENED?
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Sounds like you need to take a hard look at yourself.  It does sound like maybe you are judgmental.  How you can say a movie is stupid after admitting that you haven't even seen it?  Isn't that a good example of being judgmental?  \n\nIt is normal to react to criticism with hurt and denial.  But, take a deep breath, calm down and really think about your behavior and comments.  You could also ask others who are close to you how they feel.  But, do that only if you are willing to hear the truth no matter how painful it is.  Often, we are not aware of how our words and actions come across to others.  \n\nCriticism is usually meant to help us improve ourselves so instead of taking it personally, really think it through.
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the situation you're in is kinda confusing but if you already told him about how you feel (and i think that was really brave) and he juz smiled at you and didnt tell you what you expected to hear than i guess he's not as into you as you are with him. he smiled at you coz he doesnt want to be rude. it'll be tough coz you really like him (love him even) but you gotta move on i think. you deserve better. tc
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Chances are that he is just joking with you. Because you never said that him saying that you were stupid offended you, he thinks it is okay to say it. If in fact you do get offended by him saying this then you need to tell him or in the long run you will feel animosity for him repeatably saying it. Just be up front but not overly dramatic about it. The next time he says it just be like,''Hey, stop saying that it hurts my feelings, babe.'' If you say it in a cute way it will make him melt. On the other hand, when you say these things to him maybe he doesn't want you to tell you that it really hurts his feelings because he doesn't know how you will react. All together I would just stop saying those things to him. If it doesn't bother either of you then that's fine too. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
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Sounds like he meant it, he just wants to prove it to you through his actions .... guys just don't know what to say .... wouldn't you want him to show you through his actions or would you rather he just said 'Of course I meant it' and not really mean it.
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LOL!! That was a beautiful way to handle that situation!! <bowing humbly>  There is nothing wrong with what you asked him and if he's never talked to you like this before, I would be a little suspicious.  Why is he so defensive?  It was an innocent question, nothing clingy about it.  Something doesn't sit right with this...I could be wrong...but it sounds like he's trying to hide something.
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These people that are calling you "stupid" or saying "wise up" and all of these cut and dry answers are not being very sensitive. The way he is making you feel has got to stop.  That much is true. It's not as easy as all of these bumper-sticker type answers that you are receiving.  Like me, these people are not in your shoes, it's easy to say to "wise up" or some of the other suggestions. You are the only one that knows your entire set of circumstances. One thing, you say that you "convey" how it hurts and you are the type of person to laugh to keep from crying.  The very next time he calls you stupid or makes you feel like a low-life, don't hold back your tears! Don't just "convey" your feelings to him.  Cry your eyes out!  Show him immediately how badly it hurts you when he makes you feel that way.  You have got to overcome this "internalizer" thing you say that you are.  It will be hard I am sure.  It's been alot of years that you have held back what's going on with you deep down emotionally.  He is probably the last person on earth you could really feel like you could talk to about this.  If you want to cope with it, you have to bring it out in a big way to him and then see how he reacts to how hurt you truly are by seeing your emotions when you let them out. You may be pleasantly surprised. He may not realize how serious the problem is because you have never really let him know.  See how he reacts to your true emotions over the long period of time that you have held back and then take it from there.
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First, did he tell you he went? If so and youre still upset, then you might wanna explore WHY this bothers you so much. He came home to you, right? If it's something he enjoys, why not let him go? Either way, have a talk with him and let him know your feelings.\n\nIf he didnt tell you he was going (or went - sometimes this stuff happens on a whim), then I feel you on feeling disrespected since it would appear he was doing something shady.\n\nAt any rate, Id have a talk with him...non-accusatory, respectful, etc...dont get him defensive because youll get nowhere...\n\nGood luck :-)
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I think you are both in the wrong here. He was a jerk, and you overreacted. While you do have every right to be upset here, I don't think this is as big of an issue as you are making it out to be. \n\nSit down and have yet another talk with him. Do not let your temper get the better of you. Calmly explain that you feel that what he did was an intimate act, reserved for couples. Not something to be done for a casual friend, especially since you sat there watching the whole thing. Remind him that he even admitted he wouldn't want a guy doing the same for you. After you've said how you feel, then apologize for loosing your temper like that. You wanted to express your feelings, and things got out of control.\nIf he can't see your point of view, and apologize in return, then maybe it's time he spent a few nights on the couch while you take the bed.
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wow. what a jerk.  he's so not worth your time!\nit sounds to me like he was leading you on.. i dont know if that's the case, but i think you should find another amazing guy who will actually acknowledge ur presence!
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Wow maybe you should try  give him some comments back when he tells you something nice! believe me we man like a lady in the streets but a freak in in the sheets so dont try to compete with the slutish. ask him wats he doing on the weekend or somting  then said something like you want to go see ice age2 or something see if he invites you. if that dont work then you should try to talk to him and let him know how you feel if that dont work\n leave him alone for while see wat he does if then let it go!
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If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been.  How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"?  You should have listened.\n\nI'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.
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I'm  sorry he said that. if you haven't had any "romantic" dealings with this man, then he has no right to call you that. tell him that you were rather offended by him saying that, even if it was a joke. jokes are meant to be funny, and obviously, he was the only one who thought it was funny. if he does it again, then tell his wife.
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If you asked me on a date, I would have made arrangements to make it a night that you would want to date me again.I think he was in shock, to be asked and just put some icing on your attempt to get him through that situation,which is very wrong...You need to ask him if he is joking you or not,and be straight forward with him...Whatever you do,don't wait around for the answer,because there are many men that will not turn you down...Unfortunately I would,because I am married to that girl that asked me out...lol
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No, it's all good.  You were right to face him with something to think about that may help him.  It sounds like constructive criticism that offended someone who needed to hear the truth.
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What i think is that the guy that has known you for so long, and he prolly likes u a whole lot and can't stand the fact that u were talkin to someone else throughout the movie besides him. Trust me it has to be that issue, cause i get like that too when the person i deeply care about is talkin with someone else and not me. It drives me jealous, maybe he was jealous that night too, and didn't kno how to take out his anger, so he didn't talk. I suggest that you ask him wat the deal is, but try to catch him on his good side when u tell him, that way u don't ruin a friendship. If he doesn't answer u when you ask him, then don't ask about that subject agian, he will confess to u about the problem in due time.
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you may have lead him on while you were testing the waters.\ntelling someone you need to chill out and not want to see them is two totally different things you should say what you mean and mean what you say.\nwhat you should do is have a serious disscussion telling him exactly how you feel.
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Alright, calm down.\nFirst, ask yourself this. "Who asked who to the movies? And who accepted?" Look, I'll make this simple, if he went to the movies with you he probab;y 'likes' you as teenagers put it.