I recently found my children after 16 years of searching.  I have addresses.  Should I write to them now, or wait until June when school is out.  I don't know if they are in school, but if they are I don't want to affect their studies. They are 21 and 20.
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Write to them....chances are they are curious about you as well. \nYes, it is going to be emotional for all of you. \nGo in to it knowing that you face rejection. \nI am not trying to be mean, just honest. \nI found my father when I was 23 years old... and I went to him with the mind set of I would like to know who you are, but I can accept it if you don't want to know me.\nAt least you are sparing your children the fear of rejection.\nBe prepared to answer alot of questions, I am sure they will come. \nBut, to begin with, enjoy the happiness of finally knowing where they are. \nGood Luck to you.\nAS for now or June... I say now, a lot can happen between now and June, and you don't want to lose the chance.
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I agree. Plan a trip to Nebraska for a few weeks or she can come to CA for a few weeks. Do it during the summer though because a weekend isn't long enough to hang out and you guys can't miss school. Make sure your parents and hers are ok with it first though. As for in the mean time. Why doesn't she just email you a pic?
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I had 2 pen pals from Japan, when I was in the 7th grade of Ele. School;  then, while older--in my 40's and 50's had about 20 pen pals from all across USA! I need to write some of them right now; many of them do not have Computers and Email.---  My favorites:  postal mail, but email sure does save on POSTAGE.
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my brother was over seas for a while, and i barely ever heard from him. it is hard for them to get to the phone, etc, they are so busy and focused on what they are doing. i would keep it up, you probably dont realize your emails are making his day. i would think you should keep it up.
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Most schools can't write to parents, because the student is legally an adult. It will probably show up on her grade report for the semester and they may write a letter. These will probably go to her house, since its her permanent address. Most parents (at least the ones I know of) will open mail from the college addressed to their kids.
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ya its absolutely fine wit not to disclose their names but i would rather suggest that if they dont hav kids then all six of u sould clarify the matter among yourself!but they hav children it would rather be better to get away to some other places so that they donot meet again in future!its necessary to do so for sake of their children!\nand as so concerned for their luv time will teach evrything!
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I found a letter my son wrote about his daycare worker - a man - it said he felt like this man was the nicest man he knew, nicer than his dad (we are divorced) It said the man is married and having a baby and my son hoped it would be best baby in the world and it was the nicest letter - I almost cried.  I took the letter to the daycare when I found it months later, and the man wasn't there anymore but they said they still knew where he was and would send him the letter.\n\nI am a social worker and I had a client send me a letter telling me that I was like a sister to him and how deeply I affected his life in a positive way - he didn't want anything from me, just to say he loved me because of the help I gave him.  I keep that letter and it's been 16 years.  It's in a book with my diploma's, degrees, and my accomplishments and means as much, if not more than the other documents - to me.\n\nWrite her a lovely letter, tell her how important she was in your life and you will never forget her kindness and you wish her well!  Maybe she'll save your wonderful letter.
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your daughter reminds me of me when I was that age, except my dad didnt get remarried and have two kids until I was 17.  My mom had to drag it outta him to get the info.  He never calls, never tells me he changed his phone number or address.  I havent see him since I was 10.  thanks for listening. LoL this can turn into a journal thing  haha.  You also remind me of me.  I am also shy and have few friend.  If i ever had kids and one asked me to do that I would feel just like you.  I would have to be honest with her.  Just tell her the truth before she expects 20 people to show up.
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First and foremost you have to think about what's best for your family.  If making more money, living in a better area, having a more secure future is on the table, take it.  I did it and it's been wonderful.  My children are in better schools and we will be able to send them to college now.  My family comes to visit on holidays or we go visit them.  Long distance phone calls are basically free now and the internet keeps us all in touch.   It's not hard to make new friends and it sure is nice to leave old baggage behind and start fresh.
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No, it's not too late.  Your three semesters should be enough time.  Then your cousins will be sophomores.  When you graduate they will be juniors.  Do the research over the summer to find out what you need to do to get the organization's and your college's approval for you to start it on your campus.  Other people might not see the need because they are involved with their own organizations.  There is probably a huge need.  I knew some people who brought an organization to campus when they were juniors.  It's better to do it now then when you are student teaching.  You'll have NO time then.  Good luck!
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you should have waited for the right time.. but what has been done has been done...i just hope u never regreted it... and if u think it will help you to open that up to your parents,why not...just be ready for a 1 month ground...kiddin!
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well, if your child is over 18, the best way is to just post something on one of those sites where you just look for people. The adoption agency should have told you when you put the child up for adoption whether or not you had the right to contact him/her until they were 18. You can go to the agency and ask too.
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I would suggest waiting until December 14th. Its only a few days. I work for a State University, and honestly, right now half of our staff is already off for Christmas-- chances are if you send in an application now, you won't get a response until mid-January or later.  So my suggestion is, wait for your early decision school, and then if you still want to apply to other colleges, apply in January.
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Its a crock. I got the same letter one time. I was told the same thing. I was special, and certain people had "noticed me".  I was told if I didn't send it by a certain date, the opportunity would be lost, because my cycle of opportunity, would have past, and I would never hear from them again. You notice, the same chain letter. A  year later, I was sent another letter, telling me the same thing. Go figure..
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I would also submit any legal documents such a court orders involving custody matters and legal separation forms if you have any. This way there won't be any problems involving receiving information from the school regarding your child's progress. Take care. I wish you well as you are going through this.
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how many 50 somethings do you see at the school gates??\nhe has done the bringing up kids bit and is now prob just looking forward to a easy life now the responsibility of bringing up kids has gone \nyou really need to talk to him about this and not ask on here yes you'll get a lot of advise but no answers, you'll only get them from talking to your partner,\nfor the record im 38 and would never have another child too old but that's just my personal view and not worth toffee
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Penpals are still there. You try to become penpal of some people, you will not then miss to receive personal letters.