i want to know how many divisions in gay sexualism, like i know some gay they feel like women and some of them feel like man still they want to have sex with a man , some others feel like man and they can have sex with women as well the man who feel like women. i know some crossdressers they almost women, so i totaly confuesed and i want to know all these , somebody who know all these can please answer me?
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Based on what you've said I will take a guess and think you are heterosexual.  You can't use your heterosexual idea of sex and try to understand homosexual activity.  For example, gay couples do not think one plays the "guy" role and the other plays the "female" role because they are both of the same sex...therefore they both play the same role.  Sexual orientation has nothing to do with social behavior.
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i think just as the first person, that we as homosexuals are attracted to the same sex as heterosexuals are attracted to the opposite sex.\n\nhave heterosexuals chosen their lifestyle or are they born that way?  most will say that they are born that way.  as a straight man is inherently attracted to women. they probably can find another man good looking, but does not go further with any action of sex with him. Why? because he is not Sexually attracted to him.  \n\nSame as a gay man, we can find a women absolutely gorgeous but does not want to have sex with her. \n\nWe as humans can recognize beauty that can surround us (as with other people) but to be sexually turned on is something that is a biological feature within us. Any person can physically have sex with anyone we choose. for example,  a straight man can physically have sex with another man but is he gay? or a gay man can physically have sex with a women is he straight? I think that sexuality is a very deep subject that has a ton of variables that can not be simply categorized in to it is this because of that.\n\nhistory has shown that homosexuality has been around for as long as sex has been around.  knowing this i have come to the conclusion that homosexuality is a biologic thing.
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The pornographers are selling the women of the world a bill of goods. Because a lot of men get a thrill out of seeing two girls together, women are being made to feel like being bi or gay is cool. If you are bi or gay, thats a choice you make. In my opinion, its obvious that men and women are biologically meant to be together. If you change that, plan on dealing with negative social issues as a result of your choice. But if you are bi because some guy thinks its cool, then you are being controlled by a hard stick.
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After reading some of the answers, there needs to be a bit of clarification.  Some men want to be, or inside feel like they were supposed to be, women--these are the transgenders or transsexuals.  They are in the process of transitioning.  In that process, they take hormones and possibly operations to give them feminine features.  Not all transsexuals make the complete change, removing their 'outboard motor' and having an 'inboard motor' installed.  Then too there are homosexuals (and not all transsexuals think of themselves as homosexuals), who not only want the feminine position in their relationships, but add a pair of embellishments that makes the matter a little confusing.  Commonly, the "shemale" is happy to have the female parts and persona while keeping the "outboard motor".  Not all who look like shemales are.
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why do people assume that calling somebody 'gay' is a bad thing?\n\nit's the same as calling somebody 'straight'. i never saw anybody get offended by that...\n\nmore importantly: why would YOU pressure somebody to come out of the closet? In this ignorant world coming out of the closet is a hard thing to do, unfortunately. I have a number of gay friends who had to go through the hard period right before coming out, and had to live with the condemnment of people after they came out.\n\ni'm not easily offended by questions, but this one is just way out of line.
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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I'd have to agree with the last post. It seems that most men on the down low are there for a reason...becasue they don't feel that they can openly embrace that part of their sexuality.  I also really think it's a culture based thing, too.  I was doing some reading a while back, and you find a lot of this kind of thing in the Japanese, African American and Hispanic communities.  These communities tend to raise their boys to be strong manly men, and no gay love allowed!
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C. It's not a hetero thing. I know some pretty mouthy, opinionated gay men too. Some people just want to interject their own opinion on others. Like I am doing here. LOL\n\nThe significant difference is that I don't expect you to agree with me.
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Dear vBoy,\n   Many people who are primarily attracted to members of their own sex have gone through a period of confusion during which they tried to form a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.  Perhaps they felt a need to live up to the expectations of others, family, society at large, etc.  But if the attraction is almost exclusively toward the same sex, these people eventually may decide to identify themselves as gays or lesbians.  Sexuality is quite fluid and diverse, however, as Kinsey explained.  For example, in Italy it is quite common to meet handsome young men who have relationships with older men, primarily for financial benefit, but later the young men get jobs and marry and have a family.  Are these men gay?  Straight?  The question is irrelevant.  Sexuality is essentially behaviour.  Even those who have early on identified themselves as gay may at some time have relations with the opposite sex.  It might be situational, or it might be out of pure physical and emotional attraction.  If you desire to know more about such matters, there are many groups who can supply information.  PFlag is a good start.  Look up a local chapter of Parents and Friends of lesbians and gays (PFLag).  I hope my answer has helped.
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Some people limit bisexuality to sexual practices, arousal, and attraction only. However like homosexuality and heterosexuality it also includes things such as affection, love, and companionship. True some men use it at as a mere turning point but others are able to be comfortable with both men and women and may not be attracted to both equally and even have a preference. Some men feel that they don't have to choose because people want them to and thus they don't. For example a man can have relationships with mainly men during most his adult life but find a woman who he falls passionately in love with and ultimately spends the rest of life with. He could still be defined as bisexual despite him having a preference.
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Contemporary research proves that the vast majority of men and women are bi-sexual to one degree or another. For some of us, it is only a quick recognition of the beauty of our own gender, as you suggest, but for others it is something we could act on in an intimate way. So be at peace. You are in good company with about 80% of the human race,
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Haha. Someone discovered something new. Hey man, your wife is misinformed. And you, obviously have not thoroughly explored your body...till now. We all have played with ourselves. Though, some slightly more than others. There are lots of ways for a guy to have intense orgasms. Anyway, the media and the gay community is always perpetrating that a man who dresses well, who's too good looking and goes to the gym is gay. And that such men should stop pretending and come out. This hype causes these type of men to question themselves with questions like "I like it when I/my gf/my wife plays with my anus so am I gay?" or "I do envy other males with better physique than mine so am I gay?"...etc. This is overblown. And it doubles as a strategy to confuse and turn the fashion conscious, good looking, gym going men, gay. Yes it works. There men who are "recruited" gays. Truth is there's always a reason a man becomes gay. No one is born gay. Anyway the percentage of hetero men is higher than our homo counterparts. Whatever it is, the numerous other reasons n questions that you have, can only be answered by yourself. Some men do experience this phase of self questioning. Some don't. If you like men, lust after men, wanna have sex with men, wanna develop relationships with men or marry or live together. Then you are gay. If you don't, then you're not. Having questions doesn't make you gay. Looking at other guys doesn't make you gay. The decisions and choices do. Simple.\n\nWell now that you've added the details, its certainly more complicated. ok so you've probably had a sort of a gay lifestyle back then. But think of the reality, which is now. Are you happy with your wife and marriage? What about children? do you have children? Do you love your wife? why did you marry her in the first place? think of all the moments that both of you shared. If its all good. Then ending the marriage would destroy her and your children (if you have any). Not ending the marriage, will mean that you're not being honest to your wife and yourself. Either way someone will get hut. It boils down to you. Yes, its really difficult. Think about it and weigh the situations. You could talk to your wife about the problem, maybe with a counsellor too. I wish you good luck.
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this is what gets me woundering about gay/ lesbians...if a guy is gay he says he dont like woman....but he dresses and tries to look like a woman....then there are lesbians says i cant stand men but the get the short hair cuts and dress like a man work out like a man and try to be like a man...so if someone dont like the oposite sex why do they try so hard to be just like them.... i do agree with you its just nasty.....my comment on the subject,,,
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Drs Master and Johnson in their study of human sexuality found that most people are a mix of gay and hetero.\n\nGo explore yourself, and love what you find, and you will be OK.
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This is really too big  a question for a short question/answer format like this but I think you know that and this is only one step in the process.  \nYou use a lot of labels in your question and maybe it might make you feel better to remove some of them.  You are you.  You are not simply hetero/homo/bi or repubican/democrat.  You have to determine what you are yourself.  Not me.  Not your family.  Not people at school or work.  You might spend many years figuring it out and changing your mind a few times.  \nThere is nothing wrong with exploring all your options along the way.  Men are supposed to have a rigid sense of sexuality while women are not only allowed but encouraged to be more fluid in their sexuality.  \nYou might be confusing desire for male company, affection, guidance, love, companionship, and intimacy for homosexuality.  Don't confuse needing men with being gay.  Since the late 20th century, any type of longing for male companionship has been labeled as gay or homo-erotic.  For milenia before that it was considered the norm.  Now, if you do anything with another man that doesn't involve killing someone you start to wonder if you're gay.\nAs for looking at men in photos, you could be projecting yourself as the man in the photo.  That's like longing to be the millionaire in a picture in place of the model next to his Rolls Royce.  I've had friends in the 80s-90s who displayed the cover of Donald Trump's book prominently.  they didn't want to have sex with him but they fantasized about being him in the photo.  They wanted to pretend to be him, have his possessions: the car, the wife, the money, the power, the notoriety.  Similarly, you can see the man in a photo and you'd love to have his possessions: great muscles, gorgeous face, nice hair, nice cock, his long list of sexual conquests.  That's one of the reasons why guys look at porn: to imagine themselves in the position of the guy.  John Holmes was a very popular porn star because the mostly male viewers wanted to live vicariously through him.\n\nTry to relax about it.  Enjoy yourself along the way.  There's no deadline.  Whichever way you go is perfectly alright if it works for you.  You can always dabble if you're respectful, honest, and safe.
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I would say if you have feelings for members of the same sex and you want to act on them, or you do act on them then you might be gay. And if you're not at all interested in being with someone of the opposite sex, but only someone of your same sex. It's also possible you could just be confused.
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I am straight and I was born this way.\nYou are gay and I know you were born that way.  Cheers!\n(Here's a bit of scientific proof for the naysayers)\n\nThe sexual area of a gay man's brain works a lot like that of a woman when exposed to a particular stimulus, researchers say.\n\nIn an experiment, men and heterosexual women sniffed a chemical from the male hormone testosterone. The homosexual men's brains responded differently from those of heterosexual males, and in a similar way to the women's brains.