I make sure that everone is happy and never miss a chance to help even a stranger. I feel like in the end maybe someday some one will be kind enough to care about me. How do I help my self to receive not only give.Family and friends always appriciate for a moment but the moment passes and im alone in my unhappiness again. Im not depressed I just want to feel the same way I make others feel. How do I do it ?
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We never receive blessings when we want or are looking for something in return for our giving..our true blessings come when we give knowing the recipient can never give us anything in return..\nContinue giving because it's your nature and you will receive blessings in ways you never dreamed of..it may not be when or where you want them, but you will be blessed when you are supposed to.
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I'm sorry for what you're going thru.  Life is tough and this may sound tough but try it.\nStop focusing on yourself.  Stop feeling sorry for yourself.  It's okay for awhile, but you're never going to feel good if you can't stop thinking about you.  Pray and cry, but then wipe your eyes, blow your nose and look around.  Who needs help?  Who else needs prayer?  What can you do for others?  If you're going through a tough time it's the perfect opportunity to help another get through their tough time.  Selfishness breeds discontement.  Love elevates one another and helps us see beyond our own situation.  And when you reach out, others are going to reach back to you with open arms.  And you won't feel alone any more.
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I was told that acceptance of other people, things and yourself make you a happier person.  Do something that you genuinely love and helping other people in need are also helpful.
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why don't you try giving someone that has less than you something that would make them happy maybe you could find happiness in giving instead of receiving all the time
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I think we all feel this way at one time or another...my famous description of myself is the b.o.n....blob of nothing lol...it is horrible to feel so low...but then,...I feel so guilty when I look around and see people so so much worse off than I am, and I wanna hit myself in the head and knock some good sense into it...I bet you have wonderful qualities, and sometimes, when it just don't seem to ever go your way..we have to step back and remember just what God gave us...and thank Him for giving us His Son,...as a sacrifice so that we CAN go on and live...Please..start remembering those things about yourself that shine and how  you can help others...and somewhere along the line, you will start to feel better..and say your prayers darling,..they will be heard...He always hears us...God Bless
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Having done charity work before (soup kitchens, Habitat for Humanity, Humane Society, etc.), the feeling you get from is is why I do it. Helping your fellow man, or those less fortunate, is more of a reward than any of the other things you listed.
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It sounds like you are bi-polar like myself.  In this world there are Garfields and Odies...we are Odies, we work to help and please people but once they do not return the kindness we become Garfields with a vengence.  I truly understand how you feel but your family and friends are right, you are fine.  We are known as "people pleasers" and it is hard to accept that people do not return the kindness. The temper and hard to forgive are normal if not extreme.  I bet you believe the same as me "What goes around,,,comes around" ie "What you put out will come back to you" or in modern terms PAY IT FORWARD....but you really are fine and a good person.
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nthn wrong in giving in once or twice to make others happy\ngo out of your way to help others\nbe compassionate\nbe confident not over-confident\nmake more, trustworthy friends who can guide u \ntake help from family..
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Yes. This something I do almost every day and how I've made some of my closest friends. I believe that every person has something good and beautiful inside of them. We all deserve love and attention. When someone is so low that they feel they don't want to live, that is when I feel closest to a stranger. I know how they feel because I've been there and I never have problems crying with them or helping them out. I'm always making friends because I wear my heart on my sleeve and offer anything I can to everyone. I love people and because I am so loving, they love me back. :^)
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You look at yourself in the mirror in the morning and smile and tell yourself you like yourself and today is going to be a great day.  Say it even if you don't mean it at the time.\n\nWe can't control what we feel, but what we feel is actually driven by our thoughts and we can control our thoughts if we try.  Write yourself little pick-me-up notes - I'm a great person.  I look GOOD!  And read them throughout the day.  Actually, what does anyone who "has it all" have that you don't?  Self-confidence.  And only you can give yourself that.\n\nBefore you go to bed at night, tell yourself you are happy and life is good.  And tomorrow you are going to awaken to new possibilities in life.  And know that you are worthwhile and that you have many gifts and talents to give to the world and that you will find your happiness if you only look for it.
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Every child deserves to get a nice gift for Christmas.  To whom much is given, much is expected - those of us who are more fortunate have a responsibility to help the less fortunate.  The poor are always with us and we can make a difference.  If you want to use a Biblical reference use, "As long as you do to the least of my brethren ..."   What is a small matter to most of us can bring light and hope to an otherwise sad life.  You can refer to the movie "Pay It Forward".  Many people remember kindnesses, and pass it on later in their lives.  Many people believe that the act of giving brings with it good karma.  If each of us gave and shared a little, there would be far fewer needy people.   Most people give at Christmas - it is important to remember to give all year.  It is a good feeling to know we have brought a smile to the face of a child.\n\nPresent yourself in your speech as enthusiastic and sincere.  \n\nI hope these thoughts help.  These links may also be of some assistance.  Good luck with your speech.
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YES! I try to help anyone when ever it is feasible.I have been that homeless person many years ago, and if it wasn't for people's kindness and generosity, I could still very well be there today. It's karma to help people whenever it is in your power to do so.
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Snowbunny, feeling the way you do is perfectly normal. Sometimes you don't know what you had until you loose it, I kow how you feel... No matter who you talk to, its like nobody understands or they can't grasp what you're going through and so you can't seem to get over this depression because even the advice your friends or parents give you still doesn't feel good enough. You just want to cry, you feel like treating everyone around you the way you feel. Can't eat, Can't sleep and you can't remember the last time you really smiled from your heart, but trust me when I say, if its meant to be, he will come back and you guys can try again. It won't be tomorrow or next month, no one knows but trust me. And what ever you do, don't consider hurting yourself over something that might feel "like the end of the world" to you. I've got a scar for every heartbroken event in my life when I was either used or mistreated. 5 years of bad memories but looking back now, I found someone who loves me the way none of those in the past could, even though I thought so that time. Thinking of you snowbunny..... good luck hey!
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i'm in a slightly similar situation...so i know exactly how u feel.\ni just feel so alone most the time, even thought here are lots of people around who i know crae and stuff, but i still feel alone.\njust thought i'd say that to let you know ure not alone in feeling alone...
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If you want to be happy in life, don't try to collect treasures, toys, things. Instead, stop focusing on what you want and think about how you can contribute to making things better for someone else.\n\nSomething you learn when you volunteer is that once you focus on helping someone else, your own problems, needs, concerns, issues, etc. sort of become less important or troublesome and you begin to appreciate what you have rather than what you don't.\n\nGood luck!
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You can learn to love yourself and be content with what you have, then you won't have the tendancy to envy someone else.  If you can't do that and you are suffering with the effects of envy in your life, maybe you should go somewhere or do something that helps you to realize how lucky you are.  You know help out at a shelter for the homeless or help someone that is less fortunate then you.  Maybe when you see how bad other people have it you will realize your own life is not so bad after all.
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Boy, I think we all get to that point at times. I hear ya and empathize. I've found when I feel one of those moods coming on, I tell myself.. This "mood" is entirely up to me, I can CHOOSE to be miserable and make others miserable OR I can CHOOSE to be upbeat and let things slide off my shoulders for another day.. What would ya rather do today?  Sometimes, it's grudgingly, but I opt for the upbeat choice. Another thing is to set a NEW goal in life, whether it be work or your personal life and get excited about it.\n\n\nP.S.  Being able to bring a smile to others is a gift that should be shared often by us all and the doom n gloom we sometimes feel does not in anyway fix our situations, so consider it a waste of time.