I have bosses at work that are so dumb and ignorant and make these dumb decisions that affect me and hurt the company and they don't listen to me when I know what I am talking about but just go on with their stupidity. It is sickening to me to see people who HAVE the power to make important decisions who don't know what in the world they are doing. These dumb decisions affect me in bad ways and they just get mad if I try to explain how they are making a mistake.\nHow can I handle this so I don't blow a fuse and just live under the stupidity?
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Inasmuch as I detest cliche...\n\nI feel your pain.\n\nI work in a municipal government in a function that I have devoted my career to...the environment.\n\nRecent personnel "changes" have not only led to a little personal upheaval in my workaday, but have also, more importantly, jeopardized...well, "things" (to avoid some detail).\n\nDepartment administration has installed, for all intents and purposes, a yes-man to oversee local operation.  Yes-man is a nice guy, but spends the majority of his time making sure his office supplies are fully stocked; not making operational decisions that are very important.\n\nThe department head (whom, I suppose, is ultimately my boss) is a spiteful, narrow-minded prole with a Napoleon complex that would stupify Dr. Phil.  He visits our facility, maybe three times a year, yet he pulls my boss' strings to make some of the most uninformed decisions one could ever make.\n\nI feel your pain.\n\nI'm learning, more and more, the power in powerlessness.  If I have no control or no say-so, I'm not going to get my blood pressure up trying to live with it.\n\nIt's a difficult task, to say the least, and although I'd rather have my testicles pounded flat with a rubber mallet than watch the morons screw up incessantly, there's not one, bloody thing I can do.\n\nCheers, chica.  Best o' Luck.
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Many bosses are like this. First, make sure you are in the right. Second, you will either have to get used to it, or find another job. Although in today's workplace, you may want to speak to someone in human resources, but be careful about doing this. It could backfire on you.
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It is happening because you are allowing it to happen. Not meaning to be insulting here, but I think that's the reason.\n\nTell your supervisor that this is happening, and tell them how it is adversely affecting your job performance, and therefore how they are perceived. Tell them that not only is this not fair to you, but it is costing the company business and/or money. They have a **RESPONSIBILITY** both to you and the business to make sure that things are done in the best possible way.\n\nIf things still do not change, and you feel that you are not being unreasonable (not saying you are), then it is time to start looking elsewhere. It is hard enough to do your own job well, let alone somebody else's as well.\n\nI wish you the best of luck!
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Many, many years ago, I once had a boss tell me that he expected more from his better employees than his slackers.  Not fair, but I can understand the reasoning behind it and I also think kinda the same way because some people have more talent or abilities than others and more should be expected of them. Boy, I'm going to get into trouble for this!! What I liked about him  was that he was honest about it.  \n\nNowadays, it seems we have to be careful about everything we say. Where is this screwy country headed? Things like the above could be grounds for a lawsuit I suppose.
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I used to do the same thing , until an older employee said to me " You know who's fault it is, YOURS." I replied "your right and  I'm going to do something about it now."went out and took care of the problems with the employees and never complained again. As for being in the office with the boss, you have alot pull, that other people don't, because you got his ear all the time, you can plant ideas, good rule of thumb, don't push ideas, just suggest them, like i heard that company A lets their people off on this holiday, etc. and see what happens. most of the time you just have to plant the seed, by saying something and you can watch it grow. another thing you can say is "it seems awful cramped in here, think we could add on , so i could have more space for files, etc..  Always look at the positive side of your situation.
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Sometimes our decisions are wrong and we have to pay for those mistakes. You have hurt several people, perhaps because you did not consider the magnitude of your action. Take some time to think about how they feel now and how you can fix the situation. I know you feel bad, but you are not stupid. Try to learn from your mistakes and value your life and happiness. If you give love and respect to others, you will receive love and respect double or tipple than you did. Good luck!
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You're only spell can be changing your attitude. If your employer is egotistical, then buy into it. Tell him ow wonderful he is (not directly), but with statement like, "What a great idea!" or "You're so smart", or "I wish I'd thought of that". If he wants things done his way - even if it's wrong - do it his way, but show him what you think is the right way, too, as though it is his idea. Everyone loves an employee who makes him/her look good. Unfortunately there are a lot of bosses who let their positions go to their head and usually they will self destruct over time on their own. The only thing you can do is laugh internally at his idiocy and become the best you can be. I've learned a lot more from bosses I couldn't stand than the ones that I loved. Good luck!
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Got some examples of what they're doing?  I can give specifics with how to deal with the situation if I knew.  Otherwise, go off on them--make it loud, don't beat around the bush, make sure you do it while others are present, and tell that individual you're tired of putting up with the childish BS.  If that doesn't work, report them to your supervisor, and document each instance in case you need to file legally (it's called a hostile work environment).  This is my suggestion, since my preferred tactics for this type of scenario aren't for everyone.
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i have this kind of female boss. she shouts at everyone and always blames others for her mistakes. she doesn't quite know how to work on a PC and doesn't speak any foreign languages. she always says bad words about me because i'm almost 29 and i'm not married. she got married at 21 and has a kid. she thinks this is the only way for a woman. and also likes to talk on the phone all day long and gossips all the time, gets angry when someone laughs and many other things. she's just frustrated and very sick in the head. \ni used to leave the office everytime she said something bad to me, but at a point i couldn't take it anymore so i said some bad words to her. almost shouted at her and since this happened she hadn't said anyting bad to me again. i don't know if this is the right way to solve your problem. best thing would be to get another job.
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I sympathise with you. I have worked in places where people don't pull their weight and took liberties. \n\nIt's difficult when you are the new guy and if you went to your boss, it would look like you are telling tales out of school.\n\nI would wait a while, maybe mention it to the guy himself and after a while if things have not improved, see your line manager. \n\nA good manager should not let something like this happen anyway. You may be better off going to Human Resources. Good luck.
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Actually,  I am the boss and if you wanted to shut me up you could say, rules were meant to be broken....my response would be....and you were expecting that raise when?\n\nThe best way to respond to your question,  would be to say nothing.\nWhen  I have staff problems, I look  for a reason.  If you place blame, it causes friction and people tend not to cooperate after having a finger pointed at them.  Maybe I haven't explained myself properly, or in a way that a particular person would understand.  I find a lot of people are really busy trying to impress the boss, but there always comes a time,  I will find out what was neglected.  Computers don't make mistakes or lie.  They are always there for you if you treat them right.\nTell  your boss you didn't understand the procedure the way it was explained, that way he has to take time.  You all benefit.\n\nIn your case you can take the rules and wrap them around the centre cardboard of toilet paper and tell him what he can do with the rules
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Hon, as a long time girl of being embarassed and angry for many of the "same reasons", let me tell you how to handle this and a few words of insight on people.\n\nFirst, you cannot "demand" anything but the bills you need to pay at your office.  \n\nThe only thing you are in control of is your reaction to this jerk ball.  He may have an opinion about you and your job, but that's his opinion and only that.  What you needed to do is just look him in the eye smile as if he's complimented you.  Yes, if he was your boss, this might be a bigger issue.  The thing I've learned about myself and you can learn as well is that no one "makes you cry" You are the only person in charge of when the tears come on.  Yes, outside events can trigger an emotional response, but you are ultimately the only one who allows the emotion to errupt.  Either way, it does not make it easy to deal with sometimes.  If you are totally confident in your ability on the job, then let him say and think what he wants.  You know the facts, and remember them no matter what your co-worker says.  You are good at your job and you are there for the reason that many people do not have the orginazatoinal skills that it takes to do your job.  Maybe you have some underlying feelings that you really are only a pretty face with no skills?  At any rate, look into yourself to realize what exactly got your nerves on edge that day.    It is something deep inside of you that wells up and then you choose this jerk to "lose it" on. (maybe?)  Remember the facts and keep your chin up,  he's probably just got some unresolved issues as well.  What I might do, is jot down the date and what he said that offended you.  Keep a running tab of derogatory and positive both.  If you have to set it up like a spreadsheet, do so.  If you get a large amount of statements that are negative, then you have a log of it and you've recorded while it's fresh in your mind.  IF you end up with a large sheet with dates and statements, then you can start your demands.  This is a math problem, like everything in life.  Aren't you glad you know math so well.  Good Luck.
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Well, there are certainly people who make bad decisions. Good judgement seems pretty hard to come by these days.\n\nSome people may make bad decisions consciously - that is choose to make bad decisions. Other people might not even realize what they are doing to make bad decisions.\n\nThere are a lot of people who don't have very good judgement. If you've ever heard of fetal alcohol syndrome, that's an example of someone who may not have good judgement.\n\nYou deal with it by trying to recognize your own weaknesses in making good judgements. If the problem is with someone around you (not yourself) you try to be patient, love them, and help them to grow. It does not work to say "You are making a bad decision." But it can help to say, do you recognize that you make the same mistake repeatedly? What do you think you can do to make a different decision next time so you don't make the same mistake again?"\n\nGood luck.
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Don't worry, people have hissy fits all the time. Tell your boss you'll stay but you really didn't appreciate getting chewed out for something out of your control. Be civil and dignified and maintain your bosses dignity too when you say it.
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Ask your boss. They aren't yours anymore!\nWhy quit something and keep trying to control it?
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i think she was syaing "how do you put up with stupid questions" from people who call you not knowing what they are doing.\n\nwouldnt let it bother you, in my line of work, get abuse from people evryday, just dont let it get to me.\n\ngood luck and keep up the good work.
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When I really think about it all of my bad days in work have been down to b) colleagues:\n\nAnnoying colleagues who drop you in it so you look bad and/or have to work overtime \nColleagues who make stupid or sexist remarks. \nManagers who take praise for your work and blame you when their own projects go wrong. \n\nThose things have caused me so much grief that I have felt sick at the thought of going in the next day. Normally I deal with it by quitting. More recently I have decided to raise these issues with management. That brings me on to my final point:\n\nMy bosses's perception of me even though he's never spoken to me or seen my work. This is important because this decides whether or not you are going to get a pay rise.\n\nSo bad colleagues affect everything on your list. Remove the annoying people and work would be great.