but she threatens to kill her self,she already tried in her last relationship,she said she will do it again if i leave,what should i do
205056
It seems she may be using emotional blackmail to get you to stay, the best thing to do is walk out the door and make her responsible for her actions. If she has close family members that you can confide in then I'd advise you to tell them you are planning to leave and let them be aware of her threats. This is to anybody that is in a relationship that is over regardless of the cause........Get out before you end up making yourself crazy and miserable.
384957
YES  YOU ARE WRONG. LET THIS GIRL STAY IN THE PAST\nWHERE SHE BELONG. YOU DESERVE MUCH BETTER THEN\nHER. AND YOU SHOULD LET IT GO. AND MOVE ON. OTHER\n'WISE SHE WILL HURT YOU AGAIN.
220805
Tell her , that you want to learn the hard way if she thinks he is so terrible! That she should leave you , and if you bump your head , you know not to do it again in another situation!
65679
Drop the torch you've had burning for her and get on with your life.You should of done it long ago on your own terms.Now you have no choice.
355772
Leave her be. Let her come to you if she wants to act stupid. And she stabbed you in the back, not the other way around.
142929
She's not going to stop you or give you another chance until she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're not going to hurt her again.\n\nEverything was going good until you decided you would rather stay home home than go to work and help support her and the household you so badly wish to be a part of.\n\nYour lies was the reason she froze up again and won't ask you to stay.\n\nI can't believe you tried to get away with it again. You know she's going to catch you and you know it's going to hurt her when she does, and that she's going to retaliate. She always does. She can SMELL the lies from a mile away. \n\nYou always say the same things after she has caught you in a lie. What makes you think she's going to listen this time?\n\nIf you decide to go, then go. If it's meant to be you will be back. If you decide to stay (which you claim to have done), then work on fixing yourself. Maybe if she sees over time that you have truly changed (and she will know if it's genuine), then you can give it another try later.\n\nThere's no doubt in my mind that she does love you. She's just tired of being hurt on a regular basis by the same B.S. The walls of ice grow thicker around her heart every time you hurt her, it will take time to melt them.
388438
forgive her. if she does it again then tell her to stop.
668623
This is a classic abusive relationship.  You have got to get away from this person before things get worse.  I know you love her, but you cannot allow someone to treat you that way.  Look at it this way, if the situation was reversed, and you treated her that way, would you expect her to stay with you?
627034
Do you mean that she is doing this to you?\n\nIf so then let her go,  trying to hang on will make it much worse in the near future.
32945
There is absolutely nothing else you can say to her.  She is the only one who can change her behavior.  What YOU have to decide is whether or not your going to continue to stand by her. It's a hard decision, I know I am also dealing with something similar.  Only you know your limits and what your willing to continue to put up with.
325938
If you didn't try the last two times, then you are stuck. Only if she is willing, can you get a chance and you have to do all the work.  Lifestyle changes, behaviour shifts anything she states and you will have to mean it.
328802
i wish to do..but my girlfriend will kill me
510805
sounds like she either has very low self esteem, or she is being rebellious for some reason.\n\nnot really easy to convince her that she is ruining her life. she'll have to figure it out on her own. sometimes we need to make mistakes in order to learn from mistakes.
527408
Will you dump her already? Move on..she doesn't care about you and lol you think by saying no to her she's going to listen? You're not her father so let her live her life, if you control her, she's going to hate you if she ends up regreting. She knows there is are better things to see and do then to go home to be with you, it hurts but find another girlfriend...don't waste your years waiting!
165412
My advice would be to get away from this person as quickly as possible. There are enough things out there to agonize over, don't let another big one like this one tear you up anymore. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not destroyed. If there were kids, then that would be different. Run girl, like the wind. Good Luck
645790
Have an honest talk with her, share your concerns, but don't be threatening.  If she isn't interested in anyone else, you have no problem. If she is, then I would try to end things.
500093
I  think  you  already know what you  have to do.     In  the  first place  how  do you know -besides  what she has told you -  that  her husband was abusive?      One  way or other, it is  absolutely clear to anybody with half a brain  the woman is using you ...   and  using  her  own  children as a   weapon  against you  if you  try to  stand up for yourself.    Well,   the ONLY  thing  possible  for you to do..  unless you want  to   stand there meekly  and let her destroy what should be the peace and  tranquility  of your and your husband's  lives -  is  take a  stand  and Tell  this selfish, self-centered, self-serving piece of  garbage  whom you so unfortunately  have as a daughter,  that  you have already done all -  and in fact  more -  than you have  the means to do..   She is;pulling one of the oldest  games in the book  with those who feel obliged to fall over backwards for her  because of blood relationship   .....emotional blackmail.... and you have  allowed yourselves to  fall for it hook, line, and sinker.    Enough  already.    You  can't   "save the world"  and   those are  HER children,  so you  cannot  be held  responsible for  them  either.      You  have  already allowed this outrageous situation  to go on  waaaaay  too long,  and the  very behaviour that you have  described,  defines her   exactly for what  she  really is....  a  mean,  selfish, ungrateful,  freeloading opportunist  who needs  to be made to  hit the road  before  she  succeeds in  ruining   your  and your husband's  lives,  and  your health.