I have recently gotten into a huge fight with my parents, and made the comment that 'well, i might be moving out sooner then expected' by that comment i didnt mean today, or even this week. But now my step-mom told me that he (my dad) was under the impression that i ment that. So therefore i feel as though they dont want me here and maybe i SHOULD move out.. i know things would be difficult living here, arguing all the time ect. but im young, 18, i graduate in about a month from high school and my job doesnt pay the greatest. What do i do?
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i think you should graduate from high school first.\nthen go get a job.  if you want a MUCH BETTER JOB, then \ngo to college and a degree! \n  \n   If money is an issue, why don't you do the PEACECORPS? you\ngo over to a foriegn country for two years to volunteer! And they pay for your housing and food, and also airfare!
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It may seem a great idea to stay with ur brother, no parents, be your own boss but believe me, you will soon wish you had gone with your parents when the novelty wears off. And this "friend" is only willing to come and see you because your parents aren't there proves he's not a real friend or he would have been to your home many times, and you to his. Which leaves your brother, just you and him, what if you fall out, and remmber your brother has his own life, he will not be able to provide the parental support and dedication that maybe you are used to. You don't realise how much you need your parents, or how much they mean to you until you are seperated from them. I would go with them if I were you as you have the rest of your life to live independently, as an adult, but I will tell you now that it's well overrated and you will treasure the time you were with your parents. I still pine for home and my parents and I'm 30 and lived out of home a long time now, though I see them/talk to them daily it isn't the same. Make the most of the years with your family because all too soon you will be fending for yourself. When you are older you will understand why I'm saying all this, and you will also have some real friends who know you and will be be there 4U when you need them. Enjoy your youth, you only get to live it once.
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Is there any family that you can live with in Co until you finish school? This is really rough on you. I would talk to your parents and see if there is someway you could stay to finish school there. Moving before your senior year is really hard on a young person. ( I say young cause I'm 51) Tell them how you feel, maybe something can be worked out so at least you can graduate from the school you have been going to. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
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I can definitely relate to you, and let me tell you, unless you are happy with the decisions they are making for you then you need to tell them immediately. You are the one that is going to live your life for the rest of your life. Not your parents. I am sure they are doing it out of love and concern for your future, but if it something you cannot stand, you are gonna end up being depressed and resentful. Good Luck!
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What are your parents' concerns?  If you can help answer or address their concerns, then maybe they'll let you go.  Or maybe they have legitimate concerns that you have not considered.\n\nI hope you can work it out with your parents.
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why are you 18 and wanting to move in with a boyfriend?\nis there something at home your running away form, talk about it dont run. I understand the idea of living wiht a Love is tempting. \nStay in school and take care of yourself first. How about this, get your education, a real job and buy and apartment for yourslef. You say you cant afford one, work so that you can and get a nice one!\nAs for the 18th b-day thing, it seems like she is really drilling the school is important thing because...IT IS! \nThe mere fact that they have grounded you is enough to let you know that you are still young ( dont wait your time out). Parents dont groudn 21 year olds ( adults). only kids. \nstay home.
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You know what? This may hurt, but screw your parents. I've lived an awful life, and I could tell you my life story, but it would go on and on. I'll give you the short version. I have been tossed back and forth between my parents all my life. (they were never married, and never intended to be, I was just a big "accident.") I would go not seeing my mom for 7 years and then not seeing my dad for 4. It's really messed up. I moved in with my mom 4 years ago after not seeing her for the 7 years. I thought that her and I could heal things with time, plus my dad is a really awful person and I wanted to get away from him. Things were ok for a while, and then about a year ago I cam home from school and she was gone. Just gone. I found out that she had moved to another STATE to be with some guy she met on the internet. So now, I have no parents.  I'm going to be honest with you--it IS a hard road, and sometimes you are going to feel like you will never make it to see tomorrow. You just have to have faith in yourself. And guess what? I'm 18 now and I have my own place with the guy of my dreams, and for the first time in my life, I am TRUELY happy. So I wish you luck...reach for the stars and never give in on your dreams. If your parents really love you, then maybe someday in the future they will see past their mistakes...
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Honestly weight out your pro's and con's. There are going to be some for both places. But because your dad will let you do whatever you want is no reason to live with him, that is just taking advantage of him. Where do you honestly think you'll be happier? Ask your self that and you'll have answered your own question.
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If you and your hubby are young, like 18 or 19, his parents are still seeing him as a child.  But if he is older his parents need to stop.  I have similar situation.  I am 35 now.  I want to move to another city but can't yet.  I've learned not to tell my parents much about my personal life or my family's doings.  That why they can't meddle and "give advice".  I had to learn to distance myself.  It took about a year before my parents realized that I can live my own live well without but I that I still love them.  I suggest that you forget how they treat his brother, because that's their (the parents) problem.  Just focus on youselves and put a safe distance between yourself, don't talk as often or at least don't give out much personal info that will make them respond in a meddling way.  Good luck!
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If all that you said was true, why would you and your stepdad be arguing? Give us an idea what the last argument was about and we may be able to help.\n\nI saw your addition. From what you said, it looks like he just doesn't trust you. There is no quick fix. He's new to the family and you are an unknown. As to why your mom sides with him, that makes sense. Too often teenagers try to play the parents against each other, especially if one of the parents is a step parent. You may not have done that, but they have to show a unified front.\n\nIf your stepdad is reading your diary and such, he probably believes what is written in there. Why not write your feelings in it? You can write how you are trying to be the best you can be but are still being mistrusted by your stepdad. Don't be overly negative. Just say how much you want a chance. It might work.
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listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
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Well let me ask you, do you still live at home??? If so it IS their rules still. Sure you may be 18 now but like I would tell my children, "As long as you live in my house, it's MY rules". now as far as being able to do what you want and you not thinking that they let you do a lot let me say this to you, Try bringing this up at dinner, explain to them that you feel like they aren't giving you enough "distance" to do some of the things you would like to do. And ask them if they will slowly give you a chance to prove to them that you are responsible and you CAN make your own decisions on things. And explain to them that if you do anything to lose their trust then you will go back to how the situation is right now... Hope this has helped out some... let me know what happens ok... take care!!!
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Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
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Trust me, living on your own is not as great as it seems. I personally moved out when I turned 18, and it was very difficult. If circumstances are that you have to, consider going away to college, and living in a dorm (there are grants out there...), the military, or Job Corps. You do not want to move out without a steady job, and at least a few months living expenses in a savings account. The misery of being broke is far worse than dealing with parents (of course if abuse is involved you may want to seek a crisis center in your area for help.)
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I would contact social services. You obviously have a place to stay or you would not be on here. Stay in school, they will pay or child care. Social services should have plans for you and your situation. Do not stop talking with your parents. Keep attempting to work things out with them. You may have toget a job after school. email me if you like, i am a life coach and will coach you for free. james101092@yahoo.com
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i guess u shld to speak to ur mom abt y u want to move n assure her dat u will b finen wont break her trust... u hav become quite responsible to take care of urself......\nalso tell her dat u will come to meet her regularly itz not  dat u r going somewhere forever.....\ni guess u shld sit down wid ur mom n speak n expalin her in ur best ways u can......\nAnd also asks her whts the reason she forbidding u from moving out.....then u can explain her on da basis of wht she is worried abt....
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You say you pay the rent, not the daughter, so why doesn't the daughter move out.  My daughters are 26 and 22.  I guess I am one of the lucky ones, as my daughters treat me with respect. They were raised to respect me and their elders. \nMy advice to you would be to try tough love.  Move out out the house and cool it towards the kids for awhile.  Give them the cold shoulder and do not give them any money, free childcare or anything else.  These daughters do not respect you and sound like they use you.  They need to be taught a lesson.\nYou say you are disabled.  I am sorry to hear that, as it makes your situation even harder to deal with, but you must make a stand.\nIf you can't afford to live alone, take out a newspaper ad looking for another older lady to share rent and expenses.  Who knows, maybe you will be happier living away from your daughter and being more independent.