I like this guy, and I kissed him once about 2 or 3 months ago, but who keeps track, anyway, I want him to be mine. But heres the problem. Hearing from my friends, he has cheated alot on his previous girlfriends, and he has had alot. But even though I want to believe them, I can't seem to do so. He seems so nice, and if he breaks up with me, I don't care. I just want to see what he's like as a man for even a week at the least! But here's the 2nd problem: he has ALOT of friends, and ALL of them are girls. He seems to never leave them, but if he wants to talk to me, he will. Before, after we kissed, he would barely talk to me at all. NOW lately, he seems to speak to me a little. I want him to be mine, but how do I do that, and deal with that, even though the other girls say he cheats?
211071
two things...it's ok to want to have your own experience with this guy, but don't be blind by all the signals you're getting. Danger signs are invented by those who have already been in danger zone and luckily lived to tell. You sound like you're obsessed with this fellow and want to make him 'yours' by all means. \n\nfirst have casual communication with him and be well aware of how he treats other people around him, don't be silly to think he'll treat you differently just because he someday may tell you he loves you/likes you... this guy sounds like a sweet-talker , a charmer, maybe that's why he has so many women around him.....\n\nAnd that he kissed you and now is talking a bit more to you doesn't necessarily mean he's falling in love with you. Maybe he's just interested in sex...and from how ur describing him that seems to be more the case.\n\nDon't be blind...tbere ARE other men out there
591083
If you're jealous, there's probably a good reason for it.  This guy has already broken your trust once and hasn't built it back yet.  I'd talk to him and tell him that the things he's donig are making you uncomfortable and until you feel you can trust him fully he needs to back off the other girls for awhile.  If he's not willing to help you trust him, he's not worth your trust.  And usually your gut instinct is right.  9 out of 10 times, once a cheater, always a cheater!
282672
I believe in second chances so if I were you then I would casually date him for a couple months, maybe like once a week and just see if he has changed. Don't commit yourself to him and don't let him suck you in. Be sure to make yourself happy, like going out with your friends some nights. If you spend all your time with him your going to get blinded. Who knows, maybe someone else will come along and you will suddenly no longer want this guys attention. But make sure that he knows your not committed and your an independent woman.
405438
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years..and it was the same with us! He was doing the same thing, which is why when we finally got together, people thought he was using me but he wasn't! It's just that guys don't want the world knowing their business. It's easier for them to keep stuff in unlike us girls who have to talk to their best friend about it or other peeps, ya know? I think he likes you. Keep persuing it. Don't give up, you can lose an great opportunity! Good luck!!! =D
335242
sounds like u didn't make your move fast enough.  Ive noticed that when im looking for girls they never take me seriously, but the second i finally find a girlfriend or start seeing someone that all the girls i was JUST CHASING all become jealous (like you), to me it sounds like you're a bit of an attention whore, and you're just jealous of the attention she is getting that you aren't.  If you really cared about the guy, which is possible, wait patiently, even let him know that you wish you would have expressed your feelings earlier, and that you really regret not doing so.  Maybe him and his girlfriend will have a fight, and knowing he can come to you, he might dump her.  But if you follow through with this, don't get bored with him just cause you "got" him finally.  I NOTICE THIS LOTS TOO!  Remember what it was like for him to not pay attention to you and how bad it made you feel.  What ever u do, don't break up a relationship just because you are jealous of the attention you aren't recieving from a guy who wants a girl who will give him her attention back.
40522
Your boyfriend has unknowingly made a serious confession to you. He has blatantly told you that until he has his "wonderlust" out of his system he cannot be faithful to you. The smartest thing you can do, and do it now, is to tell him to go for it.... date all the women he thinks he needs to but let him know that he won't be seeing you at the same time and there is always the possibility that you won't be available when the "other women" are out of his system. How he reacts to that will tell you more about your \nboyfriend in one minute that you've learned about him in the\n1 1/2 years you've been together. Good Luck darlin'
523138
Good grief girl, run from this loser!!!!  He doesn't care for you!!!  I'm sorry honey, but you have to get some self respect, not allow anyone to treat you like this and get on with life!  This creep doesn't care for you no matter what he says.  His actions do all the talking!!   If he cared for you he would act like it, not just talk about it.  Doesn't matter if he's still cheating.  He did cheat and will again.  But he doesn't care for you.   Get far away from him.  The hurt will heal and someone who really does care for you will come along and treat you the way you were meant to be treated.  Good luck, honey.
122946
I have a similar problem in reverse. I always find that guys (some of which are my friends) have a tendency to be clingy. This rattles my cage very much, however the best thing you can do, is bring it up casually (but not passive-aggressively) in a conversation, listen to that person's response, then fill in the blanks yourself. Don't dwell on it. If it's been a long relationship (5+ months) and there have been very few or no instances of cheating, I would trust the person to not do that to you. I hope this has been of help but I am not very good at giving advice.
113798
My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
376370
You need to take things slowly. Trust is sure a serious issue for everybody who's been betrayed before. But the thing is, you don't wanna be like that forever. You need to open up slowly. Then if you're dating somebody, you need to talk to him about your trust issues, maybe he can help you deal with them. But ultimately, you have to deal with it alone. You have to see things differently. It's a start, right? Instead of thinking that he's going to betray you or take advantage of you, look at it this way. He trusts you enough to let you see a side of him, isn't it only fair that you trust him too to let him see that side of you? I mean, am I making sense here? It's like doing yourself a favor. Stop thinking about the worst things that could happen. Start thinking of the good things that will happen. I'd say its a good first step. Life is all about taking risks after all.
150664
be yourself. In order for him to like you, he has to like YOU. not someone else. unless he jumps from girl to girl alot, i doubt he will just dump his girl for you, but if he does, would you really want to date someone like that? cause you never know when he will turn around and do it to you. just give it time, he will come around. be friends before dating. and if it dosnt work out, then there was a reason that it turned out that way
10516
I think he must be hanging out with my ex-boyfriend because he did the same thing. Only problem ... I let him get away with it for longer than I'm willing to admit. Girl, I'm sure you are so sweet, smart and better than him. Just move on. I know I should take my own advice at times.. lol. This guy is doing one of two things or two of two things. He's either 1. Terribly immature and doesn't want to appear "whipped" in front of his buddies - AKA "Bro's before Ho's theory...or 2. Cheating and trying to keep you at the same time. AKA- having his cake and eating it, too. Either way, pls dump him,go out this weekend and forget about his immature, childish, sick, evil ass. Boys like him deserve to wake up with nothing but themselves,cheap beer and their dumb buddies drooling on them.
317703
does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
71908
He probably doesn't want to give his new girlfriend the wrong impression about you and his relationship. Yeah, I know, it doesn't make sence, but when we find a girl that we really like, it makes us do things that aren't typically things we'd do. Plus, he's probably out more and simple has let it slip his mind. Don't take it personally, just guys showing interest in one thing at a time.
22010
"Believe half of what you see, and none of what you hear".  Take things slow (talk on the phone, hang out, etc...if he is persistant than he may be genuine.  Right now to be safe do only things you would do if he did have a girlfriend.  BE VERY CAUTIOUS!!!!!
324643
1st off..don't rush relationships...when it feels right it is right! Second, IF YOU KNOW that your not a slut, then who cares what all the other people think. If they aren't your true friends then try to ignore them, you shouldn't care what they think of you, have some confidence if you've dated 15 guys in the last 5 months, then you obviously have something going for you otherwise guys wouldn't date you! Thirdly,just enjoy your life, who cares about proving them wrong!!!
469980
Sure he likes ya.. (he is crazy about you!) It shows again and again in what you write above! YES you are perceptive about that 'guy code.' I think he's got to work some things out in his head .. this is hard to do BUT it will pay off.. Give it a couple more months. Don't push it! You know one important thing (and it's a biggie) that this guy has got 'good morals..' If he's being respectful of his friends (I think it's kool) think how great and respectful he will be of YOUR feellings?! Am I right? This guy sounds like a real keeper, hon. You are doing o.k. too by the way by playing it cool.. keep it 'casual.'  Play back his 'hey, what's up?' to him. (Real kool how he stayed w/ya and slept there, didn't touch ya.. that what ya wrote, right? he was awkward in the morning..) He sounds like he is not going to cheat on you. (He sounds like a real dear.) I say GO for it!!!!!!