i have been going out w/ my boyfriend for almost a year now and he always puts others before me. i even have a car now! all his friends live near him so its more convienint for him to chill w/ them than me. i know hes not cheating on me for a fact, but i do everything in my power to make him happy (i helped him out w/ gas money,his hw,clothes..ect.) and i want to give up on him. He says he loves me and needs me but it just feels like an inside school only relationship. what should i do?
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Firstly Spending Money Only Helps With His Problems And Does'nt Give Him Any More Attraction With You, Look AT It This Way, If He Way Paying For You And Buying You Clothes And Stuff You Won't Feel Any More Of AN Attraction But A Feeling Of Comfort - Why Not Give Subtle Hints Of Love Through Other Cheaper Means.....I Like Giving Out Notes With "Thinking About You" Slipped Into There Jackets Or So\n\nYou Can Always See Other People And See If There Fun, Remember Though No Kissing But Flirting Is Fine, As it A Selection Process And Not A Sexing Process, You Understand Pretty ALien
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Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
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I think you should have some self-respect and dump him, because he's clearly treating you poorly and taking you for granted.  You're better off solo than with someone who isn't treating you the way you deserve to be.
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Looking at this and all the other questions you have about your boyfriend leads me to believe that he is not the one with the problem.\n\nYou say you are living with your boyfriend, which leads me to believe that you are at least eighteen years old, but your lack of self-esteem and your dependence makes you seem quite a bit younger than that.\n\nYou may be pushing him away with your insecurities.  Men like independent, self-assured women who are confident in their own looks and personality.  Women who constantly compare themselves to other girls around them, who worry about their boyfriends' every glance at someone else - these women make men want to run and hide.\n\nYou can't change the past.  Worrying about it and snooping around won't come to anything good.  Sit down and talk to your boyfriend about *your* problem (insecurity) and tell him that you want to fix it but that you will need his help, patience and understanding.  Then do some sincere work on just letting go of the past, and building up some confidence in yourself.\n\nIt's not easy but you'll be way better off in the long run.
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Well chances are it won't be forever because you are still in school and you have a lot of life to experience.  Here is some quick advice, don't fight in front of other people with your boyfriend, then everyone is all up in your business.
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i'm sorry about how your boyfriend is treating you. but he keeps on doing that because you allow him to.  get out of that relationship at once! believe me, it would get worse! he is simply telling you he doesn't want you anymore, so what are you waiting for? love yourself.  this relationship has not and will not in any way diminish your chances of finding happiness elsewhere. your value as a person does not depend on any man's assessment of you.
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Your boyfriends loves you very much.\n\nIf he didn't he wouldn't put up with the way you behave, especially not at the age of 20. There are millions of young girls out there that he could have but he chose YOU. He loves YOU and he only wants to be with YOU.\n\nHe can't show you that every minute of every day because that simply isn't normal. You would probably get fed up with it if he did, you would feel smothered.\n\nYou need to sit and imagine what life would be like without him. How much you would miss him and how much you don't want that. You have to appreciate him and concentrate on the good points of your relationship.\n\nWhen you feel the rage start building, count to ten or walk away. He is much more likely to come after you than if you scream, cry and act crazy. When you do that you are actually making yourself unattractive to him and let's face it, if someone was screaming in your face and acting crazy, you would want to get away from them wouldn't you?\n\nYou are definitely NOT crazy, don't worry. You are very young and your feelings for this boy are obviously very strong. Love can make us do crazy things! Just calm down, take your time and let him have some space sometimes.\n\nYou should also have time away from him to spend with your own friends. If you never leave his side to go do something different how are you ever going to have anything to talk about? You could be telling him funny stories about things you did with your friends and making him laugh and love you even more. It will make you more interesting - it's very easy at your ages to get bored with a relationship. You have to keep it going but make it fun. \n\nHowever, hurting yourself is serious stuff and is usually the product of low self-esteem. Don't be afraid of the doctor - he/she can actually help you. They certainly wouldn't think you are crazy or lock you away. There are thousands of young people with similar issues. One day you will look back and think 'I can't believe that was me'. Unfortunately, it's all part of growing up.\n\nYou have taken the first very big and VERY important step. You are talking about it. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Your feelings are what makes you the person you are, never be afraid to express them (calmly). Please talk to your doctor - you will be surprised how kind and helpful they will be.\n\nTake care x
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If you have to push somebody to make more of an effort, just to feel like you are wanted, then i would be questioning quite a few things. I don't want to sound mean, but to be honest, it sounds like his attention is already elsewhere. If you feel like you are second place to everything, that's not good at all. \n\nInstead of breaking up, sit him down, talk to him and tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. If he is honest with you, he will tell you what he wants and feels too.
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LOOK NOTHING HAPPEN....WHATS THERE TO FORGIVE..\n\nBUT IF HE HAS DONE THIS BEFORE..MORE THEN LIKELY HE WILL GO ALL THE WAY SOONER OR LATER..THE BEST THING TO DO IS DUMP HIM NOW \nBEFORE IT GET'S TO HARD FOR YOU LATER.IF HE LOVES YOU THEN WHY IS HE PLAYING AROUND WITH OTHER GIRLS? ASK YOURSELF THAT QUESTION........WHATS MORE IMPORTAND TO YOU.....WHAT ABOUT YOUR SELF RESPECT...WHAT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS........WHAT ABOUT YOURSELF SET GOALS IN LIVE ...THE QUESTION IS REALLY ----WHAT ABOUT YOU.....THATS WHATS IMPORTAND..IS YOU  NOT HIM .....NOT IF HE'S GOING TO BE AN ASS .YOU DESIRVE BETTER FOR YOUSELF.WHEN EVER YOU GET WITH SOMEONE...TELL THEM STRAIGHT UP FRONT---\nYOU WANT THEM BUT YOU DONT NEED THEM. AND STAND BY YOUR WORDS.YOU WILL BEABLE TO OVER COME ANYTHING.
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Diana..this is what i think u should do..sit down and talk to him about the way he treats u..tell him first about the good things that u love about him..but then tell him that he needs to trust u when u go out with your friends or if u just go out by yourself..(shopping or grabbing a bite to eat)..tell him in a kind way that if he keeps this up..u won't put up with it cause u want him to be part of your life and not your whole life..if it gets messy where he does hit u....stand up for yourself and have him arrested then gey a restraining order on him..its that simple sweety....please please don't be one of those gals that end up in a abuses relationship...
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only you know what to do. but i can try to give advice.  find a job even somewhere you don't want to work.  catch the bus, walk to work.  whwre is your boyfriend? does he have a car?  do any of your friends have cars?  why does your family act like that with you?  be truthful.  prove to the, that you are not lazy stop pointing the finger and take some initative.  don't break up with your boyfriend you may need some one to come through this mess with you.
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I know it's really hard to let go! When you beg a guy to stay, and try to work things out, it will never work out. He will just keep you on the side in case things don't work out else where. I'm speaking from experience. You need to tell yourself that you deserve someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. Why would you want to be with this guy, he has already given up. He can't possibly care as much as you do, about this relationship. Move on, there is some one out there for you. It takes time and patience. Don't just settle, set high standards for yourself. Keep your head up. :)
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I had that problem with my ex boyfriend. I love him more than he love me and he end up using me. I am not saying that your boyfriend is using you I just want you to be careful and don't put more in the relationship than him. When a boy see that you love him and know that you are willing to do whatever for him. They got you where they want you and then they will tend to use you. I promise you this being use by someone you love so much hurts like hell. I been there. Just slow down and don't call him as much as u was and let him do the calling. \n\nI wish you the best of Luck with your relationship!\nMs.T~baby:)
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Tell him he needs to spend more time with you. That hanging out with friends is cool but you are his girlfriend and he needs to spend quality time with you too. If he won't agree to do this then you need to just get rid of him and find someone that will. If he does decide to do it then you guys can come up with days for quality time, days for friends, and days for yourself. Then if something else is happening you guys need to give each other advance notice of it. I hipe this helps you. Good luck.
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You are being used sweetie!  He is not ready for a serious relationship, and he is making sure he has you to fall back on all the time.  He is immature and selfish!  He is a cheater and cheaters very rarely stop cheating.  Get out of this  lost relationship.  He doesn't love you, he loves himself!  Toss the trash in the garbage where it belongs.  Don't waste another minute of your life with him.  There are many guys out there who will treat you with love and respect.  Your self-esteem should be rock bottom by now and this jerk is going to keep knocking you down and hurting you inside.  Get on with your life and I know there is someone out there who will love you for the beautiful, loving person you are.  Good luck!
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if your boyfriend dosn't make you feel loved and happy.. WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM!?!?!?\n\nyou are better than that. you don't deserve to be treated that way. Get rid of him and find someone worthy of you.
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seriously? i know, you know what you should do...but alright...i'll push you some more..\n\nyou have to break it with him otherwise your relationship will all be based on lies which is not good...one of the many purpose of having a boyfriend is to make you happy and not to make you miserable!...so think about it..