im juss afraid of falling in love and getting hurt again..the guy im with now..i like him so much but afraid of falling in love with him and i dont know what to do cuz he likes me alot too and a few times "i love you" has slipped out and idk wha to do...im juss afraid to love and fall in love cuz of the past. what do i do or how to do i over come my fear of falling in love??
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Love and pain come hand in hand. You can't avoid it. Allow yourself to fall, it's the whole point of "falling" in love. They will catch you if they love you in return. It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. It's the only way to live. Push your fear aside and give it your all.
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It sounds like you have a guy who loves you dearly and is naturally scared of hurting you. I honestly don't think he would feel like you are afraid of him - if you have talked about what happened, and he is being there for you the way you say he is, then he is simply trying to be there for you in the best way he can, and worries when he's not sure how he can help more.\n\nYou've picked well - don't let this one go :)
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this one's good.  be precautious!  hold off on falling in love.  many people will tell you to follow your head on this one.  i would have to agree.  be careful.  as you mentioned, you have a lot to loose.  and you will if you go with your heart.  take this as an infacuation.  and move on when it's old.  you won't have any regrets. \n'J'
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Baby girl, there is nothing for you to do but heal and move on with your life. I know that it is easy to say and so hard to do. But it sounds to me that he is exploring other options or that he wants to and he does not want to keep you holding on. I hurt for you, I have been there before. At least you two can part on good terms if you allow for that to happen, don't push and don't be so available. Maybe this is the best thing for you, this may be a blessing in disguise. I know that it hurts and you are going to cry, you are going to miss him and at times you are going to feel that you cant go on without him. But you will, you can and you have to.  Being in love is a tricky thing, you can love just about anyone but it takes someone extremely special to fall in love with and it is extremely hard to stay in love. Just know that you WILL be OK with or without him.
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Falling in love with someone and only been in the realtionship less then a month. SLOW DOWN! One day at a time, get to know each other before the I love you's come out. I mean I believe in love at first sight, but i also believe in moving to fast. Just be careful. You'll know if hes the one after time passes
374644
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
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If your heart is telling you no don't stay with him always fallow your gut feelings.If he's someone you can't stop thinking about and you miss him when he's only gone for a short time then your in love with him no dout about it.If you know he's changing for you and wants to do better then he's in love with you too cause he's changing for you.I say don't live in fear you're in love this guy and he loves you too.He loves you so much that he's willing to change for you.He may have messed up in the past and did some hurtful things,but he wants things right again if he's changing his old ways for you then he means it this time and dos'nt want to mess things up again.I say stay with him and give him a second chance show him how much you love him by doing it.I hope that things work out the best for you and him.
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infact every person is alowed to make mistakes if not, that means you are not human.to start off just be yourself and take the bull by its horns that means take a chance and say that you are sorry if he still declines your pardon dont take it the wrong way.in fact maybe he had wanted to drop you a long time but did not know in which way to do so and from that little mistake he capitalised on it so,the best thing is to start from scratch again the many times you fall down doesnt count its the many of times you get back up to survive and have a happy life is the way to a journey for glory so try to find someone that will accept your love and for who you are even mistakes in a relation will never mind to a guy that loves you dearly.trust
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DO NOT. be scared. if ur gonna be scared fo getting hurt again everytime u like someone then ur not getting anywhere at all. so just take a deep breeathe and trust as many guys as u can even if it seems wrong in the end.
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Talk to him about your fears. Let your relationship play out and just go with the flow. Whatever happens will happen. You fall in love. You can't make yourself. Enjoy what you have.
565385
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
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Don't rush right out and tell him your in love with him.  If he don't feel the same why he may get scared and run.  Just think how you would feel then.
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why are you such worried about that .. give yourself the full chance to try and fail .. that;s the real experience .. and that 's how you will reach the right soulmate .. but never waste your time waitng for the perfect .. keep trying keep enjoying what you have. and be yourself .. avoid the mistust or the cautious pratice in love.. it immediately kills the pleaure and lead to unhappy love.. \nthat's the trap many women fall in when they start to follow their mistrusting feelings about their lovers and themselves .. \nYou have a precious heart so never surrender that being afraid of romance or the fear to be easy to guys .. \n\nthis will never mean to abuse yourself or to let others maipulate you .. iam just trying to let your real experience grow in a natural way..
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There will always be a portion of me that is still attracted to my first love.  For some wierd reason, it's the purity of the feeling and it's new encounter.  It's like remembering your first kiss or a first lay.  You will remember it.  Why?!  When you first love someone, there's no bagging to bring you down.  It's all pure and new.  These days, before I can fall in love, I'm burdened by lots of factors.
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this sounds something that has happened to me recently so i'll tell you what i think is the best thing to do...in my opinion the guy is scared of hurting you more in the future so he keeps his distance so you don't get too close in the wrong way...one way you can help this, is to just call him up and invite him to your place to play cards with you and some other friends or just to hang out...or invite him out to go to the new movie playing in town or just a casually lunch at McDonalds....well i hope this helps a little if you need anything else let me know
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I like Toby's grow some nuts advice. If he's afraid you'll hurt him he souldn't be with you in the 1st place. Usually the "i'm afraid you'll hurt me is a bunch of bs anyway, he's keeping his options open. Bottom line is you're more commited than he is. If the guy really has had some kind of fear for the 3 years of his relationship with you he sould have taken ownership and fixed it for YOUR sake because he loves YOU.\n\nSuggest counseling for him as a couple to help him with his "fear". If he says no you need to find someone else who suits your needs and goals in life because as it stands now you have a 3 way relationship- Him, his last gf, and you. Notice you're 3rd in the pecking order?
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There is no absolute answer to this.  Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't.  I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt.  If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared.  To do so may mean missing out on something really special.