Ok, I'm 21 years old and have never had an orgasm during sex.  I can climax during masterbation and being eaten out, but when it comes to intercourse, I just can't get there.  My current boyfriend has tried everything but still nothing.  Sex is enjoyable for me none the less, but still would like to get there.  My question is, does anybody have this problem, or have you had it, have you climaxed during sex, and if so, can you give me some tips.  I feel really stupid asking this, but I would really like to be able to enjoy sex that much more.
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A lot of women have trouble climaxing during sex.  I know i had a lot of trouble making my wife climax for several months after we were married.\n\nyou obviously don't have trouble at other times, as you said, so maybe, this worked for us anyway, have your guy work with his fingers on your clitoris during intercourse.  it may be uncomfortable at first for him, but it will be worth it when you both can climax together.\n\nso have him try using a finger or two (wet of course) to rub or manipulate your clitoris and see if that helps.  we still are able to use missionary or girl on top or other positions, and it has only gotten better over the past three years.  good luck to you both!
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Most women will not be able to achieve orgasm through intercourse alone. Generally a woman will require clitoral stimulation before they can orgasm. Try oral and have him focus on your clit, or go and buy yourself a vibrator.
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You're not alone. I took a human sexuality course and only less than 1.5% of women are able to obtain an orgasm from penile-vaginal intercourse alone. The reason for this is that only the outer 3rd of the vagina can be stimulated, so during intercourse you're not getting much out of it. The larger part of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, as in your situation, this can be attributed to the number of nerve endings in the clitoris which are about the same as those nerve endings in the head of a penis. Some positions do offer clitoral stimulation during intercourse, you might want to consider being on top a little more that offers both sensations and can lead to orgasm, take it slowly and be patient. Good Luck.
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Make sure you're really comfortable with the guy first.  Then maybe tell him you've never had an orgasm with a guy... set him a challenge.\nFigure out what it is that makes you orgasm solo, and perhaps include that and/or think about that when you're with a guy.\nI believe every woman has the right to have an orgasm!  Keep trying and good luck!
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Is your bf trying to make you climax through vaginal intercourse alone, or is there some clitoral stimulation going on?  Many women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax, it's surprisingly rare that a woman can get there with vaginal penetration alone.\nDo you even try to make yourself climax?  Maybe if you get some nice sexy stories and explore your own body you can get yourself off.  It might be a nice place to start, for me it was so much easier to climax with a partner once I had figured out how to do it myself.\nIf neither of these things works for you, you might try getting an adult toy that vibrates to help you along, if THAT doesn't work, then you might want to see a doctor.  There might indeed be something wrong with you, but be patient and work with your body and you will probably not need an MD!
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There are a lot of incompetent counselors out there.  So you might want to switch.\n\nBut for the orgasm issue, I'm thinking sex toys might help you.  There are a lot of them out there.  But even fingers could do it.  The point is, you need to be by yourself, with no one around posing a subconscious threat, before you will let yourself have an orgasm.\n\nAnd btw, a surprisingly large number of people have been sexually violated.  You are not alone, not by a long shot.  Maybe a support group could help.
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it's the opposite of premature ejaculation. Men haing problem ejaculating or reaching climax. it does happen to a few men. mostly psychological, like strict up bringing either related to religions or ultra conservative view of sex, like sex is seen as dirty and perhaps if you are a gay man leading a heterosexual life. Usually you can achieve orgasm by masterbating but not during intercourse. Perhaps you should seek a doctors opinion.
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No, you ain't but might be in the long hull. What happened to you is just that your bf was not able to last long enough or sustain the tempo until u climax. Also, maybe u have some fantancies which you can't reach with your bf. What I suggest you do is to try as much as you can to stop masturbating. This will affect you greatly when you get married. Focus on your future... Get a man you love and will marry. After marriage, sex will be beautiful and you'll have plenty of orgasms, ok?
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LOL! This is one "problem" I would love for my girlfriend to have! :D\n\nWomen usually hit their sexual peak between 35 and 45. You just seem to have hit yours a bit early. If your boyfriend really loves you and wants you to enjoy yourself, he will use the other "parts" that God gave him: tongue, lips, fingers, etc., until he recovers.\n\nAlmost any woman can have multiple orgasms if she has a knowledgeable partner, or if she's willing to do things for herself. Very few men can have more than three or four orgasms a night. Men have to be a bit creative to overcome this disparity.
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Yes, you have experienced having an orgasm sweetie!  Isn't it a beautiful thing?! : )  Next time, just try to enjoy yourself and don't concentrate on just having an orgasm because sometimes it happens and sometimes it won't, but don't be dissappointed, because it will happen again as long as your boyfriend is handling his business!
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Hey it happens...men are pretty sexual beings and they are lucky to have the ability to have such immediate responses...sometimes. Try to get him to slow down...spend some more time focusing on you and your body..and giving you pleasure first...then take a minute before letting him do his thing. As a man he is really in tune with the sensation of about to reach climax...get him to realize this and he,,or you can stop it grasping him right behind his testicles and apply some pressure to that area until the sensation subsides. It will take some practice. You need to apply the pressure to the underside of the penis, pushing up and in where the testicles are up against his body. This is an ac-cue pressure point that relieves sexual tension. After trying this a few times in a session your partner should find that he can last longer, and won't loose his erection. Another trick that works, but not as practical is to have him masturbate about 20 min or so before sex then he should have better staying power. Good luck and have fun!!!
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Why can't you have an orgasm with him?  Is it something he is doing or not doing?  In that case tell him.  If not, maybe it is in your head.
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When having intercourse, men generally will climax before women.  When you feel your climaxing too soon, slow down and tightly hold the base of your penis, that will stop the urge to climax. When the urge stops let go of the base, relax and start over.  \n\nIt takes time to fine tune the love making process, but it can and will be done with patience and practice.  Don't be embarrassed, at least you're asking questions and getting answers to help you become a better lover.
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See a gyno about. Also, has this probably always been there w/ your husband? Everyone's body is different and unique, and responds differently to certain stimulations. So, perhaps your husband just isn't doing it as your body needs. For myself, if climax is right there but not achieved, due to a change of rythm or whatever, it does start to become painful. I tried KY once, and it burned, so your not alone on that one. My advice, see the gyno and if you get a clean bill of health, then plan a romantic day with your husband in the bedroom. Rediscover each other's bodies. Offer suggestions and be open to suggestions. It'll be fun...and I'm sure he'll enjoy it too!
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Did you get a euphoric feeling after you were done? Did your body shake or quiver? You may have experienced an orgasm or maybe just climaxed- but didn't have a mind blowing orgasm. I masterbate and it doesn't always feel the same way everytime.
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everyone is different.Some women never orgasm at all.Some women only orgasm through external stimulation some only through penetration.You just got lucky. Wish it was that easy for me
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That has happened to me also, but not each and everytime I have sex. I've noticed that if I *try* too hard to please my partner... I don't ejaculate either. Ask him to try and relax and go with the flow of the moment, that might help him.\n\nAt first it was very common in me, specially when I was with a very special person. Now it's not too often, though it still happens.\n\nI haven't gone to the doc about it either.