Okay, my guy and I have been together for 6 years.  I know he watches porn, but I don't think he likes me talking about it to him.  But I got on the computer and looked through the "history" and found pictures of naked women.  Like hot naked women in various poses (not women he knows).  It made me feel like maybe I'm not what he really wants.  I know he is not cheating on me.  But what can I do to stop him from looking at all those pictures?
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If you make a big deal out of it he will only do it more and become defensive you can try asking him why he does it but don't sound judgemental that'll only push him away remember looking isn't what hurts it's the touching that does
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What ever you do dont show him porn...
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I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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How can you really love someone you don't trust, or who you feel betrayed by, and don't feel you know?\nThree years is long enough- if porn, feeling betrayed, and a lacking sex life is what you want, he's your man. IF you want something better for yourself, end it and move on.
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You can see if he's online if he has his settings for that.  You can't see who he's chatting with.  Why would you want to invade his privacy like that?  If you're romantically interested in him and you're afraid he's chatting with other women, then you need to move on.  Suspicion is no way to start a relationship, or even a friendship for that matter.
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I think that it might just take a little time. You have told him it was just a fantasy and that you would never hurt him and that is all you can do. He might just be a little jumpy about it. But he is still with you and it will just take time. Hopefully after your reassurances and you not hurting him (which you wouldn't) he will get that it is fantasy and maybe will let you inact some fantasies. Have you discussed his fantasies as well?  It might be that he has some on the same lines as yours. I wouldn't worry too much about this and never think that you are messed up for feeling the way you do. It's a part of you and you hurt no one and are just being true to yourself. No thing to feel guilty about at all. I envy you because I have still not told my girl about my fetish. It took courage to do what you did and that's great. Just hang in there and eventually he wil see that there is nothign to be worried about. Take care and good luck.
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First, you must believe that it is not about "you".  It is about him.  His pornography and masturbation have led him to compulsion and addictive behavior.  Pornography can destroy a person's ability to "make love". Some men try to tell their wives that the pornography is "priming" for a conclusion with them, but it is the priming that draws them back again and again, not the conclusion.  Some men say "all guys do it".  No they do not.  Especially when it gets to the point of addiction, and it is effecting the "real" relationship. I have always thought that if you have to hide what you are doing, then you must think it is wrong, or you feel guilty about doing it.  I think you have to treat it like any addiction, and get professional help.  First, the person has to admit there is a problem, and be willing to accept outside help.  Stop blaming yourself, and thinking you are not attractive and don't satisfy him.  It is not about you, it is about his "addiction".
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cheating was wrong. and you were right to make him earn your trust back. But i would not get to bent out of shape about porn. It IS just looking with no personal contact. Besides 90% of men in America look at porn, the Internet is just a new way to get it instead of buying magazines in a store. But if you are really uncomfortable as you sound i would seek couples counseling to see what is going on. It will help more than you know.
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well, i would be asking myself a few questions....\ndo you not like it b/c it's porn or do you not like it b/c you feel that he is fantasizing about something that you can never be???\n\ni don't think that you're necessarily wrong....our feelings aren't ever wrong, but you may be overeacting a bit.\n\ntalk to him about it.  explain how it makes you feel...whether it's him just watching porn or if it's the asian factor....talk to him.\nmaybe he can only watch it alone since it bothers you.  or, maybe if you both like to watch the porn you can get some that you both like.\n\nusually women's and men's tastes in porn are different...so, try to work it out instead of just getting mad about it and demanding he stop.\n\ntake care and i hope things work out.
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He is still the same man as you fell in love with. He is good to you and your kids and thats all that counts. He went and bought some porn, so what, at least he's not cheating with another girl. Porn is an addiction that all of us men have we cant help it. Maybe you can use the porn to brighten up your sex life. It sounds to me as if you have grown comfortable with him instead of wanting to bed him every time you see him. Get some spice back into your love life and spice things up he will love it (and not but porn) and you will reap the benifits too. Hope that helps you out.\n\nJay
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The question to ask is whether your or his sex lives are unfulfilling.  Does he return to this online porn/webcams because he feels the sex with you just isn't that phenomenal?  If he enjoys your sex but just likes doing these other things, I don't see the problem, unless it affects YOU- i.e. you feel your sex life suffering because of his pornographic predilections.\n\nSome people do, indeed, become addicted to pornography, and it becomes a problem when it interferes with their lives or they can only be sexually aroused when using these materials.  Otherwise, it's just something he likes to do.  Still, it seems to be upsetting you, so the thing to do- the best thing, always- is to talk to him about it.  Don't set down an ultimatum or forbid him from doing it, just try to find out why he does it, express your feelings about it to him, and go from there.
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happyhere,\n\nThe fact he is going to a website doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  Speaking bluntly, he masturbates, he looks at other women, he picks his toenails, etc.  In short, he does all the normal "guy" stuff.\n\nI know it might be difficult to reconcile how he can be "so in love" with you and be involved in these "distractions" but it is very possible.  He might be curious, he might have decided that he wants a certain kind of relationship with you and he will get other devious needs fulfilled outside of your relationship.  It might also mean he secretly wants you to do some of that stuff, but he doesn't have the guts to ask.\n\nLong story short, if this bothers you, and it obvioulsy does to the point that you threatened to end the relationship over it, consider talking to him about this.  You don't have to tell him you caught him a second time, but you should ask him if he is really fulfilled - both emotionally and physically...or ask him on a scale of 1-10, or some other way that might get him to open up without feeling threatened - it won't be easy because this is a delicate subject.\n\nAnyway, good luck.\nC
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He might be ashamed to admit his fantasies to you, especially if they're considered "taboo" by general society. Trust is often something that has to be built and earned. My boyfriend and I share everything, but it took a while for us to get to that point.
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Truthfully, it is probably none of your business.  I am sure he let you borrow his phone considering that you could be mature enough to accept that he may like to look at things like that.  As long as he is not making any advances to you, let things be.  No one was ever called a bad person just for enjoying porn.  If that were the case, then more than half the free world would be bad.
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You're not gonna like this....but he's a guy.  Every guy likes to look at women, every guy likes to be looked at by women, the only differences are in how well we control/hide it.  If you've never had any reason to suspect him of infidelity, I would say it's no big deal.  It certainly doesn't indicate anything about him not liking/loving you.  However, you need to ask yourself what you want.  Do you need a guy that will only look at you, give you that constant self-esteem boost?  If your boyfriends not what you wnat, move on, but if he's really what you need, with one mildly bad habit, deal with it.
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OK, so you go to strip clubs together, you buy him porn mags and everything has been ok ? So think about it, Why wouldnt it be ok for him to lookat porn online ? Its ok for him to read it and look at in magazines, so of course he is going to think its ok for him to do it online to. Now realize that this internet porn thing is all new to him, he has been opened up to a whole new world of porn and he is going to continue to look at it every day because there is just sooo much out there. I doubt that he sees it as not having a need to finish with you. Because every man will say the real thing is better than a hand. Im thinking he probably just jerks it so much in one day that when it comes down to doing the real thing he is just to worn out. Maybe just tell him whats on your mind and tell him next time hes looking at porn, to hold off from masturbating all day that way you can get all of the sexual tension released on you later. Basically, you need to talk to him about and see if he notices the change. If he does talk about it together and try to come up with a resolution together. Tell him how its affecting you and as a decent man he will try to help you out as much as possible. Maybe try sitting down with him and looking at the porn together and then when hes ready to jerk it, he will have you instead ?
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You can talk about with him if you want, but you will get a better response if you don't "confront" him, but just have a nice friendly chat about his favourite films and TV shows.\n\nIt certainly sounds like he has an attraction to them, which doesn't sound that weird to me - lots of guys do, and they're only 9 or 10 years younger than him, after all.\n\nMy bf and I sometimes watch "family" movies together, because often they just have better plot lines and dialogue than the rubbish they fob off on adults, but in your husband's case, I think it does sound primarily sexual, although also extremely harmless.\n\nWhy not watch a few DVDs together, let him talk about what he likes and why, and let it lead to something er ... intimate between you?\n\nAt least he's not getting into some nasty disgusting porn to get him in the mood, so be thankful.