no guys at school ever ask me out or even LOOK at me.what am i doing wrong!!! asl:12/f/fl im in 7th grade middle school
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Your not doing anything wrong.  7th grade is a time where boys typically are not yet mature enough to recognize girls even exist.  They are into the video games, etc.  Relationships at this age are best left as best friends like with Gordo in Lizzie McGuire show.  You should always allow enough time to get to know a person and to be respected by them before you think about going out with them at all.\n\n    Instead of being frustrated,  take control of the one thing that you can do.  Look at yourself in the mirror and say "Your the best" and "I promise to always make you the best that you can be".   If upon doing this excercise you realize that you could improve your health, or your complexion or your clothes or whatever, then spend your time investing in making yourself the best person that you can be.  \n\n       Over time,  you will be happier with yourself, and when that occurs, you project that happiness like a radio broadcast in how you walk, how you think, and how you act. At  this point, you will have to have voicemail with all the attention you should be getting.\n\nHope that helps.
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try going to an after school study thing or get some help with teachers or parents. i used to be that way too. but i talked to my parents and they helped a ton. also, you should only be dating if you can do it and still do well in school. your education is much more important
496859
Your not in trouble, you just might be a late bloomer..Do you ask girls out? Are you shy? Do you have a pretty active social life? Are you clean? There could be millions of reasons WHY you havent dated yet..but theres really not enough info to tell why exactly..
548435
Maybe he thinks you're not approachable. Be nice, be non-threatening, and show him that he might have a chance. Or you could talk to him yourself, tell him you like him and ask him out. Sometimes, you just need to take the initiative. Good luck!
466186
Are you on the shy side? Maybe that's why guys don't approach you. You sound like you might be nervous around them. They might take that as a sign that you don't like them. Remember, there's nothing wrong with flirting with guys! And if they don't like you back, big deal, move on!
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You say that as though you are ancient! I would not worry about not having a boyfriend at the moment. You are still young, after all. Even shy girls find a guy in the end so don't worry about being left on the shelf - your time will come!\n\nTo prepare yourself for a future of dating, get to know yourself. Know your likes and dislikes. Think about how you feel about things. It will sound strange but if you give everyday situations some thought and know how you feel about things, that is a great way to maintain a conversation - with a boy or a girl. Practice your conversational skills. Think about the facade you present to others. Maybe boys don't hit on you because you are so pretty. So maybe you should think about how you make yourself more approachable.\n\nAn engaging personality is worth more than looks. If you can work on your self confidence as well as your conversational skills, you are more likely to hook a boy's attention - and maintain it.\n\nGood luck!
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Dont worry! Just ask the guy you like out and take a chance!Itll be okay! And boys are usually nervice that they might get a rejection. If you really dont want to ask anyone out,be Mrs.Nice Girl and be kind and hang out often.Make him notice you. And then when he feels he understands you he will ask you out!And of course be yourself! Good Luck
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No way! I'm 16, and still haven't been kissed. In fact, haven't had a boyfriend since 8th grade (which goes under the "stupide middle school relationship" category). I'm not bad looking (one of my guy friends thinks im pretty), smart, and fun-loving. Yet I'm still single, like you! Odd, no?
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Do not worry about trying to find a boyfriend. Just be yourself. Get involed in 4-H, school, and other local ativities. Someone is bound to respect your abilities and want to get to know you, then see what happens.
459210
I agree with Helper.  If you truly are really nice, let EVERYONE see it, not just the crowd you hang out with.  You could also be very intimidating.  If your attitude is like that about girls asking out guys, then you most likely view every situation like that as pathetic.  There is nothing wrong with being old-fashioned, but sometimes you have to go after what you want, don't wait for it to come to you.  Perhaps you just weren't meant to be with tons of people in high school.  Slow down and enjoy life now, don't try to experience everything all at once.
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WAY too little information!  Can you tell more about your sitution?  Feel free to email me if you'd prefer.  1st thing I'll want to know is how old you are.\n\nAnyway, here's a very general answer for starters:  Maybe you are projecting an attitude of disinterest or unapproachability.  For instance, there definitely IS such a thing as being 'too cool.'  Most people want to spend time with people who show an interest in them.  If you're not sending clear enough signals of your interest, many guys won't bother risking what looks like a very good chance of rejection.
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some guys may be naturally shy and are afraid of rejection. try talking to him...sometimes you just need to make the first move.
462709
What are the benefits of having this guy as your "boyfriend"?\n\nIt's possible that your guy is shy, or maybe afraid of getting too involved with a girl, because maybe his friends will harass him. Maybe he feels awkward, and just doesn't know what to do or say. Let him know that you'd like to hang out with him a little more at school, and think of conversation starters. Make a list (for your reference only) of all of the things you'd like to know about him, and the things you want him to know about you. Then, don't deluge or assault him with 2000 questions in one day, but every time you get together with him, try to get a conversation- a dialogue- going. \n\nIf he's still not interested, or is distant, cold, etc, I would suggest that you let this one go, and find a boyfriend who's interested in being half of a couple. You can't expect a school-age boyfriend to dote on you every minute of every day, but you should be able to expect some conversation, and some company. Life's too short to devote it all to someone who's not going to meet you somewhere in the middle. Good luck to ya.
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Maybe he's just not into going out right now, maybe focusing on school?  Don't worry, just leave him alone, or talk to him and see what's going on with him
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Maybe they do like you and you're too caught up in self-consciousness to realize it. Or maybe they're just too stupid to know that redheads rule. Everybody here is gonna tell you that looks don't matter. They're lying. None of them would ever date someone they didn't find physically attractive. People will hate me for saying that, but it's true. I don't know what you mean by "an average body," but it doesn't really matter. You know if you look nice or not. Regardless, assuming you're in high school and assuming nobody there really is attracted to you (which I doubt), eventually you'll graduate. Go to college. You'll find the scene is completely different there. One more thing. I hope you're not being narrow-minded about the guys you're interested in. There's probably some reserved, nice guy out there, maybe not Mr. Universe, but not bad-looking either who would love to take you out but is scared to death to say anything. Give him a shot. Oh yeah...try taking the initiative and asking a few guys out yourself.
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I kind of have the same prob, but with asking this guy out. i don't know what to do, i need to know because i heard he liked me and that he is too scared to ask me out. and i was wondering if it's weird if a girl asks a guy out or not. well, good luck! sorry i was no help! :(
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maybe you're just too shy and you don't flirt...\n\ni know that's why no guy has ever asked me.