I been with my boyfriend almost a year now and he just act like we are married. Yes, my feeling for him are strong but I don't need a boyfriend that acts like he's my father. At first when we started talking I thought it was cute. He always think that I am lying and I am a pimp. I mean I am a female I don't have time to mess off like that and the lying part I feel like there's not a single person in the world that I have to lie to. I feel if there's not any trust than there's no "US." I hardly go anywhere because he will have a problem with it. He'll say, "YOU GOING TO MEET YOUR OTHER N****." He is so jealous, but I love him with all my heart because he do for me.
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Jealousy doesn't get any better... it only gts worst.  You don't go anywhere because of the arguing it will cause if you do... That is what he wants, to isolate you from friends and family, that is how he gets control over you, i lived with a jealous man for 5 years, had 2 kids for him, until the day he beat me... the verbal abuse will escalate to physical and it just gets worst, the more you try, the more control he thinks he has over you... my advise, NOW... tell him you have had enough and want out... he will probably try to change your mind but don't give in, it only stps until he thinks you are under his spell again...\nI have been raising my children alone for the past 10 years and realize today that i made the right decision... for them and me.
254980
Sounds like he still has some growing up to do before he can commit to a relationship with anyone.  Just make it clear to him that if he is going to get mad and jealous then he needs to either make a commitment or walk away because your not going to keep going through this same old dance with him all the time.
599167
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
666254
If you truly love this guy, that really wouldn't matter, but I can understand where you are coming from.  People say you are a reflection of the people you choose to have around you.  But since he doesn't act that way around you, it's hard to know the real him!  It's makes me think he might be just trying too hard around other people, while he feels comfortable enough around you to just be himself.  If you believe he is more "himself" with you than with other people, then eventually the "true him" will shine through in all his relationships with a little time and maturity.  :)\n\nGood luck!
409080
You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)
223147
Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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You yourself could answer this question...You feel that you are living a lie....and you are feeling guilty for living a lie and not being yourself....someone other than your boyfriend is trying to convince you that you are living a lie while your boyfrind is trying to convince you to stay with him..Is he in the light? seems to me the tunnel is the darkness or wrongness you are feeling the voice in coming from within the darkness and your boyfriend is in the light...someone is trying ot convince you that your life is wrong but you feel that this voice is somehow coming from the darkness...although your boyfriend may seem needy he is in the light and you can see him and the voice you cannot see therefore less trustworthy..your are torn between two lovers the one you are with is clingy yet you feel this is what is right the one in the darkness you cannot see is less worthy of trust  but he is telling you that you are living a lie...have you cheated with another man? is the darkness guilt? is the other man teling you to leave your current boyfriend? Is the current boyfriend needy? is the other one less trust worthy or are you having a hard time giving your trust to the other man? have you lied to either or both of them? you have to make a decision based not only on what is best for you but what is right and wrong...and guilt is playing a big part of your dream....
167008
You need to get a grip on yourself. This kind of behavior is what drives people away. Trust is key in a relationship. If you do not trust him and he has given you no reason to doubt him, then you need to let it go.
230045
I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
518717
Are you secure with yourself as a person?  Are you honest to yourself (and him) about your feelings for him?  I am not judging you in anyway at all... I can just understand where you are coming from.  If you really love this man, don't try to change him or try to get him to do things that he would not normally do (emotionally).  To love someone unconditionally for who they are is the greatest thing of all and with that comes compromise and not trying to change who that person is on the inside.  I wish you luck with your relationship!!!!
433820
i had that same situation, my boyfriend told me "i wasnt flirting i was just being nice", from my eyes what i saw it didnt look like just being nice i got so mad that day, he  is still with me and says i love you,  my point is if he is with you still and didnt dump you for other girls that means he truly loves you.
81934
If you have to ask if you love him, then its pretty safe to say that you dont. You probably had a good thing going with him and thats why you get jealous, but it doesn't sound like you're in love. And if it doesn't work out and your munky really is chunky you can always holla at me :)
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You know people might say it's a lie.  Just think about it this way though; a man is way less mature than a women.  A women might think about the consequences while a man just skims through them and goes by his first instinct which is lying.  Doesn't mean he doesn't love you!!!!!!!!!!!!  When you were young you lied a couple of times to your parents right?  Do you not love them or at that moment did you not love them.  Noo Right!!!!!!!!!!!!  Men were just made with a very ignorant way of thinking.  It's a little complicated to explain at times but just remember to them a lie is not what it seems to us.  To them it's just a part of life and it's nothing.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Has he always been like this?? Let him know that you care about what is going on with him and ask him to trust you with his heart. Assure him that you will not use it against him or take it for granted...you just want to be let in. I hope this helps! :)
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Hey girl- My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 9 months. We go to the same college so we are together 9 months out of the year. during the summer, though, I am in another state and he stays there. I really think that the only reason we as girls would think that we have feelings for someone else is that we get the attention from this guy- the attention we usually get from our boyfriend when we are together. Don't let your mind and emotions take over. Stay true to your man- your love, if you believe that it is strong enough, will stand through even the hardest times... God bless!!
22573
OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.