we have been having sex for 3 years but lately im never in the mood and i get really pissed if he tries to put a move on me.Why am i this way and what can i do to really get in the mood and want to have sex?
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Are you overworked, kids, school or Stress? Maybe, your significant other can help you more with your responsibilities? In order to be intimate you have to be comfortable in the other aspects of your life. Talk to him and explain everything that going on in your life.  Tell him when your ready if he can be patient he'll know! Explain that sex will be more passionate etc when your not pressured, that way it wanted and you both can enjoy.
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It could be one of many things, one he is not into you , two he dose have a medical problem, or three this one happens to a lot of guys even though they don't admit to it, he is more then likely thinking about the ups and downs about sex which is taking the emotional feeling away, which makes him go down way to fast. just don't take it to heart, he is more frustrated about this then you!
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Well im in the same situation but my man tells me im a sex maniac,,,,that might be true but i have needs to when i want it i should be able to get it.  He says because we live together he doesnt want to do it all the time because things will get old fast. Well i dont agree...if he tried to change things up....which i would love to try new things there wouldnt be an issue. Im tired of initiating sex all the time,,,im 5 yrs older than him,,so whats his problem?? He cant keep up with me,,it gets very frusturating,,,i know exactly how you feel. All i can say is back off him for awhile and see how he likes it,,he will start to think somethings wrong then wont he??? Dont pay it any mind for awhile....take care of yourself until he gets the hint. Me being a very sexual person it really aggravates me. And no hes not cheating because we are always together when we arent working. We love eachothers company,,,but he says our relationship isnt all about the sex....grrr i know that but dam give me what i want.
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Why can't you approach him? Has he lost his libido? if so you have to talk if you don't explain to him how you feel and that if he doesn't talk to you about it he may lose you to someone else.if he loves you he will talk. Masterbation works for some and not for others..invest in a vibrator (if you haven't already) and some naughty mags/ vids (honestly they help) and try that way, it won't go away and soon you will begin to feel resentful...best thing to do is talk and perhaps dress in something 'WOW' so he'll sit up and take notice if he doens't  something's going on...perhaps he feels he's not good enough etc....you gotta talk Good luck
489228
wow! about the same exact thing you did i did with my boy. we went out for like 8 months without having sex things were bad so i had sex with him thinking it would make it better. it did at first. he talks to other girls but i cant talk to other guys without him getting pissed.. everyone just tells me itll take time...and really thats all you can do. try to keep yourself busy and you wont think about it so much and put away pictures and things that remind you of him.
458579
Well I don't know about you, but when my husband and I have been fighting, I really don't feel like having sex with him, until we get it resolved.  I suggest that the two of you talk it out, get it settled, then have some fun.
480616
There are two possible reasons:\n\n1. You pressured him into saying it before he was ready, and he just said it to avoid confrontation.\n\n2. He wants sex without commitment or investing himself emotionally in the relationship.\n\nIf it's the first case, you two should talk. If it's the second, dump him. He's not worth your time, tears, or effort.
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First off, follow your instinct about not having sex with him!  ESPECIALLY under these circumstances, it's almost assured to make things difficult.\n\nThe real issue is:  How real do you think this relationship is?  And, how far would you go to take it to the next level?  If it is ever to be, one of you will eventually have to relocate.  If that's a possibility, proceed (but still don't get sexual!)  If neither of you are willing to relocate, then you are only torturing yourself for no reason.
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It's possible that it's his attitude that's depressing what sex drive you do have to zero. All that pressure ... it's a BIG turnoff. About your age, I had lived with a guy who was really demanding for like seven years and I was virtually frigid by then. Broke up with the guy (we weren't married), turned thirty and whoopee I'm a sex maniac.... don't lose hope.\n\nI recommend you study your own psyche with respect to your sexuality and the relationship. How do you feel when he pressures you, and why exactly? Books, counseling. Do you remember ever feeling somewhat excited, when you first got together? Don't you enjoy erotica or masturbation? If you don't, you're either kidding yourself to avoid confronting the issues in your marriage relationship, or you might as well learn to fake it.\n\nOf course, I could be totally wrong ... please forgive me if you know that to be so. Just basing this on my own experience.
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It's time for some counseling!  If he won't go, you go!  You need someone to bounce things off and to get good solid objective input from.  \n\nHe may be in a personal slump himself.  If he has very little sex drive and is tired a lot, he might have low testosterone, it is not an uncommon condition.  Suggest he have a complete physical, just to make sure everything is okay, tell him you are concerned about him and want to make sure everything is all right physically.\n\nIt may be he is worried about a lot of things, and doesn't know how to communicate, or doesn't feel he should.  Guys often think they should be strong and keep things to themselves.\n\nWhat I am saying is, it might not be about you at all, though it is definitely affecting you.  And it could be that he doesn't like you bringing up the subject, so he pulls more into himself, and goes to the TV and computer to avoid interaction.\n\nI feel for you, I know this is a very difficult situation.  Don't just let it go on!  Get some outside help, at least to vent, and possibly to help the two of you communicate better.\n\nBest of luck to you!!
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I have the same issue sometimes and the more you do it the more frustrated you get and so you keep trying...its a never ending cycle. It could be that you are putting too much pressure on yourself, it could be that he is too fast, slow, small, etc. Positions seem to be something that you can vary to see what works best. The first thing you have to do is stop thinking so much about it, relax. If its not a normal issue for you then there isn't anything wrong with you physically. Try some different things and don't be too hard on yourself. http://www.allsexguide.com
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Your hormones are raging. Think about it this way. When your older and no longer care about sex that much anymore, are you going to be with someone who loves you and that you love. You want someone who will be your friend when that time comes. For love, you have to make sacrifices. You can't have everything or you might end up with nothing.
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You've been friends 4 awhile,on the same level,obviously you both want it,sex is good for stress...you're are stressing way too much.\nlets face it...you don't wanna hear the answer"no don't do it"...you won't listen if I say it...\nWhy waste your time in here when you can be over there...\ngo relieve some stress now...but do come back...we'll be waiting for details...
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It could be he is stressed out about his work,or overly tired,you should really sit down and try to have a conversation with him,and see if there is anything going on in his life that he hasnt been able to express to you.Different people have Different sex drives as well,you really need to work it out with him and compromise.Let him know how your feeling.Also I reccomend that you consider marriage,sometimes the guilt people feel shacking up affects the sex drive.No offense! Good luck!
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He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
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What gets you excited, what makes you hot? Do other guys turn you on more than he does, or is it just a matter of nobody turns you on? Do you enjoy sex, does it cause you discomfort, do you feel wrong doing it, do you feel healthy otherwise?  Been in a bad mood lately, if so, why? Lots of reasons for low libido, if it's been going on for a while, and you can't figure out a reason why, might be time to stop by the doctor's office...
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Yep, you haven't matured in body or wisdom... There is no rush... Enjoy life before sex... Then when you are ready, enjoy life afterwards... Learn about it... Read up on different kinds... Find out what gets you both turned on and your best releases... ;)