They had an affair that lasted a while and as you may know, a narcissist never really goes away. How do I help her go away without killing her?
211480
Kick your cheating husband out of the house, and tell him to go live with her.
239561
People find it difficult to leave someone if they truly care about them. My best advice is to be a good friend to her, be there for her. If she realizes that he's bad for her, then support her decision if she wants to break it off. That's all you can do
579522
Forgiveness comes with time.. and sometimes respecting their need to cool off from the confrontation is the only solution.. just give it time. Hopefully the person will realize that they are losing more by the seperation than going it alone without you by their side. Patience is usually the answer. Smothering them will probably fuel the temporary resentment. Good Luck with this one.
281192
You can not help her. She has got to help herself. I have been down that road before. Believe me it is difficult. Sometimes we want to save someone it makes us feel good. But trust me the lies are just starting. Get out before you get hurt to bad.
32945
There is absolutely nothing else you can say to her.  She is the only one who can change her behavior.  What YOU have to decide is whether or not your going to continue to stand by her. It's a hard decision, I know I am also dealing with something similar.  Only you know your limits and what your willing to continue to put up with.
493206
By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
662430
cut off all connections with this person\nget rid of all that reminds you of them\ngood luck
563269
You don't tell her, you respect her enough to keep that to yourself until she decides to move on from her husband - divorce him.
661963
In my opinion the two people involved are obviously unhappy with their lives so they need to decide what exactly it is that they want and move on. If you're unhappy in the marriage let it go and be together but if there's still a chance that they can salvage the marriages than they need to walk away from the affair. In any case a decision must be made. It's not fair to anyone involved if things stay the way that they are.
542834
I've known of a person personally who killed his own wife because he told her to hold his money and not give it to him when he asked so he wouldn't buy drugs. She didn't and she's gone. I grew up around many people that used and are still using today over 20 years. There is nothing you can do but save yourself and walk away. More than likely, you've been telling them to leave it alone and they know the consequences. It's up to them. Don't be a victim and get your heart broken watching them kill themselves. THEY HAVE TO WANT TO STOP! Then you can help them by offering them information on different treatment programs. But until they want help, there is nothing you can do.
619416
Just be there for her and try to take her mind off him by having other conversations.  If that is difficult, then try to let her know that everything happens for a GOOD.
269776
Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
644519
me. why won't she go away????
656581
get away from the abuser. and tell some one. ANYONE!!! you don't want to be by your self on this! and if it really was me then the abuser wouldn't be around very much longer :)
642892
There isn't much you can do.  She probably wouldn't listen to you if you did say anything to her.  Just let her be.  Even if she lies to people about you, I'm sure she won't stay credible to them for long.  Everyone will eventually figure her out.  Confronting her will just make her act like she's the victim of your "cruel" words.  She'll probably tell everyone just to get sympathy.
486834
I've read most of you questions about this ongoing saga.....For your own sanity please let her go..... She needs time to figure out what she wants and grow up...... and you just need to be free of the drama.
252079
Maybe you should just stay out of the middle of it. Give her support, but just tell her that you rather just not get involoved, unless he did something serious to her.