If i get mad at him for some reason i will either tell him to shut up or i'm going to hang up on you and he tells me if i do then he will break up with me because he has told me that we need to be on a break before. Why does he feel the need to tell me this? Just to see if i will do it again because i dont care or how fast i will come back to him?
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Firstly, in a relationship there must   be a very good understanding of communication,  a threat will not help a relationship.\nWhat is most important is to find  opportunities where  both of you can talk and   settle issues that is if both of you really want the relationship to grow.\nYou have to respect each other,  love relationship with out understanding and respect is a trash, its  pain in  the ass.\nIf you are more commit ed  in the relationship and your boyfriend is less committed   ,discuss these  amicably with him and pro fer solutions  to this, if he does not change  and still threatened you that he will quite , tell him off because  he would hold you ram son because of this  treat  and oppress you for the rest of your life
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lol - its true, you could be getting on her nerves :)\nit could mean a few things, eg.\nit means that she needs time by herself to work out how she thinks/feels about things in her life including you. It also means that she doesnt feel like she can say something to you that you wont like and she is building up the courage and finding her way to say it best. It also means that you and her are becoming too big in her life and that she cant balance her relationship with you with everything else she has to do in her life and that may be her fault or yours.\ncould be a whole load of reasons.\n\nall you really need to know is it is time to show some respect and independance and give her her space, if you care and love her then back off and find something to keep you occupied while she is finding her space.\nIf she is messing you around then maybe move on, I have asked for a bit of space before - it didnt mean i was breaking up with my gf or messing her around, I really needed it and she respected that and not having her calling me every five minutes concerned about if i love her and such was very cool of her, give her her space :)
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He's being a jerk.....because he made plans with you. That is extremely rude.\n\nHow long have you been dating. Maybe, he feels that you are guys are in that 'comfort zone' where he can do stuff like that.  You need to tell him why you're mad though.
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if you can't resolve the issue you've got to both accept that it won't be resolved and talking about it will only make you feel frustrated. You'll have to have discipline to keep a long distance relationship going so use that discipline to avoid the issue for now. Be careful that one or both of you aren't using this as an excuse to get out of the relationship. Having a break suggests it's something you are thinking about. You need to get together soon and remember the reasons that you are together. The issue you mention is obviously standing in the way so are you sure you can't do something to make it a bit better at least. fighting can become a habit and if you or he have done it with previous partners it may be something that feels so familiar that you recreate it. you are in a circle that must be broken but hiding or running away by not talking won't heal or help or break the circle. Only you two can work this out but you must be clear about what you want and need and are you compromising yourself too much! Good luck to you both.
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I think that the answer could be a couple of different things.\nHe could just be the type of person who does not care for another.  He is only interested in what he can get out of the situation and not concerned about the feelings of someone else.\nAnother thing could be that he was running his mouth a little too much after your breakup.  He could have been talking to his friends and got caught up in macho talk.  Things like that do happen.\nThe last thing that I could consider is that he is upset at breaking up and needs to justify it.  He needs to cut you down to make himself feel better.  By doing so he can better deal with the fact that you are no longer together, even if he is the one who broke it off.  The best people for him to talk to would be his friends.\nI can only make these assumptions from the information provided, but if I had to take a guess I think it may have been number one.  He doesn't care.  My justification for that would be the number of girlfriends he has had in the past.\nI hope that all works out for you.
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Yes you are making a big deal. Can't you take a hint? He doesn't want to be with you, I don't mean to sound like a b*tch but it's true. He's telling you "oh I'm leaving" yet he doesn't leave.\n\nJust get over him, he's too much of a damn coward to give you the real reason. Forget him.
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Obviously he's going through some hard times right now, especially  if this has scenario has never happened before.  I definitely think that he's hiding something or not telling you everything because when he got upset and gave your some BS, he was trying to shift the focus on getting angry at you instead of you finding out what was wrong with him.  Definitely give him some time and if you know him like you should, then he'll come around and tell you everything.  Tell him about your concerns and make sure to give him some space to work things out.\n\nGood luck!
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Dump him first and keep your self respect. You cant force him not to break up with you and if you are wrong then he will tell you.
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It's over.   Pick up your pride, move on, find someone else.  He's breaking up with you but playing the coward by not coming right out and saying it.
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a man will only do what you allow him to do. he is responding because you dont tell him no to. you keep answering his calls and things like that. i bet if you leave him alone completly, he will go away. plus you are giving him more reason to use you and disrespect you. when my guy and i were on the outs, i would call and text, he would call back but the convo wasnt the same. i thought the same as you, if he didnt want me, he wouldnt talk to me right? well i was the one initiating the conversations, he gave me the feeling that he didnt want to be bothered by me and i knew he didnt but i wanted him so bad. does he make the effort to call you w/o you calling him?
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Guys can tend to get clostrophobic in situations like this. Love having you there but only when they want you there. I'm not sure on his thinking after such a long relationship but it would seem to me that he is distancing himself because he does want out but can't face the fact that he will be alone and probably doesn't want to be alone therefore still calling you.He definately loves you but doesn't know the best way to address the issue, therefore keeps up the pretence that everything is fine by calling you, wanting you etc..\nOn the other hand i could be wrong, i'm no expert
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she might be saying stuff like that b/c she doesnt want to admit that its really over and that she doesnt want to be heart broken,u have to tell her the truth,u might have to make the conversation firm to make her understand and if she gets mad at u then thats her problem b/c she shouldnt get mad at u if ur telling her the truth,good luck :-)
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if you have already talked to him about the problems you are having (you should have already if you havent) then tell him that, the reason you are breaking up with him is because of those problems, and nothing has changes. be honest with him dont be too hard but dont be too easy. if your with someone you dont want to be with then end it the longer your together the harder it will hurt.
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why would you want to break up with if you want to get back with him later. is this really fair on the guy??
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it probably means that hes not happy, depressed, or just feels bad about the whole breaking up thing.... or he might just be shy around you now that you guys are broken up he might feel weird talking to you
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I don't know; sometimes I get the feeling that my significant other is pushing me away, but then he will call me and tell me all the contrary. He calls me only when he feels like it, he'll see me when the time is convenient for him, he promises to call and then he doesn't, he will not give me a picture of his, he makes love to me and then takes off saying that he'll be back later, he doesn't, he calls me and makes up some excuse; however, he still says that he will be over in the morning and that we'll make love and make up for lost time, guess what? It doesn't happen. Then, again he calls (when he feels like it) and again apologizes and says I do care, but I don't know what is going on, too much stress, work, and no time, but I will make it up to you. I hope you get the message because I don't and I am getting tired of his little games, if yours is acting like this - then we are both in the same boat. It is only up to us to kick them to the curve or to keep on tolerating the way they are. Good luck.
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I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.