I don't believe so, but I want opinions.\nI feel if I'm not married and not planning on getting married then whats the big problem.
216886
Depends on if your significant other thinks it is!
337315
Hmmm why do people feel the need to add third parties to their marriages when they are having problems? Why not discuss the problem with your spouse and maybe try counseling? And marriage is about a lot more than just sex. If you're ready to just drop your pants and jump in the bed with another man maybe you don't need to be married. Get a divorce, be single and screw all ya want!!
234089
I'm not married yet, but my take on marriage is that it's the most sacred promise you can make to someone. People just don't honor it the way they should.
266805
he probably has some really heavy stuff on his mind right now. if you talked of getting married and starting a family, then he may just be in a place where he has to think. i would say that all you can do is honestly tell him how you feel, not angrily or accusitorily, and give him room.
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I think that's a comon feeling.  You're in a rush to "start" your life and that usually includes a husband and kids. Try not to rush it because after you get married to the wrong person you'll realize how silly it was to think that way. 50% of us marry the "wrong" person. We have to be happy as ourselves before being happy w/ others. Suppose it never happens? You need to fulfill your dreams.
19679
Nope.\n\nBut chances are looking good that you will most certainly get screwed.  P.S.  Getting screwed is synonomous with getting married, so cheer up, even if you don't ever get married, it will feel the same when you get screwed.\n\nDefinition of getting screwed:  Being taken advantage of in the name of marital bliss, i.e. divorce.  Net result--much sorrow.\n\nP.S. If I am wrong about the above answer, I am sorry.  See disclaimer below:  Yahoo! does not guarantee the accuracy of....
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do what makes you happy and fulfilled, you don't have to please anyone else or society anymore.  I am 39, never married & no kids and I prefer that over ever being divorced and putting kids through hell because of my own not so good choices.  I desire to be married someday, just not to the wrong one.  It's cool to be unique and different anyway.  Follow the road less traveled!!  & your heart!!
18776
I don't think so. I would never ever have done it in a million years. If he doesn't propose it is because he doesn't want it. If you want to get married discuss the topic,shop for rings,and discuss it some more,but in the end please leave this one to the guys ladies. I know we live in a world where women are more independent and go after exactly what they want but really I would hope that the guy you are with has enough intiative to tell the women he loves that he wants to marry her. Don't you think that in the back of your mind you would always wonder if he really wanted it and if he ever would have proposed had you not?Good luck!
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Depression could make you this way......what would you be depressed about?\n\nMaybe you are not clinically depressed, maybe you are apathetic?\n\nDo you need to do some soul-searching perhaps? Is there anything bothering you that you are holding back?\n\nIs this your normal mode of behavior? If not, do you recall your nromal moce of behavior?\n\nDo you mas_turb_ate? If so, do you think about your fiance`? (sorry....not trying to be crude with you. I pretty much tell it like it is, but it was an honest and sincere question). That if that's normal but your sex life is not, then that's a red flag. Understand? :)\n\nI guess I'm just asking you some questions that may help spark you into thinking about something that you may not have realized was bothering you.\n\nHow about past relationships. Any problems with sex like it is now?\n\nHow long has this been going on?\n\nI think if you can manage to pinpoint when this started you may be on the right track to what's bothering you.\n\nAre you being honest with yourself about marrying your fiance`? Do you think it's possible that you don't love him the way you think you probably should, but feel sort of helpless now that you are engaged? That perhaps instead of saying something to him, and to everyone else that you're making a mistake, but you feel he'd be crushed and your family wold go ballistic......so instead of dealing with all that stuff, your feelings sort of found their own outlet....their own release, and that is to let go of everything? There's no fear, no anxiety, no worry, but there's also no joy no excitement and of course....no sexual desires.\n\nI'm just speculating.....trying to be a sound-board for you. Maybe ask questions you haven't been able to ask yourself maybe.\n\nAlso.....let me point out to you dear one......normal is not what everyone else is or does or thinks. It's what's right for you. You are obviously going thru a growing persion with yourself. You're behaving in a foreign way, you recognize it but don't have any answers. Someone who knows themselves well, usually knows why they feel what they feel, and how they would react to certain situations.\n\nMaybe you've started obsessing about this. Maybe it really wasn't a problem to begin with, but if you are obsessing about it you have turned it into a problem.\n\nI'm assuming from your question that you actually did have a sex drive at one time. Did something happen between then and now?\n\nWhat about medications for whatever? Anything?\n\nJust throwing ideas to you. I don't have any difinitive answers for you. I hope you figure out what's going on tho.\n\nBest wishes to you, and I hope you have a happy life filled with love for always.
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marriage is a religious and social status.  i've been with my partner for 5 years and we are not married.  our relationship is great. he is always there for me, as i am for him.\ni'm not saying marriage is not a beautiful thing.  or that i don't believe in it.  i'm just saying that some people don't have to have approval from society and the church.  i'm not knocking it, i'm not saying we aren't going to get married.  i am saying that we're happy with our situation right now.
480052
If you're not sure now then it won't help if you get married.  Call it off now before you make a huge mistake.  You probably don't want to live the rest of your life like that.  I don't know many people who would want to.
226371
i don't really think so bt sometimes u r forced to think so. sumtimes u feel itz all useless...nothing to do with relations bt at the same time u feel why not try it? that's it.
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I think you'll be fine. You've just built it up in your mind a bit too much (which is only natural whatever your age).\n\nI also think that you have a lot of stress in your life right now. Even good things like buying a house and getting married cause stress because they are big, life-changing events. Look at the facts:\n\n1- getting married\n2- buying a house\n3- having sex for the first time\n4- Losing your religious faith\n\nAnd probably more things that you haven't mentioned. You have a lot going on right now and it's only natural to be nervous. you are not messed up you are just under pressure. \n\nNobody is forcing you to have sex on your wedding night. This is YOUR marriage, YOUR wedding, YOUR life and YOUR rules. You and your partner are the ones who make the rules and when you are ready for the next step it will come naturally. Just try not to put pressure on yourselves. Relax and go easy on yourselves. You two make the rules here.
365776
no way! Marriage is all about love. If u don't love someone, u shouldn't marry them and prevent them from being happy because ur selfish. If u don't love some one, or is another person doesn't like u, both are wasting their time and years together
429963
no i don't think so for what reasons?
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I'm 36, husband is 39. We've been married 16 1/2 years. We have four kids, ages 13, 11, 10 and 8. \nI wouldn't worry too much about not being married yet. It just means you haven't found the right person yet. Wouldn't you rather wait for "The One" rather than get married, just to say you're married. Loads of people are waiting to get married these days. I think it's wise to wait because you are more mature and know what you like or don't like and what you are looking for in a life-partner. Don't rush it. It will happen in good time and probably when you least expect it.
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I hate to have to break your rule because I am under 28 but over 21.  I know because a lot of my ex's were over 28 and a lot of friends and colleagues are in the age range as well.  \n\nI know for a fact that the word marraige is like taboo for some people because they feel like in some way this thing that is suppose to be happy is going to be a bad experience.  When you think about the divorce rates and how many people are having marital issues a lot of people attibute those issues to be being married instead of the real reason- THE COUPLE DID NOT THINK BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED or are not aware of how to resolve their problems. \n\nMany people who have even been in long term relationships are not willing to even discuss marriage as an option.  I do not know why it seems so scary to so many people because marriage is suppose to be one of the greatest achievements in life.  This person is suppose to be your helper, lover, best friend and confidant.  Why wouldn't you want to spend everyday of your life with them? I think this is one of those questions that will never have a clear answer until we wake up and start realizing the importance of MARRIAGE.  It is the foundation for a family.  I could go on and on as to why people  are afraid to get married.  But my honest belief is that people are afraid of what could happen (in the negative instead of the positive).  \n\nI have friends who have been together for 4 yrs. and have children together but when you bring up marriage they are like "What? Who me? Oh, I'm not ready for that?" It is amazing.  It never fails to shock me. \n\nI will be getting married in one year and I look forward to the day that I become my mate's wife.  I feel like marriage only betters your life. I am sorry if this was long but I really have strong feeling about marriage.  Thanks for the question!  I hope you get a lot of answers.