she gets in between my husband and i all the time!!!  in her sick twisted mind she thinks she is right.  my husband had put his name on her house phone and she racked it up to 800!!! my husband and i needed to get our own phone so he called her and told her to get it out of his name.  she threw a fit and wanted to know why it has never been a problem until now (meaning me).  i ended up putting or phone in just my name and called her to let her know and she was telling me "that is my brother and he will always be my brother and you will never know him like i do!!"  she is driving me crazy!!! that is only one incident!!! this has been going on for 5 years now??? what do i do????
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I think you need to move far away from SIS!
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hmm... she sounds a bit nuts. you certainly aren't the crazy one!! maybe now though, that she has 3 names to pick from, she likes yours best. \n\nshe might be doing it to spite the other guy. or maybe of the two husbands he has had, she sees you as being better and maybe wants you back, (at the moment, i'm sure not deep down. certainly do not go back to her!!).
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Believe it or not, I do. She is nutts and tries to stay in our business. She also calls about 20 times a day with stupid questions and suggestions. I have gotten to where I don't answer the phone EVER. I also sometimes try to work overtime when there is a family gathering planed just so I don't have to listen to it. It's like fingernails on a chalkboard. Oh,she is Italian too so not only do I get constant talking, but she moves her arms alot and talk very loud with a Buffalo, NY accent.
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My best friend does this all the time. She'll call me and ask for advice on what to do about her loser husband who doesn't work, is never home, and treats her like shit. She alreadys know exactly what I'm going to say for the 50 millionth time. So I got to the point where I told her if she wasn't going to listen to my advice then don't ask for it and as a matter of fact, just don't bring the subject up all together. It's gets annoying after a while.
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LOL.....man......I wish I had caller ID a few times too. I had this exact same thing happen to me! You described it well too. I thought I'd split a gut when you said that about the caller ID....ROFL.\n\nWell meaning person, sweet, intelligent....but MAN, just could not understand plain, well-stated english.\n\nOk.....I don't know which way you want to go....\n\n....but I tried and tried...and tried and tried and tried and tried....and did I mention that I tried?...to be polite, respectful, caring.\n\nTo carefully lay barriers (even tho I wanted to hide in a tank), talked with her, communicated in person, on the phone. And it's not like we were strong buds or anything it was just a low-level friendship, but she was treating me like a nuclear-powered soul mate. It was very inappropriate.\n\nI'd speak to her....kindly, clearly, but the message did not sink in. I asked her about what her feelings were, and she squarely, flatly said friendship. I asked her several times...just to be sure, and she emphatically said friendship. \n\nI tried my best to be this woman's friend, but it was never enough. She demanded more and more of my time and attention. It got worse and worse, and I communicated more and more firmly with her. I was starting to look for tickets to the next Shuttle launch so I could get away.\n\nI eventually had to warn her that she was quickly going to lose a friend if she didn't cut it out.....and she didn't....and I had to finally be rude to her. :(\n\nIt's a shame, but I wanted to make sure I did everything I could on my end, to give her every possible chance to keep the friendship. Severing a frendship is a pretty major thing, and I felt bad but things were getting pretty trippy.\n\nDunno what you can glean outta all this, but I wish you luck!     :D
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Yes you did over react a little but I'm sure it's all those hormons flying around.  hehehe  I'm glad you apologized to your stepmom because she is doing her best for you and is looing out for the family.  She probably needs a little help and is trying to help make Tracy feel like part of your family & you can get to know her better if she's around.  I was afraid you were going to say she had un-invited her which would have given you a reason to blow-up, since you had already invited her.  Your step mom sounds like a nice & caring person.  She is doing this for you & for your baby.  Let her know you appreciate everything she is doing for you & that you are happy she is there for you as well.  Be happy that you like Tracy & that she's coming over to help, get to know her...you never know, she might be your future sister-in-law!!!  CONGRATULATIONS!  Good luck in the party & God bless.  ;o)\n\n~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~\n\nFree helpful Baby Magazines for a new Mommy-to-be:\n\nhttp://www.americanbaby.com\nhttps://subs.timeinc.net/BY/by_newbiz03.jhtml;jsessionid=Q43OUZOPQV4ROQHMGARRHOQ?experience_id=119170&source_id=30&_requestid=222655\nhttp://www.verybestbaby.com/user/regp00pa.asp?OPTI=RI&offername=&Next=%2F
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Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
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She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
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something is not right here? is this your husbands sister, or is it your brothers wife? because if it is your brothers wife calling your husband! you best watch out, she could be coming to the game to make sure where you are. it is not her place to call your husband. keep your eyes open there maybe be alot more to this than you think. GOOD LUCK!
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record it with a hidden cam corder. If she abuses you , she is more then likey to abuse others too. in my family this kinda stuff happpened too . it drove a space between me and my older sister, i hated her then and now i have little to no contact to her because she treats other still like that in her thirtys. some people need to feel as if they are in control and have the power. I dont want you to end up the tatel tail but if it was my child i would listen. Abuse is abuse no matter whos hand it comes by.
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I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
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Hopefully you both get along first of all. If you have caller ID, use it. Have you talked this over with your boyfriend & explain to him you understand her concern but can his mother please call the other number & explain about the minutes. Be honest. If you do get along with her, don't be afraid to talk to her then. If your minutes are being used up & especially costing you additional fees, tell her you DO appreciate her calling but she needs to call the house. You can also just not answer it (which is not solving anything)& if she says anything tell her you have to cut back on your cell phone due to the minutes so please call the other number or when she does call the cell ask her nicely to please hang up & call the other number & you will answer that phone.
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She's rude! If you're married to her son- your family! As for the kids, the noise or mess may bother her, but that is still no excuse.\nTry talking to your husband, he can speak to her on your behalf.
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She sounds rotten inside. I would go the extra mile and ask her to step outside for a moment. I would then say to her "I don't know what I have done to make you not like me but I would appreciate it if you would explain it to me" if you don't get any answer then say "I am trying to understand your position here but now I know your just an unhappy person and I will still be polite to you regardless of how you treat me". Doing this puts you on the high road above her, she knows your not going to play the game and leave it at that. I do think your husband should of done something before now, maybe she is unstable and needs medical help. If you can't do this then wait and sucker punch her as she enters a room. lol not really.
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That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
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Please don't take it personal, but chances are you are the root of her defiance. Don't take this personal, but are you White? And this is just an observation that I had, many white people allow their children extended freedoms, and this can cause a child to feel like they are the ones that are in control. Let me open my mouth in an even slightly disrespectful undertone, my mother would've put a fist, belt, extension cord, mopstick, telephone cord.......(you get the picture) on my behind. And to all those who say don't beat their children remember " spare the rod spoil the child". This is just a general response. I also must say that it sounds like she has a lot of resentment towards you, and it sounds like it stems from whatever kind of relationship you had/have with her father. Her fighting with her younger bro is something that is common, but it could be BC of jealousy(do the two of them have the same father?) It kinda sounds like she is crying out for attention, you must remember to children attention is attention, whether it is positive or negative its the attention that they desire
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Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy