Sometimes you are invited in party of your friends.There you suddenly feel that you are being ignored,even by the host.How you can convey your protest in a healthy and decent way or you should remain mute and keep on smiling
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Here is a little story that might help you. It has helped me many times.\n\nWhen I was younger I would notice that my Grandmother always had people coming up to her saying hi and so on.\nI asked my great aunts after my grandmother  died why this was. They told me that everytime she went to a party and notice people that looked uncomfortable she would walk up to them and start talking to them and finding info about them. By the time she got done talking to them they were no longer uncomfortable.\n\nKeep Smiling if that happenes again try this if you still feel uncomfortable make a polite excuse and leave. If you are invited back to a party at that persons home I do not think I would attend.
462860
u r doing the right thing. if you "talk", your opponent can blame you for distracting him. I find that complete silence is even more irritating to your oppenent because they know you are being quiet on purpose. also, always stand or sit out of the oppenents line of vision. that gives then the creeps because they keep thinking you might bump them accidently, or ever so lightly on purpose. don't do anything that could bother your opponent. it will backfire.
143407
Sometimes it's better to keep it silent - where the sensitivity & mood is different like in the Katrina/ 9-11 incidents u mentioned.\n\nThere are social initiatives where u can be vocal too - Like for example, an airways company associating itself with a orphanage and collecting donations in mid-air for them - gives a good impression about the company. \n\nHence- Be Vocal when it comes to an ONGOING social initiative. Be silent when it comes to a disaster which is one-time and not recurring.
638953
invite them all have a good time get drunk get them drunk...hopefully they wont remeber ne thign in the mornign so  they cant be mad at u
111794
i think you should go out for a walk look at the crowd and join it. you should talk about what do you think and what do you take care of to them, share them your thought(you should talk to them not ask them to listen to you)\nBut now, if you don't mine, can i be your friend? i am Jean, from Viet nam. my chat id is undaunted_horse (yahoo). send me a messenger if you agree\ngood luck!
613111
You shouldn't invite them. If they arn't your friends then who cares what they think and who cares if they get mad.
330119
I am a quiet person, if everyone was like me no-one would speak. If we were all the same life would be dull.\n\nTo help though, first don't stress yourself, think about what you are saying and how you say it. Then listen, really listen to other people. If you care what people think of you, take care of there feelings and your own.\n\nRemember the world needs talkers and listeners. Good luck.
458712
me too, OMG we can definitely relate! i'm too polite and i feel like i'm interrupting other people's conversations if i just butt in. but now i'm starting to realize, but observing my friends that it's okay and that no one will hate you just because you interrupted a conversation. it's a way to make friends. and i'm also really shy. just join clubs in school, cuz that's what i do.
84062
What's up with this? If you don't know what could be bothering this so-called GREAT friend of yours( and she won't even talk to youabout her feelings so things can be put right and you can make amends if you are at fault) well how do you expect someone who doesnt know either one of you to know?   You should be writing the question TO HER if she really means that much to you.\nIf I were in your shoes though, I would be a little careful of this person from now on even if you resolve whatever it was that she was buggin about.  Because her way of reacting to problems between good friends leaves a lot to be desired..Unless you are b.s.-ing all of us.\nShe is doing something very cruel to you by not inviting you to the party, and she is not interested in doing damage control.  Instead she is making it more hurtful and lettingwhatever she's on aboutt become something that all the rest of your shared 'friends' are gonna be gossiping about and taking sides about when everyone but you is at the party.  This is  spreading sickness and needs to be contained before it spreads even forhter and does even more harm to what peole think of her and you.  Are you responsible for some awful offense to her that you dont want to admit?  Is there someone in your circle of friends that has something against you and may have messed with your friend's mind? Is there something way back in the past that may have just come to light? \nBe honest with yourself and consider everything between you and her. If you still think your friendship deserves to be treated better than she is treating you, then YOU could be the hero and write to her and say so.Since she is refusing to answer you when you ask, Tell her that you are writing her a letter and walk away.  When she gets the letter she can in privacy getdown off her attitude and see what you have to say in the letter wthout losing face.  In the letter you can offer to make it up to her if she will tell you how you have offended her.  Tell her that no matter what, you value her friendship too much to just let it go without trying to make things better between you.,
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I try to wait for my turn to speak. I was brought up to be patient and polite. But when I was in my late teens I realized that sometimes if I don't butt in no one would listen to me at all. Even if your polite and quiet you deserve to have your opinion heard.
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well if your friends are truly friends then they shouldn't be bothered or laugh at you. If they do they are losers and get rid of them. Your condition is not something that you asked for nor is it your fault and you should know that. Bottom line is you don't have to disclose your situation until you are comfortable and when you do you shouldn't feel bad about it because its life and everyone has something or other that they either wished they didn't or they are not proud of make the best out of your situation and be happy that you are still here!
136986
Be honest with your friends, tell how they make you feel and they should get their act together without making you the middle person.
375363
Most people who act like that are using it defensively because they're jealous.  So don't feel bad.  They're ugly people, inside and most likely out.  Only go if you want to go to events/occassions.  Otherwise, don't waste your time and don't give them the pleasure of being able to make you feel like crap.  If they say something nasty to you just smile and nod and say "Thanks for letting me know...I had NO idea..."  and then walk away.  They want a reaction out of you and if you respond politely and sweetly they'll either stop or get really pissed off.  My mother always taught me "Kill 'em with kindness"...and it works almost every time!
78781
The best way to deal with such ppl is to hurt their ego....... a simple ignore will hurt their feeling of superiority....... make them feel as if their existence doesnt matter to u
403634
If it makes you uncomfortable, keep your distance from these people. But dont judge them , thats not your place to judge people. Just do what makes you feel better.
318919
Basically that is a sincere question with a deep meaning if you havn't seen each other for quite a while or been seeing around but doesn't talk because of some sort of misunderstanding or disagreement from the past or literally he/she has been ignored by you for no reason at all because you are being hurt or mistreated by him/her without his/her knowlegde and is not quite right to you...so if you think you can manage your ego ..just nod or if an uhmm answer will be fulfilling in your part is perfect.. or a rolling eyeball or raise your eye brow is as good as you think, will do it...but if you have an extra feeling toward that person just say ...I'm ok how bout you are you ok?.....
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me as a people person i would go up to the friends thats being bad and talk to them if you listen and try to hammer in that you are listining people will talk they may have some bad pent up feelings that just came out that way. so talk is all i can say.