I was and did. I told him I forgave him. It terrified him.\nI also filed a police report. Sadly I am not a credible witness. Hate was killing me and I needed to live.\nI did not condone what he did and told him he deserved to be put down like a dog that bites. \nHave you ever faced scum like I did?\nDid it resolve anything for you?\nAre you living yet?\n\nps. if you need a friend. feel free to reach out.
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i would love to answer but before i do, there are people that have, and if  the 5 year termination process hasn't ended the report or crime of which someone was abused is still secret and needs to be kept withen the family or group of whom the crime has effected. but yes, and i never saw him after he attacked me. I changed schools and i actually found streangth through god. \n\nyes i do get hurt and i still get into trouble, and bad things occur, but god makes it so much easier. he always let's you come back to him. he forgives you and you don't have to cut yourself or crash planes into world united buildings in order to get gods forgivness. \n\nanyway i've been healed because i came to christ. if i ever meet my attacker i will forgive him, but ig he hurt me or anyone else i would instantly take him to the cops.
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I was reading this book and it really made me think about my actions and the actions of those around me.  This guy had a near death experience and he talked about having his life review, during it he talked about experiencing his actions on those around him. He said that he felt what they felt because of his actions. With that said, I would rather not have to feel pain that I caused on another person even if I was justified. I think that in the end as long as I do the right thing everything will be as it should. I know how I have felt when others have wronged me, it hurts, sometimes physically and sometimes emotionally. I don't like it. I think that the wisest thing to do is turn it over to the Lord, he will be the perfect judge. It's not for us to do, especially with our limited knowledge.\n\nAlso I think that it just feels good to do that, I have had to find forgiveness with a few close friends who have hurt me badly. The great thing is that I sleep good at night. It's not good to carry that burden around, holding on to a grudge. Letting go of it gives you peace.
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Scary I was talking on my cell phone and driving there were no cars coming and I was talking to a friend of mine on his cell phone we were going to have coffee..He was working he is a cop and as I was making the turn and i just over stirred my car and crashed it only had it 5 days...My friend got the call from 911 that I had crashed..He was so scared to find me with a bloody nose and that was all..My nose was broke due to the air bag,,,He said that he could not life with him self when he heard the whole crash and then to get no signal and then to get the call..He was so upset needless to say we did have the coffee the next day at the hospital..He brought me my favorite white mocha..mmm \n\nAnd reading your post to me about my son and his buddies..YOU know I never thought of death, just them making babies,,,,LOL\nYou really made me see that next time even though there trip was fine and no problems you made me see the what ifs....OMG did you ~(:}
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I know what you mean...\n\nI had a guy at school call me "freaking Nazi" everyday a school... he made others hate me.... I had no friends there.....    His reason for doing it?  He made up lies about me, he said I hated Jewish people...\n\nHe falsly accused me of what I didn't do... and he made everyone else believe it.\n\nHe hurt me deeply......  but God gave me the grace to forgive him...\n\neven though he wasn't sorry.\n\n\nThis is what you can do:\n\n\nGet your parents to meet with his parents... that ended the problem for me.\n\n\nThe best thing to do, is not call him names or do anything bad to him, even though he deserves it... he can use that against you.\n\n\n\nForgive him.\n\n\nGod bless you and yours.
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What the hell's the matter with you? I've looked at your other posts and it seems you're just looney tunes. Maybe you should find psychiatric help, go back on your medication, do whatever the hell it takes to focus your anger and hatred toward yourself, where it belongs. Where do you get off thinking you have the friggin' right to kill anyone else? Who gave YOU the right to take another life??? Freak
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First off I would grab the child away from it...yes IT! They are less then human.  And Lord help the thing if it should try and retaliate.  \nThis would bring forth so much adrenaline into my being..my mind would not control my fury.  Then as the child is safe I would definitely call the Cops....  This is from ONE who has been that CHILD.  You carry this with you all your lives...so if by chance a predator reads this....remember We Do Grow Up!\n\nAs far as revenge goes well I think he lives in his own Hell now...he placed himself there..because of his actions...no one will associate with him...only his mom really..Actually I kinda..maybe feel sorry for the lost soul.  Don't get me wrong He brought this on himself....But everything you suffer in life has a reason...If not for what I went through...I may have not been so carefull with my own children...I was a stay at home mom....now a stay at home grandma...I learned at an early age how evil man can be.  There was no way I would allow my children to be placed in the care of strangers...or for that matter people I know...You never know what goes on behind closed doors.  I myself am a very protective person when it comes to my family....sure I could have more money if I worked outside my home...but when it comes to the safety of mine.....there is not enough money in the world to relinquish them to The Horrors.  Also mine is not to crucify...I leave that up to my Lord.  I have learned to forgive...does not mean I have to associate with the person.  I suffered years of torment...but not anything as near as what he is and will suffer in the end.\nAnyways thanks for acknowledging my answer.\n\nOne last thing I do find a sence of humor helps me alot....I just had to ask....Do you find yourself to be a molester detector?
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I definetely understand your situation. I did something like that one time, and a friend called the cops on me! And true, I don't like people to know how screwed up my life is. But you know what? Things have gotten better, and I look back on those times and wonder how I survived. I'm just saying that this will pass, and one day you will feel SO together. Just hang in there.
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Thanks Becca, and I'm sorry too. That really meant a lot, stay cool girl! \n\nEmail me if you want and no God will always forgive you if you ask 4 it. I know that I've messed up a lot times, sometimes as christians we represent Jesus in such a terrible way, because we've been hurt so we become bitter and take it out on everyone else, a lot of us need to be healed before we try to start witnessing. Again I apologize too, and hope you can forgive me.
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I know a guy who had this happen to him but by an ex-girlfriend.  He said she even had her mom, who was a nurse make up bogus documents at the hospital saying that she was examined and found to have been raped.  He said it was revenge on her part and that he never did such a thing.  I believe him because if he really did rape her, he would have never even brought it up.  I do not know the girl.  He had know reason to tell me the story other than to confide in me.  He says he hates our gov't and that it is twisted and anybody can do anything just as long as you have the right connections and the right amount of money.  I believe this too.\n\nI suggest two things.\n\n1- You get a lawyer that will represent YOU.  Do some shopping around.  I know you do not have a lot of money but find a way to get some.  Save up, beg, organize a fundraiser.  Don't steal though.  You don't need to make things worse.  Contact news stations and radio stations and talk show host.  Speak out.\n\n2- Do not give up.  Pray.  Believe in yourself and others will believe in you.  No matter what pressure they put you under, or how they try to coerce you, saying "Just admit you did it and legally, it will go easier for you.", do not do it.  It will be better if you are in the end found innocent after a long, long battle than to have everybody thinking you did it and having it on your record for years just because you were under pressure.  My friend never "admitted" and because of that it went very badly for him in jail and with probation and he did not get the priveledges the other guys did because they admitted it.  He was deemed uncooperative.  Under this kind of pressure, you might just want to make up a story just to get them off your back but with the right supports and actions, lawsuit, etc you can win and have it taken off your record.\n\nRemember.  You are the most important person in your life.  Don't ever let anybody put you down.  You have to fight for yourself.
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Well, if you are asking this question of whether you did right -- odds are you did wrong, because you did nothing.\n\nWhether or not the man deserved it, as you put it, no one DESERVES to be beaten half to death.  What if this was some relative of yours?  Wouldn't you want someone who observed such an act happen -- wouldn't you want them to come forward.\n\nThat is the reason why so many people do not get convicted because citizens take the attitude of "minding there own business" until that same "business" comes knocking at your door.\n\nI was a police officer for 8.5 years and I patrolled from the ghetto to the affluent neighborhoods.  When those in the ghetto reported a crime, their expectation was that we could locate the perps just because "something" happened.  Nobody "saw" anything, could describe anyone not even the car they were driving (if it was a driveby shooting.)  Nobody wanted to get involved because they were afraid.  Well, when resident criminals know you are afraid, they keep on doing exactly what they do, the legal residents keep on doing what they do (see,hear, speak no evil); and the police keep on doing what they do as a result of the law abidding citizen not making a statement -- we do NOTHING!  \n\nOnce I worked a burglary and the next door neighbors were breaking up from a family reunion.  Thing is these people saw the perps.  When I asked what did they look like --there response "we're not going to tell you go look for them."  Then one guy said well he was black.  I said then if that be the case, I can arrest you!  \n\nThe thing is, the police can't make your neighborhood safe because they don't live there.  Only you can prevent your neighborhood from becoming a drug haven and drive by shooting alley.  Call the police, identify the suspects, show up in court and tesitfy against these idiots, because that's exactly what they are, idiots.
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I find it interesting that this has come up in the last few days, considering my roomate had just found Ben's website yesterday and sent me the link. First thing, he wasnt a man, he was a BOY who had been medicated with a drug whose long term effects on minors was not known at the time.I dated him about 6 months before his initial hospitalization,and dont get me wrong, he was a troubled kid, very sensitive to bad things in his life, but never aggresive towards me or others.\n I saw him the July before the murder at the park, this was after some extended time at Shepperd Pratt.....and he was completely off of his rocker...did the TRIPLE dosage of prozac affect this, absolutely. Was his judgment clouded that night, of course! Does it excuse what he did, not totally. He should have to serve time for his crime, but did he deserve life with no parole at 16 years of age? I know for sure...the whole situation breaks my heart. A life lost, a child without a mother, and a brilliant soul who couldnt see beyond his troubled youth,his life wasted behind bars.
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Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.
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well what you did was not easy  i too have done it but it want just your life that is suffering the life everyone thought they had is now turned up side down and the easiest way out is to blame you. I am so sorry this happen to you  but good for you that you  are not the victim anymore and your family will come around in time but the words we say be it what you say to them or what they say to you will remain as the biggest scar\nyou keep living your live with your head held high and dont think for a minute it was your fault. i would like to have contact information with you so i can discuss this farther i can really help .I will keep you in prayer and your family. i dont know if they will let me post it but it is JLSJSTEPHENS@YAHOO>COM
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There is this guy named Michael, 23 years old, who was with my little sister as she overdosed on heroin.   He robbed her as she lay dying and then took off and lied about the whole thing to the police.   There were 10 other people in the apartment also who did nothing but Michael sold her the heroin and he robbed her as she was passed out and turning blue.   She was 18, beautiful, went to school and worked and she was a true artist.   Miss her so much.   I know she has responsibility in her death but I absolutely hate him for his part.   I would call him and pretend I want to buy some dope from him and arrange to meet him.   Then I would show up with two big guys and throw him in the trunk of the car.   Drive to a isolated destination and torture him a couple of hours.   I would burn him with cigarettes and cut him with a good quality knife and force him to drink bleach.   I would start to choke him.  As he lay dying I would show him pictures of my sister and let him know he is own his way to his death as I sip on a glass of champagne.   Too bad it is just a fantasy that I have.
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Hi itstight38@s...,\nI'm sure your grandfathers friend knows how you feel and all is forgiven. My answer to your question is on the day my 12 year old son was killed he asked me if he could stay home from school and I told him no. There are times I wish I could take it back but in my heart I know that when God calls you home there is nothing we can do but except it. I know where my son is and I know he's in a better place than I am and I hope God will let me see my son again when it's my time to go home. Thanks: Blueladybug
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The same thing happened to a friend of mine. The guy snuck into the kid's house at night and brutally murdered his entire family. He hacked off every appendage of the 6 members of his family and piled them in front of the kids locker at school with a sign that read "This is what happens to doorbell-ditchers who punch me in the face when I chase them down and catch them and then sleep with a pocket knife and baseball bat because they think I will come after them". The killer got off scott-free because he said that the little punk had it coming. I would be very affraid if I were you. VERY AFFRAID.\n\nLOL!!! You idiot!
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BEFORE YOU READ THIS,  You accept that I am just giving my opinion, and NOT giving legal advice, else you should NOT read further.  You agree not to act on my opinions stated herein, and seek the council of a legal professional when ultimately making a decision to act.\n\nREVISED.  He has children with your sister?  She is an idiot for allowing him to be a deadbeat.  And he is a lowlife, but not the only lowlife in the world.  They are all over the place.  So...What are you going to do? I feel for you and your situation. I understand how difficult it might be to move, but what choice do you have?  You have to consider your own well being.  If the house belongs to your family, and you sister seems to be in control of the house.  AND chooses to allow him to stay, then what OTHER options are there?  Your sister has to do the kicking out.  You can do it, but it seems you are not in a position to defend yourself.  You need to bring in someone who can help, either law enforcement, or otherwise.  A rich friend or Strong Friend to Kick his A%% out of there.\nThat said...\n\nYOu didn't say who he threatened.  You?  If so, you really need to get out of there, even if you are not convinced he would cause you harm.  If someone says it, they are capable of acting on it.  You don't need to stay there, and yes if he said he would cause you bodily harm, you can call the authorities and have him charged for assault.  Sadly, the police don't and won't do much for you on this. The laws are set up to protect the guilty.  Without witness it is him agains you.  Remember that.  You are in a no win situation really.\n\nYour sister has made a choice to be with this person.\nYOU NEED TO MOVE OUT...\nWhat you do after that is up to you.(pressing charges for instance)\n\nIf you feel she is in danger , call the police.\nIf you feel her kids are in danger call Child Protective Services. (remember they can make someone's life miserable), so don't do that unless you truly feel the kids are in danger.\n\nIMPORTANTLY this is my opinion, and any ideas given here must be taken as such.  If you want real legal advise, you should consult with an attorney in your area of jusisdiction.\n\nYou don't like this guy, and it sounds like you have a good reason, but you NEED to remember, your sister has made the choice to have him there.  YOU can leave. You don't have to stay there, and even if it is an inconvenience, you move and find a more peaceful place to live.  Better for you in the end anyways.\n\nSOrry for you, but you chose to (OR NOT TO) live there.  Your sister is a big girl, let her make her own decisions.\nYou never stated her feelings about this.  Is she scared to kick him out?  Again, if so, she needs to get law enforcement involved.  Restraining orders are a start.  At least then if he shows up, he can be arrested.  This is not an easy situation.  You should try to find as much support as you can BEFORE making moves.\n\nI know this is to the point and a bit sharp, but those are the  real life choices you have to make.  Good luck and best wishes to you!\n\nMove out.