Is it to soon to be thinking about marrage if it comes up in a conversation casually? Should I take it serious when we talk about it casually?
198828
My boyfriend and I got together and less than 2 weeks later we moved in together, and we were talking about marriage after 3 weeks, he is my soul mat e, my whole life, and my futurte husband, we have been together for 2 years and we have had our bad times, really bad times, but it doesnt make me love him, or us any less, so what Im trying to say is, if your ready and he is the one, you will just know, nobody else can tell you when you are ready except for your heart, dont listen to your head so much, i mean listen to it just follow your heaart, you know what is best for you...I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you...xxx
432699
I agree with "thinking ahead."  And I think you would agree that you've not known each other long enough to get past the "in love" infatuation stage to make the life-long commitment that being parents brings, to say nothing of whether you will get/remain married.\n\nThis is obviously an important issue to discuss, but wait to see if marriage and children emerge out of a strong, loving committed relationship rather than using the relationship to (perhaps) aritifically create a marriage and family that will not last but the responsibilities and consequences of which will be with you for the rest of you life.\n\np.s. You are not selfish for not being sure of wanting to be a parent at this time in your life.  There are more parents who should not be than non-parents who should be! :-)
151102
You could always tell her-" You are very attractive, funny etc..but in the same time I don't feel like marrying you, I "don't see there being a marriage future" and i feel responsible because i care. What do you think we should do? Is it OK with you or you wanna split and waste no more time..?"\n\nIf you want to get married and you're looking for the One and you are sure she is not, being with her no matter how fine it is is waisting her and your time.\nBut if you really enjoy being with her, miss her and she feels the same way too, don't loose her for these are very sweet nice emotions and life is unpredictably short.
241334
personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
247075
Have you ever tried to remember the name of a movie, & you thought as hard as you could about it, but couldn't remember, only to have it come to you later when you weren't thinking about it at all?  I know, odd question, but I'm illustrating a point.  I think a serious relationship is often the same way.  For some odd reason, when you are concentrating so hard on trying to find someone, it won't happen.  Then, when you change the focus of your life to something else, like work or school, often times someone just falls in your lap.  Careful that they aren't too heavy, though, as that could lead to bruising.  Seriously, though, you sound like a great girl who may just need a little more time to get over your past relationship, & get your focus in the present instead of the past.  Try to do some things with work or school that may get your mind off your ex & men in general for a little while.  Then, don't be surprised if someone walks right up to you & asks you out on a date.  God has a way of providing for our needs, even if they conflict with our desires & we don't even know it.  When you're ready, the right man will come to you.  Best of luck.
273816
I wouldn't worry about what others say. As long as your happy, then that's all that matters. Your still young, you have lots of time ahead of you to get married if you want to. Wait until you find the right person. A lot of people don't marry until they are in their 30's or 40's. They want to make sure the person they marry is the right person for them to spend the rest of their life with. I say ignore the remarks from people and enjoy your life.
625678
My husband and I talk a lot during. Sometimes it's just a matter of telling the other what we want at the moment and other times it can get a bit dirty...LOL...It just has to do with the moment and what we are feeling.
89072
I would bring it up with him. You are already living together which is a huge part of marriage and so what's the holdup?
380497
I agree Matt...and it seems most on here have kinda missed the question...or maybe I have.\n\nIt's not what you call him as a term of endearment....although I think that's a great question I'd like to see all the answers to. What I think you're asking is how you refer to that person in your life....when introducing them to others, or talking about them to others.\n\nWith my ex I used partner and hated it. It sounds like we're CPA's together or something. \nLife partner is icky \nBoyfriend sound like we're in Summer camp\nLover...eeewwww\n\nEven though we were together for a decade I never used husband because it is a lie. We had not exchanged vows in our church (though we would have been allowed to get married there). I think marriage is a deadly serious thing that I do not want to cheapen by using it erroneously.\n\nSo, I ended up using partner and probably (hopefully) will again in the future. But I'd sure like something else.\n\nI don't think this is uniquely gay either...straights don't really have a better word, do they?
455828
Her behavior is a good indication of what she really wants in life.  You need to tell her that you want the marriage to be important, and not the material things.  If this is how you truly feel, you need to break (or at least postpone) the engagement.  Engagement (and marriage) should only be entered into if you have NO feelings of uncertainty.  This is not your circumstance, so act now - before it's too late.
514050
At the time you may not see it this way but my motto is "everything happens for a reason". You can't always see the reason at the time but later on you will look back down the road and agree. Don't stress the situation so much, both of you should talk about making compromises, and just go with the flow. Things will happen in due time and if its meant to be it will be!
74279
If you are married to this person and you have objections to what he/she is requesting of you, perhaps you should have had this conversation before marriage!  Marriage is between the husband and the wife - if you want to invite others into the relationship, then you are exposing your marriage to chaos and the inevitability of divorce.\n\nIf you are merely lovers, then you need to assess what your relationship is about.  Are you two committed to each other?  Or are you willing to share your lover with others?  That is a personal decision.
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hun...if you believe in GOD, it shouldnt be such a problem.\n\nmarriage is not always about money...once you both married, GOD will lead you both to a better life! believe in that!\n\nlike my self with my husband now,, he didnt have any job yet and still looking...but a week after we married, a job called...and now we're living our life better.\n\nand your relationship has been going too long...its about time for you to step to the next level!\n\nfear is normal...but the only way we can get tid of it is by facing it and go on with it.\n\ndont mentioned this reason to your couple, he might get offended...but being supportive and always pray will give you both a way.
255423
It's all in how you feel about it deep inside.  Do you have the option of meeting her before marrying her?  If so, meet with her and then see how you feel.
81210
No offense, but if you have to ask, niether relationship is probably a good one. When you truely love somone, there is no doubt in your mind as to what decision to make in this type of situation.
254189
I was married when I was 16 and he was 18.  That was 21 years ago.  We are even happier and more in love now than when we were married.  We are each others best friend and ALWAYS make time for the other no matter what.  Communication is definately a must. You can't expect the other to know what is on your mind.  Neither of you are mind readers. ALWAYS respect each other.  Our rule is whoever gets whatever whenever.  Sometimes you need to just spice things up.  It has worked well even with having five kids from 17 down to 4 year old twins!  To really make sure it will last forever...add God and it will!
120254
My dear, if you are having second thoughts then DON'T GET MARRIED!! You don't have to call off the engagement but postpone the wedding. I was married the first time at 25, it lasted 5 years and ended painfully. I am now 32, remarried with a son. I am more mature, responsible, and ready for the committment. It is a life altering change and the "fun" you feel when getting engaged and having a big wedding, etc goes away once reality hits and bills start coming, kids, real life!! Marriage is a wonderful thing...when you are ready for it! Good Luck!!