Why do guys ask women out and let them fall in love with them and at the end they don't become truthfully to their women, Why is it always about you men, hurting women please give a polite answer, I really want to know. On how can you let someone to fall inlove with you then you hurt her.
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You've just answered your question. Now, I consider myself to be a gentleman.\nBut, look at what you said here. The women are the ones falling in love in your scenario. The guy is just dating and enjoying what's happening. The woman here is probably reading way too much into it, or she's the kind of woman who's "in love with falling in love".\n\nBy the way, when I was dating the woman who became my wife, I was the one who said the "I love you" first.\nHer response to that?... she said, "I know you do".
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Women like a challenge. They are unable to accept men as they are. They always want to make us over & later ask whatever happened to that person they first fell in love with?\nBe yourself & don't give the matter another thought. Some women can not believe they are not irrestible. It shatters them & so the anger
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you can not let one fall get you down!! dont let the last one ruin happiness for you and whom ever you may choose to be with!!i cant stand when women ruin men by hurting them and then the men are  distant and having walls up for the next girl and she doesnt even deserve that cuz shes not the one that hurt him! you know what i mean?find some one to be with and write them a love song. shell love it and cherish for life!!! good luck. with your personality on here it shouldnt be too hard for you. your a cool guy, and who wouldnt want some one that calls their girls princess's!!!(and you like to cuddle too?!?!?!)
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Don't worry too much about it, maybe he went out with you and decided he didn't like you as much as he thought he did.  Men (and women) are like this all the time and instead of being honest and telling what it is...they do things like this.  He's trying to "let you down easy" and not confront the situation.  My advice is to get involved with other things (friends, family, etc) and keep it moving.  You can't get someone to be interested in you if they aren't.
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people hurt each other's feelings quite a lot.Many guys wud say tht they've gotten hurt thanks 2 women,so its not fair 2 say tht only guyz hurt galz feelings.\nAlso,sometimes,it happens unknowingly and sometimes,\nit just so happens tht what's good 4 1 person may hurt some1 else.That's how i look at it
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You know, men like you that go "unnoticed" are what I consider to be one in a million. Not because you feel completely ignored by women, but because you guys are generally the ones that every woman would die for, if she weren't so distracted by "bling-bling", Cartier wristwear, and big dikks. Excuse the bluntess...But honestly, I have a friend like you. He went through the same thing; no attention in and out of school, every gf he's had dumped him for no reason....then he fell in love with me. Awkward as it was, I thought I just wanted to be friends. I saw the nicest guy in him, but he was like you feel you are: nothing out of the ordinary. But that's what made him extraordinary. Once I saw that by being his friend, I fell in love. We are now together...End of story: don't give up. At least this way, you know that the person you end up with is for real and will last. Have faith, my diamond in the rough...
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Why is it that the men your refering to know they don't have to have a lasting relationship with you or why is it that your relationships are not lasting...I have found women think they can attract a man one way and think they can keep him another way...You sound intimidating and perhaps your a challenge, and once they realize your just like other women, they lose interest or consider the challenge over...there can be many reasons...just try and be the person you are and allow Mr. Right to recognize thats the person he wants..good luck.
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It's up to you, but Let me tell you a little story."there once was this girl that kept getting played by all the guys she ever been with, so she began to think it was something wrong with her and she didn't go out with guys anymore, for about a year or so, then one day she decided to go out with a guy and they had been talking for about three months, kinda like you, and then the guy asked her if she would like to date on a permanate basis, she played hard to get for about a month after that in fear of getting her heart broken, now this guy though was different from the rest, he, treated her well, told her the truth about EVERYTHIMG, NEVER KEPT A Secret from her, unless it was for a surprise or something like that, but the Guy got tired of waiting for her so one day he asked one of her friends, "Am I wasting my time, becuase I really like your friend but she's not talking to me" The girl knew then that she was about to loose this guy, one who finally was different from her usual guys, so she went out on a limb and went with him, and you know what?.................................................................................................................................Now there happily married and the girl is very happy she chose to give it one more shot"  So dont give up we as women have to hold our heads high and kept it up and never let a man, keep us from reaching our goals or dreams and Never let on idot keep you from missing out on Prince Charming. And if later on the down the line, if this guy you with doesn't work out, wipe the dust off your feet and keep steppin.
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Its how it goes. I am sorry that you had your heart broken. It's just how it unfolds, you shouldn't worry too much about your past relationships, move on to the future ones. I think I have an understanding of most women, but then again I have a hard time figuring out why men act the way they do. In the end I only know why I do what I do.\n\nWomen aren't evil in my opinion. There are good and bad members off all the genders. The main thing to focus on is how you behave and act in a relationship.\n\nKeep on looking and don't lose hope, there is love out there for everyone. Believe in true love.
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men will do things that innocent; that  friendly and it will come off as flirting. most time it's within this factor it happens to me alot because i always want a girl to feel important loved and that her conversation is int resting. i migth not be intrested to her but when she comes in contact with me and when she leaves she will have a new an better self esteem and character and thinks she can attract  any man and have a good conversation , so no its not always flirting its sometimes being kind and then being misconstrued for something else. and this is serious because this distroys relationships when the situation was mutual. touching helps the relaying of information. although this practice should be limited for safety reasons. thank you.
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Most women will say that they want a man who will treat her kind and be good to her, but when they get get one they often take the kindness as a weakness, and women want a strong man. I was with a woman who was once in a very abusive relationship, I always tried to be nice and gentlemanly but after a while it got to the point to where she was always trying to be dominant in EVERYTHING, I would try to be diplomatic and compromising but she wouldn't have it like that, it was her way or no way. She was very spoiled, she was the youngest of 5 girls and her father always let her get her way. But I've found that most women are basically the same way, if you give in to them too many times then they will become belligerent and abusive (not necessarily physically, but certainly psychologically and emotionally). Many will cheat, she got with my stepbrother while I was out out town working (more than once). I jumped on him when I found out then ran him off and told him to never come back. she was glowing when I came back inside. (like I had fought over her, it takes two to tango, she wasn't innocent) But I myself used to be of the same abusive, (yet non-violent) nature when I was married and I had a real good wife (I NEVER cheated though [didn't need to]). But I basically treated her like the couch in the living room, when I need it, it was there, other than that I could care less and when we'd argue I'd get off topic and just start saying things to make her feel bad. When my life left me I swore that I would never treat a woman that way again. (I still miss her after 15+ years) But all I seem to meet now are just plain wrong. All I can really say is be nice, but be tough. Try to be manly without being overbearing. But I don't know, I guess if it ever gets to the point that you're arguing and it looks like she's going to do whatever she wants anyway just to defy you, DON'T "punch her in the freakin face" punch a hole in the wall if you have to or break something (something cheap and trivial) DO NOT break something that she values. (I hope you don't have to resort to this) but when you appologize for it all (as you should) don't be too submissive. no whiney "Oh baby, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean that, please forgive me". Be firm, more like, "Look, I'm sorry, but you just really upset me", then explain what and how she upset you. Make sure you appoligize within minutes of your rage, it may be one of the few times that you have her absolute attention and you'll need it. Be sensible and practical, but if the reason for you getting mad and not wanting her to do whatever it was she wanted was just because "you said so" then you probably should've just let her be in the first place; they want a "take control" man not a controlling one. They also like a smart man, not a smart *ss man. and don't be too smart every so often act like you don't know something that you do and ask them what it means or how it works.\nI guess as far as how to treat them try this, If you have sisters, think of the way you father was towards them, both in his kindness and in the way he got on to them (when he was mad). Treat a woman like that.(UNLESS you had an abusive father, then never mind. sorry for you [blocking out the bad part sometimes helps if you can do that]). But still, most women are looking for a father figure anyway (at least subconsciously). Oh, and if you didn't have sisters, treat them at least three times as good but only about a quarter as bad as your dad was to you. I say this because that was about the ratio of generosity and fury between my sisters and I that was gotten my our father.\n but don't listen to me if I knew anything about how to treat a woman I'm sure I'd still be married. (or at least have one)
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Men just have the instinct to protect the one they love. It's primal. He probably wasn't showing off, it's a code among them too. You don't do things like that and if you do then there are consequences. I learned this from my ex. I know how you feel, I can definately take care of myself but my ex always thought he had to protect me. It's sweet. If that guy really hit you, then he deserved a shot in the mouth.
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i have never met a guy who looked down upon a woman asking them out. honestly, more woman SHOULD be asking men out instead of leaving all that crap up to us. You see the corny pick up lines out there right? that happens bcuz we've run out of ways to ask you gals out. we're lost. help US. anyhoo, just ask him if he's busy and wants to do something. when he says yes, figure out that something will be. if you can't figure it out, post another question and we'll help you out. we all need our two points.
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I'm sorry for your experience but you have to realize that some of us women have been treated by men the same way too.  You just picked someone who wasn't meant for you in the first place.  Just be patient and the right one will come along sooner or later.
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Unfortunately, many decisions are made by one's first impression and often they are based on looks.  If a woman will not talk to a guy because she thinks he's "too good", it's because she lacks confidence in herself.  She is self conscious about her own looks and therefore chooses not to take a chance of being shunned by him.  Rejection is the worst possible hurt...especially for those of us who lack confidence in ourselves and take it to heart.  Believe me, if this same guy approached the woman instead, this lady would be on cloud 9!  But she won't take the initiative to put herself out there because the risk is too great and the consequences could be devastating.\n\nIt's a double standard, isn't it?  Guys are supposed to accept rejection without question and not be hurt by it.  Grown men don't cry and all they want to do by talking to us is to get into our pants.  God forbid they might actually want to have a conversation and get to know us...maybe forge even a friendship.  It just doesn't happen that way.  Besides, we're better than that!  We won't give them the chance.  Women can be quite cruel.
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They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
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That's such a wierd generalization.\n\nI think that men are perfectly capable at falling as deeply in love as a woman can.\n\nThere's no limit to love on account of gender or anything superficial like that.\n\nLove is love...