DO any of you ladies find yourself going on one first date after the other, puting time and effort into your appearance and so only to never get a second date?  I am completely honest upfront with guys so I know I didn't drop any bombs like they sometimes do with me (they forget to mention being married 3 times and so on).  We seem to have a good time and I focus on them instead of me and then they bring me home and say they enjoyed meeting me.  I email them and then I never hear from them.  It is getting to be a bore.
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maby you should not ask so much about their family they may be thinking your trying to become to famillar to fast just keep on gentral topics maby you are choosing the wrong sort of guy give the type of guy that is a little nerdy a chance you might be suprised  luck flaim
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I would suggest that you tell her upfront before she makes a fool out of herself. It may be difficult for you to tell her, but she needs to hear it from you. If she doesn't take your advice, she'll be hurting herself. The guy needs to not lead her on. Usually by the first date you'll know if you are interested in the person if not the second date. I'm pretty sure he knew this before hand but continued to date her whether it was to give her another chance, not to hurt her feelings, or whatever. He needs to re-evaluate himself because the point of DATING is to find a girlfriend. If he isn't the "boyfriend type", then he should have been upfront in the first place instead of toying with her emotions.
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I have quite a few bad date stories.  But the one that takes the cake was the first guy I dated after my divorce 3 years ago.  I decided to be proactive and try the online dating format.  I corresponded with this guy for about a week and he asked me out.  I had not seen a photo (bad move on my part) but agreed to dinner. When I called him to confirm our date I got this really odd voice mail message that made reference to some obscure bible passage.  Now, please understand that I'm not what you would call religious.  My profile clearly referenced my musical tastes and what you would call "new age" interests  While I thought the voicemail thing a bit odd, I tried to maintain a positive attitude so we set up a time for us to go out.  The next night he picked me up at a friend's house and showed up in a mini-van.  Immediately, my reaction was "omg, this is not good".  I walked out to meet him at his vehicle and the inside looked like he lived in it...fast food remnants, sporting goods, etc.I knew this was no love connection but I tried to be a good sport and at least make it through dinner.  We went to a local restaurant where he started to spout off his very fundamentalist religious rhetoric.  He told me that "the government" has already developed "mobile execution stations", I think he meant that these are like the emissons testing vehicles but more sinister.  Basically he said that the end of the world is coming and people who refuse to have a bar code/mark of the beast would be executed.  He leaned into me and serious as a heart attack says "so, what are you going to do on judgement day?  Are you going to take the mark of the beast?" Needless to say "mark of the beast" is looking more appealing by the moment.  At this point, I'm thinking that this date can't get worse...but low and behold it got much worse.  There was a large group of people adjacent to us at this restaurant and were obviously celebrating a child's birthday.  There were helium balloons all over their table.  My date summons the waitress with whom he had been relentlessly flirting with and says "can I ask you a favor"?  Immediately I put two and two together and started praying "god please don't let him do what I think he is about to do"!  You guessed it...he procured a balloon and managed to suck helium and do his best Alvin and the Chipmunks impression.  I started inhaling my dinner in the hopes of getting out of there ASAP.  He managed to get the attention of the entire restaurant and then asked me out again for the next night.  I told him my to take me home and politely declined further dates.  After this fiasco I realized that dating takes a lot or work and a lot of humor.  I started giving my dates silly little nicknames.  This guy was affectionately called "Jesus Boy" by me and my friends.  This was one of many frogs I had to kiss.  Some of the others were "college professor guy whose kitchen looked like a nuclear waste dump",  "Yoga instructor that looked like Yoda" and "transvestite dude" (you figure that one out)! and countless other potential suitors.  I'm happy to say that I finally did manage to find a great guy and we both like to laugh about my very laughable dating exploits!
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When I was dating, the guys usually asked at the end of the first date.  If he didn't, I would ask.  I would say something like, "I had a nice time and I was wondering if we could get together again".  I always got a good response of yes, but there were a few no's.\nThese days a guy doesn't mind if a girl asks him out.\n\nHere's a tip:\nIf the guy says he'll call you and acts fidgety, take it with a grain of salt because he won't.\nTry to ask him first as I said above to ease your mind.
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I just broke up with my fiancé after years of being un-happy with each other.  The reason why I waited so long....she is beautiful.  I enjoyed the fact that every time we went out people always commented on how hot my fiancé was.  But that only lasted for so long, other then her looks I couldn’t stand her towards the end.  So from personal experience, next girl I date is going to be interesting and have a personality more like mine, if she is a looker then even better but will not be a deal breaker if she isn't.
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Hi lady, Ya know I am kinda the same boat. Ive been married twice, the first one for 14 years. She is a great lady and all but we just grew apart. The second one was right after my first!!!!!!!! Bad judgment on my part! I found my second wife, I think too soon, because I was so lonely. Ive been divorced from her for almost 4 years and Im very happy. I said all that to say this, I dont know your whole situation but after my second divorce I realized it was my turn. I didnt have a lot of friends and found myself at home a lot cleaning or reading a good book. Now that sounds boring , but I was content at that time. I needed more, as well as you, I wanted to have some fun , as you I didnt get in the bar scenes so I thought I was limited. Well guess what , the few friends I did have were waiting for me to ask the same question you asked.  First I started going to football games with friends then to some races and now we have a group that meets every saturday at rotating houses to watch the races and socialize. Ive really found a great group of friends both new and old and havent been to a bar yet. My advice to you is to turn to your friends and tell them your delima. I guess my answer is FRIENDS!  By the way Im 43 and now scuba dive, play tennis and many other things all due to my few friends! good luck , you sound like a great lady
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Oh, man.  Has this not happened to anyone???  Mine was so bad I announced a vow of celebacy to one and all and eradicated the words 'date', 'love', 'marriage', and several others from my vocabulary and spent two or so years studying every religious text and book on philosophy ever written and getting black belts in several martial arts.\n\nThen one day I met somebody who'd been just as verbal about relationships and became good friends.  And whammo!  There it  was - like a 2x4 right between the eyes, simultaneously after a few months.  We then spent 24 hours completely denying it and going on about not ruining our friendship.  After 24 hours, we were going, "Um, weren't we NOT going to do this?"  Eight and a half years later, and we're still together and greatly bemused by it all.\n\nSince then I've met quite a few people who'd given up on love, and a similar thing happened.  It's almost like screaming up at the Gods of Irony, "YUP, never gonna date again, ever, EVER!!!\n\nI think you really have to mean it though.  So, focus on some other goal in life, make a point of making sure you're friends with somebody first before dating them, because I've since discovered that every lasting relationship I know of started off with a firm foundation of friendship, and one day when you least expect it or even want it, you'll get the 2x4 to the head.
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I have been through a similar experience. Just over a year ago the guy who I had planned on marrying & I decided to part ways. Even though it was mutual I had a really hard time moving on. I started dating again right away, but soon realized that in the process of dating my ex I had lost track of who I really was, therefore all the guys I dated after him; I was dating for the wrong reasons. I don't know if that makes sense, but I decided that I had to "date myself" first before I was ready to hit the dating scene again. \n\nAbout 4 or 5 months ago I came across this book: Single "The art of being satisfied, fulfilled, and independent". by Judy Ford  It really opened my eyes as to how I was living my life. It's okay to grieve & find yourself before hitting the dating scene again. I've taken a sabatical from dating & have never been happier. I have more guy friends than I have ever had before & they are teaching me what I really want in a guy.\n\nMaybe you're not ready for the whole dating thing yet, but that shouldn't stop you from getting to know this great guy. It sounds like you two are building a friendship, & friendship is so important when trying to rediscover yourself. Just be totally honest with yourself & do some soul searching ... you'll be surprised by all you don't know about yourself.
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I did match.com..actually dated the first guy i met up with for a few months..recently ended. Basically we emailed, then IMed, talked on the phone and finally met. It was good for a while, just didnt work out. I would say worth a try. Just get as much info before you meet up so you dont waste your time.\n\nIts kind of nice because you can reject and even block guys if needed so it makes it easier to weed out the ones you like. And if they reject you its not as harsh as in person and theres a bunch of other guys so you wont really think twice if one doesnt write back. \n\nworth a try.
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It's up to you, but Let me tell you a little story."there once was this girl that kept getting played by all the guys she ever been with, so she began to think it was something wrong with her and she didn't go out with guys anymore, for about a year or so, then one day she decided to go out with a guy and they had been talking for about three months, kinda like you, and then the guy asked her if she would like to date on a permanate basis, she played hard to get for about a month after that in fear of getting her heart broken, now this guy though was different from the rest, he, treated her well, told her the truth about EVERYTHIMG, NEVER KEPT A Secret from her, unless it was for a surprise or something like that, but the Guy got tired of waiting for her so one day he asked one of her friends, "Am I wasting my time, becuase I really like your friend but she's not talking to me" The girl knew then that she was about to loose this guy, one who finally was different from her usual guys, so she went out on a limb and went with him, and you know what?.................................................................................................................................Now there happily married and the girl is very happy she chose to give it one more shot"  So dont give up we as women have to hold our heads high and kept it up and never let a man, keep us from reaching our goals or dreams and Never let on idot keep you from missing out on Prince Charming. And if later on the down the line, if this guy you with doesn't work out, wipe the dust off your feet and keep steppin.
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The same way as a first and third and hundredth time. Or more likely, a better way that you didn't know the first time (because you've never successfully asked someone to go on a date with you?).\n\nSo the answer is in a straight-forward manner: "Do you want to go out on a date with me?"
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Hello crazy lady, when I met the lady that ended up being my wife, we went out on a blind date for the weekend! Both nights I slept on the couch and she was in her bedroom. When I got back to work on Monday, I realized that we were together for 40 hours. I sent her 40 long stem red roses, one for each hour of our first date! We were married 18 months later and this Saturday will be our 11 year anniversary! There are other guys out there that are very romantic (we celebrate our anniversary each month!) and if you continue to just be yourself, stay positive and keep an eye out, you will find him or he will find you!
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Pulled a Polish girl in Colgne in Germany, great night out, went back to her flat.....her sister was in the bed next to us and watched everyhing in slilence that we did.and we did EVERYTHING. never spoke, just lay on her side and watched........Bizarre.....it was like it was all perfectly normal...and yes I would have asked her too.but it did not seem the thing to do on a first date.....Also climbed out a fair few windows and fire exits in my time as husbands came home etc ...
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hey, i went online, maybe you can too.  I've gotten lots of attention but haven't found anyone yet that I'm interested in dating full time.  It takes time but if you meet this person online, you could get to know her a little better and then maybe after a few emails, a few message sessions, and a few phone calls you might actually work up your courage to go on a date.  It might work!
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well...recently...I ended up cheating on my last boyfriend because he disappeared for two weeks then came back and ignored me for a week and I didn't know what was going on so when an old friend of mine put the moves on me about 50 times within one sitting...saying "no" got to be to hard. I should have just left, but I was so upset...I don't know what I was thinking.
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I met my boyfriend through a friend. Our friend wanted me to go play cards and stuff with him and maybe a little more. Then like I went home and the next day he called me and said you remember the guy that had to leave early? And I responded yeah...why and he told me that he wanted me to go to the movie with him the next Friday. I agreed and we hit it off decent. Went out the next day (Saturday) again and it just kind of happened. I wasn't really looking for anyone at the time but just hoping to get with the guy that hooked us up. It all turned out well though a little of 6 months later we are still happier than ever!
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I met my first husband on ICQ messenger.  Like I said, 'first' husband.  My second, current, husband I met through a friend that I met online!  This time it is much better.