My husband hasn't seen nor heard from his daughters for about 11 years. Their mother wouldn't give them the letters that he'd send nor the birthday cards every thing just got sent back. I've been married to their father for 11 years now and would love to see them together. I'm hoping that now that they are older they will contact him,but I don't think they would even know how. Here are some clues if they find this. Dad's name is Tim. Mother had their last name changed when they turned 18. They still live in Toledo,Ohio. 2 girls.\nPJ and MM.
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Have you tried public records, or maybe you'll have to pay and try a people search? Maybe they will contact him, do they know where you live? Good Luck
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well when my hubby was leaving for Iraq, we took alone time just the two of us and we went to a nice restaurant, talked none stop, he bought me some flowers w/ a note..... i think the letter was the best thing he could have given me b/c he let me know how he truly felt about me and our kids...... d*mn it i'm getting all teary thinking about...... so i think if u just write her a letter from the heart that will be more than enough.... also do something she enjoys doing... she will just enjoy your company... i'm sure she don't care what yall do as long as yall are together.... i know this is hard on u and her... i'm still doing it but try a whole friggin year... the closest i get to seeing my hubby is off of a dang web cam..... well i hope everything goes well for u....
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why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
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If she is on public assistance she may have been 'forced' to name the possible father(s).  Or maybe the 13 year old child is starting to ask those questions...  \n\nIf he cooperates and goes through the support agency, chances are it will NOT go back to the day the child was born.  \n\nI also found this "In public assistance cases for one year prior to the date of the filing of the petition or complaint in California. (Family Code § 17402) In non-public assistance cases, retroactive to the date of filing the petition, complaint, or other initial pleading. (Family Code § 4009)"
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I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
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As you mentioned it's possible that he may not be checking his messages.  Also, I was wondering how old he is....kids sometimes go through a self absorbed faze.  \n\nI would give it some time.  It would be good for you and your other children if you could go on w/ your life while you wait for you son.  I don't know you're situation w/ him, but I feel as long on we're on this earth, there is hope.
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Hi, My X use to do the same exact things! I know exactly what it feels like, unfortunately the last few lies I found out were from my children. He was hangin around with a white trash piece of shit that was his sisters friend. He swore up and down they were just friends, come to find out he had been seeing her off and on for about 12 years! I was married to this asshole for 17 of them! Please please... Listen to your heart, especially with his track record.. make sure for yourself and I hope its not true, but that there isn't another woman! I don't know how I didn't find out sooner. I guess the kids were younger..not sure.. But the things you were saying is just how it was with us.. and he didn't even care when we didn't talk I think he actually enjoyed it because there was less to cover up if I wasn't asking him questions! But please keep your eyes and ears open, and I hope you find nothing but just in case hun.. take it from someone who has been there. Take care good luck and if anything changes please keep me informed or if u need another woman to talk to email or im me anytime! Good luck & be strong! Kim
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I found my father initially through the internet about 7years ago and then by a lot of phone calls we hadnt had contact for over 20years\n\nLuckily our surname is quite unusual and he had stayed in the same industry with work so that did make it a lot easier than for some\n\nDepends on if his name is unusual - or if he had a career or vocation! Try calling people too- is he remarried? whats her name? so many questions but they will all help with the process of research\nMaybe better if you are still in touch with any of his relatives or your mum knows any of his friends from years ago that he may still be in touch with?\nthere are a few web sites that you can post a message and photo on? friends reunited? genes reunited etc\n\nIm really glad i did find mine - \nwe were in touch for 5years and then he passed away very suddenly at just 53 and im so glad i got to know him a bit over those years \nso i really hope you do too! \nGood luck - you only get one father so i really hope you find him! ;-)
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Why dont you talk to her parents, they might appreciate the honesty.\n\nThen they can tell her that they dont want her to talking to older men.
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I think it's more a bit of nostagia, for his past and much younger days. Now he has a wife and baby, and perhaps is feeling a bit overwhelmed and trapped. \nHe can still be madly in love with you and happy with his lot, but a small part, misses his youth and freedom.\nI've got in touch with old friends from my youth and had fun catching up with our lives. But eventually, the letters become rarer and shorter, and often just fade away.\nso don't put too much store in what he is doing, although, I think he should have told you about her. But if you can easily get into his mail, he must know that. If he hasn't made his mail private and locked, then he isn't trying to hide it that much.\nSo just lay back, keep an eye on the letters, make sure, they aren't crossing that line, of just catching up.
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The first and only thing you need to worry about is getting your life back on track...lose the friend that you think is two faced...and call and write to your daughter as often as possible...My ex husband has my son so I know where you are coming from.  I don't know what your ex. is getting at by saying you would have a "ruined" daughter on your hands but sounds to me like HE is the ruined one and he has failed to provide her with the love and attention that she needs to grow and feel emotionally confident.  Get your self financially stable in your own home and all that jazz...then after a couple of years of calling and writing and visiting as often as you can maybe you and your daughter will begin to rebuild your relationship and find the love that has been forgotten through the divorce...In other words your child needs to know that she is loved!  So you need to SHOW that you love her!
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sometimes we have to be nudged and sometimes we have to be hit over the head with a mallet. It breaks my heart to hear a question like this. I want desparately to see my daughters. send him a picture of her with a note saying simply that if he would like to see her it is ok and that it is best for her if he is in her life if that is his wish.
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Hi,\n\nMy house mates Father has just had the same thing happen to him.\n\nMy profile is public, and my IM and email details are on there. Do get in touch.\n\nMy house mate is gonna talk to them on the phone tomorrow.\n\nSend me an email, and i will let you know the results of the days phone conversations!!\n\nCheers\n\n:o) J2G
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There are so many sights to chat and you may find a pen pal there . Keep in mind your reading only what they want you to read . The truth may be far from the facts. Never met anyone without your parents Knowing , My friend kept a close eye on her daughter . The mom dropped her daughter & one other girl  off at a mall to be with their friends . A man said his sons car broke down , so he came to get her , he said here's my cell phone call him.The girl tried , no answer , the man said "he probly didn't charge it , you kids now days " The girl left her friend at the mall and went to meet the email friend.She never seen her family again .And her friend thought the guy was just a nice dad and never called until later that night .It was then everyone relied her daughter was alone with someone no one knew name / car / phone . Keep Pen Pal  on computer until a group of friends YOU KNOW, can get together ( please ).
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WOW...sounds like your daughter and son-in-law are very selfish people. I would give them a dose of their own medicine. You don't have to take that kind of disrespect from ANYONE. I would send your G-daughter a nice birthday card and leave it at that. They will surely run to you when they need something, but don't give in. Let them FEEL how they have made you feel.
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Hi: My husband and I have children from previous marriages and it is complicated.  The blended family needs a disclaimer: results may vary.  In my experience both partners need to give the other alot of grace.  Relationships can be difficult with our own children, let alone a new girlfriend/wife.  Some parent child relationships are difficult, some are easy.  Psychologists call this goodness of fit. We all have different personalities and we can't always relate to one another.  As for my husband and I, after alot of stuggle I think we relized we are not able to rescue our kids from the missing parent that left them.  Our kids are the ones that respond to the step parent, if they choose not to be responsive and enter into a relationship we cannot force them.  The wicked step mother applys, even when you are an angel from heaven.  Some kids never respond to the step parent.  Dr. James Dobson said in one of his books (paraphrased): The child takes on the job of protecting the family of orgin, they will ask when is Daddy coming home, they will say "you are'nt my mom."  It really depends on how old your kids are.  I think in our case, our kids were too old to start a new family.  My husband and I should of waited to get married until the nest was less populated.  In short if you married a woman with no kids, dont expect her to be perfect, and angel sent to make everything roses and sunshine for your kids.  If she is human she will have stuggles and make mistakes, but love is the greatest of all.\nGod Bless.....
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I would write him a letter, send him a card.Im sure he would love to hear from you.Tell him how his daughter is doing.Everyone is human and do make mistakes, its if you listen and learn from that mistake what counts.I do wish you luck, and god bless.Hope this helps a bit