allow me to clarify myself I am being bullied and harrassed, \nhere are the facts:\nemployee yells at me and put's his finger in my face\nsituation brought to manager attention\nmanager states that i heightened the situation by ignoring the employee and that i was wrong\ni inform manger i felt threatened\nmanager states i instigated the situation by ignoring the employee\nwe resolve the issue meeting with all people\nthe bully goes back to the manage behind my back and stabs me in the back after direct manager agree case is resolved i never involve hr ;following company rules; if resolved among ourselves end of discussion ; employee queries my work and tells manager i am not a good performer\ni inform the manager the situation is not about my performance but the fact he got in my face.. manager states to me that i was wrong and to get over it
206653
report it get a lawyer or union official stand up for your rights and dont back down get a new job too good luck
367852
I would have a quiet word with her manager, presuming he is not the offending party. If he is then I would go to the person above him. You need not go into details, just say that you have been told in confidence that that man had wandering hands and that younger females of staff resented his approach. Say that you feel that the problem needs addressing as it could get the firm in hot water for not protecting their female staff but it is not up to you to deal with the situation as it is not in your department.
455412
Touching your back/shoulders and stroking your neck? Making perverse comments? Sweetie, this is called sexual harrassment. As for why they act this way, basically, they're idiots. Don't write them off as just "goofy." There is no excuse for their behavior. One guy went on a date with you and then told everyone? Is he still in high school? They think it's fun to embarrass you. They way immature men like this think, it wouldn't surprise me if they have some sort of bet going as to who can get you to give up your choice to wait until marriage first. The first thing you need to do is not date any of them. That's just a good policy wherever you may work in your life. If it ends badly, you still have to see that person every day and it can cause a lot of problems. Second, when they say inappropriate things to you or touch you or make you feel uncomfortable in any way, you need to tell them they're behaving inappropriately and ask them to please stop. If they don't, or they just think that's part of the game, you need to go to your supervisor and ask him/her to intervene. Just know that if the boss does intervene, this may make for a hostile work environment because then you'll be the girl who "can't take a joke." Sad, but it happens. Conversely, the boss may think you're overreacting and not do anything. At this point, you'll have to make a decision: file a complaint with the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and let them handle it, again possibly making for a hostile work environment; quit and find another job with mature, professional coworkers; do both. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to this. If it were just one or two guys behaving this way, it might be easier because they'd be the minority. But if all the guys you work with do it, they'll be more apt to stick together and form a united front against you, saying that you're exaggerating or even making stuff up to get them into trouble. If there are any other women who work there, talk to them and see if they're having similar experiences. If so, it will corroborate your claims and give you more credence. I'm sorry to sound so cynical and/or pessimistic, but this is an all too common situation for many women in the workplace. We've all read and heard about things like this. There's even a movie based on a true story about the first lawsuit against a company for condoning sexual harassment called "North Country" with Charlize Theron. It's a disturbing, sad movie, but it shows what some women have had to go through just to earn a living. Finally, don't let yourself be intimidated. Stick to your values, know that you don't deserve to be treated this way and you don't have to put up with it. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission. Be strong and stick up for yourself, and someday, if you have children, you can pass that strength on to your daughter or teach your son to have the proper respect for women. I wish you the best of luck.
472271
If he is a supervisor, this is harrassment.  If he is not, he should be reported to a supervisor.\n\nBlessed Be
569025
Yes.  First steps is to ask the person to "stop" (this puts them on notice that their behavior is unacceptable).  If you've done this already - great.  Next if it continues, report the request for it to stop.  Next go to your manager and report it.  Go to HR and report it. Find out what steps you have to take to officially file a complaint with your company.  A work environment should NEVER be hostile, EVER!  Good Luck to you.
385402
This a deep office ethics verus common morality.  Confronting your co-worker verbally in private maybe taken as show of strength perhaps even agression.   A good course of action would be to confront her in front of your co-workers in calm and even tempered logical manner.  If she doesn't like you and spreads rumor she'll come out as agressive or defensive.  The calmer your stay saying comments like "Your behavior lately has been childish and unprofessional."  and "Such action is unwarrented, if you have greivence against me bring it to my attention and we can work it out"  Nine times out of ten the other person will come out with defensive remarks making them look bad.  They might even reveal their problem with you.  Good luck  and stay calm rumours can only bring you down if you sink with them.
458743
Hello:\n\nYou may have a hostile work environment claim.\nTo prevail, you must show:\n\nThat the assistant manager engaged in unwelcome behavior that is: offensive to the reasonable person, severe or pervasive, and alters working conditions to create an abusive working environment.\n\nYou may also have a retaliation claim if you can show:\nThat your employer took adverse employment action against you ("picking at your performance"), and that a causal relationship exists between the "picking", and your mentioning the offensive behavior to your boss.\n\nBecause the assistant manager is a "supervisor", you may be able to hold your employer (the company) strictly liable for his actions.\n\nI'm not an attorney, and this is not legal advice, but I think you should speak with an employment law attorney.  Good luck!
116429
Take it up with the management.  As soon as you see that a staff member at the bottom rung is just giving you what they are told to say, ask to speak to their manager.  To do otherwise, wastes everyone's time and energy.  No sense upsetting someone who has no authority to change anything, or upsetting yourself, and looking bad.
409544
"I talked to my employer and he told me that this individual had harassed people in this way before, but he was not going to do anything about it, and if I couldn't handle it I should quit."\n\nGet this is writing from the employer then you can go to your state's  workforce commission and file a formal complaint.  Send your complaint in an e-mail and give the employer time to respond.\n\nDon't take any cr*p but you also must have solid ground on which to fight. Good luck.
665155
If you were written up and given a final warning, that means you have had other disciplinary action. If not, then it is your first warning and you can not be fired. You also need to look at your own behavior.\nYou start off by saying you were improperly disciplined by an administrator then complain about the other person involved not getting in trouble and you admit to "yelling". It doesn't matter what is happening to the other person, this is about you, your job and your behavior. "Yelling" at another person in any setting is wrong, you are a professional, in a professional setting  and expected to behave in a professional manner. You have the right to respond to the reprimand and that response will be placed in your file as well. You also need to advise the union rep of your situation and how you feel. You say this person is abusive to you, if so, you need to move to another department or floor. You need to be proactive about your situation, take care of yourself and if it means getting away from a person that is abusing you, do it.\nAs nurses, a lot is expected of us and pressure can be difficult. \nIf you can't figure out a way to get along with the person, move on or you could damage your reputation. Pointing the finger and hoping someone else will agree with you doesn't work. If this person is mean, that fact will show itself sooner or later and you can't let it effect you!
378680
This happens in all jobs.  The higher up the ladder you go, the worse it gets.  You must learn to deal with it in a diplomatic way.  Always be nice to them, and never say a word out of the way.  Don't always go crying to the boss either, as he will start to think you are the problem.  If you keep your cool and do your job real good, then he will see what the real truth is himself.  People like that always makes the mistake first, and it will come back to bite them in the @ss.  You could give the boss a copy of the email, and tell him in a nice way, "that's so immature" and leave it at that.  He should get the hint.  Good Luck!!!
381620
Maybe but I doubt it......defamation would take more and continuing attacks on your character from the manager to really end up being defamation.  I think you have to be able to prove you are somehow harmed in your everyday life...to be truly defamed.
205437
Probably might be that the manager has a bit of a power trip going on. Some people who are managers get a bit of power and it goes straight to their head. If it is a department manager then go to the store manager or HR. If it's the store manager then you might want to get a job elsewhere as that person will never change. Always make sure that you look after yourself, bottom line I guess is that it's only a job, plenty of others around!!
516208
i think i would consult the manager (as a manger of a store) when there is conflict between employees it really hurts the business, it may not be noticeable now but it will hurt the business.  this is what i would do, go to the manager, tell him/her what this person is doing tranlate what she wrote, and tell him i am her to work and not be playing games with people, and that i am afraid of her actions toward me and the may result in customer loss (if what shes doing this stuff in front of the customers........good luck and hope it all works out for you
123487
Don't contact anybody in the company to do something about it, save that for the attorney. HR is there to protect the company not to help the employee. They will start "shredding", getting stories right, conduct a token investigation, etc... The longer they are unaware the better. Let them drown in their own ego's. DON'T speak about it to ANYONE at work(the company has spies).  As instances happen,or shortly after, like on break, document what happened (who,what,when,where)(with who witnessed). Obtain names and contact info for all coworkers you can,and break it down into category's (victims, witnesses, offenders). \nContact some GOOD attorney with as much info you can give.\n\n\nAre the people being harassed of a certain class? (race,gender, age, disability, religion,sexual orientation,etc) if so its discrimination.\nIt has to be about money: it talks the loudest!, when it starts costing the company $ it gets the big people involved.\nStress may be a workers comp illness claim. $$\nI loath this typ of behavior. (victom)
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I just fired someone three weeks ago for thier miserable attitude.  \n\nList only facts, not your opinion or heresay from others.  Explain how this behavior effects your work, your departments team environment and reflects to outside customers on the company. \n\nPutting it in writing is good because you have the ability to erase... be careful not to sound like a complainer or whiner, but someone who is concerned about the work environment and how it could be better. \n\nThen, know that someone will have a talk with her and she may then get a worse attitude toward you because of this.
654207
It sounds like you were unlawfully harassed and might need to get a lawyer.  Do call the HR department of the company to find out their policies but this could end up being a major windfall for you if you get the right legal advice.