i really love my ex but he cheated on me broke up with me 3 times and yet i still love him. we have been through so much together so i thought he could talk to me about anything but he never does. when were together he is so sweet to me but when we talk over the phone he acts like a jerk. i'm 3 years younger than him and he's eighteen and i know thats young but i really wanted to make this work. when ever we would argue we would have sex to try to make up but it didn't work because after we were done he wouldn't talk to me or would make me go home. my parents really like him and thought we were cute togehter but they also think it's wrong for him to treat me like this. i don't know what to do give up on us or keep trying.    ~lanna~
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NO! once a cheater always a cheater!
135274
PUT DOWN THE PHONE AND STEP AWAY.  Do not call your ex.  You'll end up looking like a desperate fool who wants to get back together with him and he will feel like he has 'won'.  Yes, it's that childish.  Don't call him and don't expect him to call you.  That's what a break-up does; it stops contact between the two of you.  There may be a time and place that you can be friends, but it is NOT now.  Now so soon after your split.  I know it seems like it should be different given your time togehter, but it's not.  I was in a 3 year relationship with a guy I wanted to marry and it ended badly.  I didn't talk to the guy again until 3 years later and even then it was akward and came across as desperate and stupid.  You have to accept this relationship as being over.  The first few months will be a test of your strength, but you can get through it.  You will never forget this guy.  It's been 10 years now for me and I still think of him and hope he is well.  But that doesn't mean you can expect a good relationship from here on out.  It's over.  Let it be over and move on.  Don't call him, you'll end up regretting it big time.
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If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
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I had that problem with my ex boyfriend. I love him more than he love me and he end up using me. I am not saying that your boyfriend is using you I just want you to be careful and don't put more in the relationship than him. When a boy see that you love him and know that you are willing to do whatever for him. They got you where they want you and then they will tend to use you. I promise you this being use by someone you love so much hurts like hell. I been there. Just slow down and don't call him as much as u was and let him do the calling. \n\nI wish you the best of Luck with your relationship!\nMs.T~baby:)
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well my fist love was when i was 14 he was my soul mate and i obsolutely loved him then one day i moved and never talk to him again, not becasue i didint want to be with him but becasue he was the captain of the varsity fotball team in his high school, and we were in different schools so i taught may be he can find someone who can be there for him since i couldnt because i was just 14 and lived like 20 miles away. but the thing is that after 3 years i seen his dad and told him to give him my num i waited a month and he didint call me until 2 months i answered the phone took a deep breath and said "hey so finally u call me" then he stood quiet and with a deep voice  said "im sorry but i have a kid now". i was of coursed shooked. since i taught i will see him again i didnt had a boyfriend because i really believed in my heart that i will see him again and that we would end up together, but that never happed of course i played out when he told me he had a kid so i said "omg that is great" then we talk fo a while and when we hanged the phone he said ill give u a call later. of course i cried all night long and waited for his call, but then again he didint call me until a month later again and said that he wanted to see me and i was like ok then we meet each other saw him and he looked so keuit and i gave him a big hughhh of course we talked and he told me that after i moved he waited for me to atlest give him a call or sent him a letter but i never did....so he said he meet this girl and he didint expect her to get pregnant so of course he didint want the baby cause they were to young and she did so she ended havin the baby and he ofcourse stayed with her for the sake of the baby he told me i was the love of his life and that he would never forget me and i told him the same of course i didint want to mess n e thing up with his marrige so we just ened up talking about what happened between us. to make the story short i had the opportunity to at lest call him and let him know that i loved him but i didint so instead he taugh that i didint care and ended up staying with someone he dosent love i still know were he lives and i still have his num memorised but i will never want to destroy what he has build with his grilfried so my best option was to   never to talk to him ever again. but i still love him and i think that if things were different and if i was single and he was single we would have ened up with each other, thats why i reccomend that if u love someone never stop talking to them until u know that is finally over and done with or u will always be like with the "what if" question on youre mind..\n\np.s\ni just fond out a couple off weeks ago that my mom ended up moving on the back house that he lives in fortunately i have not seen him and hopefully i wont ever becasue i think that i might start crying again. =) i believe that things happen for a reason and i know why that reason is now.. hopefully this helps u...
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He probably feels reluctant about getting his feelings to involved, cause he thinks that you might patch things up with your ex,the best thing to do is let him know that you care and that you dont have time for silly games and that you want to to be in a meaningful realationship.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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im sorry. i thought i was in love with my bf too. he was 21 and i am 16. he always forced me to do things with him and to him i didnt want to do. if it wasnt for him i would still be a virgin. i never was willing to do anything he wanted me too. he was alot bigger than me too. and he abused me, verbally, physically,and sexually.untill he got me pregnant and forced me to have an abortion(somethin i regret so so much and never would have done willingly)after that i finally got up the courage to dump him and i found a guy my age. i know this isnt what u want to hear(trust me, i know, i heard the same things)but i dont think u should stay with him( i realize u might not want to take advice from someone that is younger than u by like a year)if he forces u to do anything sexually then he doesnt really love u or care for u. ur just a sex toy for him to manipulate. im sorry this is happening to u, it is somthing i wouldnot wish on anyone, u should know what i mean by that, its a horrible and emotional wrecking thing to go through, im still not over it nor will i ever be the same again. i have to go to counseling every day of my life for probably the rest of my life, i will probably be taking a high dosage of anti-depressants for the rest of my life because i let him take me too far before i was brave enough to stand up to him and get rid of him. my question for u is how long are u gonna wait, how much are u gonna put up with untill u break it off b4 u have life altering events like i did. i promise u that ur life will never be the same after  u put up with to much, it sounds to me like u have already put up with to much. please dont stay with this guy. do u know that him forcing u to have sex with him wether it be oral or casual, it is rape. i wish u the best and i will be praying for u. please contact me at purplollipop1606@yahoo.com and let me know what u decide. im very worried for u and id just like to know if u end up okay.
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First of all, you can do better. Secondly, he is a jerk. From the way he does it, it seems like he is putting you as a 'back-up girlfriend'. For all you know, he could have gone out to see other girls and probably get intimate with them. He was 'tempted by other people', you say? Bull. Don't let his mistake be yours. He left you for that period of time because he was afraid that your love wasn't 'good enough'. Well, if I were you, I'd dump him for good even though I love him so much. I'm sorry miss, but you can do better than a person who puts his priority as an option.
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Honestly if you still love ur ex dont cheat the new person out of finding someone that loves them entirely. I mean would you want someone to treat you with half of their time and attention cause that is what you will really be doing especially if you start hangin with your ex and you have the feelings still. You will cheat. I would honestly break up up with the new person to prevent hurting them and dont run back to your ex because there was obviously some isues as to why you guys broke up in the first place. So just stay single you can still talk to your ex and communicate to solve the problem and then maybe try being together or you have to decide that you guys are better as friends and thats its. That way when you are with someone else and your ex wants to hang out it will be as friends and you dont diss your friends. I speak cause I have been there and done that. Trust me. make sure that you are completely over your ex though, otherwise you will be in a world of hurt
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Maybe you should call him and talk it out.  I doubt he wants to break up with you. Why would he do an idiotic thing like that??
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The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
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Well, something has changed. I was in a crazy horrible relationship for way too long, let me help you out. First, have you tried talking to him about this?  Regardless....No one and I mean no one has the right to make you feel second class. No matter how long you have been together. It is sad and scarey when things start going down hill after years together but just because you have invested time is no reason to stay and find out if he is really going to hit you. Love doesn't behave this way. My guess is that he is doing something wrong and all that hiding is making him guilty and he is projecting that onto you. It is a pretty standard jackass tactic. You are better than that.....I wish you the best in making a decision that is safe and fulfilling for you. We only get one life.
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I think both of you need a serious talk. If he says his feelings decreased but he says he made a huge mistake you need to ask how he feels now. Cause if he doesn't want to be with you in that way, you're only torturing yourself by hanging out with him and talking to him on the phone. If he feels that he wants to get back together then he should tell you when both of you have your serious talk. If he says he needs to think about it and you want to wait then don't pressure him. Show interest but not insecurity. I know it would be hard to stop talking to someone that you love if it wont work out. But sometimes you need your heart to hurt a little bit so it would heal. Just keep yourself busy. If it's meant to be then it will happen. There's plenty other relationship experience's that you will go through and not all of them will work even though your certain they're the one. And yes, I'm telling you this from personal experience. Good luck...
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girl sorry but you are confused and you need to get your priorities straight in the love department just really look inside your heart and talk to your  ex it sounds like you need sometime for yourself also try that if you can maybe it will work and clear your mind good luck
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uh oh i have been in this exact situation before and it didnt turn out to good because i didnt take action. i just let it go, and he eneded up dumping me. you have to ask him whats going on between us or something will happen, because my last bf only wanted me, and not me(like my personality) he just wanted to make out and it was badddddd ACT FAST. NO JOKE!!!!1\nor mabey you should listen to everyone else, i mean, if he barley talks to you, does that mean he bareley says i love you or he wont TALK to you? mabey he doesnt want to say i love u around his friends or something. mabey he's past the stage of the everyday i love you, youre beautiful thing.
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So what you are saying is. before it didn't work and now his current relationship, isn't working. So he wants to try again and your honestly wanting advice of what to do. \nDon't you see the pattern here. It isn't with you or his present relationship but with this guy. Understand that he must have serious issues that he cant seem to get along with anyone. Do you need the drama, do you need a relationship that is doomed to fail before it is ever made? \nHe is your ex and this is because? \nYou see ex means over finished complete. You should respect yourself more than that. After all don't you think your worth it?