i never said i want to beat up gays--never said that all gays overacted their gay stance--never said all they ever talk about is their sexuallity (but it does seem to come alot)--you can,t look at a gay person sideways without being accused of gay bashing--real defensive bunch--it only makes for a bigger target--annoys people who already have a slight problem with gays--lighten and get used to it--you are different and you like it that way--not every straight person who inquires about the gay lifestyle is a gay basher--just tryin to understand--don,t be so militant about it!!! its like that black congresswoman who just got stopped at security checkpoint!!--she turned it into a racial thing!!--same thing applies here!!--lighten up!!
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i think they not yet comfortable fully with themselfs yet they just want to be normal i donno its a bit too confusing i don't even know y i react that way sometimes prpb because we also afriad ut i'm totaly cool about it i respect ppl and if they llike or dislike me its their life i'm just trying to help and thanx i will lighten up u to enjoy the rest of your life haha ok its getting to cliche now well hope gay ppl get relaxed about their exsistance in this world i wish it were that simple
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hmmm....  obviously you have offended the yahoo  people... you know they are  promoting the gay parade don't you? (it's true) and  you combining it with soccer...well...maybe they just  don't like sports that involve kicking balls..lol....it also has become quite fashionable to  insult/ hate our president.. though  this appears to be  mostly a liberal pursuit..... it gives them something to do between  pizza deliveries...
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"Im not againts [sic] hitting people that are gay..." \n\nYeah, we get that.\n\n"But I gave him two warnings to stop, and its not like I could go anywhere since I was stuck in the car. Was I wrong to deck him for not stopping?" \n\nWould you have hit this person if it were a woman? Or would you have found a less violent way of affirming your personal space? Somewhere, you got the idea that it's acceptable to resolve your disagreements through physical violence. Big man you are.\n\n"Do you think that he was trying to hit on me?" \n\nI don't know. Maybe he just has extremely poor boundaries. People who can't keep their hands to themselves are obnoxious.\n\n"What would you have done in that situation?"\n\nI would have removed his hand and I would have given him a piece of my mind from the start. I also would have stopped making out with the girl because, not only did watching you feel her up seem to encourage him to feel you up, it's also rather gauche to make out in mixed company.
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It's bullshxt. I totally agree. Who are straight people to say what gays can and cannot do? Are we not people? This country is TOO fxcked up.
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Joanna,\nYou ask a genuinely thoughtful and, I think, respectful question.  You deserve a likewise, respectful answer.  I don't know your age, so I can't determine how much experience you may have talking about or hearing different views on the subject of   people's sexual orientation.  I've had many years of listening to the rantings of religious conservatives (granted, usually through the media) who have at various times claimed that: gays deserved AIDS as it is God's punishment for immoral behavior; gays and lesbians should not be allowed to teach school, providing a negative role model for kids; homosexuality is sinfully perverted, no different than pedophilia, or any number of other criminal behaviors; public signs of affection between same sex partners is somehow more disgusting and socially aberrant than straight PDA's; etc, etc, etc, etc, ad nauseum.\n\nIf gay people and those who know, love and support them and their right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness have a hard time having a "talk" with religious conservatives (Christian or otherwise) it may be because there often seems to be a condescending, 'holier than thou' attitude to these discussions.  We're told that "I love homosexuals, but hate their lifestyle", or "God made us all equal, but we must overcome our urges to sin"!  Ugh, it's depressing, frustrating and frankly insulting coming from someone who isn't gay and hasn't lived through the threats, intimidation and sometimes physical violence perpetrated on gay people.\n\nWe sometimes feel like the 'last acceptable minority' to single out to disparage and scapegoat.  Sorry, Joanna, but you asked the question, and I want you to know the answer from my perspective.  I'm a spiritual person, who believes deeply in my connection to God, the divine, and it's awfully offensive to have to hear people with no greater moral compass than I, and often I think, much less, offer pronouncements on my soul's fate.\n\nThat you've "never heard anyone say 'I HATE gays'...", doesn't sound very convincing to me, I'm afraid.  It does speak volumes about 'how' we hear what we hear, and what we 'want' to hear at times.  Trust me, it's being said, in many ways subtle, sometimes with sweet, sweet kind tones.....but make no mistake about it, the intention IS there.\n\nI wish we could have had this discussion in person; I certainly don't mean to offend you, and I hope I don't come across that way, but I do emphatically want to stress that when you, or anyone talks to a gay person about their life, lifestyle, etc. you are treading on something so fundamental, so private, and so much about who they are as a person, that you can't help but stir their deepest feelings.
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To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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Serj, do you not detect a smidgen on gay hate in some of these answers?  I do.  I have never been harmed by gays, approached but never accosted.  I think all they want is to be recognized as equals as human beings.  This I grant them.
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I've asked plenty of questions this evening and I'm not gay (bi maybe! ;D LOL) ... Some people actually use Answers seriously (versus trolls!). \n\nWhat I mean is it's much better than people running around spewing hate right? Nice and quite is the way I'd like to see it more often!
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You can't - it's non of your business so don't worry about it.   You know this is America - land of the FREE home of the BRAVE  and there are, I'm sure, brave Homosexuals.  And NO I'm not Gay - I just think people shouldn't worry about what other good, legal, legitimate, honest, hardworking people do.  You must be one of those Homo-phobic's to sit and dwell on such a stupid question.
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Some people are threatened by other people unlike themselves.  I used to be a lot more intolerant toward homosexuality than I am today.  While I still don't condone it, I am much more tolerant of it because I have met a number of people who are gay, and they are as human as I am.  Today, I believe that a person's orientation is his or her own business, and as long as they're not bothering me, or flaunting themselves indiscriminately, I say live and let live.  Incidentally, I would say the same thing about heterosexuals too.\n     Frankly, I'm not sure why these posts are being taken down.  I haven't noticed.  But I have noticed a lot of other questions on here that are very sexually derogetory, so I hope they're being consistent and removing those too.
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hopefully sooner than later.  I'm straight as a nail, but it really angers me that people can't leave someone alone because of there orientation.  Seriously, i think one day we'll look at this as b.s.  This is as shameful as the racism was before and during the civil rights movement.  If you want to get married who the hell am i to stand between your love.  it's stupid, and i apologize for the hell you, i take it your gay/lesbian/bi, have to go through  It's completely unjust.  Sorry.
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We all know the real reason, their own lives are train wrecks, so they seek comfort for their own morass by attacking a target they see as weaker.  Today its gays and lesbians.  In the past it was ethnic minorities.\nAsk your self, what normal sane heterosexual spends hours lurking in gay forums looking for chances to sling insults?  The answer is ZERO.  What we see are disturbed humans, who may be wrestling with their own sexuality, or who have so messed up their own lives in other ways they lash out at us to compensate.  Look at the negative responses you got, do they not bear this out?  These people are emotionally, perhaps mentally disturbed.  Unable to cope.\n\nThe biggest shame is those straights who are basically good, but sit by and do nothing.  They are embarrassed by the haters, but remain silent.  They were silent when the Nazis operated death camps, they were silent when the KKK was terrorizing and lynching African Americans and they remain silent now.  \n\nIts time gay men and lesbians stop waiting for the Calvary to come in and save us, its time we fight these forces of evil and their duplicitous silent allies.
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Isn't it astounding?  And some of these posts are completely illiterate, too!  Not only am I gay, but I'm a lawyer, have a fantastic house, a great career, live in a great city, have great friends and family, have an awesome partner who I couldn't love more, and I wouldn't change my life for the world even if I could.  \n\nMost of these posts make me laugh, and I am always amazed at how irrelevant these homophobes are to my life.  I don't want their lives, their Gods, their morals (ha!), or their approval.
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I think you will find that the majority of gay bashers are men and women who try to bash it out of others because they can't get it out of themselves.\n\nsad but true\n\nthe harder the line, the more gay they are
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I'm sorry you are on the receiving end of such hate.  This is what I have learned in life:\n\n1- The people calling you names are insecure about themselves.  In other words, maybe they are really gay and don't know how to come out of the closet :)\n\n2- What goes around, comes around.  If they continue to be mean, only mean things will happen to them.\n\n3- Smile... all the time.  It makes people wonder what the heck is going on.\n\n4- Ask the question "Why" while tilting your head, and people freeze like deer in headlights.  --- for example, say someone calls you a b*tch.  Ask them "Specifically, what is prompting you to call me that."
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I think why people do things like that is because they are scared to be who they really are for fear of being thrown of "normal" society.  All it is, is insecure people trying to be the opposite of gay to try and throw people off.  I mean come on, you know how many bashers I knew in high school that I saw at gay clubs a few years later?
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To the first three answers let me say that what you said does not answer the question.  I too have wondered about the very same thing and I have come to the conclusion that the straight people who come to this site in a non-supportive way are just bullies AND voyeurs.  They only wish that they could be lgbt!  If something so thoroughly disgusts me, I wouldn't waste my time reading about it.