A guy told me that he loves me but he has a gf already. So he has decided not to see me until his feeling towards me faded. Why can a guy hold back his feeling if he really loves me?
217530
Because he wants to be with his girlfriend more. Move on because you deserve all the love someone can give you.
606056
i say he loves and respects you and is trying to learn from his mistakes - before he leaped too quickly and it ended badly. I usually tell guys to wait until she is ready but I have to switch this time and say hey wait until he is ready. relationships are hard enough all by themselves without added pressure. sounds like a keeper to me. Be happy
206414
you were right. you shouldnt lead him on if you dont feel the same way. the same thing happened to me with my boyfriend and he respected that those feelings hadnt developed for me. eventually i knew for sure that i love him, so when i told him he knew it was real and not a cop out. honesty and trust are the most important things in a realtionship, so never lie.
168609
tell him how you feel. his relationship with the other girl must not be strong enough because he wouldn't be telling you he loved you if he really loved her. you guys have a history, and there's a good chance that he will come back to you.
457869
His feelings are turning towards you.  He doesn't wan to hurt his gf but he wants to be with you.
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
540622
Your guy has too many girlfriends.  Don't accept it - move on.  He has way too many things pulling his attention from you.  Love is a passive emotion - we all love lots of things and people.  If he can't walk the walk he needs to go, and please don't try to force him to do what you want through guilt or "but you said you loved me!!" hysterics.  He has a child and that should be his number one priority.
644553
So your saying he loves you, but yet you have no feelings for him what so ever?\n\nWell then he just has to deal with it because it's not like you 2 were in a relationship. And if you were well then he still just has to deal with it and realize you don't like him.\n\nI've been in a similar situation except I was the one who liked someone and I am the one that got hurt and no one was moving to a different place. You just have to except it for what it is and move on. \n\nSo that is what the guy has to do move on and except the situation.\n\nDon't be so hard on yourself. You shouldn't have to feel bad just because someone likes you and you don't like them back.
560793
I'm a guy and I feel the same thing (with a girl). I can't tell you to tell him because I don't have the guts to do that myself. Maybe you should just wait for a while, although if there's no sign from him of liking you and especially if he seems into someone else, maybe you should let the matter drop. But if you truly feel love and can't let him go, then you should probably tell him how you feel. Perhaps he feels the same way about you too. I'm telling you, there are many other guys in your situation, too, so girls aren't the only ones. Maybe he doesn't know what do to either, although there's always the possibility that he really doesn't like, but not because you're not an extraordinary girl, but because he likes someone else or he just doesn't know you enough. I hope I didn't bore you with my answer too much.
390404
your situation seems like a very complicated one.. maybe the next time he says that he loves you, you should ask him why u arent together then. i dont think its a good idea to continue to do gf bf stuf with him unless you start dating again. he might be just using u and u really dont want to get deeper than u already are if he is. maybe theres a different reason he broke up with u.. fam? but i dont noe. if i loved someone else i dont think i would be able to date another person at the same time.
432928
Seems like he's still a bit emotionally attached but not ready to jump back into a relationship. I'm not sure if this means he's in love with you still, or if he's just having trouble letting go, but either way he seems just as confused as you.\nIf I were you I'd confront him. See what his deal is, and hopefully you can work it out.
400719
Well he is probably distancing himself a little bit to avoid awkward moments.  It is hard to turn someone down and he probably wants to avoid direct confrontation.  In addition he is fighting with his ex, so he is probably a bit jaded with girls right now.  it is clear though that he is not looking for a relationship with you or to have you love him, so back off for a while and he will come back around.  \n    There can be many reasons for this, but guys in general do not want to have some girl love them right away because they do not like being commited.  Also, if you are not a challenge at all, they think you are too easy and that they can do better.
365878
You obviously waited too long and another girl took the opportunity and swept him off his feet. Its ok though, you're just gonna have to act faster and not be hesitant next time. I know this from experience and I know how it feels when you like somebody and they like you but then someone else comes along. Plus, he may still have feelings for you and if his current relationship doesn't work out, you know what to do.......
207054
Hello again Fantasy Foo, I've been were your at, and it's not a good feeling. One good thing about life is....Time heals everything. I was once told: If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's yours...if it don't it never was. If you have the fellas number or you know how to get in contact with him...let him know how you feel, but don't hate on his girl...thats tacky.
443529
i am in this situation right now. maybe he feels that he rushed into things. maybe he thought he liked you, possibly really did, then realized that there is nothing theree. i need to tell her. damn. \n\nbut really, dont fret. just wait and see.
447148
He may be thinking just like you, worried about saying it and not hearing it back. Why not just end the doubt by saying what you feel? Odds are you'll find out you're both feeling the same way. If not, better to know now.
314761
Sometimes the idea of loving a person is better than the reality of them.  I am not saying that this is anything against you, but perhaps he was more in love with the idea of you.  If he no longer has these feeings for you, and refuses to talk, then I'd say it's time to move on.  I hope he isn't a creep determined to pass STDs along to every girl he can.  If it's been four days, and he hasn't talked to you, then he lacks the respect to end things the right way.  It's being a coward.  As for why you are doing this to yourself?  Can't sleep?  Well, you were duped.  No shame in that, it's not your fault.  It can take a long time to get over a love.  Hang in there. Try your best to get some sleep.  When you are sleep deprived, you can not think correctly.