what do i do? i'm sick of always helping everyone but i'm on my own when i have problems.
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I have been where you are.  My therapist said leaners do not like the insecure feeling they get when their leaning post starts leaning.  You need some friends who are as strong as you. Best Wishes
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im sorry i dont know how to help
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grow up and solve your problems by yourself
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u need to find some help b4 u get in a big problem
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Hang in there. The best way for us to heal from our problems is to help other people heal from theirs. Do some volunteer work at a hospital.  I just went through this myself, I know how you are feeling. Geting your mind off yourself and focused on the needs of others not only speeds up the healing process, but helps us learn from the pain.
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Is there someone in your family you can talk to about how you're feeling? A close friend? If not, there are hot lines you can call where they have experts available to help you, and help you find solutions to your problems. When people talk about killing themselves, it's usually a cry for help. You need to seek out that help (you've already taken the first step.) There are experts with a lot of experience that can honestly help you deal with whatever pressures, difficulties, or depression is causing you to feel this way. A lot of people have felt exactly the same way you are feeling, and have gotten through it. You're definitely not alone, and happiness is not something that is unattainable, even though it may seem that way now. I wish I could offer you better advice. I certainly know how you feel.
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i agree. start getting others to join your cause. i will be one. email me at happylittlecity@yahoo.com anytime you have something going on. i will be there to help. seriously. i will make phone calls, demonstrate, write letters. you tell me what you want done.
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I feel you very much on that one.but i think your the one who is on the fault you have got them so use to you picking up after them now they dont care you should have made a routine from the begining.sit and seriously tell them its not right and they need to help you out.i am sure they love you and they will understand,
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It sound as perhaps you are depressed.  You also have avoidance issues.  It's a lot easier fixing someone else than figuring out your own underlying behavior. It's a lot of work. This is not uncommon. Some people can go all their life doing constructive things for others and coast along without resolve by isolating and keeping to themselves.\n\nThere are many reasons for this but as you can imagine, I can't name them all.  Don't be hard on yourself. It is a journey of self resolve that can only be done by you.  When you are really ready to conquer it, it takes courage and time.  It usually takes a therapist to dig down to those bare bone essentials.  If you do decide to use one, make sure up front that you need guidance and not someone that is going to push a pen around the paper while you talk.  You need to explore your fears.\n\nI wish you all the best.  You are sensitive and genuine.\n\nDebra
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Best thing to do is go see a therapist that can help you with your problems and help you figure out the best way to deal with them so you don't keep hurting yourself.
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I feel for you, you must be broken at the moment, but sadly I think he has made the decision not to be with at the moment for himself and wants to pull himself together on his own. I would ask him once if there's anything you can do to help, if so than he needs you as a support, if not, back off but ask after him to show you care until he's ready to share his life again, good luck.
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You need to contact a support group for YOURSELF.  You have to realize you can't change him, he can only change himself.  If he does not want to help himself, and you want to stay with him, you need the support of others who are going through the same situation.
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no1 but u yourselfcan help u ./ first of all .. say that u dunt need help.. coz if u feel helplesss then only u will b down .. believe in ur self ur abilities and mark ur goals .. achieve thme and work hard .. God bless u amen ... \nbe motivated internally .. or else it will b hard in life for u
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people who don`t wanna be helped, can`t be helped...U could try talking to him...but I have a feeling he`d only get angry if U did. try to find some other subject to talk to him about, something safe, but from which U can get to this subject in a way that it seems like that`s the natural course of conversation...and depending on his reaction, U take it from there...it would help for U to offer to go with him...
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Yea..unfortunately i know exactly how you feel. I think most people feel this way at one point or another. It's a terribly easy slump to get into, but now that you are fed up with it start making some changes. Start practicing saying no to people sometimes and giving yourself a littlle time for yourself. It's hard to be a good friend or partner to anyone if your all used up. Unfortunately though it's easy to get into a pattern of just saying ok and going with everyone else's flow! Think of things you enjoy doing and set aside some time to do them... it will go a long way in helping you get back some energy and re-centering yourself. Good Luck and lotsa luv!
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Admitting to your parents that you have a problem even again will not "make then mad" your parents love you.  They helped you the other 2 times you needed help and they will help you again.  You should talk to them and tell them whats going on.  You should even express your fear to them that you get scared to ask for help.  See what they say.  And yes sweetheart you need to get long term help, you should never hurt yourself.  Having a problem like this is not your fault, it is a mental illness that you have no control over.  So if you need help ask for it, don't be ashamed or afraid.
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Your not alone i have it to, i also see people too. Do anything to get better but i don't think killing yourself will help you . dyeing is the easy way out. if you do get better you will know that it iwas down to you working to help yourself. x x x x