Im a lesbian and i take on the dominant role, but i dont understand why some men are so mean and insecure when it comes to me. I'm a really respectful person so i dont try to make them feel less than a man and i am not a man hater. I dont try and take their woman and i never disrespect them in any way but they will make their comments to me and sometimes it hurts my feelings but im learning how to just brush it off.  I cant help it if their woman want me i do not do anything to encourage them
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the reason being men are so insecure to be around you\nwith their girl coudl be the fact u play the dominate role and you could easily replace em because you offere a better calling, althought you might not see it that way but fact is guys might \nguys are not all there and are not as resonabl eand understanding and when they feel not in control things\ngo to hell from there and they will do anything nasty\nto regain this control which results of confidence security etc.\ni dont believe there is anything u can do to avoid this\nalthough you migh tmean well it will never be viewed that way. its like how gay people are looked upon unforunately thats how the world evolves \nmy best advice to you is to just talk about it with them\nand make a reasoning to secure their control\nor again just learn to brush it off, there is no way \nout of it unless the people that make comments to you\nlearn or change.\nsorry to hear that, its a cruel world\njust think of it what makes u fall only makes us tronger\nbest of luck to you
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bc these tramps get the attention they seek from men. so why not keep on doing that if it gets you what you want. of course there are normal classy women out there. im one of them. i just cant find ne men like that!
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It's just like that...must be something in our physiology.  I try to fight it...to be nice to people...but no matter how hard you try, some woman will always find fault, start a rumour, or tear you down.  Women always get along better with men too.  I know I always did.  It's because men are not like women...even women can't stand to be around women who are like that.  You would think that as a woman matures she outgrows that...it should be their goal to outgrow those negative aspects of thier personalities and emotions!!!\n\nI think it has to do with a basic need to be validated--a constant need to feel validated.  One little word and that delicate balance that every woman is perched on can be toppled.  Some women become successful and reach some level of satisfaction in their lives where it matters not as much because other aspects of her needs are being fullfilled.  But when a woman is not happy, is usurped, is off balance and insecure...the cattier she becomes.  They never seem to take it things out on men, but always on other women.  Don't get me wrong I know thier mates would say otherwise and I'm sure they are right there but overall, women compare themselves to other women in thier lives.\n\nSo look for a happy woman, one who is content and sure of herself and who is self sufficient...a woman that MAKES you happy, and do your best to keep her that way....women are like coal burning furnaces...you gotta keep that coal coming and stoke it often.
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I've been guilty of that "super nice, but I am really hating you at this moment" kind of behavior.  A lot of the time it's because we want you to know why we are upset.  Not just that we're pissed- but the reason you pissed us off!  It can be tough figuring that one out, I know...  And the whole niceness thing is fake, you know that.... we want you to know we are ticked and trying to hide it...\nI think most women assume that men are emotionally retarded and think we are making it easier to understand us, when actually we are making it harder.  Good Luck with your girl...
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Both men and women can be threatened by someone else in the workplace.  I think they are just insecure.  Do the best you can and it will work out for you in the end.
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Ok how about this:  It's how women are!\n\nFor guys, it's 'simple' in that you all make a decision and go yep, I'd like to see her, marry her, sleep with her etc.. and you all do what you do.  But then men are not that communicative or expressive and that really causes women to do dumb things.\n\nWomen, because we do feel insecure because we are 'trying to read' the opposite sex and figure out what is going on with them, analyze, investigate, and really gab to our girlfriends to 'see what they think' about a guy's behavior.\n\nYou are correct - the best answer is to JUST ASK - but we all know, that NORMALLY a man would rather cut off his arm than to see a girl/woman cry, so they avoid, ditch, don't return calls and the like and don't explain themselves to their partners either.\n\nThis is how women cope (as low as it goes) but men not communicating because they are afraid to say 'It's over' (And even when they do, sometimes we don't accept that as truth - we analyze it more) doesn't help the situation.\n\nBasically in my view - it comes down to 'fear of rejection' FROM BOTH SIDES.. The women are trying to interpet and the men are 'avoiding' and at the end of it all - isn't that the common ground?\n\nThe lesson is - BUCK UP - When a Man says he wants out - we women need to HEAR HIM - and when a Woman doesn't trust her intuition about something that's going on, SAY SOMETHING and if you still don't trust his answer, because he's being avoidant or sugar coating.....don't reduce yourself to these tactics....NO MAN IS WORTH THAT - and if you 'find proof' he's cheating or whatever, you are just hurting yourself more - so in that case.......WALK AWAY before you stoop there.\n\nMy 2 copper.
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Unfortunately, many people have the problem of taking out our frustrations with the closest one to us. Speaking as a man we tend to have that problem alot. try not to take it personally if you really ha vent done anything to deserve that kind of treatment. Try and be patient with him and find the root of his frustration. Men like to be confident in knowing that his woman fully has his back, trust me with that confidence we feel as though we can take on the world. Without it we feel like were failures and start looking at our self and our problems with no hope insight. And never let a problem slide no matter how big or small it is.
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Best Answer!\n\nI detect that recently you have come to a conclusion that men are demanding or suggestive towards what a woman should be. So much so they make you feel inadequate or less of person because they seek something from you that you cannot achieve in a short period of time.  \n\nBottom-line - It takes balance - mentally and physically to maintain a healthy relationship. \n\nA good man in time will develop confidence in his ability and will express a sense of being proud for his accomplishments as a good provider / home maker / etc. What most men have to learn is the type of woman he has on his team. Many of women will respect a man for his ability to be a good man, but do not want a man constantly reminding them he is the KING of the castle type of stuff.  Typically cats that get into that type of assertion need a pat on the back or someone to stroke their ego to make him feel like a man. That's not balanced. \n\nWomen on the other hand can enhance that assertion by not vocally/mentally showing up when its needed. She may play into the role of being needy and horribly insecure. She may always allow him to make decisions and suggestions - not learning to speak up and share her opinion concerning issues. So he figures he has to  take lead all the time. This too is not balanced. \n\nInstead of figuring this or that about what a man or women should its best to learn to communicate effectively ( not argue) in all areas of the relationship - from the bed to a night on the town learn to speak what's really good for both of you verses having this underline expectation of what a person should do. It will not take away from things naturally happening, but instead amplify things because you remove the doubts and negative uncertainty. This will clearly lower negative comments about a person not doing "their part" or feelings of someone is putting you down.
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You are probably very hot looking.\nThis is his way of inflating his ego by saying she is MINE.\nBoth men and women do this . I had a woman who always went crazy in public with me ,especially if another woman was paying attention to me.Just be happy he is proud to be with you.If he steps over the line and demands you not talk to your friends or any males at all RUN RUN RUN.\nThis is someone with insecurity issues and they can make your life HELL.
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It has been my experience that men are physical creatures while women are emotional creatures.  Men equate sex with love while women need to be nurtured mentally.  So, sometimes women give in to men's constant craving for physical/sexual contact without being fulfilled emotionally.  We hope that by sharing the most intimate parts of ourselves with a man that we will receive love in return.  This often leads to heartbreak, disappointment, bitterness, and resentment on the behalf of us women.  We live in a society that is couple friendly and we want to be part of a couple, so we sell ourselves short.  It is sad but true.  Yes, low self-esteem is definitely a factor.  That is why we must begin early instilling in our little girls that they are beautiful, wonderful and powerful INDIVIDUALS and that they have a choice as to who they share themselves with.
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They're not all like that. There are some great guys out there, just hard to find 'em. As for the ones that are, I'm still yet to find out why hurting us women seems to come so naturally to them. You've probably just experienced the ones that think and feel with their dicks.
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Some men are intimidated by a female who is very intelligent and/or beautiful.  They don't think they will add up.  Try not revealing everything about yourself all at once.  I know your proud of your degrees, but let these men know slowly about all of this.
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My dad is a serial womaniser, but i don't think its cos he's insecure at all. I think its cos he has a lot confidence and knows what women want. Usually women pursue him so I can't sê how it would be related to any of his insecurities. I think its because he like women that's why he does it and not cos he wants to betray them. I think he may get along with women probably better than men in general., I'm nothing like him thank God
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YES. \nWomen are interested in all men; if they are kind and good. \n\nHalf the population of men are shy or lacking in self confidence. \n\nThat is one of the main reasons they feel jealousy and anger towards woman or other men.\n\nWhen a man is confident in his ability to keep a woman happy (not talking about sexually) he is not threatened by anyone. (not even the parents of the woman)LOL.\n\nAll joking aside, go to classes to boost your confidence. There will always be someone who is willing to like you exactly as you are. \n\nYou just have to ask out as many girls as you need to, to find the right one.
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Some gay men can be very melodramatic!  I worked with one and although I did not care that he was gay, he was the biggest back stabbing, gossipy person I had ever met.  However, my gay friend is nothing like the guy I worked with.  He is loving, smart and funny.  I have yet to meet a lesbian I didn't like.  They tend to be less stressed about things like looks and relationships unlike heterosexual females.
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some lesbians grow really tight bonds with men that they work with and see everyday... i am a lesbian that had not had sex with a man in three years before the two weeks ago that i slept with a male co-worker that really adored me...i am with a woman now and so is he...we are still friends but we were there for each other and we had a great night that is very private and discreet....i think that he loved the fact of being with a lesbian but he never disrespected me as a person, and still respectes me.... and no he did not pay money....he was just a great guy that i trust and respect....
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maybe it's because of the double standard men show us??? how about the fact that you degrade us by calling us whores? we can't even act like we have a bit of feeling between our thighs without being called a whore or a s1ut,& maybe if you men could please us teh way we want it we wouldn't be out with other men....what you should be asking yourself is why men don't accept a woman with a strong sexual appitite maybe if you did you'd get F***ed the way you wanted to and the cheating would stop on both sides .