if the second wife comes and fight with the first wife saying that the first wife is not suitable for the husband what should the wife do ?
206367
obviously the first wife wasn't suitable. because if she was y'all wouldn't had got a divorce... so the first wife is right.. but the second wife could be jealous or envious of the history you have with the first wife... that happens...just tell them to cut it out.. and act like adults... and go on with your life with your present wife... okay.
492635
Hi been there and it is horrid dont argue with your hubby about her as she obviously wants to destroy the marriage and using a child is low Play her at her own game and stop trying to be super woman her hubby doesnt want to lose his son and she knows it why not go and have some you time when he sees his son for an hour she will panic my hubbys ex made my life hell for years but she didnt win and you are a winner as you have him and she dont smile sweetly with perfect makeup and be civilised it works
237731
although you seem to be going through a lot of pain, and i do feel for you, the problem  is still the same...you want two wives! can't do that man, sorry. there is no way that you can fully love two people the same. you have to let one of them go. you might not think it's fair to you, but that's selfish. have you ever thought about what the women want? stop being selfish and let one of them move on and find someone who is willing to be with only them.
633330
I think you need to make your feelings as regards this relationship with another woman known to your husband. he is your husband and you have to save your marriage. tell him he needs to see the damage his relationship with this woman is doing to your marriage. as you have spoken to the woman and she has refused to let go, tell your husband the woman has no respect for his marriage, he needs to choose between his friendship with the other woman and his marriage (his wife and kids). dont go fighting him, do things with wisdom, love and gentless.endeavour to always show him love and always communicate with him.communication is very important in a relationship
385659
she is wanting a divorce.........Its the one accusing who's doing ao it would be her that wants it
613266
First off, she is NOT your wifes best friend if she would make advances towards you. If I were the wife I would not want to know if it has all been stopped and I mean stopped. Do NOT ever be alone with this woman again. She (and your stupidness) could ruin your marriage. I've been in this situation with my spouse of 35 years. I was the stupid one and I too came to my senses. When he tried again I told him it never happened. He got the message. I vowed never to put myself in that situation again. I did NOT tell my husband and the other person eventually disappeared from our lives.  I am glad I did not tell.  There would have always been that doubt planted.  I know I have behaved ever since but he might wonder. Should the best friend decide to tell then you have your problem to deal with.  Avoid her unless wife is around. Some will say it was just a kiss but there is a seriousness here.  Good luck
587372
Tell your friend that she's the one being naive about her husband whom she is divorcing. Why should she consider his side anyway?
14868
This is absolutely wrong. He for one should respect his wife and her feelings, so he should either find a nice way to tell her of his friendship with other ladies and introduce them to his wife and try to find a way to convince her to accept him having female friends or just love her and respect her wishes and not have friends she does not approve of.
569018
Looks like she wont be able to come then.  This is your wedding, the final descion that is made should be yours and your husbands.
48924
You and your husband need to talk about the situation, and your mother in law (and/or father in law as well) should be brought into the conversation later, since they are taking part in the wife bashing. If your husband doesn't stop allowing the wife bashing then you need to consider some therapy - he needs to get that you are his wife and his mom should not be beating up on you, and if she does he needs to put a stop to it.  She's entitled to her opinion, but she doesn't need to voice it.
20065
There's gotta be more to this story.  Anyway, he has to be the one to quell this situation.  He needs to be up front with his wife.  Any kind of sneakery and she'll have the right to blow a gasket.  He needs to let her feel like she's the one putting boundaries on your and his relationship, whatever that may be.  (Women are funny that way)
124994
YES Boot her A$$. This is your once in a lifetime day , why let her ruin it ? Your brides maids are helpful, let one of them be your maid of honor.
195201
i think that the problem is not the way that the first wife acts, instead it is your husband's attitude towards her. She is not the one you must deal with, and  you cannot change her. No matter what you say,do or think, she will keep doing those kind of things, and you cannot prevent her. Complaining about her is nothing but wasting your time.\n\nWhat turns her behaviours into big problemes is your husband's attitude.Does he do  or accept all that she tells him?Can she be dominant on him? If she calls you, i.e. on your anniversary,- and when in fact there is nothing to be concerned - does he let her play her drama or can he tell her where to stop. He and his behaviours are to  be questioned.\n\nı suggest you to talk him, like you just did here. Since you are committed to each other, you must be sharing your thoughts, am I wrong?\n\nI hope things get better soon. Good Luck.
311032
Unfortunately the beaten wife syndrome has got a hold on her.  Its very sad to see these women who do this on a regular basis.  But they are the only ones who can change this.  Sure, you could have your buddies whoop on him, but then you are lowering to his level.  Until she realizes that she needs to make a change, this will continue.  Some women never get it and end up dead.  Maybe suggest that she go and see a counselor about it.  Then once they are no longer together, Have 6 of your Buddies kick the shyt out of him.
623174
Dude - you did it now. You have to come clean with her, and your wife, and you may lose both of them by doing so. Honesty is the best policy. This gal should already understand your situation, or you should already be separated from the wife.\n\nYou've got some backpedaling to do, and it won't be pretty....
198831
If she is married, get out of this relationship.  There is nowhere for the relationship to go.
563519
You need to be honest to both women, You just got back with your wife, don't let her hear this from anyone but you. This is the fastest way to ruin trust. Be nice to the Friend, tell her you like her but only want to be friends. You can also tell her that you may be working things out with your wife. Don't let both women think you have been leading them on. you can loose your wife for good and that doesn't sound like what you want. Tell HER Now. Marriage is a blessing and your wife's feelings should come first. if the friends gets mad then so what. At least your wife knows you're not trying to play games with her.