I get angry a lot with my mother, and I think I might have OCD, anxiety, and schizoid or schizotpal-personality disorder. Whenever I get into one of my fights with my mother she always says that she is either going to make me move in with my father, or go see "someone". I would like to go see a psyciatrist so I can see if I do have any of these disorders, but she never does take me to see anyone. I have trouble communicating with my mother (or anyone else) about personal issues like this. Can you please tell me some ways that I might ask her to take me to a psyciatrist?
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This is an important issue for you and your mother as well as any relations (friends or otherwise) you may have in the future. It could limit your ability to hold a job or even raise children. It would be prudent to seek help now to prevent future problems. Tell your mother that you love her and you don't like being angry with her, but that you don't seem to be able to control it. Suggest to her that you may have a problem like OCD or even Bipolar Disorder and would like to see a doctor to rule them out. Tell her that you value her love and friendship and that you don't want a simple problem to like this to damage your relationship forever. If she cares about you at all, she will take you. Don't be surprised though if she denies you have a problem at first. Parents don't like to admit that their children hav a problem like this. You may have to ask her several times to take you before she is ready to accept it. Give her time to work it out for herself if this does happen. She also may not believe you are serious the first time or two that you ask. Good luck, I hope this helps you. \nPlease contact me if you have more questions, just click my name to see my profile and email me. I am bipolar if that makes a difference to you.\n\nSincerely,\nTerry
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Yes I have.I was to several of them actually.And also to psychotherapists.I act all the time as if it's only me feeling the room no matter if I am speaking to my parents,friends whatever.I somehow seem unable to make people,events,thoghts,experiences change me.I am a narcissic.I undergo therapy:psychanalyse backed up by meds.I had 4 different med periods over the last four years.I cannot have excahnges with the outside world. Now I have abandoned any activity and stay at home .I see no hope for a better mind for me
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my mother has the same disorder and she doesnt do much of anything but she is an excellent writer. i am bipolar and im in college to become a registered eeg tech among other things...you can do anything you set your mind to. the most importain thing is to accept your illness and understand your capabilities and limitations, with this in mind you can set goals for your self and take small steps...before you can take on something as major as commiting all of your time to school make sure your medicine is working for you, dont stop taking it no matter how good you feel and learn to cope with the down times...worse case scenario if you do have mental issues you can take a break. You can always go back! if you dont know what your interested in just enroll as a liberal arts major for now and take a few classes to find what your interested in you never know what may come from it.
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I am a fifty year old man with Bi-Polar disorder. I also worked as a Nurse in Psychiatric Hospitals until my illness got to severe for me to continue.\nI have several relatives who are also Bi-Polar. Symptoms generally first appear, as in your mothers case, in the mid-teens. It is often misdiagnosed, though there have been improvements in recent years. Treatment for bi-polar d/o has improved massively in recent years. \nFirst, don't feel like you need to be responsible for your mothers moods. She can't control them; the medicine doesn't always control them; so don't feel like you have to control her moods.\nRealize that irritability can be a symptom of bi-polar disorder (though by no means one of the primary or diagnostic symptoms). Also, remember no matter how healthy or well-adjusted a mother and a teen-daughter are there is always going to be some friction.\nAs far as helping, love and patience are the best things you can offer and provide benefits no medicine can. \nDoes your mother have a good system for remembering to take her medicine properly? Both personal and clinical experience show me that taking the medications consistently and correctly is the best way for bi-polars to help ourselves.\nWhen she is depressed be encouraging. Help her find something, anything to do and be patient. \nAnyway I hope this has been some help. I will pray for you and your mother. I hope you get many helpful responses.\nYou may want to get in touch with NAMI, if you live in the US they offer lots of support for families of the chronically mentally ill.
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What a great question!  You have a way with words as you describe the situation that you're facing so well.  I couldn't have done it better myself.\n\nI'm 26 yrs old and have been diagnosed with BPII/BPD and have have major substance abuse problems.\n\nI can completely relate as I've been struggling with the same issue with my father and I appreciate you sharing this with us.  \n\nIt's difficult to have other people see you while you're dysphoric and at your weakest.  This is a time where you expect compassion and when you're parents don't only fail your expectations, but go completely against them, it can be very hurtful.\n\nWhen things blew up with me, I got my a$$ handed to me by my folkes, because my behavior was simply wearing them out.  With the drugs, the police, the hospital visits, I was becomming a huge source of stress and anxiety for them.  They never took the time to understand.  That made things a lot worse for me, I was sad to be in the house, but didn't have any where else to go at the time.\n\nI knew I needed help and I didn't want to be complacent, so I reserached treatment options myself, they wouldn't lift a finger.  The dynamic in the house was as if everyone was walking on eggshells.  It was very uncomfortable.  I was very hurt that I couldn't get the support I needed and built a very strong resentment towards them, I was ready to write them off.\n\nThe emotional pain and quality of living was getting worse, so I had to do something.  I reconnected with my Psychiatrist, got my meds straitened out and began attending Pyschotherapy, support groups and getting support from people outside my family.  For the last three months, I've worked really hard in regaining stregth and my sense of self and it's done wonders for me.\n\nJust recently, my father was talking to me about his best friends daughter, who is suffering with mental disorders and receiving therapy.  He went on to say, that she was extremely needy and fucI(ed in the head - which was his way of taking a shot at me, as he is fully aware I'm going through the same thing.  Next, he talked about quitting smoking and I told him about Zyban, he said that his mind is strong enough to quit addiction without meds - ohhhhh another shot to your son who is in recovery, taking meds no less.   A few months ago, I would have left the room in a fit or put him in his place right then and there.  \n\nSince I leveled my moods out and get support outside the house, I was feeling really good about myself and sat there calm and collected.  I thought about how I was going to respond, I know that he's old school, he didn't grow up in the information age, he thinks psychiatry is a pseudo science and associates looks at it with the stereotypical stigma attached to it.  I also thought that this was his house and I'm not going to lash out and cause any trouble.  That was the last thing I needed amongst the scheme of things.\n\nI responded quite calmly, "Why do you think she's needy?  Do you think she's faking it or that she's using it as an excuse for attention?"  He didn't respond with any logical type of answer and changed the subject, but I stuck with it.  Then I asked him, "I'm under intensive psychotherapy right now and take meds and it's helped me a great deal.  Do you think I'm needy as well?"  He said no, he actually said he noticed a difference in my behaviors and he was proud of me and knew that I was working hard to get better.\n\nI think he feels really guilty inside for going off on me.  I think deep down inside he was scared and didn't know how to deal with me.  I think my parents paniced and saw flaws in me that live inside them and their natural defense mechanism is to take it out on me.  It's the age old habit of self loathing.\n\n I'm still not over it and he knows that and I can see it in his eyes that he was sorry about what he&
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You should definitely speak w/ ur therapist concerning the problems you are having.  Ur not insane either.....we all go thru different trials and tribulations in life.  Good luck!
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See a thearapist or psyciatrist <sp?>.  Therapy and/or dication helps alot.  If the situation gets to bad and your affraid that you might hurt yourself in the real near future, get yourself to the ER / Hospital.  Psyc. hospitals aren't as bad as they are protraited and it may save your life.\n\nIn short there is help out there, if you can't find it on your own, your family doctor can steer you in the right direction.
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If you go to your doctors {Primary Care Physican} and let Dr. know your concerns thats the first plcae to be evaluated, and the doc can take it from there and either referr you to another kind of Doc or treat you.\nBest Wishes\n\nP.S.\nSince you have recognized possible bipolar please \n"dont let it control you and lean on it as a crutch through life..." \nmeaning dont blame everything on having  B P...\n\nI have a close family member-teenage years-and she tends to act out more than ever and always says I cant help it \nits B.P. \nI suspect she is using it as an excuse to get her way with mommy n daddy,\nshe is now at the dating age and wants to run off with her boyfriend and gets away with it cause she blames it on B.P.\n\nSo please dont let it control you, YOU CONTROL IT!!!
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It is tough to have a close family member suffering from an illness and it can be uniquely difficult in the case of mental illness.  My father has had bipolar disorder for much of his life and for a very long time he was not diagnosed.  So, your sister is lucky to be on the road to managing her illness and you should be thankful for that, at least.  Although it will probably take quite a while before she finds a treatment system that works for her (medication, counselling, etc.), you should know that you can still have a close and happy relationship with her.  You should also know that you do not need to worry for her.  You should be concerned for her well-being, of course, but if you feel overly worried or overwhelmed, you should perhaps see a doctor.  Personally, I thought for years that it was normal to worry constantly, but it isn't.  If anxiety is regularly interfering with your life, you should seek some medical guidance of your own.
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oh boy. sounds like me and my mom. I just walked away when she started to irritate me. Don't acknowledge her bad behaviour at all. But don't expect her to stop being this way. you will have to deal with it for the rest of her life. So just try and tell yourself that you will leave the house one day and you won't have to deal with her. Just try and remember to not fight back. Let her win. Even if your beyond right. Because she's only looking to argue. not win an argument. Ignore her critcisms of other people and just try to tune her out when she talks. That's your best bet. GOOD LUCK
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I think you should go see a state certified licensed therapist because they are the only one who can diagnosis weather you have schizophrenic or not and if you do they may have to put you on a medication, but only they can give the correct diagnosis. Do not lose hope. YOU CAN DO IT! YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS! Also, maybe you should tell your parent about this and if they do not take this seriously. Like I say before Go see a therapist on your own and do not fell ashamed of what you have because noone is 100 percent perfect in this world.
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Maybe it is time for you or one of your Brothers to go visiting with Mom and Sis. I think it sounds like there needs to be more communication between you siblings.\nDoes your sister have anyone that relieves her ever? Is she stuck there 24/7, 365 days a year?\nDon't get me wrong, I love my Mother but she came to visit me for a month and I was so ready for her to leave. She is in good health but she lives in the past. She tells the same stories over and over to the point that I had them memorized myself. \nMaybe it is time for your sister to take a long break, since she is verbally abusive to your Mom. She might be feeling that she is entitle to any money because of the time that she has put in.\nSomeone with suicidal tendencies shouldn't be in charge of any one else, little lone a person in ill health.
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You should not rely on your mother and your mother should not rely on you, it seems like both of you need help.  You have made the first step you have asked for help, but now you need to ask the right person, go see your doctor, he/she will be able to put you in touch with the right person, good luck
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i had the same problem and i couldn't speak to my parents 'cause i was afraid of them! this happened till this April, when i had a conflict with them, and my brother supported me! i stood up for myself and told them that i wanted to leave home 'cause they didn't understand me and wouldn't listen to me! Now, they recognise me (at last!) as a human being(!) and  i tell them whatever i want without fear! my brother supported me, didn't tell them my problems! i told them! so, both of you should go to your father and make known from the beginning that your brother will just say his own opinion! Good luck!!
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How can u marry ur mother? it seems she is very disturbed n should get proffesional help
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I am in the same boat as you Taramar.  i do not get along with my mother very well, and I had a very rough and lonely upbringing.  To this day we rarely talk and do not get along at all.  \n   Even though all this, I still get her gifts for days like Mother's Day and other special days because she is my mom, and despite all the bad feelings I have for her, a part of me loves her.\n   She is not really a bad person, she was just a bad mother, and had issues that she never bothered to deal with.  I understand not being able to forgive, because i feel very much the same way.  Be the bigger person, and get her something.  Spend a few minutes with her if you can, and show her that you are not like her.  \n   Maybe, one day things will change, I know it seems unlikely as I feel that way too, but you never know.\nPeace and Love
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I think you need to tell your family, because in default of your own ability to take care of yourself, they might be the ones who end up making decisions about your care for you.\n\nThis is not something you should be dealing with on your own.  I would suggest that your psychiatric care person/team might be able to suggest a way for you to get through to your mother.  Perhaps she or other family members might be able to participate in counseling or therapy sessions with you.\n\nWhat she needs to understand is that what you are telling her is not necessarily an attack on her parenting you, as in an accusation that she caused or somehow brought about your illness.  If you and your mother have a history of not getting along well or communicating well, then you definitely need to involve a professional counselor in this.  \n\nWith your diagnosis, you definitely need to give some thought as to who might become responsible for decisions regarding your care should something happen that requires someone else to assume responsibility for you.  The default is to family members, and this may not be what you want.  If it isn't, you need to find out how to arrange things so that the person you choose is legally empowered to make decisions for you should need arise.  Your psychiatric care team should be able to assist you in this.\n\nGood luck and take care.  Be well!