...she works out every day, and still it all goes to her thigs.  What can I do to help her, should I make her do a certain exercise that will be more effective??  One of her problems is that she loves to vegg over eat - especially muffins and ice cream, but she usually can go days without eating anything bad and only fruits and veggies.
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Pilates is great for lengthening the leg muscles rather than bulking them up.  Also, she should do strength training, and she should work all areas of the thigh but use light weights and high reps to tone and trim rather than using heavy weights and low reps which bulk the muscles up. \nShe should definitely do a combination of strength training and cardio.  Try some body sculpting moves like squats and lunges for the quadriceps; dead lifts for the hamstrings; for the inner thigh, she can lay on her back and squeeze a large exercise ball between her thighs or without a ball she can lay on her back and have her legs straight up in the air then move them out and in  (like scissors) in a slow and controlled way.  She can do 25 with her feet flexed and 25 with her toes pointed and legs angled out.  For her outer thigh, there are many great exercises such as lying on one side and slowly kicking the top leg up and down while keeping the leg very straight and the toe lightly pointed.  There are so many great leg exercises but they can be hard or lengthy to explain.  Check out pilates books and videos, women's fitness magazines etc, and you can find some great ones to target the thighs.  \n\nJust a question, does she know you are asking this?  If not then don't get caught! Most women would be pretty offended by their guy sking a question about their thigh problems, even if you are trying to help her.  Be careful!
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Encourage her to do things for her. Help her to raise her self esteem.  Let her know that she is important and that you care for her. Tell her she looks fine.\nAnd you can talk normally with her, I'd recommend don't say to her how pretty are top models or other women (above all if they are skinny or very skinny). You can let her know that the people very skinny can affect their health. That every one must find one their ideal weight, and it is the weight you feel confortable with and also is healthy for you.
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So she's not perfect....are you? If you want her to do something about her weight and you don't want to upset her there is only one way that I know of to do it. You don't tell her to lose weight. You could invite her to work out with you. Take walks together, go to the gym, or whatever works. If you have trouble getting her to do that then you should just simply say that healthy people should live longer lifes and you want to make sure that you are both around. Just make sure that you do the work too.
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WHOA- that is a touchy subject for you. I personally have lost 143 lbs and fell great so I know how you feel about wanting to help others, I do it all the time. Sometimes they are thankful and sometimes they are resentful. Take it easy with her. Like you-nobody else can motivate her. SHE is the only person that can do that. One day she will see a picture, try on a pair of jeans or an old dress and make a decision that she is tired of it. In the meantime you stay on track and set the example for her both foodwise and exercise. She will eventually follow suit because on the inside the jealousy will eat her up. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!!!!! Keep up the good work!
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yes..Try to note one whole day what she eats..i have a friend too shes obseessed with dieting.\nOur parents are ppl we depend on and want love and attension from..What ever they put in our heads we CAN NEVER forget.\nEven if its OUR own feeling about what they expect fromus.\nShes probably dieting like hell and not telling ya.\nhelp her...plz.
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Actually, it is very simple.  Most restaurants will substitue for you.  Instead of potatoes or rice, ask for either vegetables or sliced tomatoes.  She just needs to cut down on the bad carbs.  Don't have bread with the meal, and if she wants a salad, most restaurantes have low carb dressings or she could use balsalmic vinegar.  Don't worry, the restaurants know what to do.
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I suggest she goes to a dietician and have her put on diet pills by doctor. Its safer to have her weight loss watched by doctor, in case something happens. I am on one of those diets, and I have Migraine headaches quite a bit, so I have to be under a doctor's care. Some diet pills can cause migraines in certain people...Better safe than sorry!
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You have every right to be worried!  First of all, does she have a chronic disease process that could cause this weight loss?  Is she diabetic? Is she depressed? Does she see her doctor on a regular basis?  If not, she should.\n\nTo help her eat, serve her several small healthy meals a day.  Sometimes a big meal is overwhelming when you don't feel like eating.  Crackers and cheese for instance, is a good small healthy snack.  Peanut butter on fruit, things like that.  Small amounts of protein.  If she eats several small meals like that she will get as much nourishment as 3 larger meals.  Also you can supplement with something like Ensure if she finds that to her liking.  If that is too expensive for you, Carnation Instant Breakfast mixed in milk has the same calories and vitamins and minerals as the Ensure at half the cost.  Please get her to a doctor too.  Bless you both.
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First and foremost, relax. Proper relaxation ritual, is very important. Also she should probably cut down on stimulants such as caffiene, and keep a healthy level of activity. Long walks and the like.
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Is she sick? Does she have an eating disorder? If she is just ill, try giving her gingerale or some anti-nausea medication like Coca Cola syrup over crushed ice (you can get it at a pharmacy) or PeptoBismol. Keep her hydrated with water or PediaLyte.\n\nIf it's an eating disoder, she needs to go see a doctor and a therapist for help to get through this. Eating disorders are very hard and take time to "cure". You need to be there for her and reassure her you are mad at her disease and not her, and that you are getting her help for her own good. She may hate you for a while but at least she won't be killing herself with food or lack of it.
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just because it worked for her doesnt mean it will work for you.  see a dr and have them help you plan a diet that will fit your lifestyle and food choices so you will be able to stick with it without sabotaging it because you cant follow it.
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Get a second opinion. She could have a thyroid function problem. So seek more medical advice. There has to be a reason.
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I would tell her "it's really good that he likes fresh apples and carrots. How about taking him to a greengrocers and letting him choose other fruits and vegetables to try? It's really nice that you are encouraging him to eat healthily. Have fun getting him experimenting with other foods to make sure that he gets a really broad spectrum of vitamins and nutrients in his diet" \n\nI think that you should be careful not to belittle her and go for encouragement rather than criticism.
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So long as she is eating, and is still overweight, I would not be too concerned. If she starts to eat even less, or stops eating around people, or has reached a healthy weight, and continues this regimen, then I would be concerned. If she reaches that point, and will not listen to you, you may need to involve someone else, like her parents.
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I am in the same predicament you are in. My doctor is telling me stuff I already know and i have no will power. like tonight i ate 3 bags of m&ms and a king sized twix but i will start tomorrow a new and try not to eat that crap.  what I do is excersice with a friend always because if I didnt i would do it. Its motivation. and I use a smaller plate so it can look full for the eyes and when I cook I only cook enough for 1 serving so when I want some more its none so I have to drink water to get full. Yeah, sometimes I dont always follow my rules but I wake up everyday and try again and harder. I havent weighed myself in a while because when i do and see that I have lost weight, my mind goes " what are you doing? lets eat more" and i gain it back but the best thing is to Wake up everyday and start brand new each day. if you break a day, its ok, try again. What I have learned is to not stop eating what you eat(as long if its not too much junk)just eat less of it. and excercise like crazy. oh, I also have been eating alot of fruits. I really dont like all the fruit thats available to me locally but i eat what i like apples, oranges, grapes, watermelon, strawberries, i just eat a different one a day.its called food rotating. Lucky with my job, one of my clients love to walk so 2 days out the week i have a good walk and my other client has to excercise more, so i motivate her by excercising with her and get strength training incorparated into those days. oh, i try to eat at least 6 times a day. breakfast lunch and dinner and 3 snacks but i dont always succeed, but i am losing weight, something i am doing is right because i can feel it in my feet and legs and sides where my bra is. hey, if you want a person to talk to about your days to give you motivation to keep trying im here for you sweety. so good luck. if you want to eat fast foods, try nuggets instead of burgers. and eat tacos. the whole point is to burn more calories than  you eat. good luck.
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I agree. There are lots of options! Unless she's a total vegan, she can deal with mashed potatoes (minus gravy), sweet tater pie, cranberry sauce, green bean bake, and even stuffing (if its not made with chicken/turkey stock). What are her reasons for vegetarianism? If its health related, and she's done the research, she needs to know how to eat plenty of protein to get in her system what she's not getting from eating meat.
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This is a horrendous diet.  Yes, she will probably lose weight.  In addition, she will lose muscle mass, be cranky / irratible, lower her resistance to disease / infection, have no energy, be susceptible to vitamin / mineral deficiencies and more.  After 40 days, she'll look like an emaciated and sickly prisoner, which is basically what this diet is like.  I could  go on and on.\n\nIf she is that desparate to lose weight, she should rethink her plan.  \n\nThe ultimate way to weight loss (permanent weight loss) is to have a lifestyle change that involves a well-rounded diet that includes foods from all food groups and at least 1500 - 2000 calories a day.  In addition, become active.  Hit the gym, hit the trails, do something to get your heart pumping and your body building / toning muscles.\n\nUse http://www.fitday.com (it's free) to record your daily activities and food intake to allow a gradual weight loss.\n\nI really fear for your friend.  Hopefully she'll back out of this diet before she sacrifices her health to lose a few pounds.\n\nGood luck.