My boyfriend had sex with this girl. And then he told me about it, saying I shouldn't be mad at him for that, because he loves me, I'm the only girl for him if he didn't loves me he would of never tell me about it. I thought that was kind of cool because he's in another country, if he tells me about it himself, that mean he's being honest with me. Plus before I went with him I told him I will not have sex till I get married and he accepted that. He told me is the girl who forced him to do it, he didn't wanna do it. So what do you guys think about this?
210648
It depends on what kind of person you are. If you don't mind, then who cares what anyone thinks? If you want something monogamous and committed, then I think its time to re-evaluate.
518785
Well if he said that, I do not know why you are with him anymore. I do understand what he does say though. I do not think that anyone would ever say anything like that. I think that is something that happens all the time with guys and life. It always is the way, guys want what they can not or do not have. I would really rethink being with him if he is telling you about thinking about other girls.
230269
Why tell him? If sex comes up then tell him. He wont think yuck no guy most of never wanted her, but think wow she did not give into some idiot from high school. NOthing is wrong with being a virgin. And you are not the only 20 something virgin out there, and they are not all gross and ugly, they choose to wait just like you have, and they are better people for it. I have never know anyone who regreted waiting but I do know some who regret not waiting.
113899
Absolutely it was rape. Taking something that was not offered is wrong, he stole something from you that you did not want to give. He went ahead although you told him no and tried to push him off you. He knew it was wrong. He raped you, absolutely. The fact that you were dating does not mean he has any rights over you, he certainly did not have the right to force himself on you when you did not want to have sex with him. No means no. x
250786
first off why would you want for someone els to have sex with your girlfreind, and 2nd i would never have sex with someone elses laddy do to the fact that she is already taking, and i have more respect for a female then that.. why would you even post such filth...
231163
Sounds like a case of him feeling guilty for what he was doing so he makes up something to blame you for to cover it up.  You should confront him and find out why what he is doing with this girl isn't considered cheating.
460856
This guy doesnt sound like hes being considerate of you in ANY way at all. He is using you. A guy who cares for a girl shows consideration. A guy can say anything to a girl but what do his actions tell you? Those speak louder than words. He is making everything about him and nothing about you. Is that what you really want?
575773
Leave him.  Lots of guys can't stay up long enough for good sex.... while that's not a good enough reason for you to leave him, it is not a good sign.  Since you said he was your first, he doesn't sound very satisfied at all.  Despite what he has been telling you this is not your fault.  You are under no obligation to have oral sex with him.. no matter what he says.  I hope he didn't pressure you into having sex with him in the first place.  It sounds like this guy is not in the relationship for the right reasons, and can't make it a pleasurable experience for you.  Get out now and find someone who respects you.
534159
You can't be sure with men.  It sound to me that he probably doesn't want to make any type of commitment to you until he probably finds out what he can get away with with you.  You know how men are about commitment and relationships.  Basically, I think whatever he said has to deal with sex.  Most men just think like that expecially young ones.
452387
It sounds like the truth...suprisingly. If you and him were having sex, I would say it was game. But he actually seems like a young man who wants to do right by a wholesome girl who is having issues with not-so-wholesome girls tempting him. Sounds like a keeper =)
665177
I'm confused.. When you say you were speaking to other men.. is that all then? I don't see anything wrong w/that. You say tho 'he stayed w/me' and I don't know why he wouldn't (if it was just conversation.) You say he had a secret relationship.. was it sexual? You two both sound kind of jealous/possessive.. I mean I am basing this on the assumption there was nothing sexual involved in any of this. (If there was, that's a different story..) Let me see here.. He treats you like crap.. I take it that's the real issue on hand here.. I think men are kind of like babies (I'm married to one.. lucky me..) or they want their cake/ to eat it too.. they want us to cook and clean (and spread 'em) but on the other hand they want their 'freedom' to screw around on us at the same time. (We can't do anything along the same line tho..) that sux, right? He stayed because he's been with you and while the other gal's 'something new/exciting & different' you're the one he's 'used to living with' I am thinking. (Hell, this is depressing me!!) Hey, I DO think you've got value/self worth, dont' get me wrong! I'm just kinda bitter about men is all.. It sounds like my marriage of l4 years (boring.. I'm bored..) My ole man's an asshole (cuts me down) and then developed (or so he claims) e.d. so he tries to do the oral thing (doing me 'one big goddamned favor') on me for sex (but it's wearing thin or gettin' old I mean.. fast..) I want to dump him too.. (I think you want to dump THIS guy..) do it!! that's my 'valuable' advice for ya
548551
Wow, having sex twice huh\n\nHere's my thought- \n\nIf a girl has a boyfriend, don't encourage her to stay or leave. Don't get involved where that is concerned. She must be able to stand on her own and make her own decisions.\n\nShe might be a sweet girl, you both might be instantly into each other but lets look at it this way.\n\nShe had sex twice with you (Outright cheating- since she at the time had a boyfriend...). She cheated essentially to be with you, now whats going to stop her when she is bored/tired/frustrated/angry with you? Think she'll do that with someone else too?\n\nMy advice is to essentially get her out of your life. I know it is painful ~ I almost ran headlong into a similar situation before but I avoided it when I decided to get her out of my own life. Course the end result with that was she cheated with some other guy (we never went through, because the moment I found out she was wishy washy about the then current boyfriend I knew it was a sign to get out). \n\nNext, go out there, get out in the world and start seeing other women. I do not know what state you live in, but in Los Angeles California, 10,000 women are turning 18 every day. If one woman I like has something hiding in the closet - I just say adios.\n\nI said "women" not "girls" because women are mature, girls are not. Mindset is important, who do you think will cause you more happiness? Someone who isn't loyal, or at least will stick by you through the bad times(When love really shows itself, as well as their character), someone spoiled and otherwise emotionally unstable?Or someone who will stick by you even though the bad times, who is psychologically stable, mature,  and is patient?\n\nAgain, I know it may be difficult to just purge someone from your life but lets face it. \n\nYou deserve better than to be in constant tension, pain, stress, confusion and worry over this girl who is wishy washy, cheated twice and doesn't want to hurt her boyfriend's feeling even though by the sound if it, she isn't happy. \n\nWhats stoping her from doing the same on you?\n\nSorry if I sound cold, insensitive and generally offended you (if it did), but I am not as sensitized to the situation as you are, I don't personally know you or the girl you speak of.\n\nI do not imply that the girl will cheat on you, I only deal in odds if she will or not. They say that once a cheater, always a cheater right?\n\nLast note:\nIf she really wanted to break off from the relationship- she would have done it already. If you really want something, and are in enough pain to get it, you'll do it almost instantly. Seems like she is holding back, and not actually thinking about a way to let her boyfriend go (if indeed, she wants to).
582568
NO!! girl, be happy ur man was honest enough to tell you the truth... most men would have said "don't worry bout it" or "she's my homegirl". this guy must really care for you if he didn't go thru with it, i mean seriously for a guy to back out of something like that takes alot of will-power and he even told you the truth. honestly, something like this shows me that not all men are the same and this guy really does love you, hold onto him...
436519
I agree with you. You get married because you love that person for that person, not because you love what they can do to you in the sack.\n\nPeople say sex is an expression of love, but I think lack of sex is a greater expression. If your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you enough to say "I don't need sex. I can wait." That's someone worth being with. It they're ready to hit the sack right away... well... maybe they don't completely love you for you.\n\nThat's why I'm a virgin and will remain so until marriage. If a guy says he can't wait that long, then he's not worth my time.\n\nSo, getting back on track now... Is viriginity important to guys? I guess it depends on the man. To me, (female), virginity is very important. I don't care if they have experience or not and I'd rather they didn't. I want to be the only person they've ever been with and I'd hope that my future spouse will feel the same way. =D
541540
!!!Well , you have a problem there!! I would in this particular situation most likely would somehow leave the (cheating) situation alone and let him now how it feels and that maybe he should think twice before making out with some girl he met that night. Also i would not go out with him because he sound like a slut , especially if he is making out with a girl he just met. I can give you advice but i can not  make the decision for you.\nTootles!!!
375697
He might have just wanted to tell you that there were girls there incase you hear it from someone else. If that happens you'd start to question why didn't he tell you about it and wonder if he's hidding something. He's just trying to play it safe and be honest with you by keeping you updated about all the things that are happening.
639941
First of all, you can do better. Secondly, he is a jerk. From the way he does it, it seems like he is putting you as a 'back-up girlfriend'. For all you know, he could have gone out to see other girls and probably get intimate with them. He was 'tempted by other people', you say? Bull. Don't let his mistake be yours. He left you for that period of time because he was afraid that your love wasn't 'good enough'. Well, if I were you, I'd dump him for good even though I love him so much. I'm sorry miss, but you can do better than a person who puts his priority as an option.