A man I was with for 2.5 yrs created a profile on a dating website and lied to me continously. Just before we broke up, he had purposed to me, and no I am not the sort of girl who wants a ring on her finger or puts pressure for it. Once I found out about his deceit, I broke it off. Then about a week ago, after him begging me, I took him back. Right now we live several provinces appart, but were discussing either my moving back there or him moving out here. One night we had a small scrap on messenger and he signed off. The next day, I look at his blog and he wrote to the world how we have decided to split up! Then he blocked my phone number and will not respond to my emails. His blog still professes undying love as does his yahoo profile, but he played with my heart again. Anyone have any clue as to why a man would act so weird? I just need to vent here cause I cannot sleep. Oh...and he is 28 and should be past childish stuff, so that is not it either. Thanks.
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He has not grown up.  Sounds as if he is still playing childish games because he realizes that in the end you will always be there for him.  Short and to the point, my dear, you're being manipulated by a man-child!
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well first, is there any way you can tell if he's been active on this account or not? maybe he had it on there and forgot about it? just mention to him that you found it and was wondering about it...this might bring questions as to why you were there also, he might think that you were looking on match.com, or don't trust him. neither are what you would want him to think if it's not true. \nso simply ask him about it, if he isn't straight up with you about it, then odds are that he's always keeping another door open. men do this for many reasons, like fear of being hurt, finding something better, or that's just thier lifestyle. i wouldn't put up with it if he says he wants to marry me, because marriage is permanent. if he's talking about something permanent then he needs to be sure about it before he mentions it.
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For once on here I am going to be serious. Internet stories of jobs are hardly believable, but I am more than qualified to answer this question. I was in a chat for Psychological Disorders, when the messenger went kerplunk now I am here trying to get help on what is wrong, just having some fun with most of these, but I will be serious on this one.\n\nFirst thing, was there jealousy in the relationship that you and him had? If he was a jealous type, he is probably insecure and did this to see if you still cared for him.\n\nSecond thing, depends on how long you were together. I still have feelings for women I dated 5 years ago. Surely doesn't mean that I want them.  \n\nThird thing, Since I know nothing about you, age, length of relationship, etc... I would recommend a full split between the two of you, no friends, phone or IM buddies, you know the old saying about letting something go, if it's meant to be then he will come back.\n\nFourth thing, busting out my Oprah stick, "You are letting him have his cake and eat it too, of course he is going to be nice to you"\n\nLast thing, back to serious, when you break up with someone, never hold on, it could cause you to miss something or someone special that you didn't notice because you are still holding onto the past. Two things I have learned in life, life isn't stopping for you, so don't stop for someone else and there is a reason they are an ex. Hope this helps.
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You sure he hacked it?  Maybe he's with your ex-girlfriend now and she let him use it.  Maybe you are the one bothering your ex-girlfriend and she let him get onto her messenger to tell you to take a hike.  This is a very very one sided story and I have a feeling you are not exactly innocent.
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Does he wish to go out with you?  If yes, that is one less thing you have to consider.\n\nAge is DEFINATELY just a number, though if you are not of legal age in your country and he is, please stop all contact with him or stay only friends because he could get in trouble for being with a minor.  \n\nAnother thing is... Please use caution with being online.  I honestly cannot stess enough the stories I have heard of people who have pretended to be someone they are not, people who try to take advantage of others in illegal or hurtful ways, and all of this stuff. If you take your relationship into offline life make sure that you do the following:  tell your friends about this person (including his name, where he is from and all of that) make sure that if you do meet you do so in a public place with other people around and take a friend with you, if you are in a position to do a background check on him do so, and the rest of the necessary things to keep you safe.  I am NOT saying all people online are predators, some are very nice people and I met my future husband in a Yahoo! Chatroom but I also used very reasonable precautions when going forward with meeting with him and such.\n\nIf you both like eachother and are both of legal age, go for it; a wonderful, trusting relationship is a rare find and sometimes you have to take it where you can get it.  Just try not to pay attention to what people say about finding someone off the internet.  Though, if you feel there is something wrong in your relationship at anytime, look into it... don't dismiss anything.
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This sort of guy usually persists until you put out but don't do that. He also seldom takes no for an answer. I had the same problem in 2001-2002. I just began sharing details about dates I went on with other guys untill he faded into the background. I am happily married to someone else now so don't believe that hype about him being meant for you.
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I think guys just like to see how much they can get away with before they're caught.  I had a guy I was talking to and I called his house one night because he had me leaving messages on his answering machine and his wife picked up and we started talking and figured him out.  That wasn't the first time he had done it.  I just wanted to be through with it all, but she kept calling me and annoying me.  She took him back and I told her I no longer felt sorry for her and to stop calling me.
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i thin kyou should move on. if he hasnt took the time to actually realize you havnt called him in three days and didnt  call you to ask about it then hes not worried about you. i think you should leave him alone. dont worry about him. hes an ass! and then that message he left you on myspace...that sucked a big one!!!!!
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I spent 10 years with my first love who did NOTHING but accuse me of cheating. Even after two kids and finalizing my faithfullness with MARRIAGE (which I regreat every day of my existance) YOU dont have to do a DAMN thing to prove that you are what you are, faithfull and a proud mom. Look at how awesome you are with providing for your kids no matter what curve ball life throws your way. It took me to 6 years to stop my putting up with his claims and accusations that I finally dusted myself up one day and realized, (1)How the Hell am I going to keep on putting up with this and (2) why would I put my kids through this? They are such incredible sponges and you are their role in relationships, family and love. My last straw was relationship counseling, that brought out alot of hidden insecurities that I never knew he had as well as shed some light onto several of his accusations. He actually WAS cheating for awhile and guilt wouldnt let him life it down. After 2 months of "trying for the kids" I left. Me and the kids got our stuff together, I fought for full custody and I havent been happier in a long time. There is a sole mate out there for you and HE will FIND YOU, not that you have to force it to happen just because you had kids with the guy. That is the worst reasons. You are making it alone (emotionally, and financially) you can do it without the added pressure of his stupidity. I have all the faith and prayer in the world on your side and you can get through this. You wont be alone, You will be Happy and Stress Free With Your KIDS. They need you. How old is your youngest? How old is your oldest? Dont hesitate contacting me for questions or advice. My heart goes out to you. PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
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After I read it, I was sorry I clicked on it! What a clown. I really hope my visit isn't the 2,000,000th! Why are you talking it up for him? Guys do stick together, of course, duh, why did I ask! You sure he's not you? How did you know about this site? If he makes it, I hope she welches on the deal and dumps him.\n                just call me: Polly Purebred
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I've sent pictures of myself to a few men I was involved with in a long distance relationship. As far as I know, nobody else has ever seen them. But it is always unnerving to think that your boobs could be floating around on the internet somewhere. At least I have a c*ck shot from my current so at least I could get revenge if my pictures leaked.
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I don't think he could like find you if you give him your email.. I'd say its a personal judgement call.. Do you want to talk to this guy? Do you like him at all? As remember if he gets nasty or anything you can just block his email address..
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Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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Well, you kind of confirmed his suspicion that you wouldn't take it well with your sarcastic email, didn't you?  Perhaps they found out that they both really wanted to go to the same place, it was cheaper to go together and since 1.you'd been split up for over 6 months and 2. he wasn't your best friend anyway, there really was nothing morally wrong in what they were doing.  You could look at it as a compliment that they thought enough of your feelings not to want to hurt you and that's why they didn't tell you.  Yes, it would have been a courtesy to let you know, but really, you don't have any right to interfere in the lives of two people you don't have close relationships with.
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If she really was a stalker, he would have told you about her by now.  You said this is a long-term relationship, so he would have confided that informatiojn in you.  He is lying, and I am a guy!!!  Sorry, dude, you are busted.  Move on, sister, he is not being faithful to you and why has he not made a committment to you?  At the very least, he is being emotionally unloyal to you even if he has done nothing with this online "girlfriend."  It has a long time.  Move on.  P.S.  I am married, so I am not saying this to get you or anything.  I know from experience that guys "cheat" on girlfriends with online hussies.
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Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
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My guy did that. I caught him flirting online and literally blew up on him. He got rid of the computer for about a month. Then when it did come back, any type of Instant Messenger was banned from our computer (it still is!). He promised to never erase the history file and I could "check up" on him whenever I wanted to. And he didn't go to any sites that would be considered questionable. It took time, but I was able to put it behind us. His willingness to be an open book helped me to trust him again. It was never an issue again, and that was many many years ago.