My girlfriend and I were together for three years. And she told me that she was slowly starting to fall out of love with me. And I don't understand because we never faught, argued, nor yelled at eachohter. Everything was perfect we enjoyed eachothers company we were always laughing and going places. It was everything a person could ask for in a relationship. I still live with her and sleep in the same bed. I still make her lunches befor she goes to work. I still wash her cloths. And rub her feet. I try to tell myself that it's the little things that count. But still it's been three weeks and she still feels the same. The way she looks at me changed she use to look at me with love in her eyes. And now she looks at me as a friend. And that's the look I'm not use to. We still hang out and have fun but there is still one thing missing and that's her love. When were together spending time as friends I tell her how much fun I had at the end of the night. Will she ever feel for me?
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I can tell through your question that you are hurting.  You need to give her some space...people can fall out of love, and it usually isn't easy for them either.  Something has changed and you can feel it and see it...don't prolong the agony for either of you...it will be hard, but you will survive and someday when you meet and fall in love with the love of your life and you are hers...it will all make sense.  Good Luck : )
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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wow 3 years ...sounds to me she just wants to be friends....i hope u have been dating others within this 3 years ....Good luck and just have fun!!!  :)
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It sounds like she's not interested in working things out.  Or you haven't been listening to her needs and haven't changed your behavior and she might feel you'd be better off finding someone who likes what you like and allowing her to move on and be happy too.\n\nIt can be too late or it might not.  Only you can know for sure.
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Are you insecure? Do you feel worthy of love? Could be why you don't trust her. Or have you been hurt before. You know she loves you if you have good conversation, she listens to you and talks back. YOu have good communition and can tell each other anything. She is attentive and loving towards you, and intrested in you sexually (if you are having sex yet, you didn't say your ages). You have fun together ,and laugh together. When you are together, you feel like her mind is 100 per cent with you, and she's not distant. YOu feel important to her. She is reassuring if you need it. YOu feel totally happy in her company.
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Talk to her and let her know how you feel.  It sounds like she's starting to weigh you down.  It's obvious you care about her but, this might not be the right person for you.  You have to ask yourself if you are getting anything positive out of this relationship and if they are the things you want in life.  If you're not, then it's time to move on.
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we cant really explain feelings,,, just do not force her feelings give her time to realize if she really loves you..maybe you just need to miss each other.and if it turns out that she doesnt love you then give her freedom but if you really love her do your very best to win her hearts back... show your love to her and prove her your worth loving
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Ouch.  I am sorry for you.  In relationships, people don't always want to spend all of their time together.  What is interesting about our comments is that after 2 years the "honeymoon" phase of infatuated love is over.  So the real relationship starts, and this is when most relationships fall apart.  I don't know if I would get over the fact that he slept with someone within moments of the two of you have a  possible break up.  You need to talk to him and figure out what is really going on.
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I think you should be "logistically" close.  Then take it from there.  She may still love you.  Maybe she got lonely and needed companionship, but still loves you too.  If you communicated that well, once you are with her face to face, it should come easily and soon you will know how she feels and where you stand.  Get your butt to Tuscan  and see her.  Love like that doesn't come along every day.  It would be awful to let it slip through your fingers without a second chance.
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I just don't see a feelgood way out of this.  Be honest with her.  It already sounds like you are compassionate.  Honestly explain your feelings, how long you've been feeling this way, how you struggled with it, didn't want to hurt her, etc but that you couldn't reconcile how you feelings evolved to living in a way that is in full honesty for both of you.  She's going to undergo grief and pain so there is no avoidance of that.  It really is hard to tell someone you care about as a person, knowing you're going to cause them pain, that you've tried, but don't feel the way you would like to feel anymore.  Many people deal with faded feelings in ways that cause even more problems down the line, cheating, avoidance, etc. It never makes the problem better so you know that it will take great courage on your part to get in the drivers seat and take the relationship to it's inevitable destination.  She was a whole person before she met you so hopefully she has the inner strength and faith to trust she will continue to be a whole person without you.
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may i ask, why she couldn't love you back? is there another guy in the picture? but from your story there seems no one..or she doesn't feel like the way you do? i think love can be developed, that is if she is willing to open her heart and that you'd be willing to wait...there'll ba a good chance..\n\nunconditional love is a sacrifice you have to bear and no one can stop you from that...it is something that we do voluntarily...if you cannot live away with her since it makes you even unhappier then it's all up to you...but until when can you put up with this...until she breaks your heart by choosing someone over you despite the things you have done for her? it can happen..\n\nif not now, you will eventually tire out later...yes, you might not love someone as much as you love her but, we, as humans are destined to be with someone to fill that space inside our heart...we long for someone that will make us whole, it's a primal instinct...\n\nas hard as it may seem why don't you give her and yourself a space...not see her for some time maybe she will then realize what you really meant to her...most of the time, we only value things or people when they're already gone...if she doesn't come looking for you then there is no hope to answer your love for her...anyway, you know it's not the end of the world...you will survive it...\n\nwhat is more painful is the wasted time and emotions spent...
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can you see? this is the time where youre patince and love will be tested. if you love her, like i know you do, dont stop and give up on her. consult any counselling person. do anything. i knwo, shes like that because she thought that she is already becoming a burden to you, but believe me, if she feels that youll never give her up and you love her very much, like i said i know you do, help her in any way you can, and most of all, make her feel loved..
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what she did...how quickly she seemed to "get over you" hurt you...when people hurt us, it's hard to forget that pain we went through...\nbut you know what i've found out? our brains are very powerful organs...if we choose to not let it hurt us, then pretty soon we'll convince ourselves that it doesn't...maybe think of it in a different way...obviously she was trying to move on as quickly as possible b/c it hurt her too much to be without you...have you thought of it this way?...maybe it was her defense mechanism so she wouldn't be hurting so bad, either...obviously she still loved you b/c she came back to you...\nlife gets to be routine and sometimes can feel like you're in a rut or bored...but you know what? a good relationship isn't worth throwing away over a little boredom...if you really love each other, then find new ways of doing things...do things you wouldn't normally do...go on a vacation together and experience something new together...like hiking or white water rafting...something in which you won't be alone the whole time...spice up your sex life...\nyou take care of your part...you plan things to surprise her...you know, do your part and she'll do hers...come up with a list of things you want to do and plan them out according to your finances and do them together...\nbut trust me, being in a rut with a good person is worth way more than jumping from relationship to relationship trying to find something new...
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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She still loves you. But the difference is that she's not in love with you. Sometimes pain and disappointment is so great till it's not worth the salvage of the relationship.\n\nYes, she angry because of the hurt and doesn't want to be in this situation anty more than you do. Just give her sapce and take care of your responsibility.
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Okay, here's the thing...\n\nI've had one relationship with a girlfriend where I felt that I was deeply loved and that love was also reciprocated by me.\nIt comes down to the old nagging cliché. She used to hen-peck me all the time, and I'm sure I did the same to her to in my own way. But my point is, when you do have a fully reciprocated and loving relationship, you care about those comments, propbably trivial things most of the time but sometimes more significant. Because I loved her (and trusted her) it mattered deeply what she thought of me and I would be prompted to change. Maybe not immediately, maybe there'd be an argument and doors would be slammed and sofas spent the night on, but when you calm down and it all percolates down, you want to be that much better, for them(!), so you change.\n\nIn summary, we all are in a constant state of flux, of changing from one day to the next due to the experiences we have. But a loving relationship provides you with a mirror, to see who you are in others eyes and where you need to improve. And because you love that person and trust their judgement, you accept those criticisms and act accordingly. And it can only work well if it's mutual.\n\nJust to complete the story of the girl - we split up! :( She was going on from uni to work a year in France and 2 or possibly 3 years in Japan, we agreed between us that it would be heart-breakingly frustrating to keep the relationship going with such little time together to work on it. We both spent the next few months after separating feeling like the bottom had dropped out of our respective worlds, but slowly and surely we healed apart.\n\nThe happy ending: I now enjoy a relationship with her as perhaps my all time best friend - a friend for life. It still matters just as much what she thinks of me and I still find myself tweaking the engine according to her tuning specs. We are no longer an item or 'in love' with each other but we certainly do love each other deeply and trust and respect one-anothers opinions.\n\nI am very happy with that.
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she may be afraid that both of you will stop loving her because she's basking in the glow of all the attention she has gotten from the both of you. ya know, the losing-it-all feeling kinda sucks.