Been seeing a guy for about 3 week. Now Im getting back with my boyfriend that I have a 4 yr old with and have been with for 9 yrs. So how do I let him down easy?
202063
well....if u've been goin wit him 4 3weeks then just break it with him......tell him that u can't c him nemore....u just wanna be friends.....if he doesn't kno about ur 4yr. old tell him that u want ur ex-boy friend back because he's the father and u think ur child should be able to kno his/her own father and get 2 c him.....i kno this because my mom and dad split when i was lil and i never knew wat my real father was like because i stayed wit my mom all the time.....so i hope i helped u out....best of luck
200676
Just be straight with him.I've been in a similar situation before and my b/f was just happy that I was honest with him.He didn't get mad about the lie at all.Honesty is the best policy,no matter the consequences!
451831
Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
191121
Maybe you can bring it up somehow, like remember when...? and then let him know you are interested again, if he is.  Sometimes it's hard to return to that relationship, as he may have gotten used to you as a friend.  I remember a guy I dated broke up with me because I wasn't serious enough and then he wanted me back later, but I had lost interest.  Be prepared for something like that, but open the door anyway.  You don't really have anything to lose but a little pride.  Good luck!
381662
O.K... i know most people will come with detailed plans and settings and strategies, but i like to keep things simple. You could just go over to him and start of like: hey -his name- we have to talk, this relationship... just doesnt work out.. im really sorry your a great guy and im sorry if this breaks your heart but this cant go on." and than walk of, not briskly but slowly with droopin shoulders and a sad look; which will probably be natural 2 you. if he follows just run of crying or say that you dont want to talk or improvise...\nRick
209589
learn fro this experience\n\nBe true to your self\n\n\nBrake it off with your boyfriend. \nStart anew Everyone deserves to be treated with honesty, you have broken respect  for your relationship.
606445
Just because the "L" word came out doesn't really mean anything Bad. Like you said you guys have known each other for awhile already!\nAnd telling him that you haven't felt that way in long time... \nWell, that's like telling him that you are not sure if you are ready for that step in your relationship with him... But, this could be a good thing! If he really loves you ... you will know! \nHe will still show interest in you and you and him can get closer in your relationship. Just don't rush it..  I have been married three times and all of them we're great at first! Ya' know? Just can't wait to be with them... all you think about... and that's great!\nAll I'm saying is to take your time if you want it to last... \nPay attention to the bad sides he may have and see if you really want to spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH THIS PERSON...\n\nI don't think you really pushed... if he loves you he will stick around.    If you think you pushed... just go talk to him.\n"What should you do now?"  \n(1)Take your time...\n(2)Let the love grow...\n(3)Spend time together and talk<<< \ncommunication must be open. \nSharing your feelings with the one you love is very important!\nIf you are serious about this guy then try these steps and God Bless...\n later.
469795
You need to be up front and clear. Don't worry about his feeling more than your own. You don't have to tell him about your past but you can ry telling him I am not ready to take the relationship any further yet. I want to go slowly. Don't accept any dates at his house or any invitations over to his house. Don't allow him at our house. Keep all contact in public-- that way there won't be any possible ways for him to try and convince you or make you feel guilty. However, if he is not listening to you you have to ask if you even want to be with hi,\nDo not feel obligated to him. If he is a nice and normal guy who genuinely likes you he would not want you doing things because you felt obligated to,
159590
You were with him too soon.\nYou will have to find something new and interesting to talk about. \nMaybe take up a hobby. \nTry something new together but if it hasn't been a long realtionship and there is trouble , this relationship probably won't last very long. Some guys like the ideal of a girlfriend but not the actual commitment and being tyed down aspect of having one.\nBut honey.... learn now for this will happen with every guy you ever date or are with......If they think you have you, marry you what ever....they no longer feel they have to try as hard and just plain don't!! \nIf you keep guys interested and on thier toes worrying they may lose you ,well then they will attepmt to try a little harder.
115101
Slip..., I sure love your avatar!! lol...\n\n Just tell him, you want him too! But you want to take it kind of slow this time. So things don't end up like before!\n\nPlus, it'll serve him right for dumping you the first time!\n\nGood Luck and Best Wishes, Girl.
595392
Like Nike says,  just do it.   There is no easy way to "let him down".   If you are really being truthful  (and I doubt that you are) about not wanting a bf right now,  just tell him that.  Give him the old line about "just being friends",  the kiss of death.  He may surprise you by saying something like he doesnt want a gf right now either.   Just because he's shy doesn't mean he's made of glass.  He is probably a lot tougher than you think.
349900
We all know that breaking it off with someone is never easy. It sucks, to be more precise, and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.\n\nYou're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do? Do not return that call. \n\nAnd what if you picked up the phone? What then?  Then, lie. Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.\n\nAnother possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity is the good ol' distancing technique. You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.\n\nYou really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do?   Again, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose. \n\nAnother option: Honesty, within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry - or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates.\n\nAs much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do. Don't be too specific if it's for reasons no human should ever hear: you smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these. Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry. And do not try to be friends right away. \n\nIt is really tough to swallow "can we just be friends?" If you two are suitable as friends then let that relationship take it's proper course, and do not initiate it while you're dumping him as a boyfriend.\n\nObviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances. \n\nJust remember: Be gentle, lying can be good, and specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific. And did I mention lying? \nGood Luck>r
237809
If you don't want to hurt the guy, than don't tell him why you don't want to get back together with him. Just tell him that you don't want to and leave it at that. if you have been on and off with the guy, it is probably best for you both that you leave it at the off position sort of speaking. You probably both realize that something just isn't right between yourselves already. It also serves you both in the wrong way, you both appear to use each other as a fall back and that's not good for either of you.
262762
hello first of all you need to stop dating these Babbie's "momma 's  boy" u did the right thing by kicking him out cause u need some one to lift u up not but u down a man suppose to carry 50%of the relationship and the 50%it left you don't take him back unless he show u that he can keep a job and keep for more than 6weeks and if he do so then he showing u that he is trying to be more responsible good luck.
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
268875
You should tell him the truth, that you are not ready for this long term relationship, and that you think he would be happier with someone else. It is just too much for you at this point and you should tell him that, and how he can't pressure you in to anything you don't want to do. Tell him you care about him deeply but that you dont feel the same way as him. He might say that if you cared for him that you wouldn't do this, but it is because you care and you want him to be happy. Stand your ground and don't give in to guilt.
478978
just talk to your recent boyfriend.. in a nice way.. then go out with a new guy!!