I am totally in love with the best guy in the world, theres just one problem, he lives in Maine and I live in SC. We both want this to work, i mean come on we have had 4 yrs of conversation to seal the deal, but i have 2 kids and are very close to my family and freinds and he has 1 child and he is also close to his freinds and family. I am totally mixed up on what to do and any great advice would be so appreciated.  He is the love of my life.
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you have to revaluate your relationship with this person. If you are truly in love ….well it would be a horrible mistake to leave. However, are you sure it is not just because you want this to work which is making you feel as if you are in love?? Talk to your family about this problem and ask their advice (since they know you better then me). Work it through with this guy and see if there is a compromise. Make sure the sacrifice is not only one sided otherwise it might haunt the relationship in the future. Make sure you know this guy and understand who he truly is because people can seem different over the net or phone??. Think and ask for guidance from those closest to you. And most of all discuss it with all the people which will be affected.
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you are right it will not last if you stay in fla and he goes to az. so one of you has to move where the other is moving or break up. so one of you has to make the big decision as to what to do. right?\ngood luck and god bless and happy holidays.
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i'm now engaged to the most wonderful guy in the world after starting as online friends who eventually fell for each other. he came to visit me after his stint in iraq and after staying with me for about 3 weeks, he proposed. love happens. in the weirdest of circumstances. as long as you're careful, i still think hooking up with someone online is a lot better than meeting someone at a bar. the distance took it's toll and we separated several times. But prayers do work. If you pray enough and both of you are as committed to the relationship, Miracles DO happen. Good luck to you!
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Well my best-friend in the whole world is currently in a long distance relationship only her boyfriend lives in Mi and she lives in AZ. They've been together almost a year and never met and their still totally in love. All i can say to help is if you really love her and want to be with her then the wait is nothing, just think after you do finally get to see and be with her nothing else will matter. You have the rest of your life to spend with someone and if shes the one then the rest of your life doesn't seem like that long. I hope this helped in some way if not I'm sorry i was just rambling on. But i do have to say if you really cant wait any longer to see and be with her surprise her one day she'll love it. Just keep doing whatever it is your doing right now shes obviously happy and I'm sure she cant wait to see you either.I think that your relationship will work and Good Luck. Love is hard to find so don't give up..
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It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
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Marraige is pretty special... wouldnt you like to start a new life with someone that IS on all accounts on the up and up with you? Never any doubts about the reasons why he's proposed through  a marraige seems to me to be the best route to make it work. A little coincidental the timing on his license dont you think? .. Take it slow, Curious. Ask this man to come into your marraige clean and legally and it will mean that much more to u.
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I am dating someone that lives in SC long way... from VA when you really love the person... but back to you... I believe you should ask this person... Because if you keep in bundled up inside it's just going to eat you up... and if you ask then at least you'd know... And if you truely love them then you should believe them.
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Go with your heart. I am in a very similiar situation but we are madly in love with one another. If you are questioning whether you should move, you are not yet ready to do so.\n\nYou will know when the time is right.
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First of all, do you know for sure that he is moving...that is the first question that needs to be answered. Secondly, a long distance relationship like the one you may be facing can work out. If you truly care for him as you say oyu do, and he waited for you for as long as you say then you both love eachother very much. You will see eachother occasionally, you will always chat on the phone...i've even heard that long distance relationships can make the couple stronger. But in order of the relationship to work there needs to be trust. You child is almost 16? I know someone who is 16 years old and her parents are in a similar situation as yours. THey are moving, and even though all her friends are where she lives now, she knows that inthe end it will be for the best. If you really want to be with him though, you can marry this guy that you love so much and who loves you, and have your child finish school where she is now and have her live with a friend, close relative, or something like that. That way you both will be happy. In the end its your decision. But the last piece of advice i will give is to just stop for a moment, take deep breath, close your eyes, and just listen to your heart.................\n................................................\nWhat's it telling you?\nJust follow your instinct, your heart, talk with your child about what you are worried about, what you would like to do, if you want to further your relationship with this guy. Talk with your child. But remember that what your child thinks IS important, but so is your heart and your feelings. Ask this man to come over to your house so you and your son could all have a talk about how you want to further your relationship and what you all agree with happening. \n\nIn short, follow your heart...most of the time, it knows which path you should take. Just trust the ones you love, and most importantly, trust yourself! Everything will work out in the end, i know it will. but until then, good luck! :)
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I would have to say stay with him, and try to make things work. Of course, if you loved him like you say you do, you wouldn't have to ask this question. You know he won't be gone forever. He'll be back. True love knows no boundaries. No distance should keep you from staying with him. Especially since the move is only temporary.
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I know for a fact that parenting is not an easy task, maybe he's not ready after all. You said it already "his jobless and irresponsible." In that case i'm not so sure if he could be a good figure to your kid but please don't spare the love ur child needed ok. But honestly, I can't comment on the part that you being in love w/ him, there's no explanation it's all up to you. And everyone is stupid about love so ur not just the only one. LOL!  \n\nKeep smiling ... enjoy! \nI hope you get to know your soulmate!
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Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
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Distance can suck royally, but if you two made it work before you can make it work again... I understand that after being together you don't want to part, but if he has to move back then he has to and I don't think you should let distance get in the way of your heart. It's only another year then you're done and free to move over to Ohio with him.
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I'm in the middle. You do have to think about your future and your goals. But then he is your love. If you say that you know your gonna end up with each other, then don't worry, things will work out at the end for both of you. Plus, if  you say he loves you then he'll want you to be happy no matter what decision you choose.
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some people have some really dumb answers.....sorry about that. I hate to say this but you already know what you are going to do. I only hope you have the support around you that you need. You as the mother of your childern have them to consider first and formost. If you love this guy but it is going to harm the childern, get out. don't look back. Pick yourself up by the boot straps and bite the hard one and make it on your own, (getting help from friends and famley is still making it on your own terms) If bf is going to change he can do it someplace else and demostrate his sincearity with out draging you down with him along with all his other baggage. Make a plan, sit down and do some real sole searching and make a long term plan for yourself and your childern. Once you have a goal it is easy to make some good move towards that goal and away from the emotional roller coster you have been on. Look at yourself and see the honest value you are. then look at your bf and hold this measure to the picture. Every relaytionship is built of certain durable materials. the first of these is truthfulness.If you cannot look into his eyes and speak out always the truthful thought and feeling with the simplicity of a little child, there can be no real love between you. Trust is the first requisite for making a friend: Faithfulness is the first requisite for keeping a friend. and trust and faithfulness cannot endure without truthfulness. Love can exisit with out friedship but friendship cannot exist with out respect. Look, look deep within and you shall find your answers.....
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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I know how you feel! I had the same decision to make. I moved from NYC to OH (500 miles)about 2 years ago, so my son could be closer to his father (He is my ex husband).  Well his father decided to go back to NY and left his son and me here in OH.  I knew my ex for 20 years and we were good friends.  Now I am stuck out here with no family or longtime friends.  But I do have a wonderful career and I am surviving with the aid of one awsome friend.  He has been the one to help with the adjustment of a totally different life.  All I am saying is think before you move.  A month isn't long enough to decide if you should move 2000 miles away. Especially if you just got together.  It takes time and alot of trust to move far away from everything you know to start a life with someone.  You need to know if she is going to be your leaning post when you need it.  A month isn't long enough.  And if it doesn't work then you have to be prepared to be on your own in an unfamiliar place. I wish you luck and hope everything turns out great.  PS - I don't regret anything but just look at every aspect.