My 14 yr old daughter has big issues and I am very concerned. For the past several years she has had problems with wetting her pants. We went to a Dr. and had a lot of tests ran, & never found anything. More recently she has been putting her hands down her pants. I find the most disgusting things in her panties. She fights with me to take a shower and wears the same underwear for days. When she does shower she dont wash her hair and I always have to make her get back in. She don't flush when she goes #2 and sometimes there is no tp in the toilet. She smells and all the kids at school make fun of her. The rest of us are very clean and we feel so dirty because we find feces all over the place and it smells so bad. She lies constantly. She recently started smoking behind my back, has a fasination w/pot and was seen w/a group of friends huffing. She has an appt on May 1st w/a psychiatrist. I dont know if I can wait that long. I am so exhausted and I just want peace in my home.
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Okay my answer isn't pretty have you consider sexual abuse?\nhere are some signs.Some signs of sexual abuse.\nShe amy feel that that part of her body is bad and dirty.\n you should consult a professional before approaching her to find out if this could be the case if they believe it is possible then learn how to approach her in the healthiest way.This is your child keep seeking answers..\nGL\nSome signs of sexual abuse:\nInappropriate interest in or knowledge of sexual acts \nSeductiveness \nAvoidance of things related to sexuality, or rejection of own genitals or bodies \nNightmares and bed wetting \nDrastic changes in appetite \nOvercompliance or excessive aggression \nFear of a particular person or family member \nWithdrawal, secretiveness, or depression \nSuicidal behavior \nEating disorders \nSelf-injury \nSometimes there are no obvious physical signs of sexual abuse, and a physician must examine the child to confirm the abuse.\n\nMother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.  ~Marion C. Garretty
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At your age no matter how you try to tell her it will probably be embarrassing.  There is no reason it should be all of us women go through it.  I never told my mom because we never talked about stuff like that either.  My daughter is 9 and I have already talked to her about periods and some sex stuff.  I want nothing more than for my daughter to be able to come to me for any thing!  Your mom probably feels the same way.  She has been through it to and she probably has some good advice.  \n\nIf you think you may start soon I would try to carry a tampon or pad whichever you prefer with you at all times just in case.  That way you will be prepared.\n\nOh, by the way, try using the spell checker!  I got what you were saying but it may help in the future.
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Take her to a doctor.  It's possible that she has an infection of some sort.  It's also possible that she's acting out because of some sort of trauma (stress, abuse, being abandoned by her parents).  This isn't normal behavior for a healthy 9-yr-old.\n\nGood luck!
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Patience and dilagence on your part make sure you get him up to go before you go to bed if you go to bed fairly early set your alarm to get up around 1 am amnd have him get up to go he will get it eventually as long as his peditrician has found no other reason for this My daughter has a small bladder and this helped her tremendosly within 2 weeks we no longer had wet beds
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My friend's son is a quad r/t a car accident. He has a low blood pressure all the time but I never heard of him complain of any head itching. He had a lot of bladder problems, like frequent infections, then they clipped the urinary spincter so he can wear a condom catheter at all times, instead of an indwelling urinary catheter. Urine constantly leaks into the condom cath.  He still has infections but not as many. The problem with them doing this is that if he ever was able to have a sex life, which he still has the desire to do, then it is a problem with urine constantly leaking out. He was only 16 when this accident happened, now he's 25, and he had never experienced sex.  He can't even cough and remove secretions on his own whenever he gets a cold .Really it's so sad & he amazes me with his positive attitude. He is able to do a little with his hands and move his arms, but not able to perform fine motor movements. He can use a special fork to feed himself, and can use a device placed on his hand to type on the computer. He dials the phone with his tongue and answers it the same way, with a special device on the phone that helps him hook it on his hand. He went to college and got a degree in computer programming a couple of years ago but hasn't been able to get employment yet. Another thing I hear him complain about is muscle spasms for which he takes medications These can occur if he changes position, exposed to temperature changes & sometimes for no reason. He takes medication for that and something to prevent bladder/kidney infections. That's all the meds that I know of that he takes. I hope this info helps. These are things I saw first hand and things he talked to me about.
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honestly douching is probably making it worse\ntell her to stop douching fist and formost\nmy doctor explained it to me this way\n"down there" is like a self cleaning oven\nour bodies make a bacteria to clean and fight any bad bacterias that cause yeast infections and all of that\ndischarge is actually quite normal\nas most of us know\ni would tell her for a week dont wash it with soap first\nall you need to clean down there is a washcloth and warm water\nno soap \nor "intamate cleanser"\nall of those things are no good\nnothing\nno powder or anyhting\nand even though shes discharging alot dont use a pad or pantyliner, it only holds the moisture and bad bacterias in there\ntell her not to do anything to it...just go to the bathroom and wipe it if it gets too excessive\nand it will probably be uncomfortable, but thats the best thing to do\nand if it doesnt clear up in a week, tell her to see a doc it could be bacterial vaginitis...which is no big deal\ngross but not serious,\njust stress the importance of not using anythng down there\nnot even fds\nhope that helps...sorry its so long
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First - She has to take medicine as per doctor's advice\nsecond  - she should maintain personal hygine\n\nit is kind of infection may be due to undergarment not properly washed or poluted water. But in either case she should get herself checked by doctor.
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I'm twelve, and I have some advice for ya.\n\n1. GET A GRIP. Periods are a pain in the butt. A few people have just gotten theirs in my 6th grade class, and they hate wearing pads all the time. And if you don't have discharge, you don't have anything to worry about. Stop worrying, because you don't want to have to wear embarrassing "period pants" to school. [That's the underwear you wear so your regular underwear doesn't get screwed up because of blood.]\n\n2. TALK TO YOUR MOM. LIKE NOW. If you're worrying about puberty and crud like that, talk to your mom. She knows best. And if you can't talk to her, talk to a school nurse, guidance counselor, or teacher.\n\n3. WEAR A BRA. If you are embarrassed to wear a training bra, wear a sports bra. They are just like tank tops and give you support, but aren't embarrassing like a regular bra. And if you want to wear a training bra, don't worry about changing... Either change in a bathroom stall, or change with your friends and stop worrying about them seeing. Because chances are, they wear training bras, too.\n\n4. DON'T BITE YOUR NAILS! They will look crappy, and if you bite them too much, they'll bleed. I know because I used to bite my nails. Here's a tip to stop biting them: dip them in vinegar or nail polish remover every morning before school. The taste is bad and will sting the open cuts, which is good. You can play with a small toy, like a ball or a Slinky, to distract you [at home!]. Or you can get a manicure that looks really good. Wouldn't want to ruin your nails!\n\n5. IF YOU NEED MORE HELP... You can email me! I'm, like, two years older than you, and I'm in 6th [like I said.] I just stopped worrying about all those things you are worrying about, so I can help ya, if ya want. Email me at frootloop99@sbcglobal.net.
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As far as the medicine goes, I would just let her drink a lot of juice, that usually loosens the stools.  Praise her for going potty in the toilet.  Make up a chart with a pic of a potty with like 5 boxes next to it.  When ever she goes potty in the toilet let her put a sticker in 1 of the boxes.  And when she gets all 5 boxes filled, let her pick out a prize.  You can buy dollar store prizes and put them in a box so she can see what she is 'working' for, or you can take her to the park or get icecream.  Whenever she doesn't use the toilet, put an 'x' thru 1 of her stickers and remind her what a big girl she will be when she goes potty and let her know when ever she gets a sticker she only needs __ more to get a prize!!  That should keep her motivated and focus on the positive outcome of being a 'big' girl.
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This is a difficult one - especially for your daughter. I don't exactly have the answer or an answer, but I will say we are in similar boats.  My 14-year old son has had epilepsy since he was 8.  All of a sudden he was having seizures.  He didn't really seem to have a problem dealing with the illness until he hit middle school, when the true peer-pressures, and reputation development comes into play.  Now that he's in his 1st year of high school, he's showing the embarrassment of having this disease.  He has wanted to play basketball since forever, and when time came to try out for the team, he just didn't. He said he changed his mind.  He doesn't want me to wear his medical id bracelet, nothing relating to his illness.  All of it stems from his reputation and people not thinking differently about him.  What he and his dad are doing now is having him talk to his doctor and others he may feel comfortable talking to let him understand that he has options and doesn't have to be afraid or ashamed that he has epileptic seizures and as his doctor said, he may grow out of them.  But what I think is we need to find ways to get this across to our kids and let them know that their illnesses don't control who they are; they control who they are and what they can do in life.  And it still can be the best!  I can say that b/c I'm a cancer survivor, I know how a illness can cripple you mentally!  So I keep both our children in prayer and we'll come through! Best wishes worried mom!
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I think you should see a doctor.  There are medical conditions (sometimes serious ones) that can cause a person to have horrible body odor.  Don't take the chance of missing something, take him to see a doctor.  I'm sure he is probably very self conscious about it and wants to get to the bottom of the problem just as much as you do.  Kids can be cruel and I would hate for him to be teased for this in school.
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Take your daughter to see another doctor.  \nListen to your instincts and keep looking for answers until you feel satisfied you know what is going on, or that nothing is wrong.  Moms know.  Don't give up!
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I know it's horribly embarrassing, but she really should see a doctor. Incontinence (in varying degrees) is VERY common. There are different kinds and different causes. Many are treatable. Some are indicators of other, more serious problems. Check out the website below for more complete information. And tell her she's not alone.
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I kind of went through the same thing when I was little.  Every day I would take my temperature about 3 times before school because I was so afraid to go if someone was to throw up.  Last year, I was so afraid to get skin cancer that I would constantly check myself for any symptoms, but I was too afraid to go to a dermatologist.  They were basically stemming from  a form of paranoia, and that might be what your daughter has.  Its just an idea, though.  Otherwise, maybe you should take her to a pediatrician instead of a hospital, since those are used more for emergencies.  I think she's at an age when shes realizing the importance of her health and safety .. plus, her body is going through a lot of changes, and she might not know what is healthy and what is not.
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I suggest your daughter see a skin specialist or dermatologist. Her problem will be properly analyzed. A skin hygiene program suiting your daughters condition will be prescribed along with any necessary medication. Over the counter medications are expensive and my not be what she needs. See an expert, you obviously love your daughter and this is your best option.
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I would say you should just be honest with her and voice your concerns. Ask her outright is she's having a problem. You're married to her and honesty is probably your best route. Just let her know that you want to help her and you care about her... Otherwise, if you don't mind risking getting caught and having a very angry wife if she finds out, you could buy a drug test. They sell them online. I suppose you could trick your wife into giving a urine sample somehow... maybe tell her you want to try something new in your sex life? Or just stick a bowl or something in the toilet and hope she doesn't see it? Maybe if you get in good with her doctor you could ask him to give her a drug test without telling her?
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you should have been more compassionate. Your daughter's feelings are more important than your shopping. Come on. I think any decent mother would have taken her to either get a new pair of pants right away or tried to clean up the stain, and if not then went home. And you should not have made fun of her, in such an embarrassing moment. You oughta be ashamed. I would apologize to her.