Anyone give me some tips on a way to confront my parents.  I want to tell them, and she has been asking me to tell them for a while.  I dont see why, but it may help them understand why i go to her house and other things.
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Since you hang out at her house so much they already know. If they have any questions they will ask you. You can always just say I am hanging out with ________. We're sort of going together. That is the truth.
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I have similer problems. Me and my girflriend love eachother but her mom doesnt want us to go out. Right now her mom doesnt even know that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I can only call her about once every week. What we decided to do was be boyfriend and girlfriend but start going on actual dates when we are 16 so that we can drive ourselves. Just ask your dad if he can come over or soemthing and see if that works
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Hmm. I'm in a similar situation, however I'm not legally allowed to move out for a few more months, or at least not without going to court, which I'd prefer not to do. I simply (a) avoid them as much as possible. I go out and do fun things, and then both sides are happy--or at least not fighting--and (b) if something comes up, I take the easist route out. I'll defend myself for a little while, but right before it gets ugly, I let them think they're right. Now, never ADMIT that they're right, but just kinda pretend that you do. This will end the argument much sooner, because usually all people want is to know they're right. Even if you think this is cowardly, it shows you're actually much stronger and more mature than your parents. However, this can build up a lot of aggression, so remember to do something that will help take it out, like going to the gym or something. I clean and rearrange the furniture in my room. It helps, but I'm weird. *lol* But yea, best of luck!
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tell her you need a little space.\nor perhaps that you moved to canada.\n\nbut i just try to avoid them.\nlike if i'm on the phone with them and i don't want to talk very long, i tell my mom to yell at me to get off the phone.\nthen act all bummed that i have to get off the phone with them.\nalso, if they want me to go somewhere with them or do something, i tell them my mom said that i can't.  and pretend to be mad at her.\n\ntrust me, it works.
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Ok, couple questions here...HOW do they know how you drive?  WHY are you caring for their granddaughter?  HOW do they know what condition the apartment was in? WHOSE apartment was it?  WHY does your friend tell you what they say?  WHY do you care what these evil people think?  Sometimes where there is smoke there is fire...ARE u doing something to piss them off?  Do Not confront them.  This could lead to a physical altercation.  YOU cannot control other people.  Just get over them.  Tell your friend not to report any thing else they say to you.  Perhaps they are upset she is living with you and not them.  My ex's mom was like this.  I was never good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, good enuff mother, etc.  eventually i just figured it out.  It's her.  It's not me.  She's a hater and she was living rent free inside my head.  Every second I spent thinking about what she said or did that hurt me was a second I GAVE her that I could never get back...well, those seconds added up...it became YEARS...do not make this same mistake.  Good Luck
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I'm very sorry to say, but telling her will only make her want it more.  Unfortunately, she needs to learn for herself.  I know first hand from experience (as the child, not a parent) that my mother telling me I didn't need a boyfriend and not to have one made me just sneak around and do even more stupid things than I think if she had just been  less demanding and more open about it (of course this is all retrospect and after I hit those bumps in the road that taught me to start missing potholes, so to speak).  Best of luck to you  and your family.
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if you got to ask, you don't need to know yet.if you are that curious ask the folks that love you the most....YOUR PARENTS,please don't push the issue online.there really are some scary people out here that only seek to give you mis-information.
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If your parents don't know tell them. I am not sure how old you are but I am guessing still a child. Don't try to take on all the responsibility. Tell your parents or an adult you trust. Get their advice. I would definitely tell her mother though. Good Luck with this.
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Well let me ask you, do you still live at home??? If so it IS their rules still. Sure you may be 18 now but like I would tell my children, "As long as you live in my house, it's MY rules". now as far as being able to do what you want and you not thinking that they let you do a lot let me say this to you, Try bringing this up at dinner, explain to them that you feel like they aren't giving you enough "distance" to do some of the things you would like to do. And ask them if they will slowly give you a chance to prove to them that you are responsible and you CAN make your own decisions on things. And explain to them that if you do anything to lose their trust then you will go back to how the situation is right now... Hope this has helped out some... let me know what happens ok... take care!!!
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Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
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Why dont you talk to her parents, they might appreciate the honesty.\n\nThen they can tell her that they dont want her to talking to older men.
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You need to talk about it & not keep it to yourself. It's been 7 years and it's still bothering you. Your parents might feel that you need counseling. Or if you're really close to your mom maybe just talking to her will help.
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Your parents are afraid her influences will rub off on you. They're afraid you will be "just like Becca". They don't want you to be as obsessed (and wreckless) about having sex with boys like Becca. In short...they don't want to have to carpool you two to the family planning center or, even worse, the maternity ward. If you have a good head on your shoulders and you see Becca's "obsession" as something not for you, then tell your parents. Reassure them that you're not taking her tips are cues and that you can think for yourself. Good luck.
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Try telling your mom that, as you get older, your privacy is becoming more and more important.  Tell her that you really need them to knock because you're not comfortable with them walking in while you're not dressed.  She will probably remember what that was like and then she can talk to your dad.
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Well Kelly, you should explain yourself to your mom, specially the fact that you were raising your voice only to get her attention. Being a parent of two girls, I must ask yourself if that was just the icing on the cake of a recent attitude problem.\n\nHmmm, grounded with all your amenities? Doesn't sound too bad to me.  Ask my daughter what grounding means here. But, I seriously think you should talk to your mom. We are not all that mean, just tough sometimes.  Good luck.
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Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
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Sometimes the apple cart is not worth spilling.  There must be a reason that your parents have kept this quiet and you should not open any wounds or cause any embarassment for them about this.  I am sure that they have discussed this subject and this is how they decided to handle it and for whatever the reason that it has come to your attention it now becomes your duty to keep up the secret from your end.  As silly as it seems some people can have a very hard time dealing with somethings about the past if they want you in on the secret they will let you know eventually.  Then it can be discussed on their terms and not on yours.