My life is boring.  I have done everything I can think of to keep occupied, but I have a hard time getting anything done.  I am not clinically depressed, but I am situationally depressed because I have become infatuated with a wonderful guy who appears to like me a lot, but for the last four months has made no move in asking me out.  Everyday my life is obsessed with thinking about him. We are friends and share a lot of common interests and he does call me occaisionally, but here I sit alone and more depressed.  At the same time, each time we talk I become more and more angry and am turning into a wacko in front of his eyes because of my frustration.  I really need to tell him, but I am terrified.  I know I could handle the rejection, but I cannot handle the obsession I am going through,  I am driving my friends insane.  At the same time, my life is going great.  I am self employed and doing very well, I joined a gym and lost 45 lbs. and everyone things I look great, except I am alone
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If you can't get out of your depression, it may be time for therapy.  Maybe ask your doctor.  Your sadness will stop if you allow yourself to forget about that guy and start being happy with yourself.  Other guys will come along.
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Of course you are depressed. Don't be hard on yourself. Your boyfriend leaving you for one of your friends is a double betrayal. If she was really a friend, she would never have paid attention to him and she wouldn't go out with him out of loyalty to you. If they started being together behind your back, that's even worse. If you are suicidal, go to a therapist immediately!! Try to go out for walks instead of eat. Eating and sleeping too much will get you more depressed. I know it's hard, but you have to force yourself to get out. Exercise is the best way to start getting over the depression. Also, talk about the problem with a trusted friend or a therapist. It helps to talk and get feedback from others instead of going over and over it in your mind. You need new information in your head; like maybe it was for the best if it got two disloyal and self-centered people out of your life. Take very good care of yourself right now. You deserve it!
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you are in this world cause you are needed.  Someone needs to hold you, someone needs to see you smile, someone needs to hear your words, someone needs you to love them.  You need to look at everything that is beautiful in this world....if you are depressed because of a girl, let me tell you that if you are not with her it's for a reason, the person you are supposed to be with is waiting for you....when you find her you'll realize the waiting was worth it.  I've been in your shoes, and thank God I realized there is so much for me to do in this world that I haven't done....believe me, you should be living and enjoying every beautiful thing in life, there are lots of them! =)
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Your not crazy by a long shot. You seem that you may be scared of a commitment and that is why you seem to like guys who you will never know or have to make a decision to be with. Try finding out why you feel this way? Maybe a guy has done you wrong and it makes you leery of meeting someone who you might fall in love with>>>>>>>>
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you sound like a sweet person, and i have been where you are, i just told him i needed some space, that i had alot on my mind, nothing personal, but there are some things you need to work through. that seemed to work! oh yes tell him you really like him , but things are just going to fast. GOD BLESS and good luck:)
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That is soo me, I have the same problem, I have been hurt soooo many times that I can't even count on my hands how many times I have been heart broken. But i seem to go on, and now I really like this boy, and I afraid to ask him because of what his friends will say, so I'm just keeping it in, and its tearing me up inside, and I can't take it anymore. So, I have came to a conclusion that I'm never going to be w/him, and I'm just trying to forget about him, but I will always have that feeling, and that hope that he will realize that he likes me. Well, I say go w/your heart. \n\n                                 Good Luck!!!!!
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thats what happened to me  and i am learning to keep my self busy and not thinking about him and i think its working cuz now i don't think about him as much as i used to so my advise to you is to try to forget about him unless you know he will be back cus if he doesnt go back whats the point of liking someone who you know he won't be with you...so please dont waist your time and try to forget about him look for someone who will be there with you.good luck
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I'm going through the same thing. So you're not alone. It's awful....But you're extremely fortunate. My guy friend never came back!!!! He's been gone for a while now...(a month maybe?) and slowly, very slowly, I'm coming back to reality. So I guess all you need is some time. \nI believe that your heart is made up of people. So when someone leaves, the people are ripped out of your heart, leaving a huge gap. A painful gap. And the only way to heal it is to replace it with new people. So try to find someone new to fill in that empty space in your heart. I haven't, that's for sure. It's hard to find someone as special as those guys. \nWhenever memories of those guys come back, just shut it out. Replace those memories with bad ones. Try to forget them.\nOk, I know that's an awful thing to do, but at least it'll help you concentrate for another hour. \nI hope this helps, sister. Good luck. I wish you the best.\n\nP.S. Thanks for your Q. I finally found someone I can relate to.\n\nOooohh! Here's something to cheer you up:\nIn a world of cheerios, be a fruit loop.\nHaha, sorry, I'm really random. But this quote has helped me. It might do the same for you!
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Just ask him and be confident in yourself. Don't say you don't look good. Have faith in you because nobody else will. If he isn't interested its not the end of the world, trust me. I've been turned down myself and it didnt kill me. It might hurt for a while, but you'll move on. So cheer up and just be straight up with him about how you feel and see where his mind is.
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Hello there! I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down. People are so quick to say someone has depression. You say that you act like you are the happiest person on earth, but you aren't happy on the inside. You just have to believe that you do deserve happiness! I believe that you just have low self-esteem and self worth. 17 is a hard age! Believe me...looking back I felt the same way and wondered what the heck was wrong with myself. Just the pressures nowadays that are being put on young people is enough to make someone want to give up! I know to be happy is easier said than done sometimes, and it is a lot of work sometimes. Once you start believing in yourself it will get more simple. Life is too short not to have fun--experience life. I am not saying go out there and do foolish things, but enjoy the silly stuff. I am an adult and I still like to go to toy stores and play with the puppets! Because it makes me happy. I am not here to make anyone happy but myself. It sounds selfish, but before we can help others, we have to help ourselves. Just the fact that you asked the question on here shows that you are ready and willing to make a change for yourself. I have done a lot of "stupid" things in my life, but I have learned that loved ones are there for you no matter what you do. If people really love you, they are there for you no matter what! You can make little changes in your life. Use positive affirmation..when you start to feel those thoughts of hopelessness creep in--say to yourself that you are not listening anymore. If you are still feeling beyond hopelessness, there are many people you can go to to talk about it. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for some help and guidance. It is you standing up and saying you are sick of being that way and taking control of your life. I wish you luck and hope that I helped a little! Take care!
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I totally understand you,I also felt like that too.But,someone has to break the silence and stand up too their feelings.Life is too short to wait,I say go up to this guy and ask if he would like to go for a walk with you sometime.Good luck.
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That is life.  Whatever is stable and repetitive becomes boring.  Even eating lobster.  I have recently had a bout of boredom myself.  What I did was to read more (American Scientific) get your mind on some miraculous things outside your humdrum life.  Got a trampoline (jumping is a good time).  And started taking karate.  Relationships with other women (flirting type) can help move you through this.  If a person feels there are options, which there ALWAYS are I might add, you feel less trapped.  The more you believe is possible the better you will feel.  If sex is a problem try fantasizing and shifting into sixth during your lunch hour.
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It's called lust.  Probably one of the things that attracts you is that you feel you can't "get him".  Remember you can't always get what you want.  Try to think of the reason why you feel obsessed with him.  He's probably not all that.  It happens to everyone at least once.  Focus your attention on someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.
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This is actually pretty common. A lot of people do this. It's not so much you're self-destructive, you're afraid of not meeting expectations. You need to be more in touch with yourself, see yourself as more than you do right now. Once you get that self-confidence up, you'll see you really do deserve a guy who worships you and adores you :)
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I think they kinda wear you down so you do not have any self esteem/power to be yourself.  I would not go to counseling to help a realationship if only one person is interested. I would go to gain my dignity and respect for myself back. It is not fun having someone control you. That is not love. I have been there. You can not fix someone else. I am not going to go to a doctor and take medication to calm me down because someone else is upsetting me when they need the medication or help.  I will go to help myself. I would get strong and if he just does not listen or take interest in you I would leave. Life is too short to be unhappy.  No one should take your life away. Do not wish for change...just change the situation.
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this guy sounds hopeless... you should go out with someone who has more on their mind
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Wow, that's a complicated problem.  It's going to be hard to try to answer this because I can't see the details when I'm typing.  \n\nYou say that you've been alone for about a month, which is long for you, but that you feel good about it.  Considering that you've been in a lot of unhappy relationships, that's probably understandable.  You sound like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself to find "the one" before it's too late.  Then you take out this pressure, in turn, on your boyfriends.  I think in your concern to hurry up and find someone permanent, you're pushing yourself way too fast into relationships, and trying to stake a claim before you really know that you love them (otherwise, you wouldn't get over them in a couple of weeks...)\n\nHowever, knowing this about yourself isn't necesssarily going to help you change.  You could seek counselling, but that's expensive.  Here's what I would do, when I feel like I'm acting in ways that aren't in my best interest (and believe me, that's pretty often): \n\nFirst, take some more time off from relationships to get your head together.  You sound kind of panicky right now, which is not a good state to be in when you're starting to date somebody.  Try to balance yourself a little.\n\nWhen you are in a relationship next, and you want it to work out, you have to think *all* the time about the consequences of all your actions.  Being a good partner is work.  You can't just trust that you're going to act in a way that is good for you and the other person, you have to think about it.  Every morning, think to yourself, "How would I like this day to go?  Do I want to accomplish anything specific in my relationship?"  If you feel like talking about your partner about long term plans, etc., *stop* first and think:  "How is he going to react to this?  We've been dating for X number of weeks.  Is this an appropriate time to ask this question of him?"  \n\nAt the end of the day, think over what you and your partner have done that day, what conversations you have had.  Did anything upset either of you?  Can you do anything constructive to make it better?  Do you see yourself falling into your old patterns?\n\nI guess what I'm saying is, you can't always trust your instincts to work in your own best interests.  You have to put some control back into your mind.  This may not sound very fun, but it's often what relationships need most.\n\nTake your next relationship slowly.  *Think* about the moves you make before you make them.  Give yourself time to fall in love, without worrying for the moment about the future.  If you try too hard to grab it, it'll slip out of your hands.\n\nI don't know if any of this helps you, it's the advice I would (and have, at times) given myself, and it seems to help.  \n\nGood Luck