How would you deal with it? Especially when you found out that his textmate turned into his girlfriend. Would you accept his reason that it's just a fling?
209751
Find someone else who will deserve my love and affection. I won't accept any other relationship that he has whether it is a fling or a serious thing or a one-night thing!\n\nHow will I deal with it? Ditch him and find another.
399697
no but my mate sent me one insted of his girlfriend\nsomething along the lines of:\nwhen i get home im ginna rip your undies off and **** your ***** til u *** then then your gonna **** my ****,then im gonna **** u in all 3 ***** then *** all over your sexy ****\ni sent a text back saying not tonite i got a headache
624856
What happened that he's an "ex" and not a current boyfriend?\nDid you break it off or did he?\nDid the relationship end on a good note or did it end in a bad way?\nDid either of you cheat on the other?\nThere's not enough information to give you a reasonable answer.
25933
he was seeing her or cheating on you, hence how fast he moved into the relationship, she was waiting in the wing, dump the chump ( thnkz to the nik for that cute saying ), he's talking to you to keep his option option for a sex buddy ( so he can cheat on his new squeeze ), don't EVER talk top him no more, move on, make new friends ( male or female ) and leave him in your soon to be distant past.
285790
Sounds like he wants to date others. Can you handle that, or do you want to be exclusive?
911
Personally, I would say no.  He sounds like he does not know what he wants, or worse, like he was waiting to see what would happen with her before he moved on to you.  And you should never accept being someone's second choice.
370268
are you sure its going to be just a one nighter? \n\nWhat if you find out that he wasn't worth it.  \nWhat a waste of friendship.  \n\nTacky
207206
I think I'd move on or call him.  I hate these little dating games.  I flirted with a guy for over 2 months it was mutual, and I expressed my attraction and he never responded.  No call, no nothing.  So, if they don't call, screw them, and if they call 8 months later, screw them then, too!
672823
He's fishing around to see what you're doing with your life. It's none of his buisness, he made it clear he didn't want a relationship with you and who you see or hang out with is of no concern of his. Next time he texts you, tell him oh I have several b/f's...and leave it at that. If he texts again, ignore him.
560661
I'm kind of confused.  Her boyfriend has been away right?  She still loves him.  But since he's been gone, she found another guy right?  But the second guy has a another girlfriend???  Ummm....that's real simple.  Dump the second guy since he's obviously got two gals on the string...and go back to the first guy if she still loves HIM.  There's nothing to tell HIM.  Even if she can't make up her mind between the two of them, obviously guy #2 hasn't made up his mind which gal he wants so.....if she isn't his OBVIOUS choice she needn't waste any more of her time.  Why hurt the first guy when it isn't even necessary????
128337
I agree with loving_father.\nPut yourself in your friends shoes. How would you feel?\nI was in this situation once. My friends knew my GF was seeing someone else and didn't say anything. Needless to say, they are no longer my friends. Do the right thing.
165456
'he got caught up in some bullshit and ended up having sex with one of my friends................just read that back and see if it makes any sense!!!!!!\n\nNOBODY gets 'caught'up in something that makes them commit the ultimate no-no.  WIse up - people do things because they want to and they think that they can get away with it.  The reason he has called you again out of the blue is a slight mystery but trust me if he had realised what a mistake he'd made and wanted to get you back he would have done that 24 hours after the event.  He's just bored and is seeing how far he can go with you.  This whole episode is probably to hype his ego that he could get you back again no matter how badly he has behaved.\n\nDo yourself a favour and show him the door with a very large size 9 up his backside as he leaves.\n\nEveryone is worth more than this.  You have to toughen up and not let people rule your future.  If they bring you love and happiness let them in - if not get rid of them....for good!!!!!\n\nHard but true.\n\nGood Luck!!
367436
Friend - It depends on the reason for the break up.  Does he know it bothers you?  Have you discussed that he may still have feelings for her?  Not all break ups are the same or follow any rules.  GBU
68850
Well I'm sorry to say this but she shouldn't have trusted him this much. I know she was so crazy for him because he was her firest bf even though she had never met him in person. You are her real friend and I think it's true that she never had any bf before, but what about him? He could have just lied to her about whatever he said. Maybe she wasn't this guy's first gf. Maybe he was playing around with her online after all just for fun. Then she started to get serious, which probably made him upset, so he just changed his phone # and everything to get rid of her. \nI'm so sorry to say this but there's nothing you guys can do. He doesn't love her as she does. It's just gonna annoy him if you try hard to find his new phone # and contact him to tell how much she loves him and wants him back. \nSorry...but I believe she learned something from this experience.
421115
Well, I have been the rebound guy once.  She came right out and told me that I was just the "stepping stone"  and I was ok with that because I was in the same position.  But after a month or 2 she started drunk dialing me all the time and leaving me these psychotic messages on my machine professing her undying love for me.  One minute I'm the stepping stone the next I'm the knight in shining armor.  Personally I didn't want any part of that, and I don't think I will put myself in that position again!  I guess what I'm getting at is if you tell him he is the rebound guy keep it at that or just don't bring it up at all.
617613
okay he called someone else baby?okay i was seeing this guy we were on the phone this girl i guess she was in the background saying something to him i swear he said THANK YOU BABY,i could not believe it i aske him about it he said i call ever girl baby.i had the wearded feeling about it but i blew it off.guess what he was seeing other girld behind my back .please if he calls another girl baby or honey dump his butt
99230
seems fishy, like he's either hiding something or just refuses to openly communicate with her anymore in which case, if I were her, I'd ease on out of this relationship & move on with my life....a relationship without open communication is no relationship at all.