I love my boyfriend so much. But, after my school year is over, i have to move back home to Virginia. Right now we both live in Arizona. We have talked about getting married but that wont be for a few years. How can we still have a great relationship when we will be 2000 miles apart?
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I managed to keep a ralationship alive between Australia and uk via email, letters and phone calls, (\nOver the space of 3 months i spent the equivalent of $2000 US dollars on phone calls) .....I won't lie, it is Bl**dy hard work, bot worth it. I've now been very very happily married to that person for 2 years.\n\nYou have to be honest and open in any conversation, and you have to tell each other EVERYTHING!!!!! ( and I mean everything, bad things too!)\n\nIf it's right you'll know within weeks of being apart. If he's worth fighting and suffering for, give it everything.  \n\nI guess if you are just leaving school you are still in your teens, i'm in my mid 30's, there's a huge world out there to discover, live for now, enjoy yourself and follow your heart!\n\nGood Luck
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I've been long distance with my girlfriend of four years for the last two years. Nothing in my entire life has ever been more difficult than keeping our relationship together. It's like holding your breath for weeks and months at a time until you can see the other person again... it's like only being half a person, but I digress...\n\nWe have had alot of fun playing World of Warcraft together, you said you play online together, and an MMO is highly social and interactive, so you might give it a try.\n\nAlso, we'll try to watch the same TV program together and talk about it afterwards. Just like watching a movie "together", it can be nice, but it's never the real thing.\n\nHowever, really and truly, you need to accept that you are now living different lives. You need to find enjoyment in your daily life and realize that he is not going to be able to share in that. If your relationship is strong enough, this will be better for you in the long run. Try to set aside a little bit of close, "together" time each day, but try to live a normal life otherwise.\n\nIf your lines of communication are open, and if you can maintain a strong, honest relationship, you may just make it.\n\nGood luck!
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it depends on how both of you feel, and if you really want to make it work it will work. my bf and i have a more than 3 year relationship now, the first 8 months was together in college, the rest was spent in diff continents. i go home to vacation every year to see him. im sure how i feel about him and he says he's sure and i believe him though somethimes i get paranoid and i grill him with questions and sometimes he is patient sometimes he gets irritated. communication is very important. we try to talk everyday even if it's just to say hello. trust each other, if you don't trust each other there's no use having the long distance relationship. don't hold back each other in terms of friendships, your goals, etc. in my case if i'm excited happy sad angry ... he's the person i always want to "report" to. we're each other's "go-to" person even if it's just on the phone. i told him that in case someone new comes along i asked him to just tell me right away and i'm hoping if it ever happens he'll care enough and just be honest. long distance relationships are not easy but if you feel that it's what you want and your bf feels the same way then it will be worth the time and effort. i hope i've been some of help.
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Keep the communication lines open.  I know it's difficult maintaining a long distance relationship.  My first long distance relationship didn't work.  My second one did.  I married the second one and 3 years later, we're still very much in love and happy.  Don't forget to pray.  Put God first in your lives.  The rest will follow.  God Bless!  I hope your relationship will last forever.
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Long distance relationships CAN work!\nMy cousin's friend met her husband while she was touring in Europe and they emailed each other and spoke on the phone for another two years before they saw each other again.\n8 hours distance really isn't that much in comparison and I think perhaps he's just being a little pessimistic and lazy.\nSpeak to him, and if he's agreeable, set a time where you see each other maybe twice a month... find a place that is halfway between your houses and spend a nice weekend at a motel or something.  If it is true love it will work out eventually where you both are in the same place at the same time.\nGood luck! :)
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My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
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I know how you feel! I had the same decision to make. I moved from NYC to OH (500 miles)about 2 years ago, so my son could be closer to his father (He is my ex husband).  Well his father decided to go back to NY and left his son and me here in OH.  I knew my ex for 20 years and we were good friends.  Now I am stuck out here with no family or longtime friends.  But I do have a wonderful career and I am surviving with the aid of one awsome friend.  He has been the one to help with the adjustment of a totally different life.  All I am saying is think before you move.  A month isn't long enough to decide if you should move 2000 miles away. Especially if you just got together.  It takes time and alot of trust to move far away from everything you know to start a life with someone.  You need to know if she is going to be your leaning post when you need it.  A month isn't long enough.  And if it doesn't work then you have to be prepared to be on your own in an unfamiliar place. I wish you luck and hope everything turns out great.  PS - I don't regret anything but just look at every aspect.
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No long distance isn't easy, but it doesn't mean it won't work out for that reason. If he says he will visit every month then give him that chance. Let him get settled in first. My sister's bf lives in NY and we live in Mo. They have been together for a year.
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Chalk it up as a life experience, and move on. Long distant relationships seldom work, especially, it would seem to me, ones between two different countries. It is possible, I suppose, but brothers and sisters seldom hold hands in America, that would be more of a European thing. Really, you two live so far apart, how is it going to work out anyway?
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You should end the romantic aspect of the relationship and switch to being friends until you both graduate (or quit) college. Trying to maintain a long distance relationship is hard enough, but adding the stress of being in a new place, and trying to do well in college classes can make things worse. Since neither of you drive, arranging transportation could be expensive and difficult to schedule, when trying to visit.\n\nBoth of you will meet new friends and grow from your experiences in college and you won't be the same people you were in high school. You should stay friends and keep in touch, sharing the news of your new friends, classes, and experiences so that you don't become strangers. Once you both leave school you'll have a better idea of the kinds of carrers you want and what you want to do with your lives.\n\nYou may find that after college the two of you will be very different people with different goals from when you were together in high school. If you switch to being friends before going to college, you may not have a romatic relationship anymore, but you will still be friends and a part of each others lives. If you try for a long distance relationship going into college things will most likely end on a sour note over trust issues, at worst you'll end up hating each other, at best you'll just fade from eachother's lives as you go your seperate ways.\n\nI had a long distance relationship with a college girl and it was too much for her to keep up with her classes and try to maintain the relationship with regular emails. Things with us just faded and we haven't spoken since. I think if we just went to being friends, we'd still be talking.
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My boyfriend is coming back in July too from the Marines. I just try to occupy myself by working and going to school. Just try to talk to him on the phone and keep your relationship fresh. I usually just hang out with my friends and have a good time but also stay faithful to my boyfriend
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If you guys live a long distance from each other, and still are able to see each other a few times a month...it's worth it.  It looks like 1or2 of you are attempting to make this relationship work by seeing each other.  Doesn't that mean anything?  The key to a long distance relationship is trust, communication, trust, and communication.:-)  Don't let the distance fool you into believing that it won't work.  You two keep doing what you're doing...it will work.
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sometimes things just feel like they are so right dont they? as he is going away and he feels the same as you, maybe he is thinking the same as you, have you thought about moving with him? i believe things happen for a reason and if your meant to be together than you will be and nothing like a trip to the U.S will get in your way.\ngood luck x\n\nps you could always ask him!!!
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It does not work unless there is an end in sight.  If you don't have plans of when you can actually be *together*... it will not work.  It will become tiresome.  It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's the truth.  Also, if you're *starting out* long distance... that's even harder.  Trust me.
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Ricos Love,\nI have been married for five years now.  Prior to that, my wife and I endured a four year separation when we were both accepted to professional schools halfway across the country.  It wasn't easy, let me tell you.  But three or four things helped.  Even though it was a long haul, we knew it was temporary.  There has to be a plan to reunite.  Second, communication was key.  We stayed in contact on the telephone, and took every opportunity to meet.  There was a little college town in Kentucky that was exactly half way between our schools, and we arranged a mini-vacation a couple of weekends per year.  That made it possible for us to be together even though we had little time and couldn't afford plane tickets. Third - committment.   It takes hard work and dedication!  You (and your partner) need to go out of your way to feed and strengthen the relationship. You need to trust each other and be comfortable with each other.  Otherwise, the distance will just breed jealousy.  Finally, luck.  In any relationship, long distance or otherwise, you are taking a chance.  If you want to win the prize... you have to buy the ticket.\n\nGood luck!
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You may be in luck. Honestly, long distant relationships eventually NEVER work out. I would stick around for a while..but i wouldnt be like.." oh come get me,I'm yours!" type of thing. play hard to get. make him WISH he was with you instead of his so called girlfriend that lives farther away..and your only 1 mile. be his friend, talk to him, but dont stay on the couch by the phone, nad wait for him to call you. if he decides he wants to stay with his old g/f. so be it. you dont have to wait for him, when there are PLENTY of men out there. just go out there and find you another one! its all good! dont let one man take over your life. cause its not his, its yours. =]\n\n                     ~Ashley
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I know how that is...my boyfriend lives 9 hours away from me! \nThe most important thing is staying i contact, call each other as much as possible, say little cute things all the time, send each other things in the mail, little surprises to let each other know your thinking about them. I send my boyfriend cookies and letters all the time, the little things truely make all the difference.