School is re-evaluated him because he can not stay focused or organized. His doctor recommended some medication but the Dad still says no way.
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ADHD is a medical condition. Medication controls the SYMPTOMS of this disorder but it doesn't cure it. Some kids, like the one in my class with ADHD right now, actually do worse on the meds and have to be taken off. Then there are side effects. For other kids, medication has helped tremendously and worked well. The kind, dosage, and timing of the medication must be experimented and adjusted.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, medication SHOULD NOT be the only, or indeed the primary, means of intervention. You say he is not focused or organized. It is imperative that you find someone to help you teach your son skills and stratgies to help him cope with these challenges. You have the right as a parent to request special services for your son. That is, to ask under special education law or the American with Disabilities Act to have accomadations made for your son in the classroom.\n\nWhat kind of doctor diagnosed and prescribed medication? Hopefully you have the resources to take your son to a doctor who specializes in ADHD and related conditions. Other conditions mimic ADHD but do not respond to medication because they aren't the same medical disorder.\n\nYou may also desire to have your son tested for food allergens or sensitvities and monitor him for sleep disturbances. Also, increase the amount of physcial activity that he gets each day and limit the amount of computer games, video games, and television programs to less than 30 minutes a day. None of these things actually causes ADHD but in my opinion they may worsen the effects. \n\n\nTo sum up: it is not always necessary nor desirable to treat ADHD with medication though sometimes it is very useful. But medication should ALWAYS be paired with other interventions and therapy to work with the child.\n\nGood luck!
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maybe the voices in his head argue and won't allow him to do new things.  Watching tv and listening to radio, don't really involve to much thinking, maybe thats it. Have never heard of your disorder, but it sounds like you got it in check. Good luck
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Tell him his Dad that he is an idiot.\n\nHe needs to a diet specialist.
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Well he kinda does pay the bills and support your whole family and face it you wouldnt have those designer jeans on if he didnt drag his butt out of bed everymorning and go to work, i think your the spoiled kid in this situation, maybe you need to look at everything your dad does for you instead of everything you wish he would be. I bet he wishes he had a daughter that got better grades and didnt want to spend so much money on retarded things constantly but he got stuck with you..... sucks huh?
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Have to police or the courts order him to leave.  He need to learn to stand on his own two feet.  He might just need a wake up call.  Give him a bus pass for him to get around.  There should be a way for him to get his own grants and loans.  Tell him to either help around the house, get a job and get out.  I lnow this is a very hard thing to do as a parent but it is time for him to find his wings.  There are a lot of adults who get loans to goto school.  Tell him it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.
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Get proffesional help at once if ur dr wont help get another TELL him exactly what u just wrote and ask for a stronger drug, like xanax or maybe prozac
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The same type of thing happened to me my senior year.  I was an honor roll student with many AP classes.  I suffered from anxiety/depression problems which made it impossible for me to ever get to school on time.  My school's policy was that you were issued a detention every 3rd time you were marked late.  I had dozens of them.  Being late all the time was embarrassing and it added to the anxiety. I stayed home a lot to avoid more embarrassment and being "punished" for my lateness with even more detentions. \n\nOver the course of the year, I had accumulated over 30 absences (limit was 20) and many were unexcused.  No one had said anything to me about it until we were a few weeks away from graduation.  I was then told I would not be able to graduate and that if I wanted to, I needed to file some sort of appeal for a review board.  I threw a fit, threatened my guidance counselor that I would drop out (not recommended) and put in for the appeal.  The board accepted my appeal based on my good grades and the fact that I participated in many activities. I'm not saying that it's a solution, just that you should be able to appeal any decision that is made to hold you back or take away credit if it comes to that. You may not be as lucky as I was.  \n\nI would think that being able to provide a doctor's note should excuse some absences but that's usually only good for days that you have an actual doctor's appointment.  You may even want to look into getting some sort of letter from a doctor that explains the situation and what you're doing about it.  Also, see if you can set up a meeting with a guidance counselor involving your mom to try to work something out before it's too late.  The guidance counselor may know how to get around this if you have a medical/mental health problem that's keeping you from getting to school, especially if your grades are still good.  Do it as soon as possible.\n\nI don't know the story behind your nervousness problem but it sounds like you are either not taking any medication or else it's not working the way it should.  I'm not saying you have an anxiety disorder, just that it sounds like one.  This is a problem that may follow you for years if you don't do something about it soon.  I suggest you find professional help that works for you.  Breathing exercises are great IF THEY WORK and it sounds like this isn't really working well for you right now.  My mother did not want to believe that I needed anti-anxiety meds so I was never seen by a doctor.  The result was that I almost dropped out of high school, I did drop out of college and I've had a hard time keeping a steady job because of lateness or being "absent".  I am only seeking help now (I'm 28) and I wish I had been able to deal with this earlier because my life would have been a lot easier!
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Custody decisions are never final- if there is good reason for a change, the court will look at it and it sounds like, in this case, there is no question your dad would lose custody, parent privilege, as well maybe even visitation time.\nBesides that, make sure you talk to someone- because if you've already been suicidal, I am afraid you might follow your dad's patterns of drug abuse.  \nAlso, I disagree that you need to be there for your dad and that he doesn't know what he's doing.  Your dad needs to be there for _you_, not vice versa.  And, also, no matter how high a person is, they still have awareness- I have been messed up myself on drugs, so I know this.\nPlease talk to someone at your school, or call an anonymous 1-800 number for counseling. \nYou can also call CPS if it's that bad, although I know that could be difficult to do to your family.  But if no one's looking out for you, you have to do it yourself. \nGood luck.
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My daughter was on Adderall for years.  When she was in 1st grade she was found to be ADHD. When we got her on the correct medicine and dosage, she went to flunking to straight a's.  \n\nWhen she visited her dads house he would say the same thing.  He thought i was doing it to make it easier on me.  I offered for him to talk to her doctor and read her assessment.  He refused but just kept accusing me of giving her the meds because i was lazy.  Well, now she is 15 and the hyperactivity is gone.  We are now just dealing the the attention deficite part and he can finally see that what i did, was for her own good.  \n\nMaybe you just need to ask to talk to the doctor that diagnosed the boy.  Ask to see the diagnostic tests that were used and the results.  Also the schools do an evaluation if they are aware of a problem with the child.  The parents should get a copy of that.  I would ask for any documentation that is available and then work with the other parent to adjust the dosage or meds so that they work with the boy to help him get good grades in school.
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It is so great of you to be looking out for him. It sounds like medically diagnosable anxiety. There are many medications that may help him with this problem. A doctor can diagnose and prescribe medications for him. I know many people with this condition, and it can take some adjusting with the medication to get just the right fit, but in all cases, the medication made a huge difference in their life. Best wishes.
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She needs to see a physician for treatment for depression. She should also talk to her academic advisor about lessening the course load.
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report this teacher to the principal or a higher person in the district.  unless they are licensed to in the appropriate field, they have no grounds for making medication recommendations.  this is a serious situation.  but in some cases, some teachers really do know what they are talking about and have had so many students that the signs are obvious and they are just looking for the best interests in their students.  if you have concerns, get the kid tested and take it from there.
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I have dealt with this too. The best thing to do is for him to start back on his meds. But with someone with this condition you can not convince them. They have to decide for themselves and sometimes they do. You can try to talk to him when he is being nice if you think it is safe. But I know from experience their mood can change quickly. If he is not on his meds you should not be there. It can be dangerous. I know you care for him but you do not want something bad to happen. Find someone to live with until you have the money to move, a friend, a parent, someone.
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Concerning the teacher talk to her and tell her how her blatant disregard and disrespect for your plans bother you. Try to discuss with her how you two can come to a middle ground and an agreement about what to do with the children and activities for them. Concerning you dad you REALLY need to consult your family physician QUICKLY!!!
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Make sure to find out what it is.  In NH 1 out of 4 students are medicated and don't need it.  You say it is not ADHD, do you know what it is.  research more in to it.  worst come worst.  Take your kid for walks before school.  Teach him responsibility.  Get him a puppy.  tell him to walk it and brush it be for school ever day.  A puppy has the energy to keep up with a five year old.\nYour right with choosing medication free.  Your son can't get in the army if you are on Ritalin be for the age of 12.  They are also now finding the cause depression that can lead to suicide.  My brother is on some thing now, do your research.
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im not a doctor but my dad is a well known phsyciatrist, but has moved to az. my best friend has a son of 6 that acts really bad. you may not agree with this but if he is acting out and he is name calling and acting uproarious then he may need medicine. you may think to get him evaluated. does he have problems concentrating in school too/ or fighting with other kids? what about learning? if so, he may need some aderol, strattera, and or ritalin. this he also may outgrow as i did. i was a horror till actually 20 with this. im 31 now and fine though i have clinical depression. ive been fine with no meds for that for 10yrs! some people have a problem with putting ther kids on meds and their is a cliche with some of these meds so i would pick a doctor carefully and even go for two diffrent phsyc evals. just  to be sure. or there is something called behavior modification. counseling to learn how to deal with just the behavior. so you decide. their are good meds  out now and also to be one the safe side to be honest sometimes they may have side affects such as weight loss or stomach aches. please be advise carefully. lol mexxxi.
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The meds are probly not the answer. Take a look at life style. Elimanate candy and juink food. Make sure he gets 3 balanced meals a day. Plenty of sleep, and of couse a little one on one parent time.