her mother accessed me of beating the children, and child molastion, i couldn't take it anymore. the mother of my children did nothing to stop it, and sign the paper work on me. after it was dimissed from court i left her.
210279
Hey. I have been there, done that. Listen to me carefully. When does the hurt go away?  when YOU let go. look at the facts. Your girlfriend signed false papers on you, how can you miss that? How can you miss having someone stab you in the back? Stop thinking and remembering the "good" times you had and remember the last time you had. She signed false papers on you. you are going to have to get mad, and let it dissipate, naturally. It can take a week or two. Stop digging up bones. go forward. There are very good women out there that will treat you right and not lie on you.
528906
i was spanked with a belt. do i feel like i was abused? no i don't. you have to get your kids to listen to you somehow for their own good.
278890
why don't u call the number of the office that sent u this letter and demand for all of the details? obviously u are not the only responsible for that kid, where is she? how is raising her? why don't u call there and ask what is going on? what makes u wish to stop her after 9 years u didn't do anything? if u have changed Ur mind now, after all of this time, first try to understand what is she going throw?!
26070
OH hell no you're not crazy!...you sound like a pretty good guy...you should try and prove your self...become the better parent and do everything you can do to gain the trust of your kids and whom ever knows you....I think that in a court if they speak of what a good person you are then hopefully that will help...and stay away from that crazy lady you called "Wife"...seems like she never deserved you and plus it will do more harm to the kids than to anyone else to take away their father.  Good Luck.
457224
You might want to think that about that before you do anything permanent. Perhaps you can draw up legal papers so that you don't deal with your ex at all, she can drop your kid off at the police station, for example and you can do the same without ever seeing her. I grew up without a dad and it was extremely painful. Please think of the child first.
82849
You need to protect yourself, and it seems you need to do it threw legal action. At this point she thinks she can walk all over you and you will do nothing about it. You need to show her that you are willing to what it takes to protect yourself and the kids. Good luck and don't take that crap.
628882
I think you all are being too harsh on her.  Parents should spank their children, spare the rod; spoil the child.  However, what did you spank your child with to leave bruises?  I was spanked as a child and I grew up with an understanding of right and wrong.  I have never been arrested, I graduated college, and lead a normal life.  I work with children and I can tell you a million stories based on CPS and spankings.  I think they should let parents be parents!  Children need discipline, but no one deserves to be abused.  I am pretty sure you will be able to get your child back, they usually make parents undergo classes such as anger management.  I am sure you will do whatever it takes to get your child back. I hope your family works through this and overcomes it.  God bless you.
604489
I know how you feel I was in the same situation, the best thing to do is to do it legally. Go to the police, find counseling for her and to be very honest with you if that doesn't work then do what ya gotta do.
406607
Hey, you picked her, and now you're stuck with her forever, because you made a baby with her. You should have fought the move - it may be too late for that now. If she's living in another city, why is she trying to get the house? And why didn't you get an order for "no overnight guests of the opposite gender when the child is home" in your divorce/custody papers? I know a guy who did that, hired a PI and won custody of his 2 girls because the mom couldn't keep her legs crossed when her daughters were home.\n\nHave your visitation order with you and bring the police with you to pick up your kid for visitation. She can't keep the kid from you, and if the cops are already there, the whole tresspassing thing will vanish. Learn what your rights are and fight for them. There are a lot of father's support groups out there with a lot of legal information.\n\nShe is not going to get better. Maybe she will be distracted if she has a few more kids, and maybe you'll get lucky and she'll find another man to torture instead of you.\n\nDocument everything and bring it to court when you have to go. Don't be late with the child support, either, because judges don't look kindly on deadbeats -- and they also don't look kindly on women who won't let the fathers have relationships with the children. Record the phone calls. Get them for harrassment.\n\nGood luck to you.
280579
Not actually liberated but let me tell you a little about my situation. My mom died Dec 2004 of cancer and it was devasting. However, my mom had always mentally abused me by letting me know I was not wanted, if abortion were legal she would not have had me, how I reminded her of my father who she despised,etc. So my whole life I tried to please her so she would accept me. Well I had been in counseling for years and basically was told I was in a abusive relationship with my mother! My psychiatrist told me I had to stand up to her because her deragatory statements I would never allow from another person. Well, long story short, she had become very sweet during chemo and never said any negativity. Well, she went into remission and the real meanie was back in force. I finally got the courage to tell her that until she could treat me with respect (I was 31) I would not be around. She had started talking bad about me to my son!! Well, she died 8 months later. Although I did speak with her the last 3 months of her life we never spoke about anything but her getting better. How guilty I felt when she died!! However my doctor told me that what I had did was NOT WRONG it was just unfortunate that she died before we ever resolved my past issues with her. I definately feel much more in control and powerful since her passing because I would never allow anyone to treat me or my son the way she did. Take care and learn from your upbringing. Don't treat your children the way you were treated and stay strong.
570504
My goodness what a sorted story but we hear about that all the time. Women who get accustom to living a certain way and when they see their chance to keep that way of life going they will step on anyone to keep it even their children\n\nI am very sorry to hear that and I know that it i hard to go after her because she is you mother. Actually I don't think their is anything you can do. The courts are aware that you are on your father will. They still awarded her the I will say shares anyway.  I think the best thing for you to do is talk to her about out now. You have to get it out in the open. Don't let it harbor inside of you. It will only make you more angry. \n\nAfter you speak to her about it depending on her response then make your mind up on how to move on from there\n\nGood Luck
387700
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
262199
You have been probably too lenient and do not always do what you say you will do to punish her when she is naughty.  That is my guess...At 11, children are beginning to test more and more boundaries with adults.  As her mother, if you are weak, she will learn that quickly and use it to HER advantage.  If you keep letting her be that way, she will continue to get worse.  Basically, she has no respect for you, more than likely.  You have to be make her REALIZE that YOU have the AUTHORITY...the upper hand.  She's a child, she does NOT know more than you, but if you keep letting her think so, she will keep walking all over you.  Before long, you will have NO control and MORE problems.  \nI suggest speaking to a therapist or counselor.  You can get counseling anywhere for free if you can not pay.  Ask you local  social services dept, a school representative, your doctor, someone at a church, the phone book has blue colored pages called "The Blue Pages" or "Government Pages" where you will find this kind of information.  Any one of these places, in your city or town or village, or county, can get you the help you need.\nGood luck...bad kids are not born, they are made.
441890
You gave your signed consent, there's nothing you can do to stop her.  Incidentally, criminal convictions are public record if you are an adult.
108726
File for divorce . . . do not mention it . . . in the documentation for the divorce . . . fight for majority of custody of the children.\n\nGrounds . . . mental abuse . . . of both you and the children.  Because she uses the children as pawn . . . thus mentally abusing you and the children.  You loved her . . . tried to make it work . . . but her hostility is just growing and you worry about the mental health of your children.
629908
Maybe this is just a mother trying to do something for her daughter, she knows that she's probably failed her in other things, the very fact that she separated must be traumatic for the kid?\nPut yourself in her place and think?\nst
542521
get in there or you will regret it if she did that to me i would have no problem and would come out and ask her if she say she does not fancy you .move on. i did that to my wife and pushed the local coppers son off the post office wall and said out loud 'leave her alone shes mine and after 36 years two kids and three grandchildren it was the best move i have ever made. mind you i was pissed at the time and now this Sunday was a mad day as normal of guitars, screaming kids and the floor covered in toys and me loving every minute and loving even more when they all went home and tomorrow  i will want them all back again. one life live it and take a chance.