the thing is .. when we dated he liked my best friend.. so we broke up .. and when him and my friend went out.. he cheated on her and made out with this other chick while they were still going out.. should i just forget about that and go out with him.. or turn him down?
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Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
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I would not trust this guy. Even if he never physically cheated on you with this other female while you were going out, he obviously had feelings for her. He would not have been with her two days later if he had not been harboring feelings for her for a while. You may hope that he will eventually grow up, but how patient and how many break-ups and reconciliations are you willing to put up with. I feel you will be better off keeping on a friendship level for a year. Date other people and have him date other people. You may just find your ideal mate instead of wasting your time. Or in a years time, maybe he will have his priorities focused on you.
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Bad place to go ESPECIALLY so soon after he broke up with her. One - she's your best friends ex. There is a reason he broke up with her and you probably don't want to subject yourself to the same just for a little sex.\n\nAlso think about if you did start dating her - do you really think your friend is going to want her hanging out with the both of you or with you guys as a couple? \n\nI understand he's not so broken up about it, but they are still an ex-couple -\n\nMy vote is don't do it.\n\nMiss Cris\nhttp://lendinganear.wordpress.com
45449
Well..if it was me i wouldn't go out with my best friends bf, cause it just wrong. No matter how hot the guy is. And plus (this is an old saying but who cares? xD) Theres pletty fish in the sea..meh..i guess you could not ingore him though just if things starts getting back to flirting and more than flirting, then i subject to stop with the flirting if it gets to far (hopefully that might answer your question.. >.>'')
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well i was once in that situation . and it was hard i guess what I'm saying is....do what u think is best and if u feel that your going to think about your ex all  night if u go out with that other girl it wont be fun. and i hope u know that time heals everything. maybe going out with the new girl would be fun and maybe your heart wont be so broken. well good luck
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depends on how much the guy likes your friend. He might  just be leaveing more opitions for himself. If he likes that other girl more. then ditch him but if he does like your friend more. Get them together and make it official. If he is still cheating on your friend then get rid of him....
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I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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I would tell her the truth,. that there really isnt anything going on with you two and her friendship means to much for you two to let a guy inbetween you. Shes feeling insecure because she can see how easy it is for that guy to get another girlfriend in short time. Can you imaigine if he did secretly want to go out with you? Then what.\nI'd give your ex and her some space and not even get close to that situation untill he finally breaks it off with her...Believe me he will real soon.\nRemember shes only the rebound girl...aint that sad.shhhh dont remind her of that point tho....heheh
12623
Go for it. Your ex should not have any say over who you date. That's why it's called "ex."
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
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think about this first..... you go out with this girl, you break up....... you risk losing 2 friends......\nnow do you want 2 go out with her?
361277
If he has two other girlfriends you should. There are a lot of other better men. Get over him and find someone else that only wants you ,not some other girl.
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My opinion is that ur best bet is to stay friends with him i was once in love with my best friend and we started to date and i lost him forever! trust me you don't want that and if you really love him you will save the hurt from both of you! you know what i am saying i know it will be hard for you to not go out with him but think about it when yall start dating you will find things out about him that you never knew and on top of all that alot of problems will arise! So trust me on this girl stay friends its for the best of both of you! Save the hearbreak!
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OK, let me get this straight...he went was your boyfriend and then went out with your friend too? Oh! Honey, you need to let go- he is just playing you. i mean- you just don't go out with your x's friends, that's dirty. Besides, you need to be thinking if she is even truly your friend. After all, she did go out with your x and you still love him. Just move on- you can do so much better!!!
567389
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
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I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
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Well, if your ex cheated on you, then it shouldn't matter who you date. Even if it is his friend. Hard part about that, is you won't be able to hang out with him when he makes plans with your ex. So there will be a bit of drama more so between the guys, but I also think it's silly to keep things locked up. I hate hiding things, so I would tell the new guy that he should speak up. I dunno, it always sucks being in those kinds of situations. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.