O.K. see i'm dating this guy right now and i really like him or maybe even more, but anyways, i can't help but think of how i can stay with this one person for the rest of my life. i mean he's willing and everything but i just don't know how.  it's not me. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!
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Lots of people make that commitment, but not many manage to keep it.\n\nI would say that if you only "really like him or maybe even more" then now is not the time to be thinking about making such a commitment anyway.\n\nWhen you find somebody that you simply can't be without and love more than you love your own life, then and only then should you consider such promises.\n\nPlease, don't give yourself away so cheaply.
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Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
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I've gone out with 5 guys all together and the fifth is my soul mate.  With the other four, I rushed into the relationship because I felt no one cared about me.  I didn't want to be left out so when they showed any interest I was hooked.  When I met my current boyfriend, I decided I would take things slow and be very cautious.  We've been together for two years.  We've been through A LOT of trying times and are still as much in love as the day we met.
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This is a tuff situation to be in, you want him around yet you dont want to hold him back from something great.  I think you need to be honest, tell him how you feel.. have no regrets at all.  If he is someone you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with then you do need to talk to him about a plan on keeping the romance alive or next steps.  I am a firm believer in destiny and fate and I think if its meant to be then things will mold into shape soon and you will see what your next steps will be.  Always be honest with your feelings and you will have no regrets.
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Set a standard of who you would like to be with, and then search for him. But never lower your standards for anyone!\n\nAnd DON'T use yourself either!\nUse HOPE of finding the right person to keep you going thats what I do!
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Wow, a good question, with only my esteem and somewhat shame to uphold.\n\nHere goes.\n\nI loved "that guy" once.  And though I would have given him anything under the sun, including honesty, manogomy and love....in my deep caring for him I also had to give him space.  I had to honor his present situation(as hard as that was) and told him I didn't intend on being "the other woman" only to one realize I WAS.  I respected what ever he wanted and only wanted him to be happy.\n\nI then stopped talking to him, and put on my Captain Avoido outfit and a woderful thing happened.  He figured his life out, honestly with out any obstacles and called me about a year later and asked for a date.   Go figure.  It was ONLY then that he could hold me with esteem that he once carried for his previous love.\n\nThere should be no pressure............if she really cares.
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OMG!! i had that problem. EXACTLY the same way!! but anyway, i told my mom, and she told me i should pick one. i picked the new one, because i liked him and i wanted to try him out. look at me now..im dating him!! =D\n38 days...\nso pick one, and stick with him. g'luck
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There comes a time in every dating relationship when someone needs stability.\n\nIt seems you've been very flexible, very commited, and very patient...yet...you only get quality time...6 times a year.\n\nHopefully, no one has asked you to see yourself dating anyone else...however if you're not getting what you want from the relationship....don't you think you deserve something more than intermitten companionship
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find someone that  will appreciate you and be willing to work things out. Obiously he's not worth it. Find someone that's going to like/ love you the way you'll like/ love them. it's only fair that way!
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wait until you know how you feel. there is a difference between dating and having a boyfriend. it is totally okay to casually date more than one person at a time as long as they understand you're not exclusive. if you decide that you have very strong feelings for one person, stop dating the others and go exclusive with that person. don't pick one guy and stick with him unless you're sure about it, because that's not fair to him. if your emotions are going back and forth, that probably won't change even if you become his girlfriend, and you could ruin a good friendship. right now i'm rebuilding a friendship for that very reason, and it's slow and sometimes pretty awkward.
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Well its kind of messed up being with someone while you like someone else.......if your confused about it then you should take time to think about what you really want and then take action...dont just be with someone cause they like you .......follow your heart.....do whats right for you not carin what anyone else thinks!!!
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Find your self worth.\n\nHe's pumping negitive stuff into your brain.  Remember, You are SPECIAL...You are BEAUTIFUL <he never would have dated u if he didn't see that beauth>...You are WONDERFUL...and POWERFUL...UNSTOPPABLE.\n\nReally, are you happy??? A relationship is a trial to see if you're ment to spend your life together.  So, if you're not happy now <I'm sure if u're not happy, then he's not happy> then where is this relationship leading???\n\nGo FIND HAPPINESS!!!
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I think you need a replacement or substitute for him...Be with your friends always and stay busy so that you won't think of him over and over again...Date someone in your office, neighborhood or church...Stay happy in the company of your relatives, family members, etc...maybe you still need to pray to God for on-going discernment on what is His will for you...I believe in destiny, that of billions and billions of people around the world, only one is menat for you...Just enjoy life, be productive, enjoy work and do community activities/services in your respective community...\n\nGod will give you something that you really deserve...Only God knows whats in your heart, mind and your soulmate..
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Stop being a pu**y about it.  If you are feeling that you are attracted to one guy and want to be in an exclusive relationship with him, then you should cut loose the others.  It is not the most pleasant thing to do, but letting it drag on will only make it harder on both of you.  Just stop lying about what you are doing when AL calls and asks what you are up to.  Tell him you are going out on a date or whatever it is that you are doing.  He might not like it, but life sucks like that sometimes.  If he is an adult he will be able to handle it.  If he can't handle it, then he is still a little immature and needs to grow up.\n\nBy the way, this is exactly why guys end up turning into what women call jerks.  You ladies wonder why we will not commit to relationships and why we lose interest as soon as we get into your pants.  Mostly it is because they are afraid of getting hurt, so for many men it is easier to not let themselves get all that close in a relationship.  It sucks, but I think that everyone has to get their heart broken at least once before they are ready to love someone else.
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well...ur situation is just like mine now..lol\njust think carefully....do u still wnat this relationship to continue?
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First be careful, do not leave with him/her.\n\nSecond, be yourself and get to know them.\n\nThird, take your time, do not rush the relationship.\n\nOnline dating can work, I married mine!
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End it if you are in a rush to get somwhere...\n\nMost of the time we just fool ourselves that the relationship is temporary. As long as we are allowed that thought and nothing shatters this illusion you could get a good mileage out of us.\n\nMen love the illusion that their current partner is not their last.