we been together in about 1 year in friendship and 6months+ in relationship, he is my 1st love and i am his 1st love too. we broke for almost 3years and now, that we have a communication again, i said to him that i still love him, and i found that he feel the same way too as i am... is he my soulmate?
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I do believe each person has that soulmate out there.  First loves are not necessarily your soulmates but if he is, you will know.  Your presence among each other tells the connection of your souls in love and happiness. That is the main thing to remember, be happy.  Rather, he is or not, you love each other and that deserves something. It's great to be friends and love, at least you know each other.  Good luck.
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Soul mates do not cheat on you with an old flame. Nor do they cut ties with their child. Nor do they tell you they don't love you. I know it will hurt but you need to just forget this guy and get on with your life. There are a lot of fish in the sea as they say and believe me, your true soul mate is still out there!!!
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I'm in 1 too...ask him if he still feels the same way...if he does he will create a time 4 u 2 to b together!!  Tell him how YOU feel
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i understand you might love the first guy, but if he doesn't feel the same then move on, and love this other guy, you should let it go and follow your heart.  yes you might not love the 2nd like the 1st but not all love is the same.  You will probably always think about the love you had for the first guy, but the key thing here is that he doesn't feel the same, and you can't make someone love you.
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He may still love you, yes.  But what exactly is keeping him from being in a relationship with you?  \n\nI would not count on this individual to commit to you.  This guy sounds like he may be confused or unsure.  And he may take a long time making up his mind.  If his indecision is causing you heartache, then you need to do what is going to preserve your sanity.  You need to do what is good for you.  This may mean moving on.  This may mean not waiting around for him.\n\nI'm sorry if this sounds harsh.  It sounds like you still have feelings for him.  I don't know your exact circumstances.  However, I do know what it is like to be jerked around by a guy who couldn't decide if I was "the one."  It's not fun, and it's not worth your time.  \n\nIf you are really set on this guy, you may have to wait for a long time for him to come to his senses.  Ask yourself, honestly, is he worth it?\n\nGood luck.
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this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
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Yes....well...we met two days after school ended last year..i went to my friends house and she introduced me to him and he asked me out that night and we went out for 8 months. he was very sweet cute loving and he was my EVERYTHING!!! I loved him becouse when i was with him....all my probablems went away and i feel safe with him and he makes me smile no matter how sad i am and he apoligizes for letting me see him cry or letting me see him mad .....and everytime i think about him i get butterflys and when i hear his name i smile...i know he feels the same about me..it really was love at first site becouse i  went out with him like 4 hours  after i met him....
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No, just because there are feelings between you doesn't mean that you are even still compatible. Those feelings are there b/c this person represents the first time you had strong passionate feelings in your life. Just discuss what you have been doing since the "old days" and move on.
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Sorry, I believe you don't really feel love from him now. its time to move on. You may have loved him once but its no more, you're just hanging on to the past that will be the burden of your future.\n\ngood luck\n\nGirl with confidence shine.\n\nLove is omnipresence, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
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I know I'm still in love with my ex - he ended our 2 year relationship very suddenly with an e-mail & I am finished with\ndating, men, relationships, love. He was the last man I ever plan to be involved with - I've had enough.  Good luck with your situation!
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Did he actually meet the other person? If so, what did they do? The severity of his actions should give you a good indication of what you should do. If you feel that his actions were not severe enough to break off the relationship, then don't.  If you feel otherwise, then sever ties. It all depends on how you feel, because we (the answerer's) don't really know the situation you're in and the things you're thinking/feeling. \n\nWorst case scenario? You dump him, realize he was your soul mate, never get back together, get depressed, never date, and die alone.\n\nBest case scenario? You don't dump him, he is eternally grateful, both of you work things out, and you live long and fulfilling lives.\n\nAs you can see, there is quite a bit of swing in the spectrum. If you feel that he deserves a second chance (i.e. he's been faithful [until now], treats you well, is respectful, and didn't go through with the deed, then you might want to give him a second chance.  After all, it seems like he realized his mistake before anything *bad* happened, and both of you can learn and grow stronger from this experience.
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Hi, this is Cat...After 1 1/2 years did you not know how he felt about you? If he's clammed up, obviously he wasn't ready to hear how you felt about him. Usually a guy will be responsive how he feels way before a year has passed, he might not say so, however his actions will speak louder than words. I suggest you give him space real fast, leave him alone for a couple of weeks to a month to think and to chill out. He's probably afraid of commitment or he does not feel the same about you. Do not approach him again regarding this issue, he may bolt like a wild horse and never come back. Instead just be a friend to him for now, if it's not too late. Lesson well learnt, you know what to do next time.
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You have a very good basis for your relationship - your friendship, and evidently there are some strong bonds, as both of you are there for each other. \n\nWhen you have found your soulmate, you will know inside your heart, without a doubt. Sometimes it takes losing someone or not having them around for a period of time before you realise you cannot really live without them. Then you would also know if he is your soulmate.
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I think that everyone still has lingering feelings for their exs. Personally, if I were you I wouldn't care too much. Just be cautious for warning signs, like....him hiding his cel phone from you, canceling on you? small stuff like that. But if he really does love you then his ex doesn't matter that much. And really if she is dating again.. She's moved on.  I have a boyfriend of 6 months and I have feelings for my ex and my feelings are stronger for him so they don't  interfere.  I'm sure he has feelings for his ex's so we are even. It's probably difficult to have feelings for one person forever, As long as your love is stronger and you guys are honest. \n<3
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Yes you can.... and no, it is not something that happens to everyone because not everyone has been in your shoes.\n\nThis is probably happening to you because you ARE in love with him. Does he know how you feel about him? Do you feel like he needs to know? How does he feel about you?\n\nCould you be feeling this way because you were/are hoping for more? And maybe you feel like more could have been said or done while he was there? \n\nCommunication is the key Hon.\n\nJust a few things to think about
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I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.
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the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.