What would u say to a perosn who stopped speaking because people would laugh at everything she says, what if they weren't trying to be funny, what if they just laughed because they wanted to hurt them.\n\nMy best friend stopped talking even to me because everytime she spoke someone would laugh, she became afraid of everyone and she just completely broke down, i don't know what to say or do?
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The poor thing...  She is lucky that she has you as a friend who really wants to help her.  I dont blame her for not wanting to talk, she must feel terrible.  I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere with her where there is no-one else around you guys, like the beach or a park or go on a bushwalk, or just do something that you know she loves.  Make sure no-one else is around (especially not the people who are making fun of her) and try and get her to relax and not be afraid to speak. \nIf you cant get her to go anywhere with you straight away, try sending text messages to communicate or write each other letters.  Buy her a diary to write down all her feelings in.  \n\nShe needs to know she has support.  Try talking to her family (as long as they arent the ones who are laughing at her).  If you dont help her now, (or get someone to help her) she could end up developing social disorders or agraphobia (where she will be too scared to leave the house).  You are a great friend, she is lucky to have a friend who cares about her and doesnt make fun of her.  Just help her through it as best you can.. And as for the people laughing at her, how pathetic.  They must be really horrible people to make your friends life hell. Good on u for sticking by her.
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There isn't much you can do.  She probably wouldn't listen to you if you did say anything to her.  Just let her be.  Even if she lies to people about you, I'm sure she won't stay credible to them for long.  Everyone will eventually figure her out.  Confronting her will just make her act like she's the victim of your "cruel" words.  She'll probably tell everyone just to get sympathy.
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I have the same problem.  People always say "think b4 u talk", but that's fricking hard!  There are only a few seconds to which there is time alloted for you to think of an answer.  Then the person leaves you in the dust.  It's like a reflex...you defend yourself before anyone else has a chance to inflict another blow.  Next time, just relax yourself b4 a conversation and remind yourself not to lash out, no matter what.  Of course, you will forget to remind yourself after a while, but the next lash-out will bring you crashing back down to earth.  But for now...just apologize to the girl and explain that you didnt know what you were saying.  She should understand.  It is hard to deal with this stuff, but you will get over it.  Dont dwell on anything.
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What you did was the right thing to do, expect the reaction you got from her because that is normal too. Now all you have to do is sit her down and tell her that you need to talk. Tell her that what you said was true, even though she chooses not to believe you, tell her that it hurt you that you were honest with her and she turned against you, that she's letting this guy come between  what you thought was a friendship. Tell her you don't appreciate being bad mouthed by her, (especially if your friends) because she chose not to believe you and that the only person that is missing out is her. She messed a friendship up and has a cheating boyfriend too. She looks like the weak one, because your not the only one that knows, if you saw it it other people have also. And ask her what kind of friend she is. Maybe not the kind you want. After that if your not friends then she's not worthy enough to be in your presence. Find a new friend.
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there is no pssible way for her to believe you unless she wants to. But what kind of friend would not believe her friend? She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me! OR....she's putting you down all the time because she has bad self esteem and that somehow makes her feel better by laughing at you. Find some other friends who have weird dreams and have a blast comparing notes :)
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People think I am funny when I am being serious.  And when I am trying to be funny, they don't laugh.  Go figure. Did this make you laugh?
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Self respect says you got to take a stand, or you wouldn't be asking this here.  Think of it this way, would you want friends that can't be brave unless they have back up? or the one that stands alone, and cares enuff about you to keep coming back for more?  Choose sides, then, side all parties down, and tell them straight out what you just said to us, we used to be kewl, now we are not, I can't take it anymore, lets work it out, or I got to choose sides.  And don't let the 2, lay all the blame on the one.\nPersonally, I wouldn't even try talking, I would take the loner's side, and just see what happened.  If they left, fine, I expected it, but who knows, might scare them into backing off.
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Some of my best friends are people who, like you, tell it like it is and don't 'pull any punches.'  \nYou should absolutely stay true to yourself, but that doesn't mean you can't hold back comments sometimes when you feel they wouldn't be well received or if they might be hurtful.  You don't have to lie, but if you can spare someone's feelings by holding your tongue, then maybe that would be a good idea.\n\nRemember, not everyone wants to know the truth, they are happier in their delusions.  So, by pointing out what may be obvious to you, you will make then angry or sullen.\n\nThink of your wisdom and life experiences as having value and don't be giving them away free every time you open your mouth. Instead, let others learn from their own mistakes and strive for their own life experiences.
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Honestly it sounds like She is jealous of You.  And it sounds like She doesn't think before She speaks.  Ask Yourself, does She do this with Everyone, or just You?  There is a saying that many a truth as been said in jest.  Meaning the Person saying it actually means it but says that They are only joking.  That is called sarcasm.  The meaning of sarcasm in the dictionary is to tear flesh like dogs, to speak bitterly.  So those who speak sarcastically are actually rude and bitter People.\n\nMy suggestion is that next time She says something, just say "So what I understood You to just say is", and repeat it back to Her.  That way You can be clear on what She meant to say or imply, and see how She responds.  If She continues to say I was just kidding, tell Her that Her kidding, doesn't feel like kidding to You.  And in Friendship if it matters to You, it should matter to Her.  Just as You feel about Your Friends, if something affects Them, it matters to You.\n\nBest of Luck with This, Good Friends should be a Safe Haven.   \n.
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That is a really tough one... hm... I have a friend like that too, and I kinda just let it go. Maybe next time they bring something up like that, you can change the subject. Like if they say something like "I am so cool!!!!!" you can say "Speaking of cool... wasn't it cold last night?"... you know, really silly things, like take something from their sentence and say something that has to do with it. \nHowever, if they get mad just tell them the truth. Be like "I'm sorry, but you just made me feel like I was lower than you. You know? Like you are better than me." Just be honest (but throwing in a little guilt trick won't hurt) They might get mad, but eventually someone is going to tell them, and they aren't going to be nice about it. So take the chance that you have now, and just be honest with your friend. I have a pretty good feeling it will work out. Good luck! :)
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I can't really say the funniest thing I've ever done (besides stupid klutzy moments involving falling into a group of desks during a Spanish game) because I'm pretty much the dry wit Daria/Darlene/Wednesday person of our group, but I do have one anecdote which my friend will kill me for if he ever finds out I posted this. :]\n\nOkay, so this friend of mine, really smart and artistic and all but essentially the living example of "the dumbest smart person you'll ever meet."  So he has a lot of allergy problems and this one time he was at home and he had to sneeze but it wouldn't come out.  So what does my brilliant friend do?  He pours some pepper into his hand and attempts to sniff it, ever so slightly, but ends up inhaling all of it.  So of course he's running around the house like crazy trying to get it out while his mom is just sitting there laughing at him.\n\nAnd it would probably be much funnier if you actually knew him and knew the sorts of things he does.
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Do not worry about what others say to you or about you. I know it is hard at your age to do this. These people don't know you and you shouldn't waste your time on them. I too was picked on as a teenager, even though I have not been through the trauma you have. I was very skinny and hairy and I was always picked on for this. I never stood up for myself, partly because I was scared and partly because my parents forbid me and my brother to ever say or do anything against anyone, even if they hit us. Now, as an adult with a daughter, I have taught her to stand up for herself and she always takes up for people who are being picked on. Just keep in mind that those who are picking on you have low self-esteem. People who are confident don't have the need to make fun of others. Also, those who have a hard teen life are usually the ones who are the most successful and the ones who have it "handed" to them can't make it on their own as an adult. Talk to a school counselor, or find an adult you can trust and confide. Maybe there are some programs to help. What about your friend's mom, maybe you can talk to her. Just hang in there. Make yourself a goal - what you would like your career to be - and focus on that. My goal was to be an architect, but I'm a nurse instead. But during high school I would draw house plans all the time (and still do at times). Lots of luck.
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Its funny because I've just gone through this.  Remember, you must make yourself happy and no one else.  Maybe she's jealous of all the attention you're getting, who knows.  If she's your friend, she wouldn't be jeolous and will eventually come around.  If she doesn't, she was never your friend to begin with.  Enjoy your life, have fun and don't ever worry about what the next person, friend or foe, has to say.  BE HAPPY!!!!!
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the only suggestion I can think of is to ride it out.....wait until something happens. Either your friend AM is making the whole thing up cause she's jealous or something, or TM's shy....anything could be true. Anyways, just wait for something to happen, and then go from there, instead of getting worked up about it.
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yikes.  what did she say that was so awful?\nmaybe it's okay to move and take some time.  she's family; you can always reconnect later.\nhaving an open conversation about what's going on, though, is far better than her just moving quickly and no one talkign about it.  try to stay friends!
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Hi, The best thing to do is find another friend.  She is NO friend if she does this.  Start socializing with others and try not to be around her.  She is toxic to you and exactly what is happening to you is the result.  She will lower your self esteem and ruin your self confidence.  Remind yourself that what she is saying and doing is not the truth and she is not a friend.  Surround yourself with positive, content, and happy people.
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The last thing, i think you should do is do the same thing. They are going to think they can keep doing it. When someone tries to pass it off as a joke, you calmly and directly say, Why are you insulting me? They will say "I am only kidding." That is when you say and not in a sarcastic tone, or pissed tone, in a calm and direct way, look them in the eyes and say,\nI find that insulting and not funny. In the future i would appreciate you not speaking to me that way." and smile. \nWhen you approach people in this way you are setting the tone on how you want to be treated. If you respond to them in the same way they spoke to you you will never really solve anything because they will know they can do it again.  When you respond in a direct, assertive way there is no grey area, they will know they shouldn't talk to you that way. If they do it again, resume the same non aggressive, direct approach, calmly and politely say, Did you forget what I told you earlier? Please don't speak to me that way. Don't worry about what they will think about what you have said to them if they were kinder people they wouldn't treat you like this in the first place. You are doing this for yourself so you don't have to think over and over afterward what should i have said that would have been better.  I use this approach and it works for me.