I really feel like he is departing from me, from us. I feel like he doesnt feel the same way about me. It's like I miss him more then he misses me. All I want to do is find out the truth so I can move on. How can I get him to open up and just tell me. Or do I have no choice but to really figure it out myself and just assume.
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Give space and let him come to you! He is with you so he must not hate you too bad. Give it time and if you really want him to talk just say that you feel like you guys are going in different paths and if he doesn't tell you what he wants then your gone. If that happens you will be happy eventually. Just give yourself a new look at life and find friends. If he talks to you and opens up trust what he says and don't question it. Your wanting to know and if he feels pestered by you he won't open up again.
259142
Take this as a learning lesson.  I did the same thing and I know how it feels.  Just remember everything happens for a reason.  You hurt his feelings so let him have some space to figure things out.
268905
How sad!\n\nWhat makes it even more difficult is that you had this attraction for him and never resolved it -- that must make it even more rough.  What a sacrifice on your part:  keeping quiet so you wouldn't lose him.  How terrible that you felt that you couldn't just tell him in the first place, without risking losing what you had.\n\nDo you have an address where you can reach him?  Can you locate him?\n\nHow about sending him a letter?  \n\nMaybe now that there's distance between you anyway, you can simply write out how you've felt this whole time, and be honest.  If he doesn't reply then you've at least said how you feel, and since he's moved away there's less of a loss there.\n\nBut you never know -- maybe he'll write back.  Maybe he'll be flattered that you're attracted and won't mind even if he doesn't return your affections.  I'll bet regardless he'll appreciate the risk you took in being honest.\n\nOr... maybe you'll find out he felt the same way, and you can carry on a fabulous correspondence and one day meet again.\n\n\nEither way, I don't think you have much to lose by writing to him, if you can track him down.\n\nBest of luck.  I hope you find him and it turns out well.
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Tell him that you was just wandering how he felt about you and if he tells you then you need to tell him how you feel.  If he asks why you want to know then tell him that you want to know how he feels in case he was to go to war somewhere.
103243
Okay, 1st of all feelings like that just dont go away so he probably still feels the same way he just stopped letting it show. and 2nd you need to tell him how you feel. Im sure he will be thrilled to hear it.
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Maybe you should try talking to him about how you feel?\nThere is a possibility that if you feel like the "spark" is gone, he feels the same way too.\n\nJust because the spark is gone doesn't mean you need to break up, it could just mean you need to do something to bring it back. I think a lot of relationships and marriages these days end because they're based from attraction and the 'new relationship tingly feeling'\nAfter you're with someone for as long as you've been with him, and longer, you tend to get into a routine, and the original feelings you've had disappear.\n\nLong-term relationships take work.\n\nI suggest talking to him about it either way.\nMaybe you'll both mutually feel like you want a change.\n\nIf you do end up hurting him, don't feel to bad about it, as long as you communicate with him, and are mature about it, you'll both be able to move on. :)
340633
Hate to say this but you are putting you through the emotional rollercoaster.  It's possible to stop.  Think about being open and honest with these two about your feelings, doubts, and fears.  You'll feel better.  And remember, the world won't end if this connection you feel goes away.  You'll still be worthwhile and valuable as a person.
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Hmmmmmmm, In your story it did sound as if he was still intrested. well being that you haven't heard from him he is either not intrested or something has happened to him.\nI really wish guys could be honest it would make life much easier, but if it'll make you feel better just keep in mind what goes around comes around.
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The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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you were right. you shouldnt lead him on if you dont feel the same way. the same thing happened to me with my boyfriend and he respected that those feelings hadnt developed for me. eventually i knew for sure that i love him, so when i told him he knew it was real and not a cop out. honesty and trust are the most important things in a realtionship, so never lie.
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he's probably trying not to loose you (for now) by telling you he's leaving.  if he tells you he's leaving he has to deal with hurting and leaving you.  by not telling you he avoids that. you're gonna be hurt when he leaves either way. he might be trying to hang on to you for now. he may just be protecting feelings.
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I'm in a similar situation...the way my ex tells me that he misses me is by saying he thinks about me alot, and mentions specific things he remembers or wants to do next time we have a chance. I think guys in general might have a hard time coming out and saying it, especially if he does think you are over him. I think you'd be able to tell if he didn't though...like if he started ignoring you, not returning your calls, etc. \nSome hints that he misses you would be the phone calls, calling you or returning your calls, texting you frequently, talking about things pertaining to your relationship, making plans to hang out, things like that.\n\nHope things turn out alright!
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You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.
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Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
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I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.
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Missing someone and not being able to see or talk with them is so horrible, because you feel so helpless and you feel as if there will be no end to your pain.  Can you email or write to him?  It may not be the ideal situation (because you want to be with him), but it will help--and although I know you won't believe this, you will eventually feel better and maybe even meet someone new.  He will never be like the one you left behind, but it will be ok--I know, because I've been there.  Take care...