ok shes a girl and she has trouble talking to guys she always has a constant bad memory of something that has happened to her when she was young but ive told her to write a note but im not shure if it was a good idea but she is really shy and wont speak up how can i help her out? her church and this guys church that she likes is having a party for the crew that did a play at her church not to long ago i told her to give the note there but she said shes to scared also this is her last chance to make a big move on him.
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Honestly, I never think notes are a good idea. I always am more nervous writting a note and I end up censoring myself because I always get worried it will fall into the wrong hands. Tell her the best way is face to face. Not to mention to do it on her OWN. Help is juvinille. Anyways, the right time will come for her and she'll know what to do. Trust me, I was horribly shy too, and it happened for me, she just has to meet the right guy and it'll fall right into place but don't forget to encourage her to do it on her own in the way she most feels comfertable. After all your not going to trail her on all her dates and speak for her right? :)
72237
My dear friend,girls know everything.never be scared to say coz girls love to listen it from guys even though they undrstand everything. so go ahead n tell her what u feel for her,she will be very happy.\n\ngood luck buddy
117216
hey omadon98, you answered your own question. But, writing a note telling her "she has brightened your days up for 2 years" would help with your shyness and fear of rejection. Write her a little note on your way out. Girls dig that.
369495
The best way to tell her is to take her aside and tell her the situations that you've witnessed. Be on her side and support her. Tell her that you understand that she can't help who she likes but you hope that she'll get over this guy because he's so rude about he behind her back and she deserves more than that. It would probably hurt her more to think that this guy genuinely likes her and find out that you didn't tell her. Tell her alone and be ready with the cookie dough and tissues. I hope you are able to tell her and support her!
433201
girls always talk about things they like. it is likely to happen alot. pay attention to wat you guys talk about, then get it for her =)\nin the card, tell her you remembered wat she said.
187434
sounds like she wants attention good or bad and to be the center of every thing dont listen to her romers and try to talk to her parents explain you dont know why they hate you but you are willing to listen theln explain what is going on i think this girl needs professional help good luck flaimj
55528
tell her that its not right its disgusting and to get away from him and if it gets really bad get a older guy that she knows around his age to kick his *** or go to the police to get a restraining order its really important and its not freakin cute either so tell her as soon as possible this is not a thing to take as a joke many girls have this problem and they don't have the time or rather the chance to do this so get major help b.c girls die every day from being raped b.c after hes done shes finished and plus HES DRUNK  GOD ONLY KNOWS WHAT HE CAN DO.
221865
Tell him he has to put his fear into the pit of his stomach and not act nervous no matter what!  Girls can smell fear and it scares them!  But a few minutes after talking to her he should be OK!  GOOD LUCK!
124838
ok first of all the girl , NICE OF HER HAVE SHY FEELINGS ...\n\nbut not so much ... and at ur case at school bcs of ur poor english ... dont worry about thats much bcs many dont worry about thats ...\n\nif not in ur school ...u must know thats after littel while u will know how to speak it very good ...\n\njust dont thinking much thats ...if u had mistaks in speaking it ...thats will make u silly to others ...bcs all ppl every day they learning somthing new ...\n\njust remembere thats well \n\ngood luck for u
232713
dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.
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Since it is a Church camp... I will take words from Casting Crowns... "...love her like Jesus..."\n\nThe best thing to do is to be nice... I know that is easier said than done, but she probably feels uncomfortable in her own way. The best thing to do is to treat her as if nothing happened... once she displays some "bad trait" then simply confront her bluntly. Tell her that you know there is a past with her and you in some weird way... but that you really dont want to have to have such horrible encounters with her everytime you see her.\n\nIf that still doesnt work... see my first suggestion :)
73965
she isnt gonna say much cuz shes shy. u need to just ask her. she'll get nervous around u and try to get away if u talk to her like that. when the guy i like talks to me like that it makes me feel like an idiot and i always leave really quick cuz its embarrassing. just ask her. when ur talking. instead of saying dont be shy if u already are friends then ask her if she wants to go out sometime.
455538
why don't you just go up to her and say hey i'd like to get to know you better, so do you wanna got out and do something, the worst she can do is say no! and if you are to shy for that why not invite her out in a group situation so there are several people there that will take some of the preassure off you and you will still get to spend time with her
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I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
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Do me and yourself a HUGE favor, DON'T TELL THIS GIRL HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER!!!\n\nThink about it.  If she is an 8 or 9 as you suggest then she probably has a million guys fawning all over her every day.  If you tell her how you feel you'll be just another one of those average chumps! She probably hears the same sh*t over and over again and it probably bores her to death!\n\nDo something to make yourself stand out.  Give her some attitude, dude!  Don't be an a-hole, but don't be a kiss-a*s either.  Treat her like your annoying little sister and bust her chops.\n\nIf you say she's been teasing you a lot, that's because she likes you.  If a girl is into you she will tease you.  It's as simple as that.  What you need to do is have fun with her and tease her right back.\n\nThe first line of your question was "...at the beginning...she was into me, but I ruined that by showing her too much love."  If that didn't work in the past why do you think that would work now?  It's like putting spoiled milk back into the fridge and checking it again a month later to see if it some how is drinkable.  Crazy, huh?\n\nIf you want to drive her wild, then make sure and flirt with every other girl at your weekend event!  Women don't want a guy that no one else is into. They think something is wrong with him.  But if you are chatting up a bunch of ladies and they are all laughing with you and smiling she will think, 'Hey, what does this guy have that all these women like being around him?  I want him to want me, why is he paying no attention to me.'\n\nI guarantee that if you don't approach her and are the life of the event, she will come up to you.  In fact, I will back up my guarantee.  \n\nDo this.  Pay attention to everyone but her.  Maybe give her a glance and a wry smile, but do not approach her.  If she does not come up to you and start chatting you up, I will send you a $10 gift card from Starbucks so you can ask her out the lame way you want to (no offense intended) and tell her how you feel.  \n\nWhen that doesn't work (which it won't), at least you'll have the comfort of knowing that you didn't spend your hard earned money on her and you are no worse for wear except knowing that being lame is just that, LAME!  And that you have to try a new approach with ALL ladies.\n\nThere are 6 billion people on this planet, half are women.  If she fizzles out that leaves only 2,999,999,999 potential others.  Oh, what will you do?  On the flip side, there are the same number of men out there who will try to woo her with their 'feelings for her' and their gifts and she will shun most of them.\n\nLadies out there, please weigh in and post your thoughts.
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her relationship just ended, so she is probably a little off right now.  give her a minute...and only a minute.  set up a group of 4 of you to go out for coffee, or even dinner, make it a fun night just to get out, that way he can make a move and she wont freak out with all of you there, and maybe it will help her come around.
246976
Well put yourself in her shoes and really think about this.  First she is turned down by a guy she really likes.  Next, she "knows" you like her but you won't even have the decency to ask her out, and has to "find out through other people", instead of you going to her face and letting her know you like her yourself?  How would you feel if you were her?  Whatever you do don't go over to her and say anything about short people.  You have already insulted her enough by not asking her out and having to hear it from other people instead of you.  She's been insulted enough considering all this.  She's probably annoyed with the male gender right now and I don't blame her.  What else does she have to do to get you to ask her out.  She's already tried to make you jealous and you still haven't asked her out.  Does she have to stand on her head next to get you to ask her.