I have found out about this and separated the two, but now i have another problem, i have threatened him to stay away or go to jail, now he say's his attorney stated that if I proceed he will do everything possible to have other kids taken from me becuase i knew this was going on which i didn't I thought they where friends she hangs with her older brother and mutual friends.
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Sounds like jail time to me.\n\nAnyway, call his bluff -- any reasonable attorney would be a fool to tell you that.  In order to prove you are an irresponsible parent he will have to admit that his client had sex with an underage girl, which would automatically lead to a conviction for statutory rape.  Not doing his client any favors that way.\n\nAlso if he's 21 and can afford an attorney of his own, it sounds like he's in money, which smells to me like a lawsuit -- an easy win if he's willing to admit he had sex with the 14-year old.\n\nDumb attorney.
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You need to contact social services and a lawyer that practices family law and custody cases. If she's wanting to take that child away from you and you still intend to act like a father and be responsible for that child, you need to get some legally binding paperwork stating that you have partial custody and visitation, and child support. \n\nI'm not a lawyer but if she takes that child across state lines without you agreeing to it, and not having made any sort of legal arrangements, it's kidnapping. This is very serious and you should contact someone for help with this immediately.
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Tell the wife everything. Be prepared for her to hate you. Let her know about the kid, how you found out about her and when, and how long you've been with him. If she wants to, then the two of you should confront him together and see what he says. I don't know how you didn't know this when you've been with him for three years, but that's not the point. It doesn't matter if he knows it's you. He SHOULD know it was you who told. he had no right to play you the way he did. You never signed up to be the other woman or a homewrecker.
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Being a guy myself like cartes above me I would beat the crap out of the guy but I don't know what he's thinking you should never hurt your child no matter what they are doing. I would call the cops on the guy before she turns 18 and it's out of your hands but if you don't she will learn I'm a guy and I know how guys are. He's into drugs, alcohol, and he's divorced I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheating on your daughter eventually she'll find out and realize how stupid she was but that can be after he gets her into drugs, alcohol, and pregnant I would call the cops or get some one to kick his butt I live in new hampshire and I also have a place in los angeles if you want my help kicking his a**
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Oh girl I am in the same situation, except it is my sister's HUSBAND!!!  Personally, I would put him in his place.  Tell him you are not interested in him like that.  If he continues then you will have to be a little more forceful and start avoiding him whenever possible.  Never be alone with him.  Everything he does to you try to document it.  Save his emails, voicemails, and text messages, because when your friend does find out guess who she is going to believe....not you.  Cover yourself.  Also, try to get him to hit on a third party friend and show your friend what an idiot he really is.
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Well- if you look in the Yellow Pages under "Attorneys" you should find a whole crapload of them willing to represent her, for a fee.  Why does she need representation for what happened to your brother, anyway?  Sounds like he should not have fled the police.
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How painful!  Have your attorney push for a way to get him into parenting classes before he even gets a minute alone with your daughter.  Make the hoops he needs to jump through cost him something.  He's not been a parent and it stands to reason that he should learn something of the skills required before he takes your child even one day.  At one time my husband and I were discussing divorce and custody and he told me he was going to fight for custody and I told him to be ready to pee in a jar ***** which backed him RIGHT off.  Have a talk with your daughter and let her know that she can tell you anything at anytime, even if her father tells her to keep it a secret or he's threatened her.  Let her know that she can always tell you anything and that the only reason grown-ups make little kids keep secrets is because the grown-up is doing something he's not supposed to.  That way, if he does do the unthinkable, you stand a much better chance of knowing soon and getting help immediately.  Just something to keep in mind.  Also, he will not now or ever get full custody of your child as long as your own nose stays clean.  The courts reeeaaaaalllllly see no reason to remove a child from their primary custodial parent unless there is some darn good reason.  It should be mentioned that he's chosen not to have any emotional attachment to this child by choice and that though he is her father, he is a stranger to her too.  Push for supervised visitation for a term of not less than 8 weekly visits.  Really.  It can be pointed out that it is not just in the child's best interests but also in the father's.  Talk to your attorney about a guardian ad lidum.  If the father is not current in child support, see if you can defray his visitations until he IS current.  Your attorney should know allllll this and should be able to fight hard on your child's behalf.
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I was kinda in the same situation your half sister is in.I was seeing and moved in with a man everybody was warning me about.The more they said to me about him , the more I tried to make it work.It didn't take long for me to find out they were right and I left him one day while he was at work.I packed everything I could get int my car and left.If this man you are talking about is really a bad person, your half sister will see it. Just back off and let things happen.Nobody wants to hear "I told you so" That might be what's pushing her into the relationship.If things get out of hand with the kids and you KNOW he is hurting them in any way, maybe you should turn him in and let the law handle it.If he can't see his own 2 kids there is definitely something wrong there. Good luck!!
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Agreeing with the girl above.  Esp. about the journal.  Keep track of EVERYTHING.\n\nMy guess is also that it is a scare tactic.  Instability??? Please, is PRISON stable??? \n\nIf he has not supported the child, seen him, etc., you have nothing to worry about. Forget the joint custody the girl above mentioned, I would fight for supervised visitation if he gets to see the child at all.\n\nI am wondering where he got the $$ for any atty.\n\nHere is where you can also find a little comfort in the fact that courts like to keep kids with their mothers.\n\nYou do need to get a lawyer.  If you cannot afford one contact your local bar assocaition or pro bono program.  If you cannot get a lawyer fast enough, go to the court and file for a continuance.  DO NOT GO TO COURT ALONE!!\n\nBut as far as having any concerns about losing your child, I certainly wouldn't sweat it.  I know its hard not to worry, but if you are telling the whole story, he doesn't have a chance...
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I'm sorry for the loss of your friend, who made a bad choice to fix a temporary problem with a permanent solution. It is unlikely your arrest would give you the chance to confront any of the same ones you blame, or that they would heed your words, and an arrest would, if anything, reduce the respect of your opinion you seek. Mourn, then let it go- there is no other good choice here. Peace to your heart
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Some friends and I have a hobby of teaching guys like him a lesson-Tell her to get out! go to a battered womans shelter a couple of counties away-and file charges-or contact me and if we are close or if I have any associates close, the situation may well take care of itself.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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Although I don't agree with the idea of you aiding this guy, you may want to call social services (or whatever they call it in your state) at the prison.  They will be able to answer all your questions and guide you in the right direction.  Good luck and make sure you keep those daughters safe whatever you do with him.
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He is trying to play games and you should report the attorney that told you not to contact the office again . you can report them to the bar association they might also be playing games. good luck and god bless you.
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Apparently talking and being nice and putting up with him, doesnt work. Maybe you should get the police to ask him to leave. Or you could throw his stuff out, not sure if you could get a restraining order- if you can go for it! It's quite evident that he's brining you nothing but hurt. Make a stand now for you and your kids.\nThe sooner he is out, the better you will be able to get on with your life. Once that's done, for GOD's SAKE, DONT LOOK BACK!
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If he ever threatens you with bodily harm or anything, file for a restraining order or protective order.  Given his criminal history, it may be possible for him to only be allowed court supervised visitation of the child.  You were right to demand that he only see the child during the court oredered visitation.  Do not feel one bit guilty about that.  As for the money, if the child is old enough to listen to what he says, the child is old enough to listen to what you say as well.  Tell the child that the money is what he is required to pay for supporting his child and it is not stolen, but is his responsibility to pay so you can feed the child.  That is honest.  Don't bad-mouth the father to the child.  Just state the facts without emotion.  Kids are pretty smart and can put it together. :o)\n\nDo be careful.  You might consider making sure you have good locks on your home and keep it locked all the time to protect yourself.  The law is on your side, so stick to it.  Don't play his game.  I told my ex that I wasn't his wife anymore and didn't have to fight with him, but that he could contact my attorney and/or the state child support office.  They get paid to deal with him so I don't have to.  You don't have to fight with your ex either.\n\nIf he ever threatens you bodily in any way.... take legal action immediately.  Do not hesitate to call the police and file a protective order.  We all have heard the horror stories of what twisted men do to women they supposedly "loved" at some point.  Be careful and use wisdom.\n\nBest Wishes,\n\nSue
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its their own life.....let them do what they want.....the brother should be aware of his wifes whereabouts.....if u tell one the other might blame u for things.....and u'll be the center of the mess (and perhaps the divorces')