She was pretending to be from the same country as him and he started talking to her. They kinda...clicked, and after a while she told him the truth. He was devestated, and told her that his family has a tradition where they pick his wife. An arranged marriage thing. He said he had wanted his parents to meet her and they could see how great she is, and they might have let him marry her. \nThey know what will happen...and Ive been talking to him...he says it has. He says they found someone. He asked me for help in how to tell her and i don't know how so...that's what I wanted to know. How does he break it to her? She's not exactly a hugs and kisses make everything better person.
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He needs to just tell her the truth. Not that she did in the beginning but, every person deserves the truth even if it is hard to hear.
633011
That is just inviting problems, deception and breaking trust in your family unit. He has some serious issues and needs some counselling. I would never accept it. No wonder he isn't getting any love from his family, they don't trust or respect him.
53883
hey I can completely relate to this question!  I agree with another answerer in asking the question they posed- how long have you known her? My situation is very similar in fact I dont know if I really DO know her last name yet.  She had some real jerks in her life and to get away from them (one actually) she went thru a program and they got her a fake name- kinda like the witness protection program in a way.  It would be very hard for someone like this to trust us guys after all shed been thru. Just bear with her, and yes the lies may be defensive necessities for her.  If you are any kind of man that she would need, you will HAVE to give her time to trust you (thats what I am working on too right now with the girl of my dreams)- show her that she is worth the wait and that you are worth her trust.  You are lucky she is even OPEN to talking to ANY guys right now if her situation is anything like MY beautiful princess' situation is.  I will wait for her and be there for her because I do love her.  She may need you more than you know to help her heal from past experiences.
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If she knows about his past and still wants to marry him let her.  She is clearly too stupid to listen to any advice.  She must be desparate to hook up with a three-time loser like your dad.  Wish her well but warn her that he is a born cheater and she too will be cheated on.
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i can tell you one thing, i have been in your shoes. when my husband and i first got together his mom and his sister hated me. and that was ok because the feeling was mutual. he basicaly looked at his mom and told her "hey this is the girl i want to be with, forever, and if you don't like it that to f** bad. " His mom wasn't very happy with this. he moved out of the house and moved in with me. She only saw him on holidays because he didn't want anything to do with her if she wasn't going to accept me. And yes i know it has to do with "taking away her baby boy" blah blah blah. His mom didn't like me until 2 yrs later when i gave birth to her granddaughter. Mind you, we were already married. So my advice to you is be kind, be nice and take it with a grain of salt. If he loves you then he will be the one to step up and say somethig to his family. He'll be a man about the situation and explain to everyone that you are the one for him and they need to accept you and respect you and the relationship that he has with you. Good Luck!
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Hey buddy you better think twice the same girl wants to marry me. Seems a little sacm going on. Here is a part of a msg that was sent to me also have some nice pic of this young lady. Contact me if you have any questions. Anyone does any interdating they better check that person out good before going on and thinking something is there.Hey my email address vince3987@yahoo.com contact me if you think I am full of it.\n\nMy dear Vinny, I often think about you and about our relations.\nIt\nseems to me that every day we become closer. We know more about\neach\nother and I like all that you wrote me. So, I will go home now to\nthink about this all. I hope I did not confused you with my\ndream.\nWhat do you think about this all?\n\nYes, maybe we can have post address of each other here is my and I wait\nyours.\n433210 Russia,\nCity: Karsun\nStreet: Lenina\nHouse: 29\nShahurina Irina\n\nHug you, Irina
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It was before they got married so tell her to drop it.and let her cry on your shoulder,until she gets it all out.it want do any good to say anything to him.they weren't married at the time ,probably just a last fling .
230896
Why dont you talk to her parents, they might appreciate the honesty.\n\nThen they can tell her that they dont want her to talking to older men.
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Well first of all this is coming from someone that is actually marrying someone she met on line in July! Call me crazy, but some people are just meant to meet in different ways than others! We met on line in July met in September he didnt tell his family and my family was like no way! But it just felt right i met him and he was amazing! he moved from Vegas to Utah and we met in september engageged in November and Marrying in July! Go with your heart! Eventually parents will understand once they meet you!
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some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!
228417
How about you stay out there and stop bringing immagrants to our country. They only come to scrounge off the state. Did you pay her to marry you? Not normal love if she aint even met ur family yet, Bless you lol
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well he might be sayin this dont seem right cuz its like in the family  thing but his body is sayin the cuzin pleases me , understandable , its a strange feelin,been there before ,but morality sinks in some times and takes over,but if he is trying to throw signs  then duu is probly just selfish and out to please himself  thinking he can get both ,but if youve moved on then dont worry bout him,but at least respect your cuzin to let her know if he does try,and if she dont know yall was a thing then it might help to be honest with her cuz im sure she dont wanna be hurt by someone who dont care ,but then again stand bac cuz they might actualy have something serious and he does care for real ,so it wouldnt be coo to mess wit dat,and if it didnt bother you you wouldnt have spoke up,so just ignore it  as best as you can ,itll pass
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She should evaluate their relationship....what really is important for him? Why after seven years ans telling her he wants to marry wouldn't he want her to meet his parents? What does he has to hide? is he hiding something? All in all she should value herself...a man that really loves a woman will not push her to do something she is not sure to do...he will respect her decisions and believes and if she does not wants to have sex before marriage...which I think is something very important for her...he should respect that decision...
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She is a daddy's girl, spoiled rotten, and wants to control her father, no one will never be good enough for her dad. Yes you can have a successful marriage with this man. But he has got to be a man, he does not have to let her control, who he sees, wants, or be with. She did her own thing, did he have to approve her marriage? If you make him happy, and that the two of you love each other, then he needs to do what he want. You need to ask him, if you are wasting your time, on a man, who has to have his daughters approval, on everything? Ask him, Don;t you have a right to know who you want to be with? Her father need to get her straight, once and for all, He needs to tell her, that he has been a good father to her, she did not want for nothing, now she is a married woman, it is time she stays out of his affairs, and let him live his life. Now he has to be a man. And know what he wants out of life! Now he needs to know he does not have to please her. He does not have to be upset, because she does not like you. You are not marrying her!  Honey! I wish you well!
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NOOOO, don`t ever make him decide. If he chooses than it needs to be without YOUR help!\nI think his mother was way out of line with that comment. Try not to worry too much about it, it sounds like you have a great boyfriend there! If you want you can have a talk with her and tell her that you didn`t mean to "step on her toes", you are simply in love with her son and wanted to be with him on this important day.
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Yeah, I can understand, I had the same problem. Maybe he could talk to just one person at first, someone he's particularly close to, ask them to keep it to themselves for the time being, and see how they feel about it. Indians can be fiercely protective of their cultural identity, and might oppose cross-cultural marriage for that reason. On the other hand, many Indian families today aren't too conservative, especially ones that have moved abroad, so he might find less resistance than he thinks.
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GOOD IDEA.\nWE ARE THE LARGEST USERS OF YAHOO.\n\nONCE I TOO THOUGHT THE WAY YOU DID.\n\nONE INDIAN GIRL TOLD IN YAHOO THAT HIS HUSBAND IS A HEART PATIENT AND HE IS NOT FIT FOR MARRIAGE LIFE.\n\nONE FOREIGNER REPLIED.."GET THE FUCKING MACHINE..OR TELL YOUR ID?"\nIT MAY NOT BE A WRONG ANSWER TO HIM.\nBUT THE GIRL MIGHT SHOCKED.\nIF WE HAVE A SEPERATE CATAGORY FOR INDIAN FAMILY AFFAIRS, THAT WILL BE MORE USEFUL.