Can any one please tell how to have controll on my mind..iam really shame to say but what to day,my mind gets some times so dirty ,and i just think of girls only and sometimes i just get think of my own sister (having sex with her)...and that is really not good,can you please tell me how to controll it and not think such bad things again iam 18 years old,,,,,,,,,,,,please help me.
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Pray for God to help you.\n\nHe helps me with all kinds of things. Ask Jesus into your heart, and His Spirit will help and guide you!
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You can't live your life trying to please others and worrying what they think about you. Just be who you are, you sound pretty confident and self assured. You go girl!
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Doesn't sound like a good plan to me. I like my thoughts to stay to myself. I often think to myself (especially around my boss) I would really like to tell you off or something in that sense. But I pretend to be a good girl and don't say anything to offend others.
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whatever rocks your boat, hun. I mean you are extremly young to be even thinking about sex. If you feel that you are ready and safe, then just be yourself. Don't care what nobody else think of you.
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My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
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There are several ways to control it. And if you don't control / stop it now you will loss your vigour, and you will loss your memory power, your nerve system will become weak, Finlay you will not be able to satisfy your wife. \nfirst the general ways. stop sleeping alone, stop seeing prone sights, pictures, if you are an alcoholism and masturbating it is still worst. \nthe things you see, and imagine are also main cause. i am sure you look at girls with lusty eyes. avoid. \nthen learn little mind control methods. contact me if you are near Chennai.\nThe only best way is to surrender to JESUS, ask HIM help you,\nwash your mind, soul, have a inner healing by the Precious Blood of JESUS.\nJESUS LOVES YOU.
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Seriously...talk to someone outside of your family. Alot of people have these same thoughts. Everything builds up inside you and when you let it all out, you keep thinking about it over and over. If you talk to your family DR they might be able to refer you to someone. Good luck!!!!
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okay daddy's girl...\n\nobviously, you really like this guy..\nand that's good...\n\nand i'm guessing that you are constantly thinking about\nwhat your fantasy-guy said..\nthat you're too negative and not nice...\n... don't think about it any more...\nif he wants you, then he should learn to get around that...\n.. because, although he may think you're too negative\nand too cold, that's what really turns him on..\n\n.. he doesn't want a girl who's all nice and easy\nand stuff like that... he wants competition..\nhe wants his friends to know that he has a girl\nwho doesn't like any other guys but himself..\n... so be the one you really are.. don't change for him..\n\ngodspeed
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It is all in your mind,you have to do something about it...\nyou have to talk with someone who is an expert
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You can stop the conscious mind from thinking, but not the unconscious mind.\n\nTo reach that state, you need to clear your mind of whats troubling it.  The easiest (though by no means is it easy) way to go about it is to take up meditation.
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hey take a chill pill.... its absolutely normal to fantasize bout another girl.... dont feel bad about it. be aware of your sexuality and preferences. live the way u wanna live.... n dream wat u want.... u live only once... so live life to the fullest.
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My girl is the same way and I am 23. It's sorta weird for me not to be in control of when we have sex. I believe if she didn't want to have sex so much then I would. Its a weird situation but I think its true.
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Please take this advice with a grain of Salt.   I had to myself. \n\n""It is said" that If the same thing keeps happening to you. The problem lays with YOU not everyone else.  ""\n\nThere is something that you're projecting or doing that is a turn off.  Your sister's comments might be a clue.   I am sorry but until you change that you will continue to get the same reactions. Seek the advice of someone you trust, or if you can bear it ask a recent party for their honest assessment.  \n\nOnce you have answers, you'll have the knowlege base to possibly avoid the triggers in the future, ........that is if you are willing to change.   And I know, that Change Ain't Always Easy.
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You are ashamed of something.Your mother may have made you think it was bad to have sex.Our subconscious mind is very powerful and this could be answered quite quickly by a good Psychiatrist.This is not a serious matter but if it continues to bother you it could be.These things tend to become normal after many years of acceptance.I would take the time to sort it out now so it is dealt with and you can loose the possible guilt.Unresolved issues become problems.Best of luck to you!
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Girl my thoughts are 100% the same with yours. Down with casual sex! People need to grow up and be a man. Having no self control or being a coward by giving into pressure does NOT make someone a man but more like an animal or a child.
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It is possibly the most wrongest thing you could do to keep entertaining thoughts of your AUNTIE. \nThis is wrong on so many levels. \nYou need to pray, a lot, for Allah to relieve you of these evil urges.
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Controlling your feelings takes practice. You start with making a decision to do it. Then, every time you feel a certain way, you remember that you want to stop feeling that way. Then, you replace that feeling with something positive. For instance...you want to stop feeling shy. You find someone who's not shy and see how they are. If they are someone you want to be like, you do like they do. Hopefully, it's a person who is mature for their age and a positive influence for you to follow. Then, you start making the changes that are needed to overcome your shyness. Join a club at school, like chorus. Join an after school club, like 4H. Get involved with volunteer work, where there are lots of people. Fairly soon, you won't feel shy around others because you'll be too busy enjoying their company. You will have conquered your shyness. Now, if your problem is anger, that's something a little more difficult. You'll have to try to understand why you're angry and how it happens. Anger usually happens when you feel out of control of a situation that another person caused. You have to first realize that you can't control another person. You can try, either hitting them or some other extreme thing. But that puts you in their control because they just caused you to do something you didn't need to do. You could have walked away, ignoring them. Anger is a choice, just like any other emotion. You can choose to not________ (fill in the blank with whatever emotion you have). It's a want, not a need. Feelings come and go. The person you "fell" in love with a month ago, you can't stand now. They did something that made you mad. Actually, YOU chose to be mad...no one can make you anything you don't want to be. If someone calls you a dork, that doesn't make you one. It's someone else's feelings, not yours. If you then start feeling like they're right and you are a dork, you just accepted their feelings as yours. You see what I'm saying? By choosing to change, you don't have to feel any way that is less than great. After all, God didn't make junk. You are a wonder of God's creation. <*)))><