I met this guy named Jeff on Yahoo like a month ago. That whole month we talked like all the time. Hes in the Marines and he had to go off somewhere because hes got to go to Iraq in June. He calls me like once every week now, and all week I feel depressed until he finally calls me. I feel like I'm about to cry when I come home from somewhere and I see that I've missed his calls. When he leaves messages on my cell, I save them. Its crazy. I've seen him on his webcam and talked to him a lot but is it possible for me to be in love with him and I haven't even saw him face to face before. I talk to my friends about him. I have something that I'm hiding from him though. This secret will kind of make him not want to talk to me anymore if he finds out. What should I do about the whole thing?
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Yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone without ever seeing them. I actually like to think of it as one of the purest forms of love. :)\n\nAs far as your secret goes, it really depends on the secret. If you're married, you probably shouldn't have been talking to him like a love interest in the first place. If you have a child or something, that's nothing to worry about. If you are both married and have a child, CEASE COMMUNICATION IMMEADIATELY! lol Anyway... \n\nI would have to say that you should tell him this secret. If you can't be completely open with him, then it really isn't meant to be. Trust me. Lies and secrets will ultimately destroy a relationship. Someone eventually finds out. Just tell him, otherwise you'll be stuck in this situation for a while. If he doesn't want to talk to you anymore, it really wasn't meant to be. If he still does want to talk to you, you two will be much better off for it. :) Either way, my point is that you cannot fight what will inevitably happen. If you don't tell him, he will find out eventually...\n\nSo go do the right thing. :)
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This is tough because of what you said...you're still in love with him (how long were you guys dating?).  You need to find ways to distance yourself from him, and to do other activities which will take your mind off him.  Hang out with other friends, go take a class on something, do something fun and exciting.  If he calls you as much as you may want to talk to him you need to not answer the phone...in time you'll feel comfortable being separate and may have a chance at being friends then, but if he's playing games with you you need to avoid the situation as much as possible.
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Yeah...it sounds familiar ...I have an ex who tried the same...basically you have to set boundaries as it's not appropriate for him to visit you given his feelings and the fact that you're committed to another man. Tell him to use the phone or mail to communicate but don't expect him to go away -it's been 18 years since my ex has been doing this but as he's basically harmless I haven't really cared. The important thing is -is your ex harmless? Or is he someone who may act on his obsession? Finally I want to say -be sure you're not sending mixed signals...I've seen too many women not be clear about their wishes only to whine or press charges later when it's their fault for not being direct in the first place! Be honest with him and tell him to scram! There's my advice...I hope you take it! Edit~ I got your mail....If you hate him as you say AND HE HAS 'HURT YOU SO BAD' then why are you putting up with him then? Get a restraining order! Call the police and file a complaint and ask them to tell him to stay away! I thought maybe you still liked him on some level but since that's not the case you need to be pro active! Don't sit here on yahoo talking about it-do something about it -and I mean right now-today! Make sure you don't regret not doing anything!!!!!!!!! Everyday you let this go on-you encourage him more, and give him hope and he will become more relentless! You have been warned!
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The best thing to do is not rush anything.  That is what freaks guys out the most. You can paint paintings but do that kind of thing in moderation.  Don't smother or be clingy.  Resist the temptation to go all goo goo gaa gaa over him right off the bat.  It isn't wrong to feel that way about someone just keep some of it under wraps for right now. If it lasts there will be plenty of time for that later.  Just take a deep breath and relax. If you get some big bubbly surge of lovey dovey feelings just bite a pillow or write it in a journal.  Don't call him and go "I looooove you much I don't know what to do!"  Don't go to the extreme of pretending you don't like him either. It works for some guys but to others it is a turn off. Good luck.
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perhaps you should stop reading things into it, don't try to figure out what he's thinking.  Come straight out and be honest with him, "look, I said those things because I was confused.  I feel foolish, and you may not want to hear it, but the truth is that..."  if he is any kind of a man, he will hear you out.  Don't play games, if he is worth fighting for, be straightforward.  He heard what you told him and he took you seriously.  Don't try to "make him call", just seize the opportunity and do so yourself.  If he accepts an intelligent whole-hearted apology and he feels the same, it was meant to be.  Next time, don't be so impulsive!
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You are so young so don't limit yourself to someone that isn't making you happy.  If you are truly thinking long term with this guy, it's important that you get some sort of sign from him that he's willing to stay committed to you ALL THE TIME.  Being 25, I can see why he still hangs on to his girls numbers, etc. which isn't a sign of anything to be honest but it seems fishy that he would not pick up the phone when you call.  You should be one of the more important things in his life and should always answer your calls.  It's the least that he can do.\n\nI think since you guys have been together 6 months, you guys should still be in the "cloud 9" phase and he should be all over you.  At least in my experience it lasts for about 8 months.  Only someone who doesnt' appreciate you or someone who doesn't dig the relationship anymore would do things he is doing now.\n\nI think you are doing what is right.  He obviously knows what he's doing is wrong.  He said so.  Knowing that, the question is, do you want to be with someone who knows he's screwing up with the relationship and still does it?  I don't know how frequently he does this to you but if he knows and still does it, either he's addicted to doing whatever it is he's doing or he doesnt' care for you enough to change.  Ask yourself whether you want a guy who won't change for you when he knows that what he does is wrong.
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Why are you dating him? To raise your self esteem?\n\nPeople can't lower or raise your self esteem only you can!\n\nIf you can't love you then no on will!\n\nStop being overexcessive about nothing. Think of better things, so what if he doesn't call? Are you going to just stay there and be depressed, when he probalbly just forgot?\n\nIt doesn't mean anything unless you want it to be!
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Well if he's not calling you back then I would stop calling him. Just keep up the emails if you feel like it. Maybe if you stop calling him he will start to wonder why and he will think to call you. But I doubt he thinks your needy...he probably is just busy and since you are out of sight you are out of mind. Ya know? No biggie though. Just find a man in your area, because most people aren't into long distance relationships. gooooood luck.
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Missing someone and not being able to see or talk with them is so horrible, because you feel so helpless and you feel as if there will be no end to your pain.  Can you email or write to him?  It may not be the ideal situation (because you want to be with him), but it will help--and although I know you won't believe this, you will eventually feel better and maybe even meet someone new.  He will never be like the one you left behind, but it will be ok--I know, because I've been there.  Take care...
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Don't ever let anyone control your mind like this. He might just be busy. Let him chase you. Don't call or text him until he calls or texts you. Date other people. If he wants you he knows where to find you and how to make it known. Let him work for you! You're a queen aren't you?
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It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
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Its kind of like losing the best friend you never had. I don't like dating, so i kind of know where your coming from. I get very nervous when im around any guy taht i like. But just because he moved away, doesn't mean you let him go. The next time you see him, you might want to have one of your friends get his number, email, myspace. anything that could be away for you to keep in touch with him. Friends is always a good step to being something more. So try this out and see if it works.
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YOU WASTE ALL YOUR TIME OBSSESSING ABOUT HIM BE-CUZ YOU REALLY LIKE HIM AND CAN'T LET HIM GO. I GUESS HE LEFT YOU WITH SOMETHING THAT NO OTHER GUY HAS LEFT YOU WITH AND THAT WHAT MAKES HIM SO SPECIAL TO YOU. JUST TELL HIM AND IF HE PUTS YOU DOWN THEN JUST LEAVE HIM. HE'LL COME BACK AROUND AND REALIZE YOU WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO TELL HIM. THAT'S JUST MY GUESS THOUGH.
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Be his friend, write to him and send care packages while he is deployed.  Let him know you would be happy to come visit him when he returns from his tour.  Right now, be a good friend.  He doesn't have amnesia.  He remembers what you previously told him.  Perhaps this will be a good "testing" ground to see how you would handle deployments.  Maybe he was hesitant to get "involved" with you because he didn't want to put a "girlfriend" though a tough deployment.  Show him you got the moxie to stick it through (being his friend)....and then when he returns who knows...he may change his mind when he sees you can "handle it"....Remember...be upbeat, encouraging, help keep his spirits UP.  Show him you got the "stuff" to handle it.  Good Luck!
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wow this is tough. is he single? if he is than you should tell him how you feel. but b4 just try to talk to him on the phone and hang out whenever you can. Jus dont drop the bomb on him like that. Jus say exactly how you feel because if don't tell him soon than somebody else will have him. And jus be brave and have confidence. and for the long distance part it can work out if both people put in the effort to make it work.
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Well, as an MUNER, I've seen this happen. It's lucky that you were admin because if that note had been confiscated, there would be consequences. Anyways, you are right in asking him straight off would scare him. You don't really know this guy, do you? It seems like 2 or 3 weeks at most  and you already say he's NOT the player type. Maybe he is. If he really liked you, he would have called. This guy is not a perfect gentleman as he hasn't fulfilled his promise to call. I think he's keeping you as a safety as he flirts with you online but not in a more meaningful way. He maybe interested in another girl. There are other guys out there. Good luck.
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i think you are playing games with your own mind. honestly, not to sound sarcastic. but in my eyes you are really overanalyzing the whole situation. just breathe, stretch, shake and let it go. relax. if he calls, he calls, if not then oh well. act on your feelings. do what feels right to you-----not what you think he'll most likely respond to.