There has been a distinct change in a good friendship. There is definitely something in the air and lately the big thing is instead of a quick hug good bye, it's a lingering one with back rubbing. Not unwelcome, I have to add!
202863
Like me, he's a MAN.  We like to touch women, it's built in like breathing.  Tell him you like it and rub his back next time.  Sheesh!
495832
yes and think it can be a great extension to the friendship as long as good boundaries are set before hand, this can work out really good and has for me a couple times over... do you hear these close minded people...( It can be a very good thing if both people are mature enough to handle it.)
397669
i know how you feel. my friend did the same thing and unfortunately she has changed alot and we are not close like we used to be. but that doesnt mean that it has to be that way for you too( hopefully it wont! )\n\nat first my friend was confused i would try to help her out as much as i could and now i guess shes made up her mind (she has a gf now) and i just let her do her own thing. \n\nits sad becuase we hardly talk like we used to.  oh well what can you do
505925
I would say that is normal. Often great romances and happy married couples grow from long friendships.  I hope the  feelings of more than friendship are reciprocal and you both have a happy life.
170453
I understand what your going thru. My best friend is doing the same thing to me. I called her in November to ask her if she wanted to go out for her b-day and she hasn't called me since. I did find out that she is getting married(through a mutual friend) I have no idea what's going on w/her either. Like an earlier answer said, I'm sure she is probably dealing with something in her life right now that she doesn't feel so great about. Maybe she feels too bad to talk to you about it? Maybe she thinks you'll judge her. I would just do what I did. I called my best friend a couple of weeks back and left her a message on her cell. I told her that I didn't know what was going on but I still loved her and cared about her very much. We've been friends for 13 years and I have never judged her for anything she has done in the past and she can come to me with anything. After you've done that, all you can do as back off and give her some space. If she's truly the friend that you think she is(and like I think my best friend is) she'll come around. Just let her know that you are worried about her and want to make sure she's ok. If she continues to be this way, maybe you're better off without her. That's what I've decided.
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Ouch!!\n\nOK to me you are doing the right thing in being honest and stopping the sleeping part of your new found friendship with this lady but I cant help feel this new friend is trying emotional black mail on you if she is living with her ex as you mentioned and who isn't to say she isn't sleeping with him why she has been with you?\nI would be more concerned about STD in this situation than her letting go.\nJust stand your ground and be firm and stick to what ever you decide.\nI think your current relationship will rekindle if you both put time and effort into it like you are.\nThey say a break is as good as a holiday.\nSadly some people can think they are in love because they are craving for any type of attention which they could be lacking in there own life or present relationship so they go and search for it else were.\nWe are all guilty of that at some point of time in our life! If we are honest.\nSo once someone nice like you seem comes along and gives them that attention and gives them the inner emotional needs like sex or comfort,then financial help and any other type of assistance whether its companionship or just a cuppa and chat and most times can be taking out of context making it hard for you in this case to break away or "get away".\nSadly some people cry wolf when they see another vulnerable person like them selves which is an easy target to latch on to.\nAs she has found with you!\nPlease just end this other connection with this other lady but sadly I cant help feel she may start giving you a hard time if not your partener of 2 years. \nAs she will feel jealouse of you going back to her and most probly wonder what is wrong with her for you to leave her after a month but honestly this her thinking and doing and not yours.\nDont fall for any emotional words as they are based on making you feel guilty..\nBe strong..And good luck.
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I would be glad that you guys are still friends and just keep her close. Let her feel not just know that you are there no matter what....when guys do her wrong...or when she's scared...or sick or just needs someone to listen to her. That's more then anything you could give her at this time. She'll soon see if the love is true that you've been buy her side ever since...in due time. Both of you will grow and she'll see that so whatever rocky issues you guys had, you now can get over how-ever you all choose.
289942
i think good for you.. he obviously cares and I think  that is wonderful. keep up the friendship and when the timing is right.. you 'll know if there is more to it.
386878
give the best friend a hug
109367
Going through this right now with one of my best friends and the dumbest part is we are in our 30's (way too old for this crap) anyway, I have decided to let it be for now, but I assure you while I won't be a complete jerk to her I have no desire to be as close as we were, because obviously she doesn't value our friendship the way that I do or this would not have happened.
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Love is a connection on a deeper level than friendship. It has a component that is committed and loyal. You love usually when you share values and attitudes. You love when you can disagree and still be respectful of the other person's opinions. Though I use it in reference to my old cat too. He liked being around me and being cuddly. The current cat  I'm just friendly with heh.
37893
this sounds just like a girl i considered my best friend in high school, even though i knew that if the table was turned she'd not do the same for me.  this was 10 yrs. ago. in retro-spect; while she was my friend, she wasnt the best friend. lack of appreciation and also i think respect.  you dont have to let go, but see for what it is. stay open to other people that will be as good a freind to you.
507883
You obviously have an awesomely amazing friendship. Girls seem to be more in tune, with one another...in comparrison to guys being in tune with girls. I can see how this attraction came to be. I'm sure its been quit awkward. If the two of you don't want to loose your friendship, you should try and discuss the issue. Perhaps you could get her a card, or something light...that lets her know, that whatever happens, you will always be there for her. You could talk about your attraction to one another...and find out if it was just curiousity or if it involves more. Regardless, let her know, that you will always be her friend. No matter what. She is probably just as shocked as you. I've always believed that women could relate to women on a more "natural" level...you've both got in you you...you both owe it to yourselves to get to the bottom of this. I wish you the best. I'm sure it will be a Halloween to remember!
79481
It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.\nSo I'd leave it and be open to something new.  If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more.  Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.\nIf after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it.  He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.\n\nGood luck!!
255307
definitely not normal... it depends on the nature of your problem... try to rectify it... no point in losing a friend over a tiny RANDOM squabble...
466251
LOL good one.\n\nAnd yes a BIG HUG!
410397
if you guys are friends then it shoudl be ok.  friends hug all the time.....if you hug her and you can tell she disliked it then don't do it anymore....but chances are it shouldn't be a problem.....so hug away!