i went through a terrible time in my first college year so i don't know what to do? i have terrible marks and at high school i had great marks!\n\nDuring my first year i went through a sexual harrasment case and someone in my family died so WHAT DO I DO???
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just go back, and work hard.  When you are looking for jobs in 4-5 years, no one will care about your grades as a frosh.  Suck it up, do the work, and get a job.  It works every time.  You would be suprised to find out how many successful people struggle at some point during their education.
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I have actually been through something very similar to this situation in my High School Days, where I was accused of doing things that I was would never ever do.  It turned most of my friends against me (or people I thought to be my friends).  It also caused a downturn in the relationship with  the girl that I loved, and it made our relationship very rocky at the time.  Her friends were so hell bent on breaking us up on all accounts and after about 3 years of trying they finally suceeded.  Things like this had made me learn a few things....  \n\nIf you have become an outcast in your group, then screw them.  They obviously do not know the real you and that is now their own problem.  Let them get a new friend to replace you.  Eventually if you didn't do anything wrong, people will come around and realize who was really right and who was really wrong.  And after a certain point, it won't matter anymore.  When you are done with the high school years, you will most likely only have 2 or 3 true friends and if they can't stick by your side now, they surely won't be there when you graduate.   The thing is is just to be yourself.  You can be nice, but be firm and don't give in to the first person just because your desperate to get back in the group.  Its not worth the time nor the effort....\n\n~Chris~
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I know how you feel my mum and i went through the same thing except she didn't have a child by him.She got married i did try to warn her but to no avail there is nothing else you can do except be there for her.my mum divorced after a year and moved away.I'm happy for you with your grades at least there not going down the pan.I am shocked she is still with him after saying he would be happy if you was dead.Hope you can make her see sense good luck xx
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You know, age 13 and 7th grade was my absolute worst year, ever.  Congrats on surviving it!  Just breathe, it'll all sort itself out soon enough, you don't need to worry about it or be confused.
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Definitely do tell people about it! My daughter was bullied at school, and hated life until she was moved. Talk to the school, BUT if they do nothing, then go right to the state teaching board (not 100% sure how things work in the US) but if the school does nothing, go right over their heads. My daughter had proof that this other student had stolen her wallet, yet the school didn't want to know about it, or the many other ocassions.
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Being a freshman and not knowing what you are going to do with the rest of your life is no problem, but failing a class and not knowing why very well could be.  You need to talk to the instructor and find the reasons for your poor performance and if there is any way to correct the situation.  A few professors are jerks, but by and large they love their work and want their students to succeed.  Most will help any way they can within reason.  I was in a similar situation in my freshman year - my high school simply did not prepare me for the class.  The instructor, seeing my ignorance, helped me drop the class with "special circumstances".  You'll never know if you don't ask.  Regardless, one bad mark will not keep you from your goals.  And yes, those who say see a counselor are right.
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You seem to come from a very religious home. So perhaps your parents have certain notions on how you should be educated.  This might  explain why they don't see how much this situation disturbs you.   I know it might be hard for you to see things this way, but you must believe in your heart that these things will pass.  This heartache will pass.  If  the head Nun or director of the school won't help you with  this situation, then it seems that you have no alternative  but to help yourself. The best way is to become oblivious to the name callings and the ill treatment by your classmates. While at school stay focus on your lessons, and  know in your heart that when you get older things will be a lot better.   They will get better because when you  become an adult\nyou can choose legally what your name should be . For now you  should become oblivious to the problems and only think of the  future,  Good Luck!
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Anyone can fail. It is time you learn how to fail and get a bad grade now rather than fail at your marriage or a close friendship later.\nHow should we handle failure, accept it and learn how to move on. We can fail, fall down and choke or we can fail, get up, whipe our selves off and deal with it.\n\nIt is best to tell your parents you need to talk to them one on one. Or maybe just one parent first. Explain to them why you got this grade and how it was too hard. Ask them how you can fix it. Tell them you feel bad that you have to tell them this bad news but it is stressful for you. Tell them you will try harder in this class. If was your fault and you will make it better.\nThey should understand as this is the adult thing to do. If they do not understand and get angry, please listen to them and tell them you are working on it. That is all you can do, try to do better.\n\nYou are not a failure. Anyone of us can mess up. It is the ones who act responsibly that try to fix it. Good Luck
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Tell the grandparents.  I've know people when I went to high school who did similiar things.  One commited suicide the other O.D.ed.  These problems only get worse as time goes by.
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Have you tried going to you counselour and asking for advice? Have you talked with your teachers for a way to pull your grade up? Most people are willng to work with you \nIF your genuine about achieving you degree, this might be hard since your on probation but IF you are genuine about your education you might be able to figure something out with your college board members, teachers, something.\nSorry probably wasn't much help.
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if this happened & you r sure of it go to the head office in your college..and tell them what you know...
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I did CC in high school, and it was the worst time i've ever had in my life even though i was the top runner. i think you should quit track. it realy doesn't sound like you're having a good time of it. i wish someone would have made me quit CC--my life would have been so much better!Waaay too much pressure. I've learned that all the things in HS i thought were such huuuge problems really aren't that big of a deal. If you want to talk sometime, i'm here. As for the phone thing....it won't last forever. Use the time you would've talked to friends to write in a journal, figure out things in your life.
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Well, I would have to assume you're from a small school. Chances are though that this guy will do to you as he has done everyone else. And that's hurt you in the end. If you're prepared for the emotional stress and mature enough to handle then go for it... You only live once!
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I've done that in the past 3 years.  You need to find yourself again.  Me and my ex-wife split and I had a difficult time getting on my feet.  But I eventuly did and everything is great now.  I'm going back to college and trying to make my life better.  Maybe a little to prove I can.  It may take time but don't give up and always remember you are a great person and can do great things.
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Well your first yr of college should be fun and be focused.  Concentrate on your studies and if you dont worry about finding a bf then that will come too.  Your first yr needs to be fun as well as dedicated to your studies.  When my first yr came along I was excited and nervous because it is a whole lot different then High School.  You have more hours of studying and a whole lot of non partying fun get my drift?  But keep your head up and you'll be doing a great first yr.
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Do some scholarship searching and get into college.  You'll find that its really a deja vu of high school, except without curfew and parental monitoring.  Its really cool and you will probably be happy there if you miss being a schoolkid.  College kids are just overgrown schoolkids.  As for what to major in, I can't tell you that - you'll have to figure out for yourself what you like to do and find the point where what you like intersects what you are GOOD at.    That will ensure that you can actually pass the courses in your major and get a good paying job after college.  (I changed majors a couple of times in college, trying to find the right thing for me.  So did a lot of people I know.  It seems to have turned out okay for everyone, so go ahead and experiment.)  Talk to a counselor to help with the depression if you can find one.  And keeping in touch with your high school friends will probably help you feel better as well.
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First, you need to calm down.  You cannot change the past - only learn from your mistakes (your failed grades).  Second, I would say maybe put the boyfriend thing on hold.  That can be a huge distraction.  What use is he if you cannot even share your problems with him?  He is probably sucking a lot of energy & emotion out of you & you don't need that.  You are too young.  Try to stay focuse on your goals - to continue getting good grades & yes, to make your parents proud.  They are paying for your education and that is no small responsibility.  Don't stay away from home -  you need to be around your family.  You need to make peace with them & get over the bad feelings before they grow and get worse.  Don't punish your little brother because you don't want to deal with your parents.  That is silly.  Not going to his swim meet is a choice that you have made (b/c ur mad at your parents??) so don't blame your parents for that!  Go home, tell them you are sorry for letting them down.  Ask for an opportunity to explain the situation & ask them to forgive you.  Tell them you feel overwhelmed & that you will continue to work hard.  That is all parents want to hear - you taking responsibility, not making excuses & not placing blame.\n\nWhen you feel so overwhelmed & don't know where to turn - pray and ask God for help & for direction.  He answers prayers.