I've met a very nice girl and I like a lot. I have told her nothing, but she has understood... But she does not live here and also virtually has a husband. I don't want to try anything (I see she appreciates my doing this). She is leaving on Sunday and today I saw her twice looking for me. I want to call her tomorrow, maybe invite her for something innocent (she loves ice-cream). I( don't want to try or say anything, but just want her to leave the country with a smile. How would any of the present ladies react to this? Can I add we took a long country walk on Monday and were alone for over six hours.
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you said that you like her, right? Thats enough for you to call her.
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Well she may be moving on she already stated she don't want a long distance relationship, and know that you have a "girlfriend" she may be trying to find her own that pause mean she has been dating but nothing serious.  But you opened up the possibility she can find someone too. You guys are good friends but I think the time isn't right for the both of you.  Not to say if you visit her she want come see you or vice versa, but i don't know what's going on in HER mind she would have to tell you that and just ask ! Email her and ask her for her honest opinion if you want more from her then you both can come to an agreement of what this relationship is truly going to be just friends or lovers!!!
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Hmmmmm.......not at the stadium? That's different. I had my baseball cap on and my foam finger in hand and my baseball glove in the other. I was soooooo ready for a day at Fenway! But at home we could still have fun. Be sure to write out for her all of the players......who is who. And talk her though the game. Share your enthusiasm with her. Your delight will be contagious. If she sees how excited you are by the game, she is sure to catch on will equal enthusiasm. I have no doubt that you both could enjoy this date more than anything you've ever done. (*cough* as long as you are for the Red Sox that is *wink*) Good luck!
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Okay, do-says and don't-says...\n\nDo-says:\n\n"Hi, I'm _______, a friend of ________."\n\n"I'd like to get to know you, if that's all right with you."\n\n"If you don't want to, I understand, but from what _______ told me, you sound like a pretty cool girl." (or something like that)\n\n"So, you got a name?" (if she hasn't told you)\n\n"So, is there a time that would be good to get together?"\n\n"Well, I look forward to getting to know you! Do you like _____? How about meeting me there?"\n\n"Yeah, and don't worry, if we hate each other, you can just boot me out the door okay?" (say it in a joking way, of course)\n\nDon't says:\n\nDon't say anything about any past relationships that you've had. That's private stuff that will come later, if the relationship between you guys works out, and it will probably make her feel uncomfortable if that's one of the first things that you start talking about.\n\nDon't start immediately blabbing on about you and your life. Leave some room for her too! If you're talking about your favorite sport, keep it short (don't go into the entire game record of your favorite team), and then ask her if she has a favorite sport. Keep her talking, and that will give her the impression that you really do want to get to know her.\n\nDon't lean too heavily on the fact that your friend referred you. In fact, keep from talking about that as much as possible, or it'll sound like you're just doing this because your friend said so, and that would be VERY offensive to her.\n\nBut other than that, be yourself, and have fun! Let her get to know you for who you really are, be friendly and open, and be mindful of everything she says, even if the conversation doesn't last very long. Make it a conversation to remember, but don't try to hard to make it that way, or it will turn out disasterously. Once you get it going, I think you'll be surprised at how natural the words will start coming to you. Especially if she is a nice girl! So just think it over, maybe jot down a few ideas for what to say on a piece of paper, and call her up. Good luck!
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If you are truly attracted to her, then at 8 tonight (if she hasn't contacted you by then) send her a text that says "Hey sexy/gorgeous/sweetie (something of that nature.) I was wondering, what are you doing tomorrow night? Would you like to go out again?"\n\nOr something like that. I'm sure you know how those things go. But anyway, you say that so you have a reason to get ahold of her WITHOUT seeming impatient or desperate. If she's really attracted to you, she should reply shortly and probably accept your invitation to go out again. \n\nGood luck with this - have fun!
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tell her the president called and he has to postpone his visit (duty calls!) and he will contact her at a future date to re-arrange the visit ;)....what harm can it do? will make her happy :).........
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I say any time after the first day I met you. Even the day after would be okay. As you can see from the array of responses you've received, every girl is different. Go with what you think is best but I would say give it, at most, two days. Anything after that, she's forgotten all about you. I hope this helps! :)
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What a kind thought! I'm very proud of you for considering it. Most people wouldn't...or I hope they would.....\nI would suggest a gift certificate to her favourite restaurant or shopping place. You might invite her out for a nice dinner also on the evening before you leave. She is being very kind and you, in turn, are kind to consider that.
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I love that!  I would say "thank you for expressing that..."  \n\nNow if it is someone you want to be with follow it up with "but talk is cheap, I would like to hear more on what your next step is."\n\nIf it is someone you do NOT want to be with follow it up with "...I did not know it was share the word love day."  and then leave it at that.\n\nBest of luck, but more importantly have fun!
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First of all, thank you for using spell check and forming complete sentences with actual words.  So many of the teenagers who ask questions write in such a way that the adults have no idea what it is they want.\n\nHave you ever spoken to this girl before?  If not, start NOW, before it is two days to the dance.  Find out some things about her.  If she thinks you are only asking her because she is beautiful, she'll think you're a jerk.  If you are genuinely interested in who she is and what she is about, you have a much better chance.  \n\nIf you already know a few things about her, use those in conversation.  Don't walk up to her and say "hey, would you go to the farewell dance with me" because you'll put her on the spot.  If she already has a date, she'll have to turn you down right then and there and make you feel bad.  Start a conversation with her.  Maybe tell her you like her outfit and that your sister's birthday is coming up and you'd like to get the same top for your sister, where'd she get it.  Or ask her for some suggestions for Mother's Day gifts.  Or if she has a dog, ask her about her dog.  People with dogs love to talk about them.  Start off with just a casual chat, like with one of your friends.  That will make it easier for both of you. Then once you're talking, you can ask her if she's going to the dance.  This way, if she already has a date, you will know it beforehand and save yourself the discomfort of asking and being told no.  \n\nGood luck.  I hope she says yes and that you have a great time.
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wow, calm it down turbo.\n\nwhat if her voicemail isn't working? what if she had a crazy week and couldn't call you back?\n\nleave a message with the date plans and tell her you can't wait to see her then.\n\ndon't be a spaz and overthink it too much.
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Love is treating me real bad. Three different women want to have sex with me this weekend, but ... \n1) one of them is married, and 2 live with boyfriends.\n2) I have a girlfriend who lives in another state. I haven't  cheated yet, why start now?\n3) I am skeptical of a woman who solicits sex from me. I just am. All the fun is in the chase. That is where intelligence comes in. How can I be subtle with a woman who is oblivious to the subtle things in life?\n\nThis may come as a surprise but I have had enough sex. I am ready to shut the game down, but every girl I meet thinks I am still a player.\n\nI'm serious I have got to have a girl with a brain; no compromise. I don't care beautiful a girl is. What I want to know is; can she spell beautiful?\n\nSo ...
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i'm sorry to hear usually women don't take rejections well at all.  you should reschedule when you had to cancel tell her hey can't today due to "insert important reason" but lets go out tomorrow or _______.  Don't just leave it at i'll call you.
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No insult here, but your runner up in the great sensual game of her life.  Of ALL the people she has met... YOUR SECOND.  The other woman ... SHE'S FIRST.  If the other woman didn't exist, you two would be romping around in sensual glee... but, my dear, you are Al Gore to her G.W.Bush.  Painful as it may be your 49% to her 51%.  If you can deal with that and WAIT until it MAY POSSIBLY SOME DAY GO BAD, then you are pathetic and don't have self esteem, because while she is deep down on the other girl, your going to be all alone eating bon bons and ben and jerries just waiting for your turn to taste her.  FIND SOMEONE THAT'LL MAKE YOU NUMERO UNO.  Don't settle for runner up in someone else's race. You want someone to say "You are the only person I have ever wanted to be with for my entire life."  Instead your waiting for "Now that the other girl is gone, hey lets have fun."  Grow some self worth, grow some balls, and find YOUR mate.  Go right now, find someone else.
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Exactly what you just did. Find a nice way to say it. Like maybe I am interested in someone else. And do not elaborate on it.You walk with your dignity as well as her keeping hers. Good luck. Post script. Question for you. What are you looking for on here? Be honest not only with yourself but to your friends online.
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greet her at the airport with her favourite snack and make sure she comes home to a clean house.  she'll be hungry and tired after such a long flight.  might not be romantic but be assured it will definitely be appreciated. that's what i'm hoping my hubby will do for me when i return from seeing my family in the us too.\n\n\ni have no real good suggestions but want to say she sounds like a lucky lass :)
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Last time I saw her was when she left my house last night...she was with me for the whole weekend...It was great.....and guess what??? Your name never came up so I don't know why you are looking for her...But I will tell her tonight when she comes back over for the night.....