What happens when woman do not want sex with her husband?
200782
Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
318528
they need to step back and re evaluate the situation. I applaud her for not wanting to have sex before marriage and hope she sticks to that. but if he doesnt want to marry the he really isn't in love with her. He needs to respect her wishes to marry, that is the only way in which she can truly feel he loves her enough to respect her. If he is that dead set against marriage then he may not be the one for her. yes she also need to think about what he wants and is she is willing to put her hole belief system on the line. is she willing to give up her beliefs and trash everything she wants to be with him? He's not going to why should she
618487
Unfortunatly I have been having an affair. I know its wrong and I shouldn't be doing it but my husband just doesn't satisfy me in the bedroom. I've talked to him about it and he is just unwilling to change how things are done in the bedroom.
534955
This is an awful situation. \n\nYou lie there with an erection, emabarassed not knowing what to do.\n\nYou have to ask her if you can kiss her, and see what happens.\nIf she says no, then you have to ask yourself what the point of the whole exercise is.\n\nThere are a good number of women who don't like sex out there.
153890
Good for you.  If the guy doesn't respect that get away from him. Many a girl would make a different choice if she had  chance at that "first time" one more time.  You can make a much better choice in a husband when sex is not a part of the equation. Sex is sex but a husband is for life and you cannot stay in the bed all the time.
602491
Emily, first before you can do anything about changing the way you feel you need to find out why he stopped wanting to have sex with you. Sometimes men see us as Mothers instead of a wife when we are pregnant and that stops them, when they are like it this it does break that bond as wife and husband. If he is cheating then you need to find out why he has done this to you and his daughter. Talk with him and not in a accusing way but just tell him how your feeling and that you want to get close to him again. I have no idea why a man would do this.
516893
I've been married for 14 years and also have 4 children.  I could go for months without sex!  \n\nIt is called EXHAUSTION!  There are days when I think to myself, if he touches me I will scream, literally!  After a day of "Mom, I'm hungry, Mom, take me to practice, Mom, he hit me, Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom!!!, I'm lucky to get a shower, let alone actually be in the mood for sex.  Don't stress about it.  There is nothing wrong with you, it is just a natural part of being a mom.  It will get better, won't it???  No, it will.  Just try to force yourself to do your wifely duty when you can, and eventually you will actually WANT to do it.  I know that sounds awful, but it is just what happens in a marriage when there are children.  You are only one person and you can only stretch so far.  Don't allow yourself to feel guilty because you are human.  \n\nP.S. You may not want to tell your husband you are forcing yourself!  lol\n\nGood luck to you!
66678
It depend on the respect  accorded to marital obligations by the spouse. It also depends on respect shared in the marital home.\nTwo big issues that causes problems in a marital home are finances and sexual obligations. One spouse with holds sex to get what she wants. One spouse with holds finances to get what he wants.\nFor a happy home that need not be tensed there should be trust and respect for marital obligations. A lot of spouses do not know the meaning of marriage. Unfortunately a lot use marriage as a tool for what they want.Essence of marriage is happiness under the foundation of true love. Most marriages are loveless\nI wish any one wishing to marry should first read this book HOW NOT TO MARRY A JERK
619236
it's a crush and she's hormonal... i bet she wants to bang your husband really badly. but that's just that... something bad will happen if your husband agrees into it.
117743
if the woman is undecided then that means NO, verbally or not it means NO and while she may not say anything at the time if she has sex while she is undecided and he forces her to do that...then it can be considered rape
45274
You know, marriage doesn't work, you have to work at marriage.  Why did you sleep with him, very simple answer, it's called lust.  And those lusty feelings diminish with time.  Why did he sleep with you and/or her?  Very simple again, he is a man and y'all were available.  Very few men will turn down sex from a willing woman. Whether he is married, engaged, or otherwise involved.  Sex just isn't that big of a deal for men, well emotionally they have no investment in a romp in the hay.  Women on the other hand tend to get emotionally involved.  Don't place too much emphasis on the emotions you are experiencing from your affair.  Place the emphasis on working on your marriage, counseling works, so does prayer.  I wish you well.
180365
If he's not comfortable with it, don't force anything. He's probably against sex before marriage. Doing anything sexual if the other person is unwilling is sexual harassment or if you go all the way, RAPE. If you love him, wait for him.
575369
Any fool can start an affair but it takes a wise person to avoid it altogether.\n\nGetting shot by the jilted husband while the two of you are in the bed together ruffling the sheets will be an inconvenient time to finally learn the lesson that "messing around with a married woman" is probably not a good idea.
247264
Not normal to me and I've been with my husband for almost 20 years. To each their own though. I have a friend that only has sex when she wants to have a baby and thinks that this is the only time they need to have any intimate contact. Funny world sometimes.
63296
I'm a guy and I have affairs often. But don't judge me just yet. I never dreamed of having an affair on my wife. We were in love. We did things together. We laughed together. \nThen she started shying away from love making. She eventually lost her libido to the point that she can go without it for months. She used to say she almost married me because of the sex was so great. Now she's a stranger. \nSo I ask you. Are you doing something to push him into another bed? Don't believe the BS that both sexes have the same drives. Most guys need to ejaculate everyday and some more than that. If you aren't taking care of that, then the temptation of some strange will be too strong for him to resist. Also if there is something that he really wants to do sexually but you are too much of a prude to give it to him, guess what? He's getting someone else to give it to him. Right or wrong, that's the way men are. We are primal..you are emotional. Sex is love to us. Believe it. \nI also know that there are men who will stray no matter what there situation is. If that's your case, and you really searched your soul for that answer, then leave him as he will never change. I stay in this marriage for the kids. Unless there is abuse involved, I have seen a lot of evidence that a bad marriage is better for children than to not have one of their parents. Good luck!
530816
I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your wife.......however it doesn't mean that this is the end of your relationship. Women begin experiencing many changes in their bodies in their 40's (for example, menopause doen't all happen at once, there are different phases, it may take years to fully get through it), and it could be very possible that these hormonal changes are causing her lack of sex drive.\n\nI would try to be as sensitive and supportive to your wife as possible, as she may be having a hard time dealing with this herself, and then to also feel that she's letting her husband down is also an emotional strain. Ask her questions about what and how she is feeling towards you, but not in a judgemental or  way, maybe phrase it like, "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate, I just wanted to talk about it and see if there's anything I can do because I miss our closeness." \n\nShe could also be feeling low self-esteem. Do you still let her know that she is the love of your life and you think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen? These sincere compliments can really lift a gal's spirits. Have you thought about surprising her with a date night, just out of the blue, something that she'd love to do. Remind her of the days you first started dating, relive some of your old memories together.  \n\nTell her as gently as you can that while she sees this as no big deal, you are feeling like something that the two of you once shared is missing, and it's important for you to understand why. We are all human beings and have needs, the fact that you so badly want to share this act of love with her and her only, but she's not interested is affecting you. \n\nIn conclusion, I think that in order to fix any of your problems, you'll have to open up the lines of communication. But I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is a sure sign of a failing relationship. Take into consideration all of the possible factors, and discuss them with your wife. Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both to express your feelings and concerns with each other. I wish you the best of luck, and remember to always tell your wife that you love her!
676191
That is her HUSBAND, for better or for worse. It seems as though she loves him so much and that is a very good thing. You should be proud of your friend. But if you want to give her advice in the intimacy department, tell her that she doesn't have to completely shut that aspect out of their relationship. There are definitely things they can do to be intimate without intercourse, and it can be very fulfilling for both her and her husband.  Other than that, I would say just encourage her to stay as loving and as faithful as she is to her husband.  After all, its not his fault and he still deserves to be loved too!