I wouldn't mind if my man of 7yrs goes on vacation without me.  I just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same way.
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The reasons people go on vacation can vary, but most people want to go away from their normal surroundings and relax, rest, party, travel, tour, etc. When I do that, I want to share the experiences with my 'significant other'. Couples usually plan their vacations so that they can enjoy each other, have sex in a different location, and do what they enjoy , but together. I would not stop my partner from going on a trip with his/her friends. There are lots of men who go on hunting trips for a week, or fishing trips, etc. That is kinda normal. I don't call that a vacation. If you are comfortable with the situation, that's all that matters.
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It might not be a bad idea to take as much time as you can afford to get away and go see your family.  Before you go sit him down and explain that you love him but you feel that you are in this marriage by yourself.  Tell him that you are going to take some time away from him and you want him to see how he feels being alone.  Its not a separation per say but some time apart may be beneficial for both of you.  Sometimes people get comfortable in their marriages and take each other for granted.  Perhaps if you weren't there he would realize all he would lose if you divorced him one day.  On the other hand he may not and you need to be prepared for that.  Look at it this way.  I realize that you have 7 years invested in this marriage but there is still time to get out and find someone who appreciates you if you current partner doesn't.  Give him some space but let him know why you are giving it to him.  Let him know that you would like to sit down and talk about both of your feelings when you get back.
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This is a great question.  I will await all the answers.  I have the same question( except the marriage part-but we've dated for almost 6 yrs now, and have a planned 7 month old baby).  It hurts me, also. For me, it's also a trust thing. You feel like you don't want to leave the house ever. It makes me feel very trapped and stressed.  I don't mind him looking at it once in a while, but I'd rather he looked at it when I was around and included me in stuff like,  " Oh hey.. look at THIS! teehee" or whatever.  Good luck. I've talked to my boyfriend about this, and he just doesn't get it. I'm glad there are others out there that feel the same way. My boyfriend has slowed down considerably, and hides his tracks much better, now, but it doesn't stop the fact that I don't trust him while I'm gone.
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I would feel all alone too. Sounds like she is nothing but a slave. Doesn't sound like either one of you are really into the kids if both of you are gone.\n\nThis is sad but it is not too late. Quick call Dr. Phil.
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How about a weekend trip? I know several couples who made a very special anniversary out taking a short (even one day) vacation to do something fun together, something that you know your boyfriend is interested in. I personally enjoy having the memories and the experience together better than having to buy them something material sometimes.
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No, but you surely need to give him space to be around with his friends WITHOUT YOU sometimes.  You know you both had a life before you got together, and for your relationship to be healthy, both of you need to balance the time you spend together and the balance you spend with your friends/family.\n\nIt is not good to demand all his time for yourself
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hey man MANY THANKS for being away from family and friends. i had a cousin and his brother in law over there not too long ago and my husbands cousin who had to leave her young 1yr old daughter with us while she left. its gonna be hard but stick in there and you will be sooo proud of yourself when its all said and done. good luck and thanks again for supporting those of us who will miss you while your away. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU SAFE THE WAY THROUGH.
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When I fell in love with my guy I just knew he was the one for me. I was happy every single time I thought of him and even happier when I saw him. I couldn't picture myself with anyone else or being by myself. I missed him when he wasn't there and I miss him right now because he's out of town on a business trip. :(
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For the first time I am spending Christmas away from my Wife and kids.  I know how you feel when it comes to  relitives that are a little odd, but it is a different story when you can not be there, it's that "You do not know what you have tell it is gone" thing.  \n\nI well be sitting in Iraq waiting for Feb to come around so my year well be over.  Well there is always Valentines Day... *S*
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im on your situation and the thing that i could share and say is you still love him...are u realy thinking bout the bad situation or the times youve been with each other....u know 7 months is too long for recovery but i think you havent really forget him yet...
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My husband used to be in the army so used to be away a lot, I tried to treat the time he was a way as time for me, and try to do things I wanted to do, evening classes, long pampering baths anything that is purely selfish that you don't usually have time to do.\n\nHe's no longer in the army but still works away occasionally, If we spend too much time together, especially when he works from home sometimes, it drives me mad, as I appreciate tme on my own as well as time with him.\n\nHe's been working from home for the last 3 weeks or so but is going on a course for a week tomorrow and much as I love him I can't wait, cos he's starting to get on my nerves, nothing major just a bit of treading on toes.\n\nI'll get loads done this week and feel much better in myself and closer to him too when he comes back.\n\nTreat Yourself, and think of it as ME time xx\n\np.s. we have been together 20yrs in all and it has always been a factor for us too, I guess it does get better, it did bother me more at first though
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It's the guy you really, really like and you haven't seen him since Wednesday???  Of course it's normal to miss him so much.  When I met my high school sweetheart over 15 years ago, I didn't want a single day to go by that I didn't see her.  Now she is my wife, and I still feel the same way.  Some people are so wonderful that you miss them as soon as they're out of your sight.  Sometimes when I am at work, I actually physically ache from missing my wife so much.  That's how love is.  It's nice that you have discovered it - I hope he treats you well and the two of you have many happy times together.  Good luck, and God bless.
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I just think he really misses you my husband goes away all the time for his job and that happens alot  we just start over I hope its because he misses me or else we are both being cheated on  oh no now you have me thinking (not really)
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Never mind men needing space, women do too.  I just plain like to be alone sometimes.  I can't speak for him but I know that when he gets home from a day of skiing with friends he's relaxed and in a good mood.  I know I am when I spend a day with friends.  Gives us something to talk about later.
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Vacation with parents.  No question.  My father is dead.  My mother has alzhiemers.  After my father had died I would take my mother with us on vacation for a number of years.  She loved it.  I miss them both very much.  I feel sorry for people who don't get along well with their parents.  When they are gone, they are gone forever.
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No ...in fact less in my case.\n\nI've allways thought that is better to care my body for he cares of me ...when I'm needs him...\n\n;)
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well sometimes I am very happy and other times I am plain Sad, my husband is leaving for 10 days and I am so sad because I am the type who worries alot. I have to call him when he reach work and every 1 hours to make sure that he is alright.