i found out about this when i had a pap smear done and the pap smear came back normal, but the doctor told me i have a high cell count rate for hpv. i am so worried not just for myself , but also for the wonderful man i am engaged to. since he and i havebeen together we havebeen in a monogomous relationship. i know he has only had one lover before me. unfortunately i have had more than that. the guys i did have relationships with looked healthy and clean. some of them i used condoms with ,but a few i didn't. i realize now what i have done and it sickens me. i want to tell my fiancee, but i am so scared of what will happen. i love him more than life itself. i can't shake feeling dirty. i became a person i didn't recognize from the moment i heard from the doctor. i just want to hide. i have thought about making up some excuse and ending the relationship, but i love this man so much and that would hurt him beyond belief. i feel lost and alone. i feel like i sealed my own fate.
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I know how you feel.  I got diagnosed last summer.  I was terrified of telling my boyfriend.  I thought he was going to leave me, I was sure of it.  He was just the opposite.  He was so understanding.  The day I told him he took the day off to be with me to comfort me.  We did go through some rough times dealing with it later.  Most of hpv heals itself within one to two years.  You will always have the virus, it will just be "hidden".  The best advice I can give you is not to smoke, smoking increases the risk of it not going away.  I felt dirty for the longest time, but this is SO common.  Most people have it, they just don't know it beause the virus hasn't shown itself in any way.  I have not had any problems with mine (no warts etc).  It is very important to get a pap every 6 mos to make sure it is not escalating into something more serious.  I hope this helps.  I know it is tough telling your fiance.  Hopefully it will bring you closer together.
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yes i got it. i was very scared because i was always so careful. but my doctor told me that 9 out of 10 people have it. because they have not been able to find hpv in pap smears until about a year ago. hpv is a curable disease. sometimes if your doctor feels you are healthy enough, that it will go away on its on. that happened to me. but i had to go to the gyno every 3 months for testing. my doctor told me that there was two other ways to get rid of it and that was lasor surgury and some type of other device that was a cone they inserted that burned the cells off. i have heard that they have a vaccine that works to boost your immune system. i think it would work. because again mine went away on it on, it took about 6 months. its a slow moving cell, so its takes a while to get rid of them. you will be fine and i wish you luck.
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You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
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get tested immediately- know that you could have had it way before him. Symptoms aren't obvious and they don't always show.  I have heard that 80% of women carry the virus nowadays, so there is no  way to track it to one partner.  Protect yourself!
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I know it's really scary, but in a way you're lucky that they're visible. Human Papillomavirus (HPV) is unfortunately more common than people think, mainly because for some there are no visible symptoms. So you may have gotten it from someone who is not even aware that they have it.\n\nRead the facts in the link below--make an appt with a gynocologist or clinic as soon as you can. They will take off the warts at that same visit and check to see if there are any internal growths that can be taken care of immediately. More importantly, you can start monitoring it with every pap smear since some strains have been linked to cervical cancer.\n\nIn the future, always practice safe sex to protect your partner from HPV and yourself from any other STDs.\n\nhttp://www.cdc.gov/STD/HPV/STDFact-HPV.htm
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There are over 30 kinds of HPV. I have read even up to 100. Most kinds don't do anything or show any symptoms, that's why is it so easily spread from person to person. After all it is the number one STD. \n\nSince you both have the virus it doesn't matter if you have unprotected sex. It is a virus and will stay with you the rest of your life. It's not like you are going to reinfect each other or make it worse. There currently is no cure for HPV right now. \n\nYou need to be going to your OBGYN at least once a year though, because HPV can cause cervical cancer which kills 300,000 women a year! It can also cause genital warts, which although annoying, are treatable. Women usually don't find out they have HPV until they get an abnormal pap smear come back, or they develop genital warts. Both can be treated. Men usually find out they have it by developing genital warts, which can also be treated.\n\nI have had HPV for about 5 years now. I got cervical cancer about a year after I got it, and just six months ago I got genital warts. It can take a while to show any signs or symptoms.
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Sounds like tooo much drama for me.  If you know that he's bi - I am glad that he told you and didn't lie about it - why would you have unprotected sex with him in the 1st place??  And the 2 of you need to go get tested together and LOOK at each other's test results.  l
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Frankly I think that you'll be much happier with this decision.  It's a very tricky process to give to man so late in his life, so it's going to take patience on your part during the healing process.  I'm sure it will feel a little different to you, but probably in a good way.  I don't know anyone who's actually gone through this, but there is a very detailed episode on sex and the city about it - you should watch it!
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Oh honey, was it your first time? Remain calm and breathe. You had sex with a boy you love. That isn't so bad. Maby you weren't ready, but it'll be all right. I wasn't ready my first time either. I cried to and felt like a, well you know what. The fact that it was unprotected sex complicates things, go to Planned Parenthood and take The Morning After Pill, it prevents you from getting pregnant, also talk to the doctor there about getting tested for stds. Do not worry about your parents finding out, Planned Parenthood can not disclose your info to your parents. Also do not worry about money, Planned Parenthood will help you for free. It's going to be ok sweetie, if you need anything, even just someone to talk to email me.
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I don't know if the "last few months" is totally accurate. I have HPV and was told that I probably contracted it several years ago. However, if you've been with him for 12 years though I don't know if it could've been dormant in yours or his body for longer than that. Now that you know you have it, be sure to get annual pap smears. If you don't you can develop cervical cancer. I know because I had precancerous cells on my cervix and I went several years without a pap because I didn't know how important it was. Good luck!
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Hi there,\nI can somewhat relate to you in a sense that I was in your shoes when my boyfriend (now my husband) was doing the same thing like your wife did.  I think, I forgave him since we're not really together (I was in another state).  Yes, I was grossed out when I heard this and the thought of 2 on 1 is disgusting.  We decided that not to associate with those kind of people, which helps me to cope.  Out of sight, out of mind.   The most important thing about this ordeal is having trust in this person again and make sure that it won't happen again.  Yes, then your can feel more secure and comfortable being with this person again.\nBest wishes,
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Oh dear… an 8mm mass on his lungs in never good news.\n\nI feel sorry for your both, especially for your fiancée…this is definitely not caching “it” early, for it is a secondary tumor, and a big one.\n\nOnce you’ve been diagnosed with cancer, you must keep present you’ve become a cancer survivor for as long as you live and thus never, never, ever think or believe you are over the fence, so to speak; cancer is treacherous and, as a survivor, one must NEVER let one’s guard down.\n\nAs for the prognosis, see what the doctors have to say, and make the BEST out of it.
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I feel bad for you!  I wouldnt know what to do either??  I guess if he's worth it just be safe and use a condom.\nGood luck and I hope everything turns out OK!
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Well, about 80% of women have the virus.  With most of them their immune system is able to fight it and naturally destroy it.  But with some women the virus turns into cancer.  If your boyfriend cheated on you, and you didn't had it before, it is very likely that he gave it to you.  But then again they have not found out yet what exactly is the cause of this virus.  Get treatment right away, for this may become very serious and deadly.  They just invented and will release on the market at the end of June a vaccine against that.  Its 100% effective against the virus causing HPV.  Ask your doctor about it.
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i can totally relate. i am the only single girl in a group of 10 girlfriends-they're all in long-term relationships and getting married. i haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years, and in the past i've had my share of no-so-great men. but i'm happier alone than unhappy. we just have to realize that we are still young-we still have lots ahead of us and we will find that 4% of good men in this world to be good company with:)\n\nps i look at half of the relationships my girlfriends have and i'd rather cut off my foot than be in some of their positions, anyway. some are stuck with emotionally abusive/selfish men, selfish lovers, drinkers, or just herpes and scared to move onto another relationship because of fear of rejection (woo hoo! yeah, i'm sure your man isn't cheating, the disease just showed up!)... you name it.\n\ni'm sorry about your divorce and about how one man found it appropriate to break it off with you in a pretty cowardly way. i think time for you will wear things off a bit.. hang in there! you know you will end up with someone who is GOOD for you\n\ngod bless
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hello my dear friend!\n\nwell i am able to read your feelings well... because i went through the same situation too! 6months back i was diagnosed with germ cell tumour and i had to undergo chemotherapy and had a hard time... my husband loves me a lot and the essence of our marriage was an intimate relationship which meant even having good sex! during the six months period he saw me undergoing the treatment and when i was back home afetr the treatment ..\ni understood how much he missed me ...i got him cuddled next to me and could feel his warm presence...\ni know you love your wife deeply and wouldnt want to hurt her.. but when you kiss her or cuddle her romancingly and perhaps you could have a little action in your life.. you will not hurt her and she too will love you fro expressing your affection...to be very frank sex is an important positive aid in helping a sick  person recover soon... it will enhace the mind and body and put both of you'll in a happy spirit...\n\nso listen to me and express your love...hug her ,kiss her and make her feel warm and romantic..you can do it my friend... you mean a lot to her in her life as she mean to you..try casual romance and see how happy you will feel!i will pray fro you and your wife..! \n\ngoodluck!
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First off Congrats on being cancer free. While I have never had cerival cancer at 19 I was diagonesed with ovarian cancer.  I am now an 8 year survior.  This year however two of my cousins have been diagnoesed with cervical cancer.  They are all under the age 30.  If you want just drop me a message I would love to talk.