My boyfriend asked his ex gf (who he was totally in love with) to go out for coffee sometime.. I found out.. told him that that'd bug me (like come on, hes gunna and hour out of his way to have coffee with an ex?) so he said "Well if it bothers you I won't do it" , well I just found out that he made plans to go see her this Saturday (which he told me is supposed to be the "guys weekend" and that theyre going camping, fishing bla bla bla all that crap)... What should I do? What would you do?
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That is WRONG!!! put him in his place QUICK because if you don't he will assume you are okay with it and continue to do it!! \n\nA MAN WILL DO WHAT YOU LET HIM DO!!!\nremember that\n\nIf you let him lie to you and do nothing about he will continue to lie to you!!\n\nCall him out on it let him know straight up that you will not stand for him lying to you!! and if he wants to lie tell him to get back with his ex and lie to her because you are much more of a woman to sit here and let yourself be lied to by someone you are supposed to trust!!!\n\nThere are too many men in this world who will do right by you!!!! you deserve a whole lot better than lies\n\n........TRUST.......
582439
Why don't you just be his ex-gf until he realizes he can't live without you?\n\nTrying to make him jealous and hiding his bike only tell him that you still care.\n\nSo be nice and friendly, but otherwise ignore him.
495673
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
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Now, this is my favorite one: 'Let him go, if he comes back, he is yours, if he does'nt, he never was' \nI believe in this, because it happened to me. \nI am guessing he cheated on you, or something.. and now you have trust issues. \nHappens!!\nDont wait for him to screw up, it wont work. I know, because I waited for my gf to screw up after she cheated and we got back.\nYou will only end up screwing your thought process!!\nWhat you are doing right this time to you are a lot mature and hopefully going slow. Which is good. \nLove him for what he is to you and for what he will be for you tomorrow. Dont resuscitate the past. \nI strongly feel you are going to make it. Just take it one day at a time, discussing your future and stuff is good and sounds ideal, but if you have had trust issues, I would not recommend you make long term plans.\nWhat say??\nCheers!!
534300
Ask the guy who threatened your date and asks all the nosey questions if he ate paint chips as a child, and suggest that he was very nice to get you two together, but his work is done. Thank him and tell him to go play Cupid with someone else...the 'date' is a tottally different thing. He's freaked out about this clown that's trying to live vicariously through you two. Try sending him a message detailing what you think is going on and ask him what he'd like to do from now on. That's all you can do
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"always listen to your heart". The question is not "whay do i do?" but "do you love him?" If yes, then go on for it.  You say fo his soon ex-gf : was friend. Then, what's the problem?!!    Go for it, if you don't try, you may loose sth really great!!!
436668
Quit calling him... him going out of town will maybe give him a chance to clear his head and realize that you are what he wants. If not, then you don't want someone who doesn't want you. He obviously cares or he wouldn't have introduced you as his girlfriend! exspecially to his friends. I would say back off and he will come around. Hope things work out the way you want!
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believe it or not, right now i am in your ex's situation and when i told my ex that i want it over means, i want it over. fullstop. i'm not seeing anyone else but i just feel like being single again and spend more time with my pals. i realized that having a gf too early was a big mistake. she didn't do anything wrong in particualr, and she's a very nice girl. i just need some time alone. hope that "answers" your question. good luck though :)
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Look, just because you and him didn't work out as a couple, doesn't mean that you can't just be friends. Me and my ex of 13 years just went out to the movies together today to see "Silent Hill", I paid, he drove. We hadn't hung out for 3 years! I gotta tell you though, we had a blast just hanging out and being friends. I bought lunch after at "Jack-n-the-Box", and he came over to my house to eat it. It was the first time he had ever come to see where I lived since we separated. We have a daughter together, and for her sake, we discussed it, and came to the conclusion that, even though we parted on bad terms, we could set that aside and be friends. She was very happy to know we were being nice to each other. I would never have an intimate relationship with him again, but as a friend, he is a very good guy and a wonderful daddy. Do what your heart tells you. You know in your gut whether or not it would be a good idea to hang out with him again. Just remember that ex'es are ex'es for a reason...it didn't work out. Friendships are always nice to have though if at all possible. Good luck sweetie.
322866
Go get your crush, it is obvious you don't love your man and you shouldn't go camping because you might do something you regret.  Go get your crust and good luck!
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I think you shouldnt even talk to your ex at all just ignore him, and you should tell your bf because he should know but just tell him andim sure it will be okay i mean you  you would want to know if his ex was emailing him right?
649858
Have you ever talked to him about this? maybe he has o clue how you feel, maybe he thinks you don't even want to go out with him and his friends. Ask him about it, tell him how you feel. If he is getting all defensive and really not wanting you there on Saturday, you may wonder whats going on, and you can still drop in on him one night. But maybe he wants you to come, or maybe you can make compromises where he goes out the one week and stays with you the other? Relationships always are about communication. If you let the other one know how you feel, you can work on a solution together. if he really cares about you, he will be willing to solve this problem with you. Good luck!
266807
You need to get on the phone and call all of your friends. Have lots of girls nights out. Have some fun. Forget about him. Its hard, you will think about him all the whole time. But force yourself to keep busy. Keep your mind busy. Eventually it will get easier. Your ex is playing you and his girlfriend. He feels insecure about himself and his current relationship. He isnt worth your time of day! Don't you feel sorry for her that he is actually leading you on. Telling you that he is going to come back to you? Wouldn't that be considered "emotional cheating" on her? Think- if he is doing this to her, then he must have done the same to you. You are better then him. Go OUT ! Have fun while you are single. If it was meant to be, then so be it. But don't wait your precious time sitting around waiting for him when you could be spending it with people who really care about you- "your friends & family" Who knows, one of these days you might meet somebody who treats you with respect, "unlike your ex" and then you can tell him.... "Now who will be sitting around waiting..."\n\nHave fun!
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
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Giggles,giggles, giggles!!!!\nWhat's up?\nAre you still trying to figure out what to do about dude?\nLook let's just look at it this way, okay If he dissed you once because of a female (that was there before you, might I add)\nWhat's to stop him from trying to do it again?\nNow you know I do not lie to you right?\nLet me tell you the low-down on guys, If you let a guy get away with something once they will do it again, just because they can and they know you will put up with it.\nNow If you KNOW FOR A FACT that you & him will not get into some serious type relationship and it's cool that HE knows that you are not avaiable to him  and the same goes for you as well then I would say go for the "THE HOMIE" thing, just do not get confused on the terms of what "HOMIE" means.\nAre we talking about "Homie-Lover-Friend"\nIf so It will get very complaicated before the summer ends, and you know what I am talking about right?\nPlease Giggles just remember he do have a girlfriend, and like I told you before do not be surpised if there may be more than one girlfriend okay?\nAnd always think like this:     "How would I feel if MY boyfriend was seeing a chick on the side"\nLet me know how it turns out okay?
555195
either he has no feelings for you and is going to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants or you might be jumping the gun and trying to see something that isn't there. some ex's are friends and my GF has one that she talks to once or more times a week and its just because we have kids doing the same stuff at the same times. my trust is with her, she will always have friends that aren't mine and I the same. i will never tell her not to talk to him, she isn't with him anymore. this is a trust thing and if you can't trust him the best thing to do is get out while you can still see daylight. waiting will only cloud you sight and you'll never have the power of surprise. this power will get most to change anything. try it and if it doesn't work out for you, well your already moved out and all you need to do is get on with your new life.