im married to my husband for 2 years now.we met online(chatroom).i found out that he's still have profile in a website looking for marriage and he put it there that he's still single.he's chatting to a lot of womens.they even called here.sending him letter.i read his messages archives and he was telling them that he's divorced and were not.i told him that's cheating and he said its not coz he's not doing it here in our place.am i right?can u say its cheating even its happening here in the internet knwing that he's a married man?
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This is DEFINITELY cheating.  He is witholding true and faithful committment from you.  I would confront him, insist on counseling, and set some ground rules until he has proven that he is once again worthy of your trust.  Good Luck!!!
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Um, no, it is NOT RIGHT! What is wrong with you people? He is MARRIED! That means he stood before God and vowed to be faithful and honest to this woman. And, instead, he is out trolling for God knows what on the internet. Yuk. Find your own man, this one is taken. Plus, why would you want a creep llike that?
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Tough one. He could be leaving it open testing your trust. He could want you to find those emails because he wants you to find them to get a divorce. He could just be an idiot. Or the emails don't mean a damn thing to him so he is not worried if you find them because he isn't doing anything wrong. Lots of possibilities. It's your computer too, he left his sign on, you stumbled upon it. However, since you are married and don't trust him, you may have a problem just because of that.
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There are two answers.\n\nLegally, no it isn't cheating if you've filed a legal separation.  During that time, it's an area between marriage and divorce.  If one person has a relationship with another person it cannot be used against them in legal proceedings.\n\nMorally. That's a Grey area. Is the separation a cooling off period so that each of you can get your heads together?  I'd say, yes it is cheating because if you are with a person other than your spouse, then you need to go through the whole process and get a divorce.  It's not like single life where you are either "dating" someone or else just "seeing" someone.  You are married.\n\nOn the other hand, if you are separated as part of the divorce process (you've got a divorce attorney, paperwork is being drafted, belongings are divided) then no, it isn't cheating because the marriage is over and the final process needs to be completed.  \n\nOn a different note, if you are separated, you probably aren't in a good place emotionally to be hoping into bed with someone else.
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Does he hide his on-line relationship?  Why?\nThere is your answer. \n\nYou are living together, yes, but you are not 'basically' married.\nLiving together is not the commitment that marriage is. \nYou are someone, a girlfriend, who sleeps with him\nand shares expenses with him...a roommate with benefits.\n\nI say kick him out, or move out, and see him on line.\nHis actions are NOT those of a contented husband, happy boyfriend, or committed lover.
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As a married man, stay at home dad of 3 children, i can tell you why, but I have never cheated.\n\nYou hit the nail on the head when you said he has children.  The wife is no longer sexually active, her focus is now on the children & the man has become a spare tire in the family, only needed in emergency.  You see, the man is made out to be the bad guy here & he deserves it, but the wife has driven him to this point.  If he has sex, it is once a week at most, if he is lucky & she is like, put it in & get it over with.  When i got married, we used to screw almost everyday, passionately, now it is the lame azz something i dont even call sex.\n\nBesides the above, men are PIGS!\nWell, the simple facts are, men have a high sex drive & have trouble saying no.  I told my wife one time, if some fox came up to me & said i want to blow you, my pants are comin down.  I have never heard of any man turning down head or sex---EVER!  If it has happened, he should be in the guiness book of world records.\n\nAs far as him leaving his wife goes, all a line he is feeding you.  Like when i was in high-school dating my now current wife & banging all the other girls that wanted me to leave my girlfriend/current wife.  I fed them anything that got them into bed, knowing full well, i was not breaking up with my girlfriend.  Now, add to that, he has kids & pays all the bills.  If he leaves her, he loses seeing his kids when he wants to + he loses his house, possibly his car.  Plus, he is gonna lose at least half of his paycheck every month + half of any cash he has saved----NOT GONNA HAPPEN!\n\n\nIf you dont believe me, I want to date you too & I promise, I will leave my wife.
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I'm a guy. My opinion is that it's about the sex. What do you want though? And what more could your relationship be about? I mean it's an affair. He's cheating on his wife to be with you. You even said it's a physical thing. Does he even want to know you on another level though? Sadly, he probably does not.
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I think you aren't being fair! all men don't cheat. My wife is the one who has cheated on me! And I thought I was being the Ideal husband but I found out wrong. I'm sorry that you think all men are cheaters, but keep in mind if it wasn't for the willing woman out there men wouldn't be able to cheat.
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im not married so maybe this wont help u out...but its not wrong as long as the chat isnt geered towards a sexual mannor and ur wife knows ur going online... some ppl make great pen pals ...even if u never meet them face to face its good to get another prosepctive on things and to talk about things with various ppl and sometimes u get a different look @ things with ppl of the opposite sex because they think differently.  keep the lines of communication open and things should be alright :)
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Married or not if you have a commitment with someone you should not cheat. You should ask yourself if you are wanting to cheat on someone, why not just leave that person and let them move on to someone who cares for them. I consider cheating when you do anything intimately with another person other than your significant other. That could be holding hands, intercourse, kissing, and even sharing and in depth meaningful conversation. It is wrong because you are taking something sacred from your partner. People, I think cheat because they need some kinda of reassurance that they can attract someone other than they're partner. This is caused by low self esteem. If you are contemplating this don't hurt your partner for your own self gratification. ITS WRONG
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I dated a man for five months but after I found out he was married decided to kick him to the curb. My sole purpose for dating is to seek out a potential husband so why would I continue on? I certainly wasn't going to sit around and wait for him to leave his wife for me, I mean come on he cheated on her so it is a high possibility that he'll cheat on me too.
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There is a strong chance that he is NOT cheating!!!!\nBUT he is surely not attracted to here sexually.... BUT he might like something in her that he values more than sex.... that could be a reason that he is still around!
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Simple he is a liar and a cheat. I would not take it so personally, if it had not been you it would have been someone else. If he told you he was single, it was not your fault. This is his issue, you are not the bad guy in this situation. However, let me also say that not only men do this but many females also. A cheat is a cheat is a liar is a liar. The world is full of amoral people. God bless*
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i dont think it is cheating if that was the only motive.. you know, i love to meet new people and chat but if it was upseting my partner then i would stop
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So, you got caught writing sexy letter to other women, and claiming in the letters to be single.  Now, you are hoping one of us can come up with some magic solution, one that convinces your wife that it great for her husband to be chasing after other women.  I have no magic solution, and doubt one exists.  Beg forgiveness.
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Do you expect us to believe that you haven't talked to any men in....what did you say... a year? He came home to you didn't he? Sounds like you have some trust issues or you wouldn't have been checking up on his internet usage. \n\nA little advise here..... people will find what they are looking for.... and that goes for trouble too!
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I certainly couldn't argue with your sexual prowess, having no personal experience with you from which to draw from. So I'll start by just believeing that it's at least close to being true.\n\nWhy does he cheat? You say you only do what he asks you to do. I find this statement somewhat odd and I am not sure exactly what you mean by it. Without more information it's hard to give you a "real" answer but, here are a few possibilites (I'm not implying that any of them or all of them are true.)... Maybe he feels neglected in other areas of the marriage? Maybe he married young and feels like he missed out on being single? Maybe he disagrees with your statement regarding "sexual prowess"? Maybe he is going through a mid-life crisis?\n\nIt's hard to give you a good answer without more information. Post more details or drop me an email, I'll help if I can.