he says he is on a break with his "girlfriend", and that they are now just friends. He calls me about every other day, and wants me to come over to his place and just hang out. Lastly he keeps asking me to spend the night with him, but wont ask me out? Is he waiting for his girlfriend to come back, and just using me in the meantime or could he possibly be over his girlfriend, and actually into me?
201002
He's using you!!! If he really liked you, trust me, he would take you out.
469980
Sure he likes ya.. (he is crazy about you!) It shows again and again in what you write above! YES you are perceptive about that 'guy code.' I think he's got to work some things out in his head .. this is hard to do BUT it will pay off.. Give it a couple more months. Don't push it! You know one important thing (and it's a biggie) that this guy has got 'good morals..' If he's being respectful of his friends (I think it's kool) think how great and respectful he will be of YOUR feellings?! Am I right? This guy sounds like a real keeper, hon. You are doing o.k. too by the way by playing it cool.. keep it 'casual.'  Play back his 'hey, what's up?' to him. (Real kool how he stayed w/ya and slept there, didn't touch ya.. that what ya wrote, right? he was awkward in the morning..) He sounds like he is not going to cheat on you. (He sounds like a real dear.) I say GO for it!!!!!!
529577
so technically you're just friends with benefits until he figures out what he wants to officially do with you. he's definitely into you, and you're definitely into him, but the relationship ain't happenin (been there)!!! it's excellent that you have separate lives...so maybe eventually you two will make it official someday. i wouldn't rush him, he definitely has a crush on you. go with the flow since you both just came out of bad break-ups. maybe you both feel the comfort of having each other during this healing process and a new serious relationship is the last thing on his mind, you know how guys are...
100698
I can't really tell you yes he is into you, because I don't know how he acted around you, and I don't know him. What I can tell you is that if it seemed like he really had a great time and you both had fun, then maybe there is hope. I suppose if he called you to let you know he was home safe, that's a plus, because if he didn't care at all, he wouldn't of called at all. Now, about him waiting to call you, maybe he was nervous, busy, like the other person commented, maybe didn't want to seem desperate. Just give it time, and if nothing becomes of it, let it go, there are a ton of men out there waiting to meet ya! ;)
484098
The same thing happened to me. He's just trying to get you jealous because he knows u will. Girls do tht and obviously he knows tht.  I broke up with him and he wanted me back and asked me out again. Since then we've been going out. Don't worry it's a guy thing and i was wondering too why he was doing tht and he told my friend it was just because he was jealous
470422
Either he wants to continue having sex with you or he wants to be in a relationship but either way  his timing was a little off. See if he treats you like a girlfriend (phone calls during the day/night, coming over to see you,dinners etc) good luck
158469
He has already told you he wasn't asking you out for his personal reasons.The reason will probably still be there .He may be going to see someone he is long distance relationship with .Let it go because he may be just seeing if you'll be waiting for him to ask . Even if he does ask , he didn't for a REASON at first and sounds like head games.
257773
Sounds like a set up darlin!Even im getting paranoid thinking about it....i would say...ask him if he was going out with his ex tonight...yes/no. If answer is no..and it happens again(a similar senario,with his ex) tell him to f off.\n\nIn a nut shell....TRUST your instinct..you will know my dear.
564660
Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
70764
Ask yourself, 'what is it that I like about him?' It sounds like this doesn't work with your current lifestyle. What is his relationship with her? Are they co-worker? another-wards are they entitle to this time together? or Are they friends, and he chooses to spend this time with her? If this is the case, get him to take you out for a dinner at a nice restaurant. Get him to buy some nice wine. Spend the evening together having a beautiful time together, THEM DUMP HIM! Hand him a flower and card with a thank you for the consideration, but no thanks! Good luck! PS my friend is good looking and single.
565076
~So, does he call you his part-time lay to your face or just to his girlfriend.  Duh.\n\nI'd stick with him if I were you.  Sounds like a lot of security for the future.  On the other hand, since you're involved with an involved guy, you'll deserve what you get when it becomes reciprocal.
453015
Either one is a possibility, but if he's willing to go around behind his present girlfriend's back, then it's 99% certain that he will do the same to you.  Stay Away from this guy.  He's trouble.
539655
Well, it's the holiday, and he probably got busy. Dont play the guessing game with yourself. But on the other hand this could be an official Red Flag, if he's like this as a friend, chances are he sucks at being a boyfriend, because if he knows you have feelings for him and he's being kind of careless, you know, not as sensitive as he should be, you will probably be better off as friends. Dont' set yourself up.
338749
Sounds like he likes you.  Maybe he is thinking to himself, why did I let her go ??  The only way to get rid of the feeling is to not see him all the time but now that your bf is friends with him that will be hard.
398024
He had his fun with you and then went back to his girlfriend.  He knows you like him.  He is just not interested.  Stop sleeping over and you will forget about him when you start dating someone else, preferably his best friend.
628967
YOU ALL ARE WRONG...LOL....when boi/man tells you he wants you by his side, he basically saying he wants you as his girlfriend/bestfriend to be there for him. When we say we want you by our side we are almost saying we want you to be there for us, experience things with us N do things with us, N all by our side. In no bad way is he saying what you think or that he nolnger wants you trust me. If you do not feel comfortable with my answer or the other ones, feel comfortable to ask him and im quite sure he will tell you.  Then once yall talk this will help with your comminucation with getting things off your mind to each other a little. Hopefully this helped you enough.
392015
What makes you think the Jed wants to be your boyfriend?  Maybe he just wants to sleep with you.  You know that he just broke up with his girlfiriend, right?