So I had the girl of my dreams and we have had a rough relationship, but thats beside the fact. I thought that this girl was the one, and she made it sound like I was the one for her. We did everything together and shared so many great memories. She was my first everything from love to best friend. One week ago she went to the movies withg this new guy and is now spending every minute of her time with him and its killing me. We are also 6 hours apart because this year she decided to go away to college which is ok, but I had a feeling this was going to happen sooner or later, yet I still had faith in us because we have made it so far. Now she doesnt answer my calls or call me, and i've grown so distant from my friends because of the relationship. I need some advice because Im a 20 year guy and I cry about 10 times a day. I feel so lost and lonely, Im just depressed.I feel like Ill never be able to find someone that I coild be so comfortable around again.
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Look at your part and see if that helps.
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I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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Please listen to me.  This dude is gone; you are lucky that he is.  You are likely a loving a sweet girl.  You will never be able to forget him or what happened to you. MOVE ON and use this pain to motivate yourself; find some fun, some other friends, stop complaining and thinkabout your future.\nIt is difficult but the kind of guy you want is not this one.  You want to come home to someone who adores you and thinks only of you like you do him.  He is out there, and you will find him.\nHow to find him?  DO NOT LOOK, just be yourself and a friend will become something more.  Do not be anxious.\nWhen pain crosses your mind, think about something else, distract yourself; look toward the future.  Sweet one, life is just starting for you, and this pain is part of it.  Fight it and do not give in to it.
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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Well , i thought that i had met the one the first time . Of course , i was the only one of us that felt that way .I have been fool enough to let him break my heart over and over again since then. I think , that there might have been a time when he really cared about me. Maybe he still does care , but now i realize that we just are'nt meant to be together in that way. It's really sad though , because even now--> he's the only man that i would want to have been the 1!
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sounds like your in a pickle...i am 26,man that looks old, but anyways, listen.i got the same thing from my girl, about a few weeks ago. not the fact of moving cause of school or anything(we have been 2 gether for 6-7 years and have a 4yr old son). she just came to me with the fact that she thought we need time,i never saw it coming and all that, yeah..it sucks.when your in love and when they come to you with this crap, your kinda like...what?when?how?why?me? i got like you. thisterrible sinking feeling inside.thats when you really know that you care,but what hurts the most is when they are like?oh?i hurt you?\nBUDDY, i hope your young.you have no children? so go on with your life.its gonna be ahrd, i mean you put in the effort, 5 years of your life and now this. it will take some time getting over this, but hey. im sure you have a mom, or family or friends you can lean on at this time. it will just take time, besides...there are soooooo many beautiful women out there. i was at the point to where iwas like i didnt care about those other women, but get this...they do care. they are out there looking just like you will have to.some will come to you,and some you will have to suck it up and go for.everyone gets rejected here nd there*trust me it sucks) but movw to the next. if you dont want to get hurt all over again, then dont get too involved. whats the best part about this? you will meet so many intresting people and get to do new things. yeah she might be in austin having a blast with out you. you will just have to accept this, get over it and have blast yourelf. if your here and shes there, it will make it easier,but when she comes back...or is ever alone at school and the memories come back to her, she will reliaze that she had something special. not every man is gonna treat her like you did..some may be better, most will be worse(most guys in collage are NOT looking for relationships ya know?) and she will, or try to reach you again to see how you are. hopefully youve moved on, got a black book packed with girlfriends, that are friends, some even more, thats when its sweet..when she comes back trying to be a apart of your life again...you might take her back...you might reliaze, you have moved on and shes just another face in the crowd, she didnt care about your feelings then...you could blow her off, you could give it a shot all over agian. i know its not easy.in fact me and my girl are still together after i found out how she felt. we are not married..so its no promise that it will work, all i know is that i have son with this woman, and i love him-if it works with her,great if not...i ahve him, and thats all i will ever need, me,him,god-you will understand once you have a kid, it is amazing\nwell good luck pal,keep your head up..if it help..go beat the shit out of a door, or punching bag, a little stress relief, or go have a drink this weekend at aclub or bar, and enjoy the view, the eye candy..the ladies!who knows, someone might be looking for a someone like you.
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I think you should just walk away hun, I know it hurts but I was in a similair situation and he ended up finding someone to date and left me hanging on, and i held onto him for too long and it hurt even worse, at least this way you can get back to your life and finding that one for you, and come back with some of your heart. I just hate to see you hang on liek this and then if he leaves you for someonelse have you left brokenhearted and left to pick up the pieces.
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Hon, one thing I have learned, is no matter how hurtful it feels...sometimes you got to make choices that will benefit you and not your significant other. After all, you got to focus on what is best for you, because no one else will!! \n\nLet him go now, before it is too late. I quit school for a month and got bored because all of my friends were in school so there was nothing for me to do. So, I went back to school. I am so glad I did. STAY IN SCHOOL!! \n\nDon't make a decision you could regret. And do what is best for your FUTURE, not today.
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Thats how I feel. I want a relationship but the person I want it with seems disinterested , when initially they appeared to be. Guess I'm too slow & old fashioned as I wanted them to make the first move & they didn't. Think they may have moved on to another. I don't know for certain but I am still in the same zone, in love with them. I'll always love them. I promised I would & I meant it. I have not gone back on the promise, have seen no one for a VERY LONG  TIME and will not, even though I may have said I did just to make them jealous because I want them to notice me. I love them. I want them. How much more can I say it, prove it, whatever. I feel bad for you. Don't be like me & feel like fading away & dying because you feel useless. Do something before it's too late.
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Don't feel guilty... she's the one leaving you remember... Just move on, if she really loves you or even likes you she will come to you. And find someone else to love or to hang out with, not someone that goes in and out of your life like nothing.
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i know how you feel cuase i maybe just getting out of that right now...\n\nsee i haven't had a real boyfriend for almost 2 years  and about two weeks ago i asked a guy that is a grade younger out, he said yes becuase i knew he really liked me.. we went out for a week then i said i am just a lil over welmed by the feeling and just need to take a lil break.. after a while he started talking to my friends and practically the whoiole school found out we liked each other and now everyone considers us to be dating...  and we just kinda go with everyone cuase everyone else thinks it is great now im not so overwelmed with the feeling... i think the overwelming i use to feel was that i was afraid of being heartbroken again.\n\ndon't worry you will grow out of the feeling a lil while after you begin dating.. depending on however your emotions work..\n\nnothing to really worry about
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Hey,\n\nits not the end of the world. you have to take it as a learning point and move on. its going to hurt, i can honestly say it will definitely hurt a lot, but you have to look at the bigger picture, its not the end of the world and now that you're single there's more that you will be able to achieve\n\nyou can fulfill your dreams and live life single for awhile, party like a rockstar, and eventually you will end up meeting the right person one day, it could even be the person that broke up with you but at this moment in time maybe you two are not meant to be together but might be together in the future\n\ni'm going thru a similar situation but i realize that i need to move on and do something with my life its not worth to cry everyday, and the quicker you realize that, probably the faster you'll meet someone else.\n\ni hope this helps
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The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful experience. Losing someone you love that much is so diffucult. My heart is going out to you.  \n\nI don't know when this happened, how recent it was, but there is always a mourning period where you need to let your emotions out. Sadly, you didn't have the time you wanted with him.  Your future plans are turned upside down. I know a little about that myself. So, I'm sorry for your pain. If it's recent, it's going to take a while to move past this, but you will move past it.  In time the pain will dull and you may try to love again. It's so hard to think that right now, but love can happen again for you.  \n\nRight now your life may seem pretty aweful, it's hard not to have dark thoughts when you are going through what you are going through.  But your life is important to many people, your friends, your family, and especially your late boyfriend.  He loved you and would only want the best for you. I'm sure he's looking down on you and loving you from heaven right now.  And if he knew what would happen to him, he'd want you to be happy for the rest of your life. \nYour long life.\n\nYou don't have the worst life ever, it's just the worst it's been for you as of yet, and probably the worst it will ever be. If you're having trouble coping with the pain, talk to someone- a professional grief counsler can help. They can help you express the different stages of mourning in a healthy environment, and help you keep focused on how to keep your own life on track.\n\nSorry sweetie, this is so rough for you. I'll pray for you tonight.
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As much as it hurts, you should let her go. I know is nothing easy. BUt would you reallly want her next to you knowing she is not fully happy cause she wants to experience other things??   Let her be, and if you guys still love each other after time has gone by, then is meant to be.  Distance and time apart from each other does make you apprecaite what you have. Don't look at it as a time to be sad and mourn, look at it as a chance to find stuff about yourself and get invovled in new things. Best of luck hon!
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Hello nic@nite! This sometimes happens wen we are missing something in our lives that we once cherished a lot! This is a way by which our subconscious lets us know that we need to do something to fill that void. It may or may not have anything to do wth that girl, but it surely has a lot to do with how you felt wen u were with her. Pls do a bit of intropspection and find out wat aspect in ur life is 'suffering', be it emotional, n so on.. I'm sure dat u wont be hurting again if you do dat, as it is just a reminder to let you know that u need someone or maybe just urself to fill that void. Blessings!
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Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason.  Distance is hard on any kind of relationship.  Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again.  Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on.  If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on.  There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you.