My ex-girlfriend is pregnate and i have a long time friend that just came back in to my life. I have a damn good chance with my old friend and i want to be with her something bad. And i care for my ex but sometimes she drives me mad. Any advice?
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if it is your baby be a man help your ex out and if you think that your old friend is the one for you then tell her and see if she is ok with it.\n\nI grew up with out a father and it was a very hard life fore me please dont just leave her.\n\nand my honest oppion is forget the old friend and be with your babys mother. my sister and her husband dislike each other with a pasion. they have been maried 5 years. e-mail me and we will talk more
18602
Sounds like your friend is in need of a mother-figure.  Maybe not.  Regardless, if I were in your shoes, I'd be happy for them both.  Don't interfere and don't be rude to your friend.  Being supportive is selfless and caring.  You'll find a better friendship with someone else.  Showing resentment is jealousy or envy.  Not cool.  And reall not mature.  Good luck.
295023
who cares we are no longer together and he is my EX but as for my friend I would rethink our relationship because she may have wanted him long time ago--leave the past in the past and do what you have to do for you and take care of you let that go
70738
My ex bf who i thought was now my best friend, is scum. and lying to me, who now has a gf who has a child and he forgot to mention this to me, and i had to hear it from a guy on the internet. \n\nnot everything you learn each day is good.
433512
Keep taking your meds.  What you have been through would make anyone be down.  If you have a therapist call them and talk.  You need someone that you can  talk to that is not going to betray you.  Say good bye to your friend and your boyfriend.  You do not need that extra drama in your life.  Dealing with a friendship like that is hard on any one. Stay strong and start thinking about the new baby that is going to come into your life..There is nothing like a grand baby to make the world a better place.  God bless you.
13444
I had the EXACT same problem.... okay.. my friend like had my brohters baby i was liek omg.... u no long story but then she was realyl stressed and cranky.. and depressed.... andd so so.. so I'd be crany back... and then once it got really bad b/c i wouldn't apoligize to her.. but after a while.. i mena a lign while.. liek 2 weeks? or a week w/e she said ur right.. nd i was iek yeah!!! but if she's on meds.. it can mess with her hormons for a couple weeks rember that... i usually just shurg everything off..
113062
If you're worried about how the ex-boyfriend will feel the key word to remember is EX. If he is really your friend he would want you to be happy.
616211
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
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It's perfectly natural to compare what is known and familiar (Your ex) to what is still being learned and unfamiliar (Your boyfriend), and everyone does it consciously or not. Your ex is part of your past that became a familiar territory, you know what makes him tick. If it's the material things that matter to you in life, chances are you might still be with your ex, but there's more to it since you've got the children and you know your current boyfriend is loving. The best thing you can do is to forget about the past, and what your ex has or had (if possible) and concentrate on your new relationship and being happy together with him. It might even seem that though your ex has some of the things you'd love to have (the new audi and 2nd home), you have something that he wants also (your children, and for you to be miserable). Don't give him that power over you! As they say, kill him with kindness... If it's his intent to make you jealous of his new car and 2nd home, brush it off and attempt to be genuinely happy for him! (Remember, he's the one stuck paying all those bills). This should get easier in time.
624138
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
400542
The pressures of a relationship are gone. Also, some women and men like what they can't have. So, enjoy your friendship. If you want to get back together with her, then you should take it slow. I am trying to get back with my ex girlfriend but I have to have patience and wait. Good things come to those that wait. If you just want her as a good friend, that's already done. Just have fun with her.
144982
My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
232207
I have been in almost the same situation. my bf got his ex gf pregnant while we were on a short break. I went back to him and now the child is almost 3. The ex is CRAZY, wont leave us alone. We have to pay 127 a WEEK in child support, which we cant afford and havent been able to pay the whole 127 a week so my now husband will be going to jail fairly soon. To make matters worse the ex had another son 6 months ago, 10 days before my daughter was born. and is now claiming it is my husbands. SO all I can say IS LEAVE HIM. It will never end. You will be alot more happier without him. ' YOU DONT WANT DRAMA WITH HIS BABIES MAMA'.
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well, i was going through the same kind of things you are. i was with my ex for 5 years, and now, of course we are apart. i am also pregnant with his child. i think all relationships have doubts. i did all 5 years, but i knew i wanted to be with him, yet we all wonder, well myabe there is someone else out there. maybe there is! i guess it all depends on what kind of doubts you are having. but yes, having doubts is typically normal!! you need to have a one on one conversation with yourself to find out if this woman is truly who you want to be with! its all in your hands!!
305291
nothing spoils faster than jealousy.  She may feel like she has to compete with you.  Back away for awhile.  Eventually she will come back around and if she doesn't she wasn't your real friend anyway.  And ignore the part with the ex---you have already had him and obviously hes not worth your time.  No worries!!!!!!!!!!!
86098
It is possible but it might be harder because when you have a child, everything changes, your lifestyles and your thoughts about everything. Therefore, you might act different towards your friends. That's life. No relationship can remain the same forever. You can be friends forever, but you will feel different about each other. Personality changes as you get older, whether you are an adult or a child. If you want to remain friendship and is scared of losing your friends after you have a baby, try to invite you friends over to visit and keep the chains of communication open towards each other like before. You might not have too much time to go out with them like before, but all of you can still keep the good friendship.
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She proved to you that she did not love you when you were away. Your best friend also proved that he could not be trusted. You know once you take her back and if you move in together that you are also responsible for the raising of the child. In my opinion you would be better off to find someone else for you. She has already screwed around on you once and by being with her you will feel that evry day when seeing their baby.