Ok, where do I begin?  I have known this girl since the beginning of last year, I always felt that she has had a crush on me.  About 8 months ago, she told my best friend that she had no feelings for me.  So then I asked another girl out (got turned down badly), and suddenly she freaks out on me and got really angry.  We didnt speak for about 2 months, but when we finally worked things out, we revealed our feelings for one anohter.  Since then, I've told her how I felt about her twice, and asked her out four times.  So far, she has just blown me off all but once.  I am getting frustrated because I am moving to college in another state in just a few months, and I care for her a lot and want to spend as much time with her as possible. Her friends have told me that she is nearly obsessed with me.  Obviously she cares about me and I care about her, but maybe its just time to let go? What do I do? I am so confused!
209106
Well after so much of persuading and convincing if she still blows you off, I think there is just one answer-She doesnt know what she wants! My suggestion is move on, if she cared as much as everyone says she does, she would have done something about it by now.\nThe last thing that you need is an undecided woman, especially if you going off to college soon.\nSorry, you in this situation......
33456
if you asked her how she felt before and she hasnt made an effort to tell you differently, her feelings might be the same. She might also be shy and hoping you will ask again..its hard to say. Has she been acting differently around you lately? Do you ever hang out with her alone, and if so what kind of convos do you have? If they are personal and important than thats a good thing.\nPrepare yourself, she may not have feelings for you. If you decide to ask her again she might get creeped out, so just watch her behavior and see how she acts.
564988
She feels something for you but she isn't exactly sure what she's feeling. You should talk to her about it to let her know she is safe around you. I also think that she doesn't want to lose your friendship. Sometimes being with someone who is your friend makes things a little awkward, and she doesn't exactly want to do that yet. Keep on being friends for now and see where that takes you.
78533
Sounds to me like a mixture of jealousy and being scared of losing her friend. The fact is that despite being your best friend, you have your own life to lead. Maybe you should sit her down and try and gently find out why she gets so bothered and reassure her that your friendship will always be there. Does she have boyfriends or has she been hurt in the past? Your success in love may be highlighting her own insecurities. Talking to her is definitely the best option. Good Luck.
400652
Well my man...you could not have handled this any worse. She talks to you and asks if you would like to study together. You assume from that it must mean she wants to be your girl. Girls do not want to be responsible for directly hurting guys. So by not calling back she was telling you she wasn't interested . But in your hot  pursuit you did not get that.\n\nBy calling all the time you made it clear to her you were desperate. No girl wants or needs a desperate boy and not much will chase them off sooner. And man you were desperate.\n\nFrom the beginning you blew it. You had her number. You were going to study together. \nMan what more could you ask for huh? Well you wanted her as a girl friend in the worse way so you really pushed yourself on her.\nThis not only turns a girl off she runs from it. You have to get her interested before you can be her boyfriend. And you must know how to do that.\n\nSo what should you have done. Took the number. Called only when it was time to study. While studying, while you were together, you get to know each other. You begin to develop some social value with her and when and if, only if, the time is right you could make your move.\n\nHave you ever heard of this phrase? The worse you want it the worse you will get it.  Guess what....you are living proof that this phrase is correct.\n\nBack off.....find another girl to study with and this time do it right.
240298
yes, i think you should make the first move. why let something get away when he was your first. if you don't then why be mad your the one standing back letting her do this. best friends are few and far between and if she'll do this to you then what else will she do. so tell yourself the truth she is not your bestfriend.friends stand beside each other not behind each other.
343567
Ya, if her feelings for you are ever going to change from friendship to relationship, it's probably not gonna happen when she knows that your waiting for her. I've had friends in the past that have professed their love for me after we had been friends for awhile, pretty much, once your in the friend place it's really hard to come out of. I'm not saying it's impossible but her knowing how you feel probably isn't helping, she knows you'll be there untill she's ready. My advice...move on, still be her friend but date someone else. If there ever is a chance of her feelings toward you changing, it'll happen when she thinks she's lost you. Everyone loves a challenge ;) Good Luck!
353038
it happened to me. I never talked to my former friend who told me his feelings. This happens most of the times. I think the problem is the girl starts to feel uncomfortable with you. Of course she knows that you treat her more than a friend. I think you should try to treat her like the way you treat your friends, if you want your friendship. If you want her love, then court her. Never let your fears block your way. Besides, also give her time ti think and a little more space.. Good luck!
615989
You should probably have a talk with her, your friend.  Tell her that you guys are friends and that she means the world to you.  Be as gentle as you can in telling her that you just don't feel that way towards her right now.  If it's meant to be, then it will.  If you like this girl Summer, then by all means ask her out.  Just don't parade her in front of your friend, that will pour salt on the wound.
463338
Talk to her about it one on one. She probably does not realize that you're feeling this way. My friend did the same thing when she fell in love in high school. Now we're both in different colleges but we still hang out, but her bf has now become one of my friends as well. But yeah the relationship between my friend and I was never the same.
392151
Hi/There.\nWell! My Friend !\nYou are simply in Love With this Girl !\nYou should find some time , as difficult as this may Be to talk to her !\n( Where there is a will. There is a WAY !)\nIf You tell her Your Feelings ! I am sure She will be very Flattered !\nIf Not ! ( what have You lost !)\nMaybe a little self Respect ? NO BIG DEAL !\nAll ways a NEXT TIME !\nGood Luck Bro !\nRegards Nick.
533334
Well buddy, i was in a situation like that.....college was the best thing that ever happened to me on that, cause i moved away from her and never saw her again.  If she was just your friend and dated a bunch of dudes and knew you liked her...she is NO GOOD...as far as love is concerned.....so you shoul'dve booted that b*tch to the curb long time ago, or made it strickly friendly.  But stickin to the plan and hoping is bad...those are false hopes, you can't make anyone love you, and you can't be so friendly that they'll somehow say "hey, he's a sweet guy..let me give him a chance"  that's straight up B*LLSH*T my friend, they will never do that, they will always see you as a friend and nothing more.  Chase after women who will give you a genuine chance the FIRST time..not after they date someone else....because if they really liked you or wanted you..they would've given you a chance a LOOOOONG time ago.  Women a lot of times just don't know what the hell they want, and they don't find out until much later, but by then it's too late because they've either slutted the hell out of themselves, or just been through so much drama that they become high maintenance....you don't want to get involved with that....because if they can't appreciate you for you at that time what the HELL makes them think they can appreciate you now?  You ain't too good to be her friend, she wasn't a friend in the first place if she knew you wanted her and she blew it off and never confronted you about her feelings.  It's called, can't deal with lovesickness, and that's what she caused with every moment you were with her anyway....so don't feel bad, just move the hell on...find someone who will appreciate you....not someone who'll just lead you on for their own selfish support.
363014
yup..\n\nguys are like that..\n\nthere's this girl i really like, we dated 2 years ago but then i stopped for some reason i dont understand.\nshe's had 2 bofyfriends since then.\nand it really tore my heart everytime i saw her with her ex. \nwe were from the same high school.\n\nnow she's single again & i told her already what i feel for her.\nwe're dating again..\nwe're in college now. different universitys though..\ni don't want to lose her again.. ever..
273278
Ignore him he sounds like a very jealous person.  As far as the girls go...you said your friends.  There is no reason you can't tell her how you feel when no one is around and if she rejects you he would never know.  However, if she feels the same way...good for you...don't worry about making him mad. (Just when you tell the girl how you feel...tell her that you have something to ask her and you don't want it to ruin your friendship if she doesn't feel the same way and then let her know how you feel.)  Good Luck.
365878
You obviously waited too long and another girl took the opportunity and swept him off his feet. Its ok though, you're just gonna have to act faster and not be hesitant next time. I know this from experience and I know how it feels when you like somebody and they like you but then someone else comes along. Plus, he may still have feelings for you and if his current relationship doesn't work out, you know what to do.......
199634
i have a feeling she suddenly is not seeing you in the "best friend" light anymore, but rather as something more, and doesnt know how to handle it and needs time/space to sort out her feelings. pressing her to talk about it when she is not ready would alienate her even more. she'll come around, just be patient. you hovering around does not help her think.
532532
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.