Im dating one guy, its not really all that serious. Dont get me  wrong, i do care a big deal for him. But Im still in love with my ex boyfriend. I miss him and think about him alot. What should i do? is this normal?
212970
I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.
283764
Yes, I have been with someone for just over 9 years. A year and a half ago thisman and I stopped talking formore than a few months. My high school sweetheart called out of the blue at this point....WOW!! So I fell in love for him all over again, only to find it was not him, it was him from high school. Then after a few months started talking with the other guy. It sucks. Think! Before you do. Its your life.
354064
umm sex isn't everything you guys can work on that there is plenty of things that can change that.. but if your thinking about other guys during sex you don't need to be with him ...and if your thinking about your ex with your current bf you dont need him either! take a break and figure things out on your own
187761
I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
189565
If you still love him,tell him the true. Do not make the same mistake I made. I'm been married for seven years, but I still feeling something for my ex-boyfriend. I know isn't love,but maybe butterflies in my stomach. That is strange or not?
312146
It is understandable that you are still in love with your ex. What I DON'T understand is why are you broke up and still having sex with him EVERYDAY?!?!? That's not broke up... that's an out for him to do you and any other girl he wants anytime because you are "broke-up". You're not his girlfriend any more so you have NO SAY in who else he screws and sice you are "broke-up" he can do it guilt-free as well on a "broke-up" technicality.
412451
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
376677
To start don't come on too strong until you get to know each other better. After a while if you still feel like you have to play games he's not the one for you. My boyfriends calls me to tell me he misses me if I haven't been in touch for a few days and we never worry about who's turn it is.  If we are thinking about each other we let the other person know and it very comfortable...but once i dated a guy who said i called him too much because i called him twice in one day.  Thank god we split up and i met me current boyfriend!
344944
You are an unusual person!!!\n\nIt's ok to still have some kind of feelings for the ex. But for 5 months you have been living a lie w/ you bf? Why do you do that to him?\n\nYou have been cheated by the boyfriend, and the friend.\nI would move on with someone who would make me forget that pig who cheated on me.It's not fair that you stay with the current bf if you think you still love the ex.\nMaybe he's not the one for you either.\nSorry, but true.Cuz in my own experience, I felt bad for a while for the ex. But the new one made me forget, pretty quick!!!!!
287378
Ok...Sometimes we do think someone is the "one", but as time goes by being apart, usually the feelings also grow apart as life moves on. which means, we just thought that person was the "one"... Thats how it generally works... NOW, in the rare occasion.. it works differently.. I will use myself as example. I was dating a guy for 2 years, we both said we were the "one" each other wanted to be with (no proposal tho), well I ended up breaking things off (he had been jobless a while).. He wanted back with me for a while, but i wouldnt... Time passed by, we both lived our seperate lives, but talked on the phone occasionaly (maybe 6 times in 2 yrs).. We both had our new relationships and new breakups.. After two yrs of being apart I had a bad situation happen to me, and he was the only one who came running to help me.. ANd our relationship has begun again.. we both realized there were things we both were wrong about before, and  lessons were learned in our time apart.. The only difference is, noone cheated on anyone... That can really bruise someone's ego and self esteem, and make it hard for them to trust anyone again.. before your ex would consider being with you again, he'd have to gain trust in you back.. I'd suggest to him to try out being friends , hanging out (no sex) talking on the phone, etc.. to see what can be built up between you two. If you are meant to be together, you will be.. I'm proof of that
145047
The only thing you can do is listen to your heart. What is your heart saying to you when you think of that person? You can't change the way you feel about that person. But ask yourself, How does that person feel about you? Is he taking time to work through your problems with you or are you the only one doing all the work. In order for your relationship to work  both of you have to put up an effort to want to work things out. If he is not interested in helping with the relationship it will fall apart no matter how much you care for him. This will also show how he feels about the relationship. \n\n   Sometimes you have to move on and try someone different. You, of course will need time for yourself before this happens. In doing this you will understand what you really want from a partner. Sometimes God makes things available for you to work and go through in order to get something better for you. But remember it is your decision to continue what you are going through. Dont let it get to the point where it will discourage you from dating or comparing other guys to him. All guys are not the same. Remember\neverything/anything is your choice. No decision is right or wrong, it is a lesson learned.
177809
i think that you should just tell ur boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that although you like him so much u still have feelings for your ex that u need to deal with. the sooner you do this the less you will hurt him. There is no point of being with someone when ur thinking about another person.
181791
i understand you might love the first guy, but if he doesn't feel the same then move on, and love this other guy, you should let it go and follow your heart.  yes you might not love the 2nd like the 1st but not all love is the same.  You will probably always think about the love you had for the first guy, but the key thing here is that he doesn't feel the same, and you can't make someone love you.
273588
Your ex is your ex for a reason. Remember that. It sounds like you have a good relationship with this other guy, I think you need to let your ex go and forget about anything that might take you back to him. You are not being fair to either guy by running to the other when you have problems. Instead, get on yahoo answers to help solve your problems...lol! just kidding. But seriously, you need to move on with this new guy. You might feel things for your ex and that is natural because you have a past together...but it's just that, a past. Time to look to the future and move on. Good luck!
626050
Should you feel guilty that you are thinking about another man while having sex with your boyfriend?  That would be a yes.  You dated this gorgeous successful man while you and your boyfriend took a break from one another, so why didn't that work?  For what ever reason it didn't happen between you and the other man, you really need to get over it and try to be in a respectful relationship with the guy you call your "boyfriend".
610749
I am glad that u say he is your EX. Why then do u care what he thinks about u? Still, you need 2 get him out of your life altogether. When u do get another boyfriend your ex will think that he was right about u that u are a s---. He may even cause conflict with u & your guy. You are being subjected 2 mental abuse that will lower your self-esteem & u need 2 totally reject this guy from your life.
75940
I started dating a guy when i was in 14 and he was 17. We dated for 4 1/2 years. Me and my bf broke up last January and it was very hard. We just lost feelings and it was mutual but it was still hard. We both needed to experience life and what not. I am now 19 and just got a new bf in November. I am happier then ever but before i found him it was hard. Sat home, never left, didnt talk to anyone, just heart broken. It was tough and took a ling time but u just need to go out and have fun adn try not to think of it. If it was ur first love u will never forget him and u will always think of him but it will take time.