The main female i had a problem with is now gone thank god.But now i do get blamed for him losing his friends ,but he didnt lose any of his guy friends it just all the females.i gave him a choice because of how he would call and they would call all the time.Of course he chose me but he resents me, for not being able to keep his female friends.that makes me feel so bad cause i just didnt think it was proper.He has brought up how his ex gf would let him have female friends and he would call them and chat with them online and go hang out with them and he says she was cool with it,but big difference im not her so i dont care what went on when he was with her .ok another thing now at his job he has been talking to this girl and i guess they talk alot he knows alot about her and vice versa.I asked him about her and he says they just talk about games and poems.Is this ok that he spends time talking to this female at work ?and was it bad for me to make him chose?
202070
this guy is being unfaithful and hes trying to cover his tracks but listen if he was not guilty then why does he get so defensive.ill tell you why because he has a guilty conscience and another reason is men hate to get caught! it makes them look like a bitch.so my advice to you is to check him and if he cant respect what you ask then hes hidin something so be careful and goodluck gurl!!!!!!-lisa
547455
To put it plainly guy's don't want Girls as friends they want girlfriends, he wouldn't bother with you if he didn't feel someit. So chance it definitely darlin', its better to have tried and failed than to never have tried.
416039
Yeah darlin' it sounds like you're feelings are stronger than his at this point, sorry.From his point: I think it's hard to be best friends w/ a member of the opposite sex when you're  involved with someone. He may feel like he's betraying her. She may be putting some sort of pressure or negative input. \nAbout you  feeling "used" when he comes back after their break up... (which BTW their future break up is 99.9% probabable, statistically)..though I do see your point,  if you understand human nature, and as you get older you'll see this same thing again and again, very common, because people change, life is change. Change can be difficult, especially in relationships. \nNow as for numbering your friends in a ranking system, and should you call him this lable or that lable... I think once you guys can get past that "disastrous system" and began to see all the people that you really enjoy being around as your "closest friends" without the number/lable system, I believe there will be a lot less hurt feelings and heartache between all of you. Not saying we didn't do the same exact thing when I was your age,and it sucked being  #2,3 or 4 then, just as it does now. But since I did survive my teen years, I want to share that with you! My advice to you is to be the best friend that you feel comfortable with being to him, and her, without crossing the boundaries and getting into their "relationship space". He's your friend, she's your friend until either of them stops being what you consider to be a friend, at which time they are no longer a friend...\nMeanwhile use YOUR energy on YOU not him!  Good luck girl...
655247
I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
407308
He sounds really conflicted. I don't think it's you at all but his own undealt-with problems. Don't be frustrated with the other women he is pursuing because the ultimate problem isn't anything having to do with you, but the inhibitions he has. He's acting out some sort of situation and you're a pawn in that game. As difficult as it may be, I seriously suggest you do what you can to likewise see him as just a friend. He may come around then and start treating you as an emotional equal, but if not don't consider it any loss. He sounds like he has issues. That's what it sounds like to me, anyway; obviously you know more than any one of us.
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Don't tell him, because you told the girlfriend you wouldn't.  Honor that commitment.  Once she has broken up with him, you can tell him you knew, but since he was never hanging around with you, you didn't have the chance to tell him.  Don't be jealous though when your friends hang out with women, this is just how life works.  You are going to have to get used of it.  You will do the same thing too.
672530
He is a married man, and has no business being friends with other women, if the friend ship doesnt include his wife, she has every right to be upset about it, as she shouldnt have to share her husband with anyone else under any circumstance.  He sounds like a disrespectful jerk to put her through this kind of thing as its not normal in a marriage.... So listen to your "other" friends and back off, you are over steppin your bounds!
320908
Get over him. He obviously has no respect for women or himself. He strung you along while he was out looking for something more convenient. Now he's with a married woman, he does not want a commitment.
326747
things aren't always as they seem.\nmaybe it's she who doesn't wanna hang out with his mates.\ni read somewhere that if your man don't take you to hang with his mates, he's not serious. so maybe it's because he's not serious about her and don't really want her making friends with you lot in case it don't last.\nor maybe he and his gf just wanna spend alot of 'quality time alone' :P
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It sounds like you need to make the decision for him and break it off.  If he is still talking with his ex, then he is not over her and will not be able to fully commit to you or anyone else until he is.  It sounds like he needs to be taking care of his issues with his ex and not getting involved with anyone else until he has that figured out.  You sound more like his safety net than anything and if she was to call him back and tell him to come back to her, you would be dumped and he would be gone.
560479
Your boyfriend should not want to be in a realtionship if this is the kind of behavior he likes to do with his female friends. There is no way you will ever feel better about what he is doing. Sound like he doesn't have to much respect for you or your feeling.
337234
wow.. im not the emotional sort, but i heard you crying while you wrote this! i feel for you, we all been there, you gotta CHANGE your out look and overview! it's over, he's cheated it wont get better, it cant, it will be tough, but you will get by it, find out your old girlfriends get back in touch with them, and start again.  company will help you through, and help you meet other people, dont give up look forward to the change ok?....ok?
548378
We women have this awful bloody problem that when things go wrong we automatically assume it's OUR fault or something WE did!!!!\n\nSome men don't like women who have an opinion or a voice!\n\nTo be honest maybe it's good that he has ended the relationship, he sounds like he may have more baggage than you know about. It shows commitment to meet someones family and if that's whats scared him off your better off without him, girl!
155284
Maybe you need to talk to him before you decide to trust him or not.  The question would be why he was talking about her *** and in what context.  If he is flirting with this girl versus having a discussion where he is answering a question or helping her with a problem is a big difference.  If he is flirting then it is time to give him the boot.
93374
Keep being cautious!  You can still hang out with him and see how he handles being around other women.  If you notice he is a major flirt, know that his behavior is a reg flag of possible playeritus.  If your friends are saying those things about him, ask them how they know that he messes around with lots of other girls.  Maybe one of your friends has had a personal experience with the guy that justifies their warnings to you.   A good way to find out more about his behavior is to ask his (guy) friends about his dating history.  If he jumps from one girl to another as easy as frogs can jump from lily pad to lily pad, there's another red flag for you.  I'm glad he hasn't tried to pull the screwing trick on you--but always be ready that he could do that to you when you least expect it (particularly if alcohol or the likes are involved).  Well, good luck!
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Well if he said that, I do not know why you are with him anymore. I do understand what he does say though. I do not think that anyone would ever say anything like that. I think that is something that happens all the time with guys and life. It always is the way, guys want what they can not or do not have. I would really rethink being with him if he is telling you about thinking about other girls.
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THe fact that he slept with other women AFTER you broke up has no bearing on anything at all . You broke up he had no commitment to save himself for you. SO unlike someone else answering here stated he didn't cheat on you it sounds like you cheated on him. No it isn't wrong that he would want to remain friends with these women. JUst because he had sex with them once doesn't mean it will happen again. ANd furthermore after being with them and having a couple of months to think after you cheated on him He is choosing to come back to you. Life is a crap shoot your just going to have to take a deep breathe and make the choice to trust him or not trust him.