i'm a bi guy (i think i am. maybe i'm gay) and only my friend girl knows. she thinks our friend is gay and that he likes me. at 1st i didnt think he did but he is always so so nice to me. he gives me these lingerin stares and cute lil smiles... i think i do like him but i cant tell my friend girl after i already said i didnt like him. he is just so nice. he makes me feel special and cared about. so can someone tell me how i can find out if he's gay and how i can tell him that i'm interested? thanx a bunch!
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Well, to begin with you have to ascertain that he is in fact gay or bi. We got a couple of ways to go: just ask him would be my best advice. Second to that...does he date anyone? Does he have friends that he regularly hangs out with that you could ask?\nIf he is gay/bi...just tell him how you feel. It is my opinion that nothing bad can happen when you tell someone how you feel. Could he reject you? Absolutely. But you haven't lost anything if he does...you're not dating him now. You will have the benefit of knowing that you tried and knowing exactly where he stands, even if its not beside you.\nAs for your girlfriend, women know that you can change your mind (It is out pergotaive :) ). Your friend probably will rib you a little and then help you implement your game plan. \nHope this helps and good luck to you!
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Well firstly is your friend bi or gay? Does she know how you feel about her?\n\nContact me if you want to talk  - epsonc760@hotmail.co.uk
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He might be gay, but he might also be a nice straight guy, or a gay guy who hasn't come out yet.\n\nJust start small talk with him, and see if he responds, and don't be in a hurry to find out if he is gay or not.  If there is anything there it will reveal itself to you soon enough.\n\nDating and find gay guys in high school is hard, i know i just graduated last spring.\n\nLast thing, if he is straight, then its not bad to have straight guys just as friends too, be open to that too.
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Things are cut and dry.  You are gay, and he is straight.  He probably is just comfortable around you and enjoys your company.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be anything other than friends with you.  If he asks why yer still single, he just probably thinks yer a good guy and deserves to be with another good guy, but no necessarily him.  Keep being his friend, but dont think or hope for more.  If he really is gay, and decides to come out, Im sure you'll be the first to know, but until then... Just realize that he is STRAIGHT.
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look honey take it 4rm\na bi guys point of view\nHE LIKES U AND IS SCARED 2 TELL U!!!\ni hope this helps u sweety
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i did and i still do. i have never told him.it's so hard to tell whether you like your friend as just a friend or as something more because the line between friendship and lovers is very thin. i always liked him as more than a friend but i settled for friendship rather than nothing. when i am with him, it feels like its just the two of us and the way he looks at me.
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you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
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He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
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I think you have some feelings for him your self. I mean it's obvious that you like him, cause if you didn't you wouldn't be asking. You'd deny it now, but sooner or later, you'll stop living in denial and accept that you like him as well. \n\nWell the odds to this is most likely a yes. But he could only want you as a friend. I mean no one will really know the truth. Only he will know. But for now, if I were you just keep this friend ship between him and yourself close. Cause if you do like him as well, you'll know that he will always be there for you. So don't ruin this relationship. You might not know what you really have, when you have it, and when you don't have it, you'll want it back. Trust me, I've been in this same situation. You might not approve, but it'll happen.
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well i know im bi-curious not sure if its the same, but i know cuz i want to be with a guy, but i get very attracted to women sometimes, i think its more of a casual thing, but i know its normal for a women to be attracted to the same sex or at least curious, women know what women like! and women are usually better looking they were built to be admired and looked at. when a beautiful woman walks by, everyone looks not just men, even straight women! for your friend, me and my best friend were both curious and got together a few times and it was great felt as if it made our bond closer, but if its only one sided you can tell and should drop it and maybe look else where for your feelings, you dont want to scare her especially when shes a close friend. im sure if you are close enough she might be able to sit and listen to your concerns and maybe even help!
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Tough one!\nI am a gay man and have several really close female friends. Something seems to happen in these relationships that turns them into really special and close friendships. Everything is usually very fun and open. We can talk about anything and just be ourselves without having to try to impress eachother or hold back our innermost feelings and deepest secrets.\nI would try to control your feelings to the best of your ability. It is possible to remain as close as you are without this affecting your close relationship. But please be careful because it sounds to me like you are in the emotional danger zone.\nIf your friend is understanding- tell him how you feel. Let him know that you understand that he is gay and are not trying to change him but that you really admire his qualites. If he is such a loving person, he will be proud and honored that you think so highly of him. ( I know I would be!!)\nJust make sure that you realize the situation that you are in and that a sexual relationship between the two of you would be doomed from day 1.\nGood luck! :)
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Does he know your gay?If not tell him and let him know how you feel.
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You are being included in his activities. He is expressing an interest in you. Be patient, if it is meant to be, it will happen.\n\ntj69: Talk about gay, I'll bet you know all about grabbing a guys thing. Get a life idiot.
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Okay, well obviously you shouldn't have snooped in his mail box, and he trusted you not to or he wouldn't have given you the password. But you feel bad about it and realize it was wrong, so I'm not going to reprimand you for it.\n\nIf you guys have been friends for three years, and you're good friends, I don't think it's out of line to ask him if he's gay. If your friend knows you're an accepting person, and he's also an accepting person (more on this later), it shouldn't be a problem to ask him as long as you don't do it in an accusatory way.\n\nThe reason why I ask if he's an accepting person is that it's possible that he might not have come out to himself yet. I have a friend that was obviously gay, everyone who knew him thought he was gay from the start, but even though he was accepting of gay people he'd never admit it. He wouldn't even admit to being bi. Well, after knowing this guy for four years he finally admitted that he was bi, and that he had actually been with more guys than girls. The thing is, at the time he didn't think that made him gay or even bi! He was convinced that because he was "just friends" with these guys, and just happened to have benefits with them, that he wasn't bi or gay. He still won't admit he's gay but now that he's come out as bi he never dates girls and says he's not interested in them. The moral of the story is that your friend might not have admitted to himself yet that he is gay. If you ask him about it, he might deny it. Clearly he IS gay or you wouldn't have found those messages, but he might not be willing to accept that yet. If he's a socially open-minded person he shouldn't be offended if you ask him, even if he denies it (my friend was never offended). But if not, that could be the reason why he's not coming out to you or possibly himself, and he could react badly if you ask. So just keep that in mind.\n\nThe final option is that perhaps you can hint that you have some suspicions about him, but not ask outright. Make it clear that you don't have a problem with gays, and let him know how good of a friend you consider him and that you'd never give him up for anything. Then just wait for him to become comfortable coming out to you, when he's ready.
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I think he likes you too. I know it is hard for a girl to ask a guy such question since I am going through the same thing. I think you should get a friend to ask him.
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YOU'RE not gay unless you enjoyed it, invited it, or want to do it again (and even then you could be bi or just curious). \nPretty sure your 'friend' is, though.
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bi\n\n\n\ni have found a girl attractive & visualized myself having sex with her but it seems like u have REAL feelings for her especially since ur thinking about her day & night.\n\n\nand if u stop having feelings for men, then ur gay.