if two people are happy together and if a person is comfortable with who they are then why do people play such a large role in the way that those people act???
205850
I'm not judging anyone but the bible says it's wrong that's why he gave man woman to be his companion don't forget he didn't give Adam another man he gave him a woman for his company.
565169
Because they are insecure about themselves so it makes them feel better being able to control someone else.
21908
People possess many good characteristcs or traits, such as being trustworthy and attentive to your needs.\n\nIf the words can't be changed, let me know. I'll ajust my answer. You didn't specify.
475564
If you are not comfortable with the actions of this person, then follow your heart and do what it tells you.  I think that it is sad that people feel they have to put up with bad behavior or otherwise risk being alienated from others.  The world does have nice people in it you just have to look for them and you are unlikely to attract them if you are hanging around someone who is negative and argumentative.
376161
You've already answered your own question. You know who you really want to be with and who makes you happy. What's the big deal?
109257
I would say that has a lot to do with ur childhood and how u were raised.  this happens in all relationships that have some sort of dysfunctional unhealthy relationship wether heterosexual,bi or even gay relationships there is no difference on how the person behaves with another.  If you wanted if before u had it than tells me you like the challenge and when u have if finally the challenge is over an excitement must be gone as well or even some sort of control issue's with ur own true feelings in fear of getting hurt or theirs whomever takes the other for granted later.  we tend to immitate our peers when we grow up even if we did not want to handle things similar but we do sometimes ....think of it this way were u taught anyother way ?  hard to change but if u want to u can change but doubt overnite need to get some therapy or more education in the area if were not raised to be a certain way or taught to love us more than another first and demand respect or ta ta cya....lol.   good luck
220093
People aren't honest because they need to present a good face.  God knows what their marriage is really like or what their spouse would say.\n\nThat's me being cynical, I do know happily married couples though, but I know alot more people who swear their relationships are perfect in one breath and then proceed to complain about their spouse in the next.
551554
unfortunately in our society men and women find themselves playing stereotypic roles ie. the "strong" or macho man who takes control and makes all the decisions right or wrong, the "strong" woman who takes charge, mangles others feelings male and female. The man is typically seen as a d#*&k and the woman as a b@#$ch. People seem to have an almost pathologic need to team up with one of these stereotypes. They never develop their full potential in a relationship because one person is so dominant. On the other hand, everyone wants to feel that the man or woman they are relating to has internal strengths and will not a)fall apart at the drop of a hat or b) provide comfort and support when the other feels vulnerable or weakened by some of life's visicitudes Oh that people could just crave and nurture good friends, good stong yet loving partners. It is hard to believe that the ideal exists.. Hope is eternal. El cabo.
294762
Ignorant people judge others without knowing the depth of feelings that can be exchanged when two people are really into each other.  I witnessed love between two lesbians over 30 years. As one of them was dying the other cared for her day and night and proved to be more caring than her own child. If that was wrong then society is really off the mark. The world around us is twisted by too many people on soap boxes talking about things they do not fully understand.  Anyone that can love someone for more than 30 years has done something right now wrong. So if you are happy with someone do not let those around you ruin a good thing.
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You can't rely on other people to make you happy, because you can only rely on you.  You need to be happy within yourself before you can bring other people into your life.  The people who gravitate towards you are probably users because they can sense your desperation to know someone good, and most users are wonderful actors.  Take some time away from people to work on yourself, and then be choosy about your friends.\n\nPS:  Church people aren't any better than regular people.  Some of the most hateful people I know I first met in a church pew.
467097
Human nature, people don't always show they care for whatever reason when you are with them. Once you are not, they think "I miss them", then they decide to show how they feel.  Not always a wise choice in both cases, but, it's how humans are.
26799
A person only has as much control over another person as they are given.\n\nOne really should not try to control another person, it's not a healthy way to participate in a relationship.\n\nInstead, a healthy relationship is an equal partnership where both partners seek to find solutions to issues that can be embraced enthusiatically by their partner.\n\nIt's not about control, it's about caring for another person more than you care about yourself or getting your own way.
94965
Many people are like that, for several reasons. It could be for intimidation, or just because people don't want to worry family and friends. Normally, people are unhappy because of the everyday problems that arouse as we go on. Things like money, office work, children, social problems, health problems, and many others don't necessarily make one unhappy, but most people faced with these things don't try to appear unhappy.\nBut, on the other hand, many people are not like that. Many people are in love with life and are as happy as can be. they don't need to make others believe that they are happy- they already are! People who don't socialize much might not have as much of a need to make others feel like they are happy, though.\nIt's hard to say whether the statement is right or wrong, but there are different types of people. Let me just say that a lot of times, the superficial reality is different from the truth.
208445
I understand completely. The reason people pretend to be something they are not is to get somethng they otherwise could not. They figure, if they don't like me for me, I'll be someone else. Needless to say, that never works out and people that try that are looking at a dead end in love.
275291
Because they think they're better than others, or either they're insecure about themselves and try to find fault in others just for the heck of it. It happens a lot nowadays, you just have to learn to be more open-minded. If people dont like you for who you are, that's their problem.
391554
Some people are really being honest and then some are just looking for an identity and trying to find it through you.\nLost people need direction and don't know how to get it unless they are using someone else.\nIf it really bothers you , simply ask them, "are you sure this is what you want or are you just doing it because I am?", they usually get the hint after a while.
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Everytime somebody does something like cheating it springs form an inperfection they prcieve in themselves. Usually fear of a stable relationship is because the people dont feel they are capable of holding up their end.