My boyfriend and my best girlfriends went to vegas 4 a weekend. My bestfriend is very flirty and friendly but she started with my boyfriend. She asked him for a piggy-back ride and he gave it to her. Then she took pictures with him with her arms around him and he around her. My boyfriend also loves to talk and well I noticed that most of the talk was towards her and not the other girls. I know how she is but should I let it bother me? I mean she's not a backstabber but I just didn't like seeing them flirting.
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Yes, it should bother you.  Because she is your friend doesn't mean you should put complete trust in her.  People you feel you can trust are the ones that WILL STAB YOU IN THE BACK! Besides, friends are supposed to respect eachother.  Right now she is not and neither is your boyfriend.  Be careful, because it sounds like there maybe something going on or about to happen.  If you want to avoid problems and don't want anything to come between your friendship, then put a stop to it now...\n\nGood Luck!
655177
Some of these people are obviously too stupid to understand the question....which is perfectly clear to me.  You are saying that you AND your boyfriend don't like this girl.  Well, your boyfriend shouldn't have to spend HIS birthday with someone HE doesn't like.\n\nSince, you say that this girl knows that you guys don't like her(and that would mean the friend knows that, too) I would cancel plans anytime he invites her without your permission.  Maybe, he will get the hint.  That way you don't have to come out and say it but still get your point across.\n\nIf she(and he, obviously) knows you don't like her, then he shouldn't have been so rude as to invite her to hang out with your boyfriend on his birthday.  So, be just as rude and cancel.\n\nWhy would she want to hang out with people that don't like her, anyway?  That doesn't even make sense.
59593
Maybe she has not yet matured to the level in which she feel comfortable with a boyfriend in the presence of her friends. Maybe she feels they will make fun of the way she interacts on an intemate level with a man. It could be as simple as that.\n\nPS I am a brutal critic of women and do not trust them as far as i can throw them but in all fairness i do not think she is up to anything out of the ordinary here so just remain calm.
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Not unless you did something you shouldn't have while out. Let your girlfriend know that you are just friends with them and that's as far as it goes. She shouldn't be like that over friends. Does she still have guy friends she hangs with?
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Sounds like he just wanted to hang out with a friend... and this would probably go over nicely with you if you liked his friends. People's friends reflect who they are. I think the issue here is, are you willing to accept your boyfriend, and his friends, the way they are? He has something in common with these friends and that is why they hang out together. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend with friends you truly liked? Don't pick a fight about this.. it is who he is. What is there to fight about? I'd take a long, good hard look at your companion and decide if he's offering you what you want.
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Maybe its your girldfirend that just wants your money.  But I would hate to think my best friend would stab me in the back and date a guy i cared about.  Does this tell you anything about the girl you are thinking of asking out? If that is the way she treats her best friend is she really gonna be that good to you?  Either way if you current girlfriend is that bad to you - you need to let her go and tell her why.  If things happen between you and the other girl after that -  then all is fair.  Good luck to you
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So in other words,  he decided to go along with this girl when she wanted to see how you would react to her having her hands on your boyfriend?  He decided to go along,  knowing that you were going to see and that it would not set well with you?  Do you not believe that you deserve better than someone who would stoop to that level "just to see a reaction"?  Him going along with it shows how little he thinks of you.  If it were me,  I would call it quits and seek someone who has some common sense.
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Ive done this very thing,My best friend and i messed around for a long time,and she was dating my other best friend,the difference is,he knew about it and didnt care one bit..she lived with me and we shared a bedroom....maybe its different when its 2 girls,instead of a guy n a girl....no chance of pregnancy or any of that...Now shes dating someone else,and i would still mess with her if i had the chance,even tho this guy doesnt like it,i dont care cuz hes a jerk and doesnt deserve her..
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That's not cool at all. I would have a problem with that too. \nI am assuming your best friend is a female. The messed up thing is that if you say something to one or both of them, they are still going to have that connection, they are just going to hide it from you.\nHow about you start suggesting that you and your man start spending time together alone, without your best friend and the same goes for you and your best friend.\nI don't know why the three of you are all hanging out together anyways. You need to learn early on that your man doesn't need to hang out with your female friends all the time. That's not a good idea.
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I would hope that if he's your boyfriend that he already knows that you like him. \n\nTo answer your question regarding how your boyfriend chooses and interacts with his friends, I have a few thoughts that I'd love to share. \n\nThere is nothing wrong with your boyfriend having friends of the opposite sex, however, he needs to be guarded with how he interacts with you, and if he's serious about you, he needs to make sure that you're ok with his actions.\n\nThis next comment may be a little bit extreme, but it's good food for thought. One way to gauge one's actions is to consider everyone else as someone else's husband or wife. So a question he needs to ask himself could be 'Would I act this way with a married woman'. \n\nThe part that is most difficult with this is that you can't change how he acts. You should definately talk to him about it, and if it bothers you, then he needs to know that it does. If he's serious about his relationship with you, then his actions should change if he knows it bothers you.
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Your friend is being really stubborn. It seems to me that she has some deep-seated issues with criticism. (I should introduce her to my best friend — they sound like kindred spirits.) You need to get them both in the same place (don't tell them your plans until you get them together) so they can work out whatever beef she has with him. It's good that your boyfriend at least tried to make amends.
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Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
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I don't see anything wrong with that.  Does your current girlfriend have a problem with it?  If she does,  surely she knew prior to becoming your girlfriend that you mainly had female friends.  I am a female who has very little female friends.  I don't get along with women very well.  I get along better with males.  I make sure that anyone I get involved with understands that my friends were in my life long before my boyfriends.
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There is nothing wrong with your boyfriend wanting to watch you with another,he just want to maybe fullfil a fantisy and he wants you to be a part of it.and i think that is very good of him because most man will do that behind there girl back.and how do u go about finding a girl to do that, if you have a best friend that u trust and she is willing to do that with no strings attach with yr boyfriend whatsoever u don't have a problem.
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She could have been friend with your bf for years . . . while you are new to the picture.\n\nSounds like you are one of those jealous types . . . and she doesn't know how you would react if another person talks with your man.\n\nYou are already getting on his case . . . when he said nothing is happening . . . and to prove it . . . she want you to come join them on events their group of friends  always do.  \n\nIf you want to learn more of what your bf is about . . . go . . . and become friends with them . . . I bet you they have stories you never even heard before.  If you are too self-centered . . . then dump you boyfriend and get another sucker . . .
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My friendship with my ex never created a problem with my current b/f. My b/f understands that my ex and I were friends first and that's how we'll always be despite what happened in our relationship. There are certain boundaries that you should not cross though. There is always suspicion when it comes to dealing with your current's ex, and that's normal. It's a human thing. Just try not to take it too personal unless you're sure there's a reason to.
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YOU ARE IN A TOUGH SITUATION; HOWEVER, WOULDN'T YOU WANT TO KNOW.  YOU NEVER KNOW HOW THE SISTER MIGHT REACT SHE COULD EITHER BE MAD THAT YOU JUST BROKE THE NEWS TO HER, BUT LATER WHEN SHE DOES A LITTLE EXPLORING THE FACTS ON HER OWN I WOULD IMAGINE SHE WILL THINK YOU.  I HAVE A FRIEND OF MINE THAT NEVER TOLD HER OTHER FRIEND THAT HER BOYFRIEND TRIED TO COME OVER FOR A BOOTY CALL.  MY FRIEND TURNED THE GUY DOWN AND CHOSE TO KEEP THIS INFO TO HERSELF. A FEW MONTHS LATER SOMEONE ELSE TOLD THE OTHER FRIEND AND THE TWO USE TO BE FRIENDS HAVE NEVER TALKED SINCE, IF SHE REALLY MEANS ANYTHING TO YOU, YOU WOULD BE BETRAYING HER IF YOU JUST LET THIS GUY TREAT HER LIKE THAT. WE ALL NEED PEOPLE TO WATCH OUT FOR US AND IF MY RELATIONSHIP WAS IN JEOPRODY WITH A FRIEND FOR TELLING ME THE TRUTH I WOULD COME TO MY SENSES EVENTUALLY.