My ex and I stopped dating because he was going off to college and we didn't want to do the long distance thing. We remained friends the whole time he was gone but the past year things have seemed to change between us. Now he is about to come back and we always talked about getting back with each other when he was finished with school if we weren't with anyone else. So is it a good idea if we get back together and when things ended they ended on good terms not on bad ones? Is there any reason I shouldn't try things out? It's going to be a whole new beginning and we have to kinda start over because he has changed somewhat and so have I.
208724
Go with your gut feelings.   Woman are very intuitive and if it feels right, go for it.   Who knows, that spark may still be there.   If nothing else, you can always be friends.   People change, but if there is still a connection between you, it won't matter.  Best of luck, :)
636688
no you need to move on and if something happens in the future like he comes back and both of you want to still be together then that is fine but both of you r going to go through a transition and u will both most likely change with him being in a different city with different friends, activities, and etc.
183978
if it's been a on/off relationship then you should just end it, obviously you two keep breaking up for a reason and probably only getting back together due to loneliness. It will probably happen again.  Get out and move on
193391
Yes. You can. Just that it depends on both sides.\nIf both of you broke up because of the third party, I don't think both of you can get back together. Some does, but it happens rarely because you'll never forget what he/she have done to you. It really hurts.\nOn the other hand, if it's because of some other factors, I think it's not a problem if both of you can overcome it.\nAnother point is if two person really get back after broken up, they're really meant to each other. If not, they wouldn't get back together. So, if you have second chance, you must treasure it because not everyone has second chance even though they wanted to.\nBut most important is do not ever chase back the reason why he/she broken up with you. This is very important, just forget about it, and start this relationship as if it's a new one.\nFrom my personal experience, my boyfriend now is actually my ex-boyfriend. We've got back together after 2 yrs, after he had got another girlfriend, after I've got another boyfriend. But finally, we found out that we are the most suitable for each other, no one else.
553183
I think he just wouldn't feel right and he isn't completely sure of...both of you... because obviously it didn't work out the first time.My advice is give him some more time.Make him believe,and I mean really believe,you guys can work out!I would feel bad if you guys didn't get back together because you didn't prove to him anything.
516301
That would depend on if you want to be back with your ex and also if you think that the problems that were there when you broke up are improved. I had a strict rule. No repeats. The only exception has been my husband after we had split up for two months. Generally, people find it very hard to change. It takes a lot of time, patience and willingess on both parts. If you think he is changing or atleast making a good effort to, then you can go on a few trial dates. If you see signs of the old boyfriend, then you should probably just walk away with a clean cut. If he wants you and you don't want him it will most certainly hurt him more in the long run if he thinks he still has a chance.
199946
You are going to be fine if you and your ex are on good terms.  Don't lose any sleep about it.  Dress nicely and bring a book and a snack because there will be a looooong wait.  But don't be afraid to say something if you feel something isn't quite right or fair.
495673
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
250623
Well, do you want to get back together with him? If so, then go for it. Sometimes couples need a break from each other to find out that they really want to be together. He obviously must miss you and care about you a great deal to want to try again, so go for it!:D Good luck and I hope it all works out!
422342
I think time and space are important right after a break up....at least a few months.  Trying to be friends right away typically makes it seems like dating again almost, or at least in my situations.  Then when one person starts dating someone else or decides it's not a good idea, it's like a 2nd break up all over again.  It sucks because if one person wants to be friends and the other does not, post break up, that's that.  You have to accept that the person may not want you to be in his/her life for a while...as much as it sucks, you must not be selfish and just move on
123490
Don't call him.  You may think that it would be good to get together with him but in the end it will not result well.  A friend of mine went through this with a guy she dated for 2 years.  since you were together for so long there may be a part of you that will always have some feelings for him and the same could go to him having some feelings for you.  I think he is not used to this new relationship and thinks about what he is missing when he is not with you.  It will be for the best if you don't go back to him.  I wouldn't call him or hang around him very much because it will only make those feelings stronger.  Find a good group of friends that aren't exactly mutual friends that you two made when you were in the relationship, and hang out with them.
165352
i personally feel that the two of you should try and stay in contact you know be friends. this way it gives you and him the chance to develop a relationship on a higher level....communication. who's to say that he is the one for you, you might find out in the long run that he wasn't the correct choice for you and because you are taking the time to get to know him mentally you will  more than likely have no regrets. and if its meant to be he'll be there for you. plus the relationship will be a strong one because you took the time to get to know each other.  lastly even though you are going away to school you do get breaks and time off to go see your love ones...this can be the time you spend with him to catch up on the time you spent apart.
484265
i think you should wait. there is no sense in getting back into a relationship when you just got out of one. take some time and enjoy life without the special someone. if these guys do like you they should be able to wait around for a bit and get to know you better as friends and if it proceeds then so be it!
77335
Sounds like you are both in a better place to have an adult relationship now. When people ask about getting back together with an old flame I always ask them to try and think about what is going to be differant this time so you don't end up breaking things off again.\n\nYou are your ex need to have a serious discussion about what went wrong last time and how you can BOTH make sure that those types of things don't happen again.\n\nBest of luck
172663
hmm, tough one.\n\nI don't know the situation that you and him had that made you to break up.  But I'm guessing that he might have broke up with you.  Does not really matter much either way cause the end result is the same.... you two are not together.\n\nI think though that you did not have closure over the breakup and that you have feelings for him.\n\nWell, we see that he has moved on and that he has someone else now.  You feeling jealous seems to me that you still want to be with him.\n\nThink hard to yourself, why you two broke up?  Cause if you caught him cheating or the love wasn't really there after sometime....  Then getting back together MIGHT not work.  I'm guessing that you did not have a messy breakup since you guys are still friends.\n\nYou might be trying to hold on to memories of the good old times and think that maybe if you got back together you will have that again.  Trust me, it will never be exactly the same.  And actually its a proven fact that the human mind remembers things with an amplified emotion... that is you remember this great place when you grew up but visiting back later, you notice its not the same.  Cause your expectations are going to be set really really high.  And when it does not happen the way you remember you'll be really devistated.\n\nIf I were you....  I would tell him about your feelings if you trully want to get back together with him.  Cause this is a choice you both have to agree on, not just you.  But if you don't want, then I would say cut all ties from him.\n\nGood luck!
25989
Why did the two of split? If it was your decision, why did it seem like a good idea at the time? If it was his decision, what has changed about his situation or attitude since then? If he left you for someone else, then I'd say, no, don't do it, because there's nothing to say he won't do it again. If you left him, maybe you need to think a bit about whether or not those reasons are still valid, or if something has actually changed to make another relationship with him worth pursuing.
252107
No you shouldn't go back with your ex. He is your ex for a reason and sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past and move on with your life.