im not confident bout ma self coz 1 thing , im a fat guy , a fat fat fat guy , really fat , so i dont think that a gall would love me eva
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I know people older than you that never got laid. Why rush. There can only be a first time once. What you have is priceless and you can never go back. Don't throw your treasure away, it's so much better to share it with someone special.
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I'm going on 38 next month but beleive me, i know how you feel, i have been heavy my whole life, i never felt liked, endured cruel jokes and felt i would never have a boyfriend. Girls and women are expected to look like everyone else on TV, its always the thin models that get the main roles in movies and chubby women are shoved to the backburner. We need to realize and believe that looks dont mean ANYTHING AT ALL, if guys are only going to like you because you have a nice body then that tells me what kind of person they really are, a JERK. You have so much to offer in this world, dont let anyone tell you otherwise! You are a special and unique person. Please just be yourself and stop comparing yourself to others, it takes all shapes and sizes in our world. Please enjoy yourself while you can and put a smile on your face, thats what will trully draw the right ones to you. For me i choose swimming to keep myself as healthy as possible, its easier on your body and burns more calories than any exercise you do out of water ( i was told this by a swim instructer ) and best of all its FUN. I know its hard, i dont mean to go on and on but i just want you to know your not alone. God Bless you.
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Not if you love yourself first. The right guy will think you have just the right size! :)
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The only thing I might be able to suggest is to become confident with yourself. How is your own self esteem? Are you able to gain a greater amount of confidence in yourself? Would you date yourself? If not, why not? Work on those things that you think you could change. If you can gain confidence in yourself, your insecurities might diminish, since you can see that you are worth dating. Not to mention, you might become less "needy", and also more trusting! (warning!!! Do NOT become OVER confident in yourself) Good luck!
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just b ur self & don't let ppl get 2 by calling u fat & if u r shy just try to talk to ppl that u don't kno so u can get over
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I assume you are a female, it bugs me that you are comparing yourself to you mate. As human beings we all have something to offer, unique in our own way, you need to find what is unique and special about yourself.  Your confidence and self esteem seems to be a bit low and though your mate is saying all the right stuff now, if you don't feel it, then those words wouldn't mean a thing in the long run.   \nBe reminded that noone is perfect, instead of trying to find something to make him proud of you, find something that will make you proud of you and ultimately, he will be proud of you as well.
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you need to find one thing good about yourself, one thing that you apprecaite and like.  I recently gained some weight and felt disgusted about myself.  I used to attract guys because of the confidence i had.  After gaining all the weight i no longer had that confidence and found it hard to pick up guys.  So i askked someone what was one good thing about me.  They told me my eyes so i would always look at my eyes and then i would slowly bring in other thiungs about myself.  Noone is going to want to date someone with no self asteem even if you are attractive.  Confidence is the key.
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My advice to you is to always be yourself - no matter the circumstances. Never you try to be someone else. You may not know this - but some guys are just there appreciating you as you are - a cool headed nice gurl. Maintain whatever virtues you're endowed with. Great advice I think that is. Cheers!
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you don't need to take charge, you need to meet a person that will respect where you are at, don't give it up to a jerk, your sensative, which is good, but the wrong guy will hurt you. I suggest you join a gym, this improve your confidence and energy
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just keep your chin up and shoulders back. It will make you appear more confident
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Hmmmm... I think that you might want to seek professional help with this problem.  See the thing is confidence isn't something that you can teach.  A professional might be able to help you unwrap why you are not confident to begin with, but I am not sure anybody is going to have a magic pill for you.  Well here goes something.  Dude, the key to sexual prosperity, is rejection.  I know that sounds dumb but listen, every time your faced with an attractive woman, you get tense and lock up why? because you're afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser right?  Well just decide not to feel that way (easier said than done but it doesn't have to be hard).  Try this exercise, go to a bar, and identify 5 women that you are attracted to, and go and introduce yourself, i promise at least 1 will want to at least TALK to you, and then when you feel a bit more confident with talking you can start romancing.  See love, and dating and courtship is a numbers game, and every time you hear a no that is one less you have to hear till you INEVITABLY get a yes.  There are like a billion people in India right? 500,000,000 women, trust me at least 100,000 will want to talk to you or go out on a date with you.  So never take anything a woman says personally, and welcome rejection, as one less hurdle to your inevitable GUARANTEED success, and you may find that you can talk to women after-all.  Good luck bro, and I hope this helps.  I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works.
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Dude even though I do not know you - you are not ugly. That is the first thing your self-image is your problem. Sort yourself out! If you do not like your own look and you own self then girls are not gonna feel you confident vibe and thus not notice you. Be more confident!! Be youself your true self will be attractive enough to some girl some day.
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There is nothing wrong with being confident about ur abilities, but being vain is wrong. When ur vain, ur putting others down and thinking too much of urself. Being over-confident is bad too, bc u might just be too delirious to notice the limitations of ur abilties.
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ok first off, you are GORGEOUS! and you dont need anyone to tell you that....\n\nyou cant be in a realtionship if you are not comfortable with yourself first...if you can't see yourself as beautiful in your eyes, then you will never be satisfied, you need to take the time alone and find your beauty that we all see...when you find that, then you won't worry so much about what others think...and guys will love that
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Maybe you seem to come off as too perinoid. Maybe if you stop being so concerned with the way you look then you might be able to get a guy alittle faster. Hell, be yourself.
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what does fat & not pretty have to do with it? give yourself a break. as long as you're a fun likable person your chances are just as good an anyone elses. i'd rather hang with a funny fun exciting riot of a woman and have a woot of a time than some stiff allways worried about their hair getting flat. just be who you are cause that it what you want people to fall in love with!
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Hi, \n\nYou probably are a gorgeous gal, \n\nDon't hang about waiting on losers!!\n\nCheers!!