my friend is in the navy, and his superior officers are telling him to stay away from the girl and the baby because her husband is a marine, or he'll be discharged. Can they do that?
204935
actually single parents are not allowed into the navy (unless she became pregnant after he was already enlisted) so its best that if he wants to stay in the navy that he obey his commanding officer, however morally he knows that the right thing to do is be a part of the childs life. so he has to decide what kind of life he could provide if he was discharged.
319433
it also depends on the branch. personally i can only speak for the air force when i say that yes they can use it to get discharged...stateside. in Iraq, though, it would be strictly case by case. and, no, they would not get in trouble for it. there would be so much more controversy surrounding the "don't ask, don't tell" rule if they doled out punishments for it. again, i am speaking from an air force standpoint.
167702
Yes the military member can get into trouble!\nThe UCMJ (Military Law) has several articles of conduct that it can throw at them (1) Adultery (Still on the Books)\n(2) Conduct unbecoming (a version of catch 22 where you can be charge because the woman is still married and not divorced.  (3) because the woman is still married and (the way your question is written) Married again before the first marriage was ended. they are guilty of polygamy which is also chargeable as an offense. 4) and the "civilian" woman can also be charge under Federal or Local State civil statutes for polygamy as well...
386849
Wow you have a long time to think.  My husband is in the navy and I'm in the Coast guard.  I think there is more to do in the Coast Guard then in the navy.  They seem to treat him more like a number then a person.  The navy moral is very down too.  I joined the Coast guard more for law enforcement.  And because they were a smaller brach.  You are seen more as a person then a number.  But this is my point of view.  Go talk to both recruiters.  They will tell you the down side of both and what there upsides are.  If you have any questions write me.  Between my husband and me we can probably tell you.
670246
I'm a former Military wife and daughter. My brother is in the army, my brother in laws are both in the Marine corps, my husband was a marine and my father just got out in March. Choosing the road of a military man, is a long rough and proud road. Many, who do not serve (as myself) will not understand the brotherhood and pride that each marine feels. But don't get me wrong, there are jerks in the Marine Corps too. Usually they are the young and foolhearted ones, with great intentions but poor follow through.  Being a military wife, is a lonely job that takes a lot of great friends and patience. But it's not a job I would've traded for anything. Tell your friend I said thanks and OOHRAH DEVIL DOG!
245473
i would talk to the administrator at the MEPS and tell them that your privacy was violated due to an irrational technician.  don't expect anything to be done about though.  you could threaten legal action if you have witnesses.  but don't use the other techs or docs unless they approach you.  that's bull_shit.  i wouldn't stand for it.  you're not even in the military yet, MEPS is not boot camp.  not even part of it.  i would have the witches job.  because i guarantee, you're going to put up with a hell of a lot more once you get in.  and prepare for the cover ups.  they like to work with the "good 'ol boy" system.
61904
No, you will not be stationed together. The Marine Corps in federally obsevered and the NG is State observered. It is possible you can be stationed in the same town, but if your boyfriend gets orders to another base in another state, you will still be obligated to your post.
551190
WOW! I'd like to know too!  I'm with you right up to you being charged with Manslaughter after he kills a civilian - after you've done everything you can to protect them and yourself.\nThe Military is different than local law enforcement, though.  If you took the oath and those are the rules of engagement - you're stuck with them. Stay in the Air Force.
201093
Like everyone else has stated above, you do not get your first choice.  They give you options, but remember as a marine your first duty is a rifleman, you are a foot soldier and most likely will see some type and form of combat in a war time environment. The only way out is if you have some speak law degree and or super computer skills, but that is normally left to the Navy to do for us.  You much understand that the MARINES own you, you do not think for yourself, you do not plan for yourself. If the Marine Corps wanted you to have a wife you would have been issued one in boot camp.  So if you have a girl, drop her.  I can not tell you how many "Dear John" letters are out there that have made grown men cry.  In the end you get only what you want out of the Marines, nothing else.  It is a commitment of your body, sole and life for the Stars and bars.  You would be the first and last line of defense and will be required to do things that you never thought you would or could ever do.  This is the worst case, my brother never saw anything more than the underside of a HumVee (JUNK) give me an old MUTT any time.
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I do not think so, unless they  had left the base to meet with your wife instead of performing their duties.\nOnce they are off duty they can somewhat do what they want.\nIf they want to date someone they can, or sadly in your case be with a married woman. \nYou could report this to his CO, not sure if it will do any good, maybe his CO will have him ordered to stay on the military base
570354
Yes! Tell someone! It happens more than you think, but no one tells. Start w/ his wife if he has one. Screw their marriage, save that kid! Follow up, if she doesn't do anything, tell the cops.
653944
As a marine wife and someone who has been affiliated with the military all her life (Navy brat and former Navy sailor), you have to be outgoing and opinionated!  You can't have him telling you what you think and how to do things.  Not only is that chauvinistic but what happens when he's on a 14 month deployment and  you haven't talked to him in a week, if you don't have opinions on how to take care of your family or home, you're screwed.  You also need to be outgoing to make friends.  Marines are gone alot and we need a support system for those times.  If he's looking for some weak-willed yes-girl, then forget him.
17194
Aboodi, don't be so rude.  The reason why you don't understand the question is because you obviously don't know anything about the military.  I haven't heard anything about a new policy.  My husband and I were in Iraq together two yers ago, and at that time it was up the the command that you were in.  My husband and I were in the same unit, and our commander allowed us to have our own corner of a big common area room.  We strung up our ponchos on a string to get a little bit of visual privacy.  It wasn't much, but it wasn't too bad.  \n\nNow there was another post that I visited where the males and females had to sleep separately.  I ran into a married couple there who lived in the same building on different floors.  \n\nThe article mentioned above is the policy of one unit.  As far as I know, every unit is different.  But it is possible that something new has come along that I haven't heard about.
648419
Not only am I a Marine wife but I as in the Navy and I'm a Navy brat.  My parents both spent over 20 years in the Navy.  You do move a bit (usually every 3 years) and yea it's hard having you hubby gone.  I honestly thing the strongest people in the world (mentally and physically) are single parents and military spouses.  My husband left for Iraq right after our first child was born.  I was far away from family and didn't have many friends.  Not only did my son and I survive, we thrived!  I learned alot about myself while he was gone and our marriage is stronger for having gone through that.  \nI was born in Italy and lived in Peurto Rico for three years, how many people can say that?  I think it's wonderful!  \nYou're more than welcomed to e-mail if you would like to talk more on the subject.
262842
Yes. They have a right to replace a worker that is not committed to the business. Now, an employer cannot fire a National Guard or reserviist if he hired them knowing they were. But, if you decide while employed to join military, you're on your own.
156995
I'm retired from the navy and divorced. An active duty single parent in a deploy-able status (sea duty) has to designate a caretaker for dependent children. There is allot more at stake though, there are dependent allowances related to food and housing which add up to a significant annual sum. I would get a lawyer and as for arbitration first.  As far as deployments there are laws to protect military personnel from legal action while deployed...use the JAG office get your questions answered. Do not be intimidated!!!
513497
you will be unable to get any information about the Officer unless you are an immediate relative such as a spouse, parent or sibling.  \n\ntry googling your friend's name.