i like this guy a lot and i think it would be a good idea to tell my parents since i do want to hang out with him and not hide my relationship that would definetly create some tensions and stress..but how do i break it to my parents?
202981
I've been in your same situation when i was younger. with my parents i told them some of the nice things that this guy did, that let them know that he was nice. Ask this guy to meet them. Not really at the house at first, but maybe at a park or a school activity. Then he won't be so nervous. Tell your mom first. Mom's are always easier. Dads will understand eventually. Don't say date or anything yet, say hanging out or something like that, then after a while say casually in a conversation with your parents how your friends think that you and _your guys name__ are such a cute couple. or something like that. that will be easier. if they are really strict just say that this guy is your special guy. hope i helped!!!
269869
you are only 19,just because he does'nt want you moving in does not mean that he is not in love.you have only been togeather for 8 months it's far to early,just carry on doing what you are doing and not tell your parents,and why do your parents not like him?.it can be done i was only with my partner for 8 months and 12 year on were still togeather,but im only one of the lucky few as not very often you hear relationships would survive that.
645745
You're the person that is going to be in the relationship, NOT you're parents.  Plus, emphasizing outward appearance is not something parents should teach their children.\n\nIf he's a great person and has a great personality, that goes WAY further than his looks.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you think he's a beautiful person, who cares what he looks like.\n\nI say go for it and if your parents hassle you, just say that you're not dating him for looks, but for the person he is, the way he treats you and the way he makes you feel.\n\nGood luck
643427
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
172074
You are young and have not been with him that long; if he is going home with you for break you should let them get to know him before you break the news to them. If he is not going home with you maybe spend as much time as possible talking about him (within reason) so they feel they are getting to know him through you. After you've done this you could say something like "I really love XXXXX a lot. We have many things in common, he treats me well and I could not be happier. WE would like your blessing to get engaged".\n\nTHis makes them feel that you respect them enough to get their opinion on the matter and makes you come off as mature and reliable.
662008
here is one option:   if he asks u out then get a couple of friends and if ureparents let u go out with friends, say i'm gonna go out with my friends. so in reality ure not lying to ure parents cuz ure goin with ure friends and ure on ure date at the same time.\nanother option is: tell him u like him and tell him that ure parents dont let u go out.  if he really likes u he'll understand.
117144
Tell him your parents told you to break up with him. And you really don't want to, but it's what you have to do. Ask him if you can still be friends with him.
46555
Tell your parents that you think they should get to know him. \n\nIs he willing to go through some uncomfortable meetings for you?  If he loves you, he should. \n\nOnce your parents realize that he loves you and is good to you and is not going to be a negative influence in your life (gosh, do they think he is some gangbanger or all black people are criminals- come on!) they should work toward accepting him.  Try to find out why they feel this way.  \n\nTry to do this the right way- by being honest with your parents.  I can't imagine what you're going through, and you need to understand that they may NEVER come around.  \n\nGood luck, honey!
555239
Just be yourself. Tell him how you feel. Talk to your parents, friends, or the guy's friends. i don't knw.
366093
tell him the truth..then he will know its not you that is rejecting him but your parents and THEIR rules...and he will feel better about things and you can then both commiserate together and can blame your uptight parents...btw,your parents are also imposing these rules on you because they love and care about you and want to protect you from EVERY nasty aspect of life(not possible though but when you have tin lids of your own you will worry about exactly the same things...)
96412
being a brother and a muslim i know how you feel. you helped me with my situation and i will try to help you with yours parents are key and are most important (you think my parents know i like this girl, no probably not) but sooner or later they will find out whether i tell them or not so now you must weigh your options how much is this guy worth if alot then you must be able to tell your father that his rath is miniscule to the amount of love you have towards this person. walking a tight rope is not fun i know how you feel i have been doing it all my life. and the whole paki indian thing doesn't make your situation worse the girl i am trying to ask out is puerto rican my parents are going to rage but sooner or later they will understand as your parents will that keeping a child is more important than who they be with good luck.
82005
How old are you? If you're old enough to make decisions about your life, then this one has to be your decision, too.\n\nParents have a habit of not thinking anyone is good enough for their little girl, and there's a good chance you'll never meet anyone that meets up to their expectations - or if you do, he won't be right for you and you are the one that has to put up with him, right?\n\nAs long as a guy is good to you and not abusive or doing anything illegal, then your parents - as difficult as it may be - will just simply have to accept whoever you decide to love because it is your life, not theirs.
329065
hey...i'm rochelle...my friends call me char...\ni've been in ALMOST the same situation as you...ay may be younger than you but I still thought that I could help...I'm from the philippines by the way...\n\ni suggest that you tell the guy #2 about your feelins both for him and guy#1...he'd be very satisfied to know that you care enough to let him know what's happening in your life...who knows?he might just know the right thing to say or even better, to do...after all, he's a guy...he knows best when it comes to that...\n\nafter that, realize your feelings...maybe, what you're feeling for guy1 is just infatuation since you sorta have unfinished business...\n\nadmit it, you never knew if you guys were really thru or not...so, i think you better talk to him and clear things over...rationalize is the word here, sweetie...if you feel some sparks are still around, give it a shot... life is so full of surprises, he might be the guy you can have the best moments with...trust your instincts...if you don't see anything or if things aren't really going on right, then its the proof you're waiting for, maybe its really over between the both of you...just try and COMMUNICATE...\n\nthen, if all things fail...there's always your parents...they know way more than you do... they know more than what I do...\n\nChristian?then pray...He knows what just to give you...\nand take the signs seriously...\n\n hope i helped!\nthis is my email if you ever wanted to talk to me...\njust thought that I should givr it...\n\ntake care!\nchar
7798
You don't.  This is one of those things that you have to decide.  If you like this guy, go out with him.  It won't be easy, especialy if you want to remain an active member of your Church Family.  Life ahead of you will be filled with choices that your parents don't want you to have to make.
616954
okay its easy, parents are parents, and no matter what, no matter how it is, parents are always right.. you see, i met this guy.. and he's...not all there, kinda crazy, kinda.. just you know, not there.. and we ended up dating, i thought he was just perfect, blue and black hair... just. you know a babe? im into.. kinda crazy guys,  he was telling me within a month of our relationship that he didnt want to live, and he cut himself and all this..and i ended up getting really down, he told me not to tell anyone, but i told my mother because i thought it was the best,  and she was like nuh oh no way.. and like totally freaked out on me for being with him if he was like that.. i dont even think he believes in god..well he ended up finding it out from someone, and was really upset, i asked him why.. and he said i knew why.. and i told him i did what i thought was best, and that i cared for him.. he ended up calling me all these...few choice words, telling me..few choice things.. and we ended up breaking up...now im with this really nice guy... and everything is working out, just perfectly..and guess what? my mother loves him..but what im saying... is maybe you can talk your parents into it.... maybe like invite him over for dinner and you guys can eat as a family. and it would give your parents an idea to get to know him more, and see what a great guy he really is. or in my case, maybe theres someone better for you..  best of luck.
124297
well just let your parents know about him and let them see that you are a responsible adult by letting them know. you shouldn't hold it in and then they find out on their own and then it will all go down hill from there. that's my advice.
587217
that is wrong.  they need to realize that you are their daughter. no matter what you did do and what you did to him, you are the one they should love and choose over any one else. i would personally let my dad know how i feel and then leave him to think about it and if your parents really care about you they will get their head out of their ass and realize what they are doing.