I have a best friend who's boyfriend, had a fit and broke up all her furniture in her house, including glass tables, two fish tanks and stapped up her sofas.\nHe is also very rude and disrectful to her.  She always calls me and complains about him but i am sick of hearing about it.\nIf she is so sick of him then why wont she leave him? They break up for a week and then get right back together.
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This violence and disrespect is a form of abuse!  I was in the same position many years ago.  The reasons that girls stick around with guys who treat them this way are different.  Some feel that they really love the guy and that they can "change" him.  People don't change their ways that often, and when they do, it is because THEY chose to.  \n\nSecondly, it could be because she thinks that this is how a guy who loves her would act.  Violence and disrepect ARE NOT a way to show love.\n\nThird, if this guy is going this far as to do all of this, he could be telling her (as my ex did with me) "If you leave me, no ones going to want you" or "No man will ever love you the way I do."  If you hear things like this over and over again, you really begin to believe it.  This is also a form of abuse (mental abuse).\n\nI would sit your friend down and have a long talk with her.  Ask her why she is with this guy.  Does she feel she can't do any better?  Does she think that life won't go on without this loser?  Let her know: She's better than this.  Tell her that the next time he gets pissed, it might not be her furniture that gets broken....it could be a bone!  (People that have abusive tendencies and do things like this soon progress to physical abuse...TRUST ME I KNOW FIRSTHAND!) \n\nIf she refuses to listen to you, is there a family member of hers that you can voice your concerns to?  In my case, a friend let my parents know that I was being abused and they eventually got me out.  It may make her angry that you went to someone else, but she has got to get out of this situation before it is too late!\n\nNo person (man, woman, or child) deserves to be treated this way!  Tell your friend that she needs to get out (and there are various agencies that can give her advice and help her get out.....Find these numbers and have them on hand when you talk to her.)  \n\nHer situation will not get better, it will only get worse.  She needs to get out and get help before it goes too far!
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I know that It is REALLY hard to let go of a friend you have had for 10 years but it sounds to like she is trying to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend becuae she isnt happy with her own, and she has to go somewhere else to be happy. She sounds to me like she wants to have the title of having a boyfriend but she doesnt want the responsibility of one. A real friend would be there whenever you needed her and she wouldnt ask you to lie for her. \n~I hope this helps~
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You sure you want him for him or just to stick-it to your  "friend"??  I wouldn't call what she's doing the act of a friend!  You certainly don't need any more "friends" like her!\n\nForget Josh - you're too good for this fickle slob!  And what he's doing isn't "sweet".\n\nAdjust your standards and go find a "real" bf - they're out there, believe me!
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Your best friend cuz she sounds like a jerk. \n\nBut think about it, becuz if you dump her, then if your boyfriend dumps you, your left with nothing.
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If u think she likes them more than u why are you best friends with her? also if u know your boyfriend is bad why don't u get rid of him? In fact get rid of them both and you'll probably feel a lot better!x
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i think you should talk heart-to-heart with your friend why she has started disliking your boyfriend when she earlier liked him. MAY BE she herself had feelings about him and this is the way she is expressing them after you have got together with him. this is perfectly normal and anyone would react that way. i think you should jus leave things like that. i am sure she'll get over these feelings on her own. just give it time.
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Girl, you snagged a rotten fish.  It was dead when you caught it.  He needs to get a life.  If he was that rude to say that to you you should break up with him.  He was totally wrong to say that to your best friend too.  He probably likes you, or he wouldn't go out with you.  You don't just go out with someone because they're moving.  But you need to break up with him.  I know it's hard.  BELIEVE me...I know it's hard.  But you have to.  You'll probably meet someone a lot sweeter in California anyway.  That's all I can say.  I hope it works out.
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THAT IS NOT A FRIEND!!!AND CERTAINLY NOT WORTHY OF BEING BEST ANYTHING.I WOULD CALL THAT A S**T STARTER.GET RID OF HER BEFORE SHE REALLY HURTS YOUR FEELINGS.IF AN APOLOGY WASN"T GOOD ENOUGH,THEN THAT IS HER PROBLEM.WITH FRIENDS LIKE THAT,YOU DON'T NEED ENEMIES.
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Just keep being there for her.  He is obviously controlling and sounds like he may be abusive.  She should seek some type of counselling to find out why she would stay with someone who controls everything she does.  In the meantime, she needs friends like you who are understanding and are there for her.  Keep seeing her and trying to get her to seek help.  You're a good friend.
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Well, if your friend is like one of my best friends, then there is nothin you can do. If she hasn't learned in almost 3 years, then nothin you do or say is going to convince her that he is not the one for her. I've been going through the same thing with my friend since we were in middle school, but she is the type that you can't tell her anything about her man because she's "grown and knows what she's doing". As bad as it hurts me to see her continuously choosing to date abusive (physical and emotional) and disrespectful men, I know that she will have to learn on her own. Just pray that she'll come around -soon.
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Personally, it doesn't wound like shes a very good friend then if she punched you. Do you guys fight alot? If so, when did all of this start. What was the reason for her to get in his face like that? Does she have a bf? Maybe the jealousy thing is correct, but she's just putting her anger on him to hide the jealousy. It's one thing for your friend not to care for him that much, but another if she's going to let him come between you two; especially since he didn't even do anything to her. My whole life I had 3 best friends: Sue, John, and Kate. Sue and John hated each other, but never affected the friendship between Kate, Sue, and I. And the same with Jon, Kate, and I. If anything, give it some time, and see what happens. If she doesn't come around after 2 weeks, try going to her, ad if she still wont come back, than she wasn't a true friend to let a fight over a guy break your friendship.
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ABSOLUTELY!!!!! the woman whom I believed to be 1 of my very best friends {long ago} ended up going to bed w/ my  now ex- husband!!! she's now living in my house with my husband {ex} & enjoying the life I was supposed to be living!!! some best friend huh?!?!?!!! I've learned since then to not trust anyone that much ever again ... especially a woman!!!w/ my man!!!!!!!!!!!!
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in my opinion he has found someone else. people do not break up for no reason. if it was money they did not have to break up he just needs to work through it. people break up for a lot of different reasone. they either found someone else or they just simply do not feel the same as they did about that person. if you friend is only 22 she is just starting her life. this is the best thing that could have happened to her. because there is someone out there that will treat her the way she is supose to be treated and have a secure feeling about it not will he leave later. tell her she is free now go live it up and have fun and do not settle for a looser that does not no
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They don't sound like very good friends.  Your free to do what you want with our without them.  But also,  If you start doing stuff exclusively without them all the time they could think that you don't want to be friends anymore and be angry.  I lost a friend once because I wanted to spend time with my family and didn't stop by her house when I was in town.  But I figure we must not have been that good of friends if she would ditch me over something like that.
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I went through the same thing with my best friend. She did a complete 180, started doing drugs having sex etc. and it turned into a huge fight. I confronted her about it and told her how pissed it made me. We didn't talk for the next six months. Then slowly we began to hang out again. We are now talking and hanging out but it will never be the friendship we once had. You need to confront your friend then ignore him completely until your ready to reestablish a friendship on YOUR terms. Like I said it won't ever be what it was but you can at least save something.
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If she has been your best friend for a long time, I would encourage you to not make a hasty decision. You can find friends (and even boyfriends) anywhere, but best friends take years to grow. You should do your best to save this friendship before calling it quits.\n\nMy advice is talk to her before you take the final step of "de-friending" her. Explain to her that you've valued her friendship, but that her current behavior isn't excusable. Confront her about her rudeness, and don't be afraid to name specific times and places where she acted like a bee-yotch. She apparently USED to act nice, because otherwise you never would have been friends with her. Remind her of those days. Finally, tell her (in very clear terms) that if she doesn't start acting right, you want nothing to do with her.\n\nThis puts all of the pressure on her, see? If she changes her evil ways, then you've kept your best friend and are better off than before. If she doesn't, at least it isn't your fault that the friendship ended. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully your friend will see the light, but if not... at least the blame will be on her head, not yours.
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.