He said he loved me, we had passionate sex, then he leaves me at one of his friends' house's and never comes back.  I find out that Im pregnent with his baby and he says, and I quote, "Are you 100% sure your pregnent,"  I don't think four pregnency tests could be wrong plus one from my doc's office.  Then he says after I say yes Im 100% sure I am pregnent, "Are you 100% sure that the baby is mine?"  Yes its 100% yours, I havent had sex in 10 months and your the only one I slept with in almost a year.  Then I have a miscarrige and he say I am a lieing slut bag whore who doesnt know who I am messing with.  WHAT KIND OF GUY WOULD DO THAT, COME ON NOW SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME THAT GUYS ARENT THAT STUPID.
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Guys aren't ALL that stupid. Unfortunately, most of the ones that are, are the same ones that lie and say they love you just to get in your pants. The ones that will stay with you, usually respect you enough to not need sex immediately (are you taking notes?), treat you like a human being, instead of a piece of meat, want (or at least agree) to meet your family, and even hold the occasional door for you. Don't get me wrong, just because he wants sex doesn't mean he's gonna leave. But if he's serious about staying with you, he can wait until you're ready. You can tell him I said so. Look for somebody that still likes you after you tell him he's going home alone.\n\nWhen you live life in the fast lane, you usually end up driving a minivan full of kids in the carpool lane...\n\nOops! missed the additional details...\n\nAsk him if he's sorry you lost the baby. Having a baby is supposed to be a happy time, married or not. Yes, the days when you had to hide your face in shame because of having a child with no marriage are long gone, so if he really loves you he should be sorry about the loss. I bet he's happy you lost the baby, and doesn't intend to make another one, ever.\n\nAnd btw, I am very sorry for your loss. My ex and I went through that together, and I can't imagine what it's like to do it alone.
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It seems to me that he is far from ready for the responsibility of partner hood and parenthood. His respect level for you seems very low in light of his degradation of you and not support. He may be insecure and refocusing this toward you, however his immaturity is stopping him from seeing that he is making you feel insecure also and more to the point, he is destroying your self esteem and worth and ruining what should be the most amazing experience of your life. I know this isn't what you will be wanting to hear, but I honestly cant see this getting any better in the near future. Perhaps you could talk to his parents and solicit, for want of a better word, their advice and support.Not to mention that of your on. No-one can tell you whether to stay or leave, in the end you will do what you will do and I realise you love him. But you must always remember to love yourself and make that precious baby you are carrying your first priority. I feel sad for you. No-one should be having that kind of stress at this or any really, stage of your pregnancy. But if he is like this now maybe you need to ask how much worse it's going to be or get when baby gets here and whether you want to wait to find out. I hope you find a solution that enables you to be happy and content.Good Luck.
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Wow..that was harsh!! He obviously wasn't ready for the long haul with you..(sorry if that sounds too terribly blunt) A lot of people have issues dating or marrying someone who they think cannot have kids. Everyone will deal with things in their own way but he couldn't have been the one for you if this has happened. Be glad you knew the outcome before you two got married. You see, what the doc said is only a possibility..not a fact. God gives miracles..keep your head up honey..everything will be fine.
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It does sound like you could be pregnant. Take one of many HPT to be sure.\n\nYou could always have lost your virginity, especially if you don't remember it. Do you or anyone there know who the father could be?\n\nFirst--see if you're pregnant. Honestly it sounds like you could be. Stop drinking and taking drugs. Go to a doctor. If you're not pregnant, look into birth control. \n\nSecond--figure out what the best course is for you. I don't know how old you are, so you may or may not be on your parent's insurence plan. Tell them if you are pregnant or they will find a surprise. \n\nThird--find this boy. He needs to know that he may be a father.
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He might have some moral issues about premarital sex.\n\nHe might have another girl friend.\n\nHe might have herpes or HIV.\n\nHe might be gay or bisexual.\n\nAsk him flat out. If he can't give you an honest answer, you have to find another boyfriend. He sounds like a wimp.
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he sounds like bad news. having someone cheat on you is heartbreaking and you should concentrate on your baby instead of his drama.  you deserve better.
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Deja Vu........it still means nothing. If he said it he meant it he had to say sorry. You want to see if he's for real? Next time  you see him tell him you can't have anymore children. Now let's see what he says. Stay clear from this guy.
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He never mentioned it to you even when you have been going out for five weeks with him. Did he tell you himself, or did you just had a chance to find out ? If he told you himself, probably he was scared that you would get to know or probably like you said he didnt want to lose you. If you found out by yourself, then he has other things he may not be telling you, like the baby's mother ? legal implications ? his commitments ? Either way, lets give him a benefit of doubt that....probably he does love u a lot and worried of losing you, but he cannot hide issues serious as this from you. It is better you confront him now and ask him all issues related to the baby, and any other facts that you should be knowing. I feel he would open up and tell you everything if he is sincere to you. And when he does that, I think he should be given a chance. Everyone goes through some issues in life or the other. Probably things didnt work out for him, and now he has you, so give him a chance..and accept him the way he is, ofcourse only after your heart tells you that once you know the issues yourself. But if he turns out to be a big bundle of lies..then you know what to do !!\n\ngood luck !
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My b-f cheated on me with another girl, and got her PREGNANT!! THEN ONE DAY I WAS SICK, AND I KEPT PASSING OUT, AND I CALLED HIM, AND HE WOULDN;T TAKE ME TO THE HOSPITAL, AND THATS BEEN 3 MONTHS AGO AND HE STILL HASN'T CALLED TO SEE If I WAS OKAY. THANK GOD FOR 911...<OF COURSE ITS BEEN OVER BETWEEN US.>
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Yes, and she could also get pregnant. Maybe he is testing her or maybe he is passing the blame onto her because he is guilty of cheating, Tell her to go get herself checked.
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Understand that he will never trust you.  I was home with two kids and pregnant and being accused of having an affair.  Pleeeeaaaassssseeeee!  He probably doesn't trust you because he is guilty or because someone before you ruined him.  Personally, If this was me, I would take the out he has given me.  I wonder if he trusted you to begin with.\n\nI would leave, get pro-active, pilates, buy a new dress and get a new man!  One who isnt' abusive and a cheater!
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Dear girl, Oh my... I wish you had asked for advice 2 years ago; perhaps much of your pain could have been avoided.\n\nYou say you two have NOT been in a committed relationship for over 2 years and you are still with him. WHY are you still in this relationship? He's NOT committed to you and hasn't been for 2 years! Is he sleeping with other women? Are you sleeping w/ other men? Have you even thought about the risk of HIV and AIDS? You two have a child now. And my dear, why did you get pregnant with a man who hasn't been committed to you? You should never have sex with any man who is not committed to you. He gets sex, you get hurt. It happens every time. Unfortunately, you are not the  only one getting hurt; you have made a baby and brought your child into this situation. \n\nDo you two still live together because you have a child, or because it's easier than moving out? Let me ask you, does he support you and your child financially? Are you you paying any of the bills? Are you paying bills for your baby? If your baby's father is not supporting you 100% emotionally AND financially, then you are better off leaving for good, once and for all. I am sorry to say this, but it sounds to me like he may be using this "money issue" as an excuse and he doesn't have the guts to get out of the relationship. Some men can't handle being fathers, especially if they are not in love with the baby's mother. Having a baby brings a couple in love even closer, but couples who are not in love do not get closer after the baby is born.\n\nI wish I could tell you otherwise, but I definitlely think it's time for you both to be grownups. Living the way you both are is not the adult, responsible way to solve this problem. Make an agreement regarding the child's support and visitation and part company amicably. Many women with small children meet other men who do love them and will be committed to them and their child/children. My father met my mother when she was a yound divorcee with a 2 year old and married her and proceeded to have 2 more children with her. They were married 53 years until he passed. There is hope for you to do the same.\n\nIf you are not good with $$$, then take some money management classes (@ a local school, community college, aid center). You will need these skills whether you are on your own or not. \n\nIf you were not honest regarding $$$ with your partner, then I suggest you get to church, temple, etc., and you start being honest with God and yourself. Remember, you have a child you need to be teaching good values to now. If you were honest, then you're okay there, but going to a place to have a relationship with God will still be powerful for you at this time. \n\nYou CAN start a new and better life. Don't give up on yourself, no matter how hard it may be at times!
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First of all, winning his heart has nothing to do with having that baby.  To do with winning his heart.  I am assuming that you know him well enough to know what his feelings for you are.  If not just talk to him about it.  As for the baby I sure hope that the decision you made to keep it was for the right reasons and that you are prepared to raise it without this lad.  Don't mix the two together and start telling the truth and to hell with both of your mates or so called mates.
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Hmm, I don't think that's what happened.  I think that's what she told you though...\n\nIt appears to me she left you, got with someone else, got pregnant, he did the bolt, then she suddenly loves you again.\n\nSometimes doesn't sound right here.
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unfortunately, after it happens, there is no way of testing or knowing. i had something like the same thing happen a bit back, and i asked the doctor and she said that if its done and passed through already, there is no way of knowing but that it sounds like it was a miscarriage. your situation sounds like it may have been, but it is also possible that it was just a weird period.
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First off to the person below, she said she is a virgin and lets believe her on that.  If she said she wasn't a virgin then yes she could be pregnant and miscarrying, but we have NO REASON NOT TO BELIEVE HER!!!\nAs for the question.  Yes Doctors can be wrong!  I don't know if you are any form of birth control incase you decide to have sex or for other reasons, but sometimes Birth Control can do that.  Its a reaction and I went through that for a whole summer once and it was miserable so I know how you feel.  Sometimes certain kids of prescriptions can make you period keep coming back for long periods of times.  Finals are a few weeks away and I don't know your insurance sitution but I would go to a clinic down there and talk to them.  The worst thing is that if you don't have insurance you will get an office visit charge, but your health is more important then money!!!! Blood clotts are a form of cleaning out the body.  That can happenin with miscarriages, etc., but since you say you are a virgin then your body is cleaning something else out and I really think you should go to the clinic.  I personally would stay away from tampons until you see another Dr.  Good luck to you and Take Care.
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Wake Up and smell what is going on! Are you a stupid fat chick or something? You must like this shi** treatment, because staying with a man like that, your totally stupid. I am not trying to be mean to you, but I just saw your picture on your profile... and I am wondering if your mentally ill? Your far from ugly woman! Your dang pretty. Do you have an background that you would be able to get out? Think about this! Your already alone! Your husband sounds like a spoiled, selfish, prick, who needs to grow up. Your carrying his baby and he isnt showering you with kisses and affection. As far as the oral sex thing, a lot of men just arent into that. I wouldnt worry about that so much. I would however, worry about a man who places more effort into himself and his friends over his pregnant wife. Wake up! You have talked to this man, over over again, and he doesnt do shi**? Your in conseling and nothing is working? HELLO? He thinks you are stuck because your pregnant. Plan a way out and Get out. I am telling you this because I was married to a man just like this. He was an abussive selfish prick. Everytime I would even go the the concord mall back east, he would have a fit. Anytime I would buy my daughter something he would have a fit. He was selfish and cared less about me or our daughter really. He was also just like your describing. There were times when I about lost my mind with that man. I sought conseling and help and even blamed myself for the problems. Big Mistake! I am totally convinced that people dont change. He never changed only got worse and he is worse to his new wife now, then to me. My daughter went to visit and couldnt wait to get back home, the first words out of my little girls mouth were the following, " Mom, this person crys a lot because my dad treats her so bad. She does not even get to do anything." So you see, nothing changes.   My mother paid most of our bills while we were together. He did the same thing to me. He would cum on my back while I was trying to sleep because I didnt want to have sex with him anymore, due to how boring it was. He cheated on me constantly, twice that I can prove. He was lazy and a total moron. One day I had enough. I found a way out. To this day I have to deal with that idiot and trying to keep my daughter away from him and his new wife, who this woman  is also abused and sick. I am now remarried. I have another child and my husband never fails to take good care of me. He treats me like gold. You will look back on this, once your gone, and you will be thankful to God that you got out of it.