I dated this girl 6 months ago , then we stopped seeing each other cuz she said she's going to leave after she graduates this May, and that she can't do this. I didn't call her for 2 months afterwards, but I never stopped thinking about her .. being around her felt sooo right. after 2 months I called her and I told her I want to go out with her, and I'm not taking no for an answer.. So now we're seeing each other for about 2 months .. I still feel great just to hear her voice, I can't even think of dating anyone else while I know that I have a chance with her . I realize our religion, language and tradition differences but I'm welling to overcome them.. \nThe question is , DO I LOVE HER? or is it just infatuation ? and if I do love her , should I ask her not to leave ? is it selfish of me to do so ? to ask her to halt her future plans for me (us)?!
200285
only you can tell for certain if you really love her. but if you think you're capable of giving up everything you know and believe in just to be with this chick, i think she got you.  \n\nshould you ask her to stay? it's worth a try. better do it than waste a lot of time regretting it.
550123
Quick Fix/ Do you love her? YES.   Have you been hurt in the past? YES.  Who cares my friend. You are franklly just scared.  Moments of intimacy cover it up sometimes and that is why you feel happy.  Let go of this fear. This girl you have in front of you is going to make you very happy.  Let go of your past, and live.  Otherwise, the next question you are going to be asking us is" How do I get her back?"
564705
My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
513234
Well you need to really decide if you want to be with her-possibly forever. I didn't sound like you wanted to move where she is, Why can't she come to you? If either one of you REALLY love one another,one of you would be willing to make the small sacrifice of moving. Now she is wanting some time away from the relationship,she got tired of waiting. If you now are realizing that you were taking her for granted-then show her. Actions speak louder than words. I hope this all works out for you and if not,then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.=}
77673
you can, or you can wait and get to know each other better. especially if you dont want to end up dating someone who actually likes someone else. you've got plenty of time before you need to start worrying about this stuff...i know most people are dating by this time, but i waited till i felt i was more mature and the relationship would actually mean something, and i'm very happy that i did.
73840
It sounds like it could be love to me...\nIn my experience love is always enduring.  There's been girls I've felt incredible about and had a great time with, but it wears off anywhere between 6 weeks and 6 months.  Of course everyone is different, and I don't know how long you've been dating, but if you still feel this way after 10 or 12 months I'd say it's most likely love.  You'll be able to look past all of her weird little issues and accept them and love her anyway, and you won't be able to imagine life without her.\nIf you've been dating her less than 4-5 months, then it's still possible that this feeling could wear-off.  I know I wouldn't feel right planning on marriage before having known her at least 1 year.  A lot can develop/change in the first year, for better or for worse.  Good Luck!
630309
Your poor dear. At this point, I think it is best to let go and see what happens. If it is meant to be, she will realize how much you love her. If she doesn't come back, realize that you WILL meet someone that will appreciate your love and love you back. Sometimes the best, and hardest, thing to do is let someone go. I don't think you need to move away though! Give her some space and see what happens, but keep yourself open to meeting new people too. You never know who may be around the corner waiting to meet you!
50543
it is not up to anyone here to make that descision for you, however you need to ask yourself "Is this person going to get me where I want to be in life? or are they going to hinder me?" "Is this person going to be there for me when I need them? or are they going to leave me in the lurch?" "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"\n\nif you can answer these all with yes then go for it but I think you already know the choice you need to make. and I think it is the right one.
161028
I met a girl on line.  Now she's my wife and we have a son.  But before this happened I visited her in her county for a number of weeks over some months.  It was only after this time that I felt happy enough to ask her to marry me.\n\nSo I suggest if you can go visit her.  Also is this your first real love?
282366
believe it or not, right now i am in your ex's situation and when i told my ex that i want it over means, i want it over. fullstop. i'm not seeing anyone else but i just feel like being single again and spend more time with my pals. i realized that having a gf too early was a big mistake. she didn't do anything wrong in particualr, and she's a very nice girl. i just need some time alone. hope that "answers" your question. good luck though :)
284277
you seem like such a lovely guy and to be honest.. from what you have said   that girl does not deserve you.. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love her.. and im sure she's out there somewhere.. it seems like this girl is keeping you on standby just incase things don't work out with the other guy..and even if she does loose this guy she will have another on standby sooner or later...she knows your too good for her and she's taking advantage of it!!please do yourself a favour and start the process of letting her go now cause it will take time .. and time heals!! and the one thats right for you will come along after you have healed from this girl.You derserve better and i think you know it !!It's not worth loving someone who doesn't do the right thing by you hun!It eventually makes your heart turn cold!
492754
I'd say...I jumped into this relationship and now I regret it. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I need out. Then, leave. You are right, if you keep on it will hurt more later and I promise you...the longer you wait, the harder it will be to do.
674762
Youve never seen each other? Hmmm well it would seem you are long overdue to meet the girl you love. You should prolly come up with a way to meet for the weekend and go from there, u know? And of course I agree with Beauty tell her your having these feelings and its time for you guys to move to the next step OR move on with your lives. Good Luck and I hope you get all you want in life sweety either way. God Bless
617747
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
197869
Dude, if she is such a great girl then this is really quite easy.  You sure as heck don't walk away.  School is going to take up a lot of your time and it is taking up a lot of her time also.  So in reality you two aren't really missing out on a lot of time together.  The key is to plan the times you can be together and make the most of them.  If you can see each other 4 times a year for 2 or more weeks each time then that is over two full months together a year dedicated to spending time together.  A lot of couples who live together barely spend that much time together.  Hold on to what you got and hopefully by the time you each graduate she will be ready for marriage and you two can then be together.
63036
It seems as you wasting your time ,4 years and you donot know if you are going to love her or not???Do you think that she have no bf now as you didnot date her for the last 6 months? Realy i doesnot think so....sorry for you
440143
You should be honest just like you are in your letter.  You are absolutely right in the fact the she will be hurt but it is in the way that the break up is done that determines on a certain level the impact that it could leave for her future.  First of all do not kiss her or show romantic feelings before breaking up because it only confuses the person.  Eventhough your intentions would be to make her feel better you can not take care of the person since you need to distant yourself.  Be gentle, be caring but with your words and your face but after it is done be respectful and dont give her false impressions or false hope.  Last but not least try to stay away from situations where you could come face to face with her so that she does not feel like you are partying and celebrating your new found freedom.  Go through a period of mourning yourself that way everybody will have time to heal from a separation.  You seem like a good guy so I am sure that you will do the right thing, just be nice and try to understand what she is going through she is being dumped and no one likes but also no one dies from it and it can be a growing experience for everyone if it is well done.  Good luck my friend and continue having a kind heart because its nice to know that even the dumper can feel alot of pain