...100% of all divorces started with marriage? :)
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Dayum your really really smart
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My dad (my parents have been married for 57 years) says that divorce is not an escape from your problems, just a new set of problems. That's why second and third marriages have a higher divorce rate then first marriages. Divorce is sometimes the only way to address certain relationship issues, but it needs to be as a last resort. Too often, people give up without investing any real effort.
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The only dumb question is the one you don't ask.  But you're absolutely right.  Divorce is a very sad but true fact of life in today's society.\n\nThe underlying reason is probably how materialistic and selfish this society has become.  It is no longer "I need to do my part and be patient", instead it's "What have you done for me lately".  \n\nPart of it maybe the fact that men and women communicate differently.  But that's always been the case throughout history.\n\nThe other part of it is permiscuity.  Statistically, 80% of divorces are because of infidelity.  The reason this has become so is directly attributable to pre-marital sex.  People will continue to deny this, but the statistics are very clear.\n\nThink about it from a psychological point of view.  Once the heart is broken (i.e. after one's first love), it can never be put back to it's original state.  The emotional scar may heal, but it will never disappear.  This creates mistrust between the sexes.  Ultimately, people get numbed to it and it becomes a predatory game.\n\nAlso, after leaving the first partner, one becomes very curious about all potential partners.  Whereas if intimacy is saved for the institution of marriage, then the partners learn how to fully satisfy each other without any temptation from outside the marriage.\n\nThe problem only gets worse with every generation.  Once a child grows up in an environment that does not hold marriage sacred, then they will end up taking it even a step further.\n\nWe all have to learn to "love the one you're with".  No one is perfect.  Instead of listening to that little voice in your head that nags you about how annoying your partner's habbits are, learn to love those habbits.  They are what makes your partner who they are.  \n\nWe have to learn to appreciate the good and the bad.  After all, it is for better or for worse.\n\nAnd God only knows best.
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Hi Kat, \n\nI will not give you any lecture or be judgmental... besides, others have done that already. I will only give you statistics. \n\nLIVING TOGETHER/COHABITATING BEFORE MARRIAGE: Very little evidence of marriage being much better than marriage couples who do not live together prior to marriage. Research does show divorce rate is higher for couples who cohabited prior to marriage.\n\n-AVERAGE AGE OF MARRIAGE: Women 25.3 yrs. old; Men 26.9 yrs. old\n-THE LATER INDIVIDUAL WAITS TO MARRY THE LESS LIKELY THAT INDIVIDUAL IS TO DIVORCE- maturity.\n\n-FIRST YEAR AND A HALF OF MARRIAGE, COUPLES WILL HAVE THE MOST HARDSHIP.\n\n-FIRST MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE: 55%-60%\n-SECOND MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE: 60%-70%!!!\n\nThinking about creating a family?\n-ANNUAL COST TO PROPERLY CARE FOR ONE (1) CHILD: about $9500.00\n-MOST BABIES BORN ARE UNPLANNED ("BY ACCIDENT").\n\nMARRIAGE LIFE W/ KID(S): Honeymoon fever is over; marriage satisfaction declines after first baby is born; marriage satisfaction rises somewhat in childhood years; marriage satisfaction declines significantly again during child's teen years; marriage satisfaction increases significantly after last child has left the house!!! \n\nFACTORS THAT CAUSES DIVORCE: Couples do not have same values, beliefs, expectations, etc. ... simply put, love is not enough and opposites do not attract lasting marriages. Couples in an inter-racial marriages must endure current societal stigmatization (prejudices) of such relationships.\n\nCONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE: Money issues; roles of a husband and wife; kids or no kids?; housewife, career woman or both?; which inlaws to visit for xmas/holidays?; joint or separate accounts?, how much time to spend together? etc. etc.\n\nEFFECTS OF DIVORCE: Divorce Children are usually the biggest losers in divorce. Women are next in line with most moving downward from the socio-economic ladder and into poverty, especially if she not a college graduate and has children to take care of. Reality does not sets in for twelve months. It takes another year to three years to get through the effects of a divorce. And still some effects are life-long.\n\nNow you decide, my friend, and best of luck... -Taz-
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They should be.  Plus a zillion more.  We are so caught up in the romance of marriage, we forget that it is s-e-r-i-o-u-s.  We don't want to talk about these things.\nAnd we can always get a divorce, right?  Even when both parties agree it isn't working out it still causes immeasurably emotional damage.\n\nHere are a few from my arsenal:\nWhat will you do when you find you cannot agree?\n\nWho will be responsibile for paying the bills and keeping the checkbook?\n\nWhat is your attitude toward children?\nWhat would you do if you cannot conceive children of your own?\n\nHow often do you want to invite people to your home?\n\nWhere will you spend Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter? How will you decide?
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Well, it would have been nice had you used spell check first...\nYour question is hard to read for those of us that actually speak and write in English...\n\nSo my answer to this is, which marriage were you speaking of???\nI am on marriage number 3 and at my age it would be foolish to act like a virgin this far into my life...\nI know others that are in their 5th marriage;  you think they should wait too???\nJust exactly how much holier are you than the rest of us???\nMy previous 2 marriages had the exes walk out on me because of cheating, and I was not at fault...\nSo we should study that aspect more don't you think???\nI do not agree with your logic or attitude... Sorry...\nYou could never make it work...\nHow would you ever prove it???
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I assume you mean the poverty women experience AFTER a divorce?  I am currently reading material covering this question in order to complete a correspondence course on the History of the Family in America from BYU.  From the text: Domestic Revolutions: A Social History of American Family Life*  Ch. 10 pg.216 Quoting from the topic, The Femininzation of Poverty\n   "Today families headed by women are four and a half times as likely to be poorer than families headed by males. Teenagers who have children out of wedlock are seven times more likely to be in poverty. Although female-headed families constitute only 15% of the U.S. population, they account for 50% of the poor population. Teenagers and women in their early twenties who bear illegitimate children constitute a large segment of the population that remains poor and dependent on welfare for long periods of time." \n  Same ch. pg227   "...Economic disruption is the most ovvious consequence of a divorce. In the immeadiate aftermath of a divorce, the income of the divorced woman and her children falls sharply, by 73% in the year following divorce, while the father's income rises by 42%. \nAdding to financial pressures facing the children of divorce is the fact that a majority of divorced men evade court orders to support their children. Recent surveys indicate that only 40% of support orders are fully complied with during the first year after a divorce and that by the tenth year after seperation, the figure falls to 13%."\n  * This text was written by: Steven Mintz & Susan Kellogg, \nPub. 1988 by THE FREE PRESS, A Division of Simon & Schuster, Inc. NY. NY    ISBN 0-02-921291-X\n   Good luck with your paper!!
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there wouldn't be a divorce...\n\nGollum would just join in...\n\nGOD MY EYES!!!!!
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you are right; from the divorce rate you mentioned above. it use to be HALF of all marriages end up in divorce, now its predicted MORE than half will end up in divorce (statisticly) a human being by nature is a mamal. a mamal or an animal wrather is a being that is made to procreate (male; spread its seed) though we are smarter than an animal yet; we still have those urges. why cant we stop the way we are if were so smart? well were built this way. the same reason we eat meat, when we know that an animal that has done no wrong, is slaughtered. yet we love the taste of meat. we also love the taste of sin. yea as you figured, most divorces, are caused by infidelity.
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Screw marriages . . . because straight people don't hold marriage and sacred and forever binding.\n\n Look at the divorce rate in the US . . . between 50-75% depending on age.  What a joke . . . marriage.\n\nWhat they are . . . are civil unions . . . or personal business that can get dissolved within a whim . . . \n\nIf you are religious . . . call it a marriage . . . get married in a church . . . and if you get divorced for any grounds other that adultery . . . you are going to hell.\n\nIf you are not religious . . . have it done by a judge and call it a civil union . . . and there . . . everyone is happy. . . . okay . . . \n\nNow stop beating this dead horse.
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Never let anyone tell you marriage is 50-50. If a person can't or won't give 100%...their all...they're going to have problems in that marriage. Takes 2 to make it work.
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all couples (married)
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i totally think love marriage is the right thing! fight for what you think is right!!
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Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! I don't follow. How are you two brother and sister if you got married? No where in the law nor the bible nor any moral code I have ever heard of does it state that after a divorce is your ex considered you sibling. Is this some kind of redneck thing? If so you have much bigger problems then the sin of divorce.
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I hate people like that, dammit. Well, I think it's funny that opposite sex marriages are held up to the norm when heterosexuals aren't exactly doing well on the marriage floor. What is there left to ruin when most couples divorce these days?\n\nAnd also, what do they mean we need more people to reproduce, if 1/100 people are gay, that leaves 99 people to add to a 6 billion, plus population.
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Divorce is regulated by where you get divorced, not where you get married. You are married regardless what you did with the marriage decree.
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yes, it's called marriage!