I always seem to get hurt in the end when im talking to a guy or almost with a guy... and in the ed I always think that I fuck it up ... and i really do think I do fuck thigns up... but when im talking to my friends they say i didt do anything wrong... \nthe guys I like either have a gf , they dont want a gf right now, or they dont like u.. or they will talk to me and stuff and end up screwing me over in the end... \nlike now im kind of talking to this guy.. but he likes his ex still ( even though they broke up a long time ago.. like nov or something idk )  but I found out she doesnt even liek him anymore.. and i wanted to tell him that but Im  not they type of person to do that ... but idk what to do cause ive basically been by myself forever.. i reall havent had a reall bf... i was in a relationship for about 2 weeks.... so idk .. cause I fell really lost.. and alone.... and there si no one... to save me from the dark ...
203428
your father wasn't there for you as you grew up so you choose men that are not available, get counseling to help you choose the right guys
214584
It's understandable you don't want to be hurt again. Nobody ever wants to be hurt. But you have to let someone new into your life. It will take a mental effort, but you have to do it! It's the only good way to move on. Figure out what you did wrong, g=to get hurt, and avoid doing it with the new guy that you find. Or maybe I should say, who finds you.
399915
im sry..i have the same exact thing happening to me except im a lil further down the line...i was good friends with a guy and i liked him ALOT! then someone found out he heard and stopped talking to me then he started e-mailing me and i found out he was just shy and rlly liked me...it's still akward but it's getting better...so don't worry everything will work out great!!!
313639
i'll start with a question. did you like this guy? if you did you should atleast talk to him ask him what's up and why he is acting like such a jerk. if you didn't like him than simply don't let it get to you. guys can be stupid at times, well most of the time. sometimes it doesn't seem like they think before they do stuff and they dont consider the outcomes. he is probably trying to make you jealous but not in the right way because it's most likely making you see the dumba#@ side of him. so basically either talk to him or let him go!
519073
Well I hope you don't let him fool you a third time.  My first love did this to me. Guys can be very tricky. He befriended me for a year before I decided to have sex with him. He was my best Friend.  After we had sex he dumped me.  Guys like the game especially as teenagers, so becareful.  I grieved the relationship for quite some time.  I got together with my girlfriends who let me cry. I concentrated on my work and having fun.  With time my heart healed and so will yours. Just be patient with yourself and don't keep in touch  with him. He is not a real friend.
634277
Ok. I had the same problem. There was one guy I was with and we broke up so I went without liking anybody for a while. Then one of my best guy friends broke up with his gf and I realized I liked him but then my ex started coming back. So I chose the one that is the sweetest and that I have the most fun with and that wasn't my ex. It just so happens i picked the other guy who's my ex's best friend and we've been together for almost 4 months and I have a great ime with him all the time. although they aren't friends anymore, I still really like my bf. so pick the one that's sweetest to you and that you have the most fun with. even if that means long distance. (i'd choose the ex because he seems like he would be a great bf and that he really cares about you as lot).
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hmmmmmmm............... it happens in life. I also go thru similar experience but the other way round. i dont know whether this will solve ur problem or not.... but please do try to find out in it.\n\nI have been chatting for long in a chatroom. i normally talk in main and in front of everybody. i talk nice to everybody be it gal or guy. i m kind to everybody. all ppl like my attitude in the room, they are comfortable to share their problems and talks with me.i dont fake it that i am nice, what i am in real is in front of everybody. \n\nguys and gals do like me. some gals took an extra step to say their feelings to me(which u r going thru rt now).... but i just like them. i never had any mushy feeling abt any gal in the room. i like all but i dont love anyone. this i conveyed to them. some understood and get on with it.... we r still friends. some just walk out rudely on me.... still i dont have any  bad feelings for them. they still do come in the room but dont talk to me anymore.\n\nso from it what u have to infer is ur choice. decision is all urs. but i would like to suggest one thing...... please make sure first that ..... that boy is same as u said(nice to everyone) or he is just nice to u.... in any case u have to talk to him directly. and after u done ur talking....... if answer is yes... u have a jackpot or if answer is no... just continue with ur life. u may find someone else who is really meant for u. ;-)
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Stay out of it.... don't get involved one way or the other... getting involved in other peoples relationships like that will only hurt YOU... both parties will blame you for the break up... for ruining their happiness... etc... \nIt's better to have a friend than a bf/gf... part of being a friend is not always trying to "Save" them from being hurt... but to be there for them when they are hurt... "The object of life is not to never fall... but to get up when you do"... sometimes... your friends are the ones who pick you up when you're down... \nIf you think he is interested in you... then I would try to keep your distance from him... don't give him signs that you're interested in him... especially not when your friend is dating/seeing him... the last thing you wanna do is hurt you're friend... or even damage the trust and love that you're friend has in you...
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I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
465631
I READ YOUR PROFILE.  ONE OF YOUR QUESTION WAS ASKING ADVICE ON HOW CAN YOU DEAL WITH LOSING YOUR FRIENDS BECAUSE OF YOUR BOYFRIEND!  YOU NEED TO SEEK HELP AND FIND OUT WHY YOU SEEK OUT BEING TREATED SO POORLY.  YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM.  GOOD LUCK, PLEASE HEED THE ADVICE THAT YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING, IT SEEMS TO BE SOUND.
509931
Life is risk. I am in the same situation as you, except the girl I'm after has a boyfriend, but I'm going to tell her how I feel anyway. Stupid? Probably. But I don't want to look back in a few years and wonder 'what if'. You may lose a friend, and you may gain a girlfriend / boyfriend. Remember, fortune favours the bold. :)
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If you KNOW that you don't need to be with these guys, then when you meet them you need to not let it go any farther.  I know it is hard when you are attracted to them, but in the long run it is better to not put yourself through the same thing over and over again.  I know it is hard being single for a long time, I'm in the same boat, but in the end it is better than getting your heart broken over and over again by guys that you know are going to do it.  Just hang out with your single friends, enjoy being 18 and having fun, and the right person will come along eventually (going out with nothing but couples will end up making you feel worse and like a huge third wheel, trust me on that one).  Good luck, let me know how things go, and email me if you have any more problems, greeneyeddevl@yahoo.com.
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you sound so much like me. I am 12 too. I am also a girl. I used to have boi troubles all the time. Then I got a bf. If you ever want to chat email me at:\n\nblondeqt4ver8994@yahoo.com\n\nanyway. You sound like me because I used to like a guy that said things like you know you like me, and screw my balls. \n\nI dont like him because I realized when I got a boyfriend that he was just a guy with a really big ego. So, I thijnk you should try and find someone else.  Hope you will email me. or IM. my IM screen name is the same as my email address but w/o the @yahoo.com part. Bue Bye
176960
Been there! Finish with him, may sound harsh but you will feel so much better! Not all men are like it. I now have the perfect bloke who I can trust and he trusts me. It is so nice to go out with him and not worry about who I may be talking to or looking at! \nAlso ask your friends opinion, they will tell you the truth about him and you should trust their opinion they only have your happiness in mind!
408314
You are right, I see some of my old friends play guys and it makes me sick. When they start in a relationship she thinks she wants him and him only, and 2 weeks later, she wants his best friend too. then both guys get hurt (heart break) and she moves on to the next guy, who falls for her... and it goes on and on... Just sickening...  Some men do women the same way though, not as many men as women though. Don't stop being the nice guy, there are some good women left that appreciate a great guy, and that sounds like what you are. Good Luck with the next one.
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The key to that would be never to say things like that lol make then think u really don't care!! The bad thing is you are a guy and was being totally honest with how u feel and i would love to find a guy like that!! I wish more guy could tell how they feel and what they want!!
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OMG.... i was in the same exact position 2 yrs ago as you are in now\n\ni just kept saying i wanted to be friends with him, and for the longest time we were just friends, but then we hung out all summer and i realized how much i really liked him. My ex bf refused to talk to me and for 2 yrs i wasted my life waiting for him... but once i got over him it just didnt make any sense to stay single when i liked his friend and he liked me back (btw, they are not friends anymore and havent been since my ex bf dumped me) so to sum that all up we are now bf/gf for 3 months and im 10x happier with my bf now than i was with my ex..... so i guess you just have to let time take its course.... i never thought id end up with who im going out wth now\n\nhope my "essay" helped.... good luck