ok i'm gay right,and i have this friend right,but he's not gay,how do i tell him i like him without him getting ofended.i never made a pass are came on to him but i can't hold much longer tell me what do to....
203129
If he can't handle that you are gay, then you don't need him as a friend.  I'm straight and have plenty of gay friends.  One even asked me out, not realizing that I wasn't (honestly that made me feel kinda bad, but we reconciled)  If you KNOW he isn't gay but want to ask him out, don't if you want to keep him as a friend.  You should tell him you are gay and if he can't handle that, fark it.  But trying to impose your lifestyle on someone else is no better than a woman trying to make you straight.  (Or certain governments saying you can't be who you are or have chosen to be)
329097
Things are cut and dry.  You are gay, and he is straight.  He probably is just comfortable around you and enjoys your company.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be anything other than friends with you.  If he asks why yer still single, he just probably thinks yer a good guy and deserves to be with another good guy, but no necessarily him.  Keep being his friend, but dont think or hope for more.  If he really is gay, and decides to come out, Im sure you'll be the first to know, but until then... Just realize that he is STRAIGHT.
67884
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
219041
Tell him camly. Don't rush through it. But first tell him how you want to be friends no matter what. Then try and be relaxed and just tell him straight forward. It's risky b/c you might lose your friend but that's a chance you've got to take.Good luck
133035
friends over guys! let your friend know how you feel first and if she tells you its okay and you feel its okay then try to find a way to let this guy know!
488974
have you really tried to sit down with him and talk about the way you feel maybe he just needs a little nudge in the right direction he may not be telling you how he feels because he does not want to be rejected and just remember if you do tell him it may or may not happen and that friendship line would be crossed so think about it really hard before you act upon anything good luck
15442
"How do I let a good friend know..."\n\nIf he's interested romantically, he's not a good friend but a suitor, and however you tell him or don't tell him, when he's finally convinced there's no hope, the relationship you have now will change.\n\nBy the way, if you don't like him, then you don't like him.  Don't let others tell you who you should like.  It's not them under him in that bed till death do you apart.
234801
You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.
304143
No, because if you come on to him , and you are aware that he is not gay , the only thing you will achive is that he ends up accepting even less gay people , in fact you can make him become a homofobic,\nbest thing you can do is let go of the crush , before you become a real friend to him , this my friend will make him accept more gay people , and by doing this you are helping to create a better image of gay people , last thing we need is another straigt guy jusyfying his hate towards gay people , because some one told him he liked him once\nIF he rathers keeps his distance and you cant let go of the crush dont push the issue any further , is easiest for young gay guys to have straight friends that they are not atracted to
120198
What ever you do odnt wait, if you do someone braver will come and he will be gone, go for it your freinds nothing to lose ied think. you can always be freinds but if you dont ask you will always wounder what if you did. just get it over with just tell him plain. dont beat around the bush sometimes guys neet it spelled out so just be blunt and say it ! good luck!
73180
It is really hard to tell friends that you are gay especially if the are narrow minded. Maybe you could just drop hints. Try defending gay people when they make fun of them. But, if you do tell them, be ready for rejection. And move on. You can still find other friends that will welcome who you are and will be comfortable about your preference.
448694
He would say, "thanks, that is very nice, but I am gay....what are we supposed to do about that? " It is very easy to develope feelings for Gay men, they are open, funny, and easy to approach. Keep your feelings in check, for you know from the start that nothing can come of it other than friendship..which is nice, but not a romantic relationship, if that is what you are looking for. Gay men cannot suddenly become straight, anymore than a straight man can become gay. Leave it at that. Good luck
527879
If your not gay, you simply tell him. He'll be hurt, but he should know the truth.
271221
you know you should, but I won't tell you, friends usually change the story a little, you don't have to SAY it, just give him a sign, but you are just avoiding the real answer and you know it!
536823
Tough one!\nI am a gay man and have several really close female friends. Something seems to happen in these relationships that turns them into really special and close friendships. Everything is usually very fun and open. We can talk about anything and just be ourselves without having to try to impress eachother or hold back our innermost feelings and deepest secrets.\nI would try to control your feelings to the best of your ability. It is possible to remain as close as you are without this affecting your close relationship. But please be careful because it sounds to me like you are in the emotional danger zone.\nIf your friend is understanding- tell him how you feel. Let him know that you understand that he is gay and are not trying to change him but that you really admire his qualites. If he is such a loving person, he will be proud and honored that you think so highly of him. ( I know I would be!!)\nJust make sure that you realize the situation that you are in and that a sexual relationship between the two of you would be doomed from day 1.\nGood luck! :)
561501
i have straight friends that do that. if he just acts gay around your friends, its most likely to make them laugh. you said he doesn't act like that all the time, so he is most likely not gay. but whatever he is, as long as he is a great person then he should be worthy of friendship.
634232
You probably want to stay clear of that one as you may lose a friend.. You can tell them  you are gay.. That's accepted today.. BUT if you tell him you are gay and you are in love with him,  you risk losing him as a friend.  Start out with baby steps and then if he is cool and opens up to you too and tells you he is gay, maybe you want to begin with trust, going out with him, working out with him etcc... He will get the message and you will see from his demeanor whether you have a chance or are even his type.. To recap, you can come out to him.. If he comes out to you, then you need to be passive and let him figure out that maybe you are the guy for him.. BUT don't comeout and tell him you love him.. Disaster waiting to happen..