hey ladies how long should i give a girl to get over her ex husband before i ask her out again she said she wants self time n time for her kids or do u think shell let me know
205751
be calmly persistent.  My husband was and we have been together for 11 years.  Just be there for her/ be a friend first
352794
No way man. An ex is an ex for a reason. I'll give you a link to go to and read why you shouldn't even be talking to her. If you want any chance of getting her back go no contact. Start dating other woman and let her find out. She'll come crawling back and saying everything you want to hear. Don't buy it. She just wants what she can't have and when she gets it BOOM you mean shyt to her again. There's a 1 in 100000 chance that says she wants you back for the right reasons. Move on. The damage is done. She's damaged goods and you'll never have as healthy relationship as you think. She may say she wants to see you happy in the long run and personally you'll be happier without her. She won't allow you to move on until she's stable in her own life. Don't let her mess with you. And don't even be her friend. Until you are totally over her. Nothing you say or do is going to get her back. I PROMISE. Good luck and find you a new woman. AT CHURCH
519333
You should definitely give her some time because she just broke up with her boyfriend.  There is still a possiblity that they might get back together.  Also, you do not want to be her rebound guy because rebounders never last long.  Just be a friend to her and let her know she can call you if she needs to talk.  But take it from me, I'm a female.  You do not want to pressure her or else it will turn her off of you.  Give her time.
249843
It will hurt her.  You know that right?  \nBut, as unfortunate as it is, it does happen.  That doesn't mean you can't be gentle about it.  You just need to sit down and be honest with her.  The longer you wait, the harder it will be on all three of you.  \nMy ex husband found someone else while we were together and he told me immediately, before he cheated.  I respect that he did at least leave me BEFORE he went to her.  PLEASE Consider that fact if it's not too late.
592633
Firstly must say you seem like a very special man. Secondary I shall say that it is time that you concentrate on yourself a bit more (to be able to move forward)\n\nBe respectful, always reliable, helpful, be understanding, be her shoulder to cry on (life is funny.. but wheel turns). But at the same time give her space at this time as you don’t want to loose her.\n\nI had a friend who his wife left him for another man. They have two kids together. He was always there for her (but had other girlfriend but did not commit 100%: in fact I was one J ). If she was sick, or needed something, or pick their kids up: he was always there, kept nice contact with ex-in laws because of the kids.. She went back to him when she was in trouble. He let her. He let her leave him again for yet another man (even married) He was her friend, warned her about the guy who ended up to be an abuser. She left this guy in the end, she matured, and they now together (but he did not remarry), He is now 48, his wife 8 year younger. He married he as she was only 19.\n\n*******************************\nJust remember:\n*******************************\n\nForming a relationship with your ex is entirely separate from the process of ending a marriage; if you work through the process to achieve your "emotional divorce," you can cultivate something entirely new. Your old relationship is over; take the steps to heal so that you can invest your energy elsewhere.\n\nGood luck.\n\nps meant to say: and you get a new hobby and have fun with other people as soon you will feel better and might make new friends and will not feel lonely. The reason why we LOVe or MISS people is beuase we miss that comunication. Once you communicate with others it will be better for you. And who knows, maybe your ex -wife seeing how popular and outgoing you are might ant to herself be your friend asap.........  show her your new side that she did not see before :-)
159324
The question is does she love you back?  How long were you dating before you broke up?  Me?  I had a relationship for 7 years and I still love him but we grew apart.  I realize now that I love the idea of being with the person I once knew.  If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she is probably not the person you fell in love with anymore.  I would err on the side of moving on!  Nothing will ever be the same as the relationship that you had with this person.  I guarantee it.  But don't let that close your heart to new and better relationships.  Use what you had with her as a learning experience.  Don't compare her to the other women you date.  That is a fatal mistake.  I know its hard ,but you have to move on with your life in your mind, your spirit and your body.  Please don't hold your relationship with her on a pedestal.  Clear your heart and keep moving!\n*Muah*
435059
have you done something that could annoy her? or probably she's having second thoughts on breaking up with his ex. maybe you should give her some time alone. but keep the communication line open. text her from time to time (but not too much), ask her how she is. but do not annoy her by texting too much. if this scenario continues for days, try giving her a letter and express how you really feel. tell her you really like her but having second thoughts on pursuing cause she might think you're taking things too fast. just be honest.
255522
Be a friend first! Let her heal from the bad marriage, it could take awhile, so be patient. It takes an INCREDIBLE man to get with a woman who's been hurt and now she's somewhat bitter. Dude, you'll have to really want this woman! Expect her to lash out quite a bit, and constantly compare you to the ex, also it will take quite some time before she trusts you not to hurt her. There are LOTS of women like this (I'm one of them), and every worthless piece of shit "player" that you know creates more women like this everyday, makes it that much harder for the nice guys (if there's any left.) Good Luck!
324886
just give it time. sometimes time will tell all. and if your good to her shell realize that she has a good thing and come back. but when you do get back together try to do more "mommy and daddy time" instead of everything for the kids. dont get me wrong also have family time. but sometimes its just you need time alone. i hope everything works out!!!!
276039
this is one of the problems you encounter when you get involved with a guy that has an ex and kids. not much you can do. you didn't say how many kids he has but..she won't be able to get away with it forever, plus when he goes to the hearing he needs to let them know how much of a hardship she is creating for him. as far as child support goes they fill out financial statements etc. eventually the divorce will be granted whether she signs or not. aside from that, who cares what she is blaming it on? that doesn't change the reality of anything so don't even worry about that, it isn't worth the energy. if you really love him very much you won't let this come between you, you knew his situation when you started dating him, no point in complaining about it now, just deal with it the best way you can. she will eventually get over it and move on, it could be a long road though so just buckle down and hang in there and make sure he fights for himself and doesn't just hand her whatever she wants out of guilt. good luck to you, it will get better!
210168
u just need time. some ppl get over it faster then others. i get over stuff fast theres no need to keep being up set. if it was ment to be she will come back!
632812
no, if you just broke up she should maybe give you some time. If she talks to you everday, it will seem like before. So at first it's probably not a good idea. But if its been a while then its fine if it doesn't bother you.
27721
she might really like you this time.the first time you asked her out she proably just got dumped or she had a rough time with family or something she doesnt want to talk about.you gave her time,and is now proably very interested in you.
463210
wow dude looks like it's time to move on......sounds like you really care for her just not her daughter....you need to find another girl with no baggage..and start fresh.
634109
if you really think that in her heart she really wants you back, maybe going on a few dates may send a different message to her - that you really don't care about her as much as you said. She seems as if she is taking her time to think about what happened with your relationship and if its a good idea to reconcile. The important thing is that you've been sincere and you let her know how much you love her and would like a second chance, give her as much time as you think to make her decesion, but waiting too long will prevent you from moving on with your life
534687
It's worth a shot, but take it step by step, he might not be over his ex yet. It also depends on how much you know him, so, as a suggestion, you could ask if you could go to watch one of his kid's games or something along those lines.
164097
there was probably a good reason why she is now an ex, go for the new girl. you don't know if the new girl will be a better choice unless you try, besides, she already has a man so why should you wait? did she wait for you?