no I don't think about harmin myself why? I just get this thoughts like no one needs me I've been eating baby powder for the last 5 months now and that's even crazy than me not having anyone in my like I've also been single for 5 months and I've never had a problem with gettin a man. These things happen for a reason yes but I wanna kno how can I put an end to this maddness
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You eat baby powder??? You need to take some iron suplements for your weird cravings-it's called pica and some b vitamins for your depression while your at it.
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Hey bro don't worry...as the years go by you will gain more control over your emotions.I use to be the same way as you...I'm alot more mellow now but still destructive at times and have the urge to want to cause havoc onto the world.However,I know right from wrong and use more "reasoning" and try thinking twice these days before making rash decisions...this type of mentality had developed over the years and I still have much to learn.I myself had a decent upbringing with a religious background and all,but because I'm such a hothead I must battle with the demons inside...most times I defeat them but every now & then the bad will get a hold of me.At your age with all the testosterone and adrenaline flowing it's going to be tough to overcome all the things you're feeling inside.That is why as we age we tend to make wiser and better decisions...it's all about trial & error.You seem to have a good head on your shoulders-I mean you at least have decency to come in here and seek help from total strangers...and you're concerned about these things that seem to bother you.At your age I don't think I gave it much thought,but then again I was really rebelious & out of control!You seem to be better than that...so good luck with your journey into manhood and trial & error-that's what growing up is all about............
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is the reason you haven't had a boyfriend because of them or you? i know lots of people in wheel chairs that have relationships. so is it you? maybe your so afraid of no one liking you that you give off the vibe to stay away. if your not confidant in your self or you dont like yourself...men can pick up on that. try cahnging your attitude about yourself and im sure things will change
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You have said it in the first line of your question here, that this problem seems to be based on your past. You seemed to have been wounded by something that has already happened before. Its best you sit and think. Go back to that part of your past and mentally think as to what you could have done to make things better. I know doing so will be painful but it is something that you must do in order to ease the pain. Continuous suspicions, mistrust issues are not to be looped over such a long period of time, especially when you have beautiful people around you who I am positive are caring and concerned more than you know. There is absolutely nothing to be afraid of and most of all there's nothing more frightening than fear itself. Another question here from my side is why is it that you are afraid to love? I am asking this because we all know that what you give is definitely what you get back in return. If you provide love and affection, it is guaranteed that it will come back to you too. If you have any further questions or need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to e-mail me. Remember, there are so many wonderful people around and you should give them a chance before you can think of anything else. Before that, please try and do what I've mentioned earlier about looking back and thinking for a moment. Until then, take care. :)
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You appear to have very low self esteem of yourself. Being in that negative envionment will continue dragging you down. I am sure you are a very good and loving person and deserve someone who loves and gives back as you do. Being alone and providing for yourself is better than being in a bad relationship. So, start spending time apart from this clown. Go back to school. Get yourself a carreer. Envolve yourself with only positive minded people. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life. If you decide to keep things as they were yesterday, then tomorrow will be the same as today. If you just have gotten fed up with your life as it now is then just change your mind. You can do it girl. Go for it.
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I think your boyfriend is correct though. You sound like you might be clinically depressed in which case some anti-depressants could get you out of it, or maybe you just need some talk therapy. Whatever is going on, you clearly aren't feeling well. A pregnancy and miscarriage can stir up a lot of feelings to say nothing of hormones. Give yourself a break and talk to a professional - you may find more comfort in them being a "stranger" - after all, you're not talking to a stranger on the street - you're talking to someone who is trained to help people deal with their feelings. I think you would find it a great relief.
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I don't think you have borderline personality.  It seems to me that you are very sensitive to certain issues that change you abruptly.  The issue about men I think you just need to feel loved a lot.  Maybe your father wasn't there for you and you are seeking love from others?  This is just what I get from you.  Don't get depressed about not getting attention all the time.  It sounds like you do get a lot of attention though most of the time.  Am I right? The not eating thing is  you trying to get attention from others I think.  Just look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself I LOVE ME!!!  Just do it girl.  I think you will be fine.  JUST STAY STRONG!!!!!
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Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't.  You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.'  I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself.  Do you really not want a relationship?  Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship?  What is it?  If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it.  You're not a lemming.  Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to.  Also, are you fairly young?  If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet.  Don't worry about what other people think.  Worry about what you think.
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Yea..unfortunately i know exactly how you feel. I think most people feel this way at one point or another. It's a terribly easy slump to get into, but now that you are fed up with it start making some changes. Start practicing saying no to people sometimes and giving yourself a littlle time for yourself. It's hard to be a good friend or partner to anyone if your all used up. Unfortunately though it's easy to get into a pattern of just saying ok and going with everyone else's flow! Think of things you enjoy doing and set aside some time to do them... it will go a long way in helping you get back some energy and re-centering yourself. Good Luck and lotsa luv!
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hey who do u need protection from ... god this earth can use ppl like u around to help others too ... \n\nwell u know what ur prob is is always the first step towards a solution .... i know u have a tendancy to closely notice ppl .. well it is a good thing but in ur case its working against u ... to change ur position now u gotta look what ppl do instinctively thats helping u ... even the smallest things ... anyhting that they do that makes ur life better or easier ... and not what they do that makes it hell ... u r old enough to protect urself from bad stuff but u are over protective to an extent that u filter the good stuff ... well world is a harsh place but that doesnt mean caring ppl dont exist anymore ... just be open to ur senses ... give everyone a chance ... and most important ... trust ur instincts ....\n\n\nregarding seeing a shrink .. i say u just attend some feel good conventions and stuff ... ur not in such a bad state that u think ...\n\nbeing single is good too ....\n\n:) ... hope i helped ...
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I think they are saying that You are thinking about this too much.  You are putting added stress on yourself because you think this way.  Basically that Phrase means you are thinking about the situation differently than most others would.  Therefore those bad thoughts are "In your Head" alone, and not in most others.
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Just the fact you are asking the question here sound like it is a serious problem.  And as people have mentioned above, natural is much better but I’m sure you already know that.  The longer you take it the more mental block you will have. The problem is that many times it is a vicious cycle, where the more it doesn’t work the more you worry.  I had that problem at a young age and got a new partner which helped.  Not saying you need that but it helped me stop thinking about it, kind of a clean slate.  You can get that in your current relationship though.  Also try having your partner with you while you masturbate and do it together.  Sometimes that will just lead to sex, or maybe don’t let it right away so you aren’t thinking about it the first few times. And always go down on her.  Another way is to stop using a condom if you are (make sure shes clean and on birth control) it eases the time needed between hard on and sex.  Exercise, less caffeine, and proper eating and sleep helped me a great deal.  All of those lead to a better body image and increased circulation and self-esteem.  Doctors agree on all of that. Lastly, once it starts working you will never look back and be fine.  Good luck!
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I dont think there s anything wrong with that. you maybe feel from now and then that u need someone with u but what ur doin is good in a way for you so that u dont get hurt again.. Just wait for that perfect guy, dunno maybe the guy ull settle down with. Just think in a way that u wont get hurt. dont care abt wut ppl say, the important thing is that u know that u dont mean anythin bad by doin this to guys. Just take it easy.
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Well you're supposed to love a man, but if he's not attached to you, then you must accept this as reality.  You must accept that he's not there and that emotionally functioning under the assumption that he is still there is madness.  Your psychological grip on him may be why he left you.  Men need to feel like they can function.\n\nNow what can you do?  Explore this.  Explore all the things you can do right now.  Do them.  Do them without him.  Just keep practicing doing things, like the adult you are, without an attachment.  It will get easier as you begin to trust yourself again.  And you shouldn't become attached again until you can be sure that it is wanted.  Don't worry about these things.  Just be a person, by yourself.  Have friends.  Have fun.  Work hard. Go for walks and vacations.  Experience life, the sun, and everything around you.  So many things can be done alone.  I should know.  I've always been.
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I have no idea what is wrong with you.  You should seek professional help.  Could be an imbalance in your chemical make up and maybe a drug could help.  I think you should just look for the positives in life and also do what makes you happy.  if you do drugs, stop.  if you drink too much, stop.  if you are in an abusive relationship, dump him.  Surround yourself with positivity is all I can tell you, and I really wish you well and that you do not act on your suicidal feelings.  Maybe god can help.  ( am not religious by the way)
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Glad you aren't related to me! Yikes!  But, really though you do sound like you have some problems you need help with before you do something you will regret.  Call a mental help line or your doctor or if you really think you might hurt somebody just call the police & they will take you to a place where you can get help.  Please call them BEFORE you hurt or kill anybody ok?
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Go back to your therapist. Also look for a single-mom support group near you or online, (email me if u want!) Trust me girl I know from the bottom of my heart. My ex husband ASKED me for a divorce while i was in school. But I pulled through, we struggle every day but I thank God for my true friends that have held me up. If you are suicidal you definitely need to talk to someone. Biggest thing you can do is make it an absolute priority to take time for yourself. Put the baby to bed a half hour earlier and go take a bath, turn on a workout video, chick-flick, whatever, have a glass of wine, paint your toenails...anything you want as long as its just for YOU. Remember a happy mom makes a happy kid...NOT the other way around.