she likes to cut herself, likes to be alone, very depressed abt life, who hates her family very much but she is ready to do anything for her friends, who has THOUGHT to take drugs & also want to smoke n drink once...
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awww, she needs someone to talk to, if her family is not an option, she should call her local crisis hotline and ask for a referral to a mental health professional, she can also talk to a counselor at school but she may be concerned about the confidentiality, she can talk to her medical doctor, she can also talk to someone at her church or if she hasn't one, any local church will do. Cutting oneself maybe a symptom of a serious problem that requires professional help...as far as hating her family but being ready to do anything for her friends well that is called being a teenager *smile* She should also know that drugs are even more dangerous for those who are suffering from depression.
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She needs to get help right away. I'm not sure how old she is and if she still lives with her parents. If she does, you have to make the difficult decision of telling them. They may not realize how seriously she is depressed. If she is an adult, it is hard to force someone to get help. If someone is about to commit suicide, then 911 can be called. Otherwise, you can encourage them to talk to their doctor, talk to a distress centre/suicide prevention line, talk to a counsellor or go to the emergency room of a hospital. Try to keep the lines of communication as open as you can. She needs to know that people care about her. With that said, if she does hurt herself that is not your fault. You are doing what you can. She is lucky to have a caring friend like you. I hope things work out really well.
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have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
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Dear Looking For..,\n There are many selfish people in the world that think 'if you are their friend you can have no other friends.' These people are insecure and they're probably some of the most depressing people you could choose to be around. Your 'suicide thoughts' might be because of this person is making you feel trapped and posessed by them (her). I advise you to get away from her and make new friends. She can grow up and except it or be lonely, but don't let her bring you down anymore! You aren't her property! \n\n If you have anymore suicide thoughts, Honey, go talk to your Mom or your school counselor, because you may need medicine to help you with depression. \n I wish you happiness and many new friends.\n           Hope_I_Helped!
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Has she REALLY always been like that......really?\n\nCan you remember a time when she was NOT like that??\n\nIf she was ever more "normal", you know......good days, bad days, fun times every once in awhile.......then something has happened to her SINCE that time to shape her emotional make-up. She may have a bad diet, too much caffeine, not enough sleep, not enough exercise......MANY different things. She may have been abused in some way.\n\nWith hormones kicking in now you may have a HUGE problem with her wanting/needing to self-medicate herself and her moods with food, sugar, caffeine drugs or alcohol.....or sex.\n\nIf it's REALLY that bad you could try something drastic like........show her what a REALLY bad day could be like....I'm talking night court, jails, homeless alcoholics.\n\nA more moderate form of the same basic exercise would be to volunteer the BOTH of you to do community service every week in a different part of the city and show her how to FIX some of the inequities in the world instead of constantly COMPLAINING about them. Helping others in need shows builds compassion and THANKFULNESS for our OWN good fortune....and shows that we are not very far away from some harder times, ourselves.
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PEOPLE EXPERIMENT WITH ALSORTS BECAUSE SHE SMOKED IT DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS AN ADDICT. GIVE HER A CHANCE BEING ROUND YOU AND YOUR HOMIES IS PROBABLY THE FIRST TIME SHE HAS FELT PART OF A GROUP
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This is not normal behavior and the person that is cutting himself/herself needs professional help as soon as possible.
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She definately needs professional help, but there are things that you can do now.  You can be there to listen to her.  It may be tempting to demand her to stop immediately, but this approach will most likely alienate her.  She knows she needs to stop, so telling her what she already knows is useless.  often, just knowing they have someone who cares enough to listen eases a lot of their pain.\n\nYou might try to help her to understand why she feels she has to cut herself.  Does it make her feel better?  Does she feel like she deserves it?  What is she thinking when she cuts herself?  The cutter usually uses physical pain to alleviate emotional pain.  Also keep in mind that there may be other underlying problems or mental disorders (such as bipolar, obsessive compuslive, depression, or even eating disorders) that are causing her to do this.  In those cases, simply talking with her will not solve anything.  \n\nIf you are a young person, you need to make sure you get help.  Try as hard as you can to get her to confide in a trusted adult, preferably her parents unless circumstances wouldn't permit it.  Cutting can become life-threatening, even if the person is not sucidal, so it is important to get her to a professional immediately.\n\nThere are also books out there that may be able to help her.  Go to your local library or search online.  If your friend is religious, you might refer her to her local pastor or priest.  Recently, Jehovah's Witnesses had articles about this type of self-cutting in the January and Febuary Awake Magazine.  You can look up "Jehovah's Witnesses" in the phonebook and call for someone to drop off the magazines free of charge.  Getting something in her hand that she can read may be what she needs to motivate her to get help.\n\nWhatever you decide to do, please get help for her, but also make sure that you get help as well.\n\nP.S. If you are not in a romantic relationship with her, be supportive and positive, but becareful about saying too many "lovey" things to her.  Since she is in a very emotional state, she could very easily begin to thik of you as more than a friend.  The last thing you both need is to have her fall in love with you, then become more depressed when you do not return the feelings.  If you do have some feelings for her, please wait for her to get help before pursuing any type of relationship.  Carefully consider whether you are mature enough to understand all that is involved with loving someone in her condition.  Again, getting trusted adults involved will be a safegaurd to you and help to protect both of your feelings during this very sensitive time.
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Its a phase..she's "rebeling"..Theres really..nothing you can do..she'll eventually grow out of it..but its hell until she does...If she is doing drugs..keep an eye on her..One of the worst things you could do, is confront it UNLESS theres a serious problem. Its there isnt..your going to make her upset..she'll end up doing more drugs..and then will become a problem. The best thing to do, is just keep your eye on her until she gets serously out of control. If need be, tell your parents she needs help. Talk to her about it first though. Dont make her feel cornered...
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I agree with Isle, she would have to want to stop using drugs.  Sometimes people don't realize they are acting the way they do when they are an addict.  My mother used to take vicodin like candy for her back and was the meanest person in the world when taking them.  She didn't realize, so we tape recorded her and played it back for her to listen to, it was a wake up call for her.  If she's not vocally abusive to you, there's not much you can do because if you cut and pasted what she said, she would say you could alter it to make her look bad.  I was on narcotics but I wasn't mean, it just made me sleepy.
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almost EVERYONE has done drugs.\n\nDid she have a problem with abusing drugs?\n\nNothing major.\n\n\nBut she has done drugs.
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this may be the beginning of a serious condition...it sounds like she has traded one addictive behavior for another...she needs to get professional help now, before it gets out of hand.
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Well if you know such a woman,please report her to the authorities/This lady needs help.Before she causes catastrophic harm to one of her loved ones.Believs me this is a medical condition.She needs help,not derision or name calling Help her and you'll be helping the family
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She's so full of herself that she needs to get a life, plus she manipulative too.
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Very high.  Why?  Because this has very little to do with chemicals, it has everything to do with her coping skills.  It is one of psychology's biggest mysteries about how the brain function works.  When you become depressed for example, you begin to create a nerve dysfunction in the brain actually perpetuating the problem.  The symptons cause the probelm if that makes sense.  My point is that if she has never had coping skills, her thinking is always irrational and will cause the problems in her brain.  That's why without learning how to "cope" she's not gonna be healthy.  Her biggest issue is that without someone, she will die.  A lot of peole fear this.  It's usually caused by neglect and/or abandonment as a child.  And as an adult, they can not comprehend that they will not die without someone there.  They revert to that 5 year old thinking.
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This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.
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She's NOT thinking--that's the problem.  People who cut themselves have serious psychological issues and need professional help.\n\nGo right now and tell her parents.  Tell them that she's doing it and that she told you she does it on purpose.  Then tell YOUR parents.  \n\nI know she's your friend and you want to help her but this problem is bigger than you are and bigger than your friendship.  Best Wishes and Good Luck.