Im broke till 2marrow and our anniversary is today.  I love my girlfriend but she is upset at me for supposely not being with her yesterday when she was sick.  her troat hurted and I had to attend to my sisters problem at her house which my girlfriend just took it as if I didn't want to spend time with her.  Look she has a 4yr old son and he called me 2 times saying why i didn't take with me she told me that he was thinking i wasn't going to come back.  It was late at night and got home about 11:05 @ night.  My sisters problem was that her daughter ran away and she called the cops.  My family is really important to me and that's probably why my girlfriend is upset.  Don't know what to do?
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Yes. You need to communicate better with the son, and your girlfriend. If you tell someone you are going to be somewhere, but something comes up, call and say so. Perhaps the 2 of you weren't on the same page. You thought she'd be ok, and she thought you'd be with her. Nobody's wrong, you just didn't see the situatuion the same way. That's called life. Right now, or as soon as possible, go over to their house. Sit the mom and son down. tell them that you know they are feeling slighted, but they need to know that wasn't at all your intention. You were overwhelmed with responsibility at the time, and you should ALL do a better job expressing expectations. A SIMPLE CALL FROM EITHER ONE OF YOU TO PUT YOURSELVES "ON THE SAME PAGE". Even if you disagree, at least the other person will know where you stand and know that there was no bad intention. the son actually sounds like a pretty good communicator for his age!!! Tell them that you love them and you feel terrible that they were upset.Often, when we take the responsibility, it opens up the other person's eyes to the fact that this was not something that you should turn into a bad situation, and we are all human.\nBy theway, the $ issue. tell her exactly what you told us. tell her you'd love to lavish her like the queen she is to you, and give her lots of attention.
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i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
40668
us woman get upset over the littlest things...you gotta try to talk to her..just say hey i need to know why your upset..if she won't talk to you try writing her a note..put it in her locker or hand it to her..you've got a right for a explanation....could be blowing you off cause she wants to break up whatever the reason she owes you a answer..try talking or the note thing..hope it works out
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So sorry for what you are going through... She should have remembered her vows and stood strong for you while you are away.  If someone vows to love, honor, and cherish you until death and they try to find someone else while you're away, you are better off without her.  I know it will hurt and in time you will hopefully heal and find a great woman. Good luck to you.
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Talk to your gf.\n\nIt sounds as though her mother can't cope with the fact that she's got a grown-up daughter.  \n\nExplain to your gf that it's hurting you when you're constantly being ignored because her mother still wants to control her life.  Tell your gf how much it's hurting your relationship.  Be honest with her, and ask her to think about doing something about it.
526774
Hunny why is she mad if you done somethin wrong well ask her what is wrong that you love her so much it hurts and that you would make it up to her if you could take her to dinner doing something she likes send her flowers something good luck.
656424
In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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Boy, that's a sad story if I ever heard one.  This is going to take work.  When your girlfriend is stuck home doing stuff, maybe you could help out.  That would be a good way to show your girlfriend and her mother how loving and dependable you are.  Also, if you help take good care of her siblings, it will show what a good father you could be.  You need to work with your girlfriend to help her practice being independent.  I'm not sure exactly how to do it, but you need to unbrainwash her.
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Ok you kinda screwed up but you have to let this go. She obviously cares for you and trusts you she is back with you. Don't take this wrong but maybe you should just talk to a professional about this. You need to let it go because it will eat at you and eventually becaome an obsatcle to you being together. Find someone you can trut to talk this out, forgive yourself and enjoy your time with your special lady! life is too short my friend to do anything else!
535003
I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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I would say it depends on where you live.  The law in some places tries to keep families together.  I mean just because they fought today does not mean that by tonight they would have come back together.  It is a hard call A good Lawyer would be helpful.  Unfortunately the law is not working for the benefits of the women keeping your daughter safe is I am sure your top priority.So I would get her some councelling because this type of abuse has a way of sticking with the person for yrs.Post tramatic stress syndrome.  Keep her away from him Chances are he will be sorry but once they realize the law is a joke they are not really worried about doing it again.Change her # move her somewhere else and pls let her know that she must do this to be safe he will do it again and can no longer be trusted dont even try run
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Hi, \nI'm sorry to hear that your daughter is not thinking of you & just doing what her boyfriend wants. This really sounds like my daughters boyfriend. I would not cater to him or her. Just be polite & don't try to please him. I'm sure that you told her how you feel. If not then I would do that before the holidays. No matter how he is she is the one going along with spending the holidays with him & his family. So, even though he seems like a jerk, she is being insensitive to you & your husband. Tell her how you feel & if she still keeps doing that then don't invite her. Make you own plans without her. On top of this don't let him come into your home & show any disrespect either. I hope that this can help in some way. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving & holidays with or without her attending.
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Will you dump her already? Move on..she doesn't care about you and lol you think by saying no to her she's going to listen? You're not her father so let her live her life, if you control her, she's going to hate you if she ends up regreting. She knows there is are better things to see and do then to go home to be with you, it hurts but find another girlfriend...don't waste your years waiting!
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i think it is going to be really hard for you but you should just try to sit your daughter down explain to her the things of life what you are&#92;were going through.tell her its not the person but the heart.tell her ,her father was not a bad person but the things that were suppose to be between you and him were just not happening and you have now found it in this person. tell her to try to see your lady as a person you love and that loves you and not a female.
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Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
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Your just a greedy bastard i'm surprised her family allowed you to marry her poor girl,best thing you can do is let her go home to her parents,how old is she anyway? Get a life and give this girl back hers
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Girl, that's a rough situation. Its all good to help for a little while, but her ex seems to getting a little bit to dependent on your girlfriend. The bottom line is that her ex needs to grow up and be a women, it doesn't take that long to get get your stuff together. Tell your girlfriend to give her a couple of pointers and move on. Keep your head up!