I can, and have, gone through hell and back with my children.....why, because I love them... When I am in a relationship with a man, I will endure and go through alot....How come, though, when I have a friendship with a female and there is some conflict, I ended the friendship ABRUPTLY??? I don't get too emotionally attached. Anybody relate?
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I can relate to low levels of emotional attachment, but sounds to me that there are some inner issues that have nothing to do with just other women.  Maybe you don’t trust too well, or are a private person.  Some people need friends that understand when they need to be alone.. You should consider that being away from a plutonic friend for a while doesn’t mean the friendship has to end.  Spend less time, not no time.
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Having been on both sides of the "ex" fence, I can say with assurance that some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with can be with someone after her, and some females simply cannot grasp that the man they are with was with someone before her. (Men do it too, it isn't a gender issue, it is a maturity issue.)I was married to a man who currently has a show on A&E! I have to listen to his "woman" tell lies and take credit for my children, and guess what....I hate it. On the other side, I have an ex-boyfriend whose current whateversheis  feels duty-bound to berate me for my conduct in situations that she was not privy to. All I can say for sure is that ultimately, YOU are responsible for YOUR conduct, and while losing your patience is understandable, it is probably better to always take the high road. Additionally, as an often attacked, but never bested ex, I can say without exception that a soft answer always turns away wrath, and ignoring small children(or adults acting like two-year olds) tends to put a stop to immature behavior. (On the practical side, a good log to document another's constant bad behavior goes a long way in court and should always be used.)
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It is possible but it might be harder because when you have a child, everything changes, your lifestyles and your thoughts about everything. Therefore, you might act different towards your friends. That's life. No relationship can remain the same forever. You can be friends forever, but you will feel different about each other. Personality changes as you get older, whether you are an adult or a child. If you want to remain friendship and is scared of losing your friends after you have a baby, try to invite you friends over to visit and keep the chains of communication open towards each other like before. You might not have too much time to go out with them like before, but all of you can still keep the good friendship.
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Exactly I am in the same situation, I feel as long as we restrict our relation to platonic, then there is no problem...Its like having some one more than a friend, Its a special relation...THERE IS NO WRONG IN IT... Go ahead....
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In high school and when I was single, I had more guy friends.  My best friends were women though.  I think I had more guy friends because I liked the attention and flattery without having to be committed in a relationship.  \n\nNow that I'm married, I have more girl friends...I get all the attention and flattery from my husband!  I can relate to women more...especially women who are married and/or with kids.\n\nMy husband doesn't have girl friends and I don't have guy friends...unless they're mutual friends of ours.  It relieves us both of making the other feel uncomfortable.
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have you ever heard the saying, "when enough is enough"? or how about the saying, "your issues feed off the energy that you give to the people causing the problem"....I also experienced the same thing. When i found out that my ex husband was going to marry the woman that he cheated on me with, it nearly drove me crazy. Then one day I woke up and said - I DONT CARE ANYMORE - he was not that important and i refused to give him my energy or waste time thinking about how crazy things had gotten.  On a good note - 3 years after they married, he called to apologize, saying he realized that he made a mistake and I was the best thing that ever happened to his life.  God will get your husband in the end!
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None of the above ... I'm in the twilight zone of not divorced , not married seperateness that does not go away... cause when neither cares to remarry and yet you are still friends , why divorce?
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My ex-husband and I have a daughter together and we have a great FRIEND relationship. When you have children you are commited to that child by a bond and the love you ONCE had. You will always have a realationship with that person if you love your children enough to look past the bad and work together for the better cause. I wouldnt worry unless he is having sleep overs!
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Funny you asked this question.  This is a constant issue with me.  I have male friends that my boyfriend is a little jelous of but trust me, they could never replace him.  My bf has female friends that I'm not threatened by anymore, but there was a time.  As far as my boyfriend and I, I say that opposite sex friends are perfectly alright as long as the couple knows where to draw the line and the "friends" and couple know not to cross it.
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I had a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years in which the guy I was seeing (and was supposed to marry) had a four year old son when I began dating him. The mother had abandoned them both a year earlier. I raised the child as my son - he even called me Mommy. His father worked two jobs for a while, so during that time, I was actually more like a single parent to his son - I did all the baths, all the homework, all the cooking, all the quality time, all the bedtime stories and all the discipline. I loved that child like he was my own, and I still love him. \n\nThe relationship went south, and I stayed because of the child for a long time. The mother eventually got custody of him (MESSED UP!), and took him halfway across the country. I didn't have a problem with him seeing his mother and knowing his mother, in fact, I WANTED him to see and know her, but I also felt that he was my son in my heart. When we had to tell him that the judge said that he had to go and live with his mother, he said, "But your my mommy, too, so that means I can still live with you!" Heartbreaking.\n\nI couldn't see him anymore, I couldn't protect him anymore, I couldn't be there for him anymore, because I had no right to legally. That was the absolute worst thing I've ever had to go through as a result of a relationship - and the relationship itself was pretty darn bad. \n\nAs a result, I won't get involved with a man that already has kids anymore. I am too scared to love a child if all the rights I have to that child are in someone else's hands. That may be irrational, but it's too much of a risk for me. Been there, done that.
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I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
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I have had the same three best friends since I was four and now I am 26. They are all very awesome but we have gone through the all the stuff you can imagine would mess up a friendship. Dating the same people (one even married an ex of mine), working together, living together, not paying back money, and having other friends, all kinds of stuff. But the good stuff way out ways the bad and if they are true friends you get through it and get over it. My friends are always there for me and I would be lost with out them.
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Personally speaking, I think the best relationship you can be proud of is between a guy and gurl who were friends. What's friendship, if I may ask? It's getting acquainted with someone for a period of time to the extent that you think, speak, behave or act almost in the same way. I want you to check around and compare relationships built on friendship and those built on infatuation. The outcome is very obvious. Cheers.
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If they have no children together then there is no reason for a "friendship" if it bothers you your feelings should mean more to hI'm. I have to deal with an ex because even though im my husband first wife he had children with a woman previous to our marriage they are friends i think its strange but its good for the kids however when we got together they stoped hanging out unless it was at a school function. I have made it very clear to her I come first
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You never really mend it ... you just move on and dare to be vulnerable with someone new. I could list seven names of people I feel have a piece of my heart, but number eight, my partner, has access to the overwhelming majority of it.
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Why not??Who else has grown to know your likes and dislikes, pros and cons, ideals and hobbies, interests and virtually everything about you?? Is that not what you need in a relationship?To me, good friends are perfect matches in relationships.Generally speaking..
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I agree with you that in most relationships, it really bonds two people. There are a few exceptions but they are very rare.\nEach time I have sexy with my hubby, I feel closer than ever before!