I've been having alot of problems latley. I'm studying at the moment, but I have depression, and its making it really hard, I dont want to go on anymore and im sick of being bugged by people to go. I cant go, not because im lazy and dont do the work, but because its hard enough to get out of bed and face everyone there, when all i am going to do is fail. I have been thinking about leaving school and getting a job (I will be able to handle a job because its different to school for me, I have worked before) and then go back to school once i am mentally ready. What do you think I should do?
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Go to the library and read, "How Should We Then Live?" by Schaeffer. Or if you're lucky you can find the DVD online. Be objective to healthy depression. Being human is understanding that one is human, and humans emote. All we have in life is relationships, good & bad. Just be in correct relationship with which ever one you're in. Then you will know where to go and what to do. Other-centered is the key to true freedom. It's just hard because we prefer self-centered. I hope you find the answer.
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It's not the job.  You are lonely and depressed, and that makes the job hard to take.  Try to take a look at your daily routine and general way of living and see what you can do to get the cobwebs out and spruce it up.  Easy to say, sure.  But make the effort.  Get some regular exercise, eat right, find an interest outside the job....\n\nA job's a job, and sometimes it is work just to endure it.  But what will quitting it do?  Make you poorer and add nothing to your life.
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I really feel for you.\nI recently gave up my teaching job.it was a very hard decision but for me the only choice left.-\nCould you ask to be given a part-time timetable?Even temporarily?\nCould you discuss these feelings with your line-manager?\nI dont know anyone who hasnt felt this way as a teacher at some time.\nIt sounds almost as though you are feeling depressed and also trapped.\nYou are not !\nYou have a job and a home and it sounds like you are very committed to it, if you didnt care you wouldnt feel this way.\nIt sounds like you need love and belonging-going back to maslows hierarchy;-)\nThe worst aspect in teaching is the responsibility to your colleagues and also pupils.You cant just drop people in it.\nBUT eventually you realise that you have no quality of life and that is when to make changes.\nYou can meet  a partner on-line if you are careful.\nyou may only have a couple of hours a week to spare but join a club ,choir anything or go to the pub and join the darts or quiz team.church group?love is where you least expect it.\nYou need to look after you ,have some fun,ask someone at work for dinner?or a film ?a female colleague who will hopefully invite you into her social circle.\nIts worth sticking with what you have but realise that you have chosen to do it You can give it up if you want to.give yourself the opportunity to dream about what life would be like if you left your job. Maybe give it til july? and re-assess then.\nAlso a career change to business could be fantastic for you.\nI know someone with no degree who earns £100 thousand plus.\nLots of lunches,dinners ,hotels in fantastic places and huge bonuses.mmm, why did we bother ?\n Leave your job if its making you ill- it was with me ,I couldnt sleep for stress,having no child care and a husband who works and lives in the middle east.I couldnt get home for my 8 yr old who was dropped off by the school bus and it worried me sick.\nNothing is worth that.\nYou have lots going for you and sound like you will make someone a lovely partner.\nGood luck with whatever you decide .teaching is desperate at times.\nI understand.\nGadriel
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I love my job, but at the same time if I could choose between working or just going to school and concentrating on my education, believe me I would pick being a kid again.  You should appreciate the fact that you dont have to work right now, because the day will come where you wont have a choice.  But if you really insist on doing something, why dont you try volunteer work, or maybe some sports activities, or maybe a library job.\nTry something you can do at your leisure with no worries and no stress.
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As a homeschool graduate myself, I know you all are going through a lot.  It's hard to keep things together, especially if you are living on one income, like my family did.  I just want to encourage you to keep up the fight- for whatever reason you are homeschooling.  I wouldn't trade my homeschooled years for anything.  As far as homeschooling and working a full-time job, please, do whatever you can as far as putting your family on a budget, cutting back on superfluous spending and so forth, before you go out and get another job.  Part of the beauty of homeschooling is being able to spend those critical years with your children- and if you're working full-time, it's very difficult to do everything that needs to be done, let alone find time for any extracurricular activity.  The last thing you want is for you family to struggle because you don't have enough time for each other (hubby included). Let your younger children started doing chores around the house.  Your older children can help out there, too.  My mom worked cleaning houses and apartment complexes while my siblings and I were growing up, and we helped her do and earned a little money of our own on the side.  All of us worked at some sort of job outside the home by the time we were 14 years of age- some people may think that was awful that we had to do that, but some of the best lessons I ever learned, I learned on the job.  It's also a great way to teach good work ethics, honesty, reliability, dedication, etc, by EXAMPLE.  It's a better teacher than any lecture.  Best wishes to you as you continue your journey. :)
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Hello There....Breathe, and Take a Deep Breath...Again!\n\n1.  You took a break from society, and that's good.   Hey, we all need a break sometime in life...some just get one sooner than others.\n2.  Now you think you may want to get back to society.  Good.\n\n3. Now don't think this is not real, it is.  I want you to practice something.  Everytime you pass a mirror, in the bathroom or wherever, smile....laugh at the mirror...you will start to feel differently.....as you do this remember...GOD looks down at us and laughs.  There is nothing you could tell GOD that GOD has not heard before now.  So tell GOD what you want!\n\n4.  Keep Smiling...even at your family...just a little smile to start, and so start getting out of your room and do this when you start to feel comfortable about smiling....it's contagious.\n\n5.  Now, you may start back to school, and I suggest night school.\n\n6.  The momentum of school gets you out the door, into competition with your peers, and gets you going to try more courses...regardless of your choice of study.\n\n7.  When you feel ready, take 2 courses....but not until you feel ready.\n\n8.  Make sure you try to .....and this is important....go and have at least one meal with your family a week....yes that's right...even if you have to eat standing up....at the kitchen counter.....just being there...will make  a big difference.\n\n9.  I believe in love.  I believe your family loves you and wants you back...but they don't want someone who does not want them.  Perhaps you need to put yourself in their shoes.  What if they were doing what you're doing.....dropping out for a while, would that mean that you didn't love them?   Of course, not.  You would allow them their space.\n\n10.  Because I believe in love, I would like you to start...yes start to love the most important person in the world.  That person is YOU!....start small by smiling at yourself...everytime you see yourself in that mirror!  Ok, then now is the hard part.\n\n11.  I want you to make a list of everything you want in the world.\n\n12.  I want you to make a second list of everything you do not want or do not like in the world.\n\n13.  As you accomplish the things that are on the list of what you want, cross them off.  They will give you a feeling of momentum and accomplishment....which leads to you gaving back control of your life.\n\n14.  Ok so, as I can sum up things (I am a CPA) you had a bad day, and maybe the days added up to more than a few bad days.  So what.....Do you really think GOD cares that you had a bad day?  No, GOD does not care that you went through bad times but that you are still here and GOD still sends you love every single day...and I'll bet GOD waits all day to hear from you...but you don't ask...So start to put GOD on the line.  Ask GOD to open doors to show you what to do....Ask GOD to send people to you.....good people...and ask GOD to remove toxic people and toxic circumstances from your life.\n\n15.  Now take another deep breath....This is not easy.....and if you need more help, find a guidance counselor at the school of your choice, or a minister, priest or a doctor who you can trust and ask them questions...yes anything that's on your mind.\n\n16.  If you don't have anyone to talk to, write down the things that are bugging you....and when you are done with that piece of paper, tear it up into a dozen pieces and throw it away....and feel better that you always have a place to put the bad stuff...to get it out safely.\n\n17.  You are worth it!\n\n18.  All you need to do is try again........today I met 25 teenagers in New Jersey that want desperately to be adopted....one was 16 and he lived in 19 different homes, and talked about how he had to control his anger because at times he was beaten.....all these kids need a role model, and want a home...a soft place to fall.\n\n19.  So no matter how bad you have it, did you live in 19 different homes by 16 years old...No
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Sounds like intellectually home school would be great for you because you seem driven. But please allow me to relate to you, I am not here to disagree with you but to offer you my own personal experience with you.I am not against homeschool,but I have very similar personality traits as you and it was not the best for me.I was in public school until 9th grade and my mom pulled me out half way through.Of course at the time I was thrilled because I was overwhelmed with social anxiety.Although fairly popular I disagreed with most of what went on with my teenage peers,like parties,drinking,drugs,and promiscuis(spell check)sex.But as time went on I became very detatched from society and found hard to relate with others and the outside world.Which later led to depression which caused me to gain alot of weight which caused me to be even more anti-social.Don't be so quick to say that you can't be helped because when i realized what my problem was I made myself get out and find a job dealing with the public.And I would ask questions and start conversations with strangers until I felt more comfortable with people.I then became more sure of myself and the depression left and I lost the weight.The point is that you shouldn't be so close minded. I know by the words that you use you are very smart so use that to the positive and don't be so pessimistic and closed minded. I regret that I spent so much time being an adult and looking down on my peers instead of setting an example for them amongst them.Now that I am 23 years old with many responsibilities, I wish I had gone to prom or homecoming or dances or field trips instead of focusing solely on academics.
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First I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss of a family member.  Yes, you sound like you are depressed to me.  If you researched the symptoms, you would see yourself.  I've been depressed many times myself, and I can tell you it is no fun.  You get no pleasure out of doing anything, and all you want to do is sleep.  What you got to do is get up and do something for yourself, but before you do that, I want you to think REAL HARD about what I'm going to say.  No one controls your life but you.  What has happend, is in the past, and you live for tomorrow, not yesterday.  Everything that has happened is all water under the bridge, you can't do anything about it, and you need to stop dwelling on the past.  There is no one that can do a single thing about your situation except you.  You can either lay there, and drown in self pitty, or you can get up, and move on with your life.  No its not easy, but remember YOU are in charge of your life, and if you don't point it in a positive direction, then who will?  Sure you have a reason to be depressed, but how many days will you let the sun rise and set on another day without fun in your life?  You may have to make yourself get up and do something, but this you have to do, or loose your mind.  You may have a lot to be depressed about, but you have more to not be depressed about.  A person thats depressed cannot concentrate on school work, and you probably aren't getting anywhere.  You KNOW what the problems are, and you KNOW what you have to do to make them go away.  Get up, and get it done.  Put some fun back into your life.  Keep yourself busy to occupy your mind, and if you have to; please seek medical advice from someone, a doctor, a pastor, or just a friend that you can talk to, but do this before you end up at the bottom of a pit that you can't crawl out of.  Get off your @ss and do it, and do it now!  Don't tell yourself that you will do this tomorrow, because you know good and well that won't happen.  I hope this helps you some way.  Good Luck!!!
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I think you need to deal with the reasons for wanting a day off school.  It doesn't really bode well for your future if you fake being ill to take a day off school.  You have holidays its not like you're there 365 days a year is it?  Some people really value their education and will go to school despite being ill so there is no reason to 'need' a day of unless you are genuinely ill or something really bad has happened.
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Dear, I, too, am in the same situation; but sometimes we have to make sacrifices to do what we have to do!  If you can't afford to quit your job, what other alternative do you have as far as living arrangements?  What ever you do don't quit school.  You are going to school for a reason.  I do believe that it is so that you won't have to work at "sucky jobs" for too much longer.  Just think "NO PAIN, NO GAIN"!!  This way you will enjoy your success even more.  You are a Survivor!!!!
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Going back to school is always a wise choice.  It is far easier to get the experience when you have a good education.  You admit you are in a dead end job so going back to school would definitely be a step up and a step in the right direction.  Good luck!
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if your grades are truly bad, and there has been a change in your attitude towards schooling, i say start fresh.\n\nThe difference is inside of you, not at the school....if you have changed, go ahead and start fresh
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To do anything in life, you need to be pushed. Period.\nThink about it. \n\nWhat makes you want to eat?\nA. Your hungry.\n\nWhat makes you want to brush your teeth?\nA. You don't want your breath to stink, makes them feel cleaner, your parents tell you to do it, etc.\n\nWhat makes you workout?\nA. You want to be healthy, and you want to look very good for people.\n\nSo the question is.\n\nWhat makes you do good in school?\nA. The answer is, you need something to push you, whether that be from a person, push in the form of motivation, or otherwise.\n\nSo, I suggest you take the time to think about what will happen if you fail.\n\nAllow me to help motivate you.\n\nI almost failed school. Do you have any idea what woulda happened if I did? MY WHOLE FAMILY WOULD BE DISSAPOINTED. There would be no graduation, which I'm betting alot of your family is looking forward to. If you don't pass, you are stuck in stupid school for ANOTHER WHOLE YEAR, SAME OLD STUPID KIDS, STUPID TEACHERS, STUPID SUBJECTS AND POINTLESS HOMEWORK, trust me, I've been there. DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO TO PASS. It will hurt, yes, doing all that pointless studying, I know. But what happens if you don't graduate? What if that happens? Imagine that. I did. You know what conclusion I came to. I have to graduate. I cannot fail. I CANNOT LET THAT HAPPEN!!!!
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I suffered from severe depression in high school and I sincerely don't think I would've made it through without the support of my friends and a couple of adults that I trusted.  If you trust this teacher and want to speak to her about what's going on with you, please do it.  I know it's scary, but ask her if you guys can talk after school or something, and if it would help you, ask your friend to be there with you too.\nThere are also many helplines you can call that are totally confidential and free.  I'm listing a website below and they have an 800 number as well.  Good luck to you and please remember that you don't have to deal with this alone.
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School is tough at times - no doubt!  It's good that you are stressed... it means you care!  Of course feeling stressed isn't much fun, though!  Sorry to hear you're having a tough time.\n\nFirst, because you care, you can pull through this!  I've been in your shoes before... I'm now on the other end of a college degree and lovin' it.  I wasn't a scholar by any means, but asked for help and ended up on the Dean's list my last five semesters.... believe me, if I can do it, so can you!    \n\nNot knowing you or how you approach things, it's hard to address specifics... rather than making assumptions, I'll cover a range of things in case any of them pertain to you... with that being said, whatever you're doing right now isn't working, so obviously you need to find a different way of studying, etc.  Here are some general tips... feel free to take 'em or leave 'em.\n\nAre you giving 100%?  If so, unfortunately our best isn't always good enough to get the results we want... but at the end of the day, when you look youtrself in the mirror... there's something about knowing you did your best.  If you continue to try your best, you will sort it out.  Of course if you're not trying 100%, then that's where you start... commit to do it!\n\nI would first start by going to your professors or teachers... go over past tests, papers, etc. and see where you didn't do well.  Ask for advice on how to study for his/her class... and find out if he/she knows of any study groups or other students from whom you could receive some additional help/tutoring.  If the class is small enough, they may be able to offer up other observations/suggestions as well.  Also, let them know how you feel and that you want to improve... they are human and all "signed on" to do this as a profession... they are there to help!\n\nThen... examine how you study... and where you study... find a place that is conduscive to studying... if you're near a TV or singing to a song on the radio... or near others where you are being distracted, it's time to find a new place to study.  Also, are you a morning person?  Know yourself... what time(s) of the day are you most alert, etc?  Try to study during those times... your mind associates certain places with certain activities... bedroom = sleep, kitchen = eating, etc.  I found going to the library and getting away form everyting was the best thing for me... and once I got into the routine, I noticed my grades improved... I knew once I stepped into the library, it was study time.  Establishing good sleep and other habits helps as well.  \n\nGo to class every day... skipping is a easy habit to get into - I've been there & it'll do ya in!  If ya don't skip, don't start!\n\nDo you cram for tests?  If so, it doesn't work... not usually anyway.  Procrastination will kick ya in the pants too... and can burn ya!  I had a coach that once said, "fail to prepare, prepare to fail."  Same holds true for school.  If in college, there should be some free academic assistance or tutoring centers that have staff that can address this stuff... same goes for proof reading papers before you hand then in... in in High school, there should be someone who can help you find these resources. Remember, no one makes it alone!  I'm assuming if you can ask for help on Yahoo, that you'd be willing to ask for help at school.  Smart people know when to ask for help!      \n\nRemember, balance is key!  Your future (in a career sense & lifestyle) depends on school... take care of business first... work hard when you have to, then play hard when ya can... finding the balance is key, because you do need both.\n\nSometimes easier said than done, but tell friends that you're struggling... let then know what you need or don't need from them... if friends undersatnd, that helps!\n\nStudy tip... take notes... first, make sure you're t
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Is it bad policy to answer a question with a question?  What feels right to you?  If you are feeling burned out from high school, then I would say take the break.  Try to find a job somewhere perhaps where you can be as involved in your field as possible (if possible!).  \n\nOtherwise, go straight to college, do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars.  Statistics strongly suggest that delaying your plans to college decreases (exponentially) the chances that you will go to college.  Ever.  There will be a million reasons why you'll delay "just another year", until the time is right.  \n\nAfter applying to colleges, I was convinced I wouldn't attend anywhere for at least a year.  I thought I would be better served in taking the time to "mature" and relax.  At the last second (well, about two weeks prior to the start of the college year) I made a sudden change and attended the college I was most interested in.  \n\nIt was, without a single doubt, the best decision I could have ever made.  I have a four-year degree in Psychology, and work now as a Human Resources Director for a company - a position I never would've had without the degree.  In looking back, I wonder if I had waited that year, as you are thinking about, would I have ever actually gone to college?  I guess in my heart I knew the answer before I asked the question . . . what is YOUR heart saying?\n\nHey good luck with this decision and with your career!
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Do some scholarship searching and get into college.  You'll find that its really a deja vu of high school, except without curfew and parental monitoring.  Its really cool and you will probably be happy there if you miss being a schoolkid.  College kids are just overgrown schoolkids.  As for what to major in, I can't tell you that - you'll have to figure out for yourself what you like to do and find the point where what you like intersects what you are GOOD at.    That will ensure that you can actually pass the courses in your major and get a good paying job after college.  (I changed majors a couple of times in college, trying to find the right thing for me.  So did a lot of people I know.  It seems to have turned out okay for everyone, so go ahead and experiment.)  Talk to a counselor to help with the depression if you can find one.  And keeping in touch with your high school friends will probably help you feel better as well.