His daughter is about to go live with her mom after June/July
215706
Girl, you are an adult. If you love the man and you handle the age difference and his daughter, go ahead.
426997
Yes, it's about time! Last time I paid attention, he was always leaving her to chill with his boys for the night and she seemed to be constantly having to take a vacation to her mama's house to relax. He's not father material, either. I didn't know they were divorcing, but it's good news to me.
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Because she is 18 and graduating,I'll bet when you restrict or pressure her,she will end up moving out and either shacking or marrying the 26 year old year old with children or want to.She is not old enough to make it comfortably on her own so she would most likely live with someone else.She will then have herself a ready made family that may or may not work out. You are doing her no favor paying "her"cell phone bill.When I was that age I had strict parents.Every child in our house had chores.We were never charged rent,but was expected to do chores to help out,it was not fair to our parents for them to do all the work when they feed us and gave us a home for as long as we wanted.If you did not follow their curfew and respect their home,then you had to move out. We worked a summer job and when we graduated were expected to work a full time job.If I made any kind of bill,I paid it,they did not.That is not being cruel,that's making me responsible.You are the step parent,so if I were you,I would leave it up to her father(her blood parent)to talk to her.If you try to,she may look at you and say "I don't have to listen to you,you are not my mother".So,for your feelings,let the father have a one on one talk with his daughter.Tell him to explain to her what he seeing her getting into and how it is going to be in reality such as:In the relationship with the 26 year old she will be a mother(step-mom)to another women's children,depending on how active the 26 year old man is, may end  up baby sitting while he's out doing whatever,may end up pregnant by this man and have even another child.Sit her down,don't be mad,just explain to her that yes this is her life and if "she" ends up with the 26 year old,her life is over as she know's it.It will be her burden to carry,not yours.Ask her to think about all the freedoms she has now and how she feels about losing all that at such an early age.You know how real life is and you only want the best for her.Now is the time to talk to her and get her to realize exactly what kind of life she is going to have if she ends up with this man.Don't be mad when you talk to her,just be very honest.Then do not cater to her irresponsibility.Let her pay her bills and live her life.Like my parent's told me,go out and make your bed hard if you want and you,not I will sleep in it.They said if you get into trouble,"you" will have to figure out how to get out of it.I thought my parents were mean,but I realized how much they loved me,some of their advice I didn't listen to,I wished I had.She is graduating and will be an adult somewhat.You have to let her make choices for herself.If she decides on a life of misery,there is not much you or your husband can do to stop her.Give her the best advice you can and stand by your word when you say she is on her own.She will find out really fast that life is not fair,things are exspensive,life is hard,that she had it so good and didn't know it and most of all she will quicklly learn she does not know everything and possibly that you were right.
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if your bf is in the military he will proble move many times over the next few years and some of them will be out of the country..does your daughter have a good realionship with her dad.. if so i dont think i would up root her at such a young age.. i know easy for me to say i am not in your shoes.. not back to your question you could consult a lawyer on this and he can give you a more reasonable course of action to take and if it will work and what your chances are .. you may also try to talk to your ex tell him you will give him all of the summer with her as well as any time she out of school for the long term hoildays, spring break, xmas, thankgiving, to make up for the time he will be missing
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First of all it is selfish grammer to say me and my, you say my boyfriend and I, don't talk about yourself first. Second if you don't know how to communicate with her, you do not come off as ready to leave the nest.  Why not have the boy get his own place and visit him there often but keep your home base.  Keep the best of two worlds, after all you have never lived with a man before, you have not lived on your own.  If I were you I would test this guy and see if he is man enough to stand on his own.  You should crave to have your own little place someday, a dorm room or even just a room for rent.  Your freedom time may be short and sweet but don't miss out on this interval between mom's place and your first and side step your independence.  You will look back one day and regret not taking time for yourself.  Enjoy being independent of him, enjoy being his guest, help him with his place but keep filling your own hope chest.  I am financially independent, I have so many houses I don't know what to do.  I could not marry without a prenup.  You have so much ahead, don't piss mom off at all.  Take it to heart.  She is your number one.  Ask her what you should do instead of being a little tyrant and telling her what your going to do.  Unless of course your of age that is, 18 and you don't have anything better to do with your life.  But now you can save money staying with mom.  Stay free.
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Sounds like a fabulous opportunity for your daughter. Go for it.
589791
a mother love for her child will make you act that way sometime,stay busy ,time will soon pass and he will be back home again until the next time he goes away.
171680
your daughter is of the age she should be asked where she wants to live.  Let her decide.
36920
the taller one is his mother
558062
Let him handle the kid and the "X" and don't take any crap from them. Why doesn't kid live with her mom?
217992
Take her home to meet your mom.
289065
If you contact them and let them know she is staying with you, they would probably send it to you for the months that she is staying with you. The SSI is for the care of the child, not her mother. The phone number (toll free) is 1-800-772-1213. I know this because I am a disabled individual who receives SSI and have a friend whose son receives SSI also. You will need her social security number when you call, but also if you are her step mom, they may not talk to you about her benefits due to it being the policy for the privacy act, but they would talk to your husband, who I am assuming to be her dad. But I know if she is going to be there all summer, you & he are entitled to her benefits to help buy what she needs for the duration she is there.
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He should take her on a small cruise  and have her parents watch the kids. or she can go to a nice fancy restaurant. then you just call it a day and have fun.
668198
she should go to jail for 15 and a half years.  that way when she gets out her daughter will be all grown up and she will not be further damaged by her emotionally immature, selfish, slutty mother.
624474
She needs to talk to a lawyer. Unless the court has said that she cannot see her daughter, then he has no right to hold her away from her mother. She can go and pick up the girl and take her to lunch and hang out with her away from the new husband, but she has every right to see her daughter! Go to a lawyer and fast! If she already has one, then have her call him/her. That is what they are getting paid for!
103045
Be EXTREMELY respectful to her father and mother.  And if you promise to have her home by a certain time, get her home by that time and not a minute later.
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Need to give more info on the question.  I will try to answer, if she is moving with children, I don't believe that she will have to get another court order, I think the present court order will stand up in that state.  To be for sure, you will have to seek legal counsel.