My 15 year old son has developed a major attitude lately.  One day happy the next hateful and moody.  Got a call from school saying his teacher kicked him out of class for being argumentative!  whats best way to handle this???  take computer, video games?  and kick his butt?
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First sit him down and talk to him and see what happenned at school.  The call said he was kicked out of class.  If its all true you do need to take his computer and video games away for awhile.  Let him know he needs to respect teachers whether he agrees with what they say or not.  Be firm with him.  All 15 year olds go thru a mouthy stage- I have one I KNOW!  good luck to u!  GROUND HIM GOOD!  let him know this is not acceptable
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lil bro, you need to talk to your parents and teachers about this.\nabuse is abuse, and it's their job to deal with it, and help you.\ndon't listen to those that say to reply with violence. I don't think they read your question very well.\none answerer was right on that some kids (grown-ups too) try to make others feel bad to avoid dealing with how they feel about themselves.  keep that in mind. I know it sounds easy for me to say it, but try to not let it bother you. try to feel sorry for them instead of yourself,  obviously they're the ones with the problem.\ntalk to your parents, talk to your teacher.\nJake,  I really hope this helps. don't get bummed out.\nyou can write me if you need to . take care. peace
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Great letter - I'd be surprised if other parents didn't write in about this class, as well. If they refuse to switch classes, then switch schools. Your son's teacher is not giving her classmates the attention and support they need, and because of her, the students are out of line, able to do whatever they please. It inhibits your son's education as well, and the work ethic he builds in these early years sets him up for life.
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Absolutely not.  Teachers are human beings and they make mistakes, too.  However, teachers, like anyone else in authority, do command respect.  In my humble opinion, his "being rude" as you refer to it was not justified under any circumstances.  When he reacted in that way, he destroyed any credibility that may have been built as a result of the powers-that-be finding out that he wasn't the one smoking.\n\nThere are established methods for dealing with injustices, whether in school, in the workplace, or in government.  This can be a positive learning experience for your son still.  Your son needs to be conscious of them and put them to use when necessary.
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I'm having a hard problem understanding why you did not know he was failing long ago. Was there no communications from the teacher? Did you ever see a report card? Your son may have been lying about his grades because he was embarrassed and ashamed. You may be thinking that your harsh punishment of him is because of lying, but he thinks it's because of the grades. For our children to succeed in school, they need our daily help and involvement. So I ask again, where have you been all this time that your son was failing? What are you doing now to help him succeed and rediscover his love of learning that obviously has been lost somewhere along the way? All your harsh punishment will teach him is that in the future he'll have to figure out how to lie better. I would suggest some family counseling, because I think you are off-track in how you are handling your son and it's only going to get worse when he hits puberty, any second now.
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I'm not judging you or son, but I think you should let the Head conduct an investigation first.  Are we seeing the bigger picture here?  Could there be more to it?  I.E Is your son doing his homework or struggling in any way?  Does your son have any other peoblems such as relationship, friends, bullying, acne, football showers?  Is your son frustrated with the teacher.  Just gain as much information as possible first.  Is your son definitely 100% giving you the full story.  I hope everything ok would love to know the outcome of this one.
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I know exactly what I would do.  I would find out when the next school board meeting was first.  Then I would get me a good lawyer and go to that school board meeting.  When it is time for discussion from the floor, I would tell the Superintendent and the School Board exactly what has been going on and exactly what the principal and the teacher has said to you.  I would then tell them that they are allowing your child to be bullied and he is in an unsafe environment and that your lawyer is prepared to file a lawsuit (he will tell you what to say here) and that you are not going to allow your child to be treated this way because a cops child is the one doing the bullying.  I would also consider telling the cop and his spouse that you will be filing a suit against them as well. \n\nI really don't want you to go through with this unless they don't do anything to make the situation better.  Sometimes the threat of something like this is just what they need.  Imagine all the bad press they would get for allowing bullying to go on in their school system.....  I would push for the principal and the teacher to be disciplined also.  \n\nWe had an almost similar situation where the principal told the teachers not to tell anyone that there was a meningitis outbreak at the school.  Needless to say that principal retired after that.  My son was also getting his lunch money stolen everyday.  I tried for about 2 months to get him to stand up for himself but that is just not the kind of kid he his.  Finally, I wrote a letter to the teacher and told her what was going on and I also called the pricipal and told her.  The children (2) were caught red handed.  They were told they would have to repay the money.  The same day the money was repaid, one of the kids stole the money back.  I got a letter from one of the childrens mother saying that her son told them that mine was "giving" his money to him.  I know different because my son was extremely upset over the whole thing.  I didn't get mad over the money, I just wanted him to not be tortured anymore.  Just like you.  I would pay to just threaten them with a lawyer.  I'm sure you can find one that would do this for a very reasonable price.  Shop around.  I hope you can get this taken care of.  No one will take up for our children but us.  I wish you all the best.
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By the way, 25 years old is very young! Now, about your teacher...if she used to be your favorite, then you must have had a good relationship before this.  She will probably appreciate it if you stay after class and talk to her. Tell her that you get the feeling she is angry at you and, if so, you'd like to know how you could do better in her class. Sometimes teachers are misunderstood. I am a teacher myself.  When I was in my twenties, I remember catching a student telling another student that she was sure I hated her.  I was very surprised and had to reflect on why my student thought that way. (However, if your teacher really is angry at you, she should still appreciate that you are brave enough to find out out why. Be really cool and positive. If she really likes teaching, she will learn from you.)
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Tell him to talk with a councilor or teacher at school. Just be there and try to be a good friend without getting caught up in the drama. Your Friend will grow up to be a stronger person with all of this. Good luck to you both.
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
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If your parents beat you, and its not just a little punishment kind of thing, you need to talk to a counselor at school and get this taken care of. You shouldn't talk in class a lot. You are there to learn. You have many hours in the day to talk after school. I know talking is fun and great, but in school, you can't. Don't give your parents a reason to be mad.
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Talk to the teacher. Have some kind of meeting with her. Have Cody leave the room. Talk to the classroom tell them Cody did'nt choose to be born like this. And someday some of us will have children and what if one of our children came out disable. Ask the class that.Some will say I'll leave it at the hospital or give it away. Then you or the teacher tell them know one left you. They might say well nothing wrong with me. Then say if theres not then why would you make in front of a person who has no control of the way he was born.You had know control the color of your eyes your hair short tell or color of your skin Ask well you pick on a 2 or3 or4 or5 or6 year old child. Because thats what Cody like. If your teacher don't do nothing about this go to the princple do something. And who cares what these bullys are saying about you like him.
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Take your complaint to the school board.  better yet, the local tv station- they'd die to get a lead like this.  You may not want to air your dirty laundry in public, however, the bad publicity would get the school to react.  \n\nSeriously, with all the similar stories in the press lately, the school would definitely get involved to get your son back and the teacher prosecuted.
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Hang out with different people, ones who you want to be with. If they still bug you, just ignore them. They just want to push your buttons and get you to jump on them, getting you in trouble. I know it's hard ignoring people who constantly get in your face, but the alternative is to get in trouble by physically getting their face gone. If they won't leave you alone, after asking them nicely, maybe ask them why they're bugging you. Most times, you'll get some lame excuse, like because they like it, or because I want to. Those kinds of excuses tell you they're just trying to make you mad and get a reaction. After that, don't react to them, no matter how bad it gets. Try to always surround yourself with positive people, keeping your goals in focus. Don't lose your stride to a bunch of posers. Their own lives are miserable, so they want to bring you down past their level of mediocrity. Rise above it. Don't give in to their taunts. I had years of this kind of experience in grade school, the worst being in middle school. Something happens to some kids when they get in middle school. It's like they left their brains somewhere else and living the life of a moron. It will get better, in time. Though it seems hard right now, just keep your focus. <*)))><
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One things that I know about middle schoolers is that they are all in a funk.  Especially 7th graders.  They are just in a place in their lives that where they are trying to discover themselves and sometimes school falls by the wayside.  \n\nMy advice to you:  Pull him to the side and let him know that you have noticed that he is in a funk.  Let him know that we all have been there.  Don't put any pressure on him, but just let him know that you recognize that he has not been himself and that if needs someone to talk to you are there.  \n\nI have found that kids sometimes just want you to notice them.  It will make him feel much better when he knows that you have noticed his behavior and that he has you an advocate.\n\nGood Luck!
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You should report this person and make sure they're expelled...make a stand and show that you're not afraid...but try not to get into a fight if you can help it
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Don't reason with a student when they are angry. Give them two choices and set out the consequences of those choices.\n\nWhen they have calmed down you may be able to discuss the issues raised with them further or find out what caused the outburst.