i'm feeling in a school of thought matrix and need the behavioral/social factors that influence personality development
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that question doesn't make any sense...  please rephrase
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You sound fine. It is normal to adapt your behaviour slightly depending on the situation you are in. For example, would you act the same way in a job interview as you would chilling with friends? \n\nEverybody can change when they're with different people, it's only a bad thing if you're constantly lying to people or really actively pretending to be something you're not... \n\nYou shouldn't feel like you're putting on an act.
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Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time socializing.  I think you need to give some more information before anyone can fully answer your question.\n\nFirst, is your problem associated with your inability to "connect" (or understand) others?  Do you wonder if you're normal or what normal behavior is?  Or, are you highly intelligent and find others not smart enough to have a meaningful conversation?\n\nOr, is this an anxiety issue?  Do you worry about what others think of you?  Are you concerned that people will laugh at you or talk about you?\n\nIf this is a matter of having a tough time understanding other people, I wonder if you might have come from an alcoholic family?  I ask because sometimes children of alcoholics complain of these kinds of issues--they can't integrate, don't know how to behave normally, feel out of sorts.  If you did come from an alcoholic family, seek out a local ACOA or AA meeting for support.\n\nIf you feel anxiety seek out medical help.  Drugs like Paxil can reduce social anxiety.\n\nFinally, if you feel as if you're simply a misfit--seek out other misfits.  Do you have an odd hobby?  Find others with that hobby.  Chances are you'll see eye to eye.\n\nGood luck.
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I think this is an awesome idea. I'm not sure what kind of suggestions you're looking for, but it sounds like you've already got a great focus on coming at this from a youth perspective. Definitely try and get all the angles and show how people's thinking change once they are allowed to talk, grow, and learn about each other.
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well, just start right now by taking a few deep breaths.   Your brain tells your body how to feel.  Your brain is comprised of thoughts.  The thoughts that we have towards everything determines how the body should react.  If you're always in a state of anxiety, your body is constantly going to be in a contracted state and an uptight state hence the tightness.  That's your body getting into defense mode.  Change your thinking by saying to yourself "I can handle what life brings me, I'm going to be just fine.  I am smart, wise and resilient and I can change my thinking into a more proactive state rather than a negative, reactive state."   What is the source of your stress?  You seem young so it may just be loneliness.  Loneliness should not create stress.  It's not as difficult to overcome as you think it is.  Change your thoughts about that.  Know that people are ALOT more willing to accept you just as you are despite the fact that you think they're not.  They are.  All people from all walks of life deal with dissapointments, trials and tribulations.  A lot of people feel lonely, you'd be amazed at how many.  Everybody feels lonely at different times.  They may feel isolated at work, at home, in their relationships, with their children, their parents, etc..   You have to know and believe that loneliness is merely a state of mind, not an actuality.  So you are not unwanted, you have no proof of that, it's your state of mind and your thinking.  You can't concentrate because you're consumed with these thoughts that are unrealistic and irrational.  You may have felt that way as a child because your parents didn't realize what you needed as a child and since we can't speak for ourselves as children, we grow up with those same irrational thoughts.  You have to mature your thinking.  Do it every day, several times a day by talking to yourself and saying that this state of mind is not a fact or an actuality, it is simply your fears that you CAN overcome.  It takes work so work hard!! :)
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This looks ok:\n\nhttp://www.wadsworth.com/psychology_d/templates/student_resources/workshops/stats_wrk.html\n\nor else just keep google-ing psychology+statistics.\n\nGood luck :-)
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Very strange, I was discussing a girl with a friend earlier tonight. She is extremely shy and it's difficult for me to understand what she's thinking half of the time. I used to be introverted and then had a major incident and came out extroverted. I asked a psychologist if it was possible to change in that fashion. She replied "Yes, people may change with time. However it usually happens because of some life changing event". Good luck.
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know that everyone feels the same way that you do. We all have expectations of what others think of us. Realize that noone is perfect. It is nothighschool anymore, people have matured. Just have a good time, catch up with people.
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Well, you have already nailed it pretty well, and under the circumstances you are doing a whale of a lot better managing this that I ever would! You're further ahead of the game than you realize. You are also tired and need a breather. You need to schedule some down time for just you. You are the one that is important here. And self care is job one. Always. You have been ambushed, so when that happens you always step back and regroup. And the best way to self care your way through this one is to be by or hang around yourself a little more. Find your center once again. Centering. A wonderful concept. And correct, too, on every level. Diet, bubble baths, rest, fresh air, cleaning your bedroom, checking your wardrobe and getting free of old stuff you will never wear again - in other words, spend a little time reinventing yourself. You are already pretty strong because you have a good mind with which to sort out all this foolishness and get your bearings, but the unfortunate truth in life is that when we are tired, anyone can take a whack at us and it is like they could blow us over with a feather. You can feel that sensitive, and it is because you are smart, really. It is the downside of being smart. You can be too sensitive. So when you find your center once again you will also find more strength to call this what it is: abuse. Others here on Yahoo! Answers are giving you some fine answers about actions you can take, but I am focusing solely on you taking care of you. Self care. Make more time to pamper yourself and start feeling good about who you really are, because look at what you are doing here: you are  working on your degree. I mean, my God, all this other chaff is just fuel. Be very alert and see it for what it is - a prime distraction and begin - just begin, to look for a better place to bring yourself for work. That does not, fortunately, need to be put in place before the end of the week. If worse comes to worse, you can just walk away. A social worker once told me, "Chris, sometimes all you can do is walk away." I never forgot that one. Under most circumstances, I get the impression you are normally extremely self-reliant and independent of mind, so it is probably just because this whole mess has worn you down a bit that feeling it is a lilttle rough on you right now. I am sending you good energies and my heart goes out to you hoping you find the perspective to see the bigger picture and put you back into it in the dignified and self-respecting way you rightly deserve. Get your self-esteem back intact and believe in who you really are. And for God's sake, get some rest. None of us thinks well when we are exhausted. The other thing is emotionally draining, and only time will heal that one.  God Bless You, too.     - Chris.
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i can't do that. i don't know how i measure up or how others see me. sometimes i feel like i look like a billion dollars, other days i feel as i could pass as a hobo. sometimes i feel like the nicest person in the world and have great self confidence, other days i feel like a complete a**hole. so, i guess looks are a 1 and a 10. personality is a -1 and a 8. i feel like sh!t a lot so it comes out in my personality when its really my own bull i'm caught up in
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You have an anti social personality and are likely to develop into extremely violent tendencies. You should talk to a psychiatrist about this.
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First, make a list of all the things you have accomplished in the past, things that you feel good or proud about. (small things count too)\nReflect on those things first. This will make you feel good and you will not feel inferior but will discover your path is unique and it doesn't have to be like others. \nSecond, make a list of things you want to accomplish in the future. Also, write down why you want to accomplish them. This will help you do this for yourself and not just "to look good" or to seem that "you have been successful" in the eyes of others. Be SOMEONE in your own eyes and you will become SOMEONE in other peoples eyes.
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This happens when people are neglected. Find something you like to do and make friends who are positive. Sometimes, even having friends through the internet gives you something to look forward to, and it can help boost your confidence and self-esteem and not make you feel like you want to run away. And of course, make a personality of your own, so that your family can notice you and appreciate your inner beauty! :)
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I will guess the last part is the significant part of the question.  A bad relatioship is treated in the brain the same as trauma, but has an added component of self-doubt and feeling of inadequacy and self-loathing.  So, the major negative components emotionally are depression, which is an inhibition of various neuronal areas (it isnt particularly well understood).  Rest assured, if you are feeling emotionally devastated, it has a biochemical reason-just because thoughts and emotions are variable and somewhat controllable doesnt make them non-chemical.  For any depressing event, there are a few things that help to bring your brain chemistry back in order (or, in other words, make you feel better).  Social interaction is extremely important, as this is the primary way humans and other social animals deal with stress and loss- you dont even have to necessarily talk about the breakup or terrible things that happened, just being accepted and loved and interacting is important.  Get a lot of exercise-wear yourself out.  This is a very powerful treatment for depression and anger, and helps to calm your mind.  If you can, exert control on where your thoughts go-cognitive therapy doesnt have to be directed from outside.  When you start to notice your thoughts going in a bad direction, find ways to redirect it, to see the thing that is hurting you in a different light- This is the great therapautic angle of philosophy and religion...when you feel battered and abused, you may think that there is a higher reason you are being put through this, and it is a better way to think-or you may think of the horrors that others have lived through, so you can be objective about your own trials (without dismissing them).  You may realize the truism that we grow most, in intellect, wisdom, and strength, by being put through emotional pain, because it forces us to introspect, to come to grips with situations, and to learn ourselves...None of these things will cure you overnight, but they are all helpful and will speed your return to balance.  All of us have endured things, done things, that later we could not beleive, and later felt anger and guilt for-it is part of the human condition...not that it makes your own personal pain any less, but at least you most of us have been there.   I really hope this helps-good luck.
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Unfortunately for the profession, "studies have shown" that there is almost no correlation between the degree to which someone feels helped by the person they go see.....and the letters after their name.\n\n  At the same time, the nature and quality of what is called "The Theraputic Alliance" has been shown to make the most difference. Whether you feel safe and understood by the individual who you see.\n\n   And unfortunately that seems to be a personal quality, and simply not something they can teach in school.\n\n   I guess the point I want to make is that while those who have more schooling may indeed have more training, at the same time.....all the training in the world is not going to help if you don't feel safe or connected with the person you are putting your trust in.\n\n  When it comes to something as personal as you mental health, generally your best bet is to "interview" several therapists first, and go with the one who feels like the best fit for you.\n\n   Just my two cents,\n\n   Bob J.
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don't feel bad about yourself..you mad have adult ADD..i have it...look at ADD.com...its where you get bored easily.can't focus....even if it's not that..you are not a bad person you just can't make up your mind..you wanna explore everything god has offered in this world that doens't mean theres something wrong with you..don't be so hard on yourself..im 27 have'nt had many jobs..a stay at home mom now and im always down on myself..feel like im not doing anything that contributes to the world...but i read the bible and everythings all better...start going to church and read the bible..jesus will change your views about yourself..no one is perfect...if  you feel you need to see a phyc. go...maybe it will help maybe not..if  you feel in your heart your a good person then just keep going and someday you'll find your way..if  you are unhappy about  yourself change it...you can do anything you put your mind to but no matter what happens or what you decide every one is beautiful in there own way and no one should down themselves...
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There are many different kids of needs. I am guessing you are a psychology student. You should have asked from which theorist. Anyway, Maslow for example has two types of needs: growth needs and deficiency needs. At the bottom are deficiency needs including physiological needs (food, drinks), safety needs (security, psychological safety), belongingness and love needs (affiliation, acceptance, affection), esteem needs (approval and recognition). Then we get into the three growth needs: cognitive needs (knowledge, understanding), aesthetic needs (beauty, symmetry), and finally self-actualization. In order for the latter needs to be achieved, the ones prior must be met. It works like a "need hierarchy". Although this might not be what you are looking for, it's a start