We Just recently had a two month old daughter. All he want to do is hang with his friends to me it seems like he dont care but i know he do. we have been through this many of times breaking up and getting back together. i love him so much but i think it is time for me to move on. should I?
203270
I think you should seek a counselor.
463210
wow dude looks like it's time to move on......sounds like you really care for her just not her daughter....you need to find another girl with no baggage..and start fresh.
494543
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship right now. Maybe he was he is scared and backed out your life.A daughter and you being a mother is a little too much baggage for him. Donrt worry keep ur daughter 1st priority.
387559
say goodbye and move on.  Sounds to me he's obsessive about it and this isn't a good thing.  For all you know he could even be watching child porn....be concerned for your daughter and get out of this relationship.
324618
after seeing that your only 15... i think you shouldn't even be involving yourself in this relationship. No matter what his daughter will be his # 1. he shouldn't have to make up for time spent with his lil girl. your TOO young, go out and have some fun! your better off just being his friend.
112079
in my opinion i would move on. i know its easier said than done but if your not in love with him anymore dont waste your time anymore. itll probably hurt at first but your heart will heal it sounds like yall are only together because its 3 years into it. get out and mingle you'll be alright! i've been there and staying isn't worth it. give yourself a chance to find someone thats nice to you. good luck!
476871
the slight possibility and the only now and again says something....he may want to get back with her, so just leave him to it...don't mean to sound bad when i say this but i think it's time to just move on...he has stated that he wants to be just mates with you...so respect him for being honest...you'll find someone else, but waiting around for him is a waste of time...he still has it for his ex
330100
I GUARANTEE that you did the right thing.  I have been there, done that.  If he really loved you, he would not have treated you that way.  Who is more important to you, him or your baby girl?  Do you want your baby girl raised in that type of environment?  Your daughter is your life at this moment.  She comes before ANYBODY, even yourself.  If you love your daughter, think of what is best for her and you will know in your heart that you did do the right thing.  I strongly commend you for getting out of the hell you AND your daughter were in.  NO MAN IS WORTH THE VERBAL, PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ABUSE.
245113
wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
76610
That just shows how grown up you both are.\nif you can get along just accept the fact and move on as for the kids they are innocent players in this thing and should not be made to suffer. yes  i have an ex who is the mother of my child and we used to fight all the time. but we moved on she has a B/F and i have met another G/F but the main point is we found someone who made us happier and i am still a big part of my one year olds life. we get along as freinds for his sake because he is not to blame for our problems. your ex needs to grow up a little and stop acting like a child himself when you have children it's time to stop acting like one and grow up.
605916
Well that all depends on how long yall have been apart because of him needing space. If it has been longer than a month then I would say cut him loose. It shouldn't take him that long to figure out what he wants. Don't sit around and wait on him cause that's all he wants you to do. Also if you are not in love with him, then why are you with him in the first place. I have come to find out that relationship's don't work out if you just love the person and not in love with them.
299950
You're done?  Then be done and don't linger in the relationship. It sounds like he's willing to do what ever it takes to get back into your lives, but he won't continue.  Once he is comfortable you will revisit why you separated. Give yourself time to heal and keep moving in the direction you know will be better for you and your child.  There's nothing to celebrate except your freedom!
590079
I hope you can stand an answer from a woman. When I read this, my heart went out to you. Believe me, I understand. It's good you recognize the first relationship where the guy didn't want kids had to end. That was a very healthy decision and you shouldn't look back on that with regret.\n\nAs for this last guy, I think he's just too immature to deal with his feelings. A guy I dated before I met my boyfriend did the same thing to me. Of course, I wasn't ready to declare my love for him at that point or anything either and then months later, the jerk tried emailing me. Ugh. Anyway, the reason I say this guy is immature about his feelings is because 3 months is a really short amount of time to determine if you love someone. In fact, I'm always wary of when people say it too soon. It makes me think they are just in love with the idea of being in love. My boyfriend and I didn't say those 3 little words until we were together almost a year, but I can tell you, we're both very sure of how much we love one another. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I think this has much more to do with the guy you were involved with than you. I don't think you can determine if it's love in just 3 months time and I don't think you'd want to waste your time seeing someone each day that you didn't think you could invest in a future with. I hope that helps, even if I made you feel a little less alone out there in the world. I've been there before and it's not fun, but if this guy is too much of a tool to see what a bright, self-assured woman he has, then you are much better off without him. Good luck to you.
68450
I know its hard because Im in a similar situation. Mine left also but our baby is 9months and he's not cheating on me.  Try to get some counseling because it sounds like he's not coming back but you are not accepting it.  He's a bastard for tellling you that she is better, don't believe that, he's saying that to hurt you and your letting him.  You need to let go and move on to someone that will treat you as you deserve and love you unconditionally. Just remember, once a cheater always a cheater so he will probably cheat on "abby" too!
581776
You should leave him while your a head....its a lot easier to get over a short term relationship (especially if you guys have already broken up twice) then it is to get over a relationship you have been in for years......to me it sounds like he is with you until his ex wants him and when she's done with him he comes running back to you......you deserve better than that and if you keep taking him back he's going to keep thinking he can get away with it.....you shouldn't want to be with someone who isn't sure of his feelings for his ex......you don't want a guy who has baggage and that's what his ex is.....shes going to keep popping into the picture until you tell him to go away for good.......you don't need a jerk like that, plus remember....its only been 6 months.....that's not long enough to keep braking up and getting back together.......some people go through that, but that's over years....not months.
564705
My advice too you man is too accept that you 2 are finished and move on! go out with friends and do stuff you know? dont listen to any love songs cuz it will remind you of her! dont sob over this too much! yeah 20 months is a hella long time too date and break up like that! but you have to move on and not look back!
45004
I think you should leave your boyfriend.  If you are not happy with him and he doesn't make you happy, then leave.  You think alot of your child, to want to stay, but your child will see that you are happy, once you leave and the child will be happy also.  As for the ex, you shouldn't get back with him, unless you are sure it was meant to be.  You have your child, who needs you more than any man.  You will know when the right one comes along.