Did you feel any different? Why some talk like theres no life after 30?
212611
Oh, I felt so terrible when I turned twenty - I wasn't a teenager any more, and felt things couldn't get any worse.\nIt was a major loss, I thought, of hope. I hadn't a clue how life operated! How could I? (Imagine asking a baby what they think of a discussion forum that gives you actual options?!) \n\nI thought I was supposed to be starring in the movie of my life by then, and if not, I was probably too ugly and stupid to be allowed to live. At twenty years of age, I was pretty amazed that people didn't throw rotten fruit at me in the street! I grew up thinking that now I was twenty, I had to wear navy nylon clothes, crisp white blouses, horrible shoes, and be a predictable adult. Or else be famous and be allowed to make my own rules - too late for that <g>. \n \nBut thirty was no problem, I liked my life and new career a lot better by then! I'd gained more than I'd lost, had made  good friends whom I still have. I'd outgrown the users and the naggers, and had the confidence to let them go gently, in a friendly way. And I was way too busy to be bullied by dominant people, or wonder or worry what was expected of me. I realised that if you are happy and busy, you don't feel the burning need to conform or go around telling everyone what you expect of them.\n \nThis annoyed my mother so much that she actually told me that I had disappointed her - that she still expected me to marry a glamorous and famous person! \n\n(Oh, if only she had spelt this out to me when I still thought she knew best and wanted the best for me! Pity about her ; )\n\nOne of my neighbours is eighty-two. She has so many interesting things going on, and has outlived anyone who annoyed her - she really enjoys life! I managed to catch her in last week, and asked her what it was like to be eighty-two. She laughed for a full minute and said "Well, when you consider the alternative!" Yes, there is life after thirty! \n\nMy aunt loved music, worked full-time, and took care of her mother all her life, and then went deaf. She just took early retirement and started dating! He made her admit that she couldn't hear well, she bought a hearing aid and they travel a lot to opera weekends. \n\nHey, there's hope for us all! : )
337797
It is incredible, but it has no meaning anynore. No one cares like they used to. Everybody & everything is in a rush & it's a dog eat dog world. Things were different at one time. Today I feel like I have nothing to look forward to. Sad huh....( I could have if only my beloved didn't have to leave)
102523
yes!\n\nfirstly, you must ask yourself if there's been a change in your life.. it maybe a very subtle and a very gradual shift.\nI've experienced that when my boyfriend became stress-laden due to school.. it affected him... but gradually it made me depressed too... and i felt like there's something lacking...\n\n\nor,\n\nhave you ALWAYS had this feeling since young...\n\n\n\nthe only way to fix it is to sit down and really be honest with yourself...\n\nis there anything you don't like in your life?\nhow long has it been since your started feeling that?\nhow do you feel about it?\nhow do you react to it?\nif you ignore it, what are the consequences?\n\n\nall the best!
19950
Age involves the passage of time. If time were at a stand still, everything remains as it is when time stopped. There would be no growth physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.Time involes changes both good and bad which rounds out life, and makes life worth living. Think about this for a minute,if nothing changes, wouldn't life be unbearable BORING? Think about what I have said here, and truly have a very Happy 30th birthday.
421339
No.When I was in my late teens I was suicidal all the time,and deeply depressed.I had no family at all in this world.I felt I had nothing to live for and no focus in my life.I always lacked affection.At one point totally starved of affection I felt if someone gave me a hug I would break down completely.I had my children at 21 and 22.They give me all the love and affection I need and more.
342918
Since I just went through a midlife crisis. I'd say my life is half over or half empty. I'm not at good at anything I once was. Only my typing has improved. My eyes are failing. My legs hurt. I'm missing some of my hair. You get the picture. But I'm still an optimist at heart. =)\n.
477638
I was 20 and hubby was 28.  House was way out of our reach--or so we thought.  Truth is nothing comes without sacrifice!  We ate mac n cheese for few years and were careful about how we spent our money.\n\nI see people at work who are in their 40's still iving in apartments and know darned well it is because they WANT to on some level...  because there is really no difference between us and them.
123392
No, I think age is nothing but a number. Why? Do you feel like your too old? I sometimes feel this way when I get on here and all the questions are being asked by the younger crowd, but then I realize that by answering those questions, I may be actually helping those. Anyway, no, I don't think your too old, and I hope this helps. They're are people on here alot older than you.
510984
I wouldn't feel that way ... I'm 26 with no kids .... so I have spent my youth doing what I want ... if adn when I do have kids ... I think I'm prepared to concentrate on them and their mommy
235105
Tomorrow just believe you will wake up with an "Age Lift"  It is all what you make out of it.. a lot of people say they didn't really start living until they were in their sixties with newfound wisdom & freedom ... don't compare yourself to people in their teens, twenties, thirties, forties etc.. of course you will feel old if you are 30 comparing yourself to a 10 year old!
268548
I definately don't feel my age (37).. and even got carded the other day!!
626284
This is a very long answer! I am sorry, but I had to write this! Bear with me....\n\nAs a woman who is 50 and who went through her own mid life crisis (and divorce and self reinvention) over the last ten years and  who felt very much as you do now, I would like to share some things that helped me to get out of negative self talk. I have learned how to view mid life as a wonderful time of growth, which got me out of a bad mind set.\n\nHon, the first mistake you are making is defining yourself and your personal value on whether or not you have a boyfriend or husband. You are not unique in this mindset. I did the same thing, but no one defines us or determines our self worth and value, EXCEPT ourselves. Thinking that a man will define your self worth and your placement in this world will only serve to make you depressed and feel as alone as you do now. The only person who defines you and your self worth is YOU. No one else can do this. Instead of thinking that someone else is responsible for definining you, LOOK WITHIN. You are a unique individual, with your own skills, gifts, ideas, mind and thoughts that make you who you are. If you only seek out men to define and complete you, you will feel alone, as you do now. You feel alone and empty because you are not looking within yourself to find the things that you possess to bring you self nurturance and self love - to define the woman you are now.\n\nMost women define and value themselves as complete when they have a boyfriend or husband because we are socialized by our families and the media to believe this is the case. We are taught that to be of value we must achieve the ultimate goal in life: to get married, have a family, own a house, and so forth. Those of us who decide to have a career, in addition to marriage, are taught that having "it all" makes us more worthy. If we choose not to marry or have kids, then something is wrong with us (although this is changing, thank god). If we wind up getting divorced, we are viewed as being failures and that because our marriages failed, we are not capable of having a relationship or worse, something is wrong with us. Married friends may shun us (or not), family members query us about whether or not we are dating, or if we will ever remarry, and as a consequence, we feel anxious and apart from society. We feel as if we are outsiders looking in. When we believe this, we feel lost.\n\nDivorce is hard, especially when you are in your mid forties and going through perimenopause. That adds to the confusion and the negative feelings we have. With hormones rising and falling, we feel different and are different in many ways. It is a time, generally - and without divorce - of questioning and assessing our lives, what we have accomplished or didn't, what we want to do in the future, and what changes we want to make. We fear aging and growing older, and dying too young or too soon. We fear the changes our bodies are going through. Our looks change somewhat and we feel old, ugly, less attractive. Even though this is a scary  and a weird time in our lives, we needn't feel this way. Experience and wisdom comes with age, and even if our bodies are not as firm as they once were, and even if we gain a bit of weight or have tons of gray hair, we are still beautiful. I feel better and more beautiful NOW than I did in my twenties and thirties! I may not be as thin as I was, but that is okay - I accept and honor the woman I am now. I receive the beauty I possess now with welcome arms and more confidence than I ever had before. Why? I accept the woman I am today. It gets better, really and you CAN GET THROUGH IT.  \n\nSome suggestions: One of the best things I ever did when I got divorced was to go to therapy with a psychologist who specialized in divorce. She also held a weekly group session (for an hour an a half) with her other female clients (6 or 7 of us) and we worked together on finding our paths AND releasing our hurt, and anger towa
402506
I know exactly what you are saying.Often times feeling like a rat on the wheel. Some days I run and run and at the end of he day I ask myself why I did this again?? I am a divorced mother of three daughters whose father for ten years has not supported them. So I am there everything. Knowing now exactly what i want in life but it doesnt exist. Noone today seperates there lives into compartments and feeds each aspect the sould needs. We all did it in college. We were organized and prioritized and took those much needed breaks but as adults we run and run for what?? When you die that money wont go with you. God will ask us what good did we do?? I want to enjoy and know that I lived life not let my life pass me by. Only yesterday it seems i was a child with no reponsibilties and obligations and today is different. It goes faster than you reliaze and as u get older its quicker. Live your life!!For those of us who can nolonger. Dont make the same mistakes I did.
673073
I dont know why people are so hung up on age its just a number.\n\nSo if your happy sod everybody else and just have a bloody good time.   \n\nGood luck
468852
I Turn 40 on Wednesday. No big deal. It is only a number. I do not feel any older now than I did 20 years ago. Seriously. My body feels older but my mindset isn't. Please don't take it so hard. It is just another birthday. Eat cake and be happy.
182853
I reckon! Im 19, My body feelz like itz 40 & my brain feelz late 20's.. i guess its all the experiemce in life! You make a mistake you learn so u can teach others...Also if ya party too hard when your younger your body WILL NOT Cope!
123830
As a 44 year old, I think that aging has its pros and cons.  You do feel like you want to do the things that you have always done, but the body protests too much.  Age catches up with your body and limits the things you can do.  All the old injuries you have, mistakes made in your youth (sex, drugs, alcohol) can have the consequences in your older years.  I know many who have lived the party life and are now in their mid-40's and have liver problems, cancer and Ere.t.le Difficulties.  On the good side, you have more money to enjoy life more, more opportunities due to your maturity, you can give more thought out answers to questions due to your past experiences as well as all the accumulated knowledge you have gained.  Young people set an age, arbitrarily, to be old and when they reach it, they feel that their life is half over.  Many feel they should be married, have a good job and be starting a family.  I think many get scared at that point and get depressed because they don't want to end up old(er) and alone.  You really have to look at your life and realize that 20 years old is in the past and to make the best of your life as it is now.  You can't go back!  You can accomplish many things in your middle years without many limitations.  They should write out a list of dreams and desires to fulfill and start checking them off their list...it can be a renewal of their lives and make them feel younger.