i`m engaged now & my fiance wanna having sex all the time . i did it once but after it i told him i prefer to delay pleasure to our marriage. he became so angry from me. & IM AFRAID if he leave me coz i`m adore of him. but above of all i`m afraid from GOD
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No I wouldn't. I think that's very admirable. He's a loser if he leaves you. But the wedding night is going to be a marathon!!\n\nFor txhypnotist, read a Bible you OBVIOUSLY are extremely ignorant.
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another way for him to express his love is to respect u enough to wait until ur married to have sex.\n\nif he's not willing to wait, then he is only interested in sex and ur better off without him, even if u think u cant survive without him.\n\nu have to ask him is he's willing to wait for u bcos that's the decision u have made. if he;s not willing then u have to move on. there;s no other way around it.\n\ndont get forced into anything u dont want. dont sleep with him just to keep him, bcos if sex is all he wanted he will leave after he gets it.
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u shouldnt have sex until u r married anyways and u need to wait until ur comfortable with it
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There is nothing wrong with you. Actually, if the world were more like you, there might be less drama. I don't think you should change that. You seem to have a moralistic outlook on things, and when it comes to sex and love. If you are married, then you will have no problem staying faithful...which is a good thing. You take the words "making love" literally...so don't change because the rest of the world doesn't value it. :)
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I live with my bf now, I'm 39 and he is the first serious relationship I've had in 15 years. In those 15 years, I've RAN from 3 marriage proposals. Not really sure why, not so much the commitment, it was that I knew I didn't want to be married to those men. At this point I don't really care if I get married or not. This bf is the best and I'm happy. \nListen to your gut. It may not be commitment that scares you.
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I was just having this conversation with God yesterday with the same question?  I didn't know it was for you.\nThere is only one reasonyou are feeling this way.  Everything, believe it or not, was created for a purpose-- even you. \n          " For I know the plans I have for you, " declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not harm you.  To give you a hope and future."  Jeremiah 29:11\n Sex was for made for the coming together of a man and a woman but not outside of the marriage guidelines.  Sex is a beautiful thing and even more beautiful when it is with someone who loves you despite your bad breath, messy hair.  It is even more beautiful when that person is someone God has especially chosen for you and has strengths that you do not have and sees that a relationship with God is first priority and being everything that God has created him for as being part of that (loving husband, good provider, great father).  This person does exist.  Now that i know the truth of the matter in those people who might seem like they are happy are not happy they just have not been told by someone how special they are and that they are loved and accepted no matter their flaws.  So they go with what everyone else or so they think, does.  Sweetie,  you are special and there is no reason for you to sell yourself cheap.  You have been bought for a high price already and no one can pay as much as He can for your life.  I wasn't a virgin when I got married,  but everyday I wish that i could have waited.  God didn't set up laws to punish us, but to protect us( needless hurt, pain,  wasted time, disease and baby mama/daddy drama).  There is no such thing as separating love and sex unless you have a heard heart or no heart at all.  Don't try to fit into the world's standards-follow God's and he'll send you your true mate.     \nJesus loves you.( now smile)
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this is all to normal.  woman get this a lot.  its a big commitment.  I mean your going to be together for the rest of your lives.  Your scared and thats ok.  Just realize there is nothing to be afraid of.  your inlove to a wonderful man who loves you the same.  and I am sure he can't wait to get married.  the worst thing you can do is have cold feet and walk out the day of the wedding.  but listen to your heart it never lies.  I know you want to get married you afraid of the commitment and what is to come. again this is normal and a lot of people go through it.  Just take deep breaths and think, think things through you want to be happy in this merriage not misrable.
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So you are saying only those married in the church should have sex? In other words, anyone married in another religions ceremony will not go to your heaven and be accepted by your God?\n\nI am floored by this narrow thought process. I wouldn't believe in a God that would be so closed minded about the joys our bodies bring us. Why do you think we enjoy s e x? Your God made these bodies according to you right? Then why did he make them so responsive to the act? \n\nI give up....according to you...I am going to your hell. That said, thank the Goddess I don't believe in your hell.\n\nGood Luck.
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sex before marriage with anyone is considered to be a sin & possibly you don't want to be a sinner.if you are getting married than don't why you wait for sometime.the wait is really going to be worth it....\nGOOD LUCK!!!
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It would not be obvious if you're not pregnant.Your fiance will never know it up to the point of your honeymoon, except you make love to other man not once, because somehow your vagina will loosen up and your husband will somehow feel it. Having a broken hymen does not mean that you're not a virgin at all, others have no hymen at birth.If you really don't want to know this by your fiance, you could make a lie to him saying these facts, (only if he asks you, don't make him see that you're guilty). But if your conscience can't take it sooner or later, you can explain it to him in right way for him to understand you.You said that it was all a mistake then tell him that.He really love you if he understands you, but if he breaks up with you after you explain everything there's only one sure thing in here - he will not be a good husband for you because he cannot take your faults in the past. Don't be afraid to loose a guy like him, because he did not truly love you if he can't accept the true you.Think about it, after all you said its all a mistake, so on your side do not do it again because if you do it again then its not now a mistake, you want it now..So be faithful enough for your fiance and give your best to make your relationship last forever.
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I think you'll be fine. You've just built it up in your mind a bit too much (which is only natural whatever your age).\n\nI also think that you have a lot of stress in your life right now. Even good things like buying a house and getting married cause stress because they are big, life-changing events. Look at the facts:\n\n1- getting married\n2- buying a house\n3- having sex for the first time\n4- Losing your religious faith\n\nAnd probably more things that you haven't mentioned. You have a lot going on right now and it's only natural to be nervous. you are not messed up you are just under pressure. \n\nNobody is forcing you to have sex on your wedding night. This is YOUR marriage, YOUR wedding, YOUR life and YOUR rules. You and your partner are the ones who make the rules and when you are ready for the next step it will come naturally. Just try not to put pressure on yourselves. Relax and go easy on yourselves. You two make the rules here.
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Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
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I believe in sex before marriage. I don't believe people should just sleep around though. If you've been with a person for awhile and truly loves them, I think it's ok to have sex.
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I completely kow how you feel I went through the same thing with my husband the only man I was ever with and still with. I couldnt wait for him to marry me so I could finally enjoy our sexual relations,I even remember crying during sex the guilt was so bad and I'm not even Catholic but in my faith along with most this is a major sin.  I dont your stat with you boyfriend but it wont get better until he marries you .  I bet you had parents who made you feel like everything you did you go to hell for.  I will end it saying this even though it will only help if you can truly belive it yourself "God is mericiful,and his mercy out weights his wrath",also I bet you boyfreind thinks your parents brainwashed the hell into you to make you feel this way and he probably hates your religion because of that..Good Luck I hope you can have a wholesome satisfing relationship soon and feel good about your relationship with god.
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God does not hate people he Loves you but he does hate  sins, Jehovah God provided sex as a present for married couples to enjoy, but if you have sex out of marriage you Will actually be stealing the present before he gives it to you, how would you feel if you had a present that you specially picked out for some one, and you were looking forward to give it to them,and that person came in to your house and just took it, before, you had the chance, to give it to them, how would you feel about the person?Just think about it, would you not be disappointed with them? So really you might need to consider self control and the best thing you could do is study the Bible and what it says about these things,you may find more understanding of   the reasons behind these things and why God tells us to wait to enjoy sex within marriage! God will bless you if you try to do things by his instructions and you can also pray to him to help you anytime and to be controlling yourself with respect to him Jehovah God is not a God of hate but he is a God of Love he knows your needs and your wants feel free to talk to him often in prayer ask for his help in understanding his word and for help with self control, because even though God expects us to listen to him, he is there to help us accomplish his advice too
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God made sex a sacred thing meant to be only for married couples, plus I hear that it's better when you're married. No pressure or worries about babies or anything else you might not be ready for...
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well, are you married? b/c you shouldn't have sex until you're married. also you sound doubtful. and if you don't know if you're ready to have sex, you're not.