it and we had plan to start a new slate. Everything was going well until yesterday. I'm 19 and he works at a butt naked bar as a bouncer and stays in a hotel nightly. I asked him to hook up one of my guy best friends as a DJ and everything was going well. He didn't sound to happy about me driving with him to go check it out but my homeboy had never met him. My dude knew of him and had no problem but was kinda getting bitchy the day i was gonna go with him. Well i hadnt seen my homeboy in like a year and i wanted to take him out to eat. I put my dude on my account, so we share an account. he put 200 dollars in and i put the same in also but we had both been spending. My card got denied and we had no cash so i went to ask my dude for a 20 he told me i better leave cuz he was pissed. my dud eclaims i wanted to rent a hotel but for proof the restaurant still has my card. I thought it was okay because for my dude to see me i always gave him money when he needed it this was my first time.
200987
why would you even want to continue a relationship with someone who is cheating on you?  That would be the first red flag.  the second red flag would be the restaurant experience.  Also, you shouldn't share bank accounts with someone your dating....thats kinda dumb.  if you have any common sense, you would cut your ties.
471493
won 25 thousand at once but spent 200, man best 200 i ever spent. Was mad at my husband for standing me up for our dinner date, so wen he came home I took his wallet and spent all of the money on scratch offs.  I think I should get mad at him more often. LOL
520706
My suspicion is that the "shady" guy was "casing the place", so he can come back later.  Several thoughts come to mind:\n\n1.  First, call the police and relay your concerns to them.\n\n2.  While you're on the phone with them, use an old Donut Shop trick and offer the cops big discounts so they come eat there.  With them hanging around, you're place will be pretty  safe.  FAX over a menu with the Policeman's discount in big letters on it.  They'll post it at the station.\n\n3.  Get the cash register and any money counting out of the public areas.  You're only tempting someone by doing that in front of them.  It will mean that your waiters/waitresses will need to bring the customer's money into the back somewhere to make change but it'll be much safer.\n\n4.  When Mr Shady comes in again, call the cops to do an immediate "drive by".  Also, if possible after they hang up, keep talking - talk loud enough that Mr Shady can hear you - "Oh, Officer McClen, of course... three of you??  twenty minutes??  sure... will the Sergeant be coming this time??"\n\n5.  If you're really worried, hire a uniformed Private Security Guard for awhile.  Just have him hang around - it'll set a new image and then have him come on your big nights (Saturdays?).  The robbers are after big money.  They'll figure out your big nights (lots of cash) and hit on that night.
206116
maybe when you told him he wasn't getting any , he stayed with you just in case you eventually let your guard down, he is an idiot to not call you after running around after you so much..leaving town is a BullSh*t excuse and now he is probably looking elsewhere....you were indeed played like a hand of poker..get over it and find someone who can treat you right
100893
To me your description makes him sound very unprofessional.\nYour could file a complaint concerning his behavior with your local or state bar association.  Good luck.
310904
You feel guilty because he was a good guy who couldn't conform.  But to run a business, you need him to respect your decsion, whether or not it's about how well he does at his job.  You did the right thing.  Feeling bad is natural, no one should want to hurt another person, but he was wrong and he knew it.  He took the risk and has to accept the consequences.  Hopefully he learned from this experience and will move on well.  It was hard to make the right decision, but you did.  You should congratualate yourself.
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AND HE HAS STAYED WITH YOU FOR 2 YEARS??!!??  Geeze the guy must love to be pu$$y whipped.\n\nOh yea...remember you where nagging him & telling him how to spend his money in front of a bunch of people, it was probably humiliating for him.  If he wanted to go shopping with his MOM, he would have.  GET REAL.  He should have just walked off and left you standing there looking like a fool
489567
£10 pounds a month!!  I suppose it was better than nothing, have you an agreement to how much he will pay you and when???\n\nPerhaps you might have wait another four months lets hope not..Some men need to face up to their responsibilities..
552308
If I were you I would delve a little deeper into the money withdrawal thing. Could be he got all confrontational to throw you off the scent. Find out if that's the case then if you want to forgive him be prayerful and patient and God will help you forgive him. But remember this... Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.
339293
i think you did the right thing- but i feel you may be letting people take advantage of you- should he be mad?  whats that about? why worry about that? he should be reported to the manager, when EVERYONE works together as a team things get done alot faster and they are alot more happier and people would really enjoy and love going to their jobs.  really life is to short, people now days need to love each other just as they would want to be loved and treated.
182441
File sexual harassment charges, along with contacting the state labor department about him throwing your time card away to prove what you've worked. Keep track yourself...\nAlso, it is illegal for you to handle any alcoholic beverage under the age of 18. You can also notify the police about him selling the beer and how he's doing it.
592846
Funny, you had no problem in the past meeting new people, so why would you have a problem now...you have built a silly box to live in. Open the box and get out of it. Only you are keeping you a prisoner, not him. Not very smart.
506793
You did it so why can't they also try and improve their lot in live. Just because you have become more successful is not any reason for people to try and take advantage of you financially.  With Christmas coming I imagine your going to hear all kinds of sob stories.  How did they survive while you were working your arse off to get your business to where it is today?  Be as honest with them as you can and let them know that your not a ATM and would appreciate if they all would cease asking you for help financially.  Congratulations on your business becoming successful and all the hard work you have put into it.  Bravo!!!
489185
Ummmm....you were "all over each other" in front of his friends....and yet what bothered you was kissing him in front of his friends?  Sounds a little odd to me.  And it might have been odd for him, too.  The fact that you were drinking, and I am assuming he was, too...also has a lot to do with the awkward morning after.  Amazing what people do after knocking a few back.  I would say, give him a call when you are STONE SOBER and see what's up.  If you were all over each other as you say, surely you can talk to this guy.  Find out if he wants to hook up for lunch or dinner or any other activity where alchol will not be a contributing factor to your actions.  You will know then if he is still interested, or if you blew it at the strip club by letting him ???
651881
what a loser ! \n\nwhy would he think a kid have enough money for him.\n\nKick him out and get a restraining order. He cannot get an order to force you to pay him anything.\n\nActually, you can force him to pay you until you are 21
318514
i dont think its your problem man. i know he's your kid and you're concerned for him, but if he's 30 and cant get his crap straight, i dont know what you can really do for him. he's going to need to be willing to start at the bottom. like, rock bottom, working at wendy's or something. but, thats better than going back to jail.
449986
You are obviously still young enough to find a better person.  This guy has waaaay too much baggage for you to carry.  Take it from someone who wasted alot of her young adult age on the same guy you just described.  Believe me, you're wasting your time.  At first, because we were "in love", he was all for the "help" and did alot to stop the bad habits he had.  But after a few years, he started to resent me, because I had "tied him down", "made his life boring"  you get the picture.  Then when he became depressed, because he wasn't having any "Fun", (If you call drinking yourself unconsious fun or getting arrested because you started a fight at a gas station, fun)  He was so pissed at me all the time, because he couldn't go "out" that he started to verbally, then physically abuse me.  I tried to stick by him,  help him, I always told him that "all I wanted to do was help him", he just said I was trying to control him.  He would purpously start fights with me just so he could leave and use me as an excuse to go "out".  The funny thing is , I refused to listen to my mom.  I paid for it with nine years in hell, and I haven't seen my family for twenty years.  Please while you still haven't been through hell, get out.  If you choose to stay, keep in touch and on good terms with mom, you WILL need her someday.  Watch out for the warning signs and take care of yourself.  Good Luck