i have hurted my bf and i don't know how to make him back to normal ........ i did apologoised and he is saying its ok ..but i know he didn't forgive me ... wot to do ... ??
217961
Just give him a bit. If he is really your friend he will forgive you. If not then maybe he still doesn't forgive you.
138891
well it matters how u did him wrong and if he has fully forgiven u. you should have a talk with him and let him know not to worry u r his one and only and make him understand that u wouldnt hurt him again and give him a reassuring kiss
514998
I answered a similar question two days ago. Remember I told you that it was a mistake to stop talking to him because of your bf, but I thought u said u could never date him? U were not truly honest were u? Just beg and implore him to forgive you, if he likes u he might. Good luck, I mean that.
178279
He is doin that because he is scared of gettin hurt again maybe you should just take it slow give him some time. Tell him how you feel and let him know that you are sorry and you would stay friends with him until you can gain his trust and tell him you wont give up on him because you really love him. I know because i cheated on my boyfriend a long time ago and i told him how i felt and we are now together and we been happy together for a year now.
386949
I am very sad that you are hurting so much. Some wounds are very deep and take a long time to heal. You deserve to be loved and cared for! I can't even imagine how much it must hurt to have someone you care about so much do that to you. I don't know if you believe in God, but I do and I believe that he can heal us. I believe that forgiveness is the key to overcoming your hurt. I know it is extremely difficult, but if you can try to push angry feelings away and forgive him for what he has done, you will feel better. I do not believe that finding someone else is the right solution. It is a way to cover or bury your pain, but not heal it. Pray for strength, don't be ashamed to cry, and turn to good friends for support. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
338246
Try appoloigizing, and asking what you did that made him so mad at you. Were you having a bad day and something you said sounded cruel? Was HE having a bad day? Still, nothing works better than a heartfelt appoligy.
33796
Thanks Becca, and I'm sorry too. That really meant a lot, stay cool girl! \n\nEmail me if you want and no God will always forgive you if you ask 4 it. I know that I've messed up a lot times, sometimes as christians we represent Jesus in such a terrible way, because we've been hurt so we become bitter and take it out on everyone else, a lot of us need to be healed before we try to start witnessing. Again I apologize too, and hope you can forgive me.
136302
We all make mistakes some more drastic than others. We sometimes learn from our mistakes. However, the healing process is painful. When you apologize to him for having an affair don't expect things to just get back to normal right away because he's hurt and most of all embrassed. Also, don't throw the past in his face, telling him he's the reason why you had an affair or if he was doing what he was suppose to it wouldn't have happened. We have to learn to love the person we married and expect change, wheather good or bad. Besides, God knows your heart. If you need to talk or need prayer please feel free to contact me personally at wisdom_women@yahoo.com.
141084
Tell him that you were deeply hurt by what he did and that it will take a very long time for him to earn your trust back. Tell him that you love him very deeply and you only want to love him more. Stop making cracks about it. It's pretty messed up. He probably feels horrible about lying (hopefully) and that will only make him hate himself more. BTW about it being a learning tool, don't believe that crock of bull. A previous *friend* that was a girl told me that she would teach me how to treat a girl right and all we did was make out, but I don't count that as a teaching tool, we straight up made out. I don't try to tell my fiancee' any story about it being a teaching lesson, I straight up told her: Before I was with you, I made out with another girl. I wasn't in love with her. I was infatuated with her. It was a crush and would have never become anything more. But that's about all you can do. Tell him to stop making excuses for his actions and that it will be harder for you to trust him in the future. He may never earn your trust back, but in the end, it's all up to you.\n\nHad something similair happen with my fiancee'. She lied about being raped. It really hurt me, probably more than your hurting right now. She earned my trust back, but i'm still very cautious!
567961
move on. it's hard to make a relationship work especially when they're back and forth like that. if he thinks he'll hurt u, then he will. he'll think it's alright, cause you'll come back to him n-e-ways. find someone that'll b good to u!
532727
Remember, people are ALWAYS communicating with you, even if it is non-verbal.  Right now he's saying that the pain of confrontation and admitting his bad behavior is more painful than trying to repair your relationship.  You have offered to try to repair it through your attempts to contact him.  Now it's time to let it go.  Big talker, right?  I didn't say it was going to be easy, or pain-free, it just has to be done for your own sake.  And believe me, you don't want to feel like you don't give a damn, that would be denying your feelings, your trust in your relationship, and your broken heart.  I'm going to tell you to do something that is going to sound dorky, but I really want you to try it (what do you have to lose?)  Write him a letter.  Say everything you want to say about how you feel, how hurt you are, how angry you are, call him names.  End the letter by saying goodbye and saying how much you will miss the relationship you had.  You will never send this letter.  After you've written it, read it once, then rip it up and throw it away.  I promise you this will help.  You will still hurt, but please do this and you will feel better.  You need closure, and since he's not giving it to you, give it to yourself.  Let me know how it goes.
260734
Im sure you have been hurt once or twice in your live and as you know it takes time to get over that feeling.Just give him time but dont give up on him,shower him with attention,kindness,and love but dont smother him.Give him sometime to heal and breath but let him know in as many ways as you can that you are there for him and that you will love him,must of all is time heals all wounds.
670160
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
451831
Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
670147
Perhaps he thought when you said your the "bad guy" meant that you have done some naughty things as well which made him upset. Your revelation might have brought confusion in his mind. Doubts might have stepped in.\nSo, you must reassure him that its not because of it (like you cheated or what). Just make him know that its about an attitude issue. Ask for space and time to rebuild yourself and tell him that your doing it for him, and your relationship. If he doesnt agree of asking for time, then why not make him a part of your rebuilding process. Ask fof his help and guidance. In this way, he will feel appreciated and that you trully want him to be a part of your life. :-D
453704
this reminds me of my relationship.. it's hectic. give him some time.. you already apologized to him. Tell him to call you whenever he feels like talking to you. GIve him some time you already said sorry so that's good that you've accepted your error.. but yea goodluck... try not to disrespect each other.. once you disrespect each other then it's really hard to work things out... and remember everyone has arguments... just be straight foward with him and tell him that you already apologized to him and to please not be in a bad mood... communication is the key! goodluck hopefully he's not moody anymore... and ask him why he's moody maybe something else was making him moody :P
664017
Too bad he didn't think about all of that when he made the choice to cheat.  Sometimes it's too late to go back and try to fix what was broken. Forgive and move on.