at my divorce hearing the judge gave her the house ,my only child and the max in child support ? i did not abuse my wife or child..she was the one cheating on me and i get punished//please help.
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You need a better lawyer. Get a female lawyer, they are meaner than heck and can do a lot better than a male. Might cost you more in the short term but should pay off in the long run.\n\nI hope that things work out better the second time around\n\nGod bless you and be with you in your time of need
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Write everything down that she does document all,time place what she did what she said EVERYTHING.\nThe sleeping arrangements are wierd, exactly what is she up to? she is going to make it worse for the kids,not you.If you owned the house before you were married I dont think she can get it. If you can get full custody of ur 2 but if you cant go for the joint  otherwise  she can and probably will try and turn the kids against you. Good luck
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I was watching a top divorce lawyer on the wright stuff this morning!!!\n\nWell a woman called in and she asked,"would she be entitled to anything, she lived with her partner for "9 YEARS" and had a young child with him and the answer to that was "NO"\n\nYou will have to pay for the child of course.
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Yes because he did not represent you or did your paperwork for your divorce.  If her current husband is a judge, that would be a different story.
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The only thing that I can think of is that He is more established with his life, job, home, married, and You said that You are still in school.  If You have paid $25,000 and lost Your case, You need another Attorney.  Sounds like the Judge wasn't very fair.  You had custody of your child, and were taking good care of them, but the Judge now thinks You are not able to?  Was Your Ex active in Your Childs life before?   Are You living at home?  And if so, how is it that a person going to school, has a House?  You can appeal.  The fact that He owes $10,000, what does that say for his ability to provide?  If I were You I would call every Family Attorney in the phone book that will give the first consultation for free, I would call 100 if I had to, many of them will talk to You on the phone, or their paralegal will.  Then I would find out about legal aid.  Contact the Department of Social and Family Services, or the Department of Humane Services.  I would write the Govenor of Your State,  The Attorney Generals Office, (that is who Your Child Support is supposed to come through).  I would call every radio station and news Channel I could find, to get Your story out, and I would ask/beg for anybody to help me.  Write Your Story up and fax it to every Family Law Office You can.  Many Attorneys do a certain amount of ProBono work(free), each year.  If You want Your Child back You fight with every ounce of Your being.  What changed so drastically that You were a  capable Mother before, but now You are not, what has changed?  What did the Judge say the reason was?  Do NOT Give up!  Is He still in School?  Are You both about the same age?  He should have been put in jail for owing that much back Child Support, and the fact that You were raising the Child alone, without His Support, should speak volumes for Your Character.  I really can't understand everything You are trying to Describe to us, and You will need to explain, in detail, everything to a Lawyer.  And if all else fails, call Dr. Phil, he has connections that could Help You Tremendously, and He is always on the side of Justice.  In fact You will have to contact Him through His web site,www.Dr.Phil.com.\nDon't focus on not having Your Child, Focus on getting them back.\n\nI know Your Heart Is Broken, Harness That Pain, And Fight, Get Everyone You Know To Help You.  Good Luck, and God Bless
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you don't sound mean but you should really condense your question. and if it was me i would take my son and go back were you came from. then file for divorce if you don't take your son she will just use your him for a paycheck.and if you saved those emails were she said he was a burden and the others were she cheated on you it will go a long way in court then she will get nothing god luck.
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No, she will still get child support.   I just got married and have two step-sons now.   The father is still required to pay his child support.
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First let me say that I have it on both ends.  I collect child support, and I help my husband with the child support he has to pay.  Now in answer to your question, CHILD SUPPORT is just that.  You are paying that money to support that child.  The courts set an amount that is what should be paid.  Anything you give over that amount is considered a gift.  You are not obligated in any way to give more than that amount.  I do not ask my childrens father for another dime outside of what he is court ordered to provide.  The bottome line is this,  if you continue to cater to the person receiving the child support and give them more than what is ordered, they will think they are owed that and will continue to ask for more than the obligated amount.  My husband, as I stated, pays child support and his ex wife is always TRYING to be in his pockets.  She says the kids need this, she cant afford that.  Well he is paying his support and she is to use that money to provide for the kids needs, not hers.  So if she is blowing the CHILD SUPPORT money on herself then she is at fault.  Now if he wants to give the kids some extra money just because he wants to then that is fine.  But I will be damned if he give her money just because she says the kids need because he has already fulfilled that matter.
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Wow, I am really sorry this happened. Your best bet is to get a better lawyer. Good luck!
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Go back to Court immediately and file papers (if you don't have an attorney, either call Legal Aid or ask the Clerk of the Court -who cannot give you legal advice, but CAN guide you to the correct forms to file) to bring the violation(s) of the Court Order to the attention of the judge for a ruling. Violations of a Court Order are Contempt of Court, and I have yet to meet a judge who takes these lightly (and I have met a couple, through similar situations caused by my ex). The Court does not feel warm & fuzzy about individuals who thumb their nose at the Court's authority. Until you take steps to get these matters brought back before a judge, your ex will continue to act without impunity. In the meantime, while you are waiting for a court date, take steps to protect your share of the community property, by making everyone (like banks, credit agencies, mortgage companies, etc.) aware of the Court's original ruling, in an effort to reduce your ex's chances of disposing of the property without your knowledge or permission. Good luck with this. Vindictive and unethical ex's can be very creative and resourceful. My ex even disposed of NON community property, when he got a hold of our daughter's house key, let himself in while I was out of town, stole my grandmother's hope chest and the hand-made quilts she had made which were in it, and sold them to a no-questions-asked dealer. I was unable to prove anything (it was all supposition and circumstantial, without witnesses) - and lost everything. DO NOT remain passive about this. You must act to protect your interests NOW.\n\nIf the vehicle is long-gone, the Court will likely not only find your ex to be in Contempt (and subject to fines and/or jail time), but will likely also order your ex to pay you at least half of what he sold it for - which he must prove. You should try and track down the paperwork pertaining to the sale, as best you can, to bring with you into Court. You should also consider getting a subpeona served on the person he sold the vehicle to, to force them to come into Court and testify as to the circumstances surrounding the sale. This person will likely be viewed as a hostile witness, but they WILL have to testify - unless THEY also want to face contempt charges. \n\nTaking these actions will send a clear message to your ex that he has rattled the wrong cage. Be diligent and persistent. You are not doing these things to "get back at" your ex. You are doing thse things to protect your interests.
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Boy, are you down on women or what????  Man just chill out a little bit here. I see no reason in all the name calling here. She might have been a witch from heck, but geezzz.........\n\nAs far as the alimony goes, there are some women out there that have never worked out side the home a day in their life. And IF they have children she should stay with the children if the family can afford for her to stay home.  Now if there is no children, then I think she should go to work.  In some cases with the alimony, a judge might order the ex to pay her alimony for a certain amount of time until she will be able to find a job and is able to support herself or until she remarries, then it is cut off.\n\nI do feel like that the women do need to find a job to support their selves. But you don't have to bash women the way you are doing here, sorry. We are not all alike, just like you guys are not all alike. I am down on men right now, BUT I'm not bashing them the way you are bashing us.
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I would call child support enforcement and have them look into it..sounds fishy to me.
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Wow!  You are in for a battle.  Call the child support office first.  If they can't or won't help you, you'll probably have to get an attorney.   If you're really owed the money, don't let them keep it.   It CAN be done.   Good lluck
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sounds like mother is no good. if he is an adult why is dad still paying child support? money should go to son automatically! maybe son should go to FOTC and dispute that case. let me know if you need my help. ntjack02@yahoo.com. and good luck god bless you.
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even if you were charged and convicted of the alledged offence above this was before you were granted parole. you can only be sent back to prison if you break the conditions of your parole part of which you agreed to make no FURTHER infringements of  the law-this is to say they cannot drag up anything that happened before you were granted parole. also as it was ligitated in the civil courts which you won-she should have filed the complaint then-not now. it will seem like sour grapes to any judge (if she can find one that will preside over her complaint-unlikely). i beleive everyone should be given a clean break and i wish you and your family all the luck in the world-and don't be naughty again please.
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I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
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Hi chrismarie1511,\nDo you have joint custody? You need to contact a lawyer. Look in the phone book for a lawyer who gives a free consultation in person or over the phone if you cant afford one. Good Luck: Blueladybug