I always laugh when I hear a woman say that she wants a man with "confidence".  I know a guy who calls his girlfriend "fat" and a "cu*t", and she brags to her friends about how confident he is.  To another woman, such behavior would be called abuse.\n\nI also know a guy who is a surgeon, and he literally saves lives every day.  But he's kind of quiet and shy, although always kind and professional.  Would he be considered confident though?\n\nI guess confidence is completely subjective.
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this Q made me think.u r right.. confidence is something when u can be happy of what u have done in ur life till date.. and ur parents are proud of it. it doesnt mean always to win.. but also includes helping someone who needs it.. u see. there r many ways in which an individual can be considered confident..\n\nas u mentioned, that surgeon is confident , as i think. he seems to be mature. he doesnt show off to the world. he is contented with his life and is glad with what he has done with his life..he just concentrates on his work and is to-the point..\n\nalthough, confidence is very subjective.. it depends on how everyone is brought up, thinking (attitude) and their lifestyle.. etc.\n\n:-)
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That is exactly how I feel. I love men with little confidence, believe it or not. I actually get turned off right from the start when the guys are too confident. I actually had to go up to my fiance and make the first move! Now, I know we are ment for each other, and yes he is the most sensitive, romantic sweetheart in the world!!
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some women are threatened by pretty women that are confident. IF you are not flirting with the man just talking there shouldn't be an issue but if you are flirting an insecure woman will definitely jump on that.  I am a friendly person and i talk to everyone and my husband is OK with that and he is also and i am OK with him speaking to women.  Do i get jealous? Only if there is a need to be. He has never given me reason because to him i am the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on. I don't feel like i am prettier than the next but he does. See sometimes men don't let the woman know that she is the most he'll ever want so anyone else he speaks to she is gonna compare herself to and that is why women get coo coo. Good luck to ya
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/agree with Mike.\n\nMy man is a good guy.  And he's confident as hell.  Loves his country, loves his family and makes me laugh.  \n\nInsecure women only think good guys aren't confident.
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why do you care?  if its working for you, then keep doing it! your buddy will just have to keep on being a looser and nothing you can do about it.  confidence comes from within and if you have it great.  if he doesn't, not your problem!
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Confidence. Low self-esteem
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so many things can shake a woman's confidence (for some of us anyway), too many glances, the 'wrong kind' of glance, a vague sensation that something is not right...\n\nSpending those few extra minutes 'taking a powder' to make sure we look our best restores confidence.\n\nAs for physical beauty, if you ain't born with it you certainly ain't going to buy it.\n\n(says she who once said of the human resources director "She looks like a million dollars. In used notes." before thinking what she had said. To a senior member of staff.)
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Some men are intimidated by a female who is very intelligent and/or beautiful.  They don't think they will add up.  Try not revealing everything about yourself all at once.  I know your proud of your degrees, but let these men know slowly about all of this.
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Each woman has her own preference as to what she is attracted to. Some will say eyes, another will be his body, another will say his smile etc. But once we get past the outer layer we really start looking for qualities that we would like that man to have. Such as, honesty (that's the big one). If the man isn't honest we can't trust him. Another one is personality. Can he make the woman laugh?  The most important thing to me is (and hopefully all women)...Does he respect and accept me for who I am? If he can't respect you as a person that guy shouldn't deserve my time. He must accept me for who I am. That he must accept every little quirky thing I might do or say. That also includes a respect of my beliefs and goals. I could go on and on...Hope this helps.
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Conceited people thank that they are better than others not that they have more confidence ( they just see you as if you are beneath them that is why they appear to have confidence)  Self confidence means that you are who you are and know exactly what you can or can not do. Self confidence does not mean you are full of your self. WITH  self confidence you can walk the walk and talk the talk.  SO TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION I WOULD HAVE TO DISAGREE.
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Women don't like jerks, they're just kind of biologically drawn to them...\n\nWomen love confidence.  Even when they're not confident, jerks are typically a bit cocky (which ironically, is a sign that one lacks confidence).  Cocky resembles confidence just enough to get the girl.  Being a domineering control freak is also an attribute that women commonly mistake for confidence, and as a result, such men often get the girl while the nice guy loses out.  Meek & indecisive are the two most effective female repellants out there!   \n\nWomen also love mystery.  Jerks are not open with their feelings, which makes them a bit mysterious.  Nice guys are frequently open with their feelings which kills the mystery.  While women CLAIM they want a man who's open with his feelings, deep down they much prefer a man who keeps some mystery about him.  \n\nIgnore what women SAY they want in a man; instead, pay attention to what they RESPOND to.  Generally, the key with women is to be "the man with a plan" (e.g. don't ask her where she wants to go on a date, just take her there) who's fun to be around (most important: make her laugh) but doesn't talk too much (don't tell her your life story right away, make her work for it), all without being a domineering a-hole.
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i understand exactly what you mean. i had a boyfriend like who did that all the time. he was very like-able and had incredible charisma, which was one of the things that attracted me to him. however there would be time where he would safe cruel and offensive things about other people. i asked him why he did that and he said he was only joking around. personally i think it's insecurity of themselves. it could also be the need for attention, if he does it in front of other people or maybe he is just a jerk. if i were you i would see if the bad stuff outweigh the good. if it does than go ahead and look for better pasture, that what i did, cuz like you said changing them doesn't work!!\n\ngood luck!!
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Unmanly???  You're kidding right??  It shows the following:\n\nLeadership\nself confidence\nresponsibility\ndetermination\nself assureness\nnot a follower\ngreat character\nsecure\ndid i already say confident??  \n\nListen carefully, ANY girl that gives you the slightest impression that she's not cool with it is threatened by all of the words above because she lacks them all.  Drinking often times is a way of coping for all of the aforementioned that people lack.  Lots of people lack confidence, leadership, security,,, etc.
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Ok, to an extent I think it's funny to make fun of ourselves.  It becomes annoying "if" that's all you ever do and it's always VERY negative.  That's a very unbecoming trait.  We all want to date someone who is confident in their own skin.  It is definitely a turn-off if someone is always down on themselves.  Now, that being said, you HAVE to be able to laugh at yourself, but be confident at the same time.
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Dearie a person does not derive self esteem from what other people think, that's why its called SELF esteem.  Love yourself for more than your looks, whether its your sense of humor or kind heart these are the things that really count.  And as cliche as it might sound how will anyone ever love you if you don't love yourself!
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Not all dudes like skinny women! No one in my family would even bring a girl home if she didn't look like she could handle herself/or has handled her business at the dinner table.\n\nI am totally of the belief that the person God designed to be your mate is attracted to your body as it was designed (including someone's set point).  Women worry about their weight all too often and don't realize that it is irrelevant if a dude thinks you're fat. Why do we do this to ourselves? Different strokes for different folks, and if he's not interested in strokin' ya ...well, there will be others!
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i don't. we think differently. if you are in a relationship it usually doesn't matter if the man is right because a smart man will keep his mouth shut to a woman even if he knows he is right. that is wisdom. i don't know if women can be wise. i didn't mean to offend you and i am not a doctor. i just thought it was funny. good night and my apologies.