Okay, my situtation is prolly very common, I go to college, and i'm a freshmen second semester. I haven't had a gf, or any close friends. I made a close guy friend this year, but then i he started hanging out the gurl that rejected me, more than he hangs out with me on campus. I never asked that gurl out because, i found out she was in a complicated relationship. She is very popular and attractive, i dont think i am, i would say i'm average. I dont think that should matter, but who am i kidding. I dont know what my motive in life is right now, I know i need to study and make good grades, but the fear of not finding someone is always intefering when i start to study. I put of everything to the last minute, mostly because I am sad and i watch movies or pursue other activities that will distract me from my major fears or worries. I dont see most people in college having these problems. I dont have these problem all the time though, only around the hours of 2-8 pm Some times on weekends.
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I agree your situation is totally common, I am a freshman in a community college and it is common to feel like you are alone. Professional help is not a bad choice, I think. But I also think that you need to adjust your focus. School is very important and girls can always wait. I went through this recently, I was totally focused on the guys, I thought that I needed a guy to feel good about myself, but it isn't true. You can't expect anyone to accept who you are until you do!! You are a great person and you have many great qualities, but you can't show anyone that until you believe it yourself:) Think positive the sun will show again tomorrow and you get another chance at your life:)
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Unfortunately, your situation is normal.  I know that sucks.  I've been there too.  But as I got older, I had PLENTY of relationships (some I shouldn't have been so willing to rush into.)  Endure and have fun.  This soon shall pass for you.
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I am in the same boat as you, and I have the exact same feelings. I think that we have this problem because people around us are dating, and we're not so we feel left out. Just try to have fun with your friends, like I do. You'll stop wondering about your romantic future. Who knows...maybe you'll see him that night. Just make sure that isn't the only goals to your plan.
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I felt the same way when i graduated high school and started my first semester in college. It's a very scary thing. Unfortunately, I let my anxieties and depression take over and i dropped out. now that I'm older i realize how much of a mistake that was. Whatever you do keep moving/living, things will always get better and you'll look back and be glad you didn't let your feelings at the time hold you back. You should never be embarrassed about who you are. It's you! People can love it or hate it, but as long as your living your life right and not hurting anyone, than Walk, and Walk tall. Be proud of who you are and what you've accomplished and look forward to the many more accomplishments ahead of you. As you go through life you'll meet different people and things will happen naturally. But if you let these feelings keep you stagnant you'll stay in the same place physically/emotionally and these opportunities won't arise.
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there is a man for every women and a women fro every man!\nthe lucky one for you will be coming soon i am sure...you shouldn't be in such a rush....you are still in high school right? you have you whole life a head of you! think about it!
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Well it seems to me that you are an insecure person and you suround yourself with people who are equally insecure as yourself.  Because to you it's easy that way.  It's easy to live unchallenged and it's easier for you to just take what is offered.  When you don't like a situation that you are in you have to figure out how your gonna change it.  The first step is too stop taking advantage of other ppl especially if they let you because they are just as lost as you are and you will surely never find your way.  The next step is to work on being comfortable with yourself.  You have to be by yourself to do that. I would suggest that you stop dating or having any type of romantic relationship because nobody will ever be able to appreciate you if you don't even appreciate yourself. And then , after all that is worked out, you find a good secure, honest, independent woman, that isn't gonna let you fall back into your usual routine.  After that i can't say it will all be wonderful, but at least you know its something that you want instead of something that's just there. Godd luck!
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Okay, don't cry.  That is why they are boys.  I am sure you are a beautiful girl.  I had the same issue when I was your age in school. The boys would always go for the really thick girls that looked like they flunked 3 grades.  I used to wonder "what is wrong with me".  I found out that it wasn't me at all.  Some of these girls were fast, meaning they were easy.  They put out and what boy isn't going to be interested in some fast girl that can't say no.  I know it is hard and it was for me too.  Try not to pay it any mind.  I have seen these same girls and boys now since they are adults and my have they changed, and not in a good way.  Don't get down on yourself.  You WILL have a boyfriend but don't get hung up on this.  Just relax and don't think about it so much. I am sure if you are as pretty as you say you are that some boy probably already secretly admires you.  Hang in there, it won't be long before someone sweeps you off your feet.
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sounds like u didn't make your move fast enough.  Ive noticed that when im looking for girls they never take me seriously, but the second i finally find a girlfriend or start seeing someone that all the girls i was JUST CHASING all become jealous (like you), to me it sounds like you're a bit of an attention whore, and you're just jealous of the attention she is getting that you aren't.  If you really cared about the guy, which is possible, wait patiently, even let him know that you wish you would have expressed your feelings earlier, and that you really regret not doing so.  Maybe him and his girlfriend will have a fight, and knowing he can come to you, he might dump her.  But if you follow through with this, don't get bored with him just cause you "got" him finally.  I NOTICE THIS LOTS TOO!  Remember what it was like for him to not pay attention to you and how bad it made you feel.  What ever u do, don't break up a relationship just because you are jealous of the attention you aren't recieving from a guy who wants a girl who will give him her attention back.
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Honey, you're only 16 and now you've gotten yourself a reputation.  Guys talk about this stuff!  Then guys will ask you out for sex only.  Guys who have never gone out with you will tell other guys that they have "had" you.  The guys who really like you are having trouble respecting you.\n"If I don't do it, they won't like me."!!!!  If you don't do it, what have you really lost?  Only someone who is using you, but you do gain back your self-respect, even if you are the only one who knows why.\nThe sad truth is that you may never be able to shed the reputation as long as you are going to that school.  The good news is that in two years, you will have graduated, your world and the people in it will change and you will be able to start anew. \nThis happened to me when I was in HS, and I never even had sex!
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Well the ones I've come in contact with are after sex. Some of them have other priorities but even so in my experiences it's always come down to them wanting sex. People do date in college and there are some good guys there. Just look out for the normal things. You know what you're willing to do and not do so just be yourself and don't be afraid to speak your mind and say what you want or don't want.
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I am not sure where you are getting your information from but I have had many men in my life.  Not all good but I was married once.  Of course I ended it I did not like the guy anymore.  But besides the point.  Maybe it is your personality.  Are you a shy person, introverted, don't like being around a lot of people?  Build a little self confidence and you will be fine.  Plus you are in high school, don't worry so much about the boys.  Have fun with some friends and when you get to college you will have guys falling all over you.
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sounds like everyone needs to grow up in your college.  but it sounds like nothing will happen to you because if something were to happen it would of happened already, i wouldnt worry about anything
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Simple:  the guys are intimidated by you.  Point blank.  I had the same problem in high school...you will find better opportunities when you get out of high school and into college!!  Just keep doing you and achieving all you can achieve...they will come to you in the end!!!  I know because it happened to me!!!
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> I need to get back into work mode, which has seem to left me a long time ago.\n\nGreat! Count this as your first step towards doing something about it. This is a joyous moment! Be happy about it!\n\n> Right now I just feel like asking philisophical questions to myself, playing video games, thinking about girls, talking with my friends, and sleeping.\n\nCongratulations, David, you're normal. Welcome to the world of knowing your responsibilities and being mindful of your existence. Sorry if that sounds odd, but really I think you've partly answered your own question here already. First, though, it's obvious that you need to get motivated. Isn't being in "deep peril" motivation enough? I assume that would mean failing at school, or not meeting some other important work requirements? But what's more important? Is it girls and friends (be honest with yourself), or taking responsibility for what's important right now? Think about this, though: All those things keeping you from "entering reality" (as you put it) will still be there after your school stuff is finished. The thing that's even cooler is you'll probably appreciate them much more than you do right now. Plus, they'll still be there while you're focusing on school. It's not like one or the other. Yes, balance is the key here! Of course there's the outside chance that your behaviour is somewhat psychologically imbalanced. In this case, David, I recommend that you have a chat to a school counsellor, parent, or a local psychologist. Anyway, good luck and go get 'em on your studies! Really hope this helps.
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BECAUSE YOU WANT ATTENTION FROM YOUR FRIENDS. . YOU WANT TO BE THE CENTER OF EVERYTHING . . THATS WHAT IT SEEMS LIKE TO ME AND THAT IF YOUR GUY FRIENDS FIND GURLFRIENDS THEN YOUR SCARED THAT THEY WONT HAVE TIME FOR YOU ANYMORE
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Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
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i felt the same way last year before i went to high skool. i had no friends to start off with literary all my friends from middle skool went to different skools and i was left alone. i was scared alot. but time passed by i made a bunch of friends and class isnt as hard as i thought it would be. it is different then middle skool in away. just sum advice, the ppl who r too nice i mean way too nice dont trust them cuz there just a bunch of like upperclassmen who want to pic on the freshman but ya other than that have fun