Well me and this guy has been friends over seven years and he has a daughter by another woman and I have a daughter by another man and we finally got together this year and he was going through a divorce and I am wondering if there will ever be a chance that we will get married?
210278
If he loves you and you love him then you will get married when the time is right.  However, you have to be patient, if his marriage ended badly (emotionally that is) then he might not be ready to commit just yet.  You should not take that as a sign that he does not love you or doesn't want to be with you.  Just go slow and keep talking to eachother and it will work out the way it was intended to.
616039
That's a hard question. There is no certain time. You will know if what you have is strong. I met my now husband when I was 16 and he was 18. We talked on the phone for a week before we met. We met September 1998. We got engaged December 1998. We were planning to get married and started trying to talk my dad into signing the papers allowing me to get married (I was 17) in January 1999. I found out we were going to be parents in March 1999. My dad swore that's why we wanted to get married, you do the math, I was not pregnant at the time we started trying to get him to sign the papers. Well he finally signed the papers and we were married in April 1999. I gave birth to our baby in November 1999. We now have a beautiful 6 year old little girl and we are still in love and very happy. This past April we celebrated our 7th anniversary. This September will be 8 years together. \n\nMy point we moved fast and we are still together. After the boyfriends I had (none serious) and the girlfriends he had, those relationships went no where. My husband was engaged for 2 years to another girl (about an year before we met, no I did not split them up, they had been through for a year or more when we met). That relationship didn't go anywhere. Yet, he meets me and within 7 months we were married. We just knew we were for each other!\n\nYou will know, give it time. Love works in mysterious ways!
624138
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
70832
Your right but make sure you make it clear she finishes school and they do get married.Its not he will get her knocked up after living in its like 24/7 being together and it doesnt work out.put condition that she finishes school gets married then has a child since i know of a similar thing happening to a friend of mine and after living in she got knocked up and it didnt work out LOOK OUT FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS FUTURE PUT CONDITION THAT SHE FINISHES SCHOOL GETS A JOB GETS MARRIED THEN HAS CHILDREN.your a very good mothers.best of luck.
277721
no, I don't think you should. If they are unable to remarry at this time, they are not dating material. Just my opinion. You could be setting yourself up for a disaster.
41766
I have had the same three best friends since I was four and now I am 26. They are all very awesome but we have gone through the all the stuff you can imagine would mess up a friendship. Dating the same people (one even married an ex of mine), working together, living together, not paying back money, and having other friends, all kinds of stuff. But the good stuff way out ways the bad and if they are true friends you get through it and get over it. My friends are always there for me and I would be lost with out them.
80473
family friends son met him online four years back even though when he was studying here lived in same building then turns out we met online one fine day since his professional job as doctor surgeon works abroad we are going strong for 4 years im a virgin waiting for marriage he knows and respects it though things get shaky when we cant chat online or talk over phone all in all it works out and i love him SO much and we have 9 years difference  engaged married and having children soon best of luck hope your online fairy tale turns out like mine did or better then mine best of luck and happy falling in love he sounds great and your a great girl and both seem like a made for each other couple
4977
not a problem. married a woman that is 7 years older than me. and have a couple buddies that married older woman
76394
Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
314473
I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
522567
Well, im divorced. While I loved my husband we had too many issues, particularly his looney family. So unless they were gone, no, i would not marry him again. But, I also would not give up the years we had together, or the beautiful son we have together, for anything.
270359
I suspect that the two of you were not telling the same story, although you think you are. But this is immaterial. Why listen to advice from other people? If you have both decided that divorce is the best way forward, then this is what you should do. Forget other people's opinions. These just muddy the water. Just be thankful that the two of you have made this decision and can still be friendly towards each other.
651960
Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
80903
I was this man two years ago. He wants someone when the divorce is over. You do not want to be that women you will only get hurt in the long run. What he needs is a friend not a girlfriend right now. Sorry to tell you this but it is true you will only get hurt.
47376
See there is no guarantee in love and marriege.Nothing last foverer. Yes is possible that you can get marry . But one thing you have to face, one important fact before that happen: there´s too much people involved which will suffer with your decision.  So you have to slow down and do the things in steps.In others words: Divorce, after let the time goes for both sides to recover and then make public the relationship and after get married. if the love that you have to each other is pure, will survive and stand all the process.
502586
No, I don't think they will get married...maybe you've got a chance, Who knows? I think her Dad tries to run her life though...I feel sorry for whoever does marry her.
608562
i was in this very situation for the last two month, The man left me for another woman and while he was gone he was calling me the whole time and asking me if he could come home. He just went with the other girl for the sex. We had been in a relationship for nine years and have two children together. He eventually left the other girl and is now back with me and we are married now for the last week. Don't get involved with a man who is on the rebound it wont work. I told the other girl he was still seeing me but she didn't believe me.