I was speaking with someone recently about how I hate internet pornography because of how it has turned women into animals and/or objects in the minds of so many men.  I've gotten to the point to where I almost hate sex because it has been used to hurt others spiritually, emotionally, and even physically for one's own selfish gain.  The person I was speaking with said that some girls like rough, emotionless sex.\nIs that really true, or is he just falling for the smiling faces of abused internet actresses?  I personally have a hard time neglecting the fact that even the most sensual woman was once a tender-hearted, innocent little girl - and deep down, may still very well be.  Am I sorely mistaken, or has the act of sexuality for the purpose of drawing nearer to the heart of your soulmate been severely degraded to a violent, emotionless act of selfish lust, and personal satisfaction?
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Can I just say *AMEN* .  I felt that all the way over here in Texas.
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Here's your honest reponse...I am more "angry and disgusted" with men who are in a committed relationship but use escort services.  I think the excuse that "they're not getting what they want so they look for it elsewhere" is lame.  I can't tell you how many women I know who aren't sexually satisfied, yet they aren't looking for escorts. From some of these other posts, it sounds like there are people out there who think this is acceptable in their relationship.  Kudos to them.  My preference is that my committed partner is not chancing contracting an STD and bringing it home to me.  \n\n As far as "call girls" go....while its not the profession for me, I'm not going to judge how they live their life.
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Hey, Conan, here's a newsflash:  you're normal!  Right, some men aren't quite as driven as you and some are even more driven.  But they're normal, too.  As long as you don't hurt anyone, including yourself, ain't no sweat.  And as long as it does not bother your GF...Look, there is no absolute regarding what endorphins do or do not do for you.  There is a range of acceptable responses and yours do fall within that range.  By the way, if she gets you that hot 'n bothered, would ya mind posting her pic so's us other guys can see what we're missing?
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I think you have a lot of courage to admit this and to apologise for it. In the big picture, it is a small step but it is a step regardless. It means that there will be one less person spewing hate because they can or because they think that some book justifies their hate.\n\nYes, we cop everything that you mentioned. I'm glad to see that you realise this and can see it from our point of view. Everyone has flaws but I don't think (and never will) that being attracted to the same sex and falling in love is a sin. Love is a sin?? If that's so, then you may as well send me to "hell" in a rusty old billy-cart since I am happily committed in a relationship with my "wife" and I have never felt better!\n\nThankyou for your statement. It's a kind and selfless gesture that your God would be proud of but I hope that is not your reasoning behind it. For the record, I am not a follower of your faith. However I know that this is a big step for someone of your following to do so I commend you for it.\n\nThankyou,\n                Mookie
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thats one of the most relative questions ive seen yet. thank you. i understand. girls wear clothing that could easily qualify for soft core porn andif a guy looks she gets pissed. and it causes problems for us guys who are in relationships because our girlfriends get pissed if we even glance.  let me tell you, the pain it causes on my testicles, is just unbearable at times. its crazy the way they are. they don't dress decently. they dress like their from the most popular corner of camden. i feel ya man. your not alone...im behind you. j/k
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It has been my experience that men are physical creatures while women are emotional creatures.  Men equate sex with love while women need to be nurtured mentally.  So, sometimes women give in to men's constant craving for physical/sexual contact without being fulfilled emotionally.  We hope that by sharing the most intimate parts of ourselves with a man that we will receive love in return.  This often leads to heartbreak, disappointment, bitterness, and resentment on the behalf of us women.  We live in a society that is couple friendly and we want to be part of a couple, so we sell ourselves short.  It is sad but true.  Yes, low self-esteem is definitely a factor.  That is why we must begin early instilling in our little girls that they are beautiful, wonderful and powerful INDIVIDUALS and that they have a choice as to who they share themselves with.
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Depends on who you ask, and what their ulterior motives are. We could get into a deep philosophical discussion on this. Or go the basic route and say that for most men it's about their pleasure and rarely their partners. For most women it's an emotional experience more equated with love for their partner. Of course this does not bode true for all of the male or female sex. Mainly it's a way to relieve stress in two willing partners, and have a spiritually enlightening experience when done right.
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it's definately recieving more and more recognition as an addiction. its on the level with addiction to porn and other sex industry (strip clubs, phone sex, etc.) i don't think it's quite like sex addiction (most people with sex addiction are chronic masturbators, relate everything to sex, and it is often stemmed from sexual abuse.)\n\ncybersex is very seductive because it is real, yet it is not physical contact. I've been married 7 years, I'm Christian, and adultery is unthinkable to me, in the traditional sense. but i have given in to cybersex. I don't think it's "okay," but I realize it was an easy pit to fall into. and i have talked to people about some WIERD stuff.\n\nif you feel it is a real problem, like if you feel doing it is wrong, or you are doing it too much, or it is interfering with your life or keeping you from having meaningful, real-life relationships, seek help from a professional counselor, or, if possible, discontinue your internet connection for a while, if that is practical.
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Why are women so arrogant as to think if they are dating someone, that she is the only woman he should ever want to see again naked?\n\nC'mon...geez...porn is harmless (unless it becomes an addiction)...guys are more visual than women and they like to look at naked women...why does this trouble you? It doesn't mean he wants to do the chick in the pic...\n\nDo you not EVER admire a nice looking man when you are in a relationship? NEVER??? If you don't, then you are a rare bird...because it's only human to admire others...\n\n...however if we (and you) admire others while we are dating, we should feel bad right? Because our partner should be all we ever think about or look at in an appreciatively admiring way....right? (wrong)\n\nWhy does this trouble you so? Why are you jealous? Perhaps you should look at why it bothers you and fix those things within  yourself...\n\nHOWEVER the fact that he lied about discarding it is an issue...what else has he lied about? I think you two have bigger issues than porn to deal with.
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aha! the preacher's in town. sir, with due respect it is no one's prerogative to classify sin or non-sin like this. how about sex without consent with your 'legal' partner of the opposite sex (if you strictly follow the 'natural order')? is that all right to do so? and to mention the countries you are talking about, i think people there are as much randy as anywhere else in the world. maybe a little more repressed too. but all that is changing with the societies opening up to the idea of discussion on sex and sexual health of a society. the last thing we want is a pseudo pundit trying to make matters worse for those who feel there is no release.
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I don't agree with the whole theory, you shouldn't generalize the fact: I do enjoy penetration as much as the oral caresses, my man gives me and sleeping together. I think it really depends on how you developed your sexuality.\nOn the other hand, I agree on the fact that some girls think that there is a "normal" type of sexuality, they should have to be eligible for relationships! And then, they don't enjoy sex as much because it's not really their desire expressing itself!
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I partially agree with that opening statement about sex not being the problem. If sex is motivated purely by lust with no feeling or intimacy then lust becomes the problematic instigator and sex is the resulting perversion of the mind and body. Lust is the real problem, not so much the sex.
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LUCKY,hmmm.......  pondering  ...huh    yeah..  ok...   what in the hell kinda questions is this.....do you think that we like to act that way or make others around us feel bad.....its not choice...its misery....sorry for your misinformation.....\n\nI know in your manly world that is seems awful and I am sorry but show some love for the women who are in the pain once a month...come on...
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sigh, alas tis the truth with many of the females...because i hear that all the time too, the whole 'i want a good man, i ain't settlin for no scrub, he has to respect me, blah blah blah" and right after that they can't let go of some alchoholic that beats them, or some playa that cheats on them constantly but "oh i still love him, if he does it again he's GONE"... when he shoudl've been gone in the first place.\nYou know what's even worse?  LOOK AT THE YAHOO QUESTIONS!  A LOT of women are askin "what should i do, i love him but he's cheating on me what do i do?" \nor "i like him, he's a great guy, but he watches porn and flirts with other women..what should i do?" I mean you see a hell of a lot of questions like that...so that's a good question, what ARE women's defense to that? Cause i'm one of the good guys, and THANKFULLY i've found a sensible woman who actually KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!  But i've dealt with the gullible and confused girls that dissed me for the a*shole, and then had the nerve to say they're just stronger now after gettin over it, when in essence they shouldn't have been in it in the first place!  \nWhat is up wit dat?
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I have heard it said that people who desire a deep intimacy and feel frustrated with HOW to get there, often turn to sex, or false sexual likeness to try to satisfy that need for intimacy. As people we are created to need closeness, to need another person to look inside and understand and identify and ACCEPT. You NEED this too. If you see pornography as a bandaid on a huge gaping flesh wound, you will be more likely to seek out something more that will actually satisfy you. Have you ever heard of pornography as a being like a doorway drug? Where it can draw you in and loose it's luster leaving you wanting more, or something more to give you that high....this is how a person progresses to the next stages of sexual addiction and illness......people go onto spying (peeping Toms) to flashing, to children and so forth...all very destructive. It is because a person gets set in the wrong direction....going down the wrong path looking for what they need, pulled farther and farther away from being able to relate and have a healthy giving sexuality.....Pornography is deceptive because it gives you a false sense of power...that quickly leaves. It's the shell of something more whole......and because it leaves you want it back, and your body and mind will trick you into sickness...liek any drug...when you aer desiring more intimacy, You are actually isolating yourself from other people the more you are pulled down by something that controls YOU, and not something you are in control of.....this is your one shot at life. You are made to have a purpose that only YOU can have....you have to be responsible enough to not let yourself get stuck in a corner. YOU are powerful when you tap into your authentic manhood...and that comes out in how you give to other people, how you help, build, be the hero.....fill your soul and self with those things and watch how your desires will be met....You have what it takes to use your strength....get out there with real people and use it!
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It's funny sex and love are two different things. I'm sure he isnt trying to hurt you,but he is insensitive to your feelings. You should tell him what you want...not what you don't want. Part of being satisfied is rolling with what turns your partner on so they are satisfied. It's much easier to get yourself off if your partner is happy. Not to reward him for being selfish, but I would give a good acting job just once to see how he reacts if YOU are the one that is getting off to porn.
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I agree with Sonny. Sex is natural. Unless you are a nun don't deny your humanity. It will only get worse, not better. Ever hear of sexual anorexia? I too struggle with my sexuality. I was a victim of a rape that resulted in some serious physical and emotional trauma. I spent years swearing off sex. My issues around sex did not get better. The only way to have a healthy sexuality is to be sexual. Even if it is just with yourself! Get a vibrator and explore yourself. It is healthier than sitting in denial, I promise!\nCheck out this website to learn more....\nhttp://xxxanorexia.com/