he went to a place where he got help for his behavior in school,but he wasnt the only thing getting him in trouble..anyway all he wants to do is watch tv and kiss but i cant just do that i want to go places and have fun..the prob is i do sorda still like him,but in differant ways i dont.im so confused.
215299
well every1 will say move on....you need better, but i have been there and its so hard to do.  Tell him how you feel.  and i know this is hard to do but....if you have any ANY dbts about him....leave because in the end he is sure to hurt you.
230045
I actually said the same thing about my husband.  Around me he is totally different then when he is with his friends.  I finally just asked my husband what the deal was.  He looked at my puzzled, and replied that of course he acts differently around me.  I couldn't understand it.  He told me that the way he acts with me is how he wants me to see him.  The way he loves me.  The way he acts with his friends is just being one of the guys.   I told him that he cusses, drinks when he's with his friends but not around me.  He said he respected me to much to act that way with me.  Its a guy thing.  I've learned to live with it.
408997
Respect.\n\nYou both obviously both did it for the same reason. For him. If he doesn't know how to respect others and their choices, then he shouldn't be participating in the lifestyle either. You tried it. You didn't like it. He should feel blessed that he got that much out of it.
59163
For goodness sakes! Is he ashamed of being with you or does he not want people to think you are an item? He sounds like a guy I used to like in high school and in the first year of college. We only went to church together. And when we went out, it was after dark. He didn't want it to get back to his dad that we were seen together. \nYou might want to ask him why. But if his behavior does not improve, just leave him and his issues alone.
642064
That's actually a tough situation because there's no guaruntee he'll ever been 100% ok with affection. This isn't going to help much, but start out small by trying to be affectionate at home and work your way up. Small things, like hugs, hold hands while watching a movie *at home*, and the occassional kissing that doesn't lead to sex.... IF that ever becomes comfortable then you move up to small social settings with friends. You don't want to jump right into situations where there are a lot of random people around. If you can't get up to or past the stage where you can be affectionate in front of friends it would probably be best to let it go. You don't want to push to hard, and in the end it's not always possible to change a person. I hope this helps.
63691
He is obviously young and shy. He's probably feeling vulnerable and doesn't want to be shot down and look like a fool. he probably doesn't know what to say or do to even approach you. invite him on an outing with some friends to the movies or something. in a group setting it's much easier for him to become more comfortable around you. He'll know you at least like him because you invited him. but don't through yourself at him that's always a big turn off. doing things together as a group is best because it also helps you become better friends.relationships are always better if you start off as friends. sounds like you might be pretty young so taking your time and not jumping into anything is a good idea. PLEASE REMEMBER TEEN RELATIONSHIPS ALMOST NEVER BECOME PERMANENT FOREVER RELATIONSHIPS SO DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU WILL LIVE TO REGRET ! Yes like sex.
125223
Well one thing is certain - you are going to have to get the hell out of there for your sake and the sake of your kids.  This guy sounds like he has the maturity of a seven year old, he is pure selfishness.  Sure he wants to go with other girls, but I bet he'll sit around drinking beer, playing with himself and watching TV.  You're better off without him.  You obviously have a lot of love to give, and you want love in return - you're NOT going to get where you are - so you have to face up to that and move on.
595351
I know what you mean. It's like when he get's together with his friends they turn onn a switch that makes him totally different. Trust me I had the same problem. I talked to him and asked why he acts so different around his frinds. You should ask him why he acts like that and talk to him about how you feel.\n\nTrust me it will work 9 out of 10 times if he really cares for you.
249555
I was in the same situation that you are in. Mine was also 5 years of age. This child hated me. Wouldn't give me the light of day. So this is what I did. I would ignore him at first. I found out what he liked and disliked. I started to watch power rangers with him and other shows. At first he didn't like it but then he got used to me being there. I would also play cars with him. Same way with the TV show. One time I asked him if he wanted to go with me to go get some hot wheels. Now we are really close. You just got to get at the child's level. Interact with the child more. The child maybe a brat at some times but show it. Kids can see right through you. This is there way of testing you.
338992
Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
227501
You know we all didnt want to do something Stupid in life. I guess you shouldn`t have told him like I told a kid that I like him he is weird around me. He just doesnt run away cause we go to the same school. Anyways Good luck
210445
Oh my gosh girl, if you have to stop being good to be with him then leave his sorry butt and don't look back.  School is more important than any guys and the sex part, please wait until you are married!  I wish I had.  Sounds like he thinks you make him look bad by being good, don't ever stop!
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He is just wanting attention, and if thats the method hes going to go about it, dump him.  Go out with me im 6'5" and ill do anything you want. ....Kidding\n\nBut seriously thats what he is doing is getting your attention in a negative way, and wanting you to feel sorry for him.  I used to do the same kinda shit when i was 10!
136799
I could write on book on this, but I'll try to keep it short.  First, try to follow his request and let him make the first move.  If he doesn't make a move in a week then I'd say there's something wrong with the relationship.  My first guess is that moving in together has caused some problems. By moving in together, he may have learned some things about you that he doesn't like.  It could be that you're messy or your just getting way too much into his business he now misses the privacy he once enjoyed.  You should ask him if there's anything that you do that gets on his nerves and watch his reaction.  If he needs his privacy back, then let him hang out with the boys once a week and don't set a curfew because that will just piss him off even more.  If he wants to stay out late then just tell him to sleep on the sofa.  Good luck...
350066
He's a bully. If you stay with him, get used to a life of walking on egg shells. I bet he was "sorry" later and tried to tell you he didn't know what made him do it, or said you "made" him do it.  It's not a mood swing, it's a precursor to more verbal and emotional abuse.
245129
You have a very difficult situation and empathize with you for that.  I do not know enough about your son to know if he is capable of learning how to read and write at a level where he could function in society on his own.  If he is having positive relationships and friendships at school, I suggest you allow him to continue going.  The social aspect of a childhood is vital to development.  It is important for him to understand the context that he is brought up in.  It is is important, however, that he get used to learning and studying, I whatever level he is capable.  If he is ready to play, but not to study, try to be creative and find things for him to learn that are also fun.  this way, learning and playing can be brought together.  Once he starts learning things for fun, it may be easier to persuade him to learn things that are not more fun.  As always, patience is essential.  Best wishes.
120581
Some people don't want to associate with people who have helped them through troubled times.  It frightens them, because they remember how bad off they were. While you obtain strength and support from the program, he feels it is holding him back in some way--like it's not letting him move on with his life.\nIf he isn't drinking or hostile, let him be.  If he begins to act hostile, he should seek professional counseling.