Im just trying to see who REALLY cares about their bf/gf. The way I see it if you cheat on someone and you keep it a secret you DO NOT have the right to get mad if they come to you saying they cheated,on the count of you did it to them but kept it a secret. I think if youre going to cheat on someone dont be in the relationship. People can do better then that.
214425
I comepletely agree with " if you're going to cheat on someone don't be in the relationship." But if you do cheat, I think you should be completely honest with the person and then hand the reins over to them because now it's their decision if they still want to be with you. But some people truly believe in "What they don't know, wont hurt them" but the fact is that enventually they do know and you are a worse person for not only being a cheater but a liar.
149224
I had 4 boyfriends excluding the one I am currently with. And 3 out of 4 of them cheated, for dumb reasons. One was not getting any from me, so he looked elsewhere (I was 16 then, what the hell did I know about sex). Later another, cheated with my best friend after she threw herself at him. After the that the last didn't know how to keep it in his pants because of self-esteem issues. I did not want anything to do with any of them after that. It is a sin to cheat and if you know that cheating defines you and relationships then you need not be in one at all. There is no way to avoid a break up I won't even want to be your friend.
102375
Cheating!  And look what's become of you as a result of being with a person you don't, and should not trust.  You cannot stop someone from cheating.  You can however control yourself. Time to move along.  Better to be alone than to be driven to insane behavior.  Sure relationships require work, but not hard labor.  Is this how you want to live you life worrying and snooping?  There really are honest, true men out there, and there is one waiting for you.
117920
Your girlfriend is scared that you will leave her. Have you been unfaithful in the past? This is feeding her fear. You should not change your feelings about honesty and openness, this is a good thing in a healthy relationship. If you told her the information in an arrogant way, then you may be creating this situation yourself. But, if you were diplomatic and caring when you told her, then the problem is hers, not yours. If her lack of trust is annoying you or getting you down, then think about ending the relationship as arguments will only feed her insecurities and make the situation worse. If you love her enough to keep reassuring her and you can do this without changing yourself, then stay with her until the jealousy subsides. But be aware that it will always be around.
470088
Cheating is a selfish act. It's not really about intentionally hurting their partner, it's just they are more concerned with their own satisfaction.
192251
If you're in a trusting relationship, it all depends on expectations.  Obviously, he should respect you enough not to cheat, but if you let him know that you are uncomfortable with his actions, he should care enough about you to at least tone it down.  It's natural to admire people of the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) gender, but it's not okay to be overly gawking if you are in a commited relationship.  I always try to join in on the action by agreeing with him.  Is it enough to know at the end of the day that he's going home with you?
573306
Well, men and women alike cheat. Not everyone mind you. We are all different and have our reasons for cheating or not cheating. Speaking on behalf of men, my personal opinion is that if a man cheats, he does think about it, even if its at a subconscious level. I have never cheated on anyone I have been with, but that's my choice. I prefer to end the relationship if I feel that I want to be with another woman. Cheating isn't worth the headaches or the risk of losing someone you might care about.\n\nI think if someone cheats, they have very low morals and isn't someone worth being with. This is why I believe that most people get involved in serious relationships too early in life. They should be out there having fun and enjoying their youth. There will be plenty of time to get involved in a serious relationship. Once we learn what love is really about, we can make better decisions on who will might want to spend the rest of our lives with.
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If it's something you know would upset your BF & it means you'll have to lie to him about it, then it's bad. Lying is bad for a relationship.\n\nIf it's only friendly- you know nothing will ever happen, and your BF is aware of it and OK with it - then it's not a bad thing at all.
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It's understandable that you are afraid to tell your friend because she can get mad at you for accusing her bf of cheating but you still need to tell her. Don't say it in a factual way like you for a fact that he is cheating on her but say it like you think but you aren't sure. That way, she will probably be a little more aware and pay attention to what he does.
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I am always honest with all my guy friends, but it is okay to lie if it keeps from hurting other people, like when I have guys trying to ask me confidential things about my friends and always lie so I do not betray their secrets. I keep things secret when a person doesnt need to know about it, its usually none of their business anyways.
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Absolutely but make sure your information is correct and also be prepared for them to be in denial.  A lot of people don't believe that THEIR partner could possibly cheat but you wouldn't be a true friend if you didn't try.  When it comes to things like this always put yourself in their shoes.  Wouldn't you expect them to tell you if the situation were reversed?  It would worse if they found out later from someone else and found out that you knew and didn't tell them.
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Cheaters are HYPOCRITES.\n\nBut cheating has 2 types; cheat for bad and cheat for good.\n\nCheat for bad is, as we all know it, for sure, it will hurt anyone. So don't cheat your BF/GF! Because that is not good in a relationship!\n\nBut there is a cheat for good. Cheat for good means, well, for example, you're actually meet up with you cousin girl, to just discuss about family matter. Nothing more, I mean he's your cousin!. Your girlfriend call your cellphone and ask, "who are you with right now?". You don't want her to feel suspicious because your GF is a really really jealousy person! So you say, "Oh..I'm currently discussing assignment with my friend, John. Why?". \n\nYou're cheating your girlfriend so that she won't get hurt. But YOU know that you're not cheating on her over a really bad thing. \n\nAnother example, you're in a toilet, taking a pee. Your girlfriend call your cellphone, "where are you?". And you say, "Oh...I'm errr...in my bedroom of course!". ;-P
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Exactly. I guess it just boils down to cowardice really. Some people cheat and yet are too afraid to let go of their existing secure relationship. Some claim they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. But by being unfaithful they already have. What they really don't want is to face the music and confess to their partners that they've been cheating.
189458
Different reasons. Depends on the guy, the girl, the situation... same as when girls cheat I supposed. Sometimes it's just because they are selfish and thoughtless and don't actually care about who they are with.
631375
You kind of answered your own question.  It sucks to be cheated on so why would you want to put another person through that?  If the girl really wants you then she should dump her man and be with you.
106683
People that cheat are selfish; they don't consider the feelings of another person until after the act is done. Then they're not really sorry unless you're willing to forgive them. But don't take the blame for someone cheating one you, it's not your fault alone, you may have missed all the signs, and made it very easy to do but it's not you're fault.
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I believe that many ppl ask the same questions only cuz there in denile, No one wants to know that there Girlfriend/boyfriend is cheating on them, and no one wants to know that anything bad is happening to them. As far as other ppl, they just dont pay attention but i do feel that sometimes after we write things we feel better and we reconize our own faults which sometimes makes us able to solve it... and YES i think they do it also for chat. BUT personally i think that if u are in a LOVE Bind and u think someone is cheating OR you are cheating then THIS place is the last place i'd wanna go UNTIL i read all the other ppl's questions and answers and that cuz ppl who think there being cheated on alot of them go on the *rebound* and fall in love with the first person that gives a good answer or the 1st person to respond lol... So in the long run (which is very sad) the cheated on becomes the cheater as well!