He asked me to have my ring finger measured and we have talked about marriage. We have not gone to look at rings together but I don't feel I should be the one to initiate it either.
199681
ohh thats a tough one. on one hand, you want to make sure you get the ring of your dreams, on the other, you don't want to be like HERE LOOK I WANT THIS! lol.. if i were you, i would talk about it with his sister or mother, or a mutual girlfriend.. who can casuuuually bring it up to him. if this is not an option, i would, again, casuuuually be looking at rings somewhere (in the mall, on TV, online) and nonchalontly be like, omg i looove this one! it's like, the perfect ring! hopefully, if he's the man for you, he'll get the hint :) but of course, you'll love him even if he throws a brass knuckle on your finger, right? :)
650582
If you're even questioning whether or not you should accept or decline, then you are NOT ready for marriage. You need to tell this man that you appreciate it, and you care about him too, but you don't feel marriage or, engagement, is appropriate just yet. Make sure you tell him it doesn't mean you don't want to marry him, eventually, but that right now, at this time in your life, you aren't sure if it's what is best.
641347
it upto his mind baby.\n\nmay be he does not like it before marriage\nhe is honest & normal\n& loves & respect u & your verginity\n\nbut may be u can talk with him freely & solve the issue.
160756
I'm not sure what the situation is for you. To me it was just a piece of paper too. Not because it meant anything about commitment but because I always felt it in my heart. Regardless I was willing to go through with it. Then we get divorced and theat piece of paper meant nothing. He's been burned twice before so he's been hurt and probably bad. Maybe you should come at it as the direction that you want the ceremony because it will make you feel good and see how it goes from there.
628855
it's not even important to receive a ring at all it doesn't make a person love another any more. I have been married for 25 years, never had an engagement ring don.t even wear a wedding ring now, but still love him.
23872
You might want to find out how he feels about this. I know my husband would have flipped if i had done the proposing. But, then again we are pretty conservative people. Good Luck!
97078
Listen bud-- you're taking things in a direction where you don't want the relationship to go. \n\nNow before you skim over this and scoff in your typical "You don't know me" fashion, let me just tell you that I was there.   I was you at one point-- \n\nThe problem with a promise ring, is that it will become a tool for the eventual downfall of the relationship. In a sense it becomes sort of a mini-engagement. An engagement without all of the rigamarole and girl's screaming and showing off their ring to everyone. The problem is that as soon as you two ever have a fight, or an argument, the first thing to go is that promise ring. That promise ring will become a symbol of your love for that person in a way that perhaps two people whom are dating never intended it to. A married couple would never throw their ring at the other person in a fit of rage, or return it whenever someone's feelings were hurt. \n\nYou're probably also thinking and telling yourself that that isn't the kind of relationship you two have. You don't believe me now, and I doubt i'll get a "Best answer" for this but you have to trust me, I'm right.
378075
have you talked to this guy about taking it to the next step? Maybe it's time for you to both sit down and discuss where you both want to see where this relationship will lead you to. If what he's offering at the end of the line is not want you want, then its time for you to re-consider the relationship.
644887
It has not been long since you both move in. Let the relationship breath, has he show any of his true colors yet ? If not, you may want to see how living together going to be. Just slow down and take one step at a time. \nHave you and him talk about marriage already ? If so, maybe he not ready to pop the question yet. Or maybe he waiting till the right time, he could want to surpise ya. \nHope everything turns out for the good.
628167
Nope.  I think your rings should be something you and your husband like.  After all, if you don't like it, you won't want to wear it.  The same goes for him.  You should be proud to show off your beautiful wedding bands, and believe me, people will ask to see them!!  \nThe important part is the symbolization that the rings hold.  They are a reminder of the commitment you and your new husband will have.  They should be a reminder that doesn't bring ANY bad thoughts to his mind or your mind!  \nRemember, even though you and your husband will be married, you're still individuals with different tastes in some things.  I feel like non-matching wedding rings remind you of your unity as a couple and your own personal uniqueness at the same time.
456504
Marriage is pretty serious or at least it should be.  A proposal by text message is pretty lame and pathetic.  I think it is a sign that he does not take marriage or you seriously enough.  You should not have to wonder about it.  Sorry you've had a bad experience twice, but hang it there, someone will come along that will treat you right.
572138
This is how I feel about "getting" a man to marry you... I would be insulted if I felt as though a guy was marrying me out of pressure or because he feels obligated. Best thing to do is talk about what you want and go for it with someone that wants the same things.\n\nYou are young, and you have plenty of time. If you are sure that this is a guy you can spend your life with and you believe that he really does want the same things you want - stick around for a while, stop the pressuring, and see where things go. \n\nIf things don't work out, then next time, make sure that you have someone that wants the same out of life as you do, and within the same genera time frame, before you get too involved.
302995
I think you should meet him, but not even entertain the thought of marriage yet.  All you really know is what he has chosen to tell you via his internet persona.  Who knows what really lurks underneath.
137903
i dont think your ready for marriage, actually i think you should wait a while and re think what it was that brought you and your partner together. sounds like your in a slump and very confused,  but best to wait then be sorry later on. talk to him and discuss how you feel.
255918
I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to want to "seal the deal". I would caution against making a big deal out of it at this stage in life, however.\n\nThe two of you are already as established family. This marriage, if it is to happen, should not be a means of taking the next step, but confirming you have already taken it and are committed to one another, if that makes sense. If he does not feel this way, then you certainly do not want to push marriage.\n\nAlso... Having had a baby and (presumably) lived together, you're sort of past the point of the traditional big white wedding, if you know what I mean!
66417
sounds like he cares a lot about you but is NOT in love with you. you are the best thing in his life right now, the only thing he is sure of and now he is going to lose you. have no regrets about it; you followed your heart and those actions never need to be explained or appologized for. don't worry you'll always be cool, just don't confuse those moments to mean anything for than that and i think you'll be fine. Don't forget to get your ring!
368337
Don't get too over excited, he may or may not propose so don't build all your hopes us, if he does then you will be very surprised.  It does sound like a hint though.