i am a 30 yr old man my gf is 38 yrs old i love her more then life itself i would kill for her die for her if she was going blind i give her my eyes and we are both crazy in love with each other and we are planning to get married so what do you think
211329
I think this.  Love is a beautiful thing and we are fortunate to find true love.  Unconditional love that lasts through all the trials of life.  It doesn't matter the years between the two as long as you two function well together and truely love each other.  Good luck, congratulations, and peace to you both.
499290
I think that you should get married if you really love him and you want to be with him for the rest of your life and the military life is hard but if your strong enough you can get through it. I'm 20 too and I'm married to someone in the military and it did not matter that I was only 19 when I got married. I know who I wanted to be with it and there was no point in me waiting until I was older.
231995
You know they always say that age is just a number, but in this case it seems that age is the FACTOR. She is young,scared, and unsure about what to expect from life...she just started living it as a young adult.\nYOU on the other hand have had time to "experiment" and live it up some...So my advice to you:\n1st-Talk to her about what you are feeling; because it is you and her in the relationship.\n2nd-If nothing changes and she isn't ready; which I am SURE you will respect her values...then it is time to move on. \nBecause there is nothing worse than being with someone who doesn't make you COMPLETELY happy.
609865
look here bud im 30 and ive been married b4.....but i screwed up and took for granted what i had. i am involved with someone new now and i have truely learned what not to do to jepordize this one.....who i am also planning on marrying in the future. just do what feels right....but when you do get married treat her right and make her feel loved everyday no matter what. hugs and kisses everyday no matter how pissed she makes you. if you can swallow some pride every now and then you should be ok.
304519
My brother in law married a woman older than him(I am not sure how much older).But she had a teenage daughter if that helps geuss her age.As long as both of you are agreed to see each other go for it.
457026
As you are a mature person. In my view you should marry a women who is not less than  40 years of her age.As there should be some correlation in ages as well.\nAlso there is no need for dating. Many dates you have already passed.
556286
If she truly loves you-she won't.  You stated that you love her alot and as long as she feels that and you have been honest with her who cares.  Life is too short and when you find someone you love-let go of judgement and hold on tight to love.  People that are secure and confident might actually find your past adventure a turn on.
435765
he gave you a very HONEST answer.. at his age your asking alot from someone out of the gate of life... he is still trying to find his way kind of thing....\n\nnothing wrong with you... nothing wrong with him... just two dif. point of views, beliefs etc... if he had a crystal ball and looked into the future and could see that all is well, he would marry you.. but we don't have that.... it is called faith, stupidity of better fortune, will, belief in the couple... I don't know... but it sounds like he is missing a good opportunity to share his new beginning with someone that will be pulling the rope from the same end as his..\n\nHe needs to understand that whether he makes a decision or not life will continue too move on, married or not, people will live, people will die, he may starve to death married or single... could it be a totall failure.... sure could... could it be a smile on his face when he is 90 years old and in his death bed... yea.... \n\nOne of the most amazing thing that occurs in this world is when two become one and step off into the black hole together... as there is no certantie in anything... that you or him will be alive by the time you read this, nor that your love will last, nor that it will fail... the only failure will be is to let what could be... not....\n\nHe won't become relaxed about any of marriage etc... till about 3 years into it when he realizes... it's not that bad... kind of fun as long as your expectations are in line with reality.\n\nIt amazes me when I see young couples... I ask myself was I ever really that young, that stupid?  And I think... I wish I would have been dumber and just lived... even if I starved in the process.\n\nThe greatest joys happen when we have the least.  That is a rough interpritation of a Chineese proverb...\n\ngood luck, go slow and understand where he is coming from... but you know which course you have too take when it is time... give him a little time... but don't miss life... it's a hell of a ride rich or poor.
534673
It is not for you to decide what steps to take in this situation. But you can help by asking her what she really wants...(as in- Ask her " Is THis what you want?" )  It is her life anyway! she's the pilot of her life-her destiny. \ni know that you're concerened about her welfare but i think at her age she can decide for herself. i hope everything turns out for the best. you'll never know what love can do to people, If they are really in-love.
256317
go for your love you will live only once.you are a man so you have to show her how much you love her and how much you can sacrifice to stay with her,then she will love you and appreciates you all her life
359969
if you are in love doesn't matter.\n(I am 40 and she 23;and until now we have 3 wonderful years together)
384741
Honestly, I am touched by your story. It is the power of love!\nI am fourteen now and I am also experiencing love now. I really love and care for her and believe that I would do everything for her. However, she told me that she didn't have that special feeling towards me. Maybe she has not realised how much I care for her. What I hope now is for her to wake up someday and receive me in her heart.\n\nSo, yes, follow your heart, if you really love her and she also feels the same, then you deserve that.
606920
Age is not important in a relationship as long as the people are adults.  I have alwys preferred older men.  The man I have been with for the past four years is more than 30 years older than me.  Of course you get the odd stares sometimes but when you love someone it doesn't bother you.  I say wait it out and see what happens, follow your heart.
572393
Don't let her put you under so much pressure, she knows how you think about marriage. Does she really love you??? If she would, she wouldn't do anything like this to you.\nI'm in a relationship for about four years, very happy! The first thing he made clear to me, when we got together, that he will never get married. And he was very determent.I didn't have a problem with that, married or not married, the aim is that we love each other. But 1 1/2 years ago he suddenly asked me to marry him!!!!! Course i said YES.\n\nI really wish you all the best with your gf and i hope that she really really loves you and tries to understand your point.
251739
i would marry her anyway.who cares if the father doesnt like you.its your life not any one elses,if you love her it doesnt matter.
212078
you definitely should. isn't it time that the both of you made another step toward the ultimate commitment to each other? you have been together this long and have already talked about getting married. i think you should do it. god bless both of you.
128326
if you love her trust her and are committed to her and she feels the exact same way...then i don't think you need to worry!\ni have never even met my girlfriend - we're online yet! and yea we love each other to death and we trust each other totally, and with all our hearts!! and yea we'll be getting married too...and thats not gonna happen for another 4 years, at least, but yea i'm not worried about anything because we have TRUST in each other and thats all it takes for a LD to work out! TRUST & LOVE!\nso i don't think you need to worry pal...chill out! and all the best for your future!!