Does anyone know the best ways to socialise with friend without some talkative bother? yes, I want to make friend with some people at school but It kind of like some troublemakers border me.They made up that not true about me, event thought they are spying on me right now. I did not do anything yet because I know they will use some dirty politic to make the friend that I like to socialise stay away. These troublemakers will make up story about me for the whole school to make fun of me. What is the best ways I can do to start the relationship with friend that I interest? I event do some cool stuff to hint the friend that I like. The friend that I like get the hint. I want to move on to the next step but some troblemakers spying me now, I do not want them to catch me.
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since you are at school for all of this... and yes you arent going to like my answer but it is the truth... you should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor about the bullies... after that eventually if they do anything else to you, tell on them and they will have to stay away from you... if they have to stay away from you then you can walk right up to your friend...
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Why do you feel the need to test people? What is that saying about you? You don't know who you friends are?  If you have real friends you don't always have to say anything, my friends and I just start walking and talking together.  Come on now grow up and stop worrying about things that will not make any difference in the long run.
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stop being their friend\nthough its easier for me because i trash friends, more like acquaintances, like every year...\n\nnot my fault they ignore after when we dun have classes together anymore... i dun like to pursue what people dun care for... if they dun care for my friendship, then neither do i...\n\nsame concept... if they dun care for ur friendship, then neither should u...
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Friends aren't suppose to make you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, guy friends are awesome, but there's a line between being friendly-friends-like to harassing. I've had a number of "guy friends" just like that, and so, I would know what I'm talking about. \n\nYou shouldn't let a guy touch or talk to you in that manner. It's not justified, and should NOT be put up with. Remember when I said I use to know a couple or so guys like that? Well, I told on my school administration... they took care of it discreetly... and I was never bothered again.\n\nGood luck! Hope it works out for you! :D
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Teachers are there to help you - I asked my health teacher about a problem with one of my friends, and she pointed me in the right direction, so don't be scared to talk to them!\n\n**I mean my friend was having a personal problem - so I asked the teacher.... I wasn't talking like a cat fight with one of them, it was something different....
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try asking them to be your friend =)
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Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
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Ask yourself is the possibility of getting this girl worth the effort of overcoming your insecurities and shyness? Is holding her, seeing her smile, laugh, waking up to see her face in the morning worth putting for effort to change?  You're the only one that can actually do that, though here is a little advice that may help you in talking to her:\n\nTo keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nAs for the no being able to relate to others because you don't drink of dance... You're not the only one, a lot of people don't enjoy the bar and club scenes, you'll find others that feel the same way. If the people you want to hang out with do goto these places you can go with them everyonce in a while. You really don't need experience to be with friends at most of them.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful tod
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Oh boy!! That's a touchy one.  First thing I would do is start off by letting her know that she is your friend and you don't want anything to come between you.  Sit her down and let her know you want to talk to her.  Then tell her you are her friend and you don't want anything to come between you and her.  Then tell her what has been happening. The tough parts are not coming across as a threat and letting her know you are sincere and really am talking to her about this because you value her as a friend.
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I would suggest that you get involved in a school activity so that you can make new friends and get to feeling more confident in yourself. Find a positive group of people to be around so you won't be lonely and you'll be busy with the activities too.  I was shy and bashful at one time.  The drama club at school really helped me.  I see why that person is an ex-friend. Even if something happened and the friendship ended, that's no reason to make fun of you.   Hang in there and don't become like your ex-friend - making fun of people. You be the better person.
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Do you have opinions of your own? Stick with your friend. You don't make friends for political purposes. You be true to the people who are true to you. Loyalty. \nNo one wants to be friends with the person who keeps on ditching their friends.
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Confidence and being outgoing makes one popular in school. People who generate positive energy (they love life) attract people the way honey attracts bees. In short people who are themselves earn respect from peers.\nWhat you can do to make friends is take up various new activities in school, get involved..have fun, be confident.. make the most of your young years. You will miss it!!Trust me.. Don't worry about having many friends, a true friend is more significant. Look for a TRUE friend. She/he will always be there for you but others can be decieving. So be careful what you wish for.
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You are in a difficult position as you are their instructor. You cant get included unless you form a casual relationship of friendship first, by chatting etc. As you build up trust, then you can mention that you are interested in going along to join their activities, or even ask what activities you could get into from them. Maybe better for you to look outside of the school, join social activities like evening classes. Less complications with relationships with "students " etc.
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is this group is a good one? I mean, are they good friend of u (truly friends)? If that so, why don't u ask them why they don't want u close to those person. if they have strong reason for that (ex. those person are junkies, etc), then just follow it. \n\nbut if they don't have good reason, ask urself, do u really want to be a part of a group who don't want to socialize with person outside the group just because ur group don't like that person? \n\nbe true to urself, do u feel comfortable with it?
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What kind of friends would make you feel uncomfortable and make you lie? Those are not friends! Tell the truth and if they dislike you after, you could get better people for friends.
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To keep the other person interested in a conversation don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions to get to know the person better, talk about any interests you have, classes, guys/girls, parents, etc. Become genuinely interested in the other person.\n\nThere are lots of ways to start a conversation; keeping yourself informed on current events, staying involved in activities, and keeping a mental list of good topics of discussion are excellent ways to break the ice. Ask simple, friendly questions about the person. \n\nFor other topics to talk about you can search the internet about things that you, or the people you will be talking with, are interested in. If you like games, perhaps search for the latest information about the x-box 360 games, pc games, ps3, revolution, etc. If you like tv-shows, movies, books, etc. Jokes are also great and the internet has lots of them. \n\nAlso remember that body language is very important! Most people don’t even realize it but most times you’ll already have made a lot of decisions about the person by their body language and tone, before you’re more than a minute into a conversation. You want to be cool, calm, and collected; act like the person is an old friend, even if you’ve never talked to them before, and make sure to look them in the eye. Instead of focusing on how uncomfortable you feel, prepare yourself by thinking of the issues that interest you most and what you would like to discuss about a particular subject. A little preparation can go a long way.\n\nPay Attention to what the other person says! This one is Extremely useful as you can bring it up at a later time and the other person will be surprised and pleased that you remembered.\n\nContinue to speak to everyone you know regularly. If you are walking and see someone you haven’t talked to in a while, stop for a moment and talk to them. It does not have to be a long conversation, just say hello, see how they are doing and if anything is wrong. You would be surprised by how little effort is required to win the friendship of others when you require nothing of them.\n\nBe nice and generally try to end the conversation on a good note. You don't have to make sure the other person has a great time Every Single conversation, but you don't want to think of all the petty arguements they've had with you.\n\nArguements... Don't. There are Very Few 'good' arguements. "The only way to get the berst of an arguement is to avoid it."\nIf you're wrong, admit it.\n\nDO NOT critize the person, or a friend, when talking to the person. If you want to point out something they did wrong, try to point out something similar you did wrong.\n\nSmile! Not a forced smile, the person you're talking to will be able to tell the difference. And you don't have to be an overly happy hyper-active person. Just smile naturally and, if you can, be somewhat happy. Remembering good times with your friends/family can help.\n\nLet the other person do a lot of the talking and be a good listener. (Somewhat stated in my first advice, ask questions, talk about interests the other person has. Answer questions sincerly.)\n\nHonestly make the person you're talking to feel important. You don't want to fake this one or do it too often, but if you honestly think they did something well, give them that praise.\n\nIf you want more advice, there are a couple good books that Will actually help. How to Win Friends and Influence People, is probably one of the best ones. It's an old book, but trust me, it's just as useful today as it was when it was written.\n\nI had one friend tell me recently that the way they dealt with being shy was to convince herself that talking was a competition with her own insecurities as the enemy. Thinking that way and forcing herself not to give in to her fears. It must've worked wonders because I never would've thought of her as having ever been shy.
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I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.