anyone with statistics? or are they're any Marriage counselors here? IS THERE A DR. IN THE HOUSE???
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not too many, don't like stats, failed it in college, am not a couselor, & not a dr.
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Hey, you have my name!  J/K, glad to see another believer has my name at least.  My thoughts and prayers for you are that you truly seek God's face during this time.  Getting married will not solve your fiance's situation.  In fact, it might compound it with the newness of marriage and everything sexual involved with it.  I commend him for his want to overcome his situation, and I truly believe he needs to seek Godly counseling through the pastor or another strong believer with experience in these areas.  You, also, should attend counseling.  Don't let co-dependency conform you to "accepting" his addiction because your love is all powerful.  It can happen and that I believe is not God's will.  We should love God first, and our spouse second.  In this be on your face seeking God's will for your life.  Another thing for your fiance to keep in mind is that he doesn't have to prove anything to God, God knows every hair on our heads, I would think he knows what is in the depths of each of our hearts too.  He really has to live a different life daily and dissociate himself from everything to date that has caused his situation.  Counseling, support and accountability are what he needs big time.  Prayers and love =)
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Perhaps a Marriage Counselor could help ease you through the bad times.  It couldn't hurt for you to set up an appointment for both of you for at least two or three visits.  An outsider can usually see a situation as it really is and point things out that you may not be seeing.
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For the sake of your children and keeping your marriage, I would see someone.  This is deep seeded and if you don't seek counseling I'm afraid more "stuff" will push you into that black hole you won't be able to crawl out of and cause you to do something your family will suffer for later.  Go seek counseling BECAUSE you love your family.  I'm sure your husband will support you if he is a good man.  Best wishes to you.
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I'm ready to get married. I have finished two degrees (BA and Masters), and have a clear plan for what I feel the rest of my life should be like - the pursuits, the activities, the financials, etc. I am tired of casual dating, and want to connect with someone on a deeper level. I am considering a child, but I am really undecided on children - STILL - so it's NOT the biological clock thing. It's not a factor at all.
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What the poll didn't ask was how many had ever been in "committed relationships without being married that have now ended?"\n\nIt's no surprise that divorce rates are highest among this group, because MARRIAGE rates are highest among this group.  They only believe and practice monogamous marital sex and procreation, and the further down the list, the further you get away from that concept of marriage.  The Gallup Poll question is misleading in this respect.\n\nThe poll question also does not specify that the divorces happened AFTER one or both members of the couple were saved, yet an author cited in the same article blatantly makes that statement.   Faulty / incomplete data.
591993
You need a professional marriage counselor!!  You are dealing with mental abuse.  Jokes won't do it.  Neither will anything you can find out here.
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I would suggest both you & hubby go to a Christian church in your neighborhood... The Pastor can give you free counselling which would be very beneficial. God restored my marriage and is better than before...He can do it for you but you need to have Faith in Him(Jesus). Plus you both need to ask Jesus in your heart.\n\nGod says:\nJer 29:11-13\n\n11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back from captivity.\n\nSeek and you will find.\nYou can also try reading "Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. Your hubby can start reading "Power of a Praying Husband" It is an eye opener in life, marriage, prayer & God. \nYou see 2 yrs. ago there was infidelity in my marriage. satan was telling me how unhappy I am in my marriage etc...and I started throwing divorce at my husband here and there. I praise God my husband was patient with me. I started praying about it bc I knew Prayer is Powerful. My husband prayed too. Some months went by and I started looking at my marriage in a different perspective. There was forgiveness which is very important. I was more loving and not so negative. I had joy and bitterness had left. \n\nSatan wants to destroy you & hubby & marriage. DON"T LET HIM!\n\nI pray you & your hubby choose Jesus! The truth will set you free. Not the lies that satan is whispering to him & you.\n\nGod Bless! \n\nP.S. By going to church, your children will also benefit. They have nice childrens programs and such a great environment for them.
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Work it out now before you get married; things are only magnified after the marriage.  If you can't talk about things now, marriage will only make it worse, not better.  I would go to a counselor.  If he's not open or willing, is he really who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
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In my experience, NO...I wasted two more years of my life "trying" to stay married.  Good luck!
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I think I might have an answer to part of your question, if I may. Of course, I can only speak from my own experience, but here goes. Maybe the reason we don't post questions about our relationships with our spouses, friends, family & other such issues is that we get our help from the Lord. We have His big book of answers, that helps guide us along our way. We also have each other, being connected by the same Spirit. We pray, asking God for guidance. We go to our Pastor's, asking for deeper answers from parts of the Scriptures that we're not acquainted quite so well with. You see, some issues need to be given into God's hands. You've seen some of the dating & relationship posts here...would you trust your relationship issue with most of the people that post on those sites? It's not intriguing when you think about it. But, one of the reasons I come to this site is to use my years of various experiences to help people. I don't always use Scripture, because it's not always required, especially when someone wants to know how to get wine stains out of their carpeting. Or how to get their two year old to talk. Things like that are practical, everyday experiences. Being that I've been married for over 28 years, raised two kids to adulthood, and have a mess of other experiences, I can help people...and I do. And yes, I am a "devout" Christian. I treat everyone with respect and answer every question carefully, even the ones that are nasty or just plain goofy. It's part of my nature to treat everyone as I would hope they treat me. For the most part, if you give respect, you get it back. This forum is a wonderful, yet scary thing. Through this site, I'm getting a different view of the world than the evening news ever could give me. There are just so many hurting young people out there, and I want to reach out to them. It's more than just the "mom" in me, it's the Lord Who is in me. Everything that gets to me has to go through Him first. I hope this helped answer your intrigues. <*)))><
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It may be that his church is filled with husband/wife couples and he feels the lack. Or people have asked him where his wife is. My husband and I are in nearly the same situation. I think religion issues have done almost as much damage to marriages as having affairs. Try to discuss this when he's not angry?
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Whatever is good for you. There is no "normal" for this. Some people have a higher desire and may have relations twice a day. Others may have a lower desire and have relations once a month. On average, the typical married couple has relations about three or four times a month. Often, they are too tired during the week and typically use Saturday evening for this activity. But again, it depends on you and your wife. If you have the desire for more or less often, then that is entirely up to you.\n\nAnd congratulations on having such an excellent relationship. I have friends from India who say their marriages were arranged between the families, and they get along wonderfully because everyone is involved in the success of the marriage.
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Oh no... there are christian psychologists and counselors out there? I mean not ones that just happen to be christians but ones who define themselves by it? And their therapy is "read the bible"? Oh please tell me this isn't true. For the love of all your holy stuff please no.... They don't have actual degrees do they? I think I'm going to be ill... You are clear on the reason that this "therapy" isn't helping, right? Do I really need to go into it further? Please suggest to your partner that they see an actual therapist with real training. They can be christian, even.
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Well, it would have been nice had you used spell check first...\nYour question is hard to read for those of us that actually speak and write in English...\n\nSo my answer to this is, which marriage were you speaking of???\nI am on marriage number 3 and at my age it would be foolish to act like a virgin this far into my life...\nI know others that are in their 5th marriage;  you think they should wait too???\nJust exactly how much holier are you than the rest of us???\nMy previous 2 marriages had the exes walk out on me because of cheating, and I was not at fault...\nSo we should study that aspect more don't you think???\nI do not agree with your logic or attitude... Sorry...\nYou could never make it work...\nHow would you ever prove it???
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Stupid No, lonely, yes.\n\nYou could seek the help of your doctor to find out what it is that is making your life so topsy turvy.\n\nBut men, well they are as hard to understand as us women.\n\nIt sounds as if you are divorced or seperated from the husband and that has your life in a whirl.  It is hard to adjust to such changes and they can effect a person in so many ways.  So for yourself, seeking the help of a professional would be wise.
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Of course.  Yeah you guys aren't on the same level in that regard.  It's perfectly exceptable to find someone esle to talk to about things that your wife can't.  You should check out Luke 12:22.  Great read.  basically says, "don't worry"....it's a good sigh of relief sometimes.