Last night my girlfriend and I argued and at first I mentioned that maybe we should take time off for a week.  It all started because she gave a guy a ride from work to his house for the 2nd time.  I told her it bother me and told her that why can't he just find his own ride somewhere else.  I ask her not to give him rides no more and she said if he ask him for a ride again she would still give him a ride.  After i cooled down i forgot about the lets give ourselves time off.  Later on that same night I told her how i felt trying to do the communication thing and she said then lets take time off.  I left as soon as she said that.  Drove to my sisters house and on the way she text me 3 times and called me.  I didn't answer her calls and she called me in the morning to see what i was doing knowing that i go to work.  She text me again with "why cant u talk to me?  I dont want to break up.  I love you so much.  I know i said that i needed a break but i didn't think that u would really go.
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Maybe she gave the guy a ride out of the goodness of her heart.  If you explained to her that it really bothers you and she ignores your request to stop it she is either being stubborn (he's not going to tell ME what to do) or she does not value your feelings on the matter.  When SHE said "let's take some time off" she could have been just trying to get back at you for making the suggestion in the first place.  At the very worst you've got yourself one of those girls who enjoys stirring things up to make the relationship a little more edgy and thrilling like it is in the very beginning when you're in the "does he/she like me or not stage????".  Have you ever seen the movie "Play Misty for Me?"  Extreme case.  They like to pull back to "show you what you might lose", then they panic and try to reel you back in very fast so you won't really try to get away.  Your idea af a break is a REAL GOOD one.  But set an actual time like a week or 10 days and agree NO CONTACT.  Tell her that you will not only NOT answer her calls and texts you will not even listen to or read them.  Assure her that you will not use this time to cruise for other girls.  That's not the idea.  The idea is to see how much you miss THIS one.  No cheating!  Good luck.
619791
If I read that correctly, it sounds like you said "I love you" to her and she did not immediately reply. You called her on it and she said that she says it all the time but did not say it just then. Is that correct? If so, then your apology should probably be that you were forcing a conversation when she already expressed that she was very tired and you are aware that she loves you too.
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This can be tricky. You need to be patient and open (and i know that can be extremely frustrating) \n\nI'd say start by calling her once a day. Just to check in. This shows that you're thinking of her, and you care about her. But if shes busy or if she just doesnt want to talk (dont take it personally, this break might not have much to do with you) then she has the option. \n\nWhat gets frustrating about this is it puts the ball in her court. You have to wait for her to decide when she doesnt need space anymore. I know that sounds unfair. And it is, but thats what comes with taking a break. \n\nIf you really care about her, be gentle, be patient. Hang in there. \n\nAnother thing I would suggest is to find out how much of a break this is. (This is a hard subject to bring up... maybe wait a week or so and see if you can determine how serious it is before you ask) If she wants to date other ppl, then you need to know that. But if she wants to be with you and just needs time to think about what she wants from your relationship, then its a different story (for an example, watch Friends... the Ross and Rachel fight)\n\nPlay off of her. If she calls and is still very friendly, then be open and happy about it. It will help her find what shes looking for from the break. But if you dont hear much from her, just check in with her, but keep up with your own life. Make sure youre still going out with friends and having fun without her.
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Dude, you're either in the mood or you're not. Sounds like she has a sh*tload of stuff going on in her life right now. Don't take it personal when she says no. It doesn't sound like it's you.  The poor woman is worn out. Try to help her out a little more.  Good example: you had the day off, why wait until she gets home for her to cook dinner?  Have it ready when she gets home. It's the little things.\nSeducing a woman is an all day every day process. You can't take her to bed after a day like that and expect her to be "in the mood."\nSounds like you two need some adult time, anyway. Try to plan some time for just the two of you.\n\nGood luck!
139897
Sorry to say but most likely shes seeing someone else. Sounds to me like shes just calling you up when she has nothing better to do. I don't mean to be so blunt but I don't know how to sugar coat that one. She probably wants you to stick around because shes unsure of the guy shes seeing and wants you on the back burner in case things don't go well with him she has you to fall back on. Sounds to me like your a pretty good guy. At least loyal. You should just ask her about it. If she can't give you a straight answer then the hell with her. Just move on. Good luck and I hope I'm totally wrong and you get your girl.
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You sound like you have some trust issues with her.  It is totally normal to give someone a ride to work.  Some people adjust seats and leave them that way.  I am sure he is not getting too comfortable.  I am sure it is no big deal.\n\nIf you trusted her then it would not be required for her to tell you that he has dropped him off or not.  How would you feel if she said that to you and you were totally innocent?\n\nYou really need to take a look at the trust issue you have with her.  Why are you concerned with this?  Do you think she would cheat?  Do you think she would lie?  What has she done in the past to make her think that she would?  Analyze that and maybe you will uncover a deeper problem then giving a guy a ride to work.\n\nGood Luck!
653013
I think you hurt her. The thing about this situation, is you messed with a girl who cared for you and now that you showed her your bad temper, it made her realize that she doesnt need that in her life. Men dont understand that half the reason why women leave them is because they have said something that offends their girlfriends. Girls have mixed emotions that get hurt easily. It seems like you hurt her feelings. Just keep calling, she may or may not answer. But next time you need to listen to her side of the situation first, unstead of jumping to conclusions and yelling at her before you even know why she didnt call back. Good Luck
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As hard as it might be since you LOVE her and want to be with her. Look you need to cut her off for a while, at least until she comes to a decission of what she wants. Fact is LOVE HURTS,but sounds like your gettin used. Why would you let her use you, I know in hopes she will stay, but have you ever thought she might come to a decission if you didn't let her use you. So next time and until she decides what she TRULY wants don't let her sleep over. Just tell her goodnight and send her on her way, let her think for a while. Besides do you deserve this think of your own feelings for a change. APPARENTLY YOU'VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT OR HEARD APPENTIENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. GOD BLESS and good luck
535003
I can relate to you perfectly. The guy I have been with for just about a year did not know if he wanted to keep the relationship going. After a long talk I said I was willing to work on it but he still needed time to think it has been like 6 days now and he hasn't even called me. Your entitled to be sad and angry after all she wasn't 100% honest with you and that is always painful. About the being torn part the best thing I can say to you is to pray and ask who ever your god may be to give you the strength to get past this and to open your mind and heart so that you can know what it is you have to do. Also taking a break with her might not be a bad thing after all you never know what you have until you lose it. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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though you didn't grab her to hurt her, that's your opinion.did it occur to you;you may have hurt her emotionally.it only takes one time and though you didn't hurt her it was all she needed. i cant say whether she would return or not.its a ticklish situation.but i wish u the best and hope you guys work out your differences.
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She's a bit insecure, and like the idea of having you on a leash.\n\nshe is playing emotional mind games with you and keeping you hanging on, pretending that you may have a chance.\n\nShe may also have broken up with you because she wanted to start another relationship with someone else, and then the other guy blew her off - she is stuck in a rut and has no-one to give her attention - and she knows that you still have feelings, so she calls you again, and makes a re-connection.\n\nshe is playing games with you - trust me, I have done this to a few guys, it's not nice but it's part of life.\n\nif you really wanna give it another go, try and get back with her, but give her conditions and ground rules, so she doesn't take advantage of your naivety and vulnerability, cos she knows that you are a bit soft and gullible, etc... sorry.\n\nanyway, if i was you, i'd GET RID!
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I know where this girl is coming from. I think she is pushing you to see if you will take off at the first sight of trouble. Thats what I do. It's a way for her to protect herself from jerks. It's not fair to you but it sounds like she's been hurt before. Go to her and talk to her face to face, not on the phone. Tell her that she is pushing you away and that is why you are pushing back. Ask her flat out if she wants this relationship to continue. If she does then you have to make a personal decision, can you stick around through the ups and downs? If so then tell her you will wait it out. Let her get comfortable with you and trust you. If she pushes too much and you no longer feel wanted at all then tell her that, let her know that it can't continue, and that you need more than that.
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if u guys need a break u need a break. but why go on one if both u guys don't exactly want to. if ur thinking of taking a break make it for a good reason. do u guys have good reason? and if u do go on a break then u have to fight those urges to want to see him. u have to remember that ur going on a break to give ur selves some alone time. \n\nand wen u see him during ur break then its not gonna do any good for either of u. don't go on a break just becasue u guys have been going out for ages. go on one coz u really need it.  wow i noe i'v said the word break a lot in this. but seriously think about it. talk to each other about where u both are in the realationship and see if a break is really wat u need.
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I think it's a little weird that she was pissed when you needed to leave the next morning.  It's almost insecure.  When she cut you off on the phone it does sound like a game.  I bet she is waiting to see if you call her, not IM.  If you really like her, get over the issue of calling her place and give her a buzz. Otherwise sooner or later I'm sure she'll call you. Be careful....it seems too soon for her to be so over the top about you not staying longer.
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I think you're right about having the right to know if she's considering it.  I also think that you might mess things up if you pressure her too much.  Atleast give her a day or two before you start pressing the issue again.  Hopefully within those 48 hours she will get back to you.  When you do call her, if she doesn't call you, try to keep it casual and let her have some sort of oppurtunity to tell you what she thinks before you flat out ask.
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she's f*cked up! why would she do that that is stupid.......i hope eveything turns out ok but that's really if YOU want to take it that slow, it's really your decision i'm just here to help you decide....e-mial me and i see if i can give you anymore tips if you guys get back together\nby the way i think you should get back together but on that certain day she has you guys talk or what ever say your busy that night or just don't pick up foor her and then call her another night and see if she gets mad. or if she sets a certain night to go out then say your busy that night and try to reschedule. if she gets mad i suggest dumping her cuz that really is f*cked up.\ni'll try to help you in the long run\n\n~matcher and love expert
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It sounds like you both care about each other but need to toughen your skin so to speak.  It's hard not to take things personally, but it is a choice.  If he doesn't call you cack for 13 hours, you have a right to be upset, but if he says he was busy, you can either choose to believe him or not.  It is your call.\n\nAs for taking a step back, it sounds like it's part of the drama.  Most likely it's a move to get you to realize how much you are into the relationship.  Point blank: sit down and talk with each other.  Figure out first what you hope for each other and what you want out of your relationship and then weigh that against what you have now.  It may not be what you're looking for, but it may be exactly what you want and sometimes we can make things difficult when things seem too easy.