This is a bit complicated. Went out with a guy couple of times, then he called me saying that he couldn't date me any more. I made peace with it. Two months later, he emailed me, guessing he wanted to pick up from where we left. The reason he couldn't date me any more is that his ex got pregnant, now the girl had a  miscarriage. Meanwhile, I am trying to break up with a guy I dated on and off, who doesn't return my phone calls. He got some stuff in my place that I wanted him to come pick up. it's so messed up, so what's the easy button?
202043
The guy that you date before that got the girl pregnant I wouldn't date him cause he cheating on you the way it sound and he might cheat on you again with another girl and get her pregnant or get you pregnant which I'm sure your not ready for that. The guy your dating now I would just throw his stuff away if he doesn't pick up in 2 weeks and you should just be single and spend some time with your friends take time to figure things out and then start dating guys that are really into for the right reasons there really is no easy way out. If you take the easy way it will come back at you
31708
Change your phone number!  It sounds like another person likes one of you and is trying to break you guys up!  Change the # and be careful who you give it to!
492860
The relationship just aint working sounds like. Give him an ultimatum either you make some moves on me and call me and take some initiative or it's over and I'm moving on. Yes you'll get the hurt of a breakup but you'll some day find a better guy who will actually "communicate" with you. Good luck with all that.
607894
thats a hard one okay i have been through it so many times and the urge to not pick up the phone is hard.what was the reason you and her broke up?she needed her space,3 years is along time but sometimes people grow apart it happens.this guy i was seeing we broke up and its been 8 months and i still want to call him its hard.i waited for him to call me but he did'nt.just wait and see if she calls you most of the time if you don't call she will wonder why and she will call you .just give it time.if she don't call move on it will take some time but you will get through it good luck
59408
He has already broke up with you. So dont call him, email him go over his house or nothing.  Just know next time he see you, you must look the BEST, The Bomb, the Freshest.  Stay FLy.  He will want to call you, watch.  Or, you can let him see you by being somewhere you know he will be.
564660
Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
526711
Tell him that you are very sorry that you hurt him. I don't know what happened to make your relationship go bad...but I know that if I was dating a guy and we broke up for whatever reason I wouldn't want to hurt him. That would make me hesitate to break up with him. Maybe you could point out whatever difference that broke you up is now resolved. Tell him also that you could start out very slow as friends and then get to the dating stage evenutally. If you really love this guy you will be willing to take as long as it takes to win him back. Good luck.
507754
Is there such a thing as breaking up with a friend? \nYes! Sometimes it's best to cut a friend loose if his antics are stressing you out more than cheering you up. \n\nEveryone goes through life experiencing relationships. But it is very rare that one of these relationships span an entire lifetime. People have fun together but also, people often break-up for many reasons. These reasons can range from simply growing apart to finding your partner cheating or simply being too different to be together. Break-ups and reasons for them are not meant to scare someone away from relationships. The simple fact is, one should enjoy relationships, but at the same time, identify warning signs so one can see when a break-up is necessary and when things go sour with your guy, you know a breakup is imminent. \n\nIt's hard to do. That's the biggest understatement of all time! Ending a relationship is among the most stressful things a person can undergo and is never easy. It sucks and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.\n\nYou're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do? \nDo not return that call. \n\nAnd what if you picked up the phone? What then? \nThen, "lie". Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.\n\nAnother possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity,  is the good old "distancing technique". You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.\n\nYou really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do? \nAgain, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose. \n\nAnother option - "Honesty" within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry -- or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates. As much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do.  Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry. \n\n1. Don't be too specific if it's for  reasons no human should ever hear: You smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these (unless you're breaking up with him because he sucked in bed, in which case you better lie.) \n\n2.  Don't try to be "friends" once it's over. That just drags out the inevitable; it gives him hope that you might change your mind. \n\n3. Don't have sex with him the night you break up with him or later when he crawls back begging for you to take him back. \n\n4. Insist on NO contact. Breaking off for good is always better for both and less stressful.\n\nObviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances and your relationships. \n\nJust remember: Be Gentle, Lying can be good for the male ego and less hurting and Specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific its better to be Ambiguous. \nGood Luck>r
310842
Okay, dude treated you like crap.  He destroyed all your self-confidence and left you feeling really low about yourself.  Him treating you like crap only when you were hanging out with your friends is not a minor thing.  That is a sign of a controlling, possessive person who wants to cut you off from your friends (support group) and have you depend on him for friendship and support.  That is not healthy.  \nThe fact that your dad made you break up with this guy is probably the catalyst in this situation.  You needed to make that decision on your own.  That power was taken from you.  You needed to realize on your own that this dude was NO GOOD and you wanted more and deserved better than you were getting.  \n\nI am speaking from experience.  I was in a similar situation- dating a guy who treated me like crap, my family and friends hated him and kept telling me that I deserved better but that made me want to stay with him even more.  I even moved 2 hours away from everything (family, friends, home) with him.  It lasted about a year and a half even though I was miserable the entire time.  I didn't think it would do any good to break up with him- he'd just come after me and we'd end up back together.  I didn't have a good enough reason to get away from him.  I had created a whole new life for myself with him, and breaking up with him meant giving all that up.  The only thing that made me come to my senses was getting pregnant.  It gave me a whole new perspective of my "new life" and the way I was living.  I came to realize that I did not want to raise my baby in that kind of environment around that type of person.  It gave me the strength to leave him and completely cut myself off from that life and move back to my hometown.\n\nIt might help to think about things from that perspective- if you did get pregnant, would you want this guy to be your baby's daddy?  Is that the life you would want for your child?  Is that the kind of environment you would want to raise a child in?  \n\nDo some soul-searching.  I highly recommend keeping a journal, it helps to sort through the tangle of thoughts, feelings and emotions connected with relationships of any kind.  Write it all out and then re-read it.  Even if you have to burn it afterwards to keep someone else from reading it-what you write may actually surprise you.  And remember:  You DO deserve better!  You are a good person who deserves to be treated in a good way.  Right?
299791
When you call him you are pestering him. Let him have his space or he'll never want you back. And why bug out about it, there is a reason why he dumped you and I personally think you need to move on. I guarantee if you start dating he'll want you back. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, and enjoy life. Try writing a letter to him instead of calling this will help your need to be in contact with him. good luck
129529
I've met a lot of people on a dating website.  Some guys are just on it to find some girl that they can have sex with.  Some guys are on there to find mr/mrs right.  I have met both types.  I met my current boyfriend off of a dating website, and I can see me being with him for the long haul.  We talked a fair amount online, then we started chatting on MSN, and then we talked ont he phone.  It sounds a little funny but our first date, wasn't that much of a normal date (movie/coffee), I needed a lift to our mall, cause my vehicle was busted and needed to get fixed and he offered me the ride.  We have almost been together ever since and talk every day.  You just have to be careful, and don't let the bad ones ruin it for you.
325111
he's using you...\n...\n\nhere's his mentality....\n... since you went to his house on the first date\nand let him grop all over you, he thinks you're easy...\n... i don't wanna know if you actually did give him\nhead or not.. but you've made enough mistakes...\n\n... your best advice is to leave him...\nBUT... if you think you have something really special\ngoing on, then here's the best choice..\n\nMAKE HIM WORK FOR IT...\n... little things like breaking off a date because\n'an unexpected incident at work..' or something like that..\n...\nif he gets mad and frustrated.. or over reacts,\nthen i suggest you leave...\n.. \nif he understands and asks for a date convenient for you,\nthen he's a keeper...\n\n....\nthe most important thing for you now...\nis to REDEFINE YOURSELF...\n.. he's probably got you tagged.. "Easy-to-get-some girl"\n\nyou've got to make him work for you... it's not too late..\n\ngodspeed
103271
You missed your chance with him and now you are out of luck.  He has moved on and made his choice so let him go and find a single guy to chase after.  If he is doing it to just make you jealous then don't play his games because you deserve to be treated better.
286156
He's just trying to convince you to have sex with him.  The truth is there are a lot of people out there who date and don't have sex.  Next he'll probably tell you,"well I guess your still a baby since you don't want to have sex. I'll go find someone else" LET HIM!! It's just another ploy to try and get you to have sex with him.  People who love each other don't try to force their partner into doing something they don't want to. Besides this guy is already a loser, do you want to be the next girl he got pregnant and doesn't have a realtionship with?
36558
Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
359571
Uh, no.  This guy's a loser.  He leaves you for someone else, gets her pregnant, then leaves her and wants you back?  What are you thinking?  Well, maybe you're not.  Let me do it for you, tell him to take a hike and get out of your life.  You don't deserve him.
662298
When you say "date" do you mean that you've only dated occasionally and that you are not seriously involved? Or "date" as in, you've been dating for sometime, are serious and involved? If it's the first...then you will survive and move on with your life. If it's the second...you will go through a variety of emotions and eventually you will recover, hopefully with your dignity intact.  Do not chase after him. Let him go and do whatever it is he is doing (running,hiding, laying low).  There must be a reason why this has happened. If he owes you $$ for rent, utilities, bills, credit cards, etc., then talk with a lawyer about ways you can get back monies owed you. Let someone else contact him in legal issues, stay out of it.  The best of luck to you, hope you have a strong network of friends and family to aid you through the process of moving on.