she ditches me to hangout with him she took his shirt and wore it the next day.     \nshe lied and i don't want her to get hurt but she won't listen to me or my/ her other friend's advice we're scared for her and she's being a stobburn bitch help she hung up on me because she was french kissing her fucking boyfiend We need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
212781
Hell yeah!!!  SOunds like she wanted you and your ex to split so she can make her move.  Kick her to the curb girl.
576694
What you did was the right thing to do, expect the reaction you got from her because that is normal too. Now all you have to do is sit her down and tell her that you need to talk. Tell her that what you said was true, even though she chooses not to believe you, tell her that it hurt you that you were honest with her and she turned against you, that she's letting this guy come between  what you thought was a friendship. Tell her you don't appreciate being bad mouthed by her, (especially if your friends) because she chose not to believe you and that the only person that is missing out is her. She messed a friendship up and has a cheating boyfriend too. She looks like the weak one, because your not the only one that knows, if you saw it it other people have also. And ask her what kind of friend she is. Maybe not the kind you want. After that if your not friends then she's not worthy enough to be in your presence. Find a new friend.
514846
Tell her to stop then because it is hurting your feelings.  If she don't want to stop, then you should stop hanging out with her.  Friends should respect each other.  Stick to your decision, no matter what the consequence maybe.  Don't worry about her gossiping about you, the most important thing is you stick to who you are as a person.  Eventually your action will speak louder than her words, if she retaliate like that.
177183
Make her learn her lesson, friends are for life and they wouldn't lie to you so she should've listened to you. If you go back she is going to run to you everytime something goes wrong and when a new guy comes into the scene bye,bye to you. You are just setting yourself up to get hurt and seriously used.
420802
This is what she is affraid of. You are her best friend and she can't even talk to you because you haven't talked to her in almost a week. You just proved her point for her.My husband is my best friend. And back when he was just my best friend he told me that he thought we should try going out. We aready were going everywere together anyway. I turned him down also for the same reason I was afraid I would lose my best friend. Do you know what changed my mind. He looked at me and said o.k. can't blame me for trying. Now come out side and help me do the tune up on my car. By doing that by letting me see that he wasn't going to start acting wierd towards me. By just continuing to be himself around me. I realized that their wasn't anything to be scared of because my best friend would be there in this relationship with me.
271065
MAY IT HURTS YOU BUT ITS TRUE.......\nTHAT SHE DOESNT LUVS U AT ALL NOR SHE CARES ABOUT U.......\n\n\ntry 2 forget her bcoz if she is saying after rejecting ur proposal to maintain a relation as a friend then she is lying,(as it is impossible for a girl to say a person like u,that she doesnt needs u.)\n\n\nif u will not forget her now then in future ur pain will increase.just forget her and try 2 make some more friends who really needs u.\n\n\nSORRY AGAIN,\nG O O D L U C K 4 U R F U T U R E.
318244
I have the same problem she thinks that I ignore her around my other firends and then she does the same thing. When I confront her about it, it always ends up to be a fight or she responds with " Your a slut" and I am not. If i were you i would confront her about it or ignore her untill she sees what good of a friend you are to her.
220805
Tell her , that you want to learn the hard way if she thinks he is so terrible! That she should leave you , and if you bump your head , you know not to do it again in another situation!
309530
Maybe she was having a bad day.... Is she like this often. \nMaybe you should have asked her what was wrong? \n\nAlot of girls whether they realize it or not start ditching their friends for boys and maybe your friend feels threatened.\n\nMaybe shes on the monthly and had a headache....  \n\nBE A GOOD FRIEND AND            ASK HER\n\nIf shes still being rude without an explanation then she may be sending you a signal that your not as graet of friends as you thought.... \n\nJust try to bear with it, if shes your best friend...... but dont let yourself get hurt by this...
561832
I think you should start by keeping your distance a bit.  I think you should make other friends and spend time with them.  Just try to get out of it little by little.  Less calls, less get togethers, maybe even take a class dancing or in something else that she will not join you in.  \n\nThat way the distance will become more and more, until the day you guys don't' get to hang out very much.  \n\nIf she confronts you in a very angry or whatever tone, just be calm, nice & friendly.  Tell her that you guys have drifted apart and maybe you don't have much in common anymore.  But you still like her and consider her a friend.  This may still bite you in the butt, if she decides to spread gossip there's not much you can do but just ride it out, hang out with new friends, whatever.\n\nWhatever damage she could do, you're so much better off without her being around you, you will be happy and it will be worth it, just be strong.  You deserve good, positive, supporting friends in your life.\n\nTake care.  If you need a good defense to fight rumors, or whatever she throws your way, you can always contact me, or post another question, just be ready.
30439
Well... what's done is done. I usually don't encourage anyone to get mixed up in people's relationships, but perhaps what you did is for the best. You may have saved the guy from a worse heartbreak than he had just experienced. \nAnd for your part, she does sound parasitic... a friendship should go two-ways, it's unhealthy to let just one person absorb all the benefits for herself while the other suffers. Not to worry, hopefully what you did will help her realize her selfish attitude. Plus, not all girls are like her, there are others who will brighten your day instead of always asking something from you. Good for you, for speaking your mind and trying to do what's right :)
321188
If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
599868
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
173669
I wouldn't take her back as a friend. Excuses or no excuse, if she was a real friend she wouldn't have ditched you last minute and would have suggested an alternative. If she had a problem with the dress why didn't she pull you aside and say, "Hey, think we can shop around more or have it made?" And even if you did offer her those suggestions, she could have said something. Friends should be able to communicate without holding back. It's not your fault she was insecure. About spreading those lies...Girl, Im sure your other friends knew she was lying. Back to her though...she has no right talking about you and saying such things. \n\nThere would be no other option in my opinion. I would clearly never talk to her again. Deep down she knows it was shitty(excuse my language) to do that to her "Best friend" and even then, you have to think maybe you werent her best friend at all. Like I said, friends dont do that to other friends especially best friends.
170554
Here's what really happened.  We'll call your boyfriend bob and you Jane and this other chick Sarah.\n\nSo Jane and bob are dating and Bob sees this chick Sarah who he thinks is really really hot and he's like OMG i would love to have sex with her.  But bob does love Jane and doesn't want to hurt her.  How do i have sex with Sarah and not betray Jane??  Bob asks himself.  Then he comes up with a plan.  "Jane" he says "me and you needs to take a break"\n"ummmm OK" Jane says :(\nring ring\n"hello?" Sarah says\n"this is bob.  OMG i want to have sex with you!!!!"&#92;\n"OMG Bob you are a total loser- aren;t you dating Jane??"\n"yeah but we took a break"\n"yeah, like YESTERDAY.  You loser!" CLICK\n\n\nomg.  bob thinks.  i AM a loser.  \n\nRING RING\n"hello?"\n"Jane this is bob.  i want you back."\n"but i heard about Sarah you loser."\n"oh i was just calling her for some other dude"\n"oh OK!  I love you!!!"\n\n\nPOSSIBLE ENDING:\n\nJane decides she's not so sure about bob.  she gets on yahoo answers and people let her know that bob is in fact a LOSER.\n\nRING RING\n\n"hello"\n"bob this is Jane,  i want to take a break.  A PERMANENT ONE."  :)\n\ntHE END\n\nand Jane lived a happy- loser free life.
652456
The last time I answered an "urgent" question, the questioner never came back to pick a Best Answer.\n\nBut, anyway, here goes...\n\nIf you're going to play that silly game of "I'm busy over here with my friends" then be prepared to suffer the consequences. Basically, you snubbed her a number of times and she ended doing a "f*ck you too, buddy" on you. Then you wonder why...\n\nWakey, wakey. If you're ever going to have a chance with this girl then you need to stop playing games and communicate with her normally, treat her with respect and just let it lie for now.\n\nIf this is how you typically behave then we now know why she dumped you.
570759
Dude trust me and give her time and just stay in touch with her and start at the friendship level again and see where it will go if you presist on calling her or showing up where she is you will just piss her off more and push her away