I love a girl and she told our love to her father and i have spoke to him 3 times and he is not accepting. I even told him that we had sex b4 and still he is telling that he will take this issue to his relation. If their relations accepts he will accept else he will not coz we two belongs to different caste. Iam a typical man who never think my life with other girl. I had sex with her in thought that she is my wife. For the past 45 days they r not letting her out and i do know where is she currently. They r also not giving any ph calls to her. She is 23 and iam 25. She told to her frd that she will not ran away with me and she waits till her father does mariage to us else she will not marry other. But her fath told that he will tell the result in the month of May. But as far as i heard from a frd she told that he will not do marriage for us. Iam ready to take this issue even to media coz i love her that much and i need her. She hasn't made any cals still now. PLS let me know what 2 do
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Hey... If her father does not accept you.. or her... or both of you... Then there really is not anything you can do... If ya'll love each other than that should be enough... You make his daughter happy... and that is all that should count.. She may hurt her father by going against his will.. But... Love is more important than Obediance.
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I can understand that what u r facing now, and it is very typical 4 you I know. But now what i am going to say is too much typical for u. The fact is that he is a married man, and u have 2 accept this typical fact of ur life.\nU have no other option.\nI don't know anything about u and ur boyfriend. And i can't guess that how much he is loyal about ur love. But if he is not loyal to his wife and cheating her. then how he will remain loyal to ur love in future. Think!!!!!\n\nThe another fact that, he may be want to use u for his sexual requirements. But there is lots of chances. And its a fact.\n\nWell dont think just about ur self. Think about ur family. Think about ur boyfriend's family. Think what happens when u take a wrong decision.\n\nJust concentrate on ur future and carrier. What u have to do next.\n\nDon't listen romantic and sad songs, and try 2 listen spritual songs if u have faith in God.\n\nWell if u want 2 really overcome from this problem and want 2 concentrate then I have some tips which I can't disclose here. U may contact me at manojatindia@yahoo.com\nI am not giving answers for 2 points, i really want to help peoples.\n\nBye
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Here are somethings to consider:\n1. She's a scared as he might be by graduating. He'll go on to meet other girls and her 16 year old life will be a memory or after thought. Reassure her that is not the case.\n\n2. She's 16. Changing there mind is what they do. Marriage? Not in real life but now the reality of how different they are maybe setting in.\n\n3. Don't push him but be there for him. He'll talk when he's ready but you're the "other people" and could never understand what he feels or so he thinks anyway. You'll get your chance to speak but don't beat him up with what you'd do.\n\n4. Pray\n\n5. Be careful of boudries you set. All that matters to him right now is the girl. He may disregard any booundries you set which will cause conflict with you.\n\n6. Pray\n\n7. Explain to him her mindset (see #1). He needs to reaasure her and give her room. If he wants to keep her then he'll have to bit the bullet on this one and just do it.\n\n8. Never say there are other fish in the sea or anything close to that. He doesn't want fish, he wants lobster. Saying that gives him the impression that you don't feel where he is with it.\n\n9. Did I say pray?.\n\n10. Time. This is the part that hurts the most. He'll always feel something for her but only time will work for him. You don't need to rush him through it but love him through it. He needs his parents to hold him up in love. Not control who he loves. \n\nThe lesson he'll learn when it's all said and done is what love not only is but what it's not. This is a part of his development and as much as it hurts him (and you) he'll grow to maturity if he fights the good fight. \n\nWhatever you do, don't liken his kid relationship to a real marriage. To him it may be but you in your maturity know that we have all been here before and it didn't kill us now did it? Just love him through it and give him some room to grow. He'll be okay. \n\nLastly, we all respond to emotions differently (death, births, marriage, divorce etc). Some emotions you can't help but just need to let them take there course until they have run there course.\n\nDid i mention prayer? That's what I'll be doing for you.
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Wow, I have read all your questions and I feel for you.\nI think the most important thing are your 2 daughters that it seems like you both love. For their well being they need to have their father in their life.\n\nI think you really need to look inside and really think what is it that you want out of your life. I think you 2 are mature enough to not play games. If you do not have any reason to feel he is cheating, then I will not believe that he asked you that just to fish for information.\nI think that to have family dates on a weekly basis, should give you enough time to see if he is really changing, and to find out what are your true fillings for him. Also keep up the counselling together and each alone. I will stick to the dates and the counseling for now, until you are convinced that this time would be the last time.\nGood luck
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Yup....go, even if for a short time. Yup...tell your GF.  If you two are rocky...this will help both of you get some clarity....is it worth the energy to work through things or better use of both of your energy (and spirit) to keep growing as a couple?\n\nA note re the SGs...do yourself and them a favor...keep your distance. SGs do this to get attention....but, the attention they need is just a friend or stranger to validate them because they aren't being validated otherwise. \n\nSorry 'nough said...yes, I'm probably 'significantly' older...and w/ a daughter (consider that....you too may have a daughter someday...think about your future daughter....).\n\nDo have fun...and good luck w/ your GF!
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I agree with loving_father.\nPut yourself in your friends shoes. How would you feel?\nI was in this situation once. My friends knew my GF was seeing someone else and didn't say anything. Needless to say, they are no longer my friends. Do the right thing.
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The fact that he says he doesnt want to marry you is another way of telling you that we are just having fun.But there is no need to mention it.Not everyone will get married but if you love you girl enough, you will say i love you and show her that love.Automatically she will know that this is a worthy relationship.Mentioning that he wont marry you,should give you a light that he is not your guy because you seem to care about getting married.Why on earth would a person claim that they love you a lot and still have some areas of love RESTRICTED.Hit the freeway sister.....
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hey sunny being an indian (not that others dont understand)but still i'm saying i can understand things..there's one thing  u need to know life is not always fair!its natural frm ur girls parents side to stand against especialy when u have 4 unmarried sisters n i guess they rnt working either frm ur question n even if they r working being their brother its ur duty to send them married 30 or above watever!!n abt the dowry u'll have to make n all that wud be surely the concern of ur luver's parents.....n frm her part u said she isnt pushing hard too .it maybe cos there might be lots of limitation 4 her to press hard her parents(afterall they brought her up n u came to her life only after them!).anyways i think u'll have to 4get her ...but b4 that try ur level best to convince her parents n also think hard if u have the ability n financial set up to look after her if ever   u marry her..\nlastly there's one thing if u leave her like this when u still love her u might atleast have memories to cherish n if u jump in without thinking anything all u wud be left with wud be troubles..
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Go for it.... But before you do make sure your affairs are in order, make sure your bills are paid. MGive your daughter to someone who thinks straight and will be alive to take care of her.  In rea;lity this man might be a rapist a killer-- but hey throw caution to the wind and see if you can be another another number.
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Havent you grown up yet or are you your Momma's little boy, she takes decisions which effect your life. Grow up man, be bold and marry the girl you love. Age is not a problem if the two of you love each other.
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You need to tell tyour wife that your daughter is a part of you and anything apart of yu is family. If she cant accept that then why did she marry you. You have accepted her family and she needs to accept yours. You dont worry everything will work out in do time you just dont let that new wife keep you from YOUR FLESH IN BLOOD!!!!
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Dear girl, Oh my... I wish you had asked for advice 2 years ago; perhaps much of your pain could have been avoided.\n\nYou say you two have NOT been in a committed relationship for over 2 years and you are still with him. WHY are you still in this relationship? He's NOT committed to you and hasn't been for 2 years! Is he sleeping with other women? Are you sleeping w/ other men? Have you even thought about the risk of HIV and AIDS? You two have a child now. And my dear, why did you get pregnant with a man who hasn't been committed to you? You should never have sex with any man who is not committed to you. He gets sex, you get hurt. It happens every time. Unfortunately, you are not the  only one getting hurt; you have made a baby and brought your child into this situation. \n\nDo you two still live together because you have a child, or because it's easier than moving out? Let me ask you, does he support you and your child financially? Are you you paying any of the bills? Are you paying bills for your baby? If your baby's father is not supporting you 100% emotionally AND financially, then you are better off leaving for good, once and for all. I am sorry to say this, but it sounds to me like he may be using this "money issue" as an excuse and he doesn't have the guts to get out of the relationship. Some men can't handle being fathers, especially if they are not in love with the baby's mother. Having a baby brings a couple in love even closer, but couples who are not in love do not get closer after the baby is born.\n\nI wish I could tell you otherwise, but I definitlely think it's time for you both to be grownups. Living the way you both are is not the adult, responsible way to solve this problem. Make an agreement regarding the child's support and visitation and part company amicably. Many women with small children meet other men who do love them and will be committed to them and their child/children. My father met my mother when she was a yound divorcee with a 2 year old and married her and proceeded to have 2 more children with her. They were married 53 years until he passed. There is hope for you to do the same.\n\nIf you are not good with $$$, then take some money management classes (@ a local school, community college, aid center). You will need these skills whether you are on your own or not. \n\nIf you were not honest regarding $$$ with your partner, then I suggest you get to church, temple, etc., and you start being honest with God and yourself. Remember, you have a child you need to be teaching good values to now. If you were honest, then you're okay there, but going to a place to have a relationship with God will still be powerful for you at this time. \n\nYou CAN start a new and better life. Don't give up on yourself, no matter how hard it may be at times!
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oh. the same sh*** again and again. A woman likes a man and says his wife or gf isn't good enough.. doesn't deserve him and can't make him happy as much as she would have! You disgust me! why are you talking to him on the phone in the first place?? and how come there s nothing sexual while you are hoping to get him as soon as you can?\neither his wife is a good person while you are the bad one here, or he s just telling these stories to get your sympathy..use his misery as an excuse to sleep with you, and in that case both of you are sh** and the wife, again, is the only good person in this story.
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Well first of all she should be open and honest with him. She should tell him stright up how she feels. Its okay to tell him to wait, if he loves her he will wait. If she really love him and shes ready to take the next step in life, well maybe its her right time. Its all depending on her feelings for him and also her love for him. She needs to follow her heart.
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You can't tell your daughter's father to stay out of her life, because this will create a lot of drama between the two of you! It seems to me that he doesn't want to take responsibilities for his actions and doesn't want to be involved in her life! I agree with you; not only is he hurting his daughter by not being there in her life, but he's hurting himself as well. What he's doing now will be full of deep regret later on in life! If he doesn't want to be in his daughter's life, let him continue to pay child support! Besides, as your daughter grows up in the years to come, she will learn more about her father and won't show any respect for him! Good luck to you and I wish you and your daughter the best!
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You didn't forget to ask...she forgot to tell you. Don't blame your daughters sexuality on her though. Just move on with your life and find someone who is worthy of you love. Be there to support your kids.
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although you seem to be going through a lot of pain, and i do feel for you, the problem  is still the same...you want two wives! can't do that man, sorry. there is no way that you can fully love two people the same. you have to let one of them go. you might not think it's fair to you, but that's selfish. have you ever thought about what the women want? stop being selfish and let one of them move on and find someone who is willing to be with only them.