it is tearing us apart what do i do
209207
You need to tell her how you feel.. Friends will always be there and boyfriends will come and go...I lost my best friend because I was so blinded by my boyfriend and it hurts..
313138
the fellon but the way our system is it is all messed up
141598
Honey, it's a tough situation all the way around. You both need to find a way to sit the kids down together and have a full blown disscussion. The kids are going to need reassurances from both of you that you both will still be active in their lives and that what is going on is not their fault. Both of you as parents need to make sure that both kids know that they can count on you and come to you whenever they need to. If it were me,as a mom of 3, I would put aside whatever has caused the seperation and call a meeting with my kids and my husband and do exactly as I said above.
136801
I am sure it won't last. He has put a bandaide on a wound. Be patient and know that you are a queen and worth a lot more. Focus on you and the kids and everything else will work out the way its susposed to. If he isn't helping than you should have more than enough on you plate. Don't try to fix what you can't. All you can do is control yourself. Get that good and all other things will work themselves out.
37987
Please see a school counsellor as soon as possible.  Or call a help line right now.  Do you have a family member or other reliable adult you can talk too? Don't wait.  Get help now.
28537
It sounds like you are living in a dangerous situation. Pray for the wisdom & stregnth needed to leave this situation.\n \n1) Call local Churches & Synogoues they sometimes  provide housing, cash for food, clothing & counseling support\n2) Leave with your life & your childrens lives intact.  You can replace almost everything but life & limb.\n3) Take out a life insurance and disability insurance plan that covers you & your two children\n4) Create an Advanced Directive (a living will)\nthat covers you & your two children\n5) Create a will that covers your two children\n6) Don't ever go back.  \n7) Notify a safe person (Family (even distant family) or Friend) of your status.\n\nTake it from my experience..I have had life circumstances which taught me that my life & my families lives were worth more than all of our clothing, furniture & all of our stuff collectively.  We were able to store a few things.  But we left a lot of our stuff... Hey, we are alive and we can get new stuff later.\n\nLeave, save your life and your childrens lives. By staying, you are teaching them its okay to stay with an abuser.  Do you picture your children and grandchildren living with an abuser in the house?  Get out now, while you can still leave.\nGod Bless
396416
Why did you all split up?? Could it not work out with the 2 of you?? Have you told her how you feel, maybe you should. But if it just won't work out then you'll have to do what all us crazy people do when we love someone and they don't love us back is give ourselves some time and it will heal all the pain. Hope your heart feels better!!!!
331253
you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
412208
You both need to sit down and have a good talk about what is wrong.Listen to each other without interrupting one another and get to the bottom of it all.
566323
Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship.  You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways.  Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future.  I think this may be what has happened here.  If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.
233646
Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
12265
He may need a different type of medication and intensive therapy. Be supportive even when you want to throw in the towel. He needs you even when he's screaming at you.
387700
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
524617
I'm so sorry about what has happened to you... *HUGS*... You have to think hard about everything. Weigh things carefully. Should you and your wife get back together, there should be love for each other.  The first thing that you have to do is to fix yourself, physically and emotionally. Get help from your family. I know how it feels to be hurting inside, not knowing what to do with the feeling. It kills you inside. You want to cry but crying isn't enough to let your feelings out. Just fix yourself first. More importantly, fix yourself emotionally. From there, you'll know what to do next...
279219
take it easy to begin with,and try to realize that pain has a way of coming at you. you can handle it if you go one thought at a time. don't be all over the board with your emotional system,it makes it worse. believe me when i tell you you are not alone in this world,God sends us people who care , be patient and at least glad your alive  it may take time to sort it out but be GOOD to yourself,your worth it.
374679
the marriage is over. the 2 of u have lost all respect for each other. just move on. if u stay u could end up doing more harm. think abut the children. they have to see this behavior going on in the home. so just move on.
162564
You need to walk away for good. He is putting you on a horrible emotional roller coaster and is playing with your emotions. For your own health and sanity, walk away for good. Tell him you are not going to take this constant on-off situation and feel it is better that you go your separate ways.