im going to go 2 a new school, and i have never been popular, in fact i have never had a "friend" that hasnt stabbed me in the back once i trusted them. and im not frendly at all. its almost imposible 4 me 2 be frendly cause i went to a school that alwase had big fights going on.
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Being the new girl is really hard, especially when you've been hurt by friends at school. Remind yourself that it takes a friendly attitude to make friends and that not all people are out to hurt you! Instead of striving to be popular, be yourself instead! If you want to meet friends, join after school activities or clubs that spark your interests. Good luck!
439077
Well, first of all, you can't expect other people to love you if you don't love yourself first.  I had the same problem when I was in highschool.  Remember though, your there for yourself, not anyone else.  Your there to get YOUR education so you don't end up at Burger King for the rest of your life.  Don't worry about getting in with the crowd.  Find a few friends that you trust and that respect you and treat you right.  A few bestfriends is better than 100 not-so-best friends.  A best friend is someone you can talk to about anything and they'll be there for you through thick and thin no matter what.  That's all I needed in highschool.  But to be honest, you'll probably never see or talk to the people your going to school with now.  I only talk to one person I went to school with, and that's not even on a daily basis.  We keep in touch and that's about it.  I NEVER see anyone I went to school with.  I haven't seen but maybe 50 out of like 800 people I graduated with back in 2004.  Make the best out of your highschool years because after that your life 'begins.'  Cheer up girl!!!  Hope this helps.  Please feel free to IM me or e-mail me if you ever need someone to talk to.  I'll be here for ya!\n~Courtney~
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Growing up I attended 3 different junior high schools.  Each had a rewarding experience.  The first one, I had all my friends...and because of it, I clowned around to much and got poor grades.  The second school, I was lost, had no friends...but my grades were awesome!  By the time I got to the 3rd school...I learned how to be popular again by coming in contact with so many new faces each year...I really opened up and had a blast...and my grades stayed above average.\n\nGo to the new school.  Each new experience makes us a stronger individual.
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I used to be like that and I hated school because of it.  As you progress through the school system you will find that your intelligence brings you friends rather than alienating people, when this happens school won't seem so bad.
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I think the most important thing is to be yourself. You dont want kids at a new school liking you for someone you're not. \n\nSecondly, I would suggest you get involved with activities in the school and or the community. Examples would be a sporting team, speech club, choir, band, a church group, etc. Those are always good ways to meet new people, espeically people who are interested in the same things you are. \n\nAlso, dont be shy. Although it might be hard because you're around new people, don't hesitate to initiate conversations with people. That's how you'll get to know them. You're starting all over with a blank slate. No one knows what you've done in the past or about you at all for that matter, so let them know who you really are. \n\nFinally, best of luck to you! I'm sure you'll do just fine. =)
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Just go up and talk to random classmates in your school even if you're shy, tell a joke, just talk about stuff and I'm sure people will be your friend. It doesn't take much to get loads of friends if you try.
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Although popularity may have a lot to do with it, I won my class election in junior high and became president, and I was not popular at all.  The key is to be nice to everyone and to not make any enemies.  I'm nice to pretty much everyone and have never been in a fight my whole life.  Just try applying "treat others the way you want to be treated," to your life.  It may sound a little elementary-ish, but that kind of attitude will get you far!  Good luck in your elections and you have my vote!  lol! : )
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baby girl, take a small step. first have some interaction with strangers. like go to the gym or join a social event. the more you talk to strangers and get to know them, the easier you'll feel of talking. but don't join the popular group @ school or trying to be one. that's just not being true to yourself. the key is to build up your self-confident; that's all really matter to you. right?
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You are unhappy because you doubt yourself and you are afraid to go to a new school -- it's totally natural, you're just human.  \nEven though you were unhappy at your last school, at least you knew where you stood and what to expect.  You're afraid of the unknown now.\n\nWhat you need to do now is to forget about your old school, and be happy about your new school.  If you are shy then start looking into activities at your new school that you are interested in (yearbook, sports, etc.) where you can make new friends and be happy with what you're doing.  \n\nAlso, please realize that even though adults seem like they don't have these problems, many people have gone through the same thing at your age!  Don't worry, you'll get through it!
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Self-esteem problems have hurt my academical life definitely in my eighth grade year. I moved in my eighth grade year, and my self-esteem plummeted because I had no friends for a long time.I always feared I'd say the wrong thing or that people would make a mockery of me if I tried to participate in class discussions. I couldn't concentrate on studies because I was too busy trying to make myself, not my grade, perfect. After eighth grade I moved again. Miraculously I made a couple of friends within the first week or so of school, and I felt like I belonged more. I was happier, and my grades went up up up! I got mostly As, and probably only a couple Bs each year. Hope my experience can help your answer. Now looking back that second move was the best thing that happened to me.
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Aah you poor thing.  This is where I tell you that old cliche that it will make you stronger but only if you believe it.  It's still a positive thing to go through this I promise you.  It will give you a different perspective in life and this will help you to mature.  First of all, work really hard at school even if you have to do less in class to appear cool but you swot up at home when noone is looking!  Make friends with unusual people as this will make the cool gang wonder why you choose to be friends with people other than them!  Be strong, talk to your parents and keep the school informed of bullying.  Can you join any after school clubs or any other clubs out of school to make other friends or indeed with anyone who lives near?  Maybe walking to and from school with someone.\nDont try too hard you shouldnt have to beg fopr friendship rate yourself higher than that you are worth more.\nI hope youre ok.
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NO MATTER WHAT DO NOT fall into the popularity death trap! Being popular is NOT the most important thing in the world! YOu will find much better friends that are normal (not popular but not nerds) than you will if you hang out with popular people. They will get into so much trouble and they're what, 12?! Take my advice from experience: popular kids are nothing but trouble! OMG I remembr the populars at my middle school getting into drugs, drinking and even... well, I don't know if you know about that last one yet, but it aint very good! Just remember this: CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY! that's the best piece of advice that I can give you. I wish I knew that when I was in middle school!
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dearie i went through the same thing with this group of girls in highschool. they were pretty, popular and they wer all the dream girl type with straight a+ gpa and every one wanted to be them. and i was pretty smart as well so i got put in the same class as them for 12th grade calc. and i had the same problem as you, around them i couldnt think of anything good to say my mind always drew a blank. and i got all miffed too. finally after a looong time i figured out that although i have no selfesteem probs and i know im pretty my mind had aldready put htese girls on a platform on my mind because of what other people said and i couldint act normmaly around them. but this was after i graduated so i never got to make friends, shame. but dont worry you arent lesbian or bi (not that it is bad)\nmy advice is to start thinking of them as normal people same as your friends
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I have been to 7 different schools and I have just recently graduated....FINALLY!!  It was hard because you have to start over each time and you miss what you left behind but I saw every move as an opportunity.  Nobody knows who you are or anything about you.  You get to start fresh!!  The first few weeks can be a Lil shakey but just be yourself...that's the only way you know for sure that you have made TRUE friends...Good Luck!!  It will all work out, I promise!!
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i went to Apex high school in NC, i was there only for my junior and senior year so it didnt go well for me cuz i left behind my old friends. Even thought it was a really nice school it was dificult for me to make friends cuz in those days i didnt speak english very well, so sometimes english speakers  looked at me like i was a retard or something like that ...even sometimes they make fun of me... so yeah it wasnt a good experience for me at all. I hope this help.
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Dont change any thing about your self, Fake people are the worst. Are you in School? If so things get dif. when you get out of it. Just try and keep the friends you got, and get involved in activites (not in school ones).
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I was on my school's varsity team and got player of the year. You would think that I was cocky but I am completely the opposite.  I am always humble and polite. You would think that I was surrounded by girls but I was one of the shyest people at the school. I even wondered how some of the "nerds" were getting girls and I wasn't getting any.  Just remember that just because losers call us cocky bastards and we call losers losers doesn't mean that you guys are losers and were're cocky bastards. We're all the same. We just focused on two different things.