My mom asks me for money, and I can't tell her no. She says she will pay me back, but never does.  I can't tell her no because then she will be mad at me.  So I give it to her.  I can't keep doing this. By the way, Im 18 and living at home.
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Part of living at home is dealing with things like this. Depending on how much money you are giving to your mother, think of it as more of a cost of living there. If you are able to live elsewhere, for less - you MAY consider that - but don't forget - there is a whole lot more - utilities, insurance, you'll be alone or with someone that is not your mother - which means (if you are sharing) they can disappear at any time and leave you stuck with rent/bills etc.\n\nKeep track of the money, via an excel spreadsheet or even simple pen and paper. If your mother pays you back one day, great! - if not - then it was just the cost of your being safe in a place that you know - which is usually better than being in a place you don't know, with people you think you know.\n\nI Hope this helps.\n\nGood luck!
363341
You need to be honest.  You shouldn't lie as you can see it will bite you in the butt down the road.  Be honest and she will respect you in the future.  She, of course, will be upset at you.  You will have to pay the consequences for your actions.  Next time, call your mother before you decide to do anything that would worry her and ask permission.  This is a small price to pay for what bigger things that could have happened.  She sounds like she really loves you.  Show her some respect and tell her the truth.
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I agree with you on the position that staying home parent and taking care of the kids is a full time job.  But unfortunately since you are not earning income you are not considered working by the laws.  Why loan companies do not accept you only based on your income? Because you don't have any.  This is how they are looking at it- if they give you the money and you don't pay them (either loan for a mortgage or car or personal loan) how can they get money back from you?  From where?  If you earn money they can get a garnishment of your income.  And keep in mind that they are not in the business of repo-ing cars or taking away your house.  Don't get me wrong-they'll do it if they have no other choice but they would prefer to have another outlet of collecting their money.
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Ask her.  We don't know her, so..????\n  Also, get her "coupons" or gift certificates instead of cash.  \n  Isn't there some type of state aid she can apply for in your state, being she has a child and no support?  Check into it.............but don't give her any more cash.  Tell her it makes you nervous carrying it so you bought a gift card, or brough groceries yourself...........don't give her the money.\n  Look around and see if you notice things missing at her place, things she could sell or pawn, that's a good indication that something is up other than what she's telling you, also.\n  Does she do drugs?  Does she act like she's on them?
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Your mom might just not have the money for the lap top right now.  \n\nGo to her and tell her that you understand that it is a lot to ask for and tell her that if the money is tight right now that you would be just as happy with whatever she found it in her heart to buy you for Christmas already.  \n\nput in some other nice (guilt causing) effects and see if she springs for the lap top.
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I think it depends if the mother is a single mother or not. I have been paying my single mother rent money to help out for bills, mortgage, groceries etc. But my mother never forced us (my sister and i) to pay her but just to help out a little. If the she's married and you think the mother/father could afford to support their family then i would agree with you. on the other hand, i wouldn't let my kids pay either. :-)
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ok hunny been there done that.  with your sweetie i cant give a guarenteed answer but i had that problem with my son's father when we were together. he thought it was his responsibilty to look after his mom.  last straw for me was when she "borrowed" 200 bucks to take his sister back to the mainland for ferry and gas and i found out that she used it to go bowling. man i was pissed beyond recognition since the money came out of my account which i used to pay ALL the bills and he wouldnt ask her to pay it back. in your case hes the child and unless they are unable to work or seriously something wrong with them then his responisbility is to you and his children.........however many kids there are and his parents should know that their grandbabies come first and foremost. doesnt matter whose kids they are they are always first and shame on his ex for trying to stick him with two kids that arent his. personally i wouldnt put up with whats going on but maybe make a really big chart and stick it up somewhere really obvious (maybe in the bathroom right over the toilet where he presumably STANDS every morning to take a piss and cant miss it) and put up a couple column where you detail the money your bro gives you for gas and the money his parents drain out every month and ask him how if hes going to support his parents where is the money going to come from for paying child support plus all the monthly bills. family is only as important as you make them and he needs to get rid of his and be a big boy. if they want to know his every move maybe perhaps you should suggest to his parents that he get his old room ready so he can move back in it or offer to move your entire family his kids your kids an all into THEIR house so that they can be in control and you can stay rent free and they can babysit.  all else fails change your phone number refuse to open your door and have all the accounts put in your name with only you being able to access them. or as suggested by the others then by all means kick his ass to the curb............ but thats up to you and how much more of this you are willing to deal with.
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Oh yeah, I have suffered a lot if I tell you how much? may be you won't believe, therefore, I won't mention in figures. \n\nFriends do know that I won't refuse and they tell me various stories to borrow money but they never return.\n \nSome people have said, I must change my habit of helping people.\n\nThe most common way of borrowing is like this:\n\nHello, Hi, how are you doing? Un... in fact I got very serious problem/sickness/family problem. Right now I am badly in need of money and surely NEXT WEEK I will return you.\n\nThat next week become month then year and then years.\nAccording to my experience those who want to borrow money they won't return. Therefore, it is said, never lend Money and Wife it will not come back.\n\nnihon94@yahoo.com
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First of all I would get my 17 year old sister out of that situation,if your Mom wants to be stubborn,let her be,but get your sister out! She didn't ask for that. Nothing is free in life,if it was,trust me I'd be first in line!!! Its time your Mom puts the needs of your sister first instead of her own!!!
288210
What your grandmother is doing is trying to get your mom and you to talk again and be the best of friends by buying you. it is bribery. there is a deeper issue between your grandmother and your mother.she is making you be nice to her so she wont have to deal with her
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once you are 18 no-one will be able to tell you what to do, so maybe you should just live with your parents until then, after all it will beat paying the bills by yourself, also your mom may be trying to save you from making the same mistakes that she did, thats why she doesn't want you doing the same stuff that she did when she was young.
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what a loser ! \n\nwhy would he think a kid have enough money for him.\n\nKick him out and get a restraining order. He cannot get an order to force you to pay him anything.\n\nActually, you can force him to pay you until you are 21
111821
It depend on who's had the attitude! your mom maybe knows something about your friend. you should lesson to your mother...you said your mother abused you ! maybe you should  set down and talk to her ask her what's the problems....Problems with you as a teenager  could drove her to abusive...I seen it all the time. And for your friend if your mom don't want her there...so oh well! your mom is the one who pays the bills.  GOOD LUCK
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your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
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you said that you and your mother were close.do you still love her? i would have a heart to heart talk with her and ask why she wants paid or that when she helps she wants something in return.ask her if she loves you. if she says yes, then i would say do i have to pay you for your love mom? tell her that if you had a car that you would help her if she were in a bad situation like you and that you would not expect money or favors.love is uncondtional. love is not selfish or rude.as far as your boyfriend goes, he is angry because he has a caring family and they love him and help him without favors . it hurts him to see your mom do you wrong and thus he gets angry. pray for your mom and show her love even though it might not be returned.in the long run she will miss that love when you are gone and married with a family of your own.some people dont know what they are missing till its gone.
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Girl - don't be embararassed to ask for your money that you loaned.  A loan means it's to be paid back.  People will take advantage of you everyway they can if they know they can - even FAMILY.  Call your sister and say "look girl, you know my basement flooded and I was trying to give you some time to pay me back that $500 that I loaned you back in January, but it's been like 4 months and I really really need that money like yesterday, because with everything going on, we're kind of strapped for cash right now.  So what time can I come over and pick it up?"  \n\nAnd I absolutely would not bid on anything for her.  It's ashame family has to be that way.  But stand up for yourself girl!!  She should be the one that is embarassed - that is not chump change.  So trust me - she did not FORGET to pay you back - she just has no intentions on doing so and since you haven't mentioned it she probably thinks you forgot.  And forgotten money is lost money.  Make your stand today!!
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Yikes! First of all, even though what she did is very wrong we have all don't things in our lives that we are not proud of.  Now knowing your financial situation I will not condemn your mother. Secondly, this is a very serious situation and I am not sure what will happen.  In most cases the boss would not ever consider keeping the employee.  However, the fact that she is family is a very good thing for her. This may really work to her benefit.  You should just relax and don't worry about things that are beyond your control.  Say a little prayer to God and just be there for your mom.  Everything will work out! Good luck and God bless!