I like this girl (who likes someone else actually) and she isn't involved with anyone but she has told me that she just doesn't feel the attraction like she does with other guys she has met and liked. We're good friends and she calls (or i call) pretty much everyday and we talk so obviously she must really like me as a friend, but according to her thats it. Is it possible that in time she might develop an attraction for me? Or is that something that just stays the way it is? I think she liked me at one point so it may have been there once, but like shes told me its not there now. Ha, she's even told me i'd make a great boyfriend just not for her. It'd be cool if she woke up one day and felt some chemistry and thought we'd make a great couple, but thats probably just wishful thinking right?
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Completely wishful thinking. Most of my friends have been male, and I never fell for a single one of them. They were just friends and stayed that way.
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take it slow buddy don't rush it cause' you want her to be your girlfriend right away, my best answer towards your question is that you need to re-evaluate yourself. is there a way she'll like me? i mean, she is interested in me?(you'll know through how she is around you.. you can just feel it... trust yourself) and if you have body odor (not to say you do.. it's just an example) you should know better to clear that up you know.. you have to think about those things. if she likes you as much as you like her.. there will be a sign that will strike you. not literally! haha.. but i mean like.. who knows. you will randomly bump into her again and again and it's a good vibe you'll get out of her. if she talks to you and really carries a conversation it shows she's interested about you and you all in all. if her talks are short and to the point.. she may not be all that into you. and here's something important. like, do NOT i repeat DO NOT take her kindness as her liking you. I have experienced that all the time. I am a really genial person and if I'm helping a guy out with his homework or whatever, he automatically believes I'm into him. Goodness, no! If a girl likes a boy, she'll do whatever means to get to him. It's that natural thing that happens. Overall, you will find out someday if she likes you back. hang in there!
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Hi there.\n\nAsking questions isn't any sin. It shows plainly that you really would like to get to know her better. Since I'm already aware of your situation with this particular girl, I think, by now, you should have sincerely told her about your feelings towards her.\n\nYou don't have to worry about what she might think about you. I can guess that if she really likes you, she will most definitely enlighten you with the fact that she HAS feelings for you too. If, by chance, our speculation about her having feelings for you were a myth, then the worst thing that she would do is reject you politely.\n\nHere's the thing; don't go up to her and straight away ask, "Do you have feelings for me?" or any of that sort of query. This might tick her off as you would sound really pathetic. I felt the same way when a guy misjudged my friendly gestures as interest towards him when he demanded to know point blank whether or not I have the hots for him. I mannerly told him that I regarded him only as a friend and explained the fact that my gestures had only friendly intentions. He and I are friends till now.\n\nIn a way, I think you could dig up your courage deep within to tell her how you feel. And like I said before, she will tell you if she feels the same way or vice versa. Whatever the response she might give you, make sure everlasting friendship remains in your bond with her.\n\nBefore I leave you to ponder about the things I have shared, I'd like you to remember that friendship often ends with love, but love ending in friendship, with certainty, rarely happens.\n\nI hope this helps.
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It's possible that she may sincerely like you.  It's possible that she may be hesitant or unsure.  And it's also possible that she may only be flirting and not looking for a committed relationship, which sounds the most likely from your description.  Her saying no to your invitation to go out but her actions and announcing she will be spending time with you this week-end can be confusing, I imagine.  Take your time to discover whether this is attention without intention, just a game to her, or more.  \nBut in the end, the real question is, do you like her?  And what do you want?  If your hope is a relationship and that isn't what she wants, it will not work.  If you both want the same thing and make that clear to each other, then it can.  Speak to her to learn more.\nBut just a little side note: It may be in good fun, but otherwise, her calling you her property doesn't seem very respectful.
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Excellent question!!! Guys--fess up now! :)\n\nI know that any guy I am friends with and I am attracted to, I have thought of "what if we ever had a romantic relationship??"  I mean if there is a friendship attraction plus a romantic attraction..that would seem like a compatible relationship.
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Know what you mean here.  I was in the same boat a little over a year ago.  I'd been friends with this girl for a while and I developed a crush on her.  I was too afraid to ask her out too.  Eventually, a mutual friend told her how I felt and she felt the same way.  Things worked out pretty well.  We've been dating for 51/2 months or so.  My advice is go for it.  If she is a true friend then she should respect your feelings even if she doesn't feel the same way.  Ask her she wants to take things to the next level. You have to be carefully.  If she says no, then you can't go treating her any differently even if you are hurt by it a little.  She shouldn't change because you show interest in her so neither should you.
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Hmm....seems like she has mixed emotions but I'm not too sure. It is possible for her to like you and her boyfriend at the same time and she may be confused about her feelings. She probably likes you more than a friend but is too afraid to tell you in fear of rejection or ruining the friendship. Therefore, she has a boyfriend so that way she won't act on her feelings towards you. Little does she know that she's already making it obvious. Dude, if she hugs you all the time and says that she loves you then I'd say she definitely likes you more than a friend. This is what I think of your situation but I could be wrong. I mean you said that she was never like this before so why the change? Obviously, she has developed feelings for you. So to sum it up, yes she likes/loves you but she is afraid of ruining the friendship. So my best advice for you is to wait until she breaks up with her current boyfriend and then express your feelings to her. Believe me I know what it's like since I've been in a similar situation before.Good luck and best wishes.........
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It sounds to me like she likes you.  And believe me, some of the biggest crushes I've ever had have been on guys who could be considered less than cute.  So don't judge her by the guys she's gone for in the past -- just ask her if she likes you, or tell her that you like her, and see what happens!
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it could mean many things, why not choose an explanation for it that makes you still feel good about her and about yourself, and leave it out there for a while.  Maybe she will get interested, maybe she won't, but carry yourself with a balance of confidence and compassion and know that you had the courage to ask in the first place.  Regardless, your interest in her is flattering.  \n\nI suggest that you leave her alone for a while, and if she comes to you at all then that is a sign that she wants you to pursue her.  Listen to yourself, do you feel welcome in her presence?  What does her body language tell you?  Does she avoid you?  Does she smile at you?\n\nOne way or another, you will know the answer eventually, so have some patience, and be open...good luck!
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She might be playing with your mind and your heart. Sometimes, girls think it's fun to make guys confused about her feelings for him. But, then again, she might like you, but is afraid to take the next step. Obviously, she flirts with you and pays attention to every little thing you do, but maybe she's not sure if she wants to be anything more. As a girl, I'm scared of taking the next step. Sure, flirting is fun, but committing to a relationship is scary. It just depends on what kind of girl she is. She could just be playing you, or she could be afraid of a relationship.
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Sorry to tell you, but she's just not that into you.\n\nHere are a few reasons why:\n-- someone already told her that you liked her, but she did nothing\n-- she flirted with you but nothing happened\n-- you asked for her number and she lied (big red flag)\n-- she said she had a boyfriend (maybe a lie but definitely a way of deflecting your interest)\n-- she said she'd give you her phone number Monday and she avoided you\n-- when she look at you, she doesn't smile or light up\n-- she only smiles at you when she's around her friends (so she doesn't have to talk to you; her friends protect her like a pack)\n\nI think you should give up on her being anything more than just a girl you know around school, or a casual acquaintance.  You can't make someone like you, and you can't make someone feel something they just don't.  I think she may be flattered that you like her, but she's just not interested.  If she had been interested, she would have talked to you a long time ago; she'd have given you her real phone number, and you'd have spent time together.\n\nSorry.  Unrequited affection is a bummer.  Good luck.  You deserve a girl who smiles and lights up when she sees you, is happy to give you her phone number, and would be happy to go out and spend time with you.\n\nHope this helps.  Cheers, K
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sounds like she is showing off in person...she wants everyone to know she has a boyfriend...Is it that she likes you for a friend, but doesn't want to be committed?   sound like she is not sure what she wants...maybe she is too young
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Her feelings can be changed. I think she likes you. just give her a little more time, and try to stay as a friends for a while, then tell her again! Because she might be confused right now that if she likes you or not. So even if you think she likes you, don't be impatient. Give her a little more time. In my opinion, I think she likes you. Oh wait, but I just realized that she might feel uncomfortable around you, cuz you told her that you liked her, but to her you are just a friend right? so after you told her how you feel, she said she wants to stay as a friends, but sometimes it'll get uncomfortable knowing your feeling. I dont' know, you can take it both ways. Its up to you.
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maybe she likes you as just a friend and don't see you for a boyfriend. then again she may want you to come out and just tell her how you feel. try that!!!
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Perhaps the first initial thought of having a relationship with you didn't appeal to her because she had never given it much thought before.  But now that you've brought the idea to her attention, she's given it more thought and maybe she's decided that you're a great guy and she'd like to give it a chance.  Sounds to me like she's definately interested.
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It might be only Attraction! Wait for sometime, Just let it go. Your heart will definitely signal your mind that she is the one. ;)
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Well you're in a good position b/c most good relationships start with good friendship... but @ the same time, it might be hard for her to adjust to the fact that u really like her b/c she thinks of u more as a friend and she's probably never been in a situation like that. Just give it some time... if you two are really good friends then u dont have anything to worry about! =)