i know i blew it by not sayin how i felt the times she hit on me now i feel stupid but i know im madly in love with her. i told this guy to ask her if she likes anybody and she said no. so i know nobody else is on her mind, i talk to her on the phone and all and ive been friends with her for a long time. so how do i do it without looking stupid cause i know she might say something like i dont want to date anyone right now so now wat do i do? someone please help!!!!1
200708
get over it already and call her. if she says no what have you lost? and if she says yes, well good for you!\nevery man dies, but not every man lives. live a little
550716
I think you should go for it. We all know what happens when someone doesn't express their feelings for someone. Later on, the subject will come up and you will realize what you missed. More than likely, she will have the same feelings, if not similar.  Sit her down and lay it out, don't beat around the bush. She will think you're not sure, and if she does have feelings for you, then she would probably start feeling doubtful about them. Good Luck!
105864
Just go up to her and ask if she's got some free time so you both can talk. If she says no, then please sweetie--let her go and move on. You will develop feelings for others later--I PROMISE!!! If she says yes, then gather your feelings and ask if she might be interested in you and if she isn't--then ask WHY and if she would consider being friends with you. Also, if you are afraid to talk with her--then write her a letter and see how she reacts. This may save you some heart-ache and stress if she doesn't have any feelings for you. Whatever happens please don't freak out, you are very young and still have LOTS of living to do. Just remember that good things WILL eventually happen to good people--I PROMISE!!!
518230
It is never too late... She was flirting with you man... That means she likes you... Forget about she has a boyfriend... Pretend she doesn't. Start flirting with her... You need to tell her that this guy isn't right for her. If she's sweet and kind i'm sure she will understand. It's time for you to come out of that shell and start talking to her. Other wise she won't be interested in you. Before you tell her how you feel. You need to get to know her better. What if you guys have nothing in common. All you know is that you like her personality. Anyways I think she still likes you, but only a lilttle tiny bit. It's time for you to make her realize how wonderful,sweet,caring, and kind you are.
614200
But you have nothing to feel stupid about. How were you supposed to know he'd do that? It's not a bad reflection on you that you wondered about whether or not he liked you. Those kind of things are part of life.
294900
Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
133535
I know how you feel, it would make me feel scared and uncomfortable too. I think men take a different approach to things, we are more sensitive and think about things before we say them. You must also think that maybe he was just saying that she was hott, maybe he just thinks that she is attractive. I know that doesnt make you feel much better but try not to assume if you really like him approach him and talk to him about it. Just say that i heard you thought so and so was cute? As long as you approach him in a non accusing way i think that he should understand. If you can't face him then just find someone new :)
258376
Apparently, you never loved her.  You were into the chase for her.  You have hurt her badly.  As a person, you will need to grow from this and explain to her about your feelings.  She will feel betrayed by you.  She probably knew that you were not serious, but your persistance made her second guess herself and accept you as a boyfriend.  Know you have thrown this in her face.  Very sad.
392151
Hi/There.\nWell! My Friend !\nYou are simply in Love With this Girl !\nYou should find some time , as difficult as this may Be to talk to her !\n( Where there is a will. There is a WAY !)\nIf You tell her Your Feelings ! I am sure She will be very Flattered !\nIf Not ! ( what have You lost !)\nMaybe a little self Respect ? NO BIG DEAL !\nAll ways a NEXT TIME !\nGood Luck Bro !\nRegards Nick.
202784
OMG. do you not realise that you just answered your own question? tell her she makes you speechless. that when you're around her, you're lost for words.
585159
You need to talk to your friend ASAP. I think that maybe you feel stupid because you know that by not talking it is only going to end up hurting your relationship with him. If this is a friend that you truly want to keep then call him go out corner him in the hall and make him talk. Do whatever you can to fix this. Tell him how you feel and that no matter what he says he cannot tell you how to feel but you do not want to lose him and that you want to put it behind you. Ask yourself is this arguement going to effect the rest of my life? Will it decide on the type of person that I am to become? Is this a person that I want in my life? If you answer no to the first two and yes to the third then you know what you need to do. Dont lose a potentially great friend and confidant over a misunderstanding. Please go talk to him. You are entitled to your feelings just dont let feelings cloud your judgement.
49745
You need to ask yourself why did you feel intimadated by this guy in the first place. You may have pushed her away with your insecurity.\n\nShe was also immature because then she would have realised what was happening to you and make an effort to make you feel more secure about your'll relationship. \n\nIf you still love her and want her, well you need to continue to give her space but try to remain friends, just in case she grows up and realises her mistake.\n\nPlease have some faith in people who say and mean that they care about you, so this would not happen again.
228570
If she's really as great a friend as you say she is, she's not going to laugh.\n\nAsk to have a few words with her and take her aside.  Tell her straight up that you've been having feelings for her, but that you don't have to act on it if she's not comfortable.  \n\nDon't pressure her for an answer.  Give her time to think.  A couple days to a week is sufficient, and if she still hasn't responded to you, bring it up again gently by saying something like, "hey, about before, I'm sorry for telling you so suddenly, I didn't mean to shock you." and just leave it at that.  Don't tell her that you've changed her mind, and if she asks if you have, tell her no.  That will remind her that you have feelings and if she's done thinking, she'll give you her answer, but if she's not, she'll keep thinking.\n\nThat's about all the advice I can give you here.  Good luck, man!
215350
Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
529447
been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
558011
Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three  months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.\n    I really think that you'll win her heart.
382601
dude. she's there.  it was a stupid move on your part but the longer you keep it up the more damaging it's going to be in the long run.  Suppose she decides to try and hook you up with one of her gay friends?\n\nCome clean, admit you didn't want her to feel threatened but you realized you weren't being very honest.\n\nYou don't have to tell her EVERYTHING.  (Leave the "I thought you were hot so I acted gay so you'd move in and I could bang you" part out. :-)  Just confess you were acting and decided enough was enough.  You thought she was cool.  Wanted to get to know her and figured if you tried to make yourself appear as harmless as possible that she wouldn't feel weird moving in with a guy.\n\nBecause you felt kind of weird with her moving in but you're trying to be an evolved man. :-)