a lot of guys seem to be even more interested after finding that I am engaged like its a challenge or something
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it is because if you are taken then they don't have to make a commitment. some will also tell you the things they feel you want to hear to see if you will leave your fiance or husband. if you are engaged or married then you shouldn't be talking to other guys in any way that they should think of anything as a challenge. i am married to a very loving man that will do anything in his power for me. he has been there for me at times when my own family wasn't, but i started talking to a guy just as friends and was really comfortable around him. then he started telling me all the things i wanted to hear, and next thing i knew he was telling me he loved me. i ended up leaving my husband and my home to be with this guy. then i realized i made a huge mistake. i am very Lucky to have a husband that forgave me and took me back. be careful out there because men are dogs. most of them are only after one thing anyway.
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You may not like the answer, but its probably becaus eyou let them control you, and these people tend to attract each other, I kno wbecause the same thing happens to me!
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well.. if a guy attracts you, that means he has good qualities that other ladies dig, so yea a lot of the great guys are taken..but they're still out there
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You are being included in his activities. He is expressing an interest in you. Be patient, if it is meant to be, it will happen.\n\ntj69: Talk about gay, I'll bet you know all about grabbing a guys thing. Get a life idiot.
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I seem to be attracted to shy guys.
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I am really quite familiar with the kind of guy that you described.  [I was exactly like that before!]  It sounds like he is favoring up to you and you are catching the vibes that he is sending out.  He seems to have other "multiple activity" going on in his life; but believe me, you can surely bring all of that to a halt, and turn him into a lovable little Teddy Bear.  It really does appear that it's you that he is after.  And you just watch!  Once you nail him, he will forget all of those other gals as if they never even existed to begin with.  And once they pick it up that someone nailed him, they won't have anything to do with him either.  It's like a mating-season.  If you are not in it then you don't even notice it. BTW, a well-known symptom of what you described is for him to ask you to hook up with one of your friends.  It's not your friends he is after!  He IS AFTER YOU!!!
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I am engaged to a wonderful man who had the same problem growing up.  He has always said that the best thing he could do under those circumstances was be himself, and although it was not always easy, things always managed to work out for the best in the long run.  I am certain you probably have heard that before and it was probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth.  Best of luck to you!  Hope it works out!
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You stated that you flirt with him a lot, does he flirt back? If it seems like he's interested... then maybe he has the same motive.. to go further. some guys like to tease.... if you really want something more out of it and you know for certain that he knows of your interest, confront him about it and see what happens.
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It probaby seems like that now, but it won't always be that way.  The men that you are comming across just aren't the right ones for you right now.  But eventually you will run into the right one who won't leave as soon as you start to love them.
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no. its natural to be attracted to other people.. its when you act on that attraction that is a no no..... if you do.. maybe you r not ready to be engaged.... need some more time to be single???
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Try a more mature group of men to select from. Maybe you'll find them more appealing.\n\nGood Luck
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Maybe because you're beauty, more guys are getting attracted to you. This will definately attact the Jack---es, where as before you had men interested in true love. No, I'm not telling you to get ugly, just that the guy will be harder to find, and will have to love you for you, and you'll have to love him for him. Maybe you're biting on looks too when you look for a guy, then find out his personality is not so good. Can't tell with the amount of info, but keep trying!!!
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Unfortunatly that happens quite frequently.At first men do everything in their power to attract you and to make sure you notice them. They treat you like a queen etc. Then as soon as they know that you are theirs and ain't goin' nowhere, they stop trying. What to do in this situation, is to show him, that you are still desirable to others and if you wished you could have any man you want, and you won't hesitate to trade you b/f! Perhaps that will scare him into showing you more attention, and make him work to keep you!
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i'm like that....i'll like someone until they show too much interest then i get over it but if they stop showing interest i usually start getting interested again....i think with most people, like me, it's being afraid of committment.
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You sound quite happy to me and they may be a little jealous because they cant find inner happiness like you do. Dont be miserable like them and dont worry you will find your ideal guy. Let them go and find help they sure need it not you ok
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yea there should be guys interested in you because you are a beautiful woman and i bet that you have alot of good qualities iam interested.
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I agree somewhat with Katrina, that men can be intimiated by independent and strong women.  But, as a guy, I would say "put off," not exactly intimidated.  For example, I recently dated a gal who I was very attracted to, although she wasn't stunning- she just "did it" for me.  But, she spent too much time telling me about her degrees from MIT, how she worked for Steve Jobs, etc..  Relationships are about humanness to me- life's little problems, emotionality, sensuality.  I talk shop all day at work, and want something deeper in a relationship.  It just got to a point where I didn't want to hold a conversation with her, since we just couldn't connect.  I guess the point is maybe revisit the guys you like with a deeply human approach, and see how that works.  I agree with the rest of the posters-  it's hard to meet someone you like.  It's true for me, too.  I live in the middle of nowhere.