We had made an agreement before she even signed up to try out; that if they didn't think she was good enough for officer then forget the team. I'm still really upset because her score was high enough. Two of the girls that did make it can't pass their classes and sat out all of last year's football season as members. Please give advice. I have made it clear that I stand by what I say; I will not support that team in any way! I just don't want her to hate me; so I'm letting her decide. I told her though that she has to make it clear of asked that I have no support on this decision. Is that wrong?
209403
The politics of this kind of things is a load of crap but you need to support your child. Any activity  that they go to keeps them off the streets. That doesn't mean you have to bake for their bake sale, though.
295585
Honestly, this situation sounds rhetorical in that her parents have enough control to not allow her to go to a prom but not enough control to prevent her from moving out while still in high school. In any case, my suggestion is to be her friend and let her know precisely how you feel about the situation but that you will still support her, right or wrong, as long as she is willing to accept ALL the consequences of her actions.
243415
in my prespective..you did the right thing.your friend lied about bringing a friend and also violated the time agreement..its bad enough on her part that even after this episode she has not called up to apologise..and leaving the movie without prior information was totally invalid.
356758
this is why office love is a bad idea.  But stop letting her bully you around.  go to these other so called friends and ask them what is going on.  Hearsay is a nasty habit, and you dont really want to partake in that and you dont want friends who do. I ould also confront the girl saying that you dont need to be friends, but to stop trying to sabotage other realtionships.  if it still presists, then maybe you can transfer out?
528750
She doesnt want to be on bad terms with you but also considers you to be the back up friend. It sucks. If you really wanted to stir the pot a bit you could make friends with her friend. Ha ha. Yes thats very 'high school' of me, but tempting isnt it?
489087
ok im sorry, but who cares about her inmature attitude anyway -honestly. shes prbly kinda freaked out that u invited her since sometimes people in grades higher than u are mean and yur nice. if u want her to think your kool then act kool and dont cling on to a little kid
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It sounds like you really care about her.  However, she's going to do whatever she wants to do no matter what anyone says to her.  All that will happen is she will distance herself even more.  As I'm sure you realize, that's not a healthy thing to do.  Especially being so young and experiencing lots of 'firsts'.\n\nI would think that the best thing to do is just remind her that you're still around.  Even just saying 'Hey' in the hallway between classes can make all the difference in the world.  When the inevitable (that you believe will happen) happens, chances are, she'll remember that you were at least willing to give her the time of day when she was with this guy when everyone else gave up on her.  Empathize with her (I'm sure you've probably had your share of heartbreaks too), let her know that it's not the end of the world.\n\nI know that this is all easier said than done.  True friendships are built on solid ground.  In this instance, patience really is a virtue.  I'm not saying to spend all of your time waiting around for her to call you, by all means, continue living your life and going to school.  But like I said, just remind her that YOU are still willing to be her friend when she's ready.\n\nGood luck and I hope this helps!!!
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you know what...i had a whole paragraph written about how immoral it was and what kind of sleeze you were, but then i erased the entire thing (and wrote this).  i feel like i need to pretect this sixteen year old girl and give her advice...but when i think about it, it is really up to us girls to do what is right.  we cant' rely on guys because many like you don't give a f*** about us.  when girls cry and complain about guys being like you, we really need to take all of the blame because we are letting guys be jerks.  we want so desperatly to be loved and admired that we give all we have and end up with nothing.  she is "down for it"  because you made her believe she is.  and she is dumb for letting you tell her she is.
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I had a female try out in high school for our team she quit after the first week. alot of guys would seriously hit her hard for know reason. I honestly believe you could try out for your high school team the problem is that you are going to take a lot of abuse from the guys on your team and the opposing team.
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The guy doesn't respect you as a player, probably because you're female and that would make him a male chauvinist pig. Another reason might be that he thinks he's the only good player on this team and will hog the ball to shoe how "great" he is. In either case, you should speak to the coach about him. He will probably be a smuck even after the coach speaks to him, so good luck. If it continues and the coach doesn't remedy this you may have to approach the local district sports board.
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This morning with my 16-year-old daughter. She made the mistake of asking why she had to listen to me, anyway?\n\nI pointed out that since I pay for everything from the clothes on her back to the food that she eats to the $150 soccer cleats I just bought her that she HAD to have -- then she has to listen to me. \n\nI also pointed out that since I still have the receipt for those yet unworn cleats, I would have no problem bringing them back if she didn't smarten up and act like the mature human being she keeps telling me she is.\n\nShe decided to smarten up.
470999
that sister should have her letters taken away. these are not things to be "traded" . you both need to be put on line again. you obviously didn't pledge hard enough anyway.
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Nick, I'm not going to say "ditch" this "perfect" girl but I'm going to give you something to think about.\nWhat happens if you spend all your time on this girl when you never know that there's another more deserving girl looking from behind the scenes.  And, what happens if you waste all this time on her when suddenly you two go out and you find out that she's not so "perfect" at all?  Follow the advice of others, go into the dating game for once.  Probably this "busy" "senorita" will feel jealous and at the end will feel bad that she has been spending too much time on the books and all that most of the "great guys" will be taken?  \nMaybe, just maybe, you could wait.  You two are both young there's still time after high school to pursue love.  Right now, this girl is probably worried about her future and that's why you should wait for her.  You too should be busy with the "important" stuff because hey!  I'm sure all of us people who graduated from high school are probably thinking why didn't we do our homework instead of partying and stuff?
651345
It's too bad she's not treating you very well lately, and might not be honest. I don't know if you should write her off totally yet, but definitely try to make new friends in your high school. You wouldn't want to rely too much on someone who isn't reliable.
587587
I do think alot of people think it is a guys game....I went to football tryouts in school and chose not to play. I just wanted to make a point...that girls can play if they really want.(and i am a small girl)
144369
You certainly don't want to hear someone say this but please keep one thing in mind, not every person that tries out for a team get chosen.  Maybe there is a reason that you can't get it.  Maybe you are not cut out to be a cheerleader, maybe you should be on the team that is getting cheered on?
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This is typical of high school and middle school. She isnt going to fight you, or even try. She is telling you she's going to fight you on the last day because everyone will forget about it by next year, and no one will be around after school. This girl is jelous of you, and if she does try to fight you(odds are she won't) stick up for yourself. No matter the consequenses, you always have to defend yourself.