I dont understand.  I became friends with this girl about 6 months ago, and we started a close friendship.  I really cared about her as a friend and thought she felt the same way about me.  about 3 weeks ago i got a membership to the gym, and she quit talking to me.  I pretended like i didnt see the way she was acting at first, but now it is starting to hurt my feelings, and i cant uderstand WHY she would act like this towards me!!
210664
Sounds to me like she's not a true friend, if she can't be honest and tell you why she is acting differently. \n\nEven if you have said or done something to upset her, how are you supposed to know if she wont talk about it? You're perfectly entitled to join a gym if you want to, if she doesnt share your interests it shouldnt affect a friendship.\n\nYou deserve better. Seems to me her own issues are losing her a good friend.
327901
I think you have every reason to be upset with her. Just the fact that she snuck off and went on a date, she knew she would be hurting you, a friend tries to help another friend, keep them from being hurt.. doesnt sound like a friend to me. If she really cared she would have talked to you about it first.
301724
She's looking for attention even if it's negative attention.  If she's your EX and YOU want to keep it that way--for whatever reason, then continue ignoring her and eventually she'll get the clue.  I think she's trying to either get you mad by talking to your friends, or get your attention just to keep you hooked.  Either way, it's not very mature, but there again, you and her are still in school--the both of you have alot of growing up to do, before you become mature.
124738
Obviously she's not a friend if she treats you this way. try hanging out with someone else who is NOT ashamed of being seen with you. And if she keeps giving you attitude, stop talking to her. I'm sure you're not the only person she does this to. A TRUE friend does not treat a friend like dirt. And if she's saying lies about you then she's jealous about something. I can already tell that you are a TRUE friend, because you are willing to save this friendship with this nasty person by finding out what you can do. We need more people like you. So in answering your question, when you walk by her just smile. BIG!!
53959
Sorry to hear your feelings are being reciprocated...but unfortuantely you cant make someone like you.  just keep being her friend andmaybe you will grow on her.  Thats how my man got me!  We became best friends and now were engaged!
106406
Its all part of growing up! There is nardly any chance of you losing her just because she wants to be friends with other people. Besides, you have the added bonus of being her friend for so much longer. I wouldn't worry about it. As long as you know she'll be there for you, and she knows you'll be there for her, its a natural thing to happen. Just keep cool!
3478
Yes, a woman with whom I was a really good friend (I will call her Jane) just turned on me and almost refuses to talk to me now. We don't live near each other anymore, so it's not as big a deal now as it once was. But I have no idea what I did or said to turn her against me. I am one who has really good relationships with people and long-term friendships. So this really took me by surprise.\n\nJane and I used to spend hours together every week and a lot of time on the phone. We were both members of the same professional association. I saw her there and she was really rude to me like I had offended her in a big way. \n\nI am still mystified by this situation and it took place nearly eight years ago. I was told, by a mutual friend who asked me about the break up that Jane had done this in other relationships. That made me feel a little less confused, but I am still saddened by the loss of what I considered a great friendship.
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Sounds like you are willing to listen to her and be a good friend, but she isn't being nice to you at all. You don't need someone like that! I'm sure that there are lots of other people that would appreciate your friendship and treat you a lot better! Don't even bother with this girl if she's going to act like that cause she'll just pull you down.
170152
Well, you can try and talk to her and even ask why she's acting that way toward you. Maybe you two can work it out. But if she continues what she's doin than don't bother pining and move on. True friends wouldn't be like that.
293685
The only thing I can say is she wasnt a friend to start with. And that dont worry about others  they have to answer for the things they do not you. Just move on and dont show any emotion about it. There is a saying what comes around goes around and sooner or later she will have someone do to her what she did to you.
92532
Sounds like she is trying to be you.  She definitely isn't worth being your friend, but I don't know about picking a physical fight---just seems like a bad idea, especially if she could press charges.
308045
im so sorry for u..i see how confussing this must be for you..<i could barely understand this it was so conf..> but i think u need to start from the begginning..why did she think u were ditching her...and tell her "i have a new bff and so do u, u should have thought about ur decsion before u got a new bff" so untill then..lets just stay bf..ok.."\n\nhope this helps..i hope things work out for u..\n\n: )
492011
i just went through the same exact thing it was heart breaking! i simply told my other friend that i didn't get along with her other friend and i would NEVER ask her to choose, but i would like it if we could spend our own time together. now she seperates the weekends and spends like ever-other one with me. and because i was so laid back about it and her other friend was kind of rude she is starting to see how it really is. she is spending more and more time with me and complaining about the other girl but i try and not complain with her that way she thinks i am just a listener\nall the while i am dancing inside lol
169708
if she's trying to get you 2 apart, then she isn't a good friend, good friends are supposed to help you when you have trouble with others, not help the fight along! as far as the other friend, i just had a similar situation. she is a grade ahead of me and is getting all these new friends from swimming(i'm not in swimming) we're not as close but its still fun to hang every once in ahwhile! also talk to her about it. tell her how your feeling
239481
First rule of thumb. Don't let people walk all over you or make you 2nd guess yourself. If you know that you did nothing wrong than I wouldnt let it bother you and maybe start looking for a new friend because it doesnt sound like she is much of a friend. If my real friends had a problem with me they would tell me what was going on and how they felt. And you have every reason to treat her as she treats you.
55573
i would talk to her about the situation and see why she has changed.  you can't ignore it, especially if you guys were the bestest of friends.  i mean i would want to know if my friend didn't want to hang out with me anymore, i think i would deserve some sort of explanation.
286497
aw man try to understand why and talk this over with them, may be you are sending mixed signals, i have done that, but i am just friendly and others take it the wrong way. just tell them your true intentions and be nice, good friends are really hard to come by! friends rule!