please i want to know how i can obey by elders , i need some advise.I am behaving badly and i want to stop steeling but i still stil
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since u have the sense to regret what u have done then \ncongrats, u r on the right path to be a good boy.
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See if there are any elderly neighbours.  Offer to rake leaves.  Help get groceries.  Any brothers or sisters in your family?  Offer to help with their homework.  Read a story to them.  \n\nHere's a tough one!  Any kid in your school that is not popular?  Make friends with that kid.  Sit with him/her at lunch.  Invite him/her over your house to do homework together.  \n\nSay your prayers...for one day...for one specific person whom you actually do not like.  \n\nDo errands and work around the house without or before being asked.  Make beds, do dishes, clean-up the living room, empty the trash, set the dinner table, etc...\n\nSpend one day in which you do not say ONE evil or bad thing about another human being.  Spend the entire day only speaking good and positive things about people and life.  It is really hard!\n\nHope this helps!  Good luck!
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stick up for yourself assretivly, tell them you arent stupid, you dont appreciate the insination or accusation that you are and you would prefer if they never said that to you again. dont be mean, dont yell, be calm and say what you feel, then dont back down or feel guilty for it.
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You need to put your foot down.  You need to sit down with her one afternoon (not on sunday morning right before services) and explain to her how you feel.  And inform her, NOT ask, that you will not be attending services as much anymore.  If she has a problem with that, she can force you out from under "her roof".\n\nIts been my experiance that most parents do not have the kind of follow through skills to dump one of their kids onto the street because of theological differences.  You have to be willing to stand firm and call her bluff.\n\nGrounding only works as long as you let it.  When they ground you, don't listen. Grounding only works if YOU let it. What are they going to do, lock you in your room? Rufuse to feed you? Bar all your windows? They can't legally do any of that.  If they say no computer, sit down at it anyway, make them physically drag you off it (like I said, just stop listening or responding, make them physically pick you up while you sit there silently -- freaks them out). If they say no friends, just walk right out the front door (or out a window). You gotta do it like Ghandi, non violent (often silent) protest.  Because most parents are not going to have the balls to go through with kicking you out of the house, and most will just freak out for a while when they realize that you're just stubbornly refusing to play by their rules.\n\nThe best way to do it is to combine responsibility with irresponsibility.  Stand your ground on the church issue, but get good grades. Be a good kid, but really make them work if they're going to punish you. Eventually they will realize they are putting a lot of time and effort into punishing your when you're really not doing anything wrong. People don't like to do work they don't have to and they'll eventually just give up. When they treat you like a person and not a child, don't hesitate to share information about your life and emotions with them. You can retrain them.\n\nAdult/child power relationships are fundamentally unbalenced and part of becoming an adult is a movement towards 50/50.  So get going on that if this is the battle you want to fight.  Take some of their unilateral power away from them.  Have the courage, have the will, and make it happen.\n\nYour life it your own, and there is no point in living it in a way that you do not like, espcially over something so personal as religion.
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First of all I would like to commend you for making the best decision of your life. I know that it appears to be a struggle letting go of the habits that you have developed in life, but I will assure you that it only feels like that because that is how the evil one would like you to feel, defeated. But you know as well as I do that there is only one source that is mightier than that evil liar, and that is Almighty God Himself.!!!  The fact that you want to be a Christian role model for your children will indeed cause the liar to squirm, it will reek havoc among its clique, causing it to throw temper tantrums and spreading a barage of lies and imaginations your way, the liar of lies will try and make you feel as if you are doing all this in vain. BUT-- NOT TO BE DISCOURAGED!!! Tada - Our Heavenly Father is watching and keeping His hand over you, you see there were some promises that were given to you when you accepted God's Son as your Savior. You were promised Eternal Salvation as long as you remained faithful and did not turn your back on Jesus, it sounds to me like you are doing all that you can to retain the relationship that you have with Jesus. Amen. Here are some scriptures that will surely help you as the liar comes to overwhelm you. Remember brother, as soon as it tries to decieve you, rebuke it with authority, the authority that God gave you!! You can stand up to that wiley thief, as long as you believe that you are a child of God, the brother of Jesus and the Prevailing Saint that God intended you to be. \nOur prayers will be with you brother, I know that you will dominate this challenge that has come your way, Have Faith, Trust and Believe!!\nFreedom from Sin - Ezekiel 36:25-26 - Romans 6:6-7 - 2 Corinthians 5:17 - \nRomans 6:14 - Colossians 2:6-7 - 1Corinthians 16:13 - Isaiah 40:29\nthese are just a few. God Bless you brother.
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if u keep showing them the ways to hurt u - like dont let them know how they can hurt u -lesson 1.  lesson-2 is offensive is the best form of defense. by keeping away or mum, will only embolden them to hurt u even more.  hit back at them proactively.  there is no family which does not have something to hide - as soon as u spot someone who could hurt u - start talking about their blackspot in a loud voice but in a friendly tone - like u are sympathesing. this will keep everyone away from u. lesson 3 - jobs are always available for asking - or for that matter you can always earn rs 100 a day - ui better start concentrating on ur livelihood and become self supporting. the fear of insult should keep ur relatives off ur back.  meanwhile, there must be something u must have done to earn their anger - if u know the source of your trouble, try to solve the problem by apologising, giving it away if u dont need it......i dont think people have time to hunt out an innocent person that u make urself to be.
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have self respect and stop.\n\nfind someone that will take your call.\n\nseriously respect yourself.....
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Keep ur environment neat and clean, obey discipline, respect your parents, nation and elder people. Sincerely do ur study. God bless you.
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Get some spine in your body lady. Don let someone push around. You need to tell her to back off. In fact, you should tell her to she should leave the group because she is olding all of you back.\n\nJust stand your ground. This is life lesson 101. If you dont do it today, then you will have a hard time in life.
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Yeah ur right but u know some ppl ought to shut up and watch u ..to see if u can do whatever without help. Learn to step back and let other ppl do things too. Had a mother in law that just had to tell me what to do every second she was around me. drove me nuts. So i told her to have at it and step back. That shut her up.
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Dear Greatbreak:  I am Native American too.  It sounds like you are in a great deal of pain.  Not many people would understand what you are talking about.  I don't think the answer is to go into the wilderness to die.  The Great Spirit would most likely not want you to do that.  You have been given life and ending it by going into the wilderness and starving is not what is needed here (I believe).  The first thing you need to do is smudge your apartment with sweet grass, tobacco, and sage.  Use the right kind of feather to do this (you know what to do if you have followed your heritage without me outlining it here in public).  If you don't have access to what you need, please contact your tribal office and speak to an elder.  In my most humble opinion, you have some evil spirits around you.  Please seek help.  Our Nation needs you.  There are too few of us left, and I'm betting you'll get a lot of answers in here because people won't understand and will think you're nuts.  Hang tough.  From one NA to another.
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I'm a bit like that aswell sometimes. Just take a deep breath and walk away. Staying there will make you more angry. If you can't walk away, just tell them you're doing something wrong politely.
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Only you can answer that question, dig deep. Do not be afraid to face the truth about yourself and your shortcomings, only then can you or will you humble yourself enough to hear HIS whispered answer to your prayer. My Granny taught me a long time ago something that may help.\n\nIn life, the hard things are usually the right things to do. When listening for God, quiet yourself, be patient, and be willing to  hear. The enemy is the one who persistently pushes. HIS voice is gentle. Like a soft summer breeze. A whisper of truth that may be hard to accept.
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You've already taken the first step. A good leader has the strength and humility to admit that they don't know it all and are not perfect. Approach leading as an ongoing learning process. I've been in a leadership position for many years, and I'm still learning. Communication is key. NEVER talk down to those you lead; talk to them at there level. And when they speak, don't just listen, actively listen. That means acknowledge and understand. Don't boss; delegate. Treat your subordinates as unique individuals, and recognize and utilize their individual abilities and skills. Be confident, but not arrogant. And don't be a push-over; discipline where and when discilpline is due. But also, praise where and when praise is due. Then and only then, will you have earned their respect. And when you've earned respect, you've earned loyalty.
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It is difficult to give you advice. Take control. Be a leader. Set with him reasonable rules. Let him tell you how to take correctional measures if he tresspasses. You are close to him tell him straight to the face what is acceptable to you and what is not. Do not nag him. The best leaders usually renders support and guidance. Please do not be a supersoft motherly type. Earn respect by being his leader logically, but reasonable. If nothing else help sen him back to mother. See it as a challenge not a burden. Good luck.
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Because they've been there and done it - good or bad your elders deserve respect.  You may not like the person, personally but he/she deserves your respect if there's a big age difference.  While what Gus brought up may be digusting and distasteful to you - edging a bit on sexual harrassment (if there are any ladies around) - he's an old guy reliving his glory days.  Sorry to burst your bubble but belive me you'll be there a whole lot sooner than you'll ever expect.  Give the old guy a break. When you grow up you'll understand.
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patrick, have you tried talking to a therapist?  a friend, your minister (if you have one), or even your family physician.  They say, that which does not kill you, makes you stronger.  Good Luck*