Ok so here is my problem i m a senior in High school and im having a very hard time deciding what i should do with my life.  so i can either go to college in virginia (a college iv never visited) and take a chance with life there, go to LA by myself and try to make it with no help from anyone, or stay here in san jose, ca with my parents and go to community college.  ok so virginia with my best friend not sure how life will be there so thats like a big risk and it will cost me a lot of money,  LA none of my friends can go with me so ill be alone and im scared ill fail in life there, or stay in san jose with my brothers that i hate (there backstappers), my mom's family (Evil peopl), and also dont get a chance to grow because parents will be in control of my life but ill be in the same place iv lived most my life in but without my best friend (iv had a hard time making friends in life)
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Hello,,\n     I had the same question a year ago...  I have few suggestions if you like that I tried on myself. Why don't you do a career program that will be completed in few months ,, may be 8 and then you can have a job.. you can do medical assistance or office assistance or something that take less than a year ... yo will have a job and become independent.... and when you have a job and are settled then you can go for bachelors online because online classes are cheaper and easier .. you can sit on your bed and do your homework and only spend 2 to 3 hours daily .... This can be best with your job and some companies offer tuition refund .... This is just a suggestion and if you do not like it never mind ...
193054
Have you graduated High School? Do you have a job? Do you\nhave solid plans? Will your life be better if you move?\nAsk yourself a lot of questions. It is not easy to get by\nthese days. Even with a good job things come up that cost\na fortune. Just make sure you know what you are doing.\nGood luck what ever you decide.
390697
I wish a simple answer would solve your problems, but you will feel the way you feel no matter what.\nTo answer your question though you need to look at your dad is he happy? You said you are going away to college He needs his own life to. 2. You should not be worried but be happy if they do. You get a brother or sister that will look up to you forever.and number 3 Your family is your dad and soon he will marry of course he wants you to be a big part of that. You need to step back and look at your dad don't judge his choice just be happy for him and do whatever you can to make his day special. He would do the same for you I am sure of it. You will always be his little girl.
552208
Do your homework. Pick the school that will provide you with the best education for what you want to do in life. If you decide that you have picked the wrong one you can transfer out. If you can get a better education leaving Florida for a little while then that is a decision that you should concider. Expecially with the cost of school these days.
663700
you are making care-full moves i hope you carry with it. As you said it would be too early. I would also opine in the same tone but it seems you are making some irresistible haste which will be waste, if you do not use your own brains. My personal opinion being "look before you leap" suggesting you to be cautious. Some great people say that "your heart should not rule your head"  because they have succeeded in their life by making proper moves at right time. Your age from your profile does not give you freedom to make your own choice on major decision's of life, even though you are major. In this particular episode if you are going to make a long time relationship you should take advice of your parents too. anyway life is yours these are my personal opinion so that you do not fall in a ditch and repent after wards. Net friendship should not be taken seriously until everything is tested first on net itself through cam's, voice chat etc. anyway best of luck.
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Let her stay where she is she is getting what she needs from both right now. Now she will be going to high school then college if they are rich let them pay for it. Make sure to keep contact with her and let her know if you could provide all she is getting now you would. In the meantime don't press the subject of taking her away from what will provide her with a great future.
196056
Does it have to be something historical?  Can it be about your life?\n\nJust go back a few years. If your parents had not decided to live where you live now, your life would be different.  Ask them why they made the choice.  If you hadn't been at a certain place at a certain time, you would not have met your best friend.  Go from there...if you had not met your best friend, then you would not have done "this" or gone "there".  Take those episodes and see how they lead to another event.  \n\nEverything in life is connected and believe me, a single moment can change your entire life.\n\nGood luck.
473387
So if you feel like its holding you back, take a break from it.  Go out to Cali, and try to make it big time!  It's the best thing you can do, yer young & Id say do it now, DONT WAIT & dont be one of those people that wonder "if only .. "  Say things dont work out, you can always go back to college, it'll always be there. But then again, so will the music career. Hmm .. well good luck!
672587
Well your first out is your school. See about housing. If this does not work out then see of friends want to go in with you on a place and be room mates. A lot of times if you get a couple of friends that want to get out on their own as well rent split 3 ways can be very inexpensive. Also look for places within a 5 mile radius of the college. A lot of times you can find apartments that rent only to college students at a great rate. You can get a part time job and schedule work and school around each other. Check with your schools resource office. Most times they will have Information about Businesses that hold a certain number of jobs for college students as well. Also whatever your major is look into finding a job that allows you to get on the job training along with earning a living. There alot of things that you can do to get out. You just have to do the leg work. Use your school resources I promise in a short time you will have your own life.
309690
go with your heart.  no one one here or anywhere can make that decision for you it's not bad.  It's your choice and nobody else bussiness, including mine.  well good luck you'll do the right thing.
490867
I was in the same position as you. I was the first member of my immediate family to graduate high school and go on to finish college. There are a few things you can do. Have one of your parents go with you to a college fair. They hold them at large convention centers and many different colleges send people to pass out information and talk with people about the college and some of their programs. If you're interested in looking into all 3 of those areas, I would recommend a liberal arts college. You could take class in art, writing, and communications. Once you narrow down your search and have found a few colleges that have strong programs in one or two areas of your interest, contact the Admissions Office and set up a time to visit the colleges with your parents to experience what life on campus is like. Spend the night with one of their student hosts if you can. Being a former tour guide, I recommend trying to do this in the autumn or mid spring. (Unless you're looking at colleges somewhere warm.) While you’re on campus, sit in on a class, meet with a counselor to discuss financial aid/awards, the programs you're interested in, and how you could go about molding your college experience to fit your needs. If you're not sure about the size of college you're looking for, tour a big one and one smaller one. Each school will have a different personality, and this also will differ with size. There are perks to both. Make sure to take notes after your visit to remember impressions and thoughts of your tours. One of the best things you can do is open yourself to letting your parents aid you in your decision. They will remember things that people said, and help you keep track of everything you've seen. You will feel very overwhelmed throughout this process and it's good to share this with your parents. They have it in their best interest to help you make the best decision you can. You will end up applying for multiple schools, so be sure to keep track of your due dates for applications and essays and such. If you narrow down your search to 2 schools, go back and visit a few more times if you can. Meet with professors you would be working with. I know in studying the arts you sometimes have to turn in a portfolio of work before being accepted into the program. This sometimes results in an in-person interview with faculty members. Know what to expect and keep in contact with the Admission Offices if you have any questions. \n\nAnd don't be afraid to take a year off if you're already in your senior year and need more time to find a good place to go. Take classes at a community college and pick up a part time job or travel or something while you take the time you need to find the right fit for you! \n\nGood luck! Email me if I could be of any more help!
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Wow, that is a big decision.  Colorado for the most part is a wonderful place but I think it is important to do what is best for you regardless of the location.  My biggest concern about this boy is that here he is asking you to come and be with him but he isn't even willing to go back to your state to see you.  To me that is selfish and shows that he really isn't in love with you.  My biggest fear is that you would get out to Colorado and then he would dump you and you would be stuck out there away from family and friends on your own.  Even if things worked out between the two of you, wouldn't you want to go home sometimes and visit family and friends?  Would he be willing to go with you like a real boyfriend or would you be stuck doing that on your own with him complaining about your going?  It just doesn't seem like a very good choice.  If you decide to move to Colorado, do it for you and not for him.
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It is a big decision, and one you shouldn't take lightly. Before listing your options, answer a few questions:\n\n1) What do I want to study?\n2) How far away from home do I want to be?\n3) Do I want to go to a a college in a small town, or a big city?\n\nThe first question is important because some colleges have better departments that teach those subjects.  If you want to study mathematics or computer science, Georgetown probably isn't as strong as MIT.  Likewise, if you want to study Oceanography, Nebraska probably won't have as detailed and high-quality of a program as a school on the coast of Florida, California, or Texas would.  If you have a subject that you really want to pursue as a career, talk to a guidance counselor or a favorite teacher to see if they have any suggestions.\n\nDuring your freshman year, you WILL get homesick. If you're the type of person that needs to see familiar sites, going to a school across the country isn't a good idea.  On the other hand, if you think your parents would constantly drive to see you if you lived across town, you might want to consider a school in a different city, part of your state, or another state.\n\nFinally, you won't stay on campus all of the time - if you want to get out on a regular basis, you might want to choose a school in a larger city.  However, people in small towns might be easier going and easier to deal with.\n\nOnce again, it's not an easy decision. DON'T base your decision on where your friends or boyfriends/girlfriends/crushes are going - you will make an entirely new set of friends in college, and you'll also get a MUCH clearer picture of the kind of person you are. \n\nGood luck, and whatever YOU decide, it's the right decision!
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Make some lists...for and against each school.  Then think about living with your family...or living with your grandma....another list for and against.  Make sure you talk to your grandma about the  rules and expectations of her home.   Then talk to your mom again.   this is the first of many hard decisions you will have to make in your life...think also about what high school may look better to any college you are thinking of attending....Good luck.
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More than anything else, I would say you should explore what you like and learn what you have a passion for.  From there decide on how you'll fit that into a career.  I had no idea what to major in when I began in college, but I kept looking.  I was skeptical when they told me that college is a place to explore, but it really is; you just have to be intelligent about it.  Find out what really catches your interest (or heart), and fit your education to that.  After 2.5 years of college, as a former high school slacker, I would say that the most important thing is to enjoy what you’re studying.  You just have to jump into college and learn not to limit yourself.  Learn not to pity yourself when you seem to be studying more than what you think is “reasonable.”  Don’t kill yourself with work in high school; it’s more important to learn what you love to do.
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Well, if you've been completely trustworthy growing up, and they don't trust you, they may never trust you.  On college though, IF you're paying the whole bill (or have gotten a scholarship) and will not be dependent on your parents for financial support during college (not even to come home to live during summer breaks), then they really have no say in where you go to college, as long as you're over 18 as well.  If you're a young senior, then you might have to wait until you're 18 to go to college.  Once you're 18, all bets are off with your parents, they're no longer legally responsible for you, and you don't have to answer to them about what you do, you just have to support yourself while doing it.  \n\nThink long and hard about what your parents are saying though, they have some valid concerns.  I don't think they don't trust you, but they were your age once (yes, I know that's hard to believe) and they remember that rush of feelings that accompany falling in love.  They just don't want you to make a mistake that will affect you the rest of your life.  They may be going about it the wrong way (but I've only heard your side of this tale), but most parents really love their children, and only want what's best for them.
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Man you're killin yourself thinkin about it...just go for it!Worry about that in summer...you'll be sad either way towards the end.But if you get w/her now you can bring some sweet momories w/you to college...