Iam in love with one of my best friend.She too considers me as her close friend and is very concerned about me.But she is stubborn that she would not love anybody.We are in hostel far away from each other and could talk on the phone only once in two months.But i love her a lot and iam very much possessive about her which keeps me sad all the time.I want her in my life as my patner.WHAT DO I DO???????????????????
208428
Look: there are two ways: talk to her, see what she feels.\nConsequence: A good friendship might be destroyed\nOr you will lose a friend and gain a soulmate(surely you're in advantage)\nBut it is not healthy for you two to just be best friends, if you say you love her. Trust me I've been there. And maybe she loves you to but she may lack the courage to say it.\nMy opinion: go ahead-stop torturing yourself with this good friendship-it's a fake(nothing good will come of it) tell her, gently and carefull what you feel. It worked for me !\nReally, you have nothing to lose. It is better anyway that she knows what you feel about her ! May God help you in your whish !
576682
Sweetheart, you are young and in love; I know it sounds like a hard thing to do, but just be her friend, you are both too young to have this kind of stress in your lives. Be her friend, and be a good friend, things have a really weird way of working themselves out, so don't worry, if you love her you will cherish any relationship you have with her. \n\nP.S. You sound like a guy that any girl would be lucky to have, but I have to tell you; this probably wont be the last time you feel this way. I wish you good luck and good love
374428
you should stop being greedy.  if you got one girl that you love, stay with her and  stop thinking of her friend.
509152
Okay i was just in this situation. I love my friend and we have been friends for a while. I mean we have fooled around and stuff and I fell for him I mean really fell. However he didnt feel the same for me he just kind wanted to do stuff. It made me mad about the whole situation I mean if you do try and go for stuff like this make sure your friend is feeling the same way torwards you. Dont pressure anything make sure it is the right thing to do for the both of you analyze the situation and if you decide you should just be friends that is great.
558799
Her desire to continue being your friend may be her way of keeping her options open.  Be honest with her.  Tell her you're still in love with her and you aren't able to be JUST a friend to her because it hurts too much!  Break it off, forever, and begin dating immedialy.  You know the story....If you love something set it free, if it comes back... you did alright...
4250
Friendship is a beautiful thing and Love comes in many shades!  Since the two of you don't live close your best option would be to just continue being cool and see where it develops.  Both of you will continue to discover interesting things about eachother, and mutual love will blossom!  GIVE IT TIME! You've got so much of it! Good luck!
328468
I think it is safe to say that you are not IN love with her. It sounds like you love her but more as a friend rather than a girlfriend. Be honest with her now because she needs to know how you feel. Things will be ok.
498309
okay you can't seriously be inlove with her maybe just obsessed with her. You are in high school and she is  college. She of course is going to be with someone else over there especially since you both haven't even met yet. You are like a play toy to her who she can talk to when she is lonely. Save your self from a real heartache and find someone in your home town. Don't let yourself be miserable over something you have no control over being miles and miles away. Or if you truely mean what you said about you would do anything for her then take a vacation and fly to meet her and really see if she is worth being with in a distant relationship. good luck!
586795
the first question you need to ask yourself is if you are ready to start getting over her. it's no use wanting to get over her if you aren't willing to...thinking that there is still hope for the two of you.\nyou never 'get over' someone you love in your terms. you just slowly forget them and slowly, the hurt goes away. there is no exact remedy to these problems. the only reasonable remedy is time and lots of it.\nas for your best friend, maybe she's just as confused as you...not wanting to ruin a friendship that took longer to build then a relationship between you. you need to tink which is better for the both of you, staying friends, being together, or forget each other totally.
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Friends after the fact won't work dude.  If you want a relationship with her or still love her, tell her you want her back.  If that's a no go - you need a clean break - That involves your mate as well.   Explain you still have feelings for her and you can't be around her without feeling awkward.  Then find some new friends.
260585
hi dear,\n\ni saw your question by sudden. it is a cool question.\n\nin my opinion, i think you and she should take time, but it does not mean that you donot have the chance to be her lover.\nlove is a kind of emotion, and you can not force it to be good or even happen. if you continue to ask her, someday she may feel bored with you. so it is not a good way to ask her all the time. \n\nwhat you should do now is continue to be good friends, i believe that if you are really very good friends, you should not worry that she will leave u some day, she could not, because the relationship is so important to her, if you really do nice things to her and always helpful.\n\nyou are 16, actually, it is not a very young age for people falling in love. the problem is the one you love is your best friend, this situation is special, hard to handle, coz if you are not careful enough and rush in a hurry, she maybe feel not relax as before and want to keep a distanse with you. so continue to be with her, love her. i think after some time, she will recognise your true love.\n\ncome on, not in a rush...\nbest wishes.
624055
hi there, this must be a huge dilemma you're facing. i have experienced this before, i'm 19 and probably you would think that i'm too young to comment or give you advice on this but this would be my sincere reply to your question. firstly, is this a mutual feeling? does she love you to the extent as you love her? you mentioned that she loves you as a friend, have you confronted her and made your feelings towards her known? it would be best if you know how she really feels then you can decide on what to do next. if she loves you, and you love her too, and both of you are happy with each other's company- why let go when you can grow and allow a beautiful relationship to blossom? but if she doesn't love you in a romantic way, it is definitely advisable that you let go before it's too late. allow yourself to meet new people and give your chance and someone out there a chance too. it will take more than a short period of time to get over her and resume to the "just friends" status but it will do you good. if she's unsure, give her time to think about it. i hope what i said made sense, there's too much to speak on this. i hope that all will go well and you're able to come up with a solution. do not let this issue put you down, alrite? there are many other beautiful individuals out there waiting to be discovered. and i'm sure that she is also a special person.
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I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have a friend like you.  You cared enough about her to let her go and be happy.  I wish there were more ppl like you out in this world.  take care...
219558
she has use her friends, as a escape, she do love you,an want you , but has fear, love is become to real  for her.so she says its because of her friends, long distances love is very hard to handle. words ,on the phone , computer  is some not enough so just take your time , it a risk , but trust your heart, an mind an keep talking to her as a wonderful friend don't talk about love or try to convince her of your love let her come to you. give it time if the love is true it will happen in time.
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Hi\nif she wont return U Should forgot her as love .i mean U can have relation to her as e friend but No love and find new Love for your self but firs be sure that she wont return or she agree with this decision
650598
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
634225
Boy thats hard...Especially because its your best friend It all depends on if you are willing to risk yourfriendship. I always have started out by saying ya know I had the craziest dream about us... just to feel the situation out and see what response I get then go from there. Good luck...