I'm too shy and I want to be able to talk more and louder and express my opinions...
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Well just keep in mind always, you only live once you should live it for you and be who you want to be. When it comes to speaking up it depends who your talking about speaking up too. I say usually speak your mind cause that helps define you and dont worry about what other people think of you because reguardless you'll get people who like you and people who dont. Just ignore the haters. BE YOU, its the easiest person you can be. You'll always be the best at it too cause only you know how to be you. Just think if he/she doesnt like what i have to say there will always be someone who does like what i'm saying. lol this doesnt mean speak up though in the sense of telling someone there ugly or such lol. When speaking up keep peoples feelings in mind and you'll be safe. Goodluck.
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You don't have to call yourself pathetic. It's ok to be nervous when talking to the opposite sex. I used to get nervous talking to guys when I was younger, but somehow I learned to manage and now I have a boyfriend. I'm still a shy person and I guess that's part of my personality. I guess you have to give it some time. Think before you talk. What is it that makes you stammer? Think of interesting topics to talk about with girls. If it helps,write some of the stuff down that you think you'd discuss with a girl. Then rehearse it so it'll prepare you for next time. I know it may sound stupid but you can give it a try and no one has to know. The key is making yourself comfortable when talking to girls and talk to them like you casually talk to your friends. Once you get the hang of it, I'm sure you won't feel nervous anymore. It's just a phase and it'll go away with time. Don't worry, just relax. Good luck!
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Be open with people and they will be open with you. Listen to what they have to say... try to understand them. Be encouraging, be honest.
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Maybe you have to work on your self. \nWhat i mean is, if you are not sure on how you look that would make you shy when you have to go to a party, or a club. So you can start by looking at fashion magazines to find the clothes you like and combine, and try combining your clothes and using more accesories, try all of that at home, see your self in the mirror, till you find the way you feel better.\nIf you are shy cause dont know what to talk about, you can read a little more, watch movies, read and see tv news so you know always subject that are IN.\nIf you are not satisfied at work or at school, maybe you need to improve it, find out some other issues you want to learn and take some courses. \nFinally, if you dont really have any of those problems, maybe you dont have to worry to much to live a low profile life, while you are satisfied, it must be enougth to have a plenty life.
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just start talking and then you will become more relaxed.  i am shy too and once you start talking it will come to you and you will be fine.  it does not matter what you say to start it just start talking.
574743
just try to talk to people i had the same problem i know it can be hard but just be as nice as possible
64331
Everyone feels shy sometimes, but being too shy can hamper many aspects of your life.\n \n \nSteps:\n1.  Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.\n \n2.  Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.\n \n3.  Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.\n \n4.  Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.\n \n5.  Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.\n \n6.  Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.\n \n7.  Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.
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Maybe the way you talk or express is not attractive or did you use your words carefully? Perhaps the topics is not what others like. Try to talk sensible with care, and do not offense others. See what interests others before talking. And never interrupt. Hope it helps.
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How about anything that will put you in social situations. Im not saying that to be mean, Im just saying that shyness is not something you need to just live with. Break free of it. I was extremely shy just a few years ago. I overcame this by becoming an xray tech. I know its not a glamorous job, but I it has helped. When you are around people screaming in pain all day long, the last thing on your mind is saying the wrong thing. I can talk freely to anyone now. Think about it.
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You should make your speech more interesting like.. hard words in it, which you can understand. You should have a clear voice and not be afraid to say it, and you should make sure that it's right and understandable.
38502
The only thing wrong is that you are very shy and have not found a way to work around the problem. My advice would be to use your hobbies and interests to help you find someone that has things in common with you. Join groups or teams or go places that have to do with your hobbies and interests. The people that you will find in the groups or on the teams will have the same thing in common with you and it will give you something to talk about. Once you have broken the ice it will be easier to continue the conversation. I strongly believe that you don't "Find" love, that it will find you, but it never hurts to put yourself in a place where it will have a chance to find you. By joining groups or going to places that you have an interest in, you are automatically placing yourself with people that have the same interests as yourself and giving you something to open a conversation with that you will feel confident talking about, which will help with your shyness. Good Luck!! =-)
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I feel your pain--I was so shy when I was your age I would panic if someone talked to me, or a friend called me on the phone.  It was terrible.\n\nI am not sure by your question if you are wanting to overcome your shyness, but what I did was started reading books (back then we didnt have the internet) on public speaking, making friends, what to say in social settings, how to make small talk, etc.  I also read up on self esteem building, and many years later I feel comfortable in public settings, and also have done several public speaking engagements in my field.\n\nI am not saying you should NOT be shy or change how you are.  If you are comfortable with who you are, and your friends are not, then find friends who respect you for who you are.  I chose to overcome my shyness because it really was limiting my life.\n\nGood luck!  You have a great life ahead of you!
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You get over your shyness by, if necessary, making yourself talk to someone. I know it's not easy. I'm shy too. But I MAKE myself talk to people and when conversation is started, then the next logical step is dating. Smile, and be friendly to men where you go....grocery store, gas station, post office, etc. There are a lot of good, decent guys out there, and one of them is waiting for a nice Lady like you. Good Luck!
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I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
80300
its like that with me too. i mean I'm really shy and i can't start up a conversation very well.
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hey i wa shy to but just ty to let your self go think as if no one is there i some times act dumb but if you cant just try little chat like ask questions go ith poeple you know and make new friends
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Do something and increase your self confidence.When talking don't too fast take your time and let the words come out.Those who laugh at you aren't worthy of being called friends.I know I had this problem too,still have it but not so evident.Hope this helps.