Im so confused, by this but me and my ex are still good friends. Though at some points when were hanging out it seems as though we are still a couple.
215962
This is typical after a breakup if the two people remain friends.  The problem is that even though you aren't together, you still have feelings for each other and everyone around you will still often treat you like a couple so it is very easy to fall into old patterns.  It doesn't mean anything has changed or that you two should be together, it just means your not able to move on because you two are still so connected by life in general.
90876
NO, ONCE AN EX ALWAYS AN EX! TAKE IT FROM EXPERIENCE TRIED THIS TO MANY TIMES IN THE PAST. IT NEVER WORKS OUT. HOPE THIS HELPS!!!
401765
There is no easy answer.  I felt like I spent the better half two years basically throwing myself at this guy I use to work with.  I never got any where.  We just remained good friends and now we just seemed to have gone down different paths and never see each other anymore.  Don't take it too hard if this happens.  It just means that you weren't meant to be together and you'll find the right guy down the road.
102178
the guy i am dating now i have been best friends with for 6 years. when we first met we started to flirt nothing serious, then he told me that he wanted to persue this other girl very seriously. so we became really good friends. after four years we were finally both single, he was getting ready to move across the country and he told me how he felt. we've been dating for 2 years now. it is with out a doubt the best relationship i have ever been in. i'm glad we waited, because if not we might not be together right now. if he loves you and you love him. you will end up together. i hope this helps your situation.
243932
Do you like him? As it seems you do and you guys hang out. do you want to be friends or more? Think, if you are more than friends and you break up. Will it affect your relationship? which do you value most? think about it.
80598
Your ex is your ex for a reason.  Why ruin what you say is a great relationship by letting old feelings from your past interfere?  You have been moving forward without your ex just fine so why go back now?  It is normal to have feelings for your ex but you need to store them away and concentrate on what you have now.
225617
just sounds like a ho to me to tell you the truth.....because a "friend with Benefits" well that is still a relationship...things could get very awkward.
567389
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
495673
You should do what you think is right. If you think it is going to turn out badly, don't go. But if you want to go, then i say go. Your ex (whether or not you want to still be friends with him) should have no impact on where you go and who you hang out with.
367370
It's totally cool to have your ex has a friend.  Just because two people aren't right for each other romantically doesn't mean they shouldn't be friends.  Those who don't comprehend it too bad for them, you and your ex are extremely lucky and rare so don't change a thing.
213490
don't count on getting back together, or being very good friends for that matter. my ex gf said the same thing about maybe getting back together, now shes dating one of my friends and we barley ever talk
37125
These things do hapeen between friends sometimes, especially when you are younger. As time passes you may see that none of this really matters and you and your friend will have to come to an agreement that exes are off limits. I dont think you are a bad friend, but I think you two need to get together and have a heart to heart.
127850
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
661081
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.
80562
Women can have X's as best friends without loving them or being attracted to them. I still keep in contact with all of mine. I care about them still but we broke up for a reason..you know? It means that she is a nice person as oppossed to a psycho who had a restraining order placed against her. You should feel lucky that you are with her and that he is her ex. Just make sure she knows you care for her and feel lucky to be with her..thats all you should worry about.
290616
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
230977
If you have a past, it must mean that something about her is worth liking/being friends with. If situations like this arise, and the friendship is worth keeping, time will settle whatever weirdness there may be. I would act as though you are friends, and nothing is weird, and hopefully she follows suit.