Lately ive been feeling really depressed. Im not very popular, and im not known to many people. Im bisexual, and some people hate me for that. My step dad has been very mean to me lately, and hes a jerk all the time now. Ive been snapping at my friends sometimes, and one of them wont talk to me the same anymore. Please, he was my best friend, im sorry, help me.
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Being pulled into too many dirrections? Hate, fear, frustraition, Hormones.\n\nWhat you need is an angle of attack. A starting point to turn this all around. And I'm quite sure, that's all you want.\n\nMaybe simplifing the problem would help. Eliminate some of the factors. Find some more excepting friends. Ignore the people at school who don't count.\n\nDad's stressed, and doesn't know how to deal with it. Maybe he feels he's failing as a father, and is pulling at strings to reach you. Maybe he's stressed at work, and doesn't have the brain power left to come home and deal with family responcabilites.\n\nTake yourself out of the moment when he becomes a jerk. Count to ten. Breath deeply. And say how you feel. It seems to shock people into the moment, and into realizing what they are doing.\n\nIf you can't get it out the first time. Take some time to focus on it. Write it down and read it over. Then be ready the next time.\n\nBullies (people that hate on you) are people with low self esteam. They try to tear down others self esteam, in order to make them feel better compariably. It only works for them if you actually feel worse. Yet bullying is only fooling yourself. It doesn't actually raise their self esteam, and they have to do it daily, causing more frustraition. That's why bullies will become so illogical, they make a pathetic game out of it. They distort reality. And no lie is believable unless it has some truth in it.\n\nAll you are is what you do in life. Popularity is social ease, but not freedom to do what you want. I never cared about people I went to school with,.. and most of my friends weren't in my grade. This allowed my better self-awareness, when not having to deal with social stresses.\n\nCallousness = being lesser then the purity of a new spirit. Usually from dealing with people that abuse them (road rage, school, Big cities), witch creates fight or flight syndrome; and perpetuates most identity complexes. When the victim overcomes oppression,.. They become hardened and use this hardness to victimize others. Unless they hold onto what they were before the calousness. But this takes too much will power and time for most every person.\n\nThe Holy Spirit's power is great. It can give people strength. It can give people peace. It can heal your soul to something similar to the innocents and purity of a new soul. It can remove all of the callousness to the world that you've built up. It can give you hope beyond your problems.\n\nChurch is a great place to meet new people. It gives you good fellowship. And praying with these people, with that list to your father. It should help even more.\n\nSexuality is a hard subject. And you'd probably be turned off from church just because of this one thing. Yet, what your attracted to in both sexes is up to personal taste. In a society that teaches experimentation. What you learn to trigger endorphines in the brain is up to personal taste. Maybe you like the comfort of the ease of same sex friendships. Maybe you get along better with the opposite sex. It doesn't change your esrogin or testosteron, witch dictates what your brain scans look like. The difference between men and women was created to consolidate life's needs into roles toward each other. It takes love between the sexes to give us a natural, intimate drive to become something beyond these differences. Only recently has the world become secure enough for these roles to become relaxed. Finally allowing us to dedicate time to a give and take relationship. Yet these roles will never be erased. For a woman will never be as good at certain things, as men are naturally. And vise versa. It comes down to the nature of our bodies,.. and how it opens up our soul. Yet there are two types of men and two types of women. Right brain dominate, and left brain dominate. Ones that are analitical and analitical of their adrenaline. Then those who are abstract dominate,
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Ooooooooooooooooooooh come heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeere you need a hug!! \n\nFirst off, you are not a loser, popularity is NOTHING believe ME. when I was in school popular kids were kids that were rich and spoiled and I saw how they would treat other people and it was hard to believe that these kids were popular. Granted there were some good kids that were popular and I got a long with them. \n\nLet me tell you something, I am 34 years old, but who gives a crap about my age okay? I was abused when I was kid,we were a family that was P*ss poor and broke. I got picked on in school because I was abused at home and I had no self esteem and it showed in the way I took care of myself, I wore raggedy clothes because we were poor. At the age of 14 I suffered from a severe anxiety disorder because of all the bullcrap that took place in my life, I was severely depressed and so on and so forth. I "wormed" my way out of high school, I barely graduated and started working. Low self esteem still, BUT people liked me because no matter how bad I felt I smiled, I laughed, I was a pleasant character. WHOA the sun started to shine in my life, I started improving on appearance, I started improving a lot of things and doing what I could to make others happy because I got a huge high off of doing things for others and making them happy, the more I did and do for others the more people did and still do for me. but that is not why I help others, I help others because I don't want others to feel like POOP. Got me so far??? good because I am running out of breath ;) (just a joke of course) I am typing a mile a minute though, so pardon the typos. \n\nDuring the past two years, I had two surgeries,One surgery on each ankle, results of my own pure clumsiness. Okay people love that. I am clumsy, but people get a good laugh out of seeing me trip and fall. :p okay and I laugh about it too. \n\nJust in the past few months my life was a living H* * * okay. In October I can down with a sinus infection it settled into my vocal cords, I had laryngitis, I could not talk for TWO months because my vocal cords were inflammed. I was depressed because I could not work because I could not talk . I was on disabillity disability pay sucks!! But it was better than nothin. I was scared crapless thinking that my voice would never come back. I found ways to entertain myself, I learned that I could make cool dolphin noises from my throat and when I laughed my throat would squeek and people thought that it was great and they laughed with me and of course I had to entertain them by making the dolphin noises. \n\nAs a result of being on disability my car gets repossessed. OKAAAAAAAAAAY I need my car to get to work, they wanted 1500.00 otherwise I lost my car for good, couldn't do it, it gets auctioned off, my fiancee writes me a letter telling me that he is going to marry his ex girlfriend, that was a slap in the face, it hurt very very badly especially since he told me what an evil person she was and this and that. \n\nDuring all this, I got a job after I was able to talk again could not pass the written assessment, they told me to apply for other departments, I tried and they just politely told me to bite their butts and that I was fired. TWO DAYS BEFORE CHRISTMAS. Okay I started collecting unemployment which sucked. I was hired on by a small towing company as being a dispatcher at the beginning of January, they could afford to keep me, three weeks later, they fired me! \n\nAlright. I am now working for an airline company. I am happy they are happy and they love me!! I get to fly free. \n\nWhat is wrong??? Look, don't be sad. You know when I get down, I do things to make myself or someone else laugh, I get out and I do nice things for other people, I watch a funny movie or read a heartwarming book. \n\nI sit and I think about ALL the good things in life and I tell myself that something good is bound to happen, just when I think I have had enough something g
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Why are you so down on  yourself?\nBeing mean to you isn't good either.\nEveryone has something about them that's good. Find that thing about yourself and go make some friends.
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your making me cry! i hope you will be able to get through your situation. of course its hard to deal with and dont let others try to tell you to get over it. its good your expressing your feelings outwards. i hope you share what you wrote with others close to you. it might help a little more.
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im really sorry. its ok to cry. talk to your gramma and make sure she knows you love her. and cry all you want. its natural to feel sad. tell a good friend how you feel, maybe get a pyscologist to help you. just remember that you aren't alone. after all im a total strangerand im helping you. yea and that dguey guy two up from me sucks, don't listen to him.
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Kayla, \nSometimes things can get pretty low in life and we don't always know why. I have been there and my heart goes out to you now. It seems as though there are those that suffer more than others at times and I know it doesn't seem fair.\n\nThink about the future even though it is hard. Tell yourself that it is going to get better and take one little thing out of your day that may have made you slightly smile and think of it often.\nTalk to your Mom, I do to mine. She is with you, just in a different way. \nSchool is a hard place to find friends, especially girls. They can be very petty! Find them elsewhere. In a good place. Like maybe a support group or something.\nMost of all, say your prayers! He is listening even though at times it doesn't seem like it. Things will fall into place. I promise you that!
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I've felt the same way as you and been in the same position, but trust me, stay true to yourself, don't hurt yourself, don't let the shallow ***** grind you down and one day, everything will get better for you. Good luck. If you ever need someone to talk to, or just need help in a time of extreme depression, don't hesitate to find me.
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It is normal to feel down about yourself at this age and during your life. Everyone needs someone that they can be with and vent to on occasion but besides that you need a friend.  Not just someone to talk to but a genuine friend that will laugh with you, cry with you, and be there for you when you need them to be. Not some person that is jsut there because of something you have and or could give them. First you must find what is making you feel so depressed. Once you have found that think about why you feel this way and telling yourself "I don't know" isn't the answer.  I mean who can you be honest with but yourself first, huh? I did a journal when I felt really down and that nothing was going right and then I tried this.  It helped me so much that I started letting go the bad feelings and bad thoughts and started living without a care about those thoughts again.  If you still are depressed then you may want to find out why and instead of being unhappy start thinking of what got you to this point. Everyone has to hit rock bottom before they can start climbing outta the hole. You aren't there yet but I don't want you there. I want you to be able to be happy and content with everything you do.\n\nGood luck my dear!
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Talk to you parents, doctor and/or guidance counselor about getting help for this behavior and depression.  You should not have to put yourself through this.\n\nDo it now!  You will feel very much better!\n\nGood luck!
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I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. I would try to avoid them as much as you can, so you don't have to hide your feelings often. When you are with them, try to be polite, but I know it's hard. you might want to vent in a diary after you see them or to a really trusted friend. \n\nIf you can, try to get involved with other hobbies and interests, and if you feel up to it, go out more often with other friends. I know from experience that this is hard, but you may meet more great people and really get into your other interests. I really hope things go well for you.
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i think Ur facing some kind of depression (not major one).\nu need someone who understand Ur feeling well, mature enough to deal with.\nur wants r normal, but u can't go for it, cauz u develop some complex in urself.\ncome from it, u r young, no one can please everybody, so don't care much for those who don't care for u.\n\nlife is short, live its every second\nGOD bless u
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Dear Rebecca,\n           Take heart and know that you are not alone in your struggle with depression. I have the same problem too and understand how you feel. Please know that you are okay and sound like a very likable young girl. If your "friend" can't accept you with your problems as you are, then I'd say she isn't much of a friend and perhaps you should try for other friends who will appreciate you for all that you are. I am sorry that you have to be hurt this way and my thoughts go with you but also realize that there are people who really will like you as you, Rebecca! Take care of yourself and stay sweet!
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Even if it feels weird talking to your dad about it, i think you should give it a shot. he is the one that can truly understand you - not some shrink that you hardly even know. he will know what you're going through and he`ll give you the support that you need.\n\ni hope you feel better.
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Perhaps I can help you out a little.  I have been dealing with a bout of depression for about a year now.  So I understand your situation.\n\nIf your friends seem to be distancing themselves from you, perhaps you should voice your concerns to them.  Ask them if you have done something to offend them, because you feel that they are shutting you out of their lives.  If they do not offer any answers, perhaps it is time to find some new friends.  \nPeople change over time, so do their opinions of others.  \n\nYou really should not allow it to hurt you physically.  True loosing a friendship is a traumatic event, but you have to be able to move on.  If you begin to dwell on why somebody dislikes you, you may miss out on forming another friendship with somebody else.\n\nI'm sorry you are feeling "down" from all of this.  All I can say is keep your head up, and live your life to suit YOU, and not those around you.\n\nI wish you all the best of luck in working through this situation.  If you ever need to just talk to somebody with a sympathetic ear, you can feel free to e-mail me anytime.  jam961@yahoo.com\n\nTake care, and God Bless You!
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Yes zool, sometimes I feel very sad and loney too.  My marriage of 27 years broke up about 3 yars ago.  Then I met someone, fell in love and got engaged.  He died last September.  Since then I can't seem to "find my place."  You know, where I belong.  I moved to another state but feel like I need to go back where I came from because my children and grandchildren are there.  What is making you feel sad and lonely?  You can email me at watsoq9@yahoo.com if you like.
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It sounds like you are a very depressed young lady. Maybe instead of talking to your mom just about the boy that you like you could tell her about how sad you have been feeling and that you feel like crying alot. You are at an age where your body and hormones are changing an awful lot and it can be too much to cope with at times. I remember my teenage years all too well!! \nIs there a counselor at your school that you could talk to? Or a teacher? I think you need to talk to someone about your feelings!
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Maybe just try talking to her first and see if she'll let you know what's going on, and if she's really depressed, maybe suggest your friend to talk to a psychologist...someone who will LISTEN and not JUDGE them for anything they say.  That could help them get to the root of some of the feelings they're having.  Good luck and I hope for the best for your friend! =)