We had been goin out for just over a month, and my bf asked if we could go on a 'trial break' for two weeks. He told me that his feelings were all mixed up and he doesn't know how he feels any more. I love and miss him, but I don't know what to do now! Please help!
208113
leave him alone. he wants a break to think about stuff, give him a break to think about stuff. Go do whatever you like to do. Run, swim, read, shop, bike ride. Whatever. Give him the space he is asking for.
23140
Take a deep breath and give it some space. 2 days is not long, although it has been agony for you. Focus on yourself and do special things you enjoy and see what happens. Give him some space, too. If you really love him, you can prove it by giving him some time and space. It sounds like you may have been holding on a bit too tightly.
428937
You wrote a pretty long question, but no where in the entire paragraph did you say that there has been any change in the thigns that caused you to break up.  That's the key here.\n\nObviously, you care about him.  He must have had some good qualities, because you would not have been with him for two years if he didn't.  So, you gave it your best shot.  Unfortunately, *it didn't work.*  That's sad, and it has to hurt.  Two years, all that effort, and it just didn't work out.  Ouch.\n\nBut the one thing you got, or should have gotten, is the lesson that you don't work as a couple.  Whatever happened between you shows that you can't be together as a couple.  So, yes, you have to move on.\n\nI know this is not the news you were hoping for, but I think it is important to hear the truth.  Good luck!!
213513
how does it feel to be heartbroken? Well, it depends on how deeply you tresured something with the person who broke your heart. for me, it felt like HELL. But i got over it after about 1 and 1/2 year. when a broken heart will be healed depends on your own pace. Frankly speaking, i don't believe the guy said. it's too unspecific and invalid. that's like telling who you can be with and you can't be with. if i were in your place, i wouldn't think that he's doing me a great favor. But nevertheless it shows he doesn't like you. Learn to move on.= )
66713
Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
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I would give it a little bit of time and then ask yourself. Are you ready to give this another try or are you starting to feel better and are able to move on?\n\nSomeone once told me people break up for a reason and that they should always stick to their original idea. Of course this is not always the case but just do what you feel is right deep down. \n\nHope everything works out!
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It really hard to Move on girl but You have to ...Well everyone was saying move on and you might think we don't know what you r feeling and just saying move on..the thing is i know how u feeling right now...you feel sad ..you want to cry and you want to tell him how much u need him/ love him and u want to show him u would do anything to get him and u want to beg him to get bak but he doesn't feel the same and u feel like u want to die is't? I been there a few month ago. he broke my heart and i feel all the thing that i'm telling you now but in the end what did i get ...he doesn't feel same as me...i'm just making my self down/worst...so i'm just relise instand of wanting him back i should try to have fun with my mate more and i should do anything that make me happy and yep i'm happy now and I'm glad i'm sigle again. I don't need them to make me happy and yep i'm not dating anyone at the moment and i don't feel like it ..i'm enjoy my single life. the thing is u just need to make ur self happy ..if u happy u don't need him but i'm very sure it going to take time ..u can't just do it overnight and ou really really need to be strong ...Anyway if u really want him back that badly try to be friend with him again first and show him u care."Love is when friendship on fire" ..."if u love a dove, let him go...if he come back he is ur ..if he not he never was"..just remember this ..it always help me but good luck
573178
go with what you feel is best. take a break and try the fling. the fling may end up just being a good time and may make you feel good all over again.
394123
Everyone keeps telling you it's hard, it hurts...but I wanna say it is an good opportunity for you to take an emotional break. Just take off from the bad relationship you had before. Now focusing on yourself, do anything make yoruself happy. Beatify yourself, dress up, workout, study, go to the beach, meet friends...Many things you can do to make the world starts to spin for you not him any more. When you can't keep your mind off him, just give it a break and do things that you feel most relaxed and your attention can be carried away the easieast. Soonner or later, you will realize you don't need him in your life to make yourself feel better, look prettier, and being appreciated more by people.
565385
i know the feeling girl... i guess i should just ask you to let it go. let time take its course... i had the same situation, we didn't get the closeness back, it didn't matter what i do anymore... he hardly ever speaks to me now... i'm not saying you'll end up like us... just to avoid getting hurt, move on and let time decide for you... if he's for you, then no matter how long it takes... love would find its way and fate would bring you back together...
107905
you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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honey you have to understand u LEFT...what do you want him to do while you were out of the picture.. not knowing if you'll be back??? stay lifeless?????\n\nsometimes we act on certain needs..she(his co-worker) was there and willing ..so y not take whats in front of you???? its was just an act of being HUMAN with NEEDS!!!!\n\ni suggest you give him another chance like how GOD gave you another chance with LIFE!!!!!
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I am happy for you that you realize he didn't love you, you are on the road to recovery!  WTG!  Why do you miss him so much?  You spent 3 years with him, that is a good chunk of time wouldn't you agree?  Even though someone hurt us more than imaginable, we still suffer a loss after a break up.  The only way to heal is to forgive him for all they ways he's hurt you.  You forgive him for yourself and your mental health, it really has nothing to do with him.  Then give yourself a lot of time.  You aren't going to get over three years in a month.  When you feel you are ready to move on you will but; give yourself a little time so what he did to you doesn't effect your next relationship.  Good luck and remember:  "NO MAN OR WOMAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WON'T MAKE YOU CRY."  I don't know who said it but; it's wonderful isn't it?
47344
OK...i will guess you have been dating about a year, give or take a couple of months.  This is the fork in the road of your relationship.  Almost all guys do this at the same time.  They get scared and feel trapped, so they want to break-up for a while.  Give him a few weeks and he will either come back loving you more than ever ready to go all the way, or he won't come back.
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i know how you feel cuase i maybe just getting out of that right now...\n\nsee i haven't had a real boyfriend for almost 2 years  and about two weeks ago i asked a guy that is a grade younger out, he said yes becuase i knew he really liked me.. we went out for a week then i said i am just a lil over welmed by the feeling and just need to take a lil break.. after a while he started talking to my friends and practically the whoiole school found out we liked each other and now everyone considers us to be dating...  and we just kinda go with everyone cuase everyone else thinks it is great now im not so overwelmed with the feeling... i think the overwelming i use to feel was that i was afraid of being heartbroken again.\n\ndon't worry you will grow out of the feeling a lil while after you begin dating.. depending on however your emotions work..\n\nnothing to really worry about
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NO, my dear, you have a right to feel sad, it just ended 2 weeks ago. It takes time to get over someone, especially is you loved him a lot. Maybe in the future, you will be glad for him, but for right now, no, you cannot. Take your time, and allow the lost of your boyfriend to go away, cry if you have to, scream if necessary, but to try to feel happy for him, that is an impossible task at this time. I will tell, you will get over it, just give it time. Give yourself time to heal.  Good luck, precious, and God bless.
505507
You need to decide what is best for you.  What are the reasons you two broke it off?  Are they mendable?  Will things change when you two get back together?  I've never gone back to an ex.  I've thought about it a few times but for me, if what we went through was enough to break us up in the first place, who's to say it won't just happen again?  Take a break from each other.  If a month goes by and you two still feel like you belong together, give it another shot!  \n\nJust don't stay with someone because you are afraid to get back out there and love again.  There will always be someone else.  You have a big enough heart to love again.  Good Luck with your decisions.  Only you can make the right decision for youself!