I'm not trying to intimidate women, but women are trying to use the reverse friend method on me, as if I don't know what there trying to do.\n\nBut I'm pretty sure they think that if there trying to be more then my friend that I'm going to reject them.
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Perhaps you should Learn about Narcissus.
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Janinie, \n\nMy opinion is that you should just say every since you started hanging out with those chicks you turned int a jerk. So i just want to be friends and not best friends cause i don't want to get dumped on the side of the road again. So we can still hang out if you want but that is your choice. Thank you. That is what I would say. And you can Email me back if you want.\n\nKennetha\n\n\nP.S. My email adress is kennethacutie@yahoo.com
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It is common for men to flirt with their female platonic friends. But it seems like at first this guy was taking it a bit farther, in my opinion he is either already married or in another committed relationship, and he wanted to see how far he could take it before you responded. In some way he also wanted to see if he was still desirable to the opposite sex. So he's either a big jerk or he's afraid of letting you get to close, because of your locations. I hope this helps.
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uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
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They simply say this statement because they want to keep you holding on to their balls but really they are afraid of commitment and don't want to let you know because they know they will lose you. I think if they flirt and talk to other women though, you should not distrust them. I think flirting is nature and I don't care what anyone says, everyone does it from time to time. So go out there and do it in front of him and see what he has to say about it.
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LOL.....man......I wish I had caller ID a few times too. I had this exact same thing happen to me! You described it well too. I thought I'd split a gut when you said that about the caller ID....ROFL.\n\nWell meaning person, sweet, intelligent....but MAN, just could not understand plain, well-stated english.\n\nOk.....I don't know which way you want to go....\n\n....but I tried and tried...and tried and tried and tried and tried....and did I mention that I tried?...to be polite, respectful, caring.\n\nTo carefully lay barriers (even tho I wanted to hide in a tank), talked with her, communicated in person, on the phone. And it's not like we were strong buds or anything it was just a low-level friendship, but she was treating me like a nuclear-powered soul mate. It was very inappropriate.\n\nI'd speak to her....kindly, clearly, but the message did not sink in. I asked her about what her feelings were, and she squarely, flatly said friendship. I asked her several times...just to be sure, and she emphatically said friendship. \n\nI tried my best to be this woman's friend, but it was never enough. She demanded more and more of my time and attention. It got worse and worse, and I communicated more and more firmly with her. I was starting to look for tickets to the next Shuttle launch so I could get away.\n\nI eventually had to warn her that she was quickly going to lose a friend if she didn't cut it out.....and she didn't....and I had to finally be rude to her. :(\n\nIt's a shame, but I wanted to make sure I did everything I could on my end, to give her every possible chance to keep the friendship. Severing a frendship is a pretty major thing, and I felt bad but things were getting pretty trippy.\n\nDunno what you can glean outta all this, but I wish you luck!     :D
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I have several female friends and I am married..there is nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex,in fact it helps you to get their views on things..specially relationships..ignore the people that make the gay remarks they are shallow..just remember you can never have enough friends..and I am sure she is more of a friend than the ones calling you names
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How could they be rejecting you if you are not pursuing them?  What are they rejecting?  If they just don't want to be around you, then chose other women that want to be around you, they are just that shallow.
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I agree. I even have written on my profile that I am not looking for anyone. That means to them that I want to screw everyone without being committed to them. Guys Listen Up! No does not mean Maybe it means NO!!!!
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It's not all that much different up here in the northeast.  Nice men do land women, don't get me wrong....but the majority of men who land the women are the careless type.  I think it's a universal reality no matter where you go.....why do you think so many men try to be careless, bad, look mean, etc.....it's all to win the ladies affection because we all know it works.  Modern feminists try to tell us to treat a woman good, but we aren't affectionately or sexually rewarded in return......I think they need to re-evaluate their thinking.
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I hate to say this but I hate it when one person speaks for all. ALL WOMEN are different the same as all men are different. I am a woman who looks for the sensitivity in a man as I appreciate that. I do believe as a society we have come to look at emotions as being a weak thing but I don't agree. I can agree with self resolve though too. The answers are within and we must seek to find them. No one is an authority over us so why run to other people as if they are.
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They are trying to tell you to save them time.  Men cannot keep up a false front indefinitely, and will eventually fall back into their normal pattern of living.  If that pattern is one that the woman can't accept, then you will have wasted whatever amount of time of hers that you have spent together.  If you are you right up front, then she can make the decision right up front as to whether or not she can accept you for who you really are.  It's that simple.
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it sounds like you asked in the most decent way that you could. If she turns you down, there will be other women who are willing to go out with you. im sure you're a nice guy, u didn't come at her in a rude manner. Good luck though.
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Yes, actually there are many of them out there.  Here is what I know from my own observation:  women, especially those who have come out of a bad marriage/relationship have this wall of ice around them...their body language gives off very clear signals of "approach me and die a slow and painful death"...not to mention the patented "all men are pigs" glare.  Now, there are some brave souls who will approach anyway only to find a sniper from a water tower shooting at them...for no reason!  Be aware of the signals you are throwing off...a nice guy wants to approach without barriers, and won't until the coast is clear.  Nice guys are the ones that never get a fair chance...for whatever the reason.
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let me tell you the first thing about women... never take advice from women about women. Let me prove that one to you. I once asked my sister two questions. The first question was "what do you look for in a guy?" I got the typical "i want a guy that treats me good, does sweet things for me, and blah blah blah". then i asked her to describe the guys that she has had the longest relationships with. well I'll be damned if those two answers weren't the farthest away from each other as they could be. Now some girls you ask may get a good piece of advice in there once and awhile, but let me tell you the three "C's" of what a women looks for in a man. Confidence is probably number one. Not to be confused with arrogance, confidence is not having a self esteem problem. Know in your head that you are good enough for a women, but don't think that you are better than her. The second: Control. Control is about being your own person and in control of your own life. Being a decision maker and being confident in the decision. Taking charge of a date for example. None of this crap about i don't know, what do you want to do. This is where many many men falter. Control in this manner is not about controlling what a woman does. it's about being a take charge guy. One word of caution about this is that there may be feminist or two out there that don't like this kind of crap. Those women need to be kicked to the curb. The third is a challenge. Never let a woman think that you are a loser. Women want what other women want. Let her think other women want you. never wait around for a women and beg her like a puppy dog. you have your own life, live it. and if you don't, pretend. go out with your friends, go on dates with other women. And if and when you start dating a women, remember that you still have friends. never let a women tell you "let me think about it". that's just postponement for her to tell you no with hopes that you will forget about it. I'm not in any way telling you to treat a women like crap. a lot of people assume that from me when i tell them this stuff. you need to treat your woman good, but do not be her little bi***. Bottom line, women want a man to be a man. The big protector. Be a gentleman. Open doors, and treat her like a lady, but be a man about it, not a p**** whooped fool.  You sound like you're ready to hand over your testicles.  you will "worship the ground they walk on"... if it doesn't work try something else.  accept that you need to change
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Well, I have to say that I am sorry that you have run into a woman who could not appreciate you for who you are and what you have to offer, but I have to say that all women do not blame all of our problems on men.\n\nI am a firm believer in the fact that it is fairly unlikely for any problems involving more than one person to be the fault of any one person. I do believe that woman are very capable of contributing to the problems and successes of their relationships. \n\nTo me, the issue really becomes are we both able to acknowledge and accept are our role in the storyline of our relationships. Just as I think it is unfair for all men to be categorized, I believe that it is unfair for all women to be categorized.\n\nBoth men and women are capable of doing some low down things and of being disrespectful to their mate, neither sex is immune. The whole thing comes down to having the ability to recognize right from wrong, having the ability to treat one at least as well as we hope to be treated, and the ability to refrain from participating in behaviors that are hurtful....and finally, having the ability to tell our mates that if they are not giving us what we need that the relationship has to end. (And I don't mean that just from the prospective of a woman...we are all guilty of it)\n\nSo in essence, it comes down to being able to effectively dialogue one with another to maintain a good, working relationship.
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Hi mate.\n\nI think u r answering urself.\nShe's obviously trying to be nice to u, she said politely she isnt interested and she also tries to avoid you.\n\nIf 2+2 is 4, this woman isnt attracted by you at all.\n\nleave her alone, ignore her for a while, trust me she's  a woman...\nShe'll eventually get back to you when she'll be feeling alone and in a need of attentions.....\n\nAndy ;0)