I was recently taken advantage (raped) of by one of friends boyfriends. (rohypnol). I have laid charges against him and he is out on bail. The semen matches and he is guilty! Everyone is talking about me at varsity, and his friends are verbally abusing me. Even my friends are starting to back off. Its not like its easy without this sh1t already. Im on antiretrovirals, antidepressants, seeing councelors, psycologists, police, getting tested. W.T.F.? I hate going to varsity now! Why is everyone being so heartless? Why?
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For what it is worth my guess is that, in part at least, it's because we still live in a male dominated world, preoccupied with status and earning capacity which perhaps views the damage this will do to his education/career prospects/future as more 'threatening' to society.\n\nI'm not condoning such attitudes, merely hoping to expose them and remind myself (and others) what is important. We desperately need to learn to recognise there are other forms of harm than financial or material and that other people matter. Nowadays there's more respect for things than for people.\n\nIt is however possible that the reaction your getting does reflect a sort of collective guilt, at some level perhaps they can't face you because they feel responsible that some of the protections weren't there, that they have put pleasure before integrity and in some way let you down; just a thought! People may seem they can't face you but in reality be hiding from themselves...\n\nI wish I could say it is going to be easy for you; if he is found guilty he may go to jail (here in the UK for a pitiful 6 years if the news items are anything to go by) whereas you have to carry this for the rest of your life, where's the justice in that?\n\nAll I can really say is try not to let yourself become victimised by all this. People can be shallow, cruel, self-interested and yes, heartless, but not all of them are; look out for the good ones... \n\nIf needs be you can change schools as someone else mentioned, even take time out if you can, but don't lose hope - you still have a future and if you can move on and make that as succesful, happy and prosperous as it can be then not only will you find a form of fulfilment, but you'll be repaying him double... whatever the sentence he's labelled himself a loser, an animal and sub-human for all time by his action; you still have the chance to prove you're not. It might not look easy at the moment, but don't let him take that prospect away from you too...
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If anyone knows about having problems in high school it's abazzabba. I mean this dude posts questions begging for help because a "bully at school" is throwing food in his face. Not sure if you'd want to listen to someone who asks questions like that then turns around and tells you to punch somebody in the "teeth". That would be like taking advice from a NUN who gives suggestions on sexual positions.
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Truth represents things the way they really are.  The question is more what is the reality of the situation?  Was there a circumstance, for example if you were around someone smoking, that could lead the school to think that you were guilty?  Consider the big picture.  Is this really that big of a deal for you?  The suspension by now is behind you.  Get on with your life.  Make something of yourself.  That way you prove the school was wrong all along in what they thought about you.
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What the f*** is wrong with u biyatch? are u retarted or something? get a f***in life!! o and the only reason why im writting this is because u wrote soemthing idiotic on mine. and it really hurt, so i hope u really do get arrested BIYATCH! LOL! HOE
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I see mostly women answering this one, so here's my take: There is always going to be somebody else that is better. These sort of things happens to guys as well...I am one of those guys, and I left when it got bad.  Bad enough that she decides to call the cops on me when I broke up with her, purposely made a few marks on herself, and I do an over-nighter. That was 5 years ago. Now I finished school (college) and got an awesome job, now I need someone to share my new life with, and I know she is out there.  Bottom line is this: You can do just fine w/o the abuse, probably better...and when you find yourself where you want to be in life, try again!  Best wishes to ya!
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Your friend is in trouble and it sounds like you can help.  You should call the police ASAP!!!  If you don't want to report the abuse, report the dope.  \nI don't know how old you are but you if you are in school (not University) then you can tell a school counselor, they are mandated reporters in most states.\nGod luck to you and your friend.
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Good lord I'm sorry you are going through this!  The authorities sound lame in your town...for shame on them!!\n\nI would suggest contacting the following in the largest city in your state because I'm sure they have the following organizations there:\n--abused women's service and other such orgs that help women in trouble( even if you haven't been abused yet) they can lead you in a good direction.  ask them about your legal rights and what to do if you are not being taken seriously.\n--teen and young adult groups that do the same\n--church services that can help with this(find a progressive not backwoods church..big city)  \n\n--civil right/liberties lawyers or free legal aid groups and ask them to advocate for you because you are not getting help for this. \n\nCan you talk to the chief of police?  speak honestly with them about how you are afraid for your life and that if something happened and nothing was done then it would not only be tragic but on the backs of the police departments lack of responsibility.  if they do nothing then in a sense they are enabling this creep to harass you.  \n\n--check out some copwatch groups.  groups that keep eyes on cops so they themselves are lawabiding and actually do the job they are supposed and not abuse the law.  again, civil liberty groups would know.  that way you can inform them of the lack of response by the cops so that if anything else happens you have proof and then more leverage. \n\nThere has got to be some source of support group or legal advice for something like this...what state do you live in??  try to answer back and I will look up some info for you?  this is serious and could get ugly if you don't have support.  \nJust watch your back and stay with people as often as you can so you are not vulnerable. If you don't have a roommate, get one!  Lights, dogs, security systems-whatever you need to feel safe in the meantime as you get help.   \n\n*last resort: Worse come to worse if no one takes you seriously after you try everything get some guy friends/brothers and well...have them pay him a visit some stormy night.  Nicely.  Capishe?\n\noh can you find out if he has a record or is on parole?  through the freedom of information act you can find this out.  if he does, he could be in some violation and you could anonymously report him or have him returned to wherever he crawled out from under..\n\nFor now, write back where you live and I can help you do research online.  I'm willing.  \npeace.\n\nHERE IS SOME INFO I FOUND FOR YOU: \nJUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION AND INSIST ON GETTING HELP.  TELL THEM YOU DON'T WANT TO END UP A STATISTIC.   \nhttp://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/arkdv.shtml\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/me/Marshamellow/call.html\nhttp://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/\n\nTHESE SHOULD HELP FOR NOW.  JUST BE PROACTIVE, GET ON IT AND DON'T WAIT FOR OTHERS TO SAVE YOU.  WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO SAVE THEMSELVES.  AND THAT'S OK.  REACH OUT BUT ALSO RELY UPON YOURSELF.  YOU COULD GET A CELL PHONE AND JUST SAVE YOUR GRANNIES PHONE FOR OUTGOING CALLS ONLY?? OR GET ANOTHER PRIVATE UNLISTED NUMBER AND AGAIN, LEAVE YOUR GRANNIES FOR OUTGOING ONLY.  HEY GOOD IDEA@!  TRY THAT.  \nMAKE SURE ALL YOUR LIGHTS AND LOCKS WORK WELL AROUND YOUR HOUSE AND LIKE THE OTHER GIRL SAID, GET A STUN GUN AND MAKE SURE YOU GET TRAINING ON IT.  DON'T WANT TO SHOCK YOURSELF! \nGOOD LUCK!!!
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Yes, they are getting their perverted sick jollies rubbing salt into your wounds. You can file a verbal harassment charge against them for this, and I would strongly suggest you do so!  Save the messages they send as evidence, in case you ever need to show the proof.\n\nSorry to hear you're going through this!  I've been where you're at, and I know the pain of an ex love adding such insult to injury!  God's strength be with you!
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its  ridiculous and there's so many "news" shows with nothing but this crap. my theory is that the people who eat this  up like mothers milk are those same people who would gossip and be in everyones business in high school. it truly is a drug type release they get off it. and after the demise of the high school social structure its   HOLLYWOOD ta da.the prettiest people who's seeing who, oh there having a baby. \n the insults come because it sells,its so much easier to joke about somebody's fault than be positive.\n trying to stop it is just a beautiful dream ,our society is too diseased
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This is my mantra whenever I think about dealing with other people: You can't make everyone happy, no matter how hard you try.\n\nI actually had a friend in high school who had sort of the same problem. She was in speech and debate, took all of the Honors classes, got exceptional grades, has an ENORMOUS vocabulary, and wants to be a neurosurgeon in the future (she goes to Duke University now). She's far and away one of the smartest women I know, and she's black. All of the other "black" students hated her because according to them she didn't act, well, "black." And I wanted to say to them, "look, guys, she's being who she is, and who she wants to be. You have absolutely NO right to tell her to act otherwise."\n\nSo, my advice to you? Know this: you are who you are, and NOTHING can change that unless you let it. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission, as Eleanor Roosevelt said. Do NOT give in to pressure (although I see by your post that you probably aren't likely to do this). Just ignore all the comments, and let them know, by your body language, that you are not ashamed of who you are.
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I agree with chancer on the phone calls.  \nTalk to your health care professionals about what is happening and ask for support!  I doubt that its you.  There are some seriously cruel people around who take advantage of people who have mental illness (been there so I know!), and do this cruel stuff for perverted "fun".  Contact your local MIND.  Lots do a befriending scheme and drop in clubs which will help you through and also give you something to keep your mind off the situation and if needed give you an alibi , its awful to think along those lines but sometimes necessary.\nI hope you get it sorted very soon.  Perhaps go to the police with a mental health support worker and discuss this with them.  Good luck.
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It's correctly called statutory rape. And you are too young! What are you doing with a boy who knows what he is doing? He is a sexual predator! \nYou appear to be proud of what you have done, since you have shared this with kids at school. That, as well, shows how immature you are. You need to go to your parents or the school councelor to prevent this boy from doing this to other little girls!\nYou need counseling and possibly testing for any sexual disease. Intercorse is not love! If you had waited, you would have realized this. So now you have told the world you are an easy immature little girl waiting for your next sexual intercorse! That doesn't sound good does it. You have made yourself a victum. You have ruined your reputation. You have also made yourself an easy mark for any other jerk who wants a body to use. Not to mention the friends you will loose! Other parents will find out, then what will you tell your parent(s). If you can't speak to your parents about it then you shouldn't ought to be doing it. \nOnce you loose your reputation, you can never gain it back. All the good you do from here on will not matter.  You should have asked first about having sex. Every good person around you would have told you not to. But, maybe that's why you didn't ask first! Stop seeing this boy, seek counceling, join a church youth group that can tell you why abstinence is best.  Stop seeking love this way. \nOh, by the way, condoms do not always prevent pregnacy.  They also do not stop disease. If you had bothered to research before as a responcible adult does, you would have known that \nMay God bless and guide you.
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IT doesn't matter what she wants to do, it's what she has to do. In order to get that guy off the streets she needs to report him. Chances are that it's too late to take him to trial and win because she let time go by so long. If she's really not willing to tell the police, she has to tell her boyfriend. You realize that she's being incredibly selfish by keeping it all in and only telling you. Her boyfriend is friends with this guy who hurt his girlfriend, and the boyfriend should know all of these things. Have her take a pregnancy test and if it comes out positive have her tell her parents and plan her next step. And she has to tell her boyfriend. There is no way around that, she has to tell him. He deserves to know and he needs to know that about his "friend". People who rape people are ill and they need help, and to be stopped.
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Okay, I was in a similar sitution. This girl at my school, who happened to be my boyfriend's (at the time) ex, tried to break us up. It worked, also for like a day, and we got back together. Then she was saying stuff like she wanted to kick my a s s and run me over with a truck and crap like that. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that if she did anything to me, he would make her face unidentifiable. Ha! She never did anything about it, I think she was just trying to sound tough about it. I'd tell your boyfriend and he can tell her off, and I'm sure he'll keep you safe.
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Wait a minute people, did you bother to read the whole thing or just react to the first lines? We are talking about 2 kids and vengeful parents and probably a very vengeful little girl.\nA good attorney should be able to get a reversal based on nothing more than the facts!\nThis guy was 18, GF was 16, had been together 2 years, she gave it up, and probably enjoyed it more than once! Then, as often happens, they both change,as they are still maturing, and go separate ways. Girlie's mad so calls the cops. Did you people remain virgins until you were over the age of consent? I DOUBT IT! Just because it is a GIRL the courts feel justified,l I highly doubt there is any thought in the guys mind of little girls in this case!\n\nREAD THIS:\n\nHe was 18 and she was 16 when he got charged with a sex offence, they had been dating for 2 years at the time. When he decided to end it, her parents turned him in.
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Aren't you the same f+cking loser that asked these questions? Why is smoking weed, doing coke, drinking beer and adderall while masturbating fun?  What are red bumps on my penis? They are getting larger and spreading every few days, doctor say's its a rash since im still a virgin... What is it?  What's a burdizzo and how do i use it on myself? What's a good way to castrate yourself? Without a doctor.\n\nThe rate you are going your either going to kill yourself or spend time in jail ( the only thing you are going to be making in 2 years are license plates) Seems to me you belong in a MENTAL INSTITUTION not a college. For a college student you don't know how to spell or use spell checker! The only imbecile here IS YOU!!!\n\n\nP.S.  THANK YOU   PAIN IN THE BACK!!!!\n                        ZEUS \nThankyou Yahoo for suspending this idiot from this site!!!!
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I definetely understand your situation. I did something like that one time, and a friend called the cops on me! And true, I don't like people to know how screwed up my life is. But you know what? Things have gotten better, and I look back on those times and wonder how I survived. I'm just saying that this will pass, and one day you will feel SO together. Just hang in there.