Also his ex-girlfriend the mother of his kids is leaving her current boyfriend. I am afriad she might try and get him back. What should I do.
207608
Fear have no part in love,If you feel he will go back to his X then you know he really don't want a knew relationship.With the way you are thinking, you are not ready for him, sweetheart you'll never trust him.Don't fool yourself!
219589
DON'T TAKE HIM BACK. HE LEFT YOU AND YOUR CHILD, HE IS NOTHING COMPARED TO YOU GIRL. FORGET HIM.
352640
She's one of those women who doesn't want the man anymore, but resent it when he is happy with someone else.Your boyfriend (husband) needs to put her in her place.  She has no place in your lives  and HE needs to make that clear to her.  Unfortunately when an ex-wife and kids are concerned there is always madness around.  Been there...done that.  Good luck.
364312
This is so sad, you are probably going crazy trying to think of ways to contact your boy.  Is there anyone that can get a message to him.  This child needs to know you want to see him, you want to be in his life but because of his mother it is not possible.  The poor child, this is another case of adults being selfish.  I guess my answer is, contact a lawyer to see if anything can be done.  God Bless you, I feel for you.
637712
You need counseling and help to get past his and move on with your life.  You may also want to cut all ties with him unless you have kids with him and if they are his kids then only see him when he has to see the kids and nothing more. You need to move on with your life and get past this.
84167
well i really dont think he deserves you are his children the only reason he wants you is because she dumped him.dont be his second choice you should have been his only choice if he did it once there is a chance he will do it again and hurt you and the children again you deserve better.YOU STILL LOVE HIM BUT LOVE YOUR SELF AND THE KIDS MORE NOT TO TAKE HIM BACK
125223
Well one thing is certain - you are going to have to get the hell out of there for your sake and the sake of your kids.  This guy sounds like he has the maturity of a seven year old, he is pure selfishness.  Sure he wants to go with other girls, but I bet he'll sit around drinking beer, playing with himself and watching TV.  You're better off without him.  You obviously have a lot of love to give, and you want love in return - you're NOT going to get where you are - so you have to face up to that and move on.
298065
Hon there was nothing you could do,  his mom moved he had to go with her so it is better that you be free than try to hold on to a doomed long distance relationship.  Dry your eyes get a drink of cold water and start making plans to make you happy as you go on with your life.  He moved and that is that.  Don't waste any more precious time over this.
413692
No you are not wrong!\n\nIf they are separated then he has no business spending that amount of time under the pretense of visiting his son that he has on some weekends.\n\nMy ex tried hanging out at my place and even though my boyfriend lives with me, he would still try to get me to mess around with him. He has been re-married for 10 years and still tries to get me to "get away" with him.\n\nThere is a reason that your man hangs out at her house and I doubt that it is the kid. He is going through the motions of still living with her and it is wrong of him to be doing that if he has any consideration for your feelings.\n\nEveryone here is saying "trust him" and "he should spend time with his son"\nWell dear, you can not trust him because he failed you when he told you he would stop and he has the chance to spend time with his son and does not have any excuse to be at her house.\nTrust is one thing...denial and blindness are another!\nYour relationship already has a poor foundation...why keep building on it?
61675
you need to tell his kids constatly that you dont want to take their moms place and you love him (their dad) very much and wouldnt hurt them by taking away anyone and that their mom will always be their only mom no matter what happens/ed.
146047
You are wasting your time with this man. Even if he does leave his wife and kid 4 you, how do you know that he won't leave you for someone else later? I think you deserve better. There is someone better for you out there waiting 4 you. GO OUT AND FIND HIM.
232207
I have been in almost the same situation. my bf got his ex gf pregnant while we were on a short break. I went back to him and now the child is almost 3. The ex is CRAZY, wont leave us alone. We have to pay 127 a WEEK in child support, which we cant afford and havent been able to pay the whole 127 a week so my now husband will be going to jail fairly soon. To make matters worse the ex had another son 6 months ago, 10 days before my daughter was born. and is now claiming it is my husbands. SO all I can say IS LEAVE HIM. It will never end. You will be alot more happier without him. ' YOU DONT WANT DRAMA WITH HIS BABIES MAMA'.
416151
If you don't want the drama go to your nearest family court and fill out papers to have child support court issued so he has to pay a certain amount a month or he'll get in trouble. If he doesn't have a job they will make him get a job. Your ex is an immature momma's boy and doesn't comprehend his 3 children have needs. As for yourself instead of your young family suffering go to the state for help food stamps,wic,and alittle cash each month can certainly help out until you can get the kids some child care and yourself a job.Don't rely on a man ( your not dealing with 1 anyway) you need to step up and take control of your situation. I am a single mother of 2 I know its hard as hell but as long as you keep trying to do what is best once you have the kids in daycare and your working you will feel so much better because your doing your part as best you can. Don't wait on him and his mom to help out do it yourself so you can say you did it. When the kids get older they will see who has been there for them fighting for the things they want and working her butt off for them. Tell them both to stick the $30 a week for food up their u know whats you'll see them in court and the courts will issue him to pay atleast $50 a week.Apologize for what? asking her son act like a man?It's just wrong for him to tell mommy what going on between you two it shows that he's not a man and can't handle things with out getting mommy involved.Mom should just stay out of it in the first place and tell her son he made the bed now he's gotta sleep in it or if he was a big boy when he laid down and had 3 babies he can be man enough to make his own decisions without involving his mommy like he's tattle tailing.I feel bad that your gonna have to deal with that boy for the rest of your life and his mommy cause she has already overstepped her bounds cause her son is a momma's boy you will be dealing with her for the rest of her life being in your business. Good Luck !!
97740
Hey girl...this sucks.  Been there done that.  Questions, questions, questions...  You should always know that when you date a guy that has baggage like that to be prepared to sacrafice.  I am impressed with the fact that he was still into a relationship with his x and kids because that shows his willingness to still let the kids have some normalcy.  I can understand how hard this was for you, and maybe it just wasn't meant to be.  Now, if he was just keeping in touch so he could be close to his x, then you are much better off pulling out of that fight, than staying and losing, which would've happened eventually.  Maybe you should give him a call if he is as great as you say he is, and thoroughly explain to him what's been bothering you.  Tell him exactly how you feel about him, and THEN, go on to how you were feeling when you broke it off. If you guys try to repair the relationship, ask if maybe you two could do some things with the kids alone...no x involved.  Start building a relationship with them.  The kids are going to be there always, and the x too at times.  But, you two should be building a relationship outside of the x with the kids. That is respectful to you, and your relationship with the father. I believe in honesty.  It has bit me in the rear a few times, but at least I could sleep at night.  Best Wishes.
405397
From a woman's point of view it sounds like she's not over your husband. She's aware the little boy is the last link to their relationship and she's refusing to move on. The fact that the hubby has moved on and married you has made her want him back. There's no easy way out of this one. If you guys ignore her, she may well pull the little boy away or become a bigger problem than she is already. But if you are too reasonable she will walk all over you. Just be assertive without being rude (i know it's hard!) and be there for the little boy. His relationship with his dad should be of the most import to his mum and everyone involved. Hope you can work it out...good luck.
526269
He's a good friend, and she is 'just' his girlfriend.  You are fully within your rights to take him for yourself.  Just convince him on a purely logical level, and then call her up and let her know that he's not with her anymore, or something like that.
589713
WOW~ greygoose martini hit the nail on the head.  I have always said the same thing!  Choose the mother or father of your children wisely so that you won't have to deal with any of this.\n\nMy view of this whole issue is that most people try to hurt the other through their children.  I hope that you aren't one of those people who just try to make your ex's life miserable. My sister is going through some stuff and her ex is a big jerk who says he is going to make her life a living hell until their child is 18.   He is just mad because she finally got the nerve to leave him after years of mental abuse.  Even the mediator said they won't have anything else to do with him because he is so meanspirited.\nHe says he is looking out for the best interest of his child but then he can't control himself not to call my sister names and say bad things about her to his child. \n He says he is going to quit his job so that she doesn't have any way of getting the support.  He would cut off his nose despite his face...what a loser.