well im 15 and my bf is 21 and we had a baby together hes wanting to get married what should i do?
206212
If it was me, I would wait until you're older.  It is a fact that as you grow older, you will change, your moods, your interests, your friends, your goals.\nThe father can be a father/dad whether you two are married or not.\nTry asking a question for those who have got married about your age and maybe in 20's, ask him how they felt when they were married and how they feel now.
50669
first of all how old are u? are you even old enough to be thinking marriage?. I hope that you are at least in your mid twenties?
496682
Sure.  Why not?  If you truly love each other, I just married my husband in August and he is 14 1/2 yrs older than me.  Some times these things just work out that way.  I think it is a great idea to wait a few years to make sure things work out.  He and I were together for 3 yrs first, and yeah a job would be in order, those weddings are very expensive. And, sure, if you want to wait until your wedding night, then that is your choice.  Don't let him, or anyone else tell you that you have to.... if he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
499290
I think that you should get married if you really love him and you want to be with him for the rest of your life and the military life is hard but if your strong enough you can get through it. I'm 20 too and I'm married to someone in the military and it did not matter that I was only 19 when I got married. I know who I wanted to be with it and there was no point in me waiting until I was older.
277720
I think that you are way too young to make a life decision like marriage. Despite what is shown on television and what celebrities do, marriage is supposed to be a life commitment. Do you feel that you can commit your life to someone at such a young age? Do you want to go to college, Does she want to go to college? How would this effect your relationship? Have you sat down and REALLY discussed the ramifications of getting married. Where would you live afterwords (with your parents?), how could you afford living together, etc.  It might suit both of you to speak to a third party, like a pastor or even a counselor before taking the plunge. You sound like a nice person, but remember the old saying (and Elvis song), Only fools Rush In
319819
Am I so behind the times???\nTo show his love, he promises to give you a baby, not marry you???\nStop worrying about this other girl and think about what you want in life.  Boys and relationships come and go.  Approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce, and the break up numbers are even worse for couples who live together.  Do not have a baby until he marries you and you celebrate a couple of anniversaries first.\nAt 16, I know this seems all important to you.  But you have a lot of life ahead of you and choices you make now may haunt you forever.
241556
Yeah I'm with her. Get married first, but don't get married because you to want a baby together because that's not the way to go. The to of you should really love each other enough before you even consider marriage or a baby! Out of that love a child should be conceived, and not because one or the other of you just wants to have a baby. Seriously, think about it before you have the WHAT-IF'S ans WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN thoughts in you mind.
187379
Well you can say one of two things.  One, you could say no if you would like a happy life when you are 30.  Or you could say yes, get married and tied down...have kids, it won't work out and by the time you are 30, you'll be looking for another guy.  Oh yeah, it's not so easy when you have kids from the previous marriage.  Plus, your body won't be the same after having the kids.  And, I don't think you'll have much of an education or work experience after getting married at 16.   Where did the last 14 years go you'll ask.
551662
Don't get married if you're not ready!  You don't have to be married to raise a child.\n\nAlso, I think you should seriously sit down and talk to your boyfriend about going home.  You're young, you're having your first child, and you need to be around your family.\n\nI really hope everything works out for you.
636431
It is way too early to even think about marriage. You need to wait at least another year. If everything is as it should be, then marry him, if he asks you that is. Good Luck........don't rush it!
43801
I don't think there's any rush. While he goes to Iraq, wait for him, and see if your feelings change for him. If you still love him when he comes back, even though your love has been tested by the separation, you are one lucky person. Don't feel that you have to get married immediatly. Wait until you're atleast 20, and then get married. Don't you want to stand on your own two feet for a while before settling down? Either way, good luck.
664001
Okay, how about you stop worrying about what he wants?  What about what you want?  How old are you?  Have you even had a chance to experience life?  It really sounds like he doesn't know if he wants to be with you or not but is going to continue stringing you along until he can make up his mind.  What are you going to do if he comes home, gets you pregnant and then decides he's not ready to be a husband and father?  Where does that leave you?  Can you be absolutely sure that he will not do that?  If the answer is no, then maybe you need to tell him that you need things to slow down. You don't have to let him call all the shots.  You are a person as well.  You have a right to decide, for yourself, what you want out of this life. There is much more to experience in life than being someones girlfriend/wife/mother.  Don't get me wrong, I am married and have a beautiful little boy, but I experienced life for myself before I did so. And we were married 7 years before I got pregnant so we could experience life together.  I wish you luck and hope you make the right decision for you!
475279
You certainly don't have to wait for your children to grow up before marrying again. You deserve to be happy. But it will be a big risk to marry a man you don't know yet, especially because you got small children. So what I suggest is that you first learn to know this man who wants to marry you, see how he treats you and your children. Wait till you're sure you love and trust and respect him. Then marry him and be happy!
131698
Well, I'm glad you too love other. But both of you are far too young to get married. You see, even adults make mistakes in marriage when they rush into these things. So, I would suggest that you keep your friendly relationship until both of you are adults. By then, you will be more mature and can decide whether you want to spend the rest of your lives with each other in love. So, hang on together and wait another 4 years (at least). Good luck.
313938
i'd say 17 or 18. but it also depends on how mature that person is. if your bf is mature enough to get married, i don't think his age would be a problem. \nwhy do you find age as an inconvenient? if you love him and he loves you... what else do you want more?
318081
I think that the percentage of high school sweethearts that marry and stay together happily is very small, I am sorry to say - though it does happen.  I know a couple who have been married happily for 20 years who were high school sweethearts.\n\nPersonally I don't think people are ready to get married and have children until they are in their 30s.  I think our 20s represent the final stage of our education - learning to be adults and to be productive members of society and truly, who we are.\n\nIf you lost your virginity to someone you really like and you both did together, I think that is wonderful.  If he used you, I think he would have broken up with you soon after he got the experience he wanted.  For him to be with you for 6 months says to me that you are enjoying each other and have connected on some level.\n\nI am not sure about the precautions you mention.  Certainly sex related percautions are very important - birth control, condoms, etc.  If you are uncomfortable you should talk to him, but at your age, everyone is trying to learn this stuff - so much the better to do so with someone you like and that you can learn with.\n\nRelax and enjoy your relationship.
471345
im 15 and my bf is 18, we've known eachother for 3 years, and have been best friends all the way through.  recently he gave me a promise ring, not engagement, but just to show that what we have is real, and we think we are to young, but when the time comes (if it does) then when im out of highschool, and we are both ready we'll move on to the bigger and better *engagement*.  wait, and think seriously how much you love him, we are teenagers, we dont know what we want, and we havent faced the real world as adults yet.