A 14 year old was killed in a car accident over the weekend and about 1500 students/adults are expected to attend the funeral tomorrow afternoon.  The chapel in the funeral home only seats about 75 to 100.  The students were told that the funeral had to be held either at the funeral home or their place of worship.  Is this true?  I just can't see how they are going to accomplish this.  We live in a very small town of 650 residents.
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When my Mormon father passed away, we had a wonderful cerimony in our Ward's/Stake chapel.  Please consult with your Bishop or Stake President to find out what the practices are in your area.  A non-demoninational church would most likely welcome your group as well, especially when it affects the student community.
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You are in a tough position because part of the family wants you there and part of them do not want you there.  Is there a way that you could go to calling hours to pay your respects?  If you do that and do not go to the funeral, you should be fine.  Explain to the family members that you are close to that you honor their grandmother, but you do not want to cause any problems amoung the family, so you are respectfully not attending the funeral to prevent any conflicts.
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Hi itstight38@s...,\nI'm sure your grandfathers friend knows how you feel and all is forgiven. My answer to your question is on the day my 12 year old son was killed he asked me if he could stay home from school and I told him no. There are times I wish I could take it back but in my heart I know that when God calls you home there is nothing we can do but except it. I know where my son is and I know he's in a better place than I am and I hope God will let me see my son again when it's my time to go home. Thanks: Blueladybug
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Such an event was not published in the press, see link 1.\n\nPossibility: phone the cemetery directly, see link 2.
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here is one I will look for others,location helps \nhttp://interment.com/articles/goliaths.html\nhttp://www.funeralconsumerinfo.org/november2005.pdf
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I may run that one by an attorney.  If the family signed a contract with the funeral home, there is definitely some negligence on the part of the funeral home.  You may need to see what the family's rights are before you make any demands or negotiations.  Contracts can be pretty tricky, and in the time of grief, it may not have been read over entirely.
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Several places to contact.  The funeral home may have a suggestion.\n\nI know of several churches that have had grave sites left to them going unused.\n\nCremation is much cheaper.  It doesn't require an expensive casket, and brings an equality to funerals that is not matched by burials.
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Wakin_marman answered a few of my questions as well.  He isn't right in the head.\n\nI am sure that your friend once went to a school, you should have a specialist explain the situation with the death.
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You have to give them something to look forward to.  There has to be something attractive about it.  Music for one, if you've got the old organ droning on, you won't see a young person within miles of your church.  If you've got electric guitars, a keyboard, and a drumset, you are closer.  Teenagers will come if there is a program that is promising for them.  If it's a place that they can come and hang out and do fun things while learning about Christ.  It's a lot of work, but college students need to have a ministry dedicated especially to them while they are in school.  Single adults will go if they have friends that go.  If you can appeal to one friend then you may be able to get more, but chances are attract a single, single adult will be difficult because they would rather use their Sunday mornings to sleep in than go to church.  A later service may be the ideal way to combat that.  Good luck and prayers for the growth of a younger community at your church.
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Your best bet is to apply in person, and be dressed well.  Most funeral homes do not advertise for available positions.  If you are not licensed, you will be limited as to what you can do, such as you won't be able to embalm and making arrangements.  Your duties would be limited to cleaning the cars, helping the funeral directors, running flowers, maintenence work and so forth.  Good luck!
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I think that's a Jewish practice.  When a family member or friend dies, they cover all of the mirrors so that they only think about the deceased and not worry about looking at themselves in the mirror.  I think that's right.  Every religion has different ways to behave when someone dies.
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My grandmother donated her body to Emory University/ Medical School when she died.  I'm not sure how she did it, but I'm sure that if you contact a medical school, they'd love to take you:)
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I would say that the Christian funeral. Don't think it matters about denomination. Best funerals are the ones it is almost a celebration, know it doesn't sound right but think about it. The person's life is celebrated and there is happiness in the pain because the people know that the person has gone to heaven and is happy there. I have been to a few of these and it is alot more pleasant then others. These services have church songs that the person liked, talks from people that really cared. There is still crying and mourning but there is a sense of hope and happiness. This is far better to other funerals where it is impersonal (traditional) and excessive mourning with no celebration of the person's life.
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The people in each graduating class do it. Usually you get a committee together. Your school does not have any responsibility for you once they release you into the world.\n\nThere are companies that will do it. They charge a fee, usually included in the price of dinner and the memory book. The last quote I got was $75 - $85 per person for a 3-course meal with dancing to a DJ afterwards.\n\nYour school will be busy educating the students who were behind you. They will not have the time, energy or funds to organize reunions.\n\nFinding everyone is usually the hard part; women are especially difficult, as they change their name when they get married. Out of 500 people who graduated with me 40 years ago, we have valid addresses for 200 - 250, and we know 43 have died.\n\nThe 5th, 10th and 15th are usually not very well attended. The 20th, 40th and 50th are the big ones.\n\nColleges sometimes arrange tables or booths or a cordinator for all classes for Homecoming weekend, but they get a signifigant amount of money from alumns, and it is in their interest to keep school spirit alive.
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The purpose of a funeral is not always to honor the dead - sometimes it's to honor those left behind and show support.\n\nIf there's any way you can go (without losing your job or something), I would absolutely go.  It seems that there's a close bond between your s/m and your kids at least, and I believe it would be wrong not to go if you're able. \n\nIt's never a bad thing to do more than what's "expected."
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stop in briefly.\n\n a person sitting Shivah is going though a period of mourning and reflection. They want your support but not a party. \n\nwait for the person to acknowledge you. \n\nbefore you bring food know how strictly they keep kosher. \n\nand like I said before pay your respects and if they do not indicate for you to say longer, dont. It should not take more than 10-20 min\n\npratical advice
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Sounds a little fishy to me, however, if it is a close relative or someone they really cared about they might realize that person would be gone forever, and needed that time to deal with the reality of it all.  When my sister died I didn't want to leave her side at the funeral home because I had lost my best friend, and I was so distraught I wanted to be near her as long as possible.