I have a problem with my parents . They split up and then my mother find a guy that live in Arizona but they are not compatible and always arguing  to each other and makes my mother cry.Then my mother find a new guy that live in Massachusetts and it makes my mother happy always and compatible for her. I dont know what to do, im getting shy to other people by what they say to our family . PLS HELP ME ...
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Your mom is going through a difficult situation in life.  You should understand that.  And so are you!  But be by her side and stand up for her always.  Also, do not be shy to discuss EVERYTHING concerning her relationships and your feelings with her gently.  Surely she will be the one to make you more comfortable in dealing with the matter.  What other people say does matter, but only to a certain extent.  So dont let that get to you.  Afterall, they do not provide you with anything when you are down.  Also divert your mind and do things that make you happy.  Good luck kid - looks like you are brave and will come out of this a winner.
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Well, it sounds as if your mother has changed for the better.  It can be very difficult to put the past behind you, but that is what you need to do.\n\nYou probably should seek counseling, so that you can get the help to overcome those feelings, in fact you should also encourage your mother to attend some of that counseling with you.  That way the two of you can work out those issues together.\n\nShould you continue speaking to your family?  Yes, take it from someone who spends most holiday's alone.  If there is a chance that you can heal the situation, take it.
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You didn't say how long you have been involved with him. His mom may think you two don't know each other very well, and doesn't want to see either of you get hurt. Be sure you tell mom that you are grateful to her for giving you a place to stay during the rough times, and you feel it is time for you to move out and get your life back on track. Tell her you are sorry that she doesn't agree with you guys moving in together, but that you guys care deeply for one another...maybe she just needs to hear it from you.
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Your biological father may have many issues that your mother was trying to protect you from.  This man who just passed and raised you like his own sounds very much like a loving father. Although you may have resentments against your mom at present, please take it easy on her as she has just lost her life partner.  When the time is right you may want to discuss the issue of your biological father with your mom and she may be able to shed some light on him for you.  She may not speak fondly of this individual and as such you will have to keep an open mind when discussing him with her.  Best of luck and sorry to hear of the loss of the man who raised you.
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lol thank you heather for all of your concern!! hahaha that is me your talkin about!! but i look at it this way, God doesn't want us to be together and that was a way to get us apart...and plus there are other guys out there and that his parents will adore me! lol!! but ohh well his mom was a boitch any way..
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Wow. That sounds a lot like my mother. She married my stepdad without telling me and they werent together that long either. My stepdad can be a real jerk and he seems to be real strict and uptight.\nHave you tried talking to your mother about how you feel and the things that have happened? You could tell your mother "Mom, I love you and I need to talk to you about how Im feeling towards (his name here)" Let her know what you've observed and how you feel. I know that it hurts a lot because here is a divorce and you had to adjust to that and everything else in your life and then your mom does this major thing like getting married without any preparation on your part and its hurtful because its a big change in your life and you are blind sided. If you need someone to talk to you can email me Ive been through this and Im still healing from it and it was almost 5 years ago. Hang in there!\nsweetieliz@gmail.com
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First, I am a mother.  You need to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Remember she is the only mother you will have.  Also, try to explain to your mom how you are feeling.  This may help take away some of the frustrations you have.  I was a teenager once, I did alot of aruging with my mom as a teenager and it was about how i felt she was treating my brother a lot better than me, ect, which by the way she did, and now admits.  I ended up moving in with my dad and step monster, oops step mother, and It was find for like 4 months, then she showed her real colors.  It might not seem like it now, but try and talk with your mom, explain that you are just frustrated, and you need to tell her how you feel. I actually thought I hated my mom for many years, but now that I am older, I realize that i didn't hate her, I just did not like her actions, and the decisions she made.
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Is religion the reason that your parents don't accept your relationship? If so I would sit down with each set of parents separately and come to some sort of agreement. Many family are multi-denominational, get involved in both churches. If you need to divide your weekends every month in order to fully appreciate both families beliefs and ideas then I think that would be a very worthwhile thing. \nTo be sure that the barrier between the two of you is religion I would start with speaking to my mother about it. Take a moment when it's just the two of you and have a heart to heart. \nTake things slow, decide what is most important to the two of you and go from there. No one can decide another person's destiny.\nGood luck!
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my father has two other children outside of marriage.\nboth younger than my brother and I. and both from the same woman.\n(it most be said that i love my three brothers and i that i have a pretty good relationship with all of them).\nthe sad thing is that my mother is still with him.\ni love my father too, but would never have stayed with him.\nneedless to say, i come from a hispanic family.
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I was dating my husband (who is 4 years older then me) for 3 years before I told my parents (we are from 2 different cultures) because i was worried that they would be upset.  When i did tell them they didn't want to meet him.  My mum actually cried when i told her because she was so against it!! They met him after 4 years of us being together.  8 years later we are still together and we have been married for one and a half years.  My parents absolutly adore him now.\nWhatever is meant to be will be and if it's supposed to last you will get through anything together!!
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hey hoteve i wish the same thing my family is crazy . sometimes i feel like they dont even know i am here . i also feel like my two older sister get the most of my mom and dad's attention . but i a little bit learned that my parents cant help it they r  just being parents .wishing they would go to hell is not a very good thing . they do do some things for us though . if u ever need to talk just im me it should be listed
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Wow. you don't have to be a genius to realise what a bummer of a situation you are in. I had a friend in this situation. Except your mom seems to be sticking in the middle of the U.S., and that is curious to me... usually if people are on the move it is toward bigger and better, and I have actually been to every single town you have lived in (just visiting, I have always lived in TX) and they aren't so great. Have you tried sitting down with her and describing the need that you have, or asking her what compels her so much to keep on the move? What is she running from or what does she gain in being a rolling stone. Try to convey to her what a turmoil it is putting you in to not have a stable environment to become a well-adjusted normal person. Try to understand what her logic is to moving all the time and at the same time convey to her that you need more stability. Let it sink in, and then let her know how you feel about Durant, OK. Good luck.
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i think you must first understand that as much as people can love each other, their are other factors to adult relations, i think that it is showing that they do not seem to be getting on well right now adn it may mean that it is time for them to move on and seperate but it also may mean that they are going through a difficult time and may have to work at things for a while to make them better.\n\ndefo have a good chat with ur mum, tell her how ur feeling and maybe she will explain to you how things are for her and her partner right now, put ur mind at ease.\n\nif the do seperate im sure it will be best for all concerned, if not things may be difficult for a while as they try to repair things.\n\ni hope everything works out for the best sweetie, try not to worrie to much and remember no matter what happens you still have a very loving family around you that care for you very much x x
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okay its easy, parents are parents, and no matter what, no matter how it is, parents are always right.. you see, i met this guy.. and he's...not all there, kinda crazy, kinda.. just you know, not there.. and we ended up dating, i thought he was just perfect, blue and black hair... just. you know a babe? im into.. kinda crazy guys,  he was telling me within a month of our relationship that he didnt want to live, and he cut himself and all this..and i ended up getting really down, he told me not to tell anyone, but i told my mother because i thought it was the best,  and she was like nuh oh no way.. and like totally freaked out on me for being with him if he was like that.. i dont even think he believes in god..well he ended up finding it out from someone, and was really upset, i asked him why.. and he said i knew why.. and i told him i did what i thought was best, and that i cared for him.. he ended up calling me all these...few choice words, telling me..few choice things.. and we ended up breaking up...now im with this really nice guy... and everything is working out, just perfectly..and guess what? my mother loves him..but what im saying... is maybe you can talk your parents into it.... maybe like invite him over for dinner and you guys can eat as a family. and it would give your parents an idea to get to know him more, and see what a great guy he really is. or in my case, maybe theres someone better for you..  best of luck.
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Unfortunately there's nothing you can do, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you that,but what you can do is remember none of it's your fault. Love both of your parents and keep a good relationship with both of them as long as you can and if they divorce be there for them, they are having a hard time too.Just because they can't get along with each other doesn't mean they don't still love you.
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two different men, two different stories. your parents did the right thing, no one wants to see their child hurt. sometimes it isn't possibble to talk to someone, and sometimes depending on the man he straightens up. can't really compare the two. u should be happy your parents were there for u, and u had a way out of a bad situation. perhaps your in laws daughter didn't have the same kind of man as u did. some people can take critisism and learn from it, some can't.
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Look girl..I can understand what you're going through because my parents are exactly the same. The only difference is that they are still together....and they sometimes have their moments when they don't fight ..for a while. I grew up with parents that don't get along...I love my dad and I love my mom too, but they don't get along and mostly is because of my dad..who is "machista", he's thinks too "Manly". I didn't only put up with the fights, but I also got to see domestic violence. I was about 7 when I saw my dad hit my mom, he was drunk and got angry at my mom for something really stupid. Growing up in a family when parents don't get along was really tough on me too. I'm traumatized by it...I can't stand a drunk man..I get mad, and the sight of alcohol too. It has been tough on me..but the only thing you can do in this case is just talk to your parents and tell them how you feel about them fighting and how it's affecting you. Get help for yourself...talking always helps...but mainly understand that there's not much you can do. It's up to them to decide if they're going to life their lives fighting like cat and mouse. Just let them be..and don't too much...I know it's hard and it hurts you but just accept it and don't let if affect you. Again speak to them,..if you can't then get for yourself and as much as you can do ...to enjoy life without letting their problems affect your happiness.... and never blame yourself for anything!!! Live happy and enjoy life...good luck!!!!