I went on a date with a guy that my friend dated twice and nothing more came of it. This was about a year or more ago. I consider her a friend and am worried that she may get mad. Do I tell her that I went out with him? He asked me out and would like to see me again. I like this guy, he seems nice. Do I mention to her that I went out with him, or keep it hush hush?
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Tell now or deal with a lot worst later. Now with that said, is she really a friend? If so what about the female rule?
326594
I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
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Sounds like a great friend. Don't rush things, it's better to have a great friend than an ex-boyfriend. If he decides to change his way of thinking and date friends, I'm sure you will be the one he comes to. but for now just be happy you can spend time with him.
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She might have gone out with the guy once or twice or maybe they are just not really serious at this point.  There might be room for you if you are persistant.  Ask her what exactly she means.  Ask her if she is into this guy or if they are just hanging out until something else comes along or what.  Then you will know where to go from there.
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will this turn out bad ..  Perhaps\n\nor good ..   Perhaps\n\ni cant tell...  And I look like a fortune teller?\n\nwas this a good idea or no? ..  Probably not the best approach, but it's done, so there's not much you can do about it now (read: don't' worry about it any more that you've done it, focus on the future)\n\nshould i have just done it on my own .. In my personal opinion, you should have done it on you own.  What is the worst thing that can happen?  She can say "no".  Which is the same worst case scenario that could happen by having a friend intervene.  It would most likely not be the last time in your life that you would be asking someone out, and you most likely don't want to go through your entire life having friends ask people out for you.  It probably won't go over so well when you're older.  Yes, there's a chance that she could say no, but there will be plenty of "no"s in your life, as well as plenty of "yes"s.  Now is a good time to practice having confidence and getting used to asking someone out that you like.\n\nIn the meantime, there's not much you can do about this except wait.  So, don't get caught up worrying about what "might" happen; you could end up being very surprised!  Just relax, and know that you will be able to handle whatever the outcome is.\n\nAnd having someone else see if she likes you isn't the best plan, either.  How does she act around you?  Does she talk to you, or ignore you?  Pay attention to you, or not?  Find reasons to make conversations with her, and based upon how you feel, then decide if there is a chance that she might be interested in you.  Then you could ask her out.  If she says no, that doesn't mean that she doesn't like you; just that she isn't interested in going out on a date with you.  That will not mean anything negative about you; it is simply a fact that she isn't interested in going out with you.  But, you will never know unless you ask!
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Well, I would tell him that ur dateing his friend. And if he takes it bad and gets all mean he didnt really like u htat much/ But if hes ok with it and still likes you he really means it. If you can I would try it out with him sometime because you never know some people ture out to be sole mates! Its happaned to me before I didnt really like a guy but he liked me and i dated his friend and when we broke up i tried it with him and it turned out to be great! I didnt know his other side yet and i wanted to see it. Were still dating today. 4 years! You can try if you would like to get to know him better or tell him u jsut want to be friends. My answer prolly wont help but... Good Luck!
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I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
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LOL, well just tell him you really like that date and ask if he enjoyed it or not. If he did, he might ask you out again. Or you can just say, i wonder if we have a next time.
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are you friends with her? if so, then maybe you could hang out one day, just you two, and tell her you enjoy her friendship and dont want to ruin that, but you feel like she is a wonderful person and deserves much more than the guy can give her. see how she reacts and then maybe you could let her know, that if she ever needs someone you will be there. but just so you know... if you are friends, this could ruin it. but the guy sounds like a dick so SOMEONE needs to say something.
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how the hell would we know. we dont know what either of u look like, but i can tell u this, neither of u should go out with him, bc its not right for him to do that to either of u, ur friends. and no boi is worth loosen ur friend over. i just see this guy as being a problem for both of u.  bc if u or ur friend date him, one of u will get ur feelings hurt, or try to take him away from the other, and oh boy just a big mess.
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Forget what your friend says, You are the one who is going to be dating the guy, not her. It doesn't matter who came first. but more who fits the position better...like a job position hehehe....who are you more compatible with and who can you get along better...who are you more interested in....whatever makes you happy is really what you should focus on instead of which guy's feelings youll end up hurting
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The same thing I told another friend.\n\n\nif he's nice to you\nif he treats you right\nif both of your like to hang out togeather.\n\nif your answer is yes, then i think you should go for it.
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that happened to me once i liked a guy(lets call him x) and i secretly told a friend of mine that i thought x was cute. four months down the line i get a text from x asking how i was and asked me to go out on a date. we met for that date had a really gud time and he told me that he liked me the first time he saw me. we kept intouch for another 2 weeks and after that i have never heard from him again.i felt really bad coz i never knew what  turned him off. at times i wonder how it would have been if he kept in touch. i am glad it happened like that because i would never have met my bf whom i love very much and he makes me happy.
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It sounds like you're very good friends already.  If that's the case, then you definitely need to talk about this issue.  Not only is it an issue for you dating, but it's also an issue for any long-term relationship (generally the point of dating) and also for your own friendship.  If you're not good enough friends to talk about it, then you need to get there before you consider dating again.  Commitment can be scary for both guys and girls, generally because of a mistaken perception of what the other person wants or expects.
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You are right it wouldn't be fair to take her knowing what you now know. Tell her you are sorry but you just don't think of her 'like that' but she as has been such a good friend it is only fair to say it right out. \nOff course you could end up dateless then what will you do?
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go for it.. if nothing else unless you told him that you were dating someone else I believe you should aproach him and say you remember when you asked me out.. well I really think I would like to go out with you.. I have had time to think about it and since you asked I can't forget it.. so how about it.. usually its no big deal but jump on it fast before someone else does... now if you told him that you were going out with someone else tell him that he must forgive you for being such a dumbbutt and that your forever in his dept if he would take it upon himself to save you from the stupidity that you brought yourself into .. (not that you are but men love woman who need rescueing.. lol.... good luck.
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There is something a little disturbing about a portion of what you wrote, this part below:\n"We have tried to date previously but I found out he was messing with someone else. I don't know whether he's being honest, or lying and I'm falling for it. We both want this to work"\nIf you tried to date previously but you found out he was messing with someone else, how did you find out?  Did he confess to you, or did someone tell you.  Basically what I'm getting at is this, people show us who they are and what they are all about early on.  We choose to either ignore that or think it will get better because we are attracted to certain things about them.  The truth is when someone really has an interest and wants to explore the possibilities of a relationship, they do just that.  I understand a person being skeptical and the fear of  getting hurt,  but life is about taking chances.  Wen a person shows hesitation in furthering the friendship, there is usually a reason, one that I think goes deeper than that.