im in the 8th grade and im 15 years old going on 16 and i just got my first boy friend 2 months ago and he dumped me with in 1 day but then we always talked and we were always together last month we made out had dry sex held hands and i gave him a hand job and we still weren't goning out and the other day he said he hated me and he never wanted to talk to me ever again and i try to call but he would keep on hanging up on me i really liked this guy and i still do with this being my first boy friend and everything how will i ever be able to trust another guy ever again after what he did to me r all guy like this???????????
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With time and some effort on your part - it is quite possible to trust another guy again
483460
OMG....you have the EXACT same problem as me!!!!!  I get told all that stuff 2.  Just talk 2 the guy..he might be shy or intimated by u!! That's what i did and now that dude is my boy friend!!!\n                                 GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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i give u a thumbs up. i dont usually get along wiht ex lovers as i get dumped for no reason, but there is one that i get along with. his name is brian.we were going out 9 months, i was 16 and he was 19 and we both thought it was love (as u do at 16) we broke up cuz we lived in different town and i couldnt see him every wknd like i used to cuz of work and i was living at home and my mam would not let him come up to me. weve been friends for years now. occasionally we have the odd moment of passion and he swears he still loves me and says that im deadly but also says if he cant have me as a girlfriend he does not want to loose me as a friend either. we live in different town so i dont get to see him as much now, but when i do we have a laugh. he also always stands up for me if someone even looks at me funny.so there u go, this is as long an awnser as i can make it.
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ok i didn't even finish reading your story just bc it reminded me of what happen to me...sorry girl i feel your pain, but what goes around comes around.\nthe guy that dumped me realized the mistake he made 8months earlier and now he wants to try things again...yeah right!\ngirl you can do better even if you have to wait!!! trust me!!!
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Hello Adri ----\n\nYeah, you seem 2 be in your teens or early twenties.\n\nListen, .....don't pay attention to all the ladies here telling you that men are trash and are no good.....they say that because that's the kind of guy that they've dated before and went through the same stuff as you are going through right now. \n\nEveryone in their life receives a "Broken Heart"......and it's like graduating. Someone showed you that life is not all roses, my dear. ....however , do not think that ALL Boys or Men are slime....because we are not the same. \n\nThis "guy" that dumped you for no apparent reason did not truly appreciate you as a person......maybe he looked at you for what you had and not for the person that you are. \n\nPlease do not be bitter......but look at this as a learning experience, not as a disappointment. If you were the best girlfriend that you could be.....that's all that can be expected of you....is to try your best, young one. \n\nMen and Women can be so negative towards each other because we let emotions and feeling get in the way. However, we fail to look at ourselves and realize how lucky and unique we are as individuals. \n\nBe the beautiful person that you've always been....and never, ever let anyone break your spirit, ok ?? \n\nPeace and Harmony 2 U    :-D \n\nSincero.
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I was abused everyday for 11 years out of my 12 by the same boy. (HE wasnt at my school during my tenth year... My best year) anyway He was at my bus stop and it seemed like we had lunch time together every year and he was a grade younger than me. He failed. He would toss stuff at me and my friends, make rumors and signs up about me, pin me to a wall with all his guy friends around watching, and the list is too long to say but when i went for help time after time i was told "oh just let it go" finally i bipassed the principle i was assigned and went to the whole schools Principle which turned out to be a mistake. This kid was on the football team and the Principle was the head football coach and he said to me and i quote "Your just jealose of the attention that football players get, you need to get a hobby, besides he has a tough home life that you probably dont, He is just venting his feelings of aggression." Now i had no care in the world about his home life just because he was being abused didnt give him the right to do it to me. Anyway 4 years after high school i got on a buss to go see my parents because my fiance was working late... I hadnt been picked on since high school and had not heard much about him besides a bad bar fight he had gotten into. well who comes on the buss but him. I immediatly looked down and got fearful and i thought please dont let him notice me. And for my shock he sat down and started talking to me about him going to college and asked me questions of what i had been doing. Talked to me like we were best friends. My mom and dad couldnt believe that i didnt take the oportunity to tell him what he had done to me all those years. The only thing i can think of WHy it happened on my part is that i was heavy and quick to defend my friends. He got a reaction he was looking for
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Whoa, that last part about being 13 threw me off!  I dont want to nag you about your age or anything, but 13 is WAY too young to be going through ALL that drama. Trust me. Half of the stuff you worry about now won't matter a year from now, even a week from now. Also think about if he is even worth all the drama you're putting yourself through.
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I can't tell you what to do!!! But I do know this, it's always bliss of the first couple of months and if everytime that say "i am gonna call you back" you run to another guy,, you are gonna be running your whole life. everytime a guys gets use to you they don't show the same affection. Talk to him and if he won;t  change then maybe you should make a change to a new dude. But give a chance to change, because there is no telling how that other guy will act in 7 months.
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Okay, don't cry.  That is why they are boys.  I am sure you are a beautiful girl.  I had the same issue when I was your age in school. The boys would always go for the really thick girls that looked like they flunked 3 grades.  I used to wonder "what is wrong with me".  I found out that it wasn't me at all.  Some of these girls were fast, meaning they were easy.  They put out and what boy isn't going to be interested in some fast girl that can't say no.  I know it is hard and it was for me too.  Try not to pay it any mind.  I have seen these same girls and boys now since they are adults and my have they changed, and not in a good way.  Don't get down on yourself.  You WILL have a boyfriend but don't get hung up on this.  Just relax and don't think about it so much. I am sure if you are as pretty as you say you are that some boy probably already secretly admires you.  Hang in there, it won't be long before someone sweeps you off your feet.
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I think that these boys were not your friend to begin with and just wanted to leer over your body(you must be gorgeous). You don't need them! Hold your head high and go and find some good friends who like you the way you are. You deserve better than people who judge with looks.Pretty soon you ll get your confidence back and will show those boys up. YOU GO GIRL!!!
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I am indeed sorry to tell you but in seeing the level of maturity you are at you can expect it to be awhile before boys catch up.\n\nSome never do. But the ones worth your time will not truly be mature enough to handle you until well after high school.\n\nNow let me say this. You are only in the 8th grade. You have a long time ahead of you before this really should even be something you worry about. I know you have now discovered boys. And some have discovered girls at your age but there is so much to know about relationships that it will take time.\n\nNever ever jump into any relationship because your lonely. I know....easy to say hard to do.....but it is very true.\nThere is a saying that best describes what I am saying.\n\n"How bad do you want it....the worse you want it the worse you will get it."\n\nTruer words were never spoken.\nYou sound like a intelligent girl. You know what is right and what is wrong. \n\nOnce you are in high school you may find guys are almost reasonable. But you have to watch out. The jerks are a bit harder to spot until it's too late. \n\nJust hang in there. There will be dates in your future and you will be glad you are as smart as you are.
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OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
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Great god that You are here!\nI wonder whether u are serious enough to post this question!\nYou ppl will never and can never change!\n\nAs for as me...Understanding is the main thing!\n\nAnd should be careful enough with the guys they come over.They select their boy friends, without any care, who they are and how they are...and lose everything and later blame every boy and man for what they lost!
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There really isn't a point. I personally had my first boyfriend in the ninth grade and I still wasn't ready! You're just too young at that point. I hated being chained to one person. The girls that switch from one boyfriend to another are just looking for attention. They aren't secure enough in themselves so they find a guy that they think could make them feel better about themselves but it only leaves them emptier.
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Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
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Boys are immature!  They will say things even though they don't mean them.  Sometimes when they say they don't want a relationship, it means they jsut don't want one with you.  They're just not that into you.  It's time to move on and focus on schoolwork and less on boys, or at least find a nice guy who will not trick you and lie and try to make you believe things that are only half true.  Believe me, if a guy likes you alot, he will make it known to you and won't have other girlfriends around!
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Good, stay that way for years! Boys cause alot of fighting and heartache in the teenage years. Wait awhile. Enjoy your friends and having fun. Surely you've seen how badly girls can fight over a guy. Its so not worth it. And your parents are alot more likely to let you go have fun with your good female friends than some boy that just wants to get you alone. Boys come and go, but good friends are priceless. Enjoy being yourself. Eventually a boy will like you and come talking to you. A happy confident girl is so much cooler than one that'll date any guy just to have a boyfriend. Every stage of your life can be alot of fun. Just enjoy where you are, you'll be older soon enough. And if you are hanging with the girls, you don't have to worry about being that girl that got pregnant in middle school that everyone is talking about. Ewww!