Ok,my b/f and I enjoy oral,however,i haven't been able to have an orgasm. I guess i need to relax more but do you have any other tips you can give me! He gives me full pleasure and is willing to take his time just i haven't reached that point!!! Should this be enough or is there any other tips! Help...i'm beginning to get worried.
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You need to establish an orgasm road-map in your brain. If you can get there through m_asturbation, then you are already half-way there.\n\nYou need to have him get you as close as possible, then finish up with m_asturbation. Next time, he'll get a little closer. Keep it up, and before you know it he'll get you there without your needing to m_asturbate at all!
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Workout and eat right. Maybe she needs to orgasm more. Do you give her oral???? Alot of guys aviod this.....big mistake.
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First it sounds like you are really stressed out about it. I think life would suck if I couldn't have an orgasm so I feel for you honey. I think if you want a drug, call your doctor and make an appointment. Try different positions, different lubricants, and different toys. Something else that might be causing your inability to orgasm without yourself involved is if you masturbate a lot. If you feel comfortable with it, google orgasm problems and read some articles about it. That might help you figure out what it is.
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i'm no expert (well maybe i am lol...) but maybe you have to achieve an orgasm through stimulating the clitoris. Try masterbating during intercourse. Rubber the clitoris while he is in you. If that doesn't then try a position i use alot.  Missionary position with a pillow under your lower back AND have him enter you at an angle rather than just straight thru. You should be eye to eye if not real close to that.
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Ignoring the PRUDES AND ICE BYTCHES ON THE SITE.  Listen, the hot and cold sensation is great.  Licking him between his *ss  and balls is great.  But if he lets you and that's a big IF while you are giving him his bj gently insert your finger in his a n u s.   (think of a proctology exam)  It tickles his prostate. This sensation will intensify his orgasm. If you swallow (and don't be ashamed if you do) Just remember to breathe before he ejaculates it WILL BE INTENSE.
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I'm so happy for you two!  Great job on waiting.  \n\nI know you two have waited for the sex but I'm not sure if you guys have done the all the things that lead up to that point.  There is a lot of fun to be had with foreplay.  Also, keep in mind that he will have an O within minutes of you guys starting your festivities.  Hopefully, he can go the distance and be able to get it back a few more times.  If not, there is no rush!  Having good sex takes patience and willingness to learn and experiment.  Don't forget to talk to each other about what you like and it wouldn't hurt to read some sex tips books together.  (Not a suggestion on how to pass the night but just in general.)\n\nI don't know if you guys are in a hotel or what but I would make sure that some chilly water and a snack with substance is on hand for later.  Also, a friend told me that she wished she had a pretty robe to wear when she came out of the restroom in her lingerie.  Since it was the first time for him to see her in that kind of dress she felt a little awkward crossing the room in such attire.  \n\nIt sounds to me like you already have it covered.  You guys waited so it will be unusually special, the strawberries are tasty and cider is very good (both flavors).  Just the fact that you are planning and being thoughtful covers your side of being romantic.  Make sure that he doesn't rush because the more anxious and rushed you are the less pleasurable it will be for you.  Have fun!
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Could be a number of things. Your man may not know how to please you, but that shouldn't be such a problem. more of an issue is probably that you don;t know how to please yourself, so you can;t tell him what to do. Many women NEVER have orgasms from actual intercourse, only through oral sex or masturbation. Many women just don't feel comfortable taking their time - especially if their partners are quick to come and roll over. You may just not be relaxed enough with men yet, unable to really let go and feeeel sex instead of thinking about what to do or how you look doing it. I suggest that you start masturbating and figuring out how to achieve orgasm on your own. If you do have a partner right now and want to come during se with him, buy a vibrator and use it together. It can give him a lot of pleasure too :-) On the whole, don;t worry, you'll figure it out. Experiment and have fun with it, the rest will follow.
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JUST KEEP PLAYING AROUND. HE SHOULD BE THERE FOR YOU IN ABOUT 20 MIN. FOR ANOTHER RUN AT IT. HE CAN ALWAYS DO OTHER THINGS TO MAKE YOU CUM.
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It's the sex.\nIf you aren't having orgasms, the sex can be better.\n\nYou aren't doing anything wrong though. Most women don't have orgasms just through plain sex. \nTry getting your partner to stimulate your clitoris as well - you could try investing in a vibrator and trying a few different positions.
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explore your body first, when you know all those parts that make you feel good, and you are able to have an orgasm, then maybe you can explore with your b/f touching each other and and maybe oral sex first, but go step by step
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Frankly, I don't see what the issue is.  My question to him would be:  "Do you NEVER masterbate?"  to which I doubt he could say that he never does.  It's the same thing.  he should be glad that he has someone who enjoys the aspects of being a sexual woman.  He shouldn't feel threatened by it.  Maybe you could introduce other toys (ones that get used on him) and make your sex life with him more adventuresome.  It's meant to be fun.  Why is he so insecure about it?  It's definitely not as if you were screwing another man.  Good luck, and enjoy your sexuality.
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talk to him.  toys are great.  and remember the more you are turned on and into it the more he will enjoy it!!  express your self on how you feel verbally,  moans or telling him that you like what he is doing to you.  be aggressive.  don't always do it at the same time, be spontaneous, don't always do it in bed, be adventurous
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My girlfriend had the same problem,,,she finally had an orgasm after buying herself a vib***** and she was 25!  Poor thing!  She was sexually abused as a child and taught that sex was "dirty" and "bad"....If this sounds like you, buy a vib***** and consider going to counseling if you think you need it....And remember that trying to have an orgasm will make it harder to have one....relax, open your mind, and you will get there!  Good luck
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Try to do workouts and more kegals..... Also talk with your doctor and see what they suggest. He also needs to make sure you are really lubed up and ready for him. He should try oral on you and let you climax and then use ky jelly and be gentle and slow and take his time so he does not hurt you. Have you tried being on top so that you can control things? Try buying a couples toy so that during intercourse you both are stimulated.... I hope this helps you some and i wish you the best.
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Well sometimes, when you and your lover are getting really hot and nasty, it just feels like the right time to do it!! When you've got baby-oiled up or whatever!! LOL!! \n\nOf course, you have to be totally relaxed and I found that rubbing my clit or getting him to do it (whilst he's in there)makes the whole thing much more pleasurable!\n\nIt's not something I want to do all the time, but now and again, hell why not!! When it comes to what makes a women come, we are all different. And not only that, but what may make me orgasm one week, might not work for me the next!!
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Start with fourplay and oral is a must since that is what gets you going.  Always let him try various positions at the time and go back down and lick your clit.  It is a process and try drinking some wine,  watch some porn or something that can stimulate the moment.  Doggy style is usually the best for you to have an orgasm, the motion is making his balls slap your clit while his moving.  \n\nGood luck!
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i had the same problem...even if i just put a little in i would gag....BUT! I learned....you don't always have to move up and down with your mouth......do as many things you can possibly think of...without hurting him....with your tongue, lips, mouth, hands, take your time and don't think you have to be a porn star....take your time and you know, your boyfriend i'm sure would be happy to tell you what or how he wants it.......just ask