Is it normal for a gf to have dreams when they sleep about having sex with other guys? She says she don't like the dreams but is it normal? And is it normal for all her ex's to start talkng to her and acting like they like her when she is taken, and only when she is taken? Cause I trust her and all, but I feel like I'm going to loose her. \n\nAnd What would you do in this situation?
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Yes Hunni its normal....just because we are women doesnt mean that we dont have sensual dreams! :) As far as all the ex's go, they are probably attracted to her because she is putting out an air about her, that she is comfortable with you...that can be very attrractive to men.\nDont spend all your time worring about loosing her, enjoy her whilst you have her. There are no guarantees in life!
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You are dreaming these type of dreams, because you are thinking too much of her and your mind is like brainwashed on this girl. I'm not saying that she may never be the one, but please don't take it forgranted that she is. \nGo on ask her and don't be shy. The sooner the better.\n\nGood luck my friend. Hope it helps.
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I love the lack of answers!!\n8, and I'm 20. I deffinately consider myself to be a guy that sleeps around alot.\nHOWEVER. This is not something I am proud of. I regret alot of the things I've done, and although I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, I'd much prefer fewer partners for longer periods of time.\nDo you mind answering something? Whats the ideal answer you're looking for?
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Wow, having sex twice huh\n\nHere's my thought- \n\nIf a girl has a boyfriend, don't encourage her to stay or leave. Don't get involved where that is concerned. She must be able to stand on her own and make her own decisions.\n\nShe might be a sweet girl, you both might be instantly into each other but lets look at it this way.\n\nShe had sex twice with you (Outright cheating- since she at the time had a boyfriend...). She cheated essentially to be with you, now whats going to stop her when she is bored/tired/frustrated/angry with you? Think she'll do that with someone else too?\n\nMy advice is to essentially get her out of your life. I know it is painful ~ I almost ran headlong into a similar situation before but I avoided it when I decided to get her out of my own life. Course the end result with that was she cheated with some other guy (we never went through, because the moment I found out she was wishy washy about the then current boyfriend I knew it was a sign to get out). \n\nNext, go out there, get out in the world and start seeing other women. I do not know what state you live in, but in Los Angeles California, 10,000 women are turning 18 every day. If one woman I like has something hiding in the closet - I just say adios.\n\nI said "women" not "girls" because women are mature, girls are not. Mindset is important, who do you think will cause you more happiness? Someone who isn't loyal, or at least will stick by you through the bad times(When love really shows itself, as well as their character), someone spoiled and otherwise emotionally unstable?Or someone who will stick by you even though the bad times, who is psychologically stable, mature,  and is patient?\n\nAgain, I know it may be difficult to just purge someone from your life but lets face it. \n\nYou deserve better than to be in constant tension, pain, stress, confusion and worry over this girl who is wishy washy, cheated twice and doesn't want to hurt her boyfriend's feeling even though by the sound if it, she isn't happy. \n\nWhats stoping her from doing the same on you?\n\nSorry if I sound cold, insensitive and generally offended you (if it did), but I am not as sensitized to the situation as you are, I don't personally know you or the girl you speak of.\n\nI do not imply that the girl will cheat on you, I only deal in odds if she will or not. They say that once a cheater, always a cheater right?\n\nLast note:\nIf she really wanted to break off from the relationship- she would have done it already. If you really want something, and are in enough pain to get it, you'll do it almost instantly. Seems like she is holding back, and not actually thinking about a way to let her boyfriend go (if indeed, she wants to).
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I think you need to let her down easy.  Tell her you appreciate the time you've had together, but this is just not what you want right now.  You have things on your mind and need to be alone.  Once you break it off, stick to it and don't give her any false hope.  Once you break it off, YOU CANNOT SLEEP WITH HER...if she's crazy, you'll regret it big time.
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Why can't you allow your boyfriend to have female friends?  Why are you so insecure?  I have female friends and I have been happily married for several years.  I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone so insecure that they would force me to choose my friends based solely on if they have a penis or not.  What's up with you?  Do you sleep with every guy you know?  If not, cut some slack.  On the other hand if you can't trust your boyfriend based on his behavior that is a different story.  Remember you don't have to trust everyone who enters his life, you just have to trust him.  Now here is a heads up for how guys think.  If my wife is even slightly jealous of a female, I love it.  It's just another way for her to say "I love you".  Of course she trusts me and I have never given her reason not to.  Stop nagging and start bragging.  Tell me I'm a saint and a king and I might believe you and act like one.  Tell me I'm a dog and a snake, and who knows?
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Sometimes a guy would like all your attention. My girlfriend has free will to do as she pleases as long as she remember just how much I love and care about her. The only thing I ask is that she would stay faithful and not play games with me no matter how far away she maybe from me. I understand you because sometimes it is like she dose not include me in her life and hangs out with old friends from school. The last time I called her she had an old guy friend over to her house with no other friends there besides him. I have to admit I was upset with her cause she seems to fall for the sweetness of every guy but crays and asks me to trust her.  The only advice I could offer you is to be careful with your heart. Even if those other girls are your friends they might turn around betray you or he might leave you for another. It sounds to me like he dose not value your relationship all that much.
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It's totally understandable.. honestly, i think it's kinda cute that she feels jealous about it.. =) just be even moooore sweet with your gf, and don't stop telling her that your just acting, that that has absolutely nothing to do with feelings or attraction towards the other girl, that its just your job to make it look real.. that she is the ONLY one! =)
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Wow a lot of you are pretty hostile up here….  I mean you guys would've told Eve to dump that guy Adam and talk to the snake.  Tough crowd\n\nYou sound a little bit more like a guy (in thinking) than a girl.  I've heard the same line at bachelor parties.   Anyway you do have a serious issue here maybe to complex to answer.\n\nYour issue is multifaceted… on the one hand you're jealous of your boyfriend's past lovers…. sorry I used the word lovers but you need to accept that reality.  Also you feel you have not explored enough to feel comfortable in the long term relationship.\n\nAbout your jealousy.  It seems you are more jealous of his experiences and maybe their possible expertise than anything else.  It doesn't sound like he's thinking about them or even wants them.  The fact that he told you about them and you probably pushed him to give details, says that he's not trying to hide anything… he's being upfront… give him a lot of credit for that.\n\nNow I've been with some women in the past that could rock your world in bed… however they turned out to be psychopaths.   So again realize your boyfriend is with you not them.  These women are no longer in a relationship because they could not hold his interest the way you are.  He wants to marry you and be with you forever so they should be jealous of you !\n\nYou really need to tone it down on the jealousy.  Work hard to come to terms with this.  This will destroy a relationship especially if you continue to escalate it into something it's not.  \n\nThe other part of your issue is a bit more complicated because it involves the number of partners you have not had and you feel you are missing.   You feel it's not fair that he has had more sexual experiences then you.   You have to ask yourself do you want to get five guys to sleep with to fell even.  (By the way my e-mail is at the bottom of the page we can reduce this to 4).  What if you say you get 6 guys does this mean you're going to let him sleep with one more girl before you get married?    It's not fair but then again life is never fair.\n\nDon't get me wrong I do understand your yearning to try to be with others.  You only live once.  Others might teach you to do something sexually different and exciting but on the other hand they might be less capable than her future husband.  The other side of this “affair” is… you go out with a gentleman that interested in your adventure, no strings attached, just sex… shake hands afterwards…. he gets in bed with you, he is hot looking, you get down to his manhood... wow that’s big…. he makes love all night long and you come five times.   Now what .... you just learned that your future husband is not as skilled as you thought… but he will be with you the rest of their life.  \n\nIf you do this to catch up are you going to tell your future husband?   Wouldn't this now make him jealous as you are feeling?   If you decide not to tell him and keep your secret that might work.  But being in a few arguments with women I can assure you he might pull it out of your history bag and in the heat of an argument, say ..…”And I slept with Rambo” !\n\nYou said you’re jealous of these ex-girlfriend's for different reasons and you feel you will “never be… good in bed.     I think you may be confusing the number of partners somehow equals how good they are in bed.  Quantity does not equal quality.   \n\nIf you want to be good in bed you need to be good in bed… it does not necessarily mean more partners.  While a couple of partners might give you some new techniques, positions or STDs … it really comes down to you reading about these things, studying them, discussing fantasies and other ideas with your future husband and trying them out together.  Now he may hesitate at first… and say you're just fine (guys are so stupid) but push the point.  Hopefully he won't be the kind guy who says…
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I know exactly what this is about.  I had sex with one of my coworkers and see him everyday.  I do not think of sex when I see him, we had a bad break up and the sight of him actually makes me sick.  If your girlfriend wanted him still she would be with him.  You cannot judge her by her past.  The problem is you not her, if you dont trust her you cant be with her.  If you cannot get over this you can't be together.  Have a little more self esteem, you should look at it as if he was all that she wouldn't be with you.  good luck
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I rather have someone who is faitful and isn't going to bring me a disease then someone who is going to sleep w/ anything that walks talks and gets on all fours. Even if it's not sleeping flirting to me is the somewhat of the same however I can see past the flirting as long as NO actions where taken. To me infidelity is a sign of weakness. There's nothing wrong w/ a good, strong Christian man. Maybe she's insecure w/ herself and doesn't feel she deserves better. Like a respectful man that's going to treat her right.
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Usually it just means that there is alot of insecurity of loosing him. Maybe subconsciously you know that his heart once belonged to her. The dreams tend to take over b/c of the deep seeded subconscious insecurities. You need to discuss this with your man, and embellish each others views on this matter. Put it to bed! You need some comforting from your man, as far as security goes. We all like to feel safe no matter how old we get!Right?
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why on earth would you get that she's been cheating out of that? she was trying to express to you that she is worried about the lack of sex, she's afraid you are unhappy and unsatisfied with the situation and she wanted you to know that it is because she is tired and not because she doesn't want you sexually. didn't you hear what she said? why are you looking for a hidden agenda? i hope you aren't like that all the time or your marriage is going to be hell. when women talk they say what they mean, just listen and you'll have the answers  you need. she was trying to let you know that she cares about how you feel about this and you hear that she's been cheating???? wtf!
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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no one can be talking for him. so i don't think she is putting those words into his mouth. i have dated guys that were separated and i had nothing to do with their relationships with their wives. just because he slept with someone does not mean that he is moving on for her. it was probably just sex. my guess is that he really does want to move. regardless of the other woman.
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My gf is kinda like this. She's more into sex than I am. I'm usually up for it once a day, given I'm not really tired or depressed. Her sexual appetite worries me only in that I worry about what kind of trouble it may get her into when I'm not around, but I try to satisfy her needs whenever we're together. And no, I'm not tired of her--I love her more than she loves me, and she admits this herself. Don't be ashamed of yourself, though. I'm glad that she's really into me, and that she's open and honest.
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It is normal! Its like a "what if" type of problem. I think our subconscious asks what would happen if we were together. And if you care about someone you cant turn those feelings off or erase them. Your normal. Take care!!