Can men and women really be good friends. This guy calls me for hours and we chat about nothing and have a great time.  I am not so sure what is going on.  Does he see me as a friend?  Won't ask him.
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we see all women as friends...BUT...we also see them as women, the first chance we get, the friendship is not as important anymore as it is to score...don't get me wrong though, we can be friends, just never give us the impression that we can be more...
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dunno love. you obviously care a lot about him....\nleave him alone for a while, perhaps he'll decide that just being friends is good for him... there again maybe he'll decide you're a cow and he hates you. you cannot control what goes on inside his head or try to second guess/pre-empt it.\nthat's the trouble with men though aint it? they seem to think that just being friends means they've moved down in your estimations somehow, when in fact it just means you wanna know them forever, without all the messy stuff that gets in the way of that.\nmaybe he's low in confidence and looking for love.... thought he'd found it with you... perhaps if he gains some self esteem and meets someone else he'll appreciate how important and precious a good friendship can be.\nunfortunately, i don't think there's anything you can do to make him feel any better about it all though, he'll have to get there by himself.
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Mel, \nI went over both of your questions and am wondering if you left out some important details that we may be able to work off of?  It is rather odd for someone who is a best friend to up and leave you alone and to try to avoid you for no reason.  Could he have become enamorate of you and is trying to avoid you as he doesn't want to ruin the friendship and doesn't know how to address this situation with you?  Just a thought as it is the only reason for this from a male best friend.
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Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
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Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
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As a guy, I think it's great.  I'm looking for this type of friend myself but girls like you are hard to find!
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Men and women can be just friends.  Maybe.  The problem is that a lot of guys just have one thing on their mind, sex.  So, when you do have a friend of the opposite, we tend to mess it up.  i don't know why, we just do.  it is one of tose unexplained things in life.
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Former lovers can be friends, not that I've experienced exactly.  I have a couple that still count me as friend, some more that would slash my throat if they could.  First, remember YOU had an affair.  He is being generous and kind and that is worth something good.
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This is probably not what you want to hear, but yes.  I never thought so until I had friends like this.  I have had some of the most amazing guy friends ever!  And they're really good looking, nice, funny, smart...and we just never thought of each other in that way.  It's the most incredible thing...if you have a relationship like this, embrace it.  Getting to know about the opposite sex through friendship is the best way to do it.
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duhhhhh he's keepin you around just in case. things might not be going as well as he wished with shit new girl. so he's gettin back with you as "friends".\n\non the other hand, he might be genuinely interested in a friendship.\n\npersonally, i think he's just tryin to keep those lines of communication open. maybe its time for you to move on and find a boyfriend so it doesn't matter what he wants.
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He sounds really conflicted. I don't think it's you at all but his own undealt-with problems. Don't be frustrated with the other women he is pursuing because the ultimate problem isn't anything having to do with you, but the inhibitions he has. He's acting out some sort of situation and you're a pawn in that game. As difficult as it may be, I seriously suggest you do what you can to likewise see him as just a friend. He may come around then and start treating you as an emotional equal, but if not don't consider it any loss. He sounds like he has issues. That's what it sounds like to me, anyway; obviously you know more than any one of us.
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Hey girl, I have a strange feeling on why he is ignoring you...Do you think maybe his girlfriend found out he was talking to you? Did his girlfriend know that you guys are friends. The other thing I am thinking too is that he probably really likes you and wants you more than a friend. I also would like to ask you why are you in a relationship with someone you are not satisfied with? I think the issue is that both of you are in love with each other and he has realized this..Maybe he is trying to take his time to figure this all out...I would NOT approach him at his job right away to find out where he is. I would wait another week, try calling again, and if you are still unsuccessful, try and approach him in person. I think maybe right now he needs time to think about your relationship. He may want to take it further in my opinion, and right now is probably confusing for him. Give it time and it will work out! Good Luck!
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sad knowing some people cant take a simple question seriously.\n\nAnyway, yes, guys and girls can be friends without strings attached. Why some people are so shallow or so up on themselves to think people today cant just be friends without expecting something I dont know.
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Tell now or deal with a lot worst later. Now with that said, is she really a friend? If so what about the female rule?
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Sure he likes ya.. (he is crazy about you!) It shows again and again in what you write above! YES you are perceptive about that 'guy code.' I think he's got to work some things out in his head .. this is hard to do BUT it will pay off.. Give it a couple more months. Don't push it! You know one important thing (and it's a biggie) that this guy has got 'good morals..' If he's being respectful of his friends (I think it's kool) think how great and respectful he will be of YOUR feellings?! Am I right? This guy sounds like a real keeper, hon. You are doing o.k. too by the way by playing it cool.. keep it 'casual.'  Play back his 'hey, what's up?' to him. (Real kool how he stayed w/ya and slept there, didn't touch ya.. that what ya wrote, right? he was awkward in the morning..) He sounds like he is not going to cheat on you. (He sounds like a real dear.) I say GO for it!!!!!!
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Oh yeah. That guy absolutely is head over heels for the girl normally. Too bad he's in the friend zone. I pity those guys more than any other man on the planet since they are so incredibly close to what they want and they will never get it. Its kind of like a homeless person that owns an unbreakable box with $1000 in it. The person wants that money more than anything, but they have no way to get to it. The plight of the "male friend" is truly one of the saddest in the history of humankind.\n\nWhich is why I don't make female friends anymore.
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guys always think that its impossible to be friends w. out sex..i mean hello..women are able to just be friends