As a 17 year old girl, I'm wondering if its the right move for me after high school what with the risks and the intensity. What about discrimination between sexes?
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No. That would be Air Force.
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That was a very good description of many teenagers, well said! \n\nMood swings are normal when your body is changing, when you are faced with peer pressure and thoughts of sex, and you aren't sure if you're fitting in to where you want to be, or even if you're not sure who you want to be.\n\nClose to perfect life? Thats a very liberal compliment to your family and surroundings, and if you aren't finding happiness at this moment then I would have to say you worry too much and hold yourself accountable so much that you may be getting the blues from being overwhelmed by it all. \n\nInsecurities, every teen has them, whether it dealing with their appearance in acne issues, thinking it's time to start dating, but not knowing who the nice people are that would treat you with respect, worrying about your grades in school and maybe even already being pressed to think about college.  This is all very normal too, but do try to relax a bit, enjoy the simple pleasures more, criticise yourself less, and roll with everything that comes your way, knowing that every teen has experienced some times of confusion and uncertainties, and if you need to speak to your school councelor about worries that are making you very sad, their doors are always open.
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hey, just wanted to make sure you got this next message, so I'm putting it here, rather than adding a comment to your latest Q, and risk you missing it\n\nI dig that you're secure in your decision.  I'm even more happy that you're 17, and that you waited this long.  \nThere are things, though, that you still need to consider.  I speak from experience here....\nPlease do whatever you can to protect yourself from ruining your life at this point.  If you're not using any sort of birth control, then I strongly advise that you do it right away.  If you get yourself a daily pill, it will take a month to take full effect, so use protection or slow it down until then.\nDon't get so wrapped up in your relationship with this guy that you lose yourself.  When I was your age I was SO in love, and I ended up with a beautiful little girl, an "incomplete" education, and years of heartache, healing, and swearing I would never get married again.  All my friends had kids - IN HIGH SCHOOL - some got married, some got around.\nPLEASE, whatever you do, or whatever comes of this relationship, ALWAYS remember that you need to live for YOU, and DO for YOU.  Finish high school.  Go to college.  Get a job, and make it a career.  Do whatever you have to do not to lose yourself along the way.\nI wish you the best of luck  :-)
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here is an example of gender discrimination...poor kid had been dressing as a female all school year, and all of a sudden he's not allowed to go to the prom in a dress...if it was a problem the school should have addressed it before screwing his prom up.  I'm sure that if a girls chose to wear pants, she would have been allowed to attend...\n\nhttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12958618/
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It goes against the grain of nature. There should be a role model of both sexes. 1 male, 1 female. Also what about when they get older and their school friends start to take the pis* out of them?
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I think it's great! Not that 'a girl is better than a guy' but that you found something you like and that you're good at! \n\nIf you love it, pursue it. Don't let anyone tell you it's bad or wrong for ANY reason!
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I am not a christian, so I don't know if you want to stop reading right now, but I am religious.  I am also 18, I know I am not you nor am I your girlfriend.  Through my own experiences with the transition from High School to College.  People change and they go there seperate ways.  Now I am not saying this is always the case but most of the time you will find it to be true.  I don't know if you have started living out on your own yet or if you have been living together, or paided taxes.  Because living together truely is a big step, you have to see eachother everyday, which I know doesn't sound bad now, but what if you get into an argument.  You do not have any "quiet space". Some people need that time alone to think about what has happened.  Most states if you get married, they have a penility tax, usally because of your joint incomes.  So you might want to look into those sort of things before hand.   You both are in college and I am guessing a Freshman.  Do you both know what you want to do with the rest of your life? Job wise I mean, I know I am a Freshman and I don't know which road I want to travel yet to see if it the engineering way or the arts way.  Also, if either one of you has the chance of transfering to a better college and then stay behind for the other person, the person who could transfer just lost out on a wonderful oppertunity, to better themselves but they were held back.  Now you might not see it that way, and I am not saying that is how it always is but this is just another way of looking at it.  Now you mentioned you were religious and you have been together for 4 1/2 years, if you are just getting married because you want to have sex then that is a no no.  Christans do not believe in Contraception, that means condoms, the pill, the patch... what ever you want to call it.  So then you have to bring up the question of kids.  Do you really think at your age and at your stage in your life, you ready to have kids?  There is always a possablity.  There are so many things to think about when you are talking about marriage, you have waited this long, why don't you just wait untill both of you have your Batchlers degrees.  Just a side note, my boyfriend and I are going to be getting an appartment together this summer.  We are going to the same college and soon we will have been dating almost a year.  Now we have talked about mairrage, but we have both agreed, when we get our 4 year degree then we might consider it.  Again, we are diffrent people and I understand that.  From my point of view why worry about such things when there is a world that we were meant to live in, and why don't we just live it.
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one thing about teenagers is that, they forget to look at the big picture.  girls are so caught up with gossip, name brand clothes, and cat fights, and boys with fighting, bullying, etc....but what good will all that do you in the future? when you are 25 and everyone else your age has a job, and is starting a family where are you going to be at? are you going to have your high school diploma? i hope so because if not then you are screwed from getting a decent job. you can't live off of mommy and daddy forever, so i hope you realize what you want to do with your life and focus on that!  because down the road, you will regret all the stupid fights, skipping school, and realize that things that seem like such a big deal now, really don't anymore once high school is over. i believe in the saying "what goes around comes around" so treat people how you would want to be treated, and listen to your parents!!
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Lesbians are violent macho motorcycle-fixing fist-fighting vagina hunters desperate enough to have a U-Haul hitched to their car at all times to help their byotch move in at a moment's notice...\n\n...at least that's what LOTS of str8 girls think.\n\nAnd offense?  Hell yes-- but you might as well get ready for a lifetime of stupid people who barely have time to be distracted from their double-mocha-freeky-latte rather than experience things and people that might involve something slighty different from themselves.\n\nMove on -- and find someone more tolerant, because, is it REALLY worth your time to convert some idiot's opinion in your first semester?  Save your time for studying and hangin with your tolerant/accepting friends-- unless you fit the stereotype above...\n\n\nGood Luck :)
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Sounds great! Yes I would join, however, I'm 31. So, I guess I'm not invited. Really sad too, because I have a lot of experienced information to offer. \n\nI've been into girls ever since I can remember, and I had my first experience when I was 7 years old. My first actual girlfriend was when I was 16. My parents have always known, and they accept me. I have no problem telling people, and if they hate me for it, then that's on them.\n\nIf you change your mind, feel free to contact me.
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Education is important.  If you feel that you are happy where you are at with your education, then by all means get out and play girl!  Just remember relationships do take time and work, and if you can't split the time between school and playing, finish your school and then play....
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I was in the same situation as you..\nat the end of high school I had a million people telling me I had all the potential, and where was I going to college? \nI had mixed feelings about all this..  should I just go to make every one else happy? or what?  ..\n I decided that college wasn't the right thing for right away.. mostly because I didn't have any money and I was afraid of spending money on something I wasn't really sure I wanted to do anyway...\nIt took me one year out of High school to realize how much I missed being in school and missed the interaction with peers and all that...\n I also came to a realization that I really did have a passion in life and I finally decided to peruse it regardless of what other people told me about women in the profession... I moved 3000 miles to the other side of the country.. I took a huge risk in asking my BF of 4 years at that point to come with me or loose me... and I am now in my 3rd out of 5 yrs in architecture school and I am actually ranked 1st in my class.....\nmy point in telling my "life story" is that some times you just need some time to yourself to step back and reflect on where and who you are..  I know it sounds cheesy but during that year off I learned  a llot about "the real world" and myself and knew that I could do better than $8.25/hr at my local retail store ...  good luck.. you sound like an intelligent girl, trying to make the right decision...\nmy advice is talk to your parents but don't feel as though you are disappointing them if you don't want the same thing as them.. look into some colleges or even some certificate programs.. like massage therapy and other one year programs.. most community colleges have them...  see if you are finding anything you are interested in... if not there is nothing wrong with taking a year off.. and besides that year will be a good time to save money if you do decide to go to college....but like I said you are an intelligent person.. you just have to find "your thing"    good luck in life :)\n but like the other girl said ..  college is a great experience and you don't want to regret never going... or at least trying :)
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You're just turning 18 & still have a year of high school left. You're coming up on a point where things are going to change whether you like it or not. Most couples like oyurs are going to split up & go to different colleges. You think you know what love is, but when people get to college & get some freedom from their parents it changes who they are, they spend a couple years growing into the person they are going to be rather than the one their parents have been shaping & controlling for years. I know it's hard to see, but when you look back on it that's the deal. \n\nIn your case, don't rush into marriage just because you're scared of losing someone. That's a horrible reason. I think it's best if you wait a couple years. I think you should go ahead & join the Navy. I don't know what her plans are, college or whatever, but its a big case of "if you love it set it free, if its true it'll come back to you." Do your best to make it thru, but understand both of you will be changing a lot during these transition years. If at 20 you both want to get married, then go for it & congrats! If you find you've changed so much & grown apart, then better to find that out before you're married then realize it two years in. You need to give her every opportunity to pursue her career goals too. Again, I don't know if she's going on to school or whatever, but you sure don't want to be a junior enlisted guy trying to support a family (they don't pay you nearly enough for that). I wish you the best of luck, and make a smart decision with your head instead of your heart. It'll all work out for the best & you have a whole lot of life in front of you.
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You know, its only a stage. You are 15 yrs old with raging hormones. Thats normal. As you grow older, you will realize and make other decisions. If youchoose to stay that way that that is your fate. \n\nI've done that and alot of guys and gals have done so as well. Although some choose to leave that life style and some choose to stay. Ultimately and bottom line. Its your choice. So right now, enjoy and experience all you want and maxmize on what you crave for and after awhile, you will know what direction you want to go.\n\nHope that helps Girl. \n\nCheers!
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Hey, I remember being your age. You shouldn't let people restrain you from who you are. Also, keep in mind that these are the years (I'm sure you've heard this plenty of times) when people change and grow, so keep an open mind on who you want to be. I've changed so much during my 8th grade year, but make good choices cause these specific years will alter your life for better or worse. Who cares what everyone thinks, because in the end, it's you has to live with yourself. Here is my motto that you can use for anything: "Ignorance is bliss, but knowledge is power." Good luck!
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From what I've read, it's not unusual at your age to have these kinds of thoughts about people of your own sex. I myself had them about girls in school when I was your age (I'm female).  However, I am straight. You sound like you are straight. But there's nothing wrong with being gay, aside from the fact that gays are unfairly discrimated against.
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Nothing.  Nothing at all. \n\nIt REALLY IS just another day.  GIRLS TEND TO BECOME "SENTIMENTAL" about "rites of passage", but 18 is nothing compared to other future events in your life.\n\nIt just means you should be outta high school and going to college or working.  That's about all.