My boyfriend and I will be together five years next month, what could i do to make him want me more?
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Stop taking each other for granted.  Say thank you more.  Notice each other more.  Candle-lit dinner.  Weekend away.  Picnic in the park.  Flowers.  Bath together.  \n\nAll this helps things to go well, but you can't make him want you more.
472804
Ok- you may not like what I am going to tell you but this \nrelationship isn't really what you want because if it was, you wouldn't have all these doubts.\n\nSweetie, you need to value yourself, your life, and your time.  You can't be this man's rescuer.  After 5 years you've got to recognize that if you plan to live a fulfilling life, stop doing what doesn't work.
49143
1) Don't force it. It sucks, but sometimes stuff just doesn't work out. If the chemistry is gone it's gone, so don't worry about it. Trying to force it will just make it worse, and kill the chance of real chemistry developing.\n\n2) If the chemistry is there it will be memorable no matter what.\n\n3) Make the moment focused around eachother, not, for example, a movie or even a meal. Start with coffee, a walk in the park, or some activity that will lead to conversation instead of putting the focus elsewhere.\n\n4) Make sure he isn't just interested in a booty call.
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Pack a picnic lunch and eat at the park, or beach, or lake, or whatever beautiful spot you have around your house.\nGo on a hike together.\nJoin a bowling team together, co-ed softball or some other sport that you both enjoy.\nRollerblading.\nBike riding.\nHorseback riding.\nBoard games.\nCooking a meal together.\nSit down and write a list of things you enjoy and ask him to do the same. See if there are interests that you have in common. Remember too, there should be things that you do seperate from each other so that when you are together again, you can talk about your seperate activities and have lives apart from as well as with each other.
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Its getting routine... Spice it up a little, when you know he is coming home prepare a picnic in your living room or something similar that is romantic.  He could be like that for a lot of reasons, men have periods too it seems.  Spice up the relationship do something that you havent done before, if  you still dont get a response, then maybe you two need to sit and really talk about whats going on.
22012
Listen very carefully...\n\nShow him what you just asked us...\n\nAnd then ask him what he would like...\n\nBut I have a pretty good feeling he already knows how much you love him and doesn't need a reminder...
564985
Don't react.  There is nothing to react to.  Look at the bigger picture.  The 5 year picture.  What are your goals and dreams?  Do you want to achieve those goals with your man?  Or do you want to end up ??????? hummmm.....  Sometimes you just have to tell him how you feel.  If you need attention tell him!!  He can't read your mind! If you are afraid to tell him that you need that extra special attention in the bedroom now, what makes you think you can tell him what your kids have done if you have any 10 or more years down the road?  Keeping secrets only intensifies the curiosity. Of *What if?* I had someone on the side?  Tell him what you want when you want it.  Change your schedule to fit his needs. If your relationship is that important to you.  Remember,  he won't always work this shift.  This is just a phase in a relationship.  Get through it, or leave... Because chances are if you don't realize this now, you will just be in agony.
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First, I think it's great that you care enough to ask and not just take the relationship for granted.\n\nNow, how to keep it alive.  Think back to the early days you were together.  Anything stand out from there that you don't do as much?  Whether it be an exciting date, time chatting, finding out new things about one another ... might try some of the old things.\n\nNext, is there anything you all have talked about wanting to do together?  DO IT.  I never really thought much about this, but it the past couple of weeks I have seen people make lists of 100 things they want to do in life, and on the "ellen" show one day, she took care of about 10 of the items.\n\nIt gives a sense of accomplishment to cross these things off and a sense of adventure in trying to create the list and then in planning to do them.\n\nIn fact, what am I doing sitting here at this keyboard, when I should be making out my own list!?! ;-{ )\n\nTake care and good luck!
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- Dont be hurry.\n- Read his heart.\n- He may be busy in planning your future to be brightful.\n- You too need to take part of it.\n- Help him, guide him and shoulder him.\n- Make love, fun and success together.\n- all the best.\n----------------
576641
Well, can only answer for myself, But I would enjoy something or even just a thoughtful gesture from your heart over something thats store baught anyday.  Use your imagination.  Special dinner of his favorite food that YOU have prepared for him, a special evening to just yourselves, make it romantic, make him feel that he is the one and only man that has ever existed in your life.  Remember it is all about him that day.  Start from the time you wake up in the morning till the time you two finally fall asleep that night.  And I'm sure he will be doing something special for you, so be patient and work together so that both of you feel that the plans you have put together have went smoothly and fully.  Good luck and congratulations.
107394
Stop and walk holding hands along the beach. Take pictures,or maybe have one of those specialty pictures of the two of you as memorabilia. Don't forget to ask him what he thinks looks like would be fun along the way.:)
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Try to spend more time with him and show him a side of you that no one else can see...\n\nbut as someone already mentioned, you can't force anyone to love you. all you can do is be your best and wait.\n\nbest wishes! =]
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That is sooooo AWESOME and selfless of him.  THE BEST thing you can give him is yourself, meaning, write him a meaningful poem describing how good he makes you feel & how much you appreciate and aknowledge what he's done for you, how happy he makes you, how you have no regrets marrying him, and how much better than you expected your marriage turned out to be.  \n\nThen, if you're artistic, re-write it on some fancy paper in caligraphy-or have it done for you, have the poem professionally framed and matted and include a photo of you & him, and don't forget to put the date of this Anniversary, so when you look back at it in 50 years, you'll always remember this Anniversary.  (THEN you can smack him upside  the head, and cuss him out asking him where the heck did the romance go, you nit-wit as you notice his dentures fell out into your cup of tea.)
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Both of you have to do it, not just you...you may have to teach him by your example?\n\nBe firm but don't lose your temper.\n\nBe kind but don't get walked over.\n\nThink hard but never worry.\n\nCreate a "positive cycle" where everything you both do makes your relationship that little bit better...even if only a tiny little bit each time.\n\nRemember that a sense of humour is infinitely attractive and gets you wnat you want in the long run.\n\nDon't be afraid to be bold.\n\nDon't be afraid to be vulnerable.\n\nRemember that you have to love and like yourself FIRST before you can be the real you in your relationship.\n\nHave fun - you only live once!\n\nBe safe - you only *get* to live once!!
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Little things truly mean a lot!\n\nWhen your setting next to him, take his hand and massage it.  While watching TV, sit behind him and massage his back, shoulders and neck.  Leave him alone when he wants to be alone.  Bring him his favorite drink when he's relaxing on the deck.  Don't nag him, communicate with him.  Fix his favorite meals at least once a week.  Give him what he wants sexually.  Listen to him when he wants to complain about a co-worker or boss.\n\nYou know him better than anyone.  There's probably other little things that he enjoys that only you know about.  Use that knowledge and it will bring you both closer to each other.
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Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
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give him some time.......it may take him awhile to see how wonderful you are!!! show him that you are special......you are beautiful........and youre meant for each other.......dont worry he'll see you differently im sure of it.....good luck....