i met a guy,2 weeks ago,he's my friend's friend he seemed really into me,he's a shy guy,not very talkative.he told my friend that he liked me.i met him,everything was nice, i saw him again the next day we spent the whole night together,he was holding my hand the whole night, in front of his friends.at the end of the night, he gave me a ride home so i invited him in,so he asked me if he can spend the night with me, i was like ok,but i dont invite guys over usually, but he seemed like a decent guy so i said yes, but i told him:if ur here to have sex or smth u can leave right now, cuz its not gonna happen (im a virgin) so he said no..thats not my intention, so we spend the night,it was perfect, he was holding me the whole night, he didnt let me go,it was cute.the next day he left and he said he'd call me. but he didnt.2 days later i was with my friend,she called him and he told he likes me but he may leave the town soon so its better to not start smth.he didnt call to explain,whats wrong?
206116
maybe when you told him he wasn't getting any , he stayed with you just in case you eventually let your guard down, he is an idiot to not call you after running around after you so much..leaving town is a BullSh*t excuse and now he is probably looking elsewhere....you were indeed played like a hand of poker..get over it and find someone who can treat you right
421767
At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
212101
I reckon he likes you.  Just go for it if you want. Youll know how to approach him. Maybe just hint it to him. Some guys like it when a girl is dominant or straight forward whereas others prefer the girl to be really subtle instead. Itll depend on how he is. But it does sound like he likes you. \n\nJust remember, if you are good friends with him, once you go out it all changes and you need to decide if the chance of losing your friendship is more or less important than the chance of a relationship with this guy. Once you go, you cant ever go back (especially once you sleep with a friend, things change forever).\n\nGood luck!\n\nAll the best ;-)
664148
He could be shy.  Are you two friends?  If so, he could have been surprised by you saying you liked him, and now doesn't know how to act around you.  If he likes you, give him time and he may come around.  If he doesn't like you, don't be hurt by it, just move on.  The right guy will come along, trust me.
445115
what is the question here? you liked him, you had your friend ask him out, he said no. Seems pretty open and shut. Move on
529492
Forget about it after 3days.  Yea, the guy asked for your number but it could have been because he thought it was what he was supposed to do after you two where hanging out that night or because he wanted to look cool to his friends for getting a girls number at some party. What ever his motives are, this guy is a loser and you should totally forget about him!
593276
Yes, you are wasting your time.  I know that hurts to read but when a guy is drunk he says more often than not what he really feels.  Plus I don't hear you saying he apologized the next day or anything.  You deserve to be with a guy who will love you and wants to be with you and that isn't going to happen till you end this relationship and move on with your life.
350328
You probably don't want to hear this but...I don't think he loves you, I think he likes you and he was probably horny. If I was you I would just keep him as a friend and start dating other people and leave my options open. Good luck.
238250
Well, the fact that the guy hasn't responded can be either good or bad. It could mean he's trying to figure it all out and decide when he should make his move or it could mean he's ignoring your friend. Your friend should give it time and if the guy seems to be doing nothing, well, then he isn't worth the time and effort and quite frankly doesn't deserve any girl.
391009
Don't keep chasing him. Sorry to say it, but he used you for sex and does not even bother to talk with you.\nStart respecting yourself and don't allow guys to use you in that manner.\nGuys have the girls that they date (take out and are happy to be seen with) and then the ones they just call for sex. Which would you rather be?\n"Friends" don't have sex.. So, don't get played that way.\nAlso, your reputation is being trashed.. If you want casual sex, that's up to you. If you want a guy who treats you with respect, then get to know the guy and have a relationship.
616965
Maybe he is not ready for any kind of relationship just yet maybe he might be testing the waters before he try it. I don't know but maybe the reason why he didn't want to call you is this you are out in a club or bar and he bought you a drink and you exchanged numbers. Well guess what? He was testing you and seeing what kind of girl you are....some guys do that for the sake of there manhood.\n\nIf he hasn't called you by now then he may never call so move on and have a fun life and if he does call then maybe it was meant to be. :)
390153
No don't ask him crap. Especially about that. If your already having sex with him all I can say is ''ARE YOU CRAZY?!'' Stop having sex if you are. If he still calls and wants to see you then theres a chance he likes you for more then sex. You've only been together 3 weeks. To a guy 3 weeks doesn't mean a thing. It's not like his in love with you. You need to control your feelings better and not let yourself get all tided up emotional. Guys just don't fall head over hills about a girl. They take their time. To them they have plenty of time before wanting to wear a ring or give one up.Don't wear your heart on your seleve. In other words don't let these guys know that you like them so easily and so quickly. Guys like girls better if they have their own set of friends and don't dump their firends to go out with them. They like girls that aren't high matainace. You know , where you think if they don't call like 6 times a day or something you start calling them wondering why you haven't heard from them. They are loyal to their guy friends and you should be to yours. If he doesn't call you for a month let it go. Go on like it was nothing.  Don't let dating confuse you. It's just a stepping stone to a whole new world for you. Just go with the flow and don't let things like him not calling you get to you. If he doesn't call then he doesn't call. If he go's out with his friends don't jump to conclusions that he was with another girl or flirting. Could be he was but that's none of your business and if you start getting upset over it then he''ll surely feel trapped and he'll never call you. I know it's hard to like someone and then have to watch him flirt or even see him out with someone else but until he tells you himself he wants you to be the only one for him then his going to do just what he wants no matter what you think or feel.
146765
Yes my dear, I know what you mean. If you're scared, don't go. \n\nDoes he know you're a virgin? You didn't say how long you two have been dating. If you've dated him a long time and he knows you are a virgin and has been respectful, never questioning you or pressuring you, then it MIGHT be okay. I still think if you are afraid or it makes you uncomfortable, then you should do what feels right to you and not go. If you feel you might be pressured to have sex and you are not ready to, then do not go. \n\nI am not a virgin any more, but know how this feels. Let me share a story with you:\nI am a single woman (previouly married many years ago). I was dating a guy for a few months and I really liked him, but had not had sex with him. We kissed on our dates, and it was very hot, but kept it at that level, just kissing, no "heavy petting". He invited me on a ski trip for a week. We had not travelled together before, or even spent a weekend together, so I was a bit hesitant. (I should have paid attention to that feeling; that was my intuition.)  I really did not think he would pressure me. He had been very well mannered. I would not have gone otherwise. I knew spending that much time together would let us really get to know each other. We got along well and it would be fun, especially because we both like to ski.\n\nOn that trip, he started by wanting me to sleep in the same bed with him. I actually didn't have much choice, the room only had one bed. I should have known right there that a real gentleman would have made sure there were 2 beds or asked me if I was okay with the sleeping arrangements. I felt a little uneasy about it, because I was not ready to be so physically close to him. But I figured it was okay, and kept my gown on. Well, it just got worse each night. By the 4th night he was pissed off that he had "paid to take [me] on this trip and [I] wasn't being accomodating". He got more and more demanding. He flat out told me he "deserved" to have sex with me! He was a real jerk about it! Rather than a really great time, it became a degrading experience for me.  Needless to say, we stopped seeing each other after that. \n\nThat was years ago but I learned a lesson. For me: I would never go on a trip with a man unless we were crazy about each other,already in a commited relationship, and had already made love before that trip. I turned down several trips, but I did not want to be in that position ever again! Yuck!I did not go on a trip with a man again until all of my criteria were met, and what a difference! It was worth the wait.\n\nI commend you for being a virgin. it's a rare thing these days. If you are not ready to lose your virginity, don't!\n\nJust because a man pays for a trip, no woman "owes" a man sex in exchange. I have asked several men (yes, all kinds, including wealthy, well educated, well-mannered upper class men, like the man I had gone on that ill-fated trip with) about this and unfortunately many men seem to think that accepting the invitation of going on a trip is some unspoken code for "there will be vacation sex." They assume "the woman knows [he] wants sex on a trip." So don't go unless you want that too.\n\nYou do what feels right for YOU, not your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not pressure you. He will understand. If he doesn't, then break it off. You are special and need to be with someone who truly understands and appreciates you. Good luck!
533080
Anyone who really appreciated you and was looking for a long term serious possibility with you might consider telling his friends things like: how much fun you were, where he took you to dinner and/or movie, things that made him enjoy your company more than expected etc.  If he gave his buddies details of your intimacy the first night, he will probably trade you off soon, or his buddies will think you are fair game for them also since they already know what you might do for them also...RUN RUN RUN
252951
it sounds like you have what I call a "non-date" on your hands. This is super awkward, and you wont know what it is until the end of the night, hopefully! Basically, if he pays, tries to kiss you, or makes any move...you're in. If not, he is either shy as hell or just wants you as a friend. good luck. you sound like my life.
79623
He's not worth it if he does that, but maybe he still likes you, so there might be hope.  Tell your friends to buzz off next time because they don't need to try to be little devil cupids.
577142
We all loose our virginity eventually.  Whether its a good thing or not, really only depends on you.  If you felt it was right at the time then why bother with anyone else.     The only person to judge you , is you and no one else.   Now that you have lost your virginity,  just be careful.   And it does get better.   I just hope the guy likes you too and isn't just using you.   Take care.