So my ex-girlfriend is moving away, and wants to go out one last time. It has been a year since she brutally broke my heart. I am pretty over it, well kind of. IT pretty well screwed me up but she is moving away and I feel like this will help resolve things. Am I stupid?
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Dude I don,t think your stupid because that's what I Would do \nevery body else may think its stupid but you got to do what \nis best for you do you need closer or need something resolved if so be care full that's were we romantics get in trouble we hope to get something back and end up loosing more and feeling even worse ,good luck
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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that sucks!!  Ask him....find out if there were still feelings between them when she left town....if so, I'm sorry...
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yea its normal to feel this way..you just have to be careful not to get hurt..and its really hard...as far as taking her back..its a judgement call....do you think she'll do this again? do u still love her? think about and dont rush to a decision
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Wait, you might want to give her some time to get over her boyfriend first. It would be better to approach her once all of this mess has cleared up. When it does, simply come up to her and say "hey, I'd really love to catch up with you- did you want to go see a movie this Saturday night?" and take things from there. Be patient with her- it might take her a while to get over her previous relationship, so you just need to give her time and an open ear, so that she can talk to you about what she's going through. Good Luck!! :)
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OK...if she's moving out, then absence should make the heart grow fonder, right?\nIf you guys are always fighting, wehn she moves out, it should mellow down a bit, seeing as you are not in eachother's face all the time anymore.
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I agree with that saying... try it. It happened to me... I was the one that was left. It really hurt me, but she was  going through a lot and when she came back she told me she couldnt live without me. Give things some time and see what happens. Give her some space and give yourself space. You know, you dont have to date anyone just because you arent with her... you can be alone. I would be alone right now and just see what happens!
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I really know what you mean, and it is so hard. \nRemember that this is all from within you, thus you can fix it yourself too. \nYour broken heart will be whole again in the near future. \nTo speed this up you can do a few thing, and believe me they have helped me.\nDon't see the person if you can manage it at all, in a book they say about 2 months. I had to see my ex every day, and even make small talk with him on occasion. At the time I wanted to see him but looking back it has just made the whole process agonisingly harder. \n\nDon't wallow in self pity, go out, see your friends, excercise this will really help and when you see him in passing in the future you'll look great, but overall do this for yourself, because you must love you.\n\nIt always depends on you personnally, but I reckon that if you don't see him for a good amount of time, you will realise you can get along just fine by yourself. If you do see him or hear about how he is doing, this will make things ten times harder, so don't. \n\nHe missed out on you not the other way around, and you never do no what is around the corner, \n\nYou know you will eventually forget and move on\nI hope you don't suffer too much\ngood luck
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Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
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Breaking up is hard to do.I say that if /when she comes back to you . Don't give yourself to her so easily or she will try to leave you hanging when she feels like doing her own thing. I would keep a journal when you feel like calling her or see her out and want to talk. Some feelings are wasted on people that don't appreciate them. It takes a long time to get over someone you really care about There really isn't any straight answers. Except you gotta watch out for more than your heart. Remember your self-respect, your pride, and your future. Don't let a bad romance delay you from doing the things that you are interested in. Go on a trip- even if it's a short one. Go to the closest city, get a hotel, see the sights, see a concert -take a buddy - get your mind clear. Don't ever let anyone that hurts you see you when you're vulnerable, even if there's a chance things will work out. She has to earn her way back in to see your true emotions. \nKeep your head up  Stay busy  It will get better no matter what the out come is.
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No for the following reasons :-\n1) she's totally undecided about you & some about herself\n2) she wouldn't know what love really is at her age from what she said. If she does love you, she wouldn't be 'making out' with another guy. \n3) like you said, she's acting like she doesn't want to go out now.\n4) her age\n5) she said she's afraid to be attached. This will haunt her until she resolves her real issues and demons in her. She'll walk again cos of her phobia (yup). And she doesn't sound like she's anywhere near resolving it.\n\nShe sounds pretty screwed up. Think about what you really want - a chance with someone who's flitting from person to person (you're definitely going to get hurt). She's not showing any signs that she wants to go out with you or take a chance with you or is ready for anything long term (remember her phobia). Leave it as it is and move on.
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She can be bitter and hurt. You said that you went out with her right? well maybe she had true feelings for you and you broke her heart in a very harsh way. So, for her not to be the fool for everyone else she became this nasty Bi@tch. She is like that around you, because that is her cry for her and attention from you. I think that she wants you back.
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Well, my take on it is you all broke up for a reason, right? There's a reason the word "ex" is there. You probably have already decided what you're gonna do anyway, and I think you know best. Go with the wise voice whispering in the back of your mind.\n\n...and if you decide to go, lemme know how Fiji was...
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Well I am guessing you mean after you get back together.\n\nIf you are only broken up for a little while and are not serious with anyone else during the brake then usually no. Unless they specify that they want to "start over" in that case yes.\n\nIf you break up for a long while and find someone else and get serious with them then decide that you want to get back together with the other person... that is usually concidered starting over. So in that case you would change it.\n\nOnly change it after talk to the other person first. You don't want to get confused.
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Getting over it can be the toughest thing you'll ever have to do but trust me it will happen for you. In my experience getting as far away and having absolutely no contact with the person worked for me. Also try to get out and meet new girls, not necesarily to date but to hang out with, a companion. Sometimes a little positive girl attention is what will work to help you see how imporatant and special you are on your own. Keep smiling and dont change for anyone. In my opinion its her loss:)
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damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry