I have had my eardrums shattered daily as I work in a store. I have to smile indulgently when this happens but I am so tired of hearing the same thing when I am shopping. I was waiting at the post office in line the other day and a little girl maybe 4 yrs old was screaming and going on. I looked at her with a stern look on my face ,as I had a headache, and I think she was scared. She actually was dumbstruck for about 3 minutes. I felt like a heel but tell me, are the parents ever going to let the kids know that this behavior is anti-social and causes reasonably nice ladies to be a little unhappy waiting in line with you?
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Parents can try and teach their young children how to behave but because kids that young don't have the brain development to understand WHY they need to be quiet the only way to insure obedience would be to physically punish them and even that might not work. Children and their parents shouldn't be penalized because the learning experience is rocky sometimes. Try and be a little more patient, especially because some children have disabilities like Autism which are not immediately apparent to the layperson and which may cause behavior that would look like they were "being a brat". As the mother of an Autistic three year old I can tell you that the dirty looks when my son is having trouble do not make this disorder easier to live with. I spend a lot of time teaching my son how to behave in public but he is just a little boy. Give us stressed out parents a break, huh?
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When I read this for a minute I was trying to think if one of my friends was asking the question. Lol. This is my mom! I have two kids, and she has only watched them a handful of times, and that is when I ask, like I have a doctors appt. ect. This was EXTREMELY hurtful when I had kids, because she too spends more time with her nieces, which are older. Anyway, I finally talked with her about it and she just explained that younger kids aren't her strong point. When they get older they are easier to care for and won't make one so flustered about getting into things. I've just learned to deal with it. I would advise you're friend to talk to her mom about it, I wrote a long three page letter, that wasn't rude, it was humble and got alot of things out in the open, that was probably one of the hardest things I've had to do. But in the long run, things have been SO much smoother between us now. And she understands that it would be helpful for me to get out sometimes with my husband. Anyway, hope this helps. Remember she can't be defensive and rude about it, her mom is not obligated to watch them. But I've been there and done that. Good Luck!
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LOL, all the time but the doosy happened last year. I was waiting for my daughters bus to come. She was coming home from school. Anyways it was freezing outside and I was out there for an hour and a half. Of course I was freaking out but tried to keep calm. I live right at the bus stop but I live on the third floor . I did not want to leave the bus stop because where I live the bus driver will not let the child off without someone at the stop. So I stood there freaking out and not knowing what to do. I gave up and called her school in a bit of rage and said/asked, my daughters bus has not arrived yet, is there a problem with the bus? She said, what are you talking about? I freaked out and told her that I have been waiting for almost two hours and it has not come. She said are you taking meds? I was livid and said NO what's your f-ing problem. She yelled at me telling me that school was still in sesson and the kids have not been let out yet. Ok, now I felt small, said no meds and quietly hung up the phone. That's when I realized that I was on the wrong day, month for my daughter half day! Just think I had to go through that in a month, oh my, lol.
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I have seen someone, Our receptionist is a 30 years old girl who is not married and she told me that someone has made some spells on her so that she will still single. and that lady keeps telling me that she feels sometimes like something is forcing her to hurt herself.she cut her hands, her thighs...owch..that is one mental...is it really possession. about the movie..lots of spice and yoghurt..full of crap.
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Yes! Let it go.  They want you to react to their pissing and moaning. Who cares if they sigh, as long as they're doing what you've asked them to do? They're playing their role and the children. You should stay strong and continue be the parent.
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Why is it that the nice guys and gals get crapped on.  I work in a factory where the same kind of thing goes on all the time.  One person won't speak to you because you speak to someone they don't like and so on.  Sounds like you work with a few kindergarten mentality people.  The way I deal with this foolishness is to tell the "children" I speak to whomever I chose to and if you don't like it, too bad.  Being in my mid-40's, my selective hearing is very well developed so I tune out the trash talk and gossip. I also tell myself, I don't have to take these people home with me. Be glad yours is only a part time job, imagine 40 hours a week with such childish ignorant behavior.
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I am a stay at home mom with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. So yea i get you....sometimes i find myself getting mad, and when i do i just take a time out for my self, like go into my bedroom for a minute, or step out side really quik, even just take a deep breath i have found it very helpful...most people do not understand what stress it is to stay home all day and deal with 2 kids. Your not a bad parent, u just get stressed like everyone else...I will say to keep the yelling where your kids are not exposed to it, its not good for them to see or hear it.
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I tell them I was not expecting you! I am really not up to company right now. ____day would be much better. Could you come in the morning or afternoon?(smiling):)\n\nSomething along those lines. I don't like to fabricate stories and I am not afraid to hurt feelings as it is extremely rude to stop by any ones home unannounced.\n\nGuarantee it won't happen again.
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I personally had the same problem.  I finally had enough and stood up at Thanksgiving dinner.  It was kinda funny to see the looks on their faces.  I just said get over yourselves or we won't be coming around.  It was funny, they were stunned, then they were nice.  I think families like that like to gang up on the "outsider"  and they just never matured outside of the eighth grade.  They are bullies and they will stop if you confront them.
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I'm suprised that she apologized. I have gotten my head bitten off by these cellhogs. I think it is ridiculous that someone spends hours and hours just mindlessly yapping. I am not sure if they think they are that important or just want everyone else to think that they are. I think cellphones should be automatically deactivated when you walk into a store, restaurant, movie.  Is anything really THAT important and if it is, maybe they should be at home taking care of it and not wandering aimlessly forcing others to be unwillingly participants in their drama.
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I am an Aspie with two children with Asperger's.  I have to agree that there are a lot of children running around with very negative social skills.  I think that one of the big differences is that children with Asperger's are taught where NT children learn from the environment.  If the parents, teachers, other figures in the child's life are disrespectful then they will pick up on that.  Where I live children are dumped outside for the summer and do not go home until ten to twelve at night.  These children pick up on all the negative behaviors and have no structure or good role models.  My children are not allowed outside unsupervised.  If my children hit, hurt, or aggravate another child I am there to teach him it is wrong.  There is no one there to teach the child who usually started the situation.
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My mom yelled or made this noise & facial expression or just call names. My dad just had a tone in his voice that wasnt pleasant...!\n\nEspecially when they found out I was pregnant at 15.
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HORRIBLE!  Keep speaking up! Tell everyone who will listen...and even those who won't!  Don't worry about what they say about you. You are the one protecting your daughter and you have to do what you have to do for her sake.  Don't let your daughter be unsupervised, anywhere.  Make it a rule. You're the mother, you can do that.  You said she is 3, I don't know how well her vocabulary is developed to express her emotional upset.  I would say, continue her counseling!  If you can't afford private counseling, or you don't have insurance that will cover it, there are agencies that have clinics, free.  You might have to make a lot of phone calls, but they are out there.  \nBest of luck to you!  Keep trying!!!
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I just love this site. You have heard that before. \nThings are going well. The grandchildren, girl 3- two boys that will be 9 this month, came yesterday. It is a good thing people here love laughter; I would have been kicked out three years ago. The kids get along great. Never have seen children get along like these children. Never a dull moment.\nHow are you? Have you answered any great questions lately?  My cf was making me sleep off and on all night so I wasn't on at regular time.\nYes, I am depressed. Naw. This computer is dieing. Gonna give it to my best friend. Her husband can fight with it. The new one comes Thursday. \nOk, if you ever e-mail me - grannywinkie@yahoo.com, put yahoo answers on it. Somebody wanted may address to talk about something. Was it you? Will not open mail unless I know who it is from. \nHopefully, talk again\ngrannywinkie
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My 14 year old daughter, who I feel is a normal, well adjusted teenager sometimes has an attitude, is sometimes taken as rude, but is really not being so. She will say things like, "Gah Mom, you're just so off the chain, DUH!"  and while I know what she means, but some of my friends take her as rude. She's a straight A student, is on the Varsity tennis team, is on the Pom Squad, has gorgeous long blond hair that is dyed bright pinkish-purple, her navel is pierced, and she sometimes dyes her hair black and goes with the Goth look.  She is not allowed to have a boyfriend and I know where she is 24/7... when I call the land line she is supposed to be at, she is there... I don't go for checking on her with cell phones.  She gets pouty when she doesn't get her way, and whines and mopes, just like all kids do, but if I squirt her with a water bottle, she straightens up.  I think for the most part, teenagers are good kids, they are just taken on face value and are not really understood.   I was an 80s kid, so maybe I just see kids differently, I know what's under those grungy clothes.. just kids being kids.
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I work in a shop and parents should keep their children on a leash or out of the store if they will not control them. I am sick of hearing "don't do that or the lady will smack you", meaning me. Smack your own damn kids, don't make me out to be the monster here. And yes, if my kids needed a slap when they were in a shop when they were little, they got one. If I can do it, so can they.\nPeople have NO idea how to behave when they are shopping, they open boxes (usually tearing it) then buy the box behind because the one they opened is damaged, they pick stuff up then put it back in the wrong place ( so the next customer demands that £10 item for the £3 label on the shelf where they found it), and they treat the staff appallingly.\nParents and inconsiderate shoppers should pay for all breakages and damages, you are absolutely right. Also, bring back national service, but forget the army, 2 months in a shop on shop salary every couple of years would be enough to show people what it is really like for those of us who do this work rather than be on unemployment. The salary is rubbish, the hours are antisocial (who wants to work weekends?) and we don't deserve the abuse we take.
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I absolutely relate!  My daughter is two, and I still get a kick out of it when she toots in my hand (when I'm holding her).  Sometimes they're so loud that I swear an adult did it... until she starts to laugh.