I have been dating a man that is 10 years older than I.  I have been married and divorced.  I also have children.  As for him he has not done any of the above.  I need reassurance that a relationship of this sort can work.
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ok heres how its gonna go, u guys might work becuz, any guy who can get a chick 10 yrs yunger than him is gonna be happy, and you, you probably want the aspect of hes older he'll want to settle down n all that stuff, now the problem is this...................................... everyone else\n\n\n-one-love-\nLusTlesS
488264
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
89670
no, i wouldn't. if he makes you uncomfortable then you shouldn't continue being with him. and the biggest problem finding in guys is that they don't truly care about their children, what I mean is that if he doesn't care right-of- the-bat than you need to consider that he may not be the right guy for you, yes I know that a year and a half is a long time but you need to not look in the past but what is ahead in the future, your future and your children's. talk it over with him and if he doesn't listen to you than he is not your man. the bond of a relationship starts with communication. I hope I helped.     Trying to help,                                                            I(Caitlin)
23999
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
428351
It may just be a really close friendship, but I started dating my husband when we were 16 and we have never looked back. If it was meant to be, then it will be, dont try and rush it or anything, just be there for her and see what happens
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I think you should consider if the man will live long enough to finish raising your children and be there for you in your later years.  I was told by my parents to find someone within three year of my age and that did not work.
664609
Your ex-bf's problem has nothing to do with age. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". (I hate that cliche). I agree with phattphatt. This guy is unstable and needs to be kicked to the curb. If he keeps this crap up she will do the same and he will have lost you both. I'm not so sure what the age problem is, she is only a year younger. Your first statement made it sound like he a was dating a child and he was in his thirtys. Give him the boot and find yourself a real man.
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when i was 21 i was going out with a girl who was 16. we had a great relationship for almost 2 years and if i had a chance to do it all again i would. the only problem was that as she got older and matured we drifted apart but that can happen with any relationship no matter what age you are. give it a try but don't let him use his age and experience to get you to do anything you don't want to. good luck, hope all goes well
140030
When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
76884
Are you fairly young? If so, I think he most likely is trying to achieve longevity. He wants to stregnthen the friendship first, then will move on to a more intimate relationship. When you are young you go through many relationships, or bfs/gfs. I'm sure he realizes this & wants this relationship to last. So, he is trying to create a stable foundation for a successful & lasting relationship. My husband "loved" me since we were 15 yrs. old. I refused to be more than friends until the age of 18. I loved him, but I knew the likelyhood of it lasting forever at 15 yrs. old was not good. The result...we've been happily married for 8yrs. now! Good luck!!
71573
If it was like 40 years difference that probably wouldn't work. I don't see any problems with a 30 year old and a 20 year old. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship.
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What matters is what you feel...Age is not a factor as long as you both feel the same way and sure of each other feelings...Believe me I am dating someone older than me!!!
673291
I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
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Every relationship is different.  Age doesn't really play a factor (unless the guy is 95 and in a wheelchair and the girl is 20).
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Yes I think it does. Only because of the maturity thing. When I was 19 I dated a 32 year old that had two kids. He and I had a lot of fun together, but he wanted an "instant" step mom for his kids. I on the other hand wanted him to myself and didn't want to share him with the kids. A lot of people will tell you that age doesn't matter. But I disagree with that. The differences in age groups and wants/needs/maturity levels are to wide.
150282
I was in the same situation with my current boyfriend. We were best friends for five years and I was even married and divorced in that time. I finally just went after him and it worked out for me. Don't play games just be honest and ask.
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Well darling, while I always love to have a good time I must say my children come first. And I must say that I admire that fact that your children are very important to you too. Since our relationship is just starting out, I think it is best that we don't meet each other's kids. At least not just yet. That way, if it doesn't work out, (or I find you to be particularly creepy...vice versa), it alleviates the need for any explanations or awkward situations for either us or our children.\n\nIn the beginning, I need you to take it slow but not too slow. If you have a question or concern, don't be afraid to ask me, and I will be honest and upfront about my desires. Don't try to give me any illusions about who you are because I know about the man behind the curtain. And try not to be too controlling. I am in no hurry to jump into a strong, possessive and legally binding relationship. If that was what I wanted, I would have stayed with my Ex. I want to have fun, but I also want you to be a gentleman and treat me like a lady. Let's keep it light the first few dates, and if things go well, then we can gradually begin to include the kids. After that we can talk about expectations. For now, mutual respect is good enough for me...