Did you stay friends afterwards?
207199
So that's it huh!So this is how you want to tell me!!\nI'm devastated, and you still want to be friends!\neven after you just ripped my heart out! i need a minute.\n\nOK, if you are sure its over/i need another minute.\n\n25 years just down the tubes!!!what happened!!\nit must have been the paperboy,and his money huh!\nI hope your happy........dejection setting in.\nOK friends it is. but i need time/a broken JuJu
195692
"But we can still be friends" is a myth. Just stop all contact; it is kinder that way. if you happen to meet in a hallway, nod but don't smile. It's over. The sooner you both move on the sooner your hearts will heal.
238742
Yes i am\nHe is until now one of my really bests friends that really cares about me and enjoys to stay with me.\nNothing is like childhood friends.\nTrust me...
567389
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
251401
^Has it occured to you that if the wanted to stay in touch, they would have?
515096
Your not going to mess things up, find security. You said that you started out as friends.Just don't change at all. Don't you see that she is happy with you?
99250
I think you did the right thing.  Even though it took a while I can understand that at first you didn't want to jeopardize the friendship that you two had formed.  It is good that you finally told him how you feel because, well, life is about taking risks.  And you don't want to be harboring the thoughts about WHAT would have happened had you expressed your true feelings.  I hope you are feeling positively about your decision because you should be.  Stay Blessed.
99503
Yes, but trust me don't take it beyond friendship it can end in a disaster...Friendships are forever and are not worth the chance of ruining it if you are already this close with the person, just enjoy been friends.
599868
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
651960
Did I ever....had a friend that I wanted as more than a friend.  My friend moved out of state,  and we kept in touch my telephone for about two years.  Through a couple more moves on his part and some on mine,  we lost touch, for three yrs.  I connected with a  friend of his and found out he'd be in town,  so we made plans to see one another,  only to have a blizzard cancel plans,  he flew out of town the next morning.  When he got home,  he told me on the phone that he'd been in love with me for the last five years or more.  Time goes by,  we lose connection again,  but for FIVE years this time.  We've now been reconnected by phone and internet for about four or five years.  He begs me to move accross the country with him (even with my five kids, lol, he must have it bad, huh??lol).  I told him he should've said something while he lived here,  but he thinks I should've been the one to say it.  Just one of those things that makes ya wonder????What if????  The bad thing about missing the chance,  is that I know we would've been perfect for eachother.  The good thing is that I am in a happy marriage with five wonderful children.  Regretfully,  there's just no way to ever know,  leaving me with more "wonder" than I really care to have sometimes.
150282
I was in the same situation with my current boyfriend. We were best friends for five years and I was even married and divorced in that time. I finally just went after him and it worked out for me. Don't play games just be honest and ask.
396433
I actually ended a long friendship with my former best friend a few years ago because our personalities clashed.  He was constantly flirting and kissing girls even though he had a girl who was working her tail off making ends meet for the two of them.  One clear example was when I visited him from out of town with my then girlfriend, he took us to a bar and spent the entire time flirting with one of his co-workers.  He just left us sitting on a windowsill.  \n\nWe've reconciled, but part of me still remembers what he did to not only us, but to his girl. I've lost some trust with him.
382509
i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
80373
me and my best friend liked the same guy once...but when we figured it out, one of us backed off. Actually, my friend liked the same guy I did and he liked her, so I was the one who stepped back. She didnt act on it anyway because she knew it would hurt me. Its doing things like that that makes a friendship last.\nso yes, that has happened to me.
24906
I'm a guy and I don't stay "friends" with my exes.  As Sam Kinnison put it "Oh, friends, like some kind of emotional tampon, only without the sex".\nNot trying to be crude, ladies.  I'll be pleasant if I see them on the street, but I won't ask them for coffee so we can "catch up" on each other's lives.
570457
After my ex broke up with me, I was considering the possiblity of a friendship. A friend of mine asked me a question..."True or false, given the opportunity you would rather date him than just be friends" I answered "True".   He told me that you can only really be friends when you can answer that question "False" and actually mean it without lying to yourself. \n\nI now live by that and am happily in a friendship with an ex. IT CAN HAPPEN!
225677
I had similar experience too. Initially I had a hard time deciding whether it was due to some fault of mine or that whether I should have been more tolerant. I even felt that maybe I could go and explain to my friend why I had stopped talking with him altogether.\n\nBut then, I felt that it was for the best. Maybe I was wrong in some aspects, but it was wrong on his part too to not have been understanding and to have taken things for granted. A true friend would never put his/her friend in a spot or do/say something which would hurt his/her friend's feelings -atleast not intentionally- and since this was happening quite often, I felt it was not unintentional (and even if it was, then it meant that he was being too insensitive).\n\nRegardless, now I have no bad feelings about it. We should move on... there will always be new friends both for us and for our 'ex-friend'... I just wish now that he too has moved on and I wish him all the success and happiness in life- only that I cant be a part of it. Nothing to feel too bad about it, huh?