how can you forget someone u love dearly???\nI loved someone for about two years and did not dare to tell him but one day i got the chance to tell him. But he denied me, he told me that he has another girlfriend and he won"t spare me if his girlfriend came to know about this. \nHelp!!! But i know he lied to me, he does not have any girlfriend. can someone suggest me some advices.
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Yes, just start doing other things and realize that even though you have feelings for him, he obviously doesn't have them for you. He actually had to lie about having a girlfriend just so you would leave him alone.\nSo realize that you deserve someone who loves you back and cares about you back and that he is not the one. I know you think he is and that once he gets to know you, he will realize it, but sweetheart, that really isn't the case. You can't make someone care about you. As much as we like to think we can, we can't.\nSo hang out with friends, meet knew people and before you  know it, you will forget all about him. It won't happen overnight, but it will happen. It takes time.
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dude dont feel bad. the same exact fuckin thing happened to me recently. were you sooo in love to where you couldnt stop thinking about her and you would take a bullet so long as it meant that she lived?  you were not wrong in any way shape or form. the best thing you can do is to forget about her no matter how bad it hurts.  it will take a while but i believe that you can do it. if you keep thinking about her its just going to get worse. if you need more advice just e-mail me.  just tryin to help. peace man
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First of all you don't know if this is "unrequited" or not.  The best way to know if this is one sided or not is to contact him.  Do you know what university?  Do you have mutual friends that could get you in touch with him?  If you can get an address or phone number, send him a little note in the mail or call him.  If you get a return letter (and guys are horrible at letter writing) then you will know that you are still friends, of course depending on what he says.  You will definately hear it in his voice if you speak to him in person though.  Either way, if you get no response, you have to remember that it is wonderful to love someone else, but it is more important to love yourself first.  You could be missing out on some great opportunities, friendships and experiences.  If this guy is your first true love, you will never get over him.  A gal never forgets her first.....
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you cant really "make" someone forget their feelings for someone else, only time can do that.  The best thing you can do is be there for him and care about him.  In time you'll have your own space in his heart.
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well lets see some people are just cold hearted. And u have a beautiful heart and u will have someone some day becuz there is someone out there for everyone else . okay but u could never forget or completely  erase that would be neat but there is no such thing . But u can always remember . But try to move on and care for people who want to love u and be in ur life .
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Sorry to hear about your pain, but there is absolutely nothing that you can do about now except for learn your lesson and move on.  Now, perhaps when you find a special girl that you fall in love with again, you won't wait to let her know!!\n\nPlease, do NOT tell her now - it would do no good and only stress her out.  That's not fair to either of you.
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yes u have 2 move on i spent all of last year in that same situation and it doesnt workout,find another guy ur interested in.he probably isnt gonna leave his g/f 4 u and if he does then he would do that 2 u too.i pretty much had 2 erase him from my mind,it was hard but i did it and im fine now.(if u find a sweetie then go 4 him instead)
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Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
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Please help ?  Poor, pitiful Pearl.....  clearly you AREN'T "committed to a guy" (but what the heck, you tell him about your obsession with this other idiot and he doesn't break up with you, one has to wonder what the hell is wrong with HIM?)  You suffer from the "I-Can-Save-Him" Syndrome....all he needs is the love of a good woman!!  What a bunch of crapola.  You already know that this guy has fooled around with other women - thereby cheating on his girlfriend (he confessed to this) - and you have said that "every word that comes out of his mouth" is a lie.  Oh, right - but he said he loves you.   Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.  And so that is enough for you to debase yourself with such an idiot.  You are right - you DO pity him.  But you mistake that for love and, honey, it's not love.  It's not even a reasonable replication of love.  IT'S PITY!!!!!!  Leave him and his protestations and his fake declarations of love alone and pull yourself out of this hellhole of stupidity.  Leave him to some stupid girlfriend who also holds onto him (ever wonder why she continues to keep him in HER life ?  What do you suppose he is telling HER about how he loves?  How much pity do you think she is feeling for him these days ?)  Leave him to his shallow "I-Am-A-Victim-Have-Pity-On-Me-And-Love-Me" routine.  Have a little pride, girl - if not for you, then for the rest of us!!!
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You never forget. And you don't fall out of love. The trick is to keep your mind open to further possibilities. I imagine the hard part is that when you meet others, your first reaction is, "It's not her." No....its not her. But she just might have qualities that you need........but that you just don't even realize that yet. Let your heart open back up.......let your mind open up. Don't close it the minute you meet someone wonderful. Don't compare......enjoy instead. It will happen........you can hold me to that. :)
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In my opinion, you can't forget about your ex. You have to think very well what you want, so you don't hurt your actual boyfriend.
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Nothing abnormal about that.  Men may not want to admit it but traditionally we are slower to move on.  If your really loved her, you may always think about her but over time it will be less often and someone will fill the void.  For now don't worry about it and work on finding someone else, just don't be in such a hurry that you hook up with someone you realy don't care about or who doesn't care about you.
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Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
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if you think its best to forget him, then you need to get busy, and stay busy. the best way to get your mind off of something is to put your mind on something else. although i dont believe you will "forget." forgetting is something we rarely achieve.
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you never forget your first love.  that doesn't mean it would work now, she's different, you're different.  why wouldn't she talk to you? you're not stalking her are you?  if she isn't talking to you give it up you can't make her talk to you or anything else for that matter.
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Answering these questions is difficult because there is always more to it, such as how old are you, how many true loves have you had, things like that.  I was 18 and had the most wonderful boyfriend.  We did love eachother, however, as time went along, I realized that his love for me was a lot more than mine for him.  It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, but I knew in my heart that if love isn't pretty much equal, it's not fair to the other partner - so I "let him go".  I think of him alot, and I know he's doing well, so I'm happy for him.  As for what your boyfriend said about losing you and killing himself - that is scary.  However, coming from another relationship with a very controling man, they love to say things like that to keep us in our place.  You cannot be responsible for his actions, keep telling yourself that.  Ultimately we're all responsible for what we do and say - no matter how we try to place the blame on someone else for our actions.  Best of luck!  :)
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it sounds like this is really weighing on your mind.  i am a believer in honesty at all times but wouldnt want to loose a man i was really in love with.  You know your boy friend. think hard about what his reaction may be if you do decide to tell him. If you think he will forgive you maybe tell him?