I have a 14 year old that thinks she can run to friends house's all the time and always wants me to play taxi. If i say no it's a big arguement. I'm single parent HELP.
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I don't have children, but I remember doing similar things to my mother at that age. Try explaining to her why you don't want to or cant take her everywhere all the time. Explain to her how much gas cost for example and how much you normally have to spend on that. Teenagers understand more about money than most people think. Tell them exactly how many hours or the time frame that you had to work just to make the money for what a tank of gas cost. I think taking away privileges like phones and tv are a bit harsh for wanting a ride. Try working out a solution like the friends parents taking turns giving the rides. But if the chaos continues with the arguing tell her for every time that she argues with you for saying no that's one week of not visiting that friend. She might decide that once or twice a week is better than nothing at all.
609334
thats probably why she is so overprotective b/c u can't even do simple math. if u r 14 and he's 16 then that would make him 2 yrs older than you. besides you have plenty time for kissing and love. you are still a child so take your time and enjoy your childhood b/c once you lose it you can never get it back. mom stick to your guns b/c she is to young to be making adult decisions. i have a 14 yr old and she cant even talk to boys on the phone let alone kiss one so u better consider yourelf lucky. moms knows best thats what we are here for.
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HELLO,\nWELL I WOULD DO IT....AND I HAVE A 10 YEAR OLD BU NONE OF HER FRIENDS ARE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE THAT KIND OF DECISION ON THEIR OWN....MY PARENTS WOULD DO IT FOR ME.....THE THING YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IS HER GETTING PREGNANT AT A YOUNG AGE...BECAUSE SOONER OR LATER THEY WILL EXPLORE THEIR SEXUALITY.....I WOULD PERSONALY PUT HER ON SOME SORT OF PROTECTION FOR HER SELF....BUT IF HE WENT TO DFS THEN HE WOULD BE PUT OUT ON THE STREETS BY THE GOVERNNMENT IN A FEW MONTHS.....MY BEST FRIEND MARIED MY COUSIN AND THEY LIVED WITH US WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER....SO IT COULD ALL END HAPPILY......JUST WEIGH YOUR OPTIONS AND MAKE SURE HE AND SHE HAS A JOB TO HELP OUT IN HOUSE HOLD BILLS LIKE FOOD AND ELECTRIC THA SORT OF THING THEY HAVE TO LEARN RESPONSIBILIY AND THIS WOULD BE A GOOD START FOR THEM AND HAVE GUIDENCE WITH YOU THERE....GOOD LUCK IN WHAT YOU DESECIDE
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That's a tough one.  She's 13, so there's no way of saying you were doing something else that she'd believe.  You might have to bring her to some kind of family counseling place so she can let it all out.\n\nIn the meantime, please make sure your door is locked.\nHope your daughter gets over it soon.
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This morning with my 16-year-old daughter. She made the mistake of asking why she had to listen to me, anyway?\n\nI pointed out that since I pay for everything from the clothes on her back to the food that she eats to the $150 soccer cleats I just bought her that she HAD to have -- then she has to listen to me. \n\nI also pointed out that since I still have the receipt for those yet unworn cleats, I would have no problem bringing them back if she didn't smarten up and act like the mature human being she keeps telling me she is.\n\nShe decided to smarten up.
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Most of them, yes. I am 28 years old and it took me until I was 2? to really respect what my Mom said and to settle down. Just always be there for her and reassure your love for her. Let her know that you love her no matter what and that she can always come to you. Don't let her get away with too much though. She needs (and wants) rules. Lay down the law in a loving and caring way and maybe it won't take her until she's 2?. I needed that and most young girls need that.:)
107802
let her go. Obviously she thinks she is old enough to have a child and take care of  it. Maybe she'll think back on this when her 17 year old runs away.
300068
Depending on how old you are, you move out.  He's older and he's never going to change.  My father is the same age and is like this.  Our relationship got a lot better after I moved out.  He's very protective and critical of his little girl.  So I grant him that.  I'll give him the respect of listening to the important stuff and asking his advice on important stuff.  But if he busts me on stupid little things, I just say, yeah, yeah, yeah and ignore him.  Pick your battles and don't rise to the bait.  He's probably just trying to show his authority.  If you give him some authority in your life and simply let it roll of your shoulders on the stupid stuff, he'll get the hint and will appreciate the times you do give him control.  He's your father, and it's hard for father's to let their kids grow up.  He will get the hint though.  Eventually, children and parents reach a compromise.  Good luck!
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well you get some and you have some .we golden oldies are not all that bad,but i would never dare put a younger person down .you sound like a good person.who cared for your new car and the safety of your children.dont let an old biiddy get you down.maybe that same old lady "if you see her again"will need your help.in parking her old jalopy one day.from mikhal in israel.
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I am assuming here that your daughter is in her teens but even if she is older it is in everyone's hearts to show their parents that they are independent and capable of making decisions for themselves. Any efforts by you to tell them they are wrong can only drive them harder to prove they are right. I think it is time to let her ride this one through. No matter how much your heart aches to see her obviously making a mistake, you are going to have to bite your tongue and put some trust in the good things you have taught her. If you have done right by her and taught her well she will come to her senses...  Fighting her will only push her away.\nTough call I know, but again... have trust in the values you have taught her....
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Use logic and build an argument for your cause, kind of like a lawyer would. Don't let the fight get emotional from your end. Approach them rationally and ask if you can sit down and talk and then present your case. Explain that you think you are old enough to chose for yourself and give examples to prove it. \nSometimes it is hard for parents to let go a little. They want to protect their kids and keep them safe and it can be hard to let your kid make his or her own decisions and learn on their own. \nGood luck.
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I want my son to be himself -- I don't try to impose my tastes on him.  On the other hand, I want him to be respectful of others who may not share his tastes or interests.  As a parent, I believe it is my job to prepare this person I brought into the world to contribute to society and not be a burden of others.  It is hard - we all want our kids to be sweet and innocent forever - but that's not reality.  Plus I'm a single mom; so I was determined not to raise a Mamma's boy.\n\nI want him to appreciate the value of the hard work it takes to earn the money to purchase things.  Since he was 8, he has done yard work around the neighborhood to earn spending money to buy the things he wants.  He turned 14 in the spring and got his working papers and had his first real job over the summer.  He then got his own checking account and check/debit card.  He knows how to shop around for the best price, and save up for larger items.  He also knows that the logos and labels on objects don't necessarily make them better.  \n\nHe also is responsible for his own things - he has done his own laundry since he was 10.  He knows how to wash dishes, and he knows a little about cooking.  Even though he's always complained about me making him do this stuff over the years, he sees how his friends take their material things and their parents for granted, and he knows that when he goes off to college, he'll be able to take care of himself, and won't need to rely on me or some chick to take care of his basic needs.
518597
leave em alone! Im sure they're old enough to make their own decisions...what they do in their personal life has nothing to do with you....unless you're jealous or something
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I have a 7 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter...an all they do is fight!  LOL!  It drives me absolutely crazy some, no, everyday !  I have asked the pediatrition and a councelor at school and they both gave me the same answer.  They will when they are more "grown-up" meaning mature.  They are trying to figure out their importantance in their own right.  Where they fit into life and they are actually learning from the process.  I know that it is painful and terribly disturbing, but they will grow out of it.  They are learning to deal with conflicts, try to let them work things out and intervene only when necessary.  I, myself, have a hard time stopping myself from telling them to "Quit it", but I am getting better.  Give them some space, explain to them that there are rules to arguing...no name calling, no loud voices, they should remain calm, and talk through the situation.  Compromise is the name of the game.  Give it a try, they are preparing themselves to be adults.  If we as parents teach them that we all must argue some times in our lives, but that there is a proper way and an inappropriate way to receive the results we want, the world just might yet become a better place.  Here are some articles I found:\n\nhttp://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/fighting/fighting.html#anchor104643\n\n\nhttp://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/fairfigh.htm\n\nhttp://www.bartongoldsmith.com/articles/fightfair.htm\n\nI only quickly read through each one, so I'm not sure how they differ.  I searched "fighting fair", if they don't help.  Good luck, and I hope that all works out well for you!!   :)
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Wow, that's tough... and I haven't looked at your other ones yet.\n\nYou're right for not backing down.  If he wants to get the COOL one, he can GET the COOL one.... in absolutely no less than one year.  The fact that you agreed to a similar, age-appropriate toy should be enough to sate him, but it sounds like he's just being a butt.\nUnfortunately, the only thing I can tell you about situations like THE CARD, is that it's best to remind yourself that you're not the a$$hole, and if he wants to play these games, that's his choice.  I wish I could give you some communication tips, but without having seen it all, I can't really stick my nose in the middle of it, you know?  \nThe fact is, he is WRONG, and it really sounds like he needs to learn to see his faults and take some ownership.  Another bad thing about it is that all that is TOTALLY on him, and there is nothing that you can say or do to make him own up to THAT simple fact unless he is willing to see it HIMSELF.\nYou know what I think?  I say LET him get the card, and YOU go buy the 12-36mo Power Wheels.  That is, if you want to be a little vindictive.  If you'd like to appear MORE MATURE about it, you may opt for a couple REALLY COOL (electronic) educational toys.  I think I'd go that route for a 1yo, anyway.
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the best idea for a 14 year old boy and a 7 year old girl is to sleep over at different houses.  You're beginning to sound like a perv. Brand new account, no questions answered, all your questions are this same one.  You're obsessed and coming off as a sicko
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dad never had a be time for her? should be 9pm.\nlet her outside and play with neighbor kids.\ngo to grandparents house.\ndad never told her that those words: please.thank you, or excuse are  for polite children\ndad needs to be a PARENT!!!!! AND  NOT HER FRIEND\nher parents never taught her anything else.\ntime to get dad to get her interested in something she likes,\ntake her to the local ymca, and meet friends there.\n\nthey usually are interested in talking to the friends. play video games, or sports.\nmy 16yr loves video games,