I found out that 2 people in my life are dying of cancer, my job sucks this week, i am a single mom with 2 boys, I paid rent this week and now dont have any money for 2 weeks, seems like everything that bad that could happen (minus death)has happened..i been taking it out on everyone and I cant seem to fel any better aboutthings.  I have ALWAYS been a very strong person and now its like everythign is falling down around me and i dont feel like being strong anymore...any one got any ideas to help me feel better?? and please dont anser "sex" cuz that REALLY isnt what i want right now....thanks
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Everyone on this planet has days or weeks like what you are describing...that's life. First of all, ask yourself, is this the worst that's happened to me. The answer is probably no.....is this the worst that will happen to me, no way.I'm not super religious, I've always told myself, that God will not give me anything that I can't bear.In your situation, being a single Mom, you've taken care of all of your responsibilities for this period,you didn't say whether or not you and your babies had food,assuming you do,you're set. After the kids go to bed tonight,sit down and look at the positives,I think you've done swell,I can't see me raising two kids....plus for you......rent is paid....plus for you.I know you don't need sex. All in all, I'd say you've done a real good job.You sound like a strong person...that doesn't come and go,you're still that.That won't change,(I could like you )you'll take care of the next two weeks,because it's in you.We have a couple of sayings from Viet-Nam..Don't sweat the small s**t!..Look for the worst,hope for the best,f**k the rest!!This time will go by..you'll make it..you'll look back and laugh,then give yourself credit for staying strong.KEEP YOUR HEAD UP GIRL...YOU ARE AS STRONG AS YOU THINK YOU ARE!!!!
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Do you remember your wedding vows in sickness and in health? You know if my spouse wasnt taking care of me and showing the love and support I needed I might just pack my things and say ADIOS! I mean given you need help if your mother is there to help you then take what you can get. If she isnt being a wife or partner at all then what is the marriage about? Sounds like a house full of misery to me. Thats the last thing you need you need some love and support regardless of the mistakes youve made. If she cant trust you or get over the things that happened maybe you guys should get some help with your marriage. Otherwise if she cant get over it, I think she isnt going to change how she feels and maybe the marriage is over. I think if I was sick with cancer Id want positive things in my life and if someone is dragging me down Id either talk to them about it and work it out or like I said if that doesnt work and youve exhausted other options, stay with your mom. You need positive reinforcement right now to help you get through. Good luck.
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Erin, when I was your age, I thought about it a lot! Never actually tried it directly, but I did a lot of crazy things that could have killed me.\n\nI always felt like I was alone in the world. Like no one understood, everyone hated me, or worse that I didn't matter to anyone. I thought if I died, it wouldn't matter. I also felt like all my problems would be over. \n\nBut the fact is, life has problems. We were made to work through them. Without problems, we wouldn't grow. Did you know that a plant that grows without any wind pushing against it grows weak and spindly? (You should try that as a science experiment some time!) Just like a plant, we need tough times to make us stronger.\n\nThe best thing you can do is stop focusing on what's wrong and start focusing on what life will look like once you've gotten through whatever's wrong. Ask yourself, "How is this going to look to me when I'm 18? 25? 40?" Picture yourself through the problem and living just the way you want to live. Whenever your mind wanders to bad thoughts, go back to that picture. Write it down even.\n\nThen, TAKE ACTION!!! The best way to beat depression is to GET BUSY!!! \n\nExercise, help someone else, do some research on how to fix the mess you're in, just DO something. Lack of activity causes the mind to linger in places it ought not be. You have to engage your mind in something that excites you. \n\nAlso, start telling yourself something positive several times a day. Don't let bad thoughts run your mind. YOU take control of your mind! Positive thoughts will sound silly at first, but it doesn't matter. Your mind believes what you tell it. SERIOUSLY!!!  :-)\n\nYou are special and important to God and to this world. Whether you choose to believe that is up to you. You may be struggling with those around you right now. Maybe your parents or a boyfriend, but don't give up. Love yourself enough to get through it. You will be stronger for having survived!!!
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hey hun, its annabell. u kno im a cutter, but hun if ur feeling bad then dont. talk to sum1 else and forget watevr is wrong. it cant b so bad. anything can make u feel better if u let it, take a hot bath, read, scream, sing, listen to music. b happy. just dont run to the razorblade. not today ok? go get a taco and feel better, even do a little courtney dance and b happy.
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That is so sad, I feel for you. It is a traumatic experience. You will get through it but grieving is different for everyone. Stay strong and try your best to stay busy and let this run it's course.Bless you.
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Live with your choice.  That is what life is all about.  If you feel like you need additional time to kick yourself in the butt, do so.  Learn to express your regret, write it if you cannot speak to anyone about it.\nYou do not have to go through this alone.  Pay attention to those around you and you can find help.\nTime will pass.  This is not the end of the world, it just may seem that way now.
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You need to learn to look at things differently.  Take the strange oppotunity you've been given[life] and do something with it.  Don't let life walk all over you.  Take sometime to think.  As long as you need.  All you have to do is keep wakin' up in the morning and you will be alive.  And you WILL figure this out.  Never give up, fight and when you win the reward will be srength the likes of which you have never known.  Aren't you curious what it feels like to overcome such a serious illness.  What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.  True, very true.
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Hi! This is Sandra,  Im sorry you are having such a tough time  But I have to tell ya straight up and out STOP IT  can u imagine what u are going to turn into?  Now its only 70lbs think about the future, the way you feel when its time to get dressed for a function or heck just to go to the store  Large people have a hard time dressing not to mention all the health issues that are gonna appear  I believe if when your thinking about food you need to distract yourself  "PRAY" do something  nobody can do it for you  but I do know that there are many people that feel your pain  The only way I can lose weight is to starve my self and I dont recommend it, its very bad for your body  You have to kick that bad "HABIT"  to the curb "YOU" must change your ways or be a fatso  that is the cold hard truth  Get some friends or loved ones to promote you and make a commitment to yourself and your health   k  GOOD LUCK
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You grieve.  Grieving sucks, I'm there right now.  Eventually it will get better, you just have to give yourself time.
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hey i am the a s s here. I am trying my best to deal with it. I thought it would go away but it has not. I have noone to help me with this and I am at a loss. maybe the best idea is just death. I cannot live like this anymore. i cannot beleive I am this man. I realize this woman is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I appreciate her so much. I was just looking for some ideas on how to make it stop.
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oh, sweetie, I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time! Is there anyone you can talk to? If not, find a counselor or someone you can trust, because it sounds like you need a good shoulder to cry on. Sometimes, you just have to hold your head up and live for better days, because it feels like there is nothing to hold on to anymore. But things get better, and soon you may find new people and new dreams that are even better than before, as hard as that is to imagine now. Or maybe your old dreams aren't as broken as they seem. There have been times I have lived for nothing but HOPE that someday things will get better. And they DID!!! Don't give up. I hope you find some comfort and peace that you need.
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First, get help.  You should not be feeling so hopeless.  You might need medication to help.  Please tell a parent or someone to get you help.\n\nSecond, what about finding something to make your time useful.  Sometimes by helping others, we help ourselves even more.  Volunteering is a wonderful experience.  Is there a homeless shelter in your area?  If not you could go to a nursing home and play checkers with someone who doesnt' have visitors.  Go to a children's ward at a hospital and read to patients.  Contact the red cross in your area and ask them what things you could volunteer to do. \n\nThird, you do have a reason to be alive.  You might not know what it is right this moment, but you have many years ahead of you to find out what it is.  Good luck, please get help!
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I hear where your coming from.  You have cone to the point in life when you feel no longer like superwomen.  I felt the same way. now i'm 48 and new disease's is what my doctor has discovered. Lupas, diabetes and everything else is going wrong. I have depression too, I feel isolated.\nBut my feeling are like this, God is in Controll of my self being, even though I've had to slow myself down quite a bit.\nI have learned to seek out Nature, take pictures, paint\nshells and leave a few for other people to find on the beach. Especially the kids to find something pretty that they can take home. do things that give back to nature.\nYou will feel yourself at your very best. I wish you well, and let happiness shine thru you. Prayers to God will really help you to get ready! God Bless you Spiritually!
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It's still very soon...don't put too much pressure on yourself.\nWhen my mom dies, I expect to pretty much die as well...you're still alive, so you're not doing so badly. \nMy friend lost his mom a year ago, and it's still hitting him very hard...you can wait it out, talk to a therapist, maybe try an anti-depressant if you think it's too much to handle.
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You are not lost at all because you are here right now. I am truly sorry for the tragedies that you have suffered, on the bright side you are truly a survivor. And your life's journey is far from over.Develop the coping skills you already have and you will be just fine.Dont be afraid or feel guilty of being happy because for once you deserve it.God bless and good luck.I hope for many great things for you.
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I FEEL FOR YOU. I LOST MY MOM TO PANCREATIC CANCER. I TOO MISSED HER FINAL MOMENT ON THIS WORLD..IT'S NOT EASY.. BUT TALK TO PEOPLE DON'T HOLD ANYTHING IN. LET IT ALL OUT...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!
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It's was a really hard time to get through...i know about the suicide because i once had my own death planned...I am know stable and would love to help you...when you feel the way i've felt you feel like the whole world has turned agianst you and that no one cares or wants to understand what's going on with you...i can say that even though i was in a christian i felt like my own parents didn't want me...what got me through is the fact that there is one person worth living for...ME! if i took my own life  i wouldn't be only hurting myself i would start a chain reaction across the nation starting with my friends and their friends and so forth...so i choose to live my life for me and do what i want and fulfill my dreams! so tell your clients there are are people that care and there are people like them out here...i've been there done that...there's no point of ending your own life with the effects it will do in the whole sceem of things...