As prom season is upon high school students nationwide, I'm sure i'm not the only person in a prom time pickle.  I have a good female friend whose friendship i value. shes asked me to prom. despite her lack of good aesthetics, i appreciate her for the person she is.  shes told me she has a crush on me, so i dont want to give her the wrong idea by accepting her invitation and then not pursuing the romantic interests i am sure she has in mind (i dont want to lead her on). how should i handle this?
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You are right it wouldn't be fair to take her knowing what you now know. Tell her you are sorry but you just don't think of her 'like that' but she as has been such a good friend it is only fair to say it right out. \nOff course you could end up dateless then what will you do?
295585
Honestly, this situation sounds rhetorical in that her parents have enough control to not allow her to go to a prom but not enough control to prevent her from moving out while still in high school. In any case, my suggestion is to be her friend and let her know precisely how you feel about the situation but that you will still support her, right or wrong, as long as she is willing to accept ALL the consequences of her actions.
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Prom is a great thing to go to... Yes it is ok to be nervous everyone is going to be nervous.. Prom is almost one the biggest things you will ever do in your life... Make it a special night with your boyfriend... Just go with the flow it is ok to not know what is goin gto happen no one ever knows what they are going to be like...
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my suggestion, DONT PLAN AHEAD!!! if you plan ahead it just puts pressure. on you just go and do what you normally do and if you bump into her just say something that you would say to any other girl. like hey thats a neat shirt. or if she is into sports compliment something shes done well in sports. or whatever shes good at compliment her on it!!!!!!
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I'd avoid getting involved in this mess. If she likes you, let her figure out how to work it out. She sounds a little flaky to me. What happens when someone more interesting comes along once you two hook up? Is she going to want to be friends with him? See my point?
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Yes, when I was in high school, there was a girl who liked me.  She would call me "hot" all the time.  I found out she wanted to get with me, but I was too nervous and timid about what other people thought.  Plus, I didn't think I deserved her (low self esteem all throughout high school).  So, yes, I regret not getting with her.  I was unsure about my sexuality then and still am now. I often wonder what might have happened if I would have voyeured w/ her, sat under the stars w/ her, held her close.  But, we never did any of those things except in my mind.  But, she is married now and lives in another state.  Now, I, am in love with another friend of mine but don't plan on telling her b/c of fear of losing her/rejection.\n\nWhy do you ask? Have you rejected someone recently? Sometimes, the brain does know better than the heart.  My brain is always on though and never knows when to turn off! I just want my heart to open up every once in a while.
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be front about it, and get the ball rolling. if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet. of course, in your situation, mold it so that the envelopes follow her daily schedule.
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The important thing here is that this is all about you...........where does the object of your affections come into it other than that? You've given no info about her so there is no way of knowing if she might be attracted to you as another female or if you are confusing friendship with more because of what you seem to need from that friendship. If, for example, she is a married woman, or in a hetro relationship you could put the friendship at risk if you 'declare' your feelings. You don't mention ages...............you may have a 'crush' which may pass with time.
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You're getting together with her to study, which is fine, because that isn't really a date.  On the other hand, if you ask her to go to a school dance with you, or maybe a movie, oh no, she can't go out with you, because she's seeing somebody.\n\nIf you wait until she isn't seeing anybody, chances are, someone else is waiting for that too, and they'll beat you to the punch.\n\nYou've already got your foot in the door.  You just need to open it a little wider.  Maybe there's something you can do together, besides studying, that she would consider innocent enough.  I can't say what that would be.  That just depends on your interests.\n\nHere's an idea.  Approach her in the hallway, hand her a rose, and ask, "Would you mind holding this for me?"  As soon as she takes it, just walk away.\n\nAny of this stuff can work, but there is no guarantee.  It is possible that she just isn't interested in you, and never will be, but I think some of these ideas can work, if anything will.
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well on one hand you do have a point but think about it, if her bf is a junior and she's a freshman dont you think that they should go? because if they stay together for a real long time he will graduate and by the time she's a junior he wont be around to go with her to her ball so let her enjoy it now when she's with him she deserves to have fun too. and your friend will probably ask her to go with him if he's going because its his gf and I'm sure he would like to spend more time with her and he probably thinks that this is a romantic way for them to get closer and deeper in the relationship he's not gonna ask someone else to go with him if he has his gf and I'm sure he likes her enough to take her is he's going.
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It's pretty hard for someone to forget their first crush from high school.\n\nBut you are in with a really good chance. Realistically, he knows this other girl is not into him, and she is conveniently out of the picture.\n\nI would go after him, and show him there is a real woman right in front of him who is on the scene and ready to be with him. He would be an idiot to choose a dream over that.
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Ask him. one last time, if he will go with you. If he says no; tell him that you are going to go with one of your male friends, and do just that! Then ask yourself whether or not he is the one for you (If he can not see how important the Prom is to you and put his own feelings aside to make you happy you may want to consider kicking him to the curb!
342854
Extremely weird, she wants to look into a relationship, but all the goodies go to your friend.  Sorry, need to next her.  You're friend can have her, no wait he has....
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i say go and ask her. prom doesn't always have to be some crazy romantic event. i went with my bf but before he was my bf he was my best friend. we had a blast because we were friends first there wasn't pressure to "do things" or stupid stuff like that. i think if you go with ur best friend, ull have a great time!
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Sounds like she needs space.  Don't let that stop you from asking her to prom though.  If she says no or says she is unsure tell her you are going to ask someone else.  Then do it.  If she can't commit to even one date, she isn't that into you.
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Don't be nervous.  Find a way to ask her on the weekend.  See that's the problem, you waited too long. You have her number, so call her.  But asking her to the prom should be special.  Buy her roses.  Give her a speech of how special she is to you because she obviously is.  Don't wait!  Be aggressive, but don't make like you're trying to have a serious relationship because the prom is about learning about the person you're with.
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if he makes you wanna hurl, don't do it just because you missed your own prom. If you DO, then be up front and tell him that you're not interested in him romantically, but you would still like to go because you missed yours.\n\nBut if you just go and don't tell him that you're not interested romantically, that's not right. He obviously likes you, and especially because you've been to the movies already, this would be like a second date to him and he would feel encouraged that you like him. So don't string him along. Be honest with him.