I just dont want to be with him for  a really long time if it cant work, and then have one of us get hurt, (and just for justification, he doen't look that old.)
203458
Age isn't a barrier to love.  I would guess that a lot of the 'eeew' comments are  made by those who are in your age group.  I'm older than your boyfriend, and I can tell you that however old he is physically, he probably doesn't feel that old mentally.  I still feel about 34 but I'm in my fifties! (And I don't look that old, either!)\n\nHowever, you must be practical.  When you are 42 he will be 63.  When you are 63 he will be 84, and he may well be very elderly at that stage while you still have the energy to go dancing.  If the thought of caring for him at that stage doesn't put you off, then keep going, and disregard the funny looks and comments!
466544
The exact same way you told us.  Yeah it'll hurt him but would you rather a couple of hurt feelings go around or that he continues to make your life miserable.
12658
I would be honest with him. The longer it goes ther harder it will be. Only seeing you 1 or 2 times a year is kind of odd for someone who claims they care so much for you. Just be honest, who knows, you both might feel the same way, but are scared of what the other will say.
430465
if you like him it really doesn't matter what your friends thinks...besides, being older can be an advantage in a relation.\nand if you waited for three years, come on! you shouldn't give up just because some fuss\nif you leave him just because of the age, and because of your friends, it would be really silly and insensitive with your own feelings.\nIndepending on the age, you can be good together, and when your heart is broken and you feel alone, there's nothing your friends could do for you (nothing like being with the one you want!)\ngo for it.....care about your feelings....
591973
we just don't want you seeing us when we aren't at our full state of being whenever we get done.  Plus it takes a lil while for "recovery" too.  I wouldn't take it personal.  He should after he's done, carry on with you until you get done.
402468
I think he doesn't want a relationship right now.
282959
I don't believe that for a second.  No way you can stay with someone, put up with everything for 14 years and not having feelings.  He's just made/making a choice and the easy way out for him is to convince hisself he doesn't.  He said that for 2 reasons, one to hurt you and the other he's trying to convice hisself.  He'll figure out that he was wrong later, but it will be too late, if he was to want to fix it.  Sorry about your problems.
50397
Why dont you just tell him how your feeling? if that doesnt work then you have to do what you gotta do cause u cant just end it at the spur of the moment u have to be patient cause maybe it is true this time... i know that you'll regret it cause right now you dont even know what to do cause u dont wanna lose him but if worst comes to worst then u have to end it before you get hurt much worse... anywayz gluck and dont worry if it dont work out theres still more fishes in the sea ;]
439694
if you are truly fine with the way things are then dont open that can of worms. you will just get attached and then he will die and you will be hurt. then again, if you arent okay with it and are just telling yourself that then if you do nothing and he does die withought you making up it will hurt you. its a personal decision.
351211
You have to be willing to trust him, and if you can't, then maybe this relationship isn't right for you.
563556
Maybe it's the fact that I'm a little older.  But I feel that when a man has doubts about his feelings for me, then it's best that I leave him alone with his feelings.  I refuse to let a man keep me dangling and waiting.  Is it worth the wait, possibly?  But I can't wait forever and so I continue moving on with my life.  If he comes around then great, if not then I know it's not meant to be.
447217
Well if hes nice and you can trust him and hes not too old for you then you should
649690
That your relationship is not going to last.
662310
GIVE IT TIME... however, if he's not ready and you are, it may be time for you to re-evaluate your relationship.
398974
if it didnt work out before, unless you want it to, and he wants it to, what makes you think it will work now? unless you actually want to go back out with him tell him to leave you alone
93855
if u love him that much then why cant u stay with him and change back to yr old self?, dont ever change for anyone, be yourself.
222556
He wants you to fail more than he wants you back....you'll feel miserable and he will be grinning from ear to ear...and its not because you were good..it would be because you would be a bad gf...the tempation obviously wasn't the issue in your relationship with him...its not accepting to buy into such behavior that broke you guys up and he wants it to be no better for you in your current relationship....so its up to you...you want the same ole same ole, or do you want to take it to another level with your current boyfriend and have something better...your being tested....choose wisely for your future may depend on it.