I found pictures of girls butts in my boyfriends camera that he took...he says that he doesn't know them plus it happened a long time ago which doesn't really make much of a difference but ya'll tell me what you think i should do?  Doesn't sound like love to me
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The only butt he should be concerned about is yours. And if you are looking at a camera phone, dates do pop up, so if they are from the "dating stage" don't worry about it but if after that, you still shoudln't really be concerned with it...nothing is going to stop a man from looking and if ya'll are young...they are just like that...but you know if they are cheating and if it seems to be that serious..DROP HIM...but not over what you suspect...get evidence and convict....good luck!! ---been there, done that!!!
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if he initially lied to you there's a problem. put yourself in his shoes, would you have just told the truth or tried to lie? it sounds like there are some underlying issues anyway because even if he didn't have anything to hide he should've felt comfortable enough to come clean. for this reason, ditch him girlie! the only 2 reasons he can have is that either something was going on and he lied, or he wanted to not upset you in which case he should've felt comfortable enough about your relationship to tell you the truth - either way he's gotta go! good luck hun, you'll find someone better :o)
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Can u find out when he had taken the pics? if they r very recent ones, probably he had planned whatever he did with u. but if they r pics taken long back, then he is seriously in love with u, though he should not have kissed u.\n\nu can certainly continue to be friends with him, but u will have to put in extra efforts, for he will feel ashamed of himself. u will have to balance ur behaviour with him such that he does not feel u r in love with him (unless u really fall in love!), and he also feels that u have forgiven him.\n\nlast word, more than a decade old friendship should not be broken for one mistake.
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First off, you are allowing him to look through your stuff, big mistake!  Obviously he was gifted with the jealousy gene and you with the "let him do whatever he wants" gene.  So my first piece of advice, stop letting him do whatever he wants.  Trust is a two way street.  If he wants to see what you have in your junk, then he should be showing you what's in his.  However, it's very common for an unfaithful person to try and hide their guilt by trying to find something to blame it on with their signif.  So what should you do?  I'd dump him and get someone who's got self confidence, maybe it will help you get some too.
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He may not be "cheating" yet, but he is entertaining the thought. Don't buy the BS story. He likes looking at her pic. You can do one of three things:\n\n1) Mope around and nag at him about it, which will drive him right to her\n\n2) Tell him to get bent and move on with your life. He's come back....they always come back. Eventually.\n\n3) Send him a sexier, nastier pic than any she has sent. (Doesn't have to be you, just a lookalike) Then tell him he has a choice, when he chooses you, see #2.
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Sounds kinda fishy, i'd think he already did something with this chick and even more so if you said he said she was a slut and all this crap and now all of a sudden he is friends with her and hasn't told you when they went out ??  They go to lunch once in a while and he claimed she used to wear slutty outfits ?  Sounds like they have the flirting down and maybe something more.  Do some investigating, you can never be too sure, these women know how to get what they want and they.  If I were you I would talk to my husband about your insecurities and tell her he would not like it if it was the other way around and to pls quit the friendship with her, because believe me if it hasn't happened yet it is well on its way.
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Sounds suspicious to me.  Are you sure she's his ex?  How long have you been together?  Call her back and have a girl to girl talk.  She'll give you her side of the story.
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girl , wake up and smell the truth! he is hiding something from you , that is for sure! he either has another girlfriend or he has a secret life ;) but i think the girlfriend thing is more probable
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My boyfriend is still friends with the one long-term girlfriend he had before we got together. He still talks to the girls he had flings with throughout his early 20s. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't bother me occasionally. The important thing is that it's only occasionally. I trust him and I know he would never betray that trust.\n\nIf he still has feelings for them I'd be wary of getting too attached to this guy. He isn't bad, it just seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. Maybe those feelings will fade, maybe they won't. The important thing to remember is that he is entitled to those feelings and you can't force him to not have them.
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The fact that he has shown you a picture and told you about her is not worthy of concern.  That's just him sharing himself with you.\n\nHowever, what is concerning is his statement and the comparisons.  He obviously is looking for someone to fill her void...\n\nI wouldn't tell you to just throw it away.  What I will suggest is talk to him, tell him it's concerning.  If things don't change and you still notice weird comments/comparisons, I would move on.
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I think it is important to figure out why it is bothering you so much.  Sometimes it is hard to think about someone's past when we are worried about whether or not we can trust the person, or when we are worried about their feelings now, or when we feel a little insecure.  Maybe it is some of those things or none of them, but whatever it is, don't let the past take away from your happiness with him now.  He isn't with those girls anymore, right?  He's with you.  So enjoy it!
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I would be a little worried, but don't over-react. Ask him and this girl *separately* about how they know each other, and compare their stories. If they don't match up, then confront him about it, calmly, making sure that he knows you aren't upset, just a little concerned.
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Michelle, talk to him honestly about it!!!  Ask him if he thinks theres a kink or two in you'll relationship, if there is talk it out!!!  Also ask him about that myspace post b/c if he is talking about you he needs to tell you before he goes on myspace and everyone adn their mama knows about your business before you...tell him kindly not to do that naymore and really really sit down and have a talk with him!!!
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I think you might not want to because they might be the same and he just wants so booty..so i would check him out first....and i don't think you should worry about your ex because you caught him with another girl when you guys were still together!
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you should not take him seriously he is obviously still sexually intersted in his ex and your isecurity has led you to snoop into his his personal email account because you do not trust him relationships do not grow and flourish on mistrust and insecurity and if you aren't dating others you need to start and move on or stay where you are and continue playing sneaky games
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I see all those nude pictures of boyfriends!\n\nNow, don't you wish you hadn't asked me to hack your account?\n\n\nThat'll teach ya.
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It's not normal, but he is still grieving over the past relationship, and may still be sensitive about it.\nI think you should talk to him about the photo, and what he is carrying forward into your relationship from the old one.\nWhat does this pic remind him of?\nWhy does he need to have it with him?\nWhen can he let go of the pic?\n\nWait and see what he says, what he feels.\nHe may in some way be proving his faithfulness\nto himself by keeping the photo, by holding on to some vestige of emotion from his first marriage.\n\nBut now it is time for him to invest all his energy\nin his relationship with you, or he's not being fair to you and the effort you make.