wat should i do he don't want me ,he want us to be friendz but why do he lead me on alwayz he say that he want to trust me again that he love me still and dat he misses me but he don't want to get together so why is he leading me on telling me all these thingz im 17 and he is 16 we was in love so bad but i made mistake he still stood with me but after a while it wasn't working out for him if he don't want me and still loves me and misses me and want to trust me again then why aren't we going out . is he scared i was with him for 2 years but i don't know wat to do and why do he still want to keep in touch with me he gets mad if i talk to guys just as friendz and its been 3 monthz but he say he want to be friendz but why do he lead me on ova and ova we was each other first .
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hello!dont u worry age difference is not a problem he still loves you i think its good.after all you can tell your mom her opinion is always best and i think she understood  you s well s me.dont be upset if you have any problem share with me at:alina_alot2000@yahoo.com this is my id
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ummmmmmm......... that is a stupid reason why he wouldn't talk to you... there gotta be a different reason y hes not talkin to you.... was your friendship that valuable to you??\n\nif it wasn't then forget about him he probably thought you wanted to be more than just friends and if hes stupid to think that from a walk home then just forget about him \n\nBUT if yall friendship was valuable and you want to continue being friends then you need to sit down and talk to him.  Find out why hes not talkin to you and let him know that walk home was just a walk home and not to be misinterpreted as "I wanna be your girl" walk.  \n\nTHEN AGAIN... he probably did like you and was hoping thats what the walk meant.  If he stopped talkin to you cause he realized you don't wanna be his girl then you don't need him as afriend.  You shouldn't get wit him cause he want you.  He a little wimp anyway.  Little immature boy can't open up his mouth and tell you how he feels... forget him.... However, that's only if that's the case.  he needs to grow up\n\nTwo out of three says forget him..... but try to talk to him anyway... depending on wha you say you can make the situation lean more towards your arguement.  CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WISELY\n\nGood LUCK
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If he wont leave her, and claims to like you still, he either just wants to be friends with you, he has the delusional thoery he can date both you and her, and/or he wants you to be his cheating partner. Go on to someone else, but don't be closed to letting your new relationship progress.
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Sounds like the 'I don't want to go out with you,but I don't want you going out or showing any interest what-so-ever in any one else' syndrom.Don't let him stop you from having a good time when your out and don't let him stop you from talking or even fancing another guy.He didn't want to be with you,thats his loss and somebody else's gain.If you allow it he will come between any relationship you form,even if its just friendships.Let him carry on acting like a spoilt and sulky child,just don't let him spoil things for you and yes,I think you would be better of just having him as a friend but,in all honesty,would you want him as a friend if he acts like this.
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I would say that he is probably experiencing some issues in his current relationship...and because of your connection, he is going to find it easiest to "run" back to you.  I have heard of men continuing to do this for years and keeping their first love confused and suseptable to continuously getting hurt as they himhaw around and can't make up their minds where they really want to be.  The question to ask yourself is do you really need him?  What caused your relationship not to work out in the first place?  Are there going to be trust issues if he did come back?  Could whatever caused the relationship not to work happen again?\nIf he really loves you and did make a mistake and should be with you...it will happen.  But I say, tread lightly...the heart can only take so much.
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If u don't trust him, then don't get into any relationship.... You can agree to be friends and then slowly fade out....:-)
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He surely havs taken much place in your heart, because he was there with you when you were going through life's upheavals and downfalls. Time after time he helped you, be there with you. And you think the this guy is the one you need, because you know perfectly well, that he wants to help you whatever troubles that you will have.\n\nWhy he turned you down when you ask him out? My first impression on this issue is that he had set some boundaries between you two; avoid further commitments. May be he noticed that you now are well and able to live happily. There is no need for him to be close to you and support you.\n\nHe doesn't notice your feelings, yet even if he does, he still chooses to stay away from you. Because he sees that you do not need him in order to be strong. And he knows his role in this relationship; once you are well, he will back down or walk away.\n\nThat may explain why he doesn't talk to you; he fears if there is something more that you expected him to do or want him to commit. A friendship is really not a problem to him, I guess. But if you ask him to have stronger relationship with you. That, he cannot allow himself to do so.\n\nThere are limits that he set for himself in the first place, and he will not bridge those limits. He may fear that he can never be as caring as he used to be; and he may not have enough confidence to love you the way you want him to be.\n\nYou said it yourself; he is your first true love. That may be the very thing he fears of. Sorry, I cannot explain why. It will be best for him to answer it himself.\n\nThis is my perception on this issue; I hope that I'm not too sharp on you.\n\nGood Luck
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Hey,\n   He is a jerk and the reason he does'nt get it as he thinks he is to good to be true,just be strong and aggressive when you tell him that the next time and explore his weakness to make him see why you dont want him to be more then a friend to you.Best of luck
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Neither of you are ready for any contact between each other.\n\nYou have already answered your own question:\n\n"To tell you the truth, I don't want to be friends with you. You hurt me and I'm past that now. It's not that I hate you, it's just that I don't want to be around when you start dating again.  Please let us go."
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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.\n\nIf he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.\n\nStop making excuses for a man and his behavior.\n\nAllow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.\n\nStop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.\n\nSlower is better.\n\nNever live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.\n\nIf a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.\n\nDon't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.\n\nDon't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.\n\nThe only person you can control in a relationship is you.\n\nAvoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?\n\nAlways have your own set of friends separate from his.\n\nMaintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.\n\nIf something bothers you, speak up.\n\nNever let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.\n\nYou cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.\n\nDon't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.\n\nNever let a man define who you are.\n\nNever borrow someone else's man.\n\nOh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.\n\nA man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.\n\nAll men are NOT dogs.\n\nYou should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.\n\nYou need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship\n\nYou should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.\n\nDating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.\n\nMake him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.\n\nDon't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.\n\nKeep him in your radar but get to know others.
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You wrote that all you want is to be friends, but later state that you want to get back together with him.  It is best for both of you to leave him alone.  It is tough to move on, but just remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.  You're gonna be fine.
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He is doin that because he is scared of gettin hurt again maybe you should just take it slow give him some time. Tell him how you feel and let him know that you are sorry and you would stay friends with him until you can gain his trust and tell him you wont give up on him because you really love him. I know because i cheated on my boyfriend a long time ago and i told him how i felt and we are now together and we been happy together for a year now.
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i think he is playing around, he doesnt want a relationship with u...hes just making a fool out of u. hes taking u for granted...he can see u, chat with u , flirt around,,,wat more a guy wants. i think u should be strong n confident in taking the decision. tell him straight away that u need space and its over!!!!!! :)\ngood luck
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He does not like you and plus he is afraid of giving you a direct answer.\nFind someone else, because hanging after a guy will make you seem worthless. Show him what you are worth by sending him only one message like "Tell me why you are not talking to me or i will never  want to have to talk with you again. I am more worth than how you  treat me!!!".\nShould he not answer. Do not think about it twice, dump him and go on with your life!!! YOU ARE MORE WORTH than depending on what others might choose for you. \nWho is he that he should determine whether you are good enough to talk to or not. Such people are disgusting!
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It was really hard for me too. Once, I started to tell him, and i found he already knew but he didn't like me like that. He said we should be friends until he could sort out his feelings. That was two years ago. His name was domingo. I think he forgot to think it over but we are good friends now and he likes me and my best friend more than any of the other girls. He says they are annoying, and we talk about mature stuff he is interested in. He still hangs out with boys more than us, but hey, what can you expect from a 12 year old? My friend has no romantic interest in him, so in a few years, when we are both 16, i think i might ask him out. Oh yeah, your problem..... well, you get my point right? even if you can't work up the nerve now, it will be easier later. in your case, however, sooner might be bettter than later. i'm sorry if i am confusing you, love is very confusing.
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You have to take care of yourself first. I've been through it. I thought I was strong enough to watch him date and be with other women and still be be he's friend. I stood by him and listened to he's phone calls at 1:00am when nobody would talk to him thinking that he would come back and love me. Of course that never happened. You need to get on with your life. Because I guarantee he knows you will be there for him.And you need to let him know he can't use you
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Don't worry yourself another minute about the "rumor" or "him"!  If he doesn't believe you there is nothing you can say that is going to change his mind.\n\nObviously he doesn't want to be "friends" with you.  It's requires a certain amount of "maturity" to remain on friendly terms with an "ex".  He apparently, isn't able to handle it.\n\nMove on, don't look back and best of luck.