Is it better for a guy to be a strait out A hole, or is it better for a guy to put on a nice-guy act then find out later he was an A hole all along?\nIve dealt with a lot of guys who seem really sweet for a while but the longer I know them the more I find out that their really not so nice. For example I may catch them in lies, avoiding me, or cheating. So wouldnt it be better to be up front about being a dog?
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Yea I think that they should be real with you. I dont understand and this goes for both girls and guys...whats the point in pretending who you are. Its better to be yourself. If your a B*i*t*c*h or an A Hole then just be real about it no need to pretend the truth ALWAYS COMES OUT!
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hi.i'm 17,Asian,Christian & i'm still in college.ok.i have a good friend who's a guy.i met him recently in my new college & even though we've only known each other for a few months up2 now.we have so much fun & he wants to take the same career path as mine.\n\nthe qualities i mostly look for in a guy for a great friendship are the ability to have fun & to joke around,ability to carry on a great conversation,respects me-THOSE ARE A MUST FOR ME!has to be outgoing,adventurous & should care abt me too(as a good friend)like,calls me when i'm down to cheer me up & helps me out in a situation.& something else is that i love it if a guy protects me(not overly-protective),like in a brotherly sort of way.should be somewhat of a gentleman,like open doors,offers you his seat..oh,they shouldn't also mind my bugging them,hehe(this applies only to some girls,lik me,lol)\n-my best guy-friend is exactly like that!\n\nanyway,hope i covered everything-cheers! :)
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The truth. When was the last time you knew a guy that had a best freind for a girl and that girl wasn't hott. I mean come on the average guy isn't going to waste his time getting to know a girl and spending time with her if he isn't find her at least somewhat attractive. Now does that mean he would ever act on it. Well thats a dfferent question.
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He could be trying to say no in a nice way.  (Sorry!!!)  I had the same thing happen to me.  I asked a guy out and he said we would...sometime.  Next thing I know, he's "kinda got a girlfriend".\nGuys are jerks when they try to be nice.
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some of us girls like guys who are "bad boys", some like them rich and pretty, and so on and so on.I know I like guys who are kind and affectionate, but also will have a tough side(just not to me). So I am in the group of girls that like a mix of everything. Just find out about the girl and the past guys she has dated.Don't try to be like those guys, because odds are they broke up for a reason. Just find out why they aren't "together" anymore. If it was because he was to pushy and bossy, be sweet and let her make some of the decisions.
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Hmmm.  When will guys learn that relationships are built on honesty.  Lying about being gay to go shopping with you?  That's a first for me to hear.  However, he admitted the lie after you had already found out.  Then he admitted to it.  Being honest because you got busted is not sincerity.  Going shopping to watch a girl you like try on underwear!?  Try for someone better.  Someone who can honest from the get-go.
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I really hate questions like this that generalize all guys into stereotypes.  Just because you have dated the wrong type of guy, don't lump the rest of us in with him.  The only comment I see which may hold water is that guys aren't as emotional as girls, & I even disagree with that to an extent.  I believe men don't express their emotions as readily as women, & that is part of our nature, but we do still feel as deeply as women.  However, most of your questions could as easily be turned around & asked about girls, as many of us men have been put through similar situations by women.  Many of us have felt lead on by girls.  Many have felt girls started something & then changed their minds, whether it was sex, dating, or even a relationship.  A lot of us have wondered why girls don't care if they hurt us.  I think all of us have wanted to know at one time or another why women can't be open & honest with us about their desires, preferring to beat around the bush & making us guess what they are thinking to prove we really love them.  I'm guessing some guy recently hurt you, but it isn't fair to vent on all of us because you got hurt by one scumbag.  You deserve better than the way you were treated, & men in general deserve better than to be lumped together with those of us who happen to be jerks.  It's akin to racism, in that you are chastising everyone in the group for the actions of a few bad apples.  So, learn from the experience, see what it is that this guy did that hurt you, decide you deserve better & settle for no less, & look for one of us who will give you what you deserve, because good men are out here.  You just have to look in the right places.
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ATTRACTION.  The guys you know as friends are friends because they didn't make you "feel" attraction for them.  You may love them but it will never fill you with the excitement an unpredictable man does.\nI bet if you called any of these guys and asked them to come over they would drop everything and be by your side.  Try it!\nIs that what you want?  Just because a guy isn't "totally sweet" doesn't mean he is a mean hurtful jerk.\nWomen love a challenge as we men do.
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I think this works both ways.\n\nSome guys will always think a girl being nice to them is flirting with them.  They will try to pursue it and only get shot down.\n\nSome other guys (like me) always think girls are just being nice to them even when they are flirting or hitting on them.  We never try to pursue it and have to wait on the girl to come after us.\n\nI know guys that fall into the middle of course but most guys I know are one type or the other.  We really can not tell what you girls are doing most of the time, so we go to one extreme.
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That means this particular guy is a total loser. PLEASE make a better choice in guys. Use this guy as the example of a guy not to get involved with. A real man will be honest, respectful, caring, and considerate of your feelings.
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if there jerks at first, then there not gonna change. Get a good guy, a sweet one you just called friend.
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Why not being honest about this when you meet a man and tell him that you have a problem with this. If he knows about your problem then he may be understanding (if he is a good guy) and call YOU instead.\nI am talking by experience.
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Personally, I like a guy to come up to me first, I guess maybe that's because I'm a little shy myself. They say good guys finish last and I guess as the saying is also for girls that is why I am still single myself, but in reality although women may seem attracted to bad boys so to speak I think that all they really want at the end of the day is a nice good guy. Perhaps consider being more forward, I know it feels hard but women will respect you for that. If you're good looking and are really a nice guy then you don't need to worry about a thing, she'll come along soon enough.\nHey, if I had met you myself already I probably would have taken the need for you to ask that question straight out of your mind ;o)\nGood luck, relax and try to have fun out there. x
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I think it depends on how you portray your confidence.  A lot of times guys think they are just being confident, but to everyone else it seems like they're being cocky.  There's a fine line.
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I am totally on the same page!  I'm so tired of jerks.  Met a guy the other day, hot, seemed real nice.  He got my number, seemed real attentive.  Then he disappeared.  A girl was dancing like a stripper and he was all up in that!  Jerk.  \nI think the nice ones are too shy or already taken.
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welcome to the club! i know how you feel it sucks. all i can say is be more open. just because the guy isn't prince charming on a horse doesn't mean he is the wrong guy. a guy might mess up and make you wonder why but you have to remember that he is human and that no body is perfect...it is in human nature to make mistakes..so take a deep breath and forgive it will make things a lot easier. I promise.
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There are good and honest single guys out there....but sometimes they hide because "nice guys" always finish last so why put yourself out there. Take a look at my 360 page if you would like. Send me a msg. I know a couple good and nice guys.