MY PARENT WANT ME TO GET MARRIED TO BLACK LADY BUT I BELIVE LOVE CAN TAKE YOU ANYWHERE NOW WHATDO I DO THIS LADIES WANT TO BE SURE WHO WILL BE MY FUTURE WIFE
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umm why are you even asking other people? you should be ask urself "who do i love?" ur the one that have 2 live the rest of ur life with her
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dont listen of all of them are u going to run to this man tell him marry me as my parents are forcing me to get married?haha hes going to be a man dont do that.during this time dont be in touch with this guy tell ur parents i wont get married now go off get a new job move to a new place then date man u love if not find a nice guy get married settle down marriage should be based on love and marriage shouldnt be for any other reason then two people themselves wanting to spend their life together not parents.
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I sympathise with your situation, however as an American it's difficult for me to understand the whole cast thing.  Love is hard to find and would you rather be forced to marry someone who was made to marry you or someone you can't live without.  Chances are your parents will pass before you, and when they are gone and you are stuck with whomever they choose for you, what will you do??  Life is too short to be unhappy, choose your own love and life--if your parents have love in their hearts for you, they will come around. Luck to you.
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im white and my mom always told me that if i married a black man or had a mixed child that she would disown me and guess what my son is mixed adn she loves him to death so you really never no
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I think your mother is wrong to make you decide this based solely on racial differences. If this guy treats you good and is a respectable then your mother should put her bigotry aside.
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The most important thing to be concerned about is you and your soon to be wife. If your parents don't want to come I would leave it alone and move on to concentrating on your wedding. My husband and I have been married for 7 years and have been together for 12 years and one thing we have learned is that you can not base your marriage on what other people do or don't do, say or feel and whatever else. Bottom line is to keep communicate with each other and decide together what to do or don't do. If your parents have decided for whatever reason not to be a part of your new beginning, even though it may hurt, accept it and don't let it take away from what you and your soon to be wife are about to experience together.
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Your son is your #1 priority, despite ANY pressures you are getting from your family. You are a grown man and if you love this woman and you want to be a good father to your son, you stay with them.  It is NOT your family's choice as to what you do with your life.  It is also not your family's place to judge the woman in your life. Who do they think they are? GOD?
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Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
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This is something that all people in your case go through.  I have a boyfriend who has a white mother and a black father and he also had gone through the same thing during high school.  He told me the best way to go about it is to just make a joke out of it.  He use to call himself milk chocolate and every women loves milk chocolate.  You are neither black or white you are a product of I'm sure 2 very beautiful parents who made you out of love and for them there is nothing better then you.  So yo are perfect just the way you are.
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Your parents are only strict just now, because they love you so very much ! And what seems to be your mum's 'racist' attitude is only the outcome of your local society's responses towards all 'mixed' associations - due to several generations of living under an illusion of 'white supremacy' ! \nWait patiently until you can grow-up a wee-bit more, and become a legal 'adult', dear : Then, you can speak your own mind, and act as you wish - and NOBODY else can decide as to who you should associate with !\nYou will also be a bit more mature then, and be able to judge better - about what, or who, is really good for you. \n...Here's hoping and praying that the anti-Black fervour of your community would also have died a natural death, by then !
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They sound like selfish people.I know it hurts you,but you can't let it destroy your life.You are a worthwhile person and a reflection of the almighty.Don't try to have a relationship with them.Believe me they are going to pay for the way they treat you.You will find a good man get married and have a family of your own and you can give them all that love you have stored up.Best wishes
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Maybe your mom just isnt comfortable with you dating a black guy. She could possibly have issues that go deeper than you think. You should talk to her about it. Im black and im dating a white guy. My parents love him. There is an on-going stereotype that is felt about black men. If your b/f is truely a good guy you should try to point this out to your mother. Tell her that he may be black but he's not doing what a lot of other guys like him are. That should work.
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Hi Rachna....\n                      Well u have quite a geneniue problem but..there need to be certain decisions to be taken from mind and not heart...\n\n                      See dear..when u both have decided to marry then there is no question that no one could stop both of you..but at the same time..is it that you both are going to marry online and hen wont meet for another 2 yrs or till the boy gets matured?Well if the answer is yes then the problem is that in this case there would be no respect to your relations and infact even the guys parents can sue you to the court..in turn making your parents goodwill bit rough..and if the answer is no then that means u both would stay toghther..then in such conditions i wont think your partner would be matured enough to satisfy your inner needs...\n\n                               And let me also make you understand that only love cant take life going..its also daily needs ..for which money requires..and if u people plan to run away then ..u people may land in no mans land...\n\n                              The best option i feel is that u should carry relations with him till he gets his maturity age and is fully setteled...and i dont no why you are so eager to marry..is it that u dont have faith on him...?well i think u have the answer itself in you.\n\n                                TK.CR BYE BYE
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Dear Bride-to-be,\n\nWhen I was very young, we lived in Nigeria, West Africa because my father was a professor at Uniben (University of Benin City).  First thing to know is that Africa has many diverse cultures--each ethnic group and region is very different. What country is your future husband from? Was his family from a tribe in particular?  Have you visited his city/state?  I think it is important to know, see, feel, and experience Africa with all of your senses.  It is an amazing continent beyond any of the stereotypes that the west has created.  If he has a sister or female cousins, ask them to help you understand how the marriage ceremony is performed.
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machaan first propose to her.\nand then talk to their parents after u get settled in life.
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I AM A VERY YOUNG LADY WHO IS MARRYED TO A MAN WITH DOWN SYNDROME, WHO I HAD TO FIGHT TO BE WITH HIM BECASUE MY FAMILY THOUGHT THAT WE WOULD END UP GETTING HURT, BY GETTING MARRYED .SO ONE DAY I CALLED UP MY HUSBAND NOW BACK THEN AND TALKED TO HIS MOM AND I TOLD HER THAT I LOVE YOUR  SON AND THAT I WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH HIM, AND SHE SAID WHAT ANOUT YOUR PARENTS? I SAID" WHAT ABOUT MY PARENTS", I WOULD TELL THEM IN A COUNCELING MEETING I HAD. PEOPLE THOUGH I WAS GETTING MARRYED TO MY HUSBAND TO GET CLOSE TO HIS MOM AND I WAS ONLY MARRYING HIM BECASUE I LOVED HIM WITH ALL MY HEART AND MY SOUL. WE ARE NOW GOING TO BE MARRYED THIS AUGUEST FOR 12 YEARS. WE HAVE ALOT OF STUFF IN LIFE YET WE WANT TO HAVE ONE BABBY AND THEN TO US WOULD MAKE OUR FAMILY COMPLETE TO US. BOTH MY HUSBAND AND I LOVE TO BE AROUND CHILDREN AND THEY LOVE US ALSO.
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to a certain degree you can do something to earn her parents favor , you more than anyone would know what is it that they see on you that they don't like  and improve that\nBUT also unless her parents are right about you , and you are the type of person that no one would want for their daughters , i ask you this Are you sure you want to settle for someone whose love you depends on someones elses point of view  I mean she can be  really hot , and all but if the way she feels about you is not strong enough to want to fight to stay with you , is that what you want out of love ??? Dude when you love someone and you are love back by them  means that from all the people in the world  you are each others sole and unique choice , so don't give in your heart out to someone who is not willing to the same , IF She feels that you are something to passed the time but not something worth making part of her future , i would suggest that you start to shop around for someone better , because in a way she is doing the same , so if you eventually are going to be on the rebound , why not start doing it now , you might be losing time with your real soul mate ,wasted on someone that is waiting for someone better to come along