If you've been hurt before, whether by a boyfriend, girlfriend, friend or even sister, is it safer to shield yourself and never allow yourself to be taken by anyone? Is it okay to walk around with an attitude like " I dont care about anyone or what they think about me or if someone hurts me." Or should you take the chance and risk being hurt over and over again until you are nothing. Until nothing is left to shield. I do nt know why they say " Its the human thing to do" I know a cat with more compasion.
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It's better to experience life IMHO.  That includes pleasure and pain.
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I suggest doing what you want without the opinions or influences of other people getting in your way. "basically make up your own mind and be yourself". However in most cases sucides are more cowardly then courageous and i would not do it. But thats just my opinion. (somewhat of a brain twister huh?)
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You need to look at why you allow yourself to be treated that way.  Before you can have a healthy relationship with anyone you need to love yourself first.  I find it hard to believe that you truly love yourself if you would permit two different people to treat you with such disrespect.  Personally I think you should drop them both and concentrate on yourself for a while.
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Your safety is more important than things or dogs...get the hell out...and worry about your thing or your dog later..if family cna help cool or friends great if not find a shelter and there are those for abused women. and they have ways to help you get setarted with your life but the main thing is to get to where you are safe.
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Yep.  What is it with people that say "well, did you talk to him" or " no" or whatever.  i mean please, can't people see the big picture?  the guy was supportive cause he felt bad and guilty, not because he was genuinely concerned.  Someone who genuinely cares and is concerned makes sure that you lock your doors every night, that  you're okay every day.  I repeat, EVERY DAY.  Not selectively on weekends!
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Is this guy a friend of your brothers as how else would he be able to give you this advice.  I would think your brother would look out for your best interests and not want to see you hurt again, so he may just be right with his advice. But at the end of the day I wouldn't go there. If this guy wants you let him do all the work and prove himself to you. Your friends are probably the ones you turned to each time you have been hurt. The other question is how long will they continue to put up with seeing you being hurt.
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You have to be honest with yourself and trust yourself before others can trust you. Would you trust you if you were any of these people? Why? Whynot? Answer these questions to yourself. You could admit to these people that you do occasionally bend the truth, but as you said, not to intentionally hurt anyone. Let them know that deep down you are an honest, trustworthy person.
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I trust people to act in the way that they show me they do.  I learned I can't trust anyone to act the way I want them to.  But why should I be able to, they're not me and they have different goals, and different reasoning than I do.  But I can usually trust them to act in the ways that I have observed them acting in the past.   And I take a while to get to know someone before I decide what I think of them.\nSo I only trust myself in one respect, but I trust everyone in another.
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I have found in this forum, you'd better write what you mean or get tortured for it.  I agree with you that some Christians think that it is their duty to save everyone's soul because they consider themselves safe.  I think the world would be a much happier place for us all if people would stop trying to change others and focus on themselves.  God is the only true judge and if people would just let him do his work and stop interfering.  No harm, no foul you are human and obviously someone out there pushed your buttons. There will always be people that offer help/advice when you didn't ask for it.  Learn to ignore them and just walk away.
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Do you really need to care about his/her doubt? If someone doesn't trust you, save your time and walk away. (that's also want the Bible said... in case you wanna be religious).
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im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
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Forgiving is hard no doubt especially if the offense was devastating, but how is this really affecting YOU by rehashing the offense, the hurt? By playing it over and over in your mind it's like a deep wound that can heal, but if you keep scratching it you'll open up that scar and the wound will open up fresh again. It will never heal. Reason it out and determine if it does more harm than good to NOT forgive. Forget? Well that may never happen, but look at it this way, "once bitten twice shy"  is the old saying. If it happened once you're prepared to keep it from happening again. You'll see it coming.
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You know, I'm myself have done this a time or two now that you've made me think about it.  Its wrong and I should stop doing it. I just get so frusterated as people ignorance sometimes that it leaks out.  I'll try to be more aware of it.  Thank you for your question, its made me think about myself and how I can be a better person.  \n\n*hugs*
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No way, it isn't worth the risk.  Once a guy hits you he has crossed a line.  If you take him back you will just be telling him that it was ok for him to do that because you will eventually forgive him.
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only if you're made an agreement to be monogomous. otherwise yes, because you will only hurt yourself. just move on babe, you're much better off without them.
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Assumstions, the biggest mistakes we all could ever make. Assuming anything about anybody or any situation is all in our mind. \nIn this situation, deep inside us even if we accept it or no but the real reason about that worry is we want that same friend to worry about us, we want that friend to care about us the same way we care about her/him. Actually we worry or let us mind wander is only because we all want to be cared, to be remembered, to be missed, to be of a great value to our friends...\n(I dont know if I am able to express, may be its more confusing, lets think on it, may be it may lead us to a better understanding of relationships and our own inner self)
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Don't put yourself in situations you know aren't beneficial to you. In example: being around people whom you have to defend yourself to. If you have to be in those situations, find a focal point. Take deep breaths and not let them know they are getting to you. Think of someone you admire dearly and happy memories they bring you and whatever is going on wont phase you. It works.