i love my ex still u know but he has another i don't know wat to do he told me b4 that he cared and don't want to loose me but i don't believe him because he has agurl wat should i do i was talking to his friend as a friend and he got madd and called me a badd name i don't even like his friend like dat we was just typing as friendz and that it but if he don't want me back and has a gurl already then why do he still get madd and why don't he levae  me alone i wanna be with him i do but he has someone eles but wat do he want from me i don't know . what does dis look like and wat should i do we are still friend but wat is wrong with him?
211283
just tell him flat out he can't have both if he wants to be with you he has to break up with this other girl and if he really truely don't want to loose you he will leave her.  if he doesn't or begs for time to pick one then just leave him alone dont answer his calls and dont talk to him if you see him somewhere.  some people just have a hard time letting go of the past, goodluck to you.
290616
I understand that you’ve broken up with him, though I guess you can still be a friend...as in friend....especially when he needs help.\n\nPlace yourself in his shoes. He's just another person with emotions and currently is looking for your support and help. Do help him though clearly underline that your support will not go beyond what’s called for in a friendship.\n\nYou can also tell you current BF of your intentions just so that he doesn’t build any wrong notions in his mind about your relationship with your EX.\n\nTake care.
99262
Its time to leave him alone when you realize that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn't have a regard for you and your feelings. being a man, I can tell, he's just playing on you and your emotions.\n\nHe is now your EX - means that he is part of your past. Better move on and I am sure you will find someone who will give you decency and respect. if you'd like to be friends with him, not at this time. Once both of you are "settled", may be that's the time for you to consider being his friend (that is if you will still have time and energy to think even about it).
179284
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
476871
the slight possibility and the only now and again says something....he may want to get back with her, so just leave him to it...don't mean to sound bad when i say this but i think it's time to just move on...he has stated that he wants to be just mates with you...so respect him for being honest...you'll find someone else, but waiting around for him is a waste of time...he still has it for his ex
165739
u shouldn't have woven ur tangled mess in the first place. If he's ur guy friend now...then he probably still likes u. That's why he's saying that ur obsessed with him. u can look at it 2 ways.\n\n1) u can tell him to f*ck off, that u never want to see  him again because he's a total playah who can't get over himself...or\n\n2) U can totally go out with him...AGAIN!!! Then u can just get hurt again when he finds a girl who he thinks is prettier. \n\nU sound very confident in ur self and should DEFINETELY think of finding a new "guy friend" THe other dude just sounds like he's messing around with u. That ain't cool in my book.
463146
Sounds like you want to use the other guy to get back at your ex.\nWell here is what i think. You ex is going to think that you are crazy. He may think that you hooked up with the guy just so you could be close to him. Do what you think is best hun. I think that until things cool down you have to stay away from the ex. Even if you want him back you do not have to come off as looking desperate and crazy.
256709
look ..i'm in the same setuation as you r ...my ex said he not ready ..so we broke up. And i'm not the kind of girl who give up on everything and trying to get what i want but i just relise what is the point of tryting to get someone who doesn't want me. so i think i should be happy with single life and i don't need them to make me happy. But i love him so i give him what he want ..he want to be friends and i friends with him and he don't want me to hate him and angry ..so i don't and i just trying to be cooling off and i don't show him how much i need him and i told him i'm happy and give him his need but at the same time i'm making my self happy and enjoy my life without him...who know, i believe their is someone out there is waiting for you and me ...and i know i will be inlove again and so do u...but if he want to come back let him be and if he don't just set him free as he wish ...\n\nRemember if u trying to make ur self happy and if you happy life is good ...this is just a part of life ..let them go ...
105145
I would let it go if I were you. If he really cared about you he would have called you. If he hasn't called you because of your ex, then he isn't going to take this relationship any further whether you call him or not. Sorry, don't set yourself up to get hurt anymore.
112942
your point would be?  look you like him, don't play foolish games or he will just leave you b. its your friends lose. if he is a good guy, then go get him and don't worry about what your friend has to say.  they broke up for a reason. not your fault.  if the 2 of you are happy then you 2 should be together.
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
261910
Perhaps he realizes that he's losing his control over you and you are interested in someone else.  Follow your heart, was the reason for the break up valid?  Is it still valid?  Was it silly and stupid?  If any of those apply then he is where he needs to be, a ex.   Guys are funny, they think that they don't want you, and don't, till they see you with someone else, like your life stops because you was with them.
526369
duhhhhh he's keepin you around just in case. things might not be going as well as he wished with shit new girl. so he's gettin back with you as "friends".\n\non the other hand, he might be genuinely interested in a friendship.\n\npersonally, i think he's just tryin to keep those lines of communication open. maybe its time for you to move on and find a boyfriend so it doesn't matter what he wants.
586819
He's your ex- for a reason, right? And Mr. Boring is boring. Okay, I got it. Now, explain to me why there are only two men in the world??? You have an ex- and you're seeing a boring man (who *I* would have (---and did---) \ndump(ed) after the first interaction. You need someone who's good for you and not just someone who's "just there". And I wouldn't bare ANYTHING for anyone just to be with someone, if I caught your meaning (which I'm not sure whether I did or not).
70248
Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
255710
I say if he is hangin out with her like best of buddies, then something is going on.I talk to my ex but I don't hang out with him.TEll him how you feel, if he defends her then you don't need him because she will always be in the way.The only reason they should be atleast talking is if there is kids involved, otherwise there should not be any reason for them to be hanging around eachother.Good luck !!
501961
Unless you are absolutely insane, and want trouble, leave the ex alone.  Do not call him, do not see him.  You say he never actually cared about you, so why would you even consider talking to him.  Do not mess us a good thing!