He's claiming that he'll pay for a tummy tuck and a breast lift (I am slim but have three children) so I can be a stripper.  I don't want to be a stripper and certainly don't want to sleep with other men.  But he gets so angry and cruel when I tell him I only want to be with him.  What should I do?
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Oh my god,he gets angry that you want to be faithful well i'm sorry honey i'd be booting him out the door,you don't deserve to be treated like that,that is bad out of order....f*** him off....that's no way to treat the one you love
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Oh my goodness, don't you worry your head for one more moment about your stretch marks, good men, who are not shallow don't care about stuff like that.  I've never had trouble getting a man and my stomach and waist look horrible what with the stretch marks and old C-section scars.  Its not a biggie, if it is...dump him, why waste your time on someone who can't except you for the way you are.  Learn to love yourself, when you stand in front of the mirror stop looking at whats not right and start looking at what IS right.  How you view yourself is EXACTLY how other people will treat you.  We teach people how to treat us by the crap we take over and over again.  Don't settle.
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Lay it out, tell him you don't want to be with him. You deserve better doll, don't ever let a guy make you feel like you can't be a real woman. Just tell him straight out. You don't even need a reason.
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This one calls for tough love.\nJust because he gave everything up to move to Memphis to be with you doesn't mean free rent.  Tell him that it's okay to live with you but he has to pay his portion of the rent and living expenses.  It sounds like you really care for him and that you are a generous, loving, kind hearted person.  Don't let him take advantage of your sweet nature.  You're not being cheap or stingy.  If he's down on his luck finding a job, kick him out until he gets a job working at Mc Donalds flipping hamburgers.  \n\nIf you can find the courage to look further and get the big picture, your futures will be bright.
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Hi! Well first, are you sure you want to be a stripper? Look, a man that loves a girl will respect her, just because he loves her. If he wants you to strip for him, he just wants to have whatever he can out of you, all the "fun" in life. You don't even know if you are going to be with him afterwards, so save yourself for someone that appreciates you for who you are, not for what they can get out of you. Remember that all women are beatiful, and we don't have to surrender unto men that are pigs, and I'm not insulting your boyfriend, I'm just trying to make you realize what you are getting into. If you really want to be a stripper for him, watch out...remember God is watching....
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babe you are on the right track - you only deserve the best trust me mr right is out there for you and he cant wait to meet you so just tell this guy its just not working out the way you want it to be and that you wanna see other people cos you want something serious - plus he treats you like shit you said so he really doesnt deserve an explanation if you wanna hurt him just say that you want some fun in the sack hehehe but trust me the man of your dreams is comming and he will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated goodluck
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Sounds like he is frustrated and annoyed by your comments.  After all, you are rejecting his opinion, that you are sexy.  Can you remind yourself that HE thinks you are sexy, no matter what YOU think?  And perhaps you can approach a little at a time to the idea of getting naked, say by wearing sexy nightgowns or sexy sleepwear?\n\nIn any case, you have a serious problem in your marriage.  Don't ignore it, it will not go away but your husband might, if it becomes upsetting enough to him.  I suggest that you should seek out some marriage counseling, either through your medical insurance or even through your church.
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I am sorry.  I think many men set up a female on the side so they can do these dramatic walk-outs and start a brand new life without a regret.  Meanwhile, the woman is left with her guts blown out, all this self-doubt and second guessing about herself.  Look, he's a jerk.  He's way more than a jerk.  He planned his escape months before you were aware.  He's a worm and a coward.  He's not the man you give him credit for being.  He's a self-absorbed selfish bastard.\n\nTell yourself every day he's a selfish bastard.  Because he is one and you know it.  Join a gym, start exercising so you feel good about your body and the skin you are in right now.  Don't even think about meeting someone else right now, you aren't ready.  Join a support group or get therapy.  There isn't any shame in that.  This guy robbed you of your feeling of security by his cowardly actions.  You need to reclaim that for yourself.\n\nDon't let one selfish bastard make you a fat recluse!  Get mad, get healed, get on with it!\n\nYou can do it!
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back when i was a stripper/pornstar, my husband had a very hard time dealing with it. i tried to tell him over and over that it was JUST A JOB. to this day he still brings it up if we fight. on the other hand, my boyfriend does not mind one bit. he loves all the little tricks i learned in the trade. i try to keep them all happy, but what can i say, its all about ME.
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sounds like he doesn't want to pay child maintenence or anything - loser.  Sound like theoretically you area mistress but not really.
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it sounds to me like you want to try it. Sorry and not to go against the grain here, but anyone who says it's degrading to women is wrong. \nUm, guys go in clubs and pay women that have no intention of ever sleeping with them, money to do just about nothing but walk around naked or even partially naked, and then watch them walk away and go to someone else and also get paid to do exactly the same thing for the next guy.Who's the one being degraded there? \nAnyhoo, go do a wet t shirt contest, or a hot body, or bikini contest at a regular bar. If you can go do that, and are comfortable,more than likely, you can dance nude, topless,whatever.\n\nAs for your mum, obviously if you are planning on dancing at a nudie bar, you are at the age of consent. If you live relatively close to mom, tell mom, don't try to hide it, because more than likely, one of mom's friends or someone she knows will eventually see you and then not only were you dancing nude, you were lying about it. You are an adult and unless mom wants to pay your tuition or help you out financially, this is a good way to make money. Explain that you are safe, an adult who has made a decision and why you are doing it.\n\nIf she lives far away, just tell her you are waitressing, at a nightclub. It'll save you the argument.\n\nONE LAST THING\nI have seen many a college girl get into the lifestyle and have to choose between school and work. A LOT of them chose the work. Don't fall into that trap. If it starts to make your grades go down, find a job that won't give you the temptation to quit school. Dancing is sneaky like that-always remember it is a temporary means to an end, you cannot do it for the rest of your life. 35-40 year old (sometimes even 30 yr olds depending on thier upkeep) dancers are just, pathetic.
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It sounds to me that he has some serious immaturity issues.  My advice is to ignore him completely.  Don't glance in his direction and if you hear rumors about yourself, just say, "it's really sad that he has to pump himself up by spreading nasty rumors."
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tell his selfish azz that u r on strike, you get what u receive and if he does not want to give then hes not gonna receive. he is u man and its his duty to pleasure you and if he is not then you should start looking else where. good luck girl.
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Don't allow him to do this way. He is a crude man for what he did to you, but remember the saying we are only a doormat if we allow it. Don't be that for him anymore. Make him pay child support and go on about your life. It is hard but you can do it for the sake of your children..Nicky
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Ok, let me see if I have this.  This dude has said flat out he doesn't want a relationship with you.  And he is with somebody else.  But he will still bone you?  What don't you get?  The guy wants you as his side salad, girl, nothing more.  Why do you want someone who is going to cheat in a relationship anyway?  You have self esteem issues if you are thinking of changing your appearance for this guy.  Wake up and get a real man and not this loser.  If you do have one more night with him, make sure you bring chunky peanut butter and a dog.  Dim the lights.  Put the peanut butter on his balls and tell him it's whipped cream.  Then let your dog take a bite out of crime, girl.
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He thinks of u as his, like ur his property, u have to make up ur mind do u what him back or do u what to move on with your life. I'd say girl ur much better than just being a baby momma. I don't know you but ur God's creations so he has plans for you. He has no right to tell you what u can or cannot do, just like u can't tell him what to do. I say he wants you and he wants his freedom, that's nice and all but it's not ur problem. I say do what makes you feel happy, and whatever you do, do it for you and your baby and he'll be eating out of your hand. When you feel happy and confident it shows and men love confident women. BE INDEPENDENT
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I guess you have already tried talking to him. What does he think is "ridiculous", you wanting him to help? I can only tell you what I would do. I would sit him down and tell him " As long as we BOTH have to work two jobs, I am not going to be the only one taking care of everything around the house. If you want a housewife, then you need to support one. Otherwise, we share the chores just like we share the bills". If he cannot see the logic in that, I would be considering leaving. There is no way I would allow myself to be treated that way.