I'm tired of playing with myself and I don't really want to cheat unless that the only other choise.  I'm highly sexual and my man is falling short.  Does anyone have any GOOD suggestions.
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Listen,my man does me the same way,but I don't play with myself,I'm just a Bitch for the rest of the evening..This maybe hard for you,but it works for me..Next time he wants it turn him down a few times and show him how it feels then maybe he'll give it up to you more when you want it..Don't cheat on him,that's the worst thing you could do..Since your into playing with yourself just get your own little toy and use it..Or just quit playing with yourself and be the biggest bitch to him and let him know how you feel..Tell him hay your not giving me want I want and need so I'm about to cheat on you..Life ain't nothing without making love..Just give turning him down a try without playing with yourself and see how it will make him feel..If you do that I hope it works..
44184
There are a few passive acts you can preform on your partner to satisfy him without indulging yourself. I mean if you really love him.
567480
I think you should go out and buy a sexy nighty and jump in front of the television so he won't want to watch it so much...That's just one thing, for starters. You need to be spontaneous and go out and do things. Find a hobby to do you both enjoy! Go out with other couples! As far as sex goes, do things with him you don't normally do, you know? But things you feel comfortable doing. Communication is the big thing. Find out from him what he wants, too. Good luck and have some fun!
90280
You've only hit the tip of the iceberg.  Try playing strip checkers and chess.  Write out a wonderful sexual fantasy on a slip of paper and have your lover do the same.  Fold the papers, and keep them under wraps for now.  Play the game, and whoever wins gets his or her fantasy played out first.  Whoever loses, gets his or her fantasy played out second.  It's a win-win love making experience.  \n\nAlso try putting whipped cream underwear on each other and licking it off.\n\nStart with A of the alphabet, and kiss a body part of your lover that begins with A.  Then have your lover kiss a body part of yours that begins with B, and continue down the alphabet.  See if you get all the way through.  If you can't think of anything starting with the letter, make something silly up!  It's a new kind of spelling bee to do with your honey!\n\nAlso, use blindfolds and make love without looking at each other--just touch.  Use roses and feathers, and other sensual items to enhance the experience.]\n\nWhen you make love, focus your orgasmic energy on a specific goal you both share, or a dream you would like to come true.  Then you are practicing sex magic!  It's a lot hotter than regular sex.\n\nJust keep the fun, silliness, love, and creativity in whatever you do!
232107
Seriously, take a break from sex, for now. Get a book on massage, or something, and work on being intimate without the sex. But don't back him into a corner because he's trying to be honest with you, without hurting your feelings. (Like all men, he's obviously very bad at it.) Don't take it personally, either. I used to take it very personally because my ex didn't want sex, but when I look back, I realize we had a great sex life, and he probably was just tired!
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you should, most definately break it off with that jerk, don't mind me to call him that. you're not suppose to let guys to degrade your self-worth nor to let them take advantage of you. go find someone who is willing to appreciate you and fulfill your needs, not just using you for his own sexual pleasure.
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Well... tell you what, if the gf's are not a good sub, then go out to a toy store and get a best friend, there are alot of toys that will do the trick if you miss him sexually.   If you are just missing his company then consider getting a puppy.  They really work!  I am a single mom of two and my puppy takes my mind off things, feeling lonely and so on.\n\n If your hubby is working hard to provide you and your future family with a comfortable life, be grateful!   He is not spending his time out there having an affair or partying with  his buddies and getting drunk and mistreating you.  He needs for you to be supportive.  I know it is hard sometimes, in some situations not to be selfish, we all want to be 100% happy but usually this spells out sacrifice.  Enjoy this "free time" on your own, once you start having children trust me...your whole world is going to be turned around in a 360.  Get a toy!  Get a dog!  Good luck in your marriage.  :)
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How about a practical arrangement. \n\nYou don't want sex all the time.\nHe does. \nHe's rougher than you like.\nNeither of you (I'm guessing) want to break up your family.\n\nBasically, you are asking him to give up something he enjoys. Sex. Clearly you love him, but can't take the sex. Have you considered getting him a girlfriend?\n\nYou should go to the bookstore and pick up a book about polyamory called "The Ethical Slut" (I can't believe the censored the word slut! Let's see how creative you are. The book is called "The Ethical 5lut"). \n\nNow, the option may not be one you want to consider depending on your social views, but it is an option.\n\nAs unconventional as it sounds, there are two immediate benefits. You get a break now and then, and he can still satisfy his physical craving for sex. \n\nIf you are concerned that he may fall in love with someone, which IS a distinct possibility, then perhaps you should ferret out some local swingers clubs. They are usually filled married couples who enjoy extra marital sex as a purely physical activity.\n\nThis option will net you a few more rewards. You will also be able to enjoy sex with others who are likely to be more gentle, and you will have more assurances that his emotional attachment to you will be secure. Finally, the chances are that he will be hugely popular among the ladies, which will earn you more down time.\n\nFood for thought.\n-SD-
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Sounds like you've done everything I would have suggested. I guess just keep talking and try to figure some things to make things interesting. Maybe try creating a different type of relationship for awhile. Try not having sex for a year or so and engage in activities that may remind both of you of sex but are in no way related. Go talk to a sex therapist. Sorry, that's the best I got
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If he isn't satisfying you sexually then find someone who can. Trust me it will only get less and less. Try being around him nude more. Or maybe try something a bit more fun, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0962962813?v=glance\n\nIf you can't drum up his enthusiasim with seductions like the ones in 101 nights then maybe talk sex more often. Try keeping sex talk just talk, no pressure to preform. Talk about fantasies, ask him to tell you his fantasies that he thinks you might be offended by. Communication is the number one key to sexually satisfying relationship. If you can't discuss topics like preformance anxiety, jealousy, fantasy, or sexual expectations. then you will never have as healty a sex life as you can. Maybe suggest going to a strip club together
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That's impossible. The best you can hope for is you do not find out about his picking up some action.  Don't forget men like their play time and if his juices get to flowing to some female he'll be going.  Realize that it is natural but if you really have a strong tie to each other He will keep the encounters limited to getting relief.  You may also get horny while he is away and even if you satisfy yourself that can be considered cheating so do not ask more than you can tolerate.  Grow up and hopefully the two of you will stay together even with a little side action while apart.  Safe sex does not cause problems it is the committed stuff that messes things up.
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I'm in the same boat as you... just use this time to re-center yourself.  Go out and just sit and have a beer by yourself.  Just sit and think.  A similar soul might approach you and share in your misery for a while.  Eventually, it will pass.  If you want a shortcut (which I'm not recommending); playing on a girl in a weak situation will make you feel powerful if a little guilty.  I am NOT advocating date rape of ANY SORT!  However, alot of guys are too nice for their own good and don't realize that a 24 year old woman is completely in control of her situation.  Smooth talking and being a player does not necessarily mean you are taking advantage of someone.  Girls like sex just as much as guys, and almost every girl worth her salt has some douchebag at home that they are on the rocks with.  In other words, go hook up with someone hot, by any means necessary short of physical force or breaking up a marriage.  It will boost your confidence in the short run, but don't forget the "re-centering your self" part.  It's the only way you will find true happiness.
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Are you more interested in becoming a sex machine or a lover?  If you want wham ban thank you mame, keep doing what your doing.  If you want hours of intensely satisfying sex, get physically healthy, meditate to relax your stressed mind and learn how to please your partner.  That's a good starting point, from there it's all downhill.
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Glad you can admit you're no good to him or any other good guys out there.  Break up with him, coz you're obviously not in love with him and you don't truly appreciate him, and it'll be better for him in the long run.  As for you,  I 'm not sure if you could ever find true love only because you may cheat on the next guy you're with.  I can only assume that you need a lot of attention, and ONE guy can't fully satisfy you.  Do him a favor, leave him...he doesn't deserve you.  Give him a chance to find someone who will love him and appreciate him.  If you're having seconds thoughts about being a whore, then hopefully it will be the last time he will forgive you.  For him not to move on from all this suggests that he has some sort of low self-esteem, AND you sleeping around just adds more to that.  Stop making him miserable, he deserves more than you.  Stop making yourself miserable by "feeling guilt".  If you truly feel this, you wouldn't have cheated on him again and again and again.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Good luck on finding the right guy, coz the next guy may not be as a doormat like this current one.  OR the next one will cheat on you too.  So take your pick, karma's a b**ch.  And as you've heard it, what goes around, comes around.  Also, I hope you didn't transfer any STDs to your so-called boyfriend(don't tell me he's just a friend).  You only have yourself to blame.
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Sit back on your heels and rock back and forth.  YOu can get deeper that way.  Also small circles feels nice too.\nTry a bunch of different positions to see what you like best.  Your man won't mind all the extra attention and fooling that he gets
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Just because you don't have sex everyday doesn't mean that theres something wrong with your marriage. If you want the physical enjoyment to last longer, why not start with some forplay. And if he's too tired to do the work then ask him if you could ride him. Also there are books out there that you could look at. And theres plenty of toys and creams out there too. I even seen a swing built just for sex.
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well, that all depends... but here are a few that work well for me.\n\ngirl on top, lean up a little so your clit rubs against his skin and grind into him (just like manual stimulation!)\n\ndoggie style and have him rub your clit, or you rub it, or use a vibrator.\n\ngirl on top.. face his feet and squat. lean forward enough that your clit rubs against his balls.\n\nlay down on your stomach. have him come in from behind like doggie style, but laying on top of you. this way, you can grind your clit into the bed/pillow/a vibrator\n\ndon't be afraid to experiment with positions or ask him to rub your clit.. better yet.. just put his hand there.. don't be afraid to touch yourself.. and don't be afraid to use toys.  when you find things/positions that help you get off... make sure you let your man know!