I have an opinion -- but I wanted to cite some reasoning and possibly additional sources to share with my friend who is heartbroken about her broken engagement and doesn't know what to do about the ring.
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I think she is having a lot of emotions about the ring. It was a symbol of love and she is mourning the loss of the relationship and the promise that was made. Every time she looked at it she was reminded of the love that they had created together and the hope of their upcoming future together. \nI'm surprised no one said....sell it and get something eles!\nA woman who was truly in love with the man could never sell the ring because of what it stood for. She would never want that ring to be on another finger representing the same things for another couple.\nIf it is kept, what will become of it. It will not ever be used again.........and will only be a reminder of the heartbreak that she had to endure.\nI would say, even though it will be very painful to part with it, she should send it back to him. I personally, would send a heartfelt letter explaining how hard it was to do that because the ring was so symbolic of all the love that they had shared together, etc.
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As he is your friend that you say that you are so close to, i do not think that anyone else will be able to tell you what you should give.  The only advice i can give is that, anyone can buy jewelry, etc but it is the silly things that count and would mean more.  You know this man, it would have to be some thing personal that you shard together.  Also you say your getting married, I hope you are not saying goodbye to your Friend? mar rage does not mean you have to get rid of your Friends male or female.
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So, you're questions a couple of weeks ago said you didn't know who to choose, a girl who was messing you around, or a boy who you used to be friends with. Now you are talking about marraige? Are you sure? Hoping it's just a bracelet as a present, and you'll think a lot more before making any decisions that affect your future :)
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By law the rings were gifts and are hers to do with as she pleases.  She should be having no contact with this man for any reason.  Have her block his emails and if that doesn't work she should get a new email address.
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One possibility would be to sauter (sp?) it to the wedding band of choice.  Would it be as bad then?  \nI would also maybe check on some sort of alteration to the ring from the jeweler that he purchased it from.  As a customer, they do not want you to be unhappy.  After you determine what you are able to do, maybe you could approach him with "would you mind if I..."\nAnd yes, I believe in being completely honest with your significant other, but there are feelings to consider.  Sometimes it is better to sugar coat the truth by saying something like: "The diamond actually sticks too far out and it makes me really nervous." As opposed to: "I hate this thing...don't you know me at all?!!!"
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He understands perfectly.  He is just trying to get you to change your mind.  Stand your ground, you are doing the right thing.  Tell him you are engaged, very much in love and respect your fiance.  Do you know his wife?  Tell him you will ask her opinion of his proposition.  If all people had your attitude, there wouldn't be anyone to cheat with. I applaud you.  Best wishes on your upcoming wedding.
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Probably best if you message me on this one. Your friend has some possible options depending on the circumstances.
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I have had plenty of male friends who have been through this before. Before the two of you call it quits you should have a nice dinner (preferably at home becuase it might get emotional) to just talk...tell her that you just want to start over. Pretend this dinner is your first date, use it as a way to rekindle what you had and find out why you guys decided to get married. Also explain the way you feel and encourage her to do the same.
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Yes. Why would you want to bring the symbols of all failed marriages into a new one? You should pawn them and move on. With the money you receive from the old rings, get a new ring to start anew life.
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It's sad that she is having marital problems. I know it really is probably hurting you as well because you care so much about her. I don't know if it would be a good idea to tell her how you feel. It can complicate things for her, it's not going to help her to figure out how she feels about you while trying to deal with her own marriage. Try to be there for her, as a good supportive friend like you have been so far. You need to wait until she has came to a stand point to where she can determine if she is going to try to work it out or get a divorce. Once she can tell you that it's not going to work, then go for it. At this moment, you will have to take the risk. At least her mind will be clear and she can act on emotions without leading you on or confusing you. You love her, but you don't want to be in the middle of the battle, you will get hurt more than she is already hurting. You'll be in competition with her husband, although things aren't really working out, but most people don't want to lose the ones they feel they love. Just continue to be her friend, remain in her life, just don't try to make things harder for her right now.
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First off, I'd like to say that angel_baby0824's idea is super romantic :)  Now, I decided to get my boyfriend a ring this year (one for him, one for me kind of thing).  You can get them with any message on them at http://www.personalizationmall.com  But, they also have TONS of other great ideas.  They even have a Romantic Gifts section.  Good luck :)
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I know what your Friend is going thru. Prayer is the only thing that can help her. I was surprised more people did not answer this. Maybe they did and maybe they did pray for her. Either way please keep me updated if at all possible. I am interested to know the outcome. I will pray for her!
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Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
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Or her, No i did not we both were from the same circle of friends\nand the times were early 70s that was a very crazy time and our only purpose in life at the time was to see just how far we could maintain status quo after high school we all delayed college a little to long and though she was the love of my life something in me knew it was not time probably more selfish reasons than good reasons,+ we had the advantage of seeing how are married friends were fairing, and that wasnt to well. .\nThis still didnt deter her plans in the least, then there was a bad accident which I blamed myself for, One of those life altering accidents there was a lot of pain hurt and regret to pass around,\na lot of unsaid words, and after that our circle never once were\ntogether at the same time ,apart 2 sometimes 3 at a time. but that was it as far as me i remember that exact hour every year. \nOne day maybe we both can find the courage to atleast talk\ntogether rather than thru a third person, Until that time I will never know the answers to questions  i have carried for decades, other than to say No i did not Marry my first love, why i truly may never know.Now that was a lot of life in a few short paragraphs, so you can summize i did leave a little out. But you have enough for your question. Oh i dont mind typing this but i really dont want to revisit it so dont consider this for your best, because it wasnt my best..... JuJu
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I'm the woman and I agree with your theory...but  not completely.\nIt doesn't need to be heart broken, it could be lonely, needs attention and needs to be understanding.....
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I am married and I think it is funny; don't marry this girl she has no sense of humor.  If I have learned anything by being married for 6 years, I must have a sense of humor.  Also my husband and I spent 150 dollars at James Avery on our rings.  We felt that we should concentrate on the marriage and not the materlistic things that are associated with it!
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Your jealous, fess up! You know that's what it is about. My mother has all of her jewelry (quite a substantial amount) going to my daughter, my daughter will receive them after she turns 18 or my mother passes which ever occurs last. My daughter then has the option to give family members pieces of that or not to. She put this in her will simply so that stupid argument's don't occur like the one your about to have. The ring is gone to someone else, get over it. Ask you mother to will a special piece to you or your daughter.