we both are hot, i use to be a model, i love him so much, he loves me too, 1 year marriage, we have fun together all the time , sex is great,, i dont know whats wrong!!   really
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u got to ask him directly but be cool when u ask such a thing , dont lose your head\nmay be all will be fine\ngod bless you
81816
I am married.  I love him and still lust him, with all my heart.  He turns me on both mentally and physically and he makes me feel like I am special in his life too by doing things for me all the time.  He's kind, gentle, honest and hard working.  He makes me laugh, he loves me unconditionally ... my heart still skips a beat when I think of him :) ... just talking about him here, makes me smile and realize how lucky I am to have my soul mate with me!!
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Yes, something is wrong.  It doesn't matter how often you actually have sex- every day, every week, every month- as long as both of you feel contented. You are unhappy enough about it to be asking this question, so something is going on that isn't quite right.\n\nI've been in a low sex marriage (sex less than once a month, sometimes no sex for six months + at a time) for years and years and believe me, it isn't going to get better over time.  You'll end up being the "pursuer" sexually and emotionally, as I am with my husband.  Seek outside assistance now, while your relationship is still fresh enough for you both to invest in addressing this issue.  Otherwise you'll end up like me- wondering if you chose the wrong mate, wondering if it's still possible to fix it, wondering if platonic friendship is going to be enough for the next 40 years.
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Sex is a wonderful, and integral part of a marriage. If one party is no longer interested, there IS a reason. Seek counseling and get to the bottom of it!! My (now ex) wife would not, and we had sex 4 times the last 6 months we where together.. Or I should I had sex 4 times, she had it a lot more, so I found out later.. Like I said, something is wrong.. .Depression, cheating, resentments, physical illness, something!
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Oh! Dear, mh!. You are suffering from a so-called “blindness of nature and reality”. The background of friendship lines and marriages, are far-far apart. You cannot feel the hotness of a liquid without a media. \n\nThe very same mistakes, many of us committed before we got married which result to an endless selectiveness efforts. You know why, many of us lied standardizes lines, that Our lovely ones must contains,  and get stuck if one least line misses. Hopeless thought.\n\nListen now, I assure you, that is a best husband for you. The inner of you confess it but surroundings doubts. Those surroundings disappear as the momentum of marriage life set to operate.  I suppose you close some tool monitoring your standards, co’se your mind-knowledge filled with blank entities you don’t fully defines them.\n\nI Evidently assured you that, People who are living together without an authorized marriage (no matter how long they are or how many kids they produce) , people who share a “hidden love”(day-night see you..bye.), and all the “fonicas” committers, all such groups knows nothing within authorized marriage. They define marriage as a fucking game. That is all.\n\nMarriage is a decree, principled from God, from there now, definitely you can get the divinity; 1+1=1\n\nContact me via  Bihagaze@yahoo.co.uk    for more
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Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
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MM .... I had no idea it was possible to do the things we did and feel the way she made me feel.  Damn baby!  I was 31 and she showed me the meaning of "make love".  It was mind melding body sweltering leave you speechless sex.
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Looks like your letting how you feel confuse you to how things really are. Seems like your husband tries hard to let you know he appreciates you, at least from what it sounds like.\n\nIt sounds to me like you are insecure about your weight, and that you veiw yourself as unattractive. You are trying to solve the problem without, when the problem is within. No ammount of encouragement from your husband will help you unless you make up your mind to be encouraged. It sounds to me like he loves you dearly, finds you very attractive, and wants you very much in his life. Don't let your feelings lie to you and tell you otherwise. It seems to me like you are interperating things from him that he doesn't really feel, because that is really how you feel. It's not him that thinks you are fat and ugly, but you are afraid he does. Again, from what you've told me, I'm fairly sure he thinks just the opposite!\n\nNow, if part of the problem is, as you said above, that he isn't more interested in sex, don't nessisarily look to yourself as the cause. He may be busy at work, which leaves him tired and stressed at night. He may have some difficulties in that area, perhaps something clinical. You should both sit down and talk about this, together, and be patient with him, not nagging, whiney, or demanding, but letting him know how you feel, and listening to his side patiently.\n\nIf you are contributing to this part of the problem at all, it is probably from your insecurity, not your looks. If you feel ugly, and act like you feel ugly, you will make yourself seem less attractive. Don't keep thinking of yourself as unnattractive! Remember that your husband loves you, he wouldn't likely have married you if he didn't think you are attractive! Be confident, quit looking at what you think are your flaws, and concentrate on what makes you attractive. Think of yourself as attractive, and you will BE more attractive simply by how you act from it.\n\nI hope and pray everything works out well, and God bless!
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Oh my! What's wrong with you? You're not suppose to do that. It's cheating.Maybe, you no longer love your husband. For us women love is essential to have sex because in that way we express our feelings specially to the husband. Those other guys you had sex with were not your husband and the deed was just because of lust. Come to think of it, What if your husband would do the same thing you're doing right now? Can you bear that? Fix your relationship with your husband and everything will be okay. One more thing, you didn't marry just for sex alone, right? There's more than sex in a relationship specially when you're already married. It's more about love, companionship and exploring yourself through your partner and the other way around.
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you are so young. i believe him when he says you are beautiful. but you are so young. sex isn't everything in a relationship. put yourselves some space.
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Hmm....sounds like it was too much all at once....perhaps he is having a freak out. Just treat him normal and tell him you care abotu him, you think he's hot and whatever he wants is fine....the more chill you are about it...the more he will realx and his true desires will come out.
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You weighed 255lbs when you married your husband obviously  found you attractive...It doesn't really seem like he is being a pig but more or less supportive. I applaud you for trying to lose weight because that is extremely difficult especially when you feel as though your husband is losing interest. My fiance and I have been together three years and in the beginning we had sex everyday now maybe twice a month. It's not that we aren't attracted to each other anymore but with stress, work, family and alot of other things we are just to tired. Stay motivated your husband just doesn't seem to know exactly how to encourage you without you becoming discouraged. If I tell her she needs to diet then she'll feel unattractive but if i tell her she is fine the way she is then I am not being supportive of her diet. Basically he's trying and so are you...Good Luck!
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me and my husband have been together for 15 years married for 14 and we have sex at least 2-3 times a week and it is still hot if not hotter now then it was when we first got married
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although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
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It does not sound like you are in love. Just because you have the same morals and great sex does not make it love. One of the best things about marriage is laughing and if you don't have that, you can't make it. It sounds like you are in for a very dull and unhappy life sweetie, I hope you can find a way out.
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It could be he is stressed out about his work,or overly tired,you should really sit down and try to have a conversation with him,and see if there is anything going on in his life that he hasnt been able to express to you.Different people have Different sex drives as well,you really need to work it out with him and compromise.Let him know how your feeling.Also I reccomend that you consider marriage,sometimes the guilt people feel shacking up affects the sex drive.No offense! Good luck!
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sounds like a perfect couple !! Enjoy your life and don't worry..