my prematur orgasm is vexing for both my partner and me myself. any practical suggestions about how to keep it at a bay are welcomed. thanx for any comments in advance.
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at the point of climax,grip it firmly at the base (clamp it),and the orgasm will diminish. It will throb a little,but you should be able to delay the orgasm. Hold it until the feeling subsides. This also makes it more intense when you do finally climax
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So no problem; next time you two go for it , get him off ahead of time. Give him a few minutes to get it back up then ride him until he cums.  That way he can get off twice, and so can you, maybe!
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Slow down your pace. You would know the tempo which is best for you; just slow it down.\nAlso, you can control your orgasm with your breathing... if you hold your breath you'll come faster, if you make a deliberate attempt to slow down your breathing, everything else in your body adjusts accordingly (that's the core to tantric sex).
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have you tried letting her Gide your member in and is she wet? when my hubby and my self do it he gets too excited and wont's to put it in and cant find it so I'll do it.
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This is a case where it's a good thing for a guy to be pig-headed. Don't let yourself accept that you're going to blow first...insist SHE gets to orgasm first and mean it. (You've got to be stubborn though or she'll take you out!)Make yourself believe that you're not going out like that.Here's some practical tips that will probably help, too. First..oxygenate your body thoroughly before you even think about having sex, for example, earlier in the day go for a good run, shoot some hoops or do a bunch of pushups...anything to get the heart pumping oxygen-rich blood to the main vein! That's the principle key to your erection and good staying power. Next, get rid of that first nut privately, and pretty close to the time you're going to get with your lady. ( In the shower before you get with her is a good, discreet time and no one is any the wiser.) That first nut is mostly mechanical anyway; getting rid of it will calm you down to do some good, inspired thrusting and grinding. Lastly, don't do a whole lot of drinking...it weakens you more than you might think. And, if you know she's going to wipe you out when you take her from behind (for example) for God's sake don't start out like that; start in a position where you can maintain a good holding pattern without getting overstimulated. It's all in the planning, DAWG! Good luck.
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First off, you are tired.\n\nMasterbation is easy , less active and gets the job done the right way.\n\nthat being said, you have 2 children under 3.\n\nEven if your a stay at home mom its exhausting. all the running around and lack of sleep.\n\nPlus you associate his penis with pregnancy, and that is off limits now.\n\nInitially it was exciting to think you could have his baby, and pregnancy was a fun idea, and now you know that pregnancy ends with a baby and that is no longer FUN its work.\n\nAnd if you had a ruff delivery, and alot of tearing down there, sometimes they just don't sew up the snatch correctly and it hurts, or if you tear at the top, \n\nbut personally for me its the hormones, mommy hormones\nfirst we breast feed, and it takes at least 6 months after breast feeding to enjoy sex. cause your homone levels are up.\n\nso its a dual problem physical and emotional.\n\nOk so here is what you do to fix it.\n\nGet yourself some help, if your hubby doesn't do it then get a friend, your mom, sister whoever.\n\nBut you gotta give the man his sex. you know that right?\n\nGo out to the dollar store and the sex store and pick up some goodies. Candles, and a vibrator. and anal play devices.\n\nmusic , chocolate coverd strawberries, champagne, and whipped cream.\n\nNow wait til friday night, kids are away, and he has no idea,\nget comfortable with the idea.\n\nWatch porn, and pull a julia roberts in pretty woman.\n\nYou need to stop masterbating so often, cause you aren't saving it for him, if you want to masterbate during sex then fine but not before.\n\ntrust me you will get it back but it takes time and if you stop masterbating you'll start enjoying his touch again.\n\nRoll playing can help, talk dirty and tell him what to say to turn you on.\n\nAnd make sure he is licky licky before he sticky sticky's\n\nand if not then tell him to enter from behind and masterbate while he does his thing,.\n\nif this doesn't work email me for more pointers.\n\nGood luck \n\nMeg\nkovasmomma@yahoo.com
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Maybe not a quick orgasm, but you should tell your husband to give you foreplay enough to get you off and then let him go at it. That way you both get yours.
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have lots of sex with her as it will make the labour easy! Pregnant women are sometimes real horny because of the hormone change, so go for it!
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Experienced with various sizes..You get a different kind of orgazism.   Intense organism..I like it but it can hurt...try extra lubrication...my husband, of course, likes it but I feel a little soar the next day...By the way thanks for anwsering one of my questions.  Peace Out!!!
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This seems to be a common thing for pregnant women.  I guess the swelling and extra lubrication makes your husband feel like your body is in a constant state of arousal.  Just enjoy it - some men are true jerks who get grossed out by their wife's pregnancy.
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Clear your mind of all worries about orgasm. Let your mind be as emptied as possible. Now, respond to your mate only in those little twists and turns of your body that make you feel teased rightly. At this point, ignore temptations to want to please him. its your turn, remember, he will get, his. if you succeed in this, you will find yourself working your way to that "earth shattering" bliss, with him unknowingly working for you.
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Well if she is preggers, sex in the first trimester is kinda icky, to say the least at least it was for me and some other women ive talked to, if she thinks its lacking passion, maybe thats because she has it in her head shes not making love to you anymore shes making a baby with you, maybe thats how your treating it lately, Tell her if she wants passion,youll give her passion... make love to her like you did when you were first together, rediscover every inch of her body, remember that now you probably know how to get her from 0 to 60 in 5 minutes, take your time like you used to, get her to the point where shes close, and start to do something else, tease her with the idea of getting off, dont just hand a orgasum to her on a silver platter, think **here it is but you cant have it** trust me when my better half gets this attitude OMG its MINDBLOWING when he finally lets me have it ;) i hope that helps i know it works when this mentality gets used on me hehe :P
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it's normal, next time when you do it, use a lot of lube, lay on your belly, put a pillow under your belly to elevate your butt and keep your legs closed kinda tight, make him work to get it in, i find that once it gets in, it is easier, then i open up more for him,  i also use a bullet on my clit to keep my mind off the initial pain, if you do it this way then eventually you will learn to like it....i did  LOL
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Nobody likes everything every time.  I mean, I love pizza, but sometimes I order it with pepperoni and sometimes with sausage and olives.  Doesn't mean I'm mad at pepperoni that day...\n\nMore important, it could be that she gets overstimulated in one spot, and that spot is getting sore.  (Nursing moms know what I mean -- nipples can get VERY tender while nursing, especially for women who get sexually aroused from nipple stimulation.)  And sometimes she might already be irritated there, either from the clothes she's wearing or because her body chemistry is changing due to her cycle.  Penetration, of course, bypasses the external genitals, and therefore doesn't hit the "danger zones."  \n\nDoes she ride a bicycle or use a stationary bike for working out?  That can cause irritation.  (There's some indication that prolonged cycling, with certain seat types, can actually cause nerve damage.  Me, I stick with the elliptical cross-trainer...)\n\nSomething else: one of the things my wife has told me is that sometimes, oral provides TOO MUCH stimulation, gets her too close too quickly.  She enjoys it more when we do external stimulation and then finish with penetration (and has been known to grab me by the hair and say "Please stop licking me" when I'm getting her TOO close.)\n\nAs a compromise, you might offer to help get her lubricated before penetration, and use your tongue to make sure she's slippery everywhere you both want her to be.  And if she still doesn't want it, the only thing to do is say "Well, whenever you want it, just ask!" Then shag her all the more vigorously.
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Sounds like it has been stretched out from over use. Slow down. Try less partners. Use pelvic exercises to strengthen the muscles. Most of the time the female orgasm is reached from the exterior stimulation anyway. Focus more on this and less on the actual intercourse.  F1sTing is always an option! Let me know if I can help!
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all your energies are focused tooo!!!!!! much on da orgasm... creating too much anxeity...and too much expectation... which creates a block... Next time you have sexs dont be in a hurry...and dont search for orgasm somewhere in your brain or any other part... just realx and have sexes as if orgasm never existed...just wait and watch...it will come as surprise guest!!! all da best...
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I have the exact same problem, i cannot orgasm during sex. i thought it was something my husband was doing wrong becasue he's the only guy i've ever been with. but one day when my gynecologist was examining me i just asked her opinion and she said that my something is very far back making hard to reach orgasm by penetration. im not sure what part she said exactly. im sorry to tell you but there's no hope for us. But still do other things that excite you. Just because you cant orgasm doesnt mean it cant be fun. Dont fake it, go to the doctor and find out whats going on with your body and if you have the same propblem i have tell your husband. Mine understood, even though he was hurt.