The thing is that it's so easy to meet a girl just to hang out and have a good time in bed, but it's a little dificult to find a girl to establish a serious relationship. For example I met this two girls yesterday when I went to the beach, they were beautyfull like top models but the one who was interested on me, told me that she wanted to get laid with me. What the @#%^ is happening in this world, that was the first time she saw me and she wanted me to go to bed with her? I don't know if you understand my point, I'm not interested in living La Vida Loca as Ricky Martin says in one of his songs, I want a real life and to know a girl who wants to share that real life with me, not just an adventure.
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That girl might have not been ready for a relationship.  But in my opinion, if some girl you just met wants to shag you, then don't because then how many guys has she tried that on?  Too many std's out there!  You want to find a nice girl? Go to the library!  I'll be there ;) jp
652855
Well, there is a thrill in the hunt. Some guys see a beautiful woman, and don't think they have any chance at all in her being interested in them. And then if she does show an interest, there is an accomplishment for them. But, I will tell you, No matter how beautiful a gal is, most guys will run if they think she is High Maintenance.
518902
I think it also has to do with the fact that WOMEN are now doing what men have been doing for centuries and using men for sex and ONLY sex. WHY WOULD you court someone you've already been with. I KNOW tons of girls who sleep with guys they just met... NOT ME! I have to hold out... I want to make SURE I have a possible future with a guy before sleeping with him. Like that song, Im gonna make you work for it.
221242
I'm sorry to say, it's probably not the last time your hopes will be crushed. I know, it sometimes seems "some guys have all the luck". But, rarely is it luck when the guy gets the girl. I can honestly say, YES you do have MULITIPLE chances to have a girlfriend and secret crushes with your name on them. Disappointment is real, and happens often to us all. If one doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be. Shrug it off and look forward to what's around the next corner. It COULD be the one.  A positive tude Dude.. that's what the girls notice!!
159929
The only dating I have done as an adult has been from on here.  I usually kind of know the person, have talked on the phone and online for quite awhile before we meet.  I have usually dreamed about the meeting for some time.  I tend to live a bit in a fantasy world.  I think about will we have as much fun together laughing, will he see me and think that I am not what he expected, etc.  I don't worry about how I will see the other person because I have already formed an emotionally satisfying bond from talking for awhile.
548295
it's about maturity.  when you are young sometimes you only see what is physically beautiful and don't take the time to get to know anything beyond that. girls who do this tend to make huge mistakes in picking a partner that is truly compatible for them. i'm 31 years old and i can tell you those girls would dying to meet a nice sincere guy after they've been played with and heartbroken by the more physically disireable guy.  most times it's the guy no one gives a chance who is the most respectful, honest and sincere who in turns becomes the more attractive person because of this-young girls don't get it until they've been burned.
609791
It's just an alternative in looking for someone...in no way is it better or worse then going out some place to meet someone.  You can learn a lot from someone online in a shorter amount of time then you can anywhere else.  Saves people from wasting their time and lessens the chance of getting hurt or disappointed.
410654
Perhaps it has to do with confidence, and just plain putting yourself out there to meet someone.  Like if a person is just at home/work/the grocery store or whatever, and doesn't really get out there to meet people, they might not.  You don't have to go to clubs and all, just do things that you enjoy doing, like if someone likes to cook they can take a cooking class and maybe meet someone there.  Or religious functions/events, etc.  Also, confidence is really important.  If you don't like yourself and/or are not confident, then no one is going to like you either.  People LOVE confidence.  You really have to gain it from the inside, and it's very possible to do so even if someone doesn't have a whole lot of confidence right now.  I believe if you're really confident (not just pretending to be) and put yourself in a position to meet new people, they should be fine and find someone to share their lives with.  People really do just have to be themselves, and not try to be someone they're not.  If they're a kind/nice person, stick with that, it's great!  Nice guys don't always finish last!  I HATE jerks, and I can tell when someone is a jerk pretty much off the bat.  In fact, I have a weird thing for bookwormy-nerdy-weird guys lol.  I've been there and done that with the "hot" guy thing, and I find people who are quirky just 100 times more interesting most of the time.  But again, confidence in who you are is pretty key.
51365
well if you want to have a girl like that I suggest that YOU should also possess the attributes you want your "date" to possess \n\nI suggest you start by learning better english/grammar (no offense)\nand you can rarely call a well manered, working, educated and God fearing girl "sexy" \n\nps: the internet is not really the best place to look for a girl like that \n\npss: you are double posting >_<
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guys wanna meet girls.  we dont really plan furhter than that usually.  however, a bar hook up almost never lasts.  a club hook up is likewise more physical than anything.  try cafes, starbucks, rallys, places where people are: a. sober b. paying attention and c. able to actually have a conversation.  this way if there is a hook up its about more than how you dance or the drunken flirting you both participated in.
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because most of them are gold diggers. solution: date older girls and dont tell em how much u make. older girls are more down to earth, girls in their early-mid 20s mostly are a bunch of gold diggers look for a hand out. I dont think its wrong to look for a girl with a good job, in fact you should, maybe even in the same field, then there is a less chance she wants to be with you for your money. the bar comes up in a year for me and if i dont find anyone before that, id only date other lawyers, dr's, and other professional women
638921
I think dating sites are bs too. I hadnt had a girl friend for about 2 years and decided to get on the websites. I would send messages and never recieved any. Well after posting a question on here about dating site problems. Someone told me to be a man and go find a women. I did and it wasnt on a website.
78490
well if she just met him and had sex with him, chances are hes not looking for a relationship, usually that makes a guy think youre easy what ever goes through their heads, also if he was willing to have sex (especially that much) after just meeting, he probably does that with other women, sorry to say. Men like a chase, so if she really wants him, she should not be 'available' all the time, and definately not have anymore sex with him (if she wants a relationship). if he decides not to try anymore, he was just in it for sex and hes no good anyway
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SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
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Alot of females lack an amount of respect for themselves. So they deem the amount of sex or the intensity of the act as a means of actually being with someone. Rather than establishing the relationship first and allowing the loving to be the icing on the cake. It's kind of like when we were kids and played make believe. However,the difference would be that we adventually snapped back to reality. As mentioned previously, woman are emotional creatures and once a guy hitz it the right way or tells us something we like to hear. Woman pretty much lose their minds...so sorry fellas but that's just the way it is...
513429
This is totally situational... but...\n\nIn general, I love it when a girl makes the move. As a guy, we have an automatic disadvantage, because no matter what, we have to work for it. Now, this is a gross generalization, but most of the time it is true: women can find someone if they really want to, any time.\n\nMen on the other hand, well...\n\nSo to have a woman come up and make it known that she's interested makes things easy. Not to mention, it's not like there's anything to lose really.
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Haha!  It's good to be back - computer was down for a few days.  Well.. I'm not a guy, (obviously), but unless things go REALLY well on a date it's a turn-off when the guy is all over you.  You've got to conquer the gettin-to-know-you before you jump on that.  So if it's a REALLY good date then you did get to know each other and it's okay to fall into that animal instinct.  If you're like 99% of the guys out there then maybe it is a good idea to relieve your stress before the date.  You may not get the urge to, er, be selfish on the date, and that will tell the girl that you respect her.  Also - it might give that first impression that you're a laid back bad-a*s type that most of the ladies can't resist.  So yeah - I think it is a good idea!  HA!