However, when I was single I didn't have a problem with random sex. Now that I'm with my partner I can't have sex with my partner.\n1. Please tell me what is wrong with me?\n2. What should my partner do?
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You are sort of unclear here...but if you refer to inability to have sex once you have committed to them...then I have a thought. \n\nYou aren't seeing them in the same light. You have taken your partner to a place where they can not be corrupted by what you think sex should be. \n\nThis may take therapy to fix. But if you are willing to try...see this person as your best friend...as a person that you want to be happy. See them as someone to give too. Give to them. If you do not see yourself as able to give to this person...or turned off....there may be something that you need to see a sex therapist about. Or if you are shy or without insurance...try reading about it at a Borders. This problem is not particularly rare. But you need to explore  if fully. \n\nThe problem will come on with other people too in the future. Better to address it now
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1) I've been with my partner for four years\n2) We have sex about 5-6 times a week\n3) It's usually just sex, lol.\n\nHope this helps : )\n\nJ
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Nah i dont think theres anything wrong woth you, its happened to me too, ive never had sex but sometimes i even skip a month, yeah its probably cause you run track, DONT GET SCARED, ITS NORMAL!!!!!
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uhmm i was in a position where i was in a awkward spot. i didn't have sex with more than one guy at a time..but they would have been game had i said yes. we were up watching a movie..and one of them kissed me and stuff..and then of course the other thought it was time for him to join in. \nwe didn't go all out and have sex, but i guess you could say there was some intimate contact..
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I love the lack of answers!!\n8, and I'm 20. I deffinately consider myself to be a guy that sleeps around alot.\nHOWEVER. This is not something I am proud of. I regret alot of the things I've done, and although I enjoy sex as much as the next guy, I'd much prefer fewer partners for longer periods of time.\nDo you mind answering something? Whats the ideal answer you're looking for?
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I think it's great you two have such a close and trusting relationship. It's definitely not for every couple, but you are obviously not the only ones out there. Make sure both partners are comfortable and listen to one another.... Have at it, be careful of std's and such....Wow such trust you guys have.
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My girl is the same way and I am 23. It's sorta weird for me not to be in control of when we have sex. I believe if she didn't want to have sex so much then I would. Its a weird situation but I think its true.
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You should stop acting like a sex slave. If you are not in the mood...Don't do it! Are you a partner or property?
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i totally agree with you. people think that you have to have sex if you are in a relationship, but it's not true. i was with a guy for almost three years and we never had sex. im proud of myself for that because i proved to myself and other people that you can be in a relationship and stay together without having sex. Good Luck!
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My first question to you is:\n\nWhy would any man compare his woman with an ex? Tacky, tacky, tacky, and HIGHLY disrespectful to you! \n\nMy second question is- do you feel adequately lubricated to enjoy sex? As long a sex isn't uncomfortable, you don't have to worry about how you compare to other women. Also, depending on where you are at in your cycle, you can produce more or less lubrication. If you are pregnant or breastfeeding, that can affect it, as can many different medications.\n\nIt sounds like *he* is the one with the problem. ;) \n\nIf you want to know more about this, I suggest picking up Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, it will explain how your hormones fluctuate (in a very easy to understand way, it's not boring at all)- I haven't met a woman who has read this book who wasn't blown away by how much we are NOT taught about our bodies, and how normal we truly are!
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This makes me laugh... lol.\nOkay, sex doesn't last for a few mintues I'll tell you that.\nYou can make it last a long time... enjoy it.\nWhat is normal? I don't think there is a standing time for normality... just do it till both of you well.. how do I put it? Feel satisfied.\nSex is something that is for the both of you remember that.\nHow many times should you start over? Depends on you and your partner. Does she want to do it again? Can you still keep on going? Ask yourself and your partner these questions.\nHope this helps. ^_^
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Communicate is the best aphrodisiac, I had this problem too. wasn't very interested in sex. I just had lot's on my mind and issues. but once we were able to communicate honestly (so I thought), things got really great.   best sex ever.
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I get situational ED with my wife.  It sucks, I'll tell ya and I bet you can agree.  I read a thing the other day on web md (because I am scared of ED too) that said that sleep and stress has to do with it.  Maybe your just more comfortable around your lover now, and it keeps your stress levels low, and your other lovers caused you more stress.  I think that if its not a physical problem with you, it is obviously a mental thing, so you would probably fit into this area of stress and sleep.
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You think your ripped off? I'm bi and yet I don't get to have sex with every single thing that moves every single night and day. Someone cheated me out of my horde of lovers.\n\n*edit*\nI feel your pain, they led us on with promises of hot multisex orgies and then informed us that we still get normal lives. Life is so cruel sometimes.
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Our language is going to make it hard for me to get my point across.  Can a man?  Only with more training and discipline than your boyfriend has.  I doubt that he was doing anything consciously.\nIf he had sex with someone else, guilt might have prevented him from getting excited, but stress could have the same effect.  Sex between humans is a complicated issue.  I believe that you are worry too much or feel very insecure in your relationship.  I would think from your question that you are just inexperienced.  Do not rush times.  Take your time.  And start talking with him.  Relationships are built on communication.
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Ah, I am sorry to hear how much this is upsetting you, and I feel sorry for him as well. I wish I had a crystal ball to look into and find out what's really going on here. Something's fishy. \n\nAt the start of many sexual relationships, the lovemaking is hot! It's natural for sex to wane over time and you two were very busy. I sense that there's an undercurrent you need to ferret out, as it seems that he is flat-out avoiding sex with you. \n\nAsk yourself some basic questions: when did things change? Was there an incident that you can remember? Has there been a gradual decline? Has putting on weight, having children, a change in income/earnings or something like that happened? \n\nAs for the importance of this to your relationship, although national studies have shown disparate results, sex is not usually the number one issue in saving a marriage. However, if it's a top need for you and it compounds your feelings of inadequacy, erodes your self-esteem, makes you feel unloved or affects your ability to feel good about yourself in general, then it's time to have a serious heart-to-heart with him. Be gentle when you talk about it and try to understand what's bothering him. After that, you may need to seek professional help either together or alone — or give him up in the end.
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I think some people get to a point in a relationship that they aren't worried about sex, they're close enough without having so much of that type of bonding. That's one possibility.\nAnother could be, sorry if I hurt your feelings, that she isn't attracted to you anymore, or she could be tired of the "same ol' thing". Do you guys spice it up in bed, or is it the same old missionary position. \nMy boyfriend and I had this problem, we brought toys in the bedroom, and its never been as good as it is now.\nJust ask her, I can keep giving o you ideas about what could be wrong, but I don't know what going on in her head, and I'm only getting one side of the story. Just talk to her, if you know or have a feeling that it might be she tired of the same thing, ask her about trying some new things