My best friend and i both liked the same guy. i had dated him before and he broke up with me. i wanted to give him a second chance and i told her that so now im going out with him and she's mad at me. she said that i never talked to her about it but i did and i thought she was cool with it. i really like this guy but i dont want him to be the reason that me and my best friend cant be friends anymore.
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Does the guy know how your best friend feels about him? If he does, he's made his choice.\n\nTry to put yourself in your friend's shoes, and give her some time to cool off. If the roles were reversed, you might be upset for a while too, even if she'd checked with you first. Meanwhile, do you know another guy you can introduce her to?
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Definitely HERS.  Your ex is just that - your EX.  He no longer has any responsibility to you and doesn't have to answer to you (even though he should no better).  But your "friend" should DEFINITELY know better.  That is just something you DO NOT do to your friends.  She should have come to you and explained the situation and told you that she really likes this guy and asked you if it would bother you if she dated him.  Instead, she snuck around behind your back like a coward.  That is not friend, honey.  Get rid of both of them.\n\nAs for kicking someone's ass - it's so not worth it.
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My bestfriend was a guy and we started out like you but I was the one in your position.. my friends didnt want me to date him b/c they wanted him. Then one day things clicked and we've been together for two years. I say Screw your friends listen to you.
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Ouch!!  Sounds to me like he's just a selfish guy who doesn't care who he hurts on his way to getting what he wants.  You should feel good though that at least your friend didnt go out with him, valueing your friendship first.  You don't need friends like him anyways.  Good luck!
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Your best friend.\n\nShe is a loser.  She knew everything about him and your interest in him and went out with him anyway.\n\nBe more careful about your choice of best friends.  Find one that will not steal the guy that you like.
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Well, I hope you're not friends with your best friend anymore because that's not what I call a true friend. She told you she would never go out with your ex because she loved you like a sister, but that's not the case. You should have never dated your ex-boyfriend's best friend either. If you like other guys such as your ex's best friend than you're not in love. You may really like your ex, but there are other guys out there. Your ex is not worth it. Not only is your friend doing you wrong he is to by being with her.
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If you and your best friend likes him then he should automatically be off limits to both of you. You don't want your friendship to be ruined over some guy. There are plenty other guys that you will like.....don't risk your friendship
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Been there with my best friend. She did that to me a few times, but I finally had enough and told her if she didn't find her own men, I was not going to be around her anymore. Its a trust thing: You trusted her with the knowledge that you liked this guy, and she went ahead and screwed around with him....Not Cool!!\n\nHowever, if the guy didn't know you like him, then its not his fault. If he did, he holds half the blame.\n\nI'd do the same thing again with my best friend, I'd let her have it! My best friend decided that she'd rather be my friend than have anyone I liked!!...GL;)
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
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Well remember, ur friend will always be there for u but guys come and go. If u end up w/him and eventually "u will" break up- odds are. Then what? u don't have him and ur best friend has found another. Let me tell u, I had a very best friend in high sch. and we were inseperable 1 day another friend of mine says;tell her or I will! Sooooo.. my frined say's I F*****-John (my bf) I was heart broken! she almost laughed. She was my best friend!? what the hell? but now he ended up being a loser and she ended up w/3 kids to 3 diff guys and she's w/none. I am married 16 yrs w/2 kids and happy. I know u didn't need to hear my life story but u got it anyway. Chose ur friend! plenty of guys will come along later. Don't b a friend like mine was to me.
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I say don't date the one in your grade, simply because if you breakup, then you are forced to see each other all the time, and that will disrupt your life.  But, if you are just asking about being friends then, why can't you be friends with both.  What's the problem, they don't like each other?  If that's so, then don't invite one guy to hang out while you are hanging out with the other guy.
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she doesnt like it that you like that same guy she did!!!she would still date him weather or not she addmits it!!!!and the fact that you like him make her really mad!!!
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were you actually with the guy? did your friend know you liked him? has your friend also known him for a while? these are important things to think about. if your best friend steals your boyfriend, neither are exactly worth your time, sorry, it hurts. If your friend knew you liked him, did she at least warn you she liked him? if she warned you, the punishment inflicted should be less severe, she still cares about you. If you were totally unaware, but she knew, then you probably want to yell scream and hit, once that is out of your system if you can trust her again, then try to keep the friend. If she didn't know then you really can't blame her for anything, but you would fit the first scenario if you tried to steal him from her...
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i did twice, almost at the same time. i was dating this guy that i absolutely loved. we dated a year before we ended it. it was really heartbreaking. he didnt cheat on me or anything, atleast i dont think he did. i thought we were going to get married! in the middle of that relationship, i also became friends with this guy who had a crush on me. i had a crush on him too but we never dated or anything because i was so in love with my boyfriend. my friend and i stopped talking because i wanted to be with my boyfriend and i felt i was cheating on him because i had a crush on him. anyway, bad idea. i got my heart broken twice.... my boyfriend dumped me and i lost my chance with my friend =( im glad to say that my friend and i are friends again and still close. i still believe i lost my chance with him though =/
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you let him go for whatever reason that may be or you all split up, therefoer you dont really have a right to have a say on who he dates but you can tell your best friend how you feel. Even so if they love each other there isnt much you can do. Just let them go, if it was meant to be between the two of you it may not work out between the best friend and him and then you can ask him back.You  also should tell your  ex how you feel about him still.  But honestly you should move on because there will be many loves in your life. Dont get stuck on someone who doesnt share the same feelings for you as it can only lead to endless pain.\nSorry if that wasnt the answer you wanted but I honestly dont think theres anything else you could do without getting your heart broken or making one or both of them angry with you. Because if you try to split them up or sabatoge their relationship it will only cause them anger and resentment towards you.
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Here is a defining moment in your life.. \nPut yourself in your friends shoes.. as exciting as it may be to be you right now.. \nHOW would you feel if the sitch was reversed.. NOT too fun to get screwed over by your best friend and boyfriend.. \nDO you become a good person, and decide your BEST friend is more important to you then a guy.. \nOR do you become a beotch (sorry, but that is what you would be) and take your best friends man with no regard for her, or her feelings.. I'm saying.. That would be pretty fu**cked up on your part.. (actually what you're doing right now is pretty f**ked up in itself.. just plotting )to do it.. YOU should be more of a friend then that.. And just remember Karma is a beotch, and who's to say he wont leave you for one of your friends.. ?
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If your best friend is really your best friend, she wouldn't take him away. I had a friend like that once and it killed me to be around her with guys because I would say I liked someone and then she would instantly like them too. And she would win because I would just give in. There is no point in fighting her on it, especially if she already knows how you feel about him. If she doesn't know, you need to tell her right away. You friend has betrayed you in the most hurtful way if she knows how you feel. You need to sit her down and explain that you like this guy more than she'll ever know and that you have known and liked him longer than she ever will. If she is truly your friend, she will cease to try to steal him away. If she won't stop, you need to find a new friend, a person who won't betray you. And you need to tell the guy. He deserves to make the choice with his true feelings. Tell him that you don't want things to change between you too, so if he doesn't feel the same way, to just forget that you said it, but in time you fell in love with your best  friend and you wonder if he feels the same way about you. Then, you are letting him know how you feel, even if he doesn't feel the same way.