just out of curiocity ........what is that one gay men think when he likes the other guy n what if one if married n after a few years he realist that he is gay ...........what makes him relise that he is gay
218349
You're gay when you look at members of the same sex as sexual objects. For example, a confused teen like yourself is walking down the street, and can help himself from staring at a cute guy's butt. Gay!
18511
I would say if you have feelings for members of the same sex and you want to act on them, or you do act on them then you might be gay. And if you're not at all interested in being with someone of the opposite sex, but only someone of your same sex. It's also possible you could just be confused.
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Just because he rented/watched a "gay movie" doesn't mean he's gay. Besides would it matter if he is? I have gay friends. My husband (who's as straight as someone can get) has gay friends. I don't see the problem. If you're sooo curious try asking him. But please make sure you tell him it wouldn't change your friendship no matter what. <- If that's the truth.
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Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
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With everything else you've told us, he seems more and more likely to be open to the idea, if not full out bi.  But if were just going to take the chest thing as the only evidence, I'd say 'nah'- I could see a straight guy acting similarly if he was secure in his sexuality and good friends- not every straight guy would freak out, you know?\n\nNow, a better litmus test would be to maybe brush his lips . . . nobody's going to take that as an accident.  Of course, that's probably too forward, but I wanna see the two of ya'll get together!  I feel like I'm involved in some suspenseful soap opera with all your questions!\n\nMy opinion, though, is that he's up for something, even if it's just curiousness or opennness about the idea.
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I sense  Latent Homosexual tendencies in the askers questions....what he hates/fears in gay men...is something he hates/fears in himself....he should get honest with himself
648341
To be honest (i'm straight) i'm not anymore interested in the lifestyle of my gay friends than i am of the straight ones!  I mean i'll ask them how they are or what they have done over the weekend but nothing i don't ask any one else!!  I think some straight people either: a)secretly wonder if they are missing out on something; either sexually or with the lifestyle/social scene OR b)-and i know lots of people like this-are pathalogically nosey!  They have to ask you questions about anything and absoloutely EVERYTHING!  Its just the way some people are; they cannot function happily without feelin' as if they are included in everything!!!  Don't some people just DO your head in!!!!
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This is a very wierd question and pretty homophobic.\n\nTo play devil's advocate and to be controvertial I'll give the view that gay men are all just really mean and like to think of all the single women in the world at home crying because they can't get a man.  I mean if gay men actually found men attractive how wierd would that be?  By Jove it would almost be as if they were homosexuals!\n\nSorry I havn't slept in 56 hours and feel ill and sarcastic.
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Isn't he married?  I always thought he was married.  Of course that doesn't mean anything, but i don't think he is gay.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.
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Wow. What a shock to have to go through.\n\nSounds like he is just starting to accept his own reality that he is gay. He may have thought that you two living together would be ideal, and I'm sure he had or maybe even still has feelings for you, but is attracted to men.  It happens and sometimes people don't come within the realization of it until a long time aftwards.\n\nAnd yes, you can be gay and in love with someone, but you also know that the relationship may not be for you. People like this can be confused for a long time since they may not know which direction to go to. Do they stay in what society terms a "normal" relationship, or do they risk ridicule and go with their real insterest, which is the same sex. Tough world we live in.
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CAN I ASKED YOU A QUESTION \n\nWHAT DO THIS MEAN WHEN YOU BE WITH SOME ONE FOR 2 YEARS AND YOU HAD TOOK ALL OF HIS WORDS ON THE INSIDE AND SAYIN HE LOVE YOU AND HE WANT TO MARRIED YOU   AND NOW 2YEARS YESTERDAY WE WENT TO THE MOVIES FOR THE FIRST TIME TOGETHER AND WE HAD SET IN THE BACK NOBODY COULD'NT SEE US I PUT MY HANDS AROUND HIM AND HE WANT LET ME HE SAID HE'S NOT READY FOR ME TO DOD THAT AROUND PLUBLIC   TEARS JUST FALLING FROM MY EYES RIGHT NOW. BUT ANYWAY HE SAID HE'S CONFORTBLE AROUND GAY PEOPLE BUT NOT AROUND STRAIGHT PEOPLE AND ITS WAS DARK MANNNNNNNN I MEAN IT BEEN FUCKING 2 YEARS AND I DID'NT HEARD THIS SHITED BEFORE HE WANT TO MARRIED ME PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO HE'S ON HERE TELL PEOPLE AND THEY SAYING HE NEED TO BE WITH GIRL AND THEY WERE SAYING MAYBLE IT'S NOT MENT TO BE
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Does he know about your sexual orientation ?\nHe might like you too but is also not sure if you like him or not ?\nIf he knowes that you are gay, and he does all these signs that make you doubt that he's gay, it could be because he's trying to sense some signals from your part too.\n\ntry to find out about his environment. what do people around him in his community think about gays and lesbians? maybe he is but he's afraid of being rejected for who he is?
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Straight men tend to think that ALL gay men want to have sex with them. They don't understand that gay men are just as choosy (or more so) than straight men.
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If he was gay he would tell you. You can't make that judgement for yourself. I have a hairdresser that I thought was gay, no question. He had the mannerisms and everything. Then he started talking about his wife. That totally threw me. I also use to work with this totally beautiful girl at a cosmetic counter. She was totally feminine but I found out later she was lesbian. I never would have guesses. I never judge by appearance anymore.
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I have many friends that are either/or.  They are still good people but have a difference on their sexual outlook.  If they are your friends that is all they have to be nothing more.  I had a male friend who I did not know was gay and when he told me after 5 years of friendship I was only upset because he didn't tell me.  I told him I still loved him the same and we were best friends for many more years after that.  Some people are very mean when it comes to that.
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I would probably agree with gay, he may be confused with his own sexuality. The only other explanation is he could be shy or a virgin and not really know what he is doing. The best thing to do is ask him. It seems strange.