i noticed that, i've changed a whole lot since last year.\ni used to have so many friends, i used to be more outgoing and fun. but now i feel like i've changed so much. i'm not that fun anymore, i don't talk to people allot, and i don't have that much of friends anymore. I'm only 14 right now, junior high. AND I HANG OUT WITH MY DAD most of the time.\ni see all my friends having fun all the time, going to parties all that stuff. and i don't do that anymore so i sometimes ask my self why don't i do any of that stuff anymore am i some kind of freak now? that noone wants to hang out with. i'm actually a very energectic person, i get bored really easily. I sometimes think of wierd stuff out of nowhere i guess you can say i have a strong imagination. it kinda freaks me out sometimes about the things i think about. like.. I sometimes ask my self am i crazy for thinking something stupid like that.. or whatever. i get scared pretty easily. maybe i just think of wierd things out of bordom?
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You're perfectly normal. You just want to hang out with your dad more, and that's fine. Maybe you can hang out with your friends once every two weeks or something.
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm 26 and have had to perform a major life overhaul myself.  I got to the point that i did'nt want to hang out with a bunch of people that drank and got high all day and really did'nt have anything to offer.  I cut them all off except for 2 friends.  I got new friends.  It's hard cause people are going to say that you're stuck up or you think you're better than everybody else but the truth is.....These people don't have anything to do with you.  They don't pay your rent, they don't buy your clothes, they don't put gas in your car and they don't have anything to offer you anymore.  \nIt's a good thing that you want to be more mature.  It shows you're ready for personal growth and advancement.  As far as your bestfriends ex.....Refuse to have that person in your sphere.  You always have control on who you want to be in your personal space.  If that person shows up...Bounce!  Don't allow that person in your home, in your car or at your table.  If they wanna know why...Tell 'em.  You annoy me, I don't like you and your values don't mesh with mine and I find you offensive.  You have the right not to be bothered by people.  Stand up.  You'll be fine.  Best of luck.
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Hey!  That's just like me a couple of years ago!  Really, this past year I've become so much more open.  I think it's because I've made some new friends.  They are good friends, the kind that you don't have to feel self-concious around and you just have to be yourself, and they'll love you.  That's them all right.  I've gotten really close with them because I've realized a few things...\n\n1)  They don't care what I look like, only what I act like.\n2)  They care about me when I'm upset and will always be there to make me feel better.\n3)  They really can relate to what I'm going through, and if they can't, they'll try their best and listen anyway.\n4)  They do not think I'm too stupid or too smart.  They don't care what grades I have, only that I am a good person and always try to do the right thing.\n\nI'll never understand how I really did it, but I just began talking more... saying what was on my mind really.  I think it basically started whenever I had a few crisis in my life that I just couldn't get through on my own.  I needed them.  They knew this and were determined to get me through everything and make it out on the other side in one piece.\n\nI would advise you to just speak up.  Say hi to a stranger.  If you are in a group/club at school, talk to the people there.  You will most likely feel really stupid at first, but you'll realize that people are more open to new friends than you think.
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We all change and develop over time.....you are not exactly the same person you were 5 years ago.  So don't expect to be.  It seems what you have is a little lack of confidence.....happens to all of us.  Just get back on the horse so to speak.....but do it in small doses......Do some of the things you used to do and build little successes.....get your rythm back.... in the process you will make new friends and you'll forget all about this period....
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I think it's perfectly normal.  When change occurs it can be really scary even if it is good change.  People go through a grief process at these stages of life.  I think if you try not to let yourself become overwhelmed with thoughts of the future and you allow yourself a little time to adjust, you will be just fine.    Try to focus on the positives and let yourself get excited about all of the possibilities in front of you.  There is so much more than either going to college or getting an entry level job.  People these days are starting businesses and doing really incredible things right out of high school.  Be open to your options and seek good advice when you need it!  Best of luck to you and I hope you do great things that make you happy!
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i know EXACTLY what your talking about. for every year i was in middle school and jr high (like 4 years) i lived in a different town and once 2 towns in like 1 school year. my dad got married and kept seperating and getting back together with my step mom and every time he did we moved. it was so hard, but the one thing i gained from it was i learned that now i cand handle any change like that that comes my way because i have already gotten through it. i just moved again to go to college this year, and it was easier because i have learned how to put myself out there and meet new people. plus i have all these experiences with different people and places that other people my age dont have. if it makes you feel any better i shed my share of tears too, and im not a cryer. it is normal to feel that way. good luck. email me if you need anything.
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yes i did change my live and im like you alil i mean like who old are you im 13 and i went thru this type of shit.My ex-bf got me into it cuz i had problems at home at skool everywhere ok and with him so then one day he told me to relax and then handed my some so i smoked it with him but u know wats stupid he said that u wouldnt be able to remember anything when i could, that might mean that da only thing his good at is selln drugs,spendin da money on himself,havin sex(not with me),fightin,actin like alil boy,and gettin gurls that only want him 4 his ghetto car ok so yeah i guess it did but i dunno if it changed me 4 good or bad cuz now that i stopped with all da drugs i have 2 A's and 2 B's i just need to work on my science but then i have family problems but they dont know about my other side of me like me being a chola(ganster) so as you can see yes it did change me alot and at times i wish i could forget about it without doin any drugs but i dont do them anymore i only drink (i dont drink that much anyways)at parties i had a bf that helped me forget about everything he was nice and what a gurl would say "perfect" but then one friday he didnt have da balls to tell be but told my friend to tell me that its over and so i was pissed and then all i could remember was my friends holdin me back sayin his your bf and i was yellin no were over and i broke free and nearly broke his arm cuz him as a bf talked shit about me that i didnt have body he told my homie and i wanted to beat him up but i was too much in luv but now im just plan sad, and alonely chola thats hurtin and  wishin to have a perfect bf so it completely changed my life and it might never be da same as be4.
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When you have been friends with someone for a long time you learn to adjust to their changes in life as well as they do yours!\nEveryone changes, that's just the way it is! Just because her personality is changing and she has found other people that she can be friends with does not mean that you are not her friend! It sounds to me like you  loved being in the spotlight, and now that your not anymore, you are jealous!\nIf you are a good friend of hers you would be happy for her, not jealous!!!!
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I often feel left out with my friends, I think it's only happened lately. Or rather, I'm only beginning to feel this way. It feels quite hurtful sometimes - like you're not as important as everyone else. \n\nWhat I did was to ... (don't laugh) ... start smiling, A LOT. I'm serious. Happy people like other happy people. So, even if at first your smiles might be a little weird or even fake, you get used to it. And soon, you could be smiling without even realizing it!\n\nIt's quite fun actually. You could also try to be less sensitive to what other people say - sometimes, they don't actually mean to be hurtful. Just join in their conversations and laugh along. Oh, and perhaps yo could stop ignoring other people? I know it's not fun, but just try to grit your teeth and do it. \n\nGood luck!
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Yea..unfortunately i know exactly how you feel. I think most people feel this way at one point or another. It's a terribly easy slump to get into, but now that you are fed up with it start making some changes. Start practicing saying no to people sometimes and giving yourself a littlle time for yourself. It's hard to be a good friend or partner to anyone if your all used up. Unfortunately though it's easy to get into a pattern of just saying ok and going with everyone else's flow! Think of things you enjoy doing and set aside some time to do them... it will go a long way in helping you get back some energy and re-centering yourself. Good Luck and lotsa luv!
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Dear Friend i'm not sure if my words would help u but i'm gona tell u my opinion, it's fact that u r so young and don't get upset from people who r close to u when they say that, and I don't see where is the problem that make u feel that way is because they not talking to u any more and they were before, that mean they aren't real friend and don't think that someone is better than other everyone have good and let say little bad behavoir, don't let they efect on you and think that maybe there are some people who treat them like they do to u, life it's so big and u still in the begining , you will see alot of thing that u cann't imagine it, I lived it and now i'm 25 and I know for sure there are alot thing I will see in future the good and bad. try to be with those who accept who u are ,those who try to learn u the right thing to do without making fun of u, and try not to give ur secrets to ur friend special this age, coz u all growning and ideas r change,u said u have bf u love that's ok. but becarefull always put a step back so u don't get shock in future, u love him and have compelet faith on him,ok but u have to think that maybe that will change in future and maybe not, what i'm trying to say prepare ur self if anything get wrong it's not the end of world.
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I understand how hard it is being 14 years old.  It seems like just yesterday that I was in the same position - the nervousness, the insecurity, not to mention the stir-crazy feelings that go along with staying in one (possibly small) town for so many years.  I'm only 23 now, and I'm from the US but now living in Japan.  \n\nI felt the same feelings of wanting to run away when I was a teenager, but trust me when I say you will miss your family and friends when you do.  You have your whole life to not be with them, but just enjoy them while you have them.  I know it's hard to understand now, but believe me that you will never be surrounded by so many people that love you as you do when you're under the age of 18.  \n\nThat's what I would tell your friend.  That and no, I'm involved with law and it's impossible to start a legal career at 14.  \n\nTell your friend to just enjoy being a 14-year-old because it only happens once in your life, and BELIEVE ME you will miss it when you're older.
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I have/had the same problem. For my entire life i felt different from other people, had difficulty in following what was being said because my concentration was flipfloping from one thing to another.\n If I was bored with something I would stop whatever project I was envolved with and start another. I tried to get an associates degree,instead i got bored could not concentrate and dropped everything I had going for me and moved to Alaska(radical hey). A real downside for me was that I was being taken advantage of by those who knew I had a problem of sorts and I was worked until I could not stand anymore.\n Anyway.. before you slide down the path. there are millions of people who have this problem,it is not a bad thing it is in the way we learn and diseminate communication. I can not and will not say you have this but for me thay call it Attention Deficite Disorder(ADD). I had been told by many of doctors that I should be screened for this due to my erradic past,so I did and have been greatfull ever since. It is weird to think clearly and not scattered. I now start and finish tasks in little to record times. Hey check it out.
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who knows? i know when i was a teenager i did the same thing. i got tats (that i never really thought about being so perminent) and peircings and worst of all i started smoking! i was one who always felt like i was being myself and it was ok to be different, now at 29, when i look back there was nothing different about me, i was just following the trend at the time. so when someone clames "hey im just being myself" often they are just being trendy and doing what is IN at time. when i see my old friends that were also being "different" none of them are walking around with piercings and showing off their tattoos anymore. so i guess you can tell when someone is really "different" when they never change.
196470
I hear you-- sometimes it feels like no one understands you or has a personality that matches yours.  You may have ended up with friends that chose you to be friends with them, trying meeting friends in new ways and picking your friends instead of them picking you.
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speaking from experience, most of my friends are younger than me (i'm a sophomore in college) and my youngest friends are juniors in high school.  I never hung out with people in my grade because I thought they were all immature, and that my younger friends acted older than they did.  I'm happy in my situation, and you should be too.  Don't be friends with the other sophomores if you don't want to--hang out with the friends you already have :)
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I was very shy in highschool too...and lonely.  There's really no magic way to change your personality.  What changed things for me was 2nd year university when I gradually went from Brunette to Blonde...then I got a lot of attention and it helped to give me more confidence just to be noticed.