I just don't have the experience. I tried it once, don't know how it went but I'm real good with what I got, and I'm confident. My girl loves the things and places I take her too during sex, Source: Her, but I'm wondering if I should treat her to oral. She does it for me and she said she loves it, but I haven't done for her, just never thought I needed too..but I joked about it one day, and we sorta hinted around, and I wouldn't mind doing it for her and for me, I love everything about her body, but if I'm getting A's in PE why transfer to Home Ec.....know what i mean..in other words, if I'm great at sex and she tells me this, should I still try oral..if she's not complaining..?
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Variety is the spice of life! You may be satisfying her quite well but when you throw in something different every once in a while...... it keeps the flame burning hot and long if you know what I mean.\nNext time you try it, move your tongue slowly at first over her clitoris, just take your time and watch her reaction. \nFrom there you or her will figure out the rest of it.\nGood luck!
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To be honest I was not satisfied, I had this built up image of sex in my head, I thought it was going to be great and enjoyable. But it wasn't, It's not the same as pleasuring yourself lol, because your starting off with that person you have to learn what each others likes and dislikes are, but that was just me, I dont know about other people, I talked to some people and they felt the same way but I guess thas something that changes with time or from person to person well hope your first time is a blast! have fun.
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Listen up, the sooner you learn this the better.  When to have sex has and will always be her choice.  The best you can hope for is that she feels the same way about you.
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For me, I don't get an orgasm from self pleasure.  I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I almost always have an orgasm.  The deeper the better, for me at least.  That's why I like top.  I've also heard of putting your hands on her lower abdomen and pushing all the way up her body.  Hmm, sounds good off I go! LOL J/K
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I know i am not a guy, but can i would like to share an experience.\n\nMy boyfriend now, was my first, and i was worried about the same things. He could tell, as soon as he stuck a finger in me.  He actually loved the fact i was, and was patient with me. He loves the thought that i'm experiencing everything the first time with him, and he can show me how to please him.  Its has been 8 months now, and we have an awesome sex life.  email me if you have more questions about this....i have been there.\n\nallyalexmch@yahoo.com
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I think sex is something very personal and means something different to everyone. I do think that the first time you have sex it should be with someone you care about and mean something because if nothing else, it is (for the girl) painful and for the guy kind of embarassing if it doesn't work properly and I would think that someone who loves you and cares for and respects you would make the experience a lot more pleasurable and a lot more meaningful. That being said, waiting till marriage is an unreasonable message to send your brother. If he wants to do that, it's his call, but I wouldn't put that on him. It's his decision, and he needs to be comfortable with that. They say the only expectations worth living up to are your own, so don't put expectations on him. But sex is fun, I'm sure you know, and it's something that is inbuilt in us, a desire for sexual pleasure and a desire for intimacy. But don't teach him that the two are inseparable, but they are linked. Sex is better with someone you care about, but not limited to marriage. That was a reasonable expectation hundreds of years ago, when there was no contraception but we have that now and we can protect against pregnancy and stds, so it's a good opportunity to get to know what you like and experience some fun.
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LOL...well I'm already in an alternate kinda likestyle, but I can remember my youth and not knowing the right way to ask for oral when the girl faltered in her knowledge.\nMost times I ended up teaching about what to do in bed so I had to talk or guide. I grew out of not talking to my female friends quickly, and I learned they needed and enjoyed the guidance.
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I agree with gailforce wind.  There are some men out there that may feel uncomfortable with a woman trying to teach them new things especially if they know that she is more experienced.  So when you do have sex with him in the moment try to work it in by saying something like do it to me this way or can we try this and see how it feels like.  But in a passionate way in which he feels in charge and comfortable. You will see that he will be willing and up to most things then. I am a male and I speak as one man's opinion.
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If she doesn't enjoy sex maybe it is time to find out why.  Find out what she likes and dislikes and don't make the assumption that this is personally directed towards you.  It could be an issue that she believes only affects her and it doesn't.  Whatever the cause it is best to find out as many answers to your questions with her honestly and openly.  If there is no way to resolve your sex life then you will know whether or not you want to move on.
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Go for it babe. And while you're at it bring one home to me! Seriously though, I see nothing wrong with it. Just be careful. There's a lot you could learn from a pro. You probably don't need to pay for sex but think of the interesting things you could learn. Hmmm. Wish I had a ticket to Amsterdam!
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What?  Women who don't like oral?  *shakes head*  That is a phenomena that I will NEVER understand.\n\nAs for your question... I think maybe you should ask her to relax and enjoy it.  Tell her it's for her.  I don't know if that will help, but it's worth a shot I guess.\n\nPersonally I'd feel pretty insulted if my man didn't want to accept oral from me, cause it's something that I've only ever enjoyed doing to him.  If he said no it would be kinda hurtful.\n~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~\n\nOh wait!! I misunderstood.  You meant your male FRIENDS were saying to "get in there."  Well let me tell you this: Forget them.  Believe me; your woman is happier than theirs is.  Trust that.
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I don't agree with the whole theory, you shouldn't generalize the fact: I do enjoy penetration as much as the oral caresses, my man gives me and sleeping together. I think it really depends on how you developed your sexuality.\nOn the other hand, I agree on the fact that some girls think that there is a "normal" type of sexuality, they should have to be eligible for relationships! And then, they don't enjoy sex as much because it's not really their desire expressing itself!
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Hey man,\n\nSex is really not that simple.  Theoretically, yes.  But in practice not at all. \n\nIn order for the woman to feel an orgasm, she must be turned on.  This is best done by foreplay.  For me, foreplay includes a nice dinner that I cook and a nice bottle of wine to follow.  This sets the mood really really well.  \n\nKissing before sex is also a MUST.  Don't be afraid to do explore her mouth.  Suck out her bottom lip gently.  Bite on it gently.  French her.  Do whatever, but you have to kiss and get each other turned on.  \n\nTouching and exploring her body, both naked and clothed, is also a must.  I can't tell you anything specific really.  Just explore her curves and face and legs and wherever else you want to go with your hands.  A good lover's hands never stop moving.  \n\nNaked massages also get my woman REALLY turned on. \n\nAlso, mutual masturbation is very hot before sex.  It is an amazing sensation to pleasure your partner with your hands while they do the same.  \n\nOral is optional, but in my opinion is really nice.  \n\n\n\nI guess the biggest thing is that your partner needs to feel like you think she is sexy and that you really care about her in order for sex to be "good" for her.  Also, sex is not like Porn, where you walk up to her, bend her over, and f uck the shi t out of her.  You have to show her that you care about her.  And if you don't you shouldn't be f ucking anyway!
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You are placing too much importance on it. You make ME feel uncomfortable about it, and I'm a guy.\n\nObviously, you need a refresher course in 'No'. \n\nMaybe you need to be more slow, gradual, and patient. You can cause tremendous discomfort if you don't do it right, and stop chewing on her like a cheeseburger !!!\n\nor maybe she is afraid she might pee....\nso, stop assuming.
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Hey dude. Sex is the most pleasurable moment in a persons life. Since this is going to be ur 1st time. I wud suggest you not to get carried away woth it. Bcoz often it has been people who have been deprived of it try to make the most of out when subject to opportunity for the 1st time. Its a flavour which u need to taste in due course of time and can be enjoyed over longer and extended periods of time. For the 1st time I would suggest you to please try oral sex. Kissing, fondling with private parts, Intense kissing. Then when both u and ur girl are confident and cant hold it long. Just try watching some Soft Porn movies like "Body Shots", "Wild Things", "The Lover". These movies will guide you exactly how to go about sex @ the 1st shot.  All the best and Good Luck !!
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well dont be afraid to get right down init if you know what i mean. and i love feeling the tip of a toung slowly just barely touching me moving from my clit between my lips and slowly lightly lick the out side of her hole not allowing the toung to go in this would be a good way to start cause it feels good but almost like im being teased then when you do this for a few then just do it what is fun and enjoyable for you she will enjoy because you are enjoying her.  and the clit make it your best freind when doing oral licking and slightly sucking and you can use a finger also while doing this but if using a finger just go slow she will probly tell you when she wants you to go faster or she will let you know with her body language starts rocking her hips and all. but my favorite way is have her get on hands and knees like they doggy style position dont know why but this gets me there really fast and lick her from behind using the same techniques tho and maybe even lick her other while your there
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You should explore together. Since it's your first time, I think it should be slow and very sensual. Your first experience should be memorable as well. Anyone can have wild sex, that doesn't exactly figure the intimate feelings in though. I think you should both start slow and after you've gotten comfortable having s ex together, then get wilder and experiment more. Get the basics down first and trust me, alot men WITH prior experience "forget" that a woman actually has to be taken time with. Make the first time SPECIAL!!