I had a friend who said that he was going to kill himself. Five days later he said that he attemted it twice but didn't do it. I am pretty confused. Will you help me?
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people who say that are hurting but are either afraid to kill themselves are hoping life will get better but don't know how. If you can please try to get help for him .
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this needs professional understanding - i beleive your boyfreinds freind has a mental illness - if you are at all concerned with him maybe thinking of suicide - - please contact your local crisis care as soon as possible - if there is no local crisis care maybe suicide hotline - they will give you the information you need to deal with such a heavy situation - if you fear for yourself at all try talking to your boyfreind about him possibly visiting you instead - or talk to a trusted adult
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First of all, listen to the mystic man!  He is absolutely right.  Thoughts of suicide are frequent in times of desperation and anger.  It isn't a way out, it's a way into something that you know nothing about.  It feels like you are saying to the people who have failed you, "See!  Look what you finally did!!  Don't you feel terrible about the way you made my life so unhappy?"  It's a feeling like you will get the last word.  It won't be viewed that way by your friends and family.  They will say things like, "We did the best we could, we can't help it if he/she went crazy and did something like this.  He / she must have  been on drugs or in the wrong crowd."  Then you will never have your chance to prove them wrong!!    \n\nBe strong for now, we never know why we are put through the things that we are put through.  Later in life, maybe you can help some one in a position like yourself.  You can overcome what is going on now.  DO NOT let them win by breaking who you really are.  I am e-mailable, feel free to e-mail me if you wish, I just hate to see some one give up when you haven't really even started your life yet.   \n Please call one of the hotlines if you think you are in need to that one of the other people listed for you.  Just do not do anything rash that you will regret.  You may have a great future waiting for you!!   Most strong people who are very successful are that way for a reason.  You would be surprised at the people who over came the past and went on to have a life filled with success and happiness.
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I don't know.  I have been to the point of suicide.  I used to say how dumb could a person be to even consider such a thing. People that haven't been there don't truly understand.  I don't know about a truly painless method;but I do know the true pain; hurt; despair; and feeling of emptiness when a person deems suicide is the only option.  I took a lot of pills thinking I would just drift off to sleep-seemed easy enough-didn't work I woke up sometime later.  I am diabetic I have stopped my insulin and ate sugar-undying stomach pain and vomiting.  I don't believe there is anything easy or painless about suicide.  Even if one was to succed with a painless method-what is waiting for us after our self affliction.  There are many different opinions on the religious viewpoint as to life after death of a person who takes their own life.  I'm sure many people disagree and most that do probably have never been suicidal;for what it's worth my personl opinion is a truly suicidal person is not responsible for their actions.  Their mentality is not of their norm;if it were than why are their actions and personality straying from happy times in life.  If you are considering suicide-talk to someone please.  For some reason I am still on this earth; I simply believe its not my time or I would be gone.  It's a struggle sometime but life is worth living.
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Yep.  What is it with people that say "well, did you talk to him" or " no" or whatever.  i mean please, can't people see the big picture?  the guy was supportive cause he felt bad and guilty, not because he was genuinely concerned.  Someone who genuinely cares and is concerned makes sure that you lock your doors every night, that  you're okay every day.  I repeat, EVERY DAY.  Not selectively on weekends!
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I hate to be the one to break the news to you but, I have no choice. I have felt exactly what you're talking about. There will come a breaking point where you decide whether you want to live in the present or die in the past. I'm sure you've had your share of sleepless nights and anxiety attacks. But you have the power if you take it back to pick up the pieces and move on. You may never be the same, but why would you want to be anyway? Hasn't this guy wasted enough of your life and taken enough of it away? I promise if you just get up and put your feet on the floor and walk out into your life it won't be long before all this just feels like a dream you had long ago. Get out, be seen, find better, move on.
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Just reassure him that you love him, and what would you do without him, leave it at that, and he may realize that he not only hurt himself. he needs professional help, and needs to know that know one is worth suicide, why dint people realize this???? if they can so freely love you one minute, and then as quick change their minds, they are not worth it, especially if over a new person in their life, and the pattern may continue, he should have realized, it is not worth it. i hope he Will recover without too much damage..good life...........
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From one who has attempted suicide twice--your revelation is wacko.  We can't know something God doesn't want us to know.  God is omnipotent (all powerful).  You can't out think God.  And by the way most weird revelations, if they don't match up with the word of God are straight from Satan himself.  People commit suicide because they fell hopeless and helpless and Satan wants them to feel that way.  He wants you dead.
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I was in a similar situation years ago.  I posed this same question to a Buddhist monk and he thought about it a while and said to say that if you kill yourself, I must die too.  The problem with that is if the lady is mentally unstable, she might take you up on that.  Better get to a counselor with her to work through her issues.
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Some would say that even one time a day is dangerous.  But, since I am currently dealing with a bout of depression myself, perhaps I can help here.  Lately, I find myself thinking more, and more about what it would be like if I was not around anymore.  I used to pretty much welcome death.  I would say I am not afraid to die because I have already lived a full life.  That was until a few weeks ago.  My best friend from college died from natural causes.  It really hit me hard.  He was the first person I had known that was my same age that died.  It made me take stock of my own life.  It made me see that I HAD NOT lived a full life yet.  True, I still am depressed, but it took the death of my best friend to show me how precious life really is.  I am not even sure if You are thinking about suicide, or you were asking for somebody else.  If you are thinking this way, let me tell beg of you, don't give in to your feelings and try to end your life.  You may not realize it now, but there really is so much to live for.  It is good that you are at least taking about the subject with other people.  It is more worrysome if you keep your emotions bottled up inside.  If you feel comfortable, try to takl things out with your friends.  If you don't want to talk to them, you can always email me. jam961@yahoo.com  I am willing to listin to you if you need to vent.  Always remember, you are not alone in depression.  It affects more people than you realize.  I wish you the best of luck, I hope you can find peace without thinking of killing yourself anymore.  When things get rough, remember you have friends here at yahoo answers.
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I gather from your details that this has actually happened. In truth, there are a lot of signs that can tell you that this might happen, however, there are many times that the person doesn't really exhibit the signs & just does it. I don't know how well I'll do this but I'll try to explain:\n\nI've read studies that say that, if a person wants to be stopped from committing suicide they will do things to tip off their friends & family but, if a person really does want to do it, they just do.\n\nI don't know how much weight I give to this theory, however, in every situation that I have had a relatively close perspective on, the person in question went in one of these two directions. In two of the cases, no one was aware of any problems & there had never been any outward sign of depression.\n\nWhat makes it hard for the friends left behind is that, as a friend, you feel like you didn't do something that you should have to be there for her as a friend when, in fact, there may not have been anything that you *could* have done to help. No matter how hard you try, you can't make someone better or happier if they don't wish to be so.\n\nThis may not help you much but I can share something from my own life that might serve as a corrallary to what you are going through. My father passed away at only 52 from a massive coronary. He'd been back & forth to the doctor from years & been told what he needed to do & not do but he just wouldn't listen. He was remarried with two boys but I - his only natural child - was the only one he ever confided in about doctor's visit, not feeling well & such. Well, when he died, I knew I'd done my best to get him to take care of himself but, after ten years of living with his death, I finally realized that he just didn't want to give up those things that made him happy. I could cajole, complain, nag & beg but I couldn't make him realize that his long life was worth giving up some things. It made me realize that we really can;t force someone to do anything because, if they truly want something they will find a way to get it, even behnd your back. Unfortunately, this is just the way life is & sometimes you can't help someone.\n\nIn your case, it sounds like she didn;t want to be here for some reason & felt so strongly about it that she took care of the issue herself. There probably weren't really any signs to see or else her parents would likely picked up on something as well. You said she seemed to have it all together; you might have been seeing exactly what she wanted you to see. You can't beat yourself up over it - though we always do when we grieve - if she didn't give you any signs then there was really nothing you could have done.\n\nGood luck & be gentle with yourself through this time...
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I have been surrounded by suicide over the past few years.  As MASH (not that the song was created around MASH, but still MASH made it popular) says: "Suicide is Painless", but only for the one doing the act.  Everyone around that person is affected as myself and many people around me have been.  Now that could be "selfish" on my part to be thinking of myself and not the person who was suffering, but that's all I can do when they are no longer here.\n\nIf I was the one on the other side of the fence, I always wonder why I wouldn't be thinking "well if I have nothing to lose, I may as well live life as if I have nothing to lose and just do whatever I want to do."  I have never been able to completely put myself in any of my friend's situations, though.  It is not mine or anyone else's right to judge the person who is so depressed that they feel they are doing themselves and the world right by removing themselves from the situation, but the "selfishness" might come in not thinking about anyone except yourself at the time that you are going to take your life.\n\nIf there is someone saying that it was "selfish" to take your life after you have done it, then there is someone who cared enough for you that you had reason to stay alive.  Think about that before even THINKING of taking your life.
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Truth? I tried to kill myself. I was about 30 years old. My cheating husband called and told me he wasn't coming home that night. She was 17, and she wasn't the first or the last.)  I was so depressed I was screaming in pain inside. I just needed the pain to stop, so I took every pill in the house and chased it down with a fifth of Tequila. I remember praying and telling God that I wasn't sure if suicide was a sin and if it was would he please forgive me.  Then I lost consciousness. Later my cheating husband said he just had a bad feeling and came home to check on me. He found me having non stop seizures and called 911. While they were pumping my stomach, I died from a heart arrythmia. They tried several times and finally revived me. I was on a heart monitor in ICU for 3 days after that, but I don't remember any of it. The only thing I remember is having to have my bed linens changed several times until they finally put tubes in everywhere. No bright light, no memories, no feelings at all. Just like blinking out of existence. I guess God didn't approve, because it was SO unlikely that my husband, (now my EX), would suddenly decide he had to come home. I didn't feel very lucky, since I was still very depressed. I still wanted to die because of the pain, but I realized God didn't want me to die. Later, "Mr. Wrong" divorced me. It was the best thing anyone ever did for me, because after that I was alone and I prayed and told God that I was lonely, and I had tried but I realized I couldn't make it alone. About 3 weeks after that I met my current husband. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, and we have now been married 16 years, and we are still very happy. The main lesson I learned from these 2 events in my life is that God hears my prayers and answers them. I know that sometimes the answer is "NO", but I know he is there and he listens.\n\nAlso, I lost consciousness and almost drowned in a pool when I was about 7. I was swimming near the bottom and a boy jumped off the diving board onto my head. My head hit the pool bottom and I was almost knocked unconscious. I came to and tried to make it to the top of the water, but got really disoriented when I was about 3 feet from the top, thought I was in the air and took a deep breath, but it was of water, not air. Then I lost consciousness. The next thing I remember was waking up on my side coughing and vomiting. The lifeguard tolld me I almost drowned. I was grateful for the lifeguard, and I felt small, vulnerable, and helpless. Plus my chest, throat, ears, eyes, and sinuses were sore and stinging. Somebody wrapped me in a towel and I had to wait until I could walk. My parents weren't home and they had no way to notify them, so I had to ride my bike home with my little brother on the fender, and I don't think I ever told my parents. I was afraid they would never let me go to the pool again.
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Even I would not be happy, and I don't even know you.\n\nI am dealing with a suicide of a very close loved one. You want to know what that does to me? Nightmares. Horrible guilt - even though, intellectually, I know it's not my fault - guilt is something almost all people feel when someone in their lives kills themselves. Depression. Tears. Anger. \n\nThat's all that killing yourself would do for the people in your life. Suicide is a selfish action. I suggest that you examine your motives for it a lot more closely, because it's really more about how you feel than how they feel. And please get help.
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Should we be worried about you doing something to yourself, or do you have a health condition that might cause your death?\n\nIf you're considering suicide, PLEASE speak to someone.
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whoa NELLY! You need some help dude. Seriously! CALL AND GET HELP NOW. Im worried about you! SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER! PLEASE DONT DO THAT!
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you should go to a conselor (sp?) i've tried to kill myself a couple times but my conselor convinced me that i'm needed to help animals and if i kill myself all these poor animals will die cuz i won't be there to save them (animals are my passion) also i got prozac. it's really good for depression.