they live with me and im only 22 so i don't know how to punish kids any ideas
214989
let her keep doin it!!\nsome day someone will kick her ass and she wont do it again\nexperience is the best way to learn things
22501
Be creative, be fun, be caring, be patient!\n\nCome up with ideas, fun things to do, be active with the kids, sometimes, sacrifice a little energy, kids love it when you can keep up with them, but you need to know when to say no, you can't teach them it's okay to just jump and climb on people. \n\nThey're little boys, get some trucks, get some games, get some movies that are kid appropriate, most likely a cartoon about racing, or legos, something of that nature. nothing controversial because it's a church family. You want something that's not going to upset the parents if they see it.\n\n--Get them involved in drawing, or sitting in a circle and play catch. observe the way things are dealt with in a preschool and a kindergarden, and mimic some of the teachers. smile a lot, but don't smile when they do something wrong, speak quietly, and tell them to calm down. don't yell, ever. \n\nMake sure to keep a soft expression, even when you're upset, you don't want the kids scared of you, but you want them to listen. read them a book before they go to bed. (( 3 and 4 might not be so easy to read too)) ...the 3 and 4 yr old will probably be extremely energetic, so when it's time for them to go to bed, you might have to put up a small struggle, but don't give in, and don't be harsh. \nThe best thing to do is to get them tired out, put them to bed, or close their doors and turn off the lights, if they're scared of the dark, use a night light. - but keep the doors closed. if the kids see things that they can do to stay awake, they'll do them. be fun during the day, and boring when it's bed time. \n\n\nPatience and love is the key to children. and, relax! have fun.
571507
Aww...  I had this same problem.  Around the same ages as you and your cousins (only they were my niece and nephew).  Honestly, the best way to get them to stop bugging you, is to ignore them (I know you've heard it before).  But, it works.  Once they see that they're not getting through to you..  they'll back off.  Sooner, or later they'll leave you alone.  If this doesn't work, try saying something to their parents.  I'd say to both the kids and their mom and dad that you need time alone (which all 11 year old girls do), and that you're willing to play and hang out with them.  Just when you want to.  Good luck!
427094
I would just pack up and leave. Stay in school and keep working or stay out of trouble. If the parents do try to get her back she can refuse and say no and give the reasons . Tell them you are going through emancipation. You are to old to start any court proceedings because you will be 18 to soon. Keep working ,go to school and stay out of trouble and you won't have any problems. If your parents say come home tell them to shove it .Threaten the parents with the police. As long as you have your act together and are safe no one will bother you. Like Nike says JUST DO IT.
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if i was the parent of these boys,i would sue the school system, for making the enviroment unsafe for them to go.make sure you file a report at the police station and press charges against the boys who hit your nephew and broke his jaw, they are responsible for all his medical bills and pain and suffering...get an attorney, you won't have a problem winning this.you know we are forced to send our children to school,we pay out our asses in taxes,,,to send our children to this kind of enviroment...if you can not be given security that your children is going to be safe, i would insist on a tutor be sent to your home...don't let this go...big time neglect here ...
199332
Call CPS and ask for custody... the only way to help them is remove them from the household.
116685
Maybe you should tell your neighbor about the kids but while you are telling make sure you don't have an attitude. Just tell them calmly(if u can)about the situation.
598514
Report them for criminal damage and anti-social behaviour.  Try to get a videotape of them causing the damage if you can.   If successful they could be fined.  Be careful though, if they only get a caution, they may be back with a grudge against you.
535633
Sorry, honey, they are your parents. Obey them. It sucks, lots of things in life do, but there will always be rules set by those above you, and, sadly, you must follow them.\nNo one ever said life is fair.
516813
Talk with your parents about this, and perhaps the schools guidance councellor.  The children there seem quite unruly and I think what you describe only happens when there is no adult supervision around.  They may have no clue it's going on ... except for the broken items you mention.  You need to let adults know there's a problem .. start with your own parents and follow their guidance.
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if they havent been raised sternly until now, and u all of a sudden want to start disciplining them, it wont work. u have to build a relationship with them first, so that they trust you enough to actually listen to you. if you have always disciplined and lovingly but sternly told them the way they should go, then u wont have any problems just speaking to them about it. telling them why the sites they go on...etc... are not good and why they should avoid them and all that.\n\nbeing a single mum is so hard, but its rewarding when u do it right. u wont always be perfect, everyone makes mistakes, but dont beat urself up over it, just be there for them and be interested in there lives, asking them questions and encouraging them. i dont really have any special advice on autistic children, ive never dealt with them, ive heard they are beautifully natured children! but if you want some more advice on being a good mum, read my answer to this question:\n(copy and paste into address bar):\nhttp://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtmHUqHpVhIE3lQ1wMgWiN7g5gt.?qid=20060613081451AAWu0Lh\n\n:-)
387350
Kids can be jerks, and they are just doing it to upset you, so don't. Just ignore them and keep thinking...you have less than 2 years to go and you are out of there!
155411
Show them that actions have rewards and consequences and each individual is responsible for their own actions. Teach them this by setting clear rules with clear consequences when not followed and rewards when they are. It's really as simple as "if you want me to do this, then I expect you to do that" or "I let you have xyz freedom and you didn't follow the rules, so you will have to re-earn xyz freedom"\nMy friend has a teen son who repeatedly takes her car and brings it home hours late without even calling her, I told her to tell him " I'm sorry, you are not allowed to use my car, because I can't depend on you to get it home on time. Find another way to go" If she would show him that she planned to stick to it, he would learn. But she never stood by any rules, that's why he does her that way. You don't have to be mean, just firm and consistent.
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If you were to call the police they would probably just talk to the other kids parents which would either solve the problem, but from the sound of it end up making it worse. If you're in an apartment complex I would just move away and maybe even save money by getting a move in special. If you're in a lease you could talk to the managers and see if they could let you break it with the circumstances. You might even try asking the property management what they could do. The best thing would be to just avoid having your child leave the apartment when those other kids are out or maybe even just asking them to stop doing it. Usually if you confront them and are nice about it they will stop. Most kids are good inside they just act tough in front of other kids. Try appealing to them as adults and not threatening them. The worst thing would be if they do something worse out of anger. You could also have your son take taekwondo lessons to help him defend himself and give him more self confidence. \n\nAs for whoever left you a message saying your son deserves to be hit and you're bad mother, they're probably the type to go around hitting kids. Ignore that, you're trying to fix the problem and that's more than most people do!\n\nHope that helps! \n\n-Derek
73557
tell your father about this. Let the children do what they want. They will have a bored point which make them stop themselves to do such that things.
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Easy. Grow a pair of balls and tell her that she has 90 days to move out unless she pays rent. Tell here that when her 90days are up she will either pay the rent or you will throw her stuff out in the yard. \n\nIf she doesnt pay throw all of her stuff in the front yard and change the locks. \n\nIf you threaten her but do not follow through with it she will never respect you. \n\nBTW I am 25 maried w/ kids of my own. (Notice I can see it from her perspective as far as age is concerned and yours as far as a parents perspective is concerned
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Contact some of their parents if possible.\nIf you get no satisfaction from them, keep calling the police until they get tired of you and approach the kids and scare them off.\nDon't keep their ball unless it has damaged your property and you are holding it as evidence when you report to the police. Withholding property which you knowingly belong to another is criminal. It's called conversion.