Are you afraid of solitude?
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Women being prejudicial of "nice guys", I hate that more than aything else right now.
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The first factor of being afraid of being alone is the age. If you are already in your late 30's, so you are afraid of being alone forever. But if you are still young and still afraid of being alone, that is an indication that you have a kind of phobia and that can be treated by consulting a psychiatrist. It doesn't mean that you are insane if you seeks help from a Psychiatrist. You just need to open up and free yourself from any fears..\nHope this helps you.. goodluck...
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You have an underlying fear that you haven't resolved.
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yes i do very often. i'm a single child and i'm 18. i feel lonely even when there are people around. i think it's a psychological problem. but i always get over it. i try to find something to do to keep me busy like reading, renting a movie, painting or chatting with people on the net. with time i got used to loneliness and now when i'm surrounded by a lot of people for a long time i feel ill at ease coz i ended up liking loneliness actually.. loneliness can be good or bad. it depends how peopl react to it...
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Well then you're not going ALONE; are you?
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Ocean, first off, don't listen to your friends. Just because society pushes the idea of being involved or married doesn't mean you need to buy into it. Being single is fast becoming a popular alternative lifestyle.\nNow, I will say that if you desire to ALWAYS be alone and live like a hermit, then yes, you might have some form of social anxiety disorder.  However, this does not sound like the case.  If you are fine, happy, and truly comfortable with the lifestyle you have chosen, then stick with it.  Don't let others push you into a lifestyle you are not happy with.
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wow! totally. i actually just posted a question because i feel depressed and i just moved to a really cold city that has long winters. part of it for me is a need for sunlight and being outdoors- less sunlight in winter and its harder to be outside so much. i am a social butterfly- but in this weather i get really hermit-like and want to be left alone. i know how you feel.
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I am a loner at heart also. I don't mind being in social situations, I just find that people tend to piss me off. I find that i would rather spend my time on the internet, playing with my dogs, cooking, or watching tv. I do like to have dinner parties though. I find that if small groups of one to three people are the best way to have fun. But i would rather sit at home alone then go out to a bar or club.
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1) We can never flee the misery that is within us.\n\nIt took me a long while to realize that I cannot escape myself.  Many moons ago, I had an ex-girlfriend tell me that I was looking for escape.  I agreed with her but I was not sure from what I was seeking escape.  Many moons later, in a hotel bar I sat drinking gin with a woman I met that weekend.  As the night progressed we began waxing philosophical about our lives.  After having drank enough to clear my mind, I had an epiphany about my own life, which I managed to slur in her ear: "You cannot escape yourself.  No matter where you run you are still there."  It was then that I realized what I had been trying to escape was something internal to myself, a melancholic spirit.  I no longer try to escape that part of me, for that spirit has been, remains today, and will continue to be part of who I am.
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You might have a phobia of some sort. \n\nPsychologists recommend "desensitization.' You do it by exposing yourself, a little step at a time, to your source of phobia, until such time when you no longer have the phobia. \n\nIf you're scared of being home alone for more than an hour, try to be alone and do enjoyable things for an hour, then for an hour and a half, then for two hours, and so on and so forth, until such time that you no longer harbor any fear of being left home alone.
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Yes, sometimes one just needs to be alone. It is great to have a partner to share moments with, but sometimes, it is very satisfying to be by yourself, make your own decisions and just please yourself!
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Are you alone...yes....
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See Below:\n\n"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. "
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be afraid be very afraid
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Personally, I think the sort of person who is immediately loud and outgoing with someone they've never met is a nuisance.  I start off quiet and gain confidence and a develop a rapport with people over time.  If you just jump in there and talk to them like you're best buddies, people (English people anyway), find it irritating and intrusive.\n\nIf you feel shy or awkward in social situations and don't feel you can join in, then maybe you would benefit from being more outgoing.  But you can't just flick a switch and suddenly be more relaxed with people.  When I was at college, I was painfully shy.  As you grown older, you are thrown into situations where you have no choice but to ignore the impulse to hide in the corner.   If you don't, then you'll end up with no friends, no girlfriend, a crappy job and a dull life.  The worse part is that people mistake shyness for rudeness, so as well as feeling isolated everyone will think you're an idiot!\n\nAs you get older, you realise that your life is defined by your relationships with others.  No one lived a happy, fulfilling life by avoiding human contact.  If you're shy, then the first part of building a relationship with others is mostly about acting more confident that you are, asking people questions rather than silently ignoring them, and being friendly without being pushy or presumptuous.  It'll soon come naturally.
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when your in a safe place where you have no fear wear a blindfold. it sounds silly but it really will help plus it gives you a sense you never even knew you had. the more you do it the better you will understand that there is nothing to fear but fear itself.
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Of course.  Fear is our way of making sure we plan and cover all areas of a problem.  It keeps us safe.  I say just enjoy your new found freedom.  Express yourself, and maybe keep a written diary of what you are feeling, and how you handle it.  This will help you control the fear.  Don't let fear win though.  Remember it's just a tool to make sure we have covered all the bases.  Use it, don't let it use you.  Good luck and have fun.  Living alone will be well worth this small amount of discomfort.   P.S.  Pepto Bismol works wonders to settle the stomach.  If you get rid of the physical aspect, the mental ones don't seem so bad.