I work in a small firm and there is a woman here who at first befriended me. She has told me that she is having an affair and she wanted to bring him to my flat after work for drinks.  I said no and since then she ignores me and is very jeolous of me.  I do not like her and never have and am sick of these stupid games.  What do I do??
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Allow her to ignore you and be jealous of you.  What harm can it do to you?  Just go about your daily routine as if she did not exist.  She just wanted to to bring her man to your flat so they could have some place to spend time together without fear of getting caught and when you ssaid no she found that you were of no use to her and that you had higher morals.  So she ignores you because she's a selfish B and you won't cater to her, and she's jelous because you're better than her.  Just use her as a daily reminder of the good person you are.
190723
If this person is giving you a hard time dont let it bother you. Go there for you. The woman sounds like she is the one with the problem. All your trying to do is make your confirmation, right?
600002
Its a Go Go from me! 51 oh please he is old enough to be her father! Dude needs some bashing from his wife! He deserves it! Tell your friend to be strong and keep ignoring him and if he still follows her at work etc tell her to report it as sexual harassment. Once he is reported he for sure will keep his distance!
623640
Ok, it is time to play the game "spy's are us".  You have worked with this company and made friends who will support you.\nUse that to your advantage.  She is going to be trained by someone you know, eat lunch with someone you know, take breaks with someone you know.\nComing from a female, all females talk and talk and more talk.  So give a person enough rope and they will hang themselves.  Let your friends be your eyes and ears for you.  \nYour husband might be right and they are only friends.  You won't know anything if you get her fired.  So hang in there and bite the bullet.  You learn a lot playing the I am a dummy game too.  \nBest of luck to you and hope all goes well.
286009
She's playing games. And games aren't fun when they involve someones emotions.\nPerhaps she lives with her strict parents/strange relative, maybe its a work number? But probably not. If she wasn't willing to at least sort of tell you why you shouldn't call - forget her - she's not worth it. You deserve better.\nIf she's just trying to make you chase her - she should grow up and realise this type of behaviour only makes boys run - the other way!
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It is your responsibility to report the situation,she is not trustworthy.Let the chips fall where they may or you might be implicated in her indiscretions.\n  Don't confront her,or she will drag you down with her,and accuse you of "sexual harrasment"..you don't want that tag..women who like to climb ladders in a company love to use that as a way of achieving higher success,and use you to do it . \n  Don't get caught up in her lying world by trying to be a nice guy. \n  Nice guys finish last.
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it isn't what you think that it was.  perhaps she was just being friendly and opened you up for the purpose of feeling her way around the office, people tend to do that either when they're new on the job and aren't sure what the office politics are there or when they're more seasoned and want to ensure that the newer person isn't any type of a threat or will give them any problems.  you can never really trust a relationship with someone who has been at that same job for years without first seeing how things work outside of the office first.  \n\nthe fact that she says that she is focused on her work either means that she doesn't see what the advantage to the friendship would be for her or she feels that the friendship would cause her issues on the job later on.  what type of job is this anyway?  because if it's an office job or a call center or something i would just keep it moving, yet keep that door open just in case you need that friendship in the future.  you can never tell ...
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she's playing the game... give it some time, be there and just let her know you'll be there as a friend(for now! but don't tell her that part) then after a couple months tell her if she does not take to the next level you have to stop seeing her as a friend, "it's to hard" she'll come running right to you! promise! i played the same game and that's how my husband got me, 10 yrs ago!
608806
What a jerk. Ignore him. If he persists then try to explain the meaning of the word harrassment. If he was a work colleague he would be facing dismissal for this behaviour (or you could sue the company for failing to protect you from his harrassment).\nDon't let him get you down.
163550
She doesn't want you she's having an affair with one of your buddies.
486719
Ignore her for a few days and stop doing all the stuff you usually do i.e. picking her up after work or call her every 2 times a day, go to parties without her. Send the message hey if you can live without me so can I. \n\nIts harsh BUT that is one of the way to get attention.  If she enjoys all the things you do to ignore her, then my freind something is wrong with your relationship, she might be seeing someone else
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Just confront her with the fact you know.  If she's doing a good job otherwise, let it go, but tell her you can't tolerate any more situations like that.\n\nYou can't mix "business with pleasure".  How would you feel if it were any other employee?  What would you do if it were any other employee?
53800
Joe, I can relate to your situation. My husband is in work release and right now he is accusing me of the exact same thing. Just when I think that we have gotten past this something else pops up and we start this mess all over again. Are you positive that there is an affair going on? Speak to your wife in a loving tone and really let her know that this is bothering you. Let her also know that you won't stand for any lies. If she is unfaithful then the pressure of you being nice is going to make her feel guilty that she will admit to her wrong. Just so you know, I have never ever cheated on my husband and I wouldn't ever because of the love and the respect that I have for him and myself. Marriage is a give and take and both husbands and wives need to do this more and more. Good luck and may God bless you through this journey.
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Well she probably hang with you out side of work cause she dont want people saying crap about her. Sounds like she could possibly like you or she just might be lonely. Why do you want to tell her to F off i mean you said you liked her and that you were good friends. I would just stay friends you both enjoy each others company so.. Well just decide what you wanna do. Good Luck.
98540
Your boss is crossing the line.  She should stay professional and not get involved with co-workers.  It doesn't matter if you like her back or not.  There's a level of professionalism that should be in tact in every business.  It sounds like she's interested in you, however I warn you- don't get involved.  As a manager, she's crossing the line.  Getting involved romantically at the work place is a no-no.  Mixing business and pleasure is a quality that nobody in upper management should posess.
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You DO have legal recourse, regardless of anything you may have done to pizz her off.  She might just blow away if you were to confront her and answer her questions and take her hostile comments so she she could get it out of her system.  Then again, she could cut the brake cables on your car.  Obviously she is obsessed with knowing fine details about who you are, and is in a poor state of mental health.  Such people can be very dangerous.  Get in touch with local law enforcement now and ask them what can be done.  Your coworkers are witnesses.  The police are there to protect you, not to judge you.
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It's really not your choice - it's hers, good decision or bad.  \nYou advised her with your opinion, she knows where you stand.  Now it's time to stay out of her business - if it bothers you that much, perhaps you need to find a new friend.