sumdays b4 he told me in the beginning,i mean when v met,he fell in lov with me he wanted 2 propose me bt that time i ws unaware of all this so i said him brother, bt now i really feel that only he is that man with whom i cn live my life , i dont know wat to do, one side thr is society n on the other side thr is my life , to whom i should choose?
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What is your opinion about him, forget about RAKHI.\nIf you have also such feeling like him, Then you have misutilised RAKHI or Not understand the  meaning of RAKHI by the you people.
572138
This is how I feel about "getting" a man to marry you... I would be insulted if I felt as though a guy was marrying me out of pressure or because he feels obligated. Best thing to do is talk about what you want and go for it with someone that wants the same things.\n\nYou are young, and you have plenty of time. If you are sure that this is a guy you can spend your life with and you believe that he really does want the same things you want - stick around for a while, stop the pressuring, and see where things go. \n\nIf things don't work out, then next time, make sure that you have someone that wants the same out of life as you do, and within the same genera time frame, before you get too involved.
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well u are right, they both are important. But think about it, if your brother dosent want u to like him, then clearly its for a good reason. maybe he sees another side of him that u dont see when they are together at practice. if he was a good guy i think he wouldnt mind you two being together. i suggest u talk to your brother and ask him why it is that he doesnt want u to be with him. If he gives a good reason then listen to him, if he says somethin dumb or he doesnt even know the reason why then just tell him how u feel about the guy and he should understand that he means alot to you. hopefully, he'll come around.
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It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there.  He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did.  Have you tried giving it time to get over him?  I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention.  I feel sorry for him and for you.  I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today.  Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both.  You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did.  If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not.  What does that tell you?
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it is hard to say who this guy is.....maybe he is your "perfect" man that you would love to be with.....maybe he is your soul mate that you will meet in the future.....maybe he is just a dream and you shouldn't dwell on it........i wish i could help you more but you are really young to be "in love" and have lots of time to find your mate!!!!
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you had the answer in the question itself "he makes me feel comfortable and warm and loved. " ther is always a conflict between the mind and the heart. your heart makes you belive you are in love and you need him. but ur mind thinks differently. in your case it is the hight level of interdependence you two hav created made you feel that way. \nwell. i gues it is time for you to move on, give other men a chance. and always strognly belive. "someone some where is made for you" pray that God showws you direction towards the right one. best o!!!
393355
You're half way there! Good for you to realize this now!!  Strength and self-esteem will  sky-rocket!! Then, when you're ready..you'll chose a much better man.
268808
sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
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Hey have u ever heard the term opposites attract.... sounds vague isnt it because u enjoy with the like minded guy more... but someday it will get boring sharing similar  thoughts all the time because sometimes u just feel like getting out of your world into a new world. In your case i would suggest as a friend to play a waiting game for some more days. Your heart will surely give you an answer and it would not take more than a week. All the best.
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I am glad you asked this question and I am sorry that you are dealing with this.  Being a male myself and dealing with pressures of life I know what he is going through.\n\nThis is men are:\nwe are defined by what we do for example I don't introduce myself as man who does nursing I say that I am a nurse.\n\nwe feel that we need to be the providers, go out and support ourselves and our family.\n\nwe want to feel loved and accepted.  Here is where we sometimes get confused.  We want your love, but sometimes don't know how to say it because we don't want to be vulnerable.\n\nI am afraid that the best answer for this is the very one you don't want to here.  You can try the ultimatum, but I am almost certain he will choose the alternative because he confused right now.  He has a lot to think about and maybe right at this time he really needs a friend.
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Yes, you are still young and believe me what you feel for this boy is not love. You need to move on with your life, and definitely, for future reference, never be the "other woman". I hope this helps.
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this is a very hard one and i av 2 be careful what i recommend. but in the final anlyses the decision rests with you.do u really really love him enough to risk jeorpardising your new life? is it not because you compare everyone unfairly with him that is why you av not found someone else? has he really changed or YOU really want him to have changed? If he has not changed do you forsee a future with him?make the choice, nobody can or will for you
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it is not up to anyone here to make that descision for you, however you need to ask yourself "Is this person going to get me where I want to be in life? or are they going to hinder me?" "Is this person going to be there for me when I need them? or are they going to leave me in the lurch?" "can I spend the rest of my life with this person?"\n\nif you can answer these all with yes then go for it but I think you already know the choice you need to make. and I think it is the right one.
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Do you want to spend your life pleasing him, sacrificing your own wants and needs?  Do you want to be walked all over?  Stand up for yourself, be yourself.  He doesn't accept you for who you are or what you do, someone else will.  Enjoy life the way you want to, don't let someone else shape you into something you are not.  Would you ask him to change three things?  What do you think his response would be?  One sided relationships ALWAYS fail.
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Wow, the answers you got so far sure cover the spectrum! I'm always amazed by those who are so quick to tell you exactly what to do, especially not knowing you or all the details of your situation. Only you know those, and only you can decide what course of action to take. I can sympathize, I'm in the exact same situation only in reverse. I call my wife my room mate because you don't usually fool around with a room mate. We just grew apart and she has nothing to do with me. Like you, I am hurt, angry and very lonely. I too struggled with this dilemma. If you're like me, the rest of your life is probably pretty good. You're just not happy, lacking what you desperately need. You sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of your marriage, your life, and everything you've built with this man. You also have regrets, many people marry thinking the other will change. When they don't, it's a disappointment. People only force change if they want to. he is who he is. For me, I've met a very special lady. I'm tired of being miserable. I believe everything happens for a reason. Being with another woman may finally help me see which course of action to take. I honestly have no idea how this will play out. As for you, you have to decide what you want out of life.
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I deeply reason with you girl but I strongly believe that you have not yet stumbled on the man for you. I think you should still open up your heart and be ready to love again, but this time do more of the study at the initial stage and promise you will find a man who will respect your principles as well as love you. Just open up your heart and real love will come your way.
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If he truly would of cared about you, then he would of understood, that is a brave and completely honest thing to say to him and for that I applaud you. Just focus on you and learn to love yourself and then find someone who is worthy of you and your love. that person will be in your life when you are truly ready, take your time. til then explore life within yourself. good luck