Ok this will sound insane;  I gave up sex over a decade ago.  The reason was not religeous nor medical.  I am not gay (that would probably be easier on me).   I suppose the one thing I never planned on is that i would quit dating and forget how to get a date.  Sounds wierd but it is a hell of a lot easier to get a date when you are twenty and party than when you are thirty three and don't .  I don't even know where to start.  I don't go to dance clubs or bars as alcohol and i have a bad relationship.  I don't go to church because organized religeon is not my thing.  How in the worl do I meet a woman nowadays.  How in the nine hells do I tell her how i spent the last decade?
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OK, first may I ask why you gave up sex. So bars aren't your thing, mine either. Me & alcohol don't have a very good relationship either. Have you thought about a co-worker, or going to a very laid-back & upscale lounge sometime afterwork. you may be able to meet someone there. And about telling her about what you have been up to the past 10 years, don't right at first. You seem nice, but she may think you are a freek if you tell her that just after meeting her. Just stay cool & be confident when you meet her. Good luck sweety!!
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That is a hard time for you. Been there, 3 times\n1/ list things you like doing, or are interested in\n2/ look up clubs and groups that do these things, \n3/ if you have at least 1 friend that you can persuade to go to any/all of them, go.\nif not, go yourself, you don't have to stay if uncomfortable, remember, some of the people there possibly went for the same reason you did.\nGive it time, Parents Without Partners are good places for your age group. There are others, look up the net\ngood luck.
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Have you ever tried to remember the name of a movie, & you thought as hard as you could about it, but couldn't remember, only to have it come to you later when you weren't thinking about it at all?  I know, odd question, but I'm illustrating a point.  I think a serious relationship is often the same way.  For some odd reason, when you are concentrating so hard on trying to find someone, it won't happen.  Then, when you change the focus of your life to something else, like work or school, often times someone just falls in your lap.  Careful that they aren't too heavy, though, as that could lead to bruising.  Seriously, though, you sound like a great girl who may just need a little more time to get over your past relationship, & get your focus in the present instead of the past.  Try to do some things with work or school that may get your mind off your ex & men in general for a little while.  Then, don't be surprised if someone walks right up to you & asks you out on a date.  God has a way of providing for our needs, even if they conflict with our desires & we don't even know it.  When you're ready, the right man will come to you.  Best of luck.
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you know if i tell you someone it wont help you much but i have an idea ......why dont you go into the park with a coffe and a magazine(nad maybe if you have bring a dog) many older women like to go there on a sunday morning....and maybe you come into a talk with one and there you can meet each other personly.....if you want to have a date just like that go to go onto one of these sites but i would think it would be better the idea with the park........\n\nPerfectMatch.com\nwww.PerfectMatch.com      Share your Life with Your Soul Mate. Start with Our Free Profile.\nDating\n\nwww.Lavalife.ca      Join Lavalife Free Today and Chat with Single Men and Women!
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sorry for that rude answre. Give your self time. the dating scene is a little faster. I think if you go on a few dates, very simple ones, like coffee or something then you will get used to being out there again. It's scary and awkward but once you get the hang of it you will adjust!\n Good luck!
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What do you mean what should you do?  Is there a real question here or are you wanting people to 'judge you' for this behavior?  My Answer - talk to a counselor or a Priest to find out why you are seeking sex as a replacement for love, because you are not old enough to experience love.  PLEASE go get some help!
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Never had one!  I have only dated 1 man in my life!!! He asked me out on a date when I was 25.( I had never been on a date before) and we had a great time! We have been together as a couple for almost 8 years and been married for 5 years. And I was a virgin when we got married! I was 28.
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Don't give up. There are books out there to help you. Research the internet and look under sexual relationships. Good luck. I'm sorry, but further info would be too graphic.
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here's teh deal the way I see it;\n\nmarriages are failing faster than ever before, I believe that the reason is people are not taking the time to get to know eachother like they used to.  \n\nIt takes a very long time to get to really know a person good enough to decide if you can live with them for the rest of your life.  Most people (99.5%) go straight to bed after the 1st to 3rd date; when this happens you find out if you are SEXUALLY compatable with a person and it becomes the most important part of the relationship.  \n\nProblem is, even though we all wish we could, a relationship involves much more than sex and you can't spend the next 40 years of your life f****ing.\n\nFor this reason, I am starting to beleive that it is a very good idea to wait for a LONG time before becoming sexually involved in a serious relationship.  Get to know th eperson on a spiritual and emotional level.  \n\nWhat do they do when they first get out of bed in the morning, have you ever seen her without makeup, have you ever seen him around kids, what is his church like, how does her mom cook.  THese are all questions you need to know as they will help you to better choose a partner next time.
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dude, when I was 26 I dated a 36 and 37 year old within a 6 month timeframe, and it was the best time I ever had.  unlike 25 year old girls, they were so much more comfortable with themselves, their sexuality, and what they want.  they didn't play games at all and they were so much fun to hang out with!\n\nin terms of how to get them?  I didn't do anything special, I would say try not to be too eager.  you may want to approach them, but do it in an easy going style.  women in their mid to late thirties are entering their sexual prime like we were when we were 18 (im 34 now and married).\n\na women in her 30's is more interested in confidence, maturity, being layed back yet fun and having interests, and just being a nice guy . . . .. as opposed to a girl in her 20's who is more interested in looks, cockiness and whether the guy ismarriage material or not . . . good luck!
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I've been out with lots of men who were older then me... much older. They all seem to be interested in the same aspect of the younger woman... our vitality, our fun loving nature, and what innocence we still have.\n\nMy suggestion is "be yourself", because if you aren't some day you could wake up and relalize how much time you've wasted.\n\nAs for sex... the best part about sex, at least in my opinion, is the experimentation with each other. Communication goes right with it... talk about your sex life, see what you like together, see where you might like to experiment a bit more. Buy a karma sutra book if it comes to it, but don't try to cram it all into the first few months... Believe me, you want something interesting later on down the road to try.
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HHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH.. you are the most desperate , unlogical women in the planet that you are trying to link an event at th age of 6 to the fact that you are old and single.. i got to ask this back, are you still a virgin? have you had a bf? have you ever been kissed? \n\nyou failed to expose those facts to shape us in some kind of thinking.. then again, of course you have no kids!! you haven't been married!!! do you even know how to have kids?? this is the funniest question i ever answered! "Was i normal?" you were never normal at the first place
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I understand where you are coming from and I too am single and feel that I will be forever unless I do something pretty soon!. I am a very lovely and single, beautiful 33 year old and grown out of pubs and clubbing where there are streams of teenagers and mid twenties.  \n\nThere is no where in my town appropriate for people of my age socializing-wize and used to meet my partners whilst at University so now I am no longer a student, this makes things akward again!.  Everywhere I go, I see married couples and loved-up youngsters or singles like myself. Most are all now on the internet but I am so wary of that stuff when there are married men posing as single on these sites and men who post on every sight in search of more than one love-interest.\n\nIt is diffocult I must admit but the trick is to remain optomistic and be very specific about what you are looking for in a man and then go to places that you are most likely to meet these types of men. Bars and clubs are okay, but there are a lot out there looking for fun only and unless you are prepared for that and happy with it until you get to know a guy, then sitting around will do not much good either.\n\nI am more conscious as I have gotten older but also more decided about what I want in a man and that is friendship.  This is the best basis for all relationships to be lasting.  I am determined to be married but once I get myself off my but and start making things happen.
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I'm in the same boat as you... just use this time to re-center yourself.  Go out and just sit and have a beer by yourself.  Just sit and think.  A similar soul might approach you and share in your misery for a while.  Eventually, it will pass.  If you want a shortcut (which I'm not recommending); playing on a girl in a weak situation will make you feel powerful if a little guilty.  I am NOT advocating date rape of ANY SORT!  However, alot of guys are too nice for their own good and don't realize that a 24 year old woman is completely in control of her situation.  Smooth talking and being a player does not necessarily mean you are taking advantage of someone.  Girls like sex just as much as guys, and almost every girl worth her salt has some douchebag at home that they are on the rocks with.  In other words, go hook up with someone hot, by any means necessary short of physical force or breaking up a marriage.  It will boost your confidence in the short run, but don't forget the "re-centering your self" part.  It's the only way you will find true happiness.
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Yeah, you do sound like a perfect match here.. (I'm listening to your friends here too.. they're all Christians, they know you 2 guys.. we're a load of strangers out here and do not.) I am glad you are Christians and it'll pay off.. I hope you do not get a lot of rude-comments in here.. (people are like that.. you sound like a really nice girl, er woman.) I was thinking back when I was in h.s./then college.. Back then it was a big age difference to have a high school and college 'kid' hook up.. (too much difference..) Now I don't know(?) (Guess I am too old!.. lol.. 53/f) I think if you've got these same morals (you don't sound in any HUGe hurry here, that's good) you should pray on it, wait some more. Can you talk to your minister? (I know.. it's embarassing.. how about talking to the minister's wife? other women in the church?) You'd be surprised (if it's like MY church) how helpful they can be! (might put in a good word for ya even.. wink) IF this guy is looking (and he will be) for a good CHRIStian wife, don't worry, he'll go straight back to his favorite church (and guess what?! YOU'll be there!) good luck.. I'll be praying for you two.. peace out
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Your friend is an idiot.\n\nI won't date any woman who refuses to have sex with me. I also won't date a married woman.  Either one of these disqualifies the woman as dating material for me.\n\nLet's deal with married part first. I'll never understand why people start something with someone who is in a committed relationship.  That means the one in the relationship is cheating, and it's only a matter of time before you're in a commited relationship with this cheater, only now the cheater is cheating on *you*.  And the fact that the cheater cheats on his current spouse, even with no sexual contact, tells me that their religion can't be used to explain their behavior, because they only want to apply the rules of their religion when it suits them.\n\nNow lets talk about the "sexless monogamy" part of this. The reason why people "date" is because they are sexually attracted to each other.  If this doesn't lead to actual sexual contact and activity pretty quickly then what was the point?  Remember, this woman has already lost the right to claim that her holding out has something to do with her marriage vows or her religion, because she is in fact seeing other people.\n\nIf you are just friends, then why the pretense of dating?  If this "seeing each other" includes romance, and him paying for her in a lot of ways, but no sex, then she's just exploiting him.\n\nYour friend is a clueless dumbass, and I think you are 100% right to think she is just leading him on.
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I dont know that its a lack of moral education, for moral education is dependent on what your morality is.  Bout the 20's our ideals and ideas of what is right and wrong for us.  and it has evolved into what it is today.  I personally dont see having sex on the first date a necessarily a bad thing.  (not stating its done often just stating that it depends on the person)  it also depends on where you meet the person.  Environment plays a part as to what is intended.  Bars and the like. I dont know that flirting and looking will come to saying hey i want sex, I think that will stay the same.  But dating has changed and you need to either try to avoid the first date sex or embrace it.  Its depends on what you and your partner (date) want.