2 Years ago, the woman I love more than life, broke up with me for inexplicable reasons. To me the reasons aren't important, I just know that I'm still deeply in love with her and that I will never feel this way about anyone else. I'm 39 years old, should I just accept it as life, and get on with my solo life?
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Maybe you THINK she is your soul mate. Maybe she thinks different. If she is your soul mate, then she would know it too.  Sorry for your loss Sweety.
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ive been where you are right now and if you want me to be honest you need to get out of there. dont get me wrong i loved the guy i was with too and i know you feel that if you just up and leave your the bad guy but your not! im only 20 years old and i now suffer alopecia as a result of my relationship. i wouldnt wish that on anyone else. sometimes its ok to love yourself more than the one your with. you only get one shot at life, dont waste it somewhere that your not happy.
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Its really fun....I'm going through the same thing myself...my girlfriend of 2 yrs called it off 3 days ago and I'm suck in the same predicament. I absolutely can relate to you because I'm afraid that I won't ever find someone that I care and love. Not to mention she was my first girlfriend. To make it worse she tells me that she doesn't really see a future with me even though she tells me she loves me. Anyways I just want to tell you that its ok and hopefully both of us will be ok in the future. I wish you luck and I feel your pain. Oh, and the Dr. Steve answer is not fair... I'm not a teenager and I'm going through this so to say that "its a meaningless relationship" is cruel.
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Even though I'm a guy, I have been where you are before.  My ex always dangled that possibility that we might get together thing out there.  Unfortunately being the person who got left you feel like if there is a posiblity then you should keep your life on hold just in case.  Two years is too long to have to keep your life on hold for someone who has left you and cheated on you.  It is past time for you to get your life back and to seek out happiness once again.  Step one though should be filing for divorce.  I recomend this before you date anyone because in some states it can make a difference in the settlement still.  If you so much as date someone even though he is the one who cheated first and left they will still see you as equally cheating even though you waited two years.  Beyond that concern though you have every right and duty to yourself to move on and be happy.  Get divorced and find a guy who really loves you and deserves your love.
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i know whats the feeling of it coz ive also experience that in my past relationship.its not easy,youve been together for how many years.shared memories, sweet thoughts and all the problems you both encountered is not easy to forget.the only thing you can do is to move on,its in the way that little by little.jaz put in your mind the the world is beautiful to live w/.go on w/ life move on coz thats the best solution you can do to mend ur broken heart....Goodluck.......
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I have been there...not exactly in the same circumstances but at 19 My relationship finished and i know the pain you are going through, i really do..it hurts so so much and you feel that there is nothing left for you...i am now ten years older and since my split up with that boyfriend, when i was 19, i have done so much with my life..much more than i would ever have done if i had stayed with him...i have more friends now...have had lots more boyfriend...have had an excellent time... going on girly holidays...travelling...meeting new people...i sometimes wish i could go back in time and tell my 19 year old self how wonderful my life was going to be...I can't do that but i can guarentee that your life will get better and better... you will get to know yourself better, you'll do different things, you'll get excited when you have a crush on some one new...believe me, it will happen i never thought it would when we first split up but i then went on to fancying someone different nearly every month...it was great fun. I am all settled down living with a boyfriend now, all grown up..but i look back on that time and smile..it was great...it will be hard for you but look to the future...don't let him string you along... get yourself dressed and go out with some friends...be with people you like. Life is great, you can make it great with out him. Hope this helps xxx
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I too was in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity, who also happened to be 18 years my senior, and after 3 and a half years, I broke it off not too long ago actually.  It is never easy to deal with a breakup, but you must find the strength to move foward.  I think we need to take time to heal and jumping right into another relationship isn't the answer.  However, going out with friends and maybe even meeting the guy your friends are encouraging you to meet may not be such a bad idea.  Just don't move to fast too soon, and make decisions for all the wrong reasons.  Things happen for a reason and not every person that we are with is the person that is our life partner, you don't want someone in your life that you can't trust, nor do you want a cheater.  So wish him luck and say good riddance to bad rubbish.
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It's amazing that after all these years, you still feel something for her. And I think it's just proper that she knows how you feel. I suggest telling her that you've been in love with her for the longest time and just wait for her response. If the feeling's been there for a very long time, i believe it's worth telling. And it's worth risking rejection. Sure, you may get rejected but it's going to be worth it. Who knows? She may tell you she loves you too and it's all good, right?
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I'm with you...I would go back to when I was 16 because I would not get into a relationship with someone that I did at that age.  I would also think about going back 13 years to when I first met someone very special.  We lost touch but have recently struck up a great friendship.  I would have changed things then had I known what was happening now!
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Life is short and u only live once...He was part of ur life b4 and it didn't work out, what makes u think that this time is going to work? There's an old saying: "if u hurt me once is ur fault, but if u hurt me twice is my fault". Ur only falling in love with him because he came back in2 ur life...but think of ur current b/f as well...put urself in his shoes...how would u feel if he was 2 leave u 4 his x?? Ask urself the reason why ur x is back in urlife? What was it that 'caused him 2 come back? What happens if u go back with ur x and then u realize that ur current b/f is the one u were meant 2 b with...u would have lost everything...and u might end up alone...do not play with people's emotions because, what goes around comes around...
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Life is full of "what if's". We can not change yesterday, tomarrow is all we have and there will be more "what if's". Look at it this way, IF you were meant to be with M then it would have happened while you where single, not married... \nThis is your unanswered prayer and your are to wrapped up in "you" - being self center to see the bigger picture. For the simple fact that you owe J more respect than you are showing him, remove the blindfold from over your eyes, wake up & smell the coffee, child it is time you act like an adult. Grow up! Your not the first and wont be the last to miss one hih school crush. Even my 87 yr old aunt said she missed hers and wondered "what if". But at the age of 89 she died in the arms of a good man who loved her and still did for 75 yrs. Two weeks before she died they celebrated 73 yrs of marriage. Can you do that?
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Okay first breath...It hurts but you will grow so much more then you will ever know once you move pass this...Where were you on Saturday...My heart was so broke...I was told today to hang my head high and walk with pride and no matter what always know that you are better then that and you will hurt for a while and then you will see day light...Its not a matter of loveing to much or not enough its a matter of selfishness on the other persons part...Or just know that life moves and breaking up is part of that move and it hurst yes but time will heal all...Good luck
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Time heals all things! I was in the same boat about a year ago. I thought I was going to die, I wanted to die. The pain in my heart made me sick(literally), but then one day I realized hey it doesn't hurt as much as it did. It took me almost a full year to get over him, but now I am over him, and I just met the sweetest guy in the world. You just have to make yourself go out and have fun. I surrounded myself with fun happy friends and just made myself have fun. At first I was miserable, but then I started having a good time. Now I can be alone and not be sad. It just took time. I promise it will get better, just hang in there sweetie. If you ever want to talk, hit me up at clabarre81@yahoo.com.
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If it has become more than you can handle, then the choice is made.  Yeah, I know everyone wants you to do the noble thing and suffer a lifetime of misery, plus if you leave, you'll be the bad guy.  Hey, it's your life.  Just be true about your feelings and do what you've got to do.  Life is short for us all, so find your way to happiness either in this relationship or out, but don't just keep on keep'n on for no purpose.
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I am going through the same exact thing right now.  I kid you not, the whole age thing is a brutal killer.  Either they will learn to accept it with time, or what happened to me is I tried to burry it and move on as well as she, and it only works to a point.  I think this is one of those things which has to come with time.  It has been one of the hardest things for me to go through, and I hate it, and it has been over a year for me that this has been going on.   I wish you good luck with this.  Brando
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The question is does she love you back?  How long were you dating before you broke up?  Me?  I had a relationship for 7 years and I still love him but we grew apart.  I realize now that I love the idea of being with the person I once knew.  If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she is probably not the person you fell in love with anymore.  I would err on the side of moving on!  Nothing will ever be the same as the relationship that you had with this person.  I guarantee it.  But don't let that close your heart to new and better relationships.  Use what you had with her as a learning experience.  Don't compare her to the other women you date.  That is a fatal mistake.  I know its hard ,but you have to move on with your life in your mind, your spirit and your body.  Please don't hold your relationship with her on a pedestal.  Clear your heart and keep moving!\n*Muah*
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If you guys didnt really have anything in common and you were super happy with her, then you did the right thing. You should never settle for someone, or continue being with someone in fear of hurting their feelings. Its a hard thing to do, I know, because I am the same way, but you have to think, do I really want to spend the rest of my life being moderately happy instead of really happy? And its better to do it now then wait til later when you cant take it anymore and youre much older than you are now and starting over is that much harder.