I ffeel really embarassed when talking to girls and even popular guys.  I either freeze up or am too embarassed to talk to them.  I'm so mad at myself because I can't be confident.  How can I get up the courage to talk to people?
201625
Do it with a close friend who is more confident first until you build confidence.  Make sure he is in on what you are trying to do.
465198
i had the same problem (till i found my girlfriend).  The key is confidence in yourself, without acting arrogant.  You just have to not concentrate on the fact that you like the guy, and concentrate on what hes chattin about.  You could tell him that you get nervous around guys you like, then you have an excuse when you stumble your words, and he'll be flattered.\n\nGood Luck!
249048
I used to be really shy, especially around people I liked. I guess I got nervous. Then I realized, Just relax & talk to them like I'd known them 4ever, & if they don't like me, then I'm no worse off than I was before. I've made a lot more friends that way!
349713
As a matter of fact, I have the same problem. But I don't really mind as those people aren't even my type, so i just regard them as not even worth it. I don't know if that helps for you though. You sound terribly shy and lonely, so perhaps you should socialise more and if you do see someone you like, make the first move.\n\nBut don't try too hard though, I know this girl who was really desparate for friends, so much that it showed and she was ostracised by her classmates (who were a really mean bunch to begin with).\n\nDon't look for online friends, it's only a way to meet perverts who prey on lonely young people, and even if they aren't, no on e is sincere about online relationships because on the internet, you're just an avatar.\n\nTo be honest, if you haven't got friends, you cannot do very much about it. I suggest you just find another hobby for yourself to take up your time and sit out this awkward period in your life.
115153
omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
261655
Hmmmm... I think that you might want to seek professional help with this problem.  See the thing is confidence isn't something that you can teach.  A professional might be able to help you unwrap why you are not confident to begin with, but I am not sure anybody is going to have a magic pill for you.  Well here goes something.  Dude, the key to sexual prosperity, is rejection.  I know that sounds dumb but listen, every time your faced with an attractive woman, you get tense and lock up why? because you're afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser right?  Well just decide not to feel that way (easier said than done but it doesn't have to be hard).  Try this exercise, go to a bar, and identify 5 women that you are attracted to, and go and introduce yourself, i promise at least 1 will want to at least TALK to you, and then when you feel a bit more confident with talking you can start romancing.  See love, and dating and courtship is a numbers game, and every time you hear a no that is one less you have to hear till you INEVITABLY get a yes.  There are like a billion people in India right? 500,000,000 women, trust me at least 100,000 will want to talk to you or go out on a date with you.  So never take anything a woman says personally, and welcome rejection, as one less hurdle to your inevitable GUARANTEED success, and you may find that you can talk to women after-all.  Good luck bro, and I hope this helps.  I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works.
13969
be aggressive, B-E aggressive. Don't flirt with everyone, or else they will think you are a whore. And for gods sakes, buy a guy a drink every once in a while. Why are we afraid to talk to girls?  Maybe it's because we know we are going to pay $10 for your drink, and then get a fake phone number.
307016
Sounds to me like you suffer from low self esteem.  You don't think you're good enough for other people to like you, so you are worried that they won't.  You are so obsessed with what they think of you, that you aren't even paying attention to them.  So, they probably won't like you...no one likes to be ignored when they are talking, which will only make your problem worse.\n\nIf you want to get comfortable with someone, you have to get to know them.  The best way to do this is to get them talking about themselves.   Listen to what they say.  Respond to them.\n\nNerves can be bad, but there is no magic pill that will fix what your problem is.  Only practice can help.  Don't worry about what the other person thinks about you. The worse that can happen is they won't be interested and you move on.  Try not to pressure yourself and try to relax and be yourself.  Girls aren't looking for un-nervous guys, we're looking for guys that pay attention to us.
97558
that's a shame because I'm sure if you had the courage to speak to them you would find that they are just as normal as you and me and that you would have a lot of things in common  the best thing you can do is try and be around girls as much as possible and the more time you spend with them the easier it will be for to speak to them good luck!
163641
Yes, I'd say you are shy and lack self-confidence.  I know what you mean because I tend to be this way too.  People often think you are unfriendly, when you really are just shy.  At least try to give a shy smile, to let them know you are friendly!  ;)\n\nSomething which has helped me is to make a switch in my mind from myself to the other person/people.  Do not focus on yourself but on them.  Have you ever thought about what you think in your own mind when you encounter other people?\nSome people think, "What can I get from this person?"  Some think, "What does this other person think of me?"  Or any other various things, but we always are thinking something.  What is helpful is to think, "What can I do for this other person?"  Think "What can I do for you?"\n\nI make this switch quickly and easily by simply saying to myself, "You, not me."\n\nYou will be amazed how well this can work, because then you are not self-conscious.
131878
There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
453858
i am almost like u i like to laugh have fun, and also sometimes don't get the jokes people or my friends say. I am very shy around girls and sometimes my friends like that and try to make me feel more comfortable. It gets kinda weird because wenever i am talking to anyone i like, or a teacher that is really i just have this smile that never leaves my face. I do good chatting w/ people and talking to them on the internet but when i meet them face to face i get really nervous especially w/ girls. I am not the kind who likes to talk a lot but i like the environment around me to be quite and calm.
511736
I have the same problem, but I try to limit talking to anyone online though because thats just me. I know a lot of people tell me once you get out of high school you "break out of that shell". \n\nI am going to get a job which requires customer service and social skills though, I think if I know I have to, I'll be able to build the skill of talking a lot.\n\nIf you mumble, or stutter, or stumble on the words when you talk to people just think before you say something because I know when I try to say something really fast and then I forget I always stumble on the words lol.\n\nHope this helps :)
281255
well everybody had ups n downs. don't be frustrate, and dint feel shy about to meet people. and dint underestimate itself. everybody is beautiful, u r beautiful too. just meet the people, talk to them, share ur thoughts. don't afraid  they r also human beings like u. if anybody not coming to u then u have to take a initiative.
526904
Rejection is a part of life and Ive been rejected alot. Step out of your comfort zone and approach people who u want to talk to. It might be scary at first but in the end you'll be glad that u've tried
49221
I used to be just like that. but you dont really get over being shy, you jsut get better at being outgoing. the first thing i did was join a club that takes you all over the U.S., it's called FFA. I got a job and it was a waitress at a bar. so there are many opportunities there. just go up and talk to the guy, any guy, it's how i did it and now im still shoy to an extent, but hey, im get out there and i have fun while chatting up some hottie. so jsut break away and strike up a conversation with some random guy, like a guy from school, in the grocery store...anywhere...even in the mall. it works.
460392
It is OK to be nervous, it could be that you are just not that comfortable with them. If you regret it later, spend some more time talking to them and getting to know them to make you less nervous. The more that you know about them will make you less likely to be nervous and have regrets.