i am 13 but my cousins say i look 15 or 16 my aunt said i act 30 i have gone through alot of tough stuff in my life and i have come to accept that i am more mature than other people my age how do i deal with it? and why do people get mad when i act the way they feel i am?
203535
Life isn't fair and some people see more of life at a younger age than others. All you can do is understand that most people your age haven't had the life experiences you have had. And would you really wish it on them? If your life has been hard, sometimes you may feel impatient or condescending towards people you see as naive and inexperienced. Just watch that you  don't come across as too brittle or bitter. Although you feel old, at 13 you have a lot of life in front of you. The fact that your aunt says you act 30 is a warning that you may be acting a little too hardened. Lighten up and enjoy being young. Don't feel that you are already so grown up that you can't enjoy some of the rites of passage of a young teenage girl.
489775
Of course you're not too young to feel depression!  What you feel is very real.  I'm 42 but I'll tell you right now, I remember when I was 17 and felt my life was in total and complete turmoil and I said to myself 'I'll never, ever forget how I'm feeling right now and how difficult it is to cope with life'.  At the time it was so overwhelming.  The changes you're experiencing with your hormones at the age of 13 is probably one of the most difficult periods of time you'll experience YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!  The good thing about that is, it can (and will) get better.  I feel for you like you wouldn't beleive.  My best advice would be 'ride the wave' of life.  Yes, it's unbelivably hard but I promise you, you'll feel better and things will be in better perspective as you grow a bit older.  Truthfully, there's no quick solution.  Please try to accept that it's very, very natural to feel like you do.  Try to find a girlfriend who's going through the same thing so you can voice your feelings.  If you feel you can't confide in anyone, remember your strengths and focus on them.  You are a valuable, worthy person who, like many adults, is going through a difficult time.  We're all faced with challenges no matter what our age but I'll be the first to say, those years between 13-17 are the most challenging.  Think of it as looking towards the light at the end of the tunnel where you'll grow into adulthood and this difficult time will just be part of your journey.  I wish you all the luck in the world but I know you'll do o.k. :-)
511890
yeah i know what you mean. i will be 18 in 2 months and i don't look my age. I'm still in high school and a senior , people ask me are you  a 10th  grader ?  but i have long hair and dont really wear make up to school. for girls long hair makes you look younger and when i do were make up when i go out i do look older. what are you wearing . you should try to dress older? how i don't know. but i'm sure you ok and will start looking older over some years. and well, and for the most part girls don't like wolf men chest hair so thats not a big deal if you don't have much. i think people will keep growing till about 22 .
111034
On the internet it is easy to just assume everyone is living a fine and dandy life.  You don't see the real person, usually just a screen name and an avatar.  And the avatars all look like your average, affluent, healthy and happy young adult.\n\nI am so sorry that you are not surrounded by people who understand you and can see things as you do.  It is so valuable to find people who can appreciate your beliefs and your situation.  I don't find too many people who share my beliefs and it can be tough.  \n\nBut you come across on here as a very mature and smart person.  And I am surprised to find out you are so young, because you seem very wise for your age.  I am glad you have found a religion that works for you, and you can gain strength from that religion.  \n\nI have a feeling that as you get a little older, you will find that things begin to fall into place for you, or at least I hope they will!  You have experiences that very few have at your age, and you seem to be thinking for yourself and using your experiences to make you a better person.  A lot of people in your type of situation become a prisoner of that background and become stunted in their growth on account of it, and very few could blame them, given the difficult circumstances.  But you are really trying to rise above that, and rise above the circumstances and become a truly good person, and I must commend you for that!\n\nI hope you find those who will understand you.  I know people could learn a lot from you and gain great things just by knowing you.
422574
Oh how I long for the days when I was treated like a teenager! Believe it or not some day you will look back on this as the good old days. Life was sweet when I got carded at the bar! Enjoy it while it lasts! By the way you sound very mature for 20 so I can understand why it frustrates you. This too will pass.
61346
That is a beautiful thing....sounds like you are living your life to the fullest, and that's all anyone can hope for.\nIn my late 30's I am still concerned w/ my appearance. I won't lie here, I still check on new wrinkles, grey hairs etc. I am not obsessed mind you, but with each passing day I realize more and more the importance w/ being who I am and not allowing myself to be overly critical of myself. I am much happier as a 30 something yr old than I ever was at any other age. \nI like to think I'm like a fine wine....only getting better w/ age!\nLIVE, LOVE, LAUGH I say!!
182853
I reckon! Im 19, My body feelz like itz 40 & my brain feelz late 20's.. i guess its all the experiemce in life! You make a mistake you learn so u can teach others...Also if ya party too hard when your younger your body WILL NOT Cope!
577487
Hey, I remember being your age. You shouldn't let people restrain you from who you are. Also, keep in mind that these are the years (I'm sure you've heard this plenty of times) when people change and grow, so keep an open mind on who you want to be. I've changed so much during my 8th grade year, but make good choices cause these specific years will alter your life for better or worse. Who cares what everyone thinks, because in the end, it's you has to live with yourself. Here is my motto that you can use for anything: "Ignorance is bliss, but knowledge is power." Good luck!
130727
I can believe 40 is the new 20! I just turned 39 ,and when I tell people im 39..no one believes me. So yes if you take care of your body and your skin and you dont dress in old people clothes...(and I dont mean dress like a teenager either) But at least in stlye clothes and a in style hairdo.\n\n  Also attitude plays a large part  in how we look and feel. Me..well , im never going to grow up completely!
410435
Kids these days want to grow up too fast without taking into account the consequences of supporting a family at an age where they aren't legally allowed to have a job due to their age. Your personal preferences of marriage should be respected by your fellow peers. If they have a problem with it, then don't let what they say about you spoil your mood for anything. I'm 22 not married, and also don't plan to for a LONG TIME.... \n\nAnyhow, um, if you are from a community where post-25 marriage is looked down upon, then make a stand and tell them that it's just not the time for you.
246578
I am 74 and started a new career last year. They asked me how long I will be staying there and I said "at least till I am 80". I am charming. Don't know about the sexy but life is what you make it. I never feel my age and I work very hard at least 10 hours a day and I do go dancing with my grandson now and then. I had more fun in my life than my children. I feel bad about that. I went to dances with my mother when I was young and I had a blast. I did not know back then that you HAD to have THINGS. That made a big difference.
59911
Maybe your step aunt said that because you were dressed more feminine than she's used to seeing you. I've had that same problem for years now. Some people around me think that since I'm 22 I should be wearing makeup, skirts, and more tight fitting clothes. I don't like wearing makeup, skirts and dresses~ it's just not my style. But when I have to dress up for something or if I wear my hair different from my usual style then people will tell me I look like a girl or I look girly. It gets annoying hearing it because I am a girl so I'm supposed to look like a girl. But I think it's just because once you put on your makeup and some clothes that probably fit you a bit closer than your previous outfit or what she was used to seeing you wear, that's why she said that. At least that's why people have said it to me
402365
Lol, I remember people tellin me i was too mature for my age. I think everyone mature's at their own pace and I don't think you should try to spead up the process, have as much fun being "innocent" and nieve/ playful and young as you can. I know i wish I was still young. Even though I'm "all grown up" I still try to act young, I love to be playful and fun (and guys seem to like it too, lol). Just don't grow up to fast, but if you push hard enough, I'm sure you will...  as i did.. :(
501849
I used to be teased also when I was younger and struggled with my weight and its really hard especially when it comes from your own family! Now being older I realise noone else is going to do it for me...I have to deal with it and I'll show them but in a healthy way. People like to critisize without giving you any advice even family members sometimes, maybe they have insecurities they are covering by putting the focus on your insecurities and really your family should be the role models and foundation for your well being growing up in the first place! If you are worried and want to lose weight so you can lead a healthy and happy life then do it for yourself. Do you have a good doctor you can talk to and they will be very matter a fact with you and let you know from a medical point of you if you need to lose weight or not. I really enjoy pumping the music up and putting an aerobics dvd on or getting my mp3 and going for a walk. It lifts my mood while Im gettting fit and know Im doing it because I deserve it!
251545
YOu shouldn't worry about it. Lots of girls these days look much more mature than they actaully are. You realized she was too young and let it go. Good for you!
598263
It's not strange but if you were my daughter I'd forbid you to hang out with anyone that age with you only being 14. These 20yr old are considered adults and they do adult things that you have no business doing yet. I think your trying to give off the impression that your more mature then your are and hanging with 20yr old makes you feel that way. In reality the kids your age are probably thinking the wrong things about you, like maybe they think your a tramp or on drugs even if your not. You need to find kids your age group to hang out with one day your going to wonder were those days went.
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happens to me too, i m almost 37 years old, i was born on december 20 th 1969, and people says i look like 25 or 27 at maximum,\nmy husband is 29 years old and people says he looks like 18,, i must say that he looks like 14 lol, because he really looks amazingly young, and it s a problem for him u know,,,because he is a newly degreed doctor, and people don't trust young doctors so much, i told him to grow a beard and mustache and put some glasses, may be make some grey highlights in the hair will help too, dont know.