We are good griends and I like him, but I'm not interested in going out with him.  That's because I'm already dating someone else and he already knows this.  The guy I'm dating now, we always go places or just stay at home and chill and we're always with each other.  The guy that I'm not interested in, the only time I see him is when I work nights, and I work in a 24 hour gas station.  We never do anything with each other, I really don't know him all that well and when he tells me he's gonna do something he NEVER does.  One night he told me he was going to come back to take me home:  I waited 2 hours and he didn't show up!  Aside from that he is a nice guy, I like him as a good friend and even though I'm not going out with anyone now but I'm just not interested in him.
218114
Tell him the truth, but say it nicely. Im sure he'll understand.
25662
It sounds like if he's truly understood that you're gonna break it off with him and yet he still hasn't changed his attitude, then he's probably wanting you to break it off. Maybe it's one of the whole, "I don't want to do it so I'll MAKE her do it" type things. Give him this last chance, try to go out and do something that both of you enjoy without the distraction of friends and family. Let him know that it really does bug you when he acts this way. If he still seems like he wants to hang on and will change, you decide, you go for it or maybe you've had enough. But if he's STILL acting that way by the end of the "date" call it quits. Move on to a guy who'll treat ya better! Good luck girl!
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In my opinion you can have your friendship and date. I mean, it's not like the relationship would change drastically. You'll still be you and he'll still be himself, so that's not a very good reason. Plus, life it's about taking chances, not playing it safe just in case... that leads nowhere.\nSo, reason 1: done!\n\nAs regards the other reason he gave, I say bulls*it. That is just saying that he wants to be available to date any of the girls that flirt with him, or at least be able to choose. I mean, there are flirtatious girls just about anywhere, so what? He won't ever date a girl because there are flirtatious girls around the corner? What will he do when he gets married? "Oh, honey, I'm sorry I HAD to sleep with her... he was flirting so much she got me into it. It wasn't my fault."\n\nSorry, not good enough.\n\nDon't take it personal, but to me it sounds like he just doesn't wanna date. Period. Those just were excuses.\n\nKeep him as a friend if you want, but I'd highly recommend spending less time with him and trying to find another guy. Hang out with girl friends and look at cute guys, you never know what you may find.
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It's the nice comfy sweatshirt thing.  You see, in moving 1/2 way across the country, he had to give up his home, the folks he casually said Hi to everyday, his favorite pizza joint, etc.  He's lonely at his new place and has decided he wants friends.  Instead of letting them develop, he wanted some already instant made.  Well, there you are.  He already knew you, etc.  \n\nI had this happen to me.  Yes, he's interested.  Yes, you can have a relationship.  However, with everything being new to him now (but him learning it later on) that there will come a time when he doesn't need so much attention ... and he may develop into the guy you knew when he was in town.\n\nI wish I could say "Go for it."  My problem with trying it out is that he really does need to stand alone for a little bit, so you aren't the sudden substitute for his lack of companionship.  It gets pretty draining and depressing being both a person's newfound companion but also his blame when he feels he needs other friends.  You don't need that.\n\nGood luck!
612652
Thank goodness you only wasted 5 months with this loser. you've found out that you don't want this one so get ready for your destiny. Get fit and healthy, go the gym, get your hair done, spend time with the girls and have a laugh. you are now free to find someone really great and only your ego got a bit bashed. it's ok you'll get over it. he obviously has so why let him have anymore of your headspace? He was seeing others when he was with you most likely. don't go to bed with someone until after 6 months and it won't happen like this again. if they won't wait you don't date!
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This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
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Wow, that is not alright. If a guy wants to take you on a date he should finance the whole date. I am not saying that you should not continue to date him, but you may want to be wary of him. If he is this thrifty so early in the relationship, just imagine how he'd be down the road. Personally, I probably would not continue to see him romantically. Mr.Cheapy McCheapskate can just be your friend if he wants to do things that way.
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Good Lord woman!  Before I finished reading this, I already knew you shouldn't get into this relationship in that capacity, just be friends and let it be, perhaps later in the future w/o pushing things, maybe things will change, maybe.  If he was interested, he would've let you know already.  Obviously, in his subtle way, he is not interested, get a clue!  You say he still dates other girls, well, that should be enough to tell you he's still not ready or willing to commit to a relationship.  By all means, don't force a relationship!  Relationships should be easy, mutual and wonderfully exciting.
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That means this particular guy is a total loser. PLEASE make a better choice in guys. Use this guy as the example of a guy not to get involved with. A real man will be honest, respectful, caring, and considerate of your feelings.
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does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
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Whoa!  This guy seems to be in too deep way too fast.  If you want to stay with this guy, you need to have a conversation with him and tell him to slow down or you'll have to stop dating.  Explain that you aren't looking for a commitment so fast.\n\nIf this keeps up, let him down easy, and then don't accept any phone calls, visits, emails, etc. from this guy.  Eventually, he'll get the hint and go away.\n\nIf he doesn't go away, try to get a stalking protective order against him.
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Have you ever talked to him about this? maybe he has o clue how you feel, maybe he thinks you don't even want to go out with him and his friends. Ask him about it, tell him how you feel. If he is getting all defensive and really not wanting you there on Saturday, you may wonder whats going on, and you can still drop in on him one night. But maybe he wants you to come, or maybe you can make compromises where he goes out the one week and stays with you the other? Relationships always are about communication. If you let the other one know how you feel, you can work on a solution together. if he really cares about you, he will be willing to solve this problem with you. Good luck!
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this won't be your last boyfriend, so don't settle for someone that doesn't make you happy.  he sounds selfish to me.  be nice, but make it clear that it's just not working for you.  maybe stay as just friends?
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You just got out of a 4 year relationship and you are ready to jump into a new one after two weeks? You contradict yourself you said you told him you knew he was dating others ..he denies it but tells you that he needs to compare if it was worth it to leave one for the other? Anyway it's ok that he is dating others considering you aren't in a committed relationship, you are just dating. Guess what you can date others too! Don't make someone your priority when you are only their option. I, quite frankly, think it's a lil soon to be jumping into a new relationship so quick but that's your decision to make. Keep dating the guy but don't make yourself completely available to him, create a challenge. Also date other people and let him know about it. After all the two of you aren't exclusive, unless he makes it that way. Just take it slow and do what a psychologist does best, analyze.
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roll with it. everyone has personal do's and dont's. rules are made to be broken. i say that too at first. if this dude really likes you he wont want to see his girl goin out with other guys.
230940
if he won't go out with you, then there is nothing that you do that can change his mind...he is not right for you then...there are better guys who will appreciate you more
549305
First off it sounds like HE hasn't done anything, it's seems like you're the one that needs to do something. It's hard to tell someone how you feel if you don't say anything at all. If the guy and your friend express interest in each other maybe it's just time to move on, no point in hurting a existing friendship over a possible "hookup". Plus if your friend and the guy go out and break up, you'll be right there on the rebound.