You hear all of the experts who say "so & so" died, but it was painless.  Or So & So died a horrific painful death.  How do these experts know what "So & So" was feeling at the time of passing, if the expert(s) have never experienced death?
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Is very easy, as you might know our body has a a thing that is called nervous system,Which is the one who allows us to perceive and sense everything around while we are alive and that includes pain.\n When we became sick Nervous System plays an important role, in our bodies by increase the area affected feeling pain or in lack of sensations such as when we have flu or cold  and we can't smell or taste as well as when we are healthy.\n Another example is:\n if you develop prostate cancer you will die in a huge pain  because the prostate is surrounded by many  terminal nerves.\nIn the opposite way if you die of cancer in the intestine you won't feel pain at all because  that area lack of nerves.\nIf you became quadruplegic the pain won't affect all you body, but from a heart attack you will die fast but in pain because all your body enter in a shock stage until you'll collapse.\n When people fall in comma or vegetable stage they can't feel anything their brain is in total shock( but in this topic are many controverses that points to two sides)\nWhen comatose persons came back to normality they don't remeber anything not even sorrow so they can't give testimoniy and that indicate to experts that their nervous system was blocked at that moment so if  some relatives of a comma patient decide disconect the artificial machine that help them to still alive is when  the experts will say  that THEY DIED IN PAINLESS.\nSo in order to understand better or nervous system experts can determinate from people who experience pain and people who doesn't
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When I was 15, my mom (god bless her) was brutally murdered. I was angry, suicidal, super emotional. So is suicide normal. . . All I can say is that the best advice I was given is this; the pain of the death of a loved one never goes away. It changes, you learn how to live with it. I never thought the post traumatic stress would end but it did. Please find someone you can trust and let it out. You can even e-mail me through Q&A. My heart really goes out to you. You are not alone!
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My friend had that. \n\nI'd ask him, but he died.\n\n:)
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Yes, I talk to my Dad all the time, I sense his answers, and I feel him around me quite often. I don't know for sure that it is him - your mind can do some strange things when you are grieving. But, I have had some strange experiences that I can't account for since he died. One time, one of the things I sensed him saying to me was, "DON'T GO OUTSIDE!" I was about to go to bed, and I was going to go get something off my porch when I "heard" or sensed this. It kind of freaked me out, so I just went staight to bed. The next day when I went to go to work, I found that my car had been broken into and burglarized. So... I think that we have souls, and I don't know whether we can be around our loved ones or not once we die, but that's my story. All I know is that death can only kill the body - it can't kill love.
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Yes it does! \n\nIt did for me. After my cousin died (over 10 years ago) I found myself incredibly empathetic in situations that I used to shrug off - I still am. I still cry when I hear about someone else's pain form losing someone, even when other's can keep it together - because it just brings me back to the day that Seth died. It's ok to feel that way, it actually makes you a better person and good friend to those who are going through what you've already experienced. I'm sorry to hear about your sister.\n\nSometimes I have incredibly vivid dreams where Seth and I just hang out together - like we did when we were teenagers, just before he died. It's great because I wake up feeling like I've spent the day with him, but then I feel like I've lost him all over.\n\nIt may seem ridiculous to still be so affected after 10 years, but Seth was my best friend, I don't think I'll ever get over this. It does (as they say) get better though. Hang in there.
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Well theres one sure answer:\n\nIf that person is already dead.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. Well i know how you feel i have gone through 4 loved ones deaths. It will be hard to go through, what i love to do was surround my self with friends and family, and remember the person who just passed on. ITs good to cry, makes you feel better. Sometimes writing can help. but i blive that friends and family around is the best thing, they can cheer you!!! I am praying for you and god bless you all. im so sorry!
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Is that the only symptom? After my father died, it was a stressful time, I started having panic attacks. I was told that AFTER a bad time is usually when they might appear. And out of nowhere. I worked with someone once and she had them too.  I said "man, you feel like you're going to die" and she said "no, you KNOW you are going to die" -- her husband took her to ER everytime. Mine were about 3 times a day - got hooked on Xanax but it worked. Had to get help to get off of it.  If the panic came back, I would chance that addiction again. I went to counseling which lessened the fear but not the feelings. Mine would happen in the car a lot. Like at a stop sign. My foot would shake badly on the brake and I would almost just go through. I felt like I was "melting" into the seat (oh, not afraid to drive either so that wasn't it), my heart would race. It's too many bad feelings at once. This is one of those things I swear - no one would understand unless they went through it. Mine lasted about 5 years.  My heart goes out to you if this is happening. But see your doctor. They aren't so prone to giving out Xanax anymore though. I guess I understand but it helped me big time. I was able to cope and go to work.
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Hi Brenda--let's put it this way: "Most" people who haven't got it don't believe in it.  I've no choice since I've got it.  Sometimes I wish that I didn't. There are various "categories"--one that is often painful to me, is the non-intellectual floating senses about someone, often at great distances, of "concern." I'm always COMPELLED to find this person; for some reason that seems almost serendipity, I do, & discover (without exception) either that they have died, or are in a very tenuous health/emotional situation. In the latter case I do "help" by simply listening, or being able to provide suggestions. I find this quite draining, however. Precognition is different in that I've prevented potentially fatal incidents, or been able to "warn" someone & direct them in ways that preclude what would have been a disaster. Not always! but often. I'll also feel a good "energy" & discover that all my friends are experiencing positive things & gaining insights. My "night" dreams, (there are many different kinds of dreams also), have given me profound messages. I do not have the single psychic ability my mother had. She knew the instant of someone's death. I'll never forget her running out into the freezing Wisconsin Winter night because she heard her brother calling her. We lived in a very rural area, no phone. The following day, my aunt drove out from the city to tell her he had died, & it was at the precise time she heard him. (She had many more experiences like this.) I've had many, many more, but shan't belabour them here. People who know me well have relied on me for the things that I "see" & sense.  Some people will scoff at the very idea of psychic abilities, just as they do about astrology, (I can perceive the 3 major signs in a stranger the moment I meet them, although I can't always be specific of "how" I do this). To the few people who "hassle" me--the disbelievers--I simply say that they aren't "required" to believe, & will NEVER get into a debate with them. I KNOW that I'm psychic, & just used these few rather general examples. I hope no one "jokes" about your question, yet I rather think that SOMEONE will. YOU know what you are, & that's truly all that counts, isn't it?\n\n*** Just looked at your answers. "Amy" must know something about you that I don't; your question asked what others believed, not to tell you if you are. But ThatLady made me aware I hadn't mentioned that I'm only a "receiver." No further comments needed....
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Are you seriously expecting that there are people here in Yahoo Answers (or here on Planet Earth for that matter) who KNOW what happens after death? No one knows what happens after you die. People who pretend to know are either charlatans or fools.
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What helps is if u think about what good things that happenened to them when they died.  Like if they were sick or had a stroke or somthin' they should die other than suffer.  What also helps is if u relive the good moments that u had with that person or people.
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My brother committed suicide and it's very hard.\n\nAre there stages of grief?\n\nAccording to David Kessler, co-author with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross of the last book written before her death: “The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order. The stages have evolved since their introduction and they have been very misunderstood over the past three decades. They were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss as there is no typical loss. Our grief is as individual as our lives.”\n\nOther experts use terms like “phases” or “cycles” to describe the process most commonly experienced by people when facing their own diagnosis of a terminal illness. Friends and family members go through a similar process, cycling back and forth between the different intense emotions. These phases are often experienced in the sequence described below, but individuals can cycle through these feelings in a different order, and can return to previous phases as grief is processed. It is also entirely possible to feel more than one emotion simultaneously, perhaps to a greater or lesser degree.\n\nDenial\n\nUpon hearing bad news, the most common reaction is a feeling of numbness or shock. We may experience disbelief: "That is not possible … there must be some mistake … you must have the wrong person, the wrong medical records … that can't be true or happen to me!" The mind-body has incredible defense mechanisms. If we pretend that something isn’t true, then somehow the blow is softened. At any moment, our loved one could reappear, or so we imagine. Time seems to briefly suspend itself, at least until the cruel reality of the truth sets in.\n\nAnger\n\nWe may get angry at the messenger who delivers the news, the doctor, the person who caused us this pain (even if that person is now deceased), at anyone we can hold responsible for our grief, even at God. This reaction is perfectly understandable. There is a need to know why this happened and whether the loss could have been prevented. “Who is at fault?” we question. Somehow pointing the finger allows us to divert the pain from the core of our being where it rises up and threatens to overwhelm us. Others may turn their anger inwards and blame themselves for what happened.\n\nBargaining\n\nWe may try to negotiate the situation, either with another person involved, or with God: "Please give me one more chance and I promise things will be better … I will change … If you will reverse this, then I will ___ in return." This is kind of magical thinking where we believe our actions will meet with the desired outcome. Some people attempt to strike a deal with their Higher Power: to stop smoking, to find more time to spend with family, to offer an apology that’s long overdue. At some point, though, we face our limitations in holding up our end of the deal. No matter what we say or do, the bitter truth is that things will not go back to the way they were before. And that’s when the next phase hits.\n\nDepression\n\nWhen we realize the loss is real and unchanging, we may sink into a deep sorrow. Though Dr. Kübler-Ross dubbed this phase ‘depression,’ it is more accurate to describe it as more a combination of loss and loneliness and perhaps hopelessness. We may feel remorse or regret, rehearsing over and over what we could have done differently. Or perhaps we feel guilty that we are still able to enjoy life while our loved one no longer can. This intense experience of sadness leaves us with sparse energy for housework or outside activities. It is common to find o
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One of the things I would try to do is prepare my mind for it.  To see it the instant death comes and to not be afraid, to see it as is.  Its a rare oppertunity to possibly see the answer to something nobody has the answer to.  Maybe for a few moments there is a bridge between two planes of existence?
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Well, the "in between" are still dead, but yes, there are souls that don't know they're dead.  This happens primarily when a person dies a tragic death, e.g. in an accident.  Sometimes, when they don't want to go to the Light, because they feel they have something to take care of, they will also be Earth-bound.\nIt has been reported that on occasion, a spirit could drain a person's energy, but that is also true for the living.\nSpirits see both, dead and alive.  You can't guarantee anything, including what you will WILL yourself to do after your body dies.
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No one can tell you this with any absolute certainty...all you can do is figure out what you believe based on your own knowledge, faith, common sense, or whatever you value the most.  Everyone has different beliefs and no one can ever know the truth.  But I do think it's a waste of our precious time on earth to worry about an afterlife...hopefully you can just cope with the death of a loved one by thinking of fond memories and keeping them alive in your heart (I know that is a cliche, but it's true.)\nBest wishes to you and your family and I am sorry for your loss.\nPS - Do not listen to any of the stupid answers you get, don't let them make you feel bad.
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I've had a near death experience at a young age or 2 yrs. Ever since I've seen my dead brother talking to me. When my mother died I saw her playing with my very quiet children. My son has ADHD so that was unnerving to me. When I called out my mothers name she turned faced me and smiled. I paniced and ran down stairs and tried to call home. No answer and I felt sick inside. A couple hours later my sister called and told me of my mothers passing. But, before she could tell me what was wrong I responded that mom's dead huh. It freaked her out and me too.\n   It's a cool and humbling experience at the same time.
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In today's overly liberal society, they would suggest grief counseling, therapy, all sorts of stuff like that.  I think it's bullsh*t.  My father died last year, 4 months before his first grandson was born.  As painful as it was, I never forgot that in this life, all things happen for a reason, and everybody dies.  You will grieve.  And it will get better.  The pain you feel may seem extreme, but it's perfectly normal.  REAL pain is a kid with bone cancer, or a brain tumor.  Have faith, know he's in a better place, and celebrate his life rather than mourn for his loss.  Everybody dies sometime!