I'm graduating next year. I live in Texas, but would like to move as far as I can away from here, possibly New York. I do want to move because of my studies, but at some point I want to move away from here for the wrong reasons. Will this train of mind affect me later on or is it still possible to succeed eitherway?
201597
Don't hesitate, and do what makes you feel comfort and happy.
302443
of course not. All you have to do is put your mind to it and keep at it. And it also depends on how bad you want it. Oh! Another thing is if you live in Europe, you better try hard, but if you live in the States (U.S.A.) then you're good to go.
476775
I have been in Pennsylvania before and I am a New Yorker and to me it was a big change.  Everything is driving distance and the time I went their the weather in New York was nice and when I was in PA it was COLD!!! The major thing that PA has is a Wal-Mart. The best thing you could say is that you want to go to a college in NY OR NJ. No offense to anyone in PA but I am a New Yorker.
311960
I have not been to any. I guess choice would depend on :\n1. Where you live. Would you like to be far from parents , or near them. \n2. Distance also means Independence and or homesickness.But then, we have planes these days.\n3.What you can afford comfortably. \n4.In the long run will Stanford help you get an extra boost in job searches or to say "I was there" . Stanford is more Global than UT but a Texan would say UT is best.\n5. Where are your friends going? Will you feel comfortable there? \n6.Last, it is actually up to you and not the College you go to. You make your own future. Go where you feel you will be comfortable.\nI have been to a good College away from my parents. Far. Been homesick and all. But I learnt a lot from my experiences. I am what I am because of it. \nBest of luck.
641074
I wish I could help, but I've never lived in either place.  You'll pretty much encounter racism and obstacles throughout your entire life...especially being a foreigner/minority, that's why you sometimes have to fight a bit harder than the normal person would.  But once you're a lawer you'll be kickin' major butt...  set your goals, and don't allow anyone to get in your way!  Good luck!, T\n\nPersonal note to "yosoyfantastico":  Can you evaporate into your own noxious toxic fumage now?  *Poof!*
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It can be.  Depends what you are looking for.  Some want big city, small city, suburban, small town, etc.  \nNYU does not have that much of a campus feel because it is smack in the middle of the city, and students live all over the place, with even some dorms miles from the main campus area.  \nBut, if you want to be in the big city, especially if you want to study the arts or business, it could be the place for you.\nI find that people appreciate grad school there more than undergrad.
509896
well im from texas too, \nbut why would you want to take 5 years to graduate when all you need is 4?
30183
Wow. you don't have to be a genius to realise what a bummer of a situation you are in. I had a friend in this situation. Except your mom seems to be sticking in the middle of the U.S., and that is curious to me... usually if people are on the move it is toward bigger and better, and I have actually been to every single town you have lived in (just visiting, I have always lived in TX) and they aren't so great. Have you tried sitting down with her and describing the need that you have, or asking her what compels her so much to keep on the move? What is she running from or what does she gain in being a rolling stone. Try to convey to her what a turmoil it is putting you in to not have a stable environment to become a well-adjusted normal person. Try to understand what her logic is to moving all the time and at the same time convey to her that you need more stability. Let it sink in, and then let her know how you feel about Durant, OK. Good luck.
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If you cannot see yourself achieving thiese goals, then why stress yourself out to do so? Life has no timelines. No rush to do things before a certain point. Why not plan a few years in advance? Try graduating first. Now, as far as buying a home, thats not a bad idea, my boyfriend and I are still in college and bought a duplex (home as well as investment). Get married after graduating is not a bad idea, depending on how old you are, it might be better to wait. I would wait until working for at least a year or so for the baby so you can have sick leave and vacation built up,  as well as money saved hopefully. Why rush? Why not make it a happy experience? I want a baby badly too, but why make myself miserable and poor by having it now?
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Nothing has happened like I had thought it would happen, further proving that what I thought I wanted and needed wasn't really what I needed.\n\nExample: in my dreams I would graduate, become a famous journalist, marry the man of my dreams, and move to NYC. \n\nWhat really happened: I graduated from college in 3.5 years after having a baby, being hospitalized, transferring schools, planning a wedding oh and losing three family members. I married a man who is BEYOND the man of my dreams, I don't live in NYC, and I'm not a journalist. I'm a full time mom.\n\nBut you know what? I'm not upset. Things are working out just as they are supposed to.
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17 years ago I moved 2300 miles away from family and friends.  \n\nThere are times when I miss being able to see them on a whim.  At those times I remind myself that their soap operas are their own.  Their own personal dramas have no effect on my life, and I breathe a sigh of relief. \n\nOf course, moving so far from family has had a direct effect on life choices that we've made.  For example, having children and two working adults is much easier if you have grandparents who are willing to watch the kids.  If Gram's is watching the kids, you're not worrying about child care scandals, and the safety of your kids.\n\nYou'll have to decide how often you'll visit home and make sure to save enough money for visits.  I have missed special occassions that I would not have missed had I been closer.  \n\nAnd, yes relationships will suffer.\n\nAs we get older, my spouse and I have discussed moving back to the East Coast, but are both adamant that neither of us wants to move back to our home town.  We wouldn't want any less than at least one or two states between us and family.  We both value being able to walk away from the dramas, and back to our own, peaceful world. \n\nGood luck with your decision.
228044
I graduated from there. It is a BIG school with an amazing selection of excellent degree programs. I suggest you live in the dorms to start off -- you have to find a community there or you'll go a little nuts.
388086
Before you go moving to Massachusetts or Florida, check out the costs of living there. Consider a visit before you plop money down on an apartment lease and find yourself unhappy ... or more unhappy. Do you have a degree? Check with your school's placement office for job leads. Don't even consider moving out of state right now if you will be eligible for unemployment compensation if and when your job ends. Take the money and get a life plan rolling. Might I suggest a counselor? If you have benefits with your present employer, you may be able to get a counselor under your health insurance plan. Don't wait!!! It may be a $20 co-pay but go for it. It will be worth the money to discuss the many changes you have in mind. Job loss is stressful but then when you add financial stress and wanting to relocate and everything else, you should find someone to talk to. Once you face the fears you will be better able to overcome them. YOU are the most important person in the mix. Things always have a way of working out but you get out of life what you put into it so give it your ALL.
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It's a matter of personal preference. If you want to go away for the experience or to a particular college away from home then you should go for it. On the other hand if it really doesn't matter, some colleges closer to home can be less expensive. Either way you're starting a new journey and hopefully you'll get the most out of it.
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You have to make a choice. Nothing sucks more than being somewhere you don't want to be. (You wouldn't happen to be in the middle of Kansas, would you? I did that. It sucked.)\n\nYou have to decide if you are going to make the most of the shi**y situation, or if you are going to do what you really want to do. \n\nIf you want to go somewhere else, you'd better start applying and seeking financially aid now. Stand up to your parents and tell them that it is YOUR education, and you want to be happy. Or, if you haven't already done so, sit down with them and have an adult conversation about this. They might just listen if you are calm and rational about it. \n\nIf you are to stay where you are, start looking for classes that you would enjoy. Seek out what things you could do for fun. How close is the biggest city? Are there any clubs you could join? \n\nYou have to make the most of what you have if you can't get what you want. :)
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Texas is a state school that lives large off its endowments,and may be less expensve than some--its a great school--good luck
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I had to leave my hometown because I never could have started my business and been successful there.  The market for what I wanted to do simply did not exist there.  I moved to Southern California from Ohio.  When I first moved out here, I phoned almost daily and visited several times a year.  I missed my Papa immensely and felt a huge hole in my heart without his presence in my daily life.  But, he always encouraged me, gave advice when asked and never made me regret moving so far from home.