I'm 19 and never went out on a date with someone. I'm always a hard-working student in college. Right now, I'm just a shy person, because I haven't talked to any girl in town. Well, what can I do to not be that way?
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Approach one of the girls in your class and just ask her if she would like to go get some coffee or whatever, tell her you are new in town and don't really know anyone so you would just like to meet some people. It's hard to be in a new place and not know anyone but just talking to one person can introduce you to three or four more! Good luck.
360160
okay, i have been in your shoes so i can understand where you are coming from, its not easy dating  a white guy,most times when i and friends go out (they'd stare, smile, wink), they do all that but never approach, 2ndly am still a virgin, am 19 and am in my 3rd year of university..so u know what....take this from me....don't worry..talk to people, being shy can be very good but you need to come out of the cocoon okay (at your own pace) don't mind what everybody says, it's your life.....i saw your pics and your'e a pretty girl so just go with the flow for now......i was also raised to feel the guy had to make the first move,  but you soon realise its a 2 way street (someday your'e gonna feel daring and you'll go for it) just take things easy.....when it comes, it comes..if not go out there and get it (cautiously)......as for having a child like face...watever....it's your face.....if they aren' t impressed by that wow them with your mind.......\nhope this helps......
409548
I'm like you. I'm 30. Never had a boyfriend either. I  never had my first boyfriend. I think it's time we both did. Only I need to get out more often and be flexible. You're lucky you meet guys. Don't give up. There's plenty of fish in the sea ... I hope.
48104
Unfortunately dating is always tricky and probably hasn't changed a whole lot since you were last single other than the addition of the internet.  No matter what you do there is no guaranteed way of avoiding the ones you don't want.  For beginners I recomend sticking to activities that you enjoy.  If you like dancing or something like that try taking a class.  Don't be afraid of the internet, but be prepared to have to filter out a lot of trash to find a few nuggets of gold.
497357
your parents are trying to protect you. A lot of parents are the same on that one. Next week I will be 26 & I have never dated in my life. I have always wondered when I weill meet the right girl. I am also a virgin. I say you should wait until you finish school & graduated college & get a good job then when you are in your 20's get a boyfriend. As I remember some years ago when I was like 18 or 19 my uncle asked me if I had a girlfriend, yet & I said no. He said good, you are too young. So take my advice. Don't start dating until you know for suure you'll spend the rest of your life with the guy. I now know why I have never dated in my life. People ask me why, but I hide the real answer & tell them another.
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If you are comparing yourself to society standards...then you will obviously think something's wrong with you...However if you feel comfortable to go and date a girl then it must be too your comfort level...First get some self confidence and then BAM!!! - you'll be noticed without realising it. There are plenty of women out there...PLENTY and you can find them in all ages, just take time to focus on one that you may be interested and take it nice and easy.\nAnd you know what - the ladies you meet would actually chase you down if you act cool and be yourself...especially if they know that you never been with a girl...AND they will want to teach you everything...BE HONEST
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it's hard to give advice on that subject, really.  i mean, i guess i could just say that you just have to keep trying.  every guy i've ever met has turned out to be obsessive.  but that won't stop me from going out with others.  i think you need to look at the type of girls you're attracted to.  there could be a pattern there and that's the reason you find they are all fake.  maybe you should try going out with someone you wouldn't normally. you may be pleasantly surprised.  other than that, i'm sorry i can't be of any more help.
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I guess it is you the one that can help you out. \nI have the same "problem" but I don't see it as a problem. Better off alone than in bad company.\nDon't you know girls at job? at the bar? where you go? Try to start a nice chat.\nI am a loner so for me is difficult to start a conversation with someone I don't know, but if I wouldn't like the way my life was going I would try to do those things, and try to be more social. I guess.
160583
Just be yourself and say what comes natural and youll find someone.  Just don't act like you don't want to talk (A.K.A. Looking nervous, uncomfortable, basically just dont be shy lol)
72202
i cano often be found at church.  im only 22, but hey, age is just a number.  seriously though, we are a bit harder to find than an average guy.  usually (i know in my case) we are a bit shy.  we don't often hit on girls, we think it rude.  ergo, nice guys finish last.  some of us do respect women, personally i had no choice growing up, having 4 sisters, no brothers until i was 11, and a step dad that i really didnt get along with, it wasnt hard to learn.\n\n\n\nmaybe try lowes, or star nursery.  stay away from wal mart though.  unless you want a good deal on something.  \n\n\ni got you beat on how long its been since a date, too.  i know its not a contest and i probably get the loser award, but im working on 22 1/2 yrs.  also known as "never"
200799
STOP BEING SHY!\nThe fear of doing it is greater than actually doing it.\n\nThe next time you see her just ask her if you could take her out for lunch sometime.\n\nDon't listen to the girl above me.\nIf you're attracted to someone you can make the first move...doesn't matter if you're female or not. If you sit around waiting for someone to come to you it's probably not going to happen. \n\nWomen today aren't afraid to do what needs to be done to move forward, doesn't matter if it's their "duty" or not. \n\nAnyway, back to my orignial advice:\nJust ask her! That's the only way you'll know for sure.
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There's nothing wrong with being a little shy....some guys find it attractive.  But, if YOU don't like being shy, retrain yourself.  Start by making eye contact with strangers while your shopping.....add a smile....eventually a "hi, how are you?".  I know-it sounds simple and goofy...but it works.  Strangers aren't as threatening as people we know or like. It will still feel uncomfortable at first.....but what have you got to lose.  It also helps to have a few ready made questions for you meet people.  They could be school, family, or hobby related......you get the idea.  Good luck.  You'll be happy to know that confidence comes with age!
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Be Careful you don't want to seem desperate, And your not really supposed to be asking guys out anyway. Although it is a bold move and I think that if more women could say what was on there mind there would be a lot more couples together today. And vice versa of course. But my advice to you is to speak your mind be confident. And don't be afraid of rejection. take it slow, be patient but most of all don't settle and Be yourself
323106
Maybe you should go out with a group for your first date, I know it sounds a little corny (do you young people still say "corny"?), but if an akward silence does come up there will be people around to bail you out. \n\nGood Luck
234178
No bull at all.\n\nAre there any guys around that YOU think are nice and would like to meet?\n\nIF yes. Try a friendly smile when you pass them in public.\n\nWhy do you not hang out at the same place where all the others your age go?\n\nIf you do not go out and socialize how will you meet anyone?
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If you are too shy to verbally ask her out then maybe you are too shy to be dating. Wait until you mature a bit then try again. How can a date work with just letter writing?▲
84190
It depends really on your, resources and how old you are. Like if you can't drive yet, if there is a school trip or something, hang out and sit close. Or if you want like a more datish situation I'd start with just going out with some friends. (Or hint, hint an older sibling, if you have one.) Like a group or double date. You might want to pick somewhere were you're comfortable and can talk first, instead of jumping into the movie scene, where there would be major pressure and little emotional connection. \n  As for how I acted towards them, hmm... can't I just not answer? lol. *blush* At first I would so destroy the conversation, I got massively nervous, but some how I would manage to find something to say. Oh well, he was shy too so we would end up laughing at eachother. But then you get used to eachother, so even though they still give you butterflies to where you lose all ability to think, you aren't as worried about how you act, and are more normal towards them. \n  What I did was started to call him several nights a week to get to know him, and figure eachother out. Yall I know it's so much easier to say than do. But after awhile you get use to it, he'll call you, and you won't be able to go to sleep without talking to eachother first. Eventually, you'll know if you're right for eachother and your going out just kind of happens, you just need to confirm it with eachother. It worked for me, and we've been going out for over a year or two.