I don't want to fall in love with this guy!!! All my friends think he's evil, but when he's around me he's nice and friendly!!! ALL I DID WAS HELP HIM ONCE WhEN HE BROKE HIS ARM AND NOW HE SEEMS LIKE A TOTALLY DIFFERENT PERSON. BUT STILL I ALREADY HAVE A BOYFRIEND THAT I LOVE AND I DON'T WANT TO FALL 4 THIS NEW GUY!!!! WAT DO I DO!!!*SOBBING*
214405
hhhmmmm....you love your bf, you don't want to fall for this guy. You have a choice.....don't fall for him.
170218
I don't understand why you had to kiss your friend while still being with someone else??? Would you like to experience the same???  Though I don't judge you!  Those passionate moments can come... wot yer experienced with your friend was the basic of 'falling in love' with time the butterflies tend to fly and if it is love other experiences come.  If you don't feel it is worthy to be with your boyfriend then call your relationship a day... things like this happen then prove luck with the other but I do believe you're being unfair at deceiving your boyfriend because that you don't feel attracted to him anymore does not give you the right to treat him like that.  You have to choose between one of the two guys, one of the two feelings and then subject to the consequences... There's nothing wrong I think but that.  Imagine all the guys you'll meet in your life... certainly you'll feel quite attracted to some even more than you feel with your significant other but does that mean you have to change him?  I don't know... if your boyfriend loves you, and if you love him, you shouldn't be so easy at going on other guys... no matter how attracted you feel no matter how passionate the moment is... Pick up one!
319374
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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Don't stress about it.  Really, you're young and it's not the end of the world.  Take a look inside and see if you really do want to be friends with him or if there's reason enough to let him go.  (you may just be feeling guilty about not wanting to let go.) Picture meeting him as a stranger and getting to know him.  Is he a guy you'd want to hang with?  Yes or no, it's cool either way.  Take care.
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It sounds like you are scared that what happened with your one boyfriend may happen with the next guy you fall for.  So take a moment step back and don't rush in to anything with anyone.  If you can manage it even take some time off for yourself and enjoy life.  Hang out with your friends or even your family and let your mind clear up.  Give it time and if you meet someone take it slow and let things mature and if it works out then great.  Otherwise if you do go out with a guy make sure to let them know that right now you are not looking for anything serious but are great with being friends first.  \n\nEither way don't rush it as fate (if you believe in it) will drop a bomb on you and next thing you know you are dating.
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Your not crazy by a long shot. You seem that you may be scared of a commitment and that is why you seem to like guys who you will never know or have to make a decision to be with. Try finding out why you feel this way? Maybe a guy has done you wrong and it makes you leery of meeting someone who you might fall in love with>>>>>>>>
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Pancharito is right! I know you want to be friends with him, but you are in love with him. You will always be tempted to just crumble and tell him you want more. But you have to respect his wishes before those of your own if you truly do love him. *sigh* That's the part of love that is so hard. You'll never really fall out of love with him. But distancing yourself will make things easier for you. Get involved in activities you love and it will take your mind off of your heart. Besides, you might make some great new friends through your outside involvement. I do wish you luck........I know it is hard!
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You should stop beating the crap out of yourself for one...  You have a good friendship.  Good friendships are generally screwed up by dating.  Just roll with it.  Be glad you still have a good friend and go find yourself a boyfriend.  Maybe do a double date or something!  Don't try to fix something that isn't broken.  You can still keep him as a friend and date other folks.  Sounds like a plan to me.  You'll be fine as long as you give yourself a break and stop looking for reasons why you did something wrong.  You did nothing wrong, he did nothing wrong, you're still friends, just roll with it before you mess up a good thing.
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Well, I think you should stay with the boyfriend. The brother-like guy will have to take a hike (not to be rude or anything). IF you say he is a guy friend, then he is his a guy friend. NOW if you have feelings for the guy friend, you need to do some serious thinking. But, if you just feel bad because he wants you and you don't him, you got to get used to letting people down.
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well itz ok to feel like that, i do that all the time and weird myself out sometimes. Itz going to be over soon. Just be comfortable with yourself and don't try to impress the boy. Don't act different when you are around him. You probably aren't in love, because if you were you would feel comforatble with him. You should get to know him better so you can be more comfortable around him. I'm sure everyone goes through this, it'll pass. DON'T WORRY. Don't avoid him, maybe you should tell him how you feel about him. But don't say, you think you love him. Just say you like him, and you'll know the rest. but know when to stop talking about your feelings,ok.
153914
There's a whole world out there, you and your friend don't need the trouble this guy could/will cause.  His behavior is truer than his words.  Treat yourself better than that and get a new boyfriend who is really sincere.
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If he likes you in a boyfriend kind of way let him know that you appreciate the fact that he is so nice to you but you just want to be friends so he doesn't get his hopes up.  We shouldn't hurt nice guys feelings b/c they ARE nice and deserve to be treated nice (and honest).
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Smart girl, you have handled that poking incident very well. It was a harmless prank that some boys play to amuse themselves as well as others.\n\nHe is sort of feeling sore being ditched by others. And who doesn’t? I think he still has a liking for you; didn’t he betray himself by blushing (turn red as you put it)?\n\nPlus the fact that you now have a new boyfriend, it is indeed complicated for him. I sure hope that your friends don’t tease him too much, have mercy. Haha.
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Some GOOD and BAD NEWs:\nHE DOESN'T WANT TO COMMIT. He knows what he wants, and you are a good girl, rite, and he knows that he'll end up hurting u because hez not ready to have a real relationship. Hez prolly too young, guys take a long time to finally commit. Don't try to think you can change him, bcuz u can't. BUT back off for a little while and then he'll see that he really has feelingsfor you. Then he'll change on his own. I HOPE YOU GO WITH WHA I SAID, CUZ I DID THE SAME, and it WORKED!
394833
Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
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OMG!!!! i am in your shoes in the current moment!!! My guy friend of four years lives in Seattle, but is working out here in California. I so like him, but he only admires me as a friend, he loves to hang out with me, even get advise from me!!! what sucks is tht i recently told him tht i liked him & i feel weird & he's his normal self. i think tht a friend is unconditional, but we are trying to put conditions. i just think tht we have to hang in there & hope tht someone will admire us as, we admire them. sooner or later it will come!!!! Sometimes we as humans want to control, when, where & time. We just need to realize tht the time will come. We kinda have to open ourselves to the world & understand tht our love is One sided. Until then we are just hurting ourselves. they r nt the ones causing pain, we r!!!!! Be strong & hang in there. Somedays are harder than ours. But our time will come. Good Luck!!!!!
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I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.