I know os so many people who name the son after the father or grandfather or uncle,daughter after grand ma or great aunt and it seem the should give the child theyre own indentity. It's nice that they think highly of the family but it's like they're making the kid an extention of that family member
201495
Well when i have a son with my boyfriend, Im going to name him after my boyfriend. It was a family thing so why not continue the generation? I dont mind, a name isnt who you are its just a name. I dont think its so much of a big deal as long as the mother and father agrees.
126412
My cousin did our genealogy and discovered our family descended from English royalty. I don't know his name, I was young and was kind of ho-hum about it at the time but other family members were real excited about it. Sorry, no link.
468205
a family memeebr still has to agree it's the one who they think it is, has to be identified, sometimes they try to pick someone that it would hurt less, not a blood but a married in relative sometimes they just pull the male card,
499715
I've had my last name all my life, it's not fair that he gets to keep his last name and I have to change mine. We're not going to have kids, so it's not like we'd have problems with their last names. My last name represents my roots, my people, my heritage and I'm not going to erase it.
41361
This doesn't sound derogatory to me. The intention for the initials were not meant to be offensive, and that's all that matters. If your child later in life had found it insulting, he could have gone by his first name, or first and last initials (like most of us do anyway).
493499
We are all guilty of this to some extent, aren't we?  On one hand, it is proof of how comfortable we are around our family members.  On the other, why is it so hard to offer them the same respect when they are so much more valuable to us than a stranger is?  We all should work on that, I think.......
169455
Don't include all of those cousins and aunts and uncles that are very distant.. Keep it simple plain and short.. just start with the 2 grandma's and the 2 grandpa's..
114909
I think it's a beautiful name for a boy or girl...I know a boy named Jayden and a girl named jaden...doesn't matter the spelling or even the name...who says we can't name our kids what we want..and it doesn't sound like just for a boy...don't listen to them people..it's beautiful...
662351
Be original!  Find a name that has nothing to do with either family so there are no hurt feelings.  Good Luck
156740
This is more of a cultural thing.\n\nIn English we name boys "Joshua", which comes from the Hebrew version of the name (closer to what Jesus' family and friends actually called him!)   In Spanish cultures, they use "Jesus" (pronounced differently from English, of course) and I have no problem with that...  though I will admit the first few times I wrote something official to my Filipino brother-in-law who bears this name (though he is usually called by an unrelated nickname), it was an adjustment.\n\nI am glad you don't suggest there is some Scriptural barrier to the practice -- I've heard folks make pronouncements about this, with no real foundation.\n\nAs for "living up the being named after the son of God" -- well does not EVERY "Christian" bear his name?! and the name of his Father!!  We even formally mark it in baptism in which the NAME of God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit is 'put on us' as now "sons and daughters of the living God" by our connection to Jesus.  \n\n(The connetion between baptism and NAMING as sons/children is clear in the words of the Father at Jesus' own baptism, echoed in his resurrection, in the declaration "You are my beloved Son in whom I delight!"  In OUR baptism it is as if, as we are symbolically united to Jesus his Son, he declare over US "You are my sons and daughters in whom I delight!")\n\nIf some boy's specifically having the legal name "Jesus" helps him remember what we ALL ought to remember about who (and whose!) we are, that might be a very GOOD thing!
5398
I agree with the hyphinating idea. I think your name would sound just fine hyphinated. That way it keeps both your families included in your name aswell.
350394
There last names were given to them by the whites. Most are given ndn names from a elder in the family. Such as named after a family member or some significant thing  that was seen  or done at the time.
34473
How about I give you an example: I refer to my mom's best friend as "Mom" as well as my own mother. Her kids are like my sisters and brothers. Even though we aren't biologically family, we treat eachother like family in all aspects (including the fighting!). We spend holidays together, etc. Also, my pets are my children. Pure and simple. I made my own family in a manner of speaking. :) Family is more than jsut a genetic relationship, it is a type of interaction.
78360
People have become depersonalized in a modern world.There is a lack of accountability. We no longer live in small communities that we have to have good relations to survive. If 150 years ago you were rude to the people you interact with, you may not get your harvest sold at a decent price, or the neighbors to help till you fields should you fall sick. These days many are estranged from family.Extended family has always served as a system  of support as well as discipline. Aunts,Uncles and grandparents would step in as surrogate parents should they see even a distant relation misbehaving.People are also weary, I think , and in the hurried pace of life, do not see what being kind will DO for them.Unfortunately, thinking of yourself first has been promoted for years now and rudeness is a side effect.IMO, If everyone calmly and non judgementally said ," You may not realize it, but you were just unnecessarily rude" people may reflect and change their own behavior. Then again, you may get the finger!
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Most children I know want the father's last name--it's just the way kids feel.\n\nWe have physical custody of my husband's 10 yr old son to his ex-girlfriend (who didn't give him the father's last name), and it has served to be a situation of doubt and confusion on the child's part.  He even writes his last name the same as my husband's when he's making out forms on the internet, or on papers he's sending through the mail.\n\nI think it's because all the children he knows has the dad's last name, and kids want to fit in--besides, it's tradition.\n\nIf the father is wanting to be part of the child's life, please give him what almost every other child has as well.\nTrust me, it's not a problem having a different last name than your child when they start school.
387874
Yes this is a very old saying, and your family is not crazy I remember my mother saying it, but I don't know the reason why, I shall watch this question in the hope that someone does.\nGood question
641088
umm...relative = incest.  Illegal and dumb.  Don't bang your cousin dude..it is just wierd.