I statrted out as a waiteress and am now a real estate agent. There is a lot of people that envy me and would love nothing more than to destroy my character. My broker asked if I did drugs. Apparently, my current boyfriends family and their friends is spreading these rumors. My boyfriend quit communicating with his family when they started saying nasty things about me, now things have really heated up. With the small town I live, these people are really doing some damage
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Tell those people you are going to sue them for libel and defamation of character. Contact an attorney.
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Honeslty i have the same problem, my fiance dosent seem to see how i get teased and made fun of when he around or not around. im made to think that i am crazy, and worst of all his sister taunts me every chance she gets especially wehn people are around!! i have done nothing wrong to these people but they continually try to hurt me and succeed at times.  i mean what is there family like are they real jealous people, insecure people, messy people. these could play arole in the problem becuase normally when somethign new comes along and threatens what they have then they are not very comfortable with you.  hey you can email me at any time and maybe we can find solutions.
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Like you said babe, you're more than worthy. Its HIS family and thats it. Not everyone is going to get on, but like you said, you and your boyfriend are strong. Ignore it, Ignore how they make you feel babe. Its probably jealousy on their part. I wouldn't let them see they upset you, you're better than that. After the reception, just keep your distance. Your friends will be there for you, so just make sure you have a good time. Don't let people like that grind you down babe. Good Luck x x x
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I agree with ak. I think most of the time they have a lot of crap to put up with. How would you feel if you had people constantly harrassing you, taking your picture, screaming in your face while you're trying to sit down for a nice meal with a friend? Yeah, they live rich and glamorous lives, but at what cost? While some of them are probably jerks, I think a lot of them are pretty down to earth. It just doesn't seem that way because the only ones we really hear about are the whack jobs, or the jerks. Most of them started off like you or me, regular joes wanting to live out their dreams. And I don't think most of them forget that.\nThere are no doubt some who do think they are better because they have money or happen to be talented in a certain area or whatever. But that's how it is with us poor folk too. You get the jerks and the nice ones. But the thing is, they are special, and so are you and so is everyone. Everyone's good at something, everyone has their bad qualities, and their good. But sadly it does sometimes get to their heads, so they act like royalty. If it bothers you, just think to yourself, hey I am great, and so are all the regular people, and if so and so thinks she's better than me just because she's a celebrity, she's wrong.
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In my work as a therapist, I have heard lots of different situations.  It is possible that (1) they are big gamblers and live on those earnings; (2) one or both of them deal drugs, hence no need for "real" jobs; or (3) a combination of the two.   The man's mom may give her son handouts, too.  Who knows?  It's definitely unusual, that's for sure.  It sounds like a scenario from a soap opera!
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yes there really are such things as "toxic " people.... just the fact that youre asking means you are probably one of those warm hearted people who actually attract these people unknowingly... because they know they can take advantage of you... well I know because it happens to me.... have to put your foot down, you can still be loving, but when it starts to affect your health and stuff you have to let them go! People like that will go bother someone else......... just to prove how toxic they are, make more great friends who arent toxic, but uplifting... and see how the toxic ones act around them!!!! \n                   They will either act jealous that youve made these friends.... or not show their true selves around them...... even though they are the toxic ones.... you have to see that youve made yourself "open" to them..... of course this doesnt include family members, they are just there, not your fault... but even there you can set boundaries!!!!!!! I have, even with family members.
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Why did he move out? I can see that you are sooo proud of making more money than him, because you said it when it doesn't have any relevance to the situation. Did you maybe throw it in his face, or did you start an arguement? You can either listen to the other answers from women who hate men, or you could take a step back and LOGICALLY determine whether you have caused this problem yourself or whether he isn't a great guy. No one, including the other women who've answered that hate men, can tell this from what you've put.  Either you have real issues and need to deal with them, or the guy has done something wrong and you're not telling us(I seriously doubt he moved out for no reason--and if he did, then leave him alone).
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Your exploiting them like they are a f***ing freak show. Your second to last sentence states that very clearly. Your girlfriend has very right to be pissed if they are sleeping with her and she doesn't want them to. They don't have beds? Give me a break they are small not helpless. Why do you feel the need to do this? Is it a need or a want? It seems like your just fulfilling your owns wants and not caring about her at all.That would make you the dirty w****. Oh, and an a** for making her have to put up with them for three extra months, without asking her first. Do you always talk about your friends like they are a novelty; like a bad-ass posse, or say it's "great" when we go to the bar. And what does sponsor mean? Are you providing food/ housing to them? Is your gf living with you too? Will this be effecting her lifestyle? If so, she has every right to kick you and your little friends to the curb. Unless your gonna let her sponsor a "gaggle" of her kind of people when the time may arise, and not say a word about it.
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All of the above has happened to me more than once; at restaurants I have complained to the managers and if they are just as bad as their staff, I inform them that I will be telling everyone that I know how bad they're place is and those people will tell they're friend and so on. I have left stores that ignore me, my hard earned money is better spent elsewhere. And if I feel like I am being followed I stop, turn and confront the person doing the following!
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Lol that's funny! Well, it's really no one's business what's going on with your body.  Just say, "Don't worry about it, let's go play kickball!" Change the subject or be direct and tell them it's personal! Giving out too much information about yourself makes you come off as not valuing yourself.
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The same thing kinda happened to me...I think that you should probably stop reminding him, and don't listen to the rumors. If he calls you a b**ch all the time then he obviously doesn't deserve you anyway!!!=)
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yes I wished I could do that but unfortuntly you cann't do that.  We have to learn how to let those feelings go and move on with our lives!!!!  I had a friend that tore my heart out of my chest at that's not the 1st time lol...  But this friend just really did a # on me.  I mean just about a year ago we stopped talking and I didn't understand why?  Then the truth finally came out she just used me for things like drugs,MY car,a place to stay at were she could stay away from home and I also think that she used me as a bodygard so if someone was going to beat her up then you would have to go meet me(im not a small girl like she was) but anyways you get my point of the matter.  So I have got away from drugs my car don't have her a$$ in it lol lol lol....I have seen that things come back to them and they well have someone else to do it to them too so don't worry they will get whats coming to them sooner or later...also don't let them brack you as a person be strong for yourself...I hope this info helps you out some...also I have heard that you will only have 2 or 3 REAL friends in your life thats not alot so be very choosey with friends.
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Keep calling the police. Call the apartment management. Talk to neighbors. Maybe you could start a neighborhood group that will agree to go together and hang out on the front porch all together to make these guys uncomfortable. Call some Christian rehab people! That'll get 'em!! Don't give up. Too many people give up and the drugs and prostitution takes over good neighborhoods. This is especially bad when there are children in the area, as they are susceptible to influences.
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I've known a couple. Some I understand are very sucsessful so I don't think it has anything to do with sanity, it's more of a behavioral problem. They just have a total lack of respect or regard for anything or anyone. One that I knew robbed his neighbor, got arrested, bailed out by his uncle, then stole his uncle's car and wallet while he slept and after he was arrested again a day later he tried to say he just escaped from his kidnappers. I'm not kidding, this really happened. No fear of the consequences for his actions no matter what they were. Oh, and to top it off the guy tried to lie about who he was when the police had his ID. That may be the loudest alarm of all, LIES. Even when they know you know they are lying, they will still look you in the eye and lie some more. They just do not care. Lucky for me the only ties I had was that I knew who they were. The ones that are good at it are hard to pick out, but they always trip up and expose themselfs for who and what they really are. Today a word that might be used to describe one would be "Player".
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What kind of drama was his aunt talking about?\nI think your boyfriend wants his cake and to eat it too.\nYou sounded really good and I was proud of you....for a while....until the last 3 words..."I don't think"\n\nWhy would you let someone treat you this way? He humiliated you, lied to you...what else? People will only do to you what you allow them to do. \n\nTo get respect, you must demand respect.\n\nShame on him.
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I had a mixed reputation for a while where I was good girl at school and one of the bad ones to my family. Now, most people who knew me before probably would say bad but those who've known me recently would probably say good. And I agree with Joan Jett, who gives a d*mn what they think, I know where I'd like to seem them shove that opinion! ;-)
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I know exactly what you mean. I'm 26 and have had to perform a major life overhaul myself.  I got to the point that i did'nt want to hang out with a bunch of people that drank and got high all day and really did'nt have anything to offer.  I cut them all off except for 2 friends.  I got new friends.  It's hard cause people are going to say that you're stuck up or you think you're better than everybody else but the truth is.....These people don't have anything to do with you.  They don't pay your rent, they don't buy your clothes, they don't put gas in your car and they don't have anything to offer you anymore.  \nIt's a good thing that you want to be more mature.  It shows you're ready for personal growth and advancement.  As far as your bestfriends ex.....Refuse to have that person in your sphere.  You always have control on who you want to be in your personal space.  If that person shows up...Bounce!  Don't allow that person in your home, in your car or at your table.  If they wanna know why...Tell 'em.  You annoy me, I don't like you and your values don't mesh with mine and I find you offensive.  You have the right not to be bothered by people.  Stand up.  You'll be fine.  Best of luck.