she was at a party. and blames it on the drinking she says it was a one of and is very sorry, she swears it wouldent happen again
208482
NO YOU SHOULDN'T FORGIVE HER, WHAT IF YOU WOULD HAVE WALKED IN 30 MINS LATER, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE WALKED IN ON???\nYOU DESERVE BETTER
51188
Hopefully it will serve as a lesson to others that "it ain't over till it's over." \n\nI felt bad for her, I mean she knew she had done something foolish and it cost her, the only good that can come from it is if others don't make the same mistake she did.
217996
Make a video of her doing it....what a wonderful world we live in where you can tape just about anything and everything. Yes she has a problem with drinking because she cannot remember anything she does the next day. What she is doing is killing herself and one day may end up in the hospital for alcohol poisioning if she doesn't watch herself. But ya its AA not AAA, I think your A key got stuck hopefully. AA is not a shame but rather a support group for those who have alcohol dependency. I wouldn't knock it if you don't know what it is like.
442616
I personally feel like if it happens once shame on them if it happens a second time shame on you for letting it happen. Trust is a hard thing to build once its lost you can take that friend with a grain of salt because even if you do give her a second chance this incident will always be in your mind
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Seems like the daughter learned her bad-behavior at home.  Of course, you already knew this - they are your neighbors.\n\nYour original mistake, as you know, was accepting the invitation to the Big Event from your neighbor.  Failing that, your next mistake was having a party in view of your neighbor, without reciprocating.  This was correctly viewed as a slight.\n\nYour neighbor erred by a) crashing your party and b) involving your daughter.  She should have taken it up with you after the party was over.
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You have a problem here.  You need to tell her how you feel.  How much she hurts you and how it hurts you to see her abuse alcohol.  She had a drinking problem and needs help.  As long as you continue to spend time with her, she will hurt you.  In a minor way, you are an enabler for her because you do nothing to stop her.  Yes she has a self control problem.  If she doesn't listen to you or gets defensive about it, tell her that until she gets her act together, you just can't spend any more time with her.  Tell her that she embarasses you, injures you and hurts you deeply within.  Tell her that until she can give you the respect, consideration and friendship that you have been giveing her, you can't afford to spend the energy and emotion on a losing cause...that she is draining you emotionally and physically.  Otherwise, she will keep using you (that is what she is doing) and abusing you.  It is tough to do this and she may get mad and be verbally hostile to you, but it is for her own good...and yours.  Good luck.
390040
Of course you will be responsible! If you will be drinking, you will not be in a position to prove to the authorities that you did not serve the alcohol to the minors while being drunk. In case if something happens to a minor during the party, or after the party as a consequence of drinking (for example: accident, injury, rape), you, as an adult, will be held responsible guaranteed!There is no question about it.
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Girl, if you care that much, give him another chance and another, and aother and another. While you're at it, help him over come the drinking problem, some how. I think he realizes what went wrong, and want to try again. I think he cares about you, and that if he suspected you of anything, he's likely forgiven you- or ready to forgive you. I agree with you, that it would be wrong at this point, to cut the string.
336125
You need to sencerly apologize mabey with I am so very so just take the blame for it.. I never ment to make it feel like I was better than you and give her a card and chocolate or roses if possible
202385
write to her.  you can't lash out at a peice of paper.  tell her that you love her very much and that her behavior makes you worry.  tell her that what her friend did made you very sad as well but now your soul concern is her.  although you don;t think she would ever do the same thing, the way she is acting has you fearing for her personal safety and you love her too much to just look away.  if that doesn't work, and she really is staying in drunken hysterics, talk to your fellow family memebers- hve an intervention or have her committed.
169331
She is a liar.  She did have sex with her ex, and may be telling you because she is pregnant.  If she drank so much that she passed out, it would be rape.  Women know when they've had sex without needing a phone call the next day to remind them.  It has a physical effect on their bodies that they'd notice.  Confront her
652365
that one is hard. i would get her drunk, but not trashed, you want her to have a slight memory of it. then fuck her brains out. do everything that she would before. as long as she can remember bits and pieces she might want to try it again. have fun man!!
187659
pretty much... so people can act like idiots then forget what they did or else blame it on "being drunk"
406669
She received the voice message or saw the text msg.  Your Sis might want to confront you and her boyfriend during the party.\n\nEven worse humiliate you during the party.
388438
forgive her. if she does it again then tell her to stop.
302539
How about "I posted in the wrong category on Yahoo! Answers, and everyone was so pissed off about it that they came over to my house and smashed the shot glasses, hoping that I'd get blamed for having a party, which I did MOST CERTAINLY NOT have while you two were away."
232713
dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.