if your wife' got Aids but you do not(meaning she had cheated with some one who had aids) would you leave her in this time of need for her?
213809
It's all about love and forgiveness. If you love her and if you can forgive her (and let me say contracting that illness is punishment, you don't need to hold it over her head, she'll have a constant reminder of her affair now) If you can forgive her then stay with her help her through this. As the disease progresses it will sap her strength, her spirit, she will lose who she is after a while to this illness. If you feel that you cannot forgive her then you need to discuss that with her as well, maybe not leave her yet, but at least talk things out with your wife let her know how you feel. I imagine your torn right now or else you wouldn't be posting on this website, asking for others advise. Nothing anyone can say will be the right answer, all you can do is listen to your heart and do what you feel is right. Don't let the anger of her affiar conflict with the thought in your mind. Also, take into consideration her feelings if she has remorse good if not and she really doesn't care then it might be best for you to continue on without her. If you really feel you need outside advise, discuss this with a trained councelor or therepist. someone outside of the relationship who can shed a different light on the situation and maybe help you see things in a way you didn't before. Good Luck, Budda bless you, and Take Care.
575689
what you plan on doing is a sin and if you truly beleive that God will give the sinners HIV and AIDS, then don't do it unless you want to join the peple you work with.
245408
That's a sin some where. And any way would you like you wife to cheat on you? "Do into others as you have them do into you" Get it think about that  for awhile!
240116
I agree, the hell with the wife. It is obvious you dont care about loosing her but what if you keep your best friend and he sleeps with someone you really dont want to loose. Not worth the risk to me. Get rid of both of them!!
255944
If you are into it and willing to risk getting AIDS or STD that is your choice. I have friends who are gay but it is not a sexual relationship...it is a friendship. In a partner I would feel just as deceived as if they cheated on me with a member of the oposite sex and end the relationship that never was.
345886
No, his wife should take a STD test though.
626340
depends on the type of person you are...me, personally, i would keep it to myself...but others may feel the need to express it in order to deal with it...if my wife did cheat on me, yahoo would be the last place you'ld see me discussing it
668144
2 things.  First, how long has he been married?  HIV can stay hidden for many years, and he may worry about some pre-marital encounter or drug use.  Second, I'm not sure about the doctor's office thing, but I have heard that they are making AIDS tests more routine.  But I can see why you are concerned about this.  I might worry if it was my husband or someone I know's husband, but it's best to be on the safe side & get checked even if you're not really at risk.  \n\nOne more alternative:  it's possible that he just doesn't know how HIV/AIDS is transferred.  Some people still think that having a friend with HIV and hugging them or something like that will cause them to get it.
78266
The Answer to this question is... YES!!! In this day and age of AIDS and other ST D's it is vital to know the truth about your partner's past love lives. If a person is unable to take the truth, then it is possible that there is no genuine interest.
95197
Hmmm... I personally would not cheat.  I think if I got bored or just lost interest in the other person, I would completely end the relationship ASAP.  There's no reason for me to delay the inevitable.  It's only going to make things difficult.  It is inconsiderate and selfish to lead someone into believing otherwise.\n\nWell, the question that you should ask is "Why do we lose interest?"\n\nI can tell you that sometimes things do not work out because of how someone is proceeding within the relationship.  Sometimes, we fear commitment and we have this desire to just run away.  I've gotten this feeling that I'm seeing someone way too much and I need my space, which is not happening.  Why can't I take a break?  Sometimes, no matter how great of a person you are, it's just not working.  Things are not clicking as they should and it's something that either shifts into a more platonic relationship or nothing.  It happens.  Whether we love someone or not is as unpredictable as whether you would maintain a love someone.  Love can last or fade because of some insignficant actions.  \n\nThe only thing about why men cheat is that some have no decency for other people.  They are no better than the dog that needs a good kicking now and then.  There are better ways to deal with situations and they are not too smart to realize that what they do can really scar somone.  It is this indifference that causes the spread of STD's such as HPV, which condoms cannot fully protect against.  Some people are just plain stupid.  They'll never figure this out until their wives or life partner catches AIDs or HPV and develops lasting effects.  Men who cheat are simply dirty.  Bars of soap won't solve their dirt problem.
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I have. Infact my husband and I both cheated at one point in time. This wsa before marrieage We have been working hard and keeping everone out of our situation. There was a point where his friends said something, and he did not defend me the way I felt he should have. I let him know this and he told me it was because he was angry about the situation and did not care much then. Well I seperated myself from him for a while, we are now married with a baby on the way, and no matter what he defends me even when I am not present. He does not care what they think or if they agree with our situation. Infact everyone who was negative in our lives we agreed to let go. We have never been happier. my best wishes to u
83387
In this world of AIDS, we are living in, its good you know of his infidelity and you feel that way.Its better you leave now, because there is nothing as painful as dying of AIDS yet you are very faithful.Your are very lucky my sister that you know, and there is a purpose for all that happens, take action now, after  all he is not the last man God created.You are a principled woman and i am sure you know what you want right, its never too late to let go, u will always get somebody who will respect you and your feelings.move on.... dont die watching.
140987
i dont \n\nwatch RENT\n\npeople with aids are normal people\n\nthey live their life like everyone else\n\nthey just cant get a common cold or they will most likely die\n\nand they have to take alot of medicine to make their life longer\n\nits sad\n\nand sometimes its not like they did anything to deserve it...not liek anyone deserves aids but sometimes ...its not like they did any "risky" behaivior...
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Even though her marriage is over yours is not.  She has no right to expect you to be faithful to her since you took vows to your wife.  With that said if you are still in love with her you need to ask yourself if you love her enough to end your marriage?  Don't cheat on your wife however because that just causes more pain to everyone involved.
662616
Agree with machelle. This is true love, from the wife -- unconditional, but probably also for the financial security, social acceptance, for the kids etc. All very good reasons to stick together. Plus probably a deep understanding of who he is. He won't leave her because that depth of guilt generates such a huge debt of gratitude. As long as he treats her with reasonable respect and dignity, she will stay, and as long as she is reasonably tolerant, he will stay.
346639
some do and some don't , most of the time I feel they do, but I have seen people that haven't cheated on their wives ever again, or else they got real good at sneaking around, I guess in time if you stay with him you will find out if he has or hasn't, its going to take alot of time for you to totally trust him again, Good luck to you
174000
If you married this person for better or worse than please tell me what happened to that vow. Goodness this is stupid to even think about running out on the person you married when they need you the most//////////