We love each other we just met 3months but now he say if our family will not agree with our marry then what are we gonna to do ??? Then he says forget about me dont hurt your parents.Does he loves me or he want to avoied me now by this esscuse ????
212809
I THINK HE LOVES YOU BUT MAYBE Y'ALL SHOULD JUST POSTPONE THE WEDDING UNTIL MAYBE YOU'LL CAN GET BOTH FAMILY'S TO GET ALONG. MY OPINION THE SHOULD NOT PUT THEIR NOSE IN WHERE IT DON'T BELONG. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF ON OF YOU WAS BEING ABUSIVE TO OTHER. IF YA LL REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER THEN YA LL NEED TO SIT FAMILIES DOWN AND TELL THE THAT Y'ALL ARE GETTING MARRIED ON////// DATE. AND THERE IS NOTHING THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT CAUSE Y'ALL LOVE EACH OTHER AND WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YALLS LIFE TOGETHER. MAKE SURE YOU REALLY EXPRESS HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO Y'ALL FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FAMILY TO BE THERE FOR YAWLS BIG DAY...I DO PRAY FOR Y'ALL, Y'ALL SHOULD PRAY TOGETHER ON THIS SITUATION God DOES ANSWER PRAYERS, IF YOU REALLY OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIM. I HOPE THIS HELPS. GOOD LUCK AND god bless you !!!!!
351644
you can not put a worth or price tag on love!!! If you love this man it would not matter if you lived together in a cardboard box as long as you two are together! Your family is only looking out for your best interest so don't get upset with them over it.A parent only wants the best for their child and they already have Been through the struggles of life and most likely don't want you to have to do the same! It does make it easier when someone is are already established in love but your heart just cant see if they have money or not nor does it care! I can however from experience say that its as easy to marry for love as it is for money money does not make the world go around but I'm telling ya it sure does help!Unfortunately we live is a society where unless you make a certain figure you just cant hardly make ends meet!You say things are looking up It doesn't matter if he lives with his parents and he doesn't have a car does he have potential or is he just one of these guys that plans on mooching off of mom and dad forever I mean is he in school ,is he at a job where he has the potential of moving up in the company or is he one who sits at home all day eating potato chips and playing video games!!You have to look with your eyes as well as your heart!If this is what you know you want in life then by all means go for it but realize what you are getting into and if he can not support the two of you just plzz think b4 you bring someone (a child) into it as well! What we choose for ourselves is our business but once you bring in a child the choice and decisions you make in life are not for just you so you have to make them all for them!!!I do hope that Love will conquer all and that you get to go with your heart in the end ,just plz do yourself a favor and make a a list of things that are good and bad about him and be honest if you don't write it honestly your only hurting yourself but write down everything his goals his chances of reaching them where you see him in a few years and think to yourself in 10 years is this what I want for myself? You don't have to break up with him because hes not financially stable but plz do yourself this favor and not marry him until he can take care of you and your future family!! the best of luck to you!!
628179
Oh my...how complicated indeed. Love story like in the books, but I guess yours is reality. Stop and think for a moment here...what is your intention? The only person in this triangle relationship who really seems to be in a mess is you.\nDo you really deserve to feel this way? What did you do wrong? The answer is nothing....this whole situation is not your fault....and now you add to your misery, the need to explain your every move to someone who hasn't really done everything he could to be with you...Oh, believe me if he really wanted you ...no matter which culture...he wouldn't have just married the girl his parents wished for him to marry. Even in India nowadays ( I heard) young people go against their parents wish and marry who they want to marry. Wake up and face reality. You don't owe him anything...no justifications...nothing! You lost him when he married that woman...and he lost you....now don't lose yourself, too. Take care and start loving yourself for a change.
559133
if he told you he wasn't ready for marriage then he was very mature to inform you of such. trying to apply pressure to him to make him do something never works. i would advise you both sit down if possible and talk things out
244232
If he chooses his mom over you then he doesn't really love you.  Your marriage will only succeed if he is able to make you number one in his life and not his mom.
672188
He may have been looking for a way out, and your parents gave him a good one.\n\nIf he's in love with you, he'd show some resistance to the parents' decision.\n\nParents do have good insight (much of the time), so there may be something to it, if they disapprove.  Without getting all emotional and defensive, you may want to sit down with them and get a better/fuller understanding of what they disapprove of, in your BF.  They're just looking out for their little girl.  And, although it may not make sense to you, at the time, their protectiveness may be very valid.
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I think you are mature and caring, and kudos to you for not taking this guy's virginity before breaking up with him.  (Would that more guys would act this way toward their girlfriends!)  Good for you, also, for knowing that you are not ready to make this commitment.\n\nIt's good to be honest with him and share your concerns about racism, about your need for security, and so forth.  Of course he'll be heartbroken, but now it's up to him to deal with it, and I hope he deals with it well.  I also hope someday he'll become strong enough to stand up to his family and pair up with whichever girl or woman he wishes, regardless of race.  I hope that when you are ready to marry, that your man's family will love you too, but if they don't, that he'll be strong enough to ignore his family's wishes and stand beside you, and you'll stand beside him.\n\nDo you know the song "Society's Child"?
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First of all, religious differences are a major concern. If his religion forbids marrying out, you won't have a happy marriage as far as his parents go... Take that into SERIOUS consideration.\n\nNow the way he treats you, I mean, I know you love him but he really doesn't seem that interested in you. Why would he want to wait for five years? He thinks his parents will somehow approve of you in five years and now they just can't see the situation clearly?\n\nSend me a private message if you want to discuss this further. Just give this some really serious thought, marriage is forever and the last thing you need is a divorce a few months after getting married AFTER waiting years and years!
568370
you don't say how old the two of you are but here's my opinion.,\n\nright now- there's no reason for him to start up trouble in his family because even tho they will like you- they will certainly have issues because of their faith and that's ok. it is understandable\n\nfor now- just have fun and don't worry about all of that.
199211
well if you're in love with him and he says that he loves you and regrets what happened, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Just remember, if he lives with his parents, don't write anything that you don't want them to see.
301344
You could try writing them a letter if they wont see you. In the long run though, it comes down to this... You're marrying HIM not his parents. If they want him in their lives they'll come around. He needs to make it clear that he loves you and wants to be with you, even if it means not seeing his family. My guess is they will come around after a few weeks. Hope this helps.
350699
he luvs u a lot, but i think 'coz of some family matters,he doesn't want ur realationship!!!!!!!\nbut dont worry he loves u a lot!!!!!!!!
223645
Your parents want the closness you want to, believe me.  You're so young, you have all the things in life to look forward to, with your parents at your side!  Marriage, children, a lot of fun at holidays.........be honest about your feelings.  I am not a mushy, touchy-feely mom, but my kids never said they missed that.  It's not like I don't love my kids, I don't realize what they really want deep inside!  I know that, although we parents are close to perfection, we are not able to read our child's minds.  The fight is over, right?  You don't mention how serious it is, but forget about it, you can't change what was said.  Please talk to them.  Good luck. And try and pray about it!
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This girl sounds a little confused if she's engaged to someone she doesn't like...why would she have said yes to the proposal? This decision should be completely up to her. She has to decide if she wants to break the engagement or not. As for your family, I know you love and respect them, but this is your life and only you can pick the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with.
596407
He understands perfectly.  He is just trying to get you to change your mind.  Stand your ground, you are doing the right thing.  Tell him you are engaged, very much in love and respect your fiance.  Do you know his wife?  Tell him you will ask her opinion of his proposition.  If all people had your attitude, there wouldn't be anyone to cheat with. I applaud you.  Best wishes on your upcoming wedding.
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do his parents live in lebanon? do you two plan to stay here if you get married? it's unlikely that his parents will change their minds. and i bet if you two marry he'll want to go back there, or at least have long visits there. it smells fishy to me. his parents are probably deep-rooted in their opinions; meeting you will be unlikely a mind-changing experience. be careful. it also depends on how long you've been dating. please tell me it's been over 2 yrs at least.
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he,s afraid of moving to fast for you!tell him the truth about your feelings!I,m from the old school, bf or gf don,t mean a thing til the wedding is planned, so take your time,relax,slow down!