i believe my 21 yr old girlfriend is being sexually molested by her adopted bro. and wont admit. but has given many hints. how could i help her
210689
I went back and looked at all your questions and you are pretty paranoid aren't you?
86066
I was molested by a cousin when I was 7 I didn't tell someone till I was 14. Please don't wait. These perverts could be out hurting other children. If you can't tell her write it in a diary and leave it in plain view. If you have kind of mother that's a little nosy, she'll read it and she will come to you. Or just write her a letter telling her what happened and how hard it was to tell her to her face. Getting these people off the street will help you feel better.
612795
You can win the case, especially if you can give information that you would only know if you were abused, i.e., scars  or marks on areas of his body that should be covered, penis size, something about his penis when erect, etc...\n\nIt is best to report it immediately. If you have seman samples on you or your clothing, that can be proof that he is molesting you. If you wait, any evidence may be unusable.\n\nGood luck!
467954
as a victim of molestation I have to tell you , please report it.  If he molested you, it is likely that he molested his own daughter and even if not, how many other girls has he molested that are afraid to come forward?  If you do nothing, how many other girls are going to have to be molested before he is not allowed to do this any longer.\nMy sister was raped by a neighbor at 10 and told no one until she was 16- she still struggles with fear because she waited so long and now he is in hiding.  How many other girls has he abused and how many more is he going to be allowed to abuse?  \nAs the victim of abuse, in order to make things seem not so bad for us, we wind up defending the abuser, putting their family and their reputation above ourselves because we feel not worth it.  \nLet me tell you now- YOU ARE IMPORTANT!!!\nYOU ARE SPECIAL!!!\nYOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE ABUSED!!!\nno one has the right to treat you like this and what has happened to you is terrible.  Don't trivialize it, there is nothing wrong with you- he is a sick sick man who needs help and if he refuses help then he needs to be disciplined for what he has done to you- it is NOT acceptable!!  Unless you stand up for your rights and say this is not right and see that justice is done, oyu not only leave him open to abusing other girls, you leave yourself open to continue being a victim.\nPlease, I don't know how old you were when this happened, but for my children who are 10 and 14, and other children all over the US- report him!  You are not shaming him and his family and don't let anyone make oyu believe that- HE made a poor choice and HE alone has shamed himself and brought these consequences on his family- what happens to his family is his fault and his fault alone- don't forget that!
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It isn't significant how many times they had sex, neither is his size... this is information that will not help you in any manner. What is important is that you don't believe her, that you obviously don't trust her. She sought out an emotional release that she couldn't get from anyone else, that she was unable to ask of you. If you want to forgive her, seek counseling, individually and together, and don't be impatient, it took time for it to graduate to the point you are now, it will take time to heal.
592357
Well, it really depends on the statute where you are, but technically age has nothing to do with the term "molest".  It's an improper sexual touch. You really do need to contact the authorities and report it, but really it becomes your word against his unless there was a third party witness. But, because i'm not a lawyer, and i can not give out legal advice, what i would do personally is contact the police and get advice from them or a lawyer.
26389
Really need a little more information. If looking is all he is doing, then that alone is not sexual abuse. Drinking at the age of 15 is a problem and can also be taken care of in the manner I am fixing to give you. But first lets go back to sexual abuse. If he is in fact sexually abuseing you, you may do one of two things. First tell your parents if you think they will help. Second, if they decide to help then all of you go to the agency I will give in a moment. If your parents don't help then you alone go to the agency or call, and explain your situation more fully and gave will give you the answer you need. The agency's name  is called DYS, Its real name is Department of youth services, listed in the phone book under state agencys. Should be one located right in the County where you live. Good luck and don't play around with this.
186796
There's definitely something going on and I'm sorry to say but she's no good for you. Obviously she's not really caring about how you feel about anything and is using you for financial support. And if she really loved you, she wouldn't get mad about you confiding in your brother. At least you didn't confide in another woman's vagina...for crying out loud. You have your freedom to do confide in anyone you want. Not only is she restricting you but she's also using you. You need to step back and re-examine your true feelings for her. Perhaps you're just in a comfort zone and that's why you want her back. Agree on the break and go out and clear your head. I'm sure that you'll find what you really want...listen to you heart. It knows exactly what it wants...are you listening?
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Just make sure that she isn't being manipulated. I won't say anything about the age difference because it's nobody else's concern. But, if she really has an abusive background and no attachments, it's very possible that she is not in a stable frame of mind. Make sure that she is not "in love" with him just because she likes the idea of having someone finally care for her.
448920
Someone very close to me has had this happen to her, a relative actually although not a sister.  It is up to her on whether or not she is wanting to or ready to get help.  It would not be wise of you to seek retribution for her father's actions.  It has to be her decision, possibly with the help of a counselor if need be.  And she may never seek retribution.  She may just want to heal and get on with her life.  It is very hard to prove something so many years after the crime took place.  Immediately afterward would have been better, but most cases of family incest do not get reported until years later.  Then it's a case of he said she said.  Even hypnotizing has been discredited in some of these cases.  \nIf you want to help her and she seems to want your help, talk to her about professional counseling.  It's the best way to go.
430657
Try and comfort her and show her that you really care! If she can learn to build up trust in you, she will feel better about herself and realize that her situation was in the past and there is really a guy who really loves her! Good luck!
320478
He's a dirty son of a b!tc# who is sexually stimulated by his own sister's undies. Tell your folks, and watch out, because he might try to sexually molest you. Call the police if he tries anything.
561334
Wow...its cool that you care a lot and are empathetic. Well....I think you should calmly ask her what's going on...MAYBE..she doesn't trust guys completely .. not just to single you out, because of her 'ex' that abused her. So..maybe you should ask her what's up and offer help and then she'll think you're trustworthy...and you'll probab;y hang out more...Hope I helped ! : )
332381
We can't answer that for you.  Your primary concern should be your daughter, so concentrate on that.  You were a witness to the event, you need to make a judgement call.  The fact that you are having doubts about his character (wondering if he's a pedophile) make me think there must be more to this story.  If you seriously think this is possible, maybe you need to end the relationship. And if you choose not to, don't you dare leave your daughter alone with him!
53883
hey I can completely relate to this question!  I agree with another answerer in asking the question they posed- how long have you known her? My situation is very similar in fact I dont know if I really DO know her last name yet.  She had some real jerks in her life and to get away from them (one actually) she went thru a program and they got her a fake name- kinda like the witness protection program in a way.  It would be very hard for someone like this to trust us guys after all shed been thru. Just bear with her, and yes the lies may be defensive necessities for her.  If you are any kind of man that she would need, you will HAVE to give her time to trust you (thats what I am working on too right now with the girl of my dreams)- show her that she is worth the wait and that you are worth her trust.  You are lucky she is even OPEN to talking to ANY guys right now if her situation is anything like MY beautiful princess' situation is.  I will wait for her and be there for her because I do love her.  She may need you more than you know to help her heal from past experiences.
461822
She is depressed and probably feeling insecure. I believe that she probably likes this guy because he makes her feel younger. However, you are right. The grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely, he will probably date her for "the candy" and once someone more attractive comes along, he'll most likely leave her. I hate to be so brutal. \nHere are some tips to boost her ego and hopefully help her realize that you are such a good guy:\n*pull her closer when talking to someone of the opposite sex, even if it's a relative.\n*surprise her with wine and bubble bath, possibly leading into a massage?\n*do fun activities with her, go out and have fun together.\n*tell her she is beautiful and give her affection in public(in moderation)\n*as crude as this sounds (I apologize if anyone is offended) but give her foreplay! \n\nIf all else fails and she still leaves you, if you truely love this woman, be there for her when she falls down. If she does this again, then she doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't let yourself get stepped on. \n I wish you the best of luck. \n*
648492
If she is and you push her about it she will not tell you b/c she would probably be afraid of what you might think. Give her some time and if she is she'll tell and maybe she might just be a little curious. If you are into hard core investigations try setting something up for her and see what she does....idk!