hey....sometimes I think that my friend aren't real friends and that they just take advantages of me..I often feel lonely and despite the fact that i have many friends,sometimes I feel lonely and I think no one really likes me..I dont know why.can you tell me who is a real friend?What makes a real friend?will I ever notice my real friends?or will I always think that no one likes me?how can I realise if they really like me or not?please help me!
199518
Chris you don't say how old you are but I used to feel like this in my teens and early twenties. I matured much faster than my "Friends" and they did not hold the same ideals as I did. I used to get really frustrated by so called friends not treating me in the same way that I would treat them. As I have got older I have made a few really good friends. This is preferable to many shallow friendships.\n\nA good friend sticks by you no matter what, through the good and the bad. They will be honest with you, without being offensive, will listen, make you laugh, maybe make you cry too if they are hurting. A true friend will make you feel good inside, love and accept you for who you are and when you come away after being with them you feel great. I also find my friends bring out different aspects of my personality but each is treasured in their own right.\n\nAs you get older and become more confident in your skin you also begin to care less about whether people like you or not....they can like you or leave you.  \n\nHang in in there, treat people as you would like to be treated and in time you will make real, true, loyal friends and yes you will know when you have them.
599990
when you care about someones feeling or respect someone  you give them an explanation why you break plans,  obviously she doesnt consider your feeling, so i really dont think shes much of a friend. Shes more like an acquaintance. Stop calling her and maybe she'll give you a call if she misses you.And if she doesnt call just dont worry about it, get a new friend
357043
I've learned in order to get and keep "real" friends I had to be one to them.  What I mean is what we want we should be willing to give out.  True friends never go away; we may outgrow each other, make decisions that change the nature of our relationships with them, but if true friends they'll rejoice with our accomplishments, cry with us over our failures, and support us through our challenges.  We likewise would do the same and sometimes even more for them.  True friends give love from the heart, and know that what comes from the heart; touches the heart...
203578
Relax, a lot of us have been in the same situation.  I was never one to have many friends and because I was one of the smallest in my class a lot of people often tried to pick on me.  I learned that the best thing to do is simply not care about what other people think or say.  I learned to accept who I was and the fact that a lot of people are just mean or idiots.  In the end I had a few good friends and people left me alone because they found out they didn't matter to me and the things they said and did didn't bother me.  If they know what they do affects you then they keep doing it just because they get a reaction out of you.
116786
There are many different types of friends - soul mates, party mates, dependable mates and those fair weather mates.  All have a personal value you place on them depending on how theyve treated you, helped you, or how you feel for them.  People can say they are your friend but only you can decide over time wether they really are!!And remember we test each other to truly see if a friend is a friend so if a friend pushes you into something you are not comfortable with - be the true friend you would want and tell them - its probably what they want to hear!(Always trust your instinct)
499809
Dragon,  You are my friend aren't you? Then  I will Defend your honor! Yes, I worry about an online friend like any other friend, I try to let them know that I value and treasure  them, that I really care, that I am here for them ANYTIME they need me! But alas, like real friends, I don't often have the timeto convey that as well as I would like. Friends understand that tho, That's part of being friends! Dragon, you are a valued friend.
107004
sorry, i don't add people i do not know personally.  as for getting more friends.  just randomly request friendship to others, who knows maybe you'll be lucky!
32370
A true friend will never turn their back on you.  A true friend will give advice as well as ask for it.  They will listen to your problems, and ask you to listen to theirs.  They have you in mind, not just themselves.  "Friends" cannot do all the things that I've explained above.
603109
Are these 'friends' who work with you?  If so, in my experience no matter how close you are and care about each other, you will always first and foremost be work colleagues.  So its natural for them to not want to share information with you, they see you as a threat.  But then its also natural for you to no longer consider them friends.  They're just workmates, I'm sure there are other people in your life who deserve to be called your real friends, so don't let it bother you too much.
223817
A REAL FRIEND:  This person is the one that no matter what is there for you.  When your up and when you are down.  This is not a "yes man" but a person that has your best interests at heart and will tell you when you are going down the wrong road.  This person is happy for you when things are good and crys with you when things go bad.  Some times we out grow a friendship and it is time to let it go. You have to work at friendship like any other realtionship, if both are not working at it, it will die, sometimes it is best to let it go.  A real friend will keep working and fighting for you.
23654
If someone is not your best friend anymore that means that either you or he/she or both have changed (assuming there is not a discussion that has made your relationship to grow apart).So if now you have different interests, or have that sharing time with other friends is more amusing, then try to feed those friendships. If you really feel like you still want this friend to be a very close friend, talk it out and see why youa re becoming distant from one the other. Sometimes friends dont keep in touch for a while, but usually they come back when they realize they feel comfortable around.
559779
What do you want to do? How about the person that told you whatever what said? Was the info. true or not? Do you believe in your friend?\nOne thing I do know from experience is that a true friend will never two face you. My sister, mom, brother, dad true friends have said things about me but in real concern. Sometimes it pisses me off but they have the right to love me. And if someone came to me and repeat their private conversation to make it gossip I would dump their butt, because i do trust "MY" judgment for a friend. So where do you stand with these friends.
361350
Unfortunately in this life there aren't too many people you can call "real friends". I can think of 2 that have stayed by me no matter what and I consider them "keepers". You know when you have people like that who aren't shallow. They'll be there whenever you need them.
93754
If your best friend says about you smth. like that----HE (or SHE)IS Not your friend.Real friend will stick up for you.I know that it sounds awfull,but that`s life and you can`t change it.Still there are some good people,it just that it`s difficult to find them.\nWish you luck!!!:)))
569186
True friends don't count this cost, they don't need to, as over time it evens out. Sometimes you will need more, other times your friend will.  If you can rely upon each other to be there for each other when you are needed, that is true friendship.\n\nSometimes there are friends who take more in one way, but give more in another.  I have a friend who frequently only wants to talk about herself and her problems, but she has been a good friend to me in other ways, so I am happy to be there for her when she needs me.  In a way, helping her by listening and advising does me good too.  Sometimes I have to limit the amount of time I spend on this, if things are 'going round in circles', as that can be very draining.\n\nBut no relationship is ever an equal balance of give and take at all times.\n\nHope this helps.
471968
I adore and love my friends for who they are.  Maybe its because we are older.  I consider my relationships with my friends to be as important as any other relationship and I know that I must work at them just the same.  Honesty is vital in a true friendship as is unconditional love and acceptance.  If you find a friend you can feel that way about, that is a REAL friend.
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hm...\n\nI suppose that you are already doing all of your part for it to not..\n\nso,\n\nif I like them I feel depressed and talk to my friends\nif I do NOT like them I feel relieved and talk to my friends.\n.\n.\nin both of the above statements "my friends" is the common thing.\nand that group keeps growing...evolving as my interest do the same...\n.\nso I stay with MY interest and so far(except at the current moment) someone that shares my interest becomes interested in me, at least for a while.\n.\n.\nhm...\n.\n.