Well my problem's pretty common!!!\nI've been in a private school for boys..then entered the mechanics section in Engineering faculty (no girls in it of course!)....so basically I don't interact alot with girls.....so when I'm with one...just being there makes me pretty nervous (might even sweat!!!) ...and yeh I never had a g/f also....\nI just wanna face this problem before it becomes a life's burden!...\nWhat would you do usually if you're tense around girls?! ;)
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Get involved in a group that contains both guys and girls. This way you can be comfortable around your male counterparts, and also get to observe girls up-close. If you play your cards right, you'll be seen as "that shy guy"... which most girls find rather intriguing. Take your time, get to know a girl and realize that she's not a being entirely different than your guy friends. Sure she might be wearing make-up and a skirt... but guys have their own things too.\n\nPerhaps some of your guy friends from engineering know some girls and would be willing to introduce you to them and hang around so you still have someone familiar around.\n\nMainly, just relax, take a deep breath and let what a great guy you are shine through.
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please dont reject this advice. Talk to your parents and mabye a favorite teacher. I can understand if you maybe don't get along with your parents. I didn't get along with mine when I was first getting interested in boys. I did have a favorite teacher that I probably could have talked with about things. \n\nI felt so much like a misfit in school. I worked in the office and one of the other students in there started talking to me about books I was reading. We went out for a little while \n\nI have learned that I am my own best company. Have a good spirit and find things to do where you are enjoying yourself. Other people are attracted to fun people. Join a club, talk to lots of people and smile. \n\nLearn what you think are your values and what you want to have in a boyfriend. It's much easier to find something if you know what it will be like when you see it. \n\nI hope this helped.
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In school at that age.. I did'nt have many girl friends.. sometimes I think girls find it easier to have guy friends.. because a male friend at that age is less likely to be judgemental. I wouldnt worry at all.
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The only thing you need to worry about in middle school are changing hormones, girl. You know around the pre-teen years kids start having more emotional issues & stuff. So my best advice to you is to just be as understanding and patient as possible with your friends if they start acting a little out of the ordinary, but that doesn't mean you have to deal w/ unecessary drama. Middle school was a tough time for me because I felt like I had to grow up really fast, and I regret not taking up extracurricular activities. You should get involved in sports or clubs, make friends, hang out, stay out of trouble & away from people who start it, and just be yourself! Have fun- if you do, high school, which is an even bigger change- will be a total breeze. Good luck!
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No, as I've gotten older I've found it much easier to approach others. But that's beside the point really. What you need to do is force yourself to come up to people in your class. Your teacher, and your friends out in public. Just start by saying "Hi" and go from there. :) People love talking and if you get a big "talker" then you won't have to worry about saying much. Never be afraid of what people think of you. You are your own person and you shouldn't care what they think. If you say something stupid, laugh it off! I have to a lot. Goodness, just the other day that happened to me and I just laughed. It's like walking into a pole in front of a guy you have a crush on. You just step back, say "wow, that was stupid" and start laughing! It's really freeing! Trust me, I have actually run into things around guys that I've liked in the past! Yeah, it's embarrassing, but that feeling goes away after a while and you feel more confident in yourself. Good luck to ya!
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You should talk to her more often and don't  be shy about start a conversation like after the test is done just be calm about. I'm just sayin go for and be yourself and besides i know you can do it. E-mail me if your having a hard time with this trust me I'm good at these kinds of things.
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Ok, when I was in middle school, I was scared for the longest because I thought they were going to make us shower. I was one of the lucky ones because some schools don't shower. But I still had to dress in front of people, and alot of people still have to shower. I'm not going to lie to you and say it isn't embarrasing. But I PROMISE YOU THIS. EVERYBODY just like you is thinking about this. Everybody is scared, this and that. If you DO have to shower, don't think your going to be the only one embarrassed. Even if you weren't, alot of guys don't want to see anything dangling anyways. It will be awkward for a while, but pretty soon it will be ok, whether your showering or dressing. Just keep your head up, avoid looking around too much, and don't do it fast, that gives it away, just do it smooth and don't go slow, just do it at a steady pace. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better, just like when I was entering high school. It's just one of those things..... Like when you were scared on your first day of school, going to be scared on your first day of high school, nothing will prepare you for any of that, it's just one of those things you have to actually go through, and when you look back on it, it won't be all that fuss that it originally was.
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The way you're going about it will even fetch you more enemies than if you had to tell the guys an outright NO.  If they eventually find out that you have a lot of them in class, they'll see you as a wayward girl which you're not.  Sit up and know what you want girl and stick to it even if it does not go down well with some. If not, you might end up being every guy's babe. I'm sure you know what that means....a bad reputation.
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I go to an all girls school now, and I have to say it all depends. Firstly, all girls schools are private so it's very likely that the academic levels are more challenging than average. I think that this pushes students to take harder courses anyway. However, it's normal that people don't take advantage of this and not try their best. There were times where I didn't care about doing well so I didn't.. but I always get the feeling that most people at school ARE serious about succeeding (which could be good or bad depending on your own situation). But I think that once you get it in your head that you want to do well, it's easier to find people to seriously study with, and teachers do seem to really care, once you notice it. I'm not saying all girls would do better at an allgirls school-- there are exceptions (some of my friends left cuz not going to school with their guy friends bothered them enough to not try to do better in school). It's also very easy to get boy-crazy, but you gotta keep in mind that people know people and get to know people through connections, so it's not like we're totally separated from guys-- although I know being at school WITH them would be very different. \nI've found that being at an allgirls school gets really difficult (especially bc girls can get freakin annoying) but I think it's helped me do well. If I were at a co-ed school, it's obviously very possible to do well there too. But for me, being at an allgirls school helps me focus more because I think there's generally more pressure to do well and not care as much about what other people (i.e. guys) think. What it comes down to is how serious the individual is about school, regardless of what kind of school it is.
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How did you treat your girlfriends last year.  Trust me, if there is one thing we girls like to do, it's talk...  If you were a jerk, word has probably gotten around.  Did you move up to the high school?  You may be dealing with more  competition...older guys with cars.  I know it's frustrating, but you may just have to be friends with the girls for a while to build up your reputation.  If that doesn't work, there's always next year's incoming freshmen.  Good luck.
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Friends aren't suppose to make you feel uneasy or uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, guy friends are awesome, but there's a line between being friendly-friends-like to harassing. I've had a number of "guy friends" just like that, and so, I would know what I'm talking about. \n\nYou shouldn't let a guy touch or talk to you in that manner. It's not justified, and should NOT be put up with. Remember when I said I use to know a couple or so guys like that? Well, I told on my school administration... they took care of it discreetly... and I was never bothered again.\n\nGood luck! Hope it works out for you! :D
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Well... as a guy myself, I personally don't think that there's any great secret to getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. If shyness is a really bad problem for you then... just sit with some guys and join in their conversation a bit (btw go with your friends though). Seriously the guys probably won't mind.
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well,  i don't think so . i use to be a confident little girl with no worries, but as the years went by, and people started to tease me (and there is a plethora of homework now) i am always concerned, or anxious about me and my school work. i need to learn how to just relax.  i think it is  many moments that lead to one.
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well dude! jus chill for a min.. try to come out of ths loop, nthng wrng in talkng to gals.. ther are guys who are shy.. but jus try once with a gal thn yo wud get adjustd and thngs wil chnge.. yo mite be shy first, but if yo move and talk to gals for smtime yo mite get over vth it.. beggining stage mite be difficult.. but jus try to cope vth it bcoz later it mite be a cushy job for yo to talk comfortably... so giv a try! \nand yo need not be embarrased.. nthng wrng if yo talk to gals.. jus ignore those who are lukng for yor wealth behind.. they are jus money minded and lack senses.. jus evade thm and search for btter ppl.. go ahed frnd.. don be shy.. try yor best.. don flounder in frnt of those who are very greedy.. plz! \nbesta luck!
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Sounds like a self exteem issue. Are you generally happy with yourself, happy with your look, your career/study and your family/friends? If not, is there anything u can do to improve them?  Afterthat I think u need to increase your social skill, make more friends, expand your knowledge (ie conversation topics). Start with girls first if that's easier, or start by just listening in other's conversation... Just get out of your comfort zone. Be patient with yourself and congratulate yourself with every litle conversation u have with boys that goes well. Eventually when the right guy comes around you're ready to have a blast!
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Sounds to me like you suffer from low self esteem.  You don't think you're good enough for other people to like you, so you are worried that they won't.  You are so obsessed with what they think of you, that you aren't even paying attention to them.  So, they probably won't like you...no one likes to be ignored when they are talking, which will only make your problem worse.\n\nIf you want to get comfortable with someone, you have to get to know them.  The best way to do this is to get them talking about themselves.   Listen to what they say.  Respond to them.\n\nNerves can be bad, but there is no magic pill that will fix what your problem is.  Only practice can help.  Don't worry about what the other person thinks about you. The worse that can happen is they won't be interested and you move on.  Try not to pressure yourself and try to relax and be yourself.  Girls aren't looking for un-nervous guys, we're looking for guys that pay attention to us.
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B/c you all get to nervous about things like u think she will like me or what does she think about me you worry about to much just suck up your balls and go and talk to the gurls that you wanna talk to.... just relax and don't care what is going on in their heads...