I have no one talked to and my family lives far away i have a 20 mn old son and my b/f has 10 yr old son who treats me like crap he always on pms and now my b/f is treating me the same way and i feel traped all i do is homework and my b/f/doesnt help he just yells
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you are all stressed out!  The 10 year old is jealous of the time you take away from him and his dad.  You need to encourgage the 2 of them to spend some quality time together, doing father-son activities, just the 2 of them.  Even one or 2 days a week, for a couple of hours will bond them and that kid will do a huge turn around when he has some undivided time with his dad.  His dad is his role model.  \n\nYour boyfriend feels guilty not spending time with you and your child but also you son.  You need to all sit down and plan some quality activities together as a family as well as letting the 2 of them have time together.  good luck, hope it helps!
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don't runaway from yourself...try to face your problems...everything is in your mind...good or bad...if you don't want to do something nobody can help you...life's worth living...I know there are ways of dealing with problems but you are you a solution to my problem may not be the one for yours...try to see your innerself...the real you behind the borders...anger...sadeness...be honest to yourself...feel your power...try to find out the real reason that makes you feel this way...don't hide yourself ...the only thing that matters is you...if you are not happy you can not make anyone happy...you say you don't care about yourself,you don't like yourself....but you love your husband and this means you have love in your heart and this means you are a good person because you care about your husband and his feelings...you know you want to feel good...maybe it's easy to say I don't like myself but I feel you do like yourself so you write here and ask for help...if you are angry with someone try talking to him/her.you say that your mother has depression too and she didn't care about you...this is a bad thing isn't it not be cared by your mother but worst thing would be that you become just like someone you don't want to be...maybe you see yourself as if you are like your mother...you don't want to be in depression so try ...it may not be easy or fast to heal but it is not impossible ...sure you can...I feel you can...good luck.believe in yourself..you are a gift !
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Hey Sweetie...\n\nSo sorry to hear your hurting..  I know exactly how you feel hun and it's the worse pain in the world...  Maybe a big long hug off your son will make you feel a little bit better...\n\nThe pain will ware off, it just takes time...   Cry if you need to cry, the more you let it out the better...   Take Care hun and I hope you feel better soon xxx
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i am being raised by a single mother too. my mom is severely depressed and doesnt talk to me like at all. im not home alot so it makes it easier on me but i dont really know what to do for her. we have been through a lot together and i am all that she has left. it is really hard.
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Because your mom makes fun of you and makes you cry! She should not be doing this and it sounds like you have an unhappy family life. I don't blame you for not being so open at home!  It sounds like it is emotional abuse from her. Hope you have someone you can talk to about it regularly, someone you can trust, so that you can stand it better.
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I know how you feel.  My husband used to be the same way.  It is a horrible way to live, isn't it?  Just remember that he has a problem and needs help.  Divorce was not an option for me so I stuck it out, hoping that he would change.  He did.   With a little maturing, antidepressants (for both of us I might add) and patience, we made it.\nI always wanted the kind of marriage my mom and dad have.   Loving, caring for one another, laughter and respect.  It took many years, but I finally got it.  We have been married 29 years this year.  It was soooo difficult though.  But well worth the wait.  Please try to talk to your husband about antidepressants.  It really helps my husband not be so angry and irritable all the time.  If you don't feel like you take it anymore (and I know how that is, too)  talk to someone.  It can help more than you realize.  If I can help in some way, please send me an e-mail.  I would be glad to listen.  I didn't have anyone that I felt comfortable enough with to tell all the sorted details to.  Didn't want mom and dad to know how bad things really were.  Good luck and I will say a little prayer for you and your family....:)
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Seems like you need to get away from your mother and boyfriend.\nI also think you should tell them that they are at the point of driving you insane.  If need be, get a boyfriend that will cause you less stress. Since you can't get a new mother, just limit your contact with her.
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Do you know any other young wives and mothers in the neighborhood? If you do, why not hang out with them. If you don't, then introduce yourself.  Plan outings and fun things to do. You don't have to stay home 24/7. Do something nice for yourself. Do you have family nearby? See if you can get a family member to babysit for a few hours so that you can go out and enjoy yourself, pamper yourself!!!! I hope that things will get better for you. I know what it feels like. Sometimes we are so busy taking care of everybody else that we forget about ourselves.
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So do i :-( you are lucky to have ur boyfriend by your side sometime. I feel neglected all the time by my bf. It seems he does not care anymore
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Oh, I really feel for you. It's very hard to face this sort of situation.  If you know where he lives, send him a letter telling him exactly what you have told us; that you love him and miss him dreadfully, that you miss his friendship and him being in your life.  You don't say how old you both are, but if he was quite young when this happened it may be that he is regretting his hot-headedness (you might find that out when you establish contact with him, but not initially), and he may later welcome the chance to get back in touch with the family through you.\n\nBut if you want to contact him, you need to make it plain that if he doesn't want contact with his parents, that's regrettable but perhaps understandable, but it isn't his relationship - or lack of it - with them that bothers you, it's the relationship between the pair of you that you want to heal.  However, you will also need to be very careful about your own relationship with your parents.  It could hurt them dreadfully if they find out that you have been in contact with your brother, and hurt people tend to lash out.  It may be that your brother felt very hurt if you seemed to take their 'side' rather than his in whatever happened when all you were trying to do was mediate, or just got caught in the crossfire, and he lashed out at you.\n\nJust spend some time putting your thoughts down on paper, don't condemn him in any way at all, and tell him you will always love and miss him.  I hope it all works out well for you.
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I feel you. I think he could have try harder if he wanted to. I know the excuse "i forgot" or I was going to do it relax" and you didnt see shit done. If it is going to be like that I feel you should move out and take a break let him know you are not happy at all and you are under a lot of stress. What will he do without you. He needs to appreciate the things you do as a mother and wife. You need a man not another child you have to take care of. You must feel really lonely and yearning for a man.Take a break and try to relax, go out with friends and take a deep breathe.Try not to overthink yourself cause you will go crazy. I know you have bills to pay but figure out how to get out of this rotation with him cause after awhile it gets pretty tiring. I hope nothing but the best for you and take it one step at a time.
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If you're really frustrated living there, I would look into a different living situation, if financially possible.  Maybe live with friends/roommates if money's an issue. (That seems to be the main reason most ppl live with family.)\n\nBut while you're still there, work on communication with them.  Suggest a time when you guys can talk, and tell them about your concerns.  Using the "I" language helps reduce defensive behavior.  So, instead of saying "You never listen to me", try saying "I feel I'm not being listened to".  The first version can come out sounding accusatory, whether you mean it or not.  They'll hear the second version as you communicating your feelings.  \n\nGood luck!
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Sometimes we just need time alone  to find out what it is that we are missing. Sure family is great and a good distraction from everyday things but when you want to find out things like this is better to be alone go to the beach take a walk this will help.Also it helps to talk to an outsider they might hava a different opinion than those who know both of you. I offer myself if you want to talk I am a really good listener and maybe I can give you some advise. Make sure you let me know how everything went. My email is Junior_03yes@yahoo.com
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I think you need to have some counseling.  Leave your son alone and seek help for yourself.
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its normal to feel sad a lot and feel extreme ups and downs when youre 13 because youre going through a lot of changes in your life and with your hormones. but if you feel like its getting out of control then you need to do something about it. if people are really your friends they wont look at you differently, they will want to be there to help you? if you really feel like you have no one to help you out they have a bunch of teen hotlines and websites where you can meet people to talk to you about your problems. you could even talk to me more if you need someone. you might also want to think about talking to your doctor or getting yourself into some therapy to see if they can help you out. its rought but try and keep your head up and see this through.
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Hey babe! Don't feel so bad, I'm in the same boat. :[\nTry trying hard for yourself, not your Mom. If she is happy with what you're doing then yeah! If not, that's her problem not yours!\n\nHope this helps!\n\nLove, Mandy
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I don't know you and I don't know your situation, but I am sorry that you feel helpless and hopeless. Leaving is not the answer- especially with your children. If I were you I'd get help, talk to a hospital, a hotline, someone. There is help.