i am a 5'10 20year old pretty boy in college and i can't get nobody to talk to me because of my looks and gear what should i do?
199589
A freaking "pretty boy?"  It's time to face the facts, son-- you may need to hike up Brokeback Mountain to be at home with your kind...
350773
Just continue to live your and be confident in yourself. Don't seem so desperate and anxious. It's okay, everything will come in time. So what you're obese? You know what that means? You weed out all the shallow people and you'll find someone really good. Thats how it was for me...I was 17 when I had my first kiss..and I was kinda fat...and I eventually lost 55 pounds about. But I was glad someone accepted me for me. All the time I was down because I didnt have a boyfriend and everyone else had one and when I was least expecting to meet someone, I did. I was with that person for about a year too. Realize how beautiful you are without a boyfriend and then one will come.
518666
nope, not too much to ask. im a decent guy trying to meet people online too.  so dont worry, we're out there. \nas far as attracting a guy, make sure you are as attractive as possible, and i dont mean that to sound as shallow as it does. you have few enough opportunities, and you dont want one to pass you by because you didnt make a good first impression.  guys are physical, sad but true. after that though, make sure that you are interesting. i hate girls that are ignorant of the whole world. they are boring.  so read, keep up to date, know whats going on. have well thought out opinions.  \nwhen you feel jaded try to remember that people are often hard wired to act the way they do. its not an excuse for bad behavior.  but often people are just going through their lives sort of oblivious to the actions they are taking. there is romance out there.  there are men who have honor and kindness and decency.  its just that girls tend to go for bad boys, so we have to act like jackasses to attract any.  find the guys who have accomplished difficult tasks, who are working hard to improve themselves.  who think before they speak, and can backup what they say with intelligent reason.  were out there. good luck!
551394
OMG- You're ME! I am the same way. I good with people, but I'm not good WITH people, if that makes sense. I know I'm sweet, nice, generous and lots of other positive things. I tend to put myself down before others get a chance to, but my self esteem is improving. I have a BF who adores me and I'm making a serious effort keep our flame going. I'd say you should go into a clothibg store and just try on several different outfits just to see how cute you can be in differnt clothes. Do your hair a different way and try to be social with people. I know it's easier said than done because I'm like a brick wall around people I dont know. It take a LOT for me to get comfy with new people, and my "open" is still not considered open to others. My BF said I need to let loose and communicate more and just be relaxed. Maybe you overthink things, like me- always wondering what everyone else thinks... just let go and stop worrying. A BF will come sooner o later, dont settle for just anyone, make sure he's worthy of you. Good luck! By the way, I am a 21 y.o. plus sized girl & I think I look great. Just dress to flatter your body type and have confidence.
471209
FIND A BOY THAT WANTS YOU FOR YOU..NOT WHAT A LOT OF MAKE UP MAKES YOU..IN THE LONG RUN ITS NOT WORTH IT..JUST BE YOURSELF ..THERES SOMEONE FOR EVERY ONE OUT THERE.SO BE PATIENT
551119
Well guys are probably intimidated by your beauty. It just means you'll have to make the first move. Good Luck!
236345
you're not short,just smaller than some other guys. Don't worry. i can't help on the other parts,sorry.  But keep in mind the saying,the best things come in small packages : )
190726
go talk to them instead of waiting for them to approach you.. maybe you seem un-approachable
368362
sorry, but at age 19  you're done growing. just try to be a big person on the inside,  let a positive personality make uo for  your short stature
68710
I am also single and don't like it.  What type of help do you want?  Some advice?  Socialize, meet new people at school, in town, etc.  Build a social network, including clubs or hobbies you have, with people your own age, and the exposure will help you meet lots of new people.  Be open and relaxed (not desperate or needy) as you introduce yourself and take things slowly.  If you are in college that is a great place to start meeting people like yourself.\nBest of luck in love to you!
46711
stay cool and simple... Unless you want great attention from others then just be yourself and you will end up with the right people that has the same wants that you do..\n\nCheers
307016
Sounds to me like you suffer from low self esteem.  You don't think you're good enough for other people to like you, so you are worried that they won't.  You are so obsessed with what they think of you, that you aren't even paying attention to them.  So, they probably won't like you...no one likes to be ignored when they are talking, which will only make your problem worse.\n\nIf you want to get comfortable with someone, you have to get to know them.  The best way to do this is to get them talking about themselves.   Listen to what they say.  Respond to them.\n\nNerves can be bad, but there is no magic pill that will fix what your problem is.  Only practice can help.  Don't worry about what the other person thinks about you. The worse that can happen is they won't be interested and you move on.  Try not to pressure yourself and try to relax and be yourself.  Girls aren't looking for un-nervous guys, we're looking for guys that pay attention to us.
275914
Im 21 never done anything with anyone or had a g/f( except onece with a hooker lol )im 6 ft and now 138 lbs and it seems no one is interested at all. I have like 2 freinds and suffer from depression and also have very low self esteem and confidence and also ive being bullied from the day i started school . Do i want to end things . no i dont that would be letting the dickheads win . When you say big boned what u mean  because if your lean ( low body fat ) and have big bones thats hot too i think you should not even bother worrying your not even fully grown and your a kid still i mean im still young and im 21 i look like 16 lol so yeh my point of explaining this is to tell u that their are people in worse situations if you end now then you wont find out what things could happen you never know some really good things might happen even if u dont belive it which you dont because deopressed people dont i read it up on a doctors website so i know the symptons of depression which you may be suffering from and it affects your way of thinking.
62130
ahh a very common problem...... don't worry about it, find an excuse to talk to him, tell him he has cool shoes, hair, or you like his shirt or something like that.  It will always work.  Then ask him where he got it and he will say something.  Then you have the opportunity to talk about where he got it from and eventually conversation will become natural.  See its just so easy. You also seem to have approaching problems.  If you want to approach him you could try to take a friend along but no more than one.  Also you could try hanging out near him, but not too close, and look at him and look away... look at him again and look away again... every now and then and see if he looks at you.  If he does he is interested in you.  If he still ignores you, you could try accidently bumping into him or something.  Find excuses they make it alot easier.  If you can build up enough confidence walk up to him and just start talking about watever.
606539
I think you are really insecure if you need people to tell you what they think of you.  It's what you think of yourself that matters.  Everyone looks good at our age (ok, not everyone) but personality is what matters..........when we are 80 we are all going to sag and droop, you better have something to talk about other than your younger years and how great they were/you looked.  Personality and sense of humor go much, much further with me.  Looks can go at any time.  What if you were in an accident that left you disfigured and unable to work out for ever???  A personality might come in handy....ya think?
131779
I think that these boys were not your friend to begin with and just wanted to leer over your body(you must be gorgeous). You don't need them! Hold your head high and go and find some good friends who like you the way you are. You deserve better than people who judge with looks.Pretty soon you ll get your confidence back and will show those boys up. YOU GO GIRL!!!
494119
Try a more mature group of men to select from. Maybe you'll find them more appealing.\n\nGood Luck