i got pregnant and my baby daddy denied my shorty because he liked some other b**** that is untill my baby was born now he wants to come see her and im afraid he might get up and leave my shorty for some other b**** and my shorty is the one who is gonna suffer and now hes also all concerned about what im doing with my life but i feel like i dont need him but i still like him but i also like some other guy what should i do
207213
You are in charge of your child, no one else.  Unless the father lives with you and helps raise the child, then he doesn't have a damn thing to say.\n\nYOU can stop the drama.  You just have to be willing to accept that fact that you MIGHT have to cut the father out of the picture.  If the father is too busy humping around, then let go of that loser.  He obviously doesn't realize what he has (a family) and it might take his entire life to come to that realization.\n\nPlus, there are many, many better and bigger fish in the sea!\n\nKeep your head up girl, don't let a man get you down.  You have to stay strong and show your kiddo what it means to be a strong woman.  She needs you to show her that love is unconditional and caring, everything her father isn't.\n\nGood luck and much love!
426279
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. Don't let him pressure you, its not fair, your sweet little girl hasn't even been out of your stomach longer than she was in! How can you feel "normal" yet? My daughter is 5months and I am SO TIRED, the LAST thing on my mind is sex, we are down to maybe twice a week, from at least once every day before I was pregnant. Talk to your husband about how you feel and explain to him that you love him and to be patient with you. You'll get back in the game, don't worry.
184412
Don't go back with him. if you did want a baby then you should get married first. but he'll just do it again and i'm sure that he slept with this girl for more reasons then u think
601477
First of all, if you are feeling ashamed because your bf wants you to be skinny, then you need a new botfriend.Seriously.No man should make you feel that way and he should love you for you, not just your body.IF you think you may be pregnant, take a test.then you will know.IF you are, then you NEED to be eating and you HAVE to gain some weight to carry the child safely and for it to be healthy.Then he will just have to deal with it and if he dosent....kick him to the curb.
157291
I am pro-choice too but if it's not your choice then it's not the same. You can't let him make you feel pushed into this. It's a big decision. OK there's a risk that it will be still born of miscarry. But if there is any chance that you will have a perfectly healthy baby then You should do what you feel in your heart is right. Sit him down and explain how you feel and maybe he'll see where your coming from. You need top think about yourself and that little child inside you. If you do abort it, you'll always be wondering if it might have been OK.After all you have already got one perfectly healthy child, who's to say you can't have another? Just don't make any rash decisions. There's too much at stake.
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pay enough attention towards your son also, he should not feel neglected or side lined b'cos of the new comer.  have a frank discussion with him and include him in all the chores of the baby and make him feel important that it is he who should look after the baby b'cos he is the big brother and therefore more important than anyone else.  and that the little baby is so small and helpless and looks up to him for all its needs and love and care and affection.  more importantly for protection.  so when he feels that he has the responsibility to protect the baby and take care of her, then he stops looking at her as his competitor.  instead he feels like a god-father and guardian angel, and will slowly start liking her, in fact i've known of instances where the big brother will even become so possesive of his little sister that he takes over the full responsibility of looking after the baby.  just try this and good luck.
225562
If it's best to avoid any more emotional entanglement, you are gonna have to play it cool.  Be polite, very polite.  Most people recognize that means there are barriers.\n\nBest solution:  find yourself another guy.  Learn to appreciate that he your baby's daddy... and that is all.
289199
Well since that happened to me a yr ago, I suggest that u tell him that it's over and that u want him to be part of the baby's life. In my situation her and me have an understanding where I get to have him for 2 weeks out of the month and so does she. She just came out and told me, I wasn't so happy about it but I got use to it and realized that she really wanted it to be over. Anyways if U need some more advice on this e-mail at elguapo_v12@yahoo.com Well good luck and remember just sit down with him and tell him what u really feel...
468785
Tell he to back off! And ignor her or when you have free time think of come backs that will put her back in her place. But have confidence in your man hopefully he wouldn't let her have his baby or even sleep with her either for that matter. When she starts saying she's HAVING your mans baby then you can really worry. Find out how your man feels about this and how he feels about her.
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First off, you know that he's had "UNPROTECTED" sex with at least one other woman besides yourself. . .  Think about that for a minute . . . take a few if necessary.\n \nYou do not have to justify what you are feeling.  People come into our lives for reasons, seasons or lifetimes, where does he fit into the picture...what have you learned from the situation(s) you two have shared besides two wrongs don't make anything right, it's still just TWO WRONGS (I'm talking about the cheating).  \n\nAre you willing to live with the fact that he has a child with another woman that he will have to communicate with frequently because of the child.  History between you and your 'baby's daddy' is just what it is, HISTORY.\n\nIf you're willing to chance that risk of what could happen, then by all means do what you want to do.
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Worry about yourself first. Do what makes you happy. Hes obviously doing what makes him happy. He wants you there when he wants you.YOu are only good enough when he wants you to be. Its sad but true GUYS are DOGS.  Go out and have fun try not to worry about him. There may be some one better out there for you. Dont be afraid to give someone else a chance. Just be thankful you dont have kids by him to put them through the same thing because if he'll do it to you he'll do it to your kids. Most guys never change. My father was the same way.
494685
Wait until both of you finish school. You don't want him to end up just being your baby's daddy, do you?
202355
I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
80355
As Tupac said" men have no right to tell a women when and were to create one". BF's come and go but that baby will be with you for the rest of your life don't make the child suffer for the decision he wants to make. It sound like you would be a great mom because that means you have already thought about leaving that sorry man. Cause if he knew he wasn't ready for kids he should have kept his stuff in his pants. It's all on you but let me tell you I lost my second child I don't know if his father thinks about him but i do and it happened 3 yrs ago and hurts every time i see a baby boy. MY Friend had an abortion and she regrets it and is now trying to have a baby but she doesn't know that no other baby is going to fill that void
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sounds to me that hes hurt about you moving on....... find a new sitter and tell him if he cant call and be nice ,, dont call back ..... the fact is that he is the father and will be in your life but for your babys good you need to work out some reasoning with him
392284
Just let things take their natural course, and you'll be surprised!\nLet him come after you, after you have the baby, it is quite likely he will. Just let it happen. Relax and good luck with your baby.
341710
Wake up honey.  If he wanted to be with you, he would have NEVER gotten his soon to be baby mama pregnant....he would have NEVER cheated on you.\n\nLooks to me like you're willing to settle for left overs and sloppy seconds.  You think you have problems now, just wait until that baby is born.\n\nDon't you think you deserve better?  Girl, kick him to the curb and move on with your life.  You don't need a looser like him in your corner.  Better to loose 2 years than 10 or 15 years in a bad relationship that's never going to go anywhere.  \n\nHe's made his decision.  He got another woman pregnant and is spending more time with her.  Now it's your turn to make a decision.  Cut him loose and move on girl!!