hum, i loved a boy and he ditched me saying that he did that for my future. i can't forget him. what to do?
213513
how does it feel to be heartbroken? Well, it depends on how deeply you tresured something with the person who broke your heart. for me, it felt like HELL. But i got over it after about 1 and 1/2 year. when a broken heart will be healed depends on your own pace. Frankly speaking, i don't believe the guy said. it's too unspecific and invalid. that's like telling who you can be with and you can't be with. if i were in your place, i wouldn't think that he's doing me a great favor. But nevertheless it shows he doesn't like you. Learn to move on.= )
654343
He has absued you mentally, reduced your self esteem, made you believe that you love him so much that you  have to hurt yourself physically for him to believe that he has succeeded. My opnion is that you are too good for him because you are still hanging on. If you try hard enough, i believe that slowly you would get over him and recover back to your original self. All I could do is wish you the best of luck.
140253
I think you should just walk away hun, I know it hurts but I was in a similair situation and he ended up finding someone to date and left me hanging on, and i held onto him for too long and it hurt even worse, at least this way you can get back to your life and finding that one for you, and come back with some of your heart. I just hate to see you hang on liek this and then if he leaves you for someonelse have you left brokenhearted and left to pick up the pieces.
668138
Sounds like something changed in his life that he decided made it so he couldn't have a relationship with you.  It may be that as you said he wants to just be one of the boys and they talked him into it or it may be something else that he isn't willing to share with you.  Regardless, all you can do is accept that he has made his choice and move on with your life.  Ultimately it is his loss more than yours.
460067
Sometimes you never forget someone who is really special.  You've got to just keep trying to be happy and move on but you may never forget.  Hang in there!
96137
you need to decide whether youre going to live with what he did or not. if you cant forgive him then you cant move on. So you have to make a choice and decide what is best for you. If you love him and see your future with him then try to fix it, go to counseling but if his mistake erased your visions of a future with him, then you know what you need to do. But I must also say that you cant rush getting over things either and he should be willing to understand and agree with what you choose to do.
81899
i know the type and they are very difficult but it is up to you and your heart. if you can't see him in your future then ditch him but if you see him then give him another chance. ask his friends if they know anything but don't get hurt by their answers .
131758
Well I guess that next time u have relationship with a boy just go slow with him and see what is he like to do in his life. If u show him that u care for him then he will stay with u for good.
670160
i have had a similar experience. You need to understand that everybody makes mistakes. What really matters is if they learn from their mistakes. If you think that he knew he was wrong and he loves you unconditionally now then you need to forgive him and stop thinking about what happened. If you keep putting him down, chances are he will feel desperate and lonely and will do the same thing again. If you don't want him to do the same thing again then stop punishing him. If he is really sorry for what he did then forgive him and forget the past. You can't build future living in past. Forget it and try building your future with him... =)
239109
I think you need a replacement or substitute for him...Be with your friends always and stay busy so that you won't think of him over and over again...Date someone in your office, neighborhood or church...Stay happy in the company of your relatives, family members, etc...maybe you still need to pray to God for on-going discernment on what is His will for you...I believe in destiny, that of billions and billions of people around the world, only one is menat for you...Just enjoy life, be productive, enjoy work and do community activities/services in your respective community...\n\nGod will give you something that you really deserve...Only God knows whats in your heart, mind and your soulmate..
367665
Grab your new freedom with both hands. Wrap your arms around your happiness. Do not look back at yesterdays bad news. Consider yourself free of the promise as he broke it first by not moving to call or make any contact with you. As for his not working you just lost 200 lbs. of dead weight. What a great diet plan. Explore your own personality find out who you are and what is important to you. Maybe you were just in luv with the idea of him, not the real him.
309731
You just learnt a valuable lesson didn't you?\n\nUltimatums always lead to heart break.\n\nI hope you can patch things up, start by apologising for being immature.  Explain that you wanted to be close to him and that's why you insisted on knowing his thoughts.\n\nGood luck with this.
145583
Why don't you have your friends come over to explain what happened?  If he means anything to you and you want to stay, you will try anything to keep him.  Good luck!
194628
You are too available for him. Back off and see if he comes back around. If not, move on!
71307
You can move on and you must! That is a piece of trash and you must forget about him. This happens to all of us one in a life time.
534886
the first boy had his chance , get on with your life... try the new crush! You don't want to make a mistakes do you?
176896
he wanted u for a period of time.. I think now its over.. so he's going away from you..\nNow what u can do is.. just forget such unworthy person and start living your life..