You are a woman alone with two children 9 and 10, your husband left, you have a University education but no one will hire you, you have no money and your family will not help you. If the only option for quick money is prostitution would you do it.
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well i always said to myself if that is the only way i could make sure my kids had clothes on there back a roof over there head and food in there bellies yes i would do it. no questions ask if noone else is going to look after then it better be me and noone said the kids needed to know what the mother was doing. but i dont need to do that.
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I would work part-time.  If you can do without the money, try to work part-time instead of full time until the kids are at least in full-time school.  Most people work because they need the money.  If you have a choice then follow your heart.  You should realize that if you depend on someone else (your husband or wife) to support you, if they leave you your earning ability will be less than if you had kept working.  It's a price you pay.
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I never heard of this as limited to mexican women. I see it every once in awhile among anglos as well as others. It is a reach for financial security and all women need and want this the same as anybody else. If they are alone with small children, it becomes more imperative.
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If you can make sure that underage girls are not involved and there is enough protection to make sure that the women are not forced into it, then why not?\n\nAs someone who has never used a prostitute and has no intention to do so I think it would be a good idea. Think of all the extra taxes that could be raised!!!
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I'd like to help but, i have no information and what kind of career choice your thinking of.More information please.I mean what's your calling? Have you ever thought about being a missonnary in a different country ?Salavation army or a shelter maybe, like part time?I've been thinking on your question and this one is really tough.To actually still make a well enough wage to feed your family and to want to try enough to actually find how you can help others.I think your a good person that i love to have as a next door neighbor.I think on your problem is over my head.I'm sorry and i wish you and your family all the best life can give.
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$100 sounds reasonable to me.  She is the one that chose to have the child.  It is certainly not your obligation as an Aunt to watch her child for free 40 hours a week.  I don't think it is fair for her to even assume you would do it for nothing.
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You're really not that low as you might think! Your problems can be fixed with better mobility. I thought you were going to say something about losing a limb, or becoming paralyzed or something! Getting a divorce and never seeing your kids.  Getting 3rd degree burns all over and recovering.  I think the military is a perfectly acceptable option for getting your life together.  We recently took in a young man who due to a variety of mishaps, had lost his drivers license, and then was kicked out of his mom's place by her new boyfriend.  He was sleeping in the park when my daughter (his h.s. friend) found out. He is in boot camp for the Navy as I write this.  He gets a stipend while he's in there, room and board and food, and he also will receive a $20,000 cash bonus in addition to the $8,000 he will have for school each year.  When he returns next month, my husband and I are going to help him find a small apt, and help him to find a decent running but cheap car.  (He's a Reserve)  So you've really got to choose your options better, or it sounds like you'll be stuck at mom's!
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No I haven't but (it sounds like its a friend) and it sounds like she can get help through a pro-bono place , or a low income based legal services . YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED  at what some places consider LOW INCOME . My sisters husband brings home at least $400.00 a wk (in winter) and at least $600.00 a wk. in summer , and they have a 3 person household . They get approx. $46,000 a year bring home and they get help from W.I.C , Daycare Asst. , food excetra . So tell her - or help her , find those services .
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rent the Movie " Daddy Day Care " \nshe would need to take some courses and get certified and get her house inspected, but she could work form home taking care of children for a real nice pay check..\nthat's what I would do if I were her...\nGreat choice as I see it..\nwork for herself and take care of her children and other children and make a great pay\nLook into this option, please\nGood Luck\nand God Bless
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NO.  Not at all.  I wish I'd had that option.  My girls were about the same age when my ex and I split.  I'd been a stay at home mom and the tech industry had few jobs so I wasn't marketable in my old field.  I wanted to go back to school and finish my degree - something hard to do with little babies.\n\nBut my ex was an ass and his 2nd wife would have forced him to sue me for custody and I might not have gotten them back.  Too bad we couldn't have cooperated.  He can now say he wishes he'd been more agreeable and helped me out that way.\n\nNO you are not a bad mom because right now you are falling apart from the stress of a toddler, a new baby, new mom hormones and a pending divorce.  Wanting to pull yourself together so you CAN be the kind of mom you want to be is a very courageous thing to do and is NOT wrong for your kids.\n\nIt sounds like you would benefit from a therapist.  If you have medical insurance, it should be fairly cheap.  If not, there usually are organizations that can provide licensed therapists on a sliding scale.  I know that Jewish Family services does this and you can see someone as cheap as $5 a session depending on your income.  (it isn't religious based counseling..its the same stuff you'd get anywhere, therapists are truly licensed and you don't have to be Jewish).\n\nFamily Services that aren't run by religious organizations are also out there.\n\nPerhaps you two can work out a 50/50 agreement.  One week with you, one week with him.   If you did this, would he have somone for daycare so he can work?   \n\nQuite frankly you don't sound selfish but you sound both overwhelmed (2 little ones is hard) AND maybe depressed.  Do find a therapist.\n\nYou might also consider sharing a house with another mom, maybe with slightly older kids and sharing the responsibilities.\n\nAsk him to take them for 2 weeks for now (don't make any permanent arrangements just yet).  You do need a rest.  A 2 month old and a 2 year old just doesn't amount to a lot of rest and again, you sound depressed.\n\nIf he isn't cooperative is there another family member that can help?  Or maybe someone who can give you a little cash so you can hire a teenager to come keep the kids busy and maybe help with the house for a few hours every afternoon.  Young teens are often very happy to get such a job but expect to pay around $5 an hour.\n\nAre you part of a church?  There may be a woman's group who will spell you the same as a sitter.\n\nAsk a neighbor.  A lot of moms have been in your spot and may be happy to help.\n\nAnother trick that helped me was to go to the gym.  That helped because it meant that for 2 hours every morning, someone ELSE watched my kids, I got to talk to some adults, get a good workout and know I'd have a shower and my teeth brushed by 11am (which, as you know, is nearly impossible in your current situation).\n\nIt does sound like your ex is not giving you a bad time so DO ask for the help and DO find a therapist.  IF you are depressed (and the hormones caused by a new baby and the stress of a divorce are killer) you need help or this may get worse.\n\nDon't let your family and friends talk you out of something you need.  Tell them if they want to help, they'd be at your house helping DO stuff, not just telling you what they THINK you are doing wrong.   You have said they have a great dad.  I don't think moms are superior to dads and kids need both.  Time with dad won't hurt them, it will help them and him.  \n\nYou aren't abandoning them, you are just wanting a bit of time to pull yourself together.  That's a good thing and a mature thought.  Quite frankly if you get more depressed you could be dangerous so head your instinct to get help.\n\nYoung kids do great with ANY loving caretaker even one who isn't family.  It is older children that need the guidance of a parent.  All this effort people put into staying home with babies.  It
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Absolutely not!  One has to be self sufficient and be able to support his family on his own and not borrowing it from the girl's side relatives.  Its morally and ethically wrong.  She is a life partner and not a slave.  The girl is the one who is going to be a part of good and bad and all the joyous occasions in one's life.  That should not be bought.  The system is in itself horrible and incorrigible.
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No i don't. I am a single mother, i can't even move out of my parents house because everything cost so much. I could get 2 jobs but then the cost of babysitters would spend all my money and then i wouldn't have time for my child.\n\nGovernment doesn't want to help anyone unless you need all there help. They won't just give you a little boost. \n\nIts hard to find a good job with decent pay. i feel bad for the children growing up in todays world that all.
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Turn her a_s in. By doing nothing you are feeding the problem and by not ratting her out you are allowing one more bum the ability to dig into our pockets. The fewer people we have to support the more we get to keep for our families. Let the Welfare fraud line know that she is living with a man that makes enough to support her and her 3 kids; they will investigate and act if necessary.
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Yea, ladies are more compassionate than guys, you have that right. And I'm sure all moms would like to stay home all day and pick up after their dirty husbands, and watch over the kids, and take care of the whole house. I'm sure they would, really. But people have to make money. Gas, groceries, clothes, and just about everything else is costing way more, and that means that families can't live easily off of one income, unless the husband is a doctor, lawyer, or another super good paying job. And moms work hard--you seem to have very little respect for them.
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Some of women do so, even they have a good income, they try to benefit from your closeness to her depending on the type of life in her country. Never give her any money, it will not come to an end, i think it behave the same to other friends of her
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Assuming you have the money, all you really need is a ride.  She should be OK with that.  If you don't have the money, forget it.  Your family has other expenses - like the mortgage.\n_MM
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Some people migt not be able to afford it, or have to work to support their family.  Others might even have kids of their own.  You never know.