i have adult children who do this and they don't know why they started,it was a cool thing to do,or what?
199091
my mother was an alcoholic. I am not.\n\nIt can be hereditary. If NO ONE in your family has this disease, they may have began drinking at a very young age. \n\nI urge you to find them help. My mother died two weeks before my 13th birthday. She was 41 years old. She slipped in our bathtub and her she had a hemorage in her brain. This caused a stroke. She would have lived for all we know but because she had drank so much throughout her life her blood vessels had thinned out. When they had to put the feeding tube in they scratched the lining of her stomach. Because her blood vessels were so thinned out, her stomach filled up with blood and she died. \n\nAt the time she died she had been a 6 month RECOVERED alcoholic. \n\nIt is very dangerous. I hope maybe you can share my story with your children and show them the severity. It takes a lot of will power and many scare tactics for most people to over come this illness. They have to hit "rock bottom" before they can recover many times and no telling how severe that bottom can be.\n\nMy mother was a wonderful person, I never even caught on to her drinking problem until years after her death. Not all alcoholics are the "happy" type. I was fortunate to get the time I had with her. \n\nHer mother is still alive and the devestation that she has gone through due to loosing her daughter is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. I feel it was much worse than how I suffered and I would hate for you to end up in her position.\n\nPlease Take Care and I will pray for you and your family.
191124
I completely agree.\n\nFirst of all, do parents sit down and actually talk with their children?  When their child has a different opinion from their own, do they discuss it?  \n\nWhen I was kid and had an issue with someone (or something) my parents would ask me why I felt the way I did, what were the motivating factors behind my feelings?  They then would challenge me to put myself in the other persons shoes, to come up with possible reasons why the other person would act the way they do.  I learned very young that it takes all kinds of opinions, and that every one of those opinions is absolutely, 100% correct, at least for that person.\n\nPeople just don't listen anymore.  They aren't willing to take a step back and entertain the idea that they may actually be wrong...or at the very least, that there are other ways to view things.\n\nI, for one, am a talker....I talk to my kids.  They know they are free to feel the way they do but they must learn to give others that same courtesy, respectfully.
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I have an 85 yo mom who is no different.  At this stage, they require "prompting".... just as children do.\n\nI've been taking care of mine for five years, full time and it's a challenge.  I struggle for methods to "reward" and "prompt" cooperation.\n\nPatience is a virtue developed for those caring for parents at this point in life - Best of Luck.
463209
That is a good question! I have had it happen to me all my life and have never understood it. My Mother-in-law for instance treats my wife like a step child and her other two daughters like true daughters (kind of reminds me of Cinderella). What scares me most is that I might be doing it to my kids as well - I really try not to be that way and they have never said anything to make me think I have any favorites - but, it still concerns me. The thing is that these people (when you bring it to their attention) do not see that they are acting this way. One of my biggest hang ups is Christmas - buying gifts for people that I could care less about. Well, guess what? This year, we are not spending on these people - not even a token gift. I am in the dog house for it, but I am going to concentrate on my kids and grandkids who I love and cherish - I am going to let the others celebrate without me this year! It makes me feel free, and my wife is warming to the idea, but she is having withdrawal symptoms. I say no more of the fake behavior to impress these duds.
625275
I think you are absolutely correct!!  I have seen both scenerios....I have friends who let their child do anything they wanted because they didn't want to 'squash their spirit' and now they are in trouble with the law and think rules don't apply to them because they never have before.  Then I've got friends who were pretty strict, made their children say Please and Thank you and show respect, as well as follow rules.  Those children are now self-disciplined teenagers, making good grades and volunteering throughout the community.  It all started when they were 3 and under.  Its hard to do they said, because they felt like they were playing 'drill sargeant' all the time, but it paid off.
62578
parents usually get mad when their kids fail to follow rules or do what is expected of them .Parents don't tell their kids to do things just for the heck of it. They want their children to learn some responsibilty so that they can make right choices in life. Your parents are only concerned about you and your well being. they want what is best for you. Try not to lie, if you are caught doing something wrong, admit to it. It is a very mature move, believe me, and after you admit to what you did wrong, apologize. You can also talk to your parents about your goals and let them know that you need them to help you fulfill your goals.Parents like to be needed by their children, I think that is the scariest part for parents when kids grow up, the thought that their kid doesn't need them anymore.
378974
We do a lot of charity work as a family. I agree with you - it's a great idea to teach your kids while they're young that we have a responsibility to help other people. It gives me hope that the next generation will be decent, compassionate human beings and care about more than just themselves.
161217
You know what... just sit down with them and ask them how the evening out was... and just be interested in what they have been up to... not to find out what rules they have broken... but to understand what they actually like... trust me, in most cases they would have been up to harmless fun and talking to you will make them comfortable... next time they will tell you where they are going... the trick is to evolve into a frined when children grow up... hope this helps!
127217
*HINT* \n\nKids liked to be talked to as adults and they love to be listened too, most adults ignore them or tell them to shut up, they just need to be treated with the same respect. Have fun.
198930
currently unemployed, so I don't have to worry too much about all of the above, I am now looking to start my own business, as I am sick and tired of people with less intelligence telling me what to do, I love being with my children, I miss it though when I came home & my children would scream & yell, all excited that I came home, squealing like animals, that I came home...I miss that dearly...I don't mind the disorganization of my house, & if it gets really bad, I get motivated from that to clean up quickly & easily...I am motivated by my childrens future, to give them something better than what I had growing up...I want them to learn, more than I have learned, & to most importantly, Learn how to Learn...my children are what I love most in life...they are my future...:D
156710
Wow, where do you live?  Hehe.  Um, I don't know what you can tell your kids other than you really think they should find alternatives to hanging out in dark, secluded areas.  You should know that if they are old enough to go out and do things like that, that if you forbid them to do something, if they have a rebellious nature, they may do what they want - against your wishes and better judgement.  \n\nMaybe instead of trying to preach to them you could provide them with an alternative like your driveway, or backyard to hang out in and do whatever it is that they're doing in these spooky places.  It's never too late to teach your kids about entertaining people in the home.  That's something we don't do enough of in our culture anymore, as far as I'm concerned.  (That isn't to say bad things couldn't happen in the home either, but at least then they would be in a more controlled environment, and you [if you were there] could see who was coming and going...)\n\nOther than that, I don't know what else to tell you other than maybe to give them a curfew which doesn't permit these types of activities.  \n\nGood luck.
425777
I find that a bit odd too.  I mean why would you take some of the kids and not all the kids out?  That is kinda weird....why not leave them all?  Maybe it's easier to carry toddlers around, than it is to carry a baby around.
545676
You shouldn't put your kids in this position.  I think it really confuses them about who has what role in their lives.  How old are they?  If they are old enough, tell them the truth, but if they are young, just tell them the necessary information.
184912
I guess many people do it. Just dont get caught. As a parent I would do what is best for my child. It really\nis no big deal.
530694
Yes, we certainly have kids asking questions, but that doesn not explain some questions that are asked. We so called adults fare no better!!! \n\nI agree with those who answered ahead of me, Parents need to take care of thier children & monitor thier activities over the net. Yahoo answers has too many questions that are not even fit for adults.
44227
Maybe you grew up too sheltered. Some parents will try to protect their children from anything harmful and in return the children only learn fear from the things they were protected from. I've heard of cases like that.\nCould also be past experiences.. but there are alot there.
119983
I have no idea why people do that.  I've never done it, I think is just stupid.