My ex g/f lives next door to me, she moved in roughly about a month or two ago.  She was very concerned about my feelings about her moving in, I was only concerned about her feelings when I invited other women over to my place.  I did warn her of this.\n\nMy ex g/f and I have had a sexual relationship that is pretty distant, meaning no emotions just satisfying sexual needs.  Her living next door made this alot more frequent.  This past Thursday, I asked if she wanted me to come over to her place for some fun, something that was not all that uncommon.  I knew I had a date Friday, so I made sure I told her about it before she answered.  She was livid.  Saying that I was disrespectful, that I would ask to sleep with her, knowing that I would probably sleep with my date on Friday night.  Needless to say she said no.\n\nI went on my date Friday night, and went back to my dates place instead.  I did not want to hurt my ex further, am I in the wrong here?
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Apologize, your friendship is worth more then the sex, think about that.
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I would ask for a stronger defination of your relationship.\n\nFlip the tables back on her. How would she feel if you were still in contact with your ex?\n\nHer answer dictates your next step.
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Wow, you are a cool guy not to be completely turned off by this. I am impressed.\n\nI don't know what this girl is feeling about you but I do have a guess about what she is feeling about her ex...\nHis baby is growing inside of her. She wants him to accept her more than anything right now. She might be fooling herself about the relationship but for your own sanity...let it go. \n\nListen to me...LET IT GO
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To be honest your best off ignoring it if both you and your girlfriend trust each other this should not be an issue anyway. The ex is more than likely only doing it to annoy you hoping it will cause problems so don't rise to it. She is with you not him :)
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From everything you said it sounds like you resisted her fairly well. What I don't understand is why you wanted to hang out with her in the first place. Did you want something to happen between the two of you? And if she is a so-called friend she wouldn't have been making the moves on you knowing you have a girlfriend. I would not tell your girlfriend about any of this, unless you are intending on breaking up with her. If in the future someone mentions it to her and she asks you, then you need to be honest with her about everything.
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I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
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She obviously didn't want to be just friends since she tried to sleep with you.  She only said that because your saying no sex until marriage.  She obviously cant go until marriage before she has sex again.  I would assume she's hoping you will change your mind.
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Hey, I am Jennifer. I was reading over ur qustion, It seems that she is a play by play...I dont know but if i was u i wouldent date her anymore or see her. For me to say I think u sound like  nice guy and u need better. For what i am trying to say is that she tells u to trust her, how could u ever trust anyone that spends the night with anotheir man..thats not right, if u ask me....If she really cared for u she would be with u and not anotheir man. It sounds like she is sorta a good person and all but i think u so need better then her, she is nothing. I'm sry i hope i dont upset you. But what ever happens good luck. But if u would like to talk just im me it is kikikinky321.. bye for now
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In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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Just move out, did you consider doing so.  What you're about to do might seem nice and hot now, but will you be able to deal with this in the future??? Can you just think of how terrible the consequences might be?  Start thinking of it backwards, if you will be able to deal with this and the possible consequences of this than go right ahead, if not, I suggest you take a real action like moving out, we're all weak and if this is how you feel now than there is a big chance that you both might weaken again one day.
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This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
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Stop sleeping with her.  Really.\n\nThis isn't an answer out of prudishness, you'll be hard pressed to find someone sluttier then me.  I love sex.  But right now, you're giving her everything she wants without making her give any back.  You need to stop being a door mat.\n\nRepeat after me: "I'm sorry (insert her name here), but this really isn't working for me.  We broke up two weeks ago, and this is co-dependent and unhealthy.  If you want to rekindle our relationship, I'm willing to consider it, but whatever this is, it's over".\n\nThat puts the burden on her.  If she wants you back, now she knows she will have to actually act on it.  If she doesn't want you back, hey, you're no longer being used by your ex.  Win-win.
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I feel sorry for you.My advice is, identify the reason why she did it,also ask your self I am faithful and am I the person who she feels comfortable and secure?After you answer these questions, you can decide.If there is any weakness on your side,(I am not talking about the sexual thing) you better forgive her from the bottom of your heart and leave peacefully.
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Sweetie, don't be too upset from the answers you get on here. This is just a place to find out opinions and some answers. No one on here know you personally, just reacting on your question. Read people's opinions and take from it what you can use. Don't take them as personal attacks. Here's my opiniion on your question about sleeping with your ex though. \n\nNo sweetie, you are not a s.l.u.t. or you don't have self respect. Most every women has been in your shoes. Now I don't know all of the details about your ex or the reason you left him. But most of us has had feelings for our ex that linger with us after the breakup and find ourselves wanted to be back in their arms forgetting for a moment why we left in the first place. It is natural, mainly because our exs are familiar to us and we don't like to be alone. Now, if your ex hit you, abused you in any way....then don't go back to him. It is not an issue of being a s.l.u.t or self respect....   it is an issue that you might have low self esteem. You don't deserve to be abused from anyone. No one deserves that. I am not sure if that was the case or not, but if it is don't sleep with him. There are others. \nI don't know if you did sleep with him or not yet, but if you haven't remember why you broke up in the first place. Then ask yourself, if it is worth going back there with him again?
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been there done that. I no excactly how you feel, I had the same thing happen to me with this dude. we kissed and every thing. its a weird situation. since she doesn't talk that much then ask her if you're offically going out. then latter tell her that you don't want her to call you so often. stick with her, once shes gone you'll feel realy bad like I did when I let him go. enjoy every phyisical action she does, it gets better and better. I used to not think about the dude that was with me and we went for a long time. you'll realy miss her if you leave her. I did.
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I think what you did was within your right.  You talked to your bf and he said that he talked to her about it and it didn't stop.  I don't want you to not trust your bf but there is a chance that he never said anything to her.  I had a similar situation where my ex-bf's ex-gf kept calling all the time for advice.  I realize they were just friends but she would call at all hours of the night becuase she had a fight with her current bf.  I talked to my ex about this and he said he would talk to her.  One night she called around 3:30 and I picked up the phone.  I told her that I wasn't happy about her calling this late and my bf had already talked to her about this.  She told me that he hadn't said anything to her at all.  So with that long story ;) that was my point there is a chance he didn't tell her that you had a problem with it all.
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i've had sex with several of my EX girlfriends much later after we had broken up.  i think once you've had sex with someone its easy to feel comfortable enough to go back and sex again. even if it's just a one nightstand with an ex. most of the time the ex is the one asking for it not me.