I have this boyfriend that i have been with for about 5years.the first couple years we were together but lived apart so we really did our own thing..neways to try & make a long story short..he always tries to accuse if i go out with my friend or something. Lately i have been going to my friends house..2weeks ago i went to her house for a party i told him it was going to be girls only which was a lie..but if i told him there were going to be guys he would b pissed, so i went and spent the night, didnt do anything with anyone, just drank, i did meet a guy i like though, so i went back on sat, turns out that guy was talking to some girl but he stopped because he liked me.I don't know how true this was, but me and my current boyfriend argue all the time.almost everyday,seems we are both unhappy most of the time but when we are apart we can't handle it...what should i do? break up and be single and c what happens or stay with him and get to know the other guy?
202657
For goodness sake, Princess, get out of that situation right now and quit living w/a man w/o marriage.\n\nIt is a proven fact if you sleep w/men before marriage they will always be suspicious of you and not really trust you. They may think they do, but it will always be in back of his mind...\n\nThat is the reason you should always stay pure.  Men should too.  Then you do not get a taste of different types/ways of sex and you will be happy w/whom you married..
416071
Lying to protect your feelings... is that what they're calling it now?\nWhen a guy is seeing someone, other female friends need to be kept at a distance. Socializing together in groups of friends is ok, but he needs to cut the one on one bs. Would he like it if you went out with former boyfriends? I didn't think so. This looks one sided in this sense. Tell him to cool it on the female dating, he has you. Lying by omission is still lying. It's how all guys fool around! I meet more and more guys with a regular gf plus a side wack. Don't make excuses for him, either. If the guy wants to date, then he shouldn't get serious with anyone and play the field. Be firm, and draw the line. You are not being unreasonable by confronting him and saying what you really feel on this matter. If he loves you, he'll respect your point of view.
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OK, maybe his friend lied (I doubt it). But you have to get a hold of yourself.  From your typing style, and misspellings, I assume you are VERY young.  This boy may be your 1st love, but believe me, he will NOT be your last. Does he deny being with the girl at all, or just denies anything happened?  Get to the bottom of this.  If he is innocent, apologize for not trusting him.  If he is guilty, break up with him.  You don't need to play these games.  You deserve better.
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WELL, IT IS NEVER GOOD TO KEEP SECREST FROM YOUR GUY, IT IS A BOMB JUST WAITING TO EXPLODE. YOU SHOULD TELL HIM. BETTER YET IT REALLY ISN'T APPROPRIATE FOR YOU TO BE HANGING OUT WITH OTHER MEN AND TAKING THINGS FROM THEM WHETHER YOU ARE BEING A GOOD GIRL OR NOT. WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF THE TABLES WERE REVERSED. IF YOU SAY YOU WOULDN'T MIND OR CARE THEN YOU DO NOT LOVE THIS MAN. I BELIEVE THE ONLY FRIENDS COUPLES SHOULD HAVE ARE FRIENDS THEY BOTH HANG OUT WITH. YOUR FRIENDS BECOME HIS AND HIS YOURS. SAVE YOU HOTNESS FOR YOUR GUY AND GIVE HIM THE CHANCE TO GIVE YOU THE THINGS THESE OTHER GUYS ARE OFFERING. DON'T BE NIEVE, THOSE GUYS ARE AFTER ONE THING, AND YOU HAVE TO KNOW THAT. DON'T PLAY GAMES WITH THEM OR YOUR GUY CAUSE YOU MIGHT END UP LOOSING HIM.I THINK IT IS STILL CHEATING MAYBE NOT IN ACTION, BUT IN THOUGHT AND THAT IS JUST AS BAD WHEN IT IS DELIBERATE.HAVING FEELINGS LIKE THIS MEANS YOU ARE IMMATURE AND NOT READY FOR A STEADY RELATIONSHIP. SORRY THE TRUTH HURTS.
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I can understand both your sides. If you can't trust him, you need to figure out why - is it him, or is it you? To me, it sounds like it's you. STOP trying to make him justify himself to you. He is not your son - he is your boyfriend. If it's him, and you know FOR A FACT you can't trust him, then leave him!!!! Either way, stop making him account for his time - he is his own person. \nCould he have called you and told you he was going to be late? He probably should have apologized, and perhaps didn't if you jumped his sh** right then and there. \nRemember, men and women react differently - likely, he is not trying to hide something, he just doesnt appreciate being treated like a child and is trying to reclaim some autonomy.
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First off, he can't be your boyfriend if he is already with his girlfriend. Right now, you are the "other woman", so to speak.\n\nI would advise walking away from him and getting on with your life. IF his relationship is as bad as he says it is, and IF he LOVES you as much as he says he does, then knowing you are getting on with your life and showing no more interest in him, might very well help him to make a choice. I wouldn't give him any ultimatums either. Just tell him you that you are moving on. If he does end things to find you again, then he was speaking the truth to you. If he doesn't, then you know he was a player...was having his cake and eating it too.\n\nKeep your self-respect and dignity by walking away. By staying while he is still with his girlfriend, you are giving him everything he wants, and you are getting nothing for yourself, except a lot of pain. You are worth much more, you know...and if he doesn't come to you single and free, then believe me, there is some great guy out there that is going to give everything of himself to you alone and no one else, cos he WILL recognise your worth!
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Hi\n\n    I know this is not what you may want to hear, first of all you said your boyfriend is locked up. He should be happy that you are even sticking by his side while being locked up because as far as I can see what can he do for you while he is locked up. On the other hand if you really love him and want to stick by him totally understandable that is a choice only you can make. I would I advice you to just talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel when he accuse you of things that are not true. If he understands then great if not I would say this realationship is maybe not for you if trust can not be found. I hope I helped!
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He may still like you deep inside, so he's afraid that he may fall for you again? Why broke up with who, and what was the reason for it? Were you friends before you started dating? It's always a good thing to make a promise with your significant other that when/if you two brake up, that you will be friends like you were beforehand. Talk to him and ask him; see what he says. I know, its EXTREMELY hard to get guys to open up, that being part of the reason. But it never hurts to try.
368179
Some guys get into this mode that they "forget" their friends for a while when they meet a girl they really like. He may grow out of it. However I think you should talk to him and tell him you still want to be friends, and if possible talk to her alone and see if she really "hates" you, or is possibly jealous of your history with her boyfriend. If she isn't, have her suggest to your friend that they and you and your boyfriend go out together some time.
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Sounds like your boyfriend is using YOU as his excuse for anything and everything!!\n\nMy opinion and advice?  Get rid of the boyfriend, find someone else who will value you more, and treat you like you're a human being, and not someone to use and abuse as an excuse because they're no good!
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How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
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Treat your boyfriend as you would want yourself treated.\n\nThat is, if your boyfriend were in the predicament you were, what would you want your boyfriend to decide?  Would you like him to do what you are thinking about doing?\n\nMy guess is that he would not want you to do what you're thinking about doing.\n\nNow, if you break up with your boyfriend, that is another story as you will no longer be in a romantic relationship and do not need to consider his feelings when you are making romantic choices.\n\nOn the surface, having sex with your friend to me sounds like a very bad idea at this point in time.  If you break up with your boyfriend, I might have a different opinion.\n\nOverall, respect your boyfriend's feelings while you are in a relationship with him.
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well... you have the right to complain if he explicitly told you that he hadn't slept with other girls before your relationship, because then that would be lying.  But if he never brought it up and you just assumed that you had the same morals, then you kind of have less of a right to complain.\nBUT, if he currently has friends with benefits, then that definitely IS cheating, since he's your boyfriend, and he shouldn't be fooling around with other girls..\nI think you should talk to him about it, but don't throw any harsh accusations at him..
481980
Leave him, and fast! He lies to you, makes you cry, and the sad thing is he didnt have the "balls" to tell u himself, he had his friend call and lie to you. Is that someone you really want to be with?? I think you know the answer to that already. I say leave him there are other men out there, who wount make you cry, or lie to you!
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He's waisting your time and so are you!  If he is living with another girl, and he left you for her, you're never going to be able to forgive him for it.  So if I were you, just tell him that you're not in the mood to be playing games.  Dont call him, dont answer his calls, and dont try to meet up with him anywhere.  Hes playing a game with you and if you let him win, then what else to you have to look forward to?  You need to be strong and stand up for yourself?  do you like to be pushed and toyed around?  Didn't think so!  Honey, there are plenty of wonderful men out there, this one is not the last and only one for you!  Just give it time, and good things will come to you!  And the best part is, it will come to you when you least expect it! take care Sweetie!
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From what you wrote, DON'T go out with him or even tell him you like him or anything unless you want to say goodbye to your friendship with his girlfriend forever. Find another guy. They're easy to come by.\n\n(Just follow the golden rule: would you like it if your friends hormones stole YOUR boyfriend? You would think she was seeing him even before you decided to break up. Put yourself in her position.)
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Ask him if he's seeing anyone else. If you love him and trust him you will probably believe him. If you don't trust him, even if he's telling the truth it won't matter.\n\nIt could just be that your boyfriend is a shameless flirt! I know I'm dating one. He has more female friends than I do but it doesn't bother me when he hangs out with them or talks to them on the phone because I trust him.