but now he lives in pa and we made some decisions about each other i have to be faithful for 4 years which i don't have a problem doing but i find myself feeling lonely not for sex but needing someone to cuddle with, affection, kisses,  and i am going crazy but i really love this man a whole lot, things i wouldn't do for no one else i did for him and i don't want to hurt his feelings anymore what should i do.  i think about him night and day, but i don't tell him how i feel at all. i  dont want to be heart broken again
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You must tell him how you feel. Stop holding it in. You are going to make yourself sick. If this is a long distant relationship then you really have a problem. The problem will be you. You need structure and discipline. If you don't then it won't last.
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That's a real tough one. And millions of others have been through the same thing. I am not going to lie to you and say it'll be easy, especially since you work with him. It's a process that you have to go through taking one day at a time. I think it's a pretty sure bet that if you got back together that the same thing would happen again.You may love him but he has to find his way back to you if and when he realizes that it's you he really wants to be with. So as hard as it is, let him work things out for himself. If you have close friends or relatives spend some time with them and if you have interests then try to keep yourself busy without over doing it. It's hard, but I think a person has to learn to try to relax as much as possible in a situation and not allow depression to creep in and get a grip. Don't let obsessive thinking get the better of you. In a sense it is an opportunity for you to learn to enjoy just being alive and being your own person. Some men and women keep making the same mistake bcause they either let someone back when it's not wise because they love them and are lonely, or they get involved with someone new, too soon, and the cycle repeats itself. Like I said, don't fixate on it, but try to enjoy each day as much as you can. You will have down times, but over time you can and will recover and you may discover a brand new life for yourself. So allow yourself to grieve a little but let yourself have hope for your future too.
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wow...well i think that u were feeling like u could have either one of the guys, it was ur choice, but now that one is trying to move on u feel like u have to have his attentions back cuz ur losing some of ur control...i don't know, but i think u should really pray about it and try to b honest w/ urself...if u really luv ur bf then don't leave him for someone u like! but really i don't kno everyhthing about this so...i hope it turns out well!
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hi im not a big expert, and i dont know u, but as far as i understand u feeling this way is quite normal. no offence but i ges its normal for women to go throu this. i know loads of them who sunddly get in to this phase... so dont worry about it too much ok, its not a big problem its just a part of growing up. u sound pretty smart so i ges u will do the correct thing. stick to your studies. u said that u have never met him ! i dont think its really possible to love someone without really knowing that person. but i wont get in to that cos its cool. All i will say is the way u feel is quit normal so dont worry about it. its all about growing up so just take your time and enjoy it ok, it will pass, and please continu your studies trust me u will never regret it. hpoe things work out take care god bless.
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IF U KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT U TRULY LOVE HIM,THEN U MUST FIND HIM....AND EXPLAIN!IF THINGS DONT WORK OUT..U HAVE NOT LOST NOTHING....BUT IF U FEEL THIS WAY AND NEVER DO NOTHING ABOUT,U WILL WONDER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE,IF THERE WAS REALLY SOMETHING THERE,AND THAT WOULD BE TERRIBLE!ATLEAST THIS WAY,U DONE ALL U COULD! GOOD LUCK!
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its normal you would feel like this, the heart often rules the head, but does this situation make you feel good, if anything ever did happen properly with this man you would never trust him because of how you met. time is a great thing, things change, even after all that been said you need to give him time to think what he really wants, he seems to be going through a difficult time, he needs to give himself a chance to get his own thoughts in order.  but for yourself as a person, you owe to yourself not to be anybodies second fiddle, it would never be enough for anybody because naturally we always want more. hi how are you anyway gav
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I have felt like this so many times!  It sounds like you guys are spending too much time together. Maybe spending less time together would help.  So when you are apart you miss him and then it seems like a treat to get to see him.  Then when you finally get to see him it will be exciting.  If this feeling continues maybe you should think about the fact that maybe you really don't miss him, you just miss having someone around.
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I had the same feeling even though I see my bf almost every day.And I asked almost the same question here and someone told me to do all I can to bring that love back.Just remember what you used to do , do the same you did when you were in love , bring back in your life the things that made you to fall in love with him.It worked for me... Good luck!\nDon't listen people telling you "Long distance relationships NEVER work".It's not true!!!Where it's love anything is possible!
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please do this and take my advice: do not get back with him. you seem like a really nice girl and you should be with someone who appreciates you. if he's being a jerk to you, for any reason, then do yourself a favor and give your time, your patience, your love, YOUR VIRGINITY, to someone who deserves it. you will come across many jerks in the world today, just please stand strong as a woman and don't give them the time of day. i know its hard considering you've known him for a year and a half but if he treats you like this now, then think about how it will be a year from now or 2 years from now. if you want to keep him around to "mess around", trust me sweetie, there will be thousands of guys that you will have the chance to have fun with. dont break your own heart and get attached to someone who will end up hurting you. if you give him even a little bit of you, then you will feel closer to him because you have shared an intimate feeling, from there, it will escalade and your feelings will become more attached to him and sooner or later, you will give in and then you'll regret it when he starts treating you badly or hurting you in other ways. keep your morals, be strong, and trust your instincts.
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you have to revaluate your relationship with this person. If you are truly in love ….well it would be a horrible mistake to leave. However, are you sure it is not just because you want this to work which is making you feel as if you are in love?? Talk to your family about this problem and ask their advice (since they know you better then me). Work it through with this guy and see if there is a compromise. Make sure the sacrifice is not only one sided otherwise it might haunt the relationship in the future. Make sure you know this guy and understand who he truly is because people can seem different over the net or phone??. Think and ask for guidance from those closest to you. And most of all discuss it with all the people which will be affected.
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Why don't you consider how deep feelings you have for him?  If you feel very strongly about him that you are even willing to wait for him for some time till you can be with him, then I suggest being patient.  After all, you can talk to him on the phone, chat with him in email and instant messenger.  Though, long-distance relationships are known for their hardship, the end result is very rewarding for both of you.\n\nHowever if you don't seem to feel deeply, and/or you're not willing to wait for him, then I suggest talking to him about break up or something so that it's clear to him about where you two stand in the relationship so that you don't feel like you're cheating on him when you try to date other guys.\n\nHope this helped. ^_^
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If this guy really loved you he would most definetly want to talk to you and have as much contact with you as possible with you being away. He has no power over you it's not like you are married. If you feel like staying with him is hurting you, then be strong and let him know how you feel and finally tell him it's over. You are going to great extremes for your education don't let a GUY get in the way. And in case he didn't know kissing a girl is considered cheating.
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WOW Ok i will give this a shot at!  First thing that came to my mind is , Don't Change anything. If you start to cuddle him more or start changing due to this news, he will feel like you feel sorry for him, and he will feel worse. Stay the way you are, The second thought is,,,He JUST  found out TODAY! So yes allot is going threw his head and will for awhile. Just be yourself, the women he fell in love with. Be there when he needs you. Stand by him. Don't make it the TOPIC everyday, let him bring it up. He will talk when the shock of it all has settled abit. JUST LOVE HIM AS YOU BEEN DOING! My prayers are with him & you.  Peace.
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To me it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you.  But I'm telling you listen to your mind not just your heart.  Your heart is going to tell you what makes you feel good but your mind may tell you what is best for you. Because I was with a man for about 5 years and he was always with other females and lying to me.  I loved him I truly did, and I probably always will.  I just wish that I had left him sooner. So you do this for me ask yourself this would you rather be alone and happy free from him cheating on you or with him and hurting. Also remember that if a man cheats and lies to you it doesn't make him a bad man, because a woman can have someone who is faithful to her and honest yet he might come home and beat on her everyday.  Just because you love him don't just go by that.  Most people will say you are a fool for staying with him eventhough he cheats, but I say you aren't a fool you are just in love or you think you are in love.  So just look out for yourself and if he's done more to you than for you and you've felt more pain than happiness you know what to do.  I know your question was if he loves you but I felt like I wanted to tell you all of this because I hate to see a woman who really loves a man and take him back or stay with him eventhough he's hurting her.  I wish you the best
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You chose him because you loved him and saw something in him you didn't see in any other man. \nHe has a job. Nearly all men have jobs. He has a really important job that is respected and I would hope you would respect him. You should feel sad and alone. You're married and you didn't want to be left alone. I can see where that wasn't part of the original deal. But you did marry for "better or worse" and if this is the worse, you're doing ok.\nIt is worth it. I believe with every part of my being that he misses you more than you ever realize. He is sad and alone and misses what he could have with you if he were here. \nI would find a support group or at least a counselor to talk to. Sometimes ministers are a good resource. Don't give up. Hang in there.......
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Sweetie, if the guy was married than you had nothing at all an if yall shared such a deep connection why aren't you with him now?Maybe what you should do first is get to know yourself first. Trying being alone and seeing what its like for awhile. If you feel lost because you don't have a man that makes others think that your weak. You should be independent rather your with someone or not. All I'm trying to say is that, how can you be devoted to someone who's already married? What would you do if the tables were turned and you were his wife??? Just don't get lost in the midst of needing someone, and having to have someone-figure out who you are and see how far that gets you!
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This is a very difficult situation especially if you still love the man.  The best advice I can give you is to make a psychological and personal decision as soon as possible. I don't know your exact situation, but if you still love this person and if he loves you, and you think there may be a chance to work things out, then you should try to do so by all means.  BUT, you need to think of this very seriously, because it sounds to me that your relationship with him may be something in the past. If this is the case, you MUST learn to get over him. This is very important, for your sake.  This is very difficult (I know from experience), and it can hurt to see the one you love with someone else. But if it is not going to work, you need to learn to move on and allow yourself to forget about him.  You need to realize that this isn't easy, and it will take time.  But if you keep thinking about him as a lover, you will always be tormented inside.  Go out, meet new people, get your mind off of him and with time I assure you that life will go on, and you will find happiness again. Good luck!