my girl just recently went on vacation to visit her family in texas. shes been kind of depressed and misses down there and may move back there later on, like 3 months or so... but its still not decided yet. but my concern is. since shes been back shes been still saying i love you and everything. but she doesnt seem to call as much as before and doesnt seem to be as excited about seeing me or anything like she was before... i admit the ways she use to act may have been a little childish but it was playful and i liked it. she was tired when she came back and her muscles hurt from tubing and she bit her lip so it was hard to kiss me but the one thing that sticks out is that shes been quieter then normal and i just feel like shes not in love with me anymore. i just cant tell if the relationship is just maturing or if im losing her. what do you think i should do? i dont wanna lose her.
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She is probably not in love anymore. Or just really home sick. Have you ever concidered going with her? Maybe she knows when she leaves in a few months its over between you and she doesnt want to prolong this situation because it will hurt both of you in the end. Talk to her and ask her questions. She will open up to you eventually! good luck
46259
try giving her some more room, let her go out with just the girls one night this weekend, see if it hurts you too bad. also, listen to what she has to say. next time you go out, let her choose where you go. (don't try everything all at once, letting go of the control will take steps.) also, remember she has the final say on her body... idk if this has anything to do with your question, but just so you know...\n\ngood luck
582035
Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
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Are you insecure? Do you feel worthy of love? Could be why you don't trust her. Or have you been hurt before. You know she loves you if you have good conversation, she listens to you and talks back. YOu have good communition and can tell each other anything. She is attentive and loving towards you, and intrested in you sexually (if you are having sex yet, you didn't say your ages). You have fun together ,and laugh together. When you are together, you feel like her mind is 100 per cent with you, and she's not distant. YOu feel important to her. She is reassuring if you need it. YOu feel totally happy in her company.
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It's good that you seem like a good man if you are showing all the signs that you love and care for her. However, your girl seems to have had enough of you for whatever reason. I think she may feel overwhelmed by the living arrangement you guys have chosen and she finally figured out that she needs her space. Maybe living together put a strain on the relationship and she feels smothered. You can't make her stay if she so desperately wants to go.
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You should jus tell her how you feel, are you actually in a relationship with this girl? The way that you have to look at it is if you tell her that you do love her and she feels the same, maybe you'll get in2 a relationship! if this girl doesnt move back and decides to stay where she is - doesnt mean that you cant still be together. Me and my boyfriend were living real close in the same city, now hes living in a completely different part of the country - we're working out tho, and you could visit her aswell as her visiting you right?
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She is depressed and probably feeling insecure. I believe that she probably likes this guy because he makes her feel younger. However, you are right. The grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely, he will probably date her for "the candy" and once someone more attractive comes along, he'll most likely leave her. I hate to be so brutal. \nHere are some tips to boost her ego and hopefully help her realize that you are such a good guy:\n*pull her closer when talking to someone of the opposite sex, even if it's a relative.\n*surprise her with wine and bubble bath, possibly leading into a massage?\n*do fun activities with her, go out and have fun together.\n*tell her she is beautiful and give her affection in public(in moderation)\n*as crude as this sounds (I apologize if anyone is offended) but give her foreplay! \n\nIf all else fails and she still leaves you, if you truely love this woman, be there for her when she falls down. If she does this again, then she doesn't deserve you and you shouldn't let yourself get stepped on. \n I wish you the best of luck. \n*
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She may or may not be telling you the truth.  How would she know anyway?  That being said...maybe you should take a break from starting a new relationship and nurture yourself and your family.  Your value is independent of whomever you are in a relationship with.  Take care of yourself and your girls, and when you are feeling good about yourselves, then its timetogetback into a relationship mindset
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I think you have to talk to her. I'm sure it sounds about as much fun as getting teeth pulled, but I think you really must  do it. You can never know how people really feel about you until they tell you themselves. Some people just don't show how they truely feel and maybe she doesn't know how you really feel. If you really love her, you should take the risk and find out for sure. And if worst comes to worst and she tells you that she doesn't feel the same way about you at least you will know and will be able to move on without always wondering .
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She seems like she has some issues. I mean, for one thing she said clearly that she did not want to come over. Then she was like see you later, she was ready to get off the phone with you quick and definitely didn't want to talk any longer. She seems like she is sending you mixed signals, and if she doesn't like you, then she should just tell you. I mean, don't throw hints, just be like she wants to be friends. Then as for being shy, she could have just said that she didn't feel comfortable coming back to your place. You would have understood that I am sure. Basically, you should just see where it goes this time, if she tries to be intimate, like showing you affection, just come out and ask her what is up. Don't be rude, but be like, Do you like me? Do you see me as a boyfriend or just a friend. You need to know, because she can't be like I want you one second and then don't want to be around you next. She needs to be honest. I hope that whatever happens you don't get played, so if you can see it isn't going to get better, leave her alone.
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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if she loved you she wouldnt be leaving you so often for someone else. i think she probably is after your money if she keeps coming back. i dont feel she will commit to you the way you would like her too and i dont think she is in love with you as well. i know you have invested a lot of time and your heart into this relationship but i would move on. tell her its over and see what her reaction is.
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I can see where you're coming from...and I feel your thoughts.It's perfectly normal & quite fine to have those type of emotions for her.Although,to act on those feelings may "loose her trust" as you say.Also,she may begin to feel uncomfortable around you causing her to clam up.On the other hand,if she has any feelings or interest in you,that would be different...but still,there's always a possibility that a closer relationship may lead to the other baggage that turns relationships sour,and in return may cause you both to lose concentration and possibly unwanted publicity .Eight yrs. apart isn't bad,especially if she is in her mid to late twenties on up.However,if she is still young,give her some time to develop into a more mature lady(one that truly makes her own decisions).It's not a good idea to seek a girl that always asks her friends "hey what do you think?".My advice for this situation would be let her come to you...she may/may not.Be the professional you are and just hold back my man...good luck.
558449
Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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well there are butt excersises that she can do but I would be pissed off if my man told me I need to work on my butt.  how would you feel is she told you that your johnson just wasnt cutting it anymore?  pretty low? yeah.  All I am saying is she needs to feel comfortable when shes with you or she wont be herself.  Think about it.
145468
That's a very hard question and I read it all the way through. I'd appreciate it if you also went and read one that I just posted, which is also long. If you really in fact love her, than I would hold onto that and go back with her. If you're Christian, pray about it. Well, scratch that. Pray about it if you're a Christian but talk to her first. Get to know her and try to express your feelings towards her little at a time. Don't make a large sudden move. I hope things work out, but just take it slow. This is comin from a girl that was in this exact position and is know with the guy that I posted a question about. I love him to death and we're getting along wonderfully. Best of luck. Email me if ya want to w/ nething else: naertgirls@juno.com.
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What did you do, if you post that you will get more help. Some times that is just the way it is. When something is in your face all the time you get used to it. It becomes something you think you can do without. The only way to know if you can be without anything, is to lose or let it go for a small period of time. Go the distance, if love is still there it can be rekindled. Spare no expense, use what you know about her. Shock her suprise her, make her feel like the love of your life, it's more than just words, it's action that makes the words. Good luck!