The defendent's mother doesn't care what she does and is making no attempts to stop her daughter. She shouts verbal obsenities at me and knocks on my door at 12:00 at night and then runs away. It's petty, but it's wreaking havoc on my personal life and I need to know how to put an end to it legally. I've tried to talk to her and her mother but nothing helps. It has to stop. I keep to myself and don't deserve this. Help!!!
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Contact the police and file a harassment report...each and every time!  They will tell you other actions you can take but you might also be able to get a restraining order on the juvenile.  Then, she can be arrested for further harassment.
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Be firm in telling her to STOP calling you immediately or you will get a restraining order against her!  She's actually stalking you.\nThat is against the law.  Advise her of that fact as well.
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I would advise you BOTH to take this very seriously and get law enforcement involved.  Call the police when she comes by your apartment.  Get police reports.  Go to your State Attorney's office and get a restraining order placed against her.  Protect yourselves as much as you can.  I cannot in good conscience advise you both to consider arming yourselves without getting proper training and getting licensed to carry a concealed weapon, if such is legal where you live.\n\nI would try and speak to the pastor of the church and let him/her know what's going on.  If he/she is one to allow such behavior in the church, consider finding somewhere else to worship.\n\nBe careful...this woman sounds kinda unbalanced.
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Good lord I'm sorry you are going through this!  The authorities sound lame in your town...for shame on them!!\n\nI would suggest contacting the following in the largest city in your state because I'm sure they have the following organizations there:\n--abused women's service and other such orgs that help women in trouble( even if you haven't been abused yet) they can lead you in a good direction.  ask them about your legal rights and what to do if you are not being taken seriously.\n--teen and young adult groups that do the same\n--church services that can help with this(find a progressive not backwoods church..big city)  \n\n--civil right/liberties lawyers or free legal aid groups and ask them to advocate for you because you are not getting help for this. \n\nCan you talk to the chief of police?  speak honestly with them about how you are afraid for your life and that if something happened and nothing was done then it would not only be tragic but on the backs of the police departments lack of responsibility.  if they do nothing then in a sense they are enabling this creep to harass you.  \n\n--check out some copwatch groups.  groups that keep eyes on cops so they themselves are lawabiding and actually do the job they are supposed and not abuse the law.  again, civil liberty groups would know.  that way you can inform them of the lack of response by the cops so that if anything else happens you have proof and then more leverage. \n\nThere has got to be some source of support group or legal advice for something like this...what state do you live in??  try to answer back and I will look up some info for you?  this is serious and could get ugly if you don't have support.  \nJust watch your back and stay with people as often as you can so you are not vulnerable. If you don't have a roommate, get one!  Lights, dogs, security systems-whatever you need to feel safe in the meantime as you get help.   \n\n*last resort: Worse come to worse if no one takes you seriously after you try everything get some guy friends/brothers and well...have them pay him a visit some stormy night.  Nicely.  Capishe?\n\noh can you find out if he has a record or is on parole?  through the freedom of information act you can find this out.  if he does, he could be in some violation and you could anonymously report him or have him returned to wherever he crawled out from under..\n\nFor now, write back where you live and I can help you do research online.  I'm willing.  \npeace.\n\nHERE IS SOME INFO I FOUND FOR YOU: \nJUST CALL THEM AND TELL THEM YOUR SITUATION AND INSIST ON GETTING HELP.  TELL THEM YOU DON'T WANT TO END UP A STATISTIC.   \nhttp://www.aardvarc.org/dv/states/arkdv.shtml\nhttp://www.angelfire.com/me/Marshamellow/call.html\nhttp://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/\n\nTHESE SHOULD HELP FOR NOW.  JUST BE PROACTIVE, GET ON IT AND DON'T WAIT FOR OTHERS TO SAVE YOU.  WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO SAVE THEMSELVES.  AND THAT'S OK.  REACH OUT BUT ALSO RELY UPON YOURSELF.  YOU COULD GET A CELL PHONE AND JUST SAVE YOUR GRANNIES PHONE FOR OUTGOING CALLS ONLY?? OR GET ANOTHER PRIVATE UNLISTED NUMBER AND AGAIN, LEAVE YOUR GRANNIES FOR OUTGOING ONLY.  HEY GOOD IDEA@!  TRY THAT.  \nMAKE SURE ALL YOUR LIGHTS AND LOCKS WORK WELL AROUND YOUR HOUSE AND LIKE THE OTHER GIRL SAID, GET A STUN GUN AND MAKE SURE YOU GET TRAINING ON IT.  DON'T WANT TO SHOCK YOURSELF! \nGOOD LUCK!!!
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from my experience, he is in contempt of court by not following the judges orders.  this is pretty devious but it was done to me and it worked wonders...have an order of protection put on him and request custody of your daughter.  order of protection are much more than a restraining order.  police action will be taken anytime you request.  of course all you have to do is tell your lawyer or just go to the special victims unit and that you feel your life is in danger or has been threatened.  he will be screwed.  it still haunts me.  police used to call my cell phone and ask we i was at the moment.  all because she said i drove by the house.  none of what she told the police was true, and it didn't matter.  that order of protection sucks.  anytime he violates it, automatic 10 days in jail.  its dirty but its one way to stick it to him.  good luck.  oh, and there was no investigation to see if she was even telling the truth.  they just issued it and enforced it.
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Sue them. Some stranger who has no connection to you is harassing you and you don't know what to do? Stop being stupid. Get the name of the company, the caller, their address (if possible) and their phone number and Tell them the next time they call that if they call and harass you one more time you will contact a lawyer and begin court proceedings. They're bullying you and you're falling for it. They can't do a thing to you. You own them NOTHING so what can they do to you? Threaten to call a lawyer and the calls will stop PRONTO. Simple.\n\n--\nto hiseasy... what a dumb fcuking plan. Give them your home phone number. Great, now you're establishing a history of contact and initiating a dialogue that could cause a judge to question whether you have a real connection with the person their seeking. And your 300K claim sounds like bullshyt.\n\nNip this in the bud NOW. They have called you, personally, repeteadly, harrassed and threatened you. That's grounds for a lawsuit right there. You don't need to give them your home phone number to prove this. Only an idiot would do that. Give them personal info about you... real fcuking smart.\n\n--\nOk, sorry I called you stupid. But avoiding a lawsuit may not be possible. You're tried telling them not to call, right? did it work? didn't think so. You have to at least THREATEN to file a lawsuit. They're harassing you at work and you own them nothing. It's no different than some stranger off the street bothering you everyday while you go for coffee! C'mon, don't be ... silly. Talking nice to them and pleading with them to stop hasn't worked and is unnecessary. What if it never ends? You came here looking for answers. That's mine. And I'm not the only one who thinks that protecting yourself through the courts is the answers.
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make sure you file complaints with the police in her town.  it can be done over the phone if that's the only way . even if it's something small, make sure you have it on record that you complained. now keep in mind. she can say anything she wants about you and long as she doesn't publish your name and address or post and phone numbers and email info.  if she does and you have proof eventually she can get herself banned from using a computer.  you can even take her to court and sue her for money.  that would pull the plug on her game.  in the meantime, try your best not to feed in to or let her antics get to you because if you do then she wins. it really sounds like she has no life.
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Why are the phone calls a problem-  its her child too.  \n\nOne thing you can do is get a Restraining order-  not hard if justified and you don't need a lawyer .
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Oh harsh. First thing, talk to her about it to see if she would be willing to go to councelling with you, she doesn't have to know you will be bringing up that particular subject at some point, but when it does get brought up you will have calm support right there. Whatever you do, dont hit her back, set the standard for how love should behave. If the situation were reversed and you hit her she would certainly tell the police right away! Warn her that if she doesn't stop, and it gets kinda serious, you will be forced to tell her mother lol... better yet, make her family feel welcome to pop in unnanounced, so they will eventually see what really goes on without you having to say\n\nDont be afraid of what people will think if it gets too serious and you have to call the police for help. If you do that, then just tell them you dont want her put in jail, of course, but that you would like to have support in making her receive help for her anger problem. You love her more than to let her stay that way.
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You need to protect yourself, and it seems you need to do it threw legal action. At this point she thinks she can walk all over you and you will do nothing about it. You need to show her that you are willing to what it takes to protect yourself and the kids. Good luck and don't take that crap.
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I know it is hard to listen to but I would not get in the middle of a couple that way. I called the police on my ex's dad as he was hitting his mum and nearly broke her foot as she tried to hold the door from him and he was pushing the other side! The police came out and she signed the paperwork to say that she does not want him charged! She was too scared not to sign it!! I think you have to have strength in the woman that she will get out of the situation or that her family will find out and help her to get away from him. Never easy I know.
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Even though I despise the organization celticwoman is promoting (and I am willing to explain why, but first we have to deal with it). . . I think it is your best bet.\n\nListen to her . . . call them . . . take yourself and your daughter to the shelter.  Have them provide daycare for your child . . . at a different location . . . because your husband may snatch her from you though the daycare.  Talk with the couselers there . . . and have they assisted you in obtaining legal consultation.\n\nOdds are . . . this could be pro-bono work for them . . . and they will take care of everything for you . . . including your immigration status retained . . . and replacement Green Card and passport and Social Security Card, if necessary.\n\nNo one should be abused . . . man, woman, or child . . . and this should be a crime for all.  Unfortunately, most of this never get reported and in some cases . . . some abused have been turned away . . . by this same organization because they don't meet the gender requirement.\n\nMe . . . I am against violence . . . against everyone . . . don't matter what gender, age, or race.\n\nTake care of yourself and your child . . . call the 800 number that celticwoman provided . . . and get some help.  They will help you . . . because that is what they do . . . is help women.
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Talk to a social worker and see if you can get custody/guardianship for her. Or seek legal aid. \n\nBut whatever you do, keep it legal and open. No tricks, no running away, nothing like that.
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I have had the same situation and I didnt get any where with the police either. One day I did get an officer who told me as long as I keep calling on them they are going to keep calling on me. I eventually got so tired of it I started making the complaints to the landlord. My problem was partying all night so he didnt like getting calls at 12am and it was even 2am on one call. If your landlord is a reasonable person he/she should understand that your work schedules clash and have a talk with her.\n\n I think that it is bull that the owner of the property cannot do something. I have had the same landlord for 6 years and he has kicked people out for creating problems similar to yours. I just think your landlord doesnt want to do anything about it. \nYou are just going to have to try to explain your case to the judge and hope he/she understands that you were not listening to loud music and this woman is trying to get revenge for her starting things in the past. You also need to go to the police station and get copies of everytime a report was made on her by you so you can prove that you have called on her in the past and she is trying to get you back.\nProving you were the first one who has called making a complaint so it does look like revenge on her part. GOOD LUCK!!! I would probably start looking for a new apartment too.
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You could call Child Protective Services in she's violent.  It sounds, however, that you've caused some of your own problems with bad behavior.\nOf course, her bad behavior isn't proper either.\nEmancipated?  Nope.  You have to be older, and able to support yourself and exist in an adult world.\nStay in school, graduate, move away, whatever, but graduate.  There are too many stupid people in the world now.
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BEFORE YOU READ THIS,  You accept that I am just giving my opinion, and NOT giving legal advice, else you should NOT read further.  You agree not to act on my opinions stated herein, and seek the council of a legal professional when ultimately making a decision to act.\n\nREVISED.  He has children with your sister?  She is an idiot for allowing him to be a deadbeat.  And he is a lowlife, but not the only lowlife in the world.  They are all over the place.  So...What are you going to do? I feel for you and your situation. I understand how difficult it might be to move, but what choice do you have?  You have to consider your own well being.  If the house belongs to your family, and you sister seems to be in control of the house.  AND chooses to allow him to stay, then what OTHER options are there?  Your sister has to do the kicking out.  You can do it, but it seems you are not in a position to defend yourself.  You need to bring in someone who can help, either law enforcement, or otherwise.  A rich friend or Strong Friend to Kick his A%% out of there.\nThat said...\n\nYOu didn't say who he threatened.  You?  If so, you really need to get out of there, even if you are not convinced he would cause you harm.  If someone says it, they are capable of acting on it.  You don't need to stay there, and yes if he said he would cause you bodily harm, you can call the authorities and have him charged for assault.  Sadly, the police don't and won't do much for you on this. The laws are set up to protect the guilty.  Without witness it is him agains you.  Remember that.  You are in a no win situation really.\n\nYour sister has made a choice to be with this person.\nYOU NEED TO MOVE OUT...\nWhat you do after that is up to you.(pressing charges for instance)\n\nIf you feel she is in danger , call the police.\nIf you feel her kids are in danger call Child Protective Services. (remember they can make someone's life miserable), so don't do that unless you truly feel the kids are in danger.\n\nIMPORTANTLY this is my opinion, and any ideas given here must be taken as such.  If you want real legal advise, you should consult with an attorney in your area of jusisdiction.\n\nYou don't like this guy, and it sounds like you have a good reason, but you NEED to remember, your sister has made the choice to have him there.  YOU can leave. You don't have to stay there, and even if it is an inconvenience, you move and find a more peaceful place to live.  Better for you in the end anyways.\n\nSOrry for you, but you chose to (OR NOT TO) live there.  Your sister is a big girl, let her make her own decisions.\nYou never stated her feelings about this.  Is she scared to kick him out?  Again, if so, she needs to get law enforcement involved.  Restraining orders are a start.  At least then if he shows up, he can be arrested.  This is not an easy situation.  You should try to find as much support as you can BEFORE making moves.\n\nI know this is to the point and a bit sharp, but those are the  real life choices you have to make.  Good luck and best wishes to you!\n\nMove out.
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First you have to clearly communicate to her that you don't want her to contact you at all.  By clearly communicate I mean "I am telling you I don't want you to contact me in any way".  Then if she bothers you again you can make a complaint with the police department.  \n\nHave you even tried to just talk to her or are you just trying to avoid her.  This is half your fault to begin with.  Next time be careful of who you "hit".