I am particularly seeking advice from a woman who has "been there, done that." I am going through an egg donation process. Egg retrieval is scheduled for later this month. My nurse insists that the day of egg retrieval I will need to have someone take me home after the procedure, I shouldn't drive. I was told a couple of years ago after a medically necessary abortion that I'd better have someone take me home. I didn't, and I was just fine. So I'm wondering if I'd be "just fine" with this procedure. The issue is, ALL of my friends & family live far, far away from me and I dont know anybody here. So I would prefer to drive myself. If you've been through this procedure, I'd like your thoughts...thanks!
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I had egg retrieval performed 7 years ago.  They gave me Valium and Versed which made me quite loopy.  There is no way that I would have been able to drive.  You definitely should find some other way of getting home.  Good luck!
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First of all, there is other help out there.  I really pray that this does not cut you off from your mom, but if she seriously kicks you out, there are lots of women support groups and housing.  Call bigger churches and see if they have any ideas.  \n\nNext, even if you do leave home, don't stop communicating with your mom.  I've heard story after story about parents coming around to really loving their grandkids after the baby is born.  \n\nYou really need to do some serious thought about whether you are going to abort your baby because someone else tells you to- even if it is your mom.  This life that you have inside you does not belong to you or your mom.  There are lifelong reprocusions from abortion that you are going to deal with- not your mom.  Yes, there is forgiveness in Christ if you are trusting God with your life, but that doesn't mean that there still won't be consequences.  \n\nThere are dozens of people just waiting to adopt a baby.  You won't find any shortage of help if you want to let someone else have your baby.  \n\nMaybe take your mom to an ultrasound.  My mom really came around to loving my first baby when she came along with me and heard the heartbeat.  \n\nI have already been praying for you.  You can do this!!  There are people out there who are loving, non-judgemental  and want to help you.  Find them so that you are not alone in this.  You can call Focus on the Family at 1-800-A-FAMILY to talk with someone in thier counseling department.
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I have had this test. It is more uncomfortable than painful. I think it is an important test to check and see that everything is as it should be.  It was a few years ago that I had it done, it never left any traumatising memories...so from what I remember its not so bad. Just prepare yourself for discomfort, and it helps to have someone along that you can recieve comfort from. I had my sister with me.Sorry if I couldn't help more.
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1) Is abortion murder? no. as long as it is done before the 4th month. \n\n2) are there any acceptions in which abortion is acceptable?(is yes, why only those)yes. rape, molestation, not being able to take care of the child, if the mother isnt ready, health conditions.  I personally would never get an abortion, but i dont think that it is right to have people outside of clinics screaming at them making them feel worse than they already do. if they want an abortion and maybe mess up their insides, its on them :D\n\n3) is a fetus/unborn baby (in your oppinion) a conscience being?\nyes.\n\n4) In this non-abortion situation: a girl was born with a twin attached, head to head. The twin has a FULLY functional brain. It can feel, react, cry, sleep, etc. Is this twin alive? oh i saw that. yes. now if it was just a limb, or a face, then no.\n\n5) is it more alive or more of a human being than a fetus/unborn baby?the conjoined twins? yes and no. they are about equal.\n\n6) same twin story: the twin has a lump of a body with no organs. http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/j/msnbc/compon... do you still consider it a live human being?\nno.\n\n7) Is it worse to seperate this "twin" which will die, or have an abortion? (sorry, not a yes or no answer)the previous twins? i think it would be worse to seperate. personally i would seperate though.\n\n8) comments\ni really think abortion is one of those topics that both sides are to blind to the other. i really hate how people can have sex and then just erase their mistake, but then again i think its wrong for groups of people to walk up and down busy malls that have kids with parents and show pictures of aborted fetus's screaming about how abortion is a sin.
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You look her square in the eye and say "you are nearly an adult, and you have to make your own decisions in life. I can't stop you from choosing to have a child right now, even though you have no money and no prospects. So if you want to have a baby, you go right ahead. But this is my house and you are driving my car, and I am not putting my resources on the table for you to misuse them by having a child you can't support. So the minute that pregnancy test turns up positive, pack your stuff and get out of my house."\n\nBest of luck and God bless.
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Oh my gosh! I don't feel so alone now! Everyone of my friends thinks that it's so weird but it is terrifying to me. I don't understand why i have this fear but man, i'm scared to get pregnant because of this fear. I get shaky, hot-cold flashes, dizziness, sweaty, just plain horror. I don't wish this on anyone but i hope we both can get over it! Do you remember anything that could have triggered your phobia? I remember going on vacation when i was younger and my sister would always get sick in the back of the car; i think i felt trapped or something but i really want to end this terrible fear! I hope you don't feel alone, i'm here for you now! :)
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OK what is up with this heart attack stuff..My husband and now your mom. \nShe will be in my prayers. Keep us posted about her updates. Take your laptop and keep in touch.\nI had a very hard time and still am dealing with it all. I come here to escape it all..I took my lap top in one day in his room and the Doctor asked me  have you heard of that Yahoo Q&A and I said yes and I showed him this one and he said there is this one babe from and he stopped and said no way...And I said yes..Funny small world................So you wanted new.........\n\nI  have  official made the commitment to take my road trip. I just emailed my family and told them that I was going and if they were not going to support me on this one OWell things happen..\nIt just hit me I need to do this regardless of life and what is going on. LOL for me
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if your abortions were done in a hospital, you had quality care, so i wouldnt worry.just try to concieve and if you dont then go see a doctor
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I am a doctor and while having wild trouble with my wife, I decided to never be with here again.  I have 2 kids. A few months later, 4 to be exact, I started living with one of my patients, who is 40, and had a wild drive for me since 2 years ago. While being my patient nothing happened, but we started talking after I left my wife, never to return I thought. I lived with this woman for over a year, and that was the happiest time of my life. Nevertheless, my kids were having very serious trouble, and even though I did not wish to see my wife again, I decided to return to my kids and get them out of trouble. I will never stop loving my patient, she was the sweetest girl I've never known, but I cannot live happily with her while my kids are going down hill. I may be damned, but I need my kids to be OK for me to be happy, and they demand my presence. I could never feel happy while being with the woman I love while my kids are going through trouble. You being a virgin is not an issue to me, it should not be an issue to you, it should not be an issue for anybody loving you. What worries me is to find you left aside because this guy is married. I am not saying it is right or wrong, I am saying I doubt he will feel absolutely and sincerely happy with you while thinking about his kids. Been there, done that, don't go there, yo don't want to go there. You'll be happy for a while, and then you will know hell. Excuse my honesty, but I do not wish any human being to go through my experience. Hence I have the need to speak about it. And only anonimously. Take my word: you don't want this.\nPD: I am aged 46.
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I am adopted, possibly from a rape.  I agree that it violates the mom's rights, and could torment the child from this sort of situation.  I am grateful she gave me up to a family that does love me. I am sorry for what she went through, and once I found out about it, I stopped any further searching for other family.  There are families out there who want children and cannot have them.  Adoption is a great answer, not abortion.  Sorry, my opinion.  I  am glad I was not sucked down a sink!
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I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Any time one has a major surgery there is a chance of not making it through the surgery My mom,in 2003 went to her doctor(regular visit) and he sent her to the hospital they ran the usual tests and told her they would not release her,that she had no choice but to have a quadruple by-pass.So she did,she came through the surgery fine. It took a few months for her to regain her strength,she never seemed to recover from a deep depression.18 months later she died peacefully in her sleep.What concerns me,the quadruple was a fairly new venture in heart surgery at the time.Within 6 months of her surgery,her boyfriend was told he needed the same surgery.and one month later mom's younger brother was told he needed a quadruple by pass.at the same time  a friend of mine had the surgery then the doctor tells his wife she needed the same surgery a month or so later another friend of mine had to have the same surgery!These people live in different states But...they were all on social security and medicaid or medicare.There may not be any connection or anything.But it just strikes me as odd that all these people I know had to have the same surgery.I have even wondered"were these doctors using these people as guinea pigs for practice? My Mom was 70 when she died.There's no doubt that many people need this type surgery.Maybe I am just being paranoid!I guess I am still very upset at the fact the doctor said the surgery would add 10 to 15 years to her life.Her death was totally unexpected.She was not complaining of pain or feeling sick or anything. I pray your Grandpa will have a good out come on his surgery!
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my friend mom and her sister in law had it done and they would both do it again they both look great but one in having problems in here marriage because she is older but has a lot of energy she didn't have before and hubby doesn't like the change.  on the other hand i was starting to think about it to you have to go on a waiting list and go through counseling and stuff.  well my other best friends brother was suppose to have it done this past Monday and he almost died on the table he didn't even get to have it done and they are gonna try again in a few weeks.  i don't know if i could lay on that table knowing a may never come off of it alive.  it is a hard decision to decide and think about it long and hard you also have to loose so much weight before they do it and if you can loose that maybe you can keep loosing well i hope the best for you good luck in your decision but we are all stranger don't let us decide something that important  i know a lady at are local walmart who had it done and she had a thyroid problem she has lost 110.  but like i already said it is your decision your life don't let any one else make such an important decision .  well she also said there was support groups for it.  maybe you could find one and check it out and see what you think
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I think perhaps God should make decisions like those. Medical Science is great and all but God has power over all things. Choose your child. From the mother's stand point what better way to die, than by giving another life. Greater love has no man than this, that he lay down his life for a friend. (I think baby relatives count too.) From the father's stand point what better way to show God you totally trust him? A friend of mine was told about six months ago that she should abort her child because he would never breathe on his own, his skull would not be formed,his facial features would be distorted, and the child's brain would be in essence.... dead.Pam and Mike were basically told to kill their unborn child because a medical test "proved" it would be for the best. Rather than putting their faith in medicine they put their faith in God and  today a miracle happened. Pam gave birth to a basically healthly child. He is breathing just fine all by himself, despite some minor physical abnormalities he is a beautiful healthy child. Praise God for this precious life! If Mike would have put his faith in science, or Pam had chosen instead to have her baby aborted because something might be wrong.... well the world would have missed out on this brand new perfect life. The real question is not who can I save? But, in whom can I put my faith? You have no control over life or death, which means YOU can NOT Choose who lives. ie. If the father decides "choose" to abort the child who is to say that during the procedure the mother would not also die? It has happened. an abortion requires a serious, though minimally invasive, surgical procedure.It's called a Dilitation and Curretage more commonly refered to as a D&C.(not only for decicive abortions, a D&C is commonly done on women who have had a spontaneous abortion or miscarriage to prevent uterine infections)I personally have seen (working on a surgical floor) women who have nearly died from complications of this "minimally invasive" procedure.If you put your faith in God he will direct your path.
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I had a kidney transplant about 9 months ago. I looked up at the clock in the operating room at about 9 a.m., they said they were going to start... Then I became aware of a pain in my side and saw a clock in a different room that said about 1 o'clock.  I only knew they had done the surgery because of the pain and the clock. It was not like sleeping. I was not aware at all during the time I was "out". It was just a total blank. When I'm asleep, I still have some awareness of time passing, I think, but not so when I was under anesthesia.\nOne of the nurses in the recovery room asked my aunt who gave me the kidney, "Who did you give your kidney to?" My aunt was still pretty out of it, but she obviously didn't remember anything either -- she said, "I haven't given it to her yet."  :-)\n\nP.S. The pain upon "coming to" was not too bad. They have lots of good meds to help with the pain.
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You've had 4 abortions?? I really hope that's not true. \nI hope that when you actually try to have children you struggle with it. 4 abortions is just sick--why didn't you consider giving them up for adoption? I can understand when there's one abortion---but 4? What was wrong with birth control or protection?\nMy husband and I have been trying to have another child for 2 years now--we'd give anything to have another one. And there are so many other families just like ours. You've thrown 4 away? That's not right! You should feel terrible about your decisions!
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Hey, I like the doctor's answer there.. (I didn't know all that!) darn, I tried it a couple times and it sure didn't trip my trigger, doc. (I think the doc's not a doctor.. he's fulla **** tho.. lol) Let me see, yeah I had this one real 'loser' boyfriend who gave me his line he "didn't want to get me pregnant.. SO the only way he'd do me was anally." (Is this too sick or what?) Oh yeah and he flippin told me he wanted to marry me (and got me a hundred buck Sears amethyst ring as an engagement ring.) Yeah.. I know.. I know.. how dumb am I, right? Think it was a good way (spend a hundred bucks) for a 'good anal ole time!' I got sick of this after about two times and booted him. I cannot imagine why anyone'd like it.. I don't know why (and apologize if this offends someone decent) but I always figured that if the guy couldn't do it the good ole baby-makin' way, the gal had too big a 'hole..' and the selfish b**tard just wanted an 'extra good squeeze.' (Yeah, I'm gross.. I said I was sorry!) later-
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My husband had cancer, lost his job and was hospitalized 200 miles away from home to have surgery for the cancer at a major University hospital. I wanted to be with him while he was there but did not have the money to stay in a hotel for that long. I slept in my car in the parking garage for about 3 weeks. the nurses at the hospital let me shower late at night in the patients shower area. At the time I had a 1987 Camaro- small car! Not to mention that cars are going around parking all night and it was pretty cold.  When the wife of my husbands new roomate found out that I had been sleeping in my car, she offered me her hotel room, showers, meals, etc. that night in the hotel was one of the best sleeping nights that I ever had. This woman did not know me at all. We had only talked for a few minutes but she offered all of this to me. Sadly her husband passed away. My husband beat the odds. We made friends with plenty of nurses at the hospital and left our number in case someone is there with a similar situation. When they call and we are able, we send the money to pay for a night in a hotel for them. That woman truely made a huge impact on my life.