is it wrong to get mad if my gf was to be fiancee but i screwed up i was saducced in iraq where i was stationed by a nurse and screwed her. But is it wrong to get mad if my gf tans because i like her the way she is and i dont want her to change her appearance. I donno ladies and gentlmen but i guess i care for her to much. Then she written me an e-mail telling me she is moving to nc whne i have a very stressful job here in texas. I barely even spend time with her but i love her to death. I guess i need to ease up a little bit.
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hey my boyfriend is in iraq right now and if he cheated on me with some nurse i wouldnt be with him, that is so wrong! but anyway, you get mad if she tans??? ooookkkkk from what i hear that is the least of ya'lls problem. you need to loosein up and oh yeah, maybe you shouldnt cheat on her, later
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Come on guy!!!!...  Sounds to me like your mad and you have no idea what your talking about and you want to get some support for people you don't even know on this site.\n\nWhat has she told you...? If this is really true and not just in your head, why are you still there?  And don't tell me it's because you love her.  Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap and she just thinks of you as just a backup ****.  \n\nIf this is for real, leave.  Even if it isn't real, leave.  Your head is so screwed up you couldn't think straight abut her anyway.  Just leave.
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I love this question its funny! Woman tend to stablish a emotional relationship first rather than the physical. So she is trying to establish that she can A-Trust You B-That once you get it you won't leave C- That you truly care for her. Men are naturally Horn Dogs:-), nothing wrong with it but i can understand where your coming from. Just like your doing continue to respect her and eventually she will feel comfortable enough with you to share that with you. In the meantime well you have a hand ;-) Good Luck and i give you props for just not ditching her when she said she wanted to wait it shows your a real man!
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Bad idea, I was in the navy also. The last thing you want when your underway for a extended period is to have your girl just a few feet away and not being able to express your feeling to her. \n\nGood luck!
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If I were dating this hypothetical person, then I wouldn't be mad about it provided that he immediately pulled away and put a stop to it. He didn't do anything wrong.\n\nIf I were him, it would depend on the circumstances whether he should tell his gf about it or not... like who else is at the party. If there's any chance that someone might run and tell her and blow it out of proportion, then I would go ahead and be the person she hears it from first. \n\nIt's a double-edged sword, because she could be really mad at the girl. If there's a trust issue, she could also be mad at her bf. It depends on the individual. \n \nSticky situation there, but hopefully she would trust the person she's with.
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HELL NO, Do you want another guy touching your lady? I wouldn't. What the hell is up with people these days over the 3 sums? I like it with me and my partner and NOONE else. But that is up to you. You have to live with the fact that your g/f wants to be with another man. What if she like it or him? Will you be willing to have another? I dont
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I can completely understand you and as you mentioned in your answer to my question (What things you do expect from the person who is in love with you?).\nI can see that your GF having a tattoo how devastating it could be for you.\nI'm at the same position, she went and got her second tattoo with my name on it, which I HATE IT, eventhough she knew I'd never like it, but she says I got that when i thought everything was over. which i think that's nothing but BS,b/c why should she still insist to keep it when now we are together. that's one thing. The another thing is she already has 2 but recently she trying to convince me to get the 3rd one.\nok here is my question, now that we are together and she know i already was against the 2nd one , why is she still managing to pull this off by having the 3rd one?\nDoes she cares about me and how i should feel to see all those nasty tattoos on her all the time.\nWell i want to do alot of stuff in life too , but by knowing she wont accept it i simply don't do it, so why is she thinks or your GF thinks that they have absolute right to do so.\nI would say dump her because she is not paying attention to your values and needs. she does what she thinks is right as they though before and went and DID it.
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WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
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mmm thats sounds bad... but r u sure that yr gf left you? if yes than thats not good...just  try to relex.. it will be ok
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"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
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listen to your heart.\nmy now fiance cheated and got her prgnant and we are getting married and i know how twisted that sounds without going into detail but i di a lot of soul searching so to speak and i just couldnt give up on us. yes you have every right to be angry and you will forgive him in time if you so choose to but take it slow and figure out what it is you want. sounds to me like you really love him and dont want to give up but i don't want to go into  to much detail about my life but i do know what you are going through and you can e-mail me at crazybearnluv69@aol.com if you want and i can better explain.
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It seems to me that this girl have an attitude problems or she don't know how to express herself. I'm a female myself and I get mad quick but as I gotten older I can control it more. But this gurl want you to kiss her butt, that's why she get mad when she hangs up in you and don't call her back Good FOR HER, because she needs to learn how to COMMUNICATE that's the key if something is bothering her. I think that it is good that y'all are friends. If you really like this gurl than tell her that whatever is bothering her just to talk to you about the situation. relationships are going to work overnight it takes time and trust.
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I can understand why your g/f is mad. Why wouldn't you want to blow off another chick if you already have a girl friend? Just politely tell the other girl that you're taken and that nothing can happen between you both. If she doesn't get the hint, then stop talking to her and tell her to leave you alone. Make sure your gf knows that you love her and no one else. Do something special for her that you would never do for anyone else. Ur gf feels threatened. Girls are almost always insecure and think that their man will be taken away buy someone else, so just let her know that you don't want or need any one other than her.
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It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
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In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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well i would be pissed off. if she keeps insisting it's fine and she isn't laughing it's not fine. you fucked up. good luck:D
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Sorry:-))) But i am kind of amused...You know, the first thing that men have to learn about women is to give them their space. Hey...if your parting words weren't bitter, there is no cause for alarm. I am sure she'll call..giv her some time. You said she had a boyfriend..well, maybe she is busy..there could be a thousand things you dont know...So dont miss her too much. Try and concentrate on ur GF. I am sure she be in touch shortly.