i dunno about u, but it seem ironic to be in a COMMITMENT and not have yourself COMMITED to the person u love.
217041
open relationship isnt exactly a relationship of the caliber youa re describing. start with what a relationship is - you to your friend, a teacher, your pet. Everything you come in contact with has some sort of relationship to you, same as the partner you are in an open relationship with. In this situation, one member does not want to hold commitment to anyone, till they are sure they will be with that person for quite a while. go and have fun, and stop worrying about love so much, its nice but it will always happen again, if you put yourself out there.
40263
It is a commitment issue . . . since they are already committed (supposedly) to someone else . . . you are not afraid of them getting too attached to you . . . or you hope not.
72099
??? I guess it's something about your personality.  Damn, if I could meet another person that would make me fall in love... xoxo\nHmmm... we're on the same boat but on opposite ends.  I'm a guy that has problems falling in love or even talking to the person everyday.  Why?!?  I like my space, right?  I like my own time.  Maybe I'm not ready because I haven't found anyone worthy of my absolute (EVERYDAY) once a day phone call thing that everyone does.  Therefore, for that reason it is difficult for anyone to see anything going serious with me.  It doesn't bother me.\n\nI'm just saying we're oddly on the same boat but at two different ends.
3865
Absolutely, I would be out that door in a heartbeat.  You dont need this, and you certainly dont need to work hard to make someone love you who probably isn't going to love or honor you in the end.  Get strong and get out!
155907
some one out there might love you, but im not that person
657696
Hello, first of all does the person know that you have strong feeling for them? Look I am not here to tell you how to live, however if you ask me you need to start caring about yourself. No person is worth killing your self over, no not one.\nConventional wisdom would have you believe that if you are not involved with someone then you are not normal, well my friend, conventional wisdom is WORNG!!!!\n\nIt does not take a genius to know that you can’t give what you don’t have,; you cannot love someone else and not be able to show yourself love first. You know yourself from the moment that you were born, if you can’t love that person, you can’t love anyone else.\n.
660409
that is so wrong if u really love your partner u shoyuldnt be doing that, but i know your not alone i have friends who tell me the same so im guessing its normal
155694
Maybe they think you are feeling something other than love.\n\nI don't think a person can actually love too much, but I do think a person can have an unhealthy obsession for another person and still think it's nothing but love.\n\nIt doesn't really sound like that's you, though.  Glad you are so happy.
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it will take you some time to get over this person but you will trust me.  they are obviously emotionally imature.  on some level they likely do love you, just don't really understand what real love is and throw the word around without understanding the reprecussions of what it may do to the person the say it to.  could be a serial commitmentphobe or just an immature person who has no clue what they are doing.   be thankful to be out of it before it has been months or years.
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I dont know why peolpe want to change others to fit their definition of how they should be. I agree that when you decide to be in a relationship with an individual that you decided to be with them and all of them. Their bad habits good, habits language, extra issues before you came alone, and any other thing that they have going on in their lives. The more you try to chance a man or anyone the more they will be pushed away from you. You have to except people for who they are and not for what you expect for them to be.
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i think they do it because they are some what scared of themselves...and maybe they are testing the other one...(not on purpose) but testing them....to see if they are really ment for each other but in this case i feel you and your loved one are ment for each other....you may have your problems everyone does...maybe a little more  than most people but you are ment for each other. and you should love each other forever! you only have one lifetime we should all live it to the fullest! and im sure that the person who you love soo much loves you just the same even more....and is really sorry for what he did. he prolly knows that he cant fix it but wishes he could. i wish for you 2 to be happy and to have a WONDERFUL life together. you are ment for each other! \n\n♥
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I think the main reason that people can't or don't commit to relationships is immaturity and selfishness.  They often want to keep playing the field or go out and play the field.  There is also the fear of being hurt and the fear of what a commitment to a lifelong relationship entails.  I think another problem is their not knowing what they want or what is best for both of them.  I had one friend who dated a girl for about 8 years until he felt that God wanted him to marry the girl.  That girl was frustrated beyond belief.  She had 4 other roommates in the house, including my future wife, and all of them met and married guys after the two of them had started dating.  It really is a tough thing to do since the onus seems to be placed upon the male to ask the lady if she wants to marry them.  Heck, it is hard enough asking a woman to dance with the fear of rejection!!! ;)
208445
I understand completely. The reason people pretend to be something they are not is to get somethng they otherwise could not. They figure, if they don't like me for me, I'll be someone else. Needless to say, that never works out and people that try that are looking at a dead end in love.
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Its infatuation, there is nothing like love at first site, it only happens in the movies which is oh so not real, Have you considered whether you are in love with her that you are thinking about marriage, your not a loser if you don't love someone, its stupid wanting to keep someone that is just infatuated with you, please do not make a mistake, consider you feelings.
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So what you are saying is that you are "settling" because that's easier than being alone. My,  how flattering to the guy you are settling for...wouldn't you just love to find out your partner wasn't head over heels crazy about you, but thought "you'll do"? Doesn't that just make you all tingly and happy inside? *rolls eyes*\n\nWhat you are doing is sad...sad for you (you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to meet someone who you'll be crazy about and have the stability, just because you want to be hooked up right now)...sad for him because he probably thinks you really dig him and he won't have the opportunity to meet someone who would REALLY be crazy about him, not just like him because he can offer stability.\n\nTreat others as you would like to be treated...if you wouldn't want to be settled for...don't settle for someone else...
536536
I understand how you feel, but why would you want to be with someone who is not worthy of all the love you would be lavishing them with. Sometimes you have to let your head rule over your heart. You have to be able to look at the situation and go, this is going to hurt but maybe fate is changing in my favor. Sometimes what we think we want isn't what we thought it was after we find better.
2947
I think you are a romantic. I hope that my soulmate exisits but I find that hard to believe. Please keep your wonderful outlook on life and love