I'm a radio dj and have rather odd hours from the rest of the world 5pm-Midnight. I feel completley disconnected from everyone and my social life has dropped dramatically...I don't talk to my friends. While I'm doing the career that I love, the pay sucks and I hate my hours.....I exercise during the day,sell stuff on ebay and work. That's it. Help........
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If I'd had a friend that it's a radio dj I 'd be glad he'd tell me that he's playing some music that I like and give me some specific times so I can turn on the radio and listen to it. This might just be a good way for my dj friend to communicate with his/her friends when can't be with them (if that ever was the case). \n\nHave your friends send you lists of music they prefer to listen to and on your days off call them up or meet with them. SMS with them about the music you play real time or Email if you have access at work.\n\nOf course, if you get to also, talk sometime on the radio, you could have them call in and just role play. I'd do that. Life is a SHOW. Put on the show. Don't let your career ruin your life. Your friends, if you had them, will love to be gotten involved somehow, even if only to know that you play music FOR THEM - I am sure that you can find a song a day for each one of your friends and kind of make their day, everyday, knowing that you play that for them. I'd love that.\nIf the pay sucks, that's not good though... that might be a reason to look for something else or somewhere else... Can't help you with that. I don't like my pay either. But THAT IS SO COOL THAT YOU ARE A DJ! You might just want to keep that as your fun part time job and get another part time somewhere else...
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I also go through the same thing. Actually, I asked a question like this not long ago. I think that it is boredom, loneliness, maybe ADD. Find something that keeps you busy. Even if you don't feel like it, get more involved in things going on at your school. Find community projects, get a part-time job, just get out and meet a lot of people. I did the same thing as you, I started school away from home, and after one semester, I went back home. It was one of the biggest mistakes of my life, and now it has been 4 years since I left school. Please stay in school. If you keep thinking that this "new thing" is going to be perfect and the solution to all your problems, you will be let down. Just take things day-by-day, find something different to do everyday.
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Oh, I know the Sunday Blues... And I have recently found the remedy: I try to organize meet-ups and dinner invitations for Monday and Tuesday nights now. That way I look forward to the new week, sometimes I can't wait for Sunday to pass because I want to meet my friends asap. \n\nOk, yes, I am only fooling myself, but then again, if that doesn't work for you, you might want to take a look at the reasons why you don't like your work and change employment?
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try giving back, helping others, maybe thats whats missing in your life.  You could be getting bored at all these jobs because they seem meaningless in the whole scheme of things.  Try donating some time or money to a charity.
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I know how you feel. Im pretty much the same way, watching life pass by and the bad part is you know it. \nI guess try and relax, work during the week and party on the weekend. What I found is that you should get at least 8 hours of sleep everynight. Even though I havent solved the problem of studying too much I try and remember that university is suppose to teach us that there needs to be a balance of play and work. Remember "all work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy". \nJust remember that balance is key!
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Sounds like a case of depression to me.  I don't understand why "minor" setbacks should have brought this on.  The most important thing you can do is to get regular exercise!  Really.  The oxygen will revive you, exercise will improve your body, improving your body will make you feel better about yourself.  It's hard to start, but once you make it a habit it is a lot easier.  Next, I recommend some activity that connects you to other people, especially dancing--something vigorous, like ballroom, swing, Cajun.  It will give you a high, especially once you learn enough to feel confident doing it.  Third, perhaps you need a better job?
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Get out and make friend. Maybe you are depressed and need to see a doctor. What has changed in your life to make you feel this way?
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I'm not going to pretend that I know what it is like to do the 7 on 7 off schedule, but the transition from day to night is rough. I invested in those room darkening blinds ($10 at Walmart) and stole a pair of ear plugs from the factory I worked for. If you're in a factory, you probably agree that the industrial ear plugs are good enough that you don't hear the trash man outside, but weak enough that you can hear the alarm. The new blinds didn't make my room pitch black at night, but it helped. As far as switching the schedules, try to push yourself on Friday (or whatever your last work day is) to not go to sleep until anywhere from 8-10 that night. It'll wear you out enough that you won't be up before the crack of dawn. You'll also get enough sleep that you can enjoy the weekend "properly". Also, try to get on a sleep schedule as soon as possible. If you stick to the same schedule everyother week your body will get more used to it quicker. ie. don't stay up til noon one day and get in bed at 8 the next.
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I worked nights for 3 years and I learned that it was best to just live life that way. Make sure you have a "normal" routine just like you would working days. And keep that routine on your days off if at all possible. That is what I eventually had to start doing because it's too hard trying to get your body & mind adjusted to a 1st shift schedule for just a couple days a week. You are probably just not a 3rd shift person and it's really affecting you emotionally. I understand what you're saying about not being able to switch to days right now. Just work on a routine & make the best you can of it until you can get back on a day shift.
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I can completely relate to your question - particularly the London aspect - I work there and it can at times look like the whole of the capital is having a party that you weren't invited to.\n\nThere is nothing on this planet worse than feeling lonely to me - it can be all consuming. Sounds like you're doing all the right things - good for you for getting out there - maybe you just need to relax a bit and be patient. \n\nI think Guinea Pig is spot on when they say that all these people who look bubbly and like they've got loads of friends could well be lonely too. I think we're all lonely at some point in our lives.\n\nAt the moment I'm trying to be comfortable with myself so that I don't have to rely on other people and be needy and desperate. Not only is it unattractive but it scares off potential new friends too. I'm not talking about you here in particular by the way - just making a general point and I've seen myself be needy and not liked what I saw.\n\nSo anyway, hang on in there, and while you're being patient - I'm happy to be your 360 friend if you like.\n\nTake care :-)
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hi sorry to hear this...well its true about working late...i was and still am a repo man it calls for long hours..i am the same way..when i get home i do alot of the same..internet,movies,t.v...whatever.. it does take a while to unwind and let the day slip away..then when your unwound and ready for bed..your just waking up..its hard i know this aint what you wanna hear but he has to want to spend time with you..he has to compramize..with your feelings..i had to as well..how long has he worked 2nd shift? if he recently started doing the 2nd shift this will fade away..he will become tired sooner and be in bed with you sooner..i hope i helped if you have any further questions...please dont be afraid to e mail me and ask...good luck
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why dont you have time for a job? are you too busy playing your video games? there is 24hrs in a day. what are you doing w/ your time?
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I am like you, I don't like clubs/pubs. People think I am crazy, as pubs are an institution where I live. But eh, at the end of the day, you go out to entertain yourself, not to be bored or feel awkward. And I don't drink either.\n\nMy advice to you would be to find something you like to do, like going to the cinema, to the restaurant with your friends, and compromise with them.
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This is just a suggestion, but maybe you'd find more "happiness" if you looked for it outside of your job.  Many people look for their careers to bring them satisfaction in life.  Maybe taking up a hobby or doing something that you've always wanted to do will be helpful.  Take some type of class and stay with it until you are good at it.  This new skill or perfected skill will help you feel better.  Also, doing volunteer work is great.  You seem as if you have many talents.  Have you considered teaching someone else what you know?  By having interest outside of your job, you gain identity and know who you are regardless of the type of work that you do.\n     People who are multi-talented sometimes bore easily.  Perfecting what you already know or teaching someone else might really be good for you.\nIf you would like to travel, take more vacations!\nI hope this helps.
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If you want to do something interesting with your life, I think that you have three options:\n\n1) You can throw it all in, give up the job the money etc. and do what you want, if it makes you happy.\n2) You can stay in your job, be unhappy, but loaded.\n3) You can stay in your job and have a fun life outside of work. \n\nEveryone hates their work (well most people do) but we have to pay the morgage/rent etc. so the job is a nessessity. You don't do your job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You have time outside of work to socialise and have fun. You have to decide yourself what you really want. Because giving up everything could sound amazing now but it could get boring, and what are you going to do then? Personally, I'd ditch the job but you have to decide for yourself. \n\nHope this helped and good luck!!\n\nxxxxx
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i used to have 9-5 jobs in the advertising/public relations industry, so even if it is a 9-5 job, everyday is so different (because of the nature of the business) that it didn't feel like it was 9-5.\n\nmaybe you can explore a new job in a different field or industry.  if you don' tlike monotony try the media, events planning, tv or theater or concert work, etc.\n\nor maybe you need a total change of careers, too.  salespeople get to go around a lot and are not tied to a desk.\n\nhowever, if you don't want to necessarily leave your job, what you can do is explore your city after work.  i usually try to enroll in a workshop or go to a lecture or watch a play or attend a museum exhibit whenever i can.\n\ncheck out your local newspaper or if your city has one of those free newspapers that lists the events in your community, grab one and scan it for events that interest you.\n\nyou could try learning how to ballroom dance, take improv lessons from a theater group, go to musuem or art exhibit openings (free cheese and wine, hehehe), take a new course at a local community college, etc etc.\n\nyou get to meet new people this way and they can inspire you or expose you to new things that might interest you.\n\ngood luck.
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My suggestion to you is tht take part in activities,being lonely & just thinking abt it will not help u in anyway so make frnds or if u have c tht u meet them daily for somtime go for gym or look out for job or activity tht keeps u busy all the day.Try to b active go for morning walks or play interesting game or u have sister sit down with her & discuss this she also may b in a state to help u to deal with it. U r not deep in relation with people tht is not a justified reason for u to b depress . try to understand tht there is time & situation for every thing to happen u will get things but b bold to face everything