I had a family member steal over 15000 dollars of my fathers life insurance. The money was left to my mother and within three weeks time was stolen. NOw my question is do i forget and forgive or what??? Its so tough for me to decide.  Please help me out
212901
Forgive them after you forgot how you beat the s**t out of them.
625820
My first thought is to move on. However, that also depends on the amount. You have a responsibility to take care of your family. I also think about the principle of the matter and you should FIGHT!! How many others have been treated like this? Or how many more will there be if you don't step up?  I also would like to point out that your mutual friends will probably feel forced to choose sides. But if he goes to your church he should do the right thing in the first place. That is wrong of him to with hold your money! Good luck with your choice.
393254
No, it wasn't God. I am truly sorry for your losses and pain. I would definitely be angry at him too. But it wasn't the work of the devil either. You and your family were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. It was nothing personal. If he wanted your family dead, he would strike them all dead. Most accidents have a cause, and what makes it an accident is lack of intent. As for your house, that kinda stuff happens everyday. You cannot predict that either. Have faith that there are bigger, better things for you. Do not wallow in your grief. Stand strong and everything will be okay.
27388
well I would move out cause It'll get worse, before it get better,if he thinks you stole his money,then he does'nt think much of you. sorry that your going through that, I hope it gets better for you, stay strong.
671655
Dear Friend,\n\nDo not let them do this.  A person listed as "payable on death" has ZERO interest in your account while you are still alive.  They just get any assets left WHEN you die, they are not on the hook for any liabilities -- certainly not while you're alive.  Let them know you'll get a lawyer if they don't change their tune -- and that it'll cost them a LOT more than $800.  Bank stealing money from innocent children?  Most judges and any jury in the world would eat that up.\n\nYour Friend,\nFrancesois
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If you truly believe the person spending the money never had any authorization to do so, and is not spending it on behalf of the deceased person's estate, and more likely is spending for their own (illegal) benefit, then it's a grand theft and should be reported to the police department where the theft is occuring.  A starting point is to report it to the police department in which jurisdiction the deceased person lived and died.  It's also possible that these incremental thefts were going on when the victim was alive (elder financial abuse), but are just accelerating now.
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He should have designated someone as the executor of his will. Maybe a close friend? If there is anything for you in the will, you will find out soon enough, as you have to be notified. I am so terribly sorry for your loss, and if it makes you feel better, sneak around and do what you have to do to obtain what is rightfully yours. Fight fire with fire, I say.
172920
You did the right thing.  Your father on the hand was in the wrong and placed you in a horrible situation and by your choice you protected your mother.  Sad, but your father should have been protecting the both of you rather than you having to protect yourselves from him.  Don't let him guilt you, it is his own shame he must deal with not you dear.
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Estate is something you own. If you die and you don't name any beneficiaries on your life insurance policy, all death benefits will be paid to your estate. From that point on, the money will stay there until someone in your family claims it (of course this usually result in a family feud and all settlements will have to be settled in court).\n\nSo what I suggest if this person owns life insurance and has no named beneficiary, he/she better name one as soon as possible.\n\nAnother way to look at it is that you have a savings account in heaven and only people who can touch it is your family and your relatives. The government has no access to it. :-D
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I wouldn't worry about it. A few good questions though. Why were you put as president of the company? Why would you be being sued? Answer those two questions, and you'll have pretty good direction pointing to the answers. Ask him. Think about it logically for a moment. Your father brought you into the world, and nothing you experience could've been experienced without him, so first off let's be grateful for that gift of life. Secondly, a lawyer firm is a business. Businesses run for one reason, to Get Profit. Clearly they're not going to care about your personal interest as much as they are going to want their profit in the end, it's a bit more cold than dealing with family directly. As strangers, these people have no consent to the actual relationship you and your father have. From the perspective you give, it makes him seem like a scumbag, when I truly doubt that is the case. I'd talk to your dad and if I didn't get the proper answers then I would consult a lawyer and the judge of whatever, to help them realize you didn't actually do anything wrong. You didn't do anything. He forged the signature and did everything. What could you possibly have to worry about? You'll have to tell them the honest truth about everything, and that may put your father into trouble. I'd stick it out with my family, you'd be nothing without them, not to mention not even exist. It really depends on where your heart is. Only for yourself. Or For your family.
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Yes, you have a right to be upset. Your fiance is a mama's boy. Poor baby?\n\nAnd I wonder, how much do they accuse you of stealing? I would consider it beneath my dignity to be accused of stealing anything less than $10000!!!\n\nIf more than that has been lost, he should ask you ( that's some serious cash, but if they are accusing you of stealing $50, they are really cheap. I mean, if I lost 10 grand, I would get my dog x-rayed to make sure he hasn't swallowed it. Let alone asking my fiancee.) .  But even if he does ask you, it should not imply assumed misdeedson your part.\n\nHow did he phrase it? Did he ask if you "SAW" the money? Or did he ask if you "TOOK" it? In any case, if he said his parents accused you of stealing, they really suck. Chances are that they stole it themselves to put the blame on you. Check your bags and luggage carefully, you don't want to be caught with "planted evidence". \n\nI hope,if you guys are marrying, you are going to stay far far away from them.
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Wow, some really dangerous opinions in here!\n\nLife insurance proceeds are there to provide protection for your dependents in three basic areas:\n\n1) Funds made available to pay final costs (burial, medical bills, etc.) and debts (mortgage, credit cards. etc)\n\n2) Funds to make up the difference between the household income before your death and what it would be following your death.\n\n3) Funds to invest to meet the savings goals you would have been saving for had you not died. (Think children's education)\n\nNot everyone has needs in all three areas and like Lady Death alludes to in her answer, you can accumulate assets to offset these needs. This is referred to as Self-Insuring. In an ideal world, we would all quickly accumulate wealth sufficient to fully protect our families while not accumulating enough wealth to fall afoul of estate taxes. In reality this is not always the case, hence the continued need for life insurance.\n\nWhen you first apply for a policy, you go through an intense process called underwriting. This is when the insurance companies underwriters tak a very indepth look at you health (through blood and urine tests, questioning you, questioning your doctors and requesting information on you from the Medical Information Bureau [Think of the MIB as a Credit Bureau that tracks your health]) and your financial situation to determine IF you are insurable and how much your premiums are going to be.\n\nWhen people say you should only buy term insurance, be skeptical. It is a very unobjective thing to say when they know NOTHING of your situation. Term insurance is an easier sale and some salespeople follow the path of least resistance rather than providing the best objective advice to their clients. Buy Term and Invest the Difference- this assumes that you have the discipline to invest the difference rather than spend it, that you accumulate enough assets to self insure before the term period runs out, and that you don't accumulate too much with respect to estate taxes. Otherwose, you find yourself in the unenviable situation of having to go through underwriting again to put another term policy in force, with premiums based on your then current age, of course. This is particularly bad if your health has deteriorated in some way, jeapoardizing your ability to get coverage. Some may say you could convert the policy to permanent insurance at that point but that negates the tenents of the startegy and why put a permanent policy in place then, having given up all those years when you could have been funding it?!?\n\nMy best advice is to consult a financial planner (AVOID anyone who tells you what type of insurance to get without asking any questions of you and run away from anyone who uses a "multiple of salary" approach to determining your need) and have a survivorship analysis completed. Your planner will educate you on the different types of insurance and develop an insurance portfolio to meet your individual situation. It may be that term insurance is the right thing for you right now; maybe not. For anyone to say it is without the facts is not very intelligent nor prudent.\nGood Luck.
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you must feel so mixed up and betrayed but try to focus on how lucky you have been to only lose three years and a few DVDs. Give yourself a holiday if you can and spend sometime with friends and family. Talk and cry about it until you feel better but keep away from him. I found out someone I lived with was a gangster and robbed banks for kicks. When I found out he was lying about himself and tried to leave him I got a beating and he hired people to kill me. Thank God I survived. My advice count your blessings, change your phone numbers and get this creep out of your life, your heart and your head. sorry you are hurting so much but real love is out there. keep the faith
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It's so easy to actually answer this question, but it's a different story when you are actually living it.  This is probably the same answer as living with someone with any type of addiction...drugs, alcohol, gambling, s@x, etc.  It's a sickness.  The first question would be, does this person recognize their problem?  Is some sort of intervention needed?  You obviously love this person, so walking out is probably your last resort.  If this person doesn't recognize their problem...then it's time to start thinking about walking out, this could be your intervention.  However, this person has to clean up for themselves.  Not for you, not for their parents, workers, etc.  They have recognize their problem and want to fix it. That's when your support is most crucial. I don't think it's a win-win situation when someone is stopping thier ways for someone else. They have to stop because they want to.  Part of that equation is seeing what they have done to others.  At the sametime, from this point on, you should be protecting yourselves.  That means your bank accounts and anything else that he has access to.  I'm not sure what state you live in, but certain states have laws that can help protect you.  You can put a block (freeze) on your credit files.  This will enable you to have some sort of control over your credit.  Also, contact the various credit agencies....Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion.  See what options you have to protect your credit from being used.  You don't want this person opening accounts in your name.  Of course, getting a free credit report from all of the above will show you who has accessed your file recently.  Additionally, I would give your state Consumer Protection Section a call, to see what else you can do.  You're in a tough situation.  You have to protect yourself and be there for support at the sametime.  I wish you the best of luck!
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Get A Lawyer.NOW!!!!!! Trust me Ive been there.I was in an accident over a year ago,basically lost everything,am still in pain and the doctors will just drive you insane if you dont keep them under control.Get second opinions,document everything.Trust No one not even your insurance provider.Your pain could definitely be with you the rest of your life no matter what is done.Use caution.
668778
call the cops! sorry you are going through this but notify the police! can you leave? do you have anywhere to go? any other friends to help you? you dont HAVE to do anything you dont have to go to her house, you need to find another way  to make money but if she is stealing from you, you are in a worse boat!
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Give your car to the person that saved your life, he/she can drive the lady to the hospital, and after they finish at the part store, they will come back and give you back your car.\n\n*I stand by my answer.  If someone risked their life for me, then missing a meeting is of little consequence.