i am engaged and now next year we are about to get married but from the past few months our life is becoming hell his expectations are growing day by day and i can't meet those.
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you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. it sounds like it is time to slow things down, alot. you both need to sit and talk about what the 2 of you want out of this relationship. when the 2 of you are on the same page it will be alot easier.
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I think you need to listen to your heart and make a decision. Don't stay married if you aren't TRUELY happy, it isn't worth it. Take some time to just think without any outside distractions. :)
668378
he will go back to the same old stuff once you agree to stay, unless you resolve the underlying problem and if the problem is a behavior thing of his you arent going to change it. sounds like you are done and when that happens there is no going back. look if the guy really cared about the marriage he would've changed things when you said you were unhappy instead of waiting until you said i'm leaving. do you really want to spend your life with your bags packed because thats the only thing that gets through to him? yes you said better or worse, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. only you can decide that, to me it sounds as if you already have. if you've already given him 100 chances to step up to the plate he obviously isn't going to and 100 more won't be enough either. good luck to you, things will work out!
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Who knows?  Maybe you guys really aren't ready to get engaged.  There's alot of pressure on couples when they get engaged.  People EXPECT that you're getting married pretty soon and they want to know a date and they want to know what you're planning for the wedding.  It sounds like your man shouldn't have promised something that he wasn't sure about.  It's unfair to say that "by this date we will get engaged" because things happen.  It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to get engaged, it just means what he said, you guys aren't ready.  Maybe there's financial reasons behind that.  But a really good solution to this problem (because I know you are disappointed) is if your boyfriend still wants to get engaged and married in the future....he should buy you a promise ring.  My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we're not ready to get engaged or married yet either.  But a promise ring lets you and your friends and family know that you guys are planning to get married one day, just not right now.  I wear my promise ring on my left ring finger like an engagement ring and I'm very happy with it.  I think you would be too.  Sit tight dear, you'll get married one day.
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I am engaged to a wonderful man who had the same problem growing up.  He has always said that the best thing he could do under those circumstances was be himself, and although it was not always easy, things always managed to work out for the best in the long run.  I am certain you probably have heard that before and it was probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth.  Best of luck to you!  Hope it works out!
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okay well this guy is head over heels for you. i think he is trying so hard because he thinks you feel this way about him deep down and your afraid to get out your feelings. what you can do is be sensitive with him. tell him that your more than flattered and surprised that he proposed to you, but we can only stay simple friends right now. im not ready top get married right now and believe it or not i have dreams and goals i want to make come true. and i know you do too. and dont tell me that the only dream you have is to be my husband. i know you have things to accomplish in life. so thats why. we can still be really good friends b ut thats all we are going to be. if you liked me this much you would accept it and move on."if after that he still doesnt understand then maybe you shouldnt talk to him anymore. try avoiding him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. if he does understand then thats one less thing to worry about in life.
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Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but why are you getting married?  Getting married should mean you've found the one person you don't want to wake up another day without.  It sounds like your heart isn't sure.  When you've found the right one to marry, he'll fulfill all your wants and needs. It sounds like you may not have found that 'one'.  I'm not saying your fiance isn't a great man, but if he doesn't have your whole heart, and mind, and all your passion, it seems hurtful to marry him.  I wish you the best, and pray that you'll put a lot of thought into your marriage since your action will affect a lot of people.
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No you need to answer his calls but also give him some breathing room maybe after a while he will feel like he really do want to get married you know what im saying still don't pressure him about the situation and let him feel like you still want him but you still need to give him some room
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Well you have to talk to him and find out why he is not ready to get married. If he gives you some bogus reason then maybe you should look to move on. When you first met him and you talked about futures did he even mention marriage if not, or if he was opposed to it back then, then you are in a situation that you already knew you would be in. if not, then you really need to find out why he is not ready!
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Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship.  You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways.  Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future.  I think this may be what has happened here.  If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.
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I just recently got married myself, and I don't think it is anything you can plan out. Just remember to keep each other happy. There is a ggod book I just finished, its called Power of a Praying Wife, it has helped me out a lot.
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Take your time. There is no hurry to get married. If he isn't ready what good will that do you?  I can understand him wanting a job before he marries you. It makes him a good man not wanting to live off you. Slow down and enjoy your time with him right now, it will all work out okay........
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If you don't want to marry him then get out of the relationship before it goes to far.Don't take the abuse because things could get worse so do whats best for you. Take your future in consideration how do you want your life to be? Do you want it the way it is going right now you have to think about these things.
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Miz J, You hit it on a nail . I truly get peaved when they try to chnage our lives around slowly until they have us just the way they want us. Im having second thoughts after a 4 year engagement for this same type of reason!
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I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
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sweetie. you need to have a talk with him. don't continue to be unhappy. it's not healthy. ask him what are his plans as far as the marriage is concerned. hope things get better for you.