DELIMA! I don't know which to choose. I have a BF that I love and care about, but I think I’m MORE in love with my ex- still. But my ex- wasn't a good BF, he was hardly ever there, and my BF now is a dream come true. My BF now respects me more and is a lot more caring and all, but I don't think I’m IN love with him....... who do I choose? the one that’s good to me, but I’m not in love with,.... or the one I AM in love with, but isn't that good to me? please, any advice will be greatly appreciated.
208833
Let me get this straight.\n\nCurrent BF - Nice guy, cares for you, treats you right.\n\nEx BF - Bad guy, doesn't care for you, treats you badly.\n\nYou're attracted to the bad boy image. You need to realize that YOU deserve the best, and it sounds like your current BF is a good start.
212970
I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.
607011
At this point - I think you should be much more interested in figuring out which one them wouldn't love you as much if your physical appearance were to change.  It could very well be the one that you're so hot over.  And if it is, she isn't worth having!!!
412451
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 and a half years when I met my current boyfriend. I knew very quickly that I wanted to be with my current boyfriend, so I had to break my ex's heart to make myself happy. (I've been with my boyfriend now for more than a year) It hurt my ex like hell and I felt terrible doing it, but I knew that I wanted to be with someone else. So I had to do it for myself even though I hurt someone I cared about in the process. Just be careful and tactful in the way you say things. Make sure you don't sound like it's all his fault.
476742
You need to get over your ex first hun. I have been down that road recently and thats what you gotta do first before you move to another person. If you dont you will just compare your next bf to your ex and end up ending things with them because you still have that hope of having your ex back. It's not easy letting go but in order to make yourself happy get over your ex before you start a new relationship
154273
Well, you have to choose ONE. Consider everything before you do so. Who do you get along better with? Who do you know better? Which one of them could you see yourself with more? Try answeringthose questions, and hopefully it will lead to one guy.
113165
i think you should tell your bf the whole story..choose the friend..coz if you don't like your bf as much as you're supposed to then i'm not suRe he's happy at all either..\n\n^_^
629202
Break up w/ your b/f. It's not fair to him if you are having doubts to string him along. How would you feel if he had feelings for his ex?\nOr if you really love your b/f stop daydreaming about your ex and start daydreaming about your b/f.
623955
If you're happy with the new bf (and not just because he buys you things), then tell the ex, sorry bout your luck.  Tell him you actually shuold thank him, because if he hadn't left you you never would have met this guy.  And you are happy, and hope he can find someone to be as happy with.
674239
Hmm... Sounds familiar, and I really should (but probably wont) take my own advice. You care or possibly love your boyfriend. And this person is very important to him. They have probably been through a lot together and yadda yadda yadda. So I say you just got to go and deal with it. Trust me, I know it's not easy. But you might find something about one of them that you like. No one said you have to be there best friend.
98480
I can't tell you the answer. But I can say that you look at each, and make sure which one has the best qualities. When you choose, you have to live with the choice you make. I hope you fin d true love as I have, and don't let it go for nothing.....  Also please look at my question.... I need someone's help tooooo.....
582583
First, I respect your courage for writing here, but I would take the most serious advice from those who know you best... those closest to you. There aren't enough details in your story for anyone but those who know you to give you good advice, but a lot of people have similar feelings. When I was single I always pined for my ex's... the bad times didn't register and all I remembered was the good times. This doesn't mean that they didn't happen and that what drove me from my now ex's wasn't real. We did break up for a reason, and our incompatibility was something to be considered. No matter what you do, even if you did get back together, you can't relive a memory. This isn't to say you shouldn't talk to your ex or figure out what you're feeling, but I'd say take your time with it. If the feeling is really real, if the relationship is meant to be, then it's worth waiting for. A lot of times things seem good at the time, but if we waited, we lose interest or realize what a bad decision it was. Even so, you have a fractured relationship, and it's going to take a lot of care and thought to bring it together... either way, protect your own heart and take your time. Find someone you really trust and talk to them about it and let them speak into you... tell you a no bs assessment of what they can see from the outside. Even if you don't agree with them, it'll get you thinking. I wish you the best with your relationship, whether it's meant to be repaired or not. God bless you,\n\nBrian
201685
NO! If my bf would think about his ex I would have to break up with him. When your in a relationship you have to give you love and care and respect to that other person. Otherwise you might as well break up with her and get back with your ex. That is if you care about this new girl and you don't want to hurt her.
85936
How do you feel when you are away from this person?  What are the qualities you like about him?  Are they the inside ones or the physical ones?  When you have truly found love you will always want to be with that person.  They will be everything you ever dreamed, and of course they will still have flaws, but you will be able to overlook them.  If you are still thinking about the first guy what is it about him that keeps you thinking about him?  Does the new guy have those qualities?  Just some questions for you to ask yourself.  I hope that helps!
240281
think of the good times and the bad, who would u hurt if u left ur current boyfriend, how will ur decision affect u?\nproduct of elimination, who do u like more? its a hard decision but it has to b made
344944
You are an unusual person!!!\n\nIt's ok to still have some kind of feelings for the ex. But for 5 months you have been living a lie w/ you bf? Why do you do that to him?\n\nYou have been cheated by the boyfriend, and the friend.\nI would move on with someone who would make me forget that pig who cheated on me.It's not fair that you stay with the current bf if you think you still love the ex.\nMaybe he's not the one for you either.\nSorry, but true.Cuz in my own experience, I felt bad for a while for the ex. But the new one made me forget, pretty quick!!!!!
572419
Go with where your heart takes you.  Beauty is one thing but if you actually ENJOY the other person.....what would make you happier?  Sounds like someone who can help me forget about my problems and all is the one I would want to spend my time with.  I think I'd be happier.