My girlfriend is 4mos pregnant and she will not stop smoking and drinking. It is not fair for the baby Please is there anything I can do?
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Sounds like one stupid girl.\n\nUnfortunately there are no such laws that exists.\n\nIs she prepared to raise a severly retarded child?\n\nI'd dump her as a friend............she is a total fucking loser.
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Yes, support her and help her through this pregnancy.  If she decides to keep the child (which will be difficult, but possible) help her finish high school by getting her homework for her.  If she decides to give the child up for adoption (the best choice) help her through this time by being there for her.  If she decides to end this childs life, pray for her, but don't give up on her.  This is not a good choice, I have been through it and I still regret it to this day. I am forgiven, though......
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Similar story myself with smoking and not listening to parent, so I think you are doing the right thing not going crazy, as it didnt work for me. I think maybe she may be smoking as she thinks it is cool and out of subtle peer pressure to fit in with friends.  Perhaps you could try bribery.  It is best to deal with it now so that she does not get addicted.  What is her weak spot, is she very concerned about her appearance? Cos you could talk about her ageing faster is she smokes.  I dont know as kids dont see themselves as ever getting old and they think they are immortal.  I would explain that young people can get lung cancer too and they can also get cancer of the tongue and mouth which is becoming more common, and this would be awful, and not glamarous at all.  I do think bribery may be the best option, I do sympathise, every parent wants to protect their children, if only they could learn from our mistakes. good luck.                 Also the other comment gave me an idea you could get her to exhale smoke out through a tissue, it will come out yellow and will give her an idea of how black her lungs will turn if she keeps smoking\n\nCould I add  that I dont think you should be buying her cigarettes (if you are), that is sanctioning it and you cant appear to be that in favour of it.      Maybe she doesn't even like smoking and it is all show.  My guess is like most kids she may not be inhaling smoke properly anyway - (lots of kids do grow out of this phase)                                        \n\nIf you want to stop smoking yourself I found Paul Mckennas hypnotheraphy dvd combined with 4 mg nicotine gum made it suprisingly easy to give up (you still need a bit of will power, but the dvd helps you forget as long as you listen to it for 1st week or 2 once a day.  I failed 1st time as I did not listen to it enough but 2nd time it worked brilliantly and that is after 14 years smoking.
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unfortunately...this is something she must WANT to do for herself!!!  All you can do is make sure that you are a GOOD friend to her...by that , I mean don't "enable" her to continue her unhealthy habits...let her know how much you care about her and love her...and want her to be AROUND in your future as well as her own!!!  Give her encouragement...and hopefully she will see the seriousness (very soon!) of her condition...by being in the clinic environment...they will hopefully be able to find a way to get through to her with you love, help and support!!  Good luck to you!!!
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She has to get help on her own, you can't force her to, but you can sit her down while she is sober and tell her, if she doesn't stop drinking, you are going to end up ending your marriage, because you just can't live with a drunk, and if you have children, tell her, you will also take the children, tell her she needs help, and you can't be with her until she gets it.  If she still refuses to get the help she needs, then you have no choice but to FILE for a divorce.  I wish you all the luck in the world, being married to a drunk just isn't as easy as everyone thinks it is, you need to seek councelling too, you are what is called a co-dependant of an alcoholic, and believe it or not, you do need help too, stay strong and good luck, I will be praying for you  and your family.
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Talk to your parents and get your girlfriend to the doctor.  If she is pregnant the two of you should seriously consider adoption.  There are plenty of mature adults out there who would love the gift of a child.\n\nI'm sorry that you are young and having to deal with this, but OMG please think twice before you do something so stupid again.  If you are old enough to have sex then you should be old enough to deal with the consequences...and the frightening reality is if your girlfriend isn't pregnant a few weeks from now when the shock of this has worn off you'll be back in your car doing it again like rabbits.  Learn from this experience!
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Periods can not be forced. The only way is to take some medicines to abort early pregnancy. Do you or don't you trust her?
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girl i am a mom of four kids and i had the same problem about 2 years ago he would take off drinking since thursday and come home sunday night finally when i would ask him he would say because of our finacial problems.  So i went out and got a job and when i told him iwas gonna start going out and drinking he calmed down a lot he still drinks but it nothing like b4.  U need to scare him and he will change we have been together 8 years and now we are happier than ever SCARE HIM DON'T BE AFRAID I WAS AT FIRST BUT TRUST ME HE WILL CHANGE.  \n\n\nGOOD LUCK LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS K
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There are some activities you should avoid all together while pregnant and smoking cigarettes is one of them. No question about it, smoking when you’re pregnant is a very bad choice. Women who smoke during pregnancy are much more likely to experience the nightmare of having a stillborn baby, to suffer a miscarriage, or to deliver a low birth-weight baby. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (or SIDS, for short), condition in which an apparently healthy baby dies unexpectedly during sleep, occurs twice as often in children born to mothers who smoke during pregnancy. \n\nCigarette smoking can increase the risk of a wide variety of pregnancy complications including premature rupture of membranes, vaginal bleeding and premature placental detachment- just to name a few. Smoking interferes with your absorption of vitamins B and C and folic acid. Lack of folic acid can result in neural tube defects. \n\nThe thousands of chemicals in cigarette smoke (including secondhand smoke) such as carbon monoxide and nicotine, are toxins that move through your bloodstream and harm your developing baby. When you smoke, your baby is confined in a smoke-filled womb and this reduces the flow of oxygen to your baby. The nicotine can cause your baby’s heart rate to increase (as well as yours) and can decrease your baby’s supply of nutrients because of your increased blood pressure and blood vessel constriction. \n\nSmoking in the First Trimester\nFor some women, quitting will never be easier than in early pregnancy when they develop a sudden distaste for cigarettes. If you stop smoking now, you can decrease your chances of miscarrying and it may also lessen the likeliness of affecting your baby’s development. It is best to stop smoking before you become pregnant, but stopping now is a very smart choice and your odds of having a healthy baby are good. \n\nSmoking in the Second Trimester\nIf you stop smoking now, you can decrease your chances of developing such complications as placenta previa going into pre-term labor and even stillbirth. If you tried to stop smoking in your first trimester, but didn’t succeed- at least for the sake of your baby- cut down on how many cigarettes you smoke each day. Every cigarette you don’t smoke is going to help your baby. \n\nSmoking in the Third Trimester\nIt is not too late to quite smoking. If you stop now, you can still improve your chances of delivering a healthy, full-term, normal birth-weight baby. Decreased birth-weight is directly related to the number of cigarettes you smoke. There is a direct relationship between smoking and impaired fetal growth. By quitting now, you can also better your odds of not loosing your baby to SIDS. Sooner is better, but quitting even in the last month can help preserve oxygen flow to your baby during delivery. \n\nSmoking & Pregnancy \n\nYou've probably heard by now that smoking isn't the best thing for you. Now that you are pregnant or are considering becoming pregnant, it's even worse. \n\nThere are many things that we know about smoking during pregnancy. We know that the woman who smokes during her pregnancy has a baby who gets less food and oxygen than her non-smoking pregnant counterparts. We know that certain risk factors are increased for these women. \n\n\nSome of these risk factors include:\n\nYou are more likely to have a miscarriage. \n\nYour baby is more likely to die before birth. \n\nSmoking can cause placenta previa (Dangerous situation where the placenta covers the cervix.) \n\nIt can cause a placental abruption (Where the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus denying all oxygen to your baby.) \n\nIt increases your risk of a preterm birth. Babies born too early can suffer more breathing problems and have long hospital stays. \n\nIt increases the chances of your baby learning difficulties as a child. \n\nThere is a higher incidence of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS or crib death) in babies born to mothers who smoked or who are exposed t
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You can't. She has to want to stop herself. You can talk to her, support her, try to find help for her, love her, encourage her. But you cannot make her stop.
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Tell her you'll be patient and want to work things through with her. Show her how much you love her and the baby but be firm in awhile and say you need her to pay attention to you not worry about him.... If she can't get over him than you better move on cause all you'll be is second best.
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awww .. u can't make her stop sweetie.. im sorry.. Drug addiction is like a disease.. it changes your mums way of thinking.. My sister was a drug addict and she left her 4 children in our care. But after a few yrs she realised what the drugs were doing and she eventually gave them up  and got her kids back.. Let your mum,know that u love her no matter what,  and that u want to be with her all the time. Hopefully that will help her give them up so she can be with you. Your mum loves you very much Im sure but the drugs have a hold on her just now  :)
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Im guessing your a man so my way probably wouldnt be of help to you, i tried every way i could to quite but nothing worked till the day i fell pregnant, i threw away my smokes and never looked back...i guess the mother instinct kicked in and i knew i had to protect that baby from the problems that can come from smoking when pregnant, i know i should have quit before hand but it wasnt a planned pregnancy, but hey it worked and here i am a year and a half later, smoke free, and never going back.
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Hi\n\n   I know this may seem harsh but the best thing you need to do is think of yourself and the baby. Being in a stressful situation like that is in no way shape or form good for you or your baby. I hope I helped
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I've never been pregnant but I would figure you are pretty much bang on with what you said.  I mean, you hear all of these stories about post partum depression and they can't be all fake so, it would make sense that her hormones are still a mess.  She's been pregnant for 9 months and her body probably hasn't had a chance to flush those hormones out yet.  I'm sure if he gives her some time, she'll accept.
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You sound pregnant to me. Go get a home pregnancy test ASAP and then quit smoking as soon as you can (not only is it good for the baby, but it will probably make you feel better). Cut back on caffeine and spicy foods and keep tums handy if you are already getting hearburn. Weight gain so soon is not good though, you don't really want to gain weight for the first few months.
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=just do it.  Have your parents come and pick you and the baby up.  This present situation is unhealthy for both you and your baby.  Stay with your parents who love you, get your act together and then find a place of your own.  I know it is hard but it is your only way out.  Best wishes.