What is you definition of a person or persons who calls themselves your friend (or a lover for that matter) but they feel they have a need to spy on you with buddy spy or another kind of spyware like; keyloggers using remote locations, snapshots, etc.???\n\nWouldn't you say that, that person has apparent trust issues and is displaying low self esteem and an obsessive and addictive personality along with maybe even stalker qualities?\n\nI have one friend that told me he has buddy spy. He is very interested in me but I have no interest in him at all and it freaks me out that he is spying on me. Eeeewwww!\n\nMy recent ex boyfriend used to spy on his ex-wife from a remote location. He told me this but of course she gave him a reason. I have always felt that he was doing the same with me. But I never cheated...he did!! And was caught!
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Red Light, Red Light, Red Light!!!!! Look at those warnings seroiusly, your friend is a control freak and a powertripper, let him/her know it's not on otherwise it will only get worse and your relationship wont be able to be repaired.
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I have a word for it, too: galking. :-)\n\nIf someone were answering all of my questions and being abusive about it, I'd call it stalking with malicious intent. If someone were answering all of my questions and just having fun (although my questions are not fun, I'm afraid) then I would say, "Enjoy!"
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YOU HAVE COMPANION YOU DONT AWARE AN ENEMY OR NEGATIVE THINKER AND DONT BELIEVE YOU TRULLY.WATCH OUT BABE!HE/SHE MIGHT DESTROY YOU!IN DIFFERENT ANGLE OR ASPECTS!MAYBE?!
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Chumps\nThey're chumps\nand they're jealous...\nJealous chumps who don't understand that friendship is the strongest foundation upon which to build a real relationship...\nMired in their own crappy, loveless situations, they firmly believe that love and friendship are mutually exclusive.  You, of course, know better.  The friendship you and her have developed over the years is the glue that binds- it's the very reason you're together.  You guys look out for each other, and as long as you remain friends as well you will avoid the standard bullsh*t like taking advantage of one another, etc.\ncongratulations, sir
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What your friend is doing is black mailing you, just to try to hook up with you. But if you let your guard down and go out with your friend it won't be based on true love, it will be based on dishonesty and you won't be very happy. I say forget about your friend because if he is willing to try to blackmail you into being his lover then he is not a true friend.
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Yep.  What is it with people that say "well, did you talk to him" or " no" or whatever.  i mean please, can't people see the big picture?  the guy was supportive cause he felt bad and guilty, not because he was genuinely concerned.  Someone who genuinely cares and is concerned makes sure that you lock your doors every night, that  you're okay every day.  I repeat, EVERY DAY.  Not selectively on weekends!
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You will come across these kinds of people for the rest of your life.  I live my life very guarded and am very particular about who my friends are.  I use the rule that I keep people at a distance, enjoy their company but don't confide in them about anything personal.  After a while you tend to weed out the ones that you know won't be there for you if you need them or will stab you in the back the minute you walk away.  Don't let this slight your judgment in the future on seeking out companionship....just be a little more cautious!
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I know that it exists, but you'd better hope he doesn't find out.  Blatently eavesdropping on someone else's activities is illegal, and if you confront him with it and things go bad, he could very well sue you.  \n\nMy advice would be to find another way of finding this out or find another boyfriend if you don't trust him.
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You aren't a human watcher. Humans are going to do what ever they want regardless who is watching or not. LDR'S work... If you trust a person. If you don't then they don't work.
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Espionage!?!? Naw, that might get you in trouble. You could just mention something about "her bf" in a conversation with her or her friends. If she doesn't have one she/they will probably say so. You know, just something related to what y'all are talking about at the time. Or you could just ask her out!!! Good Luck!
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I know exactly what your saying! A person in my immediate family does this constantly, and it gets to the point where you don't know what to believe and what not to. And in my experience, if they are habitual/pathological liars, calling them on it has little effect. Sometimes I wonder about the things they lie about ( in particular a card game that never occurred). If I were you, I would reevaluate my friendship/relationship with that person and consider if it's worth the time and effort...Hope it works out for you ..
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I would never speak to that person again because they had betrayed me. Never tell your secrets to anyone as most people cannot help themselves they will always tell another they cannot resist. There is always someone with malicious intent on the sidelines.
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I think it may mean different things to different people, but to me it means, someone who isn't in touch with their own feelings, who isn't aware of how their behaviour makes others feel, or if they are aware they either don't care or are too impoverished as human beings to care about the feelings of others and the pain they cause.  I would even describe some of them as sociopaths, i.e. people who have no regard for the feelings of others and no capacity to feel for or think about anyone but themselves.  I would say they often have a distinct lack of substance to their inner being and are emotionally bankrupt!!  As for the behaviour of a player, they are out to get you emotionally hooked and they feed off this emotion like a parasite or vampire (as generally, they are dead inside themselves), then when they have you hooked, job done, emotion sucked out, ego appropriately boosted and move on to the next victim for another fix.  How they may get you emotionally hooked is by doing and saying whatever  'loving',  'caring', and 'charming' things that need to be said and done, without being able to emotionally connect with the meaning any of it.  So it is completely false, but they may not realise this so that makes them very hard to spot!!  I think this is the worst thing about a player, they are often not aware that this is what they are doing which makes any kind of honest or genuine relationship with them impossible, well, at least until they have grown up, if they ever do ... very, very interesting question, thank you for asking it!!
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If you having feelings that your fiance is spying on you.  This means that if he is does not trust you.  If he is unable to trust you before you are married to this guy, what are you going to do when you are married.   (Does not sound very good).\n\nhttp://www.ewido.net This company was out of Germany and has since been purchased by AVG. Now the name is AVG antispyware. Still the same program with excellent technolgoy. When you download the program it will come with all functions an if you don't purchase in thirty days they will just remove the background scanner and the auto updates. You will update on a manual basis. Scans all 195,000 objects in my system.\n\nhttp://www.emsisoft.com This company is out of Austria. Almost the same as the new AVG. A2Squared free version download. They will ask you for you email address so they can send you a key that is good for life. You will get any new free version with the same key. Plus has rootkit protection and rogue dialer protection. (I have ADSL, but use for the added protection).\n\n(Both of the above program will find keyloggers.. A2Squared is the best for finding keyloggers installed in your pc.\n \nFor "zero day attacks", Attacks that hit before any security company has knowledge of the attack. I use a free software that is is excellent state of the art technology to identify any program that the behaivor is strange, like trying to download hidden files, etc. etc. Will get a pop up with indepth details, so you can decide for yourself if you want to allow or deny. Plus will block all malware and tell you if there are any hidden programs running in your system. http://www.cyberhawk.com\n\nClinical Psychiatrist, France
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Your friend(I use that word loosely) sounds as if she is looking for something to lift. Friends don't go looking through their friends personal stuff. Don't let her come over your house anymore, until you find out what's up with the snooping
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I had a friend a long time ago who got jealous of me and said some really mean things behind my back...... and also to me, ON THE COMPUTER. She said things that only described herself.... a s l u t , etc. She was the one who flirted with guys and slept with everyone. I just thought it was amusing when she told me that. In person, she acted like she never said any of those things and acted like we were friends. I'd ignore her.\n\nJust because you know someone for several years doesn't mean they're your friend. I learned that the hard way. Oh well.\n\nShe was easily replaceable LOL.
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There's a lot of reasons why they might have stolen from you.  If you really believe this is a good person at heart, the reason may be that s/he has low self-esteem or other issues that might cause her/him to be jealous of you.  If you think the person was simply motivated by greed, then s/he certainly isn't a "friend".  \n\nIf you really are concerned, the best way is probably to adderess it directly, based on FACTS about what was taken.  And be careful to express it as genuine concern for whether that person is having other problems that may have led to the theft, not as an accusation, because once the other person's defenses go up, it will be difficult to get through.  Good luck!