I like two guys, but I ca'nt seem to decide who I really love. Help! What should I do?
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If you can't decide . . . do not get into a relationship with either of them.\n\nDate them both . . . find out who you are more compatible with.  Which one brings out the best in you and you bring out the best in them.\n\nWhen you figure it out . . . then you will know.
447319
To be honest with you.  It is not about the choice of the two ladies.  It is you.  What you see in both these women is your ideal partner.  You may not be able to make a choice because whichever one you choose will disappoint you a bit. But having a crush on someone for 6yrs is something to cherish.  Do you feel guilty liking the new lady because you are so familiar with your 6yr crush? To make a choice I would be thankful to know what I want in a partner through meeting these 2 ladies and move on and find her.  If I was to be with one of them I will have feelings for the other as you said, they are pretty close friends.  So they both would always be in my life.  And the same 'what if' would be running in my head.\nLove is something you can't explain in words.  It is a overwhelming feeling that will never die.  It is knowing that you would do anything for that person and that you can picture yourself with them till death.  Love is like sharing with someone happiness, pain, experiences.  Love has no judgment.  You can love many people at the same time but you only fall in love one at a time.
150007
i think that you have to think about the long run... \nfor the first guy:\nyou seem to be really into him, and you can see yall getting married.. thats no joke, it actually has potential\nfor the second guy:\nHe is married, and if you decide to get serious with him, what makes you think that he wont do the same to you as he did to his wife?\nFor the third guy:\njust because you are attracted to him doesn't mean he worth hurting the first guy whom you seem to be in to the most.\n\nI think mainly you have to think about which ones are LUST and which one is LOVE!
13230
If it was ME I would go with the new guy.  I mean look at how you phrased it "your ex or a boy you like".  You have your whole life for long-term relationships.  If one didn't work out move on and have some fun.  Think about what you want.
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was in that situation before.\n(assuming that this is on the same day?)\n\n\nI chose the one I like.\nwhy? because this is a change of a lifetime!\n\nfor the one I asked out?\nwell, he as to wait.\n\nbut if this is for a long period of time.....\n\ngo with the one you like most.\nwell of course you have to try to go out with both of them.\nbut even if you want to date both of them tell them, because if someone actually has real feellings for you he should be prepared to feel hurt.\n\nmy advice: enjoy it girl. but dont hurt other peoples feeling. that brings you nothing but problems(whether guilt or rumors). trust me, I saw some really ugly things in this Area.\n\nASiH
454974
The best thing to do is to listen to your heart.If your heart wants this new guy whom you've been thinking about more than your boy friend,then please dont stop.go ahead with your heart.I suggest you to date this new guy.Good Luck!
154273
Well, you have to choose ONE. Consider everything before you do so. Who do you get along better with? Who do you know better? Which one of them could you see yourself with more? Try answeringthose questions, and hopefully it will lead to one guy.
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A person can be deeply in love with more than one other person.  If this were not so, first children would have it all and later-born siblings would be up that famous but stinky creek without a boat or paddle.\n\nI phrased it that way to try and help relieve some of your anxiety.  Yes, one can be deeply in love with two guys.  It will be a real challenge, but you will probably have to choose one over the other.  The worst thing you could do would be to allow either of them to think that he is your number one.  They should know of the importance of the other in your life and that you're still trying to choose.  They should each also know that your choice may not, in the end, be either of them!  You may find another with whom you are much more "in tune", and decide that he's the one you want to spend all your time with.  \n\nWhat to do?  Be honest with both gentlemen, and take your time.  Don't rush into a one-to-one relationship before you're really prepared for that.  Marry in haste, repent at liesure is still, after a thousand years, a very meaningful phrase.  Wait until one of 'em proves he's worthy of a special woman like you!
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If the answer is not already clear then you are not meant to be with either of them. This is, of course, assuming that it is not just a game for you. If you are looking for eternal love, you haven't found it in either one of these girls. Once again, in such a case the choice would be more than obvious. If it is being played as a game, wait until it cannot be; It will be the first time that you truely feel alive.
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Get over it and move on.  If your contemplating what your life would have been if you had gotten serious, how much do you love the one your with now?\n\nMove on and focus on the relationship you're in now.  Keeping that friendship alive with that friend will only complicate matters in any relationship you choose to open up.\n\nLeave the other guy alone hes probably still getting over how far he fell in love with you.  He may or may not come around again but leave that up to him.\n\nIf you knew it was a good thing and he would do anything for you, was it vanity, attractiveness or simply incompatability that prohibited you from seeing exactly what he was all about?
241947
It's a choice of going with your heart or your head.  I don't know you enough to say with all certainty, but my gut says neither of these guys are "the one".  If you stay with guy 1 for $$ and security, eventually you will feel lonely, resentful and probably cheat again.  If you go with "guy 2", he is gonna let you down over and over until the great sex isn't going to matter one bit.\nUnless you can rekindle some kind of passion for "guy 1", my advise would be start fresh and depend on yourself :)
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I would stick to the guy that is straight.\n\nHERE'S WHY (MY OPINION ONLY): While the guy who bi may only make out with other boys now, what happens when he crosses the line? What if he likes them more? What if you get yourself caught in some wicked love triangle? What if you really end up liking him more & he doesn't? That's alot of 'what if's' girl and if you are woman enough to go through it.... you know but it sounds like a little much. Go for the one that is straight and see which the other one ends up swinging. I perfer, from dating experience, to stay away from all the 'what if's' & maybe that will change. I like for my relationships to be fun & enjoyable and it sounds like that COULD be trouble. Life is confusing & challege enough with us adding all the extra trouble that we could of avoided. Sad thing is we know it. We just all want our own way and life doesn't work that why. Some times you just gotta step back and say, "Now, really?!" How do you feel deep down, find the bottom line & don't let yourselfish ways override what is the striaght up fact. A lot more STDs are linked in gay relationships, but you take that chance anyway. Search heart & be true to you. It's your life. Save the drama! Good luck girly!
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I think you should sit down and think about it for sometime. Is it love or just friendship you feel for the guy you miss conversating with? I mean you dont have to possess any partnership love towards him to be friends and to conversate with someone.Maybe you just miss his company.\nAlso, i dont think you can love both men equally because no matter how yoou put it, you must possess more love for either one. I think you should go for the one who is supporting you and taking care of you because to me it seems like the other guy doesnt care. He just wants to be friends.\n\nLook just sit down and think about it. It will determine your future. Can you see a  future with the one not supporting you or the one supporting and caring for you? Your answer is what matters..you will then realize what to do. \nGOOD LUCK\nand remmember that "DONT MARRY THE ONE YOU LOVE" not the \n"MAN WHO LOVES YOU" but the MAN WHO WOULD DIE FOR YOU
604393
get him out of your head.then just wait for the real love which is a shared feeling of love not by one partner of the two.you might meet a better person who cares 4 you. Also, you CAN'T force this guy to love you even if you tell him about your feelings.cause your feelings are your responsibility& he's not accountable 4 them.Telling him would just make the things worse.so don't tell him.Just wait my baby I'm sure you will meet so many better guys & then you'll ask yourself "what was the thing that attracted me to him".there's so much good is waiting 4 u.
451489
Deep inside you know who you would choose if you had no other choice.  So who is best for you?  Once you make your mind up stick to it. You can remain friends with the other guys without ever becomeing more, thats what truely makes a friendship (over years be there for one another), and not sexually.  Good luck sis.
666550
get over the other guy and go out with the next and the next.....have fun......the other guy missed out or maybe you did not put out....or maybe you did to quick......either way forget him....talk to the other guy to see what he is about....you might just like it
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You need to be honest to the guy you are with and let him go don't lie to him, if you say you love the other guy then go with him, it is obvious you know what you want, don't waste you time and his time by staying with him knowing you do not love him, I hope you make a decision soon. Good Luck