we haven't talked since our break up, it's been more than a year now, what should i do
201794
Well u went a yr,,, some people can't even go that long without wondering if they should call the ex, \n\nBut if u want to call just 2 say hi it's cool, if ur calling because ur hoping may be u can get back together with him  be prepared, it's been more then a yr he could have a girlfriend by now. And if u find that out it could hurt all 3 of u, hurt u because u were hoping u could get back with him, u her because his ex is calling after more then a yr and she'll know why your calling, hurt him because  he will having some explaining to do.\n\nSo think about it first.
141767
take your time to heal. Don't call him. If you feel the urge to call him take it 1 day at a time( like an addiction). Occupy your time with something else. If you are sitting around and not doing anything you will start to think about him. It is good that you ended it now, because if you would have waited it would hurt more than now. Tell yourself that it is over and you two will never be together again. Look at breaking up like this; you are now one step closer to finding the one you are meant to be with.
531203
No, if you were seeing each other for over a year, then you should be able to talk to each other about almost anything.  If he acts weird now, then yes, you may want to either step back or explain to him why you told him that.\n\nGood Luck!
291463
I'm sorry about your breakup, I know things like this can be hard and no matter what people say, we always want things to come out the way we hope it does. \n\nBut it seems like, almost a year is going by, and no progress.  Do you realize that if you keep trying to get back with someone who doesn't want you, you may miss the one intended for you?  It seems like it's really over between the two of you, and maybe it's time to move on and spend some time recovering from your breakup.  Then get back into the dating field and see what happens.  \n\nI hope you find who you are looking for, because it isn't this other girl.  \n\nGood Luck!\n:)
558391
Why did you break up in the first place?  Talk to him and tell him how you feel.  He may just be feeling the same way about you.  Don't stay quiet.
535022
It depends, do you love the ex? If you are unsure then take things slow. Maybe you and the ex could date, hang out etc and get to know each other again. Explore all the reasons you left to begin with, have any of those reasons (issues) been resolved? If not, nothing has changed and you will leave again when the "new, fun" is over.\nMake sure you don't go back just for comfort.
505507
You need to decide what is best for you.  What are the reasons you two broke it off?  Are they mendable?  Will things change when you two get back together?  I've never gone back to an ex.  I've thought about it a few times but for me, if what we went through was enough to break us up in the first place, who's to say it won't just happen again?  Take a break from each other.  If a month goes by and you two still feel like you belong together, give it another shot!  \n\nJust don't stay with someone because you are afraid to get back out there and love again.  There will always be someone else.  You have a big enough heart to love again.  Good Luck with your decisions.  Only you can make the right decision for youself!
164633
find out why you two broke up and then go out and fix that problem. chances are that'll fix it and you'll have a better chance.
101651
Be sure that you want to be with HIM, not with SOMEONE. Nothing has changed about whatever the situation was that broke you up.\n\nAside from that, just think of any excuse to call then see him. It will go from there.
310415
I would ask for a stronger defination of your relationship.\n\nFlip the tables back on her. How would she feel if you were still in contact with your ex?\n\nHer answer dictates your next step.
151724
Of course you miss him and your thinking about stuff you did together.  It perfectly natural.  Without knowing the nature of the break up and how long ago it was, this is difficult to answer.  If you broke up because of a "clingy" issue - take a step back and give him some space to breath.  \nIf it is for some other reason - e-mail him and just say "I just wanted to tell you I miss you."  Relationship are work - they will take effort on both sides.  If you think you can date someone without ever disagreeing on something your fooling yourself and will be breaking up with a lot of people throughout your life.  You can never go wrong with telling someone how you really feel - especially when you are telling someone something nice like you love them and care for them.\nJust as a disclaimer: If this guy put an aggressive finger on you in any way, STAY AWAY!!!  You deserve better.
68174
you guys have been together for four years.  im sure that you can talk to him. you need to find out what's happening with him.
570155
You obviously really like this girl, and if you want her back you should tell her. The worst she can say is 'no' but if you never ask her you will never know. I really think you should try talking to her. Be completly honest, first of all ask if you can talk to her for a bit and then explain to her your reasons for why you broke up with her and how you have changed your mind and you would like to go out with her again, say things like she has a really good sense of humor and a great personality. Complement her but don't over do it because she will know you are being false. Hopefully she will listen to what you have to say and reconsider going out with you again. If not, don't worry, try and stay friends with her, tell her you want to be friends. Most importantly, tell her how you feel, if you don't, you will never know her response. Good Luck and have a good day xx
159324
The question is does she love you back?  How long were you dating before you broke up?  Me?  I had a relationship for 7 years and I still love him but we grew apart.  I realize now that I love the idea of being with the person I once knew.  If you have not spoken to her in 2 years, she is probably not the person you fell in love with anymore.  I would err on the side of moving on!  Nothing will ever be the same as the relationship that you had with this person.  I guarantee it.  But don't let that close your heart to new and better relationships.  Use what you had with her as a learning experience.  Don't compare her to the other women you date.  That is a fatal mistake.  I know its hard ,but you have to move on with your life in your mind, your spirit and your body.  Please don't hold your relationship with her on a pedestal.  Clear your heart and keep moving!\n*Muah*
97947
If he continued to call you after the break up, then it sounds like he wasn't ready to give up either. Or, maybe he enjoyed being in a friendship w/ you, and when you told him your feelings, it freaked him out. Either way, I'd try to get in contact w/ him to see what's going on. It seems odd to me that he would leave you hanging like that, so maybe something happened to him...try calling. If you get in touch w/ him, and he simply doesn't want to talk to anymore, then yes, it gets better. True love never fades, but it does alter and changes over time. Just give it some time. Good luck to you!
513619
Tell him that a break up is not what you wanted and you realise how much you really love him and it has taken this break up for you to really see how much you want the relationship to work ...... Good luck
210493
It depends on who broke up with who but you could contact him, but just don't sound too desperate. Just act friendly, ask how he's doing and maybe you two can hang out at some point. Then let him make the next move.