Girlfriend told me she tried retracting the order and was told they cannot and out of her hands now.  Said we must both appear in front of the judge.  She just told me she did it in fear I was going to evict her (from my condo) and take our child which is completely false.  She came clean with me and told me everything but feels horrible now that we're going to have to appear.
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A restraining order can be dissolved only by the court that issued it.  As it is, these things generally expire after 10 days or so, depending on your state's laws.  The hearing which is set at the time a restraining order is first issued is usually one for temporary injunction.  It doesn't sound like your girlfriend is interested in pursuing it any further, but I don't know what your local judge's attitude is likley to be regarding movants who don't show up for court.  The truth is that if the two of you simply appear for court as required and she says you two have patched things up and she doesn't want to pursue the action any further, the court will most likely just drop it.\n\nI'm not sure what "record" you are talking about in your question.  A restraining order is not a criminal order but a civil one.  There's no "record" for it to appear on.
309806
Yes, of course your right...Umm since when does a snooty nosed 15 year old girl get off giving adults orders, especially to you whom she has absolutly no connection with. And because she is only a minor, there is no court on this planet that would even consider giving her any custody rights whatsoever as she has no connection with you or your child. Hell, your ex is also in the sh#t for mandatory rape, if he's going out with this girl and doing the business with her. If I were you, I would move away from all of them to give you at least a mental rest, they all sound like hicks and do you really want your child growing up around people like that. If she continues to do this, I think you need to ring the police yourself and tell them about the situation between this girl and your ex, or ring up a mental health team to come out and get her, she sounds pretty bonkers.
123992
You definitely need to contact somebody... Try starting with your local DVACK shelter... DVACK is for domestic violence... Tell them that you are scared for yourself and your child and get a protection from abuse order, he won't beable to come near you or the baby, and you can get your court proceedings started from there. you definitely need to talk to your local SRS office and tell them you want to start the custody to make sure you have residential custody, because if you don't, he has every right to that child just like you do.  He will beable to take her and there is nothing you can do to get that child back until you go through court and ask for visitation. That can take months to do, if he gets the child before you start the proceedings,and no child should go months let alone days without seeing their mother. If you hurry and do that, if he does take the baby, they could then issue an Amber Alert and put his butt in jail! Good luck, but act FAST, seriously!!!!!!!
508197
He is threatening her and that is illegal. If she did that and served her probation time, she has no problems. The courts are usually in favor of having the mother give most time to rearing the children unless she is totally unfit and it can be proved. Tell her not to be afraid of him and to stand up and say go ahead and tell them. They are the courts and they have access to her record and probably already know about it. Been there, done that, and the judge just told my ex he was wasting his breath and forget it.
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I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
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Sounds like she was the one that need the restraining order and the judge had no right to order her to move! Sounds like this guy is the one that did all this to your friend and needs chanrges brought agianst him! He was after her one way or another! And sounds like the judge was payed to give him the restraining order agianst her! Somethign is deffently not right!
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First, I'm going to say... call an attorney in your area that practices primarily in family law.\n\nYou may have a right under your state's law to request an expedited hearing on the matter (again... ask an attorney).  The order was obviously signed ex-parte (without a hearing).  Usually, an order like that is signed only if the person requesting it alleges more than one occasion of abuse or neglect, and a reasonable fear that it will continue.  \nA judge will sign an order like that because of the potential danger involved in waiting.  If he or she thinks (even for an instant) that there is the slightest chance the allegations are true, then they will sign the order.\n\nAgain, call an experienced family law attorney in your area.
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Your best bet is to go down to your sheriffs office or police department and have a restraining order placed against her.  This will not keep her from you, but if she does make another appearance, you can have her arrested.  Again this will not physically keep her from you, but it will provide you with some legal documentation.  The restraining order will also end her little "cry wolf" problem of filing false police reports. That is another thing!  She should be facing some kinda charges for filing false police reports.  Of course where I'm from, we do things a little different.  We don't play in Ga, you mess with us enough and they'll find you dead on one of these back roads.  There is one thing in life you don't mess with and that is someones family.  You go to messing with family and you liable to end up dead.
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get someone you trust to watch the child on the day you are to be out and don't leave until you are arrested. sounds nuts i know, but if you believe you are in the right then the courts need to see it. don't be bullied because you are a single mom. defend yourself and your 'rights' as you would defend your child and his/her 'rights'. have some of your friends watch the house and once you are arrested your friends trash the place. it will end up costing the l.l. more than the 2 or3 months rent he lost.\n\nmy ex's x-wife did this (not leaving) and ended staying free for 6 months (and a couple of court datees), but in that time she was able to save enough for down payment on a house.
608279
Start out by reporting her for disturbing the peace. Do it every time she starts screaming at you. If they won't come out and do anything about it, this is what you do. Go to the Police Dept during regular business hours and file a complaint regarding lack of response on your problem. Tell them that you feel threatened by this woman. Keep a journal of every time you call and everything she does. Write down dates and times for everything. After you have several calls down and several incidents recorded, go to your city or county courthouse and ask the clerk of court about filing for a protection order. A protection order says that she can no longer attempt to communicate with you in any way. She can still yell at your husband or guests, but not you. Once you are at that level, go to your apartment managers again with copies of all this information. Still can't get rid of her? Take your info to an attorney for civil matters. You may have a nice case for a lawsuit. You may also want to have your husband file for a protection order as well. Hopefully you get a good repsonse from the police and she starts getting tickets for disturbing the peace. Do you know her name? You can check with the county courthouse and get her criminal record if she has one. Check with them and see what they will charge you for the information. In my area it's ten dollars for anybody's info. Build up and save your evidence and you should see her going bye bye, before long. If I can be of any further assistance, let me know.
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She's already shown that she cannot be trusted if she gave you a bad ck.  If you call her at all, It should be to let her know that you will not accept another personal ck for return of deposit. Request that she give you a certified ck or money order.\n\nAfter the 45 day, just take her to court, let them deal with her as she has already shown a lack of respect to you by neglecting her obligations as your landlord.
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I just dealt with a case like this where an individual was told not to call on go near another person, they filled an order of protection and he ws not present.  He didn't even know it existed.  It was his own mother and step dad.  They lured him to the apartment complex by telling his aunt that his property was on the stoop.  He picked it up.  The next day he was just walking down the street and was picked up by police based on a description and arrested for violation a restraining order, fined and arrested.  I got him released ROR argueing the same points as some of your answers listed above but the short of it is he is going to county lock up if he doesn't beat the charge.  lawyers fees are expensive.  he can now only afford a public defender and they are way over worked, under paid and not to bright, I would expect probation or 30 days incarceration at county lock up and if you are not careful you will receive the same.  After the hearing the constable or someone will make one attempt to serve you and that is it.  You need to obey the order or face arrest.  Unless you have unlimited money for attorneys fee you shouldn't fight it.  Or you might be using the public pretenders office.  Work this out through a third party and be apologetic and humble.  Get this order dropped or you will run into this person and do some time.  This case was in Upstate NY but the laws are very common throughout the US and some places might add stalking.  Big jail time!  watch your step, the law is on the filers side, file a counter order asap.
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Why would you want to do that? You are just asking for more trouble by getting back together with this guy. The restraining order is in place for you to enforce, you can do whatever you want to do, I do not believe they drop court orders, they are amended.
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Quite a lousy situation.  However, my take on it is this.  Sounds like your boyfriend holds some of the cards here.  Unless his ex had a signed contract with him regarding the money she had loaned him, she would be hard pressed to get it back unless she is willing to go through some major legal wrangling.  And yes, he was being used as a "storage unit" so he should definitely be entitled to the market rate of what that would have cost the ex had she done it properly.  I know what I would do.  Don't pay her a cent and dare her to try to take it to court.  In fact, you probably would have a better chance to prevail in a lawsuit you would bring against her considering the lack of 30 day notice as added ammo as well.  You may want to consider small claims court, since you could most likely do this on your own w/o lawyering up.
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***breaking the law w/ someone else's permission does NOT make it right.  you should've known it was a set up if indeed it did happen the way u say.  it's your word against hers and it doesn't sound like she's exactly on your side right now.
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Couple of really good answers here.  So nice to see an intelligent question with intelligent answers.  \n\nOnly one thing to add: restraining order.\n\nPerhaps you don't want to involve the police - after all, that does tend to elevate the situation some and depending on how long you and your neighbors have to live with one another, that might not be a good thing.  Here's what I would recommend:\n\nTalk to your neighbors again.  Explain to them that you really don't want to involve the police and that you'd like to be able to live in peace next to them.  Explain that if they can't keep the stereo at a reasonable level (and you ARE being reasonable about this, aren't you?), you'll seek a restraining order against them for disturbing you with the noise.\n\nIf they refuse to cooperate, get yourself tape recorder and put it on your porch or wherever you might stand that's close to your house.  Don't go stand at the edge of your property that borders them, put the recorder right up close to your house, by a window or something.  Yes, you can legally record this.\n\nAssuming the noise continues, keep a diary for a week or so with the dates/times of the noise and associate each diary entry with a recording (separate tapes, or whatever).  Now it's off to your local county courthouse.  Pick up the paperwork for a temporary restraining order for civil harrassment.  Fill it out, turn it in, go to the hearing when it's scheduled.  Bring the recordings and be prepared to play them for the judge.  \n\nAssuming the order is issued, have the neighbors served (you can't do it).  Then, if the noise continues, go back to the recording system and after another week or so, get yourself back down to the courthouse and tell the clerk you want to be put on calendar because the neighbors have been violating the order.  Show up, tell the judge what is going on, and let him decide how to handle it.  Judges do not like people who disobey their orders.\n\nThis is not a quick fix.  It may take you a month to get any satisfaction.  It will leave the police out of it, though, and that really might be best.  If you want a quick fix, do this:\n\nGo back to the neighbors.  Tell them you've had it, and the next time you hear their stereo you're going to call the cops (safest is to make sure everyone who lives there knows your position and intent).  The next time the stereo is too loud, record it and call the cops.  When the cops show up, tell them you want to make a private person's arrest of the person responsible for the noise...assuming it's the same person you told to knock it off.  They will probably end up with a ticket at that point, and the officer will refer the whole matter to the DA's office.  If the DA does not choose to prosecute (and that decision can take months), you're dead in the water.  The quick fix part of this is only that they've probably been cited.  The rest of this may take months.  This is why I recommend the restraining order process.  \n\nMost importantly: I've handled more of these calls than I can count.  Sometimes, the "victim" just isn't being reasonable over the level of noise.  If you have neighbors, you have to expect some amount of noise.  The law says people can't, "maliciously and willfully disturbs another person by loud and unreasonable noise," so the noise you're complaining about has to be loud *and* unreasonable.\n\n"Unreasonableness" is always open to interpretation.  \n\nGood luck.
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You need to go to the court house family division and file for a court date.  Then contact a lawyer and they will file for temporary custody of the kids  till the judge decides what is best for them. The lawyer should be covered by legal aid especially if there is no income.  Tell her to get a job even if it's through a temporary agency for the time being, it will help keep her mind off of it, and will also show the judge that she is able to support the kids. Tell her to put the utilities in her name to establish a credit rating.  The cops will not go after him for the kids until she has it in place that temporary custody is hers. They don't consider it kidnapping since he is the father. Tell her to call children's services in her area and let them know of his problems and what has occurred they can help in getting the children back.  Been in the same situation so if you need more help just contact me.