A fellow trumped my domestic violence lawsuit with a domestic violence restraining order against me\n\nIt was default granted Order to Shorten NO NOTICE ex parte\n\nHe's been trashing my life with it ever since\n\nI was arraigned for being too close taking photos\n\nIt's 100 yd\n\nHe lives 10" below me\n\nIt was heard by a judge\n\nI was acquitted, but it appears on my record as Contempt of Court\n\nAn atty told me it can never be expunged\n\nIs this true\n\nYes I'm suing in civil court...as if there is such a thing as putting a dollar value on it, where it is defamation (I guess perjury isn't a crime any more), intentional infliction, injury due to domestic violence and a few others and something else and something else \n\nThis isn't about drivenness, tenacity, stubbornness...so no lectures please :/\n\nPardon my ignorance but I thought I saw questions about expunging convictions...even felonies\n\nAm I burdened with this the rest of my life, a public rap sheet my family can see?
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No, it will show up as an arrest and maybe show the outcome. But an arrest is forever.
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Take the pictures with you. Explain to the judge what happened. Don't argue or give any indication that you do other than worship the judge. Many have developed gigantic heads over the years and will give you a contempt of court citation on just a whim.\n\nA lot depends on where you are, and what type of person the judge hates.\n\nNever argue.
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well if she just got the order it probaly an emergency order. he should recieve his day in court in about a week.however these usually are civil matter which means she may have got the judge to grant her this on emotional abuse sounds like he doesn't need her anyway .However make sure he does not contact her in any way she can prove. in ohio the first time you violate it you can recieve 180 days second time it turns into a felony. so what state do you live in ?e-mail me if you like I actually have a cpo against someone and know a little bit about this stuff. What she has done is really cruel and ultimately makes it harder for people who really needs protection.
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If you don't file an answer and otherwise defend yourself, they win and you get a civil judgement against you.  That could include a court order to shut you down.  If you have no assets they could sieze, they could still garnish your future wages.  It also doesn't look really good on your record if you later try to do business with someone and they look it up.
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Wow, sounds horrifying for you.  Sorry.  First, start gathering evidence, everything you have and can get, to substanciate your accusations.  Also, I believe the Public Defender is protected against hold harmless laws, so maybe you can file a complaint through the District Attorney's office? Start researching this through the state website where you live.  There is much information on each State's site.  Begin researching now before your statute of limitations runs out.\nGood luck to you on this difficult battle my friend.
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Wow. My intial reaction to the main question was "{chuckle} If there is, let me know where to find one...."\n\nBut seriously, from what you're saying, this is not just a matter of a support group. You're talking about potentially criminal and/or tortious behavior and threats by them. You may want to think about speaking with an attorney to find out if you should take legal action.
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If you have been notified by subpoena or summons you have to appear in court. If you do not appear then you are in contempt and a bench warrant may be issued for your arrest - this is not a good thing.\n\nA defendent has the right to face his accuser in a timely manner and in good faith. The prosecutor will likely make the case on your behalf, but counsel for the defendent has the right to cross-examine you on evidence that you provide.\n\nUnless the prosecutor decides not to proceed because it is not in the public interest, or there is little likelihood of conviction, you need to go to court.  \n\nIf I were you, and felt the way that you say you do, I would call up the prosecutor's office (the DA) and tell them how you feel.
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Well, it would be nice if you told us what these things are, because without knowing what he's saying, how would anybody know if they are considered a crime or a threat?\n\nAlso need to know what state you're in, since laws differ from state to state.\n\nChances are, at least here in California, cruel and demeaning things would not qualify as domestic abuse.  But again, it's impossible for anyone to tell you specifically without knowing what's being said and where you are.\n\nEDIT 4.27.06\n\nYou still didn't say what state you're in.  Based on the additional information you posted tonight, if you were in California, poking you in the chest with his fingers would be a crime, and possibly telling you he was going to throw you out a window would be a crime.\n\nThe thing is, whether these things are crimes or not is not really the issue.  The issue is that your husband is abusing you in one or more forms.  You've also added tonight that you have children, so you're not the only victim here.  He may not touch the children, but he (and you, I'm sorry to say) are exposing the children to domestic abuse...I won't go into all the studies that have been done on children who are exposed to the kinds of stuff you're talking about but trust me, it will screw a kid up.  For that reason, California Child Protective agencies have started removing children from homes where domestic abuse is taking place, even if the children are not directly victims.\n\nI've seen a lot of domestic violence cases...more than would fill a lifetime.  And the things they all have in common is that they start out small, get gradually bigger, and eventually will end up in your death if something does not change.  I'm guessing he does these things, then apologizes, then things are fine for a while, then it happens again?  And when it happens again, it's maybe just a little bit worse...he calls you worse names, pushes you just a little more, etc?  Domestic violence has a really predictable cycle and I just described it for you.   \n\nGet out.  Do not wait, do not assume he will get better, do not think you can't make it (of course, he obviously wants you to think that, because then you won't leave and he will continue to have a victim), do not expose yourself and your children to this man any longer than it takes to pack.  I guarantee there is a domestic violence organization somewhere near you that will be more than willing to help you...800-799-SAFE is a start.\n\nI *promise* you...if something does not make him change, he will not.  People don't change without some reason, and you staying there is not going to be the reason.
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As long as you still have the marks, make a police report! This man (for lack of a better word) is trying to control you, and sounds like he has succeeded up to this point! Don't be afraid of him, because you can be protected!! You don't have to put up with abuse from anyone! If he's into crack and has another woman, you should just hold your head high, and walk away from a bad situation. It'll only get worse if you let it! When you make your police report, you can also request a restraining order. In my town, you'd be directed to contact Victims Assistance, and they will have the restraining order for you as quickly as tomorrow! Don't let him get away with anything! He needs to be locked up! Good luck to you! :)
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I would run not walk to a self help or in house anger control center and start treatment today. \nThe weapons charge (depending on the state) would be the problem. stalking is now a very sever crime. Menacing? Good luck, sounds serious to me. \nGet an attorney you'll need one.
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My ex-girlfriend. Her name was Amie. I posted a Christian ad at the personals and she responded telling me everything I wanted to hear.  I looked at her profile and it looked as if she wrote it specifically to match everything I was looking for.  She posed as a Christians girl but after months of her lies being exposed, I found out she was a prostitute (luckily I wasnt having sex with her) which would explain why she was always getting drunk and grabbing at my "member".  I can honestly say I know how it feels for women to be sexually harrassed and "man-handled" all the time- this woman never stopped! Anyways after months of her trying we quit hanging out after some serious arguments- she called me 3-4 times a day to argue with me and hung up on me as soon as she got me angry- it was very hard to remain a Christian with her and even worse when we split up. I got tired of her calls and insults so the last time she hung up on me I called her and left a message and emailed her to tell her what a worthless piece of crap I thought she was- 2 days later I got served with a restraining order and ended up going to court in front of a judge she knew personally (probably a client) and he did not let me say one thing in my defense- so I have a restraining order on my record because someone who wouldnt leave ME alone, got mad when I responded to her insults. I NEVER went to her house or called her to harrass her, she did it to me! Needless to say I am not too happy with our legal system when an innocent person can be victimized so easily by a lunatic with the courts help. The story is much longer but I tried to shorten it up - but this was something I asked for, but found out later it was bad for me- Although, maybe what I was asking for would have been ok, if she wouldnt have been an imposter!?
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Well, is there a good reason that you might have had a warrant issued for your arrest? If it were me, I would call the courthouse and ask them if there is a warrant. \n\nLet me say this first. The way he handled this leads me to think he is lying about the warrant. If it were true, why would he warn you? No, he wouldn't. It is a childish attempt at scaring you. I would add it to your complaint that he is harrasing your friends to harrass you.\n\nAs for serving him with the papers? Do you know where he works? Ask if they will serve him at work.
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It sounds like a "No Contact Order." Which can be issued against a convicted abuser. The Prosecution would need to fear for your safety.\n\nIf this isn't the case. . .
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This sounds like a terrible story, but is there a question in it somewhere?\n\nEDIT: Okay, let's try to figure out what the question is.  Are you trying to figure out how you can get your daughter back from your ex-husband?  If that's it, you really ought to talk to a lawyer...maybe you can find a decent one through the Bar Association that will do some pro bono work.  If you just aren't interested in working with lawyers, and you really want to involve this group in something as personal as this, you're going to have to post more details...and more *relevant* details (stick to the facts, ma'am).\n\nIf you want better answers, ask better questions and include more of the important details.  Things people might want to know are these:\n\nAre there any court orders right now?\n\nWhat state do you live in?\n\nWhy did your ex take your child, or at least why do you think he did or what did he tell you?\n\nHave there been any allegations of improper parenting on either side?  Any mental health issues on either side?  Drug use?  \n\nIf I'm guessing correctly at what you want to know, I just don't think you're going to be able to get the answers you need in this forum.
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You were in the car, why didn't you just drive away?\n\nYou were charged with a crime because you could've just driven away yet you decided to get out and beat these guys with weapons.  Thats use of excessive force, you're only allowed to defend yourself with the same amount of force that you were attacked with.  If you go to jail you deserve it.\n\nYou couldn't ram a car which is a piece of property???????\n\nWhat world do you live in, this is in no way acceptable behavior.  If you had a car and all of these weapons on you you probably had a cell phone too.  Why didn't you call the cops?\n\nYou didn't drive off because you were afraid of being called a punk, right?  You deserved to go to jail for longer than just 30 days or whatever you said.  \nYou gave a guy brain damage, broke a guys ribs, and left a guy with permanent nerve damage in his arm, what makes you think you aren't liable.
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A restraining order can be dissolved only by the court that issued it.  As it is, these things generally expire after 10 days or so, depending on your state's laws.  The hearing which is set at the time a restraining order is first issued is usually one for temporary injunction.  It doesn't sound like your girlfriend is interested in pursuing it any further, but I don't know what your local judge's attitude is likley to be regarding movants who don't show up for court.  The truth is that if the two of you simply appear for court as required and she says you two have patched things up and she doesn't want to pursue the action any further, the court will most likely just drop it.\n\nI'm not sure what "record" you are talking about in your question.  A restraining order is not a criminal order but a civil one.  There's no "record" for it to appear on.
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That is a toughy and not something that a non-professional is going to be able to help you with. I would try to find a lawyer who can give you a little free advice. Get a phone book and just go down the list. Get 10 or 20 answers and see what they gravitate toward. I would also like to know what happens in this. It's interesting. Email with what you find out: mj12@email.arizona.edu. Thanks man.