I get this a lot.  When I change my hairstyle my white coworkers always want to touch my hair.  I feel it's rude!!!  Please someone explain.
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We arent trying to be rude. We just want to see how it feels. Like me for instance, I cant understand when you get your hair up and looking pretty, how does it not go flat when you go to sleep? If I fixed my hair like that it would probably go flat before I laid down on it. Anyways, we arent trying to be rude we are just curious
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Do I ? thanks for noticing, I was kind of unsure of this outfit with the season being the way it is and all, and my hair would just not obey me today. If there is anything you want at all don't hesitate to.............HEY!!!! nice try
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I know exactly what you are talking about!\nI can only explain it by the other people probably not being so good at their job, and at the same time would like to be/look better than you. Having this ambition, they try anything, look for intrigues, make up lies just in order to by contrast to you, look good themselves. Try not to look so good in front of them, try to make your supervisor see without these colleagues knowing about it, try to compliment them, try to make them look good, they will feel better
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Do you have a sexual harassment policy at work? You might also want to consider speaking with a manager. Perhaps there have been other complaint about the same person. If it is really making you uncomfortable then perhaps you should consider other employment.
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Here's the problem - you are co-workers, so getting intimate with you may be an ethics violation.  He probably got a vibe that the other women were friendly without being too serious, so he was OK with this mock flirting.  However, if you displayed a serious, shy work-type demeanor, he probably didn't want to 'provoke' you by being too familiar.  you may not understand this, but every time a guy goes to be with a girl, there is a question in the back of his head that is saying, 'will I be sued?'  An honorable guy will not try to get too intimate with a co-worker, so if you want him to flirt with you, you will have to act like you will be his friend and not mind the intimacy that a co-worker should avoid.  In today's work environment, it's very easy for a guy to be victimized, so you will have to go all out to show him that you will be OK with a little display of affecdtion without taking him to court or getting him fired.
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They are teasing you because they are jealous of you.\n\nThey are trying to bring attention to them instead of the attention being focused on you.  They are just tryng to make themselves feel better and this is the only way they know how to do it.\n\nYou need to....as hard as it is to do...you need to ignore thier remarks.  Dont ever let them know you are bothered by the comments and you may even have to throw some of thier own silly commments back to them.\n\nPeople tease, because they are feeling less of themselves.  It is thier defense.\n\nGood luck!
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nothing to worry about. there can be reasons like heredity, but not really due to stress and all that other bs. your hair loses the pigment and turns lighter. mine is turning really white and started when i was about your age!  i love color. highlighting masks it better.
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I understand my friend. It’s easy to say not to worry about it, but to you this is a real issue. It is difficult to relate to you on this issue because I come from a country where \nThe only color that we are interested in is the color of your money. [lol]\n\nHaving said that, I think that I have the solution to your issue on how to act in a multi- colored environment; stop acting and start living! You have a new start in life; don’t blow it with the old baggage of your past. You are there because you deserve to be there so stop acting and start living. You did not get the job because the company felt sorry for you; you got the job because they need you for what you can bring to the table, so bring it!\n\nYou are not defined by, your ethnicity, you skin color or language, you define who you are and it is a dynamic process. You are smarter than you give your self credit for after all you have begun a process of self renewal how many people you know have had the courage to do what you are doing?  Start loving yourself my friend you are ok.\n\nIn the office be as “wise as a serpent and as harmless as a lamb”, listen, observe, do your job, be pleasant. When conflict occur deal with it in a calm, but firm way. Meet your deadlines, that’s why they hired you remember?\n \nFriends will come but I beg you don’t become the newest member of the office’s bitching crew; no job is perfect, if it gets bad leave on a good note. \n\nSorry if this is too long but I felt that I had to get this to you. \n\nYou can live life or let life live you, I would rather live life. Stop acting and start living my friend.
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Both men and women can be threatened by someone else in the workplace.  I think they are just insecure.  Do the best you can and it will work out for you in the end.
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Why do you feel like shes going to get in serious trouble? As in shes asking for trouble? Or her boss may find it inappropriate for her co workers to be distracted by someone who is open about what she is or isn't wearing under her clothing. Take her aside one day when she is mention the comments about her "smell" and tell her politely that they are not joking and you've noticed it but you didn't want to offend her, but now it's become a problem and a distraction for you and your co workers.
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You shouldn't, if you don't identify with the term! I am also tan and dark haired and always put "other" under the race designation. Somehow, I don't feel "White" describes me and thus never adopted the term!!!
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The 'rude' thing is one matter--that should be something that your boss can settle if they're any kind of boss at all--let him or her know that this has been going  on for some time and it is making doing your job really difficult-------It's this "grabbing"thing that is soooo out of line that it reeks--when someone touches you without your giving the liberty THAT my dear is unlawful--and it is so whether the jackass is male or female and needs to be dealt with as such---and if this "grabbing" has sexual overtones--it immediately ups the antee to a whole new level and can be considered assault if not sexual assault or even sexual harassment---don't let it slide--report it and end it NOW--whoever this squirrel is --they do what they do because they've been getting by with it and sooner or later someone is going to be hurt big time--I personally know a couple of gals that would send this girl to Jesus
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Both of you together should go get your hair done. Get like a totally new style or color, have fun!
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The answer to your question is a lot simpler than the story you gave.  A dcotor can dismiss you because he doesn't like your hair color.  He's in business and can choose to do business with anyone he wants.
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i know some girls that will always talk about how horrible their hair looks or whatever just so that you will reassure them and tell them their hair looks great, blah blah blah.  so i think a lot of girls ask things like that just because its a super tricky way to get people to tell them they are sooooooo pretty, etc.  it's so annoying because when girls do that i know damn well they dont really believe they look bad.\n\nwhoa...its been an hour and i'm the only to answer??  that's weird... wow-what would you do without me??
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Next time you have to make a call walk into her salon and sit in the waiting room and have a very loud conversation.  This will definetely get across the message that you are a pansy and too afraid to simply mention to someone that their behavior bothers you.  Grow some stones and go tell her.  SHe probably doesn't realize it bothers you wuss.
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okay, scrunchin straight hair never turns out good, and ends up looking trashy!!! please dont do it, accept that thats a style you cant do! ( i gave up on that one myself) im the same way, a little scared to try new stuff. i recently started doing kinda messy, braided pigtails ( like over your ears and the braid doesnt start until the bottom of your ears) and everyone loves them! theyve become my trademark. try them! my hair is really straight too, so it tends to fall sometimes, but just accept it, they still look fun, are sexy and playful!