Well my prob is i love a guy n he loves me to but lately i feel tht this guy is not "the perfect guy " for me.. on the other hand i hav started feelin some feelings towards his friend i dunno y???\nbut i still really love this guy.... \nIs the feelin towards his friend just an infatuation??? but i think his friend is really nice n understanding....
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Infatuation is instant desire. it is one set of glands calling to other. Love is friendship that has caught fire. it takes root and grows-one day at a time\ninfatuation is marked by feeling of insecurity. You r excited and eager but not genuinely happy. there r nagging questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely.it might spoil the dream\nlove is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.it is real.it gives u streanth n grows beyond you-to bolster ur beloved.u r warmed by his/her presence,even when he/she is away.miles do no seprate u.you want him/her nearer.but near or far,u know he/she is urs n u can wait.\ninfatuation says,'we must get married right away.I can't risk loosing him/her'.\nLove says 'be patient. dont panic.plan ur future with confidence'.\ninfatuation has an element of sexual excitement.if u r honest u will admit itis difficult to be in one anothers company unless u r sure it will end in intimacy.love is maturation of friendship.u must be frnds before u can be lovers.\nInfatuation lacks confidence.when he/she is away u wonder if he/she is cheating.sometimes u check.\nlove means trust.u r calm,secure and unthreatened.he/she feels that trust,and it makes him/her even more trustworthy.\nInfatuation might lead u to do things u'll regret later,but love never will.\nlove is upper.it makes u look up,it makes u think up,it makes u a better person than u were before.
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Yes, I think your absolutely right about everything  you said that concerns you, your friend, and this guy. Just be glad that it wasn't you with this guy no matter how good he flirts or looks. I really feel for your friend because if she gives it up to him he's going to be gone like the wind soon afterwords. Hopefully things won't get that far for him and her, but if they do I hope that maybe she'll learn a lesson from it. You seem like a very smart girl to me. Don't ever let yourself be taken advantage of. Your worth something.
326018
Feelings are just that.. feelings.  They are neither right or wrong.  True love can't be made where it doesn't exist and can't hide where it does.  He is feeling that he somehow betrayed his friend.... He should discuss his feelings with him.
513061
ok you if you don't love the guy in a sexal way do you think you just love him as a friend cuz i think about this dude all the time but i know i love him as a friend you have to find out rather you love him as a friend or as a lover and if you choose lover tell him
53447
We have to go for love.  That's the way humans are made.  If this man doesn't love you now, it doesn't mean that he never will.  Obviously he feels something for you since he spends time being with you.....give it some time and you'll know.  \n\nThe friend that cares about you but you only like as a friend - why not just keep him as a friend until such time as you are committed to someone else, at least.
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I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you
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I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
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to some guys it's just their thing...i know i have heard that too sometimes.  i feel a good guy, one that loves you loves you for how nice you are and how big your heart, not what's under your shirt.  Good luck!
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how long have you known him?  what do you feel?  I mean really feel in your heart, physically, mentally?  are you sure it isnt just lust, infatuation, physical attraction or just puppy love. I believe if your in love with someone you will know without question.  I think the fact that your wondering if you are in love with him that maybe your not in love but one of the other things listed above.  Just my 2 cents
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dont be so push and selfish, the man does not want to commit yet, \nbut then again you feel that you are going nowhere you love him but then you are not happy with that kind of situation, so i suggest move on to the other guy,test the waters see if you can be happy with him,you and the first guy you seem to be going nowhere find someone who makes you happy,and someone who is complete when he is with you,no need to get stuck with the first guy set him free, and let him set you free
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It's not uncommon.  It is more prevalent thatn you think.  You are probably just infatuated with him a little maybe because of the way he looks or the way he acts.  If you don't want to lose your man then don't pursue his best friend.  Just accept things the way they are and don't worry about it.  Sooner or later you will lose interest in his friend.
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even i am trying to figure this out.... sometimes i feel he likes me by the way he behaves but at times...............!!!
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i understand you might love the first guy, but if he doesn't feel the same then move on, and love this other guy, you should let it go and follow your heart.  yes you might not love the 2nd like the 1st but not all love is the same.  You will probably always think about the love you had for the first guy, but the key thing here is that he doesn't feel the same, and you can't make someone love you.
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What's wrong with liking him if you do?  I think that once you really get to know someone, you can't help  but love them to some extent.  My best friend in the world is a guy, and I love him.  It's hard sometimes, but you can't ignore the feelings, and nothing's going to make them go away.  It might help if you tell him how you feel.  If he likes you, then maybe you can hook up, or if he doesn't then maybe that'll give you some closure on the subject.
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Sounds like he does! Listen if you really like him you need to let him know before he gets to the point that he feels that anything more would mess up the friendship. If he doesn't feel for you the way you hope Hell you still got one totally awesome friend!
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Well ... if you are really in love with your boyfriend then you just CAN'T have a "CRUSH" on someone else! And if you are sure that the feeling you have for this other guy is in fact "CRUSH" then I'm sorry to say I don't think you TRULY LOVE your boyfriend.
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This just means that you are not deeply in love with this person. It will come. Once you get to know him better you will feel different. Whether your not attracted to him or you just cant be yourself around him. I've expierenced this situation and know exactly what to do. Follow my advice and you'll get somewhere in life.