People think it's okay for a woman to stay home and be a "housewife." But if a man is unemployed (either by choice or circumstance), he is viewed as "lazy" if he stays home to take care of the housework and the children. Do women realize that this makes it seem like being a housewife is a "real job?" Guys out there: Would you mind if your wife/girlfriend worked and you stayed home to do housework and raise the children?
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The man in the relationship wants to feel like the bread winner. Well thats what society tells all men... because they are petrayed as the hard workers who can keep the roof of the women and children's head. they are the stronger human being... As for wives... we are sensitive, we keep things nice and clean and the children bathed and fed... for one week tell your man to take off work for vacation... let him stay home and take care of children and clean house. you go so where for 8 hours or 10 hours aday... even if you don't have a job... and then come home.... I garuntee you the first day will be ok for the man... then the second day it will get harder.. then by the third day... the kitchen will be a dissaster, the kids haven't had their morning bath, they have food stains on the floor or carpet. they still have their pajamas on.... I'm telling you this because I have been there... now I work everyday for 10 hours a day and so does my husband... now when I pick up my children from the sitters house.. my husband has beet me home... dinner is cooked the house is clean... becaused I got fed up... and I told him about his self... my point is all men are on a ego trip.... they think women are supposed to do certain things... and men are just supposed to work.. watch the game &  have some drinks maybe go to the club and see strippers, eat, shower, go to the bathroom, have sex and go to sleep and do it all again the next day... Now when I pulled his daily routine, you better believe he had a lot of anger and things to say.... and I said to him why is it ok for you to do that and I can't... you know what his awnser was because you have to stay respectful to me and your children... I was like hold up. so you sayin you don't respect me and the kids... he didn't have nothin to say. I put him in his place... now he doesn't think a woman should stay home all the time. He wants me to keep working because he understands what ever I do, if I work or if I stay home... I still love him and have mad respect for him... he's learning
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In every rule there's an eception. I guess your bf is the exception. Please dont generalize your statement. Because, If guys are lazy like me, then I wont be bothering to answer you question. You must face reality that most guys really hate to do household chores. We prefer more tedious and hardlike work, like plumbing or car repairing. It just a reciprocity of women which hates what boy's like to do. But if you bf doesnt also like other things to do which normally we guys usually do, then he's a bum lazy!  :-)
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The term 'Stay at Home Mom" didn't come about until women who had jobs & children started re-evaluating their priorities and decided they should stay at home, and get along with less family income, epecially if the reduction was not that much when transportation costs & childcare were figured in.  So this term came about to show differentiation between a work outside of the home Mom.. vs stay at home Mom. \nUp until the late 80's-early 90's "housewife" indicated all married women who took care of their homes with or without kids. They all work.. at a formal job, or in the home.. or both.
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I guess you have already tried talking to him. What does he think is "ridiculous", you wanting him to help? I can only tell you what I would do. I would sit him down and tell him " As long as we BOTH have to work two jobs, I am not going to be the only one taking care of everything around the house. If you want a housewife, then you need to support one. Otherwise, we share the chores just like we share the bills". If he cannot see the logic in that, I would be considering leaving. There is no way I would allow myself to be treated that way.
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Finally a man who appreciates the hard working woman.  It's just in our nature to get things done.  Women are the complement of men and the backbone of families and that means not resting until everything is in its place.
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Because men do not see stay at home moms as working..And feel that if they get up go to work ect then they have the right to not work when they get home...\nYou can do what i did..hehehehe\nWhen my ex did that to me i sent him a bill.\nI put down in order all i did and a charge for that service next to it..ie:\nDishes...$10.00\nlaundry....$30.00\nCook.......&40.00\nect...ect..\nTell him look if you had to have someone to come in and do what i do you would have to pay them..Due to the fact that you cant help me( even it is to take the kids for a bit ) \nthen you will need to pay me for my services..\nIt worked!!!!!
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Well, Most woman do not want to live w/ someone to clean their house... I mean I can clean my house in 2 hours and i have 3 kids a husband 2 dogs and a grandmaw... But, Sounds like you want a woman to clean your house and keep your bed warm too now that is something im sure many woman will do... but, maybe if you just want a maid you should hire one.
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To be completely honest, I think that people do judge women who choose not to work after they're married, since housework doesn't accumulate as readily in comparison to when one has children.\nI think that the other reply that "doing whatever makes your husband happy" is a bad/chavanistic response.  You should do what makes you happy to.  And if you are and your husband is satisfied as well, that's a benefit.  Overall, do whatever you feel you want to do.  It's your opinion that counts!
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I agree 100% with you and went through this when I stayed at home with my two children. It seemed like every time people asked me what my occupation was, and I answered a stay at home mother, they would look at me funny or laugh and say "That's not an occupation!" Uhm...yea it is, do you think that your clothes wash, dry and fold themselves? Do you think that your children learn morals and etiquette from daycare or society? Is your food not on the table and the house clean when you come home? That was usually my response.\n\nI really got nicked when I began college four years after staying at home. I was challenged by every professor I had. They would taunt me about being a few minutes late or asking to leave early. We have other things to do as well as take care of our self...we have children.\n\nBut you know what? It's all worth it in the end because we get to laugh at the parents in the store when their child is having a fit on the ground (because our children are taught discipline) and we get to see our children do the best they can all the time because we instilled this in them!\n\nIt gets better! Good choice in staying at home and making your children the best they can be!
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you are a blessing to your family so you should be envied and praised. people who would criticise you are really jealous for not being able to have the 'luxury' of being a stay home mom and wife. you deserve a lot more than even a 6 figures pay. what you do to your kid will positively influence him as he grows up.\n\n20 years ago, most wives would stay home while the husbands bring in the doe but competitiveness, high cost of living, etc are forcing the women to work as well, causing the family and family relationship to suffer.\n\nyou belong to a privileged group of non-working wife/mom who has a husband who can afford to support the entire family. be thankful and do not let any criticism demoralise you.\n\nAnd Happy Mother's Day to you and all stay home moms out there.
633597
Sounds normal to me! I see it more like one of those endless jobs to do in the house,dont no which the worse sex or iorning!
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For those who work outside the home going to work would be worse. For all us stay at home Moms, the chores are part of the work at home and never seems to end. Except for yesterday when my hubby sent the kids to their Grandmas for the night. Let's just say my head hurts and I can barely walk today. Ahh, good times , good times.But alas the chores and work will be home in like 3 hours so play time is over. Poor me.
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I don't see why they would. Some guys still have issues about being the breadwinner but a modern woman with her own home wouldn't want one of them anyway. I think that to most guys it will be a positive. It's a sign of stability and maturity. To the rest is will be a non-issue for a while at least.
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i think it stems from our history of nurturing......we took care of everything while the men were out "hunting".  it is in our nature to take care of everything and as tired as it might make us we do feel fullfilled when everyone is taken care of.  i think we are more tired now because most of us have to hold down jobs AND take care of the home/kids.  more respect needs to be put on the womans role in society as "taking care of a home"
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No. My husband and I both work and I respect him very much, as he does me. And in today's world, at least in the US, you need 2 incomes to keep a household running.
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I consider myself a conservative Christian woman. I am 55 so yes, I was influenced by the women's movement of the 60's and 70's.  \n\nAs I look back, I realize that we were duped. We were taught to believe that being homemakers and raising a family was for losers. We believed that. How stupid were we?\n\nI don't hate men, (I love my husband very much) but in our effort to be liberated it seems we fell right in to a man-made trap.\n\nSure, honey, you should get out there and find yourself. (Bring in an income)\n\nYou don't need to spend all that boring time with these kids.\n(Dads have never understood a Mom's bond with her kids)\n\nYes by all means, burn your bra...and your underpants too for that matter...\n(no explanation needed)\n\nBetty Friedan pushed it, but it would have never taken hold if women had been made to feel (by men) that the traditional role of women was revered and appreciated.  We need to encourage our daughters and sons that the woman's calling is the manager and keeper of the home and then the whole family is better off.\n\nI have a feeling that men are beginning to realize this now and that one day we will see things turn back to how it always should have been.  They will be grateful to have a woman who is willing to perform the daunting task of keeping a home and raising a family. \n\nHooray for those women who did and will do it, and if I could do it all again that's exactly what I would do.
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well dear i work full time as a housewife mother and grandmother.  my pay is zero but one thank you is worth it. I also work part time and make very little but it is fun money. The joy of doing this is much more than the pay