When we are together it seems like the world melts away. We look into each others eyes and know we feel the same. But sometimes I look at him and think, wait, what am I doing?? He is just so much older than me. I don't want to break up. I love and care about him soo much. I want to get over this obstacle. I think he is one in a million and he treats me like gold. So how do I get over this hurdle? We talked about it and he is very patient and understanding, but I think it still hurts him to hear this. The age thing doesnt phase him. It doesn't really bother me when we are out in public together, and my parents are supportive but haven't met him yet. He is uncomfortable with meeting them right away because he thinks they don't realize "how much gray" he has. But in time, he will. We have been on some 20 wonderful dates, including an overnight beach trip. When I woke up in the morning I was like, whoa. This guy is 40. Sometimes it's the last thing on my mind and sometimes it haunts me. Y?
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First you just gotta get ovet the superficial appearances, etc., and ask yourself if you really love him?  If yes, then get over the little things.  My parents have the same age gap and have been together for 30 years.  It can work, as long as the age thing doesn't get to you.  Forget numbers and focus on people.
242916
Yes but it is his problem. If he wishes to see you,he will find a way.After you both decide if you are a couple,take turns.He should come to meet your folks and let them get to know him first. This is age dependent of course. Peace.
60468
Well, from a legal stand point it is perfectly fine to be dating him. You do need to consider though, his experience in life vs your own. Chances are he has done a lot more living then you have. In the begining your age differences may not effect your relationship much, but in time he could become possesive and controlling and try to stop you from living your young carefree life. Wanting to settle down ect... I watched this happen to my sister, and before she knew what was happening she felt stuck, and had a baby, and he had her convinced that she was nothing without him, often using his experience in life against her youhful ways. She did finally get out, after a few years, but now she is a single mom trying to make a life for her and her child and this guy is still a thorn in her side and will be for the rest of her life since she shares a child with him. While you might be thinking this would never happen to me, once upon a time my sister thought the same thing. Be careful & good luck.
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move on. there will be others. as hard as it is to think about right now... and plus.. if he isnt "allowed to date" that leads me to believe you are younger.... sooo dont think that what youre feeling is true love. dont rush into being soo adult... you have a LOT of time.
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Even though many people say, "Love has no age difference" there is. Point blank. \n\nFirst of all, if you trust him 100% and you love him then don't worry about the women before you. Those were just mistakes that lead up to you. \n\nSecondly, yes he's older. But NEVER, EVER let him pressure you into doing something that you don't want to or most importantly, not ready for. Just because his ex's did such and such all the time or something, doesn't mean that you do to. Make him realize that. \n\nThirdly, I'd test the waters. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Just take it all in stride, chances are that this might not be your "one" but it's all a learning process. So what you don't date younger guys? The more you date, the more you learn the specifications of the type of man you want to be with in the future. Enjoy yourself, but don't lose yourself!
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You need to follow your heart, first and foremost.  From what you are saying, it sounds to me like you and your boyfriend are already done, but you just dont have the guts to end it.  The sooner you do end it the better it will be.  Dont keep putting yourself and him through the pain, just tell him that it is not working for you anymore.  You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you will be with the 30 yr old so I say go for it!
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When you're together does it feel like you're 17 years apart?\n\nThe older you are, the smaller that gap seems. There is big difference between a 17 yo dating a 34 yo and a 32 yo dating a 49 yo. \n\nAre you at very different places in your lives right now, mostly due to age? (Ex.: college student vs. granparent)\n\nAge is just a number, if you both seem to be on the same level emotionally, and are truly in love, more power to you.
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Sweetie, you're only 16.. way too young to be thinking about being so serious about a relationship. From what you said I can feel a strong sense of immaturity espeecially from you. I respect your feelings and all but I do have to tell you that you can't simply change the world because you love him. Life is more complicated than you think my dear. Accept the fact that it is not you who can make that change easier. It is only HIM who can make it easier or harder because that's his life.\n\nWhy not reverse the situation? Why not try to understand the transition that he is going through and allow him to grow-up by himself. If you are really meant for each other, you will have all the chances. When you're both old enough and more mature to handle things, you can still end up being together.\n\nFor now, I say let things be and allow both you and him to grow-up.
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try to tell him about u r feeling if the age differance between both of us is not more than 5 years I think he can understand u. go ahed coz love and feelings are limit less and unbounded best luck
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See sweety, the difference between you and the Dr. is way too much to have a kind of relation. I agree that the age doesent matter in such cases but what matters here is ur personal life.It is not going to be easy to be with a person who is twice your age and also manage to be social with your friends and your associates. You also havent mentioned about his life and his family. You just know him for a few months and you should not judge the person based on your association with him of a few months. You should give some time for this kind of advances and control yourself of giving off to his flirts. If it is limited to flirts thats ok but for other advances u need to think it over and give some time..........\nAll the best to you
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Hi, sorry to hear about this situation. Personally, I think you are going to have problems with this relationship. I am not saying that this is not going to work out, but I am going to give you a few things to think about.\n  Right now, I think he is too young for you in a lot of ways. It would be different if he were 20 and you were 23. He would probably be at your level maturity wise, but right now, the fact is that he is not.\n  Your life is probably going to be very different in a year or so. You are probably going to go to college or at least start school for some kind of trade. This is where the problems arise.. You are at a new stage of life where you begin to get older and are on your way to a mature adult life. There will be things that you will be experiencing that is going to be different from your highschool life. In time, your boyfriend is probably going to feel left out. Its like two ships passing through the night. Your going to be on totally different levels.\n   I personally think maybe you should really wait this out. He is really still young, and I think he has some growing up to do before he involves himself in someone that is older. I think three years is a lot when you are 18. When you are 19 do you really want to be dating a 16yr old.\n  I know people are going to say age doesn't matter. In most cases it doesn't. But I think at this stage in your lives it might matter. I could be wrong, but I think you should consider dating guys your age or a little older.\n  If you do consider that you still want to date him, proceed with caution. Maybe you and him should discuss things with your parents to see how they feel about the situation. If they don't see problems with it, go for it but just keep certain things in the back of your mind. The whole legality thing is not going to matter unless his or your parents have a problem with it.\n Good Luck!
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The question is: do you see yourself with him when you are 60 years old and over? If you can't picture yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then you're not in love with him, which means that you need to move on. You need to let go of him and find someone else that you will be in love with forever and who will love you forever too.
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Look past the age for a minute.  I mean, I know some 30 year olds that act like they're 50 and I know some 50 year olds that act like they're 30.  Age is irrelevant to some extent. Let me emphasize "some extent".  Although the mind may think younger, the body will eventually answer the question "What's my age again?".   Ok, re-track back to my first statement. *waits while you read it again*.  Now, it is very nice to be complimented.  (if I may, your nose looks quite lovely today!) and it is nice that someone has taken an interest in you.  But, the real question is, would YOU date him?  The mere fact that you are contemplating it leads me to believe you may have some interest.  But, is this interest only because he has showed you some attention?  Perhaps you should casually spend some time with him and see if he is someone you would date.  I don't know the man.  I mean, if you want, I can shoot down to....."where?" and scope out the situation.  You know, stare him up and down and ask him what his intentions are......shake him up a little.
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make a research! ask his friend about that mystery girl, but of course not in an obvious way...on the other hand, falling inlove younger than us girls is not really an issue, at my own experience, im very much happy & contented with my x-bf even if im 4 years older than him...we'll right now, both are singles & misses each other very much...sometime soon,\ni will accept his reconciliation & start all over again...\nof course, you should be more patient & understanding because girls are the ones who matures earlier than guys... \n\n\nfirst of all dint listen to rocy driver \nso abet y,r matter i thing that may be he like u but fell nervous abet to tell u may be he fell that if he tell u abet his felling that will lose u so be on hope and this world is going on the hope and its will be batter if u tell him that u love him.. may be he fell some courage
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When I was 20 I dated a guy who was 26... it was fine for awhile but it didn't last.  I say if you feel like you're on the same level maturity wise and he treats you right, go ahead!
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if you like him it really doesn't matter what your friends thinks...besides, being older can be an advantage in a relation.\nand if you waited for three years, come on! you shouldn't give up just because some fuss\nif you leave him just because of the age, and because of your friends, it would be really silly and insensitive with your own feelings.\nIndepending on the age, you can be good together, and when your heart is broken and you feel alone, there's nothing your friends could do for you (nothing like being with the one you want!)\ngo for it.....care about your feelings....
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It sounds like your relationship is great but one thing that worried me - you said you were worried his family wouldn't like you - you should meet them first, and make sure he meets yours first.  \n\nWhen I first started reading your post I had my doubts, BUT \nI don't think the age difference matters in your case.  In some it does, but your relationship does seem more mature.  People always think I am too young also.  I'm 19 and getting married next summer too.  I love this man and he is my best friend and my life partner.  We've been together since I was in middle school and we've grown up together and are still growing together.  I think it's amazing to find a love like this when you are so young.  Don't worry about what everyone else thinks - count your blessings that you have something that some people NEVER find.  \n\nJust be sure you have the same goals, and plans for the future.  For example, in a few years you are going to want a son or daughter with him also.  I am sure you love his son like your own but the time will come when it will drive you crazy that he is not your own and you need to make sure he will be willing to have more children.