After I die, how can I be sure my last wishes of cremation will be carried out?
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Find an estate attorney and draw up a will. The attorney will give you plenty of good ideas on how to carry this out.  You might even be able to make the attorney the executor of your estate so he/she has the legal power to make things happen.
298991
What EXACTLY happens to us after we die???
515720
Typically, when a person passes away an announcement is put in the local paper. In the announcement, the information for visitation, funeral/wake, etc, is included along with the information about the person.\n\nMy condolences,\nHolly
594756
Get cremated like I'm going to do. Going up in a flame is much better than being worm food. Don't worry so much about stuff you can't control- try enjoying your life while you're living it.
322779
You can not, \n\nPeople can do thier own will, so only they may know about it, or close family.\n\nPeople use an attorney, so only they and their attorney will know about it.\n\nIf the will is executed ( they should normally go though probate court)  if they did, then the court will have a copy but will also insure that everyone who is suppose to get money does.\n\nIn the end, the only way to find out, is to ask family.
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Call the company that issued the policy.  They will send you a package with the company forms that need to be completed in order to get paid.\n\nYou will need:\n1. the policy\n2. the death certificate - ask the funeral home to provide.\n3. the insurance company forms.\n\nOnce complete, they will review and if straightforward, the insurance companies usually issue you a checkbook that is good up to the amount of the policy proceeds.  You can keep the money in this account and write checks when you need them or write one big check to yourself and deposit in your own accounts.
122437
Veterans office or your own senator or congressman. Our records are sealed after we are retired from military. We have to request if we want a copy and they tell us prior to retiring to make a copy. You will also need his death certificate and discharge papers
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I would get a second and third opinion.\n\nI would make certain I was "right with God."\n\nI would organize vital paperwork my family would need upon my death.\n\nI would write letters to my friends and family (to be opened after my death), detailing how important they were to me, how much and why I loved them so, and encouraging them not to grieve my death, but to celebrate my life lived.\n\nI would enjoy fully, every last second of breath.\nI would anticipate going home to God.
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It's relatively uncomplicated to get the information you want.\n\nYou need to know the person's name and the county where the probate occurred.  Contact the local Court and explain you want to get a copy of a probate.  They will transfer you to the right person (be patient, it may take a few people, but you'll get there).\n\nWhen you get the right person on the phone, again, indicate you want a copy of the probate.  They should be able to search based on the name and approximate date of death.  Request they fax it to you, or mail it.  There is always a charge.  \n\nIf they require that you come in and get it (I've had this happen), explain that you are out of town.  It is not uncommon for someone out of town to request this information.  Usually, there is a small legal business that takes requests, goes in and copies the information, and will either fax or mail it to you for a reasonable fee.  Ask the clerk who frequently comes into their office and does this, and get their information.  Contact them.  Turn around time is usually 24-48 hours.\n\nFeel free to contact me with any other questions.  Good luck!\n\nJared
71251
First, is do the things you haven't done for your entire life..visit some places that reminds you of somethings... Donate to charities i know it's kinda obscure but since you only have 3 days left better if you have done some good deeds before you die...Tell all the people you love how important they are to you...Meet some important personalities at least you ahve met and talk to them and do some extraordinary things...
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This is such an important thing for all of us to do.  You need to do a Yahoo or Google search for "advance health care directive" and your state.  They are inforcable.  Make sure you talk to your family, give them a copy and have your doctor put a copy in your medical chart.\n\n"Advance directive forms and living wills are not complicated. They can be short, simple statements about what you want done or not done if you can't speak for yourself. Remember, anything you write by yourself or with a computer software package should follow your state laws. So, it’s essential for you to know what the laws are in your state. While you are not required to seek legal advice to prepare an advance directive, it may be a good idea to do so to ensure that the actual instructions for your wishes are stated accurately. It has to be absolutely clear to be enforceable."  http://www.helpguide.org/mental/advance_directive_end_of_life_care.htm  you can get more information at that site.\n\nIf you are in CA, like me, here is a site where you can print out the form:  http://www.pamf.org/preventive/ahcd.html
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when the deceased estate goes thru probate an executer & rightful heir will be established.  you can take those papers showing you are the right heir/executer to the bank with the death certificate and close the account.
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They help you decide on the details for the funeral and burial (or cremation), the obituary, choosing a casket, arranging for flowers, and who will officiate.  All of this happens at a time when it can be very difficult to make decisions, and "little things" can be easily overlooked.  At my mother's funeral, my sister had forgotten to make copies of the directions from the funeral to the house (where people would be gathering afterward), so the funeral director had someone run off the copies for us.
621525
as far as i'm concerned you can worship anyone or anything you wish. only closed minded fools who are hoping some ghost from the past will give them some kind of treat after they die will tell you other wise.
651317
We all think about death, what might come afterwards.  I guess the best way to tackle any fear is to hit it head on. Ask yourself what it will matter after you are dead.  You won't feel anything, you won't know anything.  And there are alternatives to coffins, like cremation.  It sounds to me like you need to stop thinking about death and start living life.  Make yourself make the most of each day, think toward making life on this earth the best it can be while you're here.\n  I find that sometimes making fun of it helps too.  Like I say that I don't want a funeral, which everyone insists that I should have.  I finally consented on the condition that I have a spring under my back that can be activated in half hour intervals where I pop up holding a sign that says "What are you looking at?"  My son suggested that I be cremated in Priority mail boxes since I do ebay.  That made me smile.  Plan it, make it fun, then move on.
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The only way I could see them not letting you use it is if it wasn't paid in full.  Contact the cemetery, ask them what it was really about.  And you have the right to copies of anything you signed.  I have never heard of that excuse before.  I doesn't matter where he lived.  Get a copy of what you signed and if you feel they were wrong get a lawyer.  That was pretty low and thoughtless of them to tell someone something like that the day of the funeral.  I am really sorry you had to go thru something like that after losing your father.  My condolences.
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Take the will to the courthouse in the county where the deceased person resided.  There should be a court office set up for helping people in your situation.  In my state its called the Probate Court. They will probate the will and give out documents that will allow the executor (person designated by the deceased person to wrap up his affairs) to go to banks etc. and do whatever the deceased person could have done if still alive.  Its usually just a matter of filing forms.  I would avoid the expense of a lawyer unless the estate is complex or you anticipate litigation amongst family members.