My fiance is overseas. I know he has work to do there and perhaps keeps very busy. Sometimes he tells me he'll call up and then doesn't. Instead mails me saying he was busy. I know he must be but i feel extremely upset. And when i call him then too he seems busy. I love him so much but then love hurts ? Am i being silly, just missing him ?
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I'm glad to see that you finally asked a question that doesn't have anything to do with what you look like or taxes!\n\nand no you're not being silly
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Hi.  It sounds as though you have an underlying depression.  I would say that of course you miss your finace when you are away from her but I doubt that is the underlying reason for feeling down when you are away from her.  Just wondering if you have been subtly depressed most of your life (dysthymia).  If you have true clinical depression then it wouldn't matter if you has zillions of dollars, a fantastic job, gorgeous fiance and tons of friends.  Real depression shows no mercy to anyone---no matter how great your life is and all the things that "should" make you happy.   If your body has a chemical imbalance (even a slight one) then nothing on the outside is going to take that empty feeling away.  I would definately talk to a doctor if you are not feeling good.  Doctors today treat depression regularly and are not judgemental.  I know because I have everything to be thankful for, great husband, great son, good health, nice home etc... but for some reason I sometimes have a sad empty feeling that seems to creep in out of nowhere.  That is just mother nature screwing with my physical self.  Being away from our fiance may trigger depression but it is not the underlying cause.
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His just proably very busy and his thinking about you. Maybe his thinking about what to do with you next. Relax you dont want to scare this guy away. I've been there and done that. Its not cool becuase you hurt yourself for what you did. Just go with it and get to know him first. Don't jump to the marriage part. you guys just met.  I really think that there's things he needs to do and haven't had time to call you.  GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT!!!!  unless you go out one day and caught him with someone else then just look at it like you don't care but don't let him see you be hurt. " Those who wait will be reward!!"
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Love is worth your life!! i would ask for a phone # or e-mail them but if they havent moved away yet tell him/her how you feel and if they are grossed out nor mad then you wont have to see them but if they love you back.....they'll try their hardest to make it work.
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If you live 3 states away, daily communication is unreasonable under the best of circumstances. This is probably wearing him down emotionally. I know that I get completely overwhelmed at times, especially by relationship issues, and just shut down. It doesn't mean I don't care; it just means I'm overwhelmed.
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If he didn't leave you a number in which to contact him while away, sounds like he's up to no good....and the people he either works or socializes with have probably been covering him, so I think you will have to wait until he returns ....at which point, I'd set him down for some serious talking...good luck!
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Love is like that, we tend to go to things that we are familiar with.  I'm not saying it's the ideal thing to do, but I don't think it's as bad as it seems to you right now.  You shared an intimate personal moment with someone that you had many with in the past.  I say not to make a big deal of it and take it for what it was.  If it was something that brings you guys together again, then congrats.  If it was a quickie from someone that you trust, then I still say congrats, we all are not so lucky.  Don't worry about just relish in the positives of it.
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Oh, what the heck. Life is short. Your fiance isn't taking care of business--he is probably making out with his ex girlfriend. Don't feel bad and you don't need to tell him either. If he hasn't talked to you for this long, to bad, so sad.
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Yes you can.... and no, it is not something that happens to everyone because not everyone has been in your shoes.\n\nThis is probably happening to you because you ARE in love with him. Does he know how you feel about him? Do you feel like he needs to know? How does he feel about you?\n\nCould you be feeling this way because you were/are hoping for more? And maybe you feel like more could have been said or done while he was there? \n\nCommunication is the key Hon.\n\nJust a few things to think about
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Maybe he doesn't see your side.  Help him to see that you will have to do a combination of things.  Inform him that you love talking on the phone and think its better and more personal but you would like to email sometimes too because it's cheaper, takes time shows some thought and consideration and becuase of those things can mean a lot to you if your missing him and can get a note from him to cheer you up during the day or make you feel good.  Aldo, look in to a cheap cellphone plan that has free mobile to mobile mniutes or night and weekend minutes and use it just to talk back and forth to each other.
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When someone leaves on a deployment it's like you hit a brick wall.  They keep moving forward and you can't go along for the ride.  You have no idea what he's dealing with, and you can't relate when he tells you about his day.  You just have to listen, but chances are you won't understand.  You'll be worried sick while he's gone and stupid things will make you break down in tears.  Don't kid yourself.  Being over there and knowing your job is a lot different than being the one that sits at home waiting by the phone...Hoping that the conversation with him you had the other day wasn't indeed the last one you'll ever have with him.
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What if he is feeling the same way about you?  You both are afraid to contact each other for the same reason and so instead you both end up upset and not knowing what is going on.  Just call him and find out what is going on and let him know you miss his calls.  It's better to know than not to know.
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I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.
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It's possible. Don't call or email him anymore. If or when he calls or emails play dumb at first, (ex. Him: "Hey this is Jason" You: "Jason?......Oh, yeah," blah blah blah) That will maybe make him think you aren't as clingy as you may have first let on. It is also possible he just hasn't got around to calling you, or maybe he's not the type to check his email everyday, or your email got sent to his junk mail and he never got it. Either way, if he can't call you back then you don't need him anyways! =)
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Is it really love? Or is it more of a comfront blanket type situation? I mean, I know there are probably still sparks there but is it really worth it to travel across country to find out that maybe, just maybe your feelings aren't all that strong as you thought? All I can say- is do what's in your heart and what feels right... Because then you'll always ask the "What if's?" and if you really love himm- then you'll have no regrets one way or another!
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Yes he can. Not talking to him everyday is good for yourrelationship. When he does call you , you get that feeling in your body that you just can't stand. You are so excited when he does call. It is a wonderful feeling. Trust me. I didn't get to talk to my husband for six months but we recieved letters and I look forward to each one. When I did get to see him it was a wonderful feeling.
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Just do your best to listen to him, even if he doesnt say much about it. My best friend in the Marine Corps was killed while we were in Iraq, and all I wanted from my fiance (wife now) was a shoulder, if I felt like shedding a tear, and an ear to listen. That is all I needed. She was there for me, and it helped a lot. You will never understand what he is going through, especially if they were very close, but you dont have to understand to be able to help. Dont press the issue if he doesnt want to talk about it, but I would mention it, in case he does want to talk. Ask how he is doing, but dont try to get any details from him. I feel for both of you and I wish you well.