My ex boyfriend is 60 years old now, when I met him he was 56, actually he lied and said to me when I met him initially that he was 47. I believed him because he doesn't drink or smoke and takes care of himself, he's a Dr.  Anyways, I met one of his second cousins through another one of his second cousins, they call him uncle.  Long story make it short me and Hani hooked up after I broke up with Nabil the very first time, a couple more followed.  Me and Hani ended up not speaking anymore and ended in very bad terms.  Last time we saw each other we met up after I had taken Nabil to the airport as he was taking off to the Middle East, he always left me alone, Nabil is very shallow, selfish and in love with himself.  Hani made me feel good and sex was awesome.  Anyways when me and Hani met up he bought two bottles of wine, he didn't force me but imposed on me to drink a whole bottle myself.  I got so drunk and ended up arguing with him and got in my car and got a D.U.I.
212838
they both sound like losers, damn, you got a DUI because of that bullshit girl. let it go. both of them
187761
I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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You are obviously still young enough to find a better person.  This guy has waaaay too much baggage for you to carry.  Take it from someone who wasted alot of her young adult age on the same guy you just described.  Believe me, you're wasting your time.  At first, because we were "in love", he was all for the "help" and did alot to stop the bad habits he had.  But after a few years, he started to resent me, because I had "tied him down", "made his life boring"  you get the picture.  Then when he became depressed, because he wasn't having any "Fun", (If you call drinking yourself unconsious fun or getting arrested because you started a fight at a gas station, fun)  He was so pissed at me all the time, because he couldn't go "out" that he started to verbally, then physically abuse me.  I tried to stick by him,  help him, I always told him that "all I wanted to do was help him", he just said I was trying to control him.  He would purpously start fights with me just so he could leave and use me as an excuse to go "out".  The funny thing is , I refused to listen to my mom.  I paid for it with nine years in hell, and I haven't seen my family for twenty years.  Please while you still haven't been through hell, get out.  If you choose to stay, keep in touch and on good terms with mom, you WILL need her someday.  Watch out for the warning signs and take care of yourself.  Good Luck
29857
I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
417725
You had 26 answers already at the time of my replying, and i didnt read them but i can imagine what most of them will say. You are young, your boyfriend doesnt treat you right and doesnt treat his body with respect - so why do you think he will be good for you when he's not good to himself?\n\nOf course you have got involved with someone else. Its natural. You want a proper life with someone who cares. Its not a mess sweetheat, he's no good for you so just leave! Really, just pack up your stuff and leave. It may be hard but it will be best in the long run.\n\nGet support from family and friends, and just do it! A&#92; year from now you will be SO much happier!\n\nIf a friend was in your situation what would you tell them? You'd said he doesnt deserve you, wouldnt you? Come on, ring your mum or a friend and say you want help leaving..... they will be delighed to help believe me!\n\nMy daughter left a relationship like this last year. He was a drinker and had started to push her around too. Now she is with a lovely bloke.\n\nI hope you get the strength to do this, and make a good life for yourself.
381724
If you trust him yes just be careful, don't be nosy but if they want to hang out make sure he invites you.  You and hopefully he wouldn't want to loose 8 years over a old fling.
225173
were they drunk? or on any type of drugs? if youve ben dating this guy for a while then he is being very immature it sounds like this relatonship needs to be reevaluated and you dont need any weird drama in your life over a guy if he cant tell you straight up whats bothering him thenn cut him loose this is a sign on what to look forward to if this relationship persists.
38027
First of all age really is just a number as long as he is over 18. If he only pays attention to you and would rather spend time with you than those other women his own age than I would say give him a chance. I have a friend who is dating a younger man too and they seem to be getting along just fine she is 29 and he is 23. Give him that first date then you'll find out if his feelings are real.
240656
My second boyfriend was actually a Michael!\nI was 17 and he was 24 and it lasted for about 4 months.\nIt was a big mistake from the get go, hehehe.\nI am very outspoken and eh... well, not easily overlooked, and he was this really really sweet guy, a little nerdy, a little scared of the world, not too social... i guess we thought that with us being so different, it would work out fantastically. It didn't. I'm ashamed to say that I walzed all over the guy and all he could do was just watch it happen.\nPoor guy. I hope he found someone better since then.
308947
Sounds like a delimma...Do what is in your heart.  You can date the new guy while keeping in contact with the old guy.  Just be honest about things.  Sometimes you really like people at first but it fades.  My man I met when I was 13 it was long distance.  We finally hooked up when I was 19 and have been together 16 years.. good luck.  There is no wrong choice
327019
I will tell you, in my own experience that it is. Not because it's immoral or the guy is a sick person, but the maturity issue. and people do change.\nAnd don't think it's because a guy can't get a girl his own age. i actually had quite a few girlfriends before her and they were all close to my age or older. \nSadly, I am now divorced, kept the children and am good friends with her. Actually, after five years of separation we are considering getting back together. I still care for her and she for me.\n All in all it is wrong if it is for the wrong reasons.
134414
hey sweetie i kinda have been thru the same thing. i am 28 years old. when i was 20 i was dating this guy from florida and we would take turns visiting each other till i could move to be with him. well we ended up breaking up after about 18 months together and i was devistated. i will admit now it was my fault at the time. i couldnt wait and i needed affection. i met another guy and we started hanging out and my bf didnt like it at all. he is the reason we broke up. while we were broke up i became pregnant by the local guy who was a thug type. smoking weed, drinking all the time but he was a total sweetheart and made me feel so special. when he found out i was pregnant he said it wasnt his and demanded a DNA test to be done soon as the baby was born. well as bad as i treated the florida guy he stuck with me the whole time. he was even there when my baby was born. we got back together and then the babys dad and i had the DNA test done and guess what, it was his. well he became so happy and all of a sudden he loved me again and wanted nothing more to be with me. again i was letting him come inbetween me and the florida guy and hurting him. this other guy said all the right things and sweet talked me. saying things like, oh baby i will stop smoking and drinking and the drugs all for you if you just be with me so we can be a family. needless to say, i looked at him and just plainly to F**K off. the florida guy moved here to be with me and now we are married and very happy. it was the best decision i ever made. ditch the crazy one girl and go for the one that dont talk much. i am sure he treats you better and everything. so what if he dont talk. least he isnt crazy. right??? so what if he cant be there till june. thats 1 month and like 3 weeks. depending on when in june though. one more thing, the more you have in common with someone the more you all will argue. if you all dont have much in common there isnt that much arguing. i know cause me and my wonderful husband didnt have much in common till he moved here and now we hahve so much but we hardly argue cause we grew together in such a wonderful way. he is my everything and is the best choice for a daddy to my son. the real daddy ended up giving up his rights because he was a deadbeat and i later found out he had 2 other kids by 2 different girls and didnt take care of either. whats to say he was gonna take care of mine. he wasnt and i knew that. now the loser is sitting in jail for the next 7 years. good luck to you and i hope you make the right decision. i think you will. here is a hint, the out of state guy. lol. good luck. oh yeah, sorry this is so long too.
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MY SISTER IS IN THE SAME PREDICAMENT. HE AND HER EX BOYFRIEND WAS TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS BEFORE THEY HAD THEIR FIRST CHILD(MY NEPHEW). THEY BROKE IT OFF AFTER HE WAS ABOUT 8 MONTHS(04). THEN SHE JUST HAD MY 3 MONTH OLD NIECE IN DECEMBER( WITH ANOTHER BOYFRIEND) AND THEY'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF. SHE STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR MY NEPHEW'S FATHER THOUGH. MAYBE YOU REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HIM AND HIM WITH YOU BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR DAUGHTERS FATHER FEELINGS OR MAYBE ITS LUST.
421767
At a bar. We would go to the same club regularly and he was friends with a friend of a friend. We would hang out the bar almsot every weekend for about 6 months. It wasn't planned though. We just liked the same scene. He was dating other girls at the time, but had his eye on me and I was interested in something strictly casual, but never tried with him because he was cool and I thought we'd be 'just friends'. \n\nWell, one night he called me because he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to come over and eat mushrooms. I had nothing else to do and thought he was cool, so I let him come over and we had a good time. Nothing happened that night, but about a week later I got extrodinarly wasted and we hooked up. It started out as a casual thing scratch that as a very casual thing and I had little intentions of it being serious, but we ended up falling in love and I settled down a little bit. \n\nThis was after he moved in because his 'rents kicked him out of their place and he was staying in his car. We were already sleeping together, so I said he could stay at my place for a few days and that few days turned to months and that casual time with a guy who was actually worthy of my friendship unlike my other casual boys turned into a serious relationship. We've been together for almost two years and plan on getting married in 2008. \n\nWhat makes us stay together? Well, our geniune love for eachother and partially our own narcissisms. We love ourselves and I'm his female counterpart and he's the male version of myself. Our similar interests and goals and problem solving techniques help as well as compatible senses of humour.\n\nThe story I tell my parents and family? We met through friends of friends at church.
362237
I dated this guy who had just got out of a 7 year relationship. We dated for a year and I wound up pregnant. After 4 months into my pregnancy my sister called me at work to tell me that she had seen my b/f with his ex shopping at K mart and that she too was pregnant (1 month behind me). As hard as it was, I kept everything to myself and went to my b/f house the following night. I asked if he'd take a drive with me. I hopped on the freeway (so there was no jumping out of the car)  and beat the living crap out of him with my right hand whiled I steered with my left. I dumped his ass off at home and to make a long story short, I ended my pregnancy and left the idiot ex to keep hers...they are now happily divorced and he has since tried to contact me through friends and relatives while I am happily married to the BEST man in the entire world!
673296
My boyfriend is 43 and I am 25.  We have been together for 3 years now and it is the best relationship I have been in.  I couldn't imagine ever dating somebody my own age again.  They are so immature and in this relationship I feel like there is stability.  I think he will definitely stay with you because men like younger women and if you are good to him and he is good to you, it will work.
121992
No i think that is perfectly fine!!! Well i would think that when me and my better half got together i was 20 and he was 29, 3 years later and we have a awsome strong relationship, i was ready for something serious to plant my feet into and so was he, we had alot of things in common, i mean yes there are times when i think wow hes really been around alot more then i have and i can feel a little bit intimidated, but in the long run im thankfull he has those experiances to help guide our steps, I think he has come to believe that im never going to be perfect, even though i really try to do everything well, im not completely at his level on thinking, he has more life lessons to reflect on, but i dont think its a problem when we both discuss everything and keep the lines of communication open, just like any other relationship, my best friend is in the same boat, her husband is 10 years older then her and oddly enough shes the more responcible one, i dont see why any one would think its wrong, now if you were 25 and she was 15 there might be a huge responce to you sick mo fo lol but i dont think there is anything wrong with you liking her, ask her out, she might be into older guys, and with good reason, guys that are 20-24 are enough to make you want to puke, they only want one thing, they havnt figured out yet theres more to life then a nice set of boobs lol they dont know how to deal with money worth a crap, they only look out for themselfs, where older guys have alot more figured out, theres so many more perks to dating a older guy i could go on forever, more or less your more established at 30... id say go for it :) you have nothing to lose