My boyfriend and I are looking to move soon. He is 20 and I'm 19 and we live in North East Texas. We're both in college and are working crappy jobs. I was wondering if anyone would have a few suggestion on where to move. Some place we could be our selves, get by on our income, go to school, and that has decent weather. He really wants to move to Hawaii because he used to live there, but that is a bit unrealistic for us now. Anyways, thanks for the help. Provide any links if possible.
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It's great that your putting some thought into your move. I have seen too many gay guys (especially younger ones) get into a real bind because they moved to "Fabulous" gay areas like Hawaii or New York City that were way too expensive for them. I have met many gay guys who moved to Chicago from smaller towns that often have a tough time adapting to the expenses of living in a large urban area. \n\nFirst I would encourage both of you to make your education a priority, as I am sure you know the opportunities and earning potential for someone with a college education are better. \n\nIf you can't go to school full time, you may want to live somewhere with affordable colleges such as community colleges or a branch of a state university. College towns are usually more liberal and open minded then most communities. Most college towns also have active gay and lesbian communities that will be helpful when moving to a new town.\n\nIf you live in Texas have you thought of moving to Austin ? a university, thriving economy, active gay community ? Other towns that come to mind are Kansas City, Denver, Columbia, MO, and Phoenix.  \n\nI live in Chicago which has a large thriving gay community but it is expensive and if you have never lived in a large urban area or are used to long, cold winters this could take some time to adjust.
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Great place to live.  If you don't mind the winters/or should I say weather.  It's been very odd last few years.  This year winter is back to normal, some days a low of -25 deg Celsius.  Transporation is good, a vibrant growing city in the middle of an oil boom.  We are the dubbed the City of Festivals and City of Champions.  Lots of stuff to do when you have lengthy times off, we are 4 hours from the mountains (Jasper), and 4 hours from our sister city Calgary and it's mountain city resort of Banff and Lake Louise.  Great places to take the family.  What else? Oh did I mention we still have the largest shopping mall in the world, West Edmonton Mall.  For more info if you are Net savvy; look at the source I provided.  Housing right now is a little bit of an issue, Big Boom = Higher housing costs.\n\nHope that helps with your decision!
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How long is he going to be stationed there?\nCan you go with him? It is in the States afterall.\nThis happens to alot of married Military.\nsome stay home because they don't want to move and they know that their spouse will be back in a year. but if it is for a longer period of time and you own a home you could rent it out and then rent a place where he is.\nIs moving out of the Question?\n\nGood Luck to you, i hope your dilemma gets resolved.
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Go to Florida, but don't expect a handout.  If you learn how to WORK, there will always be a good paying job waiting\nfor you.  It seems so simple to my generation.  How do we get this through to the younger generation when they have examples such as this guy's parents.  Wow.
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I live in Springfield and I love it here. I have lived here in the area my whole life and wouldn't trade it for the world. I have traveled all over the country and visited other cities of similar size and I think Springfield is the best. The streets are easy to understand and get around on, the traffic is never that bad. The shopping is pretty decent here and if you want more then Branson is only half an hour away. Or drive to KC, it's only about 2.5 hours away. I don't know if you are familiar with the area but the weather is variable. One day its cold the next its super hot. But its kinda nice that way. We have 4 beautiful seasons and lots of outdoor activities here.  We have several colleges but the population is diverse, its not all kids. Restaurants here are good, lots of choices. Springfield is the birthplace of Cashew Chicken and I think we have like a couple hundred Chinese restaurants. There is one on about every corner.  =)  Springfield is also the home of Brad Pitt and his family if that interests you at all. Though he doesn't visit as much as he used to now that he is with Angelina. =)  If you have any more specific questions or are interested in a certain neighborhood I would be happy to give you my opinion if you send me a message. Hope you get to make the move here to Springfield I think you will like it!
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From where I'm from people have to come to the US to secure a better future for themselves.  This was the case for my mother.  She had me in Mexico and had a pretty good job and everything else she needed, but she knew she would never move up.  She wanted better so when she was about 22 or 23 she left everything behind except for me, a little bit of money,  and the clothes on her back and crossed into the United States illegally.  Now 20 years later.  We have a home thats paid for she started a restaurant after working hard for 10 years and she became a US citizen and learned english.  When we got here we barely had very little money and no place to stay at to begin with.  No family no nothing.  So if my mom managed so can you.  Especially since you dont have children.  If you want to do it it can be done.  Get your education first of all and dont worry about marrying too soon.
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Well Orlando used to be the best but they shut that down back in 1998. Jacksonville still is a nice station but I do indeed like San Diego the best. People think it's more expensive to live there (true) but the thing about military is the pay differential that you get there. I got an extra $500 a month to live out in town there that was above & beyond what I would have made for housing allowance anywhere else (normal). Pearl Harbor gets mixed reviews. Personnally, I wouldn't want to live there for very long. Sure it's Hawaii, but many people get "island fever" meaning that there is only so many things that you can do & it is soooo touristy (=expensive for everything). Plus if you have family in the continental US, it's much harder to see them. It's a pain in the rear to get a vehicle over there (and back) and even harder to get pets to there. It is pretty - it just wasn't worth being stationed at. Visiting it 5 times was torturous enough. Almost everyone that I ever met that was ever stationed on Diego Garcia loved it there, but I didn't want to for the similar reasons not to get stationed in HI.
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Do not move across the country with a boyfriend.\nYou shouldn't move in with a boyfriend.\nIf you do you are setting yourself up for a big fall.\nWhy would you commit to him if you are not serious enough to marry.  If you are too young to marry. Also too young to move in together.\nIf you don't know each other well enough to Marry,  You don't know each other well enough to move in together.\n\nDon't play house! \n If he is not committed to you and you are not committed to him \n(I mean Married, not engaged) Why do you want to even exclude the chance of meeting someone else who you will want to marry and who will want to marry you.\n\nIf you move in with him.  You will probably share a bank account,  When you split he'll take the money and you will keep the bills.  You'll get pregnant and He'll take a hike and You will keep the baby.  OK now that you are a broke, single, mother, living across the country away from all of your friends and family or any other support system.  You can't even date, you can't afford a babysitter.  You can't even meet anyone for a couple of years because you will be so busy taking care of junior.\n\nOK finally you start to date again but you settle for someone who is not right for you because after all, you are now damaged goods, You know, Bills, Baby, Low Self esteem.  \n\nOK have a baby with him also and catch a venereal disease on top if it.  Well he wasn't right for you anyhow. you settled for someone because you thought you couldn't do better.  So after seeing that he really is a jerk, you break up with him.\n\nGet the drift. Stand up for yourself Now.  Tell him that you hope he likes his new home and that he can email you if he likes.  Bye\n\nAnd make a life for yourself now while you are single,  hopeful, young, and the possibilities of the whole world are there for you if you want them bad enough.  Don't mess up your life.\n\nDate nice Gentlemen who will wait to have sex with you until after you are married, if you will accept their proposal, because you are not that type (and don't be that type).  Stay pure in thought and actions. Go to church if you have one, do some volunteer work.  It helps to help someone.\n\nHave a Great Life!  You Deserve it!  Claim it for yourself.\n\nGod Bless You
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Questions you need to ask yourself -\n\n1) How long have I dated this guy?\n2) Do I want to move?\n\nReally your not married only dating.  Do you think that you love this guy and will be with him forever. Not to be too negative but what if you move and break up in a month?  Is your relationship strong that this won't happen?\n\nPersonally, I think you need to stick with your career for now.  Let him go for a few months and see how his company is going.  If your relationship is strong, you can survive a few months.  NC isn't that far from VA.
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Wow, that is a big decision.  Colorado for the most part is a wonderful place but I think it is important to do what is best for you regardless of the location.  My biggest concern about this boy is that here he is asking you to come and be with him but he isn't even willing to go back to your state to see you.  To me that is selfish and shows that he really isn't in love with you.  My biggest fear is that you would get out to Colorado and then he would dump you and you would be stuck out there away from family and friends on your own.  Even if things worked out between the two of you, wouldn't you want to go home sometimes and visit family and friends?  Would he be willing to go with you like a real boyfriend or would you be stuck doing that on your own with him complaining about your going?  It just doesn't seem like a very good choice.  If you decide to move to Colorado, do it for you and not for him.
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We're moving to New Orleans within a month.  I'm being reassigned there (I'm in the Navy).  We're excited about moving there because we believe that the city will come back better than ever.  Hang in there!  Also, thanks for the coffee house recommendation.  We will check out CC's.
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I am from Nashville and have raised three children here. The cost of living is not bad and there are jobs everywhere. Kentucky however has a very high unemployment rate.Unless you are a farmer I would suggest Tennessee.
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Now, what's your age and why should you move to the US?\n\nProbably it's difficult to convince your GF to come along - and a distance relation? Sounds impossible...
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Honolulu, Hawaii, there the city is culturally diverse and accepting, and although the cost of living is high, the demand for many different jobs is high.  You wont find a any place with nicer people than here.  personally It feels like a vacation 24/7, even at work.
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Hi, I live in San Diego also and am not originally from here. To answer your question I'm afraid there really is no guaranteed way of finding a safe roommate, there are a lot of nuts out here. I can make a few suggestions though. My first one would be to get a female roommate while your boyfriend is away and make sure you do a thorough interview and background check. You can do that by having her submit an application where they do that and they will then let you know the results. They range in prices but I think they are reasonably inexpensive and well worth it. I would also check the last adresses they lived at. You really don't want a party animal living with you because that means there are strange people coming in and out of your place and you don't want that. A student who is serious about her studies may be a good choice for you or a mature person. Another thing I'd like to mention is that you may want to also have your boyfriend with you during the interview just so you both can get an idea of what you think of the person. I wouldn't worry so much about the person being crazy as I would them not being able to pay the rent. And just an FYI, you don't have to live in IB. You should also consider another area like La Mesa, Santee, Point Loma, Poway, some parts of El Cajon, Mira Mesa, those are all nice areas and some more desirable than IB. I wish you the best of luck. I know what it's like to be alone out here but there are some nice people out here. Just trust your intuition and use common sense.
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Have you ever thought about the Midwest?  I'd go western Illinois in some of the smallish university town.  That way there will still be jobs and plenty of housing available.  Good luck!
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My dad was stationed at Schofield and I loved living there. There are many issues you will need to consider. First off the cost of living is pretty high. Everything costs more and I mean EVERYTHING. There are lots of jobs but you are going to get crackin' right now on finding employers that will work. There are a several civilian companies that do lots of work with the military and hire many people such as yourself. If you check out monster, hotjobs, etc you should see some open jobs at Hickham and Pearl Harbor. That would be a good place to start. Since your wife is from Hawaii she can prepare you for the culture shock.