hey i need some help. i was at a wedding in march and i met this guy there. we had danced and everything and he was really sweet. i have to questions. 1. guys when you kiss a girl even if you just met her does it mean anything to you or do just do it because you can. 2. is it in your personal opinion ok for me at 14 to date a 17 year old.?
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we, wel me (and i think i speak for most men) kiss women cos we have feelings for them in one form or another.\n\nIt is pushing the boundary of being OK for a 14 y.o to date a 17 y.o, the unwritten boundary (as it is) is 2 years difference. So for you at 14, it will be 12 or 16.\n\nHope this helps.
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The clause "how long after you date a man" is the correct one, however, as several people pointed out, the second part should be in question form: "is he allowed to kiss you?"\n\nHowever, at least according to dating behaviour in my culture (I'm Canadian, Catholic but not especially religious--I've also been with my husband for years), it doesn't make much sense. The question implies that you and the man have one date, and then at some point after that one date (the question is asking how long after) he is allowed to kiss you. Presumably the idea is really: "How long after you start dating a man".\n\nNow, if you are the one doing the allowing (as opposed to, for example, your parents or a chaperone), it would be better to ask "do you allow him to kiss you?"--but again, that may depend on your culture.\n\nSo in the end: How long after you start dating a man, is he allowed to kiss you?\n\nOr else: How long after you start dating a man, do you allow him to kiss you?
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Honey, as long as this guy is nice to you, understands about the difficulties such age differences mean, and is basically a good guy then date him, have fun, but don't let him press you to do things you don't want to. I married a man older then myself and have been very happy. It takes longer for men to mature then women so really he is basically your age right about now. So the real question is do you want to date some one who is the same age as you? lol
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The two of you married in front of a judge in Feb.? You must be in a state that allows marriages around 17. I really don't see how you two got married without parents finding out. Seems you both are not serious about this marriage and was to young to start with since the way you put it that you might get back together. My advise is talk with your parents about this...
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There is NO WAY ON EARTH that a 14 year old should be going out with an 18 year old.  It is not "against the law" to date, but anything sexual with him is a crime (for him, not for you).
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Well, I was taught by my one and only boyfriend that a good kiss is shared with the one you really love...He told me that because he said I was a good kisser, and I've NEVER kissed anyone (and yes I'm almost 18) and sooooo I didn't believe him. And then he said that, and it made perfect sense. Soooo! if you actually love the "experienced" guy, then it'll be all good ;)
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I am 18. I am a male. I have never had a girlfriend. And I have never been kissed. There is nothing wrong. There have been plenty of times when I could have kissed someone, but chose not to. To me, I feel that I should wait for the right moment, the right person, as you always remember your first time, such as the first time you rode a bike, first time you tied your shoe laces, first day at school. It is something special, something that should mean something. \nBut that is my opinion.\n:)\nEmail me.
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I can so relate to you.  I'm 22 now, you sound like me at 18 (and i was a pothead too)  anyway, if you've never tried it before it is just great to come on STRONG.  You guys are hanging out, get physically close, you will feel the heat, just kiss him.  HE WON'T RESIST, trust me.  I tried it for the first time with one of my close friends and now i always come on strong when I want a guy, guys respond to that, it makes them feel special because you obviously want them, not just any guy, and they can't help but be turned on.  Guys want nothing more than to be severly wanted by a girl, send the message and he will receive it!
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I was 17 and it was our first date. He was 17 too. We went to Makoto in Dothan. We were fine until his girlfriend showed up. I had no idea he had a gf. She punched me in my face so I stood up and knocked the s*** out of her. Then he stood up and told me he was sorry but I told him to take me home NOW. And then Isaid don't ever tlk to me again or ask me out again. He took me home and never spoke to me again.
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Dear Bunny,\n     Please don't be in a hurry to grow up!!!  You have YEARS ahead of you to become acquainted with men.  Enjoy your friends and peers.  Develop your own interests, activities, and hobbies.  Take time to become "you."  Relationships (especially in the teen years) can be a HUGE drain on your time and energy.  Enjoy being 13 (trust me, you'll be "old" soon enough!).  If this guy really cared about you, he would be willing to step back and wait until you are older.  Please don't let him push you into a relationship!!!  \n     A 17 year old boy who dates 13 year old girls is probably pretty insecure.  Why isn't he dating someone who is 17 or 18??
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pssst, it's me.  We talked on YIM a lot.  ;)\n\nMy opinion was that you should see how 1 date goes.  If you both have a spectacualr time, then at the end tell him your age.  He won't care whether of not you're 15 if he enjoyed the date.  : )\n\n\nLet me know if ya need more help, Good Luck,\n-Alexis
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NO!! I do not think anyone should date at 14 especially at 11-are you nuts!! You are asking for big trouble there Missy! My 14 yr old niece just started to date this 17 yr old boy in high school! She went to the prom with him--I threw a fit!! I am so angry at my sister for allowing it! This is the reason we have so many unwanted pregnancies-and causes of babies found dead in dumpsters and shit-this is nuts, I think that parents need to give their children more structure and discipline!! I know this is not what you want to hear-however I have three sisters who were pregnant before they graduated high school, and a sister-n-law who dropped out of high school because she was pregnant at 16!! This world is out of control with their children! The children them selves are out of control!! Don't mistake me for some bitter old woman cause I am not as old as you think I may seem. I am just very concerned with our children's welfare!! I also think that you are starting to second guess what you are doing--if you two have been together for four years why are you asking now???
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I had a best friend from college.  He was the DJ in my first wedding.  I was a bridesmaid in his first wedding. He was at the hospital the day my twins were born. 15 years later, after we were both divorced, he finally kissed me.  I asked him what took so long and he said he was afraid because he didn't know how I felt abou him!  After 5 years of dating,we got married in Las Vegas and we willhave our 2nd anniversary 8/31/2006! I am so lucky to be married to my best friend. GO FOR IT!
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I am man. I got married at 17. Im 21 now. Still married.\nIn my honest, truely honest opinion:\nMen will say anything to ensure they keep a girl. Truth be told, men are insecure in ways we can never express.\nAlso, this is a personal opinion, but men who go for younger girls, usually have no good intentions.
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Oh dear. You think you love him? What is love, then? You are not yet in a relationship do not go there, yet.\n\nHow old you are is important. A lot younger does not tell us much.\nBy 18 a guy has a few ideas on how to start a relationship, you need to let him start it.  If you are too young (>16) please do not do anything with him even if he does start it.\n\nAsk yourself why you want to be with him.\nIs it to be the cool girl dating a much older guy? (That's bad).\n\nIs it because he is a guy you have become comfortable with and developed a crush due to the level of familiarity? (Date someone your age with similar qualities, REMEMBER eventually you will get comfortable with them).\n\nIs it because he pays attention to you? (Other guys will eventually).\n\nIs it because you have sincer feelings?
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being a young man of faith... excuse my language.. shes going to be literaly ****ed over! there is no way in Gods name a 14 year old girl is in love with a 20 year old guy.. 2 hes only looking to get in her pants... (being a guy i would know how horomones function for my "speicies) thirdly... at 14 hardly ANYONE knows what love is even if it bit them in the butt. im almost 18 and ive found the girl i love, but she is 2 years younger.. granted not a good combo but she actualy realises what i want and what i see love as being. honestly if you cant talk to her... talk to her MOM or her DAD.. cuz any decent parent will NOT EVER allow a 6 year time difference untill the "young woman/man" is atleast 18... and if he touches her... theres a reason for the saying "16 will get you 20... 14 will get you 40!" so if she loves him... she may just want to concider waiting just a bit longer...
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Age should not make a difference. I should know, I am dating a younger man. So as long as the age is legal I see no harm in it. But, honestly, what do you think you have in common with a 20 y/o?