There's a guy I used to see who still calls me from time to time, but all he wants is sex. But the worse part of it is that he has a girlfriend. I really don't want to be the one he's cheating with b/c I don't want it to come back on me. I don't know how to tell him no even though I really don't want to do anything with him. He's 33 and I'm 25, but he acts like he's still in his 20's.
212065
ignore him.  he seems like a complete loser and jerk.  and worse, hes immature.  remember that you are better than him.  find someone that will treat you with respect and shove it in this other guy's face
520500
Jesus, how old are you? You meet a guy, then start cheating on him, then get into a hissy fit because he's "not your friend anymore."  If you can't figure out what's wrong with this picture, you're too young to be in a relationship of any kind.
256705
I think this could go either way, but if I were you, I ask him to meet you in a public place, like a coffee shop.  tell him calmly that you'd like to give your relationship another try but, you are not interested while he's within else. Take it very slow and keep a close eye on him because he fact is that he's cheating with you on his current girlfriend so there is nothing to say he will not do the same to you.  Be careful, you do not want to go through that pain again.
202492
It sounds to me like he doesn't want you as a girlfriend, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.  By leading you on the way he is, he knows that you will stay by him and not date anyone else because of the chance he will say you are a couple again.  I went through it for 6 years.
563678
Welcom to the club. I am still to this day getting over a 5 yr relationship (two years after the fact) So I am speaking from experience.  The Only thing that I can tell you is when people say time heals all wounds it may be true but it will always leave a scar. The worst thing you can do right now is get involved with someone else. Because your ex still has your heart. I know it hurt when you spend so much time with one person and then one day its all over. You all had a bond where you were not just 2 people but 1 soul. Its hard to let that go, you just cant let it consume you. The best thing to do is get to know yourself again. because when you were with your ex you lost yourself in him.\n  If you plan on reuniting with him, you hae to sincerly think about how much you love this man, and is he worth 4giving. We as humans all make mistakes. Men, Our flesh is weak, and even though we may cheat we still love our girlfriend. One thing to remember with men there are 2 types of sex. Sex we just want to have and sex we dont want anyone else to have. The sex we just have is meaningless its just something to do. (Probably how your boyfriend was feeling when he was cheating) and The sex we dont want nobody else to experience is the sex with that special lady in our life. He would have probably killed himself if he cought you in bed with another man, no matter how many times he's cheated. \n  Or maybe he is just crying out for attention by treating you like crap. (Men do act like childreen sometimes) Maybe he dosnt like a recent change you've made. The only way to know is talk to him. (Hint on talking to men: He's not going to be direct, Men are not as vocal with expressing there feelings. Just take what he says and ponder on it for a day or two.)\n\nNow take 2 of deez and call me in the mornin'\n\nOh yeah, Good luck with your choice
403965
Not calling just makes me think they've moved on and if I find out it's been a head game, that just ticks me off. Honestly what works for me is just being nice to be around. Nice isn't the word I want, but seems to fit the best. You also may have a partner who has a personality that is content with certain levels of partnership and this is something you'll have to think about if it applies. I'm very independent, and am not comfortable with someone who wants to hang all over me. I don't do that myself, and for me it's a bit creepy and makes me feel suffocated. Just my take on things, if you really want to know, ask your partner he knows himself better than anyone else. Good luck!
96616
Be thankful that he is honest. Most men at that age would not be, they would take advantage of you.  You need to let it go, if you force it, and he does come around, it probably will not end well because it was forced.
295778
Nothing...he is already taken...what are you doing trying to ruin a guy by tempting him to cheat in his relationship...your being selfish.
140593
You are so young so don't limit yourself to someone that isn't making you happy.  If you are truly thinking long term with this guy, it's important that you get some sort of sign from him that he's willing to stay committed to you ALL THE TIME.  Being 25, I can see why he still hangs on to his girls numbers, etc. which isn't a sign of anything to be honest but it seems fishy that he would not pick up the phone when you call.  You should be one of the more important things in his life and should always answer your calls.  It's the least that he can do.\n\nI think since you guys have been together 6 months, you guys should still be in the "cloud 9" phase and he should be all over you.  At least in my experience it lasts for about 8 months.  Only someone who doesnt' appreciate you or someone who doesn't dig the relationship anymore would do things he is doing now.\n\nI think you are doing what is right.  He obviously knows what he's doing is wrong.  He said so.  Knowing that, the question is, do you want to be with someone who knows he's screwing up with the relationship and still does it?  I don't know how frequently he does this to you but if he knows and still does it, either he's addicted to doing whatever it is he's doing or he doesnt' care for you enough to change.  Ask yourself whether you want a guy who won't change for you when he knows that what he does is wrong.
415597
He knows that NOT returning calls can drive a girl crazy and make her more interested in him.\n\nHe might just be keeping you as a 'backup', 'booty call' girl.  If that's fine with you, then go ahead.  If you want more from the relationship, you'll have to evaluate whether he's really into you, as a person, or just for the sex.
86121
I agree, stop the sexual part of the relationship and see if he still comes around. If he is willing to still date knowing he isn't getting any, then he is interested. If not, then yeah you were a booty call, which then you should kick him to the curb and find someone you deserve. Good Luck!
393869
I wouldn't chalk up the quick to throw insult "Cause he's a loser." Obviously you see something in someone who you've been with 6 years. All guys, myself included, hide demons that we don't want exposed. Don't be pushy about it. Don't push him away. Give him space and talk it out with him. Say, "Hey, you know. I want things to be better. I want us to communicate a little better than we do." Don't freak him out by it. Just play it smooth. Surely there are things you hide from HIM as well. Maybe not the same types of things, but things nonetheless. Maybe in a past relationship he's cheated on his girlfriend and feels that if information like that was leaked, you'd trust him less. Us men have our hang-ups, too. We just explain them differently. Good luck, and I sincerely hope your situation gets better.
341613
One thing i know in my life when i was in my 20's i start dating a guy , he would shut most Tye's to his friends .I thought because it was to impress me. Most guy don't want to mess things up with there new girl . If this is the girl for him ,he will start calling u again after the honeymoon is over.(basically when they get use to each other.)
316747
Don't worry about what you did so much.  He flaked on you when he bailed on the road trip.  His phone had to be working, so He was blowing you off.  He hasn't been returning your calls until he finds out you slept with someone.  Being a guy and see this happen many times, I am almost certain that he has another girl on the side.  If a guy is into you, he can't wait for you to call.  he tries to figure out excuses to call you.  When his phone rings and he knows its you, he will immediately answer.  If he misses the call, he will call you back just as soon as possible.  It doesn't sound like your man does this, so you don't owe him anything.  If anything, he still owes you.  I wouldn't worry if he trusts you, you shouldn't be trusting him.  He isn't acting like a boyfriend, he is acting like he uses you for sex and when he ain't getting it elsewhere, he comes calling on you.  This all smells fishy to me.
636128
Is NOTHING wrong with you. We have almost all of us had this happen at least once, if not many times. Why men and boys do this is that we let them. Go over there and knock on the door and ask him what gives? And no matter what he says - move on, but at least you will have had the chance to let him know what he did was not cool with you. Learn from this and don't do it again. Also, dating or sleeping with a guy in your neighborhood is never a good idea - if it goes bad you are living adjacent to the 'enemy', the 'ex' the 'bastard-jerk that broke your heart' and you may have to watch other girls come and go from his place. Never smart.\n\nAs far as keeping a guy interested after sex - the only way to do that is to have him be so interested in you that he will be willing to date you for at least 90 days exclusively and to not have sex without protection (both of you). If he does that - then after you give it up - he will still be interested nearly 100% of the time. Doesn't matter what age guy - 14 or 54 - they are all the same this way. If you give it up before you have a relationship and intimacy and other things to keep him around - he will be gone after the thrill of the hunt is over. He will be moving on to the next conquest. Boys and men are usually not gonna date anyone seriously that they sleep with right away - they may not admit it but they see you as the slut that gave it up pretty easily to try to win their affections - not as the girl they want to introduce to their Moms.\n\nLearn this now so you can move on yourself. Any guy that is really into you would have wanted to wait. Also, they would have called the very next day or that following evening.\n\nIf he is playing games - which he probably is - he will already have made moves on other girls by now.\n\nAlso, like the other post said - how many other guys will he think you do this with? And more importantly for you - how many other girls has he done this to that you have now technically slept with - and all they guys they have been with and so on and so forth. Be more careful with your heart and body from now on.
464162
I know exactly what this is about.  I had sex with one of my coworkers and see him everyday.  I do not think of sex when I see him, we had a bad break up and the sight of him actually makes me sick.  If your girlfriend wanted him still she would be with him.  You cannot judge her by her past.  The problem is you not her, if you dont trust her you cant be with her.  If you cannot get over this you can't be together.  Have a little more self esteem, you should look at it as if he was all that she wouldn't be with you.  good luck
318339
i understand you are very frustrated...\n\n... i can see that you want him to make a decision\nbecause you hate being taddled along and dragged about\n....\nand you want a definite 'relationship' or 'not' kind of\n... relationship...\n\n... and i bet you... he understand that as well...\nbut put yourself in his shoes..\n\nif you had a boyfriend and were getting along fine...\nand suddenly, a single guy enters your world...\n\nand completely blows you away...\n.. now what would you do?\nyou might say, 'i'll take him,' but it's not that easy...\n\nhe's struggling...\nand i might take a step further to say...\nmaybe his girlfriend is on him about this...\nmaybe she's getting the hint he's not 100% committed to her\n\nmy best advice to you is... give him time...\n\nif you constantly prod him, he might completely ignore you..\n.. if you give him room for thinking and reconsidering,\nhe will seriously weigh it out...\n\n... moreover, he will see your understanding side\nand your compassionate, openness and he will run to you..\n\n.. meanwhile, you go out and have some fun...\ni don't mean cheat on your soon-to-be-boyfriend\nbut go out and meet your friends... guys and gals...\n\nmeeting other gals will set you back to your\ngiggling-chatty-girly mode, which will ultimately put you\nin a euphoria of confidence..\n\nplus, guys will drool over you, and you can neglect them\nand gain higher self-esteem...\n\ngodspeed