i am in the dark little closet. i am in highschool. and have been emotionally scared from the past about being gay. so i want to hear some of the stories out there. to help me out in this time of need.
212965
well i am a freshman in high school and so is my boyfriend and he was as straight as they come but i keep looking at him and dreaming and wondering what it would be like if we were dating but i didnt have to any longer because one day we were in our german class and we had a free 15 minutes before the bell rang to go to our next class. he said " john i have to tell you something.... i might be gay." he sounded like he was about to cry and i could tell he was if i didnt say anything he was cause he started tearing up and my heart was pounding out of my chest because this is the man of my dreams and i was waiting for this day to come. so i calmy said "you think or you know?" he said" i... am. i waited so long but i couldnt think of a posible alternate answer or person to tell. but please dont tell. i said "i promice" then i finally had the guts to ask him" john would you date someone like me?" i was about to die when i heard his responce . he said " i would. you are a great person and i would really like to date a person like you. i wanted to tell you this for so long and now i can..... i love you.. i love you so much" now i was on the verge of dying but i gathered up all of the courage i had and said meaningfully"i love you more" and in front of everyone we kissed till our teacher said " Pack up!!!" i was so dang happy! i finally got the man of my dreams and it has been 3 monthes and our relationship is stronger than ever and he said" Johnathan i want to be with you forever" so i said again. " i do to and we kissed for the longest time". so coming out of the closet was no big deal for me i just had to have the right boost. same with you. just wait for the oppertune moment and dont rush.
142017
Ugh I hate it. So many kids at my school are acting like that. It's just a fad (or a way for gays to express themselves in a "cool" way)
133431
coming out of the closet is more acceptable now than it was in the past.  Back in the day, people were pretty much persecuted for being gay.  They may have felt that the only life they could lead was to pretend to be striaght, to appease their family, friends, and society... sacrifing their actual wants and needs in the process.  As we have become more permissive about it, these older folks feel safer to come out as who they really are.
290026
Although I wasn't aware of sexuality at all when I was in kintergarden I had dreams of being in love with my best friend, Mark Serdinack.  I didn't realize it was homosexual until around 12 when mom sat me down for "the talk"\n\nI then realized I had not only been having gay feelings, but had done some gay things as well.  <mutual masturbation, oral>  I vowed to remain celibate until marriage, however I only made it until I graduated from high school.  \n\nI dated girls and made out with them while in high school, but wouldn't go past groping while fully clothed.\n\nAfter high school, I lost my "virginity" to a girl, but felt it was really wrong...  on many levels.\n\nI experimented with a few guys, but was overwhelmed by guilt.\n\nI didn't really ACCEPT my sexual orientation until age 21.  That's when I realized that I couldn't change it and that God wasn't going to help any.\n\nI was resentful that people told me that if I did everything right, I would change.  It made me think that if the change wasn't happening, it was something I wasn't doing right.  So I tried harder.  I prayed harder.  I went to Bible college, intending to be a minister...  because I thought that if i dedicated my entire life to God, THEN he would change me into a straight person.\n\nIt never happened.  Perhaps I should have worked even harder at it...  given it a bit more time, but I think 10 years of that eternal damnation was enough for one lifetime.\n\nIf a person lives to be a hundred, 10 years is ten percent...  and thats all god requires.\n\nAt age 21 I freed myself of all of it.  By age 24 I was with the boybriend I'm about to celebrate my 16th anniversary with.  My life became MUCH better after I accepted it and lived my life instead of pretending to be something I wasn't hoping that if I pretended good enough I would magically change.
116085
This may sound whiney, but growing up as the "gay kid" in my school wasnt fun at times.  I remember being made fun of so badly as far back as 5th grade.  Being teased that much as a young child can do some major damage, now I get treated for depression and severe anxiety.  Nice way to treat a kid, huh? lol
195652
yup - as a teenager I was fairly homophobic if I'm honest, I was trained as a dancer and felt branded as 'gay'.  however by about 20 years I'd seen enough scientific evidence and met several gay men in the profession to change my mind.  It's not their fault, it's in their genetic make-up, they have to live with that too, it's not a choice they make.  However, I still wish they wouldn't be so stroppy!! it's a characteristic I've come to laugh at from time to time, you can stop them from a mile away just from the disturbance!  I don't envy them at all, glad I'm straight, got married and had kids.  There are worse people in the world (like religious folk in cults, like Christianity etc)...
510897
Cookie, I know what your talking about. And I believe that the coming out experience for some people are much different than for others.  Perhaps for some it was hard for them to be accepted at home, so they are out in public. Some actually hid for so many years that coming out is like a rebirth to them and their excited and it's like a new life for them. They can finally be free and not enslaved by being closeted any longer.  I don't think that some homosexuals really care who we think they have sex with. They know that straight people have questions and some are very helpful in answering our questions. Yes I am straight. But I have a gay son.  And I also have a straight son, that equals two great kids! What I can tell you is that it is a process that a family goes through. There are different stages that a gay person and their family goes through. And this is evident in their behavior when they become relaxed and can be themselves. I hope this helped abit. I am a PFLAG Mom. Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. If you had more questions you can email PFLAG and they will be more than happy to answer your question.
262753
Trust me... it happens!\n\n I just recently turned 16 (Mar.10) and I've been going through this whole change. I feel like I'm sitting on bridge and watching the world pass me by. After all the weird years in life I finally found my Hero - who saved me. My life is numb - I'm not interested in anything anymore. I don't care what someone says. I don't hate but I don't love. The only thing that makes me cry is the fact that I don't know if I'll ever meet my Hero again. He's a Paramedic - the proudest man I've ever known. \n\nHowever if this is serious and you would like to talk but can't seem to trust anyone. I'd advise you to talk to your school counsellor. I know... I used to freak out by the name of them. But when my teacher set an appointment I was actually looking forward to it. It's amazing what a 30 minute talk can do - at the end of it I had a few problems cleared out. Well, the problems didn't clear away but they became clear of how I am supposed to handle them. \n\nHaving said that, Good Luck!
667515
D! How come the guys get to choose from decent women but us women get the bottom of the barrel to choose from? Just Kidding. I'm sure these are all really nice guys. I just thought that this would be the perfect time to come out of the closet and let the world know I would rather be GAY!\nLove & Light\nSharon
462070
Ok. So I was 13 and i went to a slumber party which wsas  a boy-girl one. And we had fun but at the end of the night we played a game. The person who drew a 6 out of a hat had to dance naked with a boy who choose 7. I choose 6! I removed my bra and underwear infront of 16 girls and 18 boys! suddenly slow music came on and i had 2 dance with my crush naked! Everyone spread a rumer about how big and sexy my boobs were! that was soooo embarrrassong! \n\nAnother one: When we were playing truth or dare and i had to \njump in the pool naked. but when i returned they took my clothes and threw them away! \n\n3rd one: when my bra fell on the ground and the boys used it as sling shots!
441589
Several of those before me have pretty much covered and validated your feelings toward the "same sex" and not much more I can add to that.\n\nPerhaps the "better" question that was NOT asked is "is it normal to become aware of these feelings at this stage in your life?"  Today most gay people come out or become aware of their identity in their teens or twenties.  However it is not unusual for men in their 40s, 50s or older finally recognizing what these feelings are.  Many have suppressed these feelings that they have refused to label as "gay" or didn't recognize as such.  But over time as you become aware that these feelings aren't some aberration that is unique to you.  You become aware that having these feelings may be a valid part of who you are today.\n\nWe all have our own clocks telling us when its the right time to come out and recognize this part of our life.  Yours just was pushed back a bit more than some, and that is NOT unusual, that's just how you were wired.\n\nI suggest you do some reading on this, check out web sites about "coming out" or go to a bookstore like Borders, or Barnes and Noble and look in the Gay and Lesbian interest section.  You'll see that you aren't the first, and certainly won't be the last to have these feelings.
386076
Hi,\n  My heart really does go out to you because this is a very touchy question. For starters I am not gay I am a woman but all my friend are gay and I did call one of them to ask him, so I can understand you. I do not want to suggest something inappropriate, for you are only 16 so gay clubs/bars are out of the questions. That is where my friend and I go dancing. We really have a blast unlike regular clubs. \nBut anyhow,\nIt may be a bit challenging since you are not ready to come out of the closet. l\nLook in to the Internet for say some kind of under age/legal club or groups in your area. Since you are not ready to come out I would not look to much into school for kids could be very mean and can make it even more difficult for you until you are truly ready to come out. I wish I could give you a better answer but just try and look into that and I hope it will help.\n\n                                                            You take care :-)\n                                                                   ALEX
227962
Absolutely. I've had many gay friends, and I am happy to say they were all great people. More power to you for being open and honest. I realize that even in the 21st century there are risks.
104090
Back when I was a teenager, a lot of the little sisters of my friends had crushes on me or other friends of their older siblings. Their interactions with us influenced their sexual identity a lot. (And, no, I didn't do anything inappropriate.)
481652
my best friend in high school pretended to be gay for 4 years. i was naked in front of him, i kissed him on the lips, we massaged each other ( but nothing more) at graduation he told me that he was never gay and had a crush on me since freshman year! we are no longer friends.
626596
I've changed sexuality (or rather my perception of it) First I was straight, then I was gay, then I was ashamed & scared so I thought I'd be straight...\n\n...I was in my twenties before I realised I was Bi - would I change it? Not on your nelly.\n\nI hope you have a fantastic time in college - but remember you're also there to study LOL!
661988
that's very good of you as a parent . check the LGBT organizations in your town  http://www.lagaycenter.org/site/c.mvI4IhNZJwE/b.879315/k.D7A3/Homepage.htm\n\n this link might  help , the  best is that he get all the information about the bad things he will be exposed ( as teen no necessary for being gay ) and how to handle her orientation in the best way to  have a normal life and hopefully meet is life partner some day and pursue a good education  5 thumps u for being a good father