i need a way to forget a girl, i dont want to like her nymore im sick of it, all of my posts have been about girls and im fed up with this 1 ive loved her with all my being and its not working out she dont care about me or anyhting shed rather b with pricks and im sick of it, someone nyone give me a clue of a way to forget, im sick of remembering im sick of her she has become a part of me and this part is taking a hold of me i dont care about nything nymore just her and i cant live like this i know its love but its not love if its not mutuall its an obsession and im sick of it....help me.... give me advice plz....\ntanx
210092
Everyone, at one time or another, has to experience this.  The best thing you can do is go through the steps of mourning what you feel you wanted and loved.  Look the steps for mourning up and experience them all.\n\nDo you best to remove all memories, but most of all work on yourself and make and keep yourself the person you want a woman to want to be with for the rest of her life.  Then look for a mate who is doing exactly the same thing.\n\nWhen it's real rough, think about what would be nice to have in your life and make a list of good qualities you see around you, in everyone else, that you want to be a part of a girl in your life.  Focus on that and you will see some truer colors to help you through some thing that only time can help you endure.\n\nMost of all, know this is normal and you are okay.  And you deserve better or you would not be asking this question.
652390
Yes it will get better. You will eventually make new friends and be happy again. It just takes time. if you know you wont ever see him again and you just wanna get over it just delete him from your memory by throwing out all letters, pics, other things that remind you of him. do something else to get him off your mind, get a hobby, read a book about something that interests you.
78642
It isn't about forgetting, it is about acceptance.  Be glad for the good memories but realize that is all they are and will ever be.  You deserve to be happy but only you can make that happen by wanting it and by moving on and giving new relationships a chance and not comparing them to this one.  I've been down that dark road where you can't imagine someone will ever take her place but I will tell you for a fact it happens.
618839
Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!
147237
Just calm down... Be yourself ... If you really, really liked her and you do not want to lose her then you have to do everything to win her.  Ressearch everything about her, her likes and dislikes but first you have to do your first move by getting acquianted to her...then plan your next move... it is  like playing chess, you have to win the challenge
179046
Man,your apology is good enough...email her a freakin love letter but not too long and not real short.She'll come around-don't worry!
232713
dont forgive her talk to her. tell her whats bothering you and ask her to stop. if she doesnt stop then tell her you guys are through. i had the same prob many many times, lost a few friends but not many. and i dont regret anything so hey take my advice, or leave it, its up to you, all your decions are up to you, none else. good luck.
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yo son i got the same excact problem. Thats why im on this stupid website asking questions i already know the answer to. ill be looking in and seein what others say. But i think you should go for it cause I think thats what ive got to do with this girl that i can't stop thinking about every day.
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yup, that sucks, wont be the last time.  best way to get past it is distract yourself.  go do something hard, you'll feel better about yourself.  after having accomplished it. remember, you are doing it for you, not for her.  try not to get to hooked on one girl.  approach each one realizing that if she rejects you, it will hurt, but its ( at my age) three bears and a good boxing match, then you move on.  no worries.
586459
Good grief, just tell her you don't like her. You have to understand, there's no law that says you have to like everyone. You don't have to put her down, but flat out tell her, you don't want to hang out with her anymore.  Because as time goes on you won't do anything and you'll wind up hating her.
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She may have her own reasons, so don't try to do anything stupid. If you really love her, you'll let her go. \nTry to forget her. Not easy at all, but necessary. \nDon't brood over what happened and how it could have been corrected. \nStart your life anew. Hang out with friends, away from her memories. \nDo things that will involve you mentally and physically, so that she doesn't come into your mind. Even if she does, throw her out.\nGet a life, man. She isn't the only one out there.\nYeah, forgetting someone you love is very difficult, an uphill task, but it's not impossible. It'll take time. It may take more than a year even, but don't falter. \nPeople have let go of their loved ones in the past, you won't be the only one. I let go of my crush. You can let go too. I know love is different from having a crush on someone, but it'll just take more time and much more effort.\nDon't try to think of the past. One day, you'll be very happy without her. Be optimistic.\n\nGood Luck!!!
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Letting go is hard. You need to let yourself heal before you date again because you're on the rebound. The girl that worries sounds like a sweetheart but you need to be honest with her and tell her that you're just not as ready as you thought you were for another relationship. As for getting over this girl, acceptance is the key and the first step toward recovery. I've been there, I know. You have to allow yourself to go through the grief stages, and yes, it's like grieving over a death because it is a death in a way. You'll got through many emotions but it is a necessary path that you must take. This girl does not deserve you and if you have to get mad and hate her, do that if it works for you as long as it doesn't harm anyone. Avoid all contact with her because for now, it's keeping you tied to her. Heal first then perhaps you can be friends. If you feel you need counseling, than get it. There is no shame in it. Another thing you can do is to work out at the gym. It helped me a lot and when you see your body starting to change for the better, you begin to feel better about yourself and more confident. You will get over her, sweetheart but it will take time and effort on your part. God speed and good luck. =)
584864
Sorry to hear that, just forget about her, she seems too complicated and insecure, I bet you find someone else very soon.
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if you think its best to forget him, then you need to get busy, and stay busy. the best way to get your mind off of something is to put your mind on something else. although i dont believe you will "forget." forgetting is something we rarely achieve.
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hey there, i went through this too....  me being a girl can put myself in her shoes and imagine the situation!!\nso, i think you must go & talk to her &ask her if shes interested in you!!\n    if shes not, DONT go behind her she will hate you more\nyou could also talk to her friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!..........
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I don't think anybody else can really help you with this, brotha. It's all based on the decision you make. My advice is if you're digging her, go for her. If you want to be a jerk, go for everybody else. It's not that I'm calling you a jerk, but how do you think she would feel about the whole thing?
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ehh, i had the some problem. just dont think what u r doing and ask the girl u like her. after that, apologize to her and say ur sorry u nvr noticed her until now