i live in romania i got 2 work places, i go out almost every night but i can't find a girlfriend, i'm not ugly (i think), girls are not attracted by me, why , please ask me, maybe you now my dilema
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Its hard to say why girls are not attracted to you. It could be anything. Don't try so hard. Stop looking for a girlfriend. Try finding someone that has the same interests as you. Looking for women in bars and clubs doesn't always work. Try the internet, chats, clubs...etc.  Let them get a chance to know you as a person. Then see if can develop into something else.
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I seen your picture, you are a hottie with potential.  Attraction is something must deeper than that.  Guys aren't attracted to women, it's the women who attract the men that get noticed.\n\nIf you as a women wasn't interested, nothing will ever happen to get you noticed.  Just be yourself, and be a lady with class.  If you like someone, and they like being around you without you looking at the clock that is the guy you want to be with.\n\nFun, is the magical word here.  Don't be one of the guys, that will never get you noticed.\n\nDress up in some nice clothes, stop wearing the same thing over, and over.\n\nChange the way you look, experiment.... You are hot without trying, imagine the attention you will get if you worked on it.   \n\nChange your hair style first, then get some designer glasses and shop for new clothes.  Never wear cheap shoes.  \n\nGet yourself a pair of Nine West, and treat yourself to nice clothes.\n\nAlways buy a piece at a time now, for Spring and Fall next year around Feb.
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Are you really as cute and sexy as you say?  Just kidding.  But seriously it's hard to move around and try to make new friends.  Just try smiling and saying hi to people at first and if they seem receptive then start up a convo or ask them out for pizza or something.   Grab that bull by the balls and go for it! (figuratively speaking of course)
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Hmmmm... I think that you might want to seek professional help with this problem.  See the thing is confidence isn't something that you can teach.  A professional might be able to help you unwrap why you are not confident to begin with, but I am not sure anybody is going to have a magic pill for you.  Well here goes something.  Dude, the key to sexual prosperity, is rejection.  I know that sounds dumb but listen, every time your faced with an attractive woman, you get tense and lock up why? because you're afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser right?  Well just decide not to feel that way (easier said than done but it doesn't have to be hard).  Try this exercise, go to a bar, and identify 5 women that you are attracted to, and go and introduce yourself, i promise at least 1 will want to at least TALK to you, and then when you feel a bit more confident with talking you can start romancing.  See love, and dating and courtship is a numbers game, and every time you hear a no that is one less you have to hear till you INEVITABLY get a yes.  There are like a billion people in India right? 500,000,000 women, trust me at least 100,000 will want to talk to you or go out on a date with you.  So never take anything a woman says personally, and welcome rejection, as one less hurdle to your inevitable GUARANTEED success, and you may find that you can talk to women after-all.  Good luck bro, and I hope this helps.  I know it sounds crazy but trust me it works.
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well if you want to have a girl like that I suggest that YOU should also possess the attributes you want your "date" to possess \n\nI suggest you start by learning better english/grammar (no offense)\nand you can rarely call a well manered, working, educated and God fearing girl "sexy" \n\nps: the internet is not really the best place to look for a girl like that \n\npss: you are double posting >_<
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Man, I like your personal ad I am very impress. Im kind of like what you describe except I dont have any kids and I already have my degrees ...Im 34 in Chicago. I have the same problem too ,but with females. Females I run into they smoke(weed), drink and party... EVERYDAY, I cant do it EVERYDAY. I have plans and goals not to mention A JOB.I came to the conclusion probably I attract that type of woman because of the people I hang with from time to time.
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Seriously (especially in your case), some people are just plain shallow and stupid. I'm not trying to make you feel better or anything, but it is one of those advantage you have to screen girls who will or will not come into your life. Say, you are attractive. These girls make it obvious that 'your look' is the only reason they want to talk to you. I suspect you definitely don't want these people in your life anyway. \n\nNot everybody is that way you know. I think, unfortunately, you haven't found the right persons just yet. But that doesnt mean there are none.\n\nI don't think it has to do with either you are in europe or america or anywhere else in the world. Shallow people will be shallow regardless of where they are. Nice ones will be nice regardless of where they are.\n\nHold you head high. Ignore those ignorants.
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So what if you have no girlfriend? That should not be your biggest concern in life. If you're happy and social, you'll attract women. But if you look desperate or depressed, nobody will be attracted to you.
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You're what they call "A leach". You're the kind of person who is completely unfunctional in society without a signifigant other to validate your existance. \n\nMy advice is to get a hobby. Find who you are. Once you've done that, you'll be alot more attractive to better kinds women. Who would even want a soulless lacky clutching onto them for dear life?
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Well there is nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend at 18.I'm 22 and don't have a gf and am still happy.Of course at the right time she will show up.Maybe u can add me to your messenger so we can chat.my IM is bcoxy06@yahoo.com
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I am also from Nigeria, omo eeko/lagos. I am in the United states now so if yu know whats good for you, if you dont have a job or money to takr care of the girl, the best thing to do is wait. Thats what i'm doing, and it sucks because i know that i can get a girl but its just that I dont want, and yu wake up every day thinking if yur making the right decision. if yu want a serious date, yu better have serious money also.
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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Stay out of the bars when looking for quality women OR lower your expectations. There are surely good women in your area you just aren't meeting the right ones because you're looking in the wrong places or you just expect too much out of them. Good luck hunting!!
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aww..don't give up, just stop trying so hard.  Be confident and outgoing and the right girl will come along, you will see.  Meanwhile spend more time out with friends and family so you aren't so lonely  Have a great day hun!\n\n:-)
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It doesn't mean you are unattractive, it means you just haven't found  anyone worth your time yet.  Keep going out and meeting people, and it sounds lame but it will happen for you - and probably when you least expect it.  \nIf you want to speed things up, try getting a new hobby where you interact with people, if you attend church get involved with any singles activities there, you can also try an internet dating service.
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hey dont beat yourself up over it ..im 18 and never had a bf  and i consider myself a really nice person..i guess the saying goes nice guys finish last which is a shame...maybe your trying to hard and it just doesnt work out when your with a girl ..you cant compare yourself with your friends because everyone is different...looks arent everything most girls are looking for a good personality and someone that will treat them nice...some girls are looking for the so called "bad boy" type which really gets them no where.. maybe your looking in the wrong places ..you can always try a dating service which my cousin did shes 32 ..she has met some nice ppl and shes now getting married to the guy from the dating service..or just ask some girl that you are attracted...just be yourself and have confidence in yourself..dont go up to the girl thinking why dont girls like me ..just take your time your young
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It is because you are living a boring life that you havent met someone, you cant sit around and wait for someone to come to you, you have to go out there have some fun and meet some people ...\n\nI like volunteer work... maybe I'll volunteer to be your girlfriend :-)