okay, how would you feel if you were in love with a guy for a year and you thought he was the ONE, but then you cheated and kissed another guy, and continued to play with your ex's heart for 3 months after that, and then 5 years later you see the one you thought you would marry on TV in the heavyweight title fight of boxing in Vegas?
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if i would think the guy was the one i wouldn't find the need to kiss some other guy and play with him. if i saw him 5 years later i wouldn't have the nerve to say anything because i would of realize what i lost, then it would make me feel crappy which sucks.
77601
Something similar happened to me and I thought that the other man was the love of my life.I still love and care for him and can't get him out of my system, but I wonder if I would have felt that for anyone who was there for me at that moment,being that I was so needy emotionally.It is a tough thing to deal with and very unfair.I want to tell you go with your heart,but understand that isn't easy sometimes.\ngood luck and I will pray that the universe leads you in the right direction.Be open and honest with yourself and remember you deserve to be happy!
239811
You might have been together, but certainly not on the same page. More like two people on the same bus. Maybe he stayed around waiting until you got over your funk, and you never did. Put yourself in his place(so to speak). What if you were with a man who had a thing for sexing blow up dolls. And you said time and time again you didn't like it, but he kept doing it anyhow even bringing them to bed while you were in there too. How long would you feel you were vested in the union? Even if you stayed months or years hoping he would change? Eventually when you realize it never was, would you be so crushed that you would pine away for days? Or would you feel relief and be ready to find a guy you can sit with in the bed that didn't need any doll but you?
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how does it feel to be heartbroken? Well, it depends on how deeply you tresured something with the person who broke your heart. for me, it felt like HELL. But i got over it after about 1 and 1/2 year. when a broken heart will be healed depends on your own pace. Frankly speaking, i don't believe the guy said. it's too unspecific and invalid. that's like telling who you can be with and you can't be with. if i were in your place, i wouldn't think that he's doing me a great favor. But nevertheless it shows he doesn't like you. Learn to move on.= )
531702
Don't have any regrets.  Your heart was in the right place, but you are definitely on the right track by keeping it real with yourself.  Definitely do not jump into another relationship yet.  Just chill and someone who will love you for you and not for what you can do for them will just show up one day and you'll be able to breathe again.
620354
WHAT? you know how girls feel when a guy cheats on them and they don't go back! and guys feel the same way why don't you just tell him what you did! your such a loser!
598649
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
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Not sure if im late here but here it goes.\n\nIt's ok to be confused because youre in the learning stages there are many things to experience like what the guy above me said.\n\nI've had 3 long term relationships at your age, and now 10 years later, when I see my ex's we laugh about all those crazy fights we had.\n\nJust take a deep breath and look out into the horizon, 10 years from now you'll just realize how funny this all was.\n\nOh course you love him, I loved all my ex's too and I;ve talked about marriage to all of them funny thing is, time makes breaking up less cloudy.\n\nAnd yes you are hanging onto him because of the memories and all the experiences you shared. But remember people don't grow when things are stagnant.\n\nYou're here for a reason, and its either to get validation for breaking up with him. Or understanding why you feel the way you do, so why do you feel the way you do??? \n\nI guess I missed your last post, but Im gonna assume its because youre not happy. Listen to the guy above me and go out there and live life!!!
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I'm sorry things didn't end well for you, but you mustn't make assumptions on what happened. Not all of us are heartless like that. I know I'm not. I was in love, actually am in love, with this guy who had left for the Army. Well I waited for him and never did I stray my eyes elsewhere. When he came back, I knew he might get deployed for a year or more at any time, but never one did I ever think of just forgetting about him. I would've waited for him as long as necessary. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for us, but it wasn't because of that, there were other issues. My point is, don't despair, just because one relationship went sour. I'm sure someday you'll find that girl who will wait for you as long as necessary because she truly loves you. :)
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It's up to you if you want to wait a year or not. If you and the friend have sparks, go for it! What difference is it going to make with your ex anyway? You didn't cheat, right? You need to do what makes you happy, and if your ex has a problem with it, too bad! Ex's are ex's for a reason!
435476
when i was 17 i started seeing this boy that i had really liked for about 2 years. He eventually wanted to make things more serious and for some reason i said no and finished with him. I now know that i shouldnt have done that cos i did and still do really like him. My life took a different path and even now 10 years later i wonder what might have been if id said yes instead of no. i still see him now and still feel the same way about him but ive never had the courage to ask him out or anything. So the answer is yes i have yes i still do feel that way about him.
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You are an unusual person!!!\n\nIt's ok to still have some kind of feelings for the ex. But for 5 months you have been living a lie w/ you bf? Why do you do that to him?\n\nYou have been cheated by the boyfriend, and the friend.\nI would move on with someone who would make me forget that pig who cheated on me.It's not fair that you stay with the current bf if you think you still love the ex.\nMaybe he's not the one for you either.\nSorry, but true.Cuz in my own experience, I felt bad for a while for the ex. But the new one made me forget, pretty quick!!!!!
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I dated this guy who had just got out of a 7 year relationship. We dated for a year and I wound up pregnant. After 4 months into my pregnancy my sister called me at work to tell me that she had seen my b/f with his ex shopping at K mart and that she too was pregnant (1 month behind me). As hard as it was, I kept everything to myself and went to my b/f house the following night. I asked if he'd take a drive with me. I hopped on the freeway (so there was no jumping out of the car)  and beat the living crap out of him with my right hand whiled I steered with my left. I dumped his ass off at home and to make a long story short, I ended my pregnancy and left the idiot ex to keep hers...they are now happily divorced and he has since tried to contact me through friends and relatives while I am happily married to the BEST man in the entire world!
211659
Flip the situation and ask yourself how you would feel if he told you he wanted to be with another man.
463199
If i were you, because this guy has cheated on his girlfriend he will also do the same to you and disregard your feelings in time to come by going off with someone else....best advice i can give you is to protect your heart.
486951
Not sure.  I'd feel pretty heartbroken, and probably would be very near to ending the marriage.  It depends on whether or not my husband was sorry.  Haven't had this happen to me, so I don't know.
280364
well if you weren't in love with him. then why did you go out with him? why did you sleep with him? when you sleep with a guy before marriage they tend to leave.. i know this all too well. and if he cheated on you . then maybe he doesn't deserve you. you were in love with another guy while you were dating another guy that you didn't love .. did you go out with him because he was a charity case or to make the other guy jealous ? in the beginning?