Why would a guy have problems having sex with his wife but then get caught looking at naked chicks on the internet?  He seems to have no problem with that.  I even gave him porn that I made of myself but I keep catching him looking at porn and escort websights.  I tell him I will do anything for him in bed, I am a total sex freak, but he still insist on looking at other girls.  Other than this he is a great husband.  But I worry that he could be cheating.  He is in the army so he works a lot of late nights and goes away a lot but what if he was lying about that too?  Please help.
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Us guys are not that complicated and please try not to get offended. Women are like cars. When we look at our mate(even though we love them) and realize were driving a mini van we wish we were driving a ferrari.
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That doesn't mean he is cheating. He can loOK just not touch. Men DO like to look at females. It's their nature. It's how they are wired. it's OK as long as he's with you and wants only you. Don't you find other men attractive? I'm sure you do. It's ok too. The men you look at is of no threat to your man, right? So don't be so insecure. make a joke out of it. Let it go. Be a strong woman. Men don't want to constantly reassure their women they love and care for them.
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Men are strange creatures. They think in ways that don't make much sense sometimes at least to us (women).\n\nIts apparent he still loves his wife or he wouldn't be putting himself through the whole counseling bull.  \nAnd maybe deep down inside he wants to find out why he is cheating, and he is looking for answers.\n\nI suppose it is possible he wants his cake and icing too. But I don't think there is anything wrong with him per say.
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Honestly I dont think there is anything wrong with it somethimes a guy just needs to relieve himself but doesnt want to push himself on his spouse. In some cases it spices things up. It doesnt necessarly mean that he is not satisfied. LOL if he isnt be gratefull he has settled with porn instead of other women. I will admit that i prefer to go at i tmore then once a week myself  Me and my gf go every other day or every two days but for some once a week is enough   good luck
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I agree with 'leadbelly'....the real issue here is the sending of porn... funny Internet pics, jokes, stories.. are one thing but sending actual porn...that's another...addiction to pornography is a real problem...it hinders peoples ability to enjoy the real thing...contrary to 'jessica rabbit''s comment...when porn addiction is present you CAN'T meet the fantasy no matter what you do..it's not good enough..(do your research next time) \n   Do some research into porn addiction and see if your man fits any of the other 'symptoms'...you may already know the answer..and if he does try to get help because it will destroy a relationship
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My oppinion is that you are a few of the smart loyal and honest men out there and I applaud you for your well train of thought and consideration. I do not feel anyone should look down on you just because you have considered things that for others it doesn't even cross their mind. Continue your great way of thought simply because so many of us fall under pressure especially when being tempted with sex, and drugs. I was also a virgin when I got married and so many friends told me I'd regret it but I've been married for a year and the thought of cheating on my husband because I never had anyone before him never crosses my mind. Not to mention the great respect I got and continue to get from my husband everytime we make love!  I'm sure you will find somone someday who is going to also appriciate your well thought in life! Good luck and God bless
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I don't know about you sweetie, but an addiction is an addiction, and he is addicted.  Marriage is Respect, Admiration Passion and Trust.  For sure the first two are not there, since this is grinding on you.  And Passion is a bit tuff, if he oogles 13 year old girls on the computer,,, eeewwwwww.   You may trust him not to betray you by cheating, but hey, I trust my dog too. You don't have a marriage, you just don't know it yet.  You have a rommate..... Porn addiction is about the toughest thing of all to cure. ..... next question is why did you marry this jerk???? and in my eyes, any guy addicted to porn is a jerk.  How do you not find this disgusting????  And why are you still there????  In your place, I'd dump him and get out of this marriage.....You'll only grow to resent this crap as the years go on.... If you have children, you want this guy to be their father?????Sorry, sweetie, you asked
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I agree with Gill Billy. I've been married for the best part of 14 yrs and looking is a part of life. There is NO way I would ever cheat on my wife however we can walk down the street and have a bit of fun looking. I have had, in the past, invitations to play around and have always enjoyed flirting but never gone any further than that. I love my wife. Would never do anything to jeapordise what we have. I believe its great fun and so does she. Its just something thats a natural part of life to look around...but its personal choice to do or not do anything about it. Maybe I'm just lucky......I dont know. Good luck mate
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Whats wrong with a little bit of porn? You shouldn't be threatened by it at all! Its a natural thing all guys- and to be honest with you a lot of girls- do. Why not be supportive of it instead. Be more 'hey baby' instead of 'eww porno's'. He's going to masturbate, and look at porn. Its a guy thing, let him do it- maybe even get involved. You know, 'lend' a hand?!
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I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
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i dont think it is the porn that you are upset about, i think that it is the fact that he kept it from you. Explain to him that he doesnt need to keep anything from you no matter what it is. You will support him and stick by him that is why you married him.
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all men get horny in the morning, it doesn't mean they have to have sex...it's a few minutes feeling that they can ignore.... come on, he can save it for the evening to be with you ! please don't settle for that, this thing is addictive and it's already showing :"almost every day"... and the stress part is pathetic, aren't you under stress too ?! does that make you watch porn every day??? This is how you should talk to him and be firm, try to find a compromise at least, or believe me, you're heading right into a marriage disaster ! Good Luck
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You're just not fulfilling his fantasies, he's using porn to try to get his imaginations to come to life...............be grateful he's not running off to someone else who will.  Porn is far better alternative than cheating or leaving all together.  To be honest, porn is quite healthy for a relationship.
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I don't think watching porn is wrong... I don't always want to have sex with my man, so it would be pretty shady of me to not let him watch porn and do it himself... Tell her that!  I honestly wouldnt go out and cheat...just let her know that you have NEEDS that need to be MET (by HER) and if she cant/wont do it, something bad is gonna happen!  and if that means watching PORN and doing the job urself, it's better than getting it from somebody else.. take it or leave it.
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I think that it is normal in that lots of men do it...but it has lots of negatives as well.\nIt creates an untrue and unrealistic "image" - most women don't look like the women on the porn tapes.\nWhen he does it by himself - it's king of like cheating.\nIt can make the woman feel bad about herself and the relationship.\nHere's my advice - DUMP him - find a grown up that wants to live life with you - not play with his porn tapes.
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For starters there is absolutly nothing wrong with you. I was where you were years ago. The last straw was when I actually caught him fast forwarding during our time. I never told him to stop watching them but if we were in bed & he wanted to watch one I would tell him to turn it down or go to the other room. As for the BJ part HAH If he wouldn't give me the special perks I wanted HE didn't get his. Eventually any man will get sick of his own hand. My husband has always had a huge sexual appetite though. I found out later that he didn't have a porn addiction, he's into voyeurism. He liked the sneak peaks also the thrill of being caught. Try to talk to him again with a genuine interest of finding out what exactly turns him on about the movies without getting defensive. You might find that it's really something quite simple and possibly even fun for you to do together. You may have to stray from your comfort zone a little but don't let it compromise your morals or it will just make you resent him and you. A few years ago he stopped watching them as much because it was the same thing in each one. Of course them we got internet which opened up a whole new field. Our computer stays in the living room so anything he does now has to be when nobody it home so that helps. We been together for 12 years now. It's been rough but we have made it this far. If you do all you can and he STILL won't give you the proper attention that you need then there's nothing left for you there.
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Porn is addictive, and is very hard to break free of.  If you're worried about it now, don't let yourself be fooled by the idea that he'll stop soon.  If he's that into it, it'll take more than you fussing at him to make him stop.  The good news is that it does not necessarily mean that he does not find you attractive.  Guys have a way of separating fact from fiction in this way.  This is not a good thing, but it's probably the allure of the women in the pictures (ie, the fact that they're 'willing and ready to  go) more than the fact that they are thin or have huge, uh, body parts.  He needs an ultimatum.  Them or you.