any idea why i can give good advice on women to my friends but yet when i comes to me i am and always have been single, and a virgin...what the hell! why dosent my advice work me my self!
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When you figure that out, let me know!  My friends always come to me for advice on life and love, but I'm always making mistakes when it comes to my own love life!  :)
591846
I'd get some help. You might need some confidence to actually go out with more attainable women.
232364
It is always increasingly difficult to find a new relationship the older we get.\nIf you are well-liked as a friend then that is a bonus as many people can't even get friendship.\nHave you considered asking a close woman friend why she thinks you are having trouble? sometimes just seeing yourself from the womans point of view can be a great help.\n\nAre you coming across as desperate? maybe they think you don't care who you with and will settle for anyone that can be off-putting.\nI think you need to build up your feelings of self worth and self respect also cos to describe yourself as unattractive shows you don't think much of yourself.\n\nYou need to make the most of these friendships and get advice from any of the women you trust and realise that just like in job interviews you have to sell yourself to potential new friendships no-one wants to feel they are "better than nothing"
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I used to be like that and all of my friends tried to help me but it was something that I had to learn on my own.  I went through a hard break-up and then I didn't even think about guys for around 6 months.  Now I have a new man and I'm happy but I realize that I could make it on my own and be happy w/out a man.  My situation may be different that your friend's though.
422715
Dont worry about it.  You are what you are.  People will accept you when you accept yourself.  I would be grateful to have a good woman in my life.
577022
Looks are important no matter what anyone says but you have to know how to talk to a woman also.Relax and talk as if you were talking to anyone. Not as if you are trying to get laid if you are going around trying to get laid all the time you never will.Women see right through that s--t and it don't turn them on I will guarantee you.My best tip -Try to just make women friends and not make women.
617195
Unfortunately, you have learned a valuable lesson in life...females consider themselves to all be in competition with eachother...genetic, perhaps??? Men are not like this. They actually like other men and support them. This is  a lesson my mother taught me when I was relatively young. Glad you have noticed. Beware of other females, even your best friend will knife you in the back if she can gain from it...of course, she will be the first to say, "I'm sorry" after the damage is done. Beware!
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You are so funny! and so right!\nWomen are terrible...and there are heaps of us!\nFortunatly for me I am fantastic and talk none of that junk.\nYou are hanging around the wrong sort of women. These ones are either\na) shallow - interested in only appearances of herself and others\nb) self conscious - which is why they need to discuss others appearance\nc) uneducated - and have no knowlege of the world to actually have some sort of intellegent conversation.\n\nJust keep looking. And run away from these types.
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Some women ends up being spoiled and thinks they could hold the man in their selfish hands especially the girl you were talking about.\n It's not you... you need to wake up and think that as there are more girls in this world than men, I'm sure you will be able to find someone who will truly loves you.\n Give it time to heal the wounds and by talking about it, you're learning to open up. Changing yourself just to please a woman would not give you any self respect in the long term, so just be yourself always.
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RIGHT HERE! I have ONE female friend. And because I have a boyfriend AND a job I have one male friend....my boyfriend. Girl its been like that for me since the seventh grade. Girls for whatever reason do not like me. I dont know why either. I'm the nicest person I know for real. I try to talk to females but they just dont like me for some reason. It drives me crazy!
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lol even tho ive never witnessed this i think its mostly because women r shy to talk with other men so they stick with their friends and hope that one of their friends will make the first move to talk to some other people. also like they probably talk to each other because that culd have been the plan go out and have fun whereever they r and talking to their friends. if u want to talk to one then go up to them and chat ;-)
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Perhaps the fact that you are lonely and the fact that it is more-so the physcological traits that attract you to women, are related in some way?\nMaybe it's not that you aren't normal, it's just that you are looking to be appreciated or loved, and perhaps want more solid, sound advice and love than crazy teenage junk. \nPersonally, if that's the case, i think that's sort of admirable.
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Are you a complete person? by this i mean, are you doing what you really want to do, are you happy, generous, etc.? if not, focus on finding yourself first, and the women will happen. This can be helped by participating in various activities, which may also help your find yourself, such a volunteering to help others, to raise funds for charitable causes you believe in, etc.. Once you are truly secure, confident, and believe in yourself, they will find you and greet you, and/or you will know which ones to approach and will do fine. If you have no idea how to do these things, get counseling and/or do some reading on self-help. Those who are desperate will find nothing; those who give will be happy. Happy people will attract others, its just the way it works.
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uh, why do either of you need your own friends of the opposite sex? Any friends me and Hubby have, are both our friends, (usually other cpls) but we never have over friends of the opposite sex that we are both not friends with. He is 'friends' with everyone @ his work, (male and female) but never hangs with them other than at lunch, or the 1-2 times a yr their is a work party, or Christmas party, both of which I go to with him. One chick tried to get some alone time with him, but he told her no. (this was a few yrs back) I know what she was trying to do and it made me mad as heck, but he thinks she meant nothing by it. Wrong! Guys are very naive sometimes. Sounds to me like she's trying to wedge herself in there. I wouldn't suggest you getting a 'friend' too, I would suggest counciling to figure out why either of you feels the need for seperate friends. I can totally relate though, cause men always assume if you talk about another guy, (like oh so and so did this) or whatever, even when it's nothing, just you mentioning another guy's name, even in telling a story, makes them think you want the guy. But yet they can't see that when a woman hangs on to their every word (like she appears to be) or tries to spend time with a married man, that she is up to no good. A good councelor may be able to help him see that. Make sure you go to one that believes in manogomy though, because I know there are some strange councelors out there that swing and all that though, (saw one on Montel) so be careful where you go. I would definitely put an end to it, though.now.
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I think dating sites are bs too. I hadnt had a girl friend for about 2 years and decided to get on the websites. I would send messages and never recieved any. Well after posting a question on here about dating site problems. Someone told me to be a man and go find a women. I did and it wasnt on a website.
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I've had a bad experience with dating a girl that I'd been friends with. It was pretty awkward, both of us knew eachother and what we like with the exception of relationship needs. I was so used to us just being friends that I made minimal moves. Unfortunately, she believed in the man making all the moves. She eventually got bored and went after someonme else.
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Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.