He is mu husband. I was in love with other person. Due to circumstances we could not marry each other. What should I do? But my husband cares about me. Love is all about caring I know that. I care him but done love him. What should I do? Please help me.
211533
Why did you marry him then?\n\nMarriage is more than a way to have guaranteed sex; there is an emotional committment there as well.\n\nIf there is no hope that you will change your mind, then you are both living a lie. he loves you, but it will never be honestly reciprocated. Your mind is elsewhere.\n\nInitially, get counciling to help with these feelings.\n\nYou need to be honest with him, which starts by being honest with yourself.
591864
Nope. I married someone that loves me and cares for me so deeply. I did love him once, but he killed my love....now that I am married I realized that I hate myself for not following my heart. Its not fair to try to make someone happy and living a fake life that you may not feel. Trust me. I can't get out of it, and each day gets harder and harder.
571419
It would hurt, immensely.  One of the things that attracted me to my husband was his love for God.  I would try to find out what brought on such a change.  Try reasoning with him.  In the end, if I could not change him, I would try to make our marriage work if he was still willing to be married to me.
182632
Are you really in LOVE with HIM?  Or is it the idea of new love and that feeling of new love, that you're in love with?  Especially being a married woman, after a little bit of time you lose that new love/lust euphoria.  Perhaps there are some things that you are missing in your marriage that you are looking for in this new guy.  I know it doesn't answer your question, but perhaps you should work on the marriage that you're already in and see if you can improve it, because you must have LOVED your husband at one time
617038
I have decided after two marriages that there are different kinds of love, you do what makes YOU feel the best.  You won't be able to change your husband, and I know from experience, they may try to change, but it rarely works out, and if so only temporarily.\nIt ends up not being fair to either one of you.  Don't take a chance on losing your new love...........
209210
How can you love someone that you know is willing to be unfaithful to his wife?  Most likely he was only using you to fill a void that might not being answered by his wife or he just is a player that got married and you are just another play thing.  Either way bad choice.
177157
You know, I'm really proud of you because you know what true love is, eventhough you were hurt, you still love the person and want to be with him. The first you should do is to know what the root of the problem is, try to find out what caused your husband to find someone else and cheat on you. When this things happen, we should not always think that your partner is the problem eventhough it is their fault most of the time, let's try not to be bias, let us look at orselves, ask yourself "Is there a problem with me?", or "Am I giving enough time and attention to him?" These questions will really help you examine your own self and discover some of your negative sides. But don't compare yourself to the woman he's seeing right now because all of us are different and its not a good attitude to compare yourself with others because it develops insecurities. After that, try to talk to him and prove him how you love him so much, be honest and make sure will be able to tell him all that you feel. Let him realize that it will be better that your children will grow-up seeing you together because their primary need is not money, food, good house, but a whole and happy FAMILY... Goodluck to you...
213119
I will warn you now from being ther 'other woman'... you are setting yourself (and the prospecitve other woman) and your wife up for a LOT of heartache. I fell in love with a man that I can't have and it has destroyed my life (message me offline if you want to hear it). He calls his wife an ice cube and they have barely had any kind of intimate relationship in four years. I gave him love, affection and my soul only to have it destroyed. Could you honestly hurt anyone like this if it happened?? You have to think of all of the people that will become involved and it will more than likely turn into a big mess.\n\nThink seriously before you proceed.
277563
You answered your own question. You're married. That's it. What do you care if this person's attraction to you is physical or something else. It doesn't matter. You. Are. Married. if you're having problems with your husband, talk to him or see a counselor together. Bringing in a third person is a big mistake and will only make things work. Besides, you've only known this other person for five months. how long have you known your husband?
456197
Sweetie, if the guy was married than you had nothing at all an if yall shared such a deep connection why aren't you with him now?Maybe what you should do first is get to know yourself first. Trying being alone and seeing what its like for awhile. If you feel lost because you don't have a man that makes others think that your weak. You should be independent rather your with someone or not. All I'm trying to say is that, how can you be devoted to someone who's already married? What would you do if the tables were turned and you were his wife??? Just don't get lost in the midst of needing someone, and having to have someone-figure out who you are and see how far that gets you!
425407
why would you marry some one that you knew ahead of time didn't have any feel ins you can't make a man love you nor want  you even after marriage. So while your waiting on his feelings to change what do you do in the meantime (be miserable)
256987
He loves you very much. So much that the words "in sickness and in health" have a meaning to him. Not all, but many, guys would have gone by now. If I were you, I would love this man with all my heart and do all I could to hold on to him forever. He sounds like a very special man. Not many people get the chance to have a love that strong and true.\n\nI sincerely wish you and your husband the very best.\n\nTerry\n\nPS: True love can overcome all. He has found his nirvana in you.
619914
remember one thing LOVE ONLY GOES SO FAR.love can only do so much,don't let it repair what is broken and cant be fixed.if he is a type of person that hides things from you then what will he hide when you are married?I'm a guy and yes i fuck up but I know what hurts the person I love,I don't want a payback from her either because that sucks.I don't know what to tell you don't let no one make your mind up on what to do,and don't let love make the choice either,because will only take you so far....hope i helped
227871
Love is a tough thing.  Be sure you are truly out of love before finalizing it with your husband.  And if you want to continue the relationship with the other man, please make sure to be divorced with the husband.  Since the relationship is long distance, you may need to spend more time together before deciding marriage with the new one.
384641
He probably just came to terms that you two will never be.  You are married, he is married...why continue and put other people's feelings at risk?
229165
Well if it was just part one of your question and things were great now and life felt good for you then I would have said let it go...however now that you are seeing him IM somebody and asking her to go to a game,etc and you didn't even know about it nor were you asked? I feel that whatever is going on, within your marriage, isn't heading for anything good. I think there are issues either from the past or in the present that need to be talked about.If you guys can take the time, to talk about them and how it makes you feel, etc, do it NOW! If you can't, and you need an objective third party, go and get counseling and keep working at it. However, do something now before it's too late!!! I will say a prayer for you both!!! Good luck!
99913
You have a right to be confused- and so does he. First off- how long has he been separated? If it hasn't been long, you may want to back off a bit, just in case things don't work according to plan. Think about it: they did get married for a reason- who's to say they won't reconcile?\nSecondly, since you can't really control who you fall in love with, if he represents this much of a threat to your security, you probably ought not stay involved with him.\nBut, I do hope it works out for you- everything for a reason!