i have a problem that i think i don not make my wife happy i the bed how could i satisfy her sexually?:S
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I suggest sitting down and talking to her about it candidly. Try new things, buy her a new "toy", something sexy to wear to bed, a little porn (it works, for either arousal or a giggle sometimes, I swear) a makeover day...Chances are she's not sure how to change the same issue you're not sure of either. You both probably need a change, try something you never thought you would, and I bet the spice comes right back!..GL;)
660054
Make it slow, pamper her. Make it all about her, get her to climax before sex and then she'll have a better climax during sex. Oh, and after sex, give her some more attention.
140929
do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
66279
Put on a porn film just while having sex with your wife!\nShe could be agree and consequentially you could lose interest in it.
397314
Maybe you are just not attracted to her. It takes more than good looks to be attractive, you know.\n\nIf you're still interested in trying, perhaps you could gently explain to her that you feel like you're doing all the work and would prefer if she looked alive. Some girls don't think they have to do anything in bed... just lay there and be a passive sperm receptacle. You need to encourage her to get into it. (Then again, maybe she's not into it at all and you're just not turning her on?)\n\nIf that doesn't work, just face it and accept that you two are just not sexually compatible.
94657
Women think more with EMOTIONS.  Men react by the physical like a naked lady!  lol  Wome need to feel emotionally connected for it to be awesome sex!  Try treating her like a WOMAN instead of a WIFE!  Buy her a basket at Bath and Body filled with bubble bath,scented soap, oil beads,scented candle, and throw in a bottle of wine or champagne.  Then when she is in her hot steaming bubblebath with candle light she will REMEMBER who got this for her and she will be thinking of u when she is wet and soapy!  Then be sure to put a towel in the clothes dryer so she has a toasty towel to wrap her naked body in!  Use her new lotion to give her a back rub.  Next time u r in the middle of Walmart- stop the cart and pull her into your arms and lay one hell of a lip lock on her!  When u go to a restaraunt and they take u to a booth- DO NOT sit across from her- slide in right beside her so that during the meal you can whisper in her ear and use the occasional leg caress while your at it.  While driving down the road- stop and pull over the car- make a mad dash thru traffic just to pick her some wild flowers!  She must be with u so she can see this!  Write on the shower tile " I LOVE YOU"  Write on the bedroom mirror" God u r sooooo beautiful- just look".  Women need emotion women need to feel like we r the most beautiful and sexy woman on earth in our mans eyes.  And its up to YOU to try and make her feel this way!!!  There r sooooo many little things you can do to make her feel special and most of them do not cost a single penny!!!  Treat her like a WOMAN instead of just a wife!  Good luck to u
32948
Well may be the sex was becoming a routine and she got tired of that.  MAy be she never really enjoyed it, u know! Aske her, talk to her about it. try and tell how you feel. Ask her what she likes about it. Try doing what u never did before , that  is during the sex session. But you should try talking to her about. I wouldn't want to sujest Cheating, even though that can be an option. Talk to her.
557181
Just because you don't have sex everyday doesn't mean that theres something wrong with your marriage. If you want the physical enjoyment to last longer, why not start with some forplay. And if he's too tired to do the work then ask him if you could ride him. Also there are books out there that you could look at. And theres plenty of toys and creams out there too. I even seen a swing built just for sex.
585397
Dont feel bad. I have yet to experience an orgasm with my husband. The only way I can reach that peak is with a vibrator....I feel bad because I have to fake them...and I dont understand it because he can put it down in bed!
593726
no ,it's OK...... as long as your not wandering  through the mall while doing it...lol...no idea why your wife  is  not participating sexually... perhaps  there is some way to work on that too??good luck!
672452
Listen, if you aren't comfortable with it then there's a "comfort zone" issue that needs to be discussed calmly w/ your wife.  \n\nDo you masterbate in her absence?  If you answered yes, then it should be no different for her.  The same rules should apply. \n\nFor instance,  women CAN use their fingers instead of a toy...but a toy makes quick work out of it....remember, women take longer to "finish" than men *usually* so for her, it's a quick stress relief when her true love is away.  Same for you I assume.  \n\nWhen you are home however, try encorporating toys into the relationship that you BOTH can use WITH each other...that way you won't feel as "replaced" when you are home. \n\n A vibrator is a safe addition to your bedroom, however, I would NEVER recommend replacing a partner with one... It's one thing to have you gone and use it, it's another to refuse your advances to use a toy while you are ready and willing. \n\nThere are also "Toys for boys"...Check out the GIGI in the just for men section of my site.  Get a "His & Her's" Present (toy for you & her) Don't forget the lube & toys cleanser...no one wants an infection ;)\n\nhttp://www.MyPassionRep.com\n\nGood Luck..and remember, toys are meant to ENHANCE a relationship, open up lines of communication and NOT to replace a partner!\n\nHeather Merritt\nPassion Parties Executive Director\nCar Bonus Achiever\nLeader of Passionate Leaders\nhttp://www.MyPassionRep.com
483086
Two possible problems...boredom with the wife and the phimosis.  Maybe consider a circumcision and why not try some sexual councelling, it can help a great deal.
443112
if it aint broke, dont fix it... why play games w/ your husband? only causes probs\n\nthe way to get him to appreciate you more is not via witholding sex.  he might end up having less appreciation for you.... and even if he does have more, it's false appreciation bc you are just manipulating things.
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well, if you want the lights off and she wants them on, then compromise, have like a few candles going but the lights off, so there will be a little bit of light to satisfy her. And maybe she won't feel as insecure. Plus that candles are supposed to make it a little more "romantic". She can't be that bad looking, but maybe one way you can make her a little more secure in herself is to make the sex extra great and make her feel like you don't care what her body looks like, if you don't like it or whatever, but make her feel comfortable with the things you do to her body, it'll make her feel like you don't care what she looks like and that will give her more self-confidence. I hope that was a little bit of help
325903
Unfortunately, you know what you are missing because you've had so many multiple partners. Talk it over with your wife. Hopefully, you both can communicate with each other. When you go down on her ask her what she likes. Get her comfortable to acknowledge that it is ok to ask what feels good. Hopefully then, she will ask you. If not, be gentle and let her know what you like better. But, under no circumstances are you to bring up the other woman. Put them out of your mind. One of your primary goals in your marriage is to learn how to turn your wife into the most beautiful flower by the way that you love her. \n\nAlso, try some personal hygene. Make sure you have taken a good shower and your poop shoot don't reek of a sewer. Trim your hair and make sure your pole is slick as a whistle. Let her enjoy you because she wants to and not just becasue you want to gratify yourself.\n\nAs the golden rule says, "Do unto others as you wan them to do to you." Well, pucker up there good buddy, stick out your tongue, and show your wife how its done!
564633
maybe instead of telling her straight out you could do interesting things. suggest things while doing them like... honey instead of doing____ try it like this, or it turns me on if you do ____. Anyone can be taught how to be better in bed, you can play games on letting her getting to know what makes you hot, and you can learn the same about her. Make it look natural not like you've planned a speech to her it might hurt her feelings. Believe me if you love her its worth a shot.
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Hmm...\nthere are lots of factors that could affect her enjoyment of sex.  \n-  Try using some extra lubrication (you can find them at a drug store, or in sex shops with different flavors or with warming effects).\n-  Try different positions (there are lots of non-smutty websites that have pictures).\n-  Something i like is to use food...particularly strawberries with chocolate dipping sauce, or maye whipped cream, or solid chocolates.\n-  Put an ice cube in your mouth and run it all over her.\n\nThe problem could be psychological - maybe she doesn't trust that you can pleasure her, maybe she can't focus on you or on what's going on, maybe she's anxious or worried about something.  \n\nLastly, sex isn't everything.  Orel secks (sorry about the spelling) is good, dry humping is fun, mutual maturbation is very fun, or just good ol' plain tongue-roving.\n\nGood luck!