I have a boyfriend that gets really quiet sometimes. I have to wait for him to open up  (sometimes for a day or more). I know that he thinks and feels alot, why is it so hard to actually talk?
207278
Maybe he really loves you, and is afraid that he will upset you, so he takes his time coming up with the right words to explain how he is feeling. (I do that when I am in love) Maybe he even gets a little embarassed of his emotions sometimes, most of us are raised not to show what we are feeling.
292410
Give him time. Do you know his work schedule and what it is like. He may have checked the email and just not had time to respond to it. Maybe he is gathering his thoughts of what he may want to say to you. Sometimes it is harder for men to express their feelings because they don't want to seem like a pushover, or move to fast. I would wait and give him another day or so. I know that it can be hard when you are filled with anticipation. In the end, follow your heart for you are the only one who knows what makes you truly happy.......Best of luck to you
591240
It sounds as though both of you were perhaps a little too heated to see everything clearly,  or at least be able to talk about the situation rationally.  Now you have cooled off,  he hasn't.  I would suggest that you let him know that you love him and are going to give him the time he needs to be able to cool off enough to TALK about things.  Lines of communication are always crossed when even one party is too heated to really listen.  When the time comes where you two are able to talk rationally,  be guarded in what is said.  Don't speak with accusing words like "you did" or "you said" or "you made me feel this/that way".  Try something more along the lines of "when this/that happened it made me feel..."  You would be surprised at how clearly partners hear things when how we are aware of how we are speaking to them.  Good luck.
526178
Plain and simple, guys don't open up really at all, it takes a lot to force it out of us.  Usually something huge that pushes them over the edge will make them break and open it all up.  But to go and expect that out of a guy after 3 or 4 weeks is asking a whole helluva lot.  But you're a woman, and you need that communication link in a relationship, which is why relationships are so hard.  But then you have to add the broken heart into the mix and it really could go either way.  Him talking about wanting to do things with you in the future could be a lot of things.  Everyone has a perception of what they are saying, and the person who's listening takes it in a different way.  Happens all the time.  I wouldn't take it to heart, sounds like he's running, especially if he made that call without really knowing you at all.  Sorry you're all broken up about it, but best of luck
101179
If you can't talk and be open about your feelings with your friend your relationship is probably not very strong. Be honest about how you feel and let your friend know what you are feeling about the news.
173057
Many times a person who needs to be loud in conversation or the "Know-it-all" type, or the type that seems to not allow others to talk...is a person who is insecure and feels very low about themselves.  Their loud boisterous opinions and lack of being able to let others in on the conversation says that that person needs extra attention and has very poor communication skills.  Trying to tell them to "shut up" is NOT going to get the point across.  As a matter of fact...it might worsen the objective.  Perhaps if you make copy of this answer with your question and quietly and in private present it to this person...you may get somewhere.  Start with a "Hey...(his name)...can I please talk to you for a moment in private.  Then take him aside and let him know that you appreciate his input on things...however.."I'd like to let you know that there are people who have some input into the many conversations we have...as we have listened to you...perhaps you would be fair to listen to what some of us have to say."  "And by the way...eating/chewing with your mouth open or full is socially unacceptable...perhaps you didn't realize you were doing this...and as a friend, I thought I might let you know.  \nTwo wrongs never made a right...instead it makes a war.  So treat his rudeness with corrective/non-judgemental kindness and see if a greater response comes from your directives.  Thanks for caring enough to make a positive difference in the lives of others.
289921
A lot of women are different in this aspect.  Some don't make hardly any sounds at all either because they are embarrassed about what you will think or they just don't make a lot of noise period.  Some women (like myself) make a lot of noise.  For some it heightens the experience and lets her partner know he is doing a good job.  If you are speaking of a particular woman and she doesn't make any noise you may just want to ask her is he is satisfied and if there was anything she likes that you aren't doing.  Communication here is the key.  Hope I helped you out.
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I was in a relationship and I was by myself many nights b/c my then bf was a long distance truck driver.  Those nights I would cry so hard b/c even when we were together I felt so alone.  If I had a bad day at work, I couldn't talk to him.  He didn't wanna hear about it.  And aren't your significant others supposed to make it all better?  Or at least care?
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Two words for you. Be YOURSELF. I totally understand how you feel when you say you're frantic because you're trying to keep someone interested, and I had the same problem. But, I've learned that when you feel something, or you want to say something, just do it...Once you break that barrier, it's smooth sailing. People are comfortable when they can just be themselves and when they can see that the other person is also being themself. Getting to know someone is more fulfilling when you "Just do it". A good way to strike up an interesting conversation is by asking her about herself. When you ask questions and she answers them, you can spot out things you both have in common. This is when the conversation gets more interesting and easy going. People need feedback from the 2nd party in order to keep productive conversation. Smothering your significant other would only make her want to go outside for fresh air. In other words, she'd eventually get tired of being smothered and if she doesn't tell you so, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She'll become distant and eventually, everything heads downhill. Tell her how you feel, and try not to overwhelm her physically with the smothering. She'll appreciate the fact that you can openly discuss your feelings with her because most guys are kinda personal about their emotions. Be open-minded.
64707
I have that same problem.Just don't thick about something to say.Just relax and before you know it you will find yourself in a great conversation,unless he's quiet.Quiet people are really hard to talk to.Maybe you should go out for a drink.People loosen up when they drink.
120955
There could be several issues.  Your relationship may not be a fully open one and there is a major problem with communication.  That can be helped by counseling or with some books available at the book store or library.  It will take both people to be willing to work on this problem.  It could be guilt over some offense your partner has committed.  It may be that your partner is afraid of the resulting conflict the topic may bring out or the pain that the topic may cause to you or themselves...good luck!
520352
Yes,it happens and you dont have to worry about it.Just be honest to your BF and tell him that your mind gets blank when you talk to him.i had been through this and overcame it.i know that there are plenty of things you wanna discuss with him.i mean the topics are endless but when he is out there with you,you go blank.the best thing to do is to make a note about what you really wanna talk with him.memorize the topics in your mind.when you are around your bf just bring it out,one after another.dont have to hurry.everyday before going to bed,make a list contaning at least 3-4 topics,important ones which you wanna discuss the very next day.more than 4 topics may cause confusion or loaded.whenever you get an oppurtunity to talk with your bf,get started with these topics you have on your mind,and the conversion will flow smoothly.coz later,other topics will naturally follow.this will take little time,but ,when you are over it,you will realise that you are comfortable bringing up topics all by yourself without making any list or memorize.Talk about some common interests so that it will be easier for him to pick and ellaborate it.
111219
silences are okay, they don't have to be awkward.\n\nif both of you are okay with a silence now and then, even enjoy a silence now and then... problem solved.
274162
If you've been together 2 1/2 years and you don't feel as though you're being heard, you need to tell him as plainly as you've told us how you feel. He may not realize how you feel or that perhaps he hasn't listened as well as he might have. In that case, you both have a chance to make a fresh start at better communication. However, if this is something that you've brought up with him before and nothing has changed, it's time to quit the fairytale dreaming of how beautiful it COULD be 'if only.....' and accept the fact that he doesn't respect or value you enough to actually hear or care. This scenario will NOT get better. How is a girl to choose? By knowing that what you feel and have to say to him is just as important as what he says to you. It boils down to respect...does he have respect for you?
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The key to any relationship is communication.  If you can't talk about how you feel then things are not going to get any better.  Be strong, find a moment during your conversation to just say I love you and I am tired of fighting lets figure out a way to get back on track.  Or something like that, you need to talk about it or it will just get worse.
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
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Well Maybe He Is Just Shy. He doesn't know what to say and he's just warming up too you. You should talk to him about it, but try not to make it seem as if you're pushy about it. But Just think he may think that YOUR the one not talking to HIM. So talk to him about it and i hope it all works out :].