he is in collage and he cheated on me once but we worked it out and we are still together and all i wanna know is is this relationship between us going to work and is he going to be a good father to his daughter that is due june 15
204492
there is no way anybody here can answer that for you, the fact that you feel the need to ask is not a good sign though.  make sure you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in case it doesn't though, its the best way to protect yourself against the possibility that it won't and you are now responsible for another life.  why are you having a child with someone you have so many doubts about?
191251
It is a good idea that he doesn't meet her till you are both sure where your relationship is headed. You don't want to confuse your daughter. Your daughter could also become attached to him and if you both decide to end the relationship it's one less thing you have to worry about.
188809
thats very unfair..you have a future too and you still have time to work for it..are you just going to sit there and wait for him when you can go and get yoursel a life? he's not being fair to you. if you really love each other, having a long distance college life wouldn't affect your relationship..i also think that he's afraid of what you too may do in college just the same as you are afraid of what may happen to him in college..what if after college he leaves you? then you loose your boyfriend and your future. besides, going off for college would be a good obstacle to prove if you really love each other..but above all? i dont think its a good idea not to go to college just because he said so..at least if you go to college too, your future could be set and who knows maybe you'll find out more of what your relationship is made of..
361985
Just let the relationship between you and him unfold naturally.  In due time you will know if you want to call him Dad or not.  It wouldnt be disrespectful if you never call him Dad considering he wasnt there for you all this time.  Just play it by ear and listen to your heart......you will know when and if you want to do this, but i am glad the two of you are working on a relationship
667027
It is up to you . . . but in my opinion . . . you and him are both too young to be in a relationship.  You are the only girl he ever knew . . . and when he goes to college . . . he will see what the possibility could be for his future.\n\nThis relationship . . . if it gets committed . . . will eventually lead to break-up and heartache because one will eventually cheat . . . I am sorry to be blunt . . . but I guarantee it will happen . . . it will be him that cheats or you . . . because you both will be separated from each other . . . .
324618
after seeing that your only 15... i think you shouldn't even be involving yourself in this relationship. No matter what his daughter will be his # 1. he shouldn't have to make up for time spent with his lil girl. your TOO young, go out and have some fun! your better off just being his friend.
431780
I think you should do what is best for u and ur child. if he is a good father, and treats you well, and you LOVE him, you should be hopeful. If he isn't any of those, tell him ur  glad he's in ur life, but you'll never be together again.
13324
Spend more time to really know about him before you make that kind of decision, time do mean a good testing for both side to see this relationship is real or not...plus you maybe still too young or have lot of other time to see more people or more things in a more mature view later time.\n\nMost important is how your parents think? try to seek their advice, try to understand what they say to you is reasonable or not. As it is surely TOO risky for you that so young and have to follow this man to another country...as what may happen if things not work out well? that will be a big price to pay not mention may effect your study and future as well.\n\nHope you find your answer very soon then :)
555109
Sounds like the situation is too deep to simply resolve before going away to college.  I suggest that you tread lightly around her until you leave (so not to aggravate the situation more) and when you're at college, do your best and make good grades.  I'm a parent and knowing that my kids are doing well in college is a great gift.  Although you two may not be getting along on day-to-day issues, I am sure she will be very proud if you do well in college.  This could be the ice breaker you need to start improving your relationship.
448305
OK you need to do what you feel is right. I think that you need to tell your current g/f a/s/a/p you don't want her finding out later from someone else. It is so nice to see you wanting to help out this woman and her child. But I do think it would be wise for you to get a paternity test done. She is the one that offered you one. I really don't know what else to tell you, except you sound like a really great guy and her and her daughter would be very lucky to have you in their lives.
426458
I think he is possibly thinking of your future together.  You still have three years of high school left, so don't worry so much.  Time takes care of things, often.  It is wise to go on to college or business school, however.  A high school education just doesn't cut it anymore.
10672
Your relationship has the potential to do well. If communication, trust, and all those other factors (such as passion, commitment, etc.) have perservered through your time in high school, then maybe you will succeed in your relationship as long as those items remain constant and in good status.\n\nYour relationship, however long or not, may cause a bit of a hinder in your future though. In college, many people that may be to your liking would appear and therefore test whether you or him are strong enough to hold on to each other.
579135
He's in another relationship. Don't mess with it. Wait!\n\nYour Father notified him of your feelings.\n\nIf his current relationship is so-so and he has feelings for you, he will break off the current relationship and approach you.\n\nIf his relationship is solid, you will have some idea from the lack of response by him to you, and you should move on.\n\nThe association that you had with him at camp last week may give him a better perspective of the type of girl you are, and he may act on HIS feelings. Wait, and see what develops.
272538
Oh that is so awesome that he is going to be an aggie! Be proud that you've found such a great guy!!! It will definitley be hard to be in a long distance relationship, especially since you are both in college. But I think you guys are both smart, so I have faith that you can do it! Gig 'em Aggies!!!
332381
We can't answer that for you.  Your primary concern should be your daughter, so concentrate on that.  You were a witness to the event, you need to make a judgement call.  The fact that you are having doubts about his character (wondering if he's a pedophile) make me think there must be more to this story.  If you seriously think this is possible, maybe you need to end the relationship. And if you choose not to, don't you dare leave your daughter alone with him!
417547
why is he so far behind in child support? it seems to me like he doesn't really care about you or your daughter...\n\nif he really wants to be in ur daughter's life, he has to prove that he is serious about it...otherwise, i don't think u should move.
274873
If you have any gut feeling that he MAY cheat again, then don't try to reconcile.\n\nRemember - it's better for your daughter to be FROM a broken home than IN a broken home.\n\nInstead, work on creating a wonderful parent-partnership with him and provide support and encouragement for his relationship with your daughter.\n\nAnd....find a love that delivers all that you deserve!  A man that will be a good example to you daughter on how a man should treat a woman so that she grows up to find a man with his same attributes.