He makes comments about my social life that aren't true and tries to get other co-workers to believe that I am lazy. In our depatartment, we all know that he is a jacka**, but what do i say to those outside of my department who might actually believe him?
217753
Confront him! Try to get him in front of as many people as possible and ask him why he's lying about you. Say you know he must be a very insecure person that's why he always puts other people down to make himself feel better about himself. Then just walk away. He'll look a right idiot. Good luck!
569642
My boss is truly psychotic.  He's one of the uglier people I've met in my life, but he throws his money around when he goes out so he has a new gold-digging girlfriend every week.  He really doesn't have as much money as he says he does after he's paid off his three ex-wives, so I guess the joke is on the gold-diggers.  The funniest thing is when he struts around the office bragging about all his girlfriends ~ he really thinks he's hot!
615979
A poplular term used when discussing dimwit bosses is "manage your boss."  If you see her beginning to point in a direction you know to be incorrect, try playing the part of Devil's Advocate and pointing out some of the pitfalls in her way of thinking.  Another tactic is to think out loud, walking through the consequences of her decision step by step.  As long as you do this in a way that initially sounds like you are agreeing with her, you'll be fine.\n\nThe saving grace in your case is that "numerous people in the company seek advice from [you] and not her."  This indicates that they also know that your boss is clueless.  However, do not EVER tell anyone else that you actually think your boss is clueless!  Always cover your butt when taking about your boss.  Perhaps she's not been there as long as you, or she has a lot on her plate, or she's just not involved in the issues as much as your are.  Whatever the case may be, let everyone else pump up your reputation.  If your boss begins getting in hot water from her superiors, stay out of it as much as possible and just make sure your supporting co-workers are close at hand to support you as a replacement should that happy opportunity present itself.\n\nOh, and when things just get too frustrating, buy a stress ball.
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I agree...because what if they call later down the road to verify again your work habits or ethics, it's not gonna look good if your friend is like 'huh?'.  Ask him if you can substitute a different type of reference.  But honesty is usually the best policy.
280254
I think you should just be upfront with him.  Pull him aside (don't let any of your other co-workers know you're going to talk to him though, so he won't get funny looks after you're done with your conversation) and gently and kindly tell him how you feel.\n\nTell him you don't want him to take offense in what you're about to say, but that you feel like you really should let him know that his body odor is...distracting.  \n\nAssure him that you aren't going to make any suggestions about his hygiene because you know that he can surely decide on his own what he wants to do with this information.  You're just there to maybe make him aware of something he might not even have noticed.  \n\nHopefully, he'll really KNOW what to do and this will no longer be an issue.  Good luck!
602348
Great answer from teresawol.  it sounds like he is intimidated by you.  Actually you can tell him to f off, you just have to do it in a very tactful way and when he responds, do what he does....act like you don't know what he is talking about.  There are laws that protect you from being dismissed w/o cause. I do realize that this is a right to work state.
265139
Set the mf up.  Make up something outrageous and when your boss asks you about it just laugh it off.  Keep doing that and he/she will either stop or get fired.
461549
Since you tried to switch with co-workers already, if you call in sick everyone will know. You'll either stick someone with a double or get someone called in - either way they will be pizzed at you.\n\nCall him and tell him "I just can't make it, something very personal and very important came up, I won't be in" Be firm, no way...can't make it, sorry. Say you are uncomfortable asking others to fill in because they will keep asking why and it's personal - ask him to please find a replacement. If he prys as to why say it is extremely personal.\n\nTake care and good luck\n\n\nMike\n\n================
87120
If it is at work, maybe go to the personnel department and talk it over with someone....or talk to people who are completely out of the situation and will not tell what you say.\n\nDevelop a plan to get out of there...document everything you do in case they accuse you of something. Carefully develop an alliance with someone there getting their approval of you, without telling them you have a problem..for example if your boss is mean, and there is someone else that has authority there too, impress them with how nice or good you are, and get their approval.  Sometimes one authority figure will speak positive things to the other and help to change their mind.\n\nSit tight and be careful...ask God to help you..
363850
Where do you work?  This is not normal behavior report him at once
133854
His attitude should be reported. Never assume what a person is saying but you can judge what they said and I see that as unprofessional.
6719
Take courage and confront him.  Ask him to explain exactly what he meant by those comments, or tell him that you will be forced to report him for sexual harrassment.  Under no circumstances do you report him without first asking him to explain (as it MIGHT be possible the comments were misunderstood... he might just be a poor joker)!
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they're co-workers.  not your friends.  you don't have to necessarily explain yourself.  but, like the others mentioned, the printer is distracting, and tell them they're welcome to use that cubicle.\n\neither that, or just tell them the voices in your head said to move to the other office, and you'd rather move instead of go postal on them.  see if they agree.
131954
its impossible. its the same thing at my job. i have been there for seven years, every DAY is new gossip. unfortunately thats just how people are. you can choose not to associate with them, but they will still talk about you--even if they are your 'friends'....\n\ntry not to talk about anyone, just ignore people when they bring up gossip around you or change the situation... tell whoever is gossiping--'look, i really dont like talking about other people' and change the subject. they will respect you for it, obviously you are more mature then them.\n\n\ngood luck .
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If you value your job (over his that is) I suggest that you do nothing.  One mention of the fault in his writing is enough.  Any more will be considered insubordination.\n\nUnless this boss is your younger brother, that is\n\n\nI expect he may go home and ask someone else about your suggestion.  Good bosses do not hear criticism and do nothing.  But it is NOT your place to do any more in this situation.  Trust me!!\n\nAnd you misspelled  /tactfully/ - "filled with tact"
86697
I have alot of experience with this and I have learned one important thing....there are one of these people at every single job/workplace.  If you are not his supervisor, do nothing.  It seems the boss likes him so your best bet is to go to work, do your thing, keep to yourself, then go home.
56001
you can tell HR and they will know youare moaner with no proof.  you got to have real solid evidence which you dont have.  so start sticking up for yourself.  tell hi loudly in fornt of everybody " I am not your cutie pie so back off you old fart.  if he sits by you get up and move.  give him and every person in the room the clear idea that your to good to put up with his sickness.    You gotta fight your own wars nobody can do it for you.  Then when your boss ask whats going on tell her or him.  \n\nbut if you go complian about it without taking any action first they will think "oh brother her comes a new trouble maker", and think you are over reacting becasue you are.