State is involved with kids of ex-wife. He is not behind in payments & was trying to gain full custody of kids with current wife when sent to jail for prior problem.
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Does the current wife own the house? If yes then of course, if he's the owner then he'll have to give her permission, but of course can still be done.  The state would only be able to collect what was owed, and since he was up to date that wouldn't be much that he's behind.
614662
He needs to get in contact with the child support agency that his is sending his money to.  And a lawyer,  if he has visitation rights.  Than he has the right to know where his child is and to see them.  The cops are just going to say that they can't do anything unless he has full custody.  Go to the court and talk to the judge that signed the visitation order.  They may be able to help know what he signed and what to do.  He should have never signed something that  he didn't completely understand.  I did that, and the people ended up getting full custody of my son and took off with him,  When they and their lawyers told me over and over that I was signing a temporary custody agreement.  Legal papers are so confusing even to very smart people.  Keep standing behind him and helping your man.  I commend you for being a real woman, and hold on to your hope and strength.  Because it may take time and money that you think that you don't have.  But every thing will work out for you.
238957
lol, maybe i'm wrong, but i agree w/ you. my fiance has 3 support cases, (n pays w/out complaint.) n no, its not a measly lil 200.00 like someone said. its 530.00, 240.00, (which is for children niether mom or dad have, she pays 240, he pays 240) and 165.00! we have 2 of our own plus i have 1 from a previous, that he is sole provider for. now, he's also getting sued for support of 2 kids that are his exs by someone else n hes never even met these kids! plus his ex went to court fri. and was told that since shes recieving tanf for these two new kids, she doesnt have to pay for the two that they have together??? so wheres the justice in it all? i think men do get the shaft and if women want to moan and cry about how hard it is to take care of thier kids alone, they can always give them to thier dad to raise. some of the dads would be more than happy to get a chance!!
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Since the biological mother lost custody he has a good chance.  Why is he just now pursuing this though...that wil be a MAJOR factor.
87814
Honestly, you could prob. get the $$ back; but it would cost you, and might not be worth it. Anyway, you could get a lawyer in CA, and have him look into it.\n\nMy step-son had the same headache. It was cheaper for him to let it go and move on.
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You are going to have to set some rules. He is going to be in your life, on a limited basis, for years to come because of the children, but you need to set a few things straight. One, he MUST pay child support. Two. When it's his visitation, he picks the children up, and brings them back. Don't let him run over you on this. Stand your ground! He can pay a visit to the jail house.....then he WILL obey the rules. Good Luck!!
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I've seen people walk out of courtrooms as free people with $80,000 owed in back child support - putting them in jail does not erase the child support deficit.  These people game the system - pure and simple.  If he's in contempt, he won't pay, he does not work and sells drugs - contact the DEA or FBI and see if they can garnish his Maxima, his mother's house or anything else.  Any child support arrearage over $10,000 becomes a federal offense - not many people know that....
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There was a man here in Texas that spent 14 years on death row for rape and murder of a teenage girl at a volleyball tournament. He was released after 14 years for wrongful conviction. I don't think that the state paid anything to him for those 14 years. In fact, after they released him, they picked him up again for failure to pay child support while he was in the state penitentiary. His family spent everything that they had for appeals and finally there were a couple of attorneys who donated their time to his cause.
297896
Since the step-father signed the certificate and (I assume) acted as if he were the child's father, providing support for her, etc., he would likely be forced to pay child support. The case law varies quite a bit by state, but there's a growing number of cases where non-biological parents were forced to pay child support.
597290
From everything you have said it is only quite obvious that he doesn't have the stability for custody, however the court will probably give him some sort of visitation because he is the father and wants to see his children. The mother could have stipulations put on this such as court ordered drug testing and supervised visits to make sure that he is staying clean, and considering his past with drugs, the court would be likely do this. You didn't mention if your friend had an attorney. It would probably be a good idea to seek an attorney's advice on this.
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One (or both) of them may be leaving the door open for a future reconciliation. The person doing this may not even know that this is the case. When I left my first husband, he said he wasn't going to file since I left him, I was the one with the problem, and there were financial issues as well. This went on for several years. At one stage, I did go back to him, and he dumped his girlfriend like garbage. I am not proud of this, she was a nice girl, but I think I did her a favor since he went on to drugs & crime. After going back & finding out for sure he was wrong for me, I did file for divorce.\n\nThis is NOT to say that this is the case with you. But it could be possible. Maybe she thinks in the back of her mind that he will come back. Financial complications are easily resolved by lawyers, ask him to see one. A married man is a married man, whether he lives with her or not. Neither the law nor time is on your side. Good luck.
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No, your not the only one that feels that way. My girlfriend is from Maryland. She has been going through custody issues with her soon to be ex, and it has been a nightmare. He wanted absolutely nothing to do with his two kids while they were living under the same roof. Then when she left, he tried to be father of the year. He injured his son recently and charges were filed against him. He is calling his son a liar and denying what happened. It isnt the fault of the court system, its the idiotic judges who make the rulings. Remember Judge Palumbo who was recently removed from the bench in Prince Georges county over the woman whose ex-husband set her on fire? He is a prime example of an idiotic, biased judge.
29778
He sounds like a dirtball. Sorry to hear it. Get a good lawyer and take his a*s to court again. DONT listen to friends and family...get a lawyer. Your kids well being is worth it. GOOD LUCK!
112043
Go to court.  If your wife is healthy and able to work you have a good chance of getting the amount you pay significantly lowered.  These are different times.  As a matter of fact my ex and I have joint custody but I pay him.  Because I am capable to work.  Even when I wasn't currently employed.
70808
Here's the thing, if she racked up the bill while they were still married, he's stuck with it. If she got a NEW card account in his name after they were divorced, it's fraud and illeagal, sue her.
62247
Any local attorney will be willing to give you a free consultation and can help you to find an afforable attorney and even work with you to get affordable payments. Good luck. If he took your kids to Florida without your permission then you should press kidnapping charges against him.
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Wow, I had one of these guys too...there are so many around it is unfortunate.  In my humble opinion, real people with issues get screwed because of dead beat dad and lying mothers.  There are so many guys that ditch a girl when she gets pregnant that when the court sees a guy who wants to be involved, they don't really care why. It's financial too..they figure if the guys is sending money, the state won't have to.  And so many women lie to get back at the guy, that we have lost our credibility in the courtroom.  I really feel for your situation.  Here is what I did..I spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars trying to do the right thing through the court, and constantly getting told that I was wrong, etc...it made me crazy.  So, I just threw the door open to the guy..said lets stop fighting, this is ridiculous, neither of us can afford this, etc.  Said, visit whenever you want...and guess what?  Since the ball was in his court, he barely comes around anymore.  I don't know if you wish your children to have a relationship with their father or not...not that I think you wish them to not have a father, but if he is abusive, etc...I don't know what your situation is there, but this worked for me.  Best of luck to you, and hang in there.