I am I being overreactive in dealing with her? Is she being/doing what she has to do?
199041
No.  She is not being a good mom, that is all.
577776
Well done, I know how hard that was to do, because I've been there in my youth! \n\nNow wait her out and stay as calm as before, continue to be your usual self. \n\nIf you're lucky, this could be a life learning experience for her. If it isn't, don't beat yourself up over her problems, they're her's, not yours. \n\nWhenever others need to control our lives, criticise everything about us, it's usually because they are frightened, or troubled in their own life, or frightened of being left behind. \n\nShe needs you in her life, every bit as much as you need her, she just needs to accept that you are an adult, and learn to treat you with respect. \n\nYou've shaken her, now wait her out. \n\nYou've proven your maturity in the way you handled this situation, it's down to her to follow suit.
326757
Just be on her good side.  Always be thoughtful and helpful.  She's probably just keeping a distance to protect herself.
610943
When i have an episode, I just need to be left alone for awhile.  Try to communicate with her through notes if you can't talk to each other.  Don't start with "You don't this or You did that" but say more along the lines of "I feel I need more help around the house" or "I feel like sometimes you don't like me very much" or something along those lines.  It's hard to communicate during an episode because it does take over.  Maybe her writing back will help her calm down, let her put her feelings on paper.  At least the lines of communication will still be open.  I hope she sees a doctor.
471523
she doesnt prioritize and she let work take over her life. i think she's trying to satisfy everyone all at the same time and its taking a toll on her much less making her have different personalities. \n\nof course any other person would feel frustrated for getting tossed around and hit in the head with confusion, but you have to understand that she's human. BUT it doesnt give her the right to keep you dangling on a thread.\n\nobviously she still wants you around so try talking to her in a different environment or atmostphere-some where it wont remind her of work or school, etc. for instace the beach, a coffee shop, the place you first took her to confess your feelings. and then talk to her like as if its almost an ultimatum, but not. \n\ntell her everything that you feel and how its affecting your relationship with her. talk about the way she act or the things that she does to hurt you or confuse you. tell her that youre going to let her deal with whatever she needs to deal with at her own pace. that youre going to respect her space so long she respects yours.\n\nhopefully this is an eye opener for her or is helpful for you to think up something to do. \n\nbest wishes. stay true.
95041
Sounds like she is having a hard time letting go.  Prove to her that you can do things on your own.  Listen to her advice but you don't always have to take it.  \nTell her you appreciate her input but maybe she would like your opinion just as well.
246094
OUCH! Dude! WTF?  Just say you're sorry and explain to her how she makes you feel about yourself and that you were just venting.  She does not sound very reasonable anyway so all you can do is try.
629249
She loves the power she has over you.  \nShe may also be going through some very difficult emotions right now and she dosn't know what she wants.  Give her what she needs, you'll not only help her out  but you'll also feel better about yourself.  Just don't get your feeling envolved.  \nGood Luck.
302802
I dun wish to be in your position...but if I were you, I would speak to the first abt my feelings and tell her that while I really appreciate all she has done for me, it would be great if she can be a little tactful...tell her she hurts your feelings sometimes, and remember to tell her how much her advices and thinking have help you a lot! \n\nAs for the second...seek her advice when you think you need it. She might be waitin for you to ask...but too shy to tell you her opinion without you asking...=)
519887
Gently tell her what you told us.  You should not be forced to do what you're not ready for.  It's not like you're ruling it out - you're just not ready.
60026
You need to tell her that she's the one that opened her legs so she needs to take the responsibility.  She's just trying to get you take over because she thinks she has better things to do.  Well, you shouldn't have to deal with someone else's mistake.
283623
I think maybe you are spoiling her too much and she is taking advantage of it. Set some rules just to see what happens.and if anything maybe you should consider leaving.\nGOOD LUCK!!!
442977
I think she is doing it just because she knows that it will get to you. She knows that you want him, and she can play with him like a puppet. I think she has insecurites within herself, that she thinks she has to come down and hurt other people so they dont see when she hurts. If i was you i would act like it didnt bother you and she will stop. and no you are not being unreasonable, that is low, but take her power away from her and she will just be left there standing confused. Dont sink to her level rise above and being a shining star
162648
It sounds like she is not going to listen.  Unfortunately, some people have to learn the hard way.  She is going to make her life very hard.  You have done all you can.  The rest is up to her.  Be proud that you tried and don't feel bad about it.  You are only responsible for you.  Good luck!
548542
She has gone through a very emotional time, and she may not be acting rationally. Let her know that you are there for her, but give  her time to think about it.
490889
She is already living the example that was given to her by her mother. You may not be able to disuade her from many bad decisions, they are after all, her choices. The very best you could do for this young lady is be a very caring and available adult. Trying to control her at this point will more than likely drive her away. Talk to her openly, but without judgement. Make your conversations thought provoking, encourage her to answer and solve her own issues with you.
495695
I would tell her that you find that you do not have time or energy anymore to babysit for her. You must be up front with her and tell her that you have had enough of her "oh woe is me" routine as it has begun to stress you out. As we learn more about people we find that they are just not who we want as friends and we move on. Time for you to move on away from her drama. Good luck to you... I suggest you unplug your phone after you tell her for abit.