i'm not going to get into a lot of detail, because it's a lot of BS, but if you hate some people so much and you want them to die, what do you do? And when you're trying to move on in life and be happy, they always try and screw things up and make it worse. Or when you are happy and not thinking about them, then you see them at the same place you are sometimes, like concerts, etc., then all those bad feelings come back and you just want them to die and go away.\n\nRevenge always sounds good, but then just make sure you don't get caught.. ;)\n\nI know the best thing to do is forget about them and move on, but as i said above thats not always that easy, because some new s**t always comes up or you see them somewhere.\n\nSo i dont know what to do.. i just want them to all die!\n\nAnd i dont think anger management would help either.. :P
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Pray for them.  Seriously.  Praying for them will help you deal with your feelings, and move to a better place.
633472
You want to REALLY get back at them and be happy with yourself?.............. BE HAPPY!!!!!  It will kill them that they cant get to you!  And guess what, you WILL be the better for it.  If you try to get them back, especially at work, it will come back to haunt you!  Don't let them win!  They want you to be unhappy and miserable, don't play their game.  Good luck
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revenge isn't the answer.  Haven't you ever heard the saying "living well is the best revenge"?.  When you get consumed with getting back at somebody, that becomes your whole life and focus.  they may not have even hurt you intentionally, sometimes we get hurt feelings but that is just the way life is.  Not everyone we like will like us, some people who like us will stop liking us at some point.  It's sad but it's life.   Learn to navigate those curves and don't get consumed with the idea of getting back at somebody.  It just does you more damage in the long run.
211958
Must you be so rude. I know from personal experience it is extremely hard to face up to certain things in life. It does seem easier to run and hide from them. \n\nDo you even know the entire story? Do you know every aspect of that person's life? I am going to guess that you don't. So before you start acting like an as*s and judging people, I think you need to back off. Let them live there life as it needs to be. You are not God, so don't be so judgemental. Only God can judge. IDIOT.
444881
How can you love someone and want to take up a job of killing people?\nThose two counteract eachother.\nI suggest you grow up first..
486784
DON'T go down _that_ road, please. ( I'm darn serious, too).\n\nIt starts small, and then it grows, this approach to injustice (real or perceived). Like kudzu vines (hear about them ?) once tried it tends to become a habit soon graduated to bigger and worse.\n\nWhy not try a different resolution ?. \n\nConfronting the offender, or\n\nDissolving the relationship.\n\nMuch healthier mentally and otherwise, standing up in the open about how you feel.\n\nThe corruptive power of obtained revenge on the "inner" person brings small momentary satisfaction, payable in spades longterm.\n\nOf course it is -ultimately- your choice, like everything else in life, no ?.
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That's a bit sketchy of information. \n\nIf you are wishing bad karma visit them, the irony will be that bad karma will actually visit you insted! \nIf you simply walk away and do not wish them ill, eventually they will get what's coming to them. \nBe the better person and learn to be a duck. (Let it roll off your back)
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I was neglected as a child, abused as an adult. The only way I got over these conflicts in my life was by FORGIVENESS. That may seem strange to you, but your anger towards people are only holding them to you. They don't suffer for what they've done, but you have placed on yourself MORE suffering by not forgiving them. \n\nWrite them a letter, tell them how you feel, rip it up and burn it...don't send it to them. Forgive them in your heart, it will free you to go on with your life without them. Don't confront them, they will deny it and make your anger worse.\n\nThey abused you, now you are abusing yourself. Let it go. (and if you are religious, pray and give them and your anger towards them to God to handle, He will!)
526850
One of life's ironies, isn't it?\nHate the hate.\nIt's one possible natural response for a genuinely good person to see hate and find it so despicable that they hate it.\n\nFunny little lives we lead.
399151
Forcin' yourself 2 believe that this person is actually a bad person is really doing nothing but fooling yourself.\n\nEverybody that we meet has some form of impact on our lives...this one particular "person" just had a very BIG influence on you.  Of course, it's going to be hard to "get over them", but you have to come to an acceptance that it's over between the two of you.  It'll be hard, but that's the only way you'll ever TRULEY move on.
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First of all the only one that can help her is her....Second of all, Your not the only one that has psyco family members lol... I have one or two and they are in laws lol.. But yes I can relate about hateing someone like that.. the best thing is to ignore them, let them live in their la la land of no return and helpless I am better and the world turns around me crap. As it will only cause you more stress and anger and make you feel like crap about yourself and most of all dought yourself.. in many ways. Psyco's like to do that to you they manipulate people to no return and think nothing of it nor feel nothing from it.. if it benifits them then they are fine but if it doesn't they will turn on you. The best advice I can give you is turn and run when you see them coming. not because you fear them.. but because you do not need that in your life. nor deserve it..by making you look bad and making you feel like crap they make their life better, they thrieve on it.. don't feed them just walk away hang up or turn and say whatever I have better things to do then listen to it.. you will thank yourself later.. if you choose to deal with that lifestyle of theirs then later in years to come you will be miserable and hate yourself and dought yourself... like I did until I told my self hang up tell them no or say i don't want to hear it you know what you have to do I don't care what you have to do do it and get it over with or stay in that hell hole its your life and you live it don't drag me into it.. put your foot down now before you regret not doing it later. good luck,
441934
The only thing you can do is remember those you have lost, but don't dwell on them. We carry a piece of spirit from everyone we will ever know and everyone we meet will carry a piece of our spirit. It is what provides a sense of immortality as we pass from the physical world we continue on in the hearts and minds of those we leave behind. \n\nIf you imagine your lost loved ones as being in heaven/hell than they are truely lost to you for you have chosen to forget who they are and assume they are somewhere far from you. If you think of only the good/bad things they have done than you cling to an illusion and ignore the truth of who they are. You must remember not only the things you liked about them, but the things you hated about them too. By sharing memories you add to the spirit of your friend for all that knew them, for each piece you all possess provides a better picture of who your friend truely was.\n\nContinue to live your life, and when you come across something that reminds you of your friend then think of them, remember those events of the past and let the spirit of your friend live again in your heart and mind. Instead of feeling sad, think about what they might say, for the moment you remember them they are there with you once again in your life.
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This works for me:\nI go to a quiet place and I analyze why they upset me. (For this you must be true to yourself or it won't work).\n\nWhen I know why, I decide if I wish to continue the relationship or not.\n\nIf I wish to continue - I determine if there is something I need to do.  It may be to talk calmly to them or to ignore the situation.\n\nHowever most times when people affect me physically as you feel, I cut them out of my life all together.  The situation never gets better and I just get sicker.  Cutting them out always works for me.\n\nGood luck and feel better.
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Obviously you know they weren't really "friends" right?  Friends wouldn't do that to each other.  I've been there and I know how much it hurts.\n\nA friend would support your decisions (even if they didn't agree with them) and they would "be there for you" when you needed them.  Don't sweat these so-called "friends" they aren't worth your time.\n\nYou may never "forget" what they did but that doesn't mean you can't "get over" it.  Yes, it just takes time.  Of course you're hurt, you trusted them and thought they were "friends".\n\nYou should try to "forgive" them, (even if you are unable to at the moment), because keeping all that bad energy inside will only hurt you.  \n\nYou sound like a nice person and anyone would be happy to have a "friend" like you.  Just chalk it up to "experience" and forget about them.  They don't deserve you as a friend, and they aren't worth your time.\n\nBest of luck to you.
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There is jealousy everywhere.  I think everyone deals with it at one point or another.  It's pretty immature, and people who threaten or do harm of any sort have very low self esteem and have to bring others down so it will make them feel better.  It's very sad what someone will do to shift any attention to them.  Just stay away from those types of people.  Do not react at all, because thats what keeps them going.  Do not give them the satisfaction of seeing you scared or angry at what they are doing.  That is exactly the reaction they are screaming for because thats the only attention they can get.  LOSERS!!!!
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Olivia is right. It never goes away.....it just subsides. You will always be left with a hole that nothing can fill. But you learn to cope. You keep them alive by remembering all of the words of wisdom given by them throughout your life. They will never stop speaking to you....and through you, even when they are not standing before us. That's the best way I know how to cope. Keep them alive......by living as they would have done.
462007
I try to reach their humanity or the oppositte side of their brain...here is what I mean....they are probably angry and enraged and aggitated to reach this current state... I tell them I understand their being upset however, what they are about to do will only make it worse and will magnify the problem ruining 2 lives in just a moment. I try to connect with their reasoning, that all though it seems like lashing out feels good ...nothing good will ever become of it.....and this act...They will spend the rest of their life regretting....You have a choice...Make the right choice now....