I got to know this guy last year. He's my schoolmate, and he's 3 years younger than me. He used to text message me alot, but stopped since march'06 and i don't know why. i really miss him!We hardly meet up in school and i can sense that he's quite shy being around me,n vice versa,I feel shy,too, when he's around. Recently, i heard from one of his friend that he likes an older girl, i'm wondering is it me....What should I do to find out?
210711
make a research! ask his friend about that mystery girl, but of course not in an obvious way...on the other hand, falling inlove younger than us girls is not really an issue, at my own experience, im very much happy & contented with my x-bf even if im 4 years older than him...we'll right now, both are singles & misses each other very much...sometime soon,\ni will accept his reconciliation & start all over again...\nof course, you should be more patient & understanding because girls are the ones who matures earlier than guys... \n\n\nfirst of all dint listen to rocy driver \nso abet y,r matter i thing that may be he like u but fell nervous abet to tell u may be he fell that if he tell u abet his felling that will lose u so be on hope and this world is going on the hope and its will be batter if u tell him that u love him.. may be he fell some courage
29515
Honestly, I think that he'll probably be really flattered if you tell him that you like him.  I think guys think that it's cool when older girls like them.  Find out his screename and start talking to him online.  You can find out each others interests, and maybe you can start going on a couple dates after that.  Good luck :)
251015
First of all, how old are you guys? If he is really your friend he wouldn't limit you to friends like that. (not being funny,but...) are you sure being your friend is all he wants?
309727
May be, he might have found his love with someother girl, when he was away. Firt find out this stuff. Then also you have your rights depends on how close youtwo are. Just talk to him first.
335193
I would be a little worried, but don't over-react. Ask him and this girl *separately* about how they know each other, and compare their stories. If they don't match up, then confront him about it, calmly, making sure that he knows you aren't upset, just a little concerned.
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oh that sucks! Thats a toughie! well obv the other guy is physco..and dint you ever give him a chance..ever..6 yrs is a long time..and i think in the END he will forget about it..but for now hes prolly gonna punish you..yeah its not fair...but what would you do..im sure he is checking his messages every minute..6 yrs means love..Yeah your gonna be sad..Umm where did this take place? school? id take that as sexual harrasment...yeah you better make it that way..well goodluck with your love..and if he doesnt llove you again..he is just lookin for a way out..and any guy would be lucky to have you espesially after being this honest and asking for help..goodluck!
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I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
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I had this same problem not too long ago. He made me feel like I was already his gf but I wasn't. He asked me out a couple times but I always thought of it as a joke, because he told me he liked these other girl(s). So my advise to you is, don't fall for it just yet. He might of liked you last year and maybe likes you this year too. But just to make sure ask him in person if he was just kidding or if he really meant it. Hope my advise helps you.
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The girl could have just been a friend.. Im a girl and have more guy friends then girl friends.  But who knows.   Have you talked to him since then?  Has he mentioned anything? Or have you brought it up?  Try atleast talking to him to find out what's going on.  After you find out wat's up, then decide!  o and if he keeps bringing her up in convos id be well aware... that's not realyl a good sign.
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Well I can tell you really like him by just listening to you babble on about how your suppost to tell him... lol. If I was you I would find an easy way of just letting him know your interested in him. you don't want to come out and say I have had feelings for you for years. That makes him believe you want a relationship and since thats not what your after now. Just try maybe bring up a past relationship of his or yours and when your discussing it and what went wrong in it. (works really good if its his old relationship your talking about) Just kind of casually drop in there "If I was her I wouldn't have done you that way" or something like " I know how great of a guy you are and I would have felt blessed to have you" things like that let him know that you see him for something more than a friend. if our talking about your old relationships then something like "I wish he would have been more like you" or something. you get the idea. little hints to let him know you could like him as more. and if the conversation doesn't get to ackward then try saying I wish we could get to know each other better we might find we could be more than what we are. and then go on about your visit and let in sink in his brain. Sometimes with guys just a suttle hint is like a bomb. just be cool relax and enjoy your time with him. and by the way I like the idea of a walk when your talking about it, gives your privacy and relaxes you both. Good Luck
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The way I see it, is he isn't really interested. That is was different just emailing each other, but when she goes for a visit, his number is changed, and no contact until she is well out of the area. And now she is moving there, and he is very busy..... One: I would find out if he is married, or has a live in girlfriend. Two: ask him straight out what the deal is. Also you say she wants to cont the "childhood" romance.... she is all grown up now. And she really doesn't know him as a person, it sounds like he has changed. But I think she should ask him if he wants to have some sort of releationship with her. Or if he was just carring on a email romance?? Tell your friend good luck, and I hope she doesn't get her heart broken.
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Perhaps he felt comfortable chatting out of the school context but feels that he should not get closer whilst at school. There might be various reasons for this, such as his mates' attitude. Perhaps he has a girl already and he was just being friendly without wanting to take things further. \nWhy don't you simply accost him, tell him how much you enjoyed your conversations on the school trip and that you are disappointed that you have not talked since. He may simply be shy and need a little push. Don't rush it, and keep it cool so he does not feel hunted.
670853
I think you should carry on you life and try and get yourself really busy so you do not have time to keep looking at your texts.  Before you know it he will either text or somehow get in contact with you if he really wants to know you.  Perhaps he doesn't like a girl chasing him, I know it maybe that you 'think' you aren't but you have to behave life a bloke to understand a bloke and vice versa.  Life is too short to just wait around, you never know he might have good reasons which he feels he cannot tell you, always turn the situation around, it may help.  Also if and when you see him talk about something that interests him and not you, they like to hear about themselves and what they like.  It is hard, but worth it in the end.  Good Luck!
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It is three years later, and you are both three years older and more mature.  Now is definitely time to find that chemistry again. If you still care about this guy, go and re-introduce yourself to him.  He may not be available right now, but it doesn't hurt to find out. :-)\n\nGood luck!!
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i think that you should stop texting him cuz it does seem a little bit desperate but if you really like him then i think that you should talk more with him at church and try and get to know him more outside of church. If you want some tips on how to see him outside of church without it lookin like you want it to be a date den you could just go somewhere with a bunch of friends and invite him as well. If you want to just go for it and ask him for a date then you could just casually go up to him after church and just chill together. also jsut because he doesn't text you back it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. some people just dunt like doing that kind of stuff.
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Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
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Wow, what's amazing is that I'm going through the same thing right now, except in a different setting. See how he is towards you outside of school. Flirt with him, sit on his lap, hold his hand, any kind of gesture will make him wonder, "Hey, does she like me as well?" or "Maybe I should ask her out." What ever you do gets you one step closer. But as far as I can tell, I would go for it. Why don't you give him your number so he can call ya sometime. If you want to continue finding out if he likes ya, go out on a couple more dates. Hope I Helped!