My partner and I are looking to experience intercourse for the first time.  What's the recommended an*l lube?
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I highly recommend Wet.  If you are using latex condoms (highly recommended), then make sure it is water-based.
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Go to a bath shop, and look for "Body Butter". There are many different scents, and it rubs in like a lotion. It soaks in and doesn't leave that oily feel afterwards. It DOES leave the skin feeling very smooth though, so it's more inclined for women than men. Although, I have to admit that I enjoy rub downs with it as well. lol\n    Try not to use the finger tips so much, but rather the flats of the fingers. Gentle kneading methods, much like kneading dough for rolls works good. Start at the neck, working towards the shoulders, and arms. If he is giving her a rub down, he should make sure to give her a back run first, all the way down, including the feet. THEN, he might ask her to roll over. But it shouldn't just be about the sexual contact, although there isn't anything wrong with that either. ;)  Good luck, and have fun!!
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you didn't say how many times-but if you are totally relaxed with your partner and you are well lubricated then I would have to wonder why it's painful for you. There are some medical conditions that make intercourse painful. If it continues go see your doctor.
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Durex ultimate sensation is my favorite.  Feels almost as good as no condom.  Trojans are my least favorite, too tight, and you can't feel anything.  Lifestyles are okay.
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I say get some toys, lube up and have fun! No harm in that!\n\nBut I must ask...what does this question have to do with Gay, Lesbian, etc, section of the question/answer board?
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Yes. As previosly stated you need a lube that doesn't wash off with water. We found that petrolium jelly (Vaseline) works well b/c it is greasy and doesn't wash off with water.
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Hmm, depends a little on where they are being used too. If vaginally (not obvious if you m or f) then you should self lubricate if you do not rush - and providing you are healthy, there should be no problems from a regular vibrator. Obviously if you are on/approaching your period, then this may also explain where the blood could be coming from.\n\nIf using anally then you DO need to add lubricant and plenty of it as the rectum does NOT self-lubricate and can tear slightly if too dry. Although small tears are not dangerous, it can still be very disconcerting to remove a toy only to find traces of blood.\n\nIn short, done properly, there should normally be NO blood - and if this continues after making sure you are not "on" and ARE lubricated (naturally or artificially) then please consider seeing a doc, something *might* just need a little bit of attention.
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That is one of the reasons you wear condoms and use dental dams. That way you can rim your partner till the cows come home without fear of anything untoward passing your dainty lips, and you can plough away all night without missing a beat and not worry about the mud.\n\nJust use water based lube not oil based lube plus you also have the added benfit of being protected from all those nasty STI's (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and any other nasties carried by the faeces. Remember Safe Sex is good sex!\n\nDouching too much is actually bad for the bowel as it destroys the good bacteria needed in the bowel. Hope that helps you out. :D\n\nThe other alternative is to just leave anal sex out of your repertoire and just stick to oral, handjobs, frottage, etc. There are so many ways to please each other without going the back passage route (so to speak) lol.
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if you're a girl use 2 fingers in a circular or left-right motion across the clitoris, if you're a guy use 1 hand to cup your testicles and steady your penis and the other stroke it. In either case use rapid movement and saliva is the best lubricant. I hope this helps.
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One of the infections that is on the sharpest increase is oral STD's--gonnorrhea and chlamydia especially. If you're are a monogomist and he is as well, and you both are free, then you don't have to worry. Other than that I would stick to the flavoured condoms.
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CONDOM!! lots of lubricant, very very slowly...and bottle of hard liquer!\n\nas a follow up, I'm a girl and I love it...but it does take some getting used to (and alcohol eases the pain the first few times) Oh, and don't get carried away...remember that it DOES hurt-badly and if you mess up and get too into it it may be your first and last time.
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Go ahead, as long as you and your partner STAY FAITHFUL to each other.  But if it is your first time, my advice for you is, to try to go slow and use a lubricant that will work best for the both of you.  The first time won't be easy, but in the long run it will get better and pleasurable for you two.  Don't rush into having sex, otherwise it will be painful for you both, mainly your partner.  But all-in-all, if you both love each other very much, having sex won't be so hard.
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i know what your talking about and ky does make different massage oil/personal lubes i myself have purchased them for me and my boyfriend. wal-mart sells them by the condoms, but they are kinda pricey, but well worth it.
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Anal sex is not to be confused with anything like you've ever experienced, therefore, having a loving, caring partner is critical for success. First you will want to allow your partner to relax you by inserting one finger at a time to get you used to the sensation. Once you have become used to the one finger, hae your partner try two; it's not likely you'll need to try more. While his fingers are in there, tell him to move them slowly, back and forth so you can get a gentle motion established and do not try to do more than you can stand.\n\nEither way there is likely to be some pain but there is good pain and bad pain. Good pain is not only tolerable but desirable and you'll find yourself seeking more activity as you get used to it. I would not suggest pleasuing yourself to get used to it because if you're intending to have another person involved, they need to know your body well and what you can or cannot take physically.\n\nMake absolutely sure you have a water-based lubricant. K-Y Jelly is excellent; however, I recommend a product called Astro-Glide, you'll find it is a bit smoother and won't be so messy. I must also stress one other thing, always, always, always use condoms. Condoms serve one main purpose in anal sex, to prevent infection and disease. I'm not just talking about HIV either; consider this...the anus is the area of the body where solid wastes leave your system. No matter how much you may douche or wash or cleanse, you will not be able to rid yourself of the multiple germs that may exist there. \n\nYou want to have a healthy and safe transition into learning more about your body, not a disastrous one, so be careful. Finally, because the anus shares a wall with the vaginal cavity, it could provide an incredible sensation. Women I have been with have experienced orgasms but only with total body stimulation. That means, when you're ready to do experience anal sex, make sure you and your partner are well rested and allow him to enter you vaginally first to loosen you up a bit before he attempts to go in your back door.\n\nOnce you've relaxed you'll find that anal sex is a wonderful extension.
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men use it as a lubricant for sex and masturbating
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Take a bubble bath together, then take turns reading a book aloud to each other. It is fun, and since there is no pressure, the spontaneous sex can be fantastic! (If it happens) Oh, a good bottle of wine never hurts, either!
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Soreness can happen is there isn't enough lube used during sex.  One of the best lubes is Wet, you can find it now days in most drug stores.  If not, do a search for it online.