I do not feel of being loyal to my Fiancee even though i love her a lot. why???
207744
probably becasue of yor childhood, or just because you like other women. dont be a bitch and marry her when u like other girls. cuz she won't like that. shell HATE it. just be yorslef, and tell her YOR PROBLEM (like this one) instead of telling everyone in the world except for her. hey man, it's just logic.\n\nmattj1654@yahoo.com
338408
It sounds like your friend is feeling very insecure, like she will lose your friendship or the place of honor in your life if you are happy in a dating relationship.  It could also be that she is not close to anyone else in her life and so she feels she needs to keep you all to herself or else she will be alone.\n\nFunny about this dynamic - when I got married I felt like I lost all of my girl friends, I wonder if they feel like I ditched them.  And when I had my first child, I couldn't get anyone I knew before to hang out with me.\n\nIt's a 3 way balancing act really - trying to have enough time for bf, gf and yourself - in addition to school or work (and as you get older you have more divisions and demands on your time).  \n\nYou need to sit down and decide for yourself what is right.  If you can understand this girl's feelings and you still want to be friends with her, you need to sit down with her and explain to her that you understand her feelings and remind her that you will do everything you can to be there for her.  Tell her how important your friendship is to you and that you need her friendship and support particularly now when you are branching out and growing.\n\nIt might also be helpful if you could fix her up with one of your bf's friends - then you could all 4 spend time together.\n\nIf you think she is just being unreasonable, or if you talk and can't come to an understanding, you may just have to realize that you are growing in the sphere of personal relationships and you may have just outgrown her.  Be happy for the years you have had together and wish her luck in her future endeavors - don't let it get ugly.
20005
If you are keeping score its not a relationship worth having. You do what you can with what you have to work with. In some areas my significant other is much needier than I am. In other areas I am much needier than she is. We don't hold back, but give what we have to give and accept what we are offered believing that if there was more to give it would have been given and that what has been given in love should be accepted. I hope that's not confusing.
81934
If you have to ask if you love him, then its pretty safe to say that you dont. You probably had a good thing going with him and thats why you get jealous, but it doesn't sound like you're in love. And if it doesn't work out and your munky really is chunky you can always holla at me :)
212150
I would talk to her about this first, maybe she does not realize she does that and it depends on what your doing, also.  If you love her, be open and honest with her on how this makes you feel and then if she continues doing this, I would find someone that makes me happy.  Good Luck
621259
It comes from a fear of the same thing happening. The best way to alleviate that fear is to make sure you are being trustworthy. There might always be that "feeling in the back of her mind," because she really loves you, and it would crush her if it did happen. But show her that you are not her previous husband. If you already romance her up, then good. If not, then start. Make her feel like she is the most sublime creature that walks the Earth. Let her know that she is your Queen and you are her King, and there is NO other woman for you but her. Trust me, it's nice when a woman hears the words. You have to embed it in her mind. And keep it that way. Don't let the hard work fly out of the window.\n\nGood luck to you.
331422
there is obviously a strong and powerful subconscious message you're receiving but you haven't felt strong enough to deal with it.  \n\nthere are a few things going on here:  you feel that she is stronger in the relationship and you go along with what she wants and if she wants the relationship then so be it but anger and resentment is building.\n\nthere are traits that you don't like and you have not had the courage/strenght/assertiveness to speak up and ask for change\n\nyou are unaware of your thoughts and core values and as you're defining them for yourself, you're finding that your wife's aren't necessarily compatible with yours.
199672
It might be just personal nature. I, for instant, do not call frequently, yet that has nothing to do with how much I love them. . .Another possibilty could be that you gave him the feeling he is not that welcomed, so he fall back a bit. . .Know your man then you will easily find the appropriate answer. . .
7366
Honey, I'm going through the same thing myself. All I can tell you is that you can't make her love you. If things are meant to be, they will work out.  But in the mean time, realize that you don't need someone to love you to feel like a whole person.
491677
I feel the same about my wife.  I still love her but I look at other women & find them sexy & want to be unfaithfull but I have never done it.  It's a difficult one but all we are doing is denying ourselves a beutifull sex life.  I think all that you could do is have casual sex with no strings & try not to let your partner find out.
66862
Well I just recently got married two months ago and I think that it's absence that makes the heart grow fonder. Before I couldn't wait to see her and I would get all excited when I prepare to meet her. Now that I see her everyday I think I've grown more accustomed to her as she did to me. This is when people start treating each other less "special" I believe the trick is to try and maintain that feeling.
53959
Sorry to hear your feelings are being reciprocated...but unfortuantely you cant make someone like you.  just keep being her friend andmaybe you will grow on her.  Thats how my man got me!  We became best friends and now were engaged!
309677
Maybe she doesn't feel as strongly about you as you feel about her. Back off a little, and give her some space. As the old saying goes..."If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they are yours. If they don't, they never were." Besides, do you really WANT to be involved with someone that is incapable of displaying emotion? Marriage is a life-long commitment that should never be taken lightly. Good luck.....
331304
Not the same.  I love my wife and will do anythign for her however there are days and times during the day when we do not particularly "like" each other.  IT does nto mean we still do not have deep feelings of commitment and love- it means at this moment the relationship is not what it could be.  My wife once gave me a note after an argument  " I don't like You right now, Love me"
531049
you are not selfish and don't be pushed into it, if you're not ready then it isn't right for you or her. be honest with her tell her she's the only one for you and you love her but just not ready for that big of a commitment. she wouldn't like being pushed into making a big decision like that either and lets face it if you have to force someone into a commitment then that says an awful lot about your self esteem and trust issues. wait until you are both ready, your marriage will be better for it.
417071
I am in that situation now...my wife kind of has always disrespected me and now she is the one who has left me (ironic). Even though she never really loved me %100, I still love the good things and my heart aches for the good times. For me, I tend to love people that don't love me back because I guess I see it as a challenge or maybe I feel like I am the better person for giving more than I receive. Whatever it is, its not right and just like me, you need to just take time and get to know what your are without that person, then you will love again. Hopefully someone who loves you the same amount.
630061
Your best bet is to let some time pass by.  You can't assume you know what your partner is feeling.  Other then what he is telling you.  If there are more concerns regarding your partners faithfulness you should always voice them. well not always '' you don't want to be marked a jealous''  But time will tell I think in this situation.  Follow your heart, be bold, and true to your self.  Then everything will happen how it is supposed to.