Ok... Me and my ex are still really good friends. We went out for a year and broke up on bad terms, but some how we are still bestfriends. We broke up a year ago. I have moved on but she hasnt. She is always following me around school and stuff so i feel like i cant talk to another girl w/o huting her feelings. And i dont want to do that. I want to stay friends. How can i tell her i want my space and to back off a little bit?
199012
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
676297
I would tell her the truth,. that there really isnt anything going on with you two and her friendship means to much for you two to let a guy inbetween you. Shes feeling insecure because she can see how easy it is for that guy to get another girlfriend in short time. Can you imaigine if he did secretly want to go out with you? Then what.\nI'd give your ex and her some space and not even get close to that situation untill he finally breaks it off with her...Believe me he will real soon.\nRemember shes only the rebound girl...aint that sad.shhhh dont remind her of that point tho....heheh
49353
Well the next step it seems to me, is to just come out and ask her.\n\nMy friend, if she is continuing to go out with you she may be feeling the same way or already know that you want her back. But you should still ask to be certain.\n\nWhat is the worst she can say? There can be only two answers to a question like that and one of them is the one you are longing to hear.\n\nSo suck in your pride and ask her.
179106
Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
213490
don't count on getting back together, or being very good friends for that matter. my ex gf said the same thing about maybe getting back together, now shes dating one of my friends and we barley ever talk
213737
hi!\nwell calm down! its ok. we all pass by these, its life!! from wat i understand is that she doesnt want any relationship with u rite? so atleast try to catch up ur friendship with her agian. this will take time. talk to her and tell her "i had those feelings for u and i truely repect u for whom u r. i will be very happy if we can still be friends." i dnt think she is going to say no. it will take some time until things goes normal again. at least u will be friends. hope u get ur perfect gurl sooon! gOOOoOoOd luck!
282459
Make it mutual, if you and u have been friends for a long time she'll probably want to be friends back, just go back up to her and say you know if you want to be friends again it's okay with me if you don't wan to be friends whatever that's cool. If she truely is your friend she'll want to be friends again.
597076
I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
74515
WHOA! You should defintaly try to explain yourself again and make her understand. I would be furiuos if my girlfriend stayed at her Exs for a week. Thats totally uncalled for and you have every right to be pissed. I mean theyre Exs for a reason right? Yea man thats definatly not cool, and if she insists on keeping contact with the Ex then maybe theres still some latent feelings towards him. If she doesnt get it, then tell her that her still talking with him is directly effecting your relationship and could possibly be the downfall of it as well. Godd luck with that man.
170289
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
206787
You might need to consider the possibility that she has met someone else. It's very comfortable having an ex as a friend when you are single - especially if they care about you the way you clearly care about this girl. But when you meet someone new and they are giving you that special attention you find you don't need the friend as much. Plus, it can be a bit awkward explaining things if you know this person still has feelings for you. Maybe send her an email just saying that if she doesn't feel like talking that it's ok but could she just let you know if she is ok. But you might have to accept that friend or no friend, you will not always be that special someone for her. Maybe its time to find a special someone for yourself and move on.
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
480468
ask her why is she always talking at her ex cause you don't want to hear her talking about them and if she misses them that much then she can go back to them cause she is totally disrespecting you in always how would  she like it if you talk about your ex girl friends but tell her if she doesn't stop you are gone and will be looking for some one different good luck
293614
Well, first of all she's not your girl anymore. You've both had people in your lives after the break up which is fine. You weren't together and you both had someone else. She has no right to be mad at you if she is.\n\nIf she says that it doesn't matter whether or not you want to be with her then that's probably the truth. You need to both tell her and show her how you feel and than see what she has to say.\n\nI'm sorry to be harsh. I am a very blunt person. I wish you the best of luck.
323183
Yes. Just be her friend for now, but not too good of one or it will just help her stay with the other guy too because then she'll have the best of both worlds.  Let her know how you feel about her and that you are there for her, but that until she is free from other ties that you need to keep your distance.
301724
She's looking for attention even if it's negative attention.  If she's your EX and YOU want to keep it that way--for whatever reason, then continue ignoring her and eventually she'll get the clue.  I think she's trying to either get you mad by talking to your friends, or get your attention just to keep you hooked.  Either way, it's not very mature, but there again, you and her are still in school--the both of you have alot of growing up to do, before you become mature.
661081
My b-friend and his ex talked the whole first year him and I were together.  She too broke up with him and I knew she really hurt him.  It drove me crazy too.  1)  I had to decide if I trusted my b-friend or not.  If I didn't trust him then I shouldn't b with him.  \n2) If the two of them ended up together then him and I weren't meant to be.  \nWe've been together for a little over a year, the ex has faded quickly.  Just hang in there, she's an ex for a reason.