Middle age adoptive son with aging parent in poor health.
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Check with your states vital statistics
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adopt a child then focus on finding love
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a grandpa ,grandpa's son , and grandpa's son's son
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his mother has a tash
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If dad is no longer competent, I would suggest you have a guardianship for him.  Appoint son the guardian for dad - that should allow him to conduct dad's financial transactions and make health care decisions.
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I think you need to worry less about the legal ramifications and more about your father's health. I think someone better get to mom and ask her why she's playing around with her husband's life!
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Everyone has an issue, it can be health related or psychologically related and just because his is well known to all of you doesn't make it okay for him to be a turd. It sounds like you may be treating him as if he isn't going to have a real life because of his heart condition and that isn't fair to anyone.  Nobody knows when their time is going to be up, at least he has a clue but that doesn't mean that a totally healthy person's time couldn't be up in the next minute because they get hit by a car.  His condition should be all the more reason why he should get out there and be productive NOW.  His time could be up in a month or in 20 years, you don't know how long he will be around but that is true for all of us really.  Tell him he is wasting the time that he has and make it really uncomfortable for him to stay in your home.  I have a 25 year old stepson who comes back to stay for extended periods of time regularly.  Don't let him feel like living with you is the most comfortable situation, tell him that his behavior isn't fair to anyone else and that it has to stop.  Tell him that you love him but that it isn't good for him to act this way.  I'm sorry for you all that this is such a complicated matter, it would seem so much easier if he didn't have this condition but even if he didn't have it would his life definitely be longer?  His attitude is what is going to be the defining factor and if he doesn't want to take life by the horns then it is his own fault.  What does it matter how long your life is if you waste it treating the people who love you badly?\n\nP.S.  My daughter has cystic fibrosis which only has a life expectancy of about 35 years...so, actually, I don't speak from a place of not understanding your concerns.
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Here’s a link  to search resources\n\nhttp://www.adopteerights.org/search/internetresources.htm\n\nbest wishes and God bless
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My daughter and son are both adopted (daughter's parents still living, son's father still living) so I understand what you are going through.  What seemed to work was explaining to our kids that you can love lots of people lots of different ways.  There's Bio-Dad and Mom love, and Adopto-Dad and Mom love, and Big Sister love and Little Brother love, and kitty-cat love, and puppy-dog love.  And, just because they played differently with the kitty-cat didn't mean they didn't love the puppy dog,and vice versa.  They loved both of them, but loved them diffrently, and that was OK.   Using the dog and the cat as examples was more expressive to them and helped them grasp the concept of it being OK to love different things differently and not feeling guilty about where (and to what/whom) their attention was focused.  What you do need to be careful about is any jealousy your ex-husband undoubtedly has, because any subliminal expression of this could add to your son's guilt of loving a new dad. It would also help if you could possibly get your ex to explain that it is OK to love his new daddy.  I think one of the things that also helped both the kids through that was they were both in the same boat so they did have each other as support mechanisms.  Perhaps there is a support group or other parents and children who are going through similar adjustments that you can connect with, as it may help your son to know he is not alone and other kids are going through the same thing he is.    Good luck...I'm glad you and your son found a good man.
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You are absolutely right in wanting to take care of your aging parents. I tried my best to care for my parents during the last years of their lives.It takes a toll on you physically and emotionally to see them slipping away before your eyes. If I had to do it over again I would NOT HESITATE a second to do it again.If your spouse has any objection, it is indeed VERY SELFISH of him/her. What if the shoe were on the other foot, how would he/she feel if you gave him/her the same answer which you have been given?If it were me, and this is only me speaking, I would question myself on how little I know about my spouse, and if I can love him/her again in the same manner as I once did.
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Check with the adoption company he went through.
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Your grandfather has Alzheimer’s and it will only get worse, there is no cure for this. My mom has it and I am taking care of her. No you are not overreacting about sharing a room with an eight-year boy. Can’t they fix the basement or attic into a room for one of you or add on a room in the back for you. Grandpa needs to be close to mom as it is very trying to care for a loved one in his condition. Your mom will need all the help she can get and if you are helpful you will stand a better chance of getting a separate room. I think there are laws about boys and girls sharing a room if the youngest is of a certain age and eight sounds plenty old enough but if you go to the authorities about it grandpa will end up in a nursing home and your family will be terribly upset with you and you will regret what you did to grandpa in the future as nursing homes give terrible to no care. If worse comes to worse maybe you can put up a divider wall in the middle of the room. I wish you and your family the best of luck.♫
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Doctor is the boy's mother
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Unfortunately both parents are in heaven, but my father, was more understanding, I knew he loved me dearly, he was a great father. My mother was very caring and loving, so when they were living I guess I'd have to say both. I know you said if they were living, but they still mattered at the time
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Look up the" Department of aging," it will give you a number to contact someone who can guide you. "Catholic Charties",also have information that will assist you. Even if the person is you, both of these agencies can direct you.
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To not out live my 9 year old son, love & health
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That would make your mom 77 by now and the man probably older if he was an adult then. Anyone who would remember him would be around the same age and there are not too many 77-year-old people on this site if there are any. I think you should have tried to look him up years ago when both you and he were younger when it would have done more good. At the age of 62 you should already know your medical history and he would now be too old to be of any other use to you. Let sleeping dogs lie.↔