This older guy at work pursued me and must have asked me out ten times -- each time I had turned him down. However, he had just met this lady on some match.com type of site and had began dating her, still trying to pursue me. Then, after two whole dates with her, he tells me he wants to marry her. But, he won't leave ME alone! He talks dirty with me at work via email, stares at me all day, and always finds a way to be near me or talk to me, yet, tells everyone he wants to marry her. Is he nuts? I have asked him close to five times to leave me alone. I have said some really mean things to him, and he still will NOT leave me alone. Yeah, I have egged him on to say dirty things, but still, if he really loves his girlfriend, he would leave me alone, or, is he obsessed with me?
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uh... after two dates marry her... i bet she is not thinking the same thing... LOL... he is a freak... run run away... really... or say u will go tell his gf... if he really loves her he will leave you alone... if not ... run run away as fast as you can... really :P
399410
Um....so you are asking us this...you are attracted to this guy, who either has a girlfriend and just flirts with you, or is not honest with you.  I'm thinking that he is either considering cheating on his mysterious girlfriend with you and just hasn't the courage yet, or  he just wants to fool around a little without commitments...And he knows that he has you hooked..So if you really want to pursue this...be patient..ignore him and don't be so available....see what happens.
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Sounds like this Japanese man plays the field, conning innocent women like you.  If he loved his previous girlfriend and allowed his parents to interfere in his marriage choice, then HE IS NOT A MAN.  Drop this guy!  He's a loser, also there won't be any conflict between your coworker. You both can drink a beer a say what a momma's boy he is.
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Nope he's just attracted to you and wanted to let you know it.Try giving it back to him and if he don't like it than he'll stop or get defensive.I'd just go with it he could call you alot worse believe me.And to all the man haters no it's not creepy.
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Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
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I am right there with you! That guy seems to have some weird notion that talking like that will turn a girl on. I've never understood why guys put stuff like that in their profiles. I can understand them talking about things like that once they've developed a relationship with a person, but putting it out there before they even know a person isn't really sending out the best message. But, in the end it's up to you. You may want to give him a chance and what he has to offer....he may just be all talk. He's at the age where he knows what he wants, maybe he's tired of playing games and just wants to put his "wish list" out there. :)
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he's a professional who trained at making ladies feel comfortable. Sounds like a bit of an unhealthy infatuation. Maybe your next boyfriend should be made aware of your needs, to be treated with dignity and respect.
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Yeah darling, he is just trying to get enough information on you to get you in trouble at work since it did not work the first time. The only way he knows how to do that is to get you to like him again. So now the playful bit, by opening doors, and jokes and shit. He couldn't tell you he wasn't interested in you because he really is. Take my advice, don't fall into the niceness. It's all a joke, it's not sincere.
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It is the guys polite way of letting you know that he thinks that you and him are not going to make a good couple. That "click" or connection could vary from general interests to something sexual.  I am also guessing that he might not be ready to take on a commitment of a father figure. Even though I am sure that is not what you are asking him to become right now, the fact that he lives the single life makes me wonder if he is ready to take on a responsibility that big. That might be his other reason for not "clicking". I think that he is trying to sugar coat the subject by suggesting that he is afraid to get hurt. I think that he is afraid to have to grow up and be involved in a mature relationship.  Whatever his reasons are, you don't need him. Anyone that cant appreciate a strong, independent woman, isn't worth the time of day anyway.
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Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
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I would be careful with this guy. He sounds weird like he has a big secret or something. Is there a big age difference between you to? He should be telling you what to do, you are not married. Even if you were, everyone deserves some personal space. He should not be hitting you, he defiantly has a problem. Trust me it won't get better. I mean do you want to live in his secretive life forever?
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A lot of guys... not all, but a lot of them seem to act immaturely until they are at least 24 when they realize that they can't get by with it. With the e-mail thing I think he was testing you to see if you would send her anything. He may want to make you jealous who knows with guy because he seems a little off the walll with oh I have a girlfriend and then treatens you. Not a good thing just watch your back, he may not be a friend any more.
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It sounds to me like he doesn't want you as a girlfriend, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.  By leading you on the way he is, he knows that you will stay by him and not date anyone else because of the chance he will say you are a couple again.  I went through it for 6 years.
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This guy doesnt sound like hes being considerate of you in ANY way at all. He is using you. A guy who cares for a girl shows consideration. A guy can say anything to a girl but what do his actions tell you? Those speak louder than words. He is making everything about him and nothing about you. Is that what you really want?
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It is common for men to flirt with their female platonic friends. But it seems like at first this guy was taking it a bit farther, in my opinion he is either already married or in another committed relationship, and he wanted to see how far he could take it before you responded. In some way he also wanted to see if he was still desirable to the opposite sex. So he's either a big jerk or he's afraid of letting you get to close, because of your locations. I hope this helps.
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It sounds to me like this guy has a great personality. Usually women fall for men that can make them laugh. I know I do. We also fall for men WHO HAVE GIRLFRIENDS. It is definitely a case of wanting what you can't have. He is a challenge because even though I'm sure you think you guys "click" nothing has happened between the two of you. But think of it this way...If he did hook up with you while he was still with his girlfriend, and later on he became your man, wouldn't you wonder if he would do the same thing to you that he did to her? \nTo get over him, just accept it for what it is, you like him because he's a challenge. So get over him, get over it and focus your attention on someone else...who doesn't have a girlfriend.
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from what you say you only danced with him a few times and he got your name and number and you did not give it to him. and now he comes to your house you did not say wether or not you gave him your address or if he found that to. and now he wants to marry you. Well let me tell you he is a physco. i bet you realised that already. i went to pay my electric bill i called on the phone and started talking to the man that was on the other end. we ended up starting to talk outside of his company. he lived in another state. one day he got on a plane came to my home and said he wanted to get married. i did not no what to say because i thought stalker. within two days a call came in and it was from his daughter that did not no where he went to and did not no who i was. the story finally ends when i found out he has been wanted for 10 years and in 3 different states and i worked closely with them to capture him. now he is in prison. what i am saying to you is you do not no him. why all of a sudden do you think he would become that attatched to you. you need not to worry about his feelings because you need to worry about yourself. you do not no what he really has in store for you. and i would make it clear that he is not to cantact you again and that is it. you do not need to explain anything to him. this is not your problem it is his. if he does call you again then take the steps that you told him you would. be firm and good luck