We met roughly 2 months ago online, started talking, hit it off. Would talk for hours everyday telling one another how much we loved one another. After about a month we decided it was time for us to meet one another. I spent a few days there, where we got to know eachother even more, really had a great time. We have plans to move in together, but the time apart is very tough on me. When I leave, there is a void in my heart and a longing to talk to her. Sometimes when I don't hear from her, even if it's only for a few hours I get depressed and wonder if she really does love me. Some evenings she will go out and we won't even get to talk that day, and if we do only for very little. On one hand I think well she has her own life, im not there. On the other I wonder if she feels the same way about me, how she can just go out have a great time when I am feeling so miserable. I know this may sound selfish but it is how I feel. I love this girl with all my heart, and truly feel she is the one
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Your situation is very similar to what I am in. My b/f and I met online, talked for 3 weeks, then met.  We had the most unbelieveable weekend together!!  We now have been living together 5 months, but he works out of state for 2 to 3 weeks at a time.  Hopefully I can help with that I know.  \n\nThe void in your heart when you aren't talking to her is because all you two have right now, is talking.  You can't see each other every day so that's what you cling to.  Makes perfect sense, I felt the same way then.\n\nAlthough she isn't calling you as often as you'd like, what do you two have to talk about, that you haven't talked about in the last 2 months?  Those hour long phone calls don't last forever because seriously, what else is there to talk about?  My b/f and I decided a call in the morning and a call in the evening would be the best way to handle that.  We could wish each other good morning and tell each other have a good day, but we'd play catch up at night.  We always make sure to tell each other even the little things that happen throughout our day because we both feel like we too are experiencing things even when we can't be together.  \n\nWe do have seperate lives too.  When he is home, we are together 100% but when we are apart, I go out with my girlfriends and he goes out with his work crew.  Don't think for a minute I am not thinking of him when I am out.  He feels the same because many times, he calls me when he is out with the guys.  My point is, you can't just sit at home and mope, wondering what the other is doing.  You need to live too.  Have fun, do hobbies, go out with your buddies.  Keep your mind busy until you can be with her again.  \n\nIf it's meant to be, it will happen.  Don't rush or pressure her and don't be clingy and needy. You have to trust her.  If you don't, you will lose her for sure.
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She loves you but not willing to give you 100% of her heart and soul..She obviously cares but is in doubt of a future with you..She seems to be questioning her own motives for being in a relationship with you..Maybe shes not totally satisfied with the relationship or feel solid enough in it..Seems to me she is willing to be friends but from a distance..Do not give her an alternative..thats instant death!Give her understanding and your friednship but your heart would be more appreciated elsewhere..Good luck!
228715
I am in a similar relationship, but I know she's the one, the circumstances are just tough for us.. being so far away. Test your love.. while he's away, take space and see how you really feel without him. At first no matter what, it will be so hard.. but it will get better. Then.. the test comes.. after not having him in your life much, have a long talk and see how it feels. I lost her because I doubted someone so great could love me.. but after she gave up on me.. I realized how much she really does love me.. and slowly I am gaining back her trust, and she has all of mine.
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i think you should stop calling her. I realize it will be difficult as sounds as though you really care for her but she is playing with your feelings. Sounds like she is out for her and not ready to be in a relationship. A friend of mine just went through something similar. Each time he got hurt more and more.  Guess I would tell her how you feel about what she is doing then if it continues its time to find someone new or accept the fact that is how she is.
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Well maybe you loved her and you didn't even noticed it before,and now you are truly feeling for it,but there is only one thing you can do,go talk to her about because we never know,what if she loved you but never said anything?Maybe she gave up on you and found somebody else...Good luck
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First, this is a situation only you and she can solve.  It's up to the two of you.  Second, I question your feelings for each other, given the fact that you have never met.  Third, if you seriously do want to be together why can't she travel to your country?  Lastly, sometimes relationships don't work out...and there are plenty of fish in the sea.  If things haven't worked in three years, chances are they won't.  Maybe you both should be looking for love a little closer to home.  Just some insight.
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I've been in love actually i'm still in love with my ex.  I write her everyday and we talk every day but she tells me that she can not be with me becuase she needs time to heal from when i broke her heart.  So i'm giving her time.  All the time she needs.  I know that in the end it will work out because we both love each other.  It sounds like you have it just as bad as i do so i say you don't let go and you keep talking to each other and anychance you get to go see her, do it.  Eventually there will be a path created for you two to be together.
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That does sounds pretty tough.  Here's some advice:\n\nLet things go by her time.  Relationships are the definitely the result of a mutual interest and effort to get closer to each other.  You have that desire, and now she just needs to spend some time with you to see that you have it, and then she needs to discover for herself if she is willing. \n\nAt the same time, you don't want to completely leave the ball in her court.  Girls don't like that anyways, even though that is often what happens.  When you call her, make sure she knows that YOU will call her back.  When you hug her, you let go first.  You know what I mean? Good luck.
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Honey, I'm going through the same thing myself. All I can tell you is that you can't make her love you. If things are meant to be, they will work out.  But in the mean time, realize that you don't need someone to love you to feel like a whole person.
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I think you should find out why she said no. Maybe she feels like you do for someone else, you never know! I say go ask for her reason and then come back here and we'll find a solution for you :) good luck
221312
How about for now just let her have her space,you cannot force a girl to love you,but you could be kind to her,be there for her when she needs you and then she will slowly start to relize how she feels,also,don't just stick with her,there may be someone else for you,you never know,for now just keep in touch with her and tell her she will be in your mind while you are in London,hopefully she will feel the same way for you in the future,good luck.^^
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i really feel you, i just experienced the same ordeal.she didnt go to another country, but she was only 2 hours away.i can tell you that alot of times long distant relations dont work, or at least they havent worked for me.
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Yes, tell her how you feel,simply,without a word about not being able to live without her.Ask her how she feels about you. But if she does not feel the same way,remember that she is your first love(is she?),you are apparently a young man,and you have a whole life ahead of you. You may find that there will be someone later on who means just as much or more to you. Life is too wonderful to spend it longing for a lost love. You will never forget her,but you will find you CAN have a good and happy life even if she is not in it. If it is meant to be,you will be together,but if not,let yourself cry,grieve for a lost love,but remind yourself that life really does go on,and something new and wonderful is waiting for you.
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hey, leave it out guys he wrote "in love" he's distinguishing between saying he loves her and being "in love". so u say she's great and u must be feeling the butterflies in your tummy and everything.. i know that feeling, i'm still feeling it after six months and loving every minute of it..and i'm glad i took the risk...i wanted to bail at the start because i had been burned badly in the past and was afraid of the really strong feelings i was feeling..afraid of being hurt again\nbut there's no fun without the risk...and there's never a guarantee\n\ntake the chance, enjoy your time with her, if she's as great as u say she is then she won't treat u as a doormat and take advantage of u, love is a two way street... she'll be thrilled to have found a partner who's not afraid to show his feelings!\n\nand it'll work out...\n\nand if it doesn't be glad of the time u had together, of the feelings u felt.. i never thought that i'd be able to open up and let someone in.. but i could and i did and it was the best thing i ever did..\n\ncut the girl some slack, sounds like she's worth it...enjoy the time and good luck :)
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Man, I just got out of a relationship with a girl I didn't think I felt much for, and you know that saying 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'? Well, I realized how much I truly loved her. Maybe it will hit your ex just like it hit me. Maybe with some time she'll miss you, especially if it was as good of a relationship as you say. And especially if you were her first. You don't forget something special like that. Even if she downplays it, it should be something that will be with her always. Just give it time I say.
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I was in love with this incredible girl, Morgan, and I have never loved anyone in my life this way. THe great thing was, she returned the same amount of love. I wanted to marry her (I still do), but we broke up a few months ago. She said the same thing. She felt pressured. I realized she had never been single in her life after she was 15, and she is now 22. That's a long time. I tried SOOOO hard to do things to please her and make her want to take me back. The thing I finally realized was that I was making it worse. I was making her feel more pressured than ever. I quit trying, and after some time, we started becoming close friends again. I wish we could be together again, but she needs to be free. Freedom is a very tough thing to find. What i didn't realize is that i was the one who wasn't free. I needed to find happiness in myself. Who knows what will happen? Maybe we'll get back together, maybe we won't. I will love her to the grave, but the only chance I'll ever have, is letting HER figure it out. I have, for the first time in my life, come to a point where I don't desire to have a girlfriend. That's an incredible accomplishment for me, since just 6 months ago, I was in a hurry to get married and have a family. That was part of my problem. I wanted to spend so much time with her, cause she made me feel like no one else could. But love, as I found out, is something you do, not feel. It is patient, kind and generous. I can still love her even though we are not together, and I don't have to think about her every minute of the day. I can focus on my band, my job, and more importantly, making myself a better person. I hope that helps!
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I know she may not be able to respond but deep down I really think part of her understands. It may feel weird, but I think you should talk to her like she can understand. Just talk to her, tell her about your fun times together. Tell her your going to miss her. If you don't you will feel terrible later for it. You need to just put in your last words now before it's to late.