my boyfriend for off and on 11 months well what can i say we had our differnece but we love each other. well he broke up w/me a month ago and went w/ another girl so know that me and him r back 2gether she wants him back what should i do w/the girl b/cuz i asked my boyfriend and he sayes he loves me and not her and that he only wants me what should i do?
207234
If your boyfriend says he loves you and not her, then you have nothing to worry about.  However, HE should be the one to tell her to leave him alone.  If that doesn't work, step in and let her know you won't stand for her drama.  Kick ass if necessary.
595489
You were with your ex for so long that now you feel like no one else can compare. You are so young, now is the time for you to find yourself. To find out what you really want out of life, and a guy. No way you can no that if you have no experiences to base your decision on. I say you move on and focus on you for a while. If its meant to be with you and your ex... you'll get back together again.
192096
WHat i say you should do is get himback i mean if you really like him that much i should know i had the same problem wit my boyfriend but if yall do get back together its going to take time because thats what my boyfriend told me "i just needed time wit being wit you so i can see how you are" so just give it time if yall get back together.
234543
First off, he can't be your boyfriend if he is already with his girlfriend. Right now, you are the "other woman", so to speak.\n\nI would advise walking away from him and getting on with your life. IF his relationship is as bad as he says it is, and IF he LOVES you as much as he says he does, then knowing you are getting on with your life and showing no more interest in him, might very well help him to make a choice. I wouldn't give him any ultimatums either. Just tell him you that you are moving on. If he does end things to find you again, then he was speaking the truth to you. If he doesn't, then you know he was a player...was having his cake and eating it too.\n\nKeep your self-respect and dignity by walking away. By staying while he is still with his girlfriend, you are giving him everything he wants, and you are getting nothing for yourself, except a lot of pain. You are worth much more, you know...and if he doesn't come to you single and free, then believe me, there is some great guy out there that is going to give everything of himself to you alone and no one else, cos he WILL recognise your worth!
245566
I have been in the same situation 4 months ago.I went with my ex's friend.Let me tell you that did'nt work out!!!You will always have to see yor ex,and when he moves on to another girl,well that is just unbaerable.Find someone new and exiting.OUT WITH THE OLD AND IN WITH THE NEW!!!
158268
It is normal to want to get back w/ your ex. However, you should only get back w/ him only if you want to.  Don't let him pressure you into it. There are a lot things you have to take into consideration...i.e. like why did you all separate, can u trust him, and is the relationship worth trying again? Whatever you do, don't rush to make decisions, take things slowly, and remember ur happiness is most important. Good Luck.
297401
Why get back together with him?\nThe deal is you broke up with him. He's moving on. You should too.
315767
forget him, if he doesn't want you back find someone who is better than him - he'll want you back then, just like you want him back now\n\nyou break up for a reason, why get back together?  did things really change?  (they usually don't)
581776
You should leave him while your a head....its a lot easier to get over a short term relationship (especially if you guys have already broken up twice) then it is to get over a relationship you have been in for years......to me it sounds like he is with you until his ex wants him and when she's done with him he comes running back to you......you deserve better than that and if you keep taking him back he's going to keep thinking he can get away with it.....you shouldn't want to be with someone who isn't sure of his feelings for his ex......you don't want a guy who has baggage and that's what his ex is.....shes going to keep popping into the picture until you tell him to go away for good.......you don't need a jerk like that, plus remember....its only been 6 months.....that's not long enough to keep braking up and getting back together.......some people go through that, but that's over years....not months.
121463
Girl there are so many questions and ifs and buts to this relationship that it amazes me you two are still together.  Regardless, this relationship just doesn't sound good and you really deserve to be in one that is better than this.  Let it go and move on with your life so you can be really happy.
189726
It seems to me that ur BF is trying to make u jealous.  I dont think that u should have to try to get him back.  I think u should get with someone else and see how it goes.  Who knows- maybe u can love someone else.
173956
Well, I'm sorry, but it really doesn't sound like this boy has his loyalty values placed in the right spot in his mind. He toyed with this girl, let her toy with him in return, and kept secrets from you. That is definitely betrayel, and you have every right to be bothered and upset. Could you give him a second chance? Of course. Especially because he seems to be respecting your wishes now and not talking to her anymore. If he didn't care about what you wanted, he probably could have broken up with you and gone on seeing this girl. The decision really is up to you, though. If you feel like you can forgive him for this and give him another shot and staying with you (assuming that he has learned his lesson), then by all means go for it. But if you are still really bothered by this and think that it could definitely happen again, and he still has strong feelings for this girl, then maybe you should consider moving on. It would be very hard because you love him...but if he is not going to be loyal to you, your relationship would never last. And love is not very useful in a non-existent relationship.\n\nThink it over carefully. Talk with your boyfriend about what you are feeling, and see what he has to say about it. If he cares for you, there is bound to be something that he can do to make you feel better. Base your judgements off of a sound conclusion that you are certain of, and remember to do what you believe is right, and what will be best for both you and him. Sometimes decisions like this are all a matter of the heart, especially when dealing with forgiveness. I wish you luck!
212970
I don't think it's fair to the new guy that you're still in love with your ex boyfriend. Serious or not, he deserves your full attention and care. If you can't provide that, you should let him go so that he can find someone that can give him her undivided attention. You need time to heal and to get over your ex boyfriend and staying with another guy is not the way to do that.
666129
I would say it all depends on the situation. Since you all have so much history and two beautiful daughters, I would think it'd be better to get back together, but that may just be me. Don't do what people on here say, just take the advice and build off of it. Maybe he got scared for some reason and pulled out of the relationship because he didn't know what to do. If you love him and you know he loves you, then I would give it a second chance. If it was meant to be, it will be. I know that's probably the worst advice line I could give you, but I've found out that it is pretty true. No matter what happens, I promise you both will be okay. Good luck and follow your heart.\n~Grace
363368
you no what mate, it happened to me to, but if you both still care for each other and h does like you say he does, then he would talk to you about this, or maybe he just wants to have the both of you, sometimes man cant really say what they wish to say as it's hard for them, but if he wont leave her, then maybe he dont love you the way he did when you were both together, i no it's hard but you will find another man, when you decide its time to move on, take care good luck mate
250623
Well, do you want to get back together with him? If so, then go for it. Sometimes couples need a break from each other to find out that they really want to be together. He obviously must miss you and care about you a great deal to want to try again, so go for it!:D Good luck and I hope it all works out!
324206
Does it matter if he still loves you? You said you broke up with him and I gotta think you likely had a good reason for it. Go over those reasons in your head and couple them with the fact that he's cheating on his current girlfriend. I think we both know that you can do better.