Five people work in my office.  My happily-married boss is banging his secretary on the sly. \n\nDoes this mean he is screwing 20% of the office?
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lol yup it does. \nIf you aren't getting deserved raises he's screwing 100% of the office.
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I think perhaps you are being to patient.  You should be more "Assertive" not necessarily agressive.  Put him on the spot and don't leave his office until you start to get some sort of resolution to your problem.  If he needs to get info/approval from other departments for certain things make him do it IN FRONT of you, that way you know it is happening.
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Sounds like he is having problems with the job. It is either that or there is someone working with him.  You need to let him know something has to change.  If the work is too much then he has to get a different job.  The frustrations of being overworked kill far too many relationships.  If he is dumb enough to think all the work will impress the boss he is wrong.  A guy that works long hours is either not qualified for the job or confusing time with value.
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A married man was having an affair with his secretary. \nOne day, their passions overcame them and they took off for her house, where they made passionate love all afternoon. Exhausted from the wild sex, they fell asleep, awakening around eight PM. As the man threw on his clothes, he told the woman to take his shoes outside and rub them through the grass and dirt. Mystified, she nonetheless complied. He slipped into his shoes and drove home. \n"Where have you been!" demanded his wife when he entered the house. \n"Darling, I can't lie to you. I've been having an affair with my secretary and we've been having sex all afternoon. I fell asleep and didn't wake up until eight o'clock." \nThe wife glanced down at his shoes and said, "You lying bastard! You've been playing golf!"
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what do u mean?? if you mean affair between co-worker , well..it's depend..how bad the situation is. but most of the office has a hidden camera now. don't you think so?? forget it
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Tell her this.  I told my boss this.  Said I wanted to keep my personal life FAR away from my professional life to avoid ANY kind of conflict.  (I was burned bad by a coworker once).\nHe was cool about it, and now I don't have to join them for ANYTHING.  In fact there's a going away party for a guy who transferred tonight.......am I going?  HELL NO!
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Did you make up that question? If you're serious, don't say anything to him. He'll wonder why you're there, in the first place. And he may already know about it but is embarrassed. It's never a good idea to embarrass your boss. Keep your lip zipped. Maybe it isn't even her.
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This is of course all a matter of opinion.  I say as long as both parties are adult about it and keep work out of the bedroom and the bedroom out of the office I say no problem.  Communication is always key and so is being very mature about it all. But I say it's no real problem.  The only problem occurs if one of you screws over the other one and you still have to work together.
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im a p.i. and ill say this, if you got a bad feeling about her, yes. never ignore your instincts. IT COULD SAVE YOUR ASS ONE DAY AND YOUR INVESTMENTS. I SUGGEST DOING AN INVESTIGATION ON HER TO SEE IF SHE REALLY IS SHADY QUIETLY.  never let her have any control over anything at all in the company. ever unless they are married. ID EXPOSE THE BLOW JOB REPORT AND KEEP FIRM ABOUT THE WHOLE THING.
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He may have done that on purpose, knowing how you are. I think the best to do is just turn the other cheek.\n\nIf he continues to do that, then you may want to talk to his boss about it.
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Gone unchallenged, this problem will not fix itself.\nIf your friends are content with this...do nothing, but if it unacceptable behaviour by someone at work, then talking to your boss without being confrontational is absolutely appropriate. Sometimes a boss is unaware of all that goes on so give them the opportunity to hear your concerns. \nAlways document incidents/dates/times/who is involved just in case you require future reference though.
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Fireing a person is never easy althought George Jettsons boss sure makes it look easy.  If he is hindering progress, not doing what he is supposed to be doing or what ever then you should.  Its part of your job perameters.  If you dont do it then other employee's will see you as soft and you boss might see you as incompetant.
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At my annual review and raise?\n\nI suppose that would help, if he might threaten to smite my supervisor if they don't give me the 20% I'm gunning for!
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Touching your back/shoulders and stroking your neck? Making perverse comments? Sweetie, this is called sexual harrassment. As for why they act this way, basically, they're idiots. Don't write them off as just "goofy." There is no excuse for their behavior. One guy went on a date with you and then told everyone? Is he still in high school? They think it's fun to embarrass you. They way immature men like this think, it wouldn't surprise me if they have some sort of bet going as to who can get you to give up your choice to wait until marriage first. The first thing you need to do is not date any of them. That's just a good policy wherever you may work in your life. If it ends badly, you still have to see that person every day and it can cause a lot of problems. Second, when they say inappropriate things to you or touch you or make you feel uncomfortable in any way, you need to tell them they're behaving inappropriately and ask them to please stop. If they don't, or they just think that's part of the game, you need to go to your supervisor and ask him/her to intervene. Just know that if the boss does intervene, this may make for a hostile work environment because then you'll be the girl who "can't take a joke." Sad, but it happens. Conversely, the boss may think you're overreacting and not do anything. At this point, you'll have to make a decision: file a complaint with the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and let them handle it, again possibly making for a hostile work environment; quit and find another job with mature, professional coworkers; do both. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to this. If it were just one or two guys behaving this way, it might be easier because they'd be the minority. But if all the guys you work with do it, they'll be more apt to stick together and form a united front against you, saying that you're exaggerating or even making stuff up to get them into trouble. If there are any other women who work there, talk to them and see if they're having similar experiences. If so, it will corroborate your claims and give you more credence. I'm sorry to sound so cynical and/or pessimistic, but this is an all too common situation for many women in the workplace. We've all read and heard about things like this. There's even a movie based on a true story about the first lawsuit against a company for condoning sexual harassment called "North Country" with Charlize Theron. It's a disturbing, sad movie, but it shows what some women have had to go through just to earn a living. Finally, don't let yourself be intimidated. Stick to your values, know that you don't deserve to be treated this way and you don't have to put up with it. No one has the right to put their hands on you without your permission. Be strong and stick up for yourself, and someday, if you have children, you can pass that strength on to your daughter or teach your son to have the proper respect for women. I wish you the best of luck.
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Thats funny!  I am in the same exact boat.  A co-worker who is engaged but flirts with me constantly even sexually explicit flirting.\n\nMy instinct is telling me maybe she is unhappy with this dude so maybe I just need to take the next step to press the issue.
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When i first started reading, I had a feeling your performance is not up to expectations and he trying to motivate you, but now I think he has a personal ego problem. Why dont u try and tell him that u have several urgent tasks and look busy? I know it is annoying, but leaving is not the solution. You will probably end up with a boss that has a bad temper or personality flaw. \n\nWhy dont u try and send him an annonmous note telling him that everybody hates his ways, but make sure he will never find out.
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office drama is tricky to deal with. If you dig yourself in by getting revenge its going to escalate into something that will get management involved and may get you both fired. Do nothing to the person. But also realize that you can use this person. Don't tell them anything you don't want repeated but if you want everyone to know something, tell them and they will. Also, make sure you keep notes about everything. Keep your evidence hidden so when they do try and get you in trouble you'll have proof of where you were and then you can turn around to your manager and point out all the things that you have noticed this person do that's against company policy. Good luck and tread lightly!