The mother of my child left out of the state, just like that, I'm paying child support, now I will have to pay up to 1000 dollars to get legal help, is it just me or does this law need changed
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No, and I think the current corrupt court system should be illegal.
59622
First, if you have been giving her money, make sure to get all of your cancelled checks and receipts in order.\n\nAs for petitioning for back child support ... in most states, yes she can!  However, there is usually a time limit.  In some states three years, in other states it can be longer. \n\nI strongly suggest that you go to a local office of your state's Support Enforcement or Support Collection office.  Ask them for copies of all documents relevant to the TN Child Support & Collections Standards Act.  This is where you will find your answers.\n\nIf she does petition the Family Court, then you should have a good lawyer with you.  Remember, your level of familarity with the TN Support & Collections Standards Act is in direct relation to how much you'll have to pay an attorney.  If you thoroughly arm yourself with knowledge about your state laws, you'll be able to prepare much of your own case documentation, thereby reducing the amount you pay to an attorney.\n\nBeen there, done that, and it ain't fun! Best of Luck to you.\n\nEdited}\n\nTo qualify the above statement, let me add that I do not reside in your state.  TN may have different laws than the states that I have dealt with.  You should find your answer in the Standards Act to which I referred.  Also, if the 19 yr old has emancipated, then any back support you may be ordered to pay should exclude any time following the emancipation.\n\nI have personal experience with this type of issue in two states, and have found that the courts display a bias toward the mother.  I really hope this all works out for you and that you're able to keep this out of the courts.
397175
Unfortunately you were given some bad information. Being on permanent disability (SSD or SSDI) does not excuse you from paying child support. The only thing that changes is that child support collection will now take it out of your social security check instead of your paycheck. This is true in all 50 states. They should be taking out 17% per child, per mother...but no more then 25% total for each mother. If they are taking out more or if you have questions regarding this, call your local social security office:\n\n260 Executive Dr, Lexington\n1-(859) 294-5633
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No one ever said Divorce and Mediation was going to be easy, that's a little inside joke, SO let me ask you this On the child's birth Certificate Did your Ex-husband signed the part where it has the name of the Father of the Child ? does the child have his last name ? those are two matters that are important to you and the baby right now, Yes there is Help in situations like this and most women that face this same problem are not aware of their rights and don't know what services are available in the state of Oklahoma, the SRS office isn't just set up for people going on welfare and food stamps, We are here to help you, If you are a legal resident of the state of Oklahoma, you have rights in this State that you don't have in other States, that's why people move from State to State to get these rights, and lucky for you and your child, maybe that's why more people are getting divorced because of those rights, because women are really getting screwed over, when their husband Divorce them, The DNA test won't cost you anything if he's contesting the birth of the child after he signed the birth Cert, and has his last name on birth cert, because I'm sure like all young men in this State do find out in the end, He had plenty of time 120 days after the child was born to contest the birth then, and If he's using this as a divorce reason then SRS can help assist you and the child to conclude a DNA sample by getting it court ordered for him to have this done, Here's the fun part sweety ! If he is the Father he'll have to pay the state for getting this test done, $350.50 and he'll be ordered to pay child support from the day he filed for Divorce, That comes to around park figure of about $380.00 per month up to $425.00 per month yes this is just on one child, the discount comes from the Second child, this was done due to cost of living in the state of Oklahoma, If you know someone making less than that have them to go back to court to have their child support updated, If you need assistance contact the SRS in your county and they will assist you in this matter, By law I can't give you to much advice, unless you're assigned to me as you case worker. And I've been working for the state for over 22 years now. Not all male case workers are that bad and we're not out to get back at the women here...LOL..Besides I can really see your point on being upset when your husband is playing games with you and the child there, and continues to mess around by blaming you for it too... Give us a chance to teach these guys a lesson for you too, maybe word will get around better after we are done... LOL
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I would suggest that you consult with an attorney.\n\nIn almost every state, if there is a CPS proceeding, or child in need of care proceeding, you are eligible for an appointed attorney if you cannot afford one.\n\nI urge you to contact an attorney licensed in your state to assist you.  For a referral if you are not eligible for a free attorney, contact your local or state bar association.  Please... don't try and do it cheaply.  Your kids are worth it aren't they?
112699
Many states have adopted laws that allow the court to consider ability to earn rather than actually earnings in determining support.  You should consult a family law attorney in your state, but some courts can penalize parents who are deliberately unemployed to avoid paying support.
24544
Contact and file a complaint with the attorney general in the county that ordered the support.\n\nIt will be collected from the parent who owes it no matter who they are.\n\nGood luck and God Bless
494300
The child support department is suppose to help you, maybe you have not given us qll the info. here to help you.
214738
Child support is not owed to the state. The state collects it forcibly if the parent will not pay willingly, but some states just collect if forcibly because they are nasty.  If you give your kids up for adoption, you owe nothing, and have nothing. A parent who gives up their kids must pay a great deal more than money. They will be paying a bit of themselves for the rest of their life.
550575
Trust me it happens everywhere. I live in Australia same thing here. My daughter went to court for a few reasons, child support being one of them. She had two children to this moron who wouldn't work, she pretty much supported him, he was abusive so when she finally plucked up enough courage to leave he got himself a job, cash in hand ofcourse went to court and claimed he was only living on the dole.Even though she had proof of him working the judge didn't want to know about it. He was ordered to pay her  $20 a month for two kids and he has never even paid that. Trust me the judicial system sucks everywhere not just Rock county. Perhaps if all the mums who have been wronged by the system got together they may be able to change things. We can all live in hope  I guess. It's just not fair, after all it's the poor innocent kids that suffer. Best of luck  K  x
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Go to the court house and file a order of petition. When i did mines it was free. But I heard they was s'pose to charge me $15.00. I was getting $13.99 a week!!! for child support and I went and took his azz back to court so I can get an increase. And it worked!!...
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I was watching a top divorce lawyer on the wright stuff this morning!!!\n\nWell a woman called in and she asked,"would she be entitled to anything, she lived with her partner for "9 YEARS" and had a young child with him and the answer to that was "NO"\n\nYou will have to pay for the child of course.
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As a social worker you are not the priority and even if it is a private agency you are not a customer, at least as far as agency policy goes.  The mother may have changed her mind and or her rights are not completely severed until 30 days after the child is born she can change her mind.  As far as getting your money back i don't think there is a way sorry
586170
It is very sad that has happened but unfortunatly that may be his best option. Does he still pay his child support? He needs to continue paying it even if he is not seeing his son because if they do end up back in court it will look better on him. I know that if you do not have a child back from visitation on time the police can be called, I wonder if it works the other way to. ( like she's not having the boy there for his visitation time if he can call the police on her) He may also try to contact his local DSS office and explain the situation to them and see if they can help or they may know who to contact to help him. Good luck to your friend!
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Contact a family law attorney...yes, you should be able to get the child support payments. The payment amount will probably be split between the two parents each of them being responsible for paying half to you. Keep in mind, that you take the chance of the mother trying to take the children away from you, so be ready for a custody "battle". It is a shame that your daughter hasn't willingly given you the support money she receives....you are after all giving her children stability, love, and a good life. \nGood Luck to you.
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The kids cannot drop the case or go after it themselves.  The mother supported them and she is due the money.  If the government supported them then he has to pay them.  My mom got her final child support payment from my father for my brother when he was in his late 20's.
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sounds like mother is no good. if he is an adult why is dad still paying child support? money should go to son automatically! maybe son should go to FOTC and dispute that case. let me know if you need my help. ntjack02@yahoo.com. and good luck god bless you.