there are these guys in my neighborhood that come to my house wanting to do odd jobs for $ at least 2 or 3 times a week.  sometimes when i say ok and give them some cash, they act like it isn't enough.  most the time i say no.  they come back anyway.  i know i could fix the problem if i wanted and if i really saw it as a problem.  But what i really want to know is what is going on in the mind of someone who does this?  have you ever done that?  or panhandled or begged?  i think it's fascinating really that they are so bold.
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I've walked around my naboorhood asking if peopel wanted there lawns mowwed and if they did pay me i always thanked them. I have knocked on my finacle aid office's at school door many times asking for more money.
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I have a close friend who has been in law enforcement for over twenty years. He says he almost always asks people why they committ crimes. I have asked him before what scammers say. He says they often say if people won't think and realize their being scammed that they deserve to be victims. Maybe not true of all scammers, but mostly the ones he's spoken with.
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Those of you who describe homeless people as some horrible people are wrong. I was once homeless. Not all homeless people put themselves into that situation. Some were put there due to fires and hurricanes. Others were put there because people they care about took advantage of them. Everyone has their story. I heard a lot of them. There are some who are homeless because of their own stupidity but even most of them are trying to help themselves to do better.\nLimo Driver, try to get someone who the shelter says are making something of themselves. Not just someone who sits around all day doing nothing or has been there for a year and never once had a job. Someone who seems to be really trying and deserves that extra bit of help.\nI think that it is great what you hope to do. And that makes me love you even more. I hope that you do do it and that you do it soon.
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It seems to be a thing with guys lately.  My guy will buy some things, like when we go to the store - but only things that he will use exclusively for when he is here on the weekends.  (He lives on the other side of Atlanta) But when we go out for dinner or ice cream or something like that, he always pays.  I haven't figured it out yet, because when I cook a meal at home, it usually ends up costing more then if we went out somewhere, not to mention I usually start the meal on Friday (I like to be extravagant in our special meal).  Guess it all comes out in the wash... he does pay for both my mom and I when we go places.\n\nChihuahua has a good point.  \n\nOne time when we went out I ordered Australian Lobster (IT WAS REALLY GOOD BTW) and on the menu it said "Market Price."  Well, we were enjoying the meal and had desert and a brandy after wards.  Well the check came and I about passed out because my lobster alone was $75!  (IT WAS REALLY GOOD BTW - LOL)  I really felt bad, but he happily paid the bill.  I learned to always ask "What is market price tonight."  LOL
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No, you are not too sensitive about this. I believe that everyone needs help sometimes, whether they are fortunate enough to get it from their families, or from the state. The key is: being able to pull yourself out of a bad financial situation and give back what you have recieved ( maybe not in a literal sence, but, you know??) Maybe it would be a good idea to start denying these people help. I am sick of seeing and hearing about welfare parents, I could die. I mean, some of these people drive NICE vehicles, are draped in expensive jewelry, wear very nice clothes, and pay for thier food with an EBT card. Sickening. I would like to see them get off their lazy a*s, wake up at 5:00am, and go to fu**in work like the rest of us. I'm with ya on this one- totally.
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i would like to work to make my own money. my mom always told me you was relay on a man. and the cooking part--- i love food and i love to cook so that's no a problem. the cleaning part --- i would like to have someone clean for me.. i think that's where the money comes in.. with out a job you cant paid the maid.. but it would be nice to have a lot of money and just chill back..
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I have not been out today but I do like to spread ramdom acts of kindness throughout my day to others.  Try it...It can be fun.  Pay for the car behind you at the drive through, bring a dessert to your neighbor, let someone with less groceries cut inline in front of you at the store, Hand a toll both operator a $20 bill to pay for others tolls, compliment anyone on their outfit, hair whatever.   There are a million things you can do and doing these things makes America better.
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It's a terrible thing.  Have you reached the point where you've got buyer's remorse yet?  You know, where you're bidding on something just for the sake of being the winner?  Hopefully you'll reach the point I did, that is you're too broke to bid anymore.  I know it's not funny.  I mean, I've actually rescheduled appointments because I didn't want to be away from the computer at a time when an auction was ending.  If they do come up with a group for people like us, I'll look forward to meeting you there.  Until then, as they say, happy bidding.
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i dont but i would think that people that want to do that would want to help other people, like there really nice or something, and to make lots of money
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I offered my place in line to a guy who had less items than me, and he was so shocked, he offered to pay for my items! (I didn't accept), but then I was shocked at how nice he was!  Sad, that we both were shocked at simple politeness, isn't it?---Today, I saw an old man carrying a gas can and walking, and offered him a ride, he smiled so big, and said no thanks, he didn't have far to go,but he brightened up, just having someone offer.........yes,sometimes complete stangers cheer me up on my bad, sad, days.......a kind word can make or break you ,some days..........
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i worked with the guy on a few jobs. he was, well, i'd say "ok". he meant well, and gosh, 'couldn't find a nicer dude, but to me it really is about getting the framing done, working well with the nail guns, not being "preachy" to the other guys. i mean, most of us were convicts -- what else do ya see at a site in south jeruz', ya know? anyway, most of us had kinda..let's say "checkered" pasts if ya know what i mean, and we didn't want to hear all that "you shouldn't steal" and "don't kill people" talk.  gosh, what a puritan!  well, i digress. i'd rate the guy a 8 on a scale of 1 to 12. and i'm not counting prayer breaks, cos the dude took him some prayer breaks, nk?  oh i think he swiped my tool belt, but i can't prove it.
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There are several women in my church who are in business for themselves cleaning homes and offices.  Their best advertisement is word of mouth.  I have not used their services, mainly because I don't know what they cost.  I don't like haggling or even rejecting people because their fees are too high, but it's something I definitely would like to take advantage of.  Perhaps you can offer some 'first time customer' and referral specials.  Because the person will be coming into my home, I wouldn't hire someone without a personal recommendation from someone I trust.\n\nAnd for the record, I strongly recommend NOT putting flyers on people's cars.  First of all, there are local laws that sometimes prohibit that (I know - I campaigned for one in my town).  Secondly, I get VERY annoyed when someone takes the liberty of touching my car.  That is a surefire way  to get me riled up enough to not only NOT use the services being advertised, but to make sure all my friends know how inconsiderate the business is as well.  My car is one of the prizes I've worked hard for - don't mess with it!
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OK....someone went there.  This topic always seems to create a LOT of anger on both sides, so I will try to answer this diplomatically.\n\nHaving been a busser, host, bartender, trainer, and manager over the years, I have seen the phenomena at work.  I seems to me that while there are, indeed, people who are simply too selfish to part with tip money, most of the people who tip poorly are either woefully misinformed about the custom or really weren't happy about their experience.\n\nMany is the well-intentioned tipped employee who decides somewhere along the line to try extra-hard with groups that fall into the stereotypic demographic for poor tippers.  What the tipped employee is unknowingly doing, though, is to come off as overly officious and condecending, which African-Americans are sharp enough to recognize.  In short, these folks are savvy enough to know when they're being had.  It has served me well to avoid dripping with servitude at these tables, and to just provide simple, solid service.\n\nInterestingly, Cornell University did a study several years ago on this very topic, and concluded that, indeed, African Americans reported a tipping level at about 5% below that of all other groups polled.  Despite the bevvy of "personal experience" stories available both in support of and contradictory to your assertion, the facts in the study are very telling.  Remember that, while stereotyping is very limiting to the individuals in a group, the stereotypes usually come from somewhere.\n\nAny group, regardless of what demographic they fall into, who routinely orders the most expensive things on the menu and acts as though the sky's the limit for spending, and then turns around and cries poverty at tip time, is a pain in the ass.  Fear not....Karma will get them for it.  Relax and move on to your next table.  If you go to the next one flustered and upset from the previous table's outright abuse of both you and the tipping system, you're not going to give your best, and it'll ruin your whole night.
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A burgler wants to get in, grab stuff as quickly as possible and then get out.  They generally won't ransack the place unless it's part of the search. The last thing they want is to be discovered, so it's quick quick quick, grab something of value, (enough to get a fix usually) and then get out.\n\nI can't rule it out but there doesn't seem to be anything particularly unusual in the behaviour you describe.
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I can't get my hands on $2 thousand cash for a trip no matter how hard I work.  Every dime I get goes to living expenses and bill paying.  I've often wondered where so-called poor poverty stricken illegals from Mexico who only make 10 dollars a day get the thousands to pay a coyote not just once, but several times until they successfully gain permanent access to our country.\n\nAfter doing some research the answer is pretty clear.  Very few illegals that come here are poor, most temporarily leave their businesses, homes and family and work here for extra money, they're trying to get rich NOT feed their families.  Working here is like winning the lottery.\n\nAsk yourself why these so-called hard working illegals from Mexico (Mexico says they're lazy, until they get here, then they say they're hard working, which is it Mexico?) who come here at the tune of at least 10 thousand a day don't head for our fields?  Farmers say they're short of help ranging from 200 to 2000 workers.  \n\nIllegals claim they're here to do jobs Americans are to lazy to do.  The truth is, illegals didn't do them in Mexico and they don't want to do them here either.  Once they're here many of them go into white collar jobs or jobs out of the hot sun, I don't blame them, that's what anyone would do, I just wish they'd for once be truthful about it.  \n\nThe actual poor Mexicans that do end up in sweat jobs (agriculture, etc.) get angry and complain about what they do for lazy Americans, like harvest tomatoes, wash dishes in restaurants, babysit the wealthy kids, etc.  Americans also do those jobs, but they're not cry babies nor do they complain they're doing jobs other Americans are to lazy to do.  Illegals complain as if they're doing it for free, as if we forced them into this country to do those jobs.  They desperately want to compare themselves to our Black citizens of a hundred years ago.\n\nI have family that had to give up an executive type job to an illegal Mexican.  It was over the language thing in San Diego, California.  My family didn't speak Spanish, so was replaced by a Mexican who doesn't speak English.  With every breath Mexico takes in, they breath out a lie.  The poor Mexicans they send here are Mexicos rejects and they don't want them back.  They do everything in their power to force us to keep them and they protect themselves from the ones still remaining in Mexico.  They build walls inside Mexico to keep the poor uneducated out, if we even think about doing that, they call us racist.\n\nThe ranks of the rich among Americans are dwindling while the ranks of rich illegals are growing in the US.  In the link below "Ranks of the rich grow in Mexico", Mexico says the US used to be the "Land of Opportunity".   Apparently after unloading their losers on us and their middleclass coming here to get richer, not paying income taxes and wiring money home to their already well to do family, Mexico punished us for opening our country to their ungrateful people and rewarded themselves with the title we earned but was stolen by our enemy, Mexico.   They now proudly clothe themselves with the label "The Land Of Opportunity", of course we all know how greedy Mexico is, that opportunity is available only to Mexicans, not to immigrants and definitely NOT to illegals, illegals are NOT allowed the time of day there.\n\nIf anyone wonders why I mention only illegals from Mexico, it's because Mexico is the worse offender.  They have set up LaRaza, MECHA, Chicano's, Aztlan, more than 50 Mexican Consulates, handing out Matricula Consular cards, demanding we honor these worthless pieces of paper from Mexico, etc. \n\nIllegal Mexicans demand we respect their culture and language as they attempt to destroy ours.  We slowly find that we're being forced to assimilate to them.  In some areas of the US, English speaking citizens have to be bilingual
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I fortunately have not had too many issues with this, although I do understand where you are coming from.  I was homeless myself about 12 years ago - and not once did I end up panhandling for any change or money.  At the time, I was too embarrassed - but the fact of the matter is, there were organizations out there to help.  I would much rather send my money to one of these places than to the person's hand just so they can go buy cigarettes or beer (and that is what happens to most of it, I have seen that for a fact.)  One thing that I thought of though, if you wanted to do something to help them - perhaps get them off of your back (oh, its that guy again. leave him be he never gives anything), and perhaps the organizations that are out there as well, then do this:  make a small list of a few of the organizations around your area that offer hot meals, shelter, etc... and type it up.  Print out several pages of this, just to have about 10-12 of these slips of paper on you when you go out.  Whenever they ask you for help, hand them one of these folded up, most of the time they will take it thinking it is money.  They may not like the fact that it wasn't a dollar bill, but in the end you have given them a free meal, or shelter for the night.  You have saved yourself (hopefully) some of the hassle that they give you all the time because eventually, when they get the idea that they are only going to get this piece of paper from you, they will probably begin to avoid you on the street.  Also, you may inadvertently be helping these organizations.  Many rely on funding, which in part rely's on how many people they are helping.  If you send them more people, they get more funding.  \nEveryone gets something out of this solution.\n\nAnd for anyone who reads this - don't feel guilty about not giving to the panhandlers.  The news programs have done actual stories on people who do this for a living!  Seriously, they get up, put on dirty clothes, have their wives drop them off at a corner and put in a full 8 hours of panhandling.  One guy stated he made more at this than he did at his previous job.
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some people do make a living out of begging...\nfor  those living in the 3rd world countries it has even syndicate rings...