If your man cheats on you because people in the streets were saying that you were cheating on him, when actually it was not true, but it seemed like it. Should I forgive him for that, and believe that the only reason he did it was because he was hurt?
199126
Just follow your heart. If you are sure that it was a mistake and will never happen again then go for it. But you have to make sure that you are comfortable enough not to throw it in his face in the future. Good luck!!!
312145
Is it possible that you and your boyfriend have grown apart? People change and it sounds like you've both grown.. just maybe not in the same direction. The fact that you felt the need to mention that he cheated also says that you've not completely forgiven him for the offense. That you're attracted to someone else and thought about the relationship as more than just a possible friendship says that you're also ready to move on. So do yourself a favor and live life a little... on your own before making a decision about any man.
48680
dear broken hearted,you have to understand the difference between a lie and actually physical harm.i know what physical harm is.i loved someone and because of this i trusted him.but i really found out the hard way.i was almost killed due to an accident he caused because i was letting him go for his lies.so be thankful you only have a broken heart to deal with.i forgave him but i can never be with him again .my life is worth more than that.so you will heal in time and find someone who will treat you good and you can trust.i have .so anything is possible.take care and move on.
280064
Mandy,\n If you have reason to believe that he even thought about cheating on you, then hit the road. Leave this idiot in the dirt, and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.\nGood Luck.
100981
you cheated?\n\nif so, he needs time. he may not forgive.
45875
well if you are going to take him back then you have to get over it. otherwise let him go. i cheated with a guy and we got back toghether and he treated me bad because of it instead of like loveing me and us chillin because i was faithful to him for a while and well guess what i did it again and we are now broke up. but you are not wronge to give him another chance. people do change and though it is not an excuse yall were both going through some pretty bad stuff so i mean he could really be sorry. but if he does it again which he may not then leave him unless you want to give him another chance (there is no such thing as to many chances but when you get tired of soemthing you area tired of it) so i hope if he does keep cheating you will leave cause youdeserve better but its really up to you but this could work out for yall and i hope it does. good luck and God bless.
442160
when men cheat they try and lay blame for the reason on the one who is hurt, the victim. they are just trying to get u to depressed and down and believing it was your falt so u won't lay blame where it really belongs. i would divorce him, and get some alimony out of it. he is not done with this woman yet, he doesn't want to divorce u because he might have to give u too much financially, or split the assetts fairly.
244445
Above and beyond all else, cheating is immoral, and people hold fidelity (or the lack of) very close to their hearts. People get all worked up for many reasons - it has happened to them, really screwed their lives up im some fashion, etc. This is usually a black or white issue for most people, therefore an extreme reaction will follow - even if the question is hypothetical.
633994
Being someone that has cheated in the past I can honestly tell you it could go either way. I did before, but will never do it again. On the other hand I have had a boyfriend cheat, say it wouldn't happen again & it did. So I guess it depends on the person &/or relationship.
57278
i don’t cheat cheat my self if i am with you i am with you (i look but i never touch)\n\nAllot guys don’t have control their feelings enough so think before they act specially at a younger age, they don’t realize that their actions will hurt those they love but there are those who do it just because they are jerks and think they can get away with it.\n\nif he cheated on you and you forgave him he is most likely to do it again so be careful. if he cheats on you make him see how upset this makes you but don’t let him back in your life too easy make him show you he is worthy of you and that he wont cheat.\n\nwhat good is a relationship if is based on lies.
250114
OK why do you think he is cheating on? you say he is a man so why would your man want to cheat on you did you do something? sometimes we think things that is not even true don't try to find out if your man is cheating because that is your man just keep loving him and if you do find that he is doing you wrong just understand that he wasn't a real man.
112287
some people like to sabotage their relationship by saying things like that so that one day, when you are finally pushed and do cheat or leave him, he can say, "you see, i told you so!"  it's a twisted way of thinking, but it's a defense mechanism like they're preparing themselves for it to happen.  he's obviously been hurt before and he really shouldn't take his frustrations out on you.  all you can do is be open.  those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
359341
don't really know, never cheated on anyone, don't understand the need to cheat.  i figure if you feel like cheating then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.  but maybe him being in a relationship with you is just a way of him boosting his own confidence up a little for personal braggin rights such as "yea, i got a girlfriend".  either way just dump him and move on
107593
cheating can always be forgiven if the cheater is truly sorry and you both really love each other and want things to work out. (so only 1 act of cheating)
455753
Definately!  Usually, to unfaithfulness the answer WOULD be no.  But it seems like he has a problem that he had identified, and he is seeking help for himself so he could be with you.  Definately stay with this man.  There is a very high chance of you finding someone else who will be unfaithful as well, but an even fewer chance of someone that is willing to do this to stop.
79512
If you think it, usually your right.  You could try to prove it but you might be wasting your precious time.  Just back off and leave him alone and go your own way......one day he will wake up and say,  what happened to that great thing I had?  Where did she go?  And he will miss you and come looking for you.  But you have to act like you don't care.  If he's cheating on you, he's not treating you nice.
214425
I comepletely agree with " if you're going to cheat on someone don't be in the relationship." But if you do cheat, I think you should be completely honest with the person and then hand the reins over to them because now it's their decision if they still want to be with you. But some people truly believe in "What they don't know, wont hurt them" but the fact is that enventually they do know and you are a worse person for not only being a cheater but a liar.