and another girl he was involved with, not simultaneously of course. But he did this w/o my knowledge and in fact concealed it from me and even told the ex not to tell me it happened. What are people's opinions regarding this and do you think the relationship is worth pursuing? We have been dating for about 2 years now.
217369
I would be P.O.ed in the worst way.  What was he thinking?  I'd give some serious consideration to what he's done.  How many other things has he concealed from you?  Doesn't he know that behavior like that shows disrepectfulness for your relationship?  Clamp down on that now!
189037
If he really really cared he wouldn't have been out sleeping with other girls.  I don't know him but I have known many in your situation and everyone that took the guy back ended up being cheated on time and time again. You don't need the drama of boyfriend with a child from another girl, that girl will more then likely be in his life until the child is 18.
375697
He might have just wanted to tell you that there were girls there incase you hear it from someone else. If that happens you'd start to question why didn't he tell you about it and wonder if he's hidding something. He's just trying to play it safe and be honest with you by keeping you updated about all the things that are happening.
417141
This should definetely be his decision....only he knows who he has stronger feelings for...but you didn't necessarily state why they broke up....if it was because she did something to him, you might want to convince him and let him know that you would never do that (and keep your word about it), but other than that, I think you're just gonna have to lie and wait...just be his friend in the mean time, don't pressure him to choose a you or his ex right now
136495
I know what you are feeling.  He is only dating that other girl for a rebound.  He follows you everywhere because he he wants to make it a quinky-dink and make sure you aren't around your other ex.  I think you should just tell the ex off and run after your true love.
484025
To be honest your best off ignoring it if both you and your girlfriend trust each other this should not be an issue anyway. The ex is more than likely only doing it to annoy you hoping it will cause problems so don't rise to it. She is with you not him :)
333694
You have a right to be suspicious but the good news is that he didn't try and tell you he did get a haircut.  Keep and eye on him, but don't assume he is cheating at this point.  You are in a different relationship with this guy than the one he had with his ex and you knew what was going on there and have trusted him this far.  Don't let your fear ruin what you have without proof he is really doing something wrong.
100402
No. You need to let your girl handle it. Tell her you support her and that she is more than welcome to ask your help if she feels she needs it. My question to you though is what is your girl telling her ex? Is she making it known that she is seeing someone else and is happy in that relationship? Let your girl know that you have no problem stepping in to take care of the situation if her ex won't listen to her.
235277
Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
541708
Were you wrong to tell his ex... Not at all.  The key word is "ex".  If his relationship with her is really over then it shouldn't matter to him if his ex knows that he is with another girl.  Mind you, it does depend on how long ago they broke up. For instance, if they were together for a long time and they just broke up a week ago... it might be a bit soon for him to have a new girl in his life.  This would for sure hurt his ex and he might be mad at you if this is the case, but nevertheless he is the one being inconsiderate not you.   If the relationship has been over for awhile, then he should have told her about you himself... you should be the one mad at him for not mentioning you.  You are not a rebound chick.   Perhaps you need to ask him what his relationship is with his ex.  Likewise, if the relationship is really over what is big deal with his ex knowing that he has moved on (providing he has moved on). It sounds like he might have a lot of baggage.  Make sure that this is something you want to be involved with before you get too involved.  There are plenty of great guys out there.  Good Luck!
599709
I had the same thing happen,and in my oppinion,if he was sexually camming with another woma,he is a cheat!\n\nHow anyone could think differently,is beyound reasoning.\n\nIm getting out of my relationship because of this..I just dont trust himmnow.
138329
Well, if your ex cheated on you, then it shouldn't matter who you date. Even if it is his friend. Hard part about that, is you won't be able to hang out with him when he makes plans with your ex. So there will be a bit of drama more so between the guys, but I also think it's silly to keep things locked up. I hate hiding things, so I would tell the new guy that he should speak up. I dunno, it always sucks being in those kinds of situations. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
126820
You yourself said it was a fling..leave it..talking to this guy wont make any difference.. if you need it off your chest..post a question on yahoo answers!! As for closure..he is with another woman now..is that not closure enough.. the thing here is your expecting some form of logic in this situation..relationships..even flings dont work this way..live and let live...spend your precious energy on someting and someone worthwhile..including YOU..\nGood Luck..
573651
I would not trust this guy. Even if he never physically cheated on you with this other female while you were going out, he obviously had feelings for her. He would not have been with her two days later if he had not been harboring feelings for her for a while. You may hope that he will eventually grow up, but how patient and how many break-ups and reconciliations are you willing to put up with. I feel you will be better off keeping on a friendship level for a year. Date other people and have him date other people. You may just find your ideal mate instead of wasting your time. Or in a years time, maybe he will have his priorities focused on you.
586787
Apparently your girlfriend is getting some satisfaction in the fact that her ex is still after her. She may tell you that she cares for you, but if she did she'd take steps to put a stop to the calls/harassment. Maybe you should tell her you're going to step back a while, until she settles the issue with her ex and then the two of you can move forward in peace. Her action/reaction to that may tell you if the future holds anything for the two of you.
343516
Good job sweetie! If she had nothing to hide in the first place she would have told you about it, or not lie when you confronted her with it. If she didn't tell you because you would have gotten upset, then she should have not been doing it. Maybe you we her only one (meaning the only one to get her legal)for right now until she became a citizen.... then divorced you for the other man she lied about! I'm not saying that all men she talked to could have been potentially dating her, but be aware of her motives.. There are alot of things that I could get away with because my other half does not check up on me.... but why do it??? To betray him, loose his trust, or even potentially break his heart?? NOT WORTH IT!
583519
When something like this happens its smart not to obsess about the actual details of events because they don't really mean anything. Ask yourself questions like "Why did she behave the way she did? Did she do it to hurt me, or because it was what she wanted to do at the time?" If she did these things again, would you be able to take her back again? What do you think the chances of her doing these things again are? If you don't think so, why not? How has she or your circumstances changed?