I don't want to sleep with anybody else, but I just want to go out meet people and make friends, and flirt a little.  I have been with him for about 5 years and we are very comfortable around each other, could this be why
216550
I kinda think you just need a little more stimulation. It seems you have just been enjoying each others company for a long time and that is pretty amazing in it's self... talk to your partner... you might find that he is feeling the same way as well... You say flirt a little? Can I guess that you don't work? Cos most people I know in a work situation tend to flirt a little somehow...  Though it is well understood that it isn't for any other purpose than to lighten the days tasks.\nTalk to him and maybe seek this stimulation together... can only make you stronger and give you more to share when it is just the two of you...
174571
Sounds like a little bit of a player. Maybe he wants to go out with you but would like to see other people at the same time. Not a serious relationship.
37346
You shouldn't sleep with him. He probably wants to just to reinforce his "control", to help make him feel superior within himself. AVOID sleeping with this guy!
111383
Some of us can. I have a girlfriend I am completely happy with. The ONLY interest I have in any other women is as a friend. As for those who can't, they're probably wondering why you can't just accept that they don't want to just be friends. If you just want to be friends, and a guy wants to be more than friends, don't bother with him. You have different ideas about where your relationship should be headed. Or if you do choose to spend time with a guy like that, make it very clear that you're only interested in being friends, that you're not comfortable with him trying to be anything more, and if he makes any advances on you, don't tolerate it.\n\nAdded:\nIf you don't hear from them after you've made it clear that you only want to be friends, the only interest they had in you was as more than a friend. They weren't willing to settle for less, and they have as much right to make that decision as you do to decide that you just want to be friends. Simple as that. What you wanted wasn't enough for them, what they wanted was too much for you. Best to go your separate ways.
273761
If he's not your boyfriend and you wouldn't feel comfortable going any further than you already have - TELL HIM, before you agree to go out again.  If you're honest with him from the outset, then at least he'll know where he stands with you and can make his own decision whether to pursue you as a sexual partner, to just remain friends or whether to fall away from your life.  You, too, will be able to feel confident that he understands what you (don't) want from your relationship with him.  \n\nHe might not like you (if he feels you led him to think he might get something back or considers you to be selfish) but he'll respect you for being honest.  From this base you could both agree a new direction for your relationship.\n\nKeeping quiet and getting anxious about what he might want of you, should you ever meet again, IS selfish and self-destructive. Selfish because you are not allowing him to know what you are thinking and to give his contribution in how your relationship proceeds.  Self-destructive because you are getting worried (stressed?) by excluding the one person with who you could resolve that anxiety.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is: no matter what kind of relationship you want to have with this guy, it'll be no kind of relationship if you don't communicate.\n\nBest wishes going forward
272891
there are more singles then their are in a relationship.... I feel the same way sometimes too.... I dont want a gurl keeping me on check every hour... Well some nights i do wanna just cuddle in bed or something.... But yeah alot of us feel the same way as u....
251668
stay single.  don't degrade yourself by sleeping around.  and you probably don't want to get involed with "his" friends
421983
WOW! This is CRAZY! I am in the exact, I mean exact same situation! I have a guy friend (best friend at that) and he is a little bit attractive, and I know he is in love with me because he tells me so, but I do not have romantic feelings towards him. Sometimes I get the urge to let things go further (physically) but in the long run, I never let it get that far. I believe, if something is mentally stopping you from going further with him, then you should listen to your gut feeling. It might also make things complicated after you initially sleep together. He'll be calling you all the time, crying about his love for you and whatnot, and you will have to tell him (once again) that you don't have feelings for him. Trust me, this is what happened when I slipped up and accidentally kissed my guy friend....but either/or, GOOD LUCK!!!
21650
I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. Friends with benefits are ok as long as you agree to stick with the terms. You know he doesn't feel the same way you do, so stop hooking up and step back for a while. Besides, he's hooking up with other girls and that puts you more at risk of catching something (even if you use a condom). Use your head instead of your heart on this one. Don't hook up anymore.
326308
I'm not a bloke, but my friend is gay and he has the same problem. He believes that men are more programmed to sleep around. Also there's the biological reason that men have an inate urge to spread their seed to increase diversity of popluation, whether gay or straight, they're still male so the urge remains. I think in a striaght relationship the man has learned to be more sensitive becasue females in general bring out a more protective urge in men. \n\nI hope that you manage to sort out the issues in your relationship; if it were me, and I was "taking a break" I personally would not jump into bed with random people, but I would not blame my partner for doing so if he desired to. As long as he is faithful when we are together, that is all I care about.\n\nGood luck!
421857
If you think that he is cheating on you and he says that he wants to sleep with your friend, he probably is. From what you described, his behavior seems pretty shady. I would move on from the both of them. If he can't commit himself completely to you, the relationship is doomed. You should never have to doubt your significant other in a healthy relationship. Also, if your friend is sleeping with him or anything else, then she is not your friend. Find people that respect you and your relationship.
627502
I know what you mean, I am in the same sitution. I try to find things to do to keep him off my mind watch tv, go for a walk etc. As I see it if your unable to be together you need to stop wasting your time and find someone that you can be with and sooner or later you will feel secure to talk to that person (Thats what I am trying)
663588
I think it is great to explore your options and see who is out there. If you feel like flirting...go ahead and explore...my feeling is if you don't want to get attatched...don't sleep with anyone one the trip...you may find the love of your life! Hope you have a great time! MayMay
277530
At some point, I think you either decide that it's the realtionship you want --- or not. It is really hard for most people to keep all emotion out of an "open" relationship, and to be oblivious to whatever the other person may be doing. I htink ultimately it may be just an excuse (on one or both people's part) to avoid dealing with loneliness, hornineess, or both, alone.
545704
whether he is your ex or not you shouldn't be sleeping with him if he has a girlfriend because I am sure you wouldn't like that. But that wasn't your question. It seems like he just wants to have sex with you. You deserve someone who hasn't kept you on the side for the past couple of years and by letting him sleep with you with no commitment he knows he can get away with it... so he might be thinking why should he be with you when he doesn't have to be to get into your bed. Good luck and I hope things work out for you either way.
506709
Does not sound like you are doing anything wrong.  Maybe it is the men that you are attracted to that are wrong for you.  Yeah you say you have friends with benefits, but you want something more, like commitment?  Maybe you should start looking for a different kind of man.  Maybe you are afraid of commitment and taking your relationships to the next level.  Maybe it is the men.  I dont know enough about your situation to be more efficient with helping you.  Hopefully, I left a little food for thought with you.
280033
don't feel guilty just because your dating someone doesn't mean you can't like other people your probably like 18 years old trust me the guy your with now isn't going to be the guy your with in 5 years, so look around you may end up finding the guy you're truly meant to be with