I have a bf who I love a ton & he loves me more than anything & has asked me to marry him. I once was so in love with him he is all I thought about. But now after going through a lot with our parents not wanting us to be together we havnt seen eachother for 4 weeks. I still love him but its not the same as when we started going out & could see eachother. He really wants to work through it & we are both hoping to see eachother soon. We both risked & lost a lot for eachother already so it would be sad to see it end but I can't stop thinking about another guyfriend I have. He kissed me a few days ago & I love the way he looks at me. but I know hes just the type of guy who wants 1 thing & everytime he talks to me he says he wants to "hook up" he knows I'm not single but he says to try & see wat its like to "hook up" with him. my bf wants to get married which is crazy I think for a guy to ask such a question at 17 to me at 15. We'v been together 4 months & he asked just after 2 weeks 2geth
215853
stay with love. a crush will always end the way it sounds CRUSHED!!!!!!! they could've called it something else but they called it crushed. love is forever and will never go away if you leave it.
335436
i'm so happy for u! i fell in love w/ my bf at age 14 and we've been together for a year/7 months. take it slow, don't rush love. give it at least 6 months before ur sure. talk to her about ur feelings if u want but don't let anyone tell u ur to young!
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No, you're not too young.  You are also engaged which is not a commitment that is taken lightly, so if you have both eneterd into the engagement with the view that you will be with each other for life...then you have really just sped up the inevitable - congratulations!
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Take your time. There is no hurry to get married. If he isn't ready what good will that do you?  I can understand him wanting a job before he marries you. It makes him a good man not wanting to live off you. Slow down and enjoy your time with him right now, it will all work out okay........
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It doesnt sound like he is fully committed to you yet. You should give it time and see where it leads. If it doesnt change look elsewhere.
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why does he have to wait longer?...is there something that he must wait for??? hes just not ready for commitment! hes scared! that's why he keeps putting it off! dont wait around forever if you see he isn't making any progress to try to marry you then you should kick him to the curb!
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You just know.  My husband knew I was the one on our first date - I knew a few dates after that.  I was 25 and he was 33.  We looked at rings a month later, were engaged 4 months after that, and got married 2 years later after saving up money for our dream wedding.  We've almost been married a year now.  It's not a feeling you can even explain - it just hits you and sticks with you.  It sounds like you are both too young and not ready yet.
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Oh, poor guy... Just listen to what you're saying: you're basically TRYING TO MAKE HIM marry you. With that kind of attitude, I don't think that guy will marry you without doubting himself whether this relationship will work. If you try to push him here, what else does he have to expect, once you're married and live together? He won't have a second of freedom to breathe - that's what you're telling him.\nDon't get frustrated. If he doesn't propose just yet - he's got a reason to do that. Either he is trying to make a surprise for you, or maybe, he is still trying to figure out how will this whole marriage thing work. If you think he's not really planning to propose - then why in the world do you insist on him to do that? If he does plan to propose and waits for the right moment, you're pushing that moment farther and farther away, because you're thinking about it all the time, and he can't propose to you by surprise if that's all you think about. Maybe, he's been carrying a ring in his pocket for weeks now. But when you two meet.... "Hi, honey, when are you going to propose to me?" -" Oh, yea, I was just going to do that..." Sweet surprise, isn't it? Give him time and space, let him get ready. It's a big step in both of your lives. And it's not every day you get married.\nBtw... Me and my gf have known each other for almost 3 years. And yet I still haven't proposed to her (even though we too talked about marriage many times). We are still figuring out each other, trying to understand the relationship better and soften out sharp egdes, which have a potential of ruining our relationship. Once we both think we've got to know each other well enough, then we'll start making plans of a wedding. Until then, we enjoy each others' company and get to know ourselves really well. One thing neither of us wants to happen is to find some really bad surprise about another person when we're already married. Way too many relationships brake up because they started too quickly. If people in those relationships would get to know each other before dating - maybe they'd never want to date another person and save tons of nerves and time.
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Seems a bit scary that he's already at that point and you're just getting to know one another. Even if he does ask you, be prepared to say that you don't know him well enough yet.\n\nokay -- go ahead. Get married when you hardly know the guy. I'll give it 2 years max.
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You haven't told us your age.  No matter how you cut it, it really depends on how old you are right now.\n\nIf you're still very, very young ... let's say, under 24, then you can still afford to wait awhile longer.\n\nIf you're approaching 30 ... well, that's certainly not old by any means, but it is a benchmark because at around that age, you start seriously thinking about whether or not to have children.\n\nYou have to figure that if you leave this guy, it'll take a little while before you meet the next guy ... and then it'll take some time to build that relationship up to the point where marriage is a possibility ... and then yet more time until the topic of having children is ready to be discussed.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say in a nutshell is this:  Don't waste ***all*** of your youth on a " possibility "... save some of it for the next guy you could be with who would gladly marry you in a heartbeat.\n\nThere's also that famous old saying that applies to guys who don't marry the women they live with:  " Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free ?  "   \n\nSorry Sweetie, but I can't help but think that if he isn't ready after 4 years, he might never be ready.  And you just might be missing out on meeting that special someone out there who really wants you in every possible way.\n\nWhatever you ultimately decide, I wish you every possible happiness.  Good Luck !!!
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Sweeite, it's alright.  What you feel is totally natural.  I have been with my guy for three years and I am the maid of honor for a woman who has been dating her guy for five months.  I have a complex about it, and she loves to rub it in.  \n\nSomething I have realized, though, through all this is that marriage, while being the ultimate committment is not required to have a totally fulfilling realtionship.  While I may not even be engaged, I know that we are meant to be and have a bond that my friend cannot even contemplate with her new beau.  \n\nNot being egnaged only means that you are mature enough to know that the marriages that last longer are the ones who wait two to five years.  You will not stumble into anything weird wwhen you get married.  You know everything about him.  Believe me, some of these new brides will find at least one thing that will surpirse them about their mate.  Getting married in the honeymoon phase of a realtiohsip, while looks good on paper, is not really the best way.  once that is over, what do you have left?  Only knowledge and understanding of the other will be the true test of time, and that can only come with time.  \n\nDon't sweat it.  You are the smarter one.  Know it, breathe it, live it!  You are one up on them, not the other way around!
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It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit.  If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love.  Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish.  If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!\n(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
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You should feel special and irreplaceable, but it will take some time, are you sure you want to stay with him, ask your self is me and my b/f headed down that marriage path? if the answer is no, than why are you with him? your wasting your time, if the answer is yes, get some counseling together, and work things out, fight for your relationship (not the girls he was txt'ing) but work hard, and it will blossom, it will take some time, are you willing to put in that time?
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Are you ready to be married and be alone?  This isn't about money or status, it is about two people that can handle staying commited and true no matter what and at your age that is a lot to bite off.\nI bit it at 18 and found at 30 that I really felt I had missed out on lots of fun.\nIf your love is real it will weather the time in the airforce and still be strong when he returns.  I suggest waiting so that you both still have the freedom without regret to experience the rest of maturing.
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Well, seems to me you all need to spend some more time together!  IF you all are really serious about getting married then you all should be at that point in your relationship to communicate well with each other.    It's ALL about communication, trust and love.\n\nIt'll put your heart at ease to give him a call and meet up face to face to talk about everything you two are feeling right now.  It's a BIG step to take and everything should be out in the open with you two and comfortable with your decision.\n\nGL hun and hope all works out for you two!
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I, too, am in a similar situation. I know what it is like constantly THINKING about him, it, the situation. I have not gotten any closure yet either. My advice to you is to contact him. Ask to meet up for lunch or something. Discuss your feelings. Life is too short to be spent wondering. He's not married yet. You never know. You guys could be 'the One'(s) for eachother. Evaluate your feelings for your boyfriend now. Make a pro/con list. GOOD LUCK and let us know what happens!
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5 months is still young so its hard to say what his intentions are ....good thing is that usually if they are just after s?x then once they are put down a couple of times they will go off and try elsewhere unless they feel theres a good chance they can talk you into it fairly quickly.  I think he probally cares for you and just pouts cause its something he wants and your not giving it to him...us guys are funny like that sometimes especially if we feel we are truly in love with that person.  Don't do anything your not ready for and if he loves you he will wait and respect you.  Just tell him that you love him and know he wants you to go further but explain that your just not ready yet and when you are he will be the first to know but ask him to lighten up on the guilt trip cause its making you feel bad and pressured.