I really like this guy but I have not seen him for 3 years\nbut im still obsessed with him and i talk about him all the time. what do I do to stop thinking about him?
200623
Memories are forever, you won't totally forget them. But I would try to keep busy, and be happy. After 3 yrs I don't think he's coming back anytime soon. Go out and mingle. Chances are you'll find someone else to think and talk about.
176774
You have to distract yourself...HAVE TO. Or else you'll always think about him, always dream about him, always hope for him. Get out of the house, go out with your girlfriends, take a bubble bath, dance to music...do whatever you can to take him off your mind. \n\nPlace your studies first - they are important - and you'll end up regretting it later if you don't. You have to drown yourself in your studies if you want to forget him. I fell behind in my studies because I always though about this one guy and then my grades SEVERELY suffered because of it. Now looking back on it, it wasn't even worth it. \n\nRead until you're very tired before you go to bed so you won't toss and turn about him. I went through something similar as well, and I'm gradually letting it go piece by piece as I distract myself more and more. You have to keep telling yourself that you have more important things to worry about or else you'll keep on thinking about him.
159843
I feel u, im in the same position but its only 3 yrs not 5 ;p well i told him abt 4 months ago that i have feelings (he's my best friend btw) and that i need 2 take a distance to get over him and we stayed like that 4 a month and it didnt work...try 2 get urself involved with other ppl, convince urself that u like some1 else...(i have no idea why am I giving advice) just try 2 get urself 2 think of some1 else
285338
You don't have  to focus on him. Once you pretend you never liked him, he'll want ur attention. Thne you will feel happy. WHen he completely likes you, stop acting so dignified and accept him eagerly, before he goes away again.
340647
find another guy! cut him off completely.. thats the best way to get over someone. and also finding other guys to keep your mind off him. but dont talk to him. or feelings will just come back. CUT HIM OFF!
620995
It's called lust.  Probably one of the things that attracts you is that you feel you can't "get him".  Remember you can't always get what you want.  Try to think of the reason why you feel obsessed with him.  He's probably not all that.  It happens to everyone at least once.  Focus your attention on someone with whom there is a mutual attraction.
374644
It may be a good idea to remember why you got a devorce to start with.After that if you are still thinking about him just go along for the ride and see what happens.If you rush it things could go bad again.
389101
Email him and say... Hey just thinking about you. I have not heard from you lately and just wanted to know  if you wanted to go out again some time, and then give him an easy way out. Then at least you will know.
191059
mmm...ur feelings are ordinary...it will take some time to forget him...u have to do some important things to make it a small period :\n1-never try to contact him even if u felt that u would die to hear his voice or see him, never even think of that.\n\n2-when u find ur self starting to think of him, start to remember the bad things he did to you as much as u can.\n\n3- never think that u miss his days and never dream of being with him again.\n\n4- try to think of another one if u can (that's a quick cure but it's not a good one).\n\n5- finally and the most important try not to have alot of free time, try to engage ur self in doing anything...and try not to stay alone for a long time...be with ur friends,relatives,or any other people.
525016
When I was 16 (I'm 19 now) I was madly in love with a guy from school. He broke my heart, and I was so devestated. I was insanely depressed for 3 weeks and after 2 months appeared happy but I was still so miserable inside. I was obsessed. I couldn't stop thinking about him for even a SECOND. I spent a year of my life with him on my mind, 24/7. Sometimes I'd wake up in the night and not be able to go back to sleep because his memory was so painful and I couldn't get him off my mind. Even when the pain of losing him was gone a few months later, I still felt anger about the situation.\n\nYou want to know when everything disapeared? 2 1/2 years later while at work, I looked to my right and the most gorgeous guy walked in the room. At that moment, my ex's memory disapeared. My mind returned to normal. I fell in love again.\n\nUntil something of that nature happens to you, start going out with friends. Surround yourself with people. Keep yourself busy AT ALL times. TRY to not think about her (even though I know how impossible it can be). Eventually, time will heal your pain.
226748
when you really like someone such thoughts dont come in your head. They are away, on vacantion, you head is bisy with Him and next meeting with him. \nHeart beating is nothing, it is only time result. If you want check just come at home and try to spend around 1 week without him and try dont think about him. date with someone other or just meet with friends, and then you'll see, what he really means for you.
350903
I agree.  It's not HIM you miss per se.  It's the attention and the routine.  The familiarity of being with someone that knows you and what you like.\n\nThe longer you go without him, the easier it will be.  You need to make this about you now.  Becoming stronger and more independent.  Prove to yourself that you can do it.  Not to him or anyone else.\n\nBusy yourself with whatever you need to do to keep your mind off of him.  Don't jump back into the dating scene.  You need time to clear your head and put things back into perspective.  Find out who you are now that you're single, and what you want out of your next relationship.  Anything too soon will be a rebound relationship and even if it's with the right person, it'll be the wrong time and it won't work out.\n\nGood Luck!
544331
I understand!  But life is like that.  It is never fair.  It will take time to try to forget (maybe a few weeks to a couple of months) but you will have to start healing.... make new friends, find new hobbies, study and work with passion!  You will never really forget .... but it will be less painful .... don't run after him okay? ... it will make you look pathetic and needy.  Take good care of yourself!
224373
Obviously if your thinking about him you still have feelings for him.  Call him up and see what he is up to.  Don't regret not calling him or telling him how you feel.
125509
Quit worrying about him and move on. He will move on when you quit giving him any attention good or bad. If you continue to be concerned about his feelings, he probably still has a whisper of hope that you may take him back. So move on don't look back. Good luck
324378
Apparently you have very strong feelings for this person. I know the feeling. I went to high school with this guy and i left but i always kept bucking in to him, and i knew he like me back but we never said anyting, and even now i still have a feeling to find him to talk to him. Go search for that person. Cause most people only get this feeling once.
422303
leave him alone!\ni had those crushes too.\njust wait till he is available