My boyfriend is not cool at all with me going to clubs. That's fine with me i guess but my close cousin is having her 21st birthday at a club and she is mad that i probably won't go. My bf thinks that people in relationships shouldn't be going to clubs...is that true? or does he just not trust me??
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tell your boyfriend to buy the 2006 calendar in case he forgot that we're in the 21st century. It's totally cool for you to go clubbing. A club isn't just a hook up place it's also a way for u to unwind through dancing, drinking and chatting with your friends. \n\nAs long as you're not picking up guys or giving them your number or letting them write their number on ur bra, it's totally cool and guilt free to go clubbing. \n\nI don't think that the clubbing is the problem at all. Don't feel guilty to want to have fun. you need to have your alone time too even married girls need alone time and girl times. explain that to him. i think the problem really is his trust. He doesn't trust u enough in a setting wherein there are lots of guys around for u to pick. \n\nYou might be able to resolve this by taking him clubbing once or twice. show him that the club doesnt have to be a threatening place that it's actually fun and can be fun for both of u.
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Young and Vibrant, only last so long. Do your thing, that keeps you alive. There's nothing wrong with going out dancing with family and friends. When two people get together, it shouldn't be where you dictate to one another. The age difference maybe, one of your issues. He has been there done that, 23 it's your stage to go through. LOVE does not trainee you, it sustains you,  when no one else will.  All we can do is truly LIVE for ourselves. Share Great Times with the ones who really LOVE You being You!
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Partying and drink doesn't prove anything - it sound like you have an amazing relationship with your boyfriend, don't let a night of fun and being drunk mistake you for him not loving you. You said you both love each other, and that is not worth throwing away.\n\nIt sounds like he was careless, but if he said sorry etc... i'm sure it was a mistake...
72216
why frat about this one bf if he's doing this its because something happened that night,don't waste yr time on him find yr self someone that's grown up and that doesn't play games and show him yr better then that.that u do have to sit at home wall he's out fucking what ever walks.
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First off, I am sorry you got HSVP2 from your boyfriend. That is the slap in the face with a cold, wet fish. You feel dirty, but you've done nothing wrong.\n\nIt really sounds like you and your boyfriend need to have a serious talk. It seems like everyone you've tried ot talk that he's been avoiding the main issue. This is the issue: you both have HSVP2. You both need to find out where you go it. If he's gone to a swingers club, he needs to tell you.\n\nSit with him and explain your frustrations. Explain to him that your trust for him is waning, which I think is pretty generous. While you have no right to be mad at him for going, the fact that he didn't tell you is disturbing. If he isn't honest with you, how are you supposed to trust him 100%?
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Honey don't waste your time and energy being jealous and hurt over this.  You need to work on your own self esteem it seems.  Your energy would be better spent building your own self confidence.  And if this relationship you have with him is going to work it will have to include trust and communication.  If you had a problem with him going to a place like that you should not have made him believe otherwise only to bring it up later.  You say you don't think he would cheat so you must have some basis for believing he will be true to you.  And I can assure you if he is going to cheat it most likely will not be with the lap dancing stripper in front of everyone.  However, I certainly would question the solidity of what this relationship is based on now if I were you.  Doesn't sound like the actions of a man who respects your relationship to me  because regardless of his intentions his actions were very public and seemingly not terribly concerned how it looked.  Now you say he is going again even after you told him you were hurt by his actions. Does he respect you or not?  Do you really care?  You make sure you are confident and sure in who you are and what you stand for.  Walk proud and do not be swayed or controlled by the actions of anyone else.  I promise you any man will be more attracted to a confident woman who doesn't give a second thought to being jealous over such things as a juvenile boys will be boys outburst meant to boost his own ego.  You will be a much happier person and there will be far fewer nights spent home alone wondering what or who he is doing.  Take care of you and the rest will take care of itself. I promise.  I don't believe in jealousy.  It is  a waste of time and energy.
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yall should go out. But not if you're not suppose to have a boyfriend or you already have a boyfriend or he already has a girlfriend. Just make sure both of yall are available to do what ever without any problems!
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Seems pretty damn dodgy to me. I certainly wouldn't do that, and I know my partner wouldn't do it either.\n\nIt's not that I don't trust him I just don't like the idea of him going to some christmas party where everyone's drunk and obviously there's a pretty good chance that other girls will be hitting on him etc.\n\nIf you don't feel comfortable with it then tell your partner and hopefully he'll understand and respect your opinion..\n\nJust my opinion though.
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Well, all sorts of issues going on here.  For one, were you snooping around, looking for stuff, do you not trust him, has he cheated on you before?  Basically there is a trust issue here, but i'm not on the guys side, he should also be open if he's being invited to girl's parties, and he has alot of girls numbers that you don't know?  Not a good sign.  Figure out if you guys still trust each other, if not, after 4 years, get out, do your own thing, learn to trust.
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Wow sounds like theres not enough trouble in your life if your going out looking fot what might have happened...I'm sure there are ways of figureing it out. altest at the time the possible incident possibly occured ....geeeeee..how bout chalking it up to experience and not getting so drunk you dont know what happened while apparently being with someone you obviously dont trust.........again i say geeeeeeeeeeeeee
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So? If she doesn't have a problem, why do you? Many straight men dress this way in private, your cousin's bf is just a little more bold than most. If he can handle the stares, and comments, why not? If she can take the assualts that will come her way from being with him, then good for her.
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Trust and respect are the cornerstones of a relationship! If he isn't giving you the respect you deserve, by honoring your request in regard to the strip clubs, and is breaking your trust by going to them behind your back, then I would have to say that your relationship is in serious trouble. I dare say that his behavior will not be improving any time soon, so you are going to have to decide whether or not you are willing to continue putting up with him doing as he pleases, whether you like it or not. Good luck!!
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Your jealous because you love him and you are worried about anything happening. I never used to be jealous and now I catch myself getting that way when he talks about going to strip clubs and things like that. If there is trust then that is all you need besides love. If there is no trust to begin with then the relationship has nothing. Dont worry but show him you care.
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Some of these people are obviously too stupid to understand the question....which is perfectly clear to me.  You are saying that you AND your boyfriend don't like this girl.  Well, your boyfriend shouldn't have to spend HIS birthday with someone HE doesn't like.\n\nSince, you say that this girl knows that you guys don't like her(and that would mean the friend knows that, too) I would cancel plans anytime he invites her without your permission.  Maybe, he will get the hint.  That way you don't have to come out and say it but still get your point across.\n\nIf she(and he, obviously) knows you don't like her, then he shouldn't have been so rude as to invite her to hang out with your boyfriend on his birthday.  So, be just as rude and cancel.\n\nWhy would she want to hang out with people that don't like her, anyway?  That doesn't even make sense.
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At the end of the day your boyfriend is a 21 year old male and you must think as they would. A man will be a man and that includes acting up when the homies are around but he does all these things he does for you and is described the way he is, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Unless the man is cheating, smoking crack rocks or drinking till his liver turns colors I think you got a good one. A lot of people make the mistake of letting the "fear of the future" dictate what they do in the present. If he is good to you be good to him. Only time will tell if the relationship will flop or flourish. You gotta stop putting a stigma over and just let it be. Sounds like a good man don't let that fear mess it for you. I wish you all the luck in the world!
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In my opinion, this sounds strange to me. Maybe her boyfriend said something to her about you after you and your fiancee' left that night. Since you just met this couple awhile back, he may be using you as an excuse to break up with her. Or he may have found you very attractive and keeps telling her that. That would make any woman upset. Whatever the case, she is mad for something her boyfriend said, not what you had said. For the dirty looks, and she tells you to go find a hobby. The man had something to do with this. If it happened to me, I would go on with my life. I don't need friends like that to ruin things for me.
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Well I think that you should go out with the girls and have a good time. I guess he just is jealous because of his x made him like that but girl you go out.Well I wish luck. HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY