Me and my boyfrind have been having problems- he says im not romantic but i dont know how to be romantic without offending my friends. what can i do? i really love him , dont wanna lose him but i have not got a clue what to do!!!!!
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One of the easiest ways is to start slow and gradually introduce intimacy back into the relationship.\nFor instance, you may introduce a rule to yourself:\n"make sure I hug my partner at least three times a day"\njust simple acts like this, which are quick to perform, can have a profound effect with regard adding romance into a relationship.\nOr ,get up early one day and go and watch the sunrise together.\nThis is the sort of thing that many women love, and whilst you may find it a little boring is a classic way of adding romance to your relationship.\nOn a warm night before what will be another warm day, there is something incredibly romantic about sharing watching a sunrise together, as the night and darkness gives way to the light of day.\nThe cool air, the change in light levels and the relative quiet of that early morning gives you an almost humbling sensation or an awe of the true beauty and power of nature, and sharing this together is what makes it so romantic.\nAdvice: Don’t involve your friends in your relationships.
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Talk to him just about anything on the phone. Me and my boyfriend play the questions game, he asks a question, then I ask a question. It may be something that he wants to know, like "what do you do when I'm not around" kind of thing. Guys like a lot of information, but it doesn't have to be perverted. The nickname I use is cutie pie. Ask him if you can call him anything that comes to mind, like baby cakes!! Sounds kinda cheesy, but it helps and it makes him feel connected to you. But don't say things like that in public because guys think that their friends would make fun of him. When your around him in public, hold is hand or give him a little kiss on the cheek. If he sees you as a warm person, then he will do the same thing back. I hope I helped. Let me know if my answer was the one that you were looking for!!!
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You are what you are and if he truly loves you, he will definitely respect your feelings. Dont do anything that you feel uncomfortable with now... make things clear now- its better than repenting later. Understanding, mutual respect and honesty are the very basics of any relationship. If he cant compromise and make adjustments now, it doesnt bode well for the future too, does it? So speak out whats in your mind- let him know how you feel. Explain to him that you come from a conservative background and that you dont feel comfortable with the relationship getting physical so soon. DONT DO ANYTHING THAT U FEEL IS NOT RIGHT!
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Welcome to the confusing world of relationships.  Relationships are constantly in transition.  Right now your going from that very early mushy type of relationship and transitioning into what may be a longer term relationship.  In this phase it is normal to not always feel like making out or being romantic.  It doesn't mean you don't like that person as much it just means there is more to life and your emotions and they can't be over ridden by his needs all the time.
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I have gone through the same problem as you, my boyfriend sometimes sweet talks to me and other times he doesn't, but i'm the same to him. In this way i feel that when we do tell each other that we love each other it is always special. I don't know but it makes the relationship more exciting. I just love my boyfriend and he loves me, sometimes we don't need to say "I love you"  to now that we love each other, just by the looking into our eyes, or the things that we do for each other, we know that we do. You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel.  Good luck!
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accept his difficulty...some people just cant express their love in words..\ni myself am brought up in a loving family, but we have never said 'i love u' verbally...only written and actions that show we love\nand today i find it hard expressing myself in person unless im really really really close to the person...a chance to open up more\ndont blame him if u dont hear what u want to hear\njust accept him and allow him space to learn how to express himself froom u. thats the beaty of love...u grow to express in each other
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Treat your boyfriend as you would want yourself treated.\n\nThat is, if your boyfriend were in the predicament you were, what would you want your boyfriend to decide?  Would you like him to do what you are thinking about doing?\n\nMy guess is that he would not want you to do what you're thinking about doing.\n\nNow, if you break up with your boyfriend, that is another story as you will no longer be in a romantic relationship and do not need to consider his feelings when you are making romantic choices.\n\nOn the surface, having sex with your friend to me sounds like a very bad idea at this point in time.  If you break up with your boyfriend, I might have a different opinion.\n\nOverall, respect your boyfriend's feelings while you are in a relationship with him.
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You guys live in a different state.  What do you expect to happen?  Do you expect him to be alone?  What has failed here is your understanding when people are far apart.  It's your responsibility to be realistic, not him.  It would help if he did his part, but that's not the issue here.\n\nIt's you and your false expectations about relationships-particularly when you live far from your mate, in a different State.\n\nSorry sweetheart.  \n\nI'm guessing he said that not to hurt your feelings and he has no intention of doing so, but he's a human being and so are you.\n\nCall him and tell him that this is not realistic and to maintain a friendship.
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Be Open and Honest with him, tell him how you feel..communication is essential in any type of relationship romantic or otherwise so talk to him and make him understand that you care but, that the two of you have all the time in the world and there is no need for rushing into anything. take your time and don't be pushed into anything that your not ready for. Follow your heart and instinct. Good Luck!
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Changing him is going to be hard.  He may not know how to be romantic and is scared that he will not be successful at it.  Talk with him about it and make suggestions and hopefully he will see how important it is to you and be willing to try.  Good luck.
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It sounds like you've spent enough time trying to figure out if something can happen or not.\nSo I'd leave it and be open to something new.  If you're going to do that make sure you either tell him not to touch/hug you any more or you make it clear that you just want to be friends/work colleagues and nothing more.  Don't give out mixed messages and he'll get the point - he may be as confused by your actions, but you don't say what you do when he is 'all over you'.\nIf after this he says he does want to be with you seriously, maybe give ahim acouple of weeks to prove it by acting like an adult, otherwise forget it.  He sounds a bit childish, but his actions may also be affected by your own.\n\nGood luck!!
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You should stop beating the crap out of yourself for one...  You have a good friendship.  Good friendships are generally screwed up by dating.  Just roll with it.  Be glad you still have a good friend and go find yourself a boyfriend.  Maybe do a double date or something!  Don't try to fix something that isn't broken.  You can still keep him as a friend and date other folks.  Sounds like a plan to me.  You'll be fine as long as you give yourself a break and stop looking for reasons why you did something wrong.  You did nothing wrong, he did nothing wrong, you're still friends, just roll with it before you mess up a good thing.
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This is confusing were you guys dating or not?  \n\nIf yes, and he said i love you but you didn't feel that way...why were you dating him in the first place?\n\nIf no, just tell him straight out that you don't feel that way about him but he's an amazing friend and you hope you guys can remain friends because this friendship means a lot to you.
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i gues people just fear the things they don't know or understand. One of my best friends is a girl and we haven't done anything other than a hug.  I guess if you are ever in a relationship then make sure your boyfriend understands the situation. It could also be the people that are around you, cause I really haven't had that problem.
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A lot of us have been in a situation similar to this..dont interfere in your friends relationship..they are happy you just have to accept it..you need a boyfriend of your own and then you will be ok.
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I think that you should talk to him about it. He may be feeling awkward because you told him how you felt and he's not ready to make the transition from "friends" to "more than friends." Talk to him and see where his head is at, try to make him feel comfortable so that he won't blow you off. Things like this are never easy, but you'll never until you ask. Good luck....
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make the first move, then if he pushes you away, ask if it makes him uncomfortable. maybe he's not the "clingy" type, or he might just think of you as a friend. there's other things that might help you: has he said he loves you? if yes, he's probably just confused. does he say anything about you to his friends? if he says good things, he's not embarassed that you're dating; if he says negative things, then you should talk to him. does he treat you like you're the only woman he needs and take care of you/protect you? if yes, he's probably a keeper, but just confused. email me if you have any other questions manda082@yahoo.com