Me and my boyfriend Josh had to break up last night and I love him more then nething. He told me that he is grounded for 2 weeks and we couldnt talk til then. He also said that he loves me and want to still be with me when hes not in trouble anymore. Should I trust him or just move on and find another boyfriend? Like should I think it's because he really has another g/f or trust him and wait
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only you know what he's like. follow your heart, do you really  think he would do this? and if you think he would, then, you obviously don't trust him. if you think he's capable of somehting like that, then, the feelings must not be there strongly enough on either part
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has he  ever hurt you before if yes then i guess thats why you feel that way \n\nalso if you dont trust him then you are jealous = you dont love him enough\n\nalso if he does love someone else dont you think it will be better for him to go \n\nask him if he is saisfied with you or does he want sth else\n\nis he still looking for potential gfs\n\ntalk to him
130806
Step back, look at this situation, is this really how you want the rest of your life to be? I would say walk away, no run. Don't look back just run. And on another note if you are willing to dump the current boyfriend for another guy then why waste your time with him, obviously he is not who you want, might as well get rid of him too, time to clean house back up and punt. Just a little tip from your uncle Will.
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Think about the times when you are not with this guy, do you feel like your relationship is helping you or hurting you?  It sounds like you could be in an non-exclusive relationship, which is OK as long as it's not causing either of you more harm than good. \n\nI would suggest that you examine your own feelings as best you can and decide if you want to ask this guy for a committed, exclusive relationship - Is he really what you want? Once you tell him that's what you want and clearly define it, then you can see what he says.  If you feel you can trust him offer to wipe the slate clean and pursue an honest monogamous relationship with him.  Then if he strays it's time to move on.  \n\nJust be sure that continuing a relationship with this guy is what you want. If this whole situation is driving you crazy and upsetting you, take that in to consideration.\n\nA breakup is painful, but it will get better.  Staying in a bad relationship can just keep the distress alive.\n\nWe learn many lessons in life, most of them are not easy.  Everyone here can give you their opinion, but none of us are you.  Ask yourself "Am I a happier and better person over all by staying in this relationship?"  And Listen to your answer from within and follow it.
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If he says he broke up with her, that's all you have to go by.  If you like being with him, then continue on and don't worry about it.  I'm concerned that you have already slept with him, since you haven't even known him for 2 weeks ... but that's your choice, I guess.  I would definitely wait much longer before choosing to get so intimate with some one you don't really know.
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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I think that he told you about him cheating on you, so if you forgive him, he thinks it would be ok to do it again. I think you need to get rid of him and move on. You are way better than to have a guy cheating on you. You need to get a good boyfriend. He probably just called you because he broke up with the other girl. You need to just leave now while you can. You don't want to get back into this relationship, just so he can cheat on you again. Ever heard once an cheater, always a cheater, well that is mostly always true, honey.  If you have the feeling that something will go terrible wrong, you are probably right. Your first instinct is usually the right one. If he likes to date your friends, and has done this before, he will keep doing that. Just walk away from it all.\nGood Luck to you, girl. I know you will find a better guy that does not cheat. That is what you deserve,
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trust maybe lost if someone you know quite well has let you down, or if something you werent happy about that happened to you, there are different levels of trust, depends which you lack, if perhaps your boyfriend two timed you, you would find it hard to trust again, if you were assaulted or similar, it would be hard to trust again after that.\n\nor perhaps someone has lied to you, that can also shatter trust, if you have some idea of which trust you lack perhaps someone can give you a more in depth answer.\n\nif something has happened to you, in which you dont trust many people, accept what has happened to you, and try and realise not everyone has or will act that way towards you again, if its boyfriend or friend issues or parent issues, they have to earn trust, best way is to tackle it, identify your specific need. perhaps you are just insecure and you feel everyone is lying to you.
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Sounds like the bf has some real issues.  He really did you wrong.  If he is serious about getting back together with you, he needs to prove himself.   I'd take anything REALLY slow.  Keep your eyes open, see if you can trust him again.
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y did u do it? u don't trust him? if u don't trust him... y b together in the first place? a relationship would not last if both parties do not trust each other... talk it over with him. COMMUNICATION is the word! :)
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Until you are really sure that you both are not in a relationship,only then should you pursue the potential ones. For now he is still your boyfriend and as a girlfriend you should hold yourself accountable. \n\nTell him how you fell and if you can work things out, then great. But if you don't seem to be moving anywhere, maybe then consider stoping the relationship.\n\nAll the best in talking to him :)
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If you love him, yes. But why did you guys break up in the first place? Did he cheat on you or vise versa? Did he lie to you or vise versa? Do you guys trust each other? Really think about these things. Then decide from there.
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:) hmm, a tough question, this one. I can't really say that she is supposed to leave her boyfriend because of you, or, that it is wrong for her to do so when she does love you and have no more feelings for her boyfriend.\n\nHowever, you have only known her for a little while. Don't you think you might just be expecting overly by speculating that she might consider ending her current relationship with her boyfriend?\n\nI only suggested that you should tell her how you felt about her as I know she will respect your determination/courage to let her know. Frankly, I didn't expect that your feeling towards her was strong enough to the point of contemplating whether or not she wants to be with you in the end.\n\nI don't really approve of this but who am I to judge since this is between you and her. No one can guarantee the outcome of both of your future. There's also a possibility after the both of you declare as couples, once you are apart, this sort of thing might happen again and she would leave you for another guy. First of all, imagine you're in the boyfriend's shoe; how would you feel if your girl left you for a guy whom she'd met only few months back?\n\nOn the other hand, it is her choice really, if she does sincerely loves you and her feelings towards her boyfriend is a thing of the past. I believe she is matured enough to think for her own good.\n\nBy the way, don't pressure her to choose between her boyfriend and you. It won't seem fair to anyone.\n\nI hope it helps.
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I hope I can help you by joining the chorus of answers that say “Run Away”. I don’t fault you for being in the relationship because we all make mistakes but I think your making some far-fetched rationalizations to justify staying with him. It’s time to move on to someone who can be with you when you need him. Someone you can call rely on at any time, all the time. Someone you don’t have to sneak around with or feel guilt when you’re seen together.
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I can understand both your sides. If you can't trust him, you need to figure out why - is it him, or is it you? To me, it sounds like it's you. STOP trying to make him justify himself to you. He is not your son - he is your boyfriend. If it's him, and you know FOR A FACT you can't trust him, then leave him!!!! Either way, stop making him account for his time - he is his own person. \nCould he have called you and told you he was going to be late? He probably should have apologized, and perhaps didn't if you jumped his sh** right then and there. \nRemember, men and women react differently - likely, he is not trying to hide something, he just doesnt appreciate being treated like a child and is trying to reclaim some autonomy.
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If he's convinced that you've been cheating on him and can't be persuaded otherwise, then he has trust issues. If he doesn't trust you, how strong is your relationship? \nAnd do you really know what he's thinking? You sound humiliated, and what you really need is a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. So many problems can be sorted by talking openly and honestly. If you love him, then you have to be able to come to him with your problems. If you're not comfortable and instead would rather ask random people online to help you with relationship issues, then what does this say about the strength of your relationship?
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if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck