So I was in a 2 year relationship with a guy and it ended a year ago. Since then I've been with some people but it's been pretty meaningless and we never "dated" it was more hang out casual hook up. So anyway, I met this guy recently who I really really like and he seems to return the feelings. However, I forget how to do this dating thing right...I'm afraid I'll come on too strong because I'm so used to these quasi hook up semi emotional disasters. I really want this to work...anyone care to help?
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tell the guy what you have been through and have been making a habit of. if he respects you and wants to try to make something serious than the quasi dating thing with you he will be patient and will take time to know you and not push you. just go slow be yourself and see where it ends up. in all honesty the best relationships are where you are friends first b4 lovers.
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does he talk about how he likes other girls around you a lot? if he does, then he might just think of you as a really good friend, as someone he can always count on and trust. but...if he doesn't, then that just might be your sign to make your move. but don't go into it too fast, or you might end up driving him away. i had a guy friend like that, and we did almost everything together. a lot of people said that we would be cute and good for each other since we always did everything together. well, after a while we started dating and it took about 3 days to realize that it was way too weird and we stopped dating. luckily we stayed friends.  but I've also had friends in your situation that had started dating, and are so happy together. it depends on what you're willing to do and sometimes risk. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and wish you good luck!
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Maybe you can bring it up somehow, like remember when...? and then let him know you are interested again, if he is.  Sometimes it's hard to return to that relationship, as he may have gotten used to you as a friend.  I remember a guy I dated broke up with me because I wasn't serious enough and then he wanted me back later, but I had lost interest.  Be prepared for something like that, but open the door anyway.  You don't really have anything to lose but a little pride.  Good luck!
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Well hey listen up let me help! Since you gave me some good advice this is what you should do let the guy talk to you and then like go to the common place to hang out right. ok then what you should do since you really like him is to pop a question about relationships or something. You know next if that bails you should move on to plan "b" like talk about something funny get him going then just say that you like him in a humorous way. Just to let him see you are thinking about something so that encourages him to want more!!!! Well probaly does not help at all but try it and see your results because this is  what happened to me and ive been going out with my Boyfriend for three months.
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Why is that bad? It's natural that you would feel that way. If you want to hook up, go for it. Just make sure the guy understands you will be moving soon. Be honest about your feelings. Go and lean on someone, girl! We all need that from time to time.
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Leave him behind, if he had another girl on his arm the very next day after you asked him out, then he is definitely not serious about a relationship, he probably said yes to keep all his bases covered, just go to the bar have a few drinks, maybe play some pool, sit back and unwind you'll most likely meet someone that serious about a relationship in no time at all. And if that's not your goal then grab a rebound guy" been one my self a few times" and show him off to your ex and see what his reaction is. well that's all the advice i can give with out breaking a million more of the guy codes, but hey good luck with what ever you chose.
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Feelings are hard to understand.  My best advice is to give him time.  Give him space and do not call.  If you have changed, this is your time to prove it and lay off for a little while, if there is hope for the relationship, it will shine through.  However, be mentally and emotionally prepared for him to not come back.  In the end, this is not the last guy you will ever date, you're life might have just begun.
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im in a situation just like you ilove my guy to death but i feel isolated but ive been going out with him for 3 years. ive stayed with him by making him want me. i just did simple things like call him and tell him i just wanted to say hi and hear your voice so net i gotta go talk to you later and then i realize (on my ID) that he called me like 3 or 4 times he never leaves a full messge its either hey baby or hi and thats how he keeps me wanting him!\n       good luck!!!!
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LOL neparis2001.. that wasn't nice.. true.. but not nice.\n\nI would say that you have started to 'draw a line in the sand' of what you will and will not do for a person, and you are finding your balance.\n\nThat you are able to not run and find out why he hasn't actually met up with you shows that you are maturing with what you find acceptable in how you want to be treated.\n\nIf you have feelings for him, at least you're honest, but how do you feel now that he blew you off?  I think you're worthy of someone that can return your values in a relationship.. if he can't, look for a new place for your feelings so they don't end up hurt.\n\nKeep your chin up and always respect yourself first!!..so you don't have to worry about regaining respect.
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Have you ever tried to remember the name of a movie, & you thought as hard as you could about it, but couldn't remember, only to have it come to you later when you weren't thinking about it at all?  I know, odd question, but I'm illustrating a point.  I think a serious relationship is often the same way.  For some odd reason, when you are concentrating so hard on trying to find someone, it won't happen.  Then, when you change the focus of your life to something else, like work or school, often times someone just falls in your lap.  Careful that they aren't too heavy, though, as that could lead to bruising.  Seriously, though, you sound like a great girl who may just need a little more time to get over your past relationship, & get your focus in the present instead of the past.  Try to do some things with work or school that may get your mind off your ex & men in general for a little while.  Then, don't be surprised if someone walks right up to you & asks you out on a date.  God has a way of providing for our needs, even if they conflict with our desires & we don't even know it.  When you're ready, the right man will come to you.  Best of luck.
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Like I tell everybody, I think that you should call whenever you get the feeling.  I hate how people make dating into a game.  There is no certain amount of time that you should wait.  Just because you waited a week doesn't mean that's the reason it didn't work out.  If the moment is right between two people and if they are feeling the vibe of each other, then it doesn't matter.
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Well he's using you...  Are you using him the same way?  If you've staked your heart in this guy, you might want to start moving on.  If you're having as much fun as he is though, just go with it.  A person's past CAN turn another person off of dating them.  That doesn't mean you can't be friends.  Or friends with benefits.  Seems like your guy wants to be friends with benefits.  Make sure you know and are clear about what you want and expect with him.  If you are both on the same page, great.  If not, you might need to work out a new arrangement...
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sounds like it was just bad timing... and the fact of how and where you guys met. Most of the time when someone knows and agrees to just a sexual thing then they seperate their emotions. When they get their emotions involved it causes great confusion. And sometimes if you are not at a point in your life where you can "sort" out your emotions then you tend to try to dismiss them and move on with your life. Sadly enough I do not think there is anything you can do except be more careful where you choose to meet the next guy, perhaps somewhere a little more reputable. Good luck :)
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Sounds like you want to use the other guy to get back at your ex.\nWell here is what i think. You ex is going to think that you are crazy. He may think that you hooked up with the guy just so you could be close to him. Do what you think is best hun. I think that until things cool down you have to stay away from the ex. Even if you want him back you do not have to come off as looking desperate and crazy.
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The only dating I have done as an adult has been from on here.  I usually kind of know the person, have talked on the phone and online for quite awhile before we meet.  I have usually dreamed about the meeting for some time.  I tend to live a bit in a fantasy world.  I think about will we have as much fun together laughing, will he see me and think that I am not what he expected, etc.  I don't worry about how I will see the other person because I have already formed an emotionally satisfying bond from talking for awhile.
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Brandi\n\n That's a really tough situation.  You didn't say why he's an ex, but it's obvious that you both still have feelings for each other. \n\n You've got three options:\n\n1- Just friends: This is probably the toughest, since there's something on both sides that is pulling you together.  If you're in another relationship then you cannot take this any farther than "just friends."  Talk to this guy and ask him to help ensure the relationship stays platonic (not romantic).  Then be very, very careful to maintain your distance, so the kiss thing doesn't happen again.\n\n2 - Get back together.  Again, I'm not sure what heppened the first time.  There have been thousands of relationships that have split and then gotten back together.  Without knowing more details about the first time around, I can't say if that might be successful here.  But it sounds like you should at least consider the possibility.\n\n3 - Or just don't see each other at all - neither as friends or as lovers.  If neither of the above can work for you, this is the only course left.  It's tough, but you have to make a decision and stick with it.  Be very, very careful not to put yourself in a situation where either of you might slip.\n\nOne final bit of advice: men and women see relationships differently (in general; there are always exceptions).  Odds are that for you this is a heart issue, for him it's another body part.  I don't mean to be callous - he could be a sensitive, romantic, sweet guy, but there's a possibility it's still about wanting a physical relationship.  Or maybe you just have the hots for his bod - although from your question it looks like it's much deeper than that.  But keep that in mind as you explore those three options above.\n\nSo look at what happened the first time around, weigh your other relationship, what you're capable of, and what you know about him. Evaluate each of the three options.  The important thing is that once you make a decision, stick with it - go out of your way to make sure you follow through 100%.  Good luck, and I hope it works out great for you!
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You just got out of a 4 year relationship and you are ready to jump into a new one after two weeks? You contradict yourself you said you told him you knew he was dating others ..he denies it but tells you that he needs to compare if it was worth it to leave one for the other? Anyway it's ok that he is dating others considering you aren't in a committed relationship, you are just dating. Guess what you can date others too! Don't make someone your priority when you are only their option. I, quite frankly, think it's a lil soon to be jumping into a new relationship so quick but that's your decision to make. Keep dating the guy but don't make yourself completely available to him, create a challenge. Also date other people and let him know about it. After all the two of you aren't exclusive, unless he makes it that way. Just take it slow and do what a psychologist does best, analyze.