MY B/F want me to come over for the holiday but i really hates where he"s living just think about going over there make me sick its nothing much why i dont like his house just that i have to walk a good walk before i reach there also the road to go there his really a mess.But he treats me like a queen  when am with him even more when am at this house. 60% dont want to go and 40% say i should . What dont you think?He knows that i hate coming over but thats the only way for us to be together you know .
211341
i think if you like him that much and he treats you good, then it shouldn't matter where he lives. suck it up and have a good time with him. Good Luck!
550715
I think that you might have pressured him a bit too much, my friends like to pressure me into going places that I didnt really want to go because my parents were against it. It was really stressful and annoying, your boyfriend is probably pretty torn right now, because if he stays he hurts you, if he goes he hurts his mother. And dont write " so  that my BF could spend thanksgiving with his mommy..awwwww..." that makes it seem as if there is something WRONG with that. You obviously dont understand a mother's feelings. Anyway, thats just my opinion. Also, you said that your father changed the vacation dates for him, well maybe he should have done that AFTER he figures out if he was going or not. And well, wether you should just let him stay or go. Just ask him what he REALLY REALLY wants to do, ask him to be totally honest with you. Also, there are plenty of times that he can meet your family, what about Christmas?( I do not know your religion, but its just an example) Hope this helps, good luck! ^_^
567522
First of all, if your house and family are that bad, then she shouldn't come over any more.  Seems like to me she's being a BRAT, and using you and your family.  You should stop hanging with her and enjoy your family.  They can't be replaced, you can get a new friend.
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While I'm not sure why you are living with your ex still (there probably is a good reason), having him bring over a "date" is the epitomy of low. At the same time, you being there while she is there is an accident waiting to happen. I know you may not like the idea of leaving your own home, but it might be the safest thing to do. Afterwards, have a conversation with him about how you aren't comfortable with him bringing over a "date" until the two of you move out.
133505
it would make it easier on you now that he moved out and away to say to him you really feel you need your space. just let him know you've never experienced life by yourself. you were 19 when you got into this and now that your 21 (my 21 b-day is in 7 days i so syked!), you're old/young enough to experience everything you've wanted. if you feel you want to go out and have fun as a single more power to you to follow your heart and do what'll make you happy! GL
543963
I wouldn't allow him to stay in your home. Tell him you would love to have him over  for dinner but that you're not going to be opening your home to any houseguests. Be the bigger person - don't do the finger pointing thing. You know you're right, he knows you're right. Move on from this point. If he is civil during dinner then next time he comes into town invite him to stay in your home.
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Yes you are making a big deal. Can't you take a hint? He doesn't want to be with you, I don't mean to sound like a b*tch but it's true. He's telling you "oh I'm leaving" yet he doesn't leave.\n\nJust get over him, he's too much of a damn coward to give you the real reason. Forget him.
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You said you're working on the relationship, but if he isn't, it probably isn't worth while.  If he has been like this forever, and you thought you could change him....yep, think again.   If he is as self centered as it sounds,  you moving out probably just gave him more free time to do what he wants.  Don't kill yourself working it out if he won't give 110% also.  Habits are hard to break, and no one is perfect, but feeling like dirt on the bottom of somebones shoe is not expected.  Your girls should be learning repects from both parents.
468547
WHAT A BITCH!!!  DON'T GO AND HAVE YOUR HUSBAND STAY HOME WITH YOU, IT IS ONLY GOING TO CAUSE PROBLEMS,,,
19254
Then why do you even come to it if you dont want to be here?  I mean, cmon already.  That is common sense.  You obviously do like it or you wouldnt be here.  Change your preferences and move on.  Sounds like you got some issues there.
59773
I'm sorry, but this isn't your choice.  It is their house and their rules.  You can ask them but you need to respect their decision.  If you don't like their answer then you and your boyfriend need to get a place of your own.
90158
I would have to say that if you have been talking on the phone for that long. Then you have acctually have been dating that long. I think it would be alright to go to his house as long as his family is there. If you feel uncomfortable make an excuse and leave. That is your right.
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Everyone deserves respect in their own house. If this boy is living with you, and neither him nor his dad respect you, then honey that's a problem. If i were you, i would leave. where is the line drawn in this house? Where is the love? I know ya'll had some yrs. together, good or bad, but you deserve better. The only reason why he's doing this is because his father is allowing it. The father needs to grow his ass up and decipline that boy. If he can't respect you, then he would have to leave. If he thinks he's that grown, he may have to get his own place.
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pretty interesting. I know that they will follow people from one place to another. If you want him to leave, you may want to try telling him that he is not wanted there, that he needs to go back to his house, or even encourage him to head for the light.  there are people that could help you find out what he wants. check with a medium for what to do...\nI know some people think this is crazy, but they piss-on stuff they do not understand, because they have tiny little closed minds!
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Your side of it is understandable, but she wronged you. That was immoral, wrong and inexcusable. Selfish, too! Love doesn't make it right. SO on the other hand, he's right. You should leave her for a while. Leaving doesn't mean you have to stop loving, even though you're not loved. Listen to your bf. Natrually a juvi should stay in parent's house, but under those cirucumstances, it wouldn't be right. She ssounds as bad as the evil step mother in that movie "Ever After", who was also an immoral lier.
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If I was You!!!! I couldnt deal w/ it. But I guess you already made a decision and U will let him stay until he finds a place to go. But the point here is, how long  it is gonna take for him to find the place? if you R paying for rent and bills is he helping U out??? if he is not I think it will take longer for him to go. Plus if you guys are in good conditions now (as friends) why ruin it??? tell him to move to one of his friend's house because if U guys R not 2gether anymore and U are looking @ him @ your house everyday, doing the same things as a couple but w/out "rights" that is not helping U @ all. I can tell just by your writing that U still care for him a lot, but if it is over, IT IS OVER,  as he is moving out of your life he has to move out of your house. For his b-day you can buy him something (if you havent done it yet) but something simple for U not to feel bad about, but no cake, no party, no special dinner 'cause you dont have to. \n\nGood luck and dont think about him anymore, just think about U and how it will affect you to have him in your house longer, he will soon start dating and U will find that horrible. \n\nHE HAS TO GO NOW!!!!
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Hi there. You need to go out for a long walk in the evening, take a friend with you go blow the cobwebs away.  The more you mope around the house the more lethargic you will be. Confide in a real close friend how you feel.  More pressing is the issue of the headaches. You should really go see the doc. 5 months is a long long time away from your boyfriend. Are you sure you could not get 1 public holiday day together?  They do say that NOTHING ON THIS EARTH stops you from being able to get to a loved one.  Is it that your boyfriend is the one avoiding a meet?  talk with him, if you reall love each other here will be a way you can be together, at least for a statutory holiday day Good luck honey.