I've lost patience and hope with practically all aspects of society.  The main culprit is my job.  Though it was a somewhat decent job in the beginning, after the hiring of a new supervisor, my work load has increased considerably, without an increase in pay.  \n\nI've searched for new job opportunities, however despite my attempts to find new employment over the past few years, I'm still stuck in my current position.  Considering responsibilities to family, I'm not going to quit before finding a new job.  Also, considering the vindictiveness of my organization, filing a complaint with HR will likely result in a non-renewal of my work contract.  \n\nWith that being said, how do I get out of this depression I've been experiencing for the past few years?
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If you realize that you are burned out with your career, this doesn't make you bad or alone. Most folks have experienced career burnout at least once in their work lives.\nHowever, it is not a fun or freeing feeling. Luckily, you can avoid or overcome career burnout. The following are suggestions to help you stay away from the big, bad, burnout!\n\nForm meaningful relationships with clear boundaries with your associates.\n\n    Get to know and appreciate the people with whom you interact. Also, set and maintain clear boundaries for expected behaviors and communications with your associates. The closer you are to the people with whom you interact with daily, the more enjoyable your work life will be, and the more you will look forward to future daily interactions with these same people.\n\n Be creative.\n\n    Is there a new, creative way to add a twist to what you do? Constantly look for ways to implement creativity to your daily responsibilities and tasks. This creativity will help you stay engaged in your business or career.\n\nChange your environment regularly.\n\n    Rearrange and clean your work environment. Change your daily routines. Change whatever you can afford to change. This regular change will keep your energy renewed and invigorated.\n\nTake regular vacations.\n\n    Give yourself well needed time away from your work. Regular vacations serve to revitalize your energy and your attitude. Pulling away from your work from time to time also helps you to gain a well-rounded positive perspective towards your business or work.\n\nGet a different job or open a different business.\n\n    If you've tried everything you can imagine to renew your passion for your work, but continue to experience career burnout, it may be that your soul is calling you to new career or business opportunities. In this case, do your homework, and attain a different job, career, or business that suits your needs and your personality.\n\n    As you go through your career travels and experiences, just remember that no job or career is 100% perfect. There are challenges in every situation. However, it is possible to avoid or overcome business or career burnout.
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Perhaps you could try asking your former supervisor how you could avoid putting yourself in the same situation at your next place of employment.  If you live in a right to work state they don't have to give you a reason.  Good luck to you.
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Are you keeping tabs?  You should document everything!!!  The day will some when you are asked why you are so unhappy?  If you really want to leave then, they best time to look for a job is while you have a job!  \nBest of luck to you!
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What a drag.....Sounds like maybe you should take you resume somewhere else.  Some people have to downgrade everyone else just to make themselves feel better, superior, or whatever reason.  It's obvious he's got issues.  You're only going to be able to put up with him for so long before you'll probably snap.  Start looking for other employment because I doubt very much if he'll ever change.  Unless you feel like stepping up and being the one to change him.  Confront him with the problem.....maybe he needs to hear how he treats people....\nI sure hope whatever you do things work out of you...\nGooday! ! !
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Dear, I, too, am in the same situation; but sometimes we have to make sacrifices to do what we have to do!  If you can't afford to quit your job, what other alternative do you have as far as living arrangements?  What ever you do don't quit school.  You are going to school for a reason.  I do believe that it is so that you won't have to work at "sucky jobs" for too much longer.  Just think "NO PAIN, NO GAIN"!!  This way you will enjoy your success even more.  You are a Survivor!!!!
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Sorry to hear that, but I'm sure you can bounce back.\n\nYou asked why. The new economy is pretty much like an Olympic economy, where companies hire the very best (which they call the "talent"), even if the best can be found in other countries like India.\n\n4,000 people have recently been laid off by Bell Canada, and I expect the same to continue. People don't have to feel down or depressed, it's just business. \n\nI'm sure you do have core skills that you can redeploy in another job since, after all, you held a management job. \n\nI give career workshops and I always tell participants: never rely on the employer for lifetime employment. Instead, rely 100% on yourself to remain employable. That is, invest as much as you can in reading books, attending seminars, etc.\n\nCompanies are like machines, they are extremely predictable. If you are the best at a function they need, they will hire you, at a high salary and in the best working conditions.
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Start looking now. Your job is what you spend most of your waking hours doing, and If it's not making you happy, don't punish yourself. Sure it might get better, but you've got to be happy.
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Before rushing into finding a new job, you should really work through all these issues with your therapist. Do you have a good therapist that you like and trust? If not, you should concentrate on finding one because all of these fears and apprehensions you have need to be talked out so you are not going into your new job with all that baggage with you. You CAN start again and succeed, but you really need to leave those past failures behind you where they belong. \n\nAll the best.
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This probably isn't the answer you really want to hear but it's the one that will likely help you best if you listen. I went through a similiar situation, not caring for a child just couldn't get a job after getting laid off. It was my attitude. More specifically it was my happiness. It sounds like you are not happy. Do what you got to do to get happy and you will have no problem finding a job and keeping it.
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Try to change things a little at a time - just baby steps. Look for a new role within your work place or maybe a new job. Try to go out once a week, take up an exercise class with friends or go by yourself and try to meet new people.  Look for spirituality, or find something that keeps your soul alive.\nTake up a class or a hobby, find something different or new to do every day. Invite a friend over for dinner, got out for dinner and invite a friend or two.\nTry cognitive behavioural therapy (it can really really help) and look at changing your anti-depressants.\nBest of luck and I hope all goes well in the future...
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This is a difficult situation for you. I think it is of the utmost importance for you to realize if you are mature and professional enough to work in a position where you are in constant contact with people. You have shown a great deal of immaturity here by referring to a caller as a "*****." Therefore, tomorrow ask for a meeting with your supervisor. Outline a plan to improve your customer service skills. This plan could include training provided through the company, and smiling while talking on the phone (this tactic actually makes you nicer to people and sounds friendlier). Admit your mistake and agree to whatever sanctions are imposed upon you. If you are fired, you are fired. Chalk this up as a learning lesson and move on. If you are given a second chance, attempt to do your very best. And remember, going from job to job (a.k.a. "job shopping"), not only looks bad on a resume but can prevent you from getting future jobs. If you feel you are annoyed by the callers, then it is time to find employment that is not related to the services industry. Perhaps, you could become a typist and have no contact with people?
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It sounds like you are unhappy and need a different job.\n\nTHEY are the boss. You are labor.
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It sounds to me as if you are suffering from depression and may need a medical intervention.  It could be situational depresssion which means if your situation improves, you will start to feel better or it could be major depression whcih means you may need a medication to help you.  I'm not a big proponent of medication intervention however in your case I would go to the doctor and get a referral to a mental health facility for screening and possible treatment.  If you do have major depression, you need help before you can really begin to make changes in your life.  If you can and if you believe she will be receptive, explain the situation to your wife so she is aware of how poorly you are feeling and also that you want to have a better life with her but need some assistance making that happen.  \n\nAfter you get treatment, then you can make some career decisions.  Obviously you are well educated and were once very successful.  sometimes you need a lucky break and sometimes you need to make things happen.  Check with your local unemployment department and see if they have any programs to update your skills.  They also have programs where you can go to school tuition free but I'm not sure of the criiteria that must be met.  Look at the industries that have shortages in employees and check the ones you have an interest in.  I know some are education, health care, eye technicians and loads of others to choose from.  Maybe even a votech teaching job might be suitable if you like to teach/train kids.  I don't know that you will be able to make a hundred thousand a year, but you will have a new career with a decent wage, new hope and hopefully will feel a purpose in life.  In the meantime, maybe you could volunteer a little to help take the focus off your problems and raise your self esteem.   I wish you much luck and health and happiness too.
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I call this bullying, especially the bits about not giving you your work and shouting at you in front of other people.  Is there a personnel department or union you can see about this?  If not, I suggest you look for another job before you get symptoms of stress.
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if i where you I'd start to look for employment ads.... I've worked under such circumstances too and I can tell you: it's not worth to stay in a place where you don't like to work at. We spend 1/3 of our day in the office, so it's important whether we feel ok there or not.\nStill, don't make sudden actions, first try to find a new place, then leave the place....\n\nbest of luck, hope everything turns out ok.
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Just  go,  you  don't  want  to  get  in  any  more  trouble.  Just  say  your'e  nursing  a  sick  relative  or  something.  Get  a  walking  stick,  they'll  have  sympathy  for  you.  It's  like  screwing  up  early  in  your  life,  like  doing  a  crime.  With  a  black  mark  against  you  it'll  be  hard  to  get  a  job  later  on  in  life.  We  all  got  stress,  just  look  at  the  mess  the  world  is  in.  Just  hang  in  there,  i  can't  promise  you  things will  get  better  i  can  only  wish  you  luck.  Take  care.
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I tried to change my mind, once.  But when I took it out to put in another one, I fainted.  \nI guess you feel that YOU spend too much time on this site.\nAs for myself, well instead of complaining about being out of work, I tried to find a job.  I felt quite productive, thank you.