As a stereotypical, practically non-emotional male, I need some help with this one.
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well, it depends on what she's sad about. If she's sad about how maybe things are going with you...then tell her how you feel too. \nAnd if she's just sad for some reason, like if her pet died or somthing like that. \n\nTalk to her about it, show that you can help her through it.\nKiss her on the forhead, and squeeze her tight. \n\nSeriously, sometimes the thing that made me feel better was the fact that my boyfriend hugged me...and not just hugged me, but he really really hugged me, held on tight, and told me that everything would be alright.
10320
First you need to get some self esteme man picking up women in a bar tells me that you are just looking for an easy drunk mark have a little more respect for yourself and women and i have a feeling you come off like you are trying to hard so just take it easy and make them want you
671683
You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you.  My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together.  You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!
180390
I am glad you asked this question and I am sorry that you are dealing with this.  Being a male myself and dealing with pressures of life I know what he is going through.\n\nThis is men are:\nwe are defined by what we do for example I don't introduce myself as man who does nursing I say that I am a nurse.\n\nwe feel that we need to be the providers, go out and support ourselves and our family.\n\nwe want to feel loved and accepted.  Here is where we sometimes get confused.  We want your love, but sometimes don't know how to say it because we don't want to be vulnerable.\n\nI am afraid that the best answer for this is the very one you don't want to here.  You can try the ultimatum, but I am almost certain he will choose the alternative because he confused right now.  He has a lot to think about and maybe right at this time he really needs a friend.
188746
I think that you have to ask yourself another question ... what types of males do you want. Visualize the person who you want to use this ... and talk to him.
292472
never loose your class. always smile, be polite and do your job. we all love complements,so a smile and a thank you should be enough. but as all us girls know men can be to assertive. unless hes  drop dead gorgous, you just tell them you have so much going on in your life that your just not interested. if they still persisted, then you call security. have fun your only young once!!!!
234406
It hurts at first but once you get over it you will feel like a stronger person. This is a dangerous time for you because instead of toughing it out and growing up, some guys resort to being emo which always leads to homosexuality and dressing like a girl. Judging by your grammar and poor spelling you are probably young. Give it time buddy there are better ones out there TRUST me.
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My first answer (no sarcasm or judgement intended) is that you should seek professional counseling. A professional is much more likely to be able to help you identify and resolve the source of these issues than a bunch of semi-random internet posters.\n\nThat said, my instincts say this is a manifestation of self-esteem issues. I would guess (I am not a professional, this is not a diagnosis) that you have never learned to provide your own self-approval, and therefore feel a need to obtain approval from a source which you identify as some form of authority. A follow-on guess is that you would feel much better about yourself and be happier if you had a consciously chosen set of values and standards by which to live, instead of measuring your worth by your ability to live up to the standards of a man in such a way that he expresses love for you by the way he acts.\n\nThere are also a host of communication issues involved in the pattern of interaction you describe. Again, a professional counselor who can become familiar with the details of your situation will be able to provide assistance in a much more specific, accurate, and useful manner.
198729
So, you are a Virgo and he is a Cancer. I can see how you'd be friends for a long time. Earth and Water are very complimentary. But, in a relationship things can be different -- for the water man. Here is what I think you need to be: sensitive. But! You've got to know that your cancer boy can be a "lil bitch' sometimes. No offense, but Cancer men to be super sensitive to the point of being bitchy. If you can just accept that then you should be alright. I mean, honestly, with a Cancer, I dont really think that talking is necessarily the solution. You need to try to feel this one out, and ride the waves you earthling. :) Trust your friendship and you should be alright in the relationship (if you two are both normal level headed peeps)
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Hi again, Alex....\n\nRon here again, and I am urging you to be bold, to be the aggressive, masculine male that females deep-down love to see.\n\nJust DO IT, DUDE!!!  Kiss their cheeks, and THEN (hello....!!) see their reactions.  \n\nMan, be a male, do not be a chicken-sh!t girly-man.  Be an aggressive male, like your genes are demanding you to be, OK?\n\nThen, if the girl in question is offended, then you have saved yourself a whole lot of future effort with her.....  \nMove on and seek another target of your affection~\n\nREMEMBER ALEX:     KISS HER FIRST, AND THEN, THEN, THEN, ONLY ASSESS HER REACTION.  BE BOLD, MAN, BE BOLD!    \n\nTHE GALS LOVE BOLDNESS~!\n**********************************************************************\nGOSH, the lame answers that others have given to you herein...\nthey suck their soupy supper through straws, let me tell ya...\nDo these kinds of guys, as advised by these poor answers above, ever make it into the annuls of Love?  Or are they wimps?\nARE YOU A WIMP, OR ARE YOU A KISSING, LOVE-MAKING-MACHINE, IN THE MAKING??\nDO YOU WANT GIRLS TO THINK OF YOU \nAS a Gallant ROMEO, in their minds, or JUST AS SOMEONE, \nwho asks if you can kiss a girl's cheek??\n\nThe difference between Lovers, that girls remember, and LOSERS, that girls laugh at, is just this, Alex:\n\nBE  BOLD IN THE PURSUIT OF THE GIRLS!!!\n\n((look, email me, I want to know if this helps, clik my icon....))
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Now...I won't bore anyone with answering this question...plus there are some good answers already...on the topic...\nHowever, can't help noticing...YOU are a man (although not mine..:P)...YOU are telling me what to do...(*speak up*)\nAnd what that makes you?? The S...S (no intention to be offensive, just playing...:D)\n\nI might just feel rebellious and stubborn...and cross my arms in front of you and say nothing...for once...:P \n(isn't reverse psychology working or what..:P)
544350
I'll toss ya a shovel so you can dig your way out! It sounds like your having a wild ride! I know from some of my close friends how bad depresion can be! But there's not much you can do! I advise to ride it out, or try and think of all the good times you've had without guys, or just the good times ytou've had in general! You seem like a stong, intelligent, young girl, and i'm sure you can through it! Just don't give up, and keep on digging your way out!
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BE YOUR CONSIDERATE SELF. YOU SEEM TO CARE ABOUT OTHERS. I AM ASSUMING YOUR IN YOUR YOUNGER YEARS. DON'T BE ALL TO SUAVE & OVER SEXY. SOME GUYS WILL LOOK AT THIS APPROACH, AS A ONE NIGHT GET DOWN
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I would suggest an open ended question... something that wouldn't appear too invasive.  "Is it something I can help with?" Of course, you have to be wary that this person might be waiting for an invite that way he can pour out all of his emo junk on you and that might not be where you want your limited relationship to go.  Otherwise, I think what you did was okay.  I figure if he wanted help with it, he probably would've gone further with his answer.
268940
Dont ever tell a guy how you feel it just gives him the upper hand.  Next time your around that way stop in to ask his oppion about something you want to do. Maybe a tat. You can tell if he wants to talk or if he just blows you off.
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The fact that you're asking the question seems to point to your own realization that you don't want to be a bastard. But for some reason you've accepted the fact that at your core that is really who you are.\n\nWe need friends. We all need help along the way. Life is too hard and complicated for anyone to make it through by themselves. So I would say your first step is to search out your own heart. Why is it that you feel like your first reaction is to be cruel/mean/rude? Look for issues that are long past that you have never let go of--perhaps someone mistreated you or hurt you and you now react to the whole world as if everyone has hurt you. Let it go. Find your own peace. Then you can stop feeling like you're "acting" like a kind and helpful person. You can "be" a kind and helpful person.\n\nHope that helps.
399617
ok hun  i have one of those friends and you should b able ta ask or talk to him about anything so just may b you have more feelings than what ur letting on  good luck