I've been dating an 18 year old for about 3 months now...I'm only 13. He dropped me off at my house earlier today and I had a large hickey on my neck. I tried to hide it and get to my room without my parents seeing it but they noticed it like they seem to notice anything else. They knew right away it was from him even though I denied it and even tried lying. This guy is the love of my life. I'm scared as hell. I feel like it's all my fault...Like I'm the one to blame. If he does get sent away, I WILL committ suicide...
210732
eeeeewwwww. why would you go out with someone like who is 18 when you are 13..... that is just eeeeeewwww gross.
246399
GOOD for YOU!! I'm proud of you girlfriend! If he doesn't have evident injuries, you should be fine, nevertheless, you can say you were defending yourself.  \n\nGod will give you strength right now, don't forget to pray; everything will be much better once he is out of your life, don't look back.
515235
Sorry to hear that, sweetie.  Maybe you should find another adult to talk to that will LISTEN to you and be there for you.  Parents sometimes get so self absorbed that they lose touch with their teens and think that the teen just wants independence and no longer needs guidance.  You really should point this out to your parents and let them know how you feel.  They just might not realize how much you truly need them.  Hope this gets better for ya!
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Of course you should worry. you should go and see a Doctor. I also think that you are too young to be thinking about boyfriend. \n\nLife has lots of good besides thinking about relationship too soon. NO my business just want to give you a support.\n\nIt is important that you talk to someone (Parents) about yourself and symptoms also go and see a Doctor to find out way you body is changing.\n\ngood luck
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Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.
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Sweetheart, I've been in the same boat except I was like 13 and he was 18. You're so very young, and i know you love him and he probably loves you too. But if they catch you even kissing him, he could be put away. Do you know what they do to guys like that in prison? Hopefully you don't. Listen honey, I know you want to be with him forever but trust me in that you're going to get older, your tastes are going to change, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it's not fair to him to make him wait. I had the same situation, and here I am, 7 years later, getting married to the most perfect guy in the world. It took me so long to realize what I wanted in a life partner, but I found it. And the guy I was in love with got married and had a beautiful family. So it all worked out and it can for you too. I'm sure he'll understand.\nBest of luck to you hon.
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ive been where you are right now and if you want me to be honest you need to get out of there. dont get me wrong i loved the guy i was with too and i know you feel that if you just up and leave your the bad guy but your not! im only 20 years old and i now suffer alopecia as a result of my relationship. i wouldnt wish that on anyone else. sometimes its ok to love yourself more than the one your with. you only get one shot at life, dont waste it somewhere that your not happy.
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At least you're on the right path. You are aware of the situation in hand. In my opinion, your on the path to healing. I think that you're probably finished with all the pain and ready to move on. No matter how scared you are, you should do what's in your best interest. You'll probably be better off without him. \nKeep in mind that you are number one!\nLove should never hurt.. If you feel like your ready to move on, but are scared, weigh your options. Compare it to how your feeling now... Talk to someone about it...A friend. Someone who will be there for you.\n\nGood luck
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Had the same type of neighbor at your age and he isnt safe stay away from him let it be known to your parents how he looks at you and makes you feel when he speaks to you ignore and avoid him..my neighbor even went as far as calling one day when I was home alone and asking if he could just sleep with me once and he would never ask again when I told me mom she went over there with the cops and he was told to avoid all contact with me come to find out about it yrs later he raped and got his 13 yr old niece pregnant and made her tell people that a neighbor did it...Please hun make sure your parents know you never know what can happen during a brief moment you are home alone please be safe and careful...Good Luck and may God protect you.
324354
You obviously have more than a few issues…..Are you that desperate for attention?  You seem pretty young, so here is some advice for you:  No, you should not sleep with your best friend’s boyfriend.  She’s your BEST friend right?  I doubt the guy is your soul mate or anything; he’s just a guy who is paying you some attention.  That may make you feel good now, maybe even good enough to make you do it, but afterwards, you will (or should) feel dirty, and he will most likely treat you like you’re dirty too.  He will never respect you.  Do you really want to be involved with a guy who you have to share?  He won’t be your boyfriend. (You will be alone on Valentine’s Day, Christmas, your birthday, etc.)  You will only have him when your friend is too busy for him. Your friend may or may not find out, but you will know what you did, and that will always weigh on you.  The guy is obviously a cheater, and has probably been around the block a few times.  What if he gives you a disease, like Herpes?  You will have it for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   If you think that you like sex now, wait a few years.  It gets a whole lot better.  You don’t want something dumb that you do right now ruining it for you for the rest of your life.  Have some respect for yourself.  Save sex for someone that you love and trust, someone who is concerned with your best interests. I promise you that you will never regret in the long run.  However, if you choose to sleep with him you will regret it, at some point.  Be a good person, stay away from the guy, and tell your friend that she is with a loser, before she gets hurt or catches something from him that ruins her life.  Since you don’t seen to have a whole lot of confidence, you should just concentrate on you for a while.  Stay in school; find out what makes you happy (not what you think makes other people like you), and just try to be a good person.  If you do, you will eventually be truly confident, comfortable, and happy with the person that you are.  You won’t want a loser like this guy anywhere near you, and you will most likely be pursued by some really great guys, because confidence is the most attractive quality that a person can have.
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first of all you are only 14 you have the rest of your life ahead of you. trust me im 25 i have had thousands of crushes along the way it is not worth killing yourself over if u kill him and yourself he might go to heaven and you go to hell because killing yourself is a mortal sin. as far as you folling him STOP IT STOP IT NOW. because if the boy does not know u are there than your making yourself hurt even more u buy gifts does he know they come from you? if the boy does not say hi to you that he does not know that u exsits stop swetting the boy leave him alone i know it hurts but u never know what guy is liking you because you are so worried about him the next guy that comes along might be your true love it is not worth it he is not worth your time and energy over 1 boy do something else get involved in some type of activity becasue you have to much time to think about him you are worried about this boy who is not worried about you he is not doing all of these things that you are doing to get his attention leave him alone by the time you get my age you would have had lots of boyfrinds some that break your heart and some you have left heart broken trust me get involved in a club and not 1 that he is in something else get a job at the mall of at the local y or ask your parents to send you to teen camp trust me you will find another guy and stop tring so hard if the boy does not like you so what i tell my kids the same thing you should say well im beautiful and forget there are more boys out there trust me you will find some 1 please take my advice ive been there so get on with your teen age life trust me you are going to miss it when its gone i wish i could get mine back
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No, no my darling - you are better off without him.  You tell your family that he hurt you and left you and they will love and feel your pain.  Do it as soon as possible - and he can go to the devil if he changes his mind.  You deserve more than that.  For goodness sakes, there are plenty of 40 year old men who would gladly give their right arm for the love of a sweet 25 year old - let alone men closer to your age who are able to handle a loving, caring relationship.  Please turn your back on this person and face the future knowing that you have passed this test and that your life will be all the more wonderful for the courage you show.\n\nPeace!
509757
Honey, STOP. Read this, whatever you do. I know that a lot of people who ask questions over the internet don't take the advice they get seriously, but just hear me out, ok?\n\nObviously, when you met your boyfriend, you loved him for who he was then. I'm sure you thought he was a wonderful person. He was probably kind to you and respected you and when you first got together you thought nothing could go wrong. \n\nBut then he got into drugs. Ok, first of all, the alarm bells are flashing right there. If someone is willing to do something as life-wrecking as drugs, it is a serious possibility that they are also willing to engage in various other types of shady behavior, such as physical abuse, alchoholism, crime, etc. \n\nI  AM NOT SAYING THAT THIS GUY IS A BAD PERSON! He was probably a great guy before the drugs came along. But when a person does drugs, they change a LOT. Drugs make people do things they would never normally do. This is why people use them, and this is what makes them so dangerous. \n\nAnd I don't mean to sound accusatory, but it's possible that what you think is love might be the remnants of what USED to be love, but now is just a memory.  \n\nGirl, for your own sake I suggest that you get out of this relationship, and FAST. Frankly I'm amazed that so far you've been strong enough to stay off of drugs yourself, and I admire that. It is NOT your fault that he does drugs and it is NOT your responsibility to get him off of them. I understand that you will feel guilty about leaving someone in need, but remember that your guy is still a minor and his parents are still responsible for him, NOT YOU. This is very hard for someone as young as you to do. The best thing you can do right now is to tell a trusted adult that he is doing drugs. If he gets the right help, maybe he can get clean and then you can continue the relationship. If he really and truly loved you at all then he wouldn't have gotten into drugs in the first place because that would mean risking YOU and when you love someone you can't afford to take those kinds of risks. And if you really loved him then you'd do what is best for him, which is tell someone QUICKLY and get him into rehab.\n\nI am sorry if I sounded mean or pushy. I really wanted to help. And I feel really bad for you. But trust me, I know quite a bit about these things. You are precious and deserve to be treated with care and respect. No druggie, however good of a person they are, can give you the star treatment that you deserve.\n\nRemember that above all god loves you very much, more than any man ever could and there is someone amazing out there that God has in store just for you. He wants you to be happy and if you ask he will give you the guidance that you seek. You have done nothing purposefully wrong. God knows that in our naievity (ignorance) humans often make mistakes. It's ok, he will forget the whole situation if you truly are sorry and wish it had never happened.\n\nI also suggest seeing a therapist. They are not for "loonies". I would know, since I go to one ever week. She's really nice and also, SHE WON'T TELL YOUR PARENTS ABOUT ANYTHING YOU GUYS TALK ABOUT (IT'S AGAINST THE LAW). Unless it has something to do with someone being in danger.\n\nI am praying for you tonight, and I promise to send you a smile tommorow morning. If you live outside of the united states then my morning might not be your morning, but I think you'll feel it anyway. Just know that someone is on your side. I sincerely hope this gets cleared up. \n\nGod Bless :)
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oh you're not in an abusive relationship at all are you? he was you wrapped around his lil finger and you don't even realize it. wanna know where this is gonna go if you don't grow a back bone and leave him? you'll be dead in a ditch somewhere and it'll be his fault. if he loved you back he'd trust you enough to let you do your own s.hit without havin to make you call ever 5 f.uckin mins. you need to stop and pay attention to what your gut is tellin you bout this guy. i wouldn't be surprised if it's tellin you to leave and not look back
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How do you know he is 25?  That is just a little old for you don't you think?  How can you be in love with someone when you have never met him?  You know he could be a 50 year old fat pervert.  Don't ever trust someones identity on the Internet!  I wish I had your phone number so I could call your parents.  Do you have any idea how many young girl's are raped and murdered by men they have met on the Internet and then meet in person?  I'm sorry, but I fear for your safety and I hope you never try to meet this person or tell him where you live.
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I understand almost exactly what you are going through, except my family knows. He must get help. You can't let it go on any longer, I don't know how long it has been going on..\n\nFor me, it was 17 years, because that's how long I've been alive. My brother is 19 and I have been dealing with this since I was born. He is extremely violent (mostly toward me, since I am much smaller), and my mom has just recently decided that no matter how guilty she feels about it, he needs to go away for help. He was getting so terrifying, she could see everyday I feared for my life. Other than school, and when I am out of the house, I stayed locked in my room.\n\nIt won't get better on it's own. I want you to know that, because so many people think it will pass, it's a phase. No, it won't. He needs professional help. It's nothing to be ashamed about. And you should be very proud of yourself for doing such a beautiful thing and being so wonderful to your brother. But enough is enough, don't risk your safety. I know you love him. But he needs the help, that's what is best. Tell your family (his parents?), seek out treatment, and your family can help you. You don't need to be under so much pressure. You need to enjoy life too!\n\nPlease be safe. I really hope everything works out for you and your brother.\nLet me know if you'd like to talk. :)\n(I know I'm young, but I'd never deny anyone help or someone to talk to!)\n\nP.S. I hope your nose feels better! =/
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I would'nt worry too much if i was you even though i know you're heartbroken i bet you any money he'll be back begging for forgiveness from you very soon.I agree with the rest that he's being controlled by his family it's pathetic just look at it as a blessing in disguise that thankfully you learned his true nature this early on: that he's a spineless toe-rag.Now you can look forward to meeting a real man with a bit of backbone who will appreciate and love you and treat you as you should be treated.Goodluck hun.