I've known this guy for years and we've both been through various relationships. I finally confessed that I had a crush on him after all this time and he said, "I really really want to like you but I just have so much going on in my head." \n\nSo, I'm taking that as he just doesn't like me. But is he leaving the door open for potential? Or should I just give up and jump on the friendship train?
214865
I think if he really wanted to go out with you, he would do it.  Even if guys leave the door open, they are still stringing you along.  Sometimes they like to have options.  Jump on that friendship train and then date someone else.  If he really wants ya, he will tell you when you are inevitably with someone else.
139425
I'm going to be blatently honest with you.  If this guy has gotten to know you already and still declined dating, then he's just not interested in you.  he'd make room for dating if he liked you like that.  However, if he doesn;t know you very well, actively try to start a friendhsip.  just put ti to him like this 'everybody has to have friends- it releives stress, and you can't have stress getting in the way of your schoolwork'.  if after he gets to know you he still seems disinterested, then either keep him as a friend or move on.
239876
Just step back and see this picture as it is. He is not the one for you. Move on. If you want to remain friends and have your feelings all mixed up for his benifit go ahead, because he is more important than you right? I did not think so, so just put this dude in your history book and be thankful he was honest enough to let you know who he really is before you fell more into him.
530056
Geez, I'm in a rut right now with one.  I want to believe something will really happen, but the longer it goes, and his stories change, I"m starting to feel he's making me play games now.  \n\nI have however made 2 very good friends from the online dateing!  It's like we have been friends forever. The problem was, we weren't compatable with all the lovey, romance, sex stuff.\nBut I'll love their friendship and hold them dear in my heart forever!
228969
Well, fess up first of all. Admit that you were talking to his friend.  But let him know if it was strictly just talking out of friendship or whatever it is. Be honest, if you were talking to his friend and you think that you're attracted to the friend, then try to date the friend if he's available. Don't keep leading the other guy on and letting him think that you're into him when really you're into the friend because you want them both or something like that. I'm not saying this is the case, I'm just saying you need to explain yourself. If he doesn't respond then let it go, as much as it will irritate you to leave something at that, you'll have the peace of mind to know that you did what you had to do and that you've apologized and offered some sort of explanation. It is his fault for burning any bridges. And remember to look at signs, this may be a sign that you're not compatible with him, if you can honestly see yourself saying that you wouldnt do this if the situation was reversed, then you know you're on different levels. Good luck with this situation.
328267
he still wants to be able to talk to, but it looks like hes a different person. when hes in a big crowd your not the kinda person that he wants to be, its like 2 best friends in different crowds. one goes skater, one goes prep. they still like each other but they turn into two different people. what i would do is just come out and say it. rejection can be hard, but at least you'll know the truth if he says yes. all goes well and y'all give it a chance. if he says no than ask to be friends and leave it at that.
336643
that's good you told him, you had to let your feelings out, now ,if he only likes you as a friend let him know it's still OK with you if you'll are still friends.also, if he doesn't show that he likes you back don't feel bad sometimes it is better to have a friendship relationship instead of no relationship at all.but also give him time maybe he likes you too, but has not had a chance to tell you yet.
365878
You obviously waited too long and another girl took the opportunity and swept him off his feet. Its ok though, you're just gonna have to act faster and not be hesitant next time. I know this from experience and I know how it feels when you like somebody and they like you but then someone else comes along. Plus, he may still have feelings for you and if his current relationship doesn't work out, you know what to do.......
95991
I think you need to move on and find someone who is interested in being with you.  You said that that you have tried and all they want is your friendship.  Be happy for that friendship and respect their choice to be just friends.
594518
I guess guys like that usually go straight to the girl they like and ask her out. I can't think of him being friends with you and wanting more about it... but everything's possible! I know it's hard, but the only way to know is being honest with him and asking him what he feels... Sorry... that's it!
431709
I know this is a crap answer but it might be best to stay away from him.  He might have lots of questions about him self that he has not yet answered.  If that is so then you are just setting your self up for a big hurt.  Telling somebody who has a major crush to leave it alone is a fools errand.  But I am a fool and If you are correct in what you are saying, this might be best as the one you let get away.  And not to be crude, but spank bank material at best.\nB
59658
i say yes, meet the guy someday, but as for whether he has "feelings" for you or not... i am not a mind reader. can't help you there... but i think i can say that he thinks you're a good friend...
358066
I think he told you didn't he, from what I surmise from your text is there is lots of signals in your mind that say he is in to you, which may not be the case. don't use your friend to do the work that really scares you, you bring a 3rd party in to negotiate a relationship, you are asking for trouble, it's OK to use one to break the ice so to speak, like hey my friend likes you kinda thing. but for him to tell his feelings to your friend, not a good idea.
262335
I think you're going to have to let this guy call the shots unfortunately. The person who did the breaking up is the person who really has to decide whether or not they see something they didn't see before or just want to give it another try. If you really want to be with him then you might want to bring the subject up in a serious way and let him know that no matter what he says or feels it doesn't have to change anything between you. You could just say something like "You know we've been friends so long and really still get along so well, I've thought about whether we should try again. What do you think?" If he says he's not interested then just back off and continue the friendship. It's more important to keep that in tact especially since you have been friends this long.
623013
He seems to like you, but you better not play hard to get or any mindgames - sounds like he has other options.  If you want him, you'd better jump.
392093
I don't know why he dropped the friendship, but you are acting kind of needy--almost stalking like.  take a hint, for whatever reason, he does not want to associate with you.....let it go.
225169
I have been in this situation.  How long have you been talking?  I've learned that you can't go off of looks these days.  The best advice that I can give is to lay off of any feelings that you think you might have and offer that friendship to him long enough until you figure the "real" him out.  But, while you're doing that, make sure you make it clear that you're not "really" looking for anything right now, but that there's always the future.  Some times men put on a front in the beginning (if this is a new situation) and he may be trying to hide his true feelings by being rude...just give it some time.