I am currently 5 and half months pregnant by this boy i have been talking to for five years. We are not together and i know he has a girlfriend. He does not have a car so he wants to use mine. I feel like we should be together first. What should i do? He feels like i am his baby mama so i will always be around.
208138
Hon he should be the one helping you right now.If he wants to use your car to find a job to make his child support payments then you might let him use it.Or to run and buy some diapers....It would be nice if you two can get along because you will be sharing a child but if he is not doing anything for you then yes he is probably using you.
238037
I think you should stay loyal to your current girlfriend. If she is pregnant, she is going to need you by her side for support.
66460
You are in for it. If he spends lots of time with the baby and its not alone. (at his ex's place without you) THen he's probably doing something with her and you. SO if your not into that, you have a lot of thinking to do. Its better to love and lost and never loved at all. (men in black)
346270
Nah, get out of this situation.  You have your unborn child to think about now and you don't need all this stress during your pregnancy.  He has learned that he plays up you end it then you take him back, so he'll go on like this.  You and your child deserve so much more.\n\nGet support from friends and family for the upcoming event and afterwards so you are not tempted to go back with him as someone to lean on....'cos trust me you'll only have him for 5 mins. to lean on and he'll be back doing what he always does and leaving you in a mess again.\n\nThis is a new start now for you and your child.....enjoy it!\n\nBest wishes.
173272
It seems to me that he is far from ready for the responsibility of partner hood and parenthood. His respect level for you seems very low in light of his degradation of you and not support. He may be insecure and refocusing this toward you, however his immaturity is stopping him from seeing that he is making you feel insecure also and more to the point, he is destroying your self esteem and worth and ruining what should be the most amazing experience of your life. I know this isn't what you will be wanting to hear, but I honestly cant see this getting any better in the near future. Perhaps you could talk to his parents and solicit, for want of a better word, their advice and support.Not to mention that of your on. No-one can tell you whether to stay or leave, in the end you will do what you will do and I realise you love him. But you must always remember to love yourself and make that precious baby you are carrying your first priority. I feel sad for you. No-one should be having that kind of stress at this or any really, stage of your pregnancy. But if he is like this now maybe you need to ask how much worse it's going to be or get when baby gets here and whether you want to wait to find out. I hope you find a solution that enables you to be happy and content.Good Luck.
616211
Ooh...what a mess! Ok, first, should have waited a little longer to cohabitate. Now that makes it hard on you, your boyfriend and your son. All things in due time, my dear. Next, I do have some good news here...you'll probably always love your son's father in some small way because he shared with you an experience no one else has, which is creating your child together. This will change with more time, though I can't say if your feelings for your boyfriend will change. I loved my ex dearly but he wasn't in love with me. He accidentally got me pregnant and we both decided it was for the best for me to have an abortion. We're still great friends ever since we broke up, but that will always tie us together, even though no one else knows what truly bonded us. It took me time but I didn't move on until I was really ready and it sounds like you did. You're also really young and you already have a child so a lot of this could stem from those early 20's feelings of newfound independence and sowing wild oats. Only you can decide. Take some time for yourself and figure out what it is you really want. Once you clear your head, you might realize you do love this man, or you might soundly be able to declare to yourself that you don't. Remember that love takes time to build and establish, and you haven't been with this new guy for too terribly long. Whatever you decide, best of luck to you.
31447
Just because he wants to be with his baby doesn't mean he wants to be with the Mother.  You should first determine what it is that he really wants before you make a decision.\n\n*If he only wants the baby, visitaion rights can be obtained.
141058
My first question is if you two are together and have a kid then why are you making seperate plans?  You need to figure out if you're staying together or not, first off.  Then you can think about other things, like moving.  Also, if there is s baby involved, it's probably better that you don't have roomates other than the two of you.  It's also better to stay close to family if you have such a young baby.  It will help with babysitting and your child will have some sort of family around that way.  Do what's best for you and your child.  Don't worry about your BF because he doesn't understand that your child needs to come first.  Enjoy your little baby , take good care of him/her and good luck.
97757
First of all, winning his heart has nothing to do with having that baby.  To do with winning his heart.  I am assuming that you know him well enough to know what his feelings for you are.  If not just talk to him about it.  As for the baby I sure hope that the decision you made to keep it was for the right reasons and that you are prepared to raise it without this lad.  Don't mix the two together and start telling the truth and to hell with both of your mates or so called mates.
478039
this is what i would do. go out not to meet anyone.but get dolled up take the baby or go out with friends just to make you feel better.let him see you get ready or come back so he can see what he is missing. it won't be that woman that always say she don't have anything to do.let him know you have made plans in a happy way.and go and enjoy yourself,he will be wanting to join you.it might take 2 maybe even 3 times but remember get dolled up even by yourself something to wear.
650510
yeah that would have alot of an effect on that baby done been there. if you two can just leave the feelings left behind and be close good friends that might be better . neither of you should have put your feelings on hold towards each other till on is bout to start a family a new life and get married ... there is 5 people to worry about here who would get hurt the most you need to be straight up front from now on before its too late again and life just passes on by before you know it ........but then ask him is he marrying her cuz she is pregnant cuz you dont have to get married just cuz your having a baby and so the kid can have his last name only get married if the love is truely there dont get married for all the wrong reasons tell him that that might change it all for ya right there if he can trust his mom or dad they really are perfect to talk to about these kind of things
108679
I'm sorry your going through this... I've been in your situation before... Well it all depends on hope much pain you want to go through. He loves you yeah but he loves someone else. give me a break. there is a reason why they call our ex's, ex's. If he's not man enough to handle his business and know that yeah he has a baby with another women he should provide for that child but now he's going to have a baby with you. It was hard but I left the man I was with I started over scared but I couldnt take not knowing where was all the time or him telling me he still has feelings for his ex... If he can't decide you have to look out for you and your child... Get out girl....
627267
I cannot tell you how bad I feel that someone hurt you sooo much when you were little.  I wish I could change it for you.\n\nHowever, Why are you trying to get pregnant and your not married??  I'm not judging you.  It's just that, if he has not committed to marry you and stay with you, are you in a position to take care of a child by yourself??  I only ask because I am a Mother of 3 girls.  Two of whom got pregnant with their boyfriend.  \n\nI also got pg before I got married.  We married, but it was a disaster and I ended up with 3 kids to take care of alone.  I really struggled because I only had a high school education. \n\nThink really hard about doing this. sweety.  This isn't something that goes away if you change your mind.  And no matter how good your man is now, things could change.  Can't you guys just be happy with the 2 of you right now??\n\nI know, sometimes things work out.  Are you 100% sure this is going to work out with the 2 of U?  Good luck, and God Bless.  By the way, God is waiting to hear from you.
105668
I would ask her why she moved so far away if she wanted to "eventually work things out?"  If you and the baby momma are meant to be together, you'll find a way to get back together. Do you love her??? DO you feel like she IS the one?? If so, DONT LOSE HER!! Figure out a way for her to give you another chance. (ROSES AND CHOCOLATE ARE A PLUS!!) Hope I've helped. Good luck!
120302
HAVE YOU TRIED TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL!? LETTING GO IS NEVER EASY ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR AROUND ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME!! BUT, AS A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID, "WHAT DOESN'T KILL US WILL MAKE US STRONGER" AN I BELIEVE THIS TO BE TRUE! I THINK YOU OUGHT TO STOP SEEING EACH OTHER ALL TOGETHER UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN(SURE LET HIM COME TO DR. APPT. AN STUFF) BUT AS FAR AS SEEING ONE ANOTHER DON'T DO IT! THIS WAY IT WILL GIVE YOU THE TIME YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM AN HE CAN STILL BE INVOLVED IN THE BABIES LIFE!!! AN THEN AFTER THE BABY IS BORN AN IF YOU STILL FEEL THE NEED TO BE AWAY FROM HIM THEN TELL HIM! THERE ARE MANY WAYS OF PARENTS RAISING THEIR CHILDREN WITHOUT HAVING TO BE AROUND ONE ANOTHER! I KNOW THIS CAN'T BE EASY FOR YOU(BEING PREGNANT) AN ALL!! BUT, I WISH YA THE BEST AN HOPE THAT MY ADVICE CAN BE SOME HELP TO YOU! IF YA WANT YOU CAN EMAIL ME AN I'LL TRY TO HELP ANYWAY I CAN!!!\n\n\nBEST OF LUCK!!!
68550
this is a personal thing for me to discuss, but hey, you asked the question.\n\na few years ago, i gave birth to a baby girl that i knew i couldnt afford to take care of. my ex b/f wouldnt get a job, wouldnt help me at all through my whole pregnancy. when i was about 6 months pregnant, i found a wonderful family to adopt her. the mother had always wanted to have a little girl they have 3 boys (GREAT kids) and after thath she was unable to conceive. so i began talking to her on a daily basis, they flew me to the state they lived in to give birth to their daughter. the whole time i was in the hospital, the mother (name withheld) spend most of my stay in the hospital with me. \nto this day, i wonder what my little girl is doing, and things like that..i havent talked to the family since i got home from basic training and ait,but i know, that my little girl is receiving all of the attention, and love that she deserves..both of which are things i could have (and still in my heart) gave her, however there is no way i could have afforded to give her the awesome life she deserves.
496120
NO!!!! you should not move in with your boyfriend!!! you should not date the other boy. please listen to what i am saying! if you havent told your parents you are pregnant you need to. you also are going to need thier help later on in your pregnancy, so STAY AT HOME!!!!!!!! the best thing you can do for you and your baby is to finish school. FINISH SCHOOL!!!! you did an adult act and now you are in an adult situation. act like an adult. you are bringing a life into the world, and you are its mother. you dont have time right now for boyfriends. tell your parents, dont leave home right now, and please finish school!!!!!!