My friend just found out she has 2 STD's a uncurable and a curable...She acts fine about knowing, but I sometimes think she's hurtung inside.... how do I help her??? and how do i not treat her different???
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Why would you treat her differently? Just be there for her when she needs you.
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I am so sorry to hear about your family friend and hope you are providing support and understandin right now....the fact that she has secondarys (the cancer has spread to  another part of the body) is , I will be honest, worrying.  I know how awful this illness can be and how devastating it can be especially when the person has been healthy....my dad got cancer...he didn;t smoke, he was active and healthy....by the time he was diagnosed he had secondarys.  The chemo might be there to ease the side effects rather than cure or extend life...she needs to know which it is in her case....my thoughts are with your friend and all who love her right now...I do wish you well and hope that any news she has is positive.  Keep us updated? and if you need to chat...feel free to mail me
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That is so terrible!! I would say just continue to do what you are already doing...be there for her! You are an awesome friend...good job...not too many of those left in the world.
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Try using BETADINE solution for washing the vagina anytime she goes to toilet.Consult a Gynecologist as your friend may have some fungal or other kind of infection...
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Whatever you say make sure u mean it..... Just let your friend know if he or she needs any help ...such as help around house yard w/kids running errands u r willing  and ready. That way your friend can concentrate more on getting well.  If your friends wants to talk  about their illness  truly listen.   Most importantly by all means, do not treat your friend any different than you have in past.
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The only way she can be helped is if she wants to be....I don't think it matters what you do or say she's the one that wants to be helped..i think it's OK to talk to her and tell her how you feel about this and let her know that when she's ready for help you'll be there...at that point you can find her a group to go to or a hospital to go to...till then just be a friend.
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Be there, love her, accept her.  You also might try reading up on the subject so you give her infomed help. It will mean alot to her to know you cared enough to find out.
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You need to tell someone! So what if she finds out?! She may not be able to ask for help directly, so she's begging you and your mate to do it for her. She may not say so in so many words, but she's crying out for help. It's possible that the doctor she sees isn't the right one for her. And it's also possible that she needs to be hospitalized for a while. Don't delay! Don't wait for those exam results! Tell someone now! Get her the help she needs! Tell her parents, school counselor, someone! Think how you will feel if you don't tell and she succeeds the next time. I pray that you'll find someone to tell and your friend gets the help she needs. She's blessed to have such good friends who care so much!
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First you have to see what kind of virgin she is.  Is she a virgin because of beliefs or just out of circumstance.  If she's a virgin by beliefs your friend needs to understand that and respect her limits.\n\nIf she's a virgin out of circumstance (not the right guy, not the right relationship, not the right time) it's a different story.  Then it's a question of whether she's a virginal virgin or not.  From the description she's pretty virginal.\n\nPart of being a virgin out of circumstance is trust.  Is your friend trustworthy?  Is he ready to be someone's first?  Is he worthy?  Does she think he's worthy?  \n\nNow if he doesn't actually want to have intercourse with her, but help her get intouch with her sexuality there are alot of things he can do.  Most of it is 1-reasuring her that she doesn't HAVE to have sex.  2-Spend time touching and caressing, finding out what she likes.  But this is going to require sometime and commitment.  Is your friend ready for it?
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You don't have to understand it...just deal with it. Are you this busy thinking about any of your other friends' sex lives? Honestly, I never think about any of my friends sex lives cuz that's just gross and none of my damn business.
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You can talk to her gently about it and assure her that it's nothing to be ashamed about. Tell her you'd support her in improving her condition. Suggest some products or treatment that may help alleviate her condition. Don't pretend it's not happening nor make it obvious she's got body ordour. Handle it discreetly and professionally.
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First of all, if it is true, since he/she has contracted STD it would mean she had sexual relations with someone else who has STD.  Secondly, why on earth would he/she tell you (hypothetically) that he/she has STD? It could mean that he/she is trying to test whether you will still stay with him/her.  For all you know, he/she could be faking the claim so as to find out if you really love him/her.  \nSO what would be the best possible course of action. \nIMHO, I think you should stay, but with stipulations.  The first thing to do is get her to a clinic in order to find a cure, if the STD is true.  Secondly, DON'T HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS with him/her.  If he/she cares for you in any way, he/she wouldn't want to infect you too.  Lastly, talk to him.her and find out the reason why he/she did it with someone else?  What are your lackings?
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It was wrong for you to pass the information for these reasons :\n\n1. what someone tells you about themselves should be kept confidential by you....it is a trust\n2. you have no first-hand knowledge of the validity of J's assertion. She could have just made the story up.\n\nThe correct thing for you to have done would have been to confront J about endangering/infecting another person, because that is a selfish, vile thing for her to do. If she doesn't take heed to your advice, you can inform her that a civil suit could be brought against her. \nSecondly, you should have told K to ask J herself. You should not have been asked to be put in the middle.\n\nAs for J, there is no cure for her STD. K is not the only person who will be caught in this snare. You will not be able to warn all of your friends who will be at risk in the future. Casual sex has serious consequences, because some people (like J) are unidisciplined, indiscrimnate and conscienceless.
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He's lying! Nobody ever wants to admit they have an STD! BTW, How do you get a scar on your penis...LOL !! I hope your friend uses condoms!!
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It's hard to say why she's doing this.  She obviously has some problems, but so does the guy.  If he has been told about her, and refuses to believe it you should just wash your hands of both of them.  There's nothing you can do.
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Ouch!!\n\nOK to me you are doing the right thing in being honest and stopping the sleeping part of your new found friendship with this lady but I cant help feel this new friend is trying emotional black mail on you if she is living with her ex as you mentioned and who isn't to say she isn't sleeping with him why she has been with you?\nI would be more concerned about STD in this situation than her letting go.\nJust stand your ground and be firm and stick to what ever you decide.\nI think your current relationship will rekindle if you both put time and effort into it like you are.\nThey say a break is as good as a holiday.\nSadly some people can think they are in love because they are craving for any type of attention which they could be lacking in there own life or present relationship so they go and search for it else were.\nWe are all guilty of that at some point of time in our life! If we are honest.\nSo once someone nice like you seem comes along and gives them that attention and gives them the inner emotional needs like sex or comfort,then financial help and any other type of assistance whether its companionship or just a cuppa and chat and most times can be taking out of context making it hard for you in this case to break away or "get away".\nSadly some people cry wolf when they see another vulnerable person like them selves which is an easy target to latch on to.\nAs she has found with you!\nPlease just end this other connection with this other lady but sadly I cant help feel she may start giving you a hard time if not your partener of 2 years. \nAs she will feel jealouse of you going back to her and most probly wonder what is wrong with her for you to leave her after a month but honestly this her thinking and doing and not yours.\nDont fall for any emotional words as they are based on making you feel guilty..\nBe strong..And good luck.
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She has a problem that needs to be addressed with a lot of sensitivity and caring.  As much as it bothers you to see her with a yucky mouth and wiffy breath, it will just hurt her if you attack her for it.  I don't know about her past but I know for myself, I grew up in a family that neglected to teach me the proper routine of hygene.  And a lifetime of problem can not be fixed overnight.  She needs to relearn an entire new daily routine which could take months and months of dedication and effort which she has to want to do.  So unless she is willing to change and has the (non condeming) daily support of a friend who loves her, she may not change.  Please just love her as she is, and give her the time she needs.