Because I have very low self-esteem because i'm fat and girls don't find me attractive.
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A girl still would not find you attractive if you take steroids.  It also won't help your self-esteem because you would have taken an easy way out to try to feel better about yourself - thus, no reason to respect yourself.  The best way to get over your low self-esteem is to work hard, exercise & eat right so you can get in shape.  If you honestly work at it you'll know that you've accomplished something and you can be proud of yourself for it.  Then you can think to yourself, "If I can do this, I can do [insert anything here] too."  Good luck!
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Low self esteem; that's what I see. You think that since you don't have the qualities that other popular girls have, that you aren't noticed by the male gender. So deep down you want what the other girls have - attention. The way to acheive this is, to accept the fact that everyone has his or her assigned talents. May it be good looks, voice, dance, writing, music, singing, or whatever it is. So, you have to find what your best talent is and focus on improving it. But don't do it for attention! Do it, because, it's what you want to do! Then as time goes by your talents will show others who you really are - pay attention to yourself first; everything else will follow, eventually. -peace.
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They don't dig you; trust me.  You need to stop being such a wuss first.  There is nothing more unattractive than someone without self-confidence.
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Well, from your description of yourself, you dont sound very fun. And some guys may chose girls that in your opinion, are ugly because they are beautiful inside. They arent shallow, self absorbed or hung up on their looks. \n\nYou ever hear that looks arent everything? The lack of time you feel she may spend not caring about her looks, she may spend actually getting to know these boys. She may honestly care more about them and less about herself.....\n\nBeing shallow and self centered is the downfall of most "pretty girls." Being pretty doesnt make you better than anyone, nor does it make you worse. It just makes your pretty, and if your beauty is all you have to offer to someone, well it just isnt enough. \n\nKudos to the boys at your school for picking someone of substance over arm candy.
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No, you are not fat and stop reading those fashion magazines, they are messing up your self esteem. You need to just enjoy life and stop competing with other girls to see who can be the thinnest. Your weight is fine and if you start dieting and losing weight, you are going to have problems in the future. Size 4 is tiny and your weight is ideal. Size 0 is not a good look, be happy with how you are. HTH : )
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Hi David, I don't think your weight is the problem. You sound like a really decent guy but I do think you have a self-confidence issue and by telling yourself that your weight 'problem' is stopping you getting girls, it could be that you attitude on yourself if stopping you getting them.  No one wants to go out with someone who they feel NEEDS to be constantly told they look ok (but I can tell you now-you look fine to me!)and overall, most girls I know (the ones who have the most successful relationships...) dont have hot sexy guys, they have average Joes who treat them like princesses!  If a girl didnt want to go out with you because of your weight then shes not worth it-the shallow cow!  What would make her think shes so perfect to be worthy of YOU?! :-) Another good hint is dont always go for the girls who look the best either, go for the ones you get on with, make you laugh, make you FEEL sexy!!!  I really hope you find her, you sound like a genuinely nice guy.
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Sweetness, what you're missing is confidence in your own self. No one can give it to you; it's the sort of thing you have to gain by yourself. Keep telling yourself that you're fine, that people are just "looking" and not judging. Look in the mirror at yourself and tell yourself that you are fine, you are marvelous, wonderous, whatever just so long as you beleive it. I was self-concious in high school too and that's what I did. I figured I could let other people knock down my self-confidence or I that I wouldn't. I opted for wouldn't. Good luck and Blesings.
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well, you like depeche mode...so you have at least ONE thing going for you.  \n\nI've seen some of the UGLIEST and/or lamest people hook up.  So, there's always hope.  \n\nBut you can always get a makeover to help your appearance too!  \n\nSeriously, ZERO self confidence is such a turn off though.  Low self esteem is one thing...but NO self esteem is pretty bad.  You can fix that if you want...you just have to be willing to.
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you need to find one thing good about yourself, one thing that you apprecaite and like.  I recently gained some weight and felt disgusted about myself.  I used to attract guys because of the confidence i had.  After gaining all the weight i no longer had that confidence and found it hard to pick up guys.  So i askked someone what was one good thing about me.  They told me my eyes so i would always look at my eyes and then i would slowly bring in other thiungs about myself.  Noone is going to want to date someone with no self asteem even if you are attractive.  Confidence is the key.
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you are not fat, don't even think of that.  to tell the truth you may even be under-weighted.  but look at all of those other people in the world who are overweight, and think, do i look like that?  no you don't.  so the next time that fat question comes your way just read this answer and that problem will be solved
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Poor self esteem reinforced by media stereotypes of what is considered attractive. Women are barraged with messages from media and society that the only thing they have of value is thier bodies.
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Just continue to live your and be confident in yourself. Don't seem so desperate and anxious. It's okay, everything will come in time. So what you're obese? You know what that means? You weed out all the shallow people and you'll find someone really good. Thats how it was for me...I was 17 when I had my first kiss..and I was kinda fat...and I eventually lost 55 pounds about. But I was glad someone accepted me for me. All the time I was down because I didnt have a boyfriend and everyone else had one and when I was least expecting to meet someone, I did. I was with that person for about a year too. Realize how beautiful you are without a boyfriend and then one will come.
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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If you like yourself, being chubby isn't a problem. If someone wants to put you down for it, they are just jealous that they can't have the same figure as you.  My opinion, if someone is a size "0" or "1" shouldn't be on this planet!  They are way too small.
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Maybe it is because the people who are calling or thinking you are fat, are so insecure, that they would rather point out your faults, than allow anyone to see their faults. \n\nI am not fat, but I am not scrawny, I just dont believe in being a toothpick, and for this I was commented on my whole life by my sister, and now she is fatter than me. I should have seen that she was the one that had the complex, and that it was never me. I feel for my sister now, as she has no more comments on this topic. Although she still tries to think of herself as thin (she was on the verge of anorexia) but she knows she is not. So now she goes for other areas where she can break me down. \n\nI take it, and forget the comments, I know it is her that has a problem, and not me. Forget what people say about you, rather feel for them. As they are more than likely insecure. If you are happy with your weight and size, then you have no problem to worry about.
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you have a very low self-esteem... but the good thing is, you KNOW you have potential, you'll just have to have faith in yourself... why don't you try something that would make you use your talents/potentials... for example, if you can act, then go and do an audition to a play or something... or if you're good at school, try applying for a scholarship program... in that way, when you get to achieve a certain goal of yours, your selfesteem will be increased... love what you are doing, love yourself... take risks... its part of living... sometimes, we have to fall in order for our body and heart to be prepared and be strong...;o)
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Don't worry , u are going just right. The more people feel jealous of u and the more they talk about u, it indicates that u make them feel inferior and that's because u are superior to them. In this world of 6.5 billion people even if you are reasonably good looking and intelligent, there would be at least 3-4 billion people inferior to u and they all will have some opinion about you ( mostly negative) so one has to live with it if one wants to progress in life. Be immune to such duds