Met a realy nice girl, we talked a few times, exchanged e-mails.  I asked her out for a drink and since then, nothing.  She avoids, me doesn't answer my e-mails and barely acknowledges me.  What did I do wrong?  Why is she like this?  We have a lot in common.  I just want to know why, that's all.
200971
She probably doesn't like you the way you like her. Girls (or people) who do that sometimes have difficulty confronting and handling situations. They are unable to express their feelings. Forget her. Don't worry you'll find someone else.
230602
When you go out on dates, she insists on paying for stuff on an equal basis. ( ie : you pay this time, she pays next time). However if she pays for her own stuff every time, that means she probably isn't interested in you sexually, doesn't want to lead you on, and doesn't want to feel indebted to you in any way.\n\nShe shows a strong interest in your life, asking a lot of questions about your hobbies, family, job, etc.\n\nShe changes something about her appearance just because she knows it will make you happy ( for instance, she gets a new haircut, starts wearing shorter skirts).\n\nShe offers you a sip of her drink, or takes a sip out of yours (Essentially she's telling you she's willing to swap saliva with you !).\n                           and if u wanna ask her\nThere are several cheesy techniques you can use to lower your chances of rejection (such as making a bet with a girl and the loser has to make them dinner) but these kinds of games are unnecessary. If you are straightforward, and don't beat around the bush about what you want, a girl will respect and admire your confidence.\n\nOptimally, you would ask her in a face-to-face setting. However, if that is not possible, either because the opportunity won't present itself or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone.\n\nAvoid, at all costs, asking through email or any other written medium (Instant Messenger, a note, etc.). Not only do these methods scream "CHICKEN!" they also leave behind a paper trail that may or may not come back to haunt you.\n\nOne way to avoid looking like an idiot is to have something in mind to say for these three possible reactions to your question so you won't be caught off guard :\n\nIf she says "yes"\n\nHave a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest.\n\nIf she says "no"\n\nDon't act shocked or offended. Just be like, "Alright." Then carry on the conversation as if you never asked. Be friendly and polite. Too often guys take a "no" personally and get ticked off. Girls don't admire or respect a negative reaction. The fact that you were able to brush off her rejection so easily may actually raise her interest.\n\nIf she says "some other time"\n\nHave a plan B in case she is busy. If she still acts like she has too much to do it's probably because she's not interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Accept it as a rejection and move on.\n\nOf course, you go into it expecting her to say "yes" but it's, as with most things in life, it's important to be prepared for the worst. \n\nTips on how to ask a girl out\nThe real key to getting women to say "yes" when you ask for the date IS TO MAKE SURE THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU.\n\nIf a woman is attracted to you then why wouldn't she want to go out on a date with you ? It makes sense but most guys don't think of it that way... they miss the point and focus on "how to ask" rather than focusing on raising her attraction.
29240
How old is she? You sound kind of young, and if she's young it might be that her parents don't like guys calling her. So that could be why she didn't give you her number. Other than that, do you see her and are you able to talk to her on a regular basis? (at school, etc. ?) If so, you might ask her if she'd be interested in going out again sometime.  Sorry to say it, but it sounds like you are just another guy hitting on her, but that's not a bad thing. Don't let that discourage you. Just keep trying unless she straight up says she doesn't want to talk to you. In the meantime, you still have plenty of time to impress her and let her get to know you. Just be yourself and don't put on an act or a show for her. BTW, you do get points for not looking down while talking to her. Every girl notices taht (weather you do or not) so you're already ahead of the game. Best of luck ;)
188819
She seems like she has some issues. I mean, for one thing she said clearly that she did not want to come over. Then she was like see you later, she was ready to get off the phone with you quick and definitely didn't want to talk any longer. She seems like she is sending you mixed signals, and if she doesn't like you, then she should just tell you. I mean, don't throw hints, just be like she wants to be friends. Then as for being shy, she could have just said that she didn't feel comfortable coming back to your place. You would have understood that I am sure. Basically, you should just see where it goes this time, if she tries to be intimate, like showing you affection, just come out and ask her what is up. Don't be rude, but be like, Do you like me? Do you see me as a boyfriend or just a friend. You need to know, because she can't be like I want you one second and then don't want to be around you next. She needs to be honest. I hope that whatever happens you don't get played, so if you can see it isn't going to get better, leave her alone.
399551
Well, I think you are wrong.  I tend to have the same problems.  You are too serious even in your approach.  Girls just wanta have fun.  If you approach a girl with such a straight forward attitude you'll scare her off.  Big Yes on the self-confidence though.  You need to come across like you're fun to hang out with and you're looking for others that are fun to hang out with.  Friendship first buddy.  Ask general open-ended questions then listen.  School, work, hobbies, pets, etc  LISTEN to what she is saying and don't let your mind wander.  I know what happens.  She's talking and your thinking, oh crap what do I say, she's pretty, does she like me, how do I look, how can I be funny, what do I say, oh crap... If you're not listening then you can not 'join' the conversation.  The more you talk the more you both will loosen up.
521272
You have it bad for her.  If she liked you, she would have went out with her when you asked her!  Seems like you need to get her out of your system!  It she wanted to go out with her and you asked her, she would no doubt let you know that she was willing to go out with you now!  It seems like you need to get real and forget her!
626000
you didnt give enough details............. hah just kidding. maybe she just went on a date with you because she had no plans and has no intentions on doing it again.... just keep calling and see what happens
625870
Not all of us are like that. I promise! It is always nice to do things when they are not asked for so don't stop being nice,but I think you need to try some different places to meet girls. I think normally you can tell if they are going to be like that from the beginning. Look back and see what they all had in common. Please keep trying because there are more of us out there than you think.
521832
Just chill and wait for her to come to you. You've put yourself out there now it's her to return the favor. :) But don't ignore her. :P
83393
Hello guy, sounds like the girl you are talking about is very much interested. I know that the little things she does is a bit confusing to you, but just look at them as they are bigger than life. she is telling you to ask her out. Ask her to a movie. I bet she will accept. Do this in private, so the situation will be easier for her. sounds like she is a little shy. It will take you to take the first step, to break the ice. That is my advice.
539362
+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
180659
i'm sorry for telling you this but...  if she wanna keep in touch with you, she would have contacted you long time ago.\nshe disappeared and doesn't talk to you any more because she is no longer interested in you.\ni think it's meaningless to try to locate her.
336051
This all depends, do you really like her?  If so go ahead and ask her out.  She's probably either really shy or she's asked someone out before and got hurt by their reply so she's scared to do it again.  Talk to her and let her know what you think, but do it gently.
257348
DUDE! this is like the 1 millionth time u posted up this question!!! i already answered one of em! i told u (& so did a lot of other ppl) that its not ur frickin race!!! maybe shes just NOT INTO YOU!!!! get it through ur head! ur taking up space in the questions area....are u like in denial or something??? just accept it!
211204
wrong approach: "hope you don't mind"  , if you don't think your worthy, why should she?   Instead, tell her you saw something that you wanted to share or made you think of her, compliment her on some attibute that you find attractive ( her laugh, her brain, her quirky sense of humor, etc....)  Leave an opening, or ask a question. to encourage a reply. But this is your first written interaction, take it slow, let her warm up to the idea of corresponding, leave her your IM address.  And don't freak out if she doesnt reply, its spring break, why should she check her email account?
417499
Hey, I am Jennifer. I was reading over ur qustion, It seems that she is a play by play...I dont know but if i was u i wouldent date her anymore or see her. For me to say I think u sound like  nice guy and u need better. For what i am trying to say is that she tells u to trust her, how could u ever trust anyone that spends the night with anotheir man..thats not right, if u ask me....If she really cared for u she would be with u and not anotheir man. It sounds like she is sorta a good person and all but i think u so need better then her, she is nothing. I'm sry i hope i dont upset you. But what ever happens good luck. But if u would like to talk just im me it is kikikinky321.. bye for now
635111
Probably cuz you ignored her.  I always say sometimes it is best to "back off" which is what you did and it worked out for you.  Try not to be TOO interested too fast though as that probably scared her a little.  You did right.