My ex bestie asks me if we could be friends again after she hurt me really bad. Now my current bestie is mad at me because she thinks I'm gonna leave her and now she's not even talking to me! What do I do? PLEASE DO NOT SAY MAKE NEW FRIENDS!! This all happens in school by the way...
216135
Not to make light of the situation, but tell them to grow up because you are too mature for all this drama.  Ask them why you can't have two best friends?
650598
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
310100
Can you call someone who is your best friend if she hurts you? You can forgive herr but it doesn't mean you need to keep contact with her until you miss her so much and she is worthy to give her one more chance. Everything is depeneded on you and your feeling about her. But I can tell you that nothing wrong if you don't contact at all. It's your freedom to choose who are your friends and who are not.
590442
Okay I have told you a bunch of times that every time you forgive her you get hurt in the end. I'm not kidding. Every time you get hurt in the end. Plus you guys won't be going to the same school anymore so it will be a bit easier for you not to get hurt. Yes, I know that she has helped you but think about it in the end you get hurt. I'm not trying to break your friendship but you need to think about he facts.\n\nYou always get hurt even if she brings you happiness you end up getting hurt. I am trying to help you. I really don't have a big say in this because in the end it's your decision. No one else on this site can tell you what to do and make up the decision because in the end it's you who will have to decide. \n\nAll I'm saying is that is the friendship worth it that you always get hurt in the end.
272549
How old are you? I get the feelin that you're not that mature. Your BEST FRIEND broke up with her boyfriend and youre already  in the line to get him? C'mon, you're kidding. Of course she's mad at you! Don't go out with him if you wanna keep this girl as your friend. Haven't you heard; guys come and go, friends are forever.
89691
well get all of your other friends together, talk about it, see how they feel, if they're all for not talking to her again then you ALL go and say something to her.  If your friends still wanna talk to her, just ask why in the hell they still wanna be friends with such an annoying person.  Or just tell your friends "hey, im not talking to her anymore, but she will try and turn you guys against me, so don't let that happen"
78533
Sounds to me like a mixture of jealousy and being scared of losing her friend. The fact is that despite being your best friend, you have your own life to lead. Maybe you should sit her down and try and gently find out why she gets so bothered and reassure her that your friendship will always be there. Does she have boyfriends or has she been hurt in the past? Your success in love may be highlighting her own insecurities. Talking to her is definitely the best option. Good Luck.
69672
i have the same problem and i am looking 4 answers as well but no one answered me...i even talked 2 her 3 times but she doesnt wanna hang out w/ me and thinks her other best friend is funner...im sick of it
632430
People always have some kind of situation like this.  Well I don't understand why your mother and brother would insult her in any way, but that is something that a best friend would not want to here from their best friend's family.  If it hurts you that you feel as if your best friend is not considering you their best friend anymore, speak to them and tell them the complete truth.  Hang around other friends too, and try to get close to them also.  As time goes by people change, but you can't make another person feel the way you do.
111918
Hmmm... Really sounds strange huh? Well, I'm a Man but I think I can answer your question... Maybe you're right about what you suspect for the reason she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but you really have to talk to her because there can be many reasons for this situation, maybe you can ask her if someone was backstabbing you and telling things about you against your friend... Right? Losing a friend like yours is very depressing because both of you have been to lot of ups and downs... For now, try to take time for her to think it over, same to you as well, think of the things that possibly you've done that hurted her feelings too... Because if she was your friend for 12 years already, jealousy is not a big factor and she should be proud of you as her bestfriend... Maybe jealousy to other friends of yours is a reason... Try to talk to her ok? But at the right time... Goodluck to your friendship and I'm sure you will get her back...
554912
Well, that person obviously doesn't think that your their best friend. A best friend should be there for you always. And you should be able to talk to them about nearly anything and everything. \n\nIt sounds to me like your friend is just that...a friend, but you shouldn't be wasting your energy on someone who isn't going to respect you. Still, I would search out a new best friend. \n\nOr you could tell that person how you feel. Have a good long talk over coffee. It'll bring you two closer.
657175
talk to both of them, not at the same time.  first try to work things out with the friend thats like a brother.  fix things there before its too late.  then go bacl to your so- called Best friend and talk to her. ask her why she betrayed you. try to work on it. you can still be friends. i just wouldnt trust her as much as you used to
330763
I've had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. My two best friends ever had to leave but that didn't stop our friendship. I e-mail them almost everyday and I talk to them on the phone. I haven't seen them in a long time but that never stopped our friendship. My friends moved different countries. You're lucky at least your friend is in the same country and if you want to visit you should make a plan. Things will be different but something that NEVER changes is friendship. Trust me it'll be ok.
611333
"My ex-girlfriend dumped me cuz I was being a jerk" SO you wanna date her best friend, and continue the jerk saga LOL...\n\nCode of friendship is you never date your best friends ex, so if her best friend is wanting to date you, then she isnt your ex's best friend.\n\nAnswer to your question, is no do you really want to ruin their friendship?? is it just revenge? dating her bf will not turn into a good thing, steer clear of her whole social circle it will keep her and you apart and sane
168817
if she doesn't wanna hurt you then she is your best friend but ask her to be more honest with you next time ask her to give you her real opinion next time .you she she didn't say because she didn't wanna hurt you because she wants what is best for you .cause if she did tell you might get upset with her
516379
I just got over a relationship where my best friend (who was also his x girlfriend) and him kept staying friends. I didnt really let him know how much it bothered me, but now that i look back, it totally bothered me... and now that were not together, im so glad its over because that issue was so annoying, not worth dealing with. Tell him to loose her and if he can't, drop him!
659819
Just tell her you can't be friends with someone like that, but you would be happy to help her turn her life around. If she is truly your best friend, she will change