I have a friend whom I treat as my sister. I see her as my best buddy, my best friend. I think I'm slowly falling for her as each day passes. But our means of communication right now is just thru text messaging, she's in a faraway place right now, and I can't go to her. She also sees me as her big bro & her bestfriend and she trusts me. I share my feelings, thoughts..basically everything, and she listens. In turn, she also shares stuff with me & we are having a mutual bond already. I don't want to court her, cuz I don't believe in long distance relationships. I don't want to end up making her cry because of the same thing that I will promise her about overcoming the obstacle of distance. I want to hold her, I want to personally spend time with her. The last thing that I did was call her up on the day of graduation and I congratulated her...but I want to do more than that. =(
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Patience. You just need plenty of patience. It might work out, it might not. Just play it by ear. Don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable in doing. Best bet would be to wait for an opportunity to arise to see her. That opportunity might happen, or might not. Whatever you do, don't rush in without thinking. Patience is the key and let the relationship develop. You'll know when it can't grow any further. You'll start treading communicating to her.
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This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.\n\nI think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.\n\nPlan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship. \n\nJust remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
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I am so sorry to hear this because a good relationship with your sister is a precious gift from the Lord. I was 10 years older than my sister and we always got along beautifully although sometimes I felt more like a second mom than a sister until we became adults. Finally, we became the best of friends but she died of cancer a few years ago. Thank God I was left with some beautiful memories of our great love and friendship. Please work things out between you and your sister because "tomorrow" might be too late. I wish you well.
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You must be very careful if you choose to keep this type of friendship. I had a friend like this and because of her need for attention she did things like always try to cause confusion even between my sister and I.  She even lied about having cancer one time for attention! She is a middle age woman I finally decided that for my piece of mind she was not a asset to me but a liability and I ended the friendship.
539564
Sounds like a competition! Do you really want to get into that? I would think not, if she is really your best friend. Guys are a dime a dozen. Friendships are a once in a lifetime thing.
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Ya, if her feelings for you are ever going to change from friendship to relationship, it's probably not gonna happen when she knows that your waiting for her. I've had friends in the past that have professed their love for me after we had been friends for awhile, pretty much, once your in the friend place it's really hard to come out of. I'm not saying it's impossible but her knowing how you feel probably isn't helping, she knows you'll be there untill she's ready. My advice...move on, still be her friend but date someone else. If there ever is a chance of her feelings toward you changing, it'll happen when she thinks she's lost you. Everyone loves a challenge ;) Good Luck!
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I don't feel as if she is a friend to you.  But "you" know if she is or not because you are around her.  It is very ironic that everyone who you've seemed to have liked she likes to and has been physical with them in some way. I feel as if no "so called" friends should fall out over a guy.  Stick to having a "true friend" someone who doesn't like who you like knowing that you like them.  You aren't losing to your friend sweetheart because as long as you know that she is liking who you like try not to be around her because a true friend wouldn't keep on doing this to you.  This has happened to me but the situation was different.  Eventhough I don't know you I'd like to become your friend or get to know you because we have something in common even if I only give you my opinions or advice.  I wish you the best and if you don't continue to be friends with her don't let it be over the guys let it be because of how she is treating you.
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omg this was the exact same situation i was facing.. my last question was regarding this but the best frnd isnt such  a prob... if she is your best frnd then u shud knw how she will react and evn she should be encouraging if u let her know that this is wht makes u happy.. but dont wait others to tell her... but tell her once things are solidified.. just telling her that u like her bro might complicate things... as for him either u make a move or show interest in him or wait for him. i bet even he is scared of the whole sisters best frnd angle..
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Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
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You live and you learn and eventually you find someone who knows what friendship really is. If she doesn't try to get intouch to discuss the situation then move on and get yourself ready for college. ENJOY!!!
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I understand what the problem is. The only reason why you like C is because she lives closer to you and you can see her anytime you like. And M is fading away because your inner conscious is starting to forget about her because she lives far away and youre forgetting about all the love y'all shared together. If you love M then you should try to work things out unless yore not good with a long distance relationship and can remain faithful. If M is still not trying to hear it, then just remain friends with her and find someone that is worthy of your love.
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well if she dont believe you then  give her a rose.\n but also think of it this way would if you and her took it to the next level, and it didnt work out. how would your friendship be then? would it be ruined? thats scary but i think i would rather be a best friend and love her as a best  friend then, how do you know maybe she is the  the right one and if she is then it  will happen, thats how love begins frindship first then, then it grows into more so know matter what it sounds to me like its on the right track!!!!!
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you can't force her to connect back to you... she's at this age where she's having identity crisis and probably wants you to leave her alone. it is true that teenagers are a little self-centered as if the whole world revolves around them -- im not saying this to degrade anybody, i WAS in this phase too! when you gain more experience as you grow older, that's the time when you learn to be selfless and humble. you start to think about other people. there is no specific age for this... these things you learn through hardships no matter what. i've dealt with a lot of things, so i learned quicker, and i kinda grew up a little too fast. my life passed me by though -- i didn't get to enjoy hanging out with friends or having boyfriends, but i have learned to be selfless. what matters to me now are the people i love... they matter more to me than myself. \nanyhow... there will come a time when your sister will mature as well, and you'll probably be matured at that time too... and i bet you will be as closest as you can possibly be. i have friend who fought with her brother constantly when they were younger, but they became so close when they got older when she finally moved out.. she would always tell me how much she misses her brother. so give it time... this time will come. (as long as you don't change and forget all about her)
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She loves you but not willing to give you 100% of her heart and soul..She obviously cares but is in doubt of a future with you..She seems to be questioning her own motives for being in a relationship with you..Maybe shes not totally satisfied with the relationship or feel solid enough in it..Seems to me she is willing to be friends but from a distance..Do not give her an alternative..thats instant death!Give her understanding and your friednship but your heart would be more appreciated elsewhere..Good luck!
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If she is really your best friend she will understand that you are just problably pmsing and you guys sholud just talk about it if she is really your best friend you guys should have no problem talking this over just relax and wait. things will work out for the best.
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I'M IN A SIMILAR SITUATION LIKE THAT. ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS IS A MALE AND HE EXPRESSED HIS FEELINGS FOR ME AND I TOLD HIM THAT WE WOULD BE BETTER AS FRIENDS. WE ARE STILL AS CLOSE AS WE EVER WERE. I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD FEAR LOSING HER AS A FRIEND BECAUSE IF YOU ALL ARE REALLY GOOD FRIENDS, YOU EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS TO HER SHOULD NOT CHANGE WHAT YOU TWO HAVE. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST AND YOU SHOULD JUST GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK...
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You're not alone !!!! Going thru the very same thing right now ! SHE is the one that ultimately decided that things were going to end......and yet, she wants to be "friends". I say FU(K THAT!!!! Don't let me trust you, love you, believe in you (and 'us') give me hopes of a future...and then take it away and expect me to still WANT to be 'friends'....knowing that someone else is having what was supposed to be mine/ours.....!!!!!!