a gut he love me but he didnt told me he told my friends when i start to love him i discover that he is a silly person and in the time he said he love me he went out in dates with other girls cause cheating in his blood and i start to treat him as a friend i tried to change him but he is jurk enough to be changed....do u think i shoud do any thing ??? i dont even love him now .
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Don't date him if that's what you're thinking.  if it's too high maintenance even to be friends with him then don't be friends with him at all.  I had a similar problem.  Just forget him completely if he's too aggravating to even think about.
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Okay.  First and foremost, understand and accept this: Men are boneheads when it comes to the plain and obvious!  Got it? Good.  Let's move on.  Men do not have shades of complexity like women.  I don't know why nor will I try to pretend to be an expert at it.  Don't speculate why he's had four girlfriends in a 3 month period.  Maybe it was them.  How can you let him know how you feel without being so blunt and obvious?  You really can't.  Again, go back to the fact men lack the levels of complexity.  Women are like the deep blue sea with all it's beauty and secrets.  Men are puddles.  Plain and simple.  You need to virtually grab him by the face and pull him to yours and say, "Hey, dipshit!  I'm falling in love with you and don't know exactly why.  I want to be with you but I don't know why.  All I know is that I think of you all the time.  Got it?"\n\nThat pretty much should do it.
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Please help ?  Poor, pitiful Pearl.....  clearly you AREN'T "committed to a guy" (but what the heck, you tell him about your obsession with this other idiot and he doesn't break up with you, one has to wonder what the hell is wrong with HIM?)  You suffer from the "I-Can-Save-Him" Syndrome....all he needs is the love of a good woman!!  What a bunch of crapola.  You already know that this guy has fooled around with other women - thereby cheating on his girlfriend (he confessed to this) - and you have said that "every word that comes out of his mouth" is a lie.  Oh, right - but he said he loves you.   Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.  And so that is enough for you to debase yourself with such an idiot.  You are right - you DO pity him.  But you mistake that for love and, honey, it's not love.  It's not even a reasonable replication of love.  IT'S PITY!!!!!!  Leave him and his protestations and his fake declarations of love alone and pull yourself out of this hellhole of stupidity.  Leave him to some stupid girlfriend who also holds onto him (ever wonder why she continues to keep him in HER life ?  What do you suppose he is telling HER about how he loves?  How much pity do you think she is feeling for him these days ?)  Leave him to his shallow "I-Am-A-Victim-Have-Pity-On-Me-And-Love-Me" routine.  Have a little pride, girl - if not for you, then for the rest of us!!!
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He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
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he said he loves u but can't be with you. thats it. he can't be with you, at least you know he loves you. find another guy.
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It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit.  If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love.  Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish.  If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!\n(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
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i dont tell people i love them unless i mean it. one of my x bf told me he loved me and i didnt say it back because i knew i wasnt going to mean it or feel the same way.
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Sweetheart. I know how much this hurts. He chose what was most important to him and that was his friends and not you. If he loves you, Then YOU would have been his choice instead of his friends. I am pretty sure you wouldn't have minded hanging out with all those friends, but the girl that intrudes was in the middle. You deserve SO much better than that! If I were you...I would try to get over this guy. \nI am sure you told him how you feel already, but if you haven't, do that. You are going to have to have closure. \nMove on by showing him what he is going to miss out on by his choice. Always look your best! If you have any good looking guy friends that are single...Spend some time in the public eye with them. \nDon't go out with anyone else until you are ready, but do move on. \nHe sounds like a jerk and doesn't deserve you! It's true that a man will chose his girl over and above all else when he's in love. He didn't do that and he didn't deserve the chance to start with!
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Your guy has too many girlfriends.  Don't accept it - move on.  He has way too many things pulling his attention from you.  Love is a passive emotion - we all love lots of things and people.  If he can't walk the walk he needs to go, and please don't try to force him to do what you want through guilt or "but you said you loved me!!" hysterics.  He has a child and that should be his number one priority.
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Sounds like Rob veiws your relationship differently than you do. You may want to clarify things before you lose a longtime friend.Or if you have romantic feelings for him, maybe you shouldn't act so casual about it.
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DONT DO IT, YOUR BOYFRIEND DONT REALLY LOVE YOU IS HE A PERVERT YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE THAT LOVES YOU FOR REAL AND RESPECT YOU; TELL YOUR BOYFREIND I SAID TO F**K HIM SELF AND TO RESPECT YOU YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN A STUPID RISE AT WORK... THAT IS WHAT I THINK
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you're right, he doesn't love her. there is no way that you can really love someone and cheat on them. i used to cheat, and can say that I did love whoever I was with, but it wasn't real love. i wasn't 'in love' with them, but i did love them. there's a difference.
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Personally I think you should dump him. If he says your love is in vain, and you really love him, then shame on him for leading you to this point when he knows he cant fully love you like you love him.
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Been there! Finish with him, may sound harsh but you will feel so much better! Not all men are like it. I now have the perfect bloke who I can trust and he trusts me. It is so nice to go out with him and not worry about who I may be talking to or looking at! \nAlso ask your friends opinion, they will tell you the truth about him and you should trust their opinion they only have your happiness in mind!
666254
If you truly love this guy, that really wouldn't matter, but I can understand where you are coming from.  People say you are a reflection of the people you choose to have around you.  But since he doesn't act that way around you, it's hard to know the real him!  It's makes me think he might be just trying too hard around other people, while he feels comfortable enough around you to just be himself.  If you believe he is more "himself" with you than with other people, then eventually the "true him" will shine through in all his relationships with a little time and maturity.  :)\n\nGood luck!
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Gurl once a cheater always a cheater. He disrespected you by cheating on you on, while you saved yourself for him. It's not ok for anyone to cheat on anyone. People do what you let them do to you. If you forgive him for cheating this time it's likely he'll do it again. But since you say you love him I would suggest you both seperate for a while and see if you can't find a better man than him that will treat you like the diamond you are. Good Luck!
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Have you slept with him yet?  You are sure that you love him?  Im sure he loves his girlfriend right now, but is it really anything serious?  If you could be with him right now, would you?  If you can, tell him and see what he says.  You wouldnt be messing up his relationship if he loves you, well you would be, but if you think you are a better replacement, go for it.