How long does it usually take a boy to tell his girlfriend he loves her? I'm kind of scared to tell my boyfriend I love him because I have a fear of rejection. I know, I need to get over it, but it's very hard. Please help me.
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I love you. That took about 1.7 seconds. But he just won't say it, huh. He may say it tomorrow or he may never say it, that isn't exactly the strongest sign that he honestly loves you. There are many factors at work and it will be up to you to muddle your way through it all. Let me see if I can help you do that.\n\nYou will find as you age that Love will take on many faces. \n\nAt times, Love will make you feel like the happiest girl in the world. You will be so filled with It that Love will spill over and get on everyone around you. The whole mood of a room will change when you walk through the door.\n\nOther times, It will take your heart and stomp it into the ground. Just when you think it is done, it will turn and spit on you.\n\nLove will be the thing that defines different periods of your life. Love is better as a group activity but that doesn't mean you can't be alone in your feelings of Love also.\n\nWhat you have to look at here is your boyfriends comfortable zone. In some families the word love is used in everyday language. The children and the parents are quick to assure each other of Its existance. \n\nIn other families, It is said only at times when someone feels a strong need to assure another that they do indeed feel love for them.\n\nThen there are those families where speaking the Word is a bit uncomfortable and is almost or totally absent from their interactions. So...\n\nWhich of these fits your boyfriend's experience. Is the word so common to him that he might find it easy to say even if he feels only a little bit of it towards you? Is he someone that understands his feelings enough to say it only if he is sure of it? Or could he feel an overwhelming Love for you but still not vocalize it? \n\nHere is the defination of "what love is" as given in the Bible. It's not a definition of being in love. It gives a definition that defines what will be present if love is present. Even if the word Love is never said, this is how you will recocnize it.\n\n"Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,  \nit does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. \n\nIt bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails... So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love."\n\nDon't try to force the Word from him. Don't think that hearing him say the Word is the definitive event that proves It's existance. Actions speak so much louder than words ever will. Instead, look for the signs of Love. Now you know what those signs are.
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My boyfriend told me something just a little while ago. Before we were going out, he didn't know that I liked him, he said i was sending him mixed messeges! I definatly didn't think I was...I liked him so much! But I liked him so much that I would get nervous when I was around him, because I didn't want to give him the wrong Idea, that is what it sounds like is going on. It sounds like the girl likes you, shes just shy. Don't be shy too!! Go for it!
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It sounds like your trying to protect the others feelings, tell him how you feel and that way he won't have trouble asking you or telling you things, your right he may be afraid of rejection, the best thing you can do is to communicate your wants,needs and desires to the other. if you two are going to be together forever then you need to learn to talk to one another freely and be able to bear your soul. you have to be able to confide in one another and trust one another and that comes by communicating. Good Luck, I hope it helps it was kind of hard to understand your question because there was no punctuation,
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damn! baby damn!\ngood gracious God!\ni suppose u r a girl and in love with another girl.\nin one word, lesbian.\ni usually dont like advicing gays and lesbians because they never listen. but girl ur case calls for attention.\nok, \nask urself this question,\nwhy do u like this boy?\nif u cannot come up with up to seven good reasons why,\nthen it is not worth jeopardising ur present (happy) relationship for him.\nu might be happy for the first few days, but it wouldn't last, trust me. ur girlfriend seems like one that holds u down, satisfies u in every single way possible.\nr u aight with her? if yes then stick to it. because mark my words, if u leave her for that boy u say u like,\n"it wouldnt last".\nfunny, do u tell ur girlfriend every single detail of ur life? dont u have secrets? dat should've been one of them.\nanyway,\nglad she didn't react negatively to that one.\n n/b\n    dont let her know u did this.
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Don't worry! To me it's normal. Just tell her once in a while that you love her! Believe me, girls love that! Do you think she loves you? Maybe you should give her flowers when the time is appropriate. I'm trying not to make this sound like you guys are about to break up, as best as I can! PEACE.
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ok... i dont know you or your man, so i can only tell you what i do know. i have been with my man. i met him online and we became friends. after 1 month of chatting, he left to South America for a month. when he got back , we met up and started our relationship that same day. after 2 weeks, i knew that i loved him. but i held it in, and didnt say anything. 3weeks... i thought that he felt the same and we were doing as you are- telling each other how we felt about each other and all that jazz... anyway, after the fourth week had past, i was lying in his arms morning after valentines day, and i was thinking how wonderful everything was and how much i love him.. and i couldnt not tell him any more. so i told him. and he just smiled. he said thank you and that he just needed a little time to decide how he feels, but that the fact that i told him that i love him wont scare him away. anyway... 3days later, i get home and he is in my bed (he lives an hour and a half away, so that was a big deal) and he had a single red rose. he told me that he loved me and that he doesnt want to lose me. Its been 10 months now and i have no intention f leaving this man. he feels the same. We told each other a month into the relationship and everything was fine. My point, after that rather long winded saga, is that, if you are meant for each other, then telling him, should be the least of your worries and you should be secure in your relationship enough to have the confidence to tell him. dont wait for him to tell you first. chances are that he is confused and trying to sort his head out too. men arent complicated creatures. just silly ones. lol. if you love him, tell him. everything will be fine hun. trust in yourself and your relationship. \nDont wait on men. lol. You're a woman. Be a strong one.\ngoodluck to you hun\nxxx
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Give some more time to relationship as it develops with time. Love comes in the last, before this stage many stages come and go away. We all do mistakes in our daily life. So don't feel ashamed. I think you love him. \n\nFinally your heart will decide whether you love her or not? Don't be in hurry. \n\nWish you good luck!!!!
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OMG you are smart and know exactly what to say. Just show the boyfriend this question on your computer. He just has to be as smart and nice as you and then he will understand. If you can't show him, you can talk and tell him how you feel. Just set up a special time together to talk and tell him same as you told all of us here. We are all here for you and hope you go ahead and let him know. Good luck
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If he's a REAL boyfriend, you should be able to tell him anything, anytime, anywhere, for any reason.\n\nIf you have any doubts about telling him about something as important as your feelings, I think you need a new boyfriend!
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I knew I loved my bf the first time I laid eyes on him.  But I didn't tell him exactly how I was feeling til around Christmas time which was 3 months into the relationship.  But I agree with my bf ... saying I love you to your bf / gf puts a different spin on the relationship.  Makes things more serious.  So I would advise that before you say those 3 words to him that you make sure that it is exactly how you are feeling.
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How long have you been dating first off? Is just starting 4 months? or is it more like 2 weeks because normally before I even kiss the girl I wait at least till the 3rd date, or 4th.
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Let me tell you a little bit about my own experience: \n     I tell my girlfriend all the time, very sincerely and sweetly, that i love her.  I do spontaneous things, like buying flowers or candy or some other gift, for no reason at all.  And i sometimes just hang out with her, with no obligations or intentions; just hanging out to be with her.  Yet, she sometimes gets insecure, and doubts me.  It has never been because of something that i have done, just that that is how she is.  Lately, because of this, i have been sensing those things, and i have found myself being emotionally hurt by her, and the little things that she has been doing.........  I love her more than you could imagine, but because of her doubts and insecurities, i have been getting hurt, and i now have doubts as to whether the relationship is fit to survive.  \n     In your case, if he has done nothing to bring about these feelings, then you should probably have no worries.  Innocent until proven guilty.  I know, from personal experience, that it starts to hurt when you signifigant other doubts you and your motives/intentions when you say "i love you."  It is extremely painful because you say those words to someone, expressing what you truly feel inside (not in all cases mind you), and then you are essentially "slapped" in the face when that person questions you.  If your boyfriend is seemingly sweet and sincere, then he probably really means it.  if he respects you as a person, and is supportive of you, then i would say that he probably means it.  Good luck to you, and i hope that i have helped.
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i dont know either maybe he isnt ready to really say it to you.he might also have things to worry about,but i know for sure that he doesnt want to lose you,because he is not saying it.u are proably right he does love you,might be to nervous to say it.im sorry that he is not saying it to you.maybe you should talk to him.dont rush him on talking to you,though.good luck!
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hey hun... i think saying i love you should be said when the person really loves u. ur friend gt her guy to say it in  6 weeeks.. i am sure he has said it loads of times after that.. but when ur boyfriend actually says it to u it would mean a whole lot more than it wld mean whenhe says it when u want him to. you need to do anything to make him say it. you just wait till hez comfortable enuf to say it. at least he is not mis-using the word love.
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At 2 months, relationships are generally at their best. You have just spent more time than usually together, and there seems to have been no problems... I think that your boyfriend is just shy: he feels comfortable around his friends, who he knows, but does not feel inclined to be loving and public in front of your friends, who he is not so familiar with. \nThink about it: if he were not proud of you and your relationship, he wouldn't have wanted to spend that much time with you, and he would not be so evident about your relationship in front of his friends. \nTalk to him: let him know you have noticed that behavior (maybe he hasn't), and ask them if there is a reason for it. It seems that the problem is not you, but his shyness. Good luck.
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I agree with just about everyone.  If he hasn't said it, either he doesn't feel it or he is afraid of committing to you.  Either way, if you want a committed relationship you should talk to him about it.  Saying that you love someone doesn't mean that you have to get married!  A year is plenty of time to know how you feel.  If it was something like a matter of weeks or months I'd say cool it and wait, but it has been too long.  He needs to tell you how he feels.
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Friends love each other all the time.  I have a male friend (for 8years). Almost everytime we talk on the phone we "I love You".  I don't think you will scare him off, but I'm worried that if you say it, you might not get the same response, and that might hurt your feelings.  Don't let it though, if that's what happens.  People feel things at different times, so don't take it personally. \nExpress yourself to him.  It's better to have tried, and know, then not to try and never know.