Was married for over 14 years.  And, unfamiliar with the current dating world.
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Its not easy, I did it after 11 years off the market, and I have to say...you just have to take a deep breath and go for it.  Dating sites are a fun way to mmet people, and get the hang of flirting.  I met a guy that I dated for about six months that way. Don't be too scared, it can be really exciting to get back out there. \nGood luck!!!
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First, & I don't want this to sound mean in the least, this is not the type of forum to find a mate. If you want to find someone via the Internet, you'll have much better luck with a dating service.\n\nSecond, again, not being mean, if you are looking for a quick fling, then your question (or lack thereof) will probably get you just that but you will also run the risk of a lot of borrowed problems as well. After all, how do you know that the person on the other end of the keyboard is who or what they say they are? True, in time you can find out but how are you going to handle it if you find that the person you've been talking to is one of the "old" people you mention?\n\nMy best suggestion for you is to get out there & get involved in some hobbies, whatever they might be. This will put you in an arena with like-minded people with whom you will already have something in common.\n\nStill, it sounds to me from your details that what you are really interested in is nothing more than a cute, young thing; sorry, but this is the way your details have come off to me. If this is the case, just hit the bars & you'll find someone to warm your bed. If you are looking for something more, however, you are severely limiting yourself by talking so much about younger ladies & calling those of or about your age "old". It would make me wonder why your marriage of 25 years ended...maybe you found her too old for you suddenly? If this happened to be the case, how do you think women will react to learning this?\n\nI'm not trying to be hurtful in any way; I'm trying to honestly explain to you how your above approach might look to women. Me? I'm very taken & you wouldn't be interested anyway since I'm 40 :)\n\nGood luck, whichever route you end up taking...
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I don't know if that's true...it's more of a case by case basis.  For example, I remarried shortly after divorcing, and my ex is still single 12 years later.  It is harder for women who have children to find men who are willing to accept them as package deals, though.
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Lifetime partner? That's kinda flaky. . . come back and ask again when you can ask what the responsibilities of married couples are.
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Obviously there were some serious problems in your marriage.  Seeing as how she's now your ex-wife, you're asking this question a little late, and asking if of the wrong people.  You should've asked her.  If you have a good relationship with her, you might try to get it out of her one day, maybe she'll tell you what happened with her in your relationship.  If I were to bet on it, I'd bet you took her for granted, you stopped courting her.  She felt like you didn't care about her anymore, so she went out and found someone who does.  I'm not condoning her actions, because I firmly believe that marriage is a lifelong committment, and you fix the problems in the marriage, and divorce really isn't an option.  But obviously you weren't giving her what she needed in your relationship.  Sorry......You probably need to just move on with your life.
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Maybe he is proposing a date with her.  I cannot imagine he is ready to jump in and get married without having a relationship first.  Besides, if she is only separated, that means she is still married, and he would be smart to stay out of her life until she is legally divorced.
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I met my husband at our workplace & he is 12 years older than me.  We are quite happy & been married for 6 years.  With this experience, I can say that you need to take it slow, don't load him down with your "emotional baggage" of the past, but be yourself.  Just don't give your entire life story right away.  Let him gradually get to know you.  Being nervous & apprehensive is normal.  Breathe & take it easy.  Things will be okay if you be cool, but not icy cool of course!  Talk about stuff, but also be breezy in your conversations.  If he wants to get to know more about you, he can pursue you gradually in future dates & learn a little bit more about you each time.  Most important (besides being yourself & not pretending to be something or someone your not) is to: Think Before You Speak.  That way you'll bypass your fear of saying something stupid.  Remember that it's okay to have silences between each other.  No one needs to chatter incessantly. Go slow & don't go too far or jump into bed together. Relax & have a great date!
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Yes I meant it. 12 years of a not so great marriage, but now it is better than ever. I am glad I have the commitment and morals that helped me hang on for 12 years to where things are better. You are a great guy don't sell yourself short for anyone. Keep your morals and you commitment, you may not know it, but, they mean so much to you and always will.\nCongratulations and keep up what you have.
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Let's see...you married a man who had failed at 5 marriages before you, right? And I assume it was always the woman's fault that the marriage went south, right? I suggest that you have learned, hopefully, a very expensive lesson...people do not change, regardless of how much you want them to. I am sorry, but where were you when all this money was disappearing? Where were you when he was living high on your expense account. Your were "smitten??" I think the proper word for it is, "you lost your mind." NOw, pay your bills and go one with life. Not much else you can do. But I would hope that your are much wiser in the "from now on" than you have been in the "way back then."
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Well you can say one of two things.  One, you could say no if you would like a happy life when you are 30.  Or you could say yes, get married and tied down...have kids, it won't work out and by the time you are 30, you'll be looking for another guy.  Oh yeah, it's not so easy when you have kids from the previous marriage.  Plus, your body won't be the same after having the kids.  And, I don't think you'll have much of an education or work experience after getting married at 16.   Where did the last 14 years go you'll ask.
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I've taken advice plenty of times from people who had knowledge on something I was asking about. Your category is Marriage and Divorce and thats a step you only you can decide on,no one walks in your shoes,we all have stories about relationships but in the end no one can decide for you.
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I'm a male in my second marriage who married a woman who hadn't been married previously and its worked out great. In fact I'm glad the first marriage didn't work and we have been together 20 years and I would marry her again tommorrow. I'm sure your fiance was just meaning the second time around would be best for himself. Communication and genuine friendship is the key and humor is also very important. We often tease each other in a lighthearted manner. Also we have 2 children whom we are very proud of.
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I am going to live with my boyfriend soon. And I would not want to be married before having lived together for at least a couple of years.\nBut hmm 14 years, that is a long time. Maybe he is just one of those millions of people that does not value the institute of marriage.
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I think its awesome. I know for a fact that I've missed out on many great opportunities simply because I did not think the girl was interested in me. Or even worse, I was too worried about being rejected. My wife of 10 years persued me. I never even knew she felt like that about me. Just think, if she never made "the move" we would probably not be so happy together right now. I say go for it. It was perfectly fine back then and its more acceptable now.
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Age is just a number. I know a couple who met and married in their 70's and they both act like they are 20 plus.  Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places.
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If you 've truely been unhappy for 15 years, I'd say you've been married for 14 years too long.  However, my initial response was that a marriage is very much like a business partnership, but you are right that it also needs love and romance to flurish.  \n\nWhat concerns me is the apparent infatuation with this other guy.  You must have found something appealing about your current husband that you wanted to marry him.  And something worthwhile to stick it out for 15 years, my gosh.  I am concerned that once you leave your husband, which I think you should, the novelty and infatuation with the new guy will wear off.  Living with someone is always much different than "dating" them.  \n\nI think you should leave your current husband only for issues you have with him, not because you think you may have found a better replacement.  It would be really sad to leave a good provider to find out the new guy is not up to par in some bad ways.  Get out of the marriage first, then take the new relationship as it comes.
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Been there done that...whats up with the 23rd year...Its alot of years, you'll never forget the past, my marriage was great the first 20 years, but I could see the dis-interest building as the months after pasted by...and she too felt she was no longer in love with me, however I later found out her interests were directed toward another...suggestions..Seek marriage council advice, put forth a 100% effort to resolve such conflict, and if it doesn't turn out happily ever after, if there ever was an ideal time to be single , its with a good job, no mortgage and your child a grown adult...very simular to my situation...its was 2 yrs separated and 3 years since divorce and those conditions were blessings in disguise.