So there's this guy that I've been liking since last semester, I wasn't sure if he liked me back but I made myself seen. We finally learned each others names but never said more than wussup outside of our group of friends. One night he IMs me asking to spend the night in my room, so I say ok, and then we end up sleeping together. Now by me doing that, did I mess up my chances of maybe dating him in the future? Nothing's really changed, we still don't talk that much, but when I asked him about it, he said I was "cool people"....I don't get it....
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He was just looking for sex and he used u...Duh!!
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I realize that you dont want to hurt this guy and I do know where you are coming from (I recently lost my guy to a friend of ours). Now I know that you say that you dont want to date him, but why? You are single and I dont think the question here should be will sleeping with him hurt him I think you need to think about you, if you dont like him enough to date him then why would you want to sleep with him? Why not take the chance and see if that friendship could turn into something else, I mean you are already talking about sleeping with someone who cares about you so you must feel that he is sincere. One thing I have learned from experience is that the best relationships I have been in were when we started out as friends first. No I dont think it will hurt him I think it will hurt you especially since you say that youve been used by every guy that you have slept with. No I dont think that he will be hurt in fact it sounds like he is already enjoying hisself by making out in front of his friends "for some fun" and it "would make us stronger". It sounds like this guy already considers you his girlfriend. You need to look at the situation very closely. Either go out with the guy or just be his friend but whichever you decide stick to \nyour decision.  If you decide to be just friends then no more making out in front of his friends - okay? SLP
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i'll start with a question. did you like this guy? if you did you should atleast talk to him ask him what's up and why he is acting like such a jerk. if you didn't like him than simply don't let it get to you. guys can be stupid at times, well most of the time. sometimes it doesn't seem like they think before they do stuff and they dont consider the outcomes. he is probably trying to make you jealous but not in the right way because it's most likely making you see the dumba#@ side of him. so basically either talk to him or let him go!
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Sorry but this somehow sounds a little odd to me.\nHe seems to know that you're interested in him but still doesn't make a move?\nIs there something wrong with him? Saying that if she asks me out I would accept but then not doing the step to ask you out?\nI'm not into the notes thing but if your friends know and told him already, what's he waiting for??\nIf he's soooooooooo shy, do you think he's the right guy for you?\nWell, depending on your preferences about a man, of course...
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hmm, I just met someone at my practicum a few weeks ago and the same thing happened. we were polite, but maybe a little over the top and i think there was something extra going on. we shook hands, looked eachother directly in the eyes and chatted for a few minutes and when i had to go back to a different building, we were like "it was nice to meet you, (then he said my name)" and he wished me luck in my practicum blah blah blah. who knows though. if i'm not some kind of psycho i think we were pretty attracted to eachother\n\nso if you feel that way, i think you probably are right. so see how things go.. i'd chat her up a bit and eventually ask her out for tea or something.
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I had a HUGE crush on this guy named Gary. I'd use any excuse I could to talk to him...but of course I'd never actually admit to liking him. Somewhere in my diary is the sentence "I think about him all the time, but until he starts thinking about me all the time, we're not getting anywhere."\n\nWe had a tradition in my school called senior slave day, where students would bid actual real money to get the (non-X-rated) services of a senior that day. Of course I "bought" Gary. Poor guy. I made him dress up as a woman (and you know, his bulge showed up MUCH better in a dress *drools*) and carry my books around all day. Luckily he had a good sense of humor and took it all in stride.\n\nWe never did actually date or anything. I think he just put up with me following him around because he was a nice guy. Eventually I realized the obvious when he sat me down in the library and offered to give me a bag of clothes his family didn't need anymore. He eventually graduated and went into the navy, leaving me to spend the next year obsessing over this weird possibly suicidal guy for some odd reason.
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he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
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i had one guy actually say to me, "so you like me right?" and i was absolutely stunned. I DID, but it was just very awkward. see if you cant spend some time with her one on one and get a better feel for her.
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if you put yourself out there and made the first move and he didnt grab at it, i wouldnt do it again with this guy. If he is interested, leave it up to him to make the next move. if you do it, it will just make you seem like you cant take no for an answer and he may be uncomfortable. Keep spending time with him, let him know that your interest hasnt changed, and if he's interested hopefully he will sum up the courage to act on it!
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You shouldn't sleep with him. He probably wants to just to reinforce his "control", to help make him feel superior within himself. AVOID sleeping with this guy!
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He probably does like you, but not the way you want him to.\nIf you weren't in a committed relationship there isn't much you can do.\nI am a firm believer in NOT sleeping with someone until he/she is committed to only you.\nOf course, if you're okay with just having casual sex, then there is nothing wrong with it...but if you think you have feelings for the person, and they haven't told you they want to be in a real relationship with just you, then you can't fault them if you sleep with them anyway.\n\nIf you're looking for more than a casual fling, then keep dating hun...you'll find the right guy. Just hold off on sleeping with them until you're sure its for real!\n\ngood luck!
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The same thing happened to me my freshman year. My roommate and a couple of the girls from my floor were invited by another girl to go home with her for a weekend. I was not. Some time after that, my roommate asked me why I didn't go. I said I wasn't invited. She said oh you could have asked. you could have come. I felt if I wasn't invited, I'm not going to invite myself. I still feel that way. Turns out, the girl who did the inviting, didn't like me. I don't know if thats why she didn't invite me, but whatever.  If I could do it again, I'd ask someone other than the inviter about it. See if they know why you're not invited. Sorry to say, but college students, just like high schoolers, can be sooooo mean. It was probably an intentional snub and you should think about it before you consider them your "best friend" and think about moving in with someone after the dorms. Good luck
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Check this out:\n\nThis girl that I really liked, that I had been do'n...back in my freshman year of college came over to me and my best friends dorm room one night to meet me.  I was way late getting back from something and basically the same thing happened, except he didnt nail her.  They were just messing around.  I didn't catch them in the act.  He told me later that night even though I never suspected a thing.\n\nI know it sounds way shady, but I was never really all that pizzed, because it was better to find out she was a skeezer from him than the entire fraternity!  More importantly, he came clean.\n\nWhere you fugged up is still hanging with her after your buddy got all pizzed.  You should have kicked her to the curb that night and explained to your buddy that it was a good thing that you found out for him that she was a skeezer.  \n\nDid he love this chick?  Did you know he loved her?  If he talked to you about love and was all about this girl, then you really messed up.  YOu also messed up by not kicking the girl to the curb the night of the incident.  If you were a real good friend and valued him, you would have done that...dont you think?
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Well I would say that you did the right thing by not giving your number and also saying no about the Homecoming thing  becuase he is probably no good maybe  why would he ask one girl and another ona date or what ever you want to talk it  . To tell the truth he may be a guy that messes with  one to many girls at one time. SO give yourself a pat on the back becuase you did the right thing or maybe I could be wrong jsut see how he acts alittle while longer and if things seem ok to you then go for it the best of luck  \n\n\nhere is my email if you need more advice  daniellepapillion@yahoo.com
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He has asked you, you like him. Honestly what is the problem. Go for it. This is your chance to find out how he feels about you. Don't blow it by thinking about it too much. Even if at the end of the night if he only wants to be friends all that matters is that you had a great night with good company that you can look back on it with a smile. Would that be so bad.
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just do it talk, before my x and i got together we didn't really know what to say then when we were alone one day i kissed him another couple of months later we were together, the the start best time of my life, i dunno what's happened now but my point is your crush probably doesn't know what to say to your face, i probably wouldn't tell you this over the phone.
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I'm not emailing you...sorry, I don't need any more friends but it sounds like your not even interested in this dude. Why would you even consider dating him if you don't even like him? Remind yourself why it didn't work out with you guys to begin with and just tell him your not interested anymore. Or if you think there might stillbe something there spend some time with him as a friend. No sex or kissing...really just friends for awhile.