okay i love my girl right but im getting tired of her i want to break up with her but i cant. but lately one of her freinds has been hanging out with us during lunch and stuff and i really like her i know its not cool but this girl is everything a man could ever want. so one night im working and i call her up (the freind) and i tell her how i feel she said she understood and stuff. but now i think shes just playing with my emotions wat should i do?
214520
Stop, drop, and don't go any further. First you'll lose that girl and the your girlfriend will hate you and then you'll get the reputation of a gigolo (well the negative things of being a gigolo).
241912
are you kidding?  seriously you need to dump her - not because she's mad but because you're really just not into her enough.  if you were, you wouldn't need sorry excuses.  she'll find someone that likes her better than you do.  free her.
243913
I can understand why your g/f is mad. Why wouldn't you want to blow off another chick if you already have a girl friend? Just politely tell the other girl that you're taken and that nothing can happen between you both. If she doesn't get the hint, then stop talking to her and tell her to leave you alone. Make sure your gf knows that you love her and no one else. Do something special for her that you would never do for anyone else. Ur gf feels threatened. Girls are almost always insecure and think that their man will be taken away buy someone else, so just let her know that you don't want or need any one other than her.
469447
First of all, confront her about it.  If it still doesn't work out, then she's not worth it.  It's not every day that you find a guy that's willing to work through the hard times.  I know I haven't found one yet.  You deserve so much better if she's willing to give up on a seven month relationship just because of her friends.  I wish you luck.
499935
ahhhi this is kinda a hard decision i feel wat u trying 2 say.ummmmmm look talk 2 her and tell her how u feel tell her dat u like her and dat u wanna be her but u scared 2 lose da friendhip after ya done wit da relationship and just see wat she tells u.Dont break ur head and keep things 2 urself cuz dats wat i do and it gets\nmore fustrated just talk things out with her.do dat and tell me how things go between ya 2 byee hope everything works out between u guys
165030
oh my gosh, this just happened to one of my really good guy friends! tell her how you feel about her, if she doesn't want to be with you then she doesn't deserve you
328468
I think it is safe to say that you are not IN love with her. It sounds like you love her but more as a friend rather than a girlfriend. Be honest with her now because she needs to know how you feel. Things will be ok.
295834
If you feel you can't stay faithful to the girl either suggest that you have an open relationship where you can date other people or break up with her.  No point in stringing her along.
302838
think about this first..... you go out with this girl, you break up....... you risk losing 2 friends......\nnow do you want 2 go out with her?
456208
Sounds like both of you are going through withdraw.  That's too bad b/c most of time in long distance relationships, the other person eventually leans on someonelse and you become history.  If there is a will for you two to be together then you are going to have to find a way.  If this means giving up your job for her, then do it.  Do whatever it takes b/c you already know this isn't working, do you think it will get better?
189577
I don't think this will be a healthy relationship if your girlfriend behaves that way.  Tell her what you really feel & that you are not happy with what she is doing.  If she won't stop, then break-up with her. It hurts but that is really life.
293614
Well, first of all she's not your girl anymore. You've both had people in your lives after the break up which is fine. You weren't together and you both had someone else. She has no right to be mad at you if she is.\n\nIf she says that it doesn't matter whether or not you want to be with her then that's probably the truth. You need to both tell her and show her how you feel and than see what she has to say.\n\nI'm sorry to be harsh. I am a very blunt person. I wish you the best of luck.
219070
First of all, your gf has to realize you can't make someone stay in a relationship the other person doesn't want to be in or love you if they don't. And if your feelings aren't there for her, there aren't there.  If you would like to save your relationship with your gf, then you probably need to cut all ties with your friend because your relationship with your friend will only get more serious.  I hope this helps!  Best regards.
402311
Girls (and guys for that matter) do not always take subtle hints very well.  Although it is easier said then done you need to tell her how you feel.  If you are tired of lying to her by making bullshit excuses then I feel that you might still have a chance as a good person.  You need to be honest (not to be confused with hurtful) and tell her that you do not want to hang out with her every weekend, and tell her why.  You are friends and only that, you should more then likely apologize if you have done anything unintentionally to lead her on.  Life isn't always easy or fair.  If you want to continue to hang out with her let her know that.  But don't be unclear in your intentions.  Best of luck to you.
414643
You broke up with Her.  Now that She has Someone else You find You still have feelings for Her.  If You want to be a stand up guy You should back off.  If they break up, on their own, and You still feel the same way then talk to Her.  Don't do anything that You wouldn't want done to You, just a good rule to live by.
208589
You need to talk to her about the problem and leave out the whole "time off" or "break" thing.  That's how misunderstandings happen.  Your whole situation reminds me of the episode of Friends where Ross and Rachel are on a break.  I know that's a sitcom but you wouldn't want to break up without really knowing for sure what's going on. You need to talk things through with her and you need to tell her everything that is on your mind.
237941
Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!