i'm 14, i'm a christian and i never lie and that sorta stuff so i dont know why she hits me what should i do about i mean, she does other things to me at the moment i'm happy cause ther away  \non a holiday and yeah thats a good thing cause that means they are away from me. my mum also hetes cause i'm a christian she bags me for that and gives me a hard time about it and ya! it hurts a lot. she also banned me from msn, sending emails and going to my nans who lives just up the road it sucks. sometimes i just want to kill my self my life sucks. i sorta love my parents. my friends hate them for wat they Are doing to me but that doesn't help either. they just have a go at me for it my paerents that is! help me!
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Go to a counsler a teacher a friend someone you can trust. Get out of there! Remember Jesus said we should love one another? Well abuse is not loving you. Find some family you can life with that are not like your parents! Please! and killing yourself..... suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem remember that!
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Well it doesn't sound like she's the "listening" type. So even if you tell her that she's hurting you it may not make a difference but its worth a try. Do you have any nearby relatives? maybe you should take some time to breathe also. Remember you are only sixteen and may not be mature enough to make a life changing decision so be careful because it may upset her. Also remember that you only get one mother and should respect and cherish the one you do have even when they're intolerable. Don't keep this bottled up inside express your feelings freely but respectably and may God bless you in doing so. Good Luck!
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I think your mom is a bad parent and you should tell her that. I also think that christians who beleive if you dont believe as they do go to hell will go to hell instead. I will tell you that the people that agree with your mom are heartless people with no compassion or Love just lip service to a dead Jew that doesnt care about them
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Just Pray to your God who ever you believe in Your mom just say these thing because she doesn't want to loose you. She needs you around just move it's that age your mom will miss you alot for the first few months but she will get over it. You are her baby the only one that she has now so she don't want to see you go so whatever she is saying to you she doesn't mean she loves you and need you but she knows deep in her heart that it's time to let you go and live your life. So don't worry just move and start your new life.
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My dear ,i have 4 dauthers and ive been through hell with them.and i can surly tell you that hurting your self well make your life worse\nyou well understand that as you get older,But think for a minute if you had a little girl and she was running around with a boyfriend what would you do ,ive had so many nights sitting up scared to death one of my girls would get hurt or pregant,and it did happen one of my twins did get pregant,but since then she has become a nurse so it all work out good.and she hurt her self a few times,it broke my heart to see her do ing this to her self.so many nights i would stay up all night driving around looking for her,the police would have raids on her boyfriends house\nover and overone night they had 3 raids they,they found her in the attic.with this iam just trying to say its hard to be your age and alot of things do not make since.ive tryed to teach my girls some rules to reamber.1.depend on no one\nbut your self.2.your bestfriend is the one that will hurt you and destroy all the trust you thought you had.3.look at your future and find out what you need to do to make your life happy\n.because your the only one that can make your self the happiest.4.And show everyone that you can make it without there help.\nyou will need help but get the right help.\ni know at your age it seems like everyone is against you.and that no one understands you,if you cant talk to your mom and you dont have a sister try and find someone that you can realy trust.i hope this help you a little,my girls are 35,21,20,20 and one boy whos 25.GOOD LUCK,youll make it dear just dont hurt your self it wount help at all.barbaratoo@yahoo.com
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Its hard with a mother like that i would ask her why she says these things and confront her about it and tell her if she continues to make you feel miserable then you might be better off without her.  Its not always the best thing to do but sometimes you have too
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lil bro, you need to talk to your parents and teachers about this.\nabuse is abuse, and it's their job to deal with it, and help you.\ndon't listen to those that say to reply with violence. I don't think they read your question very well.\none answerer was right on that some kids (grown-ups too) try to make others feel bad to avoid dealing with how they feel about themselves.  keep that in mind. I know it sounds easy for me to say it, but try to not let it bother you. try to feel sorry for them instead of yourself,  obviously they're the ones with the problem.\ntalk to your parents, talk to your teacher.\nJake,  I really hope this helps. don't get bummed out.\nyou can write me if you need to . take care. peace
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HI Grannywinkie!\n\nDid your mother tell you that? I hope not. If so, it's definitely emotional and verbal child abuse. Absolutely.\n\nTake care!
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hi moll.  i'm so sorry for the way that you feel.  and i do wish i could make it better, but i can't.  i can offer you this though it may not help much right now.  sometimes when parents have a "special" child, they feel guilty. whether or not it could or couldn't have been prevented.  unfortunately, the guilt they feel, not only punishes them, but all those involved.  your brother included.  the only advixe i can offer is that you hang in there girl!  try to talkt o your parents, or the one parent who seems more receptive.  maybe you wanna ask or volunteer to participate in things with your brother and parents?  you sound like a sensitve person, and i'm sure your parents love you.  they may feel that you are better equipped to deal with less attention because you are "normal", though i don't personally believe that is true.  all children need, want, and deserve attention... maybe just in different ways.  find someone you can talk to, that will listen and hear your feelings.  i'll put you in my prayers.
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Please realize she is just doing what she feels is right.  She wants you to know what she feels about her religion.  According to what most religions teach, she is just trying to protect you from your current beliefs.  Even if it is annoying to you, it shows she cares about you and is worried for you.  \n\nAs to getting her to stop, I would either sit down with her and let her know that no e-mail sent to you about her religious beliefs are going to change you beliefs, expecially when you are recieving so many that you don't even read them anymore, if ever.  Let her know you respect her beliefs, and that you need her to respect yours.  Make sure not to bash what she believes, but make sure she understands, you are not interested in it.  If that doesn't work, you could always block her from sending you anymore e-mails.  Just mark her address as spam.  I had to do that to a friend of mine.  She still doesn't realize I don't get all of the stupid jokes she was-and probably still is-sending to me every day.  I hope this helps.  :)
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Hi it must be awful for you but sometimes grown ups act in really silly ways. Try as hard as you can to keep out of it, do you have a aunt or cousin you can talk to? Once everything has calmed down quietly explain to your mom how much this is all upsetting you. If you are really suffering or feel that you are in physical danger ask a teacher at school to help you.  and don't worry...it will probably make you a stronger person.
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how sad.  First of all let me say that your family is now in my prayers.  Second of all, your age could help me answer you better.  Its obvious that you love Church, but I bet you love God more.  For right now, why not just study privatly until your mom cools down some.  After she has calmed down, sit down and talk to her, tell her how much you love her, and how much she means to you.  Explain to her that God is very important to you ,and while you wont force her to go to Church, you want to go yourself.  Tell her that nothing will change the love you have for her.  explain to her that while it would hurt her if someone took you away from her, it hurts you when you are took away from worshiping God.  \nThe faith that you have in God will sustain you, have faith in your mom that she will come around.  Remember the words that come out of our mouths have the power to either curse us, of bless us.  Keep saying mom will let me go back to Church.  Mom will change her outlook on God and religion.  \nGod Bless you, I will pray that mom comes around and all works out for the will of God.
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I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
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You have to tell someone. If you are worried about the way your Mum may react you need to get another adult family member that you trust  to talk to her. If there is no family member that you trust then maybe a teacher etc. I can tell you as someone who was raised with abuse you need to break the cycle. Silence will not solve this problem. hope this helps and I hope even more that this problem is resolved
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Try and talk to your mum, Tell her how you feel. If you really cant talk to her then write her a letter or an email. Explain that you are only writing to her because she will not listen when you try to tal to her. I am sure that when she realises how sad you are she will change. Being a teenager is very hard the good thing is it will get better.\nGood luck.
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i really feel sorry for you sweety but your daughter seems to have made her mind up , i know its hard but just think you tried your best and its your daughter who is the spiteful one not you , try and enjoy the day best you can and spend it with other loved ones maybe when she gets older and her kids grow up she will realise the pain she gave you , hope you have a nice xmas and chin up hun xxx
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Your mother is doing her best to make you feel so unsure of yourself that you will obey her. She, believe it or not, has good intentions. She just thinks the important thing is your obedience. She isn't really capable of teaching you anything worthwhile and has proved it. Try to avoid conflict with her while doing what feels right to you. If she gets in your face too often, just refuse to talk to her. \n\nIt would be good if you could print out the page with this question and answers and leave it around where she would find it.