Me and My boyfreind fight all the time and i am only 17 and i feel like i am tied down.. he is much richer than me in money and sometimes i feel so poor when i go around him and his parents should i just tell him were not made for each other .. i don't know what to do.
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All comments about money aside...\n\nThe constant fighting should be enough of a sign for you to exit stage door right.\n\nYou deserve better than that!!\n\nCosmicKelly :)
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listen to your parents....they actually know what they are doing. its for your own good. you'll thank him one day. trust me. i was your age only a few years ago...and sometimes i wish that i had obeyed my parents more...i would be a lot better off i think.
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Yeah, thats tough...it sounds like you two are younger and are having some insecurities about one another. His family and friends are being dicks if they make him feel like they are in competition for you. I guess the best way (if you havent done so) is to come out and tell him that you love him. Tell him how much he means to you and do a few extra special things for him to show him that it is more than just words.
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Girl Friend this is a classic case of I loved you until we moved in together. You have to know that even though this feels shitty now, you will be so grateful in the end. It is better that you find out now, before you both decided to get married, and 2 mo later decided that you want a divorce. Girl you have to realize that he is not the one for you. I say wish him well and push on. There are so many men out there that will appreciate you for who you are, don't sell yourself short. Let him go back to home, he's probably a mommas boys anyway. Figure out how much money you contributed to the joint bank account, then take the money and run. I know that you feel time has been wasted on this person, but better the time be wasted and you learn, so when the next person that comes along, you will see the signs before hand. Think of it as life just starting for you. Just to let you know he probably never loved you , he just didn't know how to tell you, another sign of a bad relationship in the making, when you can't communicate you are looking for trouble. Good luck in your life's journey, God has someone for you. You just have to wait and see
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If it has become more than you can handle, then the choice is made.  Yeah, I know everyone wants you to do the noble thing and suffer a lifetime of misery, plus if you leave, you'll be the bad guy.  Hey, it's your life.  Just be true about your feelings and do what you've got to do.  Life is short for us all, so find your way to happiness either in this relationship or out, but don't just keep on keep'n on for no purpose.
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Sounds like you're lucky. At 17 you have a boyfriend that can make you feel this way? Yay!for both of you. Let loose! There's some places you'll want to keep it quiet, though. Like a tent, or your parents' house...
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I guess I am mature enough. Understand your feeling are very natural for your ages. There are hormones that give you those feelings. Know that. Next decide how you want to deal with these feelings in your life-use your mind-pay no attention to the feelings. Do you want to cross your parents? Do you want a relationship with this boy? (remember he will act on his feelings-because most boys-enjoy the acting out with little problems in there life). Do you feel you have the time to give to a relationship? Are you studies important (they effect your whole live-girl)? Of Course you think about him-Its not because you have shared times together-but because of hormonal feelings. And yes he will move on --he is young and so are you. My advise-wait-get busy-volunteer (hospital-animal shelter-anything)-join a club or church-do things to get busy. And see if you can get busy with something that you love or will help you later. Waiting may seem long-but its not and your day will come.
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Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!
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Wow your parents are being very selfish.  It sounds like you've made up your mind about your boyfriend and leaving him his not an option.  My advice is to move out asap.  You're 25, they can't stop you.  You're parents shouldn't hold that over your head...they are saying all that stuff to CONTROL you.  Trust me, sounds like something my mother would have said to me when I lived at home.  We get along a lot better now that I'm not living with her.  I don't think you're parents hate you but they are not being fair.  \n\nThis might sound out there but did you get your college degree yet?  That might help you get a better job and be able to afford living on your own.\n\nAnyways, I hope you feel better and I'm sorry you have to put up with that.  Again, move out asap.
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Sweetie, welcome to the real world. I feel like I am on lock-down as you put it b/c I am 51 years old, have had to go back to work full-time after raising my kids, just when I'd LOVE to settle down and be able to put my feet up and rest. Why? So I can afford to send said kids to college, to help with their room and board, their vehicles and insurance, to pay for our house, to have health insurance so that if something happens to me they won't have to interrupt their lives to take care of me.\n\nThey didn't ask to be born, I brought them into this world. I made a good life for them, and gave them a great start to it. All I asked in return was that they respect themselves and value themselves and try to do their best to be successful. Not for me, but for the best lives they ultimately can have. I have supported them and stood behind them the whole way. Sometimes this meant I had to discipline them & not let them do whatever they felt like b/c kids don't always know what is truly best for them. Being a good parent means that sometimes you aren't going to win any popularity contests, but at least your beloved child will still be alive and well to glare at you with hatred.LOL.\n\nAnyway, my point is, that the lockdown and bondage is a real fact of life. It is a function of taking responsibility for your own actions and it is a result of caring about more than just the present moment. If you care about the future, and you care about those who love you, it creates a real and definite responsibility that has an actual weight to it.\n\nYou can still have fun. Just don't hurt yourself or anyone who loves you doing so.
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You two need to stay apart.  You're like gasoline and fire.  It happens.  If you were 5 year olds, your parents would separate you.  Now you're adults, so separate yourselves and move on.
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You seem like you too are young. You need to tell his parents to get him into some type of help program quick. Even if he's upset with you for it, this may save his life.
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You have been supportive of his ventures, please listen to me i have done this for my man for 12 years and i resent it very much. I feel i have nothing for my self, we almost split up not long ago and realized i had nothing for my self not even a job. Now i have decided to rebuild a life for me as well, he is supportive of it now but i don't thing he likes it very much. Go back to school do what you have to do. He will come to terms with it.
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I feel for you, you must be broken at the moment, but sadly I think he has made the decision not to be with at the moment for himself and wants to pull himself together on his own. I would ask him once if there's anything you can do to help, if so than he needs you as a support, if not, back off but ask after him to show you care until he's ready to share his life again, good luck.
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Hi, sorry to be sneaky but I looked at your other questions and if you will permit an old fogey to offer a little well-meant advice, it's this.  23 may feel it but you are not old enough yet to use phrases like 'I'm not getting any younger'.  Also, take the mystical bit out of it and remember 'render unto Caesar that which is his'.  In other words, it is your parents house so while you stay there it is reasonable for them to expect you to 'toe the line' just as long as it is a reasonable line.  Try and chill out and look at things slightly differently.  You do not have to rush into anything as long as you feel able to compromise so what's the rush?  If you really feel your step-dad is being a jerk then make your mind up to go and be sweet and well-mannered while you plan to go your own way.  In the end he will be the loser and you have a life of your own to live so live it.  You decide when where and how, the only price you have to pay for that is just words.  My youngest daughter has been in Nurse training for two years and absolutely loves it. I think you will be fine when your time comes and you alone will know when that is.  Good Luck, will think of you.
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I know it's hard because I know how you feel sort of!  I haven't had the same problems but I got married quite young.  I'm an American so I didn't start parting till I was 21 and got married at 22.  I sometimes watch shows about Ibiza and so on and like why can't I go there?  Plus, I have problems in my head from High School and everytime I try to talk to my husband he is like "Your'll get over it!"  Still he knows when I need to talk and he'll listen.  So sent down with you husband and tell him what is going on before you get depressed!
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okay my parent s are divoreced but i know its for the best its better that to hear them fight and argue. I sometimes feel like im missing a part of me like on fathers day and i cant rememer the good times cause i was only little when they divorce. but i know very little about him but its better to leave it burid that to go digging for me anyway.