we have been friends for bout 10yrs and he is tall and sexy, when i first met him my cousin tried to hook us up but we didn't tek it to that level, now we have been seeing more of each other and im seeing a different side to him and im loving it, he told me the other day that he wishes that we had engaged in sex a long time ago cuz mayb i would have loved him, help wat should i do?
218237
tell him you are starting to have feelings for him and that you felt that you really needed to tell him casue you felt that if you didnt you might have regreted it for the rest of you life and that you may want to take it to that next level now
658022
Sounds like they both have baggage. Its time to find a new circle of acquaintances. Two guys are not a large enough sample to decide on anything long term. These guys are not in love with you, they are in love with your sex. The first always has a special place but there are very few first and only true loves.
135574
it sounds like you guys have a basis for a great relationship. It sounds like you guys genuinely enjoy each others company, so you know what I thinK? I think that yeah, follow your heart. Its obvious you are digging this guy and he is probably digging you so go for it!
509119
Give it time, let him get to know you, my bf was the same way but after we spent time talking and just hangin out he realized that I was different and that I did not want to hurt him or mess with him, now we are in love and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him and he feels the same way. I hope everything works out.\n ~Kim~
569269
You're both young\nand your hormones are getting in the way of your morals and better judgment\n...guys are guys and especially young guys don't know any better. Really think this one through because there are other lots of other guys out there who you can have a great relationship with and would be more interested in something other than sex.\nDon't do something you will regret and be ashamed of later. What you do now will and can shape who you become later in life and may set an example for other people to follow. Also try standing up for yourself and tell him to not treat you that way anymore because you are both related.
456241
u have to tell him how you feel. If you want to be more to him than a piece of azz then you need to let him know that you have feelings for him and you want to knw if you and him can try to make something more out of this relationship.. Right now you are Convenient to him. Because he can have sex with you whenever he wants and flirts around and date other chicks at his own free will and know that you will still be there to give him some whenever he wants it. \n\nYou have to let him know that you have feelings for him and that you think that he is a great guy and you want more from him and you want to give him more. If he says that he does not want a relationship right now or some other bull shi* excuse men come up with then you tell him okay. You remain his friend but if he ever asks for sex you let him know that you an him are friends and that you dont have sex with your friends.
384436
My cousin had a long time relationship with this girl, he's from Canada and she's from the States. They meet over the Internet and now their married and still in love. I had a long distance relationship and it wasn't that hard to deal with as long as you don't go crazy with a "what if" in the back of your mind and trust your heart that every word spoken is true. Now we live together and I still love him even more then before, and am excited for the years to come. I say if it feels good, and you both can handle the distance between the two of you, give it a try and see as the days go by.
451205
i know this is gonna sound easier said then done.. but tell him that. if from talking you feel he's into you..ask him if he feels like more could come out of this then just a hook-up. if he feels the same way then great! and if not, well then you can move on or just keep it a random hook up. but seriously talk to him about it because you don't wanna have to end up wondering, "what if i said something?" because if you wait too long it might be too late. and the worst that can happen is him say that he doesn't want a relationship - but he's obviously into you if you guys hooked up
43232
It (probably) means that it wasn't meant to be. You two have lived it up and have produced two lovely children. I'm sure the both of you love them more than life itself. But perhaps that's where it ends...It seems like you have tried everything. Hell, you even went to counseling. Good job on both of your parts. You two want it to work. Maybe you're going through a phase? Maybe you should spice things up a bit. Join a club together, join together in a new sport, go hiking, camping, maybe you could spend less time with each other. Mabe ALL you need is a BREAK. C'mon now...16 years together. THAT tells you something. It cannot just stop like that. Do not give up. There is a reason why the two of you are together. There is a reason why you met, why you got married, why you decided to create children. Reminisce together about the days when you were younger, the crazy things you guys did for each other, the first time you told each other 'I Love you', etc. Do not give up. If it's an attraction/physical thing, work it out (Literally). Get sexy, make him look at you like you're the hottest thing to have walked this earth. It's not over sweetie. I believe in you guys.
478841
You are going to have to bring it up with him if he won't. These things can be really difficult even for the closest and most articulate of people. Yours / and his possibly hearts are at stake here AND yours / his most significant relationship. He has been the only one that has endured over the past 7 years isn't he? Although I must add you didn't really give the others a chance by continuing to see and sleep with your friend, did you? You clearly actually love him on a lot of levels, which is wonderful but pretending that you are happy with the set up is just wrong and will ultimately make you really unhappy. If you are sure of your feelings for him then you must either bring it up with him or if there is some doubt in your mind that he feels the same way about you, you are just allowing yourself to be used. I'm sorry but it's true. I don't think any man would let the love of his life slip through his fingers, which may suggest he likes your relationship the way it is because there are no pressures/commitments etc... which men usually associate with a girlfriend/partner/wife unfortunately. Why do they think this? I don't know. Anyway, I would bring it up with him, it's clearly at the forefront of your mind and doing your head in. Maybe start by saying simply "We have spent so much amazing time together over the years and now more than ever, I never want it to change but I just feel I need to let you know how much I think of you. I love the time we spend together and you on so many levels". See what he says and take it from there. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being honest, in fact I would highly recommend it. Too much time is wasted in this life and we only get one shot at it (that we know of!). All the very best to you.
541071
Sometimes the best sex is had in this type of a situation.  He needs something other than the norm, you have it and want it.  Done deal.  As long as you have no ties to the family or friends that you could lose then cool.
583293
The infatuation is over. It was just a fling for you or else you would still have feelings for him. Just end it before things get worse. He might love you. you don't want to end up hurting him permanently do you?
96936
Well, it sounds like you're in love. Same sexes can be in love too. And I don't see anything wrong with it, no matter what anyone says on here. I mean other ppl will look at you funny, but sCrEw them. They can get over it. It ain't their problem. If anyone on here says anything bad about it, they must be interested in what you said or they wouldn't have even answered. Either way, maybe it will get tougher or harder as time goes by. Because it's different now. It's not the same as it use to be. He might get a little bossy or controlling or something, but talk to him about it. And if something happens, like he changes his mind about everything, he may feel a little bit awkward around you. It's your decision. But you know how stuff like that goes, similar to a relationship--if something goes wrong everything goes wrong. You just have to do what you can to fix it.\nBut maybe I'm a little wrong. I don't really know what kind of relationship or friendship that ya'll have.
408777
2 questions...\n\n1. How hot are you? Cause if you're cute, I guarantee he's at least thought about sleeping with you.\n2. Is he going to marry this girl? Is she really right for him? Let's face it, every relationship you have, up until the last one, is just practice.\n\nYou will definitely ruin the friendship...the final question is, if you tell him...will you become lovers or just uncomfortable acquaintances??
654362
yea, it was wrong of u to lie to him in the first place. but from how i see it, i dont think u should just sit around and wait for him to come around. who knows when he'll get over it? n the idea of him suggesting u two becoming sex buddies made me confused about his intentions. and men dare say women are complicated! but anyway, i think u should just go out and see other people. if he gets upset, ask him what are u suppose to do? wait for him until he realises that he wants u more than a sex buddy? what would that make u? sounds pretty desperate to me... BUT, if your heart thinks he's worth it and he is more than what u made him appear to be, then stay home, be good, show him you're worth falling in love with, and keep waiting. just make sure u're happy. it's all that matters.
240612
it seems you also like him and want to have sex with him. otherwise this question could not have arrieved.\n\nforget everything and enjoy it. proceed further
563985
sounds like he is in denial.  he is trying to make himself enjoy sex with a woman which incidentally doesn't reflect anything about you.  you need to quit having sex with him because you are just setting yourself up for a fall.  he is at the very least bisexual.  trust me most heterosexual men would cringe at the thought of a woman doing what he asked you to do.  tell him you love him (as a friend) will support him 100% if he wants to try to come to grips with the reality that he is at the very least bisexual.  You can't make that decision for him he has to do it on his own however you can protect your own feelings and the best way to do that is to end the sexual aspect of your relationship.