what does one do when a father has gotten the courts to give him custody of your child and then the father bringd the child back to you because he has other interest?
210523
you need to go straight to a lawyer. I live in Australia so i don't know the laws where you are perhaps living. But you could go to social services or child welfare and tell them that you now have care of the child that your husband has legal rights to. Those rights would also have obligations on his behalf. I don't know how old the child is but asking what they want is a good start and then seek all the professional advice that you have to to resolve this. This child like all children must have love and stability. Going back and forth to dad when it suits him could have long term effects on this child. You never mentioned under what circumstances he was awarded custody. I have to take you at your word as i don't know you but if you love your child and feel that they will be better of with you and you can provide for their needs, all of them, challenge the ruling and do what is right for the child. Someone professional to help your child through all these confusing times and transitions is probably a good idea. Good luck to you and i hope the little one gets through this turmoil with as little scarring as possible. Looks like that's up to you.
56775
If he is the father you can't have the birth certificate removed.  I believe that if you get a court to grant you full custody of the child, the father will no longer be able to claim the child on his taxes as a dependant.
561990
Yes, you need to take this deadbeat to court.  I don't know where you live, so it I can't give you any specific advice, but every city has people (usually in the family assistance office) that can help you with the paperwork.\n\nYou may not want to see this guy again, but your child--HIS child--needs financial support, and you should get it for your daughter.
89240
He has right to know its his child he has to know it doesnt matter if he does want to be in or out he has to know hes a father.You can make it clear you want nothing from him not even getting back together(however bad you want it)so he knows that its not a trick to get him back.Other things dont matter he has to know about the situation then the ball is in his court.you got knocked up and now your baby might not have a father congratulations!
633023
MOST STATES HAVE LEGAL AIDE SERVICES THAT CAN HELP.IF THERES LIKELY TO BE A CUSTODY FIGHT I STRONGLY SUGGEST HAVING AN ATTORNEY. ALSO SECURE THE CHILDS RESIDENCE BEFORE HAND.....SUCH AS MAKE CERTAIN THE DADS RESIDENCE IS LISTED ON ALL PAPERWORK,SUCH AS SCHOOL OR DAYCARE RECORDS ETC...HE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO PROVE THE CHILD HAS BEEN IN HIS CUSTODY. DIVORCE CAN BE VERY UGLY,ESPECIALLY WHERE KIDS ARE CONCERNED.I WOULD DEFINATELY SEEK ADVICE FROM THE LOCAL FAMILY COURT OR DISTRICT ATTORNEYS OFFICE BEFORE TIPPING MY HAND.
25306
File in your current location or the original court that granted the custody order.  You will have to serve court papers on him/publish in newspaper for the court date.  If he fails to show, you might be granted default judgment that will grant you full custody.
622112
i really hope dad doesnt give him back, you have abandoned your kid to pursue your own selfish interests. dont bother saying you're doing this for your son, deep down you know better.good luck making all that money your son doesnt care about.i hope dad can provide him with love.i just hate people like you.
387700
i so feel for you, best bet is to go back to the courts and ask for a child welfare assessment..........that way they will talk to you, talk to him [the father] and talk to the child as best as he can.........at the best they might even come and observe a hand over from you to the dad............state that it is NOT your intention to keep them apart but the emotional trauma you have to deal with taking him and then the aftermath of the child being so upset is really not worth it.................just a question but WHY was they supervised at first and who decided that should change ???
612741
If he cannot even send you child support, you shouldn't worry too much about him; getting a lawyer, paying court cost and harassing you over the new situation. If he does, you have the benefit because you have been raising your daughter from no help from him. I would ask him to sign over the rights to you as full guardianship and let him know he will not have to worry about back child support.\n\n* I may have misread: If he does pay the child support, he may be able to do this. Does he want to see the child often? Maybe you could soften him up with not having to pay anymore if he gives up his parental rights.
139647
Tell the Judge.  They are supposed to rule in the best interests of the child's welfare.\n\nI assume your Dad is a good guy and can handle a daughter?\n\nYou aren't just going where you think the rules will be easier, are you?
571610
If you have filed what he is doing is CONTEMPT of court! Neither party can keep a child from the other party.\n\nYou need to make up your mind if you want to have joint custody where for example you have her one week him the next or....full custody where you have her and he gets visitation rights.  Most states will encourage a joint custody...makes it a little easier.  If I were you I would start getting going on the paperwork for filing.  You can file a pro se on your own..depending on your situation you maybe able to file a waiver of fees.  contact me at summer_kisses_06@yahoo.com and I'll help you thru.  I myself am doing this and have 3 children.....Ill be more than happy to help you.
165742
Call a lawyer and get a "Guardian Ad Litem".  This is a lawyer for your child to protect her and her rights.  She is of legal age to tell a judge that she no longer wishes to see her father and tell them why.  She is old enuff where the courts will recognize that she is speaking for herself and not for your wishes.  This lawyer will help her do this.\nGood Luck.
109311
You need to contact social services and a lawyer that practices family law and custody cases. If she's wanting to take that child away from you and you still intend to act like a father and be responsible for that child, you need to get some legally binding paperwork stating that you have partial custody and visitation, and child support. \n\nI'm not a lawyer but if she takes that child across state lines without you agreeing to it, and not having made any sort of legal arrangements, it's kidnapping. This is very serious and you should contact someone for help with this immediately.
106833
Just because he is ordered to pay child support does not mean he gets rights to your child.  Visitation and custody are dealt with in seperate legal battles.  Go after the child support.  It won't go against you if you don't go for it, but is it really fair that you're shouldering all the financial responsibility for your son.  Applying is easy.  Go to your state's .gov web address, and search for child support or dept. of revenue.  Once you fill out the application and send it in, they will notify you of any progress with your case, and will assign a court date. (Save copies of all paperwork you send in or they send you)  If your son's father is named on the birth certificate, that's good enough for the court.  If he's not listed, he can either say he is the father, and the court will decide the amount he is to pay or he can contest it, and get a paternity test.  If he doesn't show up to court for these hearings, a bench warrent will be put out for his arrest (they won't seek him out, but if he gets pulled over for speeding and there's a warrent, he will be arrested).  The judge will ask both of you to submit financial statements, and then determine how much he will pay (a percentage of his pay, usually no more than around 35%)  They could also order him to pay back support.  \n\nI'm not trying to say your son's father is a bad guy and deserves harassment.  I just want you to know the process.  I'm a firm believer in child support.  It takes two people to make a child, and two people to support it financially.  Right now, money may not be such a huge deal, but why take all of that on when you're already doing all of the parenting too?  What about your son's future?  What about college?  Perhaps having that extra money could mean moving to a better neighborhood with better schools.  Perhaps it means that you could afford to work fewer hours to spend more time with your son.  Think about the possibilities.\n\nAs far as him being irresponsible in other areas, if you're worried that he'll go after custody, most cases the child will stay with the primary caretaker (you).  They will review his behavior and decide if that's appropriate.  Same thing with visitation.  They will review his behavior and decide if it's appropriate.
46714
He may need a lawyer to file the request for visitation. That would have been taken care of in divorce court. He has rights and the court needs to know the situation to guarantee his rights are ordered and enforcable. If the mother is unfit and the father cares about his children, it would be morally wrong for him not to remedy the situation.
161498
As someone who has had support obligors jailed for failing to pay support, but also as someone who has been faced with support obligees who completely misrepresent their financial and custody circumstances in order to try to force an obligor parent to pay more than would otherwise be permitted, as a means of maintaining control over the other person, my opinion is that you must balance the value of the money to you, with the very real likelihood that you may disincentivize the other party from wanting to have anything to do with his/her child(ren), and furthermore to want to try to improve their own financial circumstances over the long term.\n\nThere is really no perfect answer to the questions, but I would urge you to try to get the obligor parent more involved in directly caring for the child, rather than merely paying for it, because this produces the best overall result for the child. The father will feel involved, and less likely to want to withhold support for the child, and the child will feel like there are two involved parents, rather than only one who is doing the caring, and the other who is doing the paying.\n\nGood luck.
614662
He needs to get in contact with the child support agency that his is sending his money to.  And a lawyer,  if he has visitation rights.  Than he has the right to know where his child is and to see them.  The cops are just going to say that they can't do anything unless he has full custody.  Go to the court and talk to the judge that signed the visitation order.  They may be able to help know what he signed and what to do.  He should have never signed something that  he didn't completely understand.  I did that, and the people ended up getting full custody of my son and took off with him,  When they and their lawyers told me over and over that I was signing a temporary custody agreement.  Legal papers are so confusing even to very smart people.  Keep standing behind him and helping your man.  I commend you for being a real woman, and hold on to your hope and strength.  Because it may take time and money that you think that you don't have.  But every thing will work out for you.