my boyfrend has night shifts and we hardly get any time to communicate.im getiing irritated by this situation...i fear that the charm of our relationship might slowly die out.please give some serious advice!
210588
Sure there is no time to communicate?? I work overnights, I've been there. In my past relationship, we used to communicate during dinnertime, and the time remaining before I went to work. Also had some time to do so after I came home, and before she went to work. It is trying, but it is possible. Also, take advantage of his night's off. If you can get him to "reverse" his schedule on his night's off, that'll help out too. Good luck!!
360714
It's okay. We can't be all lovey dovey every single time we are with our boyfriend. It's only natural... especially if you've been with him for a long time. EVENTUALLY it's gonna happen.\n\nJust yesterday, I met my boyfriend for lunch and we were hardly talking. LOL. I guess we were just too tired.\n\nEH.. it happens. Nothing to worry about.
577032
I seriously doubt it. We chose to be with someone because we want to BE WITH THEM. What do you do , late at night, when you're all alone? No one to hold when the night is cold. Unless you're married, don't even try to be together. The temptation to be with someone in the flesh will beat out chatting on the phone. Wish him luck and if you're still available when he gets back, then maybe you can try to start something. Good Luck!
148975
It sounds as if he is displeased with the state of your life together.  You are both working way too much in my opinion.  You should both cut back.  Then he'll have plenty of time to sleep and you'll have more time to spend together.
59640
Well it's not official over until one or the other says so. my advice would be to try to save your relationship while you can. It also seems to me that you guys are playing that "since I'm too busy to call you game. I don't have time to call you either". Don't play that game give him a call if you feel he's too busy. Try letting him know how you are feeling right now. Don't let it just pass by like that you need to let him know because he's not a mind reader and neither are you so talk to the guy and find out what's really going on.
42815
I have to really question how interested he is in you if he isn't willing to talk to you when ever he gets a chance.  When you love someone and your away from them, it doesn't matter how tired you are or what else is going on the one thing that usually you want to do is talk to the one you love.  He just doesn't sound like he cares and figures if your there when he gets back home then great and if not oh well...I would probably advise you to move on and if he gets back and is still interested in you then if you want you can see him.  For now you have a life to live.
582865
No you have needs as well and you have to make him aware of them. Sometimes guys we don't catch on to sublte hint then three months from now we come home she's crying and we can't figure out why. Then you unlaod everything that you've had bottled up for the last 5 months and the whole time he could really be clueless. Let him know what your thinking and why and see what he says, but assuming is never the way to go. You just moved in so establishing communication is key. Here is you first chance to do so. I hope it all works out well.
570002
So it is ok when you are tired and not interested, but not ok when he is tired and not interested?\n\nMaybe there is something going on here that isn't about you and your needs...
569187
ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!
121359
My friend, it is very normal.  You love her and she loves you.  The only reason that it doesn't get resolved before you go to bed is because neither one of you can step down off that high horse in time.  And venting every once in a while is not a bad thing.  As long as the love that you both feel for each other is still there.  If you don't have that then you don't ahve anything.
636948
If you dont communicate you will never know what is going on there. Secondly it seems you stated it is a long distance relationship which is hard itself and without communication it will not work bottom line. Secondly trust is very inportant in any relationship and it seems liek neither of you have that so I believe you both need to have a heart to heart look at where you both stand as well as where it is goign and if it is worth it. If neither of you are ready to trust and also be willing to talk about things it will nto work bottom line
295250
It all depends on you.  If you do not mind him drinking or sleeping when he is off then it might work out.  If it cramps your style, then drop out.
287668
No, it certainly isn't enough to keep a relationship going. You have to have lots of patience and be able to communicate. Communicating certainly is tough right now and that's where the patience comes in. (Patience is also absolutely necessary when it comes to stubborn people as well!) Plus everything going on around us is bringing a lot of confusing feelings into play right now. That's not helping the situation and deployment just complicates matters. You guys are the only ones who will know if you can get through these tough times, but he mostly needs your support right now. He's physically in a world far far away from the life he's used to... and mentally, who knows where?
619615
Are you trying to talk and he is not interested?  Is it a comfortable silence where you are just content to be together and possibly know each others thoughts?  Do you want to break up, but are waiting for him to make the move or do you want to stay together and are worried he already left so you are afraid to put yourself out on a limb and reach out to him - maybe this is what he is waiting for?  Is there other demands on his or your time that limit the time to talk?\nIt may be a sign of breaking up, a sign that more effort is required, or that you are comfortable enough not to have to talk all the time.  I am sure these are the things you are already thinking, but only you and he can decide if it is over or if you want it to be over as we don't know the personality quirks of either of you.  If the communication is so bad that you cannot ask him then I guess it is over or never was.
301989
First was the ho-hum sex. Then it was the sloppy housekeeping and finally it was unwarranted criticism. It was the result of both of us being inattentive to the others needs. The relationship starts to break down when two people spend too much time without exchanging their hopes and dreams, ups and downs.  Communication is as necessary as nutrition. Long hours at work and little time alone starts the path to the end.  When the two of you no longer spend quality time and make plans then it is over. Do not drag it out.  The child will be better off if you do not let things slide into animosity.  Split while there are still more good memories than bad. Be open about the dissatisfaction with things. If there is a chance for recovery the other half will react positively.
182092
I'm 26 and in a long distance relationship as well.  We live 2.5 hours away from each other and I always return her phone calls.  It pisses me off if other people don't return mine, so I always return theirs.  Point to remember, guys don't like to talk on the phone.  I have trouble talking on the phone for more than five minutes.  I love her, but it seems like more of a job than a pleasure.  I can talk your ear off in person, but not on the phone.  Sounds like your boyfriend is forgetful or too busy.
621011
Hey I just wanted to say thank you for your response to my question, I think it really helped and it wasn't mean. I also think that you are right, he called me this morning and told me that he was knocked out and didnt get up until 12:30 or so. I guess it is still taking me some time to really relax and trust him but I think your response was the best. As far as your situation, my boyfriend is actually 28 and im 18 so yeah, think about that one lol. Thats 10 years older then me, but he loves me and I love him and its been the best relationship I've ever been in. I think true love prevails over age and just as long as you guys can respect each other and love eachother and probably give her some time to also grow, you guys will be just find. Age is really just a number I just feel like sometimes our decisions or the stage that we are at life can sometimes conflict. Just make sure you two continue to communicate and understand eachothers needs and wants to go about things the right way. G-luck.