Why is it that you guys want to start showing interest by sending special sms, giving compliments, long phone calls, and talk to the girl's friends about your interest in her, but when the girl reciprocate, you act cool?  \n\nIt sucks, and please don't ever mislead girls if you guys are not interested in the first place.
201833
Take back control of your own life,do not get into situations where you allow yourself to be jerked around.\n\nAlso it helps to not right away fall for the things you speak of,if you are easy gotten by them ,they think they have ya so they need to do no more to woo you.\n\nThe guys you speak of are without a doubt players,and mind f*cks,don't waste your time.\n\nChin up and put you 1st. :)
553541
You should not do something like that over the phone. Women like to see the glow in guys eyes. And they like unusal invitaions. Make a plan for a nice night and send her clues. Like if you wanted to take her dancing and maybe out to a italian resturant, you could send her own made cd and litte menue with the evenigs special. \ndancing\ndinner \nromatik boat ride\nWomen want to have the feeling you been thinking alot about them and perfect night. \nI hope it helps. If not there must be another girl around who likes you. Keep you eyes open.
380066
I think your asking how to approach a female you don't know so she will like you.  I would like it if a guy came up to me and asked me what my name was, told me his, and we had a normal conversation and he told me he was interested in talking more and would ask for a phone number or give me his.  No lines, no gimmicks, just a simple getting to know you conversation.  I hate it when guys whistle at you and yell hey from across the street.  Its so disrespectful.
161569
good for you! .. i think some quiet girls in class like me wants a good relationship and not sex\nif the girl you are with thinks that you want sex, them many you should please them more, with little simple things like noticing anything new like a haircut or an eyebrow trim, give little gifts for every holiday, invite her more to dinners or movies and take her home with a good bye kiss on the cheeck or forehead, etc.. \n\nand this doesn't mean that you are sentitive, it just that you dont like people looking at you the wrong way.\ntry to act more like a GENTLEMAN, and stop flirting with other girls
370126
my suggestion, DONT PLAN AHEAD!!! if you plan ahead it just puts pressure. on you just go and do what you normally do and if you bump into her just say something that you would say to any other girl. like hey thats a neat shirt. or if she is into sports compliment something shes done well in sports. or whatever shes good at compliment her on it!!!!!!
605520
Well, first just be yourself.  Ask her questions about what it is she likes to do and then try to do it.  We, ladies like for a guy to ask what we like and don't like and stuff like that.  Above of all really listen to what she says and take it all in (the important stuff).  By showing your interest in her that will impress and make her feel good at the same time.
27496
I don't know much about how girls should approach guys, but definitely don't send anyone to ask. This is because guys can get turned off by neediness, like you already presumed. Also guys get a big head and they like the rush of being liked, and they want more.\nWhat you need to do is create a scenario where you and him can get to talk, but directly. Any excuse is good. I assume this happens in school, so there are plenty of legit reasons to approach someone. Find a way to do an activity that requires you to contact several people, like when you have to sell junk to other people and stuff, and go and sell it to him. Then try to build rapport by starting a conversation (you know, change the subject a couple of times to something personal). If he follows the conversation, it's a good sign. That first step of talking is key. I swear I've learned this and I use it all the time just to socialize: any excuse works! What time is it, do you have change for a dollar, have you seen my friend whatever, did you hear about the new memo... etc. Just examples. Good luck.
96081
lol one thing dont do.. The cheesy comments.., No girl likes that.., if gives them.., the feeling that., your a major flirt. introduce yourself.., and say, I couldnt resist how beautiful you look, and i had to talk to you.., for i had no oppurtunity to approach you.. and say.. i do admit i was shy.., but it wouldnt have gotton any easier. and ask what her name is.., and if she walks away.. she wasnt interested.. if she flashes you a smile,then shes waiting for you to talk some more.
220438
yeah, extremely true...  i usually do that with girls that i really like. For example the other day, this girl i like and I were making fun of each other, and i said to her 'do you know theres a point where you stop talking? yeah? well youve reached your point. so shut up" i know its just plain cheesy stuff, but it just happens because its just manly nature.. i think its cause we dont want the girl to know we're all over them, so we add a little twist to the whole 'procedure'.. but sometimes some guys go way too far, and it hurts the girl, and guys should know where their limits are..
666876
you need to add more to this question..theres not enough detail to answer it..look at what you're doing..re evaluate yourself..what are you doing to make these girls turn you down? obviously you're doing something right in the begginningg to begin with ...it shows since you got there numbers..but when you ask them out it fails..what are you doing? is it too much pressure? are you asking too much? try something small..dont call so much..wait a couple days when u get the number..if you get the number for example on saturday..call them on Wed..and say hey how are you doing? have small talk..then after a few minutes say i got wash my car or something and say you will call them back...hopefully they sound intersted..let a couple days pass if they havnt called call again by friday and say hey want to go out to a movie or to eat or soemthing..girls dont like to be pressured...we dont like too nice of a guy..we dont want no stalker type calling us every five minutes..but just be nice to her..dont over due it..just come on like you want to be her friend..try that hope i helped..if this not the write answer you're looking for you should really elaborate on your question so you can get better answers..
191139
Play it safe. If girls keep doing that to you, why not ask a few of them what they're up to? That will either get them to blurt out the truth right then and there, or turn around in alarm and walk right away...probably never planning to bother you again. Depending on the girls, these ladies may either be after some guy to throw themselves on, or you might just be really popular. You just need to know how to deal with it...and maybe keep your eyes open for the one girl that might look like she is truly interested in you and not just going all flirty and crazy. Do you already have a girlfriend? If you do, tell the girls! They're bound to back-off if they realize you're already taken. You may get tired of saying this after a while, but if you say it for long enough, you might just start to notice that the swarm of girls has decreased to just a few random, hopeful wanderers. \n\nTruthfully, in all other respects I would just say run for the hills whenever they're coming toward you, and hide yourself whenver they're chasing you...but I'm betting you think that probably wouldn't work just as much I do. You have to deal with them. Stand up and ask them what they're doing, or tell them straight out that you're not interested. Or maybe you are? It all depends on what you want, and what they're really after. Think it over, and watch them carefully. Maybe you'll be able to pick up on why they're chasing you just from getting to know some of them a little bit better...\n\nI wish you luck. <:)
280890
Could be they smell desperation.  I've been shot down numerous times cuz I tipped my hand too early.  I guess you have to display the right balance of aloofness and genuine interest.  Girls are fickle creatures.  It can be frustrating as hell, and it's hard to turn off your feelings for a girl like a faucet, so you'll have to struggle to keep from showing TOO much interest at the start of a relationship.  Definitely have to work your way up from friends, to good friends, to close friends, then finally to relationship city, without skipping a step.  That's all I can suggest, cuz I'm still single and not enjoying it either, so I'm doing something wrong somewhere.  Good luck, mang.  There IS a girl out there who's gonna appreciate you just as much as you will her.  And be sure to always buckle up and drink milk for strong healthy bones! (that's probably the only valid advice I provided in this answer ... *sigh*)\n\nPS You'll also notice that when you finally ARE in a relationship, that girls will come out of the woodwork and show plenty of interest in you when you're spoken for already.  Girls, in my experience, often only show interest when you're NOT looking for a girlfriend.
282219
take it from a girl just talk to her even if it is just WHAT MUSIC YOU INTO? or something along those lines pretend your talking to your closest friend and tell her a joke (one you know for sure is funny) if that doesnt break the ice then its not worth it find some1 who appreciates your admiration if she actually talked to you for three hours i think shes trying to say HI IM INTERESTED MAKE YOUR MOVE!!! girls are much subtle than boys
521142
The truth. When was the last time you knew a guy that had a best freind for a girl and that girl wasn't hott. I mean come on the average guy isn't going to waste his time getting to know a girl and spending time with her if he isn't find her at least somewhat attractive. Now does that mean he would ever act on it. Well thats a dfferent question.
581383
The best time to talk to a girl when you see her for the first time...talk to her when she's stopped somewhere like in a store or at a drink machine or something, not when she's walking.  Give her a genuine compliment like "You look nice today" or "You have a pretty smile."  Most of the time a girl won't shrug you off or look at you weird when  you compliment them, but there are some people out there who think that every guy who looks at them wants something.  A nice girl will thank you and smile.  Take it from there with something like "I was thinking about buying this cd (name a band or something), have you heard them?  Are they a good band?"  Ask her opinionated questions and if she's nice and wants to be approached by you, she'll continue talking to you.  If she doesn't want to be approached by you, she'll keep it short or give a reason to just walk away.  Don't sweat it.  It's not as hard to get the NICE girls as it seems.  The bitchy ones will be difficult and put up a fight. lol.
308736
:) I'm not sure I'm like most women, but personally I do love when a guy asks me out... as long as it's in a nice way. If you don't know her, a look at her eyes and a smile when she notices should make her smile back. If she does, then you can come closer and introduce yourself, then start chatting a bit and ask her to have a coffee (if she can't but is interested she will probably offer to exchange numbers). About numbers, here are my "rules": if I'm really interested I will take his number and give him mine -no risk to miss an opportunity-, if I'm not too interested I will just take his -I decide-, if I want to see if he really is interested (and if I am) I will give him mine -let's see if he wil call-.\nNow if you know her already (classmate, for example) you can try to chat with her from time to time and see if you have something in common that could be used: like if you talk about cinema, maybe she will mention a movie she wanted to see. If you want to be direct with a girl I would go for the "I was wondering if you would have time to have a coffee with me one day?". It's still casual, she can decline easily (important!), and again if she really can't but is interested she will offer another solution. Don't do too much, she has to feel she can refuse.\nOn a more general basis, if I see a guy I like I will do the smile-and-bat-my-eyes trick, this is usually enough to encourage the guy to move ahead. If he smiles backs and seems interested but won't move, I will probably offer a coffee myself if there is a possibility  won't see him again (subaway etc.) :)\nAnd about the bf... you're not supposed to know! If she say she has one, just don't say you're not jealous... please! ;) And don't worry, if you act nicely I don't think a girl will reject you roughly. She will probably be flattered: what girls have everyday it's guys making kiss sounds or saying comments about their body, not an actual sentence. That's not that common... ;)
497024
No not really, u girls act weird... one minute you act all nice and show interest and when a guy does approach you, you girls give the cold shoulder! orrr sometimes we just think does she really like me or what? so thats why we tend to not make a move cause wre not sure, or scared of rejection!