I'm 14 and he's 17.His birthday is after 1 month .I asked people and one told me that i go for it and another told me that it is not nice that a girl buys a gift for a boy.\nHe's a drummer at a rock band and i will give him a hard rock CD for a gift.Is it OK ? What do you think?
201565
You like him, don't you?\n\nOf course it's okay but be careful (i.e. don't expect him to be impressed, esp. if he doesn't appreciate it).  It's just the way guys are.
657068
My parents have been married 25 YEARS! and my dad never remembers to get her stuff on her birthday or their anniversary! I say it is just how some guys are!! If you really love him then ask yourself if a birthday present is more important then his love...\nif the answer is yes, then why have you been with him for 10 years??
82538
Wait until your 1 month anniversary.  If you give it to her now it seems a bit desperate.  Also, if your giving her gold after 1 week what are you gonna give her after 6 months, a year?  You'll always have to try to top yourself.  A girl doesn't need presents all the time.  Wait for a special occasion.
493265
If you've got the money, if you think he'll like it, and if you guys are friends, go ahead and give it to him...  I give my friends presents during the holidays- no big deal, right?\n\nIf you're concerned about it being too much, you could always buy him a CD or make him a mix CD or something if you know what type of music he likes.  That's a bit more casual than clothing, I guess (although mix CDs can be pretty personal)...\n\nOh, and after reading some of the above suggestions- planning an activity is always good.  It doesn't HAVE to be a date unless you want it to, just a celebration type thing.  Concerts are cool, but if you can't do that, just go to the movies or something.
64606
It is totally okay to give a guy a teddy bear, smaller varieties are best. If you feel like giving him a teddy bear, then it's probably because you know he'll appreciate it. Sounds like he liked it!
44842
I would be a little irritated, but not for too long. Obviously your b/f is kind of taking liberties with the expectations of a gift, and of course when you exchange gifts everyone expects some type of equitable balance, but I tell ya, this is just in the U.S!. In general, it's OK for a boyfriend to go all out with a gift just to show his love and appreciation. In latin America, that type of display is actually OK, like filling up a room with roses or bringing a whole band of mariachis to your house to serenade you. Maybe he has that concept of chivalry or something. Just let him be and enjoy it. Maybe go for the $10 stuffed bear instead of the $5.\nOh and P.S. Don't mention anything to him about the cost or how he wasted money. That's rude and hurtful. Trust me, in about 3 years he'll be getting you the $10 bear at Walgreens.
368455
Two very important things at that age.  Do not try to over-impress him by buying something that costs more than he can afford to spend on the return gift.  If you do, it is sure to embarrass him.....    Figure out how much he will be spending on you and buy him something of the same value.   I used to find that the worst thing about all presents is getting something you will never use or do not want.   My daughter had a knack of choosing the right gift every time.   If he has a friend, ask him what might be the best choice...........he is sure to know.........
575026
It is *traditional* to give gifts of 18, 36, or 54.  It isn't *required*, and you won't look like an idiot if you give a different amount.  If you buy a gift instead of cash (or gift certificate), the amount you spend wouldn't necessarily be in multiples of 18.  The word for "life" in Hebrew has a numerical value of 18; this is the reason for the tradition.  But I'm sure your friend would rather get $25 than $18.  :-)
228264
It's still early on in the relationship. If you don't feel it's the appropriate amount to spend, I'd talk to him and let him know how you feel.  And maybe come to terms with a spending amount for both of you. I know you may want to get it for him to make him happy, but then you may resent it and this feeling will not be good towards the start of your relationship.  You have to do it from the heart.
105880
Ok first of all I do empathize with you. I understand that every child has to be given attention to especially to one as young as you. But maybe it was necessary to sacrifice something such as a gift for you for the necessity of the family right?\n\nLook on the bright side dude, maybe your parents will make it up to you in the future... Maybe they are saving money to give you an even better gift.. No one here would send you a gadget that would cost more than $100.\n\nJust be happy with what you have! I am 19 and i don't even have an iPod but i am quite satisfied with what i have and don't have. Yes i want an iPod but i don't post multiple questions asking people to just send you one. Probably the best thing to do would be to just save money to buy what you want. \n\nUnderstand the predicament that your parents are in, heck basic necessities are much more important than entertainment! Be glad that you already have an entertainment in the computer that you are using right now. I didn't get a birthday gift as well when i was a 13 year old and i was pretty fine with it, that's life!
522634
Depends on what she is into.  Check out what she likes.  Does she collect anything?  Does she have a hobby?  Maybe you really like her but at 4 months I think buying jewelery is too personal too early.  It could say more than you are ready to say right now.\nBut buying movies, cds, or adding a trinket to her collection of something she likes is a cool no added statement route to take.  Maybe she has an alarm clock that is not working or a phone that keeps hanging up on her- you could buy her a new one and keep it light hearted.  :)
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IT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT WRONG!!! 1 year is NOTHING. It is much more about how you 2 connect with eachother than how close you are in years.  I once had a thing with a guy 2.5 yrs younger than me, and we are still great friends, cuz he was an absolutely AMAZING person, and was super cute, and quite frankly was more mature than most guys my age. Guys the same age as me were always pressuring me to do things I didn't want to, but since I was older than him, this boy was SO respectful of me and my decisions and feelings. And what a sweetheart... as you can see, I could talk for hours.  Obviously dating a guy like 5 years younger than you is kinda weird, but just a few years is NO reason to hide feelings for a guy. If he treats you well, who cares how old he is? And if you're worried about being made fun of, then DON'T! YOU like him, and it's YOUR business. End of story. Best of luck with him! <3
237538
By them a nice music Cd or a good book, what their sexual orientation is, should be irrelevant to what you could give them as a gift. They are normal people after all, why should they be given something "lesbian" as if they were something strange? If they are your friends you should know that.
455583
If you want to buy something and you are to young then I would recomend you ask someone else buy it for you. Someone who is older (meet the age requirements of 18 or older) and do not mind spending 5 min on amazon. Also make sure you get your parents permision. You do not want your parents to make a huge argument around christmas when your item arives in the mail. You can ask one of your parents to do it if you need to be safe. Always ask the one that says Yes.\n\n*Hint never ask them when they are together. Ask them when they are seprate* It is much easier to pursuade one then two people.
326787
On my boyfriend's 19th birthday I got him his favorite candy and a CD for his collection that I knew he didn't have and wanted. Just don't get him anything too expensive. You haven't been together that long and he might think it's a little weird. Not to mention the fact that if you plan to stay with him for awhile you have to be able to top this gift!
11776
What is your goal for this guy?\n\n1.  Do you want him to be a boyfriend (possibly now or later???)\nOr,\n2.  Are you just happy to have him as a friend (with no possibility of ever dating this dude???)\n\nAnswer \n#1:  Research him, find a common interest, and get something affordable, but meaningful.  For example, if you both Rollar Blade, get him grease for his wheels.\n\n#2:  Keep the gift super affordable, and generic. Even a simple card would be fine since you've just meet. You don't want to lead this poor soul on.
359859
I always have this problem too. What I usually will do is get him a gift certificate-this year its $100 to Best Buy. I actually think that is what it was last year too LOL or maybe it was $50 last year anyway...but for him its the perfect gift. And that way I do not buy him something his family members have already gotten him or he already got himself. I will also have him pick out one thing that I will just hand him. And then will get him something smaller wrapped too.