i get so jealous when it comes to other girls but she has never given me any reasons not to trust her....we love each other very much and i think this can affect our relationship very much.....please someone help me.....what can i do to change i really hate being this way.
217101
being jealous could be a sign of insecurity or distrust or obsession..whichever it is, you have to get over it, sooner the better...why dont you try telling your gf..maybe she could once again assure her love for you..maybe her assurance was just the thing you needed to get yourself back on track again..
144507
Trust is always a good thing in a relationship and it sounds like she doesn't have it. You guys need to try a calm talk instead of yelling back and forth. Tell her how she's making you feel by always accusing you of cheating. Tell her that you are not cheating. Once she starts yelling (or vice versa) conversation ends. You need to learn how to communicate w/out the yelling. If you guys can't do that and she still can't seem to trust you then it's time to move on and find someone who will.
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Trust just like respect is not something that is handed to you in a relationship it is earned.  This is your proving ground now, a second chance in a sense, you earn trust by being trust worthy.  Show her you can be trusted and won't lie again unless you want a nose like Pinocchio!  : ^ )
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What you need to do is LOVE yourself a bit more! Find someone who would really love you (that's the least you deserve) You know, someone who would always want to be with you etc.etc.etc. And don't feel upset when she says "no" to you because you already know that she doesn't love you, so there's no point. I would suggest (again) that you start thinking more about yourself...ask yourself "How happy am I in this relationship? Is this person that I'm with right now happy with me? Is there a chance that we can have a future together?" and if you answer no to 1 of the questions...then you need to find yourself another girlfriend...someone who will be there for u 100%.
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first off, dont listen to the people telling you to get a man. they are just people who dont get enough sex. secondly, i have severe trust issues because i have been cheated on by EVERYONE except my current girl.yes, im a lesbian. Give it time, do not ask her to prove herself, let her do what she is going to do, if she does what you asked her to, then give it time, it will take time sweety. if you want to talk more, octabreaker, or email me octabreaker@yahoo.com
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Your jealous because you love him and you are worried about anything happening. I never used to be jealous and now I catch myself getting that way when he talks about going to strip clubs and things like that. If there is trust then that is all you need besides love. If there is no trust to begin with then the relationship has nothing. Dont worry but show him you care.
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I know its very hard for you to forget that girl, because i m also passing through the same situation, maybe she likes someone else, just leave your girlfriend because after all its their life and let them do whatever they wanna do with their life, we cant stop or hold someone and love doesnt comes or stay that way so all i can advice you is "enjoy life, never trust any girl and never ever love any girl sincerely more than yourself"\n\njust try it and see it works...
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when your trust is betrayed it take a lot of work on your behalf.trust is something that is earned.I had to keep reassuring him that he was the only one for me.I also told him that I wasn't that way and showed him.I really hated going out with him at first be cause he would accuse me of looking at other guys,so I would tell him I was with him and only him and that they couldn't touch this. I'm his and only his.tell her that he was the biggest idiot and how stupid he was to give up such a wonderful girl and that your glad he did because now she has a good man.that will never do that to her & dont ever do it.if it doesent work out be honest.it will takes time and is a lot of work but if she is worth it, work with her you can earn her trust. good luck
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Talk to her about it. Tell her that it is coming between the you and her. Tell her you feel that when she flirts with other boys, it is like betraying you. Tell her how much she means to you and ask her why she does it. Does she feel like their is something lacking in the relationship? Work on it.\n\nSometimes, girls are just like that. There's nothing you can do if talking to her doesn't work. If she knows your feelings about her flirting with other guys, and she doesn't try and change for you, maybe you should consider splitting up with her. Find a girl that wants to give all her romantic attention to you and only you. You can't change her. Only she can do that.
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Jealousy is inflicted by insecurity. What I would recommend is getting some counseling, you don't want to end up blowing up one day, because you can only hold your feelings in for so long. That sort of jealousy is not normal.
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You can't make someone agree with you--maybe you two don't have anything in common.  Do you give her cause to think you're cheating?  If not, better to find someone else who doesn't have trust issues.
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Put yourself in this situation. Would you get jealous? Yeah, and besides getting jealous you would probably be ticked off that since they got a girlfriend I'm nothing now not even a friend. If she meant the world to her then why could you drop her so easily??? Maybe you should care more about other peoples feeling instead of just your own. Good Luck:) Sorry, if this offends anybody.
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you are going to have to get rid of the insecurity. You have to realize that she has friends and a life outside of you. If she is committed to you then you have no reason to be insecure.\n\nYour insecurity is going to cost you your relationship if you don't stop doing that and get over your issue.\n\nGood Luck
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i know this has probably been said to you before but she probably sees you as a threat to her relationship with the other girl (believe me ive been there) shes probably just jealous so try to ignore it and if you cant talk to her about it and see of she relizes that shes even doing it
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I can understand why your g/f is mad. Why wouldn't you want to blow off another chick if you already have a girl friend? Just politely tell the other girl that you're taken and that nothing can happen between you both. If she doesn't get the hint, then stop talking to her and tell her to leave you alone. Make sure your gf knows that you love her and no one else. Do something special for her that you would never do for anyone else. Ur gf feels threatened. Girls are almost always insecure and think that their man will be taken away buy someone else, so just let her know that you don't want or need any one other than her.
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REad a book go to church do something to keep your mind off things. Whatever the case try not to think about it. She will be with who she WANTS to be with not who u want her to be with. Think about what you would do if u were her. If she really cares for u you should have notthing to worry about. Jealousy sucks and it eats away u inside trust me i know and it is'nt fun. Good luck!
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Jealousy (in my opinion) is a sign of self insecurities. I would be concerned if it shows signs of becoming violent or controlling.\n\nIf you love her you will work her through this and find why she feels she has this jealousy otherwise, I'd suggest advising help and getting out of the situation.\n\nBased on what you said it almost sounds like bi-polar or multiple personalities being triggered by emotional stress. (Wild guess not meant to diagnose just give you an idea of what you could look up to see descriptions of)