I'm a tall goth. I'm polite and can be appropriately genteel if the situation calls for it. Okay: My aunt is constantly saying things like "Oh, if it isn't miss Darkness," or some other such. We're probably going to see her this summer- she lives near a coastal area, so she'll ask me why I don't wear short shorts and bikini tops and sunbathe. ( I like being pale-ish, I don't like skin cancer, and I'm modest, that's why.)Just so you know, just because I like my skin to be light doesn't mean I'm a racist- my Aunt is a huge racist, though, even though her daughter has two kids with her black boyfriend. (Eh, go fig.)How do i respond when she makes biased/racist comments?
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Ignore her.  I'm afraid that once someone becomes an adult it is very hard to change their minds on these matters.  Be your normal, nice goth self and ignore her bigoted comments.  The best way to prove her ideas wrong is to be your amazing self.
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i think it was sh!t or a$$, might have been sh!ta$$. my aunt was a master at cussing, and she was always saying things like you don't know sh!t from shine ola and your uncle don't know his a$$ from a hole in the ground. cracks me up thinking about some of the stuff she would say.
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1)Yes, we still live in a racist country.  I am a 46 year old Black woman who has experienced quite a bit of racism bcos of the color of my skin (caramel) without any knowledge of who I really am.  I have traveled quite a bit within the states as well as other countries & honestly cannot see much of a difference.  Point in case...I've even traveled to Africa & have been faced with questions like "what are you?".  I think that I offended the one asking the question bcos I said "I'm an American".  They responded "do you mean African-American?" to which I responded "sure if thats how you would like to phrase it".  2) Yes my parents had a hard time but they "dealt with it" by being active in the civil rights movement.  My great-grandmother would never let me work in the fields when I visited saying " no way, your Mom & Grandmama would have a fit & besides those days are over for your generation".  She was right, however there are others here who seem to forget that.  With regards to "us guys" still living in this country...this is our country & we'll fight for the right to live here....in peace.
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sounds like one that the guys in my family would enjoy but at the same time, one that would make me want to hit my boyfriend for saying!  A little too racist for me, so you would definetly want to be careful who you tell it to!
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You can't talk so generally like that. EVERYONE is different. A person that has something against a race DOESN'T want to be like them, and a person that wants to be like them DOESN'T have anything against them. So don't generalize. Accept each and every person as one individual.
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I don't know if your racist, but I think some people have really pissed you off.  I'm white and have never been a brown noiser if you know what I mean.  It got me the title of anti-social.  No, I just refused to kiss butt.  After a hard day at work, I want to go home and see my family and kids not kiss butt for several more hours with people who make me sick to my stomach with all of there back stabbing and lies and attempts to kiss the Mans behind.  I feel like you should judge me on my merits and my hard work not by my social hours with the boss.  My job is important to me, but so is my family and my sense of reality.  Dude, by the way I know Black people who are the same way as Fat Boy Whitie.  Wait till you met them....Good luck on your future.  But people like this come in all colors of the rainbow.
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Be ourselves and not allow society to form our opinions or our judgments.  I'm a white girl, but my boyfriend's black.  We're madly in love, and both of our familys accept each of us...because we got to know eachother before making any judgements.  I hear rude stuff all the time, like, "He's a trader," and "Uh-uh, that don't make no sense."  I even get evil glares from white men when we go out...but I don't mind, cuz he's the one that I go home with at night, so that's all that matters.
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Whoa!  Calm down, you are borderline irate with all your capitals and ***'s.  Just because people aren't like you (your sense of humor, your personality, etc...) doesn't mean you need to dislike them.  Open up your eyes and realize that it is not a race issue, but maybe it's a type of person issue in which the person could really be just about any race.  Give people a break.  Give us the same courtesy you'd like given to you.
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YOu can and it is the same thing.  The world is fighting for equality, not superiority. ANyone who threatens you, or judges you based on your ethnicity is a racist. I grew up in a predominately black and Samoan neighborhood, and a lot (not ALL ) of the kids were extremely racist to the white kids.  Even though we were in the same shitty town, with no money either.  If you rise above it and understand why they think the things they do, you can connect with just about anyone though.
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So? If she doesn't have a problem, why do you? Many straight men dress this way in private, your cousin's bf is just a little more bold than most. If he can handle the stares, and comments, why not? If she can take the assualts that will come her way from being with him, then good for her.
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Please don't take it personal, but chances are you are the root of her defiance. Don't take this personal, but are you White? And this is just an observation that I had, many white people allow their children extended freedoms, and this can cause a child to feel like they are the ones that are in control. Let me open my mouth in an even slightly disrespectful undertone, my mother would've put a fist, belt, extension cord, mopstick, telephone cord.......(you get the picture) on my behind. And to all those who say don't beat their children remember " spare the rod spoil the child". This is just a general response. I also must say that it sounds like she has a lot of resentment towards you, and it sounds like it stems from whatever kind of relationship you had/have with her father. Her fighting with her younger bro is something that is common, but it could be BC of jealousy(do the two of them have the same father?) It kinda sounds like she is crying out for attention, you must remember to children attention is attention, whether it is positive or negative its the attention that they desire
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I responded to your first question. I couldn't find the question in the family section. It is perfectly fine to disagree with this Carol chick, but you can present your opinon in a more civil &less personal way Your comments were not only rude to her they were disrespectful to white women in general. You can disagree with Carol without attacking the entire caucasian race. We are all trying to put Racism in the past but it is opinions like those that help keep it alive in the first place. You would be just as offended if someone had made those comment about a black person. Respect works both ways, and if you want to be respected you have to show respect. Respect is something you earn not something you are owed. You owe all of us an apology.
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Actually, most goths do have friends. Certain kinds of people annoy other kinds of people. And as for keeping some secrets from other people, that's known as prudence. How many secrets do you have at your age? And what kind of 'goth' goes on Yahoo! and hints with all the subtlety of a hammer to the kneecap that they have 'secrets'?
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Maybe your step aunt said that because you were dressed more feminine than she's used to seeing you. I've had that same problem for years now. Some people around me think that since I'm 22 I should be wearing makeup, skirts, and more tight fitting clothes. I don't like wearing makeup, skirts and dresses~ it's just not my style. But when I have to dress up for something or if I wear my hair different from my usual style then people will tell me I look like a girl or I look girly. It gets annoying hearing it because I am a girl so I'm supposed to look like a girl. But I think it's just because once you put on your makeup and some clothes that probably fit you a bit closer than your previous outfit or what she was used to seeing you wear, that's why she said that. At least that's why people have said it to me
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While this situation has happened to me multiple times, you must realize to let it go; there are always certain people in different ethnicity's that are jerks about race matters. And anyway, people are hypocritical about everything, as  such is a mere reflection of their parents. \nI went to a school that had (literally) five African Americans and three white people, including myself, while the rest were Hispanics; by certain people, I was called a Nazi and chastised for having "Aryan looks", which was really upsetting to me because I have never considered myself to act in such a way, or hold those ideals. \nThen again, there were those who were indifferent and didn't see that way. \nThere are so many different instances where this same idea applies, and everyone is guilty at some point or another.
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Well some people are going to say you are, but others like me would ask what you believe in and how u act is what will tell me if you are gothic not the fact that you wear black or your boyfriend is gothic!!!
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I wouldnt call myself racist, im more sarcastically stereotypical. But i dont think there is really much you can tell them.\nJust do your thing and maybe theyll see different differently.