There is this guy that i have liked for like 4 months. he used to like me and i dont know if he still does. i have already asked him and he never gave me an answer. i know that might be a " no i dont like u" but then sometimes i cant really tell. if he doesnt like me how am i supposed to get over him? Another thing is that we used to talk to like 5 hrs on the phone and now we dont even talk for ten minutes. somtimes he doesnt even answer his phone. gosh, i dont know what to do.
199486
ok sweetie,.. so here it is,.. he is not into you,.. you are setting yourself up for failure and heart break,..\n\nthere is this book,.. you might of heard of it,.. it was on oprah,.. "he's just not that into you",.. buy it, read,.. learn from it,.. good luck
156803
I would first maybe talk to some of his friend and then your friends to see how he feels about you. Because you don't want to tell him then get your feelings hurt if it is not the same for him. I honestly believe that you can truly tell if some one likes you so talk to the friend and feel the situation out a little before making your move.
373763
Well, the problem seems to be that neither of you are telling the other about your liking for him or her. Instead of assuming that you don't like him, why doesn't he ask you straight away? Then the problem would be solved in minutes.\nHis friends tell you that he likes you. Why don't they tell him that you like him too?\nAs it appears that neither the guy nor his friends aren't going to be of much help, you have to take the initiative to clear this misunderstanding. First talk to him on the phone and tell him that you want to talk about a very important matter in privacy. When you meet him at the appointed place (a sparsely crowded restaurant or a park) at the appointed time, tell him that you have been wanting to tell him something for a long time. And that it was for this purpose that you have invited him here. When he wants to know what it is, tell him about your feelings for him confidently. Next, ask what he thought about you. I think, things would move their own way after that. Best of luck.
37434
In my opinion you should start a conversation with him even if it kills you or if your embrassed so just go up  to him and talk to him and get into why he said  no in nov. don't just jump into it... if he gives you a reason and you don't like it just take it in slow oh well he probably wasn't the one... remember that you can like a guy but once they start to talk they can be a turn you off... but remember if you don't like something he says just walk way... if he gives you a good reason, joking around ask him if it would be a good time to date now....trust me you won't lose nothing as long as you don't waste your time no more !!!  =)
390466
Your so mean !!!\nOf course you still like him, and he sure as heck likes you.\nHe might be upset he never did anything and now your going around talking to other guys and potentially going to forget completely about him.
417687
YAWN.... he likes you. Persue him. PERIOD. Hell give in and you two will get together. You say he doesnt believe that you got over your ex but i can see how you have if your ex wasnt good to you. Its easy to get over a jerk. So go for this new guy. Persue. I know guys are supposed to persue, but i think it will be to your advantage to persue this fellow. Good luck!
155110
From reading your description, it's sooo obvious that he likes you. I mean, why else would he hold your hand or rub your leg while at the movies. And hang out with you? If he doesn't like you, why would he wanna spend 5 hours talking on the phone to you? So YES, HE LIKES YOU. Now, if you like him back, just tell him that you like him and i'm sure he'll say that he'll like you back. :)
299599
give it more time, that is probably because you still like him, try to get hi out of your mind by going out with your friends or doing something, yea it won't be easy, trust me, when yu see him tell him what you feel so you can get it off your chest, talk to himthen after that see what happens.
574813
Examine the pros and cons of not talking to this guy you like. As far as not talking to him, the pro is, he can't reject you if he doesn't know you like him. The con is that if he does like you, he won't know that you like him back. Wouldn't you rather take the chance and stop agonizing? If you talk to him, then at least you'll have a better idea about how he feels. If you're nervous, you can practice what you'd say with a friend, or write it down first.
443529
i am in this situation right now. maybe he feels that he rushed into things. maybe he thought he liked you, possibly really did, then realized that there is nothing theree. i need to tell her. damn. \n\nbut really, dont fret. just wait and see.
119292
Life and love is very difficult, but if someone doesn't like you for who you truly are then they are not worth the time. If you change everything about yourself to please someone else then you lose yourself then eventually you will end up hating that person and hating yourself. You must be true to yourself before you can be true to anyone else, and it doesn't sound like this guy is much of even a friend if he didn't call you for 4 months. Some guys take advantage of the fact that someone has a crush on them and use that to their best interest. They never have your best interest at heart. It may be hard, but decide who you are and what you want for yourself. Move on and you will see that when you are truly happy with yourself a guy who really likes you will be there and you will be a happy person because you didn't;t lose yourself for some guy.
217757
Ask him, but what does it matter if he likes you or not, you already said that he doesn't want to get back together so why do you care if he still likes you? GET OVER HIM!!!
233729
Well, if you really feel like you're not into him and the relationship isn't going anywhere, what's the point in staying with him? Go find someone that you acutally like and let him find someone that actually likes him. I wasn't very into my last boyfriend, so I let him go after a couple of months. Why drag things out for no reason?
48006
Ok blue, i know how u feel, so talk to him about your feelings. A guy friend of mine liked me but i didnt cause i just like him as a friend, just like what ur going through. It sucks i know, but i went up to him and asked him if we can talk and so i told him i dont have the same feelings for you. Plus ask him if he is willing to put your guy's friendship on the line if u guys go out, you know what i mean? You guys are probably good friends, right? I know u dont want to loose that,so let him no that. Speak ur mind and he should respect that no matter what.
665132
First off WOW that was very long :-)!! But I think you should just continue being friends with him and talking to him like you are now. I think you should just see where that leads. Because even if he doesn't like you he seems like a really nice person and a really nice friend. And it would be a shame to lose a good friend.
194499
Yes, talk to him! If he likes you, cool. If not, find a new guy to talk to. :-)
59617
If this guy doesn't like you, sweety there is nothing that you could do. I have been in a situation like this before. I had a crush on someone for three yrs. Everytime i saw him, my heart melted right into my hands. As time went on with him knowing how i felt, and not once did he care, i gradually got over him, it took some time but i did. Compared to the type of women that he was dealing with, in my mind i felt that he just let something good slip right passed him. If a man doesn't realize what they could have had, then hey their loss. If he can't see the good woman in you, then someone will. He's not worth your sleepless nights, your tears, your pain. Get up from there, fix yourself up, and take yourself out.