Why do men (college age in particular) hesitate to ask out the intelligent women? It always seems to be the ones not capable of forming complete sentences that are approached!
204920
they are afraid... to be put down, rejected, thought less of. pity really, i usually go for the intellectual girls my self and don't succeed... they seem to prefer the jocks... oh well.\n\n-----\n\nit doesn't seem desperate on your part. they're just flustered and in shock probably. if you know anything about the guy then you can use that as an opener... this way he knows the subject matter and will have something to fall back on. if he continues to act flustered and walk away then you'll either have to try harder to get his attention (if you are determined to persue this guy) or start thinking about getting a new subject to go after.
218715
I've always preferred older guys and always will, I like their wisdom and life experience and women also mature quite fast so this works well with older guys. I always find it odd when older women go out with younger guys, I really can't comprehend that one.
469168
Probably just shy.  Don't worry about it, some guys may not have the nerve to ask a really cute girl they like!  Have fun!
192883
Men and women are both "programmed", in a sense, by popular culture, peer, pressure, and the media. This starts at a very early age, and by the time we are ready to start getting involved with others, we are already looking for certain things and acting certain ways.\n\nWomen come to believe that they have to look and act a certain way, and sacrifice their individuality to achieve that.\n\nMen are all about bragging rights, and one-upping each other, to the point where early romantic life is not about finding the best mate, but coming home with the best trophy.\n\nThere is good news:\n1) There are lots of guys that are all about individuality, and these are the ones who don't care what others think. They are always looking beyond the looks to see the person inside. (Unfortunately, by shrugging off whatever is currently the cool trends, these guys are by definition not the popular guys.)\n\n2) As guys get older, they finally realize this game, and start looking at women differently. (Unfortunately again, the age this happens on average is in their 30's)\n\nAs a rule of thumb, stick to finding guys who are doing the things you already do. If you are not a "popular culture" kind of girl, then you are looking for someone who is not a "popular culture" kind of guys.
395686
Go for it. Life is short, and your teen years are even shorter, so have fun. Besides, I know I feel like it would be a God-send if women would ask shy guys out. If he says no, what's the worst that could happen?
369855
Ask him out, why do the guys always have to be the ones worried about rejection?
539362
+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
234141
isn't it terrifying? guess what, THATS WHAT YOU EXPECT US TO DO!!!!!! thats why women made it up that guys are suposed to ask you out because you chics are way too fragile to deal with the rejection. tough crap sweety. ask the dude out and if he says no then take the hit and move on like any guy would do. it's a huge blow to our ego to be rejected but we cope. so if he says no simply say "thats cool." and keep on with the conversation. wow thats tough isn't it?
217586
I do not know what you are talking about. If a man tries to talk to you and you tell them that you are involved or not interested, you become a snob. Sometimes womwn are just not interested!!
415821
yes i agree with the other answer ask him or at the very least tell him where you stand,even thought the guy traditionally asks it is the new generation and some guys just dont know how.or also fear rejection..i hate asking people out its tough to know what to say and evryone isnt so easy about whether you sound""nerdy""or not good luck
174185
men mature slower than women.  they want a good time when the women are looking for husbands.  so unfortunately it's up to us to wait for them to want it.  There are a few out there who are great guys... but unfortunately they get snatched up by a few great girls.  sigh. \n\never feel like "everybody's buddy, nobody's hunny?"  lol- that's me.
165767
Well, most guys feel they are threatened by someone smarter than them. Plus when they try to get some, they feel they might not be able too, because you aren't some stupid chick willing to do anything.
465033
We guys are complete idiots sometimes. Unfortunately that also means that we tend to be more interested in women that aren't particularly interested in us. The challenge is part of it.
469438
Be Careful you don't want to seem desperate, And your not really supposed to be asking guys out anyway. Although it is a bold move and I think that if more women could say what was on there mind there would be a lot more couples together today. And vice versa of course. But my advice to you is to speak your mind be confident. And don't be afraid of rejection. take it slow, be patient but most of all don't settle and Be yourself
186710
He displays more feminine qualities than masculine ones. I just think he hasn't been exposed to sex, hanging out, just being less uptight. He probably has been sheltered and just hasn't came out of it yet. He needs to though, it is not cool to be this old and not acting mature. As for the females, he might just be intimidated by them, but as for acting like a mature college student, he needs to grow up, he is a bad role model for the children he babysits.
267827
alot of woman are afraid of rejection, just like some men, they dont approach a man their interested because of that, the sad thing is, you never know what the other one is thinking, they may have the same feelings for you, and if you dont get to know them, you could be missing out on a good thing. As for as the guys asking where all the good woman are? A woman who respects herself isnt just gonna go up and hang all over a man she's interested in, she'll sit back and wait to be approched or introduced to you.
138026
I don't dumb myself down.  I might not go around discussing heavy duty topics, though.  If they can't deal with a smart female, then too bad for them.  I think a real man wants a real woman, not a cherry pop-tart who has no brains or opinions.