he's 47 & she's 23 now. they live 45 mins. apart but he goes off into psychotic irrate rages on her cell phone regularly. should I be worried for her personal safety? i'm over 1 1/2hrs. away from her so it's not like I can rush to her side to save her from him if he goes postal on her. she doesn't seem tio think he's a physical threat but I sure do. please help! I don't know enough about this problem of  his to know what's up!
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Do you honestly feel that he could be violent? Was he ever threatening and violent with you?\nBi-Polar (manic depression) causes periods of extreme down moods followed by extreme highs. It won't cause him to be violent unless he already has it in him and you will know deep down whether or not he has got it in him.\nI know you are exremely worried. The only thing I can say is to try and keep an eye on the situation and maybe keep a record of the phone calls and any other abuse she may recieve. The more you have the more the police will help in these situations if it comes to that.   xx
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This is how every serial killer movie starts off isn't it?  I would limit your contact as much as possible till he has his shit together. Try setting a schedule I will call you at X time on X day, and let him know that you are an independent person, and while you will support him he does not own you nor does he control your life. Set Limits! if he flies off the handle hang up on him and don't pick up until you're sure it's not him. Don't be afraid to cut him out of your life completly if you feel the stress is too much.
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She is a sicko! My ex husband was like that. He had this terrible obsession with money and he was always hoping that I would get into a car accident so that he could collect the insurance money, he even threatened to poison me. He married me for a second income. \n\nOkay, so this guy beats your brother and you are aware of it. You need to contact 1-800-4achild 1-800-424-4553. It is totally anonymous. Tell them everything that you have reported here. They will then take action. You can also find out the number to the police department in that area. You need to get your little brother out of that situation before something happens to him as well. With the way your mother is and the way your stepfather is, CPS will yank him away. I am not trying to scare you, but you have to do what is best for your little brother right now. It sounds to me like he is in some serious danger.  Maybe there are some relatives that he can be turned over to. You need to get him out of that situation. I know that you want to see him and everything and there may be a way, but you need to help him FIRST.\n\nPlease let me know if you need anything or if you just need someone to talk to.
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Been there and done that...not fun!  I feel for you but you have to be strong enough to GET OUT!  I had family and friends to help me out behind his back.  I planned carefully because he was smart and inquisitive, very controlling.  Get mad and smart too!  Figure out his work schedule and get it all done in a short amount of time.  Get a restraining order against him before you go so that you are somewhat protected when you leave.  Go somewhere safe where someone is with you all the time and has speed dial.  Get a plan B so that if this is not an option you have somewhere else to go.  Don't make him mad.  Above all don't let him see you are nervous.  Keep him calm and level headed until you pull it off.  Don't change your routine or compromise yourself.  Be sure to delete all "help" calls off the phone and alert the police of what you are about to do and the day and time.  You can also have the police escort you out once they know the situation if you need to do it that way.  My prayers go out with you!
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Sorry but I have to answer your question with a question. 'WHY IS THIS GROWN MAN HANGING AROUND CHILDREN?'\n\nLook the age difference unfair  to both parties. When she's 18, he'll expect her to at like she's 24. And by the way Mister, when will you start maturing?\n\nLET THIS CHILD BE A CHILD.  She should be worring about her driver's licesne and promo dress and where she's going to attend college at.\n\nI WOULD CALL THE POLICE, JUST TO PROTECT THE CHILD. This has happened before, and when everyone said nothing will happen, well let's say that they were all wrong. AND RELIGION DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING IN THIS CASE. ASK MOST CATHOLIC PRIEST.
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I hope you took the time to warn her about how crazy people are out in the world.  There probably wasn't anything you could have said or done to her to keep her safe at home.  My daughter left when she was 15 and she didn't keep in contact with me except for a couple times a year.  She quit high school in her 2nd year and I couldn't force her to go.  \n\nI sincerely hope your daughter has good friends to help her out there.  If you know her friends that she is with or near, maybe you don't have to worry if they help take care of her.  It's the not knowing that really hurts.\n\nMaybe you could get her a cell phone and keep in contact with her that way.  God Bless you.....)(
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The man is a paranoid control freak, but he is still her dad.\n\nYou need to build her confidence up away from her home and show her what the real world has to offer and when she is ready to leave, help her to do it.
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wow she's totally crazy! i think what your doing with the video and the restraining order is right,--you should also carry a video camera with you and videotape anything she personally does to you, also record any phone calls you and your bf receive--- trust me this girl is just waiting for you to slip and either verbally or physically attack her, then your in trouble--so stay calm and do everything strategically--get the evidence and let the law deal with the crazy bitch. you dont need to get you hands dirty with her.
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You need to tell her...or confront him in front of her. If you dont then he will continue to do these thingd...One day he will carry it futher and you will really be in trouble. Please tell her now or go to another adult who she will listen to.
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She MUST press charges because it will only get worse.  She needs to get a restraining order against him and he will have to stay away from her.  You should contact the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.  \n\nhttp://www.ndvh.org/
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she still has it for him what a mess!  he shouldn't be talking to that bimbo in the first place I would never allow it not in a million years! Oh what a tangle web we weave.  you need to start layin down the law and do it LIKE RIGHT NOW he is never to speak with her again you have a baby on the way and who gives two used tampons what she thinks and them getting together should be the last thing you should be worried about you have lots more important things to worry about now than her right now.  Take care of this do it ASAP.
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Please convince her to get out while she still can. \n\nI thought I was reading the story of my sister. She went thru something very similar 1 1/2 years ago. He went to her church, seemed like a stand up guy, they actually dated a short while also before they were married. Again, same scenario, She found out he was a registered sex offender and learned he molested his own daughter. Bad situation. He was also obsessive compulsive and had to have everything just so or else. It took one night, when she was being beat up(for the first time) just for talking with our other sister and while on the phone and that sister switched to her other line and called the police. Then she wised up and got a divorce.\n\nPlease talk to your friend, this is not a good situation for her to be in.\n\nKeep this in mind too. Part of the problem with the world today is people turning their backs because they don't want to get involved out of selfish reasons. Sure, everyone gets worried about things happening to them, but people need to stand up for what is right, and stop letting bad people control everything in our lives.  Stay true to your friend, she needs you.\n\nGood luck and God bless....................
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At 21 she is a legal adult. he is just feeling over protective. talk to him WITHOUT making it sound like a big deal to you, unless he doesnt take it seriously. If he wont listen help your daughter out! hel her find an apartment/condo/ she can even live wiht you!
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Do something about it.  If he's a stalker, the situation can and likely will escalate.  Encouraging her to get a restraining order would be a good start.\n\nShe may not take the situation very seriously, but believe me she should.  If something is not done, things could get worse (and no I'm not suggesting you should threaten him or beat him up, that's just putting yourself at risk of legal trouble).\n\nBest of luck on this one, it won't be fun.
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Its a Go Go from me! 51 oh please he is old enough to be her father! Dude needs some bashing from his wife! He deserves it! Tell your friend to be strong and keep ignoring him and if he still follows her at work etc tell her to report it as sexual harassment. Once he is reported he for sure will keep his distance!
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Although my boyfriend is grown, I had to watch him battle with his mother when he decided to get from under her and make life a better for himself. She did everything she could to undermind him. She belittled him, spread rumors, stole from him, brought drama to our home to break us up... You name it, she did it. Eventually he had to cut her completely from his life. It's been eight months since he last seen or spoken to her. What finally did was she lied and called the police on him, trying to get him arrested. I honestly think that something is wrong with her mentally.
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I would knock the hell outta my mans baby mama...she is always trying to hurt him with his son and fails to take proper care of the child---ohh and did I mention how she uses the money to pay cell phone bills?...watch out b*tch because we know what you been doing and soon he will be living with us!!!