I was in a car wreck 17 mths ago and told i have permanet damage to my neck and shoulder, and now i found out my mom has alzheimers and she lives next door so i am trying to take care of her. How can i handle all this. Am I really depressed or just kidding myself.I am all so much medicine for spasms and pain, im just confussed. I also had to take a law suit out on the person who rear ended me and I applied for disability and ssi.
201440
They have what they call home bound nurses that come to houses and take care of people like your mother, check it out and see if you can get one to help you out.
342375
Sometimes it is hard to go to a parent and admit that you aren't feeling like you used to or like you should. Maybe what you can do is seek an adult who you trust. Try talking to your doctor. Maybe you can have her/him talk to your mom so that way it is easier. My whole family has gone through depression. My little sister who I am very close to has been battling depression since she was 10. I never knew someone who was so sad she wanted to die and almost succeeded at 10 years old. I know all her feelings. She becomes sad too for no aparent reason. Usually it's because she isn't getting the time she needs with friends, or she feels like no one cares. It could be stress. It could be because something more than what you think is bothering you. If I were you I would talk to a counciler. At least if you talk to someone you can get help and get to the point where you feel better. Your mom should be your support system so let her know too. She'll be willing to help you. I know she would like to know if something is bothering her son.
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Oooh dear.\nYou're in trouble.\nBut the problem is not below your neck.\nTell your family and ask for help.\n\nIf you stay like this, your bone and tissue structure will be so weak when you get older that your life expectancy will decrease significantly.\n\nDon't wait any longer
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I feel so bad for you in this situation.  You should tell a trusted family member (dad, grandma, aunt, etc.) how you're being treated and how you feel.  She has absolutely no right to treat you badly.  If she does physically harm you, call the cops.  Sorry if I'm not much help, but one last thing;  DO NOT COMMIT SUICIDE!  I'm serious.  Good luck, I hope things improve.
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what do you do as a job? i found that i had to change my attitude in a lot of different areas of my life. i don't know exactly what i'd suggest for you since i'm not sure what type of work you do. are you religious at all? that is something i got away from and i found myself sinking deeper and deeper into anger and despair. have you talked to your doctor about it? i have had to stay on an antidepressant. my family has a history of depression. sometimes we just have chemicals in our brains that are out of whack. it is hard to deal with life if your brain isn't working properly. i have made myself always look on the bright side. i dont' know you, but as a starter, you can be happy that you have a roof over your head and at least some type of employment. i honestly know how you feel. please don't consider killing yourself. i don't know how many times i made passive/aggressive attempts to harm myself. i was wreckless and i did not care at all. it's an awful feeling. i really suggest you talk to a doctor. psychological sickness is the same as physical sickness. some people do not understand that. there are methods to heal yourself. please talk to someone. i'll say a prayer for you.
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I was the same way you are. I start having depression at 13 or so. The longest job I ever held was 6 months. Then I went on disability (at 23). You need to be under a doctor's care and NOT working at all when you apply. If you can get a doctor to say that your health is to the point to where can't hold a job for any length of time, you should be able to get it. It may take several years but you should (took me 3years). I would suggest you hire a lawyer..if they don't think you can get it,,they won't take your case because they don't get paid. you can try to do it without a lawyer but most people I know had a lawyer. They ask you a lot of questions and if you answer one wrong..it affects your entire case.I wish you the best. Also know you will get backpay from the day you applied for it..even if you are turned down 1 or 2 times first. (and most people are..they want to close the case so they don't have to pay)
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I was 40 when my mom died. Today I'm 46 and still every once in a while I become very sad and even cry on occasion.  You were only 8 and you are now only 15.  The point I am trying to make is that the death of someone very close to us is difficult no matter our age at the time. But when you are a child you really don't understand all that is happening. Now as you mature and approach your adult life there are probably some issues about your grandfather and/or his death that were unresolved.  When you were 8 you were not prepared to deal with them.  Now you are able to and so your mind is letting them come up again. Our minds are strange things sometimes at night they dream things that scare the hell out of us. At other times they protect us from the things that really will hurt us.  I know that this is troubling for you and feel you need professional help to deal with it. Like others before me, I suggest you seek that help. Your parents and your doctor are good places to start.\n\nHope this helps you and Good Luck!
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i have it.it feels like someone is pouring boiling hot water down my back.then some takes me by the head and keeps beating me into a brick wall..this illness really sucks.go to fibrohugs.com.and look for letter to normals.that about sums it up!
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Go talk to someone now!  A parent, friend, family member, someone who cares for you.  Have someone else to help share your burden.  I am sorry for how you have been treated, and I DO understand, believe me.  But you must realize that such people are hurting themselves, and therefore they will hurt people.  \nYou seem like you have a pure and tender heart.  Don't take it so much to heart.  People need you!
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There is not much they can do for it. That happened to my dad, the pain very bad so i feel for you. It will go away but you are very suseptable to re-injuring it so regardless of what a Dr may or may not be able to do for you i would speak to one and get up to speed on this type of injury. Make no mistake it is very serious.
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try going to a safe drivers course-that can remove points against you-my mom took a defensive driving lesson and that happened.Being disabled though you should try to find a desk job if possible because driving has to be hard on you.good luck -I feel for you as both my parents are disabled-sucks to get old-but I respect you for getting there first
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Sorry that you are having a hard time. Basically tell em to take a long walk off a short pier. \n I also get funny looks because I receive Medicaid and you know why I get it? Because I am disabled and spent all my life not working but raising a family, so I did not have enough work hours to qualify for NORMAL disability. \n I am glad that you are trying to do so much to better your life and those of your children. Just forget them. Or even better ask if they will take care of your childrens health expenses? Take care and good luck
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I would agree with the people who suggested PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) .. though perhaps it doesn't need to be labelled as that, to go through such an awful experience and lose your cousin and your friend .. plus you were driving .. I'm wondering if there are still emotional wounds inside that haven't healed. Sometimes we work on healing and it gets into our head - intellectually - but doesn't quite get absorbed in our heart - emotionally. Perhaps somewhere inside you feel a sense of guilt. I'm a survivor of child abuse, and we feel guilt over the abuse, over not stopping it, etc. even though now as adults we KNOW that we have nothing to feel guilty about, that it wasn't our fault .. but it takes a lot to really FEEL this knowledge. \n\nI think maybe it could be the reason for your moods, specifically BECAUSE you say "I feel I'm over it" and because you bring it up at all. If you were really over it, it wouldn't have popped into your mind as a possibility or even as a non-possibility. I believe you instincts are telling you where the pain lies. The trigger is not that experience of the accident, but day-to-day things that trouble or tire or worry you, these are the triggers that waken the old pain. The accident experience isn't the trigger, it's what GETS triggered, and the moods are the resulting feelings/behaviours of that. \n\nWhy not see a good therapist and tell her/him you'd like to process the feelings you have today about that experience, and find some awareness understanding and closure about it. What have you got to lose?  You have anger, fear, sadness ... if this turns out to be the reason, you can leave that baggage behind and move towards a happier way of living.  I hope you'll consider it.  You ARE depressed, and the best way to help yourself is to get some good help. If for some reason you don't have access to a therapist, please try a support group or a counselor, or at least a trusted person who will listen supportively and non-judmentally. I run a group online (free and anonymous) for survivors of childhood abuse/trauma, and if nothing else, you can always join us. It helps to talk and be listened to. I've put the link to my group below if you want. \n\nTake care of yourself and don't worry, you will get the help you need, and feel better.
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Let me first way that I am sorry you lost your parents at such an early age- that must have been very hard to deal with. Secondly how sweet of you to want to understand what your friends are going through.\nI am trying now to find out how I can get a wheelchair ramp built for my parents house so we csn get my dad in and out more easily. He uses a walker and a wheelchair, but my mom has trouble getting him in an out of the house (they have steep steps.) \nI just finally got around to getting ahospital bad for my dad downstairs and the wheelchair through medicare. Medicare could not provide me with any suppliers-- they gave me three dentist's phone numbers for a wheel cahair and hospital bed. I finally called Apria Heathcare supplies and they took care of all the paper work for me. All I had to do was get a prescription for the equipment from my Dad's doctor.\nSome hospitals give classes on elderly care and financial advice as well---check with your local hospital.
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I'm saddened to hear that you live in this state.  Sounds like you were traumatized a year ago.  I've been through this. It's a horrible feeling. Asking these questions and reaching out for help shows that you are beginning to come out of it.  To return to reality,  face your troubles no matter how much it hurts.  Talk to a counselor, pastor, friend, teacher.  Continue to ask questions if it makes you feel better.  I wish you a bright future!
67904
I am so sorry that you and yours are having to experience that malady. A specialist in Neurology is my suggestion. If you've already consulted a Neurologist, check out yet another one. Truly, I will pray that you get the wisdom and help to deal with this.
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My wife is a Dr.  Her brother is a Dr. (shrink), a lot of the conversations we have sometimes dwell on mental cases.  You are not alone hon!  Granted your problem is serious and you should be talking to your Dr. about this.  You probably need to try a different medicine first, unless you just started a new med?  The fact that you're bring this out into the public is an indication that you don't really want to die, but are crying for help.  You can voluntary admit yourself into an in house treatment program and leave at anytime.  It is called autonomy, which is your right to decide what is best for you, as long as you can make sound comprehensible decisions.  Once you become a threat to society in general, then you will be admitted against your will, not only to save you but to save others.  Get some rest, stay away from any drugs and alcohol, see your Dr. tomorrow and tell him/her what is on your mind.  It's OK and everything will be alright, give it time.  People love you!!  You're not scum, just a normal human being with a physical condition no different than a heart problem, lung problem, bone problem, you are not scum Cassie!\n\nRJ