we been together for almost 2yrs now.we have a 11 month old baby together.he loves to smoke weed.i don't have a problem with that but i don't want him to choose to smoke instead of being with me.our relationship is like one day he want to be cuddled up with me then the next day he want to act a fool.i love him a lot and i know he love me too.on that day he chose to smoke weed with his friends instead of being in the other room with me i got mad and dumped him  in front of his brother and my cousin.he called me names such as the "B",dumb,stupid and you motherf*****.i went home called him he hung up on me.i called back he did the same thing and then he left with his friends.so i sat down and thought to myself and said that was a dumb reason why i dumped him.the next day i called we aruged.then a few minutes later he said he still love me ,he will always take me back,but its just i played him in front of his brother.now i want him back but he won't ask me back out nomore.
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He made his choice worry about your baby and move on to better
235358
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
636960
Talk to him. A couple of ciggaretts shouldnt ruin a relationship. just tell him to quit smoking or quit you. he will make the right choice.
388714
He sounds like a control freak. Move on! Good luck to you!
597861
Hello sweetheart, you must be so confused, it certainly sounds like your fella is. Speaking from experience I would not even speak to him again let alone go out on a date. I think  on this one sweetheart you have to follow your heart, you are the only person who truly knows ho you feel about him. I really hope that you can make the decision that is the right one for you and your little girl. I bet you have the same response from family and friends as I did, everyone told me to dump him "you can do better than him". I made the decision to walk away and have some on our own time with my boy. I have never seen my ex since. He tried allsorts to get back home I stood strong and resisted the temptation. I have remarried and I adore my husband. You will be happy again  take care beauty and don't re rushed.
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You can tell by what you are saying that he loves you. Why did you always break up with him? Saying because you were dumb is not a good reason, you must have an actual reason. Maybe in your eyes you have changed, but in his you havent. Maybe if you two could talk about it and everythime you do something that he doesnt like he could tell you. If you two talk it out maybe he will stop doing what he is doing. Was he like that before you met him? If not I do not agree with the person who said he will be abusive to the baby. If he was like that before than maybe he might be. Just because you are pregnant doesnt mean things will get better. It is a two way street and both of you have to try and make things work. If one of yall is trying and the other isnt then it does no good. You both have to be on the same wave lenght on things so things will go smooth and fix in time. I hope that this answers your questions.
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This guy has the attitude many abusive people have, dump him now before it gets worse and he starts hitting you.\nIt doesn't matter how much you think you love him, you have to love yourself more.\nWhat if you eventually had kids with this man do you think he would be happy for the baby to have all your attention ? he'd get mad and possibly hurt the baby\n\nDump him
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If he was really into you and really wanted to be with you he would.  But maybe he felt that way about you and you blew it.  Sometimes we don't know what we have until it is gone.  That sucks.  He does need to stop jerking your heart around though because you will never move on if he keeps stringing you along.  NOT FAIR.  Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't.  Don't play games.  If you have children you are too old to be playing games!!!!   Tell him honestly one more time how you feel but this is the last time and then you are moving on.  And MEAN it.  If he decides to stay with the new one tell him that you will no longer discuss his feelings for you.  Don't let him jerk your emotions around.
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Sounds like a game, call him back if you like playing them.  Don't call him back if you don't like playing games.  Sounds like he needs to grow up some.
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5 months is still young so its hard to say what his intentions are ....good thing is that usually if they are just after s?x then once they are put down a couple of times they will go off and try elsewhere unless they feel theres a good chance they can talk you into it fairly quickly.  I think he probally cares for you and just pouts cause its something he wants and your not giving it to him...us guys are funny like that sometimes especially if we feel we are truly in love with that person.  Don't do anything your not ready for and if he loves you he will wait and respect you.  Just tell him that you love him and know he wants you to go further but explain that your just not ready yet and when you are he will be the first to know but ask him to lighten up on the guilt trip cause its making you feel bad and pressured.
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Two points to this....first, he won't change for you.  He may change eventually but he won't be doing it for you. Second, it's unfair of you to ask him to change. Did he suddenly start drinking and smoking midway through the relationship? Accept him for what he is or if you are unable to do so, move on. And, hon, love has nothing to do with it.
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Sounds like he still has some growing up to do before he can commit to a relationship with anyone.  Just make it clear to him that if he is going to get mad and jealous then he needs to either make a commitment or walk away because your not going to keep going through this same old dance with him all the time.
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Have you tried to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Just try holding his hand when walking either by yourselves or when his mates are around, tell him you enjoy it and maybe with time he will start to enjoy it too. Does he tell you he loves you ? Maybe he is just a little immature  or shy. He should always treat you with  respect  whether people are around or not. I suggest you try talking to him and tell him it upsets you that he treats you badly when others are around. Best of luck.
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Why didn't you walk away the first time he got angry? Why even hang out when he is stoned? Violence solves nothing. He hits you, you hit him back. he comes after you again, you hate each other  and involve other people. It always gets out of control. Be the mature one about this and let it drop.If you don't want to be friends with him anymore then don't. That doesn't mean you have to hate him. Remember all the good times. Why let one bad moment rob you of all the future fun you could have. Make sure you don't hang with him when he is high and let him know that you don't want to be a part of it. My son has gone through the same thing. His best friend didn't hit him but they don't hang out because all his friend does it get high now. My son has made new friends that share in his interest. This happens, people grow apart sometimes.\nLove & Light\nSharon
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No it wasn't your fault. I didn't see how you could think that! It was his fault that he didn't act like he cared about you! You did the right thing! \nGood Luck with your baby and your new relationship!
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Its verbal abuse. Not all the signals are the same for other couples so take it for granted that maybe its a joke but do this for one week but see if he calls you those names after you seem irriating to him. You sound like your insecure. If he loves you 100% than why leave him? This makes no sense which is why I commented you seem insecure. You have a mouth to open and shut so tell him you do not like being called those names. Maybe he's not aware its hurting your feelings nor he's actually doing it more than once per day. Basically, if he's doing it more than 2 times per day than its abuse. Abuse is not tolerated. I have been in a verbal abusive relationship and it makes you insecure and bring a low-self esteem. Try to open up and tell him or seek counseloring if it gets worse. I know easier said than done but do you want to be called respectful names, yes, so tell him to address you by your name or honey, sweetie or babe. Basically, tell him instead of that "b" word replace it with babe, beautiful or bodious maybe change the "c" word with cutie, charming or cupcake. I feel you need guidance so read books or just avoid confrontations that leads to those names unless its an everyday thing. Just do whats best for your heart and health. Abuse can damage your health.
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I would stay clear of him for a looong time.  Clearly, he has some growing up to do.  You are WAY too young to be involved with someone like that.  And if he's not stepping up and being a man by supporting his baby, don't think twice that he wouldn't do the same to YOU.