to get in great shape look hot and find a great guy just to make me feel better is this normal
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Yeah, it's normal especially if he thinks that your appearance is not good enough. If that is the case he is a jerk and guess what? If he is looking for MIZZZZZZZZZ PERFECT SHE...DOES NOT EXIST AND HE IS GOING TO BE LOOKING FOR A VERY LONG TIME. Maybe he will find some girl that treats him like crap because she is MIZZ perfect and she knows it and she knows she can have any guy she wants, if that is the case, he deserves it. What goes around comes around. \n\nNow as for you my sweet friend, Don't go losing weight and getting yourself in shape for the guys, do it for you. Don't do it just for looks, do it for your health and well being and you know what, maybe you look just fine, but you are letting what happened to you get the best of you, which is normal too. \nHang tight. The guy is a jerk, he is not worth your energy. \n\nI bet there is a great guy waiting out there for you. \n\nYOU GO GET HIM TIGER!!!!!!!!! ;D
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dude, i'm happy to help, but you have to take your picture off your little square. seriously.\nanyways, this is normal, your muscles are getting used to the stress you've put on them. you will probablly feel sore if you go really hard one day, but if you continue to work out everyday, it is normal, and GOOD not to feel sore after every workout.\nkeep it up!
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Yes, I can see you might be gay. Assuming it outright, might not be prudent here. I can appreciate as well how you feel about the guys with muscles popping, straining etc for top position. After all, fake or not, the idea of beating another down through, strength, skill and endurance can be seen as "HOT, HOT, HOT".!!
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dont worry so much im sure you look fine. just stay fit and be active and im sure everything will work out the way you want it to.
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I would say you have to pay attention to your weight. I am totally convinced that having a healthy weight is a must. I am 30 years old and is now that I have started to be concious of how important this is. When I was 14 I never worked out. Try to be as active as you can, run, exercise, work out; it will make so much of a better woman when you are 30, you will feel so good. But take this piece of advise, if you are going to change your looks, just do it because you really want to or because what you are about to change really bothers you; never do it to satisfy a society based off looks or just because we need to look in a certain weight. I am telling you this because I was somebody would have told me this when I was your age. Good Luck!
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*this is a long one*\n\nIt's understandable that you feel bad because you're not getting the kind of treatment your "attractive" friends are getting, but there's a lot going on here.\n\nGuys, from a very young age, are told what is attractive and what isn't. It has to do with the era, culture, ethnicity, and a million other things. It also has to do with the fact that it's a bar. Although people meet each other and form legitimate relationships all the time in bars, most often when alcohol and women are involved it's about sex. The men in there may care about your beautiful personality, intelligence, creativity, talents, etc. but that isn't the first thing they're looking at.\n\nPeople always say that men exploit women. To a degree this is true, but if it's one thing I've learned it's that women are terrific at exploiting the things that men like to get what they want. You girls aren't stupid, even those who pretend to be. Men for the most part aren't difficult to figure out when it comes to attracting us visually. \n\nWith that out of the way, don't get yourself down because you aren't the standard that pop culture deems hot. Every single woman is beautiful, no matter what age size or color. What matters most is how beautiful you acknowledge yourself to be, no matter what anyone else thinks. Because in the end, you can't control what they think or how they feel, and although there are ways to make yourself more attractive to them, it's only a shallow experience and you shouldn't have to change things about yourself to please others.\n\nI'm not one of those people who's going to tell you that there's someone out there guaranteed to be perfect for you, who just happens to love everything about you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. If you find that person you're very lucky, because most of us out there just have to settle or lie to ourselves. \n\nWhat I am going to tell you though, is that there are men out there who acknowledge and appreciate physical features, but value the beautiful personality underneath. You're probably not going to run into one of these men at a bar. Where do you find them? There isn't one set place where we all congregate, that's the problem that goes both ways, for finding men and women alike.\n\nThink about this though: Next time you're at the bar, check out the wallflowers. Chances are there's a guy out there who doesn't get approached by the beautiful women, who may be insecure himself but like you has a lot to offer beyond physical appearances that conform to a standard. Talk to him, ask him to buy you a drink, if you feel like it offer to buy him a drink, see how that goes. Be yourself. This could easily end up being the most fun for you, because you'd be surprised how eager the person in the corner is to connect with someone else if they were just given the chances. If not, at least you interacted and didn't have to sit aside feeling hurt that people aren't approaching you.\n\n\n\nBut after all this, and I'm not saying it is this way, don't have a double standard or be hypocritical. Don't judge the guys on physical appearance alone. You know you're worth a lot more than your looks alone, and so are they. So is everyone.
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You are very lucky.  A lot of women would kill to have a nice round butt like you have.  You should not be offended, but flattered.  Enjoy what you've been given!
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wow you sound a little down I hope things get better for you and not all guys feel like that some feel like there not a girl they can't get
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princess we all go through these feelings. You are probably just as pretty Just as attractive as ever you were. Unfortunately a lot of guys assume that women who are very attractive are taken especially since they are slightly older than the silly little girls they used to chase. You are simply more confident more assertive than you once were, that doesn't mean you are any less desirable than the younger more slender ( in my opinion less seductive ) females you are comparing yourself to. They are girls Hun You are a beautiful seductive woman, not a silly kid anymore. personally i like the fuller more rounded and curvy body of a woman as opposed to the awkward skinny angular body of a girl. I assure you, you are every bit as desirable as you ever were and in my opinion probably more so, to men that is not boys.
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I dont think its wierd at all...Im actually in that position in my life right now.....Ive been through some of the worst relationships ever and at this point in my life i am very happy bieng single, but still want the physical active part from a guy....that may be why most of my friends are guys....I still like the cuddling and the hugging and the other stuff, but dont want anything serious......I dont think its wrong at all....you do whats best for you and if you feel you dont want to be in a committed relationship, no one should make you feel bad for that.
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are you kidding?!?!? lol you have asked this question 5 times so far, all of them are just worded differently. now you have become a slut about it lol too funny. if your begging for someone to come go out with you and telling them that they can do anything to you....you either desperate, fat or ugly......williing to bet that your at least too of those.....kind of feel bad for you right now.
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So basically your a smurf( 3 apples tall) and slightly pudgy. Sorry but it does work the same way for men as women, if hes not sexually attracted to you your not getting any. Will losing weight change that? Probally not. No matter what you do men rrely change their minds unless its for sex, but I feel you want more than that. Realize that your probally going to get hurt over this so prepare and dont your hopes up too high.
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I don't know, most men feel horny; it's probably the type of men you have come across find someone more mature.
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if its natural.i would say that maybe u had some bad experience with a man before?or maybe u re just not interested,in low chacras stuffs.certain ppl are more into things of the mind or soul.then body level of doingness.if u know what i mean.so..its normal.just let it go, and i believe if.some day u find someone with who u get in "sync" with ,u will give ur mind,.and body to him.in harmony,i feel that u re a smart person,and u re looking for meanful things in ur l ife.keep it up.worry not.u will reach there.good luck
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i do this ALOT too! \ni really know how you feel! i think that...well...for me its because i get to know them really well and i just can't help but ot fall for them.\nSo no, nothing is wrong with you!!\nwe really dont know if guys feel the same way...which makes me mad...lol..but this happens, i think, because we become really good friends that we want to be something more. thats how it feels for me. i think its normal....as long as its not like just because you want someone or because your desprate. if its real...its normal.\nhope i helped!\n~ALSO~\ni try not to say anything in fear it will ruin what we already had. if you feel comfortable that it wont change things, you should tell him how you feel.
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I kinda know how you feel.  I have a guy friend who feels the same as you and he talks to me about it sometimes.  Yeah it is kinda true.  I'll be honest with you and I don't mean to be rude or offend you but I've noticed that a lot of physically attractive men turn out to be @$$holes but on the other hand, the sweetest guys usually aren't the best looking.  So, like most women (and men) will go for someone who looks hot but in the end, they get hurt.  They want a shoulder to cry on and knowing how caring you are, they'll go to you.  I used to go after the good looking ones but I kinda gave up on that after I realized they all turned out to be @$$holes or perverts.  I mean, I still won't date a guy who is ugly lol but they still have to look at least decent.  I have found that these kinda guys actually respect women more and are very sweet.  So, with that being said, sorry to be blunt but you may need to change your looks and the way you dress.  I know it sucks but its true that people tend to be attracted to someone by looks and believe it or not but it does affect they're decision if they'd date you or not.  Also, I'm sure you'll find a good girl.  Hey, there's 3 women to every man on this planet...that's plenty enough for everyone.  Maybe you should stop looking.  I think they tend to come around when you least expect it and aren't looking.
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The reason SOME guys do that is because of insecurities probly there before they met you....unless you were just a mean b***h all the time. The insecurities could have come from his parents who knows but speaking personally, I love BBW and could care less about a woman working out or getting in shape. If my lady wants to do it, good for her. I work out 6 days a week! We could spend some fun quality time in the gym together.