Ok here it goes. My ex was having a bad month in Jan. And he was avoiding me everywhere even at our fav. sport, Archery. Me being the stupid one I asked him If we were still going out or what was wrong. So Feb 1, our anaversary. He asked me ther same question and I said yes but he said NO. I love him and I know he still loves me because his best friend told me. And i trust him i know he would not tell me a lie. Ok the question is HOW DO I GET HIM BACK?
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Find outif he really loves you back. He might've been cheatin' ans saved you the agony of telling the truth. But if you love him tell him that you don't want it to be over, tell him thatit can be worked out if both of you are willing to commit.
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Gurly-Q, I will pray for you!! I too was lied to, betrayed, and deceived over and over for 6 years with my EX. Keyword is EX! You can only be hurt by this man and others like him. Once you decide to no longer be afraid that a better man won't come down the pike, you will be able to move on. I decided I would rather be alone for the rest of my days than listen to another lie and be expected to believe it and instill that trust back to him. I know being single sucks but it also rocks! You can go on several dates in a week if you want and YOU call the shots! My mom once told me, "With one of these (indicating female anatomy), you have the power and can get as many of those (men) you want." Take back your power, babygirl. The next time you go on a date, look for signs that he is a deceiver. Ask pointed questions and be upfront about things you are not looking for. I, too, have thought things would be easier if I dated women...but it's still a relationship. If you really love women, go for it, babe. But, if you absolutely love men, you can't let this make you bitter toward them and start batting for a team you don't feel 100% part of. Also, I think every girl out there that hasn't just settled for a guy has been through this...you are so not alone. My heart really does go out to you, sister in misery!
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Have you told him you want him back? Also, I think it would be a good idea if you told him you can't stop thinking about him. Make sure to say your sorry and that you were confused. Tell him that you will not hurt him if he gives you a second chance.\nGood Luck Girl!
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You need to know some things before you try to get him back.\n\n1. why did he leave?  Did he leave because you don't put out and this tramp does?  If that is the case, I agree with the rest, don't bother.  If he left because of a fight/misunderstanding then i think you might want to try.  People have fights and then will do almost anything to win, so things might have been said, that neither of you meant.\n\n2. Why is he with her.  Is she like you, apart from the trampyness?  Is she the opposite of you?  Depending on your sex life with him, he may just be on a bootycall.  Doesn't make it right.  But if she is just like you, he might want you back.\n\n3. Why do you want him back?  how old are you? how long have you been dating?  What have you done together (meaning go to college, school, other?)  Maybe he was just serving his purpose for those times but wont work with these times.  We are all human and we have all done that.\n\nSo if you want him back, how bad?\nif you need him back you got to tell him and sex him up.  (If that is the only way, i say leave him)\n\nIf you love him, but still lead a life of your own, then tell him you need him and tell him you are sorry for what happened.\n\nfinally, if you are stil pissed at him and don't care if he comes back or not (but would like him back) then just say hey we need to talk and make sure he knows everything about how you feel and ask him why he did it.
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Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
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It sounds like you too have a deep connection, he called you and you keep loving him and thinking about him plus you two talked "in silence" too its as if you have a body language connection as well.I think you two should try being together again, try another date and tell him how much you enjoy his company and his personality and how people make mistakes.that might bring him back too you.hope this helps.
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whats with him and ex's?  Youre an ex he's back with, now you're concerned about another ex.  Alarms went off when I read this. You need to be sure you're who he wants before you get hurt.  Give him a chance to be certain what he wants before you invest your heart into this once failed relationship.
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Despite what he said, it doesn't sound like he is ready to get back together with you.  It doesn't sound like he can put in the time he would need for you to have a meaningful relationship.\n\nI would forget him and move on.
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It's okay to miss our friends but at some point we have to let go.  Unless that is you are the first one to bend the time continuum with a time machine, then you can go back in time as many times as you wish.  Since that's not happening any time soon, move on.\n\nI would say that the white lie you told doesn't compare with the lie he is living by being with you while 'hanging' out with his ex, while being on a dating site.  The way I see it is if he commits to being in a relationship (with you) he should be the one trying to earn your trust.  \n\nIt is because he doesn't have your trust (just like supposedly now you don't have his trust) that you have to go snoop around his e-mails.  Instead he is making you feel like you are the bad guy and he is the victim.  I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.\n\nI would say it's not worth it.. like i already told you... move on.\n\nGood luck.
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Tell him how you feel about what happened and that you're willing to come back, but he owes you an apology for what he did.  Hopefully he learned from his last gf that he should consider you first.
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He has absued you mentally, reduced your self esteem, made you believe that you love him so much that you  have to hurt yourself physically for him to believe that he has succeeded. My opnion is that you are too good for him because you are still hanging on. If you try hard enough, i believe that slowly you would get over him and recover back to your original self. All I could do is wish you the best of luck.
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Well, you got angry because he didn't email you back after you dumped him? I think you're confused about your feelings for this guy. But if he wants you back, sure, I'd say give it another shot. But seeing as you've already dumped him, maybe you have to do something special so he'd want you back. The question is, why do you want him back? Why do you want to give him another chance? And why did you dump him again? Don't try to get him back when you're not sure about you feelings for him. You've already hurt him once. Think about it. You really don't want to hurt him again.
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Sounds like he wants you two to get back together again but is too shy or too ashamed to ask, may be that he is afraid you will turn him down.  Hang loose awhile and see what the outcome will be.  If he still likes you, you will hear from him before very long.  Good luck kid.
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Dear girl,\nI am suspecting that you are quite young if you're still not backing up since your Ex told you to. I would recommend, please give it a time. I know how you feel inside. I've been there, and it felt horrible at the time. But, trust me! After a while, maybe 3 weeks, maybe 3 months, but you'll feel much better. You will get over him! And you'll wonder why you were suffering as you are right now! The possible reason for your Ex acting this way is maybe that he have found his true love. And now he doesn't want to ruin it. Probably, his new girlfriend doesn't want you guys hanging out. So, please have some dignity and let him go. Don't be surprised though, if you get a call in few years from your Ex. So, I hope that you understand what I'm trying to say. Good luck!
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go and talk to him...tell him you missed him..and ask for forgivness if it is possible.\n\nsomethimes we should try to be humble and admit our mistakes..or even if we were right, we should do it for getting back our ex...\n\nshow love and kindness..;
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Been there, done that. It's funny how our minds and emotions can ruin a good thing. One thing that I hightly recomend is getting your self esteem up. It's tough, but once you are sure and proud of who you are, you don't loose that. As for getting your ex back. It may or may not happen. Give him his space now, thats is what he wants. If for some reason he also has a change of heart, you 2 can work things out then. But for now, respect his decision. Take care babe, im rooting for ya :)
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Hi there again. Was thinking about writing direct but didn't want to bother you again.\nI had a break up last June after a 7+ yera relationship/engagement and it took a little (underexagerating) time to get through.\nThe fact that he didn't seem to be bothered by it at all made me even more upset. I couldn't figure out how he could just walk out and that be it. No contact, no explanation of why, no nothing. People need some kind of closure to move along the healing process and I didn't have that.\nWhen I finally started thinking a little more clearly (took about a couple months), I started to realize the reason he was able to walk away as cut and dry as he did. It was because he had already been done long before he'd walked out.\nI started being able to put myself on the outside, looking in instead of the inside, looking in (hope you understand that). Then I started allowing myself to realize all the things that weren't so great and hadn't been so great for a while.\nI went from a deep sadness and loss to realizing I was worth more than how I was treated by him, either directly or indirectly.\nToday I am glad he left and didn't ever try to contact me AND I'm also glad he left.\nMy belief (and I've seen it proved many times over) is the karma people like that earn will pay them back tenfold for what they uncaringly do to people.\nOnly you will be able to put this to rest within yourself and only in the time that is right for you.\nI wish you all the best in the world. And try to remember you are worth more than the sum of one cheating man.\nAlso, sorry this is so long.