i am struggling with a number of problems off and on. first annorexia, i'll stop eating for no more than two weeks and realize how bad it is for me. second, cutting. i don't even know why. i don't really have pain that i need to deal with, i don't think. i just sometimes like feeling phisical pain. third, i sometimes think about running away from home, (i'm 14). i know i don't really want to, but i just think about it all the time. help! i can't go to a proffesional person or whatever, too expensive.\np.s. i know i already asked the same question, but i changed the title so people would answer
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Hi,Daisy well all I can tell you is STOP!! I know its hard but you really have to try. Right now I'm trying to help my sister stop too. And she is also 14. Just think about all the people who LOVE you and what will happen if you cut your self to deep. If you need any more advise you can contact me at              youngwon1025@yahoo.com
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I'm 29, and have always had a hard time. I have found that the easiest and most effective thing is to eat small amounts, several times a day. I don't even eat healthy all the time...I keep things like nuts, string cheese, summer sausage, etc...around, and just make myself eat something every couple of hours. I avoid fast food as much as possible, and when I do eat it, I order a kid's meal to help with portion control. When I sit down to a regular meal, I always take 1/2 of what I think I want, wait about 20 min., and then judge if I NEED more or not. The other big key is water...AT LEAST 8 servings a day, and more is better. NO regular pop. The fact that you are already in the habit of walking is great as well. Keep doing that, but maybe use a timer and try to go a little farther each day within your 30 min. That will increase your pace without taking more time. I hope this helps. I know how frustrating it is to try and do work and school at the same time, and still struggle to find time for housework and taking care of yourself...which always seems to end up the lowest priority. :)
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Please stop yourself before you make any serious, life-altering decisions. Once you develop an eating disorder, it is likely that you will struggle with it the rest of your life. I am on the road to recovering from anorexia. Believe me, it is not as glamorous as you may think. I am 5'5 and at my worst I was 76 pounds. It is an absolutely horrible thing to endure. Please, e-mail me if you need someone to talk to. sophiebear2002@yahoo.com
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(5'5" - 112 lbs)\nIf I'm thirsty I only drink water (NO SODA), and only one glass of milk in the morning.. But that's only because I don't like milk.  Milk is nutritious, but one shouldnt over-drink it, maybe two to three glasses a day at the most.  \nUm.. recently I've been taking up the habit of just taking a walk with my iPod whenever I'm bored instead of lounging on the sofa watching stupid chicks whine on MTV or slumped on a bench thinking about how boring some of my.. not-that-close friends can get =X\nHm.. I don't eat meat in large proportions, but I freakin' love my carbs.  Carbs keep me feeling full just enough so I won't snack, but it doesn't make me feel bloated and greasy the way a steak does. \nI try not to eat candy too much, I hardly ever buy it.. which is really hard when like every other kid in my high school is selling bars for fundraisers.  Only every now and then I get tempted when they offer me a discount =X I don't eat sugary, artificial fruit flavored candies that make my teeth feel icky, but I don't think I could ever give up dark chocolate (or milk chocolate with something in it).  I have a sweet tooth.. fruit makes me so happy =X\nI also practice pilates for about 20-30 minutes before I go to sleep on most nights unless I'm too tired, and once a week I practice techniques from my old dance class.  ..It's hard dance stuff, like.. (I never got my splits down, I'm really bad at it, but) different kinds of kicks (front, front and backwards, side, and circles), cartwheels, handstands, a type of jump-kick, back-bends, and.. exercises like that to keep my blood pumping because usually I'm just sitting in a chair.. on the comp, on the piano, on the guitar, at school.. all the time.\nMy last haircut looks really shitty, and I'd go fix it, but I'm trying to hold on to a pact I made myself.  I want to let my hair grow out until it's just long enough to donate to cancer, and then I'm going to shave it Natalie Portman-short (God I love her..) and donate it.\n\n.. =X
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I am seriously not going to sit here and tell you how to run your life but it is dangerous.  If being anorexic really makes you proud and happy then by all means, I am not the person to tell you any differently.  As far as finding a website to help you in your quest for self-destruction.  No I do not know of any.  I am sorry I cannot be more help in that department.  However what I can tell you is that my sister suffered from anorexia for a very long time.  She went through spells where she wouldnt eat and then she went through spells where she "purged."  She was extremely unhealthy looking and she was just unhappy all around.  I think that there's always a reason why people are anorexic and it's not always due to the fact that they think they are fat!  It's truly an obsessive thing.  There is a plethera of medications out now to help treat Obsessive disorders.  Maybe you should try one of those so you don't end up getting disgustingly skinny.  I wish you the best of luck in whichever route you choose!  If you ever need someone to talk to...I will listen!
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I too have had that problem.  I am addicted to food like an alcoholic is addicted to booze.  It is my drug and I can't diet for more than 6 weeks it seems.  I go to Overeaters Anonymous. I never wanted to as I was overweight and embarassed enough over feeling like a pig with no willpower... but it WORKED!! and there are tons of other women in there and we all agree that the name sucks but the program (which is 100% free) works.  Many alcoholics go to AA and get better.  This is the exact same thing.  You are an addict and there is help out there and no one wants  your money.  Good luck to you I feel your pain but I have lost a lot of weight and am so happy I found this.  It also did help me with the rest of my lifes problems too and I made lots of friends who go through it with me and I have a sponsor.  I now am glad that  I have an eating disorder cuz i am so much happier now.\n Let me know how you do!  Jakietye@yahoo.com
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I read some answers on the board.... It's not an eating problem, it's a depression problem. Everybody deals with it differently. Some people eat a lot. Some people can't sleep, or they sleep too much. It's about chemical imbalances in the brain, whether heretitary or brought on by stress. Talk to a therapist or even someone close to you. Don't go on a binge of junk food...that's not healthy. Slowly increase your meals, and excersize to keep your mind from thinking about whatever made yo depressed. Or write/type it out in a journal to clear yor head. You'll feel a whole lot better :)
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i had anorexia for five years, im not saying that you are but a lot of it sounds the same as me. when people are trying to help me i wouldnt let them in i didnt want them to take away the one thing that i had control of (My weight)  its only after i let people in to help me and it was hard that i realised how badly i have damaged myself. i have a lot of problems now from my skin and hair to my digestion and liver.... im sure you have a lot of people arouind you that love you a lot please please please ask them for help. its been 2 years now and im so much better!\ngood luck
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hun listen im right hear with you. like right now im doing the same thing and feeling the same way. but i think im a little a head of you. see im 15, i got cought doing it. and well snow ball from there. alot of people will tell you just to stop and stop feeling like you need to. but hun guess what its a mental problem. we got it and its there. go talk to your counsolor. have a friend go with you, i did. then they will have you make an app. with your family doctor and you will get checked out. weighted and talked to by him or her. from what the doctor thinks some different things can happen, you will go to rehad (most likely not if you get help now) you will get a theropys that what i got. or they will put you on meds. also what i got. you need to be willing to be honest trust me thats hard i know. but i have already lost trust of many for lieing about. but believe me it will get worse if not fixed soon.
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Please read this. I know how you feel, Ive been there myself. Sending you away is not the best idea. You should go to a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY and get help. Go to your School's guidence counselor. If she can't help or you don't feel like you can trust her/him, Go to your local health department or free clinic and ask to speak to someone in mental health. This doesnt mean youre crazy or anything to be ashamed of It is a treatable disorder. PLEASE GET HELP ASAP!\n\nIn the mean time to keep yourself from being tempted to cut try rubberband therapy. This is not a cure but it may help you to stop until you can get help. Get some metal free rubberbands, put several on each wrist like bracelets, when something happens that makes you feel like you need to cut grab the bands and pop them over and over till the pain is released. I wouldnt advise this as any other way than a deterrant until you can get help. Cutting is very dangerous and all it takes is one little misjudgement to hit a vital artery and you could bleed to death. Please Don't do it anymore, Please get help. There is hope for you, Keep your head up & Be Blessed!
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Anorexia doesn't happen to normal well-rounded people.  It usually happens to girls between the ages of 16 and 18.  It stems from self-hatred and believe it or not, it's a control issue.  The person loathes themselves for being fat or unloved by others and they feel like they have no control over things in their lives.  I had anorexia when I was between 16 and 18.  I hardly ate anything for 2 years!  I hated myself because I had a terrible alcoholic father that resented having us kids because he couldn't take all his money and gamble with it.  He had to support us.  I think it was my way of getting back at him and being liked by my peers all at the same time.  Don't be afraid to diet.  If you have normal feelings about yourself and have some control in your life, you'll be fine.
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Are you trying to stop? If so, congrats! That's a big first step to take =) Anyways...\n\nFirst, you should research the topic so that you have an idea of what you are dealing with, with some tips on how to deal with it, tell others, and such. It might give you some insight to why you hurt yourself as well. A sight that gives a basic description is  http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/selfinjury.cfm  a good page with some links to other pages depending on what you need is http://teenadvice.about.com/od/cuttingbranding/  I would also suggest the site recoveryourlife.com  it is a site of self harmers, either who are trying to stop, have stopped and trying to keep from going back, or have stopped and want to help others quite. It's got a forum and a chat room. It is a very good site because it doesn't glorify or condone cutting (Such as saying things like "Cutting is awesome" or  "Do you know (celebrity name) cuts? that means its tight!"  or posting pics on the site for others to comment on and such. That doesn't mean the members aren't understand or cruel or whatever. They want to stop the problem, instead of encouraging it). \n\nA good thing to try is professional help. I got a counselor for my self harm issues, and he was understanding and helpful. Most councellors are not judgemental and do there best to help, though a few might not be able to help someone with self harm issues, just because they are not well trained in that area of psychology, but most are cool. He/she will help you uncover why you are hurting yourself, and try to stop the behavior. So i would suggest getting a counselor if possible, they can be a great help.\n\nAnother thing to do is to tell someone you love about this issue (if you haven't already). Self harming is a very hard thing to stop, much harder if you don't have someone helping you. Not trying to discourage you, it's just if you have someone helping and encouraging you along the way it is "easier" for you to quit. Tell someone you can trust and that won't judge you, and will listen to you. If you want to tell someone, here is a tip that will hopefully make it easier. (This is meant to be used in telling your parents, but it should work for anything really). You should write out a letter, explaining about the cutting, why you do it (if you know), some information about it (so that they can have an idea of what's going on), your point of view, etc... This allows you to get all of the things you want to get out out, so that you don't end up forgetting something if you tell someone straight forward. You can either give the letter to the person (or leave it somewhere they can find it), or use it as a guide to tell the person(s) directly. \n\nAlso, there are some tips to stop the urges to self harm. Here are a few:\n\n*Draw in red pen on the area where you usually cut yourself. *just ignore it and move on. ALL urges will pass in time, you just have to distract yourself until they do \n*Do something relaxing when you are stressed, take a warm bath, do a soduko, read a book, cross-stitch (that works for me) whatever makes you relax\n*Write in a journal how you feel when you want to hurt yourself, get your feelings out\n*Listen to music that either: 1. calms you down, makes you happy 2. music that talks about how you are feeling, like hurt, angry, etc... (be careful with this though, it could actually trigger you if you aren't careful)\n*Talk to anyone, not nessecarily about the cutting, just call up a friend to distract yourself.\n*Hit something (not yourself) like a pillow or something\n*Pray (if you are religious)\n*Just distract yourself in some way. The feelings will pass, you just need to give it time. \n\nThere are many more tips, but these are the ones i can think of off the top of my head. These are tips to deal with the feelings. Now some tips for the pain part. \n\n*Hold ice cubes in your hand. It gives you the pain
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Ive struggled with Anorexia, buelimia, drug addiction, and self harm....I am still alive, so if you need some hope, please contact me, my name is nicole... Recovery09@yahoo.com
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I had this problem. too!\nI really thought it was something with my heart...\nI went to doctor and he said that was just a result on stress and overworking (overstudying)... So, he said that the best thing is just relax and go to the gym to energize there...\nI did that...\nI started to go to the gym: not so often and i didn't work out very much...But, it helped..\nAnd, i started to eat a little less (but i didn't eat too much, just though to let you know :) )...and because of that i begun to feel lighter and all pains gone...\nHope, that will help at least a little bit :)\nHope that nothing serious with you\nTake care
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i recommend a counselor.there are probably issues behind the eating.\naddiction to food is like any other addiction.the sooner u get help the better.
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Hi. I have RP also. I am 35 years old and was diagnosed when I was 22. I had always been nearsighted and struggled with imperfect vision, so when I got the diagnosis - it did not really have an immediate impact on me. Now, however, I am really struggling in so many ways. Of course, there is the obvious - not being able to drive anymore - but there are many other things that have changed for me as well. I feel isolated both physically and emotionally from the rest of the world and I find that it takes so much more effort and determination to do just the normal things. I suffer socially in most situations because I bump into things and people, I trip over people's children - hurting them,  neglect to shake someones hand when it is held out for me (because I can't see it), and cannot often even follow the most mundane activities because visual cues usually guide most activities. I am exhausted from having to explainn all the time, and even though I don't want special attention - I worry that people see me as demanding it if I try to explain too much. As a result, I no longer feel like I am a part of the normal world and I often choose to remove myself from social situations. It is just exhausting, and most days, I don't have the strength to deal with it.\n\nAlso related to the issue of feeling isolated is the way people relate to you once they know you can't see much in front of your nose. I think that although most people are very well intentioned, they cannot help but be over solicitous. They start treating you differently - like something fragile, broken, or they just act afraid to say or do the wrong thing. Sometimes I get the impression that some people are uncomfortable just to even be near me. Maybe they are afraid it is contagious. Another oddity I have found is that I have often felt the pressure to be a spokesperson for blind people - needing to explain to people that, yes, blind people can actually have regular jobs, be married, have children etc. \n\nThose close to me have reacted in differing ways. My husband is very loving and supportive but totally in denial and cannot seem to remember to stop trying to hand me things - holding them out for me to grab. Drives me nuts. To my kids, I am just mom, but I think it frightens them to see me become so dependent. They forget to warn me of stairs, doorways, cars, you name it when we are out together in unfamiliar places. As a result, I am always falling, crashing into things and hurting myself.  Onlookers just think I must be mentally deficient or something. I have a sister in law who won't acknowledge my eye problem. She told me "I don't want to hear about it - there must be something you can do!" She thinks talking about it means I am whining about it. Yet another relative told me that I needed more faith in God to be cured and because I am still losing vision, my faith is not strong enough. Still other relatives open every conversation with "How are your eyes?" as if there is no more to me than my eye problem. I feel like saying, "Fine, how are your bowels?"\n\nI still work, but only marginally. Because we live in a small town, I am pretty much confined to working from home.  I do some contracting work for a news monitoring company but it is very low paying work. In the past, I was a professional with a college degree - now I am barely able to make $400 per month. This is bad for the self esteem.\n\nThe state I live in has special services for people who are visually impaired. They'll set you up with adaptive aids and teach you how to put raised stickers on your stove so you don't overheat the mashed potatoes, but there is nothing anywhere that can teach you how to be a blind person. From A-Z, I need to relearn absolutely everything and there is no resource for that. \n\nAs far as how I am doing - I am angry, frustrated and feeling utterly isolated. There are days when I feel completely useless and there ar
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PLEASE talk to someone like a school counselor or doctor. I have had an eating disorder in the past and it SUCKS! From time to time it comes around again and I have to fight it- and its not easy. There is obviuosly something going on inside your head that is causing you so subconciously not want to eat. Try keeping a journal and writing down all your thoughts surrounding this. It will help and sometimes you will write down your own answer. If you need to talk more to me about this please email me- I will respond. I know all to well the dangers both mental and physical of eating disorders and I would hate to see someone else fall prey to this crap! LOL.