I got the nice guy line.. which sucks.. I'm giving a bit of time 2 weeks.. for space, since she already knows I like her.. I laid it out.. I'm not looking to make drastic changes just a few slight things to make her think..\n\nlooking at something slight I can do to up my points\n\n-a little colonge.. \n- dress a little nicer..\n- be pleasent but not giving her too much attension \n\nany advice .. what works for you..? things that perhaps made you think or maybe even changed your mind bout a man.. \n\nYou can't answer your own question.
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It's a tough one.  But, from a female perspective...don't change your attitude towards her.  Most guys would start acting like a jerk towards her because they're hurt and can't handle the uncomfortable situation that they are now in as her friend.  I think you should just blow it off, don't make a big deal about it.  Act like she was the girl of yesterday, and a friend of today.  She could have been telling the truth or just making up an excuse because she's just not interested or ready for a relationship at the time.  If you show her that our friendship comes first she just may "see the light" and come around.  Or maybe not, and if so, don't sweat it so much-at least you'll still have the friendship, and hope for something more as long as you want a chance.
605520
Well, first just be yourself.  Ask her questions about what it is she likes to do and then try to do it.  We, ladies like for a guy to ask what we like and don't like and stuff like that.  Above of all really listen to what she says and take it all in (the important stuff).  By showing your interest in her that will impress and make her feel good at the same time.
223324
first off that is a chovanstic concept. for one thing any reason is a good enough reason. dont argue that or you will die. i deal with many women on a daily basis and they all do the nice/mean thing. its nature. the concept of a downtroden always sweet little thing is fiction. pure and simple. you cant change her to fix her for you. you need to fix yourself in the long run and she will shift for you by her choice if what you seek is there. but if she doesnt seem to change or show intrest dont kill yourself to make the unlikely happen. just if anything surprise her with something that wont scare her. like if you have known her awhile, get her a single of her fave flower or pull her seat out for her if you two sit at the same table or listen to her with eyes and ears and talk or be there to comfort her. do not wait outside her window or get her a dozen roses. its been done. to death. twice. the female concept of best friend is far from the male version. be sensetive, be kind. im not saying go get a poodle and some mauve hair dye. just be a man. and not a guy.
302067
Be yourself. Just be kind.Smile for her. Talk to her. Ask her about the things she likes. If you think she's so beautiful let her know. don't say it in a way that would suggest anything,but let her know truthfully how you feel. Woman like the fact that a man has the courage to talk to her. You never know,she might like you too. Good luck.
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try and do things that will get you near her, join a club, hang out with the same people, join a sport. you must find a reason to talk to her. being a lady i know that women cannot read minds. often i will find out a guy has liked me AFTER the fact and after its too late (like when i'm with someone or no longer live near them). many of the times I also have liked these men. ask a mutual friend about what she likes so that you will have something to talk about. just say something to her!!
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:) I'm not sure I'm like most women, but personally I do love when a guy asks me out... as long as it's in a nice way. If you don't know her, a look at her eyes and a smile when she notices should make her smile back. If she does, then you can come closer and introduce yourself, then start chatting a bit and ask her to have a coffee (if she can't but is interested she will probably offer to exchange numbers). About numbers, here are my "rules": if I'm really interested I will take his number and give him mine -no risk to miss an opportunity-, if I'm not too interested I will just take his -I decide-, if I want to see if he really is interested (and if I am) I will give him mine -let's see if he wil call-.\nNow if you know her already (classmate, for example) you can try to chat with her from time to time and see if you have something in common that could be used: like if you talk about cinema, maybe she will mention a movie she wanted to see. If you want to be direct with a girl I would go for the "I was wondering if you would have time to have a coffee with me one day?". It's still casual, she can decline easily (important!), and again if she really can't but is interested she will offer another solution. Don't do too much, she has to feel she can refuse.\nOn a more general basis, if I see a guy I like I will do the smile-and-bat-my-eyes trick, this is usually enough to encourage the guy to move ahead. If he smiles backs and seems interested but won't move, I will probably offer a coffee myself if there is a possibility  won't see him again (subaway etc.) :)\nAnd about the bf... you're not supposed to know! If she say she has one, just don't say you're not jealous... please! ;) And don't worry, if you act nicely I don't think a girl will reject you roughly. She will probably be flattered: what girls have everyday it's guys making kiss sounds or saying comments about their body, not an actual sentence. That's not that common... ;)
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bring her flowers. girls love it. be yourself, don't seem like you're trying too hard to impress her. i personally love when a guy feels comfortable in his own skin, that makes me relaxed too. be a gentleman, open the doors for her. i think you should pay if this is the first date. you can try holding her hand at the end of the date. good luck.
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On the last date I went on, we were eating at a restaurant and when we got up to leave, my date helped me put my coat on.  He was really good at it!  I made a comment about it and he said that his grandfather had taught him how.  It was a smooth little detail but it was very impressive.\n\nBy the way, in case you're wondering about the trick, he said it's to hold the coat lower than you would think.  This makes sense because it's hard to put your arm up when it's behind you.\n\nThat was a little thing, of course.  What really attracts me to a guy is a positive attitude and if he's willing to just have an open conversation with me.  If I feel like I'm doing all the work to keep the conversation going and on a positive note, that's a turn-off.
259863
Once again the endless limbo.  Shoot and score my friend.  This hardly ends horribly.  Try a little flirting first if she flirts back its definite she has thought about dating you.  Women are very hard to predict.  If you really want to win her over do something romantic, flowers, anything fluffy and cute, or poems.  Whatever works women want to be comfortable make her feel it.  Best of luck and may the elements be with you
582908
The best way to do it is just to do it. I mean be frank. And say I've been noticing you and I think you are a nice guy. I kind of like you, do you wnat to chill sometime? \n\nAnd thats a wrap. If he says no then it shouldn't hurt you because he still should be a nice guy. You just have to wait for another nice guy to come along. It's all apart of life. If he says yes then you just go on with ya life and yall have a nice time.
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Be honest with her.  If you think you came on too strong, take her out to a nice dinner and explain yourself.  Tell her you were so eager to get to know her better you let your heart act instead of listening to your head.  Tell her you want to be something more, but you want to take things at a pace that is comfortable for the both of you.  If its meant to be, it'll be.  Give yourself a little credit, at least you are trying to read your woman's heart.  If she's not interested, then you could do better anyway!  Lots of women out there would love to find a man like you!
317991
Give her time to breath and decide the next course of action. Sometimes we woman are polite about things and need to figure out what to say to a guy. She might be busy too. That's a good sign because she has her own life. Don't rush it.
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It sounds good to me. I would only do it if I KNEW she liked me, though. I almost did a similar thing with this guy I like, but I changed my mind because I wasn't sure how he felt. BE CAREFUL, and plan what you'll do if she doesn't respond the way you want her to!
170436
Am I missing something?  If she is a nice girl and the two of you hit it off, go out with her.  If you don't have anything in common, don't string her along but don't be mean. Either way, be tactful and a gentleman.
195948
how about saying ' hi ' ? and smiling ? you'll surely get a positive response . i mean . come on , who doesn't like a smile or a ' hi ' . or , if you're really interested in her , just ask her out for a sunday brunch or a coffee . she'll adore you for your inhibition-less , un-egoistic approach , unless she's married that is .
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Well if she already knows just go up to her, in a real confident way and say hey how are you ?  just start a conversation about something iteresting and just say after a while lets go out, lets go see a movie or something yeah ??  She will say yes hopefully, if she doesnt then sorry shes not into you.  So either she does or she doesn't.  And that is not attractive either, not having good self esteem, why would you even say that you dont think you are good enough for her ??  Be confident, not self loathing but confident that is very attractive in a man.  So dont even think that you are not good enough for someone.\nGood Luck =)
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Let her go, there are plenty of fish in the sea man. I have been in your position...many times over, go on google and search the essay, "nice guys finish last" read that..and see what u think. She is taking you for granted, ultimately even if u deny it. You dont need a girl to do that for you.