* a girl comes up to you and wants to use u for sex.. u go for it.. u end up moving in together as roomates but never discuss the gf/bf situation and spend occasional nights in each others room. However, you know he is not ready for a relationship..Does that mean he does not have feelings? Is it possible for you not to have feelings after 1 1/2 yrs? Our lease is up next month.. he is moving home to save and I am moving too..what do you think is going to happen.. he will still work in my town but live way far..
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I think that you said you wanted him for sex and that is what happened. he probally kept his feelings out of it on purpose. Time does not matter, however; what does is how you spent your time, when you were together. It is possible for something that started out as LUST to turn into love, but it is very rare. If that is what you want then you should disscuss it with him, but Do not be suprised if he uses you for anything more than what he is already used to, and that is his sex toy. That is what you two were to each other, SEX TOYS. You should never mistake LUST for LOVE.\n\nIt may be better for you to find someone else if you want love, start over and this time have respect for your man, and make sure he has respect for you.\n\nIf you do find another sex toy don't fall in love with him, and don't move in with him either, or it may be hard for you not to fall for him.\n\nIf he knows how you feel don't chsase him, because more than likely he just wants to remain you Fxck buddy. Can you blame him when you were the one who approached him with "Can i use you for sex?" If he had any feelings or any respect for you, they died once THAT question left your lips.\n\nIf he does come to you, it will be because he wants more sex, not a relationship.
599650
hmm 2 questions at once ok. Well 1st off the sex ? it's a big deal when made a big deal. It when wanted brings to ppl together in a special way. There's bonding there. If you dont want to do it then dont. 2nd ? you asked no do not go along with that relationship you dont seem to care about him so why worry about it. Let it go just let him know that you 2 aren't together in any sort of way.
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Question is, do u want to live with him like that?I think it`s pretty painful to hear that the partner says he has no feelings anymore. I`m sure you 2 have talked about it? It`s a pretty tuff question and i don`t think that anyone can give u an answer to that but ur boyfriend. Keep talking with him about it.... I hope everything works out for u
79674
I think it important to assess how you behave in a new relationship. Are you perhaps a bit too full-on? Are you maybe even trying a bit too hard? I have a friend who is in a similar situation to you. She is a great person with a great personality but she has never managed to have a relationship that lasts more than a couple of months. Guys break it off because like your situation they like her but just feel that she's not compatible with them for a relationship. She's got loads of friends, but no boyfriend. this is because she's so outgoing and full-on. She tries hard to impress and guys just feel like they can't relax and get into a proper relationship. Shes a great laugh and really fun to be around but could they talk to her about problems? Could they share a secret with her? Could they just snuggle up with her and not have to have an exciting conversation? No. Just relax in a relationship. Don't be afraid to be a bit vulnerable and girly. let the guy take the lead a bit. Let him try to impress you. good luck.
557014
This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
5473
Not easy to know without knowing him, but probably he does want a non-threatening source of sex. And he probably doesn't want to be alone, and you are like a safety blanket for him. And he probably does have good feelings for you, but doesn't want to make a commitment.\n\nThe question for you is whether you want a relationship like this. Does it meet your needs? Do you want a committed relationship? I doubt you will get it from him.
231133
Well if he wants to have sex with you, he might get kinda fed up eventually, dont you think? Why do you want to keep him but not have sex with him. Sex is part of love. Is he a potential lover or just your sugar daddy or something?
344076
you know, i think every guy is different.  i prefer to look into eachothers eyes when we are laying together, or making out, or whatever.  i feel a real sense of closeness and honesty.  here is the deal...when im in a relationship where i am crazy about a girl, i want to be with her all of the time.  i have had women say "i would just like some time apart" and i have also said that.  every relationship where that was said, either she wasnt into me or i wasnt into her.  i guess the key is...if he says something like he just wants to spend his time with you...but his actions dont show that...he is probably just trying not to hurt your feelings.
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Why would he get a female roommate? Why didn't you move in with him? If you're not into living with a guy, that's cool. he might not think so, though and is looking for some other.
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I have reservations when you say you have "feelings" for this lady? I wonder are these feeling recipricated? Are you getting clear signs that she has feelings for you or are these feelings of yours entirely related to unmet needs of your own? This situation can go one of three ways.....\n(a) If she has feeling for you and is consciously sending out these signals then the relationship may develop into something more.\n(b) If these feeling you have are a result of unmet needs of your own then it is a very dangerous situation and your friendship may be doomed (should you try to take things further).\n(c) If (a) is the case then the relationship may develop but I doubt it will be a sincere and lasting parnership. Why? Because she has only recently committed to a life with someone else. If she is willing to sacrifice that relationship already then she is either selfish or very immature (probably both).\nSorry, just my thoughts.\nMichael
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Ya know it really depends on the type of "relationship" you guys have, some cases yes and some no, it depends on how you express yourself, if you guys have had sex then no i wouldn't think it was about that because duh, you've already done it, but if u havejn't had sex and u've kinda brought it up a few times then it's possible she might think that, just lay it down like it is, tell her u just want to spend time with her and get to know her better on a more personal level, and tell her no it's not that u want to get in her pants and that u guys could even sleep in separate beds (if it's that big of a deal) but either way, i'd go, good luck with tht and just remember, it's all in the way you give hte proposition!
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the fact that he said that when you guys start dating, he wants a sexual relationship shows you that he wants just sex.  Obviously, when he got on the internet, he was looking for someone to have sex with.  If you two guys do have a relationship, just have sex and nothing else and then when you leave in the morning after that night of sex, see if he says...why are you leaving?  If he says that, he may want more, but if not, he just wants sex.\n\nIf he puts up a fight for you to stay at his house, then he does want a real relationship and a lot of sex.  If he doesnt, then he just wants sex...eventually when something happens,you will know what he is thinking really.
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He probably doesn't want to give his new girlfriend the wrong impression about you and his relationship. Yeah, I know, it doesn't make sence, but when we find a girl that we really like, it makes us do things that aren't typically things we'd do. Plus, he's probably out more and simple has let it slip his mind. Don't take it personally, just guys showing interest in one thing at a time.
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A whore is someone who sleeps w/ a whole bunch of people. So, no, you're not a whore. All you guys did was make out. You're reading  too much into it. What happened was:Both of you were feeling vournerable. And both of yall emotions just took over. It's totally natural. Nobody is at fault here. So don't worry about it honey. I mean, think about it. You guys are still friends right? And he probably hasn't even brought it up again right? He might feel like you feel. But it's no big deal.
486144
He is a guy, and if he can get  physical with you without a commitment, he will. Most guys don't need to love a girl or even like her to get physical.  He is using you and you are letting him.
21224
Generally speaking, "moving in together" is a huge step.  And it hardly ever works when a total stranger picks up and moves in to your home "just to move in". If you are questioning what you should do, I think you are getting strange vibes from this guy.  He could be blowing hot air and just saying that he wants to come and see you. But it seems unusual that he's discussing moving in with you so early in your acquaintance.  If I were you I would let him know exactly how you feel. And if it comes down to it, I'd stop talking to him.
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Either he wants to continue having sex with you or he wants to be in a relationship but either way  his timing was a little off. See if he treats you like a girlfriend (phone calls during the day/night, coming over to see you,dinners etc) good luck