Before answering,let me tell you this. I was talking to a friend who's from a country where it's the normality. And I asked her why it was like this.She went on to tell me that the man can have 4 wives.One cooks,one watches the kids,one cleans and works on the farm,and one works outside the home with the husband.
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Ask they how they would feel if the Western World said "yes" but it had to apply both ways?\n\nI suspect that might not be as acceptable :-)\n\nBasically folks should follow their own paths - most versions of polygamy that I have seen described are one-way both in gender and in the purpose of it (the 4 wives description above is quite telling).
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Our cultures are so different. Do you have prearranged marriages? I would like to learn more about your customs. \nI hope that our counteries can come together and get rid of terroists. How do you find a girlfriend?
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You should have as many children as you can afford, both with your health and money.  I know of families with 12 children and they are great.  I have seen families with 1 or 2 and there is a lot of selfishness with them.  \n\nMy magic number is 10, but if it would be more, then that would be great too.  I know I could afford it.  I just need a wife who would also go along with it, and of course we would work together on everything.
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I have a hard time understanding this kind of thing...men not helping around the house. BEFORE my husband and I were married, I told him I wanted us to be EQUAL partners. That meant, we'd both work, we'd both do housework, and we'd both pay the bills and raise the kids TOGETHER. I didn't want him to HELP. I wanted him to SHARE the responsibilities. He agreed, so I married him. Yes, I do a bit more housework, but he does a bit more working outside the house, and we do share the childcare. You need to sit down and TALK to him.  It goes like this: "I want us to start sharing more of the work. I am getting exhausted doing all the housework myself. If you don't want to do your 50%, then YOU need to hire me a cleaning service. It's your choice."
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Your situation is not unique. I lived with a woman freind of mine whose partner had been married twice both times for 10 years and had kids by both men.   They had a few lesbian friends who were in similar situation.  Married young and came out afterward.  Glad you found out early.
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i know far more unhappy married men than happy married men.  i do know some happy married guys though - and there's no rhyme or reason to which guys end up happy and which don't.  it seems pretty random.
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It is easier to have one woman married to two men that way you share the pms...\nit is against the law in most countries to marry more than one person with out divorcing the first
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Dear SellCar,\n\ni really hope you got a good reason behind those questions, anyways ill answer your question.\n\ni read some strange answer above ;(, so i hope i can make it clear \n\n\nOfcourse every woman hates polygamy, God created woman to hate anyone that shares her love, but in Holy Quran it says and made it clear for men that they should not take more than one wife unless they have their reasons, like for example some wives dont have the ability to be pregnant, its no body's fault of course but as a man everyone likes to be a father, therefore he can marry another wife.\n\nanother reason for men might be that some men need more than one woman and he is not getting enough, therefore he could make sin with other woman which is bad for Islam teachings and social life and reputation, or he can marry another woman that will give him more pleasure and in the same time he is not making any sin.\n\nMoreover, if you now make a study you will find that number of men is much more less than number of women in the world, years ago in Germany they where surprised to find that 1 man is being borned for every 4 women!!\n\nfor a reason that no one knows except God he knew that this will be the case, therefore he authorised to have more than wife, or else we will have more than half of the woman not married for the rest of their lives.(speaking about Islam societies only, western countires men and woman stays with no marriage usually for the rest of their lives)\n\nGod authorised polygamy for more better reasons ofcourse, but i only know these.\n\nand of course there is no polygamy for men in Islam ;), because at that stage we cant know who is son or daughter of whom.\n\nand for a man being with a legal woman is ofcourse much better than being with a new woman everyday or month ;(\n\nIslam makes a great social life by its teachings.\n\n============\n\ni really dont know the exact age of Muhammad(PBUH) when he married Aisha, but i think in 40's.\n\nGod didnt authorise for muslims to marry more than four wives and in a certain conditions, but for messenger of God (Muhmmad PBUH) he authorised for him to marry more, i do know one reason now for this is that Mohammad(PBUH) wanted to make links with the arab tribes across arabia to spread Islam, and as a messenger of God marrying one of the women in a tribe it was a very good impression to make for those tribes, which later he made friendship with them and they followed Islam teachings, therefore marrying more than one wife helped the spread of Islam at that time, and it made for Islam a good base in Arabia.
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I am not actually quite convinced that being widows and orphans are the right reason to marry them in order to save them from their sad predicament. This is quite an illogical reason to  justify multimarraige or polygamy. During wars, we cannot expect only about 20 or 50 or a hundred widows and orphans? There will be thousands. So, it's just beyond my comprehension that if it was really the reason, then why only chose 6 or twelve and leave the rest.  In my own honest opinion,  help can always be extended to these people without the benefit of marraige because making someone your wife is not a prerequisite to an act of extending help or assistance. That makes some of them fortunate than those who were not chosen or never had the chance to be chosen. Meaning there will always remain grieving widows and orphans. So if widows and orphans are the main concern of those who survive wars, then all of them should be given equal treatment and not only the selected few.  Doesn't this logic satisfy or justify the act more than reason?
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You are probably Muslim or African I suppose and it may be allowed in your culture to marry more than one wife. I have never believed that a man can ever love two women equally and that in itself brings jealousies and endless bickering.   It is always a tricky situation and there is bound to be tension and friction throughout if you do decide to marry a second wife.  Even if your current wife agrees to the idea, I am sure it will affect her negatively and may even send her to her grave earlier.  Why not just support her and give her all the love she needs to heal, or at least die gracefully?  Then you can marry as a widower with no remorse.  You do not want to try something only to divorce one of them because it is not working, and it might give you more stress and heartache trying to juggle conflicting demands.  There is a saying that two women can never share the same kitchen.
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Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is polygamy allowed in Islam?\n\nAnswer:\n\nDefinition of Polygamy\n\n1.  Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited.\n\nNow coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?\n\n\n2.  The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,"marry only one".\n\n\nThe Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.\n\nMany Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives.\n\nIn earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.\n\nPolygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (95% C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.\n\n\n3.  Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims\n\n\nThe report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures. \n\nLet us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.\n\n\n4.   Qur’an permits limited polygyny\n\n\nAs I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an: \n\n"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."\n\n                                  [Al-Qur’an 4:3]\n\nBefore the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them. \n\nIn the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:\n\n"Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women...."\n\n                                 [Al-Qur’an 4:129]\n\nTherefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception
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I think that you may have miss spelled that word. Did you mean polygamous? I am not sure how many and I know that it is defiantely not for me. However, even though it is illegal there are some out there that choose this lifestyle.
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1, 2, and 3 are just ridiculous.  razors??  LOL, whatever.  Men CAN marry 4 women, but they need the first wife's permission and are told it's better to marry just one since men by their very nature have a hard time being fair and just with just one.  4, I have been to islamic countries.  you are sadly misinformed.  My nephews and nieces there have regular schoolbooks, and study the Quran for only an hour a day in their home when an Imam comes to teach them how to read arabic.  5, all of this is against islam.  Whipping is commanded for adulterors only, and that's it.  6, internet is all over the islamic countries too.  internet wasn't even INVENTED in those days, so there can't be any issue with it.  It's also a great educational tool and many of those same people can get an education online.  7, again you are sadly misinformed.  They have everything we have.  My father in law has a toyota corolla with all leather interior and little pillows on each headrest both in front and back.  Not to mention a great AC system.  8, doctors and other people of those fields are used over there, too.  What, do you think they don't have hospitals?  Of course they do, otherwise who else would have cured my daughter of Yellow Fever?  We went into the hospital, and across from where the maternity ward is, there was the children's area.  The doc sat down on stool, examined her, and gave her two injections.  One was an antimalaria and one was an antibiotic.  They have EVERYTHING we have.  You name it, they have it.  They are not so backwards as you would like to believe.  Don't let the medai spoon feed you that garbage.  Get a brain and use it.  My God.
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Makes me wonder if the guys who are in favor of it would be in favor of sharing their Wives with other men as well.\n\nAfterall it should go both ways.\nSomehow I am doubting the guys would be in favor of that :)
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I want a big family. I grew up with 5 brothers and sisters and it was always an amazing expirience growing up. I always had a best friend at home, it was never boring, we all got along fine, and our parents always had enough time to spend with each of us. There are so many lessons you can learn from living with a large group of people.
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I am in the same boat as you.  My husband thinks I'm crazy.  I love it.  He would be one of the ones asking, "On average how many times do married couples do it."  I say who cares about average, man... Let's just do it. \n\n To answer your question...  They say it does.  But I'm sure everyone is different.
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As a man, there are different times that I am looking for different things from a wife.  Women often complain that they have to wear so many hats (Lover, Friend, Mother, Housekeeper, etc.), and some ladies are better at one of those then the others...I think a man would be looking to marry one woman who enjoys caring for kids, another who is a "career driven" type, one who he can enjoy quiet walks and "grow old" with, etc.  And when one isn't "in the mood" he can usually find someone who is\n\nBTW - Most polygamist wives prefer NOT to sleep with their husbands, and I know two polygamist familes (well..officially married to one woman, but has several "live in" ladies) and the wives draw straws - the loser with the short straw *has to* sleep with him if he's in the mood.\n\nPersonally, I don't feel "called to that lifestyle" but I can't deny that I am interested in other women.  It human nature - otherwise Affairs would be pretty rare