my friend is gay, most of the girls in our know he is gay, but he won't come out? is it becoz he is afriad of the guys not liking him, coz he kinda only hangs out with my bunch of friends who are all girls.
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That could be the reason he isn't coming out, because he is afraid or cautious about what people might say or do. I personally don't flaunt the fact that I'm gay, because it isn't so widely accepted in some areas. Just be supportive of his decision, and he will come out if he wants to.
626957
You probably do love him. He's your friend and you can't help but love a true friend. Have you talked to him about it? You can always talk to a friend. Has he dated in the past? Have you thought that maybe he is into guys? Gay guys do make the best of friends for girls, they do hide in the closet for a while, and they'd be more likely to send you a gift than a straight guy would. Maybe you two should just stay friends for now, and get to know him a lot better. The more you know about him personally, the easier it will be to tell what his feelings are.
450232
Feel the situation out.  Do you know how he feels about gay people?  In the right time and place you will be able to tell him you are and how you have felt.  If he is not gay then you can't change him, don't try it won't work and do'nt push it.  Many straight people have gay friends.
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I have a friend who is gay.He grew up being my brothers' friend.We were always together,people thought we were a couple.This went on for years.Then one night he tried to commit suicide.Thank God he called someone to help him.He said he thought it would be best if he killed himself because he was afraid we would not accept him anymore.Boy was he wrong!We did not not shun him.He was & is still part of the family.We don't treat him any different now.We never will.I know that a lot of people say homosexuality is a sin.But it isn't my place or anyone else's to judge you or any other gay person.I know my friend is alot happier now that he is not secretive about his sexual prefferences.I have called my friend but he has not returned any of my calls,but i know he is fine because his mother has told me.Whatever his reason for not calling me,is his choice.Maybe i was just in his life for a season.Who knows?I still consider him my friend.I know he is Happy with his partner,so i am not worried about his well being.I would never turn my friends away,no matter what.Well unless they did harm to my family.That is a different thing.Anyway,this is just who i am.Be Blessed! Monica
161867
I don't understand that either.  Is he attracted to ever girl he meets? no.  So what makes him think that a gay guy is going to be attracted to every guy he meets?  Tell him to stop flattering himself; he's not that hot! :P
99879
You know that there is an unwritten rule between friends, if your friend likes someone and they like YOU, you need to stay away. Great friends are hard to come by but guys are a dime a dozen!! Besides you mentioned that he was short so obviously it's a problem with you and why would you risk a friendship for someone your not really attracted to anyway?
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Well I'm one of those fags (bundle of sticks)!!  The girl sounds awesome by the way, and I just want to ask you (since your obviously an expert when it comes to woman...so not!) do you know the real reason why straight girls associate with gay men?  They know that a real man is secure in his manhood to not get hung up on the whole "who she hangs out with" concept.  That may however be to hard for your pea size intelect to wrap around so looks like there is just no hope for you.  This girl is just way to much of a woman for you to handle so I would just leave her to the professionals, and step aside cause your a being a road block.
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tell him its in the past and he should at least try to get over it. its ok to be gay, people are all different and theres nothing wrong with  a guy liking a guy. But did he want to be gay because of his x girl? maybe, since u say hes cute and nice, he should let that girl go and find someone better, someone who doesnt make fun of a pimple! obviously she wasn't the right on for him!
67884
In this situation you should probably try spending some quality time with the person sooner or later it will become totally clear of their sexuality and you never know if they are they may come out and ask you first, either that or talk to a mutual friend if there is one available, and try to get the dish on what they are into, basically the same thing you would do if you were straight, nothing really has to be different. The worst that could happen is that he says no but it is best to be true to yourself :-))!!!
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he is afraid, and well he should be, to come out fully. Leave it alone, don't bring it up, and certainly do not tell anyone else what he has said. He confided in you and it is a secret between you. He will find himself in time, but right now, if he is gay, he is very lonely, feels like the odd ball in a sea of people who are not gay. IT is NOT a nice feeling. IF it were to get out that he is gay, others will pick on him and make his life miserable. IT is a fact that suicide rates in Gay male teens is 5 times higher than the rest of teen males...a difficult time as it is, but being Gay make it much harder ... Good luck
544911
You should try everything once.  You might like it.  And you're friend lost his self respect because he's obviously not comfortable with his sexuality.  Get over it, it won't make you gay.
247329
You might feel like you're on a date, but that's just because you're straight.  He doesn't feel that way at all.  I had this one friend and I didn't think that I was leading her on or whatever and she KNEW I was gay, but she said that it was unfair of me to play with her like that and act like I was into her.  I wasn't GIVING her signals or anything though.  If he really wants you, let him come to you, you don't wanna lose a friendship just because you think you could convert him.  Things would just be WEIRD between the two of you.
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You are a guy, and he is a guy, right?  Makin sure I understand the question.  True friends are the BOMB, but if you are a guy and not gay, then just tell him like it is - you like women, you love him as a friend, but ya just don't go that way ... if he's a true friend, he'll understand and won't hold it against you.  You've been brave and strong enough to be his friend - even though he's gay and you're not ... if I'm getting this right - you've gotta be true to yourself just as he is true to himself.  Just put it out on the table the way it is ... the truth is always the best policy.  You might tell him if you were gay, he would be the first one you'd come to, but you're not.  He'll appreciate your honesty I think, and you will be closer friends for it.  And if I'm wrong and you're a female with a gay best friend - they are good friends, and I've found, real, honest, down-to-earth people, so....same advice.
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If a man is feminine it does not necessarily make him gay. It is dangerous and inappropriate to label people without knowing the facts. Whether he is gay or straight is his business, and not that of everyone else. The fact  that he has never dated doesn't make him gay. It sounds like everyone else needs to mind their own business and quit making assumptions about things which do not concern them. \n\nIn regards to your friends assumptions, I suspect they know little about sexuality and what brings it about. This is a question that has been plaguing scientists for a very long time. As yet there is no answer, therefore whether it is a choice or not is irrelevant. My best advice is to let him come out in his own time, that is if he is gay.
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Cookie, I know what your talking about. And I believe that the coming out experience for some people are much different than for others.  Perhaps for some it was hard for them to be accepted at home, so they are out in public. Some actually hid for so many years that coming out is like a rebirth to them and their excited and it's like a new life for them. They can finally be free and not enslaved by being closeted any longer.  I don't think that some homosexuals really care who we think they have sex with. They know that straight people have questions and some are very helpful in answering our questions. Yes I am straight. But I have a gay son.  And I also have a straight son, that equals two great kids! What I can tell you is that it is a process that a family goes through. There are different stages that a gay person and their family goes through. And this is evident in their behavior when they become relaxed and can be themselves. I hope this helped abit. I am a PFLAG Mom. Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. If you had more questions you can email PFLAG and they will be more than happy to answer your question.
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If you come out, it should be about you, not your friend. You could mention to your friend that you might be gay, but dont be trying to 'convert' him. You are either born gay or you are born straight.
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Talking it over with close friends.  Eventually, a person accepts his or her sexual orientation, self-identifies with others like that, and notes who (or what) he or she is to a close friend.  I think the fact that this one longterm friend had actually come out to me some months beforehand also helped. It's a safety issue, I think. It was like a weight being lifted from my shoulders when I came out to him and said, "this" is what am.  It also answered questions regarding stress throughout my life.