Why can't I seem to get a guy under age 45 to ask me out? I am beautiful, run a business, have my masters, am athletic and I have traveled the world yet I cannot seem to find a guy. I don't think I am to picky since I just want him to be single, have a job and not already have kid or if he does want to have more. Why is it that guys just don't ask me out? Do men get intimidated by women that look good and are successful? How do I show them I am only human and I don't bit unless asked?
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You want my honest opinion regarding this . . . generally . . . weak men . . . yes they are intimidated by you . . . but I am not.  So I will tell you the truth . . . and sometimes it hurts.\n\nDo you want to know why?  Partially it is ego (his) and your attitude.\n\nReason one . . . his ego.  Men have a preconscieved idea . . . that the man should be the primary wage earner.  Some feel less than a man when his woman makes more money than he does.  Psychology Today did an analysis about 18 months ago . . . regarding this . . . (I could be wrong on the time frame).\n\nReason two . . . your attitude . . . you say you are not picky . . . don't lie . . . you are.  If you weren't . . . you wouldn't care if he was single or divorce or widowed . . . and with your request . . . must have a job.\n\nPlus, you have to brag about your intellect.  Masters degree . . . I may not have a masters . . . but I am degreed.  You travel the world . . . most men . . . barely travel . . . unless it is for work . . . like me.  Also you claim to be beautiful . . . believe me . . . I don't believe you.  People I have met that claimed to be beautiful are not . . . me I never claim to be something I am not.  You are intimidating men . . . with your attitude and actions and these men think that you are beyond their league or they may think that you are just a b****.\n\nYou want to know how to get men to ask you out . . . stop bragging about yourself . . . and be your f***ing self.  Go out and have a good time . . . do not look for a relationship.  If you are attractive . . . men will come to you . . . or you may need to go to them.  Buy them a drink for a change . . . be a human and not a Master Degree princess who travels the world.  Plus how old are you . . . I have no idea . . . but it sound like you are looking for a boy toy anyways.
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Congrats. You've made a wise decision.  He can take you anywhere on a date, except bars unless you have a good fake - that will depend on what he is into.  Older men find insecurity annoying.  Mostly I think as men age they are looking for a person to just be themselves because they spent their twenties playing head games with their partners.  After awhile you get sick of the B.S.  The more down to earth you are the better.  If you like him - tell him - be upfront with your feelings - don't play childish games or he will tire of you. Remember to show an interest in what he likes to do - don't be too into yourself.  Also, everyone loves a sense of humour so if you have one let it shine. Good luck.
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I find that most people in our age group are looking for mister goodlooking, I am over 40 and I met the most wonderful man, without really expecting it at 39, at first he was a friend, then it became more, He was a neighbor and we took our time.\n Physically, he was someone I thought I would never consider\nbut after I took the the time to look at his heart, I realized I,d never been loved, or felt love, so much.\n   My friends that are looking for the goodlooking guy, thats going to sweep them off thier feet, are still single.\n  take the time to notice the positive attitudes and the interest in you and you'll know when that person is right for you.
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I would go up to the guy and ask him out.  He probably will say yes, since he said you were beautiful.  Just ask him out\nwomen can ask guys out too.  Don't think him leaving has anything to do with him not asking you out.  He probably didn't ask you out because he thought he wasn't your cup of tea. ha. brit humor
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you are matured. better to search a man above you age or minimum equal to your age. Otherwise you will have tough time in the future. cancell his cell phone number. dont response, gently communicate him about your studies to be finished or your parents are not interested. when you are 50 he will be still in his 37.....you will look so old so he may search for some one.
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No. The older us men get, the younger we tend to date. I am very intersted in a 28 year old, so I am in the same boat, but the age difference is only important if you don't have anything in common. You already have something in common with this person, church, religion, so you are off to a good start. Try to sit next to him in the future or close to him and start up a conversation. If you are already on a talking level with him, ask him what other days (if any) he goes to church, than ask him what he does for a living, by than he will get the idea that you are intersted in a date. More than likely he will ask you out if he is interested.
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Personally, I like a guy to come up to me first, I guess maybe that's because I'm a little shy myself. They say good guys finish last and I guess as the saying is also for girls that is why I am still single myself, but in reality although women may seem attracted to bad boys so to speak I think that all they really want at the end of the day is a nice good guy. Perhaps consider being more forward, I know it feels hard but women will respect you for that. If you're good looking and are really a nice guy then you don't need to worry about a thing, she'll come along soon enough.\nHey, if I had met you myself already I probably would have taken the need for you to ask that question straight out of your mind ;o)\nGood luck, relax and try to have fun out there. x
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Oh!  By older guys, I really though older guys (of course I'm an adult).  I think it's because boys that age lose their minds.  It's the time in their lives when their friends' opinions is the most important.  And they get it worse than us girls do, because they have that ego thing.  The poor things ^_^;\n\nWith older men who try to get my attention, it's still all about the ego.  But they want to feel mre virile.  I get that a lot unfortunately.  I'm a 29-year-old who looks like an 18-yr-old.  I get both types of "boys"--young or old.  UGH!
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i wouldnt ask a guy out ust for fear of beaing rejected, i hate rejection, so if i were in ur situation id play hard to get or get another guy and make him jealous,then he will prolly ask u out.
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No, don't wear skimpy clothes.  I believe modesty is the best way to go. You can still be sexy and be modest.  So the young guys are not giving you much attention?  I am only 28, but maybe the older guys see a maturity level in you that isn't common for someone your age.    Why they think they have a chance, I don't know.  Maybe the younger guys that you say ignore you just aren't ready for someone like you.  Maybe some guys just want a fling and a little fun and are looking for someone who exudes that personality.  Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.
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yes i agree with the other answer ask him or at the very least tell him where you stand,even thought the guy traditionally asks it is the new generation and some guys just dont know how.or also fear rejection..i hate asking people out its tough to know what to say and evryone isnt so easy about whether you sound""nerdy""or not good luck
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I have been a guy since i can remember  and when a girl asked me out I always was very impressed that she was asking me and not me asking her .  For a guy just that is most of the battle Ask very directly like hello hey I would like to know if you would enjoy a nice dinner together or whatever you prefered be blunt with men we dont like the flimsy ones.
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When we are young we are looking for the adventure.  Just you wait, the older we get, the more we learn to apprecaite the inside qualitites and not so much the outside ones.\n\nAt 24, you have a lot of dating ahead of you.\n\nHang in there.\n\nI have a very good male friend that is the nice guy too, so I understand where you are coming from.
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I'm 56 and women your age want to date us guys cause the women your age say younger men are too immature! But it is your choice of what you want out of life? Myself, a women has no age limit for me as long as we are compatible.\nGo for it girl, all you need is self esteem!
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i have never met a guy who looked down upon a woman asking them out. honestly, more woman SHOULD be asking men out instead of leaving all that crap up to us. You see the corny pick up lines out there right? that happens bcuz we've run out of ways to ask you gals out. we're lost. help US. anyhoo, just ask him if he's busy and wants to do something. when he says yes, figure out that something will be. if you can't figure it out, post another question and we'll help you out. we all need our two points.
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I'm assuming you are talking about boys asking out girls your age. The younger you are the more timid boy seem to be.\n\nIt's lack of experience and fear of rejection. You girls can be awfully cruel and boys learn quick that it hurts to get shot down.\n\nThe good news- boys also learn that to "get" a girl they have to actually do more than wait for one to shove her tongue down their throat. They learn to overcome their shyness.\n\nIn the meantime learn the universal code: make eye contact and smile at a guy you want to know better. Compliment him, let him know you think he's attractive. Drop hints a MORON couldn't miss, " Gee I don't have ANY plans this weekend- hope I don't have to just sit around at home. What are YOU doing?"\n\nIt's just fear...hang in there, it gets better.
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Because these guys are older than you, they think that you will automatically worship them. If a guy thinks he can get what he wants by asking, he will ask. Just say no, and mean it. Don't ever give in, like a child, once they know they can get what they want from you by pestering you, they will do that to get what they want. Don't ever let a guy pressure you into something you don't want to do because it is what girls his age do or whatever. Be careful! Hope this helps!