Ok, I have been in love with this guy for 6 months! He is the one person who since my dad left has made me feel whole and happy! He is the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think I think aboout before I go to bed at night! I am always thinking about him, when I'm not think about him- I'm talking about him...and whne I am not thinking about him or talking about him, I am talking TO him!!!!!! I love him so much! But he is mad at me right now because of s*** that he has been hearing but it's not me saying it....It is my sister!!!!!! HELP!!!! What do I do? He won't even talk to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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find out from ur sister what really happened.. send him emails or text msgs to str8ten things out.. try to tlk to him.. and trust me even if he says hez nt listening if u re standing in front of him and u re tlking he is listening hez just acting like he cnt hear. just let him know wat u think about the situation and leave if he stil doesnt budge then my dear u gts to move on cos that means he doesnt even trust you for him to believe u did or said smthing u didnt do or say (assuming u really didnt)
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This sounds a little weird, so I definitely think that you should talk to your guy. Tell him that this is really bothering you and that you don't mean to go crazy on him. If he really cares about your feelings, then he won't just blow you off.
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You are so young & vulnerable! His decision was right to stop communicating w/ you so that you can concentrate in your studies. This person must love you because he  thought your future. If you don't want to get over him, then make him as your inspiration. No one can tell, in the future your roads might cross over again...& that time, you're much prepared & ready...what do you think???
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Listen to your mom.  I know it can be very hard to have feelings for someone, or something, that you just don't have feelings for.  But, in the case of your dad, as long as you give him respect, that will be good enough for now.  It doesn't matter if you love him or not, just go through the motions and see what happens.  One day you will marry and hopefully have children of your own.  You will want to live by example.  What you are doing for your father, even though he may totally not deserve it, will help you be a good teacher to your children. You will feel good about yourself and you won't look back with regret. He may not have been there for you, but you certainly don't ever want to be like him.  And by cutting him off, you would (in a way) be like him.  Don't do that to yourself, your family, or anyone else.  \n\nYou sound like you have a good heart and you want to do what's right.  It won't be easy, but it will pay off in the end.  Also, it's very common for teens to get mad at their parents...especially one who hasn't "been there" for them.  Why your dad didn't work harder on a relationship with you all these years, I don't know.  But my guess is he has treated you the same way he was treated by his own dad while he was growing up.  So I will repeat myself and say "Don't become like your dad."  This type of thing has a tendency to be passed down from generation to generation.  \n\nJust show respect to your dad.  Also, try to do something nice for him.  You may not want to at first, but when you see how he reacts, it will make you feel good.  And do it even if you feel he doesn't deserve it.  He will be happily surprised, and maybe even a feel a little guilty.  Surely he knows you have been upset with him.  Maybe he doesn't know how to make the relationship right. But, since you have a heart to try to work this out, one way or another, you may be the one that gets it back on track. How good you can, and will, feel about doing that.  \n\nGive your dad a second chance and see how he changes. But don't expect it to happen overnight.  After awhile, you will wonder how you ever "didn't love him" and eventually be so thankful that you "do love him."  You will be blessed in more ways than you know if you and your dad work through this.
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I'm not sure I understand...\nIs it the fact that he uses you as a sounding board about his sister that bugs you, or is it the fact that she can get away with things that you cant and he'll still love her?\nRealize that for a lot of people are trained as kids to put family first, and the fact that he cares so much about his sister (regardless of her behavior) says a lot about his character. He sounds like a good guy, and he's probably confused about why you are so upset.\nIf you want to not hear about her anymore, then ask him not to talk about her when you are together, or change the subject when he brings her up. \nYou may also want to figure out why you hate her so much...she doesnt seem to have done anything directly to you, has she?
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Just tell him how you feel.  If things work out, great!  If they do not then stop talking to him every day.  You are clearly not over him and having contact every day is not helping you get over him.
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Honey I'm not sure what to tell ya.  Don't give up on him.  Do you have anyway to contact him?  You should tell him how you feel.  I don't know why he hasn't talked to you in a month.  That concerns me a little.  Like I said, don't think bad, think good.  Hope things work out for you.
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wow sweetie\nyou have gotten yourself in an emotional tangle that you will not get out of unless you make yourself.\nAll you are doing is sitting around getting yourself all worked up about a guy that probably only wants to get his rocks off. Its the sad truth.  Women think on things way too much. when you say you both still love each other he agrees because he knows it is what you want to hear, when all he is thinking about is doing you.\nI don't know you but from the small paragraph you wrote you would seem to have a lot of good qualities that any other (great) man would die for.\nI say Move On Sister!!!\nThis guy seems like a Jerk!
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Aww. I went thru this over the summer break last year. And I'm telling you, fr. female to female, the best thing I did was leave him, and in this case that's what I think you should do. Im not even going to lie, it took alot out of me to leave him! Just like your dude he made me feel bad and yet still I gave him chance after chance cause I thought that he would change and that it was just a phase... Unfortunately, it was'nt a phase, this was the real him. A rough, heartless, mean person that put others down to make him feel better. That's not even the worst of it! I thought he was the one for me SOOO much that I went against my family, ALL FOR HIM! My family turned against me cause they wanted me to not be with him so bad! Back then I didnt understand why they kept on acting like that but now I see. They were just looking out for me. And even though I dont know you, I, looking out for you too because I know how it feels to be where your at right now. It feels as if the whole world has turned against you. And that he's the only one who loves you. (Or at least thats how it felt to me!) Thats not true, after you leave him your eyes will be open again and you'll be able to see who really loves you and those are the people that tried to warn you about him. The best thing you can do is leave him. When I left my boy, at the time I felt like I had made a HUGE mistake, but after I start realizing all the other people in life that is there for me and that have my back thru thick & thin, there was really no point for him being in my life. Boys can only give you so much joy for so little time, but what will you do when that joy turns into pain? Or when he leaves you? Your back to the depressed you again? That's not how it's suppose to be. NEVER let a dude determine how your day is going to be or how you look at the world! You should never even look for happiness in boys, this is kinda old school but, the true happiness lies within yourself. If you feel good about yourself, you wont care what NO ONE thinks about you. See how much you can gain if you leave him? Dont worry ok? The right one for you will come along ok? Dont ever let a dude make you question how much your worth! Im sure your a very sweet person that's just feel into one of the traps that most fall into. It's not your fault. But listen, the best part of breaking up with him is the fact that he WILL want you back! That's what happened to me and he STILL is asking for another chance and what do you think I said? NO! Once he breaks your heart he'll always find another way to do so, so why go thru it? Yeah it makes you stronger but other than that its just causing you great pain. I hope a lesson from my experiences help you! Just remember to stay strong!
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Sounds like you need to talk to him and tell him how u feel and your sorry for not telling him!!
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That is really sad. He is your brother and you cannot encourage whatever it is that is not ''brotherly''  about him. Did your brother tell you that his counsellor said nothing is wrong with him ??? Either he is lying to you, or the counsellor himself needs a bit of counselling. Get him to see someone else, together. Be present with him while counselling. Your brother and you got to know each others existance only in 2001, when you both got to know that you are sister and brother. Which means there were no reasons for him to think otherwise, i assume. That is, you both havent seen each other before you knew that he was your brother or he knew that u were his sister. So the meeting itself started of as a brother-sister meeting....its not like you guys dated, or met each other frequently where he could develop such feelings and its absolutely normal cos' he didnt know he was ur sister...So stop him. Make him understand that you havea  family of your own and that he is your blood relation, own brother, from the same womb. \n\nIf he fails to still respect, threaten him that he will lose a sister and a good freind. When you reach your wits end, just ignore him and shut him away from your life. You have tried your best and you lived without a 'brother' till 2001, so it should not make a difference for you and get bothered too much where there will be heartaches, confusing situations and finally lose each other anyway. Move on. Once he comes in terms with the reality that you are his SISTER, you could maybe open your doors to him..till then keep away..thats what i think !\n\ngood luck!
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Stop listening to your sister and start trusting your own judgement.  If your man is true to you, you'll know it by his own actions.  If you have too many opportunities to be unsure of what he says, that gut feeling is probably right, and if you get to that point, you don't need proof, you just move on.  Someone who makes you wonder repeatedly, isn't giving you what a relationship is supposed to be about. If you have no reason to doubt him, you'll feel that too.  Stay in touch with your sister, but if she's an instigator and frequently negative, tell her you don't want to hear that stuff and if she continues with it, hang up.  You only get one family.  Don't shut your sister out but just don't buy into gossip or games, and learn to trust in your own judgement.  It's usually the best guide.
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Honey, all i can say is.. take some time with him.. not enough soo other girl will become suspecious. Im sorry to say that but, you know you cant do anything about it... like going to him and saying hang out with me more.. or some thing like that.. last thing you want is both them not talking to you.. but i got to say, be happy for him girl!!! if you think he likes her more.. then thats o.k. you just know he  has not forgotten about you girl. He still knows you, not like your out of his life.. he wants to hangout with you too.. just do this.. give him some space for a while.. and things will be ok.. life goes on.. and we cherish the moments we had with another.. i promise you that doll face.. nothing we do or happens to any of us in the world can be changed from our minds.. it is always there which keeps us moving on in life.... having a family.. kids... house.. it never stops.. just be happy you know him now, and that he knows you... try asking him to like hangout with you.... see what he feels about it.. he can choose who he wants to be with.. if things dont go well between you two... dont worry.. cant express that enough.. its not your fault if he makes a decision you dont like..\n\nHope it works out for best of you anne\nSincers\nShawn Miller\nToronto, Ontario
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I feel for you 100%. I know that it's hard not knowing what to say to him. I think that you should tell him that you love him to death and that you can feel it when he's not feeling right himself. Let him know that whatever he has on his mind from day to day, is nothing that bad for him to tell you about. Tell him that you don't want to annoy him by constantly asking him if he's ok, but you cant help it. You see I used to be with someone that would be in such down moods out of no where and I just didn't know what was wrong with him. It killed me b/c I wanted to make him feel better so bad but he just wouldn't speak out how he was feeling inside about things. After a while he finally told me what was wrong and expressed how he felt. He finally told me that the reason as to why he didn't tell me anything and it was b/c he didn't want to bring me down. At fisrt it used to get me mad b/c he kept saying that he didn't want to have me worrying about him. But anyway, just tell him that you love him and that anything that he may be going through, you both are going to go through together b/c you guys are a team. Just give him time to be able to open up. Don't nag him about it. He'll come around when he feels ready to. You guys are gonna be alright. And I most definitely congradulate you 2 guys for sticking together for so long. May you have many more years of happiness!!!!!!\nGOOD LUCK!!!!!
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
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I think the attraction you are feeling is somewhere along the lines of "What could have happened? What did I miss out on?" That's natural. Everyone feels that way.\n\nBut think about this. If you care for him, then let him go. He has a child with his gf that he has been with for 6 years. What could have been? Who knows, but live in the present!\n\nFor one thing, it's wrong for him to keep a secret like this from his current gf. Think of her feelings! That her bf is keeping in contact with his ex behind her back. The father of her child is still talking with his ex, who still has feelings for him. It's just not a good situation. Put yourself in her shoes.\n\nYou will find someone else, someone available! Someone who wants to share their life with you, fight with you, compromise with you, be honest with you, trust you, communicate their thoughts and feelings with you. They are out there, and it isn't this guy!\n\nHe's already showing some signs of untrustworthiness! If he is willing to talk to an ex behind the mother of his child's back, whom he has been with for 6 years, then he's not very trustworthy, is he? He would keep secrets of that nature from you as well!\n\nGet over him. We all have those feelings of "What if I can get what I lost out on?" or "What could have been?" But you need to leave that in the past and live in the present.
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This is natural, but try to see how much you two [current beau] get along; are you very compatible?]  If you still have these feelings for boy number one, talk to him and see how he feels.  It may be easier to ask personal questions since he thinks you are taken.  He may just tell you how he felt and feels now [about you.]  If this works out, test the waters before you get in too deep with the current one.  If it's already too late, then I'd suggest you push #1 out of your head.  Look at him like he's a not-so-likable person or something.  If you want to leave a favorable impression, don't be disloyal to your man.  If you don't give a shi*, go for it.  A piece of shi* is still a piece of shi*.  Just hope you aren't one.  I'm sure you're not, so be true to yourself.  Check it out without doing the nasty.