I could have it every day twice a day while once a month is good enough for him (if im lucky)!  We are only 32 years old for goodness sake. I gym 5 times a week and he is always telling me im hot etc but then apologies that he is just too tired after a days work!!  Help! I do the sexy underwear thing and just love giving oral but still no go.  We have only been married 9 years!!!
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Sweety, I have had this same problem.  I once told my husband a story about a woman who ate an entire chocolate cake and then someone offered her a piece of cake and she refused because she was so full.  But then one day she hadn't had any cake for weeks and someone offered her a piece and even though it wasn't her favorite flavor she took it anyway because she hadn't had any cake for so long.  My husband seemed to understand that I was talking about getting enough sex or the alternative- cheating (which I would never do but there's no reason not to keep him on his toes, right) and now whenever I think it's been too long, I just tell him I'm really hungry for chocolate cake and he usually gets the point.  Best wishes
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Don't worry honey. I know it's not a nice prob2 have but it's not serious. Sometimes it could be stress or distractions.\nDon't let him drink or at least limit it b4 sex as that makes it hard 2 keep it up. encourage him,never let him feel pressured but seek for ways to enjoy yourselves in foreplay and sex. It may take time and patience but this is temporary. as for his age, it doesn't affect it. Some suggest having sex in different surroundings.\nWhen my boyfriend had that problem  i asked a friend of mine(male) to advise me but he said it was stress and so my boyfriend and i switched to early morning sex b4 he would be thinking about problems at work or other things. after a month, he was fine.\nGuys most of all need to know that you think they are the best and sexy. When their confidence is up, they are more likely to stay up. \nso just keep at it, build his faith, don't pressure and have fun. Also try new things.\na practical tip is after or b4 the bj, put his hand on top of urs and let him guide u in how he likes a hand job. This is a real turn on and he will know how to do that.
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Yes, something is wrong.  It doesn't matter how often you actually have sex- every day, every week, every month- as long as both of you feel contented. You are unhappy enough about it to be asking this question, so something is going on that isn't quite right.\n\nI've been in a low sex marriage (sex less than once a month, sometimes no sex for six months + at a time) for years and years and believe me, it isn't going to get better over time.  You'll end up being the "pursuer" sexually and emotionally, as I am with my husband.  Seek outside assistance now, while your relationship is still fresh enough for you both to invest in addressing this issue.  Otherwise you'll end up like me- wondering if you chose the wrong mate, wondering if it's still possible to fix it, wondering if platonic friendship is going to be enough for the next 40 years.
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I can have sex many times, if I don't have an orgasm. I can do it about 7 times a day. My husband caught on & will give me an orgasm before I wear him out. \n\nIf you are having orgasms, then your sex must be fantastic. Your body is most likely just used to having sex all the time, so it becomes almost a necesity.
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As a retired medical professional, I think your friend is doing very well. He must be in good health to be able to keep this up. I hope he is eating healthy. If he has different partners, he should be using protection. Having sex does drain energy at the time but a little rest will make everything better. He might not want to go with someone that is years younger (20's or 30's) that may be a little too active. I am proud of him and for him. I hope this helps.
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Was he like this when you first got married? Has his sex drive dropped or stayed the same? Some men don't have a very active libido. It's usually hormonal.\n\nIf it isn't satisfying to you, try to suggest seeing a medical doctor.\n\nA person's sex drive is an individual thing. But for the record, your husband's does seem rather low for a newlywed guy. I had a friend who's husband was the same. He got help--against his wishes--but it worked.\n\nYou can't compare yourself with other couples, really, but  the average is about 3 times a week. We do it more often because my husband is a horn dog. As he ages, it is lessening though. We've been married for 20 years.
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Just because you don't have sex everyday doesn't mean that theres something wrong with your marriage. If you want the physical enjoyment to last longer, why not start with some forplay. And if he's too tired to do the work then ask him if you could ride him. Also there are books out there that you could look at. And theres plenty of toys and creams out there too. I even seen a swing built just for sex.
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In todays world you don't have to do anything because some men are so into their self that they think any woman would drop anything to do what they want.  You don't need to change anything about yourself, your stricken with that spiteful disease of being in shape and taking care of yourself and probably very attractive.  And sad to say your stuck with some cromagnums around you that put you in a very weird situation.  Even though he is your boss I would still keep your pride and let him know that somethings he does are uncomfortable to you not just because your married but in general.  If he is a real man he will accept that and move on.  Maybe you should have your husband stop in occasionally to pick you up for lunch or something to reiterate to this pin head that your happily married and he doesn't stand a chance lol
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It's possible that it's his attitude that's depressing what sex drive you do have to zero. All that pressure ... it's a BIG turnoff. About your age, I had lived with a guy who was really demanding for like seven years and I was virtually frigid by then. Broke up with the guy (we weren't married), turned thirty and whoopee I'm a sex maniac.... don't lose hope.\n\nI recommend you study your own psyche with respect to your sexuality and the relationship. How do you feel when he pressures you, and why exactly? Books, counseling. Do you remember ever feeling somewhat excited, when you first got together? Don't you enjoy erotica or masturbation? If you don't, you're either kidding yourself to avoid confronting the issues in your marriage relationship, or you might as well learn to fake it.\n\nOf course, I could be totally wrong ... please forgive me if you know that to be so. Just basing this on my own experience.
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Hello Bella, the first year of our marriage we made love about 6 days out of each week. Once our Daughter was born it dropped off quite a bit. Now after 11 years of marriage we still make love 2-3 times per week on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less. It doesn't matter how many times you do it. As long as you BOTH are happy, in love and please each other, everything will be wonderful!\nGood luck
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16 years and NOW it's causing problems?\n\nIs she wanting it less frequently because you want it so much? She is just sick and tired or the incessant demands?\n\nYou both sit down and discuss this.\n\nLet her know that you enjoy the carnal aspect of your marriage and realize that she is uncomfortable with three or four times a day (Don't you have a job?)\n\nSee is she would be amenable to four time a month.\n\nMarriage is give and take. See what you can work out that makes both of you happy,
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I am the husband...but...I think most men are satisfied if he believes you are truly interested in keeping him happy. no matter what you do or how succesful it is. The same would go for him right? As far as sex goes...Men are visual creatures...do things that appeal to his visual senses such as oral sex with your hair puled out of the way or flashing him at unusual times. Go Bra-less maybe. Verbally fantasize with him too. (especially, but not necessarily, if it involves other women. Just be careful to keep it fantasy.Those types of things rarely work out in real life.)
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I'm with you on this one - my husband is the same way. I had to take five years of CONSTANTly telling him how hot he is - make sure he KNOWS how attracted to him you are...jump him...frequently..let him know you only have eyes for him. I mean sadly repetitiveness is the key...it's just like, he can hear it 10000 times, but until HE believe it, it's not going to work.
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Age is only a small factor in a mans sex drive.  At 43 depending upon his job and if there are other factors in life stressing him out he may only have time for sex a couple of nights a week.  On the other hand if life is good and everything is going great he may feel like having sex every day.  At 43 though unless he is in really great shape his body is starting slow down a bit and while he enjoys sex just as much it probably takes more time to get him excited and he probably doesn't recover as fast after.\n\nNow after all that I have to say that your decision to marry him shouldn't be about sex unless there is a major difference in your sex drives.  I think there needs to be some compatibility in sex drives but it shouldn't be even in your top 5 of things to consider when deciding to marry someone.
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Maybe he should try an energy enhancement, like Red Bull. It'll help him get thru the evening without falling asleep on you. You don't believe in masturbating?? I think he's not the one with issues here. I'm sorry, if my hubby couldn't perform for me, after a few days, I have to do something. I have toys, plus do the other stuff. Women have needs, and there's nothing wrong with masturbation, unless you have no idea how to do it....Its perfectly normal and healthy to masturbate!....GL;)
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First, he should wash after sex and use lotion.  Next, some men don't have a high sex drive.  Why do you even bring up cheating on him.  If you really love him this would not even be an option that you'd have thought of.  Yes, you are too young but there are people younger than you married so- give him some space.  Lots of men when they are stressed out have a hard time even thinking about sex.  Communicate!!!!!
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i see what yu mean. but..... i  don't know if you had the same volves. as me , but mine said in  sickness and in health.. just as it says  in  sickness and in    health...  honey, i know it's hard, but   we have to  endure. my husband  has not given me sex   for 20 years because  of a medical  problem. some times i question   that medical  problem but  i   have to live with it. i masterbate to  fulfill. you may have to  too.  it get old. you can only imagine so much.  i  wish  somehow we could met and satisfy each   other. good luck  humming.....you   want   to get in  touch  with me, my email :tootalljones@yahoo.com we can have im sex want to. im is the   same .yahoo IM down load it.