I've always had male friends but I think the only reason my boyfriend accepts my friendship with my best friend (a guy)  is because he's gay. I'm still friends with my ex as well, who is very much straight. He's obviously not comfortable with the friendship. Your thoughts?
209485
the keyword of every relationship is trust.and if u and ur bf have trust faith and commitment towards each other then this os not a prob at all.
324511
I wouldn't be upset myself, but I'm also in the same shoes as you (except we haven't been together as long and I've told him if he didn't like it, he could start walking). Sometimes it is just easier to get along with the opposite sex, I mean if it wasn't, wouldn't we all go homosexual?
623004
I'm having that EXACT same problem right now with a guy I'm hanging out with.\n\nAre you friends with him?  does he call you?  Do you hang out together?  Or are you wanting to know whether or not he is interested in doing these things with you?  Because there is a big difference, at least to me.
474699
Some gay men can be very melodramatic!  I worked with one and although I did not care that he was gay, he was the biggest back stabbing, gossipy person I had ever met.  However, my gay friend is nothing like the guy I worked with.  He is loving, smart and funny.  I have yet to meet a lesbian I didn't like.  They tend to be less stressed about things like looks and relationships unlike heterosexual females.
415807
friendship? let's see... friends and boy/girlfriends are quite similar in lots of ways... coz they both need love, understanding and a little (yeah, little) compatibility to establish them. but i have to say friendship is better than boy/girlfriends.. why? because you don't have to be too loyal to a single friend right? the better the merrier.. in a boy/girlfriend relationship, you are comitted only to a single person and that's why it sucks!\n\nfriendship, in general is when you don't even mind if you are single when you are already 90 years old. friends are given to us for comfort and someone you can joke to without them being insulted...friends never hurt you... friendship is build when you found someone who compromises and complements you in every way. \n\nfriendship is, well,,, friendship... =)
561501
i have straight friends that do that. if he just acts gay around your friends, its most likely to make them laugh. you said he doesn't act like that all the time, so he is most likely not gay. but whatever he is, as long as he is a great person then he should be worthy of friendship.
207527
I think having one best friend of each sex helps. You have to find some one you can trust. I have a best friend who is a girl and she knows everything and is always there for me. I have a best friend who is a guy that I can be comfortable around I don't have to pretend. And if I need guy questions answered he's the one I would go to. So I think both is good.
356233
So what.  Friendship should not have that kind of boundary.  I unfortunately seen what has happened when something like this happened.  My ex-husband always said "I don't know what I would do if he found out one of his friends was gay."  Well back in 84 we found out my brother (his best friend) was gay.  He shut down most of the communication with him, and after we divorced he never spoke to him again.  He threw out a 25+ year friendship over my brothers sexual preferance for no reason.  My brother never came on to him or brought any "dates" around when they were room mates.  Don't throw it out, it hurt my brother till his death 2 years ago to loose a close friend because he was honest.  So what if he is Scots, sexual preferanc is not set by ancestry.  Accept him and let him know that you will still be his friend, also be there for him to talk to, he will have a difficult road and any support even to just listen he will appreciate.  Not only that you will learn more about him (mentally) by doing so.
154562
no. because with guys and girls being friends the sex part usually gets in the way....think about it.... if i have a guy friend for a long enough time an attraction will usually come between us. but with a gay guy you know that will never happen.
634780
How long has he been your friend? I'm sure that if he hasn't tried anything with you yet, he won't. And since he's your friend, he probably knows that you are straight and won't try to put moves on you. It's not like he JUST turned gay, he's still your friend (I hope), accept him for who he is.
347000
He could have been confused and tried denying how he really felt... especially since you both are so close it would almost be natural for him since there's already a connection between the two of you.\n\nI doubt he was leading you on and if he wasn't letting anyone know that he was gay there would almost be no way of you knowing.  He probably feels worse than you do right now and he might even be thinking be that he did lead you on in some way.  \n\nThe only thing I can say is that the longer you wait to talk to him again the more ackward things are going to be.  The sooner you get things out in the open and talk about it, the quicker everything will go back to normal.\n\nI'm bi and I actually had a similar expirience with a friend of mine who was gay.  We use to work together and he was always touchy feely; I assumed maybe he was bi like me... needless to say I was wrong.  (Even though I now know he is as gay as gay can be, he's got this thing with boobs lol, which I guess all guys do.)  \n\nI felt stupid for a long time but I didn't want my misunderstanding to affect things between us.  We talked about it and I realized that it wasn't an option to be his lover but "friends" aren't bad either.  I knew that keeping him as a friend meant I wouldn't lose him and losing him was the last thing that I wanted to happen.\n\nEverything is fine now and we're still really good friends.  Don't think that you're the first girl to fall for a gay guy because that's not true at all.  You get a man with the caring part of a woman... all straight ladies want that!!!  Just talk to him and let him know that no matter what you're going to continue to be there for him just as he will be there for you.
472029
My friend, Ian, is straight and let's me hug and hang on him and I am gay.\n\nHe is the most open minded straight guy I know.  He isn't gay though, he just doesn't care and he likes attention regardless of who it is from.
163417
It doesn't matter if they are male or female, gay or straight...if they are good friends and have been since before he met you, people most often would choose friends over "lovers" if given the ultimatum. After all, who knows them better and who has been there for them. If she is gay then you shoudl have nothing to worry about.
510386
This is probably not what you want to hear, but yes.  I never thought so until I had friends like this.  I have had some of the most amazing guy friends ever!  And they're really good looking, nice, funny, smart...and we just never thought of each other in that way.  It's the most incredible thing...if you have a relationship like this, embrace it.  Getting to know about the opposite sex through friendship is the best way to do it.
206134
hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
230619
My bestfriend was a guy and we started out like you but I was the one in your position.. my friends didnt want me to date him b/c they wanted him. Then one day things clicked and we've been together for two years. I say Screw your friends listen to you.
31900
I got the perfect answer for you. I've been that guy who is best friends with his ex, my girlfriend was so worried. I ended up dumping her, and a week later I asked my best friend (my ex-girlfriend) back out. Of course she said yes. I would have done it ten times out of ten. I'm giving you fair warning, I think that something might happen.