I've been hanging around alot with a guy I know, and I really like him.  I am pretty sure he likes me as well, but he doesnt seem to be real into the dating thing, so i am scared to instigate anything... any suggestions?
206597
when you guys are alone ask him what would you do if i wanted to kiss you and see what he says \nif he says why dont you try and see what happens means he wants to kiss you but is scared to ask you or just to scared to do it
128841
Keen as you both may be I think you are both nervous about putting yourself out there... it is scary to say how you feel with no guarantee about how the other feels, and he may be feeling the same.\n\nI would say try not to rush it... try to find things that you can do together as friends... things that include groups of others... then a few others... then a couple of others.\n\nYou dont have to tell someone that you like them... they say actions speak louder than words!\nSo smile at him a lot, send him a cute card when you get a chance, buy him a small easter egg, if he likes a particular group then look up info about them online and learn a bit about them so you can share his enthusiasm...\nit is the little things that make the biggest impact.\n\nOnce both of you are comfortable together... and you are both fairly confident of each others feelings towards each other, nature will probably take over.\n\nGood luck!
51339
I think that he likes you, but afraid of rejection from you or he is not ready for commitment yet.....so just wait and see.
273675
Before   you  get  involved  with  this  guy,  do  what  any  reasonable   person  would  do. Weigh   the  PROS  and   CONS of  getting  involved  with  him. This  guy is   supposed  to   make  you  happy  not  drown   you  in   worry so  do   what's  best  for  you .Liking  him  is   not  a  bad  thing  all  I'm  saying  is , don't  put  yourself  on  the  line because  of  this.
458673
well if you guys talked before i wouldnt be so afraid to come out and take the first step, try texting him and see what hes doing over the weekend you dont have to come out and "ask him out" just see what hes doing get him talking to you again and see what happends thats  my advice
451205
i know this is gonna sound easier said then done.. but tell him that. if from talking you feel he's into you..ask him if he feels like more could come out of this then just a hook-up. if he feels the same way then great! and if not, well then you can move on or just keep it a random hook up. but seriously talk to him about it because you don't wanna have to end up wondering, "what if i said something?" because if you wait too long it might be too late. and the worst that can happen is him say that he doesn't want a relationship - but he's obviously into you if you guys hooked up
401018
i learned never to put yourself down because of an event that happen with a guy...you are who you are and he may or may not feel the same...he may be shy...or think your friends are lieing...it really depends on the situation...just go with the flow..dont act different around him,maybe talk to him some more, you make the move...
190755
All I can say is don't be afraid. If you are, overcome it by spending more time with him directly (like studying with him) or indirectly (like hanging out with him and his friends) etc... get to know him better, let him get to know you better and move on from there.\n\nIf you aren't afraid, then what are you waiting for? Just invite him to a party or something. If he likes you and wants to take it a level higher, he'll make it clear.\n\nGood luck!
426647
I've been in his shoes. The best thing to do is to let him down gently and don't let him think that there's any chance. That sounds difficult, I'm sure it is. \nTry this: "I really just like you as a friend and I don't see us as anything more. I'm sorry." \nIf he asks if there's ever a chance, tell him probably not. \nHe's in a really vulnerable position right now, but he'll appreciate being let down right away rather than dealing with someone who's afraid to hurt anyone's feelings. \nDon't feel guilty...that's just the way it is.\nChances are he'll be hurt and your friendship won't be the same ever again...but that's why they call it taking a risk.\nDon't use the "you're younger" excuse, in my opinion, I would just use the "it's not you, it's me" thing. And he won't like that, he'll probably eventually not want to talk to you for awhile, but that's the way it goes. \nI'm just being honest.\nP.S.- The "jeopardizing the friendship" thing is generally looked at by guys as weak and a cover to the real reason you won't date him....my advice is to not use it.
317176
I have been in that situation before. Don't tell him yet. Give him small hints that you like him, but not obvious ones. Don't give all your hints at the same time.
54217
i know exactly where you are coming from.  remember, us guys like girlfriends.  for the longest time i was in the same situation as you (up until a few months ago).  i never did get the courage - she told my friend who told me.  if you really think you cant ask him with the fear of rejection you could ask a friend of him and you to ask him casualy if he would go out with you.  hope i helped - goodluck
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i used to ask myself the same question about some chick....but yeah as much as you would like to think you're dating you're not dating unless you call it a date....but it seems you're close enough to the girl...so start making some moves man, i'm sure she wont mind...you know little things and stuff, try to make it offical and just talk to her about...i know my other friend was worried he might ruin it friendship by asking his best friend out...but i believe you got nothing to lose and all to gain
193795
I kind of have the same prob, but with asking this guy out. i don't know what to do, i need to know because i heard he liked me and that he is too scared to ask me out. and i was wondering if it's weird if a girl asks a guy out or not. well, good luck! sorry i was no help! :(
75290
Since your best friend is good friends with him, maybe you could find ways to be around him more.  Be yourself, but make sure that you direct some comments his way!  If you two become closer friends, it will start to become more evident if you have things in common, and will be easier to transition into dating.  I hope it works out for the best!\nP.S.  I got tired of always waiting for guys to make the first move, so I started speaking out a little more, which was hard, because I'm a little shy.  But I had to make sure that they at least knew I was alive. In most cases, they did have an interest as well, which is good because it saved me the pain of rejection. Just don't throw yourself at him or act like someone you're not.
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My advise is to stay with him. You felt good around him right? You had fun and had nice conversations, right? Take time and think to yourself, "do I like this guy more than a friend or not?" If not, be honest and tell him, don't avoid him. Stop being such an immature little girl, we ain't seven-years old anymore. Men don't have cooties.
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There's no easy way to do this.  But I'd try to keep two things in mind:\n\nFirst, you're under no obligation to like someone just because they like you.  \n\nSecond, you are under an obligation to be honest, direct, and kind.  \n\nAs a guy who spent a lot of his teenage years getting turned down for dates, I'd say the way to go is to be polite, direct, and firm.  Don't express revulsion, or hold out false hope.  Just say "I'm sorry.  I don't feel the same way about you that you do about me, and I don't want to go out with you."  There's no need to be mean, but at the same time don't be apologetic about your feelings.  Don't tell him "maybe later", don't tell him it's because you're seeing other guys, don't tell him you can just be friends.  Break the news to him calmly, politely, and then -- this is really important -- LEAVE.\n\nLeaving is very important.  Guys have a nearly infinite capacity for self-delusion.  If you tell him "no" and then hang out with him, he might convince himself "Oh, she's just saying that, but really she likes me!  That's why she's spending time with me!"  Believe it or not, the kindest thing you can do for this guy after you break the news is to get out of his life and stay away from him for a while.  That will help him get over you more quickly.\n\nGood luck
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talk to him about it- thats wat i did when i had the same issue.  he and i actually had a great conver about the possiblity of the two of us going out.  good times...