I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months we're both open with whatever we have to say except with saying I love you~ he slips it out sometimes when I do something I know he'll really like and I tried slipping it out through a teddy bear for Valentines's Day.I think he really wants to say it to but he might be just as scared as I am, How do you know when it's okay to say I love you?
210107
you might think this is funy bt its true it took me years before i could get myself to tell him but it was still special by the time i did,so al in al i think the longer you wai the more meaninig it will have.
479718
When she tells me.\n\nOf course, actions speak louder than words.  She could tell me she loves me, but if she doesn't act like it, I wouldn't believe her.\n\nBut it's nothing specific.  "Act like it" means she seeks to spend time with me.  She notices my little foibles, but forgives me for them.  She shows at least mild interest in the things I do and seeks to find common interests we can share.\n\nIf you're wondering how to show your man you love him, you're going about it the wrong way.  If you love him, tell him.  Do it when your arms are around him, right before you kiss him.  Don't make it a joke.\n\nAs for taking you for granted... That's one you need to talk to him about.  Don't make it judgmental.  Subtle is good.  Men don't usually get subtle.  If you're subtle enough, he won't think you're accusing him of taking you for granted.  But don't be too subtle or he won't understand that you don't want any guy to take you for granted.\n\nIf that doesn't work, well, communication is the key.  Just always remember that you love him and you don't want to hurt him.  You can say, "I think you're starting to take me for granted, but probably haven't even thought about it."  You're not judging him, you're doing the same as telling him, "Those pants and shirt don't match."
585839
Saying I love you isnt as powerful as showing it. If he is still treating you the same then you have nothing to worry about. One of the important things in a relationship is trust, if you dont have that then the relationship is doomed to end. Either you trust him and stay with him, or you dont and you move on.
389287
ok... i dont know you or your man, so i can only tell you what i do know. i have been with my man. i met him online and we became friends. after 1 month of chatting, he left to South America for a month. when he got back , we met up and started our relationship that same day. after 2 weeks, i knew that i loved him. but i held it in, and didnt say anything. 3weeks... i thought that he felt the same and we were doing as you are- telling each other how we felt about each other and all that jazz... anyway, after the fourth week had past, i was lying in his arms morning after valentines day, and i was thinking how wonderful everything was and how much i love him.. and i couldnt not tell him any more. so i told him. and he just smiled. he said thank you and that he just needed a little time to decide how he feels, but that the fact that i told him that i love him wont scare him away. anyway... 3days later, i get home and he is in my bed (he lives an hour and a half away, so that was a big deal) and he had a single red rose. he told me that he loved me and that he doesnt want to lose me. Its been 10 months now and i have no intention f leaving this man. he feels the same. We told each other a month into the relationship and everything was fine. My point, after that rather long winded saga, is that, if you are meant for each other, then telling him, should be the least of your worries and you should be secure in your relationship enough to have the confidence to tell him. dont wait for him to tell you first. chances are that he is confused and trying to sort his head out too. men arent complicated creatures. just silly ones. lol. if you love him, tell him. everything will be fine hun. trust in yourself and your relationship. \nDont wait on men. lol. You're a woman. Be a strong one.\ngoodluck to you hun\nxxx
483970
Depends on how long you have been dating. If you have been together for a week...i think it's too early to say I love you. If you feel enough time has passed though, just say it to him, and he will either respond or not. That's how my girlfriend asked me.\n\ncheers,\nMax
12103
If he already tells you he loves you, you should be thankful. It takes a lot for men to admit to their feelings and just because they don't say them as much as we would like, doesn't mean they don't feel them. As long as he's showing you he loves you, you are good! And I can totally understand how you feel about wanting to spend more time together, but you just have to make the best of the time you do have together until you reach a point where things are better.
215931
Those words are very powerful and deep, and can evoke alot of hidden feelings that neither of you knew existed.  They can be a very good step towards a deeper relationship, but at the same time, they can be a factor that can pull you apart.  You have to know the right time to say them, and know that, honestly, there is no rush to say them, and sometimes actions speek louder than words if those words are just not ready to be said. You have to ACTUALLY BELIEVE IT FOR SURE before you say it. Don't be afraid of a little romance though.  Buy her a rose, call her randomly during the day just to see how she is feeling, treat her to a nice dinner, invite her over and have a candlelit pick-nick in your back yard, courtesy of your cooking (Granted you have some culinary abilities.)  Those kind of things are almost always appreciated and can mean a lot when you put your heart into the planning.  \n\nHope this helps,\nRespectfully, \nAndrew V.
483483
maybe you are afraid to let him know how you feel. since this is your first bf you probably don't know how to express your true feelings. just hang in there and things will come to you..when it feels right deep inside the words will come out..
45595
You could start by saying, you know was thinking about how to accurately evaluate my feelings for you and I think I could love you.....If you were to evaluate your feelings how would you say you feel about me?....\n\nDon't be surprised to hear I don't know....Means he's probably scared to say he loves you.....If that occurs, don't be disappointed continue to try to convince him that he loves you.\n\nGood luck
75320
Love isnt something that is expressed verbally, love is something that is shown. If he buys you flowers, sticks up for you infront of his friends, goes out of his way to do something just to make your day go a little bit smoother, then yes he loves you :) If he shows you things like this then you know, he could say he loves you a billion times but untill he shows you, you wont really know, keep in mind that all guys show love in a differnt way, some buy you flowers and give you money, others call you just to tell you that your beautiful and take you out on picnics at the park, so dont rate his love on what you expect from him but on how much he tries to show you :)
145106
i think the relationship defines itself, people get in to trouble with words, after all they are just words.  what the relationship is will be defined by actual events and actions, regardless of the words.  how many people do you know who hear 'i love you' and are treated like something far less than a loved one? if you feel the need to have it defined in words just say where is this going? if it freaks him out and he leaves it wasn't going anywhere but the bedroom anyway. good luck
241911
If you don't talk to him, how are you going to find out? You need to communicate SOMEHOW.  But you need to try not to be too pushy so you don't scare him if you know what I mean.  People get scared if they're feeling pushed.  Maybe HE'S afraid to tell YOU how he feels. Try telling him he's really special in your life.  You don't have to come out and say "I love you" -- but everyone likes to hear they are special to others.  Wouldn't you?  I'll be if you heard that from someone (him maybe) -- you wouldn't feel quite so insecure would you?
455355
if you feel that strongly about saying it, do it. just tell him how you feel. tell him that you don't want to scare him because of his previous relationship, but you've been feeling that way, and its killing you to tell him, even tell him you feel like a teenager again. and don't get all upset if he doesn't say it back. if he doesn't say it back, he might not be ready yet, doesn't mean he doesn't feel that way, but he'll say it when he's ready. "It never seems the right moment." - there is never a wrong moment to tell someone you love them.
430148
It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit.  If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love.  Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish.  If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!\n(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
617859
First, when you ask questions like this and you want some sincere advice or opinions, you need to be more specific. Like how long you've been together for instance. When you say boyfriend, you could have been together for a week or two when he said it, or it could have been years. That really helps when you're asking someone a question that you want help with.\n\nPutting the lecture aside, this is my opinion when it comes to saying "I Love You" to someone. First, never say I love you to anyone unless you really mean it. People seem to let this word come out of their mouths as if they were saying, gee, what a nice day. Other guys have hurt you? Hmm, well, don't feel like you're the only one that's been hurt. We've all gone through this, but we move on. Obviously, he hasn't made you feel comfortable enough for you to not worry about being hurt, as you have in the past, or you have not opened up enough to accept his love for you. You say you're falling for him, but you keep the walls up. That's never a good thing in a relationship. If you feel you need to protect yourself, then you're not ready for a serious relationship. When the time is right, you will know and feel comfortable about saying it. Until then, don't say it, unless you mean it. It does no one any good to hear those words when the heart isn't behind hit. Good luck and may you some day, find a way to break the walls down and enjoy a happy and healthy, loving relationship with someone who makes you feel loved.
555504
Guys (like girls) like to know that they are number one in there significant others lives.  Now that can be through a lot of ways talking, suprising him, loving him, but most guys are very physical creatures so th eon ething that always works is sex.  Love on the othr hand is something guys are not really good at expressing however all guys do love at some point and have even loved before they were able to express.  Most guys do little things you just gotta know when your guy does something 4 u he wouldn't do for someone else he is saying he loves you?
95411
I knew I loved my bf the first time I laid eyes on him.  But I didn't tell him exactly how I was feeling til around Christmas time which was 3 months into the relationship.  But I agree with my bf ... saying I love you to your bf / gf puts a different spin on the relationship.  Makes things more serious.  So I would advise that before you say those 3 words to him that you make sure that it is exactly how you are feeling.