I had a friend and we were really good friends, but then we went out together. It ended kinda messily as i got really hurt, but now we are leaving skool and i feel really sad cos we were friends for so long and now we are not. Any ideas on how we can be friends again?
211550
I think that if you were really good friends, then you should have no problem becoming close again. It may be a little uncomfortable at times, but friends get through tough times together. And who knows, you may need a shoulder to cry on one day and they might be there for you. Friendship is a blessing, and even though you two went through a tough time, your true friendship will come out and surprise you one day. \nPS... The words "I'm sorry" can work wonders.
210590
its always painful to lose a close friend....i'm sorry that you did...but keep your head up and hold the memories that you guys had together close to you....and if its possible let things between you guys cool off and talk...you regret if it you dont
414587
Oh YAAAAAA, I had a friend for a long time and I dumped her yesterday. It was decision that took a lot of thought, but she finally pushed the envelope and I did it. \nWOW..... does it ever feel good! A big weight off my shoulders.\nGet rid of the negative people in your life, even if it means having a lot less so called "Friends"
567675
i'm so sorry to hear tht buddy, but i think you know u'r answer..its better to move on...if he was really intrested to maintain the friendship..he would have answerd to you or call u back how much busy he was at tht time....so its pretty clear tht he has changed...as they say..money changes pple...maybe one day he may realise tht he lost a good friend...so buddy...keep moving on.
487002
Obviously you know they weren't really "friends" right?  Friends wouldn't do that to each other.  I've been there and I know how much it hurts.\n\nA friend would support your decisions (even if they didn't agree with them) and they would "be there for you" when you needed them.  Don't sweat these so-called "friends" they aren't worth your time.\n\nYou may never "forget" what they did but that doesn't mean you can't "get over" it.  Yes, it just takes time.  Of course you're hurt, you trusted them and thought they were "friends".\n\nYou should try to "forgive" them, (even if you are unable to at the moment), because keeping all that bad energy inside will only hurt you.  \n\nYou sound like a nice person and anyone would be happy to have a "friend" like you.  Just chalk it up to "experience" and forget about them.  They don't deserve you as a friend, and they aren't worth your time.\n\nBest of luck to you.
439316
This happens to a lot of people.  Especially friends who move to another town, state, etc.  Many people believe that friendships and relationships will stay the same because they feel that while the surroundings may change, the person will not.  This is just not true.  People adapt to their surroundings and if that means making new friends and maybe losing touch with their old ones, then they just might do it because it makes them feel more comfortable.  You're a good friend for not giving up on your friendships.  I'm sorry if you feel that they haven't been doing the same.  Continue to stay in touch with your friends and hopefully, they will appreciate it.  But I have to warn you if it turns out that they've strayed too far, you're going to have to learn to deal with it.  I know it's harsh, but it's a fact of life that everyone has to deal with.  People change and they grow apart and sometimes all you can do is learn to move on with your life.\n\nAnd yes, this has happened to me twice in my life.  I've lost two best friends because they moved away.  But I learned to pick up the pieces and make new friends and eventually, the pain of losing those friends goes away.  The most important thing I've learned though is the fact that if a friendship falls apart, it probably wasn't worth salvaging in the first place.
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It is not easy, and I am sorry to hear about your loss. You know all the reasons you must go on though. Try to develop new friends, and maybe a new interest, like playing the guitar or something.
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Go to each of them telling them that their friendship means alot to you and it would help if they worked things out...on your behalf. if you feel like they would never patch up then make it clear that you do not want to choose between them and they shud atleast be civil towards eachotherin your presense. Talk to them,wenever u meet them, you shouldnt have any reason to stop talking to them,after all you arent responsible for their fall out? also, act normal,like nothing happened and joke around them during classes, you cant all be in the same classes so it'll help if you talk to them one on one. If all else fails,You'll have to divide your time between them or else find new friends. You cud be the glue to get them back togather,You never know with time,they realize that the tiff between the two wasnt that big after all and they might patch up due to u. Hope you feel better.
595833
Depends on where you are from. I would have gone with you but i don't think we are from the same place. You could try looking at a photo album of your childhood or your days in college and look up a friend from there, then try to contact them and see if they could go with you.
524775
Whenever anyone gets into a relationship they tend to have tunnel vision for awhile, they tend to devote much of their time to the other persons wants over even their own. So themselves and other friends basically get left out of the picture for awhile.  Your friendship will probably come back but unfortunately not until your friend realizes that he needs more than one person to make his life complete. Sorry it is a hard time to loose a good friend, and if he has become a WORSE person than before, then maybe just drop a call and say hey dude, I am happy for you and all, but you are totally different, call me when you get a chance to hang out I miss that in a DUDE way =) Good Luck............
135049
I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have a friend like you.  You cared enough about her to let her go and be happy.  I wish there were more ppl like you out in this world.  take care...
58791
I'm with jbpammy004,  what is your question....I hope you find the answer....However i think i understand what you are saying.  Sounds kind of sad....Hope you have had a chance to see your friend again....Good luck....Don't be sad.
485305
Cherish, you have done all that you can do. The best thing you can now is to begin making new friends. I always tell younger people such as yourself to make as many friends in this life as possible, because you never know what around the corner. Hopefully she will wise up and be the friend to you that she was before. But don't  sit around waiting ok. Don't worry your heart will heal.
158008
find some new friends that you get along very well.if you have older friend ( not old but people that you know for longer time) keep hanging out with them.it happened to me too and I found better friends and one day the other girls called and said they were sorry and they said that they envied me for having better and more friends,and they said they missed me.i stick with the better girls of course:)
599868
I went through the same thing you did.  It kind of gets frustrating.  How does your friend react to it?  Does your friend go along with it or just gets quiet.  Cause my friend at times gave the hint that we were together.  Sorry to say that She no longer is my friend cause she was in fact giving hints that we were closer that friends.  In order to avoid it talk to your friend and also try not to give certain hints to people when you hang out together.  Sometimes people will jump to conclusions due to you hanging out with your friend way too much.
667273
Well, I've been away from my 5 best friends for about 2 (almost 3) years &, so far, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do...\n\nI left my home country (Cape Verde) to come live in the US...& the day I left was the saddest day of my life...It felt (& still does) like I lost a huge chunk of my own self...\n\nMy best friends & I have known each other since we were about 3 years old (which means that we've known each other for about 14 years now) & always lived in the same street...we used to do EVERYTHING together...wherever you saw one of us you'd be sure to see the other 5...we had the most beautiful relationship (we went on field trips almost every weekend; we used to throw lots of parties; we used to go to each other's family's beach houses regularly, etc.) , but since I moved, things have changed a lot!!!!\n\nAlthough we keep in touch with each other, it's just not the same...I feel sad all the time because now I have no friends (nearby) and spend my days either @ work, @ school and/or @ home (which is totally not me)\n\nI used to be really active, but now I really don't do much (just so you have an idea, I've never been to the movies nor to the beach here in the US, & things that I once enjoyed are just not as fun as they used to be)...but whenever I feel sad I think of the good times my friends and I had together...& although sometimes it makes me feel even sadder that I'm not with them, most of the time it works...\n\nI'm planning on going on vacation next year, but we'll see...\n\nBut you know, my being away from my friends & living in a totally different place has helped me realize how good of a life I used to have as well as it has helped me appreciate all the ppl in my life...
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Yeah...these things happen a lot between friends...\nOne real friends shouldn't be jealous of one another because their college is better.\nTwo friends shouldn't ditch eachother like that... Three:Friends shouldn't forget eachother!\nAbout going to play pool...it's ok 2 reject it. I know that the last thing we want to happen between friends is fighting...I actually was in a fight with my bestfriend, but she said she didn't want to be my friend anymore but i was really sad....At first she started ignoring me a little bit..then a lot...so i decided to ask her what's wrong...then she told me\nthe reasons..i thought those reasons were not even worth to lose a friend. But it was her opinion so i had to go with the flow..her parents adored me very much and loved me like a daughter and when they found out we weren't friends anymore they were so sad....so we didn't talk to eachother 4 about 2 weeks or so...those were the 2 longest week of my life...then one day she couldn't take it anymore and she felt\n so guilty...she decided to say sorry and asked if i wanted to be friends again...i accepted her apology and it was great 2 be friends again...But unfortunaely she moved to Georgia now and i miss her very much...we still stay in contact, but not much...\nJust talk 2 them and tell them about the times they ditched u and ask them How they would feel if someone did that 2 them....I wish the best for u and ur friends!!