Im 19 and live in tx. and SINGLE AND HATING IT... Im going to tjc.... and help on what to do?
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Hm. You could email me... LOL.
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ft drum horrible , my friend and her hubby moved there last yr. cold and boring place in the middle of no where. after she moved there last christmas hubby cheated on her with 2 of her friends and  divorced her and he got custody of all 3 girls and one was not even his. so stock up on books and magazines and look for groups to join so you wont be bored. good luck with the move
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It sounds as though your focus is way off, & possibly because you don't want to acknowledge the real reason.  A lot of single guys look at a woman with 2 kids as having too much baggage, & they would prefer a woman who hasn't already got her life so set in stone as you do.  Add in the 2 jobs & they don't see you as someone who would ever have much time to devote to them.  Then there's the cousin with 4 kids, which would be enough to make most men run from this situation fast, because they would know the only way they could get any private time with you would be at their place.\n\nI think a lot of us single men would appreciate a woman who was willing to work & make something of herself.  However, the bulk of single men will see your past as a detriment to any chance of a serious relationship with you because they won't want to play the stepfather role.  They have worked too hard to get where they are in life to want to take on the responsibilities of a ready-made family.  As for single dads, they may feel their hands are full with their own children.  Finally, all guys are going to look at the situation you have with your cousin as you essentially living in a zoo, what with 6 kids running all over the place.  She is part of the equation, because you will be judged by the company you keep, & they will wonder why you two have what they would view as such a screwed up life.\n\nYour attitude may also scare off potential suitors.  In your effort to make it without the aid of a man, you seem to have a prejudice against men which we can pick up on easily.  Most men don't like feminists, & when you accuse them of being intimidated by your life, & use phrases like "'knight in shining armor' attitude" & "man's world", your hostility towards men bleeds through all too clearly.  It is good you have achieved what you have, but your bitter feelings towards men would be the last excuse any man would need to turn tail & get away from you as quickly as he could.  You'll need to work on seriously adjusting this aspect of your attitude if you ever wish to have a successful relationship with a man in the future, & counseling may be beneficial in this regard.  Good luck, & I hope you can get your issues in order so you can find the happiness you desire.
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That is a hard time for you. Been there, 3 times\n1/ list things you like doing, or are interested in\n2/ look up clubs and groups that do these things, \n3/ if you have at least 1 friend that you can persuade to go to any/all of them, go.\nif not, go yourself, you don't have to stay if uncomfortable, remember, some of the people there possibly went for the same reason you did.\nGive it time, Parents Without Partners are good places for your age group. There are others, look up the net\ngood luck.
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If you are a Christian, go to church.  Single women outnumber single men by ? to 1.  That's a great motivation to get saved.\n\nChat is one of the most popular activities on the internet.  Determine who you are, for example:\n\nChristian\nJewish\nstudent\nColorado\ntwenties/thirties/forties/fifties/etc.\nsports\npolitics\npets\nmusic (rock/pop/classical/boy bands/jazz/contemporary)\nChinese/Hispanic/Celtic\n\nyou get the idea...\n\nThen Google search on who_you_are "free chat" \nand take your pick!  \n\nJust listen and pay attention for a day or two before you make your entrance.
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Hold on you live with him still? First off I've never heard of that arangement before in my life. Also what do you mean by living with are you two still together but still sexually active? If so he's using you no wonder you feel lost. You need to get yourself outta there and if your parents won't take you in find a place foryourself. In times of need there are several places like main stay suites that offer cheep extending living. Once you've done that try and find a really decent guy i'm not talking about going bar hopping, i'm talking about a place like church (by the way if you don't have religion at this poin that's another reason you feel lost, there are many christains like myself that are here to help you if you need some with comming to Christ ;) ) I know you most likely love this guy but the sooner you come to relize its time to move on you'll feel bad at first but it will get better. Don't think its not because you won't love the ex because yes you will love doesn't go away, but you have to save whats left of your heart and mend it together for that guy who's still out there you haven't met yet.
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Ohcynthia, good for you. The decent job is important too because we don't want going to our jobs while the guy is sitting on the sofa with the remote all day.\n\nCheck out activites that are in another city (because we don't know where you are) - even one town away - that will help you meet a different group of guys. You see, it's not a matter of some guy coming in to rescue; you have to initiate your own rescue!\n\nAlso try taking a night class at a local college, community college or junior college. The cost is usually low, parking fees are waived, and you'll come across people who want to better themselves -- just like you. Best of luck. Things will be looking up soon.
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Well, I'm not that old & have different circumstances, but that's what I did. ;)\n\nI'd lived in the same town all my life, the same town several generations of my family had been born & died in. I didn't have too many problems with my family, but had nothing but trouble whenever I tried to interact with anyone else there. I just had nothing in common with the vast majority of them, given that Kansas isn't known for its high geek population. :P\n\nSo I took the risk of a lifetime & decided to move to another state to be with a guy I met online. That relationship didn't work out, but I ended up with a guy who spoils me rotten, and I spoil him rotten in return. :)\n\nI say go for it, even if it doesn't work out you can always go back home, or keep trying other places until you find one that fits. :) Just because you're 52 doesn't mean you can't have a future. :)
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No matter what your level of disability it's clear you can write and convey your thoughts to others. Have you considered becoming part of a community group? Maybe your church does good works, or has some sort of program that encourages outreach?\n\nThere's also attending classes at the local college or university, maybe even doing something online? \n\nI guaruantee that it's not because of your disability that you're having trouble finding someone. You want a decent good hearted person right? Well that person wouldn't care about your impedments. It's just that your life path hasn't crossed his just yet. He's out there, wondering if he'll ever find you...\n\nPut the loneliness and depression aside as they are self-indulgent. Get out there and enjoy the world and give them a chance to enjoy you!\n\nKnow things will better, best wishes - J\n\n1.27 12:27a est  So So sorry to hear about your daughter, she can't be hurt anymore where she is now, and has a peace that no one can have in life. It should be important to everyone in your community to bring the killers to justice, but maybe this is a fight you'll have to fight for a long time. May your faith help you through this struggle.\nThis might be a good time for some "Chicken Soup" books to be borrowed from the library. Maybe the folks at the library could even advise a way to get to and from there.\nMaybe they could even suggest a place to take classes in the area, maybe a Parks and Rec, or a community center building in town?\nSometimes you have to put yourself out there. It can't be easy to deal with the circumstances of your situation and I don't mean to sound as if I am trivalizing your concerns. In fact I agree that you are probably a hundred percent correct about your surroundings. Thing is SOMEONE is going to have to change that, for you, for other people like you, and even for the people unlike you who don't realize things need to change.\nSpeak to the people in your City Hall about arrangements being made (transportation and otherwise) for the people with various "challenges" in your town. If they aren't helpful right from the get go, it might be time to enlist the help of the American with Disabilities.\nIf it sounds like I am assigning you to a crusade, you're right. I think the powers that be brought you to that little town in hopes that you might bring about some change. There is someone right now, or in the foreseeable future, who couldn't speak fom themselves, who doesn't have the strength of character you do, who needs you to help people SEE.\nYour daughter believes in you, knows you're up to the task. She's watching right now, hoping you'll smile. \n\nDear heart , please remember that for many of us, it's a struggle to find companionship. Maybe right now the focus should be just on building your circle of friends (step in the right direction is posting here at Yahoo Answers). And later, friends can introduce more friends, and sometimes that's when you find those things that you gave up hope of ever finding.\n\nThe powers that be are with you, as am I- J\nsagebella72-answers@yahoo.com
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Relax girl, you're still young. Enjou your single life now ....chill~
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no this is a bad idea . what kind of support system do you have in puerto rico?? family friends ??? a job ??? I honestly feel a better option is a local junior college , you can talk to the counsler and set goals and make realistic plans as to when you will graduate and what kind of jobs you may want to get into in the future ........good luck man ... puerto rico is a brutally unforgiving place and if you are born and raised in the states you wont dig it ........
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Oh, no, don't try chat rooms! I'm begging you - I can tell you very bad experiences about that. How large is the town in which you live? Is there a gay community center? They often have singles groups. Is there an MCC church? Even if you are not a religious person they may have activities in which you could participate or opportunities to volunteer. Volunteering on any lesbian related project is always good. Do you like sports? That can be a good way to meet girls, too. (And if you are a terrible athlete, like me, remember that they always need a right fielder!) Are you in college? Does your school have a gay alliance? Are you in high school? If there is a gay community center in your town then they might have a youth group. And, yes, Home Depot is always good! (and in Denver so are folk concerts for some reason) And be nice to all the lesbians you meet, even if you're not interested in hooking up. Some one who is way too old and in a couple might have a wonderful friend, niece or daughter.
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dont take this the wrong way but do u have a job because u wouldnt be near him all the time and maybe u would begin to appritiate each other more. also with the money u could get a car n hopefully get back to school. then u could leave him if u r still unhappy n u would be on ur feet cuz of ur job. \n\nif u cant get a job then i know this seems hard but make the most of every situation that u can. have u talked to ur partner about being unhappy. have u tried to get contact with ur family or do they not except u. have u asked if they except u if thats the case. n 23 years is quite a lot isnt there some1 a little younger because that is a huge a ge difference. \n\ni may be a little unexperienced with dating but if ur truely unhappy u need to fix the situation and u need to do it before something happens to u.\n\ni really hope everything works out for u.
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I was in the same situation as you..\nat the end of high school I had a million people telling me I had all the potential, and where was I going to college? \nI had mixed feelings about all this..  should I just go to make every one else happy? or what?  ..\n I decided that college wasn't the right thing for right away.. mostly because I didn't have any money and I was afraid of spending money on something I wasn't really sure I wanted to do anyway...\nIt took me one year out of High school to realize how much I missed being in school and missed the interaction with peers and all that...\n I also came to a realization that I really did have a passion in life and I finally decided to peruse it regardless of what other people told me about women in the profession... I moved 3000 miles to the other side of the country.. I took a huge risk in asking my BF of 4 years at that point to come with me or loose me... and I am now in my 3rd out of 5 yrs in architecture school and I am actually ranked 1st in my class.....\nmy point in telling my "life story" is that some times you just need some time to yourself to step back and reflect on where and who you are..  I know it sounds cheesy but during that year off I learned  a llot about "the real world" and myself and knew that I could do better than $8.25/hr at my local retail store ...  good luck.. you sound like an intelligent girl, trying to make the right decision...\nmy advice is talk to your parents but don't feel as though you are disappointing them if you don't want the same thing as them.. look into some colleges or even some certificate programs.. like massage therapy and other one year programs.. most community colleges have them...  see if you are finding anything you are interested in... if not there is nothing wrong with taking a year off.. and besides that year will be a good time to save money if you do decide to go to college....but like I said you are an intelligent person.. you just have to find "your thing"    good luck in life :)\n but like the other girl said ..  college is a great experience and you don't want to regret never going... or at least trying :)
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Sorry to hear about your current situation. :( \n\nThe first thing I would do is figure out what city/town/state services are available to you. There is a lot of assistance with housing/food/child care/employment/legal fees/ECT. Your state government must have public welfare/need offices around the area. I would just go in, explain your situation and apply for aid. This is what welfare is supposed to be for, someone who is in immediate need of financial help for a temporary time. They also assist you in going to college if you are interested in that. \nI think you are very courageous to leave him. You only live once, so might as well be happy. Not staying with a person addicted to gambling, drinking, and spending money. Good luck. Feel free to email if you have any questions. \n:)
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Well, I think that church has to be a key place to meet people, if you are not interested in dating only people from work.  Or perhaps, take a class at the local university (particularly a graduate course)
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You need to get out of the pit. Theres nothin wrong to love some one bigger than ur age. but after a time, u wont like it, i promise. u need to get along with others, talk to more boyz. and it NOT a Texas "Requirment" to have a b/f, Trust me(that was a jok). If you rele like some one u do, dont do coz all ur frnds have a b/f. Be yourself! run your own race! and you'll win!!!