Is it right that when you look at your pictures you don't see yourself as people do ? I mean you look at your pics and you say: oooh i'm really not good looking, but then a girl looks at your pics and says: You look fine! If the answer is yes, why? Is it coz each person perceives his/herself in a different way compared to the way other people see that person? Is it coz we know what we hate about ourselves?
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I think that what they say is true, everyone is their own worst critic.  We all want to look good and be as attractive as we can be, and perceive ourselves in maybe a different way than from what we think.  I might think that I look damn good one day, get a pic taken, and then totally think that I look like shit.  Some people are just not photogenic either.  I would not take it too hard though because we all just want to look good,and people have different tastes.  What looks good to one person, might not look good to another.  Thats why there are attractions, if we all had the same damn tastes and thought that one thing was attractive, then there would not be a lot of fun would there?
490401
It only matters what you think.  And you find her attractive, nice, kind and sociable. Don't take other people's opinions personally.  They're only opinions and usually if someone is judging another person, it's a reflection on how insecure they are about themselves.
519218
Well you sure do know some very shallow people don't you, are they jealous of you for been in love with the girl you choose for yourself, how very shallow of them to tell you that you could do better, beauty comes from the inside as well as the outside too, your girl might not be top model status but you loved her before people said you could do better, so damn selfish of them, who cares if your good looking yourself, if you love each other then what the hell does it matter to anyone else but yourselves.
524308
I have no idea what it means but i see myself in many of mine.  Maybe it is a way of your mind giving you a real look at yourself, maybe you subconsiously think there is a flaw everyone sees.  I dont know.  Good Luck figuring it out though.  lol
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I tried to make my avatar look as much like me as possible, but my hair is much longer. I am not pretending. If you go and read my Q & A on my profile, thats pretty much my feelings, character and personality. Why pretend? My pic or name is not posted. So therefore, a person can really feel comfortable in being there true self. Well....at least i will.
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Why should u care about what others think about the way u look?  \n\nDo u have a brain, do u use it... \n\nThe world is to concerned iwth looks, and it's really quite pathetic.  If you ahve a good heart and good soul, who cares if your 20lbs overweight.
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This is a pretty tough question to answer cause, u know, beauty is a relative thing, meaning that what I see as beautiful, others may see it ugly or just dislike..\nBeauty, in my point of view, is what you feel about yourself..beauty lies within, in other words..when you feel good about yourself, you'll consequently feel that you're beautiful and that gives its spark and reflect upon other people who subsequently feel this beauty, not just see it..\nI think that even if a person is not that beautiful (if beauty is already defined or will ever be), if that person feel self-satisfied, other people's views won't be that important cause one will always find someone who'll like his/her kind of beauty even if it's just a beauty of the soul....
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Ugliest classmate because there's still time for puberty to kick in.  besides if I looked like a girl (I'm a guy) then I would look just weird to girls.  Does that make sense?  Besides even fi I was ugliest in school doesn't mean I don't have the rest of the package.
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I think that it's fine to look.  It's not like you're lusting after these women and taking them home.  It's natural to look.  I think that when you do not allow a guy or girl to look at others then it creates more temptation and desire to cheat.  My husband and I look at others together.  Often times I mention the girl before he even has a chance.  People are beautiful and their forms shouldn't be ignored just because you are married.  Looking at others helps to arouse you and help you to appreciate what you have even more.  I say keep on looking.  As long as it's not in excess, and you are providing your girlfriend with all of the love and affection you can muster what does it matter if you catch a glimpse of someone else's butt?  You're going home with her not that miscellaneous rear.
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Good for you for not peeking. And no, I don't do it. I have looked at guy while with my bf, but not in that way. My eyes just happen to wander where someone happens to be and that person is sometimes a guy, and sometimes that guy looks at me when I glance and gets a weird look on his face and makes me uncomfortable, and at that point you don't want to look away, because you're kind of afraid you might hurt his feelings, (I don't know why this is) and so you might smile to be friendly, whether or not he's good looking, so that's one thing. Or am I just weird? I really don't like making people feel bad, I always have to acknowledge them. I'm guessing girls who really do do it on purpose, have many different reasons. To make their bf jealous, to see if you're looking, to check you out, etc.  Also if you're looking at the girl to begin with, she may just look back because she can feel your gaze and it creeps her out. I've done that too, when I've felt someone looking at me. It freaks me out when people stare at me. God I'm neurotic.
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Until we realise that our 'body' is not who we are, but it is actually the 'soul' that is the real us, we will keep concentrating on improving our appearance as a means to improve ourselves rather than concentrating on improving and nourishing our soul. \n\nPerhaps when we realise that the character of a person is more important than the external appearance, we might be better able to accept the shortcomings in our appearance.
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yeah....its indeed a true question asked by you, even i have seen many people staring at me, even while walking on the road, and thats a very ugly and an embarassing thing.\nGuess, maybe we look like Ms Universes....so they stare at us. See, we are so beautiful and total damsels, this is proved by their reactions....and yup it maybe an illusion of love in case if the person sees you again and again with a sweet smile on his/her face.
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Yes, I have had the unfortunate experience of meeting extremly good looking people who are just ugly and ill tempered and mean, because they are so self centered and evil spirited that they think they are "it"...\n\nAnd I have met some people whos appearance are unfortunate to have, but they have such a kind heart, and warm personality that you WANT to be with them because they have this "something" that is such a wonder and loving person, that you cant get enough of them...\n\nBeauty is only skin deep, but, ugly is to the bone!\n\nIf your personallity is plain ugly, then your impossible to be around, but, if your are not so good looking and such a wonderful person that you "shine", then everyone will treasure your friendship...\n\nI wish you well...\n\nJesse
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I think you live in a society that gives too much on the appearance. In fact, I believe the attraction only comes the fist few seconds you notice a person, then once you are getting engage into a conversation, the looks don't really appear to be matter any longer. I've had many beautiful girlfriends before, and once you are getting into a fight with them, the looks don't count anymore. In fact, once you got to know a person or live with them, the looks hardly matter as you will not notice it as much as before you got to really know that person and talk to them.
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If you looked like them, you woulden't be yourself. It's sad that people wanna look like celebs. It's attention-seeking. Where's your self-esteem? Humans looking different than each other, makes us individuals.
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You know what, sweetie?  This world is so focused on the outward appearance that it is a darn shame.  We are who we are and God made us this way.  Unfortunately people feed on Hollywood and glamor.  There are those out here that don't judge on looks...it's what's inside that really matters.  We are all children of God....if you are happy, then who cares!  AND.......\n\nThe response before mine....that life.....was made by someone who has no regard for feelings and has no business even responding.  RUDE.....you should be turned in and not allowed to be in this space with answers like that!\n\nYou, my 270lb. friend, take care and God bless.  The weather is so nice, take walks at lunch...that might help!
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I hate posing as then my smile seems fake and yes, I have often been told I look mad when they are taking  pictures of me. The natural ones, when someone shoots pictures of me when I least expect them are nice. I like those ones.