Her way of thinking differs from that of mine.We complement each other in areas where we are weak, individually.Sometimes, but not always,i frustrate her by trying to talk about some embarassing things, which we had talked about so many times in the past and had closed the issue there,once for all, by arriving at a decision of not recalling them again in future.But, unfortunately, i bring out the topic sometimes when we go on Shopping or for a ride.This hurts her very deeply and she stongly refuses to talk about that.This spoils her mood and also mine, as i will be in a state of confusion.Whatever i talk will not be interesting to her, since then. So, can anyone tell me how will i go about in making and keeping her happy? She is that kind of a girl who has resposibilities on her shoulder and that she has and likes freedom.She is a bit cheeky(playful with me).She has high ambitions.I am a decent, cultured boy, with high ambitions and expectations, but very emotional.i'll be greatful 2 u
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This happens alot in my house, mainly becaise my husband is from India and I am American. He says things and it set's me off fairly fast then I make every one mad. To avoid this, dont say things you know she dont want to talk about, it it is sticking in your mind, then write it in ajernol, but stop talking on topics that are touchy for her. It's not always easy, infact it will feel like you give more effort then she and latter in life it will come back to hurt you, so learn now to let things go, because you will have other issues to deal with that are far more important. Choose your words wisely, and learn to live as one or not at all.
200591
It takes time ,but if u agree that u r wrong for the time being,it will make her think for a while.It gives two opportunities\n 1.Fight over\n 2.You can talk about it freely
211664
why are you afraid to tell her that you dont like her behavior? I was in your situation when I was in collage and this girl was always chasing me! she wanted to be where I was because i was with my handsome and popular friends all the time (what could i do if they were my classmates!) anyway, one day I was just not in the mood to deal with her and I said: you know what, you have very good qualities but IT BOTHERS ME that you are with me because you want to hang out with my friends. Soooo.... stop being so obvious and let me have fun with them!  so, she got my point. she never spoke to me again (and my friends were happy for that too). it was sad because after all she was a good girl but A REAL PAIN IN THE BUTT!
259504
ummmm...relax yaar..i understand how u feel.. well some people will irritate u..but neva listen to it,u know how you are!!for few days she will continue the same,but if she finds no response from your side then she will leave you soon!do u wanna b smart??so just ignore it..if you behave as how she is,then there will not be any difference between u and her..so adjust it for few days she will leave you soon..dont worry be cool...
212726
Instead of thinking about how bad you feel, because she don't like you the sameway, you should think about how happy you make her when you are there for her and how much she may need you to be there for her. Believe me I is good to have someone to talk to when you have alot on your mind. Just try that and then if that doesn't help let her know how you feel and see where it goes from there.
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She is definitely sending you mixed messages.. If you can't be yourself around her you need to find someone who appreciates you for who you are and stop trying to be what she wants you to be..
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Well I'm a female, and I'll be the first to admit that women can and do send mixed signals.  Sorry!  I personally find that  tYpe liKe ThIs to be extremely annoying, but then again, maybe  she thinks it's playful.  Sounds like you are on her mind right now, who knows why.  If you want it to be more (again) then respond.  If you are over her, then be polite but don't get engaged in it.
551030
Hi you right it's not worth fighting over. Maybe she just feels like she can't talk to you about certain things that are happening in her life right now. I wouldn't worry to much about it. People sometimes find that it is easier to confide in strangers. That way no one will be able to judge her.
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It sounds like after she got to know you a little bit she found you were not the typ of guy she was looking for,no offence you may be a realy great guy,just maybe for someone else.If you want to work it out sit down with her and explain to her how you feel.If she gets upset right away and doesnt want to talk about it,that is a sign that she may not love youlike you love her.
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You listen to her problems day in and day out? Are you unique in this aspect, or is she just a chronic complainer? If you are the only person (or, at least, the only guy) she brings her troubles to, I'd say she already has a thing for you, although she may not be concious of it yet. And if that's the case, it's probably up to you to make the first move. If you really can't bear to bring the subject up in person, try a note or an email. You'll probably be able to express what you want to say much more eloquently and clearly in that format, and I guarantee that she'll respect you for having the guts to say what you really think.
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I would let her read this exactly as you have written it.  It could possibly make her understand that you have her best interests at heart.  And if not, well, it sounds as if you have very little to lose at this point.  The relationship may not work if the two of you feel so differently.
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It's nice that you want to help her out, but don't cause yourself to suffer by being over-responsible for other people. I make that mistake myself. The thing I'm learning is that you can't change people if they're not interested in changing. We all have our own path to walk.\n\nHowever, when she says something negative, you might want to turn it around and say something positive. By not agreeing with her negative thoughts, you'll be planting a seed of self-doubt in her mind. Ultimately, though, the best way to change others is to be the best we can be. \n\nIn short, just continue being a positive model for her. Good luck.
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I used to have this same problem with guys I used to date but, I found the love of my life and I can't stop talking. I feel comfortable around him. I know that he will not judge or think less of me for what I have to say. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. Maybe she is afraid that you will judge her.
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Hope this works out for you. its probably a bit raw at the moment. could this possibly not be the first time this has happened, as im sure she is trying to tell you something and get a reactionary response. she wants you to want her and fight for her not just give up. im thinking that she wants you to commit after 8 years. she doesnt want to ask you to make it a more secure relationship possibly not long distance. she wants you to come up with that idea and put it to her. so she can feel loved and needed. thats what im thinking and im a chick and sometimes we can be a bit weird like that. so give it a go when things calm down have a honest talk with her and ask her what she really wants or doesnt want from you and decide what you are ready to give. if you arent ready to give everything - why have a relationship anyway. take care and give it some time.
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It kind of depends on what you were not able to compromise on and if you are willing to give it a try her way.  As far as try to get her back start doing little things for her.  It sounds like you still talk and you must have some idea what kind of things she like.  Surprise her make her feel like she is the best part of your life.  Good luck...
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She's doing this because she gets a bit of excitement by trying to deceive you. Like children do to their parents. This sounds like a battle of wills to me. You want her to behave one way, and she's responding by lying, digging her heels in. She's trying to tell you that she doesn't feel in control of her life, and this is a way she feels that she can do what she wants. When you hide the webcam or threaten to take her 'toy' away, she spits her dummy, because she wants a reason to have a go at you for trying to 'control' her, 'making' her bored by travelling alot. You're just applying practical solutions to your problem (very male!). She is probably lost in a dreamworld while she's chatting to these guys, a world where she is a different person. She can portray herself as anyone she wants to. She probably needs some confidence-boosting but it all boils down to a lack of communication. She doesn't feel she can talk to you about her needs, or perhaps she's tried and she doesn't feel you took her seriously. This situation will only get worse if you don't try to spend some quality time getting to know what her needs are.
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Great!!! Now just remember that  your sooo happy for her, okay.  Because most people that I know even myself go through a wild period.  So when she or if she goes through that period please don't be mean and make comments to her.  Let her enjoy life to the max even if you do not approve of it that her life.  Let her explore.