I hve been married for 2 years. Last year i divorced because he was cheeting on me. Now i am trying to live my life and i have another relationship but sometimes i am thinking at him, the one who was in my life. I know we cannot be a couple anymore and now, when this other relationship grows i realized that i have to leave my past back. But sometimes i am looking back at all those moments...
214342
It is ok to remember the past.  In fact you shouldn't forget it because it had some good memories plus you learned some important lessons.  Accept that the past will always be a part of you and it is part of what makes you, you.  Just remember, that your current relationship is something new and unique and that to really explore it and enjoy it you can't let the past influence it.
68559
obviously what ur marriage to ex husband & the kind of relationship that u had has negative impact on u. but not all the men r the same. u just hav to let go of the past & take chance into ur future. life is all about chances/choices  but we live wth the consequences from the choices we make. so take ur time wth this new guy. let ur relationship grow naturally wthout pressurising each other & u need time to heal.
159510
When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
624138
I am married and pregnant with another man's baby.  I was separated from my husband for 5 months before I got pregnant with my boyfriends baby.  My ex (soon to be ex-husband) still wants me sometimes too.  He said that if he got the chance to have his family back, he would in a heartbeat, even if he had to help raise another man's baby.  BUT......I don't feel right about that.  I should have never married my hubby because I didn't love him enough, and we were pressured because we already had one little girl together a year before we got married, so we went a head and did it.  Now, I have two little girls, already, and one more little girl on the way.  Yeah, i messed up, maybe if i would've given it a little more time after the separation, me and the ex could've worked things out, but I wanted to move on with my life with this other man.  But, anyways, the point is,,,,,,,, i am currently in this situation, and I choose to not go back to my ex husband because I have ruined everything that we could have had together.  I am still in love with my new baby's daddy, but he couldn't handle the situation, either, so we broke up.  So, make the decision that's right for you.  You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Good luck!     Praying a lot helps too!
359332
Yes I was head over heels for my first husband things went south we divorced and I loved him still.  I got married to a really great guy who understood that I may always love my exhubby.  After a year of being married I don't even think about my ex anymore... I am tee-totally all for my Marine.  We are cut from the same cloth....
146983
YES, I do. My husband and I were highschool sweethearts and were eachother's firsts love, first EVERYTHING. We were together for a couple of years and had a baby. About 3 years ago we almost got a divorce, I mean I moved back home with our son and everything.  We were seperated for a hole entire year, we actually had already filed for the divorce...it was in the process. Then one week he came home to visit some family and Ihe and I happened to be in the same place at the same time and we looked at eachother with such pain, but still true infinite love, we got together and talked all night about everything, I mean everything> The people who came between us, the hurt it caused, eveything. And when you find out that your first is no longer the only, it HURTS! Anyway we took things slowly, but we ended our divorce, and moved back together and we are better now than ever. T
228585
ABSOLUTELY!!\nMy husband and I have just celebrated our 27th anniversary married and 28th together. The love we have today is much more than what we had on our wedding day. Our relationship is stronger and deeper than ever because of the 28 years we have been through together. You always hear the saying "through all the ups and downs", well it is so true. There were so many times during the first 5 years that I could have said "see ya". But I didn't. We had our first after we'd been married two years, he lost his job shortly after she was born and jobs were real hard to find so we had no money. We had to rely on family and other means to survive. But we did. I had faith in him and I had my Faith in God that we would get through. \nThere were many other financial hardships through the years that should have torn us apart and would have torn other couples apart, but we refused to let that happened becaused we loved each other and had faith in our marriage. We worked together. There was one time around our 17th year that we separated for awhile but I am too bullheaded to let him throw all that time away. So with some fight and work we saw what we needed to do and what we had done. We took each other for granted.\nOur marriage today is stronger, more passionate and devoted than ever. We have a greater understanding of what each other needs--time for each other and for ourselves. Be there for each other but know when to step back and stand beside each other for each other against all others no matter what.\nHe is my heart and soul. He is in law enforcement and I send him out every night with a kiss, a hug and I love you. The rest is in God's hand. I know there is always a chance that he may not come home or he may get seriously hurt. I take that chance because I love him that much. I can honestly tell you this much. If for some reason I would lose him to his job or by nature, he will be it for me. There will be no other in my life. That is how deep he is in my life.\nSo yes, there is long-lasting relationships and deep abiding love. It takes two to make them and lots of hard work every day. But the rewards are worth every minute of the life you will have together.\nI hope this helps
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Hey, you know, I am kind of in the same boat as you are, except for I have pretty much gone through having to hear my ex-husband cry to me every single time that I spoke with him to let me know how much is missed me.  I have two young boys with him, and believe me, it has been really hard, but thanks to my dear boyfriend who I now love a lot I have made it through.  I have been thinking about living with my boyfriend too, as my divorce will be in June, but it seems like I can't wait that long.  I don't know, but I just know that women seem to want things done much quicker and we don't like to wait to get what we want.  I would say to do what your heart tells you to do.
423834
Sounds like you need space for yourself. Dump the husband since he isn't working with the reconciliation. Then give your self space. Don't let this other guy enter your life too quickly, sounds like he did just that when you were separated. When you are stable from the finalized divorce, then look at your prospects.
100529
Divorce sucks, but I wouldn't let the potential keep me from getting married.  Just make sure you really believe it's someone you want to spend your life with.  I know that's easier said than done, but be strong, and be honest with yourself and your partner, and you shouldn't have anything to worry about.  I wish you all the hapiness and luck in your relationships.
222513
You got divorced for a reason.  Remember that reason, and move on.
439746
Yea my ex left me to get married to someone of his religious background and now hes miserable in his marriage and i pity him because in the end his breaking up with me i met someone who love me and cherish me more than he ever did and hes unhappy in his suitation......And it bothers him that i'm happy \n\nBut i still pity him
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One thing you can't control, is an other person's feelings.  My advice - make light of it.  The more energy you give it, the more of a problem it will become.  We all reminisce about the past.  No harm it that. It's bad when we start thinking about what our partner should or shouldn't think about.\n\nWhen you've been married 8 yrs., not uncommon to look back.  Just make sure you keep the love coming!
604430
yeah these sound like she made up her mind of geting a divorce and she want to move on this happen in marriage you just got to get ready for a divorce and make new plan in your life there are other women out there i know it real hard on you right know but when she leave you it going to take you a few month to get over the feeling you just lost the one you love but it well get better over time. i wish you the best of luck.
250542
yes, i do think about him, but i would never leave a perfectly good relationship for one that could be. I have actually been looking for my ex but i would only want to talk to him as a friend now. I am happily married, it would just make me happy to know that my first love is also happy with his life. I would even try to pick up a friendship with him, just as long as it doesnt come in the way of my relationship with my husband
76113
the person who i loved with all my heart cheated on me after 2 years of relationship. it crushed me but i couldn't imagine my life without him and i tried to make things work. there were many promises from him, explanations, excuses, anything you can just think about. so i tried. all i got was another 3 years of misery, tears and broken heart. he did cheat again... and again... and again... so i just wasted years from my life and it ended in a break up anyway. it took me long time even after that to get over him but now i'm married and am the happiest woman on earth. i beg you girl, DON'T BELIEVE A CHEATER!!!!
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I have been married for 8 months, after being toghether for 4 years. The relationship went worst and worst from the 4-th day of marriage, and now we are waiting for the year to pass, so we could divorce... 0.001% satisfaction... :(