i'm driving myself crazy and i'm scared i'll drive him away. he never gives me any reason to suspect him of anything so why am i like this?? never had much luck with guys before and he is the one for me, as i am for him. he knows i'm a little jealous, but i dont wwanna be anymore!!
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I am the same way that you are, the guy I am with is the one for me as well, and we also have a baby on the way. But my jealousy and Insecurity did kind of hurt us, because things are not the same right now, and we are both trying to get back to the way we were, because we both really love each other, and do not want to lose one another, plus we want to because of the baby. I had to learn the hard way to not be that way, because he would never do anything to hurt me. So the best advice I can give you, is just dont let your jealousy get in the way, I mean it isnt going to go away, just dont let it get the best of you, because he will either change (not for the good), or he will end up leaving you. I had a bad past too, and this guy I am with is PERFECT for me, so just try your hardest to let go of your past, and tell yourself that this is your present, and can also be your future if you just let all the bad stuff go. Trust me, I do not wanna be the jealous type anymore either, but it is just something that is hard to get rid of. If he has been able to handle it this long, then he is a great guy, my boyfriend put up with it for a LONG time, but theres only so much one guy can take, so please stop while you are ahead. I hope this helps some.
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your confused b/c he's making you confused, i don't believe he's confused one bit he's just stringing you along, and you are right he is too scared, too scared to completely let go of you all he's doing is talking nonsence to you....what i think is happening here is he wants to keep you waiting for him while he 's out exploring his options, he's afraid you might find you someone else...and he won't have anybody, he doesnt want to get back with you or else he would have, i mean whats stopping him?? all he's saying is i'll just keep playing mind games with her until i find me somebody i really like....don't fall victim, i would surprise him and would tell him to just go on with his life....that you are not meant for each other...get rid of the stress and you will feel so much better.
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It's natural to feel jealous in a case like you described.....\n\nThink about the reason(s) you refused him in the first place. In time you'll get over it.\n\nBut it sounds like the guy is just looking to have himself a quick meal.....if U know what I mean.
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i think he still wants to be with you. he just seems to be a little over protective and gets jealous when u look at another guy. u should talk to him about that
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I go back to what I was told along time ago.  That is, "Trust your first instincts"  If he kicked you to the curb, then to the curb with him.  He will play with your heart.  He knows you'll always be there when he needs you.  You're better than that.  Do you really need this drama.  You know, where was he for these past 2 - 3 yrs.  Undying love....my ass.  He knows how to play with your mind and you're falling for it.  I don't mean to sound harsh, and I totally am not like this.  I guess you just touched a nerve.\n\nGood luck
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Don't let him know because I have the same problem and when I told him what I heard wasn't pretty ... He said that I broke his heart and he doesn't want i happening all over again. make him jealous of you and let him hear about you see you most of the time. If you go after him he will always be running away from you.
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He's probably too scared that you'll reject him. Let him know how you feel and see what happens!
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you need to be honest with him and with yourself, and that monster you are experiencing is called jealousy, don't let it get the best of you!
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I'm afraid you are the victim of, "hit it and quit it"! The thrill of the chase is gone for him, and he's looking for his next victim. The only thing you can do is back off, and give him space. If he comes back to you...great! If not, you have done all you could to keep him. Good Luck.
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oh you're not in an abusive relationship at all are you? he was you wrapped around his lil finger and you don't even realize it. wanna know where this is gonna go if you don't grow a back bone and leave him? you'll be dead in a ditch somewhere and it'll be his fault. if he loved you back he'd trust you enough to let you do your own s.hit without havin to make you call ever 5 f.uckin mins. you need to stop and pay attention to what your gut is tellin you bout this guy. i wouldn't be surprised if it's tellin you to leave and not look back
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I know how ya feel, I've had girlfriends who were the same-I got in trouble if I "looked" at a woman! To be honest, he loves you & is afraid of loosing you, It's what ya call "insecurity".
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Run.. Run away. Ask yourself.. Will you ever be able to trust him? Ever? \n\n-HtJ
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He's probibly just feeling very insecure and wants to make sure that you know that he values your opinion. \nIt may seem annoying, but it'd be even more annoying if he just went off and did something and you had no idea where he was, or you had something planned.\nAt least he's keeping you in mind when he's going to do something, instead of not.
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there is nothing wrong with you.Love is meant to be like that.Perhaps,possessiveness is the reason.it is normal and it happens with everyone, even i have suffered that and have been suffering.i call such category of people as "emotional fools", ofcourse, including myself......Now that you feel you are suffocating him and that you dont trust him at all, but cannot break it off, ONLY God can help you...so keep begging and praying to God.....you have to decide it by yourself -- to take him as your partner, although you don't trust him (which is dangerous;no doubt it will make ur life miserable)? or to let him go?...if you are sure that he is atleast partially interested in you and if he is single, you can make him urs, by constantly begging for his love..may be for 1yr more....never discourage urself in that case. If u think you want him still, contact me over email...i will to try help you.
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Been there and done that...not fun!  I feel for you but you have to be strong enough to GET OUT!  I had family and friends to help me out behind his back.  I planned carefully because he was smart and inquisitive, very controlling.  Get mad and smart too!  Figure out his work schedule and get it all done in a short amount of time.  Get a restraining order against him before you go so that you are somewhat protected when you leave.  Go somewhere safe where someone is with you all the time and has speed dial.  Get a plan B so that if this is not an option you have somewhere else to go.  Don't make him mad.  Above all don't let him see you are nervous.  Keep him calm and level headed until you pull it off.  Don't change your routine or compromise yourself.  Be sure to delete all "help" calls off the phone and alert the police of what you are about to do and the day and time.  You can also have the police escort you out once they know the situation if you need to do it that way.  My prayers go out with you!
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well, that is a problem I can very well relate to.. I have this boyfriend who is as over possessive as you.. he would even go to the extent of knowing what clothes I wear on a daily basis.. who I talk to at work.. and crazy things like that..he more than once threatened to kill me with his bare hands just because I sometimes failed to answer his calls, he loves me I know and I love him as much, but really.. this is a problem we have between us.. well, am lucky he's so far away and could not get his hands on me, otherwise, am sure I'd be dead by now.. hi hi hi
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it sounds like he also annoys the hell out of you! haha.... i've been there...he's in hardcore lust...if your not feeling him, tell him now, waiting makes it worse... but if you do like him and want to keep him, but want him to tone it down a bit...just sit him down and be real with him... thats really the best way to handle it...