im a very assertive and outspoken person with my friends and the people i know but when i try and just simply talk about a subject in front of my speech class i studder, begin to turn red and cant think of anything to say.... what should i do to make it easier for me to talk in front of my fellow peers?
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WHEN YOU STAND OR START SPEAKING ABOUT A PATTICULAR SUBJECT DONOT FEEL THAT YOUR WORDS ARE NOT TO THE POINT AND ONLY THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY MASTER AND THE LISNERS ARE TRYING TO GRASP SOMTHING OUT OF YOU.TRY YOU WILL GET COFIDENCE. II-THE TOPIC ON WHICH YOU WANT TO EXPLAIN MUST BE UNDER YOUR CAMMOND YOU WILL THEN FEEL THAT ALL IS IN YOUR CAMMOND INCLUDING THE AUDANCE.III- YOUR TOPIC MUST BE FULL OF EXAMPLES.TRY THOSE EXAMPLES WHICH ARE NOT EXPIRIENCED BY OTHERS AND YOU WILL GAIN CONFIDANCE.
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To give a truly great speech, you should pick a topic that you are really passionate about. When I taught, I always enjoyed the speeches that began with a question. They caught my attention and got me thinking about the topic immediately.\nRemember to do your research and present both facts and opinions. It's also good to sometimes argue both sides of the topic.\n~ Good Luck ~
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In college I did one on Saint Bernards.  For my visual, At this end of the speech I had my bf wait outside with my dog a (Saint Bernard) and he brought him in the class.  The instructor LOVED it and I got an A!\nAnyway, just give a speech on something you love, or a hobby or something.  That way you wont have any problem coming up with something to say.
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you should talk about something you like and you are good at (for example a hobby) or about an issue that really interests you. this way you won't run out of ideas and won't make embarrassing pauses.and try imagining the audience in underwear,it works :)good luck
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Teachers are there to help you - I asked my health teacher about a problem with one of my friends, and she pointed me in the right direction, so don't be scared to talk to them!\n\n**I mean my friend was having a personal problem - so I asked the teacher.... I wasn't talking like a cat fight with one of them, it was something different....
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i had this fear myself.  i took a public speaking class from a university.  speaking in front of small groups, then building up to larger groups really helped build my confidence.  speaking about something i was truly passionate about helped as well.  i constantly had to force myself to speak at some sort of public function to overcome this fear.  now i emcee large events with ease, because i have done it over and over.   if that doesn't help him, he actually may need to seek help from a professional for possible social anxity disorder.
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jus practice your speech so you know what your saying and make sure you understand it, that is the best advice to help nerves because if you do not understand what you are talking about then you are going to mess up. People say imagining the people in front of you naked is the best idea but that would just make me laugh so i suggest trying out your speech in front of friends or family first. Just don't worry to much, its only natural to be nervous. Good luck!
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In a school I went to for my GED there was, as in nearly any class, detractive students.  It was actually suggested that we tell interrupting students to be quiet, and that the teacher would not have any qualms with that.  Depending on the individual, there are numerous tacks to take.  If this person is a brat they may be acting out, and even assaulting you.  Watch for clever verbal assaults.  One of the best responses I've found is: "It's unfortunate that you feel that way!"  If that doesn't work try: "Everyone in the class knows what you're up to."  You'll be surprised how well that works!
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Here is my suggestion:\n\nTalk about something you are passionate about, and focus on the kids in the group that you really want to hear your message.  If you have something specifically for the teacher, to impress her/him, that is okay, but it won't get the points that inspiring your audience will.\n\nSo, pick a topic that you know about and want to talk about.  Maybe you have an opinion that you would love to share but don't usually have the forum or the opportunity to share.  Maybe you would just love to speak to the masses about your favorite movie.  (Some people are really into a particular movie.)  Maybe you would love to give your opinion of "Napoleon Dynamite" or "Planet of the Apes."  \n\nI think you have said that you have already chosen a topic.  Is it interesting to YOU?  Is it something that you feel passionate about?  If so, you are almost there.\n\nThen, practice, practice, practice.  Talk to yourself about it.  Talk to your baby sister.  Talk about your topic.  Run it over your tongue.  Then, pull it together into a speech.  And...  you guessed.  Practice the speech.  Did it sound okay?  Did it go from one point to another without seeming to be mixed up?  Try it again.  Practice to yourself.  You know the mirror thing?  Yup.  Practice in front of a mirror.  Don't forget to make eye contact with the part of the audience that you are particularly trying to reach.  Don't forget appropriate gestures.  Don't bite your nails.  Don't play with your buttons.  Don't put your hands in your pockets.  If there is a podium, start with your hands on the podium and lean forward to engage your audience.  Then, pull back, walk away from the podium and work the audience.  Get their attention.  Engage them.  The speech is for them.  If props are appropriate, be sure to engage your audience with the props.  Can they see the pictures, handle the items, read the charts?  Make eye contact and move the engaged person's line of vision to the item with your eyes, with gestures, by moving the item closer.\n\nGood luck.  Honestly, you can have fun with this.  Someone in your class wants to hear what you have to say.  Someone else needs to hear what you have to say.  Someone else doesn't know they will be interested until you draw them in.  That makes three people you need to reach -- and the teacher.  You have an audience in those people and others might follow. \n\nYou can do this!  You will be totally prepared!  No one will be more ready than you.\n\nEnjoy.  Stay focused!  It should be fun.  I'd love to hear your speech first hand, but it would be great to know what you get for a mark and how you feel about it when you are done!
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Are you worried that if you ask a question, you'll lose your train of thought and come off sounding like an idiot? I'm a shy person, and I used to worry that I'd that I'd start mumbling, or that people would think my question is dumb. If you're worried about being judged or you forget what you were going to ask, it might help to write questions down so when you do ask, you can read them off of your paper. Formulating a question before you ask will help you to structure your question better, and since you know exactly what you're going to ask, you won't be as shy.\nYou can also email your teacher, see him/her during office hours, find out the answer(s) to your question(s) on your own, etc.\n\nI'm shy too...I know what it's like! You're not the only one afraid to ask questions in class! :)
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FIrst off, make sure the speech is something you could say off the cuff so you are comfrortable speaking on the subject.  It's hard to talk about something if you're familiar with it and could wing it if necessary. \nPractice in front of a mirror, make sure you aren't fidgeting ro making unnecessary hand gestures.  \nPractice in front of family or friends.  If  you can laugh with them while giving the speech, it'll help break up the jitters.\nTHe more you speak it out loud, the better.  In the end remember, you may think you'[re there to impress people, but in the end they're just people who were just as bervous as you at one time.\nBREATH!!!  You can do some deep breathing exercises before you go up to speak.  Try not to focus on one person, but don't sweep the room either. I've never had a problem speaking in front of people, not because i'm oujtgoing as it is, but because I jsut remember that it's just people and I'm up there doing my best.\nTHis is my experience, but the link below could help as well.
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i was like u wen i was at ur age til now, i think, dat im 24 already. i couldn't tell a story longer than 2 sentences. and it disgusts me coz i cudnt express my self. i cant say its due to stress... but maybe u hav to improve ur social interaction. for now, u need to hav a keen observation of the society when ur goin out with ur frends. pick some ideas that u think wil help u improve ur speech and communication. and, read more books... answer som question, orally. formulate ur answer into words. thru dat i assure u it cud help u a lot. it did to me...gudluck sis!
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I have the same problem.  People always say "think b4 u talk", but that's fricking hard!  There are only a few seconds to which there is time alloted for you to think of an answer.  Then the person leaves you in the dust.  It's like a reflex...you defend yourself before anyone else has a chance to inflict another blow.  Next time, just relax yourself b4 a conversation and remind yourself not to lash out, no matter what.  Of course, you will forget to remind yourself after a while, but the next lash-out will bring you crashing back down to earth.  But for now...just apologize to the girl and explain that you didnt know what you were saying.  She should understand.  It is hard to deal with this stuff, but you will get over it.  Dont dwell on anything.
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I know how you feel. In school, I was commonly made fun of for it. What you may want to try doing is pause for a moment and think about what you are saying, even if it's something simple, like, "Where can I find the ladies room?" or something. If you do, however, end up stuttering, have a sense of humor about it, instead of getting frustrated. That, or do what Porky Pig does and think of a different word in place of the one you cant quite make out.
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Might be a tie, but I think I confuse others more--by talking too fast.  I [usually] know what I'm trying to say but am often met with blank looks because my wordsslurredtogether.  ;)
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I have the same problem, but I try to limit talking to anyone online though because thats just me. I know a lot of people tell me once you get out of high school you "break out of that shell". \n\nI am going to get a job which requires customer service and social skills though, I think if I know I have to, I'll be able to build the skill of talking a lot.\n\nIf you mumble, or stutter, or stumble on the words when you talk to people just think before you say something because I know when I try to say something really fast and then I forget I always stumble on the words lol.\n\nHope this helps :)
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If you mean how to talk in front of a crowd, I'm pretty good at it.  Just know your material, stand confidently, speak confidently, and look around at different people instead of honing in on just one person.  Here's a trick:  just pretend.  Pretend you are a good speaker and you will be.  It is sort of like an out-of-body experience.