I am moving soon and someone i care about very deeply hurt me by breaking several promises for us to hang out and do things before i left.  I care very much for him, and i Thought he cared about me and still says he does.  He said he did it becuase he didn't want to say goodbye, and didn't think i would be this hurt.\n  Now i want him to do something, anything, to make it up to me.  I don't know what it would be.  Is this something that is ok for me to feel?  How do i express these feelings to him without feeling like i am manipulating him.
212890
Just tell him you are very hurt, and leave him alone. If he wants to make it up to you, it must come from himself, not on your demand.
578254
Just let him know about how u feel about him moving away...if he decides to stay, great; but if not, don't "force" him to stay 'cause you might come off as being selfish\n\nGood Luck :)
674563
I feel absolutely nothing, none of any of what he's doing affects me at all. Who cares? Do you care? I got better things to worry about. Everything is temporary, when you're dead and gone, will any of that really matter? Think about it, then let it go.
93556
I have bad news for you: YOU are playing *him*.  He's been nothing but honest with you, and you're not being honest even with yourself.  You know how he feels, yet still keep in contact with him... because you like the attention.  He makes you feel good about yourself.  But you're only stringing him along.
203970
Tell him that you're not ready to say it and put that sort of label on your feelings. But that you feel for him. That you care about him. When my man first told me, I din't say it back. I told him That I feel for him. It made me really nervous. I told him never to say it unless he means it, because I would never say anything empty.
114550
it's hard to let someone go that you really like especially when you know they're doing you wrong. but my advice is the only way you'll have peace of mind is to let him go. maybe not so soon but you have to get it in your mind that you deserve better. once you do that you'll feel better, but when you do make that choice be prepared to get over your choice it might be hard depending on how much you liked him.
179284
reading the details he is sad but he is honest about his intention. \n\nhe is involve with someone that he feels needs him more cause she been hurt by other, the same way he had been hurt. i guess he means love relationship.\n\nanalyzing the situation, he is letting you go and wishing you the best with whom you are with right now.\n\nyou guys must be friends before that is why he can't abandon the thoughts that he still care and willing to be there for you just in case you need him. but telling you ahead of time it will be different relationship cause he is involve with another. \n\nhe sounds so lost but sincere and hurting cause you are far from him. but i guess he is telling you how he feels so you will not wait for him anymore.\n\ni hope you move on and heal your broken heart with people who loves you most..good luck..
442281
You only sacrifice dignity when you act dramatic, not victimized.  This person hurt you. There is nothing wrong with you letting them know that.  Just do so in a calm cool manner, no yelling crying or profanity. If you can keep your composure you may be able to end this unfortunate situation, with closure and feeling good about yourself.
103312
damn this sucks pretty bad . well as you said you never made her any  promises so yes you should move along .since this is going to be painful for her regardless just be really honest with her and tell her why your leaving ...exactly why ...women have a tendency to try and pick things apart too much ...if shes in some sort of denial shes gonna have a hard time understanding why your leaving her  , as long as your really clear she wont have to judge herself too  hard and wonder what she did wrong . and by all means dont let hurting her stand in the way of you being happy ...but no i dont think you necessarily think you shouldve left earlier sometimes we like to hang on too long thinking that magically things are going to falll in place but it rarely happens that way damn im blabbing hahah sorry
231054
Hi Lvy,\n    i think still ur not  accepting tht its over now , u 've some hope , m i rite ? if not , temme wats reason to remember ur past . it will effect ur coming life if ur goin to continue remembering tht person ...ya if u 've some hope and still want to continue wid him , wat ur waiting for go and tell him tht u can not live without him and ask him not to leave u ....\n   Luy u sud not love them who dun care for ur feelings and u . try to keep in mind tht its all over now and tht was ur past nuthing else .. i think ur young ....and some1 has to some in ur coming life ...think for him atleast start preparing for ur coming "SOME-ONE" . lol ...hahahah i said preparing ...i was saying tht washout ur mind and dun go after ur past .......every1 have some past and we have to forget tht ...\n   one more thing Keep Smiling .........:)\n     sorry if any of my word hurttttss
595434
if it were meant to be you would be together. if you are both in pain why don't you get together and talk? if he cares about you why isn't he doing anything about it. sometimes guys just say these things because they don't want to hurt you. it doesn't necessarily mean that they care for you in the context you are putting it. as hard as it is the less you see of this person the easier it will become. at first the pain is so intense but in time with all hurt it fades little by little everyday.
523422
In the words of Dido, "what good is it to feel it and not say it".  Tell him that you love him, it is also best to have loved and lost than never love at all.  HOWEVER, saying the words first might put him to feel that he has to now repeat the emotion to not cause hurt.  Ultimatly, love is something that is best felt than said.  You will know when it's right, if at all it is.... Good luck, and I love your view on not fearing rejection.  ;-)
15709
I have done that.  I hate to hurt someone's feelings and to say "I'm just plain tired of you" or I'm sick of your whining about everything", would do that so instead I've told him we need time apart to reevaluate our feelings. \n\nThe better way for me seems to be to say "I just don't feel we are meant for each other". "There are just too many issues we disagree on".  That seems to work without doing too much damage.\n\nIt isn't hard for me to make the decision to end a relationship because if I really want it to end, there is a reason and I just remember that reason is important to me.
131721
Yes, defiantly talk to him about how you feel.  BUT DO NOT DO IT ON-LINE.  Please go see him somewhere and sit down an find out the scoop.  If he likes you and you like him then its settled.  But, if he cant let go of you but is seeing others while so called protecting you, etc., then its time for you to let him go.  Put him on the spot and ask him directly about what he wants and let him know what you want.  PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
560894
I think that maybe you scared to say it. You don't want to let your guard down and get hurt. Whatever the case may be if you do love him you should tell him no matter how hard it is for you. Love is not something you want to let slip through your fingers because you couldn't tell him how you really feel. How badly would you be hurt if he left you? Not showing him the proper love he deserves may push him away or make him want more out of the relationship that you aren't will to give to him. I f you love him don't let him go, it will be way harder to let him go that to tell him how you really feel.
555508
The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
377810
You are certainly entitled to your feelings of loss and sorrow in this situation.  But there has to come a time when you slowly start to care much much less.  This other person will experience the very same rejection from someone else, that is a guarantee!  Personally, I feel that this person valued you enough to tell you straight from their heart.  So many people we admire take advantage of our vulnerability and use us.  Now imagine the fallout from being left after being used!  This person has honorable intentions.  Your choices are evident.  Either abide by this person's commital of friendship, or make YOUR CHOICE to abandon them due to the fact that, "it just makes you feel better." \nThat is something YOU have complete control over.  YOURSELF and NO ONE should Ever take a front seat over your very precious emotional feelings.  Fix yourself by realizing there are too many others and so little time.  Get busy.  You will also be much more attractive by staying busy.  YOU do have a life of your own.  YOU work people in when you want to! Do not give up the power of you to anyone!  Good Luck