I have a really good friend who lives in another state who is on the verge of suicide. What should I do to help this person? I live many states away, and it's not really possible for me to go and see this person, at this time. I mean I feel really bad, and i'll hold myself responsible, and feel guilty because of it. I mean this person refuses psychiatric treatment, and medication. Is there anything I can do? Please help me.
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You seam to be really funny girl! \nStay good!! Peace!
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If she commits suicide it is not your fault. It sounds like you have done everything you can to help her. Just be there for her without sacrificing your own mental health.\nDo not exhaust yourself for this woman. She has to help herself. And you don't need to be exposing your child to her. My advice would be to minimize contact, not completely, but enough that it doesn't affect you or your child, and do NOT let this woman control you. Don't let her make you feel guilty for her problems. Your first priority is your kid, and this drama could be messing him/her up psychologically. You do NOT owe your friend anything. But you do owe your child a safe stable home life.\n\nPlease ignore people who are saying she is only looking for attention. I have a bit of experience with suicide as well. And on one hand, she needs support, but on the other hand, it really sounds like you are exhausted. Be supportive of her, but don't get emotionally involved with it. Don't go out on a limb for her, there's no reason to sacrifice your own happiness(it hasn't helped you before has it?) for hers.\nPeople with suicidal tendencies tend to make many attempts before actually committing suicide. So the "if she's so serious why isn't she dead?" argument is *ahem* fatally flawed. Suicide is serious business, and I don't recommend completely abandoning her, that is not what I meant before. But you do have a child to consider in all of this, so minimum, but supportive contact would be the best. \nShe may or may not be "just seeking attention", but either way she is in serious need of mental help, and support from loved ones.\nThe site below has some insights about suicide and how you can more effectively help her and what kinds of things you should avoid saying.  It could be that she is not getting the right kind of support, because people tend to be uncomfortable with suicide and say the wrong things and make it worse. Be informed before you talk to her. Good luck.
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You're just going through a hard time right now. You wouldn't be here with out your parents and God all mighty as your creator. and you are surely loved by all of them ! if you are having suicidal thoughts PLEASE don't do anything like that. your family and friends then suffer for the rest of their life aching for you missing you and wondering WHY. I Know I have lost siblings to suicide. talk to a teacher a minister.your parents your doctor or anyone who can help you. given medication and time you will feel TONS better. Get moving as hard as that may sound get up and get busy go hang with some positive influence friends or family. do anything except sit there and let depression win. You are stronger than that.need a friend to talk to ? email me @ granpamma@yahoo.com Lots of people who don't even know you care. LIFE DOES GET BETTER !!! you are still young and haven't even got to really make your own life what you want it to be. the possibilities are endless and LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT ! if you are doing drugs or alcohol STOP IT ......that causes major depression and Life does suck when you put that kind of crap in your body ! Love to you ! I will pray for ya !Best of Luck !
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There is an organization called suicide watch.  Look them up give them a call and speak about your friend. They have there ways of checking up on the person and may even reach out to her. You are not losing out by giving them a call, that is what they are there for. If you can't find their number speak to a social worker who may have other contacts. good luck :-)
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have you talked to her since? she needs your support now more than ever! make sure to talk to her alot; she doesn't necessarily need to respond. ask her about her problems...make sure she knows you care. DON'T give advice to "fix" her problems; just show her that there's more to life! AND remind her of the people she'd be hurting (mainly you, other friends, parents, and siblings) if she decided to do it again. suicide attempts are always a very sad situation. get together with her and other friends; go walking, swimming, read a novel aloud to one another, watch a funny movie together, look at photo albums! make sure to spend QUALITY TIME with her. the next attempt she has may be interrupted by your phone call to hang out with her! good luck and keep it up! -sudo psycho...logist
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Flip the script on her...tell her you are going to kill yourself. Or like everyone else is saying she needs to go to the hospital. On a personal note...I tried to kill myself almost a year a ago. If I was not drunk I probably wouldn't have hurt myself so deeply but I cut my wrist and cut nerves, arteries, etc. I had to have surgery. The medical bills alone is enough to realize ok that was dumb. I almost lost my hand and I only have partial use of my pinky because I cut the Ulnar nerve. What I realized through all of this is I didn't want to die, I just wanted things to get better and they do I promise! I seeked help, got on medication (which I was initially against) but it helped. People love you and you will only leave them in complete and utter pain if you took your own life. (This is to relay to your friend) You only have one life that you know about...so just make the best of it because your time will come. We don't come with a re-do button but we have a chance to make our lives better. Just think if you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up. I wish you all the luck, and love! Take Care.
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First I would advise against referring this friend to mental heath care unless you believe him/her to be seriously suicidal (even then, pray about it first). From first-hand experience, I can say that doctors, no matter how well meaning, rarely can make things better, especially if they are not christian. Mental hospitals can keep patients alive, but they can't make the root problem better. Only God can do that.\n\nSecond, as someone else said, advice is not usually welcome in someone depressed, so think carefully before you speak. I can't give you any specific help except don't give general advice (for example, suggest he/she take a fifteen minute walk each morning and evening, rather than the more general, "be more active").\n\nFinally, instead of specific verses, I would suggest reading with her/him everyday if he/she will allow it. What may not strike you may be the exact key that they need. The King James Version (this is not evident in any other version) also has a soothing property in its sound arrangement which scientists have found helps to calm distress.\n\nIf he she is suicidal, I would suggest this section in which Paul describes feeling the same way:\n2 Corinthians 1:3-10, "Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;\nWho comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.\nFor as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ.\nAnd whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.\nAnd our hope of you is stedfast, knowing, that as ye are partakers of the sufferings, so shall ye be also of the consolation.\nFor we would not, brethren, have you ignorant of our trouble which came to us in Asia, that we were pressed out of measure, above strength, insomuch that we despaired even of life:\nBut we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead:\nWho delivered us from so great a death, and doth deliver: in whom we trust that he will yet deliver us;"\n\nGod bless you and help your friend.
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Suicide is no joke. I would tell his parents or close relatives/friends. If they don't do something about it, you yourself have every right to call a pscyh facility and report it and have him evaluated.
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Even I would not be happy, and I don't even know you.\n\nI am dealing with a suicide of a very close loved one. You want to know what that does to me? Nightmares. Horrible guilt - even though, intellectually, I know it's not my fault - guilt is something almost all people feel when someone in their lives kills themselves. Depression. Tears. Anger. \n\nThat's all that killing yourself would do for the people in your life. Suicide is a selfish action. I suggest that you examine your motives for it a lot more closely, because it's really more about how you feel than how they feel. And please get help.
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Tell her that you love her as a friend and if there is anything you can do to help. Trust me i thought about sucide and that helped me when my friend said that to me and made me feel loved. Tell her you don't wanna do this just think of all the people you will meat later on in your life and there r so many thing to look forward to. I hope this helped you and i wanna wish you the best of luck
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Never okay about suicide.  The fact that my heart went out to you despite not even knowing who you are I hope in some way will show you that your presence here on earth is valuable.  Life is hard.  Everyone has problems, you are not alone in that. Sometimes you can't help but thinking that you want to just throw in the towel and say the hell with everything but that is the easy way out.  Life is precious.  Millions of people everywhere in hospital beds, on battle fields, you name it, are fighting to preserve their lives right now.  You must find a reason to carry on.  Lonliness is easily cured.  Meet people, get out there. Happiness is never constant but we can't be ready to end it all when our lives aren't going as we'd like.  I am sorry that you have no wife and family and your parents are dead and that you and your siblings are not speaking and your finances aren't so good right now. But God still has a purpose for you.  You may be just what someone else needs in the form of a friend or companion.  I hope I have helped you in some way. It breaks my heart when I hear that someone has taken their own life. May God bless you and help you see the gift that you are regardless of your current circumstances. You are in my prayers.
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.Nope they wont call the cops on you. If they did nobody would ever call. You'll be totally anonymous. They're there to help people. Simple as that. Sometimes a person has nobody to talk to at all. No family or friends they feel comfortable with. Sometimes talking to a complete stranger is easier. Plus the person who answers the phone knows what they're talking about. They've either tried to commit suicide or they had someone they were close to commit suicide.\nI'm not qualified to talk to anybody about it really. My best friend did shoot himself in the head though just over 6 years ago now. So I do know from personal experience the pain he caused me and his family. He left a wife and two little girls. I didn't get a chance to help him. I had no idea it was coming. Tell your friend to deal with their pain and talk to someone so their family and friends don't have to feel it. k?\n.
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If he is talking suicide, then you need to get him help. You could call the cops in the area were he lives to go get him and take him to a local ER. The ER doc will evaluate him and committ him if needed. I hope the best for the both of you.
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I feel for you,  you sound like you are going through a terrible deppresion.   Im glad you are seeing a counsellor.  hope you continue too.   I think you need a prescription from your doctor though to help you through this.  It is so sad all the trama you have been through in such a short time.   I am not preaching but I will definetly say a prayer for you I think you might need help from every angle.   Do you have a spouse or family to talk to?\nCrying is normal but not continuous and sleeping that much is not good for you either.  You are going to have to try very hard to face this and hold yourself up and believe you can do it!\nI have had times like this and you need to get interested in something even if it is on the computer you might be able to reach out to someone else.   Please try to discourage the suicide thoughts I know it is hard but there are people who need you somewhere and that is very final.  I want nothing but the best for you so please keep in touch and let me know how you are making it through your days.       \nLife is Beautiful hon.   keep your head up and spirits higher.
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You can pray for her. Make sure that she knows tha you are there for her. Be a really good friend to her. Maybe you could talk to her on the phone a little. Maybe she could get some help, it could be from you, God, other friends, or even a counselor
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You should first tell her parents. Then get her help by telling your parents or a doctor. This is a serious problem. And I know what you are going through. My friend almost died because she tried to kill her self.
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A lot of times, people are so consumed in their own problems, they don't even realize what they are doing.  Hang in there.  I have come to realize that if we have one awesome friend, we are quite fortunate.  I am sure you still have people around you that care about you.