OK.  My boyfriend and I had been going out for 5 months.  He's my first boyfriend and we got pretty serious.  I broke up with him 2 weeks ago because I didn't want us to miss the chance of there being someone else for us out there.  I've never even had a boyfriend before, so I thought we needed a little break.  He totally took it as rejection even though I told him that I still loved him and would want to date him again.  He said that he understood and we were going to take a break for a few weeks and then get back together. All week long he tells me how I broke his heart and he cries at night for me.  I gave into him and went back out with him.  He breaks up with me a day later for another chick.  He totally lied to me about his feelings for me so he could break my heart. He broke up with her after 1 day, went back out w/ her, still says has feelings for me even though he's dating her now.  He's a total man whore, but I still love him.  Should I tell him or let him come to me?
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Find someone knew and get distracted.\n\nI know it sounds trite, but remember when your hampster (or other pet) would die and your parent's would buy you a new one to make you feel better? Well, it worked, didn't it?\n\nA new love will distract you from the pain while you heal. Next thing you know, you'll be over it.
384833
Oh my GOSH!  I literally just went through almost the exact same thing.  I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I found out about two months ago that he slept with his ex (of 4.5 years) once about three weeks into our relationship.  He was also my first and I was really religious too.  The only difference is that it was he who broke up with her.  It put a huge strain on our relationship for a while.  I eventually was able to put it behind me, but only having a million fights and eventually a sincere heart to heart, where he cried (for the second time in our relationship) and told me how hard it was for him to tell his ex that he didn't want to be with her anymore while she was crying hysterically and begging him not to leave.  I know he has never cheated on me since (we are painstakingly honest with each other).  I only share all this because I can understand how hard it must have been to break ties with someone.\n\nTry to think about if you two broke up for good.  Would you be able to let him go?  Would you maybe sleep with him for a while, not necessarily out of love, but guilt and what's comfortable?  It's really hard to break up and then be emotionally disconnected as well.  I say give him a chance.\n\nI don't know if I answered your question or not, because only you truly know what is right, but you aren't alone, at least know that much for sure.
64528
Ok!!! I think I get it. You broke up with your ex ok, you started to see this other guy but something is not right. Ok! Its not totally your fault but kinda is in away. but if you look at it this way.  He fell for you right after you broke up with your ex. When your still need to recover and think about what had happen between you and your ex. Figure things out!! RIGHT!  You really didn't need to be with him or any one. You really needed was a friend to talk to BUT (this is were its his fault)  he took that oppunity to get with you and now his all booty hurt becuase you pulled away.  He knew he was on the rebound.  If he cared enough for you he would of just left it as friends until you are ready for a relationship. So he can get the full true feeling of been in love with you.  Honestly his hurting himself because you did what was right about not let him go on knowning that there is a change for you two. But you should of been honest with him for the start.  You need to sit and talk to him and if he don't gave you that then its his lost cause.  Really if he really care for you, he would be htere as a true friend and wait a while to the time was right.  Then maybe there can be a change and things will feel right and nothing missing.  Your mind and heart is with someone else not with him.  If he can't expect that then its not your lost.  You just need to look at it if its one less person to know.  Your not a bad person for breaking it off with him. You told him what was up.  sometimes its better that way.. He'll end up talking to you matter what.  Jsut give him the space and time to cool off and then really see him for him not what was.  Maybe he was just doing it for something else who knows. Best of luck to you.
59724
he is in a comfort zone. What about you, what do you want? Think about why you broke up..Is he worth it, or can you do better than the way he treats you. Is this what you want for your future or are you just settling in your comfort zone. If he is the man you want, than just ask him, and if it is not the answer you are looking for.....move on
235358
It sounds like he may be trying to push you away in the hopes that *you* break up with *him.*  He may be too chicken to do it himself.  The problem is, is that it's affecting your self-esteem.  You don't deserve to be treated that way- being used is no fun, so don't allow it!  Think about where you see yourself in 5 years.... still in the same place???.... .don't waste any time.  Believe me, there are guys who will treat you right.  We teach people how to treat us- don't allow it anymore!!
250623
Well, do you want to get back together with him? If so, then go for it. Sometimes couples need a break from each other to find out that they really want to be together. He obviously must miss you and care about you a great deal to want to try again, so go for it!:D Good luck and I hope it all works out!
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First off, he can't be your boyfriend if he is already with his girlfriend. Right now, you are the "other woman", so to speak.\n\nI would advise walking away from him and getting on with your life. IF his relationship is as bad as he says it is, and IF he LOVES you as much as he says he does, then knowing you are getting on with your life and showing no more interest in him, might very well help him to make a choice. I wouldn't give him any ultimatums either. Just tell him you that you are moving on. If he does end things to find you again, then he was speaking the truth to you. If he doesn't, then you know he was a player...was having his cake and eating it too.\n\nKeep your self-respect and dignity by walking away. By staying while he is still with his girlfriend, you are giving him everything he wants, and you are getting nothing for yourself, except a lot of pain. You are worth much more, you know...and if he doesn't come to you single and free, then believe me, there is some great guy out there that is going to give everything of himself to you alone and no one else, cos he WILL recognise your worth!
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I think he was just trying to dump you easily. Though it sounds mean for him doing it, he was trying to be nice and blame hisself and not you for him wanting to break up. As for why he wanted to break up, I wouldn't worry about it because atleast you know it's over and you can find someone now that wants your love.\n   Good Luck.
603852
he can't keep playing you like that, telling you he's been with someone else just to make you jealous whether he's really been or not.  you do deserve better than that, someone you can put up with, someone who appreciates you, wont be with someone else or lie about being with someone else.  you need to move on, find someone who makes you happy, or maybe take a break from dating completely for a while to find out what you really want.
247027
i'm sorry about how your boyfriend is treating you. but he keeps on doing that because you allow him to.  get out of that relationship at once! believe me, it would get worse! he is simply telling you he doesn't want you anymore, so what are you waiting for? love yourself.  this relationship has not and will not in any way diminish your chances of finding happiness elsewhere. your value as a person does not depend on any man's assessment of you.
550638
Do you still love him?  If you do then I would say try again.  BUT, you need to have a serious conversation with him before you put yourself out there again.  Explain to him that you never cheated and you were offended when he just blindly believed a rumor instead of even asking your side.  This is your life and your decision, do you think he is worth your time?  Is he going to just believe anything anyone says about you?  He needs to realize that the 2 of you are the only ones in your relationship...  Hope everything works out good for you.
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And we guys can't understand you girls...but anyways, there could be a number of reasons as to why he broke up with her, and him saying that he's bored of her, he sounds like a bastard to me. I don't think that's a very good reason, and it's probably not the reason he did, but then again i don't know the guy. He might have been interested in her at the beginning, just looking for a good time, but now he's found another girl who's  different, which he finds interesting, but will get bored with. Using "I got bored" is a cheap way out, and I'm sure he uses it on all kind of girls after he's had his "fun." Obviously he doesn't love her enough to stick with her, and to talk and say, "We could make more our relationsship more interesting." I say stay away from the guy, get over it, and move on.
152427
The fact that he waited for you to break up with your former boyfriend has no bearing on who you should date now.  It is your decision, plain and simple.  I hope this helps.
597834
Send him packing, you said your self he's not ready for a relationship, this is the biggest excuse guys have to keep you hanging around, and not get serious, then when they meet someone else they make you look stupid, by saying " Hey , I told you I didn't want anything serious" so like it your fault you got attached. Go back to the other guy if you think you still have feeling for him, its obviously not true love with this guy if you miss another too.
92630
I think maybe you should take a break from this guy.  Sounds like you are the only one getting back together with him.  There is someone else out there for you.
628566
if he lies to you about everything, it s obviously no trust there. I know it s cut and dry to say this but if there s no trust, the relationship wont work anyway. It s up to you to give him another chance or not. I think you should talk to him straight forward. If you want to give him a chance, go ahead. After all that, if he s still a liar, break up w/ him. Keep in mind, at least you tried your best, if it didnt work out, too bad, you move on.
54835
It sounds like you might be the reason that he and his girlfriend broke up.  You might as well go for it.  From your question I would say that you are young, and you only get to be young once so you might as well enjoy it.