don't you feel guilty everytime you're with a married guy and are you not afraid of God's punishment?
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I am not one, but want to address your question:\n\nExodus 20:14  Thou shalt not commit adultery.\n\nLeviticus 20:10  And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.\n\nDeuteronomy 5:18  Neither shalt thou commit adultery.\n\nProverbs 6:32  But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.\n\nJeremiah 3:8  And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.\n\nJeremiah 3:9  And it came to pass through the lightness of her whoredom, that she defiled the land, and committed adultery with stones and with stocks.\n\nJeremiah 5:7  How shall I pardon thee for this? thy children have forsaken me, and sworn by them that are no gods: when I had fed them to the full, they then committed adultery, and assembled themselves by troops in the harlots' houses.\n\nJeremiah 7:9  Will ye steal, murder, and commit adultery, and swear falsely, and burn incense unto Baal, and walk after other gods whom ye know not;\n\nJeremiah 23:14  I have seen also in the prophets of Jerusalem an horrible thing: they commit adultery, and walk in lies: they strengthen also the hands of evildoers, that none doth return from his wickedness: they are all of them unto me as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah.\n\nJeremiah 29:23  Because they have committed villany in Israel, and have committed adultery with their neighbours' wives, and have spoken lying words in my name, which I have not commanded them; even I know, and am a witness, saith the LORD.\n\nEzekiel 16:32  But as a wife that committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of her husband!\n\nEzekiel 23:37  That they have committed adultery, and blood is in their hands, and with their idols have they committed adultery, and have also caused their sons, whom they bare unto me, to pass for them through the fire, to devour them.\n\nHosea 4:2  By swearing, and lying, and killing, and stealing, and committing adultery, they break out, and blood toucheth blood.\n\nHosea 4:13  They sacrifice upon the tops of the mountains, and burn incense upon the hills, under oaks and poplars and elms, because the shadow thereof is good: therefore your daughters shall commit whoredom, and your spouses shall commit adultery.\n\nHosea 4:14  I will not punish your daughters when they commit whoredom, nor your spouses when they commit adultery: for themselves are separated with whores, and they sacrifice with harlots: therefore the people that doth not understand shall fall.\n\nMatthew 5:27  Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:\n\nMatthew 5:28  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.\n\nMatthew 5:32  But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.\n\nMatthew 19:9  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.\n\nMatthew 19:18  He saith unto him, Which? Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness,\n\nMark 10:11  And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.\n\nMark 10:12  And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.\n\nMark 10:19  Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness,
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Not at all. I used to feel wierd about it, but then I met one of my pastors who is a woman. She's also a close personal friend of mine and she inspires me alot. As it is I do teach, but I would love to one day preach God's word. It would be awesome!
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GOD will forgive anyone who makes a mistake even if you kill someone. So you made a mistake by ending up with someone like that so what GOD will forgive you. I have been married 2 times myself. And only the LORD knows what kinda relationship that I was in the first time. If you wait to long and live like this you will become a cold harted person. My husband now gets upset because when we get into arguments I don't cry and they can be pretty rough sometimes. The reason why is because of my first marriage I just got to the point to where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to get out but I was getting physical abuse. It's not worth messing up your life because of a jerk. The right person will pass you by if you don't make the right move. I am so happy in this marriage and we get along so well most of the time. It has to be really bad for us to get into it. But everyone fusses and argues. Do whatever makes you happy and pray about it and GOD will lead you in the right direction. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take this as useful information. I have been there I know. And GOD understands what you are going through as well. Good luck.
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Well, when we know that a guy is married, we just got scared abouth the possible reaction of his wife, we don't want to get involved in those situations that only cause troubles 4 the couple and that everybody is hurt.\nThere's another reason: (My own experience) When two people have a friendship, even when one of them is married it doesn't necessary mean that never could happen something between them, I mean.. with the time of knowing this person U/she could fall in love or confusse the terms.\nI'm telling U this because I was in that situation, I'm not married but I live with someone since 4 years ago, I met someone, in the beginning I was just his friend and tryed to be nice, he was really nice to me too, but with the time I started to feel something really different and to see this guy not only as a friend, but also as someone who could have another kind of relationship with me, I even started to want him to make love to me..\nThat was really wrong! Nothing happened, he respected the fact I'm with someone else.\nBut my point is: is it really possible... I mean.. to be just friends?
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If he was able to do that, and with somebody so close, he will easily do it again.  If you really WANT to make it work anyway (and I'm all for forgiveness in the right circumstances), then it's up to him to do everything it takes to make you feel secure that nothing else will ever go on with anyone else. He would have to want your marriage bad enough to do that of course, because it will be alot of work on his part.\nIf he's not willing to be totally open and accountable for every action, then do not put yourself through the abuse of more affairs. He has already broken your marriage covenant, and you are not bound to him.
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Hi Josh. I'd like to take a stab at your question, because I am always interested in helping either fellow christians or woould be christians that have an open heart get closer to god in a sincere, but non-pushy way. \n\nThat being said, have you ever felt like you were in a no-win situation? Maybe even a life or death experience, where you thought there was no way out? And yet you could feel ro sense things beyond your control either rescuing you from harm's way or voices or forces pulling you to go in one direction or another that ultimately made the difference in your life?\n\nWell those are points of evidence towards God. They could be angles helping to keep you on the right path or simply preventing you from going under. Whatever the case may be, God is all around us. You can't see bacteria or the wind, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist, does it?\n\nToo often people who have lost their way or never even knew the way write off things they can't readily see or explain. I feel bad for athiests because they deny or block the love God has for them. They really enjoy being angry. These people are much like the rich: hey are consumed by material things that they can see, and yet even when they seemingly have it all they're still not happy, becuase it's never enough. God won't come to you in a box, or in the form of a house or from a steering wheel. But that doesn't mean he's not there. \n\nPlease don't let the world block out god from your heart and from your life. God is all around you, but he gave you the free will to choose to believe, so have the faith and know that whatever energy you spend on letting him into your life will not go unwasted. It never does and in the end the truth will come out and you will have been better and wiser for knowing it when you meet God someday. \n\nHope this gave you some hope.
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I used to feel that way and i tried it out.....come to find out ...i was not anything but curious.  It was fun...but that was it.  You may have to find out before you carry out your marriage.  Just so that you know for sure.  \n\nGood luck...and I am sorry you have lost God.  I pray for you.
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OK lets try and unravel this into its core components.\n\nA police officer [I am assuming] has told you that you cannot approach and/or speak to this person.\n\nYou however, feeling guilty over whatever it is that you have done, feel an overwhelming desire to be punished for your transgression.\n\nThis is a normal reaction for many people as they feel the psychological need for punishment as this provides a sense of "closure" and a shift in guilt.\n\nIn your case you actually want him to do something wrong as well, not just punish you, as this means that he cannot point the finger at you because he has done a horrible thing too.\n\nI know people will say..go to your brother first before coming to the temple...but that does not apply to you in this situation.  You harbour no ill will towards this person!  You cry out to God because your sin is before you.  \n\nGod always hears this cry and you need to focus on your relationship with God first.  This is the path to forgiveness for you, not the friend.  You need to understand that God forgives you.  Then, you may be able to forgive yourself.  Finally you may be able to approach this person and ask forgiveness.\n\nRemember, they may not want to forgive you, and that is their right.  Your peace and forgiveness with God is not dependant upon this persons responses to you, even though you did the wrong thing.\n\nGod may be workingnin that persons life too, and Gods timing is not always ours.  Also, some people just need lots of time to be able to forgive, and just because you may be in a hurry to receive it, does not mean you should hurry them up.\n\nThats why it starts with God for you, so that if this man cannot forgive you, you have peace with God that you did all you could to ask for it....and who knows, in time that might help this man to forgive you anyway.\n\nForgiveness is something you ask for from another because it gives THEM the opportunity to heal from the hurt you have done to them.....\n\nIt is never asked for to make YOU feel better about the pain and guilt that you feel for having caused it.\n\nIn your case, you cant approach this person anyway, so this is a perfect opportunity to seek a counsellor perhaps to give you some support with your feelings and how to deal with them.
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Yes, I totally relate, and now after my affair, I have the best marriage I know of ..... had a very understanding and loving hubby that just didn't know how to show his feelings, which made me feel neglected...it took some time, but now we get along better than ever....the same good luck to you!
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I'm agnostic but no I don't feel guilty, I earn my money.  Athiests should feel less guilty than a theistic theif.\n\nIt is not hypocritical either.  It is a traditional saying on our money.  We don't agree to believe in god when we get a job or sign a check.
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in my opinion no. you confess your sins to God and accept him into your heart and you are forgiven. the sins hang over your head kind of as a reminder to not do them again and that they are wrong
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you're afraid, you're afraid because you're guilty. You know you are. It wakes you up a night, your fear and guilt chase you through your dreams. You're not always sure why you feel this way, you just do. Other times you know exactly why you feel that way. And you're praying you don't get caught (silly thought that).\n\nThat prayer gets answered everytime, except not in the way you'd hope it to. God knows, God sees and he never, ever, ever forgets. His memory of your past is flawless. He sees everything you've everdone as if you were doing just now. What's more he knows the thoughts you're thinking when you act. He knows your fear and because you know that he knows you feel guilty.\n\nSo you hate him, you hate the thought of anyone having authority over you, much less someone who there is no way that you can aviod or b.s. or charm or run from. You take for granted his gifts, his patience, and most importantly his Son.\n\nI don't know what hell will be like, but it will be populated with people like you. People who are afraid and hate God. How do I know you hate God? Because you're just like me. You think you know what's best for you and want your own way most of the time. Foolish boy. How sad, and you had such potential too. To spend an eternity weeping over what could have been, understanding all that you have lost.\n\nWhy hell? it's where people like you go, you wouldn't like heaven. Everyone there is in love with Jesus, they think he's the best thing in the universe. Better than riches, better than sex, better than anything. They obey him with enthusiasm. They're working, doing jobs that they prepared for in their life on earth. They're learning, more about God and the universe that he has made. Pretty boring stuff. you wouldn't like it.\n\nBut you don't like hell either. Hell, you don't like anything, nothing satisfies you, always wanting but never having, forever and ever and ever. Oh, the pain, the loss. Why am I like this?, you cry. But there is no answer, heaven is silent to your pleas. You missed your opportunity. too late now. too late forever.\n\nWhat are you going to do?
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its really ok if u feel that kinda stuff coz now u r not being unfaithful and even ur dear husband wud ve wanted the same thing that is........ that u stay happy
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it's really suspicious that he got with her two days after your affair? sounds like something was going on before then and he was just waiting for you to mess up to set you up and make you look like the bad one for court people are vicious when there about to go to court and these two are so divorce happy it sounds like a plot to me  you were the one trying to go to therapy and do all you could for the mariage while he didn't care hmm wonder was he seeing her then probably. or are you the martyr type and you want to find a reason to blame yourself for his affair because he has always blamed you for his behavior so you now take on that role by yourself don't feel guilty honey only feel guilty you didn't get rid of him sooner those two will self destruct don't worry and if they don't you won't care you'll be to busy with  your new husband that you won't need to beg to go to marriage conseling because you'll have a good marriage by then even though you did wrong God can forgive you God probably respects you for trying to do everything to save it sounds like he never tryed he checked out before you did he'll pay for that one day while your rewarded one person can't make a marriage work so it's not your fault he wasn't willing to go to conseling or probably do anything and trust me about my prediction thats what happen to me it can happen for you the worst is behind you Godbless.
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No, why would you feel guilty? No one got hurt, right? You both enjoyed it?\n\nThe only thing you might want to think about is if you are really interested in having a serious relationship with this guy, you might want to slow down a bit.\n\nMost guys don't take "easy" women that seriously.\n\nBut you shouldn't feel guilty at all.
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I am married.  I love him and still lust him, with all my heart.  He turns me on both mentally and physically and he makes me feel like I am special in his life too by doing things for me all the time.  He's kind, gentle, honest and hard working.  He makes me laugh, he loves me unconditionally ... my heart still skips a beat when I think of him :) ... just talking about him here, makes me smile and realize how lucky I am to have my soul mate with me!!
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Nope, never.  I don't feel guilt very well, and when I do I usually just end up laying a huge guilt trip on someone else accidentally.\n\nThis morning, I kind of blew off this guy that wanted to pray for a girl who's about to get chopped up into donated organs, and then like ten minutes later, I was talking to this lady who's been stressing out about doing this speech for me that she'll be giving on a retreat for kids, only we don't have any kids signed up yet.\n\nShe said "There better be some kids by the weekend, because I'm gonna be mad if I had to do all this work and nobody shows up!"  and I was like "Yeah, me too." without even thinking about it.\n\nOnly, she's giving one talk for the retreat, and I'm supposed to be in charge of the whole thing.  God, you should have seen the look on her face!  She just about fell over appologizing to me "Oh, I'm sorry, here I am just thinking all about myself..."  I bet she still feels guilty.\n\nAnd now... umm, what question was I answering?  Oh, yeah, you're totally cheapening the whole meaning of cutting, you should stop that right away...  Well, cutting isn't good for you anyway, but, lots of people cut, and some of them lie about why they do it so people won't think they're just weird.\n\nReally, when you hurt yourself on purpose you usually feel guilty no matter what.  That's your body saying "You shouldn't be doing this."  That's a bunch of christians quoting that whole "Thy body is a temple of God" don't desecrate it bit.. and that whole "Thou shalt not tattoo thyself no scar thy body for the sake of the dead" verse.\n\nWell, I've made a good and thorough jerk of myself here, so now I'm off to ask a question about where all the trailer parks are, or something.  Then I'll go to bed, and tomorrow I'll figure out how to apply to this college that's almost two thirds women, since they seem so desperate to have me, a guy, go to school there.  Geeze, don't twist my arm or anything, huh?