Well i have a boyfriend but he goes to a different school. But there is another guy trying to get wit me at school. Hes a very sweet guy and i like him a little and we've known eachother for 4 months. The prob is that ..should i tell him if i can get to know him better, maybe get wit him in the future, but then i still have my b/friend and we have been together for a moth and 2 days, should i leave 1 and go with the other , or should i play them?
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if you have to face this dilemma one month into the relationship, you clearly aren't ready to have an actual boyfriend. have fun, get with whoever you want, just let the guys know what's going on.
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Ask yourself these questions, Do I really love my current boyfriend? Do I really like this guy in class? Would I go that low to cheat on my boyfriend but not care because he live so far away? Just think about those questions. If you would rather have a relationship w/ the boy in class, CALL* your bf and tell him that you want to take a break because your not doing so good with the distance. Then say yes to the boy in ur class. \n\n\n*break- ups over IM, or E-MAIL, anything not in person (except if u live far away) are just cheesy and shows that ur a coward
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run.  you don't need that kind of drama...\n\nWhy would you even entertain the idea of getting together with someone that is playing both of you?\n\nLeave him alone so he can decide what he wants.  IF he decides it is you, you can, at that point, decide if you want to be with someone that would play both ends of the field to see who is better.  \n\nI wouldn't want anything to do with someone that did that, personally.
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Ask yourself who is more important to you at this point in your life. Your age is not real important, but I would say that you are a younger girl, and therefore you need to ask yourself what your gut instinct is telling you. If you ask the guy out of he asks you, you are certain to loose a friend. Will the guy still be with you 1, 2, 3 years down the road? Will your friend still be your friend the same amount of time down the road if you and he are not together? Your heart and you feelings will cloud this issue. Don't follow it, follow your gut instincts, as they will lead you to a better and safer place in life.
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I think you should do what your heart says. If it is telling you that you love this guy, not a little middle school or high school crush, but actually love the guy, its a tough decision. I was in the same position about 4 months ago, but luckily it worked out for me, my friend did get over my now boyfriend. But I had to sit down and have a talk with her. I actually asked her permission to date him. I didnt want to lose a friend over a guy. It can work, and if she says its ok, then she would have no reason to be angry, but if she says no, she doesnt want you to, then just think of how akward it would be to go out with him? she would always be angry, and it would hurt her alot. What if she made a move for him without talking to u? wouldn't that hurt you? Talk to her, and really consider what you say, how you say it, and listen to what she has to say. do it when things are not rocky, or else it will go horribly wrong. It sounds to me like you two need to talk it out, and if necesary, not have either of you date him. it is weird for a while...trust me. and if she says its ok, then it may be akward for a while, but eventually she will be ok with it unless she really does like that guy. And also be sure this guy is really worth it. Trust me, if its a crush, it could ruin both friendships. just have one on one time with him and talk things out with him too. remember, comunication is key. without it, it can all splash in your face. and listening to how ur friend feels is always important, so dont blow it off, or she will be very upset. more than if u hadn't asked her in the first place. just talk to each of them one on one, get a perspective from both of them, and be sure this guy is worth it and make sure he isnt best as a best friend...make sure u want to take it to the next level. who knows, maybe u guys can be as cute of a couple as everyone claims me and my bf is...and one more thing, GOOD LUCK!!! :)
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DID THE FIRST ONE YOU LIKED KNOW YOU LIKED HIM? I ASK THIS BECAUSE IF HE KNEW YOU LIKED HIM, HE'LL KNOW YOU LIKE HIS FRIEND. MAYBE YOU SHOULD WEIGH OUT WHAT INTEREST YOU THE MOST OUT OF THE TWO AND MAKE YOUR CHOICE FROM THERE. DON'T LET EITHER OF THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL UNTIL YOU ARE SURE OF WHAT YOU WANT. WHO KNOWS MAYBE THEY ARE BOTH MEANT TO BE JUST YOUR FRIENDS.
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baby girl, he has his group of friends to deal with @ school. and i'm sure that he also has some else in mind there too. rumors will spread like a wild fire, if someone were to tell that he's talking to you. play this one with caution baby girl. sounds like a player to me.
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Well actually I would distance myself from the bf.  He is taken and no matter what you should respect that. \nThis happened to me once too. And I acted on it.  I pretty much lost a great friend.  \nBottom line is ...  Guys come and go.. but friends are the ones that stick around.\nYou need to ask yourself.. Is this guy worth your friendship?
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he makes time to see and talk to you. if he is aways talking about you in a positive way and pays more attention to you then to his friends when your around.\ni would talk to him and hang out with him to find out if he is really the person i think he is. and if so then i would go for it.(that is how i got my boyfriend)
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This is going to end badly for everybody.\n\nIf the person with whom you're cheating also knows you're cheating he probably is going to be very happy about seeing you re-commit yourself to your boyfriend, especially after having been with him for four months.  On the other hand, if the boyfriend finds out (does the other guy know him?  if so, he may tell your boyfriend about your illicit relationship)from someone other than you THAT is going to be really ugly.\n\nSo, if you want to stay with the boyfriend then tell him what's been going on, and then break it off with guy #2.
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Ok, look....it seems to me like your ex is just playing around...I mean he knows you have a boyfriend, a good guy would respect that....and if he cared about you he wouldn't be doing this to you, I mean he's confusing you everytime he tries to kiss you and when he tells you he wants you to be friends with benefits? If he cared about you, he would just try to see you as a friend, and try to move on! If you don't love the guy you're with, then talk to him, I don't think it's fair to the other guy, if you think you're slowly falling in love with the other guy, and if he's a good guy, then stay with him....you and your ex broke up for a reason right? then why bother going back? if your relationship with him didn't last you think is gonna last the second time? You're just going to get hurt that way, and in the long run you'll realize that you lost an amazin guy, and trust me once you do something, you can't really go back, only if you're lucky! But if you think you'll never love your new boyfriend, then just be honest with him, and maybe tell him to give you some time or just tell him you want to be just friends! But trust me I think you should move on and forget about your ex! I hope that helped you, just follow your heart, if your heart tells you to go back with your ex then be honest to the other guy, but my advice would be not to cheat on him, I don't think anyone deserves that!
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i personally feel that the two of you should try and stay in contact you know be friends. this way it gives you and him the chance to develop a relationship on a higher level....communication. who's to say that he is the one for you, you might find out in the long run that he wasn't the correct choice for you and because you are taking the time to get to know him mentally you will  more than likely have no regrets. and if its meant to be he'll be there for you. plus the relationship will be a strong one because you took the time to get to know each other.  lastly even though you are going away to school you do get breaks and time off to go see your love ones...this can be the time you spend with him to catch up on the time you spent apart.
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i think that guy is just playing with you. don't take him seriously he lost his chance so well it all depends on you really do u still like ur actual bf or ur willing tobreak up him to go with the other guy. dunno this is complicated.
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guy #2 obviously doesnt like you so move on. and keep guy#1 as your friend!! friends are important, maybe more important than a relationship!
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I think you should go with the guy who is closest to you because most likely the other guy is laid up with some chick and not thinking about you. Boys can manipulate you into wanting you and then drop you like a hot potatoe. Don't take my advice just follow your heart.
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Nick, I'm not going to say "ditch" this "perfect" girl but I'm going to give you something to think about.\nWhat happens if you spend all your time on this girl when you never know that there's another more deserving girl looking from behind the scenes.  And, what happens if you waste all this time on her when suddenly you two go out and you find out that she's not so "perfect" at all?  Follow the advice of others, go into the dating game for once.  Probably this "busy" "senorita" will feel jealous and at the end will feel bad that she has been spending too much time on the books and all that most of the "great guys" will be taken?  \nMaybe, just maybe, you could wait.  You two are both young there's still time after high school to pursue love.  Right now, this girl is probably worried about her future and that's why you should wait for her.  You too should be busy with the "important" stuff because hey!  I'm sure all of us people who graduated from high school are probably thinking why didn't we do our homework instead of partying and stuff?
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The fact that your attentions are on someone else makes me question the relationship with the first guy. But decide who you like better and make a definate choice. It may end up being the wrong choice, but you will learn from it and hopefully be more wise the next time.