my exposure to girls been pretty bad.  My campus has bad male to female ratio so all the girls i get to know and have interested in are all taken.  there just arent any girls left in "my world".  I am not a clubbing or partying person.  I am not the type of guy could just walk to any random girl to spark a conversation either.  i have no problem with interacting with co-workers and classmate so i am not that problematic.  I need some pointers to go outside of the campus; i know the clubbing and party hopping but like i said i am not that kind of person.  What other activities out there that i can use as a medium to meet more people?  Thanks in advance!
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The best thing for you to do is to concentrate on going places where you would hang out because it's what you like to do.. there you will find girls you have something in common with.\n\n--- Examples:\n\nSports: If you like sports get yourself to a game and chat with someone in the bleachers.\n\nMovies: If you see a girl sitting alone at a movie, find a way to chat with her.\n\nIf you like to drink coffee.. hit up a Starbucks and chat with a girl in line.\n\nEvery day there is an opportunity. Do not, and I repeat, Do not go to a club or bar to meet a girl if you do not like to go clubbing or barhopping. You need to meet a girl in an environment you like to be in or it ads to the awkwardness.\n\nA HUGE part of meeting women is having confidance. \n\nIf you feel comfortable talking to a co-worker or student, and that is what your psyche needs to be in- pretend the person you are talking to is a co worker or student. There is no need to psych yourself out and focus on the fact that the person you're talking to is a stranger that you don't know. That's half the fun of meeting people.. getting to know them!\n\nRemember this: The number one common factor in all successful relationships is that someone had the courage and confidance to say hi and start up a conversation.\n\nDo not be afraid of rejection. If a girl says no, forget about it and go find another one. Life is too short for you to worry about being shy. You need to go out there to places you like to hang out and have a good time. Chances are you'll meet someone in your everyday life... Maybe while you're at the laundromat, or the supermarket.\n\nLive your life to the fullest, be confidant always and have a good time. You only get to have each day once. In life there are no do-overs. So go out there with a big smile on your face and a huge amount of confidance, because you are a wonderful, unique individual and there is someone out there right now who is thinking about meeting you just like you are thinking about meeting her.\n\n\nGood luck finding Ms. Right! Look out for you--
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Get involved in some sort of club or committee in your school.  Volunteer in a clothes drive or something.  You are gauranteed to meet some friends that way.
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Man, I like your personal ad I am very impress. Im kind of like what you describe except I dont have any kids and I already have my degrees ...Im 34 in Chicago. I have the same problem too ,but with females. Females I run into they smoke(weed), drink and party... EVERYDAY, I cant do it EVERYDAY. I have plans and goals not to mention A JOB.I came to the conclusion probably I attract that type of woman because of the people I hang with from time to time.
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why don't you try joining a group like the college paper or a team? something that helps you and others meet new people. just make sure it's something you like, if it isn't then you wouldn't make friends that you would want to hang out with.
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I find them at the mall, coffee-shops, the strip, the beach. It should be easy to find anyone in the would as long as they have a social life.\ndon't rely on bars, most college girls are either working or studying or trying to get work and school off their minds, all night restuarnts are where my group go late at night to socialize and study while we eat.
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I am also single and don't like it.  What type of help do you want?  Some advice?  Socialize, meet new people at school, in town, etc.  Build a social network, including clubs or hobbies you have, with people your own age, and the exposure will help you meet lots of new people.  Be open and relaxed (not desperate or needy) as you introduce yourself and take things slowly.  If you are in college that is a great place to start meeting people like yourself.\nBest of luck in love to you!
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depending on what city you live in, you dont have to meet females in the club/bar, etc. you can meet people in the mall, at the library starbucks, anywhere.  work on your people skills, you'll be o'k.
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If you don't want it to be awkward, then invite a couple of guys too and make a party out of it (if you're talking about inviting multiple people at once).  If you're looking for a date, then ask your girl friends (friends who are girls).
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Trust me, bars are full of guys looking for a one nighter.  I have gone out and talked with alot of girls who went to online web sites and they told me alot of the guys were real pervs.  I don't know about eharmony though.  Maybe go someplace to meet guys like a dance class, church, take a class at a college, an exercise class, etc.
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The best advice I can give you is to try and make friends with your co-workers or neighbors.  When I moved to the city I live in now, I became great friends with my neighbors and we hang out all the time.  Also I met people through work. And have made great friends that way too.  Another idea might be to join a class with some kind of interest to you and make friends that way whether its a cooking class, an aerobics class, or an art class.  These places are great for women getting together and hanging out.  Its easy to make conversation at places like this.  Once you've started a conversation and after a few times going to a class or talking to people at work its much easier to start planning things outside of these areas to go and have a drink at a bar or catch a movie or go shopping together.  Women aren't that weird about meeting new people and accepting new friends.  It has worked for me and now I have plenty to do in my free time.  I go get my nails done with a woman from work and another friend from work and I go to have drinks now and again, and my old neighbor I mentioned, we get together and our kids hang out.  When I took classes at college I met all kinds of nice girls to hang out with and we would go to the mall or grab coffee and hang out.  There are lots of women out there just like you looking for the same thing.  I hope I helped you!
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Hey, don't sell yourself short!  Just the way you explained your situation was wonderful.  You knew what to say, your charm and energy comes through, you expressed your feelings very well, and it was as "convesational" as posted question can be.\n\nI know it can be scarier to talk to girls without your friends around, but you know what?  The girls aren't all that sure of themselves either!\n\nDon't necessarily approach someone for a conversation thinking of it as a "date conversation" - just be yourself and start talking about whatever, and as the conversation progresses you can always say you would really like to continue and would she like to go out sometime.  Be casual and don't sweat the small stuff.  Remember, she's probably as nervous as you are!  You already are the kind and funny guy who can speak up and talk to girls for dates.  Sometimes we keep ourselves from doing something simply because we're nervous about it.  Life's too short for that, and I can guarantee you that the girls are wondering what they can do to get you to ask them out!  Just relax, be yourself and you've got it made.
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How did you treat your girlfriends last year.  Trust me, if there is one thing we girls like to do, it's talk...  If you were a jerk, word has probably gotten around.  Did you move up to the high school?  You may be dealing with more  competition...older guys with cars.  I know it's frustrating, but you may just have to be friends with the girls for a while to build up your reputation.  If that doesn't work, there's always next year's incoming freshmen.  Good luck.
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Try to keep a positive outlook! Remeber that alll the other people in your year are new also, so everyone is feeling that strange 'newness' Getting involved in clubs and activities will also keep you occupied, not to mention look great on your college applications. BEst of luck and have fun.
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What are your hobbies?\nUse your hobbies as a way to meet to new people. Talk to the girls, flirt a little bit, but avoid seeming desperate. And don't go only for the most stunning girls, look for the ones that really have similar interests as you.
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Staying at home is preferred by most people, but the more active and committed outside the house you are, the more people you will meet.\nJoin some kind of local committee that you know ladies your kind would be doing. It would be an easy way of meeting new people. THEN you can organise gettogethers at your house.
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i'm sorry to say, i am also not in your age group. but what your doing is great, as for those relationships, you truly are better off, i dont know what kinda girls your dating, but girls down where i live would KILL to meet guys like you. so just keep your head up high, and dont be asamed for who you are. once again i'm sorry i'm not in your age group
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When I was in college I hung out with a guy I worked with in the library. He was about ten years older than me, and had children of his own already, but he was fun. Just get involved in campus activities, join clubs, get a campus job, chat with people in your classes. Be your charming self.