hi,i just want to ask in case that i was talking to a girl  about a prblm she have and she is just a friend and suddnly she started crying...what should i do?should i leave her crying to get every thing out from her chest?or should i try to make it easy for her??and remember she is just a friend or a coo-worker thats all. thanx
211678
LET HER GET IT ALL OUT,CRY,THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR HER ANYWAY, TRY BE ATTENTIVE AND OFFER HER SUPPORT! SHE IS OBVIOUSLY HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH THIS PROBLEM, AND YOU MUST FEEL QUIT PROUD THAT SHE'S TURNED TO YOU 4 ADVICE.SHE TRUSTS YOU, AND THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR!!!!
107921
let her know you are there for her, but leave her alone for now, you don't want to always be all up in her face, b/c u might scare her off. giver her some time alone to let her figure things out, meanwhile become friends w/ her w/out pressuring her.
215776
Tell now or deal with a lot worst later. Now with that said, is she really a friend? If so what about the female rule?
235218
I did this with one of my bf and finally my best friend said you know your my best friend and I love to hear about your life but enough is enough and I didn't even realize I was doing it and i was so glad that she let me know instead of just letting it go on. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel most likely she doesn't even really even know how often she really talks about him.
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She'll get over it.  Its better to be up front and honest like you wanted.  Tell her next time this comes up she needs to say something instead of lieing.  Remember not everyone is going to be as honest as you.  But she will get over it.
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Unless your friend is going through a really bad time at the moment it sounds like she is not a very good friend.\n\nThe crux of the matter is \na) do you treat anyone you consider a friend like this?  If you don't why tolorate it from someone else.\n\nb)  IF you stopped calling you wouldn't have a friendship.\n\nSpend the time you spend on her making some proper friends who will make an effort, call you back and show that they value you in their lives.
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first of all, i know people are going to answer MUCH differently than me, but I've been through this (more than once) with friends.\na BEST or REALLY GOOD friend, would keep the secret.  thats right.  dont blab.  if it bothers you, you need to talk to her.  ask her if you can help.  most people just do it for attention, others truly NEED the pain to stop thinking of what bothers them every day.  Some people think that theyre 'rebelling'\nAnd yes, she will hate you for telling.  Even if she does want attention, she'll still hate you.  kiss the friendship byebye. \nConfront her.  tell her it bugs you.  it scares you.  just tell her how you feel.  say that you knew that it would be better to talk to her about it than someone else.  they'll like to hear that.  it shows that they can trust you.  believe it or not, they smiled (inside) even if just for a split second.  \nDont get mad.  Don't say 'If you dont stop, i cant/wont be your friend!'  this, is also a good way to throw away a friendship.  \nDont push it.  If they say they dont want to talk about it.  Dont ask anymore.  drop it.  completely.  BUT...make sure to say that THEY can talk to YOU whenever they feel the need.  this shows trust.\n\nI hope i've helped.  But truly, don't tell.  Even if it doesnt ruin a friendship, it makes it very very awkward.  You wont be 'best' friends anymore.\n\nSORRY IF I WAS TOO BLUNT! :)
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more then anything she needs you to be there for her.  Maybe get her a journal so she can write down her feelings, it's better for people to get them out then to keep them bottled up.  My best friend loves Torrid too and I'm just getting her a gift card for there.  But again just be there for her, let her cry, vent whatever she needs to do.
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It was before they got married so tell her to drop it.and let her cry on your shoulder,until she gets it all out.it want do any good to say anything to him.they weren't married at the time ,probably just a last fling .
195000
i would just cry. go out somewhere though. have fun and you will soon forget about it.
155778
I don't think anybody else can really help you with this, brotha. It's all based on the decision you make. My advice is if you're digging her, go for her. If you want to be a jerk, go for everybody else. It's not that I'm calling you a jerk, but how do you think she would feel about the whole thing?
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Their are some people that need to hit their bottom, before they\ncan see the true light. You did the right thing trying to help your friend.\nNow the rest is up to him.\n            Be at peace with yourself, just be there if he calls out\nto you.          Sincerely,  Jerry
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You should tell her that it really pissed you off and if she wants to be a friend then she needs to not tell people your private things you share in confidence.  If she disregards your upset or request than don't waste your energy on her and  know that you can not tell her anything you don't want others to know.
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If she's really your friend I think you NEED to tell her what happend. Just tell exactly what he said about her that will make more sence to her.  She will be devestated but it's always best to know.  Just turn the situation around, would you like to know or would you like your friends to tell you. Plus is not the end of the world, she will lose her boyfriend that dosen't want to be with her anymore but that's why you are there for!
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This is a very sad situation.  It's hard to know what to do.  I guess the best you can do is to show your friend that you care about her.  This can be done in a number of ways, such as those suggested by the previous answerers, or just by hugging her, telling her you love her, and doing nice things for her.  I'm sure you'll figure out a way.
502195
awww my heart goes out to you, you sound really upset : (  If she is going through such hard time at the moment, she may need time to her self. That doesn't mean pack up your bags and go, that just means she cant handle a full on relationship at the moment. So you can be there when she needs you. And that's really all you can do. Tell her that you will wait for her and say exactly the same thing you said in the ending of your question. I am sure she is hurting just as bad as you or even worse by knowing she is hurting you. Just be there for her, Take care i hope it all works out sweetie : )
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Hi Tiera,   well it sounds like this guy is a real jerk. Not trying to be mean or anything just going by everything you said.  Now, as far as your friend goes I believe that you should stick to your guns and be there for her.  If you havent done so already,  I think you should tell her all about this guy and just prepare her for what you might think will happen. Don't try to make her break up with him per say,  but just let her know that you are telling her these things because she is your friend and you dont want to see her hurt.  Thats really all you can do at this point.  Sometimes in life in order for someone realize what they get themselves into they have to learn the hard way.  The only thing you can do is just assure her that you will be there for her no matter what.  She will appreciate you more down the road when she realizes she was wrong and you were right.  Stick to you guns hun, and dont abandon your friend because this is when she is gonna need you the most.  Good luck with everything...........