They say they're interested in you and go out with you. Call you all the time before AND after the first date. Then all of a sudden, you find they start calling less and less, replying your im's slower and slower. Almost to a point where you wonder if she means ANYTHING about the excuses she gives anymore. As if you're not supposed to realize a difference in her behavior from when things started out great until now..lol. Ladies, care to share?
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I'm sorry, but guys do the same... I know... I share your feeling... what's up with that? \nI think she doesn't want to hurt your feelings but is to shy to tell you... but hell... I have no clue... sorry. \n\nMaybe you should ask what's up? Or just forget her... but that doesn't sound like a very attractiv solution, does it? :)\nGood luck with that!
217586
I do not know what you are talking about. If a man tries to talk to you and you tell them that you are involved or not interested, you become a snob. Sometimes womwn are just not interested!!
166118
Well I'm a female, and I'll be the first to admit that women can and do send mixed signals.  Sorry!  I personally find that  tYpe liKe ThIs to be extremely annoying, but then again, maybe  she thinks it's playful.  Sounds like you are on her mind right now, who knows why.  If you want it to be more (again) then respond.  If you are over her, then be polite but don't get engaged in it.
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It's up to you, but Let me tell you a little story."there once was this girl that kept getting played by all the guys she ever been with, so she began to think it was something wrong with her and she didn't go out with guys anymore, for about a year or so, then one day she decided to go out with a guy and they had been talking for about three months, kinda like you, and then the guy asked her if she would like to date on a permanate basis, she played hard to get for about a month after that in fear of getting her heart broken, now this guy though was different from the rest, he, treated her well, told her the truth about EVERYTHIMG, NEVER KEPT A Secret from her, unless it was for a surprise or something like that, but the Guy got tired of waiting for her so one day he asked one of her friends, "Am I wasting my time, becuase I really like your friend but she's not talking to me" The girl knew then that she was about to loose this guy, one who finally was different from her usual guys, so she went out on a limb and went with him, and you know what?.................................................................................................................................Now there happily married and the girl is very happy she chose to give it one more shot"  So dont give up we as women have to hold our heads high and kept it up and never let a man, keep us from reaching our goals or dreams and Never let on idot keep you from missing out on Prince Charming. And if later on the down the line, if this guy you with doesn't work out, wipe the dust off your feet and keep steppin.
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If a guy is interested, he will call or do whatever he needs to do to get in touch with you.\n\nSounds like he's making excuses and letting YOU do all the work.\n\nJust lay back, don't call or contact him, and see what happens.  If he calls YOU, then maybe he is interested.  If not, then you know the answer.
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She is playing with you.She sounds like a real nasty if you ask me.You sound sweet there are plenty of nice girls around.Dont take her calls if she tries to call or if you see her ignore her she will soon get the message that your not playing her silly little games.:)
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If she fixes her hair/makeup a different way when she's going to be near this person, if she avoids talking about him, if she seems to show you less affection.  It's not the end of the world, it only seems like it.  I know from recent experience.
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I would say she had to be somewhat interested. She wouldn't have called after a month if she wasn't, she would have just let it go. She may just want to be friends, not sure, but, at least you know she was thinkin about you. Long distance relationships are hard, but Wish you luck.
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I know a few times that I was going on a blind date with a guy I asked a friend to call me about an hour into the date so I had an out. So yes, it is possible that a call could be a sign that they thought the date was going badly and they wanted to get out of it. \nBut on the other hand, there have been times that I have gotten true emergency phone calls during dates, and I had to rush out. It only happened a couple of times, but it can happen. The only way you really will be able to tell is if you get a call later apologizing and asking for another date. Then you will know that there really was an emergency and it wasn't a set up.
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I think it's a little weird that she was pissed when you needed to leave the next morning.  It's almost insecure.  When she cut you off on the phone it does sound like a game.  I bet she is waiting to see if you call her, not IM.  If you really like her, get over the issue of calling her place and give her a buzz. Otherwise sooner or later I'm sure she'll call you. Be careful....it seems too soon for her to be so over the top about you not staying longer.
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I have quite a few bad date stories.  But the one that takes the cake was the first guy I dated after my divorce 3 years ago.  I decided to be proactive and try the online dating format.  I corresponded with this guy for about a week and he asked me out.  I had not seen a photo (bad move on my part) but agreed to dinner. When I called him to confirm our date I got this really odd voice mail message that made reference to some obscure bible passage.  Now, please understand that I'm not what you would call religious.  My profile clearly referenced my musical tastes and what you would call "new age" interests  While I thought the voicemail thing a bit odd, I tried to maintain a positive attitude so we set up a time for us to go out.  The next night he picked me up at a friend's house and showed up in a mini-van.  Immediately, my reaction was "omg, this is not good".  I walked out to meet him at his vehicle and the inside looked like he lived in it...fast food remnants, sporting goods, etc.I knew this was no love connection but I tried to be a good sport and at least make it through dinner.  We went to a local restaurant where he started to spout off his very fundamentalist religious rhetoric.  He told me that "the government" has already developed "mobile execution stations", I think he meant that these are like the emissons testing vehicles but more sinister.  Basically he said that the end of the world is coming and people who refuse to have a bar code/mark of the beast would be executed.  He leaned into me and serious as a heart attack says "so, what are you going to do on judgement day?  Are you going to take the mark of the beast?" Needless to say "mark of the beast" is looking more appealing by the moment.  At this point, I'm thinking that this date can't get worse...but low and behold it got much worse.  There was a large group of people adjacent to us at this restaurant and were obviously celebrating a child's birthday.  There were helium balloons all over their table.  My date summons the waitress with whom he had been relentlessly flirting with and says "can I ask you a favor"?  Immediately I put two and two together and started praying "god please don't let him do what I think he is about to do"!  You guessed it...he procured a balloon and managed to suck helium and do his best Alvin and the Chipmunks impression.  I started inhaling my dinner in the hopes of getting out of there ASAP.  He managed to get the attention of the entire restaurant and then asked me out again for the next night.  I told him my to take me home and politely declined further dates.  After this fiasco I realized that dating takes a lot or work and a lot of humor.  I started giving my dates silly little nicknames.  This guy was affectionately called "Jesus Boy" by me and my friends.  This was one of many frogs I had to kiss.  Some of the others were "college professor guy whose kitchen looked like a nuclear waste dump",  "Yoga instructor that looked like Yoda" and "transvestite dude" (you figure that one out)! and countless other potential suitors.  I'm happy to say that I finally did manage to find a great guy and we both like to laugh about my very laughable dating exploits!
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so a woman posts a profile (on the internet) and a guy responds to her profile because he is interested?\n\nWell, maybe what the women found from the guy who was interested in their profile, was not something that they were interested. \n\nI personally don't think that women posting a profile for a date is desperate because it appears that this world has turned into mostly internet.  And we all have a right to chose who we want to go out with.  We don't have to go out with the first guy that posts to the profile.  We have the right to choose, because we are the ones that need to be happy also.  Not just the guy.\n\nI met my significant other through the internet and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
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I think guys just like to see how much they can get away with before they're caught.  I had a guy I was talking to and I called his house one night because he had me leaving messages on his answering machine and his wife picked up and we started talking and figured him out.  That wasn't the first time he had done it.  I just wanted to be through with it all, but she kept calling me and annoying me.  She took him back and I told her I no longer felt sorry for her and to stop calling me.
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I don't understand it myself.  I think you're right and that it's them trying to show you, "hey look at me, chicks dig me and want to be in relationships with me!  I'm not on this personals site because I can't get women..."
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If he wants to talk to you he will call. If he wants to see you again he will ask you out.\n\nDon't call him. Would you like to hear this line from him when you give him a ring? : "Oh hello there, sorry I haven't called, I've been busy" Pathetic.\n\nMy present boyfriend called me everyday and it was nice to finally find a guy who didn't play these "mind/dating" games.
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You know many things had happened to me through text msgs.....I've been called a bitch.....and an asshole dared to tell me "I've seen better".......and after that he keeps staring at me, and stalking me......so you see....text messages are very bad....\n\nWell, sometimes people do it through email, text messages, because they don't have the guts to tell you in person....Once I was dumped through the phone, that sucked as well.....Some guys are cowards, well I guess some girls do that too sometimes! Some people use that method because they think that you're probably going to throw things at them or make a scene in public or something like that....That's why is safer for some people to just do it through a text message! Or some people just do it because they're jerks! Sorry about tellin you about my "experiences," I didn't have better examples! Don't worry, a person that does something like this is not worth it...They're not even worth talking about!
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she might need time to think. dont contact her in any way you will most likely get a call or email within a day.. just guessing but women are like that and so are men so back off for awhile ok? good luck