I am writing a research paper on the dangers/benefits of dating sites. Any information or stories would be helpful.
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It's not the sites. It's the people on them. They are just a cross section of society -- no differen than a bar or the mall. If you use your head, the sites are fine. I like eHarmony best, but they can all work okay. You just have to be smart about how you approach people.
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The only con I can see to it is you have the world's lamest "how did you meet" story.\n\n"Yeah, we were in this chat room one day and our ip addresses met and... I swear, my motherboard nearly melted."\n\n"Man, the first time we webcammed! Magic!"\n\nHonestly, for that reason and that reason alone, I'm staying away from internet dating. I met my current beau in New Orleans helping with the relief effort. We're going back this summer. That's a MUCH better story, as far as I'm concerned. But hey, if it works for you, it works for you.  \n\nI don't see anything wrong with it, really, but I would say you should be careful.  Much like in the real world, you never know who you're meeting, only a little more so, because you don't have physical cues to work with.
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i know yahoo has a personals site there is also matchmaker.com and i think perfectmatch.com ...... as far as the friendfinder i kinda think that is more of a sex related site but i could be wrong. :) i never really used any of those sites those are just a few ive heard of
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www.okcupid.com is one: also, www.true.com(kind of expensive though), or www.match.com
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I don't know about 15 years ago, since I was still married then, but I am single now, and it is VERY VERY scary. People think nothing of lying about themselves, pretending they are single, or having scary diseases that you may want to avoid. They think all is fair in love and war and internet dating.
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Yes, i have.  I began dating a guy that I met through work.  He was a client.  He began calling me on my business cell and we really clicked.  I really began to care about him, but there was something I couldn't quit put my finger on.  So, I knew a PI and I began asking him questions... and then it was on.  I found out this guy was married with four children.  He was also a police officer and had been fired from jobs in the past for sexual harrassment.  Needless to say, I am VERY glad I found all of this out otherwise, who knows the mess I could have been tangled up in.
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I did eHarmony.  I signed up for three months (my subscription actually just ended today, I think).  While it was a little more expensive than I would've liked, I think it was worth it.  I was looking for a serious relationship, and shortly after I paid for the service, I met a guy on there.  We went through the guided communication (you exchange multiple choice questions, short answer questions, and a list of Must Haves and Can't Haves) before open communication, where you email through the site.  After doing that, me and this guy exchanged screennames... then phone numbers... and finally met up a couple of times.  We're not officially together, but I like to call him my "almost boyfriend" :)\n\nI was really happy with my experience at eHarmony, and I would definitely recommend it for anyone looking for a serious relationship (who's also willing to fork over the money for it).
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NEVER, NEVER, NEVER try to find a boyfriend/girlfriend on-line at your age.  It is way too dangerous.
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sure!  people make the internet out like all you're going to find is pedophiles and serial rapists, but let's be honest - the internet reaches everyone in the world, including you, including your potential soulmate!  it's no more dangerous than posting ads in the newspaper, and that's been going on for hundreds of years - because it works!
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It really depends on where you are meeting these people. Most "social networking" sites and general "dating" sites have a prevalance of fakes, wannabes and picture collectors - thus leading to the type of cautious behavior you are describing.\n\nSites like myspace.com, yahoo, etc. are not really designed for swingers.\n\nMy advice is to find an actual swingers site, and connect with other couples there.\n\nParticipate in discussion forums, and as an active member of the site and you will soon develop a reputation as a "Real" couple.\n\nSome sites even have a "Certification" system, where other couples and people who know you can "Certify" that you are real.
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cybersoulmate.com is a dating/social site that's free...and I've seen people post about plentyofish.com (I think that's it, do a search)
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I think dating sites are bs too. I hadnt had a girl friend for about 2 years and decided to get on the websites. I would send messages and never recieved any. Well after posting a question on here about dating site problems. Someone told me to be a man and go find a women. I did and it wasnt on a website.
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Online dating is regarded as a safe medium to meet other people. Thousands of people are meeting for the first time every day and incidents are few and far between. But that doesn't mean they don't exist.\n\nThe important thing is to never let your guard down and never give out too much personal information before meeting. Always be cautious and trust your instincts. \n\nMost importantly, use separate transportation to meet your date at a public place the first time that you meet.\n\nRemember to apply safety across the board. Just because a guy or gal says they are a "christian" doesn't mean you can automatically assume they are OK. There is a case in the courts now of a woman who met a man through a christian dating site and was sexually assaulted (News Article on Woman Assaulted - See Sources). Be alert always.\n\nInterestingly enough, the greatest "danger" isn't from meeting someone who may assault you, but rather meeting someone who is married, yet posing as a single person. Up to 30% of people using online dating services are married! (MSNBC, DateLists - see sources). There are some easy signs, however, to separate those who are married from those who are single. Most married men will only give a cell phone number and you will mostly get their answering machine. Most don't post a photo (they don't want someone their spouse knows seeing them and spilling the beans). Most also won't give you their last name. (Staying Clear of Married Men - See sources).\n\nUltimately, though, it is a safe medium and tens of thousands of people have met their "lifelong" mate as a result.
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I've had a positive response in the beginning with the Personal Section. Later on, I found out the man I cared for deeply, was married. I'm not using Craig's List anymore for that area, but I do for business, which has been successful for me. Question to you? Have you used Craig's List and found it to be positive? Did you meet someone and you clicked with this person?
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The only one I have ever used was True,com, and honestly I was very impressed by the caliber of women on there. It IS a little pricey, but they do a background check on everybody(which I LOVED), and I found it to be a real asset to dating. I met several nice ladies, and still see some of them on occasion...the problem honestly is not them, the problem is ME. I would recomend it very highly. They have a free trial period....you won't be sorry...or at least I wasn't!
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I think it is a good warning to young girls and even older women to be careful what info you give out to a stranger.Now if the girl is really dress like half naked,They are just attracting men too.I had a stalker,but had all my clothes on,and you never know who you are talking to on the other side.
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lmao!! good stuff\nPolice are warning all men who frequent clubs, parties & local pubs to be alert and stay cautious when offered a drink from any woman. Many females use a date rape drug on the market called "Beer." \n\n \n\nThe drug is found in liquid form and is available anywhere. It comes in \n\nbottles, cans, or from taps and in large "kegs". Beer is used by female \n\nsexual predators at parties and bars to persuade their male victims to go home and sleep with them.   A woman needs only to get a guy to consume a few units of Beer and then simply ask him home for no strings attached sex. \n\n \n\nMen are rendered helpless against this approach. After several beers, men will often succumb to the desires to sleep with horrific looking women whom they would never normally be attracted. After drinking beer, men often awaken with only hazy memories of exactly what happened to them the night before, often with just a vague feeling that "something bad" occurred. \n\n \n\nAt other times these unfortunate men are swindled out of their life's savings, in a familiar scam known as "a relationship." In extreme cases, the female may even be shrewd enough to entrap the unsuspecting male into a longer term form of servitude and punishment referred to as "marriage." Men are much more susceptible to this scam after beer is administered and sex is offered by the predatory females. \n\n \n\nPlease! Forward this warning to every male you know.   If you fall victim to this "Beer" scam and the women administering it, there are male support groups where you can discuss the details of your shocking encounter with similarly victimized men. For the support group nearest you, just look up "Golf Courses" in the phone book. \n\n \n\nFor a video to see how beer works click here, And watch her face: