His children think he is no longer alive.  They are in a lot of pain.
200872
No but my parents are getting new cabinets put in, I'll ask him if he's working there.
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Maybe nothing. Since he's been treating you like this, I don't think any word you say would carry any weight. He just won't listen or care. Try to bury the past in your heart along with your grief and hurt. It will take you a while to heal, but you will be fine. THis man is long gone, even though he's still around. I just hope that this experience will make you a stronger and more loving woman. Best wishes to you and your children.
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Really sweet of U bubbly... Gosh.. I wish I had friends like U!! May his family possess all the strength they caould muster...I dont trust in God, but I hope ur friends do recover from this ordeal of theirs.. And Hope is a strong feeling.. Hope, I will.. \nKeep me posted about their condition, if u dont mind please @ y4yogi_dilboy@yahoo.co.uk   \nGood Luck dear...
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I'll pray that god will soon help him and his family to come out of this trouble, I'll pray that soon he will be togather with his family, lots of prayers, best wishes and love form sk_chilled@yahoo.co.in. please inform me when he gets well. Don't worry he'll be saved. Trust GOD.
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In today's overly liberal society, they would suggest grief counseling, therapy, all sorts of stuff like that.  I think it's bullsh*t.  My father died last year, 4 months before his first grandson was born.  As painful as it was, I never forgot that in this life, all things happen for a reason, and everybody dies.  You will grieve.  And it will get better.  The pain you feel may seem extreme, but it's perfectly normal.  REAL pain is a kid with bone cancer, or a brain tumor.  Have faith, know he's in a better place, and celebrate his life rather than mourn for his loss.  Everybody dies sometime!
533974
There is not words, parents are always ready to go first, they never dream that they will lose there child, just be there for him, offer him support groups.  He will have to take it one step at a time. My prayers are with you and your family.
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i know this is a hard situation, but think of the kids. if he doesn't want to see them and doesn't even feed them when they go, don't send them.  it will be very difficult for them but in time they will see that he is very bad for them and they are better off without him.  kids are resilient, be strong and be there for your children and love them a little extra to fill the void in their lives they may feel at the moment.  god bless and my prayers are with you and your children.
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Yea... it is shock reaction... it takes time for the reality of the news to sink in... and mostly the hearer does not want to accept the truth and the shock state may be followed by the state of denial... when my son had his accident and lay dying... and I was told about it... it took time for me to be able to get myself together and go to the hospital to be with him as he died... This reaction that you describe is a common reation, but it will be replaced over time with the acceptance of reality....
271960
no.he was tortured and left to die
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Well, a lot of time has passed since he first got hurt, so I would say he has as much of a chance as anyone else at being ok. He should just keep an eye out for any strange symptoms in the future.
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It could be because the person who survived has to relive those moments every day, and some people cannot heal from their trauma, at least with the people who are dead are in peace.
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there is not enough info to this question.It almost sounds like someone defending themselves.Is the man married?does he have a wife that is up at night praying he comes home safe?does he have children who are without their father?If so he needs to turn to them for hes escape.god knows the men aren't the only ones suffering from this tragedy.My heart goes out to all sides of this nightmare.I couldn't judge him but in his wife's shoes...its different.
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Please know that you are in my morning prayers.  I know your pain over your losses seem unbearable, but remember that He is holding you up, and even when you don't feel Him, that is when He is closest!  It took someone else's pain to remind of that this morning and I hope and pray as you grieve your loss that you can keep that thought in your mind.  It was explained to me that we have at least forty thousand thoughts a day, and that if you can keep those thoughts positive, your body and emotion will respond.  What a man thinks in his heart, so is he, right?\n\nMay God help you thru this time, may you keep your eyes toward heaven, may God use your grandchild to bless you for years to come, and may He help you raise her in grace and gratefulness for the opportunity to serve your daughter's memory.  Father, please enable a good report from the Drs to encourage this sister in the Lord thru her trials.  May she see many blessings thru her call for prayer, strentgthen her faith and trust in You as she walks the same path we all must take for your names sake. Amen.
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I sometimes tell people to avoid telling kids that God will be coming to get them.  You then find a lot of kids being angry with God.  Just be honest and truthful.  Explain that grandpa is very sick and the doctors are doing everything they can to help him feel better.  When he dies, explain that his heart stopped beating and his lungs stopped breathing.  They can't feel anything, so they are not in pain.  (Also, if a kid was witness to a long illness, they may feel some relief with the painless statement).  Here is some helpful information on understanding a child's grief.  \nIt is also important to understand his developmental level.  At his age, he may consider death as reversible, so make sure you emphasize that grandpa can't come back.  They may also connect death to unrelated events and feel guilty.  Address that and talk about it.  They may also see death as a punishment.  Remind them that he did nothing to cause it.  Some kids may also see death as contagious, so you may want to explain that everyone dies, but most do not die until they are very old or very sick.
596575
The kids are all going to end up with toothache now because of HIM.?\nLOL
458167
Since he was born alive and has presumably survived at least a few weeks (long enough to be adpoted anyway) he isn't likely to die from it. He may be mentally retarded or have a host of other problems from it though. It's good to know he has a caring family now, and as long as he is under a doctors care and the prescribed treatments are followed, he should be able to have a good long life. Good luck to you and your family.
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was it an open casket service - perhaps you were too young and it is only now starting to come to the surface?\nOr you are just missing him