its like im still a virgin & im far from it am i just too tight? i also never have an orgasm during sex! help!
203927
I had the same problem for a long while.You need to see your doctor.My problem was that my hymen was still intact.That's the piece of skin that makes you a virgin.Mine was still intact after having two children!!It was a simple in office procedure to take care of it.
534897
It may hurt the first time but after that it shouldn't.  It is possible that you have a strong hymen that needs to be releasd by a surgical procedure.  Or you might be anticipating pain and not able to relax and lubricate well.  Try a longer foreplay and a lubricant like KY or something similar.  Take it slow so there is no tensing.  Good luck.
223312
You're not alone. I took a human sexuality course and only less than 1.5% of women are able to obtain an orgasm from penile-vaginal intercourse alone. The reason for this is that only the outer 3rd of the vagina can be stimulated, so during intercourse you're not getting much out of it. The larger part of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, as in your situation, this can be attributed to the number of nerve endings in the clitoris which are about the same as those nerve endings in the head of a penis. Some positions do offer clitoral stimulation during intercourse, you might want to consider being on top a little more that offers both sensations and can lead to orgasm, take it slowly and be patient. Good Luck.
360665
How long have you been trying? Both in the sense as to how long ago you started masturbating, and how long do you mastubate for?\n\nIf your clit is starting to hurt, then you are applying to much pressure. Just rub it lightly, you can also try using a lubricant so that your fingers just glide over it. Try vasiline, or lotion if you don't happen to have any KY around the house.\n\nAlso you need to have plenty of time, trying to rush yourself to an orgasm will always leave you frustrated.
314563
um this is really gross but try having a w'ank before sex so you arnt so excited...if you havnt had a long term girfriend its prob just lack of experience so dont give up and try not to worry...you will make a great lover one day ...more than i can say for a lot of the guys on this site!....also when you are doing it and you feel like you are about to come stop for a second to get yourself composed before you start again and maybe try just concentrating on her for ages before penetration....good luck you will be fine dont let it bother you.\nand you dont need some doctors drugs....
219450
your still a virgin all u did is stik ya finga up ya vagina u aint had the full experience yet
279490
Your vagina is screaming out "save me for the right one"\nI wish mine screamed that.\nIt's happening because you're still a virgin, and the muscules are so tight. \nI suggest waiting until you find a guy who will love you and not pressure you for sex, then have him go easy on you, use a condom and lubricant. Have him go really slow. It'll be easy once you relax, and i think you're not relaxed because you maybe thinking to yourself that "it's not the right guy".
549106
your not a loser for being a virgin.  Machoism is over rated and normally held in high regards by idiots, morons, and ignorate people who just accept machoism as the one truth in life.  At most no sex can cause sexual frustration or even over whelming curiousity about how sex feels like.  I lost my virginity to a prositute not because I wanted to be a man.  But because my curiousity was driving me nuts.  I am also bit of a odd ball so I suggest to wait for a girl you like before losiing it.  It would probly feel better then my experience.  My experience only lead to my thinking whether meaning ful sex feels better then hollow sex.  If you dont want to be a virgin forever start dating.  If your having trouble with that read books on the subject.  Hopefully you will have better luck then me.  Well good luck
273263
Could be a number of things. Your man may not know how to please you, but that shouldn't be such a problem. more of an issue is probably that you don;t know how to please yourself, so you can;t tell him what to do. Many women NEVER have orgasms from actual intercourse, only through oral sex or masturbation. Many women just don't feel comfortable taking their time - especially if their partners are quick to come and roll over. You may just not be relaxed enough with men yet, unable to really let go and feeeel sex instead of thinking about what to do or how you look doing it. I suggest that you start masturbating and figuring out how to achieve orgasm on your own. If you do have a partner right now and want to come during se with him, buy a vibrator and use it together. It can give him a lot of pleasure too :-) On the whole, don;t worry, you'll figure it out. Experiment and have fun with it, the rest will follow.
612271
Okay, first of all, neither one of you are virgins anymore.  Once there's penile penetration of the vagina, the virgin era is over.  As for how you can make it less painful, lubricants & lots of foreplay will work.  You were probably too nervous to be turned on enough for penetration.  Definitely increase the foreplay, & have him either give you oral or masturbate you until you have an orgasm before entering you, or at least until you feel well-lubricated.  Try the link below for more information.
492459
make sure she has been satsfied through foreplay first...then, if it's the first time with someone new, you can blame it on the fact that you were so turned on by her orgasm that you couldn't hold back, you tried, but you just couldn't help it, she turned you on so much!  That way she'll only be slightly disappointed rather than left wanting.\nSpeak to someone at a sex store for products that will help you last longer or desensitize you so you don't *** so early.  Also, slow it down buddy, good things are worth waiting for...so take your time, and once you feel it building....stop! and wait for your body to settle down again.  It might take a while to understand that the building point and the point of no return are two totally different things.\nAnyhow, rest easy knowing that many girls have experienced this and we're just fine, life does go on.  It's a learning process, so you'll have to study up and possibly get some new things from your trip to the toy store that'll help ya out.  Good luck, and have fun, slowly...remember it's not a race...but you should still let her fininsh first.
168909
No. I'm not a virgin. I lost my virginity at 15. It was not a good experience. I was with someone I loved, someone I'm still with to this day (over a year later). But I wasn't ready. In truth, I didn't really know what was happening until it was too late. Don't get me wrong, I knew what sex was. I just didn't know we were going to have it. Lol. I felt pressured. He was 18 and extremely experienced. And when I say extremely, I mean he'd been with 33 girls before me. I also didn't like the WAY it happened. There were no candles, no soft music. Just a movie playing. And it was rushed and tense because my grandparents were in the other room. So if you're thinking about having sex for the first time, loving the person's not the only thing you have to worry about. Make sure you're completely comfortable with the idea. Make sure you're alone and you use protection. (Which I didn't.) Plan ahead of time. And make it special. Remember, you only get one first time.
88990
Other people already mentioned:  the hymen could break a thousand different ways without sex.  Lack of hymen doesn' mean that she isn't a virgin.\n\nTightness is a factor of genetics, previous sex/childbirth, and/or exercise.  A virgin could be extremely "loose" or "tight".  It depends on the person.  Bleeding may or may not happen.\n\nPain is not a factor.  If you are causing her pain, then she just might be too tight for you, may be nervous and tensing her muscles too much,, too dry, etc....  Also, if you care causing her pain... you are doing something wrong.\n\nIn short, the best way to tell is to trust the woman and have her tell you.  If you think she would lie to you, then why do you care if she is a virgin or not?
197186
if you didnt have sexual intercourse then you are still a virgin. No doctor needed thats the answer :) xx
258511
Nope......you're still a virgin.  Hand jobs and fingering aren't sex.  They are great thing sto do to lead up to sex though.\n\nAnyhow, keep that in mind for later, k?  Since you asked you probably need to educate youself some more before going through with doing anything more.  Just a thought!
540850
Try to make sure that you are ready.\nEmotionally ready, that you trust the person you are with. The man needs to be gentle and stop if it hurts.  You should not even try unless your vulva are swollen engorged) and you are really well lubricated.  Try having him give you oral sex first.\nIt doesn't have to hurt but you have to be willing to stop and try again another time if you are uncomfortable.  Be patient with yourself.
497848
No, it doesn't mean that you are on the verge of doing anything. Virgin was a term used for as long as there has been civilization. Basically you haven't had any type of sexual encounter, and oral sex is still sex! You should wait til you are ready, and make sure you do it with the right person, my friends did that and they regret it to this day.