My guy wants a three some. I want to just be with a female by myself just to say I've tried it. Should i tell him or just let it be the three of us.Plus I'm not even sure who to ask a friend or a stranger. We don't swing just want to experiment.
203365
I think you should think about this very carefully....would you want your man touching somebody else in your presence? I have "experimented" with other women in my past, but if my current Bf asked me to do that, I do not think I could. I was also single at the time, so that made it a little easier for me. As for finding a stranger, noooo... I suggest you find somebody you know who is willing to try it. I really don't know what to tell you, just make sure whatever you choose, you are very comfortable with it.
36944
You seem to me to be a confused young lady. You want the guy b/c you feel threatened by other girls that they may makke the first move and take him from you. Young men say alot of things in front of peers to act macho that they wouldn't try alone.He may say to his buddies, "I would really like to see her naked", but in reality he would be scared or embarrassed. Given your age, I would advise you to hold off on offering anyone sex just yet. Especially since it seems like it is a game to you to try to win the boy over from another girl. You don't "HAVE TO" have sex because "EVERYONE" is doing it. Most young adults who say they are really aren't. Please save yourself for someone who truly, deeply cares and respects you b/c once you lose it, it is gone.
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Just start having sex, if she interferes again, ask is she wants to join in. IF she says no, she'll leave you alone, if she says yes, then just go with it and have a 3some and lots of fun.  You wouldn't be the first person to have sex with their sister.
147812
Ok, in my opinion the answers that you have gotten thus far are really cliché! This is coming from someone who has been there, done that, and my fiancé and I are still happily engaged.\n First, let me say that threesomes ARE risky. NEVER try to use a threesome to fix anything wrong in a relationship. If there you are already having issue, it will just amplify it!\n However, it does not sound like that is the case in your relationship. It sounds, from what little you wrote, that you have a healthy relationship and this other woman is putting these thoughts into your head. \n Here is what I would advise. First, find out if your wife is interested. Bring it up when you have not seen your friend in a day or two, and do NOT mention the friend. The reason is that if you do mention the other woman, and your wife does not want to do it, she will never trust you or her friend again, regardless of your intentions. \n Now, if she is interested, the next thing that you need to say to her is that it is an interesting idea, kind of a turn on, but you don't think you could actually go through with it. This may not be 100% the truth, but the fact is if you seem eager then she is going to react very negatively. Let her lead the way. If she is interested, once you have broached the subject, it will come up again. Try to avoid suggesting the friend, let your wife do so. Basically, you want this to all be her idea. The reason is that when it is done she is more likely then you to have issues with it, and if she feels that it was her idea then she probably won't. If she feels that you in any way pushed her into it, however, and there are any regrets, they will lead to resentment, gutanteed!\n Next, if you do decide to do this, set boundaries. Talk about what you are both comfortable with. If you cannot talk about this in detail without arguing, then don't do the deed!!\n In the heat of the moment, make sure you stick to the boundaries. You can always discuss them afterwards, and relax them in any future encounters.\n Finally, try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for your wife. If you and the other woman both concentrate primarily on your wife's pleasure, she is much more likely to enjoy the experience, and you are much more likely to have a repeat.\n Good luck!!
182301
Forget it. Surprise him by NOT doing a threesome. He doesn't care one way or the other. So why would you even consider it??
147528
See if they fancy a threesome.  You win!!
40202
Well, his message sounds so overtly loving that it really may just be a sister-like friendship.  If you've already talked to him about it to show your care, which is a good thing, how about getting to know the friend better?  After all, if she's like a sister, and you two have been dating that long, it would make sense that he'd want you and the friend to become friends, too.  He probably wants the friend to like you as much as he does and secretly get her approval.  If he gets very uncomfortable with the idea of you and the girl getting close or hanging out, maybe there's something more to worry about.  In the meantime, it might be fun to get to know her.  And honestly, if the three of you are hanging out and then your guy goes home with YOU, you'll feel that little win inside.  Also, he might talk about you to her just as much as he does about her to you, so there's a happy possibility.
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Why dont you just ASK her to have a threesome or ask her what she thinks about a threesome? It's wrong if you have to be sneaky about. If all three are game, then not wrong at all. Don't worry about what others think about your morals. They are not you and don't live your life, but in order not to lose a friend, I would suggest just being up front about it.
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Sounds like you need to explore and learn more about yourself to satisfy your curiosity.  I believe two females can please each other quite well...just as well as a man.  If you like her more than being with a man, then fine.  Who's to say what your preferences are supposed to be?  Like the rest of us, you are just human.  It's for you to decide.  You don't need to label yourself as gay or anything.  You are just you.  Cheating is a matter of personal beliefs, but some might see it that way.  My feeling is that if you are truly wanting to try, then find an equally curious friend and just enjoy each others company and see where it goes.  You can just take one day at a time.  Relax & enjoy!\n\nBecause you are unsure of your feelings about all this right now.  I'd just keep it to yourself until you have a better sense of how your really feel.  Even after your additional details, I don't recommend bringing him into the mix right now.  Like you mentioned, too many things can go wrong.  No need to stir the pot right now.  Better to keep this a private matter for now.  If things progress, there will be plenty of time to tell him your thoughts and feelings if need be.
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never.....that is foul. If the person you're in a relationship with  wants to have a threesome with you and another man, he doesn't respect/care about you...I wouldn't go with my wife to a male strip club b/c she wouldn't be going in the first place.  Also if a man is willing to do these things he must be bisexual.
357891
A relationship, regardless of gender, is a commitment between TWO people. If your commitment is not with your b/f, then you may have to look at the fact that it may not last. If he isn't giving you the attention he used to, before that threesome, is that attention going elsewhere? You may find that your hiding in the closet has left you blinded to other things that may very well be going on right in front of you. If you are wanting to be bi-sexual, or pursue the female-female relationship angle, you may find that the closet is more to your preference. Not saying that you are a lesbian, but an emotional tie has the same impact, regardless of gender. You can love somebody, and still not be IN love with them. Have your feelings towards your b/f changed since the threesome? Do you find yourself wanting to investigate that aspect of sex more now? Being confused is not always a bad thing, as you tend to grow up as you figure the different aspects out for yourself. The main question you really need to answer is, what is it that YOU want most..... and how hard are you willing to fight for it? If it's the b/f, talk to him openly, and let him know that you are wanting more physical contact with him, and that you miss the intimacy that you once had. See what happens. Good luck!!
616794
My gf and I enjoy doing this.  Sometimes, when we are having a threeway, it is really hot to share with another guy or woman.
430018
Three is nothing wrong with a little kinky foreplay.  I do what my husband asks, and he likewise, to keep our marriage exciting.  I think you should tell your wife, ask her to play along with you - what have you got to lose?  If she loves you, she wants you to be happy in bed.  Thats the key to keeping yourself from asking the question  "SHould I cheat on my wife?"
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My God girl go for it. That is exactly what I went through and now I've never been so happy.  I had been curious since I was 13 though.\n\nThe fact you flirt is cool but you know that you shouldn't take it any further if it isn't completely amicable. There are two other people in the equation.\n\nI always felt more comfortable with my partner than anyone else but the timing is also an issue. My advice is if you are comfortable with chicks don't change.
193052
Most men want a threesome.  I think you need to have a long talk about why you don't like the idea, and why he wants another woman.  Inviting others over for group play can wreck a marriage if the marriage isn't 100% sound.  If there are no hidden agendas, jealousy, marital problems, homophobia, group play offers a new dimension of pleasure to love-making.  \n\nIf both of you are not completely happy and secure in your marriage, I would advise against it.  But please don't reject his fantasy outright.  \n\nIf you do decide to do it, you pick the girl, make all of the arrangements, discuss ground rules and get a hotel room.  You are granting his biggest fantasy, keep control of the situaton.
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All of them would be nice. I guess it dependes on your mood and how needy you are. I'm very romantic, but if he does something that gets totally under my skin, i can get a horny attack:). \nI would love to try a 3some in all combinations (2 men, 2 women, 1 guy+1 woman) but most of my fantsies have come true cuz i have a great boyfriend and that is sex with blindfolds and/or handcuffs and on the back seats of the car...it's great doing it outdoors too as long as you don't get caught. It's just the constant not-knowing if someone is or not coming by - that's a big turn on. Among other really sexy things here's what i reccomend:eating ice cream, melted chocolate or cream of your partner's body and an oil-massage or just trying different poses form kamasutra or watching pornography together.
202067
threesome. threesome. threesome.....oh crap, does that last remark imply you are in MIDDLE SCHOOL???? OK, forget my irresponsible threesome nonsense. Forget about this guy, keep your friend, and look for another guy.