Porn together is okay but, I am talking about a husband who 'just looks' at it.
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I don't really care\n\na long as he isnt looking at it 8 hours a day, spending the grocery budget on films and websites, looking at kiddy/animal porn or neglecting his real sex life or something unreasonable then theres no harm done.
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No you are not overreacting.  Obviosuly this will not be a very popular answer, but whether it is "natural" for men to want to look at porn or not, doesn't mean it is okay.  First of all, pornography is dehumanizing because those women are not being appreciated as human beings, but as sex images.  They are photographed so that people can lust after them secretly without actually "doing" anything.  Secondly, since you are his wife, I'm sure it bothers you that he looks at porn!   You are his WIFE-the one he is to cherish above all others.  I don't say this to condemn him, but if he spends time looking at other women's bodies besides than yours, then it is is not putting you first.  He is getting his sexual graitiication elsewhere.  I think it might be helpful to find out why he feels the need to dabble in this.  Does it help his self esteem?  Is he bored?  Explain to him how it makes you feel and that you are willing to work on this with him.(?)   I don't want to step over any bounderies here, but MAYBE you could even offer that if he'll make an effort to stop, you'll make a conscious effort to make it worth his while  more often, if you know what I mean;).  I hear Victoria's Secret sells some fancy lacy sleepwear. ;)
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i think u should definitely watch porn together. me and my husband use to do and i can assure u it makes sex a lot more funny ;)
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Who cares?  Maybe he's just thinking about getting off.  That's what I think about when I masterbate.  As long as he has sex with me and is faithful, I don't care what my hubby thinks about when he jerks off.
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No shrink is needed. You've just gotta stop lusting over your mother in law and respect your wife. You're probably looking at porn at times when you should be enjoying that wife of yours. And if you keep masturbating your ability to please your wife sexualy for more than 2Min's will be a shock. Ever heard of the term minute man. Hope you wise up. You are not attracted to her. Is she married? Would you be asking this question if she was? You're young aren't you? Come on dude grow up!
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What ever you do dont show him porn...
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This is a classic example of what porn can do to a marriage and people. Everyone thinks it is so harmless and even suggests that they see nothing wrong with sharing it with their mate as it is not really cheating. I think they are wrong because people do get addicted to it, and marriages have been ruined because of it. If you and your husband are not religious, this may be a time to find a church to go to. I know I will get thumbs down suggesting it, but you both must have morals or you wouldn`t be caring about what this has done to your marriage and would go and file for divorce. If you do not want to go to church, as least pray together so that you can heal and find forgiveness. Do you workbooks, and do not give up on one another. If he has cried and admitted to you he did something wrong, I honestly think he is sorry to have hurt you so deeply. Please forgive him, as this will set you free of the pain that it is causing you, and it will encourge him to be a better husband to you. Good luck, and God bless you both.
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I think the guy thinks that the experience is going to be some sex filled orgy type fantasy thing, but in reality, it's not. If you are uncomfortable with any of it, it won't go over well, tell your husband to imagine how he would feel if he had to watch you with another guy, because that is what you are going to have to do, watch him with another woman being intimate. I saw a couple break up after they "experimented" with a threesome. He was all for it, she thought she was, but I don't think she could handle what I put up there. It just really depends on YOU, not your husband, just because he wants it, doesn't mean that you have to do it.
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Woah this is a big one.  1st of all i'm female and don't agree with men treating women like meat. (I'm sure if a girl told her father she was a porn star he wouldn't be too proud.) Now, if this girl's bf cares about her the same way she cares about him, he would stop looking at porn out of respect for her reasons.  Maybe she needs to find someone a little more caring to her opinions.
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It's funny sex and love are two different things. I'm sure he isnt trying to hurt you,but he is insensitive to your feelings. You should tell him what you want...not what you don't want. Part of being satisfied is rolling with what turns your partner on so they are satisfied. It's much easier to get yourself off if your partner is happy. Not to reward him for being selfish, but I would give a good acting job just once to see how he reacts if YOU are the one that is getting off to porn.
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I like it when my hubby is horny but when someone else is, it kinda disturbs me.
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Ask yourself how you would feel if your wife was admiring the bulge in another mans pants while out with you.  It is not wrong to LOOK at another woman or admire another body part BUT damnit you dont do this while with your mate.  Its respectful.
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I am not sure i understand you, but if i do the problem was him looking at porn...r u not good enough. It depends on who he is. Soe men just like porn. I am not saying weather it is right or not. But if you make it a forbidden fruit it can only get worse. Try praying about it....\n\nI have been overweight before and I would help you if you needed tips to loose weight in a healthy way. :)
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You're just not fulfilling his fantasies, he's using porn to try to get his imaginations to come to life...............be grateful he's not running off to someone else who will.  Porn is far better alternative than cheating or leaving all together.  To be honest, porn is quite healthy for a relationship.
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I totally know that knot you are describing. I think lots of men do look at porn but I wouldn't say all. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough or anything and it should only really be a problem when he turns you down for sex and turns to porn instead. Talk to him calmly and ask him why, but try not to act like a mother scolding a wayward child. Hope that helps. Take care of you.
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I'd tell him to lay off the porn, and tell him he's got the real live thing right here, and to choose. Me or your porn. If he can get off with porn, but not with you, then the guy has some very serious issues.
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You can approach this with the knowledge that he is probably not cheating as porn fills that need to go outside the home. Guys are hardwired to have multiple partners and often porn fills that need. \nThe other over riding truth is men have the ability to view women in porn very differently than they view their wives. You , as wife, are the bastion of decency and honor not some cheap hussy who would appear on video. Therefore the women in film are in no way a comparison to you. Nor do we want them to be.  They are tawdry lust, you are our wives. Whether this makes you feel any better may be debatable. \nI think that, in a quiet moment , you explain what you discovered.\nTell him it disturbed you more than you thought it would, just as you did here.  Talk about your feelings instead of what he did which take the accusations out of the loop.\nIf you have not perceived some lack of affection or loss of sexual contact you can rest that it is not about you. The women there are detached objects which do things we would not request from our wives. They don't say no. They always make noise. They don't require affection. Consideration for them is not an issue. Unless he is hung like the proverbial horse the guys are not like him either.\nAsk him if there is something they do that he is missing with you.\nApart from frequency I'll bet he does not name much.\n\nGood Luck\n\nWomen view sex as a statement of intimacy. Men view sex with their wives like that sometimes. There are times when it is about release, plain and simple. It is release without dealing with any requirement to consider the feelings of anyone except themselves. There is a component which says just do it and requires no effort. I'll wager ther are few wives who would deal with the amount of sexual encounters required to totally deal with that because what goes with that is Wham Bam Thank You Mamm.  So unless its affecting your time together it is not about you. \nBTW the addiction thing is wrong too.