i have been with my current bf for almost a yr and he's talking marriage and kids. i'm only 23! plus i've only been with him for less than a yr!!! i'm still in love with my ex and we were together for 3and a half years prior to breaking up. he's not thinking of marriage until about his late 20's and he still has law school to attend in the near future. i would like to settle down some time soon , but not THAT soon. should i just say forget both of them or pick one?
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First off, you need to go with your heart. What ever is meant to be will happen. If you have ANY doubts what so ever about your current boyfriend, DO NOT GET MARRIED! You will regret it sooner or later. And if you are in love with your ex and can see it working...go for it sweetie, don't lose him again!
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If he's threatening custody issues, get a lawyer and work it out for the sake of your child. I think you might be wise to take a break from your love life to deal with your ex and child before deciding to fall in love with another ex.
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Nomad is very right!  But if your separation was just heat of the moment, I reckon the second time will be sweeter.  I believe in 2nd chances and if yous can work it out and start again, things will be stronger.  I would love to be in your ex bf's shoes, as for now, my situation with my spouse is near over and final.  But through this, you'll be a better person/lover, if not for your x bf, your next bf.  Good luck and best wishes!
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No, you're not too young.  You are also engaged which is not a commitment that is taken lightly, so if you have both eneterd into the engagement with the view that you will be with each other for life...then you have really just sped up the inevitable - congratulations!
12623
Go for it. Your ex should not have any say over who you date. That's why it's called "ex."
52416
I agree with Miss Marie. You don't know what you want. And dont try to be committed while trying to figure it all out. Maybe your ex was just a lustful thing. Just make a list out and weigh the pros and cons of each...
457127
go with both dude... it is not realistic to think that you'll be with 1 person your whole life, might as well get a head start
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It's difficult to decide in this situation.  Do you move on and forward in a new relationship, or go back to the old familiar one?\n\nIt all depends on why your old relationship ended.  If it was mutual, you have to ask yourself why.  If it was that good, why did it end at all?  On the other hand, if it was just a hiccup, and it's really meant to be with you two, then perhaps you should give it another try.\n\nI think deep down you know which one you want to choose, but you are afraid of the consequences, and making the wrong choice.  Sometimes you have to just take a risk and go for it!
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Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
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I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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Follow your gut instincts. It will guide you to making the right decision. Re-evaluate your whole life together. Has there been more good than bad or vise versa. Are you happy and content everyday? Do you constantly have to think about your future with him? 7 years is a long time. But sometimes it isn't healthy to just stay in the relationship because of the kids and especially if you did not bore them. People can be very hard-headed and have a one track mind. If you are constantly having to argue with him and tell him how committed you are to him and the marriage and it doesn't get through to him then you, as a woman, have to figure that one out. It is a no brainer. Some people are just really damaged by their past. If talking one on one to each other for 7 years doesn't help and counseling failed, then sometimes you just need to do what you have to do. Life will go on and it will not be the end of the world. Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side. Re-evalute and think about it. Follow your gut instincts.
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Of course you can ask them that is not your problem.  Personally, I think that 20 is too young to get married. I'm not saying it hasn't worked for other people but you seem to be going in an exciting direction.  Are you ready to get married I mean really prepared because if you are planning on taking it seriously it is a big responsibility.  Just being legally old enough doesn't make doing something right. Like teenagers having babies before they are independently responsible.  If he is not ready then he is not. Your life is not going to end it will just hurt. I have to tell you though,life will go on you never know maybe you fall away and get back together.  If you are meant to be it will happen you have to trust that.  Anybody is going to find being away for 3 yeas hard that is common sense.  You don't have 2 situations like get an education or stay and marry your boyfriend.  Just go on with the long distance relationship.  I assume your bf has finished school.  If he feels the same way as you maybe he will move near your school to be near. Maybe he won't . Either way you will survive. You can't predict the future you can only do what is right for your life now and let the chips fall where they may.
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it is difficult because you are making it difficult. you are still obsessing over the idea if you should trust him or not and you should not! he can do the talk but can he walk the walk? i dont think so from what it seems! he seems as though he is playing both you and his ex and he is telling you that he wants to be with you just because that is what you want to hear! if he actually would love you he would act on other better terms and not like a jerk who wants his cake and to eat it too! i have broken up with my bf and so has he with me but none of us have talked with our ex's or tried to play the other person since we are both with our ex's-we are 22 and almost 24! i would not accept this guy's behavior no matter how much you love him since he obviously is not mature enough for you, your needs, his actions or his behavior! he thinks that playing with people's minds is fun, therefore he does not know and i think that this guy at some point will surprise you by cheating on you! do not accept him and all his drama into your life but rather focus on what you have and how young you are as well as that time will not  not come a second time around as well as how you should take care of yourself first and be in a healthy relationship! this relationship from what i can make out of it is not the best relationship so you might want to rethink it and make yourself happy with someone who can take care of you and knows what he wants out of life as well as treating you better than this! if you go back with this guy you are headed for splitsville another couple of times as well as more tension, lack of trust and frustration building! i have given you the info from personal experiences and i hope that at least you consider some of them!
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just one word of advice! You sound young, i got married at 19, and am about to get divorced (i'm 20) we rushed into things wayyyyy too fast. We barely knew each other well enough to move in together and be married. Take things slow! Stay engaged awhile!
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you should just tell him that you need some time to think about the way things are going. take a break from the relationship. maybe after you leave him for a lil bit,  you'll start missing him, and that may get your ex out for good. and if you say there's no chance with you and your ex, then it's better for you to look for a way to just forget about him, that's only gonna hold you back.
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personally i would say no, you hardly know him after 3 months, trust me i speak from personal experience (yes i did end up divorced) you will still be in the infatuation stage of your relationship, wait a year or two then think about it for a while but rely on your own instincts not on anyone elses opinion. It is you that will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life (hopefully). Just for the record I have been married to my second wife for six years and we have two great kids and no regrets!
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stick with the 1st one, love is not disposable . if you go for the second then you hurt the first which it sounds like you dont want. are you too young to make the move to marriage because of age if so just wait until after your old enough. you'd be marrying him not the mother and after words tell her to mind her own business. later you may find the second one is not the one he seems to be.