Are you and your spouse friends who talk about everything and go out and have fun?  Or do you have separate lives where you do your own thing?  Do you have a date night, or certain traditions to keep your bond strong?  How long have you been married and do you have kids?
203447
I met my husband in 10th grade in highschool and we have been together 22 years now!  We have one 15 year old son.  He is not only my husband and lover he is my best friend in life!  We do absolutely everything together!  Shop, cook, mall. EVERYTHING!  Its just no fun without him!!!!!!  Alot of people think we're crazy cuz alot of married people cannot wait to get away from each other and we r counting the seconds until we CAN be together!  I cannot even sleep at night unless some part of his body is touching mine.  Even if its just his toe touching my toe- I can sleep!  Otherwise I feel as if a part of me is misssing.  We do go out once a week by ourselves to do many different things.  Dinner out, movies, bowling, window shopping, we have not missed date night for atleast 10 years!  Its so important to us and our marriage that we do make time for alone time!  Every night as Im falling asleep he will hold me close and stroke my hair until I fall asleep.  Im not sure why that makes me feel so safe but it does!!!!!  I think I would surely die without this man in my life!!!
109319
Lifetime partner? That's kinda flaky. . . come back and ask again when you can ask what the responsibilities of married couples are.
293143
I don't understand why married men think they still need to go out 'with the guys' once they get married...\n\nAfterall, they ARE grown up, they should act like it... they are not some hormonal college kids out looking for girls or whatever.\n\nThey grew up and got married... they shouldn't be out acting like they did when they were single.  He made the choice to give up the 'single scene' when he got married.  He needs to grow up.\n\nWhy can he not be happy going out with just you?  You are his wife, afterall.   He can still have friends, but what's the problem with them hanging out at the house?  Maybe get together for cards or something like that?  There are lots of things guys can do if they feel the need to 'hang out' together.  Heck, the friend can even bring his wife (and kids, if there are any) along to your house!  That way, you can all hang out together.  Married couples do that all the time!\n\nNo way would I put up with that!  I had a man like that... he wanted to be a husband but still wanted the single life...  and you can't have it both ways.  You either want to be married or you don't.  Simple as that.\n\nHe is not only a husband, but a father as well!  He needs to get his priorities straight!\n\nP.S.~~  Your husband has no problem with the way the friend speaks to you??  Perhaps you should tell the immature friend that you know who wears the pants in HIS family... his Mommy and Daddy!  Tell him to be a man and get out of Mommy and Daddy's house and support his family and back off from yours.\n\nHe has no problem belittling you so I would have no problem doing the same to him.
8801
I think it depends on her... remember, this moment is about her, not you.  I would have preferred a romantic evening, just the two of us, wine & dine, etc... but that is not my wife, who is more sociable.\n\nWhat I did was get one of her best friends to talk about proposals with her- she was great at it, made it sound like she was just making conversation- and then I had the inside info about how she really wanted it done (which was in front of all of her friends).
548944
I have been with my partner for 20 years and yes we have had or ups and downs but were happy.I think as long as you  talk to each other and and try not to take each other for granted you will go a long way.Also enjoy each others company, have lots of laughs even if they are childish.Just enjoy each other.
236650
For me I want companionship and a best friend.  I can't imagine a marriage where the relationship isn't like that.  I want to be the first one he goes to dilemmas, advice, opinions.  I want him to want to share most aspects of his life with me.  And yet balanced with the fact that all marriages need some space (me time, my time with just my girlfriends, and vice versa).  It's hard to explain, but I don't want to be the person he just goes home to everyday, and raises his kids.  I want to be his equal, and not to be forgotten when he leaves home.  Does that make any sense?
227484
I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
181713
Not because I could live with him, but because I couldn't live without him.  There's some intangible thing that just makes us 'click'.  Peas and carrots, PB&J, Sonny & Cher (ok, bad example).  We're best friends with benefits.  My marriage has been the best and hardest thing I've ever done.  I have found happiness but it wasn't the cakewalk I thought it would be.  We lost the rose colored glasses in year three.  Being married includes birthdays and funerals.   And we've learned it's better to be happy than to be right all the time.
557854
Most that know my wife and I have no idea that we have been swingers for years.  The reason why most do not know is because of the closed-mindedness of most.  We love to get out a few weekends a month and hang out with other couples. We are definitely happy with each other and it makes our sex life when it is just us two even better.
662672
First off are you married just for the convenience or do you love your husband? Have you met the man you think you are in love with from the computer? I have met alot of men from the internet and most of them are nothing like they say. Speaking from experience no one who is married is ever going tio leave their significant other because that is a security blanket. Fix what is wrong in your marriage before you find yourself completely alone this is advice that I had to take because I was in the same boat. Mine was not fixable so I just divorced him and now date men who I meet outside the internet and know they are single.
325522
Under no circumstances should you get involved with someone who is married with kids.  If you want to go out and have a good time, that's fine, but leave it at that.
478230
Yes...I was married for 18 years and the last few years felt like this all the time OR didn't want to be at home when he was there.  As hard as it was I realized it was because we had outgrown each other and weren't making each other happy.  We have since separated and are living our own lives.  We are MUCH better off as friends then we were as a married couple.
248905
It depends a lot on the people.  I have 2 friends who live very far away.  The first got married, had a kid, & has changed a lot since moving.  So, naturally, our friendship has changed & we aren't as close, even though we have nothing against each other & would still be there for each other in a crunch.\nAs for the other one, he & I are actually closer since he moved away.  We stay in touch, talking at least once a week, & plan to take a cross country road trip next year.  He & I are both unmarried, have no kids, & are career-oriented, so our continued similarities probably help maintain our friendship.\nHe has noticed this as well, because he isn't as close to some people he used to be really close to in the past.  As some of his friends have gotten married & had kids, they don't seem to have time for him anymore, & have less in common.  With their focus on their families, they have less to talk about with guys who are still hanging out & chasing girls on the weekends.
220390
my husband & i have try to have fun in everthing that we do. we watch movie together, we chat through YM even if we are together in the bedroom, eating, bathing, whatever! as long as we are both in the mood, then everything is fun!   = )
481615
What women are you talking about, cause I'm certainly not one of those women.  And to answer your question:  What can you get from a husband that you can't get from friends?  How about commitment?
95302
It depends on your relationship with your husband.  If he's mature, secure in himself and your relationship and he honestly wants you to be happy...he should want you to have friends.  I still get along well with most of my ex-es and my husband is totally cool with it...because he knows I'll always be coming home to him, no question about it.
548382
Everything if they are real friends. You should be able to talk abot TV, movies, books, politics, reiogion etc and all have your own opnion without anyone being offended. My husband and I have friends round and we either watch TV and have a takeaway, or play games like Pictionary or Cranium or when we used to play computer games, things like Mario Kart or Need for Speed until the wee hours. I find that the topic of poo always rears it's head (hee hee) after a few drinks and people never seem to tire of it either!