my parents go thru my stuff, like see who ive called and who has called me on my cell phone, and they dont want me to date my bf because they dont like that hes asian. what should i do?
204994
My parents did the same thing to me, and are currently doing it to my 16 year old sister. What I did that upset them the most, was to ignore it and show them that I did not care. My sister chooses to "strongly" object. I dated many a guys my parents disapproved of for every reason under the sun. My best advice is, If you do not want them to know about certain things, then don't leave "evidence" laying about. Keep in mind though, parents are not perfect, and they only want what they believe is best for you.
92590
you sound young so tell him your parents won't let you date and your afraid of them finding out.
89517
to begin with honey, he doesn't love you. if you're not allowed to have a boyfriend yet, i'm sure your parents have a good reason. they are just trying to protect you from having to make decisions you're not quite ready to make. if you've seen me on here you know i'm gonna tell you to take this time to learn and to grow without complicating things. learn about yourself. learn about others. and as you're ready, learn about life. you've got a lifetime ahead of you. don't rush into things. :)
606462
I don't know you or your mom but has she said this about any of your other boyfriends?  I didn't believe it and lived to regret not taking the advice of people who really did care for me.  Looking back now I see what I couldn't see then.  Controlling someone else is usually very subtle.  Be careful and always know that your mom will be there if needed.  No matter what he may tell you.  Good luck.
104202
Your parents are afraid her influences will rub off on you. They're afraid you will be "just like Becca". They don't want you to be as obsessed (and wreckless) about having sex with boys like Becca. In short...they don't want to have to carpool you two to the family planning center or, even worse, the maternity ward. If you have a good head on your shoulders and you see Becca's "obsession" as something not for you, then tell your parents. Reassure them that you're not taking her tips are cues and that you can think for yourself. Good luck.
160378
i went there the same thing when my parents found out that i liked a 17 year old. all i can tell u is if u've gone on this long w/ your bf & they just found out dont change your mind bout him....try 2 get them 2 let u have him over 4 dinner or something so they can get 2 know him a little.  good luck
239804
Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
216251
maby you should not ask so much about their family they may be thinking your trying to become to famillar to fast just keep on gentral topics maby you are choosing the wrong sort of guy give the type of guy that is a little nerdy a chance you might be suprised  luck flaim
542199
Your parents know more about life than you think they do.  They are not trying to be mean to you; they are trying to help you live a happier life in the long run.  They have the responsibility to make the rules until you are 18 and move out and support yourself.  If you can't do those things, try to learn from your parents so that someday you can.  \nI am not saying they are always right, but if you listen to them you will most likely have a lot less trouble in life than if you don't.  The boyfriend you have seems very important now, but he probably won't stay a big part of your life for very long.  How long did the last one last, anyway?  \nAlso, if you listen to them, they are more likely to listen to you.
631553
You should follow your heart and not leave him and hope one day your parents will see how stupid it is to judge someone on looks. What are they? Mr and Mrs universe themselves?
643427
Ok, my girlfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. Just keep seeing the guy. Talk to your mom about it. Make her understand that while you understand her and respect her opinion, that this is the guy you love, and then ask her if her parents had told her to stop seeing your father if she would have... That worked when I talked to MY gf parents. \n\nBest of Luck
648852
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
329102
Maybe you mom's trust issues are not with you but with your boyfriend. Also, at 16 you are starting to find out who you really are.  If you start to get involved with someone now, that could harm your ability to figure out who you are and what you believe in. If you have not done this yet, you may want to ask your mom why she does not want you to date at this time and when she thinks it would be a good time for you to start dating.  It is not good to ask these questions in the middle of an argument, but ask your mom if you could talk to her when you are both calm.  Your mom may have a lot of valuable insight for you, or she may have some irrational fears. You will never find out unless you two can sit down and communicate. Good luck.
645513
I truly feel bad for you,but you need to see or search the reasons on why your parents feel the way they do towards him,i mean i would take some heed to their actions,remember they have more wisdom from age and experience.However,if they really don't have the facts to back their actions,this is something you will have to face with your parents.Always be honest with them no matter if they are not going to approve.You are an adult,and you need to let them know that you are not trying to hurt them by your choices of life,that you are trying to find your way and if it is a mistake,then you need to find that out as well.This is how wisdom comes,with experiences in our daily lives.One thing to remember is your parents have an unconditional love no matter what,just like you do for them.I just hope your boyfriend proves them wrong and doesn't make you regret any decision that you might make.Without family,we have nothing! I hope the best for you,Good Luck!
44623
Her parents should be strict. You should mind your own business. :)
598503
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
587217
that is wrong.  they need to realize that you are their daughter. no matter what you did do and what you did to him, you are the one they should love and choose over any one else. i would personally let my dad know how i feel and then leave him to think about it and if your parents really care about you they will get their head out of their ass and realize what they are doing.