I want to be the guy at the club that girls notice, but I feel like I blend in the club.How can I stand out? \n\nHow do you decide on who to talk to?
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Simply put - self confidence.  And don't be afraid to talk to women.  I don't know how many times I will see a guy look at me (By that, I mean LOOK), but won't say anything.  A lot of women are shy, or were taught that they should not approach a guy - to let him approach you.  (My mother taught that a girl should never call a guy first, or approach him.)  I wish that when guys noticed a girl, they would just come up to us and say something (aside from a lame pickup line).  \n\nOh yeah - and you should talk to whoever you feel a connection with.  If you catch someone looking at you, and they kind of grin and look away, go talk to her!
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wow...and again im in highschool and i DONT hang around vary many girls(talk to much crap). i have mostly guy friends and trust me they know im there! guys like girls with self confidence, so if there talking about how ugly some girl is agree with them and say "oh i know im so prettier than that person" like that other person said wear parfume and makup too! show some clevage, skirts, and or some clothes you normally dont wear! trust me girly once they see you in a skirt withsome clevage showing they diff. well notice! or just ask them if they notice anything diff. about you!
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= ) I'm back.  To make a girl feel special, you have to get to know her, and pretty much ask her.  Every one is different.  But, tell her she's beautiful, not hot, look her in the eyes when you talk to her, and are telling her something of importance.  And I am a firm believer in making them laugh.  It breaks the weirdness, be yourself.  As far as meeting girls, ya got me there, I'm a homebody. Pretty boring.
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It's all about attitude and societal-appearance. Girls can feel your "aura of confidence", and are extremely attracted to it. What you need is an "I'd f*** me" attitude. Just say that to yourself under your breathe all day long. \n\nAnd you'll need a running-krew; a group of friends that you ride the city with. One needs to be black...and give him a classic black-guy name like "South Central" or "The Chronic Bubonic". Then the girl can see you chillin' with "the guys", talking on your cell phone like "Yo, South Central, where you at, dawg?! You got the shipment? Cool. Yeah, we need to hit up the club tonight and push pebbles. Let's get our nuts on the concrete and let's roll". \n\nYou don't have to act or dress ghetto. Girls are confused/intrigued if you dress nicely, but also have a "street-life" atmosphere about you. And by "nicely" I don't mean "hollister/AE". You need to dress professional. Khakis and a button down shirt. She'll think you're a drug dealer or something. And she'll "feel" you're "I'd f*** me" overconfidence level. \n\nThen, after a couple weeks to a month, you can come in with some small talk about something...a class, a show, something. But you gotta be LAID-BACK and smooth. Keep your confidence. Keep a light grin, and scan the area with your eyes forbodingly like you're worried about the police coming. And make overly sarcastic/politcally-incorrect remarks whenever you get the chance.\n\nThen you got it.
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The best thing for you to do is to concentrate on going places where you would hang out because it's what you like to do.. there you will find girls you have something in common with.\n\n--- Examples:\n\nSports: If you like sports get yourself to a game and chat with someone in the bleachers.\n\nMovies: If you see a girl sitting alone at a movie, find a way to chat with her.\n\nIf you like to drink coffee.. hit up a Starbucks and chat with a girl in line.\n\nEvery day there is an opportunity. Do not, and I repeat, Do not go to a club or bar to meet a girl if you do not like to go clubbing or barhopping. You need to meet a girl in an environment you like to be in or it ads to the awkwardness.\n\nA HUGE part of meeting women is having confidance. \n\nIf you feel comfortable talking to a co-worker or student, and that is what your psyche needs to be in- pretend the person you are talking to is a co worker or student. There is no need to psych yourself out and focus on the fact that the person you're talking to is a stranger that you don't know. That's half the fun of meeting people.. getting to know them!\n\nRemember this: The number one common factor in all successful relationships is that someone had the courage and confidance to say hi and start up a conversation.\n\nDo not be afraid of rejection. If a girl says no, forget about it and go find another one. Life is too short for you to worry about being shy. You need to go out there to places you like to hang out and have a good time. Chances are you'll meet someone in your everyday life... Maybe while you're at the laundromat, or the supermarket.\n\nLive your life to the fullest, be confidant always and have a good time. You only get to have each day once. In life there are no do-overs. So go out there with a big smile on your face and a huge amount of confidance, because you are a wonderful, unique individual and there is someone out there right now who is thinking about meeting you just like you are thinking about meeting her.\n\n\nGood luck finding Ms. Right! Look out for you--
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Being the new girl is really hard, especially when you've been hurt by friends at school. Remind yourself that it takes a friendly attitude to make friends and that not all people are out to hurt you! Instead of striving to be popular, be yourself instead! If you want to meet friends, join after school activities or clubs that spark your interests. Good luck!
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Talk to him in the group, listen to what he says, then ask him about it a minute later. You are all talkin' music say. He is talking about a video or something. Ask him what video was he talking about later. I am sure if you are interested in him you know somethings about him. Just go off that by what to talk to him about... after you walk up to him. BE CONFIDENT> even if you are not on the inside. Guys dig confidence, but not so much egotistical confidence. Good luck. I think it will work fine.
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stay cool and simple... Unless you want great attention from others then just be yourself and you will end up with the right people that has the same wants that you do..\n\nCheers
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I'm a guy on the other end of that type of question & I run in to this same problem from the other side. This is what would attract me.\n\nDress nice or classy, BUT NOT SLUTTY OR TRAMPY! \n\nREAD IT AGAIN! \n\nHonestly, avoid tattoos! Really. If you have some already, don't get anymore. It's a big turnoff. It's like grafitti on the Venus de Milo! Girls are pretty already. Anything else just detracts from them.\n\nAlso, you'll have to be responsive. \n\nIf you get it that a guy is giving a "vibe", he probably IS. The thing is, most good guys AREN'T PLAYERS - so they haven't practiced SCHMOOZING girls and throwing them into bed! \n\nThink about it. The good guys aren't necessarily too experienced at getting all the girls - you might have to look this over more closely.\n\nSo, the good guys TRY to interest girls, but sometimes get it WAY WRONG. \n\nSo, you've gotta pay attention and give him a little break - please. If it seems that he's interested & might want to say something, GIVE HIM A LOT OF TIME TO SPIT IT OUT. Try saying stuff like, "Yea....? And....? Go on...." to get him to keep talking.\n\nMake it seem like you're not in a hurry and are interested. Give him time to fumble and get the courage to ask you questions or figure out hou to ask you out.\n\nREMEMBER, MOST GOOD GUYS WON'T BE PLAYERS! You're not looking for a player anyhow, right?
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Just try to be yourself, and have confidence. I don't know any girl who doesn't like a man with confidence, but don't be cocky about it. Slip it in casually and don't make to much of a big deal about it. Something like "hey hows it goin? If you're free tonight did you want to (insert whatever you're asking her to)?" Whatever she says stay calm and say ok that's cool. And don't linger around for to long after, that makes things weird.. Good luck. =)
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1. Let it be discrimanetly known to the guys that you are waiting to be asked.\n\n2. Ask a guy.\n\n3. Going as a part of a small group can be fun.\n\n4. If all else fails, got any fun cousins?
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Take this long weekend, and treat yourself.  Get your hair done (new style), do your nails and get one new outfit. When you feel good and happy you attract the same to you.\nJoin a club or group at school that has both boys and girls in it.  Or join a civic organization in your town or church that has both boys and girls in it.\nTry hanging out with groups, it's easier to talk to someone in a crowd.  Don't try to hard or force conversation, just be yourself.\nYou can do this.  Have fun!
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you get him to notice you by just being yourself. never change who you are for someone. and if you do want to change yourself make sure its to benfit you and not someone else. you can introduce yourself to him know your interested.
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What exactly are you looking for when you go out dressed like that?\n\nAre you dressing sexy so the guys look at you or because you feel sexy and dress that way out of your own confidence?\n\nMen see confidence and that is why they approach. You can be in the tighest, shortest, cleavage, skin showing outfit, but if you don't have inner confidence-Men can see that and stay away.\n\nYou may not even know but you may give off an "unapproachable" vibe. Guys may find you attractive, but something about you is revealing you are looking for something. I was told not too long ago- I give off that unapproachable vibe-Well- I quickly worked on that...It's still a work in progress.\n\nSeriously though, I used to think that if I didn't get a guys number or hook up with a guy at the end of the night that it was a waste. Now I don't even care- and I have found that when you aren't there to hunt your prey- they seem to fall all around you.\n\nSo think about your intentions and your actions. If you are going out just to meet a guy and you are dressing all sexy just to attract a man then yes, when you walk out at the end of the night- you will feel lonely and strange.\n\nBut if you are in there and you have your drink-find your inner confidence- only you will find it. A man won't, your girlfriends won't, not even your family. You have to find it, and truly believe it- because girlfriend- you are fabulous. You have to believe in yourself. Believe me- I went through it and today, while I am still single- I am confident!
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There could actually be a way you are attracting a certain type of person, it could be the way you dress, the way you hold yourself, the places you go, etc.\nVery difficult to say without knowing you.\n\nTake a look at yourself in the mirror when your going out, are your clothes quality?Do you look upmarket and classy?\n\nStop chewing that gum, put out those cigarettes (guys hate girls smoking) cover any arm tatoos and think about the way other people see you.\n\nIn the real world, attracting the right sort of guy means maybe buying 1 item of clothing instead of 5, you need quality and they will last.\nYou need a good hair cut in a good salon, not a little place next to the local shops.\n\nThink of your look as an investment to your future.\n\nDon't get drunk as a skunk or you'll end up with a last minute beast, tipsy is ok, hammered is not.\n\nGo to the right places, forget the usual ones or the tired old fashioned smoke filled working mens clubs.\n\nThink up market, think class.\n\nThis will not guarentee you a better man, you just putting yourself in the right place where more of them are.\nDo you want a guy who has his own business or one who has a business selling drugs?
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Wait til you are ready. But I hope you are going out with your friends. Sometimes a girls night out is what you need.
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well.... if you go to college,... introcuce yourself to people. then get into a sorority and get invited to parties and mingle! or try cafe's and etc.