my married elder sister and i borrowed some money from dad for rent,i didnt move in with them.now my father is asking me for the money and isnt asking my sister. even though i havent moved in i want to pay back but is it fair that his only asking me only?i know she wont pay back and it will be ok with him, why cant it be the same with me am a single parent!
215191
He clearly knows that you are the one that is responsible and will pay him back.  Did you make any commitments to paying him.  Even though you didn't use his money?  Just a guess as to why he is asking only you.  Ask him to take payments, say 40$ a week
426815
You will need a legal opinion on this.  I'm neither a lawyer and I won't  to go to the law library to research this for reasons stated below.  Your best bet is to have your sister contact legal services organization in your area. You didn't mention which state you are in, the laws may vary from state to state.  Your sister may also want to contact the school system.  There could several complications here like the terms of a divorce settlement.  Sometimes divorce settlements even specify which parent is going to pay what portion of college expenses.  \n\nIf your sister can afford it she may want to hire a lawyer.  It's best to get one who specializes in family law.  Otherwise, she may want to contact a legal services organization or other organization who offers legal help to the poor.  \n\nFurther, it should be considered what is psychologically best for both of them and the whole family.  It might be a good idea to bring a family counselor into the situation.  A legal solution may be made but it will be of little value if the parties involved are hating each other.  \n\nYour sister should look into this herself unless you are trusted by both your sister and your mother.\n\nIf she is interested in going to college she may be able to get early admission and financial aid which she can live on.\n\nI suspect what is really needed, more than anything else, is some form of family counseling.  \n\nGood luck and God Bless!
310986
First of all, I congratulate you for sticking around so long and trying to make it work. But it sounds like he wants you for all the fun and none of the responsibility. If he wants you home, but refuses to give you money, serious issue in my books. Its saying to me...share my house, but I don't trust you with my money. But, oh yeah, you gotta be home for me whenever. Yuck, sounds controlling to me. For me, the deal breaker would be no more kids. I have 3 right now, and if my hubby said no after the first, I woulda moved on. I love the guy, but its been in my heart since I was a child to have lots of kids. If your relationship were giving, a marriage, and sounded like there was a partnership it would be one thing. But he sounds controlling and like he's dangling the maybe of marriage just to keep you around. So tell him how you feel. Tell him you need more (more kids, a marriage, a guy that devotes as much time to his family as his job). If he's not seriously making improvements in the next few months, I'd start finding a family member to help you until you can get a job and a place. You are still plenty young, and don'y stay with him cause you are unsure of what-ifs. God bless!!
320362
Well both are over 20 neither is working but she is looking if they don't get a job with with in a couple of weeks I would tell them he has to go! He is not your responsibility well neither is she but she is your daughter, But you do not have to support him and the $60 he gets a week should go towards bills! If he isn't paying anything then yes you have a right to tell him to get a job or what to do. Because she isn't helping out either! When she gets a job and he don't is she willing to pay for a third of everything? If she is then let her but don't pay for more then your share.  But till either or both get a job and start paying their part of the bills you have the right to tell them what to do! Sounds to me like he is a bum and wants to live off you and your daughter why she would let that happen I don't know. Talk to the father but his son is old enought to take care of himself but maybe he can help you and talk to his son and get him to go to work! Who knows he might just give you the $60 a week instead of him! GOOOOOOOOD luck!
647483
I live in California and I got my first apartment when I was 19.  I had a really good paying job so I didn't really struggle.  By law they have to pay 2 utilities.  Usually it's water and trash. What I thought was kind of weird was that there was a time when my rent was late, and I had to pay a 60 dollar late fee and write a statement as to why my rent was late.  I thought that was a bit much.  Also, If I had someone over for more than 3 days, I had to get permission from the landlord and stuff. It's pretty easy if you are tight with your money for the first couple of months so you can see exactly how much your utilities are
604410
your sister...  how could you be responsible for something you were only a passive part of?  as long as you never signed on the dotted line for the loan, it's all her responsibility.
38993
It depends on how your family is structured. If your mom and dad ask you if you've paid him, then that shows that your parents feel that it is right for him to ask you to pay. Are there alternative methods for you to get to school that cost less? \nYour parents should really be paying the 60 cents or subsidizing him for taking you in some way. I never charged my parents or sister and she went to a different school.
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Wish I could help but from the nature of what you are saying you are not in the USA and the laws of other countries are very strange to us. You do not have to pay bail till you are arrested. You never pay anyone till after you go to court and the judge decides how much and you pay to the court and not to the police. So - maybe someone is scamming your sister for extortion money. Go to the court and ask them what to do.
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He's your dad, be honest.  say "Dad, i'd love to come, but I'm a bit strapped for cash at the moment".\n\nif he says "Well, i was going to pay anyway, seeing as you paid last time", then you're sorted!
201443
I have these things but they are not mine. I have a wife and three kids. We cannot afford to live on our own so we have been living with my in-laws. The reason I choose to live with them is so my wife can be at home with the kids until they get older. We still struggle to pay the bills we have like: student loans, health insurance, gas, etc. We are rich in love not material things.
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I personally do not need the money not that I am rich but my husband and myself make enough to pay the bills and feed the kids and what more can one really ask for. My parents on the other hand are having a hard time finacially since my dad retired. I have been trying to help but with 3 kids of my own I cant always help them as much as i would like.So I guess I am asking for them.
326129
You shouldn't have to pay your parents debts after they passed away it isn't your responsibility the bills and such should be gone talk to the creditors they will help you. As for you and your sister its going to be hard to raise your sister but you can do it don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it and take a break or if its too ruff for you if you had family around maybe they can help too. Ill pray for you and God Bless you and your sister.
285182
It is a federal law not state. Any debt incurred to either parties while married become the dual responsibility of both partys, weither a signed agreemnt is vild or not. THe dad is responsible for the morgage if it goes into default. So long as your friends parents are married. There is nothing he can do about this short of filling for bankruptcy. He must continue the payments, if it goes into default its his tail. Simillar things happen if on parent filles for bankruptcy and the other doesn't. Then all the bills accrued in the one parents name now automatically get switched to the spouse. Its not fair but it is the way it is.
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Marsh, with child support it goes strictly on his income. If he has lost some of his income since the order was first in effect he can ask for a lower amount. Yes, having a child in his home, as long as it is his, also counts for him. He will just have to talk to them and ask for a lower amount due to having a child now with you. It will not make a difference though if his income has went up.
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If you pay rent then that is your home too! If your mom is not planning on helping to pay your sister's portion, then she has not right to ask you to pay anymore than you pay now. Yes, family helps family but if you can't afford it, what else can you do?
305990
Some people are missing the point here--this little girl is eleven years old. She doesn't owe her mother rent or grocery money because she is a child--the money was in the bank--the only one who could get it out was the mother. This child earned this money all by herself---and her mother blew it on booze and junk !\n\n\n\nAs a grandmother with seven grandchildren, I can tell you exactly what to do.\n\nCall your grandparents and tell them what she did and that she won't pay you back.\n\n\nYour mother better be glad she isn't my daughter--I would probably still take a switch to her.\n\n\nand while you're at it---tell you dad what she did. \n\nGRRRRRRRRRRRRR.....that makes me mad!!!\n\n\n\n*well you sound like a good and responsible little girl. Your mother is darn lucky to have you. You certainly do alot of work.
486883
Ask your friend for the help in paying for the storage unit but be sure you are the one responsible for paying for the monthly rent. Put it in your name not his. Also pay him back as soon as you can. It sounds like your friend is being supportive of you and he should understand that you may need help until you get back on your feet.