my wife agreed to a threesome but if i go out and find a girl she'd get mad and shes not doing anything to find a girl so what should i do?
204479
why not get another man?:)
147812
Ok, in my opinion the answers that you have gotten thus far are really cliché! This is coming from someone who has been there, done that, and my fiancé and I are still happily engaged.\n First, let me say that threesomes ARE risky. NEVER try to use a threesome to fix anything wrong in a relationship. If there you are already having issue, it will just amplify it!\n However, it does not sound like that is the case in your relationship. It sounds, from what little you wrote, that you have a healthy relationship and this other woman is putting these thoughts into your head. \n Here is what I would advise. First, find out if your wife is interested. Bring it up when you have not seen your friend in a day or two, and do NOT mention the friend. The reason is that if you do mention the other woman, and your wife does not want to do it, she will never trust you or her friend again, regardless of your intentions. \n Now, if she is interested, the next thing that you need to say to her is that it is an interesting idea, kind of a turn on, but you don't think you could actually go through with it. This may not be 100% the truth, but the fact is if you seem eager then she is going to react very negatively. Let her lead the way. If she is interested, once you have broached the subject, it will come up again. Try to avoid suggesting the friend, let your wife do so. Basically, you want this to all be her idea. The reason is that when it is done she is more likely then you to have issues with it, and if she feels that it was her idea then she probably won't. If she feels that you in any way pushed her into it, however, and there are any regrets, they will lead to resentment, gutanteed!\n Next, if you do decide to do this, set boundaries. Talk about what you are both comfortable with. If you cannot talk about this in detail without arguing, then don't do the deed!!\n In the heat of the moment, make sure you stick to the boundaries. You can always discuss them afterwards, and relax them in any future encounters.\n Finally, try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for your wife. If you and the other woman both concentrate primarily on your wife's pleasure, she is much more likely to enjoy the experience, and you are much more likely to have a repeat.\n Good luck!!
112130
As much as I would love to have a 3some, it's very damaging to your relationship. So I suggest that if you really care about her, don't even bring it up.
130406
I hate to say it but yeah its normal for a guy to want a 3some.  Just be honest with him, tell him why you don't want to have one, let him know what bothers you about the idea of having a 3 some, but don't get upset if he gets upset at you for not wanting to experiment with him.  Good luck
340545
Please, you are in lust with her I am doubting that love has anything to do with it.  You and your wife need to try and rekindle your marriage.
336931
first, are you married to this girl? I suppose NOT.\nhave sex with your wife? experiment and love with your wife. you sound young, so I am gonna say that you are too busy thinking about sex. buddy, there are other alternatives to have fun with this girl u like. but sex, NO. give this specialness to the woman who you will ask to marry you and once married to you. and give this girl the chance to share this specialness with the man of her life. answer one thing? wouldnt you want your wife to be a virgin to you? wouldnt you want to think that she has never been with anyone and that you have no chance of her comparing you? give each other respect. in your future, you will appreciate it better. be a man, that every woman desires; a man that has control of himself.
401258
You should believe in what ever it is you belive in.  If you believe in eternal love, then so be it.  If you find a girl who is afraid to commit, leave her.  You should also know that although one love for the rest of your life is probably not going to happen.  You should remain faithful if you have a partner, don't get me wrong.  It's just chances are you will experience love with more than one woman.  If things don't work out though, your beliefs are not a license to stalk.
277970
OK...all the answers have a good point....but here is another side of the coin...First off, Did he say you needed to be with the other girl.????\nI have been in a couple of threesomes myself and the ladies where both straight...Now another point....think about maybe having a threesome with him and another man..both guys for your pleasure...See what he says about that....If you go to him with this idea.....Hey you want to have a threesome...OK....you and I and another man....If he is really a player or a swinger he will say OK..or he will forget about the whole thing.\n\nNow on the issue of needing sex....I am 41 years old...I grave sex all the time..I can never get enough sex...Is it a medical problem......HELL NO....It is a guy problem.Tell me of any guy that does not think of sex all the time..I will show you a gay man...\n\nThe issue of not being able to leave him bothers me...Why you say.????\nWe all have the right as being american to choose our paths in life...If his path is not going in the direction of your path..then hun it is time to cut bait...\nI am not sure of your age or your lifestyle.....I just wish more people would think of themselfs in times like this and make a move to better them selfs.it is not like it would involve anything other then your future.....Think about it....\nIf you would like to chat about the swing lifestyle feel free to e-mail me at tanear1964@yahoo.com..I have been a swinger for 18 years....I may be able to give you a little more insite into the world....I hope this helps....
610437
That is not fair 2 the girls. u need 2 dump 1, but stick with the other 1. u should keep the 1 that is ok with u havin 2 girls. she seems loyal & obviously ♥ u....a lot.\nDon't keep these relationships up, or ur gonna loose both the girls.\nHave a great Day!! :-)
223204
Yes. You are not doing your marriage any good by chatting with other women. How would you feel if your wife did that to you.\n\nInvest your time in your wife and family and stop looking over the fence. The grass is not greener and you will be sorry if you lost a good woman.
268330
I wouldn't mind unless she involves you in their outings. If it's just for a hour or so I suppose it's okay, but more than that I would grow suspicious why they are spending much time together than with you.  Now, if it's a mixed crowd and most have good morals and if she's not the flirty type, then it's okay.  I'll be honest, when I'm single, I get much hotter than when I'm with someone.  If you are married, the possibility for variety can come to mind and it can be dangereous if her friend decides to make a pass.  The trust between two friends can be as strong as the love you have for each other.  I believe friends works best and can grow deep.  Not too be doubtful, just keep your eye out. I know because when I get the strange feeling in my stomach when I feel threatened, that's a signed that something is not right or that I'm being disrespected.  Talk to her about it and see if you can come along. \n\nYou will be the best judge if something is going on or not.  Trust to a limit, then you question... Boundaries can be broken so make sure she doesn't break them, that's why she's married to you.  Right? Hopefully for the right reasons.  \n\nPersonally, I enjoy being with my boyfriend.  I get along better with men but there are limits to how much I let them know because it's easy to flirt with guy friends.  Guy friends can let things happen and not worry about it because they know the other person is taken... It's a risk and a thrill for the women, but it's a BIG, BIG, NO, NO.  Not while you are married and devoted to someone.  I suggest to both of you go out, change your looks, and be the couple that can be lover, friend, and wife.  Spice up your life so she doesn't run off to get that kind of "attention"?... who knows. \n\nI'm a women and I've been single.  Now that I'm dating my boyfriend, he still wants to keep the single life active with some gals in a book club he met when he was single... I spoke to him and he decided to ended... I now have to trust him and it will be up to him to do the right thing.  \n\nSummarizing, if your wife invites you because she wants to, then go... keep her in your sight.\n\nGood luck sweatheart!
551574
So, you got caught writing sexy letter to other women, and claiming in the letters to be single.  Now, you are hoping one of us can come up with some magic solution, one that convinces your wife that it great for her husband to be chasing after other women.  I have no magic solution, and doubt one exists.  Beg forgiveness.
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If she has mentioned it, might want to, and you mentioned it.  There is enough said.  The ball is in her court and if you push things, a) it probably will never happen and b) even if it does she is going to resent you either way.\n\nFor most people, leaving it as a fantasy can be a great way to spice up your intimate lives.  It can also be the safest most prudent, moral path to take. \n\nIf you two decide to go there together.  \n- Make sure you discuss what is and is not acceptable (i.e. rules), \n- either one of you can say stop, at any time, with no need to explain or discuss it further,\n- Can not ever look back and make it a bad thing\n- Your wife is in control, and dont you forget it.  She determines what happens, when, and how.  \n- Have a safety word, either one can use, that means stop, do something else, or take a break\n\nMany people have gone there, it can be an incredible experience or it can have disasterous consequences - understand that.  Do you want to risk your relationship and your marraige.  Once you cross that line, how far will you go.  Will either of you go there alone, without the other (oops)\n\nAlso, the third person is just that, an outsider whom you have let into your private lives (to spice things up).  Your wife is the most important person in your life, as you should be to her - dont forget that for an instant.  It also helps if your wife has some curiosity or desire about being with another lady.
262158
If he doesn't want you to do it and you love him enough to sacrifice a 3some for him, then don't do it. If this guy is just a guy, then dump him and have your fun. He might be willing to come around later on. You never know.
540032
Well for starters you cannot tell her what to do..if she really wants to do this she will do it regardless of what you think.  I don't believe that this situation would make me happy either..if my husband was hanging out with a bunch of women, only, no guys..it would make me more than a little nervous.\n\nTry giving her a little more attention, take her bowling, to the movies..do the things that she is doing with those guys..and if it doesn't help..and you have good reason to believe that there is more than just a 'friendship' thing going on between any of them...perhaps it's time to seek a few girl-friends of you own..after all..apparently it's acceptable to do so in your relationship.
621191
It is entirely possible that your basic sexuality is Passive...There is nothing wrong with that...in every partnership, one member must be aggressive, the other passive...the roles can switch back and forth during the act. Talk  to your wife...you may find thtat she is actually the aggressive one, she may need "permission" to be herself. Someone has to be the aggressor, no reason it cannot be her...many great relationship function in this manner...all parties are happy.So go talk to her and find out the score. Good luck
243913
I can understand why your g/f is mad. Why wouldn't you want to blow off another chick if you already have a girl friend? Just politely tell the other girl that you're taken and that nothing can happen between you both. If she doesn't get the hint, then stop talking to her and tell her to leave you alone. Make sure your gf knows that you love her and no one else. Do something special for her that you would never do for anyone else. Ur gf feels threatened. Girls are almost always insecure and think that their man will be taken away buy someone else, so just let her know that you don't want or need any one other than her.