I know all relationships have ups and downs my ex and I split up recently and she says its over forever no more chances we've seperated several times for short periods of time. This has been the longest time we have been apart. I moved out and everything because she was being unreasonable. she is still not talking to me my ? is If i keep going around trying to mend things will it push her even farther away or should I let her/us have some time then try again. I've turned my whole life around in short period of time if anything she has made me a better person.Im thinking what if she meets someone else and falls for him is there no chance at all even then?  We also have a 9 month old daugther together and I love them more than life itself and im having trouble coping with the loss
201900
She's telling you the truth. Put your energy into your daughter and stay focused on postitive things.
90876
NO, ONCE AN EX ALWAYS AN EX! TAKE IT FROM EXPERIENCE TRIED THIS TO MANY TIMES IN THE PAST. IT NEVER WORKS OUT. HOPE THIS HELPS!!!
117419
wow i'm sort of in that situation now. not quite as far tho. well, didn't you two split for a reason? i think you should consider those reasons again and see how it might be different if you were to get back together again. another thing, he "bumped" into you. he didn't call you. could it be that he's trying to find an exit to his current unhappy relationship and he knows it's easy to get back with someone familiar? i would think hard before even allowing him back into your love life. to be on the safe side, it never hurts just to be friends. and don't ever seem too available. if he really wants you back, make him work for it! good luck.
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No way man. An ex is an ex for a reason. I'll give you a link to go to and read why you shouldn't even be talking to her. If you want any chance of getting her back go no contact. Start dating other woman and let her find out. She'll come crawling back and saying everything you want to hear. Don't buy it. She just wants what she can't have and when she gets it BOOM you mean shyt to her again. There's a 1 in 100000 chance that says she wants you back for the right reasons. Move on. The damage is done. She's damaged goods and you'll never have as healthy relationship as you think. She may say she wants to see you happy in the long run and personally you'll be happier without her. She won't allow you to move on until she's stable in her own life. Don't let her mess with you. And don't even be her friend. Until you are totally over her. Nothing you say or do is going to get her back. I PROMISE. Good luck and find you a new woman. AT CHURCH
216736
everything is possible..but this kind of situation depends if both of you are really meant to be..if you, then you will always find the way to each other's heart..me and ex broke up, right now we are friends but i don't know yet if we'll be together in the future..time will only tell..
90951
HELLO, this is serious you broke up with her for a reason. Now you are living in a fantasy forged by all of the "good times" and as time goes on you have her built up to be someone that she could never live up to being. You may want to be with her again because you are plagued with wondering what might have been. I am aware of the incredible pain. You can move on if you want (ask us for help with that) If you are already invested in the drama and choose to seek her out. Do not waste another moment of your precious life and know when to run.
310415
I would ask for a stronger defination of your relationship.\n\nFlip the tables back on her. How would she feel if you were still in contact with your ex?\n\nHer answer dictates your next step.
493338
I think it is too soon for you both to be in contact with eachother as you say it's too painful right now.  The best thing to do for the moment, until you get your own head sorted is cut all ties.  I know it might be hard but you need to straighten your own head and heart out first and be strong enough before you can be friends with him.  You are not in the right frame of mind now, it is too soon since you broke up, and staying in contact might only cause more pain.  I broke up with my ex in June and we haven't been in touch since.  I know at the start it was very hard as I went from hearing from him everyday to nothing but, now I'm a lot stronger.  I'm happier now that it's over as we weren't right for eachother but if I stayed in contact with him I know I'd probably be still hurting and in the same situation right now.  Time is a great healer and WILL make you stronger.  Just give yourself some "you" time.  Hope it works out for you!
547523
I have been on this situation on her end. It is hard... She is hurting probably just as much as you are. Nobody invests their time into a relationship with the intention of it ending. The reason why she is running hot and cold with you is because she still loves you. When you two are together she remembers the good times and feels comfortable / safe with you. Whe she has been away for a while the things you did to hurt her creep back up and she gets upset. It is easier for her to say bad / mean things to you over the phone because she doesn't have to see the look on your face. It is sort of anonymous. Give her her space. There is still a chance you can save this relationship. But there is also a chance you could not. In my situation my ex and I just started talking again after 2 years of silence between us. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do... Waking p every day and choosing not to call him (he fu*cked up bad). I don't know what happened between you two but trust me at this point in your relationship it really could go both ways. \n\nI am sorry you have to go though this and some of those things you might not have wanted to hear but that is just what I have experienced. I hope it helped. Good luck!
493206
By doing this makes you a stronger man...you did good by leaving her alone...it is hard when you have been in love, then it's all over, it hurts immensely and life seems pointless at that stage, give yourself some healing time...it's natural to feel the way you feel...by ignoring her and not staying in contact is a good way to go...as much as it hurts you are proving to yourself that you can move on, despite the hurt and heartache...good man...at least your not hassling her with calls and constantly on her case...never call yourself a coward, you are no where near to being a coward...your doing the right thing...you are saving your feelings from being hurt further and you are also respecting your ex by letting her get on with her life...there should be more out there like you...stay with it and focus on other things to ease your pain, it's hard not to see or hear about her new fella but there's no other way to tackle this...lets know how you get on in a months time...the pain won't be as intense as it is now...bless you....x
560235
Hey, hun. I went through that. It was like we never broke up.  After talking we decided to pretend it never happened. Now she and I regret it. But talk to her. You both probably want to get back, a fight shouldn't be the reason you break up.
291463
I'm sorry about your breakup, I know things like this can be hard and no matter what people say, we always want things to come out the way we hope it does. \n\nBut it seems like, almost a year is going by, and no progress.  Do you realize that if you keep trying to get back with someone who doesn't want you, you may miss the one intended for you?  It seems like it's really over between the two of you, and maybe it's time to move on and spend some time recovering from your breakup.  Then get back into the dating field and see what happens.  \n\nI hope you find who you are looking for, because it isn't this other girl.  \n\nGood Luck!\n:)
124701
Don't mean to be cruel to your ex but the boat has sailed, you've obviously moved on so don't give her an excuse to hold you back. Whether she's playing games to save face, because you were the first to move on, or whether she realises what she's missed I'd do the same for both: Tell her kind but firm that you've moved on and she should too. If you let her outburst achieve anything she could use it more often or feel she has a hold on you, so make sure she knows it isn't going to work. There'll be tears but you're letting her get over you
468577
There really isn't anything you can do. Only time can really help. Trust me. I know from experience. I have been hurt many times in the past and I've just recently began to open up to my current boyfriend after 5 months. There really isn't anything you can say to them either because honestly we've heard it all before. We heard the same thing from the exes and so when you say them, they don't really mean anything at first. So just give it some time and eventually people do start to come around and open up more. It just takes time.
638113
I would see where things lead. And if it end up that you two break up for awhile it will be okay. I am going through a break-up right now. My ex did it because he needed time to himself to figure himself out, that sort of thing. He still loves me.\n\nMove on with your life. Moving on doesn't mean that you don't still love him or that you might not get back together one day, it just means that you're moving on. You can't waste your life waiting on someone who doesn't know what they want.\n\nI wish you the best and remember if you're supposed to be with him you will be.
613305
Honey, you already admitted that the relationship was hard to handle. It's time to let it go. Perhaps you're annoyed that it wasn't you who ended it; or more probably that you were so easily replaced. Let it go. It's time for it to end and both of you need to get on with your lives.
51257
girl it is hard. i have been there. the only thing is to stay busy and try not to think about it. it takes time and it will ease with time. after almost 9 years i still think about my ex every once in awhile even tho i am with the man of my dreams now. you will do it. dont let him make you miserable. if so then he wins. go find something to do and focus on it. wish you the best.