How do you get your partner to have sex with you without asking....he likes me to initate but i dnt....how do i do that.....HELP ME!!!! PLEASE...
212884
Jut tease him with a strip tease and if that will not get him in the mood then there's something wrong with him
426205
Why can't you have an orgasm with him?  Is it something he is doing or not doing?  In that case tell him.  If not, maybe it is in your head.
490953
the real question is what is it that you want i mean r u cool with a no string relationship and do you actually want something more serious. if you do you need to let him know that even though he has an erection problem that your willing to work with him and find other means of sexually arousal that is if its not that big of a deal for you also let him know that relationships arent solely based on sex and if you guys care about eachother you should be willing to make some kind of step towards commitment if not b his roxy
92044
This is simple, because you give it up after thats all they have to do.  One good time of saying, no I am not ready and we will not be having sex because of that, will likely perk his attention so he can hear you say where you want to be touched and whatever.  Men get aroused by their pen*s so they just assume that is all it takes for us too.  If you don't tell your man what you want he will never know.  Just tell him when he will really want to hear you.
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tia: There are lots of guys out here that would "do you" at a "drop of a hat".  But why would you want to be used just for sex?  After you do the act ... then, what?  You have to be with the guy who had you.  How do you know he will then, stay with you ?  Chances are, he will tell all his friends about what you did with him, ( he will add more to the story than actually went on), and the guys he told will all start coming around to use you.  Sex toys will prove to work against you because later on, you will find that no guy can perform like a sex toy with batteries.  This will leave you feeling down and unfulfilled.  Focus on the quality of the guy you want ... ask yourself, " do I want just sex or a guy who really loves me?"
393311
Well im in the same situation but my man tells me im a sex maniac,,,,that might be true but i have needs to when i want it i should be able to get it.  He says because we live together he doesnt want to do it all the time because things will get old fast. Well i dont agree...if he tried to change things up....which i would love to try new things there wouldnt be an issue. Im tired of initiating sex all the time,,,im 5 yrs older than him,,so whats his problem?? He cant keep up with me,,it gets very frusturating,,,i know exactly how you feel. All i can say is back off him for awhile and see how he likes it,,he will start to think somethings wrong then wont he??? Dont pay it any mind for awhile....take care of yourself until he gets the hint. Me being a very sexual person it really aggravates me. And no hes not cheating because we are always together when we arent working. We love eachothers company,,,but he says our relationship isnt all about the sex....grrr i know that but dam give me what i want.
423907
although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
278309
Clear your mind of all worries about orgasm. Let your mind be as emptied as possible. Now, respond to your mate only in those little twists and turns of your body that make you feel teased rightly. At this point, ignore temptations to want to please him. its your turn, remember, he will get, his. if you succeed in this, you will find yourself working your way to that "earth shattering" bliss, with him unknowingly working for you.
636636
first off, are you comfortable enough to have this conversation with him?  if so, and this might sound funny but it works, tell him to, uh, fire his gun on his own earlier in the day or at the very least the night before.  it will make him less sensitive when he finally does get with you.  also, tell him to focus on your pleasure, not his.  again that sounds funny, but if all he is doing is thinking about not lasting long enough, it will be over before he knows it.  tell him to kiss you , touch you, whatever, but keep his focus on you.  it shouldnt be a race to the finish line, it should be an experience. he may not learn this in one try, but over time he should master his control and be able to please you for as long as he wants.
559224
You should tell him your needs.How is he suppose to know what you want if he doesn't know what you want.Maybe when your in bed you should guide him while your having sex and if things don't change after that then I don't know what to tell you other then leave.Good Luck
643863
has he tried any foreplay? i have learned that foreplay is important for my wife to have a pleasurable experience. \n\nalso, distractions could definately be an issue because i am in a similar situation as you are. my wife has mentioned that she was uncomfortable with the living situation so its hard for her to "be herself" at times...i have learned that the atmosphere has to be just right  for a woman.
410334
Why can't you approach him? Has he lost his libido? if so you have to talk if you don't explain to him how you feel and that if he doesn't talk to you about it he may lose you to someone else.if he loves you he will talk. Masterbation works for some and not for others..invest in a vibrator (if you haven't already) and some naughty mags/ vids (honestly they help) and try that way, it won't go away and soon you will begin to feel resentful...best thing to do is talk and perhaps dress in something 'WOW' so he'll sit up and take notice if he doens't  something's going on...perhaps he feels he's not good enough etc....you gotta talk Good luck
517150
(i am married and i was a virgin too.  Don't worry this is normal, you have get in touch with a side of you that you weren't very familiar with, but you'll get use to it.. trust your instincts, and you'll have him begging you for sex)  \n\nwhile he is watching tv, or doing anything that is keeping his concentration like a football game.  Start by kissing, licking and blowing slowly in his ear.  and then just do EXACTLY what he believes you would never bring yourself to do to him.
480616
There are two possible reasons:\n\n1. You pressured him into saying it before he was ready, and he just said it to avoid confrontation.\n\n2. He wants sex without commitment or investing himself emotionally in the relationship.\n\nIf it's the first case, you two should talk. If it's the second, dump him. He's not worth your time, tears, or effort.
207399
Listen,my man does me the same way,but I don't play with myself,I'm just a Bitch for the rest of the evening..This maybe hard for you,but it works for me..Next time he wants it turn him down a few times and show him how it feels then maybe he'll give it up to you more when you want it..Don't cheat on him,that's the worst thing you could do..Since your into playing with yourself just get your own little toy and use it..Or just quit playing with yourself and be the biggest bitch to him and let him know how you feel..Tell him hay your not giving me want I want and need so I'm about to cheat on you..Life ain't nothing without making love..Just give turning him down a try without playing with yourself and see how it will make him feel..If you do that I hope it works..
436799
Relax, it is just who he is.  Growing up we all experience life differently and develop different ideas regarding how to treat people.  Your current boyfriend sounds like he has grown up with the idea that men shouldn't be aggressive and force sex on women.  I can relate to him in that to a large degree I feel the same way.  We see and hear so much about men forcing women into having sex that some of us tend to go over board the opposite direction.  He feels like he is doing the right thing by waiting for you to initiate things rather than forcing it on you.  The best thing you can do is to talk to him and let him know it is ok for him to initiate things some times.  Realize though this will be hard for him to do so be patient and be glad you have a guy that respects you and doesn't feel like your required to have sex with him when ever he wants it.
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ask him why he says "no" everytime you want to get intimate. If he says he wants to wait, then give him some time and be patient. You can't push a man, believe me! If you really like him then respect his wishes, but first ask him why he says no. Talk things out. Maybe that should clear things up for ya.