In a relationship that finished realy badly years ago? What if there was love there?
200622
I think it is possible to start over. That's the beauty of love, it can stand the test of time and many hardships. Not to say that it wouldn't take a tremendous amount of effort on both sides whether it was asking or granting forgiveness. If two people are meant to be together then even the worst experiences and longest separations cannot keep them apart, or I would like to think that.
587763
It always happens, but try to keep it to a minimum.\nTry not to expand your thughts or details about that time in your life.\nThis gives the impression that you are still thinking about your previous lover, and that there may be some baggage there.
522140
Let it go, mate. It's just a fantasy that has been cooking away in your mind for years. Aside from the fact that you both broke up for a reason, 30 years on you are both different people.\n\nYou'd be much better off channelling your energy into finding someone who wants you for who you are now. Stop looking into the past for something that never was - look into the future!
655910
well, whats have been done is done...so,if u still in love with him, wait for the right moment and explain again to him what really happen!i think he's gonna understand it!!
548944
I have been with my partner for 20 years and yes we have had or ups and downs but were happy.I think as long as you  talk to each other and and try not to take each other for granted you will go a long way.Also enjoy each others company, have lots of laughs even if they are childish.Just enjoy each other.
351703
hey, youre heart isnt in the right place man! you have a lifetime to wait but a lifetime to waste. your will must aligned to the will of God in your life. The woman you love 8 years ago will not be the same woman you love at this very moment. Put yourself in a mirror and tell yourself what a handsome guy like you wasting your life in waiting. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all..Go back to the basic.
473971
Yes It was incredibly hard. If you know that it is bad deep down, you'll never be happy.It takes time but when you meet the person you were meant to be with it will all be worthwhile. Break it off, find yourself and embrace your future
143956
i have been down the same road on both ends of the relationship. what you both must realize is that a strong relationship is built with time. the more time you two give it the more you will build the trust, and respect for each other. it is really great that you understanding that his life has hit a rough spot in life and are willing to be that understanding and help him through it if he needs your help. i would give it a second chance because without second chances who knows what you could be missing out on he could be the right guy for you and you could never find out until it's to late
576696
Personally, I wouldn't. Just based on my own experiences.\n\nI had an ex similar to yours, broke up for similar reasons, and he wasn't interested in getting back together until there was another guy in my life. He (years later) admitted to me that he always assumed he could have me back whenever he wanted me, when he decided it was convenient for HIS life! \n\nBut I wasn't willing to put MY life on hold until he got around to feeling like being a decent boyfriend.\n\nThank goodness I didn't. I moved on, dated other people, and eventually met and married my husband who was worth suffering every guy who came before him!\n\nIf you haven't really considered being with him again before now, my advice is, don't.\nIt's not 5 years wasted if you don't go back, it's 5 years of a lesson learned - don't unlearn it!
143492
Honestly, if you truly had a deep love for her, I don't think you would have cheated.  If the bond is weak enough that you both felt the need to stray, I'd have serious doubts about giving it another go...unless you both were willing to work hard to discover what caused these problems to begin with and were willing to work to resolve them.
161689
a relationship which is weak cannot last. Move ahead in life if he has already decided to breakup
599028
Now my spouse makes me feel complete. It only took 30 years. All I can say is you have to compromise. If you fight, you can't leave , you can ignore each other until everything cools down. I watched my sibblings leave their spouses time and time again, they always went back. That was time wasted. Work things out. There are no 2 people perfectly compatable. You have to work at it. Even now , we are not even 80% compatable, but there was no way, even 10 years ago that I was gonna start over. You probably found the right person, but how would you know , now? Good luck.
552216
Seven years is a long time to be with someone....you have a lot of history together which will not be easy to leave behind.  You need to really examine the relationship as only you know if it is worth saving.  If you really love him and things are good otherwise, then I would take him up on his offer and get some counseling.  That will also help you decide if he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.  He may also be able to overcome his self esteem issues and be able to better perform in the sexual arena.  So try the counseling.....give it another go and if he falls back or you decide it's just not going to work then you can move on....Good luck in whatever you decide
484108
After all this time the reality may not be quite as romantic as you imagine.......there is little point in disrupting both your lives after all these years!!
99706
Your right but there are some exceptions.  There are things often that you know you can't work through or differences that exist that aren't even things that involve working through.  You can try everything possible to make a relationship work but at some point no matter how much you love someone you have to be honest about if it is really a relationship that can work.
40921
You have to rediscover yourself. After three years, you have become so entwined in each others lives, it's like losing part of yourself.  Spend time with YOU before moving on.
342164
You can look all you want...There is no sin in that. So don't worry about looking. \nWhat you should be worrying about is why you are not that interested anymore; think about it. \nTo answer your question: couples fall in and out of love over the years many times. The secret to a lasting relating is that both persons can not fall out of love at the same time. \nWhat I found out about my relation when It went sour was that I've had changed. I did not notice then. Now looking back; my goals, dreams and needs changed during the course of 5 years or so and what my partner was giving me then was the same that he had given me at the beginning of our relationship.....  There has been a change in your relationship and you need to identify it in order for you to fix it. (Wish you happiness)