when u finally her ask she say that she is not ready but for several months straight she couldnt stop talking about marrying n spending the rest of her life wit u.  we also been together 4 almost 3 years now.
203481
she outgrew you probably. u can either grow up or find another gf
560633
I think that as long as you think you want to marry her eventually she should be patient.  Marriage is something that shouldn't be forced and she needs to understand that.  People get all excited about the wedding but after that it's just you two.  If she forces it she will be pushing you away in the end.  Eventually you will panic and run.  She won't want that.
482303
Sounds as if both of you are not ready to marry.
422531
How old is the girl...perhaps she feels she is not ready for more...\n\nI sugguest that if you are both of legal age then you sit her down and talk to her, lack of communication is one of the biggest factors in relationship breakdowns...maybe she is just waiting for you to make the move...perhaps she thinks your not ready yet...or maybe she believes no sex before marriage...\n\nit could be a wide range of things...talk to her....
234188
seems like you never let yourself move on...is she willing to move with you? does she want to begin a relationship? you need to speak with her and see where her head is at and make sure you both want to make this work
159548
She is using you, she has a boyfriend that she will marry if you don't stop talking to her now your going to get hurt even more. C'mon you are a doctor you can have anybody you don't need to limit yourself.
298829
She may have been scared, as well.  She obviously knows she can't do without you now, as she's come crawling back to you.  Personally, it means she's ready to commit now, as she's realized what a good thing she had with you, and that she doesn't like life without you.  \nIt sounds like she was scared before, it is a big step sometimes for people if they get engaged, etc.  I  don't know the actual circumstances, but this is what it seems to me.\nI hope this helps a bit..
64613
Basically the same way you asked this question . . . but don't ask it as a question . . . state it as fact.\n\nI know, you are nervous and scared, you don't want to cause an arguement . . . but the thing is . . . you need to talk with her . . . because if you let her walk all over you . . . she will lose her respect for you . . . and your marriage is not going to last.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit her down . . . in a quiet location . . . you she can hear you and basically say . . . \n\nHoney . . . I love you, but I don't want to get married right now.\n\n(She is going to get flustered, teary, mad, etc. - but you have to maintain control.)\n\nHoney, please let me finish. (She will try to interrupt you . . . but don't let her).\n\nHoney, I love you . . . and I do see my future with you . . . but. . . \n\nCan I tell you what I want . . . because I know what you want already - after college getting married and having kids.\n\nI want you to understand me . . . accept me.\n\nYou see, I love you . . . but I want everything to be perfect for us.\n  \nI want us to finish college and both of us get great careers . . . . I want us to buy a house together in a great location, near good schools . . . and spend time together . . . just you and me . . . .\n\nThen after we save money, for our child's future and our future is secure . . . then, I want to marry you and only you.  By doing this . . . we leave chance behind us . . . because after this . . . I know our love and marriage will survive anything that life puts us through.\n\nI love you . . . but I want to do this first . . . so we can be secure and happy with each other and our future . . . and the future of our children.
363754
First of all look at your ages, at this point in time you need to concentrate on your career goals and may be think of getting married after about 2 years from now, your partner is right in wanting to wait as long as both of you are commited to each and love each other and know that ull are not goin to leave each other its fine. You are getting frustrated cos u have been going around for 4 yrs and theres nothing new in your relationship u have dicovered each other so much. Patience is the word, just wait for sometime and things will be fine.
122973
ok, for starters, let me tell you that I think it is awesome to be 30 and unmarried.  I believe that people are so friggin in a hurry to get married at such a young age that they (me included) dont know what the H3ll they are doing!  You have gained maturtiy with age, and seem to have a great relationship started here.  Sounds like FUN!!  I particularly want to ask...What are you waiting for to tell her?  Don't let society be your influence.  It influences WAY too much.  If your feelings for her are those of love, then, by all means, tell her.  If they aren't, or you aren't sure yet, dont say it yet, but DO express to her how much you enjoy her company, and that you have strong feelings for her.  Something to boost her confidence in you, and make her feel a little more secure in the relationship.  I LOVE reading these little stories of new love, I ENJOYED that feeling SO much, and guess it is a way to live it again  ;)  Have fun, and take care of you and yours!!  Good luck friend!
442516
I think you made the right decision. If you two love each other then things should work out. Its cool that you show the understanding that you do. That may be what she really needs from you
137903
i dont think your ready for marriage, actually i think you should wait a while and re think what it was that brought you and your partner together. sounds like your in a slump and very confused,  but best to wait then be sorry later on. talk to him and discuss how you feel.
158530
she sounds like she likes you more than just friends... i think she had second thoughts after her first refusal of a relationship, if you still want to, you can make your offer again, i think now is a good time and she seems ready.. Good Luck
63036
It seems as you wasting your time ,4 years and you donot know if you are going to love her or not???Do you think that she have no bf now as you didnot date her for the last 6 months? Realy i doesnot think so....sorry for you
229030
been there but it ended really fast(and never truly started), more of a mutual thing...anyways, talk to her about it, maybe give her some space for a little bit, not too long but  alwasys be close by when she does finally get over it, but it could be an excuse for something else. be careful witchever way you chose to go with this
616384
try to talk to her about this, if she doesnt understand what you mean or not willing to try to change this, then just move on and find someone more compatible with you.
457327
she was probably scared off because you told her you loved her and youre not even her boyfriend. you shouldnt say such a strong thing to someone you're not even in a relationship with. your best bet is to apologize to her for saying that and that you know she doesnt feel the same way and see what her response is. who knows, she could tell you youre wrong.