even though we broke up and he has a girl now. and dis boy is my best friend cousin. i miss talking to my ex am really tryin to get over him by talking to another boy (who isn't his cousin) it's working for things but i see my ex every day and it hurt me to see wat he's doing. i think am in love wit him evan though i broke up wit him.
214621
you need to be honest with him and with yourself, and that monster you are experiencing is called jealousy, don't let it get the best of you!
223124
You broke up with this guy for a reason. Ask yourself if you really like your ex. Who do you want to be with? maybe you should just be single for a while and just date around. Maybe try to be friends with your ex and see how that works out for you, see if your feelings resurface, but also tell him to date as well. It'll all work out if you think things over.
128578
i think u just have to look for another  guy out there because there are so many nice,caring and loving guys out there.u made the wrong decision befor by  choosing ur exboyfriend,so don,t make another by choosing  his friend because they may be thesame.
127850
Well, you clearly are not a good friend are you? We can all see that because you hurt your boyFRIEND, so can you honestly blame him? \n\nAdditionally, why do you want to be friends with your ex? Just because you used to date doesn't mean that when you break up, you will be friends. It doesn't always work that way, and given that you have hurt him, you can hardly expect to continue to be on good terms.\n\nI strongly suggest that you stop any efforts to befriend him, move on and try to be kinder to your next significant other.
326509
hi, i feel that you should not be talking to your ex, if\nyou are still close that good but he has a girlfriend, and\ni feel it very  disrespectful of him to be talking to you\nabout his problem with her. because if the shoe was on the\nother foot how would you feel. he need to get his situation\nwith her together and  if it meant for you and him to get back\nyou will. the big guest ion you should ask yourself seriously\nif he so unhappy with her then as you stated why is he still\nthere.
80740
I've been there and what i did was just start talking to him that way you don't feel so weird to be around him. we both are dating other people and we just talk as normal people b-cuz we realized we cant be as close Friends as we were before but we still hang out with the same people and its better to be talkin to each other than not talkin at all.
137760
Girl I hear ya! I am in the same boat, my ex did me very wrong, but yet I still find myself drawn to him like he is some kinda evil magnet. But you know what I do to keep myself from not getting too attached again..remember how bad he made me hurt amnd then I listen to one of the many song I listened to when we broke up and then I realize he's not good enough for me, either is ur ex!
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..
173454
I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
388798
Just b/c your the one who broke things off doesn't make it any less painful for you.  You are still going to go through the "missing him" part...  Just make sure you don't go back and forth on your decision and get back together with him.  Stick to your guns.  You made your decision, now stick with it.
324340
Take your time...sometimes missing someone can be therapeutic as well as painful.  You don't say what happened between you two so I can't really elaborate.  However, when my ex and I broke up, it took me quite some time to get over him.  I can assure you that no matter how hard it may seem right now, all of the feelings that you are experiencing will eventually pass.  Also, kudos to you for not jumping into another relationship.  Until we completely heal from a breakup the only thing we can bring into another relationship is pain.......
61131
He is an ex.  get over him...Move on. there was a reason you are not with him let her have his  nasty self. I mean there a a  TON of guys in the world why get all bothered about one that you aren't with.
513164
Even if you still have feelings for him sometimes it's best to just let go.  Me and my gf mutually broke up back in May...and decided to be friends...well that was fine until she started dating someone else almost right away (after we were together for 2.5 years) so I got pissed and stopped talking to her.  It was hard cause I still cared for her at the time but not TALKING or SEEING her since then has really helped me to get over the whole thing and move on.\n\nin summary......Stop talking to him, but don't become enemies...be civil about it.
186432
Sometimes, its hard to get over an ex.  It sounds to me like you jumped into a relationship with your new boyfriend quickly after the breakup of you and your ex.  Thats not really a good thing, as you need time to come to terms with your feelings and to get over your ex.  \n\nI think you need to consider your feelings for your current boyfriend.  Do you really like him?  Do you really want to be with him?  If so, you are going to have to let your ex go.  There's only so many times he can be called another guys name without freaking out!  If you find you still have overwhelming feelings for your ex, maybe you need to put this relationship on hold while you sort your feelings out.  You can't be with someone and still hold a torch for someone else.  Its not fair to them and its not fair to you.
373347
you never know how good you have something until you give it up.  and then you regret it the rest of your life.  if you truly like this Tim guy, stick with him, if he actually has a future.  as for your other ex-bf's/guy friends, u might want to start talking to them less.  u can date someone and then break up and not see or hear from them for 10 years, but when u do see them the memories come back and it plays with your head.  the only way i can move past ex-gf's is to remove them from my life.  that might be what it takes for you too.
378105
well I'm only 15 years old but i think i can relate to your situation.  When i was in seventh grade i found my first love.  I loved him so much and we ended up being together for 2 years and 6 in a half months.  i broke up with him because he cheated on me once.  Since then i have missed him soo much. I thought that i needed him in my life to be there for me and to make me happy.  \n\nBut, i finally found someone else and realized that the feelings i had for my EX is nothing close to the feelings that i have for my new boyfriend. \n\nmy point is that you may think that you love him and miss him but what your really missing and in love with is all the good times and the great memories that you too shared together.  \n\nYou dont miss Him!!\n\nYou will  find someone else who will feel the same way you do and you'll be happier.
350722
Wow, trust me, your not the only one.  I did a very similar thing actually.  You need to try and get over your ex, and then either start talkin to the nice guy again or find someone else who's a good guy like he was