My boyfriend is total sweetheart true gentelmen and everything. The other day I got a phone call to a cell phone i no longer use but it is still activated on the other end was a girl (he used to have thing for) saying she was his girlfriend and wanted to know who i was I flipped out at first and called him giving him what for. He told me that it was a girl that is friends with his ex and she was trying to break us up to try and get him and his ex back together, and a female friend of his called me and told me that he wasnt seeing anyone else.... Is he telling the truth????
208556
I reckon you already know deep down. personally i think he probably is telling the truth.  if his behaviour towards you never changed and he really is as nice and kind as you say he is i cant imagine why he'd do such a thing, especially with someone like the girl you're talking about. she sounds like a right old tramp! chill out and talk to him about it. good luck!
281172
it sounds to me as if he is using you. He is keeping you on a string in case things don't work out with his ex. If there is nothing going on between them, than he wouldn't have a problem letting her know that he is in love with you. I think you need to move on and find someone who will treat you the way that you deserve. You don't deserve to be used. Good Luck\n\nk.m.
309102
Well if he's your EX then I'd guess to say that he's grasping at straws to get you to meat him somewhere so he can act pathetic and con you to go back with him. and if he wont say it over the phone well then it's not important at all.there must be a reason that he's your EX.if you wish not to be with him I'd stay away from him.
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Appreciate that he is returning your calls and has let you know that they're HIS issues, not yours.\n\nYou've only been hanging out a month.  Depending on what he has going on, that's really not enough time to develop trust.  It happens over time, and this relationship is in it's beginning stages.  It may not be an exclusive relationship, though it sounds like it's heading that way.\n\nDon't put any more pressure on him.  He knows you're there, he knows you're concerned.  That's enough.  If you continue to call him, then you need to ask yourself "Am I really concerned about him, or am I feeling insecure because I'm not part of what's going on?"  He's having some challenges right now, and I think he's handling this appropriately.  If you're really concerned about him, then keep it about him.  Be available to him if / when he needs you.  \n\nWhat's going on with him has nothing to do with you.  Keep this situation in its proper perspective; otherwise, you will lose him before you've gotten things off the ground.
234543
First off, he can't be your boyfriend if he is already with his girlfriend. Right now, you are the "other woman", so to speak.\n\nI would advise walking away from him and getting on with your life. IF his relationship is as bad as he says it is, and IF he LOVES you as much as he says he does, then knowing you are getting on with your life and showing no more interest in him, might very well help him to make a choice. I wouldn't give him any ultimatums either. Just tell him you that you are moving on. If he does end things to find you again, then he was speaking the truth to you. If he doesn't, then you know he was a player...was having his cake and eating it too.\n\nKeep your self-respect and dignity by walking away. By staying while he is still with his girlfriend, you are giving him everything he wants, and you are getting nothing for yourself, except a lot of pain. You are worth much more, you know...and if he doesn't come to you single and free, then believe me, there is some great guy out there that is going to give everything of himself to you alone and no one else, cos he WILL recognise your worth!
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Don't worry about what you did so much.  He flaked on you when he bailed on the road trip.  His phone had to be working, so He was blowing you off.  He hasn't been returning your calls until he finds out you slept with someone.  Being a guy and see this happen many times, I am almost certain that he has another girl on the side.  If a guy is into you, he can't wait for you to call.  he tries to figure out excuses to call you.  When his phone rings and he knows its you, he will immediately answer.  If he misses the call, he will call you back just as soon as possible.  It doesn't sound like your man does this, so you don't owe him anything.  If anything, he still owes you.  I wouldn't worry if he trusts you, you shouldn't be trusting him.  He isn't acting like a boyfriend, he is acting like he uses you for sex and when he ain't getting it elsewhere, he comes calling on you.  This all smells fishy to me.
324206
Does it matter if he still loves you? You said you broke up with him and I gotta think you likely had a good reason for it. Go over those reasons in your head and couple them with the fact that he's cheating on his current girlfriend. I think we both know that you can do better.
451252
If he is believing what this other girl is saying, then he is unlikely to want to talk to you.  If I were you I would put all the truth in a letter and send it to him.  Try to keep it as brief as you can with all the details in the first few lines in case he thinks it is just a ploy to get him back.  What you write in your first couple of lines need to hit him in the face so he wants to continue reading.  Maybe getting to the point straight away saying ..."such and such(girl who is spreading rumours) is telling you lies, I have proof, please read on"  That should get his attention so that he will read on to get your side on things.\n\nYou have friends on your side, so that is a real plus, they obviously believe you over her and if you have their support it wont be long until your ex finds out the truth too and this girl is exposed for who she really is.  It will be her who loses out in the long run.  Vindictive people only have their victory for such a short time and then it all blows up in their face.  You have the truth on your side and the truth should always win out in the end.  Note I say, should.  Your ex may genuinely like this girl so wont be ready to believe the truth even if it does hit him in the face.  If she has won him over, then it is going to take some pretty clever thinking on your behalf and you have to start thinking of ways to expose this girl so that no-one will have any doubts, including your boyfriend.  Maybe talk to this girl yourself....set her up and tape the conversation.  Your ex boyfriend cannot deny the truth if he hears it with his own ears.  Girls at your age are pretty smart at working out ways to get back at the "bad" guy.  Use your imagination, there are ways to expose this girl.  Get together with your friends, think as a group how you can achieve what it is you want.\n\nI wish you all the best and I hope you get your boyfriend back.  But even if you dont, a girl as loyal as you wont have any problem finding another boy who trully trusts you and wont easily be put off by words of a stranger, and basically that is what has happened.  He has known you for much longer than he has known her, yet he has believed her over you.  If he believed in you, he wouldnt have been so easily put off. so I would really be questioning if he is the right one for you.  It was too easy for this girl to pull him away from you, so it seems to me he hasnt much loyalty and is too ready to believe the negative instead of trusting his girlfriend.\n\nGood luck...hope it all turns out the way you want it to.
615803
Ask yourself this baby girl, why are you even talking/messing around with  your ex?  You two obviously broke up for some reason.  Let it go.  As far as your ex, he's just trying to get some from you.  You're worth being treated better than that.  As far as your current boyfriend, i'm sure he would'nt say you were'nt cheating if he were there while you and your ex were fooling around.  And I don't think your current boyfriend has a clear definition as to what cheating is\nLeave the ex alone hun.  This situation has bad written all over it and i'd hate for anything unpleasant to go down.  Good Luck.
418912
Well I dont quite know what to think either?\n\nJudging by the question, you seem to have troubles with the boyfriend? I am probably wrong here because you question is a little hard to understand. However, I shall answer it like this anyway.\n\n\nFirstly, you should NEVER jumped to conclusions that he's cheating \nbecause you dont get to talk to him, etc.\n\nHowever, I would get a little suspisious of something in your position. I think you need to re-consider his intentions? What exactly does he want in your relasionship?\n\nAt the end of the day, your question isnt really detailed enough to come up with some useful answers (if any lol). I mean, how long have the two of you been dating?\n\nIf you havent been dating long enough.... then dont take this guy seriously. I wouldnt take a girl seriously if she acts the way your guy does. Oh well.... what do I know?\n\nGoing by your question, he doesnt take you seriously and the best way to solve this issue is by talking to him. I hope it all goes well for you, but be prepared to leave him if he contiues the same ways. I would certainly prepare myself for this, etc.\n\nGood luck!!
349064
NO!  I beg of you, use your head not your heart.  Wouldn't he have called you or a friend or a locksmith for that matter, if he were locked out of his place?  The fact that you knew where the girlfriend lives and works makes it seems as if this is not the first time and you and the ex has a (fighting) history.  Find someone more loyal, more discreet or maybe a little smarter... How on earth did he let her get the phone?!\nGood Luck!
201970
I personally think that he is a J-E-R-K! I totally agree with you and I think that you should talk to him about it and ask him why is he not calling, emailing (etc) you at all. I'm not saying straight-up break up with him but he needs to show that he actually loves you. If I saw him, I would tell him to be your boyfriend and not to just think he can coast along enjoying the benefits and not doing the love. I hope you find someone who will treat you like a queen and not a servant. -Cody
647927
Hm, a girl who likes you and probably wants to get with you told you something about your girlfriend.\n\nSo.. that you guys would fight and maybe you would break up with her and be single (and possibly date the new girl).\n\nWell, who do you think has a motive to be lying?
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He's bullshiting and he's playing you.. I'd raise my question about her present in his place. And what's the point of answering his phone when he has a hand 2. Unless his mouth was bz on something else.. Serious, if you want to continue your relation with him then straight this thing out. If not then he's NOT worth your time honey.
612997
Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
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just tell him flat out he can't have both if he wants to be with you he has to break up with this other girl and if he really truely don't want to loose you he will leave her.  if he doesn't or begs for time to pick one then just leave him alone dont answer his calls and dont talk to him if you see him somewhere.  some people just have a hard time letting go of the past, goodluck to you.
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if it's really true and he has been seeing someone else, then just let him go.  if he's doing it to get your attention, then he's really immature so again, let him go.  just keep ignoring his calls and he'll go away.