i cant be like this! i mean, i'm such an introvert. I am a lonely soul and i dont have a friend whom i can truly call a friend. I want to meet new friends but i'm an introvert and i get this horrible palpitation each time i think of going out or metting up with someone. I feel so sick with this attitude of mine.i am so lonely
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I know how you feel. I used be like that too. I used to hate getting into conversations with people and I would blush and get so nervous!\n\nI still get like that a bit nowadays, but now way near as bad. It never goes, you just learn to deal with it and learn to accept it.\n\nDo you have any hobbies? Such as going to Martial arts lessons, or dancing classes, etc? You will find that going to these places will really help your confidence and also you will get to meet new people - people in the same situation as you; a beginner in the class, a bit nervous - and so you have common grounding and have something you can both talk about.\n\nRemember that you are not alone with this problem. There are hundreds and thousands of people out there just like you! It's just that they are too shy and nervous to approach people just like you, so you never get to meet them... think about it!\n\nAnd the friend thing, don't worry about that. I can count the number of true friends on 3 of my fingers - anyone who says they have loads of friends, they are lying. You may have acquaintances and 'mates' but true friends are very hard to come by.\n\nYou must also learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to love yourself, and you will feel happier inside. The friends will come naturally, you can't force friendships!!!\n\nGood Luck.\n\nJulie
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this happens to me too. i thought i was alone. when i get like this i just want to be left alone because i don't want to pull anyone down with me. if it's nice outside i go out and MAKE MYSELF DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE ELSE. or i'll go to the river and sit by myself in nature.\nthis usually puts me back into 'normalcy'
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The fact that you're asking the question seems to point to your own realization that you don't want to be a bastard. But for some reason you've accepted the fact that at your core that is really who you are.\n\nWe need friends. We all need help along the way. Life is too hard and complicated for anyone to make it through by themselves. So I would say your first step is to search out your own heart. Why is it that you feel like your first reaction is to be cruel/mean/rude? Look for issues that are long past that you have never let go of--perhaps someone mistreated you or hurt you and you now react to the whole world as if everyone has hurt you. Let it go. Find your own peace. Then you can stop feeling like you're "acting" like a kind and helpful person. You can "be" a kind and helpful person.\n\nHope that helps.
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I know how you feel, been there and done that. And still am feeling that way. I need friends pretty bad myself and I am a very depression person right now. But it is not worth killing your self over it, I promise you!!!  There are people out there that do love you and care about you. Some people are just really dumb when it comes to being involved with someone and the other person don't realize what they have. You really do need a friend to talk with when you are really down in the dumps. I'm here to listen if you need someone to talk to--who knows--we might be able to help out each other!!!
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Very much so. I cannot be around alot of people. I get very nervous and feel out of place. I think It's because I feel that people should think and act like me so naturaly I feel out of place. Im much more happy being alone or with family or one close friend I have. I also go shopping for whatever I need early in the morning just so Im not around alot of people and I do not like going out to eat at all so youre not alone and I dont think their is anything wrong with being like this, It's just the way we are. If thats what makes us happy then It's ok.
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wow! totally. i actually just posted a question because i feel depressed and i just moved to a really cold city that has long winters. part of it for me is a need for sunlight and being outdoors- less sunlight in winter and its harder to be outside so much. i am a social butterfly- but in this weather i get really hermit-like and want to be left alone. i know how you feel.
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Yea..unfortunately i know exactly how you feel. I think most people feel this way at one point or another. It's a terribly easy slump to get into, but now that you are fed up with it start making some changes. Start practicing saying no to people sometimes and giving yourself a littlle time for yourself. It's hard to be a good friend or partner to anyone if your all used up. Unfortunately though it's easy to get into a pattern of just saying ok and going with everyone else's flow! Think of things you enjoy doing and set aside some time to do them... it will go a long way in helping you get back some energy and re-centering yourself. Good Luck and lotsa luv!
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Awww, that sucks.  Are there other groups of people that you could hang out with, possibly people who are not criminals?  People who worry about their 'friends' being 'narcs' are not the kind of people you'll find true friendship with. My younger brother was into drugs, and when he stopped, his 'friends' broke off contact with him. He now has real friends and is much happier. Are there any clubs you could join? A gym where you could meet different people? How about right here online? Of you met people outside of your town, you could build up a group of friends for when you finally get out of there.  You WILL be happy again, you're just going through a rough time. Things will get better, just hang in there! : )
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u have to learn to relax..try first by talking to your family ,then relatives,then try to have a walk at the park..dropping a smile from time to time wont cost u an arm or leg..you wouldnt know when  afriendship will bloom..but if u are somehow afraid to go out..\nwhy not try to have strol around the neighbourhood with loved ones or someone who is intimite to you or someone u feel comfortable with....\n\nlet s start step by step...first relax yourself,then hang aound your family,then reltives and close friends,then go out n see the world!\n\nbut if u still cant let go of the anxiety somehow..its better u seek professional helps...such as psychiatrist..perhaps they have better suggestions\n\nbut i felt tht once you open your heart,i m sure people around you will accept your presence and there s nothing to be afraid of in getting to know ppl and making new friends..infact it is the best euphoric feeling you ll ever had by just hannging out with bunch of friends and sharing thoughts and jokes!so there you go!!No reasons for being nervous or anything at all,be yourself and stay comfortable and u wont sweat a bit!good luck!
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I just have to get out of the house when I feel lonely, once you're out you can meet new people and most of the time I end up having a conversation with someone I don't know, even if I'll probably never speak to them again. I go out to a pub or cafe and sit at the bar or a table just watching the world go by. Sometimes I take a book and it's suprising how many people will come over and ask what I'm reading or say that they've already that and it's good.  I also like to take my rollerblades to the park or the seafront if it's nice out, although wish I could skate better. Or I go to the cinema, even if I'm on my own I love watching a great film and for a while you're not really on your own cos there are loads of people around and no one is talking so you're not the odd one out. If you're out enjoy yourself, and just do things that make you laugh or that you used to do as a kid, even when you're on your own cos people will see you laughing and chat. (Just not to look like a psycho, laughing at your own jokes! :)) If all else fails when I'm lonely I call my mum, she lives 12000 miles from me and it's great talking to her.
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omg I'm quiet and shy too! People think I'm a snob and that I think I'm too good for them. One of the reasons they do that is because I dont smile. I know its hard, people tell shy people to just go up and talk to someone but its not that easy. I would try talking more to your friends (that would help you not to be as quiet and show people that you can talk to other people as well) thats what I am working on now. Good Luck!
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i completely understand. i have the same problem. i think you have to be happy. just because there are people around doesn't mean you can't be lonely. like something is missing and you're not quite sure what sometimes. doctors sometimes help but i think it's all something that can be worked on by ourselves it just may take awhile. i'm sure this isn't really an answer but at least you know you're not alone in this aspect :)
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Friendship is more important to some people than others.  I do believe that one should have associates at least, too always be isolated is not good for you.  If you are not the type to give of yourself to a friend in almost the same effort as a relationship then socializing would be best for you. Like me I'm moody and very picky about people I don't have allot of friends.  I tend to focus in more on family and the special little and big things they bring to my life.   I have lost about 4 friends (so called) in less than 5 years, so I'm through with that now myself.  Just be free you don't belong to anybody but yourself.  Joining social and creative groups with people most like you for me is more beneficial than friends!
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First you have to show yourself as being friendly!  Approach people with confidence, and a smile.  If this doesn't work forget about it!  I know a friend that will be your friend for life, and will never let you be lonely again.  GOD.
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I think that you need more than a friend...I think that you need someone that you can talk to who can help with why you are feeling this way.  Best of Luck!
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My suggestion to you is tht take part in activities,being lonely & just thinking abt it will not help u in anyway so make frnds or if u have c tht u meet them daily for somtime go for gym or look out for job or activity tht keeps u busy all the day.Try to b active go for morning walks or play interesting game or u have sister sit down with her & discuss this she also may b in a state to help u to deal with it. U r not deep in relation with people tht is not a justified reason for u to b depress . try to understand tht there is time & situation for every thing to happen u will get things but b bold to face everything
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Im right there with you. You kinda feel that you dont really fall into any minority or group/click... just you on your island. I think we're unique enough to just be... us. Its lonely, isn't it. I often have trouble finding good friends i can count on, but have an abundance of mutual friends that i can hang out with... but it seems like you can never find anyone who can relate to you.