I know that there is no guarantee when it comes to relationship but what makes you really fall in love with a girl?  Your likes and dislikes,  What pisses you off?  etc. What will make you stay faithful?  Big word I know, but please I really want to know.  Please answer this from your heart.  Thanks!
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When a rerson makes a commitment to another person, they should do what they say they're going to do. If you truly "love" the person, then you will find ways to stay together. Then why am I divorced you ask.......I can only speak for myself and not somebody else. I made that commitment......she didn't! Both people have to make it(commitment) for it to work. There has to be a oneness of purpose, and an undying bond for them to stay together forever. Happens every day! Good luck in your life, and may you find that "perfect one".
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two people can feel they are right for each other when they first meet, definately. i had it happen to me, five months ago. we were together for a couple of weeks and then i had to go back home... its been 4 months and i still havent even thought of having a relationship with anyone else. we talk every day, the feeling Is still the same. so the point is, it can last, for sure! :)
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Just be yourself. There's no way to make some one fall in love with you. You need to be nice to her. And be willing to be "just friends" because if she doesn't feel the same and you really love her then you will still want to be around her at least as a friend.\n   You may want to wait a while until you express your true feelings for her as well. Make sure that you two know each other pretty well so she won't think you're some sort of stalker weirdo!
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They say "love is blind" this proves it.\nYou just can't choose who you fall in love with-I mean if you could I think she would be the last person...but this doesn't mean you should degrade her, people make mistakes and they should be forgiven..She may have been insecure and had low self esteem before, this doesn't mean she will stay that way.If you really love this girl, than you should act like it-for example-stop the name-calling!Everyone deserves respect even if its the least worthy of a situation..People do things that can't be explained by anyone but them.
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If you are a responsible, strong and good hearted woman, you will find a man that will be attracted to your good heart. Just remember the girl in you that believed in love, so that you can recognize when this man come to your life. \n\nWhat happened to that girl? Maybe she dreamed of that ideal man she'd one day give her heart to, and she knew at that moment she dreamt of him, she had already fallen in love. And each day, each moment of her life, she carried that love with her in her heart, waiting for the day when it could be released; released and given to the one who was worthy. What would it be like to realise that after all the sorrow and tears... that person had come along?\n\nBut you need to keep a good attitude so that you are aware when this man is in front of you.
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OK. as a guy, who has done that, i was tempted to do that time and time again. but my girl keeps me in check(m not pu**y whipped). she is more than i can handle. which is good. she is not forgiving, but she knows how to punish me. i mean, she loves me, and she knows that i love her. it has been three years now, and i havent even looked at another girl (matter of speaking). she trusts me, and boy, that is all i need.
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Hello:\n\nOne of the hardest things I have ever had to realize is that loving someone isn't enough to make a relationship work. \n\nI was in a long term relationship with a guy, whom I was in love with. The only problem was that he was insanely jealous, and I am a little too trusting. He would assume I was cheating on him, if I had a conversation with a guy friend (a guy friend that I had been friends with long before I met my boyfriend). And if I saw him chatting with a random girl I would just assume they were chatting, and nothing more. I should also say that I have never cheated on a boyfriend, much less cheated on this guy. \n\nEventually he started to push the limits more and more when it came to making me jealous, so much so that he started making out with a girl at a party we had gone to together. Even though afterwards he told me that it didn't mean anything, but that he wanted me to feel jealous, it was too hurt to try to make the relationship work. \n\nWe had a long talk and learned that we had spent so much time trying to hurt each other, that we didn't have anytime to enjoy each other. Obviously our relationship was disfunctional, and I'm happy to say we are both in relationship and are successful and we are still friends with one another.\n\nThe relationship I have now is fantastic. But we still do have problems. The best thing I have done in this relationship is that we face issues head on. But we both know how we each deal with stress. When I am stressed I like to be left alone, where as he likes to be distracted and just take a break from it all. We are able to recognize when we are stressed, and how we can help the other one deal with the problem. \n\nI would suggest that you wait it out. You've been in a relationship that has been successful for so long. Wait until he has started school and starts feeling comfortable there. But be supportive and if he doesn't want to talk to you about his feelings - just let him know that you are there for him if he ever needs to talk or a distraction. \n\nI hope this helps and good luck!
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Wow, having sex twice huh\n\nHere's my thought- \n\nIf a girl has a boyfriend, don't encourage her to stay or leave. Don't get involved where that is concerned. She must be able to stand on her own and make her own decisions.\n\nShe might be a sweet girl, you both might be instantly into each other but lets look at it this way.\n\nShe had sex twice with you (Outright cheating- since she at the time had a boyfriend...). She cheated essentially to be with you, now whats going to stop her when she is bored/tired/frustrated/angry with you? Think she'll do that with someone else too?\n\nMy advice is to essentially get her out of your life. I know it is painful ~ I almost ran headlong into a similar situation before but I avoided it when I decided to get her out of my own life. Course the end result with that was she cheated with some other guy (we never went through, because the moment I found out she was wishy washy about the then current boyfriend I knew it was a sign to get out). \n\nNext, go out there, get out in the world and start seeing other women. I do not know what state you live in, but in Los Angeles California, 10,000 women are turning 18 every day. If one woman I like has something hiding in the closet - I just say adios.\n\nI said "women" not "girls" because women are mature, girls are not. Mindset is important, who do you think will cause you more happiness? Someone who isn't loyal, or at least will stick by you through the bad times(When love really shows itself, as well as their character), someone spoiled and otherwise emotionally unstable?Or someone who will stick by you even though the bad times, who is psychologically stable, mature,  and is patient?\n\nAgain, I know it may be difficult to just purge someone from your life but lets face it. \n\nYou deserve better than to be in constant tension, pain, stress, confusion and worry over this girl who is wishy washy, cheated twice and doesn't want to hurt her boyfriend's feeling even though by the sound if it, she isn't happy. \n\nWhats stoping her from doing the same on you?\n\nSorry if I sound cold, insensitive and generally offended you (if it did), but I am not as sensitized to the situation as you are, I don't personally know you or the girl you speak of.\n\nI do not imply that the girl will cheat on you, I only deal in odds if she will or not. They say that once a cheater, always a cheater right?\n\nLast note:\nIf she really wanted to break off from the relationship- she would have done it already. If you really want something, and are in enough pain to get it, you'll do it almost instantly. Seems like she is holding back, and not actually thinking about a way to let her boyfriend go (if indeed, she wants to).
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What has best answer got to do with love? Are you telling us that you will fall in love with the person who gives you the best answer?\n\nPlease don't select my answer as the best answer I am a girl too.
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Okay, here's the thing...\n\nI've had one relationship with a girlfriend where I felt that I was deeply loved and that love was also reciprocated by me.\nIt comes down to the old nagging cliché. She used to hen-peck me all the time, and I'm sure I did the same to her to in my own way. But my point is, when you do have a fully reciprocated and loving relationship, you care about those comments, propbably trivial things most of the time but sometimes more significant. Because I loved her (and trusted her) it mattered deeply what she thought of me and I would be prompted to change. Maybe not immediately, maybe there'd be an argument and doors would be slammed and sofas spent the night on, but when you calm down and it all percolates down, you want to be that much better, for them(!), so you change.\n\nIn summary, we all are in a constant state of flux, of changing from one day to the next due to the experiences we have. But a loving relationship provides you with a mirror, to see who you are in others eyes and where you need to improve. And because you love that person and trust their judgement, you accept those criticisms and act accordingly. And it can only work well if it's mutual.\n\nJust to complete the story of the girl - we split up! :( She was going on from uni to work a year in France and 2 or possibly 3 years in Japan, we agreed between us that it would be heart-breakingly frustrating to keep the relationship going with such little time together to work on it. We both spent the next few months after separating feeling like the bottom had dropped out of our respective worlds, but slowly and surely we healed apart.\n\nThe happy ending: I now enjoy a relationship with her as perhaps my all time best friend - a friend for life. It still matters just as much what she thinks of me and I still find myself tweaking the engine according to her tuning specs. We are no longer an item or 'in love' with each other but we certainly do love each other deeply and trust and respect one-anothers opinions.\n\nI am very happy with that.
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Hello:\n\nI've never personally been invovled in a no-strings-attached relationship, but plenty of my friends have and I have been offered that sort of relationship.\n\nFirst off, I have always declined to enter that type of relationship. I know that I personally could not spend time with someone in an intimate setting and not become attached to them. I suppose it's possible for others, but it just isn't possible for me. I am not typically a jealous person, but I would be extremely bothered if someone that I was seeing was messing around with other girls. \n\nAbout friends who have been in that situation, nearly all ended up getting hurt. Once one of my friends who was in a relationship like that ended up dating the guy, but it was not really a NSA relationship. They both agreed they would date other people in an effort to not get to serious, however they both ended up not dating other people because they only had feelings for each other. And most of my friends have entered into relationships like this thinking that they can make the guy want to be exclusive with them, which never happens. \n\nEven if you had sex with this person, I would say that a NSA is a cop out for most guys. They get all the physical benefits of being in a relationship, without actually being in a relationship. Granted a girl also get's these benefits. I just have never been one to understand why someone would enter into a relationship like this.\n\nI hope this helps and good luck.
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I agree with Jason, but I have to add this: You are the one that has the best chances of becoming his best girlfriend, and when that happens, and he comes crying to you about the girl 'he likes' and how she destroyed him, you'll be there ready to take him ;)\n\nMen always like the 'mysterious, inaccessible' girl, but they confide and trust their gurl buddies. Just remember to stay girly, ie don't start belching, and don't be *too* available.\nGood luck!
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Your answerers thus far have the right idea.  As a young guy, I went through something very similar.  I would pursue the girl actively, using any means at my disposal.  Then when she started acting interested, I sensed in myself a "loss of respect" for her.\n\nStupid and self destructive.\n\nFirst of all, you have to ask yourself, what do I want out of a relationship?  What makes me feel self-respect?  What kind of pleasures, aside from the physical, make me feel good when I'm with a guy?  Do I laugh?  Do we talk about meaningful stuff?  Does he care about me?\n\nIf you're anything like I was, making another person fall for you is one way of validating your appeal.  Okay, so that person fell for me...one more notch on the gun.  But I still don't feel that good.  Let me try the next guy.\n\nWhat you're doing may, in fact, be a way to help yourself feel attractive and appealing.  But you never quite get the feeling right.  And some guys treat you like ****, which only serves to reinforce your bad feelings about yourself.\n\nPeople have been saying it for a long time:  to love another, you must first love yourself.  That means, really feeling independently self-fulfilled.  Knowing that you're special and that you don't need someone else to make you feel that way.  \n\nSome people...maybe you...lose touch with that feeling of being worth something, and you continue to "play the field" seeking that which you'll never find, the love that you'll want to hold on to.\n\nAnd if you don't think you're really special, and know that it's true, and screw anybody who doesn't think so, then maybe you need to talk to a counselor.  Doesn't have to be a shrink; could be someone you trust, someone in church, but make it someone who has no stake in the outcome, someone who can be objective.\n\n~Dialectic_Dilettante
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Wow..had to think about this for awhile. Still cannot absolutely point to one thing..at least not one specific thing. The best I could come up with is..her heart. She has such a warm, loving heart that she overwhelms me with happiness, love, and a need to be near her at all times. This might take way too long to explain in such a short forum so I am trying to be very brief, but, it is her heart which makes me love her with all my soul, all my own heart. It also makes me (how to say this politely...hmmm?) want her in every way, shape and form. How's that?
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Does music really mean more to you than the girl you like or because of the differences in taste are you willing to see a beauty in the dynamics of individualism and see this as a way of being a possibility to see what kind of sacrifices you are willing to make all in the name of 'like?' You don't have to like what she listens to but can you be accepting of it? More questions i know but think about it...
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Why would you want to date someone that already has shown a tendency to cheat?\n\nWhat if her boyfriend is some who can beat the **** out of you (and maybe even her)?\n\nMore trouble than it's worth...\n\nThat's just dumb.
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I've fallen in love only once. Yesterday we broke up, I did it only because it was the right thing to do, yes, I got very hurt. Now I wanna fall out of live with him, if that's even possible. The problem is that love makes me always see all his good qualities, never the bad ones. I hope it's true what they say that time heals, 'cause I'm as sad as my avatar looks. As far as advices go, i don't really have any, love is a different experience for each person. Just enjoy it, take chances and live at 100%, you might get hurt, but otherwise, you might feel like you never lived in the first place. Thanks for letting me share, I know it's quite long. Good luck ;)