When ever I want to call him his phone is off. I can't talk with him two day out of the week because he doesn't get home till late ( so he says ) Oh one more thing he has never called me. Could it be that if he was with someone she could see the numbers. I was just talking with him and asked why his phone is always off and he had to go.  Is this red flags or what !
214453
Big time. The guy is married.
198352
my boyfriend\nthe question is why do you not call regularly\nbecause his not calling hurts me\nwhy? because he is my boyfriend and is suppose to call
511459
1) he could be busy. maybe something in his schedule changed. for instance when i was with my ex she would answer my calls most of the time. but then her aunt got sick and she spent alot of time in the hospitol and barley answered the phone for a while.\n2) maybe he is hiding something\n3) maybe he wants to break up but doens't know how to tell u,\n\nif u wnat honosty its not gonna be good. don't get your hopes up. and good luck. i hope u find someone who treats u better.
407954
Yeah, it sounds bad. He wanted to cut out quick, and that's good. You don't want him hanging around just to be polite, do you? The fact that he hasn't called yet, doesn't mean anything.. guys are not usually phone hounds like women are, but not coming in was the clincher.
204748
He sounds a little scary to me. You definately should not call him, he sounds like the type of guy who will turn out to be a stalker.\nIt's much better to be with a man who will give you some space and not leave 4 messages in two days. If you didn't call him back after the first message he should not have called you again.\nFor your own sanity and safety, find a man who isn't so desperate. At some point, this behavior he has shown will drive you crazy if you pursue this relationship.\nGood luck.
65418
Unless there's a legitimate reason for him not calling you back, "he's just not that into you". You make it sound like his behavior is consistent so if you're making the relationship a priority and he isn't, it may be time to move on. Make yourself less available. I would spend more time with friends and ignore his calls. That way you're out there meeting new guys and he'll either come around or you'll find one that returns phone calls.
676932
Guys don't want to talk unless there's nothing else to do. Not always a sign of disintrest. But you were a one nighter. Keep calling. Don't over do it. After a few real dates let him know you like being with him then stop calling for a week or two. If he wants to proceed he'll call you. It might take 2 weekends before he calls. If he calls late at night on a weekend.... He'll be drunk and horny. Booty calls don't make girlfriends. You need to redefine yourself in his mind.
564660
Get your money back, then drop him. It honestly just doesn't seem like he's trying to spend time with you at all or even try and figure out his "true intentions". To be honest with you, I think he already knows his true intentions, he just doesn't want to tell you. If he really didn't know, he'd be talking to you still even if he was trying to figure it all out. As for that afternoon that he didn't show up, it doesn't take much to call or e-mail, he could have at the least done one of those things. Heck, I call my girlfriend if I'm going to be a few minutes late for getting to her place to see her. I consider it a requirement.
564045
You might be able to tell if he doesn't call you as often or if he sounds strange on the phone, especially when you ask him how his day was. Good luck and try to trust him.
323750
i Think you should call the person and ask them politely but firmly why they haven't called you. if they say something like I've been busy or caught up with things, let it slide this once. if this is not the the first time they did this, you should ask them how come they couldn't give me a call at least to see how u were doing. it depends on how long you have been with the person, if its a serious, and other things like that.\n  in my opinion, i address thee problem with them after the 5th day i hadn't heard from them.
603849
A long distance relationship,usually doesn't work out,It seems that hes discovered someone where he lives.if he truly cares let him call you,but don't continue to call him and not receive a call back I know its easier said than done .cut him off you've done nothing wrong.,that your calls go UN answered.
273654
Two hours is nothing for him to drive and take you out or spend the day with you.  I would, if I liked someone and they equally liked me!  There is always the telephone in between times when you can't see each other.  Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
161230
HES NOT MAD AT U BUT U HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT HE MAY HAVE OTHER THINGS GOING ON IN HIS LIFE WHERE CALLING U MAY NOT BE THE FIRST THING ON HIS MIND NOT SAYING THAT HE DOESNT WANT TO TALK TO U ITS JUST THAT HE MIGHT EVEN BE BUSY AND IF YOUR GETTING MAD BECAUSE HE DIDNT CALL IT MAY BE BECAUASE YOUR STARTING TO CATCH FEELINGS EVEN THOUGH HES FAR AWAY. also if u had other things to do and were busy then u wouldt pay that much attention to it and also if its that much long distance i dont think his phone bill is to happy things change and so do people so dont get upset try to remain calm and open minded his situation may have changed
633024
If he avoids answering his cell phone when he's with you, then chances are that he's just polite. I think it's terribly rude for someone to take you out on a date or something and then to be constantly answering the phone and chatting with friends the whole time. If it's an emergency, fine. Or if he's expecting an important phone call and is extremely apologetic about it, it's forgivable. But a cell phone is a tool, it is not something one should be enslaved to. If people want to talk to him, they can leave him a message and he can return their call at his earliest convenience...not during a date.\n\nThe part about the two apartments is a little harder to reconcile. Is he recently divorced? Does he use one as a studio? Is he in the process of moving from one to the other? Does he deal drugs out of one and live in the other? I would definitely ask him why he finds two apartments necessary. It certainly sounds fishy.
560583
TRY ASKING HIM...BABY YESTERDAY I WANTED TO GO TO YOUR WORK TO SURPRISE YOU AND I DIDN'T FIND YOU THERE? I KNOW YOU FOUND OUT LAST MINUTE THAT YOU WEREN'T GOING TO WORK BUT I FELT CONFUSED BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T AT LEAST CALL ME TO LET ME KNOW. I JUST REALLY MISS YOU BECAUSE WE HAVEN'T SEEN EACH OTHER IN A WEEK I HAVE TO AT LEAST KNOW YOU ARE OK BECAUSE I GET WORRIED THAT YOU WORK TWO JOBS. LET HIM KNOW MAYBE HE WAS A LITTLE TIRED FROM THE TWO JOBS AND TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THE TIME TO REST. BUT TELL HIM COMMUNICATION IS SUPER IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
568633
This sounds like the classic case of him meeting someone and he doesn't want to tell you because just in case it doesn't work he has you hanging on the side. If he confirms it to you. It becomes real. Seeing you made him miss you threw him off. thats why the text. He seems to have the " out of sight out of mind" thing down. My advice stop calling, text, etc. He knows your patterns. You are being to conveint for him.This will have him approaching you instead. Right now you are to predictable to him. Mess with the pattern.Throw him off balance. He calls " look im busy right now can I call you back" then don't he will call you back.. I SWEAR!! tell him sorry I got busy. Don't get into it with him on the phone.. NEVER. keep being busy but say we need to talk, but I can't on the phone I gotta go now if he turns the topic, don't get mad.I know its stupid to play these games but this is the reality of it. THEN!! you decide if you want to put up with it. Confront him when YOU are ready. Then you choose to stay or go. Tell him not playing these games.\nKnow your worth. Don't be a door mat. good luck.
101928
That is crap. If he need to hide it something is SOOOOO wrong. My boyfriend would "magically" need to go get a soda or need to get gas out of no where. I'm talking 10 o'clock at night, or 1st thing in the morning. The funniest was when he would "need a newspaper" but he doesn't read the newspaper. It would take him an hour to do what should take 20 min. we live in a apartment and the dumpster is about 8-10 yards form the back door.When he took the garbage out he felt the need to put it in the truck and drive it around the complex where the dumpster sits in a parking lot. Took him a good 15 min. So a lot of times she(his ex wife) would call him as soon as he walked back in as to say she forgot something. Sometimes I would here him say, OH, I JUST CALLED TO CHECK ON THE KIDS, so I know he had tried to call. I would ask him about it and why he felt the need to leave to call for that and he would say it just happened that way. B/S. Every time he was there and she called, he magically could get no reception on his cell phone. Even if he had just talked to someone else 5 min before with no problem. I got nosey and checked his phone once, and it turned out he was calling her and she was calling him several times a day, for 15 and 20 min conversations(or longer) at a time. When I confronted him, (not only was he pissed) but he claimed he was only "checking on the kids". In that case he was checking on them while they were in school and sleeping etc. By the way, his kids were 11 and 14. Long story short, he is a raving idiot who wants to be with her but can't so he keeps me for comfort. And yes, he slept with her on a regular basis. HE TOLD ME THE SAME THING, THAT HE WANTS ME NOT HER. And he left me to get back with her and came crawling back a week later. But the same crap kept happening so i kicked him out and he tried to get back with her again, but it did not work. PLEASE dont be stuipd like me. i have wasted almost 2 years with this crap. Learn from my mistakes.