Well me and my ex have been broken up for about a year now.  In the beggining I couldnt get her out of my head cause I still liked her. There were times where she wanted me back and the next day she would hate me. But I could never really let her go. Now I know shes been around after we broke up but I havent even really talked to a girl since. I guess what I'm trying to say is whenever I do talk to her she always talks about her new bf and she goes and tells me that she wants to be friends with me. but for me it sucks.
204490
Dude if it hurts you to talk to her than I would avoid her. I went through a similar situation years ago. When you're with someone for a while and you develop strong feelings, it's hard to just get rid of those feelings. So if talking to her brings back any of those feelings you should avoid her.\n\nThere are plenty of other women out there man. Get out, do things you enjoy doing and soon those feelings will disappear. Hang in there bro. That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
131414
She is you ex for a reason. No don't give her another chance. Tell her that you can only be her friend and if you have ever been intimate with her then just get sex from her until you find that special someone that interest you.
90951
HELLO, this is serious you broke up with her for a reason. Now you are living in a fantasy forged by all of the "good times" and as time goes on you have her built up to be someone that she could never live up to being. You may want to be with her again because you are plagued with wondering what might have been. I am aware of the incredible pain. You can move on if you want (ask us for help with that) If you are already invested in the drama and choose to seek her out. Do not waste another moment of your precious life and know when to run.
224302
a similiar situation happened to me.  to this day i no longer talk to the girl i used to be friends with.  my best advice to you is find a friend that will not choose their bf over you. especially if the guy is yelling at you and she will not stand up for you.  she is not a true friend!
101920
Sometimes people just grow apart for no apparent reason.  Distance is hard on any kind of relationship.  Now that you've moved back and you found out that she has broken up with her boyfriend, you two might be able to have that same closeness again.  Just call, email or message her and let her know that you are there for her any time she needs to talk or have a shoulder to cry on.  If she doesn't respond then it's time for you to move on.  There's no sense in wasting your time on someone how doesn't have time for you.
647334
hey I'm 16 and i used to have the same problem, i mean I'm single now but my advice worked on my ex. : Just Be Yourself. any girl would be stupid to not go out with someone just because they don't want to give them a chance. I give everyone a chance and the way i see it is if they don't like me for me then i need to move on to someone who will. Just try talking to her about things she and you have in common. It will work just give it time.
89138
I totally understand what you have been through.  I think she could still be your friend but the question is NOT NOW. You have to move on no matter how hard it is.  You have to re-establish yourself with someone else, and be a whole again...before you can be friend with your ex.  It is very selfish of her to keep 2 men around.  Be strong and let her know that it is for the best. If she still cares about you, this is the least she can do for you.
419305
OMG.... i was in the same exact position 2 yrs ago as you are in now\n\ni just kept saying i wanted to be friends with him, and for the longest time we were just friends, but then we hung out all summer and i realized how much i really liked him. My ex bf refused to talk to me and for 2 yrs i wasted my life waiting for him... but once i got over him it just didnt make any sense to stay single when i liked his friend and he liked me back (btw, they are not friends anymore and havent been since my ex bf dumped me) so to sum that all up we are now bf/gf for 3 months and im 10x happier with my bf now than i was with my ex..... so i guess you just have to let time take its course.... i never thought id end up with who im going out wth now\n\nhope my "essay" helped.... good luck
350060
You should speak with him about it and let him know how you feel about it.  If it were vice versa, ask him how he would feel?  Don't jump to conclusions until you discuss it first.  See if he will take it off or what is explanation is first.  I know that some people can remain friends after they break up, some do not want anything to do with their ex's.  If he wants nothing to do with her, he should take her off.  Communication is an important part of a relationship.  I hope it works out.
120363
Laugh at them. I mean, she couldn't handle being single and fell into a rebound relationship that is doomed for failure. It's painful, I know, but don't worry. You're over her, what she does shouldn't bother you. Let her find another guy, let her screw up that relationship, and push her from your mind. You'll find someone else soon enough.
530722
Your ex may be going out with your friend to make u jealous...if she really wants u back then she will let u know she still has feelings for u and wants to be with you. Don't stop talkin to other girls tho b/c of her not liking it.
558098
I think that she wants a long-term relationship. She can't make her mind about you cause she isn't sure if you're wanting or ready for a serious relationship. She's pretty sure that if things aren't going well between you two that it's going to be hard to be friends again. Talk to her. Ask her what she wants, what she feels about you....
519333
You should definitely give her some time because she just broke up with her boyfriend.  There is still a possiblity that they might get back together.  Also, you do not want to be her rebound guy because rebounders never last long.  Just be a friend to her and let her know she can call you if she needs to talk.  But take it from me, I'm a female.  You do not want to pressure her or else it will turn her off of you.  Give her time.
301724
She's looking for attention even if it's negative attention.  If she's your EX and YOU want to keep it that way--for whatever reason, then continue ignoring her and eventually she'll get the clue.  I think she's trying to either get you mad by talking to your friends, or get your attention just to keep you hooked.  Either way, it's not very mature, but there again, you and her are still in school--the both of you have alot of growing up to do, before you become mature.
523191
You mentioned that you were confused with your life. Perhaps you should try getting a better foothold with your own life before you do anything else. Getting back with her while you remain in a state of confusion isn't going to help the both of you. And if you really want to be with your ex girlfriend, I'd suggest you come clean about your feelings to her and your present girlfriend. A girl wouldn't want to patch if you're already seeing someone else. Don't give your ex the wrong impression that you are a 'two-timer'.
179959
Just say no. She'll take you for granted in the sense that because you're still around, you're available should she ever want to get back together. In the meantime, while she has you as a backup, she'll go on with her life, getting you to do all the boyfriend "work" (e.g. listening to her whine about work, traffic, her new jeans) but not giving you the boyfriend "fun" (although maybe once or twice she'll cave and fool around with you). You'll think she's just on the cusp of getting back together with you. And then she'll tell you that she's met someone else. With work, be as civil as you'd be toward any girl in whom you had absolutely no interest. But flirt with all the other girls at work so the ex gets a reminder of what she's missing.
192055
Your ex is an ex for a reason...& I'm sure you remember those reasons, don't you?..So why would you look back!!...Give you new friend a chance at least, if not, move on...There's always bigger & better fish out in the sea..