Theres this guy that i was kinda with but not really. WE used to talk every night and we were kinda serious but then things went downhill after we had sex at a party when he was drunk but He always talked about our future. Having kids adn getting married.. Does this mean that he really loved me and wanted to be with me? or was it all just talk?
214179
If he really loves you then he would still be talking to you and wanting to see you. If all he wanted was sex then he probably is avoiding you and not answering you phone calls. If that is the case then you are better off without him and need to move on. Life is too short to get caught up on the little things and there are wonderful great guys out there who would probably love to be in a relationship with you. Just learn from this experience and move on with or without him. :-) hope that helps.
633859
Sounds like maybe he is over compensating a bit.  Loving someone is not the same as a lot of talk or getting yourself in trouble for them.  Loving someone is about sharing life with them including the bad times.  When you love someone you don't have to say it all the time because it is a given.  When you love someone you can be happy just being with them and never saying a thing.  Sure, he likes you but I'm not sure he knows what real long term love is and is trying to fill all the space trying to make it happen instead of letting it happen.  If he really loved you he wouldn't do things that get him in trouble because he wouldn't risk being punished and not getting to be with you.
444871
I guess he felt uncomfortable and did not want to create an unnecessary scene. Don't read too deep into him because I think if he wanted you, you would've know it way before the party started...Sounds like he wanted to avoid any possible confrontation. Some females don't take "moving on" too well -  sounds, like you handled yourself very maturely. Good Girl.
210947
what's the question here.  You guy wants to be your friend and your lover.  Sounds like he truly cares for you, and he is having you meet his family.  He just might not be ready to fully commit himself to the relationship since he just got out of one.  Just be patient.
667623
no sure how long you two have been dating, but beware.  Guys who usually rush into marriage thinking should send up warning flags.  I was in a relationship that moved like that one, and he was very emotionally abusive, and would most likely have been physically abusive if we had gotten married.
452356
Eventually if you want to have a serious relationship and marriage with this guy, everything is going to have to come out into the open. It won't be easy, but if he truely loves you he should be accepting of what has happened to you. Remind him that there was an agreement that the two of you made not to talk about the past and now that he has shared with you and you are understanding that you would like to be able to have the same reaction.
23999
Who cares what others think.  If you and he both think it will work out, than it will.  If he treats you and your kids great... wonderful!  Maybe he seemed mature before because you didn't know him very much, or maybe he was depressed, and now that he knows you, he feels like he can really be himself and have fun.  I wouldn't worry about anything.  Sounds just fine to me.
268808
sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
664387
whats wrong with this picture? 1st of all, what is a "sex friend" relationship?? 2nd of all, you know he has "random sex" with a "few girls"and thats cool with u?...whats up with that?  3rd,  I wouldn't get my hopes up too much just because you spent a little QT around his parents. that doesn't mean as much to him as it means to you. 4th you are falling right into his game to keep you sprung! this dude is saying and doing all the right things to keep you around. lets see: free sex, no commitment (marriage), willing to accept me seeing other women, and pretty, what man wouldn't take you up on that offer?    \n\nto answer your question yes he has feelings for you.\nits impossible to have sex with someone over an extended period of time and not develop feelings for that person.\n\nsex is very powerful, it was designed to take place between husband and wife to make the marriage bond stronger. you are actually becoming one with that person when you are having sex. why do you think it hurts so much when you break up with someone after you have had sex with them?  it's not natural to try to have sex without getting emotionally attached...\n\ndoes he have feelings yes, now is he looking at you as a potential mate/wife? no, a man will let a freak be a freak but when he gets serious about a relationship he will look for a woman that has standards and some respect for herself.
159570
my fiance' was married when i met him at work.his wife and him had been having issues with her cheating and she did not want kids and he did.he told me about 2 weeks after we met that he did not love his wife anymore.i never thought about getting involved with him until right before he seperated from his wife(a month and 1/2 after we met)he told me he loved me.i felt the same for him but i did not want to get in the middle of his marriage.he convinced me to be with him and i'm glad i did,he is the love of my life and says i am his
241372
im sure he loves you it takes a lot of guts to propose he wouldnt do it if he didnt love you. i dont think there really was some deep meaning behind it i just think it was a joke somthing he just said and didnt put too much thought into after all he is a guy cut him a little slack.
201361
I would have a serious conversation with him. It would be a shame to wait another 5 years just to hear again what you're hearing now. Why doesn't he want to marry you? I would think that the prospect of marrying the person you love would make you work harder towards your goals if you know that you will be married after. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If marriage and children are important to you then he needs to know. He may just be nervous about commitment, but if he really loves you he will need to face that fear. Im sorry but if he doesnt feel the same way then you need to move on. I know that will be painful but its better than wasting the next 5+ years of your life hoping he will change. If he agrees to marry you, make sure its really what he wants. You will be miserableif he married you because he felt he had no choice. Best of luck.
516460
If you guys haven't been together that long then probably. Men also tend to say things because they  sound good. There is really no telling in this situtation. And another thing, sorry to say it, he could just want sex, and feels he will get it if he says he loves you.
581594
it might not be him at all but rather the idea of him that is making your mind return to him.  You said you really liked the guy.  Well it could just be your brain returning to thought of settling down or whatever that meant in your mind....i.e. safe place, love, purpose.......But then again I am no dream expert.
583293
The infatuation is over. It was just a fling for you or else you would still have feelings for him. Just end it before things get worse. He might love you. you don't want to end up hurting him permanently do you?
22487
He might have some issues.  I would move on from here.  He was great for the time you spent together, but that seems to be it.  If you are interested in him, go out a few times before shacking up again.  Not a good move, if you are interested in a relationship.
86056
If you are looking for a realationship thats all about sex. I would stay in the relationship , if you are wanting something serious i would talk to him about whats going on and how you are becoming confused what is important to him. Whether its you or partying with friends. I also think that he is sending you signs he only wants sex, because he sees you late at night and , dosent spend much time with you when he has a chance. I think you deserve better than that anyone does, i would confront him if you care about him, but if you dont i would let him go. Good luck