i have a straight friend... he knows that i am experimental.one time, i asked if i could kiss him...(french)he said yes but when we were already in the secluded place, he objected cuz he was made happy by his girl that day.now, we are in the city, no girlfriends... how do i lure him into something "fresh" ywt he knows what i can do,i even joke bout blow jobbing him and talk dirty and stuff...
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If he's really a friend you wouldn't try to 'lure' him into doing something he doesn't wanna do.
329097
Things are cut and dry.  You are gay, and he is straight.  He probably is just comfortable around you and enjoys your company.  That doesn't mean that he wants to be anything other than friends with you.  If he asks why yer still single, he just probably thinks yer a good guy and deserves to be with another good guy, but no necessarily him.  Keep being his friend, but dont think or hope for more.  If he really is gay, and decides to come out, Im sure you'll be the first to know, but until then... Just realize that he is STRAIGHT.
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hmmm...personally, i'd guess that he's not gay.  I'd say that he's either bisexual, or he's playing that angle to get you to be more relaxed, more comfortable around him, so the transition to a relationship would be easier and less awkward.  It might not work, but that would be my conclusion regarding the whole sitch.
175700
You need to be honest with him. If he's straight and not into you then at least you will know. Maybe he wants to know because maybe he's interested in you. Either way you need to be honest with him. If it's meant to be it will be. Show him respect always and by being honest with him it shows him the utmost respect. Good luck honey!
637671
Wow, the first two answers were pretty retarded. Anyways, the thing about trying to get a partner regardless of your sexuality is don't talk with someone with the intent on flirting. Unless you're dead sexy or are a master at communication it's just going to blow up in your face. Usually if you have a crush on a guy see if you can find out if he's gay or not. In a lot of cases it's possible to just notice through personality and how open they are with you when you're with them. One easy way to get by this step is to go to gay clubs or anywhere that has that specified theme. There is no best way to flirting each person has different tastes and wants it's all about chance regardless of whether your gay or not. I hope this helps.
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No, but I did know a guy once that after I had sort of fooled around with him (we didn't do very much) that we were talking and in the middle of some conversation he mentioned that he had a girlfriend and that he was bisexual. I think he actually thought that if he came clean and said he was bisexual that somehow that made it okay, but when I asked if his girlfriend knew he said no he didn't know how to tell her. And I remember being a bit sarcastic and saying something like "You just say, hey I love you very much, but I want you to know that I'm bi." I think he just laughed and said it wasn't that easy. I asked him if he loved her, he said yes. Then I asked why he was out having sex with guys then (since earlier he had told me that he had met this guy and they did this or he met this guy and did this, etc). He said because he liked having sex with guys. I remember kinda scorning him a bit about not being faithful to his girlfriend to which he simply replied "But I'm bisexual". I remember saying very clearly "That doesn't mean that this isn't cheating. If she doesn't know and she hasn't said it's okay for you to sleep with guys or even to have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, then as far as I'm concerned this is cheating." Ironically he had the nerve to contact me a few years later to tell me he was going to marry her. I asked him if he was still having sex with guys, etc. He told me he wasn't. Then I talked to one of my gay friends who was talking about a guy that sounded familiar that he had sex with a few nights before. I asked his name and sure enough it was him. I went to his work and confronted him about it and he admitted that he had had sex with my friend and then casually mentioned a few other guys I also know. I told him he better tell his fiance, since he still hadn't, or not marry her if he didn't want to do that and that if he didn't tell her and was still going to marry her that my friends and I were going to tell her. I guess that was enough because he broke off the engagement and eventually a few years later did tell her that he was bisexual. To which she calmly replied "Oh neat!" And from conversations with her about it she said that it wouldn't have bothered her if he had wanted a boyfriend, too, so long as the boyfriend was bisexual and it was okay for her to sleep with that guy, too. (to each their own I guess) The point was that he was scared to tell her and in the end she would've been fine with it. Last I checked, he hasn't even dated or been with a girl in a long time and is actually now in a long term relationship with a guy.\n\nAs for me, I'm in a committed relationship myself. I don't know too many guys that have been with girls and slept with guys. I have met atleast one or two straight guys that occasionally like to get a bj from a guy (I know because they often went to some of my gay friends to get them....which at first shocked me, but once they explained that it was better than masturbating and that really it would be better if they could just find a girlfriend but that you take what you can get....oddly many of them are now married and they met those girls through us gay men who with our help usually introduced them and everytime I see them they seem very happy, one that I know even has three kids already...and according to the girl, who was a friend, they have a very healthy sex life)
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Honestly, this sounds mean, but spend less time with straight men.\n\nMy friend Justin spends all his time with straight men, mostly through his frat.  They know he is gay, and they're fine with it.  However because he only hangs out with straight men, he only falls in love with straight men because they are his only availible pool.  Then he bemoans to me that he is in love with yet another straight male.   It is like a self defeating cylce.\n\nGet out and spend more time with the homos would be my advice.  Get involved in a political campaign, volunteer at a gay community center, or find a gay club of some kind.  Go to the gay bars.  Make new gay friends online.  You can still keep all your straight friends (and I am in no way trying to get you to ditch them) but you need to widen that availible pool.  The best way to make good relationships in to make good friends who can introduce you to hot gay guys :-)
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Well I'm one of those fags (bundle of sticks)!!  The girl sounds awesome by the way, and I just want to ask you (since your obviously an expert when it comes to woman...so not!) do you know the real reason why straight girls associate with gay men?  They know that a real man is secure in his manhood to not get hung up on the whole "who she hangs out with" concept.  That may however be to hard for your pea size intelect to wrap around so looks like there is just no hope for you.  This girl is just way to much of a woman for you to handle so I would just leave her to the professionals, and step aside cause your a being a road block.
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He may be gay. Have you given that any thought?\nOr his life goals could be taking another direction and he may be truly not ready for a relationship,Respect that and dont force the issue.It takes a lot of self control to sacrifice basic drives and instincts for a high&#92;er purpose.If you force the issue and he gives in he may end up resenting that down the line.Stay close tell him you support and respect his determination and see if he will be willing to be your friend at this point and let fate lead .
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Y did ur guy friend kiss u anyway??\nand y did u let him???\nOMG! this might be the start of your being BI-sexual...not that its bad but its going to be verrry hard on your part...all the changes / talks(bout ur sexuality) / family pressures and the like...\nlet me know we could go to WEST HOLLYWOOD....\np.s. i'm a FAG-HAG
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sounds like he is in denial.  he is trying to make himself enjoy sex with a woman which incidentally doesn't reflect anything about you.  you need to quit having sex with him because you are just setting yourself up for a fall.  he is at the very least bisexual.  trust me most heterosexual men would cringe at the thought of a woman doing what he asked you to do.  tell him you love him (as a friend) will support him 100% if he wants to try to come to grips with the reality that he is at the very least bisexual.  You can't make that decision for him he has to do it on his own however you can protect your own feelings and the best way to do that is to end the sexual aspect of your relationship.
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Some gay guys can have sex with women and still be gay. There's no 'turning' either way. You are or you aren't or you're Bisexual. He may be confused, he may be bi, or he may be having a spell where he think's he's going to hell or something. I'm the gay guy magnet, I know, I'm the ultimate f@g-hag and I've seen just about every case. lol Maybe you should ask him if he could ever see himself spending the rest of his life with a woman. If he says yes, he's bi. If he says no then he's probably just a horny jerk. Guys are jerks sometimes, gay, straight, bi, or sluts. lol
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This doesn't necessarily mean he is gay.  Some people are just open to trying new things.  Many men enjoy the feeling as do women.  I have a friend who is very straight but enjoys anal sex.  Dont read too much into it.
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I think that might be his way of testing the waters with you, I had a guy friend do the same thing with me "I want to meet someone like you" You have to ask yourself if you would want to persue something with him or not, from the way it sounds not. \n\nThis is one of those time when subtle wont work I think you just need to come out and ask him if he is hinting that he wants more. Just tell him you have been getting a different vibe from him lately and you want to know.
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I had a friend of mine that we played that game for years. Nothing ever came out of it because we were too good of friends and I did not want to lose her friendship.  There were times she would flirt and even one time where she told me if she likes a guy they are paying at the movies and she had me pay the next day.You need to talk through it with him, it sounds like he is really unsure of himself and just as confused as you are.  I think he is waiting for the green light from you that says where you stand.
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Hey, don't listen to that pervert beers. He is just probably not that experienced in having a relationship. Being a friend is a lot easier than actually going out with somebody. If you are really interested in him, talk to him and tell him deliberately that you really want to start a relationship with him because you like him for who he is. :)
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You experienced a practice called cruising . Some men cruse around and when they see someone who is attractive to them they will ask if they want to hang out , if the person says yes then it has worked if he says no then no harm done . I doubt if he thought you were a prostitute but it doesn't mean he would have been willing to pay you for sex . He may not have even thought you were gay , Some men like to give bjs to straight guys . Oh and by the way there are some really hot men in their 40s and 50s . ie Tom Cruse . Don't let it bother you , just be flattered he thought you were hot !