My hubby and I live with her to help her out but she is driving me NUTS. I'm getting to the point of no return! I love my hubby so much but ready to leav because of her. What do I do? I can't tell hubby "NO" please don't take care of your mom. And things are $$ tight right now. So what would you do without starting World war 3 in my home(well her home). It doesn't even feel like home here.
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tell your hubby how you feel. If your not comfortable living there anymore, tell him. Let him know that you have nothing against his mom, but you've also got your lives to think about. You two need time to yourself, need your own privacy, and need your own space. Tell his mom, that even though it's her house, you have rights to, and need your space. You could always move out to a place of your own, maybe your hubby will follow, maybe he just wants to support his mom for the rest of his life. Talk to him, he might have things on his mind about the situation to
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Kick her out and dont let her live in your house with you and your husband anymore. She sounds sick and out of her mind. Have your husband prove that he is not married to her! He needs to tell her he is not her husband and kick her out! Why are you both even letting this woman live there. If she is not all there mentally there are homes for people like that too! Find her real husband and talk with him and see if you can get her some professional help. Has your husband ever had an affair or cheated on you with her in any way? You need to find things out! If She owns the house then you and your husband need to move out and get a place of your own far away from her and make sure that she does not know where you move to and have an unlisted number!
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I wonder how old is this child? if it were me and moms not doing so well I would try talking to the child and explain moms situation. The child may feel like shes losing her mom and doesn't understand how to cope. When I was a tennager I threatened my mom and she has someone come over from the juvenile court to "TALK" to me.... That scared the S!@# out of me and I didn't behave that way anymore.  as far as KY law you could always have someone you know that the child doesn't and have them lie to her and scare her.. At 13 My son thought he could get away with anything and I had a friend (who's in the military) come over in uniform with some phoney brouchers about military school... All BS I made them on my computer.... well it worked my son hasn't acted nasty in a long time that was over a year ago...Right or wrong you need to find a way that works for you because in the end your the adult and they can't forget that...
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Oh MY GOSH!! That really makes my skin crawl, a son gives his mother his paycheck to pay her bills and SHE ACTUALLY TOOK IT!!! You need to be mad at both of them!!! And you need to remind him that HE has a family to provide for and that even though it is important for him to be there for his mom---THE KIDS AND YOU COME FIRST!! Whats NEXT?? Is he gonna let her come and live with you or will you be moving in with her because you got evicted because of this? Message me if you want to vent...I feel your pain.
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My Mother in law is the same way. Does your husband know she does not like you? Does he stand up for you? THAT is what is important. This lady sounds way more than ridiculous. You can't have a car??? She knows she is in control and she is using that to her advantage. She WANTS you to leave your hubby........sounds like her goal is to make you miserable so you leave. Best advice? I KNOW this is hard but be as sweet as pie to her, almost sarcastic sweet. This will get to her more than anything. Talk with your husband, once he sets her strait that he loves you and there is nothing she can do to change that, things will get better! Good Luck
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Yes, yes and yes ... no need to explain ... she's at home all day ... what else should she be doing ... freaking watching soap operas and talk shows ... she should be giving something back to the household if she's not helping financially ... she gets mad that you take a nap cause she just sits there all day and waits for you to get home .. tell her to pick out a hobby or something .. buy some cook books - cooking isn't hard ... tell her you feel she's not attributing to the relationship in the way you expected and you feel like you're doing a lot of the hard work .. and for what .. so she can get fat on the sofa all day .. good luck dude .. lol .. can't stand lazy b*tches .. I work full-time, clean the house and cook dinner for my family ... it's not hard ... I do it out of love .. and I know how hard my man works - so cooking dinner is nothing .. he'll clean up so it works out perfect .. you need to come up with something for her to do and fast or you're going to be fighting a lot in the future ... !
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OK what is up with this heart attack stuff..My husband and now your mom. \nShe will be in my prayers. Keep us posted about her updates. Take your laptop and keep in touch.\nI had a very hard time and still am dealing with it all. I come here to escape it all..I took my lap top in one day in his room and the Doctor asked me  have you heard of that Yahoo Q&A and I said yes and I showed him this one and he said there is this one babe from and he stopped and said no way...And I said yes..Funny small world................So you wanted new.........\n\nI  have  official made the commitment to take my road trip. I just emailed my family and told them that I was going and if they were not going to support me on this one OWell things happen..\nIt just hit me I need to do this regardless of life and what is going on. LOL for me
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Living with Mom isn't working out--and rarely works out for many people.  \n\nWhether you've always lived with her, or you recently moved in with her for whatever reason, I highly recommend you get a place of your own.  You'll never find a wife living with your mother.  Get your personal life in order to the way you want to live it, then bring your mother into your life to care for her when she needs personal care.  Or get a good enough job to hire people to help with her personal care.  \n\nUnderstand your mother's history will help you understand why she worries so much.  It's like having a parent who grew up in the depression.  Her unique life experiences cause her to believe these things are important.    You can understand and respect her without living with her.  It's possible.  I promise.
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Sounds like to me you need to tell that busy body mother in law to unleash your husband from her apron strings,she sounds like she is your problem,of course your husband cant see this its his mom.Some men are always momas boy ,until they see it for them selves that dear old mom is breaking his home up .don't let her insult you ,let him get mad he has a life time to get glad.you are his wife and the mother of his children I'm sure you cook for clean house and wash his clothes so where is the respect you so much deserve.if mom is all that and then some maybe she should do all this for him.she sounds like a mean 2 face devious spiteful woman who is out to ruin your marriage.stand up to her don't let her ignorance ruin your home put her in her place and tell her to stay there.if your husband doesn't have the guts to tell her then its up to you.....
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your mom is offering to help you!! she wants the best for you and is willing to do what it takes for you get treatment and life on back on track..she seems like a responsible caring woman so i would say stick with your mother even if it means getting kicked out of your house! its only because she loves you and until you figure out the consequences of your actions..then i presume she will keep doing it
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yep, i told her this morning.  to honor my mother, i brought her myself, wife, two daughters, and our hound dog.  we all wished her a happy mother's day before i gave her a new comp, which i'm using to type this answer.  sorry about your falling-out with your mom.  i hope it is not too late for you both.  good luck - you seem like a nice guy.
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She can only interfere as much as you two let her. My wife and I had gone through this. My own mom is very controlling and self-centered. She never re-married after my dad left in 1973. Mom felt that my wife took me away from her. When we got married, early on I told mom that I have a wife to take care of now and that SHE is the focus of my attention and affections. I do have a 35 year old brother that still lives with her, but she would call for me to do work around her house. I told her that I have my own house to take care of. Sure, she got irritated, but she also began to realize that I was not at her beck and call anymore.
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Wow. you don't have to be a genius to realise what a bummer of a situation you are in. I had a friend in this situation. Except your mom seems to be sticking in the middle of the U.S., and that is curious to me... usually if people are on the move it is toward bigger and better, and I have actually been to every single town you have lived in (just visiting, I have always lived in TX) and they aren't so great. Have you tried sitting down with her and describing the need that you have, or asking her what compels her so much to keep on the move? What is she running from or what does she gain in being a rolling stone. Try to convey to her what a turmoil it is putting you in to not have a stable environment to become a well-adjusted normal person. Try to understand what her logic is to moving all the time and at the same time convey to her that you need more stability. Let it sink in, and then let her know how you feel about Durant, OK. Good luck.
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You really need to map it out ....throw a few choices at her then if she doesn't respond in time OH WELL....You have a life and you need to build your own traditions with your own family to, if she can't see that then I know it sounds bad but to bad. We go through this with our families to....so you are not alone. I do not agree with disrespecting her but I also do not agree with her selfishness! Go see both and do what works for you and your hubby! Happy Turkey Day!\n\nAwwww...and tell your hubby this was her coice not his fault and not to be upset!
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I am not a soldier...anymore.  I was active duty army for 2 1/2 years and also did a tour in Iraq.  I am now a soldier's wife.  My husband just left a week ago.  I know what you are going through.  You need to understand though that when he says he doesn't want you to worry...that's the truth.  I told my husband before he left that I don't want to know if he gets fired upon, has to shoot anyone, etc.  I would rather just stay in a lovely state called denial. LOL  When I was in Iraq I made that mistake of telling my mom when I was shot upon...I never told her about another incident.  I didn't want her to worry. (Keep in mind...is was there in the beginning)  Give him some time...hopefully he will start having some stories that he cares to share soon.  I am am yahoo messenger quite a bit...my email address is in my profile.  Keep your head up...good luck!
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She is entirely too young to be doing this.  Is she sickly?  My mom is going to be 60 this fall and she works 2 jobs and is a totally vital healthy woman.  I just turned 40 and we both work at the same Mental Retardation Facility as RNs.  I have the utmost respect for her skills as an RN and she is as sharp as a tack.\n\nPerhaps she needs to get a boot in the bottom to get her to see that she is not living, but merely existing.  \n\nIf she complains about the food, say "You have a kitchen in your apartment, go find something to eat if this doesn't suit you.  Otherwise, please be quiet about it."
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get in there or you will regret it if she did that to me i would have no problem and would come out and ask her if she say she does not fancy you .move on. i did that to my wife and pushed the local coppers son off the post office wall and said out loud 'leave her alone shes mine and after 36 years two kids and three grandchildren it was the best move i have ever made. mind you i was pissed at the time and now this Sunday was a mad day as normal of guitars, screaming kids and the floor covered in toys and me loving every minute and loving even more when they all went home and tomorrow  i will want them all back again. one life live it and take a chance.