I know this person and she thinks she is better than everyone. any help with this matter would be great
207459
Are you like 13 or something?\nGET A LIFE AND STOP HARRASSING ME!
600076
There is good and bad in all people.  I think as long as she isn't hurting anyone, you should consider her to be good.
191384
I think you need to understand that she is probably very intimidated by you, and that her putting you down helps her self-esteem. If you don't want to give up on this friendship, compliment her on what she is good at, etc. And make sure you never (even unintentionally) brag or make her think that you think you are better than her, because it's obvious that she has really poor self-esteem. Give it a week, compliment her, make her feel needed/wanted as a friend, and see how it goes. It will take some time, but I think it will probably be worth it...\n\nAll the best
271077
If I were you I would cut her loose. Just because you have already tried to be the good person and help out but obviously she doesn't want your help. Tell her if she can't figure it out for herself then you don't know what to tell her. Tell her the Internet is a good source to get information about projects and papers. Or you can give her the name of a couple websites and hand her those and tell her that you are gonna be busy
166691
I think you shouldn't lower yourself far enough to worry about what someone who is so obviously ignorant thinks.  Does it really matter to you what she thinks of you?  Does it change who you really are?  I would try to see that the things she says come from her own issues and that they have nothing to do with who i am.  Think about it...if she does this and you have no reaction to it how much fun will it be for her to continue doing it? If her goal is to hurt or bother you and you respond to that you are simply feeding hre monsters and giving her what she wants, also you could be proving that what she says about you is true by allowing her to provoke negative behavior from you.  She is disturbed, stay away from her, but don't waste your energy on her or let her rob you of peace of mind she isn't worth it.
469286
Break it to her gently, when you're in private. Tell her that the reason YOU think she's being picked on is because she calls everyone Goo-goo, and that if she stops they will too. When people make fun of her in front of you, say something like "Well she may call ppl Googoo, but at least she's not so desperate for attention that she makes fun of others," or "It's not my fault I like to hang out with people who are ____ (your favorite thing about her), unlike you!" Don't just let them put you and your friend down! If they keep it up, just ignore them completely. They'll stop if there's not reaction from you. Good luck!
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Tell her that you appreciate her concern for your well-being (assuming that this is her 'intent'), but that there are some things in life that you need to handle on your own.  Perhaps ask her if she'd be willing to listen if you need a sounding board.  That might make her feel that she's still useful.
378715
better than you i see!  just kidding. Just answer politely. If youve been good...say good...or fine. Or if youve been sick, say you had a bug for a few days but feel great now. And about this person who causes you problems...i have 3 people who cause a lot of problems..not just with me..but with the whole family and then some. Only one i see on a regular basis now. And when they start into their stuff...i try to always stay nice, unless they get nasty, rude or mean. Then i am firm. And that makes her quit. I dont stoop to her level, because that would make me look as bad as her, i go above her and just let her know that how she acts is not tolerated by me. And she ends up looking like a fool, and i get satisfaction knowing she made herself look bad in the process and trying to get to me.\n\nYou've probably heard the saying "kill em with kindness"?  It really does work.
42395
Ok so lets be realistic here NOONE is perfect and most people find it very difficult to admit when they are wrong. I had a friend tell me something once that I wont easily forget, he said "everyone has a weakness and you can use that for your benefit". After that I saw things differently. Not that Im taking advantage of them but knowing they are human too and being able to look for and find it helped my esteem cause suddenly we were all on the same playing field. now I dont need that to know im a good person and i dont take others as personally anymore either.\n\nThe best part was poking a little fun at my "perfectly skinny friend" who always had a better than me attitude about weight (not that im fat) But i realized she is quite flat chested and it does bother her a bit and that cut her down to size. we are better friends now than ever.\n\nI just thought of something else. If some one says something that bothers you sometimes it helps to repeat it back to them in thier own words. "so your saying....." this creates a little 'yes' in thier mind and builds rapport between you. It also lets him hear himself and think about what he has said.
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Not knowing her personally but having known many people who fit that description, I'm going to guess that she is just like that, and it's not anything against you personally.\n\nYou are just trying to train her to do a job and not counsel her and fix her personality flaws, so you just have to work with what you have.  Don't take her flack personally, and keep good humor about it.\n\nAs you're working on the training, authoritatively praise her as she starts to understand.  "Great, you're getting it," "Good job, keep it up," "You've got that down; let's try to work on this," or whatever.  This establishes your relationship as the mentor and makes it harder for her to take the upper hand and nitpick you (to your face, anyway).  She will try, but you can brush it off humorously so she understands that she will not be gaining anything by acting that way.  It also provides a good example for her to emulate.
399317
she obviously has a low self esteem, but you think she can really sing ,you said she really has a great voice, first you must give her or take her to a salon where they are going to give her a complete makeover, if they can change her outfit into something more commanding and powerful then that would be a boost, second tell her, that you think her voice is really really beautiful and that it should not go to waste, record it when she is singing and let others hear it , first a few close friends then find out their comment about it, enroll her in a fine arts academy, convince her to enroll in a schoo where they can let her potentials out, only she can make the choice whether she wants to come out of her shell, the best thing you can do is to continously remind her how great she is
347452
Please try and not be so shy, she will be more relaxed and enjoy helping you. People love to help and share their knowledge.
622169
Wow!  If you talk like this about a friend, I 'd hate to see how you diss your enemies!  Friends are supposed to be supportive, non-judmental and not broadcast the other friend's weaknesses.  The answer is to just speak privately to her.\n\nBe tactful and tell your friend that you are worried about her and why.  Please do not call her a "whore" or not "good looking enough" as you will hurt her feelings and close her mind to anything constructive you might have to say.  Not to mention that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your opinion may not be the same as someone else.  You might want to tactfully suggest that she seek counseling to find out why she is on a self-destruct course.  There may be some driving force or emotional issue in her past that you know nothing about.\n\nHowever, she is an adult at 19 and is entitled to make her own choices and mistakes in her life so if she rejects what you say, you have to accept it.
58117
Just be yourself and don't worry about ignorant people who think they are better than you. These people have to degrade you to make themselves feel better. Let them call you names, joke about how you function in the world, and laugh at your personality,etc., it's just their way of turning the spotlight away from themselves because they are afraid if you look too closely at "them", you may find a few flaws. If they would turn on their brights, they would realize everyone is different; has bad points and good points; and acceptance brings people closer. Maybe they are just sooooo unhappy, they want to drag you down to their dungeon to suffer with them. Try extending an olive branch or making a peace offering, and if that does not work, forget about them, do your own thing, and sooo politely tell them to kiss your arse.   \nP.S.  I am a Redneck, shhhhhh....don't tell anybody!!(:
411397
I personal would tell her what she doing tell other people to give. She should give cause she want to not for a reward. She want it for for an ego. my question to her would be why do you have a big ego and think you better than everyone else.
12665
In the big scheme of things, there are always going to be people like her in your life. Hold your head high, you have substance. Unlike her game, that will never fade. Your time will come. Quality is what is important, not quantity.
677204
This friend of yours is not a good person. She is definitely simply leeching out favours from others. Just leave her, don't talk to her. She'll definitely come back for more assurance. I think she needs some counseling.