I work full time and I am a mom of a 6-year old. I feel split in two. I need the $ but need the time with my child. What should I do.
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If you are happy with any decision you make for your child as a parent, your child can  sence that and in turn children feel safe and secure.The problem with you feeling guilty about your parenting decisions is the effect this is  having on your child. Focas less on the 'right' decision and more on what feels good in your heart for you and your baby. If you are spending quality time with your child,  really connected loving time, doing things that allows your child to really feel cared about, every possible moment you can , because you want to and you enjoy the time you spend together these are the  things that make a huge difference. Nobody likes being cared about because the other person feels obliged.Work out where this is all coming from it could be a deeper issue.
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Spend time with your family yeah you might need the money but i grew up without my dad and with only my mom taking care of me and it sucked cuz i bearly even saw her she was always at work or with her friends.Now she regrets it but still......... PLease take my word for it go with your kids.. They will be happy..... good luck hop you choose me.....
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The time is now to learn some lessons about growing up and things that come in time. Like more pay. I had exactly the same problem just the other day. My son who is 13 has been helping his aunt get the gardens ready on the weekend. His little sister who is ten also came along though not to help. She ended up doing some work (pulled a few leaves and chased the dogs) and was paid five dollars. Her brother got 15 as he did a lot of hard work. She just went ballistic lol. My fiery little girl. I sat her down and explained that he being older has that privilege because he can do more than she can. That it is not her fault she did a good job for her age. She was still not too happy but the next day she said it was OK and that next year she will earn more money than her younger brother too. That would not be hard so far he is at 0. Paying them the same would not be fair to either of them in the long run, but this is just my opinion.
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I am a 31 year old, who doesn't feel like she is in her 30's, yet.\nI think there is a lot of truth to Sully's answer.\nI know that you can feel like you have no life, and are tied down when you have small children.  I have 4 myself, 11-4, so I know how it is.  \nYou only feel that way, however, if you allow yourself to feel that way.  Try not to let things stress you out.  Make sure that you take time for yourself everyday, even if it is just a quiet minute with a cup of coffee, or a bubble bath after the kids are in bed.  You would be surprised how a little quiet time really make a huge difference.  Also, I think it might make you feel better if you were able to get out more.  You and your husband go out once a week without the children, get together more with friends, and exercise regularly.\n\nEnjoy your 20's, they are a great time.  =)
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Yes you have a right to be mad, there as much his kids as they are yours. You not only take care of them all day, but then on the weekend also, by your self, and if he's like most men, you take care of them mostly by yourself at night. I know right where you are. My suggestion is you take next weekend to yourself, doing what you want to do. This way he knows what you are doing all day every day. Then after that you should swap on and off on weekends, or you get one day on the weekend and he gets the other. If you think about it your actually doing two full time jobs, your daycare, and your kids. Also I would try to have him share in the responsibility at night, you need a break, it will be good for you, and in return you will be more relaxed and able to deal with the kids better.\nbest of luck I hope it works out.
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its almost too mature,you should have more free time for yourself,its not too healthy to always work.you are only 18 yrs old.that person should get off of there lazy ass and work instead of sponging off you.i admire your responsibility though.
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I choose to go back to work (I have 3 kids youngest is 4 months) only because my kids need to interact with other kids and I need to keep my sanity!! I feel that it is great if someone wants to stay home with their kids...but we mom's need a break too!!
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My marriage for sure - seems there's never enough time to spend time together.  \n\nI also feel like I neglect my kids, while I'm doing housework.  But, I guess they COULD help me so that I get done faster & then we'd have more together time.  I don't feel guilty when I say "Hey, lets go to the show, or out to eat" and neglect housework/other things for the evening.  That stuff can usually wait!!
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Take this from my experience.  Move out and let yourself heal and your children too.  You will be lonley, but the time alone will allow you to think of what you really want and it take this time to spend with your children. You need to take care of YOU and your Kids most.
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talk to your kids, be honest. you are still a family. this is a good time to heal together. see how they feel and try to work with each other. explain you are doing the best you can. start doing things together, even if it is just the dishes.
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The situation is complicated.  You need an adult to deal with an adult.  So the best for you would be to find an parent, relative, friend who will speak up for you and on your behalf.  Only then will you get the real attention you need and the paycheck you deserve.  Otherwise, you are being taken advange of and it will continue as long as you let it happen to you.
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wow.  I can't believe you would separate yourself from your kid.  I want to be around my kids all the time.  Sounds like you are being selfish.  You must see your kids as being too much work, so you send them off half way around the world.  Maybe you shouldn't breed anymore.  Save the little love you have left for the 18 month old.
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you are so sweet!  most kids don't see things the way you seem to.  now, i don't have any of my own, but since i am someone's (now adult) child, i think i can give you a few suggestions.  first of all, while it may not be your responsibility to take care of your mother (or anyone else in your family), it is nice that you want to help out.  nothing wrong with that.  now, maybe you can start helping with laundry or other chores.  if you already do help at home, then maybe you can talk to some of your other relatives to see if  they are willing to talk with your mom and get her some help.  or at least give your mom a break by hanging out with you kids (or just you, if you're an only child) while she spends some time alone.  if you want to get her a gift, i'm sure she'll love anything from you.  maybe something for the bath, or some relaxing music?  good luck, and i hope you and your family realize what a good daughter you are:)
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My husband and I have been in this situation for 6 years.  We have 2 sons, 6 & 2.  My advice is don't take each other for granted.  Even though I am at work all day does not mean I don't need time for myself.  Likewise, he should still be able to go out or pursue his own hobbies.  You need to watch each other for cues that the other is stressed out.  I try to do as much as I can to "help" on the weekends and in the evenings.  On the weekends, I run erands with the boys (post office, grocery store, etc) giving my hubby a little time to himself.  I also do most of the cooking on the weekends since he does it all week.  I try to get laundry and bills caught up (bill paying is my job).  He loves professional football, so during football season I make sure I occupy the boys so he can watch it at home or go out if he chooses.  It ain't easy! Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!!!!
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right time to grow together.  many factors in your life may answer that better.  do you have $ saved? family supports? another income? then perhaps is the right time.
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From my own experience, it may be worth going back to work for a little bit of time if you can handle it.  When my little one was 6 months no way did I want to go back.  I was crying, really upset and devastated at the thought.  Once I went back, I hated it.  I was desperately looking for a way out, as we could not have afforded for me not to work.  However, after about 2-3 months, it started to settle down.  I have been back now since Feb and it's okay.  I still would prefer to be at home, but to be honest, it is quite nice having some time for me to be me - if you see what I mean.\n\nHowever, to answer your question, in my quest for looking for something else I could do from home, I joined Avon.  I don't make a lot of money out of it, so couldn't afford it full time - but perhaps if I dedicated myself to it, I could?  I really enjoy working with Avon and they have some really nice stuff.\n\nOther things I considered were: arts and crafts (cards, jewellery) to sell on Ebay and Usbourne children's books.
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yes its ok, in most family's both parents work. I bet there is some time when you don't need to be in the house and you could get a job. do it if you need the money or if its something you want to do. your happiness should be one of his highest priorities.