I have noticed that sex comes before a relationship lately.  You sleep with someone you may find attractive and then try to start a relationship.  What happened?
201467
If that is not your values, don't do it. My man courted me. We went to movies, saw a parade, went for drives. Live and love according to what you want out of a relationship. Things last longer in that context.
199777
Love doesn't always involve sex.  Some people don't need sex to be in a healthy relationship.  It just adds a lot of fun and spice into your relationship.  You don't NEED it, but it's still nice.
420474
i have slept with people on first night and waited, i think society has changed and its not so frowned upon anymore if you do on the first night, where years ago you were a slag if you did, i just think if your ready and the attractions there go for it, if not then wait
485024
Sex before marriage is a total no-no for me. Virginity is the most prized possesion for a women and the most deserving man can get the most prized possesion.
412864
I am currently married,but before I was single I use to have this connection with my ex co-worker. It was this attraction that when we would make out it was look two high school students going at it. The sex was not all that, but it was this attraction i cant describe.
96813
I think it is modern society.  The media?  On tv people just have sex and fall in love.. \n\nThe reason why people change their partners are different for every person because not every one wants the same things so you can't just say that every one breaks up with their sexual partner because they were not sexually satisfied, I mean that is a highly possible option, but if they are in love, they should just practise sex more.. practise makes perfect! ;)\n\nIf some one had a bad sexual experience, like they got raped they would probably be scared of having and anything like that.  But sex is a normal thing and if you love some one, you may or may not be having sex with them if you two are together.
107332
Sex is awesome - you can hate the person and that can make it even better.\n\nPost relationship sex is very common - it leads to issues when one party decides to move on...beware!
220015
It may have been a completely unrelated incident. Have you experienced it more than once? If, not it probably had nothing to do with the sex. It was just a coincidence.
441865
i've had sex with several of my EX girlfriends much later after we had broken up.  i think once you've had sex with someone its easy to feel comfortable enough to go back and sex again. even if it's just a one nightstand with an ex. most of the time the ex is the one asking for it not me.
576399
Yes I have and nothing happened. I was nervous for a while. I will probably never do it again because it wasn't worth the nervousness that followed. Someone told me this once and maybe it'll help answer the question of whether you should or not, " Before you have sex with someone, ask yourself if you would be willing to have a kid with them and have them as a part of the rest of your life". If you can answer yes to that, then don;t worry about it....
514197
Made love to. If you have had both why would you choose the other? \n It is so much better if you have a connection with someone. Being "sexed up" is fun, but leaves you feeling empty. Any female who would rather be sexed up has issues.
392440
I think that people should be in love before they have sex. It is a way to express how you feel about the other person.  Sex without love is just empty. I was in a loveless marriage for years, even though the physical aspect was good, it was not fulfilling emotionally.
513653
I don't think that 'marriage' should come before sex; I think a true, loving commitment should come before sex.  Marriage is just a piece of paper or a ceremony that represents that, but a lot of marriages are made without that commitment.\n\nPeople can have casual sex and do well, but generally, having sex first before a relationship and dedication can muck things up.  That's my two cents!
146240
No not at all, I went through this same thing a couple of years ago a male frined and I both came outta long, serious relationships about the same time and were feeling quite down and bruised by the whole thing and ended up being together alot of the time talking about it and of course one thing led to another and we eventually slept together and it just became a habit (I know that sounds awful!!) but neither of us could face another relationship at that time and we aren't into one night stands so we'd just hook up have the best laugh and then enjoy great sex before saying goodbye in the morning with no pressure it was ideal, it went on for about two yeras until we both just met people we wanted to be with and then it fizzled out but we're still the best of friends now (purely platonic!!) so it worked out fine.  The only thing I'd watch out for is that you both understand the situation if one person has feelings that the other dosen't have then it will cause problems and you shouldn't do it but if you both know it's just sex cos you have needs then go for it.  Good Luck!!
624452
here's teh deal the way I see it;\n\nmarriages are failing faster than ever before, I believe that the reason is people are not taking the time to get to know eachother like they used to.  \n\nIt takes a very long time to get to really know a person good enough to decide if you can live with them for the rest of your life.  Most people (99.5%) go straight to bed after the 1st to 3rd date; when this happens you find out if you are SEXUALLY compatable with a person and it becomes the most important part of the relationship.  \n\nProblem is, even though we all wish we could, a relationship involves much more than sex and you can't spend the next 40 years of your life f****ing.\n\nFor this reason, I am starting to beleive that it is a very good idea to wait for a LONG time before becoming sexually involved in a serious relationship.  Get to know th eperson on a spiritual and emotional level.  \n\nWhat do they do when they first get out of bed in the morning, have you ever seen her without makeup, have you ever seen him around kids, what is his church like, how does her mom cook.  THese are all questions you need to know as they will help you to better choose a partner next time.
565923
A relationship without sex is nothing. If is really important for me, l don't know what would l do, but really, a relationship without sex doesn't work
33786
Been wondering the same thing for a long time, sweetie. I mean what difference does it make to anyone else who you or I choose to sleep with? I really don't care who sleeps with who (or should that be whom?). I really doesn't matter all that much. The only ones it should matter to are you and your lover...the rest of the world can just p!ss off!!!!