My friend invited me on a camping trip, and this guy who i got my heart broken by will be there, because he is my friends cousin. I dont know if i should go or not, because im still not completely over him, and im scared all my feelings will come rushing back! but i shouldnt let a guy ruin me going out and haveing a good time. Im doing a lot better about knowing that me and him will never be anything again.. im just scared.
199844
You should go anyway,no matter how scared you are,it's not like it's just going to be you and him,your friends will be there too,you never know,you might not even really notice him,but you will never know if you don't go,take a risk
415413
I think that you should just ask him how he feels.  I wouldn't go where I am really not wanted.
413936
I wouldn't freak out about it. Trust what he told you. That he wasn't interested in anyone but YOU. That is how trouble and hurt feelings get started, people talking smack. However, your so called *friend* never should have went to his house, knowing this is your *love* interest. I would casually mention to him that you were told she was there and then ask if everything is OK? If he acts normal to you, and smiles and says yes, perhaps even gives a small run down of why she was there, then your cool. If he offers nothing and is not acting his usual self towards you, then you know something is up. If that is the case, drop your friend, she will do it to you again with someone else. If he is normal with you and nothing has changed and all goes well. I would call my friend, let her know how *uncool* it is she did that, and then I would keep her at a distance and not be *as close* as you once were. I hope this helped some. Blessed be
663588
I think it is great to explore your options and see who is out there. If you feel like flirting...go ahead and explore...my feeling is if you don't want to get attatched...don't sleep with anyone one the trip...you may find the love of your life! Hope you have a great time! MayMay
465829
The question you need to ask yourself is, does he feel the same way about you? Answer it honestly, there is no reason to get hurt unnecessarily.\n\nIf he does feel the same way, there must be some other reason you don't want the rest of his family to know. In a nut shell, if he does like you as well, and you aren't first cousins, what's stopping you from exploring the possibility?\n\nBest wishes to you
134362
I am so sry, for what happened to u. Trust me the guy is so stupid, and u should be glad this happened b4 u guys did nything intimate. I noe it's hard to forget, but u should go on with life. Many times u will find urself in a drepressing position. Many times. Get over it. There are many guiys in the world. U never mentioned that this one was the perfect one so i'm guessing he wasn't. and even though u were going out it seems like u considered him as a friend. U must have been close, it hurts , i noe. U 'll find ur perfect one someday and u'll forget about this guy. Someday u'll be able to look back at this memory and laugh about it. I would suggest looking forward to that day. Enjoy urself, have fun, study, date, life is too short to have many regrets.
618839
Break-ups and crushes, bare names that express what we go thru when this happens to us. You can get thru this! The trick is, allowing your heart to catch up with your mental feelings. Try this. Tonight, write him a letter. If you don't have an address, or a way to make contact, that is OK. Pour all your feelings into this letter. After this, tell yourself you are going to beat this. Mentally, keep reassuring yourself this. You have to have a plan. Now think about what you like to do. Make contact with your friends. Especially the one who makes you laugh. You need her humor to take some of the dark out of your life. Get up in the morning and put the plan in action. Shower, fix your hair, put on something that makes you feel good about you. And get with your friends and hang out. Go to the show, book stores, mall, the baseball field, what ever you want. When you set idol , your  mind will start thinking about him and the hurt will follow. So you have to take full control of your thought pattern. The second you start thinking of him, think about this really cute outfit that you know you will look really hot in. Think about anything, but him. Stay as busy as possible. Run in the evening or go to the gym and never look back. This will help time to fly by. You are going to have lots of fun. And the best of it all is your heart is going to heal and when he comes home, he is going to be so sorry he treated you like this. Guys have a tendency to think we woman will just wait around fo them, but we don't anymore. By the next time you see him, you will of probably had several encounters with some of those "other fish in the sea" that people talk about. Remember, your self worth of you, is more important thanwhat others think. The better you feel about you, it will become sooo obvious to everyone around you, how great a person you are. That feeling you hate so much, will die off as soon as you step up the beat. Go Girl!!!
353186
Ouch!!  Sounds to me like he's just a selfish guy who doesn't care who he hurts on his way to getting what he wants.  You should feel good though that at least your friend didnt go out with him, valueing your friendship first.  You don't need friends like him anyways.  Good luck!
584419
THATS UP TO YOU. WHAT IS YOUR GUT FEELING??? IF YOUR HEART IS SAYING GO WITH HIM THEN GO. IF YOUR HEART IS SAYING NO THEN STAY HOME.
173187
Just try to stay busy. It normal to feel an attraction to someone but if you really dont want anythin to happen try to stay away because if your close to him youll just think about him more. And if you really want somethin ask your friend how would she feel if somebody she knew went out with her ex...right there youll see if it bugs her or not...then you can know if you should go for him or not.
310911
I know it seems like playing hard to get or "games" so to speak is the right thing to do, but I've learned from past experiences (or should I say mistakes) that it isn't at all. If I could take back some of those things I did that I thought were right... I would be so much happier today! Trust me girl... you like him right? Then go! If things turn out differntly after, then it just wasn't meant to be. You'll find someone who's more worth your time.
394987
Girl, go with the flow.  He probably is freaked out about it and wandering if he should or shouldn't.  When you have been friends and I mean best friends for so long it is a big step to cross that boundary because most of the time once you go all the way you never can get the same friendship back.  Give him time and it will work out if it is meant to be.  Some things just are not made to rush>  Good luck.
156422
well, i guess it's normal, happened to me too. But u should listen to your heart. And I think u already know the answer: he seems a player, so he's not good for u. Besides, u're friend likes him and u don't want to hurt her. If u feel like it u can play hard to get with him for a while because it's soooo nice to have someone et u're feet, isn't it? But don't get involved if u don't feel like it.
367615
I am in the same boat as you, and I have the exact same feelings. I think that we have this problem because people around us are dating, and we're not so we feel left out. Just try to have fun with your friends, like I do. You'll stop wondering about your romantic future. Who knows...maybe you'll see him that night. Just make sure that isn't the only goals to your plan.
371784
You know what i actually think that you are worried too much ,and you don`t know may be you`re friend got mixed up !\nIt seems horrible now but you got to just think of the dance and just see what happens on the night !\nI think you should go to dance on friday,it`s up to you now what you want to do ,go with friends  and just don`nt go with any boy  go with a group of girls !\nThis guy is going to be there any way ,dress to thrill! I mean the full works ,go to hairdressers.dress ,everything !!!\nFeel a millon dollars ,have a big smile on you`re face ,dance all night say hello to everyone ,have so much fun !!!\nEvery guy in there will notice you ,and this guy you like, just pretend you didn`t hear any thing before,it could be that s its just gossip  been mixed up or may not be true!!Even if it is true try find a nicer boy,who says nice things to people!\nIf he seems interested on friday at the dance ,don`t seem to desperant !!!Just relax babe ,you are only 16 have fun and if this guy doe`nt seem interested ,you know !!!!his loss !!\nHave you ever heard the phrase "if you don`t love yourself ,how doyou expect others to love you "\nGood luck wee darling it will all work out!have a good time !
158870
Don't stress about it.  Really, you're young and it's not the end of the world.  Take a look inside and see if you really do want to be friends with him or if there's reason enough to let him go.  (you may just be feeling guilty about not wanting to let go.) Picture meeting him as a stranger and getting to know him.  Is he a guy you'd want to hang with?  Yes or no, it's cool either way.  Take care.
550786
At least you're on the right path. You are aware of the situation in hand. In my opinion, your on the path to healing. I think that you're probably finished with all the pain and ready to move on. No matter how scared you are, you should do what's in your best interest. You'll probably be better off without him. \nKeep in mind that you are number one!\nLove should never hurt.. If you feel like your ready to move on, but are scared, weigh your options. Compare it to how your feeling now... Talk to someone about it...A friend. Someone who will be there for you.\n\nGood luck