I am not asked out by men other than those who are my dad's age or older. I do not know why this is. I am a 26 years old woman who is very conservative and a devout Christian. I do not believe in sex before marrriage, and have never been married before. I have an undergraduate degree in addition to a juris doctorate in law. In high school and college, I did modeling but gave that up so that I could become a lawyer. I wanted people to listen to me because of my ideas not because of my looks.  My entire life people wanted me to become a model as a career, but I wanted to be in a career where I could be respected. I wonder if the reason that men other than old men ask me out is due to my degrees?  I have only had 3 boyfriends in my entire life, and the longest relationship that I have ever had lasted 8 months.  I have tried the online dating but the men I have met on these sites are creepy. I need advice.
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Some men are intimidated by a female who is very intelligent and/or beautiful.  They don't think they will add up.  Try not revealing everything about yourself all at once.  I know your proud of your degrees, but let these men know slowly about all of this.
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I sympathize with you on this one. I grew up with a strictly Catholic mother. Everything was a sin, and my sisters and I were going to Hell for everything we did. Well, you have to develop your own beliefs and morals. I am not very religious anymore, I still attend church every now and then, but I am more spiritual than religious. \n\nI waited until I was 18 before I started dating, not because of my mother, but because I was just not ready. I was like you, I didn't know how to flirt or how to be in a relationship. To tell you the truth, I still don't. I lost my virginity to a guy that just used and abused me. Just follow your heart. 9 out of 10 times, when you feel something is morally wrong, you probably shouldn't do it anyway because there will not be a good outcome. I would suggest trying to socialize with people online or going out with friends. Go on a blind date.\n\nI am 23 now and I have been with a few men, most have been real a**holes and have left me brokenhearted. Just don't settle for any guy, find someone that will understand and appreciate your family and beliefs. Sex is more fun when you have an emotional connection with someone. It involves so much more than the physical act.
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i cano often be found at church.  im only 22, but hey, age is just a number.  seriously though, we are a bit harder to find than an average guy.  usually (i know in my case) we are a bit shy.  we don't often hit on girls, we think it rude.  ergo, nice guys finish last.  some of us do respect women, personally i had no choice growing up, having 4 sisters, no brothers until i was 11, and a step dad that i really didnt get along with, it wasnt hard to learn.\n\n\n\nmaybe try lowes, or star nursery.  stay away from wal mart though.  unless you want a good deal on something.  \n\n\ni got you beat on how long its been since a date, too.  i know its not a contest and i probably get the loser award, but im working on 22 1/2 yrs.  also known as "never"
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Yes i've always been exactly the same.  I've really no interest in guys my own age, and i've always been like this even since when i was at school.  Don't really know why though but it's not a problem at all.  Plus as the saying goes, there's many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle.....  I'm 29 and seeing a guy of 51 who is the sexiest guy i've ever met in my life and is well fit (and looks about 35).  Good Luck!
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I believe that the true gentlemen have not all died and gone. I believe that a lot of men are intimidated by the idea of  a liberated woman. I feel that we can talk our men into most anything. Why not talk him into being more of a gentleman. He wasn't passing gas and scratching while he was dating you and taking you out, or was he. In that case, you knew what you were getting. In the other case, ask him to bring that guy back that you were dating and fell in love with. If this is a first date for you, demand that he do gentlemanly things. We blow it because we have sex on the first date and men think we aren't worthy of affection and the chivalrous behavior of gentlemen from back in the day. We are strong and quick to move. Be still, wait for him to open the door before you just snatch it open, wait for him to pull out your chair. It will be hard for him to have dinner with a woman who is still in the car, or better yet standing next to the table at the restaurant. We mustn't forget that a lot of today's men have no idea what this chivalry is, so if we want it, we have to in some cases teach it and in all cases demand it. Respect yourself and the gentleman will act accordingly. In the field of Mental Health, we say that we should tell the kids what we want from them not what we don't want. The same applies here. Tell him that you want hin to be more of a gentleman instead of assuming that he's just an ass. If that is how you see him, that is the behavior you will get. I see my man as a gentleman and he never opened doors for me until we talked about it and then just recently while we were out, i noticed that he rushed to the door to open it for me. It's a process and it has to start somewhere, why not with you. \n\nClarissa\nSylva, NC
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go for it, young lady!\n\nnothing wrong at all with keeping your options open.\n\nIn fact, until you are finished with your education and have your career going, normally around the age of 25, you shouldn't even be in a committed relationship, but should be dating different guys... ideally as many as you can manage, and as many as are dumb enough to buy you expensive gifts, vacations, and dinner dates at expensive restaurants.\n\nmore power to you!
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I'm 56 and women your age want to date us guys cause the women your age say younger men are too immature! But it is your choice of what you want out of life? Myself, a women has no age limit for me as long as we are compatible.\nGo for it girl, all you need is self esteem!
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Congrats. You've made a wise decision.  He can take you anywhere on a date, except bars unless you have a good fake - that will depend on what he is into.  Older men find insecurity annoying.  Mostly I think as men age they are looking for a person to just be themselves because they spent their twenties playing head games with their partners.  After awhile you get sick of the B.S.  The more down to earth you are the better.  If you like him - tell him - be upfront with your feelings - don't play childish games or he will tire of you. Remember to show an interest in what he likes to do - don't be too into yourself.  Also, everyone loves a sense of humour so if you have one let it shine. Good luck.
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I feel like I'm already a mature man at age 26.  I've never treated dating as "playing the field".  I once heard that view of dating described like buying a car - "I want this color, not too old, not too many miles".  I think it should be much more than that.  I thought the point of dating was to find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.  (I'll admit to being a romantic.)  I don't understand why some men cheat.  It's disrespecting the woman, plus shooting yourself in the foot.  If you have a good relationship, why ruin it?  The same goes for womanizing.  Why move from one woman to another before you even get to know the first one?  I think things would be a lot better if all of us treated each other with the respect we deserve instead of treating each other as goods that we are trying to buy with cards and chocolates and dinners.
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Finding a decent guy isn't that easy. I'm speaking from experience here. I'm 25 and in less than a year will finally be finished with my Ph.D., and have found that most guys are untrustworthy. But I do know that there are a very few decent ones out there. Maybe try looking in different places, like museums, church, the theater, etc. If you ever want to chat about this or anything else feel free to drop me a line
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God Bless you.  To me thats fine!  I am 31 and in the same boat.\n\nNot everyone will think so.  Remeber, you have a right to believe and practice what you want, just like anyone else.\n\nBless your courage brother!  Lets pray each other finds our woman soon!  I'll pray for u and u for me....my name is David\n\nThanks for your question, peace to all!
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Yeah, you do sound like a perfect match here.. (I'm listening to your friends here too.. they're all Christians, they know you 2 guys.. we're a load of strangers out here and do not.) I am glad you are Christians and it'll pay off.. I hope you do not get a lot of rude-comments in here.. (people are like that.. you sound like a really nice girl, er woman.) I was thinking back when I was in h.s./then college.. Back then it was a big age difference to have a high school and college 'kid' hook up.. (too much difference..) Now I don't know(?) (Guess I am too old!.. lol.. 53/f) I think if you've got these same morals (you don't sound in any HUGe hurry here, that's good) you should pray on it, wait some more. Can you talk to your minister? (I know.. it's embarassing.. how about talking to the minister's wife? other women in the church?) You'd be surprised (if it's like MY church) how helpful they can be! (might put in a good word for ya even.. wink) IF this guy is looking (and he will be) for a good CHRIStian wife, don't worry, he'll go straight back to his favorite church (and guess what?! YOU'll be there!) good luck.. I'll be praying for you two.. peace out
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you are matured. better to search a man above you age or minimum equal to your age. Otherwise you will have tough time in the future. cancell his cell phone number. dont response, gently communicate him about your studies to be finished or your parents are not interested. when you are 50 he will be still in his 37.....you will look so old so he may search for some one.
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Don't give up my dear! There is more than one fish in the sea and as long as we end up happy and treated with love from the people we are with, I believe that life would be satisfying.\nI also am over 40. I look for a lady by day and hot to trot by night. (some of that hottie stuff can be daytime too)  I realize that we are not 20 anymore and our bodies are older but show off your best assets to show your confidence. Don't go overboard. Be yourself. Take up fun activities to keep an interest. Just hang in there and keep trying because it is nice to have someone around to laugh and talk to, to share fun and intimate things with as you get older.\ngood luck in love and life.
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been there. sucks. confidence all low and crap cause we're not 20 anymore! fortunately for you, these Young girls think older guys are hot! guys get more distinguished looking. women just get older. i'm sure you'll find some one new to rock your world. just be careful. it's not the same world you dated in 20 years ago! best of luck!
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I'm only a few years older than you but I would never have sex on the first date.  You need time to know each other and see if the relationship has possibilities before jumping into bed.  Even at 50, you can get a reputation as a sl*t.  How do you know that this guy would keep his mouth shut?  You don't know something like that until you know the person.  Definitely not what I would do but to each their own.
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Trust me at 19 you are gonna wish you had dated more, i was in a similar situation.  They guy and I dated for 4 or  rs although he was a good guy there was no motivation or goals I found out on my own and ended up leaving him for someone else. You have to ask what is your future with that person and is your family going o ever accept him?