Im in love with a US marine but he simply dont have time for me cause of his job and i know that it wouldnt last coz he'll have go back to the USA when he finish his contract next year. Whats the best way to get away from him with out hurting my self. Help
217057
just try to forget he is in your life and move on, it is hard but it can be done. I did it. I found someone else to replace my g/f and bingo I was free to start a new life. good luck
298789
be firm and dont waiver. stand your ground, do not return phone calls, do not "go out with him"
622834
Listen honey...I was in the Navy for 6 years, and went through my own relationship issues.\n\nYou have to look yourself in the heart: do you love this young man? If you do, he will return, and all of this will be forgotten.\n\nIf you separate from him, AND you still love him...I just don't see the benefit there for you.\n\nI am sure you already know this, but those who serve in the armed forces are very passionate for what they believe in...is this so bad to have in a bf/fiance/spouse? He is patriotic, and after his time is done he will be a hard working provider. Are you sure you want to say no now? You may find better...but since I don't know him...that is for your own heart to decide.\n\nWHATEVER YOU DO: don't send him a Dear John letter while he is overseas. Break cleanly before he goes...or wait for his return.\n\nGood luck in your decision. It is your life...but him being in danger every second of the day says something about his personality. It is stressful. I know. When I married my wife we were actually both in the Navy, and I know neither of us was in danger like your hon, but still...separation breeds anxiety. Think about this: if something happens to him...and you split up with him before he went, would you feel any less pain? If you are the person I am taking you to be, I bet not.\n\nTake care.\nJust remember...make sure your decision comes from the heart...not the brain. Sometimes our brains think too much!
278210
Sounds like he just wanted an excuse to leave. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but its the vibe I get from your description. Try to move on and find someone who will love you and be honest with you. Best of Luck.
469090
Oh sister! If you love this man and he - clearly - loves you too...hang on to it. Do the best you can with the distance. Or just agree to email, write, talk on the phone and see where you both are after the 2 1/2 years are over. Real love between two people is too rare to let it go. If you believe in your heart and mind that you are in love with this man and you feel his love in return - do whatever you have to do to make this work...even if that means waiting for him.\n\nI hope he comes home safe. Best wishes for happiness!!
319374
wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."
579091
Why cant you take not being with him????? You havn't seen many ppl i suppose or may have had narrow vision. If you talk about Love, then, you cant forcibly take it.... and some1 not loving you doesn't prohibit you from loving him. !! (well, am talking abt true love). I feel its better to let ppl go, and not be possessive. If he's yours, he'll come back to you or else, he never was yours. Would anyone like to keep some1 with her/him, who stabs on back????\nSo, nevermind, be cool, and happily let him go. You'll find a better one for you.\n(Well, hope he's not a billionaire and thats wat bothering you to let him go!! ;)    jus kidding.... )\nGood luck
263274
Feeling trapped is a common reason for re-enlistment. But that's also pretty much a commitment to be a lifer. You've got a family to support.  Is his carreer going well?  If he's got something that will hold him back (NJP's, weight/physical problems) from picking up Staff with in the 12 year time frame, do you want to invest that much time in the military only to be denied reinlistment down the road?  Does he have job skills that can help him in the civilian world?  It's not as scary as it seems, but when you are used to guaranteed pay and health benefits it's intimidating.  This is something you two need to decide for yourselves, since you know your situation better than any of us.  But don't be afraid of change, if you decide to get out.  And if you stay in, just make sure your career is on the right track and you'll keep moving up.
19289
As the saying goes...time heals all wounds. Move on with your life, spend time with loved ones, find a new hobby or resume an old one, make new friends, start a journal to write down your thoughts so that you can work through them...the key thing is to put him out of your mind and eventually, out of your heart.
247568
With the Marines. Just stay next to the guy on your right and left. It is the job of a Marine to keep the guy to your right and the guy to your left alive at all costs. There is no more noble cause then to give your life for that of a friends. No one wants peace more then a solider, we train for war but, pray for peace. It is his decision "mom" support him in his choice even though you worry about him (what mom wouldn't) and tell him how proud you are of him and his choice.
481112
talk to him a month isn't that long. the worst thing to do is sweep it under a rug. enjoy the time you will spend with him until then and then you will really enjoy when he comes home. look on the bright side, at least he is not being deployed into war. that would be even worse. take what you can.
664344
OK, if you were "in love" with this guy there would be no question here but since you are asking than obviously you are not "in love" with him. If you are "in love" you would wait a hundred years for him, marriage is just a piece of paper, your souls would already be joined by your love for each other. He didn't take anything from you, you gave it to him. If you wanted to you could wait for him military wives and husbands have been doing it for centuries, centuries and all of a sudden women think that because their man is away they have a right to abandon all his hopes, dreams, that his feeling and emotions mean nothing. If you don't stand by him yes his deployment will change him because he will think of you as nothing more than a whore who used him and abandoned him. You can do this and if you loved him you would but to me it seems like you just wanted a wedding and a trophy husband rather than this man.\n\nSort out your feelings..\n\nTell him to request leave to get married and they usually give it. It may not be your dream wedding but tell him that at least the US Military will look after you during his deployment as well as in the case of his death. Most military life insurance policies are at least 250,000. His income in general goes up if he marries. It's in his and your best interest to marry... on paper at least.
41735
You cann't put your life on hold for anyone so try to go on and if he calls you just show him how it feels to be lied too...So go out and just have some fun but be safe...
507476
Huh....you sure you're in love?  It's going to be tough being alone while he serves time...and he seems aware of that fact.  That's a big sacrifice--waiting for him I mean.  If you chose that route--best of luck to you.  But even if you don't decide to wait it out--you could still be supportive by communicating with him while he's incarcerated.  Life with a convicted felon is not going to be easy after he serves time either--and your options will be limited because of it.  Just be aware of the sacrifices required to remain with this person.  It sounds like you'll have lots of time to make up your mind.  Find a support group that can assist you.  Good Luck
479856
I would stay away from him.  If you stay in contact it will only be hard on you emotionally.  You will be second best to him and he will always leave you waiting and wondering.
340647
find another guy! cut him off completely.. thats the best way to get over someone. and also finding other guys to keep your mind off him. but dont talk to him. or feelings will just come back. CUT HIM OFF!
54723
my advice is to stop all contact with him, he must understand that you are not just something to occupy his mind when he is sad or missing you, he should either be with you or forget about you, you are the one here who keeps on being hurt, this constant remembering won't do you any good if you want to move on and get a life. next time he sends an sms call him and tell him to stop. and tell him that these contacts won't be good for either of you. try and find a nice guy who appreciates your feelings.