me and my close cousin have falling for each other, i know it impossible and wrong, but dont know how to break it up.
212816
Break it off. For the good of the potential future flipper babies you don't want to have.
472546
She is a very coniving person who can get what she wants from any guy that's willing to give it to her.  I didn't understand the total jist of your question, but your cousin will be a better man for leaving her and putting that relationship behind him for good.
495149
I dont think that there is any problem of it being in the same year. I mean its not like a year has only 1 month in it :P. And besides, your would be in spring, and hers in winter ( if u have winter in nov), thats like almost 6 months. Half a year!. Just have a talk with your cousin, just to make it 100% sure that she is ok with it which im sure she would be. Then there is no problem. Besta luck, and congrats :)
534004
Wow - that is a tough question.\n\nIf the two of you are still close, I'd just ask outright, but be prepared a bit of heart break if the answer is no...\n\nYou're at a really difficult time in life (I remember it...) and just recognizing that your head and heart are disagreeing is pretty impressive - I don't think I was that mature back then.\n\nAsking outright gives you a quick resolution to your dilemma.\nKeeping your options open, but maintaining some display of affection (holding on) may drag out the pain.\n\nIf your head says move on... then you probably should - your heart will move on eventually as well, and you'll certainly find someone else, even if it doesn't feel like it now... (sounds sooooooo cliched...)\n\nGood luck,\n\n-dh
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I really feel for you, thats a tough situation.\nAre you sure that you are really in love with him, as you only said that you believe you are in love with him. Be careful not to confuse other feelings for love.\nDid you know he was your uncle before you got involved?\nI know you fall in love with who you fall in love with but there is a brief window in which you can apply the breaks.\nWhat about the other woman he is with? Has he spoken to her yet?\nIf I were you, I would try to steer clear and if he manages to end the relationship with the other lady and keep his relationship with the kids maybe you could think about him again.\n\nI don't know about the law and deformities. I would say no to both questions, but just think of the people involved in this tangled web and how your decisions will effect them\n\nIts tough I know.\n\nGood luck.
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This may not be exactly what you want to hear but I'm going to answer your question in the adult manner in which you asked it.\n\nIf the relationship is meant to be, it will last the test of time...time for both of you to grow up a bit more & wait to date with your parents approval. I know this doesn't help much but everyone, including your boy-friend is trying to look out for you & do what's best. Personally, it always annoyed me when people did this for me when I was your age so I can understand you feeling like you don't know where to turn.\n\nMy suggestion is to remain friends with this boy & don't try to take things too fast. There is always time for dating in a few years, not to mention all of the other things that tend to come with dating. While you might feel ready for some of that now, you will appreciate it much more after having waited for it & building a stronger friendship. Yes, I know you may not believe this right now so, please, read this little story about my cousin...\n\nI have a cousin who met a boy when they were both young...just about your age, in fact. The two of them became friends but he was shy &, as time went on, he never asked her out. He didn't go out with anyone else either & always spent his free time with her. Well, when they turned 16 & 17, he finally asked her out & they dated only each other. As it turned out, the boy had asked my uncle long ago what his rules were about dating his daughter (when he was about 14, I believe) & also told my uncle of his intention to marry her someday. While my uncle didn't believe it at the time, he certainly did as the years rolled by & the boy refused to date anyone other than my cousin. All the way through high school & college they were a pair &, believe it or not, they didn't even go in for the things that most teenagers do, if you know what I mean. To everyone else it just seemed like a sweet & gentle relationship.\n\nWhen they finally moved to that next level of a relationship, they were already in college, having been together & waited years with nothing more than kisses & hugs. They are now married with a beautiful child &, I promise you, have one of the strongest relationships that I have ever seen. I honestly think this is because they were friends first & took their time learning everything about each other.\n\nI hope this helps & that you can learn something useful from my cousin's story...
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gaurav, you are a young man, so your sexual feelings are natural towards another female. it is probably a result of you not meeting enough people outside your family.  and your family not being very liberal so maybe you are not allowed to meet other girls etc. so these feelings have cropped up in your heart. \n\nbut let me tell you what you are thinking and doing is WRONG. \n\ni am a hindu and i can tell you that our religion considers this as a sin. cousins are considered as own brothers and sisters. \n\nin religions like muslim such things are acceptable where they marry their cousins but our religion has certain rules, and there is a reason for these rules and your sexual intentions with your cousins is UNACCEPTABLE. \n\nGod gave you  birth in a hindu family for a reason, dont dishonour your religion. pls stop these horrible ideas and look for some other girl outside. do you not have friends or college mates ? or other girls to mingle with?\n\ntrust me, there are lots and lots of nice and intelligent girls out there and surely your soulmate is out there too, one day you will find her and marry her. \n\ni am very close to my cousins, there is nothing wrong with that. you can be close to your cousin, maybe you two click, so you can talk about things, share your ups and downs, but love in a sexual manner - all that is wrong. \n\nyour cousin too is at fault, she should not have let you advance on her like that. but she is younger than you, and as an elder brother it is your responsiblity to protect her and respect her and instead of that you are making sexual advances towards her ?\n\nthink of the rakhi she ties you every year and the promise you make her of protecting her ? is this how you will fulfill that ?\n\nimagine if your cousin was doing such a thing to your sister ?\n\ngood luck Gaurav, I hope my words make sense and I have put some thoughts ahead in your mind. Pls think about it dear, and make your decision with God in your heart\n\nbest wishes, your sis in London
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You and your cousin will always be related, while boyfriends come and go.  You should talk to your parents about the bad feelings this is causing and find out what they can help you with.\n\nMaybe a short time apart from the cousin would be a good idea.  When I get in a fight with my cousin who is only 6 months younger than I am, I just look at pictures of us when we went to Disneyland together, or how happy we were at our aunt's wedding, and remember how important she is to me.\n\nI will have you in my thoughts.  Good Luck.
451318
There's nothing wrong, I'm sure you didn't mean to fall in love. If your feelings get any stronger try telling her but things might get awkward. Sorry that's probably not much help.
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OK people get your head out of the gutters, she is his cousin!\n\nI think the best thing you can do is just be there with her, you are the old cousin who she looks up to and probably idolizes since you are all of 14 and can do some many things she can not. So definetly have some games that you can play together, but let her decide what she wants to do, and just be the loving cousin and she will adore you for it.\n\nAnd ignore the sickos here, it is not creepy it is cute and loving.
89357
I am going through the same deal, except I am no where close to the love part yet. It is difficult to lay yourself out on a line when your not certain they feel the same. I am beginning to understand you just have to take that plunge if you care enough that it worries you and your ready to express it. I need to take my own advice.
596208
whoa...how old are you? there is so much wasted energy here. can't you talk to your girlfriend? why don't you take control and ask her how she feels, what is going on, and why you can't get a single date with her without her cousin tailing you guys.  if you want to be an honourable man, choose between your gf and her cousin and don't mess around...
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Talk to your aunt and talk to your cousin.  Tell them you've noticed there reactions and ask them what is going on, why are they behaving this way.  Then tell them straight out that you are not interested in him and never have been.  Best way is to be direct and hope it works.  good luck!
646863
stay with your guy\nLike you said don't ruin your current relationship for a little crush\nThe feelings will pass
519102
If this has been going on for 13 yrs, I would think your parents have some idea of your feelings for each other. I think you should start seeing each other to see if this is true love. You don't mention if you are dating any one and if so, how does he feel about it. Or are you not interested in dating anyone but your uncle. First cousins date and get married but I am not sure on the laws for this relationship. I say go ahead and explore this relationship, you may find that it's only a fascination of something\nthat is out of bounds.
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Sadly, there really isn't alot that you can do. If he has made up his mind, all that you can do is tell him how you feel, and let him know what it is that YOU want. After that, it is really out of your hands, because you won't be able to force your wants onto him. That will only serve to push him even further away. Nobody said that love was easy, or that it would make everything work out the way you want it to. The best rule to go by is " What is meant to be, and what isn't can not be forced." If you two are meant to be together, then you can pretty well figure that so long as you make your own wants known, then you will be together. If you aren't, nothing you say or do is going to help. Let him know what your heart is telling you, and then it's up to him. Good luck!!
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I understand why he does not want to cuddle and so on. You said that you thought you two were cousins "for the longest time", well just because you find out that you two are not does not make him feel different towards you.....you are still family.