Not trying to be rude but I've been asked out 12 times in 2 days.. what is the deal?? Love the compliments and don't mind chatting with you, but why rush into asking someone you don't know, and is married out?
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Lol - read the silly offers & then just delete them\n\nI asked a random IMer today what possess these guys to just start IMing a person who they don't know...\n\nHe said that it's like fishing men just throw out a net & hopefully they'll catch something...\n\nFor some reason he didn't group himself in with Losers, Psychos or Guys without a Life... hhmm wonder why that was\n\nOne pice of advice is to take your photo off of your profile & use an avatar instead, then you won't be bothered by these losers who can't get a date in real life & so therefore hope to get one online
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when someone asks whether or not you are single, it probably means that they are interested in dating you..  \n\nbut their follow up comment doesn't sound very nice.. i hate when people make assumptions simply based on someone being single and/or based on their looks.
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STOP WASTING UR TIME AND ASKING THESE DUMB QUESTIONS!!!!!  DON'T U KNOW THE RULES???? NO SOLICITING!!!!! THIS AIN'T A DATING NETWORK!!!!!  STOP TRYING TO ACT LIKE A HO!!
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Yea!!I am glad to see your moving on a little bit.  For the record I am not frustrated with you, nor the all knowing one...I think you are cute! I can tell by your questions you are overly causious.  I just feel pulled to encorage you to move it up with this gentleman.  Time goes by too fast and I hope you give him that look or tell him that it is time to take you out...I would take you out sight unseen and I have no Idea who you are.  So just do it girl!
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My rule of thumb, is never to date anyone that works with you, unless they are in a different dept., or you don't see them during your everday.  Because if it doesn't workout it can backfire.  I think the time frame for being in the friend category is anything past 3 flirting sessions.  Then I would wonder does this guys have b.alls enough to ask me out?  I guess not, then I would move on and just be friendly with you.  I hope it works out for you, step it up a notch.  Don't worry if she says no, there are many other girls.
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+ I really don't know as I don't seem to have that problem. My girl friend was still having guys call to ask her out when we first started (and she still is) and I suggested that the three of us get together and that never happened. Someone was intimidated, but not me. Seems like the guy would always say no, or that is what I was told. I sure hope that is the truth as I would hate to find out otherwise later.  My thought was that if they thought enough of her to ask her out they probably had the same values as I do so they had to be OK guys and maybe they would be valuable people to know. \nI am getting ready to go on a work trip to South America and I told her that it was OK to have dinner with some of them if she wanted, and I guess that was a wrong answer too. So I am busting back to get everything done and every time I turn around I get asked to do more things. I can't understand it. If I were to do the same thing, would I be considered inconsiderate, thoughtless or greedy for attention? I suppose I will never really understand. I really hope that when I return she will have spent at least one full 48 hour period without having consumed any alcohol as I worry a lot about it and sometimes I stay away because of it. Well I hope my thoughts help you sort out yours. \nGood Luck from a guy who is not intimidated and who cares enough to just walk away if the other person would be happier that way. (Been there done that)
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It doesnt't matter what your title is. I am getting married in May and I never "officially" asked out my fiance. It was really just an assumed thing that we were boyfriend/girlfriend. I DID ask her to marry me, however. Just be patient and stick with him through the tough times if he is worth it. It might really pay off one day, you never know!
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His just proably very busy and his thinking about you. Maybe his thinking about what to do with you next. Relax you dont want to scare this guy away. I've been there and done that. Its not cool becuase you hurt yourself for what you did. Just go with it and get to know him first. Don't jump to the marriage part. you guys just met.  I really think that there's things he needs to do and haven't had time to call you.  GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT!!!!  unless you go out one day and caught him with someone else then just look at it like you don't care but don't let him see you be hurt. " Those who wait will be reward!!"
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Well, it's something that cannot be answered just like that.  A woman just knows that a guy is for her or not for her.  It's instinct.  Hard to describe.  I would want to know if you're seeing someone or married.  That would be my first question if I met you in public.  You are good looking, BTW
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I can understand...from what I have seen on this site, there are more people asking questions trying to get attention or be "cute" than that really need help. (Not saying this about you...just in general). Same goes for people answering the questions...Can't tell you how many "I don't know"s I have read on here as answers. Immatuirty sums it up in a word.
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It sometimes gets discouraging doesn't it?I completely understand what you are saying.\nFor me it has taken realizing that the right person for me is not in my town and most likely not in my state.Opening up to the possibility of the right person being in another state widened the potential matches.\nI guess that is not for everyone,but I did not want to miss out on the right person just because I was stuck on thinking they are near by.\nI wish I had the answers but I don't all I know is sometimes we do need a break to just "be" as the search can be exhausting on soo many levels.\nI know many people will tell you to stop looking and the right person will find you,but what if everyone just sits back and stops looking??LOL I am not sure how that would work then lol\nBottomline you have to do what feels right for you :)
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i have been that guy before. It is because the guy really needed some lovin, and takes whatever he could get, and takes whoever he can to be his girlfriend ASAP so you probably didnt respond fast enough. it's gonna be hard to talk to him from now on
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This sort of guy usually persists until you put out but don't do that. He also seldom takes no for an answer. I had the same problem in 2001-2002. I just began sharing details about dates I went on with other guys untill he faded into the background. I am happily married to someone else now so don't believe that hype about him being meant for you.
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The only dating I have done as an adult has been from on here.  I usually kind of know the person, have talked on the phone and online for quite awhile before we meet.  I have usually dreamed about the meeting for some time.  I tend to live a bit in a fantasy world.  I think about will we have as much fun together laughing, will he see me and think that I am not what he expected, etc.  I don't worry about how I will see the other person because I have already formed an emotionally satisfying bond from talking for awhile.
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so a woman posts a profile (on the internet) and a guy responds to her profile because he is interested?\n\nWell, maybe what the women found from the guy who was interested in their profile, was not something that they were interested. \n\nI personally don't think that women posting a profile for a date is desperate because it appears that this world has turned into mostly internet.  And we all have a right to chose who we want to go out with.  We don't have to go out with the first guy that posts to the profile.  We have the right to choose, because we are the ones that need to be happy also.  Not just the guy.\n\nI met my significant other through the internet and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
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i've only been out looking once.. \nstumbled upon it twice..and well, here's the thing..as a woman, i'm kind of looking for a guy who is sexual..and is going to give me what i want that night.. \nmindless, mindnumbing, meaningless sex.. but still a good time.. \n\nseriously, the last one night stand (not intentionally) i had was great.. we ended up back at my place around 2..and we uhmm ya know for a while.. and then had to take a break about 4.. we laughed, joked and had a good time before ya know.. uhmming some more..and then another break.. basically the morning ended with a lot of fun..and a lot more of uhmm..\n\nit's like i don't want to feel trashy after a one night stand, but i still want great sex.. \n\ni go into my regular bar..we get a lot of drifters in and out..i went one night with the intention of hooking up with someone..edned up leaving with someone else, and then hooking up with a completely different person.. odd i iknow..but serioiusly, i was determined to have sex that night.. and for some reason it seems guys decide to have a conscience now.. "i don't want to use you as a one night stand.. but can i get your phone number and we can hang out tomorrow?" wtf??\n\nthe next time.. i was just hanging out with people..and it just happend..and it was mindblowing good time.. \n\nso if you're going into a bar with the intention of a one night stand.. i would recommend going to somewhere you don't want to necessarily return to as the regulars will know the story..or go to wher eyo know you're going to get what you are looking for..
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He has already told you he wasn't asking you out for his personal reasons.The reason will probably still be there .He may be going to see someone he is long distance relationship with .Let it go because he may be just seeing if you'll be waiting for him to ask . Even if he does ask , he didn't for a REASON at first and sounds like head games.