every time we are w/ my b/f friends, he wants to act "cool". He has 1 friend in particular that always want to make fun of me since I'm younger than them, and suposadly "imature". I"m reallyl tired of all of them and i'm tired of my boyfriend acting stupid. What do i do?
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My husband was that way in his early twenties when we were dating. It's a guy thing. I think they do it to not look like the girl is in control of them. They mature eventually. I would talk to your boyfriend alone and ask him. Do you think you act different when your around your friends? Why do you think your friend teases me?  Say it in a calm and casual way. Just to see what he says. You could even kid around with the guy who teases you about your age and say, by the way your acting you wouldn't know the difference in our age.\n  In the end it seems all boys and young men go through that phase. I learned to give it right back to them. I would like to think they think of you as a friend and they are kidding around. I remember a time when i didn't like joking around or "busting chops" but as i got older and learned how to give it right back. I learned not to be so sensitive, not that you are, and it actually made the guys I hung out with more comfortable around me. There were times when I would give it right back and they would say something that made me a little sensitive and I couldn't think of anything to say and it was at thoughts times when I learned to laugh at myself and say to them "o.k. you got me". I hope i could help. I know exactly what your going through, I was there. I does get better.
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if you really feel like you need to lose weight for his FRIENDS, go ahead. dressing differently will make you cooler, but you will not be yourself anymore. but do whatever floats your boat. if you want my opinion, dont change anything. you sound like a really sweet girl and if he is stupid enough not to see you for you, then the best thing might be to move on and just forget about him. i know its cliche, and you didnt want to hear it, but you might have to. ask him what is wrong and if he is a true friend, he will tell you. and if he really does love you, then he will come back to you, unless he is a complete moron who only goes for the sluts. try ignoring him for a while, and see how he reacts to you. \n\n\ngood luck!!
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The best choice would to get out of the relationship because all he wants to do is look cool in front of his friends and he knows he is hurting you and he don't care.So that is not cool even though they may think that it is. If he does this then he don't really love you because he would think about hurting you before he did what his friends what him to do. You must really love him to put up with the way he treats you because no woman deserves to be treated the way you are getting treated, but then if you really love him then nothing is going to change your mind. If you stay in the relationship you just have to hope he treats you better than what he does now.
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well that is simple DUMP THAT FOOL he isnt the right guy for you, if he is fooling around with your friends then you should dump that jerk move on and get some one who treat's you right! and if you stay with him your just hurting your self so move on 'cause you ant getting any younger so the best thing to to do is to get some one else who treat's you like your a queen also thats the oldest excuse in the book "i must have been trunk" or somthing like that it doesnt even matter because a real friend and boyfriend would never do that to you so my advice is dump those two losers get some new friends get a new boyfriend and call it a day!!!!!!
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ha! i have the same problem! they r just plain stupid if they really think that!  but, they just like to show off!!  but, just give some good comebacks!(in front of all his friends!).  thats what i did!\ngood luck!!
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she needs to ease off the haterade becuase she's hating on you for what ever reason.  Some you doing that she wish she can do or have.  And if this guys are really your boyfriends they would respect you for you and not sleep with a hoe.. YES a hater hoe.. You need to shake them all off because they are nothing to you if they are doing this.  Don't try to be friends with her either because that's not going to work for her to leave you alone.  You trying having 3 best friends sleep with your boyfriends.  I just throw the trash out with them all and start over.  Its hard but you have to because if not your going to be hurt.  Don't play her at her on game becuase god knows what she might have for sleeping around. your better then that and she knows it and that's why she's hating.. one thing you don't want to do is show her that your all booty hurt over this again because that's what she wants and your showning her that she won. Good luck!!!
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Guys ALWAYS want their friend's girlfriends. It's pathetic. You should do what you can to stay away from this guy. And it's not your place to tell your boyfriend that his friend made a play for you, unless you want to be the center of a lot of drama. Drama is stress. No need to add stress to a relationship.\n\nIf the guy keeps making a play for you, then THAT drama out weighs the drama of telling your boyfriend and you must inform him at that point. This guy making plays for you shouldn't stress you out any more than need to. If you've turned him down and it stays like that then fine. But if he persist, then he needs to be rooted out of the picture for the sake of your relationship.
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Kayla.....LIVE>>>>Rock out and enjoy yourself. Tell this dude things are done and over with. He is controlling. Do your own thing. Do what you do and have fun. Dont worry about your friends...they will be there.
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your boyfriend sucks...you are never supposed to stand a beautiful woman like yourself up to go hang out with your "boys"...you tell him for me that there are a lot of men out here that would love to be with you , and we wouldn't stand you up...
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Your boyfriends loves you very much.\n\nIf he didn't he wouldn't put up with the way you behave, especially not at the age of 20. There are millions of young girls out there that he could have but he chose YOU. He loves YOU and he only wants to be with YOU.\n\nHe can't show you that every minute of every day because that simply isn't normal. You would probably get fed up with it if he did, you would feel smothered.\n\nYou need to sit and imagine what life would be like without him. How much you would miss him and how much you don't want that. You have to appreciate him and concentrate on the good points of your relationship.\n\nWhen you feel the rage start building, count to ten or walk away. He is much more likely to come after you than if you scream, cry and act crazy. When you do that you are actually making yourself unattractive to him and let's face it, if someone was screaming in your face and acting crazy, you would want to get away from them wouldn't you?\n\nYou are definitely NOT crazy, don't worry. You are very young and your feelings for this boy are obviously very strong. Love can make us do crazy things! Just calm down, take your time and let him have some space sometimes.\n\nYou should also have time away from him to spend with your own friends. If you never leave his side to go do something different how are you ever going to have anything to talk about? You could be telling him funny stories about things you did with your friends and making him laugh and love you even more. It will make you more interesting - it's very easy at your ages to get bored with a relationship. You have to keep it going but make it fun. \n\nHowever, hurting yourself is serious stuff and is usually the product of low self-esteem. Don't be afraid of the doctor - he/she can actually help you. They certainly wouldn't think you are crazy or lock you away. There are thousands of young people with similar issues. One day you will look back and think 'I can't believe that was me'. Unfortunately, it's all part of growing up.\n\nYou have taken the first very big and VERY important step. You are talking about it. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Your feelings are what makes you the person you are, never be afraid to express them (calmly). Please talk to your doctor - you will be surprised how kind and helpful they will be.\n\nTake care x
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Too boring and serious?  He sounds like a jerk who expects a girl to entertain him.  You are well to be rid of an idiot like that.  Just give a half-smile at him, like you are in on some cosmic joke or something.
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It is hard to deal with pressure from your "friends" believe me i've been there. my once "friend" talked about one of my other friends behind her back because she didnt have a BF so we made one up for her and it backfired in our faces and then they made fun of her even more. the best thing to do is tell your friend you are tired of her comments, and if she doesnt stop then try not talking to her or not getting upset when she says these things. usually people will stop joking if they know it doesnt bother you. The main thing is to NOT make up a BF it will backfire. \nHope i helped!
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Sounds like he just wants you to be a groupie of his. If you don't want to, then stick to your guns! Give him the cold shoulder, if you have to. You don't need him.
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Giggles,giggles, giggles!!!!\nWhat's up?\nAre you still trying to figure out what to do about dude?\nLook let's just look at it this way, okay If he dissed you once because of a female (that was there before you, might I add)\nWhat's to stop him from trying to do it again?\nNow you know I do not lie to you right?\nLet me tell you the low-down on guys, If you let a guy get away with something once they will do it again, just because they can and they know you will put up with it.\nNow If you KNOW FOR A FACT that you & him will not get into some serious type relationship and it's cool that HE knows that you are not avaiable to him  and the same goes for you as well then I would say go for the "THE HOMIE" thing, just do not get confused on the terms of what "HOMIE" means.\nAre we talking about "Homie-Lover-Friend"\nIf so It will get very complaicated before the summer ends, and you know what I am talking about right?\nPlease Giggles just remember he do have a girlfriend, and like I told you before do not be surpised if there may be more than one girlfriend okay?\nAnd always think like this:     "How would I feel if MY boyfriend was seeing a chick on the side"\nLet me know how it turns out okay?
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Tell him he needs to spend more time with you. That hanging out with friends is cool but you are his girlfriend and he needs to spend quality time with you too. If he won't agree to do this then you need to just get rid of him and find someone that will. If he does decide to do it then you guys can come up with days for quality time, days for friends, and days for yourself. Then if something else is happening you guys need to give each other advance notice of it. I hipe this helps you. Good luck.
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It sounds to me like you need a new best friend.\nIf he acts like that toward you then he is NOT a friend.\n\nI doubt if he will change back to how he used to be.  I've never heard of THAT happening.\n\nSince the two of you were freinds for SO long, that tells me that YOU are a great friend to have.\n\nIt should be VERY easy to replace him with someone who will appreciate having you as their friend.\n\nLeave the loser alone, move on and find new freinds so you can go back to being happy!
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Don't. Just be yourself. Explain if he brings it up. We are all the center of our own universes, but he'd be pretty un-observant if he doesn't notice the way you are with your friends.