She's 20 and pretty overweight.  I think it's partially a genetic problem, but I know her eating habits are not the best.  She keeps complaining about her weight and doesn't like the way she looks.  She's also tired a lot of the time so she wants to lose the weight.  I don't know how to help her without her thinking that I don't find her attractive.
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I have a friend that got me to join a gym.  He never has mentioned that I should lose weight but tells me how proud he is that I am working out.  We go for walks, add More dancing, and shopping, just find things that keep you moving.  Let her tell you how much she has lost never ask or don't make her losing weight your top priority it has to b hers.  Just be PROUD of what she has done. Encourage her that she looks great even if you don't see much of a change. Encourage with compliments
153169
well you could her by encourging her that she isnt fat but that wont do much,the only thing that will really help is when she believes that she isnt fat.Good Luck
550363
you are right to intervene and worry. im 5'2 and when i was 18 i weighed 88 lbs and still thought i was fat. i hardly ate and whatever i did eat i threw up. my friends went to the school guidance counselor and told her...i was furious! but you have to do the same thing. shes so young and her body is still growing. she is missing needed nutrients and it could get so bad she could stop getting her period, start losing her hair, faint or even die. i didnt gain the weight back until i went to college and gained the freshman 15 putting me at a normal weight. its a psychological thing too. maybe talk to her first....find out why shes not eating. it could be the media always emphasizing skinny is better or it could be problems at home or with a boy and she is seeking attention in a very detrimental way. but as soon as possible tell someone close to you or her. you need to get her help quickly before something serious happens. you will be doing the right thing.
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sounds like she either has very low self esteem, or she is being rebellious for some reason.\n\nnot really easy to convince her that she is ruining her life. she'll have to figure it out on her own. sometimes we need to make mistakes in order to learn from mistakes.
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Don't make her feel bad, you will ruin her self-esteem. Talk to her nicely and tell her "Honey I think you are beautiful but I like the way you look before when you ate healthy, Try to exercise and eat healthier for me and for your self-esteem"\n\nBe nice, if you tell her that she looks like a cow she is going to care less.
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Welcome to pre-teen angst. Just bear with her, I know its hard, but her body is changing so fast right now she probably doesn't even realize how terrible is being. Discuss her weight gain with her doc, there might be something they can adjust to help that. Counselling isn't a bad idea, but you should go too, it helps if there is someone else YOU can complain to about her attitude instead of her. She probably feels defensive after you confront her about her actions. Make sure you have "safe zones" from each other where you can both go and get away from each other, it helps.
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She is NOT heavy. She is ideal weight. It sounds like your sister has an eating disorder. Tell your parents that is important, trust me. Your sister could seriously hurt herself if she continues this way!
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Well she is currently pregnant.  She may have a harder time regaining her previous physique, because her body hasn't had any time to recover from her 1st pregnancy.  Either way, she isn't extremely heavy, so cut her some slack.
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Just be there for her.  Something's bothering her... it isn't just because she thinks she's fat.  but, in the mean time, try to get her to eat something...all the while reminding her that you are her friend and only want to help.
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She probably is fat.  Tell her to lose weight.
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You have no way of knowing whether what she is saying is the truth, you'll just have to trust her.Need to realize in life, no matter how close you are to someone, you'll never really know what they're thinking, that's just the way life is. I don't think any of her "excess skin" ,as you put it, is from too much physical recreation. It's probably something genetic, and if it doesn't bother her{like in a painful, medical way} it shouldn't bother you. A couple things women pick up on quick is  jealousy and insecurity, and it's generally not perceived by them as positive traits. It sounds to me like you should have ONE long talk about this with her, and then drop it,'cause if you keep bringing it up, she's going to drop you.
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Yes, do you see any signs of anorexia? I have a friend that is very skinny but she has a VERY HIGH metabolism. Do you notice any loss in appiette? How about hair loss? Does she ever talk about how"fat" she looks? If so I would talk to her mom or convince her to see a doctor!
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If you truly love her, tell her you are concerned about her health . make plans to exercise with her, walking, going to the gym, etc. I'm sure she is not happy with her weight gain either. do this is a team. you might be surprised at the results!
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u're a really cool friend to be looking out for her! are u sure she hasn't got an eating disorder...obviously not anorexia, but maybe bullemia?? it's just an idea, so don't go accussing her of anything! she might just have a really fast metabolism, but dizziness and tiredness don't sound right for that! i dunno, maybe u can just ask her if she wants 2 talk about it or sumting...u're obviously a spesh friend to her!!!
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first off she needs to want to! if she doesn't want to then you are wasting your time! \n\nSecond she needs to go see her doctor! The doctor will tell her how much weight she can lose and how fast. \n\nLosing too much weight too quick is not a good thing and can make you sick!\n\nKEEP HER AWAY FROM DIET PILLS!!!
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No, I agree with you.  Your neice is a large girl and I am sure she gets teased.  I think a much better solution would be to help her find out why she has such a weight problem, whether its medical in nature or she needs to learn better eating and exercise habits (take her to the gym if you can..think of the value to her of your love, care and time).  See if there is a clothing place nearby that caters to younger large sized girls and can help her learn to dress to best flatter her.  Make the difference in her life, do not let them hide her from it.
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There are treatments for this condition. She is 28 years old. Why didn't you take her to a gyno or nutritionist etc. years ago.  She should be given help to alleviate these symptoms.