I wanna rip his clothes and make out with him really bad,but he is a shy virgin,and last time we were talking he got erect but pretended not ,and said he wants to be alone,\nwe are both over 20 and I dont know what to do?
216272
Did it ever occur to you that there is nothing wrong?  There are some guys who want to be virgins until married.  Why should that be an issue?  A guy has the right to say no and to wait until marriage.  Some guys don't believe in a double standard...they want a virgin so they will also remain virginal.
608997
he sounds kinda sketchy.  If you like him go out, but i'd let it play out before i had sex. He might be okay, or he might be a creep.  BUt you won't know unless you go out with him.  \n\nWell, unless you can tell he's a creep already.
328646
Slow down, I mean you don't want to be desparate like that and just go out and do it. I know that for now it seems like you are just "whatever I want it" but in the long run you'll regret losing your virginity like that and will wish it was different. So just wait until its special and you will see that it was completly worth it to wait.
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if you have never seen a penis and he knows this and is still wanting to have sex with you then his care or you is not very deep. He may care for you kinda. But not the way he should to have the right to take your virginity. This is a fact. YOU WILL NEVER FORGET THE PERSON WHO TOOK YOUR VIRGINITY! Is this the guy you really want to remember when you are 40 and married and have kids running around the house? When you and your college girlfreinds talk about your frst time, is your story going to be one of compassion and care, or one of you not knowing anything and being at his mercy to hope he doesn't hurt you, because YES it will hurt the first time. What is your value? How much are you worth? Are you a good person who is nice and tries to do her best? Then you are very valuable and your virginity can only be given away once. Is this guy so great to you that you want him to have something that you can only give to one person in all your life? When you are young it is very very very hard to tell a guy no. Guys have a way of saying things that make our insides melt. and some will pressure us and accuse of us not caring about them if we don't have sex with them. But if they think we don't care about them, then why are they trying to have sex with us??? hmmmmmm   some will even threaten to spread rumors about us if we don't have sex with them. and i'll tell you how to handle those guys....you tell them if they say anything bad about you that you will tell everybody you DID sleep with them and they had a tiny penis. That will shut them up! As for seeing a penis before you have sex, go to the library and look under books on human sexuality. You can find proper pictures of both a mans body and yours'. This is a decision that will be your first step into making big decisions that affect your life for the rest of your life. If you think you want to wait a week or two and go see some books at the library first to know more before you have sex, then tell him you have decided to wait for a few days. If he says that it is not fair or wants to now why, tell him it is your decision not his or anybody elses and you will let him know when you are sure you are ready.
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Definetely tell him if you aren't ready. If he pressures you when you don't feel ready, you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him. If he's a real gentleman, he'll realize that you're worth the wait and not force you to do anything.\n\nAs for the fact that you lied, it would be a bigger deal if you had lied about being a virgin when you weren't. But, since that's not the case he shouldn't be too mad, and if he is, he is overreacting. \n\nGood job on sticking to your morals and not having sex whenever, wherever, you should be proud of yourself and don't let others eat away at your self-esteem. Doing something just because everyone else does it is rarely a good reason for anything. \n\nPeace and good luck!
79639
It depends on how well you know each other, is he a "player" ie does he have a past for getting his friends to do his dirty work, or is he genuinely shy. To be honest he sounds quite young to be playing that game, either that, or he is just testing the water, via his friends, just continue as you are, spend the occsaional bit of time together, maybe invite him out for a drink just the two of you, or a film, if he REALLY likes you, he should make a play for you, and if your still in doubt... ask him outright. better to regret the things that you have done than those you have not :o)
414497
not to sound mean,  but the guy sounds like a loser. He just had sex with her, he prob loves her, my best advice, stay away. There are probably so many other guys that r intrested in u.
227711
That's a tough call.\n\nIf you think he liked it and there could be something there, then you need to catch him, sit him down, and talk about what to do next.  He could just be scared because it was his first time with another guy and his best friend at that.\n\nIf you don't think he liked it and you think he might be looking at it as one of those drunken mistakes, then you need to call him and tell him you and him both made a mistake and explain how one night can't get between so many years of friendship.\n\nEither way, you need to contact him and talk it out.  Things will work out - it should take a lot more than that to end such a close friendship.\n\nGood luck and feel free to contact me if you need anymore help.\n\n:)
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stay strong.   If he really loves you and just doesn't want another notch on his belt, he will honor your desire to keep your virginity until marriage.   What you can do to help is go out with other couples; do really active things together and change the subject.  You did not say how old you were nor how old he is.   But your desire to save your virginity until you are with the man you marry is really mature.   Is he ready for a life time committment for you?  If he is, get married and have sex forty times a day (ha, ha)  If he is not, then his pressing you for sex all the time shows he is more into getting something for himself than into caring what you are about. Kinda selfish, no?
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Just make sure you are 100% ready before jumping into things otherwise you will regret it later.  You dont have the excuses of youth stupidity to pass it off as, you have to think things through. \n\nMake sure you tell him how to treat you from the first time also, dont let him get away with anything.
240612
it seems you also like him and want to have sex with him. otherwise this question could not have arrieved.\n\nforget everything and enjoy it. proceed further
34330
He just used you. He didn't want a relationship but rather the sex. \nTake some time to spend with your real friends. Evaluate what you are doing and take their input into account. They do care about you. The final decision in your problem relationship should be up to you though. Don't let well meaning friends ever take away a golden chance at happiness because they're nervous or it's a faux pau to them that it's moving too fast. It's your life.\n    As far as this situation though, dump the jerk and find a man that does appreciate you. Just don't jump right into bed with him. I'm like a pot calling the kettle black but I'll say it anyway. Slow down...evaluate...take the time to be sure of what you're doing.
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You seem to me to be a confused young lady. You want the guy b/c you feel threatened by other girls that they may makke the first move and take him from you. Young men say alot of things in front of peers to act macho that they wouldn't try alone.He may say to his buddies, "I would really like to see her naked", but in reality he would be scared or embarrassed. Given your age, I would advise you to hold off on offering anyone sex just yet. Especially since it seems like it is a game to you to try to win the boy over from another girl. You don't "HAVE TO" have sex because "EVERYONE" is doing it. Most young adults who say they are really aren't. Please save yourself for someone who truly, deeply cares and respects you b/c once you lose it, it is gone.
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look why do u wanna go that far anyways? u might just regret it.maybe he  or he'll whatever feel that he is guilty because he might lose interest in you after doing it so he is afraid that it might mess up the relationship and it definitely will if he is a shy person.its almost just like your boyfriend trying to do it to u but u r scared that it might mess up the relationship so just leave it alone until he says yeah to u 4 sure without asking him.then u can go ahead
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He sounds like a player.   If he made out with your friend, he should not then turn around and approach you.\n\nSounds like you need to make a new friend (because she was wrong).  Also find another guy, because this one seems to be suffering from short attention span.
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That's no way to be treated.Dump him,you deserve a much nicer guy and who will not be ashamed to talk to you in front of his friends and using you just to make out.
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I am 38 and I have had an experience meeting a woman that was a virgin still at 24.  She was apologetic and very shy.  I don't think you should feel bad for being a virgin.  Everyone has a first time - some sooner some later.\n\nAt least being older he would hopefully find your honesty appreciative.  Tell him as a matter-of-fact when an intimate conversation comes up.  Don't sound as though you are making a big deal of it.\n\nAnd if he is hesitant or steps back, just respect it and move on.  There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about who you are darling :-)  Good luck.