we are in our 7th year of marriage, 3years ago i spotted a pill bottle with pills in there that she had taken the label off of....now she is up all night hardly sleeps,itches all the time etc,etc,,all the signs of some kind of abuse...she must be still taking them or something else....we have a 5 year old boy and i will be damned if she is on something with him in the car.. is there anything i can do with out getting caught to find my anwser...
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I would say you should just be honest with her and voice your concerns. Ask her outright is she's having a problem. You're married to her and honesty is probably your best route. Just let her know that you want to help her and you care about her... Otherwise, if you don't mind risking getting caught and having a very angry wife if she finds out, you could buy a drug test. They sell them online. I suppose you could trick your wife into giving a urine sample somehow... maybe tell her you want to try something new in your sex life? Or just stick a bowl or something in the toilet and hope she doesn't see it? Maybe if you get in good with her doctor you could ask him to give her a drug test without telling her?
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I agree...I am looking forward to my Daughter being home in march 2007 after 5 yrs for a crime *by association* with her brother and she worries about that too. My Son wont be home til 2028 (and he didnt kill anyone) all drug related my daughter let him live with her for 6 months and he was dealing from her home without her knowledge since she had a full time job and he wasnt home nights anyway she lost her 2 babys and now she is worried about getting a job and fighting for her kids but she knows it wont be easy, she dont think she could even go finish her cosmetoloy since you cant have any felonies ...anyway..i got way off track here , you know what i mean.
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Give the police an anonymous tip with her name and place of work. Don't be an idiot and confront her like the other person suggested, she'll have you offed. It is dangerous for you to be working there-someone could come in with a gun to rip her off for the drugs and mistake one of you for her.
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I think by posting on here, you pretty much know what you should do, but are really scared to do it. If your fiance is taking your pills, he obviously has a really bad problem. If you really love him and don't want to leave him, then try to help him get into a program, and if he doesn't do it, then leave him. But if he is willing to ignore your pain over his like that, then he may not be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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The pill does effect your sex drive so do some other medicines.  Is she taking anything else?  I don't know what medicines exactly but read the labels.  Prozac effects your sex drive, etc.  \n\nIt could just be because she is tired from your child.  Children are extremely energetic and the moms have to keep up with them, making her more tired & having less energy.  \n\nYour eating habbits especially effect your sex drive.  The healthier you eat the better your sex drive.  Has she gained any weight lately?  Be careful with this subject, it is very touchy, but losing only 10 pounds can have a great effect on your sex drive (in a positive way.)\n\nTalk to her about why her sex drive has decreased and that you miss the way you used to be.  Try setting a schedule/ appointment with each other.  I know it sounds ridiculous BUT if she has a certain day/ time to look forward to she will actually prepare to mentally be there and not waste her energy on other things.  In these hectic times, scheduling helps.  Maybe, every Wednesday night, find a babysitter & have date night.  Go out, relax her mind and then come home when the kids are sleeping and continue the date.\n\nIf you don't figure something out, try talking to a counselor.  They will be full of suggestions that will work.
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I would say it depends on where you live.  The law in some places tries to keep families together.  I mean just because they fought today does not mean that by tonight they would have come back together.  It is a hard call A good Lawyer would be helpful.  Unfortunately the law is not working for the benefits of the women keeping your daughter safe is I am sure your top priority.So I would get her some councelling because this type of abuse has a way of sticking with the person for yrs.Post tramatic stress syndrome.  Keep her away from him Chances are he will be sorry but once they realize the law is a joke they are not really worried about doing it again.Change her # move her somewhere else and pls let her know that she must do this to be safe he will do it again and can no longer be trusted dont even try run
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>>> absolutely ... call CPS ,,, you are a great person for being so concerned about the children!!!! being a ex addict your self you know that the drug is the only thing you care about,,, her children need your help , I can understand how you wouldn't want them in foster care , but how would you feel if something terrible happened and it could have been prevented only if you had called. does she have any family besides her sister that could take the children while their mom gets her self together,, these children are in harms way!! PLEASE call the authority's,, if you don't want to do it email me with all the info and I will do it for you. ..I promise you I will help you with this,,,,,,, my sister is a fantastic foster parent and there are many foster homes out there who will give these children a good home,,,, good luck and like I said email me if you need any assistance
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Once HRS gets involved, things happen over which neither you nor Denise has any control over. As a lawyer with a lot of experience in these situations, I suggest you try talking to Denise about your concerns and try to get her to be more responsible, or at least find out what's going on in her life that's causing this. If she's just partying after work and taking advantage of you and your wife, report her. If she needs help with something, see if there is somewhere she can get it.
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Call the police ASAP, my good friend spent every penny he had on the drug, he spent about $250 a week and lost his job and most all of his contacts.  I finally called the cops on him and he thanks me to this day for saving his life.  If I would of waited any longer, I don't know if he would of been around.  Know that you can call the police from a pay phone and not give them your name.  Please do your mother a favor and get her into treatment before it's too late.  This is a very serious thing, and I know you love her, please do the right thing and get her help.
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i agree with christoph...s. Call the police. This situation is one in which you cannot control any more than he apparently can. This is not behavior that should be tolerated. If he goes to jail it might save his life and your sanity ! at least in jail he will have no choice, but to stop using. And also they have NA (narcotics anon.) meetings and some sort of re-hab services available to him. I know it's a hard decision to make but I wish I had done that for my husband, He died due to a cocaine overdose and I was a widow at age 27, Please think about it. God Bless you and your dad.
634331
Tell her to go to hell. Tell her it's yours now and if she makes any more noise you will dump it so no one can find it or have it. She can't do a thing to you. Can she go to the police? I don't think so.
456182
There are so many different pills, if this one is no longer working for you, ask your doctor if you can try another one. I've changed pills for the same reasons as one that seemed to agree with me suddenly stopped and I was an emotional wreck. I'm now on a low dose pill and I'm much better......and my kids aren't afraid to speak anymore lol.
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Yes, I'm sorry but that is a form of cheating. I have people on here that I have talked to for a long time      (3 yrs +) and have never said nothing like that nor have they said anything to me like that either. I am on my comp a lot of hours a day but I don't that kind of stuff. She would probably go crazy if someone took the comp away from her.
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i have no answer but i have a suggestion for you \nRUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!  \nsex should never be with held as punishment...you are an adult and she is treating you like a misbehaving child...\nyou deserve better. nobody should have their every move tracked....either she has some kind of device or if you have a cell phone she could be using that (most new ones have some kind of gps thing them) but she is crazy!
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Lisa, this is a truly selfless act of generosity, but you cannot help this individual. He has got to have professional help. If he id denying professional help then he is not truly ready to kick the habit. He needs other medications besides the ones you listed above. All of those are not gonna help him with the intense withdrawals he is going to experience. All those meds he is on are gonna do is keep him sedated and groggy. I have no addictions, but I was given everything you listed above for insomnia. Now, insomnia and heroin withdrawals are a whole heck of alot different. Has he ever tried to get on methadone therapy? I am frightened that you are in a situation that is gonna backfire on you. If his last "fix" was this morning he has not even started experiencing the absolute worst yet. You called him an aquaintance. Right? Well, you need to remove yourself from being SO involved in the scenario. Really, for your safety. I have never experienced knowing anyone with a  heroin addiction, but I have been close to friends and family who have had alcoholism, pill addiction......and I'd never put me, my family or my belongings at risk again, especially when there are free or low cost clinics available to these people. If this man decides to go get another fix he is going to, no matter what you say. If he doesn't have money he will steal whatever he can from you. It doesn't matter how serious he is about quitting. When the wothdrawals and pain start to set in he is going to want that feeling to end and the only way it is going to end is another fix. If you truly want to help then talk him into going for professional help. Get yourself out of the situation. It is seriously so nice and thoughtful of you to want to help this man, but this addiction is bigger than anything you, me or most people could even fathom. This is going to totally disrupt your entire life if you do not get him out of your house. Love yourself. Don't put yourself in the position to get hurt and that is exactly what you are doing if you allow this "aquaintance" to stay with you. Remember this, too: an addict will lie to anyone and tell you exactly what you want to hear and turn right around and rob and steal you blind. The drugs have ripped away any conscience that these users once had. God bless you for trying, but this is way bigger than you are.
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Best thing to do....Check with your pharmacy.  They are very skilled and knowledgeable about medication and what they look like, etc.  If they can't help, it's probably best to properly discard the medication and start anew.  If not sure how to discard it, ask the pharmacist.  In all events, keep ALL MEDICATIONS OUT OF THE REACH OF CHILDREN.  Whether the medication is a precription or an over-the-counter, it could be dangerous and usually is.
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As long as you still have the marks, make a police report! This man (for lack of a better word) is trying to control you, and sounds like he has succeeded up to this point! Don't be afraid of him, because you can be protected!! You don't have to put up with abuse from anyone! If he's into crack and has another woman, you should just hold your head high, and walk away from a bad situation. It'll only get worse if you let it! When you make your police report, you can also request a restraining order. In my town, you'd be directed to contact Victims Assistance, and they will have the restraining order for you as quickly as tomorrow! Don't let him get away with anything! He needs to be locked up! Good luck to you! :)