how can u have arelationship if ue afraid of commitment
199150
You have to give yourself permission to trust another person.  There could be something in your past that makes you a little nervous about getting hurt.  It's the chance we take when we fall in love, but it's a gamble and we aren't promised anything, I mean when in life are we promised anything so why should love be different.\n\nChoose your mate wisely, make sure he's committed and respectful, make your intentions clear and as does he.  Don't jump in too quick and don't be too judgmental.\n\nWith joy sometimes comes sorrow but don't deprive yourself of the wonderful feeling of being in love.  What's the expression 'It's better to have love and lost than not love at all".
407710
You have to ask yourself, why your afraid to commit to a relationship, is it because you've never had to take some kind of responsibility, you must drive, owning a car and paying for it is a responsibility. Do you pay rent, thats a bill, thats a responsibility. And yet your not dead because of it. If this girl loves you and is all of the things you say she is then what are you waiting for.. She will move on and not because she wants to, it will be because you forced her to.. So go ahead and jump into the deep end, your old enough to swim.....GOOD LUCK !!!!
594013
I have been in your situation before. To keep things settle and not push him away, it will be best to leave things as they are and let time change his mind. Let each day go by and then he can realize the true you, well i am not saying that you are not being true, but he will realize that you are not out to harm him in anyways and the same for you from him. I know it will be hard not to mention it at times, but a man doesn't want to feel rushed into things like "commitment". Some are just terrified of it. Continue to have an open communication level with him so he knows that he can trust you. Good luck...and hang in there.
268845
One word brother, RUN.  This girl is afraid of commitment.  If you are looking to marry her, I would advise against it.  If she is not future minded, were dose that leave the two of you.  Just something to think about.
359345
Yeah I think I have a borderline attachment disorder! lol. I have commited in the past, it's just that I don't want to at the moment. I value my freedom and my life so much, that it would take someone very special for me to want to settle down and sacrifice all that.\n\nYou just have to be willing to make a few sacrifices, and able to drop the fear that goes along with commitment.\n\nGood luck :)
47797
its quite tough given the circumstances but ask yourself if you're willing enough to sacrifice either the relationship or your future.Although i'd have to agree with the guy above me that if the person truly loves you, he doesnt have to hinder your chance for a better future. You dont have to gauge your feelings toward the person nor that you have to turn your back from opportunities just to make the relationship work.talk about the situation with your guy and ask him how we feels about it and vice versa. talking might help settle this issue although at your end, its still better that you decide mainly for yourself.
127049
first don't listen to "witness" second don't worry about it there is nothing wrong with you and it is just a fact that when ever feelings are involved we will get hurt but don't be scared of it, because if you live in the fear you will never find anyone that will make you happy!
173472
Yeah basically. I'm not scared of relationships, but I think the traditional 2-person relationships arent natural, which is why so many people cheat once they get married or have been together for so long. You know what I mean? If human beings were meant to live in that kind of relationship, why do so many get unhappy while in them? Me, I'm polyamorous. I like it much better this way. Youll notice that free relationships last much longer and are much more satisfying in general...Or at least thats what I think. Oh well. Everyone decides how they live for themselves. Hope that helps you...\n\n\n\nPeace
441664
There is no absolute answer to this.  Some people need a transitional person between major relationship and some don't.  I know your scared of being hurt but the truth is in every relationship you will ever enter and truly find love there is always a risk of being hurt.  If you really think this is a great guy then why let him go just because of being scared.  To do so may mean missing out on something really special.
192676
Maybe you are afraid of commitment or maybe you just don't know yourself.  I suggest you take a break from dating and do some soul searching---how do I know because I am doing it right now--I have been so dependent on having someone there for me.  You need to start making yourself happy first (I am on a quest to do so as we speak).
408501
I live with my bf now, I'm 39 and he is the first serious relationship I've had in 15 years. In those 15 years, I've RAN from 3 marriage proposals. Not really sure why, not so much the commitment, it was that I knew I didn't want to be married to those men. At this point I don't really care if I get married or not. This bf is the best and I'm happy. \nListen to your gut. It may not be commitment that scares you.
336874
hm, if you're not sure where his commitment to you lies, just go to your program and don't change anything because you're afraid to lose him. this is the part where you are tested to see if you are able to walk through hell and back together. if he or you ends up caving and breaking it off, that's okay! you're still growing into an adult and will then meet someone much more committed!\ngood luck and god bless.
180114
You should really try. I mean, you both are together now. You shouldn't be afraid. Love each other, don't aviod one another.
212401
I agree with the others, keep reminding yourself of that (great goal by the way), get moral support from family and/or friends.  Most importantly make it clear from the beginning with any prospective suitors that is the way it will be and don't put yourself in a position where you have to say no.......never even let it get to a point where it may be an issue......you can do it I have faith!!! :) Good luck!!!!
517772
fear of commitment comes from past relationships, she might of been deep in love and gave her heart 2 another man and he shattered it, my wife was like that when we met, sit down and talk about trust with her and make a solid foundation that the relationship can grow on and time will do the rest, talk 2 her about past relationships good and bad and share ur experiences with her to. good luck
284008
If he really loves you then he will understand your fears and be willing to wait until you are ready.  If he is not willing to wait until you are comfortable with this then you might want to question spending the rest of your life with him.
225967
If he is wanting a certainty that you will be together forever, there isn't any and there never is certaintly, especially in relationships, sometimes things work out great and sometimes they don't, its just how it works. \n\nSo, if he doesn't take the chance then he will never know.  He can't go through life fearing what might or might not happen...that isn't living. If he is unwilling to make the commitment or to take the chance, there may be other things going on that you aren't aware of. Communicate with him, try and find out what other feelings or fears he has around marriage.\n\nHope this helps