i left this guy because of a bad situation and im inlove with him his parents know i live in another state and i have talked to him a few times since ive left and he wants me to come back he says he loves me and regrets what has happened i just dont want to upset him but i do believe that if you love someone you have to let them know
199211
well if you're in love with him and he says that he loves you and regrets what happened, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Just remember, if he lives with his parents, don't write anything that you don't want them to see.
414320
Ever heard yhe old saying that if you love someone and they want to leave you should let them go if it is meant to be they will comeback to you. Try this on your freind and see what happens\nGood luck
18421
Yes you can.... and no, it is not something that happens to everyone because not everyone has been in your shoes.\n\nThis is probably happening to you because you ARE in love with him. Does he know how you feel about him? Do you feel like he needs to know? How does he feel about you?\n\nCould you be feeling this way because you were/are hoping for more? And maybe you feel like more could have been said or done while he was there? \n\nCommunication is the key Hon.\n\nJust a few things to think about
268808
sounds like a great guy. if you feel like you definatly want more then that give it a shot. i have been in your situation to the  point my parents even call him their surragate son and i'll tell you what he confessed how much he loved me after it was too late. now after marrying others and kids we will never be able to go back to that first innocent love we once had for each other.
464395
I am very sorry.\nMy first love and I had a long distanced relationship, and it was so hard.  We used to live in the same town, but I moved out to a big city 6 hours away by train to attend a college, and since then we only could see each other once a month.  He had a job offer in that city once, because he wanted to be with me, but the deal was pretty bad, so he didn't take it at the end.  Eventually, I moved out of the country, and we never saw each other ever since.  \nI knew it was coming to end one day, but I just didn't want to believe it.  He was older then me, so he must have known better, but didn't say anything.  We used to call, and write to each other.  But when I started getting less and less responses, I still didn't believe that it was ending.  I was so sad, and so lonesome, and made so many mistakes in my life because of that.  I should have let go of it much earlier.\nI tell you, I know it hurts so much now, but you have to let him go.  You called him so many times that his mailbox is full, that tells you that he has already made up his mind and it's not going to change.  Even if he changes his mind now, that'll not sort out your distance problem, will it?  You will only feel worse as long as you try to work out something that's no longer in your hands.  Believe me, I know that.  \nYou won’t be able to feel fine about it today or tomorrow, but try to think about something else instead of how to get him back.  Try to give yourself a break from it little by little, and then you should start to feel better.
313963
Yes, you need to give him some distance . Maybe you need some time to think about your relationship with him. You don't want to be stuck in a relationship that is never going to go anywhere. IF you give him space,and if he really loves you than he will try to make things better the second time around.
160055
Yes, I was in a similar situation in the past.  It is very hard to find out that the person  you love doesn't have the same feelings as you.  I don't think you should let him go with the hope that he will come back.  It may or may not happen.  It isn't a matter of whether you let him go because is sounds like he has made his decision.  He is probably crying a lot because he knows that he has hurt someone that he does love.  This probably makes him feel guilty.  You really need to accept that he is leaving and make sure that you don't become an old crutch to him after he goes.  If he wants his independence, don't let him keep coming to you when he needs help or gets lonely.  This won't make him come back to you, it will only make let him have the best of both worlds.  It will be hard, but you don't want to end up a doormat.  Take the time to do things that make YOU happy.  Do something that you've always wanted to do but couldn't or wouldn't because you were with him.  Hang in there, it will get a little better each day.  Good luck to you.
42815
I have to really question how interested he is in you if he isn't willing to talk to you when ever he gets a chance.  When you love someone and your away from them, it doesn't matter how tired you are or what else is going on the one thing that usually you want to do is talk to the one you love.  He just doesn't sound like he cares and figures if your there when he gets back home then great and if not oh well...I would probably advise you to move on and if he gets back and is still interested in you then if you want you can see him.  For now you have a life to live.
278341
am sorry to say this, but often the truth is the best medicine that hurts. You are young, and love always seems deeper when you are. To be honest long distance relationships are EXTREMELY taxing mentally, physically, and emotionally. It is going to be very hard if you choose to go forward with this. I think the best thing for you to do is agree to preserve the love and connection that you both feel. End the commitment and expectations. If your love is real and meant to last the distance wont matter after his return, because you stayed in touch as friends, and kept the upsetting arguments and stresses of the long distance relationship expectations out of it. Be friends, and be there for him. Enjoy the times you have and cherish his visits. Don't hold him, OR yourself back. Let things happen and if he returns then try to pick up where you left off, but it will be easier because you have an honest base as FRIENDS... GOOD LUCK Hun!
36403
In a dating relationship, leaving when he most needs you is gonna make his hurt all the worse.\nPlus if you leave now he will know he can never trust you again. and there will be no later. \ngive him time he needs, if it was YOU in his position how would you feel if he dumped you? \nsmart choice is be strong, and patient. once he is emotionally stable again then if you decide to leave you can do so with a clear conscience. \nor if you don;t care how he feels. then by all means leave. but don;t expect him to welcome you back with open arms if you find him diserable again. he is more then likely to return the pain you gave him.
327744
An honest answer is usually a good thing but not always appreciated it might just be easier and more tactful to tell them that at the time the plans were made it sounded like a good idea  but after some soul searching and consideration you feel that things are different now and it wouldnt work out like planned and you would rather not put any more strain on an already strained relationship. They may not like it very much my parents hated it when I moved out of the town that I grew up in and I kept telling them I would come back.  It took me six years to finally come back after having cut everyone in my family out of my life to have them finally figure out that I dont do things the same way they do and that I am entitled to my life and opinions. After a long time and a lot of relearning in our family we have a great relationship.  There is always hope for the future but you must consider what is best for you and not what is best for them if it is not in keeping with what you want and need. Much easier to tell them now that it wont work out then to move back and have it all fall apart in six months to a year and bring even more division to the family. Good Luck with your choice.
354322
If he ask you again when you move back to where you used to live, just tell him that you are not ready to move the relationship into a sexual one. If he loves you, he will understand
238085
It means that she still loves you. Just cause her parents disapprove of you and her, doesn't mean that her feelings are gone. I think you should talk to her.
258959
If you broke up w/ him there must have been a reason. What was that reason ? Do you want to go through it all over again ? I think I can relate to what you're saying tho. I went to the city partly to get away fr him for the wk'd after we broke up. Well, we were still talking on the phone sometimes but when he phoned it'd be more like "geeeeeeez... :( " but I'd still answer the phone. While in the city I didn't have a very good time. It felt like my fam was abandoning me or something. Like they were tryna get rid of me or didn't wanna see me, etc. :( I was very hurt. The main reason why I was thinking of moving to the city was to be near my fam too... After that I felt that my ex was the only one who really cared bout me. When I got back home I jut HAD to see him so I went to see him. I told him bout what happened in the city & how I felt that he was the only one who cared bout me. For a whole wk I wanted to be w/ him. I wanted to be w/ him every chance I had. We were @ this pt, just "friends". We went to see Default & I guess he was gonna go home after the concert. I didn't want him to leave. I didn't wanna go home either. He was gonna drink but I didn't really care if he did, as long as I could be w/ him. Well, his mom & sis were gone to the city, so he let me spend the night, which I did. I felt that I wanted to get back w/ him. B/w the day I got back home fr the city to the time we got back together officially was Apr 7th-13th I believe. There was even a time AFTER that that I thought that we'd be together forever. But in the past 2 or 3 wks I haven't been feeling that way. I wanna break up w/ him. When & how is the Q. This'll be our 4th break up. :( \nYou may also experience this as well. Have you broken up in the past ? If you have I think that this will only continue to happen. Don't let it. Be strong. Easier said that done I know, but when you feel like talking to him, call a friend. Maybe even get together w/ a friend or friends. It's better than giving in to urges. Hope this helps !!!
555508
The problem probably is that your not being direct enough.  You say your doing everything but you haven't done what needs to be done if you want to be with him.  You need to actually talk to him and tell him that it is him you miss and that you want to be a part of his life.  Right now he probably feels like you ended things and that he isn't willing to risk getting dumped again without being sure that this is what you want and that your willing to actually be with him through the bad times and not end things so easily.
641981
May be he is observing u, and wants to see if u change at least now .U will have to change if u want him back, and stop playing such fools cause its not a movie its ur real life. If he truly loves u , be assured he is urs and will not go anywhere else, but u have to take the first step towards him.Because u r the reason for this mess
99819
uhmm.....depends...if you still love him and REALLY wanna be with him, and if he never hurt you, and if you enjoy the things that you guys do together, then you should TOTALLY get back with him! but then again, its depends on the reason why he left...its all up to you