I am involed with a marry man and he bought me a promiss ring we have been seening each other for 4 months how do i tell him it is over?
213396
Ask him how he can give you a ring if he already wearing one?? He broke his promise to his wife...if he did it to his wife, how can you be sure he won't do it to YOU later?
673089
Sorry but there really is no easy way. You care about him and don't want to hurt him even though he has hurt you. Tell him what you said to us. Let him know that even though he had your heart from the beginning you do not feel like an important part of his life so you need to end things so that both of you can find other people who may be better suited for the types of relationships that you guys want to have.
110322
In 2days society,it isn't "uncool" 2 take the proverbial bull by da horn & propose 2 him thus giving him an oppertunity 2 declare just what r his intentions.Also,ask him 2 give u a date & hold him 2 that deadline.If he fails 2 honor his word then it may b fair 2 assume that he's not interested anymore.It may hurt a lot but even more if u wait longer & he breaks off the engagement in the long run. @ any rate,ask him 2 say just what is on his mind as this limbo is leaving u feeling uncertain & uncomfortable.
92623
I think you are doing the right thing and just to let you know it will end soon. If you were to back off now that would defeat your whole purpose and have wasted yours and his time. I know you did not want to hear this but, there is always a but isnt there? But If you cant see him changing or being flexible enough on this subject then you may have to let him go, if you fold and let the relationship go back to what is was it will be worse than it was before. I would hang in there, but not for too long.
547566
Start with a friendly joke.\n\nI know this guy, his bank rang up and said they think his wife's credit card had been stolen as the were unusual transactions.\n\nHe said "yes he knows"  they said "what do you want to do about it" he said "Nothing" they said "why"  He said "Because they are spending less per month than my wife was"\n\nTalk about why you think they make an amazing couple.  Do not talk about what you guys use to get up to.  Talk about his integrity and loyalty.\n\nAlso mention that, "This is the best wedding you have ever been to"  Tell the group that "You have never seen so many tears of happiness and joy"  Mention that "even the cake is in tiers"\n\nFinally, say "Could everyone please be upstanding.  Please raise your glasses...  May you live as long as you love... Love as long as you live... Live to Love... Love to Live, Live in Love.  To the Bride and Groom (raise glass)"
655461
Seriously I know how you are feeling, I was that way, and I waited and now we are getting married.  It isn't just the ring or the beautiful dress, Remember you will be with this person for the rest of your life and No turning back because you can't handle it. The rate for divorce is very high, So have patience, Alot of people don't know what they are going into. But TAKE IT EASY.
52247
Give it up at the last moment. Your wifey would surely appreciate you.\nShe said Okay  cause she loved you. Its your turn now..
282426
I would sit down and take an objective analysis.  If he doesn't move you the way he once did, I wouldn't head down to the jewelers to try on that engagement ring immediately.  I am a complete romantic, and I believe that someone should move your heart completely, and the one that is for you, will.  Try and be fair though, while you're thinking of all the little things he did for you once and doesn't do much anymore, do you do the little things to please him still?  If you want to be with him as a wife, you should talk to him, very honestly and openly, about all the possibilities, including ya'll not getting married.  He should know what's going on instead of being put on trial without a defense.  I hope that everything works out for you both.
110780
Oh gosh, I know this may seem awful (and believe me...I was going to kill him at the time). It was 2 years ago and my boy friend and I were exchanging gifts on our 2 year anniversary. I got him a nice watch and he handed me a box and some jewelry cleaner. Of course I got all excited and giddy because I knew there was an engagement ring in the box. I opened it and guess what...a 25 cent ring from a gumball machine was in there. I was sooooooo pissed! I said that's it? And he said "YEP!" Then I said, "this is not an engagement ring?" and he said "I'm not ready to get married yet!" I was so mad I was about to cry. He let me think like this for about 2 hours and then he saw me cry. He said "I CAN'T TAKE IT NO MORE!!! KELLY OPEN UP THE JEWELRY CLEANER!!" I did and there was the real ring. He then got down on one knee and said "I was trying to be romantic but I screwed things up, I love you and I am sorry, will you marry me?" I wanted to kill him then but now I laugh at it. We are getting married in May! :)
407363
Well, he left you five weeks ago and he is married now. Its none of your business what his wife thinks, or whether or not they are going to be happy together. Sorry, just being honest.\n-NmD!
303784
Tell him how u feel once and for the very LAST time. YES I SAID "LAST" cause u cant keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Even a tennis match has an outcome.I think u both should make a pact to stop sleeping with other people. If this is going to be a serious committment then u will also need to know what he wants, so ask. And ask yourselves is this what i really want? Make sure u both know what exactly went wrong to have gotten to the beginning of the divorce phase & ask yourselves, "have i dealt with it? overcome it? and am i ready to try this again, and now?" Being all alone isn't fun. it's not enough and you know this. Love may not be the issue, committment sounds to be it. Only you two know. You both need to not only want this but be willing to try and give your ALL. Situation sounds iffy. If u both get on the same page i say GO FOR IT! But dont rush someone who just isnt there. move on in that case. :) keep faith but dont be a fool ok
169360
Hun you've only been with him for 6 months. It's a good thing that he doesn't want to rush things. It took me and my fiance a year and a half before we said the magic words "I LOVE YOU". Now we've been together for almost five years and are about to have two kids. Stick it out. It was worth it for me. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, my email is flower_child69420@yahoo.com
94797
How do you feel.  Do you want to be with him if so tell him.  Obviously he could be in love with you again, if not and you are not in love with him, tell him that you don't want him to tell you that he loves you because that [art of your lives are over.  Just because things were comfortable then dose not mean they should be comfortable now in this new found relationship.
558689
Leave it for a while, 4 months really isn't that long. Leave it till your one year anniversary.\nYou would make any normal bloke run away by talking of living together after 4 months especially a commitment phobic.
161560
First before you sell anything cut those credit cards up and stop using them now. That is how so many people get into debit in the first place, if you don't have the money to pay for it than you really don't need it right?? Second you are thinking of these rings and stuff as objects, which they are but do they not hold memories of the times that you and your husband spent together, the reason that the ring was given. It maybe just jewelry, but look past and see what they really mean. Try before that to get help with your debit, call and see if you can consolidate your bills, they now have debit councilors to help people like yourself, but remember get rid of those cards and that will start you on the right road. Good Luck and please don't do it behind your husbands back that could hurt more than your credit, it could hurt your marriage. Talk to him if that is the way that you think that you need to go.
288959
How do you feel about him? How old are you? Are you ready for a big commitment? Whatever you decide, don't think that by taking the ring you give yourself to him. You can always give it back if you're uncomfortable becoming more serious with him.
99012
U've been together a very long time U may just be in a rut U need to sit down and talk to him ie husband and let him know how ur feeling + let him know hes not ur father and that u earn 1/2 the money so u should be able to spend when u want something