Last night my girlfriend and I argued and at first I mentioned that maybe we should take time off for a week.  It all started because she gave a guy a ride from work to his house for the 2nd time.  I told her it bother me and told her that why can't he just find his own ride somewhere else.  I ask her not to give him rides no more and she said if he ask him for a ride again she would still give him a ride.  After i cooled down i forgot about the lets give ourselves time off.  Later on that same night I told her how i felt trying to do the communication thing and she said then lets take time off.  I left as soon as she said that.  Drove to my sisters house and on the way she text me 3 times and called me.  I didn't answer her calls and she called me in the morning to see what i was doing knowing that i go to work.  She text me again with "why cant u talk to me?  I dont want to break up.  I love you so much.  I know i said that i needed a break but i didn't think that u would really go.
208589
You need to talk to her about the problem and leave out the whole "time off" or "break" thing.  That's how misunderstandings happen.  Your whole situation reminds me of the episode of Friends where Ross and Rachel are on a break.  I know that's a sitcom but you wouldn't want to break up without really knowing for sure what's going on. You need to talk things through with her and you need to tell her everything that is on your mind.
127334
She wanted to get back at you because you missed her call the night before.  It happens.  No big deal, get over it.  If you can't get over it, you need to date someone less cool.  Cool people need and give space.  They don't call each other every night for two hours.  They don't play phone tag games.
619791
If I read that correctly, it sounds like you said "I love you" to her and she did not immediately reply. You called her on it and she said that she says it all the time but did not say it just then. Is that correct? If so, then your apology should probably be that you were forcing a conversation when she already expressed that she was very tired and you are aware that she loves you too.
576306
"It didn't go over well", huh ?  You mean that SHE broke up with you and you dabbled around with someone else, then you two got back together and she is ticked off ?  if that's what you are saying, then she is merely not in control of the Green-Eyed Monster.  You see, what she meant by breaking up with you was "See ?  See how much you will miss me ?  See how empty your life is without me ?" ....she didn't mean that you two were really "broken up" - it was just a test for you to see how important SHE was to you and when you went on to someone else,  - WELL - that wasn't exactly in her plans.  And she is hurt and she is angry.\n\nWell, you are not responsible for either emotion that she is feeling, although it would not hurt if you understood them.  She did this to herself.  You can empathize that she feels bad that you were able to so quickly "replace" her (because that is what she feels....and, to tell the truth....that is what happend.)  We human beings don't like to think that we are easily replaceable.  But, indeed, we are.  (Ah yes, for all our talk about "soulmates" the truth of the matter is that many people can be our "soulmate" and that means it is not quite so much destiny as timing.)  She may well have expected you to pine away after her and when you did not, she is angry.\n\nLife is all about growing up - all the way until we die.  You both have gone through an episode that should have taught you both some lessons - different lessons than the other could have learned.  Now you are back together and going forward, hopefully not backward.  (She is looking backward, by the way.)\n\nAnd, as a side note, this idea of full disclosure - telling new girlfriends or boyfriends about your past - not a good idea.  Not particularly respectful of the people in the relationships in your past.  The same holds true for interim relationships - you weren't "with" your current girlfriend during the time you were broken up, you should not share details about whatever you did in your interim relationship.  It is not her business and it is disrespectful to the other girl.  (None of this "oh, if you loved me you would share with me" - see what it got you ?  She's pissed.)\n\nAnd no, it wasn't cheating.
488213
I think you should take a break explore a little bit nothing can go wrong if your on a break your not together but your not completely broken up either so just tell her you need a little break and if you find someone else break it off
157006
what she did...how quickly she seemed to "get over you" hurt you...when people hurt us, it's hard to forget that pain we went through...\nbut you know what i've found out? our brains are very powerful organs...if we choose to not let it hurt us, then pretty soon we'll convince ourselves that it doesn't...maybe think of it in a different way...obviously she was trying to move on as quickly as possible b/c it hurt her too much to be without you...have you thought of it this way?...maybe it was her defense mechanism so she wouldn't be hurting so bad, either...obviously she still loved you b/c she came back to you...\nlife gets to be routine and sometimes can feel like you're in a rut or bored...but you know what? a good relationship isn't worth throwing away over a little boredom...if you really love each other, then find new ways of doing things...do things you wouldn't normally do...go on a vacation together and experience something new together...like hiking or white water rafting...something in which you won't be alone the whole time...spice up your sex life...\nyou take care of your part...you plan things to surprise her...you know, do your part and she'll do hers...come up with a list of things you want to do and plan them out according to your finances and do them together...\nbut trust me, being in a rut with a good person is worth way more than jumping from relationship to relationship trying to find something new...
624324
As hard as it might be since you LOVE her and want to be with her. Look you need to cut her off for a while, at least until she comes to a decission of what she wants. Fact is LOVE HURTS,but sounds like your gettin used. Why would you let her use you, I know in hopes she will stay, but have you ever thought she might come to a decission if you didn't let her use you. So next time and until she decides what she TRULY wants don't let her sleep over. Just tell her goodnight and send her on her way, let her think for a while. Besides do you deserve this think of your own feelings for a change. APPARENTLY YOU'VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT OR HEARD APPENTIENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER. GOD BLESS and good luck
285618
She probably is not ready to let you go and knows that after you see her for the last time you will be gone and she does not want that. My suggestion is to just move on because she does not know what she wants right now and until she figures it out then she needs to be by herself but you can wait for her forever. If you guys are met to be together you will.
292473
It seems to me that this girl have an attitude problems or she don't know how to express herself. I'm a female myself and I get mad quick but as I gotten older I can control it more. But this gurl want you to kiss her butt, that's why she get mad when she hangs up in you and don't call her back Good FOR HER, because she needs to learn how to COMMUNICATE that's the key if something is bothering her. I think that it is good that y'all are friends. If you really like this gurl than tell her that whatever is bothering her just to talk to you about the situation. relationships are going to work overnight it takes time and trust.
575367
This is definitely not a healthy situation. You need to try and take a break. It is obvious that she has an amazing control over your emotions. True relationships are ones in which both parties can be strong without each other. Although your life feels incomplete without her if it were meant to be so many problems would no be going on.
548654
if u guys need a break u need a break. but why go on one if both u guys don't exactly want to. if ur thinking of taking a break make it for a good reason. do u guys have good reason? and if u do go on a break then u have to fight those urges to want to see him. u have to remember that ur going on a break to give ur selves some alone time. \n\nand wen u see him during ur break then its not gonna do any good for either of u. don't go on a break just becasue u guys have been going out for ages. go on one coz u really need it.  wow i noe i'v said the word break a lot in this. but seriously think about it. talk to each other about where u both are in the realationship and see if a break is really wat u need.
52418
You probably care for your girlfriend very much and it hurts you when you argue with her. You should really try and prevent this aruging so your realtionship doesn't shatter and either one of you get hurt.
188819
She seems like she has some issues. I mean, for one thing she said clearly that she did not want to come over. Then she was like see you later, she was ready to get off the phone with you quick and definitely didn't want to talk any longer. She seems like she is sending you mixed signals, and if she doesn't like you, then she should just tell you. I mean, don't throw hints, just be like she wants to be friends. Then as for being shy, she could have just said that she didn't feel comfortable coming back to your place. You would have understood that I am sure. Basically, you should just see where it goes this time, if she tries to be intimate, like showing you affection, just come out and ask her what is up. Don't be rude, but be like, Do you like me? Do you see me as a boyfriend or just a friend. You need to know, because she can't be like I want you one second and then don't want to be around you next. She needs to be honest. I hope that whatever happens you don't get played, so if you can see it isn't going to get better, leave her alone.
622948
This is a classic problem, the solution depends on you.\n\nAs you stated you know he'll be busy working, are you the kind of woman who will drive out there knowing that and still get upset when he doesn't spend time with you, even when you "drove all that way"?\n\nOr do you realize he's busy, and you'll appreciate the few moments he may or may not have to spend with you. If yes, I say go for it. If my girlfriend did a thing like that for me, I'd sure appreciate it.
356267
Why are you letting this guy make you crazy?  Why is he the one making all of the decisions?  You're smart, if a girlfriend of yours just told you what you've told us, what would you say to her???  Maybe it's time to move on...
347566
It's a difficult situation since you don't live in the same city. Your girlfriend is used to spending time with her friends because you are only there every other weekend. Since your girlfriend is used to her friends all the time that you are not around, I do not think it is too much to ask for her to spend some quality time with you when you are in town. She can balance her time on the opposing weekends between you and her friends, but she picks her friends when you are not in town and then picks her friends when you are in town. Since you say that her friends are your friends too, I think a reasonable compromise would be for your 1st weekend in town to hang around the friends and have a good time (but with some alone time), and the 2nd weekend of the month to be your time with each other and no interruption. If she can't agree to that and insists on calling up a friend to join you, I would question if she wants to be with you and, based on that, if you want to remain with her.
511849
I think you deserve a hell of a lot better than this chick.  She's clearly using you, and you're letting her.  I understand that you guys had fun together and all that, but it's really not a good idea to be with someone who already has a significant other.  Eventually he will find out and it may not turn out good for one or both of you.  I would just go to Germany, relax a bit, go out clubbing or whatever to have fun... but just enjoy your leave.  Don't waste your time with girls who are only gonna drop you.