i have to write a letter to a judge stating that i am ok with getting a divorce and that i'm not contesting it
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Most courts have pre-printed forms that cover just about everything.  Call the court clerk and ask if they have such a form.  If not ask if they have a family law clinic (some courts have these in place to assist people who don't have attorneys)...If you and your husband are amicably divorcing ask an attorney to draw up a Stipulation for Dissolution (it's an agreeement between you and the husband that states your divorcing and outlines the terms of the divorce)  good luck.  If you don't want to deal with an attorney, see if there is a legal aid clinic in your area...they do low cost or free assistance for these types of things.
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in my state its as simple as contacting an attorney to draw up any legal paper work your X signs the forms stateing that he gives all rights to you , thats it once its final with the courts you can then make arrangements for the adoption process . my sister is in a similar situation , if you where fighting him it would be a completely different story ,he is willing to do this ,, is almost the same as haveing a noncontested devorse, if you both agree then theres nothing to fight over .. call you court house , some states offer a legal aid program ,  and if you qualify thier service could be free , hope it all works out for you
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just remember to take your family with you when you go to court and maybe if you are members of a church have the pastor or priest make out a letter to the judge this always helps and from his work as well letting the judge know that he is a good person,he is always on time to work,never misses work etc,this all ways helps take if from experience don't forget as well to make a letter your self to the judge letting him know that he is a good father and also the bread winner in the family and that you need him in your life and in your child's life with out him you would have to resort to getting welfare and food stamps good luck
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Go to court and let a judge decide.
35555
Wait until its final.Don't be in such a rush.That's probably why you are getting a divorce now,you need to take your time.
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The old saying 'get it in writing' will probably apply here.  Otherwise, a judge will just view it as hearsay.\n\nSo, if it wasn't in writing, you will have a hard time proving a case about the refusal part, which will open the door to collect the past support.
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Listen very closely to what I'm telling you.  It's good advice.\n\nFirst, if your soon to be ex-husband is having dangerous affairs, if his lifestyle puts your children at risk, you could go to the CPS (Child Protective Services).\n\nDo you belong to a church?  Make an appointment during the week to tell a priest what is happening. He may know someone in the system who can help you.  Don't overlook this resource.\n\nWhen it comes to the justice system, forget about what is the truth, and what is right or wrong.  Lawyers are often working in their own self interest.  Everyone involved in the case is apt to make decisions based on what is easiest for them.  No one is going to risk their careers for you.\n\nIf you have accusations to make, you must be certain they can be substantiated:  names, dates, places, etc.  Do you have witnesses?  Will they testify under oath?  Will they sign a document certifying what they say is true?   There are RULES OF EVIDENCE, and judges will sometimes even forbid a person from making statements he considers irrelevant.\n\nRemember... people are going to do WHAT IS EASIEST for them.  If they're acting against you, stop making it so easy for them to ignore the truth.  Everyone has a boss.  You can always take this one step higher.\n\nI noticed you misspelled a few words.  Are you from this country?  Do you live here legally?  Do you have an education and can you support these children?  All these are very important factors that a judge will consider.\n\nThink very carefully before you act.  If your husband is actually a decent man, and could care better for the children, make the unselfish decision not to oppose him.\n\nBest of luck.
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Every b-day, Every anniversary (for 21 years) that is all i heard was "All I want is a three way".  Well I gave in and needless to say we are headed for divorce court.  And yes it was my decision!  And yeah it was a tuff decision!  But i am doing it and i feel better for it.  When people talk about the intent to cheat was always there i believe in my heart that it is true.  What i did was give him the permission that he needed, in turn what i received was the attitude that i was the bad guy, that i did something wrong just so he could ease his guilt.  After I announced to family and friends that i was getting a divorce, he wasted no time going out and telling my friends and family that i am gay and leaving him for another woman (Yeah this after 22 yrs of marriage and the constant nagging).  Watch your step Honey, my advice to you is to stand your ground tell him to get off your back or it is over.  I could go on and on but i will spare you all the other details.
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get a lawyer and begin divorce procedings.
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Separation does not mean divorce.  You still have to get the legal paper work done.  Check with your state to see how this is done.
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I wouldn't sign anything unless your lawyer says it's ok to sign or unless the Judge says, you'll be in contempt of court and the Judge adds he'd lock you up or fine you for it if you didn't sign.
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Contact your attorney, and have him/her file a motion with the judge to order her to stop using her married name, and comply with the decree of divorce that requires her to use her maiden name.
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WHEN I SIGNED MY DIVORCE PAPERS!!!!!!!
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Hi!  I've taken Canon Law and a Catholic Pastoral  Minister.  Yes, you do have to have an annulment from your Tribunal.  Annulment isn't a divorce, it is a statement that says the civil marriage or church marraige was void at the time of saying vows because of an impediment.  Many people make vows to each other and want to be married but it doesn't means God agrees and joins the 2 flesh into one.  I can't marry my poodle, dolphin etc.even if the judgicial system sees it.   The Bible says that the 2 must be believers  or unbelievers.  Meaning the 2 must be in a belief system that is somewhat complete with thier feelings of salvation, and understanding of what marriage entails.  Your first civil marriage is probably not going to be seen by the Church as a sacramental marriage because you didn't fulfill what you both were brought up to believe, and your immaturity has much to do with it. If the Tribunal court affirms the marriage null and void as a sacramental marriage you are free to marry again.  Pray and tell God of all of your feelings. Give your life to him.  Pour out your heart and let him know he is needed in your life.  Go to a Priest, get confession and be reconciled and ask your priest to help you.  If he won't , go to another until you find a good priest.  I went through the process, cuz my first marraige was much the same.  The annulment should go through and shouldn't take long and don't worry about money . If anyone tells you that you must have money it is a lie.  No money changes hands unless you can afford it.  (usually 300 to 500 dollars unless different in your diocese)  The money, if given is for the secretarial and bookeeping fees.  Every day say "Jesus, I trust in you!  This is between you and God, not the Church.  The Church is to support you and give you sacraments to boost and fill your spirit.  The Church has to make these assessments  so that all marriages are kept straight in the records and keep the whole Church in unity.  We have more people in our Church then any other Christian Church and records kept for 2000 yrs.--alot to keep straight.  Bigger than any corperation and  the longest running establishment.   I hope this whole bunch of incidents makes you want to learn more about our beautiful and mystical faith.  It did for me and now I am very happily married for 23 yrs. and our family has seen so many real miracles and experienced real joy.  I did a big soul searching of myself to find the right man, because I had alot of baggage.  Get to know yourself and what you really want and need to live happily.  Good luck sweet girl and I will keep you in my prayers.
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Go to court and explain the judge that you did not do anything wrong.
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You should have recieved a copy of the final decree stamped by the court clerk in the mail. If you did not, call the court clerk and ask for a copy. Your divorce is not legal until it has been registered by the court clerk.
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you have 6 month from the time your divorce was filed here in ca.  If I were you, I would consult a Lawyer.  He has no business being a father.  He sounds very unfit.  Sounds like you have very good grounds.  First though what I would recommend is documenting. for example, I keep all emails I send to my ex that way if need being I have the written proof for the court.  basically say to him, that he was scheduled to pick so and so up, but you got a call from the school saying no-one pick her up.  something along those lines.  without documentation, you won't have a chance.