we've been dating for 4 years. we were j.h.s school sweethearts. my child is for someone else that passed away. she' 11 yrs.They both get along well. I've lived with my parentsmy whole life & it's my first time living on my own. Last but not least I'm 32 yrs.
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As long as it isn't putting your child in a bad place, e.g. bad schools, worse chance at life, I don't see why not.  Why not get married first?  Will your parents let you back if you decide it isn't right?
22573
OK, hon. First of all, you don't need to prove your love to him. No matter what anybody says. No matter who you date, they will never be good enough for mommy and daddy. (Unless they pick the person) Second, don't focus so much on love. Give it time. I don't know how old you are, and personally I don't consider it an issue. If you focus on love, you will be heartbroken if things don't work out. I'm not saying set your standards low. I am not saying don't love this person. What I am saying is spend time with him. Enjoy the relationship. Don't get married young. And for gods sake don't get married without first living with the person. People seem VERY different when you have to share space with them. Trust me about that one. Don't rush. True love doesn't need a wedding band. If you love someone, being with that person should be enough. Sex is nice, but even that isn't necessary. The company of your significant other is all that is necessary. If you two love each other than that is all that matters. Marriage and sex are over rated. (Sex is nice, but still over rated) If you love him then your parents will eventually come to the realization that he is sticking around. They will either come to accept it, or they will disown you. I know this. I have been married. I was only 19. I told my parents the day before. At first they accused me of being crazy. They made some pretty insulting comments, and I told them to go fuck themselves. They learned to accept my wife and even grew to like her. You are your own person. Heres a motto that my stepfather taught me. "If you don't fuck me, feed me, or pay my bills......Go fuck yourself!" Your family is an important part of your life, but you didn't choose them. You were born with them. You couldn't change who they were. Your boyfriend is somebody that you chose to bring into your life. Your parents should respect your decisions. And if they think you are a fool for being with him...... remind them of who taught you. What examples did you have to follow. They are the 2 biggest influences in your life. Whether you know it or not. Everything that you have witnessed from them as a child has molded you to be the person that you are today. Everything from not enough hugs to the overprotectiveness. They have made you who you are. If they are unhappy with that, then they should try to do a better job next time.
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My mother was 20 years younger than my father. She was 32 when I was born and he was 52. He passed away at the age of 82 when I was 30. They had alot of differences that never got worked out and I think it was due to the age/interest gap not to mention she was good at pushing anyone's last button. They divorced when I was 12 remarried a couple of years later only to divorce finally when I was 15. I am not sure if you can see where I am going here or if I even see it fully but I personally feel that if you get along great, fall in love and have a successful relationship then there is nothing wrong with it. True love knows no boundaries. Best of luck to you....
50684
Yes. In a car wreck and at that time our daughter was 18 months old. My self and daughter survived . lost wife and mother 2 hours later. We visted cementary and we talked but 18 months old only wants mama. Long story made short, remember her, keep her memories alive, and get on with your life. That s what your wife would want for you. I was lucky both my wifes knew each other, went to school together and my present wife adopted my daughter. My daughter now has a 15 year old son. I hope this helps. Just remember she would want you to go forward with your life.
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Age is just a number. My parents are 11 years apart!!! and they happily had me so don't worry about it... But personally I would wait until you are out of highschool.. This way your parents wouldn't flip a bitch when you went out with a 23 year old..... Also it could give you more freedom... If you are in your senior year you only have until june! use this spare time to get closer to him and enjoy his friendship.. Then you can use the friendship time to decide if he is really worth it... worth something you could be serious about.. and if he isn't worth it you will be glad you thought about it through without pissing your parents off anyways.... Just don't rush into things and wait.... then things could be perfecto.. Good luck... also... remember you are applying to colleges if they aren't near his he may not be wanting to give up everythign to move with you... keep that in mind so you don't get hurt.
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I was 14 and my love was 18, I know it is not 16 and 23 however my point is - if this is you and your parents are not aware of this relationship someone can get into trouble.  My love is now my husband, almost 25 years later and still the love of my life.  Age differences are only important to those that want to and can create an issue about them (hence parents).  Love does not know numbers...
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Why are you living with your boyfriend?How old are you?No baby she might not get over it sometimes when we are young our parent's can see things that we can't see.It's not until later on in life we see or understand why that comment was made.You and your boyfriend are very young and she probably don't want to see you struggle that's all.Mom knows how hard it's going to be that's all.Who is working you or your boyfriend work?How are you guys going to support the baby?By your ages I would hope that both of ya'll are still in school.I'm not on mom side because it's going to be your decision when it's all said and done.You take care of yourself,and know it's not going to be easy.You have a lot of sleepless night's ahead of you.I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.Take care.
39309
YES my G-Parents and they have been together for over 60 yrs... My husband and I have been together for almost 14 yrs...
652650
You are engaged in some kind of power struggle here. They are not kids anymore, but need their mommy? They are either spoiled rotten, or are playing games with the 2 of you. If your gf thinks this is normal, I would forget her. She obviously doesn't know when to focus on her own life. I can see them living with you when they're forty. Scary, isn't it?\nTell your gf to get her priorities straight, or she will lose you.
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it's not bad.  And it depends on your age and dependency.  If you are still living home and going through the time of independence (teenage and early 20s) then you are growing away from her and more independent.  Once you're past that and able to accept her, and she accept you, for being a separate, independent person, things will get better.
505284
some say "if you love them let them go...if they come back it was meant to be" but you see, maybe her parents are "controlling" her...i had the same thing happen to me when i was younger..we both waited until i gradutated and i sat down and talked to my mom...i told her, you always told me to follow my heart, and not let anyone tell me what to do...i love ***** and he is my heart and you can either accept him or not it is your choice.....she and my husband are friends....i was with him for 6 years before we finally got married, i am married to him now and i still feel the love like we just began dating! maybe you should talk to her and find out how she feels!
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If I were personally in a situation like that I'd probably tell my parents but lie about his age. When you were younger that is a HUGE age gap but 1) you seem to be a rarity of lasting that long with the gap and 2)it won't make as huge a difference now. My husband is 5 years and some months older than me though I did meet him when I was 21. (We've been together since then, I'm now 29) I think my dad was more concerned about the fact that I met him on the Internet rather than his age. LOL
58180
I suppose it does matter. For some people. My parents are 5 years apart. Some people are together and are over 10 years over than the other person! But I think it would probably be better if there wasn't such a big age difference. But that is just MY opinion.
648852
From my experience, coming home late or breaking curfew was a major way of testing my parents trust. Considering your ages, I am surpised that your parents are so restrictive. Ask yourself, what is this 'bad' that they think you're doing? Did your parents come from deeply religious families? Were your parents also restricted by their parents? What about her parents? It may not be fair, or make a whole lot of sense these days, but that could explain some of their methods. Do you or your girlfriend have troubled pasts, maybe trouble with the law? Did you ever have a truancy problem with school? Don't think that I am blaming their behavior on you, I just want you to think of all  possibile reasons. It almost sounds like you two live a bit far away from eachother, and that might explain why you're only allowed to see eachother twice a week, and talk on the phone for only half an hour a day. Have I nailed it yet? No? Okay, parents may not seem to make any sense some of the time, but they are your parents. Like it or not they have say into your relationships. The more you show respect for them and their wishes, usually the more trust they'll have for you. So if you're considering sneaking around after dark or anything like that, don't try it. Chances are you'll get caught, and just imagine how often you'd get to see her then? Probably not at all. I know this is a hard time for you both, you're almost legal adults, but until you turn the magic age of 18, you just have to bite down and endure this. You will get through this, just be patient with her and your parents. I am going to assume that talking with your parents wont make much of a difference, but there is nothing wrong with trying. Ask them what it is that they fear so much, and do your best to put that fear to rest. Assure them that you intend to follow their wishes, and do so when you're out with her. If they see that you're true to your word, the less likely they are to shorten the leash. I get the feeling that their fear is your sexual activity. It is my personal opinion that you two are at the ages when your sexuality is your business, however a parent will feel like your business is always their business. You can be 50 years old, and they'll still consider you their baby. Being that your sexuality is your business, I hope you wont mind if I give you a piece of advice: protect you and your girlfriend and use a condom every time. Anyway, you will get through this, I promise. Good luck.
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Maybe he's just not ready to move your relationship to that level. Living with another person, no matter how much you care about them, is a HUGE step that changes your entire life. Good luck with your mom (mum).  :)
126495
Go. If you are having any doubts now they will only triple the longer this relationship goes on. I was once dating a man who was twelve years older than me, and once a man gets stuck in his ways, he seems to be good for sure. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you know what you want. Your still young enough to have your family unit! Go and and get it! Just because someone treats you good and loves you doesn't mean you should stay with them. People who love you and take care of you and can't start a new family with you are called parents.
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You are so lucky to have each other at this time. I believe you are a gift to each other. I had friends in a similar position as you are in now. They both decided to take everything one day at a time and enjoy every thing including their love each and every day. They went through, thick and thin together in increasing love, for 3 years longer than doctors had predicted. The surviving friend, years later, has told me several times how they would have suffered a much greater loss if they had not been dedicated to each other in love for as long as possible.