This thing is like a chain on my neck, and I need a lot of help from your strong christians out there on overcoming my sexual sin, specificially fornication......as the Lord saids in his word that we should confess to each other, therefore am leting your know so that your can give me whatsoever advice you have so that I can ounce again live a victorious christian life, thanks and God bless you all.
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If you're of age, 1 Corinthians 7 gives you a clear solution: get married.  If you go this route, TREAT YOUR WIFE RIGHT -- sacrificial love is the order of the day (Ephesians 5:22-33).  I'd also recommend Eggerichs' book _Love and Respect_; it will help you get started on the right foot.  Don't worry about finding "the right one" as though God hid your bride-to-be under a rock someplace.  If you need to get married, then find a woman who is (a) a believer, (b) devoted to the Lord, and (c) willing, and get hitched.  Get those three qualifications lined up, treat her right, and she'll take good care of you.  On the other hand, if a marriage of convenience scares you a little bit, then realize that curbing your problem is your only other option.\n\nNow for the tough part: discipline your mind.  If you're getting married, the two of you should study Song of Songs together.  Dillow, _Solomon on Sex_ and Fruchtenbaum, _Biblical Lovemaking_ are great resources for you -- buy them and use them.  Fill your head with biblical truth about sex.  Also, discipline your mind to think about YOUR WIFE when you think about sex.  Cultivate vivid memories of the mindblowing times you've had together.  When some pretty young lady showing too much skin crosses your path and you catch yoursef thinking, "Man I'd love to...," STOP.  Quote relevant Scripture to yourself, and remind yourself (by way of one of those juicy memories) of how God has provided for your sexual needs.  \n\nNow, if you're not getting married, you need to cultivate that kind of discipline anyway.  Just the details are fdifferent. Bad news: you can't resist this temptation on your own.  Clearly you already recognize this.  Good news: You don't have to.  Find the relevant passages in Scripture and keep them in the forefront of your mind -- always.  Write them down on 3x5 cards and carry them around with you.  When you're in line at the bank or the grocery store, take them out and read through them.  Memorize them and recite them to yourself as you drive to work (or walk the halls at school -- I don't know how old you are).  You need to never let yourself be unaware of the truth about that behavior.  Study what Scripture says about it.  You already know it's wrong, so go from there: what are the results of this particular sin?  What is the nature of the sin?  What leads to it?  How do you best avoid it?  What examples does Scripture give you -- who avoided this sin, and what happened?  Who gave in to it, and what happened?  I'd suggest paying particular attention to the writings of Solomon (Proverbs and Ecclesiastes, I mean -- stay away from Song of Songs until you're married, or about to be).  With 600 wives and 300 concubines, he got more than you've ever dreamed about.  Listen to the man -- he knows what he's talking about when he tells you that pleasing God is more important.\nBlessings on you, brother.  Keep the faith; the Lord can get you there.
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We as humans were designed to interlock with the opposite sex. Thats the way God made us. The relational differences between a female/male relationship and a female/felmale relationship can be confusing. Jesus offers us a way out of our sinful lifestyles. I was involved in what you are now involved in. It is no doubt hard. I felt so bad and was so unsure of everything. But once we recognize that we are not perfect then we can go to Christ and He will forgive us and lay upon us the will to change and do better in His sight. All sins are equal and they all demand repentance. You need to get out of this situation for your spiritual well being. You should pray and ask what God wants for you. Tell her that your friendship means a lot and that is why it developed into what it is. Tell her you overstepped some important boundaries apologize and ask her to forgive you. I will pray for you. Just remember Jesus saves the broken hearted. No sin is too great to be pardoned as long as you come willing to yield to Him.
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I feel terrible when I allow myself to have this fantasy,even if for just a moment.Myself and my family attend church regularly,us and the other church members are all very close to each other.My pastor is the most attractive man I have ever seen,and like I said we are all very close to each other.Even though I'm close to his wife,and he is a man of God,sometimes the fantasy pops into my head regardless of the guilt or not wanting to think such things in church.He tells me he needs to talk to me in private,and if I could meet him after church .I tell him yes of course,then when we meet he tells me he just cannot quit thinking about me,and I tell him I feel the same.And we have wild passionate lovemaking.we both pray nobody will ever know.But we just can't help it because we are so sexually turned on by each other.And I cant help but wonder in real life if he ever fantasizes about me,but I don't dare ever allow myself to find out.
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Your feelings are natural - hurt and betrayed.   \n\nPLAYBOY INTERVIEW: In an interview published in the November 1976 issue of Playboy magazine, then-Governor (Jimmy) Carter talked about the role of religion in his life. In one part he said: \n\n" I try not to commit a deliberate sin. I recognize that I'm going to do it anyhow, because I'm human and I'm tempted. And Christ set some almost impossible standards for us. Christ said, 'I tell you that anyone who looks on a woman with lust has in his heart already committed adultery.'\n"I've looked on a lot of women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. This is something that God recognizes I will do--and I have done it--and God forgives me for it." \n\nSo, you have three choices: dwell on the past, worry about the future, or live in "here and now" with a completely devoted, loving, adoring husband, who reached out and confessed a deep, dark secret.  I wonder how he has struggled with this all these years. \n\nTo answer your question.  You get through it by going through it - not going around the issue.  Talk to eachother and listen to eachother.   Find out "why?" - not why he did it - but why is he telling you now after all these years.   Feeling Guilty?  Has Cancer?  Being Blackmailed?  Join a new church?  Went to an AA meeting?  If you love other, you should both be greatful that you are still together, build on that love, and help and support eachother during this short time on earth.  It will be over before you know it.
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Doesn't sound like a very Christian answer to me.\n\nYou need help.
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save youself some time and worry. HERE I AM!!!don't fret about finding the balance between obedience and cost, i'll teach you all you need to know. you will worship me. btw, i'm not cheap, but i have a line gathering, so hurry up!! MOVE!!
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the very best advice i can give is ask God to help you,and then find a christian counselor to talk to.but please do get away from it.i see you have the desire to quit looking at it,which is definitely a start.and find out if there are support groups for people that have had problems in this area.someone to hold you accountable would be a great idea.
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I just wanted to encourage you that you are absolutely doing the right thing.Do not worry what others around you say,they have lost the basic moral values of the Lord.Do not pay any attention to there comments because God is with you and is going to reward you for your dedication to purity before marriage.Im so proud of you and you have been such an inspiration to me today.I encourage you to mentor young girls and teach them how not to succomb to the tremendous pressure that we all face to not remain sexually pure.God be with you sister,and carry on the good work.
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Because you sinned against god, this is the way he punishes you.  LOL, No seriously, go see the doctor if your worried about it, you may need medicine.
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Im a Christian but i still agree with you.. When Im hurt i dont wanna here just pray or go read your bible. Even as someone who does believe in God, that jus doesnt help me be comforted. Thats the problem with a lot of christians, they jus give the "right" answer and move along instead of maybe actually trying to spend some time with the person or really listening. I know how it feels to have your heart broken and what got me thru wasnt reading my bible and praying, although i dont think those thingss are neccessarily bad, it was suport from my closest friends, who probably did pray for me. Anyway i think you should call those people out on it and see what they say, if they knew how you felt about their advice i think it would change their actions next time theyre put it that situation. Well i hope ive maybe helped a lil and that your heart isnt broken anymore. God Bless.
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It really doesn't work that way.  First, you need to make a sincere commitment to God, not just say a weak prayer.  Second, since you have been involved in an addictive lifestyle, like promiscuous heterosexuals, drugs and alcohol, it is a struggle you will have all of your life.  I still struggle with my own sinfulness 20 years down the road, so, even if God can and does miracles, you need to prepare for the long run...and it may be a long and hard one.  Hope you get serious one day.  Blessings.
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Hey J, well I’ve been reading over some of u'r past?’s. I can see that you are trying to gain some order in u'r life. I can start by telling you this.... and believe me it works; there are no special tricks or gimmicks to this. This is not only subject to weight loss but relationship building with Christ also. We already know with out Jesus being 1st there is no foundation to the plans that we make or the things that we want. So start off by seeking meaning to... do whatever possible to know him to find out about him weather it be reading his word, going to church, fasting and praying to get his attention its just like if you were to meet someone you liked you do all that it is to get their attention you might say nice words you might sing them a song, you would require from someone who knows them(word of God)....well what do they(Jesus) like? So you do/give the things they want and like. So it's up to you to find out what are the things (read)..... you just don’t start a relationship you get their attention 1st. what I’m saying if you don’t understand now if u were to step to me and say "lets start a relationship" I would say” boy you don’t even know me" So what you would do; is get to know me. What would be the type of thing you would do to really get to know who I am? \n\nIn seeking to know him and developing a relationship all of your other questions will be answered. I will leave you with this one.......\n\nMat 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you(all your hearts desires)\n\nand some more added\n\nSometimes we wonder why we struggle soooo hard we start off with a good start we have every intention to finish whatever it is but we loose momentum and power because we do things in our own strength/power instead of just asking for his help (this is what he likes; us seeking him in every way) seeking him because we can't do it or we can but he can do it better.\nI will give you this example in weight loss because I struggle from time to time in this area.\nYou can have all the right formulas 5sets of this and 5sets of that exercise not eating this and eating that and the other. If you don’t follow what’s on paper because you don’t have the will to keep it up what’s the point like I said before we start off with the right intentions but we struggle because we left the most important person out Jesus\n\nI really hope this helps :~)
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Pray for her. I don't know if you are a Christian, but if you are, you should know that talking to God about it relieves much stress and His Will WILL be done! Whatever happens is for the best. You are in my prayers. ~tracie
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First of all, as a fellow brother in Christ, I want to commend you on your commitment to save sex for marriage. Too often we see people today giving into the pleasure of a few minutes, only to suffer a lifetime of pain and hurt in the future.\n\nI don't normally answer questions on here, but the situation you are in is too similar to mine for me to ignore.\n\nI have been a Christian all my life, and constantly seek to glorify Him by living and dedicating my life to Him. I also believe that sex is the ultimate expression of physical love, and is the most special gift anyone can present to the person that they want to dedicate the rest of their life to. If someone commits premarital sex, they are giving that gift away, and tarnishing any future romantic relationships they may have.\n\nNow, obviously, I am a virgin; and am extremely proud of this fact. I cannot wait to let my future wife know that I've saved myself for her. Instead of channeling my energy and resources to fulfill sexual needs, I instead look to strengthen my character and serve others.\n\nBut I've recently fallen for this girl.... She's a born again Christian, who was saved this past summer. However, her previous life was filled with sin, as she drank and had sex with guys before me, enough guys to number on 2 hands.\nI was so devastated when I found out. I was literally torn because I only had one romantic relationship before this point, and had only gone as far as a kiss.\nNeedless to say, I was more than a little hurt. In fact, I don't believe anything or anyone else hurt me as much as she did when she told me that.\nI was ready to just end things at that point.\n\nBut then I remembered. If God, who is the only one who is perfect and holy, can forgive us for all our sins without judgment, who are we to judge others and use their past against them. If she really came to God after her mistakes of the past, and surrendered herself to his forgiveness and mercy, then she is literally, emotionally, and spiritually a new person.\nGod calls us to forgive one another, and if a perfect God can forgive our sins, both past and current, without question (as long as we are sincere!) and love us with the greatest love of all; shouldn't we as Christians (who are also guilty of sin) replicate that love toward one another?\n\nI'm not saying it's easy. My heart aches and burns daily from the suffering that her past brings to me. But I trust that God will allow us to overcome this obstacle, and allow our relationship to prosper. As the first guy she even kissed after God came into her life, I know that she's changed.\nI'm going to continue to trust in God that He will allow me to get over her past; because who she is now is someone who makes me happy and has allowed me to experience love.\n\nIf you really love your girlfriend, pray about it. She's a new person now, she has Jesus in her.\nPlease keep Jesus Christ in the center of your life and of your current relationship. That's the only way that your relationship will be able to reach it's true potential.\n\nBe blessed.\n\nIn Him....
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what you're doing is very kind and compassionate. the world needs more like us, huh? *Hug* if you want to talk to someone who may encourage and pray with YOU let me know. bekki117@yahoo.com or bekki117 on aim or YIM...and yes, i am a born-again christian. on fire for God.
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Pray about it and ask the Lord to help you through and He will. He has helped me with that exact same problem. Try to ask other brothers in Christ to hold you accountable. Stay away from places that are stumbling blocks that would cause the sexual urges, avoid internet pornography.
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we're all sinners - God knows that since he made us. If you're making an honest effort to move forward and live a Godly life, then you're doing the right thing. just keep on asking for forgiveness and seeking help where you need it. If you find you're stumbling in the same areas like sexual sin or cheating, etc., find a group of Christians that you can be accountable with. \n\nGuilt is just the devil's way of tripping us up and keeping us from happiness. remember that Jesus died for every sin, none is too great to confess. That's the beauty of grace and mercy.\n\nI've been a Christian for many years and I don't have it all figured out. It's a work in progress. Think of Paul's letters - he stumbled and kept going. and David gave us some of the most beautiful Psalms out of his suffering, disappointment, weaknesses and all the while still praising God.\n\nRemember, Jesus' death on the cross has love written all over it. We're never worthy but we are loved:)