My parents are always in a quarel, even if i'm at home. They don't respect my rights and responsibilities, and at the moment i'm doing my first year of study in the TUT. My father sometimes goes out with small girls,dating them, and when mama sees that, she goes back to her father's house and stays for couple of mounths and comes back home for me and my brothers and sister's sake.
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You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
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hey hoteve i wish the same thing my family is crazy . sometimes i feel like they dont even know i am here . i also feel like my two older sister get the most of my mom and dad's attention . but i a little bit learned that my parents cant help it they r  just being parents .wishing they would go to hell is not a very good thing . they do do some things for us though . if u ever need to talk just im me it should be listed
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Your relationship seems rock solid. Don't let anyone including your parents get in the way. Your parents care about you and want the best for you. They haven't taken your relationship seriously yet. Make your parents respect your relationship by investing more time in your relationship with your fiance and less with your parents. Show them you are perfectly fine on your own. Oh, by the way, marriage is cool too. Don't be afraid.
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no matter what your mom thinks follow your heart. my man left me last yr. i moved me and my daughter into my parents house a month later my man came back. my parents were supportive even tho they didnt think it was a good idea. now everyone is happy with each other. follow your heart! good luck!!
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did your dad get school & college out of the way before having a girl friend, I doubt it.  Tell him your not planning on getting married, just geing a teenager and having some fun.  Being a parent I can understand where he's coming from but I was also a teenager and know that if told no the teen will always do the opposite, I let me daughters do things but we compromise, in your case id say fine but just see him a couple of nights a week so you don't miss out on your studying, you've got to be allowed to live a little !
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I think that you should respect your parents call on this one hun...sorry.  You are only 13, and your parents love you and are protecting you from experiances that you are not yet ready to handle.
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you should be able to see and DATE whom ever you choose...and if your parents want you to love and respect them dont you think that it should be the same for them? well i do, if they TRUELY love and respect YOU they should support what you decide to do with YOUR life. They are putting up a double standard towards you and thats WRONG!!.. i say do what makes you happy and what you want..
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Hi young lady.  You're bound to get a ton of responses to your question, both from parents and from other teens who consider you either very lucky, or very unlucky.  I suspect that something happened this evening that upset you and probably prompted your to ask the question - perhaps they turned down a request or simply said something at a moment when you really weren't feeling happy with the state of your life.  Regardless, being a successful father myself (my son is now married and working on his master's degree to be a teacher), I can tell you something you probably don't like to think about; that is that raising a child . . . I'm sorry . . . a young man or woman, in today's world is a VERY scary and challenging thing to do.  Particularly in the case of young women, if you follow the newspapers or TV news at all, you'd see that the prevalence of sex crimes in our country is at an all-time high.  The Internet itself is being used as a tool by predators who want nothing more than to take advantage of gullible or naive young people who are too ready to trust, and not ready enough to protect themselves.  Your parents sound like they love you very much . . . enough to want to protect you from the very nasty and ugly side of humanity, for as long as they are able.  When you believe they are simply being mean or too strict, they are actually struggling with the choices they must make as you grow older, regarding how much freedom you should be allowed to have, as opposed to how much risk and danger could be waiting for them to allow you too much freedom, or perhaps more than you are fully equipped to handle.  Parents have a terribly difficult job, and very often they have to be the "bad guys" as far as their children are concerned, in order to ensure that their children remain safe and secure until they are old enough, and hopefully well enough prepared, to step out into this very brutal world on your own.  I don't want to put you to sleep here with a long message (I might have already done so:-), but I believe you will find in the long run, that in order to earn more trust and more freedom from your parents, you're going to have to demonstrate to them how responsible and how trustworthy you can be.  And if you attempt to mislead them, or you abuse a trust that they give to you, you shouldn't be surprised or angry at them if they back off and require you to earn their trust all over again.  As a retired military person, I can tell you most assuredly - freedom is everyone's right, but it is a right that we all have to earn, not once, but every day of our lives, but doing what is right (not just what is the easiest), and by setting a high standard of honesty and integrity for ourselves that no one can put a hole in.  I suspect that when you have become the kind of upstanding person your parents want you to be, you will discover that they will endow you with increasing levels of trust, and freedom, so long as you continue to prove that what they are doing is the right thing, not just for you, but for your entire family.  I apologize for writing so much, but I saw in your note some feelings of disappointment and frustration with your folks.  Try not to only consider their actions from your point of view.  To really understand what is happening in yours and their lives, broaden your point of view and try to consider what they're feelings are, and what they're reasons are for the decisions that they make on your behalf.  Don't be in too big a hurry to be out on your own - it's a far scarier and more dangerous world than you can possibly imagine, and your time in it will come all too soon.  Good luck with your question, and with sifting through all of the many wide-ranging opinions you're likely to see.  Use your brain, and not your emotions to determine who's advice is the most honest and the most intelligent, and don't just choose those answers that suppor
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Remember your parents are the ones to respect. There are rules of the house and as long as you are living under the roof, you got to obey them. Just calm down and try to take things little by little. Mothers are always like that. She is doing things that you might not like and that means that she cares and loves you. Sometimes, they have a funny way of showing love. Just stay in school and love your parents until you finish high school. Then, you will be in college and have more freedom. One day, when you are older and wiser, you will look back and realize that you would not be there without your parents. You will realize that you have two very important people in your life who you want to thank, your mom and dad.
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I was in this situation before... my parents wouldn't allow me to date this guy. well, i dated him for 6 months behind their backs and when i graduated from high school, they said i could do whatever i wanted to do. so... i kept dating him. he then joined the army and we got married, had a 3 year marriage plus a little baby boy and well... to make a long story short... this guy was a complete bastard and had a very personal affair. ANYWAYS... I have learned one thing... it might sound stupid and nerdy but PARENTS USUALLY KNOW BEST!!! I'd listen to them. THEY HAVE THEIR REASONS!
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Her parents should be strict. You should mind your own business. :)
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well i guess your mum is trying to protect you and what she thinks is the best, however being a mum myself every child needs to find out things for themselves weather that be for the good or bad, you need to tell your mum how you feel tell her your old enough to make up your mind she cant choose who you go out with but she can give your her opinion its up to you to take it you need to tell her you have made this decision and that she needs to stop controlling who you go out with you will go through your life making alot of mistakes but that is normal as a mother i will never tell my children who they will date etc i will give them my opinion yes but if the worst comes out of it parents need to tell there children they will be there for them and i think your mum needs to do the same. good luck???
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my parents are divorced, and have been since i was 4 years old. i've had a great childhood and i thinnk that everyhting worked out for the better. not only were my parents happy, i lived in an environment without fighting/ marital problems. my parents have joint custody, so i've lived with my mom but can visit my dad on weekends or as i please (when he isn't working). in addition to my parents and siblings being happier, my parents have both remarried, which i think has ben a great experience and i greatly love both of my step-families.
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Well, it may sound fruity, but the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" is a good one. Your parents have 2 concerns in this matter. Your safety and the boys interests. Since you cannot know what the boys are thinking, don't bother telling mom and dad you won't do anything with them. Since you can't change your parents opinion of those boys (or boys in general), don't try. Leave the "mom i need some freedom" in the trash where it belongs. Show your parents you are responsible. Follow their rules. But at the same time, open an honest, rational dialogue about why you want boys over. See if they are willing to compromise. Like letting a boy over if you sit in the living room in full view at all times and not when your parents aren't home. It may be a slow process, but this will work. First try to understand your parents objections. Then work rationally and without emotion on those objections........I'll give you an example.\n\nMy dad didn't allow boys over when I was young. I couldn't go to dances, call them on the phone, or even talk about dating. His objections? Premarital sex, drugs, alcohol, and staying out late. Ok, first, staying out late. No problem, curfew.........and I followed it. Second, drugs and alcohol, it's one thing to say you won't do them, and another to not. Since dad wasn't around to see me not take drugs, I pointed out my other responsible acts (Spanish club, Mentoring, 3.6 GPA). Third, premarital sex, ok, again, can't be there all the time. So I let him know what I knew. I let him know I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. And then I let him know what the warning signs were if a boy was pressuring me..........and that I wouldn't allow it. Sure enough, I was dating in no time. I was trusted. And by Senior year, I had a 3 am curfew, a dad who asked how my day went without judging, AND a sense of self-worth.
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You know you and I are in the boat, but it's my mother who's in my way. I wish she could feel more secure, so I could have more freedom; especially the chance to go abroad. I think your father is the one who feels insecure, so he wants to be in your way. Maybe you can try to take him out with you when you're not going on a date. Hope my suggestion helps. Good luck and best wishes.
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Dont lie-you may not understand now why your parents do what they do...but later in life you will.   You should always be turthful!
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Have you talked to your dad about this? It is really his problem not yours. He added another person to your home so he has the responsibilty of making sure the situation is good for you and your step mom. Your place is with your father, she can make things uncomfortable for you but she can't force you out. If your dad and step mom are basically good people there has to be a way of working it out. BUT you have to try to be calm about it, don't scream or cry (I know it's hard not to) if you are too emotional about it adults freak out and they don't take you seriously.