listen gyes im a muslim man of bangladesh.and here we nt try to sex b4 married.but all r nt same?here culture is defrent.so plz help to give ur most helpfull sujatation to me .4 ur information my wife is 28.if she do musterbition thn she lost her verginity.here is sextoy is nt available.
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Just like it impossible to tell if a man is a virgin by inspecting his genitals, it is impossible to tell that a woman is a virgin by inspecting her genitals.\n\nThe way people used to tell if women were virgins was by inspecting the hymen in the vagina. The hymen, however, is not reliable. For one, the hymen is rarely in tact after a woman hits puberty. The hymen can break from play (slips/falls, bike riding, tree climbing, etc.). Furthermore, a woman who has a hymen is also not necessarily a virgin. Hymens vary, and some can stretch and never actually be completely in tact in the first place (a "complete" hymen, i.e. one that covers the canal entirely, would not allow passage of menstrual fluids). So, it is possible that a woman who has had sex can have still have an "in tact" hymen.
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Maybe he is having problems preforming and he is insecure about it. I am 20 and my husband is 34 and we have been together for 2 years. Sometimes you still love each other and you still find one another attractive, but you just need a break from the sexual part of the relationship. Are you feeling pressure from the idea of marriage? Are you both stressed out in any way more than usual, maybe from planning a wedding? It all factors in, as long as you still love each other, it's OK. Sex isn't everything.
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NO. not at all. First of all, I would like to congratulate you two. You're a match made in heaven. Basically, the bible states that sex is a blessing given to married couples. If you're just living together and not having sex, that's absolutely perfect. It's the most exciting thing you can have once you get married. But if you guys are married but not having sex... then there really is a problem behind that. Try talking to your partner about that.
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it sounds like they want to sleep together, so if you aren't comfortable with that, you should communicate it clearly with your wife and friend.\n\nsome cultures are more flexible and wouldn't have a problem with those 2 getting it on.
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Sex was "more and better" after marriage. But then, there came the kids. We obviously couldn't have sex as often when the kids were young. They required too much attention and at all hours of the night. Now, the children are older, and we have a little more time to ourselves. Both of us work, but we often actually schedule time for our lovemaking because we enjoy it so much. After all these years of marriage, we are still finding new ways to please each other, and different methods of enhancing the acts that we already enjoy. The sex is definitely better. Not as frequent, but better. I'd love to have sex with her everyday like before we were married or before we had kids. However, the anticipation adds to the excitement.
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Some other Christians may not agree with me on this one but..............\nWell as far as I'm concerned I think you would be fully within your christian rights as a married man to use sex toys with your wife. I'm sorry but I don't know exactly what religion you are and cant tell you their standing with the use of sex toys. The Lord built our bodies with all the pleasurable senses it has and I don't see why he wouldn't want you and your wife to enjoy them.
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Are you kidding me?  God wants us to take delight in our spouses.  Sex isn't just for procreation.  Otherwise why would it feel so good?  He would have made it about as much fun as planting a garden.  My husband and I are both born-again Christians.  The only reason I don't moan loud is because I have kids in the house.  I too say read the Song of Solomon.  That book is quite direct about the pleasures of sex.  And it is in the Bible.
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Your wife is in denial about her bear-like appearance. She is angry with herself for failing to live up to her number one responsibility: being sexually desireable to her husband. She would rather think it is the goat that has come between you than admit to herself that she has failed. My advice is: talk to your wife. Explain to her that you are still willing to support her and your children, but that you are no longer sexually attracted to her, and must fulfill your manly needs with your new goat. Maybe the shame of the whole situation will motivate her to jog in the mornings.
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although sex is pleasurable....continue to do what you wanna do! if you guys are comfortable without sex then so be it! just continue being happy in your marriage! don't let other people tell you about YOUR marriage! YOU and HIM are married not everyone else, so their comments on YOUR MARRIAGE shouldn't matter.
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Real simple: MARRY HER! What you're implying- SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE- is called "fornication" by God, which is SIN! You are VERY SELFISH! All you want to do is USE HER for your own gratification! The fact that you say you want to "convince her to go farther" PROVES this! You need to REPENT OF YOUR WICKEDNESS! See yourself as a LOST, GUILTY, HELL DESERVING SINNER! You are guilty of breaking God's law! "Thou shalt not commit adultery". Jesus said that if you "look on a woman to lust after her", you've "committed adultery with her already in your heart." (Matthew 5:27&28). Dude, you are A SLAVE TO YOUR PASSIONS! You are CONSUMED WITH LUST! Sex and all of the wonderful feelings that go with it are GOD GIVEN, and therefore "very good" as He pronounced after He had made Adam and Eve. But they were MARRIED! And that is why they were "naked and not ashamed". I would dare to say that your "girlfriend" is not your FIRST "fling", IS SHE? Are you still A VIRGIN? Even if you are OUTRIGHT, it's obvious you're not IN YOUR HEART! And I can guarantee that you are hooked on PORN, right? That stuff is DEADLY! You fill your mind and heart with ALL SORTS OF FILTH AND PERVERSION AND WICKEDNESS, and then you wonder WHY you have NO CONTROL over your passions! You're a slave to SATAN! The Bible rightly calls the devil "the god of this world". He ALWAYS takes what God has created as good and right and beautiful and perverts it into something very UGLY AND WICKED AND WRONG! That is what SIN is all about! The Bible speaks of "the pleasures of sin FOR A SEASON." You can "go all the way" or "part way", but EITHER WAY, it's still S-I-N!!! And it's basis is PRIDE! Notice how BOTH of those words have the letter "i" in the center! That's your problem: you are SELF CENTERED! You need to REPENT (turn from your sin and yourself) and TRUST IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU FROM YOUR SINS AND THE WRATH TO COME! One day you will die, and then you'll have to face the inevitable: ACCOUNTABILTY TO YOUR CREATOR FOR EVERY THOUGHT, WORD AND DEED! God loves you, and that's why Jesus Christ died on the cross for you! I beseech you sir: TURN FROM YOUR WICKED, SELF CENTERED WAYS TO CHRIST! And you need to do so TODAY! Tomorrow is too late! (You do NOT know when you'll die, now, DO YOU?) Quit being like so many OTHER guys today: A SELF CENTERED WHOREMONGER! Stop having this SICKENING mentality of just USING GIRLS for your own selfish pleasure! It really IS disgusting how so many guys will just SAY "I love you" to a girl SOLELY so they can "get what they want"! Love is A COMMITMENT! Everything else is LUST! And that is DESTRUCTIVE and ultimately leads to DEATH: Death in your body (STD'S); Death in relationships (resentment, mistrust, disrespect, divorce); Death in eternity (Hell fire for ever!). THINK ABOUT IT, AND TAKE HEED!
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Uhh...I think it is not a matter of religion but of a moral standpoint.  I do not believe there is anything anywhere that says "You cannot have sex untill you are married."  Like I said...maybe it was a moral issue in the 1900's.  You know what....I think you are on to something.  If people would wait until they got married to have sex there would be less spread of disease, abortion and teen pregnancy.  Plus...if you get AIDS could you imagine yourself saying that "The sex was WAY worth it!"  lol  Is it really so bad?  Half the time I think it is more fun on my own anyway.  hahahaha
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Dear Omar,\nAm sorry to hear about your wife. It must really be tuff to hold out like you have. In my opinion, I dont think she would damn you for taking on a female friend. I realize it gets lonely especially for a guy. I empathize with you.  You know, I understand you want to stay faithful and probably have thought, what if it was me. Well, my friend, you ARE being faithful, as far as I know. Only God is the judge of what you do. And God knows your heart, whether you are being malicious or not. I don't believe he wants you to be with out companionship. Now sex is another story. You will be taking on alot of guilt because you are not free of your wife in your mind or heart.And suppose you get so involved you fall in love with this person. Then what? Do you chuck your wife and go with her? It is such a fine line as to what to do in this case. I mean what do the docs say about your wife? Is she brain dead? Is she losing body mass by laying? Is she deteriating, What? I say, just be careful not to add additional problems to your life that you may not be able to handle. Choose someone that clearly understands the situation and keep it plotonic(yeah right, huh?). Its nice to know you have someone to talk to and go to dinner and have conversation with, right? To go for walks and the movies. I know what you are talking about. So really you have to make that call and when you do make sure you have a clear conscience.
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Our culture predetermines that coveting and lusting with the eyes is simply unavoidable. The issue here is what are your intentions toward this person..if you feel a love and commitment that is headed for a lifetime spent together then in effect you are lusting after your own wife. If you see her not as a sex object but as a person worthy of respect as well as the admiration for her feminine beauty then you are simply doing what comes natural. Have you ever read Song of Solomon? Yeah...desiring your partner is not sinful..however, there is something to be said for modest dress and staying in appropriate venues while spending time together. Even for young unmarried christian couples the temptation is there. Right now everything is geared toward weakening your defenses...girls going around barely dressed letting all their business hang out everywhere, access so easy to porn, condoms and birth control, privacy..both in the parents home and set up as a young adult in dorms and apartments, not to mention the pervasive message that sex and love are synonymous when actually they have nothing to do with each other in the long run. Being single and a christian in this American culture is torture at times...just keep praying, talk to her and confess how you feel, if needs be set up perameters and ask her to dress modestly for your sake...or heck..the best bet is..if you guys are of age...GET MARRIED! What ya waiting for? If you are too young to be marriage minded and are not ready for a commitment..then you shouldn't be dating...that's my opinion though and who am I but a frumpy house frau. God bless you though..cuz you do care and you want to do what's right..just pray, stay in the Word of God and you'll be fine. Love in Christ, ~J~  <><  P.S. Jesus was speaking about adultry...lusting with your eyes for someone else other than the person you are "MARRIED" to...however, if you are lusting after your girlfriend and all 10 of her friends plus and also every other female that crosses your line of vision..well, then..perhaps this verse does apply to you. Catch yourself and get in the habit of stopping cold those thoughts...it can be done..this is called self disapline.
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That's why I riguorously oppose sex outside marriage. . .That is the only proof that people are with each other for something deeper. . . Please, try to have more self-respect. . .Sorry if that hurts. . .
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Okay, I know you requested Christians only, but I have studied the Bible extensively.The Bible was not meant to be taken literally for the most part, and it was written during a time where women were held to be inferior. I'd disregard St. Paul's tirades on women,as a suggestion.Society has changed greatly since biblical times and a fair amount of what was written regarding gender roles no longer applies to today's society.I would suggest treating your wife as a helpmate and with respect,and expect the same from her,as the bible says to do.She should not have to be submissive.St. Paul had some issues with women 2000 years ago.*Sorry,just got your update.Please switch the gender context on what I said regarding yourself.*
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aha! the preacher's in town. sir, with due respect it is no one's prerogative to classify sin or non-sin like this. how about sex without consent with your 'legal' partner of the opposite sex (if you strictly follow the 'natural order')? is that all right to do so? and to mention the countries you are talking about, i think people there are as much randy as anywhere else in the world. maybe a little more repressed too. but all that is changing with the societies opening up to the idea of discussion on sex and sexual health of a society. the last thing we want is a pseudo pundit trying to make matters worse for those who feel there is no release.
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Well, there is much more than just sex in a marriage, nevertheless I do understand needing more and not getting it, we are not all the same, some of us will need much more sex than others, and many times we overlook the fact that  sexual compatibility is a very important factor in our relationships, but not necessarily, the most important one in a marriage,  for example you could very well find in an adventure a very compatible sexual partner that would not measure up in any other way your spouse and may very well be a promiscuous bandit taken advantage of your needs, (unfortunately you will probably not find this out until the sexual spell has come down and then it will be too late). Be very careful in your decision about how to satisfy the extra needs you have, if you care and love your spouse try looking for ways to improve your married sex life, if its not possible and you still retain the hunger, the you should consider leaving your husband and start looking for the right match. Good Luck.