me and my freiend have been best friends scine second grade. Im in jr. high now. We had some good times. but i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Im getting sick of her. Im a chicken when it comes to telling my freinds something truthfully, mean, and im goig to be scared to death when i tell her i dot want to be friends. IF i tell her. What should i do!!!! Ad Say
212353
friends grow apart...it happens. spend less and less time with her. Don't be cruel but if she asks why you 2 aren't seeing as much of each other, say you've each got different interests now.
483600
Sweetie it is always a big transition going from jr high 2 high school. Some girls still act like their in jr high once they enter high school. Don't put limits on yourself when it comes to meeting new people, you are your own person and high school is a part of growing up not only does high school help you spread your wings but it also helps prepare you for the next level. Tell your friends that you enjoy meeting new people and that you are not gonna limit yourself to just one group of people. If they can't accept it then its their loss and you will always be their friend but you feel that you are maturing and its time that spread your wings and meet new people. They will probally be mad at first but once they realize that its not jr high anymore their whole attitudes will change and they will start to see the big picture. Trust me its okay to have new friends this happens everyday its a part of life and you just happen to be one of those young ladies that has matured a little faster than your friends. We all out grow our friends at one point or another its just that some of our friends choose not to grow up.
430501
I, too have drifted away from friends I know since childhood. The best thing to do is have a peer mediation. Sounds totally, dorky, right?  Talk to her privately, so no one get embarrassed and tell her your honest feelings. i know it may be hard at first, but trust me, once you get going, it'll be easier. Set up some rules, like no interruptions, and let her talk. Tell her she's been hurting you, and that she's too bossy! don't raise your voice or tell her you hate her though. =P LET HER TALK TOO! Maybe she's been going through something. when my friends and I did this, I let them talk also. WE all ended on the floor bawling, but it was GOOD. I felt...RELIEVED. My friends and I are A LOT happier, and now, we know to talk BEFORE we blow up. Let her say what she needs too, but IF SHE starts getting aggressive, or rude-WALK AWAY. You don't deserve that. Maybe your friendship can be salvaged, most likely no, but at least you won't end the friendship on bad terms. Tell her that this is what's best for both of you, and you know longer desire her he company. Be the better person and walk away if things get ugly.\nGod bless, hun!
110327
You could simply tell her-- that while you have been friends since kindergarten, you have come to realize that you have grown apart.  That it is time for her to find someone to be her friend that has more in common with her and you will do likewise.  If you talk to her in a calm, mature manner and aren't mean to her, I don't see how karma could get you.  Just make sure you are doing it for the right reason.  Good luck!
199012
I'd be nice but firm.  Tell her you enjoy her friendship and would like to continue it, but that the relationship is over and that you would like to meet other girls.  Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this.  If she still has feelings for you, it's gonna hurt no matter how you say it, but eventually, if she's mature enough, she'll get over it and you can restart the friendship.  Good luck!
119311
You say that you want to talk to her in private too, before you join them in the table, and ask your friend what's going on, all of a sudden she has a best friend? And you could also send her an e-mail telling her your whole problem with her and if she doesn't understand your whole story, then you know she isn't your most knowing-all-about-you-like best friend, or else she would know your feelings. Her other friend you saw her with lunch is just getting ready to strike, forget about her.
248758
I would ask her why her friends do that and have a talk about it. i think she may be jealous of you and this is her way of dealing with it! and if she gets worse after you talk to her then she does deserve you as a friend.
333406
you didn't say how old you are but i'm guessing you are pretty young. friendships sometimes have ups and downs, if she has found a new best friend then maybe you should too. there really isn't much else you can do, except maybe talk to her and ask her about it.
490532
If she was a true friend no matter what she shouldn't be treating you this way.just because you make new friends doesn't mean you have to get rid of the old ones.try and talk to her find out what is her problem.if she doesnt change then you need to find a new friend someone who is sincere and trust worthy and who will always be by your side,good luck.
647937
I was always taught that honesty was the best policy. But remember she may not want to here what you have to say. But she needs to know why you do not wish to be friends with her . Just maybe by telling her the truth  and letting her know about the bad things she does might make her think and change her ways . Remember it could always go the other way too . But if she truly wants to be your friend she will listen with an open mind and take in what you have to say . good luck .
650598
I think you should continue to talk to her, but know your limits when speaking to her. If you keep on talking to her, she will soon realize you are a true friend, and not a ***** like her. Show her that you aren't like her. I also think that if she is talking about you or your bestfriend, she is jealous of you two. Be ahead of the game, don't let her keep you stressing. Don't trip off her she's just another obstacle in life trying to bring others down.
313255
wow well i hate to say it but i think no matter how nice you try to be u will hurt her. my suggestion is to be as nice as you can and say im sorry but i just want to be friends im not looking for a relationship right now i would much rather be friends or something like that\ncuz no matter how u do it it will hurt her a little bit but i hope u can still be friends
188034
You need to be upfront and honest with your Best Friend. Let her now how you feel.  But you are still calling her your best friend so maybe if the two of you talked about what makes you uncomfortable about still being friends, it can be worked out!  But make sure you are honest with her.  Just because you don't have the same beliefs as her doesn't mean you need to disrepect her and her disrepect you.  Good luck to you!
171437
exactly\nthis girl used to be my friend well she want really my friend just my friend's friend but we all hung out together but i never liked her and i just tolerated her because of my friend\nshe would try to be cool and say all that..but it just annoyed and she was such a bitch..i even asked her why she spoke like that and she just stared at me and said why are you such a nerd..and that is so stupid..she was new and trying to fit in..but she left my friend \nshe had just used her to make other friends\neven though my firend had beene her first friend when she was new\nso whenever i hear people talk like that it just annoys me and the only reason they speak like that is to try to be cool
468540
Talk to her about it. If she is going to do everything in her power to hurt you, you don't need her. Tell her she needs to act like a friend for you to be a friend. She is just using you to her advantage to get what she wants.. My best friend did that for awhile but i told her that if she kept using me like that......she will have to find a new bff. She straightened up fast cuz she realized that she'd lose me for good.
170289
I had a friend that was doing bad stuff, and i just told him to either stop or we wouldn't be friends, and i know you still wanna be her friend, but the thing is that in most cases she will tell you that she will, and you guys will stay friends. If you won't do that then maybe you should start to say subtle things to her about her behavior, just slip them into your conversations, that way she doesn't feel bad. That's my advice.
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Well, have you tried talking to her? you must tell her how much she means to you... and how she's hurting you now. you care for your best friend , but that doesn't mean she can control you around and being a pain in the neck. So tell her that you want to still be best friends with her (because you care and love her) but SHE has to change.\n\nOr, could there be a problem that she hasn't told you yet? Maybe she's acting differently becoz she's under peer pressure (or other problems) and subconsciously doesn't realize what she's doing to you.. and also not recognizing it as a problem. Talk to her and figure it out together.\n\nAnother thing, i think that you can't expect somebody to be the same forever. I have a best friend of 8 years, and now she's changed and become more hostile. I dun like much of her new self, but i accepted it. If she offends me then i'll tell her straight. There'll be a quarrel or so.. but we'll always make up the next day. And though we're not as close as before, we are still best friends and can come up to each other with problems.\n\nGood luck with your best friend! Sometimes, we have to let go to gain something.. It could be a little space between you both, or something else. I think it's best not to break the friendship.