Why are sister-in-laws so freaking anoying.... they come in and think they own everything.......
207824
well just tell your $%$$##%%^ sister in law to go &&^%$#$@#@## and %%#$##$%^ and *((*%^##@@ ---that should do it!
51743
girl, i feel your pain. i have the mother-in-law blues as well.  she shouldnt be so intrusive and pushy. my fiance and i just had a falling out with his mother. our lives are so peaceful when they dont talk. i dont know how close your husband is with his mother, but there are lines you just dont cross and shes just testing you out. i dont know if your a blunt person or not like me, but you and your husband can both say it her so that she understands its the two of you who feel this way. not just you. you have every right to feel uncomfortable about someone knowing your finances and business period. but first talk to your husband before you talk to her. good luck.
608035
I am in a similiar situation.\n\nMy someday soon-to-be sister inlaw is very irritating to me.  She is Very judgemental, opinionated and I wouldnt be surprised if she hates the idea of us someday getting married.  So, needless to say, I really understand your situation.  Now what to do... I will give you the best advice I can, even though I havent yet solved my own situation.   \nFirst of All ~ Always remain focused on your man and on your relationship with him.  He is the one you are with.\nAt family Events ~ Try finding someone else that you can hang out with and/or relate to.  Or, spend extra time in the Kitchen helping with food preps or other busy work.  Be Helpful.  If she is mean to you then she will look like a real loser.  You will look great cooking, helping etc.\nHope these tips help.  Best wishes to you.  Be yourself I am sure that is good enough.  OH & don't worry too much, most of what we worry about never actually Happens!!!
590444
That sounds very rude and inconsiderate to me.  If she asked your sister then she asked her so she should stay.  She can just let her friend know that the spot has been filled because she declined.  I dunno man, but to me she is already setting a bad example for married life if she can't even stay true to her word and cant even show respect for your family.  Looks like you got some thinking to do.  Good luck.
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I would have to say that it is quite common to have a mother-in-law that gets on your nerves.  It is best to stay on her good side though and keep biting your tongue.  Be the better person.  It's hard but it's for the best.  Good Luck.
308621
It's your mother. Screw other people and what they think.  Move her into your house and let the brother in law and husband fight it out with each other. You and your mom can watch from the sidelines.
50593
If htey gave you the house and you are paying the notes, do you have a ocntract with them?  Has it been transferred to your name?  These are things you need to check out.  Sounds like they still own the house, and if so I would take my 842.00 and go elsewhere to live or have to put up with controlling in-laws and a nosey sister-in-law.
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honestly, it's tricky when dealing with in-laws and even siblings.\nmoney will ALWAYS get in the way.\n\nit sounds like you guys were doing a great job at being family by doing things for each other...until the furniture.\n\ni would be firm and explain that there was no agreement for payment for your wedding services or their truck services...so, all these situations are exclusive from each other.\ntell them that you guys feel you are asking a reasonable price and if they don't want it for that price, then that's o.k. and you'll find someone else!\nbe kind and courteous about it, but don't feel that you are obligated to take a financial hit for family.\n\ni would prob make a family price a little lower than i would a stranger price, but they shouldn't haggle with family...that's poor manners.\nif they can't afford it, then suck it up, explain it's out of their price range and go find something else!  \n\nif they want to throw a fit, then they are the only ones looking selfish.  you guys look like you're trying to help them by selling some furniture.\n\njust be firm and now, you know how they view favors...for the future.\n\ntake care.
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Sweety, this is the nature of mother-in-laws, and in turn sister-in-laws.  You are not part of their family, and think about it from a mother's perspective, you are having sex with her baby boy...Anyhow, ignore them, be sweet as cake and they will have to stop eventually.  Best wishes
432752
You are definitely not wrong. Sounds like your sister has some major issues and you have every right not to like her actions and attitude.
597016
AMEN SISTER!!!they love to take money not give!!!
474006
Relationships with in-laws can be so difficult.  I know it is none of my business, but why in the world are you living with them?!!!  It would be really nice if you and your husband could have a place of your own to live.  It would not fix all the problems, but it would certainly help out a lot.  You and your husband need to stand together whenever you confront your in-laws.  Maybe your husband needs to do the talking for both of you so they will know that you both agree with what you are confronting them about.  It will be difficult for your in-laws to accept that you and your husband are one now and that they should not interfere in your marriage.  And what is the deal with them not letting you two open your own bank account?  Aren't you adults?  Don't you have your own money?  Why is it any of their business?  Why is your husband letting them control the 2 of you?  Is he having issues "letting go of mommy's apron strings" or something?  \n\nI would suggest that you both see a family/marriage counselor and ask him to help you find a way to deal with your in-laws.  I have a similar problem with my in-laws which almost broke up our marriage, and our couselor suggested that my husband and I confront them together in a loving manner.  He said that if they still refuse to respect me and refuse to change the way they treat us, we need to stop being around them.  In my opinion, you and your husband need to make a decision to put your marriage first if you want it to survive, and do not let anything or anyone come between you.  Find a way to move out.  I'm assuming it is their house since your mother-in-law has removed your belongings from the rest of the house.  You and your husband need to put some distance between yourselves and his parents.  He needs to let them know that he has a family and responsibility of his own now that they cannot interfere with.\n\nAs for how to deal...  That is so difficult.  Continually forgive them for the things they do.  Don't hold on to grudges.  Don't let anger eat away at you or turn into hatred.  It will ruin your health, your marriage, and your whole life.  Continue to stand up for yourself and for your marriage.  And also remember that when you have a child, things are most likely going to get worse with your in-laws, so be prepared.  I wish you the best and hope that you can find your own place to live and maybe a family counselor as well.
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I agree about the greed. My mother in law had a stroke and my hubby's teenage brother and sister were fighting all the time. Not to mention my dad in law yelling at them! \n\nJust remember, she needs to rest and take it easy STRESS FREE!! just remind them of mom needing to be stree free. You don't want her blood getting thin and blood pressure going up because everyone is having an argument over somehting stupid.
659316
An angry ex-wife is hell. My sister went thru the same thing, and let me tell you, it affects everybody in the family. They need to be strong to be able to safe their relationship.
157792
YOU KNOW I HAVE HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME ALOT. ITS JUST JEALOUSY. THEY ARENT HAPPY WITH THEIR LIVES AND THE RELATIONSHIP THEY ARE IN. THEY SEE THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING THAT THEY WANT SO THEY MAKE UP THINGS ABOUT YOU SO THAT YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR HUBBY SHOULD CONFRONT THEM TOGETHER AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY THEN. USUALLY THEY ARE DUMB FOUNDED AND CANT SAY ANYTHING. BUT DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM. AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT THEY ARE RUMORS AND NOT TRUE YOU SHOULDNT WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING.
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That is a good question! I have had it happen to me all my life and have never understood it. My Mother-in-law for instance treats my wife like a step child and her other two daughters like true daughters (kind of reminds me of Cinderella). What scares me most is that I might be doing it to my kids as well - I really try not to be that way and they have never said anything to make me think I have any favorites - but, it still concerns me. The thing is that these people (when you bring it to their attention) do not see that they are acting this way. One of my biggest hang ups is Christmas - buying gifts for people that I could care less about. Well, guess what? This year, we are not spending on these people - not even a token gift. I am in the dog house for it, but I am going to concentrate on my kids and grandkids who I love and cherish - I am going to let the others celebrate without me this year! It makes me feel free, and my wife is warming to the idea, but she is having withdrawal symptoms. I say no more of the fake behavior to impress these duds.
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I can't stand my inlaws!! They are so fake! They act like they like me but, behide my back they talk about me. I have acually heard her talk about me! I can't believe they can be that way! I had tried so hard in the begining to get along with them but I stopped that a long time ago! I guess first impressions mean alot because that was when she brushed me off when I said hello. If my husban is not home and she calls I don't pick up the phone and she knows I'm home. I know that get's her upset. But I love it!! So my suggestion is focus on your fam and avoid her! But ofcoures say hello once in a blue moon. I know you not getting along with her came create unwanted problems in your relationship! Best of luck:)