do we have to be so obessed with our weight?? Guys help me out here... Are you men so shallow minded that we have to have 1000+ issues/questions/comments on our weight? Men do we have to be thin to get a wonderful man?? Woman why cant we just go "I'm happy with my self but I want to be healthy, not thin/skinny"?
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Years ago (I can't remember where) I heard men are attracted to whatever is not common. A few centuries back, most women were thin due to malnourishment, so men were attracted to full-figured women as they were rare. In America today, 66% of the population (I assume 50/50 between men and women) is overweight, so "the norm" is to be overweight so-to-speak. I don't know if this applies today, though, just something I remember hearing when a similar question was asked.\n\nAs far as shallow, I think that's being a little hypocritical. If I posted a personals ad with "I'm an overweight, balding man in my 40s who makes $7.50hr and lives with my mom", how many women would be interested and want to find out more? You're attracted to what you think is attractive, not what you think you *should* be attracted to, if that makes any sense. I've met many great women that I just wasn't attracted to, not because I didn't take the chance to get to know them, but because it just wasn't there. \n\nJohn
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I'd rather have the in shape guy. I'm not emphasizing good looking, that would be great but isn't mandatory. HOWEVER, if I'm investing enough of myself and time into someone that I have sex with them? I want them to stick around for awhile. Penis size seems irrelevant if you have to be air lifted from your bed for emergency surgery after that heart attack. Someone that fat literally lives on their deathbed, usually with clogged arteries, gout, or diabetes.No thanks.
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Image is really a state of mind. Not all men are into skinny girls.  Getting in shape will help in many ways, health-wise and more stamina in the bedroom is always good.  But if you have a negative self image, you need to learn to accept yourself first.  \n\nTo be sexier for your man, you need to act the part and believe in yourself.  Try some sexy lingerie too. Something about heels men are just just go ga-ga for.
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It shouldnt be down to the size, it should be what you feel about that person, You and many other males in this world bang on about big women, stating that they are easy lays and that they are up for anything that goes, but how many women do you hear making remarks about a blokes size, whether it be in their pants or just general body size, not many, so why not the male gender take a leaf out of the ladies book and stop being so cruel to women with uncalled for remarks and start being a bit more respectful,
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It works both ways. When I was young & thin I had plenty of big women accusing me of being a slut & everything else bad when I did not even date! At one time I was dating someone & they quit seeing me to go out with some big girl just because she would sleep around & I wouldn't!   \nAnd what size you are has nothing to do with how loving you are toward your partner. Jerks come in all sizes, big & small.  And face it: Some peopel are not going to like you no matter how you look.\n\nThe majority of people that have weight problems do not have have them BECAUSE of medical problems---they have medical problems because of weight problems. I am not near as thin as I would like to be & I never will be but this does not mean that I sit on my butt all day making the problem worse. At least I try!   \n\nIt seems like you need to try to work on that & your self-esteem!
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Hi David, I don't think your weight is the problem. You sound like a really decent guy but I do think you have a self-confidence issue and by telling yourself that your weight 'problem' is stopping you getting girls, it could be that you attitude on yourself if stopping you getting them.  No one wants to go out with someone who they feel NEEDS to be constantly told they look ok (but I can tell you now-you look fine to me!)and overall, most girls I know (the ones who have the most successful relationships...) dont have hot sexy guys, they have average Joes who treat them like princesses!  If a girl didnt want to go out with you because of your weight then shes not worth it-the shallow cow!  What would make her think shes so perfect to be worthy of YOU?! :-) Another good hint is dont always go for the girls who look the best either, go for the ones you get on with, make you laugh, make you FEEL sexy!!!  I really hope you find her, you sound like a genuinely nice guy.
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He has a weak character. I think it's probably virtually impossible for him to compromise. I know guys like that. BUT there are probably some other guys out there who would be so into being close to you, they would not care if you are fat... and some who think you're sexy as you are. Find them instead, and let this guy feel your absence and hurt about it a bit. Maybe he'd learn something valuable.
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Hey, don't try so hard to find a guy.  And no matter what weight you are, you are beautiful.  Believe that, no matter what!  You don't have to be skinny to be beautiful.  I mean, I think Queen Latifah is gorgeous and Nicole Richie is...well, never mind.  Just be your fun, sparkling self.  Hang out with friends and family.  People who make you feel good.  Eventually, a man will see that you don't need a man to make you feel good about yourself and will love both your outer and inner package.  And those are the ones worth having.  But those guys take time to find.  And all girls have a hard time finding that.  Even the skinny ones.
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I don't know why people are so weight obsessed. If you get to know someone really well it won't matter any more. \n\nFor the record, I'm a size 0 blond and the guys aren't all over me. Instead idiots decide to say how anorexic I am (which I'm not). That makes me mad.\n\nPeople just care too much about appearances, and it hurts. No matter if you're skinny or overweight, people are still going to be slightly judge mental of you because of that. All in all, people can be idiots. :)
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let me tell ya....ok i have a problem w/ weight too. i jus dont care wat ppl care most of the time....but sometimes i do. but u dont have to change for someone else if you do..do it for your self. and you could be big and beautiful. beautiful comes in every size and if you have to change to make someone like you they are not very good ppl are they? they will except you for who you are. so dint worry about it. ok hope this helps.....bye and good luck
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You are too crude!   you make me laugh...\n\n50lbs on an anorexic really can't be 'fat' as you call it...\nbut yeah, dump her..........
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Many times, when 1 person in a relationship is overweight, it is not what the "thin" person thinks as what the overweight person thinks about themselves. If someone is not happy with their physical appearance it shows in their actions. The way they dress, how they act in bed, and in public. \nIf that is not the trouble, it could be many things. Some people would never admit that the relationship is in trouble because of a weight issue. Unless your husband is a very honest person he might not come out and say, hey..it's because you've gained a few pounds. Lack of sex can be a sign of depression, general disinterest, or even an affair. \nI suggest you seek marriage counseling.
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im 5'6 and i weigh 110 lbs. ive always been a little underweight.. id definitely like to put on a few lbs.. but not necessarily get fat.. id rather gain weight bc of muscle. i dont know of any woman who actually wants to become fat. i think we all want to become stronger and leaner!
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I'm a BIG GUY!\n\nAnd I Bullsh*t you not, but I've never had a compliant from any woman I have gave the business tooo....\n\nAlso, I am upset that ppl think Fat guys go small d*cks!\n\n(My is thick and long)
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Oh........you sound like you could be my soul mate! 106 lbs of pure lovely.....dammmm, I hope you are a woman. Will you marry me? If you are male...disregard!
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Yes. This is a hard question to ask. Now you made me even more confused lol. Let me tell you a story. I have this beautiful Asian Girl friend. She is very cute but she is short and a bit chubby that even make her look shorter. She is trying her best to get fit. I still love her but I feel that the rumor that men usually lose interest to the face and start thinking about the body is true :(
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Hi there!  I am 27 and I totally know what you mean.  I was with my husband for 5 years and he only saw me naked a couple of times.  I TRULY believe that when you find someone you trust and love you will be able to get past that.  When you meet that special someone you will know that they love you for you...not the couple extra pounds you carry around.  We are our own worst critic and many men would kill to see us naked!!  But I think is is completely based on trust and love that you feel in a relationship.  I hope you find that special someone that makes you feel safe :)