U were raised in the church your mom an ex preacher your boyfriend of 10 months is a preacher your dad never cared for church and  half of your friends arent n church well now u boyfriend says dat u are putting your friends first but u dont ever see u friends like u use and u see him more than u see them if any thing u feel as if u were puttin him up front is he jelous or does he want to be first? Note he's very ensecure and he knows it.
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Miz J, You hit it on a nail . I truly get peaved when they try to chnage our lives around slowly until they have us just the way they want us. Im having second thoughts after a 4 year engagement for this same type of reason!
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If you dont belive in self how are you going to have anything better then just the friends relationship. Of not being worthy or not is not for your decision. \nYou have to defined between the two what is there between you two. Is there a spark ? Have you slept together ? Does he take care of your daughter. \n\nHe might be just looking for a company or providing you care and affection and does not intend or think about you as a girlfriend. \n\nYou will need to sit and discuss and if there is nothing that he has in for you, you will have to stop going to his place. \nIf you are giving him more without him asking for it why will he commit.\nStop going to his place for a week, dont meet him or so see him. If he calls you back then you have him else he was never yours. \n\nThink positive and stop being negative as negative thoughts about yourself will take you nowhere. Try to see beyond.. \n\nSmile always
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there is always a thin line and a very weak one actually that could be badly broken when we do intimate encounters with people that at first failed to be honest with us in terms of how his or her personal life is....for the start that Jesus didn't told you that he was with someone at first makes him someone "hard to trust" since hey he might do this same situation with another girl if he is with you...but, that is a point that you have to discuss with him that you might, maybe, perhaps could be with him if he can be trust worthy enough in his actions with you as "friends" FIRST....if there is people making you feel like you were the cause of the broken relationship of Jesus with his girlfriend, be sure that that is FALSE, since it was Jesus and Jesus's actions that put off tracks his relationship, so don't feel guilty and too much worried about it, of course always keep your self steem high and up front, because well people loves to talk to much.....in the case for Daniel, you might then to look ways without been to pushy into showing him that you are trust worthy and a good intentioned girl, look for small moments where you can ask him looking into his eyes "how are you doing?" and give him a warm smile so he can see that you care for his wellbeing, don't panic if he is not so sweet responding, it will take a while until he can see that you are a really good girl for him to be with, just be clear that if he is not then responding as you hope, don't feel let out, guys are quite complicated when they are studying a girl...the important thing here is that you know yourself best and your actions, be wise and loving to you first that the rest will come along... Good Luck
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No it shouldn't affect your friendship. We all have different beliefs and faith, but God said love one another as you love yourselves. There's no need to be affected by different religions after all aren't we all worshiping one God, only in different ways and in different name? If they're dropping you because of their religion then I guess they are not mature people and their faith in God is not that strong. Just pray for them and try to understand them, I think you're more mature than them. Don't drop them as your friends and don't even consider dropping your church for them. Just let things be as they are, no need to change. Just be sure to be there for them when they need you, then they will know that you are a true friend. God bless.
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He is a shy guy and you are is second girlfriend. Give him time to be comftable around you. He is probably nervous that you will not like him. I am shy too, but after a while I'll trust and feel comftable around guys I meet. \n\nBut I don't get the part of his friends following him when he was following you.
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It is possible that your parents are judging him before they have a chance to get to know him better but there is also a huge chance that they are correct about him too. The word white trash is a terrible word to use no matter what it is they see in him when explaining to you why they don't care for him. It would have been better for you if they explained exactly why they don't like him. Remember, they are your parents and parents want the best for their children.  At your age and I remember it well, i felt my feelings for my boyfriend, at the time, were so strong that nothing would change it, not my mom or anyone else but my feelings did change and the advice my mother gave me was pretty accurate even though i didn't want to believe it. I continued to date his guy for six years, from fifteen to nineteen. We broke up my first year in college. I changed but for the better. One thing i learned was you can't change any one.  When i started dating again I met men who were closest to the things i like or admired. For all you know the mistake you think you made could be the best thing you have ever done even though it doesn't feel that way right now.  You have many years to find the right guy or one you don't have to change. Your parents might say things to you that will encourage you to do the complete opposite of what they want but parents do have an advantage over their children, experience.
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You're friend may be jelouse so what I would do is believe your boyfriend. If he care about you then he wouldn't be lieing to you.
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God doesn't put you through these trials, honey.  God loves you much more than you could ever imagine.  God has given each of us free will, the will to choose what to do, say, etcetera.  He gave it to us out of His love for us, and He will never take that away.  However, because we each have free will, we make decisions to do and say things that hurt others.  Your boyfriend breaking up with you and not wanting your friendship is his decision, not God's.  God doesn't like to see His children hurt and in pain.  But because of free will, we do get hurt.  Suffering is caused by others, not by God.  Like I said, He loves you much more than that.  He cares about who you are, what you want to be, how you feel.  I come from a harsh background myself: my father was a raging drunk and an alcoholic who physically and verbally abused me when I was growing up.  My friends laughed at me when I tried to tell them; they didn't think my dad was capable of such things.  My parents divorced when I was seven, and my mom lived half an hour away.  I rarely saw her.  I felt I had nowhere to turn, noone to turn to for comfort.  So, at sixteen, I took seventeen prescription pills in an attempt to kill myself.  I felt I could no longer live with the tears and the bruises and a shattered heart.  Luckily, my mother found me and I spent three days in the hospital.  During those days, I came to know God in a very real way.  He showed me that He loves me, and cares about me.  I couldn't describe how wonderful that felt.  All my life I felt unloved and unwanted, yet all along, the God of the universe loved me beyond my comprehension, and wants to know me.  He allowed my suffering to happen, but it wasn't because He wanted me to suffer and hurt.  It was because my suffering was at the hands of my father, who chose to drink, chose to hurt me.  God loves you beyond your wildest dreams, honey.  He would never intentionally put you through anything that would cause you to hurt.  It happens because of other people, not because of God.  I hope this helps; I know it's kind of long.
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GIRL I CAN FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE...LET ME LET YOU IN ON A LITTLE SECRET HE IS UNHAPPY IN HIS LIFE AND  HAS NO LIFE OF HIS ON HIS OWN.. AND SINCE HE IS  NOT H-A-P-P-Y... HE  DO NOT WANT TO SEE Y-O-U.. HAPPY...SO THIS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO ACT LIKE  THIS DOESN'T BOTHER YOU KEEP YOUR CHRIST AND THAT GOOD BOOK  IN YOUR  LIFE AND I PROMIS YOU..HE'LL (GOD) WILL SEND THAT GOD FEARING MAN..LET SAY THIS AGAIN..A GOD FEARING NOT MAN FEARING MAN..,.SMILE BECAUSE BEEN THERE  GOT OVER THAT ........ OYA THAT SO CALL FRIEND THAT STOP TALKING TO YOU CAUSE DUDE SAID SO.. WAS NOT YOUR FRIEND FROM WHAT I'VE READ....TAKE A  STEP BACK A LOOK FOR YOURSELF GIRL..TRUST ME HE (GOD FEARING MAN )IS ON HIS WAY.
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Well here is what it means.....the  preacher got your friend pregnant....thus you where crying because the preacher played you. Sooo then you went to pick up hubby in the morning and his friend told him Shhh...don't tell her....but what you didn't hear was "don't tell her that it was ME that got her friend pregnant!\nJust my take...I could be wrong LOL
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most likely it's social pressures.\n\nyou see, people act differently when they're around different people.  i'm sure you act differently when you're with your friends than when you're with your parents.  if you were with your friends in front of your parents, you would most likely feel inhibited somehow, because you wouldn't feel comfortable opening up.\n\nThat is most likely what he is feeling when he is with his friends and sees you.  he feels inhibited (because he might be teased maybe?) and a bit uncomfortable with the situation.\n\nnow i'll betcha, if you get him alone, you won't get the same reaction.
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What difference does it make?  Does it impact his relationship to you?  No...so you are just being nosey.  Many people view their religion as a personal experience and have no desire to share it with others.  Respect his privacy.
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Your relationship with God is personal just like his is. Your actions might win him over just give it time and keep the communication between you open and honest.
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I'm about your boyfriend's age, and I lost my mother last year.  If my experience has any relevance here, I felt somewhat sad on Mother's Day.  But more than that, I felt *strange*.  I would always call my mother, send her a card or gift, and so forth, and of course I couldn't do that.  I felt left out of all the Mother's Day talk.  After all these years, I was an outsider.\n\nOne thing you don't mention is whether your boyfriend has any chlldren of his own.  If he does, and if they make a fuss over him because he is their dad, that should help quite a bit.\n\nYou are a kind and supportive girlfriend to be thinking of your boyfriend's dad this weekend.  I think he is lucky to have you.
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okay its easy, parents are parents, and no matter what, no matter how it is, parents are always right.. you see, i met this guy.. and he's...not all there, kinda crazy, kinda.. just you know, not there.. and we ended up dating, i thought he was just perfect, blue and black hair... just. you know a babe? im into.. kinda crazy guys,  he was telling me within a month of our relationship that he didnt want to live, and he cut himself and all this..and i ended up getting really down, he told me not to tell anyone, but i told my mother because i thought it was the best,  and she was like nuh oh no way.. and like totally freaked out on me for being with him if he was like that.. i dont even think he believes in god..well he ended up finding it out from someone, and was really upset, i asked him why.. and he said i knew why.. and i told him i did what i thought was best, and that i cared for him.. he ended up calling me all these...few choice words, telling me..few choice things.. and we ended up breaking up...now im with this really nice guy... and everything is working out, just perfectly..and guess what? my mother loves him..but what im saying... is maybe you can talk your parents into it.... maybe like invite him over for dinner and you guys can eat as a family. and it would give your parents an idea to get to know him more, and see what a great guy he really is. or in my case, maybe theres someone better for you..  best of luck.
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No! What next blinders! So, you can't see anyone. He's going to get controling. Insecure. Tell him to Get over it. That is if you value your own friends and family.
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since there probably are, would you not be their friend because they were? \nwhat does it matter what they are? \nyou should only worry about yourself. how would you feel that somebody was more wrapped up in your religion and your hertatige than the fact that you may be pretty, for example, and you may have very good relationship ethics.\nim not trying to be mean, by any means. i would just like you to know by singeling out someone (BTW im not saying you are, ok?) because of their religion or race may limit you on a very good friend or more.\ntake a step back and look at how they portray themselvs as an individual not a black, gay, jew.\ni am currently dating a guy that i have been dating for a year~ he has had a problem with homophobia in the past~ he would have never started dating me if he ever knew i had a 3some once, now he loves me and has asked me to marry him. the moral of that was that he had a revelation that i was not bad or a bad person because i was open to it or that i had done it. if he would have judged me before knowing me we would never have the relationship we have now.\nBTW im streight, white, female and 25 years old and i dont hold anything anybody else does against them. im the one that makes the choices in my life, what others do with their life is up to them. \ni was just trying to enlighten anybody else who might read this also, that just try to be as open minded as possible you never know what you might miss out on in your life.