..continually threatens to use this history to keep me from my son. The "crime" hurt noone, I was used as a pawn in a money-laundering scam & did not know it till I was well into trouble. I am now serving time & will be home to my son hopefully early 2007. My wife & I would have split sooner, but the sentencing has put a lein on our assetts. She insists I have had an affair- which I have not. I basically live for my son, he is only two, he is my life. Can she take him from me purely based on false accusations, her irrational anger & my "criminal" record?? What are my rights as a loving father?? I fear losing him, I don't have much money to do battle in court. I need to fight this one on my own I'm and trying to do as much research as possible. Can anyone help me???   Signed... Anguished.....
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It will have nothing to do with your background if that was some time ago. As long as it wasn't a sex crime or murder I really can't see what this would matter. Maybe you both need to seek help for your problems..........................
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Your wife caught you and her mother together, and that is why she took her life.  Don't you think you've provide enough uproar in your children's lives?  Do you really need to keep going down this road and make sure that your children are never able to have a happy home life and relationship of their own?  Do you really feel the need to make sure that your children spend the rest of their lives in therapy?  \nYou will never be a family again, their mother took her life as a result of your actions, she was their mother, and can not be replaced by their grandmother.  And subjecting them to the sick twisted relationship that you've gotten yourself involved in is not helping them.\nPersonally I hope someone in the family that you are now banished from, plucks up the idea of taking you to court and prove you an unfit parent and get those children away from you.  Your not mentally sound if you really truly believe that your wife has forgiven you.
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You have the right to know!! It's pertaining to you right? Beside all criminal histories are public!\nSend a requestto the courts or to the District Attorney who representd the presidings
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I would have him investigated. Seriously talk to people who really know him. Maybe he's just trying to ease his guilt of being a deadbeat dad for 7 yrs. What ever his intentions are he is not doing it for your child. I've never seen a child that could not sense good intentions in an adult, they are very perceptive. Your right in being concerned. Talk to your attorney. about keeping him away...and I would not put his name on her  birth certificate. That is something she will have her whole life. Doesn't sound like she would like to see his name anywhere near hers.
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I have read another of your questions that was quickly removed about this guy.\n\nIt is funny where you have placed this question, in Law and Ethics which are the 2 things you certainly do not have on your side.\n\nLooking at what is happening, also from the question that was deleted, you will find yourself in very hot water should the father get his hands on these questions, especially the one that was deleted.\n\nIt looks like you just want to hear what you want based on your choices of best answer but I can tell you categorically as I have an extensive legal background, that you cannot force this guy to stay away and what you are doing could amount to slander and action being taken against you?\n\nI only say this because if he finds out you will find yourself at the mercy of his solicitors with the information you have posted, as I have had the fortune to have before in mine while defending a similar case.\n\nTake my advice and speak to no one other than a solicitor regarding this.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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I have known other people in similar situations as you are in. One close friend was accused of molesting his daughter by his ex wife. She reported him a few hours after a custody hearing in which she lost.  The child said her father never touched her, the ex and prosicutors convinced a jury the child denied the abuse because she was afraid of the father. He is still in prison for a crime the victim said never happened.  The child is no little kid eather, she was a teen. \n\nPeople need to realize just how false accusations not only hurt the accused but the children too. I wish Americans would wake up and see this sort of thing happens all the time.\n\nThis makes me wonder just how many innocent people are in jail. These people are not going to get freed by DNA testing because there is none. Part of the reason why I became a civil rights activist.\n\nI think CPS has become a tool of the devil and is used to take control of our children. If you can control what the children think you can take over a country. Just look at how uneducated our society is today on Constitutional rights? Your situation is a prime example of many constitutional violations yet we as a society continue to allow it.  Why?\n\nI am sorry I can't give you an answer to quickly solve your problem. The only advice I can give is lots of prayer(and it works no matter what your religous beliefs are) and get a good attorney with experience in these types of cases.
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I am so sorry for you! I am not experiencing the same, but my daughter has to have visitations with her father. He has threatened to kidnap her, so I'm always worrying about it. Also my child is 4 and has told me that her father touches and hurts her peepee. I've contacted several different agencies, lawyers, docs etc. Nothing is being done! I feel the frustration that you are going thru!The judge actually granted extra time on visits and went to unsupervised visits b/c evidence was inconclusive.I was told that if my ex was to run off with my daughter there was really nothing that I could do, even though I also have full custody. Why? Because he is the child's rightful parent too, and is allowed visitation. HUH??? I swear that is what they told me. But yet if I refuse to give my daughter over to him for his visits I will be arrested for kidnapping! ?????What a world we live in! Give me an email sometime. I'd like to stay in touch with you even if it's just to offer support. I hate to mention it but have you tried all the hosp. in the area that you last knew them to be? How about tracking them down via Yahoo White pages? Do you know of any family or friends that she might take your daughter to. Maybe you could contact them or go see them face-to-face. I don't know your financial sit. but hiring a private investigator might help. Have you posted their pics at police stations? They can fax it to others nationwide. Offer a reward. And above all else don't give up until you know for sure. And PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!I will pray for you right now! God be with you! The answer about checking with schools is great. When you move to a new school the old school has to contacted and then they send info and should keep this on record. Maybe if she was in a Headstart program or a preschool program like pre-K you might be able to get some info thru them. As her biological father, you have the right to request that info and they cannot deny you it.Amy
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Listen very closely to what I'm telling you.  It's good advice.\n\nFirst, if your soon to be ex-husband is having dangerous affairs, if his lifestyle puts your children at risk, you could go to the CPS (Child Protective Services).\n\nDo you belong to a church?  Make an appointment during the week to tell a priest what is happening. He may know someone in the system who can help you.  Don't overlook this resource.\n\nWhen it comes to the justice system, forget about what is the truth, and what is right or wrong.  Lawyers are often working in their own self interest.  Everyone involved in the case is apt to make decisions based on what is easiest for them.  No one is going to risk their careers for you.\n\nIf you have accusations to make, you must be certain they can be substantiated:  names, dates, places, etc.  Do you have witnesses?  Will they testify under oath?  Will they sign a document certifying what they say is true?   There are RULES OF EVIDENCE, and judges will sometimes even forbid a person from making statements he considers irrelevant.\n\nRemember... people are going to do WHAT IS EASIEST for them.  If they're acting against you, stop making it so easy for them to ignore the truth.  Everyone has a boss.  You can always take this one step higher.\n\nI noticed you misspelled a few words.  Are you from this country?  Do you live here legally?  Do you have an education and can you support these children?  All these are very important factors that a judge will consider.\n\nThink very carefully before you act.  If your husband is actually a decent man, and could care better for the children, make the unselfish decision not to oppose him.\n\nBest of luck.
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Sounds like the only one creating issues here is the ex. She is trying to control your life, if you let her do that now it only unleashes her to have control dangling your son as the means to keep you doing what she wants. That relationship is over. DO NOT GIVE HER ANY CONTROL. She cannot keep your son from you. Hire an attorney and through the courts establish a visitation schedule. If she goes against it she will be in contempt of court and could possibly face jail time. As for your current girl, be completely honest with her about whats going on, be prepared for angry outburst. She loves you and will be angry about the threat that the ex has made. Communicate and come up with a game plan, the attorney, court, visistation etc. If you cannot afford an atty. contact the legal aide services in your area, they will provide you with one sometimes for free but most likely a fee in accordance to your income. Unless the child is endangered under the care of his mother, you should not take custody away from her. A child needs both parents and this traumatic event may scar him for life. Instead keep your cool, no matter what, let the ex be the dramtic physcho, do things according to the law. Pay your child support and follow any guidance the judge imposes and it will serve you well. Again it is important to maintain a calm composure, air out your frustrations with friends. When you have your son for a visitation, keep it positive, loving, and within a secure comfortable surrounding. The important thing here is that you are happy and being a positive role model for your son. So if this girl you want to marry makes you happy, go for it. Do not let the ex know your intentions it is none of her business. When you apply for a joint custody hearing she'll find out through the papers she recieves. I would have as little contact or communication with the ex as possible. You can also set up to have a chaperoned drop off sight when you pick up and drop off your son. If teh ex wants to act this way let her suffer the consequence for behaving like an immature person. For future reference, check the legal age at which your son is allowed to declare which parent he wants to reside with, in my state it is 12 yrs old. If you handle this right your son may feel more comfortable with you than with his mother and when he is of age you can ask him if he'd like to talk to the judge about living with you. One more important word of advise, NEVER badtalk his mother to him. Regardless of how you feel, that is his mother. A child will become confused and be mentally and emotionally damaged when the parents bad mouth each other. If the ex bad mouths you, there is nothing you can do for it, but again be the bigger person. Your son will learn from the experience and determine his own opinion of each of you by the relationship he has with you both. Be strong, you've certainly a rocky road ahead of you, but it will be worth it in the end if you do things this way. Good luck to you.
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Sorry,  you have admitted in your statement that you committed forgery. \n\nYou should NEVER EVER sign any ones name except your own! (esp. on financial or legal documents) You did not have to, you could/should have made the purchases/withdrawals using your signature (yes, even with her card).  \n\nFrom your statement you do have an available defense but it is a very difficult one. You will have to show that she was an instigator and accomplice by instructing/permitting you to commit your crimes. In this way she is no longer a victim and may find herself charged for maliciously reporting your actions.\n\nUsually i NEVER advise retaining an attorney but, your case is an exception. DO NOT just retain any lawyer find one that is truly inspired/interested in your matter and has been taken advantage of by a manipulative partner like you (divorced). Most importantly ensure they have no connection to this woman in any way. US lawyers work on political biases and double standards (the equitablility of US courts is a complete lie).\n\nEDIT 11/11/06\n\nI apologize for my momentary laps of sanity i was under the influence of alcohol and tobacco. Therefore i rescind my advice of retaining a worse than criminal alien butt-sucking assimilated mutant double agent of the "court". Your ONLY chance is to defend yourself with the truth not a liar.
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If he has shown no repentance you can seperate yourself from him for a while. But if you have no proof you need to be very careful. If you suspect he has done this there are probably other deceitful things going on as well that feed the suspicion. If he has not admitted it you need to focus more on the things that you do know and search yourself for you wrongdoings as well. Ask him if you have wronged him in a way that has made him pull away from you. I highly suggest the book "love and respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. This book has been a marriage saver for many. \n\nIf in fact your husband has been outside of the marriage you have the right to divorce. But Jesus wants us to try to make it work anyway. If we can show forgiveness in that sort of situation then we can begin to understand the forgiveness he has for us.\n\nAre there children involved? You kids are learning how to treat people and handle situations based on how you and your husband do these things. Pretend for a moment that your daughter was in the situation you are in now. What would you advise her to do? Or maybe even pretend that your daughter in law came to you with the suspicion that your son was cheating on her. What would you advice your daughter inlaw do do about your son? Looking at it like this helps put things in perspective. \n\nAlso the most important thing to do is PRAY. Ask God for guidance. Try to pray with your husband. I will pray for you now.\n\nDear Heavenly Father,\n\nLord I bring this situation to you in humble prayer and inquisition. May you shine a light here in the darkness. May you guide this woman on what to do. Let her hear your words and obey. I pray that you convict her husband and bring him to repentance. May this couple see the significance their marriage has. And how marriage is a holy union to represent the Christ/Church relationship. May you wipe away the tears and give strength here. Lord let us remember the forgiveness you have as well as the wrath. Bless this womans search and may her efforts be pleasing in your sight. In Jesus's name. Amen
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if i remember correctly after reading this and all of the answers \nthis young gentleman was asking the following...\n"I'm a soon-to-be father"\n"Our cultural diferences have forced us to split up"\n"i was exploring options including abortion" Its not a crime to talk about abortion.... comon people\n"i attempted to gain a foothold in my child's life"\n"my baby's mother disagreed"\n"she doesent want me to have anything to do with the child"\n"she also stated that she doesent plan to seek child support from me"\n\n\nSounds to me like the mother has made it pretty obvious that things are OVER, while that situation might change... it was the mother that had told the willingly supportive father that she doesent want him to have anything to do with the child, nor does she want his money.\nIt sickens me to hear all of the responses of "GROW UP" and "Act your age" etc, its pretty clear to me that he was acting his age and was attempting to be a good father but unforseeable circumstances prevented it.\n\nNow your looking for a document that legaly binds your agreement? \ncontact the Human Services Department in your area and ask them about this same question and let them know your situation. \ni dont have an answer for you and i appoligize, i just saw all the negative responses to a legitimate question.\n\nI personaly do not condone in any way a negligent parent or one skimping on their duties, but from the sounds of things the other half made it quite clear that she doesent wish for you to be a father, even after you had tried.\n\ntoo sum it all up your just looking for a document that you both can sign that makes sure she wont turn around after saying she doesent want anything, and demand support?
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I agree with you 100%! I am so sorry for what you are going through but I am heartbroken that she is using the kids like that. She not only ruined her marriage but she is destrying her children. If this is any consolation to you, your children will end up hating her for what she is doing and one day they will turn on her for that. I am sure that doesn't make you feel better because you don't sound vendictive at all, and I am sure you don't want your children to hate her. But in all honesty, that will happen. I have seen it happen quite a lot. \nTry a mediator.Document everything! Tape phone calls if you have to cover yourself. Communicate with her in writing, so everything is documented. Reassure your children of your love and do not resort to her ways. Give your children and extra hug when you see them and find a good attorney to help maitain your visits with your children. Be the better person out of this because you are right, the law does seem to side with the mother more often, so you, unfortunately will have to work even harder.\nI am a female, married with a wonderful son and I have made mention to this abuse by women over and over. There are some women who live through hell and back and deserve to fight tooth and nail for what they deserve and then you get these type of women who abuse the system because they feel they can.\n(I don't know the whole story and I am only going by what you said, truly there are two sides of every story.)\nGood luck to you and your new marriage. And keep in mind, she is jealous, that even though she cheated on you, you moved on and are happy now. She thought you would fall apart. That's why she is acting that way. \nBe there for your children, they should be the main concern.
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That's absolutly terrible!  I think you need to get a better lawyer.  2 1/2 years is ridiculous.  He needs to stop playing around, and get this resolved for you so you can get closure and begin to heal.  Check out this link below it's for the National Organization for Victims Assistance they promote the rights of victims of crime and crisis everywhere.  I know it sounds superheroish but they should be able to help or at the very least point you in the right direction.  If you just need to talk to someone, the churches in your city, any denomination, can help.  They are always willing.  Good luck!
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Good luck, maybe you could talk to Social Services about being scared about the childrens safety. For the sack on your family don't let them know it was you that reported it.\n\nDoes your wife want to stay in contact with her brother?  If she doesn't just tell him not to contact you. I hate to say it, but out of site out of mind. You can't be charged with anything that you didn't know anything about.\n\nI know someone that has the same kind of problem. He attemped to rape a girl in High School. After 7 years he got out of prison, but he still had the mind of an 18 year old. I think the prison needs to do more then just let there brains roit in prison. His sister just doesn't have much to do with him now. He is in another state too. Distance helps.
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I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope this helps. There a number of web sites dedicated to single dads with and without custody . they offer advise,emotional support and services and links to financial help for getting your support problems fixed or dissolved. I understand this so well, my ex has been stealing support from me the last 4 years and both my sons live with me due to his harsh abuse. The court has refused to acknowledge this fact allowing this theft to continue. Like you I have limited resources so fighting the Attorney General is not an option for me but I know that what comes around goes around. Hang in there and Bless you.