There's going to be a small get together. I am single and live at home with my parents - do i pretend to be engaged and living elsewhere to save face?
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No - tell the truth about yourself. There is no shame in your situation. Everyone has their own story and if they are happy with who they are, or are striving to better themselves for whatever reason, then that is their truth. Lying will only make you feel worse about who you are, not better.
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My first question is if you two are together and have a kid then why are you making seperate plans?  You need to figure out if you're staying together or not, first off.  Then you can think about other things, like moving.  Also, if there is s baby involved, it's probably better that you don't have roomates other than the two of you.  It's also better to stay close to family if you have such a young baby.  It will help with babysitting and your child will have some sort of family around that way.  Do what's best for you and your child.  Don't worry about your BF because he doesn't understand that your child needs to come first.  Enjoy your little baby , take good care of him/her and good luck.
199004
Since you hang out at her house so much they already know. If they have any questions they will ask you. You can always just say I am hanging out with ________. We're sort of going together. That is the truth.
214680
Hi Mr. Beaner,\n\nWhy don't you ask her out to a movie? Or if your parents permit friends to come over you can ask her and a couple of other friends to come over and watch a movie and eat pizza.\n\nJust make sure there are equal girls to boys. If your parents ask why you want to have a small get together, tell them you are trying to strengthen some friendships outside the school environment. Just make sure you do not invite too many kids because parents have to pay for this stuff. And as your parent's have probably told you "money does not grow on trees" \n\nIf your mom objects to cost- ask her if she can purchase a couple of frozen pizzas.\n\nIf your mom objects to inconvenience- ask her if you can just drop you and lady love off to the movies then\n\nIf your mom objects to seeing a girl at your age- tell her she is just a friend who is in your band class
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I agree with the first two gals.  Have a neighbor keep an eye on the house and you can call to check on him.  Make sure to set the ground rules before you go because I remember when I was 17 and my parents went out of town I was ready to do some hard partying.  Keep in mind that is highly likely with a 17 year old.\n\nGood luck!  :)
395729
Have a little party outside your house and have a bar0b0que with family and friends and afterwards...invite only girls....to have a sleepover :)
673104
I know this is boring but....SAVE IT!  Life is a rollercoaster, you never know when you will need that money. Or save half of it, if you just cant help yourself. Get some friends together and have a night out on the town, or a small party in your new place.
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Dont worry - you could be thirty and living by yourself and they will still treat you like you are 12. Thats something parents do :)\nDont worry - move out when you can and move on. Love and respect your parents but sooner or later, you need to take responsibility for your life
165035
Empty the house (if you dont live alone) and spend a romantic evening in
637108
Perhaps you could ask her indirectly. Carefully crafted words are the key here to achieving your desired goal.....having a boyfriend. Okay, step 1) find a time when you and your mother are relaxing, no phones, dinner is finished, house is clean. 2) Begin the conversation like this: "You know Mom, I am now ___ years old, and I was wondering if you would allow me to go to the movies with _____________. I know you have not had an opportunity to meet ________, but I can invite him by the house on _________. He is a really nice guy. Now, if you do not have a boyfriend, and no prospects, then I would suggest that you address your mother in this manner: Mom, I have really matured over the last year and I would like to respectfully request permission from you to go on a date occassionally with a carefully selected boy that I will bring home first for you to meet.  Don't be shy about it. Be assertive, without being pushy. Tell her what your heart desires, and do it in a kind, courteous, confident and mature manner. The way you approach this request to have a boyfriend is important. You have to let your mother know that you are ready for this big step in your young teenage life. \nNow, be honest in your evaluation of yourself here okay? Think! Really think here! And answer my question truthfully! Question: Have you been on your best behavior over the last year? Have you done everything that has been asked of you by your mother? Have you gotten into any serious trouble lately? Did you make good grades and behave appropriately in school? These questions are important, because if you have been cutting up and acting like a trifling little hoochie mama, it is highly likely that your mother will say no. But if you have been a perfect angel, and behaved appropriately over the last year, then I dont see any reason that your mother will not agree to your terms. Also, let her know that any boy you meet, you will bring them home to meet her, and your curfew is 9p.m. weeknights and 10:30 on weekends. Or, if your curfew is later than this, use your current curfew. Well, I hope this helps. Best wishes to you. And have fun.
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I think that you and your fiance should do what ya'll are comfortable with.  This is not your parents wedding, it's yours.  And you (hopefully) only have one in your lifetime.  If ya'll both want a big wedding, then by all means, have a big wedding.  If ya'll want a small one, have a small one.  There are pros and cons to each.\n\nA large wedding, as you've found out, takes a lot of planning.  While it can be the event for people to remember, or a way to show off, it is oftentimes EXTREMELY stressing (which is the last thing you want on your wedding day!)  Large weddings are also very costly.  You should think of how you would use the money that you would save by having a smaller wedding, perhaps a down-payment on a house, new furniture, or put it into a retirement savings account.  It's never too soon to plan these things!  \n\nSmall weddings, while not exactly the party that'll go down in history, are oftentimes more intimate, and mean more to the people involved.  They are less stressful (for the most part), and can help shorten the engagement period.  They are also usually a lot less expensive than large weddings.\n\nMy advice would be to sit down with your fiance and plan the wedding of YA'LL's dreams, not your parents'.  This is an expression of ya'll's love towards each other.  It may also make your fiance uncomfortable if he/she believes that you will do what your parents ask, even if it's not what you want.
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I went on dates feeling like you do and to my surprise wound up falling hard?????????????????  What is the problem here?  You are getting out of the house!  Make the most of it.  If you go tomorrow thinking you won't have a good time, for sure you won't.  Why not go into this looking at it as having a night out and making the best of it.  How do YOU know you won't have a good time? You might just be surprised.  Also consider this.......when you are out there, you might just run into your real soulmate.  They can turn up in any place at any time, and when you least expect it.
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sure, do it in a private setting not in front of her or your friends. Just so no one is uncomfortable. Then start up a conversation and say I was wondering if you would like to go to a movie or hang wherever you hang. That should work.
535038
Since you have so many places to be and so many people to see, I suggest you guys use the whole week before xmas to celebrate. I would spend a couple of days with his father and wife and then a couple of days with his mother and her husband and then spend a couple of days with your parents. But make sure you are back at your home for Christmas day to celebrate each other. What a great way to spread holiday cheer and make everyone happy. This way no one can be mad about who you spending Christmas day with, since it will be with each other at home. I realize this is alot of running around but thats what the holidays are all about, the hustle and bustle. However, I would get married and a bigger place so you can have everyone over at your house and let them do the traveling.....Merry Christmas and Good Luck!!
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I personally think that if your not the type of person to sneak round then you shouldn't have a problem. Just point out that you have always been honest with them and that you don't want that to change but you think that you seriously need some for freedom. Take it slow, suggest being a loud out for parties or something or to just hang out with friends don't jump immediantly to dating but you might want to mention it. I got one of my friends to do this about a couple months ago and now she has a boyfriend and she goes out all the time, with her parents knowing too.
483572
Wait til you are ready. But I hope you are going out with your friends. Sometimes a girls night out is what you need.
295774
No just go with friends! You are too young, and besides it is way more fun if you are not tied down to one guy for the whole night.  Big groups are much more fun.