over sexed husband will not leave me alone im menopausal and low sex drive any advice please
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I have the same problem.  If you get an answer that works PLEASE SHARE!!  Did someone mention Women's Viagra??  Where can one get that and WHAT IS IT CALLED?
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Let me put somethings in perspective. When you work with a person for a long period of time there may be times were you get confused and think you are in love. These feelings are what i like to call sexual tension. Usually the best way to get rid of it is to just get it out of your system but he is married. So i would avoid that all. Your best bet is to go to the club or go out with other friends. The way its sitting now you may help yourself if you do take him away but your also destroying a family. Besides if seen this time and time again . A wife can be very very vengful worse than a man bar none. your best bet is go to vegas get all that tension out of your system and there is no better place than there to do it. but be safe wht ever you decide take a cruise or just get a nice long vacation somewhere and think about your desicions.
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He might be testing you to see what are your reaction when he calls u fr sex. Just refuse once and see his reaction. May be he is just using u.Generally when men call the ladies fr sex 10 out of 9 agree thats why many females fall into the trap. Do u get what you want from him when u oblige to his sex needs. If s then geat waht u want.Its for u to decide. If u still love ur husband then why did you divorce him in the first place.Defenitely you both did not know the others needs and after the divorce if he still calls u fr sex only then he is making use of u. So you have to be full in yourself only then you can handle a situation like this.You are not full because every time he calls u for sex you oblige this you are not fuul in yourself. So first understand youreslf ans ask what you want.then u wiil acheive ur goal.
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Well... tell you what, if the gf's are not a good sub, then go out to a toy store and get a best friend, there are alot of toys that will do the trick if you miss him sexually.   If you are just missing his company then consider getting a puppy.  They really work!  I am a single mom of two and my puppy takes my mind off things, feeling lonely and so on.\n\n If your hubby is working hard to provide you and your future family with a comfortable life, be grateful!   He is not spending his time out there having an affair or partying with  his buddies and getting drunk and mistreating you.  He needs for you to be supportive.  I know it is hard sometimes, in some situations not to be selfish, we all want to be 100% happy but usually this spells out sacrifice.  Enjoy this "free time" on your own, once you start having children trust me...your whole world is going to be turned around in a 360.  Get a toy!  Get a dog!  Good luck in your marriage.  :)
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Tell him you love him, but don't want to have sex with him every single solitary day.  tell him if you are nothing more than sex to him then you'll just be moving on the a better man that knows how to treat you like you are more than a piece a of tail\n\n\nsorry to be so blunt and mean but I am dealing with a similar issue.
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Get a new job, and tell your husband, or find a good lawyer, and sue for sexual harrassment.
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Aside from the standard knee-jerk "eeewww" type reactions you received, there was some good advice given.\n\nI'll add my 2 cents.\n\nI doubt that your husband finds you boring in bed. My wife and I consider our swinging adventures to be extended foreplay, not a replacement or a "spicing up". By the way - 5 times a week! Your husband is my hero! :}\n\nThe very first thing you need to know is that just because you attend a swinger's event, there is NEVER any requirement that you participate in ANY type of sexual activity with ANYONE.\n\nThe golden rule in the swinger's world is that "No Means No", if you are asked to do anyuthing that makes you feel uncomfortable just say no, and almost everyone will thank you and drop it. If you get annoyed by someone who decides that if they pester you enough you will give in - immediately go to the host of th eparty and tell them - I'll guarantee that the annoyer will be warned to stay away from you and thrown out if he/she continues to annoy you.\n\nThe other thing you need to know about swinger's events is that you have to prepare yourself for sexually frank conversations - it is really quite ordinary for a near-total stranger to approach, engage you in conversation for a moment and then ask you what you like sexually. Don't be offended, they are simply trying to learn if your wants are compatible with theirs. \n\nIf you are uninterested, simply thank them and tell them you are not interested.\n\nNext. You and your husband need to have a LOT of discussion before and after the event. You need to develop code words and signals to let each other know that you are interested, that you are not interested, that you need to talk, and "HELP! GET ME OUT OF HERE!". As an example, one of the code phrases my wife and I use is "Hey I need a cigarette" - that means "I want to talk to you" and one of our rules is that when one of us uses that phrase - no matter what the other one is doing - we stop and go talk things over.\n\nYou will also need to develop non-verbal signals, you may be in a non-smoking environment for example, so "I need a cigarette" won't work, one of our non-verbal signals is a quick double squeeze which means "Let's talk".\n\nYou will need to include rule setting in your discussion.\n\nRules are CRITICAL for enjoyment and avoiding stress and jealousy.\n\nPlease review the articles on how to set and manage rules effectively located at:\nhttp://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1\n\nIf you cannot agree on rules, you are not ready to become swingers.\n\nGood luck, have fune and play safe!
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So you only married him for the sex ... how very shallow of you .... and I see you're very modest as well.\nMaybe it's your attitude thats causing him to falter ... the more you pressure him the les frequent you're gonna get it .... so sure divorce him and go find youself another stud until you wear him out .... \nMight do hubby good to be able to relax and not be pressured
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WHEN HE DONT WANT TO AVE SEX NO MORE
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Sounds like dementia. Maybe the husband needs to declare her incompotent and become her legal guardian and power of attorney if she is becoming too much for him to handle he should consider an assisted living or nursing home good luck
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Since i've never been unfaithful, i can't speak from experience. But, saying that, my ex-wife was unfaithful to me, alot. I big give away is lack of intimacy. If he doesn't want to touch you, there's something wrong. Strange phone calls that are secretive and at odd times. Does he have a good female "friend" or "mates" he often hangs out with, without you? Can you contact him at ALL times while he's away? Alot of mistrusting females i know check their man's mobile phone for odd calls and texts. Credit card statements for purchases is also a common one. I'm assuming you've talked to him about your concerns and he's denied all. You're still suspicious and don't quite trust him. A private detective could help if you're that concerned. I hope i've helped a little. :)
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4 years damn, well put on a sexy nighty and meet him at the door, if that doesn't work, talk to him about couples therapy or sex therapy.ohh another thought, if you aren't getting any from him most likely someone else is. ask him and tell him you would like to see some changes. maybe he wants you to show some initiative
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He is not talking to you because you are at work, he is married, and do not want other people to know and may be tell his wife. Obviously he just wants you for self-satisfaction, so if all you want is to have sex then go for it, if you think you may want something else, then stop it or you will get extremelly hurt.
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Just do it....Your husband is one of the maucho guys that wants to be the pursuer and is turned off by the female that is the aggressor in the equation of marital bliss.  \n\nIf I were you----I would do the tease thing---the sexy lingerie flaunt it in his face routine and then give him the turn down treatment when he WANTS what he WANTS!-----  Let him see how it feels to be rejected for advancements.  \n\nYou should really communicate what you want in your marriage relationship----Open up to your spouse and tell him of your sexual frustrations---"IT LIKE HELLO---MCFLY are you home"\n\nPleasuring yourself is healthy don't feel guilty about it....It's a great stress release ----Maybe you should watch an X rated movie when he's not home and just get the feel of yourself.  Sometimes those kinds of movies are necessary to stimulate the brain!
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Have you been diagnosed with post partum depression?  You have to determine why your drive has decreased.. tired? fear your child may pop in?  Just not into it?  If you're going to attempt changes without the assistance of speaking to your doctor, maybe you need to spice your sex life up.  Initiate.  Be assertive.  Try new things.  Time away with your partner/spouse.  Good Luck!
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Check when your fertile period is and do not have sex during this time.  Also you could take birth control pills with out him knowing, just keep them hid.
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I feel sorry for you and your wife. The male hormones forces you to think from your .... Well it's too late to ask why you couldn't stay faithful, so I would suggest that you get counseling. Also stay away from friends who push you into adultery. One thing I can tell it will take a long time for both of you to get over. It will always be there, but marriages have survived and thrived on worse. Take care and hope things resolve.