OK, here goes: I am currently 23 years old and I have only met my father once when I was 13 years old. He pretty much vanished for the last 10 years. I had a baby 18 months ago on his birthday! So, the other day I decided to google his name and see what came up. I ended up coming across an address and phone number, so I decided to call the number. I got an answering machine, so I left a message saying that I was his daughter and I just wanted to let him know that he has a granddaughter that was born on his birthday. Well, somehow he got a hold of my uncle and he really wants to talk to me! So I told my uncle to give him my phone number. What am I going to say to him when he calls me????? I am so nervous to speak to him. I have alot of different emotions-I am mad, sad, happy, confused......I just dont know what to say-HELP!!!!
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I think that is awesome that you are so forgiving, and excited to see your dad.. It's really amazing how your daughter was born on his birthday to.. I think that sometimes fate has a way of making things work out..You should just be very open and honest with your dad.. Tell him all the things that you have thought about over the years, and how much you have missed having him in your life.. Be receptive to what he has to say.. I hope that he involves himself with you and his new granddaughter from now on too.. I kinda know the feelings you have.. My dad passed away when I was eight. I don't remember him, and God knows how much I needed him there.. it's like you are always looking for something to replace that bond with.. \nI hope everything works out just as you hope it will!
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Believe me, there will come a day that he will contact you. Sadly, he will be grown probably before that happens. What goes around, comes around..this will come back and bite her in the butt!\nAnd yes, I miss my grandma terribly...wish she was still here.
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Considering how young she was, I would think that she would like to know about you and how your life has been.  Most reunions seem to be happy ones, but I'm sure there are also risks for some hurt feelings as well.  So you need to be sure you're really up to handling all the possible outcomes of contact with her.  Also, it is good to have some knowledge of your biological family's medical history, especially for when you want to have kids of your own.  It may take a while to find her, so be patient.  Good Luck!
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youve only been going out for 3-4months over the phone i don no how long youve spent together not on the phone but its to soon. take it from my personal experience i was asked to marry someone after a week of noing him and he told me he wanted me to move with him it scared the crap out of me but i stayed with him. we had a long distant relationship for about ten months when three of them i heard nothing from him. he was in the army he left the army and about five months after spending time with him i feel pregnant i didnt no the true him until i feel pregnant cause he totally changed. i someone was to tell me that agian id tell them to go and get help. my daughter has never met er father and shes two and a half and will never get to meet him cause he was recently killed in a car accident.\n\nbut if its meant to be it will be but take it slow im not going to judge maybe she just wanted to see what your plans of a family are if it starts getting serious
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If possible try to remain a friend to him and his daughter.  But if you or he has an attraction for the other than leave it alone.  He is old enough to be your grandfather and as such you would have nothing in common socially, emotionally or any other way.  I'm certain that his daughter would not forgive you and your family would be very upset if you started a relationship with him.  Fact is you'd be a young widow and if you did ever have any children of your own he would never be able to do anything with the kid as it grew up and needed it's father to take it to games, theater or whatever.  Pass on this one and try and find someone much closer to your own age.
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In my opinion, you should write a letter saying who you are, why you wanted to find him, and that you would like him to respond telling you whether he would like to come to a family reunion.  after that, any newsy updates about the family that have occured since the family lost track of him would be in order.  thank him for his time and tell him you hope to hear from him soon and to meet him in the near future, sign your name, thats it!
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I wouldn't worry about it, nor would I call again. You made the effort and hopefully in your message you explained how crazy the move was and told him who you were down to the very last detail. If he's interested he'll give you a call back. He could be very busy or debating on whether or not he should call you. I wouldn't call him back again for the simple fact that he might think you are stalking him so just give it some time, and if he never calls, then move on. Its not worth getting worried or upset about.
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I am blessed to still have my father but I can empathize with your situation, and I have an idea that could bless you and some other needy folks. There are many dads in hospitals and nursing homes that have lost their daughters, and would welcome contact from anyone on that day. There's probably nothing nicer you could do with your energy and time than arrange to show up at a nursing home with a generic card and some time on your hands, and offer to chat with someone who'd like to be wished a happy Father's Day. They would love to share about their children, and to listen about your day. It could be a celebration of those who've touched your lives and moved on.\n\nBlessings for a *Happy Father's Day,"\n~Tia~\nLive from the big, purple brain\nhttp://advision.webevents.yahoo.com/asktheplanet/brain.html
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yeah you should talk to him. just start by saying"so you coming to my sons birthday paty?" and just go from there. it wont be so bad!!!Good luck!!!!:)
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You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)
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Your grandson has been complaining on Yahoo Answers about the abuse of his grandfather.  In one question he said uncle but meant grandfather...he doesn't like the touchy touch stuff and is growing fearful.  Please help him...talk to him and tell him how much you love him and let him know he is more important to you than anything.  Get the facts from him and then do something about your husband.
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People who know them all do not realize how lucky they are.  I work with someone who is pushing 40 and both grandparents on her mothers side are still kicking.  My father left when I was 4, so I met my grandmother only once.  When I was in the Navy though and stationed on the West Coast I was lucky enough to meet my grandfather.  On my mother's side I never met my grandfather, he and my grandmother divorced before I was born and I don't think my mother got along well with him.  I did know my grandmother though.  So in short, I knew only 1 from each side.
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why don't you start with this:\n\nhttp://genealogy.about.com/cs/adoption/a/adoption_search.htm\n\nWe just found out my mother in law had a baby in the late 50's.  She was contacted by her son (who lives in Australia) and they've been corresponding ever since.  She was 'forced' to give up her child, and no one knew about him except my MIL and her siblings.  It was a very scary thing for my MIL to 'confess' to her family there was another child before them.  But it's a great weight off her shoulders.  She is happy to know her son had a good life and is not angry with her for giving him up.
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First of all you don't mention your age but one must assume that you are over 18 at least. Is this child from him or from another man? Don't bother with a restraining order because they are only as good a the law enforcement in your town. There have been a number of women killed by boyfriends after they have a restraining order placed. Take No. 2's advise. Get the heck out of Dodge or where ever you live and do it quick. Don't let anyone know where you are that can tell HIM! It is for your safty as well as that of your daughter. The man is a psyciopath and you should make a report to the local police before you leave. It is a crime to threaten someone else with bodily injury. Not to mention that he has said that he will will have your daughter KILLED. At least the law enforcement will be on the look out. Once you have moved away use your mothers maiden name because you can do that legaly. Don't list your phone number either. Just initials and no address. If it were me I'd move to a different state. I would put as much distence between him and me as I could. It may be hard at first but you will be alive and well. If you stay it may take him months to do what he says he is going to do but trust me he will eventually do it and then it will be too late. Men that talk that way usually do so to intimidate, but then they need more power over you and they start to do things physicaly to the people they say they will hurt. Talk to the law or the DA in your town and they may be able to give you more advise. No matter weather you take my advise or theirs PLEASE take your own advise and get out of there. Hope this helps and may God watch over you and your daughter. Be Safe If you need to talk to someone email me at Whilemom47@yahoo.com
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i think that..  you were young at that time, i dont know how old you are now, but then.. does that experience still bother you now? i'd say, talk to him if there's a chance and find out what really happened, that is, if it's still important for you to know.. otherwise, just take it as an experience, nothing more.
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This is so sad, you are probably going crazy trying to think of ways to contact your boy.  Is there anyone that can get a message to him.  This child needs to know you want to see him, you want to be in his life but because of his mother it is not possible.  The poor child, this is another case of adults being selfish.  I guess my answer is, contact a lawyer to see if anything can be done.  God Bless you, I feel for you.
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How do you know he is 25?  That is just a little old for you don't you think?  How can you be in love with someone when you have never met him?  You know he could be a 50 year old fat pervert.  Don't ever trust someones identity on the Internet!  I wish I had your phone number so I could call your parents.  Do you have any idea how many young girl's are raped and murdered by men they have met on the Internet and then meet in person?  I'm sorry, but I fear for your safety and I hope you never try to meet this person or tell him where you live.