when I was 15 years old I was rapped by a close friend of the family. We still see this guy, but I hate always being around him... I want to tell my parents but I am afried they will think I am lying. Also I am 18 years old know.Should I just forget about it and move on???? It has happened more than once...
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Choose your moment then sit them down and tell them what happened. don't give them intimate details but let them know how unwelcome this mans advances were. They will probably be shocked and upset and you need to have someone outside of the family to give you support after the event. Don't suffer in silence, it won't get any easier or go away. Wishing you the best of luck
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Well, I think you should quit. If you can't then TELL YOUR FAMILY! It's not like they will hate you for the rest of your life. Two choices: you tell them, or you quit. It's for your own good. You'll thank me for this.
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I was molested by a cousin when I was 7 I didn't tell someone till I was 14. Please don't wait. These perverts could be out hurting other children. If you can't tell her write it in a diary and leave it in plain view. If you have kind of mother that's a little nosy, she'll read it and she will come to you. Or just write her a letter telling her what happened and how hard it was to tell her to her face. Getting these people off the street will help you feel better.
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First of all online relationships carry an extra danger. If you do not live near this person or even seen him in real life, he could be lying about a lot of things. (Of course even people you do meet in person could be just as shady but I digress). Secondly, you are 14 and this guy is what? At least 16 or possibley older? Things could get very out of hand very quickly. And by this I mean, if he pressures you in any way or gets you alone who he could rape you or worse. \n\nBut regardless, an appropriate answer is to tell him that you're 14. If he's a decent guy then he should reliaze the inappropriate nature of the relationship,( I again assume that he is older), then he will decide against trying to see this 14 yrs old girl. If he still tries to convince you that should be an even bigger red flag and you should very assertive in telling him that you do not want to see him. Say your parents would not approve. I'm sure they wouldn't. Say that YOU are uncomfortable and do not accept anything that opposes that.
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well just let your parents know about him and let them see that you are a responsible adult by letting them know. you shouldn't hold it in and then they find out on their own and then it will all go down hill from there. that's my advice.
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I'm with Ryno on this one.\n\nThis happened to me, too. She was 14 and I was 19. I don't think I went as far as Ryno, but she admitted to me her age the night we were ABOUT to do something.\n\nIf you are under 18 you should leave him alone for a few years. All you're doing is putting him at risk. If he's been silent for 2 weeks, assume that he wants to keep it that way. Don't encourage him to resume your relationship with him.\n\nChances are there will never be anything between the two of you at any point because you lied about your age--even when you're no longer a minor. People don't forget that stuff. If you do resume things at a later point he'll probably hang that over your head anyway.\n\nLet it go and date people under 18.
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your confession will just ease your guilt, it won't help your sister or her family. when you slept with her husband you thought only of yourself, if now you tell her, you'll again think only of yourself. how will she benefit from your truth? will it make her happier? will it save her from some mistake? it will be selfish of you. you did it to her, you betrayed her, now have the decensy to live with it and not break her life into pieces just because you feel guilty. but you need to talk to your daughter. kid do understand a lot at 8 years old. may be you can ask her to keep it as your secret casue you don't want to hurt other people. just wonder how could she find out if it happened year ago and you don't still have the affair with that guy?
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Hi. I looked at your old emails and discovered that  you are 16. That is the age I was when I was involved with a 24 year old man. Boy was it a journey! I could write a novel answering this question...\n\nfirst of all this guy was WAY beyond where i was in my life. he had experienced so much more than me. everything we did wasn't that big of a deal to him but it was to me. I thought it was really cool that he'd take me out to dinner and we ordered wine, he had a really nice car, money and a cool appartment... i only wished i didn't live with my parents. of course all of this eventually led to sexual intimacy. and of course it meant more to me than him. and then that led to me having twins as a teenager. then becoming a single mom. i did all this sneaking around behind my parents back after they found out we were interested in eachother because my dad literally drug me away from him and forbid us to see eachother knowing that he was 24!\n\nthe other thing is that if he's 24 even if you consent it is called statutory rape. your parents can have him thrown in jail without your agreement and at any time they want to.\n\nmy suggestion??? don't get involved with a 24 year old. i know it sounds coooooll. and maybe it is but it's not worth it!!!!!!!! it took me 15 years after that to finally start dating one man my age. and when i did i finally felt at peace in dating and a relationship. the connection between someone your age is quite different. and well, i married that guy.  \n\nnext..... a 24 year old guy should know better! if he is interested in you he's doesn't have it all quite together up in the old noggin. or he is extremely selfish and not thinking about anyting except his selfish desires to be with a very young woman! run! you don't need a guy like this! \n\nif you are lonely or just looking for friends the best way to do it is to think of something that interests you or something you are willing to try and get involved in it. it's the easiest way to meet new people... there should be a teen center in your area check them out this summer and see waht kind of activities they have. or volunteer working with kids this summer or..... volunteer anywhere you'd like to learn something about...... get involved in a hiking group or sailing or tennis or art or film making or ????? if i knew what you were interested in i could help point you in the right direction... but get out there! hope this helps. if you want to talk more email me, k?
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Well for one thing would you have gone to your parents at that age? Why are they asking? Because this is a time of their life when so many things get thrown at them and they are confused. \n I have no problem answering them though it upsets me when someone answers the question incorrectly or sarcastically. Everyone needs to go somewhere, would you rather they just talk to their friends who know as little as they do? \n As for children being delinquent well that has been forever, it is nothing new in this generation, or the last.\n What should be done, well help these kids with as much knowledge as you can. You don't need to encourage them but there is nothing wrong with their asking a question. I care a great deal. I have a 13 year old grand daughter and no one is going to tell her something about sex except maybe on here or another similiar forum. I can only imagine my daughters response if she asked her a question like you mentioned, I am open minded but I am not even certain how comfortable I could be trying to answer that question to her face. \n What should be done? Nothing, think about it the more information that they have the better decision they can make hopefully based on facts and not sarcasm or narrow minded thinking..
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Say something bad? Like what, Your a F***king idiot? Maybe you can tape record him when he is being nasty to you and your friends and then take your reaction to him. And then let him go tell his parents. BOY, will he ever be shocked as well as his parents when you play that to them. And yes I guess its somewhat illegal to record him when he doesn't know about it. BUT hell I don't think that would apply here.
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Well something like that happend to a friend of mine years ago, but she was 14 and he was 19. Beings she was a minor the parents were informed on what happend.\nSomething like that really shouldn't be hid from her parents. And this boy needs to be took down or else there could be another young girl raped or worse. \nShe shouldn't be embarrassed or ashamed on what happend, it's not her fault if she said no. \nI was raped by someone, but I was an adult and as a result I had a child from it. If I could I would put the person who did it to me in prison but I was drugged by a date-rape type of drug and pretty much don't remember much of it and since they can't find the person - DNA does no good.\nSomething like that is too dangerous to let go if not for her sake than for someone elses. Of course it will be stressful but I think she will feel better after knowing he didn't get away with it.
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It's not as big of a deal as you think, I'm sure of it. This is probably what happened: You're a curious 13-year-old girl, who like any girl your age, is curious about your developing body. I'm sure your friend is too and that's why this event occurred in the first place. It seems like harmless, non-sexual touching between two kids. After you had time to think about what happened you felt guilty because of the religious beliefs your mom probably raised you with. You immediately became fearful because you realized how shocked your mom would be if she learned you had touched another girl's breasts. That's why your mind is now racing with thoughts of getting caught and scolded. Fear always puts things out of perspective and I'm sure that's what's happening here. Think of it like this... Does your friend want her mom to find out either? Most likely not. So why would she tell on you? My advice is to relax and not worry yourself so much. You did not sin, you were simply acting like a 13-year-old girl. I did a lot of silly things when I was 13 too. If it still bothers you try talking the situation out with your friend. She could be just as freaked out about the same stuff as you are! Maybe you can both agree to forget the incident(s) and move on. Above all, don't feel guilty.
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If you were 8 and he was 2 when you got along and he's 9 now,  that would make you 15?  You're a teenager he's a child.  Case closed.  I am 28 with a 15 year old sister who seems like a martian to me now.  When she was younger we were very close.  Now she is a different person,  as she is trying to "find herself".  YOU are a different person than you were then,  just as he is,  however I am sure that it's not all his fault.  You are asking a group of people who don't know you and don't know who you are to tell you if you hate someone?  How can we tell you your feelings if you don't know yourself?  Furthermore,  hatred is a horrid thing.  It consumes.  I speak from experience.  In addition,  honey your spelling and use of language is horrible.  It's difficult to read posted questions when they barely resemble english.
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You sound very young.\n\nYou should probably ask yourself a few questions.\n\nIs this guy trustworthy?\nShould you be keeping things from your parents (especially if  you know they'll be concerned).\n\nYou could end contact with him without getting into trouble.\n\nDo you trust him?  If so how much? \n\nIf you don't trust him this does not make you a bad person.
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Most of the time I would not answer this question.\nBut I thought I would write you and tell you that you should be more carefull. And not just hand out your e-mail address.\nTry ro find people in chat room or other places and even then they are not that safe. I could have mabe a new account and told you I was 14 and find some pic on the net and lead you to belive that I was someone else.\nI know this sounds like something your mom and dad would say and I know you wont like what I just said.\nBut the Only reason Im even saying this is because. A friend of mine. His daughter always got online. and met people and was letting everyone know her e-mail address. She talk to this (KID) for 5 to 6 weeks and somehow he tracked her ip down and other info. And he showed up at her house and tryed to rape her. He was 39 and from Florida she was from New York. This just goes to prove Jerks/Perverts will do anything to get what they want. \nEven though I dont know you I dont want anything bad to happen to you. So I thought I would put my 2cent's in\nGoodluck and be Carefull
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Oh sweetheart I think You answered your question without even knowing it!  First let me say I think you are such a wonderful person for coming to your fathers aid when someone else was picking on him!  Alot of kids do not do that and just go with the flow.  It would be a very proud moment for your dad and mom if they could read your letter!  You are an amzing person!  I do think u maybe over reacted a teeny bit.  Sometimes friends blurt things out before they think what they r saying.  I dont think he meant to be rude just making conversation with you.  But its very sweet and loving of you to stand up for your dad like that!  Yes they do only do things because they want the best for u.  I have a 15 year old son and he and I are very close.  Sometimes I make rules that he hates cuz his friends get to do it why can't he?  and my answer is always " well johns mom just doesnt love him as much as your mommy loves you"  and its true.  we make rules cuz we love you and want the very best for you and Im soooo glad u realize that.  Stay close with your family and I think u should forgive your friend THIS time!  lol
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Honey, I have been there.  I had a 7 pm curfew on weekends when I was 17 years old.  Tell your parents to trust you and if you do anything wrong, then they can take all rights away again.  You can't do no wrong until you try something.  Tell them that you are a levelheaded  responsible 16 year old and that you would like to win their trust, but you won't be able to if they keep you hidden and secluded.  Tell them you will grow up and move away.  Tell them that you will live a sheltered life and it is not good for your health.  Tell them your true feelings and make them listen.  I feel so bad for you because I was there.  Then I turned 17 and moved away from home, had my own apartment while I was a senior.  I had a full time job, gymnastics practice and school.  I did just fine and it taught me how to be mature.  I am not telling you to take off, but I am telling you to talk to  your parents because they may not understand your TRUE feelings and how you want to hurt yourself.  Just think, you will be 18 in a little bit and you will be able to begin your life the way you want and be your own boss.  Don't hurt yourself, because in all honest, it is not worth it.  Talk to the parent you are closer too!  I feel for you, I have been there.  Then I moved to FL.  I moved away so my family would realize what I meant to them and that they didn't have a hold on me.  It doesn't work for anyone, so don't runaway or anything.  I did this all as an adult okay? Let us know how it goes because I am genuinely worried about you!  Good luck!