my boyfriend is in jail (he gets out in two weeks) but do you thinhk he could love someone like me? i mean he was with this gurl for 8 years and she cheated on him he has 3 kids with her! he tells me he wants to be with me and i see him everyday but what do you think? will he stay with me or go back to her?
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Are you sure you want to put yourself in that situation. It doesn't really sound like a start to a healthy relationship.  Why is he in jail? Does the reason he is in there bother you at all?
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I HOPE U TOLD BF#2 ABOUT  BF ON LOCKDOWN. IF HE IS A BIG BOY HE'LL UNDERSTAND THAT IT WAS JUST ONE OF THEM THANGS.AND I HOPE YOU DON'T THINK FOR ONE MINUTE THAT THE BOYFRIEND IN JAIL BELIEVES YOU WERE FAITHFUL WHILE HE WAS AWAY.
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Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.\nIf I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees
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23 years is a long time to love some one. hes all she knows. i wouldnt be mad at her but keep a watchful eye and the first time he hits her you need to remind her that if she stays around him its gonna keep happing and its no ones fault but her own. then i would call the police and but his tail in jail
135111
If you love your boyfriend then how can you love another?Sounds like to me that you have not figured out what real love is.Also does he tell you that he cares for you just to hit the booty?Remember that men love to have more than one on the side.And if he cares for you so much,why is he still with his girl?
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Move on...\n\n"He told that he had cheated on me"\n"my man give me chlamydia"\n"he's been in and out of jail sense he was 13 years old"\n\nWhy would you stay with him? He's rarely going to be around if he spends half his life in jail.
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Just stop seeing him! If he keeps going to jail, that isn't good! But, if you are ABSOLUTELY sure he is the one, then consider talking to him about taking responsibility for his actions. But still, I would most likely dump him!! Just like someone said, if you have kids with him, then they would see their dad in jail and that would not set a good example.
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well hun, before you ask us the questions you need to ask yourself some, Do you love him? Is he kind? Does he love you? Is he a good provider? and most importantly: DOES HE LOVE YOU? i personally think that you sound like you love this man, but i think you should give it time, see if he may be back fooling around with his ex. and another question, are you and his ex close? (you say she lives with you right?) well always remember this: GUYS COME AND GO, BUT FRIENDS WILL BE THERE FOREVER. good luck I hope you make the right choice, keep us posted plz!
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I should hope you are very secure in your relationship, and if so then his hangin with them is not the issue.  If you have some concern for him hooking back up with her (which would be stupid) then you should let him go.  He was smart enough to leave her, can't imagine that he would find anything she does attractive.  You are the better woman and if he does not know how you feel (since you said you don't want to stop him?) then how can things change? The ball is in your court.  Good Luck!!
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I think you need to leave your boyfriend, get an education, and make something out of yourself.\nWhy are you dating a criminal?  Don't you have any more respect for yourself than that?
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I only read the first two sentences. Why are you with him? I would of left him after he cheated once!!
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You don't, and I don't think really ever will know, at least for a while. I think a person can be in a relationship, and have this happen and survive if they want the relationship still... Also, did he tell you, or was he caught? If he told he, he must be willing to try. If he told you, I would say to give him another chance, but make him earn your trust again.... If you feel he deserves another try, and it sounds like by your question, you would like to... Good luck to you..
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But...but...but...why would you want someone like that?  Once he's with you, he might still be attracted to those "taken women" still?!  Please reassess....you might be just heading for a lot of frustration and heart ache!
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I was in love with my husband since I was 15 years old.  I am now 31 and we have 2 children together.  He chose to make some choices within himself, which affected us as his family in a very negative way. He chose pain pills over his family, which took every penny he had, then turned into an evil addiction.  We have lost homes, jobs, have had the law at our home numerous times. As his wife, I wanted to help him and be there for him...after years of struggling with this addiction..and trying to help him..the girls and I are out of energy and have had our hearts broken one too many times.  He is now in prison..and we were still there for him while he is there...but it came to a point that after being in prison for 6 months...he still showed his selfishness and EXPECTED things from us.  I have now chose it is time to move on, I love him so very much, but I have no control of him or his choices anymore, and our girls and I do not deserve to struggle anymore.  It was time for divorce.  I still think about the person that I fell in love with everyday.  I pray for him.  But this love story got out of control, and had a very sad ending.
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I was in this exact same position a few months ago. \n\nI hadnt known him that long, however. \nI was thinking the same thing when I first got with him. \nWell, now it is definitely worth it to me. I am engaged. \n\nHeres my advice. \nIf you honestly feel that he is going to change (I dont know what his crimes were.) than I woudl say give him the chance. My fiances crimes were violent and drug related and I still gave him that chance (completely unaware of what could have happened.)\nMy best advice is if you do give it a shot (which I hope you will because evryone deserves that second chance.) \nBE PREPARED! \nThere may be a few slip-ups. (for example: if his crimes were drug related, expect maybe drinking or maybe pot somking.)\nBe patient and set yourself a limit and stick to it. \nDont ever let his betraying behavior get in the way and make rules before you start into a relationship. \n(no drinking, smoking, doing drugs...whatever.) \nThis way you have the law laid down and you and he both know where the relationship will end. \n\nIf its important to you, it should be important to him as well. \n\n\nGOOD LUCK SWEETIE!
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if he told you he loved you, then why would he try to hurt you? his drug buisness is serious. and if he gets caught he might end up spendign the rest of his life in jail. all the money he worked for will be gone..and you might even get in trouble to. are you willing to risk all of this for him? if you are then stay with him. if you are not then tell him all the dangers he is risking for both of you. and tell him that he needs to pick between drugs or you.
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They there bubby! I gave you an answer last month regarding your BF who is in jail and demanding you send him money... I thought by now you would have left him because it sounds like he's having an extra marital affair in there, or he's paying for his drug habit... Quit sending him money now... E-mail me personally and lets talk...Been there and done that scene many times with my significant other and eventually caught him cheating on me so I left him after our 14 year relationship... He kept bothering me and wouldn't find a job and expected me to support him and finance his drug habit, so I went home clear across the State of Alaska, and you now how big our state is... Since then, I've got my life back, a new job and making more money and saving and planning on going on a vacation to meet this guy I met on the internet and hopefully take him home and start my life over again..... I occassionaly miss him and think about him but life goes on.... So I weigh the pros and cons of our past relationship and stop thinking about him and pat myself in the back for taking my life back towards the positive side and don't plan on returning to him... I used to go to the library to use a computer to check my e-mail, but since then I have been able to buy my own computer and alot of other things that I couldn't buy when I was with him..... I look forward to hearing from you Tracer and think positive and things will work out for you.... Otherwise do you have IM/chat so we can talk without having to wait for each others reply? So let's chat and come up with some alternatives to ease your pain.... I have yahoo messenger...