ok i recently broke up w&#92; my bf, and went out with this other kid and were still goin out. but my ex still loves me alot and all my friends want me to go back out w&#92; him but idk if i wanna and then theres this other guy who likes me and hes my boyfriends best friend. so idk wut to do i like all of them cuz there all nice and stuff. and i miss my ex somtimes but not all the time and i like my boyfriend now but i cant help but to like this other kid.. his best friend. please help me.... :[
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That's kind of a question you need to answer yourself. But I can give you some advice. What you need to do is sit down and think. Get three separate pieces of paper and write down all of the good things/moments about each guy and see which one has the most. Don't end it at that though. Think it through and see which guy you would be better off with. Who cares what your friends think? The decision is up to you. Whichever guy you pick, tell the other guys you're sorry and you think __________ is the best for you. They will eventually move on and get a separate life. I hope my advice works out for you and good luck. -Cody
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Dude I just went through this same exact thing.  Your only missing her cause she was there for you and now theres no one.  I took her back after she tried the new guy, and two weeks later, she dumps me for other guy she just broke up with.  I wasnt hurt cause I knew it could happen so I didnt let myself get too involved.  But my advice, just move on, find someone new to love, there more fun, and you dont have to worry about her going back for the other guy.  She already left you once, dont let her walk all over you.  Hope this helps.
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Sometimes, its hard to get over an ex.  It sounds to me like you jumped into a relationship with your new boyfriend quickly after the breakup of you and your ex.  Thats not really a good thing, as you need time to come to terms with your feelings and to get over your ex.  \n\nI think you need to consider your feelings for your current boyfriend.  Do you really like him?  Do you really want to be with him?  If so, you are going to have to let your ex go.  There's only so many times he can be called another guys name without freaking out!  If you find you still have overwhelming feelings for your ex, maybe you need to put this relationship on hold while you sort your feelings out.  You can't be with someone and still hold a torch for someone else.  Its not fair to them and its not fair to you.
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you never know how good you have something until you give it up.  and then you regret it the rest of your life.  if you truly like this Tim guy, stick with him, if he actually has a future.  as for your other ex-bf's/guy friends, u might want to start talking to them less.  u can date someone and then break up and not see or hear from them for 10 years, but when u do see them the memories come back and it plays with your head.  the only way i can move past ex-gf's is to remove them from my life.  that might be what it takes for you too.
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The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy,treat yourself well,stay away from your ex,and move on,my friend.Best wishes:)
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Please, please, please do not go back to your ex that cheated on you, he will probably do it again.\n\nI don't think you need to feel as though you must date this other guy either. Why not just be friends for a while and if the relationship blossoms into something more, then great. If not, there is someone else destined to be the love of you life.\n\nI was always told that the best relationships are created from those that you did not expect. When I first met my husband, I thought he was the ugliest man on Earth, but we became friends. Then slowly, we dated and one month became three, three became, one year and one year has now become six. And over the years, I have become more and more attracted to him.\n\nThere is someone out there for you, maybe you'll meet him tomorrow or in three years. Or maybe you already know him and just don't know how attracted to him you are yet.
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Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
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MY BEST FRIEND HAD BROKE UP WITH THIS GUY AND AS YOU,HE LIKED ME AND I LIKED HIM.WE STARTED DATING AND MY BEST FRIEND HATED ME FOR IT ONLY BECAUSE I DID NOT GO TO HER AND TALK TO HER ABOUT MY FEELINGS TOWARD THE GUY.I RECOMMEND TALKING TO HER AND LETTING HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.IF SHE DOESNT LIKE IT BECAUSE YOU LIKE HIM,THEN ITS YOUR DECISON RATHER YOU WANT TO DATE HIM OR NOT.I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK..
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The fact that your attentions are on someone else makes me question the relationship with the first guy. But decide who you like better and make a definate choice. It may end up being the wrong choice, but you will learn from it and hopefully be more wise the next time.
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I have been in this situation, and it is very hard to deal with, esp if you were into the guy before he got together with your friend!\n\nAll I can say is keep your feelings buried for now - it wouldnt be any good to let either of them in on houw you feel, because that would just ruin your friendships. Who knows, given time you may move on, meet the guy of your dreams and suddenly all feelings for your friend's guy will be out the window (it happened for me!). Otherwise, it may not work out between the two of them, in which case ONCE THE DUST HAS SETTLED (its important to wait until it is well and truly over for both of them, or someone will end up hurt) you will be free to see how he feels about you. \n\nIf you do end up dating him though, make sure your friend is okay with the idea, as I have also been in the position where my ex ended up dating two of my friends - weirdly enough, I was fine about it when he dated my best friend soon after we broke up, in fact I set them up, but by the time he dated the other friend a good while later, it drove me mad seeing them together, and it made me realise I wasn't over him at all (but thats a whole other story!).\n\nThe last thing I will say though - while I repeat it woud be a bad idea to tell either of them about your feelings right now, one thing that really helped me through everything (both being the one with feelings for my friend's guy and seeing my ex date my friends) was having another friend whom I trusted completely and who knew everyone concerned but wasn't part of the group so much. I was able to tell him everything that was going on in my head and getting my feelings out really helped me to get over them - keeping your feelings to yourself with no outlet will not help you move on, it will only intensify them. So tell someone whom you trust not to blab, even if its only your diary!!!\n\nGood luck, and if you need a chat, get in touch any time!\n\nJoji x
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Well, I hope you're not friends with your best friend anymore because that's not what I call a true friend. She told you she would never go out with your ex because she loved you like a sister, but that's not the case. You should have never dated your ex-boyfriend's best friend either. If you like other guys such as your ex's best friend than you're not in love. You may really like your ex, but there are other guys out there. Your ex is not worth it. Not only is your friend doing you wrong he is to by being with her.
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There's your problem.  You hung out with your ex.  There is a word for this... emotional adultery.  You are getting your needs met by a guy who is not your boyfriend.  That's the definition of adultery.  I know the word adultery sounds extreme, but it is a HUUUUUGE epidemic in this world.  And you fell victim to it, without realizing it.\n\nPlease be careful about this tendency in the future.  Protect your relationships from temptation.  If you have a bf, honor him by getting your needs met by HIM, not other people.\n\nWhy are you hanging out with your ex anyway? Convenience? If your bf were still around, wouldn't you have been with HIM instead?\nStop hanging out with your ex.  He's an ex for goodness sake.  Meaning previoius, not present.  Go visit your long distance bf and see for yourself if it's over. How can you know if you have stopped loving someone if you don't spend any time with them?  Of course your feelings will start to fade.  Go be with him and remind yourself why you liked him in the first place.
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OK I  just went through a situation where my boyfriend left me because his ex ccame back into his life..I feel so miserable without him and i feel sick to my stomach...You need to be careful about what youdo..It could really hurt your boyfriends feelings..There must of been a reason why you broke up with your ex..so why are you wanting to go back out with him? AND if your not sure you dont love your boyfriend then dont lead him on..you just reallly need to think
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since u have broken with ur old bf its better that u forget him and move on with this new guy.\nit 'll b good 4 u both as u both like each other.
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I'm in the same boat honey. I'm trying to get over this guy who only wants to be my friend now.  And yes I want that, but every time I hang out with him I want to hug and kiss him like I used to, which wasn't too long ago. What my friends tell me, and what I'm now telling you, you need to break away from him for awhile. Try not to call him, as hard as that is, and just give your heart and head a break from him. And maybe in a couple weeks or months, or however long it takes you, you'll be able to hang out with him with no feelings other than friendship aimed at him. Also another good way of getting over him, is trying to date other people, even though they won't be him and you'll be comparing them all to him, it'll be a stepping stone, and eventually you'll meet that guy and not even think about your ex. Hope this makes sense and helps. Good luck.
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Little confused with question but I "think" i got it.\n\nYou have the hots for your ex-boyfriends's best friend. But the bugger isn't calling you, even though you have told him you are interested.\n\nAssuming I got it right ... here goes....\n\nGoing out with your best friend's Ex-girlfriend is ALWAYS a bad idea..... I can't imagine too many "friends" who would do that easily.\n\nI am also a little troubled that YOU would try to jump the fence and hook up with your ex-bf's best bud..... what if your ex didnt like the idea of his friend going out with you? You would be causing friction between two friends and in my book .... thats totally UNKOOL.\n\nAnd last choice is that NO he is not interested in you.\n\nI highly advice that you bat your eyelashes towards someone else..... there's no way that these two guys are the only two guys in your whole world...... find someone else who isn't directly connected to ur ex.\n\nOf course if you do hook up with your ex's best friend, I am sure we will see a new question one day:\n  \n"I still have feelings for my Ex... but I'm involved with his best friend... what should I do?"
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obviously it sounds like the guy you like is after sex if he is likes your ex but wants a threesome with you...so i would forget about that relationship---and if your ex still likes you think exactly why you broke up and if ts not a big deal and you still like him its possible to give him another chance but don;t rush into anything---No one can tell you exactly what to do..it's all up to and how you are willing to portray yourself to both of them and to others b/c you know it'll all eventually get around