The domestic abuse of men is not as well documented as the domestic abuse of women. Why? Are you a man who has been abused by your wife or female partner? Are you a man or women and know men in your circle who have been so abused? Please share your stories with researcher into domestic abuse of men.
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yea.. i beat my man jk
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Beating is beating, light or not.  Domestic violence=UNACCEPTABLE!
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Have you lost your mind?! Do you know any part of the story? Whetther it be true or via media? He used to like puching his women, to show off his ego, well story goes that She knocked him out for beating up on her too much and that's why they are no longer together. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Even the most beautiful, have their quirks.
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Hooliganism is alive and well in Scottish Men!!  Men will always have a propensity to violence, you cannae help it it's a basic animal instinct you lot have.  As long as MEN exist and support fitba, there will always be violence.\n\nCant understand it myself, but then, I'm a lover not a fighter!
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I can't speak for women.  I do not believe it has anything to do with male homosexuality however.  \n\nAnectodally, I knew I was gay by the time I was 8 -- even though I didn't know the name for it.  I'd had a boyfriend and been having sex for two years when I was forcibly raped by an adult straight male (and the father of three please note)  in my mid teens.  If I hadn't been precocious and had had a guilt complex, I would have had an experience I could "blame" my homosexuality on.  The reality is, I am gay, I was gay -- the rape was incidental -- and because I was precocious and had a b/f and we were having sex, there was never a question of that.  \n\nFactually speaking research indicates that one out of four  females  is sexually abused prior to reaching AoC  in some way by an adult and usually by a family member.  Research is less frequently done on males, and I frankly think when you look at males you can only look at forcible rape, I think males can consent much earlier than they are permitted to legally -- I sure could and so could every one of my friends - gay or straight; but, using the statistic on women -- are one out of four women gay or bi?  Doesn't appear to be correllating there. \n\nThere is a propoganda machine on the Religious Right that tries to blame homosexuality on a number of things:  abuse, drugs, and broken homes being foremost. (See Wayne Besen; Anything But Straight; Harrington Park Press)\n\nWell  given that abuse of some type (physical, emotional or sexual) occurs to a very large number of teens (I know and knew few who didn't take some form of one of them), given that over 50% of children live in single parent households now, and given that drugs are very prevalent in all segments of society --- this simply gives the extremists  a carte blanche to always find something to blame homosexuality on.\n\nThe reality is that homosexuality exists in nearly all animal species (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl; Biological Exuberance; St. Martin's Press) and has always existed in human culture -- with or without a defining community -- usually just folded in as a part of the total society (among the Greeks, the Romans, many American Indian tribes, and some other primitives -- among most societies in the pre-Muslim middle east and parts of the far east).\n\nHomosexuality simply is.  The search for "reasons" that allow one to either demonize or claim to be able to cure homosexuality has gone on in every homophobic society that ever existed, and is part and parcel of a desire, for some to wipe out the group, and for others to escape it.  The American Religious Right is just the latest group to join a cascade of groups over the millennia that were afraid of homosexuals because they were different (and because deep inside some of the leaders really like bois -- and hate themselves for it.).\n\nSo there are several more likely possibilities with your bisexual friends than that the molestation caused the sexuality.  One is that the molestation was incidental. One is that the molestation allowed them to more honestly look at their own desires and while incidental helped them admit to themselves that they liked same sex relationships.    The last (and I hesitate to mention this) is that one was molested, or said he was -- and the experience "spread."  There's been quite a lot of work done on how that type of thing works -- but basically it is the same way a story spreads, except with molestation stories, it is always the self that was molested.  It makes legitimate psychological work in the field hellacious.\n\nDon't know if that helps, but I hope so.\n\nRegards,\n\nReyn\nbelieveinyou24@yahoo.com
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As a rape survivor, I can say that I believe that women are mistreated by some men, but some men are also mistreated.  For every bad man or woman in this world, there are way more good ones.  I can attest to that fact.  Yes, we women are at a disadvantage in some points, but I would still choose to be a woman, even living through what I have lived through....Good question....:)
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Ok..then let me return to you this question:what do you call a man who sleeps with a lot of women?Why is it ok for men to do this,but women should stick to one man?That is so hypocrite!
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no I thought I knew him dated 6 years but now he turned abusive and I never thought he would do that.by the way thanks for your rude answer to my question.a person never deserves to be abused even if I was bitter which I wasn't I just wanted him to show he cared.but after being abused by someone I thought loved me and would never hurt me yes I am bitter now.
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maybe you should ask the boys not the men. cause a man is someone who is responsible, someone who treats a woman with respect. a man doesnt do terrible things like you say. im sure if you found a man that does this it is because he isnt grown up and he is immature
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Nope, YOU were wrong. Why would you start calling your boyfriend names? Seriously. I think it's wrong for a man to hit a woman. But, if she provokes him, calls him names, and then hits him, well, she brought it upon herself. If you are going to do that again, then make sure you can handle whatever it is you get for it. I've never been hit by a guy, firstly because I would stand to be hit out of the blue. And secondly because I don't provoke or hit guys.
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Yes, I have been verbally abused.  I have experienced that myself.  It's an ugly feeling.  Even though you don't know what they are saying to you, you know it's something bad because of the tone of their voice.  You can hang up on them if you feel you are being verbally abused.
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is ur man abusing u????
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Having a physically abusing wife is serious and dangerous not to mention demeaning to you.  While it may not be reported often, because of the stigmatism associated with a man being beat by a woman, it doesn't mean that its not as serious.  \n\nDomestic violence of any kind is very serious, and there are support groups, shelters, and counselors that can help you.  \n\nPlease seek a family counselor to help you get over your physically abusive wife.  You will either help her to stop abusing you, or you will need to leave the marriage for your safety and protection.\n\nPlease call a counselor, speak to your religious leader, or go to a support group in your area.  \n\nDo not ignore this or try to handle it alone.  You should talk to someone about this.  \n\nPraying for your safety and peace.\n\n:o)
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I don't know why some of us are like that, I know sometimes I get mad, but we all do. I don't believe that women are not supposed to deal with guys getting mad, they should be able to voice their opinion, but truthfully, sometimes that doesn't solve anything, it makes it worse, and really it depends on the situation. Men are supposed to be the head of the family, the bible says that, but it also says that the husband is suppose to love his wife like he loves himself, and not to be harsh with them. So, sometimes when we lose our cool, we are just blowing off steam, and that is a time where we want to be left alone, but not all men are like that. I know it helps me when a woman tries to help and be encouraging, but we all are different.
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I think about this almost daily, as I am currently going through a divorce myself, because of some unbeliveably UGLY stuff my husband has done.  I, as well, consider myself wounded, possibly to that same point of no return---from that hardened heart.  Only, I ask can any MAN be trusted.  When I read your question, it just hit me:  I know I, a woman, CAN be trusted.  Obviously, you feel that you can.  So, YES, we are out here.  We made bad choices in allying ourselves with the people we married--people unworthy of trust.  That does not mean there are not wonderful persons of integrity in each gender out there.  Let's try to move forward and treat people as individuals, rather than representatives of the worst common denominator of their gender.  After all, how would either of us feel if we were dismissed as capable of the UGLY?  ...but I am with ya.  I mean, it's all well and good to say these things to myself, but getting to the point of feeling it in my heart is different.  Good luck to us both/all!
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Abuse is abuse. It doesn't matter who is doing it. The law protects men and women.
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"Have you stopped beating your wife yet?", although crude, is a question often given as an example of a loaded question - one that implicates the answerer however he answers:\n\n'No' implies that he still beats his wife.\n'Yes' implies that he used to beat his wife.\n\nA person who has never beaten his wife cannot answer this question - unless he answers with the word 'mu', as suggested by the Buddha.\n\nI don't think Oky is calling you a wife-beater. I think this user is trying to call your question loaded, but Oky might have explained the concept behind the question instead of just throwing it at you without an explanation.\n\nTake care.