MY HUSBAND AND I WERE HAVING PROBLEMS AND HE STARTED MESSING AROUND WITH THIS OTHER GIRL. WE ARE TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT AND NOW SHE JUST WONT LEAVE WELL ENOUGH ALONE. HE AS TOLD HER 2 TKMES TO STOP CALLING AND TEXTING AND SHE WONT STOP. ANY IDEAS OF WHAT I CAN DO.
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He needs to change his numbers. And you need to confront this girl.  Tell her that he is your HUSBAND and you both agree that you want to work out your marriage, and that your plans do not include her.  If she keeps harrassing you, call the police.  There are all kinds of charges (Harrassment, unlawful use of telephone) she can be slapped with
185707
not a good situation, she is telling you he is cheating to leave him alone and then as soon as your back is turned she is all up on him ! Ohhhh But Noooo, She is the one you should concider getting rid of !
211283
just tell him flat out he can't have both if he wants to be with you he has to break up with this other girl and if he really truely don't want to loose you he will leave her.  if he doesn't or begs for time to pick one then just leave him alone dont answer his calls and dont talk to him if you see him somewhere.  some people just have a hard time letting go of the past, goodluck to you.
346164
Don't talk to her - as long as you keep reacting (which is what she is after) you'll never get rid of her.  Ignore her calls/texts etc and never retaliate..if she tops herself it is not your fault..she obviously has serious issues and this is probably her M.O so do the smart thing and cut all contact..for good.
590047
You can't. She has to want to stop herself. You can talk to her, support her, try to find help for her, love her, encourage her. But you cannot make her stop.
329707
you need to make sure she nows its fully over and he needs to do it cause it wouldnt be good coming from you.  cause the other night i rang a guy i was seeing and a chick answered and told me he didnt want to talk to me and she was his new girlfriend i rang a few times to try and talk to him to find out whats going on and  she wouldnt let me talk to him. i rang him the next day and he had no idea what was going on. \n\nshe may not understand that its over
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Stay away- Trying to make contact will only make the situation worse.  Don't give her ammo.  It is hard but you have to play it by the law, for now anyways.  Fight for joint custody and go from there.  Let your wife go, for your childrens sake.  The children need to see a healthy happy father.  You know you tried and did what you could and that is what is important.
32427
Ouch this a hurtfull situation. But first you need to confront him and find out whats going on and dont let him play you for stupid. You next person to confront is her! She needs to know what she is dealing and find out what she is doing. He may think its harmless but you guys have 2 kids together and it sounds like he is pretty seriously committed to you. He should have no reason to call her and break up a happy home. You seriously might want to rethink the whole relationship. Maybe even give him a scare and say you are leaving him because you found out he was talking to "that girl" if he loves you he will stop and wont ever do it again. And seriously think about it he has already cheated on your with this girl and she is obbviously still on his mind. You should have cut it off when he first cheated.
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I have the same kind of neighbor, I just started shutting my doors, windows, and totally ignoring her for about a week, I wasn't rude about it, just acted like I was always busy.  I think she finally got the hint, doesn't do it as much anymore.  Just always act like your getting ready to do something, or how about when your husband comes home, if he has a cell phone, call him and make it ring, so he can walk away and take his call, what else can she do if he's busy as well.
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I understand you love her to death but everytime you talk to someone of the opposite sex she is going to keep doing this. You have few options here you can put her in her place and just let her knwo your not going to stop communicating with the opposite sex just because she is insecure, you could never talk to the opposite sex again but that will make you miserable, or you could tell her how much her insecurities bother you and how unreasonable she is being but it sounds like everytime you talk to a female she turns into a big big bitch. Is that what you really want to deal with, ask yourself.
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YOU shouldn't do anything!! It is up to him to deal with the situation. He should care enough about you to handle the problem. My advice would be to give him the opportunity to solve the problem, but if within a reasonable time (a week) if he hasn't dealt with the problem, then walk away from him. If he doesn't care for and respect you enough to deal with the problem, then he may be enjoying have to females on a string. Good Luck =-)
508088
Screen your phone calls and answer when it conveniences you.  I wouldn't completely ignore her, but also set a time when you won't answer the phone anymore (example after 9:30pm).  You and your husband having time alone without being interupted is very important.
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First of all, she can only control what he allows her to.  I understand that he does not want to disrespect her but she has too obviously butted in before.  Don't involve her in personal business and decisions. As a matter of fact, keep discussions with her on subjects about HER.  Try putting distance between him and her. It's really sad to say, but if he doesn't put an end to this, it won't end.
652754
Confront her and tell her she is bordering mental abuse and if it doesn't stop she is no longer welcome to come to the house with him. Suggest counseling for her. She is definitely lashing out at him for her short comings and that can be worked out.
52177
been there .done that.your ex has a major problem in that he truly thinks he's all that and he WANTS girls fighting over him.it makes his pin head bigger sothe next time he comes on to you you grab him by the throat and tell him that you are NOT going to play his game.if he wants to be with you he's gonna have to ditch your friend and prove to you he's done so before you'll have anything to do with him.THEN GO TELL YOUR FRIEND what's been going on so she can keep an eye on him.let her know that you're not trying to start problems but she needs to be made aware and tell her you think he's doing it just to have you two fighting over him.She probably will get mad at you they always do.But here's what I did when my ex started playing that game.His girlfriend kept calling and threatening me so i finally got tired of it and told her he was chasing me and if she did'nt believe that i could and would prove it to her.the next time he came by my place banging on the door begging to talk to me,i called her,made sure she answered and told her to listen an then i let him in.we had a nice chat with him telling me how he did'nt want to be with her,how stupid she was and evan how bad she was in bed.he told me how no-one could make him feel like i did and he missed me and loved me and would do absolutely ANYTHING to prove it.So i picked up the phone and told him to tell her it was over and he balked.when i told him to take the phone it was for him he literally turned white.she heard every word he'd said and he knew it.after another month of her chasing him everywhere begging for his attention we did get back together for a short time before someone else turned his head and he tried playing the same game.i sent him on his way with my blessing and told him i was better off without him.i refused to play.his new woman stole his paychecks and spent all his money on drugs and alcohol that HER other boyfriends helped her consume.when he tried to force her to work on being with just him she cut up all his clothes,destroyed his furniture and trashed their apartment and he had to pay the damages,and when he came crawling to me for comfort i laughed at him.it took a long time but there was a happy ending for us we've been together the last 10 yrs and i can't get the man to so much as go out for a beer without me.It's called TOUGH LOVE honey.If you're gonna be with an asshole you have to learn to be a bigger and better asshole than he is.DO NOT LET HIM FORCE YOU TO STOOP TO HIS LEVEL.no matter what!!!!!don't get mad in front of another woman he's with ever.act like it don't bother you they're hanging all over one another.if a comment is made to you by either of them ignore it or tell the offender that they deserve each other because theiy'reboth beneath you and go on your merry way.it'll make them both nuts!try if you can to never be anywhere they are by yourself because you'll need witnesses when he tries to pull you into a dark corner to talk.and i promise you that he will but you just have to tell him firmly that you have no time to talk to a man who has a woman waiting for him and he'd best be getting back to her side.hopefully,you'll find yourself a great guy who'll make you want to forget this one while you're playing "who gives a s***.Always keep your dignity.that's one of the few things that NO-ONE can take unless you give it.if you get mad in front of him or her he'll think you want to be his door-mat.good luck.
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It sounds like he has issues to deal with and he is telling her he is not capable of giving her what she wants. Whether it is permanent is on him but she needs to tell hi that she will give him space and stick to it. Tell her to show him support that way and give him a little space to work his demons out. Also Tell her to tell him to let her know when he need to talk and go from there. I know it is difficult to stand by and watch loved ones suffer but if they need space give them SPACE. Tell her to keep her head up and be the supportive partner. He will come around when he realizes he needs her and is ready to talk. take care and she is lucky to have a supportive Friend like you- good job!
423207
OMG!!!  I can't believe that someone else on earth has had to go through this!!  Last year I found out my husband was having an affair for 9 months with a neighbor of ours.  I was friends with this woman before she moved into our neighborhood, so when she moved in, we quickly became best of friends.  I was very angry, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again.  I had to talk to him because when I filed for divorce, he wanted to talk a settlement in custody of our daughter.  I refused.  I told him that as long as he wanted to be with her, then he wasn't taking my child around HER.  After about 3 months of not living with our family, he decided that he didn't want to be single or with HER for that matter.  I made him jump through a million hoops to come back home (such as switching cell numbers with me, getting a better job, going to counseling, going to AA, plus many more).  Also I made it a condition that if I EVER even THINK that he is talking to her again, then it is OVER FOR GOOD.