me and my b/friend are very close to having sex for the first time and I feel ashamed of my body, I feel like I'm not good enough for him becasue I'm not some skinny little thing.
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First off not all women where made to be stick figures just because you have something to grab hold of does not make you ugly. Do not be ashamed of your bady it is a masterpeice of god and he has made you and loves you and that makes you beautiful. But watch out because when you have sex you are giving yourself to someone else and once you give that part of you to someone else you can't get it back. Sex can be a beautiful thing that brings people closer together but it can also become just another way to get high or to feel like someone loves you when all that someone wants is a peice of you to make themselfs feel better. Remmber you are a precous creation of a loveing and caring god who want the best for you.
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Oh honey, was it your first time? Remain calm and breathe. You had sex with a boy you love. That isn't so bad. Maby you weren't ready, but it'll be all right. I wasn't ready my first time either. I cried to and felt like a, well you know what. The fact that it was unprotected sex complicates things, go to Planned Parenthood and take The Morning After Pill, it prevents you from getting pregnant, also talk to the doctor there about getting tested for stds. Do not worry about your parents finding out, Planned Parenthood can not disclose your info to your parents. Also do not worry about money, Planned Parenthood will help you for free. It's going to be ok sweetie, if you need anything, even just someone to talk to email me.
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Listen to yourself on this one.  You know what will make you happy.  And you should not be doing those things until you can handle the full weight of responsibility they can bring.  Be yourself and hope that you can be OK with the out come.    If you asking the question you are not ready to loose your virginity, just a little hit.
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Dont beat yourself up. You told him not to continue with the sexual comments. You didnt meet him. \nWere you looking for friendship or were you looking for an extramarital relationship when you started speaking to him?\n\nThe problem lies more in your relationship with your husband, rather than how some guy you never met made you feel. \n\nWe all have a need to be loved, feel wanted, and ofcourse physical needs. Wanting to feel wanted is human nature, not a weakness of character. Lack of that feeling can make us feel depressed. \n\nI suggest you work on your relationship with your husband. Even if it doesnt work out in the long run, you'll be free to date and wont feel like you do right now.
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If you truly couldn't wait, you would have gone out and done it :)\nIn your heart of hearts, you obviously want to wait until there is someone special in your life, and that is a good thing!\nCelebrate the fact that when you make love, it will be that - making love.  And not some cheap one night of sex which would leave you feeling worse.\nI know it must be very frustrating, but I think you are craving having someone special to spend time with more than you are craving 'sex'.\nThere are many people, male and female, who make the desicion to wait until they meet someone special until they have sex.  I didn't wait, and I do regret it.  Meaningless sex leaves alot of people unfulfilled - it left me feeling worse than I felt before.  This might happen to you too - often you can feel worthless and you self confidence drops after a one night stand.\nDo you really want your first time to be with 'just some random girl'?  Would it not be more special to wait until you find someone you truly care for who cares for you?\nI hope its not coming across like I'm telling you that you have to wait - if you really want to just have sex then you can do that - I just want to let you know that some of who did that wish we had waited.\nI don't know if you would actually be able to change how you feel - you are 24 so you are a grown man who knows his own mind, and it is likely that deep down you know you would be happier waiting.  I hope you don't feel presuriesed in to having sex - I've known a lot of people who has presuriesed mates 'jokingly' only for it to come out later that they themselves hadn't had sex and weren't comfortable with that fact, and were just trying to shift attention.  Mates have a way of making us feel small for taking the sensible route sometimes.\nYou made a positive descion to wait, and I think it would be best for you to stick to that descision.\nIf you've yet to meet anyone special - get out and meet more people.  Make new friends - the more people you know, the more chance you have of meeting someone who you click with.\nGood luck, I hope you can make the right descision for YOU!\n\nEditted to add:\nThe only way you can 'control' yourself is to think things through and look deep inside yourself so you know what is the right descision to make.  Only you can decide wether or not to wait, so if you find yourself feeling like you might be tempted to just go out and get laid, take a step back for a couple of minutes, and ask yourself if that is what you really want.  Listen to your heart and your mind, and remember that purely physical urges will pass, but the negative feelings you may have if you have an unfulfuilling sexual encouter can last a lot longer.\nHope this helps.
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I think your feelings are totally normal. You should wait until you feel is right. If you still have some doubts or fears hanging around don't do anything. If you want to make your first time special, wait until it feels right.\n\nI also strongly recommend to you talking about those fears with your boyfriend. Talking about those will help both to understand where you are at.\n\nWhatever you do, please do it with the full awareness.You do not want to remember your first experience with sadness or doubts.
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I know how you feel.  I'm 18, not too much older than you and I just used to feel like a failure everytime I ate because I was just so caught up in my body image and felt that eatin made me fat. If I became fat, no one would like me.  It's not weird to feel self conscious about your body image, you just need to know how to control your eating habits.  Eat when you are hungry, you should always eat 3 meals a day and snacks inbetween.  Never skip out on meals because when you starve yourself and then you finally do eat, your body will hold onto the fat and store it because it doesn't know when it'll be fed again.  So work out also. A walk around the block is always great.
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You should not be ashamed of being a virgin.  If you choose to be, then no one else has a right to put you down for it.  You are making the best decision in saving yourself for the right person.  You may of had chances back then, but you realize that maybe you aren't ready.  People should respect that.  If that is your choice, then don't be ashamed.  Be proud!
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I am 38 and I have had an experience meeting a woman that was a virgin still at 24.  She was apologetic and very shy.  I don't think you should feel bad for being a virgin.  Everyone has a first time - some sooner some later.\n\nAt least being older he would hopefully find your honesty appreciative.  Tell him as a matter-of-fact when an intimate conversation comes up.  Don't sound as though you are making a big deal of it.\n\nAnd if he is hesitant or steps back, just respect it and move on.  There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed about who you are darling :-)  Good luck.
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If it is the first time for both of you to have sex, may I suggest taking things slow.  Especially if it is her first.  Alot of my friends didn't care much for sex at first because their first partner's were too rough and not the most considerate.   And I think any lady out there would also suggest taking things slow.  It's not a race.  Enjoy yourself and for god's sake use a condom.  Communication is good too, make sure you are both cool with whats going on.  \n\nMy first time I remember it feeling like my head was a blur and I was a bit dizzy, but It was a good feeling.
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If he really loves you he wont care wether or not your boobs are as big as Pam A. or Carmen E. If you really feel upset about this then you should talk to him about it and tell him that he makes you feel even more insecure.
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You shouldn't associate shame with sexual experiences.  Feel good about them.  I'm sure you did at the time.  We were meant to enjoy our sexuality.  As naughty as you may have gotten, you didn't go all the way and are obviously not promiscuous.  Stop beating yourself up over this and celebrate the new milestone you've acheived in your life.  You KNOW you are enjoying the thought of it, and this does NOT make you a bad girl.
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As with anyone, you should not feel pressured into anything.  You will know when the time is right.  If you feel "awkward", with the idea of a physical relationship, it does not sound like you are ready.
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Don't feel bad, hey. It's not the most appealing thing as a girl wants to feel like she has someone who knows what they are doing. What you need to do then, is spend all your time making it good for her and be willing and you will be fine. I slept with a guy who was a virgin and he was 24. I got over the fact he was a virgin cos I thought he was the most hottest guy I had ever been with and I loved his personality. What killed it a bit though, is he was pretty nervous which is understandable, but he wanted me to do everything. Just act confident, and if the chick knows you are a virgin she will understand it will get better and better. If you have casual sex, lie and say you aren't a virgin. Be confident, and she'll be none the wiser. Be honest if you are actually going out with someone. Don't worry matey, it wouldn't turn me off you.
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Definetely tell him if you aren't ready. If he pressures you when you don't feel ready, you might want to re-evaluate your relationship with him. If he's a real gentleman, he'll realize that you're worth the wait and not force you to do anything.\n\nAs for the fact that you lied, it would be a bigger deal if you had lied about being a virgin when you weren't. But, since that's not the case he shouldn't be too mad, and if he is, he is overreacting. \n\nGood job on sticking to your morals and not having sex whenever, wherever, you should be proud of yourself and don't let others eat away at your self-esteem. Doing something just because everyone else does it is rarely a good reason for anything. \n\nPeace and good luck!
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Sounds like you are feeling really rather insecure about yourself.  It's not a crime to have sex on a first date but the downside to it is the sort of confused feelings you seem to be going through.  The reason for this may be that it was just too early to tell whether this guy really liked you (or indeed, whether you liked him) and now you are having to wait and see.  However, the decision about whether you see each other again is half yours and half his, if you both want to see each other you will, if you don't you won't.  On one hand you are saying you don't know how you feel about having slept with this guy and on the other you are saying that you don't regret it ... so that kind of indicates that you do know how you feel!  It is important that you clarify for yourself how you feel about him.  Do you want to see him again?  If the answer is yes, you can either wait for him to approach you, or you can approach him first.  It is not unusual for people to jump into bed with each other very quickly, it sounds a bit like you might not be entirely comfortable with your behaviour because perhaps you think he won't like or respect you for it.  You can't know how he feels about you without approaching him in some way and initiating communication ... you won't have to ask him how he feels, that should become apparent by whether you get together again and you will be able to tell how much he likes you by how he treats you from now on in.  Speculating on the minimal information you seem to have might just drive you a bit bonkers and certainly won't get you any reliable answers.  Finally, I would say of course you can become friends with this guy, if he wants to become a friend of yours too ...
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If you're asking about having sex for the first time, it's not now.  You shouldn't have to ask.  If you have any doubts, you're not ready.  Don't let him tell you otherwise- trust me.  I listened to my bf, and I was depressed for four years.  Take care of yourself.  He can take care of himself if you say "no".