My heart says I love her, and says she loves me... My head says  I love her and she is confussed. My eyes see her with another man. She says she loves me and she wants to be with me. I feel that its becuase we have a daughter. I want our family to be whole again. I know she says that she loves me, but she says she doesn't like me. She doesn't relieze that I am this way right now cuase i am hurt. I am not happy. How can she love me and be with another man? I know its true but I don't get it. She says she may love him. She doesn't want to break up with him cuase he would be hurt. but it makes me feel like I am second. I feel like I deserve more. I know that I can find someone to love me, but I want it to be the one I love. I know these feelings will not change. I dont want to lead anyone on so I haven't been dateing. I don't know what to do, I am tired of waiting for her to make up her mind. Everyday I feel alittle colder. She brightens my day, but she sets with another :(
210550
I am not happy with anyone other than you. I have learned this over the past couple months, and in some ways, I dont want to leave him because it will hurt, but I do want to be with my family. All 3 of us. I realized that.. you loved me thru and thru, just like you said. I am willing to make it work... I just hope you still are. I know that in relationships, there are good times, and there are bad times. We need to be able to work thru the bad times together... We need better communication.. and all in all, We need eachother.
323520
She probably still loves you but she doesn't want to fully immerse herself back into the relationship bc she wants to feel that she is in control of the situation.  If its been since last year, she's had some time to think and may not be so sure about wanting to be with you.  You did  give her some time to get over you a little bit.  So she's probably just trying to see whether or not she feels you are the man for her still.  One of the most important things for a woman is having that sense of security with her man.  You broke up w/her so she doesn't feel secure anymore.  Keep taking her out and romancing her.  If she doesn't have someone else in her life that she's into and you can make her trust the relationship again she'll come around.  Good luck.
590922
I feel sorry for you. I think that she still loves and cares for you, but she has been emotionally drained from the marriage.\n\nWhen a woman is fed up she is fed up. Especially when she in truly in love and her partner is not returning the emotions. She can only keep trying for so long before she has to stop and think about if it is really worth it.\n\nI don't want to say but here it is" You should have treated her like a queen when you had her". It may be to little to late, but try and remain on good terms with her. She may just give you another chance. Just remember, if she does come back, don't fall into the routine of neglecting her feelings. If she leaves again, she may never come back.\n\nGood Luck!
274125
You are a very passionate man it seems and you truly love her but it doesn't seem that these feelings are mutual. Unfortunately i think you should move on. She's told you three times now that she doesn't want to be with you. As much as it hurts if you love her you should try and let her go. Plus not always when two people have very similar personalities do they get along. Give yourself some space from her and go looking around the pond. Like the saying goes there are a lot of fish in the ocean. Look for someone who is just as passionate as you are.
560080
everyone here is bashing the wife. we don't know for certain that she has cheated on him. i don't think she has. how many of us been hurt by a boyfriend or husband who has cheated on us. it sounds like that she forgive him and he done it again and again for his own reasons. right now she is hurt and mad and she feels betrayed by you. sounds like you really hurt her and her world is turn up side down and their is children involved then maybe she trying to figure how to handle this but i think there is more to this story then you are telling. if you love her so much why did cheat on her again and again and now u want forgiveness and win her love back. was you thinking about her when you was cheating on her? did you think of how she would feel when she found out? she doesn't feel good about her self right now and you caused that. now you feel insecure. maybe right now she feels insecure about herself and maybe she is trying to figure out where she went wrong in this and I'm pretty sure you blame her for all of your affairs right? give her time she is going through a lot right now. sounds like she was a very good wife to u and u throw it all away for some one night stands or relationships. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but she has every right to be mad and upset.
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Are you sure she doesn't feel the same?\nHumm.\nBut she IS meeting you, right?\n\nLooks like she is playing "hard-to-get"! :-)\n\nDid she explicitly tell you she doesn't love you?\nWell, if not, take it easy, man. \n\n"Quitters never win, and winners never quit - simple."
163079
Share your feelings with her. Then listen to what she has to say. If she says she loves you and wants to be serious, then it is time to evaluate her actions. If she does what it takes to make you feel loved, and she accepts your love in return, there may be a future for you and her.
633730
Dude, I am sorry. It sounds like she is just like me. I have put my boyfriend through serious heartache because dumb me doesn't know what I want. You really need to move on and when she's ready, she'll quit playing her games and come back to you or find out that you're not the one. She's young and she's still trying to find out who she is, like me, and she's keeping you on the back burner to make sure you're worth holding on to. If you just back off and get on with your life, things will fall into place. But still love her and pray for her, but go out and have fun!!!
34454
to her, you are still her baby, and she only wants what is best.trust me, i have been there.sometimes, though, they are right.they see things about us and the people we are with, that we dont see.take her advice to heart, but make your own decisions.kindly let her know that you appreciate her love for you, but that you have to make yourself happy, and make your own mistakes.
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I just don't see a feelgood way out of this.  Be honest with her.  It already sounds like you are compassionate.  Honestly explain your feelings, how long you've been feeling this way, how you struggled with it, didn't want to hurt her, etc but that you couldn't reconcile how you feelings evolved to living in a way that is in full honesty for both of you.  She's going to undergo grief and pain so there is no avoidance of that.  It really is hard to tell someone you care about as a person, knowing you're going to cause them pain, that you've tried, but don't feel the way you would like to feel anymore.  Many people deal with faded feelings in ways that cause even more problems down the line, cheating, avoidance, etc. It never makes the problem better so you know that it will take great courage on your part to get in the drivers seat and take the relationship to it's inevitable destination.  She was a whole person before she met you so hopefully she has the inner strength and faith to trust she will continue to be a whole person without you.
96935
awww  how sweet ! I really feel for you ,but maybe she is your soul mate  but you are not hers! Start dating other  women. You might end up finding another woman to love.
437314
Come on guy!!!!...  Sounds to me like your mad and you have no idea what your talking about and you want to get some support for people you don't even know on this site.\n\nWhat has she told you...? If this is really true and not just in your head, why are you still there?  And don't tell me it's because you love her.  Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap and she just thinks of you as just a backup ****.  \n\nIf this is for real, leave.  Even if it isn't real, leave.  Your head is so screwed up you couldn't think straight abut her anyway.  Just leave.
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Well it sounds like she's falling in love with you!I don't think she'd say those things if there wasn't any meaning behind it!Maybe you should consider asking her this question because she's the only one who knows how she feels because you won't know any more than you do now by asking strangers on the internet!It does sound like she loves you though!
645262
I think you should truly figure out if she is what you want because no ones heart is a game.  I know you have been through it with her but you have allot of time and a family invested with her.  I also don't think its fare to play with any ones feelings.  I have also been in many relationships but never felt they way I feel when I'm with one person.  I believe true love only comes around once and I will never feel that way again.
63965
you should tell her how you feel b/c if she really does love you then she would stop for you. seriouly she would that could find out if she really loves you. dont go to heard on her but let her think about it. just keep getting in her head that its bad.
184692
i know how u feel me and my girl kissed when she left my house one time and my sister-in-law saw it....dont feel so bad if u love ur girl then just try to get a long w/ her mom even if she dont like u. if she loves her daughter then she will love her and her mate just the same. give it time it will get better. it did for me
676261
i could not imagine what you are going through. i personally have never experience or been in that situation.i think you do not love yourself or feel worthy for someone to love you.that is very important no matter what family drama or life changes you have to go through you must always remember to love yourself.