boyfriend wants me to be sexually abusive the only place for now is outside i'm not good at this what do i do?
206024
Just tell him what to do, how to do it, what to wear, where to sit....You get the idea....Do his thinking for him, then it will become natural.
608133
If you feel things were going too fast, they were.  Be careful putting yourself in these situations, though.  If you go to a guy's house when his parents aren't home, he expects to get laid, especially if you start fooling around with him.  If you unwisely put yourself in this situation again before you're ready, tell him no first if you didn't this time.  Oh, & don't give him a sexual moaning no, as this won't get his attention.  Give him a blunt, firm, commanding no.  If you lash out violently right off the bat, he may reciprocate.  This is another reason it's wise not to go somewhere alone with him until you are ready for this possibility.  He could have felt like you led him on, & were being a tease, & then gotten enraged when you slapped him.  You're lucky, because this could have resulted in an asault or a date rape.  From now on, I hope you'll be wiser in your decisions, as this could have ended up being potentially dangerous.
432230
He tells you he hates you, kicks you, has a girlfriend, and you let him kiss you? He sounds like a louse and not worthy of your time, unless you want to be one of those women who likes abusers? Think more of yourself than that- no one has the right to treat you with such disrespect! You sound like a very nice person- you deserve a lot better than that!
632527
Get outta there. It is obvious are some extreme issues. If he can not take charge and wipe out the problems, then there is more to this, get out now before you get too hurt or worst involved in an abusive relationship. You don't need the headaches.
599167
Sounds like a loser to me.  The more comfortable he gets with you, the more likely he will start to abuse you, physically or verbaly.  It doesn't sound like you are in a very good situation.  You should get out of it.  Nobody should tell you what to do all of the time and the jealousy thing, it kind of makes me scared for you.  Good luck!
471187
You sound like the classic case of a woman from a bad childhood now reliving that experiences in an equally bad adult relationship. You have no center to your own identity. You do not see that you are a good person who deserves a better life. You settle for living with a violent and worthless man instead of being free and looking for relationships with decent, loving men. The choice is yours. But to make it, you must change how you see yourself. For the sake of your child (who will simply repeat this same pattern) please make a plan and a fresh start far away.
131263
you just think you are in the way.you seriously nedd to get out of this relationship,do you wanna die?this is abuse and it is so wrong,im sorry you are going through this.plz leave before it gets worse,he thinks he can scare you into staying cuz he can beat you up.saying you are in the way is a copout.plz leave.it will only get worse.ok,once they start hitting,they dont stop,next your family will be planning your funeral.plz plz leave  best of luck
204087
yes, you will be okay.\n\nBUT it's time to make some serious changes in your life... no more of the same old stuff you've been doing.  MAKE it work.\n\n- a domestic violence hotline is the best place to work through all your specific options.  800-799-7233 (National), or go to http://www.feminist.org/911/crisis.html to find something local for you.\n\n- get away from this guy for good.  two days from now you should have a restraining/protection order against this guy which keeps him at least 500 feet away.  once that's in place, if he finds you immediately take out your cell phone and dial 911, scream if you need to.  don't tell him any of this, just do it.  just think to yourself "i've had enough, that's it, i'm done with him forever, and i don't need any explanations or apologies".  no exceptions.\n\n- it sounds like you need to work on some stuff inside yourself also... and that's a good thing.  nobody's perfect, and don't worry too much about right or wrong... but it sounds like it would be good for you to get a new lifestyle that "works" better for you.  don't just escape, ESCAPE!\n\n- if you need something drastic to change your life, maybe the peace corps or something very involved and out of the country would give you a chance to figure out what you want out of life.\n\nyou have a right to be happy - don't let some miserable prick take that away from you.\n\nyour "i found myself" post in your 360 page is the right way of thinking.  stick to it.  don't take the pom back
644584
just chill out and get some kind of life outside of him.... \n\ntrust me if you prfess your "undying love, and how head over heels you are" your just gonna scare him....\n\nget with your friends and dont see him a couple nights a week.... the more availible you make yourself for him, the more desperate and whipped he's gonna have you
122066
If you are afraid of him, get help and leave him. Immediately. You don't need an abusive, violent boyfriend.
620784
if he doesn't respect you, he doensn't deserve you!!! leave him; you deserve better! and do you mean hurt physically? that is NOT to be tolerated physical or verbal. get a new man.
541888
Sweetheart, that's a rotten way to live and millions do it everyday..if it is just a question of you liking quiet time in the morning (like me) then ignore the questions and comments and they will get the hint..\ngive off the right vibe and you'll get through. (picture yourself as a skunk or something unapproachable...nobody messes with THEM until they  wanna be messed with)\nIf it runs deeper than that, move out or make him move out, you have to feel safe and comfortable in your shelter or it's not shelter anymore.\nGood Luck
61514
Your safety is the most important thing. Alot of times the violence becomes more severe as time goes by. It's better to be alone than to be abused.If you really love this person you both could seek good counseling. Until then stay away from this person.Go to family, friends,Minister, anyone that you trust.Love is sometimes blind. No person male or female should ever put their hands on anyone out of anger.You have to love yourself more. Again your safety is the most important thing. Good luck to you.
196515
Well there are a couple ways to take care of it. If he lives with you, you can force him to move out (call the police if necessary). If you live with him, then you should move. If he hits you, then you should file charges on him and get a restraining order. Abusers were usually abused as a child so they don't see what they do as wrong. If he is young enough, some success has been found through drastic counseling measures. Maury Povich and Montel both have done the shock treatment on men like that. Taking them to see women in morgues who were abused to the point of death. If he loves you then he would stop. But you deserve much better. No woman deserves to be physically, verbally, emoptionally, or mentally abused. My advice is to send him to jail for awhile to see if he changes his ways.
510411
The bad stuff sounds pretty bad.  Learn and move along. He doesn't love you completely.  It sounds like he's shell shocked from your behavior and is trying to figure out a way to get away from you safely.  Whatever you did, make sure it doesn't happen again.  Leave this poor guy alone.  Get yourself straight, and try not to let anymore "bad stuff" happen.
141981
He is a classic abuser. He won't change. The longer you stay with this jerk the more you will get hurt physically and emotionally. You could end up imprisoned and/or dead. So dump him. If you're having trouble doing that see a therapist to help you. Remember the sooner you get rid of him the sooner you will be happy.
62139
Well, first off, you can't *make* someone like you.  \n\nSecond, tell him EXACTLY how you feel.  If he doesn't feel the same, and all he wants is a piece from you while you want more, kick him aside and find someone else who respects you for YOU and not your genitals.\n\nIn other words... communicate.  If you can't communicate now, you'll never be able to in a relationship, and before you know it?  You're on an episode of COPS, getting beaten up by your meth-addicted boyfriend who only wants you for sex.