i know this question is gay but it happens everyday. i mean ive been hit with a bar by a guy and i have a lot of friends that have been raped.
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Not all women are innocent. Tired of people phrasing a question about rape and abuse like it's every mans fault. It's like that one bad apple makes it bad for everyone. Get a real life and ask at least half way decent questions.
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THIS IS A VERY TOUCHY SITUATION. I DON'T KNOW ANY MEN THAT WOULD GET SO DRUNK THAT THEY WOULD ALLOW ANOTHER MAN TO RAPE THEM. YOU SHOULD HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH YOUR HUSBAND TO SEE IF HE MAY BE HAVING ANY HOMOSEXUAL FEELING THAT HE IS TRYING TO SUPPRESS. COULD ALSO BE THAT HE IS BISEXUAL. EITHER WAY  THE DESIRE TO BE WITH ANOTHER MAN IS GOING TO HAVE TO BE SOMETHING HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO FACE EVENTUALLY IF THIS IS THE CASE. THINK ALSO HAS HE GIVEN YOU ANY OTHER REASON TO THINK THAT HE MIGHT BE GAY. IF SO I WOULD CONSIDER LEAVING HIM. BETTER TO BE SAFE THEN TO END UP WITH AIDS. BUT BEFORE JUMPING TO ANY IDEAS TALK WITH HIM AND PRAY ABOUT IT.
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As a gay guy I think it has to do with rejection and all that. Homosexual men get tons of abuse and are sometimes in need of counseling to deal with it properly. I myself am a super nice guy but some are so suspicious of being liked because so many people abuse them and rail against them that they end up doing the same thing to a guy that approaches them.\n\n  Another thing is that some people think of us all as sluts out for one thing and since society in general reject the idea of homosexual covanant relationships it becomes self fulfilling prophesy in some cases. Some guys have no manners and grab in ways they would not think of doing to a woman in bars and social settings so ....
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I don't see how you can say that it is a lie. The truth is, yes, rape is that rampant. Take a look at the statistics that victims assistance groups have. The amounts are staggering! I also want to point out that men, as well as women are victims of violent crimes. Men just don't report it as much, probably because of embarrassment.
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Yes, sexually/physically. It started when I was three - by two cousins and an uncle, it went on for thirteen years. I did as much as I could to escape it, even running away - constantly. Recently, I went to the police (for a second time) However, the punishment given didn't fit the crime, and the cousin who abused me most, only got 5 years. I think people now a days are too scared to go to the police or report anything, because victims don't get enough support. Abusers get a couple years in prison - victims and survivors - they get a lifetime of never ending pain. I wouldn't wish the feelings they caused me to have on anyone, not even my worst enemy. \nIf you are in a situation where you're being hurt, please get as much help as you can...to physically get you out of the situation, and to help you with your emotions too.
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I do believe so....rape is not just about sexual intercourse...It  has much to do with ego,rage and feelings of inferiority. Both sexes are capable of rape. Rape is not always violent in the physical sense but it is always violent in the emotional and spiritual sense
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I know for a fact that not all guys in a bar are scum. I was a stripper for 4 years. I recently quit due to back problems, but I still keep in touch with alot of my regulars because we became real good friends. I am married, so nothing nasty. \nYou just have to be careful because there are some scumbags out there.
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It's just a coincidence.  Unfortunately, things like that happen to people all over the world, every day.  Nothing you say or do can make that more or less likely to happen to anyone.\nIt's a shame that it happened, but it is NOT your fault.
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Thank you thank you thank you!  I've felt the same way for years and some people think I'm crazy for thinking it.  I've been raped countless times and know people that have been raped.  Sex offenders deserve to be castrated or worse.  Some one who could do something like that and not think twice about all the things their taking from their victoms need to be severely punished.  And they let thes freaks go to walk our streets where our children play, can you believe that?  I agree with you 100%!!!!!  They should be castrated then given life in prison to suffer.
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I worry because it's happened to me and it does suck and you have to ALWAYS be careful. And predators are everywhere.:(
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WOW... My friend does this too! Alot. She meets them on myspace, talks to them for a few days on the phone and on myspace and then HOOKS UP with them the first night she meets them. Its her lifestyle and I have no desire to judge her or anything. So I dont say anything. She uses condoms and even tho I KNOW its not healthy and is dangerous. Its NOT my decision. So I suggest not saying anything. Or if you choose to, just simply say that YOU could never do that, because you've heard so many horror stories about people getting raped when meeting people online. Explain to her YOUR PERSONAL reasons why you would never do it. Good luck
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I'm really sorry to hear what happened to you but....\n\nCall the cops, let them give you a rape kit, and  (especially if they are conviced you were raped) PRESS CHARGES.\n\nWho cares if this was a friend, or a friend of a friend! PEOPLE LIKE THIS ARE NOT FRIENDS AND NEED TO BE STOPPED!!!
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I know how you feel, although my rape was very different from yours. First off, please remember that it WAS NOT your fault. Even if you would lose a court case, it is still worth fighting... Also, obviously this guy is a sexual predator, I would make sure that all of your girlfriends know to avoid him.
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Sex, Alchol and Parties. I have a male model friend - he's all about that. I keep annoying him with "stop, you are harming yourself" comments! ==>>Don't do it!
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i dont think you should be chatting with this guy. you probably barely know him. a lot of girls already got raped and killed.
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I was sexually assaulted after my shift was over at a restaurant, by the owner, who was drunk.  A lot went on. I went to the police and reported it, and brought my clothes that I had worn that night.  It was a 3 hour humiliation session.  I was on tape and also written report.  The guy was brought in for questioning, denied everything and basically called me a liar.  The burden of proof was on me.  Since he hired a lawyer quickly, a pal of his who was a former mayor, I had no choice but to drop the case. Unfortunately, I think a lot of women do this. I couldn't put my kids and parents and husband through a long painful trial, and having no real evidence except my testimony.  What goes around comes around, I guess, and he'll get his one of these days.
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yes,many times!\n\none of the problems associated with playing pub games,can get dangerous after too many beers!!\n\ngot hit over the head with a pool cue once,that,s a lot worse!