i love this girl. i thought she treated me like a friend. i thought i had the chance to say her how i feel for her. i didnt know the truth then. the truth is she's just using me to get to him(my best friend)! she has no feelings for me. i don't wanna be used. i try not to think about her! but i can't stop loving her. what do i do?
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well, now you know the truth. She does not love you. She may like you but she likes your friend more. Do not make it more painful for both of you by telling her how you feel. You got the message, so stop thinking about her.\n\nShe may find it hard to say to you that she does not like you that way and it would be hard for you to ask her if she likes you and hear her say no.\n\nI suggest you don't say a thing and look for other girls. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
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Hey babe, your situation bites to say the least.. I've been there once or twice before and I've been on the opposite side as well. The way I handled the "rejection" was to take a step back and look at how my feelings were affecting our friendship. Once I did that I realised that we were not suited as lovers and that a close friendship was all that the both of us were capable of. \n\nIt takes a lot of time and patience to get to that stage though, so stay strong, when you're spending time together, enjoy it for what it is, stop looking at her actions as if there is a hidden meaning.. trust me - the only hidden meaning is your imagination! \n\nFrom the other side of the great love/lust struggle, when my best friend fell for me she declared her love and I let her down quite gently. For the first few days everything was great but by the end of the week we were constantly fighting and I felt that I couldn't breathe because she was smothering me with her attention. \nWe took a break for about a month and when we started really hanging out together again, she had cooled off and realised that she would rather have me in her life as a friend rather than chasing me out of her life by her desire.\n\nWhat you need to do is sit down and think about what this girl means to you and whether you can stand being around her until your feelings die down a little. \nIf the answer is yes, then maybe you need to limit the time you spend around eachother for a while and then you can go back to how things were before.\nIf the answer is no, then you need to take a look at your own life and try and come to the realisation that it may never happen and if your friend doesn't want to take you up on your offer, then you need to focus on yourself and spoil yourself until a truly deserving candidate comes into the scene :)\n\nGood luck, don't shed too many tears over her, try and broaden your circle of friends and soon enough you will rarely be thinking of her!
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I'm sorry that happen and I can tell u really feel this young lady. And I guess the upside is your still friends. But the reason u feel this way is because ur feelings were true and when u have deep feelings for someone it's hard to let go, she may only love u as a friend because of it was more you'd still be her boyfriend. But if u look at it from another point like the fact that she has a boyfriend and she's still telling you that she loves u, waht does that say about her? I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know his girlfriend is telling her ec she still loves him.\n\nI have been dump( and I know it's not about me) but I know that it hurts, but I also know that it's no good to hurt too long over someone who dumps or end the relationship and they can move on so easily while the other mate is still hurting. She moved on to the next guy( it may not last) so it's time u move on too. U can continute to be a her friend but don't expect her to come back( even  if she does) be strong and just stay friends with her, because she hurt u once she could repeat it then you'll really feel bad. Move on to a girl who will love and care enough for u not to leave you  or hurt you, once u get out there and find the next girl who's waiting to meet u she will keep u so happy  you'll forget about your ex.. So get out there and meet someone else and get rid of anything that reminds u of her so u won't  stay idle on her.\n\nGood Luck
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I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have a friend like you.  You cared enough about her to let her go and be happy.  I wish there were more ppl like you out in this world.  take care...
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You're NOT an idiot at all: your actions have shown both courage and devotion...two components of both true love and friendship. How she eventually responds will depend on your shared "chemistry" and where her life experience falls on the learning curve of love.\n\nI can tell you, however, I've been in her place and understand her perspective. A close friend revealed his feelings for me some months ago, and at first it was hard for me to see him as more than a friend (also, I feared losing his friendship!), but he responded similarly to your actions...proving over time he'd not pressure me, and truly cared for me in whatever capacity we could share our lives. Now, he's MUCH more than a friend AND we've found the strength of our friendship helped us overcome typical romantic spats, etc. The time spent in friendship made the love lasting. \n\nPlease do not feel foolish. You've been honest and patient. (Foolish would be never having the guts to tell her how you feel, or rejecting her when she didn't return your desires immediately.) Continue being yourself, and dedicate yourself to the friendship...give her TIME...possibly she'll see your strength and affection, understand the man you can be in her life, and return your feelings. \n\nEither way, here's a quote I like: \n"You are what you love, not what loves you."
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Girls are big players in love!  I should know, I'm a girl!  But she could just be confused with her feelings and doesn't know what to do so she's testing the waters!  It sounds like she really likes you though because as you say you talk for hours and friends who only care for each other do that!  It sounds like you should be together and give it a go!  It doesn't hurt to try right?  Imagine what it would be like not to see or talk to each other - it's hell!
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Well if she is your best friend (I'm assuming that is what b.f stands for), and she did that to you, knowing how you felt about him, then she obviously doesn't regard friendship like you do! The joke is on you unfortunately! I would suggests you redefine the quality of what a true friend is and is not! Of course your slowness to be to the point with this guy didn't help. Your friend did what you were hesitant to do and succeeded. You partially have yourself to blame. If this guy is a flirt, it is probably just as well she got him. Flirtation tends to lead to jealously and mistrust. You will see it unfold in front of your eyes, then you can thank your lucky stars that she got stuck with him!
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Take a break, let her realise for herself hes a loser. You need to play abit more harder to get, I know you love her very much but a girl likes to chase, not to be chased! if you get what i am saying, if u r the right one then she will realise. if she doesnt realise then its her loss. Atleast u learnt ur lesson to try n be urself more, then maybe she will c u for who u r. She is 2 obsessed with this druggo to think of you as more than a friend, howabout you talk to her best friend (female friend) and tell her what is going on? She needs to hear about the other guy from someone elses mouth otherwise she will pretend to herself you r just making up the stories about him being a druggi so that you will seem better than him. Send her a bunch of red roses one day, do whatever you can to make her come to her senses, as to forgetting the other guy- figure out whether he is interested in her or not, if he doesnt want anything to do with her than she needs to know that so she can get over him!!\n\nYou probably love her so much because she was your first love, and they are always the hardest to get over.\n\nSorry i wrote so much..\n\nGoodluck with everything and i hope it all works out :)
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I have the same problem budd :-(  \nTell her you like her but say that if she dosen't feel the same way you feel about her then just say you'd still like to be her friend.
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tell her how much you feel for her, if she doesn't feel the same, move on man! You have done and said what you are supposed to.
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I think he's a great enough friend to tell you exactly what he's feeling. He cares about you, and enough to know that he doesn't want to make you hurt again. You need to understand that he won't be around with you forever. Make some other friends, but never give up your friendship with him. Leave him with his girlfriend and just be as carefree and happy as ever. He's not the end of the world. Maybe you'll get even closer someday.
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I know how you feel,except mine was a guy.When I had finaly told him,he never talked to me again,but grls are different.Just spend more time ith her, ask he4r questions about life and love.See how she feels first.You dont want to rush things,but you don't want her hanging on the edge of her seat waiting for you to tell her.If I were her,I would want you to tell me,and if I didn't feel the same at that time I'ld let you know.If you do tell her,and she shunns you, don't let it get to you.It sounds like you're a very kind and sweet person.You could get any grrl....\n\n\n~~~~Panda Grrl
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girl, if she thinks u ditch her, then spend some more time with each other. Also, she has gotten so protective over this friendship! That means she loves you as a best friend! But if it is really bothering you, then sit and talk to her about it. If she doesn't listen or care, then she is not a good friend.
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Hi/There.\nWell! My Friend !\nYou are simply in Love With this Girl !\nYou should find some time , as difficult as this may Be to talk to her !\n( Where there is a will. There is a WAY !)\nIf You tell her Your Feelings ! I am sure She will be very Flattered !\nIf Not ! ( what have You lost !)\nMaybe a little self Respect ? NO BIG DEAL !\nAll ways a NEXT TIME !\nGood Luck Bro !\nRegards Nick.
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She is messing with you head.  She knows and has known that you like her, she loves the attention and doesn't really give a darn about your feelings.  Sorry to say the harsh truth.
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If it got you messed up then it sounds like you're still into her? Does she give you signs that make you think she likes you? What is your heart telling you to do? You only have one life and you have to make the most of it, please bear that in mind. Also, how good is your friendship? Are you settling for friendship, because you couldn't go out with her originally, or do you truly care about her as a friend? Try to establish what it is you do feel, then act upon it. Or are you messed up cos u think these guys may try to use her, and as a mate you're looking out for her?
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Why not. If you are open with your communications right now, she may be shy about telling you how she feels about you too. And let her know that no matter how she feels about you, you still want to be her friend. Some of my best friends are guys who love me, but they are more like brothers or close friends to me.