Hi Im 17 years old I have dating my American boyfriend since I just before 15 years old, Im wanting do my final year of highschool with my boyfriend and graduate with the person that means so much to me. I want to go to prom with my boyfriend and after graduating get married but how do i do that im 17 years old . My parents have no problem of me going to live with him, he's the love of my life (my soul mate). I cant help that Im Canadian but the thing i dont get it that U.S.A and Canada are like neighbours ???? There really should be no problem but there is . I just want to have a normal relationship like other people have, its so hard i've studied to take The Green Card Test but Im still not old enough, through-out highschool Ive tookin all the credits i need to graduate in America, and i have already 3 credits ahead of the highschool standard of 24.All I want is to have a happy life with this guy that I love so much! PLEASE HELP !
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if you marry this guy you won't have to worrry about the greencard test right away. As for now you might be able to get a exatage student like thing set up, but with your boyfriend
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There is nothing wrong with you, you are just growing up.  From the ages of 17 to 25 people grow and experience a lot of stuff.  It is a time for them to really begin to figure out who they are and where their lives will eventually lead.  Unfortunately sometimes that means we grow apart and away from relationships we previously thought would be with us forever.  I think you will probably need to let your boyfriend down and be single for awhile so you can continue to grow and figure out who you are and what you want in life.
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Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
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seriously, education is soooo important.  way more important than a high school boyfriend.  you just need to remember how important the next few months are to your future.  once you get to college, you'll have your focus back.  just get through high school!
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Oh my...this is an extreme version of a Romeo and Juliet situation!  My heart cries for both of you!  I am teary eyed right now  :(   Are you both in Israel?  I do hope both of you are very careful and is practicing safe sex.  It is like the wall that divides the Jews and Palestinians.  In your young age both of you are very vunerable and dependent to your respective families.  If you can keep your secret, then keep it until you reach an age that both of you can leave your parents home.  When you get to college, study in a school away from your home and if possible outside your country.
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I am actually one of those girls that has been engaged for years (2 to be exact). We got engaged before I finished my undergrad degree and decide to wait until I finished my masters. Anyway, it seems to me that just as long as you and your boyfriend have similar life goals, marriage may not need to be rushed into. Maybe you should wait until after you are done with school. Then you will have more money and time to plan your wedding. At the risk of scaring him away, I think that you should at least sit down and have a serious conversation about where you both see each other in the next 5 years. Having a frank conversation about your goals will help you to determine whether he is genuine when he says that you are the one, or if this is simply a ploy he uses to avoid confrontation or a possible break up. Remember that a marriage is life long commitment. It isn't something you should try to squeeze between school semesters out of convenience.
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first of all hes too old for you. grow up girl, you got more important things for you to worry about like graduating school first.
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Sorry about your prom, dear, but there will never be a time when our young men aren't serving their country in another part of the globe. That's what we DO. It's our job. it isn't always pretty, but it's always the truth. We are useless at home. We have no purpose at home. Our job is simply to defend and uphold the constitution against all enemies, foreign and domestic. But I really do hate that your guy might miss your prom. I missed my girl's prom back before you were born, and I've always hated letting her down. It will bother him as much as it does you, and probably for a lot longer. But remember he's doing what he has too, not what he wants too. I'm sure if he had a choice, he'd be dancing with his girl, not laying on a cot staring at your picture.
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I met my husband when I was in 8th grade and he was a freshman. We married when I was 23. If he likes you like that it will eventually come out. Just make sure that if you want things to go all the way make sure you trust him and you are ready. Don't let him pressure you. I am a firm believer in waiting until marriage. Just so you know but I know that age and how a guy will say if you love me you will. Well honey if you love yourself you won't. Right now you are probably like one of the guys to him because you play football which there is absoulutly nothing wrong with but if you want him to notice you do your hair and put on a LITTLE make-up and just get a little giggly. They like that. Good luck and remember respect yourself. Because you are worth it!!
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Dont do anything till there's a ring on your finger baby. Your boyfriend is just that, a boy-friend. He may hook up with some cheerleader in six months for all you know. No one looks out for you but YOU. Finish school where you're at right now, once you have your degree, then you can think about moving. But you think about what's good for you first. \n\nThat's the problem you women have, you put your man first, thinking, "he wouldnt ask me to move there if it wasnt a good idea." Wrong! He's not thinking about what's good for you, he's thinking about what's good for him! He wants you there to take care of his needs, sexually, monetarily and general housekeeping. He could give a rat's azz about your degree, your friends or your family. Ask yourself, would you make him move? Didnt think so...
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8th grade, huh?  That makes you about 12 or 13.  Hmm, I can give you an answer from the standpoint of someone about 10 yrs older...but I don't think that's what you really want.  To be brief and to the point, find a guy you like and want to be with because of who he is and not because you want ppl to envy you and your boyfriend.  If you do like I say, ppl will envy you because you're with someone you want to be with because of who he is and what you'll have together.  If that doesn't make someone envy you then I'm as far removed from the human race as humans are to ants.  Btw, don't flaunt someone like you're talking about...you'll quickly find that you don't have that person for very long if he's really a nice guy.
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It's doesn't matter if you're in school, what matteris how mature you both are.\nMy husband and I were both 19. We were on our own, had stable jobs (I was in the Navy and he was in the Marine Corps), were financially independent, and more mature than most our age. We didn't like going out and partying or drinking (we out grew that stage in high school) and we knew we loved each other. It worked for us but it is harder. Statistics are against us but we know we'll last. \nThere are advantages to waiting but if you really love one another, and you'll willing to deal with extra issues (it is very hard) then get married now.
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If you're talking about college graduation, this is what you should do..."Mom, Joe and I are getting married after graduation.  We have our education under our belts, good jobs lined up, and have already found some affordable housing.  We love each other very much, are committed to each other, and want nothing more than to take care of each other"\n\nIf you're talking about graduating from high school, wait until the above speech applies to you.
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When i met the love of my life i was 18 i just passed high school and he was studying medicine with working in same hospital.We lived in same building but never met each other.We met online when he was abroad working(he had finished studies)and i was in college.He loves me and i know it since he waited for me till i was 24 years old which i am now soon we plan to take our relationship to next luck.So if he loves you hell be with you until you pass univ and have a job.As for not being able to do things he does he told me the same thing he never made it like it mattered to him that i couldnt go out party i was living with my parents studying he used to get off chat to say go study lol and he used to make sure i was protected and loved and possesive about me.So thats your answer if he does love you if its meant to be it will be.
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University should be your choice because it will give you a foundation that you can rely on for the rest of your life.  If your boyfriend really loves you then he will still be there when you finish school.
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My high school sweetheart and I got married about 4 months ago. I gradutaed in 2001, so we waited so we could make sure that we did what we wanted in life and also make sure that we truly wanted to be together and spend a life together. People change when they get out of high school, and especially if they are going to college. I would wait until the college years are over, because you never know what the future holds, and if you both make it during these years and nothing tears you apart, then go for it, the wait is worth the anticipation. Good Luck, and I hope you the best.
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Be friends first!! Dont just think you can dive into a relationship and expect it to work. Get to know eachother really well. I met my fiance in a online chat room. We were friends first for a few years, now we're planning on getting married soon. I live in Canada and hes in the USA. We get to see eachother in person every few months, and talk on the phone everynight and use our webcams as much as possible. So this new girl you've met could end up being someone you want to spend your life with. Just take it slow. Nothing just happens overnight. As far as wanting to see eachother. Dont just think either you or her have to move to be with eachother. Long distance relationships do and can work out. All depends on you and the other person. If it does turn out that you want to spend your life with this girl, theres options. You can have her move to the US to be with you, or you move there. Right now, I'm waiting on my fiance visa to move to the USA, so thats an option for you. I dont know how the government in the Phillipines works, but thats something you can look into. Remember, one step at a time. Best of luck to ya!