Ok so this girl and i went out for 8 1/2 months, we broke up and i thought i was over but recently i clearly am not over it and want to go out again. She know si like her and her friends who are also my friends now i like her, but she has not given a single sign or told her friends anything that would help me
199998
ben for the love of god!! do not act interested in her, trust me. ex-girls do this thing where they wait for your attention and then as soon as they get it they freaking bounce. the best thing(and the hardest)for you to do, is jsut be her friend like you two never even dated. totally hit on other chicks in front of her and when she's all like "whats with that" be like "nothing i thought you didnt care" thats right turn that shit around on her ass. fuck yeah!!
330464
You have to make the move. You wont get anywhere in any aspect in life if you do not take risks. Chances are she still has some feelings for you. Tell her how you feel before its too late...or atleast ask her to hang out or go to coffee or maybe to something you used to do together. You HAVE to talk to her. If you are just trying to attract her do subtle things that remind her of when you were together but either way you have to show/tell her that you are interested again. Follow your heart!
87326
GIRL I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL THATS THE POSITION I'M IN RIGHT NOW BUT DON'T WORRY JUST DON'T TALK 2 YO FRIEND BECAUSE SHE NO GOOD .THAT MEAN SHE LIKED  HIM THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T EVEN ASK U WAS IT COOL AND HE WRONG FOR ASKING YO FRIEND THAT MEANS HE MAD BECAUSE U BROKE UP WITH HIM JUST STAY COOL OR DO WHAT I'M DOING TALK 2 ONE OF HIS FRIENDS AND ACT LIKE YALL GO OUT 2 GET HIM BACK SO THAT HE WILL KNOW HOW IT FEELS.
49353
Well the next step it seems to me, is to just come out and ask her.\n\nMy friend, if she is continuing to go out with you she may be feeling the same way or already know that you want her back. But you should still ask to be certain.\n\nWhat is the worst she can say? There can be only two answers to a question like that and one of them is the one you are longing to hear.\n\nSo suck in your pride and ask her.
140730
im in the same situation.. because of my past.. im afraid to get too attatched just to get hurt AGAIN... but honestly.. .if you like this girl alot.. and you're willing to wait to see where it may go, go for it! BUT LIKE SHE SAID.. if what you truly want is to walk away.. do what you gotta do... everyone goes through hard times.. but in the end.. she is probably more concerned with you being happy than anything else!
333780
Your screen name suits you perfectly.  If you just want to get laid, go for it.  I have seen this situation plenty of time to know that she doesn't love you.  She likes having you there to cry on.  She needs some love and affection, and you happen to be there.  If it wasn't you it would just be someone else.  What do you think would happen if your friend found out you guys hooked up, and then he decided to get back with her?  What would she do?  She would probably dump you in a second and get back with your friend.  If you think this would happen, then realize that she is only  using you.  Therefore, if she is using you for comfort, it is fair to use her for sex, but don't get your heart all involved.  Just do it and have fun.  She isn't really a girl you want to date seriously if this is how she normally acts.  Keep her around until you find a good one.
156064
Being a girl who has had that happen twice I think maybe I can help.  Talk to her on your own with no other people around. Laugh and have fun as usual and then once your feeling comfortable tell her just what you said.  "I feel like we have some kind of connection with each other."  If she says she feels it too, then tell her you think maybe y'all should explore it by going out on a date. Then let things develope from there.  If she doesn't feel the same then just don't go any further and you can stay friends until she does
293614
Well, first of all she's not your girl anymore. You've both had people in your lives after the break up which is fine. You weren't together and you both had someone else. She has no right to be mad at you if she is.\n\nIf she says that it doesn't matter whether or not you want to be with her then that's probably the truth. You need to both tell her and show her how you feel and than see what she has to say.\n\nI'm sorry to be harsh. I am a very blunt person. I wish you the best of luck.
419533
talk to her about it.  See if she wants to go out with you or if she likes things the way they are.
330359
if u have explained 2 her that this is the only reason maybe u should check up on that going out w/ 'friends' thing...shouldnt do any harm now...also explain that u still love her and if she loves u back she will at least listen 2 what u have got 2 say...or otherwise its over...i hope 4 the best
139856
yeah! she does wanna go out w/ u.take this opportunity to get to know her better and her to know u more...she just said that she wants to hang out w/ u and didnt use the term date coz maybe she's just shy to tell you...go! make her fall for u! goodluck!
492972
She's trying to be nice and stay friends, although it is the wrong thing to do.  It's obvious that she broke up with you because she already had someone she was interested in, and wanted to go for it.  It's possible she is trying to have her cake and eat it too.  I would personally tell her it's over, and to leave it at that.  OVER.  No more calls.  Just tell her to leave you alone.  She is being selfish and not thinking of you.
73643
From everything you said it sounds like you resisted her fairly well. What I don't understand is why you wanted to hang out with her in the first place. Did you want something to happen between the two of you? And if she is a so-called friend she wouldn't have been making the moves on you knowing you have a girlfriend. I would not tell your girlfriend about any of this, unless you are intending on breaking up with her. If in the future someone mentions it to her and she asks you, then you need to be honest with her about everything.
127778
I  would NOT go out with her again.  I would however give her my foot up her butt!  Why put yourself thru the heartache and drama when you know she makes a habit of dumping u at the drop of a pin?  Dont do that to yourself.  YOU DESERVE to find a girl who is going to love you and respect your feelings and this girl is completely selfish, immature, and uncaring.  The only person she cares about is herself!  Get rid of her for good!  Find a girl who will love u and not desert you every week!  Good luck to u!  DONT PUT YOURSELF THRU THEHEARTACHE OF THIS GIRL ANYMORE!
455282
She can be bitter and hurt. You said that you went out with her right? well maybe she had true feelings for you and you broke her heart in a very harsh way. So, for her not to be the fool for everyone else she became this nasty Bi@tch. She is like that around you, because that is her cry for her and attention from you. I think that she wants you back.
659334
you already waited too long.  i don't think she meant 6 months.  plus, you don't have to ask her out.  just call her and say hi.  see if she wants to hang out sometime.  tell her how you feel.
647169
look, i don't know how old you are, but i'm thinking... if you're 17 close to 18?  go for girls at least 16 years of age already, ok?  \n\nif you're not 17? ... here are some advice to consider:\n\n#1:  give you and her a break (at least over the summer) so that both of you can regroup.  understand, the way you've explained your situation and how things unfolded, the best scenario would be this:  you and her become platonic friends.  \n\n#2:  if you guys decide it's ok to "hang out" during the summer or any time during the summer?  BE FRIENDS.  this may be all she wants.  don't push for more.  if you do, you will more than likely lose her for good. \n\nif she all the sudden wants to get back with you during the summer?  the best thing would be for you to \nT - A - K - E...   I - T...  S - S - S- S - L - L - L - O - O - W.\n\n#3:  if you guys end up hanging out and summer is over, if she SAYS she wants to start going out again?  \nG-O   \nS - S - S- S - L - L - L - O - O - W.   \nsince you are older, let her set the tempo as to how "fast" your relationship goes.  ...you never know, you may end up being the one to step on the breaks.  \n\ngood luck, guy.  you've done all that you can.  the ball is in her court.  if it returns to yours?  \nT - A - K - E...   \nI - T...  \nS - S - S- S - L - L - L - O - O - W.