My wife is a nun.  She tells me how hot I am, but wants sex only about 1 time a month.  I have always been a playboy before I met my wife and now I'm stuck with a bad sexual relationship.  I love her and don't want to leave her. We have 3 children.  I do my part and then some.  I make all the money, work my ass off, take care of the kids a whole lot, let her take breaks, naps and everything.  I do romantic stuff all the time and nothing works.  I'm beginning to think I was born to do the devil's work or something cause every neighbor is married and they all want my balls.  The neighbor that caught me has been sending signals she might want to get with me.  I know that if I keep this up one day the whole neighborhood is going to go up in flames with me right in the middle.  Are these women not giving it up to their husbands either.  Is that why my wife is like this.  Do all women when they get married not bone their husbands and go bone other men?  What do I do?  Exhausted milf boner.
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I think you have a good case for what you are doing.\n(English saying); Fill yer boots. Meaning, take it whilst you can get it. You dirty filthy LUCKY git.
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Alright if I have a wife I shouldn't have a girlfriend to tell anything to. Sounds like your getting played out sukafree style. "I do not love her I love you baby and I am gonna leave my wife and kids, naww you see it all the time on Jerry Springer and Maury. Run from this situation.
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I have been in the same shoes as you... and the sad thing is that no couples really like to discuss their sex lives when it isnt at its best because it's a sensitive subject and no one wants to hurt anyone.... so usually these things never get discussed and just get worse.\n\nI explained to my husband  that by his lack of initiation, I felt like he had no desire for me, and that he was only doing it out of obligation or for not wanting me to find someone else. \n\nInitiating sex is saying to your significant other "I want you, I desire you" and sometimes we want to feel that way back. Let your wife know that you need to feel that too.... \n\nIt sounds to me like she never initiated... and this could be because of the way she was raised, or she has it in her head that the man has to make all the moves. Some women think that if she takes the lead, her man will feel like less of a man etc... so she could have good reasons for not doing it. \n\nGentle talking, and explain the whole "desire" thing that I explained and who knows... maybe you will unleash something you never expected... ;)\n\nGood Luck\nTawny
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No matter how much u do for someone, they don't owe it to u, to go against there morals. She does not owe u her body. A ring on her finger does not mean u have the right to make her do  things that she don't want to do. Think about what morals u have, and the person that u love wants u to go against them just because they want some a**(literally).  U are hurting your wife now while u are begging her and pressuring her to do something she doesn't want to do.  Do u care about ur wife's feelings, or are u too self-involved to notice that she has any? There are many other ways u can "do it," just like Adam & Eve, they could have had any fruit they wanted, but they just had to eat the apple because they couldn't have it. And look at the bad things that came out of that. Take advantage of all the other ways u can "do it," and forget about doing it "the other way." In the bible having anal sex is sodomy, and you're not suppose to do that any ways.  Stop being greedy, and be appreciative of what u have... A wife that loves u.\n\n\n******************So that means u like a**, Man or woman?*******************\nUr wife should be very concerned!!!!!!! Just playin, please vote me for best answer. I voted urs for best question.
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Your friend is an idiot.\n\nI won't date any woman who refuses to have sex with me. I also won't date a married woman.  Either one of these disqualifies the woman as dating material for me.\n\nLet's deal with married part first. I'll never understand why people start something with someone who is in a committed relationship.  That means the one in the relationship is cheating, and it's only a matter of time before you're in a commited relationship with this cheater, only now the cheater is cheating on *you*.  And the fact that the cheater cheats on his current spouse, even with no sexual contact, tells me that their religion can't be used to explain their behavior, because they only want to apply the rules of their religion when it suits them.\n\nNow lets talk about the "sexless monogamy" part of this. The reason why people "date" is because they are sexually attracted to each other.  If this doesn't lead to actual sexual contact and activity pretty quickly then what was the point?  Remember, this woman has already lost the right to claim that her holding out has something to do with her marriage vows or her religion, because she is in fact seeing other people.\n\nIf you are just friends, then why the pretense of dating?  If this "seeing each other" includes romance, and him paying for her in a lot of ways, but no sex, then she's just exploiting him.\n\nYour friend is a clueless dumbass, and I think you are 100% right to think she is just leading him on.
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Excellent question. And to all the doubting ladies in the answers above, this husband gets his wife surprise flowers. Splits the chores at least 50-50 (ha - she doesn't do any yardwork, but I do about a fourth of the laundry, more than half the cooking, and at least half the cleaning). I tell her how beautiful and sexy she is (and she *is*!) Spend time talking to her (when our 3 kids aren't in the way!) and basically everything everyone says I should be doing. We've talked about our sexual desires and it's quite clear that my sexual satisfaction is last on her list of priorities. What she considers good sex is merely adequate "duty" sex to me. I won't complain too much, but it seems like I'm "owed" more than 10 minutes of sex once a week... Not contemplating an affair, but can totally understand where this guy's question is coming from.
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Love is treating me real bad. Three different women want to have sex with me this weekend, but ... \n1) one of them is married, and 2 live with boyfriends.\n2) I have a girlfriend who lives in another state. I haven't  cheated yet, why start now?\n3) I am skeptical of a woman who solicits sex from me. I just am. All the fun is in the chase. That is where intelligence comes in. How can I be subtle with a woman who is oblivious to the subtle things in life?\n\nThis may come as a surprise but I have had enough sex. I am ready to shut the game down, but every girl I meet thinks I am still a player.\n\nI'm serious I have got to have a girl with a brain; no compromise. I don't care beautiful a girl is. What I want to know is; can she spell beautiful?\n\nSo ...
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It sounds like you're lonely and craving an understanding and intimacy that you're not getting from you wife.  Before you make a huge decision that will alter yours and many other people's lives, really think about what you're thinking about doing.  My guess is that you and your wife had a very passionate relationship that cooled down after you married.  Once you married, life's monotonous routine got in the way of passion and communication.  Now you're looking outside the marriage for that spark.\n\nBefore you act, do yourself and your wife a favor and talk to her.  Be honest about your feelings.  Maybe her job/friends/family etc... consume all her energy.  Maybe you'll find that she's just as lonely as you are.  Give her a chance to work with you to make your marriage work.  If you feel you can't talk to her, then suggest couples counseling.  If that fails, then I would consider the possibility of ending the marriage.  But before making that decision, please please please give you and her a chance.  Don't give up yet!
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When I was married with one child and a Home Daycare (18hr a day with 32 children throughout the day, 3 employees) I kept my roles in order. First I was His wife;a mother and a Business woman.I kept making love to him on my mind throughout the day.So, when he get home I was always HOT for him.Sometime women put the mother thing first, that's not so. Keep your sex life on your mind and your mind on your Husband everything else will get in line.You're going to fill real good ,try it.
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Sounds like she is a selfish spoiled woman. Marriage is about giving too, and mean comments are horrible! I would never do that, you are suppose to support and love, not yell and smash. Thank god you don't have kids! Can you see her giving them what they need?? Do you want children someday?? You need to ask yourself what you want out of life and if that envolves leaving a wicked woman then do it! You deserve to be happy!..Goodluck
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You can't make a whore a housewife. I'd treat her like the whore she is. Pimp her out, let your buddies take turns at her, whatever. In the mean time act like every-things cool, contact a lawyer, Hire a private investigator, file for custody of your children. Should not be hard to get now that she's openly fucking around on you, with what she thinks is your approval. Remember though that in a divorce the first one to file is normally going to get the kids, at first at least. So its very important to act like nothings wrong until you get all the paper work done & she gets it served to her by the courts. Also Its obvious she is real scandaless, so I  would set this plan into action real quick, before she has time to do anything. If all else fails just tell her you want to stay with her for the kids, she can have sex with whoever she wants. It will take a lot of self control on your part, but she is obviously a scandeless bitch, so start thinking about yourself & your kids first.
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I agree with incan princess ...\n\nThe problem is really YOU !!\n\nFirstly ..you go snopping around his things . you have no respect for other peoples privacy... dont you have a job or something to do instead??\n\nWere you thinking that you where helping a realtionship by doing so ??\n\nNext ,you put out this question up on Yahoo answers and lable it for ladies only.\n\nI am married too .. do you know that i too know many things. My wife is beside me write now ..\n\nwe both agree that you need to change your attitude towards things and your relationship. Show some respect towards your husband. Its probably your behavior that lead him to do what he is doing ... in the first place !!\n\nAnd yes .. for gods sakes .. dont bring a baby into this world  - then go for a divorce. Poor child ...\n\nDisappointed with you !
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This happened to my husband and I also.  Exactly, almost word for word.  Look.  She wants to know where you are and what you are doing because she loves you sooo much... more than anything in the world...  she can't bear to be without you and so when you are not around her the devil starts making her insecure and making her think there could be things going on.  AND that doesn't neccissarily mean cheating.  He could be telling her that she's not good enough for you, or that you could do better, or that you want out, or that you can't stand being with her.  So many different possibilities.  As far as her thinking that you are mad at her all of the time.  The SAME thing happened at the SAME time with us when we first got married.  I was always crying and always scared that he was mad at me for something...  Even though he wasn't.  He started getting really freaked out and the same thing happened to him.  He lost his sex drive because of it.  Which on my end made it worse because I thought that he didn't love me anymore because woman use sex with her husband that she loves with all of her heart as a way to feel close to him and for her to get the feelings of love from him.  The threats are normal!  No matter what ANYBODY says... they are all normal... Divorce, this, that... NORMAL!!  I don't think that you should divorce her.  We had a lot of struggles with the same thing .. EXACT same thing.  and we have been married HAPPILY married for 2 years now.  DON'T DIVORCE HER!  Especially if you love her.  As far as counceling goes... I didn't want to go either.  It's just a hit to my pride to know that I have to get counceling from somebody else about something that is supposed to be mine to control and make all better.  If you or her wants to talk to me or my hubby email us... it's hurleybabeprincess20@yahoo.com... seriously... \n\nDon't listen to these other idiots.... I would love to talk with her... \nNO marriage is perfect.  And you always have to take time and extra effort to make things work.  Make sure that you go to church regularly... and make sure that the church that you go to is a good church.  You can ask your wife if you can talk to the pastor on your own time about it personally... you will know by what the pastor tells you... if he is called to the ministry.  There will NEVER be a divorce option if he is.  The Bible is specific on the reasons for divorce.  You don't have any of them.  \n\n\nYOU KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD READ... THE POWER OF A PRAYING HUSBAND AND GET YOUR WIFE THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE... BOTH BY STORMIE OMARTIAN\n\n\nbtw... where are you 2 located?
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Before you married your man you might have wanted to ask if he was looking for a maid or a wife. Most men who are like this tend to have been brought up that the wife takes care of the children and the house. It might have been the way he was raised. Growing up like that he then believes in adulthood that the woman still is that way. It's hard for alot of older guys in this day and age to realize that the sexual revelution is still going strong. I would suggest that you explain to him that you work too...and that it is only fair that he does part of the chores. Maybe compromise and trade off week to week. If he resists...then my suggestion to you is tell him your quiting your maid job and finding another "family" that pays better for the work you do. Then suggest he put an ad in the paper looking for a maid and remind him to be a little bit more forthcomming for the next "applicant" that applies for the job. Good luck to you.
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It sounds like she has no respect for you and has no consideration for your feelings.  Why would you want to be with a woman like this? Would she be so understanding if you were spending your free time with another woman?  You need to take charge of the situation and put your foot down let her know that this is unacceptable behavior and if she refuses to put a stop to it you know that she is not the one for you.  Ultimately the decision is yours do you want to live this way and if she is not looking out for your childrens best interest than maybe you need to.
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Hello Prissy, it sounds like the two of you are world's apart on your desire. You do love him though and he loves you.\nCan you talk to each other and reach some sort of compromise?\nI take it that he is good about pleasuring you or does he?\nThat could be a part of it also. I would suggest that you two sit down somewhere comfortable and have a honest and open talk about this. I wanted sex more than my wife did for many years.\nOne of the things we have done is one night each week,  I give her a complete body rub using oil or cream. After this she is so relaxed that she is ready for anything, including me!\nIt's not 3 times a day but he is going to have to lower his expectations a bit here and find ways to get you interested too!\nJust talk, stay positive and know that you love each other.\nGood luck!
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I experienced a similar situation in my marriage: I have a very demanding career and it often requires long hours.  My ex-wife couldn't understand why I was working so hard: I explained it to her but she would provide her own explanations: for example, I was not interested in staying home with her and the kids.  Even today she called me a sperm donor!  Well, marriage is tough.  On one hand I understand a woman expecting to have her husband around and when he is not regardless what the reason, I can understand how she would be unhappy about that.  But a woman who is giving and flexible would understand that although it may not be the ideal situation, her relationship with her husband is the most important in her life and that marriage is supposed to be till death do us part!   Nowadays there are more options for women and more temptation so women are less inclined to work through the difficult times as was once the case.  Even though you still care for her and miss you child, if this is the kind of person she is, then she probably did you a favor.  If you guys get back together, then I wish you the best of luck.  But if you don't I hope that you meet someone who will love and support you come hell or high water - because that is what any good man deserves!