o i got into this really cool school called rensselaer polytechnic institute..but my mom says i cant go cos where i come from any college with polytchnic at the end is really bad..but this one is good from what i hear...now i came to america i found out that not all polytechnic schools there are bad..my mom on the other hand is still in nigeria and she isnt even happy that i got into this school.now she wants me to go to another school which isnt half as good.. how do i convince her?? HELP!!!!
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Mom is someone who would always what betterment of her children. so if she asks u to do something  that she thinks is right for u  then thats becoz she  loves u a lot & cares of u, i completely understand what u  must be going thru when ur mom fails understands ur  views of life ,but believe me that too is just becoz she loves u a lot , she still thinks that u are her little kid & she needs to take care of u . now at this stage , if u are not able top convince ur mom towards something , take  the help of another person who can convince her, any of ur moms freinds or her siblings or any elders in the family whom ur mom respects &  obeys & loves. make them understand the  facts  & ask them to convince or make ur mom understand that u are right .\n       One last thing  ur mom is a person who has brought u this  world , she is the one who has equal rights on  ur life as u do. becoz u are a part of her own self.\n        LOVE UR MOM A LOT , TRY TO KEEP HER HAPPY.\n\n AND ONE LAST THING  "ITS ALWAYS NICER TO WIN THE BATTLES WITH UR KINDNESS."\n\nBE EXTRA KIND TO UR MOM  MAKE HER FEEL THAT SHE IS VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT TO U & U WANT HER HAPPY ALWAYS  TRUST ME , SHE WILL MELT FOR U .
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""I wouldnt suggest that if you want to go to college. If you are emmanipated ,then you will be considered independent for financial aid. Just live with your mom and do well at college. You'll be in much less debt later in life.""\n\n-------Actually it would work in her favor if she applies for federal financial aid.  If she gets emmancipated, she will be considered a ward of the court... Therefore, she wouldn't have to include her mother's income on the FAFSA (application).\n\nThat doesn't mean that I'm encouraging her to become emmancipated.  I am NOT!\n\nUnless your mother is abusing you in some way, please wait.  It's only a year.  Life on your own is so very hard.  I can't even find the right words to express how difficult it is.  Your final year will give you a chance to prepare.\n\nIf you do wish to go through with this, I can't advise you.  I'm not familiar with the law with regards to this subject.  Research the laws in your state.  Should be pretty easy to research....\nVisit libraries, talk to people in the legal field, search online, etc...\n\nThink long and hard before making a decision.  Your mom probably loves you and just does whatever she thinks is best.  Parents aren't always right, but their hearts are usually in the right place.\n\nGood luck.  I hope whatever your decision is will be the right one.
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Here's a thought:\n\nCollege is about education. Education includes exposure to places and people that are unlike your hometown and your family.  Try gently explaining this to your parents.\n\nIf you're not expecting any financial support from them, you don't need permission to go, but try to address their anxieties with a calm, reasoning attitude, and perhaps they'll lighten up a bit.\n\nThey're obviously afraid for you to go somewhere far from home.  They'll miss you.  It's a big world out there, and they're uneasy about you "flying the nest." Perhaps they don't understand that leaving home is part of your education and growing independence too.\n\nJust be gentle, and give them time.  They'll come around eventually. Later, when you start to provide them with evidence of how well you're doing (good grades, new ideas, a genuine passion for a particular area of study), I bet they'll even be proud.
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Just be careful...you're still very young!  Living with someone and dating them are two different things.  Its very diffcult, even when you have a good relationship.  Why don't you just stay there for the summer and see how things go...and if that works out then move in with him.  I wouldn't just throw my bag over my shoulder and go down there without a plan (i.e. a job lined up, a school that's accepted you).  Your mom is right in being concerned b/c it seems to me like you don't have a real plan other than moving in with your boyfriend.  If you want your mom to accept this plan you need to show her that you actually have a PLAN.  Just moving in is not a plan.  Apply to some schools down there, and apply for some jobs, and maybe she'll be more apt to support your move.
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Talk to her...first you need to be honest with yourself if you your usually a bad kid, acknowledge that and tell her how much it hurts you to see you dissapoint her and therefore want help to change. If your whine alot and complain about the world, and claim everything is everyone else fault (which if you are your probably like nope...not me =)) lol, but if she says you are talk to her about the future and how you're maturing and realized that you have to take control and except responsibilities. If your a pretty decent kid though but I guess she doesn't like your BF I honestly think you should listen to her reasons why whether you think she "knows him", if thier superficial reasons like he's not your race or too poor or some bull like that then your mom's an @-- (sry to say) but therefore has no more credibilty on her opinions of people. If it's because your BF is too old, a dog, something like that, your mom has wisdom and experience and trust me she IS right. I don't really know what you n your mom's problem is so I tried touching on random things, hopefully some of thoserandom thing's hit you and it helped, thanks and I hope you and your mom works things out, a girl no matter how old, can never live without her mother =)
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Hey there: I had a great 4 years at a school I don't remember visiting until after I made my decision. So, there's proof that you are not doomed! That said, I knew that I wanted to be in the greater Boston area, wanted a small liberal arts school, and wanted a great chemistry department. I think the more you really know about what you want, the better your chance of getting it! Think about the education, of course, but also things like: \n1  - how large a school would you like to attend? Big schools often have more varied classes, but can be overwhelming to some folks.\n2 - how far from home do you want to be? (my parents did not like the idea of my moving half way across the globe, and I was happy that I ended up closer to home!)\n3 - if you have an idea of what you want to study, great, but... unless you are 110% certain, I'd recommend not choosing a school just based on the strength of one program.\n4 - in what kind of neighborhood is the school? I knew myself well enough to know that I did not want to be in a big city, but I also wanted to be near one. (I ended up about 10 miles outside Boston...)\n\nIf you can't get to see the schools you're interested in, you might consider meeting with alumni in your area. If you call the schools' admission offices, they often can point you at alumni (my alum mater sends me prospective students!). Then, you can get an idea of what the school was like when the person you're speaking to graduated. (So, try to find recent grads - unlike me!)\n\nYou can also ask if the admission's office can give help you contact current students. If there is a line of study that particularly interests you, ask if there is a professor you can talk to on the phone. \n\nHave fun deciding. Although I remember agonizing over the decision, I think that the biggest learning experience I got was learning how to learn: how to pick up information fast, and communicate well. I also picked up the best friends I ever expect to have. Even after more than 25 years, we are still as close as ever.
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The problem with deciding for her is that she may rebel.  If she chooses herself then she has to prove that it was the right decision.  If you choose, she can go about proving that it was the wrong choice.  She is more involved and committed if you let her choose.  It's not the end of the world.  She can change back later.  Art school graduates can do academic stuff in college.  She's not really deciding for the rest of her life.  They change their majors all the time.  My boyfriend calls it "malicious compliance" which is what you often get when you dictate something like this.
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I assume that you actually care about going to this school.\nYou need to tell them the truth. Just include the good reasons why you want to go to this particular university. Mention the things that would make a person want to go there.\nDon't say stuff like your parents want you to or its the only place that you think you can into.\nI assume that you actually care about going to this school.
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You can't do anything in regards to your parents. BUT I say stay in school get educated and then move out on your own. If your father is wrong then give your mom support. And right now, from what you have supplied here your dad is dead wrong.
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Now that you are in High School, grades mean a lot more.  You have to ask yourself what do you want to do with your life.  If you have your sights set reasonably high, you'll need good grades in HS in order to even get into college.  It sounds like you've messed up your first year, but you can always spin that to college admissions people as having struggled but then you realized the error of your ways and redoubled your efforts and brought your grades up to something respectable. \n\nPlus, if your Mom was proud of you for behaving, imagine how proud she'll be when you start bringing home C's, B's and even some A's!
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hey man, i know what it can be like to have a mom and dad that aren't around for you to set examples for you in life. When i think about when i used to live with my mom and dad the only thing i think of is "what doesent kill you, makes you stronger" but ofcource everyone situation is different. my advice would be to talk to one of your close family members if you have one, if not, a school counselor and go from there. good luck in life man and keep kicking ass in school... its the key to success!
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If you are under the age of 18, your parents decide where you should go to school. However, if you are a good speaking terms with your parents, a frank discussion of the choices may be in order. Remember, your parents have your best interest at heart. \nYou mentioned that your mom wants to homeschool you. There may be other homeschooling families with kids your age. You may be able to study with them and participate in activities as well. It may be worthwhile to check out.
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Maybe your mom can teach you better grammer and spelling than your school has.  Why would you want to "get back at your mom"?  You are an ungrateful person.
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Slight giggles, I am a US Citizen and desire to study in India. My answer might not be helpful but the only way you can change your parents attitude and thoughts is by telling them to give you a chance to prove yourself. You're not a small girl anymore. You need to step in the big bad world and face everything by yourself! Tell them about the pros and cons of studying abroad. While it is true that no place is as safe as your home town because you've been around it so much, everything has it's ups and downs. Is there a specific place you want to study? Do some research, share important facts with your parents so they can start believing you. It is nothing more than the lack of trust that is holding you back. Don't give up on your dreams, pursue them anyway. Your strong steps today will make a bolder woman tomorrow. Good luck with your future.
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You have to make a choice. Nothing sucks more than being somewhere you don't want to be. (You wouldn't happen to be in the middle of Kansas, would you? I did that. It sucked.)\n\nYou have to decide if you are going to make the most of the shi**y situation, or if you are going to do what you really want to do. \n\nIf you want to go somewhere else, you'd better start applying and seeking financially aid now. Stand up to your parents and tell them that it is YOUR education, and you want to be happy. Or, if you haven't already done so, sit down with them and have an adult conversation about this. They might just listen if you are calm and rational about it. \n\nIf you are to stay where you are, start looking for classes that you would enjoy. Seek out what things you could do for fun. How close is the biggest city? Are there any clubs you could join? \n\nYou have to make the most of what you have if you can't get what you want. :)
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is better for you to ask for a tour and seek information from the student themself, but do nt get you head stuck in one school ,there are more school who offers great stuff.you seem to have a good head on your shoulder,i wish the best,good luck.
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i hate being home to.  do whatever you can so you never have to live there and get yourself some good roomates.  when i used to have to move home for the summer i got a cat so that she was my little buddy and an escape for me. my mom's the same as yours as far as morals go.  just keep your mouth shut and deal with it because telling her what she doesn't want to hear will just cause conflict and make you more depressed.