both of my parents a dead and my wife has too kids that were brought upon her by a disturbed man who will spend the rest of his life in jail and no one said i had kids
211852
First and foremost finish your education. I can't imagine being 17, with a wife and two kids, but I know that if nothing else knowing the basics is important.\n\nNext make sure you have an understanding of what your family needs. Sit down and make a budget, and find out what it costs to keep your family sheltered, fed, clothed and then all the extras, cars, tv, internet etc.\n\nFinally go to the dept of workforce services and get assistance in getting a job that meets your skills and wage needs.
537403
Well first I will comend you for taking care  of your grandchildren. It's not your place but you are good for doing it. Not to be harsh but it really sounds like your daughter is craving the wrong kind of attention from men. She needs a hard dose of reality that men like that are no good and often are the ones who are crazy. As for you and the children in your care i would seriously consider moving. However you can pretty much find anyone on the internet. It's a terrible situation you daughter has put you in. I dont believe the police will do anything unless he makes threats or actually harms you. The thing that sucks is the same basic rights protecting you are the same rights he has even though he is an abuser. IN ANY CASE if are afraid for your life or your loved ones I would still call the police and see what they can do. Because state laws vary i may not be accuate on what the police can or can not do. I'll say a prayer for you and I hope everything works out ok for yoy.
468575
One parent, my mom and she did an awesome job.  My mom and dad divorced, he was a dead beat after they separated and I have refused till this day to have nothing to do with him.
29778
He sounds like a dirtball. Sorry to hear it. Get a good lawyer and take his a*s to court again. DONT listen to friends and family...get a lawyer. Your kids well being is worth it. GOOD LUCK!
568858
Your childrens safety comes first.  You should defintely tell him no way can he take them and its best he stays away until he resolves his legal troubles. If he really loves his kids, he will want to get straight.  If he doesn't really care about them, why would you let him anywhere near them.  Their lives are in your hands.  Be strong for them and do the right thing! You are all they have. \nTell him to write to them if he wants to stay in touch. Be sure to read the letters first.\nConsider this: if he takes them and gets arrested while he has them then what will happen?  Your ability to care for them will be questioned by the courts.  They can not lose you too. Be wise and do the right thing.  They are only little for a little while.
297199
i would call the montel show/or write a detailed letter to the show. She might be able to help you, if she can, she might have the answers that you need to put the person in prison. good luck, my heart is with you. my children never met their grandmother on his side, because she was murdered by their grandfather, i do know who did it, but i can sympathize with the heatache.
415895
I don't know what I can say that will help you but I can reassure you that you are not the only one. My ex disappeared for the first 6 yrs of my son's life and then reappeared acting like he was the best dad in the world. He constantly contradicts what I say (ex.: my son has dental sealants and can not have sticky candy because it will rip them off but he insists my dentist is a head job who doesn't know what she is talking about, he also tells him he doesn't have to listen to the stupid things I say, that my son doesn't have to be responsible for anything -he's 10, and so on). He also created a tape using one of his friend's to play for my son. The contents consisted of this impersonator telling my ex that I did not love my son, I did not want my son, my ex could keep my son, etc. My ex also has no problem with my son seeing pornographic materials lying about his household. My son told of this and more to a Children and Youth Services agent who told me even though what my ex was doing was inappropriate it was abuse. Now for the grand finale, I stopped my ex from seeing my son for 3 months because he informed me he moved back in with his child molesting mother whom my son was to have no contact with and while the investigation was taking place and I was trying to modify the custody arrangement. During this time he filed contempt charges against me, initially sending to the wrong address (one that didn't even exist) so I missed the first hearing. I later received a visit from a constable telling me if I didn't go to the next one I would be sentenced to jail. I had proof that he sent it to the wrong address before we had the hearing. At the hearing my ex couldn't decide where he was living or for what amount of time, stated I had denied him my son longer that occured, and brought forth info that his mother was recently forgiven for molesting her sons (my ex and his brother). The judge decided that he knew my ex had lied about the extended time but I was also in the wrong because I should have known (even though I lacked the resources to find out and frankly my ex should have informed me since he knew, I forgot we are still supposed to wipe their asses even after we are no longer together) that his mother was forgiven for her most heinous act and that he was no longer living with her. Never mind the fact that we had contact since I stopped letting him take him  and my ex could have mentioned it, never mind the fact that my ex couldn't even figure out where he was living, and never mind the fact that not once did I tell my ex he could not see him, that he could not take him, I WAS STILL IN THE WRONG. I was in the wrong for trying to protect my son. My fiance summed it up nicely, the courts are currently favoring the men. The court does not take the child's welfare into consideration just what they want as they are deciding.
315351
Call your Dad. Your Mom should be protecting you, not that scumbag. Even if the stepfather doesn't go to jail, maybe your Dad gan get you out of there. No matter how many problems it might cause, remember that YOU didn't cause the problems, that awful so-called "man" caused them when he did what he did. Anything that comes of it is NOT your fault. Call your Dad, please. Get yourself out of there.
41035
If you ask me, it's a big leap from "disrespectful" to jail.  Given the lack of thought that went into your question, I'm not surprised your kid is disturbed.  Don't send your own kid to jail.  If you have really exhausted all other option (which I doubt you have) you could consider in-patient treatment, but kids who go into juvie usually come out wose than they started.
494443
First of all, this isn't your fault it happened. And don't worry about your mother. YOU have to do what you need to do to help and take care of your own children. And if that means taking them to counseling or reporting them to the police-then do what you need to do!!! \nIt's up to you whether or not you report your son, but either way, I'd keep him away from your daughter. I would also seek counseling for your daughter if she isn't already. This is a very sad and sensitive issue. But she probably needs to talk to someone.  You may even need to talk to someone yourself. This must be terrible for you as well. I couldn't imagine going through something like this. It's always best to hear the victim out-and that is your daughter. Good luck in what ever you chose to do. You're in my thoughts.
531167
I kind of know how you feel.. when I was a kid, my mom remarried and her husband had two other children... I was never acknowledged by my stepfathers parents, on any occasion. And even after he died, my stepfathers brother had written the survival and named his two kids and my mom as survivors and didnt even mention me. oh well i guess i didnt exist.
306971
Dear Friend,\n\nYou need to speak to Child Protective Services.  They will tell you the process for your state.  Obviously, she'll get to tell the court her side of things as well.  If she's a real threat to your kids, hop on it.  If you just want to hurt her, find something better to do with your time.\n\nYour Friend,\nFrancesois
209706
why did you leave them with her if she was like that to start with. you can have her checked . you have to get a mental higene warrent for this but there is one thing either way it goes you might have to tell the courts why you left them to start with and in realaty loose the children as well my opion ?
569491
File a police report and get a lawyer.  Take your butt down to the police station, they probably take a statement and then send you to social services.  Social services should be able to advise you further on that situation.  If the health and well-being of your kids is at stake, then go take care of things.  If you let this scare you and don't take steps to solve this now, the State can step in later down the road and just take the kids.
637231
I doubt that incident will make a judge decide to give you custody.\nIt helps your case that he didn't see her. I doubt he'll even go to jail, but I don't have the details I need to make that decision. You are right not to expect too much. The DA will make a decision as to whether this matter will be brought to court. It sounds like you kept your part of the order when you sent your daughter to visit him. Did you know that your son would not be allowed? Did you send your son knowing that your x would not allow that? I am not trying to be dispectful, but am trying to point out possiblies. If you can afford it, hire an attorney to help  you with the matter.
90754
I am a mother and wife, and an ex-wife. I "left" my children's' biological father because he was abusive and a closet drug abuser. The "value" of my family was and still is everything to me. Just because I put my children's' lives and best interests in front of my own personal feelings doesn't mean that family has no value to me.....it means that I did what I had to do to make a better life for my family. And my ex. had every opportunity to see his children but thought and still thinks that there are things in life more important....how sad for him. Maybe you should look into your legal options in your state as far as visitation with your child goes....and I wish you well with that because every child deserves to have two parents that love and care for them. As far as the "women" that left you because of petty little things....well maybe you should re-evaluate your decisions on whom you date.
347727
sorry for your loss...that crappy that not only did you lose someone to a monster but the police aren't' doing their job...i suggest contacting your local media and present them with the evidence so they can interview your family and the attorney...i'll bet something will be done then...good luck.