All of my good friends are either married, or are either in relationships, so it is difficult to find a good roommate.. How can I attain one, and be confident that they will be a good roommate..?
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I found one of the best roommates in the world from www.roommates.com \n\nKeep in mind the more info you list the better. That way you will only get serious people that are truly interested. We also had pictures posted and a quick little biography of me and my then fiance (now husband)... I like to cook, he's a computer genius, we'd like a roomie we could share an occational pizza with, must like cats, room is 12x14, has it's own bathroom, high ceilings, furnished is you don't have furniture,.... etc....\n\nI'm dead serious. He's still our friend and after we left the apartment we even invited him and his fiance to our wedding.\n\nGive it a try, but keep an open mind. We found him after 2 weeks.
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I think having good friends will help you succeed in your marriage.  Rather than end the friendships you have, take the time to encourage your spouse to get to know your friends.  You should also get to know their friends as well. It's too much to expect one person to be your spouse and only friend for a lifetime.
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you can find good Friend but not the best. you can have one but not for a long time. people change every day, life too. try to have a normal friendship and stay away from idealism, bec it is not exist. before looking for the perfect Friend try to ask your self," Am I a good Friend for him/her or not?" once you find answer for this question, you would find the good and best Friend. start by yourself first!
39407
Maybe try being humble.  You're looking for a group of friends, as I understand it.
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just try and extend your horizons, and your groups of friends. i think the best relationships start off as friendships, or when u meet that person through friends.\n do you go to school?  work? try and talk to people you dont usually talk to, and hang out with them.
167261
Moving in with a friend is a risky thing, especially if you are afraid of getting sick of her. It can make the best of friends the worst of enemies. I lost a best friend doing the same thing.
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I went through a similar situation....what I discoved was that it wasn't anything I had done, but the people he was housed with were either jealous we had a strong relationship and they didn't or just "got off" on seeing other people "hard time". They have a lot of time to think in there, and their own insecurities get the best of them sometimes. Hang in there! My husband has been out for 1 1/2 years, and everything has worked out. I wish the same for you.
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lol....just be yourself...be confident!!! Like i said..it may take a while because I'm 23 years old, married and there are still things I shy away from. It happens but like i said..be confident. You don't need you friends to introduce you to there female friends if they don't want to. Introduce yourself...have a nice conversation and take it from there.  And it's good you don't use your car or money for the women. There are soo many women out there looking for a guy like you. Give it some time.
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Why not ask a favour from a friend of yours, and arrange a "double" date.  Then tell your g/friend that you thought it would be nice to go to ...... (wherever), and that you thought you would bring .........(your friend) along, so why not bring her roommate.  If you are lucky, maybe your friend and the room mate will hit it off.  If not, talk to your g/f.  Make plans well in advance with her, so that you get your arrangements with her before the room mate does, and say something like  "I thought we could go to ........ (wherever), it will be really nice to do something alone together".  That way, you are hinting that you want to spend time alone with her, without telling her that her room mate is a pest.  Good luck!
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My real friends accept me for who I am and also don't let me cut them out of my life so easily.  You find out who your real friends are even when life changes (moving away, new job, new school, bad breakups, etc).  They've been there for me through it all and I hope I've done the same for them.  These are the people you can count on when life seems to be going the other way.  Yea, there are times when they aren't perfect, but are you? No one is and you only try your best.
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Why is it that you find yourself with short term friendships or lacking friends?  Sometimes we fail to re-evaluate ourselves to make sure that we are not the ones running all of our friends away.  Real friends are placed in your life you can't just go looking for them.  If so you may end up with people just in your life to bring you down.  I have met my bestest friends through grade school and college, at work, and even friends of the family.  These people are faithful to me because I am the same to them.  Maybe you need to be just a little more outgoing.  Start up a conversation every once in a while with someone you don't know, you never know how much you all could have in common and who knows you may find that longlasting friendship you were looking for.
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me also before i had this same problem.only thing you have to make so many friends.and choose a good friend from there.share everything with her/him.you will be strong.\nokay.
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The best advice I can give you is to try and make friends with your co-workers or neighbors.  When I moved to the city I live in now, I became great friends with my neighbors and we hang out all the time.  Also I met people through work. And have made great friends that way too.  Another idea might be to join a class with some kind of interest to you and make friends that way whether its a cooking class, an aerobics class, or an art class.  These places are great for women getting together and hanging out.  Its easy to make conversation at places like this.  Once you've started a conversation and after a few times going to a class or talking to people at work its much easier to start planning things outside of these areas to go and have a drink at a bar or catch a movie or go shopping together.  Women aren't that weird about meeting new people and accepting new friends.  It has worked for me and now I have plenty to do in my free time.  I go get my nails done with a woman from work and another friend from work and I go to have drinks now and again, and my old neighbor I mentioned, we get together and our kids hang out.  When I took classes at college I met all kinds of nice girls to hang out with and we would go to the mall or grab coffee and hang out.  There are lots of women out there just like you looking for the same thing.  I hope I helped you!
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I met my good guy while in school.  He lived in my residence hall, and while in school we never hung out too much.  Just nights out at the bar with mutual friends.  Then after we had both graduated, we got into contact again.  It's been an amazing time.\nDon't worry about being at the right place at the right time.  He will find you when you least expect it!
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I do that too.  When my roommate was out of town, I had to check everywhere - Under the bed, in the shower, in the closet... just to make sure I was the only one in the apartment.  But there is a point where you go overboard.  You can't always be afraid, but a girl has got to be careful these days!  Maybe talking to a couselor would make you feel more secure.  Or take a self-defense class.  I did and now I feel like if I DID find someone hiding in my apartment I could kick thier butt!
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honestly i would love to be so close to a guy that i could room with him with no problems, it would be a challenage but i think a good one although it would cause some problems we tend to be more demanding and etc. well you should no that do you have a girl as a friend? if so ask her to room if not it may be a little hard to get a female to trust you enough
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Well your first out is your school. See about housing. If this does not work out then see of friends want to go in with you on a place and be room mates. A lot of times if you get a couple of friends that want to get out on their own as well rent split 3 ways can be very inexpensive. Also look for places within a 5 mile radius of the college. A lot of times you can find apartments that rent only to college students at a great rate. You can get a part time job and schedule work and school around each other. Check with your schools resource office. Most times they will have Information about Businesses that hold a certain number of jobs for college students as well. Also whatever your major is look into finding a job that allows you to get on the job training along with earning a living. There alot of things that you can do to get out. You just have to do the leg work. Use your school resources I promise in a short time you will have your own life.