A colleague at work has stopped speaking to me over a very trivial event. One day last week he verbally abused me and told me to f**k off. I detest this person but I obviously can't give him the kicking he deserves or I would be in serious trouble. What can I do?
203354
Who cares? He has a terrible attitude and isn't worth your time of day. However, this is abuse that should not be tolerated in the workplace (thought it often is), and you should go to your compliance officer/human resources liaison immediately. If you want to be nice, tell him to knock it off, grow up and be professional. If he doesn't, then take it to the top.
70926
Just push the ignor button and also the report abuse one  too....It helps if you can send the Yahoo I D of the person...The Yahoo 360 Staff are great, they do take action....V
600730
Unless you have an actual strong friendship with her, you don't. You just have to suck it up and ignore her irritating ways. If she is not in a position of authority over you then you do not need to do what she orders you to do either. Just nod and smile and quietly go on about your duties. She will get the idea soon enough when you just ignore her bad behaviors. If you tell her this you will be stirring up a pot you may wish you had not done so with. She sounds like the sort of person who will run screaming "mental abuse, hostile work conditions" if you try telling her about her behavior. \n\nIf it gets bad enough and is affecting others, not just you,then it well could be lowering employee moral. If this is the case then you and your other affected co-workers need to go to your direct supervisor and explain the situation. But, only do this if she is affecting others as well. If she isn't then you are the only one who is allowing her to have the affect on. This is something you need to work on yourself, find out why you are letting her get to you and why you feel a need to do what she is ordering you to do. I wish you the best in coping with this situation. Blessed Be.
371286
I would arrange a "sit-down" with the supervisor to discuss your feelings and her "close supervision" of your work time.  Ask her why she has singled you out. Let her know that it is making you uncomfortable, and since other employees are aware of it, it is  coming awfully close to establishing a "hostile work environment", which is illegal, a form of sexual discrimination. Let her know that you have options (going to HR, filing a complaint with EEOC), which you don't want to utilize, but will if the situation does not change.\n\nLet her know that, beginning immediately, you will be keeping a log, recording any employment decisions, good and bad, time, date, person involved, witness, issues and reasons.
89635
think about when somebody makes you mad.  what do you want that person to do? apologize? give you space? comfort you? what? i suggest that you try what ever would work on you.  use your own judgment.
417052
how long has it been going on?.....usually if you "dont do anything" it gets old and he'll back off and move on to someone with a reaction...but im afraid if you do punch him, that will give him more of a reason to never back off. If you have to do it, Iunderstand you need to take a stand try and do it infront of administrators so it cant go too far, their job is to bring down violence.....but remeber for someone to abuse someone else by picking on them it is because they feel inadequate and need to feel better about themselves. He must have serious mental problems and insecurity.
559162
Re-evaluate your job and what you were hired to do.  Just do your work, do it well, stay out of office politics.  Stop chatting so much, because whatever your talking about, it's controversial and provoking others to snitch.  A competent boss may one day decide to rid the office of the both of you, just to serve as an example to others to "just do what you were hired to do and save the cattyness for your off duty hours".
124562
quit.\nu are too good of a human being to be let down by a racist co-worker. You can (if you're feeling evil) rat to your superiors. talk to the customer service section of your job, and tell them that you think your manager is being racist and judge mental and it is affecting their job and the way they treat people.
11711
I think:  1. Document the date and behavior. 2. Talk to someone in human resources.  Depending on the workplace, there may also be an outside consultant who acts as the "ombudsperson" for gender and equity issues. 3. Keep a record in case you need to go to the EEOC (Equal Employment and Opportunity Commission).\n\nI would not talk to colleagues about the offensive behavior because I think that could only make the situation more confusing and possibly worse.  This is something that needs to be handled quietly between employee and boss, but the situation definitely shouldn't be ignored for important reasons.  First, it creates an uncomfortable and possibly hostile work environment for the worker, and she could suffer emotionally and psychologically as a result and her productivity may go down, too.  Second, the boss may have a pattern of sexually harassing his employees, and that needs to be addressed.  She may not be the first person.  Harassment is an issue of power, not of sexual attraction.\n\nGood luck regardless.  It's a tough situation.
300149
Look them directly in the eye the first time they do it and ask them if they're feeling ok.  Then tell them your expectation is that they will treat you with respect.  If they continue, document every incident so that you have specifics to present to your supervisor.  Many managers would like to also deal with the issue but it is difficult when employees only approach them with generalities like "Susy Q. is rude to me."  Managers need specifics to be able to address the issue with the employee.  They need to know exactly what was said by both of you, the date and time, and if there were any witnesses.  If you provide this, you will find get better responses.  Also, ask yourself why you have had this issue on every job.  Perhaps you could take a conflict resolution course as well.  Also, most often the guilty party is a completely different person in front of the manager so it sometimes takes awhile for the manager to ferret out the real situation.
569937
The 'rude' thing is one matter--that should be something that your boss can settle if they're any kind of boss at all--let him or her know that this has been going  on for some time and it is making doing your job really difficult-------It's this "grabbing"thing that is soooo out of line that it reeks--when someone touches you without your giving the liberty THAT my dear is unlawful--and it is so whether the jackass is male or female and needs to be dealt with as such---and if this "grabbing" has sexual overtones--it immediately ups the antee to a whole new level and can be considered assault if not sexual assault or even sexual harassment---don't let it slide--report it and end it NOW--whoever this squirrel is --they do what they do because they've been getting by with it and sooner or later someone is going to be hurt big time--I personally know a couple of gals that would send this girl to Jesus
486930
I have the same problem.  People always say "think b4 u talk", but that's fricking hard!  There are only a few seconds to which there is time alloted for you to think of an answer.  Then the person leaves you in the dust.  It's like a reflex...you defend yourself before anyone else has a chance to inflict another blow.  Next time, just relax yourself b4 a conversation and remind yourself not to lash out, no matter what.  Of course, you will forget to remind yourself after a while, but the next lash-out will bring you crashing back down to earth.  But for now...just apologize to the girl and explain that you didnt know what you were saying.  She should understand.  It is hard to deal with this stuff, but you will get over it.  Dont dwell on anything.
466061
The next time that your boss tells you that "this is a man's job", remind him that he is breaking the law.  A job is a job, there no longer is a "man's" job, just like there is no longer a "woman's" job.\n\nAlso let him know that if there is any more harassment by your co-workers, you will consider that as management's consent and approval of the unacceptable behavior, and you are prepared to take appropriate action, legal and otherwise.\n\nLet him know that you have started a log of inappropriate action/ behavior of fellow employees and management personnel. Starting with the instant conversation, you are documenting everything that is said and done (who, what, where, when, time, place, and witnesses), that you consider to be harassment or sexual discrimination, and/ or related matters such as counselling sessions that you may be involved in.\n\nAlso make him aware that any adverse action such as termination, discipline, demotion, or transfer to a less desirable position will be considered retaliation, and if it happens you will take further more aggressive action.\n\nTell him these are not threats but commitments. \n\nAsk him if that is "tough enough"!
404692
When dealing with an envious co-worker, I kill them with kindness, and I'm not talking about lip service. You must be genuine when doing this for it to work. Obviously they have massive insecurities, and perceive you as some kind of threat. I would also suggest keeping ones personal, and professional life mum. In essence, do not give anyone a reason to hold you in contempt. The old saying is true, "keep your friends close, your enemies closer".
295794
being a bully is one thing. Harassment is another. If he has crossed that line then you have a duty to report his inappropriate behavior to management.  If he's just giving you a hard time try your best to ignore the pinhead. Then.....Fire his butt as soon as you get the chance
397463
GET OUT NOW!!\n\nYou don't owe this person ANYTHING!!\n\nFor a boss to say it's a 'personality clash' is diabolical!!\n\nWhat kind of management style is that? S**t - that's what!!\n\nYou SO deserve better.\n\nGO RIGHT THIS MINUTE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
665155
If you were written up and given a final warning, that means you have had other disciplinary action. If not, then it is your first warning and you can not be fired. You also need to look at your own behavior.\nYou start off by saying you were improperly disciplined by an administrator then complain about the other person involved not getting in trouble and you admit to "yelling". It doesn't matter what is happening to the other person, this is about you, your job and your behavior. "Yelling" at another person in any setting is wrong, you are a professional, in a professional setting  and expected to behave in a professional manner. You have the right to respond to the reprimand and that response will be placed in your file as well. You also need to advise the union rep of your situation and how you feel. You say this person is abusive to you, if so, you need to move to another department or floor. You need to be proactive about your situation, take care of yourself and if it means getting away from a person that is abusing you, do it.\nAs nurses, a lot is expected of us and pressure can be difficult. \nIf you can't figure out a way to get along with the person, move on or you could damage your reputation. Pointing the finger and hoping someone else will agree with you doesn't work. If this person is mean, that fact will show itself sooner or later and you can't let it effect you!