I've been talking with a girl almost every night on the phone for almost a month now. Sometimes, in the past couple of nights, the conversation seems to struggle for topics. But, yet, she still calls me and says she's tired whenever I ask her "as a joke" "Am I boring you?" lol...so what's the deal? Could this type of thing improve?
199222
You don't have enough of a relationship to have "chemistry" yet. Get together in person and then we'll talk.
604222
Don't take offense, please, but: HELLO? DO YOU NEED A ROCK TO FALL ON YOUR HEAD? This girl definitely wants to be more than friends. If you too are interested talk to her about it. It sounds like you aleady have a good rapport so that should not be difficult. Good luck.
329438
I think she is really enjoying your flirtations (is that a word?) I would keep it up and just try to spend more time with her. If she continues to respond positively, then she probably wants more. Just enjoy it! Don't stress it, it takes the fun out of it. :)
150639
They are a little busy & probably don't get enough sleep a night.  Give them some time...be patient.  You could always pick up the phone & call.  Some people are just like that and it's part of their personality.  You are different & like to keep in touch more frequently.  Maybe he wanted to share all the pics with everyone or he (out of sleep deprevation) hit the wrong button.  Don't sweat the small stuff.  You all have a good friendship & you just need to remember that we are all different...so don't get your feelings hurt so easily.  God bless.  ;o)
512841
what annoys me most is when a girl wants you to call her a hundred times...and when you don't pick up the cell when she calls you, you are automatically ignoring her regardless of the reason i.e. you stepped out to chat with some friends...so now she is mad.....then she ignores all of your calls for at least a week.\ni.e. insecure and high maintenance g/f's\n\nsorry...no offense to n e one...just going thru it :-)
646104
Damn, he should at least say hi.  What a dick.  As far as conversation goes you can keep it to a minimum, which is what I'm sure he wants.  I know it always pisses me off if some girl, regardless who she is, keeps giving me an IM when I'm trying to talk to someone else.  If you got something to talk about, then cool.  If things slow down then back off.\n\nHe should still say hi, unless you all just got off the phone or whatever.
117326
The guidelines say that you're not supposed to use this service to "to chat or have discussions with other members." However, assuming she is interested in conversing with you also, I don't see why it is a problem. There is no way to get her contact info without her giving it to you. I would just leave a comment on one of her questions saying that you would like to get to know her better. I am sure she would be flattered, and I think I know who you are talking about! She seems like a nice lady. Good luck!!
473736
She is playing with you.She sounds like a real nasty if you ask me.You sound sweet there are plenty of nice girls around.Dont take her calls if she tries to call or if you see her ignore her she will soon get the message that your not playing her silly little games.:)
610661
I wouldn't call her I mean when she is ready to talk you will notice that she will text you back everytime and won't ever miss one. She will be calling you, I wouldn't call her if I were you I would move on I wouldn't like her wasting my time. Why revolve around her if she isn't going to do the same for you?
118660
Good communication makes relationships work.\n\nWhat to chat about:  Ask your girlfriend about how her day went, what she wants to do, where she wants to go with you.  When you're interested in her, it'll make her feel more special. Then when she's done, share with her your experiences...\n\nSo go ahead and chat with your girlfriend.  Enjoy! =)
2062
I don't know why women think that giving no response is supposed to communicate a message. Who knows what that message might be.\n\nLeave one more no-nonsense message on her voice mail.  Then if you absolutely need to call again to satisfy your mind and questions, dial *67 first and hang up if she doesn't pick up.
456105
i think i do the same. when i'm sleeping i usually forget all about phone calls. and when i wake up i don't always remember to call someone back.but when i do remember i always think it's too late so i won`t really bother to until that person calls me back. but yeahh. there might be a chance that she's just like me. but iono, maybe you should just call her one more time or when you see her just bring it up. good luck ! =]
580968
SNAP!!!!!!\n\ndid the same thing with a guy i met on her too. stayed up all hours just chatting about stuff and listing old songs! \n\nok, here's what i think. when you meet someone you just 'click' with, it is easy to get carried away with yourself and be consumed with it all. thats not to say that there is not anything serious there. all i am saying is reality is often different to fantasy.\n\nme and the guy i'm still chatting too met a couple of weeks ago. he is a great guy but i think we both felt that reality was a little different. we still chat and i am due to see him again shortly.\n\nwhat we decided was to take things slowly, get to know eachother better as friends as see what develops from that. it's the most sensible option i think.
558450
I just answered one of your newer questions but I'll help you here as well.  The first time you call a woman and she doesn't answer (usually the case) you leave a brief message and that's it.  The next day you call again and if nobody picks up here's what you do... you say this exact phrase to her "Playing hard to get already?  I'm not much for games.  If you'd like to chat you know where to reach me."  This is something they have probably NEVER experienced before.  You come off as a man who could take her or leave her.  Never call constantly because you seem desperate and needy.  Keep that in mind as well.\n\n I'll give you a small example of me using this exact same tactic.  I found a nice girl off of a personals site and after getting her number I gave her a call a day later.  I didn't get a response so I left a brief message telling her I usually wake up around 6:30 PM (I'm a night shifter, but note this time) and to give me a call back.  The next day I called her again and did NOT leave a message.  Instead I hopped onto the internet and sent her an email saying exactly what I told you previously.  The very next day at 6:30 PM she called me back, right on the dot.  The key is to tell them that you're not going to take any of their crap and that you have better things to do than waste your time with petty games.  Just watch the responses you get.
399551
Well, I think you are wrong.  I tend to have the same problems.  You are too serious even in your approach.  Girls just wanta have fun.  If you approach a girl with such a straight forward attitude you'll scare her off.  Big Yes on the self-confidence though.  You need to come across like you're fun to hang out with and you're looking for others that are fun to hang out with.  Friendship first buddy.  Ask general open-ended questions then listen.  School, work, hobbies, pets, etc  LISTEN to what she is saying and don't let your mind wander.  I know what happens.  She's talking and your thinking, oh crap what do I say, she's pretty, does she like me, how do I look, how can I be funny, what do I say, oh crap... If you're not listening then you can not 'join' the conversation.  The more you talk the more you both will loosen up.
647853
Yea, you have to wait it out. Some of us girls are like that. I know I am before and during. Im quick to start an arguement, and say the wrong things. After it I'm back to normal. We just get irritated quick so just brush it off for the few days if she still act the same maybe its something wrong. Hey atleast she's not pregnant. I hear its worse then.
431154
Not quite sure what you're asking.  A reluctant girl won't stick around very long in a phone or face-to-face convo, so I think the duration of conversation will clue you in.  If, however, you want ideas on how to keep a chat going, here's what my husband does: He goes into talk-show-host mode; that is, he asks a lot about the other person: What his/her interests are, what s/he did that day, plans for the future, movies seen, books/articles read, politics, etc. etc.  Everyone's fave subject is him/herself, so extracting information (and, therefore, having dialogue) is easy. \n\nYou sound like a smart, sensitive, other-directed chap; this should come easy to you, no matter how out of practice you may feel.  And, hey!  Just think of the girl as another person, and not necessarily as a potential girlfriend.  Performance anxiety can be a huge obstacle no matter how smooth and experienced one is.  Remember: Have fun and be yourself, OK?