I'm reading these questions and god is anybody honest(besides the smart a s ses)It's like no wonder I'm single I need to lie more to have a relationship,maybe I would'nt have had so many relatioships if I would have just LIED.Women are and always will be beautiful creatures.Love ME haHa
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don't lie ...  in the end you will only hurt others and yourself... and do you really want a relationship built on lies ???... you know you don't !...    when the right one comes along  being honest will pay off big time!  be patient...it will happen when you least expect it...  best wishes!
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I understand your question. There are plenty of women out there who will love and understand you.  Don't waste your time on those who use you.  You're setting yourself up.
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You're not a horrible person. You're simply a liar. Which is an indication of one or two things. 1. You care enough about her to spare her feelings and you like her enough to be what she wants you to be or..2. You're just trying to turn her out. If you lied because you really like her then she may be understanding and if not then she may be really hurt and disappointed. I was once in this situation and I forgave him because I understand that most guys don't feel the same way about sex that I do and at least he cared about what I thought. Believe it or not some women understand that some men lie because they care. As sick as that sounds. Its not rt but in your situation if that's what you did then it probably won't affect the relationship because I'm sure she wasn't expecting an angel.
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I was wondering the same thing...Except reversing the genders in the question!!  Here's what I think.  People tend to lie to the opposite sex.  In my experience, guys may tell stories to eachother(the fish was THIS BIG), but girls lie to guys so they think they won't hurt our feelings.  Generally I find out the truth shortly and am hurt anyway, except I'm insulted too.  I don't think being bi is the answer, you probably just need to find a better guy.  Some of us are trustworthy.
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I prefer to be truthful. I find myself embellishing stories sometimes, and when I realize that I am doing it (sometimes it just comes out!!) i catch myself and rephrase it to be more honest. I want to be someone who people believe they can trust in, so I speak the truth.
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i have never ever asked any of my past men for $$, or and 'stuff' for that matter. maybe honesty and integrity. i haven't been in really long relationships.. but i'm thinking that isn't normal. you should find some women who are a little better at holding their own-at least while you're dating!
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Well I personally think men wont tell you the truth because they are reflecting their own personalities...they cant handle the truth, therefore they think their women cant.  Their ego needs to be fed, much more than a woman's does.  Women are pretty intelligent creatures and quite good at problem solving, and the truth is always the easiest to handle for the majority of us because we then know where we stand and can work out ways to solve the problems.  Men, on the other hand, need to be loved and respected at all costs...hence they lie.  They dont want to admit they are doing or saying the wrong thing because it would hurt their ego and the role they have projected to others.  They dont like being wrong.  In saying that, however, there are cases where both men and women dont want the truth.  Some women know their men are cheating but will not get the proof because if they had the truth they would then have to act, and sometimes it is easier to close your eyes than to deal with the truth.  Some women arent as strong as others are.  But I have also see that the women who know the truth but are being fed lies are not happy anyway, so maybe if their man was smart, they would give them the truth even if its not what they wanted to hear because at least it would make the woman grow up and deal with situations she doesnt want to deal with.  It is only when tough things come along in our lives do we become strong.  And a man who continues to lie to his wife needs a woman who is dependant on him.  He doesnt want her to grow to be strong, he wants to keep her this poor defensless little creature who needs him, no matter what.  Statistically speaking, it is men more than women that will go from a broken marriage into another relationship pretty quickly......I think that is because they cannot make it on their own as much as women can.  I honestly believe women are the stronger sex.  We can deal with much more than the average man can cope with.  And only when men can see as as strong and capable will they start being honest.\n\nThats probably why it is the strong independant beautiful women are left behind because of the more "needy" ugly/middle of the road women, that men seem to find less threatening.
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No, guys are not honest enough to answer this. But I'm going to try anyways.\n\nMany *people*, not just guys, have this limitless capacity to love and care for others. Often, they feel obligated to share it with as many as they can safely.\n\nNobody trusts a single other person enough to put their life in another's hands these days. Nobody at all. After all, is it not foolish of a thing to do?\n\nAnd entire lifetime of focused attention and loving on one single person is scary and creepy. It's literally obsessive - which is not necessarily the BAD thing people make it out to be. But they still make it out to be bad. And people, even madly in love, can only tolerate so much from one another before one becomes "smothered" and burned out by the relationship. Which is EXACTLY what is trying to be avoided.\n\nAnd the person that needs the loving more will find it one way or another - because they give it just as much.\n\nFinally, these days there is no standard of coupling. There is no example to follow. There is really no concept of a "right relationship" anymore, either. Even a monogamous, married couple is nigh-impossible to live as, these days. It works well for "simple givers" and "simple takers", but many people these days need to be both - and 90% of them don't feel like being "takers" - even though that's really what it's all about. Once you're a couple, be a little selfish, and trust each other with your wants and needs. And with lack of standards, many people don't really have "expectations" to judge their relationships by, either.\n\nIt doesn't help that secrets, lies, affairs, and drama are *highly publicized*, almost to the point of being worshipped.\n\n*Sorry if that's a little long winded...*
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Are you for real???\nLet me tell you! If you feel your being lied to! then Dump his azz! there are losts of men out there! And some pretty damn good ones too! Sounds to me like The guy in question is not only disrespectfull, decetfull, but is probably inexperianced with women also! Remember!\nOnce a cheat! Always a cheat! Dump him!
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I think she loves your flamboyant personality and loves your honesty and the way your always there to listen and completely understands her. You are as real as they come and even though we havent met im sure we would get along. What do you mean you have a boyfriend?! I like you. I think you are sweet. Maybe your woman needs time to get to know you or meet you. Maybe you should send her a picture of you beautiful face.
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There are no guarantees like what you are looking for. It is probable that your insecurities are a sign to you of the obvious and likely possiblility. What amazed me, and I wonder how many picked it up, was that you did not say that you were fearful of losing her to another female. Now that is interesting!
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I will tell you the truth.  First of all don't dare think about serios relationships-you are way too young.  Get your education, get in shape, have fun and see the world.  Don't worry so much about how people view you.  We are all judgemental and prejudiced whether we are honest enough to admit it or not.  We instantly judge people when we first meet them.  We size them up and categaorize them at first sight.  Personality has to work hard to overcome this initial impression.  And if we are not what the  other person currently believes is beautiful, it will never work.
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sigh, alas tis the truth with many of the females...because i hear that all the time too, the whole 'i want a good man, i ain't settlin for no scrub, he has to respect me, blah blah blah" and right after that they can't let go of some alchoholic that beats them, or some playa that cheats on them constantly but "oh i still love him, if he does it again he's GONE"... when he shoudl've been gone in the first place.\nYou know what's even worse?  LOOK AT THE YAHOO QUESTIONS!  A LOT of women are askin "what should i do, i love him but he's cheating on me what do i do?" \nor "i like him, he's a great guy, but he watches porn and flirts with other women..what should i do?" I mean you see a hell of a lot of questions like that...so that's a good question, what ARE women's defense to that? Cause i'm one of the good guys, and THANKFULLY i've found a sensible woman who actually KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!  But i've dealt with the gullible and confused girls that dissed me for the a*shole, and then had the nerve to say they're just stronger now after gettin over it, when in essence they shouldn't have been in it in the first place!  \nWhat is up wit dat?
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This is reality. People lie. In a relationship, there has to be honesty or it will never work out. It's best that she is gone. You will find someone new. Learn as you go along in life and always watch your back ...
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I think about this almost daily, as I am currently going through a divorce myself, because of some unbeliveably UGLY stuff my husband has done.  I, as well, consider myself wounded, possibly to that same point of no return---from that hardened heart.  Only, I ask can any MAN be trusted.  When I read your question, it just hit me:  I know I, a woman, CAN be trusted.  Obviously, you feel that you can.  So, YES, we are out here.  We made bad choices in allying ourselves with the people we married--people unworthy of trust.  That does not mean there are not wonderful persons of integrity in each gender out there.  Let's try to move forward and treat people as individuals, rather than representatives of the worst common denominator of their gender.  After all, how would either of us feel if we were dismissed as capable of the UGLY?  ...but I am with ya.  I mean, it's all well and good to say these things to myself, but getting to the point of feeling it in my heart is different.  Good luck to us both/all!
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what does your gut instincts say ?? \nbefore following your instincts, you should and i mean you should notice if there is any difference in the way she acts with you as opposed to before ( that is when everything was ok )\n\nremember, men are good liars but women are excellent liars !
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I think that is a fabulous idea. I believe everybody needs love, but timing is very important. I am a very independent person. I didn't want to be one of those needy or high maintenance chicks that had to have someone to take care of them. It turns out that guys really dig people like me and you usually stumble on love when you least expect it or when you aren't even looking. I think you should focus on studies now. Pamper yourself once in a while, and just be happy with yourself...the rest will fall into place.