im broke and cant afford a room anywhere. and i really want to get with my girlfriend but she wont invite me to her house and i cant have her at mine cuz my roommates would raz me- and i wouldnt want me or her to deal with that. she doesnt want to go anywhere dirty (and i totally agree) but it seems the only places are. i live in a small city- no huge buildings and everywhere is public- thanks
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you might try the park at night, unless it's well lit and visited regularly by police. \n\nanother kind of romantic place is buy a lake. take blanket, a bottle of wine and some dinner and have a midnight picnic on a moonlit night.\n\ntry a football field or a baseball diamond..take a blanket the concrete dugout benches are hard.\n\nyou'll find the time and the place. you can borrow a truck and put an airmattress in the back.\n\nor if you have a drive in movie theatre, try that. babies have been conceived that way for years.
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Something seems to be missing in your story--or your girlfriend is schizoid.  But seriously, it isn't really normal to fight every week, so possibly she is still angry about whatever it is you guys have been fighting about.  I would think about the tone you may have had when you asked her to clean, I imagine you were upset because she wasn't helping, and that may have set her off.  If you want to save your relationship talk to her like an adult to an adult and try to figure out how to resolve your problems in a positive way.  Try to avoid accusatory and patronizing statements.  You two are probably just having trouble adjusting to living together.  Good Luck
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i think it is great you stay home to help out. plus most people our age and younger don't have that option to live at home! but your boyfriend, i wouldn't worry as long as he makes an effort to move out or puts money away to move out, or shows some sort clue that he doesn't want to live at home forever.
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Your exploiting them like they are a f***ing freak show. Your second to last sentence states that very clearly. Your girlfriend has very right to be pissed if they are sleeping with her and she doesn't want them to. They don't have beds? Give me a break they are small not helpless. Why do you feel the need to do this? Is it a need or a want? It seems like your just fulfilling your owns wants and not caring about her at all.That would make you the dirty w****. Oh, and an a** for making her have to put up with them for three extra months, without asking her first. Do you always talk about your friends like they are a novelty; like a bad-ass posse, or say it's "great" when we go to the bar. And what does sponsor mean? Are you providing food/ housing to them? Is your gf living with you too? Will this be effecting her lifestyle? If so, she has every right to kick you and your little friends to the curb. Unless your gonna let her sponsor a "gaggle" of her kind of people when the time may arise, and not say a word about it.
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He doesn't want you to struggle. Or he knows that if he pays rent somewhere, He'll always have somewhere to go. Why are u upset. If somebody paid my rent and were never there Id be happy. Think about it
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for those who got a boyfriend or girlfriend.... you can go out with them.... for those who have not... just have fun with your friends and family........ and if you have no one to count on just stay in your house the safetiest place...
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Damn, stop being so scared. Who cares what your roomates think? Just come out. If they are stupid enough to think you are always checking them out then screw them. Get a different roommate. Im sure there are campus counsellors or professors you can talk to if they do start bothering you because that's not allowed and it will stop if enough action is taken. But I dont think you should worry about that. You have to be who you are. Why hide? You will feel so much better.\nCome out of that closet!
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I do that too.  When my roommate was out of town, I had to check everywhere - Under the bed, in the shower, in the closet... just to make sure I was the only one in the apartment.  But there is a point where you go overboard.  You can't always be afraid, but a girl has got to be careful these days!  Maybe talking to a couselor would make you feel more secure.  Or take a self-defense class.  I did and now I feel like if I DID find someone hiding in my apartment I could kick thier butt!
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You don't have to be good friends to be roomates.  Since the friendship is not working out, plan on going your own way.  Don't expect her to invite you to places and don't tag along.  Find your own friends and spend time with them.  When you need to be alone, leave the room.  Take a walk outside, or go to another friend's room for a while.  \n\nIn order to make things more tollerable, sit down with her and discuss some ground rules.  You will have to compromise on some things.  Maybe no naked guys in the room would be a good rule.  I'm sure there are rules for the dorm about guys and girls mixing.  Review those rules with her.   Try writing out a contract that both of you will sign.\n\nAbove all else, realize that you are roomates and that doesn't mean you have to be best friends.  When I was in college, I didn't socialize with my roomates at all outside of the room.  I do have to admit that they were much more respectful than your roomate is so life was a lot easier.
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GIRL dont u dare move that girl into your house!!! Your man wont be just yours for long if you do. That's like a personal invite for her to come in & take all that she sees & they'll swear up & down its "just sex", no strings attached. PLEASE. Dont let them play you. Be a woman & stand up for what u know in your heart is right & do what makes u the most comfortable. If your man outs up a fight with this decision, then there u go. U already know sumthing isnt right if he's that insistent on moving her in. I wish my girlfriend would try to move another chick into MY house....HA!!!
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Strange how costly it can be to not want to live by a few little rules, isn't it.\n\nHeck, you want to move out and you can't even prepare a budget for your self.\n\nWhat do you want a roommate for? To get sick of rules again, or to mother him by making rules for him?\n\nBTW! $1000.00/month is sufficient if you wish to reside in a poor house.
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it's possible that this guy is just her roomate and they live separate lives, if you like the girl just ask to hang out with her one day before making a decision if you want to date her or not, if the roomate is there and he acts somewhat hostile towards you or rude then this guy may have some sort of relationship with her and is not ready for anyone to take his place.
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This happened when me and my boyfriend first moved in together.  No one is to blame, you are just getting used to seeing sides of eachother you hadn't before.(you are prob both driving each ohter a little crazy, right? ) And now that you living together its not like you come over for a few hrs and she devotes all her attention to you and then you go home.  You both have to get used to not always being in the center of each others attention.  As for the sex, if you see each other everyday she doesn't have to  worry about the next time she is going to get it.. so it becomes less of a priority....  It will get better in time ..give it a month or 2..... if it doesn't I'd definately bring it up to her.. just dont place any blame... good luck and I hope it works out for you :)
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You have the right to control your own space.  It sounds like:  1) You need some alone time.  If you want, give yourself a secret nickname and tell your friends you have to spend some time with her.  2)  If these friends can't do things together, they'll have to see you separately.   Believe me, after the first little awkwardness, you're going to love the peace!
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Most things depend on the people...I've had more than my share of bad roomie experiences! First thing when you move in be sure to put a bolt lock on your bedroom door, this is especially advisable because of parties that are sure to happen. I recommend that you pay all bills with checks, and keep an "excel file" of all of the bills. As for foods, you'll all have to work that out together--don't be afraid to keep some dry goods in your room--at least 1 roll of tp, too. Most importantly, figure out how you 2 can talk aobut household situations rationally. Good luck!
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I have been in this situation before.  1. you really need to stay out of it.  2.  make a list of all of reasons bad roomy should leave.  3.  the roommate that gets kicked out deserves the better half on the items so it will all go smoothly.\nThe reason you should stay out of it is your probably going to come off as being pushy and will more than likely cause disagreement between you and your bf.
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Girl, both of you need to get a place of your own. Don't you know that as long as you live with her you are never gonna be your "own woman" in her place. She is always gonna blame you and take his side. She needs to stay the heck outta your business.