Is there a man out there who knows the difference between being really loved by a woman and becoming a womans property? Can he appreciate that difference?
200929
Property? Hmmm.... I become "hers," she becomes "mine," in the sense of exclusive intimacy and closeness, and the understanding that "we" are now a "we," but property? Never thought of it that way. Usually, I'm busy doing whatever I can to most ensure her happiness, and she's trying to do the same for me. (when all is right with the world, anyway) The only time a guy turns into "property" is when he becomes so whipped he loses individuality, and turns his back on his own beliefs and values to capitulate to a woman. If a woman really loves him though, she'll rarely put him in a position where he has to make that choice.
234440
I think being able to set up boundries is important but most guys love any attention from women but if you look more insecure the more then likely he will be with her.  Men love a confident women.  Until he says enough she will still come around but maybe he is just playing the field and keeping his options open and if it does bother that much then you walk away but try to be friends and keep it simple and take out the drama.
77351
hell no!!! Are you Joan Cleaver???  this not leave it to beaver, and guys need to realize this.  The new man every woman loves is the self efficient type.  It is a new package deal, and he needs to get with it.
450534
I know you hear people talking about "working" on a marriage or relationships, but its not like putting a wing on a house.  From what you say it sounds like you want him to be more sensitive as you perceive yourself to be.  Men and women are different, why do you want to feminize him?
472400
I would say the man really cares about you.  Men are selfish and the longer he can keep his own space he will do that. No one like to change thier ways of living, but this is a comprmise to share a space. i really do not think it is a sex thing.
190442
Perhaps you aren't important enough to him for him to WANT to change anything about himself.  \n\nPeople are who they are... they deserve someone who loves them just as they are.\n\nIf a man WANTS to change something in his life, that's fine - but he has to do it because he wants to for himself, not because some nagging girlfriend tells him he should.
540637
Normally I wouldn't touch this type of question with a 10 foot pole.  To the asker:  you didn't provide any details about why your guy felt "like the woman".  There's a bunch of things that might be affecting that feeling, some of which may be your issues and some of which may be his. We aren't privy to anything like that so nobody here is going to be able to give you very good advice.  If you're both feeling insecure or its a problem but you want to work it out, I suggest couples therapy.  \n\nNow, what prompted me to reply was the first responder to this question, who said that you could "CONTROL a man using.. femininity and submission" yet you would not love/respect a man who allowed you to "DOMINATE" him.  Sorry, sweetheart, but control is a type of domination. You can't have your cake and eat it too.\n\nWe live in a world where gender roles are not clearly defined, and it puts a lot of extra stress on relationships because people have to determine what works for them as individuals and as a couple.  Sometimes our self-identities don't allow us to form a coherent twosome vision with another person, sometimes we can compromise a little.  However, being "feminine" doesn't mean being a backdoor manipulative woman, so I'd throw that concept right out the window (and probably relieve any major stress about being "someone you're not").  Best wishes!
87053
It might start off that way, but feelings change and eventually one person will want more out of the relationship than the other.  From my experience, it's usually the women who think "maybe it'll be different with me".  Women tend to be more emotional and invest a lot more in these types of relationships than men do.  Men are much more able to stay "disconnected" until they're ready for a relationship.
240198
I agree that certain things are done male or female in some relationships, but it falls to order in what the two people decide.  In our relationship, in everyday life, to all appearances my partner looks more the female, stays at home, babysits an infant, does alot (but not all) the housework  and does all the cooking.  I play the more male role has a very male job (drive semi) does the lawn work,(again not all) the gardening, pays the bills.  However, in the bedroom our roles are switched and it's my turn to be the sensitive one.  And we do this, 99% of the time for 25 years now.  We're frequently told this relationship is quite unique in the lesbian circles, but it works for us.  So it goes to prove, whatever feels good, I guess.
204331
You've just answered your question. Now, I consider myself to be a gentleman.\nBut, look at what you said here. The women are the ones falling in love in your scenario. The guy is just dating and enjoying what's happening. The woman here is probably reading way too much into it, or she's the kind of woman who's "in love with falling in love".\n\nBy the way, when I was dating the woman who became my wife, I was the one who said the "I love you" first.\nHer response to that?... she said, "I know you do".
224852
Good Question!\n\nWell…Over the course of my thirty-nine years of living, I’ve noticed this time and time again. And the thing that I find interesting about this is, most women that I’ve known over the years say that they want a good man, yet, they choose the opposite. It basically ties into the example of the male in their lives as they grew up. Most of the ladies, didn’t have a true example of a man or father figure that displayed how a woman was suppose to be treated, therefore, when it came time for them to choose their mate they had a tendency to choose the wrong one. Have you ever noticed how a certain lady can continue to choose the same type of man (abusive, etc.)? Well, if you would sit down and have a conversation with her then you will find out why she does so. Somewhere within herself she feels that she deserves it and she’s not worthy to receive love, which is not true at all. My sister was one of them, but now she’s learned how to love herself and the man that’s in her life knows how to treat a lady.\n\nBe blessed.
498944
let her read this, as a man i want a woman to love and to make love to.  to hold, to kiss, to talk to when im down, to talk to on the phone just to hear her voice and to tell her i love her and with that i would never lay a hand on her and trust me there are more men like me out there
180297
a man who is not secure in himself often finds and independent woman to be a threat
52799
There is one girl in my life now, but i really dont want to hurry up things and screw up things. I have never see or heard of a girl as unique as her. She is very caring, devoted, understanding and loyal. I would be really lucky to have her in my life. And i would love to have a couple of naughty angels(kids) with her.\nI totally believe that a man's value is never the amount of cash with him but his achievement in life. And the main one is a family.\nA family defines us as a human being.
200455
yes, and he will vary for every woman.  You may have to look for a while, but he is out there.  Look for characteristics in guys that stand out.  For instance, if they value a family, they might take any mother joke very seriously.  If they are kind natured and gentle, look for them to treat every person they meet with respect.  Whatever things you like in a man, look for them coming out in his life when you see him.  Good luck, I hope that helped.
76357
Ask yourself if you can live with all the in differences sounds like it might be difficult to always have him being the one who is right and in control you have to do what makes you happy any relationship is a 50/50 deal :)
308835
Time to try to understand how men think - and, boy, is it different than women.  Not better; not worse - just different.  We women like the PDA stuff ("public displays of affection") and we like to be courted and we like to be lovey-dovey in public.  Most of that is genetic - by such displays, we mark out territory and property -("Yep, see?  He's mine.")  It also comes from our nesting instincts - all lovey-dovey and then we nest at home.  Men, on the other hand, mark their territory by killing the challangers from the outside.  So snuggles and loving stuff put on display doesn't exactly match their genetic make up.  It is, for the most part, a learned behavior on their part.  And they learn it because (a) they want you and (b) it works.  It doesn't mean that - because they have to learn it - they don't love you, they learn it because they want you and they keep it up now and then because they love you.  But, really, overall - mean like to keep their relationships with women on the quiet side - secure, protected, and private.  They have no need to demostrate it outside of the bonds of the two of you.  So he is probably sporadic in how demonstrative he is.  And I mean, really, do you WANT him hanging all over you and professing his love when you are trying to just move and be a couple ?  I don't think so.  That's sooooo Romeo and Juliet and so unsustainiable in real life.  Now if he is night and day between the private couple and the public couple, you might want to have a discussion about that.  I mean, if he treats you like some unimportant stranger when you are around his friends and family but like is lover in private, THAT'S no good.  But if you two can find a nice medium between your desire to have him lovey-dovey in public and his desire to be reserved in public, that's the way to go.  You know, having his arm around your shoulder when you are next to him, but not needing him to whisper in your ear that you are the most ravishing creature in the world - that would be a nice balance.  Having him touch you on the shoulder when he leaves the room - an acknowledgment - but not having to announce he is leaving and that he will love you while he is gone --- that is a nice balance, don't you think ?  Balance - that's the key.