i dont do any physical excercise. shd i start hitting the gym? i'm 17 yrs old and i dont attract girls juz because i'm a lanky boy! im losing my confidence day by day! pls tell me what to do?
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I used to be very thin.  I got no girls and the guys all thought I was weak even though I was actually pretty healthy and strong. \n\nAnyway, I stopped smoking cigarettes, and I started going to the gym.  I went kind of crazy but I recommend you go pretty heavy but slow and reasonable.  \n\nGet yourself a basic book on bodybuilding.  Basic!  \n\nDon't worry about supplements but here is the secret which made me gain 5o pounds in 5 months.  Eat like you are crazy.  \n\nI don't mean big amounts at one time but if you consume 800 quality calories every hour(set an alarm).\n\nI ate normal foods.  But absolutley not chocolate or candy.  This stuff will burn off too quickly.\n\nI ate alot of chicken sandwiches with cheese and monster cheese burgers. Fried chicken, potato salad.  Vegetables are important but eat those last after you ate some heavy stuff.  \n\nAnd finally, don't go overboard.  Thin people look really cool in their clothes.  And later in life you will be happy to be thin and probably increase you life span by staying thin.  \n\nBut, right now you want chics and that is understandable.  Put on about 15 kilos and be done with it.  You won't lose it again after you gain it.\n\nI am glad I put on wieght, but right now I have a nice middle sized body and I am not sef conscious at all.  \n\nAlso, get somoe cool clothes.  You don't have to spend a lot of money but try to fashion it up a bit.  \n\nAnd also, getting girls is a numbers game.  You said you don't "attract" the girls.  How do you know?  Anyway, it doesn't normally work like that.  You have to be proactive and learn that if you get rejected, that is just one more rejection closer to the one(or two) that are going to say OK.\n\nAlso, you are pretty young.  Girls your age are somtimes pretty shallow.  They care about cars, money, popularity, etc.  The wonderful thing about those kind is that they are very easy to manipulate once you finally turn the tables. \n\nAnd you won't feel guilty about manipulating them.  They are bitches right?\n\nBut don't treat the nice ones bad.  Treat them nice and appreciate them.  But, always kind of keep in mind that you could get burned by a chic that you really like.  If you are prepared for it and realize that there is always another one then this won't hurt you.\n\nWomen sometimes call us pigs but sometimes they create the loathsome woman-haters by showing themselves to be unworthy of a man's sincerety.  It works the other way too.\n\nGirls your age would prefer to get the shalloe glory from telling their friends who they rejected, than to just actually have a boyfriend and be getting shagged.  \n\nBut later, after about age 25, if you haven't already turned the tables then the table will turn automatically.\n\nThey will be getting fat and old and leeching for a man to marry.  While a man usually just gets more distinguished looking with age.  And you, you will be your tall svelt self, and buddy, you will be dangerous.
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How Boutz You Just Embrace How You Are Already Or Of Course You Can Excercise Or Get LifoSuction Lol I DUnno Your Choice??? Just Remember You DOnt HAve TO Be Skinny To Be A Model??? Lol
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haha it's me again! woot! you seem to have a lot of interesting questions..anyways back on the subject..for males, they usually have more muscle tissues..therefore, it's a lot more easier for a guy to build muscles than girls - i've seen it at the gym plenty of time took me more than 2 months to get some nice abs when my brother..did it in less than 5 weeks >:[ .. so my advise to you..try to make some changes to your diet - intake food with high carbonhydrates - rice, bread, noodle, buns, starchy vegetables like potatoes, yam, etc..then combine the carbonhydrate food with food that contain protein - meat, red meat especially..never miss either one because they really help in weight gain in a healthy way when you eat them both together. and last but not least..once you start gaining weight..it is nearly impossible for you to gain all the fat at the right places..focus on the areas where you want to lose some fat on - for example..if your legs starting to get too big..do some squads so it won't affect your upper body ;] but anyways..i still believe that clothes are made to enhance your body features and your personal styles..you should buy clothes that fit your body's proportion..not to buy clothes that cause you frustration - if they don't fit you perfectly..they're not the right size for you
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It's OK to be the nice guy but there's a recipe for putting it to action...It's a little something I like to call confidence...I'ma pretty bigg guy myself but the one place I've never had a problem with was when it came to girls...If your fat you have to try hard to carry it right...and play it like you confident...I used to call my stomach before I lost some pounds myself my lovable hug-able muscle and the ladies loved it, thought it was cute cause I never put myself down...without confidence nothing will ever fall into place...give it a try    NICE GUY + CONFIDENCE =  SUCCESS ...
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I have heard both ways from guys, Some love muscle chicks and other don't. Being in shape is a sign that you take care of yourself. I think it is what you are comfortable with. I am not sure what is to much , i suppose it depands on why you lift. Just to get buff or stay toned? Any way you should be fine.
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Hi David, I don't think your weight is the problem. You sound like a really decent guy but I do think you have a self-confidence issue and by telling yourself that your weight 'problem' is stopping you getting girls, it could be that you attitude on yourself if stopping you getting them.  No one wants to go out with someone who they feel NEEDS to be constantly told they look ok (but I can tell you now-you look fine to me!)and overall, most girls I know (the ones who have the most successful relationships...) dont have hot sexy guys, they have average Joes who treat them like princesses!  If a girl didnt want to go out with you because of your weight then shes not worth it-the shallow cow!  What would make her think shes so perfect to be worthy of YOU?! :-) Another good hint is dont always go for the girls who look the best either, go for the ones you get on with, make you laugh, make you FEEL sexy!!!  I really hope you find her, you sound like a genuinely nice guy.
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why do you care?  if its working for you, then keep doing it! your buddy will just have to keep on being a looser and nothing you can do about it.  confidence comes from within and if you have it great.  if he doesn't, not your problem!
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wow. you sound like me\nexcept im a 15 year old girl and ive NEVER had a boyfriend\ni am shy too and i dont really have a place to meet any guys.\nyou dont have to be strong to get a girl.\nlots of girls, and i am speaking from personal experience, think the skinny shy boys are the cutest ones. go for it, just find a girl you think is pretty and just try to be friends with her. if it helps, approach her with a friend with you, so its less pressure\nim sure theres got to be girls at your school who would love for you to ask them out. the worst they can say is no. then you just find someone else\n\nGOOD LUCK!\np.s. the guys that are saying be a jerk are totally wrong. theres no better way to turn a girl OFF than to do that
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I think you should just believe in your self. Believe that you are comfindent and you will be. Your the only one who says you have no self confidence. I belive you do. So just believe in yourself and this girl thing will be no problem. You never know she may like you to. And this shaking stuff is just nervous. Just say something random. Just say anything to her and you'll get over the whole nerve thing. Well Good luck even if you dont take my advice.
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you don't need to take charge, you need to meet a person that will respect where you are at, don't give it up to a jerk, your sensative, which is good, but the wrong guy will hurt you. I suggest you join a gym, this improve your confidence and energy
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Aww, you're just fine!\n\nI know how you feel.  When I was about your age, I was tall (I ended up at 5' 11") and strong and fast.  It isn't easy when you don't fit the stereotype of petite, girly-girl, but I honestly think being capable, independent, and strong is the better way to go.  Eventually the boys will catch up to you, and they'll be more interested.  Right now they're very competitive about things like height and strength and you probably intimidate them a bit.  \n\nI know it'll be hard to wait for all those future changes, but high school and college will be great times for you.  You just need to find your nitch.  What are you good at?  Join a sports team, join an art club, volunteer for an organization.  Being involved will help you develop friendships based on common interests.  \n\nIf it helps any, the boys weren't all that interested in me either at that age, but that changed over time.  Now I've found the right guy for me who *loves* that I'm a bit taller than him, that I'm strong and can take care of myself.  \n\nJust concentrate on being the best 'you' that you can be, and the other pieces will fall into place.
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well how old are you? first of all, keep on playing, dont be so self centered, baby fat could be sexy too, and well you want to gain some muscles in your legs? well just remember is is the longest and pivotal muscle of the body, go to the gym, but begin at your house do some squats, that is the best one really, hey i was a marine so i know about this ok!!! and get on it and give me 20 recruit!!! by the way get some vitamines, antioxidants, and a good diet.
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Hey, I'm a girl, yet I can totally relate. My self confidense is always going up and down, and guys I like gived me mixed messeges, and people have told me I should go into modeling! So it has nothing to do with how you look. I would just try to build up your self confidence by focusing on all your sweet and attractive qualities. Eating right and exercising will also help you look and feel better about yourself.\nIf you are still in mid, or high school, then just be patient. Those are such awkward years, i graduated two years ago, believe me, it gets better after high school. Girls are more mature. Don't try to go after conceited b****s. They don't deserve you. Just be yourself and try to just build up a friendship with a girl that you want to get to know better. \nShe may start to want something more once she realizes how cool you really are. Some of my biggest crushes in high school were on average guys who were kind of dorky, but who were just really sweet and funny, and natural around me.
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stay a virgin untill u fell ready .. if u were u wouldnt b askin wat 2 do .. if u have a girl have fun wit her in w/e ya do n 4 get bout the guy .. n seriously if u have problems wit how u look then do somethin bout it start a diet exercise but do it FOR YOU not cause of wat ppl think r say .. make urself feel good bout ur body change w/e u want but not 4 others wen a person likes u , loves u they dont care bout ur looks only they care bout wat u have inside wat kind of person u r .. so dont do somethin u'll regret
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As hard as you may find this to believe, you may actually find that you are intimidating to them. Boys at that age are more nervous than you might believe. Being a well endowed, or self-aware girl makes you a confident person. There is NOTHING wrong with that, and your friends may even envy you for it. Don't change a thing girl, and let them catch up with YOU... you're doing fine!! Good luck!
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continue exercise, but when doing leg presses, use less weight and do more reps. Start running, but don't do 20 or 25min type hard runs, get to the point where you are doing 45 minutes to over an hour. What you are going to want to do is train yourself for distance, not strength. All that being said...it will be very hard. Relax. I think fit and muscular women are VERY attractive...and, if I think that...I am sure millions of other guys think that. Not that you want to look good for anyone other than yourself...but, maybe knowing that there are LOTS of people who would find you sexy will help. Also, don't give up meat or other proteins. That will hurt your whole body. Good luck.
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That height and weight doesn't sound like you have a weight problem, but it sounds like you lack lean mass (muscle). Start lifting some weights, get some cardiovascular activity, and start watching the food intake (for healthy changes you can make), and you can start to see an improvement. \n\nI'm assuming you're quite young, so just get active. That "softness" will melt away very quickly with a little activity.