My BEST FREIND and I both like the same guy!should I make an agreement w/ her to NOT break the friendship over the guy?Or just leave it till high school?
202067
threesome. threesome. threesome.....oh crap, does that last remark imply you are in MIDDLE SCHOOL???? OK, forget my irresponsible threesome nonsense. Forget about this guy, keep your friend, and look for another guy.
94003
If your friendship is really strong enough then it'll last through anything. If you like him, tell him and see where that takes you. Letting someone know that you like them doesn't mean you have to get into a relationship...\nIf you both like each other and agree to a relationship, then good for you guys :)\nif you find that you don't really want a relationship, then...that's that. Communicate with him.\nBest of luck
47860
Just be a real friend to both of them. They both like each other. If you make a move for her, you could lose both of them. There may be another chance later on if this is meant to be.
293916
how long have you been friends??? frankly, it really should be okay because you've moved on, right? unless, your friend is your bestfriend and she knows how you still feel about him, then maybe that's another question...so, maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on...you know, talk to her or something...but if she's not that close, leave it! like i said, you've moved on right? go find someone else better...someone who deserves you... ^_^
543290
its not worth to lose the friendship for the guy..BUT you both need to be honest with each other..and face the facts, does he like YOU or does he like HER? be realistic. one friend is just going to have to sit back and watch this guy and them flirt and maybe be a couple and suck it up just to know her friend is happy. but seriously, be open with your friend and you and her need to be real and look at the situation.
177429
don't rush it, and follow that..Sounds like you two are already best friends.. I can tell you from experience that opposites attract but almost NEVER stay together. Best friends 99% of the time make best lovers..these relationships go WAY farther than the other if they click. Seriously.. Who would you rather spend life with?.. a best friend or something else..follow this until it plays out.. you never know.. you may wake up side by side 60 years later and say..I love yous
505774
Tell your friend first how you feel about him.  You don't want to lose your best friend over a guy.
280027
Well if I liked him and she knew I liked him i'd really see no problem in going to prom with him. Its just prom right? Nothing official? Anyways I think my Best friend would understand. I don't know what type of relationship you guys have, but is he the risk? I mean are you willing to lose a friend over him? Do you want a friend who would stop being your friend because of a guy? How would you feel if she went out with him? Does she even have a chance? I mean its difficult. I would probably go out with him, but that's me and my best friend would never stop being meing my friend because of a guy. Unless you know he cheated on her with me but that's understandable. So yeah I really think you should evaluate your relationships. I mean if she truly is your friend she wouldn't dump you because he chose you. Then again if you are truly her friend you wouldn't go out with him. ....at least not with out telling her....or giving her some heads up of what's going on. You could always say no and not tell her...but if she found out...well ...there might be a dilema.
330575
Do not end the friendship with him, but don't pursue him romantically either. Guys come and go, but best friends should be forever.  \n\nHowever, if he likes you and HE makes a move, talk to your friends about this and ask if they think it would be okay, because they would likely say yes, and you get to be with him and keep your best friends.\n\nBut if you make a move, your best friends may not like you so much anymore, and if he doesn't return the feelings, then you have no best friends and no boyfriend.
597601
This is your friend, so you must tell him straight out:\n" (name) we are really good friends, but I don't want anything to come between that, it would be too arkward. School comes first, mister. Also, dude, you gotta find yourself some hobbies and stuff so we are connected twins, becuase you do know that one day, we gonna have to go our separate ways..." This is a fun and simple way to break it to him, that school is really important to you and a strong friendship is needed to balance all the pressures of school. Also, don't call him a geek, school terms like that are really downgrading and depressing, I hate the titles they give to people (jocks, thespians, nerds), "It bothers the heck out of me" (catcher in the rye... a great novel that anyone should read)\nGOod luck, be friendly!!!
402935
You should not break their relationship being a friend.  Meet other boys. You will find some one of your liking.
436176
Snagg him up before someone else does!! after i got married (to my best friend) two years later i met another guy that is now my best friend and if my husband and i ever parted, i would choose my new best friend as my new life long mate. It helps that you guys are already best friends, that's a good stable foundation. Good luck, and make sure to tell him how you feel. Even if you don't say, show it.
588116
If you think this friendship is worth it, yes talk to her. Do it as soon as possible. If you wait all summer, the facts of the misunderstanding may get mixed up and things could become worse. If she's a total bitch, you're better off without her. Good luck!
343476
I was in a similar situation with the guy that I'm with now, only we didn't go to the same school.  We were best of friends for a year and stuff then he started going out with my best friend.  They broke up and it was really hard on my best friend so I told her that I would never go out with him.  Yes, as foolish as it may seem, I had an amazing amount of feelings for him.  But I played along and said, "Haha, yes, we're like brother and sister."\n\nWell, long story short, we got past that [so I thought] and we started going out.  Then, he just randomly comes along one day and says "It's akward because we used to be like brother and sister." etc.  So, that ended, we were still friends and now we're "together" again, I suppose, though not exclusive.\n\nSee, boys are undecisive and it may take some time for them to realize their true feelings for you.  I think you are blessed to have such a good friend but, hon, you can't MAKE him like you.  Just be who you are, and that's what he loves you for, is being you.  Just give it time and maybe someday, he will like you in the way you like him.  If you really like him, you shouldn't tell him, so you don't make it akward between you two.  But, if the time comes along when you just can't take it and you NEED to tell him, do so.  But in the right way.  Just cherish what you have with him, because it's better than nothing.
428136
I agree with FSJD. Be careful.  But if you and him click, I don't see any reason for you not to date him.  Your friend is no longer going with him.
250638
well, i think you should chose the one that would be best for you. if you like one guy, but your friends dont like him or he gets you in trouble, then you definatly shouldnt go with him unless you like that type. well, i would write more but i dont want to run out of room. i hope it works out with you and whoever you chose
191784
if he is your best friend, there is nothing wrong letting him know how you feel. as long as you know he is not going to use it against your friendship. if he reciprocate favorable with your feelings, maybe it will go to another level? if not, hope you two remain the best of friend....good luck..