I have had a girl friend for over a year, and all this school year I have been in secret writing and getting letters back from a girl that is my new friend. And I think she likes me and I like her too, but I also Love my girlfriend what should I do?
213056
u should stop doing wht ur doing w/that new girll.. if u still wanna be with ur gf.. cuz its just not right!!imagine ur gf doing the same thing to u.. how would u feel??
644998
i think you should talk to your girl friend about this and tell her you love her and you dont want any thing to happed to this relationship good luck
238433
It's not fair to your girlfriend if you don't think it's going to work out. You THINK you love her? You do or you don't. You need to figure out what is going on w/your girlfriend before you start planning for this other girl. Not wanting to hurt someone is not a good enough reason to stay w/them-that sounds harsh, but you'll just end up resenting her.
483912
Maybe because you are a likable person? I can understand that you have a dilemma, but it's a workable one. If more than one girl likes you, spend time with both of them, then choose which one you like best.
162366
Tell her that you value her friendship but you're finding it difficult at the moment and you need some time to sort yourself out. If she values you as much as you value her then she'll understand and give you the time and space until your comfortable with the situation. Also you need to get out and make some new friends, so that your not so reliant on this one girl for friendship. If you get out there you'll probably meet someone new, and you won't have damaged your great friendship with this girl.
22952
If you are even considering another girl while you are with your current girlfriend - you shouldn't be with your current girlfriend.  Definitely, you need to get out of the relationship you are currently in.  It's for you to decide to take that risk if the other girl likes you or not though because I wouldn't tell her that you broke up for her or anything like that - I personally, wouldn't think that was cool.
515940
Maybe "spineless dweeb" is a bit strong, but that's heading in the right direction.\n\nWhat's the point of sending a letter to a girl telling her you like her and then not signing it?  How, good brother, is she going to answer you?\n\nMaybe you're not ready for a relationship just yet.  Your question suggests that you are very young.  If you like someone and you want to be liked back, be friendly, kind, polite, and sincere with that person and if it's going to happen, it will.  If not, at least you've made a friend, right?
546116
i've been there cept with a guy-i know the feeling.....what i did was found a time when we were alone and i asked him if i could aska  question,when he said sure i asked him simply what he thought of me-he said iw as a great friend ect.i asked if he could ever think of me as more then a friend(me being a girl that was pretty bold) and he said maby.....so i took that as positive and so  what  i did that made the whole situation more fun and intreaging was i wrote him a letter-i was on my way back from camp and i knew he would be there when i got picked up so i wrote a letter on the trip back jus a friendly letter and said he could write back if he wanted and gave it to him.....well he wrote me back and in the letter he told me he liked me,from there we started a relationship....i think u should write her a letter jus about anythign telling her u were bored and thinkin about her or somthin.....
97828
Well first of all you should have told the girl that you like now that you like her. Or if u dont feel like telling her and make the girl tell her feelings to u then try to hang out with the girl u like and then increase ur relationship with her to make her know u like her.
522683
No friends are not supposed to kiss. As to what you do... that's more complicated. First you say you have a girlfriend, why is that if you're in love with this girl you describe? So you can start from figuring out what you feel for who... i'd say maybe what is happening with this girl is something you had in your mind intensely and since you've been close to her as friends it was easy to get carried away, but be careful when a woman adds someone to the "friend" category usually she deletes him from the "possible boyfriend" category and she's looking for other things from him and usually thinks she'll risk losing him if he becomes her boyfriend. So the only thing you can do is clear out what is in your mind and heart and then meet the woman who is in these 2 places and talk to her openly.
232564
Ok, look.  You are going to be graduating soon and you want your girlfriend to go with you... right? Well, is she in school too?  Maybe she's not ready to take the next step.  You can't rush her into doing it and if you feel like a long distance relationship would be to difficult then it's time to break up. And as for the other girl... if you're breaking up with someone you really really love why would you start seeing someone that you just "like"? and still be in the same situation?\nIf  you have to break up with her let it be the last resort but also don't twist her arm to take the next step either.
160529
I wouldnt because they were your friends before you met this girl plus if your friend says luv ya that is different than say i love you.Plus if your g/f really likes she would understand
238680
You need to sit with your girlfriend and talk to her openly abt how you feel.Sometimes girls just want to be there and be nice to their friends. She might not know that all this is making you uncomfortable. If she tells you there is nothing to worry abt and everything is fine, you need to tell her to be more considerate of your feelings and try to behave in a manner that would not put a strain on your relationship. But if she admits to liking the guy, there is no point in you hanging around there. You just need to let go and tell yourself that somethings r just not meant to be. Sometimes you need to be strong and take decisions with your head and not your heart.
259579
If you're sure of your sexuality, why don't you start by going to her for advise? That will get the "telling her" bit out of the way. \n\nAs to you really liking her, it really does depend on whether or not she loves her girlfriend. If she does, then it wouldn't be right for you to try to come between them. Would it be worth losing her friendship if you did get together and it didn't work out? If she's not totally in love with her girlfriend, then try telling her how you feel about her, but do also tell her that if she rejects your advances, you will accept that & want to remain friends (assuming that you would be able to do that emotionally).
337276
I dont understand, is he still in the relationship with the other girl?\nAnyways, if he is..i dont think it would be fair to ruin things between them.\nIf he feels something, let him make the move- talking to u about it.\nDont write the letter, stop flirting wiv him n do move on.\nSometimes i guy flirting wiv u could just mean, a guy flirting wiv u.\nSorry, luv but i wish u all the best.
588143
Aww iv had this problem, what can i say mine worked out i finally got the guy i wanted to be with and we've been together for almost a year now. It's a complicated matter and i know how you feel, its either: let her know how you feel and ruin your friendship or not let her know and keep wondering. I say give it a bit more time it may seem like forever but you must know guys and girls can't be friends cause sexuality and emotions kick in, its a fact. But if u have a good feeling that she likes you back then go ahead and tell her how you feel. Girls hide their feelings very well.
330533
stay right away from that girl you made out with,and focus all your attention everyday on your girl friend and make sure you go out of your way everyday to let her know that you only love her and only want to be with her,if you do the slightest thing at even looking at another girl it will rock the boat with you and your girl friend,but if you do truley love your girl friend you wont have any hasdsles in showing her shes tyhe only one for you,