Ok, so girls have orgasms after 20-15 minutes, right? and guys its after 5-10 minutes. How are we supposed to keep up? any tips? cuz we only last half as long as they do :(
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Warm her up for 10 minutes and then join in.
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lier lier is all i can say.. even for a guy when losing his virginity it is kinda a nervous-ish experience. i am sure not as indepth as the ladies BUT STILL AN EXPIERIENCE..why? well there is a stereotype for guys and this dude you speak off seems to be exemplifying this stereotype... more than likely his first time was shorter than that.. maybe 5 to 15 minutes the most... why well even if he was with an experienced female... she probably would have orgasmed by then... with me and my virginity it was like 5 minutes.. i didn't have an orgasm and the primary reason for the above turn out was because i was doing it with my girlfriend and it was her first time as well... in all honesty after like 30 seconds of actual penetration and trust we stopped because it was painful for her... the first time usually encounters physical obstacles... the pain of your hymen breaking... I have had this same experience with 3 more young ladies where they were losing thier virginities. A couple times went by like this until they had healed up, gotten over the psycological fears of pregnancy and all that.. and actually got into enjoying the feelings actually generated by the act of intercourse/making love...after those initial 2 to 3 times ...well it's all climax from there!!!! no pun intended.. hoped this helps.. \n\none more thing.. don't be in such a rush to loose your virginity... it makes a big difference in your life... i guarantee it.. picture yourself at 21 or 27 and a friend asked you about your first time... the answer can either go one of two ways.. ohh its something i'll never forget cause it was with a great guy.. boyfriend of mine where we had a good and long relationship OR i regreted my first time... it was wack... i didn't really feel anything (emothionally or otherwise) i don't even remember that guy. i wish i had waited longer...  when that time comes.. i guarantee you'll remember The Thinker!
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go to your local adult store and buy a little but plug along with some KY Jelly....give your BF a BJ while inserting the plug....his orgasm will last 45 seconds minimum and he will be forever grateful and more satisfied then you could ever imagine....
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Guys have a climax.  It build up and then peaks during ejaculation (cumming).  Girls just hit a plateau I think.  I think most researchers say that guys experience a more intense orgasm, but we also need a recharging period and females do not.
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dont use your hips use your arms and keep your back, butt, and legs straight it helps me.\n also if your getting close pull out and take a second before going back in. try masterbating about 1-2 hours befor sex or drink some alcohol.\n sex should last at least 20 minuets for both you and her
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Hi story.  What a pity that I do not know your age, whether you are male or female, and whom you wish to give an orgasm!  I will assume that you are a young male, wanting to know how to please a girl.\n\nYou will need to know lots about female sexuality, whichever you are.  I recommend this site:\n\nhttp://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/m_index.htm\n\nYou might like to read the masturbation methods; see M in the index.  See how many different ways a girl / woman can stimulate herself (or be stimulated by a partner) to orgasms!\n\nFor the M on a F setting, see the linked site on male sexuality:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/\n\nespecially this section:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/sextech.html\n\nand especially this section:\n\n:-)\n\n"First time sex"\n\n(quite a long way down, on the page.\n\nThere is quite a lot of detail about how to give HER pleasure, there; you need not go on to actual sexual intercourse.  There are links to other good sites.\n\nI like the way they also mention other ways to enjoy each other's company, eg:\n\nhttp://www.the-penis.com/malesexuality.html\n\n"101 ways to please your lover without "doing it"  \n\nJust a bit of fun. Substitute your favorite locations, ignore the ones you can't understand -  you've still got plenty of great ideas. I love the one about chocolate. \n\nEat Ben and Jerry's ice cream • share a tent • leave a rose on their car • skip classes together • go running • give them breakfast in bed • give each other a massage • take shag classes • make a mixed tape • bake them cookies • give each other butterfly kisses • wait in line for basketball tickets • canoe at the Lake • drink champagne in the gardens • bowl • camp at the National Forest • wash each other's hair • go to the top of the chapel tower • share a lollipop • sing to each other • go somewhere special and take pictures together • blow bubbles • share fantasies • suck on their toes • cover each other in chocolate and lick it off • compliment them • have a snowball fight • blindfold them and lead them on a trust walk • hot tub • shower together • go to a film show • respect yourself • play one-on-one in the park • take a road trip to somewhere romantic • play lap tag • take a class together • pass notes during class • go to the park and listen to bands • go mountain biking through a forest • play in the woods • surprise them with dinner in the library • make out in the stacks (library basement) • tuck each other into bed • take social dance classes • spend the whole day in bed • take care of each other when you are sick • put your perfume on their pillow • hold hands • do laundry together • send each other a package • send them a note through the express mail • play kissing tag • work out together • snuggle • learn to read each other's mind • read erotic poetry • tie each other's shoe laces • respect each other • leave notes on their noteboard • do favors for each other • make a collage together • learn Tae-Kwon-Do • be honest with each other • do classes together • read each other's palm • rent movies and cry together • wrestle • take a bubble bath • cut each other's hair • slow dance • star gaze in the stadium • put a note in their notebook • do the ropes course • picnic at the gazebo • take a walk • play in the mud • put love letters in their underwear drawer • flirt • wear sexy lingerie • say I love you • put a personal in the newspaper • have a candle light dinner • give each other a hug • consider mutual masturbation • run in the rain • look at baby pictures • nibble on their ear • give each other a hickey • make chocolate fondue • go horseback riding • study together • give them a piggy-back ride • spend the weekend at the beach • send each other E-mail\n\n\nIn other words.....be lovin
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i'm a guy, and damn i wish i could hold my orgasm back longer than i do... it's not something i can help... i try to think of other things like drums, baseball, etc but still i'm "10 second Tighe" to my wife's dismay, i usually do some vibrator work on her (or watch her do it while i service her chest, neck, ears, etc..) before we get going so i at least last longer than getting undressed. i also usually have my wife on top so it lasts longer and she can orgasm, she doesn't pump up and down, just kinda moving her \nhips back and forth this way there isn't much jerking motion on my "friend" yet she's rubbing her spot back and forth... \n\nanyway, yes, your argument is small... neither one of you needs to "change"... a leopard can't change it's spots, you need to not sweat the small stuff cause it's just small stuff. \nnever say any sex is a waste of time, just suggest different ways of doing it, some days are better for me (ok, most) and some days are better for my wife.\n\ngive and take, push and pull, laugh and cry, argue and make-up.\nthat's a relationship.
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First off, girls are rarely ever just relieved when a guy ejaculates.  Generally she is more relieved after an orgasim and no matter how many porn stories say that orgasms happen simultaniously, they don't usually and a lot of the time it feels better when you don't.  Speaking of my personal sex drive, I last longer when I orgasm everyday or a few times each day, but I cum quicker after a longer period of abstinence, just like guys.  I don't usually feel much sexual tension though during long absences of sexual "relief."  Email me if you have more questions.
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Only minutes? Dont think so. A guy should try to learn to make love 1st. there are no time limits. You work to the point where you almost climax, then slow it down so it builds up in yourself and your partner. Timing for the both of you is very important. No girl wants to get worked up and then wham it is all done because the guy came too soon. Where is the satisfaction for her? Guys should smarten up. If they ever want to be with the same lady again, then make sure that LADY is just as satisfied before you drop your load.
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all your energies are focused tooo!!!!!! much on da orgasm... creating too much anxeity...and too much expectation... which creates a block... Next time you have sexs dont be in a hurry...and dont search for orgasm somewhere in your brain or any other part... just realx and have sexes as if orgasm never existed...just wait and watch...it will come as surprise guest!!! all da best...
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This makes me laugh... lol.\nOkay, sex doesn't last for a few mintues I'll tell you that.\nYou can make it last a long time... enjoy it.\nWhat is normal? I don't think there is a standing time for normality... just do it till both of you well.. how do I put it? Feel satisfied.\nSex is something that is for the both of you remember that.\nHow many times should you start over? Depends on you and your partner. Does she want to do it again? Can you still keep on going? Ask yourself and your partner these questions.\nHope this helps. ^_^
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sounds to me like you have a winner! i personally like 5-7min but i have been with a man that can go 10 so....just ask her what she wants!
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I think 3 min is ok.\nForet about the porn movies where an orgasme lasts 20 min those are just movies ok.\ni will not doing the often you may need to rest fes days before you do it again because the more sperm you have in your testi the better it is. good luck to you
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How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation\n\n\nWorried that you don't last long enough during sex? Feel like a “minute man”? Well, you’re not alone – not by a long shot. Premature ejaculation is the number one question we get here – more than penis size, more than pregnancy, more than STDs, more than anything. \n\nAn Army of Minute Men?\nOf course, you would never guess that premature ejaculation (PE) is so common, because nobody ever talks about it. Even if it’s really bugging them, most guys won’t even bring it up with their doctor. The truth is, almost every guy experiences this kind of tool trouble at least once or twice during his sexual career. And many, many more have an ongoing struggle with it. In fact, some statistics say 20 to 30% of all men experience PE. That’s around one in four. Way more guys have trouble with being too quick on the trigger than have a problem getting it up. That’s why we’re going to give you some straight answers on PE and what you can do about it. \n\nHow Long Should I Be Lasting? \nThe term “minute man” pretty much sums it up: if you shoot your wad in a minute or less after penetration, you probably have what would be called premature ejaculation. You might even come before you get it in. Technically, PE means you’re coming sooner than you want to or expect to during sex, you don’t have any control over it, and it’s stressing you out or making you feel bad. If you come in a couple of minutes, but you don’t mind and your girlfriend is cool with it, then there’s not really a problem. But if every sexual encounter climaxes with you saying to your date, “Oops, sorry,” then that qualifies as having a problem with PE. \n\nLet’s Get Real\nOf course, lots of guys have unrealistic expectations about how long they’re supposed to last while fucking, and even how long women want them to last. The guys in porn videos pound away for what looks like hours at a time, but that’s all staged. Like average penis size, stamina in bed is vastly overestimated. In real life, most men don’t really last all that long – some surveys put the average lasting time before ejaculation at about seven minutes, which means a lot of guys actually last less than that. If you’re young and amped up, three to four minutes is more like it. It’s simply not realistic to think that you should be able to fuck like a stallion for half an hour, then climax at will at the exact moment your expertly skilled thrusting brings your partner to a screaming orgasm. Believe us, it just doesn’t happen that way. And as far as what women want, the truth is, most women (60 to 70%) cannot come through fucking alone; even if you could go all night, they’d only get sore. So a few minutes of intercourse is probably enough as long as you can back it up with some other sexual skills like fingering and oral sex. \n\nWhat Causes Premature Ejaculation? \nIf you do have PE, there’s a small chance it’s being caused by a disease or a medication you’re taking, but this is rarely the case. Most of the time there is no clear reason for premature ejaculation, and doctors still aren’t sure what causes the majority of PE cases. Current theories focus on biochemical factors, such as how sensitive your nervous system is, or the role of the neurotransmitter serotonin. We can tell you for a fact what doesn’t cause PE. It is not caused by excessive masturbation, poor sexual technique, lack of willpower or control, or any personal inadequacy on your part. In other words, if you have PE, don’t blame yourself, and don’t worry too much about what’s causing it. Instead, focus on what you can do about it. \n\nProven Techniques for Lasting Longer\nProbably the most effective way of dealing with PE long term, and the treatment most commonly recommended by sexual experts, is using a method like the stop-start or pinch technique to slow down your reaction time once you get turned on. These methods have been devel
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The quickest way would be to try all types of positions. I think everyone has a certain position that brings them an orgasm.
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What is an orgasm?\nIn 1953 a well-known therapist defined it as "an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension". There are other definitions, but the word 'tension' comes up in most. Which suggests that when you have sex you deliberately wind yourself up just so that you can experience the pleasure of returning to normal afterwards. Bizarre!\n\nWhat happens in the body?\nThe technical stuff that creates all this tension is pretty amazing. \n\nYour heart pumps faster and your breathing gets heavier to fuel those tensing muscles.\nHormones such as endorphins and oxytocin are pumped round your brain and body, telling you this is fun.\nBlood is pumped to your genitals to create the tension that will ultimately trigger a pudendal reflex (muscular spasm of the genitals).\nThat reflex will result in your pelvic-floor muscles contracting between five and 15 times at 0.8-second intervals. This is an orgasm as we know it.\nA wandering neural pathway that bypasses the spine has recently been discovered, explaining why some paraplegics say they can experience orgasms.\nWhat an orgasm isn't\nAn orgasm should never be the objective of sex. You can have a great time with a partner, feeling aroused, sensual, intimate and loving, and not have an orgasm. Yes, it's fun - but unless you're trying to get pregnant it shouldn't be your primary goal.\n\nYou can't make someone have an orgasm. What you can do, besides physically stimulating your partner, is create a safe, comfortable and caring environment for them in which an orgasm might happen. \n\nOrgasm is not limited to the genitals; some people can experience orgasm without their genitals being touched. Some people describe the sensation as a "tingle"; for others the feelings go all over the body.\n\nFaking it\nWhy do some people - male and female - fake orgasms? Maybe because we tend to see orgasm as the signal to stop sex. If, for some reason, your mind or body doesn't fancy an orgasm you could be at it forever.\n\nMost people who fake it do so to please their partner. They feel they're letting them down if they don't make it. Instead of pretending, try and create a relationship where, if you're not in the mood or you've lost the momentum, you can say so honestly. \n\nQuality not quantity\nWe tend to make a huge fuss about orgasms in our society. Most articles about enhancing your sex life focus on improving orgasms or having more of them. But the intensity of an orgasm is not an indication of sexual satisfaction. If you want a good orgasm, you can do it yourself. If you want a satisfying sexual relationship, you'll need a lot more. \n\nIn psychosexual therapy, people are told about the 2-6-2 rule. Out of every ten times you have sex, the chances are that twice it'll be fantastic and mind-blowing, and the earth will move; six times it'll be nice but nothing special; and twice you'll wish you hadn't bothered.
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i dont know about other girls, but i have a really easy time, last weekend while my boyfriend and i had sex, i came 7 times. but it also lasted 2 1/2 hours, not just three minutes..lol\nusually a girl gets wet when she starts to feel frisky, so being wet is associated with feeling good, but it takes more than just being wet to come.