I cheated on my ex, she found out left and now she is married, she forgive me but I cant seem to forgive myself what should I do? I want to move on!
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Forgiveness is tough, but it liberates us in the same way that God's forgiveness frees us. If you never say "I forgive" then you will never let go of the hurt. The past will haunt your present and your future. Forgiving does not erase the hurt, but it will free you from the threat the hurt will stick with you for life. You can pray this prayer "Help me learn from you, dear Jesus, how to forgive, so that I might live fully and freely. Amen"
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if your partner is willing to move on then you should too. it is very painful to stay with a cheating spouse.all the bitter memories pops up in your mind again and again. the thing to do is forgive. you must never think of taking revenge. talk to your partner and try to mend whatever is left of the relationship.dont try to forget...you can never forget. but you can forgive. then you will move on.remember that you have won and your spouse really loves you...or else he wouldnt be with you. remember people makes mistakes. dont repeat his mistakes. if he repents for his mistakes then embrace him. start a new life. go to councelling, pick up sports, spend time to gether. after all life is short.
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Trust is one of the most important things. If some cheated on me then I'd want to know.  Whether to continue with the relationship would depend on how you found out you were being cheated on. If he or she came to you, then you know this person has a conscience and you may be able to continue with the relationship eventually letting go of the hurt from their indiscretion. But if they never said anything and you found out another way I think it would be best to let go of that relationship because there will be serious trust issues. I personally don't do the whole getting back at my significant other thing. If you have forgiven him/her then it wouldn't be fair to keep bringing it up or punishing them for what they've done. So if it's something you can't get past. Let go.
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I wish I could say "forgive" and forget. But "once a cheater-always a cheater." Actually, if you will listen to the wisdom that is inside of you, you already know what to do . . . \n\nThe reality is that being able to cheat is a huge character flaw. It means that person does not respect you or themselves. Plus, that person is able to lie and not feel guilty enough about it to break and tell the truth. I am no kid ~~ and if you are young, please learn from those of us who have been around the block and few times ~~ respect yourself and without a lot of drama -- tell the guy goodbye.  \n\nAre there ever cheaters who change? Yes, but you will find that those who have usually had a deep life-changing religious experience. Those who are "sorry" and say "they will never do it again" without a deep internal overhaul, are the ones who cheat again. \n\nI have experienced it all. I have been cheated on, I have been hurt until I didn't think I could hurt any more, I have forgiven, and I have been hurt right back again. This is not a vindictive response. This is a word from one older sister to a younger one -- stay away from the cheaters. They will only break you heart.
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There are still memories of that person u still have ...\n\nAll i can say is ur being self-centered ... ur first mistake was getting married to ur current hubby ... n then ur second mistake was having a kid ..... ur third mistake is thinkin u can get ur ex back ..... \n\nur gonna keep on makin mistakes unless u stop thinkng bout him ... Frankly wud u rather risk ur entire life or b with ur hubby who loves u n ur child n have a family ??\n\nif u want out then do it asap be4 u hurt more n more people
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I have to much respect for myself to EVER stay with a man who cheated on me. Regardless if he begged for forgiveness or not. You should move on to someone who truly respects you.\n\n\nhttp://groups.myspace.com/closetednerd
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I'm sorry you had to go through this, I know how much it hurts when your spouse cheats on you.  I wish I could say you could trust him and that everything will be fine but the truth is he crossed a line and now that line really doesn't exist for him.  I'm sure he regrets hurting you but I doubt if he really regrets that he was with this other woman.  I tried to forgive my ex when she cheated and believe her when she said she wanted to work it out but ultimately she did it again and I realized I could never trust her again.  Trust is one of the basic foundations in a marriage and once it is gone it isn't easily repaired.  I think you need to decide what is right for you and if you don't believe you can honestly trust him again then divorce is your only option.
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You can't! You blew it! Time to move on. A woman will forgive, but she will never forget. Neither should you and next time you meet someone you really care about, consider not doing things that will make her not trust you.
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Ummmmmm wait a sec - do I have this straight?\n\nHe cheated on you - you forgave him and gave him a 2nd chance?  \n\nYou later cheated and he won't give YOU a 2nd chance?\n\nWell that about says it all if I have that straight.. he doesn't want to give you that 2nd chance because this is HIS way of getting out and 'blaming you for it'.  I bet he has another 'side'.... I'm so sorry, and realize that you have already punished yourself enough, and that you TRIED to be honorable and tell him the truth, and if you could forgive him and he won't you, he's being a JERK!  I'm sorry /comf!
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oh darlin...i'm so sorry for what you are going through.  my husband is not that bad, i don't think...you just need to know for yourself that it happened.  give yourself the power by leaving and knowing that he has cheated.  leave him wondering why you left and if you left just because he cheated on you.  whatever you do, don't put up with that anymore...give yourself that much respect and it will help you down the line when things get hard.  good luck!
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Have you tried talking to your wife and finding out from her what the problem is?  I think you need to before you toss out your vows.  \n\nI was cheated on by my now ex-husband MANY times.  It’s not a fun thing to have happen to you.  Please talk to her first.
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When something similar happened to me, I tried to forgive but I could not forget. I ended up having to leave him for my own sanity. That level of betrayal is unforgivable.It sucks but you don't seem to be able to move on with her so maybe you so move without her.
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Wow this is a hard one, First you cant expect her to forgive you right away.\nShe's probably still hurt at the thought of you cheating. I mean she just had a baby. She's probably got a lot of things going through her head. Its good that you want to make an effort to get back together. I think you have to work harder on that eye-balling other girl thing you got going on. You wouldn't like It if she was checking out other guys. Put yourself in her place. Would you accept her if she cheated on you. Just give it some time and try to assure her that you want her and only her. If you really want this to work out, you gotta really work to keep your relationship. You love her don't you. Be a man and get your Sh*t together. Remember you're the one that messed up, you got to make her feel like you really want to work it out.
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I feel for you...\nIf she is marrying someone else then there's nothin you can do except to let go of your guilt feelings and your love for her.  You don't have a choice but to move on or be miserable for the rest of your life.
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she cheated, it doesnt matter who it was with. you have to decide if you're willing to forgive her and trust her that she won't  do it again.
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I was dating my ex for a year and a half, i found out he cheated on me in begining...we were engaged when he told me. After that i found out he had cheated on me a couple more times and i called of the wedding.I didn't like the fact that i forgave him the first time and he still did it again. I think you should breakup with him and someone who loves you and won't cheat on you. If they cheat once they will do it again
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Tell him you are sorry and that you will never do that kind of a thing again. Never involve yourself with married people. Think about it this way. What if someone else interfered in you blissful marriage and spoilt it. Ask for her forgiveness and stay clear from such entanglements.