me and my bf got in a fight and broke up but we've been on and off for almost a year. i want him back and he says hes not ready yet hes going to prom with another girl and might ask her out.\nshould i just move on or wait it out?\nhes the first boy ive ever really loved =-(
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off and on relationships are really crappy and a waste of time, First loves are always  the hardest to get over and if he is planning on asking another girl out then dont waste your time with him.  He isnt ready for a relationship with you but he is ready for one with someone else?  That sounds like a real jerk. Move on honey there is someone better out there for you.
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be front about it, if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet.
104186
If you have any guys that are good friends and don't have dates as of yet ask them.  I went to prom one year with a good friend of mine after we both had just gotten out of relationships and her and I had the best time of everyone there I think.  Good Luck!!!
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your situation seems like a very complicated one.. maybe the next time he says that he loves you, you should ask him why u arent together then. i dont think its a good idea to continue to do gf bf stuf with him unless you start dating again. he might be just using u and u really dont want to get deeper than u already are if he is. maybe theres a different reason he broke up with u.. fam? but i dont noe. if i loved someone else i dont think i would be able to date another person at the same time.
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just see what happens on saturday. if you still feel like you want him back, take him back.. just don't jump into it real quick cuz you don't wanna get hurt again and he probably doesn't want to either. BUT if you go back out with him... PLEASE make sure he's the only one.. but anyways.. GOOD LUCK!!! ♥
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be front about it, and get the ball rolling. if its to hard, try it over the phone instead of in person. or be romantic about it. my current boyfriend started things up with me by asking me to prom. in each class that i went to during the course of the day, he left an envelope with some cut up pieces of paper. at the end of the day, i put the pieces of paper together, and it turns out it was a puzzle, which read "will you go to prom with me?" and on the envelope it said to meet him at a certain time, so i did, with my own envelope with a puzzled 'yes' in it. it was really sweet. of course, in your situation, mold it so that the envelopes follow her daily schedule. she CANT say no to that...
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if i were you id give it a while. i mean my guy didn't do that and im still hurt, the break-up was over 2 months ago.\n(ps. im a girl) just do what you think is right.\n good luck
614361
i think that guy is just playing with you. don't take him seriously he lost his chance so well it all depends on you really do u still like ur actual bf or ur willing tobreak up him to go with the other guy. dunno this is complicated.
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He is not treating you as first and only. It would be OK if he went with other guys - just - but no way if he goes with another girl (unless you are QUITE sure about her - like she was a sister or cousin or gay).\n\nI think you need to rethink this relationship and probably look for someone who actually wants to be with YOU and not just anyone.\n\nSorry - language problem: for 'goes with' read 'goes out with!
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I would go out. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years from ages 16-19. I was really happy but I felt the same way. I took the leap to go out and I'm glad I did. Now, my ex and I are best friends. Even though we didn't get back together, dating other guys let me realize how much happier I am that my ex and I are just friends now. I didn't realize how much happier I could be until I had some more experience. Plus, I have overcome the fear of wondering how it is to date others. And you never know, you might date around and realize what a great guy you had. He seems like he would be willing to get back together after some time. This would let you know just how happy you are with him, and you will never wonder again.
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if you go wit another girl dont let her be your rebound.... and if your not ready to move on then dont it would be weird to go wit another girl i know cuz it was for me and i couldnt do it i ended up breakin up wit him in just 3 days.... i couldnt do it....
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I think you really need to take a look at your relationship and see where it is going.  Is this a guy that you think that you might want a future with?  Can you picture yourself with him for 4 more months, for another year?  What about after college?  College changes people, and that is something he hasn't experianced yet.  By just being in college, you have been thrown on an express way to maturity while he is still left behind in regulated high school life.  \n\nEvaluate your feelings for this other guy.  Where do you see them going?  Is this a fantasy of yours or can you really see yourself with him?  \n\nBreaking up with a bf is not the end of the world.  If you don't think things will work out with him, than there is nothing wrong with moving on.  People usually do not meet who their will marry or be with for a long time until later in life, so you don't think that by breaking up with your bf, you will be an old maid.  If you guys are on a break, then take advantage of your break and see what else is out there.  Maybe it will help you appreciate each other more or maybe you can find something else out there for you.\nBest of luck!
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Just ask a guy friend... I asked just a girl friend to my prom and I had a lot of fun.  We ended up dating for a while after that... u know like friends with benefits. She is still a good friend of mine too, it just brought us closer.
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Ok this is from personal experience I had with a girl. The thing I'm gonna put my money on is that he's trying to make you jelous because he believes he's run outta options. I hate to be blunt but if your considered a really attractive girl in your school it doesn't matter how goodlooking he is but he may be scared of you, espically of approaching you directly. You also have to think of the way you treated him, you cheated on him, and also you pushed him away when he wanted to talk to him...well now its time to put youself to the test.\nI'm not sure of your age so i'm not sure if you can drive or not, but since your able to still monitor him IE knowing how he acts arond other girls I'm 100% sure he knows this information about his flirting and girl handeling is getting back to you. So you need to choose a night, time, and place and track him down randomly. Talk to him about it, I know the girl I went through with this I did the exact same thing and it would have ment the world to me if she had just tracked me down and come to me to talk about it. You've got to put yourself in his shoes and realize just how much you hurt him, its also possible he wants you to hurt some too since you seem to have been completly unaffected (from his point of view) from the break up. Once you've sat down for awhile and thought this over and you actually understand his pain and the hell you put him through (I know i'm being harsh but it'll help you in the long run) only then will you be ready to talk to him about it and salvage something.\n\nAnd if your not trying to salvage something or you know you'd never be able to handle a serious realtionship with him without cheating its best to just leave this be and go through the pain of losing someone.\n\nHowever from what you've told me about him and how i'm guessing how you feel I think its for the best that you two try and salvage a relationship. At the very least try and follow my advice about trying to put yourself in his shoes and feeling his pain, it'll give you a better perspective on things. \n\nGood luck to the both of you!\n\nFeel free to e-mail me if you need more help
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look ..i'm in the same setuation as you r ...my ex said he not ready ..so we broke up. And i'm not the kind of girl who give up on everything and trying to get what i want but i just relise what is the point of tryting to get someone who doesn't want me. so i think i should be happy with single life and i don't need them to make me happy. But i love him so i give him what he want ..he want to be friends and i friends with him and he don't want me to hate him and angry ..so i don't and i just trying to be cooling off and i don't show him how much i need him and i told him i'm happy and give him his need but at the same time i'm making my self happy and enjoy my life without him...who know, i believe their is someone out there is waiting for you and me ...and i know i will be inlove again and so do u...but if he want to come back let him be and if he don't just set him free as he wish ...\n\nRemember if u trying to make ur self happy and if you happy life is good ...this is just a part of life ..let them go ...
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Sounds like he isn't ready to move on cause he's already turned down one of your friends.  You said you were with him when you were 13.  Depending on how much older you are now, I wouldn't try and re-establish some sort of a relationship unless you are ready for one.  To be fair to your other friend, if you truly feel a desire and need to find out if you and your ex have anything to build a relationship on, tell her first.  Explain to her one of your other friends liked him and he turned her down, and she wants you to get back with him, which leads me to believe he wants to try with you again.  So to keep your other friend that thinks she is totally in love with him, from getting hurt and rejected by him, talk to her, explain the whole situation and she won't feel so foolish.  The worst thing you could do is go back with your ex without explaining to her the truth.
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Think about grade school. That's how the boys act when they like a girl. I don't know why they do it, but it happens a lot. My first love was 19 and I was 18. I actually couldn't stand him and avoided him every time I'd see him. Eventually, I accepted when he asked me to go to my senior prom. Something clicked like magic, and it was like I was in heaven! We would be together today, but unfortunately, he has passed on. I still think about him all the time, laughing at the insults and meanness, and smiling at all the wonderful times we had together.