Is this a common thing to think of someone you really loved from 25 years ago? Sometimes I think I should try to contact her.Or maybe not!
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every single Love that we had passed. They are kept deep in our heart. Sometimes, we see something to make us remember all the memory with each date that we had. It's absolutely normal. That is how GOD created HUMAN which is different from any kind of Animal.
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Wow, I wish you the best of luck. The first love will always last in your mind forever. It's not your fault, you were too young to know any better then. Do you know anyone that knows him so you can ask them questions? An old email? Phone #? something... If not I hope the links below will help you (there may be a fee). But maybe he is married now. If it was meant to be then it would certainly have happened. Maybe you should let him go. The memories will remain but it's not time to move on dear.
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damn son!! you can write. that's the problem about love from 1 side only. nothing good could come out from it. i guess you'd heard about time will heal all wounds. in your case it will take longer than usual. keep yourself busy. join an activity. trow away any things that reminds you of her. have a good cry. and try not to stay @ the same place as you both once shared. and why do you still consider her as a saint. she's a ho. face it and call her that. you'll feel better.
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you know her better than anyone. go get her, but your powerless if she has stopped loving you. :-(. what a sad situation for you, i hope it is all a mid life crisis and hope she comes to her senses and realises how much you miss her! good luck! if you know where she is write her a letter
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It sounds like to me that maybe you and your girlfriend were at one time very close, and was her passing away a surprise. Maybe you still have feeling for her, or wished you'd maybe did things a little different. It may take you a while, but you will eventually find someone. Do you compare every woman you see to her. She was your first, and you will remember her forever. Hang in there, and good luck, be patient,and its okay to think dirty thoughts while you masturbate, everyone does!!!
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LOL i emailed one of my ex's that i hadnt seen for 4 yrs just to make sure he was ok, and now we are gonna be living together soon!!! :O) its not freaky unless you really dont like this person!
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It's amazing that after all these years, you still feel something for her. And I think it's just proper that she knows how you feel. I suggest telling her that you've been in love with her for the longest time and just wait for her response. If the feeling's been there for a very long time, i believe it's worth telling. And it's worth risking rejection. Sure, you may get rejected but it's going to be worth it. Who knows? She may tell you she loves you too and it's all good, right?
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Think about this. In 10 years from now, will you regret not getting to know her and doing things with her?\n\nI know I can say yes I have regrets due to ignoring my feelings about certain people and letting them slip away.
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Stay in touch all the time if possible via webcam, e-mails and such. Having contact doesn't make things seem to drag between the time you have before you see them in person again.
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I am going through the same exact thing right now.  I kid you not, the whole age thing is a brutal killer.  Either they will learn to accept it with time, or what happened to me is I tried to burry it and move on as well as she, and it only works to a point.  I think this is one of those things which has to come with time.  It has been one of the hardest things for me to go through, and I hate it, and it has been over a year for me that this has been going on.   I wish you good luck with this.  Brando
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I still feel that sometimes, and my grandfather died 20 years ago.  If you had a strong bond, it's normal.  Either that or we both are crazy.
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This happen to me many years ago and I kick myself in the butt sometimes for NOT calling him.  It was 12 years ago and today I still think about him. So if I was you I would call
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Coming from experience, and in my case, I was engaged to someone about 14 years ago and about 2 years ago, I was in my homestate for my grandmother's funeral. I came through my ex's hometown and there was alot of unresolved issues at the time he broke off the engagement without a real reason. I decided to try to find out what his story was and to wanted to know why he did what he did. I mailed a long letter, asking the questions and searching for the answers I was looking for. He hurt me pretty badly by leaving without a real reason and he got the letter and wrote back. If you do decide to contact an old ex about unresolved issues on why your relationship ended, after you get your answers, move on. Accept the answers and accept that as closure. If your ex wants to be "friends" after the both of you aired it all out, my advice would be, don't be friends. Afterall an ex, is an ex for a reason. If you try to be "friends", old feelings will stir up, you could fall back in love with that person and you'll end up paying for it at the end. My ex wanted to be "friends" and I agreed to that but here it is 2 years later, I decided it was too late to try to be friends and realized he was never a friend in the first place. What my ex did was hurtful and I decided a while back that I didn't want anything to do with him period and I ended the friendship. I realized that he was never a friend in the first place. Get your closure, get the answers you're searching for, and move on. As for your wife, she is right, you know. Why open a bag of old wounds? You're with your wife now, stick to the present, don't look back at the past. There is really no good reasons to try to "resolve" anything. As for the ex's sexual abuse, she needs to deal with that.
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yes, i do think about him, but i would never leave a perfectly good relationship for one that could be. I have actually been looking for my ex but i would only want to talk to him as a friend now. I am happily married, it would just make me happy to know that my first love is also happy with his life. I would even try to pick up a friendship with him, just as long as it doesnt come in the way of my relationship with my husband
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I think you need to get over yourself.  She is most likely more than heartbroken and you can't seem to get it through your head that 28 years is more than enough time to get over a girl.  She needs some comfort, not someone getting a high in her sorrows.
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It isn't about forgetting, it is about acceptance.  Be glad for the good memories but realize that is all they are and will ever be.  You deserve to be happy but only you can make that happen by wanting it and by moving on and giving new relationships a chance and not comparing them to this one.  I've been down that dark road where you can't imagine someone will ever take her place but I will tell you for a fact it happens.
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13 years is a really long time.  I don't think you are giving yourself credit because it has only been just a year. I am not sure about running out to meet other women is the best way.  I think that just makes a person vulnerable to more hurt.   I think that if you look over the year and think about how you were right after the 2 of you divorced and where you are at now, I bet you see that you have made  progress.  Time does heal it just may take a little longer for you so don't be so hard on yourself and I do believe that in another 2 months you will be even a little closer to smiling without faking it.  It has been 4 months for me since I had any contact and it has been a very happy time for me.  Somedays better than others.  I decided to volunteer my time on a day that seems to be the hardest for me.  I also got back in contact with the friends I blew off while I was seeing this person who was so toxic.  What a waste of my time on this earth.  You will eventually heal, I am holding on to that belief myself.  Good luck.