jessica always liked this guy and shes always known he liked her but her friends never listened they always thought she was jus saying that but deep down inside she  knew he liked her becuase of all the signs he sent. she finally got it outta him on aim that he likes her and now their together, but he told jessica not to tell anyone about their relationship, and lets jus say jessica is a blabbermouth, but she didnt tell anyone and jessica really wants to tell someone but he doesnt want to? HOw can jessica get her boyfriend to tell people about their relationship....\n\n           thank u to everyone who answered this question my friend reallly needs help. and i really wanna help her
217927
I am concerned over the fact that he doesn't want her to say anything to anyone.  To me, that screams out that he has another girlfriend.  Sounds like he is cheating on another girl...there is no other reason to keep their relationship secret.
29857
I cannot agree or disagree with him.  I was not present during all of those 4 to 5 months that the couple was dating.  He says he never promised her to get into a serious relationship, but did he ever tell her that?  Did he just lead her on for the sex?  Did she ever ask him what his intentions were?  Did she just assume that because they were having sex that the relationship was serious (or would lead to more commitments)?\nAnd what business is this of yours (unless the woman was your sister)?\n... and don't you just hate it when somone answers a question with a bunch of questions?
110116
YOU ARE IN A TOUGH SITUATION; HOWEVER, WOULDN'T YOU WANT TO KNOW.  YOU NEVER KNOW HOW THE SISTER MIGHT REACT SHE COULD EITHER BE MAD THAT YOU JUST BROKE THE NEWS TO HER, BUT LATER WHEN SHE DOES A LITTLE EXPLORING THE FACTS ON HER OWN I WOULD IMAGINE SHE WILL THINK YOU.  I HAVE A FRIEND OF MINE THAT NEVER TOLD HER OTHER FRIEND THAT HER BOYFRIEND TRIED TO COME OVER FOR A BOOTY CALL.  MY FRIEND TURNED THE GUY DOWN AND CHOSE TO KEEP THIS INFO TO HERSELF. A FEW MONTHS LATER SOMEONE ELSE TOLD THE OTHER FRIEND AND THE TWO USE TO BE FRIENDS HAVE NEVER TALKED SINCE, IF SHE REALLY MEANS ANYTHING TO YOU, YOU WOULD BE BETRAYING HER IF YOU JUST LET THIS GUY TREAT HER LIKE THAT. WE ALL NEED PEOPLE TO WATCH OUT FOR US AND IF MY RELATIONSHIP WAS IN JEOPRODY WITH A FRIEND FOR TELLING ME THE TRUTH I WOULD COME TO MY SENSES EVENTUALLY.
201659
Your friend was wrong to making a move on your bf, if she did. Maybe your boyfriend was talking about your friends because he knows how important they are in your life? Try talking about it with all three of them. Get each other sides of the story before you jump to anymore conclusions! Good luck!
194799
Friends are gold boyfriends are silver! If it was her flirting with him then be upset. On experience men are the unreliable ones! Speak to your friend make her understand how you feel she'll be aware in future that it upsets you and if you have a strong enough relationship with your boyfriend then speak to him and tell him how it made you feel because maybe just maybe it was a bit of fun and innocent, but if you don't discuss it you will never know and you will get more and more paranoid! Good luck!
598541
well he might be sayin this dont seem right cuz its like in the family  thing but his body is sayin the cuzin pleases me , understandable , its a strange feelin,been there before ,but morality sinks in some times and takes over,but if he is trying to throw signs  then duu is probly just selfish and out to please himself  thinking he can get both ,but if youve moved on then dont worry bout him,but at least respect your cuzin to let her know if he does try,and if she dont know yall was a thing then it might help to be honest with her cuz im sure she dont wanna be hurt by someone who dont care ,but then again stand bac cuz they might actualy have something serious and he does care for real ,so it wouldnt be coo to mess wit dat,and if it didnt bother you you wouldnt have spoke up,so just ignore it  as best as you can ,itll pass
412847
That's completely dumb on her part.  Maybe you should have told her, but the fact of the matter is you didn't act out on it.  You actually told the friend that you didn't like her like that.  Hopefully your girlfriend will come to her senses.  Guys get hit on all the time, you can't freak when some other girl hits on your man.  It's bound to happen, if she can't trust you because of that then she has issues.  That's small stuff, believe me.
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um..\nthats kinda messed up,\nif u see that hes still with her, then oviously he doesnt really care what you think.\n\nthink of it this way.. would you want some girl saying that and wondering how she can get ur guy to like her instead of you? and want to break  guys up? i dont think youd like that.\nstop being selfish and get another guy that DOESNT have a girl.\n\ngosh.. i dont like girls like you.
643713
So in other words,  he decided to go along with this girl when she wanted to see how you would react to her having her hands on your boyfriend?  He decided to go along,  knowing that you were going to see and that it would not set well with you?  Do you not believe that you deserve better than someone who would stoop to that level "just to see a reaction"?  Him going along with it shows how little he thinks of you.  If it were me,  I would call it quits and seek someone who has some common sense.
71221
ok hon, these guys are keeping things secret for a reason... even if they are making a poor job of it.\nThe one and only thing you can do is ignore what you know. any comfrontation will not go well at all, just be extra nice to her and act like nothing bad has happened, it sounds like she didnt know how to react to your friendship with the guy she was keeping quiet and his apparent attraction to you, so just make it easy on them and let them have their own space while you are friendly and open and there if she needs you.\n\nWhen she gets her head round her feelings, she will prob share this part of her life with you, but let her make the moves, ok?
23967
Ouch. It might have been how you said it. If you were gushing to her about how cute he is, then maybe she got defensive. Maybe since he's a new boyfriend she is  just protective because she doesn't want to lose him. Maybe by your "beating heart" she got scared. Give her some time to cool off, and then let her know that you have no intention of taking her guy, you just wanted to let her know that you think he is a great match for her and wanted to let her know that he is a good looking guy, and you meant no hostility in it. It might take her a bit, but she'll come around.
369495
The best way to tell her is to take her aside and tell her the situations that you've witnessed. Be on her side and support her. Tell her that you understand that she can't help who she likes but you hope that she'll get over this guy because he's so rude about he behind her back and she deserves more than that. It would probably hurt her more to think that this guy genuinely likes her and find out that you didn't tell her. Tell her alone and be ready with the cookie dough and tissues. I hope you are able to tell her and support her!
411921
I never got that whole if I date him no one can. if you guys are over, and you agreed to see other people then get over it, your not a very good friend if you wont let her have a chance at happiness. I don't see anything wrong with it if she was a good friend, but if she just stared at you and asked you why you were mad, that obviously tells you she's kind of a jerk, she obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, considering you just told her you were still in love with him, if I started dating my friends ex I would have at least shown that I was sorry for causing any pain, but some thins cant be helped, such as holding back feeling for a guy, dang,...  then I'm sorry but if I were you I would have brought her down. keep in mind though that if you guys are supposed to be together you will and if he wanted to see other people then maybe you deserve better, unless it was your Idea in with case, WHAT ARE YOU BITCHING ABOUT. its not fun but remind yourself of 2 things first of all that she deserves the chance at him, and second of all that you may still have a chance of getting back together with him. I got back together with mine.  Good Enough?
609243
She is making a big mistake! Tell your friend she don't have a future with this kind of guy! She is strongly attracted to him and that is it. She doesn't know this guy to really love him, she is majorly infatuated!!!  He is the desperate one and she is falling for this guy's tricks and schemes. She should not waste her time with him. Tell her to look for someone who is REAL. This kind of relationship does not last!
617444
Dear ___,How are you?I have tried introducing your friend to many of my single friends who have liked him alot though hes not regularly in touch with them neither has given me any feedback.Though i volunteered for this i would kindly like to excuse myself this time around due to a personal family friend(some reason).I wish your friend good luck and thanks for passing this message to your friend.Love,Your name.
139750
Are you interested in your friends boyfriend? or Has he made a pass at you and you want her to know what a jerk he is? Because if you are wanting to tell her because you are planning on getting with him, I want you to know you have crossed the wrong line here. Girlfriends have a code, and no man, can destroy that between us!!!
353399
If I were the guy, I would want to know. He sounds like he has morals and deserves much better than what he's getting. I wouldn't tell him until you have proof of what she is doing, that way she can't lie her way out of it and it would make things more believeable for him. If she gets mad, well she shouldn't be doing this to begin with, so she'd mad she got caught is most likely the real reason for her anger. Who knows what she could be passing on to the b/f and that's sad. If it were me in the situation and wondering whether to tell or not, I'd tell. I've been there and done that before and I have never once regretted it. I couldn't look someone in the eye knowing what I know that person should know and not tell. You and the b/f deserve better ppl in your lives.