I know several people who's wives are trying to take everything they own..(one wife constantly puts him in jail for false accusations because she refused to take her Prozac) and the husbands never thought their wives could be so vicious.\nDo you keep a separate hidden account? Etc...
217736
seperate banking accounts... if it's your name she can't take it from you or withdraw money.  No need to be secret about it.  Marriage should be based on trust.
516305
My best advice to you, sincerely, it to go speak with someone professional.  And drag your husband with too.  How does she treat your children?  If she is bad to them in any way, then put your foot down.  It is one thing for us to deal with someone whom is possible mentally ill, but don't make your kids deal with it!
43175
It's happened many, many times in the past, but I really think it's best for one's mental health to keep things separated, even if the mistress is a really nice woman.  Could lead to a lot of insecurities and difficulty getting over the situation.
590393
They have nothing better to do with themselves.  Keep your distance from them and only see them when your emotionally strong enough to do so.  Your husband is more of your business than theirs, as you married him and not his parents.  It seems as though he or the both of you may have some dependency on them. Try to decrease that dependency and live your own lives.  By the way, why does his mother know more than you do about his psychiatric treatment?  Really, I think she's embarrassed about his condition.
349858
You must let them both go. A friend had this happen to her also and they got together got married had two kids and now they are in divorce court. She never got over the fact that her g/f did this to her, but now she sees that she mulled way too long over this. I would not be friends with her anymore as you may never be able to trust her.
370354
Trust me, the wife is fully aware that her husband is guilty...she also feels ashamed too, like it is somehow her fault.  But she has to live with him so is more willing to forgive him than the bimbo he is messing around with.  Your friend should run away from this situation before something bad happens to her.
313915
I have a girlfriend whose ex-husband is addicted to porn.  She'd find his movies/mags between the mattresses when she changed the bed, or tucked away in his drawers when putting away laundry.  Even in the glove compartment of their family car.  She talked to him, ragged at him, but nothing would stop him.  Finally, she devised a plan.  She went to a porn shop, and bought about 100 bucks worth of stud movies and toys for HER.  She tucked Her mag between the mattress, and put her toys in the night stand drawer.  Put a few movies in the bathroom drawer.  All hidden, but easy to find by him.  WELL...he did find them, and just about came unglued.  He accused her of being unfaithful, and unsatisfied in their relationship.  He tore through the house looking for her stuff and then lite a fire and burned it.  While the fire was raging, she grabbed a bag she had stored some of his porn in and threw it in.  He got 2nd and 3rd degree burns from trying to save his crap.  While He was at the hospital.  She packed her bags and moved out. True story.  After she got counseling, she learned that 70% of men who used porn alone, disapproved of their wife's/mate watching porn alone.  It's an illness.  He won't change unless he gets help.  Sadly, he'll always have the urge.
253194
What does the husband think? If there is an understanding between the two of them, then I think its fine. Whatever her real agenda is going on a trip alone without her husband, if she does have something hidden behind her sleeves, then its she is taking an advantage of her husband's trust. And if thats the case, I feel pity for her and the husband as well.
107808
This guy is full of it.  If he wanted to leave his wife, he would have already done it.  It sounds more like they are in an open relationship and just aren't telling anyone.  Plus why would you want to be with someone who was so needy that they have to find someone before they are willing to leave someone else.  Come on, if a person is that scared to be alone, they have some serious problems that you don't want to have to deal with.
660574
My ex-wife does the same,but she quit once I moved out of state. But she still uses the kids against me. My parents did the same to each other,that's why I don't do it to my kids. I guess what I am trying to say is you cant control what they do only what you do. Good Luck
475671
no she is just angry she is probably saying if you hadn't thrown her the part it would never have happened but she should choose her friends wisely , it is pretty obvious that the husband was into it or else he would have been with his wife and not them,just to show that he is a cheating bastard. judge how long he has been doing it
85975
I thank you for the quick reply, but you did read it cafefully, I never ever cheated on her! I lyed and stole from her, she says she still loves me and I'm truely hate myself for what i've done to her and our marriage. I love with so much love I would do anything to save this. But i'm here doin this myself lookin for alittle help. thank you!
250558
Now I've heard everything! Your wife should be ashamed of herself for behaving in this manner! This is NOT abuse.
370989
for a man to do all that he is angry with himself. and his wife can't help him. she wasting her time. and she knows down deep inside he's living a double life. he could be on drugs or drinking a lot  or other women or all of them. for someone to do all that he making accuse to leave the house. and the controlling part he doe's that to keep her in line for she won't leave him or be with someone else.he's scarring her (his wife) and she needs to open her eyes and ears. because right now she got's them wide shut. tell her to read Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger you can find this book in most all book stores.
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There's some good articles on how to leave an abuser in lovefraud.com\n\nMy husband is a stalker too but I've gotten numb to his ridiculous accusations and constant threats. He took every dime of my retirement account and left me destitute in hopes I'd be too dependant on him to leave. I left 2 months ago to stay with family. \n\nKnow this- you are a target, not a victim. Abusers use your compassion, humanity, and commitment to the relationship AGAINST you! They are not human. They have no empathy. They are empty and hollow INSECURE people. They need to control you, own you, in the worst way.\n\nNever look back.
421053
Honest to God, my head is just spinning after reading some of the bull roar some of you women are answering with.\n\nTo the person asking the question: Read what most the zany women are saying and pack it away in your brain.\n\nThey are rationalizing with excuses and not claiming responsibility for their actions. Pure and simple.\n\nWhen the shoe is on the other foot they scream it out loud and clear when a man cheats, how terrible and nasty it is.\n\nThis my young man is known as a typical double-standard that MANY women base their thought-processing skills on: Being irrational while judging others and complete hypocrites.
659316
An angry ex-wife is hell. My sister went thru the same thing, and let me tell you, it affects everybody in the family. They need to be strong to be able to safe their relationship.