My mom has lung and brain cancer. I don't have any family but her, my grandparents and my aunt. I want to talk to people who are going throught the same thing as me. The nurse just told me that she has 6-7 months to live. I am afraid for the end.
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Call your local chapter of the American Cancer Society. http://www.oncochat.org/ offers an on line support group in a chat like setting. They also welcome family members of cancer patients, so you might want to check it out.\n\nhttp://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/support/organizations   offers all kinds of cancer support resources.
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What the hell, go. It won't kill you. I lost my mom in 62. I was ten. Go before she kicks the bucket or you'll regret it.
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Oh No :( ..\nI would definetly call at least her doctor, and see what  he suggests. If he knows her wishes are to die at home,and not in a Hospital, at least he may be able to give you some suggestions. That is just terrible, and I am very sorry for you and your family. She must be a very special woman to have lived so long! My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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I know of two other people who had this operation due to cancer and neither one of them survived very long after. They were not related and they did not have the operation at the same hospitals.\nThe thing is that people some times forget when the doctor tells them that the risks of the operation are-------- and maybe 30% chance of survival---the next question being for how long? Lung cancer is a terrible disease. I,m so sorry to hear this distressing news.
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I've been through exactly what you are going thru so I understand your feeling.  The best thing for your mom, is to keep her spirits up; never give up spirit!! You need to support that.  People, especially cancer patients die, because they give up and think it is hopeless.  As a daughter the best love you can give her is, give her hope, give her good news about yourself or the other people in your family, always have a smile on your face, never dark or depressed looking.  Have fresh flowers near her to look at.  Keep the windows open and let the sun in, in the evening, they usually do not like darkness so stay close to her (I slept with my mom sometimes, but always on the floor next to her) and keep the little lamp on. \n\nDo everything possible to make her laugh, and keep her spirits up, and give her the all the love you can give her everyday.\n\nI also chanted nam-myoho-renge-kyo together with her, and she would always fall asleep, and made me happy to see her not suffering but joyful.\n\nI will chant for her everyday!
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my mom found out she had lung cancer and i was willing to give her a lung, or whatever it took, i would have gladely takin her place and i told her so....she passes away a couple weeks after she found out she had it because it had spread to bones and her brain.....if u have a mom love her, spend lots of time w/ her, and nerver do things u will regret.
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I hope you are ready to hear this, but she may be getting ready to die. Have you looked into nursing homes? When it gets to be too much for you to handle, you might want to look into hospice care, they help the patient and the family for the inevitable. But when a person stops eating, they have given up and are preparing to die. When looking at nursing homes, don't get freaked out by the price, because they usually don't stay too long. I'm going through this with my dad right now, actually he wants to go because he knows its getting too hard for mom to take care of him. Best wishes.
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I only want all of my family together again.And i think i am getting my wish.I recently had brain tumor surgery, and i am 29.I am ok, but it made me realize alot of important stuff. It made me and my sister talk again after 2 1/2 years. Material comes and goes, its what matters in your heart. I do not have alot of money now, not working, and it seems weird to not buy alot, but every second that goes by i am now living for the better. Love those close to your heart, because you don't know when they could be gone, or yoursself. Peace and happiness is my wish.
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I know how you feel, but there is hope. \n\nI am currently in the Bahamas with my Mother who has Terminal Lung Cancer. There is a clinic here that has been in operation for over 30 years. We have been here for 4 of our 8 week stay, everyday is really neat. A lot of the patients stick around in the meeting room/ waiting room to visit, and share stories and catch up. There were 40 people all talking and laughing, talking about cancer and life, the returning patients talk about how bad their cancer was 4, 8, 10 even 18 years ago when they started coming to the clinic, the cancer that has since disappeared. There is nothing dangerous or foreign to the treatment, just building up your immune system in a very effective manner. If you want to know more contact me or go to www.immunemedicine.com I cannot tell you how impressed I am with what I have seen and how my Mother has already improved. I know one man who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he skipped all US, conventional (poisonous, dangerous) options and went to the Bahamas and is doing great now. Another man who has been coming here for 18 years that had prostate cancer. People with just about every type of cancer. But, they are honest here, you send them your medical information and they will tell you whether they believe they can help you or not, and they will send you home if they don't think you are benefiting. \n\nMy mom has shown drastic improvements and is feeling so much better. and we are in the Bahamas so we are having a good Mother-Daughter vacation.\n\nI have also done a lot of research on the Cesium Chloride/DMSO treatment and think that it has merit and you can do it at home.\n\nThe clinic here believes that a supplement/liquid called VIBE works really well in addition to other treatments, I am going to look in to that some more.\n\nUS doctors push chemo and radiation, but when you look at the statistics and side effects it is not a good option for most people. My Mom had both before we came here and now that I know more about them and have researched them I feel horrible that I let her go through them. She was lucky (so far) the only long term side effect she has shown is short term memory loss. \n\nThe stories I have heard from the other patients here about how they were treated by US medicine astound me. One lady went home to have a shunt put in her liver so she would be ok to come here, but they refused to put it in unless she agreed to do chemotherapy, is that what our country is about? Denying helpful procedures unless we agree to dangerous, toxic ones? The drug companies run US medicine at least when it comes to cancer treatment and it is sad. Most doctors will tell you not to try alternative medicine and some will refuse to even see you again if you do. To some degree they are not to blame, they have not been taught anything about it other than that it is evil and wrong and they would be rejected by their colleagues if they suggested alternatives.\n\nI would also like to tell you about another lady staying at the house we are staying at, she is 86 years old and has breast cancer as well. She arrived at the clinic the same day we did and is doing very well. Her immune system continues to improve and she gained 2 pounds since last week. She is absolutely thrilled with this treatment and knows that it is helping her.\n\nPlease whatever you do, research first. \n\nOne very helpful website is www.cancertutor.com\n\nGood luck!!
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HI! I will definitely pray for you two. I am so sorry about your illnesses. That is so tragic. There is power in prayers and strength in numbers. My brother was written off as 'terminal' when he was 15. He's now 49! He had many prayers and is wonderful and healthy now. I wrote your names down and will contact others to pray for you as well. God bless!
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OK what is up with this heart attack stuff..My husband and now your mom. \nShe will be in my prayers. Keep us posted about her updates. Take your laptop and keep in touch.\nI had a very hard time and still am dealing with it all. I come here to escape it all..I took my lap top in one day in his room and the Doctor asked me  have you heard of that Yahoo Q&A and I said yes and I showed him this one and he said there is this one babe from and he stopped and said no way...And I said yes..Funny small world................So you wanted new.........\n\nI  have  official made the commitment to take my road trip. I just emailed my family and told them that I was going and if they were not going to support me on this one OWell things happen..\nIt just hit me I need to do this regardless of life and what is going on. LOL for me
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I also say there are people out there worse off then you. I also used to say if you have your health you'll be okay. Well in 2003 I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Disease. I went through 12 chemo treatments and 25 radiation treatments. I have no health insurance and when everything was done I owed $260.000.00 in medical bills. I worked full time through all my treatments because my husband and I had no one to help us. We did lose everything. Our house, cars(used) and all of our household belongings, just to survive. And that we did. With only the clothes on our backs we have bounced back a little. All I'm saying is that there were many times I wanted do just GIVE UP. I did not. What I did is thank god everyday for being able to wake up. You only have one life. You make it what you want. Everyone gets scared, is lonely somewhere everyday. I don't know you but you are probably a very nice person and you need to focus on that. FOCUS on what makes you happy in life and grow with that. If you feel you have hit bottom, just remember you can only go up from there. Good luck and I will be thinking of you.
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I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Any time one has a major surgery there is a chance of not making it through the surgery My mom,in 2003 went to her doctor(regular visit) and he sent her to the hospital they ran the usual tests and told her they would not release her,that she had no choice but to have a quadruple by-pass.So she did,she came through the surgery fine. It took a few months for her to regain her strength,she never seemed to recover from a deep depression.18 months later she died peacefully in her sleep.What concerns me,the quadruple was a fairly new venture in heart surgery at the time.Within 6 months of her surgery,her boyfriend was told he needed the same surgery.and one month later mom's younger brother was told he needed a quadruple by pass.at the same time  a friend of mine had the surgery then the doctor tells his wife she needed the same surgery a month or so later another friend of mine had to have the same surgery!These people live in different states But...they were all on social security and medicaid or medicare.There may not be any connection or anything.But it just strikes me as odd that all these people I know had to have the same surgery.I have even wondered"were these doctors using these people as guinea pigs for practice? My Mom was 70 when she died.There's no doubt that many people need this type surgery.Maybe I am just being paranoid!I guess I am still very upset at the fact the doctor said the surgery would add 10 to 15 years to her life.Her death was totally unexpected.She was not complaining of pain or feeling sick or anything. I pray your Grandpa will have a good out come on his surgery!
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Yes, my uncle is in the hospital dying of cancer and we have some family members already arguing over who gets what, that is so wrong, I don't want anything, but him to stay here or to be with God so he's no longer in pain, he served time in the army for many years, but has no life insurance and we have no clue how we are going to pay for his funeral when he pass's....this is to much stress ...pray for us...
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I am about to have a tumor the size of a cantalope removed from my body this Friday.  I also have a mass on a kidney.  I would be leaving behind three great little kids.  I care if you live.  You don't know what you have until there is a threat that it will be taken from you.  When I was younger I admitted myself to a psych hospital for three weeks because I didn't see any more reason to live.  Back then I really couldn't see any future for me.  If I had only known all the good things that were down the road.  Life is a gift and the best is yet to come.   Even if things are tough now, believe me, better days are ahead.  I care very much.  I don't want to die, and it hurts me to think of someone not understanding what they are throwing away.  Please seek help if you are serious.  Your are worthy of a wonderful life.  You deserve good things.  I don't know you, how old you are, what your situation is or if you are just bored and typing this question to see what people say but no matter what your reason for writing, I can assure you as someone facing some scarey stuff, I care very much that you CARE that you live.
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Wow, what a tough situation.  I am so sorry for the loss that you are experiencing.\n\nI guess the point of making a last visit is to say your goodbyes and let the loved one know of your love for her and add some comfort you can in any way to the scary process that she's going through, as well as be around to help your other (healthy) relatives.  \n\nIn that sense, it's a good idea to ask your aunt.  My grandmother's cancer seemed to already affect her brain during my last visit with her, but we still had a great visit and it was a time that I won't forget.  You might want to ask her when she would like you to come, or how your presence can be the most helpful to her.  This goes for your other relatives.\n\nTimes like this have a way of stripping off people's fronts and exposing their real needs and desires.  I have a feeling that if you are honest and sincere with them, they will be honest with you, too.\n\nI also think that you can pray and ask God this question.  He knows everything, so He'll definitely be able to guide you as you deal with this difficult time for your family.\n\nMy best wishes to all of you.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.  My mother went through this and when we believed it got to the brain I think it was about a few weeks.  She just went downhill and then all her pain and suffering was over.  I wish nothing but the best outcome, however, to be completely honest it doesn't sound good.  God Bless