I am 30, my husband is 46 - we've been together for over 5 years, married for 4.  His son is 17, mine is 10 and ours is almost 4. Just curious as to people's opinions and experiences with such an age gap.
201078
My wife is 16 years younger than i am-we have been together for twenty years. I think May/December romance is great!!
584597
It's doesn't matter if you're in school, what matteris how mature you both are.\nMy husband and I were both 19. We were on our own, had stable jobs (I was in the Navy and he was in the Marine Corps), were financially independent, and more mature than most our age. We didn't like going out and partying or drinking (we out grew that stage in high school) and we knew we loved each other. It worked for us but it is harder. Statistics are against us but we know we'll last. \nThere are advantages to waiting but if you really love one another, and you'll willing to deal with extra issues (it is very hard) then get married now.
43870
I am 32, husband is 31.\n\nI don't think the age difference is that drastic, having dated a 38 yr old at 19. \n\nI think a lot of older guys like younger women.  Why??? (boy am I going to catch flack for this, ready....?)\n\nBECAUSE THEY'RE NICE.  Women your age (37) have been married & divorced, probably a couple of times by now.  They are overall jaded and in survival mode.  They have kids, probably (which is not that big of a deal but has a lot to do with their priorities in finding another partner, which is as it should be.)  I am not saying all women are like this, but I bet more than a few are, and I bet you dated them too, right?\n\nAt 22, most women are still open to being hurt, and just don't have as much baggage.  I married first at that age & had my daughter- was divorced a couple of years later and was a little bitter & wary.  2 wacko heartbreaking guys later, and I just decided to let go & see.  Enter fabulous now husband.  It's all OK. \n\nI think if you love her, she loves you, and you treat each other with respect and want the same things...\n\nGO FOR IT HONEY!  \n\nAge isn't much when it comes to love.
365637
I always used to seem to date younger guys, then I met my husband and he was 4 years older than me.  That's when I realized that all the little twerps I'd been dating were completely immature and selfish.   If you get along, and they're what you're looking for, who cares about the age difference.  Though I will say, when I was 18 I was a lot more gullible and trusting than I am now, so just watch out.
71573
If it was like 40 years difference that probably wouldn't work. I don't see any problems with a 30 year old and a 20 year old. It could turn out to be a beautiful relationship.
227484
I was married for 20 years...got to the whole "'til death do you part" portion of the deal.  He was my absolute best friend, husband, lover...soulmate.  I do believe that in long term relationships there is no gray area, you either grow together, or you grow apart.  I have become who I am because of the life we shared and by having to survive his death...I am stronger, more independent, and hopefully one hell of a mother because of it all.
60472
well im 34 and my hubby is 40 been with him since i was 18 going on 19 and he was 25 going on 26.i dunno how long ya waited to get married but for me we lived together for years building our trust and relationship before we married . actually i was 26 when we married and he was then 32 . the point is some say age doesnt matter  well in some cases it does. men that are with us younger girls seem to like to keep small tabs on us where we been and with who and how long ya been there all because the age difference makes them feel insecure . perhaps hes noticed  men ur age  looking at you or saying helo or just a friendly smile. thats enough to make any guy jealous.. heres what i did.. id assure him hes the best thing evr happend to me and he should feel proud that other men look , smile, say helo to me when im with him because  that should tell him he has something special right by his side and  that something special is you and he has  you to love, to hold, and to cherish the rest of his life because you married him not for the piece of paper but for the man you met  and fell in love with and their could only be one man like that for you and hes the one. now i dont mean  ya have to be exact in that way but i would just reassure him the luv between yas is still there no matter how much probes. and if all fails  just ask him right out what changed in 2 years time? doesn't hurt to ask sometimes that all  it takes..
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There is nothing wrong with it, in my opinion. Even with the stagitory (sp?) rape situation (which im sure will come up somewhere)at least in some states, is that it has to be atleast a 5 yr. difference, regaurdless if someone is under 16. Some may say that is wrong with the age difference, but love has no boundaries, and love is love either way. As long as no one is being taken advantage of or used, then I see no problem with this. I mean, they could hypathetically going to the same school with each other, IOW, highschool, so what's the problem in that? My parents are remarried, one is 9 years older than their spouse, the other is 5. But when you are dealing with such a young age, the only thing I could think would be an issue is the maturity levels that may differ, but even then, that does not justify this being "wrong". so in my opinion, the answer is not wrong.
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Nah. My dad called me his little girl til he died. I was 30. My son is 27 and still loves video games. I still love to party, just not as often. My girlfriend babys her grown kids that are married. Enjoy each other and enjoy life. It is so short.
38558
If I were personally in a situation like that I'd probably tell my parents but lie about his age. When you were younger that is a HUGE age gap but 1) you seem to be a rarity of lasting that long with the gap and 2)it won't make as huge a difference now. My husband is 5 years and some months older than me though I did meet him when I was 21. (We've been together since then, I'm now 29) I think my dad was more concerned about the fact that I met him on the Internet rather than his age. LOL
85647
Do you think you would have the same feelings for him/about him if he was closer to your age?  Society puts a lot of stipulations on this type of relationship.  My first love was a man who was 12 years older than myself (with whom I had a child) and I was married to a man 17 years my senior.  The age factor didn't bother me, but it did bother my husband.  He felt a little insecure with our age differences - he thought I would wake up one day and want to be with a younger man.  That wasn't the case at all.  We had fun together - laughed, good experiences - and not so good (like all relationships).  We had differing viewpoints on some issues, but nothing we couldn't agree to disagree on.  You need to ask yourself if you feel as if you would be missing out on something in life if you decided to stay in a relationship with this man.  Are you compatible in other ways?  Do you both want the same things out of life?  Are you happy?  Where do each of you see yourselves in 5 years - together or apart?  What about children?  No relationship is a piece of cake and with an age difference it makes it a little more difficult, but not impossible.  Follow your heart, do what makes you happy.
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Been there, done that. I was 17 when I got married, I am now 34 and yes, we are still married. I had my son when I was 19, my daughter when I was 20 and my other daughter when I was 22. My hubby had a career when we got together but since he was still young(he was 20) he still had more he wanted to do with his life. More dreams he wanted to accomplish. I loved him and wanted him to be succesful and do his thing so that his dreams could come true and I figured it was all ok because I would take care of the kids and the house. I figured I could go back to school later. We struggled, financially and  emotionally. We loved each other(and still do) and thought that was all we needed to get us through.I got a job to help with the bills and tried to take a class at the local community college. It was hard working full time all day, going to class twice aweek at night doing homework, keeping up with the house work and trying to find time to spend with hubby and the kids. The kids spent alot of time with a sitter(she was good but a sitter is not mom) It was exhausting. I finished my class and decided to wait until he was finished with all his schooling and until I had more time and money.\nIt's funny how when you don't live your dreams at the right time, and think that you can do it later, later never comes.\nLife got in the way so I never went back to school. My kids are teenagers now and we aren't rich, sometimes we still struggle financially. I still want to go back to school but I know that in 3 years my son will be graduating from high school so I am saving MY education money so he can go to college and so his sister can the year after that.Then 2 years after her, my youngest will need the funds to go to college. They will all go to college because I don't want them to be where I am right now. Not regretting that I got married, especially  to the guy I am with, but , wishing I had waited until I had done the things that needed to be done to make me feel accomplished.  I could have had more to offer  my children, ( more time with them, the ease of knowing that the electric will always be on instead of them having to worry about things like that). I'm not gonna tell you not to get married, that's a decision you will have to make on yur own. I will tell you though, to think it over, in a mature fashion, without your feelings for your guy getting in the way. Think about the things you need to do for you, what you want out of life. Think about your future children and how you want to live. Then make your decision. \nDon't be 34 and wishing you had done things differently. \nThere's only one road in life and it is a one way road going forward. You can't go back to change things, so, make your choices count.
353465
I date and live with a man that is 10 yrs. younger than I am, and we have the most wonderful love and relationship you could imagine. I personally do not think age should matter at all as long as the two of you are happy.
58180
I suppose it does matter. For some people. My parents are 5 years apart. Some people are together and are over 10 years over than the other person! But I think it would probably be better if there wasn't such a big age difference. But that is just MY opinion.
477556
I think around 24 to 27 for me, yes its also the best time for having kids but its also good cause the couple is young enuf to enjoy the marriage. You're not as jaded and irritated with life just yet. As for the busy schedules, well, if a relationship or family life is important you can always make time, our dads and moms did it right? If they could do it, so could we.
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Your ages don't tell me that you are too young. Your maturity is more important, and that only you can decide.\n\nMy wife and I married at 20 and 23, and have had no problems in the last 19 years.\n\nBut before you say yes, you must answer for yourself - is the age really your concern, or is it a convenient excuse for hesitation? An inability to make a decision is often a sign of deeper problems. Not accusing here, you answer it for yourself.
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Unless it's only a few years, I would advise against it.  For one thing, men and women age differently.  Back in the days when the typical marriage was an older man and a younger woman, this came out even.  She was entering menopause about the time he was getting old enough not to care.  But for a woman with a younger husband, menopause can mean a very bad time indeed.  He may just be hitting his stride, and not ready to slow down in any way, when she becomes less and less interested in (and physically comfortable with) sexual activity.  She may not have time to have children and raise them right once he gets his feet under him economically.  Or to put it another way, she may be under pressure to have her children while she still can, and he's not ready yet.\n\nOf course, how much you love each other still has to be the main consideration.  But love, however intense, can fade when you look at your wife in comparison to women your own age or younger, and say, "She's getting old!"  Also, once you are mistaken for her son a few times, you may feel the bloom is off the rose.\n\nI am speaking from experience here.  My last husband was 11 years younger than me, and we both decided it was a bad idea.  However, we remained the best of friends even after we divorced.