i had fallen in love with a guy (he is my neighbour). i have never spoke to him before.but last month he got marraide.i tried to forget him .but it seems quiet impossible for me to do so. can you give me some advise of to how should i forget him?
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"To thine own self be true".........Find something else that you love and do that.  Painting,  walking, writing......find it, drown yourself in it and you will be amazed at how productive you can be and what you will be able to produce given that you put your passion for this man into something else you love.
385533
I believe you have answer the question yourself already. If you feel that by forgetting him and move on is the best solution, you can do it. No doubt you may feel hurt in the initial stage but time is the best medicine to heal this type of wound. \nI believe there are better guys out there for you to choose. There is no point in giving up a forest for a tree
427801
sometimes when your in love with someone it is hard to move on, but things get better within time. try doing things that you like to do to keep your mine off of the guy stay away from things that  reminds you of him one other thing  to do pray and ask God to give you strength to get over him and it will come when you least supect it to good luck
642038
I didn't even finish reading your note, but from experience I would recommend ditching him... you deserve someone who can make up his mind and can love you 100%!! I had a fellow like that and I think he kept me around as security, so he wasn't alone and felt loved... don't be his love of last resort! Be strong and move on...
285794
I don't think you can ever forget him, unfortunately for you and the rest of us who may suffer from similar problems with our past.  You obviously need to resist him.  You can try to avoid putting yourself in positions where you will run into him.  You know enough about him to know what many of his habits are and where he often will frequent.  It will not stop chance meetings as there is nothing to do about them, but it should limit many of the more risky run ins you may have.  Otherwise, the best hope is that you immerse yourself in some hobby, activity or volunteer somewhere...anything to occupy your mind.  Otherwise, I am at a loss as to what you can do, other than moving away.  Just stay strong and hold to your convictions.  Remember why you are not with him and drill the negative thoughts into your mind, remember the bad times, the bad things and hopefully your desire for him will fade.  Good luck!
182978
Wow, I wish you the best of luck. The first love will always last in your mind forever. It's not your fault, you were too young to know any better then. Do you know anyone that knows him so you can ask them questions? An old email? Phone #? something... If not I hope the links below will help you (there may be a fee). But maybe he is married now. If it was meant to be then it would certainly have happened. Maybe you should let him go. The memories will remain but it's not time to move on dear.
100419
Part of life and dating is finding out exactly what you are looking for in a man.  All of us get hurt at one time or another, some of us more often than others.  The heartache comes from having a strong connection with the individual, and then one day everything is gone, and IF we are lucky we may maintain a friendship with that individual (but how often does that happen?).  I know, I'm dealing with this now.  Yes it hurts.  Those men that have greatly impacted my life and are no longer in it....I never really forget them, they are just not always in the forefront of my mind, but I still think of them, some more than others.  It's ok to never completely let go of them in your mind.  I have had to write in a notebook to him, at least I don't feel so overwhelmed with my thoughts this way.  Be strong, it's hard, but we all go through this.\n\nLike they say:  It's better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved before.....\n\nand: Things come and go from our lives, it's how we loved them and how much we loved them the time they were here that counts.\n\nIf you care for this person and have showed it to him....he won't forget you, he will use you as a comparison for his next relationships, and that can be a good thing.
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Time will ease your pain, it isn't something you can't change over night, it took me 3 years to finally forget about a past love. We shared a lot of things and to get over home it is hard, I was married for two of the three years it took me to forget about him, it is part of the normal healing process. But remember, nothing is gonna change your situation. Life doesn't stop and wait for you to live it it keeps on going, so you are only missing out. The best remedy is to keep on living. It was better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.
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I would suspect that if he doesn't know that you exist, then what you have is not love but affection, or perhaps infatuation.  that is okay, there is nothing wrong, but it is important to recognize the difference.  Regardless, there is but one thing you can do.  talk to him.  You must put the question in the light and let the dialogue lead you.  If you cannot do this, then you must recognize the crush for what it is, and regrettably move on.  Likely, there will be many more to consider and further oppurtunities to embrace.
535122
well, forget him. it's annoying you, i know. but we don't know what's the problem with him. we never met him anything. you better avoid him and let's see what happens. if you didn't do anything for him to hate you,  then let go. cheer up. don't think about him too much.
570420
well Esha, I think he is your neighbour, you can talk to him, not on this topic but may be on sum other. Wenever he looks at U, just giv him a sweet smile..........but hey, am not sure he relly likes U or he's passing time. How can he love or like U wen he has never talked to u or he does'nt know U.
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Decide how much it's worth it to you--\n     Do you want to keep him ideal in your mind? If so, don't talk to him, just idolize him from afar.\n     Do you want him to be a part of your life? If so, work up the courage to go up to him and say hi. The worst that could happen is that he doesn't talk to you anymore and then you can go back to liking him from afar again.
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mmm...ur feelings are ordinary...it will take some time to forget him...u have to do some important things to make it a small period :\n1-never try to contact him even if u felt that u would die to hear his voice or see him, never even think of that.\n\n2-when u find ur self starting to think of him, start to remember the bad things he did to you as much as u can.\n\n3- never think that u miss his days and never dream of being with him again.\n\n4- try to think of another one if u can (that's a quick cure but it's not a good one).\n\n5- finally and the most important try not to have alot of free time, try to engage ur self in doing anything...and try not to stay alone for a long time...be with ur friends,relatives,or any other people.
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I think you need to get over this dude and fast\nForget his number ( its a figur of speach cause if you trully loved him samthings you just cant forget ).....Stay away from the friends that will ask you about him....Just go cold Tercky if you know what i mean.......Its hard to do and even harded to maintain nut keep telling yourself its for the best\n\nThe fact that you not showing intrest in him anymore will creat a feeling of curiosity on his part.....If the dosnt chace you he wasnt worth it if he does you in\nRemember the man thats worth your tears wont man you cry
450261
Here's the thing. When you fall in love with someone, there is no getting rid of them or forgetting them.  They will always be there in your head.  Now yes you do get over the fact that it hurts eventually, but you never forget them.  Love is that special thing that when you share it with someone it essentially is always there.  \n\nNow i know that everyone will tell you things like: relax, just get over it, take a bath, read a book, or go to God.  More or less you just have to figure it out on your own regardless of what people will say here.  Because dealing with heartache, its a natural part of life, its the bad side effect of love. But if i was to offer my best advice, i would say that you should chalk it up to experience.  Count it as a learning experience, so every time you start to think about him just think about what you learned from the situation, how it will make you a stronger person, and how it will help you in the future.  Love is a big part of everyone's life, and it shouldn't be forgotten, even when its bad.  Best of luck in your hard times...
539300
you can't make yourself forget someone. The best thing you can do is surround yourself with single girlfriends and just talk. If you want to think about him, do it, because the more you try not to think about something, the more you think about it. for example: try not to think about an elephant. \ni bet you just did.
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wow...I'm in the EXACT same position. I could've asked this question because I'm going through the same thing. I've been absolutely infatuated with this guy and don't know what I will do once he leaves. It's so difficult but the best way to get through it is to find another guy. It sounds much easier than it really is because no one compares to "him."