conversation!!!\n\na coworker of urs said to u.. "jimmy ( a coworker of mine) doesn't seem to like u"\n\nand another coworker said " yeah but what do u think of jimmy?"\n\nof course i replied with "don't ask me this i am not in the mood"\n\nlater on lets say half an hour ago. i asked " so jimmy doesn't like me for real?"\n\nand my coworker says " i was kidding i actually think jimmy does like u"\n\nso basically i want to know what u think of this conversation of course if u can follow it!!! Which i hope u can!!\n\nthanks a bunch!!!\n\np.s- i am 18 i just am going over this conversation and being very analytical so i would like to know ure viewpoints!!!!
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sounds like this person is fishing for answers for someone or themselves about you and that co-worker. Maybe the co-worker Jimmy had this person approach you to find out what you though of him?
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I'm going thru this right now, the guy is straight; we always talked at work to pass time, but now that I quit my job, he's the only one that calls me to small talk and to make him a cd. He knows Im gay and I know he's straight, but my feelings for him is there, and I dont dare to do anything cuz I will lose him as a friend. He tells jokes at me that Im like his big brother/sister. I showed him a different side of gay people, that not every homosexual is a flamoyantly Fag and respects me, so I remind myself that he's a good friend that asks for my help if he needs it, its rare to turn a straight guy to a gay guy. Since I know he would never read this forum I would like to say, "I love you very much Robert, I'll be there for you." How can I ignore feelings?
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Okay, do-says and don't-says...\n\nDo-says:\n\n"Hi, I'm _______, a friend of ________."\n\n"I'd like to get to know you, if that's all right with you."\n\n"If you don't want to, I understand, but from what _______ told me, you sound like a pretty cool girl." (or something like that)\n\n"So, you got a name?" (if she hasn't told you)\n\n"So, is there a time that would be good to get together?"\n\n"Well, I look forward to getting to know you! Do you like _____? How about meeting me there?"\n\n"Yeah, and don't worry, if we hate each other, you can just boot me out the door okay?" (say it in a joking way, of course)\n\nDon't says:\n\nDon't say anything about any past relationships that you've had. That's private stuff that will come later, if the relationship between you guys works out, and it will probably make her feel uncomfortable if that's one of the first things that you start talking about.\n\nDon't start immediately blabbing on about you and your life. Leave some room for her too! If you're talking about your favorite sport, keep it short (don't go into the entire game record of your favorite team), and then ask her if she has a favorite sport. Keep her talking, and that will give her the impression that you really do want to get to know her.\n\nDon't lean too heavily on the fact that your friend referred you. In fact, keep from talking about that as much as possible, or it'll sound like you're just doing this because your friend said so, and that would be VERY offensive to her.\n\nBut other than that, be yourself, and have fun! Let her get to know you for who you really are, be friendly and open, and be mindful of everything she says, even if the conversation doesn't last very long. Make it a conversation to remember, but don't try to hard to make it that way, or it will turn out disasterously. Once you get it going, I think you'll be surprised at how natural the words will start coming to you. Especially if she is a nice girl! So just think it over, maybe jot down a few ideas for what to say on a piece of paper, and call her up. Good luck!
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don't go in with any preset questions, then it WILL feel like an interview.  if you want good questions - ask her something that she needs an opinon for.  most people love giving their opinons, and they love when prople really listen and give them feedback.  that kind of conversation always brings up relatable funny/interesting stories.  \n\nonce the ball is rolling, you can talk to someone you don't know for hours because....you don't know each other.  anything you say is something she doesn't know about you, and vice versa.  just relax and let it flow.  you won't have any problems.  if by some chance she doesn't respond to your conversation, it's not your fault....you tried.
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I think he is just being friendly.  I would just leave it alone.  Be friendly in return, but nothing more.  Anything else will create a messy or awkward situation at work.
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One night stands with co-workers really don't work out. You both agree things won't be weird but they are then the roomers start flighing. My advise is don't. If you do keep it on the down low.
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Take courage and confront him.  Ask him to explain exactly what he meant by those comments, or tell him that you will be forced to report him for sexual harrassment.  Under no circumstances do you report him without first asking him to explain (as it MIGHT be possible the comments were misunderstood... he might just be a poor joker)!
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ok chill,\ni am going through something totally similiar and ive gone through it many times. here is some advice, dont say anything about any1 that might get u in trouble with them, also ur "friend" bob. if bob calls again asking 2 b ur friend again u gotta say no, hang out wit the ppl u trust. also kevin, i dont noe but he might be lyk bob wit the whole bored thing. just ignore these ppl bcos they obviously arent self confident wit themselves and r taking it out on u.\n:) hope it works out
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Intriguing...you know I have to ask now what you do for a living! :)\n\nBut in truth, I can't imagine what profession would mean that you can't have friends...Let's contemplate...\n\nOkay, exotic dancer?  Who cares?  It's just a job.  As long as you're not dancing in my living room, why would I care?\n\nProstitute?  Meh!  I can't say that hanging out with hookers is a goal in my life, but it's not like you're gonna come after my man...And it's not like my man needs to look anywhere else!\n\nUmmm, Garbage collector?  Might be a little smelly, but I assume you shower regularly.\n\nBeer taste-tester?  Yeah, I see how that might mean you're not allowed to talk to my guy...you might get an employee discount that would make it hard for me to compete for his attention, but as long as you include me in the discount, I'm okay with it!\n\nPostal worker?  I get how some folks would be a little wary, but it shouldn't have any gender association.\n\nAuto mechanic?  Seems to me I'd like to have you on my side...especially considering how poorly women are treated at the average auto shop.\n\nLawyer?  Well, I guess that's self explanatory!\n\n;)\n\nOh, look, I guessed one right!  You just need to find more open minded friends...who cares about the stupid ones?\n\nAnd don't listen to Sword...he doesn't get that you're just there because men are pigs.
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Hey, we all have persnickety moments.She was bitching about the job and you made a joke.It was funny! I would have bust a gut laughing if one of my gay friends had said that to me.She was still in her "bitching frame of mind and it caught her off guard is my guess!\nI always asked my buddies at work," what do dykes and mechanics have in common? We both use Snap-On tools! LOL! I was a mechanic before I retired.The Looks I'd get! That was funnier than the joke!\nYou sound like a nice guy to have as a friend!
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Me: (hands shaking, been trying to do this for weeks, been practically giving myself ulcers, so so nervous) Well there is something that I've been meaning to tell you and I'm sorry that it took this long for me to say it.  Maybe I should have said it sooner, but I can't take it back now... Diana is not my friend, she's my girlfriend, we've been together for almost two years now.\n\nMom: yeah, and?\n\nMe: And I'm bisexual\n\nMom: Well duh.  I'm not stupid.  (rolls eyes)  You two are just terrible at hiding it.  Every time she looks at you, you practically swoon and you hold hands under the table when you think no one is watching.  It's just about the most disgustingly cute thing I've ever seen.  \n\nMe: (long pause)  oh.  Well then.  So everything is ok?\n\nMom: Yeah (duh tone of voice).  Do you think we should have chicken ceaser salads for dinner?  Or maybe we should grill fish...
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Dear Zack,\n\nIt sounds like you are old enough to speak with a person in an adult way.\n\nIf you are living with a person, it is very important to speak directly about your concerns.\n\nFor example, if he made a big mess in the kitchen you would probably say something without hesitation.\n\nYour concerns about his being gay, might actually be your imagination.  You don't really know.\n\nWhen 2 males live together, you always have to talk about the sexuality part.  It should already have happened, but now you still have to do it.\n\nSo start a conversation.\nYou could start by saying something like ... "we never did talk about it, but I just want some reassurance that you are also str8.  I have always been afraid of gay men and I want us to be friends as well as roommates".\n\nThis might not be what YOU would actually say, but it is an idea.\n\nIf your roommate will not talk about this openly, you might need to get another roommate.\n\nThis experience will be good practice toward interacting with other men later in life.
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Times-a-changing!\n\nMy dear......Jim sounds like a real nice guy........n he is very considerate & caring for others' feelings!\n\nI believe jim is subtlely giving u a message.......that he has found someone whom he enjoys being with........n he did mention that this is one of his colleagues ........ which means he gets to see her almost daily.\n\nJim is considerate enough not to tell u bluntly........he just mentioned his recent date to u.......n changed the subject when u persue it.\n\nRemember......u r both college grads......educated.... learned & intelligent.......so there is no need for him to give u details.........n it shows his quality in NOT going into details.........he would expect u to understand!\n\nwhat's going on with Jim?.........he is moving on.....getting his career in shape.........n establishing his niche in this working world.........n developing feelings for someone who is close......near to......& constantly in his sphere of breathing & living!\n \nMy dear.....dont feel hurt......do your own thing.....n please give Jim his due respect........he IS a nice & very considerate person..........otherwise u wouldnt drive out just to be with him each weekend.\n\nNow that Jim wants to build his own world & nest....... please let him...........n I am sure he will always be your good friend that u could count on any rainy day!\n\nHumans have sensitive feelings.........unfortunately...... they do get very hurt at times..........Take care!
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OKay look. I know it's embarssing, but ask them! Ask them this "What do you think of me?" As them directly, not in a chat room or email, but in person, because if they lie, you can tell. That's the only solution.
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I'd sit him down...If I could catch him!...and tell him what is on your mind. Tell him that you really like him and the whole point is that you want to spend time with him. Not smother him, but continue to get to know him and have fun. Be honest and tell him that you were pissed off and now hurt. It's always best to be clear..that way he can't come back later and say "but sweetie..you never told me!" And if you can't get him to sit down and talk about it, leave him a message or email....and then go out and continue to work, see your friends nad have fun. Let him catch up to you. I hate to say it, but a little hard to get can be playe both ways. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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Judi?! Is that you? Hey, its me!! I didnt know you were on here at work too!! \n\nSorry if Im a little stand-offish, I have a confession. I really really like you alot!! Come talk to me right now so I can tell you how I feel. Im at my desk.... waiting...
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Go talk to the person and initiate a conversation.  Don't ask too many questions, and don't ask too funny.  Just act cool, act like yourself, and tell him something that will catch his/her attention, and answer back.  If he asks you a question, don't freak out..just answer it the best as possible.  If he tells you he does not want to have anything to do with you, please do not feel bad, just let it go and move on to another person.