my friend and my boyfriend have been friends for a while but she thinks i should tell her everything we do, Example:Yesterday she asked if we had made out or had sex yet..How can i get her to stop when just asking dosent work?
203672
Tell that b-i b-i to mind her own business and find her own guy so she doesn't have to live vicariously through you.
243747
i think you should tell your friend cos if you'll are true friends she will know that you are doing this in her best interest i am saying this because my best friends boyfriend was doing the exact same thing to her and i told my friend that she needs to put her foot down and confront her boyfriend cos if he truly loved her he wouldn't treat her that way.  it's harsh but sometimes you have to be firm with the people you really care about.
69127
This will probably be the hardest thing that your friend has to do, but she has little choice in having to face her boyfriend and tell him what has happened. Either way he is more than likely going to find out, and it would be easier if she told him right away instead of waiting, letting the tension and suspicion build, and then slamming him hard with it in the end. If he leaves her...well, I am sorry, but she was the one that decided to cheat on him in the first place. If she had been faithful to him, this would be another matter. She cannot blame him for being angry or hurt, or maybe deciding that he wants another girlfriend - one who will be loyal to him. \n\nAgain, I send my sympathies, but there is really little you can do about the situation. Just remember, the sooner she tells him, the better. Don't make this any harder than it has to be...and, I won't lie, this will probably be very hard.
119769
You have to make the decision as to end it with him or talk to your friend about it.  That's what friends are and sometimes its not good stuff.  See what her response is but I think its great that you at least had the decency to ask before acting. Now, about your flirting.  If it is just in fun there is nothing wrong with it unless you are out with someone else.  That shows no respect for him or you for that matter.  I had mostly guy friends too when I was young and still do, so what, friends are friends and I don't give them up for anyone.
612821
you have to be upfront and honest with him and the sooner the better.  if he is a true "good friend" he will not get upset with you telling him the truth and asking him to tell everyone he lied about you being the girlfriend.  maybe you are leading him on and dont even know it.  ask him what would give him the impression that you wanted to be more than friends and apolgize for that. make sure he understands that you don't want to ruin the friendship but you dont want him spreading rumors either....
52535
Just be honest with her. Let her know that you have feelings for her, which Im sure she already knows, but also let her know that you respect the fact that she is in a relationship and you would never jeapardize your friendship by telling her to leave her boyfriend. But also let her know that your there for her and that the decission to stay or leave the guy she is with will have to be her own... but if she ever did there is a guy waiting to be with her and wants to show her how if really feels to be loved.
233851
It's hard to take that step back in a relationship.  If he/she is really your friend, I would tell them you just don't want to do that anymore and see how they react.  If they aren't into it, maybe you have to stop messing around all together.
360565
if he keeps asking you to do things that you don't want to do, then forget about him.  and your friend is not much of a friend if she did that.  forget about both of them.
174609
Make your own decisions.  If you don't feel like your friend is being honest, take what she says with a grain of salt.  Are other people telling you similar things?  Does what she says make sense?  Does she normally lie to you or mislead you?
532416
i think you should just ask your friends about it first i mean ait`s not your boyfriend`s fault. tell them how you feel, and ask them what would they do if it`s happening to them. i mean they won`t get it until they`re in someone else`s shoes. if they`re your friend then they would respect you and your boyfriend and lay off him. good luck ! =]
122922
You want to be a good friend and I understand that but if I were in your shoes I would let it happen. If you make a big deal or say anything about it period shes going to wig and maybe end up dating the guy even longer just to spite you and that's just counter-productive. In my opinion she made a bad decision dating one of her friends X's but since that's not the question it's neither here nor there. The point is, she knew how he was before she started dating him, she should have known better. I'm not trying to be cruel but people learn things best firsthand. Be supportive, hope for the best, Maybe your X has changed but be ready to console her and help her move on when he screws her over as well.
314243
lAsk someone you trust.  Do not just blirt it out though.  Women have to know that the question is coming so they can prepaire for the response.  Start talking to one of your frinds about sex, and make sure that the person is not going to spread your conversation around like a bad rash.   Let the conversation lead itself for a while, then start asking her questions.  Questions about her sex life, maybe ask about a fantasy she has had, and then say something like, "ya, I was thinking about haveing a three-some, that would be fun."  Then wait for a response, but do not let an awkward silence ensue, if there is not an immediate response, say something like, "I just don't know if I could find anyone that would be willing to be with me and my boyfriend."  Then let your frined respond, if she does not respond, this does not nessesarily mean no, just say something like, "it's just something to think about," and change the subject so you both do not get all wierd about it.
89172
TELL HER STRAIGHT OUT.  SHE HAD U AND YOUR OTHER FRIENDS FIRST SO SHE SHOULD RESPECT YOUR COURAGE TO TELL HER THAT EVEN WITH HER NEW BOYFRIEND. SOMETIMES FRIENDS ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN BOYFRIENDS AND IF SHE DOESNT UNDERSTAND THAT SHE ISNT THE KIND OF FRIEND U SHOULD WANT IF SHE KEEPS DITCHING U.
576694
What you did was the right thing to do, expect the reaction you got from her because that is normal too. Now all you have to do is sit her down and tell her that you need to talk. Tell her that what you said was true, even though she chooses not to believe you, tell her that it hurt you that you were honest with her and she turned against you, that she's letting this guy come between  what you thought was a friendship. Tell her you don't appreciate being bad mouthed by her, (especially if your friends) because she chose not to believe you and that the only person that is missing out is her. She messed a friendship up and has a cheating boyfriend too. She looks like the weak one, because your not the only one that knows, if you saw it it other people have also. And ask her what kind of friend she is. Maybe not the kind you want. After that if your not friends then she's not worthy enough to be in your presence. Find a new friend.
254196
Since things have only gone two weeks so far, now is a good time to confront HIM, not her. Since he has already told you that he only asked her out to find out if she liked him or not, then you have the right to confront him and pull him onto the carpet for his behavior. Simply telling him that if he doesn't tell her you will wouldn't be a good idea, as that is exactly what he may be hoping you'll do. It would save him the guilt of being the one to hurt your friend's feelings. Instead, let him know that you'll confront him in front of her, and remind him of exactly what he has said when he had told you the truth about why he had asked her out. That should be enough to serve him notice, and since she is supposed to be his friend as well, maybe he'll realize how much he values that friendship and come clean. If not, at least your girl friend will have a better understanding of your true intentions.\n    Holly, in response to your "personal" note, I'm afraid this situation really is an all-too-familiar senario. Best advice I can give both of you is the same. If you fear that you may be the one that was asked out just out of curiosity, the way her friend was, ask him directly. Not in an accusing frame of conversation, but instead give him an out. Ask him if he really likes you as more than a friend, or if he feels that you would be better off as friends, because you also value that friendship and wouldn't want to lose that. Friends can weather all kinds of obsticles that couples are harder pressed to survive AS a couple. \n  Good luck to both of you!
264261
You sound like a very loving person. It sounds like you have a wonderful friendship with your friend. And I think that the basis of friendship is honesty. \nI think you should consider telling the guy, when he calls, to be honest with his girl. Convince him to tell her how he feels. He sounds like he isn't as honest to his girl"friend" as you are. \nIf he isn't very cooperative at being honest and continues the discrete behavior, ask your friend in a round about way like:\n"Hey, there is something I think you should know but I am pretty sure it will upset you. Do you want me to tell you?"\n\nShe will say yes, and if so proceed slowly no need to get it all out right away, ease her into it with something like:\n"Ok, I'm not sure his intentions or if he has even told you about it... I hope he has but it feels like hes being discrete about it which is why I think you should know..." etc etc\n\nDon't forget to reassure her that you value your friendship and that you truly hoped the sexual playtime would help her relationship but that you don't want to feel that the encounter is part of some hidden agenda.\n\nAsk her how she wants you to handle future encounters with him, her, and them. She may want you in the relationship, she may want him out. The most important thing is being honest upfront to avoid any misunderstandings. \n\nSame thing with him, if you value his company treat him the same way, honestly. \nIf he is being pushy, ask him questions... this slows guys down and makes them thing more about the conversation and its potential for direction rather than the goal(i.e. "getting" the girl) and read his responses. \nDishonest people are easy to read because it feels dishonest.\nAnd don't forget that you can cross reference everything said by either of them with the significant other for even more insight into who's telling what to whom.\n\nIf your lucky everything will workout and they will love you for being a very big help, a very loving friend, and an honest person. \nIf not hopefully you can salvage 1 of the relationships be that theirs, you & hers, or you and his. \nDon't forget to be honest to yourself too, Ask yourself what scenerio you would like the most. Then tell them about it. Honesty has power unlimited when used properly.
604086
Your boyfriend is breakin up with you.  I've done it like that b4 myself.  dont need to come out and say it, just let it drift apart n by the time the girl asks whats goin on, i'm already with someone else.