my girlfriend would like it if i were more dominant in the bedroom. what are some good ideas that would make her happy? i'm new at this so i have no idea what would work! please help! :)
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you should tie her up with silk scarves,blindfold her,that is a soft way to get started.\nalso talking real dirty,doggy style dominant positions,\ni'm not a "bottom" but i hear thats what they like.try some bondage sites for more ideas
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It depends on each guys personality. The more dominant males always want to b on top! The ones that know what's good for them like the lady on top. I personally like it with my girl on top of me... Let her feel good and creative
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how do u make his day    lets see if your going to be alone when he gets back surprise him by jumping on him when he walks in the door if you 2 are sexually active  shit that would make my day everyday I'm sure it would make every Male's day if the girlfriend/wife did that all the time lol
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Love bondage is great! Adding a blindfold to the sex games gives it a whole new aspect. Restraints are fun too, but you have to be able to trust your partner absolutely.\nDomination/submission games are not my thing, but can be fun, or so I am told.\n\nS/M is a whole different thing and that is a point that many people answering your question haven't got yet. Some pain, like ice cubes, love bites, light spanking when somebody is sexually excited heightens the passion, at least for me. \n\nWhy *dump* someone who is into it? What they do in their bedroom is entirely their business. Not mine.\n\nHave fun!
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All over......I loved to be teased.  My boyfriend deliberately avoids the especially hot spot (my cl*t), until I'm really hot, and begging for him to.  Guys have to mix it up.  We love to be licked. sucked, nibbled and fingered.  The best advice I can give you is to just enjoy it.  You don't need a plan,  or an elaborate amt of thought.  Ask her what she likes, and surprise her with what you know.  The direct answer to you question would be tongue on my cl*t, while fingers on my g-spot.  But I don't want that right away.....I want to build up to that.
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Comfortably get her to watch porn movies that are for newbies.  Then you try new things with her and get her to feel comfortable with her body enough to try new things with you. You know her background, so be patient and slowly introduce to the life she has never known. She needs to feel sexy enough about herself to let out the kinky in her.  Buy her lingerie, sexy massage fruit oils.  Tell her you want to try new things and experiment with her in the heat of the moment.  Sometime a little loss of inhibition does a woman well.  Don't get her drunk..just where she feels sexy enough to try what you want.
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do not talk about it when you are in bed this puts to mucvh pressure on her. sit on the couch and say i would like to talk about our sex life. (jump in fast with the next bit) i love everything but i want to try something new. so for the next weekim gonna get as many mens magazines that have sex tips and if you do the same we can come back on friday and compare notes and stuff. \nit is very important to not all of a sudden say hey i want bu tt sex especially if she is traditional. \nso take your time and move slow but make sure to find a how to on what you want but only one so that she can see what you might be into and you can see what she might be into.\nand a few tips on if you get what you want go SLOW. start small and careful so that she knows you care about her having fun too because you DO. if she likes it thats great i hope she enjoys it but if you go to fast or hurt her and dont pay attention to her comfort level you will not get anything new.
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Stop worrying about coming and just think about how good it feels.  I am a woman, but I think it is probably about the same.  I have to think about how good it feels even when I don't feel very sensitive.  Think whatever it is you think right before you come and I think it will help.  However, I don't know if you have tried other postions or what, but my hubby loves me to be on my stomach with my legs together and his stradled over mine.  Whenever he's getting too tired to shoot he just flips me on my belly and puts it in and then puts his legs outside mine and is usually off in a minute or two.  I think it works cause I squeeze my muscles together around him, which is only easy to do in this postition.  Best wishes
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Good communication = Good sex\nEvery woman is a little bit different. If you want to have a mutually wonderful time with sex, then try telling her to be your teacher, and you follow her instructions. This way you learn what makes her happy in bed, and you both have a good time. Play this back and forth, and remember that you need to try variables like speed, firmness, and always feed back information. Don't be shy, and don't let your feelings get in the way of satisfying each other. Don't get into a rut by doing the same thing the same way all the time, but remember what it is that sends her over the edge, and use it with discretion. I am sure that you will both discover more, and more things that feel good, and better than either one of you ever thought of. Just be open, and give each other the respect that you both deserve. Nothing like higher learning.
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my favorites are woman on top or doggystyle, probably doggy style is # 1 and if you really want to make him happy tell him to put it in your butt.
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Have the bedroom set up nice like clean just in case things get really headed and  you dont trip over something.  Maybe start by giving her a nice massage. Nice and gentle..you dont want to hurt her. Then turn it into foreplay but don't rush it. Wait till she gets really in the mood. Then do something different. Don't always do the same old sex position. And if you go down south make sure you do a little bit of everything. Use your finger use the lips and the tongue. Some candles and rose petals will go great before the massage. Good luck
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Maybe it turns him on more if the girl is the aggressor and if he is passive. sort of like unconscious role playing. It's like... if I'm laying in bed and my girlfriend jumps on me and starts kissing me all over, say. Personally i like that better than if I have to be the one to reach out. Especially, i think, if he's had any harsh rejections from female figures in his life in the past--it might be reassuring to him, on some unconscious level (not just sexually) if you are the one seeking him in those encounters. It's weird.. that's part of how it works with me though. you should probably talk more about it with him and try to figure it out together. And maybe talking will lead to other things. :-)
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...When I was with my boyfriend I'd play with my clit while we were in action. It took me 4 years to cum with him. Get totally immersed in what your doing. Body, mind, soul, with an environment to match your deepest fantacies. Maybe do a little yoga to get your mind off of every day life. Watch a porn before you go at it. Have a little chocolate or, better yet all three! If you're having sex just to get an orgasm, it won't come. A little trick I've learned... when he's on top of you, move your hips up and in towards him so he's totally inside you. Keep moving your hips wherever feels best, play with your clit while your at it, stare at his body and into his eyes and keep telling yourself how sexy he is and how much you want him. Use a vibrator while your at it. If all else fails, get a book to better educate yourself or even call a sex therapist. Life is too short to have limited O's.
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Hmm...\nthere are lots of factors that could affect her enjoyment of sex.  \n-  Try using some extra lubrication (you can find them at a drug store, or in sex shops with different flavors or with warming effects).\n-  Try different positions (there are lots of non-smutty websites that have pictures).\n-  Something i like is to use food...particularly strawberries with chocolate dipping sauce, or maye whipped cream, or solid chocolates.\n-  Put an ice cube in your mouth and run it all over her.\n\nThe problem could be psychological - maybe she doesn't trust that you can pleasure her, maybe she can't focus on you or on what's going on, maybe she's anxious or worried about something.  \n\nLastly, sex isn't everything.  Orel secks (sorry about the spelling) is good, dry humping is fun, mutual maturbation is very fun, or just good ol' plain tongue-roving.\n\nGood luck!
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WHY do you need to make it bigger?!?!?\nJust spend time on FOREPLAY. Hold her, stroke her, kiss her. Ask her to tell you what to do. Tell her you love her, that she's beautiful. Spend time making her feel like she's the most wonderful, sexy, attractive and wanted woman in the world. After all, it's not how big it is but how well you treat her before using it.
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talk to him.  toys are great.  and remember the more you are turned on and into it the more he will enjoy it!!  express your self on how you feel verbally,  moans or telling him that you like what he is doing to you.  be aggressive.  don't always do it at the same time, be spontaneous, don't always do it in bed, be adventurous
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In order to keep your relationship going strong, you must first realize and accept that there are going to be some differences between you no matter how similiar you thought the two of you are. You need to pick and choose your battles and let go of everything else. Also, communication really is key, both in and out of the bedroom. Ask what he or she likes in bed; if they are shy to answer, try a little experimentation. Also, find ways to tell the person what it is that you like in bed too. As far as communication goes for outside of the bedroom, talk talk talk talk! You can find out so much about a person from a few conversations. If you hit a rough patch, talk about things then and there rather than letting it fester and blow up in someone's face later. This way, so much drama is avoided. If you are dealing with a person who will not open up when you try and talk to them, writing a letter expressing your feelings might be a better option because this would create another way for that person to come to you. I hope this helps and good luck!