I have been knowing one guy for the past 2-3 years. Our friendship has grown into love. My problem is..I don't know whether he too loves me or not & I'm depressed.
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That's the truth in life.\nWhat your heart says?
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It's unlikely for good friends to develop into relationship.. i mean for men. if think or feel strongly that he really feel for you, then just ask. but i'm affraid that it's not gonna end well. my advice, change yourself. Be yourself but the other side of yourself. stop letting him feel that you're his buddy. let him know that you can be his goddess.
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Sounds like he's unsure. I wouldn't bring it up again.  Just continue to be his friend without pressuring him, and he may eventually decide that he feels the same way. If not, you still have a great friend, and those are hard to come by.\n\nEither way, don't wait on his decision -- he may never decide, and you'll waste your time pining after something you can't have.
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talk to him first.clear out misunderstandings..he can give u a chance but may be even he knows that such feelings die hard.may be u just want to get close to him and then feel the same way for him again..It would be so hard for him to know that again.Know this:its never easy for him either to lose a friend.
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If you can't get out of your depression, it may be time for therapy.  Maybe ask your doctor.  Your sadness will stop if you allow yourself to forget about that guy and start being happy with yourself.  Other guys will come along.
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have you really tried to sit down with him and talk about the way you feel maybe he just needs a little nudge in the right direction he may not be telling you how he feels because he does not want to be rejected and just remember if you do tell him it may or may not happen and that friendship line would be crossed so think about it really hard before you act upon anything good luck
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well first of all u need to be honest with him. tell him that ur friendship means a lot and u do not wish to ruin it or put him in a compromiseing situation but u have to let him know how u feel and ask how he feels, assure him that u'll respect his decission and if things work out in ur favour work to make it last and if it don't move on be happy for him and try to find ur own happiness.\nhope u get what ur heart desires
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You can't help the way you feel, it is being human.  I had a similar situation when I was 17.  I had been best friends with him for 2 years and gradually we got closer and closer.  For me it didn't work out but I am glad I gave it a go otherwise I would all ways wonder what if.  I think life is far too short to have regrets.
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talk to him and tell him how u feel... u never know he may feel it too or not...get to know him better and make sure first, go on a friends date...
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i did and i still do. i have never told him.it's so hard to tell whether you like your friend as just a friend or as something more because the line between friendship and lovers is very thin. i always liked him as more than a friend but i settled for friendship rather than nothing. when i am with him, it feels like its just the two of us and the way he looks at me.
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...From experience, you cannot make it be anything more than what it is. \n\nYou can sit and try to change things and make them into something more, but reality is that you cannot change how someone feels. Be honest with him and see how he feels, you never know he may feel the same, but if he doesn't he doesn't and that's plain and simple.\n\nIf his feelings are not mutual, my best advice to you is to let it go, be his friend and if things progress into something more AWESOME, if they don't be glad you have him as a friend. \n\nYou are only 16...you'll have MANY opportunities in the future.\n\nA quote for the situation that I loved when I was going through the same thing:\n\n"Should I be happy that you are my friend, or cry cause' that's all you'll ever be."
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tell him the truth and how you feel and just be his friend yust friend nothing more than that.Then find a other guy who really loves you.You will find it.Good Luck!
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i think you should take the risk...i started going out with one of my good friends, and we ended up falling in love.  since you guys started out as good friends, i think no matter what happens you'll always be close.  who knows, maybe he'll be your true love
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Hi i was seeing this guy for 2 years, and as soon as we broke up i was so devastated and went into a state of depression, i ended up meeting up with some old friends of mine for some one nighters and it was the best thing i had ever done to boost my ego, then i started seeing this other guy about 2 months after and we were together for about 6 months and we now remain friends, he new what it was all about and thought it was a great relationship we had. I think you need to get your mind off the EX and have a little fun, it really helps.\n\n**Oh and the 2 year guy, he is one of my best friends and he has been trying to get me back since we broke up, he jokes that i am the only one he will really love, i can see myself marrying him, but not until i am ready to settle down. He's out doing the same thing, i love what we have**
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there isnt a good time or a bad time. more often than not, when we waited too long for a good time, he has oready ended up with someone else. you can always let him know how you feel, but no pressure on him. and if things dun work, just be friends.
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It doesn't sound like there is much of friendship there.  He probably feels guilty that you wacked out the way you did.  Have you tried giving it time to get over him?  I'm sorry that you had to go to such lengths to get his attention.  I feel sorry for him and for you.  I hope you have learned that no man is worth your life and I hope you realize how lucky you are to be alive today.  Give it time and get into group or one on one therapy or both.  You may feel his is your soul mate but; don't you think that if he was your soul mate, things would not have gone the way did.  If you were truly meant to be, you would be but; your not.  What does that tell you?
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Blessings.\n\nLove, I sympathize with -- and fear for -- you.\n\nI, too, went through that very same thing (eXcept it was an Army recruiter) when I was in high school. He wasn't married, but he flirted with me often, and he even called my house a couple of times. I daydreamed of him in class, and whenever I saw him, there was this overwhelming sensation (read: butterflies in my tummy) that made me giggly. And yes, when he didn't flirt with me (in front of his fellow officers) and chose to flirt with other girls, it did hurt. I was depressed for a while.\n\nSadly, believe it or not, it took me a long time to realize that he and I were never meant to be anything other than close friends. I was a twelfth (12th) grader (17-years-old), and he was in his mid-30s. That's not to say that age was the biggest factor in deciding to just be friends with him... simply, it's to say that I wasn't mature enough (or ready) to handle a committed relationship such as that at that particular time. Also, I became tired (bored, rather) of feeling angry and/or depressed because of him not acknowledging me around others and because of his flirting. If he was really interested in me, he would've made that known. He never did, and so, I found myself not thinking of him as much as I had. Eventually, whenever I saw him, I just said, "Hello," and walked away.\n\nLater, after his inquiry as to why I was giving him the "cold shoulder", I found out that it was only in fun that he flirted with me. I was under the impression that he actually cared for me in a way that friends normally wouldn't, yet he was under the impression that we were both just "playing". He apologized for leading me on, I accepted his apology, and I have not spoken with him since. Sometimes, it's just miscommunication. I didn't appreciate it, but I got over it. Nonetheless, I *do* sympathize with you. Perhaps there is a way you can communicate what you're thinking before it gets to the point where you're left devastated?\n\nWhile we are sharing a similar eXperience, it is also quite different -- the biggest factor in yours being that he is married and probably has a family. You cannot follow your instincts, your 'gut', or your heart in this situation because it doesn't just involve you and this state trooper. This also involves his wife -- the woman he vowed to love, honor, and respect until death separated them. You must take her feelings and thoughts into consideration. Does his wife even know that he flirts with you? And again, just to make sure you aren't under the assumption that he is joking and not being serious, perhaps you should tell him how you feel. Besides, he can only say one of two things... Yes, I feel the same way about you that you feel about me *OR* No, I don't feel the same way about you that you feel about me. It never hurts to ask... y'kno, for clarification...\n\nAll of that being said, I must admit that I am a bit fearful for you. If this man *is* being serious, I would wonder if he's on the border (and we just don't kno it yet) of being a pedophile. You are only 16... Not even of legal age to do much of anything. I would seriously reconsider what it is you are doing with your life. Do you honestly want to be in a "relationship" with him? I shudder at the prospects. God bless!\n\nHope that helped!