Would you ever date someone who has been divorced?\nMy opinion: No. I would never date someone who left a marriage for any reasons other than abuse, infidelity, or uncovering other immoral activity. And, the fact that the person has already been married does take away the feeling that you have when both parties are married for the first time.
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Thanks for making that clear for me, I was going to ask you out.\n\nBut seriously folks, you have to understand that people do not plan on getting divorced when they get married.  I sure didn't.  When my wife left me, she left me with two children to raise.  Did I grow up and dream of being a single father, no, but it is the situation that I find myself in.  That being said, There is still a lot of love left inside my heart for another person.  And I don't feel that I am alone on this one.  To say that you would not go out with someone that is divorced is cutting your self short and loosing out on the opportunity of someone that has already been through heart ache and really understands what having a good relationship means.\n\nGood luck on your search for the pure ones on this planet, it will be a very long search.
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OK, you guy, I am not a boy, I am a girl, but I am answering your question because same thing happened to me,for the best and I think my answer might help a little...\n\nWhen I was 20 I had my child, (although I didn't get married) and 2 yrs later I met a really nice guy, he was 28 at that time, we began dating, I was really sure I didnt want to go back with the father, so, we dated for 2 yrs and then we got married, 8 yrs ago. \n\nHe's been the BEST father and husband, and I really think he is a great guy, just because to take care of a child that's not his is a great decision, a big step. We now have another one age 3!\n\nLots of people can say "dont get in trouble, get a single and only' one",  (they said that to my hb a lot!) but if you do love her there is nothing to question about. Just don't nag about the past, if it's what you really want, go for it.  Just propose, and obviously, if she says yes divorce and etc will come later. \n\nGood luck, dr!
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Maybe he is proposing a date with her.  I cannot imagine he is ready to jump in and get married without having a relationship first.  Besides, if she is only separated, that means she is still married, and he would be smart to stay out of her life until she is legally divorced.
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I was in the same situation with my current boyfriend. We were best friends for five years and I was even married and divorced in that time. I finally just went after him and it worked out for me. Don't play games just be honest and ask.
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My divorce is not yet final, so it hasn't been very long - but I am not dating because of my child.   Especially since her dad is gone and doesn't see her much, I feel like she deserves my full attention.   If I were dating, I'd be spending a lot of time planning for and being with the other person.   \n\nI wouldn't say I don't get out at ALL, but I go out only on nights she happens to be sleeping over at a friends.   It would take a really family-oriented guy to change my mind about that.   I won't say "never", but I think it's unlikely I'd marry before she's 18.\n\nI fill the void as best as I can with extended family, grandfather, and uncles.   The last thing she needs is boyfriends coming in & out of our lives.
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I'm never going to marry again.  It is better to stay with someone because you want to than to stay because divorce is expensive, or there are children, or you don't want to go through the whole ordeal or some other reason.
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I had a classmate who was told on the telephone that her parents were divorcing. I have never seen anybody who looked as pained as she did. Their teen years are times when people have to deal with the very issues that divorce raises. They have self esteem issues.\n\nIf their parents' marriage was a mistake, are they themselves-a product of that marriage a mistake?. If their parents stop loving each other, will they stop loving their child? The parents didn't love the child enough to stay together for his/her sake. These teen years are the times when a child is supposed to question the values they have grown up with, decide whether they have been taught correctly and formulate their own code of behavior. What are they to do when the parents themselves are not faithful to ethics what they have taught the child?\n\nThese are years when the child is supposed to separate from the parents emotionally and become his/her own person. In rebelling against the parental authority, have they themselves caused a problem in the home that brought about the divorce? Is it the child's fault? Do they dare continue the process of separating from the parent? Or can they dare to continue to depend on either parent at all and would it be safer to cut all ties emotionally and not feel anything. Which parent are they to be loyal to? Which parent are they to remain emotionally attached to? Who is at fault? Why did this happen? Can they do anything to get the parents back together again? If the child indulges in self destructive behavior, will someone pay attention to him/her or are the parents interested only in themselves or in new lovers or new families?
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Those of you that have said no to this, but have commented on why people cheat, and judge those that do, have really got no right to judge/comment unless they have been there and done that themselves or have been on the receiving end. As for me, yes I have cheated. Nearly 5 years into my marriage, we started having alot of problems. We weren't spending quality time together or communicating and there was no sex. When I tried talking to him on a deep and meaningful level, I got no input from him. I told him repeatedly that I was unhappy in our marriage and even to the point where I asked him if he would come to marriage counselling with me. He refused! I spent more and more time on the internet chatting to my friends until I got talking to a guy from Germany. Eventually, I was telling him about my marriage problems and how unhappy I was. From what started out as a friendship on the net and someone to talk to once or twice a week, ended up developing into something more and talking every day. It got to the stage where I hardly spent any time with my husband at all and he knew I was chatting on the internet. This guy from Germany told me he had developed feelings for me and was flying down to Melbourne to meet me. I kept it quiet from my husband and told him I was going away for a couple of weeks and that we needed the break. I picked this guy up from the airport and we drove interstate together and holidayed for two weeks. Yes, we had the most wonderful time together and when it was time for him to leave, he wanted to come back to Australia again and visit me. I felt so guiltly for cheating on my husband that when I returned home, I told my husband and also told him it was over between us and I moved out of the house. The guy from Germany and myself continued on with our relationship for about a year. The second time he came here, he spent a month with me in Melbourne where I was living at the time. Sadly though it didn't work out because long distance relationships are just too hard to maintain and there was no future for us because I found out in the end that he had no plans to marry and live in Australia. Some people think that people who cheat on their partners are scum, well most often than not, the people that are the cheaters, suffer as well. I'm not condoning cheating and I'm sorry for what I did but I not only lost my house (I left it to my husband)and security, but I nearly lost my family as well because they didn't agree with what I had done and my brother-in-law disowned me for awhile. If I could take back what I did, I would, but as the saying goes, what's done is done and my advice is to anyone that is thinking of cheating on their partners, don't! He'll end up finding out and if he doesn't, you'll have to live with the guilt for the rest of your life (if you have a conscious). For 2 to 3 years after I left my husband, I was an emotional mess. I cried constantly for the hurt that I brought upon my husband and also my family. If your marriage is in turmoil, communication is the key to a long and lasting marriage, so try and talk things through, seek a marriage counsellor if you have to and if all else fails, tell your partner you are leaving before you do something you will regret later! Life wasn't meant to be easy and you have to constantly put the time and effort in to make a relationship work! I learnt the hard way.....
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Well, I'm not going to lie and say it's easy, but when I was 31 I was just getting divorced from my first wife, and dating a girl I met in a Burger King (of allplaces) for a while. That relationship ended kind of mutually.\n\nThen I met my current wife online. And here I am. By the way, did I mention that this marriage involved emigrating from England?\n\nAnyway, I didn't rest on my laurels for one minute. As soon as I was free and clear from wife #1 I was out every weekend going to my favorite club and meeting people all the time. I  just relaxed and had fun. It's true that when you try too hard it kind of shows and I guess it's offputting to some extent. In both cases, the girl and my wife, I wasn't trying at all. It just came to me.\n\nI suggest finding a few night spots that you like. Go with friends or go alone, it's all the same. Just enjoy yourself and someone will just show up and change your life.
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I've always wondered this myself. If I am going to be marrying someone that I plan to spend the rest of my life with I am not going to be thinking about the dissolution of our marriage. Also, if I think he is going to try to take me for all that I have upon our divorce, well, I didn't know his character all that well anyway. So, the moral is, know someone totally before you marry them. :)
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I asked myself this same question when I got divorced.  According to The Bible, Jesus said that there are legitimate reasons to divorce, such as a cheating spouse.  However, if the divorce was not for a legitimate reason, then to remarry is adultery.  Sex while separated is adultery also.  I forget which book it's in, but I think it was Luke, during the sermon on the mound.
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Personally I wouldn't be thinking about getting involved with another man so soon after divorce. You will find your soul mate when the time is right. Have some "down time" for yourself. Divorce is not easy on the heart, so heal first before rushing into another relationship. Your knight in shiny armor is out there somewhere, weather your divorced or single.
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no, I don't think you should. If they are unable to remarry at this time, they are not dating material. Just my opinion. You could be setting yourself up for a disaster.
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Hi introvertedb, Pls this is not a class room to correct English Language, answer the question or let go. so, if you have divorced, you better go back to your spouse or remain unmarried 1cor 7:11. sorry, no second chance for you as a christian.
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Yes I've cheated.\n\nIts often a difficult question for most people to answer.  Why did I do it?  I felt very betrayed, unworthy, and just plain not good enough after my husband cheated twice.  I needed to know I was still beautiful and worthy of a man's love and attention.\n\nNot once did I feel I was betraying his trust.  It felt more appealing, like vengeance.  \n\nNo, I've been accused of cheating in other relationships.  I strived more to prove that I wasn't.  The thought of actually doing it never crossed my mind.
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=when I was younger i thought arranged marriage thing was insane. Now that I have been divorced twice and have had several relationships that didn't work out it doesn't seem so crazy. Who would know what is best for you besides your parents. If you are a parent with dating adult ch8children you will understand this. why is it I can spot a loser with my kids, but tend to still pick them myself? Years ago they had (and I think still do) mail order brides. We call it Internet dating!
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If your wife had sex frequently before marrying, I sure do hope that you found out about this before you married her and that you have accepted her regardless of her past.  \n\nAs for having sex with her ex-husband, I also sure hope that she did this before she was into a relationship with you. If she had sex with her ex-hubby while married to you now, THAT IS A PROBLEM.