I have a wonderful relationship, my job is looking bright, the future looks really happy for me. However, I'm an ultra-depressed goth with a lone life of misery and misfortune. Crap always comes my way and my life seems a wreckless hovel of accumulated trash. But now things look amazing for me. What did I do and what should I do now to a) screw it all to Hell again, or b) keep things going good?????
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Isn't this one of life's biggest questions?  Ultimately it is through your day to day choices as to whether you have a good life or not.  For example, if you make bad or questionable choices at work and end up getting fired, well, that's your fault.  You, however, have no control over other people's ability to make choices for themselves.  Sometimes unfortunately, other peoples stupid mistakes affect us and then we have to deal with them.  If you're in a good relationship, then you chose well.  If your future looks bright, keep it that way by always looking at the bright things.  If you're "ultra-depressed" something tells me that you are not a "cup is half full" person.  Try being optimistic for a change.  When something goes bad, try to find the good things in your life.  I'm married and when things get financially tough for my husband and me we try to look at what we do have instead of the things we don't have: we are healthy, we have food on the table, we have each other, etc.  I know it sounds so lame, but let me tell you, I am a much happier person when I count my blessings instead of being the victim.\n\nI have a friend who has crap thrown her way ALL the time.  I've never seen someone have to deal with as much as she does and most of it is stuff that is completely out of her hands (she has multiple schlerosis, can't EVER have kids, husbands job is crap, etc.).  But she is the most upbeat person I have ever met.  She never complains when it would totally be in right to do so.  She always worries about other people's simpler problems.  She's pretty amazing.  I wish I could have the same outlook and understanding that she apparently has on life.  Maybe try it.\n\nWell, good luck with your life!
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take positive action today, right now. Life is too short and precious. I am your age and have recently retrained after 2 horrible years of illness. I am now doing a job i love. It was tough to get here but well worth it. Be prepared for things to get a little worse before they get better. for example you may be quite low on cash for a while. \nFirst...what do you want to do? need inspiration? look through the job pages, or check out what courses are available. \nsecond...if you don't want to be in this country, where do you want to be? \nthird...how about giving yourself some thinking time and doing something positive and rewarding to fight off the depression? You're young enough to be eligible for loads of charitable organisations, for example BUNAC. They pay for your flights, you do some volunteer work in an interesting place. Might help to get you some perspective.\ngood luck xx
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I know what your going through, sometimes my life just completely sucks and i just wonder why? does the world or god have something against me or something. But when my life starts to be crap.But the world isn't against, it just seems that way when your life isn't going the way you want it. When i feel this way, I do this: Take a long hot bubble bath, then sit down and watch your favourite movie with a mug of hot chocolate, and just relax and forget about it all. That's what I do, try it. It may work.
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Go anyways. So what if your not that good. Its a learning experience and it builds character. In order to survive in this world anymore your self-esteem has to be so high that nothing phases you. Who cares what other people think.
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Keep fighting! You can't give up, no matter how hard it is. You are loved, and there are people who would miss you, no matter how bad it looks. And truly, if you haven't already, do get help, because as humiliating or weak as it may sound, it is not. I got help and you will never know how good life is until you have lived without depression. If you had a disease, would you feel shame going to the doctor for it? Depression is a disease, and you don't have to fight it alone. Please, don't give up.
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I was out of work for a while and it was awful. I was so broke and so bored. I hope you will find something soon. Just don't give up and start hanging out. That is the slow road to more unhappiness.
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nothing, everyone feels like this sometimes, just live trough if for now, it will get better =]
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I am happy with the person I am, I'm just not happy with where my life is at this point in time. It will be better once I get my feet back under me and can stand on my own again. I have never pretended to be something I'm not. If they don't like me for who and what I am they can move on. I have no room for people like that in my life.
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Dont you have any friends to hang out with?  What about hobbies?  What do you do on the weekends?  When you grow up, your life will be pretty much the same as it is now but with work unless you do something yourself to change it.  And since you have very philisophical questions, I recommend talking to your minister who can better answer them for you.  Your life is not pitiful.  Its what you make of it.  If you want to be happy, do something happy.  If you want to be sad, then sit there and do nothing.  Your choice.
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I think you chose a path that was never going to find true success, but you're definitely onto something now.  Material things can't make you happy but there is so much that can.  I've found a strong relationship in Christ, and through him I am able to love and feel with my whole heart.  I can discern between what is worth the precious little time that I have here on the earth and what is not.  You feel such emptiness because you filled your life with things that are fleeting.    Now that you realize this you should search for something lasting.  For me that was Jesus.  You've tried everything else why not try him too.
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I am sure that they will "be funny" again.  Your personality sticks...the depression might alter it a little but they will spring back to normal.  Support them, be there for them.  If this person you are talking about is you, confide in a friend.  It's okay to cry and be depressed for a while.  It might be almost embarrassing to let that vulnerable side show since you/they were always the "funny and happy" one.  Trust me, you will seem even more real and likable when people see your human and have bad days...even if these days last for awhile.  Also, no one is too good to seek professional advice.  I'm not saying run out there and get put on medication, but you might need an extra boost to get back and going..whether it's just medical advice or whatever.  Good Luck.
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Don't get depressed too much. Just go out and have fun. There are a lot of hunks waiting for you.
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Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear.
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Don`t Be so hard on yourself .\nYou are going through some kind of depression that needs professional counseling .If you are depressed over a guy or a death in the family ,this is normal. You don`t suck at everything now .If you were good at things before ,you might just unknowingly be sabotaging yourself .By doing this you are justifying putting yourself DOWN.\nWake up to the fact you are the person who knows YOU best.\nAnd it will take you LIKING YOURSELF to get you out of this.\nGood luck ,take care .\nHope all turns out well !
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You appear to have very low self esteem of yourself. Being in that negative envionment will continue dragging you down. I am sure you are a very good and loving person and deserve someone who loves and gives back as you do. Being alone and providing for yourself is better than being in a bad relationship. So, start spending time apart from this clown. Go back to school. Get yourself a carreer. Envolve yourself with only positive minded people. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life. If you decide to keep things as they were yesterday, then tomorrow will be the same as today. If you just have gotten fed up with your life as it now is then just change your mind. You can do it girl. Go for it.
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First... What are you obsessed about? What's making you depressed? Is it material or mental? Are you afraid of failing? Are you shy or confused about what your next move should be? Are you overwhelmed by the pace of life? \n\nWrite down all of your fears and anxieties (even the things you dislike and hate). This will make your thoughts tangible and concrete. After you've created that list. Get advice on how you should TRY to resolve each "problem". Some of those things won't be a big deal at all once you see it written down on paper. Do it step-by-step - one at a time. Don't make a stew out of it - that'll only create a whole lot of WORK you won't wanna do. It'll be too much to handle! \n\nWork on these issues one at time (if they're related - work on two at the most) with a good friend, an Internet Buddy, or whoever and work on them a little at a time. Learn to make sacrifices. Life is full of risk and we are all taking chances everyday whether we're driving, shopping, or sitting at home. Anything can happen or jump-off in a split second. This is reality. You can't let your fears control you or how you live. They have to help you make good decisions and useful choices so that you can grow and succeed and move forward in life. \n\nDon't feel bad for your current situation if it sucks - This is a learning and growing experience. Be angry. Be Motivated! Learn how to change it little by little. It make take a year or so for you get where you want to be but you're gonna have to work at it. Start right now. Make a change in your life. Change yourself. Change the way you think. Change the way you have been doing things. Change your attitude. And MOVE FORWARD.\n\nAnother thing.\n\nIf there are people in you life who are dictating your actions, you have to learn to be more assertive. Speak your mind. Don't be afraid to say what you like and what you don't like. Don't be afraid to make your own POSITIVE choices. And don't be afraid to leave people alone who drag you down. Make some sacrifices. Sacrifices hurt but if you live right (and take some risks), the blessings are much more rewarding.\n\nLove yourself first because if there is no YOU, how can YOU love anyone else? \n\nMake that list and come back.
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You are the only one who can decide if your own life is fulfilling.  It you are happy with the way you are living, then don't worry about it.  If, on the other hand, you are unhappy or lonely, then force yourself to join groups, volunteer, or go out by yourself.  If you do something you are interested in, you'll find new friends and new hobbies that will interest you even more. Good luck!