I just want to understand how my being gay affects you since I'm not sleeping with you and why you feel the need to be hostile or aggressive and defensive about it.
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It is normal for people to feel scared about what they either do not know or do not understand. It is unfortunate that people express their prejudices usually with violence (whether physical or vocal).\n\nI think that a lot of hostility comes from men who consider a homosexual man a threat to their masculinity. The thing is, most of those people are homophobic and have NO IDEA about you.\n\nThese people attack what they don't understand, and it IS wrong, but unfortunately hate-crimes and such like have been part of society for thousands of years. Most wars break out because of it.\n\nSome gay people (some that  know) counter-attack by going out of their way to express themselves in an ultra-gay fashion, which is just adding fuel to the fire.\n\nThe thing is this. Being gay is not about who you sleep with, but who you love. Peoples love lives are the same, and should not concern anyone unless it directly affects them.\n\nI would suggest opening your heart to these people and say to yourself that maybe they are not aware f how incredibly ignorant they are. As far as a human being is concerned, try putting it into context...\n\n'I was lying on the street, my heart had stopped and lungs given up, when a stranger came up and touched me. He touched me not with the love of a man for a man, but of a man for a fellow man in need. After that homosexual man had saved my life, he became my brother for the rest of it. I have since been grateful everyday for that man, not homo nor hetro, who gave me my life.'        - Chameleon Dreams, Jayden Walker.
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I in no way have anything against gay men, but I do say that flamboyant, effeminate men don't sit well with me, and the whole flamboyant trend is really wearing thin. Now everything is 'fabulous', and it's pretty annoying. No offense to anyone, but that's how I feel.
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Dude, you know what this means.  You're not an idiot.  You're gay or bi.  If you want to get f*cked in the a$$, you have my permission to go forth and get f*cked.  It seems like you really want it, and it is probably going to make you happy.  Go forth and enjoy the world of gay sex :-)
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My best friend (who is also gay) calls me a fag hag all the time. It's not meant in a bad way. It just seems as though I make friends with a lot of gay men.
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As a lesbian, I feel most comfortable around gay men.  Here are my reasons:\nStraight Men:  I feel objectified.  I hate feeling like I am some form of entertainment to them.  I know that not all straight men look at lesbians that way, but that stereotype os so widespread, it sneeks in there.\nStraight Women:  I feel like I am being judged or like they are not being themselves.\nLesbians: Physical attraction to some....can make certain situations uncomfortable.\nMan, I just realized that I have a lot of issues to work out...I have to stop putting all people into groups and doing to them what I hate them doing to me!! I suck!
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Fear and ignorance.\n\nIf a person gets freaked out by the notion that someone around them is gay it's usually because they are afraid that the gay person will see some obvious gay traits that they have and "out" them.  Not only is this an unreasonable expectation to put onto someone, it leads to fear, hysteria, and violence.  \n\nNobody can "make" you gay, and if you are afraid you might have some traits, YOU DO, everybody does, that alone doesn't make you gay (or straight for that matter!)\n\nGender can be graphed on a bell curve, and everyone has a combination of male and female traits.  It's perfectly normal.  I wish the ones who react with fear could get over their irrationality as much as you do!
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i certainly don't know about every gay guy, but i went through that and so did some of my gay guy friends. the thing is that gay men feel a special bond with straight girls and there is the whole thing of wanting to be "normal". almost every gay guy goes through a phase in their lives where they are just sick and tired of being tormented and ridiculed for being gay and they just would like to be "normal", whatever that is. so don't be hard on him. it does hurt the girls sometimes and that is not good but the gay guy is hurting too.TTFN.
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I have grown a thick skin and could care less about what names or insults are thrown my way, but I remember when I didn't have such a thick skin and felt the hurt and hate from those comments. Anyone who does anything to hurt or harm anyone else I will fight against not for myself, but to help others to overcome the hatred and bigotry and help them grow a thick skin as well.
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u insensitive, prejudiced, homophobic person!!!  u suk!!!
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stop fighting who you are if you dont except you who will this is really rediculus that you people still are made to feel this way its a travisty  i am a straight female married kid the whole works yea 4 me right well my best friends not so lucky she is a lez. i love as my sister she has been this way since a child small child she never said but we all knew she was ashamed datted guys had sex with them when she told me finely i stold her i knew  yes i know most are not as receptive but if you dont stand up and stop being afraid to be who you are youll never be able to learn about your self hiding the fact that your a homo. also means that unwittingly you cover up other great things about your self most /some come around eventully and for those who dont you dont need  them you should only surround yourself with friends and family who love and care about you and can except you for you and nothing less weather there new or old friends and family stand up for petes sake be proud of who you are after all you are going to be with you for a long time
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ITS THE OPPOSITE OF HOW THE GAY BASHERS ACT.  THEY ACT IMMATURE.  IT MEANS BEING RESPONSIBLE AND ACTING LIKE AN ADULT NOT A LITTLE KID.
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I am not gay first off and the only reason why I am answering this question is because I am a mother who oldest daughter told me that she was gay,\nand I feel like I can tell you how I felt speaking from someone who is not really into that life style but have a child that I love with all my heart that is.....I hope what I say helps you to understand somewhat of how We the family feels at times (I am not speaking for all just myself for sure okay)\n\nAnyway, My daughter has always known how I feel about this life style, so she didn't want to tell me face to face, so she decided to tell me in a letter, when I first read it I had to read it over & over again because of course I thought it was a misprint or I was seeing things right? But it wasn't and I was reading it right, I was not mad like some people would think I was a little disappointed because of course there will not be a wedding, or the birth of grandchildren but, in saying all of that I love my baby girl no matter what, she decides to do with her adult life, it's not mines but, hers to do with as she please, but I do not have to be apart of it, and when I say that I mean I do not want her life style in my home, or durning holidays, things like that, I have two younger girls and I do not want it around them, because the way I feel is family needs a mother & father to complete it, this is how I feel period, but I will never turn my back on my child but, the life style I will not except around me...........I have nothing hatful to say or mean or nothing like that I just do not want it pushed apoun me inside my home is all, but she my daughter is always welcome to come over..................As I said I can not speak for all parents just myself and that is how I dealt with it, If she would have told me face to face I would have given her a big hug and kiss because she will always be the daughter I brought into this world and will love forever more.............................
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No, I want to make it to Heaven so that is why I'm not gay. I am reading the bible gay people because make me like an outcast. I think people are okay with gay people. And what goes around comes around he isn't gay because he's my friend and I don't have gay people as friends.
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I disagree with all of those lamers. I don't agree with homosexuality. However, I would never be mean nor judge them. I have my reasons, and that's all I am going to say about that! Thanks for allowing me the chance to express that.
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People just need to be more tolerant. If being gay is against YOUR religion, don't be gay. But leave everyone else alone. Besides, I have never met a hostile gay person, they don't bother anyone else.
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wow gary .... this seems like 3 different people now who have posed questions in your name \nwhat happened ?\nyou went from very anti gay .. to moderate .. to accepting\nwithing 3 questions ?\ni am liking you more now lol
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I am on the way over to pick you up. Just give me your address so I wont drive around all night lost. LOL  As far as being gay why do you need or want to know? Are you gay? Looking for a date? And your family is not very considerate if you cant get up and they wont help