i cannot bring myself to tell her because i am afraid of losing herfaith and the 'love' that already exists.Not to mention family..God i'm almost sure they will never agree
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i feel your pain. i'm crazy about a blood cousin aswell. Dont feel bad. you cant help who you fall in love with. Tell her so that she can know what you're feeling and so that she can undersand why you do certain things a certain way when she's around. Tell her you love her, but dont react to what the love is telling you to do. make her understand that you cant help yourself and make sure that you keep your distance because after all, cousins make dozens.\nsave your family the shame... i did, and we're happy.
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TOUGH!  I kind of had the same problem.  I talked to my husband about it, and made it very clear that I adored her, but feared her meddling would come between our relationship.  I also told him that I in no way wanted to come between him and his mom....but we needed to set ground rules.  He understood more than I thought he would...and he talked to his mom about it.  After all, he knows her better than I do...so he knew how to express this without upsetting her and making me look like a bad person.  It has worked very well, and we are ALL happy now.
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yikes.  what did she say that was so awful?\nmaybe it's okay to move and take some time.  she's family; you can always reconnect later.\nhaving an open conversation about what's going on, though, is far better than her just moving quickly and no one talkign about it.  try to stay friends!
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Having a difficult time getting over the love my woman like my mother part. I know what your asking, but that keeps catching my eye. I would have to say no, it is two different kinds of love but hell who am I to say. Good luck with that by the way.
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don't give up!!! they will give in eventually! you shouldn't lose your love just because of the different religion! if you want to be together make it possible don't let your love be defeated by you parents believes! if you got so far you will get at the end of it and i hope they change there mind! GOOD LUCK AND NEVER GIVE UP!!!:)
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Looks like I'll be marrying a large woman named Grace on the Isle of Man.(Hmmm) Does sound like the scenario I've already worked out in my head concerning my own marriage. It's not going to happen!
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Hi Ms. Sandylynn!! I just wanted to let you know that when you let people e-mail you from here they can't send attatchments and if they do, you don't have to open it. :) You give the absolute best and most thought out answers of anyone on here and I want you to know that it doesn't go unnoticed and it is very much so appreciated. :) \n\nOh, but to answer your question, I don't even think you should lose any sleep over this situation. You did nothing wrong and she is mad at herself, not you. I know you already have but pray about it and let God handle this and her. Only when she can find it in her heart to "forgive" you can she grow. Someone as nice as you, I know if you knew she needed help you would have been there for her. In conclusion, just pray about it and give it to God. It works for me. He can handle it far better than you can. I hope this helps!! :)
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I am sorry about your cousin, and I am sorry that you got some really insensitive (and immature) answers. Honey, the very best thing you can do to draw close to God is to talk to Him. I have 35ish years experience, so I know what I'm talking about. Its not always just roses in anyones life, but knowing God, and letting Him walk you through the tough times, helps you to see and smell the roses, when all you can feel are the thorns. Talk to Him just like you would talk to anyone else. There  are always going to be back stabbers and such, and there will be people who may call you nuts. That is because they don't have that relationship, so they cannot know what they are talking about. Don't listen to them, keep seeking Him. Matt 5:6 "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled." NIV \nThe person above is right about getting yourself a Christian friend to help you. I don't mean someone who will be a gossip, I mean someone who truly cares about you and your relationship with God. Even if you can't join the youth group, God is with you anywhere. And your relationship with Him doesn't depend on location.\nAbout your mom, I used to have a really bad relationship with my mom until one day someone told me a lot of stuff she'd been through. It helped me to understand why she was the way she was, and to let go of my hurts. Maybe you could talk to her?? And listen to her?)\nAbout your brother. No one has the right to hurt you. He needs to know that you are going to your parents, and if they can't stop it the authorities will. I'm sure your pastor can help. The "and stuff" part bothers me. Don't let him continue. YOU have rights as a Human being.\nMay the peace of God which passes all understanding, anoint you and keep you everyday. (Not a quote, but the real verse is Phil 4:7, another verse for you Psalm 37:4 and that one is true. Not at first, but in these later years, I can think of something I want, and a lot of the time God just kind of puts it where I can find it.) No one can convince me that He's not REAL and the GREATEST -- I know Him. See you in heaven someday.
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I completely kow how you feel I went through the same thing with my husband the only man I was ever with and still with. I couldnt wait for him to marry me so I could finally enjoy our sexual relations,I even remember crying during sex the guilt was so bad and I'm not even Catholic but in my faith along with most this is a major sin.  I dont your stat with you boyfriend but it wont get better until he marries you .  I bet you had parents who made you feel like everything you did you go to hell for.  I will end it saying this even though it will only help if you can truly belive it yourself "God is mericiful,and his mercy out weights his wrath",also I bet you boyfreind thinks your parents brainwashed the hell into you to make you feel this way and he probably hates your religion because of that..Good Luck I hope you can have a wholesome satisfing relationship soon and feel good about your relationship with god.
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well you could talk to your family and explain that you really love her. if they still don't like her and if you are dead sure that she loves you and that she can break her engagement without any problem, then i guess you should stay with her. because it is YOU who will love her and  not your family. and if you can persuade them that you will be happy with her then they should be tolerant and accept the situation. i could also tell you to face your family and fight for your love like they do in movies but this is unrealistic. i have faced a more or less similar situation some years back. i was in love with a boy. he is hindou and i am christian and my parents disliked him. i love my parents very much and i didn't want to hurt them and see them sad. so i broke up. but this was my choice. today i'm still alive and waiting for the perfect guy if ever he exist at all. i dn't know if i have regrets. what i mean is that the choice is yours and no one else's!
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hey thans for the advice on my boyfriend i just really am scared! oh and mine is trapped in the closet all parts its just drama i love to hear it but not be in it
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I think at times when people talk about feelings they kind of shy away from it cause of fear of getting hurt. You may have to just be patient with her for now. Good things do come to those who wait.
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well tell her its ok and not to feel bad being adoped is not a bad thing you juss have a different family your family didnt want to tell you or else your gonna get sad and upset well thats the same thing your familt will never trust you again
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NOT...I think that would be so wrong.  I think if you have found another love, be honest with your family and tell them before you decide to make that choice.  I believe that if you love them enough, you should tell them that your not happy.  I think that they would be more understanding (I wouldn't say happy, but understanding) if you told them, rather then letting them find out.
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I feel it was wrong for her not to tell you and now you feel trapped and lied to but the thing of the matter is ---which boils right down to you can you forgive her for lieing to you and if you are willing to continue to love her because if not then these problems will always exist in your relationship or marriage and I am a strong believer that you should not get married under false pretenses but if she has not shown any other signs of cheating or anything like that then you should give her the opportunity to prove herself to you and if you still want to wait to get married you dont have to rush into this you should want you marriage to be happy and joyous and loving=== dont get married because your families want you to get married because you love her yeah people make mistakes and I was also cheated on so I had to weigh my options of what would be best for me and  my children and I assume that you dont have any children so take your time and you talk to her about it a little more try to put yourself in her shoes try to understand what made her do it and why get a sense of understanding first and then you can make a rational decision on whether to leave or not \n\nhope things work out for you
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Rather than just coming out and saying "that's not going to happen," my opinion would be to try and try and try again.  What better gift can a future spouse receive than you on your wedding night - with a commitment that you have chosen to become pure - again - for this night only.  It is perfectly OK to start making that commitment now.  Buy yourself a purity/commitment ring and wear it on your ring finger and really try each day to live out that commitment.  Believe me, it will change your life =)  My opinion:  Wait until marriage!!!  Best wishes =)
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you don't need to tell her anything... It's nice to help people out but sometimes there are things we have no right to butt in.... do you get me? \n\ndo you have affections for this particular the girl or just worried for her? because you're quite affected by her...\n\nif she's truly a religious women then it wouldn't be hard for her to face reality...\n  \n\njust pray for her welfare... pls. don't make irrational moves...