I'm 22 and my girlfriend is graduatiing from college next month. Let me tell you a little about her. She's real easy going, athletic, and loves to have fun.
210565
what sport? get her a basketball or something.
635903
Let her know that she has plenty of time to get married.  So many college grads. get married to quickly before either one really knows what they want in life.  You just don't really know what, who, where, when your going to be doing anything that early in life.  If their relationship is solid they have nothing to worry about and can get married in a few years once they begin to settle into their lives/careers.
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On behalf of every male who was your age, and had the desire to do what you're going to do, I must say you are one of the luckiest guys on the planet... You'll learn stuff from her that every woman you're with for the rest of your life will be thankful for...
288254
you can so have fun WITH a girlfriend.... having a bf or gf is so much MORE fun than being single
255470
If you haven't done so already, try showing her that you're mature enough to handle a relationship.  Some ideas:\na. Getting a part-time job\nb. Joining in a new extracurricular activity\nc. You could always try doing something nice for her...if she asks why you're doing it, don't bring up the boyfriend issue, just say "because" and keep the good deeds rolling.
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I started dating at 15 too and ended up with more than just a boyfriend. I ended up with a boyfriend  and three kids by the time I was 19 years old and couldn't go to college. I watched as all of the majority of my peers went to college and now they are successful. The woman always ends up with the bad deal.Men don't have to gain an extra 30-80 pounds because of pregnancy. I sure did while carrying my babies.Now I'm 27 years old and trying to take some college classes to improve my lifestyle for me and  my kids. Kids grow so fast every time I turn around they need something or their shoes are always outgrown. Trust me don't rush to get a man because most of them want sex as a part of the package deal naturally. You will end up like me or probably worst. Get yourself a good education and try to go after a degree, a man can pick up and leave you at any given time, an education will last you for a lifetime.Also  you will never have to depend on anyone when your are educated people will need you. And that's Real Girlfriend! Good Luck, I wish you the best in making decisions in your life because once you do, you can never go back in time and change your decisions.Women can do anything, just don't get caught up in the opposite sex, YETT!!!
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My last long term relationship was with a woman 10 years older than me. The reason? I wastired of dating girls and I wanted to date a WOMAN! I was looking for someone emotionally mature/secure that knew what she wanted and wasn't into playing games. It's very alluring when you can find that eclectic mixture of someone that's fun and responsible, has enough experience in life to realise that every good relationship is give and take.  I wasn't looking to add notches to my gun belt or pages in a journal, I was very much looking for love and quite honestly it was the closest ever I'd come in so far as matching my hopes to my expectations. I can't speak for the masses out there but, there are a few of us guys that are sentimental enough to hold out hope for love, I hear rumors that it still exists (wink)....
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Hey - it's all good...but, as others said, I'd advise to wait until you are graduated (if not already).  You're of age...why not?  Just one question to consider, though...will it destroy the families?  Does she have kids?  What would they think?  Would your parents approve?  I guess they couldn't really do anything, but you don't want to destroy your relationship with them over something not even real yet...If you feel comfortable with it all, though, hold nothing back...go get her!
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Bottom line to a very long dissertation is DON'T DO IT ,,,, You didn't mention your age or age bracket but I'm assuming that you are in your teens ,,,,,that doesn't matter because this advice could fit anyone ,,,,, You have your whole life ahead of you ,,,,If I'm right and you are in your teens then you aren't in a position to handle the problem that can arrise from this ,,,, There are allot of red flags here ,,,, One of them is that you are a challenge to any guy ,,,,,, you have something they want and most likely after they score they will move on to another target ,,,, Don't submit yourself to being anyones play thing ,,,, Any guy that wants you for that has no respect for you at all ,,,, To them you are only warm and have a pulse ,,,, Guys your age aren't near ready or mature enough to settle down with just one girl at this point in their lives ,,,, Think long and hard and from all the angles where this is concerned ,,,, Use your head ,,,, don't let them use your body ,,,,,
600889
How old are you and how old is she?
189984
Relax.  Your grades are not as important in college as you think.  Experience is going to get you where you need to go.  And as far as your girlfriend moving away, it happens.  I have personally gone though it.  But if you want it to work out, you have to work at it.  Stay in constant communication.  And if it is meant to happen, it will.  RELAX!  It wil be painful, but if it does last, and you see her again, it will mean all the more to you and her.
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depends how mature the man is. generally it'll be a disaster, she's still a teenager and no matter how mature she may seem she still has a lot to learn. maybe something could come out of it 5 years from now... but i highly doubt right now as an 18 yr old, unfortunately
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Steph.\ngreat q!\nYou are right, both do apply at age 20! BALANCE is the key.\nFocus on your goals, do the hard job to get to the career, education and act mature while on that path. \n\nThis is the time of trial and error, that difficulty or frustration is totally normal.  Maturity is not easy, so take it one day and situation at a time. With maturity comes self respect and self confidence on a whole new level. \n\nThe very best way is organization, Get a day-timer and plan out the activities of life. EVERY one of them. That personal structure will help you enjoy the "free time" more and keep you directed and on course for all other items.\n\nSchedule your time-well!  So you can have fun!\nBeing responsible at any age is the key.\n\nI worked really hard and played just as hard.  I would take cheap vacations all over the USA and Mexico with all that saved (hard earned cash). I seldom wasted it on booze or parties.  I went to midday movies with girlfriends and pot luck dinners at my apartment. I did date- only on the weekends.  I made it real clear to the world that I was all about ACTION. \n\n I did take Sunday off from everything. I did nothing but church that day, since I was used to waking up early, I went at 7am and was home back in bed by 9:30 am. I must say, I wish I had the same energy now as I did at 20.  The obligations and commitments that I made on a personal level only made me better. No one knew when I left the bar and went home to shower that I was going to church, after partying all night. It was for ME!\n\nInvest in yourself. You are worth every minute of the day.
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You must be nuts, it took you 15 month to realize that she might be immature.I think you're the one who's immature, or commited phobic. It's true that in some asian culture, the unmarried women lives with her parents until she gets married. Therefor her curfew is out of respect for her parents, since after all ,she is living under their roof and maybe also being supported  financially for her school fees. Let's get real , graduate school is not cheap!!!  I know ,been there and done it. Are you sure you're not the one getting cold feet from this relationship?
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As long as you're  begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to......  IF nothing else works out for her.  From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway.  Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young.  (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.)  Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy....  But, know what?  You're young, too.  Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of  your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus.  You know, something that you're really interested in.  You' ll probably  find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building  your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.)  You might just find out that  you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.)  I know this is very, very difficult advise to take.  You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be.  For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.  There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet.  It's sad if you choose to cling to the past  at such a young age.  And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't  so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her!  Think about it - and, best of luck to you.\n\nPEACE
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The problem with deciding for her is that she may rebel.  If she chooses herself then she has to prove that it was the right decision.  If you choose, she can go about proving that it was the wrong choice.  She is more involved and committed if you let her choose.  It's not the end of the world.  She can change back later.  Art school graduates can do academic stuff in college.  She's not really deciding for the rest of her life.  They change their majors all the time.  My boyfriend calls it "malicious compliance" which is what you often get when you dictate something like this.
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Dude.......and your problem is???? Go for it !!! She is young, hot, and 24..........now, that's a NO-BRAINER! What time are you picking her up?? She sees you as strength, and stability. Have a great date! Let us know how it tured out!! Good Luck!!