I have been living in a mostly white community and have dated several white men. But since I moved here I've noticed that most of the men seem to not know how to approach me. I have approached some and have been told by some that when they are approached by a black women they think its too aggressive..so I am totally confused..LOL
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Some men are insecure about being approached by ANY women. Also, many men are afraid to approach WOMEN.  The prettier the more difficult to approach a girl -- because they're afraid of being turned down.  \n\nI'd continue to do what you're doing--work the odds.  Just because you get turned down sometimes, doesn't mean you will always get turned down.  Just make it clear you're interested -- stay approachable.  Guys are so weak about being turned down.  And they play the double standard by acting like women are too agressive if they do the approaching.  Not all though.  So you've got to play the odds.  Trust me, it will all work out.  Just hang in there.
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Honey, it is just what you like. :) And prolly you grew up in an area where there are no Filipinas.  \n\nI grew up on South Central Los Angeles, CA.  All there was really there were African Americans and small population of Latinos prom. Mexican at the time.  I am HIspanic, and I only date White men.  I'm not a racist either, it's just I got so used to African Americans and Latinos that I am just not attracted to them because of the familiaraty.  weird huh>\n\nYou're not weird, just what you're into sweetie. :) \n\nAnd you're freaking 25, go pimp yourself out and get some dates ;) goodluck.
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I have read all your questions and answers, it seems to me that you have had a traumatic childhood with your white father and his white mistress' and you have lived the rest of your life as a racist and a mean feminist. Not all white men are cheaters or get the best paying jobs....and not all white women are whores........your 32 years old....grow up and get over it, life is too short.
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I asked a similar question a couple months ago, because my wife is somewhat butch and constantly gets approached by men.  It does seem to happen a lot!  I think it's a combination of challenge, the woman being naturally attractive, men wanting a woman they can relate to as a friend, and men just having more interesting and varied tastes than they're told to have by the media.\n\nHere's my question and its answers:\n\nhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlHNZxGSruq3IcPhOzlBSrzsy6IX?qid=20061011084416AAZGDNJ
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That's a wonderful question. My cousin acts foolish when she sees a hott black guy with a white girl. The girl can be asian, latin, or whatever and if she's not black then Tameka is like "nah that girl is white." She doesn't even stop to think that I'm a bit offended b/c I'm half white. But back to answering your question. She has explained to me that all the good black guys are with white girls and she's left with the drug dealers, ex cons, scrubs w/ baby momma drama, and broke down living with they mom guys b/c the rest of the black guys were either gay or in jail. That's her take. I see her point, but I got a man so I ain't trippin off nobody else's happiness. If you happy do what you want. The problem is these angry black women are looking in the wrong place for black men and they're looking for the wrong traits. Don't worry bout the size of the wallet, think character. Leave the ghetto and look for a man with education, go to the library, even better go to college.
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must be where you live there are all kinds of black guys and skinny white or just right girls that are pretty here.But I see skinny white guys with big white girls more.Guys are smaller anyway,we have the curves for the birthing reason.
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Some biracial men are very attrctive and some aren't. just the same as some white guys are attractive and some aren't. It's old and corny I know, but it truly is whats on the inside that counts.
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Not all Black women are loud and date gangsters. I've been around white women, Asian women, and Latinas who are loud. You sound very self hating remember you came from a beautiful Black woman.
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i date outside of my "race" all the time...in fact, most of the time i do. i don't let racism stop me at all nor do i care what my family thinks. besides, as far as i'm concerned...there's only one race and that's the human race.
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exactly! why don't you guys get this stuff?! i don't like to make teh first move- i think it's the guys place, and man dropping hints that they don't get (no matter how obvious) gets ridiculous after a while! i think i have done everything but walk up and kiss the guy! come on PAY ATTENTION GUYS!
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A personal observation: I have notes more so lately than ever that there a quite a few Black women out there with men not of the black race. Interracial dating is happing at both the high class and lower class levels, of black women. So I think that as black women we are “expanding our horizons” but unlike some others we are not forgetting our “past view.”
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Well I can not speak for everyone. But I myself find some black women very attractive. I would like to date one some time . I guess I always wonder what my friends and family would think as well as what her friends and family would think but the bottom line is how we both feel towards each other.
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I believe that they fall into these ethnically biased stereotypes. Most white men view Asian women as small, delicate creatures that are subservient. This appeals to them be cause men, especially white men have a desire to dominate. This should be apparent with all of the conquering and enslavement done by the white man. They also feel think that Asian women give great oral sex. This is a widely believed stereotype by many white males. If ever you have a question about males and are searching for the answer look towards the sex. That is all we are about, almost every decision we make and action we take is a step towards sex or driven by sex, at least with in our own minds. If these statements offend anyone, I am sorry. This is what I truly believe and have come to this conclusion through the many interactions I have had with guys throughout my life.
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I had the same problem when I first moved here (Texas).  I came from Upstate New York, where guys are way more foreward---  people are more reserved here in that way, it seems.  Put yourself out there---  ask someone out for coffee, ask to meet for lunch, you know, little "safe" dates.  After a few of these, you should know yourself if this is a person you really want to date.  Don't do the bar scene dating---  you meet so many crazy, wild people who don't really want a relationship.  Another idea:  ask close friends or relatives to "set you up".  Or, you may try Yahoo! personals.  It sounds risky, and may be, but I met the most awesome man online 14 months ago and we have an incredible relatioship!
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Though I have to admit Blacks look better in clothes usually than Whites do, I really don't hate being White. And I think we've all gotten to the stage where it doesn't matter to Blacks what Whites think of them - only a small percentage of Blacks measure themselves against whites. What's the point? There are too many differences. I'm of English background, so my skin doesn't tan much. That's restricting, because too much sun these days can lead to skin cancer, so I avoid the sun. Black skin has more oil so Blacks age better. Lucky you guys! Then again, I'm not too concerned about aging. I have never been particularly attracted to Black men - I go for personality more than looks. I've dated guys of many different races. People are people. Anyway, don't evaluate yourself in relation to Whites - it doesn't make sense.
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a lot of white guys love black girls...my bf's dad is white & his mom is black. well i think some white guys are intimidated by black girls bcuz of the kinda stuff they see on tv. for example, most black women are portrated as being sassy, tough, & have that dont-take-$hit-from-nobody kinda attitude. thats probably why. but i know that all black women are NOT like that at all. i have a few black friends that are like that, but once u get to know them they're really sweet girls =)\ni have seen a lot of white guys date black women & most of em have no problem with that. i think a white guy would have no problem dating someone like u and if they did...then theyre not worth it. u should look 4 a guy thats willing to date u for YOU & not be intimidated by the stereotypes they see on TV. if u see a guy ur into, & u get the vibe that hes a lil intimidated by ur race, try talking to him & getting to know him a little & soon he'llsee that u r just like any other girl. well hope this helps a little! good luck 2 ya.
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Man... some of you people have real issues!  My wife is black and I see none of any of this crap some of the answers have been spewing!\n\nSome of you need to wake up, throw away those stereotypes and look at reality.\n\nWhere I live you see more and more BF/WM couples.  Like another answer said, this is the fastest growing IR relationship type.  \n\nWhen people start to realize people are people, regardless of race, then, this country can really start to do great things!