I feel like I want to hide and cut off from everyone...I am so embarrased and ashamed like everyone will think I am stupid and unworthy,to marry
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Don't be ashamed because he only made himself look like a fool. You are not stupid or unworthy. Actually this was probably a blessing that he did why would you want to live with a jerk...K
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I regret not telling the people around me how much they mean to me.
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yeah i know how you feel, thats why you gotta go out and make your own place in the world. join a club or group, volunteer, do something where yo feel you should be there and you belong- or be like me and up and move to a new state lol :)
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I have done these types of things often- its kinda a regular thing with me. So- Stand up, smile deliberatly, take a bow, wave to everyone- then run like hell. You may feel dumb, but everyone else will think the way you played it off was pretty good. Just remember that everyone does these thing at one point or another, what is important is not what the embarrassing thing was, but how you handled it.
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I know how u feel..it feel terrible.. u don't have to strave ur-self..what should u do is doing exercise n having healthy food..n buy magazine to learn how to do skin care.. upgrade urself..don't care abt what they said..one day they will regret what they had done.. make them regret n try to make friends with other..i'm sure u can find a true friend one day..good luck~~~
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i am already invisible to people...no one notices me...it is not fun :(
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U r not over reacting, I know it because I hv the same problem. U r just scared to get hurt ur feelings since u had a bad experience in the past. But u shouldnt think everybody is like that. U dont hv to ignore everybody. Just be carefull as u said, its not a bad thing. U might feel u need a relationship so bad but dont be hurry just wait till the right moment and the right time, u will meet the best person for u who will take care of u and watch after u. A kind hearted person will be calling u very soon. Good luck.
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CoCo, I do feel the same way as you and I can understand your frustration. It is hard to tell sometimes who is honest out here in "cyberspace" but just give it some time and hopefully you will find some truthful people here too. Hang in there, okay!
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Omg if this si happeing to you i feel so bad and i feel you cuz the sames things happing to me  all i do is ignor it if your frends belive what othere are saying about you wiht out going to you for the truth then they arn't the frends you thught they where i lern't that he hear whay but i also took it bad i kicked the liveing shi* out of him and that only mad things worse so don't do that lol just  tell a hight athority and they will fix everything it's not perfect for me yet but it's better i got new fredns and eveyr sence i told them that when u hear sumthing from some one about me or me aperatly saying sumthing about some one else i told then ask me frist befor you get mad cuz the guy and others are abd for that  \n\nhope i helped and i hope you can read my spelling( can not spell check my comp frezes every time i clickt he botten)
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i feel ya!! all to well i think that it is your makeup ya know the way you think i think crazy sh*t when im around people i get paranoid and would rather stay away from the world and be comfortable in my own little world....it works for me!!! i get depressed but i dont feel uncomfortable...home....try seeing a physcologist, therapist
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You're not alone.\nI absolutely understand what you're saying as I'm going through it myself... =( I used to be naive & gullible only to have it blow up in my face.\nI tried changing to adapt as to how people would like me to be... but it wasn't easy & a losing battle at the end.\nFor every person you try to please there's gonna be tons more that don't like you for the same reason. After a while it got tired & I stopped, stayed true to myself & adopt a like me/ hate me attitude. To me it's their loss rather than mine.
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It doesn't sound as if you are compromising, you're just doing what you feel is expected of you. You're going to lose who you are if you try to please everyone around you. It is time for you to decide if you want to take a risk and stand up and make your voice and opinion be heard.
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Let all that pressure and pain out another way. Try to find the courage to tell someone what you are doing. This doesn't have to be an adult. A close friend is good. If you cannot bring yourself to instigate this 'confession', turn the tables. If you are asked, admit it. And be honest to yourself about the reasons why you are doing it. Trust me - it will be a relief and only after admitting it will you be able to find other outlets and a way to mend the pain that is causing you to feel the need to self-mutilate.\n\nA great outlet is acknowledgeing how you feel and sharing this with someone else. Just having someone else understand is a huge release. Also knowing you are not the only one doing this.  And the feeling of being unburdened...\n\nYou are not mad so do not worry about what others might think. Find someone to confide in - it really will help.
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This is a problem that I have been battling with all my life. I believe you have to feel confident in who you are. You need to believe in yourself. It is hard I know but you need to start looking people in the eye. People will look away. Most people are like you, so I would say that you are normal. I know you feel bad, but believe me other people are just as timid as you are. You will get more respect when you look others in the eye.
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I am currently dealing with the same situation. I have found that by giving to much you leave nothing for yourself. People will use you if you allow yourself to be used. My problems are mostly from family. I have come to the realization that if i wouldnt let a stranger treat me poorly why should i allow my family to do the same. Eight months ago i made a list of toxic people in my life and have started the ellimination process. It is very hard, i wont kid you. But, It has to be done. You are already to considerate or you wouldnt have such a question in the first place. Write a list of people that make you feel this way and next to each name write the pros and cons of your relationship with them. Evaluate and treat accordingly. Your life is to precious and short and you deserve better. We as a society have been taught to give but we have never been taught to receive graciuosly. We dont know how to accept compliments. Writing off friends and family is very difficult but you are allowed to feel good any time you want without regret or remorse. Its more exhausting being nice than being honest and straight forward. As with any change you have to do it slowly. You will feel very bad for a time but keep your long term goal in sight and do not share your plan with anyone or they may try to convince you not to write someone off. You have to allow yourslef to be at peace with your decisions. It will be the loss of a friend or family , like a death. You must go through the mourning process. Be good to your soul and it will reward you. Stay focused and you will allow you to reward yourself with a healthy life full of wonderful people. Good luck to you and yours.\n\n\nJoe
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Yea..unfortunately i know exactly how you feel. I think most people feel this way at one point or another. It's a terribly easy slump to get into, but now that you are fed up with it start making some changes. Start practicing saying no to people sometimes and giving yourself a littlle time for yourself. It's hard to be a good friend or partner to anyone if your all used up. Unfortunately though it's easy to get into a pattern of just saying ok and going with everyone else's flow! Think of things you enjoy doing and set aside some time to do them... it will go a long way in helping you get back some energy and re-centering yourself. Good Luck and lotsa luv!
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hi moll.  i'm so sorry for the way that you feel.  and i do wish i could make it better, but i can't.  i can offer you this though it may not help much right now.  sometimes when parents have a "special" child, they feel guilty. whether or not it could or couldn't have been prevented.  unfortunately, the guilt they feel, not only punishes them, but all those involved.  your brother included.  the only advixe i can offer is that you hang in there girl!  try to talkt o your parents, or the one parent who seems more receptive.  maybe you wanna ask or volunteer to participate in things with your brother and parents?  you sound like a sensitve person, and i'm sure your parents love you.  they may feel that you are better equipped to deal with less attention because you are "normal", though i don't personally believe that is true.  all children need, want, and deserve attention... maybe just in different ways.  find someone you can talk to, that will listen and hear your feelings.  i'll put you in my prayers.