my girlfriend and i have had the best six months of my life.  we are truly in love.  but lately she doesnt see, to want to talk to me as much or when we are together she wants one of her friends with us.  that would be fine but i only see her on the weekends so i want to be alone with her.  is this normal for some relationship or should i worry that we are growing apart?  i have asked her about it and she says nothing is wrong and that she loves me.  i am just scared that i might lose her. please help!!!!!
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Talk to her about the problem
320219
Probably not.  Maybe they see the way you and your girlfriend get along (fighting all the time, verbal abuse, or maybe you have a one sided relationship).  Maybe they see how your girlfriend treats you, like you do everything for her and she has you wrapped around your finger, so they feel like she's using you.  If they were jealous then I would think that you spend a lot more time with your girlfriend and not with your friends and your relationship with your girlfriend is something they want because they see perfection.  Is this relationship something where the two of you feel inseparable and love spending time with one another?  Then maybe they could be just a little jealous, but for some reason, I feel that this may not be the case if you are asking.  They probably know more of what you don't see or notice. Others usually can observe and pick up on the wrong things when you yourself, cannot.  Usually that is the way it goes.  It's called being "Naive" to the relationship.
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There is nothing wrong with you, you are just growing up.  From the ages of 17 to 25 people grow and experience a lot of stuff.  It is a time for them to really begin to figure out who they are and where their lives will eventually lead.  Unfortunately sometimes that means we grow apart and away from relationships we previously thought would be with us forever.  I think you will probably need to let your boyfriend down and be single for awhile so you can continue to grow and figure out who you are and what you want in life.
617747
Yes! it sounds to me like you two are definatly in love. and if she didn't give you a good enough reason, like "i met someone else or i want to explore my options" then i think she still loves you, it is just too painful for her to be apart for so long. so i think you need to talk to her. dont just go over there and pop the question right away. but talk to her, make her fall in love with you again and then tell her you need her and that you two need to spend the rest of you lives together...then... "will you marry me?"
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I can relate to your situation. I too had a relationship to where we were so "in love" in the first part of our 8 month relationship. It usually is happy during the first couple of months because of the excitement and the part of getting to know each other. Then for some it continues over because of good communication/trust and relating to each other. For some it ends up the opposite way. Insecurities play a major role in this. That's the reason for the fights. Ask yourself are you fighting over things that are small that somehow leads to big fights? Or does the fight continue like a broken record. There are issues revolving around the person that brings them up. Also ask yourself this. Do you miss his old self or do you miss the fights? If he doesn't make an attempt to return any of your calls, give him some time to heal or maybe it's time to move on. The problem could be him not being mature enough to handle a break up. I hope this help. Take care of yourself. you'll eventually meet someone who can be both your friend and your boyfriend.
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Aww, this reminds me of My friend Lauren and I. We got together, she loved me, I love her, but outside pressures made it very hard for me to cope with Us. I understand where  your girl is coming from and I also understand where you are coming from. You can't make someone stay if they don't want to. And you shouldn't try if you see that they aren't happy. Especially if it starts to make you unhappy. I would suggest letting her do what she wants. Let her know that you care for her and want her to be happy and that you are there for her but draw the line somewhere. Let her know that she does hurt your feelings by doing these things and let her know that she can't be so flippant and careless. Lauren and I are good friends now and sometimes I look at her and feel a pang, but I know that we would have both been miserable if we stayed together with all the problems we were having. Sometimes its better to let something go to keep a friendship than to draw out a love affair and have it end in hatred...Oh yeah, I think that she should take some time to figure herself out without any outside influences from you or other guys or girls. The hardest thing to do is to truly know and love yourself. You are always your own worst critic....Good Luck!
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Just because he doesn't talk a great deal when you two are together doesn't mean anything. I talk to my girlfriend on the phone for a little while each day, but when we are together I can't ever think of anything to talk with her about, but that doesn't mean I care for her any less than before we started dating and we talked constantly. For guys, after a while we know what you like, what you would like, and all that so we don't feel like there is any reason to just go on talking about nothing. However, that doesn't mean your company is unwelcome. A lot of guys just like the company of the girl they care about. Don't take it too personally.
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i had that problem before i accually am going through the sane thing right now but have found  as long as theres is mutual love and trust in the relationship it will work for a long time i have had a relationship where i only saw my girlfirend onnce every six months as well and we stayed toghether for three yrs and then she moved and we lost touch but if you really love him and trust him stay with it. otherwise talk to him and ask him what he thinks would be best for the two of u. wheather that would mean breaking up or staying together. just follow ur heart and u will find out what to do! :) good luck
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Let me tell you a little bit about my own experience: \n     I tell my girlfriend all the time, very sincerely and sweetly, that i love her.  I do spontaneous things, like buying flowers or candy or some other gift, for no reason at all.  And i sometimes just hang out with her, with no obligations or intentions; just hanging out to be with her.  Yet, she sometimes gets insecure, and doubts me.  It has never been because of something that i have done, just that that is how she is.  Lately, because of this, i have been sensing those things, and i have found myself being emotionally hurt by her, and the little things that she has been doing.........  I love her more than you could imagine, but because of her doubts and insecurities, i have been getting hurt, and i now have doubts as to whether the relationship is fit to survive.  \n     In your case, if he has done nothing to bring about these feelings, then you should probably have no worries.  Innocent until proven guilty.  I know, from personal experience, that it starts to hurt when you signifigant other doubts you and your motives/intentions when you say "i love you."  It is extremely painful because you say those words to someone, expressing what you truly feel inside (not in all cases mind you), and then you are essentially "slapped" in the face when that person questions you.  If your boyfriend is seemingly sweet and sincere, then he probably really means it.  if he respects you as a person, and is supportive of you, then i would say that he probably means it.  Good luck to you, and i hope that i have helped.
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wow...that's an age difference.  none the less, sounds like she may be afraid of commitment.  But from the sounds of it, you guys never truly split up.  She calls you all the time, you guys do things, that doesn't sound like a normal broke up couple.  Normally they're at each other's throats or just totally avoiding each other.  From the sounds of it, you guys are going to be just fine. Good Luck and hang in there...it'll get better
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you sound almost like a mirror image of me but i'm at the 3 month stage and i don't know if he's with somone else, the other difference is he said to me that he wants to work things out i haven't seen mine in 20 days and yes im counting. the best advice hang in there, me personally i would tell him how much of a many swearwords he is for hurting me and how could he get with somone else so soon. but as i said hang in there im now ruling my own life but it is hard moving ahead without the one you love. Be Good!
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WOW! I think she loves you but knows so much about you and you about her that it's become too difficult to broach the subject of you two being a potential love match. I think you need to ask yourself do I love her in that way? If you do you've got to bite the bullet this weekend and ask her if she has feelings for you other than as a friend? Tell her you want a relationship with a girl and are confused as she seems like a friend most of the time but then when you discuss the subject of other women she doesnt seem able to ddeal with it. DO YOU LIKE HER????? i hope you do and that she feels the same and can finaly get the strength to let you know, some of the best relationships start with 2 people being friends first I think you 2 stand a fair chance of settling down together unless she is just a friend and a possessive one at that. If that is the cse you need to tell her you are interested in having agirlfriend and she needs to allow you to do this if she cant deal with that then you need to meet her a little bit less cos no girlfriend will put up with you having such a female possessive best mate! Good Luck!!
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...its normal to be concerned... but you should talk to her about it. don't say anything negative, but don't talk about it too much. you should plan times that you can hang out. Maybe you just need more time with her. :)
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i think it depends on age and what you want from a relationship.has this person got no interest in sex or is that just sex with you.by you asking this question you have doubts about being with this person, if nothings going  to change and you want it to, maybe you should think about splitting with this person and remaining good friends with them.\nas for me, coz im not the norm and if i really loved them,i would stay with them.
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its very normal ,she thinks you prefer to be with her more.I think you need to show her that she is your first priority after all.You should not expect your gf to get along with your other female friends.
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There is nothing wrong with that. I have one close friend that lives in my area. Other friends from school have since moved out of the area. I prefer keeping to myself a lot and I dont think anything is wrong with that. My ex was a loner too. We spent all of free time together and it didnt bother us. I think we had strong connect and just preferred just to be with one another. If you guys enjoy each others company and have no need for others I personally think that is normal. Most ppl think you need a bunch of friends and have to hang out every night of the week but that just isnt so. Be the way you are and dont try to change your b/f.
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It sounds like your friend is feeling very insecure, like she will lose your friendship or the place of honor in your life if you are happy in a dating relationship.  It could also be that she is not close to anyone else in her life and so she feels she needs to keep you all to herself or else she will be alone.\n\nFunny about this dynamic - when I got married I felt like I lost all of my girl friends, I wonder if they feel like I ditched them.  And when I had my first child, I couldn't get anyone I knew before to hang out with me.\n\nIt's a 3 way balancing act really - trying to have enough time for bf, gf and yourself - in addition to school or work (and as you get older you have more divisions and demands on your time).  \n\nYou need to sit down and decide for yourself what is right.  If you can understand this girl's feelings and you still want to be friends with her, you need to sit down with her and explain to her that you understand her feelings and remind her that you will do everything you can to be there for her.  Tell her how important your friendship is to you and that you need her friendship and support particularly now when you are branching out and growing.\n\nIt might also be helpful if you could fix her up with one of your bf's friends - then you could all 4 spend time together.\n\nIf you think she is just being unreasonable, or if you talk and can't come to an understanding, you may just have to realize that you are growing in the sphere of personal relationships and you may have just outgrown her.  Be happy for the years you have had together and wish her luck in her future endeavors - don't let it get ugly.