The person I suspect works for me, knows my home inside & out.  Is known to have a pot & alcohol addiction, has been of out of integrity in the past - yet has always treated me with much kindness & generosity. I do not want to falsely acuse him, but he feels like the most obvious suspect.  Serious answers only - this is a real deal & a lot of money.
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Addiction is tough.  Especially when you're broke, need money, and know an easy place to get it.\n\nMy first suggestion... write down everything that makes you suspect this person.  This lets you clear your head and think about your thoughts before you confront the person.  Once you've written it down, look it over.  Does it look like enough of circumstances to put together into robbery?  \n\nIf it still seems like it is... call your friend up and meet in a public place to talk.  (People can get emotional when they're confronted).  Ask POLITELY.  Or bring it up and say that you had a lot of money go missing... does he know of anyone who might have taken it (look at his reaction).  If he denies it, tell him/her of your suspicions.  Tell him/her that it's time to find a new job, or perhaps suggest that he/she does some work where you don't pay him/her to make up the difference.\n\nIf it goes bad, you could always call the police.  But that would guarantee a lost friendship...
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This is quite typical.  Coke "givers" don't EVER have really true friends who use with them... despite quite emphatic claims to the contrary made by most of those "friends" he's supplying.   So I give you credit for admitting at least that to yourself.  But more hard honesty is needed I'm afraid.   Just because you manage to go a few weeks without using it, doesn't mean you're not addicted yourself.  If you find yourself thinking about it, and desiring it, and doing something you otherwise wouldn't in order to get it (i.e., going out with him) then you've got your own level of addiction brewing, and the sooner you admit that, the better off you'll be.  We're talking coke here, so... do I really need to point out that you're ultimately just trading sex for drugs?  Newsflash!  He doesn't love you either!  Coke is absolutely and unbelievably addictive, so don't be too quick to make him out to be the bad-guy.  He's the coke "giver" -- knowing he can't "catch" you without it -- that probably being the closest concept he has to actual "love".   But you are the USER -- and fully responsible for completing this little equation.   Getting out of an addictive relationship can be torture for ANYONE.  Adding cocaine to the picture, and thinking you can do it yourself is just plain naiive.  Use your wisdom, get some help, and completely CUT OUT OF YOUR LIFE ANYONE WHO USES COCAINE.  That's why cocaine is such a problem... because it's such a social "thing".   Ask any truly recovered addict, (if you can find one) and they'll tell you... All those people they thought were their friends??  They were nothing but users.
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You can go to someone professional and ask him how to approach her. It is very dangerous that he drags her into doing drugs...someone who has influence over her has to be told.
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I would listen to the D.A in this case. Unless there is absolutley NO proof or enough evidence, I'd say the DA knows what they are talking about. Bless your heart and I hope everything works out for you.
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An adult her age knew the scam when she agreed on the money.  She needs a great lawyer to work on her case or she will do time, and that's not easy for a gal her age.  Her lawyer should be able to get her off of the intent to sell.  She needs to stay away from drug traffickers or she could end up dead.  The immigrant could have killed her at the border and stolen her car for a ride into Mexico.  You can be her friend but you need to keep out of the drug trade.
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Hey little buddy! Sounds like you stepped into a big bucket of stuff there. Just goes to show it dosen't pay to try and be nice. This guy must be some kind of freak. The sad part is I'm sure he has done this same thing before. With a nut like this all it takes is a simple HI from a pretty girl and they automaticaly hear "Take me now, I want you for ever and I'll bear your demon seed" What's even sadder than that is he may end up hurting somebody. I'm glad you realized that and ran. The guy needs a  12 step program to stop the voices that are not there. Oh---The only time you should have to put your life on hold is if you have children. They would come first no matter what. Otherwise no man or no one can tell what you will or can't do. And for gods sake, don't be givin' out your danm phone number or address. Be safe and happy
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I have a close friend who has been in law enforcement for over twenty years. He says he almost always asks people why they committ crimes. I have asked him before what scammers say. He says they often say if people won't think and realize their being scammed that they deserve to be victims. Maybe not true of all scammers, but mostly the ones he's spoken with.
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This is actually a very trying question. I commend you on putting something on this Q & A, that actually makes me think. Very nice indeed.\n---------------\nIt sounds kind of like a play on words. I mean it could lead to a bunch of different things. Something like the two high beings of importance, be it the priest and doctor, take the logical way to their own way of life and easily say here is an answer now be gone with you. The doctor thinks a drug will always be the answer. The priest always thinks that a prayer and maybe a hail mary will be the answer, but in the end does that really help us out? Does it answer the question we trully asked?\n\nNow the gentleman that has been in that hole has been there before him. Basically like the saying, " ive been down that road before" So this guy knows what he is going through, and instead of just giving a quick answer he allows him to see what he did to solve his problem. Maybe something like a alcoholic that has been reformed, and then helps his friend knowing that he has been in his shoes so he knows how he can help him out of his "hole" as well.\n\n-------\nI have to agree this is not really a joke, but a story of learning or a moral, none the less it made us all think. Thanks again.. I enjoy these types of things. Seperates the adults from the kids on here.
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Wow..looky looky another pothead loser that feels held down by the man. I guess you never thought about the fact that alot of violent crimes are linked with drugs.......but you never would have thought about that because you probably have 1/2 a brain cell left. So go ahead and keep smoking your marijuana no one really cares about you anyways. You and Pete have fun........queers
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I would be very cautious getting in a relationship with an ex-alcohic who was already in trouble for not following his program. Chances are he is dodging you and I would just let him go and not call there anymore. If he really meant what he said he will get a hold of you. I'm sure he got your messages that you called.
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This is something you should really do some more research and detail on.  Ask your neighbors and friends, check this person's license, that kind of thing.
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kind of scary. we all all so different and on our best behaviour on line. you are only knowing the part of this person he wants you to know. everyone is right, DO A BACKGROUND CHECK!!!!! make sure it is really him! when i was tending bar, a real nice, clean cut guy came in. for some reason, this guy made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. everyone said go for it. i did do a background check, and the guy did 13 years for rape! what i'm trying to say is that you can't trust people you meet in person, let alone on line. we all hide behind a veil of mystery! i hope you are over 18! please be careful!!!!
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This guy is a drug dealer.  Keep the camera, why not?  What is he gonna do, call the cops?  Do you really think he will risk his drug dealing business, and going to prison over a $100 camera?  Uhhhhhhhhhhhh NO.  I'm not saying stealing is right, but theft is a misdemeanor and drug dealing is a felony.  The way I see it is your dealer has nothing coming, just because of who he is and what he does.  \nYou on the other hand seem to be getting too much into the drug thing.  If you are all pissy about a 1/8 gram here or there, then you are too addicted and need to take a hard look at yourself.  Seriously, why start a beef with a dealer over petty crap.  If dope is so important to you, then find another dealer.
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Helping because you want to help is one thing.  But helping with something attached ...like ok I help you but you need to be or do something is another. If you have expectations, let them be known in advance.  Like yes, you can move in, eat my food, use my car but the minute you even touch my stereo you are dead.  Or my wife.  Whatever. Doing or being all helpful with a secret motive (unknown to the guy you are helping) could be co-dependence. Or you just like looking like a sap.  Not trying to be offensive, just clear.  \n\nIf you say you have trouble turning your back on people, my guess is you may be co-dependant.  Maybe the people arew users and drug abusers, learn it is not your fault and you are not alone,  for every alcoholic and drug user there are co-deps out there that belong to them.  I think they creat the perfect atmosphere for co-dependants to thrive on...
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Is there anyone in the group that you can trust? I would try to talk to one of them to see if they can tell you what went on, if anything. That's pretty freaky-no more pot or outings...
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He's probably not lying... he may be having a period of remission, and that's why he seems healthy and blooming, but that would not aleays mean that he was not undergoing some sort of treatment. And you are right not to ask him for proof, that would be both rude and hurtful beyond measure.\nWhat you should do now is to continue to be his friend if you can...if it hurts too much to be around him and feeling more than friendship, distance yourself a little, but keep in touch.\nAll my best.
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Looks like you have a problem.  If he is not going to the police and press charges it might be best to just leave it alone.  If this person is in your office, do not add more fuel to the fire by denying what is a lie.  A lie can not have legs unless you give them legs.  You have I suppose stated you did not steel anything, and that is the end of the issue.  There can be no proof, cause you have nothing that he can prove you have done.\n\nI would distant myself from him.  Make sure you protect yourself, so as he does not try to set you up in one way or another.  \n\nIf there is a superior you can go to have him put a stop to his actions at least at work.\n\nThose that know and love you will take you at face value.  Do not disappoint them. Stay true to yourself and get on with your life.  Those of your relationships that would believe a lie, then let them go.  as they say, "friends like that you don't need."  Make new ones.\n\nBy the way, I am taking you at face value and believe you.  Now walk in the truth and put the lie behind you.