My house in TX hasn't sold yet. My husband moved my family and I to WV and we hate it (except for my husband). My husband moved us here because the only job he could find was here. We are in a poor, rural area and don't know anyone. It is very different and there is nothing here. The schools are also terrible. We want to go back home. Can anybody give me some suggestions on what to do because my daughters and I have no money by ourselves and we desperately want to go back home. We would appreciate ideas on how to raise or earn enough money to make this come true.
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It was disheartening to read your question, because it sounds like you're really down on things - I sure wish I could wave a magic wand and make all your problems go away.\n\nWhat I can offer is my experience as someone who has moved all around the country - particularly much earlier in life. My dad was a corporate troubleshooter, and his company would move him from city to city where this division or other was having problems - his job was turn things around and then move on to the next crisis. At one point, as a kid, I moved 7 times in 10 years - think of all the schools and new classmates that involved! As an adult, I worked for a while as a college professor, moving from university to university until I got tired of that route. So I've been there (and there and there and there, and I can sympathize.)\n\nThat having been said, sometimes there are difficult realities to life - and the road doesn't always take you where you want to go. Or at least not in a straight line. I don't know what it is that your husband does for a living, so it's difficult for me to understand why the only jobs available to him are in West Virginia. I can certainly understand that it's a tremendous culture shock for you to move to a really, really rural community, but if it's really true that the only jobs for him ARE in West Virginia, then I guess I would have to salute your husband for having the character to pick up and follow the money. I'm going to assume that he's motivated to earn a decent living by his responsibility to his wife and daughters - so I'm thinking he may well deserve a lot of credit for recognizing his needs.\n\nThere is no magic money tree that can get you back to Texas, and again, I don't know anything about your job skills and where the opportunities exist for you. Perhaps the best approach for you would be to take advantage of whatever opportunities you have to pursue additional schooling that will qualify you for more positions -maybe your chosen field will provide more options for you in Texas, and your husband will find it desirable to move back to Texas where YOU can earn a good living.\n\nMoves are difficult things, because they uproot us from everything we know and our entire comfort zone. A very famous psychology theory from the 1960s speaks of the most stressful events in the average person's life, and how those stressors can impact mental health. As you might expect, moving/relocation is one of them (others include divorce, death of a family member, jail, loss of a job, etc.) If you're interested in reading more, read about the "Holmes Stress Scale".\n\nThere is nothing at all unusual about feeling completely lost and out of place in a new situation and a new environment and the only thing that can possibly ease that stress and pain is to be patient and give yourself time to adapt. We truly are amazing at adapting to new environments, but being the homebodies that we are, it always takes time - for some people and for some environments, it just takes longer than others.\n\nI also don't know about the nature of your relationship (and your daughters' relationships) with your husband - if you're close, and this move is driving you apart, the sad reality is that going back to Texas without him is going to introduce a whole new set of challenges to your lives, not the least of which would be the financial ones.\n\nMy best advice to you is to find a sympathetic ear nearby - I know this may seem impossible, but there must be a neighbor or a religious leader or a community service program or a job counseling service or any number of other caring individuals who can help you adjust. Since you didn't indicate if you're working at the present time, I can't necessarily recommend volunteering, but if you're not working, that's an excellent way to meet people and become a welcome part of a new community. If you're not working, and you
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CONTACT  MAYBE  A  LOCAL  FARMER  IN YOUR  AREA   , OR  GO  OUT  IN  THE  COUNTRY  SETTLING   AREA  ,.MAY  BE  SOME THERE!
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Go to the county office, the county secretary or clerk should be able to help you. They usually have a lot of properties left over after the tax auctions. I'm about to start purchasing some of these homes myself from different counties. I hope this helps you
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We used to live in California, and the situation you describe is precisely why we left.\n\nWe were both professionals making good money, but we couldn't afford a home and couldn't afford much else.  We moved to Texas and have been happy ever since...
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Hi Christian!\nNow that the housing market is finally looking up, it's the perfect time to seek out a new place to live. This summer you need to shake off that "lucky I even have my folks to live with" mentality, polish up your shoes, and explore your living quarters options! There are fun, flexible, fantastic places out there just waiting for someone like you!\nNow, get out there and pound the pavement. Beat on some doors until you latch onto that incredible tree house or fort you always wanted!\n(I heard the esperanza area is a great place to find a cardboard box near the dumpster behind a pizza joint?)\n-zealnik
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check the crime rate, check the school standing nationally, check the neighborhoods, check the local tax rate. what about the seasons?  without these numbers it is too difficult to decide. you say fiance, do you want kids, how friendly is the new place to kid and family activities? is the birth hopital good? \nIt is always good to try something new, but it has great risk. You know these jobs, you know these people, what about the new ones? Can you come back if you change your mind? if the new place is awful? Will you be losing any major benefits like health care or pensions?\nAvoid declining states like Ohio, land poor states like Hawaii, or incredibly money poor states like Nebraska and Tennessee (average income is less than 30,000, to name only a few). No matter what state, there are towns that will never accept a newcomer as a local. That means police harrassment for anything and everything. Example, setting trash out for pick up too early or not keeping your lawn the requisite three and one half inches tall...  (I have lived in each of these places so please don't be a hater, I wasn't a local, I didn't know the "rules" and have a bad taste in my mouth from these places, I actually still live in one of the states listed) \nIt is worth a bit more research, the more that you look, you will find a concrete answer to what you ask by finding something important to you. Also, checking the top ten lists of metros will help. (kid friendly list, crime rate list etc.)Trust me when I say the numbers and risks and benefits are not the same when you dig far enough down.\nYou may want to stay, you may want to go, but your digging will show you everything that you have maybe missed doing where you are before you leave.
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Do some research on the state you want to move to. Cost of housing, excellance of education, job market anything which can be used as a positive motivating tool. And compare it with where you are currently. You may even sit down and write out why it is you want to move so bad so as to get at the root cause. This will at least allow you to debate your point better.
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Ask yourself the hard questions, take your time answering them, and then take action.\n\nIs this your forever man and you need him to get over a few issues, or were you guys pretty much on the way to breaking up until a child complicated things?\n\nWhat are you going to do for a job now?  Where do you want to be in the future?  How can you get there while making a living now?  \n\nWhich town would be better for you and your child?  (The dad doesn't count unless you are keeping him--two hours is not a long drive to visit your kid a few times a month.)  If there is plenty of employment in both places, you might want to move where you will be closer to the love and support of friends and family.  If you moved out of a town that only has jobs at WalMart and McDonalds, you might want to stay in or move to a city with more opportunity.  (Don't move back in with the folks if there is any way to avoid it--move close to them and get them to babysit.)  \n\nLife is a journey and you have to draw your own map.  It is tempting to wander through it without a plan, but most people that do stop wandering and stay in the same place forever.  You don't need to figure out the details, just your direction.  The details work themselves out if you keep pushing yourself in the right direction.
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Save the house. Moving back will one save you a rent payment but also and i do not know the state you live in but sometimes the taxes are cheaper if you are living in the house. Get a beater Honda or Toyota and drive that and keep the SUV as a second car or get rid if it all together. Sometimes if you list the beater as you daily driver and the SUV as a recreational car you can save money there. In the meantime i would start looking for a job closer to home if you can. If not then i would live in the house till you sell it then find something else to buy once it has sold. Owning a home is the last tax shelter with out uncle SAM will have his way with you if you do not own a home. I hope that helps. FSBO is a tough call. The markets are slowing down and i would shop at least 4 or 5 Realtors and negotiate a smaller commission. Without a Realtor involved you open yourself to lawsuits. Check with friends of family members for a recommendation.
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Well I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. I can not work at the moment because I can not find proper child care for the two children that don't attend school.( I would love to be working) But here is the deal, Me and my kids are living in a small 2br, 1 ba home, you could donate about $2,500.00 to us so that we can pay the down payment on a new and bigger home. Charity I guess you could say, but I would consider it to be a blessing. Ty   latovat@yahoo.com
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Contact fannie mae (www.efanniemae.com)  they have recently added some programs for their MyCommunityMortgage thing that is meant to help people like yall.  I work at a mortgage company and we have been able to get people in homes when they had bad/nocredit no savings no down payment no assests. Youd be surprised what you can get if you go through the right lender. good luck!!!
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I have lived in West Virginia all of my life and despite the bashing it usually receives, it really is a nice state to visit and vacation.  I will be honest, though, I'm not sure (at least presently) that I would recommend moving here if you are hoping to find good/top paying employment, it is just not widely available (unless, of course, your current job requires you to come here).  The weather is generally mild and seasonal, it is usually hot and sticky in the summer (I have been to many places around the country, including the Southeast and Southwest, and have experienced weather just as miserable on a July or August day in West Virginia as anywhere) with sometimes (although uncommon) bitter cold temperatures during the winter.  The people, for the most part, are very friendly and kind (sort of like the Southern hospitality you will find there) and often smile at and speak to complete strangers.   \n\nThe county where I received my high school education (along the Ohio River) had excellent schools, although some counties throughout the state are not as fortunate (it just depends).  There are several schools of higher education, such as the more well known ones of Marshall and West Virginia Universities (which is known for its medical and law schools among others).  Some of the better and smaller schools include Alderson-Broaddus College, West Virginia Wesleyan College, Davis & Elkins College, and Bethany College.  A complete list can be found below. \n\nThere is plenty to do in the way of outdoors, from visiting the Greenbrier Resort to skiing (such as Snowshoe Resort) to camping and hiking at places like North Bend State Park and Stonewall Jackson Lake and Campground.  For more information on the these types of things have a look at the state's tourism website.  \n\nI have also been to North Carolina several times throughout my life and always return on a regular basis with family now living there.  To sum it up, it's just a great state. :o)  I'm not sure about the particulars of North Carolina but it has a little bit of everything from the mountains in the west to the beaches in the east, in way of things to see, both of which are great places to visit!  It has that Southern Charm that is so typical of the southern states.  I do know a bit about the southeastern corner of the state, though, and for more about it please visit the website below.
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wow ! i don't have an answer, but i will pray that god will bless you & your family \ncoming in & going out, is there a second job some where that is safe to take your kids to that would be also entertaining for them that you could work!
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You are doing it all correctly.  It takes time as small towns are quiet, people are content with less, and to my knowledge small towns are not sizzling society parties.  I moved to just such a small town from a large city.  Lower your expectations.  Continue what you ar doing, keep a nice garden others will enjoy and complement upon.  Take a plate full of cookies or some fresh fruit to a neighbor( do not expect much other than thank you).  Smile at everyone, Join a local church. You must be patient as newbies in small towns are suspect(they think why did this person move to this small town?).  You are doing just fine.........
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I admire your big heart. I say, continue to try and get them to move up there with you.   Pray to God and his Son Jesus to help you through these hard times, and to help provide to take care of these family members.  With the help of God, you can make ends meet, and every one will be fed. There will be lots of hard times, including emotionally I am sure, but if you have faith in God, and keep him in your heart and house, you will come out fine. God wants us to help those in need. If the rest of your family aren't offering to help, then don't worry about it.  In tough times, family is all we have, and YOU are all the family that those kids have to help them.  If they are at least 16, then they can get an after school job, and at least have their own spending money, and maybe even help out with the bills or food. God bless you, and do the right thing.  Just imagine if it were your kids........
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We have relocated many times: \n\nFirst of all..do you work for a company that can transfer  you to that area? What is the draw there? Family? Friends?\n\nI would take a vacation to the area to make sure you like it first. Research the weather and community to make sure they are amenities you would want. \n\nLook for housing to see how expensive it is...go grocery shopping...all the things you would do if you lived there. \n\nThen look for jobs and see if you are employable in that area. See what the median income range is and make sure that you would be able to afford the cost of living for that area! \n\nMake sure that any family you would be moving with you is on board with the idea! Do you need to look at school districts for your kids? Is your wife ok with the move? Will your partner need to leave their job to acoomodate this move? Will your mom stop talking to you? \n\nAFter you do your research...then..try to get a job first. \n\nAFter you have a job..you can always live in a motel for a month or so while you look for an apartment or house or you can look online especially if you did your research while you were there. \n\nmove your stuff, sell your home where ever you are now with a trusted agent...and enjoy your new life!!\n\nNow, if your company offers a transfer..that is different! The company may have a relocation service available to them and you will already have a job..but make sure that you can afford the cost of living on your salary!
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I know someone that went through the same thing.  She has (4) children and stays home. She started her own home based business.  That keeps her busy, makes excellent money and has time for her and her family.  Have a look at this website.  www.opportunity4more.com.  The couple in the picture is the lady I am speaking about.  She would be great for you to contact and speak with.  She told me that she is much better now with staying home since she started her own home based business.  She  contributes ( a lot)  to the house hold income, feels good about what she is doing, has time for her kids and she also had time to do some personal development.  She has gone through welath creation and personal development courses that she highly recommends to someone like yourself.  Let me tell you she has helped me with my business and my lifestyle.  Take a look and see.