I'm 34 and I've been dating a guy that is 32. We've been dating for about 8 months. Last night we went to a party and he didn't introduce me to anyone he talked to, I had to introduce myself. After we were there for about 4 hours, I wanted to go. He took me home and apparently he went back to the party after he dropped me off. He's gone to parties without me before if I didn't want to go, he still goes. He doesn't have any kids and I have one. He was married before and he didn't work because he went out all of the time and drank instead of doing normal things with his ex-wife. I care about this guy but I think he is a 32 year old still stuck at college. Help....
217728
Say goodbye. He will continue if you let him.
488264
The numbers of years difference would not be so bad if you were 33 and he was 48. At 18 you are far too young to be involved with a man that age.... He's lived and you haven't. You have dreams and he should already achieving his... Too many differences to over come. yeah he might treat you very well...but you will come to resent him eventualy and angry for having wasted your time.
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Hey Me.... I am a mother and would feel very hurt if my child didn't tell me what was up and ran off with a 21 yr old. May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your parents. Yes they may be upset at first, but their your parents and will love you reguardless. Here is something else to think about. When I was your age I was head over hills for a man 7 yr older than me. I dated him for a year and realized that I wasn't in love with him, but liked his company because he listened to me when I thought my parents weren't. When it turn out they were. Then I met this cool guy my age and we dated all through highschool. So if you will take a suggestion from a mom..don't rush into anything take your time, because you never know a cool girl your age may come along that you relate to.
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I was always told that in any relationship there are signs and signals to watch for that will give you a heads up as which way the wind is blowing in the relationship.  If the two of you planned to celebrate your birthday...alone than that's what should have been done.  To arrive there, with friends, and already drunk is jusy wrong.\n\nIf someone else invited this girl and he knew about it ahead of time then he should have told his friends, in private, that as soon as you arrived you two were going to leave because there are bad feelings between you and this girl.  Once you arrived at the hall that's exactly what he should have done.  He might have been able to do so had he not been drunk!\n\nYou know those signs and signals I mentioned?  There were two of them right there.  He rearranged the plans the two of you made and he had  total disregard for your feelings?\n\nI'm going to ask you your question:  Shouldn't you leave him?  Why would you stay with someone who ignores your wishes?  Do you enjoy being treated that way?  Forget him
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I dated a guy who is 35 and i am 20 it was going great but he always told me that he was afraid that i would leave him for someone younger. He left me for someone older be careful. HE still is playing games wiht my heart telling me that he loves me and then hurts me again and goes to someone his age just becareful.\nI also lost my Virginity too him and has been the only one that may also be y it is so hard\nAge doesn't matter just becareful
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Hi. My GF is 28 and i am 40. Just ask him what he is looking for, you can even ask him out for coffee. That is a good ice breaker. You can have a healthy relationship with him, emotionally and physically. Some people his age are single by choice. I have been divorced for 13 years and dated several women before i met my fiance. We have been together for 4 1/2 years not. If that is all he said for now than let it go. He may not be comfortable talking about it. Ask him out for coffe and just be you and talk with him. You won't regret it. And by the way...my gf and i are best of riends i we love each other alot.
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I met the guy I'm dating on the internet. He lived 12 hours away and wanted to come and meet me after about 5 months. I was in college and my professors and friends told me to have him come to the school to meet me. That way there were plenty of other people there and they could give me their opinions of what they thought of him. Never meet anyone alone where there are no other people or anyone you know. It's been over three years since that day and we are still together.
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Well for one I think you should leave the guy alone.  Let him deal with his past maybe he wants to repair his relationship with his ex.  He is obviously not letting you on the business! He's too old for you anyway! Find a guy that doesn't work with you
100755
I have a 24 yr old alcoholic boyfriend. His father was an alchoholic for years, but quit, and his grandfather was an alcoholic until he had a heart attack. One of his brothers is deep into alcoholism, and one is on his way at the tender age of 16. I dont know HOW alcoholic he is, but in the past, he would rather buy beer instead of paying bills sometimes. \n\nI thought I was tumbling down the same downward spiral for a while. But pulled myself out when he started becoming a mean drunk (after about 15 beers). I wanted to be sober enuf from then on to remember everything mean he said to me and tell him about it the next day. \n\nBut Ive found a way to make him slow down alot. I dont mention beer at all. And I just dont drink with him any more. I dont offer to drive anywhere when he does get drunk. I also wont have sex with him when he's drunk, and I tell him what a jerk he was the night before.\n\nI've discovered that without a drinking partner on the same drunken level, then drinking becomes boring and lonely to him. Especially if I ignore him when he gets really drunk. Alot of times, anymore, he'll drink a beer or three, and realize its no fun alone, then stop drinking for the night and start working on his music instead.\n\nBut I also have an advantage in this situation - all his friends and 4 brothers live a half hour drive away from us and none of them drive over to our house. So he really doesnt have any peer pressure TO drink in our home.
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girl i am a mom of four kids and i had the same problem about 2 years ago he would take off drinking since thursday and come home sunday night finally when i would ask him he would say because of our finacial problems.  So i went out and got a job and when i told him iwas gonna start going out and drinking he calmed down a lot he still drinks but it nothing like b4.  U need to scare him and he will change we have been together 8 years and now we are happier than ever SCARE HIM DON'T BE AFRAID I WAS AT FIRST BUT TRUST ME HE WILL CHANGE.  \n\n\nGOOD LUCK LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS K
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Funny I should run into this question as I was thinking the same thing about my own six year marriage.   I had just been able to get a job since our kids are at the age where they can go to headstart. I just turned around last night to look at him at his computer and blurted out the words..."will you go out on a date with me?"  He turned and gave me a weird look til he seen i was seriious.  We then proceeded to ask where the other would want to go and  when.  So three weeks from now we hve a babysitter planned for the day and we are going out to see a movie an out to eat and do whatever else we cn think of.  Good Luck.
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Well, it depends how old you are...if you are 14 and he's 19 I would say no way.  But if you are of legal age then what's stopping you?  It's a little hard if he likes to go to bars and hang out and you can't get in but it can work.  I was 20 when I started dating my husband who was 26.  At first we refused to pursue the relationship because of the age difference but soon we realized it was inevitable...we were destined for one another.\n\nGood luck!
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maybe he just really loves his job?\nwell i would just phone him during the party and ask him if he could just come for like half an hour or something. cuz you really want him to attend your birthday party. \n\nif he really cant. i would just have the birthday party without him. but then the next day or something, i'll spend the night with him. and have a bday party for just the two of us.
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When i met the love of my life i was 18 i just passed high school and he was studying medicine with working in same hospital.We lived in same building but never met each other.We met online when he was abroad working(he had finished studies)and i was in college.He loves me and i know it since he waited for me till i was 24 years old which i am now soon we plan to take our relationship to next luck.So if he loves you hell be with you until you pass univ and have a job.As for not being able to do things he does he told me the same thing he never made it like it mattered to him that i couldnt go out party i was living with my parents studying he used to get off chat to say go study lol and he used to make sure i was protected and loved and possesive about me.So thats your answer if he does love you if its meant to be it will be.
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I've been on both sides of this. I lost my mom when I was only 4 years old. My dad remarried almost right away. I was too young at the time to say anything. But later he divorced her and started dating again when I was like 12 years old. None of my siblings were happy about it. We wanted our dad to ourselves.  Well, they got married. We haven't always liked her or got along. But, my dad is happy and that's all that mattera. I've been on the other side too. I dated a man who had two teenage kids. Him and his wife had divorced recently. The kids did not want their dad to date. They made life very difficult and caused me a lot of heart ache. I really liked them and just wanted to get to know them. In the end I simply couldn't do it anymore and I left. He's dating again but I think he's talked to his kids since then and they are a lot more accepting. Moral of the story: If they make your dad happy try to be happy for him. I'm sorry for your loss.
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I'm only a few years older than you but I would never have sex on the first date.  You need time to know each other and see if the relationship has possibilities before jumping into bed.  Even at 50, you can get a reputation as a sl*t.  How do you know that this guy would keep his mouth shut?  You don't know something like that until you know the person.  Definitely not what I would do but to each their own.
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Look, you knew he was going.  He married you didn't he?  That bachelor party was only one night.  He is going to spend the rest of his life with you.  I'm sure he loves you and you need to get that party out of your head, if not it will hurt your relationship.\nGood Luck!