When society forces an introvert to become an extravert, he tend to act like an extravert though this may be tiresome. \n\nWhen someone act like another one he won't be able to use his natural strengths effectively..\n\nOn the other side acting can be beneficiary also.
200589
I used to be the exact same way and now I am a "social butterfly". Definitely follow your heart. Life has it's own natural path. Be patient, be you, but most of all be happy. :^)
87274
It's good that you are willing to help others. It won't be easy if you are a true introvert. I'm pretty much an introvert myself, and would probably be living with my mom and dad or just working at McDonalds if it weren't for lucky things that have happened to me. Thank the fates!\nWhat would help me right now would be if I weren't such an introvert, but you know what? Since I can't do that, and I'm having to endure being around other people, letting them see what a dork I am, then what I really need is more patience, more patience for me to have, and I wish more patience other people to have for me.\nI'm happy that I am alone right now....\nI'm scared that I won't be alone, a friend is coming over and we're going out...Then I have to go back to work Monday.\nI'm angry that I have to be this way, and other people will say, "Get over it!" It's not that easy...\nGood luck!
61647
I find that my self conscienceness doesn't allow me to trust many.  I am 35 and still very quiet and shy.  Close friends are very far and few between.  I only have 1 best friend and I can joke with just about anyone @ work.  But when in public, I am very submissive and self conscience.  I do believe that it henders my ability to have a lot of aquaintances, but I enjoy my alone time and I do not want a bunch of people up in my business.  It is a hard thing to overcome and if people stop talking to you and  give you the "cold shoulder" if you will, then they don't deserve to have your attention,..
70033
An ambivert has tendencies towards extroversion and introversion.\n\nAn ambivalent person has contradictory attitudes towards a person or thing.
598672
Reme 1 is right on - any time people belittle others it is out of a sense of their own insecurity.  I've seen it from people in low-paying jobs (who aren't educated enough to know what common courtesy it) and those in very high paying jobs who think they've earned the right to treat others like s***.  \n\nAs a wise instructor of mine once said, "Always take the high road - it's lonely up there."  Be the better person, and don't sink to their level.
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My best friend is a Blond and she can really act like it sometimes too. Sometimes its funny to see the stupid things she does,but mostly she just wants attention. I of course give it to her, but no else does. No one else really understands her. People always ask me how i put up with her and i have no idea. I guess the best answer for you is yes. I do have a friend that acts slow sometimes! But its all good.
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I do experience the same.\nYou and I know perfectly well that the world we now living in is extroverts orientated although 50% of the world's population are introverts.\n\nMost people look for those who are active and social person to have relationship with; most employers hire those who seems to be outgoing and outspoken individruals to fill the emptied position. And in school, most teachers still see an introvert as a problem and try to change it.\n\nWe introverts having experience all that, I still feel good and proud to be an introvert. Because I'm not only know that I am different from others, it's because I know myself, and I know my strengths can be a blessing to most people.\n\nI came to know my special gift (which is still unknown to my parents and siblings) which allows me to reach deep into other's inner world, allow me to have a moment of connection with another person, both introvers and extroverts. And that is unique to me.\n\nI noticed that in this fast rushing world, some of the introverts like me play an important role as a Listener; a Healer; an Empath; an Advocator; and a Guide.\n\nBecause most people go on with their own life, having no acknowledgement of their true self. When comes to making a decision, they may not have an answer for themselves that feel okay with. And as an introvert, I have more advantage in this situation; that I can either help myself or others to choose wisely.\n\nI agreed that we should not try to be an 'extrovert wannabe', that will only make a fool to ourself. We are born introverts, and there is not much that we can change that. To feel good about ourself, we simply just trun inward to look inside our own inner world, and locate the strengths and gift that lay deep within us.
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i understand exactly what you mean. i had a boyfriend like who did that all the time. he was very like-able and had incredible charisma, which was one of the things that attracted me to him. however there would be time where he would safe cruel and offensive things about other people. i asked him why he did that and he said he was only joking around. personally i think it's insecurity of themselves. it could also be the need for attention, if he does it in front of other people or maybe he is just a jerk. if i were you i would see if the bad stuff outweigh the good. if it does than go ahead and look for better pasture, that what i did, cuz like you said changing them doesn't work!!\n\ngood luck!!
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If you are yourself and don't try to be who people WANT you to be you will be more likely to make friends. Be an individual, not a mindless idiot that does what other people want you to do and be. As long as you are yourself and are true to yourself then you will make friends.
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It's nothing more than forcing yourself to go talk to people. When you say you're not particularly shy, you mean you are shy but you can tolerate being around people. It's nothing more than making yourself go out and be around people and talking to them, even if you don't want to.
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Unfortunately, many people act different because of the anonymous nature of chat.  A person can say anything about who and what they are without fear of discovery.  That freedom leads some people to act as they would like to be rather than as they truly are.  There are also those that use chat to entice other people ... there have been a couple of cases recently, where men have acted like teenagers in order to set up a meeting.  So, yes, people do project themselves differently in chat.
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No.  People tend to mistake our reserved behavior for being shy.  We tend to observe people before we get to know them.  We don't just put ourselves out there.  We try to really get to know people before trusting them.  But we're not shy.  We're usually the one at the party that's standing on the side in deep conversation with someone else.
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Shy people like to feel comfortable by talking to you about things they know a lot about.  Overhear him, check out what he is reading on....figure out something he is the master of and I guarantee that shell will fall off.  Common personality trait that people don't always understand is shyness and the ease shy people feel with their comfortable subjects.  I always try to talk to them about their job, their dog, something personal - not Cambodia, either...I would not talk to him about that...more about his career, sports, something he really digs...just my advice!  Always works on boys or girls for me!
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You're getting into some pretty deep issues here. \n\nFirst off, people who need to justify and affirm their own value need to lower the value of others by doing what you're talking about.  This gets into some pretty deep biology and psychology.  Since humans are social animals there is always a social heirarchy.  When someone is at the bottom or middle and wants to move up, this is one of the ways they can feel a little movement.  Immature people will also do this in retaliation to an attack on them by another immature person.  It just turns out to be a self licking ice cream cone.  \n\nI used to think that I had to respond to everything in my honor.  Now, by letting things roll off my back and exercising my personal boundaries, I live a life with a lot less stress or anxiety.  Life is great!
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Being an introvert means you get energy from within yourself, you recharge if you like by being alone.  Extroverts get their energy from other people and mostly like being around others.  I heard about 25% of people are Introvert.  Introverts, once they understand themselves, and accept themselves, can be very deep thinkers that are simply brilliant at making connections and breakthrough ideas that others simply don't see.  A clear disadvantage of being an Introvert is that we live in a mainly Extrovert society.  Introverts can easily feel uncomfortable since they do not and cannot conform with Extrovert expectations.  That said, an Introvert that knows his/her self, and is comfortable and happy with the gifts that come with this, can behave very happily and confidently and for limited periods of time come across as an Extrovert.  What people don't see though is their need to recover from this alone later on.
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Everything is perception. \n\nI came to this way of being when I realized after having my son that things are only as busy and drama-full as I made it.  I ran little tests. If I stayed completely silent the whole day, how much in my life actually changed. In the evening, wouldn't the people I know percieve me in the same way as if I were busy?\n\nI am a type INFJ. I am equally inroverted and extroverted, favoring introvert whenever possible.\n\nI think if a person has it in them to be the "Cool-headed"-type observer, then this could be a gift.  Just because they choose to not display the emotion and drama externally, doesn't mean in every case that thy don't feel the drama internally, they just choose, or are naturally gifted to not drag other into the mire.\n\nChoosing to working on a more neutral approach, a wiser approach as to how we initiate/participate in drama can help the longevitey of our sanity as well as our lives.  So....perhaps. This is just my perception of the question you have asked.
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Hey, you are correct!  That person may just around the corner or a friend of a friend.  Most of all "BE YOURSELF and THINK POSITIVE".  No one wants to be around a complainer or a fake!