I'm 22 and when every I get with a guy I'm really up for sex. after a few months this wears off and the only time I am interested in any form of sex is after my period. This really gets me down and makes me feel guilty. how can i change this?
215759
It's completely normal for relationships and individual people to go through highs and lows of lust.  Think about things that make you feel really sexy that you wouldn't normally equate with sex, and translate it for the bedroom.  If a new outfit is exciting, get some funky new undies to show off too.  If you like to exercise and enjoy your body, look up some new positions.  If you like to travel and see new sights, get down and dirty in anyplace other than your bedroom.  And don't feel quilty!  Guys' sex drives peak at about age 18-25, but ours peaks somewhere between age 30-40.  Plus, you feel like sex after your period becuase that's just before you ovulate, which is when you are most fertile and receptive.  Work with that.  But don't worry too much about it.  It's totally normal.
560111
Everyone makes such a big deal about sex, because it such a big deal.  Don't let anyone talk you into sex just for show.  Girls think to little of themselves these days. Your better than that. You don't have to do what everyone Else is doing. It's no good if not with the right one or the right time. Sex is so casual these days. Make a big deal of it and don't rush into it. You can ruin your life that way. You do have plenty of time. Tell people that try to pressure you into having sex that your not having it because it's your choice what you do with your body. Not theirs. Think about what happens if you end up pregnant, or worse you get aids. That is a life sentence either way. Sex should be a commitment for both partners. Lots of men forget that. They just get it and go. So make the right choices while your young, so you don't regret them later. Good Luck.  PS. sins are not big or little in God's eye's. There all sin.
285659
The relationship you have is like an addiction. The longer you wait, the more it is going to hurt coming off of it. Bite you lip and end it. Sex can not be the primary focus. Find a way to focus your energies and time toward something a little more beneficial and find a man that wants more from you then just hitting the bed. Don’t you deserve better?
622148
I have been at the same place you are now for many years now. I am 26, and my best bet as to why you are JUST feelingthis is because something must have happened to you emotionally in the last few months that has triggered a "i don't care what YOU think i am going to do what i want" attitude. WHich is in no way bad. It is good if you are willing to accept that it may mean going against convention and learning to be discreet. It could also be with just ONE person...but let me tell you it is hard to find a guy that has the RIGHT size and the RIGHT apetite to keep you content and actually wear you out. Sometimes it means having a couple of friends handy because once a week is enough for some guys...\nI have also found that in the last 2 years i have developed some specific desires/fetishes which i did not necessarily have before. \nI think it just me evolving a bit and maybe becoming more in tune with my body.\nEmbrace what you are and what you like. Just be savvy and take care of yourself and know who you are becoming intimate with !
187218
It is perfectly normal when you are in your late teens to early 20's, when your sex drive is in overdrive, to want to have sex that often. As you get older, it may diminish somewhat Hopefully you can find a good partner to share your same interests in it.
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Please hear me out!\nGET OVER IT! \nPlus dump the guy you are with now while you are "getting over it".  It was not fair of you to drag him into a relationship knowing full well you got it bad for the last one.\nBUT FIRST...\nIs it the actual guy you are into or the sex you used to have?\nLemme find out your d*#k whipped.\nIf this is the case please remember that your current sex life is what you as a woman make it.\nIf you are not giving the relationship your all that will definitely play out in the bedroom.\nKisses!
600369
If you feel you are able to handle all the possibilities and consequences that go along with it.  Hey, you could just end up with a good boyfriend.  On the other hand, he could be using you.  Oh yeah, he acts all "I really like you", or whatever, but if things go further and you "do the deed" (if ya know what I mean!), then things might change, then you will just feel used.  Remember, if all goes the way it's going, be safe have him wear protection!!!  I believe you are young, and even though babies are cute and lovable, believe me, whats in their diaper every 20 minutes isn't.  And believe me, we ALL know that STDs are a far cry from cute and lovable.  So do the SAFE thing and insist on a condom, no matter what he says about it.  No sex is better than unprotected sex.\nForeplay is the stuff you do to get eachother turned on.  The touching and rubbing, all that, is a type of foreplay.  All the stuff you do to get eachother all ready to go for sex is foreplay, pretty much.\nDo what you want, sis, but keep in mind what I have said.  People usually don't know what other peoples intentions are until its too late, so play it safe.
501166
You're not ready for sex. Nothing wrong with it, in your own time and space you will be. I think you feel fear because you're rushing into this cos your friends have done it and you don't want to seem left behind. Forget about everyone's need for a change and start focusing on your own. Say no and if they cannot accept it, they are not worth your energy.
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I've been out with lots of men who were older then me... much older. They all seem to be interested in the same aspect of the younger woman... our vitality, our fun loving nature, and what innocence we still have.\n\nMy suggestion is "be yourself", because if you aren't some day you could wake up and relalize how much time you've wasted.\n\nAs for sex... the best part about sex, at least in my opinion, is the experimentation with each other. Communication goes right with it... talk about your sex life, see what you like together, see where you might like to experiment a bit more. Buy a karma sutra book if it comes to it, but don't try to cram it all into the first few months... Believe me, you want something interesting later on down the road to try.
96512
obviously you might have an issue with your self esteem or depression, bad experiences as a child, and its causing you to play it out by having so many different sexual partners.  think to yourself are you just trying to feel more love, attractive, or, it could be that you are hooked on finding the right partner and cant live without sex.  it could be a lot of things.  get some help.
419973
If you are talking to males online and not in the mood for sex I would move on if you was my girl. You know the real reason you are not in the mood for sex, so be honest with yourself.
606916
u need spend more time together, talking kissing, u not need to have sex so quickly. relax and feel normal don't feel u have a duty to make it.
456064
Trust me, when we have way too much on our plates, we can get stressed out pretty easily.  It can decrease our sex drives.\n\nSociety has this image of us guys always wanting sex, no matter what.  But let me tell you, there are times when you just want to go to sleep because you are so tired and exhausted.\n\nThis is more true as you get older.
358064
Wrong!first your reading,you are a young male and when do reach that age of puberty there are changes the body go through!with maturing with age now that checking you self,seeing if you are okay?is it normal,no it isn,t due to the reading,unless you have done something to hurt yourself or caught a sexual std.That,s cool bout the sex or marriage thang!you have years to think about that!also a girl friend may do you some good,even explore self!if not ready for sex!but one day you will look back at it all,and smile within self of how you,ve grown!into a older man!
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i was 18, we were together 4 years. hun, your body is not ready to have sex yet. and you know what, you can only lose your virginity once. it never comes back, you never have a second chance. if you have sex with this guy, i GUARANTEE you he will break up with you shortly afterwards. then, when you are older you meet the one, you get serious. you cannot lie and say you are a virgin, cause once you have sex he'll be able to tell. a man will respect you so much more if you hold out (in the long run). it's hard to tell whose the one to lose your virginity too the only way to make sure is to make them wait, and wait and wait. it will be worth it. i started dating my fiance at your age and made him wait 4 years. he has even told me if i would have given it up easy he wouldn't have respected me and we wouldn't still be together. people may pick on you but that's normal in school. i guarentee you these people picking on you are gonna end up with a std or pregnant before you get out of high school! another thing to look at... you start at 14.  even if  you have sex with people after 6 months to a year cause you feel so strong about them. now that doesn't work out because guys at this age are all about the sex and having it with as many girls as possible. that is 1 to 2 people a year you have sex with. no big deal to you now but imagine when your 25, 30! hun just do your self a favor, put your head in those books, become a strong independant woman and worry about the sex later. the emotional part of sex lasts longer. it takes minutes to lose your virginity and it may be something you regret the rest of your life.\nI am 21! i'm not old, just seen all my friends make the wrong decision and had to listen to them bitch about it all the time.
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My dear, the way that I see it you seem like a "deprived" person in the area of self expression. SO you say, you have a great family and supportive friends. And that you are a social person. Have you ever behaved that way sexually when you were still in your teens?.. or even while you were in your early twenties?\n\nAs to the relationships that you had in the past,  Perhaps you have honestly loved at least one of them. I think that is not the issue. May be you're still in love with one, but something's pulling you back. Just a thought in your mind is quite different from actually doing it. You are not scared of the thought of commitment, but the actual practice of it, I am sorry to say that you still lack it. Who knows, you may have already found her but you just do not realize it?\n\nIt is hard to answer your questions outright because it needs details to be understood. But the way I see it, going for one-night stands is your way of dealing with your self expression. These women are strangers and you pay them for pleasure, so you get to "say" everything and that they will just have to follow. The way I see it, there are things that you want to be done your way and perhaps sometime in the past, things did not happen the way that you wanted them to happen that is why you vent your frustration on a "safe" avenue where you can easily get away with - your sexual activities with multiple women. So you say, it must feel really good. I am sure you are not scared of STDs and AIDS because you're just having fun, right? But what happens when pleasure is over? That, you have to deal with again, and the cycle continues. See, for as long as the root cause is not properly dealt with, this will go on and on and on with your life. This is not a normal guy thing. I suggest you seek professional help about it.\n\nYou've asked this question because you feel that something is not right somewhere. Congratulations, that is a good start.
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Boy, you hit that nail on the head. Once a guy gets that feeling he will go for it as often as possible. It has been said that a woman needs a reason to have sex, a guy just needs a place. You are going to have to get over him. Get to know yourself better and get the most out of life. Sex is the one percent of life. This guy is making the one percent into the ninety-nine percent, ultimately it will get him into trouble. You don't want to be a part of that.