so my boyfriend got drunk and tried to cheat with one of my friends.  My friend stopped him and told me.  He didn't cheat, but intended to.  Now he cries and apologizes a lot and wants me to take him back. Has anyone who's taken someone back after cheating ever had it NOT happen again in the future?
216935
only you know him ... and you should know what is he capable of ...give him a chance .. follow your heart
543981
i guess that depends. did he intentionally break your heart? or did your heart got broken because of a situation he had no control over? if he did on purpose (say, he cheated on you), and if he did it twice, it doesn't matter how sorry he is, he's gonna do it again. and you'll be circling the same path over and over again, so then start changing course and don't look back again.
598649
Yes, I have been cheated on.  But if you ever met my man you would have never guessed that he would ever have done that.  We are still together, he realized what he did was wrong and promised that he would never do that again or I was gone with no second thought. It really hurt me that he would do somthing like that to me, I didn't even find out until a year after it happened. There were some signs though, he became very jealous when I was with any guy or had them in my cell phone and he didn't know them.  There also pictures of the two of them together, he said at first she was just a friend.  Even when I talked to his friends they were shocked.  There is no way to prevent cheating if a guy is going to do it he will.  He told me the reason why he cheated on me was because he said that he wanted to be with me so bad and thought it was me, he was gone for a week. Right before he left I spent a week with him at his lake house and he was telling me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  Well it has been 3 years now since he cheated on me and I love him with all my heart, and he feels the same way. He knows now that even if I hear a rumour that he was with another girl it's over and he is scared of loosing me.  That was why I stayed with him when I told him that it was over and I never wanted to see him again, it took him 10 minutes for him to leave and he left with tears. then 3 hours later his roomate called me nervous becasue he hadn't seen him and it was 2 am in the middle of the week. I ended up calling him and had been sitting out my window crying  thinking what is he going to do because he really felt that his life was over becasue of a dumb mistake, thats when I knew that he  would be faithful.  I knew that he really loved me.  I hope this helped!
612997
Okay first of all since the break up nothing has changed so I'm assuming that you all are still intimate with one another and you're still arguing like lovers do.  The only thing that's bothering you right now is that you don't have that "TITLE" anymore as lovers which means that he can do what he wants and so can you.  So basically this dude is getting his cake and eating it too served on a silver platter with a platinum fork.  Do not allow him to question your where abouts every time especially if he's doing it in a "boyfriend" way.  I mean at this point he's looking at the situation and saying to himself " Why get back together when breaking up with her is just the same plus I get to mess around and not be faulted for it" Does it makes sense to you now!!! Lay down some rules and set boundaries within your relationship as friends and I guarantee you he'll miss that feeling as being your boyfriend and coming running back, it never fells.
362981
I'm not one of those people that believes "once a cheater always a cheater".  I think people can change if they are sincerely sorry, and get some help for the problem that made them cheat in the first place.  As far as trusting the cheater, that is something you have to answer for yourself.  Maybe you can't at all.  Maybe you can with some counseling.  You have to make the choice for you.
28211
I believe people can change. Once a cheat always a cheat is very judgmental. Anyway, to spend your life with someone, you need to trust him. If you don't think he can be trusted, don't let him back just because he begged. Only you yourself can decide, please also take your baby into consideration. Wish you the best.
115050
I HOPE U TOLD BF#2 ABOUT  BF ON LOCKDOWN. IF HE IS A BIG BOY HE'LL UNDERSTAND THAT IT WAS JUST ONE OF THEM THANGS.AND I HOPE YOU DON'T THINK FOR ONE MINUTE THAT THE BOYFRIEND IN JAIL BELIEVES YOU WERE FAITHFUL WHILE HE WAS AWAY.
582801
How about a bad break up story? \n\nI was waiting for my b/f to bring me my boom box to teach a dance class. He was supposed to be there by 8pm. We waited and waited for him. At 2am when the place closed, I walked out with my students and friends to find a note on my car. He said that he had waited for me but since I didn't come out (like I was supposed to know he was outside!), he had to leave a note. What it came down to was that he was a coward and couldn't break up face to face and in front of my friends. \n\nAnyway, after telling me that afternoon that he loved me, he told me in the note that it wasn't working out........what a loser! I am better off without him!
642834
Sorry dont think that you can get him back.  If you cheated on him three times and he knows about it he is never going to trust you again.  Best bet is to move on use this experience and learn from it so that you don't make the same mistakes again in the future.
439614
I've been there done that and i wouldn't make it easy for him if i did take him back. You need to make sure that your the one that he wants and he's threw messing around on you and if he feels the need to cheat on you again he needs to be man enough to tell you that he wants to see someone else. Tell him he has to earn your trust back.
639436
my ex did that, i took him back several times. \n\nmy advice.. NEVER ever ever talk to him again, just forget about him and you will be better off.. SERIOUSLY.
100981
you cheated?\n\nif so, he needs time. he may not forgive.
89092
First off, you didn't cheat.  You were broken up and living your life and moving forward.  Personally I think it was a bad choice for you to get back with your old boyfriend.  He guilted you into it, and the truth is that nothing has changed.  You deserve to be happy and I don't think you will ever be happy with him.  End this relationship and realize that if he wants to lay in your yard and cry that is his choice and your not responsible for him.  You should never feel bad for doing what is best for you.
393106
Some friends of mine, when we were drinking and having a good time, always told me about the reasons they left with no doubts their sweethearts. But, as soon as they got drunk, they started to play in the HiFi "their songs", or the songs that make that emptyness they fell hurt. They used to cry for their girls, and started to call them (2 or 3 a.m.) making them lo listen "the song" and start to tell them thing like "you are nothing without me!!!", "you'll miss me!", "I already have another love", and other lies. He's affraid to be rejected.\nThe reason this guy is calling you is because he is crazy about you, but he doesn't have enough courage to tell you so.\nIf you think he is a good guy, you can give him a little help to move ahead and open his heart to you.  I am like him, with the difference that I never get drunk and never phone anybody when I am in a party.
311116
At some point you're going to have to face what you did, I mean were there other people who saw who could tell your man, or do you think this person you kissed will take it personally. I understand what happened, we all have done some stupid stuff drunk. I would talk to the guy you kissed, no matter how uncomfortable it maybe, the last thing you need is this guy thinking it meant something and harassing you, you need to draw the line and say it was a mistake (who knows maybe he thinks it was a mistake too). As for your man, it's up to you whether you tell him, although IF there is even the SLIGHTEST possibility he will find out from other means then YOU need to be the one to tell him if you hope to stay with him, he will think more of your honesty if you come out with it than he will your dishonesty if he finds out through someone else. ALTHOUGH IF there is NO possibility he will find out I would say keep it to yourself, there's no need to drag your guilt out and punish him, believe me I know my boyfriend told me about some girl he had sex with then afterward he said, I feel SO much better for getting that off my chest, yeah well then I felt horrible and I wasn't the one who had done anything wrong!
541524
Ok.  What do YOU think??  If a friend gave you this same information you just gave me......what would you tell her to do??\n\nYou know that he has cheated on you TWO TIMES......\ndo you REALLY think that he is worth getting hurt for a THIRD time??  \n\nHoney, I hope you're smarter than that.  I know it sucks and you hurt, but you have already invested THREE years of your life\nwith this guy.  Cut your losses and move on.  A guy who really loves you is not going to want to be with another woman.
159710
asuming of course that ur man cheated, i`m kinda curious about the details of the infidelity, however it is common for a man who cheated to do it again, i know i have! yes i`m am a pig and i don`t deserve my girlfriend, and i know that to be certain... still she wants to be with me, go figure.  I`ve told her every single detail, and had given her a way out u know a choice!  she didn`t want it, i still enjoy a lot of her character and sense of humor and we get along just fine... except for the above.