how to leave a borderline husband?
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2) Do not abandon your partner with BPD—if possible—rather, slowly disengage and detach with love and compassion. "Quitting" your partner suddenly can lead to his or her self-harming behavior—or worse. Try to transition from intimate partner to "supporting other" whenever possible.
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['Greet each other when you come home. ... ', 'Schedule a weekly check-in. ... ', "Don't forget to date your spouse. ... ", 'Share your daily highs and lows. ... ', 'Find something you appreciate about your spouse every day. ... ', 'Tell your partner often why you love them. ... ', 'Look each other in the eyes. ... ', 'Spend time together without technology.']
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['Keep calm and carry on. ... ', "Don't let your emotions take over your brain. ... ", 'Talk to him about everything. ... ', 'Have a good look at what you may be doing wrong — and right. ... ', 'Change the focus and start working on the solutions. ... ', 'Woo him again.']
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['Calmly reassure the person with BPD when setting limits. ... ', "Make sure everyone in the family agrees on the boundaries—and how to enforce the consequences if they're ignored.", 'Think of setting boundaries as a process rather than a single event.']
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Ways to deal with a loved one who is borderline Try to not take their behavior personally but understand what is behind it, and respond to their emotions. Do not react. Let them know how their behavior impacts you, to set limits on it. Let them know if it pushes you away.
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['You start filling in the gaps. ... ', "You want to 'fix' your partner. ... ", 'You lose all your boundaries. ... ', "You don't feel like you have your own independent life. ... ", 'You lose contact with friends or family. ... ', 'You need to ask for approval.']
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["Step 1: Confirm Your State's Residency Requirements. ... ", 'Step 2: Move to File for Separation Petition. ... ', 'Step 3: Move to File Legal Separation Agreement. ... ', 'Step 4: Serve Your Spouse the Separation Agreement. ... ', 'Step 5: Settle Unresolved Issues. ... ', 'Step 6: Sign and Notarize the Agreement.']
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['Communicate clearly and often. ... ', "Tell your spouse that you're thankful for having him or her in your life. ... ", 'Make time for you two as a couple. ... ', 'Plan for some personal time. ... ', "Understand that it's OK to disagree. ... ", 'Build trust. ... ', 'Learn to forgive.']
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Make a request for a couples meeting or time to talk instead of demanding it. Go for a walk and talk instead of on the phone or through text messages. Stop pushing and ask for him to let you know when he is ready to talk. I know some of this may be hard but remember that you are only in control of you.
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['Show him that you are capable of living your best life without him.', 'Text him back slower or ignore him.', 'Tune down your presence on social media.', 'Make sure you are keeping track of your own emotions and feelings when he goes cold on you.']
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['Keep Safe. ... ', 'Keep Your Distance and Keep Your Options Open. ... ', 'Keep Your Cool and Avoid Escalation. ... ', 'Depersonalize and Shift from Reactive to Proactive. ... ', 'Know Your Fundamental Human Rights. ... ', 'Utilize Assertive and Effective Communication. ... ', 'Consider Intervention in Close Relationship.']
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['You can Be honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself is the biggest favour that you can do yourself when you are thinking about divorce. ... ', "You're willing to ask yourself “Is my marriage really over?” and accept the consequences. ... ", "You're willing to take responsibility."]
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["Recognize that you can't change your spouse. ... ", 'Try to focus on the positive. ... ', 'Reinforce positive behavior. ... ', 'Maintain eye contact when stating your opinions and feelings. ... ', 'Be straightforward and clear in your communications. ... ', 'Make time to be alone together. ... ', "Don't place blame. ... ", 'Be honest with yourself.']
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["Learn about BPD. Part of caring for a partner with BPD is understanding what they're experiencing. ... ", 'Seek professional help. Therapy can help people with BPD learn to better process emotions and events that upset them. ... ', 'Offer emotional support.']
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["#1: Don't Isolate Yourself – Give Your Pain A VOICE. When I´m hurt, I want to isolate myself BIG time; in my bed, behind a closed door, phone off avoiding all calls. ... ", '#2: Pull The Plug From ALL Drama In Your Life. ... ', '#3: Turn Failure Into Transformation.']
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["Ask yourself what's important.", 'No sex but there is respect.', 'Sexless marriage and emotional cheating.', 'Sex is just a part of an intimate relationship.', 'Accept the sexlessness of your marriage.', 'Opt for self pleasure.', 'Travel a lot.', 'Explore creativity and cultivate hobbies.']
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['De-escalate and Neutralize Emotionality. ... ', 'Be Assertive and Respectful. ... ', 'Communicate Constructively, Understand, and Validate. ... ', 'Practice Patience and Compassion. ... ', 'Pick Your Battles and Think Long-Term. ... ', 'Reflect on Your Actions and Understand the Triggers.']