what to say when a friend is going through a divorce?
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I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Don't feel hopeless just because this time things did not turn out the way you wanted them to—the universe has great plans for you. I just wanted you to know that there is hope despite the hard time you are going through. Cheer up and believe the best is coming.
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["I'm so sorry to hear the news. I know how much time you devoted there. ... ", 'Do you want to talk about it? “Depending on the person and timing, they may or may not want to dredge up the memory. ... ', "That's horrible news! “No drama — you want to be calm and low-key. ... ", "They'll regret firing you."]
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["“I'm Glad You're Okay”", "“I'm Here For You if You Need Anything”", '“How Are You Feeling?”', '“What Can I Do for You?”', "“Don't Be So Upset. Cheer Up!”", '“You Should [Insert Advice]”']
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['How many divorce cases have you handled?', 'How many of those cases were you able to settle out of court?', 'Do you practice collaborative divorce?', 'Do you know my spouse?', "Do you know my spouse's attorney?"]
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["I'm so sorry to hear the news. I know how much time you devoted there. ... ", "I understand how scared (or angry, frustrated or sad) you're feeling. ... ", 'Do you want to talk about it?', 'Do you want to get together?', 'What do you need from me?', 'How can I help?', 'Everything happens for a reason.', "That's horrible news!"]
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What you can say instead: “You have my deepest sympathy,” “I'm so saddened to hear about your loss,” “My deepest condolences,” or “My thoughts and prayers are with you.” Just let them know that you care about them and their grief instead of offering empty placations about losing the man they loved.
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Say, “I'm glad you found someone who makes you happy. I just miss hanging out with you.” Be honest with your friend, even if you feel embarrassed. You could say, “It's been really hard for me lately because you're my best friend.
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['"You deserve so much better than this." ... ', '"This is not a reflection on you in any way." ... ', '"This hurts so much, but I promise it\'s not forever." ... ', '"Let yourself feel everything you need to feel." ... ', '"Time is the greatest healer." ... ', '"I\'m here for you whenever you need me." ... ', '"Let\'s make some positive changes together."']
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Be honest and genuine. Try simply saying, “I can't imagine how hard this is,” or “I'm so sorry that you're going through this.” Don't always ask how they're feeling. Let them know they can share what they'd like, when they're ready.
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['Acknowledge their pain. Perhaps the best thing you can do is to acknowledge how the other person feels. ... ', 'Share how you feel. ... ', 'Show gratitude that the person opened up. ... ', 'Show interest. ... ', 'Be encouraging. ... ', 'Be supportive.']
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['What can I do to help?', 'What do you need from me?', 'You are strong. I believe in you.', 'Do you want to meet up?', 'Would you like to talk about it?', 'I understand how you must be feeling. ... ', "I'm so sorry. ... ", 'How are you feeling?']
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["I'm sorry you are going through this tough time. Everyone values honesty. ... ", 'I think about you all the time. ... ', "I'm praying for you. ... ", "You're so strong to go through all this. ... ", 'You have a great team of people behind you! ... ', 'I love you! ... ', "I'm going to bring you a _____."]
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["“I'm so sorry that you are going through this. ... ", '“Despite all the troubles in the world, I hope you are doing well.” ... ', '“My heart is breaking for you. ... ', '“You are important to me. ... ', '“I recently heard about your loss. ... ', '"Are you okay?”']
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Say you're sorry. Say, "I'm really sorry that I did that." Or, "I'm really sorry that I..." Make it clear that you are sorry about something that you've done to hurt your friend. This may be the hardest task, so take a deep breath, make eye contact with your friend, and say that you are really sorry.
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['What Do You Need to Know from Me? ... ', 'How Can I Make This Divorce Less Expensive? ... ', 'What Can I Expect the Divorce Process to Be Like? ... ', 'What Are My Next Steps After This Meeting? ... ', 'Tell Me About Yourself.']
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['Let Your Friend Decide What She Wants To Do. carballo/Fotolia. ... ', 'Do Your Best To Keep Them Off Social Media. ... ', 'Be Careful What You Say About Their Ex. ... ', 'But Also Be Realistic About Their Ex. ... ', 'Support Them However They Need To Grieve. ... ', 'Sit And Listen. ... ', 'Suggest A Therapist.']
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Tell your friend how you feel. It can be hard to directly express deep feelings to someone else, but now is the time to do it. Tell your friend you love her and will miss her. Sometimes "goodbye" is too hard to say. A hug and a sincere smile will tell your friend everything she needs to know.