what to say to someone who had breast cancer?
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You'll be fine! Instead say: I'm so sorry to hear that. What a shock for you. I know that there have been a lot of improvements in breast cancer treatments. (Try to stay away from the word 'progress' because it is used in such a confusing way in cancer services – disease 'progressing,' for example.)
185916
First, Just Listen She may not have all the answers yet. Accept what she's sharing. She understands you don't know what to say. But instead of, "You're a fighter; you're going to beat this,” try, "I can't imagine how you must feel, I'm here to listen if you want to talk."
271946
["I'm sorry.", 'I care about you.', 'He/she will be dearly missed.', 'He/she is in my thoughts and prayers.', 'You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.', 'You are important to me.', 'My condolences.', 'I hope you find some peace today.']
959340
["“I don't know exactly what to say, but please know how much I care.”", '“What can I do for you?”', "“I'm always here if you ever want to talk.”", "“I'm so sorry this happened to you.”", 'Use humor, but only if you know it will be received positively. ... ', 'No words, just listen.']
686475
['Thank you for telling me about your illness. I know it must be difficult to share this with people.', "This is so hard. I wish this wasn't happening to you.", "I'm here in any way you need me. ... ", 'How are you holding up? ... ', 'Thank you for all you have done for me. ... ', 'I love you.']
1252693
['“Thinking about you every day. ... ', '“Thoughts of you are always some of my happiest. ... ', "“It's good to know you're receiving wonderful care.”", '“Praying with you.”', '“In my heart and in my prayers. ... ', "“Thinking about you today and hoping it's a good one for you.”"]
729869
["“Thank you for all the days you've made brighter just by being you. ... ", "“Thinking of the good life you've lived, the great times we've shared, and feeling so grateful for you.”", "“You've been such an important part of my life, and for that, I'll always be grateful.”"]
766583
["“I'm Glad You're Okay”", "“I'm Here For You if You Need Anything”", '“How Are You Feeling?”', '“What Can I Do for You?”', "“Don't Be So Upset. Cheer Up!”", '“You Should [Insert Advice]”']
1226026
["“Whenever you need to call, I'm here.” ... ", '“I wish I could be there right now.” ... ', "“You're still in my thoughts. ... ", '“Your family is lucky to have you through all this.” ... ', "“Maybe I can't be there, but there's definitely something I can do. ... ", '“Hey, get well soon.']
116214
["Chronic disease: It sounds dire, but it's actually quite common. ... ", "“How's your pain?” ... ", '“Wow, that sucks.” ... ', "“You're spending more time in bed, and I'm worried.” ... ", '“If my plans need to change, no problem. ... ', "“You need to tell me what's going on.” ... ", "“I'm getting coffee. ... ", '“I have gossip.']
1267683
['“Thank you, it makes my day to hear that.”', '“I really put a lot of thought into this, thank you for noticing.”', '“Thank you, I really appreciate your taking the time to express that.”', '“Thank you, I am happy to hear you feel that way!”', '“It is great to hear you feel that way!']
325332
["“I hate that you're going through this, but I know that you've got this.” People want to know their friends don't just like them but admire them as well. ... ", "“You've got a lot on your plate. ... ", '“Remember when you were there for me? ... ', "“You're my best friend."]
6998
['I am wishing you the best possible outcome.', 'May you find comfort and peace in your situation.', 'Though you may feel overwhelmed now, I hope things will get easier as you go on.', "I'll call you soon to find out exactly what I can do for you.", 'I am here for you if you need a friend.', 'You are in my thoughts and prayers.']
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So to start off comforting someone, simply describe what you're seeing/sensing. Say something like, “I know you're having such a hard time with this,” or “I'm sorry you're hurting so much.” Also affirm that you hear what they're saying by saying it back to them in your own words.
358809
['“I\'m so sorry for your loss. I\'m here for you."', '2. “ Remember you are not alone. ... ', '3. “ I\'m thinking of you."', '4. “ I love you so much and I imagine you feel [awful] right now, but I just had to remind you of how wonderful I think you are."', '5. “']
8838
['I am so sorry for your loss.', 'I wish I had the right words, just know I care.', "I don't know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way I can.", 'You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.', 'My favorite memory of your loved one is…', 'I am always just a phone call away.']
705346
['Acknowledge their pain. Perhaps the best thing you can do is to acknowledge how the other person feels. ... ', 'Share how you feel. ... ', 'Show gratitude that the person opened up. ... ', 'Show interest. ... ', 'Be encouraging. ... ', 'Be supportive.']